Recognizing Potential: Recent Episodes

Kameran Thompson Al-Areqi

Recognizing Potential is THE podcast to learn tips and information on how to build the marriage you want! Your host, Kameran Thompson Al-Areqi, is a certified relationship coach on a mission to help couples divorce proof their marriages by learning better communication, healthier conflict resolution techniques, more effective habits, and how to love your spouse with peace and generosity. Kameran is a pilot wife, boy mom, entrepreneur, coach and former teacher. She speaks into all of that and more every Monday morning.

Ever wish you could peek inside your husband’s mind and finally understand what’s going on in there? In this episode, marriage coach and relationship expert Kameran Alareqi pulls back the curtain on the 25 things husbands wish their wives knew — but don’t always know how to say.

We’re talking about emotional needs, respect, purpose, vulnerability, sex, communication, and yes — the deep stuff like shame, fear, and how the “mother wound” shows up in marriage.

This isn’t a man-bashing or woman-blaming episode — it’s a truth-telling, compassion-building, connection-restoring one. You’ll walk away with practical insights and tools you can use today to create more peace, passion, and partnership in your marriage.

✨ In this episode:

What men really mean when they pull away or shut down
Why respect matters (and how it’s actually earned, not demanded)
The role of shame and pressure in a man’s emotional world
How sex, validation, and safety are connected for him
What wives can do to help their husbands feel seen, trusted, and appreciated
The hidden ways the “mother wound” shapes a man’s relationship patterns

🎯 You’ll love this episode if you’ve ever thought:

“I wish he’d just open up to me.”
“Why doesn’t he talk about what he’s feeling?”
“I don’t want to be his mother — I want to be his partner.”
“We’re good… but I want deeper connection.”

👉 Listen now to learn the science, stories, and strategies that help couples go from disconnected and defensive to emotionally safe and deeply connected.

🛡️ FORGING FORTITUDE:

This episode is brought to you by Forging Fortitude—a movement for men who want to build marriages rooted in honor, integrity, and emotional strength.

Inside, you’ll find coaching, community, and real tools to help you navigate conflict, rebuild trust, and become the leader your marriage is begging you to be—without the fluff.

If you’re ready to stop surviving and start forging a stronger marriage, apply here.

🕊️ Follow Kameran:
Instagram | YouTube | Coaching Info — coaching@recognizingpotential.com or www.recognizingpotential.com

Keywords for SEO:
husbands wish wives knew, marriage advice for women, understanding men, what men need in marriage, marriage podcast, relationship advice Christian marriage, emotional intimacy in marriage, marriage communication, marriage coach tips, how to connect with your husband

What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew (But Rarely Say Out Loud)

Marriage isn’t supposed to feel like roommates. And it doesn’t have to feel like war either.In this episode of the Married and Connected Podcast, certified marriage coach and relationship expert Kameran Alareqi pulls back the curtain on the quiet struggles wives face every day in marriage—things they rarely put into words, but desperately wish their husbands understood.

From emotional connection to communication breakdowns, intimacy, mental load, and even hypocrisy, we’re going there. This isn’t about finger-pointing or blame—it’s about practical, honest solutions that create stronger marriages, healthier intimacy, and deeper respect.

✨ Whether you’ve been married 2 years or 20, this conversation will help you:

Understand the top struggles wives face (that most husbands never notice)
Learn how small, consistent changes transform connection
Spot hidden patterns that are silently draining your relationship
Break free from resentment and rebuild trust
Take practical steps that make love feel alive again

👩‍❤️‍👨 This episode is a must-listen for wives who want to feel seen and validated—and for husbands who are ready to love better.

Marriage doesn’t thrive on assumptions. It thrives on honesty, consistency, and intentional love. If you’re tired of feeling misunderstood, carrying the mental load alone, or watching your connection slowly slip away—this episode will give you the clarity, tools, and hope you need.

Next Steps:

Work with Kameran 1:1 (limited spots available)
Apply for Forging Fortitude Men's Coaching Group

Subscribe to the podcast on [Spotify], [Apple Podcasts], or [YouTube]

Order your Advent Blocks and Gratikube on GoodKind
Share this episode with a friend who needs it

SEO Keywords:

wives wish husbands knew, marriage podcast for women, marriage advice for wives, how to save your marriage, Christian marriage coaching, communication in marriage, emotional connection, intimacy in marriage, stop being roommates in marriage, marriage tips for couples.

Mission-based marriages create a common purpose.
Individual growth is essential for a healthy relationship.
Recognizing personal gaps leads to accountability.
Setting standards in relationships fosters respect.
A marriage decree can provide structure and guidance.
Understanding contempt is crucial for healing.
Authenticity requires self-reflection and honesty.
Effective communication is key to understanding each other.
Leadership in a relationship is about mutual growth.
The upcoming retreat offers tools for transformation.

In this engaging conversation, Kameran and Dr. Andrea Vitz delve into the concept of mission-based marriages, emphasizing the importance of having a common purpose and individual growth within relationships. They discuss the significance of accountability, setting standards, and understanding contempt, while also highlighting the need for authenticity and effective communication. The conversation culminates in an invitation to an upcoming retreat designed to provide couples with tools for transformation and deeper connection.mission-based marriage, emotional sobriety, personal growth, relationship principles, accountability, authenticity, marriage retreat, communication, leadership, self-reflectiontakeaways

Work with Dr. Vitz or sign up for the 3 day marriage intensive: andrea@liftedacademy.com

Follow on LinkedIn, FB or IG @drandreavitz

Website: www.liftedacademy.com

Daily Levelheaded Talk Podcast found anywhere you get your favorite podcasts!

To contact Kameran:

Fb/IG and TT: @married.and.connected

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Website:www.recognizing potential.com

Borrowed from the RevRx Podcast:

Is your marriage stuck in the same old arguments? Do you feel like unresolved wounds keep sabotaging your connection? In this episode of The Rev Rx Podcast, I sit down with relationship coach Kameran Thompson Al-Areqi to uncover the raw, unfiltered truth about what’s really going on beneath the surface of struggling marriages.

With a proven track record of coaching over 100 couples—and a 97% success rate—Kameran shares why childhood wounds don’t just disappear when you say “I do”. Instead, they show up in your communication, conflict, and connection with your spouse. But there’s hope: when you address the root, you can break free from cycles of disconnection and build a thriving marriage.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

How unhealed childhood wounds resurface in marriage and fuel conflict
Why couples fall into repetitive argument loops—and how to break free
The role of joy as emotional glue in creating intimacy
Why chasing “happiness” leads to emptiness—and why covenant commitment creates lasting love
Practical tools to improve communication and resolve conflict with empathy
Why personal healing is the key to restoring your marriage from the inside out

This episode isn’t about surface-level tips or temporary fixes—it’s about uncovering the deeper patterns holding your relationship back and learning how to build a marriage rooted in joy, covenant, and connection.

If you’re ready to stop avoiding the hard truths and start transforming your relationship, this conversation will inspire you to take the first step.

Connected & Committed: A 6-Week Blueprint for a Stronger Marriage

Email Kam: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Sign up for the free weekly newsletter on my website

Follow the RevRx Podcast

Do you ever dream of a vacation, but the thought of leaving the house or kids with your husband makes you more stressed than relaxed? You’re not alone. Many women say they either:

Can’t step away because they don’t trust things will get done at home…
Or they come back from a “break” only to find their workload has doubled.

In this episode, I get brutally honest about why this happens, why/how men need to step up, and how this dynamic is silently wrecking marriages. We’ll dig into:

The mental load: what it is and why women are carrying most of it.
Research-backed reasons women don’t get true rest, even when away.
How resentment builds when husbands don’t share the household + parenting responsibility.
Why men need to take initiative (not just wait to be told what to do).
Practical tools for women to let go of control and actually rest.
Step-by-step ways couples can change this narrative—for good.

💡 Whether you’re a husband who wants to show up better or a wife who feels stuck in the cycle of overwhelm, this episode will give you both truth and tools to reset your marriage.

🎙️ Listen now on YouTube, Spotify, or Apple Podcasts!
👉 And if you’re ready for structured help to rebuild connection, intimacy, and teamwork in your marriage, my Connected & Committed self- study course is open now.

Private 1:1 coaching is open to begin in October as well! Email Kam at coaching@recognizingpotential.com to schedule your free consultation to discuss further and see if coaching is a fit for you!

Because moms deserve more than “vacations” that feel like overtime.

Contact Kam:

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

IG: @married.and.connected

FB Group

In this episode, Ted O'Neill, a renowned strength coach and metaphysical architect, discusses the importance of purpose, leadership, and emotional sobriety in relationships. He emphasizes that complacency is a major factor in relationship failures and that individuals must take responsibility for their own growth and development. The conversation explores the cycle of addiction, the significance of willpower, and the difference between happiness, joy, and true freedom. Ted also introduces the Purpose Company and the concept of mission-based marriage, highlighting the need for effective communication and training in personal development.

Takeaways:

Complacency is the killer of all dreams.
Dependent people can't be depended on.
Most people lack a clear purpose in life.
Compulsions can lead to addiction and relationship issues.
Emotional sobriety is crucial for healthy relationships.
Willpower can be trained and developed over time.
Happiness is fleeting; joy and fulfillment are deeper.
Structure is necessary for true freedom.
Legacy is about the impact we leave in every moment.
Training is essential for personal growth and mastery.
Unlocking Human Potential with Ted O'Neill
The Power of Purpose in Relationships
"Dependent people can't be depended on."
"You have to earn fulfillment."
"Every problem has a solution."

Contact Coach Ted O'Neill:

Email: Ted@lifteacademy.com

Podcast: The Ted O'Neill Program

Website: https://liftedacademy.com/

keywords: relationship coaching, emotional sobriety, purpose, leadership, addiction, willpower, communication, marriage, personal development, self-mastery

Words have power. In marriage, the wrong ones can slowly erode trust, intimacy, and connection—sometimes without either spouse even realizing it. In this episode, we’re unpacking the Top 10 things couples say that quietly (or not so quietly) wreck their marriage—and what you can say instead to strengthen your bond.

Whether it’s sarcasm that stings, dismissive comments that shut your partner down, or blame that builds walls, these phrases chip away at the foundation of your relationship. But here’s the good news: you can break the cycle, rebuild connection, and restore healthy communication.

The most common destructive phrases couples use (and why they’re so harmful)
How your words reveal deeper patterns in your marriage
Healthier alternatives that foster respect, intimacy, and teamwork
Practical steps you can start using today to reconnect with your spouse

Most marriages don’t fail overnight. They unravel little by little—through the daily words, habits, and reactions that create emotional distance. When you learn to recognize and replace these toxic patterns, you can turn your marriage around before it’s too late.

If you’re ready to stop fighting the same battles and start building a marriage that feels safe, connected, and strong, my Marriage Coaching Program is designed to help you. Together, we’ll identify the patterns holding you back, heal the emotional disconnection, and create practical strategies so your marriage feels like a partnership again.

👉 Apply for coaching here

Don’t let your words wreck what could be the best relationship of your life.

In this episode, certified marriage coach, Kameran Alareqi breaks down the real reasons why you're not being heard in your relationship. Whether you're the partner who feels misunderstood or the one accused of "never listening," this episode is packed with research-based insights and practical tools that will help you finally get on the same page.

We’ll explore how attachment styles, trauma, and nervous system regulation play a huge role in communication breakdown, how emotional pain actually mimics physical pain in the brain, and what’s really happening when conversations turn into conflict—or worse, silence.

🧠 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

Why your partner might not actually be ignoring you—and what’s really going on neurologically
How your childhood experiences and attachment style impact your ability to be heard or to listen
Why people shut down during conflict and how to avoid the cycle of defensiveness and stonewalling
What to do when your conversations always feel one-sided or end in frustration
The 5 steps to being heard without yelling, begging, or giving up
How to repair communication damage and rebuild emotional safety in your marriage
Real-life examples and coaching-style insights you can implement today

🔗 Links mentioned in the Episode:

Understanding Your Conflict Cycle Workshop

Connected & Committed: A 6-Week Self-Study Course for a Stronger Marriage

🔎 SEO Keywords:

communication in marriage, feeling unheard in relationship, why my spouse doesn’t listen, marriage communication tools, emotional connection, attachment styles in relationships, Gottman communication, how to talk to your partner, repair after arguments, relationship podcast

Ever felt stuck in that awkward post-fight silence with your spouse, unsure of how to make things right? Or maybe you're the one who always apologizes first… or the one who never saw healthy repair modeled and genuinely doesn’t know what to do.

In this powerful episode of Married and Connected, certified marriage coach Kameran Thompson Al-Areqi takes you deep into the science, the soul, and the skill of apologizing. From Dr. John Gottman's research on repair to Biblical truths about forgiveness, this episode offers a complete roadmap for what to say, how to say it, and how to reconnect after conflict.

You’ll learn:

Why most people never truly apologize (and what to do about it)
What a real apology looks like using the 5-Finger Apology framework
How unforgiveness creates emotional walls—and how to dismantle them
What to say when your spouse never apologizes or expects you to always go first
Why “rising above it” isn’t the same as forgiveness (and could actually lead to contempt)

Whether you're newly married or 20 years in, this episode is packed with practical strategies, real-life examples, and step-by-step language to help you repair with confidence and compassion.

🛠 Resources Mentioned:

Connected & Committed Self-Study Course → Connected & Committed: A 6-Week Blueprint for a Stronger Marriage
1:1 Coaching with Kameran → My website
Gottman’s Card Deck App
Scripture reference: Matthew 6:14-15

📣 Ready to Repair Your Marriage?
If this episode hit home, I’d love to support you deeper. Join me inside Connected & Committed—a 6-week blueprint for building a stronger, more emotionally safe marriage. Learn the skills that help couples reconnect faster and fight fairer.

✨ Spots for 1:1 coaching are limited. Grab yours before October!
👉 Learn more at www.recognizingpotential.com

💬 Let’s Connect!
Follow me on Instagram @married.and.connected for daily marriage tips, reels, and reminders.
Share the episode, leave a review, and tag me—I love hearing how these tools are changing your marriage.

#apologizinginmarriage #marriagetips #marriagepodcast #marriagerepair #emotionalconnection #gottman #apologies #apologize #conflictresolution #faithandmarriage #marriagecoach #marriagehelp #forgiveness #repairtools #marriedandconnected

In this powerful episode of Married and Connected, certified marriage coach Kameran Alareqi takes you deep into the meaning behind some of the most sacred marriage vows—“in sickness and in health,” “forsaking all others,” and “as long as we both shall live.” These aren’t just ceremonial words—they’re the foundation of a resilient, connected, and enduring relationship.

We explore:

What these vows truly mean in everyday married life
Why so many couples unintentionally break them
The devastating impact of emotional detachment, infidelity, and lack of support during illness
How mindset, willpower, and daily choices are the real glue that hold marriages together
Inspiring stories of couples who’ve faced enormous challenges and emerged stronger

You’ll walk away with encouragement, clarity, and practical ways to start honoring these vows more intentionally—starting today.

Key Takeaways:

- Why 6x more marriages end when one partner becomes seriously ill
The role of emotional availability and mental discipline in staying committed
What it really looks like to “cherish” your spouse in the middle of struggle
Why forsaking all others goes far beyond physical infidelity
Daily tools to reconnect and recommit when the vows feel hard to keep

Mentioned in This Episode:

Connected & Committed Course: A 6-week self-study experience to help you and your spouse rebuild trust, emotional safety, and lasting connection
The Gottman Institute’s research on enduring marriages
The Gottman Card Decks app for daily connection
Real-life marriage coaching stories and insights

Perfect For:

Couples wanting to deepen their connection
Individuals questioning their ability to keep hard vows
Anyone feeling alone in the emotional labor of marriage
Those healing after betrayal or distance in their relationship

Listen now and rediscover the power of the promises you made. Your marriage is worth it.

💌 Interested in private coaching with Kameran? Only 1 spot available until October. Learn more & apply

In this powerful episode of Married and Connected, we're diving deep into the true meaning behind two of the most overlooked yet vital wedding vows: "for better or worse, for richer or poorer." These aren’t just poetic words recited at the altar—they’re lifelong commitments that shape how we show up for our partner through life’s highest highs and lowest lows.

Host Kameran Alareqi, a certified marriage coach, breaks down how these vows are often abandoned when things get hard—and what to do to truly live them out in your everyday marriage. You'll learn how emotional sobriety, mindset, and relational discipline are the keys to honoring these sacred promises. We’ll explore real-life examples, relationship research, and what couples who’ve been married 40+ years say is the secret to longevity and love that lasts.

🎧 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

What "for better or worse" and "for richer or poorer" really mean in a modern marriage
The role emotional maturity plays in keeping your vows
Real-world examples of how these vows get broken—and how to repair
Eye-opening statistics about divorce related to illness, financial strain, and emotional disconnect
How to develop the discipline of love in your marriage
What long-married couples say is the secret to staying committed for life
How to reclaim these vows and build a marriage that’s both resilient and joy-filled

💬 Listener Favorite Quote:
"You don’t keep your vows because marriage is easy—you keep them because you’ve decided your word matters more than your feelings in a moment."

🛠️ Resources & Mentions:

Self-study course: Connected & Committed – A 6-week blueprint for a stronger, more connected marriage
1:1 Coaching with Kameran – DM or visit website to apply

📲 Let’s Stay Connected:

Follow on Instagram: @married.and.connected
- Website: www.recognizingpotential.com
- Newsletter signup: http://eepurl.com/gsm_9P
Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

💡 Keywords & SEO Tags:
Marriage vows, better or worse, richer or poorer, emotional sobriety in marriage, commitment in marriage, long-term marriage success, how to keep your vows, marriage mindset, relationship coaching, surviving marriage hardship

In this powerful episode, we unpack the timeless marriage vow “to have and to hold”—words many couples say, but few fully understand.

What does it really mean to “have” and “hold” your spouse in today’s world of constant distraction, emotional distance, and surface-level connection?
How are modern habits and emotional unavailability breaking down the foundations of this promise?
And more importantly—what can we do to reclaim this vow and live it out with intention and love?

