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Parent Driven Development
Turns out children arrive with no manual. There's no coherent online tutorial. Between staying up to date with emerging technologies and balancing work and home life in an industry that often requires un-timeable bug fixes, on call schedules, and more, working parents are balancing a lot. Parents are also exploring additional technical issues like "screen time" or internet privacy, coming at these issues from a different perspective as technologists ourselves. We cover all of these topics and more using a panel of parents coming from diverse perspectives and a variety of technological backgrounds. We'll shine light onto these issues and provide a valuable food for thought for these folks. Want to ask a question that the panelists can discuss in an episode? Email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. And if you're loving the podcast and want to support us, please visit our Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev)!
Parent Driven Development Episode 067: Goodbye, for now. 1:00 Parent Driven Development reflects on what it’s like being a panelist on the podcast Imposter syndrome Multiple purposes to be an effective parent Expanding perspectives, ideas, and parenting techniques Ability to relate with one another 8:40 What we hope to our listeners take away from the podcast There is no one way to parent You’ll continue to grow as a parent You are not alone - every parent, kid, family, circumstances are different 13:30 What would we have done differently? Earlier sponsorship Episode format 16:15 Parting words for listeners Thank you!! You’re doing a great job. 17:17 Final genius and fail moments Chris Sexton’s daughter uses the word arithmetic with her peers, but no one knows the word leading her to question whether her parents played a prank on her. Allison calms down her family with deep breathing after her daughter has a potty accident. KWu’s 3-year-old son feels super proud after helping shovel the snow, and he helped! Chris Arcand finds the perfect snow sled for his son to be towed around in the deep Minnesota snow. How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p)
Parent Driven Development 66: Finding a new job during the pandemic. Welcome, Jean Hsu! Jean Hsu (https://twitter.com/jyhsu) is a writer, coach, and software engineer turned leadership coach after working for a decade in Silicon Valley. She is the VP of engineering at Range Labs (https://www.range.co/) and Co-founder of Co Leadership (https://coleadership.com/), which focuses on filling the gaps in leadership development in the tech industry. Jean doesn’t miss writing code, but she does miss deleting it. 0:53 Finding a new job during the pandemic Desire strikes for leadership The hiring process 5:20 How did the pandemic change your thought process Intentionality of specific desires - management, leadership, flexibility Enjoying the journey rather than letting comparison or stress take over 7:30 What would Jean do differently now? Finding ways to lean into async communication with a remote team in different time zones, while keeping the team engaged and connected with each other Hybrid mix of in-person and remote is the future for companies 13:13 Pre-pandemic commute tales Feels like a different lifetime 15:40 New expectations for Range during the pandemic Getting rid of the 9-5; windowed work with colored labels Core hours for team meetings Setting boundaries 19:40 Genius and fail moments KWu closed her son’s fingers between a door hinge… #fail Allison’s daughter turns 3 and shines at her yearly doctor's appointment. #genius Jean downloaded TikTok and discovered the best parenting hack to tell your kids to do a task, rather than ask. #genius Chris brings back his daughter's love of Star Wars. #genius How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Special Guest: Jean Hsu.
Parent Driven Development Episode 065: Teaching Programming to Kids with Felienne Welcome, Felienne! Felienne (https://twitter.com/Felienne) is the creator of the Hedy programming language, and was one of the founders of the Joy of Coding conference. Since 2016, she has been a host at SE radio, one of the most popular software engineering podcasts on the web. Felienne is the author of “The Programmer’s Brain (https://www.felienne.com/book)” a book that helps programmers understand how their brains work and how to use it more effectively. In 2021, Felienne was awarded the Dutch Prize for ICT research. 0:50 How does Felienne become interested in programming education? Research field towards programming education Love of kids 3:33 Methods and strategies to help kids understand Relevant for professionals Full concentration disables full memory, so she lowers the cognitive load After time, memory starts to build and functioning increases 6:02 Maximizing different learning styles in kids Learn their preferences Challenges their default learning style 9:57 Felienne’s new book How people learn programming The more information you know about your brain can help you understand how you learn 11:40 Interesting findings Cognitive load 14:00 Top tips related to programming Refactoring for personal comprehension Let go of one golden standard that code is suppose to look like 17:29 Specific differences between professionals and kids Motivation Concrete vs open ended expression 20:50 - 1 take away Take the kids hands, and guide them 22:20 Allison and her husband score a few days each solo as they transition back into their home #genius Felienne’s students fuss over the different symbols of division in coding #fail How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Special Guest: Felienne Hermans.
Parent Driven Development Episode 064: Moving and Renovating 0:30 Moving and renting realities KWu moves Allison’s home renovations Preparation before the kids 4:30 Toys Ethical parenting of getting rid of toys Hiding and cleaning out old toys from the kids (out of sight out of mind) 10:05 Establishing new house rules Setting realistic expectations on new floors, new rooms, new finishes Furniture socks (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07SD38SGV/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1&pldnSite=1) Furniture caster cups (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07RQMYMKW/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1&pldnSite=1) Respect and Take Care of Things (https://www.amazon.com/Respect-Take-Things-Learning-Along%C2%AE/dp/1575421607) Learning to get along book series (https://www.freespirit.com/series/learning-to-get-along/) 18:35 Caution police in new house Acceptance is key Roommates with no impulse control.. your kids. ;) 22:40 Genius and fail moments KWu’s kids got into some old and slimy carrots meant for the compost.. But at least they’re eating vegetables! Allison’s son gets shut down from her parenting synchronicity with her husband. How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p)
Parent Driven Development Episode 063: Fear in Parenting 0:40 Fear and stress of parenting From independent… to having dependents Trends of becoming more conservative once a parent 2:50 Decision making process High alert, more burden than non-parents Different decisions and problems at different stages of the kids Background buzz of constant anxiety 6:40 Different stresses Physical dangers for smaller kids, choking hazards Trying to avoid helicopter parenting Screen interest, programming, and patience 10:55 Big anxieties Screen time !! Constant worry and stress for modern parents with kids Augmenting reality through screens - stress for middle school aged parents How to foster new sibling relationships Siblings Without Rivalry (https://www.amazon.com/Siblings-Without-Rivalry-Children-Together/dp/0393342212) - book How to avoid middle child syndrome with three kids, carve out alone time with each child Feeling guilty to tell kids to play by themselves.. But it’s also important to learn 21:35 Genius and fail moments from the last week KWu moves to a new house and her son is waking every night from terrors or feeling too cold as she’s been keeping the thermostat down real low. #fail Jess’s son is a pretty adventurous eater and recently discovered balsamic vinegar which is now a new favorite! #genius Chris makes biscuits and conjures a family night which turned into a great family time. #genius How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Jess (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Chris S (https://twitter.com/crsexton) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl)
Parent Driven Development 062: Celebrating Our Favorite Episodes from the past 3 Years! Episode Highlights KWu, Chris, Josh, and Allison reflect on the past 3-years of podcasting. They touch on their favorite episodes and guests over the years, as well as some favorite parenting genius and fail moments! 1:30 Episode 43 - Managing parents on your team with Nick Means 3:10 Episode 19 - Being Adults, Live from Ruby Conf with Jonan Scheffler 7:25 Episode 11 - Being a Trans-Parent with Jess Szmajda 10:35 Episode 26 - Breastfeeding with Allison, Mandy, and KWu 13:06 Episode 13 - Babies at Work Program with Leah Silber 14:38 Episode 39 - Parenting Roles and Gender Equity with Richard Schneeman 15:50 Episode 34 - Extracurricular Activities with Barrett Clark 18:18 Episode 20 - Fertility Struggles with Adam Cuppy 19:55 Josh's rememberable genuis and fail moments 22:40 Genius / fails Allison questions herself as a parent due to a Hanukkah gift gone wrong Josh bans Elf on Shelf and his daughter starts to question Santa Claus Chris nails the Christmas lights on his son’s bed.. But then begins to question everything when he begins to struggle getting his son out of the car to go to school. KWu and her son enjoy a fresh snowfall! How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Josh (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris S (https://twitter.com/crsexton)
Ep 61 : DHH on being Internet Famous with Kids 1:48 Welcome, DHH (https://twitter.com/dhh) David (https://dhh.dk/) is the creator of Ruby on Rails, cofounder & CTO at Basecamp, best-selling author, Le Mans class-winning racing driver, frequent podcast guest, and family man. 2:50 Security concerns Social Media COVID times Parenting boundaries 13:45 Privacy Picture surplus Authenticity 16:45 Engagement with parenting on the web The highlight parenting reel Avoid the humble brag as a parent Internet jousts DHH recommended books: The Myth of the Spoiled Child (https://www.amazon.com/Myth-Spoiled-Child-Challenging-Conventional/dp/0738217247/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1609190913&sr=8-1) - Alfie Kohn Punished by Rewards (https://www.amazon.com/Punished-Rewards-Trouble-Incentive-Praise/dp/0618001816) - Alfie Kohn * The Self-Driven Child (https://www.amazon.com/Self-Driven-Child-Science-Giving-Control/dp/0735222517) - Ned Johnson 26:30 Introducing privileges to his kids Capitalism Against artificial constraints placed on by parents A life not centered around materialism The Road To Wigan Pier (https://www.amazon.com/Road-Wigan-Pier-George-Orwell/dp/0156767503) - George Orwell 38:38 Genius / Fails Arit makes a crib boundary with a creative new upcycle KWu wrestles with a photo book for her kids Chris fails on fail this week DHH is off by an hour as his kids come home right as this podcast starts Allison’s daughter challenges her patience during bed time How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris S (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Arit (https://twitter.com/AritAmana) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Special Guest: David Heinemeier Hansson .
Ep 60 : Must Haves for Parents Facebook Rabbit Holes for Parents + Kid Toys Subculture for wooden toys The Nugget couch (https://nuggetcomfort.com/products/the-nugget) Parents become hyper focused on specific products Careful what your Google How to choose your Facebook groups The Social Dilemma (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uaaC57tcci0) Social media groups are "bad"/addicting, but also useful.. Geo-fencing - creating fairer ways for international purchases The lottery Lucie's List (https://www.lucieslist.com/) Pandemic toys for the New Year More pressure for parents Moms targeted mostly in the Facebook Groups Marketing kids toys with trigger language: “Investment piece” Parents: You are doing a GREAT job. Genius / Fails KWu tries to rotate out toys and clothes for her son, but things aren’t going well. Allison smoothly close out virtual Ruby conf while managing multiple interruptions from her kids How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p)
Parent Driven Development 059: Hiring and Interviewing Jess, Chris S, and Allison discuss the hiring and interviewing process in tech. They share their experience as the interviewee, as well as the interviewer. The team identifies the underlying bias in the process, good signs and bad signs, and why it's important to set up a potential interviewee in the best environment possible. 01:45 Hiring and Interviewing in tech Jess writes a book and gets a new job How to reduce bias in interviewing process 03:33 Tech interviews hinder parents and caregivers Take-home vs pairing session Hiring managers should set up the interviewee in the best possible scenario 6-8 hours for a take-home test, unrealistic for caregivings 09:50 How to access talent Everyway is flawed Take-home - kids constantly interrupting Paired - many engineers are introverted Solutions: Short at-home mixed with pairing, or problem prompt 13:30 Bias How to reduce: rubric for every round, being aware of the bias Allison asks about parental leave, and feels the tone shift drastically Legal protection, but a lot of fuzzy areas 16:45 Good signs for parents interviewing Its a non-event when a child pops into the room while on a call Companies reward evenly Talk with team members outside the interviewing committee Talk with someone you relate to on the team, mom, trans, BIPOC, etc 20:30 Bad signs for parents interviewing The entire tone changes after asking about parental leave.. Judgmental, leadership team of non-parents 22:00 Handing flexibility Ask about parental leave, primary and secondary leave Be honest with needs Workplace flexibility 28:37 Genius / fail Jess deals with her son having accidents constantly Chris and his kids play board games and jam out to all songs names satellite Allison’s daughter sparks chaos when she leaves her room after bedtime… but soon learns to stay in her room to tire herself out. How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Jess (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris S (https://twitter.com/crsexton)
Parent Driven Development Episode 058: Co-parenting with Brandon Hays Welcome Brandon! Brandon Hays (https://twitter.com/tehviking) is a dad and engineering leader based in Austin, TX. His professional mission is to help the tech industry improve by organizing people to accomplish things together in environments that recognize and support their "human-ness". His personal mission is to survive parenthood until the kids are in college. 02:40 Brandon's co-parenting Starting with traditional gender roles Co-parenting was a foriegn concept until remote work.. The invisible work becomes more visible Covid has forced parents to confront the amount of work it takes to raise kids 06:30 Co-parenting during the pandemic Awareness that things changed… kids cannot return to school Brandon becomes the educator during the pandemic The amount of work to parent became too high when everything shut down Reworking the home dynamic when one partner needs help Asking for flexibility in places where he had previous thought was not available before 10:53 Working out responsibility between partners Clear contracts Splitting up tasks and making them known to each partner Alternating cooking dinner and clean up Family clean day Creating activities for kids, even after a long day Check in with your partner, how are you feeling burden? 14:05 Recognize your partner's strengths Being comfortable with how each partner co-parents Recognition of each partner Optimize each parenting style and continue to check in Asking and taking the self-care when it is needed 17:30 Working together 19:10 How has Covid refocused things?! Strengthened the team mentality Hard to sustain the intensity of the pandemic Constant change, the on-call parent 24:40 Prioritization - Do our actions line up with our values? 27:00 Take away: preserve time for planning and reflection 28:35 Genius / fail moments Allison checks in while her son is in virtual school and feels major mom guilt… Chris’s family visits and brings his camper for a huge win! Arit slyly phases out her daughters stuffed animal #genius Jess’s son goes full into minecraft, but it may be too much.. #possiblegenius KWu repurposed geotags for wooden toys for her kids #genius Brandon get creative taking pictures of his kids in their natural habitat How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand) Jess (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Arit (https://twitter.com/AritAmana) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Special Guest: Brandon Hays.
Parent Driven Development Episode 057: Virtual School 03:04 Welcome to Parent Driven Development (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) 03:30 Virtual school with school age children Kindergarten, middle school, high school Missing out on the life experiences Pros and cons 05:25 Exposure to other students Not enough time to build up relationships within the zoom chats Teachers stepping up to engage the kids with each other and in class Tough in kindergarten because the kids can’t break off without a teacher 11:29 Less the supervising time on virtual school First week, very hands on, but less and less over time Kids have learned to adapt quite quickly 14:00 Extra hands to help Parents can do work, but not focused work while supervising zoom school Extra help definitely makes a difference 15:45 Homework Losing track of how to turn in assignments for middle/highschoolers No take home HW for kindergarten State assessments Perk - you can rewatch the class video if you have questions 21:45 Teacher Props! Powerpoints Yoga and stretch breaks Partner reads Side chats Parent updates 25:00 Is life better with zoom school? Allison is satisfied with the cards dealt, but mourns the first day of school memories Chris thinks in some ways, it’s better 30:15 Genius / fail moments Chris figures out how to turn facetime back on his son’s devices, but has to keep track of his use.. #genius/fail Allison plans her move around the time of year her kids would need to change seasonal clothes. Less work, more organized #genius How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Chris S (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p)
Parent Driven Development Episode 056: Child Care Educators with Jessica Sager of All Our Kin (http://www.allourkin.org/). All Our Kin is a nationally recognized nonprofit organization that trains, supports, and sustains family child care educators—transforming opportunities by ensuring that children and families have the foundation they need to succeed in school and in life. Jessica Sager is the co-founder and chief executive officer of All Our Kin. A graduate of Barnard College and Yale Law School, Jessica co-teaches a Yale University seminar on “Child Care, Society, and Public Policy”. She has provided commentary on child care issues for Time, The Hill, New America, and Education Week. She currently lives in New Haven, CT, with her husband and their fifteen-year-old daughter. 00:58 Welcome, Jessica Sager (https://twitter.com/JessicaSagerAOK)! Paul Tough: Helping Children Succeed (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1328915425/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=1328915425&linkCode=as2&tag=parentdrivend-20&linkId=b3be62e936537154a801cc4a4bea5963) & How Children Succeed (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0544104404/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0544104404&linkCode=as2&tag=parentdrivend-20&linkId=11d9df235d0967b7c4922d09e3db7e5d) Child care as profession in the home Making invisible workers as child care professionals visible through All Our Kin 04:18 Changing the way we value child care in our society Low income, closures, possible risk of losing convenient access More visible with current covid crisis At a crossroads 06:30 We’re not meant to raise kids alone - How All Our Kin helps All our kin in supporting child care educators around the country through their model Advocate for a different way to treat child care Direct work to educators and family; delivery ppe, public health guidance, supporting emotional and mental wellbeing of child care educators, playing new virtual roles 10:03 How can others help advocate for child care View as public good Employers need to step up 12:40 The impact in marginalized communities Positive impact on the economy; all our kin as a rate of return 15-20% on their investment Equity; making sure kids have a safe place to go even during the pandemic Non standard hours are needed most by essential workers 16:50 Family care network Designed as a hub and place of support for educators; helping people become licesned to become a professional educator, support them as educators, training on how to run a business, located in a place/community and building out their network. Educators are often passionate and utilize all the support and tools of All Our Kin to make meaningful and lasting change 20:20 Moving to the virtual space People are showing up! Connection is desired and needed 22:10 Local support wins Cultural differences, but deep similarities for shared passion and love for raising kids New Haven model succeeds in the Bronx and Nebraska 25:50 Genius / fail moments Kwu makes an awesome new corn chowder recipe, but her toddler wasn’t enjoying it.. #fail Chris struggles to get his kids online for zoom school.. As a senior engineer himself.. #fail Jess is at a crossroads over too much screen time for her son… but minecraft.... #genius/fail Jessica got an adorable pandemic kitten, but the kitten has been zoom bombing important school and work presentations. #genius on the kitten #fail on the zoom bombs How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Chris S (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Jess (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Special Guest: Jessica Sager.
