LIFE MASTERY with Nhlanhla: Recent Episodes
Nhlanhla G. Mafarafara
Life Mastery is a Coaching Podcast that offers personal development solutions and short burst peak perfomance coaching content to help you live your best life yet. I discus with you practical Self-Mastery and personal development principles with easy applications that will not only inspire and excite you, but challenge you to be so good such that no one can ignore you.
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What you do through time defines your moments. The moments are the brief splits through time that either break or make you. But time is what determines the outcomes of moments. A pregnant woman, no matter how hard she pushes, if the baby is not formed through time to be ready to be born, she will not be able to deliver the baby. .. let me hear what this episode does to or for you. Send your feedback via WhatsApp to +27760235161 or email to admin@ngmafarafara.co.za
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Can you follow your own advice? When you look at your life, the choices you have made,opportunities you have missed, e.g. would you say you have lead yourself well?
You are only as powerful as your last excuse. Whatever happened in your life, what ever is happening and whenever it is going to happen in your life.
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If you have convinced yourself that you can, opportunity will open up to you. In this episode I share simple and yet powerful principles to better your attitude towards positive action. Both potential and will are intertwined in success. If you really want to experience success, you need replace the thoughts and words “I cannot” to “yes I can.”
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People can praise you to the graveLife has hidden costs. Calculate the cost of doing vs the cost of not doing. For example, it is not what the the book cost, but how much it cost not reading it. It is not the cost of going to the gym, but how much it cost not going to the gym. It is not the cost of fixing something, but how much it cost not fixing it or not fixing it the right way. We calculate the cost of attending a seminar, a workshop, a dinner meeting or a network session but does not calculate the cost of not attending such meeting.There hidden cost of life is both the cost it self and the reward. It is the missed opportunity itself and the opportunity it self . In every opportunity there is a hidden thing: the benefit of the opportunity in tangibles and the benefit of the opportunity in intangibles. Often we fix our eyes on the tangibles, but miss the lessons of the intangibles. The later is how we measure an opportunity. The intangibles are the transfarables, the redoubles, the things no one can take from you and the lessons no book and no school can teach you. For example, there are ideas you may have had for years, sometimes the whole decade but you did not act on them. You did not act Ont hem becuase you felt the idea was too small to wa rant your attention or you did not have the technical skills to act on it. Or something else. If you had acted on it, you have have had it go one of the two ways: South or north (good or bad, successful or fail. If it failed/ you’d have learned what not to do next time, what to do better, when to launch, how to prepare, how to sell the idea, how to network your idea, how to hire (if it elated to that), how to work hard, how to pay attention. Some of these lessons can’t be learnt from a class, you may need to reinvent the wheel using available screws and rubber. You would have learned to be a better person inside or have actually a better, bold, clear thinking persons The opposite would be the idea worked so good it changed your whole life and opened even more opportunities. That is life. Send your voice note or text or email us for feedback and reviews. For coaching or key note enquiries: Email: admin@ngmafarafara.co.zaOr text/whatsapp: +27760235161--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/nhlanhla-g-mafarafara/message
Young people today are faced with so many challanges. The older generation need to assess what decisions they made that could have contributed to today’s challanges and what decisions were not made that could have prevented these challenges. The challanges range from Social, mental, economic and health. Challanges incoude among others: Suicide, Unemployment, Poor Education, Family problems, Wayward thinking and more.
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In this episode, I share wit you 8 critcal questions to helo you buy the future. Life does not get better by chance. So as you answer them, take time to make notes, respond to them and find value within yourself. the Questions are 1. Who do you want to be? 2. What do you want to achieve? Why do you want it? When do you want it? How does it look like? What does it cost? Are you willing ot pay the price for it? When do you start tpaying the price and for how long. do send your feedback to admin@ngmafarafara.co,za or via whatsapp to +27760235161 and share the podcast with others. See you on the other side.
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The mix match of practical guidance to help you begin getting more out of your life is set up in this podcast to give you the best tips to start your year. At list 80% of people who set New Years resolutions abandon them within the first 4 weeks of setting them. Thus, to reach your goal, you need more than setting a resolution. As part of this episode, I am giving away 10% discount to anyone who enrols into th ONLINE SCHOOL OF SELF-Mastery before 15 February 2022. All you have to do send an email to admin@ngmafarafara.co.za with subject “8 WAYS TO HAVE A GREAT YEAR,” t/cs apply.
