Women Beyond Faith: Recent Episodes
Leah Janet
It’s our turn. We’re Speaking.For women who have walked away from faith, the challenges can be overwhelming. Finding how and where we fit into this crazy world can be tough.We matter. And our stories matter. And each and every time we tell a story the narrative shifts. We listen to other brave ass beauties who’ve walked comparable journeys and are reminded that we’re not alone. Here we are – It’s our turn. We’re Speaking. Speaking Up. Speaking Out. Even if our voices shake.We’re Speaking. By Women Beyond Faith.Finding Freedom on the Other Side. One story at a time.
Carrie's back! Join us as she share's the rest of her journey up to present day. May her badassery inspire you!
Carrie Doan is a pleasure coach, writer, and business strategist who is passionate about empowering women to rediscover their worth through practices of pleasure. She believes that every single part of us is deserving of love and actively works to reawaken the spirit to a life of abundance. When she's not tending to her children or seeking adventures around the world, she's busy hosting the "Clearly Connected Podcast" where she invites listeners to reimagine all the ways they can reconnect to themselves, to others, and to our natural environment.
Website: www.carriedoan.com
Clearly Connected Podcast
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Carrie's Dare to Desire Ebook
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1a0ola898j2QbPHX9PpjzNLCeCMD76QYA/view
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Carrie Doan is a pleasure coach, writer, and business strategist who is passionate about empowering women to rediscover their worth through practices of pleasure. She believes that every single part of us is deserving of love and actively works to reawaken the spirit to a life of abundance. When she's not tending to her children or seeking adventures around the world, she's busy hosting the "Clearly Connected Podcast" where she invites listeners to reimagine all the ways they can reconnect to themselves, to others, and to our natural environment.
Website: www.carriedoan.com
Clearly Connected Podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/clearly-connected/id1602454881
IG @carriedoancoaching
Carrie's Dare to Desire Ebook
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1a0ola898j2QbPHX9PpjzNLCeCMD76QYA/view
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Janice Selbie is a Registered Professional Counsellor and religious recovery consultant. She Divorced Religion after nearly 40 years in the Pentecostal (and briefly, Mennonite) denomination. After also divorcing her husband, Janice went back to school to become a counsellor and founded the Divorcing Religion Workshop, the Conference on Religious Trauma (aka CORT), and the Shameless Sexuality: Life After Purity Culture conference.
Here's additional details regarding Janice's offerings:
- One-on-one consulting to help you understand your own religious trauma syndrome and what recovery can look like -- https://www.divorcing-religion.com
- The Divorcing Religion Workshop an on-line, live, 6-week supportive small group designed to help you transition out of religion and into secular life --https://www.divorcing-religion.com
- Janice's first Shameless Sexuality -- An online conference for survivors of Purity Culture and their helpers will be held October 14-16, 2022 -- https://www.shamelesssexuality.org
- The Conference on Religious Trauma (CORT) where past speakers represent a variety of fundamentalist religious backgrounds including Amish, Evangelical, Mormon, Muslim, and Hasidic Orthodox Judaism -- https://www.religioustraumaconference.org
- And -- lastly -- there's the CORT YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGhyTXTIM9kdTJ1jW-Ckb5g
From CORT's vision statement:
There are widespread assumptions that religion in general is good or at least harmless. Yet people are seriously hurt by religious doctrines and practices every day. This has to end.
--- Dr. Marlene Winelll
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Alaine is back! In this episode she shares the pain, isolation and wonder associated with deconstruction.
It takes considerable courage to confront cognitive bias head on. Many of us, hoodwinked since childhood, become driven to discover the truth. We're so over the BS! We sprint forward – often times ignorant to the enormity of the fallout for doing so.
Alaine carried on. She kept asking the questions and fought hard to find honest answers.
Still working through the aftereffects of her deconstruction. Alaine moved to the D.C. suburbs, leaving her family behind. She’s starting over.
A new career. A new city. A new Alaine.
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Alaine is a Gen-X former evangelical raised in the Deep South who found out the hard way that the unconditional love of Jesus had more than a few conditions.
When her world began to crumble following a difficult divorce, her strict, conservative family and Southern Baptist community were not there for her the way she expected. Their shunning pushed her to question all the beliefs she’d clung to her whole life.
A support group for women of faith showed her how many verses in the Bible had been mistranslated and misappropriated through the years to support patriarchal theologies detrimental to women—and if this was possible, what ELSE in the Bible might not be the literal “Word of God”?
Alaine’s intense journey of deconstruction has led her down new roads away from almost everything and everyone in her former world. Today, identifying as an atheist/humanist, she is rebuilding her life and career as a paralegal in the suburbs of Washington, D.C.
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Bess is back from rural Pennsylvania to share with us the rest of her story – at least up to current day Spring of 2022.
In her mid 20s and wise beyond her years Bess talks university, working through anxiety and panic attacks, therapy, finding the love of her life, managing relationships with still believing family members, and finding community with other out of the box thinkers in her small town.
Bess is an animal lover and her gentle, soft spoken connection with these non-humans offers some calm and serenity during these difficult days -- these days of discovery – these days of redefining the dreams of her youth – these days of finding freedom outside the confines of a religious order – these days of post pandemic uncertainty – you’ll even her rooster crowing in the background!
Damn! Bess is a badass!!
If you'd like to reach out to Bess, she’d love to chat with you. You can reach her at Bess569@yahoo.com.
Bess is learning how to use her voice. She is Speaking Up. And Speaking Out. And in so doing, she is Finding Freedom. On the Other Side. One Story at a Time.
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Reagan's back! In this conversation she talks specifics regarding the multiple small businesses she runs here in the Greater Cincinnati area.
Reagan is a career coach, professional photographer, CEO of a Nature Preschool, blogger, AND does speaking engagements. Whew! That makes me tired just typing it all out!!
Reagan continues to inspire me -- she's changing the world by being herself!
Here's Reagan -- sharing more of her journey -- from evangelical homeschool kiddo to earth loving, tree hugging inspirational homeschool mama and entrepreneur.
Enjoy the conversation. I’m pretty sure you, too, will continue to be inspired by Reagan’s moxie.
Find out more about Reagan at the links below:
https://www.playfulacre.com
https://www.instagram.com/playfulacre/
https://www.facebook.com/playfulacre
https://twitter.com/playfulacre
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Reagan is a mom and owner of multiple small businesses here in the Greater Cincinnati area. She grew up in the church. She and her family frequented the same homeschool circles as my family. Her people played on the same homeschool sports teams as my people. Her sister actually dated one of my favorite human’s brother. We knew, and -- still know—a lot of the same people.
I’m not sure how or when I was first introduced to Reagan’s Instagram page. I don’t think I realized at the time that she was someone from our homeschool past, I was just attracted to the passion and pizzazz she oozed. I loved what she was saying about preserving the magic of childhood and getting kids out in to nature.
She inspired me. Reagan was raising her kid the way I wished I would have raised my kids. She was teaching me things.
One day last fall I put two and two together and realized our families used to do life in the same Cincinnati homeschool circles. And I wanted to know more. So -- I reached out and asked Reagan if she’d be interested in sharing her journey -- from evangelical homeschool kiddo to earth loving, tree hugging inspirational homeschool mama and entrepreneur. Luckily, for me and you, she said yes.
Enjoy the conversation. I’m pretty sure you, too, will be inspired by Reagan’s moxie.
You can find out more about Reagan at the links below:
https://www.playfulacre.com
https://www.instagram.com/playfulacre/
https://www.facebook.com/playfulacre
https://twitter.com/playfulacre
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Trigger warning:
This episode contains material that may be difficult for some of our listeners to hear.
