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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps people talk about sex, relationships, and growing up. Created and hosted by Sex Education Teacher Kim Cavill. Find her at www.teaandintimacy.com - https://twitter.com/sexposparenting - https://www.instagram.com/sixminutesexed/
This week’s episode is level one, which makes it perfect for people of any age because we’re going to talk about consent.
We’re going to answer five questions:
What is consent?
What does consent look like?
What does consent sound like?
When you do need to ask for consent?
What should you do when someone or something makes you feel unsafe?
Resources: Consent for kids youtube video: https://youtu.be/h3nhM9UlJjc Learning about feelings for kids youtube video: https://youtu.be/37w9JjUWN30 Body autonomy Ted Talk for parents and caring adults: https://youtu.be/EvGyo1NrzTY RAINN: https://bit.ly/3akETkn
Conversation starters: Name five people in your life you can talk to if someone breaks your body rules or makes you feel unsafe.
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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps people talk about sex, relationships, and growing up. Created and hosted by Sex Education Teacher Kim Cavill. Find her at www.teaandintimacy.com - https://twitter.com/sexposparenting - https://www.instagram.com/sixminutesexed/
This week’s episode is level two, which makes it more complex than my level one episodes and perfect for tweens, teens, and adults. This is the third part in a three part series about how to teach LGBTQ+ inclusive sex education and we talk to Scott Todnam, an award-winning health teacher.
Scott Todnem has been teaching Health Education since 2001 at Scullen Middle School in Naperville, Illinois. He was awarded the 2019 National Health Teacher of the Year. He is the author of “Growing Up Great”-- a puberty book for boys. He is releasing a second title for younger readers in summer of 2020. Scott travels the nation to speak about health education and related work. He has a passion for mental health awareness, social diversity, strength and conditioning, and Dad jokes.
You can find find more at LifeIsTheFuture.com, with links to his YouTube channel and class podcast. You can purchase his book about puberty on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2S9YHQ8
Scott talks about how modern health classes differ from health classes of old, how to integrate sex education into overall wellness curriculum, and how to make sure your program is welcoming to all students, including those who are LGBTQ+.
Resources Scott mentions: GLSEN: https://www.glsen.org/ Canva posters: https://www.canva.com/templates/search/gay-rights-posters/ Erin’s Law: http://www.erinslaw.org/
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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps people talk about sex, relationships, and growing up. Created and hosted by Sex Education Teacher Kim Cavill. Find her at www.teaandintimacy.com - https://twitter.com/sexposparenting - https://www.instagram.com/sixminutesexed/
This week’s episode is level two, which makes it more complex than my level one episodes and perfect for tweens, teens, and adults. We’re going to talk about sexually transmitted infections, or STIs.
STIs and STDs, or sexually transmitted diseases technically mean different things: generally infections can develop into diseases, so STI means early stages of infection while STD means later stages where symptoms present. In day to day language, though, the terms are interchangeable.
STI stats: https://www.cdc.gov/std/stats18/default.htm
STIs basics: STIs come in three types: bacterial, viral, and parasitical. Bacterial STIs, such as syphillis, chlamydia, and gonorrhea are caused by bacteria and treated with antibiotics. Some bacterial STI’s are growing resistant to antibiotics, so it can take a few rounds of different medications to make them go away. Bacterial STIs are curable, but antibiotics don’t prevent future infections. Viral STIs, such as HIV, herpes types 1 and 2, and HPV are caused by viruses. They can’t be cured, but they can be managed, if treated early enough. Some can also be prevented by vaccines. Stay tuned for an upcoming episode about the cancer preventing HPV vaccine, which is available in the US to people ages 9 - 45 and highly recommended for young people between the ages of 11 - 13. Parasitical STIs are caused by parasites, such as trichomoniasis, or trich, and curable with medication.
Planned Parenthood chat: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/online-tools/chat
STI’s are preventable. You can prevent STIs with vaccines, such as the HPV vaccine, medications like PrEP, or pre exposure prophylaxis, which prevents HIV infections. You can also prevent STIs by using barrier methods of protection during oral, anal, and vaginal sex, hand sex or fingering, and genital skin to skin contact. Barrier methods include internal condoms that can be inserted into the vagina or anus, external condoms that go on a penis or penetrating object, gloves and cots for hand and finger sex, and dental dams for oral sex on anuses or vulvas. None of these methods reduce the risk of STI infection completely, but used properly and consistently, they’re extremely effective.
Further resources: How to ask partners about STIs without being weird: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/std-sti-sexual-health-experts-advice_l_5cdb1926e4b07ef1396a07da How to talk about STIs without shame and stigma: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/how-to-talk-to-teens-about-stis_l_5dd44d9be4b0e29d727af19f Amaze.org STD facts: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Sbgg8icODY Amaze.org STI prevention: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=41cFmDTABJY General STI overview: https://helloclue.com/articles/sex/birth-control-and-sti-risk
Conversation starters: Where can people get STI tests where you live? How do you want medical providers to talk to you about STIs?