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Covid-19 pandemic had hit many people financially sic that they are not able meet their ordinary traditional family obligations. During the festive seasons, people exchange gifts as part of their family gatherings. However, you may not be able to do so, therefore, how do you tell your friends, family and loved ones that you will not be contributing on the gift exchange when you are not able to?
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Children who live without their fathers are more likely to fall pregnent in their teens, drop out of school, do drugs, be involved in violent activities or end up jail. How does a father’s presence really influence a child’s outcome in general? In this podcast, I share some of the lessons I published on www.stresscoach.co.za as well as personal records of how my dad contributed to my life, through priceless lessons. ..Do not forget to send your voice notes on how this podcast helps you.
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Given the right circumstances, the mind is a very poweful with capacity to transform a man’s life from one state to another. “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” How you imagine your world is critical in realising your next level. If adults use the realities created by the child’s mind to envision themselves and their future, a lot could turn out great
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During a time where unemployed high, we still have young people chowing careers with no value. In addition, African people often find themselves working towards their dreams alone, without the contribution of others while in real essence, they need the contribution of other people. If we all find someone to mentor, and they intern find someone to mentor, the exponentialeffext will be worthwhile. In addition to Mentorship, Africans need to support one another instead of walking on the sidelines predicting the demise.
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You can chose to live a life by default. Or you can live by design. Living by default is waiting for the acts of nature to decide what happens in your life. Designing your life requires you develop discipline, have courage, self-initiate change and have mental strenght to go through life.
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No matter how much life throws punches at you, you got to find it in you to pick yourself up, confront yourself and go ahead and buy the future.
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Life does not get better by chance, it’s a choice you have to make that when an opportunity to sell your future for a bowl of soup, you will resist the temptation and the urge to bend your back too low to break it.
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When you get to a level where your name becomes a conversation starter in boardrooms, tea parties parties and friends’ zones... just know your accountability levels have doubled! You are not living for you anymore, but you have become their moral campus. As a parent, Freind, spouse, manager or leader, you should know that you no longer live for you. There are other people who find reference for their life through your actions and behavior
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“It is reported that 50% of professionals are two years behind the breakthroughs in their indistry.” If you are not growing, you are dying. The best way to keep growing is to keep on challanging yourself. Be intentional about it. To get any of my products: Coaching session, subscribing to the Online School of Self Mastery, or to get a copy of my books, email admin@ngmafarafara.co.za
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Whatever you repeat to yourself becomes your reality. Whatever you expect with confidence becomes your own self-fulfilling prophecy. You can play a trick in your mind by repeatedly telling and exposing yourself to positive information that creates a pattern of what you want to be... the work at it to make it real... once you hit your first success, the next one becomes easy.
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What is the value of your time? The value of an hour is built on accumulated knowledge prior to the hour.
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“The greatest tragedy in life is no death, but what we let die in us while we yet live”... When you don’t dream, you become satisfied with the crumbs from your master’s table. A dreamless person a one who has given up on his life and given himself to be a tool in the hands of a dreamer. In this Episode I share with you 6 poweful insights about a dream.
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Success is a choice you make by constantly exposing yourself to more information and experiences that stretch your mind. A stretched mind never goes back to its original position... it stays expanded. In this episode I share with you 9 tips on how to increase positive exposure that will help you condition your mind for more, for better and for greatness.
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“The greatest weapon in the hands of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed”-Steve Biko. The mind determines how low you or how high one goes. It has ability to fabricate reason for no action when you do not actively condition it to benefit you. In the four levels of mental conditioning, I show you how the level of mental conditioning affect your altimate end.
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You were born a progressive person, until the day you decided to become stuck. There is no poverty for a person who had Made an investment in his mind.
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AFRICA is an opportunity for the world... yet Africans eat the crumbs of the wealth they sit and walk on. It takes one to identify a problem, package it well and sell it to create wealth. But to do it sustainably, one needs to know how to constantly solve current and emerging problems in the market place and in society...
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What comes to your mind when you hear names such as Trevor Noah, Robert Mugabe, Nelson Mandela, Oprah Winfrey? What comes to people’s minds when people hear your name? Being exciptional is a choice you make to be great at what you do so that no one affords to ignore you... Note this... It’s a Choice!