Conversations cover porn, body shaming, Josh Harris, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, statutory rape, purity culture and abortion.
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Bess is in her mid 20s. She lives in a small rural Pennsylvania town. As you'd expect, she's been surrounded by conservative christians as far as the eye can see for the entirety of her life.
Raised in the church and educated in christian schools, Bess never fit in. Everyone around her was exactly the same – same beliefs, same hobbies, same skin color, same EVERYTHING!
Sure, she made attempts to fit in, but as a young teen, Bess determined she could no longer pretend to be someone she wasn't. This authenticity and independence created turmoil within her family of origin -- particularly in the relationship with her father. It wasn't appropriate for a young girl to ask questions and think for herself.
As an older teen, Bess and her dad came to an understanding that they'd just have to agree to disagree. However, as Bess' faith continued to erode, the conflict returned and this time not only with dad but into the larger circle of Bess' immediate family.
Living authentically hasn't been easy. Bess at times wishes she could just turn off her hunger for truth switch. But for some of us, this is impossible to do!!
We are learning how to use our voices. We’re Speaking Up. And Speaking Out. Finding our Voices. And in so doing, Finding Freedom. On the Other Side. One Story at a Time.
Enjoy Bess. She’s pretty f*&ing incredible!
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Responding to your questions -- Leah talks work, Covid family relations, homeschool mama days and the kids subsequent trauma, as well as the movie Captain Fantastic with one of her crushes -- Viggo Mortensen.
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Special thanks to my personal assistant and editor @emmacatherine09
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She's back!! Catch the rest of Andrea's deconstruction story here at Andrea B. Part 2!
Born the 4th of 5 children to strict young earth creationist parents in the Midwest, Andrea B. was at church every Sunday. At the age of 9, she began attending summer camp at Kanakuk (think “Jesus Camp” Documentary) in Branson, Missouri. Attempting to grow in faith, confidence, and Christian characterAndrea buckled down intensifying her commitment to the faith.
Sold out for Jesus, Andrea was rebaptized. Attending purity retreats, See You at the Pole events and before school prayer study groups became her standard. She purchased an ichthys bumper sticker for a high school boyfriend. She was a Jars of Clay fangirl.
However, while still in high school Andrea took a world religions and philosophy course which revived her natural curiosity.
While away at college, her fundie boyfriend insisted she grow her hair long and wear skirts.
Slowly, she began to break away intellectually from fundamentalism.
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Born the 4th of 5 children to strict young earth creationist parents in the Midwest, Andrea B. was at church every Sunday. At the age of 9, she began attending summer camp at Kanakuk (think “Jesus Camp” Documentary) in Branson, Missouri.
Attempting to grow in faith, confidence, and christian character Andrea buckled down intensifying her commitment to the faith.
Sold out for Jesus, she was rebaptized. Attending purity retreats, See You at the Pole events and before school prayer study groups became the standard. She even purchased an ichthys bumper sticker for a high school boyfriend.
However, while still in high school Andrea took a world religions and philosophy course which revived her natural curiosity. Slowly, she began to break away intellectually from fundamentalism.
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**Alyssa is a 27 year old spouse & momma of two who is still adjusting to the freedom of "life on the other side" after recently deconstructing her beliefs from the Evangelical Church.
After her parents divorced at the age of 8, she and her two brothers were primarily raised by their mom in Wichita, Kansas in a very right-winged conservative household.
She currently lives in the Kansas City area, but is hoping to move down south at some point next year. She has been working tirelessly throughout the last year or so to unlearn and dismantle all of the toxicity that she was raised to believe was "love" within the church and her religious family.**
She enjoys drinking coffee, blasting punk music on long car rides, and isn't the least bit ashamed of her potty mouth. She is dedicated to healing her religious and childhood traumas and living her life as authentically as possible :)
Find her on TikTok at @alwaysauthenticalyssa where she posts very real and raw parts of her healing journey in hopes to connect with people who are on a similar path.
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Deconversion Therapy is a comedy podcast about religion. Bonnie and Karen punch up at charlatans like Jim Bakker or Jerry Falwell Jr. They don't discuss real trauma rather they point listeners to other spaces for that. They have fun with old church memories and cover recent and past scandals and debacles.
They've been at it for 3 years now!
Growing **up in the Southern Baptist church in South Florida Bonnie and Karen "met" when we they 1 year old (1969 or 70!). Both became Christians. Bonnie was always a bit more skeptical than Karen who grew up in a fully-Christian household.
Bonnie left, went back and then finally called it quits.
Karen became a missionary and seeds of doubt didn't arise until she was on the mission field in Thailand. It was a painful decade as things began to unravel.**
**Bonnie worked in Hollywood and has lots of stories. She now works in real estate.
Karen taught English at a university and still does mentors students online.**
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Kimberly Poovey is the founder of The Exvangelical Parent, a community of misfits, questioners, and wanderers, sharing our stories and navigating ethics, morality, and spirituality in parenting. We come from a wide variety of backgrounds and religious traditions, but we are all on a journey of deconstructing, reconstructing, and decolonizing our faith, (or lack thereof.) We aspire to raise good humans without religious baggage who will make the world a better, more just, and more loving place.
For the last several years, I’ve been in the process of deconstructing and reconstructing my faith, and I don’t yet know where I’ve landed. (Perhaps landing at all isn’t the point.) Now, as parents, my husband and I are trying to impart morality, ethics, empathy, compassion, and social justice to our child without making those things irrevocably interwoven with a conservative faith tradition. It’s a journey, and we are figuring it out as we go.
I’m a writer, artist, wife, and over-caffeinated mom. Enneagram 9. INFP. After spending over a decade in the ministry world, I now write and create full-time. You can find my work on Scary Mommy, The Mighty, The Huffington Post, The Natural Parent, Parent Co, and Her View From Home.
You can find Kimberly at https://theexvangelicalparent.com/ and on Instagram: @theexvangelicalparent
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**Justice Renée, born trans-female, raised in Young Earth Fundamentalism was taught through shame to hate her trans identity. As a preteen, Justice dedicated her life to Jesus and dove heavily into ministry. Steeped in fundamentalist culture it was not until 2019 when she opened up to her partner about her gender issues.
Recently transitioned (woohoo!!), Justice is using her talents to amplify marginalized voices and improve the "Din of Conversation". She's challenging herself to deal with the fear and scariness of being in the public eye, stepping out from behind the camera.
Enjoy Justice! She's a treasure!!
PS Did you notice her tattoo??**
You can find out more about Justice and the communities she's involved in at:
http://thetransverse.net/about-the-transverse/
https://secularnorth.org
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**Justice Renée, born trans-female, was raised in a Fundamentalist Evangelical Home. Her father was a leader in the Young Earth/Creation Science movement in Utah and surrounding states through the 1980s and 90s. She was taught through shame to hate her trans identity.
In her preteens, Justice dedicated her life to Jesus and began ministry work with her church, AWANA, and CEF and gave her first evangelistic message at 13.
She went on to get Bachelor of Arts in Biblical Studies with a Missions Emphasis from Frontier School of the Bible, was Youth Pastor in Nebraska, worked at Christian Camps, and a CrossWorld Missions Candidate preparing for missions in Thailand.
In 2009, responding to the Housing Crisis, she founded “Tears of the Patriots”, a Tea Party Group connected with Libertarian and Christian Nationalism. Due to a myriad of reasons, Justice Renée re-examined her belief system over a period of 7 years ending with leaving the church. She opened to her partner about her gender issues in 2019 and transitioned in 2020.
