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Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Beam Holmes: Experts in Fixing Marriages & Saving Relationships
Want help for your real-life relationship problems? We address issues that couples face every day and provide tools to deal with: affairs, limerence, sexual rejection, lying, communication issues, and much more. If you want to know how to make your relationships stronger - this podcast is for you. https://www.MarriageHelper.com
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Do cheaters always cheat?
You've heard it from your mom. Your best friend. Maybe even a counselor who has never met your spouse.
After 30 years of working with marriages in crisis, we can tell you it isn't true. Not for most people.
In this video, Dr. Joe Beam breaks down three different kinds of affairs, because the answer to your question changes completely depending on which one you're actually dealing with.
The high opportunity, low involvement affair. Wrong place, wrong time, no real emotional connection.
The emotional affair. Limerence. Consuming, powerful, and it has a shelf life.
The habitual affair. The one that keeps repeating until something underneath it finally gets addressed.
Three very different situations. Three very different answers.
Here's what decades of workshops and couples have shown us. When both spouses figure out how it happened, and then repair what made it possible, the vast majority never cheat again.
But "figure out" is doing a lot of work in that sentence.
You can't just reset and hope. You have to understand it. Then you have to build something different in its place.
So the real question isn't whether cheaters always cheat.
The real question is this. Is your spouse a good person who did a bad thing, or a bad person who did a bad thing?
Because one of those can be repaired.
In this video, Dr. Joe walks you through how to tell the difference, why almost everyone advising you right now is a biased source, and what it takes to build a marriage that's stronger than the one you had before the affair.
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Everyone around you is starting to ask the same question.
Why are you still trying?
Your spouse is checked out. Maybe they've stopped sleeping in the same bed. Maybe they've moved out completely. Maybe there's someone else. And nothing you've tried has moved the needle even an inch.
So the people who love you start looking at you sideways. They think you're standing in a graveyard.
Here's what they're missing.
Standing for your marriage doesn't require certainty. It requires confidence.
You can't be certain what your spouse will do. They're a grown adult making their own choices, and nobody can honestly promise you a specific ending. But you can be confident that change is possible, because we've watched thousands of couples walk out of situations that looked exactly like yours.
And here's the part almost nobody tells you.
Standing changes you long before it changes anything else.
In this video, one of our coaches shares what three years of standing actually looked like. His wife stayed in the affair the whole time. The marriage ended in divorce. And he still says he'd do it all over again.
Not because standing saved the marriage.
Because standing made him someone worth being.
If your confidence has been living inside your spouse's approval, this one is going to sting a little. In the best way.
Because it's never wrong to do the right thing.
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Most marriage advice is recycled fluff.
This is not.
I sat down with Dr. John Gottman, the man who has spent 40+ years studying what actually makes marriages work and what destroys them.
Not opinions. Not theories. Exposed-to-thousands-of-couples-in-a-research-lab findings.
And what he told me?
Some of it will surprise you.
The couples who last, the "masters," aren't the ones who avoid conflict. They're the ones who lean into it without getting defensive. They stay curious instead of critical. They treat their spouse's complaints like information, not attacks.
We also got into the stuff nobody talks about openly. Why most couples are embarrassed to discuss sex. Why compatibility is actually a myth. What commitment really looks like on a Tuesday morning when you're frustrated. And how the way you respond to "no" in the bedroom determines everything.
Dr. Gottman told me that after 35 years of marriage, he still looks forward to talking to his wife at breakfast every single morning.
If your marriage feels disconnected, boring, or like you're roommates, this conversation will show you why. And more importantly, what the research says you can do about it.
This is one of my favorite interviews I've ever done.
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You leave the comments. I read them.
This week I'm going straight into the ones that made me stop scrolling. The bold ones. The angry ones. The ones that questioned everything I teach.
A woman still carrying a crush from 30 years ago, wondering why it still hurts.
A commenter convinced that saving a marriage means forcing two miserable people to stay together.
Someone who swears you could never ask your spouse what makes them feel loved and actually get an answer.
A person certain that once a cheater, always a cheater.
And one comment about AI that I could not let go of.
Here's what I keep coming back to. The future doesn't have to look like the past. But only if you're willing to fix what was actually broken. You can walk away and start over, but if you never deal with what pushed the other person away, you carry it straight into the next relationship.
That's the push and the pull. The things you do that make your spouse feel seen. And the things you do that quietly make them feel like you don't love them. Most of us are moving too fast to even notice the difference.
Then there's AI. I'm not scared of the technology. I'm scared of what happens when people turn to their phone at 2am instead of to God, to a friend, to the hard and vulnerable conversation with the person sitting right in front of them. I'm scared of a generation losing the skill to actually be a good husband or a good wife.
Rant included.
Hope included.
Because there is always hope.
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You're convinced nobody has ever felt what you're feeling right now.
I understand why. But I've sat with hundreds of people who felt the exact same thing.
The obsessive pull toward someone who isn't your spouse.
The daydreaming that swallows most of your day.
The spiral when they don't text back fast enough.
The certainty that this one person is the only thing standing between you and a happy life.
It has a name. Limerence.
It feels like the deepest love you've ever known. It isn't. It's a spike. A chemical high wrapped around a fantasy you've built in your mind, one where you can't see their flaws and they can't see yours.
And here's what nobody in the middle of it wants to hear: it ends. Every time.
In this video, you'll hear the story of a man who was sure he was the exception. He walked away from his marriage, his family, all of it, because being with her felt like the only thing that mattered. Three years later he was back, trying to rebuild the life he'd torn apart.
Limerence draws people together. It was never built to keep them together. That takes a different kind of love entirely.
If you're in the early stages, deep in the thick of it, or trying to pick up the pieces after it, this one is worth your time.
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You made a commitment. But you're not sure you'd make it again.
That's where a lot of people are. And in this episode, I answer their questions honestly.
One woman has been married 41 years. She loves her husband. She's just never been in love with him. She's asking if it's too late, or if this whole thing was a 41-year mistake.
Another asks the thing most separated spouses are afraid to say out loud. If we're both doing fine apart, if we're both becoming our best selves, what would ever bring us back?
And one man wants an answer to something bigger. Does God change hearts? Or has his wife's decision already settled it?
Here's what I keep coming back to. Love is a choice. But it's also a process. Follow the path and you can fall in love with almost anyone. Stop following it and you can fall out of love without ever meaning to.
PIES is where it starts. Physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual. But it's the first step, not the finish line. Becoming your best self doesn't pull someone back on its own. Two people don't fall in love just by standing side by side as their best selves. There has to be a lean in. There has to be acceptance. A safe place where someone is finally allowed to be who they are without being asked to change.
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Most conversations with your spouse aren't going anywhere.
They're stale. They're tense. Or they've stopped happening altogether.
Every time you try to talk, it turns into the same fight. You go in circles. And somehow you land worse than where you started.
Here's the shift: stop circling. Start looping.
A circle erases. Every fight burns down whatever progress you made and resets you to zero. Sometimes below zero.
A loop builds. You lay one track, you save it, you build on it. Layer by layer, day by day, until you look up and it's a real marriage again.
In this video, I'll show you how to do it. The first track you always lay down (hint: it's not the problem you think you need to solve). How to bank a win instead of tearing it back down with your very next sentence. And the six loops you move through in order, because you don't get to pick where you start. You earn your way up.
Same couple. Same conversation. Two completely different outcomes.
I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, and for 14 years I've helped people save marriages everyone else said were over.
If you're tired of having the same fight on repeat, this is where you start.
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Everyone told Scott to walk away.
The affair. The lies. The cold distance that built for months. On paper, this was the marriage other people would tell you to end and not feel bad about it.
He didn't walk away.
Not because he was naive. Not because he excused anything. Because he still loved his wife, and he could not live with never having tried.
In this conversation, Scott takes me back to 2019, the year his marriage came apart, and walks me through how it came all the way back.
He found out at 4 in the morning. The phone going off. His wife not in the bed. The search he ran to figure out who was texting her is the thing that led him to Marriage Helper.
What he learned there changed how he showed up.
He stopped reacting. He stopped trying to control her. He stayed calm in the exact moments most people detonate. By the time his daughter pulled him aside and asked if he knew, he was already further into his own healing than anyone around him realized.
Here is the part people argue with me about.
"You're letting the cheater off the hook." "Once a cheater, always a cheater." We see it in the comments every week. Scott answers it head on. He never permitted anything. He was powerless to control someone else's choices. Accepting what you cannot control is not the same as excusing it.
For a year, they were divorced in every way but the judge's signature. She moved states away. The settlement was nearly done.
Then she came home. One year to the day after the workshop they attended together.
Today their marriage is stronger than it was in the first 24 years. Scott coaches on our team now. His wife leads breakout groups at our workshops.
If your marriage is the one everyone says can't be saved, this is the story to sit with.
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You think it's a sex problem.
Most of the time, it isn't.
When the spark is gone and one of you is always "too tired," the instinct is to fix the bedroom. Buy something. Try harder. Schedule it. But the bedroom is almost never where the problem started.
Up to a third of couples are living in what researchers call low-sex or no-sex marriages. You are not broken. You are not the only ones. And you are not stuck.
Here's the part nobody tells you.
A fatigued woman cannot get aroused. That isn't an attitude problem. It's physiology. So if she's running on empty all day and you're waiting for her to come alive at night, you're working against her body, not with it.
Real intimacy is "into-me-see." It's what happens when the relationship outside the bedroom is healthy enough to follow you into it. Everything outside affects everything inside. And everything inside affects everything outside.
This video walks through what's actually driving the distance. The exhaustion. The resentment. The slow drift where your passion quietly moved toward the kids, the job, the to-do list, and away from each other.
It also covers what this won't fix. Physiological issues need a doctor. Past trauma needs a trained counselor. Those are real, and they matter.
But if the problem is the relationship itself, that's the good news.
Because that's the part you can actually change.
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He sent me a message.
He said he wants to work on his mistakes. He wants to move forward. He doesn't want our kid raised in a divided home.
She read it and printed divorce papers.
Her question. Is that even communication? Or is he just asking me to forget everything that happened?
Here's where almost everyone gets this wrong.
She thinks he's gaslighting her. She keeps a record of every conversation so she can prove she's not crazy. She feels unheard, dismissed, blamed.
But I don't think he's gaslighting her at all.
I think they're talking past each other. Two different worldviews. Two different ways of processing the same fight. And the record of wrongs she's keeping to feel grounded is the exact thing pushing him further away.
In this video I read Reddit posts and respond to three real marriages. The husband with a female best friend he just handed 25% of his business. The husband who can't hold a job. And this one.
He's trying. She just can't hear it yet.
I'll show you what it actually takes to fix a marriage like this one.
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Your spouse wants to leave. Okay. Let them.
But here's what nobody tells you. Even if they walk out that door, there's still one person you're left with.
You.
So you might as well become someone you actually like living with. And here's the secret most people miss. That's also the one thing most likely to bring your spouse back.
In this video, I teach you the framework I call the PIES. Four areas of your life. Four ways you become the most attractive version of yourself. Physical. Intellectual. Emotional. Spiritual.
And I teach it while making an actual pie, because every ingredient matters, and so does every part of you.
Physical isn't about a magazine cover. It's sleep, movement, food, and the energy to handle a marriage in crisis.
Intellectual is becoming a fascinating person to talk to again.
Emotional is being the sugar, not the salt. The compliments, not the complaints.
Spiritual is living in line with what you actually believe.
Here's the part you have to hear. This only works when you do it for you. Not as a tactic. Not to manipulate them back.
People don't leave what they have unless they believe what they're going to is better.
So be the better.
I'll show you how.
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You can't control whether your spouse fights for the marriage. You can only control whether you do.
That's the hardest part of saving a marriage alone. You're pouring everything in while they've checked out, filed, or already walked away. And every instinct you have right now (the pleading, the chasing, the trying to make them see) is most likely pushing them further away.
In this video, I break down the three things you can start doing today, with or without your spouse on board. How to calm down so you stop reacting out of panic. How to spot the behaviors that are quietly driving them away. And how to start becoming the person they fell in love with in the first place.
I've lived this. I was the one crying on the bathroom floor, convinced my husband was the whole problem. Two things turned out to be true at once. He was doing things he shouldn't have, and I was contributing to where we ended up. Owning my part is what changed everything.
You can get halfway there on your own. Here's how to start.
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Asking your spouse to work on the marriage isn't working.
Because they don't want to work on the marriage. That's the whole problem.
Stop asking.
Nobody wants more counseling. Nobody wants another conversation about "us." Nobody wants to be handed a printout of what's wrong with them on Halloween night.
They need a different reason to walk through the door.
In this video, Amber and I break down how to actually get a resistant spouse to a Marriage Helper workshop, even when they've filed, even when there's an affair partner, even when they've already said it's over.
The shift:
Stop selling the marriage. Find what actually motivates them. Take "us" off the table. Treat it like a business agreement.
Your job is to get them through the door. Our job is the next 3 days.
That's how marriages get saved, not by convincing your spouse to love you again, but by getting them in the room where the work actually happens.
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You don't have to pick between yourself and your marriage.
That's the lie that keeps people stuck.
Stay and shrink. Leave and grieve. Endure the mistreatment or end the marriage.
Those aren't your only options.
In this video, Nathan breaks down the difference between pain and damage, and why getting this wrong is the reason so many marriages either dissolve or destroy the people inside them.
Pain is what makes you stronger. Damage is what breaks you.
One you push through. The other you stop.
And most people can't tell them apart.
He walks through two real client stories. Both women were hurting. Both were asking the same question. "Do I keep showing up, or do I walk away?" But the right answer for one was the exact opposite of the right answer for the other.
One needed to lean in. The other needed to put up boundaries.
And the moment they figured out which was which, everything changed. Not just for them, but for their marriages too.
Because here's what nobody tells you:
What's best for you is often what's best for the marriage.
You don't have to choose.
But you do have to know the difference between the pain that's making you stronger and the damage that's slowly killing you.
That's what this video is about.
How to tell which one you're in. What to do about it. And how to stop walking on a broken leg in the name of saving your marriage.
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I've been teaching this marriage principle for 14 years.
And I've been getting it wrong.
The principle: your spouse's perception trumps your intention.
It's true. But it's only half the story.
Because perception can be weaponized.
"He scheduled a reminder to send me flowers... if he really loved me, he wouldn't need one."
"He spent $60 on roses and didn't even put them in water."
"He moved my stuff again."
That's not perception. That's negative sentiment override.
And it'll kill your marriage faster than the original hurt ever could.
In this video, I break down what I missed for 14 years... the push-pull dynamic underneath every interaction, why your spouse's good intentions still land as wounds, and how to respond without weaponizing your perception against the person trying to love you.
Grace is needed on both sides.
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Marriage advice isn't dead.
Bad marriage advice is dead.
Nobody wants to "just give it time." Nobody wants to be told to punish their spouse into coming back. Nobody wants a counselor telling them to have a revenge affair to "even the score."
(Yes, real counselors actually say that.)
You want your marriage back. With your dignity intact.
In this video, Dr. Joe Beam walks through the 3 things you HAVE to do before you start standing for your marriage.
Decide if you really want this. Get honest about your own contribution. Pick the right path. Not nothing. Not the wrong thing.
Most people skip step one and burn out by week three. Most people refuse step two and stay stuck for years. Most people fall into step three's trap and make everything worse.
32 years. Hundreds of thousands of couples. A 70% success rate.
If your spouse just told you they want out, watch this before you make a single move.
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Your marriage didn't fall apart overnight.
It won't be saved overnight either.
But it can be saved.
Most people in a marriage crisis do the wrong things. Not because they're bad people, but because they're in pain.
They beg. They plead. They give ultimatums.
They go silent and call it "boundaries."
They follow every piece of bad advice the internet throws at them.
And it pushes their spouse further away.
In this video, I walk you through the first 3 steps of our 7-step plan to rescue your marriage and your sanity.
Calm down.
Get clarity.
Stop your pushes and start your pulls
These aren't fluffy concepts. They're the same framework we've used with thousands of couples over the past 25+ years. Couples you'd look at and say "there's no way that marriage survives."
It survived.
The truth is, every marriage is two imperfect people. Both bringing baggage. Both doing things that slowly erode the relationship, sometimes for 6 years before anyone asks for help.
You don't need a perfect spouse.
You don't need a perfect situation.
You need a framework that actually works.
That's what this video gives you.
I'll show you the breathing technique that resets your brain, the mindset shift that changes everything, and the push-pull dynamic that is the foundation of every healthy relationship.
Even mine.
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If your spouse is leaving, your instinct is to stop them.
Block the exit.
Monitor their phone.
Guilt them into staying.
That doesn't work.
In this video, Marriage Helper coach Nathan shares a story about his daughter Valerie, and how it perfectly illustrates what most people get wrong when trying to save their marriage.
You're focused on the exterior pull.
The other person. The new life. The thing pulling them away.
But you can't control that.
What you can control is what's happening inside the marriage.
Stop chasing the thing that's pulling them out.
Start bringing the pull back in.
Nathan walks through a real client story. A woman whose husband was living overseas and showing signs he wasn't coming back. She was snooping, pain shopping, and letting her frustration poison every interaction.
Then she made a shift.
She stopped obsessing over what she couldn't change and started becoming the woman her husband married.
Months later? He was back in the States. Back in the house. And sitting next to her at a Marriage Helper Workshop.
That's what happens when you bring the pull inside.
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Standing for your marriage isn't being a doormat.
Nobody wants to beg. Nobody wants to plead. Nobody wants to text their husband's affair partner tips on how to cure his headache.
Yes. That actually happened. To a friend of mine.
She chose misery over being alone. She ended up in the hospital. Her house stayed dark for months. She became a shell of the woman she used to be.
All because she was too scared to stop allowing it.
In this video, I break down the difference between being a doormat and being a bulldozer, and why there's a third option most people never learn.
You can't control what your spouse does. You can control what you allow. You can control how you treat yourself.
That's the shift.
I'll walk you through the three changes in thinking that help you respect yourself again, set the right kind of safeguards, and actually make your spouse take notice. Not by punishing them. Not by pleading with them. By becoming someone worth respecting again.
Because here's the truth. You'll keep enduring whatever you keep allowing.
Life is already hard enough. Don't let a lack of self-respect make it harder.
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Most people whose spouse cheated are asking the wrong question: "Why did they do it?" The better question right now is: "What are they feeling now that it's over?"
In this video, Marriage Helper breaks down the three emotional states a cheating spouse typically falls into after the affair ends, and what each one means for the future of your marriage.
The spouse who feels nothing and justifies what they did
The spouse drowning in guilt who believes they can never be forgiven
The spouse who is genuinely sorry and desperately wants a second chance
How to respond to each situation without making things worse
And why understanding how it happened is the key to making sure it never happens again
Marriage Helper has worked with over 25,000 couples in the last 30 years.
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Is pornography sabotaging your sex life and your marriage?
In this video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, breaks down the three ways pornography creates unrealistic expectations, leads to sexual dysfunction, and destroys real intimacy in marriage. Whether it is visual pornography, erotic novels, or the shows you watch, the effects on your relationship and sex life are more damaging than most people realize. If you want a better sex life and a stronger marriage, it starts with addressing the real relationship problems underneath.
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Are you stuck in the same relationship patterns and wondering why nothing ever changes? In this video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, breaks down what most people get wrong about marriage and relationships, and what you actually need to do to turn things around. Drawing from a powerful biblical story and real-life experience, Dr. Holmes shares why real relationship change starts with you, why getting uncomfortable is the key to a thriving marriage, and how to stop waiting for your spouse to change so your marriage can finally move forward.
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Are you in panic mode because your spouse wants to leave, has moved out, or is talking about divorce? Your instincts are probably telling you to do whatever it takes to pull them back—but that might be pushing them further away.
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How do you get a spouse to stay? You cannot force or manipulate someone into staying in a marriage. To truly save your relationship, you must shift from controlling behaviors (begging, pleading, guilt-tripping) to influencing behaviors. You do this by stopping what we call "Push Behaviors" and working on yourself to become a safe, welcoming place that your spouse wants to return to.
In this video, Marriage Helper coach Nathan explains the exact psychology behind why your attempts to hold on tightly are backfiring, and what you can do instead to create an environment of genuine connection.
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You’ve probably heard the classic advice: "If you want to save your marriage, you have to work on yourself." But what if that’s only half the truth?
In this video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes and Marriage Helper COO Marcos Silva reveal why focusing purely on self-improvement can actually be a trap that pushes your spouse further away. While working on your PIES (Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual attraction) is a vital first step, doing it solely for yourself—or solely to manipulate your spouse's reaction—will leave you stuck.
The real secret to saving a broken marriage isn't just about becoming the best version of yourself. It's about learning how to love differently, navigating the "gray area," and changing the way you actually show up for your spouse.
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Are you living in a sexless marriage?
Sexual rejection is one of the most painful experiences a spouse can face. It destroys self-esteem, creates a "lonely" atmosphere in the home, and often leads to a cycle of pressure and withdrawal. But most of the advice out there—like "just communicate better" or "make a list"—doesn't actually work. Why? Because sexual frustration is rarely just about the sex itself.
In this deep dive, Dr. Joe Beam unpacks what actually drives desire and what erodes it. Whether you are the spouse feeling rejected or the one feeling pressured to perform, this conversation provides a roadmap to understanding the "why" behind the disconnect.
In this video, Dr. Joe discusses:
The 4 Root Causes: Is the issue Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, or Spiritual?
The "Universal vs. Specific" Test: How to determine if the problem is biological or rooted in the relationship.
The Arousal Myth: Why many women (and some men) don't feel "desire" until after the process starts.
Pornography & Affairs: A candid look at how sexual unfulfillment contributes to—but does not justify—betrayal.
The "Outside/Inside" Rule: How your daily interactions are sabotaging your intimacy.
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If your marriage has gone from "good" to "bad" and you’re terrified that you’ll be divorced in the next six months, you are not alone. Most people think it takes two to save a marriage—but at Marriage Helper, we’ve spent 30 years proving that one spouse can change the entire dynamic of a relationship.
In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes breaks down the fundamental process that has helped thousands of couples—even those in "hopeless" situations—turn things around and build a dream life together.
In this video, you will learn:
The "Frantic" Trap: Why begging, pleading, and "acting crazy" (even if it’s out of love) actually pushes your spouse further away.
Symptoms vs. Root Causes: Why "quick fix" text messages don't work and why you need to "strengthen your core" instead of just treating the pain.
Pushes vs. Pulls: How to stop the behaviors that drive your spouse out the door and start the "dance" that pulls them back in.
The 7-Step Framework: A roadmap from total chaos to passionate intimacy.
The 7 Steps to Saving Your Marriage:
1. Calm Down: Moving from a frantic state to a place of peace.
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Get Clarity: Identifying the real issues that have been simmering for years.
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Stop Pushes & Start Pulls: Changing your "dance steps" to shift the dynamic.
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Forgive & Reconcile: The internal work and the 5-step reconciliation process.
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Build Back Trust: Restoring the foundation.
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Reignite Passionate Intimacy: Moving past the "roommate" phase.
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Create Your Dream Life Together: Designing a future you both love.
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In today's Marriage Helper LIVE, Dr. Joe and Dr. Kimberly explain why focusing on the affair partner doesn't actually matter, and take live questions from callers. This show also features segments from Micheal Felker and Nathan Grounds.
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Why Confronting Your Spouse's Limerence Always Backfires (And What to Do Instead)
If you’ve discovered your spouse is in an affair, your first instinct is likely to confront them, expose the truth, and demand they "wake up." But as many heartbroken spouses discover, this almost always pushes them further away. Why?
In today’s video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes and Dr. Joe Beam explain the psychological "brain takeover" known as Limerence. When a spouse is in this state, they aren't just making a bad choice—they are experiencing a chemical addiction similar to OCD.
Learn why your efforts to "fix" them are failing and how to shift your strategy to actually save your marriage.
🔍 In this video, we cover:
The Limerence Trap: Why your spouse seems like a completely different person.
The Confrontation Backfire: Why attacking the "Affair Partner" makes your spouse defend them even more.
The Science of Limerence: How dopamine and "Affair Fog" create a fantasy world that logic cannot break.
The 3 Things You Must Stop Doing: If you want any hope of reconciliation, you must stop these three specific behaviors immediately.
The Path to Reconciliation: How to focus on what YOU can control to become the person your spouse eventually wants to come back to.
What is Limerence?
Limerence is a state of mind which results from romantic feelings for another person and typically includes obsessive thoughts and fantasies and a desire to form or maintain a relationship with the object of love and have one's feelings reciprocated. In a marriage, this often looks like "Affair Fog," where the spouse becomes erratic, re-writes marital history, and seeks a "dopamine high" from a new partner.
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Does it feel like you are living with a ghost? Your spouse comes home, eats dinner, and sleeps in the same bed, but they aren't really there. If you are dealing with a spouse who is indifferent, numb, or emotionally walled off, you are likely asking yourself: "Can a marriage like this be saved when I'm the only one trying?"
In this video, Coach Nathan from Marriage Helper explains exactly why your spouse has checked out and how to get them to check back in—without forcing them.
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IN THIS VIDEO: You will learn the difference between "Push Behaviors" (which drive your spouse further away) and "Pull Behaviors" (which invite them back in). We break down the psychology of the "emotional callus"—how your spouse became numb over time—and introduce you to the S.M.A.R.T. Contact method to begin dismantling their walls.
KEY CONCEPTS EXPLAINED:
Why has my spouse checked out? Rarely does a spouse check out overnight. Just like playing a guitar builds calluses on fingertips to resist pain, your spouse has built emotional calluses to shield themselves from negative emotions, feeling unheard, or shame. To save the marriage, you must stop pressing on the "bruise" and start changing the environment.
What is SMART Contact? If you want to save your marriage, you need to stop "Push Behaviors" (begging, pleading, forcing relationship talks) and start using SMART Contact.
- S - Stop Push Behaviors: Stop doing things that elicit negative emotions in your spouse (crying, begging, arguing about the relationship).
- M - Manage Business Items: Only discuss necessary logistics (kids, finances, schedule) without letting emotion bleed into the conversation.
- A - Allow for Conversation: Don't go "No Contact" (that is manipulation). Be open to talking if they initiate, but let them lead.
- R - Respond Strongly, Calmly, & Gently: Watch your tone and body language. Be a safe place for them.
- T - Take it One Day at a Time: Consistency and patience are key. You cannot fix years of damage in a few days.
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If you are watching this, it’s likely your wife wants a divorce, and you want to save the marriage. If you are willing to take responsibility and step up as a leader, not a dictator, but a true husband and father, this video is for you.
In this video, Dr. Joe Beam breaks down the psychology behind why women leave and introduces the concept of the "Push" and the "Pull." It isn't about magic bullets; it's about understanding the deep-seated "whys" behind her decision and taking specific actions to turn it around.
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If you are asking, "Why does my wife want a divorce?", it almost always comes down to three specific dynamics.
- The Push (Driving Her Away) This occurs when your behavior evokes negative emotions in your wife. Even if you didn't mean to, things like angry outbursts, ignoring her, controlling behavior, or making her feel disrespected push her out the door.
The Fix: Identify what behaviors are causing her pain and STOP them immediately.
- The Lack of Pull (No Emotional Connection) You might not be pushing her away, but you aren't drawing her in. A lack of pull means you aren't evoking positive emotions. She needs to feel heard, understood, accepted, and safe.
The Fix: Learn to listen to understand (not to fix) and create a safe emotional space.
- The Outside Pull (A Better Option) This isn't always another man. An outside pull can be a dream, a career, a new self-image, or a lifestyle she desires more than her current life with you.
The Warning: Do not try to attack the outside pull (or the other guy). It will only make her defend it. Focus on fixing your own pushes and pulls.
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If your wife has said "I love you but I'm not in love with you," or if she is already filing for divorce, panic is your enemy. Many men react by begging, pleading, or getting angry—all of which act as "pushes."
Dr. Joe explains that saving a marriage requires:
Owning your part: Admitting that you may have contributed to the breakdown.
Willingness to learn: Moving past "I know everything" and seeking expert help.
Urgency: Understanding that waiting for her to "come to her senses" usually leads to divorce.
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Does moving out save your marriage or is it the first step toward divorce? If you are desperate for peace and thinking about packing your bags, you need to watch this video first.
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Does separation save a marriage? According to research, 80% of couples who separate ultimately end up divorcing. While moving out provides temporary relief and peace, it often creates a "false positive" environment where living apart feels better than the hard work of fixing the relationship. Unless there is a safety issue, separation usually accelerates the end of a marriage rather than saving it.
In this video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes shares both the research and her personal experience regarding marital separation. You’ll learn why the human brain craves separation to "avoid pain and seek gain," but why acting on that impulse usually backfires.
We cover:
The Statistic: Why 8 out of 10 separations fail to reconcile.
The Psychology of Peace: Why your brain resists going back to the marriage once you've had a taste of living alone.
Dr. Kimberly’s Story: How moving out twice early in her marriage didn't fix the problems, it only paused them.
Communication vs. Punishment: Are you moving out to "teach them a lesson"? We discuss why using your presence as a reward or punishment destroys trust.
⚠️ IMPORTANT SAFETY NOTE: If you are in a physically abusive situation or an emotionally unsafe environment where your physical health is at risk, your priority is safety. Please seek help immediately. Separation is necessary for safety, even if the goal isn't marriage restoration yet. You can call 800-799-7233 or text 'BEGIN' to 88788
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Is there a timeline for saving a marriage?
If you are asking "How long will it take to save my marriage?" the honest answer is that there is no magic formula or set number of days. It relies entirely on consistency over time. In this video, Dr. Joe Beam explains that saving a relationship is not an immediate event. It is a process of changing the negative narrative your spouse has about you by consistently doing the right things, even when it feels like it is not working.
In this episode:
Dr. Joe Beam breaks down the typical pattern of marriage dissolution and shares the hard truth about separation. Did you know that once a physical separation occurs, the likelihood of divorce rises to between 75% and 80%?
Dr. Beam explains why this happens using a concept called Negative Affect. This is when your spouse interprets everything you do through a negative filter. Even when you try to change or work on your PIES (Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, Spiritual attraction), your spouse might attack you or criticize you.
Why do they do this? Because your positive changes are messing up the negative narrative they have created to justify leaving.
You will learn:
- The typical "devolving" pattern of a marriage heading toward divorce.
- Why you should avoid or delay separation if at all possible.
- Negative Affect: Why your spouse sees you as the "bad guy" regardless of what you do.
- Why your spouse might get angry when you start working on yourself.
- The vital importance of consistency over time to change their mind.
It is unfair that you have to do the heavy lifting right now. However, if you are the one standing for the marriage, you are the one who has to change the dynamic. It is not easy, but we have witnessed "hopeless" couples turn it around even after years of struggle.
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Learn how they saved their marriage after an affair and addiction, even after 25 years of what looked like a "perfect" life. In this raw and honest interview, Aaron and Rena Garcia open up about the secret pornography addiction and infidelity that nearly destroyed their family, and the specific steps they took to rebuild trust from the ground up.
If you are asking, "Can a marriage survive infidelity?" or "Is it possible to heal from betrayal trauma?" this video provides a real-life roadmap. Aaron, a former pastor, lived a secret double life for decades, while Rena was completely blindsided by the discovery. They discuss the intense physical reality of betrayal trauma (flooding), the shame of addiction in the church, and why they believe leaving isn't always the "easier" option.
In this video, we answer hard questions like:
- How do you rebuild trust after cheating?
- What does real healing look like for a betrayed spouse?
- Why does the "good guy" or spiritual leader fall into addiction?
- How long does it take to save a marriage after an affair?
Rena and Aaron’s story proves that while trust is lost in buckets, it is earned in drops. With the right help, including the Marriage Helper workshop, they didn't just go back to their old marriage... they built a new, stronger one.
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Did you know that divorce filings increase by 30% in January? It’s not a coincidence. The holidays don't just magnify relationship problems; they market a perfection that no marriage actually has. If you are dreading this Christmas because you feel like you are walking on eggshells, you are not alone.
In this video, I’m sharing the exact "Stop The Chaos" plan you need to implement next week. This isn't about fixing your whole marriage in one day. It is about damage control. It is about getting through the holidays without becoming a statistic.
I was where you are 12 years ago. I know the fear, the loneliness, and the overwhelming anxiety. But I also know there is hope.
In this video, we cover:
- The "Knee Surgery" Analogy: Why you need to calm the inflammation (the chaos) before you can have the surgery (the workshop) to fix the root cause.
- The Holiday Truce: Why you must stop all relationship talks from Dec 23rd to 26th.
- Managing External Chaos: How to handle nosy family members and protect your children from the tension.
- The "If/Then" Plan: Practical ways to manage your own anxiety if your spouse doesn't show up or acts distant.
- The PIES of Attraction: How to focus on YOU physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually to become a safe place.
🎄 THE "STOP THE CHAOS" PLAN FOR CHRISTMAS:
- Stop Pushing: No begging, pleading, or "heavy" talks.
- Be A Safe Place: Warm, kind, and accepting (but not smothering).
- Manage Expectations: If your spouse is distant, treat them like a guest. Be hospitable, but don't force connection.
- Damage Control: Your goal this week is not to "save" the marriage, but to prevent making it worse.
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The shocking termination of Michigan head coach Sherrone Moore has dominated the headlines, but beneath the sports scandal lies a profound psychological phenomenon: Limerence. In this video, we break down the reports from USA Today and Sports Illustrated to analyze the behavior leading up to Moore’s firing. From the alleged years-long affair to the reports of stalking and the "kitchen scissors" incident, we look at these events through the lens of relationship psychology. Was this just a lapse in judgment, or was it the destructive cycle of limerence?
What You’ll Learn in This Video:
The 3 Stages of Limerence: Understanding Infatuation, Crystallization, and Deterioration.
Why Good People Make Bad Decisions: How brain chemistry changes during an obsessive affair.
The Reality of Stalking in Limerence: Why the person "left behind" often resorts to desperate, unrecognizable behaviors.
Hope for Marriage Recovery: Can a marriage survive a public scandal and limerence? (The answer might surprise you).
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What is limerence in a relationship? Limerence is a state of involuntary obsession with another person. It involves intrusive thoughts, an intense desire for reciprocation, and can lead to irrational behavior that the person wouldn’t normally exhibit.
How long does limerence last? Typically, limerence lasts between 18 months to 3 years. As seen in the Sherrone Moore case, once one partner enters the "deterioration" phase while the other is still in "crystallization," it often leads to conflict or stalking.
Can a marriage survive limerence and an affair? Yes. While the process involves a difficult "grief period" for the unfaithful spouse, many marriages can be rebuilt to be stronger than they were before the affair began.
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Getting served divorce papers can feel like the final blow, but it doesn’t have to be the end of your marriage. If you’ve just received the filing, you are likely feeling panic, fear, and anger. In this video, we break down exactly what you need to do immediately to stay sane, protect yourself, and maximize your chances of saving your marriage.
Just because your spouse filed for divorce does not mean it is over. Divorce is an event, not the end of the story. We see couples save their marriages even after papers have been served.
In this video, we cover the 5 crucial steps to take right now:
Regulate Your Nervous System: Learn the "Box Breathing" technique (4-4-4-4). Set alarms for 8:00 a.m., Noon, and 6:00 p.m. to do this for 3 minutes. This resets your amygdala and stops the fight-or-flight response.
Process Your Emotions: Don't bottle it up. Write down every thought, fear, anger, and resentment on paper. Getting it out of your head helps it lose power over you.
Analyze Your Decision: Create a Pros and Cons list. Think beyond today... how will this divorce affect you in 10 months or 10 years? Consider the impact on your children, finances, and future.
Find the Right Lawyer: You need legal protection, but you must find a lawyer who isn't "vicious." Find someone who will defend you financially and regarding custody, but who also respects your desire to save the marriage and won't use your children as pawns.
Seek Expert Guidance: The average divorce costs $25,000–$30,000, plus the emotional cost. Consider investing that energy into saving the relationship instead. Marriage Helper has worked with over 25,000 clients and has a 70% success rate with our workshops.
Why You Should Watch: If you are asking, "My wife filed for divorce, what do I do?" or "My husband served me papers, is it over?" this video is your roadmap. We explain why filing is often a cry for help or a reaction to pain, rather than a final door closing.
Next Steps: If you want to know if your situation is salvageable, please fill out our application. We work with hundreds of clients personally every month to turn hopeless situations around.
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Have you lost those feelings of attraction? Are you wondering if it’s even possible to fall back in love with your husband or wife after years of distance, hurt, or "storms" in life?
In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes shares the roadmap for How To Fall In Love With Your Spouse Again In 2026. Even if your marriage feels like it is on the brink of divorce, or you feel completely numb, you can get those feelings back. Don't throw your marriage away yet.
The process of falling in love isn't a mystery, it’s a predictable path called The LovePath™. By focusing on four specific steps... Attraction, Acceptance, Attachment, and Aspiration... you can revitalize your relationship and save your marriage.
In this video, you will learn:
The PIES of Attraction: How to work on your Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual self to naturally draw your spouse back.
The Power of Acceptance: How to accept your spouse without tolerating destructive behaviors (like alcoholism or affairs).
True Attachment: Why "commitment" is the safety net that allows love to grow.
Aspiration: How shared dreams can act as the "superglue" for a long-lasting marriage.
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Can your marriage be saved after an affair, separation, or even after divorce papers have been filed? Is there a point where a relationship is truly "too far gone"?
In this video, Kimberly from Marriage Helper reveals the shocking truth about which marriages actually won't be saved. The answer might surprise you—it has nothing to do with how much time has passed, the severity of the infidelity, or legal proceedings. Instead, it comes down to three specific roadblocks that stop reconciliation in its tracks.
If you are wondering, "Is there hope for my marriage?" this video is a must-watch. Kimberly shares insights on why complaining, making excuses, and letting fear paralyze you are the real reasons marriages fail—and exactly how you can start doing something different today.
In this video, we cover:
The psychological danger of focusing on the negative.
Why making excuses creates a barrier to intimacy.
How to overcome the fear that "nothing will work."
Why affairs and separation do NOT mean your marriage is over.
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Is your behavior accidentally destroying your marriage? In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes reveals one of the top predictors of divorce—second only to affairs—that most people don't even realize they are doing.
Control is a silent relationship killer. You might think you are just trying to "help" your spouse, protect your family, or make sure things are done "the right way." But to your partner, it feels like intrusion, intimidation, and a lack of trust.
