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Jeanita Morris
Jeanita Morris is a business professional and freelance writer. Here she shares her ideas and opinions on life, balancing a career and building a writing business.
a lioness about to make her kill
I’m on a 15 hour flight back from Nairobi, Kenya. It was an incredible trip there and to Zanzibar, Tanzania as well with a group of friends. For a few days in Kenya, we also flew to Masai Mara National Reserve to safari.
The itinerary said:
Nov 28 (Mon)
11:10am arrive Mara Olkiombo Airstrip
12.30pm lunch @ camp
3pm afternoon visit to Masai Village (hosted)
4pm game drive (optional)
7-9pm dinner @ camp
What I know now is that time you get in a jeep in Masai Mara, it is a game drive. The moment you leave the Olkiombo Airstrip, you are off roading and on a game drive. To add extra adventure, our Jeep wouldn’t start at first. Our guide had to pop the hood and reconnect some wires before we got going. (Keep this in mind).
Our group landed in Masai Mara at 11:30 and at noon, I was taking pictures of topi and zebras. At 12:34 (lunchtime at the camp based on the itinerary) I have a video of a lioness’s failed attempt to kill a topi for her lunch. Less than 10 mins later, the most terrifying part of the trip happened.
For context, our guide is a Maasai man name Jamlick and he is alllllll about you getting the best pictures and videos. He will literally throw caution to the wind for you to get that shot.
Another lioness was spotted with her eye on a warthog family. We watched her go in for the kill and the warthog family took off, but 2 of the babies ran in a different direction than its parents and that lioness got her lunch. Jamlick is determined to get us up close to the lioness with her kill. So in this open top/open sides jeep that I am in, he takes off at top speed, to follow the lioness into this huge bush, that also happens to go into a steep ditch. Jamlick rams the jeep into this bush to get closer to the lioness. The bush is as tall as the jeep so he’s ramming through full on 8-10 foot tall twigs and branches. Branches that are snapping and falling into the sides of our jeep.
And you know what happens next right?
The jeep gets stuck in the bush’s ditch.
And you know what happens next right?
The jeep shuts down again. Just like at the airstrip, after a couple of cranks, the engine won’t turn over.
A JEEP I AM IN, WILL NOT START IN A BUSH DITCH DOUBLE MY HEIGHT WITH A LIONESS THAT JUST KILLED A BABY WARTHOG.
This is happening at 12:45pm when the itinerary says I’m supposed to be at the camp eating lunch.
Jeanita: can we close the side windows of the jeep so the lion can’t get in. Jamlick says no. ( I actually asked him at the airport could we put the windows up if we felt uncomfortable and he told me that is a “Big No”.
Jeanita: can we walkie someone and tell them we are stuck in a ditch with a lion. Jamlick is outside trying to fix the jeep says hold on. We text our group of friends like come back we are stuck.
Jeanita: praying like she’s never prayed before not to die in a bush ditch with a lioness like one of the people you hear about on TV.
Jamlick gets out of the jeep, to pop the hood and restart the jeep. It takes him several attempts to get the engine to turn over. Then it takes him several more attempts to ram, in reverse, out of the bush ditch.
At 1:10 we arrive at the camp and they offer us welcome juices to which most ask for a shot of alcohol to be added. They oblige us.
We learn later many drivers will not go off road and getting out of the jeep for any reason is a huge no. One of the other drivers said if a jeep is stuck they will use another jeep to ramp the front of it to get it out but no one would get out of the jeep.
I am afraid of just about every animal possible. Going into this trip I believed I would opt out of most of the optional game drives and stay at the camp. After going to the Maasai village and meeting some of the people and talking more with Jamlick, I have a better understanding. The Maasai have a relationship and respect with the wild life of Masai Mara. They are alert and prepared to handle the animals, but they also know “Don’t start none won’t be none”. Their ability to articulate and demonstrate how they live amongst animals everyday and have a respect for their life oddly put me at ease.
Okay, not “ease” but made me feel better and not really in harm’s way.
Of course I am linked with the Maasai driver that has the actual heart and bravery of a lion. By request, he was our driver for the remainder of the trip. As it turned out, I opted into the other “optional” game drives and they were amazing. Thanks to Jamlick, we saw all 5 of the Big 5 animals in Masa Mara. Often, it takes several times out over days, weeks, or trips even to see all 5. We saw:
Day one:
African Elephants (at sunset no less)
Cape buffalo (drove through a large herd of them)
Leopard (up in a tree at sunset with a kill)
Lions (sleeping, making kills, and well the bush ditch)
Day two:
Rhinoceros!
There are a total of 35 in all of Masa Mara and we found three: One alone hiding in a large field of bushes. ( of course Jamlick drove into the bushes to get as close as we could without scaring it off). The other 2 were together and were also shy about coming out of the bush, but after patiently waiting they both came out and we got the photos and videos.
Sleeping in a tent, hearing Hippos make all kinds of noise all through the night, meeting a Maasai tribe in their village, hot air ballooning at sunrise, countless laughs and memories with friends are experiences in Masai Mara that I will never forget.
May 24, 2020:
As I write today, I am wrapping up week 10 of lockdown due to the coronavirus pandemic. I spent the first 6 weeks of the shutdown away from home (in corporate housing) as I was on a work assignment. What I thought would be initially 2 weeks turned into where we are today. While its one experience in itself to be in isolation, its a whole other experience to be In isolation, away from your home. A month ago, I made the decision to come home to reset. When making this decision, I thought I would only be home a week or two before going back to my work assignment and with the way things are in the state of Maryland, the timeline is uncertain for specific areas hard hit by the virus.
The uncertainty of this time sure has helped me with something i’ve been working on for awhile: patience. There is much out of my control. As a natural problem solver, I like to see around corners and plan for outcomes. Obviously I’ve been able to do this to my maximum potential. I don’t often respond well when forced into situations, especially situations causing me to come to a full halt. About 3 weeks into the shutdown, I came down with a fever and a cough, overall being sick for 2-3 weeks with what felt like a very bad head cold and cough that just wouldn’t go away. Unnerving would not begin to describe my experience of being sick during a pandemic, alone, and away from home. Talk about a shift in priorities! Up until that point, I was still trying to manage so many things work, diet and exercise (ya girl was getting it), trying to keep life as normal as possible. Getting sick caused me to come to a full stop. I was sofa bound for over a week. I had to let everything else go. I couldn’t work, exercise, write, read, etc. All I could do was tend to the present moment at hand which was tending to my symptoms and keeping my family updated on my progress. While I did not ever feel full on panic, I certainly was worried and more intensely prayerful. In further efforts to be normal, I tried a 30 min Peloton ride the moment I felt better. I got another lesson in patience for the timetable my body was on to recover, not the April Peloton challenge timeline.
After what felt like the longest cold I’ve ever had is when I made the decision to come home and reset. It had been 6 months since I’d last slept in my own bed. Driving home, I thought I was coming to enjoy a relaxing experience, but I learned how much work goes into sprucing up a place that hasn’t been touched in 6 months. I had dead plants and dust inside and pollen all over the patio and balcony outside, not to mention remnants of winter. My place was freezing! I’m lucky I didn’t have a pipe freeze. At any rate, it was a project not only to spruce up the joint, but also make it a place I could thrive in my office, bedroom and kitchen in particular. So it actually turned out to be more of a reset in my life than I thought. Transforming your home is no small feat.
God’s divine timing never fails to blow me away. This time last year, I kicked off what would be an epic summer of beach hopping and vacations with family and friends. For the first time in years, my family was together for Christmas in Maryland. Those times and experiences have filled me up and carried me through this time in so many ways. I’ve been able to build on connection virtually during this time and have never felt alone during isolation. What a blessing. With this newfound patience, I am not mourning the past or thinking about how to resume previous activities when “outside opens back up”. I have peace with today. I have accepted things will never be the same and that’s fine with me.
With that level of peace, I have a renewed and different sense of power.
Connections During Quarantine is a series I created to bring me a little closer to family and friends while exploring my creative outlet. My guest today is not only a colleague, but fellow podcaster, Kurtis Cameron. Kurtis is a married father of two adorable little boys. As a result, Kurtis is passionate about all things fatherhood. His podcast The Fatherhood Perspective, highlights the joy and learns of fatherhood featuring a wide range of guests with varying experience as dads.
As I catch up with Kurtis we talk about the experience of creating a podcast, what he’s learned from his podcast, and how he’s experiencing podcasting and fatherhood differently during this time of sheltering in place. Check out our chat, here on the View 112 Podcast.
I am continuing my series, Connections During Quarantine. Today I am chatting with a colleague, Robin Haymon about his journey to another city for a promotion and how he finds creative balance for his blog, mrhaymon.com.
Well, its been about 70 days since I last recorded a podcast and…WOW. Things escalated quickly didn't they?! We are truly living through a time I couldn’t have imagined possible, certainly not 10 weeks ago. I’ve been working from home in isolation for 11 days now. As an extrovert and a person who works around thousands of people on a weekly basis, its been quite the adjustment to be in a 600 sqft corporate housing apartment 24 hours a day. It took me about 10 days into this to get a schedule/routine in which I wasn’t working round the clock, catch up on some rest, check on family and friends virtually, and take extensive breaks from the news. Today’s the first day I’ve felt calm, and ready to connect in new ways.
So I wanted to kick off a new type of series within my podcast: Connections During Quarantine. During this series, I will spend time connecting virtually with different people on various topics. My first guests, my nephews AJ and Justin. Both of them are one week into online learning and so I’m putting my inquisitive auntie skills to good to use to see how productive its been. Also I’m curious to understand how they are feeling during this time and what’s being discussed amongst their friends. While I’m recording this episode, we use an app for the first time and they share an app I’ve never heard of. Finally we talk about my favorite topic, reading. We share a love of reading and have bonded over Harry Potter in particular. Check out our chat:
I love tackling my year one quarter at a time. I purchased the Savor Life Planner titled The Next 90 days. Already, its been a great tool in my progress toward success. Here I review how.
Architecting Habits
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”-Aristotle or nah?
I’m sure you’ve heard this quote before. For many years this quote has been attributed to Aristotle, but new research proves that Aristotle didn’t write it at all. I just finished reading a book titled Atomic Habits by James Clear. I want to share how I am working to build powerful, effective habits for my success in 2020 here on the 40th episode of the View 112 Podcast..
Happy New Year! As I record this 40th episode of the View 112 Podcast celebrating my 42nd birthday, I have been thinking about what I will do consistently this year. Over the past decade, I’ve tried and failed at quite a few things. I would love to look back in 2021or 2030 and be proud of the effort I consistently made starting right now.Over the last 3 years, his podcast has inspired to do a few things that I can build on for success into 2020 and beyond.
- I finally got a therapist
*Article she sent me:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-savvy-psychologist/201912/5-tips-calm-restless-mind-going-sleep
- Create more stuff
3.Continue to read
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Skill build
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Schedule and calendar
What’s the point of working hard if you never take the opportunity to enjoy life? Is there a fine line between comfort and complacent? I believe, like most things, its up to you. You can have intention to be comfortable and you can also take action to avoid complacency. I’m going to share my game plan for tips to flourish this fall here on the View 112 Podcast.
As we go into July 4th week, celebrating Independence Day in America, it got me thinking about how I am living a much more free, independent life than I used to. I have fought for and provided access to others more than I ever have before.
Stories highlighting the complexity of women motivate me. Countless times over the course of history, women have demonstrated power and resilience with grace and creativity. I was lucky growing up, surrounded and influenced by lots of accomplished, working women. My mom, women in church, writers like Dr. Maya Angelou, and fictional characters like Claire Huxtable all inspired who I am today. Now, more than ever before, women are doing even more like running companies and for President of the United States of America. Looking for some inspiring reading material this month? Here are my recommendations:
- In The Company Of Women -Grace Bonney
This collection profiles women creating amazing work. Filled with writers, musicians, designers, and artists, who share insight and perspective into their creative process. 2. Black Girls Rock -Beverly Bond
Black Girls Rock founder, Beverly Bond is known for celebrating the extraordinary work of women in entertainment and in the community. Highlighted are women doing major things in politics, entertainment, eduction and more. 3. Difficult Women -Roxane Gay
Feminist writer, Gay has shared many stories in her work. In this collection of stories, we connect with women from all walks of life experiencing both the highest and lowest our world has to offer. 4. Well-Read Black Girl -Glory Edim
As a champion for black women’s literature, Edim creates an anthology highlighting the works of our voices in literature. The book also celebrates the vastness of our perspective with varying experiences from contributing writers. 5. Wouldn’t Take Nothing For My Journey Now -Dr. Maya Angelou
Who better to glean womanly wisdom than the late Dr. Angelou? This collection of experiential essays filled with sage perspective is a beautiful way to start you day this month. 6. The Truths We Hold -Kamala Harris
In her memoir, 2020 presidential hopeful Senator Kamala Harris of California, shares her unique history, which includes her amazing career, and her vision for a better America.
I’ve watched the Academy Awards plenty of times over the years. This year was the first year I was drawn to the awards for a different reason. For the first time ever, I watched the awards as a writer.
There were several times I actually teared up watching visionaries and executors accept awards. People being recognized for work that is years, decades, or often a lifetime in the making. Long hours of edits and retakes being acknowledged in front of the world. To think an idea can go to a written script, to a screen play then acted, styled, costumed, directed, produced, scored into what we see on screen. As a normal person sharing my story everyday, I hold so much joy in my heart to watch people earn the ability to share their stories and ideas with the world.
In 2017, I attended the Library of Congress National Book Festival when I meet Angie Thomas, author of the book ‘The Hate U Give”. Since then, the book has turned into a critically acclaimed movie. The very talented young actress Amandla Stenber who played the lead Starr, was interviewed on the red carpet and shared how it was an honor to bring Angie’s work to life. During the show, Amandla presented the movie Green Book with Congressman John Lewis! It was a powerful moment.
I was so touched by Lady Gaga and her accomplishment last night. As she tearfully accepted her Oscar, she said “if you’re sitting home on your couch watching this now, this is hard work. It’s not about winning. It’s about not giving up. Even when you are rejected and beat down, find the power to rise up and keep fighting.” So inspiring.
To see Hampton University’s own, Ruth Carter take the Oscar for best costume design in Black Panther. The first person she thanked was Spike Lee for giving her a chance all those years ago. Speaking of Spike Lee, after 5 nominations, he WON last night for Best Adapted Screenplay.
Finally, Black Panther took home 3 awards. Ryan Coogler created such a powerful platform for Black Excellence. He must be so proud to put together a SQUAD OF WINNERS! His vision lead a global movement! WAKANDA FOREVER!
According Merriam-Webster.com, the definition of a limit is "something that bounds, restrains, or confines”. When considering the definition of limit as a verb, it’s "to restrict the bounds or limits of". Living without limits has been a familiar theme to me over the years. Today, I want to discuss self-imposed limits. What are the things we voluntarily assume that are limiting us in life and work? I’ll share a few things we can do to battle ourselves here on the View 112 Podcast.
How many L’s have you taken in life due to your own limitations? Self-imposted limitations come in the form of confining thoughts, beliefs, actions/inactions. With self-imposed limits, sometimes we fail because we don’t even start. We miss the full potential of an opportunity or situation because we don’t see the whole. We get some of what’s available, instead of all of it. What can we do to remove self-imposed limits?
What's really stopping me from flexing the power of my perspective as a writer? Today I'm going to share my experience and the surprising lessons learned from my first writing class at The Muse Writer's Center.
There are little lessons in every experience. Allow me to share some things I learned while almost missing out on a wonderful vacation in France.
Last summer, I went on a girls trip to France. We spent a few days in both Paris and St. Tropez. When I first got the invite I honestly thought it was not achievable for me to go. I didn’t know any French and I figured it would be out of my budget. I didn’t think I enjoyed French cuisine and my preconceived notion about the French is that they were rude. I also heard the toilets were not the move. Don’t think I can make this trip.
Then I started reading and researching. Turns out, while I should learn a bit of French (it’s a beautiful language), many people in France speak English. Moreover, there are incredible, must-see attractions in Paris. Funny enough, French cuisine was not what I thought it was AND the French have mastered one of my favorite food groups: WINE. One of my dream destination vacation spots is the Amalfi Coast, Italy. Why not enjoy a bit of the Mediterranean Sea, just a bit north in St. Tropez-which by the way is one of the most glitzy coast lines in the world. What’s not to love? I decided to RSVP to the girls trip-Step 1.
Still, I was nervous so the excuses kept coming. The longest flight I’d ever been on was about 4 hours. A flight to France would be double that. Not to mention, there is another flight from Paris to St. Tropez. How do you maneuver around a French airport? Is there a French TSA? So many concerns (read excuses). I booked both flights-Step 2.
Now I’m committed pretty deeply. No turning back right? Believe it or not, there were still times that I thought it would be worth losing the money I spent on the airfare if I needed to cancel. What was this about? Fear. Fear of going somewhere unfamiliar to me. I thought about the crime and the terrorist attacks. Was it really safe to go there? I had to remind myself that this fear of going to France was going to have me miss out on an incredible experience. In the United States, I’ve galavanted the streets of DC, Baltimore, New York, Chicago, New Orleans, San Francisco, etc. I know how to keep my head on the swivel. Why am I worried about Paris pickpockets or any other potential crime that also happens here in the United States all the time and I’m just fine?
Long story short, I worried literally to the moment it was time to board that Air France flight in JFK. This trip and just about every trip is an exercise in being uncertain and still moving forward. I boarded that flight-Step 3.
With incredible, accomplished women, I ate, drank, laughed, and played in the streets of Paris. I sunbathed, partied, and dined along the glistening blue waters of the French Riviera. There was no meal (or glass of wine/champagne) we did not enjoy. I have so many incredible memories and photos. One of my favorite days was just walking the street in St Tropez, checking out different boutiques and small cafes. We traveled around just fine (tuns out there is Uber in Paris lol). The airport to catch my flight from Paris to St. Tropez was a little tricky and I did fly alone. (Our group flight was cancelled the night before and we were redirected on other flights-talk about internal panic!) But I figured out enough that I managed to make it through security, find my gate and correct flight to St. Tropez (with pain au chocolat and cofè in tow!).
I was not perfect, still can’t speak French, and there were things lost in translation. Things still got figured out and nothing was the end of the world. To think I almost played myself out of such an experience due to worry blows my mind. Since taking this trip, when doubt and uncertainty creep in my mind, I remember all the thoughts that almost held me back from one of the best treats of my life. On the flight back, I took some time to reflect. I had an amazing time, but most notably, I learned somethings about myself. I went through some experiences that strengthened my perseverance, resilience, resourcefulness, and ability to overcome insecurities. For that I am so grateful.
Happy January 2019 and…
Happy Birthday to me! I just got home from my first ever solo trip celebrating my 41st birthday in Cancun, MX. I decided on a solo trip for several reasons:
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I needed a serious break
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I wanted to celebrate
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Be still, quiet, and listen for the next move.
Book Share:
The Bullet Journal Method by Ryder Carroll
Radical Candor by Kim Scott
The Windfall by Diksha Basu
Hello! Today is Sunday May 20th and welcome back to the View 112 Podcast. I’ve been quite a busy lady! I'm not going to bore you by rehashing too many details all in this one episode. Here is a brief summary: At the top of the year, I celebrated my 40th birthday in Mexico. Upon returning, I was informed of an opportunity to interview for a professional promotion with the caveat that the role would be in Norfolk, VA about 3-4 hours south of the Washington Metropolitan Area. After several interviews spanning over 2 months or so, I got my offer then spent April and half of May traveling and transitioning into my new role. How has it been? Both thrilling and exhausting. Since this podcast is focused on self development, books and business, I have many elements to share how I got through this first half of 2018 as I prepared to interview, transition, and now start a new life and work in a different city. With this episode, I'll start with the value of authenticity. Here's some thoughts:
1. Know Your Story and Master How to Tell It.
2. Be Humble, but Let. Them. Know.
3. Make Sure Your Squad is GOALS.
I’m going to be honest. By nature, I still worry about things. Over the years, I’ve worked on how I manage the strong urge to worry. In intense moments of angst, I am calmed by advice from my dad. Often, he’s said to me “Be anxious for nothing”. Like most incredible advice from dad, its biblically rooted. Philippians 4: 6-9 reads:
6.Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; 7. and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds through Jesus Christ. 8. Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things. 9. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me-put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.
Pray
Prepare
Practice
Patience
Peace
I promise today’s episode is not a sermon, but it is certainly a good word! As I’ve said before, this podcast encourages me too! I am going to share with you a few ways this has helped me keep my sanity and focus on what matters during acquisition seasons in my life here on the View 112 Podcast.
Oh my goodness! Happy New Year (its not too late to say that right?)! I hope you're enjoying your 2018 thus far. As for me, I've been all over the place (literally and figuratively). A special date has come and gone already: January 12, 2018 also known as my 40th birthday and the 1 year anniversary of View 112! I'll tell you what I've been up to, how I celebrated, and what's next for me here on the View 112 Podcast.
- Never Underestimate Moments of Reflection
- The Curve Balls Will Come
- Take YOUR Time
- Take Care of Yourself
Nine more episodes to record before my 40th birthday in less than a month. It’s been quite a few weeks since I’ve paused to record a podcast. I’m learning that this podcast is actually a great tool to help me slow down and reflect. As much as I’ve wanted to stop and record, I’ve been focused on school and a lot of work. One lesson in life I haven’t seems to learn is how to stop piling things on. So here are a few words around priority setting from the Queen of Doing Too Much here on the View 112 Podcast.
- Be Specific
- Be Honest with Yourself
- Curve Those Competing Alternatives
Our whole lives we want to run or sprint towards the various finish lines in life. In today's accomplishment-driven society, we miss looking at the baby steps. Think about the last major accomplishment of your life. Do you remember how it came to pass? As we near the end of this year, I'm going to share some baby steps that I'm grateful to have taken. Allow me to give my perspective on the ever so cliche "It's all about the journey" here on the 30th Episode of the View 112 Podcast.
- The Patience for Baby Steps
- Build in Baby Steps
- The Brilliance of Baby Steps
After reading Dr. Brenè Brown's latest book, Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone, I feel like I've had a mini therapy session and received motivation to get started on the uncomfortable "me work". This book made me do some soul searching on why I react to life in a certain manner. This book made me be honest about why I make the avoidable mistakes I've made. It made me question why I do the things that I do when I feel left out, lonely, disappointed, failed, or scared.
The book raised questions in me like:
Can you belong nowhere and everywhere?
Why do we live in an all or nothing society? ie.Either you're with me or against me...
Why do I often assume the worst and how can I use my words and actions to bring power and peace to situations?
Even when I disagree and feel strongly about my perspective, how can I be more compassionate and respectful to another person's point of view?
How can I be the light alone AND form a light collective?
Going into the final stretch of the year and my 30's I'm thinking of things I want to leave in 2017 and not carry into my 40's. Braving the Wilderness and embracing new adventures is at the top of my list.
The entire year I’ve been sharing the value in setting a quarterly focus for 2017. Can you believe we are in the final stretch of 2017?! How is your year going? Are you pleased with your progress? Are you like me, with a few things you still need to get done? Today I’m discussing how to focus on finishing 2017 strong. Time to be 4th Quarter Clutch here on the View 112 Podcast.
- Take an Assessment
- Learn from Failures and Make a Plan to Move On
- Set the plan TODAY
- Are there goals/plans you need to downsize for the next 10 weeks?
- Weekly checkins
It is difficult to read so much and not be compelled to write. Life has been coming at me pretty fast this past quarter. As I enter into the last quarter of the year, I wanted to focus on why I'm doing this in the first place. My love of reading and writing. Between work and school, I've lost my way a bit. I have more thoughts and stories in my heart than ever, but I haven't had much time or inspiration to get them out.
Earlier this week, I picked up 2 books for writing. The first is Inspiration and Motivation for Writers by Chloe Henderson. It was just the pick me up I needed to get back to clicking away on this computer. I finished reading this quote book in about 30 mins and it now sits on my desk next to my journal. One quote in the book about writing is close to what I say about reading all the time:
"If you lead a busy life, you might feel you don't have time to write your novel, but even the great writers experienced this when they started the path to becoming full time novelists. Use spare moments , such as the daily commute or waiting in line to jot down ides or read through a chapter that you have written."
I'm going to carry this thought with me over this last quarter as I strive to be even more purposeful with my time. The other book I'm into this week for writers is Draft No.4 by John McPhee On the Writing Process. McPhee is an author and writing professor at Princeton University. In the book he shares guidance, personal stories and experience as a writer.
A couple of years ago, I heard about Novel Writing Month which happens in November. I think this is the year I should get in the game. Writers are challenged to write a 50,000 page novel. So I'm going to use October to get a jump start on the writing process. I've never written 50 thousands words in one month or on one project. So I know I'm going to need to get my creative juices going and build the habit strength now. Wish me well...
-Jeanita
This week is Banned Books Week. Allow me to share more from the website of the American Library Association:
“Banned Books Week is an annual event celebrating the freedom to read. Typically held during the last week of September, it highlights the value of free and open access to information. Banned Books Week brings together the entire book community – librarians, booksellers, publishers, journalists, teachers, and readers of all types – in shared support of the freedom to seek and to express ideas, even those some consider unorthodox or unpopular.”-ala.com
So, Banned Books Week draws attention to the harms of censorship; which brings me to the First Amendment. As a writer and business professional, I have a range of thoughts about First Amendment rights. My goal at the end of the episode is to motivate you to research and educate yourself on current events and our history by sharing how I’m learning a bit more on these topics too. One of the most powerful weapon we have is an educated mind. Allow me to challenge you today on the View 112 Podcast.
When I mention the words "public speaking" what type of emotion does that evoke? Fear? Concern? All. Out. Panic? Today I'm going to share my journey with public speaking, tools/tactics I’m using to develop this skill, and why I believe we need to master the art storytelling. This is yet another strength we can build together! As always thanks for listening to the View 112 Podcast.
What if I told you there is a way you could learn new life skills while at work, getting paid? You'd be down for that right? Well today I am going to share with you how I am going to learn 3 new life skills while I am at work.
This weekend I attended my first ever book festival! I spent the day at the Library of Congress National Book Festival at the Washington Convention Center. I didn't know what to expect and showed up excitedly unprepared. The festival website said there would be over 100 authors there including: Thomas Friedman, Roxane Gay, Angie Thomas, Michael Eric Dyson, Condoleezza Rice, and David Baldacci. I was prepared to get books, get bookish things, and meet authors. I figured with it being a rainy, holiday weekend before school starts here in the DC area that it would be a sparsely attended event. I was wrong!
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The Layout: The book festival took up LEVELS of the Washington Convention Center. Three levels of the convention center were dedicated to panels with authors, including the top level being the main stage. The very bottom level was dedicated to activities for children, a pop up book store, and book signing. As soon as I arrived, I got a map and headed to the pop up book store.
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Panels and speakers: There was a running schedule of speakers at different times in dozens of rooms. Had I planned better, I would have made my own little schedule of who I wanted to see and I would have purchased my books in advance. I moved around the Convention Center with my map deciding in the moment who I wanted to see. I finally decided I really wanted to see Thomas Friedman (author of Thank You for Being Late-see book review here). Friedman was speaking on the Main Stage in about 90 mins and I decided to find the Main Stage area, then go out to lunch and come back in 90 mins. Ha! I'm glad I went to find the Main Stage because when I got up there I found a very long line 90 mins out from the seeing Friedman and needed to get in line right away. 45 mins later, I made it into the Main Stage room and listened to the tail end conversation with author JD Vance who wrote Hillbilly Elegy. The crowd in the room at the time was large (thousands of people) and conservative. I had not heard of JD Vance before this moment and learned that his book (which was published last year) changed his life. He went from being unknown to speaking on the main stage at a national book festival. He was funny and charming and that was about all I admired about him. Vance presented as a conservative and his book was a memoir about growing up in working class, poor, rust belt, Ohio. Listening to him speak in this crowd before Thomas Friedman was an interesting experience. Immediately following the Vance panel, the crowd cleared and the room refilled with people looking to see Friedman. Friedman was introduced by a reporter from the Washington Post and that reporter instantly got into using words like climate change and mocking the president when mentioning "the failing New York Times" where Friedman works. Friedman came out to speak and the presentation was decidedly more liberal. I enjoyed him speaking as he shared his thoughts behind concepts from his book Thank You For Being Late. Two things he said I wrote down as they really touched me:
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Being a life long learner is the largest competitive advantage in the accelerator age.
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Biggest divide is the self motivation divide.
These thoughts and concepts inspired me to keep to doing the work I'm doing. Friedman emphasized the need to keep learning during this day and age. Learning and developing new skills are essential to today's business climate. He gave examples on how self motivation to improve, learn, and grown is truly what separates the successful from the unsuccessful.
- The Book Signings: I left the Friedman panel 15 mins early get a book signed from Angie Thomas, author of The Hate U Give. I got down to the book signing area about 15 mins before the signing began and was about number 70-something in line. While in line waiting to meet Angie Thomas, I realized from the schedule I could maybe get another book I purchased signed from author Helene Cooper, author of Madame President: The Extraordinary Journey of Ellen Johnson Sirleaf". After meeting Cooper, I had a choice to make. I wanted to see Roxane Gay but I also wanted to get my book signed. Based on the schedule, Gay was already speaking and based on my experience of waiting in line for Friedman, I figured I had missed my opportunity to see her. Instead, I decided to get in line for the book signing. Fifty mins before the book signing for Gay, I was already number 70 something in line again. When Gay was finished speaking her line was already hundreds of people long. So I'm glad I got to meet her and get the book signed instead.
Some lessons I learned about this book festival: 1. Have a gameplan around what's important to you prior to showing up. 2. Have your books already, and 3. Brings snacks (I was starving!). Overall it was a super cool experience. I look forward to the moment I write a book that gets me featured at a book festival.
This week Hurricane Harvey wreaked havoc in Houston, TX Louisiana. The folks in these areas need help and relief efforts need money. Please consider donating any amount of money to support hurricane relief efforts. Pray for them and make a financial donation. This episode is going to be a mash up of sorts: a summer goals recap, August affirmations summary, I’m going to a book festival this weekend, and what makes me tick professionally. Thanks for listening to the 25th episode of the View 112 Podcast.
Happy September. For me, September is a serious month. Like summer is over, school, is back in session, etc. Kinda like January with the holidays being over and everyone’s back on their grind. I have a few things to share so lets get into it.
Summer 2017 Goals:
Summer Streak (writing) Summer Savings Summer Wellness My Summer Adventure So what happens when you do not reach your goals? Do you set the same ones? I re-assess, see where I went wrong and make adjustments. I think my first mistake is taking on way too much. I do that a lot if you haven’t noticed. Turns out my number one priority is school and all year I’ve known that. This summer my priority was to pass my math class and everything fell to that.
August Affirmations
I am worthy of all God has for me I will do what it takes to graduate in 2018 I will build a lucrative writing business and advance professionally My body is a powerful temple and I will take care of it I will give and receive love beyond my wildest dreams This week, at a work meeting we did an activity in which we had to identify our professional values. Out of a list of probably 50 or 60 values we had to pick our top 3. Turns out,my professional values line up with my personal values. I just HAD to pick 4:
My Professional Values
Faith Excellence Positivity Thoroughness Finally, I am headed out to the Library of Congress National Book Festival today! I’ve never been to a book festival and I’m so excited. I’m look forward to seeing how the literary community gets down. There are dozens of writers speaking today including authors like Roxanne Gay and Thomas Friedman, both of whose books I’ve read. I just can’t wait to take it all in. It’s free and at the Convention Center in downtown Washington, DC. I’ll be writing a recap of my experience.
I've attempted several times in the past week to record this podcast. I didn't feel 100% about it because it's felt weird to simply discuss business and books as usual after seeing the events that happened in Charlottesville, VA. In the last week I’ve gone through a range of emotions: disbelief, frustration, anger, and now resolute. I am more determined than ever to fight hate and be a light. Not only will I not tolerate the hate and divisiveness in our country but I will continue to shine by supporting initiatives, publications, organizations, and content that work to rid our country of this foolishness and highlight the power of justice and inclusion. Before you listen to this podcast, I hope we are aligned on these 2 things: 1. Hate has no place. 2. Hate is nothing new under the sun. It's just been given a stronger voice by silence (i.e. tolerance) and emboldened by people like Donald Trump. Today I’m going to share a few of my thoughts on personal and professional responsibility here on the View112 podcast. 1. Speak Out 2. Educate Yourself 3. Allocate Resources
A couple of days ago, I had a chat with a co worker who just received a promotion and is moving cross country to California. I let him know, as a member of my team I always admired how relentless he was about his own professional development. This guy is always reading up on our industry and practicing sales tips/techniques. He even learned a couple of languages to prepare for different opportunities in Asia. In lieu of coming on the podcast, he gave me the title of today’s episode: Chance Favors the Ready. I am going to let you know what that means to me and how I put it into practice here on the View 112 Podcast.
Chance Favors the Ready… its right up there with Seneca the Younger’s “Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity”. In other words stay ready so you don’t have to get ready. I’m here for that! Here are a few of my best practices to prepare for a professional opportunity: 1. Evaluate your LinkedIn Profile and Resume 2. Commit to Skill Building NOW 3. Know What's Poppin' in your Industry 4. Practice Apprenticeship
Affirmations are specific statements used to help you visualize and believe in what you are setting out to do. Today I am sharing my brief story of affirmations and the new book I’m reading The Motivation Manifesto here on the View 112 Podcast.
I've spent a lot of time talking about goal setting and quarterly reviews. I've also been reading a lot about affirmations so I've decided to give them a try. In the past, I've used something similar to affirmations such as mantras while running or working out to encourage myself past the mental hurdles that pop up. I also recently listened to an episode of The Tim Ferris Show in which Seth Godin shares his experience with affirmations. His testimonial convinced me further to give it a whirl.
I will be saying these affirmations out loud 3 times per day (I've set a reminder on my iPhone) and writing them down once per day. On this podcast I share the whys behind my August affirmations:
I am worthy of all God has for me.
I will do what it takes to graduate in 2018
I will build a lucrative writing career and advance professionally.
My body is a powerful temple and I will take care of it.
I will give and receive love beyond my wildest dreams
As a nice compliment to this practice, I just picked up The Motivation Manifesto from Brendon Burchard. In this book, Burchard shares his 9 Declarations and I find them to be pretty powerful. I share them as well. Books come into our lives in different seasons and can be used for many different reasons. Again, I think this book will be a great compliment to the work I'm doing with affirmations. Hope you enjoy this episode.
I selected The Spark and The Grind by Erik Wahl as the inaugural selection of the View 112 Summer of Business Books Reading Challenge because the concept leapt off the dust jacket and struck me so abruptly. I was casually browsing the business section of my local Barnes and Noble and there it was well placed in the center of the section, eye level. I picked it up and have been compelled ever since. Check the top of the inner dust jacket: “We’ve been conditioned to think about creative genius. As a dichotomy: dreamers virus doers, creativity virus discipline, the spark vs the grind. But what if we’re wrong? What if it’s the spark and the grind.”(Wahl). I highly recommend you read this book in its entirety as it is FULL OF GEMS. Here are a few for me:
- There is danger being all grind and no spark.
This book validated my evolved perspective on creativity. Many professionals idolize the super grinder and the concept of hustling. Although I am also writer, I have never considered myself a creative. In fact for many years, I’ve ignored writing as a childhood dream turned adult hobby. I have taken much more pride in being a “grinder”. Having a strong work ethic is a career characteristic of which I am most proud. It’s an incredible feeling to be known to execute. Contrarily, I have always viewed creatives as people solely walking around with their head in the clouds dreaming all day. While creatives are inspiring, to be labeled and known as a super grinder seemed much more aspirational. After all these years of working, its taken age and experience for me to build confidence in the fact that I am truly a creative grinder. When I made the decision to cherish creativity, I took one step closer to living a limitless life. I am no longer just a leader, great sales person, business woman, or writer. I am all of those things and MORE.
"If you lean toward being a Grinder, stop using focus as an excuse to ignore other opportunities around you." p.55
The Spark and the Grind-Erik Wahl
- Aggressively pressure the unfamiliar.
While I’ve not always been able to define it, I’ve always believed there is something more in life than my current experience. The book makes a compelling case that the only way we find that nagging “something more” is when we go beyond the familiar. In sales, I’ve seen the benefit of curiosity. The deals I’ve been able to close or rooms I’ve been able to enter from remaining curious has been proven repeatedly. We must be curious in all aspects of our life. Innovation is born of curiosity. Self doubt in our ability, manifests itself in the form of editing curiosity. How often do you convince yourself a reoccurring thought or idea is not of value? How often have you compared a wild thought to your normal environment and dismissed it as “crazy”? We all possess creativity. We just need to stop trying to make creativity convenient to our ordinary lives.
"By introducing ourselves to the unfamiliar, we open up our network to novel possibilities for efficiency. This is called innovation." p.64
The Spark and the Grind-Erik Wahl
- Don't let insecurity stop you
Embrace your rookie season. Even publicly if need be. If we are committed to life long learning, we will always have rookie seasons. In order to be an expert, you have to be a rookie. Develop the vulnerability and patience to appreciate being a novice. I think often times the obstacle is the fear of looking like a beginner versus actually beginning. It takes a lot of courage to do things when you are not confident. I will stop robbing myself of amazing opportunities because I'm insecure about how I may appear to others while I'm figuring it all out. How many more incredible experiences will you miss from not working through the awkwardness of the beginner phase?
“We fight not to appear foolish. Stop fighting that fight. Let go of your self-consciousness and fear of humiliation. There are far greater things to lose than a little ego now and then.” p.198
The Spark and the Grind-Erik Wahl
This book really inspired me to look differently at how I pursue my life and career. It is certainly one of my favorite books I've read in 2017 (I have all the highlighted passages to prove it.). Erik Wahl also has a pretty cool YouTube Series in which he highlights people who epitomize the concept of The Spark and the Grind. Check it out
In this episode, I review my quarterly progress on 2017 goals in life and business. I also read and respond to a listener question about vision boards and goal setting
For the 20th Episode of the View 112 Podcast, I snag a special guest! One of my business mentors, Terrence McBurnie II. Terrence has served in the United States Air Force, holds a Master's Degree in Business Administration, and has enjoyed an accomplished career in leadership with a couple of Fortune 100 caliber companies. Terrence is the first person to acquaint me with the concept of having a Personal Board of Directors for development. This concept of mentorship has changed the way I asses mentors and reevaluate the type of mentor I am to others. On this episode, I ask Terrence more details about establishing a Personal Board of Directors and what components are important to him. As usual, he provides great insight. You'll see why he's one of my mentors.
During our chats over the years, Terrence challenged me with a thought from renowned author, speaker, and businessman Jim Rohn: "You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with". We discuss the significance of this this concept and the power of cultivating relationships that matter.
Thanks for much for listening!
I just finished reading Thomas Friedman’s latest book Thank Your For Being Late. Friedman’s thoughts and research unexpectedly moved me both personally and professionally. Allow me to share a few simple thoughts:
The Power of a Pause During an era where busy is the new black, Friedman acknowledges the gift we give ourselves when we make a few moments to take a pause. During that pause, we can be more mindful about what’s happening right in front of us. We can settle our thoughts and connect our ideas better. As a freelance writer with a rewarding full time career, my mind is constantly racing. Internally I am generating questions and ideas at a rate impossible to capture and connect with what's truly impactful. Pausing versus propelling to act gives me more time to flush out solutions, assess opportunities and appreciate the moment. Taking just a moment to focus on the journey of our professional performance, rather than the destination actually helps with our development and enhances our experience. It's from taking the time to pause that allows us to pinpoint the important parts of our journey. As a result we fail faster and recall steps to success with much more ease.
Connection through Globalization Friends, we are truly more connected that I thought. Friedman builds a timeline of the technological advancements and highlights that make your colleague on the other side of the planet feel like your offices are in the same building. Gone are the days in which we consume information and keep it for competitive advantage. Today we advance by contributing to the conversation. Thanks to these advancements bringing us closer together, we can contribute at unprecedented levels. The knowledge of the greater collective is what moves our culture forward. I’ve been wrestling with this idea of consumption vs contribution. I’ve dreamed of being a writer my entire life. After spending the better part of last year reading 112 books, I realized my desire to share all I’d learned was also a responsibility to contribute to the collective from which I’d learned so much. Thus, making the decision to become a freelance writer a no brainer. We all have thoughts, ideas, passions to contribute. Think of all the platforms in which you consume information, art, entertainment, peace or connection. The simple acquisition of content is no longer enough, we are truly enhanced and making steps toward advancing when we apply what we learn and share it with others.
Stop Ignoring the “Black Elephants” in Life. Turns out, there are some dangerous effects with "the power of many”, like climate change. Friedman shares the definition of the “black elephant” on p.158 of this book: “A black elephant, it was explained to be by the London-based investor and environmentalist Adam Sweden, is a cross between a black swan-a rare, low-probability, unanticipated event with enormous ramifications-and the elephant in the room: a problem that is widely visible to everyone, yet that no one wants to address, even though we absolutely know that one day it will have vast, black-swan-like-consequences.” This black elephant concept is in reference to climate change in the book. It immediately caused me to think of the black elephants in my own life and business such as the professional relationships I need to cultivate, causes that are important to me like literacy, health care, racial, social, and economic equality. There are small decisions that will lead to larger moments later on in life. In the book, Friedman shares 4 phrases in climate change that are basically red flags:
- Just a few years ago…but then something changed
- Wow, I’ve never seen that before
- Well, usually, but now I don’t know anymore
- We haven't seen something like that since
These are all phrases that if you find yourself saying or thinking in reference to climate change, you should really be doing something. We need to take action at all levels to influence policy making. If the government won’t take action, we still can still influence change in our own practices, with our voice, our vote, and the companies and organizations we support. As for the black elephants in our personal lives, the same steps apply.
Friends, this is a unique age in our lives. We must seize this opportunity to engage with one another and connect like never before. You’ve heard the expression “Start with what you have”. This book is an optimistic reminder that we have so much! We have more resources available to us today than at any other point in history. What will you do with this access? How will you responsibly contribute and leave the world better than you found it and in only a way you can? Take that pause, connect/contribute, and take ownership of those black elephants.
-Jeanita
American Prime Kitchen and Bar is an incredible new restaurant located in Tyson's Corner, VA. American Prime's menu features smoked prime rib, artisan charcuterie, dry aged beef, and mouth watering seafood selections. My friends and I had the pleasure of attending the soft launch of American Prime this weekend. What a cool way to spend Saturday night!
Upon entry to American Prime, I was immediately impressed by the beautiful details and decor. Some of the design features include beautiful brown and white tile floors, gorgeous floor to ceiling wine racks, and built in luxury amenities. One of the most impressive amenities is a private cigar lounge located in the rear of the restaurant and opening soon. The 360 bar also features an extensive wine and cocktail selection listed on iPads.
Now, let me tell you about the incredible meal we had! To start, we asked our server to curate what he felt was the best to offer from the cheese and charcuterie selections. He did an amazing job:
The highlight was the Bresaola Air Dried. It was delicious salty heaven! Other starters we enjoyed were Shrimp Cocktail and a delicious Grilled Octopus. The entree menu was extensive and I was pleased with my choice . I've never meet a seared Ahi Tuna I didn't like and while this is primarily a meat spot, my tuna dish was incredibly executed:
My friends all tasted a bit and I had a some of their entrees which included the New York Strip and Crab Cakes. We all shared a host of side dishes including Crab Mac and Cheese, Cream Spinach, and our favorite: Blue Cheese Au Gratin Potatoes.
Finally we enjoyed a glass of wine at the 360 bar which was HOPPING! While there, we noticed a huge fire pit outside on the patio. It was a beautiful night, so we took our wine outside and enjoyed the fire pit.
I highly recommend American Prime. It's the perfect spot for a special occasion dinner, post work happy hour, or business lunch/dinner (there is a private room with a projector and screen built into the ceiling). American Prime's Managing Partner is Joon Yang and the Executive Chef is Jeff Surma. I dine frequently at Epic Smokehouse which is also managed by Joon and Executive Chef Wayne Halleran and knew I would not be disappointed by their next venture. Well done! Check out the American Prime Website and American Prime Facebook Page. To see details abut my night search the hashtags #americanprimeco and #americanprimetysons on Twitter (@jeanitasmorris) and Instagram (@jeanitamorris).
This Father's Day edition of the View 112 Podcast my sister Deaven Taylor comes back and we chat about the impact our Dad had on our lives as professional women.
Here I share the courses, books, and podcasts I'm into this summer for my personal and professional development.
Jeanita and Patrick discuss Simon Sinek's book Together is Better, leadership, and the 2017 NBA Finals.
I believe in the power of words. I am an eternal advocate of reading as it has truly changed my life. Listen today as I share how reading has shaped my life first as a young girl, then a professional and now as a writer. Reading is truly one of the great loves of my life. This is my ode to reading here on the View 112 Podcast.
The Renaissance Hotel Brand is finding cool, new ways to connect with business travelers. This week, I experienced it first hand. Renaissance Hotels hosted the 6th Annual Global Day of Discovery at all of their locations world wide. I was invited to cover the event at the Renaissance Arlington Capital View in Arlington, VA.
The hotel had a cool idea to create a pop up speakeasy just a few feet away from it’s restaurant, Socci. Many of the guests I met were frequent business travelers and received a letter from the GM inviting them to the event. Once guests arrived at the door there was a secret passcode “BLINDPIG” and a statue of a blind folded blue pig was at the door. It was kinda cute.
Once inside, guests got to sample food and drinks from vendors located in the Washington Metropolitan Area (MD, DC, VA). Such a cool way to introduce business travelers to a taste of DC! Here were the vendors that made this event delicious:
Flying Dog Brewery
Metropolitan Meat Poultry and Seafood
Palmyra Farms
Coastal Sunbelt Produce
Kogiya Korean BBQ
Cotton and Reed
Stachoski Old World Charcuterie and Sausages
Socci
Barboursville Winery
A highlight of the event was listening to the live band Marlee in the Mixx. They were excellent! Perfect for the afterwork crowd looking to unwind and connect with a few bites and sips. On the topic of sips, I met Jason from the Barboursville Winery in Barboursville, Virginia. I could not get enough of their Octagon Red Blend! Not only did I taste several of their amazing wines, Jason shared with me details about the layout of the vineyard. Looks like I will need to plan a trip there this fall as the place is fabulous and quite picturesque.
Overall the night was fun and the event was a success. I was able to cover the event, network, dance, and enjoy great food and drink. Thanks to Renaissance Hotels for the experience (personal and professional). For more info on the Global Day of Discovery, check out these hashtags on Twitter: #businessunusal #renhotels #renarlington
Special Guest Deaven Taylor (my sister) and I discuss how my mom's entrepreneurial ventures influenced is as teens and now adults.
I am THRILLED to announce the View 112 Summer of Business Books Reading Challenge!
Guys. You know how much I love to read. This summer I want to encourage you to join me in reading a business book in June, July, and August. That's right, I want to read 3 business books with you this summer. I've been working my way through the business isle at my local book store and I think I've got just the right combination. My goal is for us to leave Summer 2017 better in our careers and businesses. When you sign up for the Summer of Business Books Reading Challenge you will receive exclusive updates from me each week, info on opportunities to engage with other people doing the challenge, and gain perspective from others with like minded goals to be better in business this summer. I'm excited to engage with you around these books, learn what you are doing differently, and build together. My vision is to cultivate a virtual book club of fun, goal getters!
I am reaching out to the 3 authors to encourage a "Tweet the Author" event. Hopefully they will join us. I'd love to get their perspective.
Sign up for the View 112 Summer of Business Books Reading Challenge here: https://www.view112.com/view-112-summer-of-business-books-challenge/
-Jeanita
While sharing a few personal stories, I discuss 4 ways to advance in your career or business
A dear friend of mine gifted me this awesome book Writer with a Day Job: Inspiration & Exercise to Help Your Craft a Writing Life Alongside Your Career. The author Aine Greaney is a writing coach and has several books and other published works. I love getting books as gifts and as soon as I saw this title, I lit up immediately. So far, I’ve the read the book twice. As a professional with a full time job and launching a writing business, I found this book’s content relevant and inspiring. This book has helped me:
1. Set goals for freelance writing. I am a goal digger so this section of the book really resonated with me. Setting lofty goals, executing, and analyzing results is a big part of what I do in my day job. I think as a freelancer, specialty for something creative like writing, its been tough for me to quantify success. Examples of writing goals include: mapping out a writing plan, how much writing I want to accomplish (words/pages), target editors/publications, and revenue generated.
2. Get writing done anywhere and anytime. I am often on the go and have access to technology such as an Mac, iPad, and my iPhone. The book give examples of how writers find time to write. One of Aine’s students wrote the first draft of his novel in his car during his lunch break. That’s right…wrote a book people. This got me thinking about how I easily find time to read. I read 112 books last year because I always had a book with me and during any moment of free time, I’d whip that sucker out and read. So I create that same experience now with my computer or iPad. I’m getting better at tuning things out and writing anywhere just like I used to read anywhere.
- This book is full of writing exercises to help me practice. Some of my favorite exercises from this book: 1. look at a resume and a create fictional character about who this person must be. 2. write an introduction of how you would introduce yourself to a stranger. 3. write the scene of the audience at your book launch party (love this one).
4. Proofread and revise better. I’m in the process of going through older posts and making corrections. This section gave me the idea to freshened up content from 112books.com. The tips in this book have helped me remix and freshen up old work for book reviews. This section also talks about patience. I need that in life certainly, but also with my writing. As a side hustler, I have limited time and need patience with myself to produce my absolute best work. I cannot just write and post, I need to proof read and revise. That takes patience.
These are just a few of the goodies I got from reading Writer with a Day Job by Aine Greaney. Though my passion is writing, I think some of these tips could be followed by many creative types out there.
-J
Not all side hustles are born due to lack of job satisfaction. Here are tips to loving both.
Crystal City 5k Fridays are sponsored by Pacers Running and are held every Friday in the month of April. I participated in the final 5k Friday for 2017. While I had fun (in hindsight), the run was not nearly as easy as I anticipated.
I went with a friend who has not run a 5K race before. After reading about my experience on getting fitted for running shoes at Pacers, he went, got fitted, and was ready to run. Shortly before the race started we discussed a quick game plan. We would stick together and I would keep the pace for both of us. He was looking to maintain an 11 min mile pace. Here is where I will share the disclaimer I should have clearly expressed to him: I have not gone for a 5k run outside since September 2016, about 7 months ago as verified by my Nike+Run Club app. Yes I have been training using the Nike+Run Club app, but for very short runs (1-2 miles) on the treadmill. I thought this run was gonna be just fine.
Soon as the race began, we kept a great pace and completed mile 1 in about 10:32 seconds. Mile 1 felt comfortable, but I knew we were pacing a bit quicker than the 11 min mile goal. I decided at the one mile mark, we should take a walk break. Why did I do that? Once we started taking walk breaks, I couldn’t stop. We went another half mile then I needed to walk again. Another half mile and I needed to walk again. At this point, I am desperate for the 2 mile flag marker. We turned a corner and saw people making a loop and got excited about the 2 mile marker being close. Turned out the loop was a bit deceiving as it was about .4 miles further than I thought. When we turned that corner and saw how much further the loop marker was, I was crushed. That caused me to walk again. I was exhausted! We completed mile 2 in 11:31 seconds. The final 1.1 miles were a struggle, especially for me. I feel like I could only run maybe .2 miles before needing to walk. I could not control the pace any longer. I was basically sprinting to improve time and then walking to catch my breath. My left foot started to go numb which has never happened to me before and I had this shooting pain in my left leg. It was crazy. We finished the 5k in just under 39 mins (according to my Nike+RunClub app). I was shooting for about 33 mins to call the run a hit.
Looking back, it was still fun but man did I feel like I was on the struggle bus. The crowd was sizable and a mixed bag of runners of all ages and fitness levels. Pacers had little booths with shoes to try out for the race. Also local restaurants offered a free drink when you provided a ticket clipped to your race bib. I'm motivated by this hard run to get back outside and train. Running that 5k race also reminded me how much running is about mental discipline. I thought I would wake up sore today, but I'm fine. Which makes me wonder how much of yesterday's struggle was all in my head and not my body. Hmmmm. At any rate, its time to upgrade my Spring Training plan. I want to run another 5k or maybe even a 10k in the fall and compare my progress.
We all start off as rookies at some point in our career. Often times over and over again. Here are some tips to make the most of it.
Genius or Hard Work? Cue Allen Iverson: “We talking bout practice?”
This book makes a compelling case about the value and benefit of hard work. Psychologist and author Angela Duckworth profiles subjects from all walks of life: sports, business, education and more. Think of all those people thriving at the top of their game-you may be surprised at how they really got there. This book argues a particular factor that separates those who excel and those who do not. Excellent vs Average could possibly be boiled down to one trait: grit.
I picked up this book because I believed that I was a “gritty” person…until I “met” some of the subjects in this book. Additionally, I took the “grit test” and didn’t get the score I thought I would. This study gives true examples of grit and achievement in excellence. I’m confident I have not achieved levels of success or excellence myself due to some of the very points raised in this book. Good news is you can grow grit, through perseverance of course.
One of my favorite people profiled in the book is Pete Carroll, head coach of the Seattle Seahawks. Now, I’m not a fan of the Seahawks. (Get your life-HTTR all day!) Still, after reading Pete’s approach to competing, grit, and winning. I’m a big fan of his philosophy.
Looking to be motivated? Think you’re pretty gritty? Think you could use some work in the perseverance department? All great reasons to pick up this fantastic book!
Stay Tuned is the debut short film from director Dion Dove and AmberDawn Productions. The film features the hilarious adventures of newly formed friends Freddy and his wingman Love. Stay Tuned pays homage to the Greater Washington, DC area which serves as the backdrop to the film. Everything from the music to the language is a nod to Maryland/District of Columbia. The characters were the strength of the film and this cast brilliantly brought them to life. All of the characters in the movie are truly relatable. They are seriously someone you know: a friend, brother, cousin, girlfriend. I laughed loudly countless times or said “mmmhmm” repeatedly during the 25 min film. Since I felt like I knew these characters, I wanted to follow along as they made the next move. When the film came to an end, I immediately wanted Dion to finish telling us their story. I could have watched a whole feature film. Stay Tuned is the laugh out loud, entertaining film about fun times between two friends. Dion has the talent to develop and tell all types of stories people want to see.
Last night I attended the debut of Stay Tuned at the AFI Theater in Silver Spring, MD. After the screening, there was a panel discussion (a la Inside the Actor’s Studio style) with director, Dion Dove, and 6 members of the cast. While I enjoyed hearing about how the film came to life and the hard work behinds the scenes, I was riveted to learn even more about Dion as a film maker. I went to high school with Dion Dove and our colleges were less than 20 mins away. As an adult, I know of him via social media and mutual friend chat. I could not be more proud of the professional Dion is today. Last night I learned Dion completed his Stay Tuned project while working a full time job. His family, close friends, and cast shared stories of how long Dion has been pursuing his passion of film making. Though its been a long journey, the night was so incredible. People close to Dion got to witness the moment his dream was actualized. For me, that was the best part of the night. The humility and gratefulness Dion showed to the sold out screening (2 of them) was quite touching. As a side hustler myself, I could only image how alive he must have felt debuting his project. Congrats to you my friend. I am so inspired.
Dion post screening
The cast of Stay Tuned.
Jeanita, Dion, and my best friend Kumiah. Kumiah's known Dion since elementary school.
One of my favorite books I read last year during my 112 Books Reading Challenge was 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do by Amy Morin. A friend picked out this book for me. Immediately intrigued by the title, I knew this would be a book I wanted to give my undivided attention. For that reason, I saved it to read on a trip to Miami. I LOVED all 13 chapters, the ones that really spoke to me are bolded:
- They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry For Themselves
- They Don’t Give Away Their Power
- They Don’t Shy Away from Change
- They Don’t Focus On The Things They Can’t Control
- They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone
- They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks
- They Don’t Dwell On the Past
- They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over
- They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success
- They Don’t Give Up After the First Time
- They Don’t Fear Alone Time
- They Don’t Feel The World Owes Them Anything
- They Don’t Expect Immediate Results
A few themes that spoke to me were patience and fear. In the chapter 4, it discusses fear being a reason why we feel the need to control things. I've learned when I feel afraid it manifests itself in several ways: worry, procrastination, micro-managing, indecision, and overworking. I never thought of the whys behind needing to feel in control of most situations. It also never occurred to me how liberated I could feel if I simply relinquished the need to micro manage the details of my life.
Chapter 13 dives deeper in to patience, specifically all of the things linked to lack of patience. One thing I'm still working on is the mistake of overvaluing instant gratification. I want it DONE…yesterday…in stellar fashion…all the time. Over the years, I've gotten better and have learned to focus on the journey. An important part of that journey, is also the failures that lead to success. I can think of tearfully, painful failures that have directly impacted some of the accomplishments for which I am most proud. Thinking more about lack of patience got me thinking about how many relationships (personal or professional) I’ve severed too soon. Furthermore, I'm grateful for the people in my life that had a bit more patience with me when I've been close to impossible in my drive for results. Yeah...patience is still a thing for me.
13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do is the read for when you are looking to control your emotions and have mental toughness. Again, it is one of my favorite books. Check it out.
In this episode I discuss the process in defining my brand as a professional and finding my voice and brand as a writer.
Hi and welcome to Episode 8 of the View 112 Podcast. Between those of you who listen to the podcast on line at View112.com or those of you who read the show notes, I appreciate the support! Today is Saturday April 1st! We are officially done with 1 quarter of 2017. The topic for today's podcast is 2017 Q1 Review.
This year, I took a different approach to my New Year's Resolutions and planning. I did set goals for the year, but I also mapped out a quarterly plan. I changed my approach because I noticed at the end of 2016, there were some goals I set for myself that I didn't accomplish or had not even thought about doing, mostly because I didn't have a plan. I spent the last quarter of the year trying to see if I could hit the target on some of the goals I set way back in the beginning of the year. I didn't feel good trying to play catch up so I decided to make a change. For the most part, setting quarterly goals has been a hit. I set high level goals like: write more, keep in shape, complete school, improve finances, and take care of my health. I mapped out Quarter 1 with a list of to-dos and ideas.
January: Register for school, complete whole 30, book all medical appointments (eye, dentist, physical, gyn, therapist), file divorce paperwork, complete 1 blog post per week for 112Books.com, and 112 Book Drive?
February: Prep for big move at work, stay strong in class work with discussion boards, yoga/beach body/run/bike (wellness challenge at work), complete 1 blog post per week, consider home buying options and lower car payment, build professional network, consider Paleo.
March: Keep focused with school work, prep for lenten season, game plan summer semester, 1-2 blog posts per week. Running plan/bike plan/yoga, decide if moving (lease is up), sharpen writing skills (maybe a class), and Women's History Month (consider advocacy and literacy activities)
Some highlights to note: 1. I did not really picture View 112 (blog or podcast) being a thing so this has been quite the experience. Through it all I have posted 2 times a week, for which I am very proud. This and my school work has helped sharpen my writing skills a bit. Still, I do need to work on more professional development in this area. 2. I did improve my financial outlook by slightly lowering my car payment, getting out of a bad loan, and getting a new car in the process. I also negotiated and renewed my lease for one more year, 3. I have maintained my physical fitness with spinning yoga, and started a new running plan a couple of weeks ago, and 4. I am wrapping up 2 classes toward my degree: Human Resource Management, and Entrepreneur Venture Planning. In the past, I have often registered for classes and then mid semester when things get crazy at work, I drop the classes. Not this time. Ya girl has been, not just hanging in there, but thriving. Trending for As in both classes.
Obviously there are some things that didn't get done. I will incorporate them into my Q2 Champagne Wishes and Caviar Dreams for Spring: 1. I didn't take care of all of my medical appointments. I did go to the eye doctor and the dentist in March. I still need to get my annual physical and GYN exam. Which leads me to 2. My eating habits are kind of a problem. Sloppy. Still working out fairly regularly, but my diet is a mess. Whole 30 was an epic fail in January. I didn't make it past my birthday. 3. I would not say I've built my professional network though I am pleased with some of the advances I've made professionally. I need to join a writing group, conference, MeetUp or something in this space as a freelancer. You know, just be around other people who do this. Plus View 112 is totally different than 112 Books and I need to upgrade my plans and goals to match the expectations I have for this new platform. At work, I'll be celebrating 5 years (2 in my current role) in May and haven't expanded my network to collaborate or work with anyone new in at least a year. 4. About that divorce paperwork...yeah I need to get to it.
Looking back like this helps me see my progress but also identify what I need to do in Q2. At this pace I will accomplish a lot more in 2017 than I did in 2016.
So how about you? Where are you with your 2017 resolutions, goals, plans? Would you benefit from a quarterly strategy and review? Here's what it looked like when I mapped it out in late December. I'm working on that Q2/Q3 update now:
First Draft of 2017 Quarterly Plan...
Are we all so busy? Or do we simply not care enough to do what is inconvenient? I'm the first to concede that I have a lot going on in my life. Still, this past week alone, I've found time to go to work, the dentist, run a few miles, read, write, do school work, and go out to dinner on 3 different occasions. What I failed to prioritize? Attending a community service event I was invited to (a pro literacy event by the way) or take time to even notice that THIRTY FOUR girls from Washington, DC are missing.
After the election I vowed to be more of an activist politically, in my community, and for situations that are important to me. Since that declaration, I've received so many invitations to serve others (hello law of attraction!) and I have not. shown. up. I'm bothered with myself. I am going to start acting on these opportunities. First up, a friend from college invited me to a career day at a school to speak and then to meet with several young ladies to mentor. Uplifting and connecting with young ladies is so motivating for me. Girl power is contagious and amazing.
Still, I'm annoyed that I don't take action quicker. All day long there are causes and situations that require very little of me to act, give money, say something, or do something and I don't all in the name of being busy. Then the guilt sticks with me. Am I alone in feeling like this? I don't think so . Recently, I saw a commercial from State Farm insurance that perfectly captures how I feel:
Let's turn caring into doing. Visit http://NeighborhoodofGood.com to find volunteer opportunities in your community. Causes include education, health care, homelessness, veterans, animals and many others. Download Joy Williams' cover of "Don't Let Me Down" on these music services. A portion of proceeds will go to charity.
Are you finding time to give back and serve others? If so, how? Or are you more like me, struggling to commit? If so, what are you going to do about it?
For those unfamiliar, I am taking classes toward my undergraduate degree in Management Studies. One of the classes I am taking is Entrepreneurship and New Venture Planning. For this class I had an assignment to interview an entrepreneur and I interviewed DJ Lady B. Bee Wood hails from Nashville, TN and was inspired to DJ at very young age. DJ Lady B also created the beat to the into of the View112 podcast. Bee and I discuss freelancing and entrepreneurship through the following questions:
How did you get started in Deejaying?
How did you find the confidence to enter a male dominated arena?
What has been the biggest obstacle as a freelancer/entrepreneur?
Do you use any productivity tools or apps for time management?
How do you attract clients?
What advice do you have for negotiating contracts?
What advice do you have for someone scared to pursue entrepreneurship?
For the month of March, my workout routine has been MIA. I'm very much a person who thrives when I have a routine and game plan. As a true fair weather runner, I've spent the bulk of winter at Soul Cycle and Core Power Yoga. Now that spring is here (at least in my mind), I am ready to jump back into my running routine. I started a running plan on the Nike+Run Club app. This training plan will prep me for 5k Fridays in Crystal City (where I live). 5k Fridays happen every Friday in April and I want to be ready! For cross training, I'm going to ride my bike and strength train. Stay tuned as I share with you my progress. A little late in the game, but I'm serious about this summer body!
What's your spring training plan?
A few reasons we (yes, we) don’t go and pursue our dreams: 1. fear of not getting it right 2. timing and 3. concerned we are going to make a mistake and people are going to judge us. Well I have news.
We will make mistakes and people will judge.
Now that we’ve acknowledged that, how can we fail and then move forward?
You will learn from the mistake and the judgement. The criticism will help you be better. I want to share a story with you. The day I dreaded the most in college was Wednesday. Wednesday was the day in my creative writing class in which we were forced to share our assignments to the class. As a sophomore, taking this class with mostly juniors and seniors, I was intimidated by my talented classmates. These same talented people whose work I admired would be providing me feedback on my work. All the feedback made my pieces better for sure. Still the day before critique days would keep me up at night. My professor suggested I attend and participate in the local open mic night. Her theory was to build stronger tolerance to feedback and judgement. The additional element of judgement from strangers instead of my classmates was unnerving. I went from participating in open mic night my sophomore year, to hosting open mic night my junior year. The process made me not only comfortable receiving criticism, but craving the feedback to get better. Sure, there were harsh comments and times I felt misunderstood. Those feelings were significantly outweighed by the times I got so much help and support. Thinking back, I was such a stronger writer in college thanks to the repetition of writing and then facing the regular critique of my work. Its a process I am trying to reproduce here to rebuild that muscle. Publicly learning a new skill set like podcasting and blogging surely will attract judgement and criticism.
I’ve been thinking a lot about that bright 19 year old girl in college and how I’m a bit different today. I’ve allowed some setbacks and failures over the last 20 years to dim that light just a bit. I’ve lost some of that 19 year old bravery that propels you to be risky without regard of failure and then the rewards that come from that. I think about how many times I’ve hesitated to try something out of fear of making a mistake and the judgement that will follow. Going forward I will draw from 19 year old me. The 19 year old that was fearless. I want to be the kind of person and writer that would amaze her.
What’s holding you back from what you need to do today?
I read chef Marcus Samuelsson's memoir Yes, Chef last year during my 112 Books Challenge. Of all 112 Books, I ranked his memoir in the Top 12. Recently chef Samuelsson opened a restaurant in the MGM Resort and Casino at National Harbor. My great friend invited me to go for a very post-birthday girls lunch.
