Labor Pains: Dealing with infertility and loss during pregnancy or infancy.: Recent Episodes
Teresa Reiniger with Women Connect & Support
Have you experienced infertility or loss of a child during pregnancy or infancy? This podcast is where you can find support and hope. This is a place where we will share stories of others going through infertility and loss to help give you hope that it is possible to live a full life after so much heart ache and to have the family you so desperately want. There will also be episodes from experts to help answer questions and be a great resources for you to find the help you need. I want to make sure you never feel alone and this community is here to help you and others all around the world.
📢 Not everything happens for a reason.
In this deeply moving episode of Female Voices: Life & Loss, Andrea Ali-Panzarella, physician, mother of three, and author opens up about her decade-long journey through infertility, miscarriage, IVF, surrogacy, and the unspoken grief that reshaped her life. Andrea’s story is raw, vulnerable, and filled with lessons about resilience, mental health, and redefining family. From the heartbreak of repeated losses to the joy of welcoming her children through gestational carriers, Andrea sheds light on what it really means to hold space for both devastation and healing.
“There are no good feelings or bad feelings they’re justfeelings. And it’s healthy to make space for all of them.” – Andrea
In this episode, we talk about:
✔️Andrea’s first experience with miscarriage and how it opened a long road of infertility.
✔️ The emotional and physical challenges of IVF cycles and repeated loss.
✔️ The decision to use gestational carriers and the grief that came with it.
✔️The role of therapy, couples counseling, and support groups in healing.
✔️Andrea’s children’s book Every Family is a Tree and why representation matters.
Key Takeaways:
✅Infertility is not a simple “just adopt” or “just do IVF” journey it’s layered with trauma, cost, and resilience.
✅ Mental health support is essential throughout the fertility process, not just after.
✅ Grief doesn’t disappear once you have children; healing is an ongoing journey.
✅ Representation in children’s literature helps normalize diverse family stories.
✅ Giving yourself grace and allowing space for all emotions is vital to healing.
✨ Mentions & Shoutouts:
Every Family is a Tree – Andrea’s children’s book (available on Amazon & Barnes & Noble).
Support groups for infertility & loss.
Teresa’s earlier episodes on infertility and family journeys.
👉 Connect With Andrea:
https://www.andreaali-panzarella.com/
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📢 What happens when joy and grief arrive at the same moment when you bring one baby home while saying goodbye to another?
In this moving episode of Female Voices: Life & Loss, host LaWayna Berry sits down with KeErica Brown, a wife, mother, author, and advocate for a heartfelt conversation about loss, resilience, and faith.
KeErica opens up about losing her son in the womb while carrying twins, her diagnosis of bipolar disorder, and the devastating fire that destroyed her son’s keepsakes.
Through her pain, KeErica found strength in scripture and faith, leading to her first book Your Mental Health Matters to Him and her passion for supporting others through RallyUp Magazine, We Fight Foundation, and her church. She reminds us that healing is not about forgetting, but about honoring, remembering, and finding light through the shadows. KeErica’s story is a powerful reminder of how unimaginable pain can be transformed into purpose, why mental health matters to God, and how faith and community help us heal.
Topics Discussed:
✔️Pregnancy and infant loss: the heartbreak of losing her son while carrying twins
✔️ Parenting after loss and the bittersweet joy of raising her daughter
✔️ The apartment fire that destroyed keepsakes and deepened her grief journey
✔️ How scripture and faith anchored her through bipolar disorder and healing
✔️ Writing her book Your Mental Health Matters to Him and her upcoming second book
✔️ The role of family, faith, and advocacy in rebuilding life after loss
Key Takeaways:
✅Grief never disappears it changes form, and you choose when and how to face it
✅ Keepsakes may be lost, but love and memory remain powerful anchors
✅ Faith and scripture can be transformative tools for both grief and mental health
✅ Healing is a journey of surrender: letting God do the work within you
✅ Sharing your story can inspire and encourage others walking a similar path
Quotes to Remember:
💭 It’s bittersweet. I came home with one baby, but I lost another. That’s the sunshine in the rain.” – KeErica
💭 “You may bury it, but grief has a way of sprouting legs and showing up later. You will have to face it.” – KeErica
💭 “God cares about our mental health too. It’s not Jesus or therapy—it’s both.” – KeErica
💭 “If my child could face death, there is nothing under this sun I cannot face.” – Wayna
✨ Mentions & Shoutouts:
Rally Up Magazine – Advocacy for mental health.
We Fight Foundation – Nonprofit supporting families impacted by suicide.
Illuminate – Nonprofit bridging the gap for POC in tech.
Her book Your Mental Health Matters to Him (available on Amazon).
Upcoming book Your Healing Journey Matters to Him (January release).
👉 Connect With KeErica:
Instagram: iamkeerica
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keericabrown/
👉 Connect With Us:
Have a story to share? Interested in being a guest? Need Support? DM us on social media or send an email.
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Email: femalevoiceslifelosspodcast@gmail.com
📢 What happens when life delivers back-to-back losses, and the weight of grief collides with burnout and identity shifts?
In this episode Teresa Reiniger and LaWayna Berry sit down with Women’s Empowerment Coach, Stacey Johnson. A licensed clinical therapist for more than 20 years, Stacey’s life changed dramatically when she experienced two profound losses just weeks apart, her stepfather and her husband. Suddenly navigating grief, single parenthood, and the demands of daily life, Stacey found herself moving from survival mode into transformation.
Stacey opens up about how her professional background both helped and complicated her grieving process, and why she ultimately transitioned from therapy into coaching to reach women beyond the walls of her Ohio practice. She shares insights on “silent grief,” the unspoken losses that often show up as burnout, anxiety, or physical symptoms and how women can begin to befriend their emotions instead of suppressing them.
🎧 This conversation shines a light on identity, resilience, and the power of sisterhood. Stacey reminds us that you don’t have to hold it all together, and you don’t have to do it alone.
Topics Discussed:
✔️Stacey’s journey from therapist to women’s empowerment coach
✔️ Experiencing back-to-back losses in 2021 and how she coped
✔️ The difference between therapy and coaching in supporting women
✔️ Understanding “silent grief” and how it shows up in the body
✔️ Learning to befriend emotions instead of suppressing them
✔️ Rediscovering identity outside of roles like wife, mom, or employee
Key Takeaways:
✅ Grief is not only about funerals, but it also includes the silent, hidden losses we often ignore.
✅ Burnout, overwhelm, and even physical symptoms can be rooted in unprocessed grief.
✅Coaching allows women to move from crisis to transformation, with greater commitment to their healing journey.
✅ Befriending emotions, naming them, sitting with them, and giving them permission creates freedom.
✅ Rediscovering your identity beyond the roles you play is a powerful step in healing and empowerment.
Quotes to Remember:
💭 “I don’t apologize for my tears anymore. They’re a release of emotion, and that’s okay.” - Stacey
💭 “I realized I had lost my own identity long before I lost my husband, I was always someone’s wife, someone’s mom, someone’s employee. Now I’m rediscovering who I really am.” - Stacey
💭 “You don’t have to hold it all together, and you don’t have to do it alone.” - Stacey
👉 Connect With Stacey:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/stacey.v.johnson
Listen on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StaceyJohnsonCoaching
TikTok: tiktok.com/@staceyjohnsoncoaching
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/staceyjohnsoncoaching/
Email: stacey@staceyjohnsoncoaching.com
👉 Connect With Us:
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Email: femalevoiceslifelosspodcast@gmail.com
📢 From the villages of Kenya to the stages of Miss Senior Missouri, Flossie’s story is a powerful testament to resilience, faith, and transformation. In this inspiring episode of Female Voices: Life and Loss, host Teresa Reiniger welcomes Flossie, critical care nurse with over 30 years of experience, best-selling author of Village Vibes, wellness coach, and founder of Flossie’s Turmeric Tea.
Flossie opens up about her early years in Kenya, the challenges of immigrating to the United States, and the struggles she faced as a young mother determined to build a better life. She shares candidly about the stress, loss, and health battles that led to her autoimmune diagnosis and how she reversed her illness naturally through research, faith, and her now-beloved turmeric tea.
Beyond her health journey, Flossie reflects on her divorce after nearly three decades of marriage, learning to put herself first for the very first time, and embracing new opportunities that pushed her far outside her comfort zone, including competing in the Miss Senior Missouri Pageant at 63.
🎧 This conversation is about so much more than illness and healing, it’s about courage, mindset, and creating a new life after loss. Flossie’s journey reminds us that no matter your age or circumstances, it is never too late to choose health, embrace change, and step boldly into your true identity.
Topics Discussed:
✔️ Growing up in Kenya and the challenges of transitioning to life in the U.S.
✔️ Coping with stress, divorce, and loss while holding onto resilience.
✔️ How Flossie reversed her autoimmune diagnosis through natural remedies and mindset shifts.
✔️ The creation of Flossie’s Turmeric Tea and the growth of her health and wellness business.
✔️Embracing self-discovery and bold new challenges, including Miss Senior Missouri.
Key Takeaways:
✅Healing is possible when you combine natural remedies, mindset work, and consistency.
✅ Resilience often grows in the face of challenges—from immigration struggles to divorce.
✅ Putting yourself on the “front burner” is not selfish—it’s essential for living fully.
✅ Faith, family, health, and community can serve as guiding values through difficult times.
✅ It’s never too late to start over, try something new, or redefine who you are.
Quotes to Remember:
💭 “I call myself unstoppable because nothing is impossible. It only looks impossible until it’s done.” – Flossie
💭 “Your health is everything before anything.” – Flossie
💭 “I became my own guinea pig and reversed my autoimmune disease. Either the disease was going to kill me or the remedies were but I wasn’t going to stop trying.” – Flossie
✨ Mentions: (links for all of the following are on her website)
Flossie’s Books:
Village Vibes: Shockingly Simple Ways To Stop Autoimmune Disease– her story of resilience and reversing autoimmune disease.
Choice, Commitment & Consistency Journal
Flossie’s Turmeric Tea – natural wellness product born from her healing journey.
GPS to a Healthier You Program – her coaching program focused on mindset, consistency, and lifestyle.
👉 Connect with Flossie:
Website: https://www.simplelifehealthieryou.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/16fp2AFcka/?mibextid=wwXIfr
LinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/flossie-njama-75a0281a4
👉 Connect With Us:
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Email: femalevoiceslifelosspodcast@gmail.com
📢 Suicide is a topic we often shy away from, yet it touches countless families, communities, and lives every single day.
In this powerful and heartfelt episode of Female Voices: Life and Loss, hosts Teresa Reiniger and Wayna Berry open up an honest conversation about suicide awareness, prevention, and the deep emotional struggles that often go unseen.
From heartbreaking stories of children as young as 11 who felt unseen and unheard, to the pressures faced by college freshmen adjusting to independence, to the overwhelming expectations placed on adults in their 30s, 40s, and beyond this episode, suicide across all stages of life. Teresa and Wayna highlight the importance of paying attention to red flags: sudden withdrawal, giving away belongings, self-harm, or even subtle phrases like “I’m just tired.”
They also take on the complex role of parenting, safe spaces, and cultural dynamics in prevention. Together, they stress how open communication, consistent presence, and creating a “safe place to land” can make all the difference for children, teens, and adults struggling with mental health.
The conversation doesn’t shy away from tough realities like the dangers of turning to AI for mental health support, or the lingering guilt survivors often feel after losing a loved one to suicide. The message throughout is one of hope and healing: that support is available, that safe spaces can be built, and that every life has value and worth.
🎧 Listeners are reminded that if they or someone they love is struggling, they are not alone. Whether it’s reaching out to a therapist, a grief coach, or calling 988, help and understanding are within reach.
Topics Discussed:
✔️The impact of suicide on children, teens, and adults
✔️ Warning signs and red flags to look for in loved ones
✔️ The role of parenting, safe spaces, and communication in prevention
✔️ The dangers of relying on AI for mental health support
✔️ Breaking the stigma around talking about suicide and seeking help
Key Takeaways:
✅ Suicide is often tied to unrelenting emotional pain and the belief that there’s no other way out.
✅ Warning signs include isolation, giving away belongings, self-harm, sudden withdrawal, or subtle phrases like “I’m just tired.”
✅ Open, consistent communication with children and young adults builds resilience and trust.
✅ Seeking professional support is vital don’t stop at the first “no-fit” therapist or coach.
✅ Release guilt and practice self-compassion; it is not your fault.
Quotes to Remember:
💭“Kids are going to go through hard stuff, and if they have a safe place to land, they’re going to be okay.” – Wayna
💭 “They are suffering, and they just don’t know any other way to get rid of that pain.” – Teresa
💭 “Don’t stop with the first therapist. Keep going you will find the right person.” – Wayna
✨ Mentions
988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline – Call or text for immediate support
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Email: femalevoiceslifelosspodcast@gmail.com
📢Caregiving can be the greatest gift and the heaviest load.
In this tender and powerful episode, senior care advocate Annie Eads joins host Teresa Reiniger to share the sacred, emotional, and often unseen world of elder care. Annie’s compassion and wisdom come from years of walking families through some of life’s hardest transitions from home care to hospice. With heartfelt stories, honest reflections, and practical advice, Annie offers support to anyone navigating aging, caregiving, or anticipatory grief.
Whether you’re supporting aging parents, facing tough decisions, or simply needing a reminder that you're not alone this episode is filled with guidance and grace.
Topics Discussed:
✔️The emotional toll and rewards of working in senior care and end-of-life spaces.
✔️ Home care vs. assisted living vs. nursing homes: what families need to know.
✔️ Real-life stories that illustrate the deep connections formed in elder care.
✔️ Caregiver burnout, guilt, and the importance of self-care and boundaries.
✔️ Planning ahead: the value of long-term care insurance and veteran benefits.
Key Takeaways:
✅ Grief in caregiving is real and recurring. Professionals like Annie often lose “family” repeatedly and must learn how to navigate emotional waves with resilience.
✅ Caregiver burnout is dangerous and under-discussed. Self-care is not optional it's essential for both professionals and family members.
✅ Education is empowerment. Many people fear hospice or nursing homes due to outdated beliefs, but these services can provide immense comfort and support.
✅ Support is out there. Whether it's support groups, home care professionals, or long-term care policies, help exists and you just have to ask.
✅ Boundaries are healing. Annie’s own journey of learning to say “no” is a reminder that sometimes the most loving thing we can do is prioritize ourselves.
Quotes to Remember:
💭 "We’re there for them when their families can’t be and that is a sacred responsibility.” – Annie
💭 “Caregiver burnout is so real — 40% of caregivers die before the person they care for.” – Annie
💭 “It’s okay to ask for help. Don’t feel guilty. Let yourself live too.” – Annie
💭 “When you hire help, you give your family the chance to just be family again.” – Annie
✨ Mentions:
Books Recommended:
How to Say It to Seniors by David Solie
Moving Miss Peggy by Robert Benson
👉 Connect With Us:
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📢 Grief doesn’t look the same for everyone and for many men, it’s invisible.
In this powerful episode of Female Voices: Life and Loss, we welcome back licensed clinical social worker and mental health advocate Derrick Howell for a crucial conversation around Bereaved Fathers Day and the often-overlooked journey of fathers grieving the loss of a child.
With compassion, expertise, and lived experience, Derrick explores the emotional complexities of male grief, how societal expectations shape the way men express (or suppress) their pain, and what families, partners, and communities can do to truly support the men in their lives after loss.
Whether you’re a grieving dad, a partner seeking to understand, or a friend wanting to do better, this episode offers deep insight and practical tools to create healing spaces where fathers are no longer forgotten in grief.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️The unique grief experience of bereaved fathers
✔️ Why men’s grief is often minimized or overlooked
✔️ The societal expectations that hinder male vulnerability
✔️ How to honor Bereaved Fathers Day without emotional pressure
✔️ Tools for grieving dads who may not feel ready for therapy
Key Takeaways:
✅ Grieving fathers need space to feel without pressure to perform sometimes, simply asking what they need makes all the difference.
✅ Men often return to work quickly after loss, not because they’re ready, but because it feels like the only socially acceptable outlet.
✅ Creative tools like journaling, voice memos, or art can help men process grief in nontraditional ways, especially if they’re hesitant to seek therapy.
✅ Peer support and professional support can complement each other, group connection offers community, while one on-one work can accelerate healing.
✅ Active listening, avoiding assumptions, and not minimizing pain are key when supporting a bereaved father.
Quotes to Remember:
💭 “Men are often expected to provide and protect and when loss happens, it can shake their entire identity.” Derrick Howell
💭 “Care is usually reserved for the mother. Credibility is expected from the father.” Derrick Howell
💭 “Sometimes asking, ‘What do you need?’ is the most respectful and supportive thing you can do.” Derrick Howell
👉 Connect With Us:
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Email: femalevoiceslifelosspodcast@gmail.com
📢 Nobody told me the second year would be harder than the first.
In this deeply vulnerable and heartfelt episode, Teresa Reiniger and co-host LaWayna Berry reunite for an honest conversation about what grief really looks like after the first year, when the world expects you to be "doing better," and your heart still aches deeply.
LaWayna opens up about life in the second year following the loss of her son, Joshie. She shares how the initial fog of shock gave way to a heavier emotional reality where anniversaries sting deeper, marriage is tested, and loneliness can feel even more isolating. Together, Teresa and LaWayna explore the complexities of long-term grief, the differences in how people grieve (especially within a marriage), and the unexpected shifts in support systems that come with time.
From honoring her son through tattoos and taco traditions to navigating marriage challenges and finding her true tribe, LaWayna’s honesty is both gut-wrenching and life-giving. This episode offers a powerful reminder that grief evolves and so do we.
🎧 "The second year? I wasn’t ready for it. It caught me off guard." — Wayna Berry
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️The Unexpected Weight of Year Two in Grief: How the second year can feel lonelier, more emotionally intense, and physically draining as the shock wears off.
✔️Grieving Differently in Relationships: Navigating grief within marriage, including communication breakdowns, emotional disconnection, and finding common ground.
✔️Shifting Support Systems and “Holding Space”: How friendships and family dynamics change, and what it truly means to hold space for someone who is grieving.
✔️Honoring a Child Through Rituals and Memorials: Personal ways of remembering a lost child, including tattoos, traditions, and intentional moments.
✔️The Role of Faith, Mental Health, and Physical Wellness: The intersection of spiritual growth, therapy, and chronic illness in the grieving process.
Key Takeaways:
✅ The second year of grief can feel even harder than the first, the fog lifts, but the pain often deepens when the world assumes you’ve “moved on.”
✅ People grieve differently even in the same household and clear, compassionate communication is essential to stay connected.
✅ Your support circle may change after a loss. Be open to unexpected people who show up, and let go of those who can’t.
✅ Self-advocacy matters. Use your voice to ask for what you need emotionally, physically, and spiritually.
✅ Healing doesn’t come from time alone, it comes from awareness, rest, connection, and sharing where it hurts.
Quotes to Remember:
💭 “The second year I was out of shock and reality sank in that I’m never going to see my son again.” LaWayna Berry
💭 “We were both grieving, just in totally different lanes. I needed mental health support. He wanted to read books. We were saying the same thing but couldn’t hear each other.” LaWayna Berry
💭 “People assume because I’m not crying, I’m okay. And what they call ‘anger’ is me using my voice. Directness doesn’t mean I’m not hurting.” LaWayna Berry
👉 Connect With Us:
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Email: femalevoiceslifelosspodcast@gmail.com
📢 What if your greatest pain became your greatest purpose?
In this powerful episode, Sofia Carpenter shares her extraordinary journey of surviving a tragic accident as a child, navigating the foster care system, and ultimately becoming a fierce coach dedicated to helping others heal and rise. Her story is a testament to the unshakable strength of the human spirit and the healing power of faith, love, and inner work.
Sofia opens up about the layers of loss, trauma, and redemption that shaped her, and how she reclaimed her identity and calling. This is a must-listen for anyone seeking hope, healing, and a reminder that your story isn’t over, it’s just being rewritten.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️ Surviving a tragic car accident and its long-term impact
✔️ Sofia’s experience navigating the foster care system
✔️ How loss, grief, and identity intersect childhood trauma
✔️ Rebuilding a life through faith, forgiveness, and fierce self-belief
✔️ Becoming a coach to help others process pain and find purpose
Key Takeaways:
✅ Grief doesn’t define you and healing can refine you.
✅ Your voice matters, especially when it was once silenced.
✅ Foster care is a chapter, not the whole book.
✅ Faith and inner work can coexist and together, they empower.
✅ Your past pain can be the platform for someone else’s breakthrough.
Quotes to Remember:
💭 "Good things are birthed in the dark times like a caterpillar becoming a butterfly."
💭 "Even in foster care, I knew I had a purpose, I just didn’t know what it was yet."
✨ Mentions
The Book: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D.
🎧 Tune in If you’ve ever felt stuck in your loss or questioned your strength, this episode will meet you right where you are.
👉 Connect with Sofia Carpenter
https://www.facebook.com/sofia.carpenter.9?mibextid=kFxxJD
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📢 What do you do when life throws you grief, chaos, and change over and over again?
In this powerful episode of Female Voices, Life and Loss, Teresa Reiniger sits down with certified life and mindset coach Cindy Richardson to explore her deeply personal story of loss, growth, and reinvention. Cindy opens up about her childhood experience growing up with a mother who battled bipolar disorder and depression, and the heartbreak of eventually losing her to suicide. She shares the emotional toll of divorce, the grief of letting go of her identity after a 30 year teaching career, and how each loss became a catalyst for self-discovery and meaningful change.
Now, as a coach, Cindy helps women in midlife navigate their own transitions by focusing on mindset, self-care, and the power of personal reinvention. She’s the co-creator of the Your Midlife BFFs community and podcast, a space designed to support women who feel stuck and are ready to reclaim their voice, purpose, and potential.
This conversation is a powerful reminder that even in life’s hardest moments, we can choose to rewrite our story and design a life we truly love.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️Growing up with parents who faced mental health struggles and how it shaped her outlook on life.
✔️ The emotional impact of losing her mother to suicide and seeking counseling for support.
✔️ Navigating two divorces, the grief of lost dreams, and co parenting with intention.
✔️ Identity loss after retiring from a 30-year teaching career and the challenges of starting over.
✔️ Moving into life coaching, helping women in midlife envision new possibilities.
✔️ Mindset shifts and thought work to move from feeling stuck to feeling hopeful.
Key Takeaways:
✅Childhood experiences shape us, but they don’t have to define our future.
✅ Suicide loss creates layered grief that requires compassion, support, and healing over time.
✅ Divorce is more than a breakup; it’s grieving the future you imagined.
✅ Career changes, especially after decades, bring identity loss that needs to be acknowledged and processed.
✅ Your mindset and the meaning you give to life events can either keep you stuck or move you toward growth.
Quotes to Remember:
💭 “Growing up, I knew my life was different. I could see it when I went to other homes, and I promised myself I wanted something different for my future.”
💭 “Retiring after 30 years of teaching was a huge identity shift. I had to grieve the safety of that career before I could step into something new.”
💭 “You can’t always change what happens to you, but you can change how you see it and that changes everything.”
✨ Mentions:
Quote by Wayne Dyer: “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”
👉 Connect with Cindy Richardson:
https://www.instagram.com/cindyrichardsoncoaching/
https://www.instagram.com/yourmidlifebffs/
https://www.facebook.com/groups/cindyrichardsoncoaching
https://cindyrichardsoncoaching.com/
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📢 What happens when a child raised in chaos grows into a woman who leads with purpose, love, and vision?
In this gripping and soul-stirring episode of Female Voices: Life and Loss, we welcome Newoka LaShelle an advocate, author, speaker, and Executive Director of Senior Services of Eastern Missouri, LLC. From surviving childhood abuse, rape, and homelessness, to founding her own non-medical in home care agency that specializes in memory care management, respite care, and hospice support, Newoka’s journey is one of extraordinary courage and purpose.
She also speaks openly about her work as a mental health advocate with NAMI’s “In Our Own Voice” program and Crisis Intervention Training (CIT) for law enforcement, helping to break the stigma around trauma and mental illness.
🎧 If you’ve ever felt lost in the darkness, her voice will be a spark of light. This conversation is a reminder that healing is possible, purpose is powerful, and generational pain can be rewritten.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️Newoka’s harrowing childhood and journey through trauma, abuse, and abandonment
✔️ Her determination to survive: working at 13, creating fake birth certificates just to get a job
✔️ The impact of community, mentors, and those who saw her potential
✔️ Her healing work through poetry, spoken word, radio, and entrepreneurship
✔️ Self-care and setting boundaries in caregiver burnout
Key Takeaways:
✅ Generational trauma can be broken with intention, healing, and relentless self-empowerment
✅ Mentors and small kindnesses matter they can change a life
✅ Creative expression can be a vital path to healing poetry, music, and storytelling are medicine
✅ Boundaries are sacred, especially for survivors turned caregivers
✅ Survival isn’t the end goal thriving and giving back is
Quotes to Remember:
💭 “Do whatever you can to get out of that abusive situation.”
💭 “My story is about practicing the elements of self: self discipline, self-esteem, self-love.”
💭 “I wrote my book for closure. It ruffled feathers and it needed to.”
✨ Mentions & Shoutouts:
Senior Services of Eastern Missouri, LLC – Newoka’s private duty in-home care agency
NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) – where Newoka and Wayna connected
Newoka’s Books:
- Karma’s Dirty Secrets (Newoka’s memoir)
- Ode Poet Valley
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📢 What happens when a mother loses her only child and discovers that love, connection, and even communication don't end with death?
In this week’s deeply powerful episode of Female Voices, Life and Loss, Teresa Reiniger sits down with Tara Blevins a bereaved mother navigating life after the devastating loss of her son, Keith.
Through raw emotion and radiant strength, Tara opens up about the pain of addiction, the burden of guilt, and the extraordinary healing that unfolded when she began to see and feel her son’s spirit all around her.
🎧 Whether you're grieving or holding space for someone who is, Tara’s story will remind you that healing is possible, connection never dies, and you're never alone in your grief.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️Tara’s story of losing her only child, Keith, and the emotional aftermath
✔️ Signs from loved ones after death: energy, music, physical sensations, and intuitive communication
✔️ Guilt, helplessness, and learning to forgive yourself and others
✔️ The power of grounding, nature, and creativity in grief recovery
✔️ The transformational journey through grief coaching, retreats, and support networks
Key Takeaways:
✅Grief and healing are deeply personal and spiritual signs can bring profound comfort
✅ Emotional healing requires intentional action: journaling, grounding, water intake, affirmations, and connection
✅ Grief is not just about one loss, it often uncovers a lifetime of unprocessed pain
✅ Finding community and creating meaning from your loss can transform your journey
✅ Forgiveness, including self-forgiveness, is a foundational part of healing
Quotes to remember:
💭 “Music is my therapy – Tara
💭 “I wasn't the best version of me, but I did the best I could. And I'm OK with that.” – Tara
💭 “You don’t need to do this alone. Maybe you can but you don’t have to.” – Tara
✨ Shoutouts & Mentions:
The book Signs, The Secret Language of the Universe by Laura Lynne Jackson
The Living After Grief Retreat that supports bereaved mothers
Well-building fundraiser in Uganda in honor of Keith’s compassionate spirit
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📢When a child dies, two hearts break and they don’t have to break apart.
In this deeply moving episode of Female Voices: Life & Loss, Teresa Reiniger sits down with LaWayna and Josh Berry, devoted parents who open their hearts about the devastating loss of their three-year-old son, Joshie. With grace, honesty, and deep vulnerability, they share how grief has reshaped their relationship, their faith, and their everyday lives.
Together, the Berry’s explore the raw and often unspoken complexities of grieving not only as individuals, but also as a couple. They speak candidly about how their different grieving styles have required compassion, communication, and patience, and how they continue to choose connection over isolation. From the comforting rituals that ground them to the support systems that carry them, they reflect on the painful but powerful path toward healing.
🎧Whether you’re a parent walking through loss, a partner trying to hold space for someone’s sorrow, or simply someone seeking hope in the midst of heartbreak—this episode offers tenderness, wisdom, and the gentle reminder that you are not alone.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️Understanding grief as a couple: grieving together separately
✔️ The role of community, support groups, and faith in processing loss
✔️ Grieving differently as partners and the importance of honoring those differences
✔️ Daily rituals: check-ins, gratitude practices, time for grief
✔️ Healing practices for parents: prayer, meditation, therapy, group participation
Key Takeaways:
✅ Support Matters: Lean on faith, friends, or groups, grief is too heavy to bear alone.
✅ Honor Differences: Recognize grief might look different for each partner and that's ok.
✅ Ritual and Routine: Set daily time to connect, reflect, and remember.
✅ Practice Faith & Gratitude: Simple morning routines can stabilize emotions.
✅ Stay in Community: Healing is often found through shared stories and walking alongside others who've been there.
Quotes to Remember:
💭“Grief is not being okay with what has been lost…but allowing it to come and then letting it go.” Josh Berry
💭 “As long as he was working on his ‘areas of improvement,’ I was willing to stay and walk beside him.” LaWayna Berry
💭 “Men and women grieve differently—not wrong, just different.” Teresa
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📢 What happens when the weight of survival becomes too much to bear?
Join LaWayna Berry and Teresa Reiniger as they unpack Tyler Perry’s emotionally raw film Straw. It’s a story of a mother's silent suffering, survival in the face of crushing sacrifice, and the last straw that breaks her. This episode is a journey through heartbreaking scenes, systemic injustice, and hopeful redemption in the most unexpected places.
In this episode, LaWayna Berry and Teresa Reiniger delve into Tyler Perry’s emotionally charged film Straw, exploring the deeply personal and systemic layers of grief, motherhood, and survival. Through raw conversation and thoughtful reflection, they unpack the silent suffering of Janiyah Wilkinson a mother pushed beyond her limits by relentless sacrifice, financial hardship, and emotional isolation.
LaWayna and Teresa draw powerful connections between the film’s most gut-wrenching scenes and the real-life struggles many women face when grief goes unspoken and support systems fall short. They examine how racial and gender injustice, generational trauma, and the pressure to “hold it all together” lead to a breaking point that feels all too familiar.
With empathy and spiritual insight, they also illuminate the quiet moments of redemption where community, compassion, and hope begin to surface even in the aftermath of pain. This episode isn’t just a review it’s a conversation on how grief shapes identity, how silence can fracture the soul, and how healing begins with being seen and heard.
Trigger Warning: The film includes the loss of a child and may be emotionally activating for some listeners.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️ Motherhood in Crisis: The emotional, physical, and financial toll of survival mode and the pivotal moment that reveals the weight of it all.
✔️ Systemic Grief: How racism, gender bias, and daily microaggressions compound invisible wounds and erode trust in institutions.
✔️ When It All Breaks: Understanding the explosive breaking point as a human response to prolonged, layered grief not a failure.
✔️ The Power of Presence: How being witnessed, supported, and held in community can become a lifeline to healing.
✔️ Pathways to Healing: Simple, trauma-informed tools breathwork, grounding, and visioning a life beyond just getting by.
Key Takeaways:
✅We carry emotional overload quietly and eventually; grief finds a way out.
✅ Systemic injustices, medical, racial, financial add layers to personal suffering.
✅ Compassion from strangers can be a turning point, empathy matters.
✅ Healing starts in a community: breathwork, journaling, grounding with care.
✅ Visualization gives permission to dream again even from the ashes.
Quotes to Remember:
💭 “That officer… what a jerk. Just beat someone while they're already down.”
💭 “If you keep suppressing those emotions, you will have a last straw—an explosion.”
💭 “Slowing down. Nothing’s gonna happen while you're rushing.”
✨ Mention:
Book; It’s OK That You’re Not OK by Megan Devine
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📢Even if the sky is clear, your heart may still feel stormy.
In this raw and reflective episode of Female Voices: Life & Loss, co-hosts Teresa Reiniger and LaWayna Berry open their hearts to discuss the emotional aftermath of the recent St. Louis tornado. This is more than a conversation about physical destruction, it’s about the invisible wounds that natural disasters leave behind.
Together, they explore the layers of hidden grief…the kind that lingers when homes are lost, routines are uprooted, and the very identity of “who we were” before the storm feels unreachable. From stories of community strength and loss to personal accounts of fear, compassion, and survivor’s guilt, this episode speaks directly to the hearts of those silently suffering.
With empathy and practicality, Teresa and LaWayna offer a blend of grounding practices, faith-forward encouragement, and real-world tools for moving forward, like journaling (even if it’s a voice memo), deep breathing, and reaching out for help without shame. They also hold space for spiritual grief that can follow disasters, inviting listeners to reconnect with their own strength, purpose, and hope.
Whether you’ve survived a storm, supported someone through one, or felt your life fall apart in other ways, this conversation is a heartfelt reminder: you are not alone. Healing doesn’t follow a timeline. But with care, connection, and compassion, it is possible to rebuild, heart first.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️ Immediate Response and Shared Shock: How community, first responders, and local churches rallied physically and emotionally right after the storm.
✔️ Hidden Griefs of Disaster: Loss of home, identity, routine, and shaken faith even when life is spared.
✔️ Physical & Emotional Reactions: Trauma symptoms like nausea, feverish anxiety, or emotional numbness during and after the storm.
✔️ Coping Tools: Grounding & Support: Using breath, nature, journaling (even “word vomit”), and talking it out to regain a sense of control.
✔️ Path Forward: Action + Compassion: Blending practical next steps (bus vouchers, roofing aid) with emotional regulation, including self-advocacy and self-care.
Key Takeaways:
✅Disaster grief often hides in identity, stability, routine, and spiritual trust.
✅ Physical symptoms (nausea, restlessness, tension) can mirror emotional trauma be present with them.
✅ Advocacy is healing: asking for help, saying what you need, and stepping into community support builds stability.
✅ Small practices like breathing, journaling, stepping into nature will anchor you when everything is topsy-turvy.
✅ Healing is nonlinear. Moving from survival to self-care to strategy restores hope one breath and one step at a time.
Quotes to Remember:
💭 “The storm came toward the roof from my shelter, but not the strength from my soul…I rise, soaked and shaken, but still I rise.” — Arthur W.B.
💭 “I want you to tell me what you need. They may want to respect your privacy but advocate for yourself.”
💭 “Grief will not be quiet or shushed, it will speak.”
✨ Shoutouts & Mentions
Rich Mamas networking group and Refresh (local Black‑owned beauty shop) for community generosity.
Tributes to volunteers, local restaurants, churches, andconstruction crews rallying to rebuild.
🎧 Need support? If grief after this or any disaster is hitting hard, know you’re not alone. Reach out locally or through us for guidance, resources, or just someone who cares. Until next time, may you rest in peace and rise in strength.
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📢 He carried more than his uniform, he carried the weight of loss, love, and unspoken grief.
In this deeply moving episode of Female Voices: Life & Loss, Teresa Reiniger and LaWayna Berry welcome back Papi (Nathaniel Hill) devoted husband, grandfather, U.S. veteran to share his profound journey through military trauma, unresolved grief from his father's death, and the healing power of faith and familial presence.
With raw vulnerability, Papi opens up about the emotional burden of delivering heartbreaking death notifications to families during his military career, the coping strategies he learned in the military, and the transformative release he experienced after his father’s funeral. With raw honesty, he recounts how spiritual grounding and “rap sessions” with chaplains and brothers in service helped him maintain emotional resilience. As a father and grandfather, Papi reveals how showing up vulnerably and intentionally continues to shape those he loves.
🎧 A powerful thread throughout this episode is the grounding role of Papi’s faith, how it helped him navigate unimaginable pain, reframe his purpose, and become a steady spiritual anchor for his family. Whether you’re a veteran, bereaved parent, caregiver, or someone confronting grief, this conversation offers hope, actionable support, and encouragement to open up to healing.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️ The Weight of Military Grief and Service: Papi shares the emotional toll of his military duties, including the heart wrenching responsibility of delivering death notifications and the silent grief that often follows service.
✔️ Unspoken Loss and the Power of Emotional Release: The episode explores the long-term effects of holding grief in, particularly in men. Papi opens up about the delayed grief he experienced after losing his father, and how private moments of release became turning points in his healing.
✔️ Support Systems that Make a Difference: From chaplain led debriefings to peer support sessions in the military, Papi discusses how intentional spaces for expression were crucial for emotional resilience and why these models are so necessary in civilian life too.
✔️ Faith, Family, and the Heart of Fatherhood: Papi speaks to the strength and vulnerability required to lead with love. He reflects on his role as a husband, father, and grandfather, and how faith continues to shape his approach to presence, patience, and emotional openness.
✔️ Creating Safe Spaces for Male Grief: The conversation highlights the cultural silence around male grief and the need to dismantle shame. Through personal stories and honest dialogue, the episode advocates for deeper compassion, support, and emotional permission for men navigating loss.
Key Takeaways:
✅Healing begins with release—holding in grief only deepens pain
✅Emotional support systems are crucial, especially for men
✅Vulnerability is strength: sharing your truth creates connection
✅Faith, family, and intentional love can reshape our grief journey
✅Even after deep loss, we can rediscover hope and purpose
Quotes to Remember:
💭“When I give the flag to them… I had to be strong… That was emotional time for me.”
💭 “Once you release that burden, you feel that much better. Then God can heal you.”
💭 “No man is an island… we all need each other.”
✨ Mentions:
NAMI – Support resources for veterans and caregivers
Upcoming Bereaved Father’s Day event in the St. Louis area
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📢 Today we honor the men who shaped us—not just our dads, but every man who showed up with love, protection, and presence.
In this episode of Female Voices: Life & Loss, hosts LaWayna Berry and Teresa Reiniger explore the deeply personal and often complex emotions surrounding Father’s Day. Through raw, honest reflection, they share how fathers, stepfathers, godfathers, and male mentors have left a lasting imprint on their lives, not just through presence, but through support, guidance, and emotional availability.
Teresa reflects on her father’s strong work ethic, unwavering faith, and consistent love, while LaWayna shares how a village of men stepped up to fill the father-shaped space in her life, offering protection, encouragement, and invaluable life lessons. Together, they highlight how the presence or absence of strong male figures shapes our emotional development, relationships, and self-worth.
This conversation emphasizes the importance of intentionality in relationships, how small, consistent acts of love and support can echo through generations. It’s a tribute to the men who show up with quiet strength and deep care, and a reminder of how fatherhood can be redefined and reclaimed in powerful ways. Whether you are grieving, celebrating, or simply remembering this Father’s Day, this episode holds space for the full spectrum of love and loss, and the resilience that emerges from both.
🎧 Tune in and let’s honor the men who’ve molded us, celebrated us, and believed in us, even through cracks and challenges. Until next time on Female Voices: Life & Loss, may gratitude guide your heart.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️Reflections on biological fathers vs. father figures
✔️ Contrasting experiences of Father's Day: celebration, grief, or something in between
✔️ The value of being present and showing up, regardless of blood ties
✔️ Modeling healthy relationships: fighting, reconciling, and staying committed
✔️ Passing on wisdom: faith, work ethic, and legacy-building
Key Takeaways:
✅ Presence Over Perfection: Showing up consistently and wholeheartedly, often makes the most profound difference. Its presence, not perfection, that leaves a lasting impact.
✅ Grief and Celebration Can Coexist: Father’s Day and similar milestones often bring bittersweet emotions. We can honor the joy and the pain, holding both celebration and sorrow in the same space.
✅ Resilience Is a Legacy: Watching fathers and mentors navigate conflict, repair, and growth teaches us grit, hope, and the power of intentional living. These lessons ripple across generations.
✅ Fatherhood Holds Many Faces: Stepparents, grandfathers, coaches, or a friend’s dad, father figures come in all forms. Each one contributes to our emotional and spiritual growth.
✅ Values Outlive Us: Traits like generosity, faith, service, and dedication aren’t just taught, they’re lived. The true legacy of a father figure is the way these values carry forward long after they’re gone.
Quotes to Remember:
💭 “He would whistle like different types of birds … that’s what I think of.” —Teresa on her father
💭 “Broken people attract broken people … we don’t learn that muscle of resilience and grit.” —LaWayna
💭 “He’ll turn off that phone… I’m here. You know, and very, very present.” —LaWayna on her stepdad’s presence
Mentions:
Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth and her Instruction of a Father https://www.reviveourhearts.com/articles/instruction-father/?srsltid=AfmBOoqDREqhC8xYSVycnt_RUbXZdo1pumMRK07CLWrXKC-3rqkvKdzf
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📢 Have you noticed the silent grief men carry and wondered how to stand beside them in their pain?
In this powerful episode of Female Voices: Life and Loss, co-hosts LaWayna Berry and Teresa Reiniger welcome Derrick Howell, LCSW and former NASW Missouri chapter president, to explore the often-overlooked landscape of men’s grief, particularly among fathers and young male athletes. Derrick shares strategies for creating emotionally safe spaces, nurturing emotional intelligence, and supporting men as they navigate vulnerability and loss.