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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps people talk about sex, relationships, and growing up. Created and hosted by Sex Education Teacher Kim Cavill. Find her at www.teaandintimacy.com - https://twitter.com/sexposparenting - https://www.instagram.com/sixminutesexed/
CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains discussion of child sexual abuse.
This episode of Sex Minute Sex Ed is for parents and caring adults because we’re going to talk about how to prevent child sexual abuse. We sit down with Meghan Backofen, LCSW, who treats survivors of sexual abuse and their non offending caregivers. She is also author of the book Who’s the Boss of this Body? which teaches safety skills to young children. Meghan talks with me about talking with young children about safety, respecting their autonomy, and how to prevent child sexual abuse.
Buy her book here: https://amzn.to/2YJ2OWq Listen to her podcast about child abuse prevention here: https://soundcloud.com/user-323596394
For the past fifteen years, Meghan Hurley Backofen, LCSW has specialized in providing mental health treatment to child sexual abuse survivors and their families. Meghan is the Core Sexual Abuse Treatment Provider for Garfield County Department of Human Services and works out of the River Bridge Regional Center. Meghan is passionate about using evidence based modalities and is a Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior Therapy provider. Her experience has allowed her to develop expertise in working with victimized children and their non-offending caregivers. In addition to providing therapy, Her most requested class “The Top Ten Things Parents can Do To Prevent Child Sexual Abuse” inspired her children’s book Who’s the Boss of This Body?. Meghan also teaches trauma courses as an adjunct professor for the University of Denver MSW program in Western Colorado. Meghan is especially grateful to all of her former clients for being her greatest teachers, and to her cousin, Adam Arriola and FINAO Agency, for the engaging illustrations.
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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps people talk about sex, relationships, and growing up. Created and hosted by Sex Education Teacher Kim Cavill. Find her at www.teaandintimacy.com - https://twitter.com/sexposparenting - https://www.instagram.com/sixminutesexed/
This episode is Part 2 of a three part series on creating queer inclusive spaces for kids! This week, I talk to Carolyn Wahlskog. Carolyn Wahlskog (she/her/hers) is a queer, white, cis woman and the Executive Director of Housing at 360 Youth Services in Naperville where she works to support young people experiencing homelessness. She previously ran the first suburban transitional housing program geared specifically for LGBTQ youth. She has spent her entire career focused on the needs of LGBTQ, particularly trans youth, and their families to access safe and affirming care at school, in health care, in housing and when accessing the legal system. She coordinates a monthly networking group called the Community Network: Professionals Supporting LGBTQ youth and is the co-coordinator of Transformative Justice Law Project's Name Change Mobilization. I asked Carolyn how school and teachers make LGBTQ+ young people and families feel welcome and create spaces where all young people can thrive. Website: https://360youthservices.org/ Tjlp.org
This episode is Level Two, perfect for tweens, teens, and adults. Resources: 360 Youth Services: https://www.instagram.com/360youthservices/ Sex Positive Families reading list: https://sexpositivefamilies.com/sex-positive-families-reading-list/ GLSEN instagram: https://www.instagram.com/glsen/ Teaching outside the binary IG: https://www.instagram.com/teachingoutsidethebinary/?hl=en Gender inclusive classrooms IG: https://www.instagram.com/genderinclusiveclassrooms/?hl=en Welcoming Schools website: http://www.welcomingschools.org/resources/challenging-questions/ The Transgender Child book: https://amzn.to/2LC3JSW The Gender Unicorn: http://www.transstudent.org/gender Amaze gender and assigned sex at birth: https://bit.ly/38cxNye SFUSD Be Real Be Ready: https://sfusdhealtheducation.org/be-real-be-ready-2/
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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps people talk about sex, relationships, and growing up. Created and hosted by Sex Education Teacher Kim Cavill. Find her at www.teaandintimacy.com - https://twitter.com/sexposparenting - https://www.instagram.com/sixminutesexed/
This episode is the first in a three part series about how to create Queer inclusive spaces. In this episode, I talk to C. Dolim, who a non-binary, pansexual, persyn based in Long Beach CA. They work as a Gender Creative Nanny, artist, entertainer, and queer club promoter. You can get more information and see their work at:
www.instagram.com/cdolim.nanny www.instagram.com/cdolim.art www.instagram.com/queermondayslbc
C. Dolim and I talk about growing up as a queer person with no knowledge of the queer community, what makes them feel welcome and unwelcome in spaces, and how they talk about gender with young kids. They also mention a fantastic resource about gender creative parenting, which you can find here: http://www.raisingzoomer.com/
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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps people talk about sex, relationships, and growing up. Created and hosted by Sex Education Teacher Kim Cavill. Find her at www.teaandintimacy.com - https://twitter.com/sexposparenting - https://www.instagram.com/sixminutesexed/
This episode is Level One, which makes it perfect for listeners of any age. This episode is all about pubic hair!