Currently, Justice Renée works as a Systems Engineer at Target, helps amplify diverse voices through Secular North Productions, and raises her two kids with her partner in a co-housing community. She shares her story with others to give hope and move communities forward through the “Din of Conversation”. She found freedom in acceptance and a path forward from the hate.
Stepping out from behind the camera, Justice Renée has begun opening up in a more public way to build connections with others and amplify the "Din of Conversation".**
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Speak your truth, Leah, even if your voice shakes.
We matter. Our stories matter. And our voices need to be heard.
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Hey friends! Leah's back with an update and honest appraisal of the current state of affairs in which we find ourselves. She talks contracting COVID, extended family discord, fundie antivax friends, mental health struggles in the time of pandemic and more.
Leah references Alan Alda (who played Dr. Hawkeye Pierce on TV's MASH back in the 70s & early 80s) and his advocacy to train STEM and medical professionals to communicate clearly and vividly.
Here's a few links to a some of his resources.:
https://www.aldacenter.org
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/science-clear-vivid-podcast/id1535702219?itsct=podcast_box&itscg=30200
https://omny.fm/shows/science-clear-and-vivid/
If you're interested in being a guest on the WBF podcast, contact Leah at womenbeyondbelief@gmail.com
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She's back for more!!! We here at WBF are lucky to have Julie, aka Cornflower Girl, back to continue the conversation! She and I get hung up on our distinct versions of homeschooling (child-directed learning) and many of the casualties of evangelicalism.
Pretty sure you're going to find the conversation pretty damn engaging!!
Julie is a late diagnosed autistic who has amassed a sizable TikTok following for her relatable PTSD/neurodivergent and Exvangelical content. A writer and armchair philosopher, she lives in North Carolina with her husband, Phil and 2 neurodivergent kiddos.
You can find Julie at www.musingsfromthecornflower.com
OR on her IG handle or Tik Tok @cornflowerwoman
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Rachael is back!! This recently deconverted beautiful mama of two sweet boys, wife, therapist, sometimes poet, and fierce advocate for those recovering from trauma continues her story.
We talk stepping-stones leading to her deconstruction including Pete Enns (I'd never heard of him before!), the Liturgists Podcast and Bart Ehrman.
Rachael believes in LOVE and imperfectly lives by that principle.
Follow her work on Instagram @smallwords_bigstories or www.rcpstherapy.com
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Rachael is a recently deconverted mama of two sweet boys, a wife, a therapist, a sometimes poet, and a fierce advocate for those recovering from trauma. Rachael believes in LOVE and imperfectly lives by that principle.
Follow her work on Instagram @smallwords_bigstories or www.rcpstherapy.com
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Charisse, born and raised in northern Utah, was a lifelong member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (aka Mormonism) until 2017. An abrupt divorce plunged her head-first into an existential crisis, leading her to walk away from the LDS faith and community.
Leaving religion changed everything for Charisse - how she looked at herself and others -- she contemplated her very existence.
She's been working on healing and navigating the religious trauma associated with those years in the church. One of the means Charisse has utilized to help process the trauma is The Existential Ginger podcast and platform. This platform provides a means for Charisse to share not only her voice -- but also the voices of others who find themselves on a similar journey.
This Existential Ginger currently lives in Southern PA with her 3 four-legged pals (2 cats and a dog). She works as a Beer Sales Rep by day.
You can find out more about Charisse at https://linktr.ee/theexistentialginger.
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Here's the rest of the story Joy's story!
A 59-year-old mother of six , Joy's an elementary school teacher and former fundamentalist, pentecostal Christian currently residing in the Pacific Northwest.
Joy spent over 5 decades loving Jesus with her whole heart, mind, and strength.
She taught her children to do the same. Her oldest, at about age 19 or 20, came home from a year abroad declaring she was no longer a Christian. This devastating news forced Joy on a search for answers that could help win her eldest back to Jesus.
However, as many of us who've found ourselves in this very situation understand -- the evidence Joy discovered, after many months of reading, studying, and watching debates completely dismantled those pillars she had erected to uphold her faith. And before she knew it, her entire belief system had collapsed with a deafening thud.
The next several years were tremendously difficult and yet exhilarating as she left the church (her entire support system!!), ended her 30-year marriage, and started anew.
During those troubled years, Joy wrote a memoir called Joy Unspeakable, Toxic Faith and Rose-colored Glasses, as a way to process and make sense of it all. "I chronicle the ways in which my rose-colored glasses (a metaphor for my faith) distorted reality and robbed me of agency from the time I was a small child until my 50s when the glasses finally fell off." You can find her memoir on Amazon -- here's the link: https://www.amazon.com/Joy-Unspeakable-Toxic-Rose-Colored-Glasses-ebook/dp/B08NFNT2GC
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Julie aka Cornflower Girl is a late diagnosed autistic who’s amassed a sizable TikTok following for her relatable PTSD/neurodivergent and Exvangelical content. A writer and armchair philosopher, she lives in North Carolina with her husband, Phil and 2 neurodivergent kiddos.
You can find Julie at www.musingsfromthecornflower.com
OR on her IG handle or Tik Tok @@cornflowergrl
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Meet Joy Hopper. She is a 59-year-old mother of six.
An elementary teacher.
And -- a former fundamentalist, pentecostal Christian who resides in the Pacific Northwest.
Joy spent over 5 decades loving Jesus with her whole heart, mind, and strength.
She taught her children to do the same. Her oldest, at about age 19 or 20, came home from a year abroad declaring she was no longer a Christian. This devastating news forced Joy on a search for answers that could help win her eldest back to Jesus.
However, as many of us who've found ourselves in this very situation understand -- the evidence Joy discovered, after many months of reading, studying, and watching debates completely dismantled those pillars she had erected to uphold her faith. And before she knew it, her entire belief system had collapsed with a deafening thud.
The next several years were tremendously difficult and yet exhilarating as she left the church (her entire support system!!), ended her 30-year marriage, and started anew.
During those troubled years, Joy wrote a memoir called Joy Unspeakable, Toxic Faith and Rose-colored Glasses, as a way to process and make sense of it all. "I chronicle the ways in which my rose-colored glasses (a metaphor for my faith) distorted reality and robbed me of agency from the time I was a small child until my 50s when the glasses finally fell off." You can find her memoir on Amazon -- here's the link: https://www.amazon.com/Joy-Unspeakable-Toxic-Rose-Colored-Glasses-ebook/dp/B08NFNT2GC
The picture Joy chose for this episode is of her falling out of a raft while attempting to maneuver a huge rapid. This reminds Joy of what her deconstruction felt like -- absolutely terrifying to be thrown off the boat, finding herself in the thick of the rushing current, but before too long -- she was okay. And free. And everything turned out just fine. :-)
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"It’s so important that we take the time to check in with ourselves, especially when our relationship to the future brings a certain kind of weariness." YWA
Is 2021 shaping up to be better than 2020??
Is anyone else struggling with Uncertainty?
Yoga for Uncertainty
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fLlFSWgK2y4
Braver Angels
https://braverangels.org
Useful Idiots Podcast
https://www.rollingstone.com/politics/politics-news/useful-idiots-trump-reign-taibbi-podcast-1115406/
Unregistered Podcast
http://www.thaddeusrussell.com/podcast
The Hill -- Rising
https://thehill.com/hilltv/rising#
Recovering from Religion
https://www.recoveringfromreligion.org
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Wendy grew up in a conservative right-winged home with an Evangelical Christian mother and Atheist father. The church she attended with her mother and brother was a Missionary Church.
Wendy's life included submission, obedience and following rules, with guilt and shame as an integral part of her mindset. After attending a 1-room church school for 7 years (A.C.E. – Accelerated Christian Education curriculum), she was able to attend a more “normal” Christian school for the rest of her high school.
