Raising Adults: Future Focused Parenting

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We finally made it back into the laundry room! No, we aren't relaunching the show, but we thought it would be fun to update our listeners and say a quick hello! Sending love to our FFP Family and hoping 2022 is off to a great start. - Kira and Deana

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In today's final episode of Raising Adults, we remind you that you have all the tools you need to crush parenting and enjoy the journey as an FFP! "We want you to know that you have all the tools you need to move forward without us!" - Kira Dorrian "Intentionality comes from a strong why. If you know why you're doing what you're doing, it does make it easier to make those strong decisions that are best, rather than the ones that might be expedient or get the behavior you don’t like to stop. " - Deana Thayer Today's final discussion includes: * Three Pillars of Future Focused Parenting Philosophy (2:25) * FFP Discipline Philosophy (6:24) * Importance of communication and collaboration as a team (7:29) * Demonstrating responsibility and gaining more privileges (11:47) * Kira shares final thoughts on working with Deana and what the podcast has meant to her (14:44) * Deana shares her final thoughts on working with Kira and what the podcast has meant to her (16:12) * New email address and reminder that the podcast and all 150 episodes will remain live for you to listen to anytime (20:02)

Thanks for joining us today on our final episode of Raising Adults. We have truly enjoyed being with you each week for the past 150+ episodes and are thankful for every one of you. Just remember, you have all the tools you need. Much love FFPs, Kira and Deana Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App! Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today! Don’t forget our Blowout Sale happening now until 12/25! All our programs are $5 with the exception of the Flagship program that is $10.

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Kira and Deana share their decision to close Raising Adults Podcast and Future Focused Parenting. The final episode will air on Monday, December 13th. They also share details for the Future Focused Patrons and how to reach out for parent coaching in the future.

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Sometimes after a recording has finished or an episode has aired, Kira and Deana realize that they have something they wish they had said. In today’s episode, they share those tidbits including a few extra ideas for talking about sex with kids, extra thoughts on peer pressure and more. Today's discussion includes: * A few extra birds and the bees guidelines (3:12) * The power of voting with your dollar and the power of boycotting (8:06) * An extra tool for combating peer pressure (9:59) * The story behind Kira's tattoo (13:25) * Imposter syndrome with parenting (16:04) * Favorite foods (22:03) * If Deana hears this noise, she'll run for the hills (26:36) * Kira can eat what in a soup bowl? (27:31)

Thanks for joining us today to look back at previous episodes and what we wished we would have said. Wasn't this a fun episode? Please come and share it with us on our social media and give us a follow! We would love to reach 1k followers on social media before the end of 2021. Resources Mentioned Talking With Kids About Sex Teaching Kids About Social Justice Kids and Peer Pressure Tattoos, Piercings and Body Modifications I Have A Question What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up? Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App! Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today! Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you. Our show cannot run without listeners like you! Join us over on Patreon to become a Future Focused Patron. Just $5 a month keeps Raising Adults going strong.

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In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira break down the three types of consequences, how to use them, and when to use them. If you find yourself asking what's an appropriate consequence, this episode is for you. "The design isn't to be punitive. The design is to help the world make sense because we are our children's teachers for how to navigate the world later on." - Deana Thayer Today's discussion includes: * The importance of follow-through and meaning what you say (6:36) * Empty threats lose power over time (7:36) * First type: A Natural Consequence (9:52) * Second type: A Logical Consequence (14:38) * Third type: A Currency Consequence (19:24) * Why experiencing these consequences in childhood help prepare kids for adulthood (26:04)

Thanks for joining us today for this great conversation about the three types of consequences. What was your biggest takeaway? Please come and share it with us on our social media and give us a follow! We would love to reach 1k followers on social media before the end of 2021. Resources Mentioned Coaching Call - Beyond Video Games and Later Bedtimes - Thinking Outside the Box When Offering Age Appropriate Privileges Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App! Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today! We are doing a blowout sale before the end of the year. So if you have been wanting to get any of our online programs, we have many. This is the time to do it, because everything is on sale for $5, except our flagship program, which normally retails at $57, is on sale for 10. And everything else is five bucks. Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you. Our show cannot run without listeners like you! Join us over on Patreon to become a Future Focused Patron. Just $5 a month keeps Raising Adults going strong.

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In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira have the pleasure of chatting with Heather Chauvin, a leadership coach who helps overwhelmed, ambitious women become leaders at work and home while conquering their fears. She's also the host of the Mom Is In Control Podcast, where she reveals her most vulnerable truths about womanhood, marriage, parenting, living through stage four cancer, and running a successful business without burning out. "Women walk around this earth pretending that they are robots, pretending that they don't matter. When you think about it, we probably take better care of our house plants than we do our bodies. We water the plants and we can't remember the last time we drank water." - Heather Chauvin Today's discussion includes: * Why Heather does this work (2:37) * How Heather had to recalibrate after her diagnosis (8:02) * When our behavior is really about feeling in control (15:12) * Noticing our resistance, fear and guilt (21:10) * The importance of remembering that we are our child’s teacher (27:59)

Thanks for joining us today for this great conversation with Heather. What was your biggest takeaway? Please come and share it with us on our social media! Connect with Heather Chauvin Instagram Facebook Mom Is In Control Podcast Website Dying To Be A Good Mother Dying To Be A Good Mother's Action-Plan Workbook Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App! Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today! Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you. Our show cannot run without listeners like you! Join us over on Patreon to become a Future Focused Patron. Just $5 a month keeps Raising Adults going strong.

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In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira dive into how we as parents handle and cope with our kids being different from us. "We don't need a melting pot in this country, folks. We need a salad bowl. In a salad bowl, you put in the different things. You want the vegetables, the lettuce, the cucumbers, the onions, the green peppers to maintain their identity. You appreciate differences." - Jane Elliot Today's discussion includes: * Why we're talking about this (5:35) * What this looks like in Deana's home (7:17) * Coping with differences in Kira's home (11:35) * Something not being handled well vs. a different way of doing something (14:00) * Leaning into the differences (16:45) * Unpacking where the issue is actually our own (19:06) * What are we modeling for our kids (25:19)

Thanks for joining us today for another important topic. What was your biggest takeaway? Please come and share it with us on our social media! Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App! Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today! Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you. Our show cannot run without listeners like you! Join us over on Patreon to become a Future Focused Patron. Just $5 a month keeps Raising Adults going strong.

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In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira are back with an important topic: teaching kids about social justice. Because she is not a DEI educator, Kira shares who she is learning from and what the application looks like in her home. "We cannot help the next generation to dismantle racism, challenge racial inequality, and imagine an America of inclusion, if we, as white parents, do not openly discuss the oppression and injustices that are inherent in the very design of our country, which was established by white men who believed that they were the superior race." - Elisabeth Lepine Today's discussion includes: * Appropriate vs. inappropriate resources (6:22) * Apron Education and Read Like a Rock Star Teaching (7:46) * The Conscious Kid, Little Justice Leaders and Brownicity (10:01) * The framework Kira uses in her house (11:56) * Modeling action and helping kids learn to take action (19:34) * How to talk about the complexities and when we get it wrong (23:11) * Accept the discomfort - if we're not educating ourselves, we're not doing the work (25:36) * Gracefully receiving feedback so we can do better (29:09)

Thanks for joining us today for this important topic. What was your biggest takeaway? Please come and share it with us on our social media! Resources Mentioned Read Like a Rock Star Teaching Website Read Like a Rock Star Instagram Apron Education Website Apron Education Instagram Unpack Your Impact We Need Diverse Books Website We Need Diverse Books Instagram The Conscious Kid Website The Conscious Kid Instagram Little Justice Leaders Website Little Justice Leaders Instagram Brownicity Website Brownicity Instagram Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App! Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today! Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you. Our show cannot run without listeners like you! Join us over on Patreon to become a Future Focused Patron. Just $5 a month keeps Raising Adults going strong.

