Join Mari and MD – bi women, therapists and media enthusiasts – in discussing issues and exploring the sexuality continuum in an unapologetically queer podcast.
MD and Mari sit down to discuss Netflix' A Secret Love, its message, and its importance for queer representation.
Them interview: https://www.them.us/story/a-secret-love-netflix-pat-henschel-interview
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MD and Mari return from a long hiatus to talk about COVID-19: how it has changed our lives and what tools we can use to cope in these weird times.
WHO Mental Health Recommendations: https://www.who.int/docs/default-source/coronaviruse/mental-health-considerations.pdf?sfvrsn=6d3578af_2 CDC Website: https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/index.html Dutch RIVM Website: https://www.rivm.nl/nieuws/actuele-informatie-over-coronavirus Mari's Article on Eating Disorders in the LGBTQ+ community: https://www.mirror-mirror.org/lgbtq.htm
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Mari and MD sit down with some wine and discuss the recently aired season of L Word: Generation Q.
CW: drinking, spoilers.
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This week, MD and Mari talk with Hayden about his experience of being a Black bisexual man in a long-term same-gender relationship.
Hayden Winston is a black, bisexual, writer, poet and activist. His work draws on his experiences as a QPOC and the child of West Indian immigrants. His goal is to expose life’s most jarring elements, while promoting self-exploration. He currently resides in Northern California with his husband.
Follow him on Instagram @afterthewaves or visit his blog at sealedinink.com.
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Mari and MD discuss their 13 (and then some) guidelines for how to make a relationship work. Queer, heteronormative, poly, ace, kinky relationships and more more more!
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Recommended reading:
Experiments for Newlyweds: https://www.amazon.com/Experiments-Newlyweds-Amazing-Science-Projects/dp/1492669768 Girl Sex 101: https://www.amazon.com/Girl-Sex-101-Allison-Moon/dp/0983830959
We are back! Mari and MD sit down to discuss working with LGBTQ+ refugees and the hurdles they have to face from a psychological and a human rights perspective.
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Sources: https://www.cbsnews.com/news/refugees-europe-migrants-shelters-gay-asylum-seekers-attack-abuse-lgbt/ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBTQ_migration#Current_trends_of_migration https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2018/08/austria-tells-teenager-hes-not-stereotypically-gay-enough-get-asylum/ https://www.dutchnews.nl/news/2018/10/ind-officials-still-assessing-gay-refugees-from-western-viewpoint/ https://www.pri.org/stories/2017-11-09/not-gay-enough-dutch-authorities-challenge-asylum-seekers-prove-their-sexuality https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s13178-018-0364-7
MD and Mari talk about trauma, PTSD, available treatments and the vulnerabilities within the LGBTQ+ community.
Sources:
Pagani, M., et al. (2012). Neurobiological Correlates of EMDR Monitoring – An EEG Study. PLoS ONE 7(9). van der Kolk, B. (2015). The Body Keeps the Score. https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748
Mari and MD discuss various techniques in therapy to help you find the right fit. Disclaimer: everything discussed is based on our own experiences and opinions.
Israel, T., Choi, A. Y., Goodman, J. A., Matsuno, E., Lin, Y.-J., Kary, K. G., & Merrill, C. R. S. (2019). Reducing internalized binegativity: Development and efficacy of an online intervention. Psychology of Sexual Orientation and Gender Diversity, 6(2), 149-159. https://t.co/1uLhkBMUAJ?amp=1
Skinta, M., & Curtin, A. (2016). Mindfulness and Acceptance for Gender and Sexual Minorities: A Clinician's Guide to Fostering Compassion, Connection, and Equality Using Contextual ... Mindfulness and Acceptance Practica Series). https://www.amazon.com/Mindfulness-Acceptance-Gender-Sexual-Minorities/dp/1626254281
Mari and MD discuss Anne Lister, the famous "first modern lesbian," diarist, and title character of BBC's "Gentleman Jack." TW: mental health, sexual assault, gender dysphoria, sexual language.