Wendy went on several overseas short-term mission trips in high school. This further cemented her goal of being a career missionary. She met her 1st husband (who was a Missionary Kid from Papua New Guinea) at Prairie Bible College. After they were married, they pursued their missionary career in Brazil.
They had 3 kids and were part of the mission for 15 years. After many difficult events and challenges, Wendy’s first marriage ended. This was around the same time she started to question her conservative Christian beliefs.
She left her marriage, left the church, started a new career and rebounded into a 2nd marriage all around the age of 40. The 2nd marriage involved blending 2 families. That turned out to be very stressful with crisis after crisis. That marriage ended after 8 years, in 2018.
Back in 2017, Wendy started the Women Beyond Belief podcast and interviewed over 35 women. These women shared their harrowing stories of leaving religion. During that year, the #MeToo movement became mainstream. This created some difficult issues which Wendy found too challenging and stressful to deal with. Wendy tried to rebrand the podcast under the Just Us Women title but finally decided to end the podcast.
Wendy passed me the torch and I continue the tradition of creating space for women who have left religion to share their stories.
Today, Wendy is trying to find her way on her own as a single-income household with her youngest still at home. She is learning to find romance and fun again through online dating.
You can listen to many of the archive episodes of the Women Beyond Belief and Just Us Women podcasts. They are now under the umbrella title, Virtual Life Podcast.
https://virtuallifepodcast.com/
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Skylar Camp is an angry feminist who lives in Columbus, Ohio, with her two young kids, who describe themselves as her best friends. They have one cat and three nearly-dead plants. She writes creative non-fiction that mostly focuses on deconverting from Evangelical Christianity.
You can connect with Skylar on Instagram @skylarcampwrites.
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I know you've been clamoring for more of Jessica's beauty and badassery!
You're in luck!
Here's more of her story!
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Jessica grew up swimming in christian fundamentalism. Despite the christian education, life at home was hard -- raised by a single dad and an abusive bipolar manic depressive mother who was in and out of her life. A revolving door of blended families, domestic violence, sexual assault, neglect, and mental and emotional abuse were the norm.
The christian schools grounded her and offered structure and stability. She found an identity and safe space to find refuge from the instability at home. But it wasn’t enough. Jessica attempted suicide at the tender age of 10.
Life was extreme. Ample finances granted travel to over 20 countries, outdoor educational school for weeks at a time, and a christian fundamentalist camp every summer. To outsiders, life looked like rich privilege, but money and Jesus were tied up in family power in a bid for approval and acceptance.
In high school, Jessica became involved with a particular brand of Christianity focused on uncovering the Jewish identity of Jesus. This led her to 2 tours to Israel while still in high school, followed by a move to Israel for a year only 2 days after graduation. During her time in here she began a relationship with a Chabad Israeli Jew, which led to the discovery of her own sexuality.
Jessica’s experiences (both personal and humanitarian oriented) in Israel set in motion her deconversion from fundamentalism. By her sophomore year of college at Kent State University, Jessica no longer identified as christian.
Jessica transferred to Temple University in 2007 and met an Israeli Jew. He followed her back home due to family obligations. She married him, had a baby shortly thereafter and divorced by early 2011.
After completing a human rights program in Rwanda, she graduated in December 2011 with a Bachelors in Applied Conflict Management, a beautiful two year old greeting her off the stage.
During this time, each of her Christian friends fell off the face of the earth. She dated, continually reinventing herself and attempting to discover her true north all while raising her child as a single mom.
In 2013 Jessica met her current husband. They had a baby and married, but were soon beset by a myriad of serious undiagnosed health issues besieging Jessica. It was not until 2018 that Jessica had some answers for the conditions plaguing her: Dysautonomia, gastroparesis, Eosinophilic Esophagitis, arthritis, small fiber neuropathy, and other debilitating issues.
She currently resides in Ohio, with her husband and a 10 and 5 year old. She is happily atheist. A skeptic, realist, who is deeply uncomfortable with spirituality and religion, abhorring anyone and anything that discourages the asking of questions.
Jessica enjoys evidence-based medical and cosmic science, fantasy book series, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, piano, writing, gaming, animals, and dark humor. She is currently wading the intimidating waters of motherhood, marriage, medical professionals, and autonomy, striving to seek balance, while helping her children navigate life. And she does these things with while being chronically ill and preparing her funeral.
She sports a tattoo in Hebrew on her back, obtained after deconversion. Part of it says “Desire peace, and hunt it down” Psalm 34:14.
It’s a damn good conversation. You’ll be blown away by Jessica. She’s a brave, badass woman!
#findingfreedom #onestoryatatime #womenspeakup #womenspeakout #dysautonomia #eosinophilicesophagitis #
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Jessica grew up swimming in christian fundamentalism. Despite the christian education, life at home was hard -- raised by a single dad and an abusive bipolar manic depressive mother who was in and out of her life. A revolving door of blended families, domestic violence, sexual assault, neglect, and mental and emotional abuse were the norm.
The christian schools grounded her and offered structure and stability. She found an identity and safe space to find refuge from the instability at home. But it wasn’t enough. Jessica attempted suicide at the tender age of 10.
Life was extreme. Ample finances granted travel to over 20 countries, outdoor educational school for weeks at a time, and a christian fundamentalist camp every summer. To outsiders, life looked like rich privilege, but money and Jesus were tied up in family power in a bid for approval and acceptance.
In high school, Jessica became involved with a particular brand of Christianity focused on uncovering the Jewish identity of Jesus. This led her to 2 tours to Israel while still in high school, followed by a move to Israel for a year only 2 days after graduation. During her time in here she began a relationship with a Chabad Israeli Jew, which led to the discovery of her own sexuality.
Jessica’s experiences (both personal and humanitarian oriented) in Israel set in motion her deconversion from fundamentalism. By her sophomore year of college at Kent State University, Jessica no longer identified as christian.
Jessica transferred to Temple University in 2007 and met an Israeli Jew. He followed her back home due to family obligations. She married him, had a baby shortly thereafter and divorced by early 2011.
After completing a human rights program in Rwanda, she graduated in December 2011 with a Bachelors in Applied Conflict Management, a beautiful two year old greeting her off the stage.
During this time, each of her Christian friends fell off the face of the earth. She dated, continually reinventing herself and attempting to discover her true north all while raising her child as a single mom.
In 2013 Jessica met her current husband. They had a baby and married, but were soon beset by a myriad of serious undiagnosed health issues besieging Jessica. It was not until 2018 that Jessica had some answers for the conditions plaguing her: Dysautonomia, gastroparesis, Eosinophilic Esophagitis, arthritis, small fiber neuropathy, and other debilitating issues.
She currently resides in Ohio, with her husband and a 10 and 5 year old. She is happily atheist. A skeptic, realist, who is deeply uncomfortable with spirituality and religion, abhorring anyone and anything that discourages the asking of questions.
Jessica enjoys evidence-based medical and cosmic science, fantasy book series, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, piano, writing, gaming, animals, and dark humor. She is currently wading the intimidating waters of motherhood, marriage, medical professionals, and autonomy, striving to seek balance, while helping her children navigate life. And she does these things with while being chronically ill and preparing her funeral.
She sports a tattoo in Hebrew on her back, obtained after deconversion. Part of it says “Desire peace, and hunt it down” Psalm 34:14.
It’s a damn good conversation. You’ll be blown away by Jessica. She’s a brave, badass woman!
findingfreedom #onestoryatatime #womenspeakup #womenspeakout #dysautonomia #eosinophilicesophagitis #chronicillness #deconvert #emptythepews #exvangelical #psalm34:14
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Whew! It's been a hot minute since we've chatted.