At Marriage Helper, we see thousands of couples in crisis, and control is one of the hardest hurdles to overcome—but it IS possible. In this video, Kimberly breaks down the psychology behind why good people become controlling, the 5 distinct ways control manifests in a marriage, and gives you a 5-question self-assessment quiz to see if you are guilty of these behaviors.
In this video, you will learn:
- The Root Causes: Why fear, low self-esteem, and poor emotional regulation lead to controlling behavior.
- The 5 Types of Control: Intrusion, Intimidation, Correction, Disempowerment, and Emotional Coercion.
- The Self-Assessment: 5 honest questions to ask yourself right now.
- The Solution: Practical steps to stop controlling your spouse and start saving your marriage.
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Are you being gaslighted in your marriage, or is something else going on beneath the surface? In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes breaks down what gaslighting actually is, how to know if it’s truly happening, and when a painful pattern in your marriage might be caused by miscommunication, different backgrounds, fear, or unhealed wounds—not intentional manipulation.
If you’ve ever felt confused, crazy, or like you’re losing your grip on reality during arguments with your spouse, this is the video you need to watch. You’ll learn the real signs of gaslighting, what makes it different from normal disagreements, and the three key statements you can use to set boundaries, stay grounded, and stop getting pulled into endless arguments.
Kimberly also explains why the term “gaslighting” is often misused, how fear can drive controlling behavior, and why two people can remember the same event in completely different ways. Most importantly, she shows you what to do when you feel invalidated, dismissed, blamed, or overwhelmed in conversations with your spouse.
In this video, you’ll learn:
- What actual gaslighting looks like in marriage
- The difference between gaslighting and conflicting perspectives
- How past experiences shape how spouses interpret situations
- Why you may feel "crazy" even when no one is gaslighting you
- Signs of emotional control or manipulation
- Three powerful statements that help you stay calm and set healthy boundaries
- How to reset destructive communication patterns
- When it’s time to pause the conversation—and how to exit with strength
- How to turn painful conflicts into productive conversations
Whether gaslighting is happening or you’re simply stuck in damaging communication loops, this video gives you actionable next steps to protect your sanity, improve conversations, and move your marriage toward healing.
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If you’re a woman who makes more money than your husband, this video is for you.
This dynamic is becoming more and more common—but many couples are struggling silently with the tension it can create. The goal of this video is not to shame success, ambition, or calling. It’s to help you protect your marriage while you continue pursuing the work you feel called to do.
I’ve been the primary income earner in my own marriage for nearly a decade. I know the pressure, the guilt, the loneliness, and the internal tug-of-war that can come with it. And I also know how easy it is to unintentionally say or do things that leave your husband feeling disrespected, unseen, or pushed away—even when that was never your intention.
Today, I’m sharing 3 things you should not say to your husband when you earn more than he does—and what to do instead so that your marriage can feel like a true team again.
Because your marriage can stay strong.
You can be successful and connected at home.
You don’t have to choose one or the other.
In this video, you’ll learn:
- Why earning more can trigger insecurity in your spouse (and what to do with that)
- How to communicate without diminishing your spouse’s role or contribution
- What to say instead of “you’re not doing enough”
- How to rebuild respect, connection, and emotional intimacy—starting today
Whether you’re an entrepreneur, executive, leader, or professional woman—this message matters. And you are not alone.
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If your wife is the primary income earner in your home, this video is for you. More and more marriages today are experiencing a shift in traditional roles — and many husbands aren’t sure how to navigate it. You may fully support your wife’s success and still find yourself wrestling with confidence, identity, or how to “lead” in the relationship without competing with her.
In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes shares:
Why this role reversal can create unexpected stress in a marriage
What your wife actually needs from you emotionally
How to step up as a confident, loving husband (without becoming controlling or passive)
How to work together as a team so both of you feel respected, valued, and connected
You don’t have to make more money to play a meaningful, strong, and respected role in your marriage. And your wife doesn’t want to compete with you — she wants to be on the same team with you.
There is a path forward where your marriage can feel balanced, secure, and deeply connected again.
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When your marriage feels like it’s falling apart, anxiety can take over your mind—and your marriage. In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes shares 3 powerful ways to overcome anxiety during a marriage crisis so you can think clearly, stay grounded, and begin the process of saving your relationship.
Drawing from her personal experience with lifelong anxiety and her decades of helping people in crisis through Marriage Helper, Kimberly explains how fear, control, and uncertainty can keep you trapped—and how to break free from that cycle.
You’ll learn:
✅ How to take every thought captive and stop the endless “what if” spiral
✅ Why you must find the helpers who bring peace, not panic
✅ The science-backed way to reset your body through 4x4 breathing
Anxiety doesn’t have to rule your mind—or ruin your marriage. These tools will help you calm your thoughts, regulate your emotions, and start rebuilding the connection with your spouse.
If your marriage feels stuck in chaos, remember: there is always hope.
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In this segment, taken from our live show, Dr. Joe and Kimberly talk with a wife who wants to reconcile the marriage but is encountering some resistance... her husband is still sleeping with his affair partners.
Dr. Joe and Kimberly give insight into how to start exploring reconciliation, even when your spouse might not be willing.
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Do you ever wonder how to feel more alive in your marriage again? That spark you felt in the beginning doesn’t have to fade forever. In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, shares 5 proven ways to reignite passion, intimacy, and connection with your spouse so you can feel fully alive in your relationship again.
Research shows that “being madly in love” is often just limerence—a temporary stage fueled by brain chemistry. But real, lasting love is built on intimacy, passion, and commitment. The good news? You can rekindle that passion and start thriving together no matter where your marriage is today.
Inside this video, you’ll discover:
- How a shared purpose can pull you and your spouse back together when life pulls you apart
- Why adventure and play boost bonding and create lasting memories
- The role of emotional safety and vulnerability in building trust and passion
- How affection and desire keep love fresh through small daily actions
- Why supporting each other’s growth leads to a stronger, more secure marriage
If you want to know how to feel more alive in your marriage, these five steps can transform the way you love, connect, and grow together.
👉 Watch until the end for practical ideas you can start using today to bring intimacy and passion back into your marriage.
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Are you the one fighting to save your marriage while your spouse seems ready to give up? Maybe they’ve grown emotionally distant, controlling, or even unfaithful. You feel the weight of the marriage on your shoulders, asking: “Why me? Why do I have to do all the work?”
In this video, Dr. Joe Beam reveals the hard truth about what it takes to save a marriage when your spouse wants a divorce. You’ll learn:
- Why focusing on your spouse’s mistakes often pushes them further away
- What you can control when it feels like everything is slipping through your fingers
- Why criticism, guilt, or pressure rarely bring a spouse back—and what actually can
- How choosing strength, grace, and perseverance changes the dynamic of your marriage
At Marriage Helper, we’ve worked with thousands of couples on the brink of divorce. Many felt hopeless, yet they discovered a proven path forward. If you’re hurting but still holding on to hope, this message is for you.
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Divorce is never easy. But when kids are involved, the stakes are even higher. Before making the life-changing decision to divorce, there are five essential considerations every parent needs to think about.
In this video, Kimberly shares heartbreaking real-life stories and powerful research that reveal the true impact divorce can have on children. You’ll learn:
✅ Why children’s greatest fear is losing a parent—and why divorce can feel even harder for them than a parent passing away.
✅ How stability and consistency directly affect a child’s ability to thrive.
✅ What shared custody really looks like—and the sacrifices many parents don’t anticipate.
✅ The hidden emotional toll kids carry when they blame themselves for their parents’ divorce.
✅ The financial realities that can drastically change a child’s lifestyle.
✅ How your marriage (or divorce) teaches your kids what love, forgiveness, and relationships look like.
Kids are resilient—but they shouldn’t have to be. Divorce doesn’t just shape your future, it shapes theirs too. Before you file, take time to truly count the cost—not just for yourself, but for your children
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Do you feel something is “off” in your marriage but can’t quite explain it? The truth is, the biggest warning signs of a troubled marriage aren’t always obvious. In this video, Dr. Joe Beam reveals 3 hidden signs your marriage is in trouble—and why couples often miss them until it’s too late.
After working with thousands of couples over 30+ years, Dr. Beam explains:
✅ Why “we never saw this coming” is more common than you think
✅ The dangers of emotional drift and what it looks like in everyday life
✅ How secretiveness creates distance (even without an affair)
✅ Why criticism and keeping score can destroy your bond
✅ The specific steps you can take TODAY to turn things around
Whether your spouse has pulled away, mentioned divorce, or you simply feel disconnected, this video will give you hope. At Marriage Helper, we’ve seen marriages restored even after affairs, separation, and divorce papers were filed. No marriage is too far gone if the right changes are made.
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Have you heard of the so-called “1000 Mile Rule”? It’s a trend spreading online that suggests if you’re more than a thousand miles away from your spouse, you can cheat guilt-free. Sounds shocking, right? In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, explains why this idea is destructive and why you should avoid it at all costs.
For over 30 years, Marriage Helper has worked with more than 25,000 couples, helping them restore their marriages and rebuild lasting commitment. In this episode, Kimberly breaks down:
✅ What the “1000 Mile Rule” actually is and where it came from
✅ Why ideas like this weaken trust and commitment in marriage
✅ The truth about monogamy and long-lasting love, backed by experts like Dr. Helen Fisher and Dr. John Gottman
✅ How to build stronger connection and intimacy with your spouse instead of looking outside your marriage
At Marriage Helper, we know what makes marriages thrive—and it’s not free passes, open marriages, or outside flings. True love and fulfillment come from creating safety, commitment, and passion with your spouse.
👉 If you’ve been tempted by ideas like the “1000 Mile Rule,” this video will show you why they lead to disaster—and what to do instead.
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Are you struggling to save your marriage and wondering where to begin? In this video, I’ll walk you through 5 mindset shifts to save your marriage—practical and proven ways to reframe how you think, act, and grow in your relationship.
These five shifts cover the essential questions of who, what, when, where, and why. You’ll discover:
- Why doing this for yourself (not just your spouse) is critical
- What strategies actually work to rebuild connection instead of quick-fix gimmicks
- How long it really takes to restore a marriage in crisis
- Where your focus should be to break free from negativity and resentment
- Why your deeper motivation will keep you going when things feel impossible
Drawing from psychology, performance research, and Marriage Helper’s decades of experience, this video will give you the clarity and encouragement you need to take the right steps forward.
If you want a stronger marriage, it begins with your mindset. These shifts can make the difference between staying stuck and moving toward reconciliation and growth.
👉 Watch until the end—because the last mindset shift is the most important one.
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Are you noticing patterns in the way you and your spouse talk to each other that leave you feeling distant, frustrated, or unheard? In this video, we’ll unpack 3 signs of unhealthy communication in your marriage—and what you can do to stop them before they cause lasting damage.
Drawing from leading research and years of experience at Marriage Helper, we’ll walk through:
✅ Disrespectful communication—why criticism, belittling, or eye-rolling can erode trust.
✅ Avoidance and isolation—why “never fighting” isn’t healthy and how conflict can actually build intimacy.
✅ Jokes at your spouse’s expense—how sarcasm and mockery damage closeness and connection.
If you’ve wondered whether the way you communicate is creating distance instead of closeness, this video will give you the clarity you need. You’ll also learn practical steps to replace unhealthy patterns with healthier, more loving ways of talking with your spouse.
At Marriage Helper, we believe communication can either tear a marriage apart—or transform it into something stronger than ever before. Don’t miss this video if you want to build deeper intimacy, respect, and connection in your relationship.
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You don’t have to change who you are to look and feel your best. In this video, we’ll talk about how you can become more physically attractive without changing your personality, values, or authenticity.
You’ll learn simple, practical ways to enhance your natural appearance—things anyone can do to boost confidence, posture, and energy—while still staying true to yourself. We’ll cover tips for improving your style, taking care of your body, and showing up in a way that makes people notice you for the right reasons.
If you’ve ever felt like “attractive” means you have to fit someone else’s mold, this video will show you a different approach: how to become more physically attractive without changing the core of who you are. Because true attractiveness isn’t about pretending—it’s about highlighting what’s already great about you.
Watch until the end for practical steps you can start using today to look better, feel better, and attract the right kind of attention—while being 100% you.
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If your marriage is falling apart, you’re paying a high price—and it’s called the Pain Tax.
In just minutes, Dr. Joe Beam will show you the simple Push-Pull Principle that can stop the hurt, break the cycle, and start drawing your spouse back toward you.
This isn’t theory—it’s the same principle that’s helped thousands of couples around the world turn their marriages around. Whether it’s infidelity, addiction, disconnection, or constant fighting, this could be the turning point you’ve been praying for.
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You betrayed your spouse—and now you're living with the crushing weight of guilt, fear, and regret. Whether it was a one-time mistake or a long-term affair, you're asking the one question that keeps you up at night: Can I save my marriage... and if so, how?
In this video, Dr. Joe Beam—founder of Marriage Helper and a man who has personally walked the painful path of infidelity—shares the exact steps thousands of people have taken to rebuild trust, restore connection, and ultimately save their marriage after betrayal.
You’ll learn:
- Why affairs happen (and why understanding this matters)
- The 5 proven steps to begin healing and restoring your marriage
- How to take full responsibility without excuses
- Why ending contact with your affair partner is essential
- What transparency and personal transformation really look like
- How to rebuild emotional and physical intimacy over time
Dr. Beam has helped thousands of couples recover from even the deepest wounds, and this video is your first step toward hope and healing. Whether your spouse is ready to reconcile or still resistant, there is a way forward.
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Your spouse cheated—but now they want to come back. Can you ever truly forgive? Can passion and intimacy return after betrayal? In this powerful video, Dr. Joe Beam walks you through the raw emotions, fears, and questions that surface when you decide to take your spouse back after an affair.
You’ll discover:
- Why fear and anger can affect your sex life after infidelity
- How to avoid “spectatoring” and comparisons that destroy intimacy
- The critical role of forgiveness in rebuilding passion
- How to create a sexual and emotional connection stronger than before
Whether you’re wrestling with hurt, struggling to restore trust, or wondering if passion can ever return, this video offers hope—and practical steps to rebuild your marriage from the inside out.
If you’re ready to fight for your marriage, we can help. Join thousands of couples who have saved their relationship through our 3-day Marriage Helper Workshop.
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Have you found yourself in love with someone who isn’t your spouse? You feel alive, seen, deeply connected—and yet... you’re married.
This intense, overwhelming emotion has a name: limerence.
In this video, Dr. Joe Beam speaks directly to the heart of what you’re experiencing.
He explains the science, the soul connection, and the emotional rollercoaster that makes it feel so real—because it is real. But it’s also something that won’t last forever.
🎯 You’ll learn:
What limerence really is (and isn’t)
Why it feels so powerful and irresistible
How long limerence typically lasts
What happens when the feelings start to fade
The real cost of chasing what seems like destiny
Why you might still be able to find everything you long for… in a renewed marriage
You are not crazy. You are not alone. You are not broken.
But before you make a decision that changes your life forever—watch this.
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Have you ever heard the devastating words, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you"? This phrase can feel like an emotional earthquake, like something broke inside your chest, shattering the life you knew and leaving you stunned and confused. If you've heard it, you are not alone, you are not crazy, and this is NOT the end of your marriage.
When your spouse says "I love you, but I'm not in love with you," they are not saying they hate you or have stopped caring. Instead, they are often expressing that the feeling of being in love—the intense emotional pull, the thrill, the spark, the butterflies, and infatuation—has faded or gone. Most people define love by these intense emotions, but these feelings were never meant to last forever. The version of love your spouse might be mourning was simply not sustainable.
What could be fueling this feeling of disconnection? Your spouse might be comparing your steady, imperfect love to a fantasy in their head. This fantasy can be fueled by:
• Stress, burnout, or trauma: Life pressures from career, parenting, or finances can overwhelm their emotional capacity, leading them to go emotionally cold.
• Emotional disconnection: They might have felt emotionally neglected or misunderstood for a long time, causing them to feel numb and mistake this absence of connection for an absence of love.
• Feeling lost themselves: Your spouse may feel they've lost themselves within the relationship, leading to resentment and pulling away not from you, but from the person they've become.
• Emotional entanglement with someone else: They might be comparing the fantasy of a new relationship with the realness and challenges of marriage.
The truth is, the spark they miss CAN be reignited. Not only can it be reignited, but it can be transformed into something stronger, deeper, and more lasting than they've ever imagined.
You may be in deep pain right now, feeling betrayed, unwanted, or replaced. You might even feel ashamed for wanting this marriage to work when others tell you to let go. But your desire to fight for your marriage is not weak or foolish; it is the most courageous thing you can do. And you don't have to do it alone.
At Marriage Helper, we've spent over 31 years helping marriages in the worst possible shape—even when a spouse had moved out, filed for divorce, or fallen in love with someone else. Countless couples have found their way back, found healing, and fell in love again—not the shallow kind, but the lasting kind.
This moment is your turning point. Please go right now to marriagehelper.com/call to schedule a FREE conversation with us about how we can help. It will take courage, commitment, and an investment of time, money, and energy. But what is your marriage worth to you? Imagine waking up one day, looking at your spouse, and saying, "We made it, and we're stronger than ever". That can happen because your story isn't over—it's just the beginning
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Are you living with your spouse but feel like you're just living with a roommate? Do conversations revolve only around finances, kids, and chores, rather than the fun and passion you once shared? Many couples experience what's called a "companionate relationship," where intimacy and commitment are present, but the crucial elements of passion and eroticism have faded, often leaving one spouse yearning for more oneness and excitement. This often happens when deep security and intimacy lead to a level of predictability that can, over time, "de-eroticize" the relationship.
But there's a powerful secret to reigniting that spark: Planned Surprise.
While intimacy thrives on trust and predictability, allowing you to not worry about what's coming next, eroticism and passion flourish on "something new, something different, something unexpected". Predictability, in fact, kills eroticism.
In this video, we reveal how to bridge this gap and stop feeling like roommates by intentionally adding passion back into your marriage. Drawing on insights from experts like world-renowned sexologist Dr. Barry McCarthy, we explain:
- Why Predictability Kills Passion: Intimacy provides security, a deep part of closeness where you don't expect surprises. However, eroticism dies when there are no surprises and everything becomes extremely predictable. You could become habituated and de-eroticized unless you're intentional about not doing that.
- The "Surprise Scenario" Exercise: Discover a practical method from the "Becoming One" workbook where each spouse plans out three unique "surprise scenarios". The key is that they review these scenarios together first to cross out anything that "ain't going to happen" or might cause "sexual inhibition".
- The Power of Anticipation (Dopamine): Learn how the actual surprise works: your spouse doesn't know when, where, or how one of these pre-approved scenarios will unfold, creating a delightful and sustained anticipation. As the source explains, dopamine has more to do with the anticipation than the event itself. This means there could be a "low-level dopamine" thrill throughout the month, which increases if a clue appears.
- How to Get Started and Keep the Momentum: We discuss how you can gently introduce this concept, even if your spouse is initially hesitant, perhaps by trying a non-offensive surprise without warning them first, much like one husband did by transforming his living room into a "South Pacific" scene to encourage "new anticipatory things". It's crucial for the planned event to actually happen; otherwise, the drop in dopamine and trust can be worse than if they weren't expecting it.
Don't settle for a passionless marriage. It's time to become intentional about rekindling the romance and returning to that "craving for oneness" that defines true passion. Watch now to learn the surprising way to transform your roommate situation back into a vibrant, passionate marriage! Yo
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You want to save your marriage, but your spouse doesn’t seem interested. What now?
In this powerful episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes and Dr. Joe Beam walk you step-by-step through how to approach your spouse about working on the marriage—even if they’ve checked out, are asking for a divorce, or are involved with someone else.
You’ll learn how to:
- Overcome the fear of asking your spouse for help
- Avoid common mistakes that push your spouse further away
- Use a proven, non-manipulative framework to invite your spouse to a Marriage Helper workshop
- Understand and validate your spouse’s objections—while staying calm, confident, and respectful
- Identify your spouse’s true motivations (even ones you don’t agree with) and speak to what matters most to them
Plus, discover how to navigate tricky objections like:
- “I don’t believe in counseling”
- “This won’t fix anything”
- “It’s too expensive”
- “I just want the divorce”
Whether your spouse is emotionally distant, hostile, or seemingly indifferent, this video gives you the tools and confidence to take the next right step without manipulation or pressure.
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What happens to a marriage when life doesn’t just get hard—it breaks you?
In this deeply honest and emotional conversation, Cassia shares her and Cory’s journey of staying married while raising a medically fragile child, navigating grief after miscarriages, and confronting the realities of long-term caregiving. From ambulance rides every three weeks to learning how to love when there’s no guarantee of being loved back, their story is one of resilience, raw faith, and choosing to show up—day after day.
If you're parenting in hard circumstances, walking through suffering, or just wondering how couples stay connected in crisis, this episode is for you.
👉 Topics we cover:
Miscarriage and grief
Raising a child with severe disabilities
Faith in the middle of unanswered prayers
How marriage survives medical trauma
Learning to love in one direction
Practical ways to stay emotionally connected
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This is one of the wildest marriage stories we’ve ever seen.
When Elisa walked into our couples workshop, she said, “I would rather die than stay married to this man.” She had already had four affairs. Marcos, her husband, had just retaliated with one of his own. They had already divorced once, remarried, and were still stuck in a cycle of resentment, control, and disconnection.
By all accounts, their marriage was over.
But what happened next turned everything around—and what they learned during that process could change your marriage too.
This case study isn’t just about betrayal. It’s about transformation—how love, humility, and the right tools helped two people rewrite their story against all odds.
If your marriage feels hopeless, their journey may be the spark of hope you need.
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In today’s episode, we tackle one of the most emotionally charged topics in relationships: narcissism. Whether your spouse has called you a narcissist, or you're wondering if they might be one, this conversation cuts through the confusion and cultural noise.
Kimberly Beam Holmes is joined by Meredith Ball, a Marriage Helper certified coach, to unpack the real meaning of narcissism—what it is, what it isn’t, and why it's become the go-to label in so many hurting relationships.
🎯 We cover:
What the term narcissist actually means (and why most people misuse it)
The danger of self-diagnosing or labeling your spouse
How trauma and attachment wounds shape narcissistic behaviors
Why being called a narcissist doesn’t mean you are one
What to do if your spouse weaponizes this label against you
The powerful role of empathy and acceptance in healing
How to grow—even if your spouse doesn’t change
You’ll also hear insights from clinical research, personal coaching experiences, and real-life stories of hope and transformation. If you’re trying to save your marriage, feeling unfairly labeled, or just want to better understand this complicated topic—this episode is for you.
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When your marriage feels like it's falling apart, it's tempting to search for answers—especially ones that explain your spouse’s behavior. Maybe you’ve wondered, "Could they be a narcissist?" or "Do they have bipolar disorder?"
In this episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes is joined by Marriage Helper coach and counselor Meredith Ball to unpack the dangers of diagnosing your spouse. You’ll learn why it’s natural to want clarity, but how labeling your spouse can backfire—leading to more disconnection instead of healing.
We’ll discuss:
- Why people self-diagnose their spouse
- The risks of assigning mental health labels without professional help
- How to focus on what’s actually within your control
- The surprising way real healing starts
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He did everything “right”—worked hard, stayed loyal, provided for his family.
But when his wife left him for his own brother… he didn’t fight.
He tried to understand. He felt bad for them.
And somehow, he believed that was love.
In this real-life conversation from Marriage Helper, we unpack the painful truth behind passive behavior in marriage—and how it often pushes a spouse away more than anything else.
This isn't just a story of betrayal. It’s a wake-up call for anyone who’s given up their identity in the name of sacrifice… and lost their marriage in the process.
You'll discover:
Why empathy without boundaries can become self-sabotage
How passivity kills attraction
The real difference between panic and passion
And why ownership is the turning point between wishing and winning
Whether you're in a marriage crisis or stuck in survival mode, this episode is your invitation to stop letting life happen to you—and start choosing who you want to become.
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What do you say when a friend confesses they’re struggling with pornography? Whether they admitted it directly or you discovered it by accident, knowing how to respond can feel overwhelming. In this honest and compassionate episode, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes guide you through how to handle these conversations with empathy, truth, and clarity.
They discuss the spiritual, relational, and physiological effects of pornography and how to walk with someone you care about toward hope and healing. Whether you're supporting a friend or facing this struggle yourself, there is a way forward.
📌 Topics covered:
How to respond when a friend opens up about porn
Why porn affects both men and women
The impact on marriage and intimacy
The connection between faith, guilt, and behavior
Practical next steps and resources for accountability
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You've probably heard people talk about "manifesting" their ideal relationship or saving their marriage just by thinking positive thoughts. But when your marriage is in crisis, hope alone isn’t a strategy. In this episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes—CEO of Marriage Helper and trained performance psychologist—breaks down why traditional manifestation falls short and what actually works when your relationship feels like it’s falling apart.
You'll discover 3 research-backed mental techniques that high-performing individuals use to overcome adversity—adapted specifically to help you save your marriage:
✔ Visualization (the right way)
✔ Resilience-building breathing exercises
✔ The power of intentional practice
If your marriage is on the brink, but you're too scared to take the next step, this video will give you the tools to begin. It's not about perfection—it's about progress.
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What happens when a well-meaning husband provides, protects, and leads—yet still finds himself blindsided by his wife's decision to walk away? In this powerful episode, Dr. Joe Beam and Nathan McIntyre unpack a real-life story of a man who thought he was doing everything “right” in his marriage… until it all fell apart.
You'll hear:
✔ Why many spouses feel emotionally abandoned even when their physical needs are met
✔ How "doing the right thing" can still create emotional distance
✔ What pushes and pulls are—and how they impact your relationship
✔ The silent warning signs your spouse may be reaching their limit
If you’ve ever wondered “Why did my spouse leave when I was giving so much?” - this episode is for you. Nathan shares practical insights from hundreds of conversations with men and women in marriage crisis, and offers real hope for those ready to change, reconnect, and rebuild.
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🔎 What Does Research Say About Marital Satisfaction Among Christians? | Marriage Helper + Barna Study
In this powerful episode, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes dive deep into the fascinating findings from a 2021 survey conducted by Barna Research Group in partnership with Marriage Helper.
➡️ What percentage of Christian couples are truly satisfied in their marriages?
➡️ How does practicing faith impact marital happiness?
➡️ Why do men often report higher satisfaction — and what could they be missing?
➡️ Why does "somewhat satisfied" actually ring alarm bells for marriage health?
You'll hear behind-the-scenes insights into how the survey was designed, why self-reporting can be tricky (especially around sensitive topics like infidelity and satisfaction), and the real implications for couples — and churches — today.
Key Topics Covered: ✔️ Marital satisfaction breakdown across generations: Millennials, Gen X, and Boomers
✔️ Why “somewhat satisfied” may signal hidden danger
✔️ The critical difference between practicing and non-practicing Christians
✔️ How long couples typically wait before seeking help (hint: it’s way too long!)
✔️ Why churches struggle to support marriages—and how Marriage Helper is stepping in to help
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The silent treatment isn't always intentional. When your spouse emotionally checks out, it creates a painful void that can feel impossible to bridge. Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes tackle this common marriage struggle with uncommon honesty, revealing the hidden causes behind emotional disconnection.
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Research shows that four specific communication behaviors during arguments can predict divorce with 80-90% accuracy, while eliminating these behaviors can dramatically improve marriage success.
• The four horsemen of relationship conflict are defensiveness, criticism, contempt, and stonewalling
• Defensiveness deflects blame and responsibility, creating a downward spiral in communication
• Criticism attacks a partner's character rather than addressing specific behaviors
• Contempt is the most dangerous pattern, involving feelings of superiority toward your partner
• Stonewalling occurs when one partner mentally or physically shuts down during conflict
• The antidote to stonewalling is taking a purposeful break with the intention to resume later
• Taking time to cool down and process emotions leads to more productive conflict resolution
• Sometimes sleeping on an issue provides needed perspective, contrary to "don't go to bed angry" advice
• Breaking these harmful communication patterns requires recognizing and interrupting them early
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Ever found yourself wondering why your spouse doesn't just "get it" without you having to say anything? You're not alone. Marriage communication breaks down in predictable patterns, but understanding these patterns is your first step toward meaningful change.
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What happens in a marriage when one spouse says those three devastating words: "I hate you"? This powerful exploration takes us deep into the psychology of hatred in intimate relationships, revealing surprising truths about how love and hate function as parallels rather than opposites.
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What happens in a marriage when one spouse says those three devastating words: "I hate you"? This powerful exploration takes us deep into the psychology of hatred in intimate relationships, revealing surprising truths about how love and hate function as parallels rather than opposites.
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There's a lot of bad marriage advice out there. Control and manipulation tactics. Tracking, spying and hacking your spouses devices. Having an open marriage. Watching pornography together.
We've heard counselors, therapists and other marriage "experts" tell people to do these things because it can lead to the reconciliation of the marriage.
THIS IS HORRIBLE ADVICE.
After decades of working with thousands of couples, we know what works and what does not. We also know the best empirically-based research that has been verified by the worlds leading researchers.
So let's talk about all of these tips and advice that some people have said is a great idea. We want to go ahead and bust ALL of the myths out there that these things can lead to a better marriage.
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What happens when a marriage suffers from both of the top relationship killers – affairs and controlling behavior? Marcos and Elisa take us through their raw, unfiltered journey of shattered trust and the painstaking process of rebuilding it from the ground up.
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If you’ve ever felt your relationship is struggling due to miscommunication, this episode is for you. Join us as we explore the compelling concept of SMART Contact™—a vital communication strategy designed to bring couples closer, even during turbulent times. We delve into the intricate balance of pushes and pulls in conversations, revealing how understanding these dynamics can transform your communication and foster deeper connections.
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Is your marriage at risk because of limerence? In this episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes break down the science behind limerence—what it is, how it differs from romantic love, and why it can be so destructive in marriage.
You’ll learn:
✔️ The key differences between limerence and true love
✔️ How to tell if you or your spouse are experiencing limerence
✔️ A powerful tool to assess if boundaries have been crossed
✔️ What to do if limerence is threatening your marriage
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When you don't agree with your spouse, it can be incredibly frustrating. It might be something where you absolutely HAVE TO come to some sort of resolution, but you are both hard set in your views.
Handling divisive topics in marriage is extremely important. On one hand, you want to be able to learn how to have healthy compromise with one another. On the other hand, you don't want to go against your own beliefs and values or to become a doormat for your spouse to run right over you and control the situation.
So in today's episode of Relationship Radio, we talk about how to handle divisive topics in marriage. Get ready to take some notes!
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Can a single decision shake the very foundations of your well-being? Join me, Dr. Joe Beam, as we navigate the turbulent waters of marital distress and explore its profound impacts on our lives. This episode uncovers the intellectual, emotional, physical, and spiritual challenges that arise when relationships are in crisis. We'll confront how panic and fear can lead to neglecting self-care and clouding our judgment. Through personal stories and insights, we aim to empower you with the knowledge to find peace amidst chaos and maintain your health in trying times.
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What happens when you discover your spouse is in love with someone else? Dr. Joe Beam tackles this heart-wrenching scenario on Relationship Radio by guiding listeners through the emotional labyrinth that ensues. From the initial shock and pain to grappling with a crushed ego and questioning one's reality, Dr. Beam offers a path forward by encouraging acceptance—not to be confused with agreement—of your partner's feelings. This acceptance fosters understanding and communication, which can ultimately pave the way for healing and potentially restore the relationship.
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What are the top reasons divorces occur in the United States? Studies show that 50% of all marriages will end in divorce, while 41% of first marriages will end the same way.
So what are the underlying reasons, and what can you do to fix that? Find out on today's episode!
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The episode delves into the idea that happiness is a choice, especially after experiencing life's hardships. Dr. Joe Beam shares personal stories and practical insights about interpreting events positively, whether dealing with serious illness or relationship difficulties.
• Exploring the question of happiness after trauma
• The significance of personal perspective on happiness
• The power of interpreting life's challenges positively
• Personal anecdotes highlighting the journey to happiness
• The impact of relationship narratives on emotional wellbeing
• Encouraging listeners to focus on the good in their lives
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Trust can be a fragile and complex component of any relationship, as many of us have discovered through personal experience. Imagine rebuilding your relationship after a significant breach of trust; it’s not impossible, but it requires effort and understanding. Today, we unravel the hidden layers of betrayal, from infidelity to financial deceit, and the emotional upheaval that follows. By sharing examples of these betrayals and exploring the motivations behind deceptive actions, we'll equip you with strategies to address the emotional scars left behind and begin the journey of rebuilding trust.
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In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam answers questions listeners have submitted to the show.
We cover:
- The Valley
- Limerence
-Commitment
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This episode was taken from our 2nd Annual Very Merry Marriage Helper Christmas.
Merry Christmas from all of us at Marriage Helper. We hope you leave with a little more hope after listening to this episode ❤️🎄
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What are the most important things to look for when searching for marriage help? Is it experience? Good reviews? A high success rate? The answer is yes… to ALL of those things.
But success rate is a more nuanced metric. HOW the success rate is calculated matters just as much as the actual success rate, and that’s what we talk about on today’s episode.
In this episode, Kimberly is joined by Dr. John Hill, Director of Research at Marriage Helper. Dr. Hill and Kimberly break down Marriage Helper’s success rate over the years, the process behind the research, and the CURRENT success rate and the research being actively conducted to determine it.
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What if the secrets we hold closest are the ones that weigh us down the most? Join us for a powerful conversation with Ren Bester from South Africa as we unravel the intricate emotions of guilt, shame, and regret within the context of marriage and personal actions. Ren's journey of overcoming these burdens, especially given his religious upbringing and the pressure of performance-based acceptance, offers profound insights. Together, we navigate the delicate balance between acknowledging wrongdoing and the deeper self-condemnation that can accompany it. Ren's candid recounting of his struggles underscores the transformative power of confession, forgiveness, and faith, showcasing how embracing spiritual practices can renew the mind and offer emotional release.
Ren's story doesn't stop at recognition—it's about redemption. By embracing the grace of salvation, Ren found a way to cleanse his past and alleviate the weight of guilt, despite skepticism from those affected by his past actions. He shares the challenges of removing negative influences and how redefining one's identity through humility can pave the path to healing and reconciliation. Even when forgiveness from others isn't promised, the journey to emotional and spiritual freedom remains impactful. Join us as Ren illustrates the potential for transformative change, offering hope and guidance to anyone grappling with their own burdens.
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Is it possible to be in love with two people at once? 🤔 It’s a question many wrestle with, and the answer might surprise you. In this eye-opening episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam and Ren Bester tackle this complex topic with honesty, empathy, and a bit of humor. 💡
We dive deep into:
•The psychology behind different types of love 💞
•The role of limerence and emotional needs in relationships 🧠
•Why love for multiple people isn’t “equal” and how it evolves 📈
•Real-life stories of heartbreak, hope, and healing ✨
Whether you’re struggling with conflicting emotions or just curious about the nature of love, this discussion sheds light on a subject rarely talked about. You’ll also hear powerful insights on how to restore a marriage, even in the toughest situations. 💪
💌 Don’t give up! Discover how becoming a “safe place” emotionally and working on yourself can transform your relationship—and your life.
👉 Listen now to learn how you can navigate love, loyalty, and choices—and find clarity in the chaos.
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What happens when you're deeply in love with someone who isn't your spouse? Join Dr. Joe Beam, as we explore this emotional maze with Ren, who bravely shares his journey of multiple affairs and the overpowering grip of limerence. Together, we navigate the complex emotions tied to being infatuated with another person, and how Ren, with the help of Marriage Helper and his extraordinary wife, found a path back to rebuilding their marriage. This episode sheds light on the importance of shared values in sustaining relationships, even when faced with the fallout of infidelity.
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What if the key to a thriving marriage lies in understanding sexual dynamics? Join me, Dr. Joe Beam, as we unravel the mysteries of sexual compatibility in marriage. Together, we'll navigate the often turbulent waters of varying libidos, preferences, and the external pressures that can cause friction between spouses. Through real-life stories and my own insights, you'll discover how these issues left unaddressed can evolve into serious marital challenges, highlighting the necessity of open communication and resolution for a fulfilling partnership.
Explore the powerful influence of sexual education on your perceptions and expectations. From formal classroom settings to the often unreliable information shared among peers, our sexual education shapes us in profound ways. I'll shed light on the media's role, especially internet pornography, in distorting sexual schemas and relationship expectations. By acknowledging the impact of misinformation and unrealistic portrayals, we emphasize the critical need for accurate education as a cornerstone of personal growth and relationship satisfaction.
Uncover the roots of sexual schemas and their role in shaping relationships. We'll journey through stories of individuals grappling with the aftermath of past traumas and how these experiences echo into their intimate lives. You'll learn about the concept of sexual habituation and how it can lead to diminishing excitement over time. Although this episode focuses on identifying the origins of these issues, it sets the stage for future discussions on resolving sexual incompatibilities. Don't miss our next session, where Kimberly Beam Holmes will provide valuable insights on navigating financial disagreements.
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In this powerful episode of our ongoing series on managing life’s disagreements, we dive deep into one of the most challenging topics for couples: parenting disagreements. Joined by expert guest David Mathews, we explore effective strategies for disciplining children, understanding each other’s perspectives, and fostering marital intimacy through these challenges.
Parenting isn’t easy, and disagreements on how to discipline children can strain even the strongest marriages. In this discussion, we shed light on common disciplinary conflicts and share personal anecdotes that emphasize the importance of unity and mutual respect. Whether it’s dealing with the consequences of differing upbringing styles or navigating the complexities of co-parenting, this video provides valuable insights and actionable advice for all parents facing similar struggles.
Key Highlights:
•Understanding why parents disagree on child discipline and how to address it.
•The impact of personal histories on parenting styles.
•Strategies for aligning parenting goals and enhancing spousal support.
•Expert advice on transforming parenting conflicts into opportunities for growth.
David Mathews lends his wisdom and experience, discussing the transformative potential of acknowledging mistakes and the power of reframing challenges as opportunities for strengthening family bonds. Tune in to learn how to navigate parenting disagreements with grace and achieve a more harmonious home environment.
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What if navigating religious differences could actually strengthen your marriage? Join us as we explore this idea with David Mathews, a workshop facilitator here at Marriage Helper. We promise insights into the complexities of religious disagreements and how they intertwine with respect, control, and open communication. Drawing on real-life stories, we uncover the core issues that can arise and how addressing them can transform your relationship, emphasizing the importance of mutual understanding and acceptance.