Watch the Gentleman Jack trailer here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-uBYRcP44M4 The podcast on Gentleman Jack: https://www.secretlibrarypodcast.com/episodes/anne-choma-149 The book: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/43980644-gentleman-jack Try out Anne Lister's code here: https://wuluwuh.com/anne-lister-code
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Mari and MD talk about recent good and not so good representation of queer people in the media, sports, and politics. Featuring favorites such as Brooklyn 99, Lily Singh, Captain Marvel, Eugene Lee Yang and more!
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Mari and MD sit down to talk with CB Lee, author of the Sidekick Squad series, about writing, stereotypes, and why queer characters will no longer stay on the sidelines.
CB Lee is a Lambda Literary Award nominated writer of young adult science fiction and fantasy. Her works include the Sidekick Squad series (Duet Books), Ben 10 (Boom!) and All Out (Harper Teen). CB loves to write about queer teens, magic, superheroes, and the power of friendship. When not nationally touring as an educator, writer and activist, CB lives in Los Angeles, where she can neither confirm nor deny being a superhero. You can learn more about her and her adventures as a bisexual disaster at http://cb-lee.com.
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Join Mari, MD, and our good friend Tiaan, in a tipsy and much-needed discussion of how Game of Thrones tackles LGBTQ+ and mental health representation! Caution: coarse language ahead!
MD and Mari talk to Briana Venskus about labels, what it was like growing up with accepting parents in a religious environment, and why queer actors have a hard time finding work in the industry today.
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In this drive bi episode Mari and MD fangirl about one of the best (in our humble opinion) TV shows in the recent years, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend. We talk about bi representation, mental health portrayal, and raunchy music numbers, so stay tuned in!
Check out "Getting Bi" on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5e7844P77Is
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A live recording of Mari and MD at ClexaCon 2019 in Las Vegas! This is our panel on "Queer Storylines in Therapy: Constructing Your Narrative Through Fictional Characters" featuring Nicole Pacent!
Media representation of the queer community has steadily been improving over the recent years – and queer clients in therapy find themselves gravitating toward their narratives in hopes of finding a good example to live by. In this panel, psychologists and media enthusiasts will explain how relating to a well-represented queer character can help develop positive outcomes in therapy, and add to the creation of a well-grounded minority identity.
Follow Nicole: https://twitter.com/NicolePacent Follow ComingOutPod: https://twitter.com/comingoutpod
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Mari and MD discuss queer impostor syndrome, why we sometimes feel like we don't quite belong in our own communities, and how we can overcome that feeling using wisdom from other sexual minority groups.
See us at ClexaCon: https://clexa-con.com/programming/2019-speakers-and-panelists
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Sources:
Clance, Pauline R.; Imes, Suzanne A. (Fall 1978). The Impostor Phenomenon in High Achieving Women: Dynamics and Therapeutic Intervention. Psychotherapy Theory, Research and Practice. 15 (3): 241–247. CiteSeerX 10.1.1.452.4294. doi:10.1037/h0086006.
Joshi, A., & Mangette, H. (2018). Unmasking of Impostor Syndrome. Journal of Research, Assessment, and Practice in Higher Education: Vol. 3: Iss. 1, Article 3.
Langford, Joe; Clance, Pauline Rose (Fall 1993). The impostor phenomenon: recent research findings regarding dynamics, personality and family patterns and their implications for treatment. Psychotherapy: Theory, Research, Practice, Training. 30 (3): 495–501. doi:10.1037/0033-3204.30.3.495
Mari and MD talk to Astrid Ohletz, the founder and CEO of Ylva Publishing, "the home of quality books about women loving women," about what makes a good queer book and just how niche the market is.
Connect with Ylva and view available titles here: www.ylva-publishing.com. Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, Pinterest: @YlvaPublishing.
