Salt and Pepper Bangs: Recent Episodes
Shannon and Friends!!
Because people treating other people crappy in the name of Jesus shouldn’t get to be done so quietly. And while I may get called “disgruntled” or “bitter” among other things, I kept all the emails and recordings so that “liar” couldn’t be added to that list.
The church where I used to work did not protect me/others from sexual harassment. They ignored my requests to create a safer workplace and then eventually paid the harasser to leave the staff. It gnaws at me that a secular organization would have handled this well. I let my expectations hurt my own feelings but I have learned my lesson. For-profit is held to a weirdly higher standard regarding business practices versus nonprofit. It feels criminal, but it isn’t.
Nonprofits can receive PPP loans and have them forgiven all the while not reporting income to the government. Abusive employment practices are allowed because there are no real consequences. They do not pay into unemployment nor do they pay taxes. There is no accountability for poor management styles and so, overlooking and minimizing sexual advances or unwanted behavior is much easier to do and get away with. The clown in this story gets to float on to his next job with direct deposits still hittin because of the toxic church culture that protects pastors and silences victims.
Our grandmothers taught us that a mistake made more than once is a decision. Since I was not the first woman to speak up about a pastor that made her uncomfortable at the church where I used to work, the efforts to cover up, minimize and ignore my accusation weren’t a mistake but a choice. And it is that type of culture in church leadership that gave Matt Chandler the audacity to start his speech last week with “I am going to be the pastor here for the next 20 years.”
As promised, here are 2 organizations worth your time and dime if you have it to spare.
BloomIndia.com
AbideWomen.org
There were a lot of positive memories in these last years that I am beyond thankful to take with me into the next season. It will have to be more memories than people, but I think my heart is finally ok with that.
Props to the woman who called out Matt Chandler in the foyer, and to Ruth Graham for reporting on church hurt and the systems that perpetuate it.
✌🏾
TL;DR- your girl was “quietly fired” and it sucked because it was served with communion wafers and a side salad of sexual harassment. The delicious dessert was a 6-month stress-filled financial hardship of a job search.
Thanks for listening to my 1-star yelp review.
I promise I do not feel actual bitterness, but I also, more importantly, do not feel like protecting the reputation of piss poor leadership with my silence either. I know people grow and evolve but at the expense of so many others who also trying to grow and evolve??
No thanks.
Because people treating other people crappy in the name of Jesus shouldn’t get to be done so quietly. And while I may get called “disgruntled” or “bitter” among other things, I kept all the emails and recordings so that “liar” couldn’t be added to that list.
The church where I used to work did not protect me/others from sexual harassment. They ignored my requests to create a safer workplace and then eventually paid the harasser to leave the staff. It gnaws at me that a secular organization would have handled this well. I let my expectations hurt my own feelings but I have learned my lesson. For-profit is held to a weirdly higher standard regarding business practices versus nonprofit. It feels criminal, but it isn’t.
Nonprofits can receive PPP loans and have them forgiven all the while not reporting income to the government. Abusive employment practices are allowed because there are no real consequences. They do not pay into unemployment nor do they pay taxes. There is no accountability for poor management styles and so, overlooking and minimizing sexual advances or unwanted behavior is much easier to do and get away with. The clown in this story gets to float on to his next job with direct deposits still hittin because of the toxic church culture that protects pastors and silences victims.
Our grandmothers taught us that a mistake made more than once is a decision. Since I was not the first woman to speak up about a pastor that made her uncomfortable at the church where I used to work, the efforts to cover up, minimize and ignore my accusation weren’t a mistake but a choice. And it is that type of culture in church leadership that gave Matt Chandler the audacity to start his speech last week with “I am going to be the pastor here for the next 20 years.”
As promised, here are 2 organizations worth your time and dime if you have it to spare.
BloomIndia.com
AbideWomen.org
There were a lot of positive memories in these last years that I am beyond thankful to take with me into the next season. It will have to be more memories than people, but I think my heart is finally ok with that.
Props to the woman who called out Matt Chandler in the foyer, and to Ruth Graham for reporting on church hurt and the systems that perpetuate it.
✌🏾
TL;DR- your girl was “quietly fired” and it sucked because it was served with communion wafers and a side salad of sexual harassment. The delicious dessert was a 6-month stress-filled financial hardship of a job search.
Thanks for listening to my 1-star yelp review.
I promise I do not feel actual bitterness, but I also, more importantly, do not feel like protecting the reputation of piss poor leadership with my silence either. I know people grow and evolve but at the expense of so many others who also trying to grow and evolve??
No thanks.
Been too long, but I have a little bit more structure this time around....
Lets see where this takes us
The girls talk about a few of the most dangerous men this country has ever seen..
Tuck in pals, here we go!!
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I promise to get better microphones soon. I know, I know.
I don't know what else to say except yes, we laugh this much in real life too.
Side-splitting, face sore, laughter headaches.
In between giggles, we talk about famous people we are in love with. No big deal
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True crime chat with my homies!
I am very excited. I could talk about true crime ALL DAY, YOU GUYS.
Everything is fine. I now spend my days choosing a story for my wicked new shoulder scar.
Honorable mentions so far? I got into a knife fight with a Karen over a mask and/or a prison fight...
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Thanks for being here!!
The fearless foursome is back again to chat about their favorite albums, musicians, and songs that changed their lives. Also, Shannon drops a Weird Al related bombshell.
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saltandpepperbangs@gmail.com
Brian and I chat about our favorite movies.... OF ALL TIME!
I also added a couple of new titles to my need to watch pile.
Yall already know what it is. I am not a pastor but I still try to make it plain from time to time.
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The book I referenced in the episode- https://www.amazon.com/White-Tears-Brown-Scars-Feminism/dp/194822674X
On the one year anniversary of when our lives turned upside down, we talked about what has changed in this year?
Besides everything we do and everyone we see, doy.
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I got to unpack the Enneagram and giggle with one of my favorite gal pals, Katie.
If you want to take the enneagram - here is a link--
https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test
As Katie suggests, it may be better to read about the enneagram instead of taking a test so check out these books that are all about the enneagram-
Road Back to You
Essential Enneagram
Enneagram Made Easy
The snow has come and gone and I pulled Kyla and Marcus in giggle with me and Brian for an hour.
I am so excited to chat with the homie, Brian. We giggle through conspiracy theories, aliens, and ghost stories in this first of hopefully many episodes with one of our funniest friends.
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Just a few words explaining why I am hosting this podcast and what I hope comes from it. The plan is to drop new content at least once a week! If you have an idea for a show or want to join me on an episode, send me email -
saltandpepperbangs@gmail.com
Camille and I catch up and talk about some of our favorite things that happened on January 20th and answer a couple of questions.