Exmormonology: Recent Episodes
Amy Logan, Life Coach
Exmormonology is a study of life after your mormon faith crisis, from a life coach's perspective, "mingled with" my personal exmormon musings. Exmormonology is a podcast for people who want to learn to ways so let go of pain, reduce anger, move on from the ties that bind all while stepping peacefully into life beyond mormonism, or whatever religion you have grown out of. I help you deconstruct the religious conditioning you have experienced. I coach brave souls willing to walk away from all they have known, one on one, via Zoom.
The time has come for me to say goodbye. Sounds like I am starting the song from The Sound of Music, but I am not. Wildflower, the time has come for me to hang up my Exmormonology & Soul Searching podcast. What a ride it has been. I really never thought I would say this goodbye. I hope you will listen to this podcast the whole way through. I believe in the power of coaching and I am not stopping my coaching practice, I am just completely changing my niche and moving on from all things mormon. I am no longer soul searching and I feel like I have outgrown this space. It is time to move on and into something new. I hope you will join me.
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Life isn't supposed to be easy, it is supposed to be yours.
This week, we are continuing the conversation from last week's episode, Trusting Yourself, Again. We talked about taking small steps toward the life you actually want. In this episode, we go a little deeper, because no matter what you choose, there is going to be some kind of hard.
It is hard to stay stuck.
It is hard to be depressed.
It is hard to feel anxiety.
It is hard to face the unknown.
So what if "hard" isn't a reason to stop? What if it is a sign you are alive and moving toward something that matters?
Let's talk about choosing your hard and trusting yourself through it.
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What if trusting yourself didn't have to be complicated?
What if it could begin with one small promise kept, one quiet choice that builds confidence from the inside out?
In this episode of Soul Searching Girl, we will redefine what self trust really means and how to build it, one gentle action (and thought) at a time.
It is simpler than you think and more powerful than you imagine.
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In this guided meditation, you are invited to lay down your emotional armor, the defenses you have carried to feel safe, seen, or protected. Together we will move into a space of calm where you no longer need to explain, justify or defend who you are. Let this be a moment to breathe, soften and allow peace to meet you exactly where you are. It is a gentle return to yourself, to the truth that you can change, evolve and still be whole.
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Inspired by Mandy Patinkin’s famous Princes Bride quote, this episode explores what it means to live after the struggle, after the heartache, after healing.
“I’ve been in the revenge business so long, now that it is over, I don’t know what to do with the rest of my life.”
What happens when the struggle is over, when the story you have lived by for so long, no longer fits?
Amy Logan, certified coach and creator of The Wildflower Sessions, invites you into an honest conversation about identity, release and the power of choosing peace after pain.
This is an episode for anyone who has ever wondered, “What now?"
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This episode is a cozy coffee shop chat about the magic that happens when your thoughts, emotions and actions finally line up. Today’s episode feels like one of those heart to heart conversation we all need sometimes. If you have been spinning your wheels on the same struggle, goal or dream, this conversation will help you see what is really getting in the way.
Everything you want in life IS possible. You just have to look at your fear, head on and say, okay, I guess we are doing this together.
Also, an invitation to join us for my new large group coaching program, Wildflower Sessions. A special snail mail, happy mail, from me for the first 10 Wildflowers who join.
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I help women reclaim their lives, voices and confidence after leaving high demand religion, restrictive systems and/or limiting beliefs. I help women learn what it means to trust themselves, quieting guilt the noise of guilt and shame (in healthy ways), to break free from people pleasing, perfectionism and socialized constraints. I guide women through the messy middle. I also support women who are new ish to feminism and guide them through the socialization we have experienced via patriarchy. Thanks patriarchy. There is work to do to unravel it all and I am here for it.
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In this follow-up to last week’s episode on worry and rumination, we’re talking about what comes after awareness.
Noticing your patterns is the first step, but then what? How do you move from simply catching yourself in worry or rumination to actually shifting into trust, peace, and confidence?
In this episode, I’ll share what it looks like to move beyond awareness, why your brain resists change, and practical ways you can start rewiring those old loops.
If worry and rumination have been running the show in your life, this conversation will give you the next steps for reclaiming your power, quieting your mind, and building self-trust.
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Worry and Rumination are part of being human, but they can also keep us stuck in endless loops of “what ifs” and “should haves.” In this episode, I explore the subtle differences between worry (future focused) and rumination (past focused), why our brains default to these patterns and how they drain our energy. I will also share simple ways to notice when you have slipped into the loop and gentle steps you can take to begin quieting the noise.
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Hey Wildflower, As we move into September, I want to help you lessen your worry and ruminating ways. It is so easy to get caught up in worry and then ruminate over all the things that can go wrong in life. This way of handling your life's worries often becomes a habit. It is possible to break that habit and learn healthier ways of dealing with life's difficult emotions.
Let's start our month with another meditation, to slow down and increase your quiet mind.
It is possilbe to quiet your mind, you just need to be in awarenss of the round and round of your own brain. Once you see it, you can do something about it.
Each week this month, we will be working on how to reduce the stress and anxiety caused by worry and rumination.
But, for today, let's sit still for a few moments and connect with your mind and body.
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In this second part of The In Between, we go deeper into the space between where you have been and where you are going, the place that feels messy, uncertain and full of doubt. This is where decisions are made, boundaries are set and enforced and uncomfortable feelings rise up asking to be felt.
Some call it limbo, but I believe it is more than that, it is a fertile pause, the ground where healing takes root and trust begins to grow. In this episode, we will talk about how to sit with the muck, allow yourself to feel and still hold space for the life that is waiting for you on the other side.
If you are navigating your own In Between, this conversation will remind you that you are not stuck you are just in The In Between.
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I have been captivated by the concept of The In Between, that mysterious space between enduring your pain and trauma and fully moving forward. It is a place where it is easy to get stuck in familiar patterns of suffering, because they have become uncomfortably comfortable. Pain can feel like an old snugle blanket you have held onto for years and letting go feels strange, even a little like losing yourself.
But The In Between is also where transformation happens. It is where you begin to truly integrate all the tools you have learned along the way: setting boundaries, speaking up for yourself, saying no and meaning it, being gentle with yourself and leaning fully into your feelings.
It can feel scary to step into this space, but it is also so magical. It is here, in the tension between what was and what can be, that you learn to trust yourself and your healing.
Come with me as I explore this fascinating, powerful and sometimes uncomfortable place, The In Between.
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As we move through August, I want to talk about what I am calling "The In Between." The in between of pain/trauma/struggles and healing and truly moving through it all to get to the place of living the life you want.
It is tricky because you are so used to our pain/trauma/struggles that you may not really know who you are without it.
Who are you without high levels of anxiety?
Who are you without thinking about how you have been wronged?
Who are you without the rumination and worry of your pain?
The worry and rumination keep you tethered to your pain. Learning to move through it all takes time and practice. If you find yourself clinging to your pain, don't worry, it is actually a good sign if you can see that you do that.
As you reflect on your own journey, tune into this meditation and let your body relax and connect with your higher self. You have to slow down the noise of life to see if you are stuck in your old ways. They are familiar to you, so it makes sense that you cling. Even uncomfortable feels comfortable sometimes.
It can feel very scary to set down this piece of you, the old you, the one that was so in her pain that she could see no way out, to the you that can see a way out, but your identity and stories and way of being, keep you locked into the only way of being you know.
This in between is such a scary place to be. However, if you lean into trusting yourself, a whole new world will open up for you.
Are you wiling to build your "trusting yourself" muscle? This is the place where all the magic happens.
I have been sitting with a lot of emotions, like many of you, I am sure. The state of the world right now is heavy, overwhelming and a bit surreal. Before we dive into today’s topic, I wanted to share some thoughts on that, because pretending everything is “normal” just doesn’t feel right.
Times are tough right now and this tells me that the work I do in the world is important. The work I do, the tools and my coaching, combine to help you not get pulled under by the weight of everything happening in the USA and the world right now.
Viktor Frankl was an Austrian neurologist, psychologist, philosopher and Holocaust survivor. I can't help but think of his words right now, as what we are experiencing feels similar. Viktor taught us that no one can take away the way we think and our attitude about our life. When I think of the unimaginable horror that he lived through, and millions of others, his words give me hope and a reminder to make sure we tend to your mind and heart.
And THIS is the reason I will continue doing my work, even though times feel very heavy.
And then, once we have grounded in that reality, I want to take us somewhere deeper, into the heart of self confidence. Not the kind that is all surface level pep talk, but the real kind. The kind that grows quietly from trusting yourself and having your own back, no matter what is happening outside of you.
I also want to introduce you to, or remind you, of one of my favorite coaching tools. I am going to walk you through my thought model, a tool to help you see how your thoughts create your life. I know it is much more complicated than that, but, let’s start there.
I can and will help you learn to manage your mind and heart, Wildflower. This is what I do. I would love to work with you and help you through these times.
Reach out via my website or email me amy@amyloganlife.com
Welcome to a new month and a new theme inside The Green Shoe Society. July is The Summer of You and we are starting with a new guided meditation to help you gently root into self trust and build a grounded, long lasting self confidence.
This 8 minute meditation is your reminder that confidence doesn’t come from perfection or performance, it comes from the quiet belief that you can handle whatever comes your way. That you are enough, as you are and you already carry the strength you are looking for.
Let this be a soft beginning to your July. Let this be the day you trust your self confidence.
Take a breath. Press play. Return to your own steady ground.
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The space between self doubt and self trust can be a very hard place to be.
In this final episode of this trusting yourself series, we are diving into the emotional habits that keep you stuck and how to step into the role of observer so you can change them.