The conversation also addresses the cultural and societal stigmas that can silence men in grief, especially within communities of faith, family, and sports. Derrick offers compassionate insight into how cultural identity shapes grief, when it’s time to seek professional help, and why modeling self-care is essential for supporting younger generations. This episode is a reminder that healing begins with honest listening, empathy, and showing up especially for the men who are too often left to grieve in silence.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️How to create a safe space for men to grieve through presence and listening
✔️Variations in individual comfort with group vs. one-on-one support
✔️Recognizing grief-related behaviors in men: withdrawal, anger, silence
✔️Using love languages (like acts of service) to support bereaved fathers
✔️Grief impact on student athletes and how sports culture can shift support
Key Takeaways:
✅ Listen without fixing. A reflective, non-judgmental presence encourages more openness from men.
✅ Normalize vulnerability. Expressing emotional pain may feel risky and admitting feelings is the first step toward healing.
✅ Look for cues. Changes in mood, sleep, work performance, or isolation may signal deeper grief.
✅ Honor their love language. Practical acts like a quiet day at home or running errands can mean more than words.
✅ Model mental wellness. Demonstrating self-care creates space for young men and athletes to do the same.
Quotes to Remember:
💭 “One of the most important things we can do to create a safe environment for men is simply listen.”
💭 “What I know is men may prefer acts of service over gifts especially on grief-filled days.”
Mentions:
The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
Free Quiz: https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes
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📢 What happens when a father leaves—and no onetalks about it?
In this episode, Teresa Reiniger sits down with Laura McCoy, founder of the nonprofit Daddy Don’t Go, to discuss the often-overlooked crisis of fatherlessness and its lifelong impact on children, families, and communities.
Drawing from her own experience as a daughter of divorce, Laura shares the emotional truth behind her mission to launch a nationwide movement urging parents and especially fathers not to divorce their kids. Through her book Daddy Don’t Go: Healing a Fatherless Daughter of Divorce and her advocacy work, Laura reveals how inner child healing, consistent presence, and intentional parenting can transform pain into purpose.
From the long-term effects of emotional abandonment to practical ways parents can stay connected post-divorce, this conversation is a call to action, a source of comfort, and a beacon of hope for families navigating separation.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️ The deep emotional and societal impact of fatherlessness on children and communities
✔️ Laura’s personal healing journey as a fatherless daughter and how it shaped her mission
✔️ The inspiration behind Daddy Don’t Go nonprofit
✔️ Practical ways divorced fathers can stay emotionally connected and present in their children's lives
✔️ Simple but powerful strategies to foster deeper connection with kids, starting with presence and curiosity
Key Takeaways:
✅ Fatherlessness Leaves a Lasting Mark: The absence of a father deeply affects a child’s emotional, mental, and social development, impacting everything from academic success to self-worth and future relationships.
✅ Presence Over Presents: What children need most isn’t perfection or grand gestures, it’s consistent, present, and intentional connection. Even small acts like asking meaningful questions or putting down the phone can build unbreakable bonds.
✅ Don't Divorce Your Kids: Divorce doesn’t have to mean disconnection. Laura’s powerful message reminds parents, especially fathers, that staying emotionally engaged with your children is non-negotiable.
✅ Healing Begins Within: From inner child work to professional help, emotional healing and personal growth are possible. Support systems are essential tools for breaking generational cycles and moving toward wholeness.
✅ Changing the Narrative, One Story at a Time: Through her book, nonprofit, and advocacy, Laura is reshaping how we talk about fatherlessness, elevating awareness, offering practical tools, and inspiring communities to support healthier family connections.
Quotes to Remember:
💭 “Don't divorce your kids. Divorce your partner but stay connected to your children.”
💭 “Everything that’s negative in our culture can be traced back to Godlessness and Fatherlessness.”
👉 Connect with Laura:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/daddydontgofatherlessdaughtersofdivorce
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/laura-mccoy-06b66b41/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daddydontgo_daughters/
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📢 What does motherhood really look like?
In this raw and deeply moving episode, co-hosts Teresa Reiniger and Wayna Berry dive into the many faces of motherhood, biological, chosen, lost, and rediscovered. From childhood memories and strong matriarchs to infertility, pregnancy loss, and parenting through grief, they explore how motherhood is shaped by love, loss, and resilience. This episode honors all mothering journeys, because no path looks the same, and everyone deserves to be seen.
“There’s no manual, no map. Just a heart full of love, and the will to keep going.” — Wayna Berry
In this heartfelt episode, Teresa and Wayna reflect on the complex and beautiful nature of motherhood. Whether through blood, choice, or circumstance, motherhood is not a one-size-fits-all experience. This episode holds space for the joy and the grief, the celebration and the silence, and the many women who show up to love and lead in their own powerful way.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️ Growing up with multiple “moms”: sisters, aunts, and neighbors who mothered in different ways
✔️ Honoring the strength of intergenerational women and family matriarchs
✔️ What it means to be a mother after loss, infertility, or complicated pregnancies
✔️ Grief, judgment, and resilience in navigating difficult motherhood decisions
✔️ How chosen family, adoption, and community play vital roles in motherhood
✔️ The invisible grief tied to abortion, miscarriage, and societal expectations
Key Takeaways:
✅ Motherhood is diverse and deeply personal and there is no one way to be a mother.
✅ Grief often walks hand-in-hand with motherhood, especially after loss or trauma.
✅ Resilience is passed down through generations, and we stand on the shoulders of powerful women.
✅ Judgment has no place in someone else’s motherhood story. Compassion and listening are essential.
✅ Love, not perfection, defines motherhood. We all fall short, and we keep going because they’re worth it.
Quotes to Remember:
💭 “I had many moms growing up, and it took me years to see that as a blessing.” — Teresa Reiniger
💭 “Even if your motherhood journey doesn’t start the way you expected, it’s still valid and powerful.” — Wayna Berry
💭 “There’s grief in every decision, and there’s also love.” — Wayna Berry
💭 “Women rise up for each other and that’s something we should never take for granted.” — Teresa Reiniger
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📢 What if your greatest losses became the turning point to discovering your true purpose?
In this episode, Teresa sits down with Ragan Andrew, Certified Travel Professional, grief advocate, and passionate connector of people. Her story weaves through profound loss, losing her only sibling, experiencing divorce, and job loss and the unexpected healing she found by embracing change. Ragan shares how she took a leap of faith and moved cross-country during the pandemic, rediscovering joy, resilience, and her calling in the most unexpected ways.
Today, through her travel planning business and faith-based group trips, she’s on a mission to help others feel seen, supported, and not so alone in their healing journeys.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️The sudden loss of Ragan’s brother at 16 and its impact on her life
✔️ Moving across the country to Missouri alone to start over after divorce and job loss during the pandemic
✔️ Establishing a grief support group and later passing it on when it wasn’t beneficial for her to continue
✔️ Faith-based boxing, spiritual growth, and the healing power of physical activity
✔️ Launching a travel business that focuses on faith, joy, and community connection
Key Takeaways:
✅ You don’t need to be “ready” to heal—just willing to take the next step.
✅ Loss can be a portal to deeper purpose, if you allow it to shape you.
✅ Community, connection, and creativity are vital tools in grief recovery.
✅ Faith-based travel and shared experiences create space for healing and growth.
✅ When life takes everything away, it's okay to start again from nothing.
Powerful Quotes
💭 "You can’t always wait until you feel ready. Sometimes healing begins the moment you choose to move."
💭 "I had to lose something to be pushed out of my comfort zone."
💭 "God's timing, not mine, brought me to where I was meant to be."
Shoutouts & Mentions:
✨Resilient Boxing, O'Fallon, MO – https://www.resilientboxing.com/
The Episode Sponsor is AllBerry Coaching:
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📢 Grief is never just one thing …it’s layered, raw, and deeply personal.
In this powerful episode of Female Voices: Life and Loss, hosts Teresa sits down with Lindsey Silko—combat veteran, EMDR-trained therapist, and mother of three living children who has journeyed through nine pregnancies and six heartbreaking losses. Lindsey’s story is one of resilience forged through profound grief, faith, and an unyielding commitment to healing.
From her days as a medic in the Air Force, where she cared for mothers and newborns, to her role today as a trauma therapist specializing in EMDR, Lindsey’s life has always been about service and support. When she faced her own battles with infertility, complex pregnancy losses, and the mental health impacts of PTSD both from her military service and her journey through motherhood. She discovered that healing is not a straight path. Lindsey shares candidly about the impact of grief, as well as the life-saving power of community, storytelling, and faith.
🎧 This episode is a raw, heartfelt, and hopeful conversation about what it means to hold space for joy and sorrow, how to navigate the emotional rollercoaster of grief, and why your story, no matter how painful, deserves to be heard. Whether you’ve experienced pregnancy loss, trauma, or are simply trying to make sense of the ups and downs of motherhood, Lindsey’s story is a beacon of hope and healing.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️Lindsey’s unique journey from military medic to trauma therapist.
✔️ Her struggle with infertility and navigating the uncertainty of pregnancy loss.
✔️ The devastating loss of her daughter Elena and the support that helped her survive.
✔️ How grief impacts mental health and coping with trauma triggers.
✔️The unexpected effects of grief on the body, including breastfeeding challenges on trauma anniversaries.
Key Takeaways:
✅ Grief is not just sadness, it can be layered, unpredictable, and deeply tied to past trauma.
✅ Having a strong support network can be lifesaving during times of grief.
✅ Talking about grief and sharing your experience can be a powerful tool for healing.
Powerful Quotes:
💭 “I was so well supported by the universe for this experience… I had the best mom, the best husband, the best friends.”
💭 “Grief can even impact your body, like how I learned my milk supply dropped on the anniversary of my daughter’s death.”
💭 “Sharing your story can be healing.”
Shoutouts and Mentions:
✨Peace Bear Project: https://www.peacebears.org/ A nonprofit providing peace bears to mothers leaving the hospital after a loss.
✨Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep: https://www.nowilaymedowntosleep.org/ An organization that offers remembrance photography for grieving parents.
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📢 What if healing, leadership, and creativity could all sit at the same table, covered in yarn and compassion?
In this powerful and heart-opening episode of Female Voices, Life and Loss, hosts Teresa and LaWayna sit down with Heather Swan a former corporate executive turned community builder, yarn shop owner, and festival creator. Heather’s journey weaves together decades of leadership in youth coaching, corporate management, and women’s empowerment, yet it was a season of deep personal loss and transformation that led her to open Yarncom, a fiber arts store rooted in connection, creativity, and healing.
After her husband’s life-threatening leukemia diagnosis, Heather made the courageous choice to leave her 25-year corporate career and follow her long-held dream: creating spaces where people can heal, grow, and come together. As the founder of Yarncom and the visionary behind the Midwest Fiber Festival. Heather shares how her passion for fiber arts became a powerful vehicle for connection. She also opens up about her ADHD diagnosis, and her unwavering belief in the healing power of community.
🎧 Whether mentoring women entrepreneurs, comforting a grieving friend, or leading creative gatherings, Heather’s mission is clear: community heals. This episode offers tangible hope and reminds us all of the power of showing up, sitting down, and stitching new life together.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️Heather’s pivot from corporate life to entrepreneurship following her husband’s cancer diagnosis
✔️How a yarn shop and fiber festival became tools for connection and healing
✔️Understanding ADHD, perimenopause, and mental health as a female business owner
✔️How crafting and creative spaces can foster healing, connection, and hope
✔️The "Power of Eight" intention-setting and spiritual healing practices
Key Takeaways:
✅Loss often leads to transformation when we allow ourselves to pause, listen, and follow what brings joy.
✅Community heals. Especially in grief, being near others even without words can create powerful moments of comfort.
✅Creative spaces aren't just hobbies, they're healing grounds. From knitting to coloring, the act of making helps us mend.
✅Leadership comes in many forms. Heather’s story reminds us that your voice and style are valid and needed.
✅Intention-setting and spiritual support can powerfully shift how we experience both illness and recovery.
Powerful Quotes:
💬 “I realized I wasn't happy... and life was too short not to pursue something meaningful.”
💬 “Every time I stopped chasing and just let the river carry me, the right people and answers showed up.”
💬 “I always say my secret mission is to get people to sit at the table who don’t look or believe the same—and just be human together.”
Shoutouts & Mentions:
✨Yarncom STL – Heather’s fiber arts store in Creve Coeur, MO. Website: yarncomstl.com
✨ Midwest Fiber Festival – An annual event hosted at St. Louis Community College -Meramec. midwestfiberfest.com
✨ "ADHD 2.0" by Edward Hallowell & John Ratey– A helpful resource Heather recommends for understanding ADHD
✨ The Power of Eight by Lynne McTaggart – A book and practice around intention and group healing
Connect with Heather:
On All Social Medias: @yarncom, @midwestfiberfestival,@hrayswan
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📢 "Grief isn’t something you outrun — it’s something you learn to carry."
In this week’s episode, Falisha Hoffman shares her powerful journey through grief after the loss of her son, Jackson, a child with special needs who taught her the meaning of unconditional love and resilience.
Falisha opens up about the layered heartbreak of navigating child loss and betrayal, and what it’s taken to begin rebuilding trust in herself and exploring love again. Alongside hosts LaWayna and Teresa, she discusses the complexities of romantic relationships after loss, the importance of open communication, and finding self-care in unexpected places.
Falisha also reflects on the role her hairstyling business has played in her healing and how talking about her story daily helped her recognize the difference between surviving and truly processing emotions.
🎧 If you’ve ever wondered how to keep moving when the world feels shattered, this conversation will resonate deeply. You are not alone in this journey.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️Exploring romantic relationships while grieving
✔️ Setting and re-establishing personal boundaries after trauma
✔️ How grief impacts trust, connection, and self-worth
✔️ Redefining what self-care looks like during healing
✔️ The power of vulnerability and finding safe spaces to be real
Key Takeaways from the Episode:
✅ Grief doesn’t have an endpoint — it reshapes who we are.
✅ Healing often requires redefining boundaries and learning self-expression.
✅ Not every form of self-care looks traditional — and that’s okay.
✅ Finding people who listen to understand (not just to respond) is crucial after loss.
✅ Vulnerability creates opportunities for deeper healing and connection.
Powerful Quotes:
💭 “After losing my son, I realized I had to lose two people I loved."
💭 "You have to find people you feel safe talking about your grief with, whether that's a friend or a partner."
💭 "Self-care isn't just a spa day — sometimes it's a quiet cup of coffee on the porch."
Episode Sponsor: Allberry Coaching
Website: allberrycoaching.com
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📢 When life asks you to carry so much, how do you remember to carry yourself too?
In this heartfelt episode of Female Voices: Life and Loss, LaWayna Berry and Teresa Reiniger dive into the multi-layered world of holistic self-care, weaving together laughter, wisdom, and tender reflections. With honesty and vulnerability, they explore how different forms of self-care physical, emotional, mental, social, and spiritual—intertwine with the journey of grief, motherhood, and womanhood.
Through personal stories and practical strategies, LaWayna and Teresa emphasize how self-care is not a luxury but a necessity, especially for women carrying the invisible weight of loss and life’s many demands. They discuss setting boundaries, embracing mindfulness, nourishing the body and soul, and the healing power of community and creativity.
Whether you're navigating burnout, recalibrating your life’s balance, or simply needing a gentle reminder that you are not alone, this episode offers a compassionate space for your healing and wholeness.
🎧 Tune in and be reminded that your wellness matters—and your freedom to live fully is worth reclaiming.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️ What holistic self-care really means and how it’s different for every woman
✔️ Balancing caregiving, family, and career while maintaining boundaries
✔️ Recognizing signs of burnout and how to reset intentionally
✔️ The emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical aspects of healing
✔️ The power of play, prayer, and presence in self-care practices
Key Takeaways from this Episode:
✅ Self-care is not selfish—it’s survival, especially for grieving women navigating complex roles
✅ Boundaries are a form of self-respect, and “no” is a complete sentence
✅ You can’t heal by staying busy; true rest and reflection are necessary
✅ Holistic self-care honors your body, heart, mind, spirit, and relationships
✅ Compassion and community are essential—healing happens together
Powerful Quotes:
💭 “Saying no to something is allowing someone else to say yes.” Teresa
💭 “We’re not meant to do life alone—we’re meant for community.” LaWayna
Shoutouts and Mentions:
✨ Mention of the Daily Word: http://Bibleinayearonline.com
✨ LaWayna’s Morning Play List:
God In Me: https://music.apple.com/us/album/god-in-me-feat-kierra-kiki-sheard/293238866?i=293238901
The Worship Medley: https://music.apple.com/us/album/the-worship-medley-there-is-nothing-like-glory-to-god/721669287?i=721669350
He Turned It: https://music.apple.com/us/album/he-turned-it-live/721669287?i=721669430
🌷 Bereaved Mother’s Day: Reserve Your Spot https://livingaftergrief.com/bereavedmothersday
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📢 “Ever feel like you’re running on empty yet can’t stop moving?”
In this episode of Female Voices: Life and Loss, host Teresa Reiniger sits down with holistic healing and rest specialist Keri Lemmons to explore the deep connections between grief, healing, and the transformative power of rest.
Together, they dive into Keri’s personal journey through chronic fatigue and how unprocessed loss and societal pressure to “push through” can keep us stuck. This heart-centered conversation highlights the importance of mindfulness, breathwork, and reframing guilt — while uncovering how small, intentional changes can spark profound transformation.
🎧 Whether you’re grieving, overwhelmed, or simply seeking more peace, this episode offers permission to pause, breathe, and begin healing from within.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️ Keri's transition from personal health struggles to holistic healing.
✔️ The impact of stress and grief on the nervous system.
✔️ Techniques like Neurological Integration Systems (NIS), Reiki, and NLP.
✔️ The societal pressure of busyness and its link to avoidance.
✔️ The importance of breathwork and mindfulness in daily life
Key Takeaways from this Episode:
✅ Awareness is the first step: Recognizing patterns allows for intentional change.
✅ Rest is productive: Taking time to recharge enhances overall efficiency.
✅ Guilt is misplaced: Releasing guilt associated with self-care is essential.
✅ Body and mind connection: Physical symptoms often mirror emotional states.
✅ Personalized healing: There's no one-size-fits-all; find what resonates with you.
Powerful Quotes:
💭 "Stress and loss are different sides of the same coin."
💭 "We hold grief in our bodies...because it's safer than feeling it in our heart."
💭 "Romanticize your life... make rest a ritual."
🌷 Bereaved Mother’s Day: Reserve Your Spot https://livingaftergrief.com/bereavedmothersday
👉 Connect with Keri Lemmons:
Website: https://www.kerilemmons.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kerilemmons1
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📢 What if the first step to healing wasn’t doing more—instead about being more present with yourself?
Grief can place us on autopilot, pulling us away from who we truly are. In this heartfelt episode, Teresa sits down with returning guest Candace Kluba—mother, educator, and mentor—who vulnerably shares her transformative journey through personal loss, disconnection, and ultimately, healing.
After experiencing pregnancy loss and stillbirth, Candace found herself in a spiral of self-loathing and disconnection. And through personal development, mindfulness, and the transformative practice of IntenSati—a unique blend of movement and affirmations—she rewrote her story. Now, with over 20 years of experience in education and a growing practice in wellness and empowerment, she guides women to reconnect with themselves and reclaim joy.
This conversation is for any woman who feels depleted, stuck in survival mode, or disconnected from herself. Through raw honesty and practical wisdom, Teresa and Candace guide you toward small, powerful shifts that nurture presence, joy, and resilience—especially in the midst of grief.
💜 You are not alone. Healing begins with showing up for yourself.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️ Living on Autopilot After Loss - How grief pulls us into survival mode—numbing us from our own lives—and how to recognize when you're stuck in the cycle of just doing instead of being.
✔️ From Self-Loathing to Self-Love - Candace shares her journey through miscarriage, and stillbirth—and how these experiences shaped her path toward deeper healing, self worth, and compassion.
✔️ The Healing Power of IntenSati - Discover how movement paired with affirmations (through the holistic practice of IntenSati) rewires the brain, heals the heart, and reconnects us to our bodies and purpose.
✔️ Rewriting the Stories We Tell Ourselves - Learn how to identify and release the limiting beliefs and internal narratives that keep us stuck in grief, guilt, or shame—and replace them with empowering truths.
✔️ Creating Sustainable, Guilt-Free Self-Care - Simple, realistic ways to weave mindfulness and self-care into daily life, especially for women who feel too busy, depleted, or disconnected to make themselves a priority.
Key Takeaways from this Episode:
✅ Healing from grief involves active self-reflection and presence.
✅ Mindfulness practices can bridge the gap between self loathing and self-love.
✅ IntenSati offers a unique blend of movement and affirmations to foster empowerment
✅ Rewriting personal stories is essential for authentic healing.
✅ Prioritizing self-care enables better support for loved ones.
Remember, everyone's grief journey is unique, and healing unfolds at its own pace. You are not alone
Powerful Quotes:
💭 "I was doing all the things, but I wasn't really present for any of it."
💭 "Grief doesn't replace grief—it echoes it."
💭 "We are human beings, not human doings."
💭 "IntenSati became the light to my darkness, guiding me back on my path."
🌷 Bereaved Mother’s Day: Reserve Your Spot https://livingaftergrief.com/bereavedmothersday
Shoutouts and Mentions:
✨ IntenSati: A holistic fitness practice created by Patricia Moreno..The T-Factor+3Fit Bottomed Girls+3Blair Badenhop, Inc+3 intensati.com
✨ Books referenced: The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod and The Untethered Soul by Michael Alan Singer.
👉 Connect with Candace Kluba:
Connect with Candace for mentorship and holistic fitnesssessions. https://www.facebook.com/share/17MBvG3Nat/
She teaches class the 1st Wednesday of the month at The Chakra Healing Room in Wentzville, MO
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📢 What happens when grief stacks upon grief, and you're the one everyone turns to for strength?
In this deeply moving episode, Teresa sit down with Laverne and Nate Hill—beloved grandparents of Joshie, and parents to LaWayna—to explore their journey through overwhelming grief, family resilience, and the silent burden of always being “the strong one.” From losing nine loved ones in a single year to the generational ripple effects of unspoken trauma, this conversation invites listeners to pause, reflect, and recognize the grief that often goes unnoticed.
💬 If you’re walking a path of grief and need someone to talk to, I invite you to reach out— you don’t have to carry this alone.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️ The weight of losing nine loved ones in one year
✔️ The unique and often overlooked grief of grandparents
✔️ Early trauma and how unresolved grief follows us through life
✔️ The challenge of grieving while supporting your children
✔️ Gender and military influences on how grief is expressed
Key Takeaways from this Episode:
✅ Grief is not a competition—every loss impacts differently, and all grief is valid.
✅ Grandparents often suppress their own grief to support their children and still need space to heal.
✅ Early, unresolved trauma can show up decades later if never processed.
✅ "Being strong" for others shouldn't mean neglecting your own grief.
✅ Honoring loved ones can be simple, sacred, and ongoing—through photos, traditions, or daily rituals.
Powerful Quotes from this Episode:
💭 “I felt like my grief was lesser the theirs…because it impacted them more.” – LaVerne
💭 “It was hard to breathe, just watching your child go through that and knowing there was nothing you could do to take the pain away.” – LaVerne
💭 “I didn’t cry for years…because someone had to stand. Someone had to hold it together.” - Nat
Shoutouts and Mentions:
✨ Joshie’s Legacy: Paw Patrol-themed celebration of life, “It’s a cousin” t-shirts, favorite taco place tradition, daycare donation & scholarship in his name.
🌷 Bereaved Mother’s Day: Reserve Your Spot https://livingaftergrief.com/bereavedmothersday
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📢 Love isn't static; it's a journey that transforms with time."
In this week’s episode, Teresa and LaWayna dive deep into the evolving journey of love and marriage, sharing personal insights from two very different stages—Teresa celebrating 46 years with her husband, and LaWayna navigating year 9 of her own marriage. Together, they explore how relationships transform over time, from the passionate beginnings to the challenges of parenting, blended families, grief, and major life transitions.
With warmth and wisdom, they highlight the importance of communication, self-care, and maintaining individuality within a partnership. They also unpack the significance of forgiveness, setting boundaries, and creating intentional space for connection and planning for the future. Whether you're just starting out or decades into your relationship, this conversation offers heartfelt encouragement, laughter, and practical tools for growing through every season of love.
Key Topics Discussed:
✔️ The evolving nature of love and partnership over time.
✔️ Challenges faced during different life stages, including parenting, blended families, and personal growth.
✔️ The significance of communication in navigating marital challenges.
✔️ The role of self-love and setting boundaries within a marriage.
✔️ Strategies for maintaining individuality while fostering a strong partnership.
✔️ Insights into handling grief, loss, and major life transitions together.
Key Takeaways from this Episode
✅Communication is Fundamental: Open and honest dialogue is crucial for understanding and growth within a marriage.
✅Embrace Change Together: Recognizing that both partners will evolve over time allows for mutual support and adaptation.
✅Prioritize Self-Care: Maintaining personal well-being enables individuals to contribute positively to the relationship.
✅Set and Respect Boundaries: Clearly defined boundaries help in balancing personal needs with partnership dynamics.
✅Cultivate External Relationships: Friendships and interests outside the marriage enrich personal growth and prevent over-reliance on a partner.
Powerful Quotes from this Episode:
💭 "Love evolves—it doesn’t stay the same. It deepens, it changes, and that’s not a bad thing."
💭 "We said divorce isn’t an option, but that didn’t mean it would always be easy."
💭 "You need your friends, your own space, your self-care… so you don’t expect one person to be everything."
Shoutouts & Mentions:
✨Revival Hearts Podcast by Nancy DeMoss: Discussed for its insights on setting goals within marriage and family life.
✨What's love got to do with it? Love, Power, Sex and God Book: by Frank A. Thomas
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✨ Whether you’re a business owner, a mother, or someone looking to reclaim your personal power—this episode will leave you inspired to take action.
🔗 Listen now and start prioritizing YOU!
In this episode, Teresa sits down with Kimberly Beckley, owner of Simplifying Beauty Salon and founder of the new Simplifying Beauty Academy. More than a beauty industry leader, Kimberly is on a mission to help women embrace their confidence, set boundaries, and redefine self-care as a necessity—not a luxury.
Kimberly opens up about her personal journey as a mother to two incredible sons with special needs, sharing the unique grief of letting go of the motherhood she once envisioned. She and Teresa dive into the hidden forms of loss, the power of resilience, and why saying "no" can be the most empowering act of self-love.
Together, they explore the importance of authenticity, the challenges women face in business and life, and the role of mindfulness in creating balance. Whether you’re navigating your own journey of loss, striving for self-care, or looking for inspiration to pursue your passion, this episode is a reminder that prioritizing yourself isn’t selfish—it’s the foundation for everything else.
Key Topics Discussed:
- Redefining Self-Care: More Than Just Relaxation – True self care isn’t about indulgence; it’s about recharging, setting boundaries, and making yourself a priority without guilt.
- Breaking Barriers in Business & Life – Kimberly shares how women can push past societal and industry limitations, embrace authenticity, and create success on their own terms.
- The Power of Saying No – Why learning to say “no” is one of the most powerful tools for personal growth, stress reduction, and making space for what truly matters.
- Building a Legacy Through Impact – How Kimberly is using her business and training academy to empower others and create lasting change in the beauty industry.
- Parenting & Unexpected Losses – Navigating the challenges of raising children with disabilities, redefining expectations, and processing grief when life doesn’t go as planned.
Key Takeaways from This Episode:
✅ Self-Care is About Refueling, Not Just Relaxing – True self-care isn’t about indulgence; it’s about doing what truly energizes and restores you.
✅ Authenticity is the Key to Success – When you fully embrace who you are, your business, relationships, and personal growth naturally align.
✅ Saying “No” is a Form of Self-Respect – Setting boundaries isn’t selfish—it creates space for what truly fulfills you and prevents burnout.
✅ Grief and Loss Take Many Forms – Loss isn’t just about death; it can be the loss of expectations, desires, or dreams, and navigating those changes requires self-compassion.
✅ Collaboration Over Competition Builds True Success – When women support each other instead of competing, we create lasting impact, stronger communities, and greater opportunities.
Powerful Quotes from the Episode:
💭 “Self-care is not frivolous. It’s a necessity and it looks different for everyone.”
💭“Every time you say ‘yes’ to something, you might be saying ‘no’ to yourself.”
💭“The most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself.”
Mentions & Shoutouts:
✨ Simplifying Beauty Salon – Kimberly’s salon focused on enhancing natural beauty
✨Kimberly’s Training Academy – Helping beauty professionals grow their skills & businesses
✨The Power of Women’s Networks – Why collaboration is key to success
Connect with Kimberly Beckley on Instagram: @simplifyingbeauty_salon
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What happens when you leave behind a 30-year corporate career to chase your passion?
In this inspiring episode, Teresa Reiniger sits down with Rhonda Travers, a former corporate leader turned entrepreneur, to explore breaking barriers, redefining success, and overcoming self doubt.
Rhonda shares her deeply personal journey of stepping outside her comfort zone, facing fear head-on, and navigating the unexpected loss of identity that came with leaving her long-established career. She opens up about the challenges of being a woman in a male dominated field, the power of networking, and the importance of surrounding yourself with people who lift you up.
Whether you're navigating a career transition, considering entrepreneurship, or searching for the courage to take a bold step in life—this episode will inspire you to align your passion with your purpose and create a lasting impact.
🎧 Tune in as we unlock the resilience it takes to move forward, embrace change, and leave a meaningful legacy.
✨ "If money weren’t an object, what would you do?" That was the question that sparked a life-changing journey for Rhonda.
Key Topics Discussed:
- Breaking Barriers in Male-Dominated Fields – What it was like for Rhonda to be a leader in a corporate, male dominated industry
- From Employee to Entrepreneur – How she made the leap and the biggest challenges she faced
- The Loss of Identity When Leaving Corporate and Becoming an Entrepreneur – Navigating the emotional toll of career transitions
- The Power of Mentorship & Networking – How finding the right people helped her move forward
- The Fear of Leaving Stability – How financial fears, self-doubt, and imposter syndrome can hold women back
Key Takeaways:
- Identity isn’t tied to a job title. Losing a career can feel like losing a piece of yourself, and it’s an opportunity to redefine who you truly are.
- Surround yourself with the right people. The five people closest to you impact your mindset, confidence, and success. Choose wisely.
- Perfectionism is the enemy of progress. If you wait for the “perfect” time to make a change, you’ll be waiting forever.
- Fear is part of the process. Instead of letting fear stop you, learn to move forward despite it.
- Collaboration over competition. Women thrive when they support each other instead of competing for success.
Key Quotes:
💬 “We are the average of the five people we surround ourselves with.”
💬 “Perfectionism held me back for years. The moment I let go, everything changed.”
💬 “Networking isn’t about selling yourself. It’s about relationships, collaboration, and connection.”
💬 “If money weren’t an object, what would you do? That question changed everything for me.”
Shoutouts & Mentions:
✨ NLP Training Program – Helping professionals shift their mindset for success
✨ Career Coaches & Mentors – The importance of learning from others who’ve done it before
✨ Networking Communities – How joining the right professional groups can change everything
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"What feels like an ending can actually be the mostbeautiful beginning."
In this week’s episode, Wayna sits down with Carol Fletcher. Carol is a woman of faith, resilience, and empowerment. As a wife, mother of five in a blended family, and entrepreneur, she has embraced both the beauty and challenges of transformation. With a background in advertising at iHeart Media, she now serves as a Sales Director in the beauty industry, where her work extends beyond selling products—it's about building confidence and restoring self-worth.
Carol shares her deeply personal journey—navigating divorce and single motherhood while redefining her purpose through entrepreneurship and self-care. She and Wayna discuss the profound impact of loss, the expectations placed on women, and the power of setting boundaries and prioritizing self-love in the healing process.
Through personal stories, Carol emphasizes faith, resilience, and the importance of having a strong ‘why’ to fuel personal growth and support her family. The conversation explores the challenges of parenting through difficult seasons, the role of community in healing, and how embracing change can lead to newfound strength and purpose.
Wayna and Carol also dive into the significance of self-care, the necessity of healthy boundaries, and the importance of surrounding yourself with positive influences. They highlight how grief, growth, and empowerment are deeply connected, reminding listeners that even life’s hardest moments can lead to profound transformation.
👉 If you’re facing a life transition, struggling with grief, or looking for inspiration to step into your purpose, this conversation is for you.
Key Topics Discussed:
- Rebuilding After Divorce – Carol’s story of resilience and redefining her future
- Self-Care & Setting Boundaries – Why prioritizing yourself isn’t selfish, it’s necessary
- Faith & Transformation – How spiritual strength can guide personal growth
- Women & Entrepreneurship – Using business as a platform for empowerment
- Community & Support Systems – The power of surrounding yourself with people who uplift you
🎧 Tune in now and share this episode with a friend who needs encouragement today!
Key Takeaways:
- Reinvention starts with acceptance. Sometimes, thethings we resist are exactly what we need.
- Self-care is a necessity, not a luxury. True self-care includes emotional boundaries, faith, and personal growth.
- You are not defined by your losses. Divorce, career shifts, and unexpected change don’t define you—they refine you.
- God’s timing is always right. Even in uncertainty, trust that you’re being guided toward something greater.
- Women need community and support. Surround yourself with people who uplift you and challenge you to grow.
Key Quotes:
💬“Every closed door is not the end of your story. It can be the beginning of something new.”💬“Self-care isn’t just spa days—it’s setting boundaries, protecting your energy, and giving yourself grace.”💬“We teach people how to treat us. Healthy boundaries are an act of self-respect.”💬“God’s plan is always bigger than our own. Sometimes, what we resist most is exactly what we need.”
Shoutouts & Mentions:
📌 John Maxwell –Leadership & personal growth inspiration📌PMS (Pamper My Sisters) Events – A self-care initiative for women led by Carol
Connect with Carol Fletcher:
📌 Instagram: @classwithcarol📌Facebook: Carol Fletcher
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Grief changes everything—including how we care for ourselves.
Why do so many women struggle to prioritize themselves in grief?
How can small acts of self-care become a path toward healing?
In this deeply personal episode, Wayna shares her experience of navigating life after the loss of her son, while Teresa reflects on the emotional weight of losing her mother. Together, they explore the complex relationship between self-love and grief, shedding light on the emotional overwhelm, societal expectations, and the internal struggles that often prevent women from focusing on their own well-being.
This conversation goes beyond the idea of pampering—Wayna and Teresa discuss practical, meaningful ways to reclaim self-care, from setting boundaries to recognizing when you need rest, support, or space to heal. They also touch on the power of community, the importance of honoring loved ones in ways that feel authentic, and the small but significant steps that can make healing feel possible.
Whether you’re grieving, supporting someone who is, or simply learning to care for yourself in new ways, this episode is a powerful reminder that healing begins with self-compassion—one intentional stepat a time.
🎧 Listen now and take the first step toward giving yourself the care you deserve on your grief journey.
Topics Discussed:
- The challenges of self-care while grieving
- How grief impacts emotional well-being and daily habits
- Recognizing when you’re neglecting yourself
- The power of small daily actions in grief recovery
- How boundaries & saying “no” can be acts of self-love
Key takeaways:
- Self-love is essential in grief—and it often feels like the hardest thing to do. Grieving individuals, especially women, tend to prioritize others over themselves, making it difficult to focus on personal healing.
- Recognizing emotional exhaustion is the first step to self-care. Signs like irritability, constant fatigue, or feeling overwhelmed can indicate burnout, making it crucial to pause and assess personal needs.
- Small acts of self-care make a big difference. Simple habits like proper hydration, nourishing meals, mindful movement, and quiet reflection can create a foundation for healing, even on the hardest days.
- Setting boundaries is an act of self-preservation, not selfishness. Learning to say no, limiting energy-draining interactions, and protecting personal space are key to maintaining emotional well-being.
- Community and support systems play a vital role in healing. Whether it’s friends, family, or a grief support group, having a safe space to share and receive support helps lighten the emotional load.
- Healing doesn’t mean forgetting—it means learning to live again. Honoring loved ones through meaningful actions allows for remembrance while embracing life moving forward.
- Give yourself permission to take it one step at a time. Grief recovery isn’t about doing everything at once—it’s about small, intentional steps that gradually lead to moments of peace and self-compassion.
Quotes from the Episode:
"Women often take care of everyone else first. But in grief, self-love isn’t selfish—it’s survival."
"Some days, self-care is just drinking water and getting through the day—and that’s okay."
"Grief changes us. But in that change, we can find new ways to love ourselves and honor those we’ve lost."
Shoutouts & Mentions:
Teresa’s grief support coaching,
Living After Grief, https://livingaftergrief.com/
Wayna’s grief & life coaching,
Allberry Coaching: allberrycoaching.com
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Grief doesn’t just happen to us—it transforms us.
Grief is messy. It’s complicated. And sometimes, it takes us years to realize how deeply it has shaped us.
In this powerful episode of Female Voices: Life & Loss, Wayna Berry sits down with Mimsy Hebron—an author, speaker, artist, and ordained minister—to explore the unexpected ways grief reshapes our lives. Mimsy shares her deeply personal journey of losing both parents within a year, navigating the challenges of caregiving, and rediscovering her own identity after loss.
Together, they discuss the weight of grief, the resilience it demands, and the surprising moments of humor that can arise even in the darkest times. The conversation touches on the complexities of relationships, singleness, and the importance of self-care when life forces us into roles we never expected. Mimsy also shares insights into her work as an advocate for education, her creative passions, and how storytelling becomes a powerful tool for healing.
Through raw honesty and heartfelt wisdom, this episode is a reminder that even in loss, there is life—and in grief, there is growth.
If you’ve ever felt like you’ve lost yourself in grief, this episode is for you.
Topics Discussed:
- The weight of caregiving & grief – How taking care of a loved one changes you before they even pass.
- Faith & grief – Wrestling with God in the hardest seasons of life.
- Losing your identity in grief – When caregiving, loss, and life changes make you question who you are.
- The pressure to “be strong” in ministry & leadership – Why faith leaders struggle to grieve openly.
- Finding unexpected humor in loss – The lighter side of grief, including funny dementia moments.
- The transformation that happens in grief – How pain forces us to grow in ways we never imagined.
Key Takeaways:
- Grief transforms us. It’s not just about missing someone—it’s about learning who we are without them.
- Caregiving is its own kind of loss. You don’t just grieve a person’s passing; you grieve the version of yourself that existed before.
- Faith doesn’t take away grief—but it carries us through. Mimsy shares how leaning into her faith helped her process loss.
- Self-care isn’t selfish. Even an hour a day of respite can help caregivers maintain their emotional well-being.
- Laughter & grief coexist. Sharing humorous memories helps us keep the spirit of our loved ones alive.
Key Quotes:
“The second lesson that I learned is that grief doesn’t just happen to us, it transforms us.” “Hold on, Life is worth living even when you want to let that life go” ~ Mimsy Hebron
Shoutouts & Mentions:
Books by Mimsy Hebron: So You’re Single, Get Over It, Voices of Hope & Voices of Inspiration (Collaborations with JenLoving)
Urban League of Metropolitan St. Louis' Head Start/Early Head Start – Advocating for early childhood education.
Revival Hearts Podcast by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth
This episode is a powerful, heartfelt look at grief, faith, and the strength it takes to rebuild after loss.
Connect with Mimsy.
Instagram: grlspower77 Facebook: Mimsy Hebron
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Grief doesn’t have a timeline—especially when justice remains unresolved.
In this powerful continuation of last week’s conversation,Teresa Reiniger sits down with Julie Swaney,who shares the deeply personal journey of losing her sister, Betsy, in a sudden and tragic way.
Grief is already complex, and when combined with an ongoing legal battle, media attention, and the responsibility of stepping in as a support system for grieving family members, it becomes even more overwhelming. Julie reflects on the raw reality of navigating loss while simultaneously fighting for justice—a battle that has lasted over 13 years and continues to this day—while also facing the relentless challenges of dealing with media scrutiny and the public eye throughout the process.
Through her experience,Julie shares valuable insights on resilience, healing, and the importance of community in times of loss. Whether you’ve experienced grief personally or want to understand how to better support others, this episode provides deep wisdom on navigating life after loss.
Topics Discussed:
- The emotional toll of public grief and how media involvement complicates healing.
- The ongoing battle for justice and how unresolved legal cases impact the grieving process.
- How grief affects family dynamics, and the power of coming together instead of falling apart.
- Why accepting support is not a weakness and how small acts of kindness can be lifelines.
- Finding ways to honor a loved one’s memory and integrate their legacy into everyday life.
Key Takeaways:
- Grief is an ongoing journey, especially when justice is unresolved.
- Accepting help from others is a crucial part of healing.
- Honoring a loved one can take many forms—memorials, storytelling, and traditions.
- Seeking support (whether through faith, therapy, or community) makes a difference.
- Healing isn’t about “moving on”—it’s about integrating loss into your life.
Key Quotes:
“The hardest part is not just losing her, but losing all the future moments we thought we’d have.” “When people offer help, let them. It’s not weakness; it’s love in action." “The justice system moves slowly, but grief doesn’t wait.” ~ Julie Swaney
Resources & Mentions:
Our Lady’s Inn –https://ourladysinn.org/
The Betsy Tree – A memorial tree that serves as a place for healing and remembrance
Listen now for an honest and heartfelt discussion on resilience, grief, and healing.
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Grief isn’t just about saying goodbye—it’s aboutnavigating everything that follows.
