Pro Hoe: Recent Episodes
Penda N'diaye
Unveil stigmas and taboos in this confessional series with Pro Hoe host, Penda N’diaye to explore topics on sexual desire, pleasure, and using sex and taboo as social equity. Break down social, religious and racial constructs that some of us have been taught to uphold and how they have stifled sexual liberation in communities of color.
Listen in as anonymous callers ask questions regarding to sex and relationships while Penda re-invents sex talk in communities of color in a candid, fun, “pillow-talk’ manner. When Penda’s mom gave her her first vibrator, it sparked the conversation that there’s a lack of sexual dialogue within communities of color and in return, outside conversations have shaped the Black sexual experience.
The series will tackle cliches which have permeated popular culture and commentary, leaving a gap in the scholarship of Black sexual identities. Questions surrounding black sexuality are central to how we’ve been perceived and we perceive ourselves and this podcast will bring these questions, answers and discussions to light!
Pro Hoe Founder and Host Penda N'diaye recaps her article in VICE on how to find a sex-positive therapist and the growing sex therapy industry that unfortunately includes therapists who falsely market themselves as being kink and polyamory informed, but in reality are ill-equipped to assess clients with these sexual identities.
Full article here: https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/wxqza5/how-to-find-a-kink-sex-positive-therapist
Kink Guidelines for Therapists: https://www.kinkguidelines.com/
Kink and Poly aware professionals directory: https://www.kapprofessionals.org/
A throwback episode from September 2019 featuring Peyton Dix, who ferociously slays social and special events at InStyle Magazine, and Pro Hoe Founder Penda N'diaye. They speak about the intersectionality of being Black and Queer, online dating, and navigating conversations on sexuality while coming of age under the roof of Black parents. They also answer anonymous questions about consent, and how to tell your close friends that you’re in a polyamorous relationship.
Follow Penda on social: @pendajai, @improhoe
Follow Peyton on social: @peytondix
Pro Hoe Host Penda N'diaye shares what she would tell her seventeen-year-old self about sex if she could go back in time...
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Shadeen Francis, LMFT (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist) specializing in sex therapy and social justice, joins the Pro Hoe Podcast to talk about what it means to be safe in your body, finding small amounts of peace, and identifying the systems in place that decide who, and when we deserve pleasure and joy.
Follow Shadeen on IG: @shadeenfrancislmft
Pro Hoe Founder Penda N'diaye is joined by Tracie Gilbert, PhD that dives into the complex and often polarizing relationship between "Blackness is Sexiness" and "Whiteness is Rightness." Tracie's expert knowledge paves the way for a conversation highlighting heterosexism, homophobia, culture vultures, pleasure, our suppressed sexual liberties and more. Don't miss this conversation. LISTEN TO BLACK WOMEN.
Follow Tracie on social media: @thembianaiya
Jimanekia, Sex educator and Trauma Specialist joins Pro Hoe Founder Penda N'diaye to discuss how Boundaries are sexy, commodification of Black voices on social media, interracial relationships and more. Plus, Jimanekia address unlearning sexual shame, and her advocacy for kink and BDSM as a means of finding community and releasing fear of judgment.
Follow Jimanekia on social: @jimanekia
Support her retreat, Tending the Garden here: https://ifundwomen.com/projects/tending-the-garden
Renelle E. Nelson, LMFT joins Pro Hoe Founder Penda N'diaye to discuss infidelity, trauma healing for Black women, and grounding practices to address sexual shame.
Follow Renelle on IG: @noirsxtherapist
Pro Hoe Founder, Penda N'diaye has a frank conversation with Sinikiwe Dhliwayo, Founder of Naaya, about the Wellness industry's fetishization of Black Bodies for the sake of consumption, all while refusing to hire Black employees and teachers. They discuss Black Lives Matter, George Floyd, and demand that White companies to put their money where their mouths are.
You can find out more about Penda N'diaye here:
@pendajai
@improhoe
improhoe.com
venmo: @pendajai
And Sinikiwe Dhliwayo:
@sinikiwe.stephanie
@naaya.wellness
naayawellness.com
Cashapp: naayawellness
Penda is back with part 2 of Whats Your Fantasy? This episode she dives into three different sexual fantasies, and tries to uncover how they relate to her real life sexual relations, personal history and everyday personas. Follow Penda: @pendajai and Pro Hoe: @improhoe
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Pro Hoe Founder Penda N’diaye discusses where our fantasies come from and if we're often too hesitant to let our imaginations explore sexual behaviors that are rooted in shame and stigma. Part 1 focuses primarily on what influences our fantasies, and part 2 will dive deeper into Penda's personal fantasies and what they mean. Plus we discuss Demon Time, fetishization, and answer an anonymous sex question. Follow us on IG: @improhoe and @pendajai
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Sex educator Oskar Sinclair joins Pro Hoe host Penda N'diaye to discuss how quarantine has challenged their polyamorous relationships, and how they refuse to resort back to monogamy. Listen as they discuss balancing multiple partners, peak masturbation, and schooling the youth on Black beauty.
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Join Pro Hoe host Penda N'diaye and Randi from Situationships Podcast as they discuss what it means for millenials to nurture a relationship. How do we establish trust and vulnerability? Are we too quick to label a relationship as casual, long-term, friend-zone, etc.? Plus, they explain why they're single, and if it's worth the wait.
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Listen in as Pro Hoe Founder and Host Penda N'diaye answers your anonymous sex questions.
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Pro Hoe Host and Founder Penda N'diaye and Kenyan Sex Educator, and Host of 'The Spread' podcast, Kaz Lucas, record a special crossover episode to discuss sexuality on the African continent and abroad, as well as answer questions from their communities. Follow 'The Spread' podcast and Kaz: @thespreadpod and @kazkarenlucas.