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MD and Mari discuss how cognitive psychology explains prejudice and stereotyping, and why not fitting into a box can be a very rewarding thing.
Sources:
Intersectionality and the Stereotype Content Model: Cognitive, Affective, and Behavioral Consequences for Multiply-categorized Individuals by David W. Hancock, M.A.
Adams GA, Webster JR. When leaders are not who they appear: The effects of leader disclosure of a concealable stigma on follower reactions. J Appl Soc Psychol. 2017;00:1–16. https://doi.org/10.1111/jasp.12467
Mémoires, représentations et traitements - 2ème édition Collection : Psycho Sup, Dunod Parution : février 2015 Jean-Marc Meunier
Behave: The Biology of Humans at Our Best and Worst. By Robert M. Sapolsky. New York: Penguin Press. ISBN: 9781594205071 (hc); 9780735222786 (eb). 2017.
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Mari and MD talk to Greetje den Holder, blogger at Meemoeder.com, who talks about her experience as a queer person, and later, a parent, in the Netherlands.
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Mari and MD discuss tips on how to respond to a child's coming out and how to create a nurturing and supportive environment for an LGBTQ+ child.
References: Katz-Wise, S. L., Rosario, M., & Tsappis, M. (2016). LGBT Youth and Family Acceptance. Pediatric Clinics of North America, 63(6): 1011-1025. DOI: 10.1016/j.pcl.2016.07.005.
Rosario, M., Schrimashaw, E. W., & Hunter, J. (2009). Disclosure of sexual orientation and subsequent substance use and abuse among lesbian, gay, and bisexual youths: Critical role of disclosure reactions. Psychology of Addictive Behaviors, 23(1): 175-184. DOI: 10.1037/a0014284.
Ryan, C., Huebner, D., Diaz, R. M., & Sanchez, J. (2009). Family rejection as a predictor of negative health outcomes in white and Latino lesbian, gay, and bisexual young adults. Pediatrics, 123(1): 346- 352. DOI: 10.1542/peds.2007-3524.
https://www.hrc.org/resources/all-children-all-families-caring-for-lgbtq-children-youth
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/22/sleepovers-closeted-gay-teens_n_6029062.html
MD and Mari interview Jae, former psychologist and now full-time writer of books in which women unapologetically love women.
Check out Jae's website: https://jae-fiction.com
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Mari and MD talk to Katy-Jon Went, an activist on equality, diversity, and intersectionality, about being a religious queer person, the pitfalls of fundamentalism, and self-acceptance in the Church.
Katy-Jon's website: http://www.katyjon.com Find Katy-Jon on Twitter: https://twitter.com/katyjon Find Katy-Jon on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/katyjonwent Find Katy-Jon on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katyjonwent/
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Mari and MD discuss the concept of toxic masculinity; what it means, how it happens, how it impacts society, and how it puts people in boxes.
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Sources:
http://theconversation.com/australian-study-reveals-the-dangers-of-toxic-masculinity-to-men-and-those-around-them-104694 https://www.apa.org/research/action/speaking-of-psychology/men-boys-health-disparities.aspx https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4062033/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2662681/ https://www.nytimes.com/2019/01/22/us/toxic-masculinity.html https://www.amazon.com/Behave-Biology-Humans-Best-Worst/dp/1594205078
Mari and MD talk to Tracy and Mika, creators and editors of LezWatchTV, "the greatest database of queer female, non-binary, & transgender characters & shows on TV" about the good, the bad, and the queerbait-y of representation. NOTE: Sorry for the funky audio, Skype screwed up and we tried our best to reduce the echo!
Check out LezWatchTV: https://lezwatchtv.com/ Follow LezWatchTV on Twitter: https://twitter.com/lezwatchtv
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Mari and MD, inspired by an email from one of our listeners, discuss negative coming out experiences and how one can cope with things going sour when sharing their sexuality or gender with their loved ones.
