"The Kitchen Table" Presented by The Pacific Institute Canada: Recent Episodes

Gregg Cochlan & Ron Medved

The Kitchen Table purpose is to share with you an engaging dialogue that we hope will reveal the dynamic world of cognitive science and it’s role it plays in performance. For over four decade your co-host Ron Medved and Gregg Cochlan have work with hundreds of organizations to apply cognitive psychology, science and practices to ignite human and organizational performance.

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This episode builds on the work we have been doing in the Wisdom Project, particularly our Knowledge Construct—the idea that wisdom depends not only on the information we receive, but also on the reliability of that information and the quality of its source.

In this discussion a speaker offers a practical way to use the space between stimulus and response. In that pause, we can step back and ask whether the information being presented is reliable.

He suggests listening for four clues:

· Is the speaker making the issue personal?

· Are they identifying a villain?

· Are they trying to provoke rage or outrage?

· And are they presenting themselves as the only person who can fix it?

These signals can appear in almost any political or public conversation.

The stories we examine in this episode—whether the B.C. condo initiative is a bailout for wealthy developers or an effort to create more affordable housing—provide an excellent example.

So listen carefully for the difference between information designed to inform us and information designed to trigger us.

Here we go

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After several episodes exploring some fairly deep topics, we decided to take a little detour and simply have some fun.

With the recent World Cup soccer matches capturing so much attention, Ron kicked off a conversation about the Belgium–United States match and where both the U.S. and Canadian teams fit into the tournament. As three friends around the kitchen table, we quickly discovered that our perspectives were quite different. Dave brought a much deeper knowledge of the game, while Ron and I approached it more as interested fans.

What surprised us was that, without planning it, the Wisdom Formula quietly found its way into the discussion. As we talked about competition, expectations, disappointment, and national pride, Red Card ,we realized that even sports offer opportunities to practice responding wisely rather than simply reacting emotionally.

This episode is lighter than most, filled with good-natured conversation, laughter, and a little friendly Canada–U.S. banter. But, as often happens around our Kitchen Table, we stumbled onto another reminder that wisdom isn't reserved for life's biggest challenges—it can show up in the most unexpected conversations.

We hope you enjoy this one as much as we enjoyed recording it.

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In our previous episode, Podcast 123, we explored how information becomes knowledge and how knowledge contributes to wisdom. What began with Ron sharing the story of Calli consulting both a traditional counsellor and a nontraditional psychic quickly became something none of us expected.

As often happens around our Kitchen Table, the conversation moved below the surface. In reflecting on Ron's story, Dave and Ron discovered that Ron's late mother and Dave's late father shared the exact same birthday—same day, same month, and same year. What started as ordinary information unexpectedly became charmed information—information that opened the door to deeper meaning, insight, and ultimately action, as Ron and Dave decided to celebrate what would have been their parents' 100th birthdays.

Whether you see it as meaningful coincidence, intuition, or what Carl Jung called synchronicity, the experience reminded us that some information does more than inform us—it invites us to see the world differently. Sometimes, charmed information opens the door to wisdom in ways we never anticipated.

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Synchronicity is a term coined by Carl Jung to describe a meaningful coincidence—an event where two or more things seem connected in a way that feels significant, even though there is no obvious cause-and-effect relationship between them. Non- Traditional Sources informing Knowledge in the service of Wisdom

In our previous episode, Podcast 122, we continued building on the Wisdom Formula and the various models and constructs we've developed over the past several years. In particular, we introduced what we've come to call the Knowledge Construct—a framework that explores how knowledge is shaped by both the quality of information we receive and the sources from which it comes. The construct is built around a simple matrix: reliable and unreliable information on one axis, and traditional and non-traditional sources of knowledge on the other.

Our friend Ron Medved was away while much of this work was unfolding, so part of today's conversation is spent bringing him up to speed. In the process, Ron generously shares a personal story that touches on many of the concepts we've been exploring. What emerged was a fascinating discussion about synchronicity, unexpected connections between Ron and Dave's families, and questions that led us into conversations about collective consciousness and the noosphere. We know this territory may feel a little unconventional—or even a bit weird—but it provided a rich opportunity to explore the role that non-traditional sources of knowledge can play in our understanding of wisdom.

We hope you enjoy the conversation and that it helps you discover new ways to apply the learnings of The Wisdom Project in your own life.

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One of the key insights emerging from the Wisdom Project is that wisdom is not the same as accumulating information. When people think of a wise person, they often imagine someone who knows a great deal, and knowledge is certainly part of wisdom. But our exploration suggests that knowledge is only one component, and it is always incomplete.

We are rarely, if ever, able to know with total certainty what is really going on. Because of that, wisdom is not about having perfect knowledge. It is about doing our best to gather, assess, and apply information in a way that leads to a response that creates benefit.

In the Wisdom Project, knowledge is best understood as being in the service of a wise response. We gather information from diverse sources, weigh it carefully, interpret it through our own experience, and filter it through the maturity construct. The goal is not simply to know more, but to respond more wisely.

Two Broad Categories of Information

Our discussion suggests that information generally comes from two broad kinds of sources: traditional and non-traditional.

Traditional sources include science, research, education, journalism, and other forms of observable or repeatable evidence.

Non-traditional sources include intuition, spiritual insight, collective consciousness, and felt knowing.

Both can influence how people come to understand the world, but both require discernment.

Information Quality Also Matters

Not all information is equally trustworthy. Some information is reliable — evidence-based, consistent, verifiable, and coherent. Other information is unreliable — biased, incomplete, emotionally distorted, or shaped by misinformation and disinformation.

This means wisdom is not just about finding information. It is about evaluating the source, judging the quality, and using that knowledge in ways that are thoughtful, grounded, and beneficial

This means the challenge is not just to collect information, but to discern the kind of information we are receiving, evaluate its quality, and determine how it should be used.

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Today’s conversation is a tender one.

Ron is going to generously share his experience of losing his 94-year-old mother-in-law. Loss like that carries real grief. Real weight. Real suffering.

What stands out in this story isn’t an attempt to avoid the pain — it’s the way Ron gently creates space inside it. A pause between the shock of loss and the way he chooses to respond. Not denying the grief. Not rushing past it. But walking through it thoughtfully — and helping Kelly do the same.

We’ve talked before about how suffering can be triggered in many ways — uncertainty, fear, change. But sometimes the stimulus is simply love and loss. And in those moments, the question becomes: how do we respond?

Today we explore that space — the quiet pause where suffering is real, but wisdom can still guide the response

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On February 22, while we were in Mexico at our place in La Penita my son-in-law Josh and I were having breakfast at a local restaurant when social media began reporting violence in our region following the killing of a major cartel leader in Jalisco. In a matter of minutes, uncertainty entered the room. The headlines were dramatic. The proximity felt real. And like any powerful stimulus, it had the potential to escalate quickly inside us.

What became clear in that moment was this: the Wisdom Project isn’t theoretical — it’s practical. We created a pause between stimulus and response. We noticed the movement along the Experience Slider — from cognitive fact-finding to emotional reaction. And we located ourselves on the Concern Continuum, aware of how easily healthy concern can drift toward worry or anxiety when uncertainty goes unmanaged.

This episode isn’t about cartel politics. It’s about what happens inside us when uncertainty feels close to home — and how having the tools of pause, awareness, and calibration allows us to regulate our response, minimize anxiety, and reduce unnecessary suffering in real time.

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In today’s episode, we introduce what we’re calling the experience slider. Every experience is a stimulus. From there, our response tends to slide in one of two directions — toward cognitive reaction (thinking, analyzing, interpreting) or toward emotional reaction (feeling, sensing, reacting from the heart or gut). Neither side is wrong, but where we land shapes what happens next.

Layered onto that is what we call the concern continuum — a mental-state progression that helps us understand how our internal reaction can escalate.

Concern is the healthy starting point. It’s awareness with proportion. Something matters, and we’re attentive, but we remain steady and capable of thoughtful response.

Worry emerges when concern loops. The mind revisits the issue repeatedly, often imagining outcomes. Worry narrows our focus and can begin to crowd out perspective.

Anxiety is worry amplified. The body joins the mind. There is tension, urgency, a felt sense of threat or loss of control. The emotional slider has moved further to the right.

Panic is the far end of the continuum — when regulation drops significantly and the nervous system overrides reflection. Thinking becomes difficult, and reaction dominates.

In this conversation, we explore how the experience slider and the concern continuum interact — and how the intentional pause between stimulus and response allows us to notice where we are, regain balance, and slide back toward wisdom

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In this episode, we’re taking a pause—a moment to check in, reflect, and go a little deeper into the questions that have surfaced during our exploration of uncertainty, anxiety, and suffering in Wisdom Study 2.0.

But this time, the spotlight gently shifts to the circular nature of wisdom itself. Dave brings forward a few powerful questions about how wisdom doesn’t just move us forward—it often invites us back, full circle, to reflect on how we’ve changed and what we now see with clearer eyes.

At the heart of this episode is Ron Medved—our friend, guide, and longtime companion in this work—whose personal practice of consciously engaging with the Creator or Source has shaped how he navigates the afternoon of life. Now in his 80s, Ron shares how his responses to life’s challenges have evolved from the striving of his 40s into something calmer, deeper, and—dare we say—wiser.

His story is not just inspiring—it’s instructive. It shows what it means to live the wisdom formula, not just talk about it.

So whether you’re new to this conversation or have been with us since the beginning, we invite you to listen in, reflect, and consider how your own relationship with uncertainty, anxiety, and wisdom has shifted over time.

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As we head into our 10th season, we’re continually humbled by how far this conversation has traveled. We’ve had listeners tuning in from more than 120 countries around the world, and that global community means a great deal to us. From time to time, we’ve invited feedback, comments, questions, and curiosities—and we want you to know that invitation is always open. If you’re willing, we’d love for you to click on the comments and share a thought or a wonder. We’ll keep everything private, and we promise we won’t respond directly. Your reflections simply help shape the ongoing conversation

In this podcast, we continue our ongoing exploration of the relationship between uncertainty, anxiety, and suffering, turning our attention more deliberately toward suffering itself—how it arises, how we interpret it, and how it can become a catalyst for wisdom rather than a source of ongoing distress.

We begin by revisiting the anxiety continuum, moving from concern to worry, anxiety, and ultimately panic. Using several real-life stories, we examine how suffering shows up differently at each point along this continuum—not only as an emotional experience, but as a story we tell ourselves about what is happening and what it means.

In this episode, suffering becomes the central focus. Rather than treating suffering as something to eliminate or avoid, we explore how different wisdom traditions understand suffering as an inevitable part of the human condition—and, when approached wisely, a profound teacher.

To ground this exploration, we draw insight from five influential wisdom voices and traditions, including the Buddha, the Stoics, and depth psychologist Carl Jung. Each offers a unique perspective on how humans relate to pain, uncertainty, and meaning.

A key part of the conversation centers on Jung’s description of the stages of life—particularly his distinction between the morning, noon, and afternoon of life. We explore how much of our early life is driven by achievement, control, and certainty, and how the “noon” of life often brings heightened anxiety when those strategies stop working. Jung’s afternoon of life, however, invites a different posture: one marked by integration, acceptance, and a deeper capacity to hold suffering without being defined by it

Episode 117 invites listeners not to bypass suffering, but to slow down, examine the stories they are telling, and consider how suffering—held with awareness and compassion—may be shaping them toward greater wisdom.

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In this podcast Gregg, Ron, and Dave continue their exploration of the relationship between uncertainty, anxiety, and suffering — but this time through the lens of practice. Drawing on the idea of a wisdom dojo, they look at how anxiety isn’t just something to understand, but something to train with. Just like a martial artist builds strength and skill through repeated drills, we can build a stronger pause — that space between stimulus and response — by doing small, deliberate “workouts” that help us recognize uncertainty, soften anxiety, and reduce suffering before it hijacks our judgment. This episode invites listeners into the dojo with us: to reflect, to practice, and to develop the inner strength required for wiser decisions in everyday life

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Over the last several podcasts, we’ve been deepening our work on what we’re calling Wisdom Study 2.0, an extension of our Wisdom Project. The driving question behind this phase of our study has been simple, but profound: how can we apply wisdom in ways that actually mitigate the psychological and emotional impacts of uncertainty—especially the anxiety that so often leads to personal and collective suffering?

