In this episode of Love Sober Podcast, Kate talks with Victoria Vanstone, founder of Sober Awkward, writer, podcaster and author of A Thousand Wasted Sundays.
Victoria shares her journey from Reading pub culture and wild backpacking years (including blowing off part of her finger with a firework) through motherhood, anxiety and the moment she realised she could “step off the roundabout” and choose a sober life.
Kate and Victoria explore people‑pleasing, self‑abandonment, ADHD and rejection sensitivity, perimenopause and midlife rage, and how sobriety becomes a messy, beautiful “welcome mat” back home to yourself.
- Growing up in Reading pub culture, wild backpacking years and a Millennium firework accident that blew off part of her finger – Victoria Vanstone always wore chaos as a badge of honour.
- Motherhood, anxiety and Sunday shame finally brought her to a quiet rock bottom: “I just can’t f*cking do this anymore.”
- We talk about people‑pleasing, self‑abandonment, ADHD and rejection sensitivity, perimenopause, and why sobriety is the most interesting thing she’s ever done.
- Plus: social pivots in midlife, sober retreats in Thailand, the chicken dance, and rediscovering childlike joy without alcohol.
- Listen now on Love Sober Podcast and share with a sober or sober‑curious friend who needs this.
Links & Resources
Victoria Vanstone / Sober Awkward
- Website: [Sober Awkward] https://www.soberawkward.com/
- Podcast: https://www.soberawkward.com/
- Books: 1000 Wasted Sundays and Mumming: A Year of Trying and Failing to Be a Better Parent – [Book links]https://www.soberawkward.com/
- Thailand sober retreats with Sober Dave: https://www.soberawkward.com/
Kate & Love Sober
- Love Sober website & programs: [Love Sober] https://www.lovesober.com/
- Group program: Love Your Sober Summer – 6‑week group coaching for navigating summer triggers, holidays, nervous system regulation and boundaries: [Love Your Sober Summer] https://www.lovesober.com/love-your-sober-summer
Books & ideas mentioned
- The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober – Catherine Gray
- Hagitude – Sharon Blackie
- Women Who Run with the Wolves – Clarissa Pinkola Estés
- Creatrix / Burning Woman – Lucy H. Pearce
- ADHD & Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD)
https://www.soberawkward.com/
Vic's new book 'Mumming - A Year of Trying to be a Better Parent' is out now!
Grab a cuppa and let's chat x