Taking the Middle Seat: Recent Episodes
Andrea Beck-Lundskow
An interview-style podcast that explores the connection between us all. I think we're all sitting one seat apart right now so I'm taking the middle seat to ask the questions and draw us closer. I know that if we listen and connect, we'll find the magic in the middle seat.
On episode 47 I’m talking to Shannon Cohen, (Facebook, Instagram) difference maker, speaker, writer, entrepreneur and encourager. She is like no other. I’m telling you right now. She hosts her own inspiring podcast called Tough Skin, Soft Heart Podcast. I don’t miss an episode. She a line of merchandise that is so much more than gifts and cards. They are unique pieces that speak to the receiver’s soul and encourage them to shine their light. And, she speaks in venues large and small to let leaders know that they are people with feelings and spirits, to let teams know how to really see each other, and to let organizations know that true equity and inclusion is the only way forward. She is an absolute power house and I love her work so, so much.
Shannon has created and co-created several community spaces that we talk about: Sisters Who Lead, Rockstar Women Brunch, Tough Skin, Soft Heart Community.
Shannon talked about some favorite things: Marco Polo and travel!
You can connect with me on Facebook and Instagram. You can also reach out to me for therapy services at Grand Rapids Specialty Therapy
I’m serving up a 2019 Taking the Middle Seat gift guide! My guests are a treasure trove of gift ideas so I’m looking back over my episodes to help you (and me) get great ideas for spreading love and connection this year!
- Knots of Love - Macrame knot earrings
- The Bandit Zine - Body Posi Pin Pack
- Stronger Than Death by Rachel Pieh Jones
- Toni Rain’s Hair, Body and Massage Creams
- Trades of Hope with Erin Eising - Trove Earrings
- Sacred Self Pathways - Gift Card
- Tree Shrugger membership
- Lady Ace Boogie music and concerts
- Maggie Ann Soap Co. - Lotion Bar
- Derek’s Place donation to Paypal dereksplace1818@gmail.com
- We Are Lit Libro.fm membership
- Grace’s Table donation
- Little Shrines commission
- Your Pretty Pennies Ultimate Financial Planner
- E + L Salon gift certificate
- One-on-one yoga with Emily Martin at Any Body Yoga
- Grandville Avenue Arts and Humanities donation
- Be A Rose donation
- Adored gift certificate
- Shannon Cohen “Girl You Have Greatness in Your Bones” cards
On episode 46, I’m talking to Dr. Marcy Larson, host of the podcast, Losing a Child: Always Andy’s Mom (Facebook). She is a pediatrician, wife and mom to 4 including a daughter, 2 sons and 1 foster son. Her son Andy was killed in a car accident in August 2018. As she navigated life in the days and months after her son’s death, she was looking for a podcast that could speak to her grief and found there wasn’t any out there. So, she started one herself. Her story and the stories of those on her podcast are POWERFUL. If you are grieving or you know someone who is grieving or you know that you’ll be touched by grief as we all will, you will benefit from this podcast and Marcy’s words. I love how Marcy gives listeners permission to cry, to ask for help, to see joy, and to care for others well in their grief.
She talks about a faith-based grief support organization she found very helpful, Starlight Ministries. Marcy writes a really incredible blog as well. I have gleaned so much from her writing and reflection there. I mention a podcast I love, Terrible Thanks for Asking. I also love the podcast Everything Happens.
You can connect with me on Facebook and Instagram. You can also reach out to me at Grand Rapids Specialty Therapy.
On episode 45, I’m talking to Jess Fields with Knots of Love (Facebook, Instagram). She is a macrame artist and teacher, a graphic designer and a health advocate for people with endometriosis, adenomyosis, and polycystic ovary syndrome (Please do your own research. There is plenty of junk information out there). I met Jess when I saw a friend of mine wearing her earrings. They were gorgeous and peachy, super funky and light as a feather… I was in love. After I purchased earrings and an ornament, I looked more at Jess’ website and learned her story weaves together (see what I did there) art, pain, creativity, coping and connection. If you’ve ever felt like you haven’t been heard in a medical setting, you will feel so encouraged by Jess’ story.
Jess mentions a Facebook group she received a lot of support from, Nancy’s Nook Endometriosis Education. She also has her own Instagram account about her endo journey. Jess talks about the term “spoonie.”
Jess will be at 2 of the coolest holiday markets - UICA Holiday Artists Market on December 7 and possibly Made Market on December 14.
So go take the middle seat! I know you’ll find support, advocacy and beauty right there.
On episode 44, I’m talking with Lydia VanHoven-Cook and Courtney Stuart from the Grand Rapids Feminist Film Festival (Facebook, Facebook event, Instagram). This year’s Film Festival will be on October 27 at the Wealthy Theatre. They are in their 6th year and offer a FREE day-long film festival for all ages. The films are all short films, 20 minutes or less, “dedicated to elevating voices and showcasing talent from historically underrepresented groups in mainstream media.” The Film Fest will feature the film Teeth and have a keynote by Joyce Pierpoline. You’ll be able to get a rad t-shirt from Citizen Shirt, enjoy a jillion cool films and listen to panel discussions that span so many topics. They’re also partnering with The Learning Commons at Fountain Street Church.
Lydia mentions her zine, The Bandit Zine (Etsy, Instagram). You’ll LOVE her zines and buttons. Think holiday shopping, people.
Lydia and Courtney mention a few past films that they loved: Le Clitoris and Wrap My Hijab by Mona Haydar. So, get involved! You can volunteer and small and big ways. I think you’ll find your people there.
Lydia and Courtney mention some favorite things that include the show Pose, Instagram account @hetsexplainyourselves, Lizzo, Better Body Image Conference, affinity spaces, animal rescue.
So go to the Film Festival! Take your friends! Take your neighbors! Take the middle seat and I know you’ll find belonging, learning, and connection right there.
On Episode 43 I’m talking to Rachel Pieh Jones (Instagram, Facebook). Rachel is a writer living in Djibouti which is in East Africa, and is bordered by Somalia, Ethiopia and Yemen. Of writing, she says, “I can’t help it.” It is her work. Rachel is originally from Minnesota. She moved with her husband in 2003 and has lived abroad since. She has written several books (Welcome to Djibouti and Finding Home) and many published articles including an interview she did with her daughter that is great! She has a brand new book coming out in October 2019, Stronger Than Death.: How Annalena Tonelli Defied Terror and Tuberculosis in the Horn of Africa. Please purchase it. It sounds FASCINATING. Rachel also writes the kind of newsletter you will WANT to read, Stories From the Horn.
Until September 22, you can enter to win a hard copy of her book. Here are the details… “Go to Net Galley and download the book https://www.netgalley.com/catalog/book/162744 **Write a review and post it publicly by SEPTEMBER 22. Blog, newsletter, Facebook.
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Rachel talks about living cross-culturally and cross-spiritually. Rachel is so wise and wonderful. I cherish her social media posts. I think her perspective is so rich with nuance and complexity because she has such a depth and breadth of knowledge. Since we recorded, Rachel has shared that her thyroid cancer has returned so she sometimes speaks to living with cancer in her writings as well. I know Rachel would love your prayers, and maybe even more than that, she would love for us to be curious about each other, care for each other, and honor each other as I know she encourages us to do.
Some of my favorite resources that go along with this conversation are: No White Saviors, an Instagram account that talks about white privilege and white saviorism. (If you are a person who holds white privilege and decide to follow this account, please LISTEN, listen, listen. Do not comment.) Imperfect Courage, a book by Jessica Honegger (Episode 19)
If you’d like to follow along with what I’m up to, head to Facebook or Instagram. I’m also a therapist at Grand Rapids Specialty Therapy. Until next time, keep taking the middle seat.
On Episode 42, I’m talking with Toni Rain (Facebook). She does 1,000,000 amazing things INCLUDING writing a book called I Was Supposed to be Nothing, creating her own skin, hair and body products, and modeling. She talks about leaving a written legacy for her nieces and nephews and showing them how there is strength in vulnerability. I absolutely LOVED talking with Toni and speaking into the spaces that people shy away from. We talk about sex as self care (clutch your pearls), gender roles, relationships, friendships, race, business and so much more. The short chapters are GREAT for a quick daily inspirational read or a book you read with a group of friends. You will love her and her book! (and keep an eye out for the next book, hint, hint)
Toni lives her life to the fullest and loves so many things. She loves meditation, juicing (local people head to Malamiah Juice Bar!), herbal tea, walking in nature. Her products are available at local shops Nourish Your Curls and Reflections so go grab them and pamper yourself. I also mention a podcast that I love, Therapy for Black Girls. It’s SO great! If you’re looking for a therapist, TBG offers a great directory too.
