Parenting Without Power Struggles: Recent Episodes
Susan Stiffelman
Susan Stiffelman is a family therapist, parent coach, and one of the country's premiere parenting experts, and the author of Parenting Without Power Struggles and Parenting With Presence (an Eckhart Tolle edition.)
Susan's podcasts will feature conversations with guests including Dr. Jane Goodall, Arianna Huffington, Jack Kornfield, Glennon Melton and many other thought leaders.
In this episode, Susan explores one of the most powerful truths about parenting: that the most important thing we can do for our children is to work on ourselves. Drawing inspiration from Dr. Gabor Maté’s insight and her training in Internal Family Systems (IFS), Susan explains how our emotional state, unresolved wounds, and inner “parts” profoundly shape our children’s sense of safety and connection. She shares simple, compassionate ways to notice when we’re triggered, name the parts that get activated, and return to our calm, wise “Captain” self. https://go.susanstiffelman.com/parenting-as-healing-podcast
In this episode, Susan emphasizes the importance of emotional connection between parents and children, even amid the busyness of daily life. She reassures parents that deep closeness doesn’t require elaborate outings or large chunks of time, but can be nurtured through small, intentional practices like sharing a genuine smile, creating five-minute rituals, repairing after moments of tension, and entering a child’s world by showing interest in what they love. She encourages cultivating these small habits of connection to not only strengthens a child’s sense of being seen and valued, but also to nourish parents, filling both with greater closeness, joy, and resilience. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/nurturing-closeness-podcast
In this episode, Susan explores the important difference between threats and boundaries in parenting. Susan illustrates the contrast between threats and boundaries using real-life examples—such as homework, chores, and screen time. She highlights how shifting from reactive threats to steady boundaries strengthens trust and cooperation while giving children the security and clarity they need. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/threats-boundaries-podcast
In this episode, Susan offers compassionate guidance for navigating the emotional complexities of parenting after divorce. Susan explores the importance of emotional presence, not perfection, as the foundation for helping children feel secure during and after separation. Susan encouraging parents to model emotional safety, welcome messy feelings, and repair ruptures in connection. She validates the exhaustion many solo or co-parents feel, offers insights into children’s developmental responses to divorce, and reminds listeners that showing up with steady, imperfect love makes a lasting difference. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/divorce-podcast-episode
In this episode, Susan reflects on Derek Thompson’s article The Death of Partying in the USA to explore a troubling trend: the steady decline of in-person socializing, especially among young people. Susan highlights the mental health risks this poses—not just for adults, but for children growing up in screen-based, solitary environments. Susan gently encourages families to prioritize connection in an increasingly disconnected world. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/kids-thrive-connection-podcast
In this episode, Susan explores the unique needs and strengths of highly sensitive children. Susan explains that high sensitivity is a temperament trait—not a flaw—characterized by deep empathy, acute perception, and strong emotional responses. Acknowledging that parenting a sensitive child can be both exhausting and rewarding, Susan emphasizes the importance of providing a calm, steady presence to help these children feel safe and supported. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/sensitive-kids-podcast
In this episode, encourages parents to shift from reactive discipline to compassionate problem-solving by asking a simple but powerful question: “Why does this behavior make sense?” Susan illustrates how understanding the root causes of a child’s actions can lead to more effective, connection-based responses. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/podcasts-why-behavior-makes-sense
In this episode, Susan explors the roots of parental reactivity—those moments when we snap, yell, or shut down—and why they have less to do with our children’s behavior and more to do with our own unmet needs, past experiences, and nervous system responses. Recognizing our triggers with compassion can open the door to healing, not just for ourselves but for our relationships with our kids. Susan invites listeners to shift from shame to self-awareness—and take the first steps toward more connected, mindful parenting. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/keeping-your-cool-podcast-2
In this episode, Susan tackles a common parenting challenge: how to stay calm in the heat of conflict. Drawing on attachment theory, neuroscience, and mindfulness, Susan introduces two powerful tools—shrinking the moment and using a mental anchor word—to help parents regulate their own emotions and respond more constructively when their children resist limits. She invites listeners to a free webinar for more in-depth strategies on keeping your cool during parenting storms. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/keeping-cool-podcast
In this insightful episode, Susan is joined by Tracy Gillett of Raised Good for an honest conversation about parenting through meltdowns—those intense emotional storms that can shake both children and caregivers. They explore what’s really happening in a child’s brain during a meltdown, why these moments are developmentally normal, and how parents can show up with compassion rather than control. They also discuss the power of repair, the myth of perfect parenting, and how to trust your instincts even when they run counter to mainstream advice. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/tracy-gillett-podcast
In this episode, I explore one of the most challenging aspects of parenting: children’s emotional meltdowns. But meltdowns are not signs of bad behavior—they're nervous system overloads signaling distress. I unpack the neuroscience behind these moments, the difference between tantrums and meltdowns, and why staying calm is more effective than trying to reason. You'll learn why emotional expression, especially crying, is essential for healthy development, and how your own regulation is key to supporting your child. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/meltdowns-podcast
In this episode, Susan and Lenore Skenazy discussed the importance of childhood independence, free play, and responsibility, emphasizing the need to reduce anxiety in children by allowing them to take risks and make their own decisions. They explored the impact of cultural messaging and media on parenting practices, suggesting ways to promote resilience and social skills through programs like free play and after-school activities. Their conversation also touched on the challenges of screen time, the benefits of self-care for parents, and the value of allowing children to contribute to family life and experience real-world interactions. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/lenore-skenazy-podcast