Here's a brief update of what's been going on over the last few months recorded at a lovely riverside cabin in the Blue Ridge Mountains.
Interviews with badass women starting back up in the very near future.
You can get in touch with us on FB and Instagram @WomenBeyondFaith.
Or via email at WomenBeyondFaith@gmail.com.
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We welcome back Bethany, 26 years old, married mom of two, to the Women Beyond Faith podcast!
In this episode the conversation moves to pornography, marital relationships, working through tough stuff, isolation, misguided christian counsel, sex in marriage after receiving the Purity Culture narrative, pregnancy, parenting during deconversion, forgiveness, second chances, secular higher ed institutions, finding freedom, autonomy as women, and working hard to become the best version of oneself!
Bethany brings me to tears -- yet again. There's something so esoteric and mystical in speaking to someone of the 'next generation' who embodies such beauty and a wisdom beyond her years...
Young, fierce women like Bethany put forth a hope in humanity that I'm clinging on to!
“Hope is the Thing With Feathers”
-- Emily Dickinson:
Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul
And sings the tune without the words
And never stops at all.
Enjoy the conversation.
#braveassbeauty #womenspeakup #wewillnotbesilent #femalevoices #findingfreedom #onestoryatatime #motheranddaughter #outspokenandopinionated
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Former conservative homeschooled good girl turns into outspoken liberal feminist.
Bethany, 26 years old, is a married mom of two young boys. Currently enrolled in college with a 4.0 GPA, Bethany also loves painting, yoga, music, movies and reading.
After rejecting the faith she was raised in, she's now embracing the beauty within. Bethany has found a peace filled freedom this side of faith.
We talk Purity Culture, homeschooling, failing to fit in to the christian cultural norms, giving up on dreams, amazing homeschool mamas and more.
Enjoy the conversation.
#braveassbeauty #womenspeakup #wewillnotbesilent #femalevoices #findingfreedom #onestoryatatime #motheranddaughter #outspokenandopinionated
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Here's an opportunity to meet a few of the phenomenal women in my local circle; Kellie, Jillian & Dara. They briefly talk life under quarantine.
Prompts were provided to get the conversation started -- if they so chose.
We've attempted to keep it apolitical (for the most part). No bashing. No shaming. And do our best to rise above all of that negativity and offer some positive energy to the world.
Basically - we wanted to know how women are surviving the pandemic this side of faith?
If you, too, would like to participate here's the How To:
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Utilize a voice recorder. Apple has Voice Memo. You can use Zoom or any other recorder.
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Check the quality. Adjust as needed. You may have to change rooms or lock yourself in the closet or something creative like that. If you have a microphone, please use it.
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Email me the finished product womenbeyondfaith@gmail.com
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My producer will get them edited and then we'll put them out there to share with the world. The idea is we'll put a few clips together for each episode.
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Let me know if you have any questions, ideas or better questions to add to the list.
Here's what I've got (but feel free to ad lib) & no need to answer all of them. Please pick and choose.
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Brief Intro: Name (or pseudonym), where you live in this great big world, and the basics of your faith deconstruction story.
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What are you grateful for today?
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Who are you checking in on or connecting with today?
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What are you struggling with most during the pandemic?
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What are you doing for your mental health today?
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How are you getting outside today?
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How are you moving your body today?
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How are you managing the household today? Kiddos, partners, work, online schooling (kids or you)?
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What beauty are you creating, cultivating or inviting in today?
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How has leaving faith challenged and/or made easier living out this new day to day reality?
femalevoices #findingfreedom #onestoryatatime #lovewillholdustogether #womenbeyondfaith
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Meet Dana, a former missionary who took evangelicalism as far as she could. She grew up in a baptist church and family in California. Homeschooled for 6 years, she dedicated her youth to saving non-believers from the torment of “hell”. To prepare for full time ministry, she attended the New Tribes and Moody Bible Institutes and earned degrees in Biblical Studies and Linguistics.
Dana fully left Christianity shortly after her final mission trip in Thailand in 2010 after concluding that mission work is purely colonization. She began working to help fellow deconverts process their grief by hosting a support group in Chicago and by being outspoken about her experiences on social media and in an interview with the Chicago Tribune.
In 2016 she received her Masters degree in Special Education. She is a teacher and therapist to children with disabilities and is a political activist for abolitionist causes, including the abolition of misogyny from the view of intersectional feminism.
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Former fundie Proverbs 31 homeschool mama, Melissa, just graduated with a degree in Women's Studies. She has an expansive resume; author, childbirth educator, doula, belly dancer, mom to 5 and grandma to 8 (just to name a few).
Searching at the tender age of 17 for the best way to raise her baby, Melissa found church.
Today at 50, Melissa's unabashed ambition to be a life long learner and question everything led her in to uncharted territories. This perpetual hunger for knowledge and understanding brought her to a space where her christian faith no longer made sense.
We talk surviving the pandemic, regrets during our child rearing years, hypocrisy within the church, supposed friends rejecting us and much more.
In leaving Christianity behind, Melissa is experiencing newfound joy and freedom. Excited about the future, she's living her best life here in the Midwest with her hubby of 33 years by her side.
Enjoy Part 2 of her story.
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Former fundie Proverbs 31 homeschool mama, Melissa, graduates this May with a degree in Women's Studies. She has an expansive resume; author, childbirth educator, doula, belly dancer, mom to 5 and grandma to 8 (just to name a few).
Searching at the tender age of 17 for the best way to raise her baby, Melissa found church.
Today at 50, Melissa's unabashed ambition to be a life long learner and question everything led her in to uncharted territories. This perpetual hunger for knowledge and understanding brought her to a space where her christian faith no longer made sense.
We talk surviving the pandemic, regrets during our child rearing years, hypocrisy within the church, supposed friends rejecting us and much more.
In leaving Christianity behind, Melissa is experiencing newfound joy and freedom. Excited about the future, she's living her best life here in the Midwest with her hubby of 33 years by her side.
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So we've had a hard time knowing how to move forward with the WBF podcast during this time of crisis. We finally came up with what we believe to be is a not so terrible idea -- and -- we're hoping it helps in some way to keep us connected during this time of pandemic.
We invited people to offer a 5, 10 or even 15 minute update of what life is looking like at their house. Some daily quarantine prompts were provided to get the conversation started. And, we encouraged those with kiddos to try and get them involved, too.
We've attempted to keep it apolitical (for the most part). No bashing. No shaming. And do our best to rise above all of that negativity and offer some positive energy to the world.
Basically - we wanted to know how women are surviving the pandemic this side of faith?
If you, too, would like to participate here's the How To:
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Utilize a voice recorder. Apple has Voice Memo. You can use Zoom or any other recorder.
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Check the quality. Adjust as needed. You may have to change rooms or lock yourself in the closet or something creative like that. If you have a microphone, please use it.
-
Email me the finished product womenbeyondfaith@gmail.com
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My daughter will get them edited and then we'll put them out there to share with the world. The idea is we'll put a few clips together for each episode.
-
Let me know if you have any questions, ideas or better questions to add to the list.
Here's what I've got (but feel free to ad lib) & no need to answer all of them. Please pick and choose.
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Brief Intro: Name (or pseudonym), where you live in this great big world, and the basics of your faith deconstruction story.
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What are you grateful for today?
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Who are you checking in on or connecting with today?
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What are you struggling with most during the pandemic?
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What are you doing for your mental health today?
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How are you getting outside today?
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How are you moving your body today?
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How are you managing the household today? Kiddos, partners, work, online schooling (kids or you)?
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What beauty are you creating, cultivating or inviting in today?