On Episode 41, I’m talking to Erin Eising. She is a mom, adventure seeker, therapist and entrepreneur. She does so many things, we could only scratch the surface. She’s a representative for Trades of Hope (Facebook, Instagram) which empowers women around the world by partnering with artisan businesses to sell gorgeous fair trade and ethically made accessories and gifts (see my FAVE item here). Connect with her to shop or set up an event. You’ll learn and get cute stuff. Win. Win.
Erin is also a therapist. She loves working with children, teens and parents. She especially loves teens that seem to have challenging behavior. She connects with the teen and encourages the parents which we ALL need! She’s a wealth of experience and she connects so well with her clients through her authenticity and humor. Check out her therapy practice at Counseling Center of West Michigan.
But wait, there’s more… Erin sits on the board of Derek’s Place, A Recovery Cafe. You’ll remember this rad organization from Episode 36 with Teresa Adkison. Erin is a huge advocate for this organization and would LOVE for you to check out their upcoming family event. Get all the details here.
Erin’s favorite things include her son Riley (who you might hear on this episode), Caramel Marvel from Biggby, and travel!
I hope you learn a ton from Erin and I hope you reach out to her. Refer your teens, your friend’s teens, your neighbors who are teens to her. Set up a Trades of Hope event. Attend the Derek’s Place event this weekend. You’ll be taking hte middle seat and I know you’ll fnd adventure and authenticity and magic, right there.
On Episode 40, I’m talking to Becky Haderer, owner of Sacred Self Pathways (Facebook, Instagram). She is an innate traditions and well woman healer provider. She helps women align with their soul and move from surviving to thriving. She utilizes ancient traditions to help women access the wisdom that resides in all of us. She offers services for alignment that can help women stay accountable and connected to practice rituals and rhythms that raise their vibration. Becky is also a post partum doula and offers a a variety of services that make women in the post partum phase feel supported and cared for including healing ceremonies. Becky also talks about yoni steaming which may be new for listeners but stay open. You’ll learn so much! Becky is a Reiki provider. You’ll hear the calm in my voice at the beginning of the interview and that is 100% due to a Reiki session right before we recorded. Becky’s energy and love is incredible. I would love for you to connect to her and learn from her.
Becky’s favorite things include her coach Nova Wightman and Nova’s book Awake & Aligned, Unleash Your Heart Healing & Empowerment Circle, putting her feet on the ground in nature, real people, playing with her kids, water, and watching TV in bed with her husband
Remember to follow Becky and reach out to her for all of her amazing services. And go take the middle seat! I know you’ll find wisdom and healing, right there.
On Episode 39, I’m talking to Marta Johnson. She is the creator of Treeshrugger (Facebook, Instagram) which offers programs and community that help us align our desire to help the environment and our complex lives. Treeshrugger is “…here to tackle the gap between now and what's next for people that care about the planet but aren't seeing those values in their habits and decisions.” Marta talks about what ripples we can all create to make a tidal wave of change. I love how she talks about improvements over perfection.
She loves a good mason jar (of course she does!) and running. She clearly loves people and her Eastown community. She’s the absolute real deal and I know you’ll love her! Happy listening and go take the middle seat!
On Episode 38, I’m talking to Lady Ace Boogie (Facebook, Instagram). She is a hip hop artist, community leader, collaborator, storyteller, and all around inspirational, incredible human. Can you tell I adore her? She is a deep well of experience and wisdom and love that is all rooted in her history and path. If you haven’t checked out her music, you are absolutely going to want to follow her. The video you need to watch IMMEDIATELY is You’re Magic. It is impactful for absolutely every age and stage and person.
UICA event Off the Wall is coming up on March 23! Lady Ace Boogie will be performing along with other area artists at this fundraising event for UICA programming. There will be food and drinks and eclectic arts. You should go!
Check out another event on July 20 at The Pyramid Scheme, Lady Ace Boogie Presents: A Dope Ass Lineup.
Lady Ace Boogie has another cool event coming up in August, 2019, The Michigan Framily Reunion.
Lady Ace Boogie talks about her wife and…. oh my goodness. The way she speaks of the love she has for her wife will have you all up in your feels. I could not stop smiling hearing about her relationship and connectedness and safety within her marriage. She mentions the Blue Bridge and Love Wins.
This episode taught me yet again… you’ll never be disappointed by taking the middle seat. There is connection and wisdom and magic right there.
On Episode 37, I’m talking to Maggie McGuinness with Maggie Ann Soap Co. (Facebook, Instagram). Our conversation is like the very best memoir you’ve ever read complete with a gorgeous storytelling, perseverance and resilience. Maggie talks about her history of substance use disorder and mental health issues. She also talks lovingly about her family and their struggles and triumphs with the same diseases. Maggie has an incredible family of her own and a very cool soap business. Everything she does is an expression of love for herself, her family, her community and the world.
Maggie is on the board at Cherry Health. I’d love for you to follow the link and learn more about Cherry Health’s comprehensive services. She also mentions ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences), a study of how childhood trauma can affect a person throughout their lifetime.
I mention one of my favorite podcasts called Terrible, Thanks for Asking. Check. It. Out. If you have ever gone through a hard time, if you’re going through a hard time, if you have a friend/family member/neighbor/adjacent human going through a hard time, you’re going to want to listen.
Now first, go buy some soap!!! Maggie Ann Soap is the absolute best thing to have in your bathroom to impress the socks off your grubby guests or the very best thing to send to a friend or the very cutest thing to give to a new neighbor or the coolest party favor. She makes every product with care and intention. And it’s not just bar soap. She has lotions and hair care and beard care and bath bombs. Its the best. And second, go take the middle seat! Ask people questions and listen and ask again. I promise you’ll feel the magic in the middle seat.
On Episode 36 I’m talking to Theresa Adkison, the founder of Derek’s Place (Facebook). Theresa talks about her son Derek from his rambunctious boyhood, through the ups and downs of his adolescence, to his adulthood as a father and hard worker. Through the whole story, she talks about how substance use disorder was also part of his story. Derek lost his battle with addiction in January 2018.
I cannot tell you how honored I feel that Theresa trusted me with her story. She is an incredible person who walks with grief and loss everyday. She has chosen to use her story to help others and has big dreams for Derek’s Place, a Recovery Cafe. I know you’ll want to support her in this work. Derek’s Place is modeled on a Recovery Cafe in Seattle. Theresa wants to create a space for people who struggle with homelessness and substance use disorder where they feel seen and loved.
Theresa talks about a book she loves called Read It Till You Believe It. She carries this powerful little book around with her. It would be the perfect gift for someone you know experiencing loss and grief. She also likes the boo You Are Enough. If you resonate with Theresa’s story, you might want to connect with Families Against Narcotics.
Theresa talked about her favorite things including getting a pedicure, spending time with family and friends, traveling, her grandchildren and being near the ocean. She also talked about how helpful art therapy has been through I Light Art Therapy Studio.
Theresa’s story is so powerful. I hope you’ll listen to each and every word of her story because there is someone you know that is also living the stress and grief and loneliness of substance use disorder. Take the middle seat! They need you to see them and listen to them.
On Episode 35, I’m talking to DaNay Tossey, owner of Cornerstone Coffee (Facebook, Instagram) in McBain, MI. In a town of less than 1,000 residents, DaNay saw a need for a space to connect. She has seen the magic that happens when you create a welcoming place of acceptance, openness, and…. COFFEE!
DaNay is not only a mama to 6 kids, a business owner, a physical therapy assistant, and a connector… she’s also a living kidney donor. I LOVED hearing about her experience as a living donor. If you’re interested in living donation you can reach out to me. Living donation is one of my favorite things to talk about. You can also check out the local program at Mercy Health or information at the National Kidney Foundation.
I feel like meeting DaNay was such a wonderful surprise. She is a bright light in her community and she will be a bright light in your world. Follow her on all the socials and go pick up a copy of The Turquoise Table to read at a table when you’re sipping coffee at Cornerstone Coffee or at your favorite coffee shop.
On episode 34, I’m talking to Kendra McNeil, owner of the online bookstore We Are Lit (Facebook, Instagram). Kendra is an avid reader and an incredible resource for all things books. We Are Lit is a stunning and carefully curated collection of multicultural books. Kendra highlights books from young adult, to sci-fi, to historical fiction, to nonfiction and everywhere in between. Her love of books is apparent in every aspect of her business.
Kendra talked about how she jump started her business after a conversation with Linda Otterbridge with HASU (Hook a Sister Up). Since then she has gotten out of her introvert ways to do many events and pop up shops. You can find her regularly at the Downtown Market.
