Coaching Professional Women Survivors: Recent Episodes
Karen Messina
Moving away from your past with life coaching tips. Healing emotional trauma by finding the root cause or original incident, owning it and creating a plan for your beautiful future.
I’ve been thinking a lot about fear lately and how it effects everything, not only in your current life, but as part of your past, root cause for your current fears.
Fear stops people from moving forward. It stops people from trying. It keeps you stuck.
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I heard this great term called Allostatic Load and it made me realize that we haven’t been looking at our stress level correctly.
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I watched the documentary called Quiet on Set The Dark Side of Kids TV which was about kids on TV shows like Nickelodeon and other shows produced by Dan Schneider.
It was so sad to hear how badly these kids were treated and at the hands of adults. Take a listen.
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Do you fear engaging with other people that don't make you feel safe?
Take a listen.
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We, as women, need to stand together to support each other, love each other and lift each other up.
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When I look at innocent and impressionable children, they are being molded right then and there as they start their life.
Are we doing the right things to nurture them?
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Your ability to make a different choice now, is what claiming your power is. Are you going to choose happiness?
Take a listen?
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Do you want to be set free? Take a listen.
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We hope you help us share this Movement with every woman you know. There is power is numbers and we are here to help YOU.Let's make this Movement HUGE. I want every woman to know that they should be living FREE from FEAR. And that they have a choice.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/karen-messina/message
How often do you get peace and calm in your life?
In today’s world I’m guessing not very often.
Lets talk about it.....
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There is something about a new year that makes us want to start over, do something differently or get a fresh start. It is an opportunity. It comes with lots of ideas and something to look forward to.
Are you ready to put a plan in place?
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What will you do differently in the coming year?
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Just remember, you are in control of you and your outcomes.
MERRY CHRISTMAS!
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I want everyone to understand how our thoughts can really control our actions. Take a listen.
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Today I want to talk about you becoming your own success story. We focus too much on our past story which adds to keeping us stuck.
Being a success story, creating a success story and living in your success is where I want you to focus all of your attention and energy.
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Let’s start using our brain to our advantage.
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You can grow from here into the new you, creating the new life you so deserve.
It is foreign territory, thinking about yourself for a change, right?
Where do you begin? Let's talk about it.
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On my last episode we talked a lot about our trauma and where it exists in our bodies and who created the emotional trauma in the first place and just all things trauma.
What we really should be focusing on is the healing process.
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We very often don’t even realize that we are holding trauma in our body and that we invalidate it. Let's unpack this.
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Communication seems to be a big issue for a lot of people everywhere, but many people don’t even realize most of their problems stem from their lack of communication. Let's talk about it!
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I am sharing quotes and comments and things I've heard with all of you, bringing insights to all of them. Enjoy.
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Let's keep talking about things I've heard, things you have asked and things that matter.
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I have heard phrases, quotes and thoughts from other people and we need to unpack them. This will likely be a 2 part series. Check it out.
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How do you relate to experiences now as opposed to how you related to them when you were younger or in your past?
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A quick word: "Safety” is the most important aspect of relationships that work. Let's talk about it.
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I was so inspired by one of our Survivor Stories posted on the Living Free From Fear website, that I just wanted to share some quick words of inspiration.
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You have very valid reasons for feeling the way you do. Some things have happened in your life to create those feelings. They are real and can’t be brushed under the rug. But we are going to un pack all of this in this episode. Take a listen
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I heard a woman talking to a friend about what she was left with now that she is out of the relationship and on her own. Take a listen.
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Hello, We have some "prompting questions" that we ask women when they are telling their survivor stories on the Living Free From Fear website. I decided to ask and answer those questions, so that I could see how it felt to share my story in this way. Take a listen.
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Do you want to change? Change is scary
Does it feel like a challenge? Challenge is hard
Are you filled with anxiety? You thinking about something in the future that sets off an alarm inside you.
Oh yes, we are going to unpack all of this, take a listen.
