Lessons from a Quitter: Recent Episodes
Goli Kalkhoran
It is never too late to start over. No matter how much time or money you’ve spent chasing degrees and jobs to get to your current position, if ultimately you’re unhappy, then it is time to quit. Each week, Goli Kalkhoran, a fellow quitter, will interview inspiring guests who have quit lucrative careers to forge their own path and create a life they love. Get insight, inspiration, tools, and resources to help you quit what you hate and figure out what it is that you love.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we dive into the powerful mindset shifts needed to stop letting other people’s opinions run your life. If you’ve ever held back from taking a risk—whether it’s posting online, taking a gap year, or quitting your job—because you’re afraid of being judged, this episode is for you. I walk you through how to build the confidence to own your decisions, sit with discomfort, and trust yourself more than the noise around you. You only get one life—don’t let other people’s fears dictate how you live it. Let’s take it back.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, I share the powerful mindset shifts I experienced during a recent trip to Iran. From confronting my addiction to productivity to witnessing the deep-rooted value of community, the trip forced me to slow down and rethink how I want to live. I talk about embracing the 50/50 nature of life—how even beautiful moments come with discomfort—and how letting go of perfection allows for richer experiences. If you’ve been craving more connection, rest, and presence in your life, this episode is a gentle push to start redefining what success truly looks like.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we explore our cultural obsession with productivity and why so many of us struggle to truly rest. I share personal reflections from a recent trip abroad that challenged my deeply ingrained beliefs about busyness, urgency, and worth. We dive into how capitalism and hustle culture have programmed us to equate rest with laziness—and how to begin unlearning that. If you're feeling burnt out, this episode will help you reframe rest not as something to earn, but as something essential. Plus, I share practical steps to help you reclaim rest without guilt.
In this powerful episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we dive deep into the often-overlooked grief that comes with career transitions. Joined by grief coach Laverne McKinnon, we explore how letting go of an old identity—especially one built around achievement and people-pleasing—can feel like a profound loss. We discuss how grief shows up in unexpected ways, why it’s a necessary part of transformation, and how embracing it can lead you back to your most authentic self. If you’re navigating burnout, a layoff, or a career pivot, this episode will help you understand the emotional side of reinvention.
You can find Laverne at: Substack: https://moonshotmentor.substack.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lavernem/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWBuL2OWgglO_YHyFdJOGpg
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, I share how I’m redesigning my life in small, intentional steps—even when I can’t have the “big dream” just yet. From summering in Jackson Hole to planning a trip to Banff, I talk about how we can live pieces of our dream now, instead of waiting for perfect circumstances. I challenge you to rethink your all-or-nothing mindset and explore how micro steps can create massive change. If you’re feeling stuck or burnt out, this episode will help you shift from scarcity to possibility and start building a life you’re actually excited about.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we explore the real secret to making lasting life and career changes: micro decisions. While we often believe massive change requires dramatic, sweeping action, this episode breaks down how real transformation happens through small, intentional steps. I also announce that doors are now open—for the final time—to the Quitter Club, my membership program closing at the end of 2025. If you’ve been waiting to get coaching and strategy support, this is your chance. Tune in to learn how small steps build self-trust, reduce overwhelm, and ultimately redesign a life you love.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we dive into the myth of "not being ready" and how it’s keeping you stuck in a life you no longer love. We explore the neuroscience behind fear, the brain’s obsession with safety over happiness, and how imposter syndrome reinforces your doubts—even when you've proven yourself. You'll learn why confidence isn't a prerequisite to change, but a result of courageous action. If you're waiting to feel ready before making a move, this episode will show you why that feeling may never come—and why that's okay. It's time to choose courage over comfort.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, I share the behind-the-scenes decision to close the Quitter Club after three incredible years. I dive into the real reasons—burnout, overcomplication, and misalignment with the lifestyle business I truly want. You'll hear how I’ve navigated pressure to scale, reconnected with my "why," and chosen creativity and simplicity over constant growth. If you’re feeling stuck in a business or career that no longer fits, this episode is your reminder that you’re allowed to pivot, evolve, and design a life that actually works for you. Let’s talk about choosing fulfillment over hustle.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we explore the liberating idea: What if you couldn’t make the wrong decision? So many professionals stay stuck, paralyzed by fear of regret and perfectionism. But what if every choice—whether it works out or not—is just part of the journey to becoming who you're meant to be? We dig into the truth that experience, not perfection, builds resilience and clarity. You’ll learn how indecision is often more damaging than “wrong” decisions, and how to trust yourself to take action—even when the path ahead is uncertain. It's time to redefine what it means to choose.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we dive into a powerful mindset shift: what if there’s nothing wrong with the way you are? So many of us waste energy trying to force ourselves to be different—morning people, quick decision-makers, productivity machines—because society told us we should. But what if your brain is wired exactly as it needs to be? I explore how self-acceptance, rather than self-judgment, is the real key to designing a life you love. You’ll walk away with practical insight into working with yourself—not against yourself—to create more ease and fulfillment.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we explore the often-overlooked key to fulfillment: play. If you’re feeling stuck, bored, or unfulfilled in your career, the answer might not be to change your job—but to bring more joy into your life outside of it. I share my journey of rediscovering hobbies and creativity, and how that opened up new possibilities and happiness I never expected. This episode is your reminder that you don’t need a passion or a plan—just curiosity, permission to play, and a little time for yourself. Start small, and watch how everything else begins to shift.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we explore how AI, specifically ChatGPT, can revolutionize your career change, job search, and professional development. While addressing common concerns about AI’s environmental impact, we also highlight the nuanced reality of technology’s role in our lives. More importantly, we dive into practical ways AI can help you discover new career paths, refine your job search, and even network strategically. If you’re feeling stuck and unsure of your next move, this episode will show you how AI can be your brainstorming partner, clarity tool, and career coach in navigating your transition.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we revisit goal-setting—because let’s be honest, by March, most of us have forgotten those ambitious January resolutions. But instead of shame, this episode is about course correction. Whether you’ve made progress or fallen off track, now is the perfect time to reflect, reset, and create a 90-day plan to move forward. You'll learn why goals aren’t about perfection but growth, how to overcome all-or-nothing thinking, and why consistency—not motivation—is key. Tune in for practical strategies to recommit to your goals and make real progress in Q2!
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we dive into the power of community—why we crave it, why it’s messy, and why it’s worth it. We often expect connection to come easily, but true community requires effort, vulnerability, and a willingness to navigate discomfort. I break down the unrealistic expectations we place on relationships, how managing our mindset can help us avoid unnecessary resentment, and why showing up fully leads to deeper, more fulfilling connections. If you’ve been feeling lonely or disconnected, this episode will challenge you to rethink how you engage with the communities around you.
In this replay of the milestone 200th episode of Lessons from a Quitter, I reflect on the journey of shifting my mindset, embracing self-compassion, and redefining success on my own terms. I share how I overcame limiting beliefs about productivity, scheduling, and my own capabilities—learning to work with my brain instead of against it. From battling resentment to reclaiming control over my time, this episode is all about questioning the narratives we tell ourselves and choosing thoughts that serve us. Plus, I invite you to take the next step in your career transformation by joining the Quitter Club!
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we dive deep into the trap of achievement and why it never leads to true self-worth. Many of us believe that once we reach the next milestone—whether it’s the degree, the promotion, or the perfect work-life balance—we’ll finally feel good enough. But the truth is, our thoughts, not our accomplishments, shape our self-worth. I break down how to shift from external validation to self-love, why self-acceptance is key, and how embracing your humanity can free you from burnout and perfectionism. Start loving yourself now—no achievement required.
In this episode of Lessons From A Quitter, we dive deep into the identity crisis that keeps so many professionals stuck in unfulfilling careers. We unpack how our sense of self becomes entangled with our job titles and why the fear of what others think can keep us trapped. I challenge you to redefine who you are beyond your profession and explore what truly makes you, you. If you’re ready to break free from these limiting beliefs and create a career and life you love, join us in the Quitter Club. Your worth isn’t your job—it’s who you are.
In the latest episode of Lessons From A Quitter, we dive deep into the importance of community for overcoming burnout and isolation and share personal experiences of finding strength in group coaching and highlight how connecting with others facing similar challenges can normalize struggles and reduce shame. Emphasizing the transformative power of shared vulnerability. I encourage listeners to actively seek supportive communities, whether online or in-person, and to engage fully in them. The message is clear: building connections with like-minded people is key to overcoming obstacles, finding courage, and ultimately redesigning a life you love.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we tackle the overwhelming flood of information that keeps so many of us feeling stuck, burnt out, and powerless. I share the powerful mindset framework I teach my clients to help regain control, quiet the noise, and stay grounded in an era of digital overload. We explore how our brains are wired to seek novelty and negativity, making it easy to spiral. But the good news? You can take back control. Learn how to shift your mindset, protect your energy, and break free from the cycle of overwhelm.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we tackle the hidden thought that’s keeping you stuck: What if this doesn’t work, and I waste my time? Too many of us are paralyzed by the need for a guarantee before we take action—whether it’s starting a business, changing careers, or even picking up a new hobby. But what if failure isn’t wasted time, but instead, the very thing that leads you to success? We break down how shifting your mindset around risk, failure, and growth can help you stop waiting for certainty and start building the life you truly want.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we explore the powerful lessons learned from overcoming fear, self-doubt, and perfectionism while pursuing your dreams. Reflecting on my own journey, I share the pivotal moment I stopped obsessing over starting my podcast and just took action, leading to a thriving business. I also emphasize that it’s never too late to start, regardless of external factors like competition or timing. I encourage my listeners to embrace progress over perfection, celebrate their growth, and take imperfect action to move forward. Whether you’re stuck or burnt out, this episode inspires you to create a life you love.
In this episode of Lessons From A Quitter, we tackle the deep-rooted expectations and "shoulds" that often keep us stuck in careers that no longer serve us. Joined by Nicole Kalil, we explore how to identify and meet your own needs, break free from societal delusions, and embrace a mindset shift for more freedom and joy. We discuss the reality of careers—no dream job is perfect—and the power of small, intentional steps toward rediscovery. Nicole shares practical tools, including her confidence-building workbook, to help you rewrite the rules and create a fulfilling life on your own terms.
In the latest episode of Lessons From A Quitter, we tackle the pervasive fear of failure and how it holds us back from pursuing our dreams. Whether it’s launching a business, starting a creative project, or switching careers, fear often paralyzes us with thoughts of embarrassment or shame. This episode reframes failure as a natural and essential part of growth, urging listeners to question the worst-case scenario and confront the limiting beliefs behind their fear. You’ll leave empowered with actionable insights to embrace failure as a learning tool, freeing you to take bold steps toward the life you desire.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, I share my 2024 year-in-review, reflecting on a season of rest, reevaluation, and recalibration. After scaling back my business to focus on two key launches, I explored what truly works for my clients and aligned my business with my own values and needs. While my income dropped, I leaned out expenses, prioritized family, health, and clarity, and discovered the power of trusting myself through life's seasons. I discuss lessons on embracing change, defining success on your own terms, and creating a career that aligns with your life. Join me for inspiration and growth!
Victoria Albina (she/her) is a Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women reconnect with their bodies and minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people-pleasing and reclaim their joy.
She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, is trained in Somatic Experiencing, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Victoria has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives on occupied Munsee Lenape territory in New York.
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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we conclude our series on goal-setting by tackling the often-overlooked yet critical step: what to do after setting your goal. I share actionable tips to break your goal into manageable steps, focus on short-term milestones, and embrace the inevitable challenges along the way. You'll learn why expecting inconsistency is key, how to avoid all-or-nothing thinking, and the importance of weekly evaluations to adapt and improve. If you're ready to build momentum and finally achieve your goals, this episode will provide the tools and mindset shifts you need to succeed.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we explore the deeper purpose of goal-setting and how it transforms not just your life but those around you. It's not about checking boxes or achieving arbitrary milestones—it's about the ripple effects your growth creates. From setting an example for your family to overcoming fears of judgment, your goals help you become the person you aspire to be. We discuss why embracing challenges is essential for meaningful change and how to choose goals that align with your future self. Join us to redefine success and build a life you truly love.
This week on Lessons from a Quitter, we continue our three-part miniseries on redefining goal setting. We break down the pitfalls of traditional approaches to goals and advocate for focusing on just one priority per year. Learn how this strategy builds self-trust, minimizes overwhelm, and creates lasting habits. Whether you're juggling personal and professional ambitions or battling self-doubt, this episode will inspire you to set meaningful goals without sacrificing your well-being. Plus, hear more about the upcoming “Goals That Stick” workshop, a full-day event designed to help you master goal-setting for sustainable success.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we kick off a series on goal setting with a refreshing and practical perspective. As the year winds down, many feel pressure to set goals or New Year’s resolutions, often leading to burnout or shame spirals when life inevitably gets in the way. We explore the common misconceptions about goal setting, like tying self-worth to achievements or pursuing goals we don’t truly want. Instead, I emphasize the power of intentional decision-making, accepting inconsistency, and reframing challenges as expected parts of growth. Tune in to rethink your approach and design a life aligned with your true values.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we dive into how to handle conversations about your dreams with loved ones who may not fully understand or support them. Often, we seek validation from family and friends, hoping they’ll give us the green light. But instead, we discuss how to set clear boundaries, identify what you really need from these conversations, and gain the courage to pursue your goals without waiting for others’ approval. Plus, I share a personal story on launching this very podcast, showing the impact of standing by your dreams even when others can't see your vision.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we tackle the overwhelming weight of the world and explore how to manage it without burning out. I discuss the importance of shifting our perspective on progress, finding empowerment in small, meaningful actions, and accepting that no one can "save the world" alone. Instead, I share ways to focus on what you can control, build a supportive community, and set realistic boundaries to protect your mental health. Join me as we redefine success—not through perfection or endless productivity, but through sustainable change and resilience in both life and career.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we tackle the feeling of being "stuck." So many of us feel paralyzed in jobs, relationships, or situations that no longer serve us, leaving us unsure of the path forward. Through some tough love, I guide listeners to understand that feeling "stuck" often stems from fearing the difficult choices ahead, not a lack of options. Together, we’ll explore reframing this mindset, identifying actionable steps, and the importance of making intentional decisions. By the end, you’ll have a framework to get "unstuck" and make choices that align with the life you truly want.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we dive into the root causes of procrastination, especially when facing tasks that trigger boredom, frustration, or fear of failure. By recognizing the emotions behind avoidance, you can either push through the discomfort or change your mindset around the task. The episode offers practical strategies for managing your brain’s desire for dopamine, creating realistic breaks, and avoiding burnout. Whether you’re procrastinating at work or avoiding steps toward building your dream business, this episode helps you take control and find balance in your career and life redesign journey.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we dive into the importance of experimenting and embracing curiosity when searching for your passion. Instead of forcing yourself into finding immediate fulfillment at work, allow yourself time to explore different interests and hobbies. Passions take time to develop, and it's okay if they don't align with your job. Your career can be the investor in your life, funding the pursuits that light you up outside of work. We’ll explore how letting go of pressure, creating boundaries, and being open to trying new things can help you rediscover joy and purpose.
In this episode of Lessons From a Quitter, we dive deep into the power of managing anxiety and negative emotions as you navigate career transitions and life’s uncertainties. Often, we focus on trying to control the uncontrollable—whether it's landing the perfect job, avoiding disappointment, or sidestepping failure. But real growth lies in accepting that negative emotions will come, and learning how to process them. This episode teaches you to embrace emotional resilience, drop the fear of discomfort, and find empowerment in knowing you can handle whatever comes your way. Ready to take back control? Let’s get started!
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we chat with the incredible Latina entrepreneur behind the Yo Quiero Dineropodcast and the newly published author of Financially Lit. We explore her journey from food blogger to financial educator, diving into how she used her paycheck as an “angel investor” to build her future. She shares valuable insights about breaking cultural stereotypes, overcoming fear, and taking up space as a Latina in the personal finance world. This episode is packed with actionable tips for those looking to pivot their careers, start a business, or redefine their identity and passions.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we dive into how to embrace being multi-passionate without feeling overwhelmed. You’ll learn that life is long, and there’s no need to rush to do everything at once. We explore the importance of choosing one thing to focus on now while allowing space for other passions later. It’s not about finding the “right” decision, but the next thing you want to explore. By reframing how you think about time, passion, and decision-making, you can create a career and life that align with your evolving interests.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we dive into how perfectionism and unrealistic expectations fuel burnout and overwhelm. We discuss the importance of auditing your responsibilities, identifying what season of life you’re in, and prioritizing accordingly. You’ll learn how to eliminate unnecessary tasks, delegate more effectively, and embrace "good enough" without guilt. Whether it's your career, family, or personal health, it's crucial to focus on what truly matters and let go of the rest. Join us as we explore how these mindset shifts can help you reclaim your time, energy, and joy in life.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we dive into the process of navigating career transitions without the pressure of needing to know the "perfect" next step. We explore the three stages of quitting: burnout recovery, stopping people-pleasing, and embracing your true desires. Whether you’re thinking of quitting to pursue a passion or rediscovering joy in your current role, we break down how to set short-term goals, avoid panic, and create space for exploration. Join us as we discuss how to quit burnout, stop playing small, and thrive by redesigning a career and life you truly love. Also, doors are opening for Quitter Club on Sept 10th! You don't want to miss out! Listen now for more info!
In this episode of Lessons From A Quitter, the focus is on taking full responsibility for your life, especially when feeling stuck in your career. I discuss the importance of recognizing that, despite external challenges, you have more control over your circumstances than you might think. The episode encourages listeners to shift from a passive mindset to actively choosing their paths, whether that means staying in their current job with intention or making a plan to leave. The discussion highlights the power of choice and the necessity of taking actionable steps to create a life you truly want.
In the latest episode of "Lessons from a Quitter," I explore how traditional career paths can lead to burnout and dissatisfaction. Emphasizing the importance of questioning conventional advice, I advocate for a proactive career design by identifying and leveraging unique personal strengths. The discussion highlights how breaking away from standard expectations and creating value in innovative ways can enhance career satisfaction and advancement. I also encourage listeners to look beyond the usual grind, consider alternative career paths, and take control of their professional futures. For those seeking further guidance, I introduces resources available through the Quitter Club.