In our last episode, we shared a couple of stories—from illness to travel to politics—that illustrated just how disorienting uncertainty can be, and how easily it can pull us into anxiety or reactive judgment.

Today, we want to build on that. We’re going to explore the significant challenge uncertainty presents in our daily lives—how it shapes our decisions, how it influences our well-being, and how it affects the people we care about. And, as always, we’ll be asking the practical question: What can we do about it?

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In this episode, I want to share a bit of personal background that shaped today’s conversation. Earlier in 2024, my grandson Peter was diagnosed with Tuberous Sclerosis Complex, a condition I’ve spoken about in earlier Kitchen Table podcasts. Through the spring, our family’s anxiety deepened when we learned that Peter also had spots on his kidneys, which were later confirmed to be carcinoma.

So, while our Wisdom Project continues to explore the relationship between uncertainty, anxiety, and suffering, this chapter became very personal. We were witnessing those three forces up close — in real time — and learning how they intertwine.

Then something beautiful happened. A couple of dear friends offered our entire family the use of their lakefront cottage while they were away this summer. It was the perfect gift at the perfect time — a reminder to stay in the present moment, to breathe, and to find peace even amid uncertainty.

This experience became the backdrop for today’s conversation, where we look more deeply at how we live with uncertainty, how we manage anxiety, and how we can transform suffering into a source of wisdom

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In this episode, Ron and Gregg open up a bit more. We sharing some stories that get into the harder side of anxiety and suffering. They’re honest, sometimes uncomfortable, but also very real. And they help us see that even in those darker places, there’s room for learning, growth, and—ultimately—wisdom.

So as you listen, think about the moments in your own life when you’ve struggled, or felt overwhelmed, and how those experiences might have shaped you. Because that’s really what this conversation is about—finding the threads of wisdom woven through our suffering and uncertainty.

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In this episode of the Wisdom Project, (Wisdom Study #2.0) Gregg shares a personal but highly relatable story that brings to life the emotional continuum from concern to anxiety to borderline panic. It’s the kind of story we’ve all lived in some form—especially if you’ve ever been asked to cook for a group of very competent, very transparentx friends.

Here’s the setup:

Gregg and his crew—six high school buddies and six university pals—have been meeting annually for over 3 decades for a weekend of golf, food, drinks, and laughter.
Each year, different guys take turns hosting meals, and this year… Gregg got tapped for the job. “Oh no!”
On paper, it’s just dinner. But in reality? It stirred up a storm of comparison, performance pressure, and self-doubt.
Gregg found himself spiraling into worry, feeling out of his depth when stacked up against his buddies—some of whom could probably moonlight as chefs.

What followed was a humorous, insightful journey that became a perfect case study in the Wisdom Project’s ongoing exploration of how we move along a spectrum:

From concern (“I hope I don’t mess this up…”)
To worry (“What if my dish doesn’t stack up?”)
To anxiety (“They’ll all remember this meal—for the wrong reasons…”)
And finally, to a kind of reflective awareness and growth (“Wait a minute—what’s the story I’m telling myself here?”)

Rather than let the inner critic win, Gregg used the experience as a kind of film review session:

What triggered the anxiety?
What was true?
What was narrative?
And how can something so small become a mirror for something much larger?

It’s a story that perfectly illustrates how our inner narratives shape our outer experiences—and how self-awareness and reflection can turn even a BBQ into a wisdom practice.

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In this episode, Gregg (Afi) opens up about his own vulnerabilities, sharing uncertainties in his life and the impact they have on anxiety and suffering. By bringing his personal experience into the conversation, we aim to shed light on how wisdom practices can guide us through life’s challenges and help transform uncertainty into growth,

Both TSC and Parkinson’s bring real challenges — but also real opportunities for connection, creativity, and courage. This episode brings those stories to light, through the lens of family, love, and wisdom across generations.

What is Tuberous Sclerosis Complex (TSC)?

Tuberous Sclerosis Complex, or TSC, is a rare genetic disorder that causes non-cancerous tumors to grow in various parts of the body — most often in the brain, skin, kidneys, heart, eyes, and lungs.

TSC is caused by a mutation in either the TSC1 or TSC2 gene, which regulate cell growth. When these genes aren’t working properly, cells can grow uncontrollably, leading to these benign tumors.

We often call it “Confetti Brain” to reflect the beautiful, scattered uniqueness of grandson Peter affected — and to reframe the condition with compassion and imagination rather than fear.

What is Parkinson’s Disease?

Parkinson’s Disease is a progressive neurological disorder that affects movement, muscle control, and over time, cognitive and emotional functioning.

It is primarily caused by the gradual loss of dopamine-producing cells in a part of the brain . Dopamine is a chemical messenger that helps regulate movement and coordination.

Common symptoms include:

· Tremors

· Stiffness

· Slowness of movement

· Changes in speech or handwriting

· Balance issues

· Fatigue or depression

While Parkinson’s progresses over time, many people live long, full lives by managing symptoms through medication, exercise, therapy, and staying mentally and emotionally engaged.

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Welcome to Season Nine the Wisdom Study 2.0 where we explore the ever-increasing challenge of anxiety. In this season, we will begin by diving into the connection between Uncertainty, Anxiety, and Suffering. Building on the Wisdom Formula we introduced in Wisdom Study 1.0, we’ll focus on how to turn wisdom into practice—offering models & practical ways to ease anxiety in the middle of life’s complexity.

As the world grows more uncertain, anxiety naturally grows with it. Our hope is that these conversations will give you tools, insights, and stories to help apply wisdom in your everyday life, so you can face challenges with more clarity, calm, and courage.

Background

Simply stated Anxiety is increasing.

Global trends: Surveys like the World Health Organization and Gallup Global Emotions Report show rising levels of stress, worry, and anxiety over the past decade. Events such as the pandemic, political polarization, economic uncertainty, climate change, and rapid technological shifts have amplified this trend.
Generational patterns: Younger generations (Gen Z and Millennials) report higher levels of anxiety compared to older cohorts, often tied to social media use, financial stress, and a less predictable future.
Clinical reality: Diagnosed anxiety disorders are becoming more common, but even outside clinical diagnoses, day-to-day experiences of anxiety are increasing for many people.
Root causes: Greater uncertainty—about health, work, identity, the environment, and social cohesion—appears to be fueling this rise.

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In this episode, Gregg, Dave and Ron get trapped in misinformation, supposedly coming from the new Pope Leo IVX. What does "woke" mean? What does "anti-woke" mean? What is the truth? Where is the truth? Be careful...it may be mis-information. Even if you like the answers.

Additional Link

Timothy Caulfield from his book; The Certainty Illusion

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cf7dG62GcGo

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In this episode, Gregg, Dave, and Ron examine the use of "labels" in our lives. Labels give us a short-cut. Even help us judge others quickly. But can we dig a little deeper? Our Wisdom Model opens us to curiosity, even maturity. Join us on the journey.

Additional References

Core Wisdom Formula: Experience + Knowledge + Maturity = Wisdom (+)

The formula highlights the interdependence of three key components in developing wisdom:

Experience: Encompasses personal interactions, emotions, and perceptions, forming the subjective lens through which the world is understood.
Knowledge: Refers to acquired information or awareness, gained through education or experience.
Maturity: Demonstrated in one’s ability to respond thoughtfully and deliberately to life’s challenges, beyond mere age.

Wisdom results when these elements merge, and Wisdom+ represents the ability to apply them, leading to wise action with tangible benefit

Seven Spectrums of Woke

he Seven Spectrums of Woke describe a range of beliefs and attitudes toward the concept of "woke," highlighting how perspectives vary significantly across the political and social landscape. From enthusiastic support for systemic social justice (Far Left) to viewing "woke" as a threat to traditional values and freedoms (Far Right), this spectrum provides clarity on the nuances and diversity of opinions surrounding the term. Understanding that there is a spectrum helps us appreciate the complexity of cultural debates and recognize where individuals might find themselves positioned within the broader dialogue about social awareness, inclusion, and cultural change.

Far Left

a. Sees woke as essentially for social justice and a systemic change.

Progressive Left

a. Views woke as raising awareness about any inequalities, discrimination and human rights.

Moderate Left

a. Supports many woke ideas but believe some policies may go too far.

Center

a. Recognizes both the benefit and excessive of woke culture favours balance.

Moderate Right

a. Believes woke can be excessive, harming free speech and traditional values.

Conservative Right

a. Strongly opposes woke seeing it as politically correct taken too far.

Far Right

a. Views woke as a dangerous ideology the threatens western culture and freedoms.

Four Maturity Capabilities: Maturity is developed through four capabilities:
- Objective self-analysis: Extending time between stimulus and response to evaluate beliefs and emotions.

Understanding & integrating multiple perspectives: Acknowledging ambiguity and others’ worldviews.
Empathetic reasoning: Considering others’ welfare while maintaining personal balance

Thinking and acting autonomously and authentically : Aligning behavior with values, acting autonomously and with integrity.

SCARF Model (Dr. David Rock): This model identifies five social domains—status, certainty, autonomy, relatedness, and fairness—that influence human behavior by triggering reward or threat responses. These social elements explain much of modern society’s polarization, lack of civility, and increasing tribalism. People often seek to avoid threats and approach rewards, creating division when these domains are challenged.

This wisdom framework seeks to answer critical questions about contemporary social dynamics, such as the rise of populism, polarization, and the erosion of pluralism. By understanding the foundational

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In this episode, Gregg, Dave and Ron revisit their reflections on Pope Francis. With some trepidation, especially Ron. But we do evolve our religious beliefs. Especially as we age and mature. We are three podcasters, with different "cosmic addresses". There is no one size fits all

Additional References

Core Wisdom Formula: Experience + Knowledge + Maturity = Wisdom (+)

The formula highlights the interdependence of three key components in developing wisdom:

Experience: Encompasses personal interactions, emotions, and perceptions, forming the subjective lens through which the world is understood.
Knowledge: Refers to acquired information or awareness, gained through education or experience.
Maturity: Demonstrated in one’s ability to respond thoughtfully and deliberately to life’s challenges, beyond mere age.

Wisdom results when these elements merge, and Wisdom+ represents the ability to apply them, leading to wise action with tangible benefits.
Four Wisdom Support Constructs

1. Wisdom Practice Model: Stories, Ologies, Beliefs, Wisdom+
- Stories: Interpretations of experiences.
- Ologies Fields of study (e.g., biology, psychology) that influence belief systems.
- Beliefs: Shaped by stories and ologies, forming personal behaviors.
- Wisdom+: Integration of experience, knowledge, and maturity into practical wisdom.
2. Wisdom to the 3rd Power: Noun, Verb, and Creative Subconscious
- Noun: Represents wisdom as a philosophy, virtue, or practice.
- Verb: Wisdom in action, application, or response.
- Creative Subconscious: The incubator for pondering and creatively engaging wisdom.

3. Four Maturity Capabilities: Maturity is developed through four capabilities:
- Objective self-analysis: Extending time between stimulus and response to evaluate beliefs and emotions.
- Understanding & integrating multiple perspectives: Acknowledging ambiguity and others’ worldviews.
- Empathetic reasoning: Considering others’ welfare while maintaining personal balance.
- Thinking and acting autonomously and authentically : Aligning behavior with values, acting autonomously and with integrity.
4. SCARF Model (Dr. David Rock): This model identifies five social domains—status, certainty, autonomy, relatedness, and fairness—that influence human behavior by triggering reward or threat responses. These social elements explain much of modern society’s polarization, lack of civility, and increasing tribalism. People often seek to avoid threats and approach rewards, creating division when these domains are challenged.