Do you know how you habitually respond to stress? Trauma? Most of us don’t. And when we are unaware, we keep reacting the same way, over and over. This is the place of feeling stuck. It can be a difficult place to live. Limbo is never fun.
Today we talk about recognizing your default emotional responses, getting comfortable feeling hard emotions, without drowning in them, the difference between processing and indulging
And how to navigate the in between space, that tender place where you are not quite trusting yourself yet, but you are no longer ignoring your truth either.
This is about building emotional awareness so you can choose differently and trust yourself. More deeply, one moment at a time.
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Developing the ability to trust yourself is a skill, and like any skill, it gets stronger with practice.
This week on The Green Shoe Society, we are talking about why self trust can feel so hard (especially if you have spent years or decades second guessing yourself) and how to start building your trust muscle today. It doesn’t have to be complicated or heavy.
Let’s break it down together so you can feel more confident making choices that feel right for you.
Bonus ~ I’ve created a special Spotify playlist to go along with this episode, a little musical boost fo your own trust journey.
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This week on the Green Shoe Society, we are slowing things way down, with a trust yourself meditation.
As you move through your healing, connecting with your body isn’t just helpful, it is essential. So often, we stay in our heads, trying to think our way to peace. However, true healing happens when you learn to feel your way there.
Each month, I will be exploring a new theme, and once a month, I will guide you through a meditation to anchor that theme into your body and your nervous system.
So, Wildflower, find a soft place. Somewhere you can be alone. Sit up. Be still. Let’s reconnect with your body, the one that has been waiting for you to come home.
Think of your amazing brain as a beautiful garden labyrinth. There are moments when you wander through it, discovering new paths and ideas, feeling free and alive. But then, sometimes, you find yourself stuck in a corner, feeling lost, overwhelmed, or tangled in thoughts the seem to loop without end.
In this episode, we will explore how it happens when your mind feels like it is trapped in a maze of doubt or worry or confusion. We will talk about common ways we get stuck, whether it is rumination, people pleasing, or just the weight of trying to figure everything out at once. But most importantly I will share with you how you can navigate your way out of the labyrinth in healthy ways.
You don’t have to stay stuck. Let’s explore some practical tools for getting out of the labyrinth and back to creating a life you love.
Here in The Green Shoe Society, we are learning to feel our feelings so that our emotions do not prevent us from living the life we want to live. This is truly the secret to life. Being willing to feel difficult emotions instead of resisting them, is what will set you free. Often time we delegate our emotional health to those around us, giving all of our power away.
As genxers, we have been through a lot. We have see a lot. We have experienced a lot. Now it is time to not let our emotions get in the way of our lives anymore. Let's feel, continue to process, and move on and start living.
Hi, I am Amy and I would love to help you learn how to heal through feeling. Come work with me inside The Renegade Sessions. More info over at www.amyloganlife.com
The Green Shoe Society Anthem
At The Green Shoe Society, we own our lives, all of it. We fix what we want to fix and leave the rest behind. We set healthy boundaries, not because we have to, but because we choose to. We go after what we want in life, unapologetically.
We are strong in all the best ways and we also let ourselves be soft, vulnerable, and imperfect. We don’t beat ourselves up for needing rest. In fact, we take it, guilt-free. We say yes when it feels right, and no when it doesn’t, without regret.
We seek pleasure and joy, and we leave shame, guilt, and all those invisible ties behind. We stop worrying so much about what others think. We stop giving so many fucks.
We learn to listen to our bodies, to trust them, to honor them. We stand tall when we need to, but we’re also okay with letting go of the need to take on the world. We focus on our little corner of the world and celebrate the hell out of it. We give ourselves permission to feel all of life the good, the bad, the messy, and the beautiful.
We’ve already busted through so many fucking paradigms, and now? The last one is our own mental cage.
We are feminists. We are truth seekers. We are bullshit breakers. We live with passion and playfulness, singing like rock stars in our cars, or on the stage. We love the earth and all she gives us. We are good stewards, honoring her in everything we do.
We dance to our record player, we sing with our hairbrush as our microphone, and we let ourselves be free. We are The Green Shoe Society and we’re just getting started.
What is your green shoe?!
If this anthem speaks to you, then consider me your life coach. If you’re ready to stop waiting and start living the life you’ve been craving, I’d love to work with you one on one in my private coaching program...The Renegade Sessions. Together, we’ll break free from what’s holding you back and create the life you’ve been waiting for.
Life is short, Wildflower, and you've already waited long enough. It’s time to step into your most authentic life. I can’t wait to meet you and help you make it happen.
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Wildflower,
Have you spent years buying self help books, listening to podcasts, and trying to improve and heal yourself? Yeah, me too. This week I want to talk about how your desire to improve and heal your pains and trauma is so valid! No one ever taught us how to "figure it out."
If you are listening to this podcast, you are most likely along your own personal healing journey. I want you to look at your healing journey as a quest to find your personal healing recipe. You are looking for the equation that works for you. Your recipe is different from my recipe. Yet, when all the stars align for you, you will find it. Keep searching. Keep seeking to understand yourself. The self help industry has a lot to wade through, but keep trusting yourself to find what you are looking for. Trust this process you find yourself on.
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You have heard the term people pleasing, but have you heard the phrase dishonest harmony? I want to share with you how those two words have changed my life and I believe they can change your life too. Dishonest harmony is in the family of people pleasing, yet somehow way more powerful.
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Exmormonology lives on. Let's talk about it. Also, Wildflower Weekend is 6 weeks away and I want you to join us. Sharing words from previous Wildflowers who atteneded last years Wildflower Weekend and the exact reason why you should carve out time in your life so you can experience what this healing retreat is all about.
Have you ever had a conversation with a stranger that ignited a sparked your brain? This happened this morning as Jim and I were having breakfast at a cafe in Provo Utah, we happened to have an amazing conversation with someone else who was doing what we were doing, eating. I share that conversation with you today. I invited James to join me today on the podcast because, well, he was there and we ended up having our own several hour conversation that was started by this happenstance meeting today with a stranger. We also discuss what we think is the exmormon echo chamber and the Barbie movie. I would love to hear your thoughts too.
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Let's dive into religious scrupulosity and the Doug Fabrizio's Radio West Episode last week. Radio West is a Salt Lake City radio/podcast show. I was a bit triggered by a few things said by a guest on last weeks show and I want to talk about it, what it means and what it may mean to you. Working your way out of religious scrupulosity is possible. For many it stops the minute your religious beliefs dissipate, for others it may take years to unravel. Either way, I want to talk about what is happening for those of us who tend towards the scrupulous ways of religiously believing, even when we did not know it was a thing that was happening to and within us.
Wildflower, you have a life to live and a brain to guide you to whatever it is you desire. On The Unorthodox Woman Podcast, I show you how to do just that, be your own brain guide. While I know that the title of this episode may sound like I want to take on the whole affirmation community (if that is a thing), that is not the case. I do believe there is a missing step in the process of how we have been taught to do affirmations. So, this week, I want to teach you the missing piece and speed up the process of getting you to what you want to believe about yourself. This way you get to where you want to go with your life a whole lot quicker! If nothing else, you get to the beliefs you want to believe in a more holistic, moving way, sustainable way.
You may be developing an obsession, or at minimum a fascination, with things like televangelists or Shiny Happy People. Me too! This week I dive into why that happens, what is happening in your brain when you watch and how this is an important part of your healing. I also address the "script" used by most of the religious people in your life when you share the news that you are leaving your religion. It is the script that show that the indoctrination is working. Let's talk! I have so much to share with you this week.
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It was the summer of 1990, shortly after I was married, when my husband and I embarked on a journey to Flaming Gorge Lodge (in Utah) where we would work for the summer saving for college tuition. I worked as a waitress at the diner. In this week's episode of The Unorthodox Woman, I recount a remarkable encounter with a charming lady who happened to be working alongside me. While I can't recall her exact age or even remember her name, she appeared to be in her late 60s or maybe even 70s. (as a 20-year-old, she seemed "old" to me at the time.) Little did I know that she would impart a lesson that has stayed with me for over 30 years. It involves coffee, a beverage I was not allowed to drink as an active believing member of my church. I have a feeling this story will help you with whatever you are struggling with, as it has helped me with my own struggles throughout my life.
Raise your hand if you have ever asked a friend a question that starts with
"Is it bad that I...?"
Yeah, me too. Yep, I see you! Hello, we have a lot in common. This question is rich for the corners of your conditioning to explore.
This week, let's dive into all things guilt and the psychology behind why it may be hard for you to make decisions. Your social, religious, spiritual and familial conditioning comes in hard and fast when the possibility of potential guilt or regret come into play.
I want to zoom out and get a big picture of what is going on in your brain when you ask a question like this. So, grab your earbuds and get your brain ready for some critical thinking!
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Welcome to this week’s episode of The Unorthodox Woman Podcast, where we dive into the fascinating topic of self trust. Get ready for a refreshing perspective on how to navigate decision making and embrace your instincts. We have all heard the phrase “trust issues” tossed around, but let’s challenge that narrative and explore why it is time to leave it behind. Join me as we embark on a journey to boost your self trust, empowering you to take the helm of your own life’s ship, no matter what others may think, do or say about you. It is time to discover the limitless possibilities that await when you trust yourself. (*plus a snippet on Mary Tyler Moore as an Unorthodox Woman.)
Happy Pride, Wildflowers!
June is a special month, filled with vibrant rainbows that illuminate our communities. It's a time when we come together to celebrate and show our unwavering support for our queer friends.
However, it's important to acknowledge that not everyone shares the same level of acceptance and love. This reality reinforces the significance of celebrating and uplifting the voices of our queer loved ones. As allies, we have a responsibility to stand beside them, amplifying their experiences and advocating for their rights. It is crucial that we make conscious choices with our resources, ensuring we don't support organizations that oppose equality.