In the latest episode of Lessons from a Quitter, I tackle the question, "Can you change your career in your thirties?" We delve into the mindset shifts necessary to embrace career change at any age, debunking the myth that starting over is too risky or difficult. I encourage you to recognize the programming that has instilled fear around change and to reframe your thinking towards viewing multiple career transitions as signs of growth and innovation. I also emphasize that it’s never too late to pursue a fulfilling career and offer actionable steps for making a strategic career pivot.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, I reflect on what I'd do differently if I were to quit my job as a lawyer today, with the wisdom I've gained over the years. I break down four key steps: overcoming guilt and shame, making a financial plan, giving myself time to explore, and taking decisive action. By sharing my journey and actionable advice, I aim to help you avoid the pitfalls I faced, encouraging you to take bold steps toward your dream careers.
In this episode of "Lessons From A Quitter," we tackle the daunting task of learning to love your job, even when you don't like it. I share four practical tips to shift your mindset and improve your work life. I also emphasize finding aspects of the job you appreciate, understanding the balance of good and bad in any role, distinguishing between short-term and long-term goals, and recognizing the different seasons of life. This episode is packed with actionable advice to help you manage your current situation while planning for a fulfilling future.
In the latest episode of "Lessons From A Quitter," the focus is on the power of long-term planning and gradual change. I emphasize that significant life transformations, such as career shifts or personal development, can realistically be achieved within five years rather than in a rush. Drawing from personal experience, I highlight the importance of overcoming all-or-nothing thinking and leveraging the compound effect of small, consistent actions. Also, I encourage listeners to create five-year plans, break down their dreams into manageable steps, and allow time for growth and adaptation, ultimately leading to sustainable success and fulfillment.
Welcome to the latest episode of Lessons from a Quitter. This week, we dive into the concept that life is always a mix of good and bad emotions, often referred to as "50/50." We discuss how the societal belief in achieving ultimate happiness through external successes leads to perpetual dissatisfaction and the harmful pursuit of fleeting pleasures. By embracing the natural ebb and flow of emotions, we can liberate ourselves from unrealistic expectations and focus on genuine personal growth. Tune in to learn why managing your mindset is crucial for fulfillment and how accepting life's duality can lead to a more balanced, content existence.
In the latest episode of "Lessons from a Quitter," the focus is on overcoming the fear of not being ready to pursue new projects or dreams. I emphasize that the feeling of readiness is often an illusion, driven by fear and the desire for perfection. I encourage listeners to take action despite feeling uncertain or unprepared, as true growth and success come from iterative learning and pushing beyond comfort zones. I also share personal anecdotes and practical advice on embracing imperfection, managing fear, and taking actionable steps toward achieving your goals.
In this episode of "Lessons from a Quitter," I focus on the crucial role of mindset in achieving your career and personal goals. While strategy and steps are important, the true barrier to success is often your own thoughts and limiting beliefs. I share insights from my journey of quitting a legal career and helping others overcome their fears and self-doubt. I explain how mindset impacts our ability to take action and stick with our goals, offering strategies to manage negative thoughts and build confidence.
In this episode, I revisit my journey from a successful yet unhappy lawyer to founding this podcast and building a thriving six-figure business working part-time from home. I share how I navigated societal expectations, pursued a legal career without questioning it, and eventually realized it wasn't for me. Through quitting Big Law and finding fulfillment as a federal public defender, I discovered my passion for helping others navigate career transitions. Join me as I reflect on overcoming burnout, embracing change, and empowering listeners to design lives they truly love.
Welcome to the latest episode of Lessons from a Quitter, where we explore self-trust and its critical role in our lives. This episode is a replay of a foundational topic about developing self-trust, essential for those contemplating significant life changes or struggling with decision-making. Host Goli, discusses the importance of self-trust, why many of us lack it, and how our upbringing and societal norms often undermine our confidence in our own decisions. Goli also shares exciting news about the podcast's new YouTube channel, aiming to reach a broader audience with visual content. Tune in to learn how to rebuild your self-trust and confidently pursue your passions.
In the latest episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we delve into building self-confidence in the workplace. Many professionals struggle with imposter syndrome, doubting their abilities despite their accomplishments. This episode explores how to overcome these doubts by recognizing your true competence. We discuss the detrimental effects of perfectionism ingrained from the education system and how to shift focus from failures to successes. Practical tips include creating a list of your achievements and changing your internal narrative. Join the Quitter Club for personalized support in transforming your mindset and pursuing a fulfilling career.
In this episode, I dive into a powerful quote by Mary Oliver that really struck a chord with me: "Listen, are you breathing just a little and calling it a life?" We often get caught up in the routine of doing what we think we should, leading to a life of unfulfillment. This episode is a call to reassess our lives, to prioritize joy, rest, and intentional living over constant productivity and societal expectations. And we don't have to do so with drastic changes but by making intentional ones to create a fulfilling life. Listen for my journey and practical steps to help you breathe more deeply, find what truly makes you happy, and start living a life you love today.
In this episode, I delve into a common issue I see in the Quitter Club: the mental anguish caused by our fears and imaginations. Our brains have a habit of creating worst-case scenarios that often never come to pass. Listen to learn the importance of distinguishing between the "math" (the actual facts) and the "mental drama" (our fears and what-ifs). We'll talk through how to figure out your financial runway and why knowing your numbers can turn the daunting task of quitting into a manageable, even exciting, plan. Let's break free from the mental drama and get you moving towards a life you love!
In this episode, I dive into how to navigate the inevitable doubts and fears that arise when making big decisions, especially ones without certainty. I share insights on how our brains resist change to keep us "safe," leading us to second-guess and doubt our choices. Doubt doesn't mean you're on the wrong path; it's simply your brain's way of coping. By acknowledging and managing these feelings, you can continue to move forward and take action, even when your brain tries to hold you back. Listen for tips to keep fear from driving your actions.
In this episode, I dive into how the overwhelming number of choices we face can paralyze us, leaving many stuck and unsure of where to start. Drawing from my coaching experience, I share how I coach many people who either don’t know what they want or are interested in too many things, leaving them stuck. Listen to learn why there is no “right” decision and how that clarity comes from taking action, not waiting for the perfect choice.
In this episode, I delve into the overwhelming paradox of choice and how it affects our lives, especially in our careers. From choosing a restaurant to selecting a career path, the abundance of options can lead to decision paralysis and dissatisfaction. But amidst this sea of options, we discover the power of limiting our focus, embracing the concept of "good enough." By limiting choices and focusing on gratitude for what we have, we can alleviate the pressure of finding the perfect option. Join me in exploring the power of acceptance and making peace with the inevitable trade-offs in life.
In this episode, I dive deep into the notion of finding your purpose. It's one of those societal pressures we all feel, right? But what if I told you that the whole "finding your purpose" thing might be overrated? Yep, I said it. Tune in as I unpack why the idea of a singular purpose might be causing more harm than good. Plus, I share my own journey of redefining purpose and offer some liberating perspectives on how you can navigate this journey without getting stuck in the "purpose paradox."
In this episode, I dive into the whirlwind of change we're all experiencing, from layoffs to the rise of AI. Through real stories and practical advice, I tackle the fear of change head-on with you. Whether you're facing a layoff or just anticipating the future, it's time to shift our mindset. Listen to learn the importance of managing our mindset amidst upheavals and embracing change as an inevitable part of life. From reframing layoffs as opportunities for growth to actively honing transferable skills, I’m giving you practical advice to empower you in redesigning your lives and careers.
In our latest episode, we dive into the transformative stories of three amazing Quitter Club members. Isabelle, Megan, and Henry share their unique journeys of using thought work to redesign their lives. Isabelle found the courage to leave her full-time job and start her own business, overcoming fears of judgment and financial concerns. Henry embraced his creative side, discovering new passions like writing and theater. Megan, with her intense sales background, learned to calm her mind and find peace amidst career challenges. Tune in to learn how they found clarity, resilience, and joy in navigating life's twists and turns through coaching, workshops, and the community inside the Quitter Club.
In this episode, we delve deep into the struggle many of us face in figuring out what we truly want in life. Contrary to popular belief, there's no magic formula or secret code to unlock our one true passion. We explore why so many of us feel lost, disconnected from ourselves, and constantly chasing an elusive idea of success. I challenge the notion that we must find a grandiose purpose and emphasize the importance of self-discovery. Instead, I share with you a new approach: give yourself a year to figure it out. By giving ourselves the gift of time and introspection, we can uncover what truly lights us up and design a life we love, one step at a time.
In this episode, I delve into the concept of thinking on purpose. We often find ourselves on autopilot, letting our subconscious run the show, leading to feelings of being out of control. Our brains are wired to focus on the negative, but by understanding our biases and thought patterns, we can regain control. Listen to learn the power of shifting our attention spotlight to focus on positive aspects and challenge our automatic negative thoughts.
In this episode, we dive deep into the topic of burnout, exploring its spectrum and how it affects our lives. From dissecting the clinical definition to understanding our own thought patterns and behaviors, we uncover the layers of burnout in both our professional and personal lives. Through honest evaluation and reflection, I share how to identify the aspects of our environment and mindset that contribute to burnout. And most importantly, we discuss actionable steps to address burnout, whether it's making changes in our current circumstances or shifting our mindset for a healthier approach to work and life. Join us as we navigate the complexities of burnout and discover ways to redesign a life filled with joy and fulfillment.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, I’m deep diving on my love for online business–where all you need is determination and a solid idea. We're living in a time where starting a business requires minimal capital and access to millions of potential customers. Listen to debunk the myth of market saturation and learn the vast untapped potential awaiting entrepreneurs. From AI to niche services, the digital landscape offers endless possibilities. Don't let doubt hold you back; it's time to seize the moment and explore the world of online entrepreneurship if this is what you’ve been seeking. Join me in learning the limitless potential of entrepreneurship and learn how to build a business that aligns with your passions and goals.
In this episode, I sit down with my client Adriana Paris, JD to discuss her journey into building a successful coaching business as a lawyer. We delve into the world of online entrepreneurship, challenging the common fears that hold professionals back. Adriana shares her story of transitioning from a full-time job to starting her coaching business within a few months, breaking the myth that one needs extensive time and expertise to venture into entrepreneurship. We explore the transformative power of focused action, navigating through uncertainties, and finding clarity in the process. If you're a busy professional contemplating a shift, this episode is packed with insights and inspiration. Tune in and discover how you can redesign a life you love.
In this episode, we dive deep into why we often turn to various distractions to avoid uncomfortable emotions. Whether it's scrolling through Instagram, binge-eating snacks, or immersing ourselves in work, I explore the science behind why our brains seek pleasure and avoid pain. Listen for insights on how to differentiate between healthy self-soothing and harmful buffering, emphasizing the importance of feeling negative emotions without judgment. It starts with noticing our numbing habits, identifying the underlying emotions, and gradually building resilience to them.
In this episode, I get real about the myth of perfection. The pressure we put on ourselves to present a flawless facade on social media can be suffocating. From fearing judgment to self-deprecating humor, we explore the traps we fall into when striving for an unattainable ideal. But there's a way out. By accepting ourselves fully, flaws and all, we open the door to authentic connections and endless possibilities. This week, I’m sharing how to ditch the mask of perfection and step into our true selves, knowing that our humanity is what makes us relatable.
In this episode, I dive deep into the insanity of to-do lists and the unrealistic expectations we attach to them. Be it the societal conditioning that ties productivity to self-worth, it's crucial to change our perspective. Your to-do list isn't a dictator; it's just words on paper. Learn the power of realistic expectations, the art of celebrating small victories, and the importance of building self-trust. Listen to discover how detaching your worth from productivity can lead to a more fulfilling and balanced life.
In this episode, I dive deep into the power of rewriting your life story. Many of us carry a heavy baggage from our past, defined by a story we've constructed, often filled with shame and self-limiting beliefs. By reframing our stories, acknowledging resilience, and understanding our trauma responses, we can break free from self-imposed limitations. I provide practical steps for you to rewrite your stories and to shape a future you desire. Join me in unraveling the layers of your narrative to design a life you love.
In this episode, I dive into understanding our trauma responses, shedding light on how our brains instinctively react to keep us alive. From fight-or-flight to freeze or fawn states, our nervous system is hardwired for survival. I explore why we react differently and the beauty in recognizing our responses as survival mechanisms, not character flaws. By embracing curiosity and understanding, we can shift from self-criticism to self-love, navigating our responses with compassion. It's about honoring our past selves, appreciating our coping mechanisms, and gently evolving towards healthier patterns. So, let's slow down, explore our stories, and embrace the journey of understanding ourselves.
In this episode, I tackle the common fear among stay-at-home moms or those contemplating a work hiatus— the worry that stepping back into the workforce is impossible. We delve into the duality of facing the real-world challenges of returning to the workforce after a hiatus and managing our thoughts about them. It's not about blindly positive thinking, but acknowledging systemic issues while understanding the power of our mindset. From combating discrimination to owning your value, I share insights on navigating the professional landscape after a long career break (like staying home to raise children).
In this episode, I dive deep into the power of resourcefulness. We often get trapped in the illusion that life should be problem-free once we achieve certain goals. However, the reality is that challenges are inevitable. I discuss how embracing resourcefulness, the ability to figure things out no matter what, is key to overcoming anxiety about the future. I encourage you to consciously recognize your innate resourcefulness, shift your focus from failures to solutions, and view obstacles as opportunities to grow. By adopting the simple mantra, "I will figure it out," we can build unshakeable confidence and navigate life's uncertainties with ease.
In this episode, I dive into the transformative and core concept that the majority of our suffering comes not from life events but from the stories we attach to them. I provide a question to help you relieve negative emotions and explain how dirty pain, the stories we create, burdens us. By separating clean and dirty pain, you can gain control and redesign a life you love or find the courage to quit. The episode explores the impact of childhood traumas, fear of failure, and the liberating shift that occurs when we detach our worth from external outcomes. Listen to learn how reframing your stories can transform your perspective and empower you to pursue your dreams without fear.
In this episode, I review the highs and lows of my 2023. This look back at 2023 fueled immense gratitude, highlighting my many experiences—trials, tribulations, celebrations, and vacations. It became evident that we rarely pause to appreciate our journey. The first half of my year was marked by frenzied energy as I navigated the challenges of launching and sustaining a membership model. Burnout hit hard, leading to a profound realization about the impact of my thoughts on success. With a focus on gratitude and self-reflection, I’m sharing my lessons learned, personal growth, and the realization that success is not solely defined by business metrics.
In the latest episode of Lessons from a Quitter, I dive into the importance of dreaming bigger, especially as busy professionals who may have stopped dreaming in their twenties or thirties. Many of us settle into a day-to-day routine, resigned to incremental goals, fearing disappointment. I challenge you to break free from the small dreams that keep you stuck and explore what you truly desire. By giving yourself permission to dream without constraints, you can uncover hidden passions and set audacious goals that push you to grow. It's time to design the life you want, not the one society expects.
I get it; there's this stigma around New Year's resolutions. But here's the deal: goal-setting isn't the problem; it's how we approach it. In this episode, we dive into the crucial yet often misunderstood world of goal-setting. I break down the difference between short-term and long-term goals. I share personal insights on my six-year journey from leaving my legal career to building a life I love. And I explore why having a crystal-clear long-term vision is your secret weapon and how aligning short-term goals can make the journey more fulfilling.
In this episode, I dive into the workings of our brains and the perpetual need for growth. Modern life may spare us from primal struggles, but our brains are wired to seek challenges. I explore why we can often face mental decline when we stop actively problem-solving and how to set intentional goals, not as a validation of worth but as problems to solve. Join me in redefining goal-setting as choosing challenges that lead to growth. As we approach the year-end: What problem do you want to give your brain to solve? Dive into this episode and let's plan to knock out 2024.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, I challenge the pervasive fear of wasting time, money, and energy that keeps so many stuck. Drawing from my recent experience creating a new offer for my community, I address the common question: How can one know if an investment or endeavor won't be a waste? I walk you through the illusion of predicting the future, emphasizing that growth comes from failures and mistakes. I explore the influence of societal ideals, capitalism, and perfectionism on our mindset and why we don’t have to subscribe to it. Listen to shift your perspective and embrace that every experience, even those perceived as failures, are a valuable stepping stone in your journey to a fulfilling life.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, I dive deep into the systems for setting yourself up for success. Listen to explore the intricate balance between strengths and weaknesses and how to leverage them for success. The three-step process I swear by involves eliminating tasks that don't serve you, delegating when possible, and understanding what you truly need to excel. I share personal anecdotes, highlighting the power of strategic planning and self-awareness from my own entrepreneurial journey. Tune in to discover how anticipating obstacles and strategically addressing them can pave the way for achieving your goals and crafting a life you love.
In the latest episode of Lessons from a Quitter, I dive deep into the eye-opening realization that success doesn't have to mean sacrificing balance. Reflecting on a recent $90k month, I share my journey of building a business that not only has high earnings but affords me the luxury of time off, intentional work hours, and the freedom to speak up on social issues. I debunk the myth that scaling means working more, emphasizing the power of scaling without compromising your desired lifestyle. Join me in exploring untapped possibilities and learn how you too can create a thriving career on your terms.
In today's episode, I’m sharing what I call "Living in the 'And.'" For so many of us, we trap ourselves in the illusion of either/or thinking—believing we're either good or bad, successful or failure. But here's the truth: you’re not a single-faceted person. By embracing the 'And,' acknowledging that we're both flawed and fantastic, we can alleviate the pressure to conform to rigid binaries. Join me as I share personal experiences and practical tips on changing our self-prescribed narratives, fostering self-acceptance, and building richer, more compassionate relationships. Listen to break out of the either/or trap and find freedom in the 'And.'
In this episode, I'm getting real about the overwhelming world we live in. I used to carry the weight of the world on my shoulders, feeling guilty for having a good life while others suffered. But guess what? That doesn't help anyone. From the slow progress of history to the chaos of information overload, I share my strategies for staying sane. Spoiler: Focusing on your own thoughts, feelings, and actions is the only way to be able to show up the way you want. Tune in for a dose of empowerment and a reminder that you're allowed to feel okay amidst the chaos.
In this episode, I explore the shame and societal judgments around pursuing joy. You know that feeling when you're guilty for enjoying something that's seen as "childish" or not "intellectual" enough? We've all been there. But, I'm excited to share my personal journey of rediscovering joy through romance and fantasy novels and why it's totally okay to prioritize what makes you happy, even if society disagrees. We'll talk about shaking off the shame, embracing new passions, and the flexibility of our identities. Listen to redefine what brings you joy!