Another way to connect to We Are Lit is through Libro.fm. This is an audiobook service that you can subscribe to AND support a local bookstore. I love this so much. Be sure to choose We Are Lit as your local book shop! If you’re local to GR and looking for a book club, check out Women Who Read. Kendra and Toresa Blakely from In Life Now Talk Media started the group and it is going strong.
Kendra talked about one of her favorite book shops, Source Booksellers in Detroit. On her last visit, she picked up My Ideal Bookshelf (If you order, make sure you order from We Are Lit!).
Kendra is doing a story time at the Dream Big Fair that is put on by the Dream Big Sister Circle. This event is May 4.
Kendra loves purchasing special things from women business owners. She loves Rock Candy Earrings & Things by Della Marie Levi. Della made her a personalized wine tumbler that says “bookish” on it. So cute! Kendra also loves wine, and live music especially if said wine and music are on vacation, travelling with her friends or family.
On Episode 33 I’m talking to Rachael Kaminski, alternative hair stylist and owner of Confidence Beyond Hair Loss (Facebook, Instagram). Rachael is an incredible hair stylist working in the area of alternative hair (wigs, toppers etc.) and hair loss. She developed an awareness of the devastation and negative self talk that can result from hair loss after she went through treatment in 2017 for Hodgkins Lymphoma. She now serves men and women in her home-based salon with acceptance and care.
I learned so much from Rachael. She talked about the myriad of reasons that men and women might lose their hair including post-pregnancy, thyroid and auto-immune disorders, alopecia, cancer, scarring, and thinning. Rachael also mentioned a great resource through the American Cancer Society called Look Good, Feel Better.
Rachael talked about her favorite things including a glass of wine in front of the fire place, her pitbull Kira, spending time with girlfriends and travel. She loved her pottery class at the Holland Area Arts Council, adult coloring books, crafting and DIY home decor.
Go take that middle seat, my dear listeners!
On Episode 32, I’m talking to Olivia Fitzpatrick of Liv Styled (Facebook and Instagram) and Amber Brandt, The Coziness Consultant (Facebook and Instagram). They are sisters who have made it their life’s work to connect people, inspire people, and love people. Olivia is a rad stylist with impeccable style and an incredible gift to make humans feel amazing. Amber works in interior design and has approximately a zillion ideas to create welcoming spaces that elevate everyone who enters them. You’ll hear us laugh A LOT and I’m telling you right this minute, I love these women to pieces. They work in spaces that could be considered surface or frivolous but they know that their work is all about connection and love.
Olivia and Amber collaborate to create events called Bright + Becoming Events. I attended their first event and that’s where I just knew they had a special magic that I hadn’t seen before. Their spring event is April 25!! Follow Bright + Becoming to get the details as soon as they’re up. I KNOW this event will sell out quickly.
They also have A Modern Wedding Event coming up on March 23 at Mod Bettie. Olivia and Amber are the keynote speakers!! If you are planning a wedding, bless you. Almost 19 years in to my marriage, I cannot even imagine planning a wedding with hashtags and themes and creativity and organization. I am certain that you’ll love this event if a wedding event is on your horizon.
Olivia and Amber talked about their favorite things including candles, cheap mascara, and dance parties at home!!
Taking the Middle Seat is officially 1 year old! As I reflect on this past year, I am so grateful for all that the podcast has given me. Chief among those gifts is the gift of connection. Listeners, if you’re looking for genuine connection, put. yourself. out. there. Just one tiny step will do it. I promise. Humans are desperate to be heard and seen in this time of division so be that person that does the seeing and the hearing. Be the person that takes the middle seat!
On Episode 31, I’m talking to Lisa Anderson, the founder of Grace’s Table (Facebook, Instagram), an organization that serves young mothers ages 13-24 in the areas of spiritual exploration, parenting, adolescence, career and education. Lisa founded the organization through a desire to serve young moms; an experience that is near to her heart because she experienced motherhood for the first time at age 17. Lisa is an incredible example of service, perseverance, and unconditional love.
Listen closely for the story of how Lisa found Grace’s table at a garage sale held by a woman named Grace. How can we be a Grace to someone in our lives?
Lisa has always dreamed BIG for Grace's Table and the dream she’s working on right this second is A Space for Grace. Grace’s Table needs to the WHOLE community to rally around this. You can learn all about this campaign to secure a gorgeous house surrounded by beautiful greenspace that will provide an environment that can really care for every aspect of young mothers and their children. I invite you to join me in donating financially to this cause. We ALL benefit from young women being made to feel whole and wanted.
Lisa talks about Chelsea’s story and you can see that here. I LOVE lovety LOVE the idea that Grace’s Table is all about paying it forward.
If you’re looking for a way to connect to your neighborhood, check out The Turquoise Table. It could be one way to get started. Need a recipe to feed a crowd that will make you feel like a connection rockstar? Check this out.
Lisa mentioned some favorite things: Diet Coke, charcuterie boards (Squibb is my fave place for a cheese board), and lazy rivers. She also mentioned loving her time in therapy each week. Yassss! I love that. #shoutouttotherapy
Remember to give a little or a lot to A Space for Grace! What a great way to make an impact and support women, community, and beauty for all. Until next time, remember to take the middle seat. I know you’ll find magic and meaning there.
On Episode 30, I talk to Dustin Cornett. He and his wife Mai own the Chocolat Inn and Cafe (Facebook and Instagram) in Beattyville, KY a small town in Eastern Kentucky (census stats). My family and I visited our extended family in Booneville, KY this past summer and decided to stay at Dustin and Mai’s inn (in the East and West Berlin rooms). I talk honestly in our interview about my assumptions and stereotypes before I went there. And Dustin talks about how he didn’t feel like he fit into the area even when he was growing up there. Dustin and Mai have been around the world and he talks about what brought them back to Beattyville. One of my favorite parts of Beattyville is the Woolly Worm Festival. I love a kooky festival!
Dustin talks about some of the natural gems around the Inn like the Red River Gorge and Daniel Boone National Forest with the Natural Bridge. If you’re into rock climbing or hiking, you absolutely need to visit! There is a really yummy restaurant there called Red River Rockhouse. The fries were legit. He also talks about being in Palau and how that experience made him view his home differently. He also mentions his wife’s home town of Osaka.
Our conversation really highlighted for me how we have become such a divided country. Whether those divides are geographical, technological, racial, political, or ideological they are divides we must work on. And I would argue, this can really only be done by listening, remembering that everything is nuanced, every person’s experience matters, and by taking the middle seat.
On Episode 29, I’m talking to Monica Stegeman, an artist at Little Shrines (Facebook and Instagram). Monica calls her art “found object assemblage.” You can see a piece we talk about here. She talks about how she’s always been an artist, even in childhood. From coloring with crayons, to collecting beautiful treasures in her closet, to finding her confidence. From creating one-of-a-kind valentines, to helping people heal through her found object art. You’ll hear how Monica has gone on a journey with her art and how’s she’s now ready to invite you to do the same.
Monica says, “Today my shrines are out of my closet and lit from within. They are kindled with my longing to give credence to feelings and needs. They’re a quest for order and meaning.”
Monica has created a space in her home to host workshops. You guys. The energy in that space is so peaceful and full of possibility. She has bins and boxes and buckets of found objects. It is like a playground for processing and healing. Follow her to sign up for her workshops.
Her favorite things include Embody GR, a veggie smoothie that includes celery, cucumber, green apple, lemon, ginger and kale (YUM!), and the Cascade Peace Park (this is a repeat guest favorite so I need to go there!).
People and movements where we can pay privilege forward (these are my favorites but there are many many many more. Find what resonates with you, challenges you, activates you and pay for it):
Lesle’ Honore’ - author of Fist & Fire
We Are Lit- multicultural bookshop
Bellamy Shoffner - writer and founder of Hold the Line Magazine
Leesa Renee Hall - author, facilitator, social historian, and creative word artist. Join her Patreon group here.
So, if Monica’s work and story resonates with you, sign up for her workshops, commission a piece of work from her, connect with her art. I loved taking the middle seat next to her. There was absolutely magic and healing there. I’ll be back soon with another episode of Taking the Middle Seat.
On Episode 28, I’m talking to Jennifer DiGennaro with Nourished Energy (Facebook and Instagram). As there is so much diet culture swirling around us especially this time of year, Jen feels like the perfect oasis. She speaks to how connection, relationships and healing are so needed; not necessarily the next diet or new way of eating. One of my favorite things she said was, “Let’s get out of the edges.”