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Worrying excessively can have the same effect on your body as chronic stress, triggering the fight-or-flight response and releasing stress hormones like cortisol. Chronic stress or worry has been shown to contribute to serious health issues, such as digestive problems, heart disease and suppression of the immune system. Let's talk about it.
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Don’t let whatever happened to you in your past control and dictate your future. You could lose good relationships because you are letting something that happened long ago, that you never dealt with, run your life, your emotions and your future. Let's unpack this.
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Prophecy means a prediction. So if you keep telling yourself that something won’t work or something will happen again, that you don’t want to happen, you will stay in your self fulfilling prophecy phase, which equals being stuck. Lets dive in.
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WHAT IS HAPPENING IN YOUR LIFE?
Well, you have plans, goals, dreams but something is stopping you.
Have you identified what that thing is? Is it your family, friends or your fears.
I call them the 3 Fs. Let's unpack this.
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We talk a lot about our problems and pain and unhappiness.
But how often do you talk about all the good in your life? Let's get into it.
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In relationships there is SAFETY AND FEAR and then add in our PAST EMOTIONAL WOUNDS SAFETY
DO YOU feel safe enough with your partner to express how you feel without criticism or backlash? Let's talk about it.
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We all do it to avoid things we don't want to do, facts that may make us feel bad, or information that challenges our assumptions about ourselves. Let's unpack this.
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Trying and failing - let’s brake this down - we need to look at why something failed. It isn’t a matter of how hard you tried but what you tried. And how you failed. Let's talk about it.
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Did you lose the love of your life? Do you compare everyone you are with to that person? Let's unpack that.
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bet you want to know how that happens. How do I help you to triumph over trauma.
My goal in life is to help you not feel bad or sad or defeated.
Let's break it down.
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Having Purpose in your life is so important.
I think most people think PURPOSE is something that it is not.
Some people think that purpose is beyond them or just for high achievers. Let's unpack this.
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Holding a grudge is when you harbor anger, bitterness, resentment or other negative feelings long after someone has done something to hurt you.
Let’s think about this...... I help you sort this all out. Take a listen.
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You are stronger than you think!
Power and Control is at the center of it all
- Sense of self
- Direction in life
- Independence
Let's talk about it. You got this!
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I want you to understand that the grieving process is the same in many different scenarios and it must happen in order for you to heal and move on. Take a listen.
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You are in control of your identity. What are you choosing it to be?
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I tell my story of wanting everyone to understand how awful I feel...... and how to move past it.
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Laura McKenney is a single mom of two young boys and the owner of Polished Home Organizing.
I can't wait for you to hear her story of success, happiness and joy.
Finding your purpose in life really does heal past emotional wounds. Laura is a perfect example of that. Take a listen.
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We fuel our pain by hanging on to what hurt us. By pulling it back into our lives over and over. It happens without really realizing it is happening.
In this episode, we bust through all the garbage and get serious on how to move past it all! Take a listen.
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Don't let your failures be your excuse to start over.
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It is EXPERIENCES that heal us, not just thoughts or a thought process. Let's talk about "DISCONFIRMING" experiences. Take a listen.
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Moving to the next level in your life. Are you struggling with this? Let me show you how to get unstuck and move to the next space in your life. Enjoy!
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We are talking about Success stories in 2023 and this is a good one. You are not going to want to miss Caroline's beautiful success story. Enjoy!
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Are you seeking out and trying to find evidence to support your "negative" or "positive" thoughts? How is that effecting your Experiences. Let's unpack that.
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This was our kickoff story to the "Tell Your Story and be Set Free" project with the Living Free From Fear Movement. Enjoy!
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So as many of you know, I have been reaching out to women who want to tell their Success Story. We talk a lot about survivor stories but this year we will talking about success stories. As we all know, if you are a survivor there is a success story to follow.
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My feelings on innocent little children and how the world around them shapes them.
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The Living Free From Fear Movement is in the Tell Your Story and Be Set Free phase so I am sharing one of those story with you today.