In this episode, I discuss a powerful concept: doing less to live a life you truly enjoy. We're bombarded with messages about work-life balance and the need to prove ourselves through constant productivity. But it's time to challenge these notions. The key is to learn how to do less and reject these toxic beliefs. I dive into the benefits of delegating tasks and question why we're so hesitant to ask for help. Listen to reclaim your life, embrace the idea of doing less, and find joy and fulfillment in the process.
In this episode, we explore the transformative side effects of chasing your dreams. We often expect achieving goals to guarantee happiness, but it's not that simple. Life is a mix of good and bad, no matter where we are. The real value lies in who we become during the process. When we stop avoiding obstacles and setbacks, we can practice self-discipline, courage, and personal growth. The journey itself shapes us more than the destination. Listen to learn how to embrace the challenges, as they're your path to self-discovery.
In this podcast episode, I explore the pervasive role of fear in our lives, particularly when pursuing dreams and change. Fear, often rooted in the fear of failure and negative emotions, can paralyze us. The key is to confront these fears by answering critical questions about the worst-case scenarios. Realizing that we can handle these emotions empowers us to take risks and move forward. Listen for the questions you should be asking yourself to face fear head-on and to get to where you want.
We often waste precious time and energy arguing with reality – insisting that things should be different than they are. In this episode, I reveal the common pitfalls of waiting for a perfect, non-existent option C and explain why it's crucial to accept the 50-50 nature of life's choices. By letting go of the illusion of control and focusing on how we want to respond to the circumstances we face, we can gain clarity, make better decisions, and reclaim our power. Tune in to discover how to stop the exhausting cycle of arguing with reality and start moving forward with intention and purpose.
Welcome to another exciting episode of Lessons from a Quitter. I'm thrilled to have you tuning in today because we've got a special guest, Melody Wilding, joining us. Melody, a licensed social worker and professor at Hunter College, dives deep into the world of Sensitive Strivers–individuals who feel things intensely, often grappling with criticism, the need for validation, and more. Melody shows us how these qualities can be superpowers, not weaknesses. Listen for her insights on leveraging our sensitivity and overachieving nature to thrive in the corporate world and banish imposter syndrome along the way.
To learn more about Melody’s work and read her book, you can visit: www.melodywilding.com/book
In this episode, we tackle the fear that prevents us from acknowledging our true desires. I share my personal journey from believing I had no idea what I wanted to discovering a wealth of buried dreams. We explore two major fears: the fear of disappointment and the fear of success. Admitting your desires is the first step to transformation. By confronting these fears, you can excavate your dreams and embark on a journey to create a more fulfilling life. Stop settling for "good enough" and embrace the possibilities of a fuller life.
In this episode, I have a candid conversation with three incredible women who share their personal journeys and the transformations inside their yearlong membership to the Quitter Club. Marissa, Sarah, and Rithu reveal how they found themselves feeling stuck and overwhelmed in different aspects of their lives, from careers to personal struggles. They discuss their initial reasons for joining the Quitter Club and how the powerful approach to managing their minds has helped them regain control, find hope, and make positive changes. Their stories illustrate that regardless of the circumstances, the resources inside the Quitter Club offer relatable and life-changing tools that can reshape your perspective and empower you to lead a more fulfilling life. Tune in to discover how they learned to separate thoughts from reality and apply these concepts to various areas of their lives.
In this episode, I dive deep into the powerful concept of deciding why something is worth it before you even know the outcome. It's not about just knowing your why; it's about embracing the journey and the growth it offers, regardless of the result. I share examples that resonate with busy professionals seeking change, whether it's venturing into entrepreneurship, running a marathon, or contemplating a new job. By uncovering the intrinsic value of your choices and understanding the lessons they bring, you can make decisions with confidence, build self-trust, and transform your approach to life's challenges. It's time to stop fixating on outcomes and start savoring the wisdom gained from every step of your journey. Tune in for a new perspective on decision-making and personal growth.
In this episode, I explore the power of long-term thinking and breaking down goals into manageable building blocks. Instead of succumbing to the pressure of quick fixes, I share personal examples of how taking a more gradual approach to change, whether it's in business or your personal goals, can lead to lasting transformation. By giving yourself the time and flexibility to evolve over several years, you can achieve meaningful, sustainable growth. Embrace the journey and discover the compounding effect of patience and persistence.
In the latest episode of "Lessons from a Quitter," we dive deep into crafting a well-rounded Quit Plan. It all starts with an honest self-assessment—unearthing why you're itching to leave that job of yours. You know, those reasons you might not even want to admit to yourself. We begin by understanding the underlying motives for leaving our current situation. Next, I guide you to explore your dreams and paint a picture of the life you desire. This way, you can dissect your strengths and skills and start to explore various career options that align best with your true desires. I also help you break down your finances so you can calculate your financial runway once you do quit. Once we crunch the numbers, you can explore whether it's truly the cash or your thoughts about it that are keeping you stuck at your job. And all those doubts you’ve been harboring about quitting? I have you list your worries, confront them, and come up with a game plan for every single one. Trust me, it's empowering. Listen and work through the six steps for your personalized quit plan, one that's going to guide you to the life you've been craving.
In this episode, I’m sharing a realistic approach to goal-setting and decision-making that I practice in my own business and coach on inside the Quitter Club. The societal pressure to meticulously plan out our success can be tough to shake and leave us spinning, going nowhere. Listen to learn how to let go of the need to know every step, accept change, and embrace uncertainty by focusing on short-term, achievable objectives in just 90 days. This approach helps prevent overwhelm, decision fatigue, and procrastination. By setting 90-day goals, evaluating your progress, and adjusting course as needed, you will be able to move towards your goals far faster than if you simply went hard for 2 weeks while operating solely on motivation. 90 days is the perfect length to build consistency and discipline for staying committed to your goals while still giving you the flexibility to redirect and change course, if needed.
In this episode, I dive deep into the concept of the messy middle – the space where most of life happens, filled with shades of gray rather than absolutes of right or wrong. Our brains often gravitate towards black-and-white thinking because it feels safe and certain, but this episode explores how embracing the ambiguity of the middle can lead to personal growth and understanding. From the way we perceive truth and engage in discussions, to our political beliefs and the pursuit of success, I encourage you to let go of the need for clear-cut answers. Instead of striving for an unattainable perfection, I suggest finding beauty and learning in the messy middle. By acknowledging that life is a continuous journey without an ultimate destination, we can release ourselves from the pressure of always being right and open ourselves to new perspectives. So, let's explore the gray areas, accept our imperfections, and thrive in the space where life truly unfolds.
In today's episode, we're diving into the three crucial steps you need to take when you're feeling stuck in your career. We all know that feeling of being trapped in a job that's making us miserable, but before you rush to quit, let's take a deep breath and think strategically. I’ll be explaining how to slow down and take an honest audit of your situation. Is it all the job's fault, or are you contributing to your own unhappiness? Next, how to redirect your focus on what you can change: about yourself, your reactions, and your boundaries. You can't change everything around you, but you can control your responses. Finally, how to understand your financial runway – what you have saved, what you need, and what options it gives you. Whether you're planning to quit or just make your current situation better, these steps are your roadmap to designing a life you truly love.
In the latest episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we're diving deep into the world of entrepreneurship. I share my personal journey of embracing that little voice urging me to become an entrepreneur and debunk some common myths surrounding entrepreneurship. Like the belief that it's only for a special few. Truth is, anyone can be an entrepreneur with the desire and willingness to try. There's no one-size-fits-all approach either; different types of entrepreneurs thrive in various ways. Listen to learn how to separate the truth from the lies that float around online about entrepreneurship.
In the latest episode of "Lessons from a Quitter," we tackle the feeling of “being behind.” High achievers often struggle with this thought, ironically, despite their accomplishments. We delve into why this thought persists and how it robs us of joy and happiness. Society's expectations and hustle culture play a significant role in creating this feeling of falling short. However, it's crucial to recognize that we are not on a predetermined, one-size-fits-all path. Everyone's journey is unique, and comparing ourselves to others only breeds unhappiness. We explore the importance of accepting where we are and finding joy in the present moment rather than constantly chasing an elusive future of achievement. Listen for concrete tips to take on the feeling of “being behind” and remember, you are exactly where you need to be. There's no need to rush to some imagined destination.
In the latest episode of Lessons From a Quitter, I share how our jobs often become a significant part of our identity, making it challenging to detach from them. I discuss the underlying fears and shame that drive this attachment, as well as the pressure to be perfect in our roles. Listen and learn how to challenge the notion that our worth is tied to our work and encourage self-acceptance beyond titles and achievements. This episode offers valuable insights for everyone, whether you're considering quitting or not. Join me in this discussion of self-discovery and find liberation from the limitations of societal expectations.
In the latest episode of "Lessons from a Quitter," I dive into what to expect after quitting your job and how to navigate the challenges that come up. Many people believe that once they quit their jobs, their problems will disappear. However, the reality is that your brain will quickly start panicking and doubting your decision. I explain why this is normal and why our brains are wired to prioritize safety and productivity. I provide strategies for managing these fears, including creating a plan before quitting, acknowledging that your brain's panic is normal, and detaching yourself from fearful thoughts. By understanding and managing these challenges, you can confidently move forward and design a life you love.
| This week we're diving deep into having difficult conversations around quitting. We're going to look at the people in your life—the ones who have lots of opinions on what you should or shouldn't be doing. You know the type: spouses, friends, family, and even coworkers who always seem to have something to say. The first and most crucial step is understanding whether these people should even have a say in your decisions. Now, here's the thing. Different people play different roles in your life. If it's your spouse, for example, their opinion matters because it directly affects both of you. But for others, like your parents or that super opinionated friend, it's important to figure out if they're just giving their two cents or if you genuinely need their support or permission. In this episode, we'll also dive into how to clearly communicate what you need from these conversations. |
On today's episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we're diving deep into handling the guilt around quitting. It's a topic that resonates with so many of us, especially those of us who have been raised to prioritize making others happy. We often find ourselves ready to move on, with a clear vision of what we want to do, yet held back by the overwhelming guilt of leaving behind our bosses, coworkers, or even clients we've developed deep connections with. In this episode I want offer you a new perspective, recognizing your own needs and priorities while acknowledging the reciprocal nature of relationships. By learning to sit with discomfort and overcoming the fear of others' negative emotions, we can make choices that align with our true desires.
On today's episode, we're talking all things consulting. If you've ever wondered what a consultant actually does or how to get started, this episode is for you.
Amy Rasdal is on the show today to help so many of you figure out whether you could start your own consulting business with the skills you already have.
And she's the perfect person to help us navigate the world of consulting. Amy traded her corporate job for consulting 15 years ago and makes more money than most executives. The advantages are freedom, flexibility, control, interesting work and excellent pay. She has been running her own multiple 6-figure consulting business for more than 15 years. As the founder of Billable at the Beach®, Amy has helped hundreds of people start their own successful consulting businesses through speaking, workshops and various programs over the past 10 years.
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I gotta say, this podcast episode might just be the most important one I've ever recorded. We often beat ourselves up, wish we were different, and blame our brains for not working like everyone else's. But what if all that self-judgment is actually holding us back from enjoying life and pursuing our dreams?
It's okay to be different, and it's okay to seek growth while accepting ourselves. Let's explore this idea together and find ways to be kinder to ourselves.
This is a continuation of recordings from the 3-day Love it or Leave It Challenge. This episode is from Day 3 where I help you make a decision to leave it. We'll cover the following:
- The lies that keep you stuck
- How to decide to leave your current career
- How to start making better decisions
- And so much more.
If after listening, you want more help in learning how to make decisions, create a plan, and actually go after it, join me in my monthly membership, the Quitter Club. We’re starting a new program called 90-day decisions where I’ll teach you how to make any decision bite-sized, how to evaluate and pivot, and how to avoid all the overwhelm that keeps you paralyzed. It’ll change how make any decision.
This is a continuation of my recordings from the 3-day Love it or Leave It Challenge. This episode is from Day 2 where I help you make a decision to love it. We'll cover the following:
- The lies that keep you stuck
- How to decide to love your current career
- How to start making better decisions
- And so much more.
If after listening, you want more help in learning how to make decisions, create a plan, and actually go after it, join me in my monthly membership, the Quitter Club. We’re starting a new program called 90-day decisions where I’ll teach you how to make any decision bite-sized, how to evaluate and pivot, and how to avoid all the overwhelm that keeps you paralyzed. It’ll change how make any decision.
Today we're doing something a little different on the podcast. I'm replaying Day 1 of my Love it or Leave it Challenge. I normally only share the trainings with people who have signed up for it but the material in this challenge was too important not to share. Over the next 3 days, I'm going to share all 3 days of the challenge. In it you're going to learn:
- The lies that keep you stuck
- How to decide to love your current career or leave it.
- How to start making better decisions
- And so much more.
If after listening, you want more help in learning how to make decisions, create a plan, and actually go after it, join me in my monthly membership, the Quitter Club. We're starting a new program called 90-day decisions where I'll teach you how to make any decision bite-sized, how to evaluate and pivot, and how to avoid all the overwhelm that keeps you paralyzed. It'll change how make any decision.
Join us at www.lessonsfromaquitter.com/quitterclub
In this episode of the Lessons from a Quitter podcast, we dive into the topic of "Massive Action." Many of us struggle with taking action because we fear making the wrong decisions. But the importance of moving forward, even when we're uncertain about the "right" choice, is to embrace the concept of massive action, where we actively pursue our goals and dreams, gather data from our experiences, and learn from the outcomes.
By embracing action and analyzing the results without self-judgment, we can navigate our paths, make decisions, and live a fulfilling life. To learn more about this topic and join Goli in her Love It or Leave It challenge, visit quitterclub.com/challenge.
This week I finally put out a bonus episode! It's something I've been wanting to do for about four years so I'm counting this as a win! So what's this bonus episode about? I want to talk about decision debt. If you haven't heard I'm doing a live three-day challenge next week. As I've been preparing the content for the challenge, I've realized just how much we give in to decision debt.
I want us to stop the ridiculousness of going back and forth and never make a decision. If you've felt stuck and if you listen to this and you realize that you are paying a hefty fee in your decision debt, then I want you to join me in the Love It or Leave It Challenge next week. You can go to quitter club.com/challenge and finally make that decision. Even if you don't have all the answers, even if you don't know what you're going to do, even if [insert all the excuses we love to have come up for you], you're going to come out of this with a decision. I know you're going to want to believe that your situation is different but I promise you, it's not.
On this podcast episode I want to share something that changed the way I think about certain emotions. I’ve noticed that there are some emotions that we tend to indulge in, even though they don't actually feel good. These are emotions like confusion, worry, and overwhelm. It's like your brain keeps going back to those emotions over and over again, almost on autopilot, which can create a cycle of being stuck.
What’s interesting is that when we’re in this cycle, it feels like we’re being productive. Our brain convinces us that we're solving a problem by constantly thinking about it. We believe that gathering more information, seeking others' opinions, and waiting for certainty will lead us to the right decision. But the truth is, 100% certainty doesn't exist. We need to be aware of when we're simply indulging in confusion out of fear rather than genuinely needing more information.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter I talk about the different mindsets people have towards their jobs and how those mindsets can affect their overall experience. I want to help you look at your job as a means to an end, which can free up mental space and energy for other aspects of your life that you want to focus on.
I want to encourage you to make the most of your job, even if you find it boring or unfulfilling, by using any extra time to work on a side hustle, passion project, or new hobby.
I also spend some time talking about people who hate their jobs and are making their situation worse by constantly ruminating on negative thoughts about their job. I go over how our thoughts about our jobs can create suffering and energy that take up mental space and prevent us from taking action to change our situation. That’s why I suggest treating your job as an investment in your business. So let’s start focusing on what we can do to make the most of our situation, whether it's finding a new job, starting a side hustle, or simply changing our perspective.
In this episode on Lessons from a Quitter we talk about vulnerability and how the ability to show vulnerability can be hindered by fear. Over time we develop fears about what others will think, fear of being judged, fear of being seen as imperfect. This fear often prevents people from fully showing up and being themselves.
We have been conditioned to believe that we should only show up if we are perfect, which is unobtainable, so we are constantly hiding half of ourselves. We need to understand that we are human beings and we are going to be 50% good and 50% bad. We need to learn to embrace our imperfections and not be afraid to show our vulnerable side. Vulnerability is the key to true connection with others. We have been taught to hide our negative emotions or struggles, but this only creates a group of people who are putting on an act. By allowing ourselves to be vulnerable we create deeper connections and can live a more authentic life.
I've been coaching more and more people on the issue of layoffs as it's been coming up frequently in the club. In this episode, I talk about the practical and emotional aspects of dealing with layoffs. While the practical steps like updating resumes and networking are important, I emphasize that a significant source of pain and anxiety comes from our thoughts and emotions surrounding the idea of being laid off. It’s important to understand how our thoughts about potential layoffs, dread, anxiety, and uncertainty can add so much unnecessary drama and suffering to an already difficult situation. I also highlight the importance of learning how to process our emotions and not solely focusing on trying to control the uncertainty of the situation. I share strategies and techniques for managing the emotional impact of layoffs, drawing on my experience coaching clients in similar situations. Tune in to learn how to navigate the challenges of layoffs with resilience and self-compassion.
Today, we’re going to talk about choosing one goal. Every time I talk about this, I get the most responses that I get to really anything that I talk about. People are upset and they want to explain to me why they should have more than one goal, why it's different for them, why they need to do so much more. And there's a lot of misconceptions of what this one goal rule is.
It's perfect timing for this episode as we finished the first quarter of the year, and it’s time to check in and see how you did on your goals. How did that work? If it didn’t work out the way you wanted I want you to maybe suspend your concerns or your skepticism of this concept for quarter two. Just try it. You can always go back. You can have all your goals in Q3 if you want, but just try for the next three months. If I just choose one goal to focus on, let's see how I do.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we talk about accepting what is. Sometimes we create so much drama around discomfort that, which only adds unnecessary suffering to an already stressful situation.
Today we talk about one of the biggest skills you can have, which is accepting what is and accepting the circumstances in your life. Coming to the realization that you don't control and can’t control everything can free up so much more space to problem solve. Then going about your life not adding all of the unnecessary drama to it, which we’ve discussed before as dirty pain. You can learn to take care of yourself and your needs despite the uncontrollable and ever-changing variables in your life.
