Stethoscopes to Swaddles Podcast: Recent Episodes
Shiro Bergbauer, DNP, CRNA
My name is Shiro Bergbauer, DNP, CRNA. Becoming a mom was a huge shift and transition from me. I needed to find information on transitioning to becoming a working mom that was relevant to my career and I found that most information was targeting corporate moms who work traditional 9-5 hours. As I surveyed moms in medical careers, I realized the paucity of content addressing our needs. We take care of other people at We take care of other people at work and at home. We aren’t always equipped for the transition from clinician to working mom, and this isn’t how it should be.
This week we chat about the ways we can allow for and encourage evolution in our lives for more purpose and to grow into our highest selves.
I am letting go of the podcast for now, with this weeks episode as a season finale. I don't know if/when it might return. I'm still coaching and supporting incredible moms, and you can reach me at hello@anesthesiamomblog.com or on socials at instagram.com/stethoscopes.to.swaddles/ .
It has been an incredible journey through the pandemic, through our way to a new normal as mothers and in this community. It's been an honor to share what I can to help moms live their best possible lives. Thank you for all of the support through the years on this podcast.
My Linktree Cassidy has been editing through the series and you can find more about how she might be able to help you at CassidyMitchell.com.
You are enough, you belong, and you are loved.
Have a great week mama!
Shiro
Hey mama, Welcome to classic episode # 67.
Today we are going to be talking about strengthening relationships and I am going to be talking about some of the work that I have been diving into and get asked about- making some serious decisions about how we want to strengthen our relationships. So whether you're thinking about strengthening your friendship or your marriage, your relationship with your children, or your workplace relationships; this episode is for you. So let's get started. Are you ready? So today, what we're going to talk about is the idea of bids for connection and this is based on John Gottman's work.
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Books Referenced: Click on Title for Amazon
Wired For Love
The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work
The Relationship Cure
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love
This week we are re-airing a classic and one of our most listened to episodes: episode 87, Personal Growth Isn't Linear.
This week on the podcast, we explore the misconception that making mistakes on the self-development journey means we aren’t making process.
With self-compassion, we can evaluate our journey and access the best version of ourselves.
Resources:
Lighter by Yung Pueblo
My Linktree to Work With Me Have a great week mama!
This week we're airing a classic on embodiment and the nervous system in your every day life and for healing.
Books mentioned:
Becoming Safely Embodied by Deirdre Fay
Anchored How to Befriend your Nervous System, by Deb Dana
All my links:
https://smart.bio/stethoscopes.to.swaddles/
Shame Resilience Theory (SRT) . (Credits- Brene Brown)
This week we're re-releasing a classic, episode 11. Everything I Know About Mom Guilt, I Learned From Brene Brown.
SRT offers a working definition of shame and a conceptual identity for shame. Through the
development of a continuum schematic, SRT describes the main concerns of women experiencing shame and identifies the strategies and processes women find effective in developing shame resilience (see Figure 2).
Additionally, the theory identifies 11 topical areas that present distinct challenges for women.
- Appearance and body image,
- Sexuality,
- Family,
- Motherhood,
- Parenting,
- Professional identity and work
- Mental and physical health
- Aging
- Religion
- Speaking out
- Surviving trauma.
Components of shame resilience:
- Empathy
- Connection
- Power
- Freedom
This week is a re-run of on of our most listened-to podcasts this year. We have also moved to a Thursday morning posting schedule!
This week on the podcast, we explore the concept of quiet quitting in marriage.
Quiet quitting is described as “leaving without leaving.”
We discuss some signs of quiet quitting, and strategies to stop quiet quitting: how to make the descision to leave, or how to repair a long term rupture.
Resources:
National Domestic Violence Hotline: get-help
https://www.thehotline.org/plan-for-safety/
The Four Horsemen of the Apocolypse episode
My Linktree to find all workshop links and connect with me Have a great weekend mama!
I believe that sharing our personal experiences is a powerful way to inspire and uplift others.
That's why this week, I'm thrilled to bring you a special replay of episode 86, where I open up about my entrepreneurial journey and the self-beliefs and discoveries that have paved the way for my success.
Listening to this episode will not only give you a glimpse into the world of entrepreneurship as a mom but will also provide you with practical tips and insights on how to navigate the path with courage and resilience. I'm revealing the human side of business and reinforcing the idea that success is not always linear—there are ups and downs, twists and turns along the way.
So, grab a cozy blanket, a cup of tea, and tune in to this replay of episode 86. We're confident that you'll find valuable nuggets of wisdom and motivation to carry with you on your own journey.
Resources:
Lighter by Yung Pueblo
Clarity and Connection by Yung Pueblo
My Linktree to find all workshop links - Join the Imposter Syndrome-Conquer with Confidence call on July 17th! Have a great week mama!
Join me on this transformative journey as we explore practical strategies, mindset shifts, and self-care tips to navigate the invisible load of motherhood.
In this episode, we dive deep into the unspoken challenges that weigh on our hearts and minds as we juggle the responsibilities of motherhood. From managing household tasks to providing emotional support and everything in between, it's time to address the invisible load head-on.
Together, we'll uncover actionable insights to lighten the load and prioritize self-care without feeling guilty. I'll share personal stories, relatable anecdotes, and practical techniques that have helped me and other incredible moms on this rollercoaster ride of motherhood.
Join me as we embrace the power of setting boundaries, creating support networks, and adopting a mindset of self-compassion. Together, we'll rewrite the narrative and empower ourselves to thrive, not just survive, in this beautiful journey of motherhood.
The Fair Play Deck: A Couple's Conversation Deck for Prioritizing What's Important For more resources and to contact me for coaching, go to:
https://www.stethoscopestoswaddles.com/
In this episode, we're diving headfirst into the intricate tapestry of emotional immaturity and how it shapes our lives. We'll be exploring the behaviors often exhibited by emotionally immature parents—blame-shifting, difficulty handling stress and conflict, inconsistency, and a distinct lack of empathy. By shining a light on these patterns, we gain valuable insights into our own experiences and open doors to healing.
As adult children of emotionally immature parents, we know all too well the rollercoaster of emotions that comes with it. From overwhelming guilt and pent-up anger to deep-rooted shame and constant confusion, these emotions can leave us feeling like we're sailing uncharted waters.
Join us as we delve into transformative mindset shifts and practical strategies to navigate these complex dynamics. Tune in and embark on a journey of self-discovery, healing, and growth
Adult children of emotionally immature parents
The emotionally absent mother
In this episode, we uncover the profound benefits of coaching, providing you with insights and inspiration to embrace your own journey of self-discovery and empowerment. Discover how coaching has helped individuals overcome self-doubt and imposter syndrome, navigate challenges, and unlock their true potential. This episode highlights the importance of finding the right coach to guide you on your path to personal growth. . Learn how coaching can help you cultivate a positive mindset, build self-confidence, and set healthy boundaries for a fulfilling and successful life. Keywords: coaching, personal growth, self-discovery, empowerment, overcoming self-doubt, imposter syndrome, finding balance, self-care, goal setting, cultivating a positive mindset, building self-confidence, setting healthy boundaries, success, fulfillment, personal transformation.
\In this episode, Shiro delves deep into a conversation with Amy Pelky, the inspiring founder of Pause to Remember, as they explore Amy's transformative journey from loss to mindfulness and yoga teacher training. Amy initiated Pause to Remember, a transformative workshop combining meditation, yoga, and sharing for those who have experienced profound loss.
As experienced CRNAs and entrepreneurs, Amy and Shiro candidly discuss the challenges of balancing work and personal life, particularly in the demanding healthcare field. They explore the intricacies of navigating healthcare as healthcare workers, the importance of self-care, and the courage to make career transitions.
Amy and Shiro shed light on the unique challenges healthcare providers face regarding work-life balance, especially in relation to pregnancy loss, infertility, and maternity leave. They highlight the crucial need for specialized resources and tailored support systems for healthcare professionals in these situations.
Mindfulness takes center stage as Amy and Shiro discuss the challenges of being a working mom in healthcare, focusing on topics such as infertility, grief, and the power of being present in every moment. Amy generously shares valuable resources for grief support and introduces a mindfulness course tailored specifically for healthcare providers.
Tune in to this insightful podcast episode to gain valuable insights into loss, mindfulness, and healthcare, while discovering practical strategies for achieving peace, balance, and self-empowerment in the face of life's challenges.
Keywords: mindfulness, pregnancy loss, grief, yoga, meditation, healthcare, work-life balance, pregnancy loss, infertility, maternity leave, self-care, ketamine infusions, depression, anxiety, motherhood, empowerment.
Course
MNDFL Rx Info and Waitlist: https://www.pausetoremember.org/mindful-prescription
Podcast
Pause to Remember Podcast: https://www.pausetoremember.org/podcasts/pause-to-remember
Apple: https://www.pausetoremember.org/podcasts/pause-to-remember
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DDQ66KQa91gkwNhgiIQap
It can also be found on Google, Stitcher, TuneIn, etc.
Virtual Support Group for Licensed, Female Healthcare Providers
2nd Monday of every month @7:45pm EST: https://www.pausetoremember.org/support-group
Facebook Group for Licensed, Female Healthcare Providers
https://www.pausetoremember.org/facebook
Contact Amy Pelkey
https://www.pausetoremember.org/contact-me
Amy@pausetoremember.org
Calendar to Chat with Me
https://calendly.com/pausetoremember/free-consultation?month=2023-05
Instagram/Facebook
@pausetoremember
In this episode, we delve into the transformative qualities that can enhance your parenting journey.