This week’s episode answers five questions:
What is pubic hair? When do people get it? What is it for? What does it look like? Is it safe to remove it?
Link to Episode 12 - All about puberty: https://soundcloud.com/user-233677690/ep-12-all-about-puberty-level
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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps people talk about sex, relationships, and growing up. Created and hosted by Sex Education Teacher Kim Cavill. Find her at www.teaandintimacy.com - https://twitter.com/sexposparenting - https://www.instagram.com/sixminutesexed/
This episode is Level Two, which makes it more complex than my level one episodes and perfect for tweens, teens, and adults. This episode is about the Islamic rights of wives and the art of teaching pleasure, with special guest, The Village Auntie.
Angelica Lindsey-Ali is a wife, proud home birthing mother of 4, and a lifelong lover of African culture. A native of Detroit, Angelica considers herself a community scholar whose research interests include the West African roots of African American Islamic identity and the role of sacred sexuality within West and East African cultures. She holds a degree in African and African American Studies from the University of Michigan-Ann Arbor. She is a certified sexual health educator has been working in the field of public health for the last 15 years and has been providing 1:1 support to women for 20+ years. She is trained in female reproductive and sexual health, HIV/STI prevention methods, epidemiology, prenatal and postnatal sex education and have certifications in a variety of behavioral health interventions. Her work extends into hands-on, practical workshops about pleasure, including body awareness, sacred movement, and orgasm.
See The Village Auntie at The Intricacy of Intimacy workshop on March 20, 2019 in Atlanta, GA: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-intricacy-of-intimacy-a-live-chat-wthe-village-auntie-tickets-57143466647
The Village Auntie’s Website: https://www.muslimwellness.com/villageauntie The Village Auntie’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheVillageAuntie/ The Village Auntie’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/villageauntie The Village Auntie’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/villageauntie/
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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps people talk about sex, relationships, and growing up. Created and hosted by Sex Education Teacher Kim Cavill. Find her at www.teaandintimacy.com - https://twitter.com/sexposparenting - https://www.instagram.com/sixminutesexed/
This episode is Level Two, which makes it more complex than my level one episodes and perfect for tweens, teens, and adults. This episode is called, How to talk about pleasure.
Angelica Lindsey-Ali is a wife, proud home birthing mother of 4, and a lifelong lover of African culture. A native of Detroit, Angelica considers herself a community scholar whose research interests include the West African roots of African American Islamic identity and the role of sacred sexuality within West and East African cultures. She holds a degree in African and African American Studies from the University of Michigan-Ann Arbor. She is a certified sexual health educator has been working in the field of public health for the last 15 years and has been providing 1:1 support to women for 20+ years. She is trained in female reproductive and sexual health, HIV/STI prevention methods, epidemiology, prenatal and postnatal sex education and have certifications in a variety of behavioral health interventions. Her work extends into hands-on, practical workshops about pleasure, including body awareness, sacred movement, and orgasm.
The Village Auntie advises that the best way to talk about pleasure with partners is to practice talking about pleasure by ourselves, first. We should explore what feels good individually and practice self-talk so that we can bring our wisdom into conversations with our partner(s).
The Village Auntie’s Website: https://www.muslimwellness.com/villageauntie The Village Auntie’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheVillageAuntie/ The Village Auntie’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/villageauntie The Village Auntie’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/villageauntie/
Thanks for listening! Make sure to rate and review the podcast and send your questions/comments to sixminutesexed@gmail.com
Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps people talk about sex, relationships, and growing up. Created and hosted by Sex Education Teacher Kim Cavill. Find her at www.teaandintimacy.com - https://twitter.com/sexposparenting - https://www.instagram.com/sixminutesexed/
This episode is Level Two, which makes it more complex than my level one episodes and perfect for tweens, teens, and adults. We’re going to talk about Revenge Porn.
What is it? Revenge porn is the nonconsensual sharing of someone’s private sexual images.
Is it legal? No, but laws vary by state. Here’s a summary of the laws across the US: https://criminal.findlaw.com/criminal-charges/revenge-porn-laws-by-state.html Illinois laws regarding the sharing of private sexual images applying to minors: http://www.ilga.gov/legislation/ilcs/documents/072000050K11-20.1.htm
Is it ethical? No, sharing someone’s private sexual images without their consent is unethical. The law establishes a minimum standard of behavior that we’re supposed to abide by in order to keep each other safe, but our values and ethics are for raising the bar from “legal” to “good”. This isn’t just about legality, it’s about how we should treat each other as decent people.
What to do about it: Here’s some resources: What to do if someone shares your sext: https://hellogiggles.com/news/if-someone-shares-your-sext/ Other resources: https://withoutmyconsent.org/resources/ https://withoutmyconsent.org/resources/how-do-i-get-help-for-what-im-feeling/ https://onlinesos.org/ https://www.cybercivilrights.org/welcome/about/
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This week’s episode is Level One, perfect for listeners of any age, and we’re going to talk about how to respect privacy in the bathroom.