This wisdom framework seeks to answer critical questions about contemporary social dynamics, such as the rise of populism, polarization, and the erosion of pluralism. By understanding the foundational elements of wisdom and the forces that shape human reactions (e.g., the SCARF model), individuals can foster more nuanced and thoughtful responses to life’s challenges. The maturity capabilities offer a path to wise action, rooted in empathy, perspective-taking, and authenticity.

This approach also suggests that the more developed these constructs are within individuals, the better equipped they are to navigate complex social and personal situations, leading to more harmonious and inclusive societies.

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In this episode, Ron, Dave and Gregg share their perspectives on the life, ministry, and papistry of Pope Francis. All three of us, looking through the lens of our wisdom model, describe a unique world leader. Also important are our own stories. And how Francis' life illuminates our own evolving values.

Additional References

Core Wisdom Formula: Experience + Knowledge + Maturity = Wisdom (+)

The formula highlights the interdependence of three key components in developing wisdom:

Experience: Encompasses personal interactions, emotions, and perceptions, forming the subjective lens through which the world is understood.
Knowledge: Refers to acquired information or awareness, gained through education or experience.
Maturity: Demonstrated in one’s ability to respond thoughtfully and deliberately to life’s challenges, beyond mere age.

Wisdom results when these elements merge, and Wisdom+ represents the ability to apply them, leading to wise action with tangible benefits.
Four Wisdom Support Constructs

1. Wisdom Practice Model: Stories, Ologies, Beliefs, Wisdom+
- Stories: Interpretations of experiences.
- Ologies Fields of study (e.g., biology, psychology) that influence belief systems.
- Beliefs: Shaped by stories and ologies, forming personal behaviors.
- Wisdom+: Integration of experience, knowledge, and maturity into practical wisdom.
2. Wisdom to the 3rd Power: Noun, Verb, and Creative Subconscious
- Noun: Represents wisdom as a philosophy, virtue, or practice.
- Verb: Wisdom in action, application, or response.
- Creative Subconscious: The incubator for pondering and creatively engaging wisdom.

3. Four Maturity Capabilities: Maturity is developed through four capabilities:
- Objective self-analysis: Extending time between stimulus and response to evaluate beliefs and emotions.
- Understanding & integrating multiple perspectives: Acknowledging ambiguity and others’ worldviews.
- Empathetic reasoning: Considering others’ welfare while maintaining personal balance.
- Thinking and acting autonomously and authentically : Aligning behavior with values, acting autonomously and with integrity.
4. SCARF Model (Dr. David Rock): This model identifies five social domains—status, certainty, autonomy, relatedness, and fairness—that influence human behavior by triggering reward or threat responses. These social elements explain much of modern society’s polarization, lack of civility, and increasing tribalism. People often seek to avoid threats and approach rewards, creating division when these domains are challenged.

This wisdom framework seeks to answer critical questions about contemporary social dynamics, such as the rise of populism, polarization, and the erosion of pluralism. By understanding the foundational elements of wisdom and the forces that shape human reactions (e.g., the SCARF model), individuals can foster more nuanced and thoughtful responses to life’s challenges. The maturity capabilities offer a path to wise action, rooted in empathy, perspective-taking, and authenticity.

This approach also suggests that the more developed these constructs are within individuals, the better equipped they are to navigate complex social and personal situations, leading to more harmonious and inclusive societies.

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In this episode, Gregg and Ron expose the psychological. biological, and technological forces affecting today’s politics. Raise your awareness. Take control of the cycle. Stay sane while staying engaged. We need perspective, especially about the power of negative news.

Summary of Paper

Hooked on the Drama, the Uncertainty, the Outrage: Why We Can’t Look Away & How to Break Free

The Kitchen Table-Gregg Cochlan

Introduction

What began as a personal inquiry into why I—and so many others—feel hooked by negative stories, news and people. I asked myself: Why do I keep getting pulled into negative news—especially stories about- him (you know who I am talking about) —even when I don’t want to? This paper has revealed that our attention isn’t weak or broken. It’s human. We are biologically, psychologically, and socially wired to notice threats, react to injustice, and seek certainty in chaos. And in today's media environment, those very instincts are being exploited—by algorithms, by political figures, and by a news economy that profits from keeping us anxious, outraged, and constantly checking for updates.

As much as it pains me to say it, but his media dominance—it may not be an accident. It appears to be the product of a unique convergence of psychological insight, technological mastery, ideological resonance, and social polarization. Understanding this is not just informative—it’s liberating. Because once we understand why we’re drawn in, we can start to choose whether to stay there.

The real power in this inquiry is not in diagnosing the problem, but in offering practical strategies to disrupt the cycle. From setting boundaries and curating our news intake, to becoming mindful of our emotional triggers and actively seeking diverse perspectives, we can begin to shift from passive consumers to intentional citizens.

This isn’t about tuning out—it’s about tuning in with discernment. It’s about protecting our attention as one of our most precious resources.

Along the way, I found language, research, and examples that helped me name what was happening: the dopamine-driven seeking system, moral outrage as reward, negativity bias, confirmation bias, the need for closure, and his’s strategic manipulation of all of it. But what mattered most was discovering that there are things we can do about it.

This isn’t about tuning out the world or becoming passive. It’s about learning how to stay informed without being consumed. It’s about stepping out of the automatic stimulus-response loop—and choosing a more thoughtful, intentional way to engage. I didn’t want to stay in that loop. I wanted to understand it so I could interrupt it—and reclaim some agency over what I give my time, energy, and attention to.

I wrote this for myself, but also for anyone else who has found themselves stuck in the same cycle. If that’s you, then here’s what I’ve learned:

Notice the next outrage and “pause” before clicking.
You can ask whether a headline is helping or hijacking your attention.
You can be informed without being inflamed.
Interrupt the next dopamine loop.

It’s about reclaiming our emotional sovereignty in a world that profits from taking it away

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In this episode, Gregg, Ron, And Dave analyze the Trump/Zelensky meeting. Using the Wisdom Practice Model for guidance, the team focuses on what can we learn? To pause. To slow our emotions down. To run the events through our personal self-reflection, stories, and examples.

A. Psychological aspects of Zelensky’s meeting with Trump

This analysis has been circulating online regarding the psychological aspects of Zelensky’s meeting with Trump, conducted using ChatGPT. From this analysis, we witnessed gaslighting, manipulation, and coercion on the part of Trump.

Key points:

1. Blaming the victim for their own situation

Trump tells Zelensky: “You have allowed yourself to be in a very bad position.” This is classic abuser rhetoric—blaming the victim for their suffering.

2. Pressure and coercion into ‘gratitude’

Vance demands that Zelensky say “thank you.” This is an extremely toxic tactic—forcing the victim to express gratitude for the help they desperately need, only to later accuse them of ingratitude if they attempt to assert their rights.

3. Manipulating the concept of ‘peace’

Trump claims that Zelensky is “not ready for peace.” However, what he actually means is Ukraine’s capitulation. This is a classic manipulation technique—substituting the idea of a just peace with the notion of surrender.

4. Refusing to acknowledge the reality of war

Trump insists that Zelensky has “no cards to play” and that “without us, you have nothing.” This is yet another abusive tactic—undermining the victim’s efforts by asserting that they are powerless without the mercy of their ‘saviour.’

5. Devaluing the victims of war

“If you get a ceasefire, you must accept it so that bullets stop flying and your people stop dying,” Trump says. Yet, he ignores the fact that a ceasefire without guarantees is merely an opportunity for Russia to regroup and strike again.

6. Dominance tactics

Trump constantly interrupts Zelensky, cutting him off: “No, no, you’ve already said enough,” and “You’re not in a position to dictate to us.” This is deliberate psychological pressure designed to establish a hierarchy in which Zelensky is the subordinate.

7. Forcing capitulation under the guise of ‘diplomacy’

Vance asserts that “the path to peace lies through diplomacy.” This is a classic strategy where the aggressor is given the opportunity to continue their aggression unchallenged.

8. Projection and distortion of reality

Trump declares: “You are playing with the lives of millions of people.” Yet, in reality, it is he who is doing exactly that—shifting responsibility onto Zelensky.

9. Creating the illusion that Ukraine ‘owes’ the US

Yes, the US is assisting Ukraine, but presenting this aid as “you must obey, or you will receive nothing” is not a partnership—it is financial and military coercion.

10. Undermining Ukraine’s resistance

Trump states that “if it weren’t for our weapons, this war would have ended in two weeks.” This is an attempt to erase Ukraine’s achievements and portray its efforts as entirely dependent on US support

B. Do you want to Fast this Lent? in the words of Pope Francis

· Fast from hurting words and say kind words.

· Fast from sadness and be filled with gratitude.

· Fast from anger and be filled with patience.

· Fast from pessimism and be filled with hope.

· Fast from worries and have trust in God.

· Fast from complaints; contemplate simplicity.

· Fast from pressures and be prayerful.

· Fast from bitterness, filled your heart with joy.·

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In this episode, Gregg, Dave, and Ron take a deep breath, to step out of the noise of the day. Disruptions. Threats. Real and imagined. Why do I feel the way that I do? Political tensions, new every day. How do I keep my balance? This takes maturity, and a wise practice

Constructs 3 & 4

Maturity Capabilities
Objective self-analysis: Extending time between stimulus and response to evaluate beliefs and emotions.
Understanding & integrating multiple perspectives: Acknowledging ambiguity and others’ worldviews.
Empathetic reasoning: Considering others’ welfare while maintaining personal balance.
Thinking and acting autonomously and authentically : Aligning behavior with values, acting autonomously and with integrity.
4. SCARF Model (Dr. David Rock): This model identifies five social domains—status, certainty, autonomy, relatedness, and fairness—that influence human behavior by triggering reward or threat responses. These social elements explain much of modern society’s polarization, lack of civility, and increasing tribalism. People often seek to avoid threats and approach rewards, creating division when these domains are challenged

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In this episode, Gregg, Dave, and Ron step into the breach of multiple information sources coming our way. Especially, the post-election news deluge. Multiple information platforms compete for our attention. It’s complicated. All the more reason to build a strategy that starts with a pause. Who’s in charge here?

The Relationship of Information and Knowledge:

•The strength of one’s knowledge is directly influenced by the quality and relevance of information.

•Accurate and comprehensive information needs to well-founded knowledge while information or incomplete data results in misconceptions.

•Therefore it’s critical to evaluate information sources, ensuring that the reliability is crucial to developing robust knowledge.

The Internet and AI sources have become dominant due to their access of speed and convenience however traditional sources like TV and personal communications remain essentially, especially among older demographics or in the area of less technology penetration the challenge lies and distinguishing trustworthy information from information or misinformation or disinformation especially in the fast pace, algorithm online landscape

What are your Information sources?

Are they Fiction or True? Is it Accurate?

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In this episode, Ron, Dave, and Gregg describe how they are turning the surprise of Trump’s win into a learning experience. The guys talk about the richness of staying calm and centered. Managing emotions and opinions. Being self-aware. How wisdom takes practice

Core Wisdom Formula

Experience + Knowledge+ Maturity = Wisdom +

Experience

The human experience encompasses the entirety of an individual's interactions, emotions, perceptions, and thoughts throughout their life journey.
It's the subjective lens through which we perceive and interpret the world around us.

Knowledge

Knowledge usually refers to information or awareness that someone has about a subject, whether from education or experience.

Maturity

Maturity is not a matter of age, but instead, of how you choose to respond and react to various life situations.
It is essentially a level of development or wisdom that has a bearing on all areas of an individual's life, right from their conduct to their relationship with others.