She is a holistic licensed psychotherapist and couples counselor. She works with people, “Strengthening relationships to self, body & each other.” Her areas of focus include chronic dieting, chronic stress and binge eating disorder. She is a certified intuitive eating counselor and certified body trust provider and works in modalities such as EMDR and Reiki. Jen works from a Health at Every Size perspective. Her website has so much great information on all of her work so head there to learn all the things. You can find even more information about Body Trust at BeNourished.org. I love how she talks about Body Trust as l i b e r a t i o n. Jennifer mentions THE BOOK on intuitive eating. Here it is.
Jennifer talks about her Holistic Nourishment Assessment and it’s FREE. Grab it at her website!
Jennifer talks about lots of favorites: Renfrew Center eating disorder conference, this TED talk, yoga at Lotus Jo’s, Tara Brach’s talks and her books, and epsom salt baths and Cascade Peace Park.
On Episode 27, I’m talking to Tara Jones, owner of Your Pretty Pennies (Tara on Facebook and Instagram). She is a financial success coach, entrepreneur, and single mom. You will hear her tell her powerful story of “pressing the reset button.” Honestly, I’ve never identified with a financial planner or financial coach of any kind. Taking the middle seat next to super organized, planner, dollars and cents types has me quaking in my boots! Tara is on a whole different level. She reaches out to everyone’s soul and speaks a language that makes sense for everyone to beautify their lives in their own unique way.
Tara has so many services you’ll want to check out. She has published the Ultimate Financial Planner, a customizable 12 month planner. She coaches at the Financial Reset Online Academy, a comprehensive online curriculum to “Demolish Debt. Master Your Money. Create Financial Freedom.” She also provides 1-on-1 coaching if you are getting serious about manifesting the financial life you want. Tara is a sought after speaker including my personal favorite, Young Money: 5 Things to do with a Paycheck, a workshop for teens. You guys! Can you imagine if you had that workshop as a teenager!??!! How awesome!
She’s also hosting an event coming up really SOON, January 5! Its called The Ultimate Financial Vision Board Workshop. I’m going to be there and I want you to be there too! I am absolutely certain Tara will help you start your 2019 with a clear vision and plan. I have never made a vision board (or a budget… shhh) so I am totally geeked to be treating myself to this gift. Sign up at the link above!
Tara’s favorite things include her black boots from H&M. These are some cute ones I found. In a recent video Tara also rocks a faux leather skirt and that looks a lot like this and it is one of my favorite things. I’m telling you right now. She also loves the Cranberry Woods candle from Bath & Body Works. She also loves homemaking including ironing and loading the dishwasher. And she’s a huge advocate for therapy for everyone!
I know that Tara is going to be the voice in your head calling you higher in 2019. She is incredible. So dance and sashay into 2019 with this episode playing and remember to take the middle seat! I know you’ll find your very own magic and purpose right there waiting for you.
On Episode 26 I’m talking to Nichole Beiner, an attorney, diversity consultant and community builder. She has a gorgeous presence online at Nichole Gabrielle (Instagram, Facebook) and at Melanin and Moxie (Web, Instagram, Facebook ) which is a space specifically for women of color.
Nichole is navigating living with a chronic neurological disorder and we talk a lot about how having an “invisible” illness can be so challenging. I know many listeners will resonate with her story of strength and struggle. She talks honestly about how privilege, community, vulnerability, and connection impact her journey.
I mention another woman I follow that has informed the way I see my own privilege, Rachel Cargle. Other women I love learning from in the online space are Vilissa Thompson, Leesa Renee Hall, and Layla Saad.
Nichole’s favorite things include Reina Pomeroy (lots of guests have raved to me about Reina’s programs!), movies, baking, The Great British Baking Show, tea, cozy blankets, books (memoirs!) and her husband.
She has a great gift guide up right now so check that out! Remember to check out our Taking the Middle Seat Gift Guide too.
I am 100% certain Nichole is going to change the world. She speaks truth to power. She shines light where it is needed. She is incredible and I want you all to follow her right this minute.
I’ll be back soon with another episode but until then, take the middle seat! I promise you’ll find some holiday magic there.
My sister, Gretchen, and I are giving you a gift guide like no other. And by that I mean, it is not super organized, it doesn’t touch on every category, and the list is mostly things that Gretchen and I want to receive. Having said that, I think there are some awesome things on this list! Women-owned! Minority-owned! Locally-owned! Ethical businesses!
**Real quick.. a few other gift guides I love… Jen Hatmaker 2018, Jen Hatmaker 2017, Big Boo Cast
I have found THE BEST lipstick. The Lip Bar! My fave is the liquid matte style. But if you’re a traditional lipstick gal or a gloss gal, The Lip Bar has you covered. My fave safe color is Unimpressed. My fave take-a-risk color is Crown-Me. These are not animal tested and vegan. And The Lip Bar is a Black-owned, woman-owned business based in Detroit. Love it!
Gretchen is forever devoted to drugstore cosmetics. She loves Morphe lipstick. Check out the cute packaging. We both love cute packaging. I’ve been trying to get her to try BeautyCounter. I love this company and for a really cool gift, I love giving the eyeshadow palettes especially if you’re giving to a young person just starting to navigate makeup. If you’re wanting to really pamper someone on your list, give them the Cleansing Balm. Swoon.
I know there is an artisanal soap around every corner but I’m telling you, Maggie Ann Soap Co. is in a league of their own. This is a woman-owned business local to Grand Rapids. My favorite products are the Mermaid Lagoon soap, Chill Pill bath bombs, and Dog Shampoo bar. These are perfection for gift giving and stocking stuffers. You can also pick them up at the Bridge Street Market.
Gretchen loves Boll and Branch bedding. I know you have ratty ol’ sheets you’ve been meaning to switch out so if you’re gifting someone else or yourself, these sheets look divine.
My next recommendation is for all things Shannon Cohen. She is an incredible leader and motivator and has a whole line of cards, journals, and prints that will make any gift recipient feel seen and heard. I think they’re perfect for your co-workers, friends, 20-somethings. Really anyone. I love them so much!
Gretchen’s next recommendation is for a big splurge super special gift. It is a bag from B. May bags. These are gorgeous leather bags. Here’s Gretchen’s fave (boring) and my fave (exciting).
Up next is We Are Lit. I cannot get enough books and locally owned, woman-owned independent bookstore books are the very best. We Are Lit is a curated collection of multicultural books but Kendra, the owner, can order any book she doesn’t already have in her collection. Just message her! The books will come wrapped in brown paper and love. She also has an audio book service called Libro.fm. So your traditional and audio book lovers are both covered.
We both love businesses that give back and Gretchen is recommending a restaurant in Traverse City that does just that. The Good Bowl. Lots of you travel to the Traverse City area or know someone there so check them out or send your up north loved one a gift card.
Two more local GR businesses that I love are Liv Styled and Polished Nail Bar and Spa. Liv is a closet magician and personal stylist. She does all things style related and is the nicest human. You could give absolutely anyone the gift of Liv’s services and you’ll be a gift-giving hit. Polished is the coolest nail place and would be the perfect place to get your fave gal a gift card. Branch out and support a local business!
The next recommendation is still mine because I’m the host and I can just keep going… Shanalee Hampton makes the coolest stitched art for your activist, empowered, bad ass friend. Her hand-stitched art says the things we want to say! This one is one of my favorites.
And I’m on a roll… My next recommendation is Chaotic & Collected. This woman-owned shop makes handmade garlands and party decor. She has all of the usual things (birthday, holiday, etc.) and so many more fun things that you never knew you needed. Check out her site and I know you’ll find something you need.
We’re headed back to a fashion pick… Everlane. Gretchen loves their cashmere crew sweater and their high wasted skinny jeans, and their black suede kitten heels. Everything at Everlane is made with ethical business practices and fair wages. You can see the actual factories that make the items right on their site. Gretchen mentions another fave cashmere sweater from Uniqlo.
I’m coming back with a book recommendation that you could gift to a kiddo or grown up alike. It is called Modern Herstory. It is jam packed with 70 world changing women, girls and non-binary people who have shaped history. I have LOVED sharing this book with my kids because I can introduce them to world-changers and educate myself on these amazing people. It is a gorgeous book with beautiful illustrations and would be at home on a bedside table or coffee table.
And the last gift is the Because of Them We Can Box. This box launches in the next few days so follow the link to get signed up for updates on when it is available. Every month, your kiddo can get a box in the mail (they love mail!) all about Black History and Excellence. Love this!
I also talk about donating to causes in honor of someone on your list. I would love this as a giftee! Two of my favorite organizations are Together Rising and Donors Choose.