Parent Driven Development Episode 055: Jambo Books (https://jambobooks.com/) 02:22 Welcome, Mijha Godfrey! Mijha Godfrey is the founder of Jambo Books (https://twitter.com/jambobooks). Jambo, which means both “hello” and “welcome” in Swahili, is a book subscription service for children aged 0 – 13 where all the books feature lead characters who are children of color. The stories in Jambo Books (https://jambobooks.com/) focus on the beauty of childhood, the joys of friendship and family, the thrill of new adventures, the wonderful tapestry that is the life of a child of color. Mijha is passionate about helping parents raise children who won’t need to be taught how to tolerate people who are different from themselves because they will expect and enjoy healthy inclusion. 04:04 The importance of a diverse library Not letting experience resonate in only trauma or holiday 05:25 When should parents start showcasing different representations in their community to their children? Yesterday.. aka ASAP, as young as infants Race is recognized from an early age and the earlier exposure the better Showcasing universal things all children go through, not just culturally recognized celebrations Normalizing life experience of children of color 09:32 Jambo celebrates all representations Books are a gentle gateway Letting children of color know that they belong in all spaces 13:40 How do you choose books for Jambo? All books sent out are fiction Must star a child of color Has to be a good story, impactful 15:45 How do you introduce the ideas in the books to your children? Confront stereotypes head on! Can I touch your hair? 19:40 What push back have you experienced? Standing strong in their mission 24:20 Tips for book storage? More shelves! Recycle and pass forward books in the community 26:15 Genius / fail moments KWu's son turned 3! Yayy.. but feeling guilty that she is a couple years behind on the yearly photo albums. #fail Allison's daughter boy-cots her virtual doctors appointment, her son zips off virtual kindergarten and chaos is all happening at once! #fail Arit's daughters nails a technical aspect of potty training. #genius Mijha's daughter reads a book that sparks a racail conversation on a playdate. History well learned, but not wanting to her daughter to do the race work #winfail How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community! Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Arit (https://twitter.com/AritAmana) Special Guest: Mijha Godfrey.
Parent Driven Development Episode 054: How to Manage Your Tech Career With Kids 01:17 How do personal priorities and desired job circumstances change? Flexibility + time off Managing parents during emergencies Building resilience within a company 08:18 Chaos monkey Applying the method to people Setting quality expectations that everyone agrees on 10:45 Benefits are important Healthcare, dental care, infertility, adoption, etc… 12:46 Perceiving direct reports from a manager perspective about what parents really care about Salary should fit one's needs, they aren’t worried if their kids need braces What employees care about matters! Managers syncing up for 1:1 calls is essential Standing meetings 17:30 Time management Planning interruptions as a parent Coding flow Essential reminders Working nights and weekends by choice 27:57 Genius / fail moments Chris Arcand hacked his three-year-old sleep with a soothing sound bath #genius Chris Sexton’s son is a Scout and had to tackle the virtual retreat by sleeping in the yard for one week to mimic the real thing. Quarantine win #genius How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community! Panel Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton)
Parent Driven Development Episode 053: The Parenting Playbook (http://v.fastcdn.co/u/418c7173/35282756-0-The-Parenting-Playbo.pdf) with Anna Mackenzie Sponsor: Nurture Life (https://www.nurturelife.com/?utm_source=instagram&utm_medium=social_paid&utm_campaign=conversion&utm_content=influencer_parentdrivendevelopment-20200326&pc=PARENTDRIVEN) Welcome, Anna Mackenzie (https://twitter.com/whatsupanna) Anna Mackenzie is a Software Engineer who is dedicated to improving parental leave policies in tech. She is currently working at Voiceflow, a software startup that specializes in workflow tools for building voice experiences. She is the co-author of “The Expecting Playbook,” a toolkit that helps start-ups of all sizes to roll out supportive parental leave policies. Her follow-up book, titled “The Parental Playbook,” provides start-ups with the necessary tools to support parents upon their return to work. In 2018, Anna was named as one of the Top 25 Women of Influence in Canada, as well as one of the Top 30 Women In Tech Making a Difference by the DMZ. 02:40 How did you come up with the idea? Why write these books? Being a minority in the industry Starting to ask difficult questions to companies she was interviewing for No startup policy that lead to leadership roles for women Companies need a better hiring practices for women 05:50 Asking about parental leave during interviews Maternity AND paternity leave Are companies set up to have employees transition easily in and out of leave? 08:40 Changing perspective in the workplace The work place was designed for a world that no longer exists The necessary reason to be LOUD about things you believe in 13:35 Good policies get great people Employer thinking about childcare > parents thinking about childcare Diversity includes parents 17:10 How are companies adjusting to parents during COVID19 Moms are typically affected more How can we restructure what work looks like - long overdue! 18:40 How to be inclusive of parents when they come back from leave Changing activities other than happy hour Adding a lock to the pumping room The importance of having diverse leadership and voices 20:45 Psychological safety What’s OK for parents to mention to their team? Will the team think less because a parent is sleep deprived Employees do better work 26:15 Genius / fail moments KWu gets her son to help with the dishes one utensil at a time to keep him from making a mess in the living room. #genius Allison creates an obstacle course to keep her kids occupied, which includes a captain’s hat! #genius Arit stays consistent potty training her daughter and finally gets onto the other side of potty training! #HUGEwin Anna’s dog gets sprayed by a skunk at a friend's house, cleans him off and then goes home, to only get skunked again in her backyard!! #fail How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community! Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Arit Amana (https://twitter.com/AritAmana) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Special Guest: Anna Mackenzie.
Parent Driven Development Episode 052: Taking Breaks 02:16 Taking breaks as a parent, how have you been coping? Is everyone taking breaks? Chris breaks with home projects Allison opts for a few full days off, rather than breaking during her day KWu dives into Downton Abbey (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B004KAQQ5E/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B004KAQQ5E&linkCode=as2&tag=parentdrivend-20&linkId=b55bfd713a79c6abf4f9c6ea8e4c60c6) 07:32 Productive breaks Increasing your home ROI Decreasing internet time during “breaks” Home improvements 09:15 A break crisis! Dinner Time chaos How syncing self care time with business trips is no longer an option Making an intention plan for a stay-cation 15:35 Planning for fun Animal Crossing (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07SL6ZXBL/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B07SL6ZXBL&linkCode=as2&tag=parentdrivend-20&linkId=3ee6c16aa6d2b59ebde325b35a4a11c9) Making lists 18:43 Choosing not to make the adult decision Binging on a novel late at night Sometimes choosing the wrong thing is the right decision 23:25 Genius / Fail moments Chris shares his parents-only “secret food” with the kids #genius Allison spooks her kids by hiding from them after they don’t want to go along with their normal bedtime routine and it was a major success #genius KWu says yes in the moment but wasn’t actually prepared for her son to join her in the kitchen.. #fail How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community! *As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases. Panel Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl)
Parent Driven Development Episode 051: Allowances for Parents with Scott Hanselman (https://www.hanselman.com/) Welcome, Scott Hanselman (https://twitter.com/shanselman) Scott is a programmer, teacher, and speaker. He works out of his home office in Portland, Oregon for the Web Platform Team at Microsoft. Scott has been blogging for 10 years and enjoys blogging about technology, culture, gadgets, diversity, code, and the web. Scott is excited about community, social equity, media, entrepreneurship and above all, the open web. 02:49 Allowances for kids and parents Father of two boys The large “A”, and the little “a” Partner side-eyeing How to make online banking unscrollable Sunday cash withdraw 06:01 The mental shift around money How much money can you spend without consulting your partner? 08:05 Marriage first, kids second Intentionality, goals, visions - what’s the plan? Scott’s marital mission statement* - we’re on the same side 10:43 Cash only for allowance The feeling money brings Teaching our children the value of the dollar Greenlight APP - mock debit card Spend, save, give 16:15 Allowance $$$ amounts Required chores, that you don’t get paid for! Scott’s perspective around allowance vs. chores Teaching the kids how not to be a bad roommate 17:50 Should parents incentivized tasks for the kids Spread the effort - rotate chores Having the kids contribute Perception management - to teach our kids the value of a dollar 23:45 Family commitments as roommates and peers Context switching with parenting 24:16 Genius / fail moments Chris’s son, 3-year-old, tunes into Disney Plus only to watch a movie that is terrifying to him #fail Arit’s daughter as a mishap with potty training #fail Scott tries to show his kids movie classics, but #fails by choosing the wrong ones, on the otherside Scott and his family are doing a deep dive of American History inspired by current events #genius Allison has a #genius when her kids create and play Ice Cube games to keep themselves entertained
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Parent Driven Development Episode 050: Agile Household (https://yvonnemarcus.kartra.com/page/xt271) with Yvonne Marcus (http://www.yvonnemarcus.com/) Yvonne is a home system strategist, mom of two, lover of Girl Scout cookies, cake, craving song parodies and getting outdoors with the family. She is on a mission to revolutionize everyones view of #MomLife. She is the creator of your Agile Home, a four-week course that looks to get your family together, feel like a valued member of the team, instilling autonomy and having fun! 00:50 Welcome, Yvonne Marcus (https://twitter.com/agileyvonne) Background in TV production How Agile Home came about Bringing Agile into her home Establishing family values 07:10 When and how is Agile executed in Yvonne’s house? WFH, toddlers and setting values Run as SCRUM (https://amzn.to/3f8TYaW) The sprint process, and day-to-day process 10:40 Are the kids involved? Daily SCRUM board: white board (https://amzn.to/2BGMQVC) + Scrum board home toolset (https://amzn.to/2D96yJX) They participate in bi-weekly check in Dance party and breaks are essential 13:09 Accountability without the nagging Assignments to the person with the more strengths in that specific area 14:45 How do we get skeptical families on board? Start with the daily stand-up Start on your own, showcase success, then show those with doubts 18:50 Quarantine times Get rid of #MomGuilt ! 20:00 Genius / Fail moments Kwu’s children have both fallen to the ground from various chairs in the past week… #fail Chris Sexton and his wife didn't have any troubles with a PDD Twitter poll.. #win Arit creates a schedule for her son for his Zoom class and school work after realizing her son kept coming to her with every question #geniusfail Chris Arcand’s son is starting to say anything and everything he feels. Sassiness to come #fail Yvonne becomes the fun mom by dying her kids hair #genius Allison and her partner create space for “virtual travel” for her to prepare for GitHub’s satellite conference #genius
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Parent Driven Development Episode 049: Arit Amana (https://twitter.com/AritAmana) 01:50 Welcome, Arit! Software engineer Mother of two, 8 and 3 years-old Background in public health 02:50 Panel check-in Pandemic times Adjustment for the kids, work and home life Stress level through the roof 06:20 Childcare Responder Duty while WFH The younger the child, the more work required for the parent Calendar essential (https://amzn.to/30V9sKz) for parent and kids Animal crossing (https://amzn.to/3hE5EEa) is the new obsession and a MUST 18:35 Arit jumps into a new role - Dev Community Open source coding Async communication style Flexible during the day with her youngest child Arit’s older son helps by taking care of his school work on his own 23:45 Work-life boundaries Allison works few weeks on, to take a day or two off 24:55 Genius / Fail moments Arit has success by taking the kids out for a walk after work that get her youngest sleeping through the night #genius Kwu’s daughter has some spit up discovered on her crib sheets post nap, unsure of what happened.. #geniusfail Chris and his wife are both working longer even though they are not commuting to work and dinner keeps getting pushed back later and later.. 10p late #genius because everyone is aligned even though hours aren’t typical Allison has a win by sharing photo journalism with her five-year-old son and keeps him occupied while also sharing some solid knowledge.
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Parent Driven Development Episode 048: Darcy Lockman - All The Rage: Mothers, Fathers and The Myth of Equal Partnership (https://amzn.to/2EuvzQz) 00:23 Welcome, Darcy (https://twitter.com/Darcy_Lockman)! Darcy Lockman is a former journalist turned clinical psychologist and the author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership (https://amzn.to/2EuvzQz). Her first book, Brooklyn Zoo, chronicled the year she spent working on the psychiatric ward of a city hospital. She lives and practices (for the time being virtually) in New York City. 00:39 Orgins of All The Rage (https://amzn.to/2EuvzQz) Child care falls on Darcy more than her husband.. moms more than dads? Why are we living like this? The impact of patriarchy on all of us 04:25 Patriarchy instilled into our culture Women carry 65% childcare work, while men carry 35% The feminine is looked down in society Communality / agency - girls raised to be more communal, boys are raised to be more agentic Women join the workforce, but keep up with childcare duties 09:32 How to guide kids with equal partnership at home Kids easily influenced from their outside world Identification with the same sex parent Gender detectives - searching for the group that they belong in The one way glass study Women have this idea that their male partner should not be inconvenienced, and that it’s ok if they are 16:17 Is being traditional wrong? What good dads get away with Stay at home mom stigma 19:05 Dual earning couples is sole focused on from All The Rage Book After work “breaks” ?After work “breaks” ? Unequal experience, unequal ability Taking care of children takes practice Paid paternity leave for men in other countries - use it or lose it 24:20 Who is responsible for the mental load? Techniques to share the workload Women tend to feel more responsible and may have to unlearn this feeling of taking no time off Underbenifitor / Overbenifitor - both sides uncomfortable 29:50 The pandemic is making the invisible workload more visible Possible progress to be made in couples 32:45 Genius / Fail moments JC’s kids have been helping around the house since the pandemic hit, including dinner! #geniuswin Chris grounds steak with kids to make tacos. They were a hit and ready to go, until Chris accidentally dropped a glass dish right next to the taco meat and glass got in the taco meat… Dinner restart #fail Darcy embraces a sugar vacation during the pandemic and let’s her girls feast on junk food that is usually not allowed. #genuisfail maybe?? Get your copy of All The Rage! (https://amzn.to/2EuvzQz)
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Parent Driven Development Episode 047: Black Lives Matter, How to be Anti-Racist (https://docs.google.com/document/d/1BRlF2_zhNe86SGgHa6-VlBO-QgirITwCTugSfKie5Fs/preview?pru=AAABcnX07hc%2APm8gUUGqTq4TxCwAWKNadg&fbclid=IwAR0y2_zK_2nsTviltzZr9ILXJRHa2xxj4xO0zALLye3pAB7HmOOoyfNQ1S8), How to Talk to Your Kids about BLM 00:20 Black Lives Matter Movement 02:00 How NOT to raise racist kids Allison and Kwu both have young kids, so conversations are slightly different Gender inequality talks Explaining to kids how and why people are treated differently in different areas Changing the language in the house: racism, violence, hate 07:50 Exposing pictures, graphics and videos to your children, no matter the age. What's appropriate? Protesters getting arrested Bail rates vary depending on race Children are very intuitive and understand more than we think 11:30 How to talk to young kids about BLM Bi-racial and how they are often judged by their outer appearance Comfortability amongst couples and how to lean into these conversations with their children 17:40 Rallies, protests and how to support Different forms of support during BLM COVID is still relevant Amplifying POC voices Daily threads on educational resources, city statuses, anti-racism resources, action items 25:10 How can we make our world better together Opening the conversation about anti-racism with friends, family, community members Focusing on the growth of our children to be anti-racist 28:45 Genius / Fail moments Allison’s son struggles with life after the virus as he starts to jump on their nerves from a relaxed approach at the beginning of quarantine #fail KWu focuses on finding a chinese immersion school for her son but it he jumps into the wrong level and doesn’t understand much and is a bit of a mess from lunch right before #fail RESOURCES: BLM and how to talk to you kids about racism Anti-Racism Resources (https://docs.google.com/document/d/1BRlF2_zhNe86SGgHa6-VlBO-QgirITwCTugSfKie5Fs/preview?pru=AAABcnX07hc%2APm8gUUGqTq4TxCwAWKNadg&fbclid=IwAR0y2_zK_2nsTviltzZr9ILXJRHa2xxj4xO0zALLye3pAB7HmOOoyfNQ1S8) Black Lives Matter for Families (https://blmweekd65.weebly.com/for-families.html) Webinars for Anti-Racism (https://www.embracerace.org/resources/webinars) WOKE Kindergarten (https://www.wokekindergarten.org/) How to Talk to Your Kids About Racism (https://www.prettygooddesign.org/blog/Blog%20Post%20Title%20One-5new4?fbclid=IwAR1erPdRJlJ9BI2y63RXb0Htks9lIsYJ-6m016SlmTgt1Rk-fYprp1_sE44) Books on Social Justice for Young Readers (https://www.slj.com/?detailStory=great-books-social-justice-middle-grade) Raising Race Conscious Children (http://www.raceconscious.org/workshops-and-consultations/) Talking About Race: The Smithsonian’s National Museum of African American History and Culture (https://nmaahc.si.edu/about/news/national-museum-african-american-history-and-culture-releases-talking-about-race-web) BOOKS: These are books that we found to be helpful in unlearning old beliefs and learning more about modern day racism. A Kids Book About Racism (https://amzn.to/32YHG2u) So You Want To Talk About Race (https://amzn.to/3g88dxT) How to Be an Antiracist (https://amzn.to/3f88MXl) The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness (https://amzn.to/3hH30O7) White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism (https://amzn.to/39F1MQv) How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community! *As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases. Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Katherin Wu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl)
Parent Driven Development Episode 046: Mike McQuaid on paternity leave, Balancing Dad Podcast, and raising kids in different countries. 03:08 Welcome Mike McQuaid (https://twitter.com/MikeMcQuaid)! Mike McQuaid is a father of two and lives and works in Edinburgh, Scotland. He is a senior engineer at Github where he’s worked for the last six years. In his free time, Mike is the package leader for the Homebrew (https://brew.sh/) package manager. He also likes going to the gym, walking his dog and hosting the Balancing Dad Podcast (https://balancingdads.com/) for working fathers. 03:40 Paternity leave Split time paternity leave (aka, you can break up your paid leave) Utilizing quarantine time to potty train 07:52 Mike on Balancing Dad Podcast (https://balancingdads.com/) Gender roles can creep in easily during transitioning into new parents Women are asked more, “how do you do it all,” but men are not.. Allison shares how society pushes relationships to not be equal 15:35 Mike shares a better future is possible! Listing both parents on kids forms, or switching who is listed as primary contact. 18:32 What has Mike learned for hosting Balancing Dad Podcast? No matter the country, finances, age, relationship, all parents share a universal bond at the foundation 20:18 Culture difference with raising kids in different countries Maternity and paternity leave Healthcare Language/slang Diaper vs. nappies Scotland is very friendly to kids Different ways of being a parent and share with other parents 27:30 Worldly talks with our kids Traveling around the world with kids Discussing computer friends from around the world helps expanding cultural knowledge Remote work flexibility and setting boundaries with work 31:20 How does Mike manage all he does?! Firm boundaries No work or open source emails on his phone Work days are carved out and scheduled for certain things Setting expectations for certain projects Making things good enough, not perfect 32:20 Genius / Fail moments Chris was in a bit of a hurry with his son in the car and he picked up Chris getting agitated with other drivers and kept repeating “move cars, stop going so slow”. #fail Allison rocks a #genius with her son Devin and showcases his “Devin’s agreements” above the fireplace Mike slowly becomes frustrated with his younger son, while his older one sits and waits for a fork to eat, only to have him notice way after the fact... #fail Mike uses the phrase “just this once” and realizes that it will never be just this once ;) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand) Special Guest: Mike McQuaid.