Discover the power of curiosity in understanding your child's needs and interests, the importance of courage in setting boundaries and enforcing rules, and the profound impact of connection in building strong relationships with your children.
Join us as we explore practical tips and strategies to cultivate these qualities in your parenting approach.
Learn how curiosity can improve communication, foster understanding, and strengthen the parent-child bond.
Uncover the courage needed to navigate parenting challenges, overcome fears, and promote healthy boundaries.
Explore the transformative benefits of connection, including trust, open communication, and improved behavior.
This episode will empower you with actionable insights to unlock the magic of parenting.
From engaging in open-ended conversations and active listening to embracing vulnerability and practicing empathy, you'll gain valuable tools to deepen your connection with your children.
Tune in, and embark on a transformative journey to become a more curious, courageous, and connected parent.
Don't miss this opportunity to unlock the magic of parenting and create a loving, nurturing environment where your children can thrive.
Now Maps Jr
NowMaps: A Tween’s Guide to Learning About Your Thoughts, Navigating Big Emotions, and Being a Confident Kid
In this episode, we explore the transformative impact of mindfulness on your parenting journey. Being present and mindful allows you to cultivate a deeper connection with your children, enhance communication, and create a more harmonious family dynamic.
We also delve into practical tips and strategies that can help you infuse mindfulness into your parenting approach. From staying present with your child's needs and emotions to navigating challenging moments with calmness and clarity, we provide actionable advice to help you become a more mindful parent.
Discover the power of mindful listening and effective communication techniques that foster open and honest dialogue with your children. Learn how to cultivate self-awareness to manage stress, regulate emotions, and respond to parenting challenges with intention and compassion.
Join us as we explore the power of presence and offer practical insights to help you integrate mindfulness into your parenting journey. Whether you're a seasoned parent or just starting, this episode provides valuable guidance to enhance your connection with your children and create a more mindful and fulfilling family life.
Now Maps Jr
NowMaps: A Tween’s Guide to Learning About Your Thoughts, Navigating Big Emotions, and Being a Confident Kid
The Emotionally Intelligent Parent: How to Cultivate EQ and Create Stronger Connections with Your Children
In this episode, we'll explore the concept of emotional intelligence (EQ) and how it can benefit your personal and professional life, as well as your role as a parent.
We'll delve into the different components of EQ, including self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills, and provide practical strategies for identifying and developing your emotional intelligence.
Additionally, we'll discuss ways to leverage your emotional intelligence as a parent, such as modeling good emotional intelligence, teaching emotional literacy, fostering emotional regulation, building strong relationships, and supporting social development.
By the end of this episode, you'll have a better understanding of emotional intelligence and how to improve your EQ to become a more effective parent and leader. Tune in now to elevate your EQ and achieve greater success in all areas of your life.
Links: Smart Mama Club
Atlas of the heart
Rising Strong as a Spiritual Practice
This episode of the podcast focuses on maternal gatekeeping and gatekeeping amongst working moms, exploring the definition, causes, and negative effects of these behaviors on relationships and workplace dynamics. Listeners will gain valuable insights and practical tips for recognizing and addressing gatekeeping behaviors, including delegating parenting responsibilities, communication, and building a supportive community for all moms.
With a focus on building a more inclusive and supportive community for all moms, this episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to overcome gatekeeping behaviors and create a more balanced and fulfilling parenting experience.
Links:
May MasterClass:
https://www.stethoscopestoswaddles.com/empowerment
FairPlay
In this episode, we dive into the world of therapy speak lingo and the risks of misusing it in mental health treatment. Using precise terminology is crucial in mental health treatment, as it helps to facilitate effective communication between mental health professionals and clients. However, misusing therapy speak lingo can have hidden risks that can impact mental health in harmful ways. In this episode, we explore the impact of misusing therapy lingo on mental health, including how it can create confusion and miscommunication, perpetuate harmful stereotypes and stigmas, and create power dynamics that prevent individuals from being heard or understood. We also provide examples of commonly misused therapy speak lingo, such as "triggered," "gaslighting," and "toxic," and offer tips for using therapy speak lingo responsibly and thoughtfully. Join us as we discuss the importance of using accurate language in mental health treatment and the benefits of creating a shared language between mental health professionals and clients.
In this episode, we discuss how self-concept and self-sabotage can impact your ability to reach your full potential. We explore the definition of self-concept and its influence on your thoughts, behaviors, and overall well-being.
We also delve into the concept of self-sabotage, outlining the various ways in which working moms can act against their own self-interests and the consequences of such behaviors.
The episode offers practical strategies to identify and overcome self-sabotage, including practicing self-awareness, challenging negative beliefs, and seeking support. It also provides insights for working moms, who may face unique challenges in balancing their personal and professional lives while overcoming self-sabotage. By developing a positive self-concept and overcoming self-sabotage, moms can work towards achieving their full potential, living a fulfilling life, and making a positive impact in the world.
Learn more about the Smart Mama Club here and join our growing group
In this episode, we discuss the Polyvagal Theory and its application to stress management for working moms.
The Polyvagal Theory explains how our autonomic nervous system responds to stress and has three branches: the sympathetic nervous system, the parasympathetic nervous system, and the social engagement system. You’ll learn practical tips for working moms to manage stress.
By understanding and applying the Polyvagal Theory, working moms can create a blueprint for a healthier and more balanced life. Tune in to learn more.
Join our growing group and learn more about the Smart Mama Club here
Anchored by Deb Dana
In this episode, we discuss whole-brain parenting strategies for managing toddler tantrums. Toddler tantrums can be challenging for parents to manage, but by using whole-brain parenting strategies, parents can better understand and respond to their child's needs during these difficult moments.
Whole-brain parenting is a parenting approach that integrates insights from neuroscience, psychology, and attachment theory to support children's emotional and cognitive development. By understanding how the brain works and using whole-brain parenting strategies, parents can help their children manage their emotions, improve their behavior, and build healthy relationships.
We will explore how parents can use whole-brain parenting strategies to manage toddler tantrums. We will discuss the causes of toddler tantrums, how the brain develops during this stage of development, and specific strategies that parents can use to respond to their child's needs during tantrums.
In today's fast-paced and demanding world, it's easy for couples to become disconnected from one another. Work, parenting, and other responsibilities can take over, leaving little time and energy for the relationship. In this episode, we discuss the concept of the couple bubble, a term coined by couples therapist Dr. Stan Tatkin, which refers to the emotional connection between partners that creates a sense of safety and security in their relationship.
We explore the benefits of having a couple bubble, including increased emotional intimacy, enhanced communication, increased relationship satisfaction, improved conflict resolution, and reduced stress levels. We also provide practical tips for working parents to create and maintain their couple bubble, including making time for each other, setting boundaries, practicing active listening, practicing gratitude, and seeking professional help if needed.
Join us as we explore the power of the couple bubble and how it can help strengthen your relationship and enhance your overall well-being.
In this episode, we discuss the concept of the "good enough mother," and how working moms can use this approach to prioritize their own well-being while raising happy and healthy children. We explore the benefits of embracing imperfection, prioritizing quality time, practicing self-compassion, and prioritizing self-care.
Main Points:
- The concept of the "good enough mother" and its benefits for working moms
- How to prioritize quality time over quantity time with your children
- The importance of practicing self-compassion and embracing imperfection as a working mom
- Strategies for asking for help and building a supportive community
- The benefits of prioritizing self-care and finding time for exercise, healthy eating, sleep, and activities that bring you joy
Join the Smart Mama Club : https://www.smartmamacoaching.com/store
Additional Resources:
- D.W. Winnicott's book "Playing and Reality"
- "The Good Enough Parent" by Bruno Bettelheim
- "The Whole-Brain Child" by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
- "Self-Compassion" by Kristin Neff
- "The Power of Vulnerability" by Brené Brown.
Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review our show, and join us next time for more tips and strategies for working moms.
In this episode, we explore the reasons why we avoid exploring uncomfortable emotions and the harm it can cause to our mental and physical health. Society has conditioned us to believe that expressing uncomfortable emotions is a sign of weakness, but ignoring them can cause long-term health issues, including stress, anxiety, and depression.
We also discuss spiritual bypassing, a phenomenon that occurs in spiritual communities when individuals use spirituality as a way to avoid or bypass unresolved emotional issues.
Finally, we delve into the benefits of exploring uncomfortable emotions. By facing our uncomfortable emotions head-on, we can gain valuable insights into our thoughts and behaviors, develop coping mechanisms, and deepen our spiritual practice. Exploring uncomfortable emotions can also help us build resilience and equip us to better manage challenging situations.
Join us on this insightful journey of self-exploration as we discuss the importance of embracing discomfort, the pitfalls of emotional avoidance, and the transformative power of exploring uncomfortable emotions.
Don't miss out on this episode, and learn how to navigate the turbulent waters of uncomfortable emotions to achieve better emotional, physical, and spiritual health.
In this episode, we'll explore the challenges of co-parenting and how it can put a significant strain on a marriage.
According to research, two-thirds of parents experience a drop in the quality of their relationship within the first three years of having a baby. However, by working together and using the right tools, co-parents can maintain a strong relationship while raising their children.
We'll discuss the five key tools to help transform your co-parenting journey into a strong partnership, including prioritizing your relationship, communicating openly and effectively, dividing and conquering household tasks, practicing self-care, and seeking support. Tune in to learn how to create a supportive and loving environment for your children while strengthening your relationship with your co-parent.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work -Book
Questions for Couples Journal
Gottman Love Deck
In this episode, we dive into the topic of love maps and how they can help reduce stress in relationships. Love maps are essentially a mental map of your partner's world, including their interests, hobbies, and daily routines. By having a deep understanding of your partner's love map, you can improve communication, strengthen your bond, and decrease stress levels in your relationship.
