Men Are Talking / Good Will Toward Men: Recent Episodes
Jack Kammer
Host Jack Kammer, a long-time activist, author, social policy researcher, jail guard, parole & probation agent and journalist, knows how important it is for men and boys to have as many opportunities for happiness, fulfillment, acceptance and understanding as women and girls do. So far — for 60+ years — the discussion has been about ensuring all those good things for females. Now we have this podcast. We're talking about what we want and need, what stands in our way, and how to get over, under, around or through it. (Sometimes just talking can be a revolutionary act.)
We hear a lot about the rough treatment of women and girls in Afghanistan. Rightly so. But on “Men Are Talking” we wonder, think and talk about life for men and boys.
Rich Walton spent 4-1/2 years as a construction manager for an American company in Afghanistan. Jack had never had the chance to talk with an American civilian who had worked closely with and among Afghani civilians.
And so we invited Rich to talk with us about life for men and boys in Afghanistan.
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Rich chronicles his Afghanistan adventure in his book “One Brick at a Time: Winning the Hearts and Minds of the Afghan People.” Available at the usual places online, from onebrickatatimepress.com, and from your local bookstore. Order ISBN-13: 9781737858805.
We hear a lot about the rough treatment of women and girls in Afghanistan. Rightly so. But on “Men Are Talking” we wonder, think and talk about life for men and boys.
Rich Walton spent 4-1/2 years as a construction manager for an American company in Afghanistan. Jack had never had the chance to talk with an American civilian who had worked closely with and among Afghani civilians.
And so we invited Rich to talk with us about life for men and boys in Afghanistan.
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Rich chronicles his Afghanistan adventure in his book “One Brick at a Time: Winning the Hearts and Minds of the Afghan People.” Available at the usual places online, from onebrickatatimepress.com, and from your local bookstore. Order ISBN-13: 9781737858805.
Teenage boys and girls are on a month-long wilderness adventure. Two boys or two girls to a tent. Near one of the boys’ tents a girl exits hers and proceeds to become topless. A nearby boy can't believe what he’s seeing.
The Matrix seizes control. The Sisterhood knows what this is all about.
Leering miscreant boy!
Vulnerable traumatized girls!
The Rule of Law is no match for women’s Rule of “Awww…”
Due Process becomes “Do process your oppression.”
And we wonder why men are not always happy when women take “leadership”?
Ah, yes. Because they are insecure. And why is that? Because they are afraid of Progress!
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Jeff’s March 17, 2022 blog post at Equality for Boys and Men:
https://equalityforboysandmen.org/boy-wrongfully-expelled-from-national-outdoor-leadership-school-nols-course-for-sexual-misconduct/
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Photo of young man looking down:
Yuriy Bogdanov via Unsplash
https://unsplash.com/photos/uTXWIR_SviI
Lance Hillsinger is a social worker with 34 years experience in the very difficult field of child welfare and child protective services.
He is one of the few social workers I have ever met who thinks and cares deeply about how to improve social work, social services and social policy for men.
It's a shame and a disgrace that social work talks so much about diversity and has so few men like Lance, so few of any men at all.
Lance's books:
- Build a Better Bridge: Social Policy for the 21st Century
- Kindle: amazon.com/Build-Better-Bridge-Social-Century-ebook/dp/B09S1BPRQD
- Hardcover: amazon.com/Build-Better-Bridge-Social-Century/dp/1685362494
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Paperback: amazon.com/Build-Better-Bridge-Social-Century/dp/1685362486
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In Place of the Parent:: Inside Child Protective Services
- Kindle: amazon.com/Place-Parent-Inside-Protective-Services-ebook/dp/B09516KRR2
- Hardcover: amazon.com/Place-Parent-Inside-Protective-Services/dp/1644680254
- Paperback: amazon.com/Place-Parent-Inside-Protective-Services/dp/1644680246
Connect with Lance Hillsinger:
- LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/lance-hillsinger-89b48569
Karyn Seitz is a remarkable woman in a lot of ways, not least of which are her laser sharp insight and crystal clear honesty about what women often do and think that makes them and their men unhappy in their intimate relationships. She helps men as well as women see what's going on. She helps women stop doing it and she helps men be confident and strong in making it stop.