In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we talk about the importance of taking vacation time. I emphasize on the fact that taking a break is not a luxury, but a necessity. The capitalist system has conditioned us to believe that productivity equals worth, and as a result, many of us struggle to take time off work. We need to change our mindset around vacation time and stop equating rest with laziness.
The Puritan work ethic, combined with the capitalist system, has led to the idea that hard work equals godliness. This narrative has been ingrained in us for decades, and it can be hard to break free from it. However, taking time off is essential for our mental and physical health. Tune in to this episode to check in on your thoughts around taking a break. Are you able to enjoy your vacation without feeling guilty or trying to maximize that time to do more?!
This week I talk about understanding the difference between the tasks you are hired to do and the problems that are your employer's responsibility. It's important to recognize that your employer's problems are not your problems, and corporate America loves to take advantage of employees' perfectionism and people-pleasing tendencies, which leads them to take on extra work that they are not paid to do. We have to remember that our jobs are transactional relationships, and we get paid for performing a specific set of tasks.
In this episode I encourage you to evaluate the tasks you were hired to do and what you are doing that is beyond your pay grade, figure out when you agreed to take on extra work, and how you can change this situation. There are four common problems that arise from employees taking on work they are not paid to do, including doing more work than we are paid for, taking on someone else's responsibilities, working beyond regular hours, and fixing other people's mistakes. Listen in as I encourage you to set boundaries, advocate for yourself, and give back work that is not your responsibility.
This week, I’m replaying an episode I did in 2019 with Dave Hollis. Unfortunately, Dave unexpectedly passed away last month from heart failure. I wanted to replay this episode as a tribute to him. But, more importantly, I wanted to replay it because there is so much we can learn from Dave and how he lived his life.
In this episode, I dive into what I learned from Dave during our brief interaction on the podcast, how focusing on the fact that life is short can help drive you towards the life you want, and why tragedies like this really put into focus how little it matters what other people think about you and your choices.
This week, I’m sharing a podcast that I LOVE and had the pleasure of being a guest on: The Get Paid Podcast with Claire Pelletreau.
Claire has a way of asking all of the questions we want to know but are usually afraid to ask: How much money do you make? What do you spend it on? How did you get here (literally step by step)?
If you want to hear my entire journey and get the juicy details of every step, make sure to check out this episode.
One of the biggest lies we love to believe is that it’s “easier” to just stay where we are. It’s easier to not go after those dreams. But it’s not easier, it’s just more familiar. And that familiarity leads to resentment, bitterness, hopelessness, despair, and dread. It’s not easier living like that. So if you’re not going to go after your dreams, at least stop lying to yourself by saying that it’s easier this way.
This week, we dive into this topic and how we can start seeing the price we pay for staying in that comfort zone.
Studies have shown the most important factor for reaching your goals isn’t more motivation or willpower. It is being surrounded with people that will hold you accountable and support you. You already know you’re more likely to give up on your goals if you’re the only one who knows about it. On this week’s podcast, I talk about how being in communities that supported me through this journey of career change is the only reason I have the business I have today and how you can start finding your community too.
One of the main principles I try to live by and teach my students is to focus on one thing
Focus on one goal for the year. Focus on one area to improve. Focus on one limiting belief.
Just slow down and take as much time as it takes to get the result you want in that ONE area and then move onto the next thing. But most people push against this because we’ve been conditioned to believe we need to change it ALL…and FAST. So we set a ton of goals, tell ourselves we’re behind, and scramble because we think there isn’t enough time.
But we all know what happens. We get overwhelmed and give up. The irony is that if you slow down to work on one thing until you’ve mastered it, you actually start solving your problems.
That’s exactly what Betty Dao did. She was in my program Pave Your Path and she took my advice to focus on just ONE thing. She got to work on that. She even stopped coming to the coaching calls because she didn’t want to be influenced to work on other things and she changed her life!
She’s on the podcast today to talk about her journey.
Here’s why self-love is CRITICAL.
You think your problem is:
People pleasing
Perfectionism
Caring too much about what other people need
Overachieving
Imposter syndrome
But the root of all of those is a lack of self-love. And this isn’t in some woo-woo “all we need is love” kind of thing. I’ve coached thousands of people and the root of almost every problem is some underlying belief of:
I’m not good enough.
It’s a worth issue. Think about it.
That’s why we so desperately need other people to approve of or like us.
That’s why we try so hard to be perfect.
That’s why we keep checking off all the boxes society tells us to in order to be “good enough”.
They’re all defense mechanisms.
Because we’re terrified that somehow our deepest insecurity might be true…that maybe we’re really not good enough in some way.
And so we hustle…we perform…we give and give…
But no amount of other people’s love or accomplishments or perfection will ever outrun that thought.
If it would, you would’ve done it by now.
It only changes when we decide to change our own thoughts about ourselves.
It’s available to you right now.
No need to do or be anything else.
And it’s one of the most important skills to cultivate.
On today’s podcast episode, I dive deeper into why self-love is critical.
My friend, Scarlett Cochran, is back on the podcast today to talk about how to think about your money in a way that lets you create the rich life you want today.
If you didn’t catch Scarlett’s first episode on the podcast where she talked about her incredibly inspiring story (she went from single teen mom in the military making $25k a year to putting herself through Yale Law School to becoming a Banking and Consumer Finance Attorney to growing her platform One Big Happy Life to multiple six figures as a side hustle) make sure to check it out here.
But after coaching thousands of people on how to build wealth, Scarlett started seeing a pattern: People were living by other people’s money rules…even if it made their lives miserable.
So she set out to change that.
She wrote her first book, It’s Not About the Money, to change how people approach their money. The book gives a simple system for understanding and managing your money in a way that feels good to YOU so you can create the life you want to live TODAY and every day after that.
And she’s on the podcast to talk about it with us today.
Make sure to snag her book and follow her here:
Book - https://onebighappylife.com/book Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@OneBigHappyLife Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/onebighappylife/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/onebighappylife/
Everyone focuses on teaching you how to set goals. But what happens after you set it? We all know that the hard part comes from following through. Most of know what we want to do but we just feel like we can't get ourselves to do it. On today's podcast, I'll teach you why that's a myth (you really can follow through) and how to start doing it.
One of the main issues I see with people who give up on their goals is that they’re setting too many.
You get 1 goal per year. That’s it. No exceptions.
On today's episode I explain how picking one goal can
- help you skip overwhelm
- give you a filter to make decisions
- and get you to be nicer to yourself
It's the difference between hitting your goals and giving up.
Your self-concept is the thoughts you have about yourself. And it dictates everything.
Whatever you believe is possible, or not, for you is based on your self-concept. Every goal you set is an attempt to change your self-concept. Meaning, you hope to achieve the goal to change how you view yourself. But the biggest life-hack is knowing that you can change your self-concept without having to achieve those goals first. In fact, learning to change your self-concept can help you achieve your goals faster.
On today’s episode, I’m sharing how I’ve changed my self-concept and how you can too
This week’s podcast is my year in review.
If you want to know how much money I made and how I made it last year…
If you want to know the good, bad and the ugly (like how I had 2 of my worst launches EVER!)...
If you want to know about some of the other things I was battling outside of work…
Check out the episode today.
Last week on the podcast, we talked all about being open to the possibilities. Well, Dielle Charon is an example of what is possible.
Starting out her career as a Social Worker, Dielle was doing something she loved but wasn’t making enough money to even cover her student loans. Realizing she needed to make additional income, she began her entrepreneurial journey on the side. She grew her coaching business to replace her income while working her full-time job and commuting 3-hours a day!
She finally quit in 2020 and went from making $40,000 in her coaching business to making $1 million in 2022. Her story is simply incredible.
Dielle is a certified life coach and 7 figure sales expert for WOC Coaches. She is the host of the Black, Banked, and Booked Out Podcast and runs two sales programs: Five Figure Freedom and Six Figure Liberation.
Make sure to check out all of her amazing teachings here:
Diellecharon.com/Podcast
Diellecharon.com/free-training
Are you open to the possibility that things could be so much better than they are now?
That you could have more time.
More money
More opportunities
More creativity
More connection
More flexibility
More of whatever you want
If you're not open to that, ask yourself “why?” Because here is the unfortunate truth:
If you’re not open to it, it won’t happen.
In today’s episode, I’ll dive into:
- Why your belief in what is possible has to be the first step
- Why believing other people have more possibilities is a problem
- How to start opening yourself to more possibilities
Check out the episode for more!
Right now can be a difficult time for many.
With the announcement of tens of thousands of layoffs and the signs of a pending recession, it’s easy to fall into tons of negative thinking.
While we can’t change the circumstances that we encounter in life…
We can change how we respond to them.
In fact, that’s the only thing we control.
On today’s podcast, I dive into how you can reduce all the anxiety, stress, and frustration that comes along with uncertain times or difficult things in the world.
This week's episode is a replay of Episode 117: How Kristina Barile Went From MIT Rocket Scientist to Living Off The Land In Panama.
On this week's episode, I interview the incredible Kristina Barile on her journey from a Harvard and MIT-grad rocket scientist to living in a mud home in Panama, teaching holistic, nutritional Ayurveda and freelance writing. In last week's episode, we talked all about how unnatural our lives have become and the effects it is having on our lives. Kristina and her husband recognized this deep restlessness in corporate America and decided to embark on a journey to find a better way. Her journey opened her up to a wide array of experiences: traveling 30 hours up to Mount Kailash in the Himalayan Mountains, to living in India for 5 months to focus on meditation and self-awareness, to finally building a sustainable mud home in Panama. Kristina's story is still evolving but her unwavering desire to ground herself and live an authentic life will keep her moving forward.
I’m launching my membership, the Quitter Club, for the first time and I want to tell you all about it. Why did I switch to a membership? What’s included? Who is it for? All of that and more is included in this week’s episode.
As long as you tell yourself the lie that you don’t know what you want, you’ll stay stuck exactly where you are. You do know what you want. You’re just scared to admit it to yourself. Because once you admit, then you actually have to take action. But there is power in admitting it to yourself. It allows you to get out of all the confusion and overwhelm that keeps you spinning for years and actually get started on the path to your dreams.
In this episode, I dive into how you can start accessing what you really want.
We often think that our thoughts are not only “true” but “realistic.” So we tell ourselves things like “this probably won’t work,” “I have no idea how to do this,” and “this is way too hard,” in order to not be delusional.
In today's episode, I’m going to show you how that not only creates the result of you not figuring it out but also creates a life that is small and unenjoyable.
I’m a big believer in the thinking it’ll always work out for you even if you have no proof that it will. Not because I want you to be delusional. There is a total logical reason to think this. And it’ll change your whole life.
Check out the episode to find out how.
We’re all doing too much. Busy has become a badge of honor. And as we continue to run on the hamster wheel to get ALL THE THINGS done, we miss out on this one precious life we have. No more. The goal is not to get more done. The goal is to have less to do. Without guilt.
That’s what I teach you on the podcast this week.
Balancing all of the thoughts around your career is already hard enough, throw kids into that mix and it can feel like you’re constantly drowning.
The guilt of feeling like you’re always dropping some balls.
The resentment of never having any time for yourself.
The exhaustion of always taking care of someone or something else.
This week on the podcast, I’m going to show you how thought work helped transform my relationship as a mother which allowed me to create the career of my dreams.
In this episode, I talk about how learning to manage my mind helped me:
- Understand my real role as a mother
- Understand myself better
- Understand my children more fully
All three of these things allowed me to take off the martyr-badge most moms are required to wear and create a life that actually works for me and my family.
This week, we tackle a big topic in high-achieving communities like this one: Imposter Syndrome. So many of my clients, who have years of experience, degrees, great reviews, insane accomplishments, still believe the lie that they have no idea what they’re doing. Why is that? This episode tackles why we hold on to the thoughts causing Imposter Syndrome so tightly and how to start loosening that grip.
This week's episode is a replay of Episode 76: From Lawyer to Chocolate Maker: How Shawn Askinosie Found His Calling.
Sure, quitting is easy if you've always hated your job. But what if you used to love it? What if you loved it for many years? What if you were really, really good at it?
I'm so excited about this week's episode with the amazing Shawn Askinosie. Shawn walked away from a very successful career as a criminal defense attorney, a job he used to love. Until he didn't.
He realized that the career he once loved was putting him into an early grave and that it was time to do something else.
Shawn is now the founder of Askinosie Chocolates, named by Forbes as “One of the 25 Best Small Companies In America.” He was also named by O, The Oprah. Magazine, as "One of 15 Guys Who Are Saving the World." No big deal.
He spends his days traveling between 4 continents to directly source his cocoa beans from farmers, where he offers them above Fair Trade prices, open books, and a share of his profits.
He has created an inspiring company that not only gives back directly to the farmers but his community as well.
His book - Meaningful Work: The Quest To Do Great Business, Find Your Calling And Feed Your Soul, co-written with his daughter, Lawren Askinosie, published by Penguin Random House is a #1 bestseller on Amazon.
I got to chat with Shawn about how he walked away from a career he loved and how he figured out what he should do next.
Here is what we chat about in this episode:
- Do the deep work and figure out who you truly are.
- Look for those thresholds.
- Be vulnerable with the people in your life.
- And so much more!
Where to find Shawn:
Book
Business
Blog
TED Talk
That inner critic you have that drones on and on every day about how bad you are at being a human is NOT your voice. It was put there by society - capitalism, religion, patriarchy, white supremacy, school, religion - in an attempt to control you. And it’s time we undo it.
This is Part 2 of a 2-part series that will help you get rid of your inner critic. If you haven’t listened to Part 1, definitely start there because the first step is truly becoming aware of what it is and where it came from and that’s what I’ll cover in this episode.
Part 2 will start giving you the rest of the steps to move you from a harsh inner critic to unshakeable self-trust.
That Inner Critic you have that drones on and on every day about how bad you are at being a human is NOT your voice. It was put there by society- capitalism, religion, patriarchy, white supremacy, school, religion- in an attempt to control you. And it’s time we undo it.
This is Part 1 of a 2-part series that will help you get rid of your inner critic.
The first step is truly becoming aware of what it is and where it came from and that’s what I’ll cover in this episode.
One of the skills I see people struggling with the most–and one I struggled with for years–is making decisions. And the reason people struggle is because they’re focused on the wrong thing. You’re focused on guaranteeing the outcome you want which is impossible. Instead, I want you to focus on the reasons you’re making the decision. When you're clear on what your reasons are and you actually like them, it becomes a lot easier to make decisions.
I dive deeper into why knowing your reasons is the most important step and how it can change decision making for you in this episode.
On this week’s podcast, I’m taking you behind the scenes of all of my UNCERTAINTY and DOUBT around my new membership launch. You might be wondering: “Why are you doing this, Goli?”
Because I want you to stop thinking that other people have it figured out.
Because I want you to see that the entire process is filled with fear and doubt.
Because I don’t want to just show you results; I want to show you the messy middle.
This week, we dive into the new viral trend of Quiet Quitting and why it’s a problematic term.
Quiet Quitting is a trend on social media where people stop going above and beyond their job descriptions and instead only do what they’re paid to do.
This is, in no way, quitting.
And it’s harmful to call it that because it operates under the assumption that the employee is doing something wrong when really they’re setting up proper boundaries.
On the podcast this week, I dive deeper into why this is problematic and what we should be calling it instead.
This is Part 3 of a 3-part series on Toxic Work Environments.
The term “toxic” is thrown around so often that it has all but lost its meaning. It’s hard to know what truly is toxic and what is something we just don’t like.
In this series, I’ll dive into how to start discerning what is toxic, what you have control over and how to think about your career in a way that will serve you.
Part 1 dealt with Toxic Coworkers.
Part 2 dealt with Toxic Bosses and other people who have a direct impact on your job.
This episode dives into how you can manage your mind around jobs that have toxic hours, tasks, or conditions that are not ideal.
This is Part 2 of a 3-part series on Toxic Work Environments.
The term “toxic” is thrown around so often that it has all but lost its meaning. It’s hard to know what truly is toxic and what is something we just don’t like.
In this series, I’ll dive into how to start discerning what is toxic, what you have control over and how to think about your career in a way that will serve you.
Last episode dealt with Toxic Coworkers.
This episode deals with Toxic Bosses and other people who have a direct impact on your job.
Next week, we’ll dive into jobs that have toxic hours, tasks, or conditions that are not ideal.
This is part 1 of a 3-part series on toxic work environments.
The term “toxic” is thrown around so often that it has all but lost its meaning. It’s hard to know what truly is toxic and what is something we just don’t like.
In this series, I’ll dive into how to start discerning what is toxic, what you have control over and how to think about your career in a way that will serve you.
This episode deals specifically with toxic coworkers. But the principles can be applied to anything that is a part of your work life but doesn’t have a direct impact on you completing your duties.
Part 2 will dive into toxic bosses or anything that does have a direct impact on your work.
And Part 3 will explore toxic jobs, meaning tasks, hours, or conditions that are not ideal.
If you only look to your past, at what you’ve already achieved, in order to determine what you’re capable of achieving in the future, you’ll only get the same results you already have. That’s why so many people limit their dreams. They think that all that is possible are things that they already have evidence for. But–here is the thing–your past only exists in your mind. It does not dictate what is possible in the future. You have to learn to tap into your future self to push out of your comfort zone and dream up a life bigger than the one you can imagine.
This week on the podcast, I’ll show you how.
We all know how to work hard to achieve things but we’re terrible at actually enjoying them. That’s because our society loves to glorify hard work but shame the people who have anything– rest, joy, money, pleasure, food. So we think we want those things, we hustle to get them, and then we’re wracked with guilt when we actually have them.
Learning to have is a skill and, on today’s episode, I teach you how to start building it.
When we start thinking about career change, we tend to jump into overdrive and want to change everything in the next couple of months. But then we get overwhelmed by all the things that need to be changed.
On today’s episode, I teach you how to use 5-year plans to get past that overwhelm and figure out exactly what it is you want to do. When you can slow yourself down enough to see that all you need is baby steps, the change becomes much more manageable.
This week I want to talk to you about why sometimes you just need to throw yourself the party. You should always make time to celebrate yourself and since I always want to be an example for you, I'm throwing a party next week and you're invited!
This week I want to talk to you about being selfish. This is kind of a hot topic but I want to argue that you can’t help others until you help yourself. Really tuning into your needs and asking what you can do to move yourself a little closer to what you want every day is not a big lift. So if you’re always putting everyone else’s needs before yours and always putting yourself last, give this episode a listen.
On this week’s episode, I’m sharing the lessons I learned from our month in Wyoming. Some of these are lessons I’ve been learning and relearning for awhile and one totally blew me away.