Join us as we discuss the importance of creating and maintaining love maps, how to have the stress -reducing conversation with your partner, and tips for improving your relationship through this process.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work -Book
Questions for Couples Journal
Gottman Love Deck
Keywords: Love maps, relationships, stress reducing conversation, communication, bonding, mental map, partner, interests, hobbies, daily routines, relationship improvement.
Parenting is a challenging and rewarding journey, but it can also be filled with moments of doubt and frustration. It's easy to become overwhelmed by the daily responsibilities of raising children, and the temptation to give up can be strong. But giving in to this temptation can be detrimental to both ourselves and our children. So, how can we overcome the temptation to give up, or "quiet quitting" as parents?
In this episode, we explore the reasons why parents may feel the urge to give up and ways to overcome it. We discuss the importance of setting realistic expectations and learning to let go of perfectionism. We also talk about the benefits of self-care and self-compassion, and how to prioritize self-care as a parent.
We also delve into the importance of building a support system, and how to seek help when needed. We share tips on how to communicate effectively with your partner and how to work together as a team. We also talk about how to talk to your child and how to help them build resilience in the face of challenges.
We also discuss the importance of finding joy in the journey of parenting, and how to focus on the present moment. By learning to let go of perfectionism, setting realistic expectations, and prioritizing self-care, we can overcome the temptation to give up and become the best parents we can be.
Join us in this episode as we explore the topic of quiet quitting in parenting and ways to overcome the temptation to give up. Whether you're a new parent or a seasoned pro, this episode has something for everyone.
Register for the Masterclass
The Peaceful Parenting Revolution
Parenting book recommendations
In this episode, we will be discussing the importance of embracing failure and how it can lead to personal and professional growth.
Many of us view failure as something to be avoided, but the truth is, failure is an inevitable part of life. By viewing failure as a learning opportunity, we can develop a more resilient attitude and turn setbacks into stepping stones towards success.
I will be sharing the benefits of embracing failure, discussing strategies for embracing failure and reframing it as a positive experience, offering tips for developing a growth mindset and learning from failure, and discussing the link between failure and resilience.
Join us as we explore the benefits of embracing failure and how it can help us to achieve our goals.
This week we explore how we can set and hold our goals through thoughtful planning of habits and clarifying what we really want and how that shows up in our daily lives. We look at how we can stop prolonging the reach toward happiness and find it in the little things today.
Be Your Future Self Now- by Benjamin Hardy
The Gap and The Gain
Atomic Habits
Stethoscopes to Swaddles Mom Group on Facebook
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Have a great week mama! You're doing a great job, Happy New Year!
This week we explore how we can set and hold boundaries with family and in-laws through the holidays to maintain our peace of mind, sense of safety, and sense of connection to what matters to us. We look into what it looks like to not have boundaries where they are needed, how to set them and follow through, and how to receive them well when they are set with us.
Time Management and Goal Setting for moms- Registration
Stethoscopes to Swaddles Mom Group on Facebook
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Have a great two weeks mama! You're doing a great job, Happy Holidays and see you in 2023!
This week we explore how we can help our kids through the stress of the holidays.
How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen
No-Drama Discipline
Stethoscopes to Swaddles Mom Group on Facebook
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Have a great week mama! You're doing a great job.
Pour It Out : A Guide to Lasting Sobriety - That Works Connect with Amanda at
Email: Motiv8brands@gmail.com
Website: Motiv8andinspire.com
Facebook: SoberSquad Facebook Group
Article on alcohol related deaths in women
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Have a great week mama! You're doing a great job.
This week on the podcast we explore the how we can work with conflict to find conneciton to our partner and family through the holidays. We look at different types of conflict, what we can do with the emotions that come with it, how to express emotional maturity, and how to know when you're flooded and how to regulate if that happens.
My Linktree to find all workshop links and connect with me for coaching.
Please leave a review on this podcast, it helps us reach new mamas, and create more community.
Have a great week mama! You're doing a great job.
This week on the podcast we explore the how we can work with conflict to find conneciton to our partner and family through the holidays. We look at different types of conflict, what we can do with the emotions that come with it, how to express emotional maturity, and how to know when you're flooded and how to regulate if that happens.
My Linktree to find all workshop links and connect with me for coaching.
Please leave a review on this podcast, it helps us reach new mamas, and create more community.
Have a great week mama! You're doing a great job.
This week on the podcast we explore the emotions of jealousy and envy and how they can express themselves in the holidays. We look at what the emotions are, what we can do with the emotions, how to express emotional maturity, and what to do when it's directed at you.
Resources:
Register for the boundaries Masterclass here
The Art of Believing on Purpose by Bev Aron
Clarity and Connection
Lighter: Let go of the past, Connect with the Present and Expand the Future
My Linktree to find all workshop links and connect with me
Have a great week mama!
This week on the podcast we explore the model of the Relationship House from the Gottman institute, and how we can apply it's ideas to our relationships.
References:
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Questions for Couples
Gottman deck
My Linktree to find all workshop links and connect with me
Have a great week mama!
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This week on the podcast, we take a celebratory look back at the most downloaded episodes over the last 90 episodes.
Episodes in playing order:
#67 Strengthening Relationships
#57 Conflict Resolution-Inverting the Drama Triangle
#59 “We don’t talk about Bruno”- Shame Resilience
#11 Everything I learned about mom guilt I learned from Brene Brown
#56 Love and Relationships
They can all be found wherever you get your podcasts!
My Linktree to find all workshop links and connect with me
Have a great week mama!
This week on the podcast, we explore the concept of responding to negative feedback within marriage. How to get curious rather than defensive, and work with the meaning behind it even if you don't agree with it.
The 7 Principles of Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
My Linktree to find all workshop links and connect with me Have a great week mama!
This week on the podcast, we explore the concept of responding to negative feedback within marriage. How to get curious rather than defensive, and work with the meaning behind it even if you don't agree with it.
The 7 Principles of Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
My Linktree to find all workshop links and connect with me Have a great week mama!
This week on the podcast, we explore the concept of quiet quitting in marriage.
Quiet quitting is described as “leaving without leaving.”
We discuss some signs of quiet quitting, and strategies to stop quiet quitting: how to make the descision to leave, or how to repair a long term rupture.
Resources:
National Domestic Violence Hotline: get-help
https://www.thehotline.org/plan-for-safety/
The Four Horsemen of the Apocolypse episode
My Linktree to find all workshop links and connect with me Have a great week mama!
This week on the podcast, we explore the misconception that making mistakes on the self-development journey means we aren’t making process.
With self-compassion, we can evaluate our journey and access the best version of ourselves.
Resources:
Lighter by Yung Pueblo
My Linktree to Work With Me Have a great week mama!
This week, I share my entrepreneurial journey and the self-beliefs that have helped me navigate this journey.
Resources:
Lighter by Yung Pueblo
Clarity and Connection by Yung Pueblo
My Linktree to find all workshop links Have a great week mama!
This week on the podcast, we explore the concept of codependency in friendships.
We talk about the characteristics of codependency in friendship, and discuss thought models on people pleasing and codependency.
Register for the Mindset Management masterclass here: https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZIvcOqprT4iG9Ed8fJFidQdgdVzCLCMfV5V
Resources:
Nedra Tawab Glover- Set Boundaries, Find Peace https://amzn.to/3RqIuCP
My Linktree Have a great day, mama
This week we chat about the ways we can allow for people to have agency apart from our expectations, using curiosity to soften us, and how to use our power to open to possibilites.
My Linktree Have a great day, mama
This week we chat about the ways we can allow for people to have agency apart from our expectations, using curiosity to soften us, and how to use our power to open to possibilites.
My Linktree Have a great day, mama
This week we chat about the ways we can allow for forgiveness to soften us, and how to use our power to forgive to open to possibilites.
My Linktree
The book On Forgiving
Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work Registration:
Meeting Registration - Zoom
Image: Nelson Mandela's cell on Robben Island
If you're ready to forgive, I'm cheering you on, mama.
Have a great day, mama
This week we chat about the ways we can allow for forgiveness to soften us, and how to use our power to forgive to open to possibilites.
My Linktree
The book On Forgiving
Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work Registration:
Meeting Registration - Zoom
Image: Nelson Mandela's cell on Robben Island
If you're ready to forgive, I'm cheering you on, mama.
Have a great day, mama
This week we chat about the ways we can allow for our awareness to impact our actions, and how to use our power to change and open to posibilities.
My Linktree
Byron Katie’s website www.thework.com Emotions List https://thework.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/Emotions_List_Ltr.pdf
Judge your neighbor worksheet https://thework.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/jyn_en_mod_6feb2019_r4_form1.pdf
Loving What Is https://amzn.to/3RAjpph
Weight Loss by Brittany www.weightlossbybrittany.com
Find something to celebrate this week!
Have a great day, mama!
This week we chat about the ways we can allow for our awareness to impact our actions, and how to use our power to change and open to posibilities.
My Linktree
Byron Katie’s website www.thework.com Emotions List https://thework.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/Emotions_List_Ltr.pdf
Judge your neighbor worksheet https://thework.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/jyn_en_mod_6feb2019_r4_form1.pdf
Loving What Is https://amzn.to/3RAjpph
Weight Loss by Brittany www.weightlossbybrittany.com
Find something to celebrate this week!
Have a great day, mama!
This week we chat about the ways we can allow for our awareness to impact our actions, and how to use it to notice and celebrate the little things.
