Lilith's Compass: Recent Episodes
Katrina Williams
There is nothing more spiritual than protecting our wombs and ensuring our children have a fighting chance to survive in this world. In this episode, we discuss the importance of women properly discerning who we procreate with, and why we should critique the ways in which our community ignore the needs of our children to pacify the ego of the male population.
This episode is for those with Pisces, Cancer, and Scorpio; sun, rising, or moon placements. A lot of messages our Guides have for us is about letting go of dead situations, especially those regarding romantic relationships and other close connections. Take a listen.
In this episode we revisit the basic tenents of what it means to be a Twin Flame. No bull. No Fluff... we get to the center of what makes this unique connection stand out from the rest.
So, you've met the person of your dreams... or so you thought. They caught your attention and had you immediately smitten. Then over time, they begin showing you the real them. They're impatient, needy, clingy, and rude. You may even feel pressured to keep the relationship going because you know if you didn't, it would fail. In this episode we talk about what real divine relationships look like and how to identify toxic ones.
The Fall season is one of endings and new beginnings. It's important for us to learn when to let go of toxic people so we can live happier and healthier lives.
The dusty and crusty have managed to fix their fingers again to type bs to women who assert autonomy over our bodies and life choices. "You're the type of woman who will end up single," they proclaim... and they would be correct. Many of us refuse to have our peace and happy lives disrupted for someone's ungrateful and ignorant son. Join me as I discuss the truth about who really benefits from marriage, and why crusty single males try to use single womanhood as a scare tactic.
Be informed. Know the red flags you need to pay attention to before you go on the first date.
It's just a stupid thing to do, honestly. In this episode I cover the many, many reasons why you should invest or save it, instead of helping a man be a man. Some articles to consider: https://qz.com/384381/why-some-black-women-with-college-degrees-cant-get-ahead/amp/?__twitter_impression=true. Also: https://www.brookings.edu/research/the-inheritance-of-black-poverty-its-all-about-the-men/amp/?__twitter_impression=true
I know... the thought of a guy thinking $60 is an "expensive" date is hilarious. In the Black community, we keep circuling back to this topic, which lead me to address the economic and educational disparity between Black women and men; and the rampant misogynoir that allows Black men to see Black women as less deserving of a decent first date. In this episode we laugh at the ludicrously absurd idea that a woman should settle for crumbs; and I go over red flags you absolutely need to pay attention to BEFORE your first date.
Thinking about giving him an expensive gift? Please listen to this first to save yourself heartache and embarrassment.
In this episode we discuss the importance of Black women emphatically loving the skin we're in. Misogynoir has Black women catching hatred from not only non-Black people, but even the men within our own community. As Black women we aren't given the freedom to be expressive. We aren't given the leeway to be beautifully feminine while embracing a range of human emotions: joy, anger, sadness, and grief. We are only allowed to be one thing: the mule that everyone else expects to labor for them.
... he's an a*shole. However, many women still grapple with the emotions and feelings left after someone they share a connection with leaves without giving them closure. In this episode, we explore the twin flame and soul mate dynamics, why the Divine Feminine should absolutely NOT chase after the masculine, and how you can bring yourself closure after he walked away.
Too often we are guilted into maintaining unhealthy and unrequited friendships and relationships. In this episode, we discuss why it's so important for you to let go of friends who are hellbent on staying in toxic relationships. It is not your job to save her from herself.
It's the holiday season and it's that time of year when ex's resurface to hit us with the "hey stranger," via text.
Blocking and getting rid of any avenue he can use to contact you is so important. In this episode we discuss the reasons why the toxic ex resurfaces during the holiday season.
(Hint: It's not because he misses you.)
Nothing is more frustrating than getting to know a man, starting to date him, and then weeks later you find out that you not only wasted your time; but you were close to losing your sanity because of his immaturity and toxicity.
We could really save ourselves so much heartache if we learn to pay attention to the red flags as soon as they appear. Sometimes we can cause our own frustrations when we date men who are not compatible with us socially or economically. Dating down is a disservice to all women, but especially for Black women, as over 80% of us are breadwinners for our household. Today, we discuss the importance of being "picky". Not only is it critical for us to find financially stable mates, as they are more likely to respect our hardwork and accomplishments; being discriminate in choosing our partners is also the only real way for Black women to accumulate wealth. Love SHOULD have conditions, and there is nothing wrong with waiting for a guy who checks all of your boxes.
This episode is for single mothers, with an emphasis on Black single motherhood. In this episode we explore the dichotomy between how we raise and indoctrinate our boys versus how we negatively label our girls. We also take a hard look at social archaic concepts such as purity culture. For the Black community we see this employed when we label our girls as "fast tailed". The heartbreaking experiences many Black girls faced growing up was discussed in the #FastTailedGirls hashtag created by Mikki Kendall. It's time we reevaluate our approach to parenting so we are no longer enabling sexism to run rampant within our community.
For the Black women who are often guilted into accepting the absolute bare minimum from our male counterparts, this episode is for you. In this episode, we discuss family dynamics in relation to statistics provided by americanprogress.org. It is not our job to raise grown men. However, it IS our job to create stable and successful households for our progeny.
Being both Black and a woman means we have to deal with sexism, racism, and misogynoir. It also means that the people closest to us can cause us the most pain because they haven't healed their own internalized misogyny or sexist beliefs. This episode is for Black girls who are trying to heal. In a world where we face constant anti-Black women sentiments, it's so important for Black girls to know we're loved and cherished, and we deserve happiness.