One powerful way to become a better ally and understand the struggles faced by the LGBTQIA+ community is through education. By learning about the rich history of the LGBTQ movement in the United States, we gain invaluable insights into the progress that has been made and the challenges that remain. This history is a tapestry woven with the resilience, courage, and determination of countless individuals who fought for their rights and the rights of future generations.
In this week's episode, we embark on a journey through time to explore key players and events that have shaped and propelled the fight for equality in the LGBTQIA+ movement in our country. By delving into these stories, we can deepen our understanding of the struggles faced by the community, the milestones achieved, and the ongoing work that lies ahead.
Each chapter in this history reveals the strength and spirit of a community that refused to be silenced, pushing boundaries and demanding recognition. From the Stonewall Riots in 1969, where transgender women of color led the charge against police brutality and ignited a global movement, to the activism of Harvey Milk, the first openly gay elected official in California, who championed LGBTQ rights until his tragic assassination - these stories serve as reminders of the power of collective action and the transformative impact it can have.
Learning about the LGBTQ movement's history fosters empathy, compassion, and a deeper appreciation for the progress we've made while acknowledging the work that remains. It allows us to challenge prejudice and discrimination, inspiring us to create inclusive spaces where all individuals can live authentically and without fear.
By embracing the past, we pave the way for a more equitable future. So let us honor the struggles and celebrate the triumphs of the LGBTQIA+ movement by educating ourselves, elevating diverse voices, and standing alongside our queer friends with unwavering support and love.
Happy Pride, Wildflowers!
Are you ready to take back control of your emotions and the thoughts that keep you up all night, feeling stuck in anxiety or worry or fear or shame? ( just to name a few uncomfortable emotions) Let's talk about they psychology behind your brain and why you think and feel the way you do. I often refer to my coaching as thought work, but it is so much more than that. It is feeling work too. It is "work" because it takes time to rewire your brain and the habitual way you think and feel. No matter if you have left your religion, a relationship or you are working on body image and/or everything in between, the tool I teach in this episode will help you as you continue your healing. Thought work is the beginning of getting curious about all of your swirling thoughts. I will couple this with feeling our feelings in another episode, but this week, let's talk more about your brain and how you can add thought work to your healing journey. amyloganlife.com
It is time to connect with the younger you. Your healing is important. When you slow down and take the time to heal the parts of you that need you, you will be better for it. You will not be as triggered as you may currently be in the corners of your life. Let's dive into why this is so important. The younger you is waiting to hear from you.
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If you are serious about improving your mental health, you must start with awareness. If you do not see the literal soundtrack your brain plays for you everyday, how will you know what to change or even how to improve? We are not looking for perfection, that is not a thing, but we can make huge changes in our life if we start paying attention to the ticker tape of thoughts you have swirling around in your head. Those thoughts are 100% affecting your day to day life.
The thoughts in your head are laying the ground work to your emotional health.
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Welcome to the 1st episode of The Unorthodox Woman! We are a group of heretics, liberals, post religious peeps, smart feminists and passionate about life humans. In this inaugural podcast episode I share with you why the change from Exmormonology to The Unorthodox Woman and the direction and plan I have for the vision of this new chapter. Our collective religious, social and familial conditioning has most likely effected you in ways you may not see yet. I coach you through busing out of the boxes we were metaphorically placed in from the minute we were born. We will be unlearning a lot of what has contributed to a constricted way of thinking and living. You get to create your own personal renaissance and it all starts now! What do you want that to look like? How many iterations of yourself do you want to have fun exploring? What areas of life do you find yourself stuck in even tho you have left a lot of your past ways of thinking and feeling behind? These are all issues we will be discussion on the podcast. If you struggle in any area of your life, as most of us humans do, you are in the right place!
Experiencing your high demand religion initial shelf break and subsequent faith crisis is so hard! It is emotional, earth shattering and very overwhelming. Just when you think you are starting to get your footing and everything will be okay, you get hit with another shelf break. Deconstructiong mormonism is the first step, quickly you learn that there is another shelf that comes tumbling down. Are you ready for it? Let's dive into this topic this week and talk about how this happens, why this happens and how it is a good thing.
About a month or so ago, a friend, a former Jehovah Witness friend, asked me a really great question, Is Healing An Illusion? I loved this questiong so much that I created a podcast around it. Let's dive into when healing does feel like an illusion and why and what you can do about it so you do not get stuck in the pain of reliving your pain/trauma again and again and again.
There is healing in telling/sharing your story, it can be freeing in just doing that, sharing, telling your story to a therapist or friend. Does your story come out the same way again and again? Do you judge yourself for not having "healed" faster? Is there a time limit on when you are supposed to be healed?
In this episode I deep dive into the concept of healing and what we think it should look like and what healing actually looks like AND how you can be an active participant to your own healing, possibily speeding up the process.
If you feel like you are on an emotional roller coaster of emotions all the time or that your healing is taking way too long, then this episode of Exmormonology is a very important one for you to listen to Wildlflower.
This is part 2 of my conversation wtih Emily Robinette! Enjoy the rest of our convo as we talk about all things post mormon related and how life coaching has helped speed up some of Emily's healing, not just with mormon related topics but also all of LIFE. Tune in as we talk about how unraveling your mormon brain takes time, years actually. What is the strangest place your mormon brain has shown up on this side of life? Seriously post mormon humor is one of my most favorite things. Laughter is really the key piece to your healing. When you get to the place of laughter, you know you are on the right track. You got this wildflower!
This week in Exmormonology Land I have invited Emily Robinette over for a conversation. We talk about all things faith crisis; the freedom we feel post faith crisis and also the rocky road we navigate after we leave the church, ie. high demand religion. You know that Exmormonology is all about helping you heal and work through religious trauma. Healing is not linear. It has ups and downs and joy and pain. Come be a fly on the wall while we discuss it all. Emily had her initial faith crisis in 2019 and has spent the last several years working through the tough issues that we all have to work through in finding our way back to ourselves, after the world as we knew it comes crashing down around us. You, wildflower, are not alone on this journey. Keep going. Keep healing. Keep showing up for yourself.
Last Decemeber I created a podcast 12 days in a row and called it The 12 Days of Post Mormon Christmas. The goal? To help you this time of year. This year, I pulled out the best snippets and put them all in one podcast episode. So, if you are working through a lot of thoughts and feelings about Christmas and Family right now along your own personal post mormonism journey, tune in. I give you specific tools and helps for you so you do not feel consumed with guilt or frustration or anger as you celebrate a holiday that may leave you with a bunch of confusion. You may be in the "The holidays ain't what they used to be" frame of mind, I hear you 100%. Nothing like seeing baby Jesus to bring up your religious trauma. Let's dive in and reclaim a holiday in a way that feels better now that you are on this side of the fence.
I am excited to share with all y'all wildflowers a conversation I have with my friend and fellow coach Allison Crow. Allison just released her new book Unarmored: Finding Home in the Wild Edges of Being Human. Allison was raised a devout Christian in the south, Texas. Although not raised mormon, Allison has experienced her own faith crisis. I know you will love our discussion and we ebb and flow about life and heartbreak and healing and busting out of the "being a made up woman my religion taught me to be," type of thinking.
Allison Crow, M.Ed, is a Life and Self-Leadership coach for small business owners and executives. She has been leading, teaching, speaking, writing, creating, and coaching in one form or another since the mid-1990s. For years, she was a hard-lined performance and sales coach motivated by outside forces and an excruciating need for approval. Now, instead of being driven by hard financial goals and lifeless quotas, Allison has an unconventional and connected practice where delicious and thought provoking conversations are centered around meeting yourself deeply. She helps her clients compassionately work with emotions, thoughts, and behaviors that are natural but often bypassed parts of our human selves. Allison specializes in IFS-informed coaching, deep inner work, creative expression, and building the skills of courageous emotional presence and self-trust.
Allison lives in the hill country outside of Austin, Texas, with her husband of fifteen years and her rescued dogs, Leroy Brown and Clementine. She is often seen with a stack of journals, a paintbrush and watercolors, with her phone in her hand, creating and connecting on social media, or floating in the backyard pool she calls her “church.”
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The title of this Exmormonology Episode sums up this week's episode, it is a little bit all over the place, but as you listen I have a feeling you will understand. I tap into some pretty tender emotions and I want to share them with you in hopes that you can relate and see and hear what healing sounds like. Healing does not mean you have landed at the top of healing mountain where rainbows and butterflies live forever and ever and you dance around in gleeful joy and you no longer feel grief, pain or heartache. It means that you learn to hold the space for the tender side of healing and you do not make it mean that anything has gone wrong or that you are not healing. Healing ebbs and flows. Healing takes time. Remember wildflower, there is no rush and no race to this process. Just you and all the time you need. Thank you for letting me walk this path with you. Grab a cup a something and a blanket and maybe even a tissue and let's talk, you and me.
Do you ever take the time to celebrate yourself and your amazingness? I am going to guess that you do not do this enough. This week I want to talk about why this is important and how easy it is to overlook it. You have been through something extraordinary. You have experienced a faith crisis, paradigm shift and you are rethinking most everything in your life. No wonder you are overwhelmed, stressed and feeling stuck. Let's work on shaking it up a bit. Life is good. You are amazing. I offer a homework assignment that may help you in celebrating yourself. Do it, it is good for your mental health.
Finally, Irreverent Episode 13 is ready! So grab a drink or whatever you prefer and hang with us. Jim and I talk about Praying at Zupas and well just praying anywhere, anytime, temple tchotchke, Mormon women and careers, your "exmo personality," the changes to the For The Strength of The Youth, and so much more. We start out fairly serious and by the end we are straight up giggles, so much so that we just quite literally fade out. A good time was had.