You can also go to livingfreefromfear.com to watch this and the other videos. Enjoy.
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This year we will be talking about actually making a difference in your life and actually taking action, rather than thinking about taking action.
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The new year will be what you make it!! Let's do it together and put a plan in place for your successful future. It is time to take control and see your future clearly.
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The International Women's Movement that I am the Founder of "Living Free From Fear" is in the the Tell Your Story phase. We are sharing a Survivor Story that we are posting on our website at livingfreefromfear.com We are encouraging women to tell their story to feel liberated and free from the hold that their past may have over them. Take a listen.
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Some tips on how to take back your stress and manage it.
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If you have not seen the 6 episode Netlix series with Harry and Meghan, please watch it. It will shed some light on many unanswered questions and how this relates to YOUR life.
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“Until you resolve your past, your future success won't be sustainable. Coaching helps you grow into a bigger future.
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Your experiences are what create the things that you believe.
Giving your nervous system proof that you are safe to grow, will naturally support you in that growth.
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SEASON 2 is here “Beyond a Survivor”
My goal is to share all of my knowledge, lived experience and survivor stories with all of you.
More to come
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Give Thanks, Give Love, Seek out and find the evidence to support what is good inside of you and your life.
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Let's talk about what matters to you.
Have you thought about what really matters to you or have you been so busy worrying about what matters to other people that you don't have time to worry about what matters to you.
Lets talk about it....
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I was thinking the other day about how certain fears and insecurities get instilled in us over time and in our life. Let's unpack what causes those feelings and how to identify them.
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We are talking about Hi quality Co-regulation and connection with people make you feel safe and are on the same page as you vs. Low quality Co-regulation. Take a listen
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What makes you feel safe in your life? We are talking about making your life feel safe to heal the past, align with your purpose and move forward.
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I felt like sharing a thought I had from way back when and what actually got taken away from me.
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We are afraid of ourselves and I know that sounds crazy but we are afraid of what WE might do or WE might not do. It might not make sense but I'm going try to explain it to you.
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You don't want to miss this episode where we talk all about overcoming challenges and how Julie put a plan in place for her success after a very stressful divorce.
After you listen to this episode, you might want to reach out to her because staying stuck is just not an option and she in an inspiration to you all to reach for the stars.
She can be reached at 585-703-0245 or. Www.breathecapitalplanning.com
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Let’s talk about what is in your control and what is not
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We are going to talk about these steps one at a time. Small bite sized pieces. This week, step one. Take a listen
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So something happened in your life…. A divorce, a breakup, loss of a loved one or loss of a job. No matter how big or how small, it is devastating. The pain is the same. Let's talk about it.
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So you've all heard me talk a lot about healing and that we have to do it in order to move on but the question is how?
How do we heal ?
Where do we begin ?
What do we do?
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Speaking about the workplace specifically.
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Loss, that is the cause of grieving.
You can be grieving over so many things.
People think grieving just means the death of someone.
But in reality, you can be grieving over anything that you have lost.
Let's talk about it
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Let's talk about Dopamine, Serotonin and Endorphins
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In our society we need that immediate satisfaction of feeling good or having something or we end up discounting it. It will take too long so it doesn’t matter.
How long is your future thinking? How long into the future are you thinking about things, goals dreams?
Are you in the Gap or the Gain? Take a listen.
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Hello, yes, I changed the name of my podcast and I am here to help you with just about anything you need help with. Take a listen.
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You are stronger than you think.......
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I am sharing some positive energy and sending it your way.
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I want to talk to you today about being stronger than your feelings.
Many times we let our feelings control our lives. They take over and create outcomes that we don’t like. Let's talk about it.
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I sat down with Cranford and Sara to talk all about being a survivor and how to navigate your life now.
With experience in the military, law enforcement, federal anti-terror work, and government terrorism response training, Cranford teaches how to ward off predators/abusers and escape danger with his FemVincible™ program.
We just decided to hit the record button on our zoom call, so excuse the banter at the beginning but enjoy this conversation.
