There have been times in my life when I would hear hurtful words, especially when I made a mistake. But there were also moments when I would speak harshly and hurt others. I would be inconsiderate of them. I would be insensitive and fail to understand people.

I have been careless with my words. Whenever someone speaks unkindly to me, I have a tendency to speak with rudeness as well. I used to not care if I offended a person with my words. I only cared about airing my negative thoughts without minding if my words would offend the other person.

Now I realize that spoken words can open the door to new and better relationships, but words can also cause relationships to break down. The Bible tells us that words can give peace, but they can also spark disagreements and anger. Words can bring joy, but they can also bring sadness and bitterness. Words can give life or bring death (Proverbs 18:21).

Words have power. When you speak, you have the power to influence and impact your hearers. God calls us to use our words the way He does, to speak words that encourage. Speak words that empower. Speak with kindness. Speak words of comfort, healing, gratitude, and appreciation.

Jesus said, “The mouth speaks what the heart is full of” (Matthew 12:34; Luke 6:45). If you’ve put your trust in Jesus, your heart is being transformed by His love. You are a child of God, and He has blessed you with a beautiful tongue to speak the right words. Soak yourself in the love and kindness of God. He will guide you with
kind words to say. As you rely on God, the Holy Spirit will give you the right words and help you speak gently and with respect. • Golda Dilema

• When people speak unkindly to us, it hurts. God invites us to come to Him with all our hurts and receive His healing love and kindness. Can you think of any hurtful words people have spoken to or about you? Consider taking some time to bring these words to God in prayer.

• Can you think of a time you hurt others with your words? You can confess all these things to God, knowing that Jesus’s forgiveness covers all your sin, and you can ask Him to help you speak in ways that are wholesome and build others up (Ephesians 4:29-32).

Gold there is, and rubies in abundance, but lips that speak knowledge are a rare jewel. Proverbs 20:15 (NIV)