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Mari and MD talk to Katy-Jon Went, an activist on equality, diversity, and intersectionality, about a variety of topics including gender, sexuality, Christian fundamentalism, and queer spaces.
Katy-Jon's website: http://www.katyjon.com Find Katy-Jon on Twitter: https://twitter.com/katyjon Find Katy-Jon on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/katyjonwent Find Katy-Jon on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katyjonwent/
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MD and Mari address the infamous bi/pan discussion and delve into what sexual orientation and attraction really are, how they come about, and what our attitudes are toward them.
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Mari and MD talk to Nicole Pacent, bisexual actor, writer, activist, and overall awesome human being about queerness, marriage, representation, and how it is to navigate a relationship with a cishet partner.
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Mari and MD sit down to talk about marriage equality, its history from Ancient Rome to today, and its influence on mental health.
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Sources: Marriage equality and mental health Am J Public Health. 2015 June; 105(6): 1101–1105. Published online 2015 June. doi: [10.2105/AJPH.2015.302589] PMCID: PMC4431106 PMID: 25880959 Ben Lennox Kail, PhD, Katie L. Acosta, PhD, and Eric R. Wright, PhD
Journal of Marriage and Family Volume 80, Issue 2 Brief Report Legal Marriage, Unequal Recognition, and Mental Health Among Same‐Sex Couples Allen J. LeBlanc David M. Frost Kayla Bowen First published: 08 January 2018 https://doi.org/10.1111/jomf.12460
Am J Public Health. 2013 February; 103(2): 339–346. Published online 2013 February. doi: [10.2105/AJPH.2012.301113] PMCID: PMC3558785 PMID: 23237155 Richard G. Wight, PhD, MPH, Allen J. LeBlanc, PhD, and M. V. Lee Badgett, PhD
Mari and MD talk to Cathy and Barry, pioneers of the poly community, about self-determination, the bisexual unicorn, and how the culture at large sells toxic monogamy.
Barry and Cathy Smiler have been presenters and organizers in polyamory and related communities for many years, on both the US east and west coasts and now in Europe, and are members of the global Polyamory Leadership Network. Ex-Californians, they are former organizers of East Bay Poly in the Berkeley/Oakland area. Then while living in Maryland they led BmorePoly, which they grew to more than 3000 members and over 50 events every month making BmorePoly the largest and most active such group in the Mid-Atlantic and one of the largest in the world. Currently they are based in the Netherlands where they help organize events for Leiden Open Relationships. At the core of their approach is a belief that All This Stuff is really a reflection of everyone's right to live their own life their own way, on their own terms, and has rather more to do with connection and self-determination than with sex and number of partners. They can be reached at polyjunction@gmail.com
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Mari and MD talk about how fandoms can help build and develop queer identities. We will be name-dropping ClexaCon, The 100, Harry Potter, Voltron and many others!
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Sources: Line Boye Danielsen, "Lexa was me," A case study of Clexa fandom grieving. https://t.co/400XmMn1V0 Mariya Shcherbinina. Attack on Fandom: How Attack on Titan Fans Use Tumblr. https://www.academia.edu/12388417/Attack_on_Fandom_How_Attack_on_Titan_Fans_Use_Tumblr https://medium.com/the-establishment/the-importance-of-fanfiction-for-queer-youth-4ec3e85d7519 http://queergeektheory.org/docs/Lothian_QFS.pdf
Mari and MD sit down to talk with Denise Warner, an experienced podcaster from Lesbian Lounge. Denise talks about how she found a way to not only express herself but also give a voice and guidance to those in the LGBTQ who needed it most. Shoutout to ClexaCon London for bringing us together!
Follow Denise on Twitter: https://twitter.com/LesbianLounge Follow Denise's Podcast: https://www.lesbianloungeshow.com
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Mari and MD sit down to talk about queer representation in Japanese anime, including all-time favorites like Sailor Moon, Neon Genesis Evangelion, Yuri on Ice and many more.