In this deeply moving episode, Teresa Reiniger sits down with Julie Swaney to share the heartbreaking story of losing her sister, Betsy, in a sudden and tragic event. Julie opens up about the complexities of grieving within a family, the emotional toll of navigating a high-profile legal case, and the profound responsibility of stepping into support for her nieces. She reflects on the ongoing nature of grief, the importance of accepting help, and finding ways to keep the spirit of Betsy alive while moving forward in life. Through raw emotion and heartfelt insights, Julie’s journey is a testament to the resilience found in love, loss, and the unwavering strength of family.
Topics Discussed:
- The shock of sudden loss and how it disrupts the grieving process
- The importance of community support in healing
- How grief impacts every aspect of life—physically,emotionally, and financially
- Creating meaningful traditions to honor a loved one
- The role of faith, meditation, and personal reflection in coping with loss
Key Takeaways:
- Grief is not linear—especially when justice is unresolved.
- Having a strong support system can make all the difference.
- Everyone grieves in their own way; there’s no “right” timeline.
- Honoring a loved one’s memory can be a powerful part of the healing journey.
Key Quotes:
"I had to be strong for my nieces, but I also had to learn to grieve for myself." "We made a choice to focus on Betsy’s life, not just her tragic passing." "Having a place to remember her—like the tree at the tennis courts—helped us all heal." ~ Julie Swaney
Resources & Mentions:
Our Lady’s Inn –https://ourladysinn.org/The Betsy Tree – A memorial tree that serves as a place for healing and remembranceFaith & Meditation – Julie’s pastor played a key role in guiding her through grief
Tune into hear Julie’s inspiring story of resilience, love, and the ongoing pursuit of justice.
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In this week's episode, Teresa Reiniger interviews LaWayna Berry, a coach, counselor, and advocate for holistic healing. They dive deep into how grief impacts every area of life not just emotions, also finances, relationships, career growth, and overall well-being.
LaWayna shares her inspiring journey from criminal justice to holistic counseling, revealing how personal loss and trauma shaped her professional path. She opens up about her passion for mental health awareness, the unique challenges women face in balancing family and careers, and the importance of creating safe spaces for grief and healing.
Together, Teresa and LaWayna explore the power of community, the role of support systems, and the reality of rebuilding life after loss with intention. Healing isn’t just about grief—it’s about understanding how every aspect of life is affected and learning to move forward in a way that honors both the pain and the possibilities ahead.
Topics Discussed:
The Power of Community in Healing Holistic Healing: Addressing Every Area of Life Turning Pain into Purpose Women Supporting Women Faith, Mental Health, and Personal GrowthKey Takeaways:
Holistic Healing Matters – True healing looks at the whole person, including mental, emotional, financial, and relational health. Community is Essential – Grief can feel isolating, surrounding yourself with people who truly listen can make all the difference. Personal Growth Comes from Challenges – Trauma and loss often lead to self-discovery and transformation. Find Support That Works for You – Whether it’s coaching, therapy, or community, your healing path should fit YOUR needs. Women Thrive in Supportive Spaces – When women uplift each other, healing happens faster and deeper.Key Quotes:
"Counseling is about guiding individuals to find their ownanswers.""Grief impacts every part of life—finances, relationships, emotions. Healing means addressing it all."
Listen now to gain insight into holistic healing, theimportance of self-discovery, and why we must challenge outdated beliefs about grief.
Resources & Mentions:
Podcast: Revive Our Heart with Nancy Demoss Wolgemuth
Living on the Edge with Chip Ingram
Tony Evans’ Podcast
Fathers & Familiar Support Center: https://fatherssupportcenter.org/
National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI): https://www.nami.org/
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Grief changes us, and it also reveals our strength. In this episode, co-host LaWayna Berry interviews Teresa Reiniger, exploring her journey from profound personal loss to becoming a grief coach and community builder. Teresashares how her experiences—and the lessons learned through her training—shaped her passion for helping others navigate grief with compassion and hope.
Discover the transformative power of connection, theuniqueness of every grief journey, and how finding purpose at age 60 changed Teresa’s life.
Topics Discussed:
- Teresa’s journey from personal loss to becoming a griefcoach.
- Her inspiration to start a podcast after her daughters’ struggles with infertility and miscarriages.
- The realization that grief is unique for everyone—evenwithin the same family.
- How professional training enhanced Teresa’s understanding of grief and healing.
- The importance of connection, community, and shared stories in healing.
- A discussion on the diverse types of loss (beyond death anddivorce).
Key Takeaways:
- Grief is unique: Each person’s experience of loss is deeply personal, and there’s no “right” way to grieve.
- Community is essential: Sharing stories and connecting with others who understand can be incredibly healing.
- Growth through loss: Grief can lead to unexpected personal growth and transformation.
- Training matters: Learning about grief—and how people process it—helps provide better support.
- Purpose can emerge from pain: Teresa’s journey highlights how loss can lead to a renewed sense of purpose.
Quotes:
"Grief isn’t a one-size-fits-all experience. Everyone’s loss is unique." "Healing doesn’t happen overnight, and it doesn’t happen alone—it happens in community." ~Teresa Reiniger
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook & Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: https://livingaftergrief.com/
click and schedule a complementary HopeExploration call: https://livingaftergrief.com/calendar/hope-exploration-session
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Connect with Wayna:
Email: wayna@allberrycoaching.com
Facebook& Instagram @allberrycoaching
Website: allberrycoaching.com
Schedule acomplimentary consult: https://calendly.com/lawayna/30min
Podcast Guest: https://calendly.com/lawayna/on-air-with-wayna
In this episode of Female Voices: Life and Loss,cohosts Teresa and Wayna dive into the complexities of family relationships and how they influence healing and growth. Sharing insights from their own families, they discuss everything from raising children and learning from grandparents to navigating marriage and communication challenges.
The conversation highlights the importance of fosteringindividuality in children, embracing shared responsibilities within the household, and finding ways to grow both personally and as a family unit. Teresa and Wayna also explore how cultural expectations around gender roles and parenting styles can shape family dynamics, ultimately emphasizing connection, understanding, and compassion.
Key Takeaways:
- Compassion and communication are the foundation of strong relationships. Leading with empathy and practicing open, honest dialogue strengthens family bonds and fosters healing.
- Children thrive when they are encouraged to express their individuality. Supporting their unique identities builds confidence and resilience while teaching them the value of authenticity.
- Adult conversations and shared responsibilities are essential for personal and familial growth. Prioritizing meaningful discussions and balancing household duties promotes harmony and deeper connections.
- Parenting styles and family dynamics evolve with intention. Tailoring parenting approaches to meet the unique needs of boys and girls and showing children healthy family dynamics helps them navigate life.
- Commitment and understanding create strong foundations in marriage. Approaching challenges with a “divorce is not an option” mindset can foster a sense of security and teamwork.
- Cultural and generational influences shape how families function. Learning from grandparents and understanding cultural expectations can guide families in creating more inclusive and adaptable dynamics.
- Healing is a process that requires patience, understanding, and connection. Families grow stronger by embracing change, prioritizing love, and creating space for each member’s unique journey.
Sound Bites:
"Divorce was never on the table."
"Communication is a big piece."
"We need adult conversation."
Mentioned in This Episode:
Reflections on lessons learned from grandparents.
Strategies for balancing individuality and shared responsibilities in families.
Insights into marriage, parenting, and cultural influences on gender roles.
Thank you for joining us in this conversation. Remember, understanding and connection are the foundations of growth, both personally and within our families.
Have a story or insight to share? Reach out to us we’d love to hear from you!
At Female Voices: Life and Loss, we’re here to explore theintersections of life, relationships, and healing.
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Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook & Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: https://livingaftergrief.com/
click and schedule a complementary Hope Exploration call: https://livingaftergrief.com/calendar/hope-exploration-session
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Connect with Wayna:
Email: wayna@allberrycoaching.com
Facebook & Instagram @allberrycoaching
Website: allberrycoaching.com
Schedule a complimentary consult: https://calendly.com/lawayna/30min
Podcast Guest: https://calendly.com/lawayna/on-air-with-wayna
Welcome to the relaunch of Female Voices: Life and Loss! In this first episode of our new season, cohosts Wayna Berry and Teresa Reiniger sit down to share their personal journeys, reflecting on the life experiences that shaped their paths and brought them to this shared platform.
From their career journeys to the lessons learned through navigating loss, Wayna and Teresa discuss how storytelling fosters healing and connection. Together, they explore family dynamics, generational wisdom, and the importance of community support in navigating life’s challenges.
Whether you’re here to heal, connect, or simply listen, thisepisode sets the stage for what Female Voices: Life and Loss is all about—authentic conversations that inspire, empower, and uplift.
Key Takeaways:
- Career and personal growth are deeply intertwined. Life’schallenges often lead us toward unexpected and meaningful paths.
- Navigating family dynamics is complex but rewarding. Relationships require patience, understanding, and open communication.
- Generational wisdom shapes our choices. Learning from thosewho came before us provides guidance and resilience.
- Strive for excellence, not perfection. Growth happens whenwe embrace progress over flawlessness.
- Grief can lead to a desire to serve others. Loss ofteninspires a deeper sense of purpose and compassion.
- Our unique backgrounds enrich our connections. Embracingdiversity in experiences strengthens relationships.
Female Voices: Life and Loss is a space for authenticconversations that empower women to navigate grief, healing, and personalgrowth.
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/LivingAfterGrief/
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: https://livingaftergrief.com/
click and schedule a complementary Hope Exploration call: https://livingaftergrief.com/calendar/hope-exploration-session
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Connect with Wayna:
Email: wayna@allberrycoaching.com
Facebook & Instagram @allberrycoaching
Website: allberrycoaching.com
Schedule a complimentary consult: https://calendly.com/lawayna/30min
Podcast Guest: https://calendly.com/lawayna/on-air-with-wayna
In this season finale, Teresa Reiniger reflects on the journey of her podcast, ‘Labor Pains’ to 'Resilient Moms,' which has provided a platform for women to share their stories of grief and resilience. Over the past four years, the podcast has evolved from focusing on infertility and pregnancy loss to encompassing a broader range of experiences related to loss.Teresa emphasizes the importance of community, storytelling, and healing, and shares insights from her guests. She also provides a sneak peek into the upcoming season, which will feature a co-host and explore various life challenges and loss.
Key Takeaways from this Episode:
- Sharing stories leads to healing.
- Women from around the world experience similar losses and grief.
- Connecting women with similar experiences fosters community and healing.
- The upcoming season will explore broader life challenges alongside grief.
- Listeners are encouraged to engage and share their stories for future episodes.
Sound Bites:
- "Sharing their whole story on the podcast was so healing."
- "It's been an honor to walk this path with you."
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL:teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/LivingAfterGrief/
Instagram:@livingaftergrief
Website:https://livingaftergrief.com/
click and schedule a complementary Hope Exploration call: https://livingaftergrief.com/calendar/hope-exploration-session
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Teresa Reiniger sits down with Michelle Cramer, founder of a nonprofit organization supporting grieving families, to explore the complexities of grief—particularly around pregnancy and infant loss. Together, they dive deep into society's struggles to offer meaningful support to families experiencing loss, and the crucial need for emotional intelligence in conversations about grief.
Michelle shares her personal experiences, including her work providing practical resources for grieving families and how she advocates for bereavement leave policies. The discussion shines a light on the emotional and societal challenges grieving families face, the importance of acknowledging their loss, and the need for greater awareness and education around grief.
Whether you're navigating your own grief or supporting someone who is, this episode offers valuable insights into how we can show up for each other with empathy, compassion, and practical support.
Key Takeaways from this Episode:
- Society often fails to provide adequate emotional or practical support for grieving families.
- Acknowledging loss is an essential part of moving forward.
- There is a critical need for more awareness around pregnancy and infant loss.
- Families need time and space to grieve without societal pressure to 'move on.'
Sound Bites:
- People often say, "At least you can have more kids, and that dismisses the depth of their loss." "Grief doesn't go away; we learn to build our life around it
Michelle’s Book: Unshattered Grief by Michelle Cramer Grief Recovery Method: GriefRecoveryMethod.com
Connect with Michelle Cramer: Website: https://oawphoto.org/
Instagram: @oaw_photo
Facebook: oawphoto
youtube: @oawphoto
Retreat Link:
https://livingaftergrief.com/emotional-freedom-after-loss-retreat
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/LivingAfterGrief/
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: https://livingaftergrief.com/
click and schedule a complementary Hope Exploration call: https://livingaftergrief.com/calendar/hope-exploration-session
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Teresa Reiniger sits down with Michelle L. Cramer to discuss the transformative power of grief recovery. Michelle, the founder of On Angel's Wings, Certified Grief Recovery Method Specialist, and Author of Unshattered Grief.
Michelle explains in this week’s episode the Grief Recovery Method, focusing on how it helps individuals process their grief by addressing unresolved past losses and emotional wounds. Together, Teresa and Michelle explore how verbalizing grief, building support systems, and finding strength in vulnerability are essential steps on the path to healing. This episode is a powerful reminder that while grief is deeply personal, there is hope, community, and support available for everyone navigating loss.
Key Takeaways from this Episode:
- Grief Recovery Requires Addressing Past Losses: Healing involves processing not just recent grief, but unresolved losses from the past as well.
- The Grief Recovery Method: This method createsemotional space for individuals to heal, emphasizing the importance of identifying and releasing emotional pain.
- Verbalizing Grief is Crucial: Talking about griefhelps release bottled-up emotions and leads to deeper understanding of the grieving process.
- Strength in Vulnerability: Michelle emphasizesthat strength comes from allowing yourself to feel and process grief, not from suppressing it.
- Community Involvement is Essential: Nonprofits like On Angel’s Wings rely on community support to sustain their services, offering crucial help to grieving families.
Sound Bites:
"We want to increase your capacity for happiness again."
"Grief is work, and it requires awareness."
"We need to create scar tissue instead of open wounds."
Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
Michelle’s Book: Unshattered Grief by Michelle Cramer Grief Recovery Method: GriefRecoveryMethod.com
Connect with Michelle Cramer: Website: https://oawphoto.org/
Instagram: @oaw_photo
Facebook: oawphoto
youtube: @oawphoto
Retreat Link:
https://livingaftergrief.com/emotional-freedom-after-loss-retreat
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In this episode of Resilient Moms I am joined by Michelle Cramer, the founder and executive director of On Angels' Wings, a nonprofit dedicated to providing support for families who have lost a child at birth or have a child with a terminal risk diagnosis. Michelle shares her personal journey and the story behind creating On Angels' Wings, a powerful organization that offers free therapeutic photography and grief recovery services to families in need.
As a Certified Grief Recovery Method Specialist and author of Unshattered Grief: Helping Others Through Loss Without Breaking Them… Again, Michelle sharesher passion for improving the way our society handles grief, especially for families experiencing loss.
Key Takeaways from This Episode:
- Michelle's Background & Passion for Healing:
Michelle has been a photographer for over 18 years, and her deep empathy and personal experiences inspired her to create On Angels' Wings in 2013 to improve mental health and wellness for families dealing with child loss or medical fragility.
- Therapeutic Photography for Grieving Families:
On Angels' Wings offers free, professional photo sessions to grieving families, providing them with treasured memories of their children. These sessions serve as a therapeutic tool, helping families honor and remember their lost children.
- Grief Recovery Services:
Michelle’s organization goes beyond photography, offering grief recovery programs that emphasize moving forward, not simply "moving on." The goal is to help families find strength, healing, and connection as they navigate their grief journey.
- Expansion and Growth:
What started in one location has now expanded to include out-of-state chapters, reaching more families and offering much-needed support on a broader scale.
- Advocacy for Bereavement Policies:
Michelle is also actively advocating for a statewide bereavement leave policy to ensure grieving families receive the support they need during their most difficult times.
Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
Michelle’s Book: Unshattered Grief by Michelle Cramer Grief Recovery Method: GriefRecoveryMethod.com
Connect with Michelle Cramer: Website: https://oawphoto.org/
Instagram: @oaw_photo
Facebook: oawphoto
youtube: @oawphoto
Retreat Link:
https://livingaftergrief.com/emotional-freedom-after-loss-retreat
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In this episode, I aim to provide you with some clarity and understanding about managing grief, dealing with heightened emotions and brain fog, and recognizing the significant impact grief can have on physical health. Additionally, the episode highlights the importance of self care practices that can support healing during the grieving process.
In this episode:
· Acknowledging that heightened emotions and brain fog are normal.
· The emotional rollercoaster of grief, with fluctuating emotions.
· Naming your emotions as a crucial step toward understanding and managing them.
· Mindfulness Body Scan Exercise.
· Health Impact of Grief.
· Practical ways to incorporate self-care into your routine.
Emotional Freedom After Loss Retreat. November 22-24, 2024 https://livingaftergrief.com/emotional-freedom-after-loss-retreat
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In this heartfelt episode, Teresa Reiniger talks with Katie Schwarz about her personal journey through pregnancy loss and the complexities she faced along the way. Katie courageously shares the story of her son, Hudson, and the emotional and medical challenges she encountered during her pregnancy. Katie emphasizes the importance of self-advocacy, trusting one's instincts, and finding a supportive community to navigate the profound grief that accompanies such a loss.
Topics within this episode:
· Pregnancy loss is an emotionally challenging and life-altering experience.
· Complications during pregnancy can lead to high-risk situations and necessitate medical interventions.
· Finding a new path and purpose after loss is a personal journey that requires time and self-discovery.
· Advocating for oneself and trusting one's instincts are crucial.
· Building a supportive network of understanding individuals provides a safe space for open dialogue and shared experiences.
· Each person's grief journey is unique; it's essential to find a path that feels right and comforting.
· Continuous support from friends and family is vital as grief is an ongoing process.
"Advocate for yourself and trust your gut. Find your people, find the people who will be there for you. Take your own time and find what helps you keep going." ~~ Katie Schwarz
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In this episode, I delve into the isolating experience of losing a child and explore ways to build a strong support network to aid in the healing process. I have shared 5 practical tips to communicate your needs, set boundaries, and connect with those who can genuinely support you.
Grief often leads to feelings of isolation, even when surrounded by others. It is crucial to recognize and address these feelings to promote healing and emotional well-being.
5 Practical Tips for Communicating Needs and SettingBoundaries
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Use “I” Statements: Express your feelings andneeds without sounding critical.
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Be Clear and Direct: Communicate your needsstraightforwardly.
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Set Specific Boundaries: Define clear boundariesfor managing your grief.
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Ask for Help When Needed: Do not hesitate to askfor specific forms of support.
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Adjust Boundaries as Needed: Revisit and adjustyour boundaries as your grief journey evolves.
Building a Support Network
Connect with Others: It is beneficial to connect with those who have experienced similar losses and those who listen with compassion.
Support Network Mapping: Create a visual map of your support network by drawing three concentric circles. Place people who you can rely on any time in the inner circle and others in the outer circles based on their level of support.
Identify Gaps: Identify any gaps in your support network and think about ways to strengthen your connections or seek out new support avenues. Aim to have 3-4 people in your inner circle.
Your support network will change as you and your grief journey evolve, and that is okay. Expect changes in your relationships, with some people staying close and others distancing themselves.
If your inner circle feels empty or insufficient, reach out for support. If you are unsure how to communicate your needs or set boundaries, I am here to guide you through this challenging time.
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Kayla Hollingshead and Jenni Koskela are two dedicated Labor and Delivery Nurses that work daily to find rays of sunshine by creating positive memories amid baby loss. Jenni shared that when a mom comes in and there is no heart beat the regular protocol goes out the window. It is about sharing love and compassion while guiding the family through their needs. We want to ensure the families have every opportunity to create beautiful memories with their baby.
Within this episode we discussed:
- Building Strong Relationships and Support for the families
- Creating Positive Memories
- Mementos and Keepsakes
- Staff Well-being Program
- Standard of Care Guidelines
Kayla and Jenni, along with two other L&D nurses have started Butterfly Kisses Alliance, a nonprofit that provides education and support for families who have experienced pregnancy loss or the death of a newborn. They believe that by offering resources and guidance, they can help families navigate the difficult journey of grief and find hope for the future. They provide Comfort Kits for Families and Standard of Care Guidelines for Healthcare Providers
For Bereaved Parents, reach out for support and take comfort in creating lasting memories with your child. You are not in this alone.
For Healthcare Workers, remember the significance of your role and strive to make each family's experience as positive as possible. They will remember.
For All Listeners, support initiatives like Butterfly Kisses Alliance and participate in fundraisers to help provide essential services to grieving families.
Connect with Kayla and Jenni:EMAIL: butterflykissesalliance@gmail.com
Facebook: Butterfly Kisses Alliance
Instagram: @butterflykissesallianceWebsite: https://www.butterflykissesalliance.org/
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Join us in this special anniversary episode as we celebrate four years of podcasting, sharing stories, resources, information about infertility, pregnancy, and child loss and navigating grief. This episode features three very special guests: my granddaughters Blake and Harper, who share about themselves and why they are grandmom's little miracles, and my husband Tom, who has been a huge support over the last four years.
Blake and Harper introduce themselves and share why they are special and grandmom's little miracles. Blake was born through a gestational carrier after her mom experienced multiple miscarriages. Harper has two mommies and was conceived with the help of a sperm donor.
My husband, who has edited over 190 episodes show notes, provides invaluable support and insights about the podcast.
Topics we talked about:
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Challenges with Editing:
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Tom talks about our daughters' losses and the sadness of realizing we could have had more grandchildren. He expresses his understanding and appreciation of the work being done to help women in this community.
Celebrating the journey of the past four years and expressing gratitude to all listeners and supporters. Encouraging listeners to continue sharing their stories and to stay tuned for more inspiring and supportive episodes in the future.
Tom referenced,Episode 142 with Traci Daniels about Microchimerism
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In this episode, Robbie Norris shares his deeply personal journey through grief and heartbreak following the loss of his daughter Indie. Robbie opens up about the challenges he faced and the lessons he learned along the way, offering valuable insights for others navigating similar experiences. He describes the intense anger and shares his struggles with directing his anger towards his wife, Molly.
In this Episode:
· The difference in grieving styles initially caused tension but ultimately helped them understand and support each other better.
· Turning to alcohol as a coping mechanism, which he regrets.
· Reflecting on the importance of seeking professional help to manage his anger and wishes he had been more open to this earlier.
· Despite their different grieving processes, Robbie and Molly decided to lean on each other, which strengthened their bond as a couple.
· Societal pressure on men to be the strong, supportive "rock" and how challenging it was to accept that he could not fix the situation.
You have to recognize that your partner, your wife, your girlfriend is likely going to take it harder than you do, and you have to recognize that their bond is greater, and I wish I would have recognized it sooner. I’m glad I do now. ~ Robbie Norris
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Jeremy Lagerhausen's shared in this episode his story and insights of balancing fatherhood, supporting his spouse, and navigating his personal grief. He shared experiencing a roller coaster of emotions for 10 weeks, heightened stress, and the ultimate loss of his newborn son, who lived for only 36 hours.
In this episode:
· The most challenging part of the journey was figuring out how to be a father to his son Jordan at home while also being a supportive husband to his wife in the hospital.
· Regretting not taking full FMLA to be more present for his family.
· Family, friends, and the church community played a crucial role in providing support.
· Jeremy talked about decision paralysis, and the difficult discussions and situations that happened.
· Grief as a father, emphasizing the importance of recognizing his own emotional trauma while supporting his wife.
Jeremy shares suggestions for coping with Father's Day after such a profound loss. He believes having their son Jordan will help them through the day, providing a sense of hope and connection.
“You have the feelings, they are going to be there, you can hide them, you could hide them for a long time, and they will eventually come out. So, work with them so when they come out, it is in a safe way.” ~~Jeremy Lagerhausen
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In this episode I shared some personal reflections and experiences as we approach the end of May 2024. This month holds significant emotional weight for many, including myself, due to the recent celebrations of Mother’s Day and Bereaved Mother’s Day. In this episode, I discuss the importance of honoring bereaved mothers, share insights from a grief retreat I attended, and explore profound transformative techniques to help navigate grief and trauma.
In this episode:
· Personal Reflections on May and Mother’s Day:
· Experiences from a Grief Retreat:
· Science-Based Healing Techniques and Client Transformative Healing Journey.
· Everyone's grief journey is unique, and it's crucial to honor and validate your own experience.
· Innovative techniques can help reframe and reprogram how grief and trauma are processed, allowing for a more fulfilling life post-loss.
If today’s episode resonated with you and you’d like to learn more about the techniques discussed or need support, please reach out. You can schedule a Hope Exploration Session through the link in the show notes or connect with me on social media. I’m here to support you on your healing journey.
Resource: The Body Keeps the Score, Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D.
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In this heartfelt episode, Jess and Jeremy Lagerhausen share their deeply personal journey through a difficult pregnancy and the loss of their son, Jude. Their story is one of love, faith, and resilience. They recount the unexpected turns their lives took and the profound God moments they experienced.
Jess and Jeremy's son, Jude, was born on December 2nd and passed away on December 3rd after 10 weeks of pregnancy challenges. At 18 weeks pregnant, after a magical day together as a family vacationing in California, Jess experienced a sudden rush of fluid, leading to an ER visit. Jess faced recurrent fluid loss and bleeding, leading to multiple hospital visits. Despite a closed cervix and initial diagnosis of placenta previa, the fluid levels continued to drop mysteriously.
In the episode:
· Instrumental in implementing a new company policy to allow additional time off for child loss.
· Leaning into their faith, finding immense support from their minister.
· Grieving differently and understanding it is okay.
· Challenges of dealing with well-intentioned but difficult comments from others.
· Shared how telling their story helped themunderstand others better and contributed to their healing journey.
Jess and Jeremy’s story is a testament to the strength of the human spirit and the power of faith in the face of unimaginable loss. Their journey underscores that everyone’s grief process is unique, and it’s essential to find healthy ways to cope and heal.
Resource: Book – Every Moment Holy, Volume II Death, Grief & Hope, pocket editionConnect with Teresa:
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In this week’s episode, Jade Welegalashares her heart-wrenching yet inspiring story of navigating severe medical complications and the loss of her baby at 23 weeks and 6 days due to a series of life-threatening conditions. Jade's experience brings to light the struggles of dealing with pre-eclampsia, HELLP Syndrome, and Disseminated Intravascular Coagulation (DIC), alongside the profound grief of losing a child.
Episode Overview:
· Jade’s Health Crisis: Discussion of Jade's initial symptoms and the rapid escalation into severe conditions for both her and the baby.
· Critical Decisions: Moments in the hospital where Jade was faced with the life-altering decision to deliver prematurely to save her own life.
· The Delivery: The traumatic delivery process, complications such as the ruptured placenta, and the subsequent medical interventions including multiple blood transfusions and acute kidney failure.
· Post-Delivery Challenges: Jade discusses the aftermath of her delivery, including her battle with acute kidney disease, and the emotional impact of her lengthy ICU stay on her grief.
· The Journey of Grief and Healing: Insights into how Jade coped with her grief, including the importance of not being hard on herself and the therapeutic effect she found in helping others.
Jade emphasized to our listeners a profound insight that was shared with her: It's not about moving on after a loss, but about moving forward. She said I have literally lived by this and any time a feel down or hyper focused on losing my child I have to remind myself that I am not moving on, I am moving forward which does not dismiss how much I love him.
"Listen to your body, you know when something is not right. In your grief, you have guilt, and I thought, how am I supposed to live now without my baby? You don’t move on, you move forward." ~~ Jade Welegala
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In this deeply personal episode, Liz O'Donnell talks about the transformative and painful journey following the stillbirth of her child, Aaliyah, at 32 weeks. Liz shares her experiences and the subsequent changes in her life, including her courageous fight for bereavement rights, which led to the passing of an emergency bereavement bill in D.C., granting parents up to two weeks of paid leave after a stillbirth.
What You'll Learn:
· Not going home when released from the hospital.
· Daily "Meetings" with Grief
· Handling Baby Things.
· Support System that said and did the Right things.
· Challenges with Her Employer due to no Birth Certificate.
Liz, once known as "spa girl," utilized self-care as a coping mechanism, finding solace in small daily rituals. These acts of self-care became achievements in the hardest days of her grief. Motivated by the messages of solidarity and shared sorrow from other grieving families, Liz founded "Aaliyah in Action," a non-profit dedicated to supporting others experiencing similar losses.
Powerful Reflections:
Liz shares insights on the necessity of setting boundaries even with well-intentioned people, emphasizing the importance of protecting one's peace during traumatic times. She advocates for being assertive in safeguarding personal boundaries to aid healing.
Resources: https://saddadsclub.com/
Connect with Liz:
Email: hello@aaliyahinaction.org
Website: https://www.aaliyahinaction.org/
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In this episode Beth Frattura shares her deeply personal and challenging journey through IVF and the broader landscape of infertility treatments. After one and a half years of trying to conceive naturally, Beth and her husband received an infertility diagnosis due to male factors, leading them directly into the world of IVF with the need for Intracytoplasmic Sperm Injection (ICSI).
In this episode, we discuss:
· The Grief of Failed Transfers: Beth talks about the emotional impact of failed embryo transfers and the grief that accompanies each setback.
· Ectopic Pregnancy Loss: Beth shares her painful experience of having to remove a pregnancy that implanted in the Fallopian tube and the specific grief associated with losing a pregnancy in such circumstances.
· The Emotional Rollercoaster: How the process of IVF can rob you of the joy typically associated with pregnancy milestones, leading to a muted, anxious approach to celebrating progress.
· Support Systems and Grieving: The importance of having a support network and the types of support that can help those going through infertility treatments cope better.
· Empowerment through Knowledge: Beth emphasizes how gaining knowledge about infertility treatments empowered her to advocate for herself effectively and the importance of being informed.
· Responding to 'How are you doing?': Insights into handling this often-complex question while navigating infertility, and the power of being honest with oneself and others.
Beth reflects on her journey, expressing a poignant wish: "If I could go back, I would open up more." She believes that sharing her struggles would have not only reduced her isolation but also enhanced her journey with the valuable advice from the community. While going through treatment she remembered thinking, I want to be able to look at myself in the mirror at 60 or 70 years old whether a mother or not a mother and be able to say confidently, “I did everything possible to follow what my heart needed.”
Beth spoke about the nonprofit organization, The Stork Foundation, which she started four years ago, which offers financial assistance to low resource individuals who need infertility treatments that would otherwise be out of financial reach.
“Know that it takes so much strength to go through and you are incredibly brave to go through this. Lean on others, trust the process, have a support system, and a team that has been through similar experiences can help you through such a confusing experience.” ~~ Beth Frattura
The Stork Foundation:
Instagram: @storkfoundationforinfertility,
Facebook: The Stork Foundation for Infertility
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It’s National Infertility Awareness Week. On this episode I talked about the often misunderstood and complex world of infertility. Many are unaware of the significant emotional toll and grief that accompanies infertility, affecting not only individuals but also couples and families. This episode aims to bring these issues into the light, offering understanding and support to those navigating this challenging journey.
In this episode, we cover:
· Various Factors of Infertility:
· Emotional Toll of Infertility
· Infertility as a Medical Condition:
· Finding the Right Support
· A Look Back
· Myths and Misconceptions:
· Self-Care and Mindset
I provide a compassionate and informative look at infertility, fostering resilience and hope for those affected. Remember, everyone's grief journey is unique, and while grief and loss cannot be fixed, understanding and supportive conversations can make a significant difference. You are not alone in this.
Bereaved Mother's Day Brunch Link:
https://www.facebook.com/share/ivB6RSVpPp3zSPxT/?mibextid=9l3rBW
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In this episode, Leah Judice shared her deeply personal journey through infertility, chronic back pain, mental health, and her decision to pursue adoption.
She opens up about her struggles with not being physically and mentally capable of becoming pregnant. She discusses the emotional toll of working through pain management while trying to fulfill her dream of becoming a mom.
Topics we talked about in this episode:
· The Rollercoaster of Infertility Treatments
· Deciding to Stop Treatments
· The Unconditional Support
· Research and the Decision to Pursue Adoption
· Lengthy and Exhausting Process of Adoption
“It felt deeply personal, and it was not anyone else’s business. Trust yourself and seek professional support if needed.” ~ Leah Judice
Bereaved Mother's Day Brunch Link:
https://www.facebook.com/share/ivB6RSVpPp3zSPxT/?mibextid=9l3rBW
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Rebecca Eggering, a dedicated professional who has devoted over two decades in supporting families during their most vulnerable times as a Labor and Delivery nurse. Recently, Rebecca has embraced a pivotal role as the Share Bereavement Coordinator at Anderson Hospital in Maryville, IL, marking a new chapter in her mission to provide care and understanding.
Rebecca effectively enhances pregnancy loss education among the OB community in the local area. Her approach involves personalized visits to the medical staff in each OB doctor’s office, fostering a network of support and empathy for families navigating pregnancy loss.
Within this episode we talked about:
· Using gentle language, rather than always using medical terminology
· Taking much-needed time with the families.
· Respectful Care by Funeral Homes for all pregnancy losses.
· Sensitive Scheduling for women that have experienced a loss.
· Creating Lasting Mementos with and for the families
Rebecca leaves us with a powerful message of self-compassion: "Give yourself grace, you may become angrier more quickly, and again give yourself grace." This reminder underlines the importance of patience and kindness towards oneself through the ebb and flow of emotions encountered in grief.
Bereaved Mother's Day Brunch Link:
https://www.facebook.com/share/ivB6RSVpPp3zSPxT/?mibextid=9l3rBWAxe Throwing Event Link:
https://facebook.com/events/s/axe-throwing-with-share-anders/1742844562877748/Anderson Hospital Share Group Link:
https://www.facebook.com/share/ViM7oyTGXqVZ6c3a/?mibextid=LQQJ4dConnect with Rebecca:
Email: pregnancyloss_suppor@andersonhospital.orgConnect with Teresa:
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Katrina Travis shares her heart-wrenching experience of loss and the resilience it took to navigate grief while supporting her daughter and son-in-law during one of the most challenging times of their lives. In this episode, we talked about the profound grief and unwavering strength that Katrina faced when her daughter lost her full-term daughter. Through her story, we delve into the complexities of grieving as a parent and grandparent.
In this episode we talked about:
· Needing to be strong for my daughter and son-in-law
· Making Funeral Arrangements
· Journaling her feelings became a crucial outlet.
· The importance of supportive people.
· Finding purpose in sharing her story
It is OK to not be OK ~~ Katrina Travis
I thank Katrina for her courage in sharing her story and hope her journey brings comfort and understanding to those who hear it. Let her story be a reminder that you are not alone in your grief, and there is strength in community and shared experiences.
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March is Pregnancy After Loss Awareness Month and in this episode Teresa talks about the complex journey of becoming pregnant again after losing a child. It's a path marked by resilience, courage, and the delicate balance of hope and grief.
Losing a child, whether through miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant loss, leaves a broken heart that never fully heals. It’s a loss that encompasses not just emotional turmoil but also profound psychological, social, and economic impacts.
Things Teresa Talked About:
- Deciding to become pregnant after experiencing such a loss.
- Milestone Moments and Managing Anxiety
- Needs from the medical staff.
- The Additional Challenge of Unexplained Losses
Pregnancy after loss is a journey where fear meets hope and where women find strength, and healing. It’s a path that requires support, understanding, and an immense amount of courage.
I want to thank my clients, the women in the support groups that I work with and the podcast guests that continue to share their stories to advocate for other women. It is so very much needed, appreciated and it is changing the lives of so many.
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Molly Norris, and her husband Robbie’s journey to parenthood has been a rollercoaster of emotions, their poignant journey through the heartache of pregnancy loss to the cautious joy of pregnancy after loss. Their path to parenthood has been marked by intense emotional highs and devastating lows, encapsulating the fragile hope that defines the experience of many families facing similar challenges.
Despite the crushing grief of multiple unsuccessful attempts at conceiving and devastating loss of their baby girl, Indie Rae Norris, at 25 weeks, Molly and Robbie’s story is one of resilience and love. Their commitment in honoring Indie’s memory has inspired a mission to support other grieving parents and increase awareness around pregnancy loss.
In this episode, Molly openly shares about:
· The lasting anxiety and PTSD
· Lingering regrets, such as not cutting the cord.
· The incredible support from the nursing staff during their darkest moment.
· How they have honored Indie Rae.
· The necessity of allowing time to grieve.
· The comfort found in a private ultrasound package during the pregnancy after the loss.
In an effort to support others on this difficult journey, Molly is compiling a Personal Book of Resources to distribute to local hospitals, aiming to provide comfort and guidance to parents navigating a pregnancy loss.
Molly's message for you is clear: "You are not alone." Despite the isolation that you feel, there is a community of parents who have faced similar pain and can offer understanding and support.
Tune in to hear Molly's heartfelt story of loss, love, and the cautious hope that defines the journey of pregnancy after loss.
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
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Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
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Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
In this profoundly moving episode, Carrie Schmitt shares about facing the unimaginable tragedy of losing her seven-year-old son, Jackson, to cancer. This episode is not just a story of loss but a powerful journey of resilience, hope and the strength to make a positive impact in the wake of grief.
Carrie shares how she is dedicated herself to ensuring her son’s spirit continues to guide and inspire by engaging her community in raising awareness and funds for cancer research, Through blogging about her experience, she provides a beacon of support for other parents navigating the heartbreak of losing a child, demonstrating thehealing power of sharing one’s story.
In this episode, you will Discover:
· How life does not pause in the face of grief.
· Strategies for supporting a living child dealing with anxiety after losing a sibling.
· The importance of careful language when talking to children about loss.
· Carrie’s experience with overlapping postpartum symptoms and grief.
· The essential need of self-care during the grieving process.
Carrie opens up about her internal struggle: “I wish this were not my life and I just want to give Ivan a good life after the death of Jackson.” She founded a 501(c)(3) organization,“Love Like Jackson” aimed at supporting children who have lost siblings by providing play therapy and sharing a heartfelt book she has written in memory ofher son, designed to aid young children in similar circumstances.
Carrie leaves us with a powerful message: “When you accept something, it does not mean you have to like it. You already have what it takes inside you, it does not feel like you can, and you can, and you are surviving.”
Connect with Carrie:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chickschmitt and https://www.facebook.com/lovelikejacksonInstagram: @Lovelikejackson1219 and @Cdchick11
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EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
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Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complimentary coachingcall: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-callPodcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Christian Shields Cunningham’s dedication to promoting wholeness and healing stems from a diverse professional background that spans various sectors and demographics. As a current behavioral health intake therapist in the healthcare sector, she draws on her prior experience as a positive intervention specialist, social service aide, and program coordinator for business operations.Christian was told at an incredibly young age that conceiving a child would be difficult. She has been diagnosed with stage 4 Endometriosis and Premature Ovarian Insufficiency. In this episode she shares about the journey she is still on to conceive a child.Things talked about: Conversation with her partner about not becoming a mother naturally. Hormone therapy and exhaustion. Similarities with symptoms of reproductive issues and mental health Being open and transparent with others. Supplement, education and castor oil patches.Christian shared a tremendous amount of insight and encouragement on this episode, so listen to the very end."Everything counts, nothing is wasted, you matter in all aspects of your life and what you do matters" ~ Christian Shields CunninghamBook Referenced: The Infertility Survival Handbook: everything you never thought you'd need to know by Elizabeth Swire FalkerConnect with Teresa:EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.comFacebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.Instagram: @livingaftergriefWebsite: www.livingaftergrief.comclick and schedule a free complimentary coachingcall: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-callPodcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Teresa Reiniger is a grief specialist that works with women in reclaiming their freedom to live fully and to cultivate a deeper sense of trust in themselves as they move through the healing process of grief of a child. She unpacks the grief that has affected various areas of her clients life.
In this episode you will hear ways to honor yourself and your loved one.
- Acknowledging Your Feelings:
- Creating New Traditions
- Communicating Your Needs
- Setting Realistic Expectations
- Reaching Out for Support
- Taking Care of Yourself
- Honoring the Memories
- Suggestions for Honoring Your Loved One.
Create a memorial, start new traditions, a memory jar, write a letter, remembrance event etc...
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complimentary coachingcall: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Jennifer Smith is a Reiki Master and a Quantum Healer. In this episode she shared about the healing practice of Reiki which is about transmitting energies through the hands. Jennifer walks you through a self healing practice during this episode, and the session is healing, relaxing and rejuvenating.
Jennifer shared multiple times that our body has the wisdom of what it needs for healing and that we may not know consciously but our bodies know.
Reiki is a gift for everyone and everyone can heal themselves. ~ Jennifer Smith.
Connect with Jennifer:Link: https://linktr.ee/jenrsmith
Website: www.naturalenergyhealing.lifeEmail: jennifersmith@naturalenergyhealing.lifeConnect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complimentary coachingcall: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Heather Garrigus specializes in breath-work, a practice designed to enhance mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Heather's expertise and holistic modalities are offered at her studio in Alton, Illinois.
In this episode Heather demonstrates three different breathing techniques which help to release where you are holding grief. Discover the grounding effect and peace that intentional breathing can bring during challenging emotions associated with grief.
Connect with Heather:EMAIL: heathergarrigus86@gmail.com
Website: https://heatherszenden.com/Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
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Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
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Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Bethany Bouquet is a Yoga Instructor and will guide you through calming yoga postures, creating a space for inner peace and resilience in this episode. As the owner of Fit Flow Yoga, Bethany provides online classes tailored for all levels, making it accessible for those grieving the loss of a loved one.
