Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life

Boundaries are so important. And can be so hard! Because boundaries are so vital, we have split this topic into a 2-part series. Part 1 will focus on how parents can set boundaries with their teen. Part 2 will focus on how teens can set boundaries in their own life.

Unhealthy vs. Healthy Boundaries

  • Unhealthy Boundaries
    • Porous Boundaries
    • Rigid Boundaries
  • Healthy Boundaries
    • Open, honest communication
    • Flexible
    • Able to protect yourself
    • Help us respect others

Application practice through examples

  • Examples to give your daughter so she can practice applying healthy vs unhealthy boundaries

How to get help in dangerous situations

  • What to do if someone threatens harm to themselves or others if boundary requirements not met
    • SafeUT (or similar app in other states)
    • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
      • 800-273-8255
      • Suicidepreventionlifeline.org

Resources:

  • @unapologeticallysurviving
  • @kristendukechats
  • Barbara Greenburg, USN, 5 Ways to Help Teens Set Boundaries with Friends, https://health.usnews.com/wellness/for-parents/articles/2018-02-13/5-ways-to-help-teens-set-boundaries-with-friends
  • Dr. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life, https://www.amazon.com/
  • Heather Senior Monroe, Newport Academy, Why Boundaries Matter for Teens, https://www.newportacademy.com/resources/mental-health/teens-health-boundaries/