On this week’s episode, I talk with Kathryn Finney, a former Yale-trained epidemiologist turned blogger turned investor and philanthropist. Before Wordpress even existed and you had to print out photos and then scan and upload them online, Kathryn created her blog, The Budget Fashionista. After running that for many years, she sold the blog and founded digitalundivided, a social enterprise focused on helping Black women own their work. She then went on to found and manage Genius Guild, a $20M venture fund. At the onset of the pandemic, she wanted to do more to support Black-women owned businesses so she founded The Doonie Fund, giving out micro-investments from her own personal investment. Most recently, she published Build The Dmn Thing: How To Start A Successful Business If You’re Not A Rich White Guy,* in it she empowers entrepreneurs to take advantage of their unique networks and resources. Kathryn has such an incredible quitter story and I can’t wait for you to hear more from her on the episode.
This week I want to talk to you about how to go after your dream life. If you follow me on Instagram, you know I’ve been in Jackson Hole, Wyoming for the past month. Taking this trip with my family is one way I’m going after my dream life. And the process is actually really simple, it’s just two steps. I want to show you that the things you want are possible because whether you think you can or you can’t you’re right. So this week I’m sharing the two-step process for going after your dream life and how I'm applying that in my own life.
On this week’s episode, I talk with Zubin Pratap, a recovering lawyer turned entrepreneur turned software engineer. After over 14 years in international corporate law, Zubin went into commercial roles and then eventually taught himself to code at 37 and became a software engineer at Google at 39. Today he is still working as an engineer and educator and spends nights and weekends privately coaching committed career changers on how to transition to tech. Zubin is a prime example of how to pivot in your career and follow your dreams but also how you need to shift your thoughts along the way.
Find Zubin here:
- Free webinar: https://futurecoderstraining.com
- LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/zubinpratap
- Twitter: @ZubinPratap
- YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5GcpG4iD0Rtwr5llQPZ9Qg
This week, I dive into emotional maturity. Most of us live in emotional childhood, meaning we want everyone else to fix how we feel. Spoiler alert: there’s a bit of tough love coming so prepare yourself. I like to use the analogy of a car accident. If you get hit by a car, the accident is not your fault but it’s your responsibility to do the work to heal, to go through PT. Life is not fair. You will never control the things outside of you. But you can control how you react to what happens to you. In this podcast, I teach you the difference between emotional maturity and emotional childhood, how your emotions affect your actions, and how to take responsibility for your own life.
This week on the podcast I have three of my current students join me to talk about the program. I can only sell you on the program so much and so I thought it would be helpful to hear it directly from the people in it. Each one of these ladies came in with different problems seeking different paths and yet, thought work and working on mindset has changed each of their lives in a big way. If you’ve wanted to know what Pave Your Path can offer you, this episode is for you.
This week I want to talk to you about why it’s okay to change your mind. Part of my brand is wanting to change the connotation around quitting because all quitting is is just changing your mind. Can you imagine if we forced ourselves to stick with things we liked when we were younger the way we do with our careers? Your favorite food at 6 years old was ice cream so that’s your favorite food for the rest of your life. It’s absurd when we think of it like this but we think the same way about our jobs. So this week I want to talk to you about how it’s normal to change your mind… about anything.
This week I want to talk to you about why you should go after those big, scary goals. I’ve already done an episode on destination addiction so you should know that the reason isn’t because of what you’ll get when you accomplish the goal. There’s more to it than just the outcome. So this week I want to offer that it’s the journey, not the destination, that’s worth it.
Too often, we're stuck in automatic thinking. Our brain just adopts the beliefs and thoughts it was fed from society. It becomes unconscious. Just a repetitive loop of thoughts in the background of our head. But if we're going to create the lives that we truly want to live we have to learn how to think on purpose. Whenever I teach thought work, I often get questions like "okay, I have the thought I wanna change, now what?" So this week I want to help you identify the thoughts to change and teach you how to practice new ones - this exercise is one of my favorites and it is truly life-changing.
This week I want to talk to you about boundaries. I’ve been getting a lot of questions on the free monthly coaching calls, people saying do I just tolerate bad behavior and manage my mind around it? And I think it’s really important that we get clear on what boundaries are and what boundaries are not, where to set them and what will likely happen after you set the boundary. So this week I want to help you understand that the only thing you control is you and how putting up boundaries and managing your mind can free you of the should’s.
It’s my 200th episode!! WHAT?!?!
It blows my mind to think about the fact that I’ve been putting out a podcast every single week for 200 weeks.
It got me thinking about what I had to have believed 4 years ago in order to jump blindly into this project that ended up changing my life.
This week I want to talk to you about your money mindset. I actually did an episode on this before but I realized I had a lot more to say so I needed to do another episode. In our society, we’ve been made to think that wanting a lot of money is bad and rich people are bad or evil. I thought this too, until I worked on those thoughts, and now I feel completely different. So this week I want to talk to you about how money is just a resource and how changing your thoughts about it can change your life.
This week I want to talk to you about the law of polarity, also called the law of duality. It’s the idea that the only way you can experience something is because you have experienced the opposite of it. And if you’ve been around for awhile, you know I always talk about life being 50/50 - you can only experience the good, if you’ve experienced the bad. So this week I want to talk to you about how you don’t have to be scared of those negative emotions and how you can use them to live the biggest, fullest life you want.
This week's episode is a replay of Episode 50: How Blogging Helped Leslie Samuel Get And Then Quit His Dream Career.
It’s hard not to smile while listening to today’s guest talk about his journey and you’ll see why. Leslie’s story is something we can all learn so much from. Through determination and a genuine love of teaching biology, he managed to land himself his dream job as a biology professor without getting a Ph.D! Crazy, right? So many of us are stuck believing that we have to go the traditional route to pursue the things we love, but that really isn’t the case anymore.
Before Leslie landed his dream job, he started out as a high school teacher with a huge love for science and biology. Coincidently, in 2008, he also stumbled upon a way to make money online through blogging. He used his newfound skills to create a blog, Interactive Biology, where he taught Biology the way he wanted. He would make interactive, high-energy videos illustrating various concepts like how an action potential works. It was this very blog that ultimately landed him his dream job.
By chance, he had received an email one day about an open teaching position in a doctoral program. Was he qualified? Absolutely not. Did it stop him from applying? Not even in the slightest. Leslie interviewed for the job and made it very clear that he wasn’t qualified, but he showed them his blog that was evidence of his knowledge and teaching style. Within an hour of leaving that interview, he received a phone call saying he got the job.
Leslie’s story is living proof that you don’t have to do everything the traditional route. You can feel (and be) unqualified for the job or position that you want, but if you truly love something enough and you put in the work, the opportunities will come!
But the best part of Leslie’s story is the fact that blogging opened up a whole new world of impact for him. He realized how many lives he was changing by teaching other people how to grow and monetize their blogs. He ultimately decided to leave his dream job as a professor to focus exclusively on his latest blog, Become A Blogger, where he is taking on the mission of “Changing The World One Blog At A Time.”
Here is what we chat about in this episode:
- Why you should make a change in your life if you’re unhappy.
- Why you don’t need to pursue things the traditional way.
- How everyone has something they can share with other people.
- How the technology today makes it easy to start a side hustle.
- And so much more!
Where to find Leslie:
Website
Resources Mentioned:
Interactive Biology YouTube
This week I want to talk to you about the compare and despair cycle so many of us find ourselves in, myself included. We scroll through Instagram, envious of what we see others post, forgetting that social media is a highlight reel. However, comparison and jealousy aren't always bad. If you learn to harness it correctly, it can lead you to the life you want. In this podcast, I detail how to stop the endless comparison and how to utilize your jealousy to figure out what you actually want.
On this week’s episode, I talk with Deepa Purushothaman, a former partner at Deloitte turned author and speaker. In her book released earlier this month, Deepa draws on conversations she had with hundreds of women of color about their experiences in the workplace. I think her work is so important and is just the beginning of the change we can create in Corporate America.
In this episode, we talk about:
- How to exercise your power and show up for yourself
- How colleagues can be advocates and allies to women of color
- How to find community during a pandemic
- And so much more
Find Deepa here:
Website: https://www.deepapuru.com/
To purchase her book: https://www.deepapuru.com/author
This week on the podcast, I’m answering your questions! As you may know, I have a button on my website that lets you leave me a voice message--any burning question you have, any topic I haven’t yet covered-- you can record it right there and I'll answer it on the podcast. Today's episode is our first listener Q&A! I’m taking a few of the questions that I haven't answered on the podcast yet and diving in!
If you like this episode and want to hear more or you have your own question you want me to answer, go to lessonsfromaquitter.com/podcast and leave me a message!
This week I want to talk to you about my six month group coaching program, Pave Your Path. I’ll tell you all about the program - who it’s best for, who it’s not best for, all the things. I’ll also answer some of the commonly asked questions I get during each launch.
Doors are currently open now through Friday, March 18th. Join me, I’d love to have you! Sign up at lessonsfromaquitter.com/paveyourpath
This week on the podcast, I have my former student, Cynthia. Before joining the program, Cynthia had been working at the same company for five years, was over-worked and stressed all the time. She worked nights and weekends and was missing out on time with her family. Right before the program began, Cynthia’s mother suddenly passed away and she was scared to email her boss to ask for time off. That was the breaking point for her and she knew she couldn’t stay stuck in this job anymore. Cynthia is now working a part-time job she loves, she has a four-day weekend every week and enrolled in a course to widen her skill set. But more than that, Cynthia’s mindset has totally changed and it’s so incredible to listen to her story.
This week on the podcast, I have my former student, Lisa McFadden. From a young age, Lisa knew she wanted to be a writer but let other people talk her into a more stable career path. Burnt out and at her wits’ end, she was absolutely miserable when she signed up for my 6 month program. During the program, Lisa had a major a-ha moment that changed her life completely. Since finishing the program, she has resigned from her corporate job, moved states and started her own coaching business helping writers overcome writer’s block and develop their own process. Most importantly, she’s overcome her own writer’s block and is able to make a living doing what she loves. Lisa claims my 6 month program changed her life, listen to the episode to find out how. Find Lisa here:
Instagram: @TheWritersMindset
Facebook: Lisa McFadden
Website: Lisa McFadden Film
The root cause of all of your problems is a lack of self-validation. Let me explain…
This isn’t some self-love, woo-woo kind of thing.
I want you to think about every one of your maladaptive behaviors:
- People-pleasing - needing other people to be happy with you so that you can feel good about yourself
- Perfectionism- needing everything to be perfect so that you can believe you’re good enough
- High-achiever- needing to keep achieving milestones to feel like you’re worthy
- Obsessing over what other people think of you - needing other people’s approval so you can believe you’re good.
- Imposter syndrome- insisting on believing you’re not good enough when all of your achievements prove otherwise
- And on and on.
Every. Single. One comes from your inability to validate yourself.
This week I want to talk to you about procrastination. I have so many people telling me I want to do this thing but I can’t get myself motivated to do it. What I’ve found is that procrastination is not a time management issue, but an emotional management issue. This week I dig into why we procrastinate and how to start overcoming it.
Anxiety seems to be more present in our modern lives than ever before. But I think that is partly due to the fact that we fundamentally misunderstand anxiety, which prevents us from reducing it. In this week's episode, I break down what anxiety actually is and what steps to take to help you manage it.
This week I want to talk to you about finding your purpose. Most of us have this notion that there is one purpose to our lives and we should be deeply fulfilled and if we’re not, then something is wrong. So we go out and try to find our purpose, but how do you even know if you’ve found it? This week, I explain the problem in finding your purpose and offer my thoughts on how to reframe this major issue.
This week, we’re talking about self-trust. This is the foundation of where our self-confidence comes from. And, yet, along the way, we adopted the false belief that we can't trust ourselves. So we run around asking everyone else to make decisions for us, hoping they have the answer. Because if it doesn't work, now we have someone else to blame. I don't have to tell you that is a terrible plan. And it only comes from a lack of self-trust. So this week, we're diving into how we build up that self-trust again and put an end to the blame/shame cycle.
One of the biggest misconceptions about quitting is that you can only do it if you’re miserable.
After all, if it’s not terrible, why leave?
Don’t be ungrateful. Other people would kill for this job.
Don’t risk all of the uncertainty, regret, and judgment.
Suck it up.
And if these are the thoughts you’re operating under, you’re going to sabotage your own life in an attempt to have an “excuse” to quit.
You’ll start focusing on all the terrible things about your situation.
You’ll complain about it non-stop to your co-workers, spouse, friends…hell, anyone who will listen.
You’ll refuse to find ways to be happy exactly where you are.
You’ll start snowballing everything that is wrong in order to justify leaving.
Here’s the truth: You don’t need any justification.
You get to quit just because you want to.
Even if everything is ok.
Because you want growth.
Because you want new adventures.
Because you want to try something else.
In fact, that is the BEST place to quit from.
Because you’re not doing it out of desperation.
Because you know you could be happy either way.
Because you’re not waiting for some new circumstance to make you happy (spoiler alert: it never will long term)
So if you’re putting off your own happiness because of the hope of changing your situation, stop.
Make yourself happy exactly where you are.
And then decide to quit because you want to.
This week on the podcast I go more in-depth about how to view quitting so you can still be happy where you are.
This week, we're going to dive into how we can take 100% responsibility for our lives. Even when we've been dealt a bad hand, even when things aren't turning out the way we wanted, even when other people won't just act the way we think they should. Ultimately, only you are responsible for your own happiness. If that triggers you into wanting to resist or reject this notion, then today's podcast is definitely for you. This is the hardest work I’ve ever done but it has been life-changing and I want to share it with you.
This week I want to talk to you about how you view your work and why it matters. If you’ve been around for a bit, you know that life is always 50/50 and that’s true about work too. Your thoughts create your reality and impact your experience. So many of us are adding to our own unhappiness simply because of our own expectations. Today we dive into why that is and what we can do about it.
This week's episode is a replay of Episode 60: How Peter Glatz Quit His Dental Practice At 65 To Start a Second Career In one Of America’s Best Restaurants.
How many times have you wanted to start over? How many times have you started thinking about the possibilities only to follow them up with the thought, "but it's too late in my life to do this"? If you're human, then you've probably had this discussion with yourself a million different times, and that's okay, we all have those moments. However, even though you may feel like it's too late to start over, it doesn't mean that it is.
Today's guest, Peter Glatz is essentially the holy grail when it comes to that myth. At 60 years old, Peter left his dentistry career of over 40 years in order to pursue cooking. He began his journey into the culinary world by reaching out to well-known chefs offering to work for free! (Who says you have to immediately start making money off of something you love? Just start!).
Listen to how his journey led him to eventually landing a dream job as a link cook at Nonesuch in Oklahoma City, Bon Appetit's 2018 Best Restaurant in America. Despite working long, 12 hour days at a physically taxing job, Peter has never been happier.
I love so many things about his story. There are so many people who count themselves out when they reach a certain age because they believe it's too late for them to pivot their path. But Peter's story is really a testament to the fact that there is always time to try something new! Not only that, but he didn't let his lack of formal experience stop him from feeling confident enough to reach out to those well-known chefs. There are just so, so many wonderful lessons to learn from Peter and his journey.
Here is what we chat about in this episode:
- How it's never too late to start over.
- How if you want something different you should do something about it.
- Why you should create a vision and then take action.
- And so much more!
This week's episode is a replay of Episode 31: How Shinah Chang quit the straight path of law for Crooked Calligraphy. And stick around for an update from Shinah at the end!
Shinah is a whiskey-loving, curse-word slinging, Harvard-trained former corporate attorney who left everything behind to find her passion. Shinah spent her entire life on the straight, "proper" path. She went to an Ivy League college, then a prestigious Law School, then worked her butt off as a corporate attorney for a big international law firm. But, after one too many days of uninspiring work and nights of sleeping under her desk, she decided she wanted to reclaim her life! She quit her job and explored so many creative avenues - knitting, woodworking, drawing, graphic design. But CALLIGRAPHY is what she fell in love with.
Shinah needed plenty of inspiration along the way, but the usual sugary, sincere stuff about beauty and dreams didn't reflect what she was really feeling. So she created Crooked Calligraphy to spread creativity, courage and honest, gritty life inspiration through calligraphy.
Crooked Calligraphy has worked with huge brands like Disney, Anthropologie, Jo Malone, and Dom Perignon, but Shinah’s favorite work is teaching calligraphy and encouraging her students to look their fears in the face and move toward a life that will make them happy.
Here is what we chat about in this episode:
- How she spent her childhood working towards the predictable path to “success” including getting a 1600 on her SATs and getting into Harvard
- How affirmation and praise can become a drug that keeps you in doing things you hate
- How she started realizing that she wanted to quit her job as a corporate lawyer and what steps she took before quitting
- How she quit law without having any idea of what to do next
- What she did in order to figure out what her next steps would be
- The importance of exploration and experimentation in finding your passions
- How she found calligraphy and how it turned into a business
- How she figured out her unique brand and voice with Crooked Calligraphy
As we're coming close to the end of 2021, I spend this episode doing a recap of my year. While we tend to wait and start the new year with goals and resolutions, I'm excited to share the goals I've set for myself (that I started on a random day in December). As always, I want you to see that you can set big goals and not meet them but still accomplish something along the way. I hope my year is an example of how you can make small changes and still see growth. Happy New Year!
We’re all overwhelmed. All the time.
And we think it’s just the way it is.
“There is just too much to do.”
That’s a lie.
For the past year, I’ve delved into how to overcome my own overwhelm...in building a business, in raising my kids, in surviving a pandemic.
And it’s been the most eye-opening experience.
This week I want to talk to you about guilt. As we’re heading into the holiday season, I’m sure that we’re all feeling obligated to do certain things. And I just want to offer that you don’t have to do anything. So today I want to talk to you about where that guilt comes from and how to reframe those thoughts so you're not saying yes out of obligation but rather choosing what you want to do intentionally.
This week's episode is a replay of Episode 115: Life Is Both Good And Bad.
On this week's episode, we talk about the duality of life, the good and the bad. Life is always going to throw curveballs at us and we need to deconstruct the idea that we need to be happy all the time. Owning our dissatisfaction and working toward goals that allow for small wins will help us be more fulfilled.
This week, we're talking about mini-experiments. So many people come to me because they have no idea what they want to do. They either stay stuck forever or decide to go all-in on the next thing that they pick. Both can be a disaster. I'm going to teach you how to start test driving a new job, hobby, or industry, before you jump in.