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In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira tackle a listener question: What do you do if you are in a parenting team and your partner isn't future focused or doesn't want to be? "It is important that everybody feels seen and heard, but that also that we feel satisfied with the job that we're doing as parents." - Kira Dorrian. "It's not saying that the way the other parent is doing it is wrong. It's just saying, 'Hey, this happens to be important to me, so I'll put those systems in place and help make sure they happen.'" - Deana Thayer Today's discussion includes: * The need for foundational tools (5:54) * You can parent together even if you don't agree (8:21) * Deciding that you both want to parent well (11:59) * Making sure we are not undermining our partner or other households (17:15) * A practical example of how this might look (18:14) * The flip side of that example (19:13) * Takeaways from today's episode (20:13)

Thanks for joining us today as we tackled this fantastic listener question. What was your biggest takeaway? Please come and share it with us on our social media! Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App! Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today! Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you. Our show cannot run without listeners like you! Join us over on Patreon to become a Future Focused Patron. Just $5 a month keeps Raising Adults going strong.

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In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira dive into the three pillars of the Future Focused Parenting Philosophy and how it can be applied to all of your parenting journey. "Be proactive wherever you can be because we want those curveballs to be the exception and not the rule ." - Kira Dorrian. "If you have a strong enough why, you can tolerate almost any how." - Jillian Michaels Today's discussion includes: * Pillar 1: Figure Out Your Why (5:44) * Pillar 2: Uphold Your Family Values (10:23) * Should children be involved in the conversation about family values? (13:51) * Pillar 3: Take a Proactive Approach (16:56) * How to be proactive (19:23) * Proactive discussions on discipline (26:13)

Thanks for joining us today as we shared the three pillars of the Future Focused Parenting philosophy. What was your biggest takeaway? Share it with us on our social media! Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App! Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today! Resources Mentioned The Importance of a Strong Why episode Figuring Out Your Family's Value episode Newsletter sign-up Webinar Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

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In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira discuss the changing face of education with guest Victoria Ransom from Prisma. We dive into what options exist outside of the conventional model, why the conventional model is failing some of our kids and how to find the right fit for your children. Victoria, an entrepreneur since her early twenties, has developed four companies, including Wildfire, which Google acquired in 2012 for $450M. She has an MBA from Harvard Business School and a bachelor of arts degree from Macalester College. In her spare time, she is an avid snowboarder, surfer, and passionate adventure traveler. "For so many kids, part of the problem with school is they're sitting there thinking, when will I ever use this in my life? Why do I need this? And I think applying learning to what you see in your community is one way to make it feel relevant." - Victoria Ransom. Today's discussion includes: * Where Victoria's interest in education began (8:02) * Can traditional education's primary features be problematic? (12:04) * What options exist outside the conventional model? (17:36) * Finding the right model to fit your kids' learning styles (24:11) * How Prisma brings learning alive for kids (29:00)

Are your kids in a traditional educational setting? If not, we'd love to know what you're doing and how it's working for you. Connect with Victoria Website twitter Facebook LinkedIn Instagram Don't forget, for our show to keep going into 2022 we need our Future Focused Parents to become Future Focused Patrons. Join us so that we can keep this content coming your way: patreon.com/ffp or futurefocusedparenting.com/membership Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App! Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today! Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

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In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira discuss the question “How do I know when my child is ready to___________?” Together they talk about everything from leaving kids home alone, to owning their own devices, to when you might expect your little one to be able to tie their own shoes (spoiler alert: Kira’s answer may shock you!) Today's discussion includes: * A recap about how you can help keep Raising Adults going in 2022 (4:52) * What you might be able to expect of littles (9:42) * Regression: why it happens and when to expect it (11:51) * Ages for letting kids bathe by themselves (13:30) * When should you separate kids during bath time? (14:16) * Ages for leaving a child alone in a car or at home alone (19:57) * Rehearsing with your kids for privileges, freedoms and phones (22:14) * Adjusting the way you connect when kids become tweens (24:26) * Ages for dating (30:27) * Ages for devices (33:12)

Don't forget, for our show to keep going into 2022 we need our Future Focused Parents to become Future Focused Patrons. Join us so that we can keep this content coming your way: patreon.com/ffp Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App! Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor’s appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real-time, and you’ll never find yourself at the store without the list - it’s always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It’s all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today! Resources mentioned in this episode: Troomi Wireless Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

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In today's episode of Raising Adults, the laundry room and coat closet experience a takeover by Kira and Deana’s kiddos: Cienna, Marc, Rhys, and Rhia! Together these future adults are sharing what’s really going on in kids’ minds and talking about what they want their parents to know. Today's discussion includes: * Introductions (7:07) * Today's why (7:52) * Rhia shares what she wants her mom to know about school (spoiler alert: school is hard!) (8:19) * Cienna shares something she and her Deana do that strengthens their relationship (9:37) * Marc unpacks the common phrase “I’m your parent, not your friend” (11:26) * Rhys shares what Kira is doing well (12:27) * Cienna talks about the importance of fostering and following your children’s interests (13:52) * Rhys reminds parents that “It's ok to take time for yourself” (14:57) * Rhia and Cienna talk about the push-pull of wanting independence without making parents feel unloved (16:11) * Marc reminds parents that “kids are smarter than you think, and their feelings are valid” (18:39) * Cienna cautions parents to remember that kids are always listening and watching (19:10)

Wasn't today's episode adorable? We love the honesty and truth that they shared with us. We'd love to know if you had a favorite moment from today. Don't forget, for our show to keep going into 2022 we need our Future Focused Parents to become Future Focused Patrons. Join us so that we can keep this content coming your way: patreon.com/ffp or futurefocusedparenting.com/membership Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

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In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira wrap up their three-week series of "I Do It," "We Do It," “You Do It." This final “You Do It” phase of ages 10 and up is where we truly begin handing off responsibility and shifting into more of a coaching role as parents. Today's discussion includes: * Recap of "I Do It" and "We Do It" (2:23) * Our Why (3:47) * The three categories of "You Do It" (5:30) * Your child as an individual in this phase (9:20) * Your child and their tasks and responsibilities (11:34) * Example of interacting with tasks (14:16) * How to assess the situation when tasks are not completed (16:14) * The importance of handing off in stages (20:04) * Your child and how they interact with people and the world (21:23) * The shift in parent and child relationship (24:31) * Coaching awkward and challenging situations (25:58)

The "You Do It" phase is a beautiful time where you start to see your hard work pay off. Definitely, a phase to look forward to! Don’t forget, for our show to keep going into 2022 we need our Future Focused Parents to become Future Focused Patrons. Join us so that we can keep this content coming your way: Patreon or Future Focused Parenting Website

