Introvert/Extrovert: Recent Episodes
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Introvert Extrovert is an examination of the psychology of personality in with the mission of helping people better understand themselves and each other, with the ultimate goal of self actualization and personal growth. Family, relationships, friendships and the absurdity of the human condition are forefront while different personality tests such as Myers Briggs are referenced from many philosophy points of view.
What starts out as a normal episode ends up with Al and Johnny getting into a deep discussion about the stark differences of growing up as a millenial vs. a baby boomer. They also discuss the reason for that nice warm feeling we get when thinking about those things in the past that shaped our present.
Al and Johnny discuss what schizophrenia actually is, and how it's one of the most debilitating and misunderstood of the chronic mental illnesses.
Are you glue or velcro....no wait... Al and Johnny discuss the different attachment styles and how we form them
We bring one of our favorite guests back, writer and general person to look up to, J Thorn, on our favorite Christmas movies. This episode has a lot of geeking out and good laughs, although the audio was a little messed up, it was really fun
Al and Johnny discuss the upcoming Christmas holiday and get into the christmas spirit.
Al and Johnny had a holiday hiatus trying to get episodes back up but here we are, and here's where we've been!
Al and Johnny discuss some different sleep disorders. Al did a little research beforehand to give some helpful tips and Johnny goes a little deeper into his insomnia and hilarious nightmares.
What is popularity and what is actually happening in terms of human interaction and sociology? Do introverts care less about it than extraverts? Al and Johnny talk about how to popular, and why it isn't that great.
Love can cause us to do some crazy things, even if those things aren't always best for us. Al and Johnny talk about how people seem to ignore those awful traits of somebody they are in a long term relationship with.
Repeat episode fixed......Have you ever had a friend that you just couldn't take anymore? Have you ever had that friend that seemed to only contact you when they need something? Friends are important but sometimes it's time to unfriend that person who is causing you problems
Al and Johnny talk about the how to get rid of toxic friends, and when to be diplomatic and try to make things work
Al and Johnny have a chat with acclaimed author and self proclaimed Intronaut, J Thorn. J is an extravert in an introvert's body and has sold over 170,000 copies of his books.
In this episode we talk about what it takes to be successful, and what success means to different people. J is a very interesting guy and this episode is one of our favorites of all time. Great talk.
For more information visit introextropod.com and to check out jthorn.net
Hey listeners, here's an episode where Al and Johnny sit down and just talk about the show. We're asking each and every one of you to do one thing, and that's give us a positive review in iTunes. It's the one thing that affects our exposure more than anything else. In addition the guys talk about the future of the show, where Introvert / Extrovert is headed, and that Johnny is finally on Instagram, @johnnymartinez_7
Al and Johnny talk about communication, and how differences in people mean we should be better communicators. Introverts and Extraverts are different people and sometimes coming together is like peas and carrots, but other times awareness of the situation is enough to make things that much more easy.
Losing control is draining and awkward but it can be used as a tool. Al and Johnny talk about times when going off on somebody was appropriate and beneficial.
Johnny was in a car accident but he needs to keep working so he is giving his days 75 percent. Al has been working on this skill for some time since he seems to only be able to give 100% or 0%. Some type A personalities need to chill. Some type B personalities need to step up. This episode is about how to prioritize your life and conserve your energy for the right moment without giving up completely.
Johnny is alone in vegas......not on accident...well kinda. Al and Johnny do a skype episode and as they discuss what's to be learned from an extravert alone in sin city.
Why do people in groups tend to lose 10s of IQ points? Shouldn't it be the other way around?
Al and Johnny talk about different ways to avoid group think and where the phenomenon comes from
Being authentic is a hot issue with millennials. Be more authentic, don't hide behind someone you're not. But the question is where is the line and is it always helpful to the community to be your true self?
Some introverts find that being authentic is tough because it causes friction from the extraverts in their life. Others feel that they have to hide behind a shield from fear that others will see the truth inside. Either way there's scenarios in life where we should strive to be more authentic and honest, and times when we should keep from defining ourselves too much.
Body language accounts for a large portion of how we communicate, whether we realize it or not. The actual words that we are saying when talking in person have less impact than our tone and body language, and learning how to read it can be very powerful.