In this episode, Susan welcomes Dr. Delaney Ruston, a physician, filmmaker, and creator of the Screenagers documentary series. In this powerful conversation, they talk about how to parent with compassion and confidence in the digital age. Delaney emphasizes the importance of the "safety first" approach: creating a home environment where children feel safe disclosing difficult online experiences without fear of punishment. Susan and Delaney stress the power of presence, connection, and emotional safety as the bedrock of digital-era parenting. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/delaney-ruston-podcast
Anxiety in children isn’t something to eliminate—it’s something to understand. In this episode, we explore how anxiety shows up in the body and why it’s actually a signal, not a flaw. You’ll walk away with a new lens on your child’s anxious moments—and a sense of what real support can look like. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/anxiety-podcast-2
In this episode, Susan explores the rising issue of anxiety in children and teens, emphasizing that anxiety is not a flaw but a signal that something feels unsafe. She discusses contributing factors like social media, academic pressure, and global uncertainty, and she encourages parents to co-regulate using tools like movement and breath work. She reassures parents that their presence and understanding matter more than "fixing" the anxiety itself. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/anxiety-maggie-podcast
In this episode, Susan explores the importance of helping kids tune into their own wisdom and instincts, so they can think for themselves with confidence. Susan shares practical strategies for fostering self-trust, including asking thoughtful questions and helping kids recognize how their body and emotions respond to different choices. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/inner-wisdom-podcast
In this episode, Susan welcomes licensed clinical mental health counselor and certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist, Tammy Sollenberger, to explore how IFS can help parents navigate their emotional triggers and build deeper connections with their children. Tammy illustrates how understanding and embracing different parts of ourselves can transform reactive parenting into more mindful and compassionate interactions. By integrating IFS principles, parents can step into a more centered, calm, and connected role with their children. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/tammy-sollenberger-podcast
In this episode, Susan explores why kids lie and how parents can foster honesty with compassion. She explains that lying is often a normal part of child development, driven by self-protection, avoiding consequences, or imaginative storytelling. Susan emphasizes the importance of modeling honesty and guiding children toward making amends, helping them develop integrity and trust in their relationships. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/why-kids-lie-podcast
In this episode, Susan challenges the traditional view of ADHD, reframing it as different brain wiring rather than a deficit. She explores how ADHD brains thrive on creativity and spontaneity while struggling with executive function and emotional regulation. She offers practical strategies to help ADHD children succeed and emphasizes the importance of co-regulation to allow parents to empower their ADHD children to thrive. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/flip-the-script-adhd-podcast
In this episode, Susan shares an excerpt from her new class with Dr. Laura Markham on Sibling Harmony. They explore how parents can help their children navigate sibling rivalry and how to guide kids to resolve conflicts in healthy ways. Susan emphasizes the importance of parents staying calm and regulated, as children's behavior often stems from their parents' dysregulation. Susan and Laura also share how sibling conflict can be an opportunity for children to develop crucial skills like empathy and self-expression. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/sibling-harmony
In this episode, Susan addresses a parent's concern about their seven-year-old child exhibiting rudeness, defiance, and emotional outbursts, especially when asked to do simple tasks. Susan emphasizes the importance of staying calm and regulated and not reacting from a place of personal frustration. She also touches on the importance of connection, understanding the child's needs, and staying steady during challenging moments. https://susanstiffelman.com/handling-defiance-podcast-episode/
This is a recording of a free session Susan hosted with Dr. Laura Markham on January 11, 2025 to offer immediate support to those affected by the wildfires in southern California. To subscribe to Susan's newsletter and receive updates about additional free support sessions, text NEWSLETTER to 310-905-8165 and follow the prompts. https://susanstiffelman.com/wildfire-support-podcast-laura-markham/
In this episode, Susan discusses some of the signs that co-parenting struggles are due to narcissism, rather than more ordinary issues like hurt or resentment. She shares the kinds of questions she gets from parents who are co-parenting with a narcissist. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/are-you-co-parenting-narcissist-podcast
In this episode, Susan shares an excerpt from a past session with Byron Katie, whose self-inquiry method, The Work, has deeply influenced her parenting approach. Katie's process helps parents question and shift stressful beliefs to improve their relationships with their children. Susan invites listeners to join her class with Katie to learn more about these transformative techniques. https://go.susanstiffelman.com/byron-katie-class-podcast
In this episode, Susan talks with Julie Lythcott-Haims about the challenges of parenting, particularly as children transition into adulthood. They discuss the ways in which parents' roles evolve as their children grow, and the importance of parents modeling healthy adult behavior for their children. Julie describes the ultimate goal of parenting as raising independent and resilient adults who can thrive on their own. https://susanstiffelman.com/julie-lythcott-haims-young-adult-podcast/
In this episode, Susan explores the challenges children face with restlessness, fidgetiness, and hyperactivity, particularly in the school environment. She emphasizes the importance of movement, play, and imagination in child development, noting that traditional classroom settings may not always accommodate natural developmental needs. Susan suggests practical strategies for parents and schools to support children, such as incorporating brief movement breaks and providing tools for fidgeting. http://pages.susanstiffelman.com/podcast-fidgety-kids
In this episode, Susan talks with Dr. Gabor Maté about attachment instincts, peer orientation, and the importance of parental presence in building a strong parent-child relationship. Dr. Maté explains how children's attachment to peers can affect their behavior and relationships, emphasizing the need for parents to maintain primary attachment with their children. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/gabor-mate-podcast-episode