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How has leaving faith challenged and/or made easier living out this new day to day reality?
femalevoices #findingfreedom #onestoryatatime #lovewillholdustogether #womenbeyondfaith
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She's back!!
Join us for more of April's Journey as we talk managing unequally yoked marriage, parenting this side of faith, adoption, her incredible mom and dad -- #heroes. I actually had the extreme privilege of asking April a few lively questions from the Proust Questionnaire.
If you didn't fall in love with April last episode, you're surely going to do so today.
Lace up those running shoes (or not), grab those headphones (or not), and pull up Meet April Part 2 on your favorite podcast app!
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April, maker of cult charts, was born in a suburb of Birmingham, Alabama. Raised in a Southern Baptist home, April took the teachings preached from the pulpit more seriously than did her parents. April believes the doctrine of Hell, was the primary catalyst of her nervous breakdown shortly after 9/11. April is married with 3 children.
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She's baaaaaack!!
Godless Mama -- our first guest in 2020 -- will titillate the senses! We talk trauma and therapy, LGBTQ advocacy, fighting on behalf of our kids, contentment, the 2020 election, and getting out the Vote.
"I'll be goddamned if this crappy world is the one that gets foisted on my kid and I will fight that battle on whatever fronts necessary."
Tracey in her own words -
"I believe that the only hope for humanity lies in the embrace of evidence-based thinking. Whether the subject is religion or science or politics or anything in between, an earnest desire to ascertain reality demands that we seek the best available evidence, acknowledge our biases, do our best to compensate for them, and be willing to adjust our worldview accordingly. This is necessary even (perhaps especially) when doing so is difficult - in other words, all the time.
Intellectual honesty is uncomfortable. Personal growth usually is too. It is easy to talk ourselves into believing that only others suffer the impairment of cognitive bias, or that we are otherwise exceptional and therefore exempt from the rules we expect others to follow. It feels good to be right and even better to be righteous, whereas admitting fallibility can be awkward, humiliating, or painful. But we must resist the siren song of comforting self-delusion and struggle, however clumsily, to reserve the highest standards for ourselves.
Moving beyond superstition and tribalism isn't just about the satisfaction of being right: It's about making the world a better place. It's about clearing away the excuses and the ignorance that too often get in the way of seeing our common humanity, and finding our way to a more ethical, more moral, more productive society. This is what I want for my child. It is what all children deserve. And so it starts with me."
You can find Tracey at:
m.me/GodlessMama
thegodlessmama@gmail.com
http://www.godlessmama.com
@TheGodlessMama
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Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/user?u=8739294)
"I'll be goddamned if this crappy world is the one that gets foisted on my kid and I will fight that battle on whatever fronts necessary."
Tracey in her own words -
"I believe that the only hope for humanity lies in the embrace of evidence-based thinking. Whether the subject is religion or science or politics or anything in between, an earnest desire to ascertain reality demands that we seek the best available evidence, acknowledge our biases, do our best to compensate for them, and be willing to adjust our worldview accordingly. This is necessary even (perhaps especially) when doing so is difficult - in other words, all the time.
Intellectual honesty is uncomfortable. Personal growth usually is too. It is easy to talk ourselves into believing that only others suffer the impairment of cognitive bias, or that we are otherwise exceptional and therefore exempt from the rules we expect others to follow. It feels good to be right and even better to be righteous, whereas admitting fallibility can be awkward, humiliating, or painful. But we must resist the siren song of comforting self-delusion and struggle, however clumsily, to reserve the highest standards for ourselves.
Moving beyond superstition and tribalism isn't just about the satisfaction of being right: It's about making the world a better place. It's about clearing away the excuses and the ignorance that too often get in the way of seeing our common humanity, and finding our way to a more ethical, more moral, more productive society. This is what I want for my child. It is what all children deserve. And so it starts with me."
You can find Tracey at:
m.me/GodlessMama
thegodlessmama@gmail.com
http://www.godlessmama.com
@TheGodlessMama
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And -- we're back with Bekah! You don't want to miss the second half of her story as Bekah continues to WOW and amaze with her maturity and badassery.
Sit back, get those feet up, grab a glass (or mug) of your favorite beverage and be prepared to be blown away by this awe-inspiring female apostate!
Bekah was shaped by many things, places and identities she would now categorize as "formerly." The last 3 years have been an intensive process of learning who she is currently. Labels aren't popular these days but they can be helpful to give you an expedient snapshot of someone. This is a short list of Bekah's former and current "labels."
She is formerly:
A Louisianian
a fundamentalist, charismatic christian
an executive assistant
a recreational nudist
a sexually repressed dater-of-men
a cake decorator
She is currently:
a resident of Asheville, North Carolina
an agnostic with atheist tendencies
a kickass massage therapist
A cult survivor with religious trauma
a sexual abuse survivor living with Complex PTSD
a lesbian in a long term, long distance relationship
Blog: RebekahHopes.wordpress.com
instagram: bekahhopes
email: bekah.hope@gmail.com
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Bekah was shaped by many things, places and identities she would now categorize as "formerly." The last 3 years have been an intensive process of learning who she is currently. Labels aren't popular these days but they can be helpful to give you an expedient snapshot of someone. This is a short list of Bekah's former and current "labels."
She is formerly:
A Louisianian
a fundamentalist, charismatic christian
an executive assistant
a recreational nudist
a sexually repressed dater-of-men
a cake decorator
She is currently:
a resident of Asheville, North Carolina
an agnostic with atheist tendencies
a kickass massage therapist
A cult survivor with religious trauma
a sexual abuse survivor living with Complex PTSD
a lesbian in a long term, long distance relationship
Blog: RebekahHopes.wordpress.com
instagram: bekahhopes
email: bekah.hope@gmail.com
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Bethany Angstadt grew up as a pastor's daughter and youth group superstar in suburban Ohio. Her conservative evangelical upbringing was shattered when she began to discover her queer identity in high school. After working through years of shame and fear, her coming out story doubles as her coming out of faith journey.
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Megan, a Canadian now living in New Zealand with her husband and young daughter, is no stranger to change. Having a strong faith, Megan fought hard to understand her Christian identity in a close-knit, non-religious family. But after having her daughter and reading a mountain of books that were supposed to strengthen her faith, it unraveled. She is now living abroad, picking up the pieces of her identity, and discovering freedom from dogmatic religion, freedom to be her fullest and truest self.
Here's a note from Megan regarding her Deconversion booklist referenced in the podcast:
Here are some of the books that I read while going through deconversion. Through these works, you can trace the unraveling of my faith, my growing understanding of the real world, and the building of a new spiritual awareness.
Why I Believed by Kenneth W Daniels
Jesus interrupted by Bart Ehrman
Finding God in the Waves by Mike McHargue
Sapiens Yuval Noah Hurari
Pale Blue Dot by Carl Sagan
God is not great by Christopher Hitchens
The Sacred Depths of Nature by Ursula Goodenough
When God is Gone, Everything is Holy by Chet Raymo
The Book on the Taboo Against Knowing Who You Are by Alan Watts
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Meet Emma -
Emma, our middle child, was born in to our uber religious family in 1998. She was always a compliant, easy to parent kid with an innocent wide-eyed demeanor. Emma trusted us absolutely as parents to lead her in the way she should go (Proverbs 22:6).
During Emma's senior year of high school, I finally felt the courage to share the god's honest truth with her -- no longer did I believe said god was REAL and the master over our destiny! This led Emma on her own journey of self-discovery. She started asking herself questions such as -- What do I now believe about the world? And, as a young woman, what is my place in it?