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Part 2! Mari and MD sit down with Rabbi Marianne van Praag to talk about a spiritual perspective on queerness and how religions could be more inclusive of the LGBTQ+ community.
Article on Marianne van Praag’s lecture at Leiden University Pride: lupride.love/2018/04/04/judaism…btq-a-divine-spark
More about Marianne’s work as a Rabbi (in Dutch): www.kerkindenhaag.nl/interview/mari…f-jaar-rabbijn
Contact the Liberaal Joodse Gemeente Den Haag: www.ljgdenhaag.nl/nl/contact-4
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Mari and MD sit down with Rabbi Marianne van Praag to talk about a spiritual perspective on queerness and how religions could be more inclusive of the LGBTQ+ community. Part II coming next week!
Article on Marianne van Praag’s lecture at Leiden University Pride: https://lupride.love/2018/04/04/judaism-and-lgbtq-a-divine-spark
More about Marianne’s work as a Rabbi (in Dutch): http://www.kerkindenhaag.nl/interview/marianne-van-praag-vijf-jaar-rabbijn
Contact the Liberaal Joodse Gemeente Den Haag: https://www.ljgdenhaag.nl/nl/contact-4
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Mari and MD sit down with Tiaan, our resident expert on all things gay, to discuss how the male gay community views bisexuals and whether prejudice may stand in the way of love.
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Mari and MD celebrate Bi Visibility Week by talking about the ways in which bisexuality was perceived throughout history and dropping some world-famous bi names. Happy #BiVisibilityWeek everyone!
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Sources: https://www.bustle.com/articles/111515-8-famous-people-in-history-you-didnt-realize-were-bisexual https://www.bustle.com/articles/40282-a-brief-history-of-bisexuality-from-ancient-greece-and-the-kinsey-scale-to-lindsay-lohan https://www.sbs.com.au/topics/sexuality/agenda/article/2017/09/19/13-historical-figures-who-are-bisexual-icons
Mari and MD sit down with Tiaan to discuss his thesis on LGBTQ identity and transnationalism. Why is it that queer people all over the world feel more connected to each other than to their respective nations? Where does queer nationalism come from? Are we truly an LGBTQ nation?
You can find Tiaan on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tiaan-andre-westenberg/
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MD and Mari get down and dirty with the gender norms and social expectations we have about sex: straight sex, bi sex, gay sex, and anything (and anyone) in between.
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Sources: Moon, A., & KD Diamond. (2015). Girl Sex 101. https://www.amazon.com/Girl-Sex-101-Allison-Moon/dp/0983830959 Scott, S.B., Ritchie, L., Knopp, K. et al. Arch Sex Behav (2018) 47: 681. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-017-1077-3 Seidman, S., Fischer, N., & Meeks, C. (2006). Handbook of the New Sexuality Studies. Routledge.
MD and Mari sit down to discuss queer theory and just how political the queer and bisexual labels can be.
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Sources: Esterberg, k., g., (2007). The bisexual menace revisited: or, shaking up social categories is hard to do. In Seidman S., Fischer N., & Meeks, C. (Eds.) Handbook of the New Sexuality Studies. New York (NY): Routledge. Not all one and the same: Sexual identity, activism, and collective self-esteem. Source: Gray, Amy; Desmarais, Serge; Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality, 2014, vol. 23, issue 2, p 116, ISSN 11884517. ISBN 11884517. DOI: 10.3138/cjhs.2400.
MD and Mari sit down to talk about bi+ narratives and why sometimes, it's so hard to tell a queer story. We explore humor, tragedy, and even terrible puns. “The shortest distance between two people is a story.” - Patti Digh.
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Sources:
Hannah Gatsby – Nanette. 2018. https://www.imdb.com/title/tt8465676/ Joe Lycett – Live at the Apollo. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=El2woked9r8 Joel Herman – Being Bisexual. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a3Tehhai4hQ Mae Martin – Dating Men. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=szMe4nUGcfs Queer Eye, 2017. Season 1, Episode 4.