In this episode, Susan talks with her friend and colleague, Robyn Posin, PhD. They discuss Robyn's book, "Go Only as Fast as Your Slowest Part Feels Safe to Go: Tales to Kindle Gentleness and Compassion for Our Exhausted Selves." They explore the importance of slowing down in today's fast-paced world, the need for rest as a sacred act, and the significance of mental and emotional well-being. Robyn shares practical tips and anecdotes to prioritize self-care and embrace a more mindful approach to life. http://pages.susanstiffelman.com/robyn-posin-podcast-episode
In this episode, Susan talks with Dr. Dan Siegel on breaking dysfunctional patterns we've inherited from our own parents and grandparents. They discuss how early interactions with caregivers shape individuals and how tendencies and behaviors can be inherited through epigenetics. Dan also explains the concept of neuroplasticity, offering hope that parents can reshape their brains to become more integrated and resilient. http://pages.susanstiffelman.com/podcast-generational-healing
In this episode, Susan coaches a new parent struggling to adjust to life with their 11-month-old baby. The parent expresses challenges in maintaining balance in their life after the baby's arrival. Susan emphasizes the importance of honest, open conversation in addressing these struggles and the need for vulnerable discussions with partners. http://pages.susanstiffelman.com/podcast-new-baby
In this episode, Susan coaches a parent whose kids have a hard time adjusting to the different rules and boundaries in their parents' two homes. Susan reassures this parent that boundaries help kids feel safe and secure in their attachment and role-plays a scenario to help this parent communicate for effectively with their kids. http://pages.susanstiffelman.com/boundaries-two-houses-podcast
In this episode, Susan helps a parent with an unusual dilemma: their family will be traveling for a year, and their young daughter is resistant to the idea. Susan discusses the importance of making it safe for the child to express fears while remaining clear and relaxed. http://pages.susanstiffelman.com/helping-child-travel-podcast
In this episode, you’ll hear Susan talking with the parent of a forgetful, somewhat disorganized teen with ADHD without micromanaging. This conversation goes deep, looking at how our anxiety can muddy the waters of effective parenting. http://pages.susanstiffelman.com/podcast-teen-adhd
In this episode, Susan talks with a parent who struggles with what she calls "ancestral anger" toward her preschooler -- a feeling of rage that stems from an unhealed part of her own childhood. Susan coaches this parent on handling the build up of rage when it makes its next appearance with her child. http://pages.susanstiffelman.com/podcast-ancestral-anger
In this episode, Susan talks with a parent who wants help supporting her middle child. Her 7-year-old daughter is struggling with the disappointment and frustration of being a middle child, so Susan uses a role-play to coach this parent on helping her child grieve the reality of her unchanging position in the family. http://pages.susanstiffelman.com/podcast-middle-child
In this episode, Susan talks with Kelsey, who shares her experience with her assertive, expressive 7- and 9-year-old daughters. The conversation emphasizes the balance between respecting children's autonomy and fulfilling the responsibilities of a parent. They talk about how the daughters resist taking medicine and how Kelsey can acknowledge her daughters' autonomy while also ensuring they get the medical care they need. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/taking-medicine-podcast
In this episode, Susan coaches a parent, "Marie," who discusses her large family, including two children on the autism spectrum. She's looking for advice on encouraging more friendly, positive interactions between her five children. Susan coaches Marie on managing children with high functioning autism, focusing on executive functioning, and emphasizing the unique strengths and challenges of each child. http://pages.susanstiffelman.com/coaching-podcast-friendly-siblings
In this episode, Susan shares her thoughts on navigating the holiday season, reflecting on the relentless pace of modern life, the challenges posed by technology, and the importance of taking time to recharge. Susan also talks about her personal practice of unplugging for several weeks and the positive impact it has on her well-being. https://pages.susanstiffelman.com/catching-your-breath-podcast
Susan talks with Dr. Pressman about the five guiding principles for raising a good human: relationships, reflection, regulation, rules, and repair. They stress the importance of being a "good enough" parent, rather than striving for perfection, and emphasize that imperfection is a natural part of being human. http://pages.susanstiffelman.com/aliza-pressman-podcast-episode
In this episode, Susan coaches a parent whose son is reluctant to go to school because his feelings have been getting hurt at recess. Susan offers a kid-friendly way to help her child take things less personally by looking at the Bad B’s (negative beliefs) that fuel his insecurities. https://susanstiffelman.com/reluctant-school-child-podcast/
Susan responds to a parent’s question about how to become the Captain of the ship if you grew up with permissive parents who gave you whatever you wanted, sharing important insights into making the shift to setting loving limits with kids. https://susanstiffelman.com/captain-podcast/
In this episode, Susan answers a parent’s question about a child’s difficulty with disappointment. She emphasizes the importance of grounding oneself before setting limits to support children and shares tips to better help children cope with frustrating experiences. https://susanstiffelman.com/frustration-podcast/
In this episode, Susan talks about why setting screen-time limits can be so difficult, and why there’s so much push back from our kids when it’s time to unplug, sharing strategies for implementing healthy rules and routines. https://susanstiffelman.com/screen-time-limits-podcast/
In this preview from the Tech-Wise Parenting Summit, Jack and Trudy remind listeners that being present and aware can help us engage with technology in healthy ways, rather than feeling drained and depleted, or turning to screens to hide from uncomfortable feelings. In the full summit interview, Trudy also walks us through a 7 minute Appreciation Body Scan, providing a calming, restful experience that all will enjoy!
In this preview clip from the Tech-Wise Parenting Summit, Dr. Tina Payne Bryson talks about the impression a child is left with when we react with anger to their angere over screen time limits, and how it influences their future willingness to come to us when they're upset.
Susan shares a preview clip from a conversation with author and filmmaker Tiffany Shlain from the Tech-Wise Parenting Summit, discussing the benefits of a 24 hour weekly ritual of unplugging from technology.
In this preview clip from the Tech-Wise Parenting Summit, Dr. Anna Lembke (author of Dopamine Nation) suggesting that rather than turning to screens and social media to lessen feelings of depression, online activities may actually generate depression in some instances when long-term tech use fuels reduced natural dopamine production in the brain.