Whether you’re newly married, facing disconnection, or just want to strengthen your relationship, this episode offers practical tools, emotional insight, and real-world examples to deepen intimacy and rebuild trust.

🔍 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

The original intent and meaning behind “to have and to hold”
How digital distraction, emotional labor imbalance, and unresolved resentment erode connection
What emotional availability actually looks like in day-to-day marriage
Signs you may be emotionally checked out—or carrying too much of the emotional weight
Actionable strategies to reconnect, reattach, and honor your vows again
Why this vow matters more now than ever before
Research on emotional availability and attachment in long-term relationships
Studies on distraction and how it negatively impacts communication, memory, and relational satisfaction
Gottman Institute findings on what builds—or breaks—emotional safety in marriage
Questions to ask your spouse to reestablish emotional intimacy
How to shift from “roommates” to connected partners again
One small daily habit that builds long-term safety and trust
Why emotional rest is just as important as physical rest

If you’re ready to stop going through the motions and start rebuilding a deeply connected, emotionally safe marriage—I have one 1:1 coaching spot available before October. Email coaching@recognizingpotential.com for more information.

Work With Me:Let’s work together to reclaim the vows you promised—and build a marriage that thrives.

Website: www.recognizingpotential.com
Instagram: www.instagram.com/@married.and.connected
Newsletter Signup: http://eepurl.com/gsm_9P
Coaching Inquiry: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Has this episode helped you?
Please subscribe, leave a review, or share this episode with someone who needs a little reminder of what “to have and to hold” really means.

Disclaimer: The audio on this isn't the standard for what I like to publish. I got a new microphone and I'm still learning the ins and outs of that. Thank you for your patience as I navigate the learning curve.

Ever felt like you're the only one thinking about all the things in your relationship? Do you carry the emotional weight of your marriage while your partner seems checked out? You're not alone—and you're not imagining it.

In this episode of Married and Connected, we're diving deep into the concept of emotional labor in marriage—what it is, why it often falls disproportionately on women, how attachment styles play a role, and what you can do to restore balance in your relationship. Whether you're the one carrying the emotional weight or you’re unsure how to emotionally show up for your spouse, this episode is packed with research, real talk, and practical tools to create a more connected, emotionally balanced partnership.

🔑 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

What emotional labor looks like in day-to-day married life
The signs of emotional labor imbalance and how it erodes intimacy
How gender roles and social conditioning affect emotional responsibility
The connection between attachment styles and emotional availability
Steps to rebalance emotional labor without blame
How to stop over functioning and start advocating for shared emotional investment
Reflection questions to help you identify your own emotional patterns
Why emotional labor isn’t a personality flaw—it’s a skills gap that can be healed

📊 Research Highlights:

2019 Pew Study: 78% of women manage children's schedules vs. 19% of men
Sex Roles (2018): Emotional labor imbalance exists even in egalitarian households
YouGov (2020): 46% of women say they are the emotional support in their relationship

💬 Quote of the Episode:
“You are not responsible for your partner’s emotional growth. Give them space to rise.”

📘 Resources Mentioned:

Episode on The Loop of Doom (recommended companion episode)
1:1 Coaching to restore emotional connection

🧠 Reflective Journal Prompts:

Do I feel overwhelmed by my partner’s emotions—or my own?
Was I taught to express feelings or suppress them growing up?
Am I emotionally present in my relationship, or just physically there?

👥 Perfect For:

Women who feel emotionally burnt out in their marriages
Men who want to become more emotionally present but don’t know how
Couples navigating emotional disconnect or frequent miscommunication
Listeners curious about how attachment styles affect relationship dynamics

💌 Like What You Heard?

Screenshot and share this episode on Instagram and tag @married.and.connected! Let’s keep the conversation going. And don’t forget—small, consistent efforts create lasting love.

🔗 Work With Me:
Ready to stop carrying the emotional weight alone or want to show up more fully in your marriage? Apply for 1:1 coaching now:

Primally Pure Lip Balm

Connected & Committed 6 Week Blueprint

Are you and your spouse stuck in the same fight on repeat? You might be caught in what I call The Loop of Doom — the destructive cycle of conflict that keeps couples emotionally disconnected, misunderstood, and frustrated. In this episode, we break down what the Loop of Doom is, how it shows up in your marriage, and how your attachment styles are fueling it.

We’ll explore the 4 major attachment styles (anxious, avoidant, secure, and fearful avoidant/disorganized), how they were formed, and how they show up in communication, conflict, and emotional intimacy. Whether you find yourself shutting down, chasing for closeness, or flipping between both — this episode will help you understand why and what to do next.

Spoiler: It’s not about communicating better. It’s about healing the patterns underneath.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

What the “Loop of Doom” actually is — and why it silently destroys connection
A breakdown of all 4 attachment styles and how they impact your relationship
Real-life examples of how the loop shows up in marriage
How attachment wounds trigger repetitive conflict
The emotional toll of staying stuck in this cycle
Why understanding attachment is the key to real change

Resources & Links Mentioned:

💬 Want help breaking your own Loop of Doom?
Join my 1:1 marriage coaching program for couples who are ready to move from conflict to connection:
👉 Apply for coaching here

🧠 Ready to learn how to do conflict differently?
Attend my live workshop this Sunday at 7:30 PM CDT:
Breaking the Loop of Doom: Learn to Argue Without Losing Your Marriage
👉 Sign up here

Let’s Connect:
📸 Instagram: @married.and.connected
📧 Weekly Marriage Tips: Join my email list
🎙️ More Podcast Episodes: www.recognizingpotential.com

Tags / SEO Keywords:
loop of doom marriage, attachment styles in marriage, anxious attachment, avoidant partner, fearful avoidant relationship, how to fight better in marriage, marriage coaching, marriage podcast, conflict resolution for couples, marriage help, emotional connection in marriage, disconnection in marriage, stuck in a marriage loop

Susan Morgan Taylor is a somatic sex therapist and relationship coach specializing in helping committed couples reignite intimacy and connection. With a Master's in Professional Counseling and a background in holistic healing, she integrates mind-body approaches to address sexual challenges. Susan is the founder of The Pathway to Pleasure Collective and the creator of the Pleasure Keys Process™, a framework designed to enhance desire, deepen pleasure, and expand orgasmic potential.

🔑 Key Topics Discussed

The Pleasure Keys Process™: An introduction to Susan's three-part framework that empowers couples to overcome desire discrepancies and cultivate fulfilling sexual relationships.
Somatic Sex Therapy: Exploring how body-based therapeutic approaches can help individuals and couples reconnect with their sensual selves and heal from sexual shame or trauma.pathwaytopleasure.com
Overcoming Sexual Shame: Strategies to dismantle negative beliefs and social conditioning around sexuality, fostering a more open and accepting relationship with one's body and desires.
Reviving Passion in Long-Term Relationships: Practical tips for couples to reignite sexual chemistry and maintain a vibrant intimate connection over time

🌐 Learn More About Susan's Work * Website: www.pleasurekeys.com * The Pathway to Pleasure Collective: www.pathwaytopleasure.com

📘 Resources Mentioned * Sex Talk Café Podcast: Hosted by Susan, this podcast features conversations on the transformative power of sex, pleasure, and embodied sexuality. pathwaytopleasure.com * Free eBook: "The Pleasure Keys" – Discover the three keys to enhance pleasure, expand orgasmic potential, and experience intimate fulfillment. pathwaytopleasure.com * Couples Retreats: Immersive experiences designed to help couples deepen their connection and revitalize their intimate lives. pathwaytopleasure.com * Online Programs: Courses like "Foundations of Intimacy" and "Awakening Radiance" offer guided journeys for individuals and couples seeking to enhance their relationships and personal growth. pathwaytopleasure.com

📣 Connect with Susan * Instagram: @susanmorgantaylor * Apply for a Consultation: Interested in working with Susan? Request a complimentary 20-minute consultation Online Programs | Pathway To Pleasure | Austin, TX

Connect with Kameran:

IG: @married.and.connected

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Website: www.recognizingpotential.com

In this fun, research-backed episode, we dive deep into 20 unhinged, creative, and scientifically proven ways to strengthen your marriage. From recording your arguments to scheduling sex with hilarious calendar invites, these ideas break the traditional "date night" mold and focus on building deeper emotional, physical, and spiritual intimacy with your spouse.

If you're tired of surface-level marriage advice and want practical strategies that actually work (and make you laugh), this episode is for you!

🧡 Episode Highlights:

Flip the Script on Date Night: Why you should have sex before the date instead of after—and the powerful psychology behind it.
Record Your Arguments: The science of the "observer effect" and how hearing yourself fight can drastically improve emotional regulation, empathy, and problem-solving.
Daily Voice Memos > Texts: Why your voice carries 100x more intimacy than emojis ever could.
The Gratitude-Sex Connection: How small acts of appreciation can supercharge your emotional and sexual connection.
Secret Signals in Public: Create fun, flirty codes to stay connected without anyone else knowing.
1-Minute Hugs & 6-Second Kisses: The neuroscience behind why these tiny rituals reduce stress, boost immunity, and strengthen emotional bonds.
Hotel Marital Audits: How a once-a-year retreat can transform your relationship.
Permission Slips for Each Other: How giving and receiving emotional "permission" rewires your brain for deeper intimacy.
Safe Words During Arguments: A simple way to de-escalate and prioritize love over pride.
Weekly Five-Minute Fantasies: How mental foreplay can reignite sexual desire without pressure.
Silent Eye-to-Eye Communication: Build trust and energy connection without saying a word.
Brand Your Marriage: Name your relationship like a company—and protect its mission!
Turn Mundane Moments into Micro-Dates: Because folding laundry can be sexy too.
The “Holy Sh*t, Look What We Did!” Jar: Celebrate wins big and small when life feels heavy.
Fake Tabloid Headlines: Keep humor alive with ridiculous made-up gossip about each other.
Switch Phones for a Day: Build trust, empathy, and better communication by swapping devices.
Google Calendar for Sex Appointments: Why scheduling sex improves intimacy, communication, and excitement (yes, science says so).
Pray Together: Deepen your spiritual connection and protect your marriage with the power of prayer.
Create a Couples-Only Spotify Playlist: Music that captures your love story (even the weird songs).
- Write Love Letters from the Future: Envision your growth, humor, and adventures 10-20 years from now—and why it strengthens emotional bonds.✨ Key Takeaways:
Emotional and physical intimacy don't have to be spontaneous to be meaningful.
Humor, creativity, and intentionality can reignite connection in fresh, powerful ways.
Small daily habits (like a voice memo or a hug) build lasting resilience in marriage.
- Vulnerability—whether in a hotel room, a calendar invite, or a whispered prayer—deepens trust and love over time.🔥 Resources Mentioned:
The Mel Robbins Podcast featuring Vanessa Marin on gratitude and sex
- Research on the Observer Effect, Attachment Theory, Polyvagal Theory, and Neuroplasticity
- Secure Love by Julie Mennano
- Connected and Committed: A 6 Week Blueprint for Bettering Your Marriage 👉 Tag me on social media and share your favorite "unhinged" marriage idea! @Married.and.connected
  👉 Leave a review and subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss next week’s deep dive into building emotionally healthy, resilient marriages.

None

In this powerful and heart-opening episode, we sit down with Robin and Michael, the married founders of Couples.Solutions—a dynamic duo made up of a therapist and a coach—who are also PAIRS certified and deeply passionate about helping couples thrive.

We explore:

💛 The 6 Types of Love – Discover how these distinct forms of love show up in marriage and why recognizing them can transform your relationship.

🔥 Debunking the Myth About Sex in Long-Term Marriage – Robin and Michael prove that intimacy doesn’t fade with age. In fact, they’re having the best sex of their lives at 70. (Yes, you read that right!)

💬 Real-Life Conflict + Repair Scenarios – Listen in as they walk us through practical, honest examples of conflict resolution, emotional safety, and meaningful repair.

💡 Therapy + Coaching in Harmony – Learn how blending their expertise as a therapist and a coach brings a unique, balanced approach to their work with couples.

Whether you're newly married, decades in, or supporting couples as a professional, this episode is filled with wisdom, hope, and a refreshing take on what’s possible in long-term love.

📌 Key Topics Covered:

What the 6 types of love are and how they interact in romantic partnerships
How to keep sex passionate and fulfilling—no matter your age
Tools for navigating conflict and building emotional resilience as a couple
Why Robin and Michael believe repair is more important than resolution
The benefits of the PAIRS methodology in real relationships
The therapist-coach combo: how their distinct roles complement each other
- Encouragement for couples who feel like they’ve lost their spark🔗 Resources Mentioned:
Learn more about Robin & Michael's work: https://www.couples.solutions
What is PAIRS? https://www.pairs.com

💬 Leave a Review & Share the Love:

If this episode inspired you or gave you fresh insight into your relationship, please leave a review and share it with a friend. Your feedback helps us keep creating conversations that matter.

After 100 episodes of heartfelt conversations, expert interviews, and real-life marriage breakthroughs, I’m sharing the 10 most powerful lessons I’ve learned that can radically shift your relationship. Whether you’re newly married, struggling to reconnect, or thriving but want to go deeper—this episode is packed with truth bombs, healing insights, and practical tools.

Why going first matters—even when your spouse won’t.
How hypocrisy sabotages connection (and how to stay aligned).
Why humility and vulnerability are the real aphrodisiacs.
The deeper reason behind every recurring argument.
How your partner is triggering what you need to heal.
Why the happiest couples have often survived the hardest things.
The surprising way we become what we once hated—and how to course-correct.
Why your friendship matters more than your love language.
How unrealistic expectations quietly build resentment.
Why purpose and individuality protect your marriage from burnout.

This episode is a heart-to-heart with you, the listener. These takeaways are raw, real, and filled with tools to strengthen emotional intimacy, restore friendship, and help you build a marriage that feels deeply connected.

👉 Mentioned in this episode:
✨ My 6-week self-paced course Connected & Committed – perfect for couples who want more affordable, transformational help
✨ Apply for 1:1 marriage coaching to work with me directly
✨ Don’t forget to subscribe, rate & review the podcast so more couples can find the support they need!✨ Follow Kameran on IG or email coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Keywords:
marriage podcast, marriage help, relationship growth, emotional intimacy, communication in marriage, connected couples, marriage advice, relationship podcast, healing childhood wounds in marriage, expectations in marriage

🎧 Episode Summary:
Think dating is just for new couples? Think again! In this episode, we’re diving into why dating your spouse is one of the most powerful ways to maintain emotional intimacy, strengthen your friendship, and keep your marriage thriving. We’ll break down how regular date nights align with Dr. John Gottman’s Sound Relationship House model, reduce conflict, and create lasting connection. Plus, I’ll share easy, creative date night ideas (even for busy couples and parents!) and ways to make dating a habit—not a chore.

🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✅ How dating strengthens the friendship foundation in your marriage
✅ Why couples who prioritize fun together have less conflict and deeper connection
✅ Science-backed reasons why dating your spouse reduces stress and improves emotional intimacy
✅ Practical, budget-friendly date night ideas (even with kids!)
✅ How to bring back the spark if your relationship feels more like roommates than romantic partners

🚀 Ready to Take Your Marriage to the Next Level?
If you’re craving deeper connection, better communication, and a stronger bond, my self-paced course Connected & Committed is for you! This course gives you proven strategies to improve your marriage without the guesswork. Learn how to communicate better, reignite passion, and build a rock-solid foundation—all at your own pace.

💻 Join Connected & Committed today: Connected & Committed: A 6-Week Blueprint for a Stronger Marriage

📦 Want Fun, Stress-Free Date Nights?
I’m all about making date nights easy and fun! That’s why I love Happily Co date night boxes. These curated boxes bring unique, exciting experiences straight to your door—no planning required. Whether you want a cozy at-home date or an adventure, Happily Co has you covered!

📩 Let’s Connect!
✨ Follow me on Instagram for daily marriage tips: @married.and.connected
✨ Have a question or topic you’d love me to cover? DM me or send an email to coaching@recognizingpotential.com

🔥 Loved this episode?
If you found this episode helpful, be sure to subscribe and leave a review! It helps more couples find this podcast and build stronger, healthier marriages.

MarriagePodcast #DateYourSpouse #MarriageTips #CoupleGoals #RelationshipAdvice #LoveAndMarriage

Parenting differences are inevitable, but when they start affecting your marriage, it can feel overwhelming. In this episode, I sit down with parenting and relationship expert Alicia Krasko to discuss how differing parenting styles impact marriages, whether in nuclear, first, or blended families. We explore the underlying tensions these differences can create, how to address conflicts before they escalate, and practical strategies for getting on the same page with your spouse. If parenting differences have caused friction in your marriage, this episode is for you!

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✔️ How parenting style differences affect marriage dynamics
✔️ Common struggles couples face when raising kids together
✔️ Why parenting conflicts can be even more challenging in blended families
✔️ Steps to take when disagreements start creating tension in your relationship
✔️ Communication strategies to help couples find alignment
✔️ The importance of shared values in parenting and marriage

About Our Guest:
Alicia Krasko is a seasoned parenting and relationship coach specializing in helping couples navigate the challenges of raising children while maintaining a strong, connected marriage. With years of experience working with families in various dynamics, she offers valuable insights into resolving parenting conflicts and fostering unity in relationships.

Resources & Links:
👉 Connect with Alicia Krasko on socials @aliciakrasko
👉 Free Guide on ideas to connect with your stepkids: www.aliciakrasko.com/ideas

👉 Free Guide on setting expectations: www.aliciakrasko.com/expectations

👉 Good Kind Easter Blocks: Easter | GoodKind

Let’s Connect:
📲 Follow me on Instagram: @married.and.connected
📩 Join my Monthly Couples Coaching Workshop:https://mailchi.mp/4eefd89a4cf3/marchworkshop
🎧 Subscribe & Review: If you loved this episode, leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! It helps us reach more couples who need this support.

Tune in now and start building a stronger marriage despite parenting differences!