Mari and MD sit down to discuss what everyone in possession of a vagina needs to know: PCOS, cervical cancer, so-called hysteria, etc., as well as medical and psychological diagnoses dating all the way back to the beginnings of modern medicine and how to find a doctor who listens.
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https://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/womensrh/healthconcerns.html https://cancer-network.org/cancer-information/hpv-and-cancer/ https://stacks.cdc.gov/view/cdc/24087/cdc_24087_DS1.pdf?download-document-submit=Download
MD and Mari discuss why sometimes, it's absolutely okay to be a stereotype.
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Mari and MD discuss queer representation in music: from your favorite summer bops to your rock ballads, we have something for everyone's taste!
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Mari and MD talk about the early sexualization of women – straight and queer – in our society and what can be done to reduce its harmful effects.
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Sources: APA Task Force (2010). Report of the APA Task Force on the Sexualization of Girls. Washington, D.C.: American Psychological Association. OCLC 123130352. Pdf. Dodge B, Herbenick D, Friedman MR, Schick V, Fu T-C(, Bostwick W, et al. (2016) Attitudes toward Bisexual Men and Women among a Nationally Representative Probability Sample of Adults in the United States. PLoS ONE 11(10): e0164430. doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0164430 https://www.them.us/story/trans-women-femmes-fetishization https://www.researchgate.net/publication/272364376_Queer_Women's_Perspectives_on_Sexualization_of_Women_in_Media
MD and Mari discuss the issue of addiction within the LGBTQ+ community and what can be done to stop and prevent this epidemic from spreading.
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Mari and MD discuss body image issues and eating disorders within the LGBTQ community and why bisexual and trans people seem to have it the hardest.
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Lesbian, gay, and bisexual college student perspectives on disparities in weight-related behaviors and body image: A qualitative analysis. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5123600/ Patterns of Body Image Concerns and Disordered Weight- and Shape-Related Behaviors in Heterosexual and Sexual Minority Adolescent Males. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4540685/ Body image and sexual orientation: The experiences of lesbian and bisexual women. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/314118423 Alvy, L. M. (2013). Do lesbian women have a better body image? Comparisons with heterosexual women and model of lesbian-specific factors. Body Image, 524-534. American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), Fifth edition. American Psychiatric Association. Frederick, D. A., & Essayli, J. (2016). Male Body Image: The Roles of Sexual Orientation and Body Mass Index Across Five National U. S. Studies. Psychology of Men & Masculinity, 17(4). Hubbard, J. B. (2013, June). Psychotherapy Outcome for Eating Disorders: A Meta-Analysis. Brigham Young University. The Trevor Project; National Eating Disorders Association; Reasons. (2018). Eating Disorders Among LGBTQ Youth: A 2018 National Assessment. The Trevor Project.
Mari and MD discuss being queer in Eastern Europe: attitudes, politics, religion. Are things looking better? Will they ever? Listen and find out!
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Sources:
Chetaille, A. (2013) Une « autre Europe » homophobe ? L'Union européenne, le nationalisme polonais et la sexualisation de la « division Est/Ouest », Raisons politiques, 49, pp. 119-140. DOI 10.3917/rai.049.0119
Stella, F., Flynn, M., & Gawlewicz, A. (2017) Unpacking the Meanings of a ‘Normal Life’ Among Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Eastern European Migrants in Scotland. Central and Eastern European Migration Review, pp. 1-18. DOI: 10.17467/ceemr.2017.16
http://www.dazeddigital.com/politics/article/40496/1/what-life-is-really-like-for-lgbt-refugees-in-ukraine
Let's talk about kink: Mari and MD get down and dirty discussing BDSM, its relation to the queer community, and what societal pressures kinky people have to face when discovering their sexuality.