Parent Driven Development Episode 045: Miriam Tocino - Zerus and Ona (https://amzn.to/32YJZma) 01:56 Welcome Miriam (https://twitter.com/miriamtocino)! Zerus & Ona (https://amzn.to/32YJZma) were born from Miriam's own circumstances as a mom. By the time she had her baby, Miriam was the coordinator and teacher of a Development Bootcamp in Amsterdam. So, when the time came to go back to work (her son was 3 months old), she jumped back. After some weeks in the job, Miriam realised she couldn't do it. She was constantly sleep deprived and with no help around from family (we're expats). Miriam quit her job and stayed at home with her baby. She then started to use his naps to draw and write Zerus & Ona (https://amzn.to/32YJZma). *FREE PDF from Zerus and Ona on the ABCs of Computers (https://zerusandona.com/parentdriven) 03:29 Orgins of Zerus and Ona (https://amzn.to/32YJZma) Miriam was leading tech bootcamps, then got pregnant Her baby was more work than expected ;) Miriam returns to work, but quit after a few weeks after returning Sleep deprived evenings inspired new ideas! 08:40 Finding more intention as a new mom Thriving through a creative outlet Craving more information for her child in the future, specifically around TECH Motherhood and creativity are interconnected 2 year journey to build Zerus and Ona 15:05 Switching from architecture to tech to creative children’s books Binge learning and career switching No regrets 19:05 Zerus and Ona “bits” Breaking down complex topics to make them easily understandable Miriam switches from thinking with her head, to listening with her heart. Unlocking creativity through The Artist's Way (https://www.amazon.com/Artists-Way-25th-Anniversary/dp/0143129252) Intuitive writing, journaling and play! 28:15 Zerus and Ona 2.0 Evolution of creating the books If you’re thinking of making a move, do it! Learning to move on from perfectionism 32:20 Genius / Fail moments Miriam allows her son a device while she finishes a project (unheard of in her house), only to discover all her original drawings of Zerus and Ona are GONE afterwards. #fail Allison’s son acts out more than usual during a super busy week for the family and realizes that maybe their communication could have been clearer with him from the start #fail Chris commits to structuring a new art piece with his daughter by watching YouTube videos. He ends up paying someone else, but instills a solid mindset in his daughter during the process #genius Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Get your own copy of Zerus and Ona (https://amzn.to/32YJZma) As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases. Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Special Guest: Miriam Tocino.
Parent Driven Development Episode 043: Recipe Swap 01:15 Welcome! 02:04 Feeding kids is a full time job What are your meal time rules? Home delivery meal service Personal chef for the kids?? No… Meal time is meal time, and if the kids don’t eat, tough nuggets. 08:59 Dinner table time Phone vs no phone? Are you a fast eater or slow eater? Time to share conversations with the family Limiting or monitoring the amount of food for kids, do you do this? Sometimes the doctors have given us parents too much to mull over... 13:12 Food as restriction or reward? Dessert time - it’s a thing that is to be enjoyed Keto desserts… YUM Quest cookie obsessed (https://amzn.to/3jRlmxy) Keto cake (https://chocolatecoveredkatie.com/2019/09/08/keto-cake-recipe/) Chocolate chip cookies (https://www.fatforweightloss.com.au/keto-chocolate-chip-cookies/) 19:25 Cook at home vs. ordering out Meal prepping during the weekend to prepare for the week. This makes it quicker and easier. Less work too ;) No meat preschools - managing meals around kids school food programs. Therapeutic time in the kitchen Leftovers are best and easiest! Ever hear of module dinner architecture? KWu and her family utilize this magic. Meal deliveries for the win - Home Chef (https://www.homechef.com/), Green Chef (https://greenchef.com/), Nurture Life (https://nurture.life/parentdrivendevelopment) Keto 101: Simply Keto: A Practical Approach to Health & Weight Loss, with 100+ Easy Low-Carb Recipes (https://amzn.to/3f90puL) Kosher (https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/what-is-kosher) household 27:05 Household hacks Breakfast for dinner (https://www.delish.com/cooking/g1636/breakfast-for-dinner/?slide=3) on Friday nights. What’s your favorite?? Kids Eat in Color (https://kidseatincolor.com/)- tips on how to present food to your kids Secrets of Feeding a Healthy Family: How to Eat, How to Raise Good Eaters, How to Cook, by Ellyn Satter (https://amzn.to/3jP5bB2) Smitten Kitchen (https://smittenkitchen.com/) Maximizing on slow cookers // insta pots (https://amzn.to/3f8ZQ47) - our favorites :) Cook’s Illustrated (https://amzn.to/2X1KCY7) - for stews, slow cookers, and more! Mirepoix (https://amzn.to/3jM3fJv) Parenting trade off - you can choose cooking or the kids 40:18 Making the kitchen as your sanctuary Football season - perfectly steamed shrimp (https://www.mccormick.com/old-bay/recipes/appetizer/old-bay-steamed-shrimp-with-cocktail-sauce) and cheese boards for the win Dinner time is a celebration! Bringing coding into meal prepping ;) How to manage the recipe system. Hands-free Vertical Recipe Flipper (https://amzn.to/3gkrkEY) OR Classic Juvale Wood Recipe Organization Box (https://amzn.to/3hHxEH2) 45:40 Genius / Fail moments Mandy has an awesome win when she hears her daughter is totally comfortable with her, including asking her sex-ed questions. You too for older girls (https://www.amazon.com/Care-Keeping-You-Older-Girls/dp/1609580427) #genius Allison’s son chose to wear a bowtie for picture day and it turned out way better than expected! #genius KWu bakes it up with her toddler that he helped make! #genius and delicious muffins for the win. Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. *As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases. Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl)
Parent Driven Development Episode 043: Pressure and Considerations Around Leaving a Job for Ethical Reasons. Welcome, Nick Means (https://twitter.com/nmeans)! Nickolas Means loves nothing more than a story of engineering triumph (except maybe a story of engineering disaster). When he's not stuck in a Wikipedia loop reading about plane crashes, he spends his days as a Senior Engineering Manager at GitHub working on Security and Compliance tooling for our users. He's also a co-host of the Managing Up podcast, a show about leading and managing in the world of technology. He works remotely from Austin, TX, and spends most of his spare time hanging out with his wife and kids, going for runs, or trying to brew the perfect cup of coffee. 01:54 How do you approach management with parents on your team? Treating your team as you would want to be treated as a parent Setting examples to your team as a manager Evaluate the job performance on the work actually done, and not clock a few hours taken off for kid responsibilities Flexibility and trust in team members and manager 07:12 Work life balance and work life integration Work sometimes becomes an escape from parenting life Self care for parents! No kids included, you need you 11:35 How do you encourage your team members to take time for themselves Ask the right questions to figure out what will fill their cup? As a manager, you’re more aware of the state of your team members and can identify things quicker Applaud team members when you see them take the effort for PTO 17:18 When you’re the only parent on the team.. How to make others understand Speak with kindness, set boundaries, have trust Time zone issues Setting boundaries with your team members How to structure workflow with team members in different zones 26:20 Managers making it explicit that it is OK to be done when you leave your workstation 28:02 Managing for non-remote teams Inflexibility when have to go into office Complexity for parents when they are totally out of the convo when working in an office 31:40 Moms vs. Dads double standard Putting family time on calendar Single parenting, the lack of help 33:40 How can managers support parental leave Encouraging more time for first time parents The job to support parents starts when they decide to have kids, not just during the leave Twins 37:50 Genius // fail Chris Sexton, how do you spell drop? #fail Josh had the sex talk…. but bombed on the timing with his daughter #geniusfail Allison has a nice turkey day with kids and neighbors, building her more positive memories! #genius Chris Arcand makes his nanny wait on her scheduled time off #fail Mandy gets a puppy… and it's a beautiful new experiences to share with her daughter Nick and his wife forget about homework… his son gets it done, but they all struggle the next day #fail Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Special Guest: Nick Means.
Parent Driven Development Episode 042: Career Switching and Learning to Code After Babies. Welcome, Bekah (https://twitter.com/BekahHW)! A content-creator by nature. Bekah is working on websites, coding-related projects, and her blog, but she has also written three screenplays, three pilots, and is finishing up a memoir. Bekah is all about getting creative! A mom to four young kids (3-10), Bekah has spent the last ten years of her life adjuncting in various university English departments. She is practically doing a 180 learning to code, and is sharing her failures, successes, and everything that falls in between. Bekah graduated from Flatiron School Software Engineering program, in May 2019. She been working at Sprokets as a frontend dev since July 1, 2019. 01:15 Bekah’s journey in career switching Trauma after 4th kid Husband encouraged her to code, and it helped with her PTSD She realized her passion and continued to tackled the challenges Bekah was a teacher prior to coding 02:40 Coding became therapeutic Learning a new skill requires intense focus, gave Bekah excitement and a break from past trauma, because coding required her FULL focus Constant learning with code Flow state when you sync into your work Code provides structure to balance a chaotic life with children Out of Africa & Into the Cloud: Girls can Code too (https://amzn.to/2X6zLfD) : coding inspiration 06:28 How to get through the lows of learning to code? Imposter syndrome Setting goals week-by-week, month-by-month, quarter-by-quarter Embracing the learning curve 11:23 How to manage coding and kids? Community and mentorship Momscan.co (https://www.momscan.co/), online co-working, sharing experiences Embracing natural flow, Bekah codes in the morning, because she’s a morning person 16:08 Conquering difficult births and moving past trauma Finding a mentor with similar experiences 17:51 Bringing coding methods into the house routine Sunday ritual for planning for the week ahead Bekah’s partner codes as well, built in mentor, and key communication 23:10 Experience in women in tech community highlights Being open and willing for meetups! Alex Tate - aligned interested to support moms in tech Moms need more support, especially with younger kids Childcare at meetups 29:20 Any surprises of the moms in tech community? The true vulnerability moms offer in support groups 31:47 Genius // fail Adarsh hired a babysitter for the morning after his wife's birthday bash! #genius Allison empowers her son's creativity and gives him all the extra boxes and he makes rocketships and more! #genius Mandy bonds with her daughter watching a classic favorite, Full House #genius Bekah’s daughter wants to go to Harry Potter land, and is reading all the Harry Potter books (https://amzn.to/2X7e6UF) to prove it! #genius ...but maybe #fail when Bekah’s daughter decides to cash in on a promise JC’s bird watching community is growing and growing! But his family lacks consistency to join… #fail Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. *As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases. Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Adarsh Pandit (https://twitter.com/adarshp) JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena) Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) Special Guest: Bekah Hawrot Weigel.
Parent Driven Development Episode 041 : COVID-19 In today's episode we discuss what everyone is talking about, COVID-19. Yes, we talk about it. We're talking about the new normal, full time remote work, childcare - or the lack there of, how to communicate the situation to our children, and what this means for our world moving forward. Tune in! 00:55 COVID-19 check in On a scale of freaking out vs totally chill… How many tweets are you reading? Self quarantine pre plan Chris has a dry run when his son catches the flu... *The actual flu. 05:40 The new normal Will grocery stores shut down? Limit social outings Sports, events, and all gatherings are being cancelled… more of an inconvenience 09:10 Tech has shut. it. down. Everyone is working for home, asap What’s the deal with other industries? If you can stay home, stay home 13:20 New policies What about goals? College kids subbing as the new neighborhood babysitters Privilege in steady jobs Preschools and schools - some open vs. some closed 24:10 What about the kids? Toddlers situation.. They need room to move, but also need to be hand-washed supervised Parenting milestones 27:55 Full time work from home Hermit life has become even more hermit-y Parenting switch offs 29:15 How to communicate covid-19 to our children One kid was shown a picture of the virus.. So now all the kids in preschool want to see a picture of the virus Middle school kids are informed with a bit more detail Those are the rules! No more toys at school 37:28 Genius // fail Chris blames the cats… but they were framed!! By his corgi Allison has a COVID-19 #fail KWu’s strategy is to switch over to online purchases when possible.. Minimal contact #genius Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Katherine Wu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl)
Parent Driven Development Episode 040 Pressure and Considerations Around Leaving a Job for Ethical Reasons. 00:20 Welcome We discuss what it's like to work for a company that you may not agree with their ethics The difficult decisions and thoughts when you have a family and dependents counting on you 00:55 Examples of companies dealing with ethical controversy Companies working with ICE, kickstarter Ethical clients, customers, organizers, labor oriented - who’s responsible? 02:34 Technology, good or evil? Surveillance Hyper aware of indications within our jobs and technology Being in the tech industry, able to create foundational tech communication - bonus US culture is more politically aware within the last few years 06:40 Being more involved Lessons of the past Minority identity What are we if we don’t participate 09:30 Support and encouragement to leave a job, things to consider Financial decisions play a huge role Putting family at financial risk Healthcare Retirement benefits 16:44 Inflexible costs of leaving a job Childcare Extra childcare - nannies livelihood Donation makeup for moral indications 19:35 What can we do? Don’t public shame others Leaving a role is instant, but long term change takes time Use your voice for what you support Vote with your wallet 28:15 Genius / Fail moments Allison's son gets groovy with techno in the AM Adarsh’s son is back in the hospital from another day at the park.. The monkey bars! Kids are being taught how to talk about their feelings #hugeWin Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Adarsh Pandit (https://twitter.com/adarshp)
Parent Driven Development Episode 039: Parenting Roles and Gender Equality with Richard Schneeman Welcome Richard Schneeman (https://www.schneems.com/)! Schneems (https://twitter.com/schneems) writes Ruby at Heroku, and maintains CodeTriage.com, a tool for helping people contribute to Open Source. He is in the top 50 Rails contributors and is an accidental maintainer of Sprockets and Puma. When he isn't obsessively compulsively refactoring code for performance, he writes such gems as Wicked, and derailed_benchmarks. 00:30 Welcome, Richard Schneeman! 01:00 All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership The book: All the Rage: Mothers Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership (https://amzn.to/3jNGKnn) Co-parenting, gender equality Progressive relationships default into gender roles after kids 05:18 Progressive Parenting What’s fair? Progressive until they have to make a change.. 08:15 Moms vs. Dads Dad’s get applauded when caring for children in public Creating boundaries of designated mom and dad jobs with the kids 10:50 Visible Work vs. Invisble Work How to balance and create boundaries between partners RSVP’s - CC’d emails, response, birthday presents, who’s responsible? Coding pairs and how they relate 17:01 How to Define Who is Responsible? Create a system The mentorship manner Not only doing what is asked, but proactively taking steps 21:15 Meta Tasks Partners double checking each others work, basically twice the work! Micro managing 25:30 Calendar System Shared task and to-do lists Bringing work management systems into home management systems; Learning AGILE (https://amzn.to/30a16Qe) Schedule a weekly meeting with your partner to go over shared cared Check the calendar! 31:01 Genius / Fail moments Josh’s daughter gets her hair dyed and it looks great, but her new conditioner leaks the blue color from her hair all over the bathroom! #fail Chris coordinates Grandpa time to give his wife more free time #genius Richard’s son glues his favorite picture on his bedroom wall, with handwritten marker too #geniusfail Allison has a genius in Sweden with her two young children All the Rage: Mothers, Father, and the Myth of Equal Partnership (https://amzn.to/3jNGKnn) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. *As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases. Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Special Guest: Richard Schneeman .