For good reason, she calls herself The Happiness Mentor.
Contact Karyn:
Website
ahappinesscourse.com/meet
Facebook
facebook.com/karynaseitz
When two problems exacerbate and compound each other and one gets much more recognition and attention than the other, which one needs to be given more recognition and attention? Today on Good Will Toward Men, we talk with Janice Ponds and Felicity Joy Solomon, hosts of the weekly “Black. Conservative. Female.” livestream on Facebook, about which problem needs more attention in the Black community right now, Anti-Black racism or anti-male sexism.
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"Black. Conservative. Female."
Facebook livestream
https://www.facebook.com/blackconservativefemale
Recordings at
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsdUQ91nlY4nE9abVd9BFeQ
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Janice Ponds
Janice’s experience as a teacher; school psychologist; psychiatric counselor; clinical director; substance abuse treatment program coordinator, director, and supervisor; certified brain injury specialist; clinical consultant; licensed therapist; member of a law enforcement mental health support services team.
Won the 2022 Best Outreach Series award on Roku’s Creative Motion Television Network for Destruction to Dignity. Creative Motion is a Platform for Independent Christian Production.
Janice’s website
http://www.janiceponds.com
Janice’s YouTube channel
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoTesXPiIY1Y8jSFEc2UFNQ
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Felicity Joy Solomon
2022 Kingdom Conservative Party candidate for Illinois Senate District 49.
Director, Princeton graduate, Actor, Teacher, Life Coach, Minister, Doctor (of Christian counseling) turned politician
2022 Person of the Year on Roku’s Creative Motion Television Network. Creative Motion is a Platform for Independent Christian Production.
Simply Felicity podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/simply-felicity/id1476350346
Felicity Joy’s YouTube channel
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpY2mwsFchOeKI7kL7Ag7yw
Like a lot of good things, Fathers Eve was invented by accident. John Francis, the Founding Father of Fathers Eve, tells us what it is, how it happened, how it became a thing, and how you might be a part of the fun, whether you want to host your own Fathers Eve, just want to participate in Fathers Eve or whether you’re a young man wondering about your own possible future as a father. If you’d like to host a Fathers Eve event, talk to John by phone at 612 868-0745.
To find a Fathers Eve event near you, visit fatherseve.com.
You can email John at johnfrancis@fatherseve.com.
Mariquita Solis helps women develop their power in a nice way, a friendly way, not in a female macho way, not in a sisterhood chauvinist way, not splashed with an excess of industrial girls-rule Pink. (You know the shade I mean.) Mariquita works to bring men and women together — and animals too — as partners, organically, in a way that lives and grows, free of coercive power and control or sexist hubris. She’s a strong woman in the very most powerful way.
Connect with Mariquita at mariquitasolis.com.
Today on Men Are Talking we talk with violence and Public Health expert Ed Bartlett about a documentary film that ends up not documenting what it purports to document, but in fact unwittingly serves as a sort of meta-documentary on what has become of feminism.
Information from the Coalition to End Domestic Violence
about the PBS documentary "Bring Her Home":
http://endtodv.org/camp/bring-her-home/
FBI report mentioned in the podcast:
https://www.fbi.gov/file-repository/2020-ncic-missing-person-and-unidentified-person-statistics.pdf/view
Data on murdered Indians:
National Violent Death Reporting System
https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/volumes/70/ss/ss7008a1.htm
TV report from Canada on MMIW and MMIM:
https://www.facebook.com/watch/live/?ref=watch_permalink&v=10154432256403772
Jed Diamond began counseling men, women and couples in 1965. Since then he's worked with more than 40,000 people. With a PhD in International Health and a Masters in Social Work, he founded Men Alive in 1968 to help men live longer, healthier, happier lives. He has particular expertise in helping men eliminate the stresses they face that undermine their health and ruin their relationships.