So there you have it. I could make gift recommendations for days! Let gift giving be a source of connection this year. Don’t make it a drag or just get something because you think you have to. Do it up right with meaningful gifts and if actual gifts aren’t in the budget, just take the middle seat. Make someone feel seen and heard. I promise you’ll both feel the gift and the magic in the middle seat.
On Episode 24, I’m talking to Topsie VandenBosch, a business mindset coach for female entrepreneurs. (Topsie on Facebook and Instagram) She is a private practice therapist and entrepreneur. And she is a firecracker and motivator. I could not love her more! I love how she speaks truth and encouragement to get us out of our stuck spaces.
Topsie’s tips for maintaining a great mindset heading into the holiday season:
Remember that you will be ok no matter the season. Keep a mindset centered on abundance and not fear.
Recognize that it is ok to slow down. You don’t have to keep up with the hustle and bustle that is around you. You don’t have to!
Remember it is ok to NOT buy all of the things. Stay within your means.
Topsie’s tips for maintaining boundaries at the holiday season:
Don’t spend time with people who drain you (or limit your time) even if they’re family.
Recognize that every time you say yes to something, you’re saying no to something else. Don’t say yes out of obligation.
Topsie mentions Side Hustle Pro podcast. If you have a little baby side hustle and want some encouragement, it just might be for you. I’ve also found a lot of encouragement through GR Boss Babes and Grand Rapids Women Who, local GR groups of rad women.
If you need more Topsie-on-a-podcast-fun, be sure to catch her on Balanced Bites episode 374.
Topsie’s favorite things include an iced matcha green tea latte with almond milk from Starbucks (I heart her specificity here), The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k by Mark Manson, The Haunting of Hill House on Netflix (I’m going to take her word on this. Horror - EEEK!), My Favorite Murder podcast (we’re going to the live show together!!!!), Jenna Kutcher’s podcast, and Skinny Confidential podcast. Topsie also treats herself to cold-pressed juices because they’re so freaking delicious. She loves Bodhi Tree Juice Co. and Malamiah Juice Bar.
Go take that middle seat all holiday season long!
On Episode 23, I’m talking to Sarah Jean Anderson. She is an artist, comedian, event host, mentor and musician. She has the best energy and I could not wait to edit this episode and get it out to you! You will love her!
Sarah Jean is a part of two comedy troupes, Comedy Coven (Comedy Coven on Facebook) and Funny Girls (Funny Girls on Facebook). Go follow them and watch their videos and attend their events! And… if you love to watch live comedy, Funny Girls is opening a comedy club called Comedy Project (Comedy Project on Facebook) so stay tuned.
Sarah Jean is one of the incredible mentors and leaders at Girls Rock Grand Rapids. I talk about Girls Rock absolutely all. the. time. because it is the most magical space for girls to be. It is a land of possibility and joy and courage and Sarah Jean exemplifies that.
She also mentors kids at the Creative Youth Center. Her story about Orchard View Elementary publishing center brought back so many memories. We talk a lot about our early forays into writing. Basically writing gold.
Sarah Jean said her favorite job is to host events and she is amazing at it! She hosts trivia night at the Apartment Lounge and at Maggies. You can also hire her to host your events!
I’ve just scratched the surface of what Sarah Jean does! She also performs burlesque with Super Happy Fun Time and Shimmy Shack Burlesque. She’s a musician with The Fancy Restaurants.
Sarah Jean’s favorite things include Palace of India, Curry Kitchen, her dog Polka and her boyfriend who co-founded Dog Story Theater, the weather, the Thriller Chiller Film Festival, burlesque including her friend Vivacious Miss Audacious, The Simpsons (her tattoo is from season 7, episode 14), the movie Mother, her best friend, coffee, Vander Mill Cider, and Sword and Scale podcast. I think I missed a few…. oh, she loves Grand Rapids’ West side and the Midwest. Her favorites abound.
Sarah Jean is absolutely incredible and I know you’ll love her interview. I’ll be back soon with another episode and until then, keep moving in to hear the magic in the middle seat.
On Episode 22, I’m talking to Lauren Taylor who is running for State Representative in Michigan’s 86th district (district map). She calls herself the a “democrat for common ground,” and she is exactly that. She seeks common ground when most people would give up. I loved hearing about her journey to run for public office. No matter your political label, I think you’ll love hearing Lauren’s passion and emotion and drive to make our world a better place for EVERYONE.
Follow Lauren on Facebook and Instagram. My favorite thing about following Lauren on social media is the pictures of her constituents with their top issues written on her signature white board. So many issues matter to ALL of us when someone actually stops to ask.
Lauren loves her chickens! Aren’t chickens great? I don’t have any but I do love them. Two of my neighbors have backyard chickens and I think they’re so rad.
Lauren also talks about getting involved as a way to stay positive and stay connected. If Lauren really resonates with you, CONTACT HER. I know she would love that!
I have found that connecting to causes helps me stay positive and I’ll list a few places I’ve found lately: Swing Left allows you to make one donation that will be split evenly among close Democratic races. Many are women and/or people of color who are running for office. Rachel Cargle is raising money to fund therapy for women and girls of color. She is also a leader I’m listening to. We Are Lit is my source for great books that make me think and I love supporting this woman-owned small business.
Keep taking the middle seat, listener. You, and the world, will be so happy you did.
On episode 21, I’m talking to Sarah Hartley, Editor in Chief of Holl & Lane Magazine. She describes the magazine by saying, “This is a revolution to show women, you are perfect as you are and there are other women just like you who have been standing right where you feel you are right now.” A REVOLUTION!! Yes!!! Soak in the whole Holl & Lane manifesto here.
The next issue of Holl & Lane is coming out Tuesday, October 16! And what exact subject do we need right now? Sarah knew we’d need this. It’s all about IMPACT. Subscribe right this minute. You’ll be so glad you did!
Follow Holl & Lane on Facebook and Instagram. Sarah and Jess craft gorgeous social media posts. I also just discovered that Jess has a rad business called Chaotic & Collected where she creates handmade party decor. So cool! If you’re a writer, check out H&L Writes too!
I love Sarah’s idea of creating a “Sunshine Folder!” I keep a pile of cards that I’ve received in my desk drawer. So fun to look at those on the hard days.
Sarah’s favorite things include This is Us (I think I’m the only human who does not watch this), Armchair Expert podcast, photography, and Chatbooks.
Go take the middle seat, dear listener! You'll love the magic you find there.
On Episode 20 of Taking the Middle Seat, I'm talking to Erin and Lauren, owners of E+L Salon. Not only do these women do amazing hair, they hold space for people in this community to feel Elevated and Loved. Get it. E+L. Love it!
Erin and Lauren are co-hosting an event (a costume party!!) called, Out of the Shadows on October 27. All proceeds will benefit Mental Health Awareness Month and Be Nice. This event sounds incredible and I love that it is highlighting such an important issue. You should go!!!!
They have held other events including in their space that have focused on the Refugee Education Center and Green Circle Salons.
Erin’s favorite thing is her gym, Allegro.
Lauren’s favorite things include meal planning (I just started loving Plan to Eat for meal planning. You should try it!), Daily Harvest, and Forks over Knives.
Go take the middle seat, dear listener! You'll love the magic you find there.
On Episode 19 of Taking the Middle Seat, I'm talking to Jessica Honegger, founder and co-CEO of Noonday Collection. She's an author of the recently released book, Imperfect Courage: Live a Life of Purpose by Leaving Comfort and Going Scared. She is also a podcast host at The Going Scared Podcast. Jessica is the real deal. She's genuine and thoughtful and hilarious and brave and I had so much fun learning from and her and talking with her. (Jessica on Facebook and Instagram)
Noonday Collection is a socially conscious fashion brand that is making an incredible impact in the world. Shop with my fave Noonday ambassador, Shari Meyering! The Fall line launched recently and you guys... all. the. big. earrings. I could scoop them all up! If I had to pick one favorite pair, it would be these.
After you put on those big Noonday earrings, I'm telling you, you NEED THIS BOOK. It is the best encouragement and motivation and call to action. You will resonate with the stories. You'll be moved to connect. And you'll be readied for action. Jessica will be in Grand Rapids this week!!! Check out the event and get tickets here!
*** I want to encourage listeners to purchase any recommended books from We Are Lit, a Grand Rapids local and woman-owned business. If she doesn't have the book right on her website, you can just request it on the website here.
Jessica mentions Be The Bridge, a Christian racial reconciliation movement. Learn more about Latasha Morrison and her incredible work on this podcast episode with Jen Hatmaker.
Jessica's favorite things: Noonday, of course (here's the coolest necklace that she wears a lot), yellow as an accent color (here she is rocking the yellow at her book launch party), her signature scent Santal 33, and Fireclay Tile.