On this week’s episode, I’m sharing the lessons I learned from my photo booth business. While I knew this business wasn't what I was passionate about, I’m so grateful to my past self for starting it because I learned so much and it eventually led me to exactly what lights me up.
“Do you regret going to law school?” I get this all the time.
Why would I waste a single second regretting something I can’t change?
No matter how much I replay it, beat myself up, blame other people, think about how much better my life would be if I didn’t go...
It won’t change the fact that I went to law school.
So instead of wasting my time on something I can’t change, I focus on what I want to do with my life from here on out.
That doesn’t mean that I can’t learn from my past decisions.
I look back and evaluate why I choose to go:
➤ where was I abandoning myself for other people’s approval?
➤ where was I seeking validation instead of listening to my gut?
➤ where was I simply doing what I was told instead of questioning it?
I do all of that so that I can make better decisions in the future.
But that doesn’t mean I ever spend the time regretting my decision.
Because it is done.
And I had my reasons (even if I wouldn’t choose those reasons now).
And I can have self-compassion for the old me who didn’t know any better.
And I gain nothing by torturing myself with regret.
Because regret comes from a thought.
The thought: “If I hadn’t made that decision, my life would be so much better.”
And that’s a lie.
I have no idea how my life would have turned out.
So I choose not to think that thought.
And you can choose the same thing.
Because regret is a choice.
I’m so excited to have my student, Christina, on the podcast this week! I want you to understand the huge impact learning how to manage your mind has on every part of your life. Christina's story is the perfect example! Since taking my 6 month program, she has gone from being scared to talk in front of other people to signing up for an improv class, having no idea what else she wanted to do to enrolling in a 10-week real estate rookie boot camp, and having no idea how to manage her emotions to helping coach those around her. But the most amazing part of her journey is she was able to completely stop taking her anxiety medication. Her anxiety was such a crippling part of her life that she missed out on annual girls trips for years. Not anymore! She went on this year’s trip and they’re already planning the next one. She really is the poster child for how managing your mind can create a ripple effect in your life. Make sure to listen to the episode to see how she shifted her mindset to start getting massive results in her life.
This week I want to talk to you about being delusional. And my little secret is that we’re all delusional, we just don’t call it that. We have fancy terms like imposter syndrome, which is feeling like a fraud despite all the evidence to the contrary. It's ignoring everything you’ve achieved to instead believe that you have no idea what you're doing. It's quite literally being delusional. The truth is that we're fine with being delusional as long as it is with negative thoughts. When it comes to positive thoughts -- thinking we can achieve our goals, believing the best about ourselves-- then we draw the line. So today I want to talk to you about why you should delusional in the biggest, most expansive way.
This week I talk to you about a hard truth: if you're telling yourself you don't know what you want to do, it's just a lie your brain is telling you. You do know, you're just scared. Being stuck in I don't know is safe while actually trying something is terrifying. But if you're ready to start taking action and get past the I don't know, I have five tips to help you start uncovering what lights you up.
This week I have my friend, Bevin Farrand, on the show. I’ve been waiting awhile to have her join because her story is so powerful. In 2019 after being laid off for the third time in her career, Bevin thought enough of putting my financial health in the hands of someone else. In addition to her full-time job, she had been coaching on the side so she decided to give it a go full-time. A few months later, Bevin experienced a totally unexpected tragedy when her husband suddenly passed away in his sleep. They had just come back from a 5-day whirlwind, once-in-a-lifetime, totally "unreasonable" trip to France to reconnect. Her husband's untimely passing made her realize that we don't have the luxury of waiting to do those crazy, important things in our lives. It pushed her to launch Take the Damn Trip to help other people go after the biggest life possible.
Bevin is definitely a force of nature but using her DAMN Framework has allowed her and her clients to start businesses, grow businesses and overcome loss.
In this episode, we talk about:
- starting with your yes and your why
- being present in the moments, not the minutes
- taking the damn trip
- and so much more
Find Bevin here:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/takethedamntrip/
Website: https://takethedamntrip.com/
This week I talk to you about shifting your paradigm, your worldview, your set of beliefs. Our society has focused so much on winning and losing and that's why so many of us suffer. Life is not a test. You literally cannot fail at it. So stop telling yourself that you can. When you start changing your paradigm to view your life in a different lens you free yourself to explore, experiment, and show up fully. This week, I'll teach you how.
This week we talk all about discomfort. And I don't mean the dictionary definition of discomfort. I mean the feeling that you have when you are pushing towards your goals and you feel like you might throw up...or die. Yeah, that’s discomfort. And if you’re going to live the biggest life possible, you have to learn to get better at feeling it and not making it mean anything about you. In this episode, I dive into how you can get better at dealing with the inevitable discomfort and keep going!
On this week’s episode, I talk with MBA turned actor, Vishesh Chachra. Vishesh left a lucrative finance career to pursue his life-long dream of becoming an actor. And his passion coupled with his persistence and dedication to honing his craft has led him to success in an industry that is notoriously difficult to break into. Over the past 8 years, he has appeared in 13 TV shows and 8 feature films. He currently recurs on a CBS primetime sitcom. While Vishesh is clearly talented, we dive into how his mindset has helped set him apart from so many others that pursue the same dreams.
In this episode, we talk about:
- why it’s important to pursue your passions
- how putting in the work to learn enables your success
- how reframing and mindset can change everything
- and so much more
Find Vishesh here:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/v_chachra/
Website: http://www.vchachra.com/
IMDB: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm5189387/
On this episode I talk about why you should be doing personal development, what it's for and what it's not for.
Spoiler alert: if anything you're doing is to feel more worthy, you're doing personal development wrong.
This week on the podcast, I talk about why you shouldn’t quit your job.. at least not yet.
I’m not saying you need to stay in your job and just learn to be happy in it, but if you don’t manage your thoughts and maybe set some boundaries, the reasons you’re unhappy now will follow you from one job to the next.
My biggest tip for success when you’re quitting and starting something new: Get in the room with people doing the thing you want to do.
This week, I talk about the benefits of surrounding yourself with a like-minded community and a few ways to find those groups.
Here’s what everyone gets wrong about work/life balance.
You run around trying to change everything outside of you in order to try to gain a little “balance”.
If I worked less hours…
If I had more time at home with my kids….
If I could spend some time resting...then I’d feel balanced.
But what happens as soon as you try to do those things?
Your brain ruins it.
You're at home with the kids and you’re constantly anxious about how much work you still have to finish.
You’re laying down to rest and you’re berating yourself for not getting up to run all of your errands.
You’re trying to focus on your work deadline and you’re feeling guilty about missing your son’s soccer practice.
It’s no wonder you’re exhausted all of the time.
You cannot have balance until you learn that your worth is not attached to your productivity.
You cannot have balance until you learn that you deserve rest even when you have a full to-do list.
You cannot have balance until you learn that you’ll never be perfect and it’s ok to stop trying.
Until you can manage your brain to drop all the guilt and shame, there is no magic formula that will create balance for you because you’ll constantly be telling yourself you’re doing it wrong.
This week on the podcast, I dive into how you can finally start working towards having some real balance in your life.
This week I want to talk to you about Mom Guilt. Fair warning that I’m not sure if I have my thoughts fully formed on this but I think this is an important topic to discuss. Also, while I talk a lot about moms, the same ideas apply to all of us dealing with a misogynistic, patriarchal society. Over the past seven years, I've been really observing how moms are constantly put in lose-lose situations. Whether at work or at home, we're made to feel as though we're always failing. And, unfortunately, we internalize those thoughts and use them against ourselves. While systemic change is absolutely needed, if we don't liberate ourselves from our own thoughts that keep us in shame and guilt, we'll never be able to go after the lives we deserve. One of the biggest blessings of thought work for me is that I no longer operate from a place of shame and I give myself incredible amounts of self-compassion. So for all the moms and the non-moms, I just want you to understand that you can lift that burden of the should’s and really check in with what you want to do. And the more we do that, the more we show the next generation and our peers that it's okay to show up fully as yourself and still be a kick-ass mom. So let's dive in.
In this week’s episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Jordan Ramsey. Jordan’s wife, Shannon, is a student of mine and enrolled in the Impossible Goal Setting workshop back in January. Little did she know, Jordan was eavesdropping on all of the lessons.
Jordan took what he learned in that workshop and began implementing in his life to go after all of his dreams. Since then, he has self-published two books, launched a Kickstarter campaign for a board game he created with his childhood best friend, and recently got promoted at work! Jordan is the perfect example of how changing your mindset can change your life.
In this episode, we talk about what shifted for him through the Goal Setting workshop to allow him to overcome that fear of failure and start going after all of his dreams.
Make sure to check out Jordan here:
- His Boardgame’s Kickstarter Campaign: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/bountyrush/bounty-rush
- Website: www.tophatgeeks.com
- Instagram: @jordannotgordonramsey and @bountyrushgame
It’s been 3 years since I launched this podcast (WAHOOOOO!)
Hindsight is an interesting thing. It’s obvious now that I made the “right” choice to publish the podcast I had been thinking about for 2 years. I now have an amazing community and business I love.
But I remember the week before I hit publish...I couldn’t sleep. I cried every single day. I thought I was going to throw up.
These were the thoughts I had playing on loop:
- “This is insane.”
- “Everyone’s going to judge you.”
- “Who are you to put out a podcast?!”
- “You have no idea what you’re doing.”
- “Do you want to be branded a ‘quitter’ for the rest of your life?!”
- “You’re going to regret this.”
I was terrified.
I wanted to change my mind. I hadn’t published it yet. It wasn’t too late to scrap the whole crazy idea.
Well, I didn’t. And I’m so grateful to past me for feeling like I was going to die and hitting publish anyway.
It’s been an amazing 3 years and I can’t wait to see what the next 3 years brings.
Since we’re all about lessons over here, this week on the podcast I go into the 3 biggest lessons I’ve learned from 3 years in podcasting.
Catastrophizing is when you assume the worst will always happen.
Listen, it’s normal. Your brain is trying to keep you alive. And if it can anticipate all the things that could go wrong, it can keep you safe.
Your brain loves to replace the uncertain with the awful.
But, in our modern world, you’re not at risk of dying all the time. It just ain’t that serious.
So you need to learn how to get a handle on that doomsday brain of yours if you’re ever going to do anything worthwhile.
In this episode, I give you simple steps to overcome your catastrophizing so you can get out and experience this world!
This week on the podcast, we dive into one of the most crucial life-skills we’re never taught. Handling criticism.
If you instantly get defensive, angry or hurt when someone points out a “flaw”, this episode is for you. I take you through my step-by-step process to understand why you get defensive and how to get over it.
So many of you are stuck because your parents, friends, or co-workers simply don’t understand why you want to take this “risk”.
Here’s the truth: They don’t have to support you. And you still get to make the decision you want for your life.
Would it be nice if everyone saw the world the way you did and could fully understand your dreams? Yes, of course it would be.
Do you need that before you actually take the jump? Absolutely not.
The real reason you feel like you need their support is because if they believe in you, it’s easier for YOU to believe in YOU.
When other people express doubt, it triggers the fear and insecurity you already have in this big decision. So you become defensive and spend all of your energy trying to convince them it’s the right choice.
But what you’re really doing is trying to convince yourself. If someone else can see your vision, then it helps reassure that part of your brain that is also screaming “This is insane! We’re going to regret it!”
They don’t have to understand what you want to do. YOU have to understand what you want to do.
They don’t have to believe in you. You have to believe in you.
You will still have doubt. Hell, you can even agree with them that it’s a crazy decision. And you still get to make it.
If you struggle with this, this week’s podcast is for you. I dive deeper into this concept and explain how you can start moving past needing everyone’s support.
So many of you ask me how to navigate family and spousal support when making huge changes in your career.
I figured it might be interesting to hear it from the spouse’s perspective.
While our experience is unique to us, I think it can help you in approaching these subject.s
In this episode, we talk about.
- What his experience was of me walking away from my legal career
- How he thought the podcast was the wrong move for me (WHAT?!?)
- How I stopped seeking his permission and instead asked for what I needed.
- The best part of this journey.
- And so much more.
So many of us are paralyzed at making even the simplest decisions.
We revert to asking everyone else's opinions, we ruminate and drain ourselves going back and forth, we make pros and cons lists, and we stay stuck year after year.
In this episode, I teach you why you have such a hard time making decisions and how to move past it.
I remember wishing I would get laid off during the 2008 recession. I was to scared to quit so I wanted them to force my hand. Empowering, huh?
They didn't. And I ended up spending another 7 years doing a job I hated.
On this episode, I talk about what it looks like to take responsibility for your life. Often we mistake responsibility with fault. They are not the same thing.
In this episode, I talk about difference between fault and responsibility, why taking 100% responsibility will change your life, and how to go about doing that.
Why do you want to find your “dream” career?
Do you even know?
Most would answer with something like:
So I can feel excited and motivated about going to work.
So I can feel like I’m doing something that is worthwhile.
So I can feel less stressed and overwhelmed.
All of our answers boil down to one thing: we are after a feeling.
Ultimately, you want that dream career because you want to feel happy and fulfilled.
Given that we spend ⅓ of our life at work, it’s easy to see how that can affect our feelings.
And while I’d LOVE for you to find your dream career (and would love to help you do that), it’s not going to happen overnight.
So the question becomes: how can you have that feeling you want in your life right now?
And that's what we dive into on the podcast episode today! I'll give you actionable tips on how to create a fulfilled life without changing much else.
Destination Addiction.
The constant striving to get to some destination that you’re certain holds all of your happiness and the solution to your problems.
The stealer of current joy.
The enabler of hustle culture.
So many of our problems are born out of this, often unconscious, belief that it is better “there” than here. We put our happiness and joy on hold with the promise that it will be even better at this unforeseen destination. And, yet, we just keep moving the goalposts.
On today’s episode, I dive into just how harmful destination addiction is and how to overcome it.
Also mentioned on today’s episode:
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On to today's episode. I want to talk to you about an extremely important concept that I don't think most people don't implement in their life. It's called the Compound Effect.
What most of us typically do is pick a huge goal, go after it with everything we have, get burned out, and stop. Understanding the Compound Effect will change all of that. It'll allow you to start making lasting changes without all of the effort and drama. It is the difference between having a life where you can constantly grow and one in which you won't. In this episode, I go into what the Compound Effect is and how to start implementing it into your life today.
I'm so excited to bring you this week's episode with the amazing Janelle Nicole Christian. After nearly 6 years in BigLaw, Janelle transitioned into the career and digital media field through her company, SideBiz SMART, and her platform, Hey J. Nicole. Janelle's mission is to help 6-figure employees start and stabilize successful side businesses in order to ditch corporate America and begin living healthier, wealthier, and more fulfilled lives as entrepreneurs.
After scaling her business to multiple six-figures in under a year and helping her clients do the same, Janelle's work focuses on helping miserable millennials understand the value in decentralizing work (particularly corporate structures) and building a life around their personal priorities, gain clarity on their values, address and remove limiting beliefs regarding income and success, create a clear plan to define their life work, and guides them through any necessary pivots towards their dreams.
In this episode, we discuss:
- how Janelle discovered what really lights her up.
- why it's important to just get started, even if you don't know what you want to do.
- how she replaced her legal income in less than a year.
- and so much more.
This week I have a super exciting topic that completely changed the way I thought. It's the concept of clean pain versus dirty pain, and it really helped me manage my mindset. This topic, which was first coined by Dr. Stephen Hayes, described the suffering we add to our human experience. We constantly make up narratives about ourselves that cause all of this unnecessary self-inflicted pain. It is crucial to understand when you’re doing this so you can stop it. Join me as I dive deeper into this topic and discuss ways you can work around it.
This week I'm finally addressing one of the biggest blocks for most people: Overcoming The Fear of What Others Think. There is a reason that so many of keep falling into patterns of doing what others expect of us even if it makes us miserable. We're evolutionarily wired to want to be accepted by our tribe. But while it is natural it doesn't mean we have to keep living this way. In this episode, I break down how to push past the fear of what other people think about you and start living a life on your own terms.
Want to know the secret to my success? I stopped pretending that I had it all together. The more I share my mistakes, my failures, my insecurities, the more people are attracted to me.
The more I stop pretending like I have it all together, the more I allow myself to show up exactly as I am. The more I show up and take imperfect action, the more successful I become. There is a reason that “vulnerability” and “authenticity” are such buzzwords right now.
We’re all sick of curated. We’re all sick of perfect. We crave more humanness. Just think about the people you follow online. Do you love following people who act like they have it all figured out, are breezing through life, and have no problems?!? I’m guessing no. It’s boring and fake.
We love following people who share their struggles. Who show us that they’re just figuring it out just like the rest of us. And, yet, so many of you are still stuck trying to look perfect in your lives. Trying to pretend like you have it all together at work. Trying to portray that you’re not struggling with parenthood. Trying to put on a brave face.
I want you to know that perfect is boring. Nobody wants perfect. Be human. Let people in. It’ll lighten the load and make the experience so much more fun.
This week's episode is all about doing difficult things. Somewhere along the line, a lot of us adopted the mistaken belief that there is an easy way to have our dream life. But that's false, there are no shortcuts. When we adopt that mentality, we end up making it so much harder on ourselves. We fall short on certain goals, or we bypass certain milestones because we're hyperfocused on having an easy life. But hard things challenge us to grow and learn and live a life far beyond ourselves. We can do hard things, stop wishing your way out of them.
By far, the #1 question I get asked is some version of:
“I hate my job but I have no idea what else I would do. How do I find some clarity?!”
I have good news and bad news. The bad news is that no one can give you a clear answer to that question. Because what you’re really saying is: “I’ve lost touch with who I really am. I’ve done what I was supposed to do and found myself unhappy. I feel lost and don’t know how to get back to what I truly want.”
The clarity you’re looking for can’t come from outside of you. The answer isn’t in some online assessment. It has to come from within. It only comes from getting a better understanding of who you are when you aren’t trying to please everyone else or look perfect.
But here is the good news: Doing the work to find clarity in what you want to do with your life will change every single aspect of it. It will bring you back to yourself. It’ll lead to more self-compassion, self-trust, and self-acceptance.
It will help you stop the self-sabotage that will otherwise continue to ruin your life. It will give you control over your own internal state so you’re not at the mercy of reacting to everyone and everything around you.