We talked about four main topics:
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The relationship between Anger and Depression in Men
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A Men's Health Initiative Jed calls The Moonshot
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The Father Wound, especially the often unnoticed Father Wounds in women
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The opportunities of The Disillusionment Stage of marriages and other long-term relationships
We also took a minute to talk about the benefits Jed has derived from almost fifty years in his men's group.
And, of course, we started off talking about our fashion choices.
The Depression assessment instrument we talked about is under the STRUGGLING WITH DEPRESSION? heading at https://menalive.com/resources/ebooks-quizzes-and-videos.
Contact Jed Diamond through his website: https://menalive.com.
Social psychologist Jennifer Harman vigorously rebuts the advocacy “research” of Joan Meier on the form of child abuse and family violence known to many scientists as Parental Alienation and called "junk science" by various legislators, lawyers, professional feminists and other anti-science partisans.
When Harman et. al. directly asked, Meier refused to provide the standard scientific information on her study. The emails of this correspondence are publicly available:
https://osf.io/rjwua.
Details on Harman's scientific methods:
https://osf.io/j9bh5
A Psychology Today article on Meier's Advocacy research: https://www.psychologytoday.com /us/blog/co-parenting-after-divorce/202112/when-studies-dont-replicate-case-study
Doris Elisabeth Fischer was born in Germany and now lives in Denmark. She was trained in Germany as a social worker and for more than fifteen years she worked with Bert Hellinger, the developer of the Constellation technique of working with families. She is the author of Unravel Entanglements With Love, in which she offers case studies of her Family Constellation work. In this interview we look at the deep and pervasive damage done by parents who alienate children from their other parent.
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Contact Doris about arranging a remote Constellation session:
www.familieopstiller.dk/welcome
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Intro and outro music composed and produced by Andrej Lazarevic.
Boys and girls both have teenage struggles. Both fathers and mothers struggle to be the best parents they can be. Psychologist Cameron Caswell specializes in helping parents understand what their kids need in difficult times and why they need it. And for this production of Male-friendly Media Dr. Cam agreed to venture a little bit out of her wheelhouse to focus mostly on what's going on with the boys she sees. And we also paid some attention to the father, the other male in the equation.
Contact info:
Dr. Cam
Cameron Caswell, Ph.D.
askdrcam.com
Dr. Cam's "10 Secrets to Raising Teens." https://drcam.ck.page/top10tips
The movie we talked about is Billy Elliot,
available for streaming on Netflix:
• https://www.netflixmovies.com/billy-elliot-2000
and available for streaming and DVD on Amazon:
• https://www.amazon.com/Billy-Elliot-Julie-Walters/dp/B00003CXPD.
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Intro and outro music composed and produced by Andrej Lazarevic.
C. Cie came to value empathy for men by seeing how its opposite destroyed her courageous, loving father. She doesn't want to see that happen to anyone ever again yet she sees it happening to men all around her every day. Integrity -- including a dose of edginess -- might be just what you need if you've been finding your relationships with women doing the opposite of building you up and making you proud and happy about who you are.
Connect with C. Cie:
Website: https://www.edgyintegrity.com/
Email: cc@edgyintegrity.com
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Intro and outro music composed and produced by Andrej Lazarevic.
Gayle Kimball, a Women’s Studies professor at Cal State Chico, was one of the twenty-two women Jack interviewed in 1993 for his book Good Will Toward Men (St. Martin’s Press, 1994). Twenty-eight years later, they talked again about progress – and the lack thereof – in overcoming gender-based stereotypes and the limitations they impose on human health and happiness. It’s distressing to see how little has changed for men and boys. But it was good to talk again with an open- and fair-minded feminist.
Connect with Gayle Kimball:
Twitter: https://twitter.com/gaylehkimball
Website: https://gaylekimball.info/
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“Toxic Masculinity” host Shari Lewison-Frisch had an informal chat and agreed to appear on each other's shows. Jack was a guest on Shari's show first. On this episode of “Good Will Toward Men,” Shari was Jack's guest. The reaction of Shari's audience to her interview with Jack was the main topic of discussion. To say the least, we still have some issues to iron out and points of view to reconcile.