Susan shares a preview clip from an interview with Dr. Dan Siegel from the Tech-Wise Parenting Summit. Dan and Susan engage in a short role play to demonstrate how conversations lacking in the many aspects of communication missing in online exchanges can lead to disconnection and misunderstanding.
In this conversation, Susan and Dayna talk about how important it is to understand that even if our child has behavioral struggles, they aren’t broken and we aren’t failing. They go on to discuss creating a plan for parenting storms, not taking things personally, and shifting our perspective. https://susanstiffelman.com/dayna-abraham-podcast/
One of the biggest power struggles parents have with their kids is around technology. In this episode, Susan talks about the importance of clarity as we set realistic routines around screen time, emphasizing the importance of being the “Captain of the ship” for our kids, to offer guidance and support. https://susanstiffelman.com/kids-and-tech-podcast/
A parent whose son complains about her singing asks for advice about helping him be more comfortable with self-expression and using his voice. Susan shares some interesting ideas for how to approach the situation. https://susanstiffelman.com/nurturing-expressiveness-podcast/
In this excerpt of a class about homework with Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, authors of The Self-Driven Child, Susan explores the anxiety parents often feel around their kids' unwillingness to take their school work seriously. https://susanstiffelman.com/stixrud-johnson-podcast-2/
Enjoy a fascinating conversation with Mei-Ling Hopgood about her adventures in parenting around the world, from raising her children in Argentina where bedtimes are often “flexible” to looking at how play, meals, and chores are approached in other cultures. A delightful discussion that may help parents feel a bit more flexible in their child-rearing practices.
At a time when headlines are filled with dire warnings about the mental health of our adolescents, this information-packed session with Dr. Lisa Damour offers vital guidance for parents—including those with younger kids—about how to navigate the ups and downs that come with growing up. https://susanstiffelman.com/lisa-damour-teen-podcast-episode/
Did you know that 15% to 20% of the population are highly sensitive people? Yet many parents struggle to understand their deeply feeling children. In this episode, Susan explains the trait of sensitivity and shares 3 of the most important things to keep in mind to help you nurture and support your sensitive child. https://susanstiffelman.com/raising-sensitive-kids-podcast-episodes/
In this episode, Susan reassures listeners that aggressive behavior is common, and talks about some of the elements that often fuel a child’s angry outbursts. She also addresses a few important ways we can reduce its frequency. https://susanstiffelman.com/aggression-podcast-podcast-episode/
In this powerful episode, Susan talks about the underlying, invisible elements—often remnants of our own childhood-- that sometimes fuel our anger, frustration, or despair as we deal with the daily challenges of parenting. https://susanstiffelman.com/making-long-term-change-podcast-episode/
In this episode, you’ll hear Susan talk about the benefits of creating a Family Mission Statement to get your new year off to a solid start. Even young children can participate in this attachment-building family activity! https://susanstiffelman.com/mission-statement-podcast-episode/
In this episode, you’ll hear Susan role play a scenario with a child who’s refusing to turn off the TV to take a bath, as she talks about the importance of taking on smaller parenting challenges to get better at coping with push back and disconnection. A great episode with lots of practical value! https://susanstiffelman.com/climbing-hills-instead-of-mountains-podcast/
Susan explores how to help kids and teens who are anxious, worried or fearful. You'll learn the importance of being the calm, regulated Captain of the ship to help our kids confront anxiety and learn strategies to cope with fear and build resilience. https://susanstiffelman.com/when-children-are-anxious-podcast-episode/
Susan talks with her long-time assistant, Amy, about the transformations they have witnessed in countless families through years of offering parent education. https://susanstiffelman.com/stiffelman-knobler-podcast-episode/
A child’s ability to stay regulated and manage impulses is closely tied to sleep, but try as they may to get their kids to bed, many parents face bedtime struggles night in and night out. In this great conversation, Susan talks with Heather Turgeon, MFT about the why’s and how’s of good sleep practices. https://susanstiffelman.com/heather-turgeon-podcast-episode/
In this episode, Susan talks about why it can be hard for children to open up when they’re having a hard time, and how we can address our own concerns to make sure they know it’s safe to come to us when they’re hurting. https://susanstiffelman.com/when-kids-say-im-fine-but-theyre-not/
Martha and Susan discuss steps we can take to ensure our lives—including our parenting lives—are in integrity with our truest nature. An inspiring conversation about making small but significant changes to experience greater peace and joy every day. https://susanstiffelman.com/martha-beck-podcast-episode/
Dr. Mona Delahooke joins Susan for an absorbing conversation about how to shift from simply managing a child’s difficult behavior to supporting their nervous system when they move toward dysregulation. Great information about the role of the brain and co-regulation in helping children cope with sensory overwhelm, frustration, and disappointment. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-mona-delahooke/
This is a double-whammy of an episode, with words of wisdom about the power of our unique voices AND a performance of one of Susan’s favorite songs by The Brothers Koren: Abraham. An extra special treat you won’t want to miss! https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-brothers-koren/
In this episode, Susan talks with Elaine Halligan about her personal journey of raising a neuro-atypical child. Elaine talks about maintaining a strong and loving relationship with your child, even through the challenges of identifying what might be fueling chronic misbehavior. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-elaine-halligan/
In this episode, Susan talks with Dr. Rita Eichenstein about the neurological and neurochemical changes that occur in the brain when adults become parents -- and how this understanding can enhance attachment and reduce parental stress! https://susanstiffelman.com/rita-eichenstein-podcast-episode/
In this episode, Susan shares insights into what happens when parents feel rage or a sense of being out of control in the face of a conflict with our kids. It much more common that you think! https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-why-rage-happens/
In this episode, Susan talks with Dr. Ned Hallowell about the stigma of the label of ADHD, and ways to reframe ADHD as a gift and trait, rather than a disorder or deficit. They also share how ADHD has impacted their own lives in positive ways. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-ned-hallowell/
In this episode, Susan talks with Debbie Reber about the habits and socialization that make it hard for us to take time to rest. If you have a hard time honoring your need to slow down or if you worry about disappointing others by saying “No”, you’ll hear some great suggestions in this conversation. https://susanstiffelman.com/debbie-reber-rest-podcast-episode/
In this conversation, Jessica Lahey shares vital information about how to raise kids to understand what early substance use does to their developing brain, sharing practical tips for delaying experimentation while addressing curiosity and peer pressure. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-jessica-lahey/