Here are some tips for respecting people’s privacy in the bathroom:
Close the door Don’t peek Hands to self Learn to wipe Wash your hands How to help Who to ask
Episode 14 of Six Minute Sex Ed, Privacy, Level One: https://soundcloud.com/user-233677690/ep-14-privacy-level-one
Additional resources: Article about teaching bathroom habits: https://www.todaysparent.com/kids/preschool/preschool-potty-etiquette/ Privacy tips for kids: https://www.kcdsg.org/files/content/Explaining%20Privacy%20and%20Sexuality.pdf
Amaze.org has a great video that explains privacy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JOcaYIaeEDQ&list=PLuVRmPwbBnZM_qJVIjz-7zDdJ_f03Hp1Y&index=13
Conversation starters: 1. What are the rules for the bathroom in your home? 2. How are those rules the same or different from the bathroom at school or in a shop?
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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps people talk about sex, relationships, and growing up. Created and hosted by Sex Education Teacher Kim Cavill. Find her at www.teaandintimacy.com - https://twitter.com/sexposparenting - https://www.instagram.com/sixminutesexed/
This week’s episode is Level Two, making it perfect for tweens, teens, and adults. This week, we’re talking to Jenny Waugh, who is a sex educator with qualifications in sexuality and gender studies, HIV prevention and treatment, and AASECT certification (pending). She's passionate about culturally competent sex education and public health, as well as increasing our access to information and the resources we need to thrive.
Jenny and I talk about what brought her to this work, what sex ed was like for her, what she’s learned about effective public health communication strategies, getting an HIV test, and AASECT certification.
Find Jenny on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/jennyywaugh and find out how to get tested at https://www.hiv.gov/hiv-basics/hiv-testing/learn-about-hiv-testing/where-to-get-tested or test at home with NURX: https://www.nurx.com/sti-testing/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_content=sti&utm_campaign=sti_testing_phrase&utm_term=hiv%20test&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI6oXrhIaJ5QIVmo7ICh1vwwOfEAAYAiAAEgKiwPD_BwE
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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/
This episode is level one, perfect for any age.
Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/
I’ve got a quick note before we get to this week’s show. When I first launched Six Minute Sex Ed almost a year ago, I was able to make weekly episodes and monthly bonus content. Some wonderful people on Patreon made that possible. My personal circumstances have changed and going forward I'm making biweekly episodes and occasional bonus content. Because of that, I'm making all the episodes free. Support the podcast by sharing it with your friends and leaving a review.
This week’s episode is level two, which means it’s more complex than my level one episodes and best for tweens, teens and adults. The last episode, episode 37, was level one and it was all about butts. This week’s episode is level two and it’s also about butts! This week, we’re going to talk about anal sex. We’re going to answer 4 questions:
What is anal sex and how many people actually have it? Do you have to do it? Are there any risks? What do people need to know about anal sex before they try it?
No one should ever have to do anything with their body that they don’t want to do. No one should be forced or coerced into any kind of sexual activity and forcing or coercing someone into sex is not only wrong, but it is illegal. Consent is only consent if it’s freely given. Consent should be freely given, reversible (which means people can change their minds), informed (which means people participating in sex are given all the necessary information to make a knowledgable decision, like what contraception or STI prevention methods will be used), Enthusiastic (the absence of a no is not a yes), and specific (consenting to oral sex does not mean a person’s consented to any other type of activity like anal sex).
Links to studies: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2819126/ https://www.jahonline.org/article/S1054-139X(17)30330-0/fulltext https://bmjopen.bmj.com/content/4/8/e004996
Conversation starter: Why do you think mainstream media doesn’t show the conversations and considerations partners usually engage in before sex?
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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/
This week’s episode is level one and we’re going to talk about BUTTS
We’re going to answer three questions today:
What are butts for?
Are butts private?
How do you look after your butt to keep it healthy?
Resources: For kids - All about the digestive system: https://kidshealth.org/en/kids/digestive-system.html For kids - Digestive system video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JnzwbipJuAA For kids - Cool facts about animal poop: https://www.earthrangers.com/wildwire/top-10/top-ten-facts-all-about-animal-poop/ For kids - 10 cool facts about poop: https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=9&v=eP_YbvhJzxU For parents/carers: 19 books about poop: https://www.todaysparent.com/family/books/books-about-poop/#gallery/kids-books-about-poop/0
Conversation starter: Why do you think talking about butts can be so funny? Why do you think some people feel embarrassed talking about butts?
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This week’s episode is Level Two, and we’re going to talk about healthy relationships
The most common answers young people give me when I ask them to describe healthy relationships:
Mutual support Freedom to be yourself Freedom to speak Acceptance of Friends, family, or carers Boundaries Conflict resolution What’s most important to you, when it comes to healthy relationships?