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In today's episode of Raising Adults, we head into the second part of our three-week series. Last week we covered the "IDo It" phase of parenting, and today we are talking about the "We Do It" phase. This 5-10 age range is where we truly begin balancing responsibilities with privileges and move into a more collaborative part of the parenting journey. "You know what's really cool about this phase, honestly... The "We Do It" phase is where you're together and you're a team. And so the pressure of "I Do It" comes off of you a little bit, but you haven't worked yourself out of a job yet." - Kira Dorrian "This season is when you are collaboratively working toward things like growing responsibility, growing privileges and growing relational skills. This sets up not only raising your adult but how that adult then views their relationship with you." – Deana Thayer Today's discussion includes: * A recap of the "I Do It" phase (00:57) * Laying the groundwork and reaping the benefits (6:46) * The "We Do It" phase (8:18) * Setting the tone for the parent/child relationship (12:51) * Consistency and communication (16:03) * Kira outlines how she balances chores and privileges (17:23) * Deana shares how she tackled this phase and her "yes posture" (20:27) * How to handle changes in the parent-child relationship (24:56)

Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, twitter, and Pinterest to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

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In today's episode of Raising Adults, we kick off a three-week series applying our framework of "I Do It, We Do It, You Do It" to your parenting journey. We will break down the different stages of parenting and talk about what it means to be a Future Focused Parent in each stage. "If you're fortunate enough to have small people, this is where you not only lay the foundation of how you're parenting with empathy and emotional intelligence while still having boundaries, but you're also laying the foundation for what you are like as a Future Focused Parent." - Deana Thayer Today's discussion includes: * Introduction to "I Do It" (4:24) * What this looks like with infants (6:59) * What if you get it wrong? (9:19) * The toddler years (12:28) * In this phase, you're teaching your child what they can expect from you (14:20) * The preschool years (19:44) * Increasing responsibility and privileges (22:41) * Redirection is not a distraction (23:58) * Preview of "We Do It" (26:44)

We'd love to hear from you! How are you managing this “I Do It” stage with your 0-5 child(ren)? Join us on social media or send us an email to let us know! Episodes Referenced Who's the Boss Babies and Sleep Kids and Manners Kids and Chores Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, twitter, and Pinterest to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

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In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira talk about mean kids, bullies and their parents. Be sure to tune in and listen as we dive into bullying, how it's changed over the years and how there is a difference between “mean kids” and “bullies.” Stay tuned until the end to find out who’s celebrating a birthday in September!! "In those moments where a child has been harsh, or unkind it is important for me to help my kids ask themselves what might be happening for that child that they feel the need to treat someone that way." - Kira Dorrian "I have encouraged my kids to be careful about labeling someone as a bully over one or two harsh incidents. " - Deana Thayer Today's discussion includes: * Deana shares her two whys (6:53) * Kira's why (8:16) * Why labels can be damaging (10:42) * Equipping kids with coping tools and discernment (11:47) * Compassion and empathy for kids who bully (17:20) * Dealing with other parents who aren’t collaborative problem solvers (23:23) * Owning that our kids are human and continuing to help them grow (27:06) * Tips for coping with interactions that aren’t collaborative (28:06) * Being honest with ourselves: are we receiving feedback and are we open to hearing areas where our children need to grow (31:00)

We'd love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Join us on social media to let us know! Want your FREE copy of the attributes and character traits calendar? Visit bit.ly/RaisingAdultsPodcast or visit FutureFocusedParenting.com Thanks to our sponsor The MamaZen App - Helping Moms Feel Sane! The MamaZen app specializes in helping moms change their motherhood habits, so they can become patient, mindful, calmer, happier, and raise happy and mindful adults. Use promo code FUTURE to get full, unlimited FREE access to MamaZen for 30 days. Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, twitter, and Pinterest to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

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In today's episode of Raising Adults, we have the opportunity to double date with the hosts of the popular podcast What Fresh Hell - Laughing in the Face of Motherhood, Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables. Be sure to tune in and listen as we dive into what it means to be "that mom" and how we can best advocate for our kids. "When advocating for your kid, come with both the problem and the solution." - Amy Wilson "Be very aware of…am I always the person advocating for my needs and my kid's needs in a way that is taking needed resources from other people or really inconveniencing other people?" - Margaret Ables Today's highlights include: * Margaret shares that she was a comedian, television writer and her why for being “that mom” (4:01) * Amy talks about her book, family, and her why (5:06) * Why it is “that mom” and not “that dad” or “that parent” (6:50) * The line between helicopter mom and tiger mom (9:01) * Is there a time for spiciness vs. doing it kindly? (12:37) * Come with a solution to the problem (18:03) * Intentionality and values while advocating for your kids (19:41) * Steps to take once you've decided to be “that mom” (21:20) * How to be emotionally prepared for difficult conversations and uncomfortable truths (24:11) * A useful framework: rude behavior vs. mean behavior vs. bullying behavior (26:36)

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When To Be 'That Mom' episode Ask Amy - My Kid's Friend Is Now Bullying Him. Should I Get Involved Signe Whitson Connect with Amy and Margaret:
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Amy's Book Thanks to our sponsors The MamaZen App - Helping Moms Feel Sane! The MamaZen app specializes in helping moms change their motherhood habits, so they can become patient, mindful, calmer, happier, and raise happy and mindful adults. Use promo code FUTURE to get full, unlimited FREE access to MamaZen for 30 days.
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In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira talk about supporting future focused grandparents and the complexities that entails. Don't miss this episode! "The most important question grandparents can ask of their adult children is, where do I need to match you and where can I depart from that and just enjoy being a grandparent?" - Deana Thayer “Please, grandparents, remember that the intensity and expectation of parents when you were parenting is not the same as it is now." - Kira Dorrian Today's highlights include: * Kira shares her two-part why (3:28) * Deana's blended family two-part why (6:20) * Finding a middle ground in grandparenting (8:57) * Preparing for a grandchild on the way (11:46) * Importance of communicating regularly and checking in (13:50) * Graciously receiving feedback as grandparents (15:00) * Asking for clarity without judgment (18:27) * The intensity and expectations of parenting are not the same as a generation ago (20:01) * Blended family...it's like a crockpot (22:42) * Creative communication is key to successful future focused grandparenting(28:24)

Much of what makes for a successful future focused grandparenting relationship is communication. This includes asking questions, clarifying without judgment, finding ways to partner with your adult children and considering how you create a safe space for receiving feedback. We really hope that you enjoyed this episode today and look forward to hearing your thoughts! If you are new to the FFP philosophy, check out our past episodes on The Importance of a Strong Why and Figuring Out Your Family’s Values. Also, our recorded webinar Becoming a Future Focused Parent. Thanks to our sponsor The MamaZen App - Helping Moms Feel Sane! The MamaZen app specializes in helping moms change their motherhood habits, so they can become patient, mindful, calmer, happier, and raise happy and mindful adults. Use promo code FUTURE to get full, unlimited FREE access to MamaZen for 30 days. Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, twitter, and Pinterest to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

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In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira talk about tattoos, piercings and body modifications. Join us as we discuss how critical thinking skills are key to this conversation, regrets and triggers for parents, and Kira's cautionary tale. Be sure to tune in! "Sometimes regrets are important. You learn things from your regrets. And while they're a bummer, they're a good teacher." - Deana Thayer “How can we enhance what's there but embrace? We all have stuff, and it's just not worth the risk to try and modify if it's going to cause health concerns, you know." - Kira Dorrian Today's highlights include: * Deana's grumbling and gratitude (2:17) * Do Deana and Kira have body modifications? (4:25) * Deana's why when it comes to talking to her kids about this topic (7:12) * Kira's why (9:20) * Critical thinking and body modifications (11:04) * Regrets and triggers for parents (15:38) * Kira's experience and word of caution on cultural appropriation (16:37) * Try temporary first over permanent (23:41) * Thoughts on plastic surgery (25:28) * Negative comments from peers and how to talk through those experiences (30:04)