In this episode, Susan shares her own story of being diagnosed with ADD as an adult and her discovery that ADD-ish tendencies have unique advantages! https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-adult-add/
In this episode, Susan shares insights into how unrealistic expectations can trigger our upsets, often fueled by misunderstanding a child’s abilities based on brain development. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-trouble-with-expectations/
Trudy Goodman Kornfield and Susan share an open, honest conversation about the realities and challenges of raising children. A soothing discussion that will offer comfort to parents who are sometimes hard on themselves for losing their cool. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-trudy-goodman/
In this episode, family therapist Susan Stiffelman talks about the importance of allowing our kids to make mistakes and gain resilience by recovering from them. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-helping-kids-make-mistakes/
In this recording from Facebook Live, Susan talk with William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, authors of The Self-Driven Child, about their new book, What Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. They talk about how to be a non-anxious presence in children's lives in preparation for their new class, What Do You Say? Communication Tools For Self-Driven Kids. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-stixrud-johnson/
In this episode, Susan and Charlotte talk about helping kids in their transition back to in-person learning and how to be a supportive, stable presence in the face of your children's anxiety or stress. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-charlotte-reznick/
Susan and Delaney talk about how to approach technology in a way that fosters connection and conversation, rather than resistance and alienation. A fascinating discussion with easy to use ideas for reducing screen time struggles! https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-delaney-ruston/
In this episode, Susan talks with Dr. Ramani Durvasula, author of Should I Stay Or Should I Go? Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist, and Don't You Know Who I Am? How To Stay Sane In An Era Of Narcissism, Entitlement and Incivility. Susan and Dr. Durvasula discuss difficulties, grief and legal challenges associated with co-parenting with someone who has narcissistic tendencies. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episodes-ramani-durvasula/
In this episode, Susan talks with Tina Payne Bryson about what the science says about many of the ideas about raising babies that we’ve subscribed to, often at the expense of our own wisdom and instincts. You’ll also hear the bottom line about what is most important for healthy development. https://susanstiffelman.com/encore-podcast-episode-tina-bryson/
Susan talks with Wendy Behary, author of Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed. Susan and Wendy discuss challenges associated with co-parenting with someone who has narcissistic tendencies, including an absence of empathy, a sense of entitlement, and a focus on attention and approval--at the cost of addressing children's needs. Susan and Wendy co-host a monthly support group on Co-Parenting With a Narcissist. https://susanstiffelman.com/encore-episodes-co-parenting-with-a-narcisssist/
It's easy to lose our parenting cool when we think our kids are deliberately pushing our buttons. But what if we could stop taking our child's frustrating behaviors personally? In this episode, family therapist Susan Stiffelman offers a different way of looking at difficult behaviors that will make it easier to stay calm through those parenting storms. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-not-taking-personally/
In this episode, Susan asks us to consider, without judgement, our beliefs about why our kids "need" to spend so much time on screens, and how we might help our kids re-engage with the real world. https://susanstiffelman.com/are-screens-taking-over-your-house-podcast-episode/
Susan speaks with Amy Lang of Birds + Bees + Kids about how to talk with kids about sex. The discussion addresses why kids need us to be a source of reliable information, how to establish more comfort in these important conversations, and how to handle kids and online porn. https://susanstiffelman.com/encore-podcast-episode-amy-lang/
Susan talks with Maggie Dent, beloved parent educator from Australia, about raising children who are especially strong-willed and energetic. "Rooster children" can wear out even the best-intentioned parent! You'll get tips for creating calm, getting rest, and managing expectations. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-maggie-dent-rooster/
Susan talks with Lenore Skenazy, author of Free Range Kids, about how to raise resilient, confident children. You'll hear practical suggestions for cultivating a sense of independence in your kids, and a lively discussion about what it means to be an attentive parent. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-lenore-skenazy/
In this conversation, Susan and Dr. Kristin Neff talks about the importance of cultivating both fierce and tender self-compassion, offering specific practices that parents can easily use when they’re feeling overwhelmed, angry, or simply being hard on themselves. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-kristin-neff/
In this lively conversation, Susan talks with Chelsea Brennan about helping kids develop healthy habits around money. Chelsea shares how even very young children can learn about budgeting, planning and spending, and how kids can develop empathy through giving. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-chelsea-brennan/
If your youngster has ADHD, you know that life is sometimes challenging. In this wonderful conversation, Susan talks with Dr. Mark Bertin, developmental pediatrician, about how to help kids develop kinder self-talk, while understanding better what ADHD is…and isn’t. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-mark-bertin/
In this episode, Susan responds to a parent's question: Why is it so hard to keep cool in the chaos of parenting, and how can we remain calm during our kids' storms? https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-lose-cool/
In this deeply meaningful conversation, Susan talks with author, speaker and activist Julie Lythcott Haims about what it really means to raise our kids to be kind, capable, autonomous adults. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-julie-lythcott-haims/
Do you dread dinnertime? In this lively conversation, Susan talks with Jenny Friedman, a pediatric dietician and expert in picky eating. You'll hear about ways to encourage enjoyable family meals, even with children who have food aversions, sensory issues, or just can't sit still! https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-jenny-friedman/
At a time when parents are struggling to keep up with the usual demands of parenting compounded by the pandemic, it’s easy to fall into exhaustion and burnout. In this conversation, Susan and Michele share practical suggestions for reducing overwhelm and building up reserves of energy—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-beyond-burnout/
In this important conversation, Susan and Dr. Michele Borba talk about Michele's new book, Thrivers: Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine. Michele shares the essential skills that parent can help their kids cultivate to thrive in the face of stress, anxiety, and pressure in today's world. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-borba-thrivers/
In this episode, Susan and her assistant Amy talk about some of the issues most common when parents write in about their struggles, including frustration losing our cool, and feeling overwhelmed.