When I ask young people to describe barriers to healthy relationships, these are their most common answers:
Abuse Criticism Lying Control Dependence
One of the reasons why it’s hard to talk about relationships is that very unhealthy relationships can feel healthy to the people in them, even though they’re not. It’s painful not just for the people in the unhealthy relationship, but also for the people who love and care for them. It’s extremely difficult to be in an unhealthy relationship because unhealthy behaviors make people feel very isolated: like they’re on their own and no one can or will help. At the same time, it’s really hard to care for someone who’s being abused and feel like you can’t help.
If you’re not sure if you’re in an unhealthy relationship, there’s an online quiz you can take from the great organization Love is Respect: https://www.loveisrespect.org/for-someone-else/is-my-relationship-healthy-quiz/
You can also call love is respect.org at 1-866-331-9474 or text LOVE IS to 22522
You can also call the domestic violence hotline at 1-800-799-7233: https://www.thehotline.org/
Having been in abusive situations in the past, I know calling hotlines can seem intimidating. There are other people who can help you: close friends, trusted adults, social workers (including school social workers), councilors, doctors, nurses, and teachers.
I know how alone abuse and unhealthy relationships made me feel and if there’s one thing I could tell my younger self it’s that I was worth fighting for, and worth protecting, and it’s not just OK but MY JOB to prioritize my own safety over other people’s feelings.
Check the show notes for some good resources on healthy relationships by Scarleteen and Amaze.org: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gn7ZQ2x0cOE https://www.scarleteen.com/article/abuse_assault/hello_sailor_how_to_build_board_and_navigate_a_healthy_relationship
If you’re a middle or high school teacher, check out these great lesson plans on health relationships: https://sfusdhealtheducation.org/be-real-be-ready-2/
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This episode is level one and we’re going to talk about how to stay safe online
The internet and virtual worlds can be so much fun. There’s lots of games to play, things to learn, videos to watch, songs to listen to, and people to meet. The internet helps us do so many things! Just like real life, though, not everything and everyone online has good intentions.
Tricky people use the internet just as much as trustworthy people use the internet and it’s important to learn how to keep yourself safe online just like it’s important to learn how to look both ways before crossing a street in real life. It’s also important to learn how to be a good person online, just like It’s important to learn how to be a good person in real life.
Those are the two things we’re going to focus on today: how to stay safe and how to be kind. One of my favorite websites for learning about online safety is common sense media and they have a really great list of online safety guidelines for parents, caring adults, and kids to use together. Find links here:
https://www.commonsensemedia.org/social-media/what-are-the-basic-social-media-rules-for-elementary-school-age-kids-0 https://www.commonsensemedia.org/privacy-and-internet-safety/how-do-i-protect-my-kids-privacy-online
One of the most important things families can do to teach those skills is to make up a contract about online behavior that everyone agrees to follow. There are many, many examples of family internet contracts online. Here are some links:
https://www.safekids.com/kids-rules-for-online-safety/ http://www.safekids.com/contract_kid// https://www.cyberbullyingbook.com/Internet_use_contract.pdf https://www.commonsensemedia.org/sites/default/files/uploads/pdfs/common_sense_family_media_agreement.pdf
Conversation starters: Who would you talk to if someone was mean or bullying you online? What would you want that person to do to help?
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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/ This episode is level two and it’s all about condoms:
Condoms come in two forms: internal and external. We’re going to talk about both! We’re going to answer these questions:
What are they? What are they made of? How are they used? How effective are they? Where do you get them? How much do they cost?
Internal condom demonstration: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vMbMy1fyeKo
To purchase internal condoms: https://fc2.us.com/
External condom demonstration: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HWUUkhKEXoI
Order condoms online: https://www.condomdepot.com
Find free condoms in your area: http://www.condomfinder.org/
Condom tips on the Six Minute Sex Ed Insta: https://www.instagram.com/sixminutesexed/
Check your size: https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/condom-size-chart
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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/
Earlier this week, I posted an episode featuring an interview with an author of On Blossoming. Though the book includes great content, information about it's connections to a community I do not support was withheld from me, which limited my ability to make a fully-informed informed decision about featuring the book on my show. Once I was fully informed, I made the decision to permanently delete the episode and replace it with this bonus episode that was for only for patrons. I'm very glad to give you this episode right before a holiday celebration, because it's all about my consent game.
My consent game is a great way to teach and practice consent for people of all ages. People of all ages love playing this game: preschoolers, teens, adults, and seniors alike! All you need is a table, people around the table, and either food or some objects in the middle. It teachers verbal and non-verbal communication skills and why practicing them is so important.
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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/
This week’s episode is level one, which means it’s great for listeners of any age, and we’re going to talk about how to listen when people say stop.