Connect with Shari Lewison-Frisch:
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shari-lewison-frisch-453882b0
Twitter: https://twitter.com/sharifrisch
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Helen Fisher, a noted biological anthropologist, was one of the twenty-two women Jack interviewed in 1993 for his book Good Will Toward Men (St. Martin’s Press, 1994). In that interview, the idea of patriarchy was the main topic. In this new conversation, Helen spoke of the significance of women's achievement of jobs and careers. Jack asked about the need for something similarly revolutionary, liberating, and fulfilling for men. They didn’t agree, but there is never any question about Helen’s Good Will Toward Men.
contact info: helenfisher.com
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ADHD is diagnosed in boys much more than girls. Under-diagnosis can also be a problem. Medication is controversial. Boys' gap in reading proficiency is generally ignored, while the smaller, largely resolved gap facing girls in math and science continues to command attention. Psychologist Norinne Russell, herself a parent of two kids with special learning needs, discusses strategies parents can take to make sure their kids get the best possible educational outcomes. Our focus here is primarily on boys.
• Contact info for Norinne Russell:
• russellcoaching.com
• facebook.com/drnorrinerussell
• 813 508-2367
• 212 716-1161
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Kevin Hofmann is a diversity and inclusion speaker and trainer. He was adopted by a white minister's family after being born to a white mother and black father. He has a unique perspective on being male in Black and White communities, having lived in both. Our conversation demonstrated that race, very understandably, is much more salient than sex to people living at the corner of Black and Male and that discussions of sexism against Black men and boys, in contrast to discussions of sexism against women and girls, proceed slowly and are difficult to navigate.
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Contact Kevin Hofmann
https://www.growingupblackinwhite.com/
Kevin's book "Growing Up Black In White" is available at Amazon:
amazon.com/Growing-Black-White-Kevin-Hofmann/dp/1543050913
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From early adolescence Bill Ranshaw was deeply immersed in pornography -- and the compulsive masturbation that often goes with it. Despite devoting untold hours to porn and masturbation, Bill had an Emmy award-winning career as a documentary film producer and director. But he found that life was dull and unfulfilling. Eventually, Bill saw the connection to porn was keeping him from being connected to the things he really wanted in his life. Now he guides other men through the same transition.
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Contact Bill Ranshaw
billwilderment.org
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Sexually active women have multiple reversible methods for preventing conception. Sexually active men have only two: condoms and withdrawal, neither very good. Many of women's contraceptives involve interfering with or modulating hormones. Men's reproductive physiology provides promising targets for non-hormonal methods. That's where Male Contraceptive Initiative comes in.
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Contact info:
malecontraceptive.org
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Justin Trottier has a long history in the pursuit of social justice, a pursuit that brought him inevitably to the social injustices visited upon men and boys — though at first they were unspoken among his cohort — the proverbial elephant in the room. Justin is the co-founder and now the National Executive Director of CAFE, the Canadian Association for Equality. Blessed with Justin's executive skills and talents, CAFE has grown to provide a range of direct and policy/advocacy/public education services around the social issues of men and boys. Justin is a model for the leadership the men's movement needs to grow and earn a seat at the table where gender issues are discussed and decided, and where meaningful services are designed and funded.
CAFE Website
https://equalitycanada.com
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"Highly Sensitive Man" is not just what a few men happen to be. More and more that phrase is being recognized as a good label for one of the primary personality types and is estimated by psychologist Elaine Aron to apply to about twenty-percent of men... and women. But we think of sensitive men and sensitive women very differently, don't we? Today on Men Are Talking we talk with William Allen, a Highly Sensitive Man who wrote the book on that.
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Full Transcript of excerpted audio segment from "On Being" with Krista Tippett and Brené Brown
November 22, 2012
"On Being with Krista Tippett"
American Public Media
Guest: Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW
Research Professor, University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work
MS. TIPPETT: So something that I think is really important also that you've gotten into is the difference between men and women in this and the way women do shame and perfectionism and vulnerability and the way men do it. I want you to tell the story about the man in the yellow golf jacket. [On p. 83 of her book Daring Greatly, Brown describes the garment as a yellow Izod golf sweater.]