My Linktree
Find something to celebrate this week!
Have a great day, mama!
This week we chat about the ways we can allow for our awareness to impact our actions, and how to use it to notice and celebrate the little things.
My Linktree
Find something to celebrate this week!
Have a great day, mama!
This week we chat about the ways we can allow for our partner to experience their emotions fully, help them with what they need, and work with our reaction to their emotions.
My Linktree
Register for the couple’s workshop using this link
Maggie Reyes’ Website https://maggiereyes.com
Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski https://amzn.to/3AffEPd
Have a great week!
This week we chat about the ways we can allow for arguments to go unsolved, and solve the solvable ones. We go over repair techniques and how to soften arguments while in them.
My Linktree
Register for the couple’s workshop using this link
Seven Principles for Making Couples Work
Have a great week mama!
This week we chat about the ways we can allow for gratitude and other emotions to coexist. We can be grateful for the summer and long for fall, with out one negating the other. Both can be true, especially in the more intense parts of our lives.
My Linktree Have a great week mama!
This week we chat about the ways we can allow for people to have thoughts about us that we disagree with, and work with criticism in ways that can help us in the long run.
My Linktree Have a great week mama!
Resources mentioned
Quiet- The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain
https://amzn.to/3Bq75De
5 things Reel: https://www.instagram.com/p/CgVmpLbAPF6/
This week we chat about the ways we can allow for and encourage evolution in our lives for more purpose and to grow into our highest selves.
My Linktree Have a great week mama!
Hey Mama,
This week we're talking about the power of the possibility that you are already enough. We can offer ourselves the validation that yes, we are good enough, are worthy, and belong, right now, as we are.
My Linktree Have a great week mama!
This week we're starting a series on embodiment and the nervous system in your every day life and for healing.
Books mentioned:
Becoming Safely Embodied by Deirdre Fay
Anchored How to Befriend your Nervous System, by Deb Dana
All my links:
https://smart.bio/stethoscopes.to.swaddles/
Hey mama!
This week we're talking about the metaphor from the Gottman Institute about the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in relationships. Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness and Stonewalling all come with antidotes to repair their damage. We dig into how to recognize them and work with compassion for ourselves and partners through them.
Please rate and review our show (five stars please), it really helps the show reach new mamas.
Have a great week mama, thank you for listening!
The Tapping Solution: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/the-tapping-solution/id1419815487
We will be continuing and concluding our conversation on investing in relationships. This is a continuation of episode 68 where we explored some of the ways we lose our bids for connection, episode 69 where we dove into emotional heritage, and how to examine it, and episode 70 about communication skills, listening skills, and the different forms of communication used to build and strengthen healthy relationships.
Here we're putting it all together into shared meaning and building a home within you relationship.
Register for The Mama Makeover Workshop- Relationship Edition Here
We will be continuing our conversation on investing in relationships.This is a continuation of episode 68 where we explored some of the ways we lose our bids for connection. and episode 69 where we dove into emotional heritage, and how to examine it.
Today we're going to talk about communication skills, listening skills, and the different forms of communication used to build and strengthen healthy relationships.
Register for The Mama Makeover Workshop- Relationship Edition Here
In this episode of Stethoscopes to Swaddles, we will be continuing our conversation on investing in relationships. This is a continuation of last week's episode where we explored some of the ways we lose our bids for connection. We began the conversation on how we discover our emotional connection communication systems. Today we are going to dive into our emotional heritage, and how to examine it.
We're going to talk about our emotional philosophy based on the four different kinds of emotional philosophies. We’re also going to talk about the value of emotional attachment and talk about a little bit about emotional vulnerability and why it's important in relationships.
Register for The Mama Makeover Workshop- Relationship Edition Here
And Baby Makes Three
The Relationship Cure
In this episode, we are going to have a conversation about investing in relationships. We're going to learn Six things that actually make it difficult for us to bid. We will also talk about how to build better connections with the significant people in our lives. We will discuss how to build better connections in our friendships, our marriages, dating relationships, and our relationships with our children. We'll also talk about the concept of the emotional command systems and in addition to that, we'll define those seven systems.Last, but not least, we'll talk about how to evaluate our emotional command systems. So, this is basically the second building block of our strengthening relationships series. And this one is going to be how to start investing, how to start practicing awareness and to start investing.
Investment is a noun, and it is described as the act of putting money, effort, time etc. into something to make a profit or get an advantage; or the money, effort, time, etc. used to do this. If you think about investing in time, investing in ourselves, investing in relationships- we are basically putting effort into something to achieve a result. And that is the second definition, which is the act of putting money or effort into something to make a profit or achieve a result. And the goal here is to achieve a result. And so, when we think about the result that we want in relationships, it's to communicate better in order to have better connections, to engage with each other from a place of understanding each other and loving each other.
This series is based on John Gottman's work and a series of other books that I've been reading, but primarily John Gottman’s book, The Relationship Cure, a five-step guide to strengthening your marriage family and friendships.
Show Links
Grab The Relationship Cure, a five-step guide to strengthening your marriage family and friendships on Amazon
My interview on the Marriage Life Coach Podcast with Maggie Reyes
Maggie's Course- The Marriage Mindset Makeover
Hey mama, Welcome to episode # 67. Today we are going to be talking about strengthening relationships and I am going to be talking about some of the work that I have been diving into and get asked about- making some serious decisions about how we want to strengthen our relationships. So whether you're thinking about strengthening your friendship or your marriage, your relationship with your children, or your workplace relationships; this episode is for you. So let's get started. Are you ready? So today, what we're going to talk about is the idea of bids for connection and this is based on John Gottman's work.
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Books Referenced: Click on Title for Amazon
Wired For Love
The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work
The Relationship Cure
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love
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Emotions List Byron Katie https://thework.com/wpcontent/uploads/2019/02/Emotions_List_Ltr.pdf
Do you struggle with speaking shame and shame resilience? I'm here to hear you. Sign up here for a free consultation with me: https://www.stethoscopestoswaddles.com/consulation
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Busy Toddler- proof-of-mom
Struggling with conflict in your relationships? I can help you. Message me Hello@stethoscopestoswaddles.com or book a free one hour consultation with me https://www.stethoscopestoswaddles.com/consulation
Maggie Reyes’ Course The Marriage Mindset Makeover
https://maggiereyes.com/makeover
https://www.stethoscopestoswaddles.com/consulation
hello@stethoscopestoswaddles.com
You're doing a great job ❤️
Happy Valentines Day
Hope you have a great week!
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Book mentioned: Burnout, Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily and Amelia Nagoski
Join the Facebook Page:
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Book a consultation for coaching:
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Books Referenced:
Atlas of the Heart - Brene Brown
The Big Leap- Gaye Hendricks
The story of Icarus
Mommy Makeover Masterclass- Saturday Jan 15th, 8pm CST
Stethoscopestoswaddles.com/events
Join on the Facebook Page for the Notebook and to connect with other great moms!
Books referenced:
Permission to Feel - Marc Brackett
Atlas of the Heart - Brene Brown
The Big Leap - Gay Hendricks
SMASH Goals 2022!
Specific
Measurable
Ambitious
Strategic
Hustle Proof
Pick one goal, practice that restraint and don't overwhelm yourself.
What would be impossible about that goal?
What are the obstacles I’m going to face? Expect the expected.
What can I do to make it more possible?
Who do I need to become in order to achieve that goal? What does that person think and do? What don’t they do? How would they manage their obstacles?
Make friends with regret to learn more. Make friends with confusion to discover more. Make friends with the failures that come when you really give it your all. Make friends with steady progress.
You’re doing a great job mama,
Have a great holiday season
Mama masterclass-Mommy Makeover Mindset edition-January
Stethoscopestoswaddles.com/events
This week we're chatting about how to change your belief patterns and I share tools that helped me and my clients build belief systems that help us thrive.
Creating separation between harmful thoughts and you:
“I'm thinking the thought that I’m not good enough at this thing and that I can’t do it”
Use the 4 questions of Byron Katie:
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Is this thought true?
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Can you absolutely know that it's true?
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What are the results when you believe that thought?
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Who would you be without the thought?
Visualization:
How do I want to be two years from now?
Write yourself a letter from the future you to the present you, explaining from their perspective: How you got to where you wanted to go, what you did, what you believed on purpose.
What does it feel like to be that person? What does your day look like? How you hold yourself? What are your habits? How do you react to obstacles in the way of maintaining those habits? What are your beliefs?
Plan and create the world around you. Try on the new thoughts like a new outfit. Practice the thoughts and beliefs, ask questions that will allow your prefrontal cortex to come up with answers and back up the belief and identity. At the same time hold compassion for future you and resist perfectionist expectations.
For example:
Why am I a good mom?
Why am I such a good friend?
What makes me really good at my job?
How do I show up for the person I'm becoming and am?
Comfort the resistance to a new path: “hey brain, I know you’re scared and uncomfortable, it’s going to be just fine, you will survive this discomfort”
What are you truly unwilling to feel?
What would that feeling really feel like and how long would it really last?
Shame:
Recognize it and understand it’s triggers.
Reality check that you’re human and it’s a normal human emotion that all of us feel sometimes.
Reality check the messages and expectations that are driving you to shame. Perfectionism leaves a wake of shame.
Reach out and connect, speak the shame with a friend who has earned the trust to hear it.
Engage with empathy and compassion for the circumstances that are driving the shame. Look at them with warmth. You are only human.