Another week of healing wildflower. This week's episode is a twofer, maybe a threefer! (is that a word?) A few topics blended together as we head into the holidays. Family. The void. Faith crisis v. awakening. Thoughts and feelings oh my! You have some decisions to make this time of year. Is your brain going off the rails as you brace yourself for family? Should you go? Should you not? Are you ready for a gathering with your mormon family or would some time off be best for you? This week I want to talk about what may be going on in your brain and in your heart as you head into potential family time.
Hey all of you faith transition/faith crisis wildflower...has this happened to you? You have been through, what you thought was the worst of your faith crisis and then one day something happens and it brings it all back. You breakdown. All the work you thought you had done feels like it is erased and you find yourself in a heap of tears, yet again. Faith crisis, faith transition, and moving on is a life long process. Learning how to let those days of breakdown be a part of life and not take over is a key to healing. Nothing has gone wrong if you have a breakdown. Tune in this week as I take you through one of my many breakdowns post faith crisis. amyloganlife.com
Continuing our conversation about money with Money Mindset Coach Natasha Tekeste.
Natasha Tekeste is a money mindset coach for women and people socialized as women who want to earn more money. She works with women who want to shift their beliefs around money and wealth so they can leave the drama behind and focus on actually doing the work that they love to do. She teaches people how to love the money they have, while also loving the process of earning and creating more – because it is possible for money to be easy & fun!
Natasha is an Advanced Certified Life Coach. She has a buiness degree from the University of Alberta, a master's degree in Adult Education from the University of Calgary, and a certificate in mediation & negotiation from York University. She is a Chartered Professional in Human Resources with over 10 years of HR work experience.
Instagram @natashatekeste
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Continuing our conversation about money with Money Mindset Coach Natasha Tekeste.
Natasha Tekeste is a money mindset coach for women and people socialized as women who want to earn more money. She works with women who want to shift their beliefs around money and wealth so they can leave the drama behind and focus on actually doing the work that they love to do. She teaches people how to love the money they have, while also loving the process of earning and creating more – because it is possible for money to be easy & fun!
Natasha is an Advanced Certified Life Coach. She has a buiness degree from the University of Alberta, a master's degree in Adult Education from the University of Calgary, and a certificate in mediation & negotiation from York University. She is a Chartered Professional in Human Resources with over 10 years of HR work experience.
Instagram @natashatekeste
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What is your money story? Do you even know that you have one? Have you spent anytime exploring why you think the way you do about money? Or do you just accept the fact (not fact) that you are doomed and it is what it is? One area of your life you may not have connected the dots with, post faith transition, is how your brain thinks about money because of your religious and social conditioning. Today I want to open the door to exploring this topic with you and get to the bottom of why you think the way you to about money. The truth is that you get to think about money any way you want to, so how do YOU think about money?
What is your money story? Do you even know that you have one? Have you spent anytime exploring why you think the way you do about money? Or do you just accept the fact (not fact) that you are doomed and it is what it is? One area of your life you may not have connected the dots with, post faith transition, is how your brain thinks about money because of your religious and social conditioning. Today I want to open the door to exploring this topic with you and get to the bottom of why you think the way you to about money. The truth is that you get to think about money any way you want to, so how do YOU think about money?
When your thoughts get on the loose, what do you do? Do you believe those thoughts and go down the self loathing rabbit hole? Grounding tools help you get present and not stuck in the past or future. Here is a little tool to help pull you out of that stuck frame of mind. Also, Wildflower Weekend! We had amazing weekend and I want you there next year. When you plan your life out, do you schedule time for your healing and growth? If not, why? Change that up wildflower. Let's go!
When your thoughts get on the loose, what do you do? Do you believe those thoughts and go down the self loathing rabbit hole? Grounding tools help you get present and not stuck in the past or future. Here is a little tool to help pull you out of that stuck frame of mind. Also, Wildflower Weekend! We had amazing weekend and I want you there next year. When you plan your life out, do you schedule time for your healing and growth? If not, why? Change that up wildflower. Let's go!
Do not underestimate the power of your brain. All healing starts with you, your brain and your emotions. One of meanest things we can do to ourselves is be our own bully. This week I want to talk to you about actual bullying and self bullying. The thoughts going through your brain are optional. What thoughts take center stage of your own brain? Do you speak kind words to yourself or words you would never say to a friend? Do you even notice? I want you to start paying attention. We cannot change anything in our lives if we are completely unaware. Pay attention to your thought soundtrack wildflower.
Do not underestimate the power of your brain. All healing starts with you, your brain and your emotions. One of meanest things we can do to ourselves is be our own bully. This week I want to talk to you about actual bullying and self bullying. The thoughts going through your brain are optional. What thoughts take center stage of your own brain? Do you speak kind words to yourself or words you would never say to a friend? Do you even notice? I want you to start paying attention. We cannot change anything in our lives if we are completely unaware. Pay attention to your thought soundtrack wildflower.
Do you trust yourself? I know that can be a loaded question, but when one grows up in a high demand religion and has been taught to put their trust in a curated higher/church authority, it can be a tricky question to answer. This year at Wildflower Weekend we will be slowing down time and focusing on you and a few of your biggest struggles. I imagine, if you feel stuck in any area of your life, it is becuase you are not trusting your ability to have your own back, no matter what. You are letting the fear of a projected future feeling keep you frozen. After this weekend you will feel more confident to make needed changes in your life and take the steps required to get unstuck with any struggle you find yourself in. Set aside September 30th-Oct. 2nd in SLC, Utah. Wildflowers are flying in from around the states and even Canada. Come join us! Let's have a groovy healing and productive time together. amyloganlife.com
Drum roll please......It is my 100th Exmormonology Episode! I am excited to share this particular episode with you. I decided to write an essay and read it to you this time around. As exmembers of the church we often hear the same responses to our faith crisis and leaving the church, over and over again. I have seen patterns in the way members of the church respond to us. I will be addressing these repeated responses in this essay. I poised it as a an essay to members of the church, but it is really for you and all the things we want to say when we hear the same rhetoric over and over. I hope it resonates with you wildflower. www.amyloganlife.com
When is your brain ready to go down the rabbit hole? We each have our own experience and come to our awakening in our own time. I had signs along the way, relating to the church, but my brain was not ready to see it. Much like marketing and needing to see/hear something 7 times or more before we start making connections about certain issues or products or ?
I want you to start looking for other areas of your life where you can maybe short cut this process. What are you not believing about yourself that you need a few nudges to see yourself in a different light, just like seeing the church in a different light? What areas of your life can you make similar paradigm shifts? Let’s talk about it this week on Exmormonology.
Pick your favorite musician and think about how many times they have performed the same songs over and over and over. Do you think they want to show up and sing each and every night, EVEN THO they love being in a band? My guess is no, not every time. However, they do it, night after night. What areas in your life are you not showing up, even tho you signed up for it? Let's dig into this topic. How do you want to show up? What matters here, your thoughts and the way you talk to yourself about the areas in your life where you "struggle." Also discussed in this episode...2nd Annual Wildflower Weekend, Airborne Toxic Event, Stake Dances, P!nk, and all things Exmormonology.
What a week, lots of feelings, all the feelings. It has been a tough one for most of us. This week on Exmormonology I dive into the overturning of Roe v. Wade and how we desperately need thought work to help us through what will be quite the fight. You will need time to process your emotions and then you will need to figure out how to create new thoughts that help you out of hopelessness. New thoughts that keep you out of stuckville. You are capable of doing this, it is possible. It is okay if right now you are in shock and feel overwhelming depressed and angry. I understand these emotions, we dance together often. I am doing this work too wildflower. I hope you will tune in. This is one of my favorite episodes of Exmormonology. I hope it is helpful for you as you work through all the feelings coming up for you. I love you, you are not alone.
Do you find yourself saying....I need to hurry. I gotta get it done. I am so busy. I never have enough time. I wish there was more time in the day. Wildflower, if you find yourself saying these words, this episode is for you. Our experience growing up in a culture focused on forever and the next life may be playing a bigger part in your life than you know. Let's explore the construct of time and you can slow down and enjoy more moments in THIS life.
We do not back away from hard conversations here on Exmormonology and with the pending reversal of Roe V. Wade, I wanted to talk about Abortion. I have invited Amanda Kingsley to be a guest today. Amanda Kingsley is a Certified Feminist Life Coach and Doula. She is the host of the Speaking Light Into Abortion podcast. And the Author of ‘What I Wish: 100 love notes to help you survive, come alive, and thrive after abortion.’ After her own unanticipated abortion as a mother of three, she recognized the need for a wider conversation around the complex emotional landscape of life after abortion. She reminds her audience that it’s okay to feel all the feelings after abortion, and that we can honor our decisions by living the life we made our choice for. You can learn more and connect with her at www.amandastarkingsley.com
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Happy Pride Month! I celebrate you and love you so much! This week let's talk about showing up authentically and why it is so hard to do so. Remember the phrase we have heard over and over at church..."I don't know who I would be without the church in my life?" What??? Let's change that verbiage. That thought is not helpful as you navigate this new road. New roads require new thoughts. Let's go!
Have you stopped to think about how the concept of "forever" may be tripping you up? If you have been raised in a religious faith tradition, you know the theology around forever is a regular topic of conversation. Making it back to heaven, to live with God, is the whole point of this life. We are being tested, right? You may have left your religion, but have you examined whether those thoughts you have tied to "forever" may be affecting your thoughts and feelings in subconscious ways, in THIS life? I want to talk all about how the concept of forever may be playing tricks on your brain.