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I just want you to know that you are a good person and you deserve happiness and all the things that you have dreamed about.
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Do you choose joy? Are you consciously deciding to be happy or are you deciding that you want to live in the past? Let's talk about it.
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Ciao Bella, today I share my Italian trip experiences and show you how your experiences can effect everything.
What you make things mean and how you choose your experiences will drive all of your future actions and results. Take a listen
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What do we stress about, what has happened in the past? what might happen? or just stuff we don't know will happen?
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Mel Robbins posted this quote: “pretending like everything is OK when it's not might be the reason why you are suffering so much”
And it got me thinking about why we do this... Take a listen.
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I bet you never thought a Divorce Coach would be useful, necessary or needed. I am more than that. I am your coach for life. I have years of experience advocating for women survivors and I want to help you. Having a divorce coach is the best decision you can make, take a listen
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How do you use your voice so you can maintain a work/life balance? Take a listen.
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Day for - What feels doable/comfortable?
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Learn more about "the How" in this episode.
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HOW TO CONFIDENTLY ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT
Day 2. So which relationship would you like to improve upon. who it is? Your partner? Your boss? Your family?
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Have you gotten in the habit of ignoring your own needs? Now it is time to make yourself a priority and start asking.
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Not asking feels terrible, and thinking of asking feels terrible. So you are stuck in this terrible no-win situation.
We are going to bust past this feeling and become confident in what you want.
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If you focus on - What you can’t control and what is missing what do you think your emotions are going to be like? Take a listen.
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It shows up in the form of:
Procrastination
Fear of Failure
Fear of Feeling negative emotions
Feeling defensive
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Emotional strength is defined as 'the ability to respond in an open and vulnerable way in the face of intense emotional experience. It is time for you to build your emotional strength and take back your power and control.
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You just don't know why and where these feelings came from but they sure did effect your life. Take a listen to how MY experience effected me.
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Why do we do this? We are good at what we do. We know what we are doing but still we second guess ourselves. Take a listen.
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Your past dictated a lot of things that you were not good enough or you were made to feel less than or whatever happened in your life
so that became your truth, what you knew to be true ….and you accepted it. Living your life up until now, believing the lies that someone else told you or that another experience convinced you of. Check this episode out.
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You want a seat at the table
You want to be taken seriously
Let’s remember, We are strong because we have survived so much. Check this episode out.
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Self doubt..... we all experience it from time to time.
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I am just sharing episode #2 because sometimes you just have to repeat some good information. All new episodes coming soon.
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Imposter syndrome is loosely defined as doubting your abilities and feeling like a fraud. It disproportionately affects high-achieving people, who find it difficult to accept their accomplishments. Many question whether they're deserving of accolades.
What do you think? Is this you? Let's bust out of this feeling..... take a listen.
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Oh yes, we can do this ..... together
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a Mini quickie for you on getting serious and getting out from under the fear.
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Sometimes we forget that we are in control of our own lives. Check it out.
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Let's hear from survivors that have shared what is still creeping into their current lives and causing some stressors. It happens to the best of us.
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Have you ever felt so confused about how you could have ended up in an unhealthy relationship? Lets unpack it all here.
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We sometimes forget what our purpose in life is and as survivors we think we need to just fill a void,.... rather than fulfill our dreams and goals and future with what we DESERVE.
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Do you feel like people are judging you?
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I want you to think about something….If you keep saying and repeating and convincing yourself that your life is awful or that you are unhappy or you are bad or you are a failure, over time you will begin to believe these things to be true.
You can turn that negative self talk around and start to believe a new story about yourself. Take a listen and enjoy.
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Positive and negative thought patterns coupled with seeking out and "trying" to find evidence of a negative behavior......
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Have you been BLINDSIDED? Sometimes things happen in our past and we don't realize how detrimental they can be to our current life.
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Something just hit me and I wanted to share it with you.
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Are you going to take control of your old past neural pathways by creating a new dominant one?