My Calendly: https://calendly.com/anesthesiamomblog/stethoscopes-to-swaddles-consultation?month=2021-12
My website: https://www.stethoscopestoswaddles.com/
The Stethoscopes to Swaddles Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/shiro.njoroge2
Atlas of the Heart: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0399592555?ref=exp_stethoscopes.to.swaddles_dp_vv_d
Squid Game on Netflix: https://www.netflix.com/title/81040344
Evaluating your thoughts
- Does this thought serve me?
- Do I want to keep it?
- Is this thought current or ancient?
Thought downloads- the art of mind observation and eavesdropping on your thoughts
List of Feelings https://thework.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/Emotions_List_Ltr.pdf
Permission to Feel https://amzn.to/3riyWAe
Atlas of the heart https://amzn.to/3ljxJoO
My Amazon Store https://www.amazon.com/shop/stethoscopes.to.swaddles
This week we chat with Jenn Wirth about our journeys with mental health after having a baby, normalizing intrusive thoughts, intense feelings, and compassion for your very human experience.
You can find Jenn:
@momsmaternalhealth
momsmaternalhealth.com
hello@momsmaternalhealth.com
Take care, Mama!
This Giving Tuesday we are featuring Teacup Wellness! They're a non profit passionate about the power of wellness coaching to help people live their best lives.
I chat with Anne Mitchell about her working motherhood journey, how her daughter turned out with a working mom (cassidymitchell.com), her healing, entrepreneurial journey, and how she's changing access to health coaching for the better.
Teacupwellness.org
https://www.facebook.com/teacupwellness/
https://www.instagram.com/teacupwellness/
https://www.linkedin.com/company/27151999/admin/
Attitude of Gratitude
Thanksgiving controversy
The Thanksgiving Tale We Tell Is a Harmful Lie. As a Native American, I’ve Found a Better Way to Celebrate the Holiday- Sean Sherman
https://time.com/5457183/thanksgiving-native-american-holiday/
“Would you just take, along with me, 10 seconds to think of the people who have helped you become who you are — those who have cared about you and wanted what was best for you in life. Ten seconds of silence — I’ll watch the time…….. (Pause) …Whomever you’ve been thinking about… how pleased they must be to know the difference you feel they’ve made.”- Mr Rogers
The speech: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Upm9LnuCBUM
Law of Gratitude:
The natural principle that action and reaction are always equal, and in opposite directions.
What Gratitude Does
- Brings my whole mind into closer harmony with the creative energies of the universe
- Leads my mind out along the ways by which things come;
- Keeps me in close harmony with creative thought
- Prevents me from falling into competitive thought.
- Keeps me looking toward the All
- Prevents me from falling into the error of thinking of the supply as limited; and to do that would be fatal to my hopes.
Emily Nagoski and Maggie Reyes Podcast episode : https://www.audacy.com/podcasts/the-marriage-life-coach-podcast-34198/sex-stress-gratitude-with-emily-nagoski-522231182
Teacup Wellness:
https://teacupwellness.org
The Warrior Women Project
Alok Beyond the Gender Bianary
https://www.dr-lulu.com/
https://www.facebook.com/askdoctorlulu
https://www.twitter.com/UchennaUmeh9
https://www.instagram.com/askdoctorlulu
https://www.linkedin.com/in/drlulu/
Email: coach@dr-lulu.com
@askdoctorlulu on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok
This interview is with Dr. Nkeiru Orajiaka, an ER Pediatrician who shares tips on how to keep your kids healthy and safe!
Her instagram is @dr_norajiaka
Her website is drnkeiru.com
Please enjoy this interview and join us next week!
Trigger warning for discussion of SA in the last third of the episode. Please take good care of yourself, you're doing a great job Mama, see you next week!
In this episode we talk with Jess Durando, a mental health care professional and pre and post natal coach. She helps women grow into the role of motherhood by taking great care of themselves first. Please enjoy!
Links to connect with Jess Durando:
https://www.instagram.com/mindbody.mamatherapist/
https://mamamethodwellness.com
In this episode we talk with Jess Durando, a mental health care professional and pre and post natal coach, helping women grow into the role of motherhood by taking great care of themselves first. Please enjoy!
Links to connect with Jess Durando:
https://www.instagram.com/mindbody.mamatherapist/
https://mamamethodwellness.com/about/
Join us next week for part 2!
World Thrombosis Day is October 13th
https://www.worldthrombosisday.org/ is a non-profit with many resources to learn more about early symptoms, risk factors, and current research.
Thank you for listening! Hope you have a great week.
Dr. Mayuri Appareddy shares how to take care of your baby to toddler's teeth, what to do when things aren't seeming right, and how she started her business as a new mom.
Website: www.kids360pediatricdentistry.com
Location: Richmond, Texas
https://www.facebook.com/kids360pediatricdentistry/
https://www.instagram.com/kids360pediatricdentistry/
In this episode we talk with Jess Durando, a therapist and pre and post natal coach. She is helping women grow into the role of motherhood by taking great care of themselves first. Please enjoy!
Links to connect with Jess Durando:
https://www.instagram.com/mindbody.mamatherapist/
https://mamamethodwellness.com
Thank you for listening to this interview with Dr. Claudine Holt!
Find her on Instagram: @theembodiedmd
Reach out: theembodiedmd@gmail.com
Book mentioned: Time Warrior by Steve Chandler Link
The FOUR QUESTIONS
- Is it true?
- Can you absolutely know that it is true?
- How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
- What emotions arise when you believe that thought?
- What images of past and future do you see when you believe the thought?
- How do you treat yourself and others when you believe the thought?
- Who or what would you be without that thought?
https://thework.com/instruction-the-work-byron-katie/
Disclaimer: The four questions aren't the right tool for a situation for when financial, physical, or emotional abuse is occurring. Please take a look at FreeFrom.org to learn more if you feel you may be experiencing these things. Abuse is real, dangerous, and there is support for you.
Gabrielle Union's new book is called You Got Anything Stronger and can be found at your favorite local bookstore.
October 2nd, at 2pm Central Standard Time - Shiro is teaching a workshop on overcoming mom guilt. Get your spot at Stethoscopestoswaddles.com/workshop
References:
https://www.amazon.com/Screenwise-Helping-Thrive-Survive-Digital-ebook/dp/B01LZPJB8J
Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive and Survive in Their Digital World
by Devorah Heitner, PhD
https://www.jessicalahey.com/the-addiction-inoculation
Jessica Lahey - The Addiction Inoculation
centerforconnection.org
Instagram.com/tinapaynebryson
References:
https://www.amazon.com/Screenwise-Helping-Thrive-Survive-Digital-ebook/dp/B01LZPJB8J
Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive and Survive in Their Digital World
by Devorah Heitner, PhD
https://www.jessicalahey.com/the-addiction-inoculation
Jessica Lahey - The Addiction Inoculation
centerforconnection.org
Instagram.com/tinapaynebryson
Parenting From the Inside Out by Daniel J. Siegel and Mary Hartzell
Topics covered in this episode:
- How we attach- relationships between us and our kids
- How we make sense of our lives- how we attach as adults
- How we keep it together- and how we fall apart
- How we disconnect and reconnect
- How we develop mindsight
Come back next week for the first half of my interview with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson!
Exploring our processes → a guide to deepening out understanding of ourselves, our children, and our relationships with each other.
- How we remember
- How we perceive reality
- How we feel
- How we communicate
Book - Parenting from the Inside Out
https://amzn.to/2UGQSqC
Motherhood from the inside out- Understanding yourself to raise thriving kids- Part One
Book - Parenting from the Inside Out by Daniel J Siegel
Buy on Amazon :
https://amzn.to/2UGQSqC
Anchor points:
- Mindfulness
- Lifelong learning
- Response flexibility
- Mindsight
- Joyful Living
Kim Davis
Certified Pediatric Sleep Consultant
Babes & Beyond
www.babesandbeyond.com
Email: babesandbeyond@yahoo.ca
The Wonder Weeks Book
The Wonder Weeks App
When you become a mother, there are shifts that will happen in your identity, priorities, work, relationships, body, essentially: your whole world.
This podcast delves into how we can move with those changes, embrace the new person you're becoming, navigate changing dynamics with friends, and maintain a connection with your full self.
Please enjoy the 29th episode of the Stethoscopes to Swaddles Podcast: Rebranding Mama!
We are all in the same soup and there are 2 sides to every fight
The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse:
Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt, Stonewalling
How to Fight:
Calm down by self soothing
Compromise
Repair- words, jokes, gestures
Apologize
Explain what was difficult
Ask for forgiveness
Listen
Process and understand fights
Fight fair
Ask for help- communicate
Ask for what you DO NEED
Recommended Reading
And baby makes three
How not to hate your husband after kids
Hold me Tight
The Mental Load of Motherhood
The mental load is a term for the invisible labor involved in managing a household and family.
MOTHERS AS CAPTAIN
Cicciola and Luthar, 2016
Invisible Household Labor and Ramifications for Adjustment: Mothers as Captains of Households
In the study, they sought to capture mothers’ felt obligations as the “captain of the ship” that was their household, that is, the extent to which mothers felt that they, more so than their spouses, shouldered responsibility for the management of the home.
WHY IT HAPPENS
Descriptive and prescriptive stereotypes
MEASURES
Emotional intimacy
Physical intimacy
Satisfaction with partner
Parenting role overload
Overall life satisfaction and emptiness
HOW TO IDENTIFY OVERLOAD
Burnout and depletion
Resentment and dissatisfaction
Overwhelm
Feeling unseen
MANAGING THE LOAD
Heighten awareness among today’s mothers of the degree to which and areas in which they might unwittingly shoulder disproportionate household responsibilities as compared to men, along with the potential fallouts.