MS. BROWN: OK. So when I started researching shame, I only studied women and I did that for a couple of reasons, the first selfish. I wanted to know — you know, that was my interest because that was my experience and because there was a lot of argument in the academic literature about men and women are different, that we don't experience shame the same way. So I thought, let me keep it really clean and just study women.
MS. TIPPETT: It also kind of feels like a word that women would say more, like even if I said I didn't like the word, it feels like a word that's hard to imagine men talking about.
MS. BROWN: No, it's true. But I also came up under a pretty rigorous feminist academic upbringing in my studies, so I was really interested. Because, you know, you think about shame in women, you think about media, body image, you think about — yeah. So it made sense to me.
So I was at a book signing and a couple came up to me and I signed four books for the woman and she grabbed them and she's walked away from the table and her husband who was standing with her stayed. And she said, "Come on, babe, let's go" and he said, "No, I want to talk to her for a minute," meaning me. She said, "No, come on, let's go, let's go." He said, "I'm going to talk to her for a second." There was some tension in that conversation. I was thinking, oh, my God, you need to go. I don't know why you want to stay.
MS. TIPPETT: Go with your wife.
[Laugh]
MS. BROWN: Yeah, go because you're hell bent for leather to talk to me and I'd rather you not. He said, "I really liked everything you said. I really like this idea of reaching out and telling our stories and showing up, but you didn't mention men." You know, my initial thought was, oh, gosh, thank God this is going to wrap up quick, because — I don't — you know?
So I looked to him and I said, "I don't study men." And he said, "Well, that's convenient." And my heart was just like, oh, God. And he said, "We have shame, we have deep shame, but when we reach out and tell our stories, we get the emotional [bleep] beat out of us." And he said, "And before you say anything about those mean fathers and those coaches and those brothers and those bully friends, my wife and three daughters, the ones who you just signed the books for, they had rather see me die on top of my white horse than have to watch me fall off." Then he just walked away.
You know, when truth hits you, it just hits you and you know what it is the second it comes to you. I knew that my research was going to be profoundly changed and I knew that it was going to be difficult and painful and that I was going to learn things about myself that I probably didn't want to know, and that's exactly what happened.
MS. TIPPETT: I mean, I think you learn things also that women growing up now and feminist and post-feminist women, I mean, it's like a reckoning.
MS. BROWN: It felt like a reckoning and it felt like a reckoning for years talking to men about their experiences. I think, you know, shame is a universal human experience. Like you say, if it washes over me, it's going to be the same as it washes over, you know, my husband, Steve. But the messages and expectations that fuel shame, the messages and expectations that bring us to our knees, are so organized by gender. You know, for women, it's really about do it all, do it perfectly and make sure you make it look effortless.
MS. TIPPETT: Right. It's also about how we look, right? I mean, part of that is, and look great while you're doing it too.
MS. BROWN: Oh, yeah, absolutely, no question. I mean, that's the part that better look effortless. Appearance and body image is still the number one shame trigger for women. For men, there's a really kind of singular, suffocating expectation and that is do not be perceived as weak. So for men, the perception of weakness is often very shaming and that one of the things that's interesting is, I talk to men and, you know, what I heard over and over was some variation of, look, my wife, my girlfriend, whomever, they say be afraid, they tell me, you know, share your vulnerability with me, open up, but the truth is, they can't stomach it.
The truth is that, when I'm very vulnerable, when I'm in fear, when I talk about it openly, it permanently changes the dynamics in our relationship. And when I started sharing this with women or whenever I started interviewing couples, women are like, oh, God, it's true. I want you to be open and I want there to be intimacy, but I don't want you go to there.
You know, and so, I've come to this belief that, if you show me a woman who can sit with a man in real vulnerability, in deep fear, and be with him in it, I will show you a woman who, A, has done her work and, B, does not derive her power from that man. And if you show me a man who can sit with a woman in deep struggle and vulnerability and not try to fix it, but just hear her and be with her and hold space for it, I'll show you a guy who's done his work and a man who doesn't derive his power from controlling and fixing everything.