In this timely conversation, Susan and Dr. Laura Markham share guidance about how to talk with children about the violent outbreak that took place at the Capitol building in Washington DC.
Parental alienation occurs when one parent emotionally manipulates a child to unjustly reject the other, targeted parent. In this conversation, Susan discusses some of the strategies and behaviors associated with this heartbreaking dynamic, and what targeted parents can do. http://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-baker/
It is extremely challenging to raise a child with a highly self-absorbed co-parent who moves through life with a sense of entitlement and an unwillingness to acknowledge the needs and feelings of others. In this episode, Susan discusses narcissism and invites listeners to a free webinar with Wendy Behary, her co-facilitator of a Co-Parenting With a Narcissist support group. https://susanstiffelman.com/narcissist-free-webinar/
In this conversation, Susan speaks with Maggie Dent, author of From Boys to Men, about offering support and maintaining strong connection with boys—even as they move into a stage where it seems they want nothing to do with us. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-raising-boys/
In this episode, you’ll hear practical ideas for helping your children impact the world around them. You’ll also hear the extraordinary story of how the son of Creative Visions founder Kathy Eldon bettered the lives of those around him until his passing in 1993 in Somalia where he was working as a photojournalist.
http://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-creative-activists/
Children often believe that they aren't smart or that a subject is too hard if the way they're taught is incompatible with their preferred learning style. In this episode, Susan shares the importance of helping children understand the varied flavors of intelligence, and the importance of each.
In this episode, Susan talks about how children learn to cope by watching us deal with challenges. She shares a story of when things fell apart while traveling in Africa with her then teenage son, and reminds listeners about the value of including our children as we prepare to vote in the U.S. election. https://susanstiffelman.com/raising-global-citizens-podcast/
In this episode, Susan talks about the unconscious parenting patterns we inherited that can influence how we react to our children, particularly in challenging parenting moments. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-parenting-patterns/
In this episode, Susan talks with Tina Payne Bryson about what the science says about many of the ideas about raising babies that we’ve subscribed to, often at the expense of our own wisdom and instincts. You’ll also hear the bottom line about what is most important for healthy development. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-tina-payne-bryson/
In this episode, Susan shares a unique way of thinking about our child's challenging behaviors, offering new ways of coming to terms with who they are--versus who we wish they could be. http://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-snapshot-child-syndrome/
If you’re feeling uneasy or unprepared for the upcoming school year, you’ll take comfort from this conversation between two seasoned homeschoolers. http://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-kochenderfer/
Susan shares excerpts from her Parenting in the Digital Age summit conversation with Trudy Goodman and Jack Kornfield as they talk about the many ways our children can inspire us to grow in presence, compassion, and love. Susan then shares a story about an exhausted mom who came for counseling when she was at the end of her rope. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-kornfield-goodman/
Susan talks with Jon Kabat-Zinn, PhD and Myla Kabat-Zinn about the opportunities for mindful presence that come with raising children. Jon is known for his work as a scientist, writer, and meditation teacher engaged in bringing mindfulness into the mainstream of medicine and society. He is the author of many books including Full Catastrophe Living and Wherever You Go, There You Are. He and his wife Myla are the authors of Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-kabat-zinn/
In this episode, Susan shares tips for helping parents facing schooling decisions for the coming year, given constraints resulting from Covid-19. You’ll hear practical ideas for determining the best option for you and your family, including ideas to make it easier to trust your instincts rather than your anxiety. http://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-homeschooling-decisions/
Susan talks with Judith Orloff, author of The Empath's Survival Guide and Thriving as an Empath, about how parents can handle the overwhelming demands of children. While the suggestions will be helpful to all parents, special attention is paid in this conversation to those who are highly sensitive or who identify as empaths.https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-orloff
Susan and Dr. Harvey shares practical ideas for talking with our children about issues related to race, empowering children to take steps to create equality for all. This is a special, powerful conversation you won’t want to miss. http://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-harvey/
In this conversation, Susan speaks with Dr. Kira Banks about issues at the forefront of our news since the death of George Floyd. Dr. Banks shares practical steps parents can make to address issues of discrimination and disparity with even very young children so that we can shift to a more equitable world for all. http://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-banks/
In this fascinating conversation, you’ll discover how to help your child use this time of distance learning as a chance to rekindle their innate passion for learning. You’ll also understand why some kids are having such a hard time with online learning, and what to do about it. http://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-armstrong/
Susan talks with bestselling author Rachel Macy Stafford about how to forge deep connection with our kids while encouraging them to develop their own voice and support them to become who they're meant to be. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-stafford/
Susan shares support for helping anxious children when parents don't have concrete answers to address their kids' fears. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-anxious-children/
In this episode--recorded just as families began sheltering in place--Susan talks with Dr. Christine Carter about how to help teens be less vulnerable to anxiety and depression. Parents with young children will also hear great advice for cultivating confidence and a strong sense of self. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-carter/
Susan talks with bestselling author Rachel Macy Stafford about how to forge deep connection with our kids while encouraging them to develop their own voice and support them to become who they're meant to be. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-stafford/