Go take the middle seat, dear listener! You'll love the magic you find there.
On Episode 18 of Taking the Middle Seat, I'm talking to Angelle Batten and Jill Tanis, co-founders of The Nourish to Flourish Society which is "a place where women fall in love with nourishing mind, body and spirit with simple soulful self care practices, delicious food and a supportive community" (from The Nourish to Flourish Society website).
Jill and Angelle describe themselves as life coaches for women with an expertise in health. I am not kidding when I say that I LOVE the space they have created for women to thrive. Check out the 14 Day Fall Reset!! I promise you will love it.
Jill and Angelle are hosting an upcoming event called Soiree on September 26. I know it will be nourishing and beautiful and worth every cent. Grab you buddies and go!
I talked about how I found The Nourish to Flourish Society through my friend Shari Meyering who is an ambassador for Noonday Collection. You'll find some of my favorite big earrings from Noonday here.
Angelle and Jill s h o w e d u p with some incredible favorites!
Jill's Faves: Practicing sabbath (here's a book on sabbath by Wayne Muller), Slow Down Diet book, jasmine green tea, Lake Michigan, Grocer's Daughter Chocolates, OXO good grips Y peeler, Vitamix, Cutco chef knife, microplane, Young Living, Barbara Brown Taylor, Rob Bell's Robcast.
Angelle's Faves: Bark Thins, Autumn's Gold grain free granola, water pillow, Car Talk episodes, Grace & Frankie on Netflix, The Book of She.
I was not prepared when they asked me about MY favorite things but now that I think about it... I have a favorite vegetable peeler that I won in a white elephant gift exchange and I just ordered these earrings from Noonday. Favorite things for the win!
I'll be back soon! Until then, take the middle seat. You'll love what happens.
On episode 17 of Taking the Middle Seat, I'm talking to Emily Martin, owner of Any Body Yoga. She champions body positive and mindfulness based yoga. I could not love her mission more - To create brave spaces for all bodies to practice radical self love through embodied movement. (From Any Body Yoga Facebook page) You're going to love her encouragement when she says, "There is no wrong way to have a body."
She has a rad series of classes coming up called Body Positive Yoga: A Yoga Series for Healing Body Image. Get all the info on the Facebook event.
Emily mentions another yoga teacher who she loves - Dana Falsetti who also has a podcast you might want to check out. A body positive activist and yoga teacher I love to follow is Jessamyn Stanley.
*** I want to encourage listeners to purchase any recommended books from We Are Lit, a Grand Rapids local and woman owned business. If she doesn't have the book right on her website, you can just request it on the website here.
Emily recommends all sorts of great resources:
Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook, The Body is Not an Apology (OHMYGOODNESS, this is such a gorgeous book), A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook.
Grand Rapids Center for Mindfulness and Yoga for All Training
I loved Emily's favorite things! She loves milkweed and Frosty Boy (they close October 14!) and Tunde Olaniran.
I'll be back soon to explore the magic in the middle seat.
On episode 16 of Taking the Middle Seat, I'm talking to Megan Seeley, owner of The Goal Designer. She does Planner Matching and 1 on 1 coaching. She also runs a rad Facebook group called Moms Reclaiming Their Time Guilt-Free. She was inspired to create all of this after a very hard season when she had a baby and was diagnosed with a chronic illness, Grave's Disease. She now encourages moms as an anti-productivity coach. Isn't that awesome!
I would definitely encourage you to take Megan's Planner Quiz! She'll give you some great ideas on what to look for in a planner that fits your lifestyle.
The planner that Megan uses is The Simplified Planner from Emily Ley. I'm doing a planner match session with Megan really soon so I'll let you know which one I pick!
Megan talks about her favorite self care is doing lots of things she loves all-at-the-same-time. One of the things she loves is Lush bath bombs. A locally made bath bomb soap maker I love is Maggie Ann Soap Co.
Megan loves true crime. She is my people. Best true crime podcast of all time... My Favorite Murder. SSDGM!
She also loves the Courage and Clarity Podcast with Steph Crowder. Megan was on that podcast on this episode.
Her other loves... cozy mysteries, author Karen McInerney and Hallmark Movies and Mysteries channel.
I'll be back soon to explore the magic in the middle seat.
On episode 14 of Taking the Middle Seat, I have a double feature for you!
In the first half, I'm talking to Daedra Surowiec, founder and artist behind Strawesome, a glass drinking straw company. She trained as an architect and also worked as a natural childbirth educator but her path wound around to glass straws! You will hear her passion for creativity and sustainability. Strawesome straws make the coolest gifts. You get a straw and you get a straw and you get a straw!
Daedra let us know that 500 million plastic draws are used in the United Stated everyday!! Educate yourself regarding single use plastic. Here's a graphic I found really helpful to wrap my mind around this issue. I know I'm getting better at toting my reusable bags into the grocery store and using my glass straw. Every little bit helps. If you're working on this too, check out the book Daedra mentioned, Zero Waste Home.
Here's my favorite Strawesome straw for a cause. Proceeds go to Sea Shepherd Conservation Society. I also mention that I first heard about Strawesome from The Nourish to Flourish Society. They'll be on a future episode so keep listening to hear their story too.
Daedra learned her glass blowing technique called torch work at the Glass Academy in Dearborn, MI.
Daedra said she loves the best parts of social media! You can follow Strawesome on Facebook and Instagram.
She also loves her RTIC tumbler and tower garden. I love the idea of a wildlife-proof garden that flourishes in the basement!!! So cool.
On the second half, I sit down with Monica Randles from Nutcase Vegan Meats. She and her husband, Andrew Maternowski, are physicians who decided to pursue a vegetarian lifestyle in 2010. You'll hear Monica talk about their path to creating the most yummy product that is fun to cook with and tastes amazing. I am not vegetarian or vegan and I seriously LOVE their product.
Monica mentions the movie Food Inc. and she talks about a book I am absolutely going to read called How Not to Die. Both of those were influential in the genesis of Nutcase Vegan Meats.
Monica's favorite things include a book called Catching the Big Fish by David Lynch, transcendental meditation, and another book called Sky Above Great Wind about the life and poetry of Zen master Ryokan.
Follow Nutcase Vegan Meats on Facebook and Instagram. Also, make sure to attend Nutty Burger Bash on August 12!
Thank you for listening and I hope you'll spend time this week, Taking the Middle Seat.
On episode 13 of Taking the Middle Seat, I'm talking to Steffanie Rosalez, Director at the Cook Arts Center which is part of Grandville Avenue Arts & Humanities. She is a visual artist, a musician, a leader in her community and she has a machete tattoo. Basically, she's the freaking best. I know her from her leadership at Girls Rock Grand Rapids which is the transformative summer rock and roll camp my daughter has been involved in for the past few years. Steffanie and a group of other totally rad and powerful women run the camp. We talk about community and joy. We talk about tokenism and privilege. We talk about art and self care.
The Audre Lorde quote Steffanie mentions is this... "Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare." Powerful.
Roosevelt Park Neighborhood Association page gives you lots of great information about things happening along the whole Grandville Avenue corridor.
Steffanie has also been involved in the Cultura Collective. We didn't talk about this during the interview but you should check it out!
Steffanie loves contemporary art and she's loving the PBS series Art 21.
She also loves the UICA. You should go there on family day or catch a movie. It is such a cool space. You get a gold star if you can find the picture of my family and I on their website.
Follow Steffanie's band How to Live Together on their Facebook page. You'll hear her light up when she talks about her music. She's a multi-tasking musician. T-shirts coming soon. ; )
If you're wondering how to help or get involved in protecting immigrant families, I love the organization Together Rising.
Thank you for listening and I hope you'll spend time Taking the Middle Seat this week.
On episode 13 of Taking the Middle Seat, I'm talking to Jennifer Stewart, associate professor of sociology at Grand Valley State University. She founded an organization called Act on Racism in 2005. Since then it has evolved and changed but it has always been a powerful force for connection and change both for the participants and the observers. Like so many of us, Jennifer never thought she'd be a leader in this particular way but life leads us to spaces that will use our gifts and teach us what we need to learn.
I get a little emotional in this one because I very recently lost a friend way too soon. I encourage each one of you to reach out to your people and tell them what you love about them. This episode is dedicated to my friend because she was always taking the middle seat and lighting up those around her.
Check out the latest happenings of Act on Racism here.
Jennifer's favorite band is called My Morning Jacket.
Follow the adorable Fiona the Hippo on Facebook here.
The other Fiona, Jennifer's sweet rescue dog is on Instagram here.
Are you following Ludwik the hairless guinea pig yet? You should be!!! Find him here in all his hairless glory.