"All I need are some tasty waves..a cool buzz.. and i'm fine...". Learning how to relax can not only change your productivity levels but can also lengthen your life.
Al and Johnny discuss why you should be more social and how to actually get it done. Even as an extravert Johnny describes his general uneasiness with many people, and how the key is surrounding yourself with trustworthy people who tick on your personal frequency.
Studies show that people who are more optimistic and positive go on to be more successful and live happier lives, but being practical can keep you from being overwhelmed when the storm comes
Many introverts find it hard to escape from the safety of their room, but learning to go outside is an important factor in self growth.
Johnny and Al met because they were house mates dealing with some other especially bad house mates. The guys talk about that experience and what they now look for in a place and how introverts and extroverts can get along as house mates.
Al and Johnny sit down after a lot of changes and events in their respective lives have happened in only a couple of weeks and get things off their chests. They talk about events and how their current projects are going as well as current topics that they are interested in.
Despite being described as a single spectrum, there is a wide variety of introverts and extroverts. Al and Johnny did a little bit of internet research and found 4 different sub categories of both introverts and extroverts. The guys talk about what sub genre they identify with and what all the types are.
Al concludes his epic story of his involuntary visit to the psych ward. Al and Johnny also talk about the state of mental health systems in the United States
Al has to go to Emergency Psychiatric Services for anxiety and is held for the weekend for observation. This is part 1 his story.
Part two will be up on sunday night.
Negativity affects us all in different ways but when things get us down there's a right way and a wrong way in dealing with them.
Introverts and Extraverts learn in different ways, but even with plenty of knowledge on learning theory modern techniques are still behind the curve of technology.
Extraverts and Introverts can make great leaders but both sides of the spectrum have natural tendencies that need to be addressed to make a fully rounded person in a leadership role.
Al has come down with a bad bug, so he is forced to Skype in from his room and the guys talk about the paradoxical joys of being sick. Introverts get their 'me' time while the extraverts get to enjoy their sympathy.
Al and Johnny go through the science of introversion and extraversion and what the research says. Most people don't realize that introvert's brains are physically different than an extravert's brain. Also, they look at the genes that say your vertedness is actually a part of your DNA.
Al and Johnny talk about insecurity and what kind of steps they've taken in their lives to overcome it.
As we get older and go through different life events, our personalities might tend to shift down the spectrum one way or the other. Some people migrate towards the ambivert category while others become more extreme in their vertedness. The guys discuss what things can cause these changes.
Al and Johnny talk about the psychological advantages and disadvantages of freedom vs. routine.
Al and Johnny talk about what it says about our personalities when we look at how we take compliments.
Etiquette and manners are things that many people are taught to revile because these things are a sign of elitism. But manners are rules based on common sense and many of us who fear being socially awkward use them to guide social interactions.
Best selling author and friend of the podcast Amy Morin returns for a discussion on mental toughness and strength in times of stress.
Al and Johnny discuss how being funny and other personality quirks can be a product of something deep inside
Michaela Chung has done what only a small few have: quit her job and travel the world. She talks to Johnny and Al about making the decision to move forward on her personal journey and what it's like for the introvert coach and author to live abroad.
It's been 100 awesome episodes of introvert extrovert and it's time to reflect on what has happened so far, and what 's going on in the future. Also, Johnny's mom checks in for some details about what it was like being an introvert and raising the 'extrovert in every sense of the word'.
Going deep into an issue can be rewarding but sometimes we should stop and take a look inside ourselves to strengthen our weaknesses
A lot of people joke around about obsessive compulsive disorder but for many people living with it is not a joke. Al and Johnny talk about OCD, the research on it and what it means for introverts and extroverts.
An introvert tradition, but an extrovert getaway, movies are a reflection of who we are. Movies play big roles in our lives and also shape the people we become as well as our social behavior patterns and beliefs.
Social media has become a necessity for many people but there are many downsides to this mass communication tool. Studies have shown links to depression, loneliness, and feelings that are general associated with being antisocial. Al and Johnny look at the up and down sides of social media and explain why one can take part and end up feeling even less connected.