MS. TIPPETT: That's really important. Really, it's jarring, right? It's like we needed to say that a lot and sit with it.
MS. BROWN: It's so jarring. I remember driving home and having this moment where I was like, oh, my God, I am the patriarchy, like I am facilitating this. I'm participating in this. It's just a conversation that's way overdue, I think.
MS. TIPPETT: It sure is, yeah.
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Contact Bill Allen:
Email: william@brainpilots.com
Blog: https://www.thesensitiveman.com
Book: https://www.amazon.com/Confessions-Sensitive-Man-Unconventional-Defense/dp/1098325168
Book excerpt: https://hsperson.com/excerpt-from-bill-allens-confessions-of-a-highly-sensitive-man-chapter-3-being-different-growing-up/
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/thesensitiveman
https://www.facebook.com/zallenw
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/wrallen/
Twitter:
https://twitter.com/TheSensitiveMa1
Instagram:
www.Instagram.com/zallenw
Podcast Guesting Profiles:
- matchmaker.fm/podcast-guest/william-allen-6f02ec
- podmatch.com/guestdetail/1633452338628x756517978042678300
- podcastguests.com/expert/william+allen/
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Hans Hageman is a man of integrity and purpose. As a child he lived with his parents and brother above the Exodus House, a residential drug treatment center for men founded by his father in East Harlem. He was Chief Counsel to the United States Senate Judiciary Subcommittee on the Constitution. He was a narcotics prosecutor for the New York City District Attorney. He then saw things from the opposite point of view when he became a public defender in New York. He was an attorney with a major Wall Street law firm and a co-founder and director of the East Harlem School at Exodus House He also runs programs — including yoga and gardening — for young formerly violent young males incarcerated as adults in a maximum security New York prison. In this episode of "Men Are Talking" he wanted to discuss the notion of male irrelevance and the harm it does to our men and boys. = = =
Biographcial sketch of Hans Hageman from Encyclopedia.com:
"Hans and Ivan Hageman, Educators"
- encyclopedia.com/education/news-wires-white-papers-and-books/hans-and-hageman-ivan
Contact info:
website: hanshageman.com
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According to the World Economic Forum and its 2021 Global Gender Gap Report, “Another generation of women will have to wait for gender parity... Closing the global gender gap has increased by a generation from 99.5 years to 135.6 years.” What is the Global Gender Gap, how is it defined, how is it measured? Professor David Geary is an expert on sex differences and he's here to explain why gender gaps exist — in both directions. It’s not always about “Patriarchal Oppression of Women.”
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Professor's Geary’s critique of the World Economic Forum Global Gender Gap Report:
- quillette.com/2021/08/06/the-world-economic-forum-and-the-misleading-politics-of-gender-equality/
The Report:
- World Economic Forum Global Gender Gap Report:
weforum.org/reports/ab6795a1-960c-42b2-b3d5-587eccda6023
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Professor Geary’s book Male, Female: The Evolution of Human Sex Differences
- www.amazon.com/Male-Female-Evolution-Human-Differences/dp/143383264X
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Related articles by David Geary
Geary, D. C. (2020, October 20). The real causes human of sex differences. Quillette; quillette.com/2020/10/20/the-real-causes-of-human-sex-differences/
Geary, D. C. (2020, November 2). Sex Differences in Occupational Attainment are Here to Stay. Quillette; quillette.com/2020/11/02/sex-differences-in-occupational-attainment-are-here-to-stay/
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Professor Geary’s faculty webpage, including recent articles and books: gearyd.mufaculty.umsystem.edu
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When you think of a person who is passionate about bringing attention and redress to male gender issues, chances are good you don't think of someone like Blair Daly. And after you hear from Blair, maybe you'll be a little more willing to hear -- and maybe even seek out -- what other male gender issues activists have to say. Maybe you'll have a few good things you want to say yourself. With more and more people like Blair, you'll be in very good company.
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Program bio from Blair’s appearance at the International Conference on Men's Issues 2021:
“Blair advocates for the well-being and equal treatment of boys and men in Washington state via his platform Equality for Boys and Men (EBM). EBM’s philosophy is that equality must include girls, boys, women, and men, and this begins with a comprehensive look at what constitutes gender equality.