Certified coach and author Gabriela Embon believes that a fulfilling adult life hinges on two essential components: an ideal career and a thriving primary relationship. In the last 2 decades as a coach, Gabriela has dedicated herself to helping couples build fulfilling and enduring relationships. Gabriela utilizes the analytical and problem-solving skills from her engineering background, and applies them to the intricacies of human relationships. By combining the precision of engineering with the emotional depth of human behavior, she empowers couples to transform their relationships, and become a Power Couple.

In this episode, Kameran sits down with Gabriela to talk about Gabriela's book Becoming A Power Couple. Kameran and Gabriela dive into what a power couple is, how couples can achieve that status for themselves, and the 4 pillars of becoming a power couple.

Please share this episode on social media and leave a review!

Prologue - Becoming a Power Couple - Gabriela Embon - Life Coach

To follow Gabriela on social media:

IG: @gabrielaembon

FB: Gabriela Embon

www.gabrielaembon.com

To follow Kameran:

IG, FB and TT: @married.and.connected

www.recognizingpotential.com

coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Good Kind Website: Collections – GoodKind

Humility is one of the most underrated but essential qualities in a thriving relationship. Without it, growth stalls, conflict escalates, and connection weakens. In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into why humility is the key to a strong and lasting marriage.

We’ll explore:
✔️ What humility really is (Hint: It’s not about being a doormat!)
✔️ How to recognize whether you have humility in your relationship
✔️ What happens when humility is lacking—and how it leads to disconnect
✔️ How to develop and demonstrate humility, even during difficult conversations
✔️ Where the lack of humility comes from and how to address it
✔️ The connection between humility, hurt, and healing

We’ll be pulling insights from Dr. John Gottman, psychologists, and relationship experts, giving you practical steps to build a marriage filled with grace, understanding, and emotional safety.

If you’ve ever struggled with pride, defensiveness, or feeling unheard in your relationship, this episode is for you.

📖 Dr. John Gottman’s Research on Healthy Relationships – The Gottman Institute

📖 Books on Humility & Relationships:

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work – John Gottman
Ego is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday
The You You've Never Met by Dr. Andrea Vitz
Daring Greatly – Brené Brown (on vulnerability & humility)
Radical Acceptance – Tara Brach

🔥 This week, practice humility by actively listening to your partner without interrupting or defending yourself. Instead of reacting, ask yourself, "What truth might be in their words?" and respond with curiosity instead of defensiveness.

🎙️ Have a story about how practicing humility changed your relationship? Share it with me! DM me on Instagram [@married.and.connected] or email me at [coaching@recognizingpotential.com].

Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it! 💙

MarriageGoals #HumilityInLove #BetterTogether

Welcome to the newly rebranded podcast- Married and Connected, where we explore the emotional dynamics of relationships and personal growth. In this episode, we unpack how we filter the words of those closest to us and why certain comments trigger emotional reactions. Drawing from Dr. Andrea Vitz's groundbreaking work on emotional sobriety, we explore actionable steps to reframe these filters and build healthier connections with our loved ones.

Whether you’re navigating challenges with your partner, parents, or children, this episode will provide insight, tools, and inspiration for emotional clarity and growth.

Key Topics Discussed

The Weight of Words

Why we put more emotional weight on comments from family members or partners. Examples of how emotional filters distort the true meaning of what we hear. What is Emotional Sobriety?

Insights from Dr. Andrea Vitz’s book The You You’ve Never Met. Emotional sobriety as the ability to separate feelings from external triggers. Common Emotional Filters and Triggers

The "Not Good Enough" filter, "Abandonment" filter, and "Over-Achiever" filter. How these filters are formed and manifest in relationships. Steps to Change Your Filters

Awareness: Recognize and journal your reactions. Identify the root cause: Understand the past experiences shaping your responses. Practice emotional sobriety techniques like mindfulness and reframing. Exercises for Couples

Listening without interruption. Gratitude journaling to reinforce positive interpretations. Weekly emotional check-ins to foster understanding and connection.Listener Action Items

Start journaling your emotional reactions to uncover hidden filters. Practice pausing before reacting to comments from loved ones. Try the couple exercises shared in this episode to enhance emotional sobriety together.Resources Mentioned

Dr. Andrea Vitz’s Book: The You You’ve Never Met Dr. Andrea Vitz’s TEDx Talk: Emotional Sobriety - The Key to Unlocking Your True Self Learn more about emotional sobriety: andreavitz.comJoin the Conversation
What emotional filters have you noticed in your life? Share your story with us on IG @Married.And.Connected, or send us a message to coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Subscribe & Share
If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe to Married and Connected and leave a review. Don’t forget to share this episode with someone who might benefit from these insights.

Good Kind books, advent blocks and Easter blocks- spiritual habits – GoodKind

For sponsorship or collaboration opportunities, please email Kameran at coaching@recognizingpotential.com

New Year's resolutions often focus on self-improvement, but what about improving your most important relationship—your marriage? In this episode, we explore how to set a powerful intention for a healthy, thriving marriage in 2025. Using the G.R.E.A.T framework, I share practical steps to grieve past hurts, reflect on your role in your relationship, embrace your current reality, act on needed changes, and cultivate gratitude. Along the way, I draw from personal experiences, biblical wisdom, and coaching insights to inspire you to take actionable steps toward a stronger connection with your spouse.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

G: Grieve what you've lost and release it to move forward.
- Why it's essential to process your emotions and let go of old expectations.
- Key insights from Proverbs 14:13 and "The Body Keeps the Score."
- R: Reflect on your contributions to your marriage.
- How taking responsibility for your part empowers you to grow.
- The importance of self-awareness and learning the 5-finger apology.
- E: Embrace where you are in your marriage.
- The power of accepting your circumstances while trusting God’s plan.
- Personal stories of perseverance, hope, and seeing the forest beyond the trees.
- A: Act on what you need to do to make your marriage better.
- Breaking free from destructive habits and excuses.
- Why reaching out for help is a courageous and transformative step.
- T: Thankfulness is the key to a thriving relationship.
- How gratitude fosters intimacy, reduces stress, and strengthens commitment.
- Eye-opening research and actionable tips for expressing appreciation daily.

Bible Verses Referenced:

Lamentations 3:22-23
Proverbs 14:13
Matthew 7:3-5
Philippians 4:6
1 Chronicles 16:34

Key Takeaways:

Change starts with you. When you commit to personal growth, your marriage will transform.
Gratitude is a powerful tool that shifts your focus from entitlement to appreciation, enhancing emotional connection.
You’re never too far gone to rebuild your relationship!

Resources Mentioned:

Dr. Andrea Vitz’s Emotional Sobriety Course
The Divorce-Proof Marriage Coaching Program (link to your coaching program)

Action Steps:

Reflect on your own role in your relationship—journal about areas where you can improve.
Practice daily gratitude by writing down 3 things you appreciate about your spouse.
If you're ready to take your marriage to the next level, email me at coaching@recognizingpotential.com to schedule a session.

Join the Movement:

If this episode resonated with you, please leave a review and share it with your friends.
Screenshot this episode, post it on social media, and tag me @divorceproofmarriage. Together, we can create a ripple effect that strengthens marriages and reduces the divorce rate worldwide.

Ad Info:

Good Kind Book: spiritual habits – GoodKind

Let’s Connect:

Instagram: @divorceproofmarriage
Website: www.recognizingpotential.com
Coaching Inquiries: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Thank you for tuning in! Here’s to a year of growth, gratitude, and a G.R.E.A.T marriage in 2025. See you next week!

In this episode, we tackle one of the most vulnerable and misunderstood areas of marriage—intimacy. Using insights from renowned experts like Dr. John Gottman, Vanessa Marin, and biblical principles, we dive into the common challenges couples face in their sex lives, the role of stress and unspoken expectations, and how intimacy evolves over time.

Whether it’s mismatched libidos, the impact of life changes, or cultural taboos around discussing sex, we provide actionable steps and strategies to overcome barriers and build both emotional and physical intimacy. By the end of this episode, you’ll feel equipped to deepen your connection and create a more fulfilling relationship.

What We’ll Cover:

Understanding Common Barriers:
How stress, unspoken expectations, and cultural taboos impact intimacy in marriage.
Mismatched Libidos:
What differing sex drives mean, how to compromise on frequency, and the importance of connection over numbers.
Biblical Misconceptions:
Addressing common biblical misunderstandings about sex and embracing the truth.
Building Emotional Intimacy:
Why emotional safety is the foundation of physical intimacy and practical ways to nurture it.
Reigniting Passion:
Ideas for spicing up your sex life and reigniting the flame after years of marriage.
Navigating Conversations About Sex:
How to talk about intimacy when one partner sees the topic as taboo or uncomfortable.
Life Changes and Libido:
Why libido changes (e.g., after childbirth, menopause) and how to work through them as a team.
Breaking Unspoken Expectations:
Identifying hidden assumptions and how to communicate needs effectively.

Listener Takeaways:

Practical exercises for building emotional intimacy, like “listening dates” and daily appreciations.
Examples of healthy boundaries and how to have meaningful conversations about intimacy.
Real-life strategies for reigniting passion, even in the busiest seasons of life.
Encouragement to embrace open communication, respect, and connection.

Resources Mentioned:

Dr. John Gottman’s research on intimacy and emotional connection.
Vanessa Marin’s insights into understanding mismatched libidos and spicing up your sex life.
Relevant biblical verses that highlight the importance of love, respect, and physical intimacy in marriage.
Suggested books: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. John Gottman and Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski.

Engage with Us:

What challenges have you faced in your intimacy journey? Share your story or questions by sending me a DM or email—I’d love to hear from you and may feature your question in a future episode.
Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram for daily tips and inspiration for building a stronger marriage.
Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com
IG, TT- @divorceproofmarriage
Facebook- www.facebook.com/divorce.proof.marriage

Work With Me:
If you and your partner are ready to break through the barriers in your marriage and build deeper intimacy, my 1:1 coaching program is designed to help you do just that. Let’s work together to create a relationship where both emotional and physical intimacy thrive. Click here to learn more and schedule your first session.

In this episode, we explore how stress and mental health challenges can strain relationships—especially during the holidays. Learn:

The science behind stress and disconnection.
Strategies to support your partner’s mental health.
Activities to boost happy hormones and deepen intimacy.
Tips for setting boundaries and navigating holiday stress.
What my family is doing to better our mental health as a whole.

Ready to strengthen your relationship? My 1:1 coaching program can help you navigate challenges with confidence. Visit www.recognizingpotential.com to learn more.

Good Kind Advent Blocks: Christmas | GoodKindCode: DIVORCEPROOF

Kameran's info:

IG and TT: @divorceproofmarriage

FB @divorce.proof.marriage

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Amazon Storefront: Kameran Thompson Al-Areqi's Amazon Page

In this episode, we dive deep into one of the most Googled marriage struggles: financial conflicts. Learn why financial integrity is essential, how breaches of trust impact your relationship, and what you can do to rebuild unity after financial disagreements. With insights from Dr. John Gottman, top financial advisors, and real-world examples, we’ll provide tools and strategies to manage money as a team.

Key Topics Covered:

The meaning and importance of financial integrity.
Conversations to have before and during marriage about money.
Setting boundaries to prevent financial infidelity.
Rebuilding trust after financial breaches.
Tips and tools for financial teamwork.

Resources Mentioned:

Dr. John Gottman’s The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Dave Ramsey’s The Total Money Makeover
Apps: Mint, YNAB

Struggling with financial conflicts in your marriage? Coaching can help you and your partner navigate money challenges with integrity and trust. Let’s work together to build a stronger, more unified relationship.

Good Kind Advent Blocks: Christmas | GoodKindCode: DIVORCEPROOF for 15% off

Contacting Kameran:

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Social Media: TT and IG: @divorceproofmarriage

Facebook: www.facebook.com/divorce.proof.marriage

Busy Bins: Email teacherkta@gmail.com to order

In this episode, we explore the complexities of managing in-law relationships during the holidays. From understanding family systems to setting boundaries and staying connected as a couple, this episode is packed with actionable advice and expert insights.

Key Takeaways:

Why in-law dynamics can feel overwhelming and how to address them
Practical examples of healthy boundaries
Solutions to common challenges like unsolicited advice and conflicting traditions
Tips to stay emotionally connected during the holidays

Resources:

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. John Gottman
Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud
Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson

Good Kind Advent Blocks: GoodKind - From the Makers of Advent Blocks.Code: DIVORCEPROOF

Kam's info:

Email: Coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Socials: @divorce.proof.marriage OR on IG @divorceproofmarriage

Website: www.recognizingpotential.com

Venmo @Kameran-Thompson (purple shirt in front of the pyramids of Giza)

In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into one of the most powerful influences on your marriage: your mindset and belief system. Research from psychologists and relationship experts like Dr. Carol Dweck and Dr. John Gottman shows that our mindset shapes how we experience our relationships. When we believe in the growth and potential of our marriage, we become more resilient, empathetic, and connected. But what happens when our beliefs start to shift to the negative? Why do we tend to veer that way over time, and how can we change it?

We’ll uncover why mindset matters, how to strengthen a growth mindset within your marriage, and practical ways to nurture positive beliefs about your partner. If you’ve been wondering how to renew your faith in your relationship, or if you’re ready to shift your perspective for a stronger, happier marriage, this episode is for you!

Key Takeaways:

Why Mindset Matters in Marriage:
How a “growth mindset” can improve resilience, deepen empathy, and foster connection during tough times, based on Dr. Carol Dweck’s research.
The Role of Positive Belief:
Dr. John Gottman’s insights on “positive sentiment override” and why assuming the best in your partner can be a game-changer.
Common Pitfalls & Negative Beliefs:
Understanding “negative sentiment override,” why it happens in long-term relationships, and how it can damage trust and connection over time.
5 Practical Steps to Strengthen Belief and Positivity in Your Marriage:
1. Practice Positive Assumptions: How to validate your partner’s intentions, even during conflict.
2. Reframe Negative Beliefs: Tools for catching negative thoughts and shifting to a growth perspective.
3. Reconnect with Shared Goals: The power of aligning on shared values and future dreams.
4. Small Acts of Appreciation: Why consistent appreciation boosts overall positivity.
5. Focus on Self-Growth: Tips for personal development that can transform your relationship.

Research Highlights:

Dr. Carol Dweck’s “Growth Mindset” theory and its application in marriage.
Dr. John Gottman’s work on relationship dynamics, positive sentiment override, and lasting connection.

Resources Mentioned:

Dr. Carol Dweck’s book, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
Dr. John Gottman’s The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Actionable Challenge for Listeners:
This week, start with one small act of appreciation every day. Share something you love about your partner, or recognize something positive they’ve done. Notice how these small acts impact your overall mindset about your marriage!

Good Kind Advent Blocks: GoodKind - From the Makers of Advent Blocks.Code: DIVORCEPROOF

To order a Busy Bin, email teacherkta@gmail.com or go to www.facebook.com/groups/theblondeegyptian for more information on that or to shop The Blonde Egyptian Boutique for all your women's sizes S-3XL and children's clothing needs!

Kameran's Info:

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Socials: TT, FB and IG: @divorce.proof.marriage

Venmo: @Kameran-Thompson (purple shirt standing in front of the Egyptian pyramids)

Cash App: $KameranThompson

In this episode, I debunk more misconceptions sent in by listeners, followers and clients.

5:56 My spouse should "just know"

8:51 Marriage with Fix Our Flaws/ I Can Fix Them

17:40 Our Relationship Will Stay the Same (as when we were dating)

20:04 We should spend all our time together/do everything together/no girls or guys trips

22:55 External influences have no power over your marriage

28:10 Sex will always be frequent and exciting

34:33 All couples eventually grow apart

37:11 If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all

39:42 Issues with family will eventually go away/In-laws should bring up issues with family

43:39 You knew what you signed up for

50:25 We don't need to plan/pay for the marriage, only the wedding AND the wedding is the finish line

52:01 We'll figure it out as we go/marriage doesn't need a purpose

54:45 Your marriage is too far gone to save

Info from our sponsors:

Good Kind: ⁠Christmas | GoodKind⁠

Code: DIVORCEPROOF

Busy Bins:

Email: teacherkta@gmail.com

website: www.facebook.com/groups/theblondeegyptian

Contact info for Kameran:

coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Venmo: @Kameran-thompson (purple shirt, in front of the pyramids)

www.recognizingpotential.com

Have you ever thought that marriage was supposed to make you happy? Or maybe that if you have an argument you're headed straight for divorce? Or maybe even that you were supposed to be passionate, in love with and attracted to your partner every moment of every day for the rest of your life? Well, if that's you, you're definitely not alone but you also believe a misconception that isn't true and could be causing you more harm than good in your marriage.

Check out these 10 common misconceptions that lead to divorce so you can divorce proof your marriage!

As always, if you find this content helpful, please leave a review and subscribe so you never miss an episode!

To contact Kameran:

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Website: www.recognizingpotential.com

IG, FB and TT: @divorce.proof.marriage

To donate to the podcast: Venmo- @Kameran-Thompson

In the first session I have with couples, we always go over goals for where they want their marriage to be, what's working and what's not. I've coached over 100 couples in the last 5 years and they have ALL said "we want better communication" and while coaching them, I find that they don't have a communication problem and neither do you. What is it really? Disconnection. Jump into this episode to find out how disconnection leads to communication breakdown, what it looks like, sounds like and how to fix it.

Chapters:

0:00 Understanding Communication Breakdown in a Marriage

3:07 The Importance of Emotional Connection

6:00 Identifying Signs of Disconnection

8:49 Rebuilding Emotional Connection

11:50 Effective Communication Strategies

15:14 Understanding Connection Differences

18:07 Practical Tips for Strengthening Connection

20:54 Conclusion: Restoring Connection and Communication

To contact Kameran about coaching: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Follow Kameran on socials and tag her when you share this episode on yours!

@divorce.proof.marriage on TT, FB and IG

Why do people fear falling out of love?

This fear often stems from a deep-seated anxiety about the future. We all enter relationships with hopes, dreams, and a vision of everlasting love. But as time goes on, we might notice changes in our feelings or the dynamics of the relationship, which can trigger doubts and fears. This fear is not irrational; it’s a reflection of how much we value our relationships and how much we want them to succeed.