Today’s takeaways: Communication is key for any body mod discussion with our kids. Try before you buy: try out a temporary tattoo or fake earring first! Be thoughtful of cultural significance Last (but certainly not least!): Be kind when commenting on those with permanent body modifications, or reconsider commenting at all. We would love to hear your thoughts on today's topic. Feel free to email us at info@futurefocusedparenting.com. Don't forget about our membership opportunity and the additional resources you have access to when you join. Find more on our membership tab. Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram and Twitter to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

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In today's episode of Raising Adults, we talk about the full-time, part-time, stay-at-home decision. There are so many variations of what this scenario may look like, and it's a huge decision parents have to make. We share our perspectives and what we've experienced along the way. Don't worry...even though Deana doesn't have an acronym, she's not letting us down. She has two C's for us today. Be sure to tune in! Today's highlights include: * Deana's why, a believer in seasons (6:25) * Kira's why (8:50) * Deciding if a change needs to happen (14:26) * Normalizing the decision-making process and communication (17:32) * Does your work-life match your values (18:42) * Communication and creative problem solving (20:49) * Recognizing it is ok to have a human need and share it (24:04) * Seeking ways to make things work for us (27:20) * The importance of making decisions that are consistent with who you are (30:20)

How are you navigating this for your home and family? How do you keep that future focused mindset with you? We would love to hear your thoughts on today's topic. Don't forget about our membership opportunity and the additional resources you get to access when you join. Find more on our membership tab. Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, twitter and Pinterest to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

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Today on Raising Adults, we welcome Jen Riday of the Vibrant Happy Women Podcast to the show. Jen helps burned-out, overwhelmed moms get off the hamster wheel and find balance so they can love their lives again. As a mom of 6 with a Ph.D. in Human Development and Family Studies and host of the Vibrant Happy Women Podcast, Jen gives women tools that work. Be sure to tune in!

"Is the happiness I'm modeling or experiencing adequate for the happiness I hope they'll have as an adult? If the answer's no, then I need to up my happiness game." - Jen Riday "How am I going to show this version of myself? The version that's authentic to my kids instead of shoulding all over myself and losing the sparkle because really, the sparkle is lost when we all try to be the same to some extent." - Jen Riday Today's highlights include: * Jen's why on reclaiming your authentic self (5:42) * How to know if you've lost your sparkle and what to do to get it back (9:26) * Steps and questions to ask yourself to recognize if you’ve lost your sense of self (10:23) * Tool #1 - The BE HER morning ritual (13:01) * Tool #2 - Creating your values and requirements (16:04) * Tool #3 - the "Feel it to Heal it" method (20:28) * Jen does a fun exercise with Kira and Deana (21:43)

Be sure to listen to this episode to hear the exercise we did with Jen, what exactly VSCO girls are and Jen's three methods to help us get our sparkle back! Connect with Jen

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Today on Raising Adults, we discuss inviting feedback from our children. Join us as we talk about what this looks like in our homes and what it's like for someone who may have a hard time hearing feedback. How does this approach work? Be sure to tune in! "Feedback, when given well, should not alienate the receiver of the feedback, but should motivate them to perform better." - M.O., Manager, Fortune 500 Company “Don’t couch it in good and bad. We’re talking about what’s going well, and where are some areas I could grow? Or where are some areas that I could serve you better? The way that we frame this is really important.” - Kira Dorrian Today's highlights include: * Kira's why's (6:25) * Deana's why (7:44) * How Kira has handled this with her kids (9:30) * How Deana does this in her family (11:55) * Kira's experience with seeing this up close and personal (17:07) * What it has been like for Deana now that her kids are older (20:54) * Kira drops some truth about the distinctions in the vocabulary we use (24:43) * Today's takeaways (27:06)

Be sure to listen to this episode to find out what Deana gave up for July and her thoughts so far. Special thanks to our sponsors! YoLabs - Making life easier for working moms! Prisma - A totally new way to go to school! Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram and Twitter to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

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Today on Raising Adults we celebrate the beginning of Season Five! Can you believe it? Join us as we talk about how Deana approaches the goal for her kids to have no rules by age 16. What does that mean? How does that actually work? Be sure to tune in! "The goal of the structure and the ‘strictness’ in the early years is so that they're able to handle the increasing freedom in the older years.” - Deana Thayer. "Are they starting to even see at a young age that the more I show that I'm responsible and capable of something, the more I'm rewarded with freedoms and privileges? And my parent is recognizing my readiness and helping me grow in that so that by the time you get to those tween years, none of this will be a surprise." - Kira Dorrian. Today we talk about: * Deana's why (6:55) * Kira's why (9:49) * What this looks like in Deana's house (12:04) * How to assess readiness (17:02) * Looking for collaboration (17:56) * How to handle when things slip up or go sideways (22:01) * Increasing responsibility from a young age (26:04) * Kira's experience growing up with no rules by her teen years (29:48) * The more responsible they are, the more you can trust them - even from a young age (33:49) * What do to if you'd like to make this a goal for your family (35:57)

Be sure to listen to this episode so you can learn how to move from directing your kids to coaching and mentoring them as they grow into adulthood. Special thanks to our sponsors! YoLabs - Making life easier for working moms! Prisma - A totally new way to go to school! Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram and Twitter to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

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Today on Raising Adults, we've got a replay for you from Season Four.

Deana and Kira share ways to be the parent without being a tyrant and the positive impact this can have on your relationship with your child. They also give tools and tips for re-balancing your home if things are out of whack.

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Today on Raising Adults, we have a replay from Season Three.

Kira and Deana talk about resilience and do some myth-busting about what it takes to raise resilient kids, as well as what true resiliency looks like.

Episodes referenced: Raising Kids With Emotional Intelligence

https://futurefocusedparenting.com/2018/10/08/raising-kids-with-emotional-intelligence/

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Today on Raising Adults, cue all the fireworks as Kira and Deana celebrate the season four finale! Can you believe it? Join us as we talk about what we learned this season, how we grew as people and parents, as well as what's coming next season. "We get so busy, and life gets so frenetic and fast-paced that I think we can forget, and I certainly had, that we're the boss of our own schedule." - Deana Thayer. "I'm not entirely convinced anymore by this trajectory that we put on our kids and their education. You have to get great grades so you can get into a great college, so you can get a great job. I'm not sure I buy that anymore." - Kira Dorrian. Today’s talking points: * Deana and Kira's why (6:15) * What Kira learned this past year (7:49) * What Deana learned (13:02) * Kira was floored by how much busier she was than what she thought (16:50) * Is Kira going to get hate mail over this comment? (23:05) * Who loves social distancing? Deana does! (26:59) * Kira and Deana share what they hope stays the same (29:23) * Take a moment and think about the hidden blessings of this year (33:02)

Be sure to listen to this episode, not just because it's the season finale, but to hear which new social media platforms we are on now!! Thanks for joining us today! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future-Focused parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