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If you keep on doing what you have been doing for the past five years, you will keep on getting the same results. So many people want to change the world, but they do not want to change themselves. Did you know that almost everything you do is a result of a form of habit that you developed over a certain period... now things just happen without your conscious application...
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This is part two of Being Busy is an Excuse. Excuses will cost you more than attempting to do the things you make excuses against. Take time to develop yourself, count the cost of excuses and change your life little by little
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Often saying “I’m busy” is an excuse against being more effective and a negative incentive for comfort, yet you cannot show results of your being busy.
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With most pains that we go through, there is a hidden pleasure thereafter. However, to enjoy the pleasure, you need to understand that you have the power to make a choice in any given circumstances. With every choice you make, there is a downside to it and an upside. Whether you gravitate towards the downside of your choices or the upside depends on your pain, risk and excuses threshold balance...
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Whenever you conceive a new goal, action, intention, dream or plan, your mind goes to work overtime to produce evidence of pain related to the new action. The evidence of pain has been passively recorded in your subconscious mind through past failures or abandoned attempts. What it does not do is to “actively” find pleasure related to that pain once you have gone through it. You have to actively pursue whatever goal, even if your mind naively says “it will be painful” Becuase that short-term mental, emotional, or physical pain is the only price to be paid for the long term pleasure you have been hoping for or dreaming about.
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Telent that is not celebrated cannot be rewarded. A goal or dream that is not put to the test cannot be rewarded.
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No man has ever achieved great results alone. In This episode, Nhlanhlaand Rebecca are in conversation on how powerful good Association is to anyone. You are the sum total of the people you spend your time with. Man was not created complete. He was created with something missing in him that can only be found in others. What is missing in you is found in somebody else. There are certain elements of your dream that you can do by yourself. But there are people assigned to be part of your dream, and those people are located in Strategic places. Our ability to connect with others is what makes us powerful.
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This is session 3 of the 3 part series on the power of Showing up. In this session we talk about GETTING READY TO SHOW UP. I’m in conversation with Rebecca Phala on Energy FM. I introduce to you that “Showing up up sounds easy”, but you may have to show up a million times to reach your desired ending. Its gonna get tough and rough, but it is still gonna get good. however, you have to be intentional in your way of showing up .you . Get ready to show up. Note this is a piece of the long audio clip to help you. It ends before you expect it to
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This episode was recorded in Energy FM on the 10th September 2018. I’m talking about the power of showing up. Today you will learn about the power of saying YES, and the power of knowing your WHY?
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Opportunities present themselves in strange ways. Sometimes all you need is being the right place at the right time with the right people and do one right thing which will open you up to the next level.
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Your attitude is what makes a woman to look like a queen, it can make your experiences to be peaceful even in a harsh environment. Your attitude make you win. In this episode I talk about keys to sorting out your attitude and benefits. To Invite Nhlanhla to speak or coach you: farazcreationz25@gmail.com or WhatsApp: 0760235161
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You were born great until the day you decided to be average. In this episode I share with you 7 reasons why people remain average. 6 of these reasons are shred in the podcast, the servent one is called Failure to Maximise Opportunities, it’s available as a PDF download by sending a whatspp text to 0670987253
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In this episode I take you back to sessions 1-3. We are all self-made and predict our future by practicing certain daily habits, beliefs and actions that lead to a positive or negative reinforcement
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In this session, my goal is to inspire you by showing you the power of mindset on making dream come true. With practical skills in visualization, new dreams can be conceived and birthed. Where you feel that the Podcast is helping, or you liked t in some way, I’d like you to send to your friends and post it on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. (with a note on how you appreciate the podcast)
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In this session I take you through personal leaderhip principles. While it is a short version of this topic, it will push you to the top. To get the full coaching, contact me on farazcreationz25@gmail.com or text / WhatsApp me on 0760235161.
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In this session 3 of 7 part series, I share with you the power of Values, Beliefs and Attitudes towards achieving your goals.
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In this session, we help you to achieve your goals by completing small daily task, these will create a framework for achieving even more goals.
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In this session I will be coaching you on achieving great results by setting daily intentions. A clear intent to be a better person starts by setting an objective to achieve small daily goals.
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Dreams have a power to liberate a person. If you view the world as a canvas, and your dream as paint and you are the artist, that gives you the power to create anything of your life. In this Episode, I had a chat with Rebecca Phala on Energy FM and we break down this power to you. What does it mean to be consumed by a dream?