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Join Pro Hoe Host Penda N'diaye and her guest Obed (@doubleo8s) from Work Bae Podcast as they decipher a viral tweet and answer the age old question of "Does your number of sexual partners matter? Plus, Penda breaks down how to maintain intimacy and self-pleasure during Quarantine. Follow Penda and Pro Hoe on instagram: @pendajai, @improhoe
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We're back with the second season of Pro Hoe! On this episode, Pro Hoe Founder and Host, Penda N'diaye, breaks down what it means to use pleasure as a means of social equity, some different flavors of ethical non-monogamy, and answers your anonymous sex questions. Stay tuned for new episodes every Wednesday.
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Pro Hoe host Penda N'diaye briefly speaks with her mother over the phone to hear her thoughts on polyamory. Penda was surprised to hear her mother express her views on non-monogamy and interest in having multiple partners after being married for such a long time.
More conversations with mama to come!
Pro Hoe host Penda N'diaye speaks with s3x educator Birna (@bbirna) on the legalization and decriminalization of sex work as well as the classism and racism that exists within the sex worker community.
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Rapper RahRah Gabor, NYC-based, trans femme hip-hop artist, self-described as "hip hop's Omar Little from The Wire only prettier,'' talks with Pro Hoe host Penda N'diaye about trans/gender fluid identity and her upbringing in NYC. RahRah's shotgun lyrics originated to prove to her classmates that a queer person can rap just as well, if not better, as their straight counterparts.
She is ready to show hip-hop what a queer rapper can really do on the mic while simultaneously challenging notions of race and the conventions of heteronormativity. Follow RahRah: @rahrahgabor
Plus we answer anonymous questions from you!
"How many minutes constitutes as a real '2 minute man'?"
"Do cock rings and penis pumps really make a penis larger?"
Join Pro Hoe host Penda N'diaye and Brazilian Yogi, Ancestral Healer and Moon Goddess, Juliana Luna on episode 7!! Listen as they discuss how the moon relates to our sexual and creative energies. Have you ever wondered how Lunar phases dictate sex, love and relationships? Well, Juliana is an expert and breaks it down for us. Plus, we answer two questions from Pro Hoe listners!:
"How can I embrace my sexuality after getting a "late start" because of my religious beliefs?"
"Is it possible to sustain a relationship with a partner that is above or below you in regards to finances, education, life experiences, looks, etc.?"
You're in for a cosmic treat!
Follow Juliana Luna: @julianaluna
Join Pro Hoe host Penda N'diaye and Muslim, Queer, Black Superwoman, Blair Imani as they break down traditional virginity myths and speak on eliminating certain constructs that are no-longer relevant or inclusive to Queer sexual experiences. We speak on how to embrace the sexual expressions of future generations, and Blair gets up close and personal about the intersectionality of being Black, Muslim and Queer woman in today's world.
Check out Blair's book: Modern Herstory
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Join Penda for another episode of the PRO HOE Podcast! On this episode, makeup artist and muse, Raisa Flowers (@raisaflowers) joins the conversation on how Black women are portrayed in Porn and the stereotypes that follow them, Fashunnnn and Body Inclusivity. Plus, tune in as we answer questions from our listeners:
"How big is TOO big?"
"How soon should I introduce anal play in to my relationship?"
Listen to the first ever live Pro Hoe Podcast ft. Dr Travis Meadows, a psychiatrist with training from NYU's Human Sexuality Department. This episode was recorded at MNDFL Meditation on September 22nd. In honor of the first episode of the Pro Hoe Podcast, three people of color shared first time memorable sexual experiences. Listen to Nneka speak on her first time hearing the word "slut" and later deconstructing and decolonizing her faith and world views to allow herself sexual pleasure. Theresa takes us on a steamy recollection of her work as a dominatrix and first time pegging a man, and exposes the nuances of power play. Cory recalls his first threesome with a man and a woman, and speaks on imposter syndrome. Penda N'diaye and Dr. Meadows guide this powerful conversation!
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Join Penda N'diaye and Senegalese, London Based Singer/Songwriter, Anais Zero as they discuss growing up with conservative African fathers and how that has shaped their sexual identities. Is body count relevant? Or is it really a matter of who and why you choose your partners? Plus, swearing to navigate the world like Audre Lorde, always making powerful decisions from an Orgasmic "Yes!"
Listen as we discuss this weeks anonymous questions:
"I saw my friends Fiancé on a dating app, should I tell her?"
"Does the number of people you've slept with matter?"
Join host Penda N'diaye and Peyton Dix, head of social at Paper Magazine, as they discuss dating online as a Queer person of color and how it replicates dating in real life. In the world of Queer online dating, race affects your chances of receiving romantic and sexual attention whether your potential partners realize it or not. Listen as they discuss the lack of inclusive dating apps, coming out to your Black parents, and answer anonymous sex questions from listeners:
How do you define consent with your partner?
How do you tell your family and friends that you're in a polyamorous relationship?
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Penda and Jillian Hervey of Lion Babe address this sound piece of advice given by Penda's mom when dating and having sex: "Think Like a White Girl". Listen as the two break down social and cultural barriers that allow white women to possess an intrinsic confidence with which they navigate sexual and romantic relationships, while black women haven't been allowed the same privilege-- an imbalance that persists because of the ways in which, historically, black women have been overtly fetishized and robbed of their sexual agency. Be sure to tune in to the second half of the episode when anonymous callers call in and ask for sex and dating advice!
Song: "Sexy Please" by Lion Babe