Kim introduces the concept of boundaries with a story about a kid named Harper, who is tickled when she doesn’t want to be. When someone says “Stop”, they should be listened to. They shouldn’t have to repeat it over and over again to be heard. Saying Stop is one way of making a boundary. A boundary is another word for limit: the difference between what is allowed and what is not, what is comfortable and what is uncomfortable, or what is safe and what is unsafe. People shouldn’t have to set boundaries or say “stop” more than once.
To see a great video about this, watch Sex Ed School Episode 1 Consent: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6QiamLdNUYM
Conversation starters: 1. What words do you use to tell other people about your boundaries or limits? 2. How does your body show it’s saying no, or stop?
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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/
This week’s episode is for parents and caring adults. I talk with Stefanie Rosen, who is a psychoanalyst and psychotherapist with a private practice in Westlake Village, California, outside of Los Angeles. She has a doctorate in contemporary psychoanalysis and has been a practicing marriage and family therapist specializing in relationships for 21 years. Stefanie talked with me about what parents struggle with when it comes to talking to their kids about sex and relationships, how to answer questions in an age-appropriate way while respecting boundaries, and how to start conversations if you have a kid that doesn't seem to ask any questions or show any curiosity. You can visit Stefanie’s website here: https://www.westlakevillagetherapist.com/
Patrons have access to the full interview, which covers how to talk to teenagers about sex, how to be sex positive, and how parents/carers and formal sex education can work in tandem to empower young people to grow into sexually healthy adults.
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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/
This week’s episode is Level One, which makes it good for listeners of any age, and it’s all about labor and birth. We talk about the basics of labor and birth, but also discuss the uniqueness of everyone’s experiences.
Here are some further resources:
If you need a quick review of how pregnancy starts, listen to episodes 22 and 28 of the podcast, or watch this video from amaze.org: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OejdOS4IqeE
Here’s a great video for younger ones: https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=94&v=A1dfkziW-Oo
This animation of vaginal childbirth is perfect for kids ages 8 and over: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dYu-0rOnLpA
This animation of a c section birth is perfect for kids ages 8 and over: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MeCtLhblzbo
Funny video of parents explaining childbirth to their kids: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mqk4-qkFbck
Conversation starters: What do you think is the hardest thing about giving birth? What do you think is the best thing about giving birth?
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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/
This episode is Level Two, which makes it more complex than my level one episodes and perfect for tweens, teens, and adults. This week we’re going to talk about Gilead Sciences’s profiteering from PrEP:
This is June, which means it’s Pride month. June is Pride month as a commemoration of the Stonewall Riots, which happened in June of 1969. To learn more about the Stonewall Riots, check out this link: https://www.hrc.org/blog/stonewall-at-50-remembering-importance-of-riots-pride-and-visibility
In honor of Pride month, I’m going to talk about Gilead Science’s profiteering off of Truvada, also known as PrEP, which is an really important HIV prevention drug. For more information about PrEP and how it works, listen to episode 22, HIV prevention, and check the updated show notes for that episode with information about PrEP, including patient assistance programs in your state.
I’m celebrating Pride month in this way because, for decades, the history of the LGBTQIA community is one of fierce, passionate, joyful survival in the face of multiple kinds of oppression: state-sponsored discrimination, social stigmatization, medical disenfranchisement, religious exclusion, corporate profiteering. That struggle isn’t over. It never ended. It’s going on right now.
Gilead Sciences is a pharmaceutical company that holds the patent for Truvada, or PrEP, which is the only FDA approved version of the drug available in USA. The current sticker price for PrEP in the US is $1,780 a month –– or $21,360 per year.
To read more about this, check out the following links:
From the Washington Post: An HIV treatment cost taxpayers millions. The government patented it. But a pharma giant is making billions - https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/economy/pharma-giant-profits-from-hiv-treatment-funded-by-taxpayers-and-patented-by-the-government/2019/03/26/cee5afb4-40fc-11e9-9361-301ffb5bd5e6_story.html?utm_term=.13cf30298696
Also from the Washington Post: Gilead CEO insists federal government patent for HIV prevention pill Truvada is invalid - https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/economy/gilead-ceo-insists-federal-government-patent-for-hiv-prevention-pill-truvada-is-invalid/2019/05/16/7c0a79b6-77e1-11e9-b3f5-5673edf2d127_story.html?utm_term=.4ef8cae7e986
From NPR: AIDS Activists Take Aim At Gilead To Lower Price Of HIV Drug PrEP - https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2019/05/30/727731380/old-fight-new-front-aids-activists-want-lower-drug-prices-now?utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_term=nprnews&utm_campaign=npr
Congresswoman Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez questions Gilead Sciences about their patent: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ma2FvPTi5uQ
Break the Patent: https://breakthepatent.org/
I’m dedication this episode to this issue because this issue makes me so angry. It makes me angry that many state governments, and the federal government, continue to sanction discriminatory policies including prohibiting trans people from serving in the military according to their gender identity and the institution of no promo homo laws which prevent teachers in many areas of the US from portraying LGBTQIA+ people in a positive light, It makes me angry that people continue to stigmatize LGBTQIA+ people, that churches exclude them, that medical institutions deny them healthcare, corporations like Gilead sciences make billions in profit from making necessary products inaccessible.