Wisdom

Wisdom refers instead to someone’s good sense, judgment, or insight—in other words, to their ability to process, apply, or otherwise act on knowledge.
Wisdom + represents wisdom with response with benefits

Four Wisdom Support Constructs

1. Wisdom Practice Model -Stories • Ologies • Beliefs • Wisdom

2. Wisdom to the 3rd Power - (Noun, Verb & Creative Subconscious) Influence Wise Action

3. Four Maturity Capabilities

4. SCARF Model- Dr David Rock

1.0 Wisdom Practice Model -Stories • Ologies • Beliefs • Wisdom•Stories

Experience gets interpreted in to Stories that are told or remembered

•Ologies

The -logy element basically means "the study of ____".
Resulting in, Influence or Impact of Biology, Theology, Psychology, Sociology, Political Ideology, Technology , Philosophy

•Beliefs

Stories & the impact of ologies form beliefs and behaviors

•Wisdom +

Experiences, Knowledge & Maturity come together to create our wisdom

**2.0 Wisdom to the 3rd Power - (Noun, Verb & Creative Subconscious) Influence on Wise Action

Noun**

A thing
A practice
A philosophy
Virtues & Truths

Verb

Application
An Action
A Response

Creative Subconscious

To Incubate
To Ponder
To Engage your Creative Subconscious

3.0 Four Maturity Capabilities

To develop maturity means to become more capable of:

Objective self-analysis (holding and evolving our beliefs and opinions, rather than being subject to their control*)
Understanding and integrating multiple perspectives
Empathetic reasoning (thinking humanely)
Thinking and acting autonomously and authentically )

4.0 SCARF Model- Dr David Rock

As a way to understand: either why you’re behaving or acting the way that you do, or why others do. We offer you neuroscientist Dr. David Rock. SCARF model . Rock identifies social situations that creates either are reward response for us or threat response.

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In this episode, Gregg, Dave, and Ron weigh in on Donald Trump's win, using the Wisdom Practice Model to assess their own reactions and conclusions. Once the “bubble” has been burst, now what? Is it possible to let uncertainty rule the day?What does it mean to maintain a “learning mindset”? For starters, we need to pause...

Core Wisdom Formula

Experience + Knowledge+ Maturity = Wisdom +

Experience

The human experience encompasses the entirety of an individual's interactions, emotions, perceptions, and thoughts throughout their life journey.
It's the subjective lens through which we perceive and interpret the world around us.

Knowledge

Knowledge usually refers to information or awareness that someone has about a subject, whether from education or experience.

Maturity

Maturity is not a matter of age, but instead, of how you choose to respond and react to various life situations.
It is essentially a level of development or wisdom that has a bearing on all areas of an individual's life, right from their conduct to their relationship with others.

Wisdom

Wisdom refers instead to someone’s good sense, judgment, or insight—in other words, to their ability to process, apply, or otherwise act on knowledge.
Wisdom + represents wisdom with response with benefits

Four Wisdom Support Constructs

1. Wisdom Practice Model -Stories • Ologies • Beliefs • Wisdom

2. Wisdom to the 3rd Power - (Noun, Verb & Creative Subconscious) Influence Wise Action

3. Four Maturity Capabilities

4. SCARF Model- Dr David Rock

1.0 Wisdom Practice Model -Stories • Ologies • Beliefs • Wisdom•Stories

Experience gets interpreted in to Stories that are told or remembered

•Ologies

The -logy element basically means "the study of ____".
Resulting in, Influence or Impact of Biology, Theology, Psychology, Sociology, Political Ideology, Technology , Philosophy

•Beliefs

Stories & the impact of ologies form beliefs and behaviors

•Wisdom +

Experiences, Knowledge & Maturity come together to create our wisdom

**2.0 Wisdom to the 3rd Power - (Noun, Verb & Creative Subconscious) Influence on Wise Action

Noun**

A thing
A practice
A philosophy
Virtues & Truths

Verb

Application
An Action
A Response

Creative Subconscious

To Incubate
To Ponder
To Engage your Creative Subconscious

3.0 Four Maturity Capabilities

To develop maturity means to become more capable of:

Objective self-analysis (holding and evolving our beliefs and opinions, rather than being subject to their control*)
Understanding and integrating multiple perspectives
Empathetic reasoning (thinking humanely)
Thinking and acting autonomously and authentically )

4.0 SCARF Model- Dr David Rock

As a way to understand: either why you’re behaving or acting the way that you do, or why others do. We offer you neuroscientist Dr. David Rock. SCARF model . Rock identifies social situations that creates either are reward response for us or threat response.

We’d love to hear from you please leave a comment

In this episode, Gregg, Dave, and Ron explore the elements of wisdom, as expressed in their Wisdom Model. From universal truths to everyday virtues, the team makes the complex simple. Wisdom wants to be applied, whether as a colleague, as a grandpa, or as a spouse offering a wise response. Wisdom is like a box of mints.

Enjoy, and be thankful!

References;

Wisdom to the 3rd Power offers a multidimensional view of how wisdom functions in our lives, breaking it down into three essential forms:

Wisdom as a Noun: Wisdom as a “thing”, a “principle”, or a “virtue” that we hold. It’s something we cultivate and carry with us through life—a body of knowledge and values that grounds us and guides our actions.
Wisdom as a Verb: Wisdom in “action”. It’s not enough to have wisdom; we must apply it in real-world situations. This involves making thoughtful decisions, especially when facing complex societal issues like tribalism and polarization.
Creative Subconscious: Wisdom often works in the background, in the creative subconscious, where our minds reflect, incubate, and process information without our conscious awareness. This is where we find those “aha” moments, where deep insights emerge and help guide us through difficult situations. There can be high return by creating space between the stimulus and response and letting our creative subconscious do it work.

Together, these three aspects of wisdom help us answer not only how we develop wisdom, but how we apply it to real-world challenges like civility and populism.

The Presidential Debate: First Impressions

In this episode, Gregg, Ron, and Dave Share their first impressions of the debate. Going deeper than who might have won, the guys use the wisdom models to look at the dynamics of the social psychology behind people’s conclusions. From tribalism to political correctness to the ability to actually change one’s mind.

**References:

Spiral Dynamics- Clare Graves & Don Beck**

https://spiraldynamics.net

Summary of Developmental Theory- Spiral Dynamics - Eight Stages

Beige: This is the most basic level of consciousness, characterized by a focus on survival and basic needs. At this level, individuals are primarily concerned with physical safety and security, and may not have a sense of self beyond their immediate surroundings.
Purple: At this level, individuals begin to develop a sense of community and belonging, and may adopt the values and beliefs of their tribe or family.
Red: This level is marked by a focus on power, domination, and self-assertion. Individuals at this level may be impulsive and rebellious, and may not have a strong sense of right and wrong.
Blue: At this level, individuals develop a sense of morality and order, and may adopt a more structured and hierarchical worldview. They may be more concerned with tradition and authority, and may have a strong sense of duty and loyalty.
Orange: This level is characterized by a focus on innovation, achievement, and self-actualization. Individuals at this level may be more individualistic and entrepreneurial, and may be less concerned with group identity or tradition.
Green: At this level, individuals may develop a more inclusive and pluralistic worldview, and may be more concerned with social justice and equality. They may be more open to new ideas and ways of thinking, and may be more accepting of diversity and difference.
Yellow: This level is marked by a focus on integration and balance, and may involve a synthesis of the values and perspectives of different memes. Individuals at this level may be more flexible and adaptable, and may be able to hold multiple perspectives simultaneously.
Turquoise: This is the highest level of consciousness, characterized by a sense of unity and oneness with all of creation. Individuals at this level may have a deep understanding of the interconnectedness of all things, and may be more compassionate and empathetic towards others

Dr David Rock-SCARF

As away to understand: either why you’re behaving or acting the way that you do, or why others do. We offer you neuroscientist Dr. David Rock. SCARF model . Rock identifies social situations that creates either are reward response for us or threat response.

Rock explains there are five social domains : status, certainty, autonomy, relatedness & fairness that if you have in life things move along quite nicely however, once these are threatened it causes people to react with fight, flight or freeze reaction.

It can help explain our original questions

•Why the world is so polarized.

•Why there is a increasing lack of civility and citizenship responsibly and rise of populism.

•Where people are tend to look for things that people are against versus what people are for.

•Why there is an erosion of pluralism and growth in tribalism

In this episode, Gregg, Ron, and Dave use the architecture of the Wisdom Model to dissect their real life stories. Finding wisdom in little kids, in relationship with family members. On another level, how does wisdom survive in a world full of disinformation? It takes adult-level self analysis. Here are a few tools
Additional References

Core Wisdom Formula: Experience + Knowledge + Maturity = Wisdom (+)

The formula highlights the interdependence of three key components in developing wisdom:

Experience: Encompasses personal interactions, emotions, and perceptions, forming the subjective lens through which the world is understood.
Knowledge: Refers to acquired information or awareness, gained through education or experience.
Maturity: Demonstrated in one’s ability to respond thoughtfully and deliberately to life’s challenges, beyond mere age.

Wisdom results when these elements merge, and Wisdom+ represents the ability to apply them, leading to wise action with tangible benefits.
Four Wisdom Support Constructs

1. Wisdom Practice Model: Stories, Ologies, Beliefs, Wisdom+
- Stories: Interpretations of experiences.
- Ologies Fields of study (e.g., biology, psychology) that influence belief systems.
- Beliefs: Shaped by stories and ologies, forming personal behaviors.
- Wisdom+: Integration of experience, knowledge, and maturity into practical wisdom.
2. Wisdom to the 3rd Power: Noun, Verb, and Creative Subconscious
- Noun: Represents wisdom as a philosophy, virtue, or practice.
- Verb: Wisdom in action, application, or response.
- Creative Subconscious: The incubator for pondering and creatively engaging wisdom.

3. Four Maturity Capabilities: Maturity is developed through four capabilities:
- Objective self-analysis: Extending time between stimulus and response to evaluate beliefs and emotions.
- Understanding & integrating multiple perspectives: Acknowledging ambiguity and others’ worldviews.
- Empathetic reasoning: Considering others’ welfare while maintaining personal balance.
- Thinking and acting autonomously and authentically : Aligning behavior with values, acting autonomously and with integrity.
4. SCARF Model (Dr. David Rock): This model identifies five social domains—status, certainty, autonomy, relatedness, and fairness—that influence human behavior by triggering reward or threat responses. These social elements explain much of modern society’s polarization, lack of civility, and increasing tribalism. People often seek to avoid threats and approach rewards, creating division when these domains are challenged.

This wisdom framework seeks to answer critical questions about contemporary social dynamics, such as the rise of populism, polarization, and the erosion of pluralism. By understanding the foundational elements of wisdom and the forces that shape human reactions (e.g., the SCARF model), individuals can foster more nuanced and thoughtful responses to life’s challenges. The maturity capabilities offer a path to wise action, rooted in empathy, perspective-taking, and authenticity.

This approach also suggests that the more developed these constructs are within individuals, the better equipped they are to navigate complex social and personal situations, leading to more harmonious and inclusive societies.

In this episode, Gregg, Dave, and Ron give examples using the wisdom models in everyday life. Whether the issue is local or national or global, it helps to have a framework to self-assess our own role in the dialogue. Sometimes we are the facilitator. Sometimes the advocate. Sometimes it’s a success to just survive our own anxiety. And to know the difference.

Core Wisdom Formula

Experience + Knowledge+ Maturity = Wisdom +

Experience

The human experience encompasses the entirety of an individual's interactions, emotions, perceptions, and thoughts throughout their life journey.
It's the subjective lens through which we perceive and interpret the world around us.

Knowledge

Knowledge usually refers to information or awareness that someone has about a subject, whether from education or experience.

Maturity

Maturity is not a matter of age, but instead, of how you choose to respond and react to various life situations.
It is essentially a level of development or wisdom that has a bearing on all areas of an individual's life, right from their conduct to their relationship with others.