“Mothering mothers” (Luthar and Ciciolla 2016, p. 1820).
Society should consider the magnitude of responsibilities mothers take on at home and at work, and equally, the degree to which mothers have opportunities to prioritize and make time for authentic connections with others to replenish themselves.
HOW TO NAVIGATE THE MENTAL LOAD
Share concrete examples of your mental load—> write them down
Ask for help with the management, not just chores
Continuous communication
Delegate and outsource
Task lists/ Project management
Prioritize rest and self care
Deconstruct gender stereotypes with partner and kids
Fair Play:” A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live)
- Eve Rodsky
Invisible Household Labor and Ramifications for Adjustment: Mothers as Captains of Households
- Cicciola and Luthar, 2016
The day the world changed- March 13, 2020
- Before the pandemic- our identities as mothers and employees were separated
- Many of the salient relationships described primarily transpired in our homes due to the constraints of social distancing and quarantine imposed by the
pandemic. - The four main themes
- mental load and exhaustion
- conflicting identities
- Shame cycle,- guilt, shame, gratitude
- connection and reflection
Links and articles mentioned:
Identity and Connection as Working Mothers during the Pandemic: An Autoethnographic Account- Brittany Arthur and Basheva Guy
Invisible Household Labor and Ramifications for Adjustment: Mothers as Captains of Households
What Is The Mental Load? The Invisible Labor Falling On Women's Shoulders
Return of the 1950s housewife? How to stop coronavirus lockdown reinforcing sexist gender roles
Trimester 1,2,3,4,5- Pregnancy and Beyond, You Can Survive
INTRODUCTION
Lauren Smith Brody: The Fifth Trimester
The Fifth Trimester is when the working mom is born. If the first three trimesters are pregnancy and the fourth is the newborn phase, the fifth is when mom heads back to work…often before she’s physically or emotionally ready to be there. And yet there she is, because that’s the reality for American women right now. (25% of new working moms are back on the job two weeks after birth. And only 56% of working moms even qualify for unpaid FMLA leave. The percentage who can afford to take all of that time off unpaid is even lower.)
THE CHANGING BODY
Hair Loss
Honor your body
Be patient with your body
PLANNING THE RETURN
CHILDCARE
Daycare
Nanny
Family
PLANNING TO QUIT
It’s normal
The Five steps
The discomfort is temporary
Think about what you get out of work
Realize what your job gets out of you
Consider phasing back in
Enjoy a bit of success
RELATIONSHIPS
Partner
Make time for each other
Date nights
It’s his baby too
Communicate, communicate
How not to kill your husband after having kids
Pick no battles
Friends
Changing dynamics
Ask for help
WORK CHANGES
Dry run before the actual return day
Shift flexibility
Pump breaks & Pumping spaces
Know your rights
Speak up
Choosing part-time
Postpartum mood disorder support
ADA accommodations
Prioritizing your career or not
Judging and shaming
Formula vs. breast milk, co-sleeping vs sleeping solo, sleep training
Handling the conversations
Acknowledge their interest. “I appreciate that you’re thinking about what’s best for our family. I know you love us/ care. Here is what we think is best.
Legitimize their cultural cluelessness. “As you can see, this is a topic and debate that so many people are having right now. Here’s the choice we’re making”
Deflect their attention by asking, “What did YOU do?”
PEDIATRICIAN APPOINTMENTS
4 Month
Check your baby's weight, length, and head circumference
2nd round of (DTaP, Hib, polio, PCV, and rotavirus)
6 month
Physical
Weaning questions
Developmental milestones
This concludes the series of Trimester 1, 2, 3, 4, 5- Pregnancy and Beyond, You Can Survive. Thank you for joining us on this journey! You're welcome to reach out with any questions with an email to Hello@anesthesiamom.com
Please rate the show if you feel called to, it really helps us reach and help more moms.
Trust that you're making the right choices. Take pressure off of yourself to try everything. You're doing a great job Momma, see you next week!
Trimester 1,2,3,4,5- Pregnancy and Beyond, You Can Survive
The fourth trimester is a period coined by Dr. Harvey Karp as the first 3 months of a baby’s life after birth. Dr. Karp explains that babies are born too soon!
This is a period of major transitions.
BABY’S SLEEP- MOMS ON CALL
https://momsoncall.com
THE WONDER WEEKS
https://www.thewonderweeks.com
You're doing a great job.
Trimester 1, 2, 3, 4, 5- Pregnancy and Beyond, You Can Survive
The Third Trimester
The third trimester begins in week 28 of pregnancy and lasts until you give birth, which may be around week 40 of pregnancy.
After listening to this episode, you’ll know what to expect in the 3rd trimester and how to prepare for the arrival of your baby.
Trimester 1,2,3,4,5- Pregnancy and Beyond, You can Survive
INTRO
The second trimester starts in week 14 of pregnancy and lasts through the end of week 27.
THE CHANGING BODY
- Growing belly and breasts
- Braxton Hicks Contractions
- Skin changes- linea nigra, melasma
- Congestion→ nosebleed due to the increase in hormones (estrogen and progesterone) and blood flow that affect the mucous membranes and blood vessels in the nose.
- Swelling
- Gum health → gum bleeding to the increase in hormones (estrogen and progesterone) and blood flow that affect the mucous membranes and blood vessels in the mouth
- Round ligament pain
- Hemorrhoids
- Varicose veins
- Fatigue
- Weight gain-Expect to gain about 12 pounds in the second trimester
- UTI
- Vaginal discharge-white-colored vaginal discharge called leukorrhea
- Quickening
WARNING SIGNS
- Heavy vaginal bleeding,
- Vomiting that is preventing fluid intake for more than 24 hours.
- Severe abdominal pain
- Fever over 101.5 F.
- Gestational Diabetes
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Trimester 1,2,3,4,5- Pregnancy and Beyond, You can Survive
The first trimester is the earliest phase of pregnancy. It starts on the first day of your last period -- before you’re even actually pregnant -- and lasts until the end of the 13th week.
The changing body
1. Fatigue
2. Morning sickness
3. Breast tenderness
4. Bleeding
Emergency Symptoms During the First Trimester
1. Severe abdominal pain
2. Heavy bleeding
3. Severe dizziness
4. Rapid weight gain or too little weight gain
Prenatal vitamin
Ob-Gyn visits
What/how much should I eat during pregnancy?
Exercise
Avoid putting pressure on your abdomen. Get rest and move your body to keep your muscles healthy. Bring up any concerns with your doctor.
Cases to avoid?
- Total joints- Bone cement aka methyl methacrylate- O2 mask, Z
- Radiation- maximal fetal dose should not exceed 0.5 rem/ 50mrem/ month- ionizing radiation XRAY, IR-->double lead, step out, fetal dosimeter
- Cytotoxic agents- chemotherapy, HIPEC
- Peds- inhaled inductions with nitrous
- CMV - Transplant cases
- Extracorporeal shockwave lithotripsy (ESWL) --Noise→ fetal hearing
Childcare- nanny vs daycare
1. Consider your lifestyle and specific needs
2. Get childcare lined up ASAP, especially if you live in a big city
Maternity leave/ FMLA rules
1. Do research on your hours etc. early on to take care of future you
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Values highlight what we stand for. They can represent our unique, individual essence.
DEFINE YOUR VALUES
Step 1: Peak Experiences: Identify the times when you were happiest, proudest and most fulfilled
Step 2- Valley experiences: Identify the times when you were unhappy, feeling shame, and unfulfilled,
Step 3: Look at the themes in those experiences to prioritize your top values
Step 4: Evaluate Your Top Values
Step 5: Value Appraisal: Does it resonate with how you genuinely want to live? How do you want to integrate them in your life?
CORE VALUES LIST
https://jamesclear.com/core-values
Authenticity, Achievement, Adventure, Authority, Autonomy, Balance, Beauty, Boldness, Compassion, Challenge, Citizenship, Community, Competency, Contribution, Creativity, Curiosity, Determination, Fairness, Faith, Fame, Friendships, Fun, Growth, Happiness, Honesty, Humor, Influence, Inner Harmony, Justice, Kindness, Knowledge, Leadership, Learning, Love, Loyalty, Meaningful Work, Openness, Optimism, Peace, Pleasure, Poise, Popularity, Recognition, Religion, Reputation, Respect, Responsibility, Security, Self-Respect, Service, Spirituality, Stability, Success, Status, Trustworthiness, Wealth, Wisdom
BOUNDARIES
Boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify for themselves what are reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave around them and how they will respond when someone steps outside those limits. (outofthefog.net)
Mentioned Reference:Black, J. & Enns, G. (1997) Better Boundaries: Owning and Treasuring Your Life. Oakland, CA. Raincoast Books)
TOGETHER
Values inform how you make decisions on your boundaries. They empower you to live with ease and fulfillment, with fewer regrets and resentments along the way.
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After listening to this episode, you will learn how to recognize burnout, and learn how to complete the stress cycle. "Burnout is a syndrome conceptualized as resulting from chronic workplace stress that has not been successfully managed. It is characterized by three dimensions: feelings of energy depletion or exhaustion; increased mental distance from one’s job, or feelings of negativism or cynicism related to one's job; and reduced professional efficacy. ‘- World Health Organization
Human Giver Syndrome- The contagious belief that you have a moral obligation to give every drop of your humanity in support of others, no matter the cost to you.
Compassion fatigue - after years of attending to the needs of others, while dismissing our own stress, uncontrollable incomplete stress response cycles accumulate in our bodies.