It will let you show up as the full, flawed human that you are so you can experience all that there is in this life. What more important work is there?! So don’t go for the easy answer. Take the time to find out who you truly are and do it on purpose.
This week in the podcast, I go more in-depth into how to start discovering clarity in what you truly want.
**If you’ve listened to the podcast for a while now, you’ve likely heard me talk about the free coaching calls I do every month. I always love having new people join the calls because I’ll inevitably get messages afterwards like:
“Wow, that was so much more helpful than I thought it would be!”
“Thank you for doing this. I’m not sure why I waited so long to join these.”
“This was so eye-opening. Just listening to everyone helped me so much!”
I’ve realized that many of you may not realize how powerful coaching actually can be (and the fact that you don’t even have to be the one to get coached for it to be powerful).
So today on the podcast, I’m replaying last month’s coaching call. I want you to see the power of group coaching, the fact that we all have the same fears and doubts, and that your mindset is pretty much the answer to every question (wink, wink).
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This week's episode is truly one of my favorites. I never thought I would say this but my mom, Ziba Farzaneh is on the show. She has a pretty amazing quitter story that I want to share with you all. My mother was an accountant for a number of years. She served as VP of finance of a hundred million dollar company and grew in the role for 19 years. After being blindsided by a layoff she decided to go into entrepreneurship with my sister. Together they have a school for severely autistic children, and they recently opened up a ranch that does animal therapy for the children. Her story is one of courage, resilience, and hard work.
Last week we spoke about the thoughts we form around money. This week I want to talk about the equation that you need to think about when you want to quit your job.
I hear from so many people saying that they can't quit because of finances. That can mean a number of things: They have too much debt, they just made a large purchase, they are not earning as much as they need, they don't have a savings, etc. But each of these things can be remedied. If your thoughts don't get you to bury your head in the sand, there are plenty of ways to tackle the issue of finances. Once we can begin to create a plan, we can figure out how long it will actually take us to be ready to quit.
This week we're going to dive into your money mindset. One of the biggest blocks for people from changing careers is finances. But they don't realize that most of their problems arise from how they think about money and not how much money they actually have. Before we get into how to actually plan your finances to quit, we have to deal with all of your limitations around money. So let's talk about all the thoughts you have about money.
This week I want to talk to you about rest. We rarely talk about it. It's not the type of topic that lends itself to an illustrious career or living your dream life, but it is so important. Today we're going to talk about seasons of rest: How to know when you're in one or when you need one (and how to maximize the benefits of being in this season). So stop pushing, stop hustling, look inside yourself to figure out if you need some time off and take a break.
This week's episode features the incredible Tricia Cusden. I don't say this lightly when I say that these episodes are the reason I started this podcast. She is the perfect example that it is never too late to start over and live the most full-life possible. If you can get out of your own way, there is so much more that you are capable of than you let yourself believe.
Tricia started out her career as a stay-at-home mom to her two daughters. When her daughters got older, she went back to university and got her degree at 38. She then began a career as a management training consultant. After working for a company for 10 years, she jumped into entrepreneurship and ran her own consultancy until she was 64.
After 26 years in that career, Tricia closed down her business in order to help with the care of her granddaughter, who had been born with a rare chromosomal disorder. At 65, when her granddaughter had improved and had other help, Tricia decided she needed a new project. She had always loved make-up and saw a huge gap in the market for aging women. Without any experience in the field, she set out to start her own beauty line with Look Fabulous Forever.
What has happened in the 7 years since she launched the brand is just incredible. She has built a business that both her daughters now work in, written a book, attended the Oscars, created a large following, and so much more. She's such an inspiration to me and so many others.
Last week we talked about having a healthy self-concept and the need to give ourselves room to stumble, learn, and grow into our full potential. And while we are worth the investment in growth, we need to also manage our expectations of how that will look. This week, we dive into a root cause of so many of our problems: all or nothing thinking. Hyper fixation on our end goals clouds our vision of the small steps and setbacks that can really help shape us. Everything doesn't have to be absolute or black and white. Learn to live in the grey area and I guarantee you'll appreciate your results. And if you need help on eliminating this type of thinking so you can make progress on your dreams, I'm starting my 6-month group program next week. You don't have to do this alone. If you want to help getting unstuck and finding your dream life, you can find out more information at https://www.quitterclub.com/group
This week's episode covers the most important thing I can teach you. I think it is the root of everything. The root of all of your problems. I want to talk to you about self-concept. This includes how you think about yourself, how you feel about yourself, and how you love yourself. Do you trust yourself? Do you know your strengths and weaknesses? I want you to ask yourself right now, how do you feel about yourself? Being able to identify and own your self-concept is the key to unlocking your growth mindset. And a fantastic supplement to that is a solid coaching program. Starting next month, I am going to be running a 6-month long challenge to un-stuck yourself and begin working toward your dream life. If this interests you, visit www.quitterclub.com/group and schedule your first one on one call to see if this program would be the right fit for you.
This week, we are talking about investing in yourself. Typically, society has programmed us into believing some investments are good while others are "too expensive". I see so many people who feel stuck in their careers jump into getting yet another degree. They're willing to spend tens of thousands, if not hundreds of thousands, of dollars on another piece of paper but refuse to invest in themselves. In today's episode, I'll tell you how I have changed my views on investing in courses and coaching and what criteria I use to pick programs to invest in. Whether it's through online courses or 1-on-1 coaching, taking the time for self-improvement is incredibly valuable. If you're ready to invest in yourself, doors are open to my 6-month coaching program. You can find more about it here: www.quitterclub.com/group
This week I have the incredible Vanessa Barboni Hallik on the show. If you're a long-time listener, then you know that I was a public defender. I was on a crusade to save the world. And I had bought into the paradigm that business was filled with greed and evil and that capitalism was ruining the world. While there is some truth to that in certain instances, Vanessa's story shows what is possible if we re-imagine how we run businesses. Her voice, and her brand, are exactly what we need to begin steering the ship towards more conscious consumerism. Vanessa served as managing director at Morgan Stanley for 15 years. She held several leadership roles in the emerging markets and institutional securities business. During her tenure, she tried to leave three separate times but was held back by the same fear and doubt that holds so many of us back.
When she finally left, she pursued her interest in environmentalism, which lead her to discover the horrors happening within the fashion industry. That's when she decided to take matters into her own hands. Despite not having any experience in fashion, Vanessa saw the huge need for luxury apparel at a reasonable price that was made with sustainability in mind. She founded Another Tomorrow, an end-to-end sustainable apparel company, and is redefining how luxury fashion brands approach business by focusing on social and environmental good. Her story is inspiring for so many reasons! Listen to it and then check out the beautiful pieces at Another Tomorrow
Why are you searching for your passion? Really think about it. You try to find it because you think that once you find it, you will love your work and finally be happy. What you're searching for is that happiness or fulfillment. Not the passion. And, yet, so many of us are hating the journey there. We think something outside of us is what is going to finally make everything better. But it doesn't work like that. The question isn't "What is my passion so I can be fulfilled?" it is "How can I be fulfilled right now so I can start discovering my passions?" Today on the podcast, I teach you what to work on in order to find fulfillment today. No passion needed.
I am in the thick of my goal setting workshop and I love it. It has gotten me into the groove of talking about goals, so let's keep doing it. We talked last week about not dreaming big enough, not having big enough goals, and really not going after that vision that you want in your life. This week, I want to teach you how to really evaluate whether you're setting the right type of goals. Are the goals you're setting motivating and exciting you? Are they pushing you to grow? Are you having fun while you're doing them? Or are they making you miserable? Are they requiring you to suffer through every action until you reach that final finish line? Let's talk about whether you're setting destination goals or journey goals and why it's so important to know the difference in order to actually accomplish them.
This week, I wanted to talk about the art of dreaming bigger and why it is so important. The reason you aren't clear about what you want in life stems from the fact that you're constantly limiting yourself. You've stopped dreaming. You've settled for what's "realistic" even though deep down you know there is more. Part of finding that dream life is letting yourself set bigger goals to create a clear vision of what you want. You need to allow yourself to want things that seem intangible and then create small, actionable goals to reach them. Let me teach you how.
You’ve spent so much time and energy getting to where you are. You’ve acquired some incredible skills. It seems like such a waste to walk away from it all. But what if you didn’t have to? What if you used your skills in a new way? The problem is that most of us only think inside the box we’ve always been in. You do it how it has always been done.
But, with the internet, that no longer has to be your reality. There are so many ways to use your skills. So many ways to make money. It just requires you to think outside of the box. To figure out how you can take those skills and use them in new ways. Ways that serve you better. That’s exactly what we’re talking about (plus a lot more) on the podcast this week with Damona Hoffman.
Damona spent her career climbing the corporate ladder in Hollywood, holding several creative executive positions at studios like CBS, NBC Universal, and Paramount. But, like many mothers, after she had a child, she realized that the intense hours of her career were no longer what she wanted. After a decade of creating a notable career behind the camera as a TV producer and executive, Damona walked away. As she jumped into her own entrepreneurial journey, Damona used her skills from casting to production in her own business.
She not only became a certified dating and relationship coach but she made herself into an on-air personality. She is a regular contributor on The Drew Barrymore Show, CNN Headline News, The Washington Post, and more. She has an advice column in the LA Times. She’s been featured on various series on the A&E Network.
She also parlayed her skills into becoming a professional podcaster (meaning she gets paid to host a podcast for other people). She is now the host of the I Make A Living podcast for Freshbooks where she interviews people who work for themselves. The podcast provides a space to have candid conversations about what it is really like to make your own living. Damona is the perfect example that walking away doesn’t mean throwing it all away. It means building it on your own terms.
With this being the week entering the New Year, I spend this episode doing a recap of my 2020 year. While we tend to tout all of our successes (and there are plenty of those in this episode), I'm more excited to share all of my failures. As always, I want you to see that you can't get any of the successes if you're not willing to go through a ton of failure. I hope my year is an example of how you can manage both. Happy New Year!
Happy Holidays! I'm taking this week off from the podcast but I'll be back next week. I hope you have a wonderful holiday season!
This week we're talking about the story that you have about yourself and your capabilities. There is a narrative that you have formed based on your past experiences. And, too often, we believe that this narrative is based on facts. It is not. Your brain has ignored a mountain of evidence to keep that narrative afloat. This self-concept is made up of just thoughts that you have about yourself. And the great news is that you can change those thoughts. This week, we talk about why it is imperative to do that and how to get started.
Also, doors are only open for a couple more days for my goal-setting workshop. I would love to have you join. If you want to spend four weeks together and really take some time out of your life to dream and plan, then head to www.quitterclub.com/goals to sign up.
If you've been a long-time listener, then you know I am running a goal-setting workshop in January and it has gotten me thinking about all things goal-setting. So this week, I wanted to do an episode on the difference between your short-term goals and your long-term goals. Because one of the problems I see over and over again with my clients is that they're constantly focused on the short-term goals without any idea as to the long-term vision. This keeps them hustling, running in circles, without getting anywhere. The key is to learn how to set long-term goals that will give you a North Star to make sure you're on the right path while implementing smaller, short-term goals to actually get you there.
In this week's episode, we are tackling people-pleasing. I figured this topic would be perfect for the week of Thanksgiving. As we know, the United States is experiencing a massive surge of COVID cases, and many of us are stuck facing the dilemma of whether or not to see our family. This is a prime example of a moment where we have to choose what is best for our life and the life of those around us. Thanksgiving may not look the same this year, but this is a topic that affects every day of your life in every way. So I think it is still one that you will find useful, even if you are spending the holidays in a less conventional setting.
I am also running a four-week goal setting workshop during the first week of January to kick-off 2021!!
Here's the thing: Most people don't set goals because they know they won't follow through. Setting New Year's resolutions has almost become a joke. But the problem is not setting goals (I can't believe I have to say that). The problem is not knowing how to properly set goals and how to actually follow through.
I want to teach you the techniques that have truly changed my life. I want to show you how to set proper goals, how to make time in your calendar to work on them and how to overcome all of the self-sabatoge that usually gets in the way. If you want to learn how to set and reach any goal, head to www.quitterclub.com/goals to sign up. Doors will open next week.
In this week's episode, we talk about the importance of having a vision for your life. So many of us are walking around aimless, living the same year over and over again. In the words of Robin Sharma: "Don't live the same year 75 times and call it a life." I hope that I can convince you, by the end of this episode, to get going on creating a compelling vision for your life.
I am also running a four-week goal-setting workshop during the first week of January to kick-off 2021!! Here's the thing: Most people don't set goals because they know they won't follow through. Setting New Year's resolutions has almost become a joke. But the problem is not setting goals (I can't believe I have to say that). The problem is not knowing how to properly set goals and how to actually follow through. I want to teach you the techniques that have truly changed my life. I want to show you how to set proper goals, how to make time in your calendar to work on them, and how to overcome all of the self-sabotage that usually gets in the way. If you want to learn how to set and reach any goal, head to www.quitterclub.com/goals to sign up. Doors will open in December.
This week's episode covers the opportunity costs of staying stuck. Opportunity costs are what you give up by foregoing potential alternative routes to choose your given path. I want you to think about the fact that you're are always making a decision. And you're always giving something up for that decision. Oftentimes our brains, like to believe that if we stay stuck, if nothing has changed on the outside, we're just doing what we've always done and we haven't lost anything. But that's not true. In today's episode, I dive deep into what it costs you to keep holding on to your sunk costs in the hopes that you make your decisions from a more intentional place.
I also wanted to let you know that in a couple of weeks, I'm going to open doors for a workshop that I'm doing in January. Throughout my journey, I've completely changed the way I approach setting goals and has changed my life in a very profound way. I want to offer these techniques and coaching you guys. Visit www.quitterclub.com/goals to sign up.
We've arrived at Election Day. And since this day is highly emotional for some people, I wanted to talk a little bit about mindset and how to react to the world around you. Pivotal moments like this can make us feel out of control. In this episode, I want to help you see what you control and what you don't. Focusing on your own thoughts, feelings, and actions is the only way to be able to show up the way you want. So let's start there. If this episode helped you at all, please share it with a friend!
This week we talk about the Sunk Cost Fallacy and how it may be holding you back from your goals. The fallacy points out the irrational ways humans tend to stick with a behavior based on the amount of previous investment (time, money, effort, etc.) rather than what actually serves their goals. So the more you invest in something (ie a career, a relationship, a project, etc) the more likely you are to pursue it even to your own detriment. We are programmed to have an aversion to loss. However, once you know it, you can start spotting when you're doubling down on something that has actually run it's course. This is one of the biggest blocks I see keeping so many people in a career they hate. In this episode, we dive deep into the Sunk Cost Fallacy to help you spot it and move past it to focus on the opportunities ahead of you.
This week, we have the incredible Sarah Truesdell on the show. Sarah went to law school with the dream of becoming a public interest attorney and that's exactly what she did. She spent 8 years doing eviction defense and housing rights litigation and, unlike many of my previous lawyer guests, she actually loved practicing law. However, as many women find, she realized balancing her family with the demands of a legal career was near impossible. She took a break from working in 2016 to stay home with her children. While at home, Sarah dived back into her hobby of baking. Friends began asking if they could purchase baked goods and Sarah started charging. In 2018, she opened Sugar by Sarah and turned her hobby into a business.
However, once COVID hit, the demand for cakes declined. After posting some Facebook Lives of her baking, Sarah was hired by her friend to host a virtual baking class. It was a hit, and her virtual baking classes have been quickly growing ever since. Her story is a wonderful example of the fact that obstacles will always be present in our path but so will opportunities.
Find Sarah here:
- www.instagram.com/sugarbysarah/
- https://www.sugarbysarahla.com/
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On this week's episode, we talk about the duality of life, the good and the bad. Life is always going to throw curveballs at us and we need to deconstruct the idea that we need to be happy all the time. Owning our dissatisfaction and working toward goals that allow for small wins will help us be more fulfilled.
We also have a Find Your Path challenge in October: Sign up here www.quitterclub.com/mindset
This is the last episode in our 3-part series that will help you start managing your mind. This week is all about emotions. While we all realize that we feel emotions every day, we're never taught how to process them. We end up staying stuck because we're so afraid to feel our negative emotions like shame, embarrassment, regret, or discomfort. In this episode, I hope to reframe how you can look at your emotions so that you can start living your dreams.
This week I have Dawn Kelly on the show. I'm excited for this episode, not only because we cover her career journey but also because we delve into a truly important conversation related to today's social climate. Dawn spent decades climbing the corporate ladder to become the department Vice President at Prudential Financial. She is a proven public relations and strategic communications executive.
A major theme of this episode touches on is that oftentimes we believe we have security in corporate America. We believe that businesses have an equal investment in us, but we regularly see individuals with the rug pulled out from under them. Dawn worked for Prudential for 16 years but was blindsided by a layoff in 2015. It left her with an immense amount of grief. Although this tragedy touched many of us, Dawn's experience as a black woman in corporate America is vital to understand. She realized that her race played an immense part in her treatment as well as her abrupt layoff. It's important to listen to and highlight these stories of discrimination and microaggressions to move forward in a positive way. Understanding the gravity of these demeaning actions will help us show up in the world in a highly impactful way. Today Dawn is serving and feeding her community with The Nourish Spot in Jamaica, Queens. She is committed to serving healthy, balanced meals to underserved communities and works to create programs to help build children up. Dawn really is the epitome of a go-getter and true inspiration to us all.
This week I have the incredible Raman Sehgal on the show. As a self-proclaimed recovering marketer and upcoming podcaster, Raman has spent years building a remarkable portfolio. He began his career climbing the corporate ladder with big brands like Proctor & Gamble and Dannon and, later, left the security of corporate America to work at in the startup scene. While we talk about all of his transitions, it's his latest one that I really wanted to highlight on the show. Raman left the startup world to bring his unique perspective to life across his first 3 (of many?) podcasts: "the P&G Alumni Podcast," "Model Minorities," and "Quarantined Comics." These shows share candid conversations that aspire to provide mentorship, solve racism, and debate Superman's management style, respectively. I wanted to have this conversation on the podcast because most of my past guests had already figured out their transitions. With Raman, we get to hear about how he's figuring out this new venture right now, his approach to this new medium, and how he decides which projects to pursue. I thoroughly enjoyed our conversation and hope you gain as much from this conversation as I did.