Wisdom

Wisdom refers instead to someone’s good sense, judgment, or insight—in other words, to their ability to process, apply, or otherwise act on knowledge.
Wisdom + represents wisdom with response with benefits

Four Wisdom Support Constructs

1. Wisdom Practice Model -Stories • Ologies • Beliefs • Wisdom

2. Wisdom to the 3rd Power - (Noun, Verb & Creative Subconscious) Influence Wise Action

3. Four Maturity Capabilities

4. SCARF Model- Dr David Rock

1.0 Wisdom Practice Model -Stories • Ologies • Beliefs • Wisdom•Stories

Experience gets interpreted in to Stories that are told or remembered

•Ologies

The -logy element basically means "the study of ____".
Resulting in, Influence or Impact of Biology, Theology, Psychology, Sociology, Political Ideology, Technology , Philosophy

•Beliefs

Stories & the impact of ologies form beliefs and behaviors

•Wisdom +

Experiences, Knowledge & Maturity come together to create our wisdom

**2.0 Wisdom to the 3rd Power - (Noun, Verb & Creative Subconscious) Influence on Wise Action

Noun**

A thing
A practice
A philosophy
Virtues & Truths

Verb

Application
An Action
A Response

Creative Subconscious

To Incubate
To Ponder
To Engage your Creative Subconscious

3.0 Four Maturity Capabilities

To develop maturity means to become more capable of:

Objective self-analysis (holding and evolving our beliefs and opinions, rather than being subject to their control*)
Understanding and integrating multiple perspectives
Empathetic reasoning (thinking humanely)
Thinking and acting autonomously and authentically )

4.0 SCARF Model- Dr David Rock

As a way to understand: either why you’re behaving or acting the way that you do, or why others do. We offer you neuroscientist Dr. David Rock. SCARF model . Rock identifies social situations that creates either are reward response for us or threat response.

Rock explains there are <

A Reflection On Maturity And Summer’s Politics:

In this episode, Dave, Gregg and Ron offer their wisdom models, especially Dave’s analysis on the four capabilities of maturity. Mature thinking must include empathy and not just confrontation. Are we being emotional in our worldview, but increasing the threat in our politics. We can smarter, wiser. We can be better.

Additional References

Maturity in the Study of Wisdom- Dave Derksen

With greater maturity comes a greater likelihood that one may offer a wise response in any situation. Knowledge from study and insight from experience provide background understanding which supports a wise response. However, without maturity, knowledge and experience alone may lead to responses that are unwise (self-serving and intrusive i.e. unhelpful to others). Note also that a wise response may be inaction. To decern whether or not to act in a situation requires maturity.

Four Maturity Capabilities

To develop maturity means to become more capable of:

1. Objective self-analysis (holding and evolving our beliefs and opinions, rather than being subject to their control*)

o Extending the time between stimulus and response to allow for analysis

o Acknowledging our emotions as part of decision making rather reacting quickly based on emotion.

2. Understanding and integrating multiple perspectives

o Living with ambiguity

o Acknowledging the world view and motivations of others

3. Empathetic reasoning (thinking humanely)

o Considering the welfare and experience of others as well as our own.

o Recognizing the needs that lead to decisions e.g. safety (physical, social, emotional etc.) or sense of purpose.

4. Thinking and acting autonomously and authentically

o Aligning actions with values – congruence between beliefs and behaviour

o Giving appropriate weight to the influence of external factors (consequences of actions)

Dr David Rock

As away to understand: either why you’re behaving or acting the way that you do, or why others do. We offer you neuroscientist Dr. David Rock. SCARF model . Rock identifies social situations that creates either are reward response for us or threat response.

Rock explains there are five social domains : status, certainty, autonomy, relatedness & fairness that if you have in life things move along quite nicely however, once these are threatened it causes people to react with fight, flight or freeze reaction.

It can help explain our original questions

•Why the world is so polarized.

•Why there is a increasing lack of civility and citizenship responsibly and rise of populism.

•Where people are tend to look for things that people are against versus what people are for.

•Why there is an erosion of pluralism and growth in tribalism

In this episode, Gregg, Dave, and Ron deepen their understanding of what goes into the wisdom equation. Elements are sometimes a noun, sometimes a verb, and all go into the cauldron of what we call our creative subconscious. Percolating. Wisdom can emerge spontaneously, or later, after careful consideration. In the end, it’s wise actions that speak your truth

Reference Links

In this podcast we reference two sites; 75 Stoic Statements and VIA Character Strength Test, you may find it helpful to review the stoic statement but as well take the free character strength assessment.

75 Stoic Statements
https://mindofastoic.com/stoic-quotes

VIA Character Strength Test

https://www.personality-quizzes.com/via-character-strengths?gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAACXN68dDD1t22VH3C46p9blhah3HG&gclid=CjwKCAjwyo60BhBiEiwAHmVLJbqb_BGJNY2nqfiie0oGwxYp3ucFbAS9bP8AVSH6k1FC5THLnN6lCRoCK18QAvD_BwE

In this podcast, Gregg, Dave, and Ron bring together their collective thoughts about Wisdom. Moving closer to a true formula after a one-year conversation. Experiences. Knowledge. Maturity. Past discussions all adding up to a fuller definition and appreciation of the elements of Wisdom in action.

Reference

What is Noosphere

https://humanenergy.io/projects/what-is-the-noosphere/

What is Dunning & Kruger Effect

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunning–Kruger_effect

In this episode,Gregg, Ron, and Dave start to pull together the year-long conversation about “what is wisdom?”. Partly a summary of our previous podcasts on wisdom, this episode also includes some new conclusions. Thoughts about maturity. Just what is an elder. And how wisdom can be seen as both a noun and a verb. Finally, an endearing story showing wisdom in action, featuring the late Dr. Glenn Terrell, former Washington State University President.

Wisdom Practice - Understanding Elon Musk, Understanding Ourselves

In this eposide, Gregg, Dave, and Ron use an interview of Elon Musk to see what Elon’s story triggers in them. Why do I react the way that I do? Do I like him? Do I judge him? Am I impressed, why or why not? We unpack our reactions, and become more self-aware. It can be a worthwhile trip, to dive beneath our first impressions.

Link:

The tech billionaire Elon Musk has come to define innovation, but he can also be a lightning rod for controversy; he recently endorsed antisemitic remarks on X, formerly known as Twitter, which prompted companies to pull their advertising. In his interview, Musk discusses his emotional state and why he has “no problem being hated.” This interview was with Andrew Ross Sorkin of The New York Times at the annual Deal Book Summit and recorded live in front of an audience at Jazz at Lincoln Center.Read more highlights from the day at http://www.nytimes.com/2023/11/29/dea...

Interview:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2BfMuHDfGJI

In this episode, Dave, Ron, and Gregg examine the motivation behind our speaking. Is it ego? Is it fear? Is it our generosity of spirit? What is the wise thinking that proceeds wise speaking? We have some ideas.

Note: In this podcast we refer to spiral dynamics & developmental theory here's a link in a summary.

Spiral Dynamics- Clare Graves & Don Beck

https://spiraldynamics.net

Summary of Developmental Theory- Spiral Dynamics - Eight Stages

Beige: This is the most basic level of consciousness, characterized by a focus on survival and basic needs. At this level, individuals are primarily concerned with physical safety and security, and may not have a sense of self beyond their immediate surroundings.
Purple: At this level, individuals begin to develop a sense of community and belonging, and may adopt the values and beliefs of their tribe or family.
Red: This level is marked by a focus on power, domination, and self-assertion. Individuals at this level may be impulsive and rebellious, and may not have a strong sense of right and wrong.
Blue: At this level, individuals develop a sense of morality and order, and may adopt a more structured and hierarchical worldview. They may be more concerned with tradition and authority, and may have a strong sense of duty and loyalty.
Orange: This level is characterized by a focus on innovation, achievement, and self-actualization. Individuals at this level may be more individualistic and entrepreneurial, and may be less concerned with group identity or tradition.
Green: At this level, individuals may develop a more inclusive and pluralistic worldview, and may be more concerned with social justice and equality. They may be more open to new ideas and ways of thinking, and may be more accepting of diversity and difference.
Yellow: This level is marked by a focus on integration and balance, and may involve a synthesis of the values and perspectives of different memes. Individuals at this level may be more flexible and adaptable, and may be able to hold multiple perspectives simultaneously.
Turquoise: This is the highest level of consciousness, characterized by a sense of unity and oneness with all of creation. Individuals at this level may have a deep understanding of the interconnectedness of all things, and may be more compassionate and empathetic towards others

In this episode, Gregg, Dave, and Ron explore how to aid wisdom to surface in our everyday lives. Dinner parties. Discussions over beer. Meeting an old friend. When discussing serious issues can we be kind and generous? Or is it just about looking smart, being right? We want to grow in wisdom, even if it costs us our certainty.

In this episode we refer to Donning- Kruger effect here is the link to understand

https://www.britannica.com/science/Dunning-Kruger-effect

The difference between dialogue and discussion.

Dialogue

· To inquire to learn

· To unfold shared meanings

· To integrate multiple perspective

· To uncover & examine Assumptions

Discussion

· To tell, selling & persuade

· To gain agreement on one of the meaning

· To evaluate and select the best

· To justify /defend assumptions

In this episode, Gregg, Dave, and Ron describe what it’s like to stay vigilant in self-analysis. Beliefs, opinions, and positions must be open to periodic assessment. What’s behind our beliefs? How did we get here? Being simply for or against something is simple, but life requires more of us. Join us in looking at what healthy adulthood means.

Wisdom Practice Model

Story- Ology’s – Explore Beliefs- Wisdom

Your Story(s) screened through “the -Ology , exploring Beliefs adding to your Knowledge & Wisdom

The word -ology is a back-formation from the names of certain disciplines. The -logy element basically means "the study of ____". Such words are formed from Greek or Latin roots with the terminal -logy derived from the Greek suffix -λογια (-logia), speaking, from λεγειν (legein), "to speak".

In this podcast, Gregg, Ron, and Dave examined the impact of our personal experience with theology. Or not. Pausing for self-analysis bears fruit. Even profound impact. What am I for? Or against? Has that evolved over time? Do my beliefs lead to me being conservative or liberal? What is my story?

Wisdom Practice ModelStory- Ology’s – Explore Beliefs- Wisdom

Your Story(s) screened through “the -Ology , exploring Beliefs adding to your Knowledge & WisdomThe word -ology is a back-formation from the names of certain disciplines. The -logy element basically means "the study of ____". Such words are formed from Greek or Latin roots with the terminal -logy derived from the Greek suffix -λογια (-logia), speaking, from λεγειν (legein), "to speak".

In this episode, Dave leads us off sharing his love and experience with the great outdoors. Plus his climate change concerns. Gregg and Ron join in. Beliefs. Concerns. Biases. Activism [or not]. So what? By running their stories and thoughts through the wisdom practice model, each gain something. Is the planet in a better place? We’re sure it is…we’re paying attention.

In this episode, Gregg, Dave, and Ron examine their study of wisdom as a “personal learning model”. Stories, beliefs, and meaningful reflections on life. Their impact on self and others. Creating space between what happens in our life and our response to it. At the end of this discussion is a sweet, simple story from Dave about a six-year-old and a Pumpkin

In this episode, Ron, Gregg, and Dave begin to practice what they preach. Understanding self begins with an understanding of our own stories, our own beliefs. Religion, love, politics, and more. What stories/beliefs have lasted a lifetime? Do we understand them intellectually, emotionally, and relationally? If we do, we grow, into a wisdom that makes life truly worth living.

Wisdom Practice Model
1. Story-2. Ology’s 3.Explore Beliefs-4.Wisdom

Your Story(s) screened through “the -Ology , exploring Beliefs adding to your Knowledge & WisdomThe word -ology is a back-formation from the names of certain disciplines. The -logy element basically means "the study of ____". Such words are formed from Greek or Latin roots with the terminal -logy derived from the Greek suffix -λογια (-logia), speaking, from λεγειν (legein), "to speak".