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Today on Raising Adults, we discuss the age where littles are hitting, biting, and breaking things. We share some tips on how we've tackled this phase with our littles that align with our FFP philosophy. Join us today as we share tools that parents can use for dealing with this developmentally appropriate, though challenging, phase. "Make sure that as you're encouraging this behavior to stop and letting them know that this is not appropriate, that we are also giving them the tools for what is appropriate." - Kira Dorrian "What we permit, we promote. So if you're allowing it, even sometimes, they're thinking, ‘Oh, I might, get away with this here and there,’ and that's really not okay." - Deana Thayer Things we chat about: * Kira teaching her kids that violence is never okay (4:26) * Deana's “it's only fun if everyone is having fun” (5:18) * What Kira struggled with that a lot of parents can relate to (6:35) * Just because something is age-appropriate doesn't mean you can let it go (8:16) * The importance of staying consistent (10:50) * Shaming doesn't have to be part of parenting (13:55) * Mean what you say and say what you mean (16:49) * Kids need to see the follow-through (17:47) * Teaching the process of reparation (19:35) * Reparation without shame (22:28) * Encouraging inappropriate behavior to stop, while giving them tools for what is appropriate (23:13)

Be sure to tune in to next week’s Season Four Finale and get excited with us. We'd also love to know your thoughts on today's episode! Join us on social media and let us know. Thanks for joining us on today's episode of the Raising Adults: Future Focused Parenting podcast! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future-Focused parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

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Today, Kira and Deana have the opportunity to chat with Janet Allison and Jennifer LW Fink about closing the gender gap using communication, context, and conversation. Janet is a mother, former teacher, and currently a family coach, author, and podcaster. Jennifer is a mother of four boys, a writer, and a podcaster. Together they co-host the popular podcast, On Boys. "I started learning about boys to survive my own life." - Jennifer LW Fink. "The three keys of really being a boy-friendly communicator are moving side by side, fewer words on your part, and lots of pauses." - Janet Allison. In this episode, we dive into: * Meet Janet (2:52) * Meet Jennifer (3:58) * The why behind Jennifer's work (7:39) * Janet's why (8:45) * Raising gentlemen without suppressing the empowerment of girls (11:49) * Helping our kids understand the past so they can have the context for the current climate (14:41) * Three keys to being a boy-friendly communicator (20:39) * Laying the foundation for tailored conversations (22:03)

Don't miss this fantastic episode with Jennifer and Janet of the On Boys Podcast. They share some insightful information on closing the gender gap using context, conversation, and communication. Connect with Jennifer & Janet Jennifer's Website Janet's Website Instagram FaceBook Podcast Thanks for joining us on today's episode of the Raising Adults: Future Focused Parenting podcast! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future-Focused parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

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“What do you want to be when you grow up?” Today on Raising Adults we dive into this age-old question that so many kids get peppered with from adults. It's an interesting question considering so many of us are probably still trying to figure it out ourselves. Brace yourselves; Kira came up with an acronym in this episode! So, join us today as we unpack this famous question and what we really think about it. "Now I think it's one of the most useless questions an adult can ask a child - What do you want to be when you grow up? As if growing up is finite. As if at some point you become something, and that's the end." - Michelle Obama. "When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down 'happy.’ They told me I didn't understand the assignment, and I told them they didn't understand life." - John Lennon. We'll discuss: * Kira shares what she wanted to be when she grew up (5:16) * Kira's why (6:06) * Deana shares what she wanted to be when she grew up (7:51) * Deana's why (9:10) * Connecting with children and generational gaps (10:04) * Being a Future Focused Parent and having room to be fluid (12:15) * Kira talks about feeling locked in to a decision she made at nine (16:27) * The importance of knowing your child's personality (17:44) * Giving kids the room and option to change their mind freely (20:15) * Let's change the "What do you…" to "Who do you…" (21:46) * Kira's on the spot funny acronym W.H.O. (24:27) * If Deana and Kira could change jobs right now and do anything - what would it be? (26:36)

Don't miss this episode as we dive into this classic question and how we can change the conversation to be more Future Focused for our kids. Thanks for tuning in! Thanks for joining us on today's episode of the Raising Adults: Future Focused Parenting podcast! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future-Focused parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

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Today on Raising Adults, Deana and Kira talk about embracing your “flawsome” as parents. Do you sometimes struggle with comparison or look at other parents and feel like they do it all, have it all, and manage to offer their children everything? If this is you, then don't miss this episode! "It’s about doing the best you're capable of and saying, that’s ok." - Kira Dorrian We open up and chat about: * Deana and Kira's why for embracing their flawsome (7:24) * How a growth mindset might lead us to thinking we should try to be amazing at everything (12:14) * It’s important to avoid putting a square peg into a round hole (16:41) * How outsourcing can alleviate overwhelm (17:40) * What, exactly, is “Flawsome?” (31:18)

Don't miss this episode as we reveal what we suck at and how we each embrace our flawsome! Thanks for tuning in! Thanks for joining us on today's episode of the Raising Adults: Future Focused Parenting podcast! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future-Focused parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.

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In today’s episode, Deana and Kira have the opportunity to chat with Amy Carney about Future Focused foster/adoptive parenting. She is the author of Parent on Purpose-A Courageous Approach to Raising Children in a Complicated World and 100 Questions for Mom- a Journal for Reflection and Connection. She is a public speaker, content creator, and product maker helping parents raise their children with more joy and purpose. She lives with her husband and five children in Arizona. They are currently fostering their 6th to adopt him this summer.

"It's not just our home. It's a community of people pouring into our children and teaching them." - Amy Carney.

Amy Shares:

Her why in this area of her parenting (4:10)
Her parenting philosophy before fostering to adopt (7:47)
Finding balance from a mental health perspective and how to help biological kids understand (13:19)
Responsibilities of a foster parent from a mental health perspective. How to care for a person who's been through trauma and helping the kids already in the home (17:14)
How to access resources in the community as an essential piece of the foster/adoptive process (19:35)
Approaching biological kids in a way that doesn't cause resentment towards foster children (21:24)
An important takeaway for anyone considering fostering or adopting (23:25)
All about the experience that inspired Amy's book: Parent on Purpose (25:30)

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In today's episode, Kira and Deana talk about teaching kids to spot unsafe relationships. Learn what signs to look for if you suspect they are in an unsafe relationship and some resources that you and your children can use. Unsurprisingly, Deana has come up with a helpful acronym to help families remember what to look for and what to do if they see it.

"I think that's really important that just because we can find a way to dismiss it doesn't mean it didn't land harmfully on someone else." - Kira Dorrian

"You want to get away much sooner and disentangle yourself from something unsafe." - Deana Thayer

Join us to learn about:

What to say if you find out your child is in one of these relationships (9:01)
A - Aggression (9:54)
B - Blame (12:11)
U - Using (12:59)
S - Shame (14:50)
E - Environment (18:08)
How to help them extricate themselves (24:04)
Resources to share (27:46)

Mentioned Resources:

Agression, Blame, Using, Shame, Environtment

National Domestic Violence Hotline

Call: 800 799 SAFE (7233)

Text: LOVE IS to 22522

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Curious to know Kira's and Deana's whys for peer pressure? Wondering what the three pillars of the Future Focused Parenting philosophy are and how you can apply them? Be sure to listen as Kira and Deana dive into these questions and so much more.

