Stacey Hanke, author of Influence Redefined: Be The Leader You Were Meant to be, Monday to Monday, talks about how “true influence has to be Monday to Monday” in order for the process to remain consistent. Hanke also defines influence two ways: making sure the body language and messaging is congruent and creating a memorable experience by having people take action long after the initial interaction. She points out most people believe they’re more influential than they really are for two reasons: 1) feedback is flawed, and 2) the dissonance between how we feel vs actual facts. Hanke says “nice job” isn’t real feedback and encourages executives to record their speaking engagements so they can see and hear themselves through the eyes and ears of their audience. If they’re not constantly practicing and polishing themselves, they are sabotaging their own reality. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices