Two Kids One Doctorate: Recent Episodes
Dr. Zoila Quezada
Two Kids One Doctorate by Dr. Zoila Quezada is about her life as a Latina, first generation, immigrant, parent, ”doctorated” experience.The episodes have a personal story that links nicely to a message of self-improvement in any area of your life. My child asked me why is it called Two Kids One Doctorate if I’m a doctor not a doctorate. Ha! The title reads as people and things that I currently balance: two kids (family) and doctorate (education and professional).
Here I share the signs I've felt during this transitional period and how my nervous system is responding. Tune in and share.
Let's talk about this - 1st generation parent raising 2nd generation children. Their privilege is different because of the access they have to what we are building with them. Our expectations taken from our own childhood experience are unmet because, well, they are part of a different generation. This includes parenting, language, food, culture, privilege, and access to things we didn't have.
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We had a time. These aren't even all of them! I'm so happy to have been able to provide the time this summer to be with my kids. Since they've each been 12 weeks old, they've had to go to day care cause Mom had to head to work, being home with them was definitely a different vibe. Happy to have been able to, listen for more.
Creating this content, the lingering question was, "who are you impostoring"? If we feel like we are a fraud or we are faking it, who are we then? You've worked hard to be where you are and you've earned your place based on your own merit.
This class recording helps you to work on the discovery of the root and source of the self-limiting belief.
This episode lists 4 symptoms of low self-esteem reflected in how we relation and who we relation with.
With your new found confidence you'll learn that there will be people who will be irritated by your new outlook and belief in self. This is not your problem. Remember that it is to others benefit for us to not practice in our most confident state.
Progression of women of color in the workplace remains a challenge. Here I speak on my perspective, provide stats, and action items.
There are episodes I can listen to before posting. I couldn't listen to this one. 2018 was a trying year. At the center of it was the death of my father, divorce, my doctoral journey, motherhood, and work-related betrayal and harm.
I speak on this because I know you can relate to these stories that at the end will make you stronger. You are not alone.
Are you overwhelmed with debt? Or are you happily on the other side and living debt-free? Phew, what a journey, to get to debt-free! Learning through trial and error and aspiring to do things differently while gaining the tools to make a change.
Are you feeling like what you want next will require crazy faith? Or are you following through on faith, and feel like your way of thinking and moving is very different? Are you questioning where your faith is leading you? In full transparency, I'm there now and have been there many times before the big leap.
What does PURPOSE mean to you? I share with you what it means to me. Are you living purposefully? Think about what moves you and is what you currently doing significant enough to keep you connected to it.
Love yourself first. Loving yourself will help you to redefine your confidence and have higher self-esteem. Here I speak about practical ways to begin loving yourself more (first!)
Is fear holding you back or are you working with it and getting past it by acknowledging and addressing the cause and root of it? We lose control to fear if we are not aware of it and how is causing us to stall.
First-generation means you are the first to have a different experience from your parents. First-generation student or graduate is a term used to describe the identity and experience of people whose parents did not earn a 4-year degree and they are the 1st to earn these degrees. In my case, I'm first-get high school, undergraduate, graduate, and doctoral program graduate.
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I'm a 4th generation single mother and who knows how many other generations before that. I did say single parenting stopped with me, until it didn't. I have is the ability to shape my children's future as parents, if they choose to have children.
I caught myself in a lie. I told you in the last episode that I didn't get anything from my dad, but through the knowledge I had of him and about him, I know I did. I tell the truth in this episode. I learned a lot from the man who didn't provide love or presence.
What is possible? Possibilities are endless, if you remain disciplined and consistent through the process of working towards achieving your goals that were once planted in you as a dream, wish or hope. You have access to make a difference in your life and those around you and those who come after you.
If what you've tried to bring on change to your circumstance didn't work, there are still more options. Don't be bogged down by your current situation at a dead end job that doesn't value, support or respect you. You can have a different experience. Are you ready? Once you're ready the next big step is deciding.
We are overwhelmed and stressed with all the responsibilities we have as a single parent. I'm here to remind you that your kids are watching. Do you want them to remember you as an overwhelmed and stressed parent? Relax and enjoy this moment.
Lessons from me! Self-awareness is so important and it has lead me to a lot of healing. I wish the same for you. Take a listen and start, either reflecting or growing or both!
How long have you lived your life powerless? You've given your power to others and are living according to what others want of you. Expectations and approval from others lead you. If is on an unconscious level, I hope this episode brings it up to conscious.
A great travel experience deserves a moment of reflection. I came back renewed, energized and excited to share 12 lessons gained. This episode is a salute to Puerto Rico, the People of Puerto Rico and the experiences that I connected to my life and I know will connect to yours.
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This episode I go deeper into what I know now about myself that I didn't know about me in marriage. Moral of the story is that you must know you, love you and decide for you.
How did I know I was ready to end my marriage? I knew it and felt it, there was so much of my energy telling me that this was it. Listen to this if you are in that space now or went through it already. Separation and divorce are not easy to come to and we think about the effects on everyone else before we make that final decision.
Happiness might be hard to find and even see or feel it when is present. This too can change when your mindset changes to receive it, to see it and feel it. And guess what?! You can also share it :-).
Letting go of anger is healthy and one of the best things you can do for YOU. I make it sound simple and I promise it becomes simple. Don't let it become so rooted that it feeds other trees and you end up with a forest of rooted anger.
This is for the soon-to-be divorced woman. If you are in a happy and satisfying marriage, don't confuse this with a plead for you to divorce. This is a voice note for the women who are done and ready to go forward with a divorce.
This is a love letter to my sorority sisters. The best decision I made was joining a wonderful chapter of strong women. Cheers to the lifetime of moments and memories.
How the doctoral journey began and what I learned on the way. This episode is about the beginning stages of the doctoral journey while I learned to lean into my support system, learned I was in a fragile mental and emotional state, and learned quickly the challenges that parenting while doctoring brought on.
We all have names. There is power in a name whether it came down from generations or it was thought of at the moment or changed by the individual later on in life. Live in all the power that your name represents. In this episode I share the story of my three names and invite you to share your story as well.
Miracle. Purpose. The Now. We are all miracles and are surrounded by endless miracles. We all have purpose. The Now is the most important moment. I share three of my miracle stories and share an excerpt from a book about the Now.
How many badass women do you know?! Have you shared your admiration or gratitude for all the things they've done and continue to do for women? Let's recognize the trailblazers in our family and communities.
Self-awareness and reflection will take you on a ride of discovery. Let's build our confidence up. https://mailchi.mp/f13b524b0205/journey-to-confidence