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TIME MANAGEMENT
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“There is an art to clearing away the clutter and focusing on what matters most. It is simple and it is transferable. It just requires the courage to take a different approach.” George Anders
The One Thing
Ask yourself the Focusing Question. Start each day by asking, “What’s the ONE Thing I can do today for (whatever you want) such that by doing it everything else will be easier or even unnecessary?” When you do this, your direction will become clear. Your work will be more productive and your personal life more rewarding.
Mindset Shifts
“Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there.” — Will Rogers
Live with Purpose, Live by Priority, and Live for Productivity
The Four Thieves of Productivity
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Inability to say No
- “You can say no with respect, you can say no promptly, and you can say no with a lead to someone who might say yes. But just saying yes because you can’t bear the short-term pain of saying no is not going to help you do the work.” - Seth Godin
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Fear of Chaos
- Things may get messier before they get better
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Poor Health Habits
- Sleep. Please.
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Environment Doest Support your goals
- Connect with people who support your goals, and ask for support when you feel you need it
Creating Your Time Management Plan
- Brain dumping
- Eliminate all distractions
- 1 hour a week
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Get everything out onto the page
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Time Blocking & Calendaring
- Time block your time off
- Time block your ONE thing
- Time block your planning time
The Eisenhower Matrix
Dwight D. Eisenhower was the 34th President of the United States from 1953 until 1961.
Eisenhower had an incredible ability to sustain his productivity not just for weeks or months, but for decades. His most famous productivity strategy is known as the Eisenhower Box (or Eisenhower Matrix) and it’s a simple decision-making tool that you can use right now.
- IMPORTANT AND URGENT→ Do first
- IMPORTANT BUT NOT URGENT→ Schedule
- URGENT BUT NOT IMPORTANT→ Delegate
- NEITHER URGENT NOR IMPORTANT→ Don't do
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Recommended Reading
The ONE thing - Gary Keller https://amzn.to/3fRafFo
Atomic Habits- James Clear https://amzn.to/2PEXDqg
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“Wholeheartedness is like a North Star. You can never get there. But you know when you’re heading the right way.”- Brene Brown
Cultivating is about creating something positive. It’s moving you forward by putting your oars in the water to row your boat on the sea of life.
Letting go is about removing resistance. It’s detaching the anchors from your boat, so you make effective progress when you row.
Without creating the positive, you won’t move forward. And without releasing what weighs you down, your progress is limited, slow, and painful.
The term “guidepost” also signifies that wholeheartedness is a way of travel, not a destination.
Guidepost 6: Cultivating Creativity and Letting Go of Comparison
Creativity doesn't require talent- everyone is creative! Comparison impedes creativity
Watch a kid being creative- Zero pressure
ACTION STEPS:
What’s your favorite way to be creative?
Start creating and share your gifts with the world!
Pay attention to when you get caught up in comparison. How does comparison feel?
What’s good in your life?
Check that list against your to-do list and to accomplish list
Take that NAP!
Guidepost 7: Cultivating Play and Rest, Letting Go of Exhaustion as a Status Symbol and Productivity as Self-Worth
Sleep and Rest go hand in hand. Sleep debt is real! Pay your debts.
“Play is the stick that stirs the drink. It is the basis of all art, games, books, sports, movies, fashion, fun, and wonder—in short, the basis of what we think of as civilization. Play is the vital essence of life. It is what makes life lively.”
― Stuart M. Brown Jr., Play: How It Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul
May 2008 TED Talk : https://www.ted.com/talks/stuart_brown_play_is_more_than_just_fun?language=en
“Kids don't run to get in shape; they run to feel the wind in their face and the grass beneath their feet. Kids don't chat over coffee; they make jokes and play games with their friends. Kids don't network; they bond while they're having fun together. There is no ego. There is no guilt. There is no past to regret, and no future to worry about. They just play.”
― Charlie Hoehn, Play It Away: A Workaholic's Cure for Anxiety
ACTION STEPS:
Schedule time for unstructured play. Have a dance party- even if you have 2 left feet. Heck, play with slime!
Notice when the thought that “play and rest are luxuries” shows up in your mind. That’s like a warning sign that you’re in need of rejuvenation. Use it as an opportunity to recommit to your top self-care practices.
Brene suggests - make a list of “Ingredients for joy and meaning”- what specific conditions are in place when everything feels good?
GUIDEPOST 8: Cultivating Calm and Stillness and Letting Go of Anxiety as a Lifestyle
Calm is a practice!
“Creating perspective and mindfulness while managing emotional reactivity”- Brene Brown
“The Dance of Connection”- managing anxiety- over functioning or under functioning
ACTION STEPS
Find what works for you
Mindfulness- Start a daily meditation practice or a 5 min journaling practice
GUIDEPOST 9: Cultivating Meaningful Work, Letting Go of Self-Doubt and Supposed-To
What is meaningful work?
Self-doubt undermines the process of finding our gifts and sharing them with the world- Brene Brown
Imposter syndrome
Supposed to- the battle cry of fitting in, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and proving yourself
To overcome these- we have to start owning the messages
What makes us afraid
What's on our supposed to list
Who says so?
Why?
Do not ignore these messages- acknowledge them, write them down and ask the messaged “What do you do? Where are you from? How are you armor? Can I let you go and be safe?”
I’m a wife, mom, CRNA, Mentor, Digital course creator, Life Coach, - The slash effect. You contain multitudes.
Overcoming self-doubt is all about believing we are enough and letting go of what the world says we are supposed to be and call ourselves
ACTION STEPS:
Identify what meaningful means to you
Reflect on what your unique gifts are, and start sharing them with the world. As Howard Thurman instructs: “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
When you notice that you’re should-ing on yourself, pause and switch directions. Drop “should” and “supposed-to” from your vocabulary and replace it with “want.” (So “I should do X” becomes “I want to do X/Y/Z.”)
GUIDEPOST 10: Cultivating Laughter, Song, and Dance. And Letting Go of Cool and Always in Control
Next time you have the thought “But what if people think I’m weird…” Remember that fitting in is far less important than making authentic connections with others. Don’t let a fear of looking weird prevent you from doing the things that serve you.
ACTION STEPS:
Make a playlist that helps you let go and be goofy and lean into the joy of movement and singing
Notice the little opportunities for laughter and play and take them
IN SUMMATION
Play, dance, take joy in not comparing your creativity with anyone else's, take a nap, slow down, notice your “shoulds” and take solace in the fact that you are enough as you are right now in this moment.
SHOWNOTES- Imperfect Parenting
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Introduction to wholehearted living
According to Brené Brown, “Wholehearted living is about engaging with our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion and connection to wake up in the morning and think, ‘No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough.’ It’s going to bed at night thinking, ‘Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.”
Wholehearted living is a process and a journey of a lifetime- what do we bring along? What does it take to live and love from a place of worthiness? Embrace imperfection? Cultivate what we need and get rid of the things holding us back?
Courage, compassion, connection- the tools we need→ the gifts of imperfection
Practices- the courage to reach out. “You learn courage by encouraging”- you learn motherhood by mothering
Shame- practice courage and reach out. We have the right to own our story and share it with someone who has earned the right to hear it, whom we can count on to respond with compassion
Comparative suffering and shame
Courage- cor- latin for heart
We can be compassionate and hold others accountable for their behaviors with boundaries
Love and belonging go hand in hand. Worthiness has no prerequisites. Self love and compassion is KEY
Shame, fear, and vulnerability
Who do you become when you’re backed into the shame corner?
How do you protect yourself?
Who do you call to work through it?
What's the most courageous thing you could do for yourself when you feel small and hurt?
We don't need love and belonging from everyone in our lives, but we need if from at least one person
THE WHOLEHEARTED LIVING GUIDEPOSTS- PART ONE
Cultivating authenticity. Letting go of what people think
Authenticity is a choice and practice.
Authenticity is a daily practice in letting go of what people think we are supposed to be, and embracing who we are
Cultivating self compassion. Letting go of perfectionism
Shame is the birthplace of perfectionism
Feeling shamed, judged and blamed are realities of the human experience
Dr Kristin Neff. Components- self kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness
Cultivating a resilient spirit. Letting go of numbing and powerlessness
Definition of resilience
People who are resilient- seek help, have social support and connection
Disappointment, entitlement and performance pressure are a recipe for hopelessness and self doubt
Entitlement vs agency
Numbing - if you numb the negative, you numb the positive
Alcohol, drugs, food, sex, codependecny, money, taking care of others, overplanning, staying busy, overspending
Purpose, meaning and perspective move us forward
AEIOUY- Have I been abstinent today, have I exercised today, what have I done for myself today, what have i done for others today, am i holding on to Unexpressed emotions today, Yeah! What’s something good that's happened today
Cultivating gratitude and joy. Letting go of scarcity and fear of the dark
Gratitude is a practice
Gratitude vs toxic positivity- Not denial of the comfort or discomfort in our lives
Cultivating intuition and trusting faith
Intuition tells us what we need to do
Intuition is not a single way of knowing- it's our ability to hold space for uncertainty and our willingness to trust the many ways we've developed knowledge and insight, including instinct, experience, faith and reason
“Something told me”
See you next week!
The phrase "the good enough mother" was coined by the British pediatrician and psychoanalyst D. W. Winnicott in his famous book Playing and Reality. On this episode, explain the concept of the good enough mother and apply it to working motherhood.
My hope is that , after listening to this episode, you, the listener will feel empowered because you will have learned how to show up as a good enough working mother, which will allow you to give yourself grace, and parent with intention.