Known as the grandfather of all personality tests in Western Society, the MMPI tests a huge variety of aspects of personality (all of them considered to be negative for a soldier). Most all of todays personality inventories were based on sub-sections of this 550+ question test. The guys break down each aspect and what it measures.
Whether you're stuck at a party or event, sometimes it can be good to have an exit strategy to avoid that guilt that comes with leaving on your own terms.
Al and Johnny took a trip to the mall and...well...had some things to say about it. Interesting things happened and introvert and extroverted roles were switched up.
Masturdating, the act of taking oneself out on the town to better know oneself, has been shown to aid in mental health. Introverts should feel more natural with this alone time, so this is an opportunity for extroverts to take note.
Jenn Granneman of Introvert, Dear comes on the podcast for her 3rd appearance to discuss her recent article on introverts feeling like the consummate outsider. The guys go over the article with Jenn and they discuss how extroverts can overlook introverts and how introverts have some traits that make them alienate themselves.
It's everyone's favorite holiday that either reminds them of their special someone or, well, not having one. But this holiday which has become a corporate money making machine once started out as something meant truly for love in the romantic circles of Chaucer
There is on old saying describing a person with general knowledge as "a Jack of all Trades but a Master of None." Al and Johnny talk about the extrovert tendency towards being a Jack of all Trades and the introvert tendency towards the Master of one trade. They also talk about finding a middle ground and the strength and weaknesses of each tendency.
One of the biggest issues why there is so much anxiety involved with being an introvert is this underlying fear of omission (fear of missing out). Extroverts go out and are a part of so many things and it makes introverts feel like they are missing out on something. Al and Johnny discuss the desire of being involved while being simultaneously exhausted by it.
Lying is something that we all do to some degree, but the reasons we lie are different. The hosts talk about times they have lied, all the different reasons behind it, and Al demonstrates his ability to carry an accent. It gets a little weird...
We're all somewhere on the spectrum of vertedness and most identify as either an introvert or extrovert but a certain percentage fall very close to the center. There's a lot of proven benefits to being an ambivert including being well rounded, being more flexible, and even making more money at jobs. Al and Johnny discuss those individuals who are naturally in the middle ground.
Dealing with exes can be something dreadful, or something surprisingly pleasant. Whether we broke up with someone or we're the one being broken up with, there's one thing to keep in mind: it is not mandatory to hate your ex.
Our hosts have talked a lot about narcissism and wanted to know if their obsession with it meant that they were actually narcissists. They found a psychological test that measures tendencies associated with narcissism (Narcissistic Personality Inventory), and discuss their results and what it means about them. Whole lot of backpedaling on this episode.
Introverts would be considered more likely to be agoraphobics but there's more to it than that. Agoraphobia, once considered a sub of anxiety and panic disorder, can have many triggers from different areas.
The big five personality test, also known as the five factor model, is a widely examined personality test that looks to incorporate decades of research into a few questions. It has been studied and scrutinized for years and can help people learn a lot about their temperaments. The extroversion scale is the one area brought over from Myers Briggs.
Recognizing toxic people and dispelling of them before they ruin your life is a very important skill that usually happens after its too late. Al and Johnny discuss the characteristics of them and what to do if you or a close person to you is dealing with one
Al and Johnny discuss ways of dealing with fear and what kinds of situations to avoid coming from the introvert or extrovert side.
On the hold extroverts like to stick out more than introverts right? Well what about the times when introverts want to stick out? Whats the best way to approach it?
Al and Johnny discuss the famous Stanford Prison Experiment where a simple test of students playing prisoners and guards was unexpectedly cut short as it became too real. What kinds of things did the experiment teach us about ourselves?
Flirting as an introvert and an extrovert can be approached in very different ways, and have very different results. Can an extrovert come across as overly confident? Can introverts spend too much time letting opportunities pass them by? At what point does flirting cross the line?
Kelly O'Laughlin from the Highly Sensitive Person Podcast joins us to talk about HSP's and gives some great perspectives on what it's like to be highly sensitive.
Al and Johnny discuss what it means to spend time with family during Christmas, including the weird feeling of buying gifts for cold relationships. Also they discuss the hectic world of Christmas shopping as an introvert or extrovert
Founder of the popular Trusty Chucks Blog (trustychucks.com) and newly proclaimed introvert Mary Graham stops by the podcast to talk about how accepting who she was made life a little easier, and how she handles being an introverted mom when family life gets tough.