In this conversation, Susan and Janet Lansbury talk about how to prioritize children’s needs and demands when we’re feeling stretched to the limit. A great episode with ideas that will help parents feel better about a child’s big reactions when we have to tell them, “Not right now.” https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-lansbury/
In this episode, Susan shares insights and practical ideas for reducing the sense of overwhelm that many parents are experiencing as we shelter in place. You’ll hear sensible advice for managing the endless tasks and demands of managing kids, work, and household during this challenging time. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-quarantine-overwhelm/
Susan talks with Dr. Michele Borba about how families can create more connection, engage in meaningful activities, and regulate stressed nervous systems. An uplifting episode with inspiration and lots of usable ideas. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-borba/
In this episode, Susan shares a clip from a Playful Parenting Master Class with Dr. Lawrence Cohen. You'll hear a discussion on how to talk with kids about Covid-19 and how to bring connection into interactions with our children to reduce tension and foster genuine cooperation. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-cohen/
Susan talks with Laurel Springs Distance Learning founder Marilyn Mosley about how to help children and parents adjust and even embrace learning at home. Tips on learning style and various homeschooling approaches, along with helpful resources. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-gordanier/
Susan shares tips for staying grounded while honoring Coronavirus recommendations of social distancing. You'll enjoy a calming mindfulness moment and hear ways to feel sturdier with kids underfoot. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-staying-grounded/
Susan is joined by her son, Ari Andersen, host of the podcast Everything They Know, to discuss what parents should do to help their kids make informed decisions about data and privacy as they navigate the digital world. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-andersen/
Susan speaks with Amy Lang of Birds + Bees + Kids about how to talk with kids about sex. The discussion addresses why kids need us to be a source of reliable information, how to establish more comfort in these important conversations, and how to handle kids and online porn. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-lang/
In this episode, Susan shares aha moments from leaving her cell phone off for a month, reflecting on how we can help our children develop a healthier balance with technology by leading the way. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-month-without-phone/
Susan is joined again by Wendy Behary, author of Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed. Susan and Wendy discuss what truly lies beneath narcissism and how we can use this understanding to manage some of the hurt a narcissist inflicts. Susan and Wendy co-host a monthly support group on Co-Parenting With a Narcissist. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-wendy-behary/
Susan talks with Elisha Goldstein, co-founder of The Center for Mindful Living in Los Angeles, about how mindful families can embrace imperfection, communicate courageously and repair difficult moments with honest communication. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-elisha-goldstein/
In this episode, Susan is joined by parent educators Janet Lansbury and Maggie Dent to talk through a wide-range of issues related to addressing misbehavior, strengthening connection, and managing our own parenting insecurities. A special episode filled with lots of insights, tips, and laughter! https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-dent-lansbury/
Susan talks with Jessica Morey, founder of Inward Bound Mindfulness Educator), about the impact on teens of mindfulness retreats. You’ll hear insights into what’s going on in the teen brain and how mindfulness and contemplative practice can radically improve focus, resilience, and a positive sense of self. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-morey/
Susan shares simple practices that parents can use to help children naturally develop a sense of gratitude and appreciation in their daily lives. An uplifting episode with lots of ideas for cultivating an attitude of gratitude! https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-gratitude/
Susan talks with Jeanne-Marie Paynel, founder of Voila Montessori and parenting mentor, about establishing kid-friendly rituals and routines--including food preparation and cleanup-- to make meals a time of connection, learning, and nourishment.
http://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-paynel/
Susan talks with Drs. Gay and Katie Hendricks, pioneers in the field of conscious loving and body awareness, about raising emotionally intelligent children. This wide-ranging conversation covers how to acknowledge difficult feelings with children, how to recognize our true "Yes" and "No", and the importance of leading with appreciation. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-hendricks/
Even though we may long to avoid tiring arguments and negotiations with our kids, unexamined fears and worries can fan the flames of power struggles. In this episode, Susan talks about how a mother's childhood experiences influence how she engages with her daughter over what to eat for breakfast. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-minimizing-power-struggles/
Susan talks with Katie Hurley, author of The Depression Workbook for Teens, Tools to Improve Your Mood, Build Self-Esteem, and Stay Motivation. The conversation explores ways that parents can empower their kids to cope effectively with stress, anxiety, and depression. An important conversation for parents of teens and younger children. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-hurley/
Susan talks with Lenore Skenazy, author of Free Range Kids, about how to raise resilient, confident children. You'll hear practical suggestions for cultivating a sense of independence in your kids, and a lively discussion about what it means to be an attentive parent.
https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-skenazy/
Susan speaks with Byron Katie, author of Loving What Is and A Mind at Home With Itself. In their conversation, Katie talks about how her relationship with her children changed after discovering The Work, and shares how self-inquiry can foster deeper connection with our children and teens. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-katie/
When I was 16, I taught myself to speak Hindi because my desire to learn the language had been awakened. Kids love to learn, when they're interested! Tune in to hear me talk about how to fan the flames of children's passions with Multiple Intelligences, even if they're weary of school and think learning is "dumb."