For some reason, everyone or almost every living person will tell you that they have a dream… how should one contextualize it?
How powerful or significant is a dream in a person’s life?
When having a dream, should one consider the circumstances around them? Like if their dream requires more money to make come true and they are currently poor?
What are the challenges or obstacles of being a dreamer?
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Progress is the ultimate desire of every human being.
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Whatever you pay attention it expands. As recorded in books of greatness: “great heights attained and kept by great men, were not attained by sudden flight, but they, while their companions slept, they toiled through the night”
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LAST WEEK WE STARTED A three part series on vision 2020 by reviewing what we have done or been through this year
Today we go a step future or exploring vision it self and say one has to be captured in order to achieve good results. We help step to the next level by answering the following questions:
- What is the Meaning of being captured by vision and vision itself.
- How powerful is vision or how important is it to have a vision?
- What are the characteristics of a compelling vision?
- To achieve a vision, to fully release and realise its power, you need to develop failure proof systems. How do we protect ourselves from living in a bubble dreaming over and over again?
- There is a relationship between vision and habits, can you explain this relationship and how to nurtur
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Before you start with a new season or a new vision, take time to look back over where you came from. Assess your all year actions against your key resolutions or goals and check where did you go wrong, how good have you done and what can you take into the next level.
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We live in a society that creates pressures all around us. We have presure to perform in the negativity that surrounds us. Sometimes we are held up or provoked, delayed or denied and feel restless. Patience is the capacity to deny instant gratification when faced with an option to opt for the weaker alternative which would give you gratification on the times of delay but May take away the possibility of long term gratification. Patience is the ability to wait... check this episode, request free notes on info@farazcreationz.co.za or WhatsApp 0760235161. When done, share it with ten of your friends
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Taking charge of your own life as your own leader. At one time you will be a leader, and times when you will be following. But when you are following yourself, make sure you take the right decisions that affect different areas of your life as a leader, and in the direction of your purpose.
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You have to become sick and tired of being stuck in the same place and living with an urge to meet the imaginary you. The consequential causes of wishful living are fear, poor or lack of personal development, poor or weak connections, self- neglect and many others. However, this can be changed when you become intentional about self improvement , personal advancement and change. You must turn your wish into a burning desire, Desire Into a goal, a goal I to a clear actionable plan, plan into action, actions into habits, and habits into charector. From there, your destiny will change. It will not only be a wish, but you have the necessary means to make it a reality.
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- Often when things go wrong, people point a finger and go about blame shifting and making excuses for the wrongs that happens to them.
- Taking responsibility is a sign of maturity, one that also involves a certain level of emotional intelligence: how does one develop ability to take charge, especially about their own lives?
- How does taking charge relate to leadership and personal development
- The world at large is struggling to deal with social ills, unemployment, poverty and health challanges... how should governments and leaders respond to this? To request the free episode notes, email farazcreationz25@gmail.com
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South Africans are said to be unhappy according to the 2019 world happiness index. How do you build relationships where we give and receive love while you are unhappy? Some people do not believe in love, especially when looking at the fact that people are killed and/ or abused in the name of love. We ask, “is there hope for Love relationships or what we call unconditional love?” How do you advice people to build mutual love relationships (both men and women? Sometimes loving means, you need not expect to get from the other person, but to give the other person that which you wish you get... what do you say about that? Our experience prevent or enable us to form relationships... what do you think the role of men is on building healthy relationships and building hope for more love relationships?
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The compulsive urge to be on your cellphone (browsing social media, taking selfies or just posting status updates) while you should be doing something more meaningful and productive... some people struggle with FOMO such that they can’t just not be on their cellphone, even when driving
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Life will place an opportunity before you that requires a new you… a you that never existed before. Often the you that you have been making excuses from becoming or afraid of becoming. Every next level of your life requires another you. One man said, you were born a leader, until the day you decided to become a follower. You become a follower forever when you chose excuses over courage: excuses are tools of the incompetent, those who specializes in them seldom go far.