This week's incredible guest is Emily Giffin. She is a former lawyer and 10-TIME New York Times bestselling author. It wasn't until after law school when she had moved to Manhattan to work in a big law firm to pay back her loans, that she began writing in her spare time and dreamed of becoming a writer. In 2001, she decided to quit and move to London to pursue her dreams full-time. It was there that she started writing her first breakout hit, Something Borrowed,which was turned into a movie that starred Kate Hudson and Jennifer Goodwin and John Krasinski. And the rest, as they say, is history! While I'm so excited to talk to her all about her journey and her incredibly inspiring career as an author, I think her story is such a great example of the power of taking a risk. So often we're paralyzed by what we could lose that we fail to even consider the immense opportunities that we could gain if we just tried. Emily and I talk about how timing and luck has a part in all of our stories. But if she had never taken the chance, if she had never decided to take a risk that most people wouldn't take, she would've given up a career so many only dream of. And what a shame that would have been! In this episode, we dive in to talk about her journey, her new book called The Lies That Bind(it is so good!), and so much more!
This week I am thrilled to have Cher Hale on the show. What I love most about Cher's story is how she demonstrates that we can each find ways, in our own lives and work, to right the wrongs we see in our society. One of the best part about entrepreneurship is that you have the freedom to do things your own way. And that's exactly what Cher is doing!
Cher started out as a waitress on the Las Vegas strip and freelanced on the side. We talk about how she never had a formal PR education but found a fantastic mentor who inspired her to dive headfirst into entrepreneurship instead.
Cher is the founder and director of Ginkgo Public Relations, a company that specializes in amplifying marginalized and underrepresented voices. After working in PR and realizing that the same voices were getting all of the attention, Cher decided to focus her attention on changing that. Her company now aims to reduce inequity in the media landscape, stop the perpetuation of harmful stereotypes, and offer much-needed representation across all sectors.
I'm so honored to have Deborah Chambers on the podcast today to talk about such important topics such as ageism and how we limit ourselves with preconceived notions of what is possible.
Deborah is an advocate and role model focused on challenging the negative stereotypes around aging. She's here to spread the message that it is never too late and you're never too old...a message we wholeheartedly endorse on this podcast!
Stuck in a rut, dreading turning 50, and having worked as a technical writer for the same company for more than 20 years, Deborah was looking for a change. But she never imagined that she'd change her whole life completely in her 50s.
At 53, she applied to a modeling agency, began posting photographs on Instagram featuring her perfectly coiffed hair and impeccable style that garnered the attention of thousands of people. She has since created a platform (over 40K on Instagram and 70K on TikTok) dedicated to showing people that you're never too old to show up as your whole self and to follow your dreams. At 55, she quit her job and went full in with this passion project (and we are so thankful that she did!)
Her platform and her message are not only inspiring and empowering but exactly what we need in a world that glorifies looking young over everything else.
Make sure to check her out here:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deborah__darling/
Website: https://deborahdarling.com/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DeborahDarlingOlderAndBraver
One of the main reasons I started this podcast was to show people stuck in the traditional corporate world just how many ways there were to make a living today. Too many people are stuck because they don't know that there is another way!
Well, today's episode is another testament to all of the possibilities out there. I'm so excited to chat with the incredible Naja Hall about how she went from the entertainment industry to becoming a coach for Step Moms!! Naja is the founder of VIPStepmom, a community for stepmoms, and Blended and Black, the largest blended family community for Millenials. As a Certified Coach and Educator, she understands that the family is THE MOST influential entity of human development, and her work centers around helping individuals and families navigate some of life’s toughest transitions. As the host of a popular podcast, I know I’m Crazy with Naja Hall and author of the Girl, Bye! Book series, Naja’s life’s work is to teach empathy, accountability, and emotional intelligence through the art of story-telling and genuine human connections. She’s a Stepmom of 3. You can find her at blendedandblack.com and VIPStepmom.com
This week, I'm so excited to talk to my friend, Alexis Michaud. In continuing with our spotlight on guests who overcame uncertainty in the 2008 recession, Alexis was laid off from her high-paying job as a lawyer when she was pregnant and the breadwinner for her family! We talk all about how that turned out to be the biggest blessing because it changed her career path.
Alexis was a tax and corporate law attorney for over 18 years in some of the most prestigious positions at large law firms and technology companies. But in 2018, after her father suffered some unexpected health issues, she knew it was time to walk away. She followed her passion for real estate even though everyone questioned her decision to leave such a successful career. Well, Alexis showed that you can be successful doing anything you want when she brought in more income in her first year as a realtor than she ever did as an attorney! In 2020 she decided to combine her legal and real estate skill sets and founded North Advisory Group, a company that acts as COO during a transition and relocation to the tax-free state of Nevada. She is such an inspiration and it's so cool to watch her navigate all the possibility that lies ahead!
"I don't know what to do." I've heard this countless times in working with people stuck in careers they hate. I've been hearing it, even more, the past couple of weeks when it comes to anti-racism work. This thought is simply your fear. Fear of doing something wrong. Fear of upsetting other people. Fear of "wasting" your time. That's it. You've convinced yourself that other people have it figured out and, if you could just find the "right" steps, then you, too, would take them. I want to let you in on a little secret. NO ONE HAS IT FIGURED OUT. Over the past two weeks, I've had a lot of people ask me what I plan on doing with my platform since I've started speaking out about the criminal justice system. I realize that their question assumes that I have a "plan". That I've carefully thought of every step and I'm moving forward with some grand roadmap rather than I saw a need and jumped in to fill it. Just so we're clear: I have zero plan. These past 2 weeks, I've been overrun with anxiety and fear. I have barely slept. And these are some of the thoughts that have been running on a loop in my head: - Who am I to talk about this? - What will people say? - What if I sound like an idiot? - What if I get it wrong? The only difference is that I've spent the past couple of years learning how to manage my mind. I know that those thoughts are just my fear trying to keep me safe (read: stuck). I feel that fear and I do what I want to do anyway. I take the first step without knowing if it is "right". I learn. I pivot. and I keep going. That's it. That's the whole plan.
With all of the protests and uprising after the murder of George Floyd, I didn't want to go back to business as usual. In this episode, I hope to show you that we are all racist because we've been raised in a racist society and, once we can accept that, we can begin to remedy it. I hope to help shift your perspective on how to really examine your own thoughts and start making a change. This is in no way an education on being anti-racist. There are incredible educators that you should follow that have many resources like: Rachel Cargle: https://www.rachelcargle.com/ The Great Unlearn: https://www.patreon.com/thegreatunlearn Layla Saad: http://laylafsaad.com/ Ijeoma Oluo: http://www.ijeomaoluo.com/
Cheers to 100 episodes!! I’m not great at celebrating small wins. My brain loves to just keep pushing forward. Move the goalposts. Focus on everything I haven’t accomplished. And while that serves me in some ways, it often makes me miss the whole journey. So I’m intentionally slowing down and appreciating the process. 100 episodes. 80+ in-depth conversations with incredible people. Almost 2 years of podcasting. My whole life has changed. And that’s worth celebrating. Thank you to everyone who has listened and supported this journey! I love you all. This week I talk about the lessons I've learned through these 100 episodes as well as an update about where my business is heading.
Erin received her law degree from UC Berkeley in 2008 and worked as a lawyer for one year before she was fired. That turned out to be a blessing in disguise. Erin decided to take a leap of faith and pour her life savings into creating a restaurant dedicated to the best food on earth: mac and cheese. Erin is the Founder and CEO of Homeroom. Homeroom has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, New York Times, USA Today, Food Network, Travel Channel, Cooking Channel, and other national media outlets. Homeroom now has over 100 employees and has also received numerous awards for its people-first business practices. Erin authored the best-selling “Mac and Cheese Cookbook,” and business articles for Conscious Company Magazine and the Washington Post.
Here is what we chat about in this episode:
- Why Erin went to law school even though she had wanted to open a cupcake shop
- What happened after Erin was fired from her firm
- How she used her entire life saving to open up a restaurant with virtually no experience in this field.
- How she found herself unhappy after 5 years in her dream job and what she did to fix it.
- What Homeroom is doing now to create more female partners in the restaurant industry and how they’re sharing their successful anti-harassment training policy.
Lindsey started out like many people pursuing a career in the corporate world. Even though she was doing great at her job, it was during the 2008 recession that she realized this wasn't a stable path. She then decided to enter entrepreneurship part-time through a company called Isagenix, a network marketing company which she still currently works with. From that company, she then created Powerhouse Women, an online community, a yearly event, a book, and a podcast. (Whew!). After seeing numerous women in her life stop short of pursuing their own entrepreneurial dreams because of fear and self-doubt, she saw the need for more honest conversations about the ups and downs of entrepreneurship in order to show women that they don't have to have it all together to get started. What I love the most about Lindsey's story is that she sets an example for her community. She didn't wait around for a huge social media following or to have some kind of star-backing, she wrote a book because she wanted to write a book and became a best-seller. She created an event because she saw a need and now it's growing year after year! If you take away one single message from Lindsey's story, let it be this: just start. Whatever it is that you want to do, just start doing it. You never know where that path may lead! Here is what we chat about in this episode:
- How no one actually knows what they're doing and you don't have to do it alone.
- How fulfillment comes from giving yourself time and space to do the things you want to do.
- Why it's important to think about the limitations you're arguing for.
- And so much more!
Here is what we chat about in this episode:
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What the FIRE movement is really about
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How Paula got started on her own journey to financial independence
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How freelancing gave her freedom to travel for over 2 years and the skills to never go back to a “job”
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Where the big opportunities in freelance writing are today
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How she built her rental property portfolio and the resources she offers her community to do the same
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What some possible downsides are to the FIRE movement and how to have the proper discussions to work around those issues
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And so much more!
Our book review for April is Brene Brown’s Rising Strong. The entire premise of the book is how to get back up when life has thrown you down. Given that every one of us will get knocked down in life, learning how to rise and write your own story is one of the greatest skills we can cultivate.
Especially during this uncertain time of a global pandemic, Brene Brown’s insights can help us weather the storm and regain some control.
Here is what we cover in this episode:
- What the 3 steps of Rising Strong include
- Why it’s so important to get curious about your emotions
- Why the messy middle is a non-negotiable
- How to deal with grief
- How to own your story
One of the things that I try to stress on this podcast is the fact that there are opportunities everywhere. As new technologies emerge, entire new industries are born and those industries sprout tons of new jobs and business ideas. My guests today have been taking advantage of just that.
After Airbnb started gaining in popularity, Annette Grant and Sarah Karakaian each saw an opportunity to leverage the platform into a short-term rental business. And they each did it in their own unique way--Annette teamed up with a business partner who invested in the properties while Annette runs the business and Sarah and her husband started by renting out their own properties on Airbnb.
And it was on this mission to share their spaces and live their dreams that Annette and Sarah met at a City Council meeting in Columbus, Ohio, where they were fighting for their right to host these short-term rentals responsibly and legally.
Since then, they knew they would have to find a way to elevate their voice and share what it means to be a host with heart so that having a short-term rental in a community was an asset, not a nuisance.
Aside from managing 20+ properties, Sarah and Annette host a popular podcast all about the short-term rental industry called Thanks for Visiting.
Before their Airbnb endeavours, Annette helped build two businesses from the ground up into multi-million dollar businesses. Her expertise ranges from service-based to e-commerce.
And Sarah spent 14 years in New York City as a musical theatre performer before she hung up her character shoes, packed up her life with her husband, Nick, and 12 lb. cockapoo and moved to the midwest. Inspired by their opportunity to be involved in 8 episodes of an HGTV show, Sarah and Nick knew that working in and around homes was their calling! They flip, stage, and invest in homes with stories all around Columbus, OH.
While the podcast showcases the specific steps and tactics people used to start over in new careers, my goal is to actually demonstrate the mindset that you need to take the leap.
Because without the mindset, all of the tactics in the world won’t help you start over. If you get stuck in the fear and the doubt, you’ll be stuck forever.
Through my own journey and talking with over 90 quitters, I’ve come to realize that the most important mindset shift is in truly understanding that you CAN figure anything out. Once you become comfortable with the unknown, not because you’re certain, but because you’re confident in your ability to figure it out, you become unstoppable.
No one embodies that mentality more than my guest this week, Emily Sexton.
Emily started out on Wall Street as Vice President of Communications and Change Management. Feeling like something was missing, she quit without knowing her next move. When Emily discovered the opportunity to open up a pop-up retail truck that would combine her love of fashion with her desire to support female vendors from developing countries, a cause she was passionate about, she jumped on it.
With no retail experience, Emily leaned on her community to make the pop-up shop a success. A year later, she turned the Flourish Market into a brick-and-mortar shop. And when she was presented with the opportunity to move to a bigger space, she seized that too. But the space was actually too big for just a retail shop. Emily had to figure out what to do with all the extra space. So in the Summer of 2019, she launched The Locality, a co-working space + incubator for 60 female entrepreneurs, with membership spots selling out before construction even started!
And now with the Covid pandemic, when so many businesses are struggling, Emily took only a couple of days to pivot her co-working space into an online membership.
She is such a testament to the fact that opportunities are all around us, if we’re willing to see them. Her outlook and attitude are infectious. And she provides the hope and clarity we need in this time!
What if the secret to your happiness wasn't in getting to the next milestone, or doing a bunch of things that society tells you to do, or accomplishing anything? What if the secret was in undoing all of the BS you were sold? What if the secret was in returning to who you were always meant to be before you were forced to be something you're not? This week on the podcast, I got to talk to Erika Gerdes about how she left the dream career and dream life -- an executive at Google, married with 2 young kids -- to start undoing the facade that she had built around herself. We'll talk about how it took a divorce and quitting a job at the height of her career, and one she actually liked, for Erika to master the Art of Undoing -- a framework that she now uses to help other people. We talk all about how she jumped without a plan while being a single mom of two little girls and the sole breadwinner! Erika is such an incredible example of the fact that you can always go back to who you were always meant to be.
I’m so excited to jump into March’s book club pick, Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic. If you haven’t taken the time to read it, do yourself a favor and pick it up.
I think this book is all the more important during this uncertain time of a global pandemic. Many people are rightfully re-evaluating their life and work.
The entire premise of the book is that we need creativity in order to live the rich, fulfilled lives we so desperately crave. And Liz Gilbert gives us the perfect blueprint to get started.
In this episode, we’ll discuss:
- Why every human is a creative being
- Why we all need creativity for a fulfilled life
- How to ditch the tortured artist stereotype
- How to pursue creativity even if you’re afraid
- How to fold it into your life
- And so much more.
As we head into uncertain economic times, it’s important to look to examples of people who have, not only survived but thrived through similar situations.
We need reminders that, while there are so many things we don’t control, we always control how we show up.
There is no better example of this than my friend, Janelle Copeland.
Janelle had a successful career in leadership and management at large retailers such as Circuit City, AT&T, and Best Buy. But during the 2008 recession, both Janelle and her husband were both laid off from their lucrative 6-figure jobs.
After having to file bankruptcy, Janelle had to find another way.
What she did next is incredible:
- She started the Cake Mamas with her husband's EX (What?!? I know.)
- They quickly grew their in-home bakery to over $10k a month
- She then decided to open up her first brick-and-mortar bakery
- She's run that successful bakery for over 10 years with 15 employees
- She has been featured a number of times on Food Network, even winning the popular Cupcake Wars.
- She has built an incredibly strong brand and business
- She also started a second business coaching and consulting with female entrepreneurs
Janelle's story is such a powerful reminder that sometimes our hardships are true blessings in disguise. That's not to say they're not difficult. But we didn't sign up for “easy” with this life.
It can be incredibly powerful to see how others were able to, not only get through but thrive in tough times.
Janelle's perspective is one we could all use right now.
We’re all feeling scared and uncertain about the future.
I don’t have the answers. But I’m hoping my perspective might quiet those fears a bit.
My advice basically falls into a couple DOs and DONTs.
DON’T:
DON’T take anyone’s advice about all of the things you should be getting done right now while in quarantine.
This isn’t a vacation. A lot of us are panicked and we don’t need to add a layer of shame on top of it because we’re not re-organizing our closets or creating the perfect homeschooling plan for our children.
If you have the bandwidth to use this time to tackle the things you usually don’t have time for, great! Have at it!
But if you don’t, give yourself grace. It’s ok to just be. In our society of hustle, we don’t need to turn a pandemic into a time of productivity.
Let yourself do whatever you need right now and take off the guilt.
DON’T spend all day watching the news.
While I just said you can do whatever you want, that comes with one caveat: you can’t just take in hours and hours of news.
Our brains are evolutionarily wired to seek out all information about possible dangers. But it wasn’t evolved to take in a 24-hour news cycle that gets more ratings the scarier it is.
While you need to stay abreast of what is going on, you don’t need a minute-by-minute update of every person who has died from the virus.
Walk away. Do anything else.
DON’T try to predict the future.
“We suffer more in imagination than in reality.”- Seneca
When our thoughts run unchecked we try to come up with every possible scenario of what can happen. The reality is that we have no idea what is going to happen. Stop trying to control or plan for every possible scenario.
There are tons of factors that we have no control over--the government, how many people self-quarantine, etc. All we are doing in our attempt to control is increasing the amount of time we suffer. Know that you’ll deal with whatever issue comes up.
DO:
DO look at the silver linings-
While this can be hard, mindset work is the most needed in tough times.
I like to think about the Law of Polarity- everything has an equal, opposite side.
We’d never know what happiness was if we didn’t experience sadness. Think about it. How would food ever taste good if you were always full?
So while these events are hard and can be painful, there is another side. Maybe that’s getting time to be with your family. Maybe that’s giving mother nature a break from our constant onslaught. Maybe it’s just changing your perspective to stop worrying about all of the minor things.
Whatever it is, spend time each day focusing on that. No better time than now to start a gratitude practice.
DO look at how other people have thrived in uncertain times.
“You can’t be what you can’t see.” Marian Wright Edelman
It helps us to see others who have come out of tough times. It lets us know that it is possible.
Luckily, we’ve had tons of guests on the podcast who lost their jobs during the last economic recession in 2008 and it turned out to be the best thing that happened to them. Take some time to remind yourself that it’s not always as bad as we think it is.
Episode 2 with Steve Trang
Episode 3 with Erin Wade
Episode 28 with Paula Pant
Episode 61 with Lindsey Schwartz
Everything is cyclical. Humans have gone through these uncertain times over and over again. And we’ll make it out...sometimes much stronger.
DO take care of yourself.
The most important thing is to figure out what you need the most and give that to yourself right now, without shame or blame. Do whatever you need to take care of yourself mentally and physically.
Xoxo
Goli