What are the implications of being quiet shamed and how can our awareness of introversion help people's interactions with each other?
Al and Johnny discuss what moving means to introverts and extroverts and how moving can signify a life change in a lot of people.
They guys talked about success and what it can do to people so this episode they address how to handle the positivity and rewards that come your way. When life finally starts to go your way it's important to handle it in the right way or it can all be gone in a flash.
Sometimes, especially for introverts, small talk can be an annoying thing that's hard to avoid. Al and Johnny talk about just that, and ways to avoid it when possible.
Founder of Introvert Dear and a leading voice of the introvert revolution, Jenn Granneman stops by the podcast again to talk about introverted children and how people can help aid in their development.
What steps does one use to focus and what kinds of tangible benefits can you see in your life when you do find ways to stay on task?
It's that time of year when, whether we want to or not, we spend that quality time with our loved ones.
Happy Thanksgiving everyone!
personalityhacker.com founders Joel Mark Witt and Antonia Dodge stop by the podcast to talk about personal empowerment based on your MBTI. Listen closely because whatever your Myers Briggs type there's a lot of information in a short amount of time.
Sometimes we accidentally take our anger out on others, Al and Johnny talk about controlling that beast inside and when to let him out.
Amy Morin is the well known author of the best selling book, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do. In 2013, she wrote an article that went viral and, shortly after, it was picked up by Forbes and became the most read article on that site, garnering over 10 million views. Since then Amy has done two Ted talks including one entitled "Letting Go of What's Holding You Back." She talks with us about what it takes to be mentally strong and how to properly deal with times of stress and turmoil. Amy is a wealth of wisdom and has some great insights that anyone, introvert or extrovert, can use in their everyday lives.
What kind of processes do we go through when making tough decisions? What about the simple ones?
Laughing at your problems isn't always the right thing to do, there is a season for grief, however, a simple chuckle can keep things in perspective and take the power a situation can have over you.
Awwwwwwww. Besides refreshing and healing our bodies, sleep plays other roles in our lives such as acting as an escape and the ability to take us to strange places in our dreams. One of the psychological recognized drives, it is something we all absolutely need but seem to have little control over.
The guys have talked a lot about how to survive in a bad situation that seems overwhelming. But what about times that you should really cut your losses? When is it ok to bail out of a social situation?
Johnny describes his trials and tribulations and the low point that forced him to seek his own medical path and allowed him to survive and be where he is today.
It's that fun time of year when extroverts get to dress up and be someone they're not, and introverts get to....dress up and be someone they're not!
What do you do when you're forced to attend a special occasion? It is often the bane of an introverts existence, yet there are many special events (weddings, funerals, birthdays, births, graduations) that are terrible but cannot be avoided. The guys talk about good ways to handle things and surviving long enough to not be ostracized.
How do introverts and extroverts deal with frustration? What are some things they can do better to keep from blowing up?
Have you ever had a panic attack? What's the difference between panic and anxiety and what kind of things can an introvert or extrovert do to minimize life's stressors
What motivates you? The guys talk about things that get them up in the morning when they are not feeling that motivated.
Today we have a special guest, Jenn Granneman, founder of itnrovertdear.com, one of the fastest growing blogs for introverts and highly sensitive people. Jenn describes the roles of introvert women and how to tell if you have the traits to be a highly sensitive person and what you can do to manage social situations.
Do you wear different personality hats around different groups of people? Are extroverts' more outward personality more susceptible to these changes? Personalities mold to different types of people and some of us are more moldable than others.
Sit back, relax, grab some popcorn and enjoy the story of how introvert extrovert came to be, including the prior podcasts and the shaky start.
This is a heavy episode as Johnny struggles to get through in describing what is something very personal to him. Narcissism and codependency go together like magnets and can form some of the most interesting and destructive relationships that can be. Listen as either you or someone you know might be stuck in the never ending dance of a codependent relationship and what can be done about it. It's not all sad though as Johnny gives out some great points on finding a road to treating yourself well, self actualization, and true happiness and contentment.