"You have to be willing to say, actually, my value system is stronger than my fear." - Kira Dorrian

"That's so great because something has to win, right? So this is about laying the foundation so the value system wins. And the fear doesn't." - Deana Thayer

"Don't downgrade your dreams to upgrade your relationships." - Matshona Dhliwayo

Join us to learn about:

Deana's why for peer pressure (7:30)
Kira's why for peer pressure (8:37)
How does Deana apply values that are Future Focused? (10:50)
Are environments a factor with peer pressure? (13:36)
Should you teach your kids to trust their gut? (13:36)
Is it essential that kids explore outside the boundaries their parents have set for them? (24:01)
The first pillar of the Future Focused Parenting philosophy (26:25)
Second pillar (27:04)
Final pillar (27:50)
What do you do when your kid does give in to peer pressure? (28:36)

Mentioned Resources

Join the private Future Focused Parents Facebook Group

Future Focused Parenting Membership Details

Episode referenced: Kids and Friendships Episode

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Laura Hernandez and her husband, Tony, live in the Dallas area, raising seven biological and three adopted children. That's right; they have ten amazing children - She's our hero! Laura created Mama Systems to help others bring peace to their homes through customized systems. She offers coaching and courses that help families live more intentionally.

Is dinner time at your house filled with beautiful experiences and your family around the table enjoying conversations? If you answered with a resounding no - then this is the episode for you!

"They are not going to remember what you made, and if they had hot dogs for dinner or if they had a five-course meal; I think that they're going to remember the conversations and the times that they were heard." - Laura Hernandez

Today on the Raising Adults

How meal planning impacts a parent's ability to be Future Focused (8:18)
Techniques for families to get started on a system around meal planning (10:41)
Dealing with picky eaters (17:55)
Figuring out what's important to you around mealtime (19:15)
Tips for making mealtime at the table a positive experience (20:13)
What benefits can be seen from implementing these techniques (22:17)
Life happens, and you fall off track - how can you get back to having these intentional mealtimes (23:22)

Mentioned Resources

Meal Planning Course Freebie
Feeling Chart Freebie

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Deana and Kira chat about the difference between correcting our kids and criticizing them. How can we be sure to come across with love, kindness and understanding when we need to correct a behavior? How can we keep in check what we can expect of them and what they might only be learning as they grow? And, how can we keep ourselves calm in the process? Deana shares an on-the-fly acronym and Kira shares two key phrases you can use right away.

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Kira and Deana chat with Bill Brady of Troomi Wireless about how to keep kids safe online, on their devices and more. Bill shares some of the ways parents can create trust with their children around technology use as well as help their children learn the skills necessary to navigate social media, app use, email and messaging in a way that is safe now and for their future.

Learn more about Troomi Wireless:

https://troomi.com

Episode referenced: Kids and Screens

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Kira and Deana discuss re-entry as the pandemic shifts and the world starts to open up again. How do we support our kids? How do we help them to be understanding of each other and the variety of experiences their friends may have had? How do we teach them the compassion, empathy and patience they will need for others and for themselves as we begin to return to “normal?”

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Deana and Kira talk with Sandy Fowler, stress relief coach and host of the Mighty Parenting podcast. Sandy shares tips for creating stress solutions that actually fit into your busy life as well as ways to make the most of sleep, and create quick and easy stress relief moments throughout the day.

More about Sandy:

https://sandyfowler.com

https://mightyparenting.com/podcast/

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Deana and Kira answer your questions about everything from imaginative play, emotional intelligence for kids under 18 months, linking your why to your values and more!

Episodes referenced: The Importance of a Strong Why, Figuring Out Your Family’s Values, Raising Kids With Emotional Intelligence

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Deana and Kira speak with Laura Froyen, PhD, of The Balanced Parent podcast to talk about the inner work required to practice Conscious Parenting. How do we understand our triggers and do the necessary healing in order to be the best parents we can be?

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Deana and Kira discuss the challenges of staying true to your parenting style in the face of other people’s opinions and judgement. They share tips and tricks for staying the course when you know your style is working for YOUR family.

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Deana answers a listener question about when kids start driving.

Kira and Deana let their listeners know that a big announcement is coming on Monday's episode.

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Kira and Deana talk about resilience and do some myth busting about what it takes to raise resilient kids as well as what true resiliency looks like.

Check out our Online Parenting Programs including our newest program Parenting Anxious Kids

Episodes referenced:

Raising Kids With Emotional Intelligence

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Deana and Kira discuss the foundation of their parenting philosophy: the importance of having a strong “why”. Every episode they share their “why behind the how” but in today’s episode they encourage listeners to think about their own overarching why and the benefits of parenting with this core concept.

Values Episode Referenced:

http://traffic.libsyn.com/raisingadultspodcast/Kids_and_Family_Values.mp3

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Kira and Deana answer a listener question about when your child’s love language is different than yours, especially if they enjoy physical affection and you are simply “touched out”.

Episodes referenced:

Kids and Consent

http://traffic.libsyn.com/raisingadultspodcast/Episode_30._Kids_and_Consent_Dating_and_More.mp3

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Kira and Deana sit down to chat with Deana's daughter, Cienna, who is now a freshman in college. Cienna reflects on what it was like to be parented in a Future Focused way, the affects she sees now that she is on her own, and ways in which her upbringing differed from those of her peers.

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Deana and Kira talk with Alexandra Eidens, co-founder of Big Life Journal, about Growth Mindset and ways that parents can rethink mistakes, praise and their own modeling in order to foster a Growth Mindset in their children.

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Kira and Deana talk about lying, why kids do it and how to build an environment of trust so that children feel a genuine desire to be truthful both with you and with others.

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Deana and Kira share some of their epic fails as parents and the reality that you can't get through parenthood without them.

Episodes referenced:

When Parents Make Mistakes

http://traffic.libsyn.com/raisingadultspodcast/When_Parents_Make_Mistakes.mp3

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Deana and Kira share a few things they wish they had, or hadn't, said on previous episodes. Short, fun and good for a laugh!

Episodes discussed:

To Swear or Not to Swear:

http://traffic.libsyn.com/raisingadultspodcast/Spin_Cycle_5_When_Co-Hosts_Use_Bad_Words...Or_Not.mp3

Blended Couplehood

http://traffic.libsyn.com/raisingadultspodcast/Episode_32._Blended_Couplehood_-__Caring_for_Your_Remarriage.mp3

Kids and Friendships

http://traffic.libsyn.com/raisingadultspodcast/Episode_43._Kids_and_Frienships.mp3

Kids and Travel:

http://traffic.libsyn.com/raisingadultspodcast/Episode_54._Kids_and_Travel.mp3

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Deana and Kira answer a listener question about after school meltdowns and discuss various ways we can try to offset this inevitable part of younger kids starting or heading back to school. They also announce when they will return with the second half of Season 3 - January 6th!

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Kira and Deana discuss the madness that is the holiday season and share a few tips for how to make them as easy and gentle as possible. They also share some of the things that cause the "crazy" in their homes and laugh about each of their epic Christmas fails.

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Deana and Kira discuss the challenges parents face when talking with their children about current affairs and what is happening in the news. Together they share thoughts on when to start, how to share in ways that are honest, yet age-appropriate. They also talk about why having these conversations at home are so important.

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Video show notes:

https://youtu.be/e7WnutlMaEQ

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Deana and Kira talk with Hunter Clarke-Fields, the Mindful Mama Mentor and host of the Mindful Mama podcast. Hunter shares tips for loving yourself into being a better parent. Coming from the philosophy that you cannot give what you do not have, she gives listeners tips and tools for finding a calm and mindful practice inside the storm that parenting can be.

More info on Hunter, access to her new book and podcast:

https://www.mindfulmamamentor.com/

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With the holidays approaching, Kira and Deana discuss tips and tricks for traveling with kids, ideas for feeling more prepared for some of the unique challenges traveling creates and shifting your perspective to make every trip just that little bit easier.