If you have experienced any kind of betrayal, abandonment, manipulation, etc. you may have uttered the words "I have trust issues." I know there is a lot to this topic and your life is very multilayered, but today I want to talk to you about why it may be time to change up that phrase. Every time your brain thinks, I have trust issues and you believe it, you have trust issues. By doing this you most likely build up a huge wall around your heart and you don't let anyone in and therefore you keep stuck in the round and round of having trust issues. Let's do some thought work around this issue and how you can turn it around and start trusting yourself.
A little bit of tough love coming your way this week via Exmormonology. You hold all the power inside of you to create the life you want, yet your brain is stuck on the hamster wheel of thoughts that tell you you can't. Stop it! Stop believing those thoughts. I am going to tell you exactly how to do that this week. Buckle up!
Grab a beverage of your choice and schooch in really close. Let's get a little bit irreverent today as Jim and I talk about "choosing" the path of the straight and narrow. Was it really a choice? That is the Q, isn't it?! We actually recorded this episode right before Christmas, so when we reference cheersing "balls," we are talking about the balls on the Christmas tree, so you know it is going to be good! HA!
Feminism After Religion Group Coaching Course is now open for registration! Join me and 8 other amazing humans as we dive into what Feminism is and how your post religious brain is most likely still steeped in all things patriarchy. When we can see your brain on patriarchy we can deconstruct so many areas in your life where you feel stuck. I have 4 spots left and I hope you in one of them! We start class April 11, 2022.
How much power have you given away by blaming someone else for how you feel? Most of us do this all the time. It is so much easier to stay in a constant state of blame, meaning it is everyone else's fault for how we feel. Today I want to talk to you about setting down the blame and leaning into deciding how to take full responsibility for all your emotions.
No other person gets to determine how you think and feel about yourself. Once you learn how to take full responsibility for your thoughts and emotions, you become unstoppable. Before you tell yourself this is too hard, just be open to believing this is possible for you. That is where you start, with the belief that it is possible.
This is why what you think about yourself matters way more than what anyone else thinks of you.
Navigating the the world of post mormonville takes a minute (or years). Imma gunna give you a little bit of tough love. I am a bit on fire in the episode, but I ease you into it. I start with a few minutes telling you all about Truman, our new pup! Truth of the matter is it is the Wild Wild West in the world of exmormondom. Proceed with caution. Let's go.
No rush, no race, to your healing journey. I know we do not like the feelings that our religious, spiritual life crisis created, but it is part of the ride. I want to talk to you today about what it really means to shed and release the more difficult parts of this process and why being gentle with yourself is going to help soothe your soul.
A new year brings new ideas and the intention to perfect your life. You make a list and then think that in order to create happiness for yourself you need to accomplish all the things on your list. Then when the 3rd week of January rolls around and you have fallen off the wagon and you start feeling like you are never going to be good enough and you give up. This week I want to teach you how you can look at goal setting with new eyes, new thoughts and better feelings. Ready? Let's go! Exmormonology Ep. 87 Future Focus.
Year 3 of Exmormonology has begun! Today I want to talk about how I plan to move forward and through 2022 and the direction of the content you will continue to receive via my podcast. I have several fun events planned for this year and I can't wait to share them with you. Which one(s) will you be joining me? You do get to feel better in this life. Do not believe the thoughts that trick you into thinking that you are not enough, not worthy and not worth it. "It" being the thought work that will help you feel like you are the boss of your brain and not all the "toxic" and "drama filled" people in your life. I am here to help you through it all! Ready Wildflower? Let's start this year off with commitment to improving your mental health.
Day 12 of our Exmormonology Mini Series, 12 Days of Post Mormon Christmas ~ Day 12. Keeping it really simple today, a love note from me to you. I hope your day is beautiful.
Okay, you are most likely heading into big time family time today and tomorrow. If you want more connection with your family this holiday season, I want to guide you through a method that I use to help me find more genuine connection with my family. I know it does not seem fair to put in work to make this happen when you are already doing so much healing work in relation to your faith/identity shift. I get it. But, here we are. Let's figure it out together. Exmormonology 12 Days of Post Mormon Christmas Day 11, Family.
Today we are talking about anxiety during the holidays and how it may be intensified post faith/identity crisis. I want to give you some concrete things you can do to help you lessen the anxiety you may be feeling as you head into holiday gatherings. Pay attention to your brain as you listen to my suggestions. You may find some resistance. That is okay, just notice it as it comes up and stay with me. It makes sense that your brain wants to protect you. That is your brains job. Okay, let's go.
Day 9 of our mini Exmormonology 12 Days of Post Mormon Christmas series is a very quick, down and dirty, reminder for you this holiday season. It is simple but HUGELY important. I do not want to give it away, but please take the 4:16 mins to listen to this episode. I hope it is helpful!
Day 8 of 12 Days of Post Mormon Christmas. If you have been listening to Exmormonology for any amount of time, you know that I believe...music is life! So, what do we do about Christmas music??? Are you loving it still? Hate it? Avoiding it? Let's talk about a few ideas of what you can do in and on Day 8 of our mini Exmormonology series.
Twelve Days of Post Mormon Christmas, Day 7. Let's talk about Jesus, shall we? If you are struggling to reconcile Jesus and Christmas and what you believe, tune in. I mean, Jesus is the reason for the season right? Maybe, but that is up to you. I want to walk you through the thought process that helped me navigate this uncomfortable space during the holidays, especially early in my deconstruction years. Please listen to the very very end of this Exmormonology episode.
Is the people pleasing in you showing up big time right now? If so, this Exmormonology Ep. is for you. If you grew up with any kind of religious conditioning, you will relate. So, stop what you are doing and tune it.
Day 5 ~ Isn't the post religious deconstruction process interesting? The ripple effect of your proverbial shelf crashing down can be overwhelming. So, if you are finding the holiday season feeling a bit too much, you are not alone. In our Day 5 of The 12 Days of Post Mormon Christmas, I want to dive into the meaning and reasons for tradition. Let's not let traditions of yesteryear keep you tied down. We are busting through all the things this year!
Exmormonology's 12 Days of Post Mormon Christmas ~ Day Four ~ A Las Vegas Christmas. Let's continue on with outside the "traditional" Christmas lines. As you may deduct from this title, Jim and I spend a Christmas in Las Vegas and it was nothing like I thought it was going to be.
If you are a wildflower that struggles through the Christmas season, this mini Exmormonology episode is for you, especially if you are not sure what to do with Christmas now that you are no longer a believer or not sure what you believe anymore. Don't run away from these tender feelings. Let's talk about how to honor them.
Are you finding “The Holidays” have a completely different feel to it now, post mormon?
Navigating the holidays can be a hard time without adding the layer of your faith transition.
So, over the course of the next two weeks, I want to give you mini Exmormonology Episodes that can help you as you decide what you want this time of year to mean for you.
Contrary to what your brain is presenting you, you have more options than you think. I want you to start with the current manual you have for what the holidays are supposed to be about. When you can see the difference between your current manual and what you want, you will feel free to change it up if you want to. Let’s flush this out and change it up. It is up to you Wildflower.
Wildflower, get your pen and paper ready for this Exmormonology Episode. My intention for you is to get your brain working for you instead of against you and to make this happen you will need to be an active participant in your life and in your healing. It is easy to be a consumer of information, but to make small AND big changes in your life you need to prime your brain. So, let's walk towards dream land and start creating what you want your life to be like. Okay?! yay! Let's go!
It is normal for you to feel a bit lost after your mormon faith crisis. I mean, when your life narrative has been removed and you feel left grappling in the dark, it can feel very lonely and confusing. Today, I want to talk about what to do about it and how you can start rephrasing this chapter of your life. Many of us feel like we have to "find ourselves" and that thought alone can be overwhelming. Where does one look to find themselves? In the back of the spare bedroom closet? Under the throw blanket on the couch? Nah, that is not how this works. The answer is quite simple and not as daunting as you may be thinking. Let's have some fun with finding yourself!
Researching and staying abreast of all things mormon is a common part of mormon deconstruction. We want to find the perfect proof to show our loved ones how we came to our decision to leave the church. Or at least make sure we have crossed our Ts and dotted our Is, because, you know...our eternal salvation and all. Makes sense, right? Let's talk about why we do this and when it may be time to stop, or at least reduce the time spent looking.
The title says it all really. If you have ever felt the difficult feeling of shame, I hope this episode gives you permission to start letting go. It is possible.
So many layers to unravel after you deconstruct mormonism. Sex, sexuality, and sexual Identity and orientation are all part of the process. This week I want to share some of the personal pieces of my post mormon story as it relates to self pleasure, free falling in Hollywood, and figuring out some things about my sexual stereotypes and how sometimes we have to stumble around in the dark to figure it all out. We have talked about how we, as exmormons, initially feel very infantile as we remove the rose colored glasses from our existence, here on Exmormonology. Giving yourself permission to explore and figure things our for yourself is a huge piece of your healing. It can be hard with the thought that contribute to guilt and shame. Let's bust through that together.
Choose The Right vs. Choose The Wrong ~ The psychological implications from the "innocent" mormon acronym CTR are pretty big and may be playing a bigger role in your post mormon healing than you think. This week on Exmormonology I break it down for you so you can see what you are up against with your religious deconstruction.
Let's talk about our feelings, shall we? In this episode of Exmormonology I want to talk about what happens if you are in the habit of putting your emotions in The Emotional Time Capsule. The ETC is the collection of all the feelings you would rather not feel and so you tuck them away and hope that you never need to unearth/feel those emotions. If it only worked that way, right? Your overall generalized anxiety is most likely caused from all of the emotions you are not wanting to sit with and feel all the way through. Grab your ear buds and lean in wildflower, I have a feeling this episode is going to help you understand what is going on in your brain and in your heart.