During the guided session, Bethany will encourage and guide you through noticing how different areas of your body are feeling.
- feeling tight,
- holding tensions,
- not feeling anything,
- feeling energized.
You can find the on-demand studio here: https://www.fitflowyoga.studio/therunnersstudio
To get started, simply click a class and then register for the 7 days free.
Contact with Bethany:Email: bethany@fitflowyoga.studio
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EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
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Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
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Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Connie shares two powerful strategies based on her personal journey of loss. PQ (positive intelligence emotional processing) heightens awareness of emotions in the body, while EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) involves gentle tapping to process pain. As the founder of Own Your Life, Connie is dedicated to helping others live with purpose and passion.
Connie shared a tremendous amount of information about how and where grief is held in the body. She talked about her grief and how it shows up in her body to help the listeners.
Two most important takeaways:
- Pay attention to physical sensations in your body.
- Give yourself deep compassion and love.
"Pay exquisite attention to where the grief is expressing itself in your body" -- Connie Rose
Connect with Connie:
Email: connieroseup@gmail.com
Phone: 314-488-5039
Website: www.ConnieRoseUp.com
Resources:
Book: Positive Intelligence by Shirzad Chamine
Heather Ambler EFT: https://www.heatherambler.com/The Tapping Solution: https://www.thetappingsolutionapp.com/The EFT Universe: https://eftuniverse.com/The Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology: https://www.energypsych.org/
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
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Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
I'm so excited to be continuing to record and produce this podcast after much thought and soul searching. I LOVE having this platform for my guests to share their stories and for experts to share their knowledge.
Coming in 2024:
- Guest sharing their stories
- Mental Health Episodes
- Grief Book content shared
- In person and online events
- Newsletter
- Sponsorships
- YouTube
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
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Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Re-release of episode 98
In this episode Lauren Turley shares her story about her daughter Catherine who is in heaven. At times she became very emotional remembering the hardest parts of their journey which started at the 20 week anatomy ultrasound. At that appointment she remembered it took a long time and then the sonographer said "The doctor is going to come in and we are going to take care of you. The doctor shared with us a very long list of what was wrong. Lauren said I just cried and was trying to figure out how I was going to take care of my 18 month old daughter when my heart is breaking? How am I going to be a good mom when my life has just stopped?
We went from figuring out a nursery and clothes to planning a funeral. It was very important to us to start sharing our story to help others right away. Their story has touched my heart just like every story I have heard and several moments and things that Lauren shared brought tears to my eyes. As a grief coach, I love hearing when there is joy and happiness that is found in such a very difficult and heart breaking story. When those things can be found and shared, healing is there. Lauren shared many sad and hard moments in their story and also many beautiful and joyful times. So I encourage you to be open to feeling the sadness and joy while listening to her share to support others.
Lauren's insight and encouragement: The biggest thing for caregivers or support people and the family to know is. It is OK and important to feel your feelings. There is no right or wrong way and you need to do what is best for you. Lauren said what works for me may not work for others and that is OK. There is no outline for how this works and that is probably what makes it so hard.
· Feel your feelings
· Give yourself permission to protect yourself and your family
· Do what is best for you and do not feel bad about that
· This is your time to take care of yourself and your family
· This is the beginning of a tough journey
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
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Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complimentary coachingcall: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
This episode is filled with reminders to give yourself grace and space. I give 7 tips to honor yourself and 7 tips to honor your loved one. These are great for the holidays and any time of the year. I have shared multiple ideas with each tip.
While listening, do not feel you need to do all of them. I would encourage you to give yourself permission to pick one, two or none. You are the only one that knows what is best for you at this time of your grief healing journey.
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
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Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
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Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Kim Skief is a spiritual transformation coach and a highly sensitive person. She is gifted in empathy and listening skills and thoroughly enjoys inspiring women to step into a life they love.
Kim shares about her three miscarriages and the loss of her eleven-year-old daughter. Her daughter Grace was diagnosed with DIPG, brain cancer and died three months later.
Kim shared very openly about her grief journey of the last several years. Questions she asked herself during her early grief. What did I do wrong? What is the right way to grieve? Etc...
You will hear about:
- Anger at God
- The would of, should of and could of's
- How grief changes you.
- Growing apart from your spouse.
- Tips for the Holidays.
As the grieving person your responsibility is to yourself. If otherpeople object to that, that is something they will need to figure out. -- Kim Skief
Connect with Kim:https://www.facebook.com/luvyourselflifecoaching?mibextid=ZbWKwL
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complimentary coachingcall: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Mary Adkins experienced secondary infertility, her and her husband thought having a second baby would be easy since they had gotten pregnant quickly with their first son. They decided to wait until their son turned three to try to grow their family. Mary did become pregnant quickly again, in fact she became pregnant three times in a year and all three ended in miscarriages.
In this episode we talked about:
- Coming face to face with the inability to control all things in life and our body.
- Grieving something you do not understand.
- Postpartum happens whether there is a baby to hold or not.
- Taking a pregnancy test instead of reading my toddler a book.
- How is family affected?
Be patient because life will get good again – Mary Adkins
Connect with Mary:Her new memoir, about her own fertility journey is due to come out in early 2024.
IG: https://www.instagram.com/adkinsmary/?hl=en
Website: https://maryadkinswriter.com/
Podcast: The First Draft ClubConnect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
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Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Lisa Jean Dickmann received devastating news that her fourth child had trisomy 18. She received this news while traveling to a Tidy Up Conference with Marie Kondo. This was the beginning of a career change toward her life mission. She stayed at the conference and said it brought her great healing and gratitude.
Inside this episode we talked about:
· Her experience at the conference.
· How do you tell people that your child is going to die?
· Her physical & mental healing.
· How she processed the grief.
· The "loving" kicks with her older children.
What is important is not your stuff, it is the people and creating relationships that will build you up, support you, and help you walk through the hard times. – Lisa Jenn DickmannLisa became Missouri’s first Certified KonMari® Consultant in 2017 and found her counseling skills to be the perfect fit! • Lisa focuses her organizing business, Tidy Upgrade, on helping people make space for what matters most by letting go with gratitude. These transformations enable her clients to flourish and live a life aligned with their dreams.
Connect with Lisa:
She has virtual and in-person sessions and offers a free consultation which you can book through my website, tidyupgrade.com
IG: @tidyupgradeFB: /tidyupgradeConnect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complimentary coachingcall: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
It is important to have ways to cope with the triggers of grief during the holidays. This is part two of a four part series of 30 tips to support and help you navigate your grief through the holidays.
Tips 24 - 30
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Make a Plan "A" and "B".
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Limit your amount of in store shopping.
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Include your family in making holiday decisions.
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Prioritize and Don't over commit.
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Give yourself quiet time.
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It's OK to be happy too.
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Seek Gratitude Once Daily
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
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Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
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Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
It is important to have ways to cope with the triggers of grief during the holidays. This is part two of a four part series of 30 tips to support and help you navigate your grief through the holidays.
Tips 17 - 23
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Change Your Scenery.
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Volunteer or Donate to Charity.
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Light a Candle.
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Honor Your Loved One.
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Don't Rush Your Grief.
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Talk to a Grief Coach.
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Be Aware of Alcohol Intake.
http://thecenterforhealingarts.com/light-a-candle/Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
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Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
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Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
It is important to have ways to cope with the triggers of grief during the holidays. This is part two of a four part series of 30 tips to support and help you navigate your grief through the holidays.
Tips 10 - 16
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Start New Traditions.
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Honor the Old Traditions and Memories
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Surround Yourself With Those Who Love You.
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Meet With a Support Group.
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Communicate Your Expectations Clearly.
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Opt-out of the Holidays.
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Socialize as you Feel Able.
Women’s online event: Navigating Grief Through the Holidays.Click link to register for the event: https://buy.stripe.com/5kA03veNg8ZZ8nufZ3
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
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Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
It is important to have ways to cope with the triggers of grief during the holidays. This is part one of a four-part series of 30 tips to support and help you navigate your grief through the holidays.
Tips 1 – 9
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Feel Your Feeling
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Write Out Your Emotions
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Don’t Resist Grief.
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Show Yourself Self-compassion.
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Take Care of Your Body
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Ask for Help and Support
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Be Specific
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Set Healthy Expectations and Boundaries
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Identify Grief Coping Skills
Women’s online event: Navigating Grief Through the Holidays.
Click link to register for the event: https://buy.stripe.com/5kA03veNg8ZZ8nufZ3
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
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Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
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Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
This week’s episode is a re-release of Episode 39, which is one of the most listened to episodes with Kelsey Albers.
Kelsey talked about missing a baby that was never there. She was 11 weeks pregnant, and the heartbeat could not be heard, the bleeding started, and an ultrasound revealed there was no baby. She experienced a blighted ovum, which is an embryonic sac and the placenta developed but the baby did not.
Inside this episode Kelsey shared about:
- Self-Sabotage due to there being no baby
- Disagreeing now with those that say wait to tell people you are pregnant.
- Grief being packed away when becoming pregnant after loss.
- Minimizing grief of early pregnancy loss.
"I believe that working with someone teaches you coping skills and teaches you perspective and it is so important to be able to move on, to continue to thrive and live this life you were put here to do without just being crushed by grief every single day for the rest of your life." -- Kelsey Albers
Links to Kelsey's blogs she referenced: https://www.ignitenourishthrive.com/miscarriage-5-years-later/
https://www.ignitenourishthrive.com/m-is-for-miscarriage-2/
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
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Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
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Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
On this episode I shared several events that I am participating in this month to spread awareness. Yes, there is a focus on more events this month and for me I have a focus for this to be every month. So many have been affected by loss and let us as a community continue to bring awareness so those that are experiencing loss can find the community they need.
- 1-4 pregnancies lost to miscarriage
- 1-160 stillbirths yearly which is 21,000 babies born sleeping.
Isolation and feeling alone attributes to women taking on blame, shame, and guilt and then they allow the itty, bitty shitty committee in their heads with self-talk and self-worth. Let us break the silence and isolation. We CAN talk about sad things.
Wave of Light October 15th
National Share Walk, October 21st in St. Louis
Be on the lookout for an online event, Sunday, November 12, 2023. Navigating the Holidays; Finding the right tools to help you shift your triggers quickly.
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
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Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
WOW WOW WOW So many things planned and happening the last three months of 2023. I'M A PUBLISHED AUTHOR! I am super excited for you to purchase the book Perfectly I'Mperfect,Remarkable stories of ordinary women overcoming extraordinarily circumstances. You will be able to read my chapter on finding my purpose at age sixty and how forty-one other ordinary women have overcome difficult things in their lives to become extraordinary powerful women in our communities. Grab your digital copy and/or paperback.
Other things happening in the next several months:
- The first of quarterly events hosted in the St Louis area for parents who have experienced a loss.
- November social media post to support you in navigating the holidays.
- Online event November 12th 6-8:30pm cst: Navigating the Holidays: Finding the right tools to help you shift your triggers quickly.
- December social media videos to guide you through elevating your emotional scale with gratitude.
- Book Series Coming in 2024!!!
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complimentary coaching call: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Maja Miller shared her story of pregnancy loss and an IVF journey to have her first living child at 45. She also shared that she has two more embryos and is excited to have more children after the age of 45.
Maja helps other women on their health journey as a metabolic health coach and functional diagnostic nutrition practitioner. A fancy way of saying that she uses clinical labs to analyze blood, urine, stool, hair, etc to figure out why her clients feel burned out, exhausted and sick. She then uses those results to create tailored, bio-individual protocols to reverse their symptoms.
In this episode Maja shared about her:
- Spiritual Connection with her daughter that she miscarried.
- Listened to her body to become pregnant, stay pregnant and have a great postpartum experience.
- Effects of different types of stress.
- Autonomic work she did to heal.
- Knowledge on healing the body.
“You can find a lot of solace in taking action towards your goal and your goal is 100% possible so there is nothing that is impossible” – Maja Miller
Connect with Maja:
Website: majamiller.comFB: https://www.facebook.com/maja.j.miller
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/majamiller/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/majajmiller/
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
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Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complimentary coaching call: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Kristen Azotea shared her story of the loss of her first daughter Adalida in 2014. At 26 weeks pregnant she was admitted to the hospital and soon after needed an emergency c-section because her and her baby's life were in danger. Kristen had contracted and experienced a rare virus during her pregnancy. Kristen expressed that grieving the loss of Adalida had been delayed due to giving birth to two beautiful living children, breast cancer and covid. She heard through it all that she was strong, and many times did not feel strong.
In this episode we talked about:
- Not always feeling strong.
- Due to being so sick not remembering.
- Finding peace and being surrounded by a community.
- Working through grief eight years after her loss.
- Holding grief in the body.
"You don't have to have all the answers or have everything lined up. There are people out there that want to help you and you find out who is there for you and hold on to them." -- Kristen Azotea
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complimentary coaching call: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call
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Coach Teresa talks about navigating grief as a grandparent. When your child loses a child, you are grieving both your grandchild and you are grieving for your child. Instead of spoiling a grandchild, you have now become the ultimate caregiver for your family and possibly your child's friends.
Inside this episode you will hear about:
- The most important thing to always remember is everyone grieves differently.
- Loss cannot be "fixed".
- Take your child's lead when talking about the loss.
- Remember to take care of your own grief and seek support.
"You are 100% in control of talking about your grief and 0% of controlling how people respond to it. People do not want to get your sadness all over them" -- Teresa Reiniger
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complimentary coaching call: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Alyse Dusseault is an Energy worker, Grief Coach, and psychic medium based in Nashville, TN. After losing her partner in 2020, she discovered a spiritual connection with him and her other loved ones in spirit, helping ease the horrible ache of grief. Now, she helps others reignite their connections with loved ones in spirit through 1 on 1 grief coaching; helping them move forward with them, instead of moving on without them.
Inside this episode you will hear about:
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How to begin connecting with your loved ones
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Keeping your relationship going
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Asking for signs to know they are with you
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Reiki, Intuitive, and Medium readings
"You can ask for things so unique and when they come through you know with 100% certainty it’s from them." --Alyse Dusseault
Book Referenced : Signs, The secret Language of the Universe by Laura Lynne Jackson
Connect with Alyse:
Instagram: https://instagram.com/intuitively_alyse
Facebook: Intuitively_alyse
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complimentary coaching call: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
There needs to be healing physically, emotionally, and spiritually on the grief journey. All areas of your life are affected by the loss of a loved one and it is so important to focus on all of them. Be gentle on yourself and work through each area at your own pace. Teresa shared how a few clients felt stuck in their grief and how they found an area to work on to move them forward on their grief journey.
A few coping suggestions:
Physical:
- Regular exercise and activities in nature
- Good nutrition and water intake
- Being mindful of harmful substances
Emotional:
- Minimize worry over things out of your control
- Talk about feelings and journal
- Move into the positive emotional barometer scale
- Find things that are calming for you
Spiritual:
- Take care of your soul
- Encourage yourself and others
- Focus on what really matters in your life
Reach out for professional help by scheduling a complimentary call.
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complimentary coaching call: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Shannon Dalton has been a registered nurse for eleven years. Her background is mostly in neonatal intensive care and has lots of experience with the pediatric population and that is where her passion is. Helping the next generation master their own health and well-being is what she came here to do.Shannon has grown tired of the current mainstream health model and decided to break the mold to provide the best care possible.
Inside this episode we talked about:
- How caring for the families during and after infant loss has changed over the years.
- Different care protocols from hospital to hospital
- More focus on the mental health of the nurses and the families.
- Changes that keep professionalism and the bonds with the family.
- The importance of the family spending time with their baby privately.
Shannon's passion has led her to start her own business to help babies outside of the hospital. Guiding and supporting parents in helping little ones become healthy by going back to basic nutrition and a healthy environment.
Connect with Shannon:
Email: Daltonpediatricfunctionalmed@gmail.com
https://www.daltonpediatricfunctionalmedicine.com/
Ivy Wellness: https://theivywellness.com/
Facebook: Kids Wellness Corner: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086002482795&mibextid=LQQJ4d
Ivy Wellness: https://www.facebook.com/theivywellnes?mibextid=LQQJ4dInstagram: @the.ivywellness @the.functional.peds.rn
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complimentary coachingcall: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Olga Mister shared her grief journey through the first year of the loss of her six and half year old son TJ and the beginning of year two. She said I remember walking out of the hospital and thinking I will see him tomorrow. Olga said numerous times that no one talks about your whole body going through a change and how exhausting grief is. Her pastor shared with her that she needed to heal emotionally, physically and spiritually. Every area of your life needs healing.
Inside this episode we talked about:
- The exhaustion and the very dark times.
- Throwing yourself back into work to avoid the grief.
- Not remembering who you are.
- How you see things so differently.
- Being so deep in pain that the "signs" were not visible
Olga has just begun her second year of the loss of TJ and said it is worse. The fog has lifted so she is needing to navigate things differently. She is worried that she is going to lose someone else. Family and friends have distanced themself so she is clinging to the Angel Moms she has met for support. And knowing that she is forever changed ... navigating how to find her new identity without her son.
"There is no getting over the loss, it is just learning how to live with it." -- Olga Mister
TJ Mister slogan: "We do not give up even if we are sad, we do not give up, never." TJ's Story: www.tjsstory.org
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complimentary coaching call: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Kristen Probst proudly shares that she has three children, two girls on earth and a child in heaven. She is very open about sharing her miscarriage journey to help support other women and has even gone back to her doctor's office to share information she learned so others have a better miscarriage experience. Her doctor's office instructed her to go home and make herself comfortable and when she felt the miscarriage happening to sit on the toilet and wait for it to come out. Kristen is grateful that she works at The Family Life Center and knew to collect her baby and not flush it away.
Inside this episode you will learn:
- How a Chiropractic adjustment can help with a miscarriage.
- How to collect your baby.
- Things to do after the miscarriage to support your healing.
- Ways to honor yourself and your baby.
You're not alone. Lots of women have been there and they just may not have publicly let people know. So tell people what you're going through. Ask for support and don't be afraid to ask for help, like a meal or something. You need that break, you need to take care of yourself. It's not your fault and you just need to cling to God. You know he's got you, he's got your baby and he's going to take care of you. -- Kristen Probst
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complimentary coaching call: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Patricia (Pat) Sheveland sees herself as a holistic healing guide for families. Helping them find healing of mind, body, and spirit from the impact of emotional trauma such as grief and abandonment. In 2012, Pat began the reinvention of her life to pursue her dream of being a life coach and was certified by the International Coaching Federation in 2015. She became certified as a Spring Forest Qigong teacher in 2017 and is a certified Funeral Celebrant serving those who are not affiliated with any religion or church. She also is a volunteer at Children’s Grief Connection, a non-profit organization providing grief services for children and their families in Minnesota and Wisconsin.
As Pat stepped into her second half of life, she realized her soul purpose: to be a light for those who grieve. As a child born to grieving parents, Pat understands firsthand the impact long-term buried grief from the death of a child can have on the family as a whole, including the trauma of having the family broken apart through divorce and abandonment. She began her journey as a life coach working with grieving mothers by helping her own mother find peace and healing after sixty years of buried and “failed” grief after the death of Pat’s brother which happened years before Pat was born. For over a decade, countless mothers have shared their stories with Pat and have found peace and purpose in their lives with Pat’s compassionate guidance.
She is the founder and lead faculty of The Confident Grief Coach School, and mentor coach providing grief coaching certification for coaches and other helping professionals. Pat is a three-time Amazon best-selling author of, How Do I Survive? 7 Steps to Living After Child Loss, Living Life in The Middle: The Caregiver’s Guide to Healing, Hope and Harmony Through Multigenerational Living and The Confident Grief Coach: A Guide for Helping Clients Process Loss.
Key Topics we talked about:
- Buried and "failed" grief
- Not talking about trauma
- Finding your tribe
- Stepping into purpose after loss
- OK to not have a huge grief experience
"Many blessings to all the people who listened to your podcast. Know that there is a life, there is a life in the future even though it may not feel that way and there are so many people like Teresa and myself that we want to love you up and help you walk this journey and find that light again because you deserve it." Pat Sheveland
FREE ebook: How Do I Survive? 7 Steps to Living After Child Loss available on Pat's website: www.healingfamilygrief.comConnect with Pat:
www.linkedin.com/in/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/familygrief instagram: @pat_sheveland
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complimentary coaching call: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
I have taken off a couple of weeks which if you have been following me I’m sure you noticed. The last couple of weeks I have missed sharing with you. WOW that was harder than I thought it would be. I guess when you totally love what you do and your passion is to support and help others it's super hard to take time off. This month I have been reflecting, thinking and focusing on my life and focusing on my purpose here. Thinking about where I’d like to take this podcast. Should I continue to podcast? Reflecting on why I started the podcast. Why I have continued to do the podcast for 3 years. I started the podcast and I will continue the podcast for the same purpose with an additional direct focus on grief within the infertility and loss community.
I am super excited to share what is coming in the first half of year 4:
- Re-branding the podcast.
- Focus on educating our society and communities on grief within the infertility and child loss community.
- Bonus Series on Grief in the body, PTSD, Navigating Grief during the Holidays.
- Free Resources and Tools
- I will become an International Published Author.
- In-person Grief Retreat
"May you find strength to embrace your own resilience and live a life filled with hope, healing, love and joy." Teresa Reiniger
Free Tool for you: https://www.livingaftergrief.com/grief-impact-wheel
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa.livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complimentary time to talk: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
In our world there are way to many stories of child loss and infertility. This podcast celebrates the strength of an extraordinary group of women. Welcome to all moms whether you feel or see yourself as resilient or not, let me reassure you that you are.
Join me weekly as we meet these incredible moms who have endured the heartbreak of losing a child or the dream of never having a child. These experiences shatter your world, and my hope is for each person listening to find the strength to rebuild their life and find hope again. My guest and I will help you feel heard, seen and understood in your pain and together we can support each other in healing and transforming our grief into something beautiful.
This is a safe space where we will talk about exploring the complex emotions that come with loss and we’ll focus on healing, growth and finding joy amidst the pain. Stories of transformation, learning practical coping strategies for grief, and you will gain insight from experts in the field of grief and trauma. Whether you’re a grieving mom, a family member or someone seeking to understand and support those who have experienced loss, “Resilient moms” is here for you. Together let’s explore and learn the power of hope, healing and living after loss.
Stacey Micklevitz shared about having two back to back traumatic miscarriages. The doctor referred to the first miscarriage as an atopic ectopic pregnancy. They could not find the fetus and were concerned it could have moved outside the reproductive system. She was given a round of chemo to kill the fast growing cells. She indicated that she went through the protocol, the emergency situation and didn't wrap her head around what was really happening until later.
Shortly after that loss she became pregnant again and lost her daughter Olivia at 13 weeks pregnant. She described this loss as more painful, due to hearing the heartbeat. We lost so many hopes and dreams with this pregnancy. Looking back she wished she would have said yes to a picture of the ultrasound.
Things we talked about in this episode:
- MTHFR (Methylenetetrahydrofolate reductase defiance)
- Surprise pregnancy after deciding to stop trying, due to medical concern.
- Not considering her husbands feelings about wanting pictures
- Grieving with the understanding of seeing our babies again.
- Medical Staff being so wrapped up in protocol and not much emotional support
"Milestone dates don't go away, so you will carry these details with you through your whole life and that is ok. Memories are all we have. So it's bittersweet, and embrace it, process it, feel it and give yourself grace." ~~ Stacey Micklevitz
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa.livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complimentary time to talk: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
WOW! It is hard to believe that year three is coming to a close and year four is about to begin. I shared in this episode how I needed to honor myself on my own grief journey the last few weeks. I was navigating my grief while going through my mom's things to be distributed between myself, my twelve siblings and extended family members. There have been so many new learnings for me since my moms passing seven months ago. More personal experience to support you to give you hope and healing on your grief journey.
Things Coming in Year 4:
- New Podcast Name and Graphics
- Focused Podcast Series for the Holidays, Mental Health, My Favorite Grief Books, etc
- Co-host for each series with expertise in each area
- Opportunity for Honoring Your Child through sponsoring an episode
- Free Resources: Tools, Newsletter, Video
- More Grief tools and guidance to support you on your grief journey and for those supporting a griever
- Interviews with children born after infertility struggles
- Added a second podcast weekly/biweekly
- YouTube Channel
Looking for Guest speakers to share their story of infertility or loss of a child and Obstetrician, Infertility Specialist, Ministers, Funeral Directors etc.
Free Resource at my website for you. (Grief Impact Wheel) https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/grief-impact-wheel
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa.livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complementary time to talk: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Aspen Wood remembers wanting to be a mom from a very young age. She was told as a teenager that it was unlikely that she would ever become pregnant due to scar tissue left from being sexually abused at a very young age. During her teenage years she was admitted to the hospital due to a suicide attempt and later went through a program to help her work through the sexual abuse trauma.
Things you will learn about in this episode:
- Surprise pregnancy while on birth control.
- Different pregnancy complications
- Pica: craving nonfood items during pregnancy due to low iron
- Navigating grieving differently with a partner
- Keepsake Jewelry
Aspen used breast milk to create a keepsake for herself to remember her breastfeeding journey and shared how she is creating keepsake jewelry for others.
"Take it one minute at a time, don't take it a day at a time, or an hour at a time. For months, take it a minute at a time and tell yourself, okay I got through that. That is the way I made it through my hardest days because if I thought okay tomorrow will be better, then the day just drug on so long and it was just so much harder. So if you just say a minute at a time, you can do a minute." ~~ Aspen Wood
Little Milky Way Creationshttps://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100089626827662&mibextid=LQQJ4d
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa.livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complementary time to talk: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Carissa Hess and her husband discovered after not getting pregnant on their own, that they had both female and male infertility factors. Carissa's doctor told her that she had a greater chance of getting mauled by a bear, being struke by lightning, and winning the lottery all on the same day, then getting pregnant on their own. This was hard news to hear and with this news they did not follow the "normal" infertility steps to become pregnant.
Inside this episode you will learn:
- About the ICSI (Intracytoplasmic Sperm Injection) Procedure.
- Wanting to protect each other and not talking was not the right thing to do.
- Navigating grief and joy when losing one baby in a twin pregnancy, not once but twice.
- Becoming ok with being angry with God.
- Trying again after the loss.
"I wish I had been open about my emotions, especially with my spouse earlier. We were protecting each other. Pre-conversations about how each of us handle emotions would have been helpful." ~~ Carissa Hess
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa.livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complementary timeto talk: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
Traci Daniels struggled with abnormal female cycles for years, bleeding for over one hundred days at times. She would take birth control and had several D&C's to help with the bleeding. After marrying, she took fertility drugs in hopes to become pregnant with no success. She wanted to be a mom. Her and her husband talked about adoption and surrogacy, they had agreed that they would only proceed if both were 100% sure. They never got there. Being a woman of strong faith, Traci said multiple times that she believes that everything that happens is for her good.
Inside this episode you will learn:
- About her asking God if she had ever been pregnant.
- Where emotions showed up during her infertility journey
- How Traci discovered that she was a mother through a DNA Genetic test.
I can not begin to explain here how a DNA Genetic test can show that a woman was pregnant and unaware of it. Listen to this entire episode to hear most probably, something you have NEVER heard of before.
"My story is not just for me, it is for other women who might be going through the same thing and are seeking answers." ~~ Traci DanielsConnect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa.livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complementary time to talk: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call
Podcast Guest: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call
It is so important to give yourself grace and space as you navigate both Bereaved Mother's Day and Mother's Day whether you have lost a child or lost your mom. As these days become closer, can you feel your emotional state changing? Is your mind wondering? Are you feeling some anxiety and maybe worried?
It's your day to remember, celebrate and honor your child, your mother and most importantly yourself.
Inside this episode you will hear 4 tips to navigate both Mother's Days:
- How to embrace and feel the difficult emotions you could be feeling.
- Having a plan for both Mother's Days to help you feel celebrated and honored.
- Selfcare tips that will assist you in being kind, gentle and loving to yourself.
- Reach out to others that have lost a child or their mom.
During this episode I read a beautiful Poem titled; This is Motherhood, too
Here is a few lines from the poem written by Meg Walker
And you aren’t alone.
Your story matters.
You’re a mother.
Revel in the Master Gardener’s nurture
Embrace the storms and beauty.
Look around at this garden and find your place here,
Among the flowers
And stand tall.
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa.livingaftergrief.com
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Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
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Terry Kitzmiller was told due to a birth defect she may not be able to carry a pregnancy to full term. After experiencing several traumatic miscarriages and almost losing her life, the decision was made to not try again. Terry became focused on her career. The miscarriages and the loss of never having children would surface in many ways for years. Until it surfaced, big time in a class. During this class she learned tools and new strategies to work through the losses she experienced.
Inside this episode you will learn how Terry:
- Stepped back from trying to have a family
- Released the emotions of being a failure for not being able to give her husband children
- Lean into her grief and loss
- Handled the hurtful words people say
- Navigated the guilt with maybe I should have tried IVF or adoption
"What you choose in this moment isn't your choice forever. Don't second guess yourself and give yourself grace to heal. You are not defined by your choice. Surround yourself with positivity and take time to sit in your grief." ~~ Terry Kitzmiller
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa.livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complementary timeto talk: https://calendly.com/teresa-reiniger/podcast-discovery-call
Betty Mertens is a speaker, author, and co-founder of the non-profit Ella's Umbrella. She is mother to three children. Her oldest daughter, Ella passed away at the age of one in 2017 due to an undiagnosed heart defect. After her tragedy, she and her husband Kyle realized that they had a unique ability to support others through grief. Since then, they have taken what they learned from their experience and using it to help others. Betty has a B.A. in Communications and a Master of Organization Leadership from the University of Northwestern, MN, and an M.B.A. from the University of MO – St. Louis. She currently works in Marketing.
Her and her husband's vision with Ella's Umbrella is to provide knowledge, resources and tools that will help save other children's lives, and bring hope and healing to their families.
Inside this episode you will learn:
- About each of the books Betty has written.
- Great insight on supporting those grieving
- Multiple metaphors to explain going through grief.
- The connection between deep sadness and laughter
Ella's Umbrella Nonprofit Support Pillars:
- Pediatric Heart Research
- Heart Technology Advancements
- Help for Grieving Hearts
" When you look at all the miles you've traveled, may you never forget the brokenness that has given you strength. And perhaps above all, we hope you may truly be able to appreciate the beauty in the threads of gold that hold all the pieces together." ~~ Betty Mertens
Ordering Links:
Adult book on grief called Unraveled: When Loss Changes Everything: https://www.amazon.com/Unraveled-When-Loss-Changes-Everything/dp/B09VWRWW75/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1U4N27VK8JD4G&keywords=unraveled+when+loss+changes+everything&qid=1681760129&sprefix=unraveled+los%2Caps%2C114&sr=8-1Kid's book called Never Far Apart:
https://www.amazon.com/Never-Far-Apart-Betty-Mertens/dp/B0BXN99X3M/ref=sr_1_1?crid=NMEJUG2135TI&keywords=Never+far+apart&qid=1679939937&sprefix=never+far%2Caps%2C454&sr=8-1Connect with Betty:
Connect with Betty:
Facebook: @kyleandbettymertens Instagram: @kyleandbetty Linkedin: @kyle-and-betty-mertens
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa.livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complementary timeto talk: https://calendly.com/teresa-reiniger/podcast-discovery-call
Betty Mertens is mother to three children. Her oldest daughter, Ella passed away at the age of one in 2017 due to an undiagnosed heart defect. As you can only imagine this experience changed the course of their lives completely. After being told that this type of tragedy rips marriages apart. Betty said, "I hope our daughter's legacy doesn't rip us apart so we are going to figure this out."
Inside this episode you will learn:
- How losing Ella saved her husband's life.
- What they did to keep their marriage together.
- How they are supporting and helping others through grief
- To find the positive ... the glimmer of light in the darkness
She and her husband Kyle realized that they had a unique ability to support others through grief. Since then, they have taken what they learned from their experience and are using it to help others.
"I would encourage others to write things down and know that when you're walking through something awful, it is sort of equipping you to show up for other people down the road. If that's the only Silver Lining you can find from it, count it. The reality is you're going through something which has now expanded your frame of reference." ~~ Betty Mertens
**Betty and I will continue our conversation in the next episode. We will talk more about her being a speaker, author, and co-founder of the non-profit Ella's Umbrella.
Connect with Betty:
Facebook: @kyleandbettymertens Instagram: @kyleandbetty Linkedin: @kyle-and-betty-mertensConnect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa.livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
click and schedule a free complementary timeto talk: https://calendly.com/teresa-reiniger/podcast-discovery-call
David and Victoria talked and planned to have a family. Less than a year after they were married, Victoria started to have some weird illnesses. After lots of tests they found that it was all related to a weak heart valve that she was born with. She went through antibiotic therapy for the infections and thought she was in the clear. Open heart surgery was performed in November 2020.
They were then told, due to the strain on her heart, the mechanic heart valve, and the medication she was taking to keep the valve functioning, pregnancy was not an option for them.
Inside this episode, you will learn:
- How they handled being told that Victoria should not carry children.
- The thoughts they had in deciding between Adoption, Foster to adopt and surrogacy.
- How the original thoughts changed as Victoria did extensive research.
- About them picking the right Surrogacy Agency for them.
- Being part of the pregnancy through text, Facetime and Zoom.
David and Victoria talked about meeting the gestational carrier in person the day before transfer day and I could feel the emotion in their voices. And gave several amazingly thoughtful things that she has done for them. David and Victoria's little girl is due in July of 2023.
"Throughout the process I realized that it's not going to become normalized and more mainstream in less people like myself talk about it." ~~ Victoria Schmoll
"The one thing that we have to keep reminding ourselves is, that there are a lot of things that we are missing and we look at some of the positives and one of those is that we knew that we were having a girl three weeks in when most people don't even know they’re pregnant." ~~ David Schmoll
Connect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa.livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
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Jenn Cobbel and her husband, a US Navy Seabees, struggled with secondary infertility. They had testing done which found nothing and three rounds of clomid. The military coverage of infertility treatment is very limited. After trying for 6 years, they decided to get rid of all the baby things, after saving them for 11 years.
Jenn had decided to start focusing on herself. She was ready to go in for breast reduction surgery when the surgeon informed her the surgery would be cancelled due to her being pregnant. SURPRISE!!
Secondary infertility plus military life topics:
· After six years we were at peace with not having more children
· We wanted our parents to have more grandchildren
· Behind closed doors there was anger
· Questioning WHY
· Military life made it more difficult.
“Let yourself have hard days, if not it is like dropping a Mentos in a bottle of diet coke when you release the anger.
Let yourself have the bad days.” ~~ Jenn CobbelConnect with Teresa:
EMAIL: teresa.livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
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Nick and Sabrina Kohlberg were told at their 20-week anatomy scan that their daughter Collins had anencephaly. This condition is not compatible with life. They were given a couple weeks to decide whether to terminate the pregnancy or continue with the expectation that she could pass at any time. They were told if she made it to delivery, she could live a few minutes or a few hours. Sabrina said, " I could not make the decision to terminate her life, so we put it in God's hands, and we hoped to get some time with our daughter alive.
Nick & Sabrina Shared about:
· The next 4 months of pregnancy
· Strangers asked if it was a boy or girl?
· Co-workers that would just sit and cry with Sabrina.
· The high-risk doctors support.
· The amazing 11 hours that Collins lived and the 2 days they were able to spend with her.
· Creating memories, mementos and ways to honor Collins life.
“Don't worry about making others uncomfortable when talking about your child. This is your life, and your child deserves to be talked about. Don't be scared to mention your baby.” ~~ Nick
“I learned that grief could look very different even with spouses. We both lost Collins and the path we went through was very different.” ~~ Sabrina
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Natalie Fallert was very aware that couples can struggle with infertility. Multiple women on her husband’s side had infertility problems. She wasn't sure if they should look into it right away after marriage or wait as planned. After a year they began the journey with testing first. They would find a problem … We would fix it … They would find something else … We would fix that. This seemed to go on and on. Eight plus years also included IUI'S, IVF and Intravenous Immunoglobulin Therapy.
Things Natalie shared during our conversation:
· Being Raised Catholic and Questioning Intervention.
· Minister said God will put roadblocks up to steer us in the right direction.
· Chemical Pregnancy was emotionally devastating, as well as the financial devastation that went along with it. (Listen for Natalie’s metaphor to describe this feeling.)
· Drawing the line in the sand …I will finish this round and I’m done sticking needles in my body.
· Do we want to be pregnant, or do we want to be parents?
Natalie felt shame for being so angry with God at times and he still gave her grace and twin boys. You don't have to give birth to be called mom or dad.
“If you're talking to somebody about this, then they love you. If you're willing to share this with them, then they are a person in your life that actually does care about you. So sometimes they might say something that is harsh, but it's coming from a place of love.” ~~ Natalie Fallert
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After having two healthy boys, Tammy’s third pregnancy ended in a loss at 12 weeks. This loss was followed by another pregnancy where she delivered her third healthy boy.
When Tammy became pregnant again she was sure this was her little girl. Being so sure she scheduled her ultrasound on Valentines Day. On that day she was told that her baby boy had Down Syndrome and had no heartbeat.
Tammy Shared
· Regret that she prayed for a girl and not a healthy baby
· How the loss affected her marriage
· How the Share Organization saved her
· Not sharing her story for 16 years
· Unsure if she grieved the “right” way and more
After sharing her story, she now has raised money for the Share Organization, put together gift bags for other mom’s and is certified through the Share Organization to support other moms that have experienced a loss.
Tammy’s words of encouragement and hope:
“Hold tight friends, I promise it will get better for you. I know it's hard, I know you're walking through this journey. But I promise it does get, not easier … I don't want to say easier… but it'll be okay. Just find your tribe.” – Tammy James
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Lindsay Gustin endured a lot of unworthiness during her journey to become a mom. She struggled with infertility for several years and received little to no support from doctors. The doctors seemed to blame all her infertility on her weight. She felt like because she was a bigger woman, she wasn't good enough to be a mom.
After several years of work to lower her BMI with no success … she began to do her own research.
· She found a PCOS diet online and took matters into her own hands.
· After giving up dairy for a week she had a period for the first time in 3-4 years. This was the beginning of hope coming back for her to become a mother.
· She became pregnant twice in 2018 … both pregnancies ended in an early miscarriage.
· It was discovered that she had a heart shaped uterus and the doctor believed that was the cause of the losses.
· Surgery was recommended and due to her BMI surgery would not be scheduled.
· In 2020 Lindsay became pregnant again and carried her daughter to full term.
· Lindsay did have another early loss in 2022.
· Lindsay talked about the importance of having someone to work through the grief, so it doesn’t affect your relationships.
Lindsay said, “I am grateful that I have one child and hopeful to have 2. Having one is a gift.”
What Lindsay would tell her younger self: “I am good enough to be a mother and that I deserve to be a mother. Just because I have a larger body doesn’t affect me being a good mom. Also, not to quit. I would try for a while and then quit, then try for a while and then quit. If I would have kept fighting, maybe things would have moved faster.”
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Self-Love can be hard to do when our body is not doing what it is meant to do and we are grieving a baby … grieving the dream of a family. Teresa shared some helpful tips for self-love and self-care.
· Rejuvenating our body with sleep is so important. Having a good bedtime routine: no blue light for 30-60 minutes before bed, hot bath, essential oils, herbal tea, journaling, meditation, listening to music, and prayer are all great ways to slow down and relax your body to prepare your body for sleep.
· Good body movement: exercise is so important for selfcare. Do not over exercise, choose body movement that is beneficial to your body like walking, dancing, swimming, or yoga.
· Fueling your body with good nutrition: Fruits, Vegetable, nuts, and proteins and avoiding sugar, alcohol, and caffeine
· Breathe Work on a daily basis: Breathe in for the count of 5, hold that breathe for the count of 5, then exhaling for the count of 5, and hold for the count of 5. Repeat 4-5 times.
Create a daily/weekly checklist to create good habits. Visually seeing the self-love, you have given yourself.
Suggestions for your list: Bedtime Routine, Hot Bath, Healthy Meal, Drinking Water, Reading, Journaling, Talking with a Friend, Words of Affirmation, Moving your Body, Deep Breathing.
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Katie Dewhurst is a certified functional medicine health coach and founder of the health and wellness company Hello Balance. She’s passionate about teaching women how they can optimize their health for fertility and pregnancy through food and lifestyle. She created the Hello Baby Prenatal Nutrition Course that teaches women exactly how to optimize their nutrition for pregnancy.
As you listen to this episode you will hear over and over again the amazing amount of information and resources that Katie has to help women and men that want to have a baby.
Topics of Conversation:
· Getting to the root of nutritional health
· Nutrition, exercise, sleep to support good egg quality.
· Ovulation is a sign of overall health.
· Nutrition impacts your baby’s development.
· Many Health Studies referenced.
· Katie’s Prenatal Nutrition Course
"I just want to say, for anyone that is struggling to get pregnant, to really be graceful and kind to yourself during this time. Know that there are things out of your control. If you were to take the course, I really help you focus on the parts that are in your control, so that you can help do the most you can to set yourself up for getting pregnant. Understanding the journey is different for everyone but nutrition can hopefully help optimize your chances and help you feel really well in your journey as well." -- Katie Dewhurst
Here is the link for the test Katie recommended - https://www.gdx.net/products/nutreval
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Gemma Smith from the UK shared about her infertility journey and the loss of her baby at 38 weeks pregnant. She shared the heartache of losing her daughter, Angel after struggling for over two years to become pregnant. Gemma shared that the baby died, due to the umbilical cord not attaching correctly to the placenta.