In this episode, I dive deep into this topic as well as the marriage retreat that I'm hosting January 24 and 25, 2025 in Granbury, TX.

Chapters

0:00 Intro and Marriage Retreat Announcement

10:46 Understanding the Fear of Falling Out of Love

23:26 Love as a Verb: Taking Action in Your Relationship

25:20 Building a Strong Friendship

31:39 Cultivating Emotional Safety in Your Relationship

34:38 Maintaining a Growth Mindset for a Thriving Relationship

44:09 Regular Check-ins and Communication: Keys to Lasting Love

47:21 Conclusion and Offering Hope and Tangible Tools

⁠Amare Link⁠

Promo Code: 145624

⁠Coaching On Demand Workshops⁠

⁠Book Recommendations Link⁠

Contact Kameran for more info on coaching or the marriage retreat:

Coaching@recognizingpotential.com

@divorce.proof.marriage (on tiktok, IG or FB)

An astounding amount of people report having significant amounts of resentment towards their partner. Bitterness, hardness of heart and maybe even thoughts of divorce have crept in and taken over their hearts and minds. What does resentment feel like? What does it look like? How do you overcome it after it's already built a wall between you and your partner? Take a deep dive with me as we uncover all of these answers and more to restore your marriage.

Chapters:

0:00 Introduction: The Prevelance of Resentment in Relationships

11:46 The Negative Effects of Resentment on Marriages

22:41 Root Causes of Resentment in Relationships

31:04 Strategies for Overcoming Resentment in Your Marriage

37:49 The Importance of Emotional Safety & Connection in Overcoming Resentment

40:01 Equalizing Mental Load and Household Responsibilities

41:48 The Imbalance of Giving in Relationships

48:42 The Process of Forgiveness

53:46 Repairing Conflicts in Relationships

01:01:22 Preventing Resentment

01:04:04 Positive Experiences and Signing Off

Good Kind Info:

Website- GoodKind - From the Makers of Advent Blocks.Code: DIVORCEPROOF

Overcoming Resentment Workshop

https://recognizingpotential.com/product/overcoming-resentment/

To contact Kameran:

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Website: www.recognizingpotential.com

IG, TikTok, FB: @divorce.proof.marriage

Love is a verb, not just 3 little words. So when you're trying to divorce proof your marriage, how do you make "I Love You" mean a little bit more? In today's episode, we break down 5 ways to make "I Love You" mean a little bit more.

0:00 Introduction

4:16 Daily Intentional Effort

5:14 Respect

12:14 Follow Through

15:32 Eliminating Assumptions

24:26 Appreciating Your Differences

Within these chapters, we talk a lot about ways to get your sex life on track, 5 finger apologies and repairing after a conflict.

The ads for this episode are:

Good Kind

Code DIVORCEPROOF for 15% off any number of graticubes

Amare Wellness Products

https://amare.com/en-us/g10/145624

Code: 145624

Today we are talking all about gratitude. Why is it important? How can you create a gratitude practice if you feel like you are one who is never grateful for anything? How does gratitude improve your marriage significantly and pretty much immediately? I'm not gatekeeping any of the answers to these questions and more! Check out this episode and share with your friends on socials. Tag me @divorce.proof.marriage on TikTok, Facebook, or IG and if you feel like financially donating to the podcast, my venmo is @Kameran-Thompson

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Why does cheating happen? How do you move forward after it happens? Why do some relationships have so much arguing, toxicity and conflict? How do you fix it if yours does? Are love languages and attachment styles real? How does divorce impact children long term? How does it all fit together?

In Episode 74, Dr. Andrea Vitz talks about emotional insobriety. In today's episode, she dives even deeper into emotional insobriety, cheating, toxic relationships, why they happen and how to fix all of it without getting a divorce!

Chapters:

0:00 Introduction and Overview

2:00 Emotional Sobriety and Relationship Dynamics

8:25 Toxic Relationships and Divorce

14:37 Emotionally Triggered Behaviors

29:08 Effects of Divorce on Children

37:07 Conflict, Forgiveness, and Self-Responsibility

38:28 Understanding ETBs and Cheating

45:40 The Importance of Emotional Sobriety

46:37 Taking Responsibility and Creating Lasting Change

50:03 Recognizing and Addressing Personal Contributions

1:02:47 Seeking Help and Support for Navigating Challenges

ACCESS FREE GIFT FROM DR. V.⁠

USE code LEADER to access this survey and get a free gift from DR. V.

FB: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/yourlevelheadeddoc⁠LI: ⁠www.linkedin.com/in/andreavitz

⁠IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/drandreavitz/⁠

Podcast: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/levelheaded-talk/id1528811069⁠

FREE CALL WITH ANDREA: ⁠LIFTEDACADEMY.COM/FREEEVAL⁠

Don't forget to use the code DIVORCEPROOF to sign up for any coaching course and receive 5% off!

Kameran's info:

Website: www.recognizingpotential.com

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/divorce.proof.marriage

Instagram: www.instagram.com/divorce.proof.marriage

Good Kind Advent Blocks, Easter Blocks and Gratikubes!Website: https://goodkind.shop/

Code: DIVORCEPROOF for 15% off your order!

Trigger warning Infant loss, miscarriage, grief

This week's episode features Kate Carson, a former teacher, engineer and now a love, sex and life transitions coach. Kate talks all about her own grief with late term pregnancy loss, miscarriage and not only keeping your marriage strong through those experiences but also the different secondary experiences that come as a result of those states- lactation after late term pregnancy loss, the sexuality changes that happen because of depression and grief, etc. If you've experienced any of the traumatic circumstances that Kate talks about in this episode, I encourage you to reach out to her for somatic help.

Kate's info: Website: NIGHT BLOOM COACHINGIG: @katecsays

Kameran's info:

website: Recognizing Potential Coaching

email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

IG: @divorce.proof.marriage

1. Show Affection and Love Towards Your Partner

Kids learn a lot by observing their parents. When you show affection and express love towards your spouse, you’re setting a powerful example. This teaches them about healthy, loving relationships and the importance of emotional expression.

Action Tip: Make a habit of daily gestures of love—whether it’s a kiss, a hug, or a simple “I love you.” Let your children see and feel the warmth in your marriage.

2. Communicate Openly and Respectfully

Open, respectful communication between partners is crucial. It teaches children how to express their thoughts and feelings constructively.

Action Tip: Practice active listening and speak to your partner with respect, especially during disagreements. This shows your kids how to handle conflicts healthily.

3. Share Household Responsibilities

When men actively participate in household chores, it demonstrates equality and teamwork. This not only lightens the load but also models the importance of sharing responsibilities.

Action Tip: Divide household tasks and be consistent in your contributions. This balanced approach fosters a cooperative and supportive environment.

4. Be Present and Engaged

Quality time with your spouse sets a foundation for a strong relationship. Being present and engaged also shows your children the value of giving undivided attention to loved ones.

Action Tip: Schedule regular date nights or spend time together after the kids go to bed. This strengthens your bond and creates a stable family dynamic.

5. Support Each Other’s Parenting Decisions

Consistency in parenting is crucial for a child's sense of security. When parents support each other’s decisions, it provides a united front.

Action Tip: Discuss parenting strategies and agree on rules and consequences. Back each other up in front of the kids, discussing any disagreements privately.

6. Show Gratitude and Appreciation

Expressing gratitude strengthens your relationship and sets a positive example for your children. It teaches them to appreciate and acknowledge the efforts of others.

Action Tip: Regularly thank your spouse for the little things they do. A simple “thank you” can go a long way in maintaining a happy marriage.

7. Encourage Each Other’s Personal Growth

Supporting your spouse’s personal development and interests is vital. It shows your children the importance of growth and self-improvement.

Action Tip: Encourage your partner to pursue hobbies, education, or career goals. Celebrate their achievements and be their biggest cheerleader.

8. Maintain a Sense of Humor

Laughter is a key ingredient in a healthy marriage. It helps diffuse tension and fosters a joyful atmosphere at home.

Action Tip: Find reasons to laugh together—whether it’s through sharing funny stories, watching a comedy, or simply being playful. This positive energy rubs off on your children.

9. Demonstrate Conflict Resolution Skills

Conflict is inevitable, but handling it well is what counts. Show your children that disagreements can be resolved calmly and respectfully.

Action Tip: Practice problem-solving together. Use “I” statements to express feelings and work towards mutually beneficial solutions. This teaches your kids invaluable conflict resolution skills.

10. Prioritize Family Time

Balancing work and family can be challenging, but prioritizing family time is essential. It strengthens your bond and creates lasting memories.

Action Tip: Dedicate specific times for family activities, like game nights or weekend outings. Being together as a family unit reinforces the importance of family connections.

⁠Amazon Storefront for Marriage Books and Other Resources⁠

⁠Good Kind Graticube⁠

Use code DIVORCEPROOF for 15% Off

For FirmTech cock ring:

⁠Smart Cock Rings for Smart Men: Firmtech Penoscrotal Rings (myfirmtech.com)⁠

Use code DIVORCEPROOF for 10% off

David Lea & Paige Stuart Lea are married in life, love, and business. Their channel shares innovative trauma-informed polarity insight, information, and expertise. Journey through their conversations, teachings and insights on how to effectively heal your trauma through a masculine and feminine energy lens to realize your most extraordinary relationship.

In this episode, David, Paige and Kameran sit down to talk about how to know if your marriage, like so many others, is inverted in polarity, what it looks like to emasculate your man by being in your wounded masculine energy, what it means to be unsafe as a man in your wounded feminine energy and how to get back into a healthy polarized state.

Chapters:

0:00 Societal Influences on Gender Dynamics

31:23 Embracing Masculine and Feminine Energies in Relationships

37:05 Healing Emotional Burdens from Childhood

42:19 The Role of Community Support and Self-Reflection in Healing

Daring Deeply Websitedaring-deeply.com

David Lea TikToktiktok.com/@daringdeeplycoaching?lang=en

Instagram: @david_leacoaching

Paige Stuart TikToktiktok.com/@paigestuart_?lang=enFor Good Kind Graticubes:

GratiKube from GoodKindUse code DIVORCEPROOF for 15% off

For FirmTech cock ring:

Smart Cock Rings for Smart Men: Firmtech Penoscrotal Rings (myfirmtech.com)Use code DIVORCEPROOF for 10% off

To contact Kameran:

Facebook

Instagram

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Website: www.recognizingpotential.com

Barbara Thompson is originally from New Zealand and now lives in Australia, is a passionate and dedicated therapist with a private practice known as Self Care Studio. Barbara specialises in helping individuals understand and nurture the mind-body connection, guiding them to use their intuition to break free from barriers holding them back from living their best lives. With a deep understanding of the therapeutic journey from her own experiences, Barbara is committed to providing compassionate and effective care for her clients. Her mission is to empower people to truly know themselves and take better care of their mental and emotional well-being.

Instagram: @self_care_studio

Website: selfcarebybarbarathompson.com.au

Aside from the fact that I could sit and listen to Barbara speak gibberish all day with her accent, she brings such a light in the darkness with her story! Barbara Thompson is a therapist, but not like any other. She helps people find self-love and overcome toxic relationships because she's been there, done the work and broken the pattern of choosing toxicity herself.

Chapters:

0:00 Intro and Podcast Swap

0:59 Recognizing Patterns and Healing Childhood Wounds

13:08 The Impact of Divorce on Identity

23:32 The Journey to Self Love and Listening to the Inner Voice

28:52 Reframing Thoughts and Beliefs

32:10 The Power of Therapy and Self Reflection

32:40 Life is Wonderful and the Power of Self Reflection

34:10 Recognizing and Breaking the Cycle of Toxic Relationships

36:22 The Journey of self-awareness and Personal Growth

50:25 Suffering for your calling

53:25 The importance of seeking help and breaking patterns

1:00:57 Barbara's courses and info

To order a techring:

www.myfirmtech.com

Enter the code DIVORCEPROOF for a 10% discount

To order Graticubes from Good Kind:

GratiKube from GoodKindEnter the code DIVORCEPROOF for 15% off your order

Do you or your partner suffer from erectile dysfunction? Is your sex life dwindling or non-existent and you're not sure why? Does your partner struggle with massive shifts in circadian rhythm, take sleeping aides, use alcohol or marijuana before bed? Dr. Elliot Justin, a leading sextech expert and medical doctor talks about the FirmTech cock ring he has created and sold over 12,000 of and how it's helped save sex lives, save actual lives, snuff out medical problems associated with erections, and improve sex lives of many over the last few years.

To purchase a ring for yourself or your partner, go to

www.myfirmtech.com

Enter the code DIVORCEPROOF for a 15% discount.

Email for Dr. Justin: elliot@myfirmtech.com

Chapters for episode:

0:00 Intro and Creation of Sextech Products

2:24 The Importance of Nocturnal Erections for Cardiovascular Health

5:12 The Health Benefits of Regular Sex

10:29 Addressing Common Issues in Sexual Health

25:39 Using Data to Optimize Sexual Health

31:49 Navigating Andropause and Hormonal Imbalances

38:01 Consultation and Conclusion

To Contact Kameran:

coaching@recognizingpotential.com

FB, IG and TT- @divorce.proof.marriage

Contemplating divorce? Wondering what a life of reconciliation would be like? Want to chat with a couple who was divorced over 3 years and then reconciled? Sherman and Semise Daley are your go to couple for just that. After being married, divorcing and then remarrying, Sherman and Semise talk all about the lessons they've learned, what they would've told themselves before they got divorced, and how they now teach other couples how to build exceptional marriages.

To Contact Sherman & Semise:

website: Redeem Your Marriage (restoredmarriages.com)

To Contact Kameran:

website: www.recognizingpotential.com

IG, FB, TikTok: @divorce.proof.marriage

To order Good Kind Graticubes: GratiKube from GoodKindUse code DIVORCEPROOF for 15% off your order!

To donate to the podcast: Venmo: @kameran-thompson

Cashapp: $KameranThompson

WOW! I have never been blown away by a guest like I was by the coaching and information Dr. Andrea Vitz provided during this episode. As a hurt healer and an emotional insobriety coach, Dr. Andrea Vitz and I sit down to talk all about how your arguments, behavior, choices, attraction, chemistry and how it all shows up in your marriage and other relationships comes back to your emotional insobriety. I will also say, I've never signed up for a coaching course as quickly as I signed up to heal my own emotional insobriety within one hour after this interview ended and I have a code for you to do the same!

ACCESS FREE GIFT FROM DR. V.

USE code LEADER to access this survey and get a free gift from DR. V.
FB: https://www.facebook.com/yourlevelheadeddoc
LI: www.linkedin.com/in/andreavitzIG: https://www.instagram.com/drandreavitz/Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/levelheaded-talk/id1528811069FREE CALL WITH ME: LIFTEDACADEMY.COM/FREEEVALWEEK ON SELF-SABOTAGE: https://levelheadedtalk.libsyn.com/12-06-2022-self-sabotage

Don't forget to use the code DIVORCEPROOF to sign up for any coaching course and receive 5% off!

Kameran's info:

Website: www.recognizingpotential.com

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/divorce.proof.marriage

Instagram: www.instagram.com/divorce.proof.marriage

Good Kind Advent Blocks, Easter Blocks and Gratikubes!

Website: GoodKind - From the Makers of Advent Blocks.

Code: DIVORCEPROOF for 15% off your order!

Kameran's info:

Website: www.recognizingpotential.com

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/divorce.proof.marriage

Instagram: www.instagram.com/divorce.proof.marriage

Good Kind Advent Blocks, Easter Blocks and Gratikubes!

Website: GoodKind - From the Makers of Advent Blocks.

Code: DIVORCEPROOF for 15% off your order!

Kameran's info:

Website: www.recognizingpotential.com

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/divorce.proof.marriage

Instagram: www.instagram.com/divorce.proof.marriage

Good Kind Advent Blocks, Easter Blocks and Gratikubes!

Website: GoodKind - From the Makers of Advent Blocks.

Code: DIVORCEPROOF for 15% off your order!

Kameran's info:

Website: www.recognizingpotential.com

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/divorce.proof.marriage

IG: www.instagram.com/divorce.proof.marriage

Good Kind Gratikubes:

Website: https://goodkind.shop/

Use code DIVORCEPROOF for 15% off your order!

Oohhhh y'all. Get your notebooks and pens ready! This hour long episode is jam packed with the absolute BEST nuggets around overcoming people pleasing, why you fall into the trap of people pleasing and how to stop requiring your partner to make you happy and how to make yourself happy instead! We dive into how to make your relationship happier by owning your own happiness.

Christy Holt is a self-proclaimed Happiness Hussy, adventure guide, podcast host (Create Your Happy, inspiration for conscious women, available wherever you listen to podcasts) and international best-selling author (Unstuck For Women, Run For Your Life and others available on Amazon) on a mission to spread happiness around the planet. Christy is a mentor for whole-ass humans — using her signature CREATE method, she adventures along side of her heart led clients to support and love them as they discover and unlearn. Christy’s mentorship helps her clients to create a life they love full of loving and healthy relationships that make them truly f*cking happy!

Chapters:

0:00 Intro of Christy Holt and the Topic of Happiness

8:27 Recognizing Wholeness and Creating Safety

29:35 Self-Discovery and Regulating the Nervous System for Happiness

37:01 Breaking Free from People Pleasing and Trauma Responses

Christy's info: Website: www.coachchristyholt.comPodcast http://www.createyourhappy.caFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachchristyholtFind your f*cking ZEN in under 5 minutes! Check out these unique, no-BS meditations that are as fun as they are effective. Tap into your inner calm today! #SwearyMeditation #ZenAF https://bit.ly/swearyzen

Kameran's info:

Website: www.recognizingpotential.com

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/divorce.proof.marriage

Instagram: www.instagram.com/divorce.proof.marriage

Good Kind Advent Blocks, Easter Blocks and Gratikubes!

Website: GoodKind - From the Makers of Advent Blocks.

Code: DIVORCEPROOF for 15% off your order!