Jennifer and I talk about the incredible cuisine of the 1950's and 60's. This is an actual salad I constructed as a child. We called it a Candle Salad. An. Actual. Childhood. Chore. I. Was. Assigned.
And if no one has told you that you are loved today. You are.
I'll be back soon to explore the magic in the middle seat.
I love giving gifts! So any chance to tell others about cool gifts, makes me happy. We happen to be coming up on Father's Day so these gifts would be great for those people in your life who father. They'd also be great for anyone! Holidays that pinpoint a specific type of receiver are tricky for lots of reasons so I just think of them as a way to spread some joy to whoever needs it. Shop these links and tell them that Taking the Middle Seat sent you!
Bow Tie Cause - Search bow ties by the particular cause they support.
Bold Socks Statement Sockwear - Locally owned sock company. Each pair of socks provides clean drinking water for 100 days for 1 person in Africa via sustainable methods.
Books and Mortar - Local independent bookshop. Best place to shop books, cards and gifts right here on Cherry St. in Grand Rapids, MI
We are Lit - Online local bookseller that offers culturally curated books shipped nationwide.
Libro.fm - Audio book shop that supports independent booksellers. Click the link to get your first month free!
Sage Harvest Jerky - Yummy jerky that donates a portion of their profits to a different charity each month.
Boss Mouse Cheese smoked butter - We recently visited this farm and their cheese is amazing but they also make SmOkEd BuTtEr!!!! So yummy! You can order online any time.
Pink House Alchemy cocktail bitters - Anyone who loves a craft cocktail will love a super special cocktail ingredient to add to their bar.
Pine Valley Outfitters - Hammocks and general outdoorsiness. The company supports efforts to end homelessness.
Guillotine card game - A Lundskow family favorite! Collect the noble's heads and you win.
TableTopics question cards - Great conversation starters for road trips, family night or any time.
HQ - A runaway and homeless youth drop in center in Grand Rapids. Donate to support their mission or purchase off of their Amazon wishlist.
The Laundry Truck LA - They provide laundry services to people experiencing homelessness in LA. Donate to support their cause!
That's it for now so go spread the love! Whether you have the best dad in the world, no dad at all, are grieving your dad, or know lots of people who father in different ways, we call spread love in the coming weeks. I hope your people feel like you've taken the middle seat right next to them when you give them these gifts.
On episode 11 of Taking the Middle Seat, I talk to Bri Luginbill. She is a photographer and body positivity activist. She struggled with body image issues for many years but has turned her struggle into beauty and social change. She is passionate about helping others do the same. I especially loved all of Bri's resources she talked about and I can't wait for you to connect with her too!
Bri's organization, Better Body Image Conference, is doing incredible work. Check it out!
Her next awesome event is an encore screening of The Illusionists on June 13, 2018. Event details and tickets are here. Even the movie trailer is powerful!
She's also an INCREDIBLE photographer at The People Picture Company.
Bri mentions Beckwith-Wiedemann Syndrome. You can read more about it on the BWS Children’s Foundation International website.
You can see Bri in action here talking about her Go Boldly, Love Your Body campaign that she did in 2014.
Connie Flachs is Bri's partner in this activism. You can connect with her here or on Instagram.
Bri talked about the Straight Curve Film. It looks so cool! You can see a preview here.
Bri truly is a fount of resources! She mentioned so many cool organizations. Here are the links:
Michigan Eating Disorders Alliance
A Beautiful Me - a body positive program for girls.
YWCA summer programs, Activism Academy and Becoming a Girl Boss
Jenna Kutcher - business owner and online influencer. Follow the link to read about how she walks confidently in her skin next to her very typically-gorgeous husband.
Jessica Honegger (She founded Noonday Collection and talks openly about the myth of thigh gap. She's clearly awesome.)
In favorite things time, we talk about The Turquoise Table. I'd paint my table this color.
Bri also roasts her own coffee beans in a Whirly Pop. She's a total girl boss, you guys. I found a how-to article here if you want to jump on in and roast some beans.
Bri loves thrift store shopping so that means we need to listen to Macklemore's Thrift Shop. We just have to.
I think that does it! Go look in the mirror and love the heck out of what you see! I just tried on this swimsuit at the mall (normally not a swimsuit tryer on-er because of the bad lighting, bad angles, bad attitude etc.) and loved it! I did not purchase because I just don't need it right now but I truly let myself just feel beautiful. No except for's or if only's. Just beautiful as I am. Felt pretty damn good. So go fearlessly and freely into the summer. I'll be back soon to take the middle seat.
I'm starting a new occasional series of little pods called This Seat's Taken. I just couldn't help myself with that name. Cracks me up every time. The little pods will be just that: little. Snippets of things I love, things I want to share, people I want to laugh with. Could be anything.
This time I'm talking PODCASTS! Why I love them. Why you should love them. All of it. I talk about a bunch of my faves and I'll list their details below so you can find them too. I've linked to all of the websites for these pods but you'll want to go to iTunes or your podcast player to Subscribe!
Wild Mystic Woman Podcast by Layla Saad. Episode 18 with Catrice Jackson taught me SO much. You can also find Catrice Jackson's work and books here.
The Red Couch Podcast with rapper and activist Propaganda and his wife Dr. Alma Zaragoza-Petty. They have taught me so much on a whole range of topics and I particularly love their segment called Hood Politics.
On Being with Krista Tippett. Ta-Nehisi Coates' episode is #52, I think. : ) Search it out on iTunes because Krista Tippett can teach me anything and Ta-Nehisi Coates can wake me up every time.
Another Round with Tracy Clayton and Heben Nagatu. You'll laugh and learn and fall in love. These amazing women talk about pop culture, mental health, surviving white culture, bad jokes. Everything.
Mogul with Reggie Ossé. Tells the life and death of hip hop music executive Chris Lighty. A beautifully done documentary about hip hop, addiction, mental health and striving.
Ear Hustle with Nigel Poor, a prison volunteer and visual artist and Earlonne Woods, a man currently incarcerated at San Quentin State Prison. This is one of my tippy tip top faves! They cover all aspects of incarceration and I love how it humanizes incarcerated individuals.
Crimes in Color with Keyerra. She tells true crime stories involving victims who are people of color since these stories are underrepresented in media.
Caught. This one highlights youth in the criminal justice system.
Wrongful Conviction with Jason Flom. As I said on the little pod, I think exonerated people are some of the most incredible people you will ever hear speak. They are forgiving and grateful and wise and hopeful. They have taught me and I'm sure they'll teach you.
Selfie with Kristen Howerton and Sarah James. They talk about all aspects of self care. Makeup to relationships. Personality types to purses. It is girly in the best way.
The New Activist. Tells the stories of change makers all over the world. This one is from what I would call a social justice Christian perspective.
Everything Happens with Kate Bowler. She's in her thirties and has been through. some. things. She knows that it might not all work out with a bow on top but we still can find connection and beauty.
Terrible, Thanks for Asking with Nora McInerny. When you lose your father and husband within a few weeks, you can gain some perspective in a hurry. Nora is the most hilarious and quirky host. We could be best friends. I'm certain. This is another tippity toppity fave!
Kid podcasts! Tumble, Brains On and Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls Podcast
S-Town - I can't even begin to explain this one. All I can say is start at the beginning and buckle up for the story ride.
The Black Tapes - This one is like a creepy novel, a podcast documentary, and an old-timey radio drama all rolled in one. You can get your binge-listen on because there's a whole heap of episodes already recorded. Start at the beginning and lose yourself in it.
And if you've never experienced SNL's Delicious Dish, here's probably their most famous episode.
I hope you love these podcasts and I'll be back soon to take the middle seat.
On episode 9 of Taking the Middle Seat, I talk to Andi Adams. She is a middle school teacher and teaches reading and special education classes. She is mom to 2 busy middle school-age kiddos and to a precious rescue dog. I wanted to go to an expert source to hear about gun violence in schools and I believe teachers are the experts. She states her strong belief that automatic weapons do not belong anywhere in our communities but also goes beyond that to talk about why teachers should be the sources of wisdom to create effective policy change that will keep our children safe. I love our conversation and I'm so grateful she took time out of her busy day of teaching to talk to me.
If you want to get involved in this issue, an organization I love is Everytown for Gun Safety. This includes Moms Demand Action and Students Demand Action. Dip a pinky toe in or jump all the way in. Activism in all forms helps.
Andi mentions her fave accessory company, Two Copper Sparrows. I checked them out and I LOVE the story behind this little company. Amy, the owner gives a portion of her proceeds to organizations that work with people who struggle with post traumatic stress syndrome and post partum/pre natal depression. I'm absolutely picking up these earrings ASAP. True Red or Hennessy? Maybe both.