She shared very passionately about changing how pregnant women are dismissed when they go to the hospital with concerns.
Things that Gemma shared that are different in the UK.
· Women need to try to become pregnant for two years before they can seek infertility treatment.
· The mother, family and friends can come back to the hospital for several days to spend time with the baby. She described the bereavement area that they provide for them.
“It’s frustrating to me, that when you have a loss, you are treated differently …you shouldn’t have to have a loss to be given extra care.” –Gemma Smith
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Jenni Verhoven is a Regenerative Health Coach who specializes in getting to the root cause of health concerns. With her help women can experience improved digestion, have more energy without the use of stimulants, and live a more vibrant life than they ever thought was possible.
During this episode, Jenni shared great information to help women with overall health and infertility. Take time pre-pregnancy to get your body healthier, increase eggs quality for a healthier baby and pregnancy experience
Topics of conversation
· If periods are painful, not regular … your body is trying to communicate with you that there is a problem
· Clearing the elimination pathways of our body.
· Opening pathways …hydration … alkalizing the body …nutrient dense food
· How to use the 4 stages of your menstrual cycle to your advantage
Jenni referenced the film – Food Matters
Testing your own urine to see if your body is eliminating properly.
Connect with Jenni
FB - https://www.facebook.com/jenni.verhoven
IG- https://www.instagram.com/invites/contact/?i=1acdfw1y5w3vk&utm_content=2kuz3j5
Both are just JenniVerhoven
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Teresa shared about how important it is to advocate for yourself. Over and over women talk about being upset and angry with how they were treated or not treated by medical staff. Being dismissed is a huge problem. She talked about speaking up if your gut is not feeling comfortable with your care. If you have questions or don't understand, speak up. If your emotions are heightened or you are in pain, make sure you have a family member or friend that will advocate for you.
Communication with your partner or spouse while going through infertility or loss is most important. Emotions due to increased hormones and grief can really cause couples to be on edge. Have open conversations with each other to really have a better understanding of what your partner is feeling. Teresa talked about how high the separation and divorce rates are with couples that have had loss or infertility struggles. Definitely not an easy journey for anyone and you want to have a great relationship when you bring a baby into your family.
For those that are friends and family to those on this journey. Remember to ALWAYS take a "Pregnancy Pause" before asking any questions about pregnancy.
On almost every episode the guest of the podcast gives amazing encouragement and insight to help you to advocate for yourself. They are always available and willing, so reach out to them. They have a wealth of knowledge and many have traveled a similar path to become a mom of living children.
Reach out to Teresa with questions or to be connected with someone, this should be at the top of the list due to her knowledge, resources and connections she has across the country.
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Desirae Whittle is certified birth doula who specializes in pregnancy after infertility and loss; or as she calls it: Expecting after the Unexpected. She is the owner of Harmony Births Doula Services. A doula is a person who supports a mother (and partner) during pregnancy, childbirth, and in the postpartum period emotionally, physically, and informationally.
Desirae is enthusiastic about working within the infertility and loss community. Through her own experience and work with her clients, she has identified a unique set of needs and how they can best be supported. Desirae has appeared on podcasts, workshops and seminars as an expert on expecting after the unexpected. She is a fierce advocate for the infertility and loss community. She is passionate about maternal mental health and considers herself a parenthood advocate.
In this episode, valuable conversation about...
· Loss of identity, when now expecting
· Midwestern Nice … Toxic Positivity … Intention – Impact
· Things people say with “good intent”
· What you do for yourself, is for your baby
· Shifting the way we care for this community
“Where it becomes tricky is, if you are the person who identifies as the woman, you've got this like clock ticking ... getting older ... getting older and so we don't feel like we have the luxury to pause and mourn our grief or even acknowledge that we've had a loss.” - Desirae Whittle
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Instagram @harmonybirths
www.harmonybirths.com
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Shona Jagusch and her husband have a blended family, each having children from their previous marriages. Wanting to have a child to complete their family, Shona became pregnant fairly quickly. She started bleeding and was told she had a miscarriage. Shona said I never experienced a miscarriage and I didn't know what to expect ... it wasn't explained. A few weeks later after this "miscarriage" she started having tremendous pain. Listen to how, what she thought was a kidney stone ended with almost losing her life due to an ectopic pregnancy.
Shona had two more miscarriages and is questioning how much loss she can endure. She shared about wanting to seek out a fertility doctor and her doctor wants her to keep trying.
Topics of Conversation:
· Each miscarriage being processed differently
· Having Physical Situational Depression from the traumatic event with tragic loss
· How much loss can you endure and when is it enough?
· Normalizing loss, grief, mourning and guilt
· Parallel between ectopic pregnancy and kidney stones
"I feel as though it is time to see someone who specializes in this field ... I don't think that it's right that a doctor gets to tell you how much you can put your body through before you can take other measures". "If we have the financial means to move towards the infertility route, we should be allowed to do that" - Shona Jagusch
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Dr. Katie Wood is a mother, Pharmacist, ecommerce entrepreneur and Integrative Fertility Health Coach. She is the founder of Pharm to Wellness LLC and brand Happy Nourished Motherhood. Katie helps women over 30 to nourish their mind & body for optimal fertility health so they can confidently conceive with ease and experience a vibrant pregnancy. Katie has over 9 years of experience as a pharmacist and in alternative medicine. Katie is passionate about supporting and empowering women on their fertility and pregnancy transition into motherhood by taking a holistic approach focusing on nutrition, lifestyle, and energetic alignment.
In this episode, we discussed:
· Going down the Google rabbit hole when the doctor says you're healthy…keep trying.
· Alternative Therapy - acupuncture and Chinese medicine
· The unworthiness that comes with infertility
· How being born via C-section, not being breast fed or taking antibiotics as a child…can play a huge role in your health as an adult.
· Tracking your cycle with natural signals
“You hold the power for yourself … advocate for yourself. If something doesn’t feel right to you, try to separate yourself from the situation. You deserve to feel held, heard, and supported. I’m your biggest cheerleader…I’m here to support you.” – Katie Wood
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Instagram: @the_wellness_pharmacist
Free Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nourishingfertilityandharmonizinghormones
Podcast: https://anchor.fm/risingintomindfulmotherhood
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Melody Fisher wanted children for 12 years and is now expecting her first after going through IVF. She waited six months to get in to see a new doctor and was ready to start IVF right away, when they said it was a 3-month process. Melody thought I have already waited so long, why do I have to wait again?
Melody shared about her IVF process and putting in 2 embryos and having to freeze the other 4. She shared about the hard decisions to make about the frozen embryos and all the consent forms that needed to be signed for every scenario that could possibly happen. She said, I was told, and I live by this philosophy, to never make a permanent decision based on a temporary feeling. WOW there were a lot of feelings and emotions surfacing while these decisions were being made.
Three great coping skills that Melody shared that she used while going through her infertility journey.
· Deep Breathing: Step back and breathe no matter where you are.
· Journaling: Sometimes I just wrote to my mom who died when I was 20.
· Something to Honor myself and my mom: Putting attention into something other than the pain helped her physically and mentally.
Also, great suggestions and tips to navigate the emotional feelings, due to all the hormone changes
Melody’s encouragement and insight for you: I understand that the journey is long … I know it's hard … I know you are doubting yourself … being on the other side, it is worth it and you are worth it. Don’t lose faith and don’t give up on yourself. If you feel like it's affecting your day to day life, please talk to someone. You are not alone and you should not feel alone. There are so many that struggle with this. We shouldn’t be afraid to talk about something that is not our fault. It’s not something we are lacking. It doesn’t need to be a stigma and get swept under the rug because it's taboo. It is worth every shot, pill, and patch.
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The holidays are the most difficult time for those that our struggling with infertility and those that have had a baby loss. Christmas advertising and celebrating is everywhere, and it is hard to escape it. I gave some suggestions with reading bible verses, journaling and listen to music.
Do you have your plan A, B & C ready? If not, it’s time to think about your expectations for yourself and what are others’ expectations for you?
A couple Bible verses I mentioned: Psalm 34:18 "The Lord in near to the brokenhearted, and saves the crushed in spirit"
Psalm 46:1 "God is our refuge and strength"
A couple songs I mentioned that are helpful to me:
Gone to Soon, Daughtry https://youtu.be/YvpoYxwI08M
I will carry you, Selah https://youtu.be/61ncM07RU_U
Held, Natalie Grant https://youtu.be/0UTiei4ftMc
Blessings, Alvaro Glez Fotografo https://youtu.be/24BZA5sldXw
Additional songs: Angel By Your Side, Francesca Batistelli https://youtu.be/vvDBjNG_pws
To Where You Are, Josh Groban https://youtu.be/fIAQCiMIEEQ
Sending you Comfort and Peace
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Connie Houlihan is the mother of two children in Heaven, Hope Marie and Nicholas Jenkins. She shared on this episode many ways she honors her children as well as how she navigates her grief through the Holidays. She shared about lighting candles, purchasing ornaments, giving donations and more. Connie and I shared in-depth about navigating grief through a very difficult time of the year.
A few of the key points we talked about:
Surround yourself with others who have had a loss so you don't feel so alone
Set boundaries and be gentle with yourself. Selfcare is critical.
Empathy towards yourself and for others if you can.
Pay attention to what your body is telling you and how the grief is physically being expressed - honoring and listening to grief helps to process and allow it to dissipate.
Connie is the founder of Own Your Life, LLC, a St. Louis, MO based training and coaching enterprise where she develops, facilitates and implements effective programs utilizing Brain Fitness, Quantum Frequencies, Neuro Linguistic Programming and Brain Boosting Supplements. Her company’s charitable program supports scholarships in memory of her son’s legacy.
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Jeanna Smith is a faithful follower of Jesus, wife, mother, daughter, and friend who doesn’t have it all together and is learning to be confident in the chaos. Becoming pregnant in 2020 became a very traumatic experience for Jeanna. After beginning in and out of the hospital for 2 weeks of bleeding she had a miscarriage at 8 to 9 weeks pregnant. Jeanna talked about other health issues that surfaced from the traumatic miscarriage, which also triggered her past childhood trauma of sexual abuse. Jeanna continues to navigate the trauma in her life with a servant's heart and gratitude. She said doing things for other people makes her feel closest to God and the most joyful.
Jeanna shared how differently she is navigating through the holiday this year. She said in the past I didn't handle it well. She talked about selfcare, honoring her child and serving others who have helped her this year. Her servant heart has led her to have a woman from Nigari to live with them. She said watching her experiencing things for the first time in the U.S., is like a child experiencing things, which has brought her contentment.
Encouragement from Jeanna is to give yourself grace because you are not going to always get it right.
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During this episode I talked about scheduling time daily to grieve. While setting aside this time to feel your feelings and allow the emotions to flow can be very healing for you. Journaling during this time is important and if journaling is not your cup of tea, recording on your phone is a good way to document your thoughts and feelings. There are many things that can surface during this time and you will want to capture your thoughts.
I talked about taking care of yourself with nutrition and hydration and having coping skills in place when grief bursts happen when you are triggered. It is important to express your intentions and expectations for the holiday. To have a plan A & B for the holidays ahead of time and be flexible with the plan. If opting out is the plan it is OK. Find your compassionate and safe companion, whether family member or friend, to be there to support you through the holidays.
The holiday season is a time for healing if we plan well. If your plan involves being with family, friends or strangers, share your story because we know it is healing for you.
Wishing you Peace through the holiday season and all year long.
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Noelle Robinson is a Sound Therapist, and Health and Wellness Speaker. Sheshared with us her very traumatic miscarriage and that she felt she tucked away the grief and hurt from that experience so she could continue with everything else in her life.
Noelle talked about how all adults have experienced some sort of trauma in their life . And our nervous system and our brains have been overloaded and haven't had the capacity to deal with these traumas. Sound Therapy ultimately activates the parasympathetic nervous system to promote healing.
She also talked about how science continues to find the awful impact our current lifestyles are having on our bodies. Noelle encourages us to be aware of our auditory surroundings because of the huge impact it has on our nervous system.
Sound Therapy is Self-Care that STICKS WITH YOU. That means that not only will you feel more relaxed after a session, but you will continue to feel the benefits for days, even months to come. By taking this time to relax and rejuvenate, you will not only increase your ability to be present for the ones you love, but you will also increase your mindfulness, your energy, and your capacity to do the things you enjoy most!
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Improved sleep and focus
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Increased energy and clarity
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Decrease blood pressure
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Release stress and negative energy blocks
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Release tension and muscle aches
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More mindfulness and feeling more present in your life
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Relieve anxiety and worries
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References Noelle gave: Research, Sound Healing, Sound Therapy and Sound Bath for locations in your area. Search Solfeggio Frequencies & Spotify: Binaural Beats
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Becca Ingersoll is a wife to her college sweetheart and mother to her twin five-year-old boys. Before becoming a stay at home mom, she was a Jr. High English teacher and school librarian. Life has handed her plenty of trials—5 years of infertility, having micro-preemie twins at 23+6 gestation, special needs parenting, having one of her twins get diagnosed with leukemia, etc. Even with support through her journey, she still felt very isolated around her community.
Through it all though, she's noticed that focusing on the blossoms instead of the thorns in life—being grateful for her blessings—is crucial to surviving the storms. There are MANY ways people can experience trauma and then suffer from PTSD. Living through infertility is one way. Help is available, though! Having children doesn't cure infertility or the trauma and PTSD.
She started her blog, mercy-rose.com, to help other mothers going through difficult times. She eagerly awaits the day when she can see her own published books on the shelves of bookshops.
In this episode, Becca & I also shared some helpful tips to navigate the holidays for you.
Encouragement from Becca: Know you are not alone, 1-8 women struggle with infertility. If you feel alone seek to find your tribe, find those that understand and open up to them even if it is uncomfortable at first. It will truly help you and others when you share your story. Know it is for a time and season and your worth is NOT defined by the number of children you have.
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Becca's blog: mercy-rose.com Instagram: @blingersoll
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Nicole Robinson shared about her struggle with infertility and her early pregnancy loss. She talked about the physical pain being terrible and that the emotional pain she wouldn't wish on anybody. Nicole's husband took her to the ER and they confirmed her loss. They were told there was no product of conception and on the paper work it said a spontaneous abortion. Nicole said I felt like an abortion is a choice and this was not the choice I made. We wanted this baby and the medical language was very harsh.
Nicole said I closed the bottle on the loss and didn't really deal with it for a while. She said all I thought was I can have another baby and that is what will make it better. She talked about in a couple months I was back to charting and watching for ovulation signs and becoming upset and depressed with every negative test or menstrual cycle that started for over a year. Listen to how Nicole went on to be totally surprised with the news of her other pregnancies.
Nicole's words of encouragement for you: Work hard on not getting tunnel vision. Be aware of yourself and when you are getting to only caring about a positive pregnancy test. You can miss beautiful things that are happening in your life. I think for so long maybe because of being from a big family, I thought that my main purpose was to have a bunch of kids. God has different plans for everyone. They are unique and beautiful and wherever you are, you were born for this. There is a purpose for you whether children or not. There are so many things in life so don't let stress drag you down and you miss the beauty around you.
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EMAIL: teresa.livingaftergrief.com
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Instagram: @livingaftergrief
Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
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As a step-mother to three healthy and wonderful teens, Desirae never thought she’d have trouble conceiving with her husband. However, over the course of two plus years, she experienced what the frustrating diagnosis of unexplained infertility brings; the emotional rollercoaster of transformations in relationships, hormonal changes, failed IUIs, changing doctors, and devastating news that all of the embryos sent to PGS testing from round one of IVF were chromosomally abnormal.
During this time, Desirae found herself feeling hopeless and isolated. Along with her doctors, Desirae headed into her second round of IVF with more knowledge, new medications and a new-found bravery. Now two embryos were deemed ideal for transfer, and in January of 2017 she transferred the last remaining embryo. In September 2017 she gave birth to a healthy little girl via cesarean after a 6 day induction and a complicated pregnancy.
Essentially being told Ingrid was her miracle, and after spending nearly 12 years together, imagine Desirae and her husband’s surprise when they found out in the middle of the pandemic that she fell pregnant spontaneously.
Desirae's words of encouragement:
Wherever you are in your journey, you really should stop and remind yourself that you are doing it and you are doing great. I often hear people say I can't do it and the reality is, they are doing it. Sometimes it doesn't matter how we do it, it doesn't matter if someone might perceive it as ugly or graceful. Sometimes we need to just get it done. However you are doing it, is what is right for you. Remind yourself you are doing it and if you can give yourself one gift, it should be, it would be to give yourself grace.
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https://www.harmonybirths.com/
Instagram @harmonybirths
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Theresa McRee is a Life Coach working with women that have experienced profound grief. She works with her clients to find their way to joy and part of that is finding their purpose. She said overcoming grief is perhaps the first time they can ask themselves, what is my purpose and how can I use what I have learned from this loss experience to help other people.
A few of the questions that Theresa works through with her clients:
How do we understand suffering? Who am I? How can I move forward with so much loss and pain? What is my purpose?
Every grief journey is different. It is hard work and you have to work through it, it is a process.
As the holidays are quickly approaching we also talked about navigating, by doing what is best for yourselves. How to honor your child and yourself. Theresa also shared about the physical and mental effects of grief on the entire body. And walked us through a really simple breathing technique to help with the emotional and stressful times.
Connect with Theresa through her website: http://lovetocoachyouup.com/
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EMAIL: teresa.livingaftergrief.com
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Instagram: @livingaftergrief
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Meta Getman and her husband Michael went through their own infertility challenges and after eight rounds of fertility treatments, achieved their dream of a family through using donor eggs. She said it took a long time to be able to say "I'm a mom" because for a long time she didn't think it would happen.
She shared that they found out early in their journey that they would have trouble conceiving due to male factor. It wasn't long and then they found out they had both male and female infertility factor which brought with it even more struggles then they originally thought. She was very thankful that her husband started researching and googling when she had totally gone into a shut down mode. Meta did share great information on donor eggs and that she would do things differently now with what she knows.
Meta Getman is a donor conception coach who helps families who have found themselves facing a journey to parenthood they had never imagined: using donor eggs, donor sperm or donor embryo. She will be on an episode soon to talk more about how she helps her clients go from isolation, loneliness, and fear of what’s next to hope, confidence, and excitement for building their families.
Words of Encouragement from Meta: Where ever you are in the process to create a family, there is always an option. There is always something else. It may not be what you want it to be or what you thought it should be. It might not even be something you're willing to consider today but there is always an option and if you are feeling you're hitting that roadblock that you don't see any options and I don't know what my next step is, reach out and ask questions. Share your story with people who have been there and have knowledge and experience. They can point you in the right direction of the next thing to look at. And I would say it's one thousand percent actually recommended that if you are feeling tired, burnt out, or stuck, then pause. The only time line you have is your own. No one is forcing a timeline and sometimes you have to pause, you have to grieve, you have to be sad and feel the loss of what this process is. Which is a lot of disappointment in order to then be renewed to be able to move forward. It's ok to take a pause and to stop. No one is telling you you have to push forward. It might feel like time is running out, it might feel like you are getting old, it might feel like all those things and that is valid. Those feelings are valid and taking a little break can do wonders for clarity, understanding and restoring you to move forward to whatever that next thing is.
Connect with Meta:
Instagram: @metagetman
Website: https://metagetman.com/
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Dr. Sarah Meyer shared on this episode about the of emotions she had after her fifth pregnancy ended in an early pregnancy loss. They ranged from being angry at God, to being angry at her body for betraying her. She struggled with thinking, it would be emotionally easier to pretend that I never received a positive pregnancy test. She also struggled with severe depression, anxiety and ultimately spiraled down to the point of suicidal ideations.
Dr. Sarah shared about her supportive tribe that sat with her in the discomfort and was ready to talk about anything or nothing. She said I want to be like that friend and just sit in the discomfort and give what another person needs during their loss. Sarah gave several examples of when she felt her healing started.
Sarah launched Embrace. Live. Thrive. at the of the 2020 and is on mission to destigmatize mental health issues in motherhood and educate women on foundations of self -care. She has been working to build her podcast also titled “Embrace. Live. Thrive”, which can be found on all the major podcast apps. Sarah is active on Facebook and Instagram working to bring awareness and connection to a world that is hurting. She will be releasing her coaching programs later this month working to support women who are struggling with identity, healthy living, and so much more.
Encouragement from Dr. Sarah: She said, it is a deep seeded passion of mine to help women understand that depression, anxiety, be overwhelm, and anger, are all ok. You don't have to be ashamed about it and you don't have to feel guilty. It is OK to feel those emotions however it's not ok to sit and stay in those emotions. There are so many resources out there. There are so many options for healing that I want you to hear this. "That it is ok to not be ok, but let's not stay there." I will walk with you to help find the resources that you need to move forward whether it is medication, counseling, or another option for your healing that might fit you best. Let's help you find those. Let us help you move forward to where you can truly enjoy and experience life and not just survive.
Connect with Dr. Sarah Meyer:
www.embracelivethrive.com
https://www.facebook.com/embracelivethrive
https://www.instagram.com/embrace.live.thrive/
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EMAIL: teresa.livingaftergrief.com
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October is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month and in this episode I will share how you can be a part of breaking the silence around baby loss. You may think I am one person, what can I do? Listen in as I share things you can do at home, within your community, things that are part of a global awareness and on social media. You can be a huge part of spreading awareness and eliminate the stigma about not talking about pregnancy and infant loss.
Many families suffer in silence and long to know they are not walking this path alone. Spread awareness with me on social media and use hashtags #IHaveFootprintsOnMyHeart and #WaveOfLight. Light your candle at 7:00pm and keep it lit for at least one hour to create a continuous "wave of light" across all time zones covering the entire globe.
To find an event in your area I would first visit https://nationalshare.org/ to find a chapter in your area that is hosting an event.
If you don't find anything there, reach out to me.
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When I ask Crystal Webster about the mission of Sharing Solace she shared. Sharing Solace helps grievers grieve and lovers love their griever through technology-elevated, pass-along-able gifts wrapped in a meaningful community of love, strength, and support - so you can always 'Remember, You're not alone.' We know how debilitating and isolating grief can be and we want to support those grieving to find meaning and strength.
In 2015, after 5 years of grieving her daughter’s death, during an uncommon moment of enlightenment, she said the concept of Sharing Solace hit her like a bolt of lightning. Madelyn knew I was ready to begin to heal and help others do the same so she sent the idea down to me herself.
Crystal realized the gifts she received when Maddie was born - the gifts that once brought her so much comfort and solace - were now bringing her back to the pain of losing her. She couldn’t keep seeing them every day and have a healthy mind. She said that realization in and of itself provided its own source of grief and guilt. She said these gifts were not given to me to be put in a box in the back of a closet, but that’s where they sat. Crystal couldn’t give the gifts away because many were personalized. She also couldn’t just throw them away because of the sentimental attachment, this birthed the concept of the two-piece token system: A piece to keep your sentimental memories with you always and a piece to symbolically release that ‘heavy on your heart’ grief.
Sharing Solace officially launched May 19, 2018 - Madelyn Elizabeth’s 8th birthday. Crystal said the concept is to wear it and when you're ready, pay it forward to provide support to someone else who needs comfort.
Listen to Crystal's previous episode about losing Madelyn here: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/62zDEuhzntb
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https://www.facebook.com/SharingSolace
Instagram: @sharingsolace
https://sharingsolace.com
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Helping Women Become Loving Self-Advocates with Angie Monko
Angie Monko is the owner of Harmony Harbor Coaching since 2008 and a Holistic Women’s Divorce & Loss Coach. She guides women to heal from the trauma of divorce and loss so they can get their lives back, move forward stronger and happier into their next chapter. Angie created this safe space for women to become Loving Self-Advocates, where they begin to get their needs and desires met in a healthy way by learning to love, accept, and honor themselves right where they are. Under Angie’s guidance in her workshops, retreats, private coaching and online programs, women are becoming healthy and vital leaders for themselves, their family, friends, and all they influence. By healing their heart from the trauma of divorce and loss, replacing harmful beliefs about their worthiness and deservingness with beliefs that affirm “I AM ENOUGH,” they are able to receive support and take actions that align with their spirit and heartfelt values. Angie has certifications in Emotional Freedom Techniques, Hypnosis and The Healing Codes and is well-versed in Donna Eden energy medicine, all designed to reprogram their thinking and heal their heart at an energetic root cause level.
Angie shared some valuable information about trauma, where it is stored in the body and some techniques to heal the trauma. She said the 2 things that need to happen to heal trauma is, first we have to feel safe. If we don't feel safe the healing will not happen. Second we have to feel supported in body, mind and heart. When we feel that support then the start of processing the trauma begins. Angie shared her 15 minute self-care daily practice and a free resource.
Link for upcoming retreat on October 15th: https://harmonyharbor.com/heal-your-heart/
Link for FREE Resource: https://harmonyharbor.com/free-ebook/
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https://www.pinterest.com/harmonyharborcoaching
https://www.facebook.com/HarmonyHarborCoaching
https://www.linkedin.com/company/harmony-harbor-coaching
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EMAIL: teresa.livingaftergrief.com
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Crystal Webster is the (co)founder of Sharing Solace, author of ‘Confessions of a Griever’, creator of the ‘Feel Your &@#% Feels’ Experience, speaker, mentor, entrepreneur, and most importantly she is Madelyn Elizabeth Webster’s mama. Crystal and Kyle were given devastating news after a 32 week ultrasound that their baby was not going to live. They were given 3 choices:* Go across state lines and have a very late term termination, be induced then or continue the pregnancy as long as possible and hope she would be born alive.
During the next 19 days Crystal said the social worker was very helpful and the family "circled the wagons. When Madelyn died in Crystal’s arms just hours after she was born, she wanted to die too. Crystal shared that it took her years to learn to live again – mostly because she realized her Madelyn wouldn’t want her to live the rest of her life waiting to die. During that time they learned that Madelyn's condition was genetic and they did not want to pass it on to other children so they attempted to have another child through IVF and embryo testing with no success. She said we went through several lifetimes of emotions and several lifetimes of grief in those 4 or 5 years. We then needed to step back and unpack to see where we were because we hadn't done that after Madelyn's death.
Sharing Solace (SharingSolace.com) was founded from that love and hope: to help grievers grieve and lovers love their griever through technology-elevated, pass-along-able gifts wrapped in a meaningful community of support and strength - so you can always ‘Remember. You’re not alone.’ We will talk about her business on a future episode.
Words of encouragement from Crystal: Crystal said, one of the platitudes that I really dislike to hear is 'Everything happens for a reason. I like to flip this on its head and say everything happens and you chose to find the reason.
Connect with Crystal: https://www.facebook.com/SharingSolace
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Amanda McMullen is a teacher, artist, and singer living in Charlotte, North Carolina. Before getting pregnant with her sweet miracle IVF baby, she experienced 4 years of infertility due to stage 4 endometriosis. During this time, she started her art business and ministry, Asher Marie Co., to process her feelings and thoughts about infertility and help those going through a similar experience.
Amanda had no idea that she would not get pregnant, it is instilled in young women to not have sex because you will get pregnant. Over the course of months she became more confused and wondered what was wrong with me. She just believed her body would do what it was supposed to do and over the years that positive mindset and confidence slowly changed. After surgery for endometriosis she tried diet modifications, medicated cycles, 3 IUI's, acupuncture, with no positive pregnancy test. They did not want to do IVF due to the expense, the invasiveness and the possibility of too many fertilized embryos. We only wanted enough embryos that we could use so we would not have to make a decision with any leftovers.
We also talked about the grief she experienced. Her very supportive church community that embodied her through 4 years of infertility struggles. The books she read to help her through the struggle and a very lengthy conversation about extra embryos.
Book suggestions: Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy by Mark Vroegop and Walking with God through Pain and Suffering by Timothy Keller
Encouragement from Amanda: Whether you are going through miscarriage or infertility or any loss experience, you can sometimes feel different. Like I am not the same person and you are not either because you have added this new part of yourself to who you are and it is now part of who you are, it is not all of who you are. Remembering who you are and there is still that innocence, optimism and the hope that is still there. I believe as healing comes you will rise up and take the driver's seat again and when you are going through grief there is this new part of you that needs extra care and tenderness from yourself and from God. For me it's easy to receive care, love and comfort from God and I'm really hard on myself. I look at it like you're so weak or you're so... If you give yourself compassion to receive that comfort from God, then you will be yourself again.
Connect with Amanda on Social Media: @ashermarieco
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This episode really fired me up after I recorded it. Spreading awareness about infertility, baby loss and the deep grief associated with these losses is my passion. It fuels me daily to learn more about grief by reading, listening and attending events. Learning how those with grief process grief physically, emotionally, and spiritually. How does the brain process and change with grief? Guiding others to understand mourning, grief and grieving. Why is our culture and society not educated on something so natural that happens more often then we would like. You can find support here.
Raising Awareness.....Saves Lives.....Offer Resources
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Kathy Hoelscher is an elected official as a Highway Commissioner for a Township. She is a wife, and her greatest joy is being a mom or mama as her daughter calls her. Kathy's path to be a mom was lengthy and full of struggles. She shared about experiencing a couple medical conditions and a miscarriage. She remembers going to the doctor and telling him, I'm pretty happy at this point with just resigning to the fact that I probably wasn't going to be a mother. Her husband on the other hand said "let's try to do everything we can to be parents, then if we can't, then we can't, but let's try it all".
She agreed and infertility treatment began. She eventually became pregnant with their first IVF transfer. She shared that they transferred the best 5 embryos and she was instructed to talk to those babies. With lots of prayer and support along the way one stuck and they have a beautiful daughter named Faith.
The journey was long and she didn't realize the pain of the miscarriage until someone said something and she said I started crying and I couldn't stop. I have never cried like that before. The pain of that miscarriage was different than even the pain from losing her dad.
Kathy's words of Encouragement and Hope: You have to put faith in God and keep as much of a positive attitude as you can. If you are not comfortable with your doctor or the office staff, there are others out there. It costs a lot, so go to an office where you are not a number.
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Jackie Duty shared that it was not her ambition to be a mother. She wanted a career and the glory of fame, one of the rich and famous. When she unexpectedly found out she was pregnant she shared that she wanted to have an abortion and her mom insisted that she not kill her grandchild. Shortly after the news of an unwanted pregnancy she had a miscarriage and was then told she was carrying twins. The second baby was still alive and was told it would have Down Syndrome. She described being completely broken and had thoughts of suicide. Being a believer and having many people praying for her and the baby, he was born happy and healthy.
Jackie did have a second miscarriage that she never told anyone about for a long time. The grief from her losses she pushed down and buried for decades. The healing began when she was at church one Sunday and felt the minister was talking directly to her and she vividly remembers more healing at a trip to Disney. Jackie knows now that when you bury grief it will resurface and it is very difficult to live a full life until that buried grief is released.
Jackie's words of encouragement and hope: In those moments when I was at my lowest, there was something that showed up to bring me hope. And I think that when anyone is at that point of giving up, feeling that there is nothing else I can do, when you are tired, weary and feeling so broken, remember about the Japanese art called Kintsugi. (Jackie gave a great description of this in the episode) Those things that are broken should never be discarded.
You have value, you may have been through situations that have brought brokenness, that has brought pain and it doesn't mean you are less valuable. You are merely on your journey to step into your purpose and the bad things that are happening are just a part of that journey. They will help you as you continue to move forward, as well as giving hope and inspiration to others. Others may need to hear your story to bring them a moment of hope.
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Dr. Lindsey Langendorf is a chiropractor in the St. Louis area that specializes in Holistic fertility, prenatal, perinatal and postpartum care and pediatrics. Her journey to this specialty was definitely a crazy ride, and she has learned that God’s plan isn’t always a straight and easy path. However, she loves what she is doing and knows it’s what she was destined to do. In her practice she focuses on helping people grow their families and keeping them healthy.
Her program supports her patients in finding answers to avoid pregnancy or infant loss. She guides them at their pace to make some changes to improve their chances of getting pregnant and staying pregnant. She stated there is not a more motivated group of people than those trying to get pregnant. They are very open to gaining knowledge, understanding and information so they can become pregnant. The journey to a healthy pregnancy does involve both partners and she encourages them to become healthy and pregnant together.
She indicated that in her opinion it is a failure in our health system to not prepare women to have a healthy lifestyle that is manageable so they can have a better pregnancy, easier labor and delivery, and an easier recovery and postpartum.
Connect with Dr. Lindsey:
https://vitalperformance.life/
Instagram: Vitalperformance.hw Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/VPChiro/
Book a free consult: https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/booking/1ZqHWlYIt24va7aOWPxe
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Beth Frattura is founder of The Stork Foundation and it was founded due to her infertility journey. It is an organization that gives hope and opportunity to those suffering from infertility and fighting for their dream of parenthood. They provide financial assistance to low resource individuals who require costly medical infertility treatments that would otherwise be out of financial reach.
Infertility is not just a medical issue, but a fight for a dream. Even though it is recognized as a disease, there are only 13 states that have infertility insurance laws. 1 in 8 battle infertility and the wounds of infertility extend to hopeful and waiting grandparents, aunts, uncles. cousins and friends. The grants are not just treating a medical diagnosis, they are gifting the opportunity for all the experiences of over a lifetime of being a parent, grandparent, aunt or uncle and the positive ripple effect is amazing. Beth said with giving sizable grants it turns a no into a yes to having the chance to be a parent.
The Stork Foundation has given out 13 grants thus far and will be accepting more applications September 1st - November 31st. Grants are used for Surrogacy, Donor Eggs, Donor Sperm, IUI or IVF. Visit the website for the application and all grant eligibility requirements.
https://www.storkfoundation.org/
Donation and Corporate Sponsorships https://www.storkfoundation.org/donate.html
Grant Application and requirements: https://www.storkfoundation.org/grants.html
Hope Necklace: https://www.flipcause.com/secure/cause_pdetails/MTExOTM1
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/storkfoundationforinfertility Instagram: @storkfoundationforinfertility
email: stork@storkfoundation.org
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Theresa Lear Levine struggles as a successful mompreneur with trauma, ADHD and high functioning anxiety escalated into chaos, stuckness and self doubt and led her on a journey to regain inner peace, confidence and self love. She learned effective ways to get unstuck and release pain, self sabotage and unwanted feelings with processes that cultivated desired emotions and created a totally different outcome that previously seemed impossible to attain.
Theresa shared about Emotional Freedom Technique (also known as EFT Tapping), and how it is the most gentle and effective way to work through grief. She shared that there is tons of science and studies behind this modality. Theresa said tapping can release anything you can feel and it is effective with physical pain, emotional pain, past traumas like grief and future anxiety and worries about things that may or may not even happen.
Tapping is effective on past, present, future, physical, emotions, mental, and spiritual things. It's effective on all of those things which makes it a power house technique to understand and have in your tool box. This is definitely a great tool for those going through infertility and loss.
Email Theresa at theresa@theresalearlevine.com to receive the private session that we recorded after the show. Just put "Labor Pains" in the Subject line and she will send it to you asap!
Connect with Theresa Lear Levine:
www.theresalearlevine.com
www.theresasfreegift.com
@theresalearlevine IG,
FB Community Hub https://www.facebook.com/groups/bmmweft.communityhub
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On this episode I shared some of the things I have learned from my guest over the past 99 episodes. There have been so many things that were not expected when I started this podcast over 2 years ago. I am so honored and humbled to be able to allow so many to share their journey, to feel the healing from sharing their story to help others.
I answer questions from Family, Friends and Past Podcast Guests. Here are just a few of the questions that were asked.
What inspired you to begin your journey to helping parents in the way you do?
How do you, personally, deal with the emotions associated with people being so raw and vulnerable?
How do you balance the reality of pain & grief, while still maintaining hope and positivity?
What is the best thing about the podcast that you didn't expect?
What is mom's greatest need after loss and how can you best help and support them?
What is the most rewarding thing you have learned from the podcast?
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Lauren Turley said her, and her husband felt compelled to do something shortly after Catherine's life limiting diagnosis. She said when you are a bereaved parent you don't want anyone to forget your baby. We wanted people to know about her and for her life to mean something. Catherine Cares is where we channeled our grief.
Catherine Cares provides heartbeat bears, restaurant, fuel and grocery gift cards to families of babies who receive prenatal or newborn life-threatening diagnosis. We believe these small gestures centered on taking care of basic everyday needs help families in the midst of a difficult struggle. Catherine Cares provides services directly to hospitals, Maternal and Fetal Centers and doctor’s offices throughout the United States and Europe.
Heartbeat Bears, designed by Build-A-Bear Workshop and Catherine Cares, are provided to families of babies and children who receive a life-threatening diagnosis. Our bears come with a recording device within a pocket on the side of the bear. For babies, when a life threatening prenatal or newborn diagnosis is given, our hospital partners record the baby’s heartbeat on the device during an ultrasound. For older children, a sweet message, the sound of laughter or other comforting messages can be recorded to give the family hope and comfort through a difficult journey. Catherine Cares Heartbeat Bears are a cherished treasure for families.
Website: https://www.catherinecares.org/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/CatherineCares
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CatherineCares/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/catherinecares/
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In this episode Lauren Turley shares her story about her daughter Catherine who is in heaven. At times she became very emotional remembering the hardest parts of their journey which started at the 20 week anatomy ultrasound. At that appointment she remembered it took a long time and then the sonographer said "The doctor is going to come in and we are going to take care of you. The doctor shared with us a very long list of what was wrong. Lauren said I just cried and was trying to figure out how I was going to take care of my 18 month old daughter when my heart is breaking? How am I going to be a good mom when my life has just stopped?
We went from figuring out a nursery and clothes to planning a funeral. It was very important to us to start sharing our story to help others right away. Their story has touched my heart just like every story I have heard and several moments and things that Lauren shared brought tears to my eyes. As a grief coach, I love hearing when there is joy and happiness that is found in such a very difficult and heart breaking story. When those things can be found and shared, healing is there. Lauren shared many sad and hard moments in their story and also many beautiful and joyful times. So I encourage you to be open to feeling the sadness and joy while listening to her share to support others.
Lauren's insight and encouragement: The biggest thing for caregivers or support people and the family to know is. It is OK and important to feel your feelings. There is no right or wrong way and you need to do what is best for you. Lauren said what works for me may not work for others and that is OK. There is no outline for how this works and that is probably what makes it so hard.
· Feel your feelings
· Give yourself permission to protect yourself and your family
· Do what is best for you and do not feel bad about that
· This is your time to take care of yourself and your family
· This is the beginning of a tough journey
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Anita Doermann said it was like a stab to the heart when people asked if I had children. She shared about never having any biological children and suffering in silence while others shared about their pregnancies, deliveries and raising their children. For a long time she felt emptiness and disappointment in herself.
She said due to her infertility and other life experiences she did a lot of self discovery which has helped her to be a better listener and to share her experiences. It has given her strength and hope to not chastise others or make them feel belittled because we have all gone through good things and bad things. Hopefully what I and others have gone through, will strengthen us in whatever the next thing is in our lives.
Anita talked about the joy of becoming a mom at age 41 when she married her 2nd husband who had twin boys. It will bring tears to your eyes to hear her talk about her infant grandson which for many years she thought she would never have.
Anita's encouragement for you: I have not pursued this but I believe it could help to volunteer in a hospital or church to rock babies to fill that emptiness and close that gap a little. The pain can be great and I recognize that and respect it because I have been through it. There maybe a bigger plan and you may cross paths with someone that needs your help, love and support. Looking back most often gives us more clarity and the struggle is real when you are in it.
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I am so very excited to have achieved the milestone of 2 years. Being the host of Labor Pains Podcast has been both a humbling and educational experience this past year. As I reflect back, WOW I have met so many amazingly strong women and men over this past year that I will be in awe of for the rest of my life. As I talked about in this episode I have learned so much from all of my guest and those that have reached out for support this past year.
As I look forward to year 3, I will continue to have my guest share their stories due to the benefits it has proven to give to the guest and the listeners. There will be more episodes with guest experts to guide and help you the listeners and my clients in the many aspects of infertility and loss. Also, I will continue to share guidance and support to navigate the grief that is experienced with every infertility and loss journey.
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This episode is a re-release of episode 53. In this episode Allison Hursey shared the journey that she and her husband Chris have been navigating through to find peace with their unexplained infertility. She said I was beating myself up and had a really hard time dealing with the frustration and anger. Thankfully my husband loved me through it. They definitely had a large amount of stress that they thought could be the problem, so Allison said she has been working hard to find peace in her life.
If you are still on your journey, I know you will find great value in listening to Allison's entire journey. She shared an amazing amount of insight and knowledge on how she has become OK with her story. A few things we talked about were people saying hurtful things, grieving never being a parent or grandparent, and family and friends grieving. Allison said she has put in the work to be OK but family and friends are still grieving and when others are grieving for you it is hard and you feel guilty for being OK. I am not thrilled with my situation, but I am content, which has come with time, prayer and putting in the work.