NOTE: We apologize for the sound issues in the beginning of the episode – that's what happens when you record an episode via Skype :(
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Sources:
Dominguez, M. (2017). Kinky and queer: BDSM in the LGBTQ community. Qnotes. https://goqnotes.com/49611/kinky-and-queer-bdsm-in-the-lgbtq-community/ Richters, J., de Visser, R. O., Rissel, C. E., Grulich, A. E., & Smith, A. M. (2008). Demographic and psychosocial features of participants in bondage and discipline, “sadomasochism” or dominance and submission (BDSM): data from a national survey. Journal of Sexual Medicine, 5(7): 1660-1668. Sagarin, B. The Surprising Psychology of BDSM. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-wide-wide-world-psychology/201502/the-surprising-psychology-bdsm
In this episode, Mari and MD go in-depth pun intended on sex: the problem of limited sex ed, what things need to be discussed, and how to protect yourself before you have intercourse.
We apologize in advance for the slightly cishet skew at the beginning of the episode: we've been having nothing but cis M/W sex for years now.
NOTE: We are going on hiatus for a couple of weeks after the release of this episode, given the geographical difficulties in recording an episode. We will be back soon with more BiPositive+ content!
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Mari and MD discuss slash fanfiction and why it's important for queer identity development. They also dip their toes into fandom territory and talk about what makes fandoms good, and what makes them toxic.
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Sources:
Bacon-Smith, C. "Spock Among the Women." New York Times Sunday Book Review, November 16, 1986. Russ, J. "Pornography by Women for Women, With Love" in her book, Magic Mommas, Trembling Sisters, Puritans & Perverts. New York: The Crossing Press: 1985. Weaver, J. A., Anijar, K., Daspit, T. (2003). Science Fiction Curriculum, Cyborg Teachers, & Youth Culture(s). US: P. Lang. p. 84. http://www.slate.com/blogs/outward/2016/05/30/queer_people_write_fan_fiction_to_see_themselves_in_mainstream_culture.html?via=gdpr-consent
MD and Mari discuss parenting as a bisexual+ person and what it entails. Do you come out to your kids? When and how? Join in our discussion!
Article referenced:
DiVerniero, R., & Breshears, D. Verbal and Emotional Responses Among Children of Lesbian and Gay Parents’ Coming Out. Qualitative Research Reports in Communication Vol. 18, No. 1, 2017, pp. 45–53
A list of LGBTQ+ friendly books for kids: http://huffp.st/CL5TJfk
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MD and Mari discuss the famous Kinsey Scale and why it's problematic. They later go on to talk about bisexual confusion – the real one, not the stereotypical one: have you ever doubted your bi-ness?
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Riggle, E. D. B., Mohr, J. J., Rostosky, S. S., & Fingerhut, A. W. (2014). A Multifactor Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Positive Identity Measure (LGB-PIM). Psychology of Sexual Orientation and Gender Diversity, 1(4): 398-411. http://prismresearch.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/LGBPIM-Riggleetal2014-PSOGD.pdf
Mari interviews MD about her thesis on media representation and what it does to queer women – and what kinds of representation would be the best to ensure better mental health outcomes.
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Mari and MD discuss being queer in the workplace. How do you navigate that? Is it even professional to discuss your sexuality at work? Is it appropriate for a therapist to be out? Join the discussion with us at @bi_positive!
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The Stonewall study cited:
Bachmann, C. L., & Gooch, B. (2018). LGBT in Britain: Work report. Stonewall. https://www.stonewall.org.uk/sites/default/files/lgbt_in_britain_work_report.pdf
Mari and MD talk to Greg (@hatori1181) about what it's like to be bisexual in a "straight" relationship (one where the other partner is of the socially acceptable gender) and discuss coming out while being married.
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This week, Mari and MD are talking to Jayne B Shea (@JayneBShea), owner and writer at http://bisexualtshirts.com, about bi visibility and why it's not always a recipe for success.