This episode sheds light on creating a safe space for dialogue, even when unresolved personal traumas complicate religious conflicts. We discuss a couple's journey through a Marriage Helper workshop, where they discovered that issues beyond faith were affecting their relationship. The power of addressing and accepting these differences is highlighted as a tool for building stronger marriages. As we conclude with thoughts on parenting disagreements and the potential for reconciliation or amicable separation, our conversation offers a rich tapestry of advice and hope for couples navigating similar waters.
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In this video, we talk about how to stay calm and kind when you and someone you care about don’t agree on politics. It’s the first video in a series where we look at big topics that often start arguments, like politics, religion, how we handle money, and how to raise kids.
Nowadays, politics can make people very upset, even with their families or friends. Some folks even wish others who disagree with them weren’t around, which is really sad. But in our video, Meredith Ball, a wise coach, teaches us how to talk about politics without getting angry or hurting our relationships.
Meredith shows us:
1.How to have peaceful talks about politics.
2.How to listen and understand why someone believes different things.
3.How to grow and change together, even when you disagree.
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Unlock the secrets of navigating the intricate web of limerence with insights from Coach Jared, Membership Fulfillment Manager at Marriage Helper. Imagine the subtlety of a simple compliment spiraling into something more consuming; that's where Jared takes us. In this episode, he reveals the often unnoticed progression from casual interactions to a deeper, concealed connection. Jared's compelling narrative illustrates how easily one can slip into limerence without realizing it, and the potential emotional entanglement it brings. You won't just understand the theory; you'll witness its unfolding through an engaging story that highlights the thin line between innocent admiration and emotional captivity.
As the episode unfolds, Jared provides invaluable guidance on recognizing and addressing the warning signs before they escalate. With vivid examples, listeners gain a firsthand perspective on how small actions can lead to significant emotional consequences. By the time the episode reaches its turning point, you'll be equipped with strategies to maintain transparency and integrity in your relationships, ensuring those wispy chains of limerence don't bind too tightly. This episode offers a thought-provoking exploration of emotional awareness and relationship dynamics, promising to leave you with a deeper understanding of this complex feeling.
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Join us as we tackle one of the toughest challenges a couple can face: rebuilding intimacy after infidelity. We explore the concept of creating "Marriage 2.0," discussing how it involves holding onto the good while addressing the issues that led to betrayal. Open communication and intentional actions are emphasized as vital steps in regaining trust and forming a stronger marital bond.
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What if the secret to a thriving marriage isn't in finding the perfect partner, but in standing firm when the storm hits? Coach Jared from Marriage Helper shares his transformative journey from nearly walking away from his marital vows to discovering the profound rewards of unwavering commitment. You'll hear Jared’s compelling personal story of how he and his wife turned potential heartbreak into a flourishing relationship. This episode dives into the real, often overlooked value of sticking to your promises when everyone else might advise you to give up.
Join us as Jared challenges the notion that relationships are disposable and unearths the potential for reconciliation and personal growth amidst marital struggles. He offers heartfelt insights into how perseverance, even when it seems most difficult, can lead to significant positive changes for you and your loved ones. Whether you're dealing with trust issues, family conflicts, or societal pressures, find out how steadfast commitment and working on oneself can become the catalyst for healing and hope. Listen in to transform your perspective and embrace the possibilities of a renewed, fulfilling marriage.
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What happens when the person you vowed to spend your life with seems to hate you? Joining us on today's episode is Roald Gerber, Marriage Helper's Workshop Fulfillment Manager, who sheds light on this challenging scenario. Unravel the misconceptions tying hate to love and indifference, and gain practical advice on mental resilience and understanding your spouse's perspective. We address a listener's poignant question about coping with a spouse's expressed hatred, offering actionable steps to transform negative emotions into positive connections and reduce tension in the relationship.
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What do you do when your spouse drops the bombshell that they want out of the marriage? Take a deep breath and join Coach Jared, Marriage Helper’s membership fulfillment manager, as he shares his own journey through this painful revelation and guides you through five vital steps to handle this emotional whirlwind. Jared's advice is grounded in personal experience, emphasizing the necessity of staying calm, genuinely understanding your spouse's perspective, and focusing on personal growth. He encourages you to become an attractive force through calmness, gentleness, and acceptance, avoiding the pitfalls of guilt-tripping behaviors that can push your spouse further away.
Through Jared's candid storytelling and practical tips, you'll learn how to navigate this crisis with wisdom. Discover the importance of listening to your spouse without immediately offering solutions, and the power of working on your physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual attractiveness—what we call your "PIES." Jared also shares resources like workshops, one-on-one coaching, and comprehensive toolkits to support you through these tough times. If you're in the midst of this heartache, this episode offers a beacon of hope and actionable steps to rebuild your marriage from the inside out.
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Can a perfect marriage ever truly exist, or is it just a figment of our media-influenced imagination? Coach Jared from Marriage Helper is here to challenge our conventional beliefs and offers a fresh, more attainable perspective on what makes a marriage truly fulfilling. In this episode, we dissect how media shapes our unrealistic expectations and why striving for perfection might be hindering your relationship's potential. By embracing the inherent imperfections in each other, we cultivate an environment ripe for deeper love, patience, and understanding.
Join Coach Jared as he draws from personal experiences and practical advice to help you navigate the complexities of marital expectations. Learn how to communicate effectively and support each other's growth without falling into the trap of idealized perfection. Discover how to transform your relationship into a meaningful journey where imperfections are celebrated as opportunities for growth, making your marriage not just good, but exceptionally real and fulfilling. Tune in to uncover the tools and insights you need to create the best version of your marriage.
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How do you find the balance between being assertive and being a loving husband without being labeled a jerk or a doormat? Join Coach Jared on this episode of Marriage Helper as he offers practical tips and heartfelt advice on becoming the husband your spouse has always dreamed of. Jared dives deep into the art of active listening, showing appreciation, and the importance of spending quantity time with your wife. Learn why those seemingly mundane moments are vital for building emotional intimacy and strengthening your relationship.
But that's not all. Jared introduces the transformative concept of "pies" – focusing on Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual growth – to help you become not just a better husband, but a better you. From hitting the gym and meditating to picking up new hobbies and engaging in activities with a glad heart, discover how these small yet impactful changes can enhance your personal growth and make you more attractive. Don’t miss this episode brimming with actionable advice and resources designed to help you thrive in your marriage. Tune in and take the first step toward becoming the best version of yourself!
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Could your partner's new friendship be crossing the line? Join us as Coach Jared from Marriage Helper sheds light on recognizing the subtle but powerful signs of an emotional affair. From increased privacy and unexplained defensiveness to growing emotional distance, discover the key behaviors that might indicate your partner is seeking emotional fulfillment elsewhere. Coach Jared introduces the intriguing concept of "the wall and the bricks," revealing how vulnerability can pave the way from harmless friendship to emotional intimacy.
Stay calm and proactive as we explore practical steps to address these concerns without panic. Through self-improvement and open communication, learn how to navigate these challenging situations constructively. With Marriage Helper's expert guidance, uncover how recognizing the problem is just the beginning and find out the best ways to support your relationship in times of emotional uncertainty. Don't miss this comprehensive discussion packed with valuable insights and actionable advice.
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In this powerful and personal story, Coach Jared shares his journey from a place of deep unhappiness and hopelessness in his marriage to finding hope and healing with Marriage Helper. As the Membership Fulfillment Manager and a seasoned coach with over 10,000 hours of experience, Jared has helped thousands of couples navigate the complex challenges of marriage. But before all of that, he was a spouse who wanted out, convinced that the grass was greener elsewhere.
Jared opens up about the struggles he and his wife faced—stemming from their unique backgrounds and personal baggage—and how these issues caused a recurring cycle of conflict and disconnection in their marriage. At his lowest point, Jared was ready to end it all. However, a chance encounter with a Marriage Helper article changed the course of his life. Through this video, Jared details his transformation: from a resentful husband sneaking out at night, to a man who discovered the power of vulnerability, emotional safety, and the practical steps needed to rebuild a loving, committed relationship.
Join Jared as he recounts how the Marriage Helper workshop taught him the importance of following the “Love Path” and embracing the PIES of attraction (Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual). Discover how these tools helped him and his wife rekindle their friendship and build a stronger, more authentic connection.
If you’re feeling hopeless, thinking that your marriage is beyond repair, know that there is a way forward. Whether you’re the spouse wanting out or the one fighting to save your marriage, Marriage Helper has the resources and support to help you turn things around. Reach out to us today—we’re here to walk with you every step of the way.
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It’s one of the most terrifying and confusing experiences in a marriage—suspecting that your spouse might be cheating, but not having enough evidence to be sure. In this video, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes from Marriage Helper present a practical “RD MAP” that helps you assess the likelihood of infidelity in your relationship. Each letter in “RD MAP” stands for a specific set of behaviors or changes that may indicate a problem: Respond, Different treatment, Missing elements, Altered patterns, and Protected items. However, it’s crucial to remember that these signs are not definitive proof of an affair. They are merely indicators that something may be off, prompting you to dig deeper and possibly have a crucial conversation with your spouse.
Whether you’re facing suspicions of infidelity or dealing with shifts in your marriage that you can’t quite put your finger on, this roadmap can guide you toward clarity. But before taking drastic measures like hiring a private investigator or installing tracking devices, Dr. Beam and Kimberly discuss why it’s important to approach the situation with wisdom and care.
If you’re in a tough spot and unsure how to proceed, Marriage Helper offers resources, from coaching sessions to intensive workshops, to help you navigate these difficult waters and work toward saving your marriage.
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Can a marriage survive the weight of depression? Join us in this eye-opening episode of Relationship Radio as we tackle this pressing question and guide you through the labyrinth of depression within a marriage in crisis. We break down major depressive disorder, its symptoms, and the PHQ-9 screening tool to help you understand the profound impact depression can have on both individuals and their relationships. We explore how biochemical imbalances and external stressors like infidelity can exacerbate the situation, reinforcing the importance of seeking professional help.
Moreover, we offer a lifeline of hope and practical solutions to reclaim your mental health and strengthen your marriage. We discuss a range of treatment options including medication, cognitive behavioral therapy, and even innovative methods like magnetic therapy. We share promising insights on the effectiveness of these treatments, especially magnetic therapy, urging listeners to take proactive measures. This episode is packed with essential information and heartfelt advice, designed to support both individual well-being and the health of your relationship. Don't miss this opportunity to learn how to navigate and overcome depression in your marriage.
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Discover how your childhood experiences shape your present relationships and uncover the secrets to healthier attachments with expert coach Jared from Marriage Helper. Are you curious about how your attachment style influences your interactions with your partner? Jared shares a compelling story about a little girl with an alcoholic father, illustrating how early life events mold our emotional frameworks. From preoccupied to secure attachment, understand these styles in-depth and learn about the potential for growth and transformation when we feel safe and supported in our relationships.
Explore the transformative options Marriage Helper offers to improve and strengthen your marriage. Whether you're looking for support as an individual or as a couple, we have tailored workshops that fit your needs, available both online and in-person. Learn about our intensive three-day workshop designed to foster growth and resilience in your marital journey. Special thanks to Jared for his invaluable insights and guidance on navigating the complexities of relationship dynamics. Tune in to gain practical advice and discover the resources that can help you build a more secure and fulfilling partnership.
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Feeling lost and betrayed after your spouse's affair? Wondering if it's even worth fighting for your marriage?
On Relationship Radio, we dive deep into the raw emotions and difficult questions surrounding infidelity. We explore alternative paths to divorce and separation, emphasizing that you're not alone in this journey.
Join us as we offer practical strategies and insights to help you:
Confront the pain: We validate your hurt and anger, guiding you towards healing and forgiveness.
Shift your focus: Learn to control what you can control – yourself – and rewire your brain for calm and solutions.
* Fight for unity: Discover how to move past blame and resentment, embracing a team mentality for a thriving marriage.
If you're ready to explore a path towards reconciliation and a stronger, more fulfilling marriage, don't miss this episode of Relationship Radio!
Remember: You are not alone. There is hope for healing and a brighter future.
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Struggling to understand when to stand up for yourself in a marriage crisis? Join us on Relationship Radio as we dive into the concept of essential vs. detrimental "pushes" in a marriage. We discuss the difference between standing for your needs and pushing your spouse away, using the SMART Contact method to navigate those difficult conversations.
Learn how to prioritize healthy communication, manage conflict, and ultimately heal your relationship. If you're feeling lost and overwhelmed in your marriage, this episode offers practical tools and insights to help you navigate the path toward reconciliation.
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How to Apologize to Your Spouse After an Affair or Other Hurts
In this Marriage Helper episode, we discuss the importance of sincere apologies in marriage. We share tips on how to apologize to your spouse after an affair, as well as how to apologize for everyday hurts. The importance of staying calm, avoiding defensiveness, and taking ownership for your actions is emphasized. Also discussed is how to work with your spouse to develop a plan to change negative behaviors. If you are struggling with how to apologize to your spouse, this video is for you!
Key Points:
• The heart behind an apology should be sincere and strive for emotional connection.
• Avoid defensiveness and take ownership for your actions.
• Listen to your spouse and try to understand their perspective.
• Develop a plan with your spouse to change negative behaviors.
• Don't apologize repeatedly for the same thing.
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Is your marriage feeling suffocating? In this video, we discuss the signs of a suffocating marriage and offer tips on how to address the issue. We explore the concept of "pushes and pulls" in relationships, and how to identify and correct behaviors that are pushing your spouse away.
We also discuss the importance of self-reflection and communication in overcoming feelings of suffocation. If you are feeling suffocated in your marriage, we encourage you to reach out for help. Marriage Helper offers a variety of resources, including coaching and workshops, to help you improve your relationship. Don't wait until it's too late. Watch this video and learn how to create a marriage that you both enjoy.
In this video:• What does it mean when love feels suffocating?
• Signs of a suffocating relationship
• How to identify and correct push behaviors
• The importance of self-reflection and communication
• Resources for help
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Feeling Lost in Separation? Don't Lose Hope! Separation is tough, but it doesn't have to be the end. This episode of Relationship Radio offers a lifeline, revealing the 5 most common mistakes married couples make during separation. Learn how to navigate this challenging time with grace and clear communication, keeping the door to reconciliation open.
You’ll Learn About: 💕 Emotional Resilience: Discover tools to manage the emotional rollercoaster and respond calmly, even in the face of intense feelings. 👪 Protecting Your Children: Learn how to shield your kids from unnecessary pain and create a safe, loving environment for them.
✨ Nurturing Hope: It's not over until it's over. Explore why taking time to heal and reflect is crucial before considering new relationships.
🗣️ Communication Clarity: Set healthy boundaries and establish clear communication expectations. This fosters understanding and reduces conflict, paving the way for a separation experience that can lead back to marital restoration.
Ready to rediscover hope and heal your marriage? Tune in now to learn valuable communication skills and embark on a journey toward reconciliation. Your love story doesn’t have to be over!
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Discover the transformative power of deep emotional bonds in our latest video, "How Deep Bonds Transform Marriages: The Power of Emotional Safety." Join Dr. Joe Beam as he explores the profound impact that emotional safety has on sustaining and enriching marital relationships.
Learn why emotional connections are often cited as the most powerful attractors in a relationship, surpassing physical, intellectual, and even spiritual components. This video will provide insights into how couples can cultivate a safe emotional environment that nurtures acceptance and vulnerability, key elements that transform marriages.
Whether you're looking to strengthen your connection or understand the foundational elements of lasting love, this video will guide you through the importance of emotional safety in achieving a deeper, more meaningful relationship with your spouse.
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Is Your Marriage on the BRINK? Listen Now and Find HOPE!
Dr. Joe Beam cracks the CODE to LOVE on Relationship Radio!
Is your spouse controlling your every move? Has a mismatched libido left your love life a desert? Did your spouse walk out and file for divorce?
Don't throw in the towel! Dr. Joe Beam dives deep into THREE REAL listener emergencies, offering battle-tested strategies to restore a beautiful union:
- Do You Have a Controlling Wife? Reclaim your FREEDOM and reignite romance (Spoiler Alert: It's NOT about control!)
- Sexless Marriage? Discover the SECRET to a THRIVING sex life, even if your desires are miles apart.
- Divorce Looming? Stop the BLEEDING! Learn how to WIN BACK your spouse (without begging!)
Dr. Joe Beam cuts through the FLUFF and exposes the CORE ISSUES that sabotage marriages. You'll learn:
- The REAL communication killer (it's NOT what you think!)
- Why "fixing intimacy" is a RECIPE for DISASTER
- The SECRET WEAPON that can save even the most BROKEN marriages (hint: it involves YOU!)
Struggling is NORMAL. Giving Up Shouldn’t Be! Dr. Beam equips you with the tools and the HOPE to overcome ANY obstacle. You'll discover:
- Self-care strategies to navigate the emotional storm of separation.
- The power of a SUPPORTIVE COMMUNITY (you're not alone!)
- How to TALK to your spouse about getting help for the marriage (without starting a fight!)
Marriage Helper is YOUR one-stop shop for marital BLISS! We offer:
- Life-changing workshops to reignite the spark.
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Powerful online tools to keep the fire burning.
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Is your marriage on the rocks? Are you separated from your spouse, feeling lost and alone, wondering if your marriage can be saved?
👉 You're not alone. 👈
In this emotional and empowering video, Dr. Joe Beam reveals the secret to saving your marriage while separated, addressing the pain and confusion of separation, and offering practical advice and hope for those fighting for their marriage.
Discover:
• Why focusing solely on getting your spouse back can lead to desperate and hurtful actions.
• The dangers of using others to manipulate or fill the void left by your spouse.
• How to become the best version of yourself – physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually – to attract the right kind of love into your life.
If you're ready to take the first step towards healing and hope, watch this video now.
Remember, it's never too late to fight for your marriage.
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Feeling Hopeless? "Smart Contact" Can Reconnect With Your Spouse Is your spouse pulling away? Feeling lost and confused about how to communicate? Don't make the mistakes that push them further away!
At Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam, with over 30 years of experience, unveils the powerful SMART Contact™ method. This video is your lifeline if you're facing: • A spouse who wants out • Constant arguments and disconnection • Feeling helpless and unsure what to do Discover why "love bombing" and complete silence can actually sabotage your marriage. Learn how "Smart Contact" can: • Reduce emotional pushes that drive your spouse away • Open the door for healthy communication • Create a safe space for reconnection Don't let your love story end. "Smart Contact" can guide you back to each other.
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Feeling hopeless about your marriage? Consider this: Countless couples on the brink of divorce found renewed love and a stronger connection through the Marriage Helper Workshop.
This video shares a powerful story of a couple who rebuilt trust, rediscovered love, and found true happiness together. The Marriage Helper Workshop equipped them with the tools to communicate effectively, overcome past hurts, and create a lasting bond.
Don't settle for a loveless marriage. There is hope! Invest in your future and give your love a fighting chance. Visit https://marriagehelper.com/couples-workshop to learn more about the workshop and start your journey towards a stronger, happier marriage.
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Feeling Like Strangers in Your Own Marriage? Regain Connection with Marriage Helper
Is the love you once shared with your spouse fading? Do you feel like you're drifting further apart with each passing day? You're not alone. Countless couples struggle with the challenges of everyday life, leaving them feeling disconnected and hopeless.
But there's good news. Here at Marriage Helper, we specialize in helping couples just like you reconnect, rebuild trust, and reignite the love that brought you together. We understand the pain of a loveless marriage, and we're here to offer practical guidance and empathetic support.
In this episode, Cody and Nathan will unveil:
- Simple yet powerful communication tools to break down walls and truly connect with your spouse.
- Actionable strategies to gently motivate your partner towards working together on your relationship.
- Proven techniques to rebuild intimacy and rekindle the spark you thought was lost.
Don't let your happy marriage become a distant memory. Let Marriage Helper be your guide on a journey back to each other. Together, we can help you rediscover the love and help save your marriage.
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Feeling lost in your marriage? Is communication REALLY the answer?
Is communication REALLY the key to a lasting marriage? Dr. Joe Beam challenges conventional wisdom, arguing that COMMITMENT is the secret ingredient. This thought-provoking video explores why couples stay together (and why they sometimes don't) and offers practical advice for building a strong, happy marriage that endures. Learn how to handle conflict, navigate challenges, and keep love alive over the long term. If you're looking to strengthen your relationship or feeling lost after a betrayal, this video is a must-watch.
Here's what you'll discover:
- Why couples stay together (and why they sometimes don't) - It's not always about feeling loved!
- The surprising impact of commitment on weathering life's storms.
- Practical strategies for building a strong, happy marriage that endures.
- How to handle conflict constructively and navigate even the toughest challenges.
Whether you're looking to:
- Strengthen your existing relationship
- Rebuild trust after a betrayal
- Gain valuable tools for navigating difficult times
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The devastating truth of infidelity can leave you feeling lost and heartbroken. But there is hope. In Part 1 of this series, Dr. Joe Beam, a renowned marriage expert from Marriage Helper, offered crucial guidance on confronting your spouse and rebuilding trust.
Now, this video tackles the emotional journey of healing to save your marriage while reintroducing passion in your union.
Key struggles addressed:
- Navigating the rollercoaster of emotions: Anger, confusion, even a surge of desire – we understand it all. Learn healthy ways to manage these intense feelings.
- Breaking free from the "forgiveness trap": Forgiveness empowers you to move forward, not excuse their actions.
- Overcoming the "comparison game": Reclaim your focus on rebuilding intimacy and rediscovering the unique spark in your relationship.
- Escaping the "spectator effect" in the bedroom: Learn powerful techniques to be fully present and rediscover physical connection with your spouse.
More than just sex: We'll guide you through practical tools and ideas to create a whole new level of intimacy and passion in your marriage.
- Spark emotional connection: Remember those deep, meaningful conversations? We'll help you get back to that place of emotional vulnerability.
Discover a new way to make love: Forget the baggage of the past. Learn a step-by-step approach to rediscovering sexual pleasure together, starting fresh
Navigating the restoration of trust is a delicate dance, and we address the common misconception that a straying partner can't change their ways. Listen to real-life stories and professional advice on how to dissect the root causes of infidelity, the importance of professional therapy, and harness the power of forgiveness. We provide a roadmap for couples to mend their connection and foster a renewed sense of mutual fulfillment and affection. For those embarking on this arduous yet hopeful journey, our conversation will equip you with the resources and encouragement needed to rebuild a stronger, happier, and more passionate marriage.
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Feeling lost and hopeless after an affair? You're not alone. Wondering how to rebuild intimacy and reignite passion with your spouse? This video is for YOU. You can save your marriage.
Marriage Helper Expert Dr. Joe Beam offers guidance and hope for couples struggling with the aftermath of infidelity. He explores the two most common types of affairs and their impact on your sex life. Learn:
- How to stop comparing your spouse to the affair partner
- Why focusing on the emotional connection is key
- Practical tips to rebuild trust and intimacy
- Resources to help you heal and reconnect (including Marriage Helper's communication guides!)
If you're ready to move forward and create a stronger, more fulfilling marriage, watch now!
Who is this for?
- Couples dealing with the aftermath of an affair
- Anyone feeling disconnected or unfulfilled in their sex life
- Individuals struggling with guilt or shame about an affair
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
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Many people believe myths about marriage. In this video, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes from Marriage Helper dispel some of the most common myths, providing insights based on their decades of experience helping couples save their marriages.
They discuss:
- The myth that engagement equals commitment
- The myth that divorce rates are improving
- The myth that finances and infidelity are the main reasons for divorce
- The myth that seeking professional help is a sign of failure
If you're struggling in your marriage, don't give up hope! There are resources available to help you rebuild your marriage. Marriage Helper offers a free consultation to help you determine the best path forward. Save your marriage and visit https://marriagehelper.com/booknow to learn more.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
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Feeling unheard and unseen in your relationship?Is your spouse constantly seeking admiration or making you feel like you're never good enough? You might be dealing with narcissistic traits in your partner. But before you throw in the towel, listen up!
This episode of Relationship Radio dives deep into the world of narcissism, unpacking the two major types: grandiose and vulnerable narcissism. Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes will help you identify these behaviors and offer practical communication tips to navigate a challenging relationship.
Here's what you'll learn:
- How to identify the signs of grandiose and vulnerable narcissism in your spouse
- Effective communication strategies to deal with narcissistic behaviors ️
- Ways to build a stronger, healthier marriage, even with narcissistic challenges
- The importance of self-esteem in navigating difficult relationships
Is this episode for you?
- Are you constantly walking on eggshells around your spouse?
- Does your partner put you down or constantly need reassurance?
- Do you feel unheard and unseen in your relationship?
- Are you committed to making your marriage work, despite the challenges?
If you answered YES to any of these questions, then this episode is a MUST-LISTEN!
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
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In this compelling and deeply moving video, Gemma James shares her personal odyssey from marital turmoil to resilience with the invaluable support of Marriage Helper. Witness the transformative power of the Save My Marriage program even when separation and divorce looms as a possible end result. Journey with Gemma as she recounts her courageous process through crisis, healing and moving forward.
Gemma's story is a beacon of hope for anyone facing the daunting prospect of saving a marriage after a spouse wants out. Through candid reflection and heartfelt advice, Gemma illuminates the process through forgiveness, personal growth and a bright future.
Join us on this poignant exploration of love, loss, and redemption. Subscribe to Marriage Helper for more inspiring stories, expert advice, and practical resources to strengthen your marriage and reclaim your happiness.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
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Is an intense infatuation a sign of true love, or is it something else entirely? This episode explores the concept of limerence and its potential impact on relationships. In this eye-opening episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes of Marriage Helper dive deep into the powerful and often misunderstood phenomenon of limerence.
Discover:
- What limerence is and how it differs from romantic love
- The warning signs of limerence: how to know if you or your partner have crossed the line
- Powerful questions to assess how to set boundaries and protect your marriage relationship
- What to do if you're facing the destructive forces of limerence
If you're struggling with confusing emotions or have questions about the health of your relationships, this episode is for you!
⚠️ The video discusses 13 warning signs of limerence, which include: ⚠️
- Heightened focus on the other person (limerence object).
- Halo effect where the person in limerence cannot see any flaws in the limerence object.
- Decrease in productivity due to being so focused on being with them, daydreaming about them, or thinking about future plans together.
- Deep longing, craving, or almost unquenchable drive to be emotionally connected to the limerence object and for them to reciprocate those feelings.
- Willingness to sacrifice everything in life to be with the limerence object.
- Obsessive thinking about the limerence object.
- Hurting other people around them due to their focus on the limerence object.
- Changing habits that they never thought they would change.
- Having hyper vigilance and being overly attentive to any sign that the limerence object is moving towards or away from them emotionally.
- Experiencing emotional highs and lows based on the limerence object's actions or perceived actions.
- Being in a state of ecstasy or misery based on interactions or lack of interactions with the limerence object.
- Unable to see the limerence object's flaws.
- Turning against anyone perceived as being between them and the limerence object.
Resources mentioned in the video:
Interview with Dr. Helen Fisher
Ethical Non Monogamy Episode
Jealousy and Insecurity Episode
Intervention: How To
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
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Is your marriage foundation crumbling under the weight of jealousy and insecurity? These destructive emotions can lead to heartbreak and resentment. But there's hope! In today's episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes and Dr. Joe Beam tackle jealousy in marriage head-on. They'll help you understand the root of fear of abandonment and how it fuels jealous outbursts and controlling behaviors.
You'll discover:
- The Source of Jealousy: Uncover the hidden fears that sabotage your relationship, and how to address them with compassion.
- The Power of Self-Love: Learn to find peace, self-worth, and break free from the cycle of insecurity – even if you've struggled in the past.
- Guidance for Both Partners: Whether you're the jealous spouse desperately seeking reassurance or you're on the receiving end of mistrust, these strategies are your roadmap to healing.
- Marriage Transformation: Break the chains of jealousy harming your marriage foundation, replace them with trust, respect, and a deep, unwavering love.
If you long to save your marriage and build a stronger foundation, free from the cycle of marriage problems, this episode is your lifeline. Get ready to discover proven strategies for solving marriage problems and reigniting the spark of connection.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
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Is your marriage hanging by a thread? Do you question if marriage restoration is possible after a devastating betrayal? In this deeply personal episode of Relationship Radio, we welcome Chris and Karista Stutzman. Their marriage restoration testimony is a powerful reminder that hope and healing exist, even in the most challenging circumstances.
Chris and Karista candidly share their struggles with infidelity, limerence, and the breakdown of communication that nearly led to divorce. They found themselves on a path of despair, unsure if their marriage could be saved.
Their journey to restoration led them to Marriage Helper. Through workshops, coaching, and the guidance of the team, Chris and Karista gained invaluable tools and insights. They learned how to:
- Rebuild trust after infidelity
- Develop effective communication skills
- Understand the underlying patterns contributing to their relationship difficulties
- Process the emotional wounds of betrayal
- Find support and community with others facing similar challenges
This episode explores the transformative power of Marriage Helper. You'll learn how its resources provided Chris and Karista with a roadmap for healing their marriage and building a stronger, more resilient relationship.
If you feel lost or hopeless about your own marriage, let Chris and Karista's story ignite a spark of hope. Their journey demonstrates that restoration is possible, and Marriage Helper can be a vital catalyst for change.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
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Are you struggling with conflict resolution in marriage? Do arguments feel draining instead of productive? Conflict is a natural part of relationships, but learning to fight constructively is essential for a healthy, lasting marriage. In this video, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes discuss:
Why avoiding conflict can be problematic
Different conflict styles and how they impact resolution
Tips for handling conflict with empathy and respect
Importance of seeking resources (workshops, etc.) if needed for effective ways to resolve conflict in marriage.
If you're ready to create a stronger, more loving marriage, visit us at https://marriagehelper.com/booknow to learn about our workshops focused on marriage help and how we can assist you. Remember, there's always hope for a happier, healthier relationship.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
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Can you save your marriage after divorce? Don't give up hope! This episode explores the possibility of reconciliation even after a final divorce decree. Marriage Helper Founder Dr. Joe Beam shares a powerful encouragement of couples who rekindled their love and rebuilt their marriage after divorce.
Listen in and discover:
Why divorce doesn't have to be the end: Learn how focusing on personal growth can pave the way for a renewed relationship.
Healing from the pain of divorce: We acknowledge the real emotions you're facing and offer guidance for moving forward constructively.
Taking control of your future: The Marriage Helper Workshop can equip you with the tools to become the best version of yourself and create healthy, fulfilling relationships.
Solo Spouse Workshop: Even if your ex isn't ready to participate, this powerful divorce recovery workshop can help you heal and gain valuable tools for future relationships, including the possibility of remarriage after divorce.
This episode is for you if:
You're struggling with the emotional rollercoaster of divorce.
You still love your ex and wonder "I want my husband back" or if there's a chance to reconcile.
You want to learn from past mistakes and build stronger relationships in the future.
Ready to find hope and healing? Visit our website at https://marriagehelper.com/booknow. Let Marriage Helper guide you on your journey towards a brighter future.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
We have a new website for the It Starts With Attraction podcast!
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Is your marriage marked by trust issues and a controlling spouse? Control, often driven by fear of abandonment, can leave you feeling trapped, manipulated, and hurt by guilt-tripping. This destroys the safety of a relationship, but there IS hope for change, and it could even save your marriage.
Marriage Helper Coach Roald Gerber understands. He was once a controlling spouse, and his journey from control to connection inspires change. He offers insights and tools to help you:
- Recognize control, from subtle guilt-tripping to obvious tactics.
- Understand how fear of abandonment influences controlling behavior.
- Address control in a way that reduces conflict and promotes healing.
- See how couples rebuild trust after years of pain, proving your marriage can be different.
This transformation isn't just about fixing a controlling spouse. It's about understanding how your reactions and fears might play into the dynamic. This knowledge allows you to create a stronger, healthier partnership.
If you struggle with a controlling spouse and the emotional toll it takes, don't do it alone. Therapists like Roald specialize in breaking destructive patterns and rebuilding trust. It takes hard work, BUT a safe, supportive marriage is achievable.
Want personalized help to save your marriage? Book a FREE call with the Marriage Helper team: https://marriagehelper.com/booknow
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
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Embarking on the journey toward a happy marriage? Dr. Joe Beam, a relationship expert with acclaim, offers profound marriage advice for couples seeking to deepen their connection. This comprehensive guide illuminates the path to a fulfilling partnership, highlighting:
Passion and Intimacy: Unearth the secrets to sustaining a vibrant connection, a cornerstone for any happy marriage. Dr. Beam’s insights reveal how to weave passion with intimacy, creating a robust foundation for love.
Rebuilding Trust: For those grappling with past deceits, Dr. Beam provides actionable steps to restore trust. His approach emphasizes honesty and transparency, pivotal for couples looking to strengthen their bond.
Deciphering Lies: Understand the motivations behind dishonesty and strategies to confront them. This segment offers marriage advice crucial for couples aiming to foster a culture of openness and mutual respect.
Healing from Infidelity: Dr. Beam outlines a "calculative trust" strategy to navigate the aftermath of infidelity. Learn how to rebuild trust and intimacy, essential components of a resilient marriage.
The Impact of Limerence: Explore the concept of limerence and its effect on relationships. Dr. Beam offers guidance for couples dealing with its challenges, supporting a return to a happy and healthy marriage dynamic.
Anger Management: Discover techniques for managing emotional responses and improving communication. Effective anger management is key to resolving conflicts and maintaining a happy marriage.
Seeking Professional Help: Recognizing when to seek help is crucial. Dr. Beam advises on choosing the right couples' counselor, an important step for couples committed to repairing or enhancing their marriage.
Join Dr. Joe Beam as he provides expert marriage advice for couples, laying out the blueprint for a happy marriage. Through his guidance, discover how to cultivate passion, trust, and intimacy, ensuring a strong and lasting partnership.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
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In "Solving Marriage Sexual Intimacy Issues!", we tackle how vital intimacy is for a flourishing marriage, highlighting the sexual health benefits and the overall improvement it offers to partners' well-being. Addressing marriage and sexual intimacy isn't solely about physical closeness but also about overcoming barriers like a lack of emotional connection and navigating through marriage and emotional neglect. These challenges can create a sense of distance, significantly impacting the relationship's core.
Our mission is to guide couples towards reestablishing both their emotional and physical bonds, turning their sexless marriage into a beacon of strength and happiness. Through fostering open communication, mutual respect, and dedication to mutual growth, couples can overcome these intimacy hurdles.
This episode provides essential strategies and advice for those striving to enhance their marital intimacy, making it an invaluable resource for anyone looking to heal their marital connection.
Subscribe for more insights on fostering a resilient, loving marriage. Build a more intimate and rewarding partnership.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
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In this compelling video, Dr. Joe Beam and CEO Kimberly Beam Holmes of Marriage Helper delve into Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM), examining its implications and how it intersects with concepts like polygamy and references to polygamy in the Bible. They explore the ethical non-monogamy meaning, questioning if personal consent is enough to justify its practice amidst potential emotional harm and societal disruption.
The dialogue critically assesses the impact of ENM on emotional connections, trust, and the essence of fulfilling relationships, challenging the trend of prioritizing personal desires over deep, committed bonds. This conversation is an invitation to reflect on the true value of exclusivity and intimacy in relationships, advocating for a return to monogamous commitments as the foundation for personal and societal well-being.
Join us for a thought-provoking exploration of ethical non-monogamy, its challenges, and the pursuit of genuine connection in today's complex relationship landscapes.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
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📈 Divorce Statistics & Insights: Dive into the latest study from Forbes, exploring divorce trends from 2020 to 2023. Discover eye-opening stats on the average length of marriage before divorce, the impact of occupations on marital stability, and much more.
👥 Who's Most Likely to Divorce?: Uncover which age groups and professions face higher divorce risks. Plus, find out about the surprising stability in second marriages.
🕒 Marriage Duration Insights: The average marriage now lasts about eight years before divorce. We delve into why this might be lower than expected and what factors contribute to this trend.
💔 The Divorce Rate and Third Marriages: A startling 75% divorce rate in third marriages - what's behind these numbers? We explore the patterns and reasons for this high rate.
🧐 Commitment Issues: Lack of commitment is cited as the top reason for divorces. We discuss how societal changes have influenced commitments in marriages and beyond.
🏠 Living Together Before Marriage: Does it increase the likelihood of divorce? We analyze the dynamics and share some thought-provoking perspectives.
👫 Occupations & Divorce: Discover which jobs have the highest divorce rates and why certain industries might be contributing to marital instability.
👨👩👧👦 Family Dynamics & Children's Well-being: Understanding the profound impact of divorce on children and the importance of family structure in their development.
✨ Hope and Help: Despite these challenges, we believe in hope and the possibility of saving marriages. Learn about the pathways and support systems available for couples in crisis.
📚 Your Next Steps: Visit marriagehelper.com/booknow to talk to our intake specialists and discover how we can help you navigate through your marriage crisis.
👍 Subscribe & Share: Don't forget to subscribe for more insightful episodes and share this with a spouse or friend who might benefit from it. Together, we can explore the complexities of modern marriage and find pathways to lasting relationships.
🔗 Links & Resources:
- Forbes Study on Divorce Statistics
- Marriage Helper Website
📅 Stay Tuned: Join us next week for more insights and strategies to strengthen your marriage! Remember, there is always hope. 💑
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
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In this episode, we take a look into the often-misunderstood world of 'Toxic Positivity' and its impact on marital relationships. Join us as we unravel the complex dynamics between maintaining a positive outlook and the potential harm it can cause in a marriage, especially when it leads to the suppression of genuine emotions and concerns. We also take a look at the harming effects of labeling.
➤ The Article Referenced In Today's Episode: bit.ly/3Ojaauz
➤ Key Highlights:
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What is Toxic Positivity? We define this buzzword and explore how damaging labeling your spouse can be.
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The Psychology Behind Suppressed Emotions: Our expert analysis breaks down how hiding true feelings can lead to significant problems in a marriage.
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Real-Life Scenarios: We discuss practical examples and signs of "toxic positivity" in everyday marital interactions.
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Expert Opinions: Gain insights from experts on the balance between positivity and emotional honesty.
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Navigating Emotional Validation: Learn strategies for recognizing and validating both positive and negative emotions in your spouse.
➤ Why Listen to This Episode?
If you're struggling to understand why constant positivity might be harming your relationship or are seeking ways to encourage honest emotional expression between you and your spouse, this episode is a must-listen. It's particularly beneficial for couples who have been married for over a decade, addressing common challenges faced in long-term relationships.
➤ Additional Resources:
For those looking for more in-depth support, visit our website at MarriageHelper.com for resources, workshops, and personalized assistance to help you navigate through your marriage crisis.