Here are a few of the words of encouragement and insight that Allison shared: Pray your heart out. First it was Lord let this work and then it changed to Lord let me be content and give me peace. Praying for peace encompasses if it works and if it doesn't work. Your story can have a happy ending, but it may not be what you had envisioned. Remain hopeful and trust the plan. Be intentional about living out a peaceful life. We can pray about it but we need to put in the work like reading, listening to podcasts and journaling, seek out and fill yourself with positivity, hopefulness and peace.
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Chandria Taylor's therapist encouraged her to start journaling after she lost her daughter, Adelyn Rose. She loved to write and said I didn't know I had so much to say until I put a pen to paper. There was more of me than I thought. She turned her journaling into her first book, Like a Rose: The Thorns. Every Chapter in this book also includes the story of an angel mom that had connected with her in a safe space to share their stories. She has continued to write and has published 4 additional books and a 6th book to be published later this year.
In addition to writing her books to spread awareness and honor her daughter, Chandria has created and maintains social media platforms to help mentor others. She also started a non-profit in 2019, to be for others, what someone did for her and to offer the things that she needed when she lost her daughter. She offers items for comfort to other women through local hospitals and holds a Women's conference annually for all women.
Chandria received an award this year from the PAIL organization for the Most Inspirational Angel Mom. Well deserved!
Chandria's words of encouragement for you: I encourage you to do what works best for you to honor your child. There is nothing too little or too big in honoring your child. Don't let anyone make you feel like you are not doing enough. What you're doing is enough. Also there is no comparison and if you want to do more partner or volunteer with an organization
Chandria's Books: Like A Rose, The Thorns, I Have A Little Sister, When Our Feelings Are In Pieces, The ABC's To Loving Me, The ABC's To Black Boy Joy
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Charie Motley is a mother, licensed clinical psychologist, and certified perinatal mental health professional who has experienced pregnancy loss, and challenges during pregnancies. She went in for a routine ultrasound to find there was a problem. They determined later she had a missed miscarriage and her body never miscarried the baby. She remembers people trying to be supportive by saying, at least...., or at least.... They were well meaning and it made me feel worse.
This was the darkest moment in my life. She said I kept thinking about others that were alone like myself, that are feeling they could have caused it and having a lot of guilt. At that moment I knew I wanted to help others going through pregnancy loss. She started to journal so that she would not be holding it all in and reached out to a professional to help her work through the grief. Charie said I have expertise in treating perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, but most importantly, I can connect to women and families on a more human, “I get it” kind of level, which makes all the difference.
Charie's insight and words of encouragement for you: Always, Always, Always listen to your heart and your gut. Follow your intuition , it will never lead you down the wrong path. I want women and families to have hope and I was not expecting to have a baby after my loss and I did a lot of work to be where I am today. The path of healing is really one minute at a time, one hour as a time, one day at a time. Give yourself grace and advocate for yourself and never suffer in silence because you do not have to. As mentioned in the episode, May is Maternal Mental Health Month.
Connect with Charie at https://blusrainbow.com/ email: info@blusrainbow.com
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Cheryl Layton lost her son 31 years ago just days after his birth. She talks about all the What If's? Should I have done more? Did I do something wrong? Like many parents Cheryl said when I look back I blamed myself and I felt like everyone blamed me. Cheryl said for many years she was very scared and paranoid that something else would happen to her daughters or her grandchildren.
She continues to ask, how do I get past it? Am I supposed to let go of it and am I supposed to be happy. How do I get over this? She fears she is the only one that remembers him and the only one that keeps his memory alive.
Traumatic grief is experienced when you loss a child and it is important to find the right person to help you navigate through the grief so you are not stuck in the grief and are able to heal. As a grief coach I am available to help you grieve in a healthy way.
Cheryl's Encouragement and Insight for you: Stay close to God. Wait for God to answer your prayers. Let go of what other people think and focus on yourself and do what is best for you. Honor your child as you want to and don't worry about others. It's ok to cry and its ok to not be ok.
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Traumatic Bereavement is suffered with infertility, pregnancy, infant loss and child loss. Parents are not supposed to bury their children. One of the most difficult things about being a mother of a baby in heaven is that others either don't remember or they do not allow mothers to talk about the baby they still love so deeply. Women mother their babies in their womb and love them so deeply in their heart. The mothering of a child continues in the mourning of that child.
Traumatic grief unleashed every hidden emotion, ailment, and hormonal issue that a woman has had in her life. All things, emotions, events and experiences are stored in your body and mind, grief will resurface them. These are all things that will need to be navigated through. There is a tremendous amount of work that will need to be done to grieve in a healthy way.
Grieving moms are longing for validation, meaning and significance as a mother. In addition to hoping and praying that people in their lives will show them sensitivity and honor.
As a grief coach I'm here to walk with you in navigating your grief.
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Chandria Taylor is a teacher, an author, singer and dancer. She is the mother of four beautiful girls named Rylen, Jacelyn, Adelyn and Eden. Her daughter Adelyn Rose was born sleeping on November 1, 2018. Chandria now is the founder of Like A Rose, a nonprofit in Illinois that raises awareness and provides support and services to families who have experienced child loss.
Chandria shared her story and journey of the loss of her daughter Adelyn and how it has affected her and her other daughters as well. She shared a tremendous amount of insight on the time spent with her daughter after she was born. She shared that I had delivered my 2 older daughters and I just didn't know what it would feel like to deliver her and not hear her cry. She would have taken more time with her if she would have known she could.
I loved her insight on what to say instead of saying nothing. And never make yourself uncomfortable for the sake of someone else's comfortability. She also gave great tips on journaling which was so important in her healing. Chandria will be back on another episode in the future to share about her nonprofit, her books and the many other things she does to honor and remember Adelyn.
Chandria's encouraging words and insight for you the listener: You can only do your part, so whatever you do as your part, do the best part you can and don't worry about what others are saying or doing. Take care of yourself. As mothers we want to take care of everyone around us and we forget that we have value and that we matter, and you will not be good for anyone around you if you don't work on you. You matter and your voice has value, your story matters and don't ever forget that. Do the best with your part.
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As we approach Mother's Day Candace Kluba and Ann-Maire Ferry joined me to share some great insight to help you navigate the upcoming holiday.
Ways to celebrate and honor you as a Mother. Take time to turn inward and find what is best for you, find love and acceptance for yourself. Don't feel like you need to attend church services or brunch. Others will be there, celebrating with their children and that could be very hard. It's ok not to censor or filter on Mother's Day. You are a mother.
Practical Tips for Mother's Day:
Plant a flower or tree, grow a butterfly to release, spend time in nature, go hiking or spend time at gravesite thinking and feeling. Spending time in nature is healing.
Take time to feel the emotions and name while journaling, or write a letter to your baby that has made you a mother.
Make space to be angry and cry if that is what you need. Crying is healing.
Create new rituals for Mother's Day.
Invite a friend to be with you or reach out to other mom's that are hurting.
Your worth as a woman is not dependent on having children, it's not your only purpose
Give yourself the grace to enjoy your day and know that emotions can co-exist. Example Joy and Sadness
I am thankful to Candace and Ann-Marie for sharing some many helpful tips for you. Listen to Candance's journey to motherhood on Episode 19 and Ann-Marie's on Episode 21
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Tony Mazzaferro is a soon to be OB/GYN and part of the leadership of a non-profit called The Stork Foundation. With all of his education in medicine he never crossed his mind that he and his wife would have trouble conceiving.
They did all the things to become pregnant on their own with no luck. Then a couple different medications which was 3 months each with no luck. Lab work resulted in no answers. He talked about friends and family members announcing their pregnancy during this time and how easily they became pregnant which was not easy to hear. Of course they wondered if they would ever conceive. Next step for them was IVF which resulted in an unsuccessful transfer. After 3-4 years of struggling, they had a positive pregnancy test and now have a baby boy.
We talked about his wife's needle phobia during IVF. Tony shared about not reaching out for support and only getting support from his wife during their long journey. We talked about how I believe that is pretty normal for the male to keep things to themselves. And a good conversation about what to say and not say to couples that do not have children. Tony also shared about The Stork Foundation and how he became involved with this amazing organization that helps those struggling with infertility.
Tony's words of advice and encouragement for you: For those on the infertility journey, at times when things aren't working, hang on to hope and find support. Lean on your faith, friends, and family. There is always hope and people want what is best for you and really want to support you.
The Stork Foundation: https://www.storkfoundation.org/
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Roxy Jenkins is one of the strongest women I have met on the infertility journey. Due to her journey that has been over 10 years, she has a wealth of knowledge that she is so willing to share to help others. The number of treatments, cycles, diagnosis, tests and surgeries is mind-blowing to me and I'm sure it will be to you as well. Most recently she had an ectopic pregnancy which resulted in the loss of another baby and the loss of a tube. After that she went through 4 uterine tests which resulted in a couple answers. She is now tubeless at 34 years old and said, there goes any chance of a surprise pregnancy ever happening.
Things Roxy shared:
How and why, she continues to push through so much to have another child.
How the infertility journey has changed her relationship with your husband.
Who she leans on for support.
How she keeps her 6-year-old daughter involved with all the treatments.
Roxy's words of advice and encouragement: The main 2 things. 1st: Would be to find someone to talk to and not just your significant other. They are not going to understand the mental game. They may not want to fully open up at the beginning about everything. You must find someone who has walked your path, whether a friend or an acquaintance online. The stranger on Instagram knows a lot more about me than my good friend because they have walked the path. infertility is either sink or swim. You need to let things out or you will sink. 2nd: Find something that makes you happy. In going through all this I found painting really makes me happy. Painting for other people. People that have had success, have had miscarriages and who have earth side babies. I love hearing their stories because it makes me feel less alone. When you share your story, others will open up and share theirs. That is the only way to swim.
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Morgan Newby shared seeing a negative pregnancy test for many months until one night she dreamt she was pregnant. She remembers seeing the positive pregnancy test the next morning for the very first time. The following day she and her husband spent the entire day talking about where to put the nursery, baby names and everything baby all day. Morgan went to bed and woke up to horrible pain which meant a trip to the ER. The tremendous pain was the result of an ectopic pregnancy and her left fallopian tube rupturing.
Morgan talked about all the emotions and feelings she felt in such a short period of time. The joy of being pregnant to being scared for my life and my baby’s life. She shared about the painful heartache and about all the things that came from the experience. Morgan said I have more empathy for others, more strength, learned to live with grief, giving myself grace, and a tremendous bonding with my mom while we both shared our emotions and feelings of loss.
Morgan's words of advice and encouragement for you: Learning about the grief stages is important. Knowing what the stages are and letting yourself feel those stages. I know they are hard and feeling your feelings is hard especially when you want to move on. Letting yourself feel all your feelings even though you're uncomfortable with them. You still need to embrace them, the good ones, the bad ones and the in between ones. Just feeling them is going to help you and it will help you feel better. You will never feel happy 100% of the time. I'm not happy all the time and I don't know anyone that is happy all the time. Everyone has grief and give yourself grace.
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Nick and Sabrina Kohlberg were told at their 20-week anatomy scan that their daughter Collins had anencephaly. This condition is not compatible with life. They were given a couple weeks to decide whether to terminate the pregnancy or continue with the expectation that she could pass at any time. They were told if she made it to delivery, she could live a few minutes or a few hours. Sabrina said, " I could not make the decision to terminate her life, so we put it in God's hands, and we hoped to get some time with our daughter alive.
During the episode they shared about the next 4 months of pregnancy. Times when complete strangers asked if it was a boy or girl? Co-workers that would just sit and cry with Sabrina. The support from the high-risk doctor that Sabrina said was amazing as well as all the people he connected them too. The guidance and support for them through the rest of the pregnancy, delivery and funeral services was so helpful. Nick and Sabrina talked about the amazing 11 hours that Collins lived and the 2 days they were able to spend with her. They shared about creating memories, mementos and ways they are honoring Collins life.
Advice and Encouragement from Nick and Sabrina: Nick: First, talk about the child you lost. Don't worry about making others uncomfortable when talking about your child. This is your life, and your child deserves to be talked about. Don't be scared to mention your baby. Second, yes it sucks. Just hold on, it might take a year, it might take 6 months or multiple years. There can be good that comes out of a bad situation. Honor your baby, which is good and keep hope alive. The loss community is not one that we would choose to be part of but it is a community that takes care of each other.
Sabrina: Facebook support groups can be amazing, search for a group specific to your situation. I will caution you though that it can be overwhelming, and you may need to step back. I learned that grief could look very different even with spouses. We both lost Collins and the path we went through was very different. For women the trauma is different for you because your body is going through a lot of change.
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Shannon Curry with ConceiveAbilities shared with me the processes and procedures for those very special women that are considering becoming a surrogate. This was a very informative episode for those women that are natural givers and want to give back in a big way. Shannon shared that she needed to use a surrogate for her second child due to a health issue. This is what brought her to begin working at ConceiveAbilities. Listen to her entire story on episode 83.
I had so many questions for Shannon since surrogacy is so near and dear to my heart. Listed are just a few questions I asked about becoming a surrogate and we also talked about some myths.
What are some scenarios in which a family would work with a surrogate?
What are some of the common misconceptions about surrogacy?
What are some of the qualifiers to be a surrogate?
What is the process to be a surrogate?
ConceiveAbilities is a privately woman-owned company that was founded 25 years ago for egg donation and has expanded into surrogacy. When you listen to this episode, I'm sure you will agree with me that they have put together very thorough processes and procedures to support both the surrogate and the intended family. At present time they have 180 families looking for surrogates.
Shannon's advice for you: Learn about the process. First step is to see if you qualify by taking the 5-minute survey. If you are a mom or know a mom that loves being pregnant and is a natural giver and wants to give back in a big way, take the first step. There is a huge need, so I encourage you to take the first step and remember I am a resource for you whether you want to give a gift to a family or you are the family that needs help with becoming parents.
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Shannon Curry shares with us her journey to grow her family after being diagnosed with a rare eye condition during her first pregnancy. She remembers feeling very scared for her own health while feeling she should be thinking about the health of her unborn son. She was told by 3 doctors she would lose the vision in her eye by the time the baby was born. She was so thankful she found a 4th doctor that would monitor her closely through her pregnancy. She gave birth via C-section to a healthy baby boy and immediately started on medication for her eyes.
Shannon and her husband decided they wanted to have another child and she was willing to risk becoming blind to have a second child. Her husband was not in agreement. He said I do not want a blind wife with 2 babies, so they began looking at other options. After doing a lot of research, networking and talking with a high school friend who had used a surrogate. They met with their surrogate and decided that was the right choice for them. Shannon shares the steps they went through to pick a surrogate and the pregnancy. What a beautiful story and a beautiful gift to be given. Shannon shared the moment her son was put in her arms. We both became teary eyed as she shared that moment with me.
Shannon's words of advice and encouragement for you: Do the research, read about each option, and learn about the process. Trust your gut and you know what is best for you and your family. Find your people, find your community support, and take them along for the ride. People really want to help, and I think as women we don't want to put tuff stuff on friends and family. we don't want to burden them. People are open to help if you give them the opportunity.
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Grief Coach Teresa shared on this episode receiving devastating news, why she continues to listen, comfort and now coach those that are receiving this news. In addition, she talks about a few of the questions she is asked most frequently from podcast guests and clients.
Teresa continues this podcast to first and foremost to help, love and care for those around her. This was modeled to her by very giving parents, and to continue to bring meaning to her losses of both her miscarriages and her daughters' miscarriages. And to now share her expertise with her podcast guest and her clients.
Questions asked: How do I know if I'm grieving the right way?
How do I know that I'm going through every stage of grief in the right way or order?
I don't think I'm grieving properly because my friend, coworker and family member is no longer grieving.......
Teresa gave some great information in this episode to answer these questions.
4 key things to take time to focus on for healing during your grief journey.
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Honor Your Baby or Honor your journey
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Journal
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Find Support
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Take Time
Journal Prompts to think about and use.
What kindness have you felt or received during your journey?
What songs, quotes, bible verses have been comforting to you on your journey?
Book Reference: A Grief Observed by C.S. Lewis
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Amanda Tooley is very passionate about sharing her own story of PCOS that she describes as hell. During her teen pregnancy she went to the hospital for bleeding and pain. She was told she had an involuntary abortion which was very upsetting to her. She said I did not have an abortion. This is when her PCOS was diagnosed.
Amanda shared about her 7 years of nonstop biopsies due to precancerous cells. Being given hormones and every type of birth control to attempt to control her excessive bleeding and painful periods. Amanda said hormone imbalance makes a female feel nuts. She said you can see yourself being crazy and you can't stop it. At one point she bled for 10 months because everything the doctor tried did not work. It finally stopped when a good friend took her to the hospital, and they found the right doctor to help. When the bleeding stopped, she was told her uterus was like a spider web due to all the bleeding.
Amanda at that point took her health into her own control. She began to educate herself on the principles of Cherokee medicine and was able to heal her body with herbal teas. NOTE: Amanda is sharing her story and not giving you medical advice. She stated: do your research, be very aware that herbal teas can cause miscarriage. Educate yourself and be aware of the things you are putting into your body. Listen to the entire podcast to hear about the children Amanda was able to have.
Amanda's words of advice and encouragement: Get the book and look up principles of Cherokee medicine that will give you a base. You are not alone; this is far too common and far too big of a problem. We as women in general have been given the fuzzy end of the lollipop. There is help out there and if you are not comfortable with what your doctor is doing, speak up for yourself. Tell them you're not comfortable, tell them if you do not understand and ask questions. We have to educate ourselves on our own health as women. Be open to talking with your doctor even if what you're talking about is gross to you. It's not to them.
Book Amanda referenced: The Desktop Guide to Herbal Medicine: The Ultimate Multidisciplinary Reference to the Amazing Realm of Healing Plants in a Quick-Study, One-Stop Guide
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1591203759/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_i_JYEX8KTP78QMQAHZ3NSA
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Rebecca Rudolph knew she would have infertility struggles even before she was married due to irregular periods and a PCOS diagnosis. With also having type 1 diabetes, when her and her husband decided to have children a treatment plan was put together with her doctor. She said infertility shows no mercy and it doesn't move by your timeline or plan. They did several rounds of IUI that didn't work. Rebecca said I felt like my body failed me, the treatment plan we had didn't work.
The next treatment plan was IVF and with the first transfer she became pregnant with a baby girl. When deciding to try to have another baby things did not go as smoothly. Rebecca talked about the failed cycles, insurance change and Covid shut down made for a long delay. They did after all those challenges became pregnant again with a baby boy. They still have frozen embryos at this time and have a year to decide what they will do with them.
Listen to our conversation about where Rebecca found support and healing during their journey.
Rebecca's words of advice for you: Find your support network. Find a group or person you can talk to. She said for her it was the group on Facebook that was instrumental. I could just vent about things that I knew they would understand because they were going through the exact same thing. Whether it's a person going through this or a group on Facebook, find someone that understands what you are going through.
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(Part 2 of 2) Lisa Colon shared in last week's episode her high risk first pregnancy and the loss of her daughter Gracie at 5 1/2 months. In this episode she talks more in-depth about how she handled the grief of losing her daughter. One thing she did right away was quit her job. She said I didn't want coworkers to ask me questions about Gracie. She started a new job within weeks and headed out of town for training. She never had time to process the grief due to a new job and family situations. She said I wasn't even conscious that I wasn't grieving, and I just know I need to move on to the next thing, so my grief was different. She just kept moving on to the next thing and caring for her growing family.
We also talked about Lisa becoming pregnant again after her loss. She shared about freaking out because she was told to see a specialist before becoming pregnant again. Lisa shared about the anxiety and stress she experienced during her pregnancy after the loss. She said her grief was delayed and she remembers when her boys were young that she began to think about Gracie more frequently. She thought about how the family dynamics would have been much different.
I loved that Lisa shared that she didn't know the problem that caused the loss of Gracie at the time, so she doesn't feel guilty that Gracie isn't here. She said, I didn't do anything wrong because I just didn't know, and this is great advice for all mom's that have experienced a loss.
The movie that Lisa referenced was, Heaven is for Real
Lisa's advice and encouragement: Don't ever think that you should not do things to honor your child if people don't understand the things. It's for you to honor them most importantly. There is no right or wrong way to honor them and you should be proud of whatever that is and know that everyone is not going to understand. When you make decisions to honor your baby in different ways it does allow your family and friends to come right alongside you and support you in a way that they love to do as well. Many times, they will want to honor your baby because they are still part of your family. Lisa said I want to help people to remember Gracie too. She shared that grief is a lifelong journey and you can have joy and pain walking parallel to each other through that journey.
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This is part 1 of a 2-part interview with Lisa Colon. Lisa shared about her first pregnancy which was very unique in the fact that she had a 2-vessel cord which I have researched and found is very rare, it happens in 1 to 1.5 % of pregnancy. She was told there should be no complications with the 2 vessel cords. Her son was delivered by an urgent C-section, he was a very small healthy baby.
With her second pregnancy she went to the doctor for a routine visit and was told, there is no heartbeat. At 5 1/2 months pregnant and being told your baby has no heartbeat she was in a state of shock. She remembered not crying and asked what happens next. She said I remember my husband being very kind. I thought he would be mad at me. I thought he would think I did something wrong. We named her Grace Paula and I remember looking up the meaning of her name while waiting for my husband to get to the doctor’s office. Grace means Favor of God which was God's little nugget for me to help me through delivery and the days following. Lisa shared about the memories that were created at the hospital and about things she wishes they would have taken more time to do. She talked about how she often thinks about how their life would have been so different with a little girl. They have created many ways to honor Gracie and they have a special "Gracie" blanket that has been in pictures and travels with them.
In part 2 Lisa talks about quitting her job because she just couldn't go back, starting a new job and having a third child. Grief was delayed.
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Grief Coach Teresa Reiniger shared about how and why clients struggle with grief. Everyone's grief is different, and I want to give people a better understanding of grief so we can truly love people through their darkest days of grief.
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You feel grief because you have loved
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There is no time limit on your grief. It will be with you for the rest of your life
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Others want to help and fix you
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Grow your grief BIGGER so your love can be bigger
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You are not alone, and you are not crazy
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As a grief coach I am here to walk with you, so you are heard and seen. I am here for you when the grief is raw, and I am here to help you navigate through the grief. I am here to guide you to see living your life as a strong, caring woman even before you can see her.
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This is previously released episode #19.
In this episode Candace talked about the grief and trauma she and her husband endured during their two losses and then secondary infertility. With the first early loss they just tried to move on, which didn't help with their healing. She questioned why after the second loss?
Candace talked about the grief and trauma that pulled her and her husband apart. She just wanted a baby and that was the focus. They grieved very differently, and she said the person I had become was not who I wanted to be. I hated my body because it did not do what I wanted it to do which led to not loving myself. Two years after the birth of their son they started to heal their relationship which included healing from the grief that they both had from the losses and infertility.
Advice and Encouragement from Candace:
Remember the love that started your journey, and it will take you back to your partner. Remember to hang on to the things you love about yourself and your life. Stay connected to love because we get so deep into grief, we have a hard time coming out of the dark. Love will heal you, so stay in love with yourself, your partner and keep love in your heart because it will get you through the worst days of grief.
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Dawn Amsden Stark is an inspirational author, public speaker, and passionate advocate. Dawn’s 23-year infertility journey which included seven IVFs, two high-risk pregnancies (including a set of twins), and two international adoptions fundamentally transformed her life and faith. She volunteers at her church and in her community to support women walking through infertility or parenting after infertility.
Dawn described herself and her husband as Naïve, Blind, Recruits in the Infertility Journey. She said we didn't have a clue and got stuck at the gynecologist. We lost years and went through so much pain and surgeries that were a total waste of time and money. Through all that time I felt like days of being a mom were slipping away. Even though Dawn was embarrassed to talk about their condition, people were starting to putting the pieces together. A family member gave them a book written by Dr. Sherman Silber that totally changed their journey. It led them to the RIGHT doctor, which they learned was a reproductive endocrinologist. They finally felt a tremendous amount of hope.
Dawn's Advice and Encouragement: Be careful to not get confused that delay is not necessarily denial. I think that often in the delayed nature of infertility we struggle with denial, and we live in this great fear of this threat to our dreams that may not mean that you won't have children. It may not come the way you want it or the time you want. It may not be a child from your womb, but I do believe that there is a way for most people to parent children and just be careful, because a denial mindset leads you to a very negative and hopeless place. Hope is what we need to live. Hope is like oxygen for our lungs. I think if we don't have hope we can't move forward and infertility is a very barren place to our arms, our womb and also to our soul. It is very important to keep hope alive and not go to the end result that you don't know of and let your journey go where it's going to go. Don't assume it's going to be empty because it might not be.
Dawn’s first book, Called to War: How Life’s Battles Transform Us for God’s Purposes, is available now wherever books are sold.
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Jill said that she knew intuitively from a very young age that she would have to adopt or would have trouble having her own children and she was correct. She shared that at age 29 is when she and her husband began to focus on having a family. It was discovered that they had both female and male infertility issues so IUI was the best option to start with. Her fertility doctor would only do 5 rounds of IUI before switching to IVF. Nothing happened the first 3 rounds but on round 4 she had a chemical pregnancy which was devastating to her. She said I felt like I was pregnant
She said we were lucky that on round 5 I became pregnant and delivered a baby girl only having to be on bedrest at the end due to preeclampsia. When they decided it was time to have baby 2 they started again with IUI's and again on round 5 is when she became pregnant with twins. She said lucky again on round 5 and received a 2 for 1, twin boy and girl.
Jill described feeling like a farm animal on the table for the IUI procedure. You don't get to experience the pleasure or the intimacy of making a baby. The goal was a baby, but it didn't make me feel happy or good about myself. We laughed about her having to keep her husband's goods warm on the way to each IUI procedure.
Jill's Advice and Encouragement: Listen to your body, it tells you a lot, so really listen to it. Don't give up. If you really have hopes for a family, stick with it and something good will come from it. It may not be what you're hoping for but something good will come out of the situation. DON'T LOSE HOPE.
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Teresa reflects on 2021 and is looking forward to 2022 with all of you. Every guest, no matter where they live in the world have the same passion and desire to spread awareness about infertility and baby loss. Educating society with a better understanding of how to listen compassionately to those that have experienced infertility in any way and also those that have loved a baby that has been lost, no matter if a day after a positive pregnancy test, 2nd or 3rd trimester or an infant. We as a community can continue to speak out so instead of only 1 in 100 sharing their story, that every woman or man can feel comfortable sharing and will be heard and comforted.
I really enjoyed looking back and reading all of my over 40 guests’ words of advice and encouragement over the past year and sharing a few of them again. I appreciate the continued support and words of encouragement given to me as I continue to support you. I look forward to meeting and connecting with more amazingly strong women that I can support in 2022. You are not alone. I am here for you, so reach out. I would love to hear from you.
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Kaci always wanted 2 or 3 children, after having no trouble getting pregnant and having her daughter, it had never entered her mind that she would have such a long journey of infertility. With 4 rounds of IUI's, 2 IVF cycles and 2 baby girls lost after hearing their heartbeat, Kaci and her husband are not ready to give up yet. They are preparing for another IVF cycle at the beginning of 2022. Kaci gave a great description of her fertility treatments to help the listener really understand the process.
Kaci talked about the research she did and shared some great resources in the episode. She shared that the CDC website is a great place to research to find the right fertility specialist. Fertility specialists post their success rates and all their data each year on this site. You can find the procedures they have done and their results. She also shared that they, like many couples, did not have insurance to cover their treatments so Kaci did extensive research on the cost of the treatments and the medication needed to find the best fit for them.
Kaci's words of advice and encouragement: Do research, understand your options and continue to talk them out. Keep your head up and stay positive, I truly believe your emotional health has a strong connection to your physical health. It is always important to me to have a good state of mind as we worked through all this. Also, I did a little acupuncture that was great as a stress reliever, just having the quiet time to relax was very helpful. Selfcare is very important.
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Melissa Brenner said I thought my friends and I would raise our babies together. All of them were having babies so the question I asked the doctor was. "What is wrong with me"? We tried clomid for 6 months, even though it made me feel angry. We tried IUI, IUI with donor sperm, IUI with injectables, IVF and heard the same words, I wish I had better news. These were hard words to hear every time. The biggest fight we had as a married couple was during our infertility journey because the intimacy was gone, and it was like a chore to try to become pregnant. The medicine, hormonal changes and timing of ovulation was hard on our relationship. We did have one positive pregnancy test when we tried letrozole. I believe God gave me 24 hours to feel and dream about having a child. At that point I was done with infertility treatments. We had a big bill for a baby we didn't have, and I felt sorry for myself. I had a pity party for a year while grieving a baby I hoped I would have. Every month that my cycle started it was a constant reminder that my body had failed me.
We always knew that adoption would be an option for us since my husband had been adopted, so that was the next step for us. The adoption process was just as hard as the infertility journey, just in a different way. The paperwork and evaluations can be very intrusive, you have to sell yourself to the birth moms. Melissa said when I received a Happy Mother’s Day message from the birth mom, that is when I knew she was going to make me a mom.
Melissa's words of advice for you: Don't ever lose sight of what you want and always do what is best for you. Don't let bad advice or negativity from other people that don't understand your journey change your path. Stay true to yourself and stop where you need to stop, sometimes it's too much and remember the doctors work for you. Stand up for yourself and say what you want and need so you can find Peace.
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Rachel Helden didn't picture herself as a mom because as a teenager she was told she had PCOS and endometriosis, so she kind of ruled out having children since she thought it wouldn't be possible. She didn't want to get her hopes up until she became pregnant, and the excitement ended with a misarrange. After a divorce she met, who she said was the right man and partner to have children with and they started trying or not not trying and they became pregnant. The excitement ended with a very difficult seconded miscarriage for Rachel at 10 weeks. They tried again and a miscarriage at 8 weeks. With now a third miscarriage this brought on anxiety which Rachel hadn't experience before and she found herself in a very dark place and thinking about suicide. With a very supportive husband, family, and The Share organization she was able to receive the support she needed during that time. We talked about her naming the 3 babies, she said it helped to bring meaning to all of them.
Rachel is now pregnant again and just entering her 2nd trimester. She is walking very gently through this pregnancy, 1 day at a time. She is taking care of herself and is staying very open to talk about the anxiety she is experiencing. She shared some ideas on coping with the excitement and the anxiety.
Rachel is an artist from St. Louis, Missouri. Rachel has been working on “Free Way: An Adventure Through Loss”, an illustrated memoir about a solo road trip she took after going through a divorce and her father’s passing. Rachel’s search for healing took her to all fifty states in the USA, most of our national parks, and twenty other countries. Her hope is that it will become an aid to those going through their own adventure through loss.
Words of encouragement from Rachel: Sweetheart, I'm sorry you are going through this. It's awful and it sucks. You may have support through family or groups, but it comes down to being there for yourself and there are a lot of ways to do that. I found comfort in having a plant in my home that I could help grow. Other ideas would be, taking special time for yourself, taking baths, wandering around a bookstore, whatever you enjoy, hiking and seeing beautiful places, state or city parks. Also nourishing your body and asking for what you need.
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Suggestions for the Holiday Season to navigate your feelings of Grief:
Be Compassionate with Yourself:* During the holidays our schedules change. Schedule downtime to take a walk, meditation, prayer, read, journal etc. Be aware of your physical and psychological limitations. Limit necessary** stress
* Talk with a Family member or Friend ahead of time: Express your concerns. Decide ahead of time what you want to do, being caught off guard can create feelings of panic, fear and anxiety. It's important to be with supportive people during the holidays that you can talk to about your grief.
*Share Memories of your loss: It is important to share happy memories as well as sad memories during the holidays. Embrace the treasured memories.
* Be open to Joy: If a glimpse of happiness appears embrace it without feeling guilt.
Suggestions to support a grieving friend of family member:
Listen: Be an active listener that is physically present and listening without judgment or advice.
Have compassion: Let them express their feelings without fear of criticism or judgment. Try to learn and understand.
Be There: You cannot take the pain away, nor should you even try, be a compassionate supporter.
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Heather Midgley is a mental health specialist, she recognized that there was a gap in supporting women when they were experiencing difficulty with conception, during pregnancy, infant loss, and postpartum issues. This became more important to her when she experienced her own struggles with recurrent miscarriages and navigated through IVF. She believes that through her own struggles and losses, it led her to what she calls her "dream career" where she is able to fulfill her passion in helping others navigate through the difficult perinatal period.
On the episode, she talked about never having trouble getting pregnant which she thought would be the hard part. She held the first pregnancy, although there were many times that she became anxious after ultrasounds were showing possible complications. She delivered a little girl to only have her taken to a children's hospital for immediate care due to her being born with birth abnormalities. The NICU stay was a very traumatic experience which continued to give her trouble when she experienced secondary infertility and 4 miscarriages. She had a lot of trauma that she was holding onto and experienced triggers from the memories, the smells, the lights and sounds of the NICU and the fear and anxiety of talking about wanting more children. They then decided to try intervention to have children and with her fear of needles, IVF and the infertility clinic became yet another trigger of anxiety. Heather and her husband did complete their family with a son born from a successful IVF and then a surprise pregnancy that ended with a second son.
Heather's words of advice and encouragement: It is so important to communicate. I was in a place feeling paralyzed and expecting answers. Know that you are not alone, there is no shame, there are people that want to help, and we also have to allow them to do just that. Also, I find that when you are healing yourself that giving can really facilitate a further and deeper healthy process. It's an amazing empathy that giving can be for a deeper healing when you are ready for it.
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Kristen Rademacher delivered her stillborn daughter at 41 weeks. Her recently published debut memoir is an intimate exploration of the unique grief she faced when her baby was born still. From the Lake House: A Mother’s Odyssey of Loss and Love, has been described as “achingly honest”, “beautifully written” and “poignant”.
She shared about not feeling her baby move, she drink orange juice and spoke to her midwife before going for an ultrasound to be told your baby was died. Choosing to go home for the evening and to be induced the following day. The midwife came to her home to explaining what would happen the next day which she remembers was helpful. Kristen shared her feelings and emotions of the time she spent with her daughter. Even though the time was brief that sacred moment began her spiritual relationship with her daughter.
She shared that journaling and reaching out to a strange in an online support group were the things that helped her move through her grief. She said journaling help her change the emotional relationship she had with the experience. When you are having all of the raw emotions it's like you are held hostage by them. I would write about them and I could see them differently and see them from a far and gain a moment of freedom.
Kristen's words of encouragement: Patients and Faith are so important. I would get down on myself when I had several good days and then had bad days, I thought I wasn't grieving right. I realized that was part of the process and I had to learn to be patient with the process. I learned when I became low and sad I knew what to do, journal, go for a walk, or call a friend. With patients those moments would pass and honor the loss. Do not feel ashamed for keeping your baby in front, in whatever way that looks like to you. Just do it, give yourself time and space to bond with your baby. You are still your babies mother so honor that relationship.
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Book: From the Lake House: A Mother’s Odyssey of Loss and Love, published with She Writes Press
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Dr. Erica Rozmid is a Clinical Psychologist specializing in evidenced based treatment, including CBT and DBT. After her own heartbreaking story of learning that her very wanted baby, Shayla, had brain abnormalities and was not developing properly in utero, Erica made the decision to terminate her pregnancy for medical reasons. She was disappointed by the lack of mental health resources and support she found during her own healing journey. Erica left her research position at UCLA and opened a private practice, with a portion of her practice dedicated to helping families who terminate for medical reasons, TFMR. She is in the process of gaining PMH certification through PSI and creating a therapist directory and TFMR therapy. In the future, she plans to have therapy training for TFMR therapists and an online course for those who are not yet ready for therapy. See more of Erica's story here: https://www.tfmrpsychologist.com/tfmr Connect with Erica: Instagram: TFMRpsychologist Website: TFMRpsychologist.com Connect with me: EMAIL teresa.womenconnect2019@gmail.com or teresa.livingaftergrief.com Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.womenconnectsupport/. and https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/. Instagram: @womenconnectandsupport or @livingaftergrief Website: www.livingaftergrief.com click and schedule a time to chat
Womb Prep was founded by Geri Alicea in January 2016. Being on a Journey to Motherhood herself, Geri knew firsthand what it was like to feel completely alone while going through one of the worst situations in her life. Around this time, Geri experienced a season of depression and one day she decided to study women in the bible who had trouble conceiving just like her. And because she didn't want to study these women alone, she created a Facebook Group so others could join her in her study. It was in this study that the ministry Womb Prep as well as her book “Overcoming Infertility: Faith While You Wait" were birthed.
Since doing that study in 2016, Geri has become a Faith and Fertility Coach where she teaches women dealing with infertility or loss how to close the gap between their faith and fertility. She has also made it her personal mission to make infertility LOUD and let other women know that they are not alone on their journey. Geri has made a commitment to "normalize" the conversation surrounding infertility so women struggling can talk about it instead of hiding from it. Infertility is hard and emotional, but it needs to be talked about... openly. and without shame. She believes that normalizing the conversation of infertility not only helps those dealing with it but it also helps those that aren't. The truth of the matter is that infertility is such a taboo subject that a lot of individuals not dealing with it don't know how to appropriately respond to it. But Geri is determined to do her part to remedy that.
Words of encouragement from Geri: Know that your infertility journey is not your fault. Do not take on the blame and guilt because it will put you in a depressed state. Know you are still worthy to be a mom, worthy as a woman and person. There is nothing wrong with you just because you are on this journey. Know what your worth is while on this journey. Infertility is a thing but it's not who you are. You are so much more than the girl who has infertility or the girl who can't give her partner a child, you are so much more. Who are you supposed to be outside of being a mom? We get lost on this journey of not being a mom and there is purpose outside of being a mom.
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Elizabeth remembers having symptoms at a very early age that were dismissed by medical professionals. Her symptoms just continued to get worse as she got older, abdominal pain, heavy and painful periods, migraines, fatigue and chronic pain. She was diagnosed with infertility and later became pregnant on her own. While pregnant she continued to bleed which meant multiple hospital visits. She went into preterm labor and delivered her daughter who spent time in the NICU. Elizabeth's symptoms continued to get worse and she eventually was diagnosed with fibroids, severe endometriosis, and Uterus Didelphys.
A double uterus is a rare congenital abnormality. It is not known exactly what causes Uterus Didelphys but a genetic component may be a factor because this rare condition sometimes runs in families. This condition is also rarely talked about which makes it hard to find support and medical information about it. Elizabeth has become an international advocate for Women's Reproductive Health after her long health journey which included multiple surgeries and continuous complications.
Elizabeth's advice for anyone listening is to not keep quiet, if you see or feel things in your body to speak up and seek help. Let your family and doctors know so you can get an early diagnosis and get the right treatment so you are not suffering in silence. She said to remember that Gynaecological conditions don't just affect us physically, they also affect us psychologically, it can affect your career, life goals and your relationships. Her difficult journey in part was due to late diagnosis and she felt neglected by the medical profession. She would like all the listeners to use her story as a motivational tool to speak up so you receive the right medical care you need.
Connect with Elizabeth
Instagram: @specialladyawareness Facebook: Speciallady
https://www.specialladyawareness.com/
https://www.health.com/condition/sexual-health/ghanaian-woman-two-vaginas-two-uteruses
https://www.google.com/amp/s/metro.co.uk/2019/10/22/woman-reveals-like-two-vaginas-two-cervixes-two-wombs-10964355/amp/
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Jessica volunteers for an organization called On Angels Wings. Their mission is to seek to improve the mental health and wellness of families with medically fragile children through therapeutic photography and grief recovery services. It is an amazing organization where photographers volunteer to go into hospitals to take complementary photos for families that have lost a baby and they also go to family homes where a child is close to the end of their life. The photographers give these families memories to hold on to in their worst possible moment. Jessica said I feel like I give a little bit of a silver lining in the darkest cloud, which for her is a pretty phenomenal thing. The group of photographers are available 24 hours a day and Jessica talked about it giving her so much peace to know that she could help the families at such a difficult time.
At one of the sessions Jessica was given a small bear from the nurse at the hospital. The organization shortly after seeing the photos adopted that personal touch and now photos of the beautiful babies are taken with a small teddy bear that are sent home with the family as a memento for them to keep and cherish. Jessica said it is so rewarding to take my love for photography and capture these beautiful babies and to be able to give back. Spreading awareness that this happens and these children are still children and so loved and wanted.
Jessica's encouragement: You are prayed for and loved, your child matters and will always matter. Praying that you find a little bit of a silver lining in the dark cloud.
On Angels Wings website: https://oawphoto.org/
Social Media links: https://m.facebook.com/oawphoto/ https://instagram.com/oaw_photo?utm_medium=copy_link
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Kiley Hanish's husband, a filmmaker, decided to write a fictional script about their son Norbert who was stillborn to help with his healing of grief and to break the silence. They had been very private about their loss for 9 years, people do not talk about the death of a baby and it is very isolating. The release of the film introduced them into the baby loss community where they found there were people just like them. They finally felt like they were not crazy and that their behaviors were not strange. The film validated so many, helped them not feel alone and it was no longer taboo to talk about their losses.
From that point forward she sacrificed not feeling comfortable as an introvert for the great good of this new community of people. Kiley started holding retreats with a holistic experience. She talks in this episode about the different components of the retreat that are important to release the layers of grief and trauma that are stored in the body. These retreats are very transformative for the women, as they peel off layers of grief and can be themselves.