In this episode, we are going to break down the importance of maintaining or regaining your individuality while also balancing togetherness. What does that mean? What's it look like and why is it important? Fostering individuality is going to not only keep your own cup full, it's going to keep you interesting and attractive to your spouse. Meanwhile, creating a culture of togetherness is going to keep your relationship strong, growing and prioritized. How do you balance the two? There are 10 factors to consider. I break down all 10 in detail and explain why each are important. Of course, there are personal details along the way and as you and I are sitting together drinking coffee and chatting it up.

Chapters:

0:00 Intro and Listener Topic

6:05 Embracing Differences

13:52 Pursuing Personal Hobbies and Interests

30:55 Prioritizing Self-Care and Open Communication

37:25 Taking Care of Your Nervous System

45:13 Establishing Shared Goals and Values

To Contact Kameran:

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Website: www.recognizingpotential.com

Facebook, TikTok and Instagram: @divorce.proof.marriage

To financially support the podcast and other content creation: Venmo- @Kameran-Thompson

Cashapp: $KameranThompson

This episode features answers to questions that followers and podcast listeners have sent in.

The first question is basically asking if validation feels fake instead of calming and connecting, how do you approach validating your partner (who is most likely avoidant)?

The second question asks if marriage is "just a piece of paper" and how to avoid divorce if you're engaged but terrified of the possibility.

The third question is from a man asking if he should stay in his marriage or leave as he and his wife have a lot of trauma from the past and keep hurting each other.

Chapters:

0:00 Intro and Appreciation for listeners

15:32 Marriage is more than just a piece of paper

38:52 The continuous effort and growth in marriage

Contact Kameran:

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Website: www.recognizingpotential.com

FB, IG, TicTok- @divorce.proof.marriage

Warning. Today's episode may be quite convicting. Emotional safety is a foundational element to having a connected, trusting, fulfilling relationship! Sadly, we are seeing less and less connection with parents and their kids, adults and their friends, and even more so with couples as the divorce rate has risen to 54% post pandemic. Emotional safety is just as important as physical safety and is one of the most important elements to have in order to become your best self just after having your physiological needs met (food, water, sleep, breathing, homeostasis).

If you don't feel emotionally safe in your marriage after you listen to this podcast, share it with your spouse. Have a conversation around what this looks like for you, about the experience they are creating for you and if you need help learning how to create more safety in your relationship, email me at coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Chapters:

0:00 Introduction and Overview

5:17 The Importance of Safety In Relationships

12:03 Building Emotional Support and Trust

25:29 The Role of Men in Establishing Safety

32:59 The Connection Between Safety and Intimacy

39:49 Practical Tips for Building Safety in a Relationship

48:22 Conclusion and Call to Action

If you found this episode helpful, please review, share and tag me on socials- IG, FB and TikTok are all @divorce.proof.marriage

Amare Code for $10 off your first order:

amare.com/en-us/g10/145624

In today's conversation, Karen and I talk about her experience with marriage and talking about money, how she became a coach for couples on how to get on the same financial page as your spouse, how to budget and what her top tips for talking about money without arguing are. Money is a hot topic for many married couples and I hope that today's episode alleviates some of the stress and embarrassment that comes with those conversations.

Karen and I also talk about her experiences living in Bermuda and Kenya with her family, and what it's like being from the UK economically speaking.

If you'd like to take advantage of Karen's coaching and discounts, please go to:

Download my FREE eBook ‘How To Get On The Same Financial Page As Your Spouse’. It’s got practical tips on how you can…well, get on the same financial page!

Here’s the link:

https://moneyandmarriage.myflodesk.com/free-ebook

You can also reach out to me via:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/moneyandmarriage2/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100071119311431

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/moneyandmarriage/

And via my website: www.moneyandmarriage.net

Here’s the link to the super, simple Excel spreadsheet:

https://moneyandmarriage.myflodesk.com/budget-excel

To connect with Kameran:

coaching@recognizingpotential.com

FB, IG, TikTok: @divorce.proof.marriage

In this episode, I talk about a new course that I've just launched on learning to manage emotions, notice, name and share them and how to get signed up for that.

The meat and potatoes of the episode is all about the three things your marriage needs to thrive according to Dr. John Gottman and his many years of research on the subject. I break down those three into the visual of a house consisting of trust, commitment and friendship. I talk about how to build all three and how you may be damaging them consciously or unconsciously.

Individual topics talked about on this episode are:

Accepting your partner's influence, building and losing trust, treating your partner as your friend, consistency in relationships, seeing your partner in a positive light versus focusing on the negative light, avoidant behavior with emotions and pulling away in a relationship, setting boundaries, the value of trust, and letting your partner into your world. I recap stories of real life examples from coaching clients as well as my own relationship with my ex-husband and what went wrong in our marriage.

Don't forget to leave a review and follow me on IG or FB @divorce.proof.marriage

If you would like to collaborate, sign up for coaching or become a sponsor of the podcast, please email Kameran at coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Susana Demore is my guest on this week's episode. She and I sit down to talk all about her diagnosis with breast cancer, her treatment and the specific ways that her husband truly lived out the vows "in sickness and in health". Susana and I talk about the habits that were created in that time after her diagnosis, after her treatment and after she heard the words "cancer free". What was next? How did all of the stress of that journey, moving from Dubai to the US, having a toddler and life in general take a toll on her marriage. We talk about the supplements she started taking so that she and her husband could get back to being like teenagers in the bedroom. If you are ready to be like teenagers as well, connect with myself or Susana Demore!

Remember that readers are leaders! For all the books mentioned on today's episode and even more self-improvement check out this link: https://amzn.to/3PmFBot

Susana's links: www.linktr.ee/susanademoreand www.thrivewithsusana.com

Find her on IG and TikTok @onehealedmama

To connect with Kameran:

www.recognizingpotential.com

IG, TikTok & FB @divorce.proof.marriage

email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

To donate financially to the podcast: Venmo: @Kameran-Thompson

Cashapp: $KameranThompson

Is Mental Load just a buzzword? Why is it important in a marriage/relationship? Why is it so overwhelming to the default partner/parent? What are some examples of minimum standard care? Why is understanding the whole process of conceiving the plan, planning the plan and executing the plan a big deal? Why is my partner pissed all the time? Why won't my partner have sex with me? This is why!

If at any point you're stressed out by all the questions I'm asking in this episode, this is exactly what is going through your partner's mind at any point of the day.

If you're wanting to do an Equal Partnership Assessment, please email me at coaching@recognizingpotential.com to schedule and get payment links. Remember those sessions are 60 minutes for an assessment and coaching session on how to create a more equal partnership. We will create a strategy that works for your family together. $100 (at the time of the recording. I can't guarantee that price won't increase in the future.)

To get $10 off your first order of Amare supplements: https://amare.com/en-us/g10/145624

If you want to donate financially to the podcast, venmo @ Kameran-Thompson or Cashapp @ $KameranThompson

In this episode, I talk in depth about the five needed attributes to really appreciate your spouse.

Do you truly accept your partner for who they are or only for who you want them to be?

Do you understand their heart? Do you know them well enough to understand their intentions versus their impact?

Do you affirm your spouse enough? Do you appreciate and affirm them for who they are or only what they do?

Are you completely honest and authentic with your partner? Do you have secrets and lies that you're wasting energy worrying if you'll be found out? Do you open up enough that your partner can fully know, accept and love you?

Do you truly forgive them for their wrongdoings, or do you rise above them and have contempt rather than true forgiveness?

Don't skip the end! I talk about the marriage retreat that I'm planning that will be in Granbury, TX August 2-3, 2024. Early bird pricing is now!

To find out more about coaching, book your spot for the retreat, ask questions or give Kameran ideas for the podcast that you may want more info on, email coaching@recognizingpotential.com

IG and FB @divorce.proof.marriage

To donate monetarily to the podcast: Venmo @Kameran-Thompson

Cashapp: $KameranThompson

To donate financially to the podcast:

Venmo: @Kameran-Thompson

Cashapp: $KameranThompson Stress or worry cloud our daily lives, preventing us from enjoying the quality of relationships we want. This anxiety can lead to missed moments, becoming overly reactive, and a sense of isolation from the ones we care about most. But the solution is not to ignore or suppress these feelings. And simply “trying harder” using willpower never works. If you want a more present, joyful, and connected 2024, real solutions exist to leave anxiety behind.

In this episode, I interview Trevor Justice is a relationship coach specializing in anxious attachment relationship skills, as well as the author of Attract Love and Respect: 5 Ways to Be Valued in Your Relationships. He works to give people-pleasers and folks with anxious attachment styles effective language, skills, and confidence to express their needs and set boundaries, which demonstrates higher value and leads others to appreciate them more. Trevor’s mission is to help anxiously attached people feel more secure, become priorities to their partners, and receive as much as they give.

Trevor coaches me a little bit through anxious attachment triggers and scenarios. We share a few personal stories of our own anxious attachment experiences and I ask Trevor to give tips and talk deeply about how to overcome an anxious attachment and become secure. Trevor discusses self-respect, how to overcome people pleasing and develop a secure attachment within your relationship.

www.attractlove.com for your free gift from Trevor and his team!

To get in touch with Kameran:

IG: @divorce.proof.marriage

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Website: www.recognizingpotential.com

AD CODES:

$10 off your first order of Amare products: amare.com/en-us/g10/145624

TRIGGER WARNING- Divorce, DV, Abuse, Trauma

Abuse isn't talked about enough. In this solo episode, I talk about statistics surrounding abuse, types of abuse and my own story as a survivor of several kinds of abuse. I talk about divorce and how it traumatizes someone. I talk about betrayal trauma, reactive abuse and something almost no one talks about- post-separation abuse, which is how the abuse doesn't stop after you get a divorce and in fact, it may even get worse. Does that mean you should stay to avoid it? No way. But it is something that needs to be brought to people's attention. I talk about how easy it is for those who have never experienced abuse to stand on the other side of the street and judge someone for staying in an abusive relationship, how hard it is to leave and stay gone, and the mental overload of trying to heal after you've left. If you've never been in an abusive relationship, listen to this episode because I guarantee you know someone going through it right now and this may help you be a better supporter for them. If you're going through this or have gone through it, I'm so sorry you're experiencing this and this episode may help. I don't talk about narcissistic abuse in this episode because that is going to be an episode all on it's own and because narcissistic abuse typically encompasses several of the types of abuse I discuss in this episode. I do mention it but don't go into detail.

IG: @divorce.proof.marriage

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

To donate to the podcast financially, you may send funds via venmo or cashapp.

Venmo: @Kameran-Thompson

Cashapp: $KameranThompson

For 50% of your first Date Box with Happily

Code: DIVORCEPROOFMARRIAGE

Code for Amare $10 off your first order

TRIGGER WARNING abuse, trauma

Girisha Andrea and I sit down together in this episode to talk about so many topics that we're both seeing as relationship coaches. We dive deep into abusive relationships, what's causing them and how to overcome the abuse to create a new and healthy relationship. NOTE- Girisha and I both encourage you to leave and seek help and safety immediately if your safety is compromised.

We talk about sexual pleasure and how to increase that in your marriage, uneven libido levels between partners and what to do about it, what is happening and how to overcome it when one of you isn't attracted to your partner anymore. We discuss masculine and feminine energies and why they're vital to making a healthy relationship work. We discuss so many different topics in this episode, you're sure to gain a lot of quality insight into your own relationship with this episode.

Note: Guest views do not necessarily represent the views of Kameran or the views that Recognizing Potential Coaching or The Divorce Proof Marriage Podcast represent.

Girisha AndreaSteigler

Economist, EUrelated and international procurement expert

Orgasm coach, traumahealing and grief recovery specialist

Founder of theEmpress-O method and the Conscious Woman Academy

Andrea helpswomen help women become confident in their orgasms so they can heal their pasttrauma and abusive relationships. In the last over 20 years she haslearnt hundreds of methods all around the world from the best teachers andmasters.

In her unique and holisticEmpress-O method, she combines ancient traditions and methods learned allover the world with modern trauma healing and grief recovery.

By applying this unique holisticmethod clients reach true transformation with rewriting their old stories andunleashing the full potential of the WOMAN in them, which has already broughtlifelong change to nearly 5,000 women worldwide.

Her special areas: any types of traumas, abuses, co-dependency, grief; female organ issueswith breast, yoni or full body images issues related to selflove,self-acceptance, self-worth. She has tremendous amount of successfultransformation with myoma, cyst, womb polyp, vaginal infections, endometriosis,vaginism, vulvodynia, infertility, and intimacy-sexuality-orgasm relatedchallenges.

Featured on Yahoo Top 10 as #4 Love coach across the world after Star CoachMatthew Hussey in 2021. She has been invited as special expert in Hungarian andinternational summits and podcasts. She has her own video shows “Women to Womenwith no taboos” and “Men to Women with no taboos” in Hungarian.

Web: http://empressco.online/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/girishaandrea/

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/269925098066410

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/girishaandrea

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/girisha-andrea-steigler-6762088/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7pQjeL48v_38qxS3GetIAg?

Feel Safe again free video series: https://healingjadepleasure.com/feel-safe-again

Book a free complementary laser-coaching sessionwith Girisha Andrea: https://calendly.com/andrea-steigler/30_minute_complementary_consultation

To contact Kameran for coaching:

IG @divorce.proof.marriage

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

website: www.recognizingpotential.com

To donate financially to the podcast:

Venmo @Kameran-Thompson

Cashapp: $Kameran-Thompson

Paypal: kameran.thompson@gmail.com

In today's episode, Ann Kaplan, parenting coach, and I sit down to share real stories of our own parenting experiences. I polled my IG followers as well as a few of the great dads that I know and love and had them tell me what they struggle with the most as a dad. Those questions/situations were then discussed (anonymously of course), on this episode. We also dive into parenting with connection while also keeping discipline as a pillar of parenting well. If you are a parent, and especially a dad, I think you'll get a lot of great nuggets, community and confidence out of this episode. To contact Ann: Dad course: bit.ly/dadcoachingIG: @annkaplanparentcoachingFB: Ann Kaplanwebsite: www.annkaplanparentcoach.comTo contact Kameran:IG: @divorce.proof.marriageFB coaching group website: www.recognizingpotential.comWant to give financially to The Divorce Proof Marriage Podcast? Cashapp: https://www.cash.app/$KameranThompsonVenmo: @Kameran-Thompson

In this episode, Kayla and I sit down to talk about so many topics plaguing moms today. We discuss mom guilt, not taking care of ourselves before we're pouring into everyone else and how to shift that dynamic. We discuss anxiety- why it happens to the best of us, what causes it and how to overcome it. Kayla and I get off on a small tangent that turns into a connection opportunity for listeners and their spouses. We discuss whether you can see movies when people talk or whether you just hear words and the screen is blank. This is wild!

Kayla talks about her own personal experiences as a mom and gives great tips on how you can talk about things with your partner when life gets hard.

If you are a parent, this episode is surely to help you understand things that moms go through or will help you as a mom to overcome some of the struggles you're going through in life.

Take a listen and if you're a regular listener to the podcast, please leave a review!

To contact Kayla-

Podcast: The Modern Moms Roadmap to Balance

IG: kaylanettleton_lcsw

Website: Kayla Nettleton, LCSW | Online Therapy in Texas

To contact Kameran or donate to the podcast:

Venmo: @Kameran-thompson

Cashapp: $KameranThompson

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

IG: @divorce.proof.marriage

If you've ever thought about quitting your W2 job and pursuing something greater, working with your spouse, or wondered if you have the mindset needed for an exceptional marriage, this episode is for you!

If you've got small kids and you're working from home, trying to juggle all the roles of life, parenthood, entrepreneurship, and taking care of yourself, this episode is for you!

This episode is packed with nuggets to help your marriage, both a husband and a wife's perspective on many issues we all face, and my personal favorite part of this episode- an inside look and listen on how a truly healthy, happy marriage mindset is. I was absolutely blown away with the way Brady and Leslie talk to and about each other! The mindset they have toward working together, their WHY for working together, their mindset for their marriage, it's all so inspiring and beautiful. If we normalize anything, let it be this!

Leslie and Brady Huffer started a digital marketing side hustle soon after they got married as a creative outlet and additional income stream while she was a special education teacher and he was in corporate sales. Their marketing agency, Hey Huffers, grew faster than they had anticipated and they decided to take the leap to quit their 9 to 5 jobs to run it full-time together. A week later they found out they were pregnant and expecting a baby girl! Now they get to run their business from home and be present with their daughter each day. In the transition of leaving their full-time jobs to be home managing a business together, they have learned the importance of communication and teamwork as they tackle running a business and raising a baby hand-in-hand and side by side. In addition to Hey Huffers, Leslie has started a community to help other moms launch their own profitable at-home business as well as sharing simple everyday activities to keep kids engaged, learning, and growing each day called The Joyful Work at Home Mama. They love empowering other families to live life on their own terms! You can find her on Instagram @thejoyful_WAHM and their digital marketing business at www.heyhuffers.comTo contact Kameran or donate to the podcast:

Venmo: @Kameran-Thompson

Cashapp: $KameranThompson

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

IG: @divorce.proof.marriage

Website: www.recognizingpotential.com

Jessica Watterud is a licensed clinical counselor, a blood specialist and certified in EMDR. She's passionate about sleep as it is the gateway to being more productive, processing your trauma, making sound decisions and ultimately living your best life.

Jessica and I dove deep into several rabbit holes in this episode. With two healers in the marriage and family realm, it was bound to happen. We talked about trauma, childhoods, improving sleep without the use of sleep aides, building habits that lead to better, deeper sleep, what happens in the brain when people are considering divorce and why 35% of people who file for divorce later regret it. There are some stories shared as if you're a third friend joining us for coffee and learning along with us.

To join Jessica's 5 or 30 day sleep challenge, please check out her website: Home - Path Toward Healing

You can also find her on Facebook at: Path Toward Healing | Facebook

Thank you to our donors! You are so loved and appreciated!