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Don't forget to subscribe to our channel for more insightful content on marriage, relationships, and overcoming crises. Your journey to a healthier, more fulfilling marriage starts here!
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Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
We have a new website for the It Starts With Attraction podcast!
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Join Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, as they delve into the complexities of marriage counseling in this enlightening episode. Dr. Beam clarifies that he isn't against marriage counseling but emphasizes the importance of choosing the right counselor. Kimberly shares her journey from training in marriage and family therapy to her transition to psychology, driven by the transformative power of Marriage Helper workshops.
They discuss the challenges and biases within the field of marriage counseling, highlighting the importance of seeing the marriage as the client rather than an individual spouse. The episode touches on ethical considerations and the potential biases counselors may bring based on their personal experiences, emphasizing the need for a balanced approach that benefits the marriage as a whole.
Learn about the unique dynamics of counseling and workshops, the role of biases, and how to set boundaries and expectations with a marriage counselor. Discover why Kimberly and Dr. Beam advocate for workshops that focus on positive aspects and principles, aiming for the preservation and improvement of marriages.
For couples seeking guidance, learn how to engage with marriage counselors effectively and explore the potential of Marriage Helper workshops. Visit marriagehelper.com/apply3 for more information on workshops and to book a consultation with their specialists.
This episode is a must-watch for anyone navigating marriage counseling or looking for alternative ways to strengthen their relationship. Tune in for practical advice, professional insights, and a fresh perspective on making marriages work.
Book a call with an intake specialist. Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
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Join Dr. Joe Beam and CEO Kimberly Beam Holmes as they delve into the challenging dynamics of love turning into hate in marriages. This episode is inspired by Dr. Robert Sternberg's insightful research, exploring how feelings of hate can emerge from the very elements that once strengthened a bond: intimacy, passion, and commitment. We'll examine how these foundations of a relationship can become sources of deep resentment, especially when trust is broken.
In our journey, we share a compelling story from an AA meeting that highlights the fragile nature of trust and its impact on a marriage. We discuss the intricate process of rebuilding closeness between spouses, emphasizing the importance of patience, empathy, and daily gestures of acknowledgment. Our conversation is a beacon of hope, offering practical steps and strategies to heal and rekindle the flame of intimacy. Whether you're looking to save your marriage or gain a deeper understanding of the complex interplay between love and hate, this episode provides valuable insights. Tune in to discover how resilience and shared experiences can strengthen the bonds of a relationship.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
We have a new website for the It Starts With Attraction podcast!
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In this episode of Relationship Radio, we delve into the intricate and often overlooked concept of micro-cheating. Through a personal story of transparency in marriage, we highlight the importance of candid conversations as a cornerstone of trust between spouses. We unravel the layers of subtle behaviors that, while seemingly harmless, can plant seeds of doubt and lead to emotional infidelity. By dissecting the nuances of micro-cheating, from understanding underlying intentions to recognizing early signs, we demonstrate how addressing these issues directly can help realign a marriage that may have strayed off course.
As we navigate the challenging terrain of trust and temptation, our discussion shifts towards effective strategies for discussing sensitive topics within a marriage. These include handling flirtatious behavior and addressing the use of explicit online material. We guide you through the process of initiating open and empathetic dialogues with your spouse, emphasizing the importance of focusing on feelings over fault, and establishing boundaries to protect the sanctity of your marriage.
Remember, the journey through marriage isn't just about enduring difficulties; it's about actively constructing a robust, shared foundation. In this episode, we provide you with the tools and insights needed to fortify your relationship. Join us as we offer guidance and support in strengthening the bonds of your partnership.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
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On today's episode of Relationship Radio, we're taking a look back at 10 of the best moments of 2023 and packaging them into one episode for you to have heading into the new year ❤️
EPISODESHow To Build Better Communication With Your Spouse
When Your Spouse Feels Like A Roommate
When Is It Time To Let Go?
What To Do When Your Spouse Checks Out Emotionally
Do THIS First To Save Your Marriage
Why You SHOULDN'T Divorce Your Cheating Spouse
How Do People Fall In and Out Of Love?
If You're Struggling With Your Marriage... Watch This
Is Your Marriage Even Worth Saving?
My Spouse Says They Don't Love Me Anymore
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
We have a new website for the It Starts With Attraction podcast!
Visit www.itstartswithattraction.com to check it out!
Ever found yourself questioning the boundaries of fidelity within marriage? Today we unravel the intricacies of both physical and emotional infidelity. We dissect the subtle yet significant behaviors that might indicate a breach of trust, from micro-cheating to the types of kisses exchanged. By providing insights into the dynamics of different forms of affairs, we aim to shed light on the true gravity of these actions and help listeners understand where the lines are drawn in their own relationships.
The journey of love can take us through the fiery throes of passion, but what happens when that passion crosses into the realm of an affair? We delve into the intense emotional state known as limerence and the transformation love undergoes over time, referring to the work of Dr. Helen Fisher to unpack how married individuals caught up in an affair experience this phenomenon. Furthermore, we provide a beacon of hope to those whose marriages have been rocked by infidelity by introducing our Save My Marriage program, offering practical tools and heartfelt guidance for healing and rebuilding the sacred bond of marriage. Join us on this powerful exploration of love, trust, and the resilience of relationships.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
We have a new website for the It Starts With Attraction podcast!
Visit www.itstartswithattraction.com to check it out!
Are you facing challenges in your marriage and considering separation? This discussion is here to help you understand the complexities of separation and why it's important to consider it only as a last option, except in cases of physical or emotional harm. We will introduce a seven-step process designed to revive and strengthen your relationship, focusing on self-improvement rather than your spouse's actions.
We'll also examine the vital role of communication and clear understanding during separation. Discover how changing your approach from being confrontational to supportive can positively change your relationship. Learn about the importance of self-worth and empathy in repairing and deepening your connection with your spouse. This episode is a guide for those at a critical point in their marriage, offering direction towards a renewed and stronger marital bond.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
We have a new website for the It Starts With Attraction podcast!
Visit www.itstartswithattraction.com to check it out!
Ever thought the old 'no contact' rule was a surefire way to win back a separated spouse? Be prepared for a reality check as we shine a light on the flaws of this manipulative tactic. We dissect the key role that secure attachment and healthy communication play in a marriage rather than resorting to emotional manipulation.
We'll also be introducing you to the concept of SMART Contact™, an antidote to the marital challenges you've been battling. Step into an enlightening discussion on how altering your communication styles and behaviors can help avoid pushing your spouse further away, and how essential it is to maintain open communication in testing times. To equip you with the right tools, we reveal our 'SMART Contact™ Toolkit, a guide to communication and conflict de-escalation. Whether your marriage is on the rocks or you're simply looking to enhance communication, we promise you'll find wisdom and practical advice in our conversation.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
We have a new website for the It Starts With Attraction podcast!
Visit www.itstartswithattraction.com to check it out!
We've all encountered difficult moments in our relationships that shake us to our core and make us question our own worth. Our guest, Nathan, an intake specialist here at Marriage Helper, joins us to discuss the daunting challenges individuals face in troubled marriages. Together, we dissect how fear, panic, and a desperate need for control can often cloud our judgement. We're passionate about understanding each unique narrative, and we aim to create a safe space for all stories to be heard, seen, and understood. Remember, it's okay to seek help and there's no shame in reaching out.
Weaving personal experiences into our discussion, we shed light on the complex tapestry of decision-making. What truly influences our choices? How does our self-worth shape our decisions? Why does an external factor like time or logistics often become a roadblock? Are we giving too much weight to the opinions of others? We recount a touching conversation with someone struggling with decision-making due to a lack of clarity. Our goal? To help you navigate your own decision-making labyrinth with more confidence and self-belief.
Do you find yourself stuck in a loop of fear, unable to take the leap towards your goals? We've been there. We share our journeys of battling with fear and how focusing on our worth and clarity turned the tide. As we wrap up, we offer reassurance to those grappling with marital issues, spotlighting the life-changing power of self-reflection, responsibility, and grace. You deserve a happy and fulfilling future, and it's well within your reach. Turn despair into hope, fear into courage, and confusion into clarity with us at Marriage Helper. Embrace the belief that nothing is beyond recovery. Your journey towards a better future starts right here.
To book a call with an intake specialist like Nathan, visit marriagehelper.com/apply2Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
We have a new website for the It Starts With Attraction podcast!
Visit www.itstartswithattraction.com to check it out!
Navigating the festive season while dealing with the emotional turmoil of marital separation can seem like a mountainous feat. But here's a promise: by the end of this episode, you'll have a roadmap on how to not only survive this challenging season but also keep your sanity intact. Join us as we unpack the emotional roller-coaster that this season can thrust upon you and guide you on how to process these emotions healthily. Let's talk about that elephant in the room— the surge in divorce rates come January, and how you can dodge falling into that statistic.
Ever wondered how lullabies can help you sail through a holiday season full of emotional upheaval? Discover how a simple bedtime routine can work wonders and why setting boundaries with your spouse during family gatherings is not just about self-preservation but also about prioritizing your children's well-being. Hear our take on the importance of open communication and compromise during these times. Yes, the holiday season can be tough, but with the right tools, you can make it through. And remember, it's okay not to be okay.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
We have a new website for the It Starts With Attraction podcast!
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Ever wonder why certain behaviors can predict divorce with over 80% accuracy? Today, we unpack the mystery of one such behavior known as 'stonewalling', alongside the other three horsemen of the relationship apocalypse: defensiveness, criticism, and contempt. Our deep-dive into Dr. John Gottman's groundbreaking research at the Love Lab, reveals how these destructive behaviors can send a relationship spiraling downward.
But it's not all doom and gloom! We also explore the antidote to stonewalling, offering real-life examples and practical steps to overcome it. Learn the importance of courageously pausing the conversation, taking the time to cool down, and process. Strengthen your relationships by understanding these patterns and making conscious efforts to change them. Let's journey together towards healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
We have a new website for the It Starts With Attraction podcast!
Visit www.itstartswithattraction.com to check it out!
Ever felt like your marriage is on the brink and you're helpless? Today, we bring you a powerful conversation with Melody Oseguera, Director of Coaching at Marriage Helper, who stood for her marriage when the odds were stacked against her. Listen as she shares her journey of resilience, patience, and personal growth, which eventually led to the reconciliation with her husband, David. Hear about the emotional and practical challenges that she faced, from work-life balance and parenting disconnects to dealing with separation and limerence.
In our chat with Melody, we delve into her experiences co-parenting during separation, and how she navigated the tumultuous terrain of her husband's limerence. She talks about the strain it put on their family, and how she maintained her beliefs and values during these trying times. Listen as we explore how Melody found hope in this chaotic period and how the Save My Marriage Program from Marriage Helper offered tools and support that helped restore equilibrium in her life. Let Melody's story inspire you, offer you hope, or prepare you for your own growth journey – don't miss this episode!
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
We have a new website for the It Starts With Attraction podcast!
Visit www.itstartswithattraction.com to check it out!
Have you ever asked yourself if a broken marriage is beyond repair? Have you ever felt trapped in a negative mindset with no way out? Our guest today, Jared Pratt, Marriage Helper certified coach, takes us through his personal journey from a brink of a divorce to healing his marriage. His story is both raw and powerful, as he navigates through years of frustration, secrecy, and a turning point on a fateful Valentine's Day. Jared's experience is not just a testament of resilience; it's a clear example of how seeking support can make all the difference, even in the most challenging circumstances.
Jared isn't just a story-teller; he's a Marriage Helper coach who lives by example. We dive deep into the world of cognitive behavior restructuring, exploring how understanding and owning your part of the conflict can lead to personal growth and healthier relationships. Jared talks passionately about the resources available at Marriage Helper, from membership to coaching. He emphasizes the importance of investing in our personal growth and working through difficulties rather than seeking an easy escape route. So, if you're looking for a way to face your marriage challenges head-on, this episode is a must-listen.
To sign up for 25% off the Save My Marriage Program, visit marriagehelper.com/podcast
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
We have a new website for the It Starts With Attraction podcast!
Visit www.itstartswithattraction.com to check it out!
Ever grappled with the pain of infidelity, manipulation, or the aftermath of separation in your marriage? Are you seeking clarity and perspective to illuminate your path towards self-love and a healthier marriage? We have conversation with Cody Wambolt, a client representative at Marriage Helper, who shares the stories of those confronting these struggles and the transformations they've experienced.
Stories of personal growth and transformation are at the center of our discussion. We unearth the journey of a woman who, despite enduring verbal abuse and demands for divorce, managed to turn her life around. The story unveils how understanding her husband's personality, learning to communicate more effectively, and making significant changes in her behavior, allowed her to not only impact her marriage but also her children and social and professional circles. This compelling account underscores the power of personal growth and how it can create ripples in all aspects of life.
As we wrap up the episode, we share how to get in touch with the dedicated team here at Marriage Helper. Tune into Relationship Radio to fill your hearts with hope and your minds with invaluable advice.
To book a call with Cody or another Client Representative,
visit https://marriagehelper.com/apply1
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
We have a new website for the It Starts With Attraction podcast!
Visit www.itstartswithattraction.com to check it out!
What if the secret to a healthy and fulfilling marriage lies not in grand gestures or constant compromise, but in the very core of how we perceive ourselves? Join us as our CEO and resident psychology expert, Kimberly Beam Holmes, unravels the connection between self-esteem and marriage. Kimberly helps us understand the difference between self-esteem and self-worth, taking us through the seven areas of self-worth identified by researcher Jennifer Crocker. She emphasizes that only three of these areas - family support, virtue, and God's love - are healthy foundations for self-worth.
Our deep-dive into self-esteem doesn't stop at theory. Kimberly demonstrates how self-esteem dynamics can play out in marriage, highlighting the potential harm when we rely on our spouses to fill our need for love and worth. This dependence may lead us into a cycle of altered behaviors and unfair expectations. Yet, there's hope. Kimberly shares insights from her dissertation research on how self-esteem levels can change through interventions. By pausing on our physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual parts of attraction, we can begin to nurture our self-esteem in a healthier manner. Tune in and discover how to strengthen the foundation of your marriage by redefining your self-esteem.
LINK TO IT STARTS WITH ATTRACTION
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
We have a new website for the It Starts With Attraction podcast!
Visit www.itstartswithattraction.com to check it out!
Ready for the transformation of a lifetime? Strap in as we unveil the secrets of salvaging a marriage, even when it feels like you're the only one fighting. We'll guide you through a proven seven-step process, crafted from the lessons we've learned supporting thousands of couples through their marital ups and downs. Learn how to navigate the initial stages of this journey solo, arming yourself with clarity and calmness because you are the captain of your fate, the master of your marriage.
As we dive deeper, get ready for a paradigm shift. We talk about the pivotal role of accountability and implementation in your behavior transformation. We'll explore the powerful weapon of forgiveness, and why it's vital for both you and your partner to stand on the battlefield of reconciliation together. To top it all off, we'll introduce you to our 'Save My Marriage' program designed to help you see visible, positive results in your marriage. So, join us in this journey of turning your marriage around, one step at a time. It's not about the destination, it's about the journey. Let's start walking together, today.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
We have a new website for the It Starts With Attraction podcast!
Visit www.itstartswithattraction.com to check it out!
Ever felt the agonizing sting of infidelity in your marriage? Been crushed under the weight of betrayal and wondered if you could ever find solace or if your relationship could be salvaged? We've got you. In this enlightening conversation, we delve into the painful reality of adultery and guide you through pathways of personal healing and marriage restoration. We reveal how infidelity is, unfortunately, a common predicament in marriages, not just among individuals who approach us at Marriage Helper for advice.
Shattering the misconception that an affair is a reflection of your inadequacy, we discuss how it often denotes your spouse's unfulfilled needs. We will explore how your healing lies in recognizing your personal strengths, understanding your contributions to the marital discord, and working on them. We also illuminate the often misunderstood aspects of post-affair reconciliation and trust rebuilding. Tune in as we walk you through the intentional process of forgiveness and healing, that can potentially breathe new life into your marriage. Experience this transforming conversation that holds the power to revolutionize your life and marriage.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
We have a new website for the It Starts With Attraction podcast!
Visit www.itstartswithattraction.com to check it out!
What's happened to the sanctity of marriage? It seems today's world has shifted from commitment-based marriages to an era of 'expressive individualism' - but at what cost? Join us as we scrutinize this startling decline and the seismic societal shifts that have led us here. We're diving deep into the statistics, the causes, and the far-reaching implications of this change. Is it the independence of the 'me generation?' What about women's escalating roles in the workforce? We're questioning it all.
The second half of our conversation turns the spotlight onto the fallout of this marriage recession. We're exposing the harsh realities of men losing touch with their children post-divorce and the alarming erosion of commitment in our increasingly self-centered society. But, there's hope! So, join us in this thought-provoking exploration and learn the tools you need to restore the foundations of family and commitment.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
We have a new website for the It Starts With Attraction podcast!
Visit www.itstartswithattraction.com to check it out!
What if the one thing standing in the way of a healthier, happier marriage is our belief that people can't change? Join us as we flip this myth on its head. We take a deep dive into the reasons behind why people change and how to create an environment that encourages your spouse to evolve in your marriage. We highlight an intriguing case study that shows how our beliefs about someone, and the way we treat them, can significantly influence their behavior and potential for change.
In the latter part of our chat, we explore the concept of behavior modification in the context of marriage. We discuss how behaviors that are rewarded tend to be repeated and how a lack of reward or negative consequences can discourage certain behaviors. But, instead of resorting to punishments, we suggest encouraging open conversations and rewarding desired behaviors. Listen to our insightful tips on how to foster meaningful conversations and create new behavior patterns in your marriage, all for the purpose of fostering a stronger, healthier relationship with your spouse. So, let's shatter the belief that people can't change and start opening doors for growth and improvement in our marriages.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
We have a new website for the It Starts With Attraction podcast!
Visit www.itstartswithattraction.com to check it out!
Ever wondered how the intimate ties of marriage can weave into the complex tapestry of business? Ready for an adventure that transforms love in your personal life into fuel for professional success? Today, we unpack the profound connections between commitment in marriage and business. We take you through the labyrinth of falling in love – a four-stage journey that resonates deeply in both personal and professional relationships. We dissect the often misunderstood struggles in marriages and shed light on the potency of self-reflection. Believe us, it's not always about pointing fingers, sometimes, the solution lies in a mirror. The path to sustaining healthy relationships saturated with trust and passion starts here.
Join us, as we commit to providing hope and help on this incredibly challenging, yet immeasurably rewarding journey of marriage and business.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE. There are thousands that are in the same situation you are right now. And we would like to offer you something special today. We would like to offer you 25% off your first month of our Save My Marriage program. All you have to do is go to marriagehelper.com/podcast and enter code PODCAST to sign up today!
Are you prepared to venture into the labyrinth of emotional complexities that lead some women to cheat? This episode promises an honest exploration into a topic that's often swept under the rug. Join us as we unravel the reasons why some women may stray from their marital vows. From emotional dissatisfaction to raw physical desire, we discuss real-life stories to illustrate how women may justify their actions and the devastating consequences that may follow. While we assert that cheating is never justifiable, we aim to shine a light on the intricate layers of motivations that can lead to such decisions.
And, here’s the hard bit: confronting your spouse about a potential affair. Picture this, you've noticed signs, you're anxious, and you need to address this issue with your partner. It's a sensitive task and can be met with a range of emotional reactions. But, don't despair! We're here to guide you on managing these reactions and how best to navigate this tricky terrain. Learn about the effectiveness of seeking help and why it's essential to fight for your marriage. Tune in for a candid conversation and arm yourself with the tools to potentially avert a crisis in your marriage.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE. There are thousands that are in the same situation you are right now. And we would like to offer you something special today. We would like to offer you 25% off your first month of our Save My Marriage program. All you have to do is go to marriagehelper.com/podcast and enter code PODCAST to sign up today!
Why do people cheat? Are men and women motivated by different reasons to step out of their committed relationships? This episode delves into the fascinating world of infidelity, examining the psychology and motivation behind affairs. Surprising yet true, research suggests that a staggering 30-50% of couples will experience infidelity at some point. We navigate through the complexity of such actions, exploring why some individuals do not view their actions as adulterous, regardless of societal norms and moral obligations.
But wait, there's more. Guess what, a marriage can be protected from these affairs. It requires consistent, intentional investment. This episode doesn't just stop at dissecting the reasons behind cheating, but also guides you on how to invest in your marriage meaningfully to prevent it from deteriorating over time. We put forth strategies on how to have open conversations about potential temptations and offer ways to resist them. Brace yourself as we journey through the intriguing and often misunderstood paths of relationships and infidelity.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE. There are thousands that are in the same situation you are right now. And we would like to offer you something special today. We would like to offer you 25% off your first month of our Save My Marriage program. All you have to do is go to marriagehelper.com/podcast and enter code PODCAST to sign up today!
Ever found yourself quickly labeling someone as a narcissist without truly grasping the concept? Today, we debunk myths and misconceptions around narcissism and selfishness. Kimberly discusses the evolution of narcissism from a personality trait to a diagnosable disorder, currently affecting only 1% of the population. In an era where internet has birthed a surge in self-proclaimed 'narcissists', we emphasize the need to fully understand the term and the dangers it holds when misused.
We then transition into discussing ways to deal with those who exhibit narcissistic traits or heightened selfishness in our relationships. Contrary to popular belief, the answer isn't tough love or firm boundaries, but empathy. We explore the idea of understanding where the selfishness is originating from - fear, low self-esteem, or changing personal desires. We also highlight the importance of setting healthy boundaries and protecting oneself in these situations.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE. There are thousands that are in the same situation you are right now. And we would like to offer you something special today. We would like to offer you 25% off your first month of our Save My Marriage program. All you have to do is go to marriagehelper.com/podcast and enter code PODCAST to sign up today!
People talk a lot about intimacy. But usually when they do, they refer to sex. When we talk about intimacy, we talk about openness, transparency, vulnerability... really getting to know the other person and the other person knowing you seeing deep inside.
Are there tips to be able to accomplish that kind of intimacy? Yes. We'll be talking about those on this episode of Relationship Radio.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
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In today's episode of Relationship Radio, we're diving into a topic that many couples face at some point in their marriage: What to do when your spouse loses their job. 💔💼
Marriage is a beautiful adventure, but it can also bring its fair share of challenges. When the unexpected happens and one of you loses their job, it can put a strain on both your emotional and financial well-being. That's why we're here to offer guidance and support during these tough times.
Remember, you're not alone in this journey. Many couples face similar challenges, and with the right mindset and tools, you can overcome them together. 💪
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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Nobody wants to hear it. And if you've heard it, it hurts... It's when your spouse looks at you and says, "I don't love you anymore." Or maybe they say it like this, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore."
Is it over? Is there anything you can do? Actually, there's a lot you can do. That's what we talk about on today's episode of Relationship Radio.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
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You would think in a marriage that there would be a great degree of intimacy, maybe passion. But sometimes people just feel like they're living with a roommate. If that's you, is there something you can do about it? Let's talk about it on today's episode of Relationship Radio.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
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Your spouse cheated on you, and you've decided that you want to forgive your spouse. And now you find it's a lot more difficult to do than you thought it was going to be. Is there a way to do it? Yes, we'll explain that to you on this episode of Relationship Radio.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
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What do you do if your spouse is checked out emotionally? Do you accept it or tolerate it? Or do you do something about it? That's what we talk about in today's episode of Relationship Radio.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
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If your spouse has cheated on you, or is cheating on you, the people in your life are probably telling you to divorce, get rid of them, make them pay for what they've done... But you know what? That might be the biggest mistake you ever make in your life. Why? Let's talk about that.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
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How do people fall in love? And maybe just as importantly, how do people fall out of love? Well, it's not magic. But there is a secret to it. And we want to tell you about that secret in this episode of Relationship Radio.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
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We hear this question a lot... When is it time to let go? Should I let go? It's a simple question that requires a complex answer. Every situation is different, but in this episode we dive into this question and give helpful insight backed by research.
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Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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Are you feeling alone in your marriage? It's tough, BUT there is good news.
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Over the last few episodes we've been covering the 7 Steps To Rescue Your Marriage (And Yourself) and today we finish that series with steps 6 and 7. Is it possible to bring intimacy back into your marriage? Absolutely. And we'll walk you through exactly how to do that to begin building your dream life together.
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Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
Are you feeling alone in your marriage? It's tough, BUT there is good news.
You don't have to walk this road alone.Visit marriagehelper.com/radioto join our membership.
Can you rebuild trust after an affair? Absolutely. And that is Step 5 of the 7 Steps To Rescue Your Marriage (And Yourself) Today we talk about how calculative trust can lead you further down the path of rescuing your marriage and eventually lead to reigniting intimacy and passion.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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If you're trying to rescue your marriage and get back to the marriage you used to have, or even make it better than before, you might feel stuck. That's why we have created the 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage (And Yourself.) In the previous episode, we walked through the first three steps of this process, and today we walk through Step 4... Forgiving and Reconciling
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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You might've heard us talk about The Love Path before. The Love Path is a process we developed that shows how people fall in love. But in this episode we're going to begin teaching you a new process. This process is called the 7 Steps To Rescue Your Marriage and Yourself.
In this episode specifically, we're going to be walking you through the first 3 steps which we like to call the "Stabilizing" phase. Over the next few episodes we will continue to explore this new process to help you rescue your marriage (and yourself.)
If you'd like to give us feedback on what we could do differently to help you understand it better, visit youtube.com/marriagehelper and leave us a comment!
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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If your marriage is in trouble, you have a lot of decisions to make. And if you really want to save a troubled marriage, you've got some steps that you need to go through to get there. There are all kinds of people on the internet that you can send $50 to or $100 to who will tell you, if you just follow my magic formula, everything's going work out just like you want it to. Unfortunately, a lot of those people just teach you how to manipulate. And in the process, they actually manipulate you. Is there a formula? Is there a process? Can you find a pattern that if a person wants to save a marriage that that can be followed and really can work? Absolutely. And that's what we talk about in today's episode of Relationship Radio.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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Research has indicated that military and law enforcement marriages tend to suffer from higher rates of divorce than the general public. There's a lot of reasons for this. We're going to uncover many of those in today's episode. But more than anything we want to talk about what are the struggles and obstacles that military and law enforcement marriages face? And how can you do some things differently so that you give your marriage the greatest opportunity for staying together, but also being strong and healthy. That's what we'll discuss in today's episode of Relationship Radio.
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Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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Your spouse has just walked out. While it seems like the world around you is falling apart and nothing is going your way, there is hope. Through countless stories of reconciliation that we've seen over the years, we are here to walk through this with you. In this episode, Dr. Joe and Kimberly will walk you through the simple steps, things to do and not to do, after your spouse has decided to leave.
Don't lose hope. We are here for you.
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Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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This is a recast of an episode that originally aired on November 12, 2019.
Our live caller explains: My wife left, but she left based on false perceptions. For instance, she thought I was having an affair when I am not having an affair. And, when I ask her about the false perceptions, she doesn’t want to talk about it...
...and she doesn’t want to come back home, even though we set “boundaries” together beforehand.
Dr. Joe Beam asks this caller, “Does your wife thinks you’re controlling her?” The caller responds, “Yes, but I don’t think she has a correct perception.”
Dr. Joe Beam asks this caller to evaluate the following phrases he uses with his wife. First, he tells his wife she “is not understanding things correctly.” Second, he tells his wife she “shouldn’t feel a certain way.” Dr. Joe Beam asks this caller to consider how these phrases may make his wife feel like she’s wrong, and that he doesn’t understand her.
Dr. Joe Beam instructs this caller to listen. Even if he thinks his wife is wrong, she still needs to feel heard. That is, if this caller really wants to open up communication with his wife, she needs to know he’s TRULY hearing what she feels.
If people don’t feel understood, and can’t defend themselves, they can start to pull further away. So if you’re in this situation and want your spouse to come back, a good skill is to LISTEN to your spouse, trying to UNDERSTAND how your spouse feels. This is the kind of approach that can have an impact.
And, our Client Representatives and Coaches can help understand your perspective and guide you further. It can happen, and we’d love to help!
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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We hear the word "affair" quite often. It's a word thrown around a lot these days, but what does it really mean? We're here to answer that question and many more on today's episode of Relationship Radio.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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In this episode of Relationship Radio, we explore the relationship between marital satisfaction and sexual satisfaction. We start by discussing "pushes" and "pulls" in relationships and how negative emotions can impact sexual satisfaction. We also delve into the connection between pornography and sexual dysfunction, as well as the factors that can prevent people from having a healthy sex life. We then explore the root causes of a lack of sex and the problems that can arise when couples shut off sex with each other. Finally, we stress the importance of having an open and honest conversation about sex to improve overall satisfaction in a marriage.
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On Today's episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe sits down with the creator of The Chosen, Dallas Jenkins, to talk about choosing love in relationships.
Dallas is the son of celebrated Left Behind author Jerry Jenkins and is the creator, producer, director and writer of the international hit series The Chosen. He launched his career producing the independent feature HOMETOWN LEGEND at the age of 25 and shepherded it to distribution by Warner Brothers. In the nearly 20 years since then, he has directed and produced over a dozen feature and short films for companies such as Universal, Lionsgate, Pureflix, Hallmark Channel and Amazon.
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Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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In this episode, "The Secret Third Push," we explore the push and pull concept in relationships. We discuss common reasons for pushing away and the differences between men and women who divorce. We encourage being true to yourself and provide tips for working on the physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual aspects of your life to improve your relationship. Join us for this insightful discussion on how to take control of your marriage. Don't forget to subscribe!
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
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Have you ever wondered why you feel a rush of euphoria and excitement when you see someone you're attracted to? It turns out that there's a scientific explanation for this phenomenon.
In this episode, we delve into the role that dopamine plays in our brain chemistry and its impact on love and sex. We examine the difference between dopamine and serotonin, and how dopamine can create feelings of anticipation and intense pleasure.
Did you know that the dopamine high of marriage can be even stronger than the high from falling in love? We'll explain why this is the case, and what happens when dopamine levels fall too low.
But it's not just about dopamine - we also discuss the importance of serotonin in our overall health and wellbeing. We'll offer some suggestions on how to increase your serotonin levels, which can help improve your mood and overall sense of wellbeing.
Finally, we'll touch on the topic of sexual health and explore ways to improve it. We'll offer practical tips and advice that you can start implementing today.
Join us as we explore the fascinating world of the brain's response to love and sex.
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Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
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Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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Are you going through a divorce or know someone who is? In this episode, we explore how divorce affects more than just your marriage.
First, we examine how divorce can affect your beliefs and values, particularly your views on marriage. Is it something you still believe in, or has your divorce changed your perspective? We also discuss the difference between believing that you can and that you should get married again.
Next, we delve into the issue of fatherlessness that can result from divorce. What are the consequences of a father's absence, and how does it impact children?
We also look at how divorce affects a person's friends and future relationships. Are your friendships affected, and how does it change your dating life?
If you're a single mom going through a divorce, we offer some hope and encouragement for you. And if you know someone going through a divorce, we discuss ways you can help them save their marriage.
Divorce is a challenging and emotional process, but it doesn't have to define your future. Join us in this discussion on how to navigate the effects of divorce on your life and relationships.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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In this episode of Relationship Radio we dive into the tough topic of dealing with grief and unhappiness in marriage. Kimberly Beam Holmes, Marriage Helper's CEO, answers questions from viewers and provides expert advice on how to prevent divorce and cope with the aftermath of a cheating spouse.
Whether you're having trouble communicating with your spouse or trying to navigate the difficult emotions of loss, this video is for you. Join us as we explore different types of affairs, the chemical reactions in our brains that lead to limerence, and the importance of self-improvement and staying in contact when trying to save your marriage.
You won't want to miss this informative and insightful episode of Relationship Radio!
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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In this episode, we discuss a heartbreaking situation where a husband has left his wife multiple times, even after the birth of their child and their baby's stay in the NICU. The wife is in emotional pain and confusion as to why her husband explodes in anger or runs away so much, despite being wonderful about 90% of the time. We delve into the principle that anger is based on pain and explore the possible reasons behind the husband's behavior. Dr. Joe recommends seeking professional counseling and leveraging the Emotionally Focused Therapy approach to address the husband's abandonment and control issues. The discussion also touches on setting boundaries and taking necessary steps to ensure safety in cases where there is physical, intellectual, emotional, or spiritual danger. If you or anyone you know is going through a similar situation, this episode may offer some insights and guidance on how to cope with abandonment and anger in a marriage.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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This episode tackles three relationship questions. The first one is about a new empty nester who is experiencing relationship issues. Even when the kids were still there, the wife was distant and disinterested, and suggesting counseling would only push her away. The video suggests that the wife may be questioning her value and identity as a mother, and it is important for the husband to be patient and understanding, listen to her, and find something that they can focus on together that would make her feel valuable again.
The second question is about a woman who cheated on her husband and has been back in the marriage for eight months but doesn't feel in love with him anymore. The video says that it is possible to love her husband again, but she needs to be careful not to measure it against the same level of excitement and sexual exhilaration she had with the other person. The video explains the scientific viewpoint of love and suggests that what she may be lacking is the feeling of passion, which is a craving for oneness. The video advises her to focus on building intimacy, commitment, and passion with her husband.
The last question is about the Marriage Helper workshop. This person asks if they should try to fix issues in their marriage before they attend the workshop. Dr. Beam explains that it is best to keep things light until they attend the workshop where we can help guide them through each specific issue and provide the tools to start rebuilding the marriage.
Dive into this episode with us!
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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In this episode, we answer questions from our listeners regarding limerence. Limerence is a state of intense infatuation and longing for another person. One listener asks how long limerence typically lasts, and we explain that it can vary from three months to 48 months, with most cases lasting around two years. While it's possible for limerence to last longer, it's quite rare. We also discuss a case where a listener's husband had an emotional affair with a coworker, but it didn't turn sexual. The listener asks if her husband's friendship with the coworker could still be considered limerence, but we believe it's unlikely to have lasted for 12 years. Another listener asks how to start trusting her husband again after an emotional affair, and we recommend building calculated trust to rebuild the relationship. Ultimately, understanding the stages of limerence can help individuals navigate complex emotional situations in relationships. Dive into this episode with us to learn more!
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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What do you do when work gets in the way of your marriage? Is this possible? Are there ways to work through this as a family? That's what we talk about on today's episode of Relationship Radio.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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In this episode of Relationship Radio, we explore the common issue of feeling disconnected in a relationship. Despite being in the same room all the time, many couples live like roommates rather than lovers. But there is a solution! In this episode, we discuss how to reconnect with each other, the importance of being intentional about learning and being curious about your spouse, and how to disconnect from distractions in order to build a better relationship. Join Dr. Beam and Kimberly as they explore the key to unlocking meaningful conversations and reigniting the spark in your marriage.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
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In this episode of our podcast, we explore the impact of pornography on marriage and relationships. We discuss the pros and cons of pornography, the role of technology and its impact on society, and delve into the question of whether pornography is beneficial or harmful to marriages.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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With the internet and social media, there are endless amounts of solutions to any problem you could think of. While that might seem like a good thing, sometimes those solutions aren't the greatest. In this episode, we talk about some of the things that other people teach that we know do not work.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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On today's episode we explore the topic of financial infidelity in relationships. As we all know, infidelity is the violation of trust, and it can happen in many different ways - including financially. From secret purchases to hidden bank accounts, financial infidelity can be just as damaging as other forms of infidelity. This episode is a must-listen.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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Infidelity - Signs Your Spouse Might Be Cheating
Our beliefs and values are shaped by the culture and environment in which we are raised, as well as the people who are most important to us. These beliefs and values can be difficult to change, even if we want to, because they are deeply ingrained in our identity and way of life. But what if changing your beliefs and values can lead to positive change? That's what we talk about on today's episode.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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On today's episode of Relationship Radio, we're talking about the relationship between belief systems, values, and emotions, and how they can influence each other and lead to changes in behavior. It is common for people to have gaps in their belief systems, and these gaps can sometimes be filled in by external influences such as other people or new experiences. It is also common for strong emotions to compete with or override belief systems and values, particularly when those beliefs and values are not fully formed or are not deeply held. This can lead to conflicts between what a person believes and how they behave, which can be referred to as cognitive dissonance. We'll explain why it's important for people to regularly review and reflect on their beliefs and values to ensure that they are in alignment with their desired behavior and to make any necessary adjustments.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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In this episode, we will be discussing why beliefs and values change over time. We all have certain values and beliefs that shape our worldview and guide our actions, but what is it that causes them to shift? Join us as we delve into the dynamic nature of beliefs and values, and how they shape our relationships with others on today's episode of Relationship Radio.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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A "midlife crisis" is a lie. This has become a label associated with a process that occurs when one spouse changes their own beliefs and values. This person may become a completely different person because whatever had the greatest influence over them has changed.
When your greatest influence changes, your belief system changes.
When your belief system changes, your value system changes.
When your value system changes, you become a completely different person.
Did the beliefs and values change? Are they living a limerence lifestyle? If you or your spouse has changed in a way that has caused harm to the marriage, then this video is for you. You will learn how someone changes who they are (sometimes for the worse) and can eventually become a completely different person than the one you or your spouse fell in love with.
Join us as we discuss this in this special 4-part series of Relationship Radio.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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What is "weaponized incompetence?" It's one of many new "pop-psychology" terms making it's way around the internet. What is it? How is it used? How can you deal with it? That's what we talk about on today's episode of Relationship Radio.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
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On today's episode of Relationship Radio, our Director of Marketing, Phil Stewart, and his wife, Lynsi, sit down and talk about their experience attending the Marriage Helper 3-Day Intensive Workshop, what they learned, and what they DIDN'T expect to gain from it.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
It's time to start giving back, and what better way to do it than by giving to Both Hands? If you would like to be a part of helping families in the adoption process, click here. Marriage Helper will match up to $25,000 in total donations through the end of 2022.
Has trust been broken in your marriage? We believe that there is ALWAYS hope, and today we talk about how you can begin to restore trust in your marriage, with our guest, Marriage Helper Certified Coach, Priscilla Gray.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
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What if I told you the best way to start fixing your marriage is to actually focus on yourself? It seems contradictory. After all, a marriage is between two people, so how does this actually work? That's what we talk about on today's episode of Relationship Radio with our guest, Marriage Helper Certified Coach, Jared Pratt.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
It's time to start giving back, and what better way to do it than by giving to Both Hands? If you would like to be a part of helping families in the adoption process, click here. Marriage Helper will match up to $25,000 in total donations through the end of 2022.
Many times people exhibit controlling behaviors without realizing it. Other times people are controlled, and don't know how to handle it in their marriage. We'll talk about both sides.