In a very short period of time Kiley has created a nonprofit organization for bereaved parents, their families and healthcare provides to spread awareness, education and support. Through the organization the focus is to break the silence, nurture healing and inspire hope. There are virtual support groups available for pregnancy and infant loss, termination for medical reasons, women of color, recurrent loss, infertility, pregnancy after loss, fathers, grandparents etc. Also on the website you will find links to webinars, brochures to order or download and print, you can find tips, tools and resources. Knowledge is empowering and you can find a ton of information and resources on the website. https://rtzhope.org/
Film Return to Zero: https://rtzhope.org/return-to-zero-film (this has links to Amazon, YouTube, and iTunes)
Connect on Social media: Instagram, Facebook, Twitter @RTZhope
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EMAIL teresa.womenconnect2019@gmail.com or teresa.livingaftergrief.com
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Kiley Hanish planned to have a home birth but after not feeling well at 35 weeks and having some bleeding she went to the doctors office to be checked. She was told I can't find the heartbeat. She was by herself and in total shock and she said all I remember saying is "What am I supposed to do" and the doctor said maybe you should cry. Her traumatic experience was intensified due to the care she received. She is sharing her story to help you have a voice and to encourage you to be anadvocate for yourself and your baby.
~ She was sent home " It was creepy to walk around with my baby inside knowing he had died."
~ No guidance' I wish I would have been guided to realize that these are my final moments with my baby
~ No guidance in creating memories of my baby.
~ The midwife said, " I didn't feel a soul in the room did you?
~ When they removed my baby from the room it was as if he wasn't even a baby, he was put in a cardboard box.
After Kiley talked about the hospital experience with no support she goes on to share some very valuable suggestions on how she is envious of the support and guidance that others have received. And we talked in depth about how to advocate for yourself if you experience a loss.
~ Bath and Dress your baby
~ Keep the baby in the room as long as you want. Have the family come to meet your baby.
~ There is no hurry to say goodbye to your baby. This will be the only time you have with them.
~ Create Memories
Kiley gave some great advice also to medical providers to create normalcy for the families. Prepare them by talking about what is going to happen and what the baby will look like. Most people haven't seen someone that has died and especially not a baby. Tell them things that were helpful for other parents and share ways that other families have created memories so they know it's not scary and so that they don't feel crazy. Such as pictures, hand and foot molds and/or prints, and a lock of hair. Encourage the parents to name their baby and again keep the baby in the room as long as they want so others have time to meet the baby. Allow them to take the blanket home that the baby was wrapped in.
We also talked about her journey of grief and postpartum PTSD. She shared about how she felt, the symptoms she had and the struggle to get the help she needed. She shared a ton of advice in this area as well. Here is just one of the nuggets she shared, You need to go to someone that knows about baby loss, if you go to someone that hasn't worked with baby loss, it is useless.
Kiley's advice: I want you to know you are not alone. It feels very isolating and there are others that have been through it and connect with them. Even if you are an introvert like myself, it is still nice to have those people that you can let your guard down, be vulnerable and honest with. And that there is information out there to help guide you on this path. It's not like you are thrown in the middle of an ocean without a raft. I think knowledge is empowering. There are books, videos etc. out there, seek it out and there are others to help you.
https://rtzhope.org
Film Return to Zero: https://rtzhope.org/return-to-zero-film (this has links to Amazon, YouTube, and iTunes)
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EMAIL teresa.womenconnect2019@gmail.com or teresa.livingaftergrief.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.womenconnectsupport/. and https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/.
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Breaking the silence and spreading awareness. It is October and it is pregnancy and infant loss awareness month.
The moment a woman knows that she is pregnant the love and the dreams for that child have begun. When that child is lost all the joy, love and dreams are gone. The devastation, heartache and grief are real. Which is why I chose to create this place where women and men could have a voice to share their journeys to stop the silence and the stigma around pregnancy and infant loss. As I have spoken to so many women and men over the last several years, I have heard over and over and over again how alone they have felt and isolated. I’m passionate about helping grieving moms and dads having a voice and I’m here to acknowledge them for their loss. I want to make sure you’re aware that 1-4 are affected by a loss, it could very well be that you have been affected. You may have had a friend, sister, coworker, daughter, neighbor, the woman that works at your favorite coffee shop or a store you frequent. There are people that are unaware that it’s all around them, but you and I can help with the awareness. We can love and care better for those in our community that have experienced a loss. There are so many precious memories and physical experiences that have occurred with these beautiful little ones which makes the grief of losing them very very devastating.
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Liane Moccia is a Registered Clinical Herbalist who helps women and men take charge of their fertility, prepare for pregnancy, balance hormones, and manage stress. Liane’s own infertility diagnosis led her to the healing power of plants and ultimately a career change to help others on similar journeys. She works to help women and men advocate for their own health.
As a Clinical Herbalist she looks for the root cause and helps her clients achieve better health. The first area that she focuses on is hormonal balance and cycle regulation. I love when she says that a women's cycle is a vital sign for their health. Cycles do not need to be irregular, painful, heavy etc. She also focused on digestive health, and she gave a tremendous amount of information and one nugget I grabbed was if you are not having a bowel movement daily that is not optimal and ideal, and it could be causing hormonal imbalance while it's sitting in your large intestines. Other areas she talked about are diet, environmental toxins. stress, and sleep which all can be the cause of poor egg and sperm quality.
Liane has helped her clients to become healthier, become pregnant and that has helped carry them through the pregnancy, postpartum period and into the rest of their lives. She said it's never too early to start, don't think you have to go a year waiting, start thinking about your own health and fertility and that of your partner. If you have already gone down the path of waiting and have been told you have a very low chance of getting pregnant or we can't help. It takes time to step back and look at your health more holistically. There could be underline things going on that she can help discover and things to do that can improve your fertility and change your success rate. There are statistics given and they are not your own individual chance of becoming pregnant.
Laine encourages you to advocate for yourself, don't give up and look at your health holistically and there are things you can do.
Connect with Liane:
Liane has a link on her website and Instagram for a free 15-minute call with her and a free download of "5 Simple Changes You Can Make Today to Improve Your Fertility".
Website: https://www.lianesherbalwellness.com/
Instagram: @lianemoccia
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EMAIL teresa.womenconnect2019@gmail.com
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Website: www.livingaftergrief.com
Phone # 1-618-560-8484
Ann-Marie Ferry is a writer from the Midwest. She holds a BSN. Ann-Marie is wife of 10 years to Jon, the man she met online, and mother to their four children: three daughters on earth and a son in heaven. Ann-Marie’s writing reflects on her experience with high-risk pregnancy and stillbirth through the lens of faith, shining the light of hope on grief. During our conversation Ann-Marie talked about numerous things that helped her navigate the trauma she experienced while trying to have a family and I'm very confident that you will find them helpful for you.
A few areas that Ann-Marie focused on were seeking support, whether friends, online or in person support groups and therapy or counseling. She gave a tremendous amount of information and suggestions on caring for your body by increasing endorphins with good nutrition, exercise, healthy sex, and many other great suggestions. A third area was caring for your mind through mindfulness, prayer, tapping, EMDR and again listen for more. The last two areas that Ann-Marie gave suggestions on were healing through honoring your child and facing the fear by healing through writing your story.
Ann-Marie share several resources and quotes during the episode, and I would like to share one of them here by Brene' Brown, "If you own this story you get to write the ending."
You can find her writing as a regular contributor for Sharing Magazine at https://nationalshare.org/sharing-magazine/ Her website at https://www.annmarieferry.com/ and you can keep up with her on Instagram @ann_marieferry.
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Dawn Waymire shared a tremendous amount of information to help you navigate the adoption process, if that is what you have decided for your family or if you seeking more information before making a decision. She talked about why her and her husband chose the adoption route after losing their little girl and a failed IVF. She talked in depth about the mental difficulty she went through with infertility and IVF and decided that was not for them. She said it is still mentally hard going through adoption and just different. Here are a few things she shared but I encourage you to listen to the entire episode because it is full of great information. First, Do a lot of research on the adoption agencies because they can be very different. Also she would encourage you to find an agency that is reputable that helps the birth family also. She said its very important to talk with someone you know that has been though the adoption process. They will be a tremendous help with the process and will be aware of the pitfalls. Dawn said when you start talking about adoption people will come out of the woodwork to talk. People that I had no idea that their child was adopted shared information that was helpful. Let them guide you. Dawn talked in detail about the home study and the paperwork. The financial information, background checks, letters of reference, and she said I was not prepared for the amount of questions there were, what kind of child we were willing to adopt and the health history questions were very overwhelming. Also she said make sure you set a budget. Dawn said I will never take for granted that I get to be their mother and I can't believe they are mine. She said looking back I would have skipped all of that infertility struggles and went straight to adoption but I probably needed all that to get me to where I am. Dawn's words of advice and encouragement for you: It all may seem overwhelming at times when you're going through the steps but when you get through it you will look back and say that wasn't so bad. The emotional side will be tough and a lot of tough conversations but you have probably had tough conversations and decisions before. You can make it through them. It's important for you and your partner to be on the same page because if not it will be more difficult which is why finding that resource person to help work thorough it will help. It definitely helped my husband to talk to the social worker. There were a lot of unknowns and to have that person to guide you is so helpful. The end result is what you want. Connect with Dawn: https://anchoringthewaymires.com/ instagram.com/dwaymire/ also feel free to contact Teresa to get connected to Dawn. Connect Teresa: EMAIL teresa.womenconnect2019@gmail.com Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.womenconnectsupport/. Phone # 1-618-560-8484
Adam and his wife Erica struggled with infertility for fifteen months. Adam did not anticipate having to go through testing himself when they weren't getting pregnant. It became harder and harder with each month and they were planning their days around ovulation. They decided to keep the struggles to themselves because they did not want to add the extra pressure of the parents and others getting all excited about being grandparents and having to share the disappointment every month. He said later we realized that it was toxic to keep it just between the 2 of us because we had no one to give us support or perspective.
Erica was given clomid to try, which gave them new hope that they would become pregnant. On their 5th and final round of clomid when Adam was thinking this may not happen for us, he was starting to research about IVF and adoption when Erica surprised him with a positive pregnancy test. On a routine ultrasound it was discovered that the baby had something that looked suspicious and it could be cancerous. At 37 weeks with the area growing their baby girl was delivered.
We talked about the things people say that trigger very hurtful emotions, where they found support and the journey of their baby being treated for cancer.
Adams words of advice and encouragement: You are a dad, father and family man and let that be your identity versus something else, especially for those that have spent so much time to have a family. If you need to see a specialist don't wait too long because your frustration level will go up while getting educated and talking with doctors. Trust your medical professional and if you don't feel confident with them find someone else. Avoid the internet searching because you could find things that you may not need to focus on at the time you need it. Don't go down that rabbit hole because it can put a lot of pressure on you.
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Rachael is still on her journey of infertility. She has had 4 miscarriages and has gone through 3 IUI cycles. With her first pregnancy she was very excited to share the news. When she had the miscarriage she received some great support and some negative comments that hit her hard enough to discourage her from sharing the next 3 losses. After being married for several years and the multiple losses people would ask why no kids and try to guess why no kids. Rachael talked about her husband helping her after she had an emotional response from one of the comments. She then decided to start talking about her journey which was helpful to her.
Rachael talked about where her and her husband are now on their journey. She said in the near future we will have the hard conversation on whether to have kids or not. Do we keep the door cracked, close it or open another one?
Other things we talked about: triggers and how she navigated them, where she found support and the grief from the 4 losses and unsure of the grief she may experience from possibly never having children.
Rachael's advice for you: Don't keep your mouth shut because it could head off a lot of things by just being honest, not only for yourself but for everyone around you. Me not talking has caused other issues in my life, mentally and emotionally. As I have started talking about our journey more, I can deal with things better. Be honest and if people ask that question that you can't stand, give them the honest answer. People become more empathetic when they know what's going on and they can't be empathetic if you are not being honest.
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Liane Moccia shares her infertility journey which included being given the diagnosis of unexplained infertility. She said I just assumed when we decided to start a family it would happen. Nope three failed IUI attempts and then on to IVF. She did the whole protocol to hear, based on the imagines and your numbers we are cancelling the retrieval, the cycle is over. She said I didn't know that was an option. Her body had not responded to the medication and there were no eggs to retrieve. She was devastated and was not prepared for that news and said I just naively believed that this was it. After two more attempts with the same results she was told IVF is not an option for you.
Liane said I did not believe I was broken and believed she could have a child. She dug deep into her health and found another doctor for a second opinion. This doctor had a more holistic approach. Listen to all of Liane's story to hear how she became a mom of twin girls. Liane said when given the diagnosis of unexplained infertility it means that the medical staff doesn't know why. It doesn't mean that you are broken or that something is wrong with you. Liane is now a Registered Clinical Herbalist who helps women and men take charge of their fertility, prepare for pregnancy, balance hormones and manage stress. Liane will be on a future episode to dive deep into explaining how she can help.
Advice and Encouragement from Laine: I want people to walk away knowing that you are not whatever label they are putting on you. It does not define you, its a box that conventional medicine puts you in, so they can put a protocol to you. Again It does not define you. Understand the full spectrum of possibility and keep it open so you are not defined by statistics. Remember those numbers are an average and you are not average, you are an individual. Understand that you are in a lot more control over your fertility than we have been led to believe. Your fertility is really your health and if you can take a step back, focus on yourself and your health, it will start tipping the scale for you and your partner.
Connect with Liane: 15 Minute Discovery Call: https://p.bttr.to/3gbkqTA
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lianesherbalwellness
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lianemoccia/
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Phone # 1-618-560-8484
Allison and her husband Chriswere given that frustrating diagnosis of unexplained infertility. They went through many tests, tried clomid, had a HSG and tried IUI with no success. She said fertility or infertility is on a month by month schedule, if you miss the window you have to wait another month. She said I needed to take a break for my mental state. I was beating myself up and had a really hard time dealing with the frustration and anger. Thankfully my husband loved me through it. I was afraid of the possible failure, so I decided to not go back to continue treatment. They definitely had a large amount of stress that they thought could be the problem, so Allison said she has been working hard to find peace in her life.
If you are still on your journey I know you will find great value in listening to Allison's entire journey. She shared an amazing amount of great advice and knowledge on how she has become OK with her story. A few things we talked about were people saying hurtful things, grieving never being a parenting or grandparent, family and friends grieving. Allison said she has put in the work to be OK but family and friends are still grieving and when others are grieving for you it is hard and you feel guilty for being OK. I am not thrilled with my situation but I am content, which has come with time, prayer and putting in the work.
Here are a few of the words of advice Allison gave: Pray your heart out. First it was Lord let this work and then it changed to Lord let me be content and give me peace. Praying for peace encompasses if it works and if it doesn't work. Your story can have a happy ending but it may not be what you had envisioned. Remain hopeful and trust the plan. Be intentional about living out a peaceful life. We can pray about it but we need to put in the work like reading, listening to podcasts and journaling, seek out and fill yourself with positivity, hopefulness and peace.
Connect with Allison: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/alli.hursey or Instagram - @alli_marie623
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For Grief Coaching questions email to Teresa@livingaftergrief.com
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Erica McAfee is the Founder and CEO of Sisters in Loss, a maternal child health company that helps Black women replace silence with storytelling around pregnancy and infant loss and infertility. Sisters in Loss provides pregnancy, birth, postpartum, bereavement doula, and grief services to help women step beyond anxiety and fear and into trust and peace after loss. It's self-titled podcast spotlights resilient Black mothers who share intimate details of their journey to motherhood through painful, but inspirational loss and infertility stories. Sisters in Loss has been featured in Forbes, Black Enterprise, Women's Health, The Today Show, NBC Nightly News, and The White House.
Erica McAfee went through 9 months of pregnancy, 16 hours in the hospital with 13 hours of labor, a couple hours of pushing to have a C-section to deliver a baby and then to be told the baby has died. She said we were excited to meet our baby boy but instead we were catapulted into planning a funeral for our baby who's lungs had never developed. She then became pregnant again only to lose a little girl at 18 weeks due to an incompetent cervix.
After the 2nd loss Erica said she took time off from trying again to conceive and worked on doing things differently within herself. She talked about making a lot of changes so she could pour back into herself to become whole again. She mentally had a yearning to have a baby in her arms but she knew she needed to be whole mentally and emotionally to navigate through another pregnancy. Erica talks about the work she put in to become mentally and emotionally whole again.
Erica's words of advice and encouragement: Your journey is your own and you should not compare where you are currently to the person next to you or your friend. Also that you should seek out 2nd, 3rd and 4th opinions. You should not rely on one answer or diagnoses when it comes to infertility or loss, seek out multiple providers for answers to form a healthcare team to help you. Every path to motherhood is different, though this journey may not be what you expected it to be, embrace and honor it. Be assured that you are doing everything in your power to get the answers you need and that you're making the right decisions. Know that there is not only one way to become a parent and you do not need to push a baby out to be a mom.
Connect with Erica: https://sistersinloss.com/ or @sistersinloss on Instagram or Facebook
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Sarah has been intentional about creating ways to honor, celebrate and remember her stillborn daughter Ellie. She feels blessed that she can honor Ellie so openly and feel like it is not, this awkward thing. She said we decided that we would not always be sad when we mentioned her name. Sarah talked about what she and her husband do every year on the anniversary of losing their daughter and what they do as a family and throughout the year as well.
Sarah said honoring your child can be as big and grandiose as you want or as small and simple as you need, and it is OK. Communication with your partner is key and you must be intentional about talking which is not always easy to do. Sarah admitted that she would not have made it through her daughters’ loss if it had not been for the support she had and would not be in the healthy happy place she is in now, 9 years later.
Sarah's advice and encouragement: Honoring and celebrating your child is a very individual thing. You honor your child in different stages of your journey and that is OK. Be intentional about what it is you need in that moment with your family members and your partner. Be intentional about what you need at each stage and be open enough to talk about it. Honoring your child does not need to be a sad thing. Where I am now brings me joy but when you are fresh in your loss, you may think how is that possible. If you put in the work and you are intentional and you grieve healthy, and you trust the process it can become joyful how you honor your child.
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La-Anna is an amazing woman that has experienced a tremendous amount of pain with horrible periods starting at age 10. She was misdiagnosed for many years until finally being told that she had two uterus and two cervix, which is called didelphys uterus. And in addition to these diagnoses, she also had endometriosis and fibroids. She talked about the very deep depression she experienced after years of infertility struggles and a failed IVF. After 8 years of trying to become pregnant, La-Anna's husband said let's just enjoy each other and she felt a huge release. 1 year later she became pregnant naturally with her miracle little girl.
Didelphys Uterus is a very rare condition and La-Anna is dedicated to spreading awareness, finding others to support and to help with proper diagnosis. She is a writer, motivational speaker and women's advocate that is spreading awareness.
La-Anna's advice and encouragement: Do not give up on yourself no matter what stage in parenthood you are in. You are special and do not give up on who you are. I know it can be hard going through infertility treatments and to get the proper diagnosis. Find a doctor that will listen to you but be your own advocate. Do not be afraid to ask the right questions. Write down questions and ask to record what the doctor says.
Find support groups so you do not feel alone on your journey. Reach out and find women that are going through what you are going through. La-Anna said "I almost cried when I found a woman that had the same diagnosis.
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Brittney Crunk shared a tremendous amount of great information about her journey to help families have a baby to love by being their surrogate. She is very passionate about creating awareness around surrogacy. She said do not let Hollywood or other stories discourage you from considering using a surrogate to carry your child but do your research and to not push through things to quickly because you want a baby now. Do not skip steps in the process because it may not end the way you hoped.
I wanted to know the couple that I was carrying their child and to have a relationship with them. I wanted them to be able to come to every doctor's appointment and be there to watch their child being born. I did not want them to miss out on any aspect of the pregnancy because they are already losing a portion of the journey and I did not want them to lose anything else so I chose an agency that would allow that.
Advice from Brittney: RESEARCH multiple agencies to find the right one for your surrogacy journey. Find an attorney that is well versed in surrogacy and that the contract is airtight. DO NOT skip steps in the legal process. Make sure you check on the health insurance and talk with people that have been through the process and ask them questions.
Brittney's Private Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/462656738259074/?ref=share
Connect with me: Teresa Reiniger
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The learnings I have received over the last year of hosting and recording Labor Pains podcast have been 1 of the most rewarding and memorable years of my life. It is just so hard to put into words all the feelings and emotions that have been pouring through my body as I have been reflecting and thinking about this past year. All I can say is thank you all for supporting me on this journey to be with you on a weekly basis to share stories of hope for your journey. Listen to the recording to grab a few nuggets of what is coming in the next year. Always remember I am here to connect and support you on your journey so reach out if I can help you or your friends in any way.
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Candace Kluba said before my loss I looked on the bright side of things and after, I had a hard time feeling or being positive. Now I am very passionate about helping others heal by using mindfulness. She said several years ago I felt I was healed in the sense that I was not angry all the time. I did not have the depleting emotions all the time. I attended a class during a conference which sparked me to start studying mindfulness. Candace has learned to heal herself more deeply and is now helping others do the same. She said I use mindfulness to face and feel all my emotions which has made a world of difference.
We had a great conversation about a form of exercise that she leads others through that helps align your mind, body and heart called IntenSati. IntenSati is mindful movements with affirmation, and it creates connections between your thoughts, words, and actions. Also, Candace described a favorite tool she uses called RAIN that has helped her daily with her emotions. Below are links to videos to help you learn more about both tips Candace has used to help her on her journey of loss.
intenSati with Candace Kluba Sample Class
https://youtu.be/QZjDF-Fxvm4
Tara Brach Leads a Guided Meditation: The RAIN of Self Compassion
https://youtu.be/wm1t5FyK5Ek
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Tameika Thomas lost her twin daughters at 26 weeks and blamed herself for several years. She just keeps herself going at a very fast pace with work and school. She is a woman that puts high expectations on herself, and she said I am the one that expects perfection of myself, and I know that is impossible. When the world was shut down due to the pandemic it forced her to take time to slow down and that is when she began to truly grieve the loss of the twins. It forced her to slow down, it made her feel her feelings and listen to herself. She then finally really started the forgiveness process for herself.
Tameika and I talked about several things that she was able to do to help her on her journey of forgiveness. She started a gratitude journal, she poured herself into helping others and took that quiet time that was so necessary for her. Tameika talks about the blame and guilt she felt for many years and where she is on her journey of forgiving herself.
Advice: Take time to quiet yourself and feel the feelings you are having. Let the emotions flow.
Connect with Tameika at averyandaubreysway@gmail.com
Also visit her website for the non-profit https://www.averyandaubreysway.org/
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Kim Hooper, Meredith Resnick and Dr. Huong Diep are co-authors of All The Love, Healing Your Heart and Finding Meaning After Pregnancy Loss. They are authors of other previously published books and after Kim's multiple losses she decided to write a book to share her personal story but wanted it to have a therapeutic component. The authors shared their vision behind the book. Kim felt that her co-authors could add insight that she would not have, and they would be able to help make sense of the things she experienced in her personal journey. She wanted the book to be like a companion guide for people that have experienced loss.
The book is very comprehensive and is one place where people can receive a variety of needs, educational, psychological and connect with someone that has been through it. There was a tremendous amount of research put into this book. It is sprinkled with quotes, clinical resources, and information from published papers. After listening to this podcast make sure you purchase the book for yourself and for a family member or friend that has experienced loss. The book can be purchased on Amazon.com or Bookshop.org Their book website: alltheloveafterloss.com Social media: @allthelovetalk (Instagram and Twitter)
About the Authors:
Kim Hooper is co-author of All the Love: Healing Your Heart and Finding Meaning After Pregnancy Loss. She is also the author of five novels—People Who Knew Me (2016), Cherry Blossoms (2018), Tiny (2019), All the Acorns on the Forest Floor (2020), and No Hiding in Boise (2021). She lives in Southern California with her husband, daughter, and a collection of pets.
http://kimhooperwrites.com/
Meredith Resnick, LCSW, worked in a clinical capacity for two decades and maintains a strong interest in healing through the expressive arts. Her creative work has appeared in such venues as the Washington Post, JAMA, Psychology Today, Lilith, Los Angeles Times, Newsweek, and Motherwell. She is the creator of the Shame Recovery Project at shamerecovery.com.
meredithresnick.com. All the Love is her first book.
Dr. Huong Diep is a board certified psychologist and has provided clinical services, assessments and international trainings/consultations for over ten years. She is passionate about the intersection of gender, language and culture and is an ally to the LGBTQ+ community.
drhdiep.com
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May is National Foster Care Month and Stacy Williams is a Foster Care mom that spoke about some myths of Foster Care and about the option of fostering to have the family you desire. She experienced pregnancy loss and you can hear her entire story and more about why she chose foster care in Episode 27.
She has been a Foster Care Mom for 14 years. Stacy talked about her purpose is to be a foster parent and how God changed her thinking about fostering. Stacy is truly a world changer for many foster children with those she welcomes into her home and by mentoring other foster parents.
A few myths Stacy and I talked about.
I cannot foster because I am single.
You must be a stay-at-home parent to foster.
Foster children are emotionally disturbed and damaged and there's nothing I can do to help them.
You do not have a choice in who you foster.
I cannot foster because I would get too attached.
Stacy talked about all of these and more.
I totally agree with Stacy when she said, these kids belong to the world and we want them to be 100% of who God called them to be.
Stacy's words of advice: Ask questions of the agency. Research several agencies to find the one that best fits your needs and the one that has the best track record for your needs. Make sure the agency your choosing is clear on what you want and for you to stick with what you want. Support a Foster parent.
Carita's Family Solution, Pam Fiscus 618-688-1157
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Kim Hooper had a very unique journey to become a mom of 1 daughter here on earth. She had 4 pregnancies that ended in loss before having a pregnancy with no complications. She talks about the shocking news with the first pregnancy. I was going to have a baby but wait now my life is in danger and I have lost the baby. With another loss she remembers again the medical shock of having to wait for her body to miscarry and trying to go about her normal duties of life with bleeding, being tired and hormones fluctuating. She felt very isolated because people didn't even know she was pregnant. The third pregnancy was a baby boy that ended in a loss during the 2nd trimester. The shock of being told there is no heart beat.
She said I was ready to quit after each loss but after time went by each time, I just believed that one of these are going to be our child on earth and I was committed to that thought. A second ectopic pregnancy and I just wanted my body to be back to a baseline of health. She was told that her egg quantity and quality were not good but she still kept getting pregnant. She was also told she was not a candidate for IVF. A doctor even told her that her embryos were descend to die. Her only choice was to trust her own gut and find a medical provider that understood her. After the 4 losses she went to a new doctor that didn't see any reason medically that she couldn't try again and a fifth pregnancy happened. She now has a little girl.
Kim has co-authored a book that has been released earlier this year where she shares her story. I will have Kim back on an episode soon with her co-authors to talk about the book.
Kim's words of advice and encouragement: I am all about people feeling empowered and they go through this journey and it can strip you of any sense of power or control. It comes down to knowing what you emotional, physically, finically, relationship wise what you can handle when trying again. What you can handle in terms of going through with infertility treatments and all those decisions that have to be made. This experience is just such an opportunity to get in touch with your own inner gut instincts and intuition and it may not match up with what people are telling you to do or what you "should do", but really trust yourself and know that there is no right or wrong to what you decide and there is no right or wrong to the outcome. I think happy endings come in all different shapes and forms.
Kim's Information:
Book website: alltheloveafterloss.com
Social media: @allthelovetalk (Instagram and Twitter)
The book can be bought wherever books are sold, including:
Bookshop: https://bookshop.org/books/all-the-love-healing-your-heart-and-finding-meaning-after-pregnancy-loss-9781684425570/9781684425563
Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/All-Love-Healing-Finding-Pregnancy/dp/1684425565/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
My website: kimhooperwrites.com
Social media: @kimhooperwrites (Instagram and Twitter)
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Melissa Sulley has 2 living children on earth, 1 on the way and 7 babies in the stars that did not make it earth side. Due to all her losses Melissa is a pregnancy and infant loss doula, as well as a grief coach and educator. She said she loves talking about loss and normalizing pregnancy loss because there is a lot of shame around it. Her first loss rocked her world. She said I was so naïve to how difficult pregnancy can be and how common pregnancy loss is, and I did not know how to navigate through it. Melissa shares her journey of loss, pregnancies after loss and how she learned to navigate through it. She shared about painful miscarriages, being induced to deliver babies that no longer had heart beats and holding those babies. She talked about feeling very isolated and how she kept getting thrown into the grief cycle because the losses were so close together. I became obsessed with having a full-term pregnancy. She talked about the postpartum depression and anxiety but also the unresolved grief that suddenly started resurfacing.
She started a business to be able to share her story. As she shared her story, she connected with other women that had loss as well and that is when she could work through a lot of her grief and realized that her feelings were normal. When you create space for people to share their stories there is so much power. When stories are shared out loud, we finding what happens is, oh my gosh, this is normal, and I am not alone. Melissa still navigates her grief while helping so many others to navigate through their grief from loss. Listen to her entire story and the many things she implemented to help her through the emotional roller coaster ride she experienced.
Melissa's words of advice and encouragement for you:
First know your grief is valid. If you have experienced a pregnancy loss whether its early or late, know you are allowed to grieve and that your grief is valid. I feel like this topic is still fairly taboo and people aren't sure if they should or can grieve. The answer is YES. By all means, you have experienced a loss, so you are allowed to grieve. Second would be to connect with people who get it. The reality is that people who have not been through pregnancy loss or who have not experienced grief in general, they just do not get it and you are going to hear a lot of stupid things from people. It is nice to be able to connect with others who understand the journey and give yourself space to feel the grief and the joy in your daily moments.
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This episode was recording to increase the awareness of infertility. Infertility effects 1 in 8 couples in the United States, which translates to 7.5 million people. I personally have experience how hard it is when 2 of my 3 daughters had infertility struggles. If you are struggling with infertility, I have referenced in this episode, several previous episodes where women and men have shared their struggles of infertility. I only shared a statement or two that was in the previous episodes, so if you were touched by something take time to listen to their entire story. I know it will help you on your journey. Do not hesitate to reach out to find support on your journey.
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Sarah Clark wanted to be married at 25 and kids by 28. When she went off the pill, which was falsely regulating her periods, they again became irregular and heavy. When visiting the doctor, she was told she had premature ovarian failure and the only way to have kids was to use donor eggs. She was given a brochure about IVF and sent to the clinic. Sarah talked about being naïve and did not go for a second opinion. She said I did not even grieve the news. I knew I had other options, I did not hesitate, I knew it was going to happen for us and luckily it did.
Since it has been about 20 years ago the whole process has changed from getting profiles of the donor in the mail to view profiles online. Sarah said questions I got were. Did you think you wouldn't' bond with the baby and did you worry they wouldn't look like you? She has learned a tremendous amount about her own health and now supports other couples navigate the tough infertility journey. Her company is very thorough with their testing and help couples in multiple countries. Take time to listen to the episode to hear all the different test that they have available to help you navigate the infertility journey.
Sarah's words of advice and encouragement: Dig deeper beyond the diagnosis. If told you have low AMH or high HSF, diminished ovarian reserve, premature ovarian defiance, or failure, look at other things going on in your body. Like me I had acne, sinus, yeast, and bladder infections. There were other things going on in my body. Do not focus just on the diagnosis. Do not think IVF is your only option. We spend 12-18 months preparing for a wedding and in 1 month we want to get pregnant. So, flip that around. I am not saying spend 18 months but see what else is going on in your body and yes get a second opinion. Listen to my podcast for a functional approach and take charge of your own health. We work with people that have food sensitivities, gut infections, hormonal imbalance, blood sugar issues, and thyroid stuff. Look beyond the conventional medicine.
Sarah's Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/get-pregnant-naturally-how-to-solve-your-infertility
Sarah's Website: https://fabfertile.com/
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Kelsey shares her story about not wanted to have children when her and her husband married but they were bitten by the baby bug. After several months of trying her sister-in-law announced she was pregnant with their 2nd. I was happy for them, but I thought why does she get 2 and I do not get any? Then the feelings of guilt came, I did want to be happy for them.
After a year of trying Kelsey became pregnant and then at 11 weeks they could not hear the heartbeat and within a few days she started bleeding. Another ultrasound was done to find that there was no baby, she had a blighted ovum. So there had not been a baby. The embryonic sac and placenta developed but the baby did not. I was missing a baby that I did not have and the negative sabotage would slap me in the face. How could I be missing something that was never there. Kelsey shared some great insight that a friend shared with her, it helped with the self sabotage she was putting on herself about grieving a baby that was never there.
Kelsey also said, but now we are going through this traumatic event and only 4 people know because we were not through the first trimester yet. How do you reach out for support? How do you say you were not important enough to share our good news but your now important enough to share this sad news? I know that is not how it is but that is how I thought it would come across, so we grieved privately. I hate the advice to not tell anyone until you are in your second trimester.
Kelsey's words of advice and encouragement: Don't minimize how you are feeling just because it was an early loss, just because it was a blighted ovum, just because... do not use those words, just because it was this or I should not be grieving, I do not understand why I'm grieving. Women have told me that I do not understand why this hurts so much I was only 9 weeks pregnant. Do not minimize your grief, do not minimize the gravity of the situation like fully embrace how big this story was for you.
Go to a grief counselor, go to a grief therapist, go to a pastor, go to someone that can help you. It will follow you for the rest of your life either way, but I believe that working with someone teaches you coping skills and teaches you perspective and it is so important to be able to move on, to continue to thrive and live this life you were put here to do without just being crushed by grief every single day for the rest of your life.
Links to Kelsey's blogs she referenced: https://www.ignitenourishthrive.com/miscarriage-5-years-later/
https://www.ignitenourishthrive.com/m-is-for-miscarriage-2/
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Andy Karam and his wife experience a tremendous loss of their 2-year-old daughter Fee-Fee due to an accident and then while still grieving were surprised with another pregnancy only to loss that child also. Andy talked about how traumatizing it was to see baby Willow delivered at 14 weeks. She was so tiny, and it is something you cannot prepare for. He said he still sees those images when he thinks of her. We did take pictures of Willow and I remember thinking is this the right thing to do, is it appropriate and I thought I do not want to forget her or these moments.
Andy, now a grief coach shared his feelings and the emotions he felt during the early days of his grief. He talked about there being joy in everyday and at any minute of the day and that does not take away from the grief. Also, Andy said just because you are laughing does not mean that you are ok. It is ok to not be ok. He talked about a friend that always brings up Fee Fee and ask questions about her. She does not shy away from the topic and I told her I do not want her to ever stop asking about Fee Fee and it is NEVER off limits to talk about her.
Andy's words of advice and encouragement: Anyone that is grieving I would encourage you to just be honest and not necessarily honest to other people but to be honest with yourself and what you are feeling. Crying is ok, feeling sad is ok, being angry is ok. There may be days you take 12 steps forward and then the next day you take 20 steps backwards. Find someone or something that gives you peace, that gives you hope and just keep going forward. To someone that knows someone that is grieving, encourage them, validate them, give them the safe place they need to ask questions and do not give advice, do not fix it. TheyDO NOT need to be fixed they need a safe space to share what they are going through and to let it out and to remember.
Connect with Andy via his website: https://www.coralgriefcoaching.com/
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Kristin had a very long journey down the infertility and loss road. Clomid, Letrozole, IUI, change of doctor, a multitude of test, IVF, and losses all along the way. When she got to IVF she said I'm scared about injecting all this into my body. What is it going to do to me? Is it going to work? Is it going to work for me? The unknown made me super emotional about injecting all those hormones in my body.
It was so hard to watch all my close friends get pregnant and none of them had trouble. I withdrew from them because I felt like it was always in my face. It was so hard to see pregnancy announcements and seeing the birth of their babies because I wanted that so badly. The hardest was my younger brother and his wife. I was angry and I felt guilty for feeling like that.
When you have had multiple losses, it is easier to feel like giving up because you just do not want to go through it again. Kristin is 18 weeks pregnant at the time of this recording. She said every thing is going well but she is still very scared.
Kristin's words of advice and encouragement: I want to encourage anyone that has struggled with infertility or has had loss to not lose hope. Be an advocate for yourself, make sure you are doing research. There are test that can be run to identify things that you might be struggling with. Stress is a big factor and this time I let go. Let go and Let God. Keep your mind busy with things if you are struggling. Find activities that are positive and uplifting, walks, yoga, coloring, anything that brings you joy to get your mind off of it because it is all consuming and that can stress you out and that does not help anything. Stay positive. God has different plans for everyone.
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Ann said I wanted a baby, and my body did not agree with that. She did a lot of research and one of the things she learned was how amazingly difficult it was to conceive. There are so many hormones involved and all those hormones must happen in a certain order for a certain amount of time and maybe, just maybe you conceive. She wondered what was wrong with her body and why could not it perform the basics of what the female body should do.
Ann talked about not wasting time with the wrong doctor that in her case discredited the research she had done. What an amazingly strong women she is especially when she talked to her husband and said if he wanted to have children and knowing it was possible, she could not have children, she gave him permission to leave the marriage. What an amazing husband, he gave her injections for 18 months.
Like many women she was very hurt by the words people said during the 4 long years trying to have a child. She talked about being mindful of the words that are said and the effect on someone that we have no idea of what is behind their face. Prayer was the most important part of her journey. Listen to her entire story to hear an amazing journey she had to have a beautiful family to love.
Ann's words of advice and encouragement: Always look forward because hope is ever present, look for the blessings in your journey be mindful of how your journey is changing you and helping you grow especially in your idea of what it means to be a mother, what it means to be a woman. Be aware of how the journey that you are currently facing is preparing you for the future. You have no idea what else lies before you both in joy and in challenge. The challenge of infertility is only one aspect of your current life, yet the experience is molding you in ways that impact every element of who you are meant to be so embrace it, seek peace, and have hope.
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Shannon started bleeding at 16 weeks pregnant and was told that she was probably having a miscarriage. She did not miscarry but was put on bedrest and continued to bleed for 10 more weeks. At 26 weeks her water broke, and pre-term labor started. When her sweet little baby boy was 3 days old, they were told that his organs were not developing and were given the option to keep him on the machines, but he would not have a life or to take him off the machines.
Shannon was 19 years old and it was a very hard decision to make at such a young age. The decision was made to turn off the machines and we held him until he passed. I was in complete shock, I totally shut down and blamed my husband. I was so scared and did not want to go through another pregnancy. The whole pregnancy was awful from severe morning sickness which ended up with hospital visits, the bleeding and then the loss. I had a really hard time with the grief and my family did not respect my time to grieve. I had to push them away so I could grieve the death of my son.
Shannon's words of advice and encouragement: You must do what is right for yourself and do not let people influence you. Seek out the right doctor and get a second opinions. Find people that are supportive when you are ready. Do what is right for you and do not let others talk you into things that you do not feel comfortable with.
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Barb and Jim spent 5 years on the infertility path and the journey was up and down for both of them. It was a very emotional time with questions like, Why us? Why not us? Why can't this happen for us? Barb said I knew God had a plan for us, but I did not get there immediately but I keep trusting.
A door opened for them to adopt an infant little boy which was the start of their beautiful family. Jim said, if we could be paid a $1.00 then for every time someone told us, now you can relax, and you will have your own baby. Barb said, it was hard to see and understand why others were getting pregnant, but it was not happening for us. You do all the things that the medical field has to offer to become pregnant and nothing happens. I still wonder what it would be like to be pregnant. What is it like to feel the baby move? What is it like to give birth? Of course, these are things that I will never experience, but it does not mean that I am not grateful for the journey we have had.
They have been able to comfort many others through their infertility journeys in their ministries. Barb has been able to minister and talk with birth mothers and specifically thank them for giving a child to someone that could not have one.
Barb and Jim's advice and encouragement: Jim said when we found out their infertility struggles could be because of him; he remembers talking to a friend and just crying. We were blessed that we had people to walk along side of us and to be open with each other. Be open to others to talk about the stresses so that when you are walking this journey and are hurting deep inside yourself there are others with you. There is blessing in other people that truly can share your hurt and struggle with your loss. Barb encourages parents that have lost their babies to find their voice and to talk about their babies and talk about their story. Sometime people feel embarrassed that they cannot get pregnant, but it happens, and it happens more then you realize but the more you talk about it the more awareness there is. Do not give up and take advantage of all the medical help you have that is out there but, keep our mind and heart open to other ways to have a baby because there are children that need loving homes.
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The Journey from a vasectomy to IVF to being foster parents to embryo adoption to the family God had planned for us. Desiree and her family were all heart broken when a foster child was reunited with a birth family member, which they knew was the best for the child. They then decided to adopt a child and as they were talking to the adoption agency it was suggested that they consider an embryo adoption. Desiree said, I thought my uterus was retired but after looking into Snowflake Adoption, it felt right so they decided to move forward.
Desiree and Chris created a profile and before long they were matched with an adoptive family. They wanted to have things in common with the adoptive family like loving the outdoors, so the child felt like they belong. The adoption went through and before long Desiree was pregnant with a little boy. Their plan was to have 1 kiddo after adopting 3 embryos but at the time of this recording Desiree is pregnant with a second little one. She gives an amazing amount of detailed information about the process of embryo adoption during this episode.