So...what do you want for Pride Month?
I know what I want. I want Gilead Sciences to release the patent for Truvada and make Prep available for everyone who needs it.
Happy Pride!
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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/
This episode is Level One, which makes it more good for listeners of any age. This week we’re going to talk about pregnancy.
Kim starts with an overview of pregnancy basics from conception through all three trimesters using basic, inclusive terminology.
Here are links to great resources about pregnancy, including age-appropriate youtube videos listed from the most basic to the most advanced:
Amaze.org video about the very basics, great for young ones: https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=125&v=A1dfkziW-Oo
Amaze.org video about pregnancy and birth, slightly more detailed than the first video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=106&v=sOL8dbiRhpg
Book - What’s In There?: https://www.amazon.com/Whats-There-About-Before-about/dp/0763636304?SubscriptionId=AKIAJCI3DJTKR6N4LR2A&tag=sexpositive0a-20%20&linkCode=xm2&camp=2025&creative=165953&creativeASIN=0763636304
Book - It’s Not the Stork!: https://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-Stork-Families-Friends/dp/0763633313/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=its+not+the+stork&qid=1559152927&s=gateway&sr=8-2
Book: Birds and Bees and More: https://www.amazon.com/Birds-Bees-paperback-Sandra-Caron/dp/0991260163?SubscriptionId=AKIAJCI3DJTKR6N4LR2A&tag=sexpositive0a-20%20&linkCode=xm2&camp=2025&creative=165953&creativeASIN=0991260163
Video about twins, featuring real kids: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T2SDh8VVyUc
Slideshow of pregnancy development week-by-week: https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/babyslideshow.html
YouTube video of the entire pregnancy development process using more advanced scientific terminology: https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=3&v=BtsSbZ85yiQ
Short video of various animals giving birth, which is good for starting conversations with kids who aren’t ready to discuss human reproduction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OT63_TVU1BI
Conversation starters: Make a fist with your hand. No, really, make a first with your hand: that’s about the size of a uterus when there’s no fetus inside it. Imagine how much the uterus stretches to fit a fetus during pregnancy. Tell someone what you think of that.
Who do you know that you can ask about pregnancy and birth?
Do you think talking about pregnancy and birth is private for some people? Why or why not?
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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/
This episode is Level Two, which makes it more complex than my level one episode and perfect for tweens and teens. This week we’re going to talk about What Sex Ed Used to be Like.
Kim has a guest for this episode…her mother! They talk about what sex education was like when Kim’s mother was young, what kinds of conversations she had with her parents, and what it’s like to participate in the process as a grandmother.
If you want to hear the full conversation, sign up on Patreon for as little as $3 a month to get access to every episode of the podcast, as well as bonus content.
Thanks so much for listening today! Don’t forget, rate/review the podcast, and make sure to like the brand new six minute sex ed Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/Six-Minute-Sex-Ed-800736716974840
You can also follow Six minute sex ed on Instagram, and Twitter. send your questions and comments to sixminutesexed@gmail.com and sign up on Patreon for as little as $3/month to get access to the episode archive: https://www.patreon.com/sexpositiveparent
Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/
This episode is Level One, which makes it good for listeners of any age, and we’re going to talk about Playing Doctor.
Playing doctor is very common behavior for young children. As young children, we feel very curious about our bodies and how they are similar to and different from other people’ bodies. Playing doctor is a typical way we explore those differences and answer basic questions like, “I wonder if my penis looks the same as other penises,” or “I wonder if my vulva is the same color as a penis?”
Other things that are common when young children play doctor: The kids know each other well It’s friendly and playful, not coercive or bullying Objects aren’t being inserted anywhere
If someone is bullying someone else into playing doctor, or objects are being inserted, then those are indications to seek additional supports. Here are some helpful articles and links: When Your Child Plays Doctor: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-raise-happy-cooperative-child/201610/when-your-child-plays-doctor What to do when your young one’s playing doctor: https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/pega-ren/kids-and-sexuality_b_1669787.html Playing Doctor is a normal, natural, and important part of childhood: https://birdsandbeesandkids.com/playing-doctor-is-a-normal-natural-and-important-part-of-childhood%E2%80%A8/ What to do when you catch your child playing doctor: https://sexedrescue.com/playing-doctor/
Here are some general guidelines: Stay calm. Remember that playing doctor is common Show acceptance Set healthy boundaries Find more resources together.
Sex Positive Families’s book list: http://sexpositivefamilies.com/sex-positive-families-reading-list/
Conversation starter: What sorts of things do you wonder about other people’s bodies?