Parent Driven Development Episode 038: Women Mentorship with Kari Clark from Uplift Parents Welcome, Kari Clark! Kari is the founder Uplift Parents (https://www.upliftparents.com/), a coaching service for working moms. She previously worked at Google for 8 years, invented their live case product, and co-created many other products. Kari has two kids and believes that they both made her a better at her job! Interviewing over 100 women, all at the top of their field, Kari breaks down the common threads in successful working moms and how we all can amplify our lives. These are the best tips for working moms! 00:50 Welcome, Kari Had two kids during her time at google Became incredibly focused after kids Interviewing women at the top of their fields (all moms) and created Uplift (https://www.instagram.com/getuplifted/) 02:50 What was the trend of working moms from home and in the office? There is success in many ways Common trend, perspective, empathy and efficiency 04:45 Ruthless efficiency Make more of your time Details are huge after having kids OCD tendencies?! 7:35 How to balance efficiency with rest Uplift offers group or individual coaching sessions and encourages users to get off the hamster wheel and take time to reflect and make sure they are aligned with their path. Take time to savor your coffee, smell the flowers, and remember what’s important! Your careers are long, your kids are only very young for a short time 12:08 Enjoying work-life balance Feeling fulfilled from work, unapologetically, especially for women Creating intentional boundaries to spend time with family 14:10 Pushback from women mentorship Difference between mentorship and coaching Everyone has a nutritionist, trainer, and other specialists, why would you not have one on motherhood?? Networking was the number 1 thing that got cut in women’s career post kids 19:50 Not parenting advice, working mom advice New life changes encourage new life habits Uplift promotes big changes 2nd kid offers ease for moms and promotes big changes! 24:30 Moms and dads treated differently Dads are praised more than moms 25:40 Best “Zone Defense” tips for working moms Be kind to yourself! Logistical tip - be creative in how you delegate things Be comfortable with giving your kids responsibility, most will rise to the challenge Assign responsibilities for each partner, and trusting that they are taking care of it 34:20 How to delegate More intentionality behind choices Uplift encourages conversations about household tasks, etc Do you enjoy it? If not, delegate 39:10 Mom data from Uplift Parents 41:15 Genius / Fail moments Kwu’s son falls down the stairs :( Chris takes his son to The Lion King and forgets all diapers… Kari genius/fail combo on his son’s new school schedule Josh realizes he needs help with guiding his daughter academically, but his daughter is totally on board and cooperative #genius #win Allison’s daughter is extra exploratory and discovers essential oils! Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. *As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases. Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Special Guest: Kari Clark.
Parent Driven Development Episode 037: New Panel Intro - Welcome Chris and Adarsh! This episode we feature two new panelists on Parent Driven Development, Chris Arcand and Adarsh Pandit! Chris is a Minnesota native holding two bachelor degrees in musical performance and computer science. After some years spent in Washington DC, Chris and his wife decided to return to their home in Minneapolis to start their family. They have a 2-year-old son and one more on the way! Chris currently works as a software engineer at Hashicorp. Welcome Chris. Adarsh is a developer consultant living in Oakland, California with his wife and two sons. He is the founder of Cylinder Digital and is currently on the Ruby Developer Board. Originally from Michigan, this former scientist taught himself code while working for boutique consulting firms. Adarsh is currently the primary caregiver at home and is embracing every sock and sandal dad moment he can get! Welcome Adarsh. 00:30 Welcome Chris and Adarsh! 00:51 Chris Arcand Chris shares a bit about his past work experience, family and himself! 03:04 Adarsh Pandit Adarsh shares a bit about his past work experience, family and himself! 05:40 Do we do too much? Adarsh’s wife is practicing physician and is super busy! Early mornings, late nights and even weekends Adarsh is totally a hands-on dad! Taking on the majority of childcare in the home (socks and sandals kind of guy with no shame) Bringing in software development tools into parenting, scheduling activities, etc… and they are useful! 07:25 Irregular work schedules This can cause more difficulty in scheduling for kids Kids thrive under routine and consistency and irregular schedules can be tough Adarsh currently does leadership consulting and is a CTO working about 20-30 hours a week, this gains him flexibility 09:10 Consulting and irregular work schedules, how do they mesh? Coding needs more focus and uninterrupted time, not conducive to irregular scheduling To-do lists are super important, but so is knowing when to let them go! 11:59 Summer vs. school schedules Allison’s kids are currently in year-round school, she preps for the years of summer camps, activities, and whole new schedules… uh oh! 14:05 Older kids get more responsibility You’re actually managing less as your kids grow up. Baby bags are essential! Kids bring extra hands on vacations Parents now empathize with crying babies AND the parents holding them 15:40 Traveling with young kids Trend in families with a known “bad baby traveler” The treats are not really necessary, a crying baby is normal Chris had a seat neighbor draw a panda on a bag for his youngster when he had an uncomfortable flight Overall consensus, we shouldnt be bribing each other 19:40 How moms and dads are treated differently Mom’s may be glared at for having a screaming baby on a plane, dad’s are instantly supported More empathy comes from parenthood, especially when you get more educated on child development 24:30 Growing families KWu’s son starts part-time preschool, and is expecting her second! Chris expects his second child as well Doula‘s plus photography bundle - are these photos too personal? Emergency births are very overwhelming Scheduled C sections are bizzare, but can be more calm 31:45 Multiple kids Is it the different personalities of the kids, or is the younger child a bit easier to manage? Multiple kids can help entertain each other Time goes quicker after each kid Kids learn lessons when having siblings Oldest vs youngest child 43:28 Genius / fail moments Adarsh's family camping trip ends in the hospital #fail Chris fails at pre-planning to move-out of his house.. by taking a vacation the week before! KWu fails at unpacking from her cross-country move, misplacing her microphone and engagement ring… Allison has a genius finishing her daughter’s “quiet book” Chris finds success by implements reading time before bed #genius JC has a proud dad moment #genius KWu’s forgets the bug repellent #fail, but scores from a teenager to keep her son safe! #genius Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena) Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand) Adarsh Pandit (https://twitter.com/adarshp)
Parent Driven Development Episode 036: Adoption This episode will discuss the process of international adoption, the major changes that hit home, and future challenges adopting parents and children face 00:28 Welcome, Kalimar How long does it take to adopt a child internationally? It took Kalimar 2 ½-3 years! Kalimar and his wife have had their baby girl for 6 months, she is now 21 month old Huge learning curve welcoming a child that already has mobility 01:12 Why choose adoption? Kalimar and his wife are 35+ and decided this was the right option for them 01:39 What is process for international adoption? Adoption ad in paper, an option International adoption agencies is most common and safe International adoption requirements: Micro scale of state approval, social workers, background checks, reading, workshops, cultural events, then moving to federal approval then international country approval 4:43 How hard is it to adopt a child? Is parenting easier or harder? The paperwork is tough, but Kalimar says parenting is harder! Everyone and every book has a different advice on parenting Kids don't come with instructions 6:05 Challenges of being a new parent? No more late nights because baby doesn’t sleep in The need for more friendly activities with friends, luckily most of Kalimar's friends already have kids! Secret sledding hills that have mostly been kid only zones are now opened up to play at 8:08 Experiencing everything with fresh eyes KWU's son is full of excitement and the energy is contagious Kalimar's daughter eats spaghetti for the first time and its adorable New toddlers like to explore their limits and gravity 10:36 Things to consider when adopting a child The challenges in adopting a newborn verse a toddler Kalimar had to baby proof before bringing his daughter home The danger kid zone within the house, everyone has one 12:20 Are post adoption services and consultants available? Yes! Massive support from adoption agency, trainings, workshops, other families and community members Why parenting classes are important and how biological parents should be put through parenting school just like adoption parents First day with adopted child - the bumps, triumphs and everything in between 15:23 How do you decide which agency or country to choose from? First google agency, then attend an open house and adoption seminars, see who you mesh with Factor in expense of international adoption cost and timeline that it will take 17:45 How do the adoption seminars prepare you? Kalimar reflects on the self question of making it known that his daughter is adopted in daycare or not Adoption transition tips - understanding the child is going through HUGE emotional changes Kalimar feels lucky his daughter is so adaptable How to talk about the adoption process with your child at the level they can understand. Open discussion is best, remove the taboo Adoptive parents do a whole lot of work and are totally the parents 24:13 Top parent concerns, are they adoption based? Kalimar worries about his daughter being treated as a minority, as he and his wife are caucasion and their daughter is Indian. Girl and dad relationship, other common worries Become a part of the local community of their daughters orgin Pros and cons of exposing your child to their origin country 28:46 Genius / Fail moments Chris stores old legos and toys in his attic until his friends with new babies need them. Out of the house and supporting a friend #parentingwin Allison gets crafty by using walkie-talkies to keep in touch with her 4-year-old son at her office HQ #genius JC’s 10-year-old daughter is a total catch! She learns how to put in the work to improve her skills as her teams catcher. KWU’s son is repeating everything. She’s noted to watch her language, but proud that her son has picked up on her good habits and is mimicking new language. Kalimar temps his daughter back to the dinner table by making it look like the most delicious time ever! Kids continue to throw food on the ground... to learn reaction and explore new roles #fail Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Special Guest: Kalimar Maia.
Parent Driven Development Episode 035: Summer Vacations Welcome! 00:35 Summer vacationing as a kid vs. adult The hosts reflect back on their experience of summer vacation as a child vs. what their kids experience now. How much do kids actually remember on these family vacations? Loads and loads of driving!! 06:52 Flying vs. driving The views! You can either see more of the places in between or more of the place you’re going to What does your family value more? Is the classic road trip only nostalgic? 10:20 KWu's travels KWu becomes a foodie in Paris! Winter ski trips KWu thinks it’s a good start to travel domestically before going internationally with her own children 12:06 Involving the kids in travel plans Get the ideas of what the kids are actually interested in to make for a better vacation 14:13 Take the kids anyways Kids may end up being grumpy anyways, so let's take them along regardless 14:50 Older kids remember more Super rewarding as a parent to hear positive feedback from the kids on a successful vacation Playing name that tune on the car ride home - the feeling that may actually last in our kids memories. 17:11 Yearly vacations and sporadic trips Chris plans a yearly beach trip with family as the designated time to get together Annual cousins week Josh’s daughter gets real about wanting to go to new places and experience new things during summer trips JC takes the kids on an annual beach trip but mixes it up with locations 20:13 Let your kids bring friends on vacation Josh finds success having his daughter bring a friend on a weekend getaway Built in play buddies when friends come along 23:01 Sporting events with kids and friends Built in getaways with friends Typically less drama Other parents around to mingle with and relax 23:43 Vacationing with another family Allow the kids to be with kids, and adults to be with adults Share responsibilities of who is caperoning #parentinghack But do the parenting philosophies match up?! 26:50 Different screen time rules Josh’s daughter is a mini Zuckerberg while her comrades are a bit behind A friend to Chris's kids ican't seem to put his phone away during bowling night JC had a TV in the mainroom on a vacation and it became the default daily wind down 29:40 Setting ground rules for phone time before vacations Josh’s daughter follow suit and uses her phone for taking pictures Assigning family time without phones is best to keep everyone on the same page 33:01 Keeping things fresh during family vacation Dice roll for a fresh activities Some of the best memories come from impulsive detours 34:36 Genius / fail moments KWu’s son went out and got eaten by tons of mosquitoes causing so much itching that they eventually bleed Bath time is now a nightmare #fail Chris and his wife volunteer to help out a family friend’s twins! He soon realizes the horror of having multiples Josh’s daughter has been having loads of sleepovers and he’s been sending a bottle of wine for the watchful parents. Definite notion of being invited back #genius JC’s oldest graduated high school, planning for college and is working hard over summer break. #proudparent Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena)
Parent Driven Development Episode 034: Back to School and Extracurricular Activities for Kids 00:59 Welcome, Barrett Clark Barrett Clark is a data programmer, speaker and author of Data Visualization ToolKit. He is a longtime member of the Ruby community and a co-organizer of RailCamp South. Married for 22 years, Barrett and his wife have two teenage boys and a new dog. Ruby community Family: 2 highschool teenage sons (senior / sophomore) both in band. Parent advisors and past president to children’s band team 01:46 Extra curricular activities for kids Barrett’s son involved with band The parents get involved as well, to have the kids know that you value them and their interest carpools with fellow parents 08:25 Extra cirrculars taking up more time than school and work. How to deal? Helping kids see the importance of prioritizing (school, dating, work, band, etc) 12:20 Helping kids find their “thing” + Overly committing kids to activities to help them find a passion Signing your kids up for more activities Kids getting wiped out from over activity Teaching kids the importance of community at a young age 15:15 Help kids find their community Friends of similar interests and ideals Creating deeper bonds Certain activities lend towards a larger community than others. gymnastic - girls range from 12-18, while sports often limit to one age group 17:13 Becoming a part of your kids activities More time with your children Build your own community amongst the other parents involved with your kids Flexibility in being involved “part-time” 20:51 Uninvolved parents vs. involved parents Single parents Younger kids in school Parents helping each other get their kids to activities Making sure other kids have support if their parents aren’t there or too busy 25:45 Ways to keep busy parents in the loop: build greater community Film concerts, games, etc for distant family members or busy parents to help keep them involved Building the community feel past just teammates and classmates 27:28 Discussing the organization of extra cirrculars before getting involved Sit down and discuss with your child. what’s important to you most? will you have time for all these sports and clubs? Ask about the history of the organization and decipher if it’s the right fit for you and your child 30:02 How to deal with “that parent” + learning to manage other parents in your kids activities Don’t yell at refs Overly involved parent envy 32:14 The financial side Fundraisers - parents typically have to get involved as well Writing a check vs. spending the time on fundraisers Kids take responsibility (older kids) Parents budgeting for future extracurriculars for kids Non-negotiable extracurriculars for kids - kids choice vs. have-to’s Budgeted financial support for activity or sport 42:35 Genius / fail moments The volleyball team offers a weekend trial for students to try without commitment. #genius New favorite child when they take on your same activity Barrett plays catch up with son’s college applications - the struggles motivating your child and parent strategy #geniusfail Middle school back to school night, too many teachers and no quality time #failmoment Allison’s son on a mission to find Sukana bread… except she doesn’t know what it is #fail Kwu’s son’s first haircut goes awry #fail So Kwu stepped up, orders tools and cuts his hair at home now #genius Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Special Guest: Barrett Clark.
Parent Driven Development Episode 033: Raising Children Away From Family 00:28 Welcome, Adarsh Pandit Adarsh is a self taught coder, scientist and consultant. He is the founder of Cylinder Digital, a software design and development studio, and is on the board of Ruby Together. This episode we discuss what it’s like to raise a family, while living away from your parents and other family members. 03:00 The difficulties of raising a family away from family Lack of support Career trade offs Finding a sitter 07:01 Home-Ops: The Business Side of Raising a Family Who can help with childcare? Realizing the limitations of parents age and health as they get older Adjusting child care depending on the time, day or event that they are covering for. - who can drive? 13:30 - Coping with coordination Co-op babysitting Drop off playdates with neighbors 17:11 Finding the Right Child/Child and Parent/Parent Match Finding the perfect family match: kids need to get along and parents need to get along Building rapport with other families to become close enough to ask for favors for pick-up give specific dietary requirements, disciplining other kids and have other parents disciplining your kids “it’s probably fine” - trusting other parents with your kids 22:15 The Importance of Being a Patient Parent Without Extra Family Support Effective response to kids Managing stress - yoga, lots of water, getting outside, eating well 23:37 Work Flexibility Staying organized as a working parent Being a consultant has been helpful for Adarsh because he can dial up or down depending on the demands of the children. The benefits of being at home or working at home - enjoy the time with your toddlers because there will be a day they will not want your attention any more. 30:03 The Trade Offs of Having Two Working Parents Potential extra PTO for one the parents One parent typically has a more flexible schedule 32:30 Fail Moments More poop stories, because poop is always funny. #Fail 36:16 Showing Empathy Towards our Kids Kids are actually little people with little personalities and their own personal functions, weird!? Allowing kids to figure things out on their own. 39:30 Genius Moments Allison invites her son Devin on stage during a conference event and he tells says… “Mommy, I just want to be just like you when I grow up” #genius KWu’s diaper change at the playground #fail… having a spare outfit in the diaper bag #genius Adarsh gets his son to poop in the toilet #genius Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Adarsh Pandit (https://twitter.com/adarshp)
Parent Driven Development Episode 032: Tackling More 00:45 Welcome, Dana Jones Our guest, Dana Jones (https://twitter.com/danabrit), Engineering Manager at Abstract (https://www.abstract.com/). Dana has 4 children. Came in to software development from an untraditional path. 2:00 Dana goes back to school Dana has also recently gone back to school to get her college degree and talks about her experience 5:15 talking about the people side of our work and people management 8:40 how do you organize yourself? 14:00 kids and driving 16:30 how are challenges different at different times in your life and when you’re kids are different ages 20:20 professional development with non-tiny children and child development/phases 22:00 Meeting kids where they’re at 23:00 how has family time changed as children have gotten older 25:00 ask more questions and give fewer answers at work and at home 28:00 moderating your reactions as a parent 35:37 Genius and Fail moments! Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Special Guest: Dana Jones.
Parent Driven Development Episode 031: Negotiating A Shorter Workweek 00:16 Welcome, Itamar Turner-Trauring Itamar Turner-Trauring started his software career in the cutting-edge field of multimedia CD-ROMs. He currently works as a consultant helping speed up Python code and deployments (https://pythonspeed.com), and shares his software and career mistakes every week with 3700 programmers on his Software Clown (https://softwareclown.com) newsletter. His crowning achievement as a parent was when months of brainwashing paid off and his daughter stopped saying "my legs are tired" and started saying "my legs are getting stronger! Itmar is that author of "You Can Negotiate A 3-Day Weekend" (https://codewithoutrules.com/3dayweekend/). 00:51 Working Part-Time as a Programmer and Writing a Book "You Can Negotiate A 3-Day Weekend (https://codewithoutrules.com/3dayweekend/) 03:54 Overcoming "This Isn't Normal" or "Entitlement" Feelings Negotiation is easier at your current job. Your work ethic is already established. Frame/approach it as a problem-solving situation. 08:05 Difficult Parts of Negotiation Harder to do up-front at new companies. Communication concerns. What about emergencies? Worries about getting work done and job commitment. 11:26 Scheduling Your Shorter Workweek Be courteous of your team. Plan around regularly-scheduled meetings. 14:40 Utilizing Extra Time as a Parent 17:52 Taking on Remote-Friendly Tasks + Peer Reactions 20:12 Output Value + Impact You can be productive and work shorter hours. The better the management, the less of an issue. Asking yourself, "What is enough work?" can be a struggle to measure when you're not counting hours. Honor your commitments. Parents are excellent multitaskers!!! 28:44 Genius / Fail Moments KWu uses a sippy cup at night so she doesn't knock it over. (#Genius) Chris told his daughter, "You are not your homework," which was adapted from "You are not your code!" (#Genius) Itmar's daughter's snack negotiation skills are getting more sophisticated. (#Genius/Fail) It took less than 90 seconds for Allison's life to fall apart in her household! (#Fail) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Special Guest: Itamar Turner-Trauring.