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In this episode, nhlanhla takes his time to appreciate the struggles his mother went through. He uses it to inspire people to take some time to honor their mothers
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Learn to spend time with your self and enjoy the company of your own self. Above that, listen to yourself
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"The greatest tragedy in life is not death, but what we let die us while we yet live” “The most frustrated person on earth is a man whose dream did not come true”
This means that the place where one needs to work twice as hard is not in his job, but in him / herself. One needs to labour hard to become a person of quality, thus securing a great future for themselves. Demand more on yourself.l
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While Africa still has wealth raw material, the Africans are still poor. I had a chat with Rebecca Phala on Energy FM to breakdown some issues within the African Wealth Context. Check it out and learn the following:
- What do I mean, Africans are poor?
- What is wealth in the context of Africa’s demographics in the global and digital economy?
- Given the context of wealth and Africa’s dynamics and challenges, Why are many Africans still poor?
- Is there a solution: How do we turn things around
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There are certain personal factors that needs to be dealt with before you consider going into business.
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s to become another (the essence of our talk today) We all have to go through some form of change every once in a while because it is necessary for out growth, to achieve a new goal, to build something, etc. - if you always do what you have always done you will always get what you have always got. - To get to the next level, you have to become another person (meaning you have to change) - If two people experiencing happiness in their relationship, someone between the two of you have to initiate change. One man once said, if things look blurry, you have to change the spectacle with which you are looking. The sooner you do that, the sooner you experience new happiness. - There are some levels in your life, family, career or business that you will never experience until you decide to change. Albert Einstein said the measure of intelligence is the ability to change” Oprah Winfrey said. “the greatest discovery of all time is that a person change his future by changing his attitude.” If you look in your life, there are things that you want to change or wish they could change
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The brain only knows the reality you create. You must be careful to create a brain tattoo of a person you do not want to become such as a person who uses blame to shift responsibility, as denial or self-protection mechanism. People use blame to protect their ego, to attack others, as an escape when they are attacked or when they should account for their lives. In this podcast, I share with Rebecca Phala simple and basic principles of taking ownership of our lives by 1. Taking responsibility for what is going on in and around us; 2. Seeking outside help where needed; 3. Know and understand the things you can change and things you cannot; 4. The effects of blaming others on ourselves. ... enjoy the podcast and share with others. Don’t forget to subscribe to our email coaching program by emailing farazcreationz25@gmail.com or sending a WhatsApp text to 0791808222
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Happiness is a sory after personal thing. But very few people know that happiness is not a destination, it’s a daily thing that comes from your inner contentment. You can not arrive at happiness, and you can not out of for the future.
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Courage is the physical and mental to act positively and progressively towards a goal even when circumstances tell you otherwise. Even when feelings of fear tells you to hide your thoughts and not act. Courage is the ability to refuse to be controlled or paralyzed by the thoughts or feelings of fear. It is the effective management of time, opportunity, and talent. It has nothing to do with what is happening outside, but what is inside. It takes courage to manifest a dream or reach a goal. It is possible to be a one hit success, but it takes courage to maintain success or grow it. It is the ability to jump and grab opportunities even when you do not have the full view of what it is all about. Sometimes success cannot be fully articulated or fully painted before it happens, courage gives meaning to dreams, it gives shape to imagination and gives power to your name, it earns you respect. Nobody wants to hang around cowards all the time. They will tell you I sow a door opened, I walked in and the rest is history. Some of your best of life is not found in the seat of comfort or certainty, but in the obscure step of uncertainty. When a brave man or woman takes a stand, the spine of cowards is shaken. The mind of critiques get aroused and the doors of opportunity widens, and the seat of obscurity flattens. Having courage does not mean you are afraid, but you have the wisdom to ignore feelings of fear and doubt even when it is most tempting to succumb to it. In other words, a courageous person makes the choice to willingly confront pain, uncertainty, danger and intimidation. You make the choice to leave comfort. You can find yourself saying or doing difficult things even when faced with opposition.
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Everyone has that level where you cannot bend beneath, live without, not allow to pass. That point where you say, if I did not exercise I ran 5km 3 times a week. The lowest level you can go for. We call them the Non-negotiable.
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It is not good for anyone to be alone. However, who you partner with can either uplift or suppress you. When it comes to relationships, one needs to know that we marry a person who is different. On the other side, we also need to know that there are exceptional benefits to being with the right partner. Relationship tend to create a feeling of self worth, increase happiness, make people more successful, build deeper connections and more. How ever, for you to achieve those things, there has to be some great relationship goals that you set prior to achieving such great heights. Listen to this episode to learn more.