Today Emma finds herself a Senior at the University of Cincinnati studying Communications and Marketing. Emma's first love is traveling. This summer she taught English to kids in Eastern Europe. When not teaching, she and her friends explored much of Europe expanding their awareness of other cultures and world religions.
Emma is super excited to graduate from college, pack her backpack and start navigating her next grand adventure. You can find out more about Emma on her YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/user/emmacatherine09.
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Meet Catherine –
Catherine lives in SE England in a little town outside of Brighton. Catherine, born a bit of a free spirit, always had questions related to life and her place in it. She ran away from home at 17 and was immediately shunned by everyone within her Jehovah Witness community. In her mid-twenties Catherine found herself in an abusive relationship, hit a depressive stage and returned home repentant to her family and former JW Community. She was allowed back in to the fold and stayed in for another 10 years. During that decade, Catherine married and had 2 children. Her youngest child, at two years of age, was diagnosed with a brain tumor. JWs don’t believe in accepting blood transfusions. Catherine, removed from her JW circles as she spent 5-6 years in and out of hospitals, became conflicted and began to question the indoctrination she had received since she was a child.
Today Catherine is out and proud!
Join us for what is a fabulous heartfelt conversation between two mamas maneuvering the waters this side of faith.
You can find Catherine at Support for ex JW Women on FB or on Instagram @supportforexjwwomen.
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Andrea grew up attending non-denominational bible churches in Texas. She cannot remember a time when church was not an integral part of family life. Heavily entrenched in Awana, youth group and Campus Crusade, Andrea became increasingly passionate about young earth creationism and faith. Andrea always considered herself one of those critically thinking churched science kids. College spring breaks were spent evangelizing other college kids. However, those critical thinking skills eventually got the better of her. Andrea worked her way out of the faith the end of her senior year of college, moved to NYC to be among fellow heathens, and, ten years later, she’s still there living her best life.
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A tough conversation with my son. Some self reflection. And talking it out with all y'all.
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A casual conversation with my youngest --
Julia and I sat down to chitchat about her perspective growing up in our home -- in faith, the transition out of faith and, subsequently, life on the other side.
A beautiful, free-spirited artsy young woman, Julia shares the trials and successes of being parented by a couple deconstructing their faith.
Julia will be a freshman in college this year. Her dream job is traveling the world as she works as the PR person for a successful corporation. Julia enjoys singing, songwriting, a good movie and -- most of all -- socializing with friends.
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Danielle was born and raised in Cincinnati, Ohio by two conservative-leaning, Atheist parents. Since adolescence, Danielle’s values and beliefs have evolved in some dramatic and unexpected ways. She has gone from vehemently pro-life to passionately pro-choice, has slid from the far right end of the political spectrum to the left, and has grown from a staunch, black-and-white thinker to a Humanist with a great appreciation for nuance. Her devout heathenism has been her only constant.
Danielle is a bookish busy-body with a dizzying swath of interests and hobbies. When she is not cultivating young minds as a Montessori teacher, she can be found plugging away at the latest novel she hopes to get published, or protesting on the streets for one of the many causes she cares about. Danielle lives with her boyfriend Curtis and their two cats, Mysty and Prattle, all of whom will be relocating with her to Louisville later this summer, where she’ll be starting a new teaching gig. Danielle will eat any vegan cuisine put in front of her, and is always on the search for the best craft beer.
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Gabi Maylock is a young, 20-somethings Millennial who recently moved to New Hampshire to be a part of the Free State Project (https://www.fsp.org/). Gabi moved after finishing her Masters in Education at Ohio University. Her graduate academic work focused on alternative educational philosophies including unschooling and self-direct learning. She studied Communication and Business-Marketing at the University of Pittsburgh as an undergraduate student.
Gabi is originally from a small town in Pennsylvania called Spring Mills (near State College, PA). Born-and-raised Catholic, these days she is open to learning about different religious systems. And, If she had to choose, she'd most likely identify as agnostic. In her free time, she likes to hike, practice yoga and philosophize.
Listeners can get in touch with Gabi via instagram: gabi.maylock
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Magen was born in Norfolk, Virginia to a Southern Baptist family. Throughout her formative years, she moved up and down the east coast due to her father’s job in the Navy.
While a senior year of high school, Magen committed to Jerry Fallwell's Liberty University in Lynchburg, Virginia. While at Liberty, Magen was exposed to persons from contrasting christian denominations. This greatly disturbed her confidence in christianity's assurance that it owned the market on truth.
Magen's time at Liberty was short lived. She dropped out after her freshman year and settled down with a boyfriend in Cincinnati, Ohio.
Today Magen is a stay-at-home mom to 4-year-old daughter, Aribelle. When not actively ‘momming’ you may find her reading daemon romance novels or Hector Garcia's Alpha God. She also enjoys the God Awful Movie Podcast and trekking off to the Philippines every now again.
I'm convinced you're going to fancy Magen -- she's moderately infectious.
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Today we’re back with Marie – Join me as we dive a bit deeper into Marie’s adventure of becoming her best self – Putting herself out into the world. Challenging societal norms. Taking risks. Investing in Self reflection. Placing herself into spaces where there are opportunities to Fall in love. Again.
Marie likes the way she is showing up in the world. She applauds her authenticity. She admires herself. I concur. She’s pretty fabulous.
Born and raised in a Lutheran household until Junior High when Baptist General Conference became the faith persuasion, Marie was a neurotic, anxious kid with incredibly low self esteem.
Turbulent years between the ages of 13 and her mid 20s consisted of periods of profound doubt coupled with overcompensating evangelical behaviors.
Purity Culture. Missions at 17. YWAM. Therapy. Bravery. Divorce. Deconversion. Freedom. Keith. Ethical Nonmonogamy.
Today Marie is in her late 30s exploring ethical nonmonogamy, podcasting (Marie is the popular new cohost of the popular Everyone's Agnostic with Cass Midgley), and remediating her education.
Her passion and zeal for life is contagious.
You can find out more about Marie by listening to her conversation with Dr Darrel Ray - From Missionary to Poly:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/085-from-missionary-to-poly/id914276437?i=1000394071507
Or Marie's conversation with Cass & Bob on Episode #108 of Everyone's Agnostic
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/everyones-agnostic-podcast/id894460873?i=1000372976319
Lastly - Marie's follow-up interview with Cass on Episode #180 of Everyone's Agnostic which focuses on her Ethical Nonmonogamy
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/everyones-agnostic-podcast/id894460873?i=1000396864538
If you're interested in reaching out to Marie you can contact her via email at everyonesagnostic@gmail.com.
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Born and raised in a Lutheran household until Junior High when Baptist General Conference became the faith persuasion, Marie was a neurotic, anxious kid with incredibly low self esteem.
Turbulent years between the ages of 13 and her mid 20s consisted of periods of profound doubt coupled with overcompensating evangelical behaviors.
Purity Culture. Missions at 17. YWAM. Therapy. Bravery. Divorce. Deconversion. Freedom. Keith. Ethical Nonmonogamy.
Today Marie is in her late 30s exploring ethical nonmonogamy, podcasting (Marie is the popular new cohost of the popular Everyone's Agnostic with Cass Midgley), and remediating her education.
Her passion and zeal for life is contagious.
You can find out more about Marie by listening to her conversation with Dr Darrel Ray - From Missionary to Poly:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/085-from-missionary-to-poly/id914276437?i=1000394071507
Or Marie's conversation with Cass & Bob on Episode #108 of Everyone's Agnostic
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/everyones-agnostic-podcast/id894460873?i=1000372976319
Lastly - Marie's follow-up interview with Cass on Episode #180 of Everyone's Agnostic which focuses on her Ethical Nonmonogamy
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/everyones-agnostic-podcast/id894460873?i=1000396864538
If you're interested in reaching out to Marie you can contact her via email at everyonesagnostic@gmail.com.