How does maturity relate to self awareness? It is the underlying concept of the entire podcast and the introvert movement. Learning who you are is an often painful and difficult journey, but life is so much better once you discover who you are.
What does personal success mean to you? How do introverts and extroverts differ in their view of personal success?
What are your biggest regrets in life? As an introvert or an extrovert what do you do to deal with them?
We've done regular jobs and now were going to talk about the not so glamorous jobs we've had and what kind of character they build (or take away)
Per listener request, Al and Johnny discuss how introverts and extroverts, as well as intuitive thinkers and others, differ in their dealing with emotions.
Just keep calm and listen to this episode. Al has an over abundance of patience and Johnny does not. The guys talk about knowing when to be patient and when patience is being taken advantage of.
Al and Johnny talk about what it means to be confident and how introverts and extroverts tend to differ in similar situations.
Al and Johnny do what they do and talk about what it takes to be a more prepared person whether you're an introvert or an extrovert.
Al and Johnny discuss how skipping school can pay off but having the right personality type doesn't hurt
Parenting can be very energy consuming and patience testing at the best of times, but a mismatch of vertedness between a parent and their child can be especially problematic. Al and Johnny discuss the parent-child dynamic from the parenting side and focus on what to do as a parent when you don't match the vertedness of your child.
Is there such thing as a selfless act? Do people do things just because it is right or because they crave the good feeling? The guys talk about altruism and if it really exists.
Al and Johnny discuss the differences and similarities between empathy and sympathy and what kind of person doesn't have either, also called a ....narcissist
Do you overthink? A lot of us are self diagnosed over thinkers, which come to think of it, isn't a very healthy way to live
So uhhh... how long have you been working at Starbucks? Are you good at small talk or is it super uncomfortable for you? Introverts and extroverts can vary greatly in this but there's some tips for making it a bit less awkward
Both Introverts and Extroverts alike could use some help in getting organized, as it helps clear the mind and the soul. Al and Johnny talk about the psychological cleanse of cleaning your space and organizing, what it means about you, and what message it sends to others.
How has the life of an introvert changed over the past few years. Obviously we are living in a different time and introverts can flourish in ways they never could.
Why does it feel better to have our close friends and family around when we are suffering? How should introverts and extroverts be careful of their natural tendencies in these situations? You guessed it, Al and Johnny discuss just that!
Al and Johnny discuss how money can affect happiness. Johnny talks about the idea of a resetting happiness point and how money can have the same effect as a drug. They also discuss how wealthy does not necessarily mean happy and poverty does not always mean depression. A very good look at the idea of motivation and token economy.
The guys talk about one of the most hated events for an introvert: the job interview. Johnny has had a lot more success in the process and explains what he does to land jobs. Whether you're an introvert or an extrovert, charisma will get you far, as will breaking down the wall between you and the interviewer
Al and Johnny discuss a listener request about how to know if an introvert actually likes you. It is difficult since introverts are known for not being outspoken with emotions. A very good episode to help extroverts understand introverts.
One of the biggest reasons that Al and Johnny had for starting a podcast was to talk about those things that give them anxiety. The guys what causes them anxiety and how their friendship was formed around releaving anxiety. An episdoe that both introvert and extroverts can likely relate.
Al and Johnny discuss the vertedness of different comedians and what kind of impact that might have on the psychology of their comedy. The guys discuss comedy greats like Steve Martin, Mitch Hedberg, Jim Gaffifan, Brian Regan, and Tracy Morgan.
Al and Johnny discuss some of the psychology behind drinking and what role it plays in their personality. The guys talk about their favorite drinks and they both share a story of when they were arrested. A fun episode created from fan requests.
Introverts are known for being terrible at introductions and first impressions so Johnny tries to clue Al in on how to approach this social aspect of life. Al makes somes painful analogies including comparing conversations to drowning and comparing Johnny to a kid on Halloween.
Al and Johnny talk about the psychology behind obedience and authority and how certain people can be more susceptible. A large part of the discussion is a description of the famous Milgram study on obedience and authority.
Al and Johnny talk about situations in which one is stuck and has to deal with society. It seems like an introvert issue but Johnny reveals that it can be a problem for extroverts as well. The guys stand up for those people who work with the public and talk about how hard it is to deal with the anxiety of those who feel trapped.