Andi also mentions her adorable adopted dog named Piper. You can and should follow Piper on the Instagrams @Piper_the_Pitbull_. I love our rescue dogs, Abbie and Charlie so Andi and I get all sappy over our little quirky rescues.
So go thank a teacher for taking care of our babies like they are their own. I'll be back soon with another episode but until then, keep taking the middle seat.
On episode 8 of Taking the Middle Seat, I talk to Julius Hight, founder of Reset GR. He is a father, vocalist, and community activist. He loves his city of Grand Rapids, MI but he also recognizes the change that needs to happen here. He has walked through the criminal justice system and knows the disparity and injustice that exists there first hand. I know you'll hear his passion and I hope you listen intently to his truth and his perspective.
Follow Rest GR on Facebook.
Reset GR needs our support! You can give financially to the organization at their GoFundMe campaign. Reset GR is currently working on getting their 501c3 status which costs money so any little donation helps. Julius also said that they would love donations of computers or iPads or cell phones. He does all of the coordination for Reset GR on his phone and he could use a computer. So, if you have one to donate, email him directly at hightjulius@gmail.com.
Julius encouraged us all to learn, learn, learn and I love that! A great place to start is the documentary film, The 13th. You need to watch this film. You can see the trailer here. If you don't have Netflix, find someone who does and watch it together. It is an experience we all need to have.
Julius mentions GRABB which is Grand Rapids Area Black Businesses. They have a great directory of African American owned businesses.
He also mentions a bunch of news stories, local and national. If you're like me, you might not be informed about those so I've gathered some links to get you up to speed. You can learn about rapper Meek Mill's story here.
You can learn more about NFL footbal player and activist, Colin Kaepernick at his website.
We talked about several local Grand Rapids stories involving racism and racial injustice. The story Julius mentions that happened in Forest Hills Schools is written about here.
Grab a copy of The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness by Michelle Alexander. This one is high on my list and I need to jump into it. I hope Julius and Reset GR start that book club!
Have a comment about this episode? Let's start a discussion! You can connect with me on Facebook or Instagram. I'd love for you to share the podcast with your friends. The more the merrier.
Oh, and I mention Citizen, the cool parrot glass restaurant that my husband I went to recently for our "C" alpha date. If you're local, you should go!
I'll be back soon with another episode but until then, keep taking the middle seat.
On episode 7 of Taking the Middle Seat, I talk to Carlos Kulas-Dominguez. This episode gets personal in the best way, you guys. We have a great conversation about Carlos' journey that led him to acknowledging some addictions he had in his life and how he is now pursuing recovery and connection. We talk about how our friendship wove through his story and how we both have learned from that. We check off the Middle Seat boxes of acceptance, healing laughter and community.
You'll hear that I have a cold during this episode so my voice sounds a little off. But you know what is good for helping symptoms of a cold that Carlos is super knowledgeable about??? Essential oils! You can find his fave brand here.
He's also a Thai massage practitioner so ask him about that too at his Facebook page. Carlos does a great job at motivating and encouraging so go ahead and follow him. Or better yet, send him a message. Connection is what it is all about!
You can connect with me on Facebook or Instagram
I'll be back soon with another episode but until then, keep taking the middle seat.
On episode 6 of Taking the Middle Seat, I talk to Val Cobbs, Senior Regional Manager at the National Kidney Foundation. She shares about how NKF is addressing diabetes and high blood pressure, chronic conditions that are the major causes of kidney failure and disproportionately affect communities of color. Val is a staunch advocate for wellness and community and breaking down barriers. She teaches me with her every word and I hope you will listen to her wisdom.
Check out the Diabetes Prevention Program (DPP) and the Diabetes Improvement Program (DIP) at the National Kidney Foundation website. You can get involved as a facilitator or a participant. Share this resource with your people who may need it!
If you want to donate to the 2018 Kidney Walk that benefits NKF and happens on April 22, go here. I'll be walking in honor of the living kidney donors I work with each and every day.
Val mentions her precious pit bull, King. Speaking of animals, have you ever watched Pit Bulls and Parolees? You should. Do you follow Ludwik_guinea_pig on Instagram? You should. There, I made your life better.
Val shows up every single day in her life and makes this world a better place. She continuously teaches me to do. the. work. Even when I doubt my place in the work. Even when I second guess if I know what to do. She wisely tells us to do our work.
I'll be back soon with another episode but until then, keep taking the middle seat.
On episode 5 of Taking the Middle Seat, I talk to Christine Mwangi, founder of Be A Rose. She shares about how she is taking on the issue of period poverty. We talk about how women have always made do - we have always managed but what if we could do better for each other. Christine is hilarious and wise and I cannot wait for you to hear her words.
Check out Be A Rose here. Then get involved! You can connect with Be A Rose to volunteer, host a Party with a Purpose, donation drive, or shop their Amazon Wishlist.
I'm going to be a drop-off site for donated period products so bring them any time to the Taking a Middle Seat headquarters (ie. my front porch) - 1145 Eastwood Ave SE, Grand Rapids MI 49506. Let's fill my porch with products to give to Be A Rose!!!
I've already learned so much from the Be A Rose Blog. Check it out!
Curious about the reusable period products we mentioned? Here they are: Thinx, Diva Cup, cloth pads (there are many types of these so explore away). And one we didn't mention but one that intrigues me... Knixteen. And I know you're dying to know my fave period products, right? My fave brand is L. You can order them from the website or find them at Target.
I'm super intrigued by period apps. Check out this article for some app options. I'd love to know if you're already using an app and which ones you love!
Christine loves tacos at Donkey. Their beet margarita is a thing to behold.
I'll be back soon with another episode but until then, keep taking the middle seat.
On episode 4 of Taking the Middle Seat, I talk to Ruth Bell Olsson, a teacher, writer, activist and all around beautiful soul. She's shares about her work with movements and communities that are on the front line of the salient issues of our day.
I would love for you to learn more about the Grand Rapids Red Project and One Million Thumbprints.
Ruth and I share a love of big earrings. My favorites can be purchased at Noonday Collection.
Kombucha on tap!!??!! Awesome. If you're a GR local, find it at the Early Bird. Another one of my favorite local cafe's is Rising Grinds. Check out their menu and mission! Love it!
And a couple of books we mentioned. The Resurrection of Joan Ashby by Cherise Wolas and Fates and Furies by Lauren Groff. Or pick them up at an awesome local bookstore like Books and Mortar. They'll order any book you want!
Learn more about the Mystic Soul Conference and the rest of the organization here.
Image is courtesy of One Million Thumbprints' website.
I'll be back soon with another episode but until then, keep taking the middle seat.
On episode 3 of Taking the Middle Seat, I talk to Justine Braford, a mom of 4 who has walked through losing two of her children. She's also a trail-blazing sex therapist and social worker. She talks truth about sexual health, caring for people in their grief and the joy that is lash extensions. We cover it all in this one.
Check out Justine's therapy practice and contact her here.
The incredible seminars Justine mentioned are called the Wonder of Women Series. Register for them here. You're not going to want to miss the next one on March 15!
Lash extensions at Siren and Proper. Treat yourself!
And a couple of books we mentioned. Brene Brown's Braving the Wilderness and 30 Days of Sex Talks from Educate and Empower Kids.
I'll be back soon with another episode but until then, keep taking the middle seat.
Thank you so much for listening to Taking the Middle Seat Episode 1!! On episode one of Taking the Middle Seat, I talk to Emily Smith, owner of Adored Boutique. She shares about her early professional life and how she did a 180 degree shift to what she's doing now. She shares about how her faith shapes her path. She talks about how Adored is not just a boutique. It is a space creating change in the lives of women and communities locally and globally. Check out Adored Boutique online at https://www.adoredboutique.com/
I also talk about Noonday Collection, one of my absolute favorite places to get ethically made accessories. Visit them at http://sharimeyering.noondaycollection.com/
And we talk about MadCap Coffee. Serious coffee folks check them out at https://madcapcoffee.com/
Thank you to Dino Favale for my logo! www.dinofavale.com
I cannot wait to come back with Episode number 2. Until then, keep taking the middle seat.
Episode 1 is recorded, you guys! I did it! I spoke words into a microphone and recorded sound that will eventually go out into the interwebs and universe. Go ahead and listen in. You'll get a taste for where I'm headed and why I'm doing this crazy thing. I haven't quite figured out the podcasting platforms so for now, I'd love for you to take a listen right here and let me know what you think.
And here's the clip from About a Boy that I mention in the recording. You need it in your life. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3gnJ3AX8A2U
Glass straws... also need these in your life. https://www.strawesome.com/