Developmental Levels:

Beige: At this level, individuals are focused on survival and meeting their basic needs. To participate in the democratic process, individuals at this level might focus on advocating for policies that ensure basic needs such as food, shelter, and safety are met.
Purple: Individuals at this level are focused on belonging and connection. To participate in the democratic process, individuals at this level might focus on building community and promoting social cohesion.
Red: At this level, individuals are focused on power and control. To participate in the democratic process, individuals at this level might focus on advocating for policies that promote individual freedom and self-expression.
Blue: Individuals at this level are focused on order and structure. To participate in the democratic process, individuals at this level might focus on advocating for policies that promote tradition and stability.
Orange: At this level, individuals are focused on innovation and progress. To participate in the democratic process, individuals at this level might focus on advocating for policies that promote economic growth and scientific advancement.
Green: Individuals at this level are focused on equality and social justice. To participate in the democratic process, individuals at this level might focus on advocating for policies that promote diversity and inclusivity.
Yellow: At this level, individuals are focused on systems thinking and complexity. To participate in the democratic process, individuals at this level might focus on advocating for policies that take a holistic and long-term view of societal problems.
Turquoise: Individuals at this level are focused on global consciousness and spiritual unity. To participate in the democratic process, individuals at this level might focus on advocating for policies that promote global cooperation and sustainable development.

In this episode, Gregg, Ron, and Dave analyze their respective reactions to the war. What’s my story, my perspective, my ability to understand the conflict [or not]? Yes, the conflict is complex. Realities can quickly become emotional. Even if I find myself at a safe distance, there is the risk of escalation. And the media brings the war right into our homes, again.

Wisdom Practice Model: Story- Ology’s – Explore Beliefs- Wisdom

Step One:Tell Your Story(s)
Step Two: Screened through “the -Ology
Step Three: Exploring Beliefs
Step Four: Add to your Knowledge & Wisdom

The word -ology is a back-formation from the names of certain disciplines. The -logy element basically means "the study of ____". Such words are formed from Greek or Latin roots with the terminal -logy derived from the Greek suffix -λογια (-logia), speaking, from λεγειν (legein), "to speak".

In this episode, Gregg and Ron reintroduce concepts and models concerning the quest for wisdom. Our discussions over several months have surfaced practical steps leading to what we are calling our “wisdom process model”. Our stories lead to beliefs. Our beliefs form the basis for our wisdom. Are you ready for new perspectives? Join the journey…

Wisdom Practice Model: Story- Ology’s – Explore Beliefs- Wisdom

Step One:Tell Your Story(s)
Step Two: Screened through “the -Ology
Step Three: Exploring Beliefs
Step Four: Add to your Knowledge & Wisdom

The word -ology is a back-formation from the names of certain disciplines. The -logy element basically means "the study of ____". Such words are formed from Greek or Latin roots with the terminal -logy derived from the Greek suffix -λογια (-logia), speaking, from λεγειν (legein), "to speak".

In this episode, Ron tells a story of love and growth, during a profound life changing realization. Gregg and Dave help Ron find the wisdom in his story. How did he arrive at certainty? What were the theological and psychological factors at play? How do we find a solid confidence in our inner voice? Important questions, especially in the afternoon of life.

In this episode, Gregg, Dave, and Ron accept the challenge to remember the people and stories that helped shape their lives. From family members to research leaders and influential people from business. Our virtues and values surface out of stories. Our lives hold promise because we’ve been blessed by others.

Links

The Science of Everyday Ethics McCombs School Of Business, University of Texas- Austin

Justice: What the Right Thing to Do? Harvard University – Dr. Michael Sandel

Reflective Questions

1. What do I stand for?

2. What won’t I stand for?

3. What has life taught me so far? What have you learnt so far?

4. Who do I admire & Why? Specifically?

5. Who have been influencers in your life? And why? What did they do or say?

6. What are stories from your life that define you? Why?

7. Who were you? Who are you? Who will you be?

8. How do you want to be seen by people (who you most respect)?

9. What is your overriding purpose or goal in life?

10. How do you define your success? Success is …

What are my core beliefs? I fundamentally believe…
What did I learn from “my parent” …

In this episode, Gregg provides a philosophical framework, call it the elements of “character". Ron and Dave react and add their impressions including references from their life journeys. Learning and growing is a do-it-yourself project, dictated by our unique life experiences. But we can learn from the masters, the wisdom of the ages. Part 2

Resources

Cardinal Virtues

https://www.learnreligions.com/prudence-a-cardinal-virtue-542128

It may be helpful for you to check the following link.

https://www.viacharacter.org/character-strengths-via

In this episode, Gregg lays down the premise that Philosophy is the logical next exploration in search of Wisdom. Ron and Dave react, and add. How can we make our study personal, but also of benefit to others? We have a growing platter of subjects and studies. Will we keep it simple? Not easy, and this conversation is our Part 1

In this episode, Gregg, Dave, and Ron brainstorm "where do we want to take the podcast next?” Philosophy, spirituality, maybe the cardinal virtues? Stoicism? Can we make the complex simple? Can we avoid creating an orthodoxy? Bottom line, “know thyself”. Better yet, “be thy self”.

Links'

Fulton Breen- Novarete

We've mentioned Fulton in this podcast here is his link to his company Novarete.

https://novarete.com/how-it-works/ethics-engine/

The Fallout From Negative News Media Starts With Winning Your Attention

In this episode, Ron, Dave and Gregg comment on the many faceted “Emissions” article by NYU Professor Scott Galloway. Electronic media. Artificial Intelligence. Polarized cable news. Click-bait. Rage. We’re all in over our heads. Is there anyway to fight this battle? Start by paying attention to what catches your attention.

Link to Article - Emissions

https://www.profgalloway.com/emissions/

In this episode, Ron, Gregg, and Dave explore the variety of ways to sharpen our thinking and soften our empathy. Becoming a better citizen goes beyond knowing our position on issues. We must have a perspective, but add to that better skills of caring about others, listening to others, and managing our emotional life. Can we hope to discover common goals? Not “either/or”. How about teaching ourselves how to achieve “both/and”.

What is Polarity Thinking?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xuPbO4MWxNc

Polarity is an ongoing problem with two correct answers that are interdependent.

-Shoshana Boyd Gelfand

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jqd4-eemoAw

In this episode, Dave, Gregg, and Ron discuss our capability to effectively participate in a functioning democracy. We have good habits and bad habits. We have respectful dialogue and we have noise. One possible tool is the practice of polarity thinking. But it takes a certain maturity. Can we get there?

Spiral Dynamics- Clare Graves & Don Beck

https://spiraldynamics.net

Integral Life : Introduction to Stages of Maturity – Susann Cook-Greuter & Beena Sharma

https://integrallife.com/stages-leadership-maturity/

What is Polarity Thinking?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xuPbO4MWxNc

In this episode, Gregg, Dave, and Ron lay out the levels and stages of Spiral Dynamics, the adult development “ladder” of Clair Graves/Don Beck. The trio then connects these levels of maturity to current political life, specifically to our sense of citizenship and civility.

Summary of Developmental Theory- Spiral Dynamics - Eight Stages

Beige: This is the most basic level of consciousness, characterized by a focus on survival and basic needs. At this level, individuals are primarily concerned with physical safety and security, and may not have a sense of self beyond their immediate surroundings.
Purple: At this level, individuals begin to develop a sense of community and belonging, and may adopt the values and beliefs of their tribe or family.
Red: This level is marked by a focus on power, domination, and self-assertion. Individuals at this level may be impulsive and rebellious, and may not have a strong sense of right and wrong.
Blue: At this level, individuals develop a sense of morality and order, and may adopt a more structured and hierarchical worldview. They may be more concerned with tradition and authority, and may have a strong sense of duty and loyalty.
Orange: This level is characterized by a focus on innovation, achievement, and self-actualization. Individuals at this level may be more individualistic and entrepreneurial, and may be less concerned with group identity or tradition.
Green: At this level, individuals may develop a more inclusive and pluralistic worldview, and may be more concerned with social justice and equality. They may be more open to new ideas and ways of thinking, and may be more accepting of diversity and difference.
Yellow: This level is marked by a focus on integration and balance, and may involve a synthesis of the values and perspectives of different memes. Individuals at this level may be more flexible and adaptable, and may be able to hold multiple perspectives simultaneously.
Turquoise: This is the highest level of consciousness, characterized by a sense of unity and oneness with all of creation. Individuals at this level may have a deep understanding of the interconnectedness of all things, and may be more compassionate and empathetic towards others

Populism

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRZURSFV9hk

Pluralism

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W6xXZLvuCWU

The Wisdom Project: Maturity Gets A Framework, Part 1

In this episode, Ron, Dave, and Gregg set the stage for understanding the contemporary path for self-actualization. The trio explores adult development, establishing a foundation leading to a richer appreciation of life. They set the stage with lessons about the journey to maturity. Exploring concepts. Introducing thought leaders. Accepting the challenge to embrace the journey. First segment of a four-part series.

Some Reference
Carl Jung https://watchwordtest.com/dynamics

Spiral Dynamics- Clare Graves & Don Beck

https://spiraldynamics.net

Integral Life : Introduction to Stages of Maturity – Susann Cook-Greuter & Beena Sharma

https://integrallife.com/stages-leadership-maturity/

In this episode, Gregg, Ron, and Dave explore the universe of collective consciousness. Or, call it human collective intelligence. The Jesuit anthropologist Pierre Tiellard de Chardin referred to it as the “noosphere”. Why is this important? Today the technology of artificial intelligence, advancing at warp speed, is changing our reality. It’s here and gaining power. But where does authentic, natural, human intelligence fit now ? Join us.

Just Head Up: This podcast is a recording of a dialogue that the Dave, Ron & I had. We were partially into our conversation and we felt it was interesting so we recorded it and decided to share unedited. Please forgive us in advance for the rawness of the recording.

Reference

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pierre_Teilhard_de_Chardin

What is Noosphere

https://humanenergy.io/projects/what-is-the-noosphere/

In this episode, Dave Derksen and Gregg interview Ron on his recent paper, "Becoming Eighty". The paper is a personal essaynoting the psychological concepts, life experiences, and learning steps that map out Ron’s journey to retirement. Starting with Carl Jung’s metaphor of the “afternoon of life”, the team examines multiple principles for changing one’s awareness and mobilizing transition. Everyone’s retirement will be different. Join in!

In this episode, Gregg and Ron interview Dave Derksen about his own learning pathway after a 30 year career as an educator and administrator.
We take child development for granted, but adult development stages are less widely known. Citing psychologist Carl Jung and many others, Gregg, Ron, and Dave lay the groundwork for getting the most out of the second half of life.

List of Thought Leaders

Carl Jung
The Afternoon of Life

Abraham Maslow

Scott Barry Kaufman
Transcend

Clare Graves

Don Beck
Spiral Dynamics

Ken Wilber

In this episode, Gregg and Ron interview Dave Derksen about his own learning pathway after a 30 year career as an educator and administrator.
We take child development for granted, but adult development stages are less widely known. Citing psychologist Carl Jung and many others, Gregg, Ron, and Dave lay the groundwork for getting the most out of the second half of life.

List of Thought Leaders

Carl Jung
The Afternoon of Life

Abraham Maslow

Scott Barry Kaufman
Transcend

Clare Graves

Don Beck
Spiral Dynamics

Ken Wilber

In this podcast, Gregg and Ron dive into a discussion on developmental psychology, its perspectives and complexities. On the global and cultural stage, DP gives us language and perspectives to understand different worldviews and how they evolve.There are maps of the territory. Ever enlightening. Including our own personal cosmic addresses

Dr.Don Beck
https://spiraldynamics.net

Gregg continues to interview Ron about his journaling as a transition practice. What goes into the journal? How do you turn it into action? How to renew and recommit, why? And finally, what might be the goals in the "afternoon of life”?Everyone gets to answer the life questions for themselves. The exploration goes on

We are built to grow, even as we approach 80 years, or 100. What can applied psychology teach us? Gregg and I begin to explore the concepts available to them. Carl Jung’s “afternoon of life”; Bill Bridges’ transition principles; Scott Barry Kaufman’s self-actualization constructs. How to turn information into knowledge, and finally into application. The first of several podcasts...

Carl Jung
Carl Jung’s “afternoon of life”;

Scott Barry Kaufman
https://scottbarrykaufman.com

William Bridges

https://wmbridges.com/about/what-is-transition/

In this episode, Ron and Gregg review their experience of helping build the new TPI Curriculum. Over the last 5 years, given all the changes and challenges in our respective societies, TPI has emerged with a new opportunity to make a difference. From well-being theory to virtual Zoom seminars to facing the anxiety of Covid. The journey has been unpredictable; but the result is exciting!