In this show, we'll discuss control in three different ways:
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How to know if you're controlling (you may not realize it!)
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What to do if you are controlling (it's not too late to change things)
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How to handle being controlled by your spouse
As always, call in and press the number 1 to speak with us! Everyone who calls in will be entered in to the drawing for 50% off the911 workshop.
Many times people exhibit controlling behaviors without realizing it. Other times people are controlled, and don't know how to handle it in their marriage. We'll talk about both sides.
In this show, we'll discuss control in three different ways:
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How to know if you're controlling (you may not realize it!)
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What to do if you are controlling (it's not too late to change things)
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How to handle being controlled by your spouse
As always, call in and press the number 1 to speak with us! Everyone who calls in will be entered in to the drawing for 50% off the911 workshop.
Intimacy is not always physical. It often has an emotional component to it, and today we talk about how you can create that emotional connection with your spouse, with our guest, Marriage Helper Certified Coach, Roald Gerber.
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
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Season 4 has flown by, so to make sure you're ready for the second half of the season, we put together a mid-season recap episode that contains all the highlights from every episode so far. We hope you enjoy and we'll see you again next week with a brand new episode!
Relationship Radio is hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
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We hear them all the time. Famous sayings about love and marriage. And while it all sounds accurate on paper, what does the research say?
Myths like:
"My soul mate is out there somewhere!"
"Once a cheater, always a cheater."
"Good sex in the beginning of your marriage means great sex for the rest of the marriage!"
Whether they are true or untrue, what can we learn from them?
Let's talk about it in today's episode of Relationship Radio, hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
Visit marriagehelper.com/drjoe to sign up for the in-person workshop on November 18-20
Disclaimer: Marriage Helper does not recommend the drinking of arsenic or other harmful chemicals not intended for consumption.Often times we hear people say, "try before you buy!" But will having sex before marriage the best idea? Will it help or hurt your marriage in the long run?
That's what we talk about on today's episode of Relationship Radio, hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
Visit marriagehelper.com/drjoe to sign up for the in-person workshop on November 18-20
Will living together before the marriage actually help your relationship? It's a frequently asked question and also a common misconception.
That's what we talk about on today's episode of Relationship Radio, hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
Being able to communicate with your spouse is a key component of a healthy marriage. But what if you don't know how to communicate? Is there really a secret to it?
Find out on today's episode of Relationship Radio, hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam.
Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way.
Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper.
Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you!
For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com.
Divorce is hard. It's a complicated, often messy process, but when children are involved, it becomes much more difficult.
Today on Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam-Holmes discuss the many different ways that divorce can affect children and why you should ALWAYS consider the kids when thinking of divorce.
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It could be different beliefs about religion, politics, sex or a million other things. But one thing is true; you and your spouse have a completely different set of beliefs and values, and you want to figure out how to have a healthy marriage and relationship despite those differences.
It might be difficult to imagine being married to someone who has such core differences than you do, but living in line with your beliefs and values can actually make the other person extremely attractive, and vice versa.
In today's episode of Relationship Radio, we teach you how to love and respect your spouse even when they have a completely different set of beliefs than you do.
Is it possible to have a great marriage regardless?
The answer is...
YES!
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When you don't agree with your spouse, it can be incredibly frustrating. It might be something where you absolutely HAVE TO come to some sort of resolution, but you are both hard set in your views.
Handling divisive topics in marriage is extremely important. On one hand, you want to be able to learn how to have healthy compromise with one another. On the other hand, you don't want to go against your own beliefs and values or to become a doormat for your spouse to run right over you and control the situation.
So in today's episode of Relationship Radio, we talk about how to handle divisive topics in marriage. Get ready to take some notes!
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You're worried about a looming recession that everyone keeps talking about. But how do you prevent a recession from ruining your marriage and relationship with your spouse?
There are a few things you need to consider talking about with your spouse before anything like this happens to the world. It could mean the difference between coming closer together or drifting apart. The ultimate goal is to have a great marriage no matter what the state the world is in, or your own financial status.
In today's episode of Relationship Radio, we talk about how to prevent a looming recession from ruining your marriage. You don't want to miss it.
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Separation or divorce in marriage is difficult enough as it is. But telling your children about what's going on is even more difficult.
If you are struggling with the idea of how to explain to your children what's going on, then this is for you.
There are many factors that affect how you should approach the children. Some of which include their age, who's children they are (if you had children prior to marrying one another), and most importantly the fact that you should avoid using visuals to explain things to your children.
We will cover everything to do, and NOT do, in today's episode of Relationship Radio.
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An open marriage is when both partners agree that each may have sexual relations with others. But is it a good idea?
You or your spouse is considering the idea of having an open marriage, but you want to know what you're getting into before you commit to it.
So, what are the pros and cons?
In today's episode of Relationship Radio, we talk about whether or not having an open marriage is a good idea and give you everything you need to know before agreeing to this type of relationship status with your spouse.
Click here for more information about our Couples Workshop or our Solo Spouse Workshop.
Your spouse believes you had an affair. You've done nothing wrong, but you can't convince them otherwise.
Maybe you believe or have evidence that suggests your spouse is the one having an affair, and now you've pointed fingers, only to hear your spouse getting defensive and denying the affair.
How should you respond?
In recent news headlines, Elon Musk (Founder of SpaceX & CEO of Tesla) was recently accused by Sergey Brin (co-founder of Google) for having an affair with Anne Wojcicki (wife of Sergey).
While the allegations have yet to be determined, this story sounded all too familiar from the thousands of couples we work with here at Marriage Helper.
We wanted to take this moment in history to educate and explain what to do if you have found yourself in this exact situation.
The advice we give might surprise you!
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Most of the time, when we hear about a marriage affected by an affair, the partner who was cheated on asks us to help them understand if they should try to save the marriage. And if so, how? If the straying spouse is still out somewhere, is there some way to get them to return to the marriage?
But, a certain number of calls we get are just the opposite. The spouse who cheated has now come to their senses and said, "Wow, I want to save the marriage. But my spouse either isn't sure they want to, or they've made up their mind. No, they can never forgive me for what I did. So, is there any hope for putting my marriage back together?" Actually, there is. And we'll talk about that on this episode of Relationship Radio.
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We know that sex is a part of marriage. We also know that sex doesn't always occur in marriage.
But what about your marriage? Perhaps you want to be making love to your spouse, but when you attempt it, your spouse doesn't want it to occur. And you feel that you've been sexually rejected or are continually being sexually rejected by your spouse.
What do you do about that? We'll talk about that on this episode of Relationship Radio.
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One of the most common questions we get here at Marriage Helper is, "We're having marital problems, but my spouse still wants to sleep with me." Now, sometimes that just means sleep. Maybe they want to be in the same bed.
But more often, that question means, "My spouse wants to have sex with me. What do you think? Should I have sex with my spouse after they cheated on me?"
There are definitely pros and cons to this decision, and it should not be made lightly. We discuss that and how you can choose a path forward on this episode of Relationship Radio.
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On this episode of Relationship Radio, we interview Annette; a client who found Marriage Helper in the midst of her marriage crisis.
Annette talks about how Marriage Helper was essential in helping her find the strength to stand for her marriage, better herself, and still have hope for her future.
Has your spouse told you that they are just done with this marriage? If so, you are not alone. Join Kimberly Beam Holmes and Dr. Joe Beam on Wednesday, July 13, 2022 for a webinar designed specifically for you.
Visit marriagehelper.com/lost to sign up today!
While marriage might be between two people, many other people can influence it. For example, parents, siblings, and even distant relatives can positively and negatively affect your marriage. Your family may lead you down the right path 99% of the time because they care about you. But biased people and biased advice can lead you to make poor decisions. This is especially true if you’re having troubles in your marriage.
If you’ve determined that you can set enough STOPs and COREs that it’s safe to return to your relationship, you will have to stand firm against your family. You’ll get pushback from them, but set your parameters and expectations and stick to them. Demonstrate the changes that you make to everyone involved. The families involved are more likely to accept and support the marriage when they believe it's a healthy marriage for both people.
Has your spouse told you that they are just done with this marriage? If so, you are not alone. Join Kimberly Beam Holmes and Dr. Joe Beam on Wednesday, July 13, 2022 for a webinar designed specifically for you.
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We often hear that a couple can’t start to reconcile their marriage because one of them is too ashamed. They might have had an affair, gambled away their money, or had an addiction problem, and now they feel like their spouse won’t forgive them.
Guilt can be a positive thing if it helps us realize we need to change. But long-term guilt can lead to a sense of shame that can affect your sense of self-worth, self-confidence, self-esteem, and your physiology.
People experiencing deep shame have to first realize what they are feeling before they can begin to heal. There are still ways that your spouse can help. Using SMART contact can help you remember to avoid PUSH behaviors, respond in a kind, strong, and gentle way, and take it one day at a time.
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If you’re going through a separation or a divorce, your spouse may have stopped wanting to communicate with you. At Marriage Helper, we’ve developed a method called SMART contact that we built just for this situation. SMART contact is an acronym that we use to describe the process a person can go through when they are trying to teach themselves how to best communicate with their spouse.
SMART contact works. But even if you do everything right, your spouse has the free will to choose not to respond and continue leaving the marriage. But using this framework is the healthiest way of communicating, especially in a marriage in crisis. Communication in your marriage did not fall apart overnight, and it will not magically be repaired overnight either. Read further to see what SMART contact stands for and how it can be used to rebuild positive communication.
In this episode of Relationship Radio, we interview Rozanne; a Marriage Helper client who sought help after going through some difficult problems in her marriage.
Hidden addictions, poor communication, and other issues were leading them towards disaster. She later found out that there was a secret affair going on between her husband and another woman. Rozanne found Marriage Helper and has since started to find a renewed hope for her marriage.
Listen in on this episode of Relationship Radio as we talk with Rozanne about her story and hear why she still has so much hope for the future despite her past.
Forgiveness can be difficult to both give and receive. When we’ve been hurt, especially by a loved one, that pain will take time to heal. The first and most important key to remember is that you can’t force forgiveness. Accept that your spouse has the right to forgive you or not. But is there a way to get your spouse to forgive you?
Forgiveness must be earned. You can take several actions to aid this process, but everyone grieves at a different pace. Continuing to apologize might do more damage to your marriage than good. So, after you clearly, sincerely, and humbly apologize, continue to work on being the best version of yourself through working on physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual attraction.
Episode Mentions:
Marriage Helper Workshops - https://marriagehelper.com/workshops/
Spark of Life - https://www.sparkoflife.org/
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If you knew that you’d done something that might hurt your spouse, would you tell them? Maybe you have a porn addiction that they haven't discovered. Perhaps you have a gambling problem, have had an affair, or one of the hundreds of other possibilities. Any one of these could be devastating to your spouse and your relationship. So is there ever a good time to not share everything?
The answer is complicated. At Marriage Helper, we advise that you weigh the benefit versus the cost. Think about the outcome of telling your spouse and ask yourself who it will benefit. For example, if your secret is decades old and your relationship has continued to grow, then it is possible the costs would greatly outweigh the benefits. This is only one of the many questions you’ll need to answer before you can decide to tell your spouse what you’ve done.
It can be very frustrating when you can’t get your spouse to understand what you feel, saying, or how their actions affect others.
Or maybe you need to talk to them about the fact that what they're doing is causing more harm than good.
Is there something that you think you just must discuss with each other, but your spouse doesn't even want to do that?
Join Dr. Beam and Kimberly as they offer some ideas about how to get your spouse to understand your point of view.
How do you get your spouse to understand you? This is part 2 of "How Do I Get My Spouse To Understand Me."
For part one, listen here - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1725542/10594625
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The experiences and traumas from your past can significantly impact your current life and marriage.
This week, our Director of Marketing, Gemma sits down with Shel to discuss the tumultuous times that caused her marriage to fall apart and how she’s using Marriage Helper to try and rebuild herself and her marriage.
Shel discusses both of their parents’ past use of drugs and how that affected them differently, the stresses of 12 years of failed conception, and how depression played a part in their problems.
She has realized through these struggles that the picture she had for her life might have only been part of the picture. And while she's still mired in the troubles of her marriage, she sees the hope for her future.
Download our free eBook on SMART Communication to learn how to best communicate with your spouse, even if they won’t engage you.
It can be very frustrating when you can’t get your spouse to understand what you feel, saying, or how their actions affect others.
Or maybe you need to talk to them about the fact that what they're doing is causing more harm than good.
Is there something that you think you just must discuss with each other, but your spouse doesn't even want to do that?
How do you get your spouse to understand you?
Join Dr. Beam and Kimberly as they offer some ideas about how to get your spouse to understand your point of view.
Mentions:
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Marriage Helper Workshop: https://marriagehelper.com/workshops/
Reconciling a marriage is a long and challenging process. You may feel at times that you and your spouse are getting along and becoming close again. Yet, other times you might feel them pulling back.
So how do you handle these cycles of emotion or false starts?
Today, we look at four steps to avoid false reconciliations when trying to repair your marriage. We look at the reasons these can occur, how you can reset this path with STOPs and CORES, and use PIES to work on yourself and look for long-term, lasting damage for both you and your children
Divorce can be as painful and confusing for your children as it is for you. If you've realized "my children won't talk to my spouse," there's still hope.
Research from all over the world has proven that marital issues, when children are involved, affect them as well. After divorce occurs, 25% of fathers will no longer see their child after the first year. This percentage increases to 50% around the five to the ten-year mark.
So, how can you help to mitigate those chances?
How can you help your children’s relationship with your spouse?
Listen to this episode of Relationship Radio for the four options to help ensure your children still feel loved and lovely.
Forgiveness is a crucial part of letting go of the anger you have toward another person. Reconciliation is optional, but there are many times when it is the best decision to heal the relationship. Especially if there are children involved. Download our free eBook The Ultimate Guide To Reconciliation.
**Marriages require time and attention to nurture and grow. That can be easier said than done with all the obstacles of daily life.
Derrick from Texas found this out the hard way.
Derrick’s marriage was tested early when he was forced to spend time away from a growing family due to his time in the military.
Gemma sits down with Derrick to discuss how he met his wife, where their relationship troubles started, how he’s used Marriage Helper to try and heal their wounds, and how he got his reluctant spouse to come to the Marriage Helper Workshop.**
Preparing to have a difficult conversation with your spouse can be nerve-racking and stressful. In most cases, you can already assume that they will react negatively to it.
Is there anything you can do to make the situation easier?
In this episode of Relationship Radio, we’ll discuss the "two Es" of being prepared, environment, and emotion.
Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes break down why each is so important and what you can bring to the table in the way of solutions. The goal of every conversation should be to listen.
So, practice your listening skills and take some notes on how to talk about hard things with your spouse.
Communication is a vital part of any marriage. But what is communication?
Speaking to each other every day about bills and mundane happenings isn't enough.
So, what do you do when your spouse refuses to communicate with you anymore?
Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes discuss how to improve your communication skills in this episode of Relationship Radio. Taking a look at how you might be contributing to the rift should be your first step. Look at your body language, your responses, and if you’re genuinely listening when your spouse is talking.
Tune in to find out all the ways that Marriage Helper can get the communication flowing again in your relationship.
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What do you do when you're trying to save your marriage only to find out your spouse is in love with someone else?
In today's episode of Relationship Radio, Lawrence shares his story of how he found strength to continue standing for his marriage despite his wife still being in limerence.
Through introspection, self-improvement, and forgiveness Lawrence cultivated unwavering hope for his marriage and his future.
No matter what has happened in your marriage, there is hope. There is a way forward. We will show you how.
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Hate is a strong emotion; it’s intense and passionate. But, we can also define love, especially in its initial stage, using the same words. They are bound together through intimacy, passion, and commitment. But what can you do when your spouse hates you? Is there a way to get your marriage back on the love path?
In this episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes give their five keys to turning the hate in your marriage back to love. Along the way, you’ll learn what Marriage Helper can do to support you in this effort. The path is long, but patience and consistency will get you there.
Hearing that your spouse, who you love deeply, hates you can be devastating. But how did that love turn to hate? Is it possible to save your marriage after that? We believe so at Marriage Helper, and today’s episode of Relationship Radio is geared to help you do so.
Understanding how intimacy, passion, and commitment lead to both love and hate can guide you down the path to reconciliation. Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes will inform you how your spouse’s perceived reality can be different from the truth and provide you with several tools to start having a deeper understanding of your road back to happiness.
You’ve decided to end your affair and go back to your spouse. But how do you do it? How honest do you need to be when they ask you details about your affair? Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes will give you their five keys to reconciling your marriage from the perspective of the person who cheated.
Affairs can cause hurt for both parties involved. Find out how to deal with the pain by using empathy, speaking truthfully but not hurtful, and other techniques perfected over the 23 years that Marriage Helper has been in business helping families.
Do you want to save your marriage? That's what we'll be talking about today in this all-new season 3 of Relationship Radio.
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We at Marriage Helper get a lot of questions about marriage, particularly marriages that are having problems. And people know that one thing we do is that we help people get past extramarital affairs. And as a matter of fact, I have a pretty good record of helping people to do that. And so, a lot of the questions that we get are from the spouse that's been cheated on.
But, understand that we do get a great number of questions from the spouse who had the affair. Is there different information for that spouse, the one who had the affair, but now wants to put the marriage back together? Well, actually, to some degree, there is. What would it be? We share more in this season 3 opener of Relationship Radio.
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While limerence has three very distinct stages, the lines between them can be somewhat blurred. Stage one creates an infatuation with your new limerent object, while stage two crystallizes the feelings you have for each other. Stage three is called deterioration because the infatuation can start to wear off, and you can finally see the flaws.
Stage three of limerence can often lead to regret and remorse for the relationship. But does this mean that your significant other will come running back to you? Can your relationship be healed? Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes talk about how limerence ends and give advice on the best way to get through it on this episode of Relationship Radio.
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While stage one of limerence is about infatuation, stage two is about crystallizing those feelings and knowing that the other person feels the same way you do. The highs and lows continue to an extent, but the feelings turn more toward vilifying their current significant other and pushing them away.
Stage two of limerence is when most spouses discover that the affair is taking place. This can be a confusing and challenging time that puts them through an emotional roller coaster of their own. However, there is light at the end of the tunnel, even if you can’t currently see it. Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes will discuss the signs to look for and the underlying principles that can help you get through this phase in this episode of Relationship Radio.
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When people talk about falling madly in love, they’re describing what we in the social sciences call limerence. There are three distinct stages of limerence. We’ll be going through them all, but we’re starting with stage one of limerence on this episode of Relationship Radio.
Stage one of limerence is an infatuation, a longing for your emotional connection to be reciprocated. What was once a close friendship can quickly evolve into something much more and supplants your spouse for emotional and even sexual needs. Join Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes as they take you through some of the signs to look for to determine if your spouse is in limerence and how to handle what comes next.
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You’ve worked hard at trying to save your marriage, but that doesn’t always make it work. So how do you decide if it’s time to file for divorce?
Everyone’s tolerance for pain is different, and understanding how much pain you can stand is an important part of deciding on divorce. Using the P.I.E.S. method that we teach at Marriage Helper can guide you to knowing your threshold.
It’s important to ask questions like, is it hurting the kids? Am I hurting myself or my partner? Take time to understand your feelings, and don’t make a snap judgment based on a single event.
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Can taking your time getting a divorce actually help save your marriage? If your partner is in limerence, the state of being “madly in love” with someone new, waiting out the newness of that relationship could help.
There are ways to do this without becoming someone mean or evil in your partner's eyes. The key takeaways, in this case, are to be firm but fair and don’t let them walk all over you. Your lawyer is trained to handle these situations if your spouse gets agitated in the short term, so listen to their advice.Please leave a comment below, give us your feedback and opinion, and share this video with someone you believe needs it.
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Watch this video if you are going through a divorce and want to save your marriage.
People file for divorce for numerous reasons. They lose compatibility with their partner; there is a lack of intimacy, or they no longer feel liked, loved, or understood by their partner. People don’t leave what they have unless they believe what they’re going is better. This is the underlying motive for separation and the real reason why people file for divorce.
Your spouse believes being out of the marriage is better than being in it. That’s something to keep in mind, especially if your spouse wants a divorce and you don’t know what to do. There are many benefits to marriage.
According to research at Marriage Helper, married couples live longer, have better financial stability, better mental health, and live happier lives together than divorced couples. Of course, there are exceptions to this claim, like being married to someone abusive or dependent on drugs, but overall, marriage has its benefits, and marriage is worth it. Learn more about why people file for divorce and apply these tips to save your marriage.
In this video, we cover:
-Common reasons for divorce
-How divorce may stem from your spouse’s past
-How susceptibility leads to vulnerability
-Suffering adult traumas
-Free resources to stop your divorce
Reconciliation is complex, but understanding the part you played in your marriage offers self-reflection and positive changes in you your spouse will notice over time.
Our couples workshop demonstrates ways to communicate with your spouse, build back intimacy, stop anger, and work together to strengthen your connection. We base our programs on psychology, neuroscience, emotional attraction, and social sciences. From our positive testimonials and success rates, we confidently believe if anything works, this will.
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Our culture over the years has changed dramatically. The number of people willing to participate in an affair continues to grow. More men and women are willing to participate in unfaithfulness because the thought is, "This makes us both happy. And even though I know that you're married to someone else, this was meant to be because it makes us feel good at the moment." And when you live in a culture where it's acceptable to be unfaithful to your spouse, the temptation to do so becomes much, much stronger.
Not every single person is like that. But some single people feel so lonely and abandoned that if someone came along, that appears to fulfill their needs, they will choose to engage, even if it isn't healthy to do so. Marriage doesn't solve this problem. Even if a person is married, they might believe at the moment, "This person is just right for me." So it becomes irrelevant that either person is married. And, if the spouse involved in this wants to be involved, they're likely to lie.
In this episode, we cover:
- The three different types of affairs
- What limerence is and how long it lasts
- Why do some people have affairs
- Free Resources to save your marriage
At Marriage Helper, we believe in helping marriages last a lifetime. Let's face it: nothing is perfect, especially not marriage. Unfortunately, 1 out of 3 marriages fails because couples wait an average of six years before seeking marriage help. We have helped save thousands of marriages, and we believe that if anything works, this will.
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It never feels good to suspect your spouse is cheating on you. Cheating is a form of betrayal to your marriage and your family life. It's such a severe accusation it could disrupt the trust and foundation of your marriage, so it's essential to be 100% sure before you start raising suspicions toward your spouse. If you believe your spouse is cheating on you, pay attention to the signs before you start snooping around their things. There are signs and ways to expose infidelity without incriminating yourself to turn everything around on you. Cheating is frightening and frustrating, but if you pay attention to the changes in your relationship, it may help you determine where your marriage stands.
In this video, we cover:
-The roadmaps to cheating
-Gaslighting
-The missing signs
-Reasons for cheating
-Behavior changes to watch out for
-Hard conversations
-Free resources to save your marriage
Cheating is never okay, but there may be a deeper issue involved. At Marriage Helper, we have a strong support system of coaches, ebooks, workshops, and free resources like our mini-course to point out signs and offer advice in a broken or troubled marriage.
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Learning that your spouse had an affair is an earth-shattering feeling. It leaves open-ended questions like, "where did we go wrong?" Or "What could I have done differently?" Infidelity happens for numerous reasons, and we all play a part in our marriages. Sometimes cheating happens because of internal traumas, resentment, fading feelings, and more. There's no way to go back in time and figure out what went wrong, so forget about trying to change the past.
Reflection is essential, but dwelling on your spouse's actions worsens the feeling and leads you down a rabbit hole. If your marriage feels torn apart by an affair, there are ways to heal and even better ways to forgive your spouse for the pain they've caused. We believe that forgiveness is a process, so even if you don't feel ready yet to forgive your spouse, we offer advice on slowly climbing the stairway to reconciliation and ultimately making your marriage stronger than before.
In this episode, we cover:
-How to forgive a cheater
-Vengeance Vs. Justice
-The three steps to Decision-Based Forgiveness
-Expressing empathy
-Learning to move past the hurt
-The reconciliation process
-What to do if your spouse doesn't understand your pain
-Free resources to help you heal your marriage
An Affair can make or break your relationship. It takes two people to mend a marriage and a lot of effort to rebuild trust. If you desire to work things out with your partner and fall back in love again, the Marriage Helper team is here to support you.
Good people make bad decisions, and despite what our friends and family tell us, cheating isn't always black and white. We have worked with couples on the verge of divorce and ones who came back to each other after years of being apart. Our methods work, and we want to share our experiences with you. From our coaches to how-to articles, workshops, and more, we believe if anything works, this will.
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If you have divorced your spouse or want to file for divorce, watch this video today. Going through a divorce is hard, but it doesn’t have to be the end of your marriage. Couples separate mainly because one person no longer feels liked, loved, or respected in their relationship. We are here to help you figure out where your marriage went wrong and how you can win your spouse back. Divorce is common due to infidelity, losing interest, or lack of communication with your spouse. We offer insight into why you feel this way, the part you played in your marriage, and ways to minimize the actions that hurt your relationship.
In this episode, we discuss:
-Steps to Better Your Relationship
-Behaviors that lead to divorce
-How to avoid pushing your spouse further away from you
-Using consistency to win your spouse back
-Actions you should avoid to save your marriage
-How to become more attractive for your spouse and yourself
-Free resources to help you save your marriage
At Marriage Helper, we believe in the light at the end of the tunnel. If you feel like you’re in this alone. We got you. We have worked with thousands of couples just like you. Couples ready to divorce, those who fell out of love, and even teams left their spouses years ago. Hope is always there if you are prepared to accept it. We have the tools to help you succeed and find the happiness you deserve. From our coaches to how-to articles, workshops, and more, we believe if anything works, this will.
Should you walk away if your spouse cheated on you? We have the answers here for you in this video. We understand the hurt and frustration you’re feeling right now, and no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to forgive your spouse for hurting you. At Marriage Helper, we are pro-marriage and believe that long-term marriage is worth it, yet, everyone has their breaking points. Some circumstances call for one person to walk away from the marriage forever, and today we break down the key factors. This episode will help you decide when you should walk away if you’ve caught your spouse in an affair.
In this episode, we cover:
-Questions to ask yourself before making your decision
-Conditions where you should walk away from your marriage
-The 10,10,10 rule
-How to avoid making impulsive decisions
-Ways to boost your mental health
-Resources if you wish to save your marriage
When it comes to marriage, every situation is different. Some are more complex than others, but our experts will guide you .based on scientific-based principles and foundational research relating to all couples no matter the issue.
We are here to help you heal and find the happiness you deserve.
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The worst thing about losing your marriage is also losing yourself. Sometimes we've been married for so long that we lose a sense of identity and don't know who we are without our spouse. Today we interview Amanda, a member of our Marriage Helper Community that went through a six-year-long battle with her husband.
They were on the edge of divorce, they stopped communicating with each other, and over time things just went from bad to worse. Amanda tells us how she stopped focusing on her marriage and instead concentrated on herself. Through her self-reflective efforts to prioritize her happiness and figure herself out, she became a better person not only for her but for her husband, her children, and her future relationships with friends and family.
In the fight for your marriage, you are never alone. There are people just like you who want to stand for their marriage and fight for the one they love.
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Can You Repair A Marriage After Your Spouse Had An Affair?
The answer to this burning question is yes. You can repair a marriage after an affair for a lasting and even stronger relationship than when you were dating.
According to research at Marriage Helper, 2 out of 3 couples seek marriage counseling services due to their spouse having an affair, teetering on the edge of divorce, or their final attempt to salvage their relationship. If your spouse cheated on you with someone else, you might feel hurt, betrayed, untrusting, suspicious, and maybe even shocked that your marriage has led to this point. If you're asking yourself the question, can you repair a marriage after an affair? We have the answers. In today's article, we uncover reasons for an experience, understand what people or things might draw your spouse away from your marriage, and ways of understanding and rebuilding trust.
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How can you make your marriage better and stronger?
Research shows that 33% of married couples want to seek help for their relationship. However, Gottman's research shows that couples wait an average of six years after problems begin to occur in their marriage before they get help. One of the biggest reasons people want out of a relationship is that they feel disrespected. The way you communicate with your spouse, the tone, the facial expressions, and the volume demonstrates the respect you have.
Dr. Beam says if you're going to work on anything, work on communication in a way that the other person will most likely hear; that you do communicate respectfully, that you do love them, that you don't like them, and then it'll go a whole lot better if you can do that.
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It's a fact. Not every marriage is going to make it. However, we wish every marriage would because we are very pro-marriage.
In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes provide points about when it may be the right time to divorce and when it's not the right time. Divorce isn't a decision to take lightly. On the contrary, it's a weighty decision that you don't want to make when other people are persuading you, who are saying things to you like:
"You'd be better off alone."
" Why don't you just go on and divorce."
"It sounds like this can't ever work."
"I think you just need to go ahead and file the papers."
Those are people who are probably very well-meaning but should not and do not get to make that decision for you. It is your life. It is your decision, and you should be the one who makes it because you are the one who has to deal with the outcome. It is your decision. This episode will give you great insight and get you to think about some things before making a decision too rashly that you may end up regretting later.
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In this episode, Gemma from the Marriage Helper leadership team has a conversation with Stephen and he shares his brave testimonial about having multiple affairs and still wanting to save his marriage.
This testimonial is about betrayal, heartbreak, self-improvement, and hope. You'll hear Stephen's truth over the years, where he is at today, and the tools he has used to help move forward.
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How can you overcome the emotions of an affair?
You can't change emotions just by sheer willpower. Understand that time changes emotions. So the intensity of what you're feeling toward other people will evolve with time. So whatever you or your spouse are feeling towards somebody else right now will not be the same thing you feel three years from now. The actions you take and the behaviors you put into your life working with time will change how quickly your emotions evolve. So we hope that you take from this not that we're trying to discourage you but that we're trying to give you hope. The hope is not in control; the hope is in understanding human nature and that people continue to change.
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Let's talk about emotional affairs. Where do they come from? How do they happen? What stages does a person go through when they're having an emotional affair?
Typically, an emotional affair will begin with somebody who's not looking for one.
Understand that an emotional affair has to involve a deeper, emotional connection with another person. The only way we can develop a deep, emotional connection with another person that's reciprocal, between two people communicating with each other, but not just about mundane, ordinary things. Typically, an emotional affair will begin with somebody who's not looking for one. Any positive interaction you have with another person can be the beginning of an emotional affair because the first thing that happens after that vulnerability is that you start having interactions with each other to the point that they gradually begin to cross boundaries.
There are multiple stages to an emotional affair, so let's talk about them in today's episode.
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Do you know the difference between a physical affair and an emotional affair?
Typically people refer to an emotional affair with no physical interaction between the two people, or if some physical interaction; it's not regular sex.
In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam explains the differences between physical affairs, emotional affairs, and limerence. You'll learn what to do if you or your spouse have had an affair and what you can do to start repairing your marriage.
This is a three-part series so make sure you tune in each week as Dr. Joe talks about the stages of affairs.
If your marriage needs help, please visit marriagehelper.com for more information.
In this week's episode, Gemma from the Marriage Helper leadership team, interviews Shane, a recent workshop graduate.
Shane shares his story of fighting for his marriage by using Marriage Helper resources while his wife stood her ground on wanting a divorce. This is a beautiful story of Shane using the PIES of attraction to work on himself and his relationships.
Shane's growth and knowledge are inspiring, and he still hopes to reconcile with his wife and rebuild what they once had.
If your marriage needs help, or if any, what Shane has shared, resonates with you, please visit marriagehelper.com for more information.
Did you cheat on your spouse, get caught, and now you don't know what to do?
Your mistake doesn't have to last a lifetime and it doesn't have to define you. No matter how you feel right now, this isn't how you will feel forever.Consider all the years you've put into this marriage. Look at all that you have invested into it. Look at who you were before you committed this particular act of cheating and think, which person do I want to be? The person I was before, who was faithful to my spouse, or the person I was when I did that thing which was unfaithful to my spouse.
Your marriage can be saved. This doesn't have to be the end.
Start by being honest with yourself and your spouse.
Join us as we discuss what to do when you've been caught cheating.
We have a free mini-course we are offering to all our listeners of this podcast. It's called the How To Fall In Love Again mini-course. Another way that we have termed it is the How To Get Your Spouse Back mini-course.
https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-course
What do you do if your spouse says they don't love you anymore? We know it hurts, but it's not time to panic. We can teach you a way to bring love back to life. We call it the LovePath.
Over decades, we have worked with so many couples where that very statement was made and these couples are now very much in love.
Love can be built.
Love can also be rebuilt.
We know that when people follow this process, they can fall in love, and fall back in love even after a crisis.
Join us as we discuss what to do when you are in a loveless marriage with your spouse.
You're in marriage counseling with your spouse, but maybe it's not going exactly as you expected.
Maybe it seems to be making things worse instead of better.
I believe that there are great things that can come from marriage counseling. Still, the number one thing that people need to understand is that marriage and family therapists; licensed professional counselors, are humans.
You're not going to get the same experience from one counselor to the next. One person has a different goal for why they're in counseling, and that becomes an ethical issue for the counselor because the counselor has to decide who the client is. Is it you, your spouse, or the marriage?
Remember and realize that when you're looking at getting marriage counseling, it is great, number one, that you have decided to get help with something. There is no shame in that.
Number two, you can quit a therapist. You do not have to stay with them. Instead, you can find someone you feel is good at what they do that will approve and encourage your spouse and your marriage.
And, no matter what happens with counseling, if your spouse is going to a counselor, if counseling is or isn't working, you can continuously work on being the best that you can be.
If you’re married to a self centered spouse, you may be wondering if it’s possible for them to change.
Listen to this episode of Relationship Radio where CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, shares the answer society has been searching for: Can a narcissist change?
This video was created in response to our episode: “Married But In Love With Someone Else?”
Listeners commented on the first video wondering if Dr. Beam would have different views on marriage if his lover hadn’t left him and they ended up together.
In this Relationship Radio episode, Dr. Beam explains what really happened once his lover left, how his feelings changed, and how he changed. He went from idealizing the situation with his lover, to viewing it more realistically. Dr. Beam wants to encourage us to reach beyond feelings we have at the moment in order to make the right decision.
Is your marriage in trouble? We know how difficult it is: the pain, helplessness, and hurt all seem overwhelming.
We not only know this pain, we UNDERSTAND it. We've had the privilege of helping thousands figure a way past this marital mess (and to find a path to being in love with each other again!)
YES - even those who said they were not in love with their spouses any longer.
YES - even those who wanted OUT because they felt they were deeply in love with someone else.
In today’s Relationship Radio episode, Dr. Joe beam explains how you can be the person who doesn't give up on your spouse. How YOU can be a person that will FIGHT for your marriage, and we'll stand alongside you and help in every way we can.
Does your spouse say, “You aren’t fulfilling me sexually.” Or, “If you really loved me, you would want to make love with me.”
If so, you probably have a reason why you are refusing sex. Are you refusing sex because you aren’t interested in doing what they want to do sexually- or you aren’t interested in having it as often as they would like?
Whatever the reason may be, if you want to make love, that is your right. And, if you don’t want to make love, that is also your right.
However,If your spouse is truly, sexually unfulfilled, and you refuse to be a vital part of their sex life, this could be harmful to your marriage.
In this Quick Tips Relationship Radio episode, Dr. Joe Beam provides 3 suggestions for how to best approach the situation.
Choosing between lover or spouse – You have a decision to make.
It may be that somebody has told you that you’re really not in love with this other person; that it’s a fantasy, that it’s infatuation, or that it will go away.
You're trying to make a choice between whether to leave to be with your lover, or stay with your spouse. In other words, you’re married, but you’re thinking:
“Maybe I should end the marriage and go to be with this other person because I’ve never felt love like this.”
If you are in a situation where you're torn between a lover and your spouse, listen to this 20 minute episode where Dr. Joe Beam shares key things to consider when making this life changing decision.
There are some MAJOR misconceptions about what attraction is and why it matters.
Often, attraction is seen as a physical connection or draw to someone...but it’s actually so much more than that. With the thousands of couples we’ve worked with, our principle about attraction helped them transform themselves AND their marriage.
What is the principle? We have to first start at the beginning- the process of falling in love.
Once you fall in love, continuing in this process leads you to fall deeper in love. However, if you do not continue the process, you can fall out of love. (And, it all starts with attraction.)
What is attraction? We know it as the “PIES.” The four pieces of attraction are physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual.
In this Quick Tips Relationship Radio episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes, shares how to attract your spouse back using these 4 key principles.
So you’ve heard of this word called “limerence.” (It sounds like some kind of disease, doesn’t it!) Maybe somebody told you, “You’re not in love. What you’re feeling is limerence.” And you’re thinking… “What’s the difference between love and limerence?”
I'm here to help. In this Quick Tips episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam, explains the difference between love and limerence. Plus, he'll show you how limerence is this amazing sensation some people feel, but it’s a kind of love that won’t turn out like you expect it to…
It is one of the most painful things you can experience.
You probably think, “What happened to love...to trust?” You may feel anger, even rage. You may be questioning who you thought you married. You may even question yourself.
Every day at Marriage Helper, we work with people in these EXACT situations. (And we’ve been doing so for over 20 years.) We understand that people may not want to get back together with their spouse.
But since you have decided to listen to this episode, we ask, is there something inside you that – even in your hurt or anger – wants to know if there is a way to put your marriage back together?
…or are you wanting to know if it even makes sense to try to do so?
In today’s Quick Tips Relationship Radio episode, Dr. Joe Beam presents crucial points to consider when you’re trying to decide if you want to save your marriage.
You probably never meant for it to happen. It’s not as if you went looking for a lover. However, once you fell in love with someone else other than your spouse, things got rather intense.
It may be difficult for you to know exactly how you got into this situation.
But no matter how you got here, there are 4 options you have moving forward.
Listen to this Quick Tips episode by Dr. Joe Beam to learn what to do if you're married but in love with someone else.
When you and your spouse are separated, it's hard to know what to do, what to say, how to act, and when to act.
Don't worry, though! We are going to give you 5 key things to do when you are in a marriage separation that will help you starting NOW.
Tune into this 14 minute Quick Tips Relationship Radio episode to learn how to save your marriage while separated.
Has your spouse had an affair and you want to get back at them?
Can we be frank with you?
You can’t “get back” at your spouse for having an affair… Whatever you may try to “get back” at them, it can never really satisfy your hurt and pain. Revenge doesn’t work and it can make things much WORSE.
So what CAN you do? Is there anything that actually works? YES.
Listen to this Quick Tips episode of Relationship Radio to find out what works better than revenge.