Parent Driven Development Episode 030: Moving and Traveling Internationally 00:11 Welcome, Annyce Davis! Annyce spends her day-to-day working as a Software Developer and Leader. She has specifically been focused on Android applications for the past several years. She's also an Android Google Developer Expert (https://developers.google.com/programs/experts/). This means that she spends a lot of time developing videos, blog posts, and conference talks for the Developer Community. Annyce is currently the Software Group Lead at a social impact startup called Zola Electric (http://zolaelectric.com/). They provide clean, transformative energy to households that suffer from expensive, unreliable grids or have no grid access at all. She gets to help impact the lives of people across Africa by developing a high-quality Android application that’s used by their entire sales force. 01:25 Moving from the U.S. to Amsterdam Fell in love with Europe about 4-5 years ago. 2 years ago, had an opportunity to move for a job opportunity. 02:55 Kids' Reactions to the Prospect of Moving / Transitioning After Moving Were worried about their grandparents and what the food would be like. Curiousity around schooling. Now attend an International School and take Dutch language lessions twice a week. Adjusting and acceptance of differences between life in the U.S. vs Amsterdam. 09:35 Logistics of Relocation to Another Country A cleaning process for your life and letting things go. If it wasn't sentimental, it went. Renting a furnished home. Take what you need to get through a few months. Shipping containers take a loooong time to be delivered. 15:20 Giving Kids Worldly Experience at a Young Age Exposure to diverse cultures. Status/prestige differences. Blissful ignorance to certain things. 19:26 Networks of Support & Feeling American While Not in America Having family send U.S. essentials!! Stock up while visiting. Visiting at least once a year. 25:39 Travel Tips Bring snacks. Have laundry soap. Wear compression socks on the plane. Figure out the money situation in advance. 31:43 Traveling Without Your Kids: Maintaining Relationships Having a transparent schedule. Talk every day. Bring souveniers. Being a parent and pursuing your career:
People ask me for career advice all of the time. Here's a cheer:
Self-deprecate, self-deprecate
Just smile and congratulate
Work twice as hard for half the pay
Play with your kids every other day
GOOOOOOOOO CAREER!!! #happytuesday #morningthoughts pic.twitter.com/sEH2xkl4y0— Annyce Davis (@brwngrldev) April 23, 2019
Set limits. Make it count when you're home. When you're away, the kids will be okay. And half the time, they don't even care! (They'll just make you feel guilty leading up to the trip.) What Do Teenagers Want? Potted Plant Parents (https://www.nytimes.com/2016/12/14/well/family/what-do-teenagers-want-potted-plant-parents.html) 45:37 Genius / Fail Moments KWu found convenient vegetables! (#Genius) Annyce messed up the train schedule, so they walked and tired the kids out! (#Genius/Fail) Mandy didn't pay attention to where her daughter way playing. Heeeeyyyyy, poison ivy! (#Fail) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) Special Guest: Annyce Davis.
Parent Driven Development Episode 029: Organizing Conferences 00:57 Balancing Conferencing with Parenting Andy has organized RedDotRubyConf (https://www.reddotrubyconf.com/), still organizes Brighton Ruby (https://brightonruby.com/), and has spoken the past few years at RubyConf (https://rubyconf.org/). Andy also puts out an email newsletter, with one Ruby/Rails technique delivered with a ‘why?’ and a ‘how?’ every two weeks. It’s deliberately brief, focussed & opinionated, and called One Ruby Thing (https://onerubything.com/). Chris helps to co-organize Ruby For Good (https://rubyforgood.org/). Systems, systems, systems. Staying in the speaker hotel during crunch time. Getting paid helps. Having no co-organizers = no extra communication challenges. Relying on your partner. Staying local helps. Having a venue. 06:52 Conference Sizes: How Big is Big? Andy runs Brighton Ruby as a single track, one-day conference of 300-400. Ruby Central (http://rubycentral.org/) conferences by comparison are up to about 1,000 attendees and multi-track over 3-4 days. Ruby For Good is about 80 people, but has less of a conference feel because it's groups of people hacking on different projects over a few days. 09:46 Classifying These Gatherings as "Work-Adjacent Hobbies" Benefits the career. Meeting, networking, and making friends. Feel-good factor. Prioritization. Time frees up as kids have gotten older. 19:30 Family Involvement Kids on stage are cute. Teenagers can help volunteer! Osmosis of exposure. This is what mom/dad does! Showing that work does not necessarily equal drudgery. 22:30 Behind-The-Scenes Tradeoffs The best track at any conference is the speaker track. Coaching, mentoring, and cheering on first-time speakers. Repetition of putting on conferences over the years = it gets easier, more fun, and less stressful. Atomic Habits (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0735211299/ref=as_li_qf_asin_il_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=therubyrep-20&creative=9325&linkCode=as2&creativeASIN=0735211299&linkId=a6154fb4886e2b76620e69e1d1f699a2) 28:21 Meal Kits and Meal Planning Conversation We all have tried them. We all have opinions. We are definitely open for sponsorship. Email us! 👇🏻 32:36 Getting Involved in Conferences (for those who are brave enough) Speak. Volunteer. Conference Scholar/Guide Programs. i.e. Ruby Central's (http://rubycentral.org/community#scholarship) Community Meetups 37:46 Genius / Fail Moments Andy's kids learning empathy from movies. (#Genius) Chris forgot to pack his son's main lunch entreé and left it in the microwave! (#Fail) Josh's daughter revealing she has a video clip of the two of them from when she was very little and being fond of watching it often. (Genius) KWu's son fell and hit his head 🤕. (#Fail) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Andy Croll (https://twitter.com/andycroll)
Parent Driven Development Episode 028: Primary Caregiving 00:17 Introducing Guest, Nick Gauthier! Becoming a Full-time Parent Nick is currently the CTO and Co-founder at Nomics (https://nomics.com/). Before co-founding Nomics, Nick created MeetSpace (https://www.meetspaceapp.com/), a video conferencing application for distributed teams. Before that, Nick worked at Codeship (http://codeship.com/) on the Codeship Pro Continuous Delivery platform, as well as various other web application consulting projects in Ruby on Rails, Go, and JavaScript. 03:55 Being a Full-Time Parent as a Man "Aww, you're babysitting!" 🙄 Experiences with "Mommy and Me" groups and Meetups. Feeling instrusive in Mom spaces. Breaking into a "Mommy Group". 08:17 Partner Dynamics and Making Decisions Getting the scoop and being thankful to not have other parents' problems. Liking vs not liking the baby phase. 11:07 Changes as Baby Grows Transitioning to a nanny but still working from home. When going to work is a "vacation" or an "escape". Fielding distractions. 17:11 How Having a Child Has Changed the Way Nick Works Working with other parents. Context switching and protecting time. Asynchronous communication. 24:16 Communication Service Level Agreements (SLAs) Any communication, the normal expected turnaround time is 24 hours; unless in text is says urgent. Cell phone calls are last resort, but must be answered. Everything is "Do Not Disturb". Keep communcation very close to or 100% on topic. 29:06 Team Relationship Building + Watercooler Talk Optional "huddles" with no agenda. Explicit watercooler time. Company retreats. 31:21 Genius / Fail Moments Nick's daughter announced "Oh yeah! Get some beer!" in the middle of the store. (#Fail) But, she is mastering potty training with M&Ms as rewards! (#Genius) Chris: M&M inflation. (#Fail) "Scream Parade" on the other hand... (#Genius) Allison: Flow picture charts for the morning on what her son needs to do to leave the house 👍🏻. (#Genius) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Special Guest: Nick Gauthier.
Parent Driven Development Episode 027: Fear Mongering and Inducing Panic Show Background Resources Momo challenge: The real victims of the hoax are the parents who believe it (https://www.independent.co.uk/news/long_reads/momo-challenge-internet-viral-hoax-parents-a8806836.html) Momo Is as Real as We’ve Made Her (https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/02/style/momo-mania-hoax.html) A pediatrician exposes suicide tips for children hidden in videos on YouTube and YouTube Kids (https://www.washingtonpost.com/technology/2019/02/24/pediatrician-exposes-suicide-tips-children-hidden-videos-youtube-youtube-kids/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.e8215c20ac71) 01:29 Firsthand Experience? Mandy's daughter had no idea about any of this until it was brought to her attention. 03:17 Momo Challenges (maybe?) Explained 06:11 What do we do as parents to protect our kids? Do we lock them down from consuming all the media, or do we let them consume it and deal with it? Educating our kids and guiding them when things come up. Checking in with them during media consumption. Being honest. 15:13 History of Moral Panics Moral panics happen when young people get involved in something parents just don’t understand. Do we, as technologists, have an advantage in understanding better than non-technologists? 22:15 Rules and Boundaries -- Letting Live and Letting Go The "But what if?" Mindset Age restrictions. Ignoring the trolls. Tracking/monitoring your child via GPS location. Find My Friends App (https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/find-my-friends/id466122094?mt=8) 32:03 What To Do When Things Happen Flagging. Reporting. Calling authorities. 36:57 Genius / Fail Moments Jess: Her son picked up the ukelele! (#Genius) JC: Winding down involvement in extracurricular activities. (#Bittersweet) Chris: Baseball as a low-pressure team sport. (#Genius) Mandy: Her daughter picked up her Mimi's birthday tradition without prompting. (#Adorable) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Jess Szmajda (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton)
Parent Driven Development Episode 026: Breastfeeding 01:21 Making Feeding Decisions KWu and Allison both breastfed. Mandy did not. Feeling tied down vs feeling guilt. 13:32 Things They Don't Tell You Nursing clothes suck. Lactation happens even if you don't breastfeed! So many people struggle with nursing issues. Hormone shifts as you ween. 19:05 Navigating Conflicting Information Everyone has an opinion. There is no one way to do it. 30:30 Breastfeeding in Public When kids play with your boobs. Covers are B.S. 33:18 Toddler Talk Feeding around siblings. 34:34 Health Benefits and Science 36:57 Genius / Fail Moments KWu: Her son stole her husband's credit card! (#Fail) Allison: Forgot about the Kinder Egg. (#Fail) Mandy: Youth/Adult Bowling League fun. (#Genius) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugrl) Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p)
Parent Driven Development Episode 025: Girls in STEM 00:34 Why Joulez (https://www.joulez.co/)? Getting girls and women engaged in technology Lending opportunity for girls in the 8-12 age bracket The Juelez Formula: Identity Vocabulary Skills Tribe 06:05 Designing Into Motivation Fixed vs Growth Mindset (https://www.mindsetworks.com/science/) Tufts University Center for Engineering Education and Outreach (https://ceeo.tufts.edu/) Marrying fun and education Programming and Computer Programming 15:35 How can parents help? Context Vocabulary Building with them 22:38 Gender Expanding contexts in which we engage children in STEM Where are the toys that build empathy in boys? Providing opportunity for people of all sorts As a society we have a lot of unlearning to do 33:41 Genius / Fail Moments Chris: Snow day stress and frustration. (#Fail) Jess: Providing printed pictures for her son (due to his lack of having access electronically)! (#Genius) KWu: Buying a "Baby's First Chinese New Year" book....when it was his second. (#Fail) Stephanie: Extensive troubleshooting...when it was just a loose pin. (#Fail) Lesson learned? Troubleshooting is important! (#Genius) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugrl) Jess Szmajda (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Special Guest: Stephanie Rowe.
Parent Driven Development Episode 024: Teaching Kids to Code 01:29 Winding up in a developer evangelist role and teaching coding 02:58 Teaching younger vs older audiences 03:52 Getting kids motivated in the coding space Scratch (https://scratch.mit.edu/) 05:13 The benefits for kids who know coding literacy The Hour of Code (https://hourofcode.com/us) 08:16 Kevin's background in coding 08:45 Using Twilio (and real-world technology and tools) in teaching kids to code 13:31 Resources & Tools Glitch (https://glitch.com/) CodeCombat (https://codecombat.com/) 15:24 Is Minecraft (https://minecraft.net/en-us/) useful? 18:11 Next level resources Codecademy (https://www.codecademy.com/) Learn Python the Hard Way (https://learnpythonthehardway.org/) TwilioQuest (https://www.twilio.com/quest/welcome) 19:46 Helping passionate kids along the way (without scaring them away) Events, Hackathons, and Conferences THAT Conference (https://www.thatconference.com/) 31:05 Genius / Fail Moments Josh: Putting a bandaid (glass screen protector) over his daughter's broken iPad screen. (#Genius) Chris: Letting his daughter make pasta! (#Genius) Kevin: Letting his daughter make pancakes! (#Genius) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Special Guest: Kevin Whinnery.
** Warning: This episode contains potential holiday spoilers for young children. Parent Driven Development Episode 023: The Holidays: A Retrospective 00:18 Spending the holidays with your extended family... When families celebrate different holidays and observe different religions Code-switching (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Code-switching) 12:28 ...Or spending the holidays alone and making new traditions! Elf on the Shelf (https://www.elfontheshelf.com/) NORAD Santa Tracker (https://www.noradsanta.org/) 17:00 Compromise and Respect; Expectation Setting When kids are younger, the holidays don't matter as much. You want to pass on things you did as a child to your own child(ren) 25:31 The Reality When no one pays attention to your wishes Thoughts about the future 31:05 Genius / Fail Moments Mandy: Remembered to move the Elf every day this year! (#Genius) Allison: Her and her husband remembered that their local avaition museum membership had a sister museum close to her inlaws. (#Genius) KWu: Her son blew his diaper in the carseat on the way home from her parent's house and uninstalled the carseat. (#Fail) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p)
Parent Driven Development Episode 022: Single Parenting 00:46 Single parenting is becoming more common... ... but events can feel ostracizing. Logistics are hard to navigate. There are full-time and half-time single parents. 04:06 It takes a village Having a support system. (Friends, neighbors, family members) Non-nuclear families / modern family situations. 10:55 Dating as a single parent Introducing kids to significant others. When is it appropriate? When kids do/don't get attached to partners. 21:27 Challenges and eases of single parenting Drama: engaging and avoiding. Making decisions solo vs with someone else. Holding onto resentment/anger/confusion/disappointment towards the other parent. Questions from kids as they get older. Sometimes you just want to quit! 35:15 Supporting single parents Talk to them. Don't ask intrusive questions. Don't assume single parents live off of child support. Just don't assume, period. 39:43 Genius / Fail Moments Mandy: Her daughter made sure she had Christmas presents. (#Genius) Allison: Her son specifically wants to donate to a hospital on a beach that helps Jewish boys with broken bones that are healing. (#Genius) Jess: Took her son's stuffed animal on adventures because he forgot him at home. (#Genius) KWu: Her son is trying awesome new foods and less than 50% ends up on the floor! (#Genius) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Jess Szmajda (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p)
Parent Driven Development Episode 021: Self-Care For Parents 00:25 Defining Self-Care Refilling your energy bucket. Naps. Taking care of your human body. Parenting yourself. 04:50 Flexible Sleep and Work Schedules Treating yourself with respect and kindness. Doing things for the good of the family. 10:56 Parenting Identities Time spent caregiving vs adulting. Having different strengths as parents. Having a network of "other" parents and families. "Intentional Community." 17:24 Specific Self-Care Suggestions Setting your environment. Meditation. Having non-distracting routines and activities. Cooking. Creative outlets: Music, etc. 27:05 Being Okay with Kids Temporary Unhappiness and Discomfort Yes Spaces (https://www.janetlansbury.com/2014/08/play-space-inspiration/). Ignoring tantrums. 30:49 Genius / Fail Moments KWu: Her son called her Mama!! (#Genius) Chris: Teaching his kids sarcasm. (#Genius) Jess: Teaching her son to use Google Home to tell him jokes! (#Genius) Mandy: Mazie's first chorus concert. (#Genius) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Jess Szmajda (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton)
Parent Driven Development Episode 020: Fertility Struggles 00:23 Welcome, Adam Cuppy (https://twitter.com/AdamCuppy)! Adam started as a professional actor, turned the corner into advertising, and found his way to tech entrepreneurship and education. Adam performed for the world-renowned Oregon Shakespeare Festival (https://www.osfashland.org/) before making his way into creative direction for Dutch Bros. Coffee (https://www.dutchbros.com/), where he oversaw brand strategy for all of their franchised locations. After six years at Dutch Bros., he co-founded Define Your Edge; the mission: to maximize the customer experience, understand the “why,” and let that influences the “how.” Within a few years, he co-founded Zeal (https://codingzeal.com/). When not writing code, he speaks internationally on company culture, software development best-practices, and agile methodologies. And, if you’re one of the rare few, you may catch him on stage. 01:17 Adam's Background with Fertility Struggles Adam and his wife tried for many years to conceive a child naturally before deciding to undergo medical testing to better determine any underlying issues as to why they were unable to do so. Initially, everyone assumed it was his wife, Julia, who was experiencing problems and was unable to get pregnant, however, it turned out that Adam was the one experiencing problems across the board. Roughly 15% of couples have issues with getting pregnant. Adam first went an got a personal trainer in attempt to increase testosterone levels naturally, and though they explored more invasive means of conception including IVF, they did not have to go that route and ending up conceiving about four months later. 08:55 The Emotional Weight of the Journey The feeling of failure weighed heavily, especially when it seemed like everyone around them (but them) was getting pregnant and having kids. Unfortunately, there was also a miscarriage involved at one point which contributed to a deep sense of loss and more failure. Julia and Adam did differ emotionally whereas Adam felt it would always work out and they would become parents one way or another. Julia felt that maybe it just wasn't in their destiny. Julia was also a high school teacher at the time, so watching teen pregnancies during school or shortly after they graduated was hard on her as well. 15:38 The Lack of Community for Males with Fertility Struggles Adam stresses how important as a man and 50% a part of the conception equation it is to have conversations around these problems. There are a lot less moving parts for men then there are for women to become a pregnant couple, therefore a lot of people equate fertility issues in men with masculinity or lack thereof. 21:43 Loving Parenting After the Conception and Birthing Journey Adam gets asked the question often of whether or not he values being a parent more because it was such a struggle to get where he and his wife are today. He's discovered he values the journey a lot more, and it has given him a greater sense that while it was hard, there are many other things in his life that are hard and worth pursuing. 26:46 Finding Your Acceptance and Allowing Other Parents to Find Their Own Whether it's because you cannot have more children, do not feel comfortable having more children, or want to or need to pursue different ways of becoming a parent again in the future, everyone has to find their own path and no path is the wrong path. No one is less of a parent than anyone else regardless of the journey. 28:56 Resources Being open about the challenge with close friends and/or family. Comminity support groups. (Hospitals/Fertility Clinics.) "Those who struggle together, learn together." Going online and look for the positive things. Tracking ovulation. 32:50 Genius / Fail Moments Mandy: Cut down her own Christmas tree and got it out of the forrest, into her truck, out of her truck, into her house, and up her stairs into a standing position in the corner of her living room (albeit after four hours), but she did it and she did it her damn self! (#Genius) Jess: Daniel Tiger songs are pretty cool, therefore strategic screentime is okay! (#Genius) Adam: "Tooter Checks"! (#Genius) Allison: Not traveling far for Thanksgiving and bring the kid's pajamas with you if you do go anywhere. (#Genius) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Jess Szmajda (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Special Guest: Adam Cuppy.