If you missed the first part of our convo, go listen to Ep. 65 first! In part two of our discussion we continue with A'Lea's thoughts and feelings as she steps into navigating polyamory with her husband, mindfulness, Peter and getting "out of the boat", modesty standards and family, body positivity and how it has changed, racism and body image, confessing your sexual past with your future spouse (TBM style) and so much more! If you missed the first part of our convo, go listen!!!
This is a first for Exmormonology! A'Lea Harris and I sit down for a conversation around all things body. So many of us have a love hate relationship with our bodies and it often consumes so much of our brain space, even when we think we are not thinking about it. We spend a lifetime trying to love ourselves and love the body we are in. The struggle is real. This conversation is rich. We peel back so many layers and discuss the multifaceted influences that contribute the thoughts and feelings we have with our body. I hope you love this conversation. You can find A'Lea at all your favorite social media places. @badd_woolf Enjoy!
I am calling this Exmormonology episode "The Recovering Good Girl." So many layers to shed when deconstructing from a high demand religion, so many if fact that it can feel very overwhelming. This week let's talk about how many of us have been shaped into good girls and what we can do about it. If even the thought of being a good girl grates at you, tune in, this is going to be a good one.
It was a big week in mormon / exmormon dom. Jeffery R. Holland said words and we are going to talk about it. Yep, we are going THERE. I want to offer love, compassion and some coaching on Holland's speech given at BYU's welcome to the 2021/22 academic school year program. Learning to manage your mind does not mean you do not get fired up or angry about things. It is about learning to process those feelings and then channel your emotions in the direction you want to go. Let's dive into this very emotionally charged speech.
This week's Exmormonology episode is a follow up to last week episode on Anger. Anger is a secondary emotion, but I wanted to start with anger because it seems to be a very loud uncomfortable one. This week we are going to find the other emotion(s) and I am going to teach you how to and what to do with it once you find it. Life is a full spectrum of emotions and being able to sit with and process the more difficult ones well help you with all that comes with being human.
If you are experiencing a faith/truth/identity crisis in any form, but especially from religious trauma, you have felt anger. This week in Exmormonology I break anger down for you and explain what is going on and why. Next week I will follow up with what is under the anger. To sum it up.....everything. Anger is okay. Anger is telling you there is something wrong. Listen to it, let it be there and know when it is time to do something about it.
Join us for another bonus episode of Irreverent Sessions. Jim and I clink glasses and then talk about...
- How to pick wine.
- Long Island Ice Tea.
- How Molly Mormon Amy was.
- Our Story.
- Exploring life outside of the mormon lens (and rules).
- Jim's life in Hollywood.
- Jim asking me to marry him while in Italy and why I said no.
- Sex and exploring your sexuality after mormonism.
- New York City.
- Life Coaching Jim.
- Conflicting Commandments.
- Jim is a writer.
- Working for free.
And so much more!
The desire to try and show your mormon family how the church is not "true," after you go through your own awakening from mormonism is strong. We feel that if they thought the same way, we would get to feel (_____________). Let's talk about how you can't really do this and how you can feel the feeling you are wanting to feel anyway. You really can't convenience anyone of anything.
Part 2 of my interview with Jim. He certainly knows how to push me to places I didn’t know we were going. This interview, for me was very reflective of my life as a mormon and the endless layers of unraveling as I went through my faith crisis. We discuss...
- the precipice
- feeling alone
- the mormon agenda
- the strength a mormon faith crisis takes
- what can the church do now?
- my early youtube channel & soul searching girl
- post mormon confidence
- modesty
- the culture of the church and gaslighting
- perfection
- when it is time to start moving on
- worthiness interviews
- dealing with trolls
- being your own guru
- betrayal
- my post mormon brain
- the messy process of life
- looking behind the facade
Thank you so much for listening to my podcast. I hope you are finding healing along your path of discovery. I am here and would love to coach you through it all. I know this journey well and I know you are going to be okay. Please leave an iTunes review if you have found Exmormonology to be helpful along your journey
Amy xo
Jim turns the mic around and ask me some questions that I have never been asked before in regards to my mormon faith crisis. What a person goes through as they are deconstructing their religious brain is very intense. The thoughts and feelings seem to come at you so fast, you often cannot make sense of it all. You feel overwhelmed, betrayed and lonely. I did too. Take a walk with me, down memory lane as I share with you stories I have never spoken about publicly as my brain deconstructed all of it and how I came back to myself. Part One.
It is easy to let panic set in when we see the damage and harm being done in the mormon church. We often feel like we need to get everyone out of the burning house, so to speak. I get it, I really do, but I want you to step back and see the importance of breaking the chain. YOU have done this and because you have done this, the ripple effect will go on for generations. Learning how to manage your mind around all aspects of leaving the church will pay huge dividends in your future, let's talk more about it in this week's Exmormonology.
One of the most difficult parts of your mormon faith deconstruction is explaining what you are experiencing to your still believing family and friends. We want so desperately to be understood. We want our loved ones to know how hard this time in our life is, yet we just keep banging our head against the wall in frustration at the lack of understanding. It almost feels like insult to injury that we have to do the work and manage our mental health in this department. But we do. It is up to you to do the work to make sure you are okay. It is like we are speaking a completely different language now and thus communication with our loved ones feels foreign. Join me for Exmoromonology Ep. 56, as I explain this all in detail.
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This week I want to talk to you about how one measures being enough. Growing up in the mormon church there are a lot of requirements given to us over the course of our lives about how we need to be living. We have to "do" a lot in the church and then we are required to go to worthiness interviews to judge our enoughness. The religious conditioning is playing a hard game my friends, when it comes to your internal belief on feeling like you are enough. Let's dive in and discuss how this effects your belief about yourself in ways you most likely have never thought about. Exmormonology Ep. 55
Something was in the air the night we recorded this Irreverent Episode. At a certain point in the podcast we, well, fell into a complete an totally laughing fit that still tickles me listening to it again. We hope you will join us as we discuss...
Jim's Legal Pad of Ideas
Mormon Temples
Missed Opportunity Mormon Product Ideas
The Mormon Rocky Horror Picture Show Equivalent
Moroni at the Insurrection
Exmormons have points! GD.
And more.
You may just fire us after this episode! lol
If you are in the beginning stages of your faith crisis, this episode is for you. Let's have a heart to heart. What you are going through is huge. Don't let the noise drown out the importance of this stage of your journey. This is the messy part. Sit with me today, newbie wildflower.
What happens when one's profession does not align with one's religion? Let's talk about it. Natasha Helfer's "church court of love"scheduled for April 18th. Also, do you know you are your own authority? Do you believe that? I am working on a module for my coaching program that will help you see how our conditioning in "The Church" has contributed to our second guessing what is best for us. Exmormonology Ep. 53.
It is a Whiskey and Wine night on this episode of The Irreverent Sessions. (recorded on March 14th)
Tonight Jim is drinking Jack and Coke and I am drinking a fabulous Chardonnay, Sonoma-Cutrer. (so freaking good!)
In this session of Irreverent, a few of our topics include...
Murder Among The Mormons.
Mormon Temple Remodels and The Temple Murals.
Respecting the Mormon Elders.
God and The Holy of Holies, a spot for God and Jesus.
Kolob, near Kolob.
Amy reeealllly loves this wine.
GenExers putting the X in Exmo.
A different mormonism now???
The church morphing into mainstream christianity.
Finding ourselves defending mormonism to outsiders who do not know what they are talking about. Weird in so many ways.
Why my podcast name was very intentional.
The set up of being labeled an apostate.
And more! You really have to listen to the whole episode! We meander. :)
Rewriting your own personal narrative is a completely different process now that you have left the mormon church. What do you believe now? What is true for you? What are the words you use to talk about yourself? I want to talk a bit more about the framework we build from, once we have had a religious faith crisis. You and I both know that this is about way more than just the mormon church and the narrative "they" had for you. So, I am moving the focus to YOU today wildflower. What is your story now that you have a blank slate in front of you. Let's play in this thought playground for a little while, shall we?!
As mormons, we were raised that there was one right church and one right way to live your life. Just stay on the mormon plan and you will be good. Then, boom, you stumble along and run smack dab into your own personal faith crisis. The deep conditioning you have experienced bleeds over into this new paradigm you find yourself in as you navigate life post mormon. Is there one right and true way to get through your faith crisis and your new post mormon life? Let's talk about this interesting dichotomy you are experiencing in this week Exmormonology Episode.
In this weeks episode of Exmormonology, I want to share with you a time table of my life since my mormon faith crisis. I have had different milestones along my path that have helped shaped my life and I have a feeling you will relate to many of them. I discuss my faith crisis, a wee bit of my marriage, my youtube channel Soul Searching Girl that changed to Amy Logan Post Mormon Life. I discuss my emerging awareness of patriarchy, intersectional feminism, life coaching and more. Grab cup 'o something and talk a journey with me. Exmormonology Ep. 50 Where I am now, 15 years post my mormon faith crisis.
Jim and I sat down, had a few drinks and pontificated about mormonism. Some of the topics up for discussion...
- Seeing things with your spiritual eyes.
- TikTok @exmormonology and @brashreligion
- Whiskey Sour
- Polygamy
- Amy is old
- Ordering drinks
- Why people drink
- Church distractions
- Second Anointing
- Initiatories
- Brochure upon name removal from church records
- Doubts are of the devil
Cozy up and laugh loudly with us.
Exmormonology Ep. 49 ~ So many stages to this leaving the mormon church experience. You rode the first wave of complete shock and you are feeling a bit stunned, then, the second wave hits you. I know it feels overwhelming, because you don't want to be feeling these emotions. You want to resist these feelings and it festers. What if this is exactly how it should feel? In this episode I want to talk about the "second wave" for a bit. A second wave is coming, so to speak, but you learned something from the first wave and you are already stronger, you will be able to handle this too. Let's dive in.