This well-known saying is used a lot in reference to relationships, but is it actually true or helpful in any way?
In this Quick Tips Relationship Radio episode, Dr. Joe Beam explains why this saying does NOT reflect true love, and what you should do to save the marriage if you truly love your spouse.
The first season of Relationship Radio has come to an end. In this episode, we share highlights from our most popular episodes including lessons about limerence, reconciliation, sexless marriages, how to save a failing marriage, and more.
Learn research based principles that you can implement immediately to start growing or saving your marriage. What we teach will not only make your relationships better but will also help you become the best version of yourself along the way
If you hear something in these episodes that sparks an interest, check out our full length episodes from this season.
We can't wait to continue sharing more relationship content with you in the next season of Relationship Radio.
Links:
- Get our FREE Mini Course “How To Get Your Spouse Back”
- Schedule a FREE Call with one of our Team Members
- Learn more about our Save My Marriage Course
- Learn more about our Reconciliation Toolkit
- Learn more about our Marriage Saving Workshops
- Visit our Website
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- Become The Best Version Of Yourself
Is your spouse madly in love with someone else?If so,you may be asking yourself, "Does this mean my marriage is over?"
The short answer is: No!
In the last 25 years, we've worked with thousands of couples who have a spouse in "limerence."
Through years of research and experience, we know that limerence is considered to be a kind of love, but we know that it has a shelf-life.
In this 42 minute episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes share everything you need to know about limerence including how it starts, how it ends, and what to do in the meantime.
Mentions:
- Read free articles and watch free videos here
- Learn more about the Marriage Helper Couples Workshop here
- Find out more information about our Solo Spouse Workshop here
- Ask us your questions about marriage
- Learn how one spouse can save the marriage with our Save My Marriage Course
In this episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam talks to a couple who have overcome a controlling relationship and build a stronger marriage than ever before.
At some point, you learn that no marriage is ever perfect. Vanessa believed that marriage would be like a fairy tale, and when she and Ryan got married, it would be happily ever after and all their problems would vanish.
In his teens, Ryan struggled with his "raging male hormones" and pornography addiction. He thought marriage would be a sexual buffet and that he would be in control of his home.
Listen to how they found Marriage Helper in a moment of desperation and how they survived the controlling relationship that was dooming them both to a future neither wanted.Mentions:
- Schedule a call with a Client Representative here
- Submit your marriage question here!
- Watch our free videos on YouTube here
- Read free marriage articles on our website
- Request to join our Save My Marriage Facebook Community Group
- Learn more about our Save My Marriage Course
- Get more information about our Turnaround Workshops here
- It Starts With Attraction Podcast
If your spouse has left you and you’ve been working on becoming the best version of yourself, you may wonder, “What can I do to show my spouse that I have changed?”
“How do I get them to see I’ve changed and come back home?”
You want to change the trajectory of where your marriage is headed and bring your spouse back.
But here’s the thing: Marriage difficulties typically do not occur overnight. And saving your marriage doesn’t either.
If you want to solve your marriage issues, you must remember two key words: CONSISTENCY and TIME.
**Tune into this episode of Relationship Radio where Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes share three key tips to drawing your spouse back and rebuilding love in your relationship.
Mentions:**
- Marriage Helper Coaching
- Ask Us Your Marriage Questions Here
Has your spouse had an affair? Do you feel like all hope for saving your marriage is lost?
Jordan also felt like his marriage was over after he found out his wife, Priscilla, was having an affair.
After years of sweeping marriage problems under the rug, Jordan and Priscilla found themselves at a point of crisis.
Listen to this episode to learn how Jordan and Priscilla were able to overcome a limerent affair and achieve a marriage stronger than ever before.No matter what has happened in your marriage, there is hope. There is a way forward. We will show you how.
Mentions:
- Learn more about our Online Couples Workshop here: https://marriagehelper.com/couples-workshop/
- Access our PIES course & SMART Contact Toolkit here: https://marriagehelper.com/product/smart-contact-toolkit-product/
- You can also find out more about PIES in "It Start with Attraction Podcast": https://piesuniversity.com/piescast/
Do you feel sexually rejected by your spouse?Maybe you've been feeling unhappy with your sex life for a long-period of time, or maybe you've just started feeling rejected...
Your spouse seems uninterested in having sex and you don't know why.
Here's the thing... Men and women are different when it comes to sex. But THIS is true for both spouses:
**Everything that happens outside the bedroom affects what happens inside the bedroom.
And everything that happens inside the bedroom affects what happens outside the bedroom.**
Even if your sex life isn't where you want it to be right now, the spark in your marriage CAN be re-lit.
In this episode of Relationship Radio, marriage experts Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes share how to achieve marital satisfaction through sexual satisfaction.
Links Mentioned:
- The Spark Course
- Couples Workshop
- Save My Marriage Course
Are you feeling stuck in your marriage? Do you feel like you cannot overcome the struggles that started the day you said "I Do"?
In today's episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam interviews Karson and Ashley, a couple who overcame years of communication obstacles as well as an affair. If you're feeling like there is no hope for your marriage, listen to this testimony from a couple who experienced marriage troubles first-hand.
Marriage CAN be brought back to life after years of hopelessness. Tune into this episode to learn how.
Mentions:
- Learn more about our Save My Marriage Course here: https://marriagehelper.com/product/save-my-marriage/
- Find our PIES Bootcamp here: https://marriagehelper.com/product/pies-bootcamp/
- "Three Prayers About Love That God Won't Answer" Podcast Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/relationship-radio-marriage-sex-limerence-avoiding/id978519992?i=1000376905577
- Request to join our Save My Marriage Community Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/783603618395431
- Find more information about our Marriage Helper Workshop here: https://marriagehelper.com/couples-workshop/
- Subscribe to our YouTube Channel here: http://youtube.com/marriagehelper
- Learn more about Marriage Helper Coaching here: https://marriagehelper.com/coaching/
Are you struggling to trust your spouse after they were unfaithful to you?
They broke your trust by having an affair, but they want to make your marriage work now.
They are telling you that they've changed, but you're worried they might hurt you all over again.
You may be asking yourself...
"Is it possible to ever trust my spouse again?"
"How can I make sure they don't hurt me this time?"
The good news is... Trust CAN be rebuilt.
It's not easy. But it IS possible. There is a path and a way to move forward.
- AND it is worth it.
Listen to this 1 hour episode of Relationship Radio where Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes share specific steps for how to rebuild trust after an affair.
Links Mentioned:
- Submit Your Marriage Question Here
- Schedule a Call With a Client Representative
- Marriage Helper's YouTube Channel
- PIES University: It Starts With Attraction
- The Art of Falling In Love Book
- Free Mini Course
- XXX Church
- Sex Help
- Sexaholics Anonymous
- Samson Society & Samson and the Pirate Monks Book
Sometimes you may wonder, "What's the story of real people that you guys at Marriage Helper help?" We've given countless illustrations of marriages saved, but in this episode, you can hear from a couple first-hand about how they were able to save their marriage.
In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam interviews Ren & Adelé, a couple whose marriage was impacted by multiple affairs as well as addictions.
Listen to this episode for an incredible testimony of reconciliation and redemption filled with lessons of communication, forgiveness, hope, and more.
Mentions:
- Access our SMART Contact and PIES courses here: https://marriagehelper.com/product/smart-contact-toolkit-product/
- You can also find out more about PIES in "It Start with Attraction Podcast": https://piesuniversity.com/piescast/
- Learn more about our Online Couples Workshop here: https://marriagehelper.com/couples-workshop/
- Find our question topic of the week and submit your question here: https://marriagehelper.com/ask-your-marriage-questions/
- “Can One Spouse Save a Marriage” Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KSUw6JP3tf4&t=38s
You want to save your marriage, but your spouse has made it clear that he/she wants out.
Maybe they’ve already filed for divorce.
Maybe you are separated and living in separate places.
Maybe they’re still living with you but are saying they’re done.
But you want the marriage to work. So what do you do?
You may be asking yourself…
“Is it even possible to save a marriage when my spouse wants out?”
“Can a failing marriage be saved? If so, how?”
“Can it be saved even if there’s been an affair?”
On this episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes talk about how to save a marriage in turmoil.
Even if your spouse has already made up their mind about wanting to separate, there IS hope. One spouse CAN save the marriage. We will show you how in today’s episode of Relationship Radio.
Links Mentioned:
- Save My Marriage Course
- Intervention Tools
- PIES University: It Starts With Attraction
- "What Is Love?" Episode
- Free Mini Course
We hear from people who say things like, "My spouse is involved with another person, but also seems interested in me. Is this something other people face?"
The answer is... Absolutely. As a matter of fact, we have a name for it. We call it "The Valley."
Your spouse is having a good relationship with the affair partner as well as with the spouse that is being abandoned. This double life has pros and cons.
The pro can be that he or she is spending time with you, and if it appears to be working well. As long as you can tolerate this, it may well be to your advantage. It can with time bring him home.
The con is that he is still with the other woman or man, and that relationship may be going well also. If so, he won’t feel any need to change anything.
If your spouse is in The Valley, you may be feeling confused.
Your spouse is doing things that lead you to believe your marriage is going to end. Yet, at the same time, they may be showing signs they don't want to let go of you.
The Valley is about your spouse being in-between two things and not having to make a choice right now. People may say they are getting the best of both worlds.
You may be asking yourself, "Should I allow my spouse to be in the valley?" Or, "Should I set a boundary for myself and force my spouse to make a choice?"
If you want your spouse to finally make a choice, ultimatums typically do NOT yield the results people are hoping for.
Instead, we will share with you practical steps to bring you the sense of peace you are searching for.
If you are ready to learn what TO DO and what NOT TO DO when your spouse is in The Valley, listen to this 50 minute episode where Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes share what has worked best in the thousands of marriages that have been saved.
Links Mentioned:
- Should I Have Sex With My Husband During His Affair Video
- Free How To Get Your Spouse Back Mini Course
All the time people come to us saying, "We tried to reconcile, but it's just impossible. We got back together thinking we can do it, then it didn't work.”You know why? Because they didn't know how.
Think about it like this… Imagine you want to replace the spark plugs in your car. You can have every intention of doing it. But if you don’t know how or where the spark plugs even are... You’re gonna fail.
People are blindsided because they think they’re reconciling when they're not. So how can you know if you’re actually reconciling or not? Or how to make it happen?
These people struggled but figured it out with our help:
“We had been to three different marriage counselors in the first 10 years of our marriage. We got like one decent takeaway. There was just so much pain, so much hurt. It just seemed impossible.”
“We're sitting here seven years later, and it is a daily impact on our marriage, on our children, regardless of how lost, how broken, how hopeless you believe the circumstances. If you're just willing to invest a little bit of time, it's incredible the long-lasting impact that it can have.”
“At the end of the day, he chose not to even show me the divorce papers. He took them with him and he chose to continue talking. So for the first time, in a long time, I face the future of our marriage with hope.”
Do you want to know how to have a complete breakthrough right away? No years of counseling necessary. In fact, bringing up the past is the worst way to fix a marriage.
Instead, there’s a MUCH better way to reconcile… Even when it seems impossible, and like your marriage is still falling apart despite your best efforts.
If you want to know how, listen to this 41 minute podcast where Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes share how to get back the marriage you first had when you said “I do."
If you are looking to fall in love, grow in love, or fall in love again with your spouse, then this is the podcast for you.
This is Relationship Radio. It is an interactive podcast where relationship expert, Dr. Joe Beam, and Kimberly Holmes, will answer your questions about how to make your marriage even better.
No matter what stage of life your marriage is in, this is the show for you.
Every week, we take callers' questions and answer those questions with real, actionable tips that you can take away and begin to implement in your own life.
Be sure to subscribe to be updated every week when a brand new show drops. Also, leave a review because we love to hear from you!
If you think your spouse is cheating, but you're not sure, this podcast is for you. You may be thinking, "Is there any way to determine if my spouse is cheating on me?" In this episode, Dr. Beam shares 5 things to consider when assessing whether or not your spouse is cheating.
*Dr. Joe Beam will be taking a temporary break from the live call show as he and the MH team are working on some new (and exciting!) endeavors.
If you are married to someone who has fallen “madly in love” with another, this program is for you. If you wish to save your marriage but think it impossible because your husband or wife is in limerence with another, Dr. Beam’s explanations of limerence, especially understanding the three phases, can guide you in the process of saving your marriage. As he says, “If anything works, this will work.” In today's podcast, we will be talking about the final stage of limerence: Deterioration.
*Dr. Joe Beam will be taking a temporary break from the live call show as he and the MH team are working on some new (and exciting!) endeavors.
In today's podcast, we are going to be talking about the second phase of limerence. If you are madly in love with someone else or your spouse is madly in love with someone else, tune into this podcast. Dr. Joe Beam is going to help you understand limerence to a deep degree.
*Dr. Joe Beam will be taking a temporary break from the live call show as he and the MH team are working on some new (and exciting!) endeavors.
Have you found out that your spouse is madly in love with someone else? You may be wondering, "Why?!" In today's podcast, learn all about the first stage of limerence: Infatuation. If you want to know why limerence occurs, how long it lasts, and how to identify it, tune into this episode.
You accept responsibility for what you did. You're sorry that you hurt your spouse. You want to put things back together. Not just like it was before but better.
The hurt you see in their eyes hurts you. At times their pain explodes in anger. Sometimes toward you; sometimes toward other things.
You asked your spouse to forgive you. You told them how sorry you are that it happened. Yet your mate isn't reacting as you had hoped. Maybe they said that they can't forgive what you did. Maybe they haven't made a decision but their actions lead you to believe that when they do it isn't going to be good.
Is there something you can do? Are there magic words? Actions? Will you have to live like this for years to come? Or are you already thinking that if they can't forgive, you can't stay because the pain you feel is too great? You don't want to live with a person in perpetual misery. Or everlasting anger. You accept that there are consequences to what you did but you don't feel that you can stay in the marriage only to be punished day after day.
If you want your spouse to forgive you and move past where you are now, in this program Dr. Joe Beam explains what to do and what NOT to do. Dr. Beam also takes live calls about other relationship issues or advice you wish to ask about.
This program begins at 12:30 p.m. Central Time on Monday, August 3, here on BlogTalkRadio. You can also find it live (as well as recorded previous programs and hundreds more marriage and relationship videos) at YouTube.com/MarriageHelper. Call the program live at 657-383-0812. When you hear an answer, press 1 to be put in the queue to speak with Dr. Beam.
Be sure to check out more videos, audios, articles, and other resources for relationships at www.MarriageHelper.com.
Your spouse left you for another person.
But now the affair partner is gone. You thought that they were the problem. You expected your spouse to try to make amends with you. To come back sorry for what they had done.
Instead, your mate has indicated little to no interest in restoring a relationship with you or trying to rescue your marriage.
Why?
Is it you? Are you so unlovely and unlovable that they have no desire to be with you ever again?
Is it your mate? Have they become so selfish or hardened toward you that they won't ever care about you again?
It's quite a blow to your self-esteem. The hope you had for reconciliation is fading quickly into cynical resignation that what was will never be again.
Is there hope? Can someone explain what's happening? Give you direction for maybe making it work?
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains why spouses don't come back right away. He gives you an understanding of what's happening and how to use that knowledge to your advantage. He gives you the pathway to overcome the problem and eventually rebuild the marriage.
Dr. Beam also takes live calls about other relationship issues or advice you wish to ask about.
This program begins at 12:30 p.m. Central Time on Monday, July 27 here on BlogTalkRadio. You can also find it live (as well as recorded previous programs and hundreds more marriage and relationship videos) at YouTube.com/MarriageHelper. Call the program live at 657-383-0812. When you hear an answer, press 1 to be put in the queue to speak with Dr. Beam.
Be sure to check out more videos, audios, articles, and other resources for relationships at www.MarriageHelper.com.
Your spouse cheated on you.
Now they're back. Say they want to make the marriage work.
You want to get beyond the pain, to have a better marriage than it was before. At times you think you're well on your way. Sometimes you think you'll never heal.
Although you're trying to get past it and make your marriage good again, you hurt. Some days more than others. You find yourself reliving the lies, the devastating sense of loss, the violation of your trust.
What do you do?
End it and go your own way? Swallow the pain and do the best you can? Or find a way to heal your relationship and your heart.
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains a pathway to healing from the deep hurt caused by your spouse's infidelity and deception. It takes time but you can find peace during the progress. If you don't progress, you'll live in pain much longer. That pain may lead to some very poor decisions or actions.
Dr. Beam also takes live calls about dealing with healing from the pain your spouse's actions caused you, as well as other relationship issues or advice you wish to ask about.
This program begins at 12:30 p.m. Central Time on Monday, July 20 here on BlogTalkRadio. You can also find it live (as well as recorded previous programs and hundreds more marriage and relationship videos) at YouTube.com/MarriageHelper. Call the program live at 657-383-0812. When you hear an answer, press 1 to be put in the queue to speak with Dr. Beam.
Be sure to check out more videos, audios, articles, and other resources for relationships at www.MarriageHelper.com.
Having in-law problems?
Some in-laws are awesome. Loved. Respected. Helpful.
Some are not. WAY not!
Difficult in-laws can cause major trouble. They can be very critical, demeaning you if you say or do anything they don't like. Not just to you but to others about you including your spouse and your children. They can influence your spouse's other relatives against you. They may even try to convince your spouse to divorce you. In short, they can make your life miserable.
If you have in-laws like that, what do you do? Grin and bear it? Complain bitterly to your spouse? Fight back? Move to a different country?
It's time to stop living in misery because of problem relatives. In this live call-in program, Dr. Joe Beam gives practical advice about how to deal with terrible in-laws, explaining what TO DO and what NOT to do.
Dr. Beam also takes live calls about dealing with in-laws as well as other relationship issues or advice you wish to ask about.
This program begins at 12:30 p.m. Central Time on Monday, July 13 here on BlogTalkRadio. You can also find it live (as well as recorded previous programs and hundreds more marriage and relationship videos) at YouTube.com/MarriageHelper. Call the program live at 657-383-0812. When you hear an answer, press 1 to be put in the queue to speak with Dr. Beam.
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Marriage in trouble? Love your spouse? Looking for solutions to save your marriage?
If so, do NOT do the wrong thing that so many people do. The very things they do to salvage the relationship become the very things that help destroy it.
In this live call-in program, Relationship Radio host Dr. Joe Beam explains which efforts to rescue your marriage work and, more importantly, which ones DON'T work. Our organization hears these words regularly, "I knew what I was doing was pushing my spouse away, but didn't understand why or how."
In his work with couples in crisis over the last 26 years, Dr. Beam has guided thousands to understand why focusing on saving their marriage was the wrong thing to do and what they should be doing instead. In this program, he spends the first section explaining what you shouldn't do and what to do instead if you desire restoring your marriage and having a loving home again. Then, he takes live callers for the remainder of the program to answer your questions about your marriage.
This program begins at 12:30 p.m. Central Time on Monday, July 6 here on BlogTalkRadio. You can also find it live (as well as recorded previous programs and hundreds more marriage and relationship videos) at YouTube.com/MarriageHelper. Call the program live at 657-383-0812. When you hear an answer, press 1 to be put in the queue to speak with Dr. Beam.
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When you are going through the middle of a marriage struggle, it can be hard to believe that there is any hope for your marriage.
You are wondering:
"Is there really any hope for my situation?"
"What if I do all of this work, and it still doesn't work?"
"Can my marriage actually be saved?"
At Marriage Helper, we believe that there IS hope. We have seen thousands of marriages saved and worked with every situation that you can imagine.
And on Monday, we want to highlight those stories.
We want to highlight stories of hope in our show today. Stories of reconciliation, redemption, and recovery.
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In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes talk about how depression can affect your relationship.
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Do you want to know what love is?
Or are you happy experiencing whatever comes your way? If so, prepare for disappointment.
The basis for love beyond the ordinary isn't in finding the right person. Nor is it a technique, formula, or secret hidden from all but the initiated.
Exquisite, extraordinary love begins in the most logical place...the only place...that deeply satisfying love can begin.
If you hear only the short explanation, you'll miss the power and dismiss it as unimportant. If you listen carefully, probe deeply, and learn wisely, you will unlock the deepest love within you. Love for yourself. For the person worthy of sharing your life. For life itself and anyone in it important to you.
Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes, M.A., discuss this extraordinary and exquisite love that you can have in their special LIVE program Monday, January 6, beginning at 12:30 p.m. Central Time. Call (657) 383 - 0812 and press "1" if you want to ask us a question about our topic.
Can One Spouse Save a Marriage?
It seems impossible...especially if you are in the middle of it.
You want to make your marriage work, but your spouse wants out.
Is it even worth trying? Should you give up and move on? Is it true that if you love someone, you should let them go?
Even though it is hard, you can save your marriage...
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Even if your spouse wants out
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Even if your spouse is gone
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Even if your spouse is disengaged
But there is the RIGHT way to save your marriage when your spouse wants out...
...and there is the WRONG way.
Today, we are going to talk about the right things that you should focus on in to save your marriage...even if right now, you're the only one wanting to make it work.
Additionally, we have a BIG ANNOUNCEMENT on today's show... so tune in to learn what it is!
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When you are going through the middle of a marriage struggle, it can be hard to believe that there is any hope for your marriage.
You are wondering:
"Is there really any hope for my situation?"
"What if I do all of this work, and it still doesn't work?"
"Can my marriage actually be saved?"
At Marriage Helper, we believe that there IS hope. We have seen thousands of marriages saved and worked with every situation that you can imagine.
And today, we want to highlight those stories.
We want to highlight stories of hope in our show today. Stories of reconciliation, redpemption, and recovery. Afterwards, we will take live calls to answer your specific questions. It airs live on BlogTalkRadio, and on at www.YouTube.com/MarriageHelper on Monday, December 16, from 12:30 p.m. to 1:30 p.m. Central Time. You can watch or listen later to the recorded version, of course.
To ask Dr. Beam your question, call 657-383-0812 during the live show. When you hear the answer, press the number 1 on your phone to get into the queue.
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Some misguided people claim that the best tactic for rescuing a lost relationship is to practice NO contact.
We strongly disagree.
No contact is a manipulative method. IF you were somehow to get your ex back by manipulation, how would you keep them in the relationship? More manipulation?
The much better method is what we call SMART contact.
SMART contact does NOT badger the other person with communication they don't want. NOR does it play the game of NO contact in hopes that somehow that will trigger their missing you. After all, if they want away from you, wouldn't NO contact be exactly what they want. Why, then, would it be the strategy for trying to restore the relationship?
SMART contact is just that -- SMART!
You may find yourself feeling a strong desire to continually contact your ex during this holiday season. NO contact makes that desire overwhelming. SMART contact guides you to know when and how to contact.
In this program, Dr. Beam explains three quick principles of SMART contact that you can use immediately. Then he takes live calls to answer your specific questions. It airs live on BlogTalkRadio, and on at www.YouTube.com/MarriageHelper on Monday, December 16, from 12:30 p.m. to 1:30 p.m. Central Time. You can watch or listen later to the recorded version, of course.
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You've heard it phrased in various ways. "If you love someone, let them go. If they come back to you, they are yours forever. If they don't come back, they never were yours."
What a ridiculous idea!
Maybe it originated with someone trying to help a friend feel better after her lover left her. Or perhaps it started with some guy trying to find a way to feel that it wasn't his fault that his relationship ended.
It's wrong. No matter where it began or who says it.
We've worked with thousands of couples where one wanted away from the other, denied loving their spouse (or used the "I love you but I'm not in love with you" bomb), or even were convinced that they love someone else. Even when it appeared all hope was gone, we've witnessed the majority of these couples who asked us to help turn things around be in love with each other again.
Of course, no one seeks help if they follow that dumb idea of "let them go so that maybe they'll come back." Think like that and it IS over.
In this program, Dr. Beam takes the first few minutes to explain WHY you should stand for your marriage rather than passively allowing it to end. He also explains WHAT to do that has the best likelihood of rescuing your lost love. For the remainder of the program, he answers questions from those who call in during the live show. It airs live on BlogTalkRadio, and on at www.YouTube.com/MarriageHelper on Monday, December 9, from 12:30 p.m. to 1:30 p.m. Central Time. You can watch or listen later to the recorded version, of course.
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On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes speak with callers about the following questions:
"Should I keep the gifts from his affair partner?""How can I show him I'm changing while separated?""How can I rebuild our relationship after lying for 4 years?""How do I know if there's a chance for reconciliation?""Should I keep pushing her to get help?"
Men are NOT from Mars nor women from Venus.
It's not planets that keep them from deeply connecting; it's the way they misread each other.
Ever wonder why your wife is so sensitive while she's wondering why you're so dense?
The answer lies in what psychologists call emotional intelligence. We call it a relationship survival.
If you're ready to WOW her, we can tell you how.
In this program, Dr. Beam gives you three simple steps that can immediately bring you and your wife closer together. You'll understand her and she'll love you for it.
This episode of Marriage Helper Live airs live from 12:30 p.m. to 1:30 p.m. (central) on Monday, November 18, 2019.
If you wish to speak to Dr. Beam about your situation, call 657-383-0812 during the program. Watch live or at later convenience at www.YouTube.com/MarriageHelper. Go there now to subscribe so that you will know when each episode airs, as well as gaining access to many videos about marriage relationships.
You’re in an affair. Part of you wants to continue. Another part of you feels that you should end it.
You tried to end it before, but it wasn’t long until you were back in it again. Either your affair partner knew how to pull you back…or the emotions you feel while with that partner compelled you to return.
If you want to end the affair…or if you’re wavering about whether you should…Dr. Joe Beam explains three things to do to end the affair. These three actions work even if you feel that you’re madly in love with your affair partner. Join us for the program to discover what they are and how to use them well. If you can’t watch the program live, see the link below to watch the program later.
This episode of Marriage Helper Live airs live from 12:30 p.m. to 1:30 p.m. (central) on Monday, November 11, 2019.
If you wish to speak to Dr. Beam about your situation, call 657-383-0812 during the program. Watch live or at later convenience at www.YouTube.com/MarriageHelper. Go there now to subscribe so that you will know when each episode airs, as well as gaining access to many videos about marriage relationships.
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes speak with callers about the following questions:
"Husband conflicted about his 10 year affair and our marriage?""Family having a hard time interacting after husband's affair.""How can I help hold my friend accountable to stop affair?""How can I win back my husband through long-distance?""How do I get out of my affair?"
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:
"My husband denies an affair. Should he have to admit it?""My husband left to be with 22 year old affair partner. What now?""How do I keep myself from being hurt again emotionally?""Should I keep havign sex with him during his affair?""Husband said he's only around for the kids. What do I do?""Why should I leave my affair partner?"
Maybe you’re having an affair because you’re madly in love with the Affair Partner. Or maybe it’s because you’re getting some sexual or emotional need filled that you weren’t getting in your marriage or other relationship.
Yet, you clicked on this title – Three Reasons to End an Affair – for a reason. A part of you, even if it’s only a small part of you, wonders or worries whether you should end it. Go back to your marriage, or perhaps allow your lover to go back to his or her marriage.
If you ask your friends, their advice is biased by their own experiences – good or bad – and their love for you. That’s why you don’t completely trust what they think.
Would you like a professional, unbiased viewpoint?
In this episode of Marriage Helper Live, Dr. Joe Beam explains three things to consider before you decide either to continue or to end your affair. It’s your decision, not anyone else’s. If you want to make it with both eyes open to the things you need to know, join Dr. Beam live from 12:30 p.m. to 1:30 p.m. (central) on Monday, November 4, 2019. If you can’t join live, the link below will lead you to it at your later convenience.
if you wish to speak to Dr. Beam about your situation, call 657-383-0812 during the program. Watch it live at www.YouTube.com/MarriageHelper or watch it later at that same address. Go there now to subscribe so that you will know when each episode airs, as well as gaining access to many videos about marriage relationships.
You’ve never felt this way before. Anger, pain, fear, doubt, and helplessness are holding you hostage.
Your spouse broke your trust.
Is forgiveness possible? Can the marriage be rebuilt?
You want to work towards reconciling your relationship but have no idea where to start. Can trust be repaired once it’s been destroyed?
In this episode of Marriage Helper Live, Dr. Joe Beam explains how spouses can learn to trust again and three crucial principles that can open the door to healing.
This program airs live from 12:30 p.m. to 1:30 p.m. (central) on Monday, October 28, 2019.
if you wish to speak to Dr. Beam about your situation, call 657-383-0812 during the program or watch live at https://www.facebook.com/MarriageHelper/.
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes speak with callers about the following questions:
"My wife is going through a mid-life crisis. What can I do?""He keeps talking with her even though he says it's over!?""He's watched for 11 years. How can I build back trust?""Our open marriage turned affair. How do we reconcile?""Do I set an ultimatum when he's in limbo with his affair?""How do I make her feel loved while using SMART Contact?"
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes speak with callers about the following questions:
"How do I trust my husband again after his affair?""Should I drag out the divorce or try to attend the workshop?""Do I allow her to come home for the kids?""How do I know if the affair will last?""I had multiple affairs. Is there any hope for our marriage?""He told me to move on. I did. Now he wants me back?"
You fear that you will end up alone...without ever truly understanding what went wrong.
Your mate's infidelity takes an unbearable toll on your heart.
How did it start? Does it end?
You want to understand what’s happening and how your marriage can survive this affair.
In this episode of Marriage Helper Live, Dr. Joe Beam explains why spouses cheat. He also shares the one essential thing you must do if you wish to save your marriage.
This program airs live from 12:30 p.m. to 1:30 p.m. (central) on Monday, October 21, 2019.
if you wish to speak to Dr. Beam about your situation, call 657-383-0812 during the program or watch live https://www.facebook.com/MarriageHelper/.
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes speak with callers about the following questions:
"Why did my husband close his eyes when he saw me naked?""Could conseling during his affair make things worse for us?""Am I wasting my time now that we're divorced?""Should I still be intimate with my husband during affair?""Is it a good idea for my wife to move out?""How do I show my husband I will trust him again?""How can I prevent myself from cheating on my husband?"
Sometimes you think you've lost your mind. Other times you know in your heart that it's true. The one you love is abandoning you. Slowly, yet surely, leaving you for someone else.
Are you insane in thinking this? Or are your fears evolving into a horrible reality?
How can you tell? How can you know for sure?
Part of you doesn't want to know because when you do you may have to face a reality that you don't want. But part of you has to know...to end this torture.
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam gives you five questions to find the truth. He also shares what you can do if your spouse is cheating. Dr. Beam also takes your questions. To speak with him directly about your situation, call 657-383-0812 during the program.
This program airs live from 12:30 p.m. to 1:30 p.m. (Central) on Monday, October 14, 2019.
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On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:
"Am I devaluing myself while he continues to talk to her?""My wife had an emotional affair and moved out. What now?""How do you stop infidelity when you've done all you can?""We only have contact once per week. What do we talk about?""My daughters refuse to speak to father. How do I handle it?"
Your spouse loves someone else.
Why?
Is it that they no longer love you? Has the other person somehow lured them away? Why does your spouse want them?
The answer may surprise you.
Do you want to understand why this happened to you...what your spouse is going through...why they've changed so much?
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam answers these questions and explains how you can have hope to rescue your marriage even if it appears there is no hope.
After explaining infidelity, Dr. Beam takes your questions. To speak with him directly about your situation, call 657-383-0812 during the program.
This program airs live from 12:30 p.m. to 1:30 p.m. (Central) on Monday, September 30, 2019.
Watch live at YouTube.com/MarriageHelper.
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes speak with callers about the following questions:
"How do I know what he says is what he means?""How do I move deeper into our relationship?""She filed for divorce during reconciliation. What now?""My husband wants to move in with affair partner. What now?""Is separation a good option?""Could working on my PIES push my husband to affair partner?"
On today's live show, Kimberly Holmes and Jim Porteau speak with callers about the following questions:
"How can I be a safe place without pushing?""Is my wife still in limerence?""If I don't say anything, does it make me a doormat?""My wife wants to move out all of the sudden. What do I do?""How do I place boundaries when it comes to finances?""My counselor said to end the marriage. What do I do?"
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:
“How do I make my marriage work when husband wants divorce?”“Should we keep having sex while he’s in an affair?”“How does a career change affect working on my PIES?”“Husband won’t make changes that I requested. What do I do?”“How do I leave a 15 year-long love affair?”
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes speak with callers about the following questions:
“What do I do if she says it’s too late to save the marriage?”“Husband’s affair partner is moving to be near us. What do I do?”“How do I maintain healthy communication with my spouse?”“Husband can’t get over his affair partner. What can I do?”“Is asking my wife to go to counseling a PUSH behavior?
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes speak with callers about the following questions:
“Is a letter a good idea to bring reconciliation?”“How can I try to save my long-distance marriage?”“My wife is having an affair with another woman. What do I do?”“Should I request a CORE/STOP for my husband to communicate?”“How do I respond when my husband says sex is just physical?”“Husband wants polygamous marriage. How do I leave?”
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes speak with callers about the following questions:
“Is SMART Contact & PIES working for me in my marriage?”“When do I ask about reconciling with my wife?”“To reconcile, should I force my wife to end her affair?”“I’ve cheated on my husband several times. Can it be saved?”“My wife wants counseling but no intentions to reconcile?”
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes speak with callers about the following questions:
“My wife is angry because I requested child support. How can I respond in the best way?""Can my spouse revert to a previous stage of limerence?""My husband lost his job, became depressed, and got in an emotional affair. What can I do while my husband is 'figuring it out'?""My husband won't speak to me. How can I create conversations with him in a productive way without pushing?""Is my marriage worth saving?""Do positive changes in my behavior push him away even more?""How do I tell my cheating husband how I feel?"
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:
“What do I do when my husband doesn't know what he wants?""What can I do to win my wife back? Is NO contact good?""Should I let my wife go or fight to save her?""What do I do when my wife is emotionally 'gone'? What can I do to let her know I'm here for her?""Is it a good idea for us to be romantic during her affair?""I've done all the wrong things. What do I do now?""We tried to reconcile, but he keeps going back to her.""How do I get my wife to trust me again?"
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes speak with callers about the following questions:
“How can I save my marriage after we separated?""I feel like my husband is just coming to the workshop to appease me. Should I still come to the workshop?""How do I reconnect with my wife once I move closer to her?""How do I use SMART contact without business items?""How do you let go of a marraige when you have been divorced for a year?""Should we avoid family while trying to work on our marriage?""Is the workshop the best tool to help us save our marriage?""Is it necessary to talk about my husband's affair partner?""How can I respond when he says I'm controlling?""I'm changing by doing my PIES. Could that backfire?"
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes speak with callers about the following questions:
“I've been doing SMART contact for two weeks. When should I contact my spouse about non-business items?""I feel distant from my spouse during our separation. How do I use SMART contact with an introverted spouse?""My wife is unaware of her limerence. How can I bring it up?""How do I bring my spouse back when they'd rather be alone?""We've been separated for a year. Is intimacy during separation a good idea?""My son attempted suicide because of father's affair.""Wife now with a controlling affair partner. What can I do?"
*SMART Contact™ is a registered trademark of Marriage Helper.
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes speak with callers about the following questions:
“If my wife moves back but is still involved with her affair partner, what kind of boundaries should I set?""Will intervention stop limerence from continuing?""No contact for a year. How can I start the conversation?""How can I get my wife to talk to me?""My husband separated from me so he can 'miss me and fall in love with me' again. How do we fix things?""My husband is still having an affair, but he is still intimate with me. He says he cannot connect emotionally with me. What can I do?""Husband has more in common with his affair partner than with me. I want to save the marriage, but he does not want to. How can I save the marriage?""Husband is seeking group sex. Is this normal behavior for a person in limerence?"
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:
“Is asking for child support a PUSH behavior?”“How can my children help get my husband to the workshop?”“How do I respond to a husband hesitant about reconciling?”“My wife responded negatively to me hiring an attorney!”“How do I move back AND be a safe place to my husband?”“Should I speak up about my wife’s damaging relationship?”“Am I in denial, or is my husband in limerence?”
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes speak with callers about the following questions:
“Should I tell my wife I lover her and want to make it work before our court hearing date?""Now that my husband is home, what do I do?""Do I keep trying to save our marriage or give up?""Is it possible to reconcile after 5 years of reconciliation?""Can limerence happen with the same person more than once?""What can I do to get my wife to come back?""How do I control my emotions to be who she needs me to be?"
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:
“How do I keep standing for my marriage when I want to give up?""When should I ask my spouse to come to the workshop?""Can I save the marriage when my wife doesn't want to?""My husband is contemplating divorce. How do I talk to him?""How can I avoid PUSH behaviors while living with my spouse?""Husband got affair partner pregnant, but he still loves me. What do I do?""How can my husband and I move past our previous affairs?"
Live Caller Q&A With Kimberly Holmes & Amber Nickle
In this podcast, Kimberly Holmes & Amber Nickle address these questions:
"How do I talk to my wife while avoiding PUSH behaviors?""How do I set boundaries to make our marriage better?""How do I voice my concerns without sounding controlling?""Should I pursue answers ro wait for my wife to bring it up?""How do I get my husband to talk about our marriage?""Is my husband having an affair and not telling me?
Live Caller Q&A With Kimberly Holmes & Jim Pourteau.
In this podcast, Kimberly Holmes & Jim Pourteau address these questions:
"My wife is sending mixed signals. Should I start no contact?""When should I stop trying to save my marriage?""How do I ask my reluctant spouse to come to the workshop?""How do I start reconciliation the right way?""Should I tell my teenage son about our marriage situation?""Wife diagnosed me as a narcissist. What do I do?""How do I handle my husband's vacillation?"
Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes.
In this podcast, Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes address these questions:
"How do I stand for my marriage as the wayward spouse?""My spouse and I are separated. What are some things to talk about to help foster communication between us?""How can I be honest about my affair when I'm being villified?""Am I am fool for wanting to be with my cheating spouse?""Is starting the divorce process a PUSH behavior?""My wife wants to live with us and her affair partner! What should I do?""How do I make healthy boundaries?""How long do I wait for my husband to leave his affair partner after we just divorced?"
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:
“My husband told me he has an emotional block against me, and he does not have interest in saving the marriage and wants a divorce. I just found out I have cancer, and I want him to leave the house while I deal with getting better. Is there anything I can do to help him overcome the emotional block? If I ask him to leave, am I giving up any chance of saving the marriage?”“My wife is considering coming back, but she does not want to just come back because it is comfortable. How can I be patient while waiting for her to decide?”“My wife told me she is done. I am making trip to visit her for my son’s graduation (which is also her birthday and our anniversary). I am wanting to give her a gift. Is it ok to give her a present?”“My wife has had two affairs in the past three years. We have four children together. How can I save the marriage?”