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Welcome back to Annette’s story – In this episode you’ll find Annette back in school, maneuvering the extended family conversation and relationships – the living of the life together this side of faith. We also touch on friendship evangelism and trusting your instincts. Annette stresses the importance of finding community and setting boundaries. She and her husband, Justin along with their young son, have settled in to a space of loveliness.
Annette Beitzel is a 29 year old Accounting student. She married young -- at the age of 20-- like many fundy christians do. Today Annette and her hubby live in Michigan with their adorable, delightful nearly 2 year old son.
Annette grew up in a fundamentalist conservative Mennonite community in rural Kansas. While there were always matters of theology and biblical teaching that didn't square, her faith didn't start to fall apart until she and her hubby moved away from the Mennonite community to Grand Rapids, MI for school.
Today Annette finds herself a proud humanist atheist. She finds joy in raising her kid with gentleness and respect while modeling kindness and critical thinking. She is working hard to break the dysfunctional cycle of fundamentalist parenting!
If you're interested in touching base with Annette, you can find her on FB at Annette Beitzel.
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Annette Beitzel is a 29 year old Accounting student. She married young -- at the age of 20-- like many fundy christians do. Today Annette and her hubby live in Michigan with their adorable, delightful nearly 2 year old son.
Annette grew up in a fundamentalist conservative Mennonite community in rural Kansas. While there were always matters of theology and biblical teaching that didn't square, her faith didn't start to fall apart until she and her hubby moved away from the Mennonite community to Grand Rapids, MI for school.
Today Annette finds herself a proud humanist atheist. She finds joy in raising her kid with gentleness and respect while modeling kindness and critical thinking. She is working hard to break the dysfunctional cycle of fundamentalist parenting!
If you're interested in touching base with Annette, you can send me an email at womenbeyondfaith@gmail.com and I will connect you.
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Angie Jay spent her formative years learning how to best live the life of a devout christian girl. During these years, while a young teen, Angie Jay believed god was calling her to live out her christian calling as a missionary.
At 18, during her first week at the missionary training center, Angie Jay was forced to face the hellish abusive encounters of her past. Alone and vulnerable, Angie Jay experienced further abuse at the hands of the mission training center leaders.
Part 2 -- the rest of the story -- you will find hope, inspiration and encouragement -- this is the tale of yet another strong, brave ass beauty -- healing and overcoming the pain and abuse of her past -- offering strength, love and forgiveness to the world.
Watch out world! Angie Jay has found her voice!! You can find Angie Jay on FB as Angie Jay or Devoutly Human and on Twitter @AngieJayhuman!
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Angie Jay spent her formative years learning how to best live the life of a devout christian girl. During these years, while a young teen, Angie Jay believed god was calling her to live out her christian calling as a missionary.
At 18, during her first week at the missionary training center, Angie Jay was forced to face the hellish abusive encounters of her past. Alone and vulnerable, Angie Jay experienced further abuse at the hands of the mission training center leaders.
Join us for Part 1 of Angie Jay's story, as she lays out the trauma, anguish and injustice of her developmental years. And, stay tuned for Part 2 where you'll get to hear the rest of Angie Jay's story -- it's the tale of a strong, brave ass beauty -- healing and overcoming the pain and abuse from her past -- offering strength and hope to the rest of us.
Watch out world! Angie Jay has found her voice!! You can find Angie Jay on FB as Angie Jay!
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Elisa grew up in a large catholic latino family. Tough family situations led to her becoming a run away in her teens. Alone at 17, Elisa walked into a store front fundamentalist church where she became radically “saved”.
Today, in her late 40s, married with 2 children, Elisa is learning to maneuver the waters on the other side of faith.
You can find Elisa at “The Godless Goddess” on FB and Instagram.
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Sarah is a nurse from Texas. She is married to an engineer who considers himself a man of science. Sarah and her husband have been struggling through the trials of infertility for years. Today, I can proudly announce that Sarah and her husband welcomed their first child, a son, in late 2018. Needless to say, they are over the moon!!
Join me as Sarah shares her story -- in the faith and struggling through the faith crises that eventually led her out.
https://circlebloom.com -- Free Fertility Meditation Program
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Taboo Topics is a website (tabootopics.com), YouTube channel (YouTube.com/tabootopics), and community.
Nicole Anderson created these digital venues with the intent of bringing people together to discuss hard issues -- the topics that usually aren’t talked about in polite society.
Nicole grew up in a loving, secular family. Her first taste of religion came about at the age of 12 with friends following a discussion of evolution in science class. Nicole became a believer shortly there after and remained so until the age of 22. At that time she dove into some in depth research regarding christianity and what it was she believed to be true. Her faith swiftly unraveled.
Nicole, through her aforementioned social media presence, is bringing the difficult conversations to the surface.
I am excited to introduce to you a young woman who has found her voice and is using it to change the world -- one video, one blog, one post -- at a time.
Enjoy the conversation!
You can find Nicole at:
https://tabootopics.com/index.php/about-taboo-topics/reason-why-life-meaningless-happiness/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgrkLBaWvPG0-yPo1g71Q9A
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https://www.facebook.com/nicolestabootopics/
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Heidi was born in Georgia. She lived there until she moved to Knoxville to go to Bible College.
Knoxville has always felt like her home away from home. It is here that she identified her true self and found the love of her life.
Heidi's faith began to fall apart when faced with having to decide whether or not to let people in on what she had been trying to hide for years -- Heidi is gay! Having been raised in fundamentalism and attending Bible College, this was unsettling for some of her family and friends.
And yet -- leaving the Christian faith behind and thriving as her true self has been the greatest trip of Heidi's life!
You're going to enjoy Heidi -- her love and zeal for life are infectious!
Heidi writes and performs. Here's the link to Heidi's youtube channel and her original song, Bloom --
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkO4Yk0vLoykv4RdJnlIfpg
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ajjFL1Sz_qQ
You can also find Heidi on Facebook @heidigilsonmusic
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Cassandra is a 34 year old secular humanist and atheist. Growing up in her conservative military household, she was constantly uprooted. While the family was stationed in the Bible Belt during her teenage years, religion became the driving force of her life. During this time, she became entrenched in fundamentalist Baptist schooling and developed close relationships with church youth leaders. Upon graduation from high school, Cassandra headed off to bible college.
Cassandra, like most young christian women, desired to marry and start a family. She married a fellow student her Junior year of college. She and her husband became leaders in their church.
After seven years of marriage, wrestling with infertility and suffering in an abusive relationship, Cassandra chose to leave both her husband and the church.
Today, Cassandra, remarried, works as a child advocate for a non profit. She and her husband enjoy camping and hiking in the beautiful Southern Appalachian mountains where they live.
Join Women Beyond Faith as we provide a platform for Cassandra to speak up, speak out and share her story.
If you'd like to get in touch with Cassandra, you can email me at womenbeyondfaith@gmail.com.
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Meet Leah Janet! Your host for the relaunch of the Women Beyond Faith Podcast!
For women who have walked away from the faith, the challenges can be paralyzing.
Trying to find a sense of identity is tough once you've realized you've been indoctrinated by patriarchal religion.
After years of submitting to men, obeying scripture and following rules, women who leave religion need to know that there are others who will listen to our stories – we need to recognize that our voices absolutely matter.
Each narrative we contribute has the potential to impact society-- one account at a time.
We are Women Beyond Faith -- speaking up, sharing stories, appropriating our voices, rediscovering -- or finding for the first time -- our agency .
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