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Any man can father a child. But being a parent and a dad to that child is a process, it requires commitment, will, intentional thought, deeper love for nurturing, building, moulding, guiding, encouraging, strengthening, empowering, affirming, and more. Men are often very emotionally bankrupt people. Men often chose to replace or substitute their affection and emotional availability with material. It makes children grow up seeing you as nothing but a charity fund for their social ambitions instead of a place to run to when frustrated the first person to call when good things happen. Most parents get to hear the good of their children from helpers. My dad was not educated like many of are today. He was a handy man. His job was to operate a machine. When he was retrenched, he started a small business. Even taught it did not work out, he made sure that he spends his last days with us, bragging about us in front of all these people. His best gift for was the gift of the presence. When I was young, he sat with me to do homework and challenged me to think and love learning. The other day I was doing maths and he said he is a better mathematician than I am. He said his mathematical equation which did not make sense and said “one one up and cover up keeper two, what remains”?” It took us days arguing the validity of the question. Mom said it is 1+1-2. All the time, this man taught me what means to take care of his wife. How to take care of us. In most of his failures he taught me 7 lessons about life, relationships and business: 1. You don’t have to understand everything in the process of life. Just be always ready to learn 2. Do what you like now (like reading and studying) so that you can do what you really like and want later. 3. Be patient. Life follows a pattern, learn it, understand and wait for your turn. 4. Have a good understanding of time. every good thing takes time to build, but you have to put the work by yourself. 5. Don’t allow good products to dry out, they will die. If you want to keep growing, keep learning. Once you allow to be dry, you die. 6. Do not allow your lack of understanding of the entire process of life delude you of your goal 7. Don’t allow chaff to pile up, they will choke the life out of you. Deal with all bad habits before they eat you alive. He taught me to be careful as to who I allow into my life. Some things look good from a distance, but will drag you to the mud without notice. Research conducted in the US shows that 1 in 4 children live in fatherless homes. the following 7 effects of disengaged fathers. 1. Teenegers are 7x more likely to fall pregnant than where a father is present and available 2. Are more likely to have behavioural problems 3. Have 4 times greater risk of suffering the sting of poverty 4. More likely to abuse drugs and alcohol (if you add faithlessness and unemployment and poverty, the risk is worse) 5. More likely to go to prison 6. More likely to commit violent crimes 7. More likely to suffer abuse and neglect in multiple forms
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Every next level of your life will require a different, better you. Often our goals are bigger than our current ability. Hence you need to pursue a little bit of a stretch before you can achieve it. Capacity is your maximum ability to contain something, to do something, to deliver something to carry something or to produce something. Problems cannot be solved at the level where they were created
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This week I am joined by Ebenezer Mamabolo with Rebecca Phala to help you prepare your mind in setting your agenda for 2019. A person must set an agenda that clearly stipulates what needs to be done, when and for how long and where. It is not good to go about life as a wondering generality that’s waiting for things to happen without you applying yourself. You cannot be going everywhere with everyone doing nothing, but getting tired everyday.
Any person that you know who has achieved extraordinary results first had extraordinary thoughts, that grew into extraordinary ambition, then translated into extraordinary purpose driven plan and backed with massive action. So they set the agenda and work the agenda and work it with 10 times the action. Nothing just happens. You have to make it happen. Six things you need to know to stick to 2019 goals. * Have singularity Of thought: pick that which you really want to go after, and go after it all cost. Refuse mental distraction. Focus. * Be specific: know what you want and clearly define it. Don’t run around. Often what makes you not to achieve your goals is because you want to lose weight but don’t know how many KG and by when and how. * Be realistic: disappointment and hurts often comes from expecting too much. Know your ability and your potential ability. Master the small things before you climb to the big challanges. It’s ok to have a dream of being a millionaire, but first accept the challange if having R10,000 in your account and not be frustrated * Learn to manage time and relationships. Know what time it is. How long it will take to do what you want to do, who will be your partner, who will help you and what you will offer to benefit them. * Estimate the cost: what will it take you to achieve those goals for 2019: time, effort, money, losses, things you need to separate yourself from, etc * Plan how you will cope with competing desires. There are things that will keep poping In to frustrate your priorities. If you don’t have a plan to deal with this, when things that impact on what you do, you need to have an alternative route to keep the main thing the main thing. Do not be a Proffessional starter: some one who always begins something but never resolve to finish. * Develop a strong taste for risk. Get out of the comfort zone and jump into the new territories. It is very risky not taking risks. Set great goals to fulfil the vision Truth: if you don’t set goals, you will be used as n asset to achieve other people’s goals. 1. Determine the area that needs attention and know exactly what you want to accomplish. My advice is make sure you pay attention to the 8 life areas that influence your life : health, social, family, finance, personal development, career, spiritual, career. And write it down. 2. Determine the milestones for the goal. How will you know if you have achieved it? 3. Break the big picture into small doable things chunks. If you want to lose 10kg by June 2019... start by saying “ I run 2km on Monday, Tuesday and Friday. I want to loos 2kg by end of feb, etc. you don’t have to know how to go about the whole journey. Just know the end and the beginning . The rest usually falls into place. Don’t wait till you figure out all the steps.... 4. Break your goal into terms. Short, medium and final with time lines. This helps you to know if you are on track. And then you are able to review 5. Tell someone about it. Have accountability partners. Research shows that telling someone about your goals increases the likelihood of you doing it. You need to surround yourself with people who can or will support the goal. 6. Set priorities that influence the achievement of the goal. Once you set a goal, decide what things cannot be missed on daily basis: eg: saying the goals out loud twice a day (it helps you to become the person before you achieve the results) 7. Decide on loses: what are you willing to let go. 8. Action. Work the plan and resolve to stop at nothing.