If you find this podcast valuable and would like to donate as well, you can do so via:

Venmo: @Kameran-Thompson

CashApp:$KameranThompson

If you'd like more information on coaching:

IG: @divorce.proof.marriage

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

website: Home | Kameran | Certified Relationship Coach | Houston Area | Divorce Proofing & Saving Relationships (recognizingpotential.com)

Today I sat down with Zach Watson who calls himself the Recovering Man Child to talk about how he coaches men to lessen the mental load for their partners, lessen the resentment for themselves and their partners, create healthier communication habits, and increase emotional intelligence.

In this candid conversation, Zach and I talk about the 81% divorce rate if a male has low emotional intelligence in a marriage, how men respond to coaching better than counseling or therapy and how men feel resentment for not feeling like they have permission to say no in their marriages when asked to do something.

I give Zach some hard questions about his own marriage, examples of my own and we talk about ways we would coach clients with the same issues.

How do you get your partner to recognize the mental load you have? How do you get them to step up when it feels like they're dragging you and the marriage down? How do you get your man child to recover? Zach addresses all of this and more in this episode!

Men, are you ready to start recovering from being a man child yourself? Ladies, ready for your husband to start lessening your mental load? Book a call with Zach today!

You can also get a free exercise to help you start dividing household chores and invisible labor right here!

Connect with Zach via socials:

IG: @realzachthinkshare

FB: @ZachThinkShare

YouTube: @ZachThinkShare

To connect with Kameran:

website: www.recognizingpotential.com

email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

IG: @divorce.proof.marriage

FB: @RecognizingPotential (Group)

Venmo: @Kameran-Thompson

CashApp: $KameranThompson

Thank you to all of the supporters who donate to the podcast!! You are loved and appreciated!

Kate Evans has spent twenty years empowering women to see their true self that is hiding under their fears, shame, perfectionism, and unrealistic expectations.

Her aim is to help you see yourself clearly for the first time. All of the answers you're looking for are inside of you already. But she knows how hard it is to find them on your own with all of that other noise getting in the way.

Her job is to help you quiet down all of those crappy thoughts so you can see what she already knows about you.

She's here for you as a guide, confidant, and accountability partner. She wants to honor the unique woman you are, instead of asking you to mold yourself into someone else's idea of what you or your home should look like.

In 2018, she had a life-changing experience when she dove in and decluttered her own home. The experience showed Kate the connection between self-care and a healthy home.

That was when she knew she had to help other women feel the pride and relief she felt.

She found power and strength in herself when she took control of her home. She got over her "own shit" and stopped believing she was "just a slob", which was the thought that had held her back her entire life.

Kate's goal is for you to find your version of that story. To stop hiding behind limiting beliefs and grab onto the life and home you deserve!

As a trained psychologist and life coach, Kate has a unique perspective on decluttering your home that is about you and your journey, not just the stuff in your home.

With her empathic and solution-focused approach to decluttering, and your commitment to yourself, you're finally going create sustainable change.

In this episode, we break down the limiting beliefs that may be lies that are holding you back from becoming your best self with an organized mind, home and life. Kate and I talk about how decluttering your home can and will lead to a more fulfilling marriage and parent/child relationship if you have kids. We talk about the grief that comes with cleaning out a deceased loved one's home and many more topics around decluttering.

Kate tells you how to get started, how to go about decluttering, secrets to being successful once you start decluttering your home and if you get stuck, she's right there to coach you by contacting her to get started!

www.soulfulspacecoaching.com/newsletter

www.soulfulspacecoaching.com

IG: @soulfulspace.coaching

For marriage coaching with Kam:

www.recognizingpotential.com

coaching@recognizingpotential.com

IG: @divorce.proof.marriage

If you are a supporter of this show, Kameran and her production team appreciate you immensely!

If you'd like to become a supporter of the show- Venmo- @Kameran-Thompson

Cashapp- $KameranThompson

Featured Ad info:

Happily: www.happily.co

Code: DIVORCEPROOFMARRIAGE

Amare supplements for gut, brain, heart health- https://amare.com/en-us/g10/145624

Does your marriage feel stale, disconnected, like there isn't any depth to it anymore? Most likely, it's because you're only having 2 of these 6 types of conversations every week. In this short episode, you will learn all about

the types of conversations
the proper 5 finger apology
resources to spice up your marriage and your time in the bedroom
the most important part of conflict

For more info on the monthly membership email coaching@recognizingpotential.com

For $10 off your first order of Amare supplements- https://amare.com/en-us/g10/145624

www.thehappily.co

Code for 50% off your first date box: DIVORCEPROOFMARRIAGE

For 1:1 coaching: email coaching@recognizingpotential.com

For sponsorship opportunities: email coaching@recognizingpotential.comDonations to the podcast can be made via

venmo @Kameran-Thompson

cashapp $KameranThompson

Blending a family can be one of the hardest things you can do. Nobody actually knows what they're signing up for, how to get the kids to listen and respect the step-parent and it can create a lot of conflict between partners. So what's the secret? Brittney P, a certified step-parent coach and teacher breaks it down and talks about resentment, boundaries, how to navigate the waters of blending smoothly, how to get rid of the shame that comes with all the feelings of being a step-parent and how to find joy in the process. If that sounds like something you need help with, give this episode a listen! Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!

To connect with Brittney:

www.blendingbravely.com

IG: itsmebrittneyp

To connect with Kameran:

www.recognizingpotential.com

IG: divorce.proof.marriage

FB: www.facebook.com/groups/recognizingpotential

If you are a donor for the podcast:

Venmo: @Kameran-Thompson

Cashapp: $KameranThompson

TRIGGER WARNING: ADDICTION & ABUSE

Today's episode was a solo episode answering questions that people sent in asking for coaching around different topics, questions, or scenarios they need help with.

1:30- A question regarding alcohol abuse and how it impacts every part of their marriage. I talk about how addiction of any kind breaks down trust. In my coaching, I use Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs and the Gottman method The Sound House example. In order to have a healthy marriage, trust must be established. If it's not, safety is not created and this blocks emotional connection, emotional intimacy, physical intimacy, the ability to be vulnerable, etc. Thus, addiction does, in fact, impact almost every part of the marriage.

20:23- The topic of discussion was sent in by someone wanting to know about emotional abuse. I talk about my own experience with being emotionally, physically, mentally and financially abused. I talk about how it looks in a relationship, examples, how it feels, how easy it is to judge someone who is being abused if you've never been abused yourself. I talk about what the abuse does to the victim and what to do about it.

40:31- The topic of codependency is brought up and discussed regarding how it is created, what it looks like and how to become more interdependent and less co-dependent.

Email any questions or additional Mailbag Monday topics or questions to coaching@recognizingpotential.com

If you are looking to sponsor the podcast, please email coaching@recognizingpotential.com

If you are looking to donate to the podcast, please venmo @Kameran-Thompson or cashapp $KameranThompson

Follow me on IG @divorce.proof.marriage

TRIGGER WARNINGS: SUICIDE, ALCOHOLISM Todd & Kelcey Postlewait are former coaching clients of mine that came to me in the fall of 2022 needing radical transformation. They were hours away from filing for divorce and knew that they couldn't continue with the emotional rollercoaster they'd been on for years. They didn't want to continue the legacy they had started for their son. They wanted a healthy marriage but didn't have the next steps to make it happen. They wanted each other, wanted their marriage but not that version of their marriage. They wanted peace, harmony, and most of all, they wanted to not only like each other but to truly be in love with each other again. I worked with Todd and Kelcey consistently, every week for 6 months, only taking off for holidays. They showed up. They did the work in between sessions. They did the growth work, even if they didn't like it. They were consistent about prioritizing their marriage. As a result, they changed their habits, broke generational curses, set boundaries, and changed their entire lifestyle. I met them where they were and in the very first session, we talked about where they wanted to go. I gave them the tools and taught them how to get there. They've been on their own for about 6 months now and as you'll hear in the episode, they are truly thriving. Todd and Kelcey are not celebrities. They are a married couple, living in Kentucky, raising kids and working jobs just like you and me. They have an exceptional marriage because they've built it. They have the life they want because they consistently work toward creating that life. This is their story. If you would like Todd and Kelcey to speak for your foundation or organization, please reach out to Todd at todd.postlewait@gmail.comIf you're interested in coaching for your own marriage or booking Kameran for a marriage conference, please reach out to coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Venmo @Kameran-Thompson

Cash App: $KameranThompson

If you're interested in purchasing a sponsorship ad, please email coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Maggie Chapman is an academic advisor at CU Boulder, a pilot wife and a mom of two. As a passion project, she became a sleep specialist with Rocky Mountain Sleeping Baby and found her life's calling. Not only did Maggie help our family personally when Zayn was 16 months old and had never slept well, she's helped hundreds of other families teach their children to sleep and sleep well whether they were infants or well into their elementary school years.

Sleep is an essential part of helping a person thrive whether they are a child or an adult. It is a basic physiological need. In this episode, Maggie talks a lot about how to get more sleep as the parent during the season of having a little one, getting your child to get more sleep, postpartum depression and how to cope, how a partner can help with a newborn's sleep patterns, and how to thrive when you're barely able to survive during this time. Maggie and I are both married so we talk a lot about marriages when you have little ones and how to keep that spark alive, the seven year itch, and how to work as a team when you have kids.

Maggie is an absolute angel and so great to work with! You can find her on Instagram @maggiemchapman or Kandra and the whole team on Instagram @rockymountainsleepingbaby

Tell them Kameran sent you. They won't be surprised. I've sent so many clients to them already and all of them have been helped and have better sleeping households!

If you're interested in getting 50% off your first date box with Happily, go to www.thehappily.co, customize your date box and enter the code DIVORCEPROOFMARRIAGE for 50% of your first month's box!

If you're ready to connect your marriage and build a legacy worth leaving to your kids- connect with me on Instagram @Divorce.proof.marriage or email me at coaching@recognizingpotential.com to get more information on coaching.

In this episode, we are talking about pride. Pride is not just the arrogant "look at me, see me, respect me, love me" boastful kind. It also includes fear. I give you examples of what pride looks like in your marriage, how it shows up, what it does and how it deteriorates your marriage, and how to eliminate the problem. I get very real and raw about my own marriage giving you examples of what my husband did and how he showed up, what I did, how I messed our marriage up and, in the episode, I show you what it looks like to take accountability when you blow it. I give you the three A's to remember in order to let go of your own pride.

If this episode resonates with you, please leave a review and share to your own social platforms. Don't forget to tag me @divorce.proof.marriage and if you have any questions or are interested in private marriage coaching for you and your partner, DM or email me the word LINK to coaching@recognizingpotential.com

FB coaching group: www.facebook.com/groups/recognizingpotential

IG: @divorce.proof.marriage

For THE DATE BOX- go to www.thehappily.co to customize your date box. Code for 50% off your first month: DIVORCEPROOFMARRIAGE

Kevin & Bree Bailey spent $100, 000 on a divorce only to reconcile in the final moments of said divorce. They tell their story, how they went from divorcing and a nasty deposition to helping couples restore their marriage! They talk about their walks with God, how God is first in their marriage and marriages are truly under attack right now. What happens when you separate marriages? What's causing such a decline in dating and remarriage after divorce? We talk in depth about the steps needed to restore your marriage, even if you're the only one working on it. The episode dives into what wives and husbands do and don't do that cause hurt and problems in marriages. We talk a lot about how Bree and Kevin have shaped their marriage into having a legacy worth leaving now so you can do the same.

This episode is heavily based on Biblical principles and it is the opinion of Kameran, Kevin and Bree. This episode is for this world but not of this world. #IYKYK

If you are interested in coaching with Kameran, email coaching@recognizingpotential.com.

For coaching with Kevin or Bree- email kevin@reverencerestored.com or bree@reverencerestored.com

Joy Harrington is a life coach, wife, mom and overall incredible human being! She has the best fashion sense too!

TRIGGER WARNINGS AHEAD (Infant loss, infidelity)

On today's episode, we start out talking about the infidelity her marriage endured. For 9 months she laid on the couch wallowing in misery, negativity and doubt. Then she got real with herself, got up and started working on herself. She and her husband, Peter, went to counseling, then marriage coaching, and started to grow and thrive together. She tells her story of getting pregnant with their third child, Sterling, and losing him one day after he was born. She gives so many great tips on how they stopped merely surviving and started thriving as a couple.

Next, Joy and I get into masculine and feminine energies- how to know which one you're in, how to slide back into the one you want to be in and what happens when you're not meshing well with your partner energetically. We talk about conflict cycles as it pertains to our energetic polarity and how to deal with marriage if your partner is gone a lot or is reintegrating back into home life after having been gone.

Lastly, we talk about homeschooling, traveling and how to stop settling for "good enough" and create a life you can truly be proud of, happy and fulfilled by and not in comparison to others.

If any of what Joy has to say today ignites your soul like it has mine, you can follow her on IG @joyharrington.ig

If you're interested in The Resentment Trap program she references in the podcast, the website is www.levelupbabe.com/thelevelupclub

If you're interested in marriage coaching and working through the struggles in your marriage, email me at coaching@recognizingpotential.com.

Follow me on IG @divorce.proof.marriage or on FB at www.facebook.com/groups/recognizingpotential

On today's episode, I sit down with Tanner and Mariah Littrell to talk about how they've built an incredible marriage, chased dreams, achieved goals and created a beautiful family. Through loss, a journey through beating cancer, two miracle pregnancies, moving to a new city, we talk about their whole story. This episode will have you laughing, crying and understanding exactly what it means to be a team, to win together, and to build a marriage that inspires everyone around you. Tanner and Mariah are the epitome of what a fantastic marriage looks like. I love their humble, salt of the earth demeanor and most of all, the gratitude, pride, consistency, and deep admiration they have for each other. They validate each other. They listen and they communicate so well. I hope you end this episode with a whole page of ideas on how to use what they have and what they've gone through to better your own marriage. If you want to follow them or support their restaurant, you can find them here:

IG: @thebluebirdbistro

FB: https://www.facebook.com/thebluebirdbistro

Email: thebluebirdbistro682@gmail.com

Website: http://www.thebluebirdbistro.com/

Kameran's info:

coaching@recognizingpotential.com

IG: @divorce.proof.marriage

FB: www.facebook.com/groups/recognizingpotential

This week I sit down with Andre Paradis, ex Chippendales dancer turned ballroom dancer turned science-based relationship coach. Andre talks in depth about the difference between boys, guys and men, what men want and how to balance your relationship by understanding your differences. We deep dive into how a relationship is a lot like ballroom dancing. Who leads? How does that happen? What does that look like? What happens when there's conflict and you're on a negative cycle? How do you get off the merry-go-round? Andre tells you what that looks like and how to navigate it. Men, if you feel like you need help understanding women, or how to be a better husband, a better partner, a better man, this is the podcast for you as well! We talk about attachment styles, negative cycles and how to create a great relationship by stepping into your partner's world.

You can find and follow Andre at any of the following links.

Andre's story

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=33PM5ehssWM

Website:

www.projectequinox.net

FB Page:

Project Equinox with Andre Paradis

https://www.facebook.com/Project-Equinox-272490668761/

FB Private Group for Ladies - Free

https://www.facebook.com/search/top?q=dating%20and%20relationship%20insights

YouTube:

Project Equinox with Andre Paradis

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCc-n26dzlCN0dcAXgubSjGQ

Instagram:

@projectequinox

You can find and follow Kameran here:

IG @divorce.proof.marriage

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

FB: www.facebook.com/groups/recognizingpotential

I recently polled my instagram followers on whether they repaired after an argument or just moved on with or without an apology from either side. 76% of the votes said they just moved on.

The reason this is concerning is that the repair is the most important part of the argument and it's missing in the majority of marriages.

So what is repairing and why is it important? Repairing is fostering the connection between you and your partner after the argument so there is less negativity, resentment and lingering feelings or unmet expectations. Every time you repair after conflict, you're laying another brick in the foundational elements that help you handle larger conflict down the road. You're bringing your marriage back together.

How do we repair? After the argument when you've both calmed down, met your basic needs (sleep, water, food), are no longer in a defensive state and can listen to each other's point of view so you can understand, not just respond, you're ready to repair.

Come together to have a conversation about what happened. Using an I statement "I felt (emotion word) when (circumstance) because (why did it trigger you). I need _________ to move forward.

Using I statements helps you focus on you. This is important because every time there is a conflict, both parties have a hand in it. We can't change our partner, so we have to change our own behavior. If done correctly, it takes away criticism, blame and shame of your partner.

After both sides have given their perspective, talk calmly about the disconnect that happened. Was it a miscommunication? Was there an assumption that was made (or many assumptions)? Apologize for your part in the disconnect and if possible, help your partner get the need met that they stated in their I statement. Forgive and move forward after both of you feel reconnected.

Some things to keep in mind while going through this: * The goal here is to approach this with a solution-oriented attitude. * Communication is 58% body language, 35% tone and 7% words. Make sure your body language and your tone are sending the same message your words are. * Give your partner the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes this is harder than others, especially if you're dealing with a reoccurring cycle (in which case, I would suggest getting help). Remember that this is your partner who loves you, not your enemy and you're in this to understand and do things differently, not to judge and condemn. * Take a break if needed but you must come back and try again later. This isn't going to be perfect every single time. My husband and I have started to repair many times only to find that we aren't as calm as we thought or one of us says something that triggers the other again and we have to come back later and repair both conflicts. * Disconnection is not caused by conflict. Conflict is caused by disconnection. The whole purpose of the repair is to bring that connection back together, not widen the gap. Keep things calm, low in tone, slow in process, and focus on building each other back up. There is no scorecard in connected marriages.

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

IG: @divorce.proof.marriage

Facebook: facebook.com/groups/recognizingpotential

Julie Menanno is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, as well as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor. Julie’s mission is to make the insights and practical skills she uses to treat couples in in her private practice more accessible to a wider population.

Julie runs Bozeman Therapy and Counseling where she and a staff of therapists treat couples and individuals.

Secure Love is Julie’s first book and is a guide to getting unstuck from a negative cycle and finding attachment security with your partner.