The menu was mouth watering and the cocktail/wine list was quite extensive. For appetizers were ordered the shrimp cocktail and crab dip gratin. Shrimp cocktail is a fairly straight forward dish, and this was the best shrimp cocktail I've ever had. The shrimp were quite large and served with a dip that was a remoulade topped with cocktail sauce. The crab gratin was served bubbly hot and was creamy, delicious and filled with lots of crab. So good. At the last minute before ordering entrees, my friend adds cornbread. That too was pretty great. It was moist and the flavor was great.
For my entree, I got the highly recommend chicken and waffles. Unlike any other chicken and waffles I've ever had. Allow me to build this for you. The waffle was large, fluffy and smelled of vanilla with a drizzle of syrup. This waffle was topped with fried chicken that was drizzled with mumbo sauce. Let me say that again. Mumbo...Sauce. I lived! The dished was finished off with shaved, pickled daikon. It was beyond. My friend had the shrimp and grits and proclaimed that the grits were the best she'd ever had.
The food was so incredible that I purchased the chef's cookbook of his other restaurant, Red Rooster in Harlem. I got the last signed copy! I highly recommend Marcus at MGM National Harbor. Let me know if you check it out. I'll be sure to share my experience with the cookbook.
-J
Can't wait to try some recipes!
I am finally getting close to graduation! For those unfamiliar, I am pursuing a degree in Management Studies at University of Maryland University College. This has been quite a long journey. I attended Hampton University in 1996-2000 and failed my year-long senior thesis as an English major. I got a job in the summer of 2000 and never enrolled at Hampton again. Failing my senior thesis was quite devastating at that time as it was the first major failure of my life. The feelings of that still haunt me a bit today even though I have gone on to accomplish far more than I could image. Over the course of time, life, and 2 changes in major I am getting close to finishing. While this has been quite the ordeal, I'd like to share a couple benefits:
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I am learning relevant information in my field. For example, this semester I am taking 2 classes that directly impact my performance at work and as freelancer writer: HRMN 300: Human Resource Management and BMGT 330: Entrepreneurship and New Venture Planning. While I do appreciate all of the literature I read in college, Williams Shakespeare & Faulkner do not help me at work today. I've taken business writing, sales, and marketing courses that have proven far more advantageous for me professionally.
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My employers have financed my education. One of the main reasons I didn't return to Hampton? It was too expensive to do a 5th year of student loans. My parents paid a pretty penny for me to go to college for 4 years. The plan was 4 years, graduate, and get a job. I have worked for 3 different employers over the years all of which have had tuition reimbursement as a benefit used to finance my education. The requirement is the courses need to relate to work. Since I've worked in 3 different industries over the years, I've changed my major but stillI feel as though I've learned things that apply directly to the business climate of today.
To be honest, I hate that I'm still in this process. Nevertheless, I am determined to finish. I'm mostly looking forward to graduation because I would like to move on to another degree and to seriously begin my next goal of becoming multilingual. I am a life long student so I do have the right attitude about all of this. I want to encourage someone out there thinking maybe earning a college degree is not a realistic goal in your 30s or 40s. I assure you, it still is. In my classes I meet students from all walks of life. Parents, service men/women, and professionals of all ages. Check me out as I continue to thrive at work, build my writing business, and complete my degree.
-J
My last podcast episodes: Be a Doer and Focus on the Work sparked my first listener question!
What best practices do you have for a person wanting to try something new and stuck in the research phase of a project?
- The Research Phase. You can always tell my interests or opportunities based on what I am reading. Literally everything from running to recipes, I've read several books on subjects in which I need more information. I think there needs to be a balance between books and articles. Books go in detail and you can find varying opinions. The thing about books is depending on the industry, the information can grow outdated. MagazInes and online articles will give you the latest and greatest information. I love a balance of both. I would like to caution: you cannot live in the research phase forever. You have to start DOING things…which brings me to
- Experiment. The example I gave about this before is with this podcast. I have listened to many podcasts. I have done research about podcasting. I understand conceptually what I want to achieve via a podcast platform, but until I actually start podcasting, I will have no idea what I’m really doing. Learning through experimenting is vital. You can learn from mistakes you don’t want to make again. I’ve also learned from feedback. Just in the first 4 episodes, I’ve received a lot of feedback that make my podcasts better. Feedback, brings be to my final point:
- Seek counsel/mentorship. Is there someone excelling at what you are looking to do? Ask for help. People really do love helping people. One of my favorites thoughts around this is from The Alchemist “And when you want something, the universe conspires in helping you achieve it”. When you seek, help, people will help you in ways you never imagined. When I started the 112 books challenge, not only did I get over 300 book titles, I got actual books to read too. To this day, people still give me titles. When I said I wanted to be serious about my writing, I had friends help me with my wevsite and the pdocast. All because they wanted to see me be successful.
This past weekend, I went car shopping. Just to give you some immediate background, this was the 3rd time I've been in the market to purchase a car. Of all three times, this was the most stressful. When you know better, you do better and there was a lot of pressure I put on myself to do better. You see, the first time I purchased a car in 2009, I paid cash for a 2005 Jeep Grand Cherokee. I loved that truck and had it for 6 years. In 2015, I financed my first car which was a 2012 Acura MDX. To be honest, it wasn't my preferred purchase but more of a compromise purchase. Still, it was the first deal I negotiated and financed on my own. I left the dealership feeling proud and accomplished. A little more than a year later when faced with the opportunity to refinance, I made the decision to car shop instead.
Saturday I left my apartment with a vehicle carrying about 6k in negative equity and a steep car note. I've always been an SUV person and did some research about new SUVs on the market. I had plans to look at Cherokees, Rouges, and other small to midsize SUVs. My first stop to a Jeep dealership proved to be a bit underwhelming because of the price of Jeep Grand Cherokee and I was not initially impressed with the Cherokee or other models of smaller SUVs.
Not knowing what I truly wanted after that, I went to a CarMax dealership. The goal in going to CarMax was to look at as many different makes/models as possible. I left CarMax not knowing at all what I wanted. I even entertained getting a car (in lieu of SUV) by the time I left. After trying so many cars, I felt strongly that I was still interested in the ol faithful; Jeep Grand Cherokee.
When I arrived at the second Jeep dealership, I test drove a Jeep Grand Cherokees and loved it. The numbers however did not help my financial situation. I should note I went looking to purchase a used Grand Cherokee and was encouraged by the dealer to get a new car due to the rebates that could dramatically reduce the price of the car. This was an attractive option with all the negative equity on my 2012 Acura MDX. I was counseled by a friend to ensure that I get top dollar for my current car and negotiate an amazing price on the new car. I was anxious about my ability to accomplish both.
At first the dealer quoted me 16k on my Acura, a light quote in my opinion. The Kelly Blue Book value on my car was anywhere from 20-17k. I did have a dent in my car from scraping it on the garage wall. It was rusted and kind of ugly but not 3k worth in trade value ugly. I could tell my dealer really wanted to sell me a car because when it was all said and done, I got 18.5k. The sticker price on my new Jeep Cherokee was 34k and I got it for 27k (7 grand off sticker price). That pricing naturalized the negative equity of my Acura. In the end, after speaking to 3 different finance mangers, I got a brand new car, with way more bells and whistles, and a cheaper car note. Here are my life lessons:
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Trust your gut. When I purchased my Acura, there were signs that I should have given it a bit more thought. I also wasn't head over heels about the actual car.
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Don't let "them" pressure you. You are the only person paying that car note. Get the deal you want on the car you want...no matter what they say.
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Negotiate. Don't be deterred and be willing to walk away.
Many thanks to the 2nd Jeep dealership, Lustine Chrysler Dodge Jeep RAM. Everyone from my sales person to the finance team (yep 3 of them) made sure I was comfortable with my purchase. I test drove many (seriously like 5) different Jeeps and cars. I own a new car, a cheaper car note, killer maintenance package, and kissed that 6k in negative equity goodbye.
The 100th book I read during the 112 Books reading challenge was Ego is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday. There is a line in the chapter titled "Talk Talk Talk" that caused me to evaluate how I do things. Here is the quote: “It’s a temptation that exists for everyone-for talk and hype to replace action.” p.24
How often do we talk about things we have yet to do? You see, up until that moment in my book challenge, I would take a picture of me with the book and share it on social media. I'd say I'm going to read this or #currentlyreading. People would ask me what it was about or if it was a good book and I couldn’t respond. My blog posts were also shallow because I wasn’t ready to review a book I had not read. Going forward, I decided to read a book, write a blog post reviewing the book, and then share on social media. I had so much more insight and could connect with people better. That small simple change made all the difference.
Allow me to share why this simple shift was huge for me. In the sales world we are all about forecasting, setting lofty goals, competing and bragging. To simply shut up, put your head down, do the work and THEN share the work is not the way I’ve gone about my life professionally. Everyone wants to know what you are “working on” and how you foresee executing something. If I am honest there is a part of me that likes the validation I get. I like when people are excited to see what I am reading. Talking trash motivates me and makes me accountable to what I’m about to do. But I’ve found greater rewards as of late from focusing on the work. I still get the validation but now with better results.
This week I got a suggestion to throw a party for the launch of View112.com and the View 112 Podcast. The idea was to help showcase my work and market the platform. My immediate response was meet with surprise: absolutely not I said. I went on to explain 2 reasons why:
- I don’t believe I’ve accomplished anything worth celebrating. I’ve invested some money into a website that is less than a month old and recorded 3 podcasts. What is the party about? In Ego is the Enemy, Holiday warns that by celebrating or telling people about your aspirations early, you could fool yourself into believing they are already accomplishments.
- If you are going to build a tall stage and cast a wide spotlight, you better put on a killer show! I’ve run a company before and I am a pretty good sales person. My biggest mistake as a business owner in the past is to drum up business that my team was not prepared to handle. I did not have a good production plan in place to accommodate orders causing a lot of stress on my team and failed delivery times for my customers. I need to have strong content, posting schedule, and delivery in place.
Trust me when it is time to party, I will be there with my dress and champagne! I just want to make sure I’ve done the work.
How often do you talk about things you have yet to do? What will you do differently?
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr on Coretta Scott King: "Coretta proved to be the type of wife with qualities to make a husband when he could have been so easily broken. In the darkest of moments, she always brought the light of hope....If I had not had a wife with the fortitude, strength, and calmness of Coretta, I could not have withstood the ordeals and tensions."
Coretta Scott King on herself: "In my first book, My Life with Martin Luther King Jr., my focus was on my husband, a man who paid the ultimate price for his commitment to creating a better world. At that time, I felt very strongly that the book had to be about Martin. Now I am turning the page...There is a Mrs. King. There is also Coretta. How one became detached from the other remains a mystery to me. I am proud to have been a wife, a single parent, and a leader. But I am more than a label. I am also Coretta. In reading this memoir, I hope you somehow see Coretta."
I instantly began signing Beyonce: "I took some time to live my life. But don't think I'm just is little wife. Don't get it twisted, get it twisted..." Yaaaasssss!