Parent Driven Development Episode 019: Being Adults 00:25 Welcome, Jonan Scheffler (https://twitter.com/thejonanshow)! Jonan is a free-range computer sciencer at Heroku (https://www.heroku.com/) and cheerleader for hire (all major hugs accepted). He is also a board member of RubyTogether (https://rubytogether.org/) and all-around swell human being! We recorded this episode live and in-person at this year's RubyConf (http://rubyconf.com/) in Los Angeles. 01:09 Catching Up On Sleep, Spending Time with Friends, and Spending Spousal Points Conferences are NOT vacations, y'all! Traveling as a job. Being present at home. Partying is WORK. 11:16 Communicating to Loved Ones at Home Facetiming, calling, audio messaging. 18:50 Going Home / Reentry to the Parenting World 25:04 It Takes a Village... Support Systems When Away 29:30 Self-Care While Away Treats! Massage! Movies on the plane! Room service! Fancy coffee! Tattoos!?! 32:34 Genius / Fail Moments Allison: Her son drew her a picture "so Mommy doesn't scream as much". (#Fail); Attending an anger management for parents of small children class. (#Genius) Mandy: Forgot to download things to her devices on the way to LA! (#Fail) Josh: Mistook a sprained ankle for growing pains. (#Fail) KWu: Mistook roseola for windburn! (#Fail) Jonan: Ruined waffles for his kids. (#Fail) Andy: His daughter learned how to swim! (#Genius) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Andy Croll (https://twitter.com/andycroll) Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Special Guest: Jonan Scheffler.
Parent Driven Development Episode 018: Designing Apps/Digital Products for Parents 00:24 Welcome, Anne Halsall (https://twitter.com/annekate) and Sara Mauskopf (https://twitter.com/sm)! Anne is the co-founder & head of product of at Winnie (https://winnie.com/). Sara is the CEO. 01:12 Coming Up With Winnie: Providing Local Information for People With Children Great app to use for travel! Gives parents child-friendly reccomendations for activities, places to eat, things to see. 03:12 Content Moderation and Quality Winnie is a crowdsourced platform similar to Yelp or Quora where you can both ask questions or give advice. You can post under a pseudonym or anonymously in a community that is very well monitored and moderated. 05:23 Gathering Information Grew organically from private beta testing. The community would add members: friends and family. 06:23 Monetization Winnie is venture-backed. It's very important to keep the app free and accessible to all. 08:32 Building an App For and Around Parenting Parents are wonderful participants and well-behaved to boot. Content that could be considered harmful is not distributed. 11:06 How do you have time to be a parent AND work a full-time J-O-B?!?! Family-friendly workplace. Kids give you motivation. Attitudes towards parents are changing. 15:53 Winnie's Childcare Discovery Platform Links to the Licensing Database to make sure that places are legit. Childcare providers aren't necessarily web marking gurus -- many do not have sweet websites or the time/budget to create them. Rage-driven Development. 21:21 Holy Crap! Kids and Parents Exist in San Francisco?! 22:23 Topic Channels Connecting parents based on special interests. 24:10 Favorite Parts of Being a Parent and a Founder 27:11 Genius / Fail Moments Mandy: Her daughter reffered to Hillary Clinton as Harley Quinn (#Fail) Jess: Comparing voting to choosing between chocolate cake and ice cream (#Genius) Allison: Suggesting her toddler to "stop and think." (#Genius) Sara: Her daughter needs to cut back on the watching of Daniel Tiger after renaming her sister after the sister on the show! (#Fail) Anne: Her 4-year-old confused "voting day" with "boating day" and broke his heart. (#Fail) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Jess Szmajda (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p)
Parent Driven Development Episode 017: Work and Family Boundaries 00:16 Welcome, Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand)! Chris is a Software Engineer at HashiCorp (https://www.hashicorp.com/) where he works on Terraform Enterprise (https://www.hashicorp.com/products/terraform), a product that adds collaboration and governance features to the popular open source infrastructure tool, Terraform (https://www.terraform.io/). As an advocate of distributed teams and open source, he’s spent the majority of his career at other distributed, open source companies such as Red Hat (https://www.redhat.com/). He calls the Twin Cities of Minneapolis and St. Paul, Minnesota his home where he organizes the local Ruby users group, RubyMN (https://www.meetup.com/ruby-mn/?_cookie-check=tTPtT3O5bUmbVkoy), as well as moderates the ‘MSP Tech’ community Slack (http://msptech.herokuapp.com/). Outside of software, Chris is an avid backpacker and amateur ice hockey player, as well as the father of a rambunctious little 19-month-old. 01:32 Balancing Working From Home with a 19-Month-Old The Aspect of Literal Time: Utilizing time when kids are napping/otherwise busy "Shift Work" vs Having Flexible Hours Hashicorp's "Flexible Time Off" Policy vs "Paid Time Off" Approaching Work and Dividing Up Your Day 06:46 Making Family Plans 09:29 Commuting Vs Working From Home Location is Vital Having an At-Home Nanny 13:28 Choosing a Nanny Over Daycare 18:19 Maintaining Balance and Avoiding Excessive Interruptions Noise. Cancelling. Headphones. Shutting The Door 21:14 Improving Mental Presence When Not Working Give Yourself Time to Decompress Before Family Time Mindfulness/Meditation 25:23 Exposing Kids to "I'm working, and this is how I'm working." https://uploads.fireside.fm/images/e/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/XiTktlyT.jpg 43:42 Genius / Fail Moments JC: Has successfully kept his kid alive for 18 years! (#Genius) Also, his sophomore is starting in varsity football! (#Genius) Also, also, he is the team photographer which is a great hobby to have. (#Genius) Josh: Andrew Bredow's Chore Chart (https://github.com/andrewbredow/kid-chores) Chris A: His hockey room! His son is showing interest! (#Genius) ...But, having a new roof put on his house during naptime was probably not the best plan. (#Fail) Chris S: Let his kids help him paint a room! (#Genius) ...But, it turns out they weren't very good at it. (#Fail) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Special Guest: Chris Arcand.
Parent Driven Development Episode 016: Media Picks! Great Apps, Books, Shows, Etc. For Kids 01:15 T.V. Shows / Binge Watching Discussion The Good Place (https://www.nbc.com/the-good-place) (Josh) 05:56 Music Avoid "Kids" Music!! Bee Gees - Stayin' Alive (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fNFzfwLM72c) (Allison) Apple Music (https://www.apple.com/music/) (Chris) 08:54 Games A great bluffing game is Sheriff of Nottingham (https://boardgamegeek.com/boardgame/157969/sheriff-nottingham) (Chris) Go Fish (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Go_Fish) (Allison) Chutes and Ladders (https://www.amazon.com/Chutes-Ladders-Game-Amazon-Exclusive/dp/B00000DMF6) (Allison) Fish Stix (https://www.amazon.com/Peaceable-Kingdom-Award-Winning-Fish/dp/B002CG87Z0) (Allison) How to make Candy Land tolerable (even fun) (http://blankdrums.blogspot.com/2016/01/how-to-make-candy-land-tolerable-even.html?m=1) (Josh) What Are the Odds? Chutes and Ladders (http://blog.minitab.com/blog/fun-with-statistics/what-are-the-odds-chutes-and-ladders) (Josh) BoardGameGeek (https://boardgamegeek.com/) (Josh) Survive: Escape from Atlantis (https://boardgamegeek.com/boardgame/2653/survive-escape-atlantis) (Chris) Harry Potter Hogwarts Battle (https://www.amazon.com/Hogwarts-Cooperative-Building-Official-Merchandise/dp/B01EIKRP0K/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1541527232&sr=8-3&keywords=harry+potter+hogwarts+battle) (Josh) PBS Kids App (https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/pbs-kids-games/id1050773989?mt=8) (Allison) 20:08 T.V. Shows (Cont'd) Phineas and Ferb (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phineas_and_Ferb) (Chris) 21:05 Asking Alexa She tells stories! She's got jokes! She'll play music! She can even add toilet paper to your grocery list! 23:16 'yesmum' Cards (http://www.londonhypnobirthing.co.uk/shop/) 24:31 YouTube Channels SciShow (https://www.youtube.com/scishow) vlogbrothers (https://www.youtube.com/vlogbrothers) 27:10 Apps (Cont'd) Toca Boca (https://tocaboca.com/) 28:55 What We Wish We Had Filtering options that work on services like Hulu and Netflix Better screen time controls Devices that let kids know what the limits are for time budgeting 36:03 Genius / Fail Moments Chris: Using bribes. (#Genius) Josh: Cookbooks! Cooking Class: 57 Fun Recipes Kids Will Love to Make (and Eat!) (https://www.amazon.com/dp/1612124003?ref=yo_pop_ma_swf) and Cooking Rocks! by Rachael Ray (https://www.amazon.com/Cooking-Rocks-Rachael-30-Minute-Meals/dp/1891105159/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1541530540&sr=8-1&keywords=rachael+ray+kid+cookbook). (#Genius) Allison: Her son and her had a little argument and Allison yelled (#Fail), but then they came together and calmed down and walked away better and unscathed. (#Genius) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). We are listener supported. Please consider Supporting us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and gaining access to our our kind Slack Community. Panel Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz)
Parent Driven Development Episode 015: On-Call Schedules 00:20 Welcome, Alyson van Hardenberg (https://twitter.com/akvanh)! Alyson is a Software Engineer at Honeycomb (http://Honeycomb.io) and the mother of two boys. 02:41 Pager or Baby? Which do you choose? It was a non-issue for Alyson. One of Honeycomb's managers, before even hiring Alyson, said that she'd take Alyson's pager during "off-duty" hours as an added responsibility. They'll check in and reevaluate when her son is one. Equal does not mean fair across teams. 05:07 Having On-Call Schedule Discussions Special Accommodations Scheduling Around On-Call Time On-Call Parenting vs On-Call Job-ing Working Remotely and Boundaries Around Work 11:33 Living Your Life On-Call Doubling Up In Pairs Escalation Policies On-Call Onboarding Processes Handling Outings On-Call 22:46 On-Call Team Expectations Triage vs Fixing 26:04 On-Call Stories & Experiences 31:26 Hours of Coverage 6PM - 9PM = The Worst Parenting Hours 33:46 Results of the 1-Year Check-in and Thoughts on Physical Pagers vs PagerDuty (https://www.pagerduty.com/) ### 37:07 Genius / Fail Moments KWu: Taking time off from work, but still having the nanny come. (#Genius) Josh: Introduced the Twilight (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Twilight_Saga_(film_series)) movies to his daughter. (#Fail) Alyson: Taking a Ziplock bag of snacks on long trips. (#Genius) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). We are listener supported. Please consider Supporting us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and gaining access to our our kind Slack Community. Panel Katherine Wu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Special Guest: Alyson van Hardenberg.
Parent Driven Development Episode 014: Conferencing After Babies 00:16 Welcome, Tess (https://twitter.com/GriffinTess) and Sean Griffin (https://twitter.com/sgrif)! Tess is a Site Engineer at GitHub (https://github.com). Sean is a developer at Shopify (https://www.shopify.com/), renowned Rails committer, the creator of the Diesel Framework (http://diesel.rs/), host of The Yak Shave (http://yakshave.fm/) podcast, and a former host of The Bike Shed (http://bikeshed.fm/) podcast. 02:14 Deciding on Conference to Go To and Speak At Conferences who offer on-site childcare are very attractive. Shoutout to Ruby Central (http://rubycentral.org/) conferences and Rust Belt Rust (https://www.rust-belt-rust.com/)! 09:56 Evening Childcare Going through conference organizer recommendations is preferencial because they spend a lot of time scouting the cities, however, services like UrbanSitter (https://www.urbansitter.com/) and Care.com (https://www.care.com/) are options in a pinch. Conferences that offer child/kid-friendly after-hours activities are also great for parents. It seems like more conferences like that are popping up and opting for less bar atomosphere gatherings. 👍 16:38 Awesome Conference-Provided Amenities / Wishlist Items Swag Options for Kids (onesies and t-shirts!) Badges for Kids and Babies A list of kid-tolerant folks / Babysitting Co-ops for parents amongst attendees / Equipment share (Could be in the form of a Slack channel. 23:34 Having Answers BEFORE Asking People to Commit Just having people click a box saying they will need childcare but not having any details about what those plans are isn't cool. (It also gives them a great excuse to turn down coming.) Parents want to know from the get-go that there is a solid childcare plan in place before they commit to going to a conference. Remember, the younger the child, the more logistics are involved around needs and stuff (equipment). Is there a supermarket or supermarket delivery service nearby? How will I get from the airport to the conference hotel? Is there additional costs for children? 27:31 Getting Around Public transportation around your conference is key. 10-15 minutes away from the airport is an ideal distance. 29:26 School-Age Children and Conferences 32:43 Genius / Fail Moments Chris: Print-and play projects (#Genius) Tess: Investing in a nice child gate (#Genius) Allison: Having thoughtful and interactive conversations with your kids (#Genius) Sean: Teaching babies words is hilarious! 🤣 Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). We are listener supported. Please consider Supporting us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and gaining access to our our kind Slack Community. Panel Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Special Guests: Sean Griffin and Tess Griffin.
Parent Driven Development Episode 013: Babies at Work?! 00:15 Welcome, Leah Silber! (https://twitter.com/wifelette) Leah is the CEO of Tilde Inc. (https://www.tilde.io/) She is also an organizer of EmberConf (https://emberconf.com/), RustConf (https://rustconf.com/) and RailsConf (https://railsconf.com/), and Ember.js Core Team (https://www.emberjs.com/team/) Member, a jQuery Core Team (https://jquery.org/team/) alum, author of Event Driven: How to Run Memorable Tech Conferences (https://leanpub.com/eventdriven/), and all around technophile. 01:08 KWu is Planning Her Son's 1st Birthday Party! + How Old Are They? Don't let first birthday parties get out of hand. Not worth it. Get a cake. Let the kid smash. Also, please stop referring to your child's age in months when they turn 2. 04:05 Babies at Work: It’s Weird that it’s Weird (https://hackernoon.com/babies-at-work-its-weird-that-it-s-weird-b285b070d456) In August 2017, Leah wrote this blog post and it was super well received. In the blog post, she talks about a lot of the objections and concern she had at first that turned out to be unfounded. It turns out, bringing her baby to work changed the mood and culture of Tilde in a positive way -- even among self-proclaimed "non-baby people". 09:26 What About The Fussy Days? Working from home can be an option especially on days like vaccination days. Having a quiet area like a conference room or an empty office gets people through short fussy spells. If that doesn't work, going home is encouraged. Leah says that having the babies at work made actually for a much happier baby! 17:56 Nursing Up to the mom! Breastfeeding in public is acceptable, and there are dedicated nursing rooms/spaces to keep it legal (and more private) It becomes normalized! People don't even notice Squatty Potty (https://www.squattypotty.com/) 23:53 Culture From The Core Stating expectations for parents/non-parents during the interview process Scaling as children age Bring the Nanny to work too! Older children must be up to date on vaccinations Becomes a routine 32:43 Does Company Size Matter? Just because there are 50 people in a company does not mean that the volume of babies is going to go up Setting a limit is an option: luck of the draw The bigger the company, the more space non-baby people have to stay away from the babies 35:02 Program Evolution Effects on Nannies Beneficial for dads too! 42:37 Avoiding Judgement Turns out, people (who aren't the child's parents) are more helpful than judgemental Pets are not babies...no, your dog can not come to work because my baby is here 48:31 Genius / Fail Moments KWu: Water coming out of the tub faucet is fascinating and acts as a baby magnet to draw them to the bathroom for a bath! (#Genius) Allison: Creating an insane schedule of hodgepodge childcare that involves massive amounts of logistics. (#Fail) Leah: Shoutout to the parents who think their kids will never walk. Her son started walking at 18 months! (#Genius) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). We are listener supported. Please consider Supporting us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and gaining access to our our kind Slack Community. Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Katherine Wu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Special Guest: Leah Silber.