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This week, Mari and MD talk about representation of male queerness and bisexuality in media. From Love, Simon, to C. S. Pacat's Captive Prince, to anime, we talk about the necessity of seeing non-monosexual men in the media.
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Mari and MD discuss bisexual porn and whether bi women are nasty predators (spoiler alert: we're not).
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The study: http://www.psypost.org/2018/03/bisexual-women-tend-elevated-levels-sociosexuality-psychopathic-traits-50847 The Davey Wavey article: https://www.gaystarnews.com/article/davey-wavey-watching-porn-makes-gay-men-bad-sex/#gs.U8nUWYM
Mari and MD talk about the gaydar and the bi-fi, and discuss whether it is ever okay to assume someone's sexuality. What are the signs? How do you approach the person? Do you approach the person? Is it ethical? Listen up and join the discussion!
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MD and Mari talk about why it's okay to love several people at the same time and why it's not the same nor mutually exclusive with bisexuality.
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Ricky Martin Article: http://www.newnownext.com/ricky-martin-wants-to-help-normalize-open-relationships/02/2018/?xrs=synd_facebook_logo
Klesse, C. (2011). Notions of Love in Polyamory – Elements in a Discourse on Multiple Loving. Laboratorium 3(2): 4-25. Mint, P. (2004). The power dynamics of cheating: Effects on polyamory and bisexuality. Journal of Bisexuality. Rubin, A.M. and Adams, J.R. (1986) Outcomes of Sexually Open Marriages. The Journal of Sex Research, 22, 311- 319. http://dx.doi.org/10.1080/00224498609551311 Sheff, E. (2015). The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families. Rowman & Littlefield Publishers. ISBN-13: 978-1442253100.
MD and Mari tackle the subject of queerbaiting in media and looks at several examples of this phenomenon, discussing why it's problematic and what could have been done to avoid it.
Shoutout to our friends @tqawpodcast and @applewriter for contributing!
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MD and Mari talk about coming out as a bisexual person and all the psychological and cultural turmoil it may entail.
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Calzo, J. P., Antonucci, T. C., Mays, V. M., & Cochran, S. D. (2011). Retrospective recall of sexual orientation identity development among gay, lesbian, and bisexual adults. Developmental Psychology, 47, 1658–673. doi:10.1037/a0025508.
Cox N., Dewaele A., Van Houtte M., & Vincke J. (2011). Stress-related growth, coming out, and internalized homonegativity in Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Youth. An examination of stress-related growth within the minority stress model. Journal of Homosexuality, 58, 117–137. doi: 10.1080/00918369.2011.533631.
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MD and Mari take on the sore subject of bi erasure and what it does to us and society at large, citing sources from Kinsey to online p0rn.
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Filippo, M. (2007). (Re)constructing Bisexual Space in Contemporary Visual Culture. English Language Notes 45(2).
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Shokeid, M. (2002). You Don’t Eat Indian and Chinese Food at the Same Meal: The Bisexual Quandary. Anthropological Quarterly 75(1).
Mari and MD talk about amazing and awful examples of bisexual representation in the media: movies, television, and even anime.
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MD and Mari dig into the issue of bisexual representation in the media and its effects on the mental health of bisexual and queer viewers.
Referenced article, please go check it out: https://www.thedailybeast.com/the-media-doesnt-know-how-to-talk-about-bisexuality
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Introducing BiPositive – a new podcast for bisexuals, about bisexuals and by bisexuals! This week, join your hosts, Mari and MD, on a journey to dispell common (and stigmatizing) myths about bisexuality.
Transcipt: https://bipositivepodcast.tumblr.com/post/171196487054/bipositive-episode-1-the-common-myths
The article we discussed: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/maria-burnham/bisexuality-myths_b_1193152.html.
The scientific study: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/241745537_An_Empirical_Study_into_the_Relationship_between_Bisexual_Identity_Congruence_Internalized_Biphobia_and_Infidelity_among_Bisexual_Women.
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