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Kathleen is a Holistic Health Coach. She focuses on Nutrition Mindset and Movement. Take a listen if you are interested in getting healthy in the new year so that it lasts forever.
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The more you say something and think something, you will believe that it is true. What are you saying and thinking on a daily basis?
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An updated twist on the motivational triad from a survivor perspective.
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I just wanted to share some things that got me thinking about past emotional wounds and ME
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I was just thinking..... :)
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Sharing the love while driving ....
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As I think of things, I record and then share with you!
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I am so excited to have Renee on the Podcast today. She has, what I would call, a very brave story of survival and has not only made it out and past that abusive relationship but has turned her life around and has made some changes within the systems that had kept her down, so that others can have the opportunity for success.
Take a listen.
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Today’s topic is very painful and very common at the same time. Are you Client A or Person B?
Take a listen
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You have moved past your abusive relationship but there's still some things that you find are getting in the way of your life.
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Brandi reached out to me after finding me on my podcast and on my Facebook page.
She has an incredible story of survival. She is a 5 year domestic violence and sexual violence survivor, She was on the daytime television show the doctors twice and has had 16 surgeries, after being attacked by her then husband in 2016. Her ex husband is doing 18 years for aggravated kidnapping and 1st degree attempted murder.
You don't want to miss this episode
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Let's talk about what your emotional health look like right now.
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Just another bit of coaching from the car !!
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I just want to share with you what I offer as your coach. Take a listen.
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Just one more bit of "carpool" coaching...... I promise, the next episode is on its way with NO background noise.
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Just another little message from the car!! :)
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Just a message a recorded that I feel is worth listening to.
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Sometimes we need to look to our past to appreciate how far we have come.
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Stigma Fear and Shame occur within social contexts that shape how survivors judge themselves and are evaluated by others. Take a listen.
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What do you believe? What are your expectations? Did your life unfold just as you thought is would? Take a listen and find out more?
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We did it! We gave our movement a name and the Vision/Mission/Objective statements, Take a listen to learn more.
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You will LOVE Alexis, just as I did after meeting and talking with her. She has a beautiful soul, a caring heart and a very impressive story.
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If you are healing and growing and moving forward as a survivor, there is one thing that we sometimes do and it is self-sabotage.
How do we self sabotage?
By settling.
Let's talk about it!!
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I am super excited to have a special guest on my podcast today. Her name is Theresa Schmidtman. - She is an independent beauty consultant with Mary Kay Cosmetics, she is a mom and a grandmother and a survivor which has made her an amazingly strong woman. I loved her as soon as I met her and I know you will too.
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What are you afraid of? Learn how to take control of your end result.
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So, what is your gut instinct telling you? Most times, gut instinct is accurate. You know you,
and you know if something is good for you or not.
But often times we ignore our gut instincts. Take a listen.
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If you are interested in joining me, along with a group of amazing women to get this movement to GIVE SURVIVORS THIER POWER AND CONTROL BACK, than stay tuned.
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Are things going wrong in your brain but the outside world is going great?
You have to allow yourself to feel OK about things going wrong in your life rather than trying to find evidence that you are broken or that life sucks or things only happen to you.
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Your life has been made up of experiences. Good, bad and indifferent.
Our experiences are what have shaped us and in some cases labeled us.
So rather than talk about our past and our past emotional wounds and even our past emotional trauma ….lets just refer to our life as a series of experiences.
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I want to bust the chains that bind us and tether us to our past and to the identity that we have created for ourselves by what other people may think or say.
What is holding you back? What is the fear that keeps you stuck?
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How are you navigating your life now with what has happened to you? How have your past experiences impacted your current life.
Lets dive in....
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Sometimes we are just afraid to reach out for help. I can help by answering some of your burning questions,
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I want to talk about being stuck in a space in your life and why it feels like you are not moving forward (especially after a toxic relationship or unsafe environments ) and how to move forward from here.
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Let’s look at brain health instead of mental health and start Loving Your Brain.