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:
“Married for 41 years. ography use throughout marriage. Wife left unexpectedly. How do I save my marriage?”“My husband and I have been married for 6 years. Husband ‘can’t live this way anymore.’ I have confidence our relationship work, but he is not sure that he wants it to. How do I get past the strong emotions to do the things I need to do?”“I found out a year ago my wife had been in an affair for 18 months. We still live together. She has filed for divorce, but she is not actively moving forward with it. Is it smart for me to require coaching as criteria if we are going to stay together?”“My husband is having an affair with his coworker. He agreed he would not introduce children to affair partner. He wants our kids to meet her kids at work picnic. How do I talk to him about this without pushing?”“Wife had affair. I am moving 800 miles away for a job. What can I do from that far away to show her I still want her to be a part of my life?”“Wife recently moved out, and she took kids with her. She doesn’t love me anymore. I did too many push behaviors. How will she notice me working on my PIES when she only focuses on the kids?”
You’ll also hear about:
Affair addictionPIESHow to pick a good counselor
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:
“My wife left me for our children’s music teacher. She is in another country. She is vilifying me. How do I save my marriage?”“Coming out of the end of a midlife crisis with limerence involved. How do I save my marriage?”“My husband of 25 years left me. He filed for legal separation. Is intervention a good option to bring him to talk?”“My husband had an affair after being married for 28 years. We haven’t talked in a long time. I want to share my heart. What do I do?”“My wife left me for my best friend after 8 years of marriage. Would you suggest that I stay in SMART contact or interfere with SMART contact to try to get her to attend the workshop?”“My husband is having an emotional affair with a coworker. He is confused on what to do. What should I do?”
You’ll also hear about:
SMART ContactPush behaviors
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:
“What is the success rate for the workshop?”“How do I navigate SMART contact with my husband and know when it is time to talk about our relationship?”“How can I increase my communication with my husband as he does not talk to me? He just wants the marriage to be over.”“I have been separated from my wife for about two months. Since we’ve been separated, she says I haven’t showed her any reasons to fight for the marriage. How do I show her I want to save the marriage?”“Separated for a year. I feel like all hope is lost. 9 year old child is involved. I don’t know what to do anymore.”“Problematic marriage. Go through periods of being separated and being together. We have a lack of intimacy and connection. How do I break down that wall?”“Basically roommates with my spouse. I am sleeping in the living room. I’m working on my PIES. How do I put my marriage back together?”
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:
“My husband had an affair, but wants to end it and come back home. He is afraid that his affair partner will harm herself if he leaves her. How do I help him navigate that?”“His family invited me to celebrate Easter with them, but other people are telling me I shouldn’t go. What should I do?”“My wife and I got in an argument, and she told me she is done. We’re still living in the same house. I don’t know what to do.”“I found my wife texting another man, and I told her to get out. She told me she wants a divorce. She says she misses me, but she is dating other men. She wants us to sell our house. What can I do to have her take a second to think about her decision?”“My wife is with another person, and he is trying to make himself a father figure to our children after only two months. Should I expect this to be a temporary phase, or should I be concerned that this person is going to be the step-father of my children?”“My husband and his affair partner had a baby. He is also the father of my child. I still love him, but he has cut off contact with me. At the least, how can I make him co-parent my child instead of having no contact?”“Since my husband began his affair, could it have evolved into love instead of limerence? How do I do SMART contact when he is so hostile and mean to me?”
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:
“My husband wants to move back in part time, but he doesn’t seem committed. If he’s not committed, I don’t know if I show let him move back in. Do you think I should let him move back in part time?”“My wife said she was adamant about wanting a divorce, but it has been 6 months without her acting on it. I want to give her a timeline of when she needs to make a decision by. How long should I give her to decide?”“My wife and I are separated, but we are starting to hang out a lot. She recently told me she never sees us getting back together. What can I do to positively influence my situation?”“My wife agreed to work on our relationship, but a week later she told me she wants a divorce. She keeps changing her mind. I’m really confused, and I don’t know what to do.”“I jumped into the relationship with my current husband quickly after ending my relationship with my ex-husband. He treats me well, but I don’t have the feelings for him that I should.”“How can I show my wife unconditional love while separated without seeming too pushy?”“My husband said he regrets his affair, but he has a vacation scheduled with his affair partner. It is always so back and forth. Why should I try to save my marriage when he keeps going deeper in his relationship with the other woman?”“My daughter is in limerence with a man who left his wife to be with her. The relationship has changed her completely. We do not support her relationship, but we love her very much. My friends are telling me that we should tell her we accept the relationship so that she should come back home. I don’t know what to do.”
On today's episode of Marriage Helper Live, Dr. Joe Beam responds to:
"My wife filed for divorce. What I've learned through Marriage Helper is to try to extend the divorce time to give it time to calm down, so I responded that 'I didn't think the marriage was broken' and it infuriated her. How do I respond now?""My family friend has had an on and off affair with my husband for 7 years. Is this limerence?""How do I reconnect with my wife to get her to see that there's hope & change that can happen?""My wife and I are separated because she is having an affair. She is vilifying me, and telling me we have nothing in common. I don’t know what to do.”“My husband and I have been divorced for 8 months. Our relationship has gotten better, but his relationship with the other woman is still ongoing. He wants the other woman to be part of our children’s lives, but he has not told them the truth about what happened. Is it wrong for me to set a boundary and not allow her to have a relationship with my children?”“How do I proceed in trying to save my marriage now that we are divorced?”
You'll also hear:
When we suggest dragging out the divorce is when the other person feels like they are "madly-in-love" with someone else. And if dragging out the divorce makes things worse- we may not suggest it if you're viewed as controlling.Demonstrate without pointing out/telling what you're doing and how you're changingThe valley
On today's episode of Marriage Helper Live, Dr. Joe Beam responds to:
"My wife filed for divorce. What I've learned through Marriage Helper is to try to extend the divorce time to give it time to calm down, so I responded that 'I didn't think the marriage was broken' and it infuriated her. How do I respond now?""My family friend has had an on and off affair with my husband for 7 years. Is this limerence?""How do I reconnect with my wife to get her to see that there's hope & change that can happen?""
You'll also hear:
When we suggest dragging out the divorce is when the other person feels like they are "madly-in-love" with someone else. And if dragging out the divorce makes things worse- we may not suggest it if you're viewed as controlling.Demonstrate without pointing out/telling what you're doing and how you're changingThe valley
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:
"My husband had an affair and says he's in love with the other woman. Does he have a "love addiction" or is it limerence?""Have you worked with couples who have dealt with abusive behavior? Especially if the abuser won't take responsibility for his actions?""My mother-in-law contacted me saying that my husband wants her to be my point of contact with him. Should I use this as an opportunity to minister to her- or should I keep my boundaries up?" "What Marriage Helper information do you recommend sharing with my attorney?""Is there a strategy to speaking with my wife about the Workshop?""How do I not fall back into old patterns/habits I had previously?""I get more anxious, emotional, and physical in bed the evening and it puts pressure on my wife. Would it be helpful for me to sleep in another bed at night to bring about positive communication and SMART Contact?""When my husband got out of prison, our relationship has been a downward spiral. How do I get through his 'hardened wall' when he doesn't seem to make an effort?"
You'll also hear about:
The caution of misdiagnosing your spouse based on research/information you've gathered about your relationship. How to consider the risks involved in taking a specific action.
Call our show for a chance to speak one-on-one with Dr. Joe Beam, Founder of Marriage Helper.
On today's show, Dr. Joe Beam along with Client Representative, Marc Highland discuss the following:
"I had an affair and I would like to work with my wife on our marriage. How is it possible to move past my emotional connection to the affair partner?" "My husband wants to work on the marriage, but he's still in deep, emotional limerence with someone across the world. How do I ask him about attending the Workshop without pressuring/manipulating him?""Did I do the wrong thing by confronting my wife about her past affair partner?"
You'll also hear about
Things a person can do in order to get past an affair. The best way to approach your spouse about the workshop.
On this episode of Marriage Helper Live, you’ll hear Dr. Joe Beam along with one of our Client Representatives respond to the following:
“How does the valley work? How long does it last?”
Signs of movement in the valley
“Does the valley apply to other circumstances?”
Dr. Joe Beam & Amber Nickle discuss a common question: “Is my spouse’s affair partner who they were actually meant to be with?”
“I asked my husband if I could stay at his home while I wait to move into my apartment. He’s staying at his parent’s house until I move out. How can I initiate S.M.A.R.T. contact with him for him to stay at the house with me?”
“We just filed for divorce. Should I still fight if I’m unsure?”
“My wife feels like it’s too late to save our marriage, and she thinks I will never change. What should I do?”
“How can I prove that she can trust me again after I’ve lied to her?”
Other topics include:
Limerence
The Role of Client Representatives at Marriage Helper
The #1 reason behind why you work on your PIES
The grief process in relationships
Self-esteem & the influence of others
Join us for Marriage Helper LIVE! Dr. Joe Beam & co-host Amber Nickle will be speaking with you today!
On this episode of Marriage Helper live, you'll hear Dr. Joe Beam and live callers speak about:
The difference between reconciliation & forgivenessWhat it means when a spouse says, "I'm done."How to (patiently) implement S.M.A.R.T. ContactMental disorders & how they affect reconciliation/repairing a marriage
You'll also learn how to build trust over time with consistency in your actions (not perfection) and how to understand your spouse's emotions. Dr. Joe Beam explains "logic cannot overpower emtions...but you can overcome emotions with time and consistency in your actions."
On this episode of Marriage Helper Live, Dr. Joe Beam responds to:
"My wife reacted negatively to this one situation where I did something that appeared controlling. How do I proceed? We've been separated 5 months, and this just happened one week ago."
"My husband is hesitant to return home because he doesn't want things to go back to how they were. How can I work on this issue? We've both had affairs."
"Is my wife experiencing cognitive dissonance while she's in her affair? She has become mean toward me, and removed herself from our grown children."
"My husband seemed to have positive interactions with me, and now all of the sudden, he still wants to go through with mediation- what do I do?"
And MORE!
You'll also hear about:
How to renew your focus, especially with SMART ContactWhat "Vengeance Affairs" areCompartmentalized thinking within Cognitive Dissonance (and the 2 potential paths/outcomes)How to think and what to think when it seems like your marriage is about to end
Today's show focuses on your marriage questions! Call in and ask Dr. Joe Beam a question about your marriage!
In this episode you'll hear Dr. Joe Beam respond to live callers from our Marriage Helper Live Broadcast.
Featured on this episode:
"My wife is in a limerent affair. She's getting the best of both worlds by seeing her partner and then seeing me at home. Will she continue this affair if she doesn't know what consequences may happen? Should I tell her what the consequences are?"
"My husband has been in a 6 year affair. He's never filed for divorce. What is making the affair last so long? Are the PIES helping/hurting?"
"My husband and I are starting the reconciliation process. What does it look like? He keeps pushing back and isn't engaged."
"My husband moved back without any accountability in place (he had an affair before) was this the right thing to do?"
"My wife loves, but isn't in love with me. I'm getting accused of trying to force a relationship, but she's sending mixed signals. Can you give me direction on what to do?"
You'll also hear:
How to manage the expectations you have for your spouseThe purpose of using the PIES
This episode opens with a story of HOPE alongside a story of familial reconciliation! Additionally, Dr. Joe Beam & Jim Pourteau respond to the following:
"Is there less of a chance of a wandering spouse who is a woman to come back to the marriage?""Is long-term vilification normal?" "How can I be a "safe place" without being a doormat?" "How can I communicate with my wife when she doesn't want to talk? How do I deal w/anxiety that things may not get better?""I broke SMART contact with my husband- and we just started reconciling...what do I do now?""How do I establish trust with my Husband? He keeps snooping when I'm not doing anything wrong."
You'll also learn...
How Marriage Helper defines vilificationWhat reconciliation looks like in real life and how to not overthink each daily interaction
This episode opens with a story of HOPE alongside a story of familial reconciliation! Additionally, Dr. Joe Beam & Jim Pourteau respond to the following:
"Is there less of a chance of a wandering spouse who is a woman to come back to the marriage?""Is long-term vilification normal?" "How can I be a "safe place" without being a doormat?" "How can I communicate with my wife when she doesn't want to talk? How do I deal w/anxiety that things may not get better?""I broke SMART contact with my husband- and we just started reconciling...what do I do now?""How do I establish trust with my Husband? He keeps snooping when I'm not doing anything wrong."
You'll also learn...
How Marriage Helper defines vilificationWhat reconciliation looks like in real life and how to not overthink each daily interaction
Live Caller Q&A With Jim Pourteau. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage!
In this Episode, Jim Pourteau speaks about how to build positive emotions and have positive communication with your spouse. He also explains how to approach SMART contact and being a "Safe Place" correctly.
Throughout this episode, Jim speaks with spouses who are "standing" for their marriages and gives helpful insight for their specific situations- which can help you too!
How to go about SMART contact"How do I interact with my husband who is in limerence?"" I feel "stuck" in where my marriage is at with my husband. How do we move forward?""How can I be a "safe place" without endorsing my wife's behavior?""I learned I'm controlling. I've changed and want to save my marriage...but my husband doesn't want much to do with me. What do I do?"
On this episode of Marriage Helper Live, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes respond to calls from Canada & New Zealand & MORE!
"We're divorced, but still best friends. At what length of time do you give up?""I just learned that my wife spent the weekend with my friend, and my son was there. How do I tell my wife that it isn't acceptable for her to do this with my son? She doesn't know that I know...""If you suspect your spouse is having an affair, at what point do you approach them about it?"
It’s important to know whether your spouse is having an affair versus other problematic behaviors. i.e.: Thinking it's an affair, when it's actually a ography addiction.
"My husband is in an affair with an old high school girlfriend. When he's drunk, he exposes the issues with his affair partner, and gets mad at her. Should I attempt this intervention? Or should I put up with his drinking."
Drinking is a dangerous habit. We do not advise that she lets it continue.
“My wife denies her emotional affair. How can I get her to confess it?”
“Why does my husband reach out to me and then back off?”
On this episode, you'll also hear:
If your spouse is in a limerent/emotional affair, logic is the last thing that will work. Every time you try to combat emotion w/logic, logic will win every time.
If you made a decision you regret- know that what you did is what you did. Looking back at "should haves" doesn't benefit you in any way.
And, what if you're divorced? Don't let your status define what you believe in/what your hope is.
Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage!
Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes.
In this podcast, Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes address these topics:
Stops (Safegaurds That Offer Protection)Cores (Continuing Our Relaitonship Essentials)What to do when your huband leaves with no warningWhat is the Save My Marriage Course?How to move forward after caught in limerent affairHow to communicate while separated in different countries
Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes.
In this podcast, Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes address these topics:
“Can my husband be in limerence if he doesn’t vilify me?”“I pushed my husband away thinking that he would show me more love because he would be afraid to lose me, and he left instead. How can I save my marriage?”“My husband and I have connected physically and intellectually since his affair, but he will not open up to me emotionally at all. I’ve been working on myself. I just don’t know what to do now.”“Is there any point coming to the workshop if my husband only agrees to come once the divorce is final?”“My husband got his affair partner pregnant. Now he wants to come back home and reconcile with me. In order for him to end the relationship with his AP, it is suggested to cut off all contact, but he cannot do that because of the baby. How do we handle that?”“How long am I supposed to allow my husband to have a relationship with his co-worker?”“My husband has been battling with a ography addiction. He wanted to seek help, and his counselor laughed at him and told him to leave the marriage. We are like best friends, but I just want to know if our relationship is healable?”
Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage!
Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Erin Hood.
In this podcast, Dr. Joe Beam & Erin Hood address these topics:
“My husband and I are no longer on the same spiritual note. My husband wants to be intimate. Previously when we have not been intimate, there is no contact. When should I draw the line?”“My wife wants to move out and doesn’t want to be in our marriage anymore. She wants me to sell her engagement ring, and I respect her wishes, but I do not feel right about it. What should I do?”“Everyone keeps telling me I need to start the divorce proceedings. I’m not sure that is the best thing to do. I want more than anything to save my marriage.”“My husband came back home three weeks ago. I feel a little awkward, and I’m not sure to act around him now.”“My husband said he wants to leave because of the way I’ve been treating him. He is seeing someone else. How can I create interaction between us?”“Do I continue holding on to our marriage if he continues holding on to his relationship with his affair partner?”
Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Erin Hood. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage!
Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes
In this podcast, Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes address these topics:
“I’m struggling with trying to study every single detail that happens between me and my husband. I want to put my marriage back together, but everything I do seems to pull it further apart. How do I change my negative behaviors and do positive things instead?”“My wife and I have struggled with intimacy for the last 12 years. How do I rekindle intimacy between us?”“My husband and I are trying to reconcile. Does the workshop help with reconciliation?”“My wife and I are struggling financially through our divorce process. I do not feel like selling our house is a good option, but it would alleviate our financial stress. What do you advise on that?”“My wife is struggling to forgive me. I want her to go to the workshop, but how do I get her to attend without her feeling controlled?”“When my daughter left home my husband completely changed and then had an affair. He keeps blaming me for everything. I don’t know what to do.”
Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage!
Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes
In this podcast, Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes address these topics:
“If my husband has rejected going to the Marriage Helper workshop once how do I bring it back up to him again and suggest that we attend?”“My wife asked me for a divorce. I need to set boundaries. How do I do that without driving her away?”“Our divorce was finalized last month. He is living with the other woman. What can I do other than PIES to reconcile the marriage because we do not live near each other?”“How do I help from being controlled if I feel codependent?”“How do I handle when my husband says he is praying for the other woman that broke up with him to come back? He believes that God has spoken to him and is going to bring her back to him even though he knows that God does not break up marriages to start new relationships.”“I have a job offer in the city where my separated spouse is staying. If I take the job and move there will that be a PUSH behavior?”“My husbands keeps vacillating between wanting me and his affair partner. He has chosen me in the past, but then he went back to her. How do I get him back on my side again?”
Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage!
Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Amber Nickle
In this podcast, Dr. Joe Beam & Amber Nickle address these topics:
“Would you recommend me letting my husband stay at our house through the holidays (as long as he wants) if he commits to go to the workshop. Would you recommend using that as leverage?”“How can I use my coaching sessions most effectively?”“Should I be intimate with my wife during her third trimester?”“My husband will not contact me if I do not contact him first. Every time we see each other, we end up in bed with each other, but he tells me that he is done with our marriage. I don’t know what to do.”“Should I keep waiting for my husband to want to save our marriage or should I walk away?”“My husband had an online affair, and now we are trying to rekindle our relationship. I’m trying to move forward, but I don’t know how to do that.”“My husband wants to give up his parental right for our son. If I let him do that then he won’t be able to see me work on my PIES. I don’t know what is best to do.”
Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage!
Today, for the first time, we answer live callers during our live video broadcast. If you would like to join the show, be sure to find us on facebook at Marriage Helper. Every Monday we go live at 12:30pm CST. Please join our next show, because we'd love to have you and to help you!
Dr. Joe Beam has said many times that if your spouse is leaving you for another person that s/he "madly loves" it may be to your benefit to slow the divorce down.
Why?
Because those states of being "madly in love" (also known as limerence) have a shelf-life. That euphoria doesn't last a lifetime. By slowing down the divorce you may be able to rescue your marriage because the limerence wears off before the divorce is final.
Now Dr. Beam is modifying that statement. He still believes that limerence will erode and that there can be value in slowing the divorce. However, in an effort to slow the divorce, some have done things that provoke their abandoning spouses in ways that aren't beneficial.
Yes, Dr. Beam strongly believes that in a divorce you should get an attorney and fight for everything that you need, even if that thwarts your spouse's plans. If your spouse becomes angry, say something such as "I'm not the one wanting this divorce. I'm happy to work on the marriage if you are. In the meantime, I will follow my attorney's advice and take care of myself and my children. I'm sorry if that upsets you or doesn't give you everything you want, but I must do what I must do if you continue with the divorce."
There is value in your spouse having to face the consequences of his behavior.
However, being unreasonable, mean, or vindictive works against you rather than for you. It antagonizes your spouse without any correlating benefit to your mate or you.
So where is the balance?
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and special guest Jim Pourteau talk about protecting yourself during a divorce while not being unfair or unreasonable in ways that only bring about negative consequences.
We are www.MarriageHelper.com are for marriages. Our success rate in helping crisis marriages solve their problems and save the marriage is three out of four. For our free resources ranging from articles, eBooks, and podcasts, see our website. If you wish to know more about our marriage coaching, call 615-472-1161.
Who To Listen To When Your Marriage Is In Trouble - The Dr. Joe Show
The moment people hear that your marriage is in trouble, you get deluged with every sort of opinion, recommendation, and idea that people can come up with.
Most of it is bad.
Some of it is motivated by good intentions. However, if the ones who give the advice love you, they most likely aren't very happy with your spouse. Therefore, their viewpoint is skewed against him/her and very much toward protecting you (and maybe toward damaging your spouse).
Others who aren't so close think their advice valid because of something they personally experienced or that they witnessed in another. That's enough for them to make judgments about you, your spouse, and your situation even when they know only a little of what's actually happening. These folks typically are adamant that you heed their counsel, although in reality their advice often is the OPPOSITE of what you should be doing. If you doubt that, post a problem on Facebook telling only the barest of information and watch how many people will tell you EXACTLY what you should do...
It's scary...
Even professional counselors may lead you astray IF:
1) Your situation strikes one of their own emotional chords
2) They decide to diagnose your spouse even though they've never met him/her (or had only limited exposure)
3) They feel the easiest route to your "happiness" is to end the marriage rather than to fight for it
So, who do you listen to?
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and special guest Jim Pourteau discuss an actual occurrence on Facebook. Using it as the example, they explain why people tend to think their advice is valid and why you should be very careful about which advice you take. They guide you to sources that truly can help rather than leading you astray.
If you're not looking only for people to verify what you WANT to do, but actually seeking help for your marriage problems, listen to this program.
Also, check out free resources ranging from articles, eBooks, Podcasts, and more on www.MarriageHelper.com.
Your spouse strayed. Maybe it was another person. Maybe you threw him/her out because of their behavior. Whatever the cause, you're now trying to make it work again.
But...
You expect total honesty. You demand that s/he talk about the problem. You want to be understood and you want to understand why s/he did the things s/he did. You thought that reconciling would automatically bring about deep conversations, transparency, accountability, and finally a marriage better than it was before.
Are those reasonable expectations?
Yes.
No.
You see, it's all about timing.
In this program Dr. Joe Beam and special guest Jim Pourteau discuss that when a couple think they are in reconciliation, many times they are actually in a step before that. No wonder they get frustrated; they're expectations don't match their reality.
If you and your spouse are wanting to reconcile - even thinking that you are reconciling - this program will give you insight into what to expect, what NOT to expect, what is okay to demand and which demands may be a deal breaker IF they are made too early.
If you wish more information about marriage that you can use, check out the free resources on www.MarriageHelper.com. If you wish to know more about the personal coaching that Dr. Beam and Jim discuss, call 615-472-1161.
Do those who fight for marriages ever think that a couple should divorce?
Yes.
At www.MarriageHelper.com we fight for marriages. Since 1999 we've been able to help three out of four married couples in crisis resolve their seemingly insurmountable problems and save their marriages. It's known around the world that we do all we can to help marriages survive.
Unfortunately, we know that not all marriages will.
So when should one give up? Find the attorney and file for divorce? Is it when your marriage counselor says you should? Our experience says no. Good marriage counselors are worth their weight in gold. Others...well, let's just say sometimes it appears that some take the easy route and suggest divorce when there are still viable options for saving the marriage and making it good again.
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and special guest Jim Pourteau discuss how to know when it's time to call it quits. Both are experienced marriage helpers with a great deal of experience working with couples in crisis. Although they find tremendous fulfillment in helping couples who have no hope find hope, they each realize that sometimes a marriage will end.
To learn the principles about when to end a marriage - if ever - listen to this program. Additionally, there are many free resources - articles, eBooks, podcasts, and more - for your marriage on www.MarriageHelper.com.
He had an affair that nearly ended the marriage. He told her he was sorry. He said he wanted them to try to work things out, but he's not quite ready to reconcile.
Then he was offered a job in another city. It's lucrative and he accepted. He comes home every weekend to live with his wife and children. They have a great time. He's attentive. The kids love his being there. But then the weekend is over and he heads back.
Workable? Maybe. However, there's a catch. During the week, he doesn't call, doesn't take calls, and has no contact whatsoever with his wife or children.
They have great weekends. She wonders and worries about what he's doing during the week. It's driving her mad. Is he having another affair? Does he live with some woman over there? What is he doing that prevents him from calling, checking in...or being checked on?
She offered an ultimatum of sorts. "I'll be gone when you come on the weekends. You and the kids have a great time but I can't live with not knowing." He told her that if she did that, he would feel pushed away and would give up on the idea of reconciliation.
Is he manipulating her? Is there something else going on? What should she do? When should she do it?
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam plays the recording of her question and then answers in detail. He suggests the things she needs to consider. He explains how to approach her husband in the way most likely to get him to understand and to start communicating during the week. He helps her think about the consequences if he refuses.
If you or someone you know is in a similar situation - in a sort of limbo where the spouse seems to want to save the marriage but also seems not to - this program will help you understand what to do and the possible outcome of various ways of doing it.
If your marriage is in trouble, take advantage of the free resources on www.MarriageHelper.com. If you need to talk with someone, call 615-472-1161 and ask about Marriage Helper's Certified Marriage Coaches.
If you would like to record a question for Dr. Beam to answer in a podcast, go to https://www.speakpipe.com/joebeam.
Her husband left her after thirty years of marriage. She feels lost. She wonders if her life is over. She doesn't know if she can ever be happy again.
In the first podcast in this two-part series, Dr. Joe Beam brought in his special guest David Mathews, Director of SparkOfLife.Org. David is an expert in helping people deal with loss - any kind of loss, including the death of a loved one. The principles he provided in that podcast "Life Feels Hopeless After My Spouse Left" laid the foundation for this program. In this broadcast, David and Dr. Beam discuss practical, doable processes to help her - and you - deal with the loss and find healing for her life.
That doesn't mean that she has to give up on her marriage. As Dr. Beam teaches in many podcasts, there is a process that can work to bring back the abandoning spouse and make the marriage good again. Even better than it was. Yet...it isn't a guarantee. It is an amazing process. If anything works, this will work. Three out of four couples who attend Marriage Helper's intensive three-day workshop salvage their marriages and develop them to be better than they were before.
Three out of four. But that's not four out of four.
The practical information you will hear in this podcast will help you find healing and grow on to a meaningful and fulfilling life whether your spouse comes back or not.
It's not magic. It takes work. But the result is again having a life of happiness.
If you haven't listened to part one "Life Feels Hopeless After My Spouse Left," we suggest you find that podcast and listen to it first. As you listen to this one, take notes, think through the power of the process you will learn, and then put it into action.
If your marriage is in trouble, take advantage of the free resources on www.MarriageHelper.com. If you need to talk with someone, call 615-472-1161 and ask about Marriage Helper's Certified Marriage Coaches.
If you would like to record a question for Dr. Beam to answer in a podcast, go to https://www.speakpipe.com/joebeam.
She met him when she was 16. They became childhood sweethearts through high school and married soon afterward. After thirty years of marriage, he left. Walked out stating that it was over and he wasn't coming back.
She still loves him. Her heart is broken. She feels that her life as she has known it will never be again...that she'll never be happy...that she'll never get past the pain.
Can she? Should she? Will she?
In the program, Dr. Joe Beam interviews David Mathews, Director of SparkOfLife.Org. David is an expert on the pain of loss, the emotions one feels, and the path to healing.
He and Dr. Beam discuss in detail why it is natural - and quite okay - for her to feel the pain she feels. However, the go beyond that. They provide an understanding of what she is going through. Then they explain the process she can choose to follow if she wants to heal her hurt and have a meaningful and fulfilled life.
It isn't easy...pain never is...but it can be done and life can again have joy and happiness.
Does that mean she gives up on trying to save her marriage? No. But it does mean there are processes she needs to embrace...processes to heal her hurt if he comes back...or if he doesn't come back.
The principles David shares work for all types of loss, including the death of a loved one, but even to the pain of losing anything or anyone that is important to you.
In the next podcast, David gives more information that is practical and doable. In this first installment, he lays the foundation that makes the healing possible.
If your marriage is in trouble, take advantage of the free resources on www.MarriageHelper.com. If you need to talk with someone, call 615-472-1161 and ask about Marriage Helper's Certified Marriage Coaches.
If you would like to record a question for Dr. Beam to answer in a podcast, go to https://www.speakpipe.com/joebeam.
You spouse is involved with someone else.
You love your mate and want to save your marriage. You heard about the amazingly effective system taught by Marriage Helper that works powerfully in helping people save their marriages. You went to www.MarriageHelper.com and found the information. You paid close attention when Dr. Beam explained how to be a safe place for your straying spouse and you have tried to be that person in hopes of salvaging your marriage. You grasped that to allow your spouse to be open and transparent - even about his/her affair partner - can lead in time to the restoration of your marriage...
But...
You've discovered that being a safe p;lace isn't always easy. Allowing, even encouraging, your husband or wife to be open about the affair partner is painful to hear. As a matter of fact, you wonder if it might be doing more harm than good...especially for your own mental, emotional, and physical health.
Should you stop? Is there another way?
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam gives a brief overview of the section of the Marriage Helper system about being a safe place. He explains why "If anything will work, this system will." BUT, he also explains when it is time to stop being a safe place...to understand why sometimes you can't continue to be the safe place...and how NOT to feel guilty if you stop being the safe place for your spouse.
If you prefer to know more about the system before listening, you can find a tremendous amount of information on www.MarriageHelper.com. You can also find Marriage Radio podcasts on www.MarriageRadio.com, on iTunes or Google Play by subscribing free to Marriage Radio, or on our online host Spreaker.com. On the Marraige Helper.com website, you'll also find articles, eBooks, and more podcasts.
If you need personal help to understand what, when, or how to do things that can save your marriage, call 615-472-1161 and ask about Marriage Coaching with Marriage Helper's Certified Marriage Coaches.
If you'd like to leave a voice message for Dr. Beam to answer on these podcasts, you may do so at www.speakpipe.com/joebeam.
He claimed that God told him to leave his marriage. Later he said that he felt guilt for leaving.
He said "I love you but am not in love with you." Later he said, "I don't know how to live my life without you."
Then, almost out of the blue, he says "I am in love with you" but he continues to live with the other woman.
What do you do? Do you wait for him to evolve back to wanting to be with you over her? Do you go ahead and divorce him and get on with your life?
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam, along with his special guest, relationship expert Jim Pourteau, answers the woman's question. You'll hear her describe the situation and ask what she should do. You'll hear the expert explanation of what is going on with her husband, You may be surprised when you hear the answer to her question about whether to divorce or to wait.
For more free resources for your marriage go to www.MarriageHelper.com. You can also find more free podcasts by subscribing to Marriage Radio on iTunes or Google Play. You can find all of Dr. Beam's podcasts free on www.MarriageRadio.com.
If you would like to speak to one of Dr. Beam's associates about your marriage, call 615-472-1161.
Would you like to ask Dr. Beam a question about your marriage or relationship? You can record your question for Dr. Beam to reply in a future podcast at https://www.speakpipe.com/joebeam.
Your spouse wants out of the marriage.
You don't. You love your husband/wife and can't understand why s/he no longer loves you.
Is there hope?
Yes.
Unfortunately, most people in your situation do the wrong things...things that in reality make it less likely you can put the marriage back together. In a previous podcast, Dr. Joe Beam and his special guest Jim Pourteau explained three things NOT to do if you want to save your marriage. In this program, they explain three things that you MUST do if you wish to keep your marriage alive.
These are not three magic steps that guarantee your marriage will survive. They are three crucial things to understand and put into practice that will help you save your marriage if anything will. The odds? Excellent. Workshops for marriages in crisis that Dr. Beam developed have a 75% success rate even if one spouse wants out of the marriage and has absolutely no desire for it to continue.
Join Dr. Beam and his special guest, relationship expert Jim Pourteau, for this eye-opening program that will equip you with the knowledge you need as well as direct you to the right help if you need help to save your marriage.
For more resources, go to www.MarriageHelper.com for free articles, eBooks, podcasts and more. You can also find over 100 podcasts by Dr Beam on iTunes and in Google Play. Subscribe free on those to Marriage Radio
If you wish to ask a question for Dr. Beam to answer in future podcasts, record your question at https://www.speakpipe.com/joebeam.
You just found out your spouse wants out of your marriage.
You love your spouse. You don't want the marriage to end.
WHAT SHOULD YOU DO?!
Before knowing the 3 things you should do, it's very important to understand 3 key things you should NOT do if you are to have any hope for salvaging your marriage.
Unfortunately, most people do one or more of these three and put their marriage into greater jeopardy. It's extremely important to know what they are, understand why they cause more problems, and why you should not do them...or stop doing them.
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and his special guest, relationship expert Jim Pourteau, discuss three key things to avoid. They explain what they are, why people do them, and why they have greater negative effect than positive.
If you love your spouse but s/he does or says any of the following:
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wants out of your marriage
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says s/he no longer loves you...or that s/he never did
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is involved with someone else
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claims s/he just wants to be alone
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is cold and distant
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seems like a different person
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is harsh and angry
Then you need to hear this program...AND the next podcast in the series "3 Things To Do If You Want to Save Your Marriage." (available beginning Sep 11, 2017)
For more marriage and relationship resources, go to www.MarriageHelper.com or call 615-472-1161. To ask Dr. Beam a question to be answered in a future podcast, go to https://www.speakpipe.com/joebeam.
Want to truly communicate? Be Understood? Understand?
If so, there is one thing you MUST STOP from occurring in your conversations that matter AND USE a simple yet powerful system that will make it so much easier to understand and be understood.
In this program Dr. Joe Beam explains why writing (especially texting and emails) don't work when you need to talk about things that matter. He also explains why phone calls usually don't work well either.
Then how do you communicate?
Dr. Beam shares his simple, yet powerful, "Triple A Engine" that turns frustrating conversations into unique interactions that meld two people together. He explains it and illustrates it so you can use it when discussing everything from money...hurt emotions...and even sexual disagreements when one partner wants something the other doesn't want to do.
This same "Triple A Engine" works with your friends, children, parents, or anyone else with whom you need to communicate on more than a casual level.
It is an especially important communication system for romantic love and marriage. If you are in love, want to be in love, or trying to rescue lost love, this system can lead you to levels of understanding, closeness, and intimacy that few people ever reach.
For more information about relationships, go to www.MarriageHelper.com. If you have a relationship question that you would like Dr. Beam to answer in his podcasts, leave a recorded message at https://www.speakpipe.com/joebeam.
"Why don't churches talk about sexual refusal?" he asked.
He explained that his wife of 28 years quit being sexual with him some six years ago. She said she wasn't interested. He asked her to seek help; she replied that it was his problem.
Now he's had enough. He's divorcing her. She's telling the folks at church that she has no idea why he's divorcing her and that he's a bad husband. He wants to go to those folks and tell them what's really going on.
What should he do? Is there a solution?
In this program Dr. Joe Beam relies not just on his PhD earned while researching marital and sexual satisfaction, but also on his Bachelor's degree and many hours of graduate courses in Bible. He explains what the Bible says about sexuality in marriage and points out a specific section that addresses directly the subject of sexual refusal in marriage.
Dr. Beam points out to the caller that there may be an underlying problem that led to her not wanting to have sex with him...but that the man is correct that the Bible teaches sexually fulfilling each other. How does a couple resolve those issues? In this program, you'll learn the basic principles as well as how to find further help for making the sexual aspects of your marriage more fulfilling.
For more information about marriage - especially marriage problems - check out the many free articles, podcasts, eBooks, and more on www.MarriageHelper.com.
To ask Dr. Beam your question, you may record it at www.SpeakPipe.com/JoeBeam. Then listen to these podcasts to hear Dr. Beam's answers and suggestions.
The caller says that her husband came back home after ending the affair. He's nicer, kinder, and more understanding than he was before the affair happened. His children love the change in him...his son now views his dad as his best friend.
But...
He won't change his cell phone number. He won't make any changes to his social media. His wife asks. He doesn't comply.
Now she's worried that he's still involved with the other woman. Her friends aren't helping with their advice. As a result, she's pulling away from him.
She asks what she should do.
In this program Dr. Joe Beam answers her questions about what she should do to get her husband to do what she needs to help her feel more secure. He also explains what might be to her advantage to tolerate and what to do if she can't live with the fear of his continued involvement with the other woman.
If you wish to leave a question for Dr. Beam to answer in these podcasts, you may record it at www.SpeakPipe.com/JoeBeam.
For articles, podcasts, and valuable information about marriages (especially problem marriages) go to www.MarriageHelper.com.
They were together for a decade before they decided to marry. It was wonderful; he told her how happy he was that she is his wife. They laughed. Had fun. Enjoyed life.
Until the night he told her that he had found his "soul mate" and wanted his wife's permission to date this amazing new woman in his life.
The wife, of course, was devastated.
She still loves him. She's trying to find what suddenly went wrong...what she did...what happened...how he could love her so intensely and then, without warning, be "madly in love" with another.
Listen to her story. Hear her pain. Understand her self-doubt. Then hear Dr. Joe Beam explain to her what limerence is. He addresses her concern that she was the problem. He helps her think through what likely happened. Most importantly, he gives her specific suggestions about what she should NOT do if she wants to salvage her marriage and what she MUST do if there is a chance of reconciliation.
If you have a question for Dr. Beam, go to https://www.speakpipe.com/JoeBeam. After you record your question or comment. We NEVER sell your information to anyone. We ask for your email in case Dr. Beam decides to respond directly to you.
Military marriages have the highest rate of divorce in America.
Couple that with lots of anger, addiction, and separation...and there's plenty of reasons to divorce.
Kimberly Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, and her husband Rob married while Rob was in the military. In the first year of marriage, they moved halfway around the world. In their second year of marriage, they separated for a year. In their third year of marriage, anger and addiction split them even further apart and their marriage was headed for divorce.
Not the "newlywed years" that others had told them about.
However, Rob and Kimberly overcame the odds and fought for their marriage. But not at the same time.
Hear their story in this podcast and learn how they learned how to deal with anger, addiction, and being separated.