Al and Johnny continue their discusssion on fundamental attribution error, talking more abut why and how people tend to misinterpret other's actions. The guys shift from a more definitional and example discussion to practical advice on how to treat others with this psychological awareness.
This one is more exciting than it sounds, and one of our favorite episodes to date. In social psychology, attribution is the process by which individuals explain the causes of behavior and events. The error comes in with the fact that humans have trouble seeing things from other people's perspectives and putting themselves in other's shoes. The guys have discussed the misunderstandings between introverts and extroverts before, but this episode discusses the psychology of why these feelings might cause a rift between people on different ends of the vertedness scale.
What is it that makes studying so hard and what are some mental tricks that can allow both introverts and extroverts to buckle down and stay ahead.
Following in the footsteps of the relationships episode, this one is dedicated to friendships. Al and Johnny explore introvert/extrovert friendships and the psychology of why crossing vertedness is actually a very good idea. The guys find that their similarities, INTJ vs ENTJ, result in a good match despite their introvert vs. extrovert differences.
The guys continue their discussion on relationships and the different dynamics of matches between introverts and extroverts and what kind of problems can arise. Also discussed is the psychology of symiotic relationships between introverts and extroverts.
Al and Johnny discuss the psychology of relationships from the perspective of the Myers Briggs personality type. They talk about the classis introvert and extrovert puzzle piece relationship as well as the benefits and drawbacks to introvert introvert and extrovert extrovert relationships.
There is a discussion of video games and how both introverts and extroverts can enjoy gaming. Al relates his experiences with games like Grand Theft Auto and Clash of Clans while Johnny talks about his love of Call of Duty with friends. A psychological breakdown ensues on how both introverts and extroverts experience the same activity in different ways while recharging for completely different reasons.
Al and Johnny continue their discussion on dysfuntional families and their role in shaping people's extrovert or introvert tendencies.
Intro Extro discusses a sensitive topic, dysfunctional families and the way introverts and extroverts deal with family issues. Several topics are discussed in terms of psychological effects and the great debate of nature versus nurture and what effect that might play on the development of your personality and your Myers Briggs personality type.
Al and Johnny look at different personality quirks that irk in the area of transportation and road trips. One of our favorite episodes so far, we take a look at what effect your introverted or extroverted dominance plays in traveling
The final episode dedicated to the Myers Briggs personality indicator, looking at the judging versus perceiving function. The J or P spectrum means a lot more than simply being structured or unstructured.
Continuing with the Myers Briggs Personality Type series we go into the third spectrum which deals with how people make decision in their world. Are you a T or an F? Do you make decisions b ased on logical conclusions or do you care more about the harmony of the group?
Continuation of the Meyers Briggs Personality Type Indicator Series, Al and Johnny discuss the sensing or intuition spectrum, which examines how people take in information.
An introduction to the series on the Myers-Briggs personality test and what it can tell about you. The next few episodes will go through each spectrum and what they mean. In the end you should be able to pick out which one you are and learn a little about how it categorizes the different personalities. The MBTI has been around for a while and is the de facto personality test for companies and schools, and people can get pretty obsessed with it when learning about themselves and others in the wild wild world of psychology.
The guys discuss a variety of famous people who live(d) in the public eye but were very introverted. The list includes: J.K. Rawling, Bill Gates, Steve Martin, Marylin Monroe, Heath Ledger, Harrison Ford, Grace Helbig, Martyn Littlewood and Daniel Hardcastle (Nerdcubed).
Al and Johnny discuss their feelings on Sin City based on their relative introverted and extroverted ways and what's so appealing to both of them.
A discussion of times when the hosts acted different from their normal introvert / extrovert nature and how they survived throught these occasions.
Al and Johnny discuss the psychology behind the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator Test and how introverts and extroverts have to go against their prefered type depending on the social situation.
Al and Johnny discuss the idea of treating others the way you want to be treated, and how the Golden Rule does not always apply when dealing with others. Sometimes the psychology of being nice does not fit when introverts deal with extroverts and vice versa.
Al, a strongly introverted psychologist, and Johnny, a strongly extroverted computer engineer, come together to discuss how they best enjoy their lives despite their mismatched work-to-energy styles.