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https://youtu.be/TzHvKbaHOW4

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Kira shares her expertise on this important topic, exploring ways to spot the difference between a fear and a phobia, the different types out there (there are many!) and most importantly, the tools to prevent them in the first place.

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Deana and Kira discuss various aspects of single parenting with a Future Focused mindset, including self-care, finances and dating. Deana shares practical tips on each topic from the single parent's perspective while Kira shares her own experience as a child of divorced parents.

Episodes Referenced:

Episode 7 (Kids and Money) and the Spin Cycle - More on Money

http://traffic.libsyn.com/raisingadultspodcast/Episode_7._Kids_and_Money.mp3

http://traffic.libsyn.com/raisingadultspodcast/Spin_Cycle_7._More_on_Money.mp3

Video show notes:

https://youtu.be/5ZppS6QrGBE

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Deana and Kira speak with Wendy Gossett, a temperament specialist and coach, who helps parents understand why their children do the things they do based our their personality types. She explains how understanding your child's temperament can be the key to unlocking a challenging relationship.

For info on Wendy:

https://wendygossett.com

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Kira and Deana's husbands (David and Scott) take over the laundry room for a very special 50th episode of the podcast. Together they discuss their why's and how's behind the choices they've made as fathers, the nuances of being a Dad of twins and a stepfather, and what it looks like to disagree with a spouse and co-parent who happens to be a parent coach.

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Deana and Kira discuss the importance of advocating for your children, the impact on children's self-esteem, and how to move from advocating for them, towards helping them learn to advocate for themselves.

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Deana and Kira discuss the various ways Future Focused Parents need to begin letting go as they foster responsibility and independence in their children. Different ways to recognize when it's time to shift gears, or hand over tasks as children grow and change are also shared.

Video Show Notes:

https://youtu.be/BKYcZxsztTg

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Deana and Kira answer a listener question about natural consequences, discipline and how to tailor consequences to your child's "currency".

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Kira and Deana talk about the importance of creating community for your children to increase a sense of support and belonging. They discuss various ways in which to do this, including building community for you, as parents, as well.

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https://youtu.be/tzktlXFDjSc

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In this episode, Kira and Deana speak with Alison Morrow, a homeschool transition coach with GoodSchooling.net. Alison shares the factors that might lead to a decision to homeschool, the 5 tips for getting started, and dispels some of the myths around this education option.

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http://GoodSchooling.net

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In today’s episode, Kira shares some thought-provoking ideas for expectant families as they prepare to become parents. She gives listeners ideas for how to prioritize their needs once baby comes, and includes thoughtful insight into important plans to make in advance, such as deciding on each parent’s overnight roles. Kira also shares the must-have conversation for expectant couples to have before baby arrives.

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Video show notes:

https://youtu.be/WmB2PgquAO4

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In this episode Kira and Deana talk about Back to School prep and how to make the transition into the school year as easy as possible. They discuss both the tangible and emotional transition both kids and parents face as well as share ideas specific to families sending kids off to school for the first time.

Video Show Notes:

https://youtu.be/UnqiqgUMaVw

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In this episode, Kira and Deana talk about how to help children look for the qualities that characterize a good friend, as well as how to be a good friend. They also discuss modeling good friendships and ways you might help your children extricate themselves from a friendship that is unhealthy.

Video show notes:

https://youtu.be/m4sQsUgeC7Q

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Today's episode features Deana sharing practical tips to increase sleep for your baby. Deana shatters a few sleep myths and reveals some surprisingly simple strategies for ensuring optimal sleep cycles for infants, which helps parents sleep better as well. Check out the online course - use discount code RAISINGADULTS for 15% off: https://futurefocusedparenting.selz.com/item/future-focused-sleep-strategies-the-infant-model To buy a copy of Deana's book: https://futurefocusedparenting.com/shop Video show notes: https://youtu.be/dNyVknzWeYM

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Kira and Deana welcome Melisa Liberman from the Corporate Mom Club onto the show. Melisa tackles the struggle working moms face of balancing work and home by sharing some fantastic tips and tools all parents can benefit from.

More info on Melisa:

https://melisaliberman.com

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Deana and Kira answer a listener question about how to teach children polite interruption in the car, where the "interrupt rule" is harder to do.

They also update listeners on a change to their YouTube Channel:

https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=future+focused+parenting

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Deana and Kira discuss the complexities of kids and activities. How many is too many? What kinds should parents seek out? When should you start? And how do you maintain school work and family time in the process? Lots of great thoughts in this episode as well as ideas about what children can learn from the harder aspects of activities, including the ones they just aren't interested in!

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Deana and Kira talk about "sharenting" and what it means to be parents in the age of social media. How much sharing is too much? What will our kids think of that potty training post when they are adults? And why does Kira think she really, really messed this one up?

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In their Season Three opener, Kira and Deana welcome Jetta Anderson from Family First Midwifery to the show. Together, they discuss what it means to prioritize your parenting experience, as well as how to set boundaries that enable you to accept your own limitations and be the parent you want to be.

For more info on Jetta:

http://familyfirstmidwifery.com/

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In the Season Two finale Deana and Kira talk about organization both in the home and for the family. They also share about a contest while they are on their break where listeners can win a free coaching session.

One entry for each of the following:

Follow them on Facebook or Instagram at their new handle @futurefocusedparenting
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Season Three goes live on July 8th!

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Kira and Deana interview Brittany Homer from the podcast Raising Today's Kids. Brittany discusses how to talk with our kids about pornography, create a family plan should exposure occur, and how strong parent/child connection is the greatest prevention of all.

For info on Brittany visit and to hear her podcast:

http://raisingtodayskids.com

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Kira and Deana answer a great listener question about their Kids and Discipline episode.

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Kira and Deana talk about PPMD (Postpartum Mood Disorder) and Kira opens up about her personal experience with Postpartum Depression. An important episode not just for expectant or new parents to hear, but also for their friends and family in order to know how to spot it and how to help.

If you or someone you love is struggling with PPMD, or if you think you might be but aren't sure, visit www.postpartumstress.com for more information and resources.

For more information on Kira's conservation podcast visit:

https://ecodefensegroup.org/podcast/

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Deana and Kira discuss the various ways they feel they were successful in fostering good food and exercise habits with their kids, as well as the areas where they feel they weren't so successful, both with their own children and for themselves.

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Deana and Kira share a brief and important message they hope all listeners will hear.

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Deana and Kira talk drugs, alcohol and addiction. What are the conversations we need to be having with our kids? When do we start? And what does it look like when things don't go to plan?

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Kira and Deana answer three listener questions about their Kids and Consumerism episode, including "what if my partner and I have different views on this?", "what about holding on to things for younger siblings?" and "how do I handle well meaning friends and family who keep donating their stuff to ME?"

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Deana shares with listeners who may be in a blended family some tips and practical advice for nurturing, strengthening and caring for a remarriage or new relationship. Amidst the complexities of children, big feelings, and loss, how do couples make sure to keep their new relationship strong?

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Kira and Deana welcome couples and sex therapist, Nancy Owen onto the show. Nancy discusses some of the ways relationships are affected by having children and offers practical tools and tips for navigating some of these relationship challenges for whatever phase of parenthood you are in. Don't miss this amazing episode that every couple should listen to!