I was listening to a podcast with Daniel Amen, MD. He is a double board certified psychiatrist, the founder of Amen clinics and a 10 time New York Times bestselling author. He inspired much of this episode today.
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Doesn’t it feel like you are watching your life pass you by?
So much has happened, over so many years, but you feel like your life is at a stand still and everyone and everything is passing you by.
You will love this episode because I unpack all of it.
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I know this sounds like a crazy concept to stop trying but trying just means you failed ahead of time and doing is what you really want to have happen. Just think about it how many times in your life you said “I tried and I couldn't do it”
Take a listen and learn how DOING is what is needed rather than just TRYING.
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There are a few things that I can guarantee for you.
- Doing nothing won’t get you to where you want to be
- Blaming others for your current circumstance also won’t help you
- Staying in victim mode is a waste of your precious time
Take a listen......
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Let's get serious and really talk about making changes in your life that will benefit you and not hinder your progress.
Now is the time to make some changes.
You are worth it
Your life is worth it
And the people in your life are worth it too
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You can choose to stay in your current situation - being unhappy and feeling stuck and dealing with triggers that sabotage your life
OR
You can choose JOY
Which do you want?
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Today I answered 3 of the questions sent to me. Let me answer your questions......send them to me. Enjoy!
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Are you GIVING up? Or are you ready to GET up and get started making the hard changes in your life that need to happen for you to see results?
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Today we are going to get serious about emotional healing and who’s responsibility it is? You can complain about your life, but that won't fix anything.
Taking charge and taking responsibility for your own healing journey is the answer. Take a listen.
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You have the power within you to change anything you want in your life. Feel, Heal and Create your future life.
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So since there has been so much talk lately about men groping women, unwanted touching, sexual advances toward women and even boys and some men I thought I’d talk about feeling safe and not feeling safe in your environment. Take a listen.
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You are not an island.... reach out for help, there is no shame it that.....
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What your nervous system needs in order to move forward is
Safety. Flexibility. To experience more joy and abundance
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Please enjoy this episode with 3 amazing women who were brave enough to share their stories and their journeys with all of us so that we can know that we are not alone in our journey to heal emotional trauma. Take a listen.
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What do your family and friends have to do with your failures or your success? Let's find out.
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After a healing experience, the world is much larger. There is so much more possibility and space to run, fly, create and move. Want to learn more?
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My clients are survivors of domestic abuse. THEY ARE ALSO PROFESSIONAL WOMEN SURVIVORS. The problem that they have is feeling low self-worth and loss of power and control in their own lives preventing them from moving forward. I solve the problem of loss of power and control AND OF MANAGING TRIGGERS THAT ARE SABOTAGING THEIR LIFE.... ARE YOU READY TO START LIVING YOUR LIFE, FINALLY?
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Sometimes if you can’t find happiness and fulfillment, you try to fill that void with other things. What void are you trying to fill?
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Your Life's Purpose: the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists. one's intention or objective.
What do you think? Have you lost your sight on what your purpose is? Do you feel like there is no possibility left in your future or your current life? Take a listen:
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I decided to get really real about some triggers in my life. Want to hear about it ? Take a listen.
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How much is it costing you? How much have you spent on trying to be happy? Can you afford to waste another moment on seeking out evidence to prove you are damaged? Learn more...... take a listen.
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What is holding you back? Why can't you move passed where you are right now? Those triggers and past emotional wounds tend to keep us stuck in a space that blocks our progress. This episode might give you some clarity. Take a listen.
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Hi everyone...... I just wanted to talk about where your emotional trauma started and what it has left you with. Let's fix this ASAP, shall we?2
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So many things have caused you to be in the position that you are in. So many experiences have happened that did damage to you emotionally and possibly physically. But what will it take to turn it all around and to heal your emotional wounds? Take a listen.
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Today we are talking about what is in your tool box and how important it is to have an arsenal of tools to help you fight the fight to your future. This is the good fight. The fight against fear and against failure and all the things that have been keeping you stuck. Join me and take a listen.