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One year from now, you will look back and wish you had started today.
Everywhere people make some yearly resolve (resolutions) to do certain things or achieve certain goals, but often, those are ordinary rhetorics used without understanding.
“Rome was not built in one day,” an expression that affirms that whatever the dream is , what ever the desire is,for you to realize its true potential, you have to START
Starting is a hard thing Sometimes. The reason why people do not achieve goals is because they are used to what they have, even if it’s hard.
But if you going to have a great year, you need to make a resolve to start
Where do you begin? 1. pre workout: inner work, Personal introspection. Review what worked and what did not work last time. For every success and failur, there is a cause. Check what it is and first deal with it. You cannot build a new house on a old Brocken foundation. If you want to get married, deal with past wounds. If you want to start a busines, deal with past failures. Accept past rejections. Then on the another side, improve what did not work best. 2. Do a SWOT analysis: do you have that it takes. What are the risks. What are the opportunities of pursuing your goal. What are the benefit of not pursuing your goal. What are the threats: what’s new around you, should you stay the same, what can happen to you. Should you launch, what can happen to you 3. Develop the mindset and the personality of the person you want to become 4. Make a proper assessment of your life: health, emotions, finances, personal development , career, social life, family, spiritual. How healthy are you? 5. Before you start anything, the first place to go to is inside and address these 8 areas.
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For you to fit in the “US” you need to fit in the “I”. For you make a meaningful contribution in any relationship, you need to first who you are. “I” in the marriage makes the “US”, the “me” makes the “we”. Every entity that needs to succeed needs to know the power of team work, but the chain relies on the individual entities within the team. Every team is as strong as it’s weakest member. The I AM factor teaches you that your attitude, perception and opinion about YOU contribute greatly to all that happens to you. It’s not selfishness, but it is recognizing that you have the power over your life.
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As a people, we often have a tendency to look for the things that go wrong on our lives and complain. We should, on the contrary, look for the little positive things that happen in our lives. The things that happen to our good and add value to our lives. You need to Develop a habit of expressing thankfulness in your life, daily. Sometimes things do not go as you hoped they would, but you should be thankful for the person have become. Be thankful to God, to your family and thank your self for not giving up, for starting that project, for trying again...
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When was the last time you had a great idea and was excited about it? When was the last time you fell in love and ended up destroying it with poor habits? There are people who were given great opportunities in life: such as to start a business, to get married to a good person, to get a promotion at work, to inherit a legacy from parents that would set them off to a good success. However, they destroyed it without the help of any other person. Today Nhlanhla and Rebecca Phala discuses how the person we see inside us can destroy everything we have.
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What does it cost to be you? What do other people benefit from having you? Some people’s way of living is a liability to themselves while others create assets out who and what they become. Find out how in this episode.
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Welcome to STEP TO THE NEXT Level. In this section Nhlanhla Gives an introductory note to STEP TO THE NEXT LEVEL. He explains what the podcast is all about, what both individuals and organized groups or business. I used to appear. I had to deal with and get rid of the desire to make excuses every time when opportunity to act courageously comes.
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