“Since starting EqualityforBoysandMen.org in February 2021, Blair’s two most-read posts are about lessons from the movie Daddy Day Care and the positive masculine traits exemplified by the men of STORROR, the world’s most famous parkour group. However, his bread and butter is real-world advocacy combined with content production (articles, videos, interviews, social media) focused on issues in the Seattle area and throughout all corners of The Evergreen State. EBM publishes a mix of positive and negative stories about boys’ and men’s issues – stories that deserve to be told along with stories that, unfortunately, need to be told.
“Blair’s parents divorced when he was 14, and at 28 he was in an abusive marriage; fatherlessness and domestic abuse are issues near and dear to him.”
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If we really want to end intimate partner violence -- rather than, say, score hundreds of millions of dollars in federal and philanthropic money for feminist social programs and activist salaries, or, say, promote sexist stereotypes that hobble men's advancement toward forms of gender equity that might displease some women -- is there any hope of doing it with approaches based on exaggerations of male malevolence and female virtue?
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Stanley Green's Stop Abuse for Everyone Speaker's Page
https://www.stopabuseforeveryone.org/788-stanley-green-speakers-page.html
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A 1999 book, "The Decline of Males" by anthropologist Lionel Tiger, has proven prescient. By multiple measures the decline is real, it has deepened and it shows few signs of abating. Women have thrived by entering the domain of men; many of us men seem stunned and dazed and have fallen further into ennui, hopelessness, bitterness and despair. Can anything reverse our fortunes? We talk with Professor Tiger about the possibilities.
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lioneltiger.com
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Paul Beam is a lot of good things. Mostly he is man striving to be a better man and helping other men, too, live out their highest purpose. He is a former Marine Corps sergeant. He is an ordained minister. And he is the founder of ManCamp.
He is also a great Guest I almost CANCELLED -- for no good reason.
ManCamp is an annual event that helps men achieve "VIP" status by helping them see their Vision, understand their Identity and be challenged to live out their highest Purpose.
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Website: https://www.true-north-ministries.com/mancamp-team.html
Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/truenorthministries/?ref=bookmarks
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Today on Men Are Talking, we talk with author and Clinical Sexologist Dr. Steven Davidson about his insights into sexual health and happiness from more than thirty years as a sex therapist for individuals and couples. Since Dr. Davidson and I both have backgrounds in Social Work we also talk about sexism and the lack of gender diversity in that profession and increasingly in the social sciences as well, imbalances that can result in men being poorly understood and underserved as a class.
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drstevendavidson.com
sexualintegritycoach.com
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Edward Bartlett, holder of a Ph.D. in Public Health from Johns Hopkins University, is the founder and a board member of the Coalition to End Domestic Violence. He is a scientist who sees and understands Domestic Violence as a public health issue. He also sees how ideology has been trumping science to the tune of 500 million dollars a year to fund programs that are proven to do little or nothing to reduce domestic violence but do a lot to provide salaries to a legion of professional feminists.
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Website: http://endtodv.org/
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Eric McLoyd and Scott Steward created the Men, Sex, Gen X podcast to better represent Generation X in the media. In September 2020 they did an episode on why mothers get more respect than fathers. When they expressed an interest in being on "Men Are Talking," Jack suggested following up on that episode and maybe going a little deeper into what's going between mothers and fathers, women and men. It was going pretty well. And then somebody brought up race. • Contact info for Eric McLoyd and Scott Steward:
• moneysexgenxpodcast.com/
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Father's Eve is a new holiday held every year at venues around the country on the evening before Father’s Day. It’s a fun, no-pressure way for fathers to hang out with other fathers – to connect, share and celebrate fatherhood. And have a beer if they like. The man behind it is our guest John Francis, who is exactly the kind of man just about everybody would love to have a beer with. And you can, at least virtually, next Father’s Eve. Maybe being the host of a Father’s Eve is in your future?