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Do you want to really live life and be in love with life? or are you finding yourself managing or coping with life? Take a listen?
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There was something about him that attracted you in the first place. You were looking for a life partner, someone to share your life with and someone to be a 50/50 partner with. What do you do when it doesn't work out that way and how can you turn it all around? I am here to help, Take a listen.......
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Hello and welcome to episode 66. Today I am talking about my coaching solution for you and how I can help you move from trauma to triumph. I am also talking about LOVE and how important love is for your healing and for your life. It is at the core of everything. Take a listen.
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When you don’t feel good you don’t do good.
So we have had emotional trauma which has caused emotional wounds but guess what, it may have also caused physical wounds to our HOMEOSTASIS = the ability to maintain a stable, relatively constant internal environment.
We know there is the connection with:
- Unhealed emotional trauma —> 2. Coping behaviors —> 3. Gut Dysbiosis (an imbalance of the microorganisms within our intestines).
Enjoy this episode where we talk about all things "gut health"
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Today I am going to be talking about being EMPOWERED, being in a FLOW and putting a plan in place for success. Take a listen.
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How do we "actually" move on? What do we do to move toward our future and away from our past?
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The holidays can creep up on us and cause lots of emotions that are sometimes painful and unwanted. The good news is that you are in control of your outcomes and I can help you take back your power and control over it all. Take a listen.
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Sometimes we get stuck in our past thought process. Having a plan in place to reach your goal is how we start. Take a listen.
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You have the power to keep your dreams and hopes and goals safe. Sometimes we just don't realize it. I tell a bit about my story in the episode. I share my dreams that I held space for so that the abusive relationship didn't ruin it completely. Take a listen.
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For survivors, boundaries are very difficult. We try to set boundaries but it always feels un natural. I try to unpack it for you here. Enjoy
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Do you know how important safety is to your emotional health? It is EVERYTHING. If you want to learn more, take a listen.
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You are educated, you are a leader, you run your own business yet you still feel like a fraud. Learn more about this topic. Take a listen.
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Sometimes we get stuck in a space because we are waiting for others to change or for others to do the right thing in order for us to be happy.
Learn more on how to move into your future life.
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Let's face it, our past has told us a lot of things, but were they facts? or feelings? Most of the time they were someone else's feelings. What are your thoughts telling YOU?
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Many times people will say, "why does she stay" or "why wouldn't she just leave". I am going to attempt to explain this and how those survival skills can help you in your current life.
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During domestic violence awareness month, I wanted to shed some light on the differences between the violence and equality wheels.
Do you know if you are in an abusive relationship?
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Sometimes we feel like the person we were is gone forever, but I feel like the opposite is true. There is a way to uncover what happened, what IS happening and what is possible for your future.
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Do you sometimes get obsessed with things? Do you need to fix something right away? Are you trying to make everyone happy except yourself?
You might want to listen to this episode.
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We sometimes get confused with what is a fact and what is a feeling when it comes to people and relationships and how we ASSESS things.
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Sometimes we forget the WE are in control of our lives. Triggers pop up and leave us feeling helpless and hopeless.
But you have the power within you to take your power back and takd control of your life.
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There is the Power and Control Wheel and the Equality Wheel. Which one is controlling you? Sometimes we let our past thoughts continue to control us. We unpack the effects of the power and control v. the equality wheel. Take a listen.
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Sometimes it is easier said than done to just leave a toxic situation. You made the decision to leave, but it doesn't seem to work out as planned. If you want some clarity on how to start healing, take a listen.
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Sometimes you feel out of control when you need to be in control. You are a leader or a boss or a team leader but the a word or face or a phrase can cause a trigger which can derail your day.
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What has been holding you back from reaching your goals? Are you stuck in a place that you struggle to move passed? Check out this episode for some answers.
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Carla is currently involved with a company called VoxxLife Neurological Technology and she explains to us how the technology works towards reducing anxiety and stress. Take a listen.
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Sometimes we struggle with letting go of things or people or thoughts in our life. This will surely hold us back from reaching our goals. Take a listen...