I love Exmormonology. I love spending time with you as you are working through a very very very huge life change. Leaving the mormon church is not for wimps. It will challenge you and stretch you and offer all sorts of opportunity for growth. It has always been my goal to help you not feel so alone on your journey. When I began my journey, many moons ago, the loneliness was so very painful. In this episode, I reflect on the past year (again) and I also discuss some of my intentions with moving forward. I know it can feel like you are stagnant tho, as you process all that you are going through. The truth is you have an amazing big beautiful life ahead of you and you will be a better person for this transition in your life. Keep doing the work. Keep expanding your mind. Keep on keeping on. Plus...Happy Birthday to me! January 31st!
So many stages of life after mormonism. The truth is, it is and always will be an on going journey. Being mormon was a part of you through and through, and because of that you have a lifetime of experiences to always remind you of the life you created as a latter day saint. And, part of your life journey post mormon, will be the pieces of the choices you made as a member. For me, it was standing out side of an LDS temple, while my son was getting married for time and all eternity. Here is part two of my son's temple wedding day.
Is your active mormon son or daughter getting married in the Mormon Temple and you can't be there because you left the church? Yeah, me too. Let's talk about how to manage your mind around this potentially emotional experience. When I left the church back in 2006, I knew that one day I may have to deal with this and now I am, tomorrow. I recorded this podcast last week discussing some of my thoughts and self coaching around this very happening. Exmormonology Ep. 46 is the story of my temple wedding back in 1990 and now my son's temple wedding in 2020.
Time to let our hair down around here! Let the Irreverence begin in Exmormonology land. This week James and I dive into...
- Chartreuse
- Wine and Whiskey
- Thinking for Yourself
- Paul H. Dunn
- Believing Verses Knowing
- The New Apologists
- I, Amy, am always right (obviously)
- Cherry picking the Bible
- Tithing is the fee....
- James quotes the New Testament
- Exmormonology Podcast Facebook Page
- and more!
Fear is a powerful feeling. It can consume us and keep us stuck in so many areas in our life. Religions, including Mormonism, use fear to keep people in line, in the boat, and doubting your doubts. You don't see this, until you see it. Let's talk about how we "feed the fear" with our looping thought patterns created from our ancestor's need to survive and our religious and social conditioning we are living, right now, in our lifetime. Let's dive into Exmormonology Ep. 45.
Someone asked me the other day, "Amy, what have you done with all of your mormon "things?" Garments, Temple Clothing, Scriptures, etc. etc. etc. Great question! I love this Q so much.
I want to share with you what I did/do, and I also want to know what you have done with your mormon paraphernalia?
In this episode of Exmormonology, let's talk about all of your options. We really do collect a lot of things over our lifetime of being mormon, don't we? It was our life AND our lifestyle, so it makes sense that we have some decisions to make with all the THINGS!
We have wrapped up the first year of The Exmormonology Podcast!!! Today is all about celebrating and reviewing all we have accomplished together over the course of the past year. If you are a post mormon, progressive mormon, active mormon but wanting to understand your exmormon friends and family, or full on exmormon, this podcast is for you. Learning how to life live after mormonism or while you are questioning mormonism, can be challenging. It has always been my goal to help you navigate this path in healthy ways, paying particular attention to your mental health. Thank you for listening and sharing and being a WILDFLOWER! I celebrate you! Thank you for listening to Exmormonology. Listen all the way to the end of this episode for a special Wildflower Bonus, just for you.
Were you triggered by your social media feed being inundated with #givethanks posts? It was a lot, wasn't it. Let's talk all about it in this week's Exmormonology Episode. I address a lot of the reasons why you were triggered, but also I am going to give you a little tough love. If you are a regular listener to Exmormonology it is because you are looking for ways to heal and not be so triggered, so this means you can handle a little tough love from me, your life coach. Let's dive in.
Time and time again we give our emotional power away every time someone says something that sends us over the edge, especially when going through a mormon faith crisis. In this episode of Exmormonology, I am going to tell you what is happening, what to do, and how to feel more empowered during and after your faith crisis. You are fully capable of growing stronger through this process. I believe in you. So, grab a pen and paper. You will need to take notes during this episode.
I was in a major car accident a few weeks ago. I have been recovering from a concussion. While I have had a lot of down time and very limited screen time, I have had a few thoughts (okay, a lot of thoughts) about my post mormon journey , my life and how life can change in an instant. I hope you tune in as this episode of Exmormonology is me being very human and vulnerable.
When you start down the yellow brick road of your inquiries into mormonism, you could never have imagined what was coming. AmIright?! As humans, we fear the unknown. We want and crave certainty. We probably do not even think about it much because we just assume we have a certain level of control over our lives. Nothing like a religious faith crisis to show you how much you want certainty in your life. Our brains hate uncertainty. We try to avoid it at all costs and we panic when we do not have it. Diving into all things uncertain in this weeks episode of Exmormonology.
Let's talk about sex, baby! On this bonus edition of Exmormonology, The Irreverent Sessions, we talk about sex and the mormon church's influences on how we have been conditioned, accepted or not accepted, within the roles presented to us. We laugh, (I) get teary, and of course all things irreverent. Everything from how to make a Michelada (a Mexican beer), hope chests, being a virgin, purity culture, hypocrisy, Mitch Shira and apostle's impersonations, @talkpuritytome and so much more!
This week is a quickie Exmormonology. This week I share a few tender feelings that RBG's death brought up for me. I am curious if since you have left the church, do you have moments of feeling ignorant on topics you paid no attention to when you were BUSY being mormon? Yeah? Me too. Let's take a moment and honor Ruth Bader Ginsberg and talk about her legacy and how we can use her life as fuel to light a fire under us to learn all we can about women who have paved the way for you and me.
Do you love coffee as much as me? Did you start to drink coffee in the closet, so to speak, when you felt too guilty to drink it openly around your mormon family? Yeah? ME TOO! Guilt and shame often run the show when you are in deconstruction mode out of the church. Let's talk about the psychology and mind control the church had over you, all under the guise of obedience. This week, I am coming at you from a coffee shop in Texas. Can't wait to dive in with y'all!
Music is life! So many songs have helped me get through some dark days of my faith crisis. In this week's episode of Exmormonology, I want to share several of the songs I love. I have many many more, but here is a great sampling of some songs that mean a lot to me. I hope you love them too! I would love to hear what songs have helped you through the tougher days of your paradigm shift.
What do you do when your mormon parenting handbook is tossed out the window? If you are a parent, and you have experienced a faith crisis, at some point you will have thoughts about how to parent your kids. Doesn't matter if they are little bitty or full grown with children of their own, you will have questions.
First, it is totally understandable if you are having a hard time with this. You have been living in a black and white type of thinking world. It can feel very overwhelming to have that structure removed. There was not a lot of wiggle room before. Now what?
Let's dive in to your mormon parenting brain and your post mormon parenting brain in this weeks episode of Exmormonology.
This week in Exmormonology we are going to walk towards our painful feelings. We have to be able to FEEL our feelings. Doing this lets the pressure, stress, and discomfort lessen. Once we are able to feel them properly, we can see that that emotion is just a physical vibration in the body and nothing to be scared of. Most of us spend so much time trying to avoid our negative feelings, at all costs, that we miss out on the growth that comes from processing our emotions. So, let’s show ourselves compassion and love and healing, by going there.
Opps, we did it again! Another Irreverent Bonus Ep. of Exmormonology. Whiskey is involved and there is a lot of loud laughter. In this session James and I talk about..
- The Regular Testimony Bearers
- Las Vegas
- Church Approved Music
- Black and White Thinking
- Jesus, The Bible and The Book of Mormon
- Things Lost In Translation
- Tithing Dollars
- White Lines and Stake Dances
- Thought Bubbles
- Happiness is Family Home Evening
- Champaign at a Family Dinner
- and more!
Grab a drink, or not, and join us.
Growing up in the Mormon church, we have been so conditioned to black and white type of thinking. Black and white thinking effects our decision making. You may think you are "just bad at making decisions" but it is tied to your religious conditioning. You can do something about that. If you are a person who worries a lot about “doing it wrong” or “not good enough” or "afraid to mess up," this episode is for you. I have good news for you, there are no bad decisions, just decisions. Let's talk about it.
Exmormonology Ep. 32 is all about Modesty. Growing up, in and through mormonism, you have been influenced by all the lessens, scriptures, conference talks, parent messages and mormon culture, that comes with all the conditioning we experienced, even when we do not even see it as conditioning, while we are in it. We see it as normal.
This is true for the conditioning we have experienced around modesty. We were taught that we, girls and women, are responsible for the thoughts boys/men may have about our bodies and how we dress.
Mix religious conditioning and society messages and we have the perfect cocktail for messed up body image, shame and mental torture we put on ourselves, to hide ourselves.
We spend so much time trying to make sure we are covered up, that we end up covering up our authentic self.
Have you ever done something that scares the living day lights out of you? I know the answer is yes because I know you have experienced a faith crisis. Experiencing a faith crisis means you had to face fear and damnation and hell, face to face. Leaving the only belief you have ever know, is terrifying. Get yourself a new pair of gloves, hold on to the cables with all your might. You will come out the other side stronger than you ever thought possible. Listen to a tale of me facing my second, biggest fear, second only to my faith crisis. Half Dome and a tale about one of the 3 nephites, garments and porn shoulders.