https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-dont-like-school/
Susan talks with Christina McGhee, author of Parenting Apart, about how to address challenges associated with helping a child adjust after divorce. The discussion includes managing transitions, offloading a child's feelings in healthy ways, and ensuring kids don't get overloaded with parents' own difficult emotions. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-mcghee/
Susan chats with Janell Burley Hofmann, author of iRules: What Every Tech-Healthy Family Needs to Know About Selfies, Sexting, Gaming and Growing Up. Susan and Janell talk about how to incorporate technology into family life in ways that preserve connection and encourage engagement with the real, 3D world. Loaded with tips for using technology without being ruled by it. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-burley-hofmann/
Susan talks with Wendy Behary, author of Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed. Susan and Wendy discuss challenges associated with co-parenting with someone who has narcissistic tendencies, including an absence of empathy, a sense of entitlement, and a focus on attention and approval--at the cost of addressing children's needs. Susan and Wendy co-host a monthly support group on Co-Parenting With a Narcissist. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-behary/
Susan talks with Maggie Dent, beloved parent educator from Australia, about raising children who are especially strong-willed and energetic. "Rooster children" can wear out even the best-intentioned parent! You'll get tips for creating calm, getting rest, and managing expectations. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-dent/
Susan talks with Susan Kaiser Greenland, author of The Mindful Child and Mindful Games shares ways that families can integrate mindfulness into their everyday lives, developing the resilience, presence, and compassion that will help them navigate life's ups and downs. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-kaiser-greenland/
Children are wired to resist coercion, especially when most of our interactions are about making a request or demand. In this episode, I answer a parent's question about how to handle her 12 year old son who accuses her of being grumpy whenever she asks him to turn off the TV to do his chores or homework. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-stiffelman-hooked-on-tv/
Susan talks with Dr. William Stixrud, author of The Self-Driven Child, about the rise of anxiety and depression in kids who report feeling increasingly controlled and micromanaged by well-meaning parents. Kids need a sense of agency to grow into resilient adults. An important, thought-provoking conversation. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-stixrud/
Susan talks with Jon Kabat-Zinn, PhD and Myla Kabat-Zinn about the opportunities for mindful presence that come with raising children. Jon is known for his work as a scientist, writer, and meditation teacher engaged in bringing mindfulness into the mainstream of medicine and society. He is the author of many books including Full Catastrophe Living and Wherever You Go, There You Are. He and his wife Myla are the authors of Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-kabat-zinn/
Susan talks with Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of How to Raise an Adult, about raising children who grow into confident, capable, resilient adults. Many parents feel they should do all they can to help their kids get good grades. But are we shortchanging our children when we do? https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-lythcott-haims/
High sensitivity is a trait shared by 20% of the population, serving a vital function in the survival of the species. Susan speaks about the joys and challenges of heightened sensitivity with Alane Freund, colleague of Dr. Elaine Aron who wrote The Highly Sensitive Person and The Highly Sensitive Child, in anticipation of a Master Class they will be teaching with Dr. Aron. A fascinating look at the gifts of deep feeling and creativity, as well as the challenges of overstimulation that come with this trait.https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-freund/
Susan talks with psychiatrist Dr. Dan Siegel about attachment, including a discussion about the number one predictor of how children will become attached to a parent. Susan and Dan also talk about the importance of understanding that there is no such thing as perfect parenting--and how to make relationship repairs when we've temporarily lost our way as parents. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-siegel/
It's easy to lose our parenting cool when we think our kids are deliberately pushing our buttons. But what if we could stop taking our child's frustrating behaviors personally? In this episode, family therapist Susan Stiffelman offers a different way of looking at difficult behaviors that will make it easier to stay calm through those parenting storms. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-stiffelman-1-8/
As parents, it's easy to make our children's needs front and center, forgetting that we also need support. Susan talks with Debbie Reber from Tilt Parenting about the importance of finding our tribe, and knowing we can lean on others when we're overwhelmed or just having a hard day. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-reber
Susan talks with Dr. Kristin Neff, author of Self Compassion, about the importance of treating ourselves with kindness and care. You'll learn how to soothe yourself when you're overwhelmed and how to manage those mean voices in your head that fuel shame and regret. A powerful interview that will help you move through the world a little gentler with yourself. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-neff/
Susan talks with Dr. Michael Gurian about brain development, differences in male/ female brains, and many more fascinating insights about some of the elements that contribute to our children's behavior. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-gurian/
Parenting expert and family therapist Susan Stiffelman talks about the three ways we can relate to our children: as the calm Captain of the ship, the negotiating Lawyer, or the overpowering Dictator. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-stiffelman/
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Dr. Jane Goodall speaks with Susan about how her mother nurtured her dreams, even when they seemed impossible. You'll hear Susan share some of her takeaways from this conversation, as well as talk about how parents can help their children discover their unique passions. www.susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-goodall
Susan shares excerpts from her Parenting in the Digital Age summit conversation with Trudy Goodman and Jack Kornfield as they talk about the many ways our children can inspire us to grow in presence, compassion, and love. Susan then shares a story about an exhausted mom who came for counseling when she was at the end of her rope. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-kornfield-goodman/
Glennon Doyle joins Susan in conversation about helping children through sorrow, loss and grief. Although our instinct is to cheer our kids up when they're sad, you'll hear why it's important to help them feel their feelings--even the difficult ones. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-doyle/
Join for this special conversation with Glennon Doyle. Find Glennon at Momastery.com and on Instagram
This podcast is for parents who want to have more fun, greater connection and fewer power struggles with their children and teens.
I’ll be sharing parenting tips, strategies, and insights from my forty-plus year career as a teacher and family therapist.
Guests will include Jane Goodall, Glennon Doyle, Byron Katie, Dan Siegel, Gretchen Rubin, Jack Kornfield, and many others.
We'll address everything from meltdowns and tantrums to screen time and learning differences in children and teens.
I’ll share guidance from my books--Parenting Without Power Struggles and Parenting With Presence, answer questions, and coach parents on some of the challenges we all deal with every day!