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How you dealt with the emotionally traumatizing relationship THEN AND NOW.......
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Sometimes we let emotions get the best of us. Have you reacted in a way that does not serve you? Want to learn more about your emotions?
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Should you be grieving or celebrating when your abusive relationship ends? We unpack it all here. Take a listen.
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Do you feel overworked, emotionally depleted and cynical? did you used to have an open heart and compassion? Check out this episode 😊
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I am super excited to have Sara Smith my good friend and a survivor of domestic abuse on the podcast today so take a listen and enjoy
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We have evolved to seek pleasure, avoid pain and exert the least amount of effort. Let’s chat about it.
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Emotional trauma is anything that traumatized you or your emotions deeply and left a scar or a hole or a void in your life. Let’s dive deeper.
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Do you know the difference?
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Anger is never useful and forgiveness is so easy. Want to learn more ? take a listen
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Sometimes we don’t see our own value and how much things are worth to us to feel better. Take a listen.
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We tend to bury things deep down, never to be seen again. But the reality is, it will reappear it's ugly head and sabotage your future goals. Take a listen.
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Sometimes we start off with all the best intentions, then life gets in the way.......
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We can’t always control the circumstances or the stress around us but we certainly can control how we deal with it. Take a listen.
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Let’s bust the myth about what hypnosis REALLY is and what it is not. Take a listen.
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Sometimes we can’t see past all of our excuses but let’s break free from those and create our future.
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Sometimes we rely on others to make us happy, feel good or survivor. Who are you at the mercy of? take a listen.
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Sometimes we feel powerless but knowing that we have inner power and we can control our life makes everything better take a listen.
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It feels like the pandemic is overshadowing my original issue or problem. Now my problem seems 10 times worse. Can we get back to talking about my root cause? Take a listen.
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When the things that we can count on go out of our control, we sometimes feel like we are spinning out of control
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Sometimes when we are in a relationship, we base our expectations of what we think it should be like on what we learned growing up. Check it out!
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Are you riddled with regret and can’t get past it?
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Sometimes we want to run away from our fear, but there is a better way...... take a listen.
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You made it out of the abusive relationship and you can make it out of anything
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Sometimes we just feel anxious over a certain situation but identifying it is the answer to overcoming it.
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Sometimes we just need a little help to move past the things that hold us back. Take a listen.
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Sometimes we tend to make things mean something that they are not. Learn more, take a listen.
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Survivor means you made it!!!
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Sometimes we forget that we are in control of our lives and our money and our decisions, so even though we lost our power and control, we can take it back and become a control freak..... Which is a good thing
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Every now and then we lose sight of the fact that we are in control of our own lives ......take a listen
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We are strong and capable but sometimes we just don't feel like it. Take a listen and learn how unleash your "inner you"
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Whether you are free from your stressful situation or feel trapped because of it, take a listen and gain some clarity.
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Sometimes we are so busy running around, doing things for others, we forget about ourselves. Take a listen.
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Sometimes, as women, we think we "can't" do what we want to. But I am here to tell you that Yes You Can......
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Don’t you want to just feel better? Well take a listen.
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This episode is about moving past the things in your life that caused you stress and anxiety
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There is what I say and there is what I mean by what I say, then there is what you hear and what you made it mean.
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This episode is just a little bit about me and a little bit about how I want you all to be future focused and forward thinking.
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This episode is about how triggers can be positive as well as negative. I discuss how certain triggers can conjure up feelings of happiness and joy. Take a listen.
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Sometimes our unhealed emotional trauma resurfaces via a trigger. Learn more about how this can effect you and how you can manage it.
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This episode is about what we make things mean and how sometimes we let our external circumstances affect our internal life.
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What is holding you back from reaching your goals? Is it your past thoughts and your current situation ?
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Hello again, This episode is about the Self Coaching Model and a little bit more about me, so I hope you enjoy it!
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Let’s be thankful for all we have especially today and Christmas day
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