To download the Action Plan, go to www.stethoscopestoswaddles.com/goodenoughmom
Connect with Dr Venuto Website , Instagram,
Preview The Something’s Gotta Give : Managing Motherhood and Multiple Roles During Covid-19 Course** here
Join the Facebook Group for Moms In Medicine Here
RESOURCES MENTIONED
Free and Low Fee Therapy for Essential Workers- Project Parachute and Therapy Aid Website or on Facebook
The Primal Scream - New York Times Series on Working Moms
Primal Scream Line 212-556-3800
Catalyst for Selfcare Instagram
Heal Our Healers Facebook Group
Marco Polo App
National Sucide Prevention Line Website, Phone number: 1-800-273-8255
Postpartum Support International Website Phone number 1-800-944-4773
Compulsive Screen Use Support Group Website
Connect with Dr Venuto Website , Instagram,
Preview The Something’s Gotta Give : Managing Motherhood and Multiple Roles During Covid-19 Course here
Join the Facebook Group for Moms In Medicine Here
RESOURCES MENTIONED
Free and Low Fee Therapy for Essential Workers- Project Parachute and Therapy Aid Website or on Facebook
The Primal Scream - New York Times Series on Working Moms
Primal Scream Line 212-556-3800
Catalyst for Selfcare Instagram
Heal Our Healers Facebook Group
Marco Polo App
National Sucide Prevention Line Website, Phone number: 1-800-273-8255
Postpartum Support International Website Phone number 1-800-944-4773
Compulsive Screen Use Support Group Website
The 5 Love Languages
- Gifts
- Acts Of Service
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Physical Touch
Learn Your Love Language
Find Out Your Enneagram
My Favorite Enneagram Account on Instagram
How to Love Each Enneagram Type -by Kristi Rowles
Kristi Rowles On Instagram
Shame Resilience Theory (SRT) . (Credits- Brene Brown)
SRT offers a working definition of shame and a conceptual identity for shame. Through the
development of a continuum schematic, SRT describes the main concerns of women experiencing shame and identifies the strategies and processes women find effective in developing shame resilience (see Figure 2).
Additionally, the theory identifies 11 topical areas that present distinct challenges for women.
- Appearance and body image,
- Sexuality,
- Family,
- Motherhood,
- Parenting,
- Professional identity and work
- Mental and physical health
- Aging
- Religion
- Speaking out
- Surviving trauma.
Components of shame resilience:
- Empathy
- Connection
- Power
- Freedom
My Interview With Aissa on The Gift to Shift Podcast
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My Interview With Aissa on The Gift to Shift Podcast
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On this episode, I spoke with Cyndy, mom to Kelsie, and Kyle (18). Kyle is on the autism spectrum, and Cyndy shares her experiences with us. Find Cyndy on Instagram-Here . Check out Kyle's Art Here
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Dr. Tiffany Woodus has over 10 years of experience in healthcare. She completed a Doctor of Medicine degree from The University of Arkansas for Medical Sciences in 2006. Subsequently, she completed an internship and residency in Obstetrics & Gynecology from The University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center (UTSW)/Parkland Health & Hospital System in 2010. She is a women’s health advocate and recently established Woodus Obstetrics & Gynecology, In Cedar Hill Texas, to further her commitment to providing ALL women with the rights, respect, and resources necessary to thrive in every aspect of their healthcare. She is truly committed to Improving Black Maternal Health Outcomes. To see what Dr. Woodus is up to on social media, and stay in touch- Instagram, Facebook YouTube Channel. In this podcast episode, we discussed dysmenorrhea (painful periods), fibroids, pelvic inflammatory disease, birth control options, and vaginal hygiene. It was such a refreshing conversation, and we also touched on finding balance as a mother, especially in medicine. We also talked about prioritizing our families while navigating busy careers. This conversation is the first of many, and I'm grateful that Dr. Woodus was so generous with her time and knowledge.
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Benefits of outsourcing household tasks
- Time is money- save time
- Save money
- Stress management- enables you to make time for self care
Barriers to outsourcing- Guilt
"Powerful famous women don’t say out loud that they have help at home, that they have nannies, housekeepers, chefs, assistants, stylists―whatever it is they have to keep their worlds spinning because they are ashamed. Or maybe a more precise way to say it is that these women have been shamed.”- Shonda Rhymes
The 9 tasks you should be outsourcing
- Household chores- Housekeeping, Laundry,Landscaping, Appliance and furniture assembly (Task Rabbit)
- Grocery shopping: Instacart, Amazon Prime Now, Amazon Fresh
- Meals and Baby Food
Uber Eats, (Click link to save $20 off your first order of $25 or more), DoorDash, (Click Link to Save $10 off each order of $15 or more, for a total of $30 savings), Postmates, SNAP kitchen (Click Link to Save $45 off your first SNAP kitchen order, or use my code MNJO-756) , Little Spoon, - Errands
Dry cleaning pickup- Favor- Use code SHIRB8 to get $5 off when you try Favor
Tasks- Task rabbit - Package pickups- UPS, USPS, Fedex
- Finance
Autopay
Bank alerts
Bill Pay - Photo Books, Holiday cards--Shutterfly, Chatbooks
- Shopping for clothes Online shopping , Trunk club ,Stitch Fix ,Fabletics
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Dog Walking
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Key Takeaways- Check your priorities, resources, and abilities. If you enjoy certain tasks, you don't have to outsource them. Make the decisions that best suit your family, and don't let the mommy- shamers get to you.
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According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), about 10 percent of women (6.1 million) in the United States ages 15-44 have difficulty getting pregnant or staying pregnant.
Infertility means not being able to get pregnant after one year of trying (or six months if a woman is 35 or older). Women who can get pregnant but are unable to stay pregnant may also be infertile.
On this weeks podcast, I discuss this topic with renown fertility specialist , Dr Ertug Kovanci, MD of HART IVF Fertility Clinic
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HART Fertility IVF Clinic Website- https://www.hartfertility.com
HART Fertility IVF Clinics can also be reached on Instagram here
Do women's brains really change with pregnancy and childbirth? On this episode, I share my mom journey and the mental health challenges that come with pregnancy, childbirth and the postpartum phase.
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RESOURCES:
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The Center For Postpartum Family Health Website
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Postpartum International Website
THE SCIENCE: Pregnancy leads to long-lasting changes in human brain structure-
We continue to pelvic floor conversation and delve into painful sex Dr Esther Amagoh, DPT is here to discuss this topic in-depth. All about me- click here To subscribe to my blog, click here Find Dr Esther on her website here, and follow her on Instagram
Has anyone ever told you that it’s normal to pee when you sneeze or cough after having kids? If you believed this, I’m here to tell you they were wrong. Join me, as I talk to Dr Esther Amagoh, DPT. We explore the pelvic floor anatomy, and discuss common issues. All about me- click here To subscribe to my blog, click here Find Dr Esther on her website here, and follow her on Instagram
On this episode, I'm joined by my dear friend, Dr Nehdia Mumuni. We explore her motherhood journey and talk about her experience since her daughter's cancer diagnosis at age 1.
Some fast facts
- Soft tissue sarcomas account for about 7 to 8 percent of childhood cancers.
- Rhabdomyosarcoma is the most common type of soft tissue sarcoma in children.
- About two-thirds of rhabdomyosarcoma cases are diagnosed in children younger than age 10.
- More males than females and more caucasians than African-Americans develop rhabdomyosarcoma.Soft tissue sarcomas account for about 7 to 8 percent of childhood cancers.
- Rhabdomyosarcoma is the most common type of soft tissue sarcoma in children.
- About two-thirds of rhabdomyosarcoma cases are diagnosed in children younger than age 10.
- More males than females and more caucasians than African-Americans develop rhabdomyosarcoma.
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World Breastfeeding Week 2020 is on August 1-7, 2020
🤱🏾This year’s theme is “Support breastfeeding for a healthier planet”. In line with this theme, WHO and UNICEF are calling on governments to protect and promote women’s access to skilled breastfeeding counseling, a critical component of breastfeeding support.
In this episode, I interview Abigail Sanders of @motherhood.nutritionist Find Abby on Instagram
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Medication and Mother's Milk Website
Publication on Dysyphoric milk ejection reflex on PubMed
🤱🏾 I think that it’s sad that in 2020, working moms in America still feel unsupported by their employers when it comes to breastfeeding. Many healthcare mamas cite their struggles with finding a proper place to pump at work( I’ve heard of mamas pumping in the bathroom at work), getting flack for taking pumping breaks, or being shamed that their pumping is decreasing their productivity.
🤱🏾How sad is it that we are expected to give excellent care to our patients yet get little support when we want to ensure that we continue to provide nourishment for our children?
🤱🏾And let’s not forget the people who take issue with mothers nursing their children in Public and expect them to go do it in the bathroom. Please support moms in their breastfeeding journey.
My name is Shiro Bergbauer, DNP, CRNA. I am a wife, mom, and certified registered nurse anesthetist. I have been in healthcare for the past 16 years, and a mom since 2018.
Becoming a mom was a huge shift and transition from me. I needed to find information on transitioning to becoming a working mom that was relevant to my career and I found that most information was targeting corporate moms who work traditional 9-5 hours. As I surveyed moms in medical careers, I realized the paucity of content addressing our needs. We take care of other people at work and at home. We aren’t always equipped for the transition from clinician to working mom, and this isn’t how it should be.
Stethoscopes to Swaddles was born to address this need. My goal it to help moms in medicine, nursing, and allied health in their transition to working motherhood. We all seek balance and I’m here to help you find that ❤️ And let me be the person to remind you: “You’re doing a great job, mama!”