Parent Driven Development Episode 012: Traveling with Kids 00:48 The Great Screen Debate Today's particular panelists are all about screens while traveling as long as it's not detracting from the travel experience. Everyone agrees that screens are a great way to keep kids occupied and quiet. 08:09 Transportation Challenges, Woes, and Genius Tips When your kid gets flagged on her first plane ride... TSA Pre√ (https://www.tsa.gov/precheck) (Worth its weight in gold!!) Download shows to devices in advance Have a variety of activities (besides screens) Hotel Paper & Pens Books Cheerios ... and a Walkman (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Walkman)? Building Up Good Will with People Around You: Is it worth bribing others (with chocolate??) and socializing or should they just deal with you traveling with your kiddo(s)? Use Car Services like Lyft! (https://www.lyft.com/) 24:25 Transportation + Car Seats (Deserves its own conversation, obviously.) Amazon a cheap one + have delivered to your destination then donate when you go home (Pro tip: Do the same thing with diapers!) Uber and Lyft have car seat options in select cities (https://offspring.lifehacker.com/how-to-ride-with-a-car-seat-in-an-uber-or-lyft-1826237627) Renting Car Seats: Yay or Nay? 32:58 On-The-Go Childcare Hotel Concierge - Check Yelp (https://www.yelp.com/) Reviews! Make sure you know where the closest hospital/urgent care center is 37:46 We're Here. Now What? Google "Top 10 things to do in X" Use an app like Winnie (https://winnie.com/) 39:48 A Round of Helpful Hints and Tricks Josh: If possible, get a hotel room with a separate bedroom. Mandy: Hotels with pools are delightful. (Especially if your kids can swim on their own.) Also use Uber Eats (https://www.ubereats.com) for food delivery to the hotel if going out is undesirable. Chris: Pizza chains will deliver to hotel pools for an easy pizza party. Great for traveling sports teams! Allison: Bring a roll of duct tape and use a taller chair on the side of the bed to act as a bedrail. Andy: Aluminum foil and a sponge! 43:42 Genius / Fail Moments Allison: MilkStork (https://www.milkstork.com/): A breast milk shipping company when you're away from your infant. Andy: Andy's son offered his teddy bear to a friend in need! Chris: Playing Mario Kart (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mario_Kart) on the Nintendo Wii (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wii) as a family activity to teach good sportsmanship and kindness. Mandy: Staying on the boardwalk part of the beach on the ground level. Also, if you do a lot of traveling, save up points! Mandy uses Marriott Rewards (https://www.marriott.com/loyalty.mi) to get free nights in select hotels for summer vacation fun! Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Andy Croll (https://twitter.com/andycroll) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz)
Parent Driven Development Episode 011: Being a Trans Parent 00:30 We're joined by our friend Jess (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) today We've been soliciting questions from our audience which will help guide our conversation today 02:00 How do you help young children who want to categorize everything in to boys and girls? How do we talk about boy parts and girl parts and gender identity especially with young children? It's a complex topic. Different children classify in different ways. Does it talk to how we socialize children? It changes when your children interact with other children in school. Science has proven that gender identity is mostly internal and it is in flux until children are around 3 and then they demonstrate more behaviors that can be associated with a specific gender. 07:50 How much do body parts relate to gender identity? Talking about body parts and explaining that you can't tell what a person is by looking at them. You need to ask, 9:00 Children see the world in different ways There's a need to talk to children in different ways because the way children classify and categorize are different. It's important to reach a child in a way that makes sense for them. You can still categorize and have these boundaries but talking about what defining characteristics and boundaries are is important. We're seeing more categories now that are gender non-binary or gender fluid and that's another set of categories to introduce and look for in books. When other people define those categories, it's also very difficult and overwriting peer pressure and social norms is tough. We have to understand details and nuance. Needing to overwrite social norms and outside influence is so much of parenting. It's a beautiful thing when parents can help their children learn compassion and talk through these questions. 14:14 If a child sees someone and wants to know what gender that person is, what is a good way to make sure we're guiding them correctly and having them ask in a way that is not offense and hurtful to the individual? Parents react in a variety of ways when children ask. Jess talks about some of the reactions she's gotten and what is helpful in the moment. The polite way to ask as an adult is "hi, my pronouns are and . What are your pronouns?" It's hard to tell by looking at folks so it can be normalized by just asking. Sarah talks about a camp that does this and the children have picked up on it super quickly. Kids are much more open to these discussions now than we are at our age and they might be more open to these discussions because they are being raised in a different time. 19:50 Listener comment Conversations about a trans girl in elementary school led to a lot of parental learning. 20:20 Are younger kids talking about this more and recognizing this earlier? Definitely. Talking about media representations and cultural expectations of trans people in the past and present. Late transitioners are going to become less and less common. 22:00 What's helpful as parents to make sure our children feel comfortable having these conversations with us? Podcast: How to be a girl (http://www.howtobeagirlpodcast.com/) about a parent raising a trans girl Book: Transgender 101 (https://www.amazon.com/Transgender-101-Simple-Guide-Complex/dp/0231157134) helps address these issues As well as some helpful questions and approaches for parents with children talking about gender identification. 25:00 - 28:30 How do you deal with people who can't understand? trigger warning Gender dysphoria and depression dysphoria and euphoria. Talking about calling in a support system and recognizing how to be honest with ourselves and our families. 29:00 As parents, how to support trans families? Best allies are simple things like using the correct pronouns because it's more about being a person and not about being trans. Jess shares a Mother's Day story which shows fellow parent support and an example of allyship. 32:00 How to help young children develop identity in a world of gender policing? Graciously accept gifts and then lose them. Trying to phrase things as play or as talking about play as what the child is doing. Giving children options is good as well. 36:00 What are good resources? Red: A Crayon's Story (https://www.amazon.com/Red-Crayons-Story-Michael-Hall/dp/0062252070) I am Jazz (https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Jazz-Jessica-Herthel/dp/0803741073/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=) Kids books are few and far between. For adults, pflag (https://www.pflag.org/) chapters are also good. Jenny Boylan (http://jenniferboylan.net/) as an author is great. Jess is also happy to chat on twitter! 39:00 Genius / Fail moments Allison - I took my son to see the fireworks and he was excited but also terrified and asked to leave. I thought it was ok but then once we got home we needed to have a long discussion about how he's safe in the house from fireworks. I may have scarred him for life. #Fail Chris - My kids wanted to wash the truck which was great but then they got bored of washing and took the hose to the side yard and now it's a muddy mess. #Genius Jess - My son's daycare has been growing cucumbers and he brought home cucumbers to make pickles! #Genius Josh - The food wars continue. My daughter helps me pick out the meals that get sent every week so she recognizes that she's agreed to what gets sent. #Genius Sarah - My daughter drew a picture of being a spider vet when she grows up, but actually it was a spider pirate. She's got a great imagination. #Genius Also, future genius? Family vacations are hard so instead of a family trip. We're doing 1-on-1 trips depending on where each child wants to go. 53:40 Contact Us! Tell us if you have a question you want us to discuss on air! Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com) Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel: Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Sarah Olson (https://twitter.com/saraheolson) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Special Guest: Jess Szmajda.
Parent Driven Development Episode 010: Doing Good with Kids, Live Episode 00:50 We're LIVE from Ruby For Good (https://rubyforgood.org/) 02:30 How do we make our kids do good? School is a good place to start. There are lots of options for kids and parents to start out. We talk about different activities at different ages, preschool to high school 03:37 Where to start when you want to have childcare at your conference Treat it as any other vendor Go to the conference venue and ask for recommendations Ask for recommendations from the hotel, local user groups, etc. 5:30 Various programs are mentioned For Girl Scout cookies (https://www.girlscouts.org/en/cookies/all-about-cookies.html) you can purchase a cookie to have sent to troops overseas Girls on the Run (https://www.girlsontherun.org/) each session has a theme related to "good" things 6:40 For young children, focus on having the conversation What does it mean to do good things? We talk about PJ Library (https://pjlibrary.org/home) and Tikkun Olam (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tikkun_olam) Simple things are good like the Dawn soap (https://dawn-dish.com/en-us/dawn-saves-wildlife) that you can use to tell a story Box Tops (https://www.boxtops4education.com/) can be taken to school The more exposure, the better 9:50 Bring the kids along At this conference, bringing kids can help them see that we're doing good things. It also happens when kids see you packing up food for shelters. The more exposure you have, the better JC talks about how they help people move a lot. Religious institutions are also a good way to find opportunities. Mandy talks about doing something nice for a homeless person and the conversation that resulted from that action 13:30 Helping family is also a good option Helping family members and grandparents can be very important. Finding places with family and extended family or neighbors to do good things for is really great. Helping our kids be aware of opportunities to help others is key 17:00 The News We talk about what's going on in the world and how we help our kids understand them. Do we bring our children to rallies? or marches? What is the importance of talking about what is going on in the news and being aware of how it affects our children, the world, and others. How do we support our children if they want to participate in walk-outs or some of the activism happening with our kids these days? 21:20 - 22:53 Trigger Warning: We talk a bit about the Parkland Shooting and gun violence related to our children 23:00 What do we do for the world for our kids? Beyond involving our kids, we get involved in issues that affect the world our children are growing up in Like elections, environment, infrastructure, etc. Writing letters to the Senate can be incredibly important so that funding continues for life changing programs. 26:30 Showing kids that doing good is also bi-directional. You give and you get. Local tech stuff, mentoring, starting a Women Who Code (https://www.womenwhocode.com/) chapter and more 29:00 Monetary donations are also great Sometimes you're not going to be able to do things hands-on, giving money is also important Involve kids in where to donate Allow children to allocate money to a charity or charity type Birthdays are a great opportunity as well, money to charity instead of gifts 34:00 Genius / Fail moments Allison - We sleep trained our daughter! We were going to wait but we didn't and it's worked out really well. #Genius JC - Teenager was being a teenager and we took him off the Spotify premium family plan. #Genius Chris - My son doesn't enunciate always and we had a Trader Joe's chicken in the freezer and we called it Emergency Chicken. One day Lars was in class and said Emergency Chicken is his favorite food. #Fail Mandy - I've been super busy this conference season and end of the school year and I missed an email from a teacher which apparently said there were portfolio reading. My daughter was super sad and I just missed it. But I'm making up for it! #Fail 44:40 Contact Us! Tell us if you have a question you want us to discuss on air! Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com) Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel: Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton)
Parent Driven Development Episode 009: Planning Childcare at Conferences 00:25 We're joined by Abby Phoenix (https://twitter.com/aphoenix) today 01:00 When did childcare at Ruby Central events start? started in 2015 and have now been at 6 conferences The intention is to always have childcare at RailsConf (https://railsconf.com/) and RubyConf (https://rubyconf.org/) 03:37 Where to start when you want to have childcare at your conference Treat it as any other vendor Go to the conference venue and ask for recommendations Ask for recommendations from the hotel, local user groups, etc. 6:10 Smaller conferences Smaller conferences are a little more difficult but also easier because if it's in the same location every year you can use the same provider year after year 7:30 Very important that childcare is based in the city of the conference They know how to get around They have alternative options They are on time They have the equipment they need 9:10 How many people use childcare at conferences? Typically 5-7 kids Usually younger children especially since RubyConf and RailsConf are during the school year so most older children are in school Always a question of whether or not a parent can make it work because bringing a child to a conference can be challenging 13:45 Lactation room is also offered Visibility is very important It is important that it is known in the community that childcare and lactation rooms are available at these conferences What to call the lactation room? How it works at a conference to make sure you don't get walking in on and to make sure it is easy The lactation room has outlets and a fridge. 20:20 We tangent about all the things we can't wait to forget as parents Diapers Wiping bums and more 21:30 Lactation rooms are really easy to put in place as a conference organizer 22:20 What have been the biggest challenges of providing childcare at a conference? There were things we did not know to ask when we started and so now we have a list which is helpful Abby goes in to which questions they have started to ask 26:00 What do you wish you could provide? Evening childcare so parents can do things. They will try to work with childcare providers to offer after-hours care but can't provide it themselves 31:00 Childcare is often tailored to 1-5 year olds Most of the participants are younger 32:00 Mandy talks about what you can do with an older child at a conference Is it worth it to bring an older child to a conference? What conferences have a "kids track"? How to engage older kids at conferences? The childcare provider will often tailor childcare towards the age range of the children there 39:30 What are the costs involved for organizers and participants Participants are not charged for using childcare Discussion about costs in different cities 44:00 Genius / Fail moments Allison - My daughter has had a rough few weeks and loves being bounced on a ball but it's tiring for me and hurts my back, so I put her on the ball, tummy down, bounced her, and it calmed her down and she got gas out #Genius Andy - After a difficult day, my daughter wrote "I love you daddy, even when you're grumpy" #Genius? or #Fail? Mandy - My daughter got the principals award for having a positive attitude, was responsible, did homework, and more. I was very proud! #Genius KWu - I'm on call for the week and so I set up a daybed in the office and negotiated with my husband that after the wake-ups, I would go to the office and turn off the monitor and be off duty for a few hours #Genius Abby - My daughters are very picky eaters. My youngest will eat waffles that she'll eat for breakfast. Recently she brought one over to me and said, "mommy I really like these. I like that there is candy inside" #Fail With my oldest, I asked her to describe her perfect meal and I thought she'd talk about candy or ice cream but she said "My perfect meal is a cheese plate" and so from then on every night has been a cheese plate for dinner, which to her means little bits of a variety of food #Genius 54:00 RubyConf is coming! Find more information at @rubyconf (https://twitter.com/rubyconf) and rubyconf.org (https://rubyconf.org/) has some information right now. Registration will open in August or September 54:40 Contact Us! Email us to ask questions. Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com) Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel: Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwu) Andy Croll (https://twitter.com/andycroll) Special Guest: Abby Phoenix.