In this episode, Gregg and Ron explore the balancing poles of freedom and responsibility. In our current Covid environment, what are our individual rights? What is our civic responsibility? It depends… Join us in wondering about the playing field that includes health and politics

Links
Podcasts

Ryan Holiday on America’s missing Statue of Responsibility

The Daily Stoic

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-daily-stoic/id1430315931?i=1000532706732

Articles

Viktor Frankl and the Statue of Responsibility

Balancing freedom and responsibility

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/the-meaningful-life/201908/viktor-frankl-and-the-statue-responsibility

This Holocaust Survivor Proposed a "Statue of Responsibility" to Complement the Statue of Libertyhttps://fee.org/articles/this-holocaust-survivor-proposed-a-statue-of-responsibility-to-complement-the-statue-of-liberty/

In this episode, Gregg and Ron start to analyze our way forward out of covid.

You’ve got to have a positive strategy. In our case, as encouraged by Dr. Martin

Seligman, we look at the elements of efficacy[agency], optimism, and imagination.

It takes a mindset. To be solution finders. And to control the negativity and danger even.

Hopeful thinking is a place to start.

Link to the RCSiA My Health Lecture-Positive Psychology, Agency and Human Progress with Professor Martin Seligmanhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TjWrL1MJbj0

In this episode, Ron and Gregg continue to unpack the challenges and learnings of the times we live in. Covid didn’t help, but we seem more polarized than ever. Are you for or against? Beyond vaccinations and masks, we are strongly opinionated about many things. Can we just peacefully coexist? We’re not so sure, are we?

In this episode, Gregg and Ron explore the beginnings of building a post-covid mindset. What will be our family arrangements, our workplace arrangements? Covid has been disruptive, but not always negative. Can we be adaptable and flexible? Now we are entering into a new, new reality…are we ready?

In this last Anniversary episode, Ron go back to re-live the experiences of working with the USA Olympic Swim Team.The story includes an interesting cast of characters: Lou and Diane Tice, Pete Carroll, Dr. Al Bandura, Jack Fitterer, Ron , and others from TPI. Influencing high performance athletes and coaches has been a steady activity at TPI over it’s 50 year history, sometimes touching multiple generations

In this episode, Gregg and Ron reminisce about early TPI Sports projects. Including the Phoenix Suns [NBA], Kirk Gibson [MLB], and the Edmonton Oilers [NHL]. Also the importance of philosophy and psychology in sports. Ron describes the the beginning of the Alabama Football project, and its deliberate plan for success.

In this episode, Gregg interviews Ron about his trip to Saudi Arabia, the significance of cultural differences, and the memorable clients he met along the way. Gregg color-comments, adding perspective and detail, including the enduring rationale that is The Pacific Institute’s message to the world.

Ron Stories, Military & Aerospace

In this episode, Gregg interviews Ron to uncover significant stories from The Pacific Institute history. Covered here are Ron’s recollections of military and aerospace clients and projects. Including the reasons and people who made these stories happen…

In this episode, Ron and Gregg cover the important years of transition planning, Lou Tice’s passing, and secession. How do you move beyond Lou Tice, and his very personal company and mission? The role of Diane Tice.The creation of new educational programs. New Assessment Tools, Partners, Investment. Technology changes, including new digital platforms. The role of Christy Watson, and others. And if that’s not enough, here comes Covid. How to adjust, how to change, well, we ought to know. For starters, how about some new goals, let’s reach 2bb people and make a difference!

In this episode, Ron and Gregg, remember significant people and projects as we entered the new century. The book: The Culture Of Excellence, 10 years in the making. Dr, Joe Pace and the private career school market success. A Better LA project, bringing together different elements of the LA community to reduce gang violence. More new programs, including the widely acclaimed latest version of Investment In Excellence. Western psychology, cognitive psychology becomes widely accepted. What a lucky career to be in!

In this episode, Gregg and Ron continue to speed along, summarizing the highlights of TPI history.

As society continue to evolve, our new business often came with the changes people now faced. Adapting to the entry of personal computers into the workplace. Organizational transformation. More new talent joined TPI. Lee Bussard. Dr. Bob Spitzer. Dr. Glen Terrell. Ron even finds time to take a sabbatical.

In this episode, Gregg and Ron explore the key TPI developments of the 80’s. USA and International expansion. Jack Fitterer comes on board. Videoing other teachers: Blanchard, Buzan. Thought leaders of the day. Community, Country, and Social Cause projects. 100’s of clients added. The Berlin Wall comes down, the peace dividend. International partners: Horgan, Tate, Wegerle, Given, others

50th Anniversary Memories - 1970s

In this episode, Gregg takes Ron back to the beginning. Lou The High School Teacher,

Port Ludlow Seminars, 1st Video Programs, Early Facilitator Training, Marketing, First Clients,

Expanding Beyond The Pacific North West.

https://thepacificinstitute.com/lou-tice/

In this episode, Ron and Gregg revisit their book “World Peace Really” on it's 10 year anniversary. What were the book’s origins? What has changed over the last 10 years? Is there still a basis for optimism in 2020? How do we manage our mental health? From
the dramatic explosion of technology to the nasty side of politics. What are we for, not just what are we against? How do we coexist?

In this episode, Gregg interviews Ron about the 5 problems he’s identified that people are suffering from as we go through the troubling year of 2020. As Pacific Institute practitioners, Gregg explains how we have a unique toolset to address these problems. Applied psychology comes to the rescue, again.

We’re both proud and humble…and ready to be of service.

In this episode, Ron and Gregg welcome there TPI colleagues; Laural Manegre, Marcela Barajas, and Derek McBride to explore Gregg’s recent paper on 6 strategies to navigating the ever-changing year of 2020. This discussion centers on the psychological journey, from a pandemic, social unrest, amidst the swirling winds of change.

We’re in transition to a new normal. What will our inner navigation be?

John Dalla Costa

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-dalla-costa-2054597/detail/recent-activity/

Trevor Moawad

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Jj1rl7zGfA

Dr. William Bridges

https://wmbridges.com/about/william-bridges-bio/

Viktor Frank

https://www.brainpickings.org/2013/03/26/viktor-frankl-mans-search-for-meaning/

In this episode, Gregg and Ron dive into the concept of dignity, how it plays out in today's social unrest climate. Ron reflects on the history of The Pacific Institute and its relevance in these current times. With thanks to Dr. Donna Hicks an expert on conflict resolution from Harvard, we look for a solid foundation for peace, if not reconciliation. We find the power in uncoupling Dignity from Respect. (Gregg & Ron also have a special guest joining them. Ro0ney Rae Gordon.)

https://uncomfortableconvos.com

In this episode, Gregg and Ron return to the subject of well-being theory, and again use it to adjust to the challenging environment of pandemic and, now, civil unrest. Also Ron’s recent paper, “The Cure A Comma” is explored and explained in light of the role of applied psychology in today’s disruptive times. Mental health, flourishing, and thriving can still be our goal, but we need to make some adjustments. What are they?

In this last episode on PERMA , Ron, Gregg, and Doug look at the many sides of meaning and accomplishment; what it means to have a life worth living.

Figuring this out, adds to our well-being. Citing researchers like Victor Fankl, Bob Spitzer, Simon Sinek and others, the guys explore best practices. Seeking good beyond self. Life accomplishment and achievement takes many forms. We must practice what we preach.

Perfect examples: Lou and Diane Tice.

In this episode, Gregg, Doug, and Ron Make sense of their coronavirus journey, how to cope, how to navigate the emotional landscape. Reviewing strategies for everyday life, the guys focus in on the art of taking one day at a time. Expanding their view, then discussion turns to relationships and how a sense of belonging can be as important as food and shelter. So significant, we realize, the present crises teaches us how we’re all in this together.

In this episode, Gregg, Ali, Doug, and Ron continue to pursue the wisdoms inside of the PERMA model, this time focusing on “engagement”.

What are the restorative, satisfying activities that are both productive and serve out well-being? Especially now that we are working from home.

Flow state, what does it mean? How can we find the silver lining in our new normal, what can we do right now?

https://www.ted.com/talks/mihaly_csikszentmihalyi_flow_the_secret_to_happiness?language=en

In this episode, Gregg, Ron, Ali, and Doug continue to explore our approaches to live, even “thrive”, amidst the coronavirus pandemic.

“Thrive” in the sense that Dr. Martin Seligman uses the term. Well-being theory. Can we still find places in our life for positive emotions, for example? Seligman’s PERMA model gives us hope. Let’s remember, we’re all in this together.

In this episode, Gregg, Ron. Ali, and Doug compare notes on how to deal with living in the coronavirus environment.

Beyond the important safety measures, there are other ideas for maintaining well-being. Taking one-day-at-a-time; finding the positive; being clear on what we can control. Knowing a little psychology comes in handy. Gestalt. Locus of Control. Forethought. And common sense, like just plain appreciating the "gift of time"

In this episode, Gregg and Ron continue to explore the subject of subconscious creativity. However, this time in the context of significant life transitions.Changing careers. Empty nesting. Retirement. Maybe we’re in a state of constant transition. By the way, how do you define transition. Let’s look at the expert on transition: Dr. William Bridges https://wmbridges.com/about/what-is-transition/

In this episode, Ron ad Gregg are joined by Doug Tames to discuss the mushrooming corona virus problem.

How do we protect ourselves mentally?Let’s take another look at the concepts of human agency, locus of control, and self talk.

How can they keep us safe, keep us well. And let’s add one more concept, "neutral thinking”. Take action!

In this episode, Ron and Gregg explore the power of subconscious creativity. Through the process of exercising our creativity we discover the importance of writing things down, having patience, sleeping on our ideas. The result is often even more elegant ideas, refinements generated when we run insights through our creative subconscious one more time.

In this episode, Gregg tells Ron a story about being engaged by a client, talking about comfort zones. Gregg recalls his journey into the subject, pleasantly remembering what he knows…or re-remembers. Comfort zones connecting to gestalt, self-efficacy, forethought, and several other TPI concepts.

An old concept like comfort zones can become a new frontier with present day meaning

In this episode, Gregg and Ron join with Doug Tames and Ali Rankin-Nash to discuss tennis, specifically the spectacular emergence of Canadian Bianca Andreescu as women singles champion at the 2019 US Open.

Start with talent, youth, shot-making, and poise,…then add imagery and visualization, self talk, and a unique savoring of the moment in victory..

And don’t forget respect and humility before the one and only Serena.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jWvhpmn88Jk

In this episode, Gregg and Ron welcome Ali Rankin Nash, a young partner at TPI Canada, to talk about the fast-emerging influence of the Millennial Generation.

Millennials soon will represent 50% of the workforce.This doesn’t need to be scary. What are the strengths of the different generations. We are now experiencing a different kind of diversity.

Let’s make it a constructive collaboration.

In this episode, Gregg and Ron invite Doug Tames, a new partner of TPI Canada, to talk about Mindset and it’s relationship to Entrepreneurism. Doug’s unique view as a business advisor and a TPI consultant leads us into a conversation that considers the challenge of building a new business and the thinking skills of positive psychology

In this episode, Gregg and Ron dive deep on the subject of ideals, more to the point, the "psychology of idealism". In a world that too often features angst and cynicism, how do we make idealism fashionable again? Cognitive psychology has some answers. Stretching goals, using our imaginations to envision, engage the brain in creative ways.

That unleashes the power of the subconscious, and the beginning of the adventure!

In this episode, Ron and Gregg share the thinking behind the creation of six affirmations created expressly for a family member living with pancreatic cancer. Combined together and read daily, these six affirmations created a mindset both comforting and creative and shared with family and friends.

Affirmations
* I trust in God’s plan for me, no matter what.

* My immune systems my powerful friend, it’s doing its job 24/7.

* I feel the prayers and good thoughts coming my way, the love fills me with joy.

* It’s my duty to live everyday to the fullest, engaging in life-giving activities large and small.