Desiree's advice and encouragement for you the listeners.
One thing that is very clear to me, is that every single person was created for a purpose and life is about finding that purpose. I have seen people go down the infertility road and God has done amazing things in their journey. There is really no advice to give to make the journey easier, it is just hard but so worth it.
You are created for so much. There is a plan out there for you, so open your heart and mind for that plan and take your hands of the wheel and let God steer you to where you're supposed to go.
The agency that Desiree and Chris used: https://nightlight.org/snowflakes-embryo-adoption-donation/
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Rachal said, we were healthy and ready to start our family. We had good jobs, a house, savings accounts, and we had even checked out daycares, but it was not happening. I was not sharing our struggles because I am a very private person but I had started to do some research and then decided to talk to a friend. People are placed in our life for a reason, she was the right person to get us connected to a fertility doctor.
We found support through a chat room the doctor’s office had set up. The group we found were all going through infertility struggles and started IVF at the same time. We were textbook but we were worried about sharing our good news because we did not know if everyone else had good news.
Even though it was years ago, the mindset, heartache and joy are all the same, but technology has changed for sure but the desire, love and heart break are the same.
Rachel's advice and encouragement:
Finding a good group of support is most important, family is great but connecting with other couples and women to be there for each other. Lean on them and that will be where your peace will be found. There is always hope and it happens when you least expect it. Keep all your options open and be ready for all the twist and turns it may take.
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All the plans I had for my son ended at a 35-week routine doctor’s appointment when we were told there was no heartbeat. Those were the hardest words I had ever heard. All the hopes and dreams of a son were gone. It was tuff to see my wife going through so much pain during labor knowing she was going to deliver our stillborn baby boy. It was damn hard.
I was thankful to the staff that helped us through the decisions that needed to be made. I cherish the pictures of our baby boy with 10 toes, 10 fingers, a nose, eyes and set of lips. It was not long, and we were pregnant again but at ended with a miscarriage at 11 weeks. I was so heart broken and felt like a failure. We were both so scared to become pregnant again.
I keep our losses very close to my heart but when I did share about them, so many people wanted to come and wrap their arms around me. You learn that you have so many things in common, the same hurt, feeling of failure and the same struggles. I think that community of love is one of the best things we had.
Steve's Advice: If your loss is very fresh and raw or if it has been 15 years ago. Lean on each other and do not give up on each other. Do not give up on yourself even if your partner, spouse, or best friend may not be showing grief in the same way you are, stick together. We both clammed up and we ended up divorced. That is one thing I wish we would have fought harder for. Try to be understanding of your partners feelings even if there not showing them.
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I wanted to share the joy in my heart today for all the guest I have had over the last six months. They have all been amazing in sharing so much information to help others that are struggling with infertility or have had a loss. Even with all the heartache, pain, disappointment, and grief that they have all endured they continue daily to share their stories and the knowledge they have learned through their journey to have a family to hold in their arms as well as the children they hold in their hearts. With every episode my guest continue to change and teach our society that we need to talk more about the struggles and the losses. To reach out and to continue reaching out to those that are feeling alone on their journey.
I am in awe of the strength of every guest to endure through receiving devastating diagnosis of infertility to being told there is nothing that can be done to save their babies. I am also in awe of the marriages that have been kept strong through the difficult journeys and the unconditional love given to foster and adopted children.
My joy is so great for all these women and men that give so much to have their families and to help many more families by sharing with others that they are not alone, and they are available to support as many as they can.
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Anne & Patti from the National Share Office are two amazingly compassionate women that will work diligently with their staff to find you the support you need after a loss. A tremendous number of resources can be found through their office and online at http://nationalshare.org/
There are free brochures for early loss, stillborn, newborn loss, couples, fathers, grandparents grieving, lactation after loss, processing grief, creating keepsakes, honoring your baby, how to support the grieving parents, pregnancy after a loss and more. They also have support groups in person and online.
They have a great companion program in place to help those suffering from a loss. It is a tremendous help to have someone that has walked that same path that has healed and is thriving when you are going through the loss. You feel very alone and isolated but to have someone sitting next to you that has been through it and is there to be with is very helpful.
Not everything goes well when you lose a baby and there is a lot of people that may not say the right thing or do the right things, but they are trying. Parents that have experienced loss have a desire to help other people, through their own grief experience in a way that they were not supported. They can fill those gaps and can give more support because they know exactly what you are going through.
The Share Office is available to help families whether a recent loss or it has been a year ago or years later. We want to help them understand that there are still ways to stay connected to their babies and there are many ways to do that through the Share office.
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Roxy Jenkins is the mom of 1 daughter and 4 angels, and their journey is not over. Even though she was diagnosed with PCOS in high school she did not know that the infertility thing would happen to them. When they were given the diagnosis of infertility, they knew it would be difficult, but they knew they could still have kids.
Their journey started with a doctor that believed in just keep doing the same thing over and over again until something happens. It never did so after a year they found a new doctor. Roxy said the second doctor started her on clomid and found that she could ovulate, and that the problem was that they just could not conceive. With having insurance coverage for infertility treatments, they tried IUI with no success. They were then referred to Dr. Molina Dayal a Reproductive Endocrinologist. Dr. Molina Dayal did numerous amounts of test to help them to become pregnant which they did, but that pregnancy became their first loss. More test to figure out more of what was going on to discover she had Natural Killer Cells, a partial DQ alpha match and autoimmune issues. With all the new findings medications where changed and they became pregnant again. Roxy said it’s not a fun thing to say but we became veterans in IVF fertility. Listen to her story because she went into great details that can help you on your journey.
I asked Roxy how she dealt with all the failed attempts and the losses. She chose to tell their story, all the ups and downs on social media. She knew someone needed to speak up about infertility. When she shared her story, she found that friends were struggling as well, which helped her to not feel so isolated. As she continued her journey, she began to paint their embryos that stuck. She then started paint friends’ embryos. What started out as therapy for herself is now a business where she has painted over 600 embryos for people all over the world. She said every single story that is shared with me about these embryos tells me that I am not alone and we now all belong to a very large community of people.
Roxy's business website: https://www.dearcocodesign.com/
She also can be found on Facebook, Instagram under Dear CoCo Designs and she has an Esty store.
Roxy's words of encouragement and advice:
You know what is best for you. If you are at a doctor and it's not working for you, switch doctors. If you want to fight for your case do it. If you think you have gone too far financially or mentally and you cannot do it anymore, if quitting is your option right now then do it. You know what is best for you. No one knows the exact position you are in and no one can be put in your shoes to understand. If you take it too far you are going to resent yourself and if you do not do enough you will resent yourself as well. So, you must know what you are willing to do and how far you are willing to go and only you and your partner can make that decision. Everyone is going to have a million different opinions, but it is up to you and your partner to decide and that is all that it should be.
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Stacy Williams is a woman that has touched and changed the lives of hundreds of children in the St. Louis Area. She knew when she was 11 or 12 years old that she was called to adopt children. The women in her life were great role models and showed her from a very young age to help those in need. Even though she knew she wanted to adopt children she also wanted to have her own biological child before adopting. Her first pregnancy ended with the loss of her son Austin. He was so wanted and loved but God's plan and her plan were not the same. When she lost Austin, she regrets not holding him and not taking pictures but is so grateful for the nurse that asked her if there was anything she could do. Stacy asked for a birth certificate with Austin's footprint on it. Normally the hospital does not give birth certificates for a baby born so early but the nurse knew how much Stacy wanted it to have something to remember Austin.
Stacy unofficially started Austin's Place, a non-profit in honor of her son by collecting cloths and food to give to children in need. Several months after the loss of Austin a baby girl became available to foster and then adopt. This was only the beginning of the children that Stacy would welcome into her home. Listen to the entire podcast to hear how Stacy brought several children into her home to love.
Here is a list of items Stacy collects to help children in the St. Louis Area through Austin’s Place.
Clothes, diapers, wipes, unopened formula, book bags, bath towels, face towels, notepads, journals, coloring books, pens, pencils, crayons, and small stuffed animals. Please reach out to Stacy via email if you would like to donate. stacyj1024@gmail.com
Stacy's words of encouragement and advice:
If you have suffered a loss, I want to encourage you to speak with someone. Your family is normally there to help you in the first weeks of the loss, but you may need to find others as you continue your journey. Seek out people that will support you through every part of your journey. I encourage you to tell your story, it will help you and others.
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Robyn thought it would be easy to have children since she and her husband Matt both came from large families. We tried clomid for 19 months and I had some severe reactions the first month. How do you become intimate with your spouse when you have gained 40 lbs. from a drug that is supposed to help you become pregnant?
Matt used testosterone cream to hopeful increase his sperm count and his count went to zero. The doctor told us we would have to do a sperm donor or adoption if we ever wanted to have children. We were devastated by this news, but I do not stay down long. I am a fixer and by the next day I was in contact with a family member that had struggled with infertility and a new plan was in motion. I was not settling for that answer for our family.
We went to a new doctor and was very hopeful but after a couple tries, he was giving up on us. A new doctor, new medication protocol and things were looking up again. Our insurance would only cover one more try. We had 4 blastocysts left, 2 good ones and 2 that were not very good, but this was it, the last try so they were all transferred. It had been 3 very long years of struggles and disappointments, so we kept our hearts guarded in case there was more disappointing news. Listen to Robyn's inspiring story to hear about their loss and about the beautiful family they now have.
Robyn's Encouragement and Advice:
If you are having infertility problems, go to a specialist right away. Do not be afraid to ask someone for advice and for a shoulder to cry on. Be willing to accept Gods will for what is supposed to happen and do not forget to pray.
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Connie said we were the first to get married of our friends and last to have children. We struggled with infertility due to PCOS, but once we started to discover the problems, I was happy we moved pretty fast because my husband was in the medical field. We became pregnant with IVF and thought the worst was behind us. I was not aware of the statistic of pregnancy loss. When it happened to us, I was shocked at the number of pregnancies that end in a loss. Several years after the loss of Hope a friend told me to stop beating myself up about it and that our loved ones want us happy and they want to be close to us. Listen to how Connie is able to do just that.
Connie and Tim previously helped with a marriage enrichment program and knew that infertility and pregnancy loss impacted a marriage greatly and increased the possibility of divorce. With this knowledge they wrote a grief journal to help themselves and to help others that had experienced a pregnancy loss.
They were told if they would ever get pregnant again that they would have another loss. This was devastated news. I started researching and working on naturally healing myself and it was not long, and I was pregnant. I enjoyed being pregnant as best I could, but I was always worried and scared the entire pregnancy.
Connie recently lost her miracle son Nicholas at 18 years old. Listen to her tell how losing her first child during pregnancy helped her develop coping strategies that helped her in the loss of her adult son. She said she did not want her son’s death and legacy to be that his death destroyed his mother.
Connie's encouragement and advice:
The most important decision you will make in your life is whether things in your life are happening to you or if things are happening for you and it is very easy in our society to be someone like, poor me and society will support you in that. There is the road less traveled which is where you discover how life is happening for our highest and best good because God loves us so much and to look for the blessings and it is hard. My broken mothers’ heart would much rather have my babies here and the middle of all that there is a blessing if you look for it. Connie gave great examples of how she found blessings in the infertility and the loss of Hope and Nicholas.
There is a spiritual realm that most people do not tap into or acknowledge to have their loved ones close to them. Look for the Blessings. I focus on the time I had with them and the blessings they gave me.
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Shannon is an inspiration for all women that are struggling with having a live birth. With all six pregnancy she has endured painful cramping and bleeding and is working to get as healthy as she can to have a family to love. She talks about having to make the decision to deliver at 20 weeks to save her life. She was told the decision is one funeral or two because her health was declining rapidly. She was diagnosis with having HELP Syndrome and the concern was that her liver would burst if she continued the pregnancy. Listen to hear her explain about the HELP Syndrome.
While she was in labor, she had to ask that the heart monitor be turned off because she could not see or hear the baby’s heartbeat knowing that her baby was not going to make it. Shannon said nothing can prepare you for the death of your baby.
They were so thankful for the nurse that helped them in making decisions after deliver. Taking pictures was a hard decision but the nurse was amazing helping us and also took additional pictures so we will always remember Ellie. The hospital stay for her to recover was very hard she said she just wanted to go home and cry with her husband. She talks openly about difficult things during delivery, her hospital stay, the funeral planning and her grief that is up and down.
Shannon's advice and encouragement:
If a family is what you want, just keep trying. I said that I don't think I can do this anymore. It takes a toll on your body physically and mentally, but you do not know how strong you are until you have to be. I feel I was forced to be strong and you really don’t know what you can handle until you’re in the middle of it. I still have up's and down's and bad months, but I just stay positive. I am just staying hopeful and that is all I can do because I'm still going through it.
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Cassie & Mike knew that their desire to have a family was not going to be easy due to Cassie have severe PCOS. After talking with their doctor and trying months of pharmaceutical medications they were told their choices to have a family was either to try IVF or adoption. Having to make this difficult decision they decided to take a 21 day cruise to talk about what to do and to make sure that they were both in agreement with the decision that they were going to make. When they got home the decision was IVF and they were ready to start and the whirlwind began.
It's a hurry and wait, hurry and wait process. Cassie talked about watching the monitor as they did the IVF. She said I watched myself get pregnant. They were very fortunate to have Mike's sister and brother-in-law that had recently went through IVF so it was so helpful to have them to ask questions and they now have helped and supported multiple couples going through IVF.
Cassie was hospitalized due to pre-eclampsia but after a month in the hospital they could no longer control it with medication. At 29 weeks and 3 days the twins needed to be delivered or they could loss all of them. The girls were delivered and spent 2 months in the NICU with ups and downs due to being born so early. Cassie said Mike was her rock, he spent the entire time with her except for going to work. Listen to their entire story and hear about his amazing support. They are definitely a couple that has a very strong relationship and were totally together on all the decisions that needed to be made during their infertility journey even when the decision needed to be made about the frozen embryos
Mike & Cassie's words of advice and encouragement:
Find a couple that has gone through infertility before to help you with support. We have already helped 5 or 6 couples by either directing them to a doctor, hospital, or OB's. By just listening, giving shoots, organizing medicine, and just supporting them. Find the person you are comfortable with to talk to whether a family member, friend, or a complete stranger. Having that support made it much easier for us.
Don't place blame on the person having the infertility struggle. Work as a team to support each other.
Don't give up with the first diagnosis. If you want to have a family seek out the way to have it. Don't let a diagnosis stand in your way of having a family and don't let infertility drag your relationship down. Take care of each other.
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Dawn describes herself as a train wreck during her pregnancy with Zoey who was diagnosed with Trisomy 18. Listen to how she navigated through such devastating news and continued to have hope along the way. She held her breath at every doctor’s appointment until they could hear Zoey's heartbeat because she could have passed away at any time during the pregnancy. Dawn was hoping the entire pregnancy that she would be able to meet her little girl and that day came at 42 weeks when she was induced. Zoey was able to go home from the hospital with Hospice care and lived 120 days. Listen to hear about the cherished memories that Dawn, and her husband were able to create with Zoey during her short life and how she touched and changed people’s lives forever.
Dawn and her husband still wanted a family and went through IVF with no success and then choose to adopt through a private agency. The adoption process is not an easy process. Lots of paperwork, interviews and our whole life was handed over to someone to inspect everything about our life. They now have a beautiful family through adoption so enjoy listening and gain some insight so you can help others on their journey to be parents.
Encouragement and Advice from Dawn:
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Hope was always in the forefront for us. Hope might change many times over during your journey but even in the end, you have to find peace with everything you have been through. I just always want people to believe that hope is there. We had hope that we would meet our little girl. Hope that we would have a day with her. Hope that she was at peace.
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Allow yourself to feel whatever emotions you need to. You are going to be angry, you're going to have fear, you’re going to have jealousy. You have to allow yourself to feel that darkness but don't stay there too long, you have to try to find your way back to hope, healing and joy. Come back to the lite side of things but you are allowed to feel them and don't listen to people that tell you can't feel that way.
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Broken can still be beautiful. Our path is broken as parents, it is broken but it still has value, and it is still beautiful and your story has value too.
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LOVE WINS
Hospice Resource: https://www.bjchospice.org/Wings
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Ann-Marie had so much trauma on her journey to have a family. She experienced severe Hyperemesis Gravidarum in several of her pregnancy and was hospitalized. During her first pregnancy she lost so much weight and was down to 82lbs due to the hyperemesis. She had extreme bleeding during pregnancy which you would have thought she was miscarrying but did not. Her oldest daughter called the hospital my mom's house because of the amount of time she was there.
Ann-Marie said the hardest thing I have ever done was to hand my baby that had died to the nurse because everything in my body was screaming protect your baby and do not let someone take him. I felt crazy and nuts with my grief. I had to force myself to sleep, eat and walk
How does a woman go through four very difficult pregnancies, the loss of a child due to a clotting disorder, a premature birth and then go on to have a natural birth and to be able to breastfeed? Listen to Ann-Marie's story to hear all the beautiful moments that she experienced amidst the heartache and trauma.
Ann-Marie's encouragement and advice:
Do not do it alone and it is totally normal to need support. We want to be strong and people expect us to be strong but you have lost a precious and beloved child that you cared so much about and you carried in your body and it is right to seek out support whether a friend, family, a support group or counselor. There are so many ways to find support and I hate to think about people going through this alone. Be patient with yourself as you work for things to feel better and you many need more help during different seasons.
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Carol said our mindset needs to be shifted from the expectation that every women that becomes pregnant is going to have a 40-week healthy baby. That in itself is a miracle! That healthy 40-week pregnancy is not the norm.
Carol and Jon had an 18-week ultrasound scheduled on their daughter's birthday. She was going to see her little brother or sister for the first time. Something was not right that morning, so Carol went in early to be checked and was told that she was 9 cm dilated and in active labor. Jon rushed to the office and an ultrasound was done to discover that they were having twin boys that day. There was nothing medical they could do to stop the labor. Their lungs were not developed enough but the hope was to deliver the first little boy and the labor would stop so she could carry the second little boy longer. Both boys were delivered alive but only lived for a short period of time. The hospital care was amazing in helping us with every step.
I remember my milk coming in the morning of the boy’s funeral and I remember in that moment how awful that was because here I was going to bury my children instead of feeding them. The grief was so heavy and overwhelming.
I feared the question that people always ask. How many children do you have? The grocery store was a big trigger for me because I would go in the morning with my daughter before her nap just like all the other moms, some with multiple children or women that were pregnant, this was very difficult. It was so empowering though when a woman told me that everyone does not have the right to know your story.
I did a lot of reading and journaling to help me through the grief but to also find answers to why. In the search there were no good answers for what we went through and that was not ok. So, we started a nonprofit to honor the boys and to support research. The goal of the research is to help women of multiples to carry their babies longer and to have healthy babies.
Carol's words of encouragement and advice:
Know that you are loved more than you might know in the moment, more than your able to feel, and know there are groups that are out there like Share to help you. Do not lose hope if you are unable to find people to talk to because you are not alone. Do not stop talking to your family, spouse or partner and your friends because you think they do not want to know. Sometimes people just do not know what to say, but I found that people are better listeners then conversation starters. Find someone that wants to listen and allows you some space to share without telling you how to feel, how to fix it, when to stop grieving or when to move on.
Carol & Jon's Nonprofit: https://www.interwovensouls.org
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Candace and her husband experienced a very early miscarriage that they did not completely heal from until they lost their little girl at 21 weeks. They then needed to grieve both losses. They started out with a support group connected to The Share Organization, some individual counseling, reading, and journaling also helped. Candace researched books to read but unfortunately her library did not have any of the books. She ended up purchasing 2 of every book she wanted to read and donated one to the library in her daughter’s name to help others with their grief.
During that time, we continued to try to have a family but started struggled with infertility. We had no idea why. We had exhausted all the test and had switched doctors. My husband would have been done after the second loss, but I still had that burning desire to have a family. The infertility may have done more damage to our marriage then the losses themselves. Through all the grief, turmoil, and trauma we got pulled apart.
I invite you to listen to Candace's entire story about her losses, the family they now have and how she learned to love her body again after it would not do what she wanted.
Advice and Encouragement from Candace:
Remember the love that started your journey, and it will take you back to your partner. Remember to hang on to the things you love about yourself and your life. Stay connected to love because we get so deep into grief, we have a hard time coming out of the dark. Love will heal you, so stay in love with yourself, your partner and keep love in your heart because it will get you through the worst days of grief.
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Derlene is a dear friend and personal development success coach that had a few questions about supporting friends through infertility struggles and loss. We had a great conversation about a few does and don'ts but of course not enough time to talk about all of them, but I think the most common came up in our conversation. Things like what to say or do and what not to say or do.
The number one thing is to be there for them, do not avoid them. No one has been taught on how to minister to a friend grieving but our best advice is just be present with them and listen. This is a time that they need you more than ever. One big thing that makes us feel uncomfortable is talking about the loss but for the person grieving it is one of the most important things to talk about. It gives meaning to the loss of their baby.
Do not be disappointed in things you may have said to someone in the past or maybe did not do. We only know what we know and can only do what we knew at the time. I hope after listening to our conversation you will know a little more about helping a friend or family member during one of the most difficult times of their life.
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Nichole and her husbands journey started in 2011. They had no idea that they would have to experience so many losses, test, procedures, surgeries, IUI's and IVF's. She had family, friends and work clients that wanted to help support them with the financial expenses that they were enduring so they donated through a Go-Fund-Me Account. She just kept thinking we are not getting any younger.
After so much heartache, loss, grief, and the mental and physical toll on her mind and body someone reached out to recommend a different doctor. They decided to continue their journey and loved this new doctor. She reviewed her medical records and recommended one new test. That was it, they finally had an answer to what was going wrong, but this doctor also discovered fibroid tumors on her uterus. She needed surgery and then a 6-month recovery time after surgery. The biological clock was still ticking and that was still not the end of the heartache but take the time to listen to Nichole's story and fight to now have 3 beautiful children.
Nichole's advice and encouragement:
Not everyone goes through such a long journey but do not compare your story with others. Your story is unique for you and there is no magic solution. Find support. You need a person to talk to and if it is not family or a friend seek out a counselor to help you through the mental, physical, and emotional difficulties. I look forward to others reaching out to me for help through their journey.
Reference by Nichole: Resolve Non-profit Organization: https://resolve.org/
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Amanda shares her journey through some very tough years of anxiety. I remember when I was told, I am sorry your baby passed away 4 weeks ago. There are moments in life when you remember things but sometimes not as vividly as others. I remember this experience like it was yesterday. I can see it in my mind like a movie. Every part of it was extremely traumatic. I walked in the office thinking I was pregnant and then I had to make a decision to miscarry naturally or to have a D&C. This is where my downward spiral started.
7 miscarriages with no explanation why took a toll on my body and my marriage. I put my life on hold for years to maybe have a second baby. When you are dealing with infertility there is always a glimmer of hope. It is obsessive.
Amanda's Advice:
1st: Look for a community when dealing with infertility struggles. It's very lonely and it feels like you are the only person going through what you are experiencing. Find someone that understands, You may need to connect with a complete stranger that totally understands, find your tribe.
2nd: Do not put your life on hold for what could be. There are ways to find joy without having a baby. Live your life and find joyful moments.
3rd: Focus on things that you can control. Improve your MIND, BODY & SPIRIT. It is a gift to be on the other side and to provide hope and joyful fulfillment to others.
Amanda's website: https://mywellbalancedlife.com/
Website Amanda Referenced; https://natural-fertility-info.com/
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Joann Michalik is a Certified Grief Coach with Ouch it's Grief. She shared her story of the loss of her 4-year-old son and then a miscarriage that put her through deep grief. No one asked how I was doing. They did not know how to help me. I had to move forward for my 2 living sons. I had to work through grief and then decided I wanted to help others move from Tragedy to Triumph like I had done.
We often feel uncomfortable when approaching someone we know who is grieving. It’s hard to know what to say or do. The best thing to say to someone that has had a loss is: I cannot imagine what you are going through but I am here to support you. How can I help you? Continue to reach out to them and just spend time with them. Do not be afraid of reminding the person of the loss, they are already thinking about them.
Joann shared signs and symptoms of grief to help you have a better understanding. She has tools and techniques to help.
Joann's advice:
Your emotions are REAL and do not disregard them. Give yourself permission and time to process the devastating loss you have experienced. If you do not go through the grieving process the grief will resurfaces later. Your grief is unique to you.
Book Reference: Experience Grief by Norman Wright
Joann's website: https://www.ouch-its-grief.com/
Look for her Grief Quiz and reach out for her 30 minute free consultation
email: joann@ouch-its-grief.com phone # 708-408-7445
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Megan and her husband struggled for 4 years to have a family. She said it felt like a chore to try to conceive while on fertility drugs. They relooked at everything and decided to step back and just live their lives and see where things would go.
They still wanted to be parents and investigated private adoption. Besides the expense they felt like it was a transaction, like buying a car. It just did not feel right for them. While going out for a date night there was an organization at the movie theater sharing information about the Foster Care System. The "F" word, Foster has such a negative connotation with many people. After getting more information from Restore Network they decided to go through classes and get certified to have children placed in their home. This was not how we expected to have a family, but we wanted children to love.
Take the time to listen to Megan's story especially the example she gave on how the children and their parents feel as they are put into the Foster Care system. Such a heartfelt explanation
Megan's Advice: I would like to remind women that are struggling that it is ok to be not ok. Your feelings are valid so share them and do not keep them inside because it will make it a lot worst by pushing it deep down inside. Speak up for yourself. Know where you want to go. What you are going through is going to make it 10 times better when you achieve that goal whether in the way you envisioned or not.
The Restore Network Organization changing the culture of Foster Care https://therestorenetwork.org/
Movie Referenced: Instant Family
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During her residence to become a physician Dr. Molina started struggling with infertility and loss. After 3 miscarriages she then experienced not being able to get pregnant at all. She had specialized in infertility and that was exactly what she was experiencing. She knew 50% of infertility is unexplained but it was still difficult.
With all her knowledge about infertility, knowing that normally infertility is something with the embryo they decided to adopt. IVF is a 50-50 chance of conceiving. I was going for 100%. I was going to be 100% childless or a 100% chance I am going to have a family through adoption. The end result is that we have a beautiful daughter. I am grateful now for my entire journey because it definitely makes me a doctor that can totally relate and understand exactly what my patients are going through. I invite you to listen to her entire story.
Dr. Molina's advice:
My journey sucked. It was one of the hardest things I had to go through but now that I have come on the other side, I am incredible grateful for my journey. It has given me so much insight. It made me grow as a person and provided me the ability to be a better parent. I just want everyone to know there are so many ways of forming a family. Everyone has a journey and they may be similar, but they are so incredibly unique. Keep the faith with whatever decision you make and never think that it was a bad one.
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Tameika went to the doctor to have a procedure done to find out that she was pregnant. This was devastating and shocking news for a single woman that was about to end the relationship she was in. I was in total denial about the pregnancy so I did not go back to the doctor for several months and when I finally went I was told I was pregnant with twins. WOW
I was scheduled for an ultrasound at 26 weeks to find out the gender of the twins. I found out that I was going to have twin girls and that I was completely dilated and was having them that day. I was immediately prepped for an emergency C-section because one of the placentas had already released. I was struggling with even focusing on what was going on. it was like an out of body experience.
I woke to overhearing that one of the girls had died. Avery only lived for about 30 minutes. Aubrey the second baby struggled because she was so tiny and only lived 2 days. Even though they only lived such a short time, I am extremely grateful to the nursing staff for shared so many amazing stories about the girls in their very short lives.
7 years after losing Avery and Aubrey I have started a nonprofit. Avery and Aubrey's Way was created to assist families experiencing financial hardship that occurred after the neonatal death of a newborn infant, as well as provide emotional and spiritual support during their time of loss.
Tameika's advice: If your pregnancy was not planned like mine, you may feel shame, guilt or embarrassment but do not let it dictate the rest of your life. Everything happens for a reason and turn it into something beautiful. Also allow your loved ones to love on you. Let them help you through the grief that is always with you.
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Dr. Kristan Wilson is a board-certified chiropractic physician in both Missouri and Illinois. With having hormonal struggles at a very young age she has a passion to help women overcome hormonal imbalances like PCOS and infertility so that they can finally live in optimal health and luminous vitality. She uses conservative care to either get your body healthy enough to conceive on its own or use it as a way to increase odds with medical interventions. She empowers women to take care of their health, hormones, and fertility.
1 in 6 women struggle with infertility and so many suffer in silence. She has a very full toolbox and for patients that have done her whole program she has a 100% success rate. She has been able to increase the success rate of IVF to 60-65%. There is no part of an infertility journey that is easy no matter what route you take. You just have to decide which path is best for you and your family.
Books Dr Kristan referenced - Taking Charge of Your Fertility, by Toni Weschler MPH
Well Adjusted Babies, Second Edition, by Dr. Jennifer Barham-Floreani
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Have you been given the awful diagnosis of infertility? It seems to be given frequently and is very devastating to receive. Brittany and her husband wanted a family but after a year of trying was diagnosed with infertility. The blame and shame began. Infertility is a very heavy word to hear and to deal with. She avoided the medical field for the next year even though she had tremendous pain with her menstrual cycle. She thought suck it up buttercup this pain is just part of your monthly cycle.
She finally went back to the doctor when she could not bear the pain to be given the diagnoses of endometriosis. She was told she needed surgery and was happy to finally be given an answer to the pain and the infertility. Brittany was so excited about having an answer and the doctor assured her that he could handle the surgery, but afterwards she wished she would have gotten a second opinion. The surgery was not a success. ALWAYS search to find the right doctor. I went to a specialist who gave the diagnosis of Stage 4 endometriosis.
Brittany and her husband tried for 4 1/2 years to have a family to love. She gives some great tips and encouragement to help couples that our going through a very difficult journey. She is someone that battled a lot of challenges to finally have 3 beautiful children.
Brittany's Advice: You are not alone and there is more to come in your life. I wish there was a podcast like this to listen to when I was going through my journey. I felt very alone and knew no one that was struggling because of course you don't talk about it. The blame and shame was real. Do Not Google to find answers, seek out someone that can support you through your journey because you story is not finished. Reach out to Teresa to receive support and connect to find the support you need.
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Denise and her husband lost their beautiful daughter Molly Rose days after delivery, due to a heart condition. She was just born before the advance in technology that could have saved her life. Babies born today with heart conditions either have the heart repaired in utero or shortly after birth. We had some very difficult decisions to make and were so young. I do not think I even realized the depth of what was happening. I just did not realize the heaviness of the loss at the time.
We had tremendous support in the decision making that had to happen and that support continued from family and friends. She was so thankful for a group of girlfriends that one day just came over and said get dressed and let’s go. They knew what I needed that day. She also had great support from a group called AMEND. (It does not look like they still exist in the St. Louis area, but they are available in other parts of the country.)
The loss of my daughter has been the most significant experience in my life. It taught and made me who I am today. I have more compassion and understanding for others. I have supported and helped many other mothers that have lost a baby or a child. My heart just aches in a different way for others that experience a loss like I did.
We celebrate our daughter every year close to her birthday. I do hope that my other daughters will always celebrate the sister they never knew. There are other times during the year that I get her box out and go through it to remember her by myself. Denise said she is a closet song writer and wrote a song for her daughter and still 35 years later her husband will still ask if she will play and sing the song. They both are connected and will always have that connection through their experience.
Denise had 3 more daughters after Molly Rose, even though the fear factor was great, and Denise had lost a tube due to a tubal pregnancy but still had 2 more daughters after that. Her last daughter was a total surprise at the age of 44. When she gets to heaven, she wants to ask God WHY Molly Rose and Maureen, WHAT were you thinking!
Denise's Advice:
The loss of a child can make or break a marriage, communication is key. We never pushed it under the rug and were always there for each other. The friends support was huge and thankfully they just came and got me out of my house. I have learned to be a better person and the experience changed me. There is always hope and no words heal anything, just be there for those that have had a loss.
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Barb is a nurse at Anderson Hospital in Maryville, IL and manages the Share Organization at the hospital. She is a woman that has many years of experience on the job and training through the National Share Organization. Her and the staff are very professional in helping families during the most difficult time of their life. Barb and the staff at the hospital have been trained to come to the need of parents that have lost their child in utero or shortly after birth.
When she became the nurse to manage the organization, she truly wanted to know the needs and concerns of the parents that had lost children. The biggest concern was that there is not enough awareness in the community. Barb and the staff have worked very hard to bring more awareness of the loss of babies and the services they have in place to help families.
While in the hospital the staff walks the parents through the decisions that need to be made during this difficult time. After leaving the hospital the support continues with communication and support groups. The support groups are very important for the families. It is a safe place to cry, vent and to share their story and receive support from families that have been through a loss. Sharing your story gives meaning and purpose to the baby that was lost way to soon. Grief of a child is a forever journey.
The Share Organization at Anderson host several events during the year. If you have not been to any of their events, I encourage you to attend to bring awareness even if you have not been directly affected. If you are not local there are over 100 chapters in the county and internationally, visit the National Share Organization website to find a chapter near you and all the events that are planned yearly to honor the children that were lost way to early. http://nationalshare.org/
Barb talked about the Angel of Hope statue at the hospital and the beautiful story behind the statue. Book: The Christmas Box by Richard Paul Evans There are 100's of Angel of Hope Statues all over the country to remember all the babies we are not able to hold in our arms but only in our hearts.
Barb's Advice on Spreading Awareness and Words of Encouragement:
Most important things in the first few weeks...... Get out of bed, Eat Something and take a shower. These are small task but vitally important. Take this life event and live your life with the loss being a part of it. Be brave and Share your Story. Grief does soften with time but learn to know what triggers your grief. Search Infancy loss for tons of support and search social media for support groups. It is most important that you get support from somewhere. You are not alone and should not go through this difficult journey alone.
The Film trailer for Don't Talk about the Baby: https://youtu.be/8IDCYV74xpI
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Jeff and his wife decided while dating that they would need to start a family right away after getting married due to their age. Well, they started a little earlier because they had no trouble getting pregnant. They wanted two children. "One to replace him and one to replace her". The first two trimesters of the pregnancy were great but during the third trimester problems started. Jeff said his wife was panicking when they were told they were going to have their little girl early do to the complications. He was like a typical guy, like not really knowing what that meant. He was in shock at how his little girl looked. She was so so tiny and thin, but she did well.
Surprise!!! Pregnant with baby 2. Even though his wife was high risk they chose to not switch doctors. They were going to have 2 little girls very close in age and Jeff was so excited to have 2 daddy's girls. First two trimesters were good again. At 30 weeks his wife began to feel sick again but this time worst then the first pregnancy. Their beautiful little girl did not make it. All the dreams of 2 little girls that would be so close were gone. This is a heart wrenching story.
The guilt and blame started. Why didn't we switch doctors? Why didn't I see the symptoms and get her to the hospital sooner? I could have lost my wife also. What if we would have gone to the doctor Friday? What if she could have hung on until Monday?
After delivery, his wife was in ICU for several days. Planning a funeral for their little girl by himself was very very difficult. Jeff said he wrote her eulogy because it was going to be the only time to honor his beautiful little girl. The loss of our little girl created a very strong bond between my wife and me. He went back and forth between guilt and fate.
Even though his wife got so sick with both girls they decided to have another child. It was very important this time to pick the right doctor and to deliver their little boy at the right time. The only way this little boy is here is because of the loss. They were only going to have 2 children. Listen to their story about how they managed the heartache and pain.
Jeff's advice: Do what you need to do to grieve. I felt very alone but I want people to know they are not alone. Reach out to family, friends or myself to find support. Do not feel judged by what you decide to do in your grieving process. Just make sure you are grieving in a healthy way. Do what you need to do to honor your child. There is a light at the end of the tunnel even though it may be very faint.
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When Joey and her husband married, they did not want to have children and their pastor had done an assessment of their compatibility. They did awesome in every area except raising children. They said no problem we are not planning on having any children. Well that changed, they had a little boy and then a surprise pregnancy that ended in a miscarriage. Even though they did not want another child the miscarriage was very difficult for Joey.
She was struggling so much with the loss that she thought about not going back to her job at the OB/GYN office but thankfully she did because it was a patient that had also had a miscarriage that helped her through the loss and Joey was then able to help the patient through her next pregnancy with a happy ending.
After a few years and seeing a friend who was an only child struggle with the loss of her father and having no siblings to help her though the loss. At that point they decided they did not want their little boy to be an only child. After getting pregnancy so quickly the last 2 times, they were sure that would happen again. Nope, that is not how it worked this time.
Three years of let down and pain when each period came. With no insurance or finances to do fertility drugs or treatment she started praying and bargaining with God to have a child with no success. She had given up.
She took the apps off her phone, stopped counting days, stopped paying attention to how her body felt when a total surprise happened. She was pregnant and all those things she had told God she would endure to have a child, well it happened. Morning sickness the entire pregnancy morning, afternoon, and evening.
Her pregnancy was high risk, but listen to her journey of the amazing mindset she had along with a tremendous support group that only spoke life into her during the pregnancy.
I loved this quote she shared: A Delay is not a Denial.
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Jamie and DJ had a beautiful blended family, but they wanted a baby together.
The first challenge was to reverse a vasectomy that DJ had 13 years earlier.
Dealing with unexplained infertility. Jamie was willing to try anything, more blood work, ultrasounds, fertility drugs that made her very sick which forced her to take a couple months off to heal her body. It felt like a dagger in my heart every month when my period started.
They had come to the conclusion that maybe Gods plan for them was to not have babies but to save babies so they research adoption and had made up their minds that that is what they would do to find out Jamie was pregnant after 31 months of counting days and negative pregnancy test.
After finally conceiving she lived in fear the entire pregnancy. She was afraid to tell people, to find out the sex of the baby, to pick out names because she did not want to get to attached for fear of losing the baby. She felt guilt and thought she had cheated by using fertility drugs. Was its God's plan? She had many blessings to count after her baby girl was born.
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Sarah and her husband have found a way to live a life of joy while still feeling grief.
She went for a routine doctor’s appointment to find out that her baby girl had died. How do you live a life of joy after receiving such devastating news? Hear how Sarah moved forward in her grieving in a healthy way.
She said I just needed to focus on minute by minute then hour by hour to eventually the day, week, and month. It is not about moving on, but she will share how they moved forward in their grief. The grief never goes away.
She shares what NOT to say to people who have gone through a tragic loss and some tips on what you can say and do that is comforting and helpful instead of hurtful. She also shared how her fear resurfaced when they decided it was time to have another child. She was so thankful for the amazing tribe that supported her along with her professional staff, and a strong faith life.
She also share how their family celebrates and remembers Ellie throughout the year that helps them continue to grieve in a very healthy way.
NOTE: Due to the sensitive topic and adult language listener discretion is advised.
Sarah mentioned the wonderful support she received from the Share Organization. Here is a link to their website.
http://nationalshare.org
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Melanie and her husband Bob went through several years of enduring loss after loss after loss to now have their miracle daughter because of a family members selfless love to give them the greatest gift. Their daughter and surrogate have a unique bond and also share a birthday!
A year of miscarriages and D&C's. A year of fertility drugs and IUI's . Then IVF that also ended in a miscarriage. They then found the strength to agree to some more genetic testing, but bad news followed.
The genetic testing showed that they had something called a DQ-Alpha total match. This meant that it would be almost impossible for Melanie to carry their biological child. There is less than 1% of couples that have this genetic condition. After that devastating news they were told their options to have a family of their own would be to do an embryo adoption, a sperm donor, surrogacy, or adoption. WOW how does a couple even process this kind of news.
They had been through quite the journey already, but their journey had just begun. Choosing Surrogacy has so many hurdles that have to be achieved way before the fertility doctor can even begin to help the couple through the process of conception. Psychological evaluations, hiring attorneys and understanding your insurance.
Can I breast feed my daughter that I did not carry?
Book Reference: Breastfeeding Without Birthing, A Breastfeeding Guide for Mothers through Adoption, Surrogacy, and Other Special Circumstances by Alyssa Schnell, MS, IBCLC
Melanie's Blog: https://biverbabyjourney.wordpress.com/
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Summer Bruhn shares her story to have a family of her own. They tried Clomid, IUI and IVF.
Have you been told there is no medical reason why you are not conceiving? After months and months of trying to have a child to be told that there is less then a 1% chance of ever conceiving. Have you been embarrassed because you can't get pregnant? Have you been asked, why don't you just adopt instead of going through all this fertility stuff?
Summer has great advice for couples that have heard all of these things and more. After listening to the podcast if you would like to reach out to her for Wise Counsel she is extremely willing to be there to help support you through the most difficult journey of your life. This mission is not always impossible.
Reach out to me and I will be happy to connect you with Summer or feel free to reach out to her via FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/summer.waltersbruhn
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Women and Men feel totally alone when they can not conceive a child or when they have lost a child. The blame is REAL.
I couldn't have the boys my husband wanted. From two large catholic families and our daughters all went through non traditional measures to have children and I love being a grandma to 3 miracle grandchildren.
Fertility struggles and losing a child does not discriminate based on sex, race, religion, age or even social economic status.
Let's start talking about the struggles. Let's talk about the babies you want. Let's talk about the babies that have been lost.
Whether you were able to hold your child in your arms or just in your heart, I want you to feel loved, empowered and know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
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