In this episode, Julie and I talk all about anxious, avoidant and disorganized attachment styles. Julie gives advice and tips on how to:

identify your attachment style
recognize what's happening in a negative cycle
overcome a negative cycle
know what to do in the middle of a conflict
create secure attachments in your romantic relationships
parent your children so you create secure attachments in them so they have more successful relationships later in life

This episode is a must listen to if you're in a relationship romantically, a parent, a grandparent or plan on being in any kind of relationship in the future.

Important links:

Julie's IG: instagram.com/thesecurerelationship

Julie's Patreon account: https://www.patreon.com/thesecurerelationship

Kameran's IG: instagram.com/divorce.proof.marriage

Kameran's Facebook group: facebook.com/groups/recognizingpotential

Link to monthly membership mentioned in ad: https://recognizingpotential.teachable.com/admin/courses/1720013/information

$10 off Amare mental wellness products: https://amare.com/g10/145624

Dr. Lindsey Elmore is an author, board certified pharmacotherapy specialist, pharmacist, yoga instructor, and podcast host of The Lindsey Elmore Show.

In this hour long episode, you'll absolutely want to have a pen and notebook at the ready as Dr. Elmore and I talk all about how to create a better marriage through self-awareness tools, using personality tests to understand yourself and your spouse in better ways. We talk about perspectives, share stories that will help you and discuss the 4B's for women and 4 L's for men. We talk about supplements to help couples have less cortisol, more serotonin, and better sex! The last 10 minutes of the podcast are where Dr. Elmore recommends packs and talks about individual supplements for certain things. If you listen to this episode and want to try the supplements she talks about, head over to this link to purchase for $10 off! https://amare.com/g10/145624

Lindsey and I talk a lot about what's happening with relationships as it pertains to mental health, sexual dysfunctions like dryness, erectile dysfunction, cardiovascular disease, insulin resistance, cortisol resistance, and so much more. We talk about how this is killing relationships alongside the lack of leadership, respect, love and communication techniques a good marriage takes to thrive. The book that Dr. Lindsey Elmore references is called Crucial Conversations by Joseph Grenny, Kerry Patterson, Ron McMillan, Al Switzer and Emily Gregory and can be purchased on Amazon or anywhere you get your favorite books. I highly recommend this book as well!

In this episode, I dig deep into some hard truths about saving your marriage. If you're looking for a place to start in changing the dynamic of your marriage, this is a great starting place. All of the advice that I give you are things I've done in my marriage or ideas I've given my clients and watched it work well in theirs.

Some of the topics I address in this podcast episode are decision and commitment, freedom, disrespect, anger, attitude, leadership in men, what it means to be the man of the house, respect, fight styles, taking responsibility for what you can control, and so much more!

At the time of this recording, I had one spot open immediately. That has filled and one spot starting in September has filled but I do still have one more spot for 1:1 couples coaching starting in September. You can email me with any questions- coaching@recognizingpotential.com

You can also follow or tag me @divorce.proof.marriage on IG or Tiktok

You can also join my free facebook coaching group at www.facebook.com/groups/recognizingpotential

Today's episode is all about the popular marriage advice we get from all those who have gone before us.

When I got married the first time, I remember sitting in a circle while we passed around index cards and ladies wrote their best advice on the cards. So many pieces of advice were fantastic. So many of them weren't. So we're going to dive into a few of those "common pieces of marriage advice".

1. "Never go to bed angry."

2. Marriage is 50/50

3. "Stay together for the children."

4. "Just pray about it."

5. "Passion fades over time."

6. Communicate

7. Offering hope as a strategy. “Don’t worry, it’ll get better.”

8. Just get divorced/you deserve better.

9. What they don’t know won’t hurt ‘em.

10. If you disagree and argue a lot, you’re probably just not compatible anymore.

Any of these sound familiar? If so, you've probably been given some bad advice. Find out how to flip that script or the mindset around that advice to make it applicable to your marriage. As always, if you have questions, want to work with me or collaborate, email me at coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Also make sure you're following me on instagram @divorce.proof.marriage and in my facebook group www.facebook.com/groups/recognizingpotential.com

Of course you've heard about love languages. Who hasn't? But in this episode, I'm breaking each of the love languages down one by one on how to speak them and what to avoid because it hurts the person with that love language more so than those without it. Did you also know that kids have certain love languages? They absolutely do and it's one of the reasons we may not have felt loved as a child because we didn't get our love languages spoken. Dr. Gary Chapman came out with the research and a few books on the Love Languages. If you need to find out your love language, head on over to his website where you and your partner can each take a quiz to find out which is your primary and your secondary love languages.

https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language

Then come right back here to hear all about yours and your partner's!

The love languages are all discussed in the episode in this order:

Acts of Service

Words of Affirmation

Physical Touch

Gifts

Quality Time

I would recommend taking notes on your love languages as well as your partner's for easy reference in the future. Need more info but pressed for time, head over to my IG and read all about the love languages @divorce.proof.marriage or you can find the info in my private facebook coaching group www.facebook.com/groups/recognizingpotential

Before I was a marriage coach, I was a teacher. This episode is for all the kids I've taught over the years but especially for the class of 2022 as I taught them in Kindergarten and then looped with them and taught them in 1st grade too. They graduated high school a couple weeks ago so here's a dozen pieces of advice for them. If you're 30 or 40 and listening, this advice applies to you too!

The friends you make in college will most likely be friends you'll have forever. Choose wisely as they will be who push you up and help you create success or drag you down.
Travel! Nothing opens your eyes and changes you for the better than seeing other cultures, geographic region and experiencing life outside your comfort zone.
Don't worry if you have to change your major. Figure out what you're passionate about and how to monetize that so you aren't changing it 11 times like me. Go into college and major in what fits the definition of success for YOU, not because you're living into other people's definitions of success.
If money, age and time weren't an issue, who would you be? What does your best self look like? Define success, independence, love, passion, career, and rich for yourself. What do those look like specifically?
Knowledge and Connections will monetize repeatedly. Money spends once.
When you get lost or feel like your life is spinning out of control, go back to the basics. Go back to your roots and your hometown. It will keep you grounded, humble and help center you.
Wait to get married! Your spouse will determine 90% of your happiness in your life. Write out what you want in a spouse, get help from people you love and look up to for this. Base your choices for dates on that list and date with intention!
Save money. If you don't do it when you're broke, you wont' do it when you have a salary.
Have confidence in who you are and who you're striving to be. You don't have to do anything that will challenge your values or don't want to do (even if your friends are doing it).
Boundaries. No is a full sentence and doesn't need an explaination. Respect it if you hear it. Use it if you need to.
Trust your intuition. If your gut says something isn't right, it probably isn't.
My personal message for you GEHS class of 2022 and anyone I've taught that will always be "my kids".

If you found the content in this podcast helpful or useful, please screenshot this episode and share it on your social media. Tag me on IG @divorce.proof.marriage

Email me at coaching@recognizingpotential for more information on coaching.

Episode 38 focuses heavily on Dr. John Gottman's research in answering the bids for connection with your partner. Your partner can bid for connection with you over 100 times in a single meal! Are you answering those calls, turning away or rejecting them altogether? In this short but powerful episode, I'm talking to you and giving examples of how you can be on the lookout for your partner's request for connection each day, how you can make those connections and how you can grow together in your marriage.

I also talk to you about one possible solution to growing the connection, strengthening your marriage and improving your conversation- my monthly membership, Connected. For only $27 a month, you get 40 connecting questions/conversation starters you can use to have conversations with your partner that deepen connection and give you something to talk about other than "How was your day?", the weather, the kids or other "business like" topics of marriage and every day life. I give you two coaching calls that offer tips, tricks and ways for you to enhance your relationship and you get FREE access to any workshops I'm offering that month! For April, I'll be doing a workshop on communication styles. On the first of every month, the questions will change to 40 new conversation starters. The coaching videos from the previous month will come down and you'll have 2 new videos posted so as your membership renews, so will your marriage! Sign up for Connected here: recognizingpotential.teachable.com/p/connected

It would absolutely make my day if you would rate and review this podcast! Also, if you have any specific topics you'd like me to cover, please don't hesitate to email me at coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Today's guest is a wealth of knowledge and such an incredible gift to this world! Holly Smith is a licensed marriage and family therapist in the Kansas City Metro area. On this episode, we take a deep dive into attachments- anxious, avoidant, anxious/avoidant and secure. We discuss the enneagram and how that plays into attachment theories, how your upbringing and parenting styles shaped you and are shaping your children's attachment styles as well! If you are wanting to better your marriage, there are so many fantastic tips and nuggets of information in this one podcast episode! If you are struggling in your marriage, please reach out! Therapy, counseling and coaching doesn't have to be a last resort. It is absolutely effective for maintenance on your relationships, to better one part of your marriage or parenting relationships, or even as an individual, to better yourself and your situation. Here are some of the references we made on today's episode:

The Zimzum of Love: A New Way of Understanding Marriage by Rob & Kristen Bell, available on Amazon

Holly's information:

Website: www.pca4u.com

Email: Holly@pca4u.com

LinkedIn: Holly Smith, LCMFT

Kameran's information:

IG: @divorce.proof.marriage

Facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/recognizingpotential

Email: coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Website: www.recognizingpotential.com

This week’s podcast episode features Alicia Krasko, a pilot wife, mom, stepmom, flight attendant and stepmom coach! This episode is truly conversational and you hear all the nitty gritty of divorce, dating after divorce, being a stepmom and so much more. Part of the conversation we do talk about me dating after divorce and that was a continuation of the conversation we had before the show. So no, you didn’t miss anything earlier in the podcast- it was just from earlier in the day.

We talk about parenting, setting expectations, how to parent with boundaries and respect. We discuss behavioral problems and how to address them in a way that reduces conflict.

Alicia and I dive into so many situations step parents may experience and talk about things we learned, things we wish we would’ve done differently and ways that our parenting styles helped us and our children thrive in those moments.

If you are a step-parent, you will definitely get a great deal of information out of hearing Alicia. If you’re a parent, divorced or not, you may also get some golden nuggets out of this episode!

Also, this was another interview I did the same week as last week’s. I promise I won’t use my airpods again to interview anyone. Thanks for your patience on this learning experience.

Another thing I’m learning and trying to do better with is being more inclusive. I understand that not all parents are “bio-parents”. Parenting looks like so many different scenarios! My apologies for saying “bio-parent”. I am learning and should in the future simply say “THE parent”. I will try to do better with that as well!

Here are the links to contact Alicia:

www.aliciakrasko.com

www.Thestepmomside.com

Email: alicia@aliciakrasko.com

First of all, I apologize for the audio on this one. I was truly heartbroken when I heard the playback. I used airpods to record because for whatever reason, my microphone wasn't working that day. This won't be a mistake I make again.

This episode features Dr. Joli Hamilton. She is a research psychologist, AASECT (pronounced ay-sect) certified sexuality educator, TedX speaker, and professor of human sexuality. She's the author of the bestselling book Project Relationship: The Entrepreneur's Action Plan for Passionate, Sustainable Love. Joli holds a doctorate in depth psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute where she studied the impact of jealousy on relationships. Joli has spent the past two decades studying and reimagining what love can be if we open our imaginations to possibility. She helps people create partnerships that are custom-built for their authentic selves, no more shrinking, pretending, or hiding required.

We dig into so many topics of relationships, specifically- jealousy. What is it? Where does it come from? How does it show up in the relationship and how do you get rid of it?

Dr. Hamilton and I dive into communication styles and what to do if yours are different than your partner's, how to create a relationship that is more than average, it's elite level! She talks all about her book Project Relationship as well as her own podcast. We have a conversation around so many aspects of relationships and marriage! This episode is sure to improve your relationships with yourself and your spouse.

We do talk about sex. Non-Monogamous relationships are mentioned and a few other topics that little ears aren't developmentally ready to hear.

You can grab her free relationship guides here: https://www.jolihamilton.com/bundle1

You can also find her at:https://www.jolihamilton.com/

IG: @drjoli_hamilton

I'm planning an aviation summit mainly for pilot wives but really will help anyone in the aviation industry. We have over 10 speakers speaking over a two day period, giveaways and so many resources. If you're in the aviation industry and want to join that- go to www.facebook.com/groups/aviationsummit22

One of the intake questions for that group asks what you're struggling with. Almost half of the group said communication in one form or another. That made me realize that maybe everyone can benefit from some communication tips that aren't talked about often or thought of truly as communication. That's where this episode stemmed from. The ridiculous chant we heard as a kid that sticks and stones may break our bones but words will never hurt me, so untrue! Couldn't possibly be further from the truth, in fact. Words have the power to build your partner up or tear them down, to provide solace and comfort or harm and hurt. When you're talking about the person who is supposed to be your number 1 only behind God, wouldn't you want to make sure those words are only being used in the utmost of ways? Of course you do! Here's how. I give you 7 communication tips in this episode, some of which you probably haven't thought about in a long time, if ever! Take a listen and be sure to apply what you learned to your marriage. Each one of these can be implemented as soon as you're finished listening to this episode!

If you love this episode, please review and share! It absolutely makes my day when listeners do that as it helps get the content into other people's hands so they can better their marriages as well! Also, if you'd like to tag me when you share, you can find my marriage coaching group at www.facebook.com/groups/recognizingpotential and on IG you can find me at www.instagram.com/divorce.proof.marriage

Happy New Year!!

I'm not gonna lie, this might be my best episode in a long time! It is NOT, however, in the best interest to listen with little ears as we do talk about sex on a deeper emotional level.

In this episode I talk all about how to know if your marriage is lacking the emotional intimacy you need to really be meeting your fullest potential as a couple. I explain in detail the differences between men and women in terms of communication styles, what is needed to build emotional connection, how to get back to that place you were when you were dating, and how to build better emotional connection so your life in the bedroom is FIRE! This episode also has some parenting hacks thrown in as emotions and emotional communication in parenting is concerned. Emotional regulation is not taught in public schools, as former educator, I know. Teachers try but it's really an icing on the cake thing, not something that's given a lot of time or effort, sadly. So it's up to parents to teach our kids and how can we do that if we don't have those skills in the first place? Additionally, we teach our children and our spouses how to communicate with us and I give examples of that in this episode!

Listen to this episode and if you love it or it helped you, please consider sharing it on your social media feeds. Don't forget to review it as well. It would absolutely make my day!

As always, if you had a revelation during this episode that you need help with anything I've talked about, please reach out to me at coaching@recognizingpotential.com for any course openings or 1:1 coaching options.

Talk to you next week! :)

WOW! The last episode before 2022! Can you believe it? In the beginning of this episode, I talk about what I have open for coaching possibilities and you can find or sign up for those at www.recognizingpotential.com/courses The rest of the episode is on how to set goals that you'll actually accomplish for the New Year! I talk about all the things to think about for reflective purposes and learning, how to see patterns in your life and what to do to fix those patterns. I talk all about what I'm doing and give you real examples of goals and how to set those. There is a lot of little nuggets in getting to know me in this episode as well so I hope you enjoy that too.

If you have any topics you want to hear in the new year, please email those to me at coaching@recognizingpotential.com. Also, if you haven't already, please go leave a review for the show! It helps get the show into more people's ears and also helps influencers that I'm wanting to interview say YES to being interviewed for the show! Did you know that's how they choose what they will and won't be interviewed for?

This week's episode is with Dr. Tiffany Nguyen- a spiritual life coach and full-time pharmacist. Her story involves moving here from a different country and needing to find happiness. She found that and so much more! Dr. Nguyen helps people rediscover themselves after a break up or before a new relationship so they can get rid of old patterns and habits to build the best version of themselves. This allows that person to enter a relationship as a healthy, whole individual to create a healthy, whole, happy relationship/marriage.

On this episode, we talk a lot about self-awareness, what happiness is and how to achieve it, how relationships are formed from a healthy place, how to break unhealthy patterns in relationships and how obtaining inner peace is the key to having outer peace and fulfillment.

Note: the viewpoints of Dr. Nguyen do not reflect the viewpoints of Recognizing Potential Coaching or Kameran Thompson Al-Areqi. They are solely based on Dr. Nguyen's viewpoints, experiences and beliefs.

Dr. Nguyen's website is https://spunkyspiritualist.com/

If you have any other relationship/marriage topics you'd like to hear on the podcast, please email me at coaching@recognizingpotential.com

This is the first ever episode where I have jumped into the topic of sex on this podcast. I asked you to give me your questions regarding sex and boy did you deliver! Sex coach Shannon Burton is an erotic poet and certified sex coach that answers all of your questions and dives into the importance of communication, making sure she comes before he does, what to do if you aren't "as good" in bed as your partner, E.D., how to make scheduled sex fun and so much more! This conversation lead into so many different topics! If you are struggling in the bedroom, a few pieces of advice that Coach Shannon offers is:

Don't wait to ask for help! Reach out! You can find her on Twitter @sexcoachshannon, on FB: Sex Coach Shannon, LinkedIn: Shannon Burton, SXI and on her website www.sexcoachshannon.com.
Communicate! If you struggle to communicate about sex because it's uncomfortable or you aren't sure where to start in getting a better sex life, again- reach out! Myself or Coach Shannon would be happy to dive into that with you to help you have a more fulfilling sex life.
Get to know yourself. Get to know your partner. It's the only way you're going to gain the fulfillment you are needing in the bedroom.

If you have any other questions that you'd like to ask, Coach Shannon has a blog where she answers your questions anonymously or directly.

There is a large stigma around getting help with your relationship and especially with your sex life but it doesn't have to be that way. Normalize getting help and accepting that everyone has things they need to be successful- maybe a coach is what you need, and that's ok!