Parent Driven Development Episode 008: Remote working with kids 00:37 Who all works remotely? 02:30 Working remotely with kids at home Lifestyle choice Nursing and alternate schedules Spouses working from home as well 06:00 Working remotely before and after having a child The difference between working from home with a spouse also working from home vs. not Hard starts and stops to your day 10:00 JC forgets pickup 11:00 Dealing with interruptions This classic example (https://youtu.be/Mh4f9AYRCZY) Interruptions from your spouse vs. the kid(s) 15:00 Allison joins 15:45 Do companies who accept remote work also do better at understanding flexible schedules and work/life balance? Tyranny of the green dot on Slack What are the expectations of being remote? Do we feel guilty about doing "life" or kid stuff during the work day? 19:53 Being a remote worker vs. being on a distributed team Understanding working hours Helping colleagues be more purposeful about working hours and communication 23:00 Shared calendars and communicating hours to your team slack notifications and snoozing google calendar work hours basecamp Tools 24:00 Based on Cate's blog post (https://cate.blog/2016/12/29/figuring-out-remote-work-is-figuring-out-work/) Going in to an office established a lot of defaults for a team and working remotely it helps to be more explicit 25:30 Being in the office is nice because you get to talk to other adults. How do you deal with isolation? Going to stores Being in the coffee shop Parenting groups and daycares Playdates with other kids The difficulty of coworking and coffee shop working while pumping Leads to great isolation which is pretty difficult Rant about when people tell you to be social while pumping (spoiler: it's not that easy!!) 31:00 Being home instead of going out as a matter of priorities What do you want to have time for? 33:00 Listener Question!! Our first!! It is so exciting!!! When is the right time to introduce screens to your child and how did you do it? Allison introduced games first, mostly on flights. When Allison introduced tv shows, she tried to make it educational like Daniel Tiger (http://pbskids.org/daniel/), PBS shows (http://pbskids.org/), etc. Talking to your child about what they watched and what they learned KWu thinks what screen time and for what purpose. And introduce something, see the effect and make changes from there. JC said as you have more kids, it's harder to control media and screen time. Having structure around things is very important. Josh remembers lots of research but can't remember when they introduced screens Andy says do it collectively and sparingly KWu says that technology and watching things can be used as bonding time and can focus on artistic or creative endeavors as opposed to isolating JC talks about use of imagination using programs like minecraft (https://minecraft.net/en-us/). 45:00 Genius / Fail moments JC - my daughter has been playing softball and she looked at pictures of herself batting and fixed an issue! She was resilient and didn't get discouraged. #Genius Allison - Everything is a genius and fail right now. My son's preschool teacher told me that he's doing fantastic #Genius Josh - my daughter has guinea pigs named Ana and Elsa and one of them fell which led to a visit to the vet. There they found out Ana and Elsa are male which led to a great discussion about gender and what gender means. #Genius KWu - Marriage win! We started watching the Americans together and it is so nice to be doing something together and have something not household related to talk about. #Genius Andy - After a difficult day, my daughter wrote "I love you daddy, even when you're grumpy" #Genius? or #Fail? 53:00 Contact Us! Tell us what you're learning! Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com) Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel: Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwu) Andy Croll (https://twitter.com/andycroll) Additional links: 100 Remote Work Stats, Quotes, and Statistics (https://officearrow.com/remote-work-statistics/) https://medium.com/@benthompson/breaking-down-the-father-on-bbc-being-interrupted-by-his-children-9840cdc8857b https://youtu.be/-Ojvk-4IcOE
Parent Driven Development Episode 007: Keeping up to date with tech 00:27 Welcome back Allison 01:00 Today topic: Learning during the work day 02:47 It's ok if learning doesn't happen when your kids are little 04:14 Learning if you're a single parent is more difficult It's more difficult if you don't have a partner to hand things off to Real talk: you will always just have less time 7:15 Choices and Bringing your laptop along Being efficient and aware of the time you have But don't burn out 12:36 The pressure to always be learning Pros and cons to these feelings How it relates to burn out How it related to work/life balance 15:35 Staying competitive in the industry Tools, tips, and tricks 18:36 Learning staycations 22:33 Know how you learn and setting goals Knowing how you learn is really important How much do you want to learn? To what extent? etc. 23:34 Learning while you're on the clock Convincing your employer to give you time to learn Selling learning time to your boss 34:36 External groups like meetups, slack, etc. are extremely important for having a peer group to learn from Support groups are super important Coworking locally is even helpful if you can't make it to meetups, etc. 37:10 Genius / Fail moments Chris - Conference swag as gifts for kids when you get home #Genius Allison - I get to do 3 because it's been a while. I started a subscription to Le Tote so I can get new clothes that are nursing and postpartum body friendly #Genius Baby has been sleeping for the entire podcast #Genius My son didn't realize he could get out of his room on his own in the morning and he thought he had been left home alone #Fail Josh - Labo (https://labo.nintendo.com/) is a set of projects made out of cardboard and it's integrated into a Nintendo Switch. It's awesome, but we haven't had a chance to do it yet. #Genius JC -We're participating in the mulch fundraiser. My kids had to go out and hustle and sell mulch, cover fees, etc. But the fail was that my 15 year old had a snarky answering machine message on his phone and he lost a sale as a result. #Genius turned #Fail 53:00 Contact Us! Tell us what you're learning! Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com) Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel: Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena)
Parent Driven Development Episode 006: Screen Time 00:17 Today topic: Screen Time 03:10 Screen time limits How do we set limits for our children and their devices 06:59 Other people's screen time policies Negotiating our screen time policies versus other parents opinions 09:16 Is all screen time the same? Does it matter what types of activities our children are engaging in on their screens? How do we teach our children the different between good content and bad content? 21:00 Explaining our own relationships to devices We carry digital devices around all the time: how do we explain that to our children? How can we model good behavior? 26:23 Screen time limits per activities The discussion turns to setting screen time limits per activity, and helping kids budget their time Circle by Disney (https://meetcircle.com) 30:57 What each of us do for screen time in our households Each of the hosts states for the record what our current screen time policies are 38:47 Genius / Fail moments Josh - Preordering gifts from business trips from Amazon. #Genius KWu - Introducing new foods early with Spoonful One (link), scientific experiments to introduce new solids #Genius Sarah - "Helpful coupons" artwork #Fail 47:00 Contact Us! Use your screen time to contact us! Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com) Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel: Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Sarah Olson (https://twitter.com/saraheolson) Katherine Wu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl)
00:32 Meet our guest Jonathan Wallace He is a mentor, speaker, organizer, developer and open source contributor. Married with three kids and a dog. He's also been a Georgia state legislator since January. 01:07 Net neutrality We start off talking about net neutrality and how it affects our children. How the repeal affects who regulates the infrastructure companies. How does it affect the internet content builders, how might it affect free speech, and how the internet is becoming the civic square. Are rules being put in place ahead of time or coming up and cleaning up after? 6:04 States are stepping in What effect does having states stepping up to manage net neutrality have on the internet? Is zero rating an unfair practice? How about throttling? QoS is also a useful tool but at what level is it fair? Playing favorites can benefit consumers in some instances, but it could be detrimental to competition and innovation. Monopolistic practices can come into consideration. We don't see the choice of ISPs we would like to see throughout the country. Rural areas in particular are underserved. We've had instances where zero rating has come into play. Everything is online. Government services are online and people need to have adequate access to the internet to function in society. 13:36 Nuances in the discussion over net neutrality What are some of the nuances we miss regarding the net neutrality discussion when we view it from a distance? Jonathan talks about some of the insights he has about this. Telecom providers were required to lease space to other providers. Multiple ISPs provided DSL but used the same telecom in the background. New technologies can leapfrog existing technologies that have regulatory constraints. Providers may not be able to prioritize service in areas where it is not profitable due to too much regulation. 17:37 Bringing technological expertise to the legislature Jonathan speaks about how his experience in technology has helped his approach as a legislator. There are so many aspects of law to cover that he points out how he brings his expertise in tech but also ignorance in other areas. Legislators are either rich, retired or broke. There are a lot of retired people in legislation, but there are few that have a tech background. He's been learning what the process and tradition are as a legislator. There are many layers of abstraction and nuance in the legislative process. 20:16 Net Neutrality and basic human rights The discussion shifts to speaking about net neutrality and how it relates to basic human rights. Free speech is important to be preserved in this new public square. The concentration of power can be abused by the few. It's important to have rules in place to ensure freedom of communication in these private networks. We can't control the passage of time, but we can control where we are paying attention. 25:16 Managing it all Jonathan is involved in technology and now in the public sphere, so how is he managing all this along with his family? There is a zero sum game when it comes to time available. His son was ready to start advocating for his opponents so he might be home more. With the blessing and support of his family, Jonathan's been able to make significant changes and sacrifices to be able to serve. It's a part-time job wth full-time obligations. 29:48 Jonathan's approach to children and technology How has Jonathan introduced technology into his children's lives? Jonathan considers it his moment of shame. He's been able to introduce some education games and shown them some programming with Scratch. He sees himself more of a facilitator and a support for his children. 32:55 Genius / Fail moments Johnny Rae - Still no cable. Their streaming device crashed and it did not get replaced and the kids were fine. #Genius Josh - Nightly family routine watching a "Just add magic" episode and discussing it with their daughter. #Genius KWu - Has been introducing solids to her 6.5 month baby, specifically avocados. Since baby will only eat a bit and not wanting the avocado to go bad, KWu has been eating the rest of it. #Genius JC - Won the tie tying competition at the daddy/daughter dance with his 3rd grader. Took home a giant heart-shaped mylar balloon. #Genius Jonathan - Both a Fail and a Genius moment. * Did not manage his child's anxiety properly knowing he'd be gone during the week and got impatient. #Fail * Uses Dragonbox (https://dragonbox.com/) to teach the concepts of algebra to his kids in a sneaky way. #Genius 40:12 Where's Jonathan? You can find Jonathan on Twitter at @jonathanwallace (https://twitter.com/jonathanwallace) for personal and @wallacefor119 (https://twitter.com/wallacefor119) for his political work. 49:40 Contact us! We're here ready to answer all your questions with terrible advice! Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel: Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena) Johnny Rae Austin (https://twitter.com/recursivefunk) Katherine Wu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Special Guest: Jonathan Wallace.
00:19 - Dave Bock - Multiples! Dave has been a software engineer since 1991, with several forays into management, and even ran a small consulting firm with a couple of friends for 8 years. He’s currently the DevOps Service Area Lead at Excella Consulting, a father of 10 year old triplet boys, is the director of the nonprofit LoudounCodes, helps organize the RubyNation and DevOps DC Days conferences, and co-organizes a handful of meet ups in the Northern Virginia area. 00:55 10 Year old triplet boys! Dave and his wife did IVF. They were hoping for one child and were delighted/shocked to have three! The odds for three embryos implanting was 2%. They always wanted three, just didn't expect them all at once. 3x of everything! It was 3x the work with only two of them. Now that they are older, they do help each other a lot. 3:50 Going back to work Leveling up the difficulty by quitting his job and starting a consultancy 3 months into the pregnancy. Dave talks about the tension with billing hourly and feeling like you're losing money if you're not working while trying to manage three newborns. They realized with triplets all milestones (walking, talking) happened within days of each other too, so you need to be paying attention. It took a while to get the consultancy to the point where there was a good work/life balance. 8:52 Triplets vs One at a time The stages are spread out across longer years vs doing all the work for each stage at once. Some people with three kids do diapers for 10 years. For them, when they were done with diapers, they were done. They had to use assembly line processes to get the kids fed. They couldn't keep up and started buying pre-mixed formula. The delivery person thought she was delivering food for a pony and asked to see it. No hand-me-downs. Have to have at least 4 choices when getting something so each kid can have a choice even if picking last. 13:23 Andy joins the call! We continue talking about how the triplets have their individual personalities and how they've nurtured that individuality. They've kept the kids in separate classrooms with their own friends and such. They go on one-on-one outings with each kid. Invidual personalities come out when they are on their own but blend when the kids are together. 17:15 Multiples learn to share early on The kids develop a sense of fairness early on. Older kids seem to get stricter parents, but it's probably just a matter of being able to control their environment. Kids are growing up with a lot of screen time. 20:35 Technology at different ages Spread out kids have different technology available when they get to a certain age. Triplets hit the same tech at the same time. 21:54 How do you find events to take kids to? Dave talks about how he's volunteered for years in different capacities and at different places. That's allowed him to influence the curriculum the kids are exposed to regarding technology. He suggested Hour of Code and they've been using it since his kids were in first grade. He also teaches highschool kids and runs the LoudounCodes program. He buys started kits that teach his kids how to solder and build electronics. Also local events in the community, playgrounds, museums, etc. Programming with Scratch. Letting the kids find something they like to do and giving them free time to do it. 27:44 An endlessly adapting river of water of parenting After a long and varied career, Dave's wife decided to stay home and work at home with the children. She's the one that keeps everything running. Dave also credits his mom with helping keep things going. She has an in-law suite at their home and helps with the children and dinner. Andy talks about how he and his wife have been able to work from home while having their children. JC talks about being able to work from home for a large part of his children's early years and how that helped the balancing act with his wife who eventually went back into the workforce. Allison talks about mental load and how difficult it can be to mentally unload the home management part of life while working full time. Dave talksa about being equal partners and sharing the load. It's called parenting, not babysitting your kids 36:44 Teasing your children Dave talks about a few ways they've pranked the children. Zombies, the Walking Dead and RubyDCamp. Gummy bear addiction. 40:42 Genius/Fail moments JC - Decided to take his kids to see Black Panther as a surprise and forgot about his daughter's end of season pizza party which she missed. #FAIL Andy - Managed to survive their childrens' "half-term" days off when all their plans fell apart. #GENIUS Allison - Ran out of patience and yelled. The rest of us feel like it's called "morning". - #FAIL Dave - After one of his kid had his apendix removed, a second started having similar symptoms. The third child started worrying that it may be contagious. Dave tried to tease him about it and the kid turned it around on him. - #FAIL 48:44 Where's Dave? You can usually find dave under bokman on various sites. He's bokmann on Twitter (https://twitter.com/bokmann), Github (https://github.com/bokmann), Skype, and just about anywhere. His non-profit can be reached at Loudouncode.org (https://loudouncodes.org) with a mission to support computer science education for Loudoun County's K-12 students. 49:40 Contact us! We'd love to hear from our listeners. Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel: Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Andy Croll (https://twitter.com/andycroll) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena) Special Guest: Dave Bock.
0:31 First Guest! Heidi Waterhouse (https://twitter.com/wiredferret) - Parent of two. Developer evangelist for LaunchDarkly (https://launchdarkly.com/). Volunteers teaching sex ed to teenagers. She likes to sew her own conference dresses and ride her bike. 1:00 Internet privacy and safety and how it is adaptable to kids of all ages. How should kids protect themselves online, have manners, and use their time wisely. Online behavior is permanent these days, so kids should also consider using obfuscated names online. Pseudonyms are personas you can discard if necessary while keeping you safe. Online predation is possible, but you are more likely to be get gendered grief online. 8:00 Problematic relationships with Facebook You can have a real name account, but you have to behave as if in an office all day. Kids have a harder time controlling impulses. Due to COPPA regulation, parents wanting their non teenage children to have an online account have to lie about the child’s age when signing them up. COPPA (https://www.ftc.gov/enforcement/rules/rulemaking-regulatory-reform-proceedings/childrens-online-privacy-protection-rule), well intentioned, but disenfranchises kids under 13 and forces parents to jump through hoops when getting their children online. 10:57 Wallet identity Sometimes you want accolades and other positive achievements tied to your persona. Each kid is different and some will want the attention while others won’t. Some things you do in public and online forums will be public, regardless of your preference. As parents, we make decisions for our children. Everything decision we make for our children will be things they’ll have to live with. Some parents choose to not make choices for their children regarding online personas. 14:45 Less physical spaces A book from Danah Boyd (https://www.amazon.com/Its-Complicated-Social-Lives-Networked/dp/0300166311) discusses how we’ve deprived teenagers from any space they can meet and hang out so the only space they have left is cyber space. Overscheduling, curfews, no hanging out at malls. Technology is making physical gatherings less common. 16:29 Cyber safety is the new Sex Ed Schools have Google accounts for kids to use the Google suite for education. Cyber security education is the equivalent of abstinence only sex ed. 70% of parents have a password to their kids’ phones and monitor their devices. 20:35 Safe places for kids to explore online communication and not raising trolls. Online platforms where kids can interact safely. Discord (https://discord.me). Teach children what is appropriate, and give them the ability to identify what is right and wrong. “It’s only online, it doesn’t matter” is how you build an online troll. Everyone is a human on the other side of the screen. 24:51 Determining when your children should level up Each kid is different and timing depends on each kid. Learnign what should be downloadable to your computer so it doesn’t break. What about your kid wanting a YouTube career? (Yes YouTube, no comments) Keeping their online circles to friend they know in person helps, while having open discussion about their online lives. Let them know they can be monitored, and privileges can be narrowed. 35:13 Genius/Fail moments Andy - Picked up his kids from school but left his dog there. #FAIL Allison - Continuation of last episode’s fail. Still reading fire safety book at bedtime. #FAIL Heidi - 15YO assembled IKEA storage system by himself. #GENIUS Chris - Kids decided to spend time roughhousing instead of online. Though he overheard from downstairs: SON: Stop! You’re going to break my arm! DAUGHTER: I don’t want to break your arm, I want to break your spirit! #GENIUS Mandy - Going to Disney World! After a long long time of saving, it’s happening. #GENIUS Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel: Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Andy Croll (https://twitter.com/andycroll) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Mandy Moore (http://twitter.com/recursivefunk) Special Guest: Heidi Waterhouse.
00:34 - Combating Burnout Mandy was on “vacation” and has to make an appearance at another conference. Her daughter doesn’t want her to go and Mandy feels really bad about it. She’s been on the road a lot the past six months and is feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. JC says it’s important to learn to say no and recharge by doing hobbies. Chris says it comes down to priorities. 06:12 - Playing Activity Hooky: AS A PARENT! Mandy also feels bad because she knowingly skipped her daughter’s gymnastics practice because after returning from her trip, she didn’t feel like going, her daughter didn’t bring it up, so they didn’t go! Revelation: Other people have been known to do it too! The panelists talk about how most of them grew up with their parent’s beliefs being drilled into them that if you sign up for a commitment, you do the commitment. Allison had the opposite upbringing when it came to that though. 16:45 - Feeling Judgement As well as feeling bad about all of the above, Mandy has people in her life that judge her parenting style -- namely nosy neighbors. The panel talks about the differences between mothers and fathers getting judged and possibly having different licenses in the gender department when it comes to being parents. They also discuss kids playing outside these days and that it is scary to let your child run free sometimes but come to the consensus that it’s generally necessary and healthy. 27:07 - Letting Kids Figure it Out by Themselves The panelists talk about how it’s important for kids to learn conflict resolution instead of solving all of their problems for them. Eventually, they WILL work it out! They also agree they like to let their kids be themselves and have some independence when it comes to dressing themselves. Genius/Fail Moments of the Week: Allison: Her son is afraid of smoke detectors! #FAIL Josh: Unknowingly let his daughter stay home from school for a snow day -- from the wrong school! #FAIL Chris: Played Survive: Escape From Atlantis (https://boardgamegeek.com/boardgame/2653/survive-escape-atlantis) all day to keep his kids busy during a snow day! #GENIUS Mandy: Signed up for the food delivery service, Plated (https://www.plated.com/). #GENIUS Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel: Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Mandy Moore (http://twitter.com/recursivefunk)
01:40 - Allison Intro Allison talks a bit about kids being curious, asking questions, and how they somehow sneakily get past some safety measures we try to put in place. The older ones blatantly just write us notes and leave the house. 04:53 - Andy Intro Andy introduces us to parenting multiples and how he’s been “leading a small team!” We also comment on how our children always seem to plot against us. 08:17 - Sarah Intro Sarah goes into how she’s navigating being the parent of a gymnast and how kids activities easily can consume your life. She also talks about how her little one is an empath and the panelists talk about how sad movies (i.e. Bambi) have ruined everyone forever as parents. 12:55 - Josh Intro Josh says that his family has moved around a lot and that it can be hard on kids. He talks about his daughter’s hobbies which include cosplay and that they are entering the adolescent years terrified as two dads facing the puberty of their little girl. We are all confused as to why wearing bras is now the cool thing to do. (Before it’s necessary!) We also briefly touch on the difference between having boys and girls and gender neutrality. 22:02 - Mandy Intro Mandy tells the story of how her daughter got the nickname “Chicken” and being a single mom. We then talk a little bit about a topic that we are going to delve into more in two weeks with our guest, Heidi Waterhouse: Internet Safety & Privacy. 26:25 - Johnny Intro Johnny talks about some solutions he’s found to combat the Internet monitoring conundrum such as the Nvidia Shield (https://www.nvidia.com/en-us/shield/) and Mobicip (http://www.mobicip.com/). We also talk about kids do have a conscience and are capable of understanding the difference between right and wrong. Andy mentions he is reading the book, The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haidt (https://www.amazon.com/Righteous-Mind-Divided-Politics-Religion/dp/0307455777). We also weigh the pros and cons of “making” our kids watch educational content. 38:55 - KWu Intro KWu says she is nervous about going back to work after having a baby. Allison suggests learning to enjoy little moments like finishing a cup of coffee when it was still hot. And then there’s the topic of pumping and how your brain chemistry changes after having children. The panel also touches on how having a partner can make parenting easier and Mandy talks briefly about being a single mom and using the Spoon Theory (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoon_theory) to get through the days. Except she calls them her “Fs to Give”. 49:32 - JC Intro JC has kids of all ages (between 8 and 17) and talks about how it goes so fast. He also has a pet name for his daughter: “Monkey”. His family also loves their lives since having cut the cable cord. 56:48 - Chris Intro Chris’ son wants to be a developer so he encourages him to play Minecraft. Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel: Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Andy Croll (https://twitter.com/andycroll) Sarah Olson (https://twitter.com/saraheolsen) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Mandy Moore (http://twitter.com/recursivefunk) Johnny Ray Austin (https://twitter.com/recursivefunk) Katherine Wu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton)