• Contact info for John Francis
• www.fatherseve.com
• Facebook: www.facebook.com/fatherseve
• johnfrancis@fatherseve.com
• Take Part in a Father's Even event: fatherseve.com/take-part/events
• Host a Father's Eve event: fatherseve.com/take-part/host-an-event
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Rick Belden had to work hard to become a man of integrity. His upbringing made it difficult for him to make sense of his feelings and establish boundaries around who he was when others wanted him to be someone else. In this episode of "Men Are Talking," Rick talks about his years-long process of getting "unstuck," of learning the importance of understanding "What happened to me?" as opposed to "What's wrong with me?", especially when we're immobilized and demoralized by shame and self-doubt.
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• rickbelden.com
• Coaching site: rickbeldencoaching.com/
• Youtube: youtube.com/c/RickBelden
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John Lauritsen thinks freely, studies deeply and, as an independent scholar not beholden to academic or philanthropic dictates, is free to speak his mind. One of his main interests is love between men, which he defines as including love, sex, and friendship. On this episode of Men Are Talking we talk about the reasons gay men and heterosexual men so often see each other as different because of our sexualities and so rarely see each other as the same because of our sex.
Near the start of the show John makes a reference to Frankenstein. I meant to explain what John was referring to but I failed to circle back. John is the author of The Man Who Wrote Frankenstein, a treatise that disputes the recently popularized idea that it was Mary Shelley, rather than her husband Percy Bysshe Shelley, who wrote The Modern Prometheus, more commonly known as Frankenstein. See paganpressbooks.com/jpl/TMWWF-PG.HTM
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Patriarchy is "a system of society or government in which the father or eldest male is head of the family and descent is traced through the male line." But "The Patriarchy" is the ultimate feminist bogeyman -- a global, conspiratorial cabal intent on oppressing women and serving only the selfish interests of men. Today we talk with Steven Van Valkenburg, whose Patriarchy Central Twitter account satirizes with dry and deadly dead-pan humor the impossibility of such a set-up.
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• Patriarchy Central:
• Twitter:@patriarchyctrl
• Male-Positive Media:
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MalePositiveMedia
• Twitter: @MalePositive
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Fred Hayward is one of the pioneers of the modern men's movement. In this episode of “Men Are Talking,” Fred explains how he got kicked off Oprah Winfrey's show when Oprah was a local star in Baltimore. Then host Jack Kammer tells his story of taking Oprah out on a sort-of-date to a men's issues presentation. At the end, Fred and Jack express their wishes for some simple men's issues-related things Oprah could say to make a world of difference on problems she cares deeply and sincerely about.
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• Email: mrinc@att.net
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Mark Perry is an economics professor at the University of Michigan and a scholar at the American Enterprise Institute. He is also a one-man wrecking crew against "gender-conscious" (AKA pro-female, seldom-if-ever-pro-male) scholarships, programs, services, and facilities provided to a supposedly disadvantaged sex (AKA women, even though they outnumber men) in colleges and universities in violation of Title IX's rules against sexism in higher education. Maybe you'd like to help him? He tells you how.
Correction provided by Dr. Perry: In 2021, 57.7% of US bachelor’s degrees were awarded to women, which is a ratio of 136 women for every 100 men. In the video, Dr. Perry misstated the female-male bachelor’s degree ratio as 157-to-100, which is the female-male ratio for associate’s degrees.
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Jim Ellis an author, playwright, and documentary filmmaker. In this episode of “Men Are Talking,” we hear about Jim’s boyhood friendship, how it filled his life with joy, freedom, and confidence, and how he felt a deep and discomfiting loss when his friend moved away. Now, as an adult, Jim derives those same essential ingredients for being a happy man from an international organization of men’s teams — not sports teams — called Mentor, Discover, Inspire.
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• legacyproductions.org
• mentordiscoverinspire.org
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Feminists insist there is no need for a men's movement because feminism cares about and is good for eliminating sexism against everyone. We'll check that assertion with 21-year-old Tristan Glosby, a man whose entire life has been under feminist hegemony.
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• tristanglosby.com
• facebook.com/TristanGlosbyArtist
• twitter: @tglosby
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