Better Me, Better Us is open! This is THE course to teach you how to save your marriage by yourself! If you're ready to start making BIG changes in your marriage and your home without your partner being on board, jump in! We start Jan 4, 2022! Spots are limited and going fast! www.recognizingpotential.com/product/better-me-better-us

This week's episode is all about what the happiest marriages have- FILTERS! Everyone needs a filter on their mouth, a filter on their eyes and one for their heart to create a safe, peaceful marriage. So often it comes down to rewording your truth so that it's gently received instead of a blow to the gut, seeing your partner for who they are instead of who we want them to be, seeing marriage for what it is instead of the fairytale that Disney movies put into our heads from birth and filtering your heart so you have the ability to regulate your emotions. In this episode, I'm laying it all out there with specific examples from my own marriage how we do (and don't) apply these filters and what the results are from that. I give you tips and tricks on how to word things so they come off less abrasive to your spouse. These are tips you can start applying as soon as you hit end on this episode. If you need help with these, please email me at coaching@recognizingpotential.com. Additionally, if this helps you at all, don't forget to like, subscribe, leave a review and share this episode with others so they can have a beautiful marriage too!

Did you know we have over 400 thoughts a minute? Our self-talk creates our words, our decisions, and what we ultimately live into. If we are primarily engaged in negative self-talk, the environment around us is also going to be primarily negative. Change that script to being primarily positive and now we have a whole new world to live in that gives us and those around us more energy, more love, light and happiness. Here's my story of self-talk and how I changed mine to begin to better my marriage. I get very vulnerable with you about my marriage and what it was like 3 years ago before I started coaching so you can understand where I was, how bad it was and what I did to change my marriage...by myself. Yes, it's possible! I teach an entire 8 week full course on bettering your marriage by yourself! If you'd like to jump in on that, the link is- www.recognizingpotential.com/courses/better-me-better-us

If you're like me and you have a spouse who isn't on board with coaching, therapy or counseling, it's ok. There's PLENTY you can do to save your marriage by yourself. Changing your self-talk is only the start, the tip of the iceberg, if you will.

Take the challenge and start being mindful of your self-talk. Email me at coaching@recognizingpotential.com to let me know how it's going for you! I'd love to hear from you and celebrate your success!

Week 3 of our mini-series on marriages that aren't your typical togetherness every night of the week and how we make it work. This week is all about aviation life from a Pilot Wife's perspective. I talk about how my husband, Moe, and I make our relationship work when he's gone anywhere between 15-23 days a month. There is one disclaimer I need to mention. I talk in there about how pilot's don't make any money. I need to add to that. In the beginning when they're a first officer, flying for regionals like my husband does, they make very little. However, as they upgrade to captain and then onto the majors (United, Delta, American, etc) they do make good money and even better as they become a captain with seniority with those major companies. It's a VERY. LONG. ROAD. though. I do give a lot of good connection tips for long distance relationships in this episode and I am, true to who I am, quite honest about this life and how I feel about it. ;) It's not all sunshine and roses. These are things that a lot of people don't understand when they fly. They get to go see their families and that's fantastic but on the other side of that flight is a pilot who hasn't been home in several days and a family who is sacrificing a lot of family time so others can be with theirs. Next time you fly, thank your flight crew. Be kind to them. Show empathy. (Starbucks gift cards are ALWAYS appreciated as well.) PW life isn't all bad. Hard but also rewarding. I hope you find tools you can use in your own marriage.

Man y'all! I'm so excited about this week's guest! Maria Shelton brings the HEAT with so many nuggets around marriage, supporting your spouse through grief and loss, supporting your spouse through entrepreneurship, career change and starting that journey. We talk candidly about parenting teens, building a relationship with God and life in general! Her attitude, grace and energy are so contagious and she is just as gorgeous on the inside as she is on the outside! I promise you there is something for every single person in this episode! Maria also just launched a course on making money off the lifestyle you're already living (yes! Even if YOU think it's boring, you can still make money off of it!) It is absolute FIRE! I signed up for it myself and am not just saying that 'cause she's my guest. It really is incredible! That can be found at https://www.mariashelton.com/courses

If you're a parent and needing help with your kiddo's lunches or wanting information on making money off your lifestyle, fashion advice or you just want a beautiful soul that you can follow, her IG handle is @maria.shelton

The audio is a little scratchy at times #countrylivin but it's still fantastic info! Please like, subscribe, share and leave a review!

This month we’re starting a mini series on spouses that hold it all together. It’s a different perspective on marriages as not every marriage has a spouse that comes home every night, helps with all the chores or makes it to the kid's events, holidays, anniversaries or birthday parties. There are many situations where holidays, anniversaries, and birthdays are spent apart. There is one spouse that works in a job that requires them to be gone constantly, is away from the home and missing all the day to day, missing the fun, missing the love and sacrificing for the family. Meanwhile, the other spouse is sacrificing by taking on all the roles, most of the day to day, never having help or a break, missing their other half and missing the ability to tag a partner on a really tough day. How do they make it work? How do they stay connected? What does support look like on both sides of the relationship? Today, I’m kicking off this mini-series with a special guest. A former Naval fighter pilot turned Navy wife and mom to two beautiful daughters while simultaneously being a top performer at her full time job and doing it all while her husband is on an 18 month deployment half way around the world. She’s hilarious, down to earth and so much fun! I cannot put into words how much I enjoyed this interview!

We get into mindset, what it takes to make a deployment work, what the day to day looks like, how to speak your partner's love languages, communicate and gets needs met when you're on different continents. We talk about her experience in having a baby when her husband was deployed and she didn't have family close. Christy gives so much insight, a truly strong and positive mindset shift to those needing one and so many relationship tips in this episode! This is very conversational and less of an interview but the information was fantastic! Don't forget to like, subscribe, review and share! If you'd like to check out more blog posts, coaching videos or course options- head on over to www.recognizingpotential.com I can't wait to help you with your relationship!

In this episode we are going to dive into parenting styles and how they shape us, our beliefs and how we thrive or barely survive in relationships. How were you brought up? How were you taught to manage or suppress emotions? How do you handle emotions now? Do you have self-awareness? Spousal awareness? Empathy? How does your emotional intelligence improve your success in leadership, business, and in how you do your job? Find out all of that and more in this episode! Don’t forget to like, subscribe and leave a review! You can also follow me on IG @divorce.proof.marriage. My Facebook coaching community is www.Facebook.com/groups/recognizingpotential and I’m now on Pinterest at Recognizing Potential as well! Follow me in all the places! Screenshot this episode and tag me as well so I can give you a shout out, properly thank you for being a faithful listener and mostly so I can say HEY! ☺️ If you found the content in this episode is speaking directly to you and you want into the EQ & You group program, hurry over to https://mailchi.mp/6401e34edc41/eq-you to get signed up! Don’t wait! Doors close on October 15 and we start working that next week! You’ll have better relationships before the holidays!!! 🥳

WOW! This episode is like a constant reel of life nuggets! If you are searching for your purpose, need help with emotional regulation, self-management, or are wondering how emotional intelligence plays into your daily life, this is the episode for you! Australian native, Katrina Hahling, is a brilliant author, purpose coach, restaurant owner, podcaster and so many other things! We talk in depth about so many topics in this episode, you will for sure find something to love. If you would like to order Katrina's book to help you reach your goals, The Desire Manifesto can be found on Amazon. Her facebook group Empowered Femme can be joined at www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredfemme Her website is www.katrinahahling.com and she can be found on instagram at www.instagram.com/katrina_hahling

Don't forget to like, share, comment and subscribe!

You've planned your wedding down to the finest detail but have you planned for your marriage? How will you navigate your first fight as husband and wife? How will you navigate holidays, in-laws, children, roles, expectations, and the many trials and tribulations that marriage brings? In this episode, we cover how to make sure that your marriage is 30% happier, a small habit to start that will bring your marriage to a 12% divorce probability. We talk about how love is a verb, not a noun. The tools you learn in pre-marital coaching will literally change your family tree for the better! Remember those times where you're not going to "feel in love". These and other times will require more connection. Every person feels connection differently. Now is the time to learn how to connect with your partner on a deeper level. Learn how to be and have attentiveness, responsiveness and engagement. Learn how to fight fair. Conflict is inevitable in marriage. Most people bring in fight styles they've learned from their parents or in past relationships. Many of these fight styles aren't healthy. With coaching, you learn how to fight fair so you're fighting together instead of against each other. If you want more info on pre-marital coaching, email me at coaching@recognizingpotential.com

Are you happy? Do you put your happiness in food, substances, money, time, or even project it onto your partner, making it their responsibility to make you happy? What do you value? Today's episode is for all the moms that are lost, lonely and not sure where their happiness is found. It's for all the men that aren't happy in their marriage, aren't sure they could ever make their wife happy and not sure where to start. It's for anyone who is confused on whether finding happiness is even a possibility. We talk all about finding happiness in marriage, not running from the pain that life brings because it means something so much more, what's on the other side of that pain and what happiness really is. It's a short episode but packed with wisdom and life nuggets! I mention a coach, Taylor Lee. You can find her @_thetaylorlee on IG. She's a great business coach to follow! If you're interested in either of the two programs mentioned that teach about happiness- email me at coaching@recognizingpotential.com

As a former teacher, I’m giving tips and information to help the whole family thrive in this season of all things back to school. Tips most people don’t know or think about. I talk about things like boundaries and how to survive that first week of school. I also talk about the most important 16 minutes of a child’s day and how to make the most of them. If you are struggling with any of these topics or need help implementing them, email me at coaching@recognizingpotential.com. Be sure to listen all the way to the end to find out ways to work with me this month! Email me for more information on that as well.

WOW y'all! I could not have been more fortunate to interview Taylor Kincebach for this week's episode! Founder and CEO of Taylor Made Tasty, Taylor is a Goals Success Coach who will rock your socks off and truly magnetize your life with her energy! In this episode, we talk all about how Taylor Made Tasty came to be, being a bonus mom and how she makes co-parenting such a success, the programs she has coming out, how she started her journey when her husband didn't want to do it with her (at first ;)) and her 70+ lb weight loss!! This episode has so many incredible life nuggets in it! At the time of recording, Taylor and I were still in our 9-5 jobs. That has since changed as I quit teaching in June and Taylor became a full-time CEO this month!! Please help me celebrate her by going to follow her on social media and dropping her a note of congrats! You can find her at @taylormadetasty on IG. She has a monthly membership that is 10/10!! www.taylormadetasty.com/membership

My family and I just got back from a 17 day trip to Egypt. While we were there we stayed in an apartment that didn’t have access to a washer or dryer. Our bags were delayed by the airline for 5 days and we were with a 7 1/2 month old and an 11 year old. I have food allergies and everything is shut down because of Covid. The hacks I’m giving you are from experience to help make your trip the best it can possibly be. Ours was amazing and I wouldn’t trade it for anything! I hope this helps! Many products are mentioned. If you want any of them, email me at coaching@recognizingpotential.com and I can connect you with someone who can help you order! As always, don’t forget to like and share if you love the information! At the end of the episode, I also talk about ways to work with me right now so make sure to listen to the end! 😉

Kaitlyn Reardon is more than a bonus mom. She’s part of our family. A blessing to not just my son but to all of us. How did we get to this point? We talk all about that in this week’s episode! We discuss mindsets, attitudes, expectations, communication and how to make blending a family and co-parenting work well together! Many families struggle with this topic and while we as parents definitely do not have it all figured out, we do co-parent with grace, ease and acceptance of each other. It’s not always sunshine and roses but we sure do try our best to keep it as positive as possible for our son’s sake. Happiest Mother’s Day to all of the mothers out there but especially to the one who became a mother in a rather unconventional way but we wouldn’t trade her for the world! Happy Mother’s Day, Kaity and thank you for being a guest on my podcast!! For all you listeners, don’t forget to like, subscribe and review!

This episode is the jumping off point of getting back in the podcast game! After taking 6 months off to have a baby and reevaluate, I talk about the tools and tips that have worked for me. I talk about time blocking, having and caring for a baby and living that Pilot wife life. I give you a sneak peek as to what’s coming as well! Here we go!

Are you tired? Drained of daily energy? Burnt out? Feeling like you're going through the motions and can't stay motivated? Your microstressor level may be above the limit! Microstressors are small increments of stress that come as an annoyance, unexpected shift or decision, or an unexpected daily hassle that produces low levels anxiety and cortisol. Your alarm clock going off, your child needing a specific shirt for school that hasn't been washed yet, spilling coffee on your white shirt on the way to work when you're already late (that's actually 2 right there). As the microstressors rack up throughout the day, it doesn't seem like a lot but it adds up over time. Our bodies become chronically stressed out so our health is chronically in the tank. How do we increase the energy? Stop feeling burned out? Stay motivated? Avoid the microstressors as much as possible? What do we need to really thrive in our lives, our relationships, as a parent? How does this all relate to our children? Statistically, our kids are more stressed out than we ever were at their age! How do we help them?

Join me in this episode as I break it all down. My goal here is to help you become better spouses, better parents, and help our children really thrive in these uncertain times by meeting our needs in the order of importance.

In this episode, we break down expectations, behavior, circumstances, self-awareness, change and how they all fit together. I give you 4 stories from my own life and how these topics play a part in each one so that you can hopefully relate it to your own life. This will hopefully help you with transitioning an elderly parent to a new living arrangement, help you communicate what you're asking your children to do to help around the house, help you understand the repeated conflict with your spouse and allow that conflict to build a deeper connection. I hope it will help you understand your own expectations and be able to adjust given a certain set of circumstances or communicate so that the other person's behavior can rise to meet your expectations. After all, nobody wants to intentionally disappoint others. Help them help you. If you have questions or need even more tips and tricks, feel free to email me at coaching@recognizingpotential.com.

In this episode we look at the Bible verse Matthew 25:14-30 and I get real, raw and vulnerable with you on how this verse applies to my life and possibly to yours. We talk about the three things that keep us from investing in ourselves and the gifts that we have been given that we may be undervaluing, overvaluing, or mis-perceiving. I talk to you about places that we need to increase in our lives and things that we may need to decrease in order to gain the clarity we need as well as the fulfillment and happiness we so desperately desire as human beings. I hope that the tools I give you, the challenge that I offer in this episode and the results you get from it are inspiring, motivating and applicable to your life as well. I know it has been for mine. If you want more information please email me at coaching@recognizingpotential.com

This week I sat down with Brooke Genn a retreat photographer, writer, podcaster, Enneagram couple specialist, self-love advocate and all-around incredible human being. We chat like long-lost friends about all things enneagram and how it’s affected both our lives and relationships. Join us in this episode and if it leaves you wanting more in the enneagram, head over to my website www.recognizingpotential.com for more info on my new course that releases this Monday. We talk all about our husbands, their numbers, our numbers, how our numbers have shaped us as human beings and how we’ve used other’s numbers to love them better. We discuss Brooke’s movement on self-love, how she and her husband work together, live in a tiny (300sq ft) home and still have a successful relationship. You can follow Brooke on Insta @brookegenn, @brookeandwilhelm or @enneagramcouples

Today’s guests are near and dear to my heart. My husband is a guest as a bonus dad to my son from my first marriage and has been an incredible dad to Mason. My brother, Cooper, is also a guest as a great dad. The both offer so many parenting nuggets, open up about the struggles of parenting and talk candidly about the childhoods we all had. We talk mindset, parenting, struggles, triumphs, marriage, and even some childhood memories. Happy Father’s Day to all you fathers out there!

In this episode we define and discuss what an upper limit problem is, how it holds us back from being successful and how to overcome it. I give real life examples of clients, friends, family and myself that hopefully you can identify with to recognize your own upper limit problem and dissolve it.

In this episode I sit down with 3 of my friends and we deep dive into racial relations. We talk about how to create equality, how to end injustice, how to take responsibility for our own unconscious biases and start living by the golden and platinum rules. This is definitely not your typical episode and not at all the same things you’ll find splashed across your social media feed. We get real, raw and incredibly vulnerable. I love these people deeply and they love me. That’s more of what the world needs but it’s so much more than that. I urge you to listen with an open mind and an open heart. I urge you to share with your friends and leave comments and reviews.

Do you know your fight style in your relationship? Do you know your partner’s fight style? Does it feel like your fight styles are toxic? If you’d like to know how to uplevel your relationship, create a healthier dynamic when conflict arises, or understand how to diffuse issues before they escalate, take a listen! I talk about the 4 horsemen of the apocalypse- criticism, contempt, stonewalling and defensiveness. I also talk about 2 additional issues that need to be eliminated or avoided for the healthiest possible relationship. Check it out! Don’t forget to review and subscribe!

In this episode, I get real vulnerable and give you personal examples from my life where I chose to step outside my comfort zone and examples where I chose to stay. You get a real life look into how stepping outside your comfort zone propels your life forward and how staying keeps you stuck.

In this episode, I read aloud one of the books that changed my life in the most profound way. The Butterfly Effect by Andy Andrews. This is a great episode for teenagers to listen to, for those who are contemplating if their life has meaning or if they have it in them to change the world. This episode explains just how much meaning each and every person has in this life and the lives to come.

This week’s guest is my financial analyst, friend and mentor Kerry. She tells all about how to take advantage of your money, how to get out of debt and how your mindset plays a huge role in all of that. We reminisce a little into where I was 10+ years ago and with her help, how I’m almost completely financially free! If you want more info or want to get your own FREE analysis on where you are and how to get out of debt faster- email me at coaching@recognizingpotential.com and I will send you Kerry’s info!

Edie Noble and I sit down quarantine style and talk all about “balance”, “self-care”, giving yourself grace as a mother and a wife, keeping your marriage going, what books to read, how to parent 8 kids and military life and so many more life nuggets!

Do you have an identity gap? Do you know where you are isn’t where you want to be? Join me in this episode as we talk about shifting your identity to be the best version of yourself. Where do you start? How do you get there? Why does it all look like?

Perspective is a noun. It can be changed, altered and sometimes not even real. Your perspective builds anxiety or resilience. What’s your perspective doing for you? Do you need a different perspective when it comes to parenting, leadership, your marriage or your environment? Have a listen and get some tips to help you.

In this episode you’ll learn all about your coach/host, what the goal of the podcast is and where the name Recognizing Potential stemmed from.

Are you trying to uplevel your abilities as a leader? As a spouse? As a parent? Check our this episode where you learn all about the personality colors and traits, how to be a better leader to those who aren’t the same color as you, how to be a better spouse and a better parent to those who are different colors than you and how to use these colors when you’re networking! Enjoy!