Coretta Scott King was more than a widow. While she was the amazing wife of an incredible man and civil rights leader, she was a leader, activist, and change maker in her own right. She championed for civil rights, women's rights, gay's rights, nonviolence, freedom, and human dignity. With all going on in the world today, we can all draw strength from her perseverance as she did this all while raising four children.
Coretta I respect and salute you for your contribution.
One of the best things things I did this week was reread the book of Love Poems written by the amazing Nikki Giovanni. In undergrad at Hampton University, I was an English major. Our department hosted a writer's series in which amazing writers such as Nikki Giovanni, Gloria Naylor, and Maya Angelou came to campus. These events were incredible. Each time I brought a book with me hoping to get it autographed, but no such luck. Nikki Giovanni did several readings including "All Eyes on U" her ode to the recently slain Tupac Shakur. That was 20 years ago in 1997, and I was all of 19 years old. As I young, eager writer I sat in awe listening and inspired. For the last few years, I've made it a habit to read Love Poems by Nikki Giovanni on Valentine's Day. This year on Instagram I shared on of my favorites:
I Take Mastercard (charge Your Love to Me)I've heard the stories
'bout how you don't deserve me
'cause I'm so strong and beautiful and wonderful and you could
never live up to what you know I should have but I just want to let you know:
I take Master Card
You can love me as much as your heart can stand
then put the rest on
account and pay the interest
each month until we get this thing settled
You see we modern women do comprehend
that we deserve a whole lot more
than what is normally being offered but we are trying
to get aligned with the modern world
So baby you can love me all
you like 'cause you're pre-approved
and you don't have to sign on
the bottom line
Charge it up
'til we just can't take no more
it's the modern way
I take Master Card
to see your Visa
and I deal with a Discovery but I don't want any American
Express 'cause like the Pointer Sisters say: I need a slow hand.
Nikki Giovanni
Welcome to the View 112 Podcast! I am Jeanita Morris. For my birthday (1/12), I've decided to give podcasting a try.
Letter penned by Coretta Scott King in opposition to the confirmation of Jeff Sessions to the federal district court in Alabama.
Sir/Madam: you have time to read! When completing my 112 Books reading challenge, I was often asked by busy professionals, parents (single and married), students, and people from all walks of life the same question: How do you have time to read? The answer is simple. I make time to read. Don't worry, I'm not going to be completely snide. I have tips I will share here in a moment. Fundamentally however, I have time to read because I make it priority. We all have time to do things that are important to us. I am appalled when I learn that grown, literate men and women walk around in this world and haven't read a book in years, sometimes decades. That extra income you seek, edge in your professional life, or obstacle you've been trying to overcome could all be lying in the next thing you read. When I read 112 books in 1 year, I consumed books from all genres. I gained a little more insight about myself and life from each and every one of them. Now, I'm not saying you need to read 112 books in a year. In fact, I'm not sure I'd do that again. You should however have a reading goal to complete multiple reads in a year. At least a book a month in my opinion. Here are a few things that helped me read 112 books in a year:
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Always have something to read. I have books with me all the time (physical books and digital books on my iPad). There are so many moments in a day that can be under utilized if you allow it. Standing in line, pumping gas, waiting for an appointment, cooking dinner, commuting to work (if you take public transit), kicking it by the pool, during commercials of football games are all times I've picked up a book and gone through a few pages.
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Switch up your content. I often read 2 books at the same time. Sounds weird but I do. I'll have a business book and then a lighter read. I alternate books by chapter. I'll start with the business read and when I reach a point that the content is starting to lose me a bit, I switch to the novel. When the story line in the novel is at a low, I switch back to the business book to keep both books fresh for me.
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Commit to a reading block each day. The reading block can be as long an hour or as short as 15 mins. Treat that dedicated block like an appointment, put it on your calendar and commit to keeping it just as you would any other appointment (hair, gym, doctor, professional meeting).
Trust me, I am busy. We all are. If you are looking for ways to create time to read, I hope these helped. Please share with me your tips to make reading a priority.
Love or hate Bill Belichick, one thing is for sure: His system breeds success.After watching “A Football Life: Bill Belichick” on the NFL Network, I knew I wanted to learn more about Belichick and his success. I came across this book, “WAR ROOM: The Legacy of Bill Belichick and the Art of Building the Perfect Team”
“War Room” chronicles the work of Bill Belichick and his way of acquiring talent to build an NFL empire. Belichick has a skill for putting together a team of not just players, but also scouts and coaches. Many of his former assistant coaches you know, like Charlie Weis, Romeo Crennel, Eric Mangini, and Josh McDaniels. For everyone Belichick has lost to another team, his system is set up so the next man can step right up! What I loved most about this book is how it shows the fine line between business relationships and personal relationships. One example is the fall out between Mangini and Belichick before and most certainly after the Spygate scandal. During this time, the wives and children of these guys remained close, coming over for dinners and sitting together in owner’s suites.
When it comes to utilizing the NFL Draft to build a team, most would agree Bill Belichick is one of the best to ever do it. This year was no different. The Patriots impressed football and draft experts everywhere with their draft selections. This book gives much insight on the Patriots’ way of drafting. One highlight from the book that puts into perspective:
“Their system was based on comparatives, Our Guys vs. the Guys in the Draft, so there were quizzical looks for any scout who described a player as a “first-round pick” or “backup safety”. There was a numerical system in place, with alerts built in so an evaluator could quickly see if a player was height deficient, went to a small school, had an injury history, was a character concern, or had problems picking up schemes. The idea was to find players in the country who had a realistic shot of being better than one of the fifty-three players on the Patriots roster.” Holley, Michael (2011-11-08). War Room: The Legacy of Bill Belichick and the Art of Building the Perfect Team (pp. 109-110). Harper Collins, Inc.. Kindle Edition.
The first half of the book details the Brady/Bledsoe controversy, the first 3 Patriot Superbowl Championships, Spygate, and the 1st Superbowl loss to the Giants after a perfect season in 2007. However, instead of just rehashing history, this book really gives the reader an inside look about how those events unfolded. Again, what I love is the intimate picture of the relationships between coaches, scouts, players, and Belichick.
Even as a huge fan of the game, I know football is a business. Still I get to enjoy the games and season longer than the men involved in this never-ending cycle of the NFL. Before Scott Pioli was the Assistant GM of the Atlanta Falcons, or the GM of the Kansas City Chiefs, he was a front office executive of the New England Patriots. This quote from Pioli (who is also a son-in-law of Bill Parcells) really shows how even in success, one must maintain an “on to the next” mentality. This was Pioli’s feeling after just winning a 3rd Superbowl ring:
“For whatever reason, what stood out more than the parties and parades was the reality of how far behind we were,” Pioli says. “[ Bill and I] missed the Senior Bowl, we missed the East-West game, the Combine’s around the corner, and there’s no time. And the thing is, it’s just this obsession of wanting to have sustained success. One of the regrets is that we didn’t celebrate enough.” Holley, Michael (2011-11-08). War Room: The Legacy of Bill Belichick and the Art of Building the Perfect Team (pp. 117-118). Harper Collins, Inc.. Kindle Edition.
There has been a lot of talk recently about the Spygate Scandal. After reading this book and understanding more about the Patriot way, I believe the Patriots really earned those championships. I also believe the Patriots will be an NFL powerhouse for years to come under this system. Looks like one way or another, the Patriot way will win the Super Bowl this year.
Disclaimer: Yes this book has strong language. If you can move past that, then you will find the even stronger message you need. I’ve heard great things about this book and just as I was about to purchase it, my bestie gave it to me as a gift. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck begins with a not so subtle call to action to stop giving a fuck and pursue the things you need to in life. Sounds like my kind of book right?
While I don’t fully agree with all the concepts in this book (for example I do believe in the power of positivity) I completely agree that there is something to be said for acknowledging the failures and losses in life. Trying to pretend disappointments didn’t happen won’t make them go away any sooner and in fact will delay the inevitable of us coming out on the other side. Or even worse, we repeat the same behaviors that led to the disappointment. Our struggles determine our success. So what are you willing to struggle for?
There is a great section in this book regrading responsibility and ownership. I won’t spoil it for you. I’ll just say it was probably one of my favorites. However, the section I can most relate to: Failure is the way Forward. Mark gives a lot of good examples. I can draw from my own. I’ve started 2 companies and 3 blogs in the last 7 years. I think I’ve earned a total of $2000 bucks (and never mind what I’ve actually spent). I know people are successful at blogging and writing simply because they stayed with it, even through the failures. They outlasted me. I know people who started blogging when I did and their blogs are still up and appear to be thriving. Makes me wonder all the time what would have been had I stayed at my first company or blog 7 years ago. Nonetheless, I’ve also learned from my failures. Every company and blog is better than the last. I am a much better writer and business woman than I was 7 years ago and that is entirely because of my experiences (good and bad). One thing I am proud of is that I keep at it. Which is where Mark’s “do something ” principle kicks in when we are afraid of failure.
Learn to do a better job of dealing with strife in life. You will be better for it. Jeanita “doesn’t care about adversity in the face of her goals.” is a sentence I wrote down from this book. One thing is for sure. This book will challenge the way you think about some things. Which is why I enjoyed reading it. Maybe for you, it will completely sway your opinion For me, I paused a little longer on some points. Still that’s what a good book is supposed to do right?
-J
For obvious reasons, I picked up this book. It was quite witty. Phoebe Robinson dishes on all this social, political, cultural, and pop culture. I don’t agree with all of her opinions (I am Team Mr. Big), but on most serious issues, I hear her loud and clear. I will add her podcast “Two Dope Queens” into my rotation.
I was gifted this very cool book which is a compilation of articles from the "What I've Learned" feature in Esquire Magazine. Profiles from people such as VP Joe Biden, comedian Kevin Hart, and actor Robert De Nero are apart of this collection. With the gift, came the charge to create my own feature. Figured it would be a fun idea for my birthday:
WHAT I'VE LEARNED...Reading is a privilege I am humbled to experience. Over 700 million people (60% of them women) across the world are illiterate. I am a true lover of words. Reading and writing are gifts for which I am grateful.
I want every aspect of my life to be an epic blowout. From small things like dinner or vacation spots, to goals like reading 112 books. If I am involved, I want it to be jaw-dropping. That often comes at a price.
Too much wine is a thing…sadly
Running taught me that with the right discipline my body can do anything.
It takes a village to raise, maintain, love, and deal with me. I thank God everyday for the family and friends that make up JMo's village.
You can do everything right and things can still go wrong. You can be wronged. That's life. It happens. I've learned to move on quicker than I used to. Forgiveness is for you. Forgive yourself and others. Then let that ish go.
Control your emotions.
I truly have the world’s greatest nephews.
Fear can be good when you leverage it to be thorough and prepared. Fear is awful when it leads to inaction.
The real work is not the consumption of information. The real work is in the application of information.
When in doubt…when anxious… even when certain, go to God with all things in prayer.
Keep an open hand. When your hand is open to give, it is also open to receive.
I absolutely love kisses, balloons, infinity pools, sunsets, words, wine, cupcakes, and talking to people.
On failure: Be disappointed. Scratch your head. Cry about it. Reflect for a moment. Then, KEEP GOING!
Having you on this journey with me is a wonderful gift. Thank you!
-J