Perfectionism! Ewwww. You may not even think you are a perfectionist and I am going to show you how perfectionism masks itself as doubt and how it may be stopping you from achieving what you want in life. We have lots and lots of layers to work through leaving the faith. This week we dive into the perfectionism we were constantly striving for and never attaining. I tell you why this happens and exactly how you can become a recovering perfectionist, like me. Let's dive in.
This week let's get a little cheeky for our Irreverent Bonus Ep. of Exmormonology. Jim and I talk about all things, well at least a few things, Mormon Folklore. But in all actuality, it kind of all is, isn't it? We discuss, The Three Nephites, Cain being Big Foot, How to test a spirit, and the 1st Vision. Plus a few other tipsy wanderings that you don't want to miss.
Exmormonology Ep. 029 Your brain is the most powerful tool you have. Are you using it to your advantage or are you letting it run the show with no supervision? If you are serious about improving your exmormon mental health, have a listen. You are the boss of your brain, only you. No one else is responsible for what is going on up in the there, except for you. Spend some time mining around in there and see what is going on. You are worth the time. I give you concrete examples of what this looks like. This is your brain, this is your brain on exmormonism.
Exmormonology Ep. 28 We have been taught from a young age that we are responsible for other people's feelings, when in connection to something we have done or said. It can feel strange to learn that this is not true. People have thoughts and feelings based on their own life story and experiences. This week in Exmormonology let's talk about what I mean. Great nuggets are toward the end. Also, my new website is up! amyloganlife dot com.
Are you feeling exhausted from all things Post Mormon? Let's talk about why and how you can help reduce the tiredness you feel as you unravel your life. Your brain is working overtime trying to solve the puzzle of "WTF just happened." Join me for Ep. 27 of Exmormonology.
Your brain broke wide open during your faith crisis. You know how that felt, right? Let it break open again if you are new to racism. You know how to feel uncomfortable. You have done it, did it, as you process life after mormonism. Do it again with racism. If you are new to this work, pull the curtain back. Look. Be willing to see it all. This is one of the things I love so much about exmormons, we have felt betrayed by our religious past, this means you most likely want to see what other areas in your life you have not quite seen the full picture. Racism, for me, is one of those areas. How about you? Exmormonology Ep. 26.
Let's look at the foundational teachings from the Book of Mormon that includes racism. Yes, the mormon church has tried to lessen the teachings around "white and delightsome" and dark skin being a curse, but the truth of the matter is that this language is in the Book of Mormon. Let's talk about the how these teachings get into our psyche and influence our thoughts, feelings and actions around racism. Exmormonology Ep. 25.
Amy is drinking a Rosé and James is drinking Bourbon Whiskey and our conversation took us around the block a few times...
Mormon Dating
Pretty In Pink
Sex Before Marriage
Purity Culture
Young Women's Motto
Modesty
Boys and their bad thoughts.
Uchtdorf
3 year olds bearing testimonies
Anti-mormons at General Conference
to name a few. You will have to listen to the whole show to hear it all.
Enjoy!
A & J
Have you ever wondered what stage of your faith crisis you are in? How many stages are there? How did you get to this point in life that everything seems so different now? Let's dive in. Last year we made a docu style video about an Anatomy of a Faith Crisis. This week, I walk you though the video and explain what it feels like in each stage. You can watch the 5 minute video referenced in this podcast by clicking the link below. Exmormonology Ep. 24.
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWLNS7aHLgQ6UaiJVX8yrDw?view_as=subscriber
Post mormon brain often needs a little TLC in the self confidence department. You have busted through a huge paradigm and some of the side effects of this new world view may involve a bit of gun shyness.
Let's continue to use that paradigm busting muscle in other areas of your life.
You have evidence of your own self confidence, yet when you set out to do something new, all your old stories come to the forefront and try to shut you down. Exmormonology Ep. 23.
Let me walk you though why this happens and teach you how to rebuild and boost your self confidence going forward.
Take notes!
Welcome to Exmormonology, The Irreverent Sessions. James Rhodimer joins me for a wine reviews, mormon memory lane, and a glimpse into our exmormon life.
These "bonus" episodes will be released a couple times a month. And, bonus points If you make it all the way to the end of this episode where the wine has kicked in full tilt and I pretty much slip into giggle mode.
Enjoy!
There will come a time when you can look back at your initial faith crisis stage of life and laugh at yourself a wee little bit. So, no matter if you are 1 hour into your faith crisis, deer in the head lights stage of things or more of a been at this a while stage of post mormon life, this episode is for you. It is time for a Exmormonology Pep talk and a story of a crazy nervous Amy, first time exmormon meet up and a woman in red boots. Episode 22 of Exmormonology. Let's go!
Let's talk about the psychology and long lasting effects of mormon worthiness interviews. After decades of needing to measure up, to be worthy enough, to go the LDS temple and progress through all the proper ranks of mormonism, it is no wonder so many mormons and exmormons a like, never feel worthy enough. I also share a personal story that showed me exactly what I thought about my own personal worthiness.
There are some words that you need to stop staying. I am asking you to never say this one, again. Like forever!
It is very common to pull back from mormon friends and family, when you are going through a faith crisis, or shortly there after. This is because you start to feel a huge disconnect. You may find yourself going through the motions, until you no longer can. You will know when that happens. Let's talk about it AND mormon love bombs. Have you been a recipient of one?
Easter Sunday Thoughts. All the feels. Exmormon ramblings. I am blaming this one on Funeral Potatoes, Andrea Bocelli, and Christian Music.
Is there a good side when a mormon apostle casts us apostates in a negative light? I think yes. Have a listen and let me know what you think.
On this week's episode of Exmormonology, we talk about...
- Unorthodox
- General Conference
- Mental Health
- Viktor Frankl
Enjoy!
This week, let's get specific on ways to start managing your mind during this pandemic. Showing up for yourself and learning how to do this work will have lasting ripple effects in your life. Also, are you finding your mormon beliefs around life and death and after life creeping into your brain lately? I want to talk about that too. Learning to manage your mind through crisis, is one of the best gifts you can give yourself.
The Human Race has been reminded that life is more uncertain than we wanted to believe. This week, we are taking a break from all things Exmormon and we are talking about healthy ways for you to process the reality of what we are dealing with on a global scale. I know you are experiencing stress and anxiety at levels that feel off the charts. I want to help you reframe and lessen the intense real feelings that we are collectively feeling. Thought work applies to all things, even the confusion and fear of a pandemic.
You hear it all the time exmormon peeps, "You can leave the church, but you can't leave it alone." Right?! I am pretty sure that these words have fallen upon our ears many times over. I am going to tell you exactly why this happens and exactly why it is 100% okay. Let's jump into it in the episode of Exmormonology.
A mormon faith crisis will most likely leave you feeling duped, bamboozled, stunned. How in the world do you trust yourself again after all of this? You did trust yourself. Now what? I am going to tell you exactly what you need to do to rebuild your trusting yourself muscle. It is easier than you think.
Life after mormonism. So many amazing things right? But, there is also a large learning curve to dealing with the fallout regarding friends and family. How do you want people to behave in life, so you feel better? Let's talk all about it. I drop several realistic truth bombs here in this episode of Exmormonology. Let's go there!
Growing up in a high demand, very indoctrinating religion, leaves some residue. In this episode of Ex•mormon•ology we are going to talk about "The Residual Effect" and how many old beliefs sneak up on us when we least expect them. The good news is, you are capable of changing those deep rooted beliefs, one thought at a time.
This week on Ex•mormon•ology I want to talk to you about something that so many of us find our post mormon selves dealing with....FAMILY and THEIR mormon life. A few weeks ago, I attended my nephew's missionary farewell and setting apart. This meant I had some decisions to make about how I wanted to show up, or even if I wanted to show up at all, for this mormon ritual. I did and here are my thoughts....
Deciding to tell your mom (or anyone) about leaving the mormon church can really feel uncomfortable. In this week's Ex•mormon•ology episode, let's talk about how to manage your mind around this stressful situation.
Do you feel like you have to keep your mormon faith crisis a secret? "Hiding" what you are going through is a completely normal stage of this process. It is okay to stay put for a bit while you figure out what to do. Let's talk about the process and what you may be thinking and feeling right now.
For most of us, our mormon faith crisis feels like a tornado just came blowing through our life. Let's talk about slowing down, picking up the pieces and tending to our wounds.
When you are ready to begin your healing from your mormon faith crisis, taking your power back is the most liberating thing you can do for yourself. It all starts with your thoughts and for most of us, our thoughts are on the loose. Your brain is like an unsupervised child most of the time. Let's dive into your brain and see what is going on in there. I will be teaching you The Model today. This is a tool I used with my clients. It takes practice. You begin to take your power back when you start to manage your mind. This is how it is done.
It can be a frustrating feeling to spin in limbo land after your mormon faith crisis. It is normal to need time to figure out what steps you want to take next, but it is easy to get stuck in that space. In this episode of Ex•mormon•ology we are going to talk about how to get unstuck and exactly how to start moving forward.
Walking through a faith crisis paradigm shift is hard to describe. In its wake can be intense pain and grief. Today we are going to explore ways to process our pain that comes from our mormon faith crisis.
Giving yourself permission to begin a journey that you have no idea where you are going or where you will end up can feel very daunting. Many of us spin in the space right before the beginning, for awhile. Let's talk about a few things you can do to change your thinking that will help you make the decision to begin. It all begins in your brain, with a thought. ~Amy
Exmormonology Ep. 01 My Mormon Faith Crisis Story. What you are about to or have just recently gone through is HUGE. Experiencing a mormon faith crisis is one of the most painful things you can go through. Your whole spiritual/life paradigm just took a huge tumble, you most likely feel like the rug was pulled out from under your life. Leaving your religion is not for whimps. Let's talk about it.