* I am the managing doctor, I direct my talented team of specialists. I stay in charge.

* I am surrounded by miracles, and have been all my life. I am blessed

In this episode, Gregg interviews Ron on his strategies for mental health and productivity as he recovers from 3 surgeries over 6 months. Two knee surgeries and a heart by-pass surgery.

All were unexpected surprises, but Ron tested his resolve, creativity, and journaling expertise to maintain a positive attitude and make lemonade out of lemons.

In this episode, Ron and Gregg return to a familiar theme: how do we create an atmosphere of “peaceful coexistence”. Drawing on concepts and principles from their book “World Peace Really: One Mind At A Time”, Ron and Gregg consider tools and practices of application for a Short Course on Peace. There is a mindset to being an ambassador for peace building. There may be distress in the world, but our differences don’t need to be one of them

In this episode, Gregg and Ron return to the subject of leadership, exploring its many facets including the work of thought-leaders Kim Cameron and Bruce Schneider.

Virtuous and positive leadership creates an energy that’s unmistakable, we are attracted in and thrive. There is also a yin and yang to leadership. Positive psychology allows a place for the negative too.

It’s in the contrast that’s meaningful, but only if the ratio is right. Join us and find out what our favorite researchers have to say

In this episode, Ron and Gregg explore parenting, and how the knowledge of psychology enriches the journey. Keeping it positive, how do we cultivate imagination, independence, and positive expectancy in young people. It gets even better, when parent and child share this common language, it can be a life-long joy

In this episode, Linsey, Gregg, and Ron create an elegant dialogue around the dimensions of relationships - be they personal, family, team, or as corporate stakeholders. There is a “sweetness” when we get relationships right, and it almost always means higher meaning, performance, and life satisfaction. Join us as we explore the interplay of "me, we, and us”.

In this episode, Linsey Stephan again joins Gregg and Ron to explore politics, humanity, and strategy in today’s world. Linsey takes us through the “Six Pillars”, an imaginative approach to doing diagnostics. The result is a thoughtful dialogue, the first step to healthy social and political systems for us all.

In this episode, Gregg and Ron welcome Linsey Stephan, our colleague in South Africa, to a podcast that has a little bit of everything - history, social issues, root cause analysis, systems to make change, and a warm remembrance of TPI leader Brian Wegerle. Hearts and minds, in pursuit of community transformation.

In this episode, Gregg and Ron consider how complex problems almost always require incubation. Learn how your journaling practice can be the “laboratory”. We use the Creative Subconscious to come up with “elegant solutions”. Only takes a little time and patience. Join us in the discovery

In this episode, Ron and Gregg explore habits of thought, including how to deal with our own “bias”, our own strong opinions. Be aware to recognize emotional and cognitive highjacking. Take a deep breath. Don’t believe everything you think. How to stay sane in a world that wants to polarize you.

In this episode Gregg interviews Canadian bobsled pilot Nick Poloniato, on his preparation for the most recent Winter Olympics in Korea. In a sport where the margin of victory is often decided by just hundreds of a second, having a mental game is extra important. Listen to Nick talk about what it takes to be world-class. Color-commentary supplied by Laura Dowling of the Canadian Sport institute and Ron Medved of TPI.

In this episode, Gregg interviews Ron on the practice of journaling - including reflection, goals and affirmations, life discovery, and even exploring journaling's "return-on-investment”. Daily journaling has big benefits. But how do you get started, what do you do, how do you stay with it? The inspiration and the how-to's are here.

In this episode, Gregg and Ron discuss the requirement to know what your values are, while at the same time navigating very disruptive times. Where are our boundaries? What do we have control over and what is out of our control? The answers determine our well-being.

In this episode, Ron and Gregg share what they have been working on and what's exciting about that. Ron walks through TPI's Newest Education and the significance of this new work.

Gregg debriefs on his excitement about The Performance Ecosystem and the practical application of it for the performance improvements of TPI's Clients.

In this episode, Gregg and Ron explore the psychology of today’s politics, especially the lack of civility and the prevalence cynicism. How does someone keep their “head above water” when surrounded by a flood of negativity? Keeping the faith includes being an understanding spirit

In this episode, Gregg and Ron react to the Florida shootings, seeing a “silver lining”in the powerful youth responses and connecting the aftermath of the tragedy to the hope of change and 2nd tier leadership. Where there’s passion, there’s truth.

In this episode, Gregg, Peter and Ron discuss the topic of Wellbeing. The task of Positive Psychology is to describe it vs prescribe it. Each individual will have their own meaning of wellbeing. We will explore well being with a specific focus on Dr. Martin Seligman’s 5 areas in which you can work on. 1. Positive Emotion 2. Engagement 3. Relationships 4. Meaning 5. Accomplishments. This is a emerging topic that we feel will play a significant role in global well being.

In this episode, Gregg, Peter and Ron discuss how the “Eco System”. This comprehensive system is primarily targeted for leaders that are responsible for their teams/organizations performance outcomes. At the core of this system are People. People are a key to Performance- People have more potential than they are using. IF you could tap into that potential, we could increase performance. A significant barrier which holds people back is their “Thinking”. If you are going to have performance outcomes, you need to also look at the Culture, the Design of the Organization and Leadership. All these ingredients impact people’s performance.

In this episode, Gregg, Peter and Ron discuss the topic of Power and how it can have detrimental “side effects” on one’s character if they aren’t careful. Hubris is defined and discussed. It’s easy to see when others are moving from confidence to arrogance but with that one can become insensitive to others and judgemental. Keeping yourself real, your purpose, trying to make a difference in people’s lives everyday. How do you avoid hubris and/or deal with hubris people???? Listen in to find out more.

In this episode Ron, Gregg and Peter discuss the principle of Self Talk and how it impacts your Self Image. They discuss “the NEXT TIME”, and how important replacement pictures are for you and your Self Image. The Resiliency comes from having good tools to use and work with the principles to overcome the day to day and then the Big Setbacks which will happen in your life. How quickly can you turn the setback into a learning?

Asking vs Telling- the art of asking good questions. The Quality of curiosity, it is important for relationships and the quality of your life. This is the way knowledge gets built and relationships get built. From interviewing to having a good discussion over dinner, the Art of asking good questions is something we each should work towards continuing to learn as we continue to age. Insights are the little pieces that contribute to completing your life puzzle. Can I turn what would have been a Tell vs an ASK?

“Leaders are born, not made?” A very interesting starting premise in which TPI speaks further on the topic of “Self Concept”. Pulling in parts of different people which you really like and could use personally. People develop to become a leader, developing your own authentic leadership style. Don’t just stand in admiration of a person, pull that quality that you really like and incorporate that into your own life and leadership style. Leadership is not self-conscious, you should be in flow. It is based in character-integrity. Leadership is first being, then doing and lastly by definition it is being an innovator.

Gregg and Ron speak and unpack the book they co-wrote 7 years ago, World Peace, Really. Principles such as Coexistence, blindness, diversity-challenging our comfort zones and embracing our diversity, Normal-It can bias you towards your beliefs. Adventure is our friend. Optimism is a choice. You can start to build a better world from the inside out. Love vs Hate.

Does your day make a difference? What does your work do for you?

Ron and Gregg share the very beginnings of TPI and how TPI education make a difference in the world. They share why they have chosen this meaningful work. Gregg discusses the foundational principle of how your thinking can be a major barrier to maximizing your performance.

In this episode, Gregg, Ron and Peter unravel the topic of “Awe”. Referencing research from Dr. Fredrickson out of the University of North Carolina, they discuss the power of Emotions and how these impacts our lives. Can we use Emotions to drive/change behavior? Do you control your Emotions or do your Emotions control you? How are your Negative Emotions impacting your lives today? Gregg discusses in more depth Dr. Frederickson’s “Positivity Ratio” It takes 3 positive thoughts to overcome 1 Negative thought! Pull up a chair to learn more.

In this podcast, Gregg and Ron introduce to our listeners Integral theory. Developed by philosopher and author Ken Wilber, Integral Theory is a supertheory or metatheory that attempts to explain how the most time-tested methodologies, and the experiences those methodologies bring forth, fit together in a coherent fashion. Integral Theory’s pragmatic correlate is a series of social practices called Integral Methodological Pluralism (IMP). The personal application of AQAL is called Integral Life Practice (ILP). “AQAL” (which stands for “all quadrants, all levels, all lines, all states, all types”) is often used interchangeably with Integral Theory, the Integral approach, the Integral map, the Integral model, and the Integral Operating System (IOS).

In this podcast, Gregg and Ron lead this discussion on some of the research they have been involved with in the area of Neuro Science and Neuro Plasticity. They discuss the Thought Process and how the mind functions. What is Plasticity and why is this research important to each of us? They also discuss the importance of Memory and how it works and some of the fascinating new research in this new area. Further to this, utilizing a memory (an experience in your life) and visualizing backwards to consciously “reframing or softening” the Emotional charge to those past experiences.

In this podcast, Gregg, Ron and Peter introduce the “Eco System” in the organizations and how critical this Eco System is to the organizations outcomes for performance. Organizational Design, Leadership and Culture all impact the Athletes performance as well as the Organizations performance. Gregg and Peter discuss their diagnosis of how the organizational design of the Toronto Maple Leafs is positively moving them towards their goal of winning the Stanley Cup. Gregg shares his experience while working with the Saskatchewan Rough Riders and his diagnosis of how the Organizational design, leadership and culture impacted performance.

In part 1 of High Performance in sports, Gregg, Ron and Peter discuss their past experiences as professional athletes and coaches in football and hockey. Gregg also introduces “The Performance Matrix” and how this tool can be used by the athlete and coach to diagnose their performances and skill sets but more importantly, to increase their performances in whatever sport you participate in. need

In one of our most powerful topics of Good Mental Health, Gregg, Ron and Peter discuss some of the tools and techniques that can be used to help you move towards a practice for Good Mental Health. Ron and Gregg discuss your starting Premise is and how that can feed into your confirmation bias. Key principle discussed, “You Act in Accordance to Your Truth, Not Necessarily the Real Truth” and how you can create Scotoma’s in your life. Gregg shares the Mental Fitness pyramid and the importance of practicing your daily regiment for “mental workouts”. Meditation, Self-Talk and daily mental workouts are key to good mental health.

In this podcast Ron, Gregg and Peter ask the question, can you have too much positive thinking. If exclusively positive, are you at risk of creating “blind spots” by not considering other alternatives to your situation?? Ron shares his 10 to 1 ratio as a guideline to manage your positive and negative thinking.

In this episode, Ron, Gregg and Peter discuss Thought Leaders who have contributed research to Positive Deviant Leadership and how the qualities, characteristics, and virtues of an organization’s leaders can positively or negatively impact the company’s profitability and culture. They also discuss Positive Emotions and Behaviors, while obvious, how they significantly drive organizational performance.

In this episode, Peter Romeo joins the Kitchen Table with Gregg and Ron to discuss Mindset, connecting the dots between Thinking, Beliefs and Performance. This is a great pod cast, if you can use some mental tools to set your mind for high performance and health

In the third part of this three-part introduction to TPI and the Kitchen Table, Ron and Gregg discuss Self Efficacy and the impact this theory has had on society and the work of TPI.

In this second episode of three part introduction, Ron and Gregg discuss what is Cognitive Psychology, its application, and why is this important in your life to achieve increased performance?

In this episode, co-hosts Ron Medved and Gregg Cochlan introduce The Pacific Institute. They also introduce and discuss former founder and master teacher, Lou Tice, and the formation of The Kitchen Table, a purposeful tradition in TPI’s culture. The Kitchen Table was a fulfillment of TPI’s & Lou’s high competency of making complex simple. Lou worked to translates complex cognitive theory into knowledge & application for the learner, for measureable results.

In psychology, cognitive dissonance is the mental discomfort experienced by a person who simultaneously holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values. Confirmation bias is the tendency to search for, interpret, and favor information in a way that confirms one's preexisting beliefs or hypotheses. The Kitchen Table discusses why these concepts are important to recognize in your own life.