For info on Nancy Owen:

http://fiercewaterfall.com

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Kira and Deana discuss how to talk with kids about consent, dating and more in this powerful episode, as well as how much younger these conversations need to start than you might think.

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Deana and Kira discuss avoid raising consumerist children in a consumerist society. They talk brand names, smart spending, gratitude, gift giving and more. They also share a listener idea for pairing consumption with family values.

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Kira and Deana talk about "the talk", revealing some funny anecdotes from their childhood, as well as tips on how to start the conversation, keep it age appropriate, and avoid shrouding the topic in shame or embarrassment. They also introduce the Attribute of the Month for April.

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Deana and Kira answer a listener question about how to find time to tackle some of the big conversations that arise from being a Future Focused Parent. The hosts offer various suggestions for busy families and children of varying ages.

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Kira and Deana speak with Meg Flanagan, education advocate and coach who shares with listeners practical tools and tips for how parents can advocate for their child at school, as well as common mistakes parents make that can get in the way of effective advocacy.

Details on Meg and for her 3 FREE resources:

http://megflanagan.com

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@megflanaganeducation (facebook, instagram and pinterest)

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Deana and Kira talk about discipline, what it is versus what it's not and why boundaries are such an important part of raising adults.

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Deana and Kira answer a listener question from the Kids and Safety episode about toy guns, good guys and bad guys. This episode is not a debate about guns, but rather a discussion about what messages we want our children to get from us as we navigate their toy versions and the stories that surround weapons in the many superhero adventures out there.

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Kira and Deana discuss various ways to prioritize "family time" and the reasons why it is so important for families of all shapes and sizes.

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Kira and Deana talk about education and their thoughts and experiences so far with public school, private school and homeschooling. They also answer a listener question about education and talk about a future guest on the show, Meg Flanagan, who is a parent coach specializing in helping parents with educational challenges.

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Parenthood is fraught with mistakes and the co-hosts aren't immune to them! Kira and Deana share some of their own parenting missteps as well as practical ways to respond which are most likely to leave children feeling seen and heard.

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Deana and Kira discuss various ways parents can teach safety measures to their children, including personal safety, body safety, disaster preparedness and more.

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Kira and Deana interview authors Brad and Drew Formsma, a father/son team who created Everyday Generosity and I Like Giving. Brad and Drew talk about the 7 types of generosity as well as the ways generosity can be misunderstood. Finally, they cover how parents can foster generosity in their children and change their family lives through "The Generous Life".

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http://everydaygenerosity.com

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Kira and Deana discuss the different approaches they took to Santa, the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy in their homes. They also reveal the Attribute of the Month for February and share the news of exciting guests Brad and Drew Formsma from I Like Giving for their episode airing next week.

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For information on Brad and Drew Formsma: https://www.ilikegiving.com/

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In their first spin cycle of Season Two, Kira and Deana discuss what happened when Kira's family went to church on the first night of Chanukkah. Yes, you read that right.

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Kira and Deana discuss ways to foster assertiveness in children as well as Deana's perspective on how obedience and assertiveness can co-exist.

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Season Two!! Kira and Deana are excited to be back with their second season of Raising Adults. They share some exciting news about the upcoming season, talk about their new free offer for podcast listeners called Attribute of the Month, and then discuss the foundational "why" every Future Focused family should have: Your Family's Values.

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Kira and Deana close Season One by talking about gratitude, what is is versus what it's not. They share why it's important for children to learn this concept at a young age as well as tangible ways to foster it within your family. Exciting news about Season Two is shared including the date which Season Two will drop.

To purchase Kira and Deana's workbooks, go to www.futurefocusedparenting.com/shop

Deana and Kira love to hear from their listeners. While they are on a break between seasons, be sure to reach out with episode ideas and questions! info@futurefocusedparenting.com

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Deana adds some thoughts on the earlier money episode and dives deeper into teaching investment skills as well as thoughts on teaching children about debt and credit.

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Kira and Deana discuss various way to teach your children critical thinking skills when it comes to decision making and prioritization.

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Kira and Deana discuss self-care in parenting and the various ways someone might begin to make time for self-care if they aren't already. They also discuss the positive impact of self-care on individuals, couples and on the children themselves. Varying types of self-care are discussed with regards to varying personality types.

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Kira and Deana talk about a key parenting tool: rehearsing with your kids to help them know what to say and how to say it. This can help with manners, safety prep, talking with teachers, dealing with friendship struggles and much more.

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Deana shares her strategies for creating a peaceful co-parenting relationship with an ex-partner. Kira briefly shares her experience of being the child of peacefully divorced co-parents.

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Deana and Kira discuss the differences between a faith-based home and a non-faith-based home. How do they look different and how are they similar? They also discuss the big questions that have come up in their friendship and give listeners a peek into some of their big conversations.

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Kira and Deana discuss the different feedback about Kira's use of swear words and engage in a lively discussion about kids, swearing, and social constructs.

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When is it ok to not be Future Focused? This episode answers that important question, as Deana and Kira tackle what survival mode looks like, and how it differs from “winging it.”

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Kira and Deana answer a listener question about parenting on the same page when family members are care providers. They discuss strategies for getting family on the same parenting page.

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This episode features a frank discussion of grief, including navigating the grieving process with children. Also covered: how to care for yourself as a grieving parent in the aftermath of loss.

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In this bonus episode Deana and Kira answer a listener question which leads them to discuss the complexities of parenting two different children with different personalities and needs.

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Today’s episode deals with how preparing for birth can set you up well for parenting. Kira and Deana chat about birth preferences, labor support and the most important birth outcome of all.

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In this bonus episode Deana and Kira answer a listener question about the Parenting on the Same Page episode and discuss ways to communicate and work together to get on the same page when you might not be already.

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Kira offers strategic principles for instilling emotional intelligence into children. She also shares her accessible “3Ns” strategy for handling big feelings.

For a deeper dive, check out her Online Program: Fostering Emotional Intelligence, use the code RAISINGADULTS for 15% off:

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In this first bonus episode Deana and Kira answer a listener question about the chores episode and Kira gives an update on her kids' new birthday chore.

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Kira and Deana chat about the importance of pregnancy as a foundation for Future Focused Parenting. Issues such as parent preparation, choosing a care provider and selecting a parenting philosophy are all covered.

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In this episode, Deana offers some practical advice for training kids in simple money management. Saving, giving and spending practices are highlighted.

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Operating on the same page with your partner is critical. Today’s episode addresses why this is so important for children to see, how exactly to present a united front, and strategies for when partners don’t see eye to eye.

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Have a teen who’s always on their device? Hoping to keep a little one away from video games? Listen as Deana and Kira chat about how they handle technology and offer simple and accessible ideas for dealing with this tricky issue.

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Deana and Kira discuss sibling dynamics for traditional sibling sets, twins and step-siblings. Listeners will learn tips for encouraging sibling harmony and gain problem-solving ideas for sibling squabbles.

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Kira and Deana talk and house work! Ideas for age-appropriate chores are discussed, as well as thoughts around why chores are important.

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Want to raise polite children? Hear Kira and Deana talk about ways to introduce and reinforce manners in your family.

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What happens when two parent coaches, one a Christian and the other an agnostic Jew, sit down to talk about parenting? In this introductory episode, Kira Dorrian and Deana Thayer share a little about their professional and personal backgrounds, as well as their different philosophical approaches, and discuss the fundamentals of Future Focused Parenting.

For more information on Future Focused Parenting visit www.futurefocusedparenting.com

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