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Welcome back to Six Minute Sex Ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships, hosted by Sex Education teacher, Kim Cavill: https://www.teaandintimacy.com/
This episode is Level Two, which makes it more complex than my level one episodes and especially great for tweens and teens. We’re going to talk about Emergency Contraception.
What is it? Emergency contraception is birth control taken up to five days after risky sex in order to prevent pregnancy. There are three kinds: two pills and the copper IUD.
How does it work? Levonelle prevents ovulation, Ulipristal blocks the body’s own hormones, and the Copper IUD prevents sperm from reaching the egg. See a copper IUD here: http://teenhealthsource.com/birthcontrol/copper-iud-details/
How Effective is it? Levonelle is 95% effective in the first 12 hours after risky/unprotected sex, then steadily drops in efficacy (85% after 48 hours, 58% after 72 hours). Ullipristal is 95% effective for five days after risky/unprotected sex. The Copper IUD is 99.9% effective for five days after risky/unprotected sex, making it the most effective form of EC available.
Side effects: All three interventions are very safe and side effects are very rare, though they include irregular bleeding, upset stomach, and headaches. Some medical conditions make EC unsafe to take, so it’s important to speak to a doctor to check it’s safe: if you can’t reach your doctor, text “PPNOW" to 774636 (PPINFO) text with someone from Planned Parenthood who can help. Side effects of the copper IUD include temporary cramping, spotting, and heavier or more painful periods.
Tips: Because levonelle is time sensitive, it’s a good idea to have a dose on hand, before it’s actually needed, just make sure it’s available. You can also use some forms of the birth control pill as emergency contraception, but ONLY if taken according to very specific guidelines and it’s less effective than the other options I’ve talked about, so make sure to speak to a doctor before trying this method. Know your rights by educating yourself about the laws in your state: https://www.guttmacher.org/state-policy/explore/emergency-contraception
For more info about emergency contraception, check out: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexual_health/emergency_contraception?language=es
Conversation starters: What are the state laws about emergency contraception where you live? Why is it a good idea to have a dose on hand before it’s actually needed?
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Welcome back to six minute sex ed, the podcast that helps families talk about sex and relationships. My name’s Kim Cavill. I’m a sex education teacher and I’m so glad you’re back.
I make this podcast for busy families to listen to together. Listen together, then talk about it!
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This episode is Level One, which means it's great for listeners of any age, but particularly good for families with younger listeners. This episode is all about trustworthy grown-ups.
We're going to start with a story:
This is a story about a kid named Eve, who uses she/her/hers pronouns. Eve is ten and is disappointed because her babysitter left and she has to go to her older cousin’s house after school until her dad is done with work. She likes her cousin, Kia, well enough, but doesn’t know her very well, and her place is pretty boring. Eve watches TV until her dad comes to pick her up, but, lately, Kia has been watching TV with her, letting her watch shows that her dad never lets her watch. Kia tells Eve to keep it a secret, otherwise she won’t let her come over anymore. Kia gives Eve food she’s not allowed to have, too, and tells her to keep that secret. One day, while they’re watching TV, Kia pulls out something that looks like a pen and puffs on it. The smoke smells good, and she offers it to Eve, but tells her she has to keep it a secret, too, otherwise she’ll tell Eve’s dad she’s been watching stuff she isn’t allowed and get in big trouble. Eve wants to call her dad to ask for permission, but Kia says "No." Eve feels uncomfortable with all these secrets and is scared of getting in trouble with her dad. She gets a weird, twisted feeling in her tummy like she’s doing something dangerous.
How is Eve feeling in this situation?
How do we know if Kia is being trustworthy or tricky?
Here's how we know if someone is trustworthy:
They tell the truth They respect other people’s bodies. They respect privacy. They don’t ask children to keep their secrets. They ask other grown-ups for help, not children. They give you a safe, warm feeling - not a scary “uh-oh” feeling. They follow your family’s rules They’ll ask you to check with a parent to get permission.
If someone doesn't do those things, or does the opposite of those things, they're being tricky and you should ask a trustworthy grown-up for help. Click on this link to download a printable you can use to remember who your trustworthy grown-ups are: https://docs.google.com/drawings/d/e/2PACX-1vQOctwvjm0vH2oSo6NFnQHXGhM1FL6r_7pvpP0y_88X3EwDdXSrcs6eAQgMsLR-e1muVGdMqYbEz6MB/pub?w=960&h=720
Grown-ups can do this, too! Click on this link to download a printable you can use to figure out your family's support network: https://docs.google.com/drawings/d/e/2PACX-1vRICjYst6fqawG5inGagklvzq7TMtJwvs6QjUfe_Qp0Y-5LlZFscmN3sOMxuv_ML8oOeOqKbQSWG-2W/pub?w=960&h=720
Conversation starters:
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How do you know if someone's trustworthy?
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Describe a time in your life that someone was being tricky and you needed to ask someone trustworthy for help.
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