Learn more about Marriage Helper at
www.marriagehelper.com
Or call 615.472.1161 or 866.903.0990
Is your spouse emotionally disengaged? Physically gone? Have you relentlessly tried searching, trying to figure out what you can do to bring your spouse back or make your spouse want to be in the marriage at all, only to find yourself completely overwhelmed?
I understand.
If you go to Google and type in "what to do to save a marriage" or "what to do to bring a spouse back", the information is insane. A lot of it contradicts the other, and if you try to implement some from here and some from there, then you'll find yourself frustrated and back at square one.
We want to help make this easy for you. We have laid it out, and figured out the FIRST thing that you should do when trying to bring your spouse back.
We teach you how in this episode.
Be sure to listen, subscribe, and review to help us help more couples!
Contact us to learn how we can help you save your marriage:
www.marriagehelper.com
615.472.1161 or 866.903.0990
She's married to one but in love with another. She said she was Christian and spoke of her great love for God and amazing relationship with Jesus. She mentioned that she had prayed about what she was to do and in response God "told" her to divorce her husband and be with her lover...that He had sent her this lover and wanted her to be with him.
She talked about how she had quit interacting with Christian people because they were mean and judgmental about her leaving her husband for another. She feels complete confidence that God answered her prayer for a wonderful marriage by providing the right man for a new marriage.
Yes, she had slept with her lover, but God was fine with that also. "God is love. I feel love for him. Therefore, this is of God."
Is it?
In this program Dr. Joe Beam discusses whether God sends people lovers to replace their spouses. Dr. Beam usually approaches relationship questions from his educational and social science background. When he speaks, he refers to solid research as he gives relevant examples and replies to specific questions. However, because of this topic (and the questions he continues to receive about it) in this program he refers to Scripture. (Dr. Beam's Bachelor's degree is in Bible. He has more than 30 graduate hours in Bible.) He does give relevant examples, but he also reads verses and ask the listener to consider what they really say.
If you are a Christian and in love with someone other than your spouse...or your Christian spouse is in love with someone other than you, this program will be a fascinating Bible study for you that can bring you peace.
Has your spouse cheated?
Are your friends and family urging you to kick your mate out? Punish him or her? Get on with your life?
But you find yourself wondering if that is what you should do.
If your spouse wants to come back, should you allow it? If you do, can you have a good marriage again or will you always have problems with trust...hurt...maybe even self doubt?
If your spouse is "in love" with someone else and doesn't want to come back, is your marriage over? Is there a way to put it back together? Even if there is, do you have the desire or the strength to go through your pain and make your marriage good again?
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam provides the pros and cons of saving a marriage after infidelity. He explains the three types of extramarital affairs. He gives you the primary points to consider in deciding whether to take back a spouse who strayed...or to win back the spouse who is still straying.
Find more information about why people stray, why they sometimes feel that they are "madly in love" with another, why it can be the best thing for your own life to salvage the marriage, and how it can be done when your spouse is sorry and wants to come back...and how it can be done when your spouse is convinced s/he's in love with someone else and doesn't want to come back.
Having trouble getting your spouse to talk? Maybe you are separated. Maybe you are living in the same house but your spouse doesn't want to talk to you and has completely shut down. This podcast will teach you the 3 things to get to encourage your spouse to talk.
You've prayed. Others have prayed with you...for you. Your children pour out their hearts. Yet, your marriage continues to spiral downward.
Someone on TV said that if only you have enough faith, God will do whatever you ask. (Then s/he asks you for a check to prove your faith...)
Well-meaning friends tell you God is faithful if only you will continue to be...that He will bring about healing for your marriage...and that you should not doubt.
However, time passes, your prayers change from petition to aggravation. Why isn't God listening? Why isn't He doing what you ask? As one lady recently said, "I'm done with God. I've given Him plenty of opportunity to change my husband and He's done nothing."
Can God answer prayers about marriage? Does He? Does He care? Will He intervene in the situations of life in which we find ourselves? Will He change your spouse so that they stop doing the things hurting you, your children, your marriage...and even to themselves?
To answer those questions Dr. Beam welcomes Leighann McCoy. Leighann knows about REAL life. She survived cancer. She fought through major difficulties with her family. Leighann also knows God. She is a prayer warrior. She writes books about prayer, spiritual warfare, especially concerning families (http://amzn.to/2okIEzG). She offers prayer courses on her website http://www.leighannmccoy.com. During this program, she joins Dr. Beam to discuss how people in crisis marriages should pray, what they should expect from God in return, and how to deal with God's answers.
To speak with Leighann and Dr. Beam during the program, call 646.378.0424. The program airs live at 9 p.m. central time, Tuesday, April 11, 2017 at http://www.marriageradio.com/why-wont-god-answer-prayers-for-my-marriage/.
You've prayed. Others have prayed with you...for you. Your children pour out their hearts. Yet, your marriage continues to spiral downward.
Someone on TV tells you that if only you have enough faith, God will do whatever you ask. (Then s/he asks you for a check to prove your faith...)
Well-meaning friends tell you that God is faithful if only you will continue to be...that He will bring about healing for your marriage...and that you should not doubt.
However, time passes, your prayers change from petition to aggravation. Why isn't God listening? Why isn't He doing what you ask? As one lady recently said, "I'm done with God. I've given Him plenty of opportunity to change my husband and He's done nothing."
Can God answer prayers about marriage? Does He? Does He care about your pain? Will He intervene in the messy situations of life in which we find ourselves? Will He change your husband or wife so that they stop doing the things hurting you, your children, your marriage...and even to themselves?
Is God there???
To answer those questions and more, Dr. Joe Beam welcomes special guest Leighann McCoy. Leighann knows about REAL life. She survived cancer. She fought through major difficulties with her family. Leighann also knows God. She is a prayer warrior. She writes great books about prayer, spiritual warfare, especially spiritual warfare and families, and similar topics. (http://amzn.to/2okIEzG) She offers prayer courses - including three new free courses - on her website http://www.leighannmccoy.com. During this program, she joins Dr. Beam to discuss how people in crisis marriages should pray, what they should expect from God in return, and how to deal with God's answers.
To speak with Leighann and Dr. Beam during the program, call 646.378.0424. The program airs live beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, Tuesday, April 11, 2017.
Are you controlling?
Really?
Or is your spouse trying to manipulate you? S/he claims you're controlling because you're an obstacle to him or her doing whatever they wish.
Maybe there's a combination. You have been controlling and now your spouse is using that to manipulate you into inaction by accusing you of being controlling now.
If you are controlling, eventually that behavior will destroy your marriage.
If you're being manipulated, backing off on a matter could make a clear path for your spouse to hurt you.
If you have been controlling, but now you feel you must take a stand to stop your spouse from doing things detrimental to your marriage, stopping your stand might be the worst thing you can do.
So...how do you know?
What do you do?
When do you back off and when do you take your stand?
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains what control in a relationship is. He discusses why people control and how they can stop controlling. He also points out that sometimes there needs to be control...even if in the past your controlling behavior led to a current unpleasant situation.
Finally, Dr. Beam explains step by step how a person who has damaged his or her relationship with a spouse (or children) by controlling can overcome that and renew relationship...even save a marriage.
For all those who listen to the program (and even if you skip the program!), Dr. Beam offers a free eBook about control that includes a thirty-question questionnaire to help you evaluate whether you're controlling or not. It is available at http://your.marriagehelper.com/Control.
Listen at http://www.marriageradio.com/my-spouse-says-im-controlling/
Are you controlling?
Really?
Or is your spouse trying to manipulate you? S/he claims you're controlling because you're an obstacle to him or her doing whatever they wish.
Maybe there's a combination. You have been controlling and now your spouse is using that to manipulate you into inaction by accusing you of being controlling now.
If you are controlling, eventually that behavior will destroy your marriage.
If you're being manipulated, backing off on a matter could make a clear path for your spouse to hurt you.
If you have been controlling, but now you feel you must take a stand to stop your spouse from doing things detrimental to your marriage, stopping your stand might be the worst thing you can do.
So...how do you know?
What do you do?
When do you back off and when do you take your stand?
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains what control in a relationship is. He discusses why people control and how they can stop controlling. He also points out that sometimes there needs to be control...even if in the past your controlling behavior led to a current unpleasant situation.
Finally, Dr. Beam explains step by step how a person who has damaged his or her relationship with a spouse (or children) by controlling can overcome that and renew relationship...even save a marriage.
For all those who listen to the program (and even if you skip the program!), Dr. Beam offers a free eBook about control that includes a thirty-question questionnaire to help you evaluate whether you're controlling or not. It is available at http://your.marriagehelper.com/Control.
Listen at http://www.marriageradio.com/my-spouse-says-im-controlling/
Are you controlling?
Really?
Or is your spouse trying to manipulate you? S/he claims you're controlling because you're an obstacle to him or her doing whatever they wish.
Maybe there's a combination. You have been controlling and now your spouse is using that to manipulate you into inaction by accusing you of being controlling now.
If you are controlling, eventually that behavior will destroy your marriage.
If you're being manipulated, backing off on a matter could make a clear path for your spouse to hurt you.
If you have been controlling, but now you feel you must take a stand to stop your spouse from doing things detrimental to your marriage, stopping your stand might be the worst thing you can do.
So...how do you know?
What do you do?
When do you back off and when do you take your stand?
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains what control in a relationship is. He discusses why people control and how they can stop controlling. He also points out that sometimes there needs to be control...even if in the past your controlling behavior led to a current unpleasant situation.
Finally, Dr. Beam explains step by step how a person who has damaged his or her relationship with a spouse (or children) by controlling can overcome that and renew relationship...even save a marriage.
For all those who listen to the program (and even if you skip the program!), Dr. Beam offers a free eBook about control that includes a thirty-question questionnaire to help you evaluate whether you're controlling or not. It is available at http://your.marriagehelper.com/Control.
Listen at http://www.marriageradio.com/my-spouse-says-im-controlling/
No one wants to be treated as a child...especially by the person that is supposed to be our partner...our equal...our mate.
We don't appreciate being told what to think, how to act, what to feel, or what to believe. Each of us craves being accepted and appreciated for who we are...as we are. When we were children, we understood the need for an authority figure to guide us, teach us, and, sometimes, to command us. But we aren't children and we don't want our husbands or wives telling us what we must do, think, say, or feel to keep from being chastised or punished...or abandoned.
I want...and deserve...a partner with whom I can have union based on love, NOT a relationship based on making him or her happy by yielding to nearly every way s/he thinks things should be done.
In our work with marriages, we found that one of the most common reasons for major marital discord is a spouse who feels controlled, disrespected, or dominated by the other. Interestingly, often the dominating spouse doesn't believe s/he is being controlling.
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, explain why people control others and how they do it. More importantly, they explain how a person being controlled can put an end to that WITHOUT putting an end to the marriage. It won't stop on its own, but it can be stopped when the controlled spouse knows what to do.
During the program Dr. Beam and Ms. Holmes offer free access to this free eBook about control. You may receive that free eBook whether you listen to the program or not by going to this link. Your.MarriageHelper.com/Control
The program is available now on www.MarriageRadio.com, and www.BlogTalkRadio.com.
No one wants to be treated as a child...especially by the person that is supposed to be our partner...our equal...our mate.
We don't appreciate being told what to think, how to act, what to feel, or what to believe. Each of us craves being accepted and appreciated for who we are...as we are. When we were children, we understood the need for an authority figure to guide us, teach us, and, sometimes, to command us. But we aren't children and we don't want our husbands or wives telling us what we must do, think, say, or feel to keep from being chastised or punished...or abandoned.
I want...and deserve...a partner with whom I can have union based on love, NOT a relationship based on making him or her happy by yielding to nearly every way s/he thinks things should be done.
In our work with marriages, we found that one of the most common reasons for major marital discord is a spouse who feels controlled, disrespected, or dominated by the other. Interestingly, often the dominating spouse doesn't believe s/he is being controlling.
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, explain why people control others and how they do it. More importantly, they explain how a person being controlled can put an end to that WITHOUT putting an end to the marriage. It won't stop on its own, but it can be stopped when the controlled spouse knows what to do.
During the program Dr. Beam and Ms. Holmes offer free access to this free eBook about control. You may receive that free eBook whether you listen to the program or not by going to this link. Your.MarriageHelper.com/Control
The program is available now on www.MarriageRadio.com, and www.BlogTalkRadio.com.
No one wants to be treated as a child...especially by the person that is supposed to be our partner...our equal...our mate.
We don't appreciate being told what to think, how to act, what to feel, or what to believe. Each of us craves being accepted and appreciated for who we are...as we are. When we were children, we understood the need for an authority figure to guide us, teach us, and, sometimes, to command us. But we aren't children and we don't want our husbands or wives telling us what we must do, think, say, or feel to keep from being chastised or punished...or abandoned.
I want...and deserve...a partner with whom I can have union based on love, NOT a relationship based on making him or her happy by yielding to nearly every way s/he thinks things should be done.
In our work with marriages, we found that one of the most common reasons for major marital discord is a spouse who feels controlled, disrespected, or dominated by the other. Interestingly, often the dominating spouse doesn't believe s/he is being controlling.
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, explain why people control others and how they do it. More importantly, they explain how a person being controlled can put an end to that WITHOUT putting an end to the marriage. It won't stop on its own, but it can be stopped when the controlled spouse knows what to do.
During the program Dr. Beam and Ms. Holmes offer free access to this free eBook about control. You may receive that free eBook whether you listen to the program or not by going to this link. Your.MarriageHelper.com/Control
The program is available now on www.MarriageRadio.com, and www.BlogTalkRadio.com.
Love. Lots of people think they know what it is...until they realize that they don't.
Think of the hit songs from your lifetime. How many were about wanting to be loved, enjoying amazing love, or longing for lost love? Why those topics? Because most adults fit into one of those three categories. Some wonder where their lover may come from...if at all. Others hope the one they secretly love will finally come to realize it and respond with passion. Many bask in the deep emotions of shared love...and think it will be like this forever. And way too many still love the person who once loved them but now is gone...
So what is love really?
Is it the ecstatic emotion of new romance? Is it the security of trusting the person you love to always love you in return? Is it something that really does last a lifetime or is it fleeting...lasting a few years at best?
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam responds to your questions about love. What it is. How to know if you really are in love. How long it lasts. When it ends. Why it ends. Can it last a lifetime?
And, maybe most important to many, if it has ended can it be rekindled?
The program begins at 9 p.m. (Central), March 22, 2016. You may speak with Dr. Beam by calling 646.378.0424 during the program.
Love. Lots of people think they know what it is...until they realize that they don't.
Think of the hit songs from your lifetime. How many were about wanting to be loved, enjoying amazing love, or longing for lost love? Why those topics? Because most adults fit into one of those three categories. Some wonder where their lover may come from...if at all. Others hope the one they secretly love will finally come to realize it and respond with passion. Many bask in the deep emotions of shared love...and think it will be like this forever. And way too many still love the person who once loved them but now is gone...
So what is love really?
Is it the ecstatic emotion of new romance? Is it the security of trusting the person you love to always love you in return? Is it something that really does last a lifetime or is it fleeting...lasting a few years at best?
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam responds to your questions about love. What it is. How to know if you really are in love. How long it lasts. When it ends. Why it ends. Can it last a lifetime?
And, maybe most important to many, if it has ended can it be rekindled?
The program begins at 9 p.m. (Central), March 22, 2016. You may speak with Dr. Beam by calling 646.378.0424 during the program.
Love. Lots of people think they know what it is...until they realize that they don't.
Think of the hit songs from your lifetime. How many were about wanting to be loved, enjoying amazing love, or longing for lost love? Why those topics? Because most adults fit into one of those three categories. Some wonder where their lover may come from...if at all. Others hope the one they secretly love will finally come to realize it and respond with passion. Many bask in the deep emotions of shared love...and think it will be like this forever. And way too many still love the person who once loved them but now is gone...
So what is love really?
Is it the ecstatic emotion of new romance? Is it the security of trusting the person you love to always love you in return? Is it something that really does last a lifetime or is it fleeting...lasting a few years at best?
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam responds to your questions about love. What it is. How to know if you really are in love. How long it lasts. When it ends. Why it ends. Can it last a lifetime?
And, maybe most important to many, if it has ended can it be rekindled?
The program begins at 9 p.m. (Central), March 22, 2016. You may speak with Dr. Beam by calling 646.378.0424 during the program.
[Episode brought to you by WhatAboutMe.Org - a division of Marriage Helper that helps children navigate through how to deal with their parents' divorce. Donate to the mission at whataboutme.org/donate]
We hear it all the time, "Kids are resilient!"
But is it true?
If I fall down the stairs and break my leg, will my leg heal?
Actually, no it won't heal. If I don't do anything to help my leg heal, then it will only get worse.
If I go to the doctor, get a cast, go to physical therapy, and do all the things necessary for my leg to heal, then yes, it will heal.
Otherwise...you get the picture.
We understand this for every other area of health and wellness in life. But when it comes to thinking about how children are affected during divorce or separation, all of a sudden we expect the children to know exactly what to do to help themselves heal.
And that's not how it happens.
Can children be resilient? YES. Absolutely.
Will they be resilient on their own? Highly unlikely.
It is up to parents, friends, and family members to help children become resilient.
In this episode, we discuss the 3 must-do's in helping your child become resilient.
[REMEMBER: Now through the end of the month, Marriage Helper is offering a $500 travel credit when you register for the Marriage Helper workshop. We'd love to see you there! - your.marriagehelper.com/marriage-workshop]
[Episode brought to you by WhatAboutMe.Org - a division of Marriage Helper that helps children navigate through how to deal with their parents' divorce. Donate to the mission at whataboutme.org/donate]
We hear it all the time, "Kids are resilient!"
But is it true?
If I fall down the stairs and break my leg, will my leg heal?
Actually, no it won't heal. If I don't do anything to help my leg heal, then it will only get worse.
If I go to the doctor, get a cast, go to physical therapy, and do all the things necessary for my leg to heal, then yes, it will heal.
Otherwise...you get the picture.
We understand this for every other area of health and wellness in life. But when it comes to thinking about how children are affected during divorce or separation, all of a sudden we expect the children to know exactly what to do to help themselves heal.
And that's not how it happens.
Can children be resilient? YES. Absolutely.
Will they be resilient on their own? Highly unlikely.
It is up to parents, friends, and family members to help children become resilient.
In this episode, we discuss the 3 must-do's in helping your child become resilient.
[REMEMBER: Now through the end of the month, Marriage Helper is offering a $500 travel credit when you register for the Marriage Helper workshop. We'd love to see you there! - your.marriagehelper.com/marriage-workshop]
Listen at http://www.marriageradio.com/the-3-things-kids-must-have-to-be-resilient-during-separation-and-divorce/
It was a slow decline. 7 years ago is when Brandon and Carrie’s marriage started experiencing troubles, but they didn’t realize it yet. Over the years, they grew apart. Even though they were living in the same house. Work, kids, and the daily occurrences of life started tearing them apart from each other until one day, it seemed like everything came crashing down all at once. What did they do next and where are they now?
That’s what we are going to explore in this week’s episode of Marriage Radio.
At Marriage Helper, we believe in saving marriages and strengthening families. The main ways we do that are through our live workshops and online courses. Visit marriagehelper.com for more information, or call us at 615.472.1161 or 866.903.0990.
It was a slow decline. 7 years ago is when Brandon and Carrie’s marriage started experiencing troubles, but they didn’t realize it yet. Over the years, they grew apart. Even though they were living in the same house. Work, kids, and the daily occurrences of life started tearing them apart from each other until one day, it seemed like everything came crashing down all at once. What did they do next and where are they now?
That’s what we are going to explore in this week’s episode of Marriage Radio.
At Marriage Helper, we believe in saving marriages and strengthening families. The main ways we do that are through our live workshops and online courses. Visit marriagehelper.com for more information, or call us at 615.472.1161 or 866.903.0990.
Many times we have people asking us to hear stories of people who have been through our online course and attended our Marriage Helper workshops.
In this podcast, we interview an online course member and a recent Marriage Helper 911 workshop graduate to find out:
What her marriage was like before getting helpWhy she decided to get helpWhat she learned that made major differences in her marriageHow she got her spouse to agree to go to the workshop with herWhat she learned at the workshop that made all the difference in the worldHow her marriage is doing nowHer HONEST OPINION of what you should do in your situation
Plus - THIS MONTH ONLY (March 2017) special $500 travel credit towards the workshop! Call 615.472.1161 for details.
Visit us at marriagehelper.com
Many times we have people asking us to hear stories of people who have been through our online course and attended our Marriage Helper workshops.
In this podcast, we interview an online course member and a recent Marriage Helper 911 workshop graduate to find out:
What her marriage was like before getting helpWhy she decided to get helpWhat she learned that made major differences in her marriageHow she got her spouse to agree to go to the workshop with herWhat she learned at the workshop that made all the difference in the worldHow her marriage is doing nowHer HONEST OPINION of what you should do in your situation
Plus - THIS MONTH ONLY (March 2017) special $500 travel credit towards the workshop! Call 615.472.1161 for details.
Visit us at marriagehelper.com
Want to work on becoming more attractive, but you feel like there are so many obstacles in your way? Kids, spouse living at home, job, and more?
Here's the question that we received:
"My situation is unique in the sense that my husband and I are not separated. We are in the same house. When it comes to working on my PIES, it's hard at times because we have kids, my husband's hours are all over the place, and I am so busy with our daughter. It's also hard because there's no intimacy...so I'm not very motivated to work on my PIES. How do I do the PIES when are are other obstacles?"
We'll talk about how to overcome these in this episode.
Want to work on becoming more attractive, but you feel like there are so many obstacles in your way? Kids, spouse living at home, job, and more?
Here's the question that we received:
"My situation is unique in the sense that my husband and I are not separated. We are in the same house. When it comes to working on my PIES, it's hard at times because we have kids, my husband's hours are all over the place, and I am so busy with our daughter. It's also hard because there's no intimacy...so I'm not very motivated to work on my PIES. How do I do the PIES when are are other obstacles?"
We'll talk about how to overcome these in this episode.
We fight for marriages. All marriages. No matter what has happened. BUT sometimes they end.
Actually, sometimes they should end.
We realize that sounds as if it is in opposition to our mission. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains when it is not.
We offer many resources on MarriageHelper.com to help save marriages. We provide online courses for the spouse who wishes to save the marriage when the other doesn't. We post many podcasts that address relationship problems and provide valuable, life-altering information.
Our weekend intensive, Marriage Helper 911, has an amazing success rate. Even though the vast majority of couples who attend have one spouse who has NO desire to save the marriage (usually they come to get a deal in the divorce), three out of four couples who go through the workshop actually turn their crisis marriages around and make it good again.
Yet...
Some marriages end.
If you suffer in a marriage - whether you are the one who wants out or the one who wishes to save it - you've asked yourself countless times...
"When is enough, enough?"
"When do I stop trying?"
"How can I know when it's best to end it?"
Dr. Joe Beam gives you the points to consider when making those decisions. What's important. What's selfish. How to find the peace you need in your heart.
Although Dr. Beam cannot tell you the exact moment...actually he won't tell you what you must do; instead he teaches the principles, makes them clear, and then leaves it to you to decide...in this program you can find the answer as to whether to fight for your marriage or end it.
And if the decision is to fight, where to find the right help.
We fight for marriages. All marriages. No matter what has happened. BUT sometimes they end.
Actually, sometimes they should end.
We realize that sounds as if it is in opposition to our mission. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains when it is not.
We offer many resources on MarriageHelper.com to help save marriages. We provide online courses for the spouse who wishes to save the marriage when the other doesn't. We post many podcasts that address relationship problems and provide valuable, life-altering information.
Our weekend intensive, Marriage Helper 911, has an amazing success rate. Even though the vast majority of couples who attend have one spouse who has NO desire to save the marriage (usually they come to get a deal in the divorce), three out of four couples who go through the workshop actually turn their crisis marriages around and make it good again.
Yet...
Some marriages end.
If you suffer in a marriage - whether you are the one who wants out or the one who wishes to save it - you've asked yourself countless times...
"When is enough, enough?"
"When do I stop trying?"
"How can I know when it's best to end it?"
Dr. Joe Beam gives you the points to consider when making those decisions. What's important. What's selfish. How to find the peace you need in your heart.
Although Dr. Beam cannot tell you the exact moment...actually he won't tell you what you must do; instead he teaches the principles, makes them clear, and then leaves it to you to decide...in this program you can find the answer as to whether to fight for your marriage or end it.
And if the decision is to fight, where to find the right help.
We receive so many questions ranging over so many aspects of marriage, relationships, love, sex, and more that we can't get to them all. This show helps alleviate that problem.
Ask anything you wish about any of the topics in the paragraph above. Or other topics about relationships or marriage if there is something you would like to discuss.
There will be a time limit to each call. Therefore, if you take too much time to tell your story, Dr. Beam won't have time to respond. Be succinct so that he can answer and you have time for clarifying questions or to disagree. At the end of the allotted time per caller, Dr. Beam will have to move to the next caller.
It's live, February 23, beginning at 7 p.m. Central time. Listen at www.MarriageRadio.com, BlogTalkRadio or on your smart phone. Call 646-378-0424 during the program and press 1 when you hear the menu if you wish to speak with Dr. Beam.
REMEMBER that for the sake of fairness, there will be a mandatory time limit to each caller.
We receive so many questions ranging over so many aspects of marriage, relationships, love, sex, and more that we can't get to them all. This show helps alleviate that problem.
Ask anything you wish about any of the topics in the paragraph above. Or other topics about relationships or marriage if there is something you would like to discuss.
There will be a time limit to each call. Therefore, if you take too much time to tell your story, Dr. Beam won't have time to respond. Be succinct so that he can answer and you have time for clarifying questions or to disagree. At the end of the allotted time per caller, Dr. Beam will have to move to the next caller.
It's live, February 23, beginning at 7 p.m. Central time. Listen at www.MarriageRadio.com, BlogTalkRadio or on your smart phone. Call 646-378-0424 during the program and press 1 when you hear the menu if you wish to speak with Dr. Beam.
REMEMBER that for the sake of fairness, there will be a mandatory time limit to each caller.
We receive so many questions ranging over so many aspects of marriage, relationships, love, sex, and more that we can't get to them all. This show helps alleviate that problem.
Ask anything you wish about any of the topics in the paragraph above. Or other topics about relationships or marriage if there is something you would like to discuss.
There will be a time limit to each call. Therefore, if you take too much time to tell your story, Dr. Beam won't have time to respond. Be succinct so that he can answer and you have time for clarifying questions or to disagree. At the end of the allotted time per caller, Dr. Beam will have to move to the next caller.
It's live, February 23, beginning at 7 p.m. Central time. Listen at www.MarriageRadio.com, BlogTalkRadio or on your smart phone. Call 646-378-0424 during the program and press 1 when you hear the menu if you wish to speak with Dr. Beam.
REMEMBER that for the sake of fairness, there will be a mandatory time limit to each caller.
How does sexually explicit material affect relationships? With your spouse or with your children? What can you do about it?
In this podcast, we interview Clay Olsen, co-founder of Fight The New Drug, a global movement focused on spreading the word on how this type of media affects relationships.
As Fight The New Drug puts it, "it kills love.
In this podcast, we talk about how sexually explicit material affects marriages, what to do if you have a spouse who is addicted and how to respond.
We also talk about how to parent children in today's society, how to bring up the issue of sexually explicit material, and how to continue those conversations.
For more about Fight the New Drug, visit fightthenewdrug.org.
How does sexually explicit material affect relationships? With your spouse or with your children? What can you do about it?
In this podcast, we interview Clay Olsen, co-founder of Fight The New Drug, a global movement focused on spreading the word on how this type of media affects relationships.
As Fight The New Drug puts it, "it kills love.
In this podcast, we talk about how sexually explicit material affects marriages, what to do if you have a spouse who is addicted and how to respond.
We also talk about how to parent children in today's society, how to bring up the issue of sexually explicit material, and how to continue those conversations.
For more about Fight the New Drug, visit fightthenewdrug.org.
Not every relationship or marriage has a major meltdown...
But when it happens, how do you put things back together?
How do you get past the hurt? The broken trust? The fear that something else is coming...especially when one partner developed a deep emotional relationship with someone else, but has decided to try to make your relationship work again...
How does the straying partner get over the emotional connection with that other person?
How can s/he learn to love you again...and you learn to love him/her again with the security that your relationship will last a lifetime?
There are things to do when reconciling a relationship. There are things NOT to do. There are also "gray" areas where you have to use your wisdom. (Knowing the right principles helps tremendously with this.)
In this program Dr. Joe Beam explains why relationships fail and how they can be put back together again. He explains the principles of reconciliation and the specific do's and don'ts that can make or break the process. He addresses both the straying spouse and the standing spouse.
No matter the age, we hurt deeply when we feel abandoned by someone we thought loved us...or that should have loved us.
The information in this program can be used effectively by an adult dealing with lost love, such as a divorce. It also gives effective directions for helping a spouse...or a potential spouse...risk loving you when deep inside they feel that they cannot trust anyone to always love them.
In this program Dr. Joe Beam and Justin Prince, Program Director for the amazing service to kids What About Me, discuss seven stages kids go through when their parents fight and/or divorce. (Adults often go through the same seven...)
This program gives specific steps and illustrates clearly that path that a parent can take to help his or her children risk loving again. Or help you risk loving again. And show you how to help someone you love trust you enough to love you.
If you have children who have been affected by divorce, parental fighting, or death of a parent, this program is for you.
If you went through these kinds of losses as a child, this program is for you.
If a person you love has trouble loving you because of those kinds of losses, this program is for you.
No matter the age, we hurt deeply when we feel abandoned by someone we thought loved us...or that should have loved us.
The information in this program can be used effectively by an adult dealing with lost love, such as a divorce. It also gives effective directions for helping a spouse...or a potential spouse...risk loving you when deep inside they feel that they cannot trust anyone to always love them.
In this program Dr. Joe Beam and Justin Prince, Program Director for the amazing service to kids What About Me, discuss seven stages kids go through when their parents fight and/or divorce. (Adults often go through the same seven...)
This program gives specific steps and illustrates clearly that path that a parent can take to help his or her children risk loving again. Or help you risk loving again. And show you how to help someone you love trust you enough to love you.
If you have children who have been affected by divorce, parental fighting, or death of a parent, this program is for you.
If you went through these kinds of losses as a child, this program is for you.
If a person you love has trouble loving you because of those kinds of losses, this program is for you.
When Dr. Tennov introduced the concept in the 1970s, it was mostly rejected. We encounter marriage counselors who have never heard of it. But the research is solid. PhD's including anthropologists and biologists and more study it, even having brain scans that teach us much about it.
It's called limerence. It is a state of being "madly in love' to the point that it becomes obsessive and affects the way a person feels, acts, and thinks. It is powerful. It can be beautiful. It often is destructive.
If you search the internet for the word, you'll find many sites discussing it. Unfortunately, some of those are by people who read an article or two - maybe even Tennov's book from back in the day - and think themselves knowledgeable. Some confidently cite things about limerence that Tennov said that we now know by further research not to be the case. Therefore, be careful with what you read on the internet about it. It may lead you to some very wrong conclusions...and those to very wrong actions.
Our knowledge of limerence comes not only from continuing to examine scholarly research, but from the hundreds of thousands of people who have been through workshops, courses, and seminars developed by Dr. Joe Beam. We carefully observe people in our 911 workshops for marriages in crisis who are in limerence. We have done before and after scientific profiles on many. We have in-depth dialogue with others. We have found that limerence has three phases......and that limerence ends......always.
In this program, Dr. Beam discusses the three phases of limerence. He explains what happens within the limerent during each. He explains shy some who end limerence don't go back to their lives as before...and how to help overcome limerence.
When Dr. Tennov introduced the concept in the 1970s, it was mostly rejected. We encounter marriage counselors who have never heard of it. But the research is solid. PhD's including anthropologists and biologists and more study it, even having brain scans that teach us much about it.
It's called limerence. It is a state of being "madly in love' to the point that it becomes obsessive and affects the way a person feels, acts, and thinks. It is powerful. It can be beautiful. It often is destructive.
If you search the internet for the word, you'll find many sites discussing it. Unfortunately, some of those are by people who read an article or two - maybe even Tennov's book from back in the day - and think themselves knowledgeable. Some confidently cite things about limerence that Tennov said that we now know by further research not to be the case. Therefore, be careful with what you read on the internet about it. It may lead you to some very wrong conclusions...and those to very wrong actions.
Our knowledge of limerence comes not only from continuing to examine scholarly research, but from the hundreds of thousands of people who have been through workshops, courses, and seminars developed by Dr. Joe Beam. We carefully observe people in our 911 workshops for marriages in crisis who are in limerence. We have done before and after scientific profiles on many. We have in-depth dialogue with others. We have found that limerence has three phases......and that limerence ends......always.
In this program, Dr. Beam discusses the three phases of limerence. He explains what happens within the limerent during each. He explains shy some who end limerence don't go back to their lives as before...and how to help overcome limerence.
Maybe your marriage is wonderful. Maybe not. Either way, you're surrounded by friends or relatives whose marriages are in trouble.
Most of our programs speak directly to those whose marriages need help. However, in this program, Dr. Joe Beam shares basic but valid knowledge with you so that when you encounter someone in marital distress, you can offer more than a kind word. No, it won't make you a counselor or therapist. It will help you know practical things to do or say that can offer help.
If you're thinking that you shouldn't reach out to others if your marriage is in distress, think again. Not only will it help them, it can help you with your marriage. If you're happy with life as it is and don't want to get involved in the problems of others, please reconsider. Ignoring or avoiding hurting people now may come back at you later when you need help. We are all in this together.
Dr. Beam and Kimberly Holmes (CEO of Marriage Helper) will guide you in how to help. They will also offer free access to more information that will equip you even further. If you wish to call during the program and ask questions about how to help a specific situation, or to clarify the information shared, please do so at 646-378-0424 during the live airing Tuesday night, January 24, beginning 9 p.m. Central time.
According to the CDC, the divorce rate in America is 3.1 per 1,000 population. That comes to more than a million divorces per year. (Of the 45 states that report marriage/divorce stats, there were 800,909 divorces in 2015. California, Georgia, Hawaii, Indiana, and Minnesota do not report marital stats. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/dvs/national_marriage_divorce_rates_00-15.pdf)
Isn't it time for all of us to do something about this. You can help. We'll show you how.
Maybe your marriage is wonderful. Maybe not. Either way, you're surrounded by friends or relatives whose marriages are in trouble.
Most of our programs speak directly to those whose marriages need help. However, in this program, Dr. Joe Beam shares basic but valid knowledge with you so that when you encounter someone in marital distress, you can offer more than a kind word. No, it won't make you a counselor or therapist. It will help you know practical things to do or say that can offer help.
If you're thinking that you shouldn't reach out to others if your marriage is in distress, think again. Not only will it help them, it can help you with your marriage. If you're happy with life as it is and don't want to get involved in the problems of others, please reconsider. Ignoring or avoiding hurting people now may come back at you later when you need help. We are all in this together.
Dr. Beam and Kimberly Holmes (CEO of Marriage Helper) will guide you in how to help. They will also offer free access to more information that will equip you even further. If you wish to call during the program and ask questions about how to help a specific situation, or to clarify the information shared, please do so at 646-378-0424 during the live airing Tuesday night, January 24, beginning 9 p.m. Central time.
According to the CDC, the divorce rate in America is 3.1 per 1,000 population. That comes to more than a million divorces per year. (Of the 45 states that report marriage/divorce stats, there were 800,909 divorces in 2015. California, Georgia, Hawaii, Indiana, and Minnesota do not report marital stats. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/dvs/national_marriage_divorce_rates_00-15.pdf)
Isn't it time for all of us to do something about this. You can help. We'll show you how.
We hear it often, "How can I forgive myself for what I've done?"
In this program, you will find the answer.
If you wonder if guilt a good thing or a bad thing, it's both.
People who never feel guilt are scary. Think sociopaths or psychopaths.
People who feel overwhelming guilt are miserable. They can't function well in life.
Sometimes a person involved in something that violates his/her beliefs and values feels guilt for a while...then goes through a period of feeling little to no guilt...and finally feels strong self-recrimination, sadness, and a compulsion to avoid those s/he hurt.
If you struggle with guilt, or if someone you love struggles with guilt, this program is for you.
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam discusses why we feel guilty, why that is a good thing...but also how guilt can become a cage that makes life miserable. He will explain how to deal with guilt in effective ways. He will show you the path to find peace again and to resume life in its fullness. He will show you how to forgive yourself. And how to find forgiveness from others.
If you wish, you may call during the program to ask questions, make comments, or even disagree. Call during the live program beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, Tuesday, January 17. The number is (646) 378-0424.
We hear it often, "How can I forgive myself for what I've done?"
In this program, you will find the answer.
If you wonder if guilt a good thing or a bad thing, it's both.
People who never feel guilt are scary. Think sociopaths or psychopaths.
People who feel overwhelming guilt are miserable. They can't function well in life.
Sometimes a person involved in something that violates his/her beliefs and values feels guilt for a while...then goes through a period of feeling little to no guilt...and finally feels strong self-recrimination, sadness, and a compulsion to avoid those s/he hurt.
If you struggle with guilt, or if someone you love struggles with guilt, this program is for you.
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam discusses why we feel guilty, why that is a good thing...but also how guilt can become a cage that makes life miserable. He will explain how to deal with guilt in effective ways. He will show you the path to find peace again and to resume life in its fullness. He will show you how to forgive yourself. And how to find forgiveness from others.
If you wish, you may call during the program to ask questions, make comments, or even disagree. Call during the live program beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, Tuesday, January 17. The number is (646) 378-0424.
Usually more divorces are filed in January than any other month?
Why?
And...since we're asking...why does anyone file for divorce?
In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam explains the underlying reason for wanting out of a marriage. He shares how various situations and circumstances generally all come back to this one reason.
By understanding the reason, the spouse who doesn't want the divorce has a better chance of changing things so that the divorce doesn't happen.
Oh...and Dr. Beam will also explain why January typically is the month most divorces are filed.
You may call during the program to speak with Dr. Beam to ask questions, make comments, or to disagree. All callers are welcome - 646) 378-0424
The program begins at 9 p.m. Central time, January 10, 2017.
Usually more divorces are filed in January than any other month?
Why?
And...since we're asking...why does anyone file for divorce?
In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam explains the underlying reason for wanting out of a marriage. He shares how various situations and circumstances generally all come back to this one reason.
By understanding the reason, the spouse who doesn't want the divorce has a better chance of changing things so that the divorce doesn't happen.
Oh...and Dr. Beam will also explain why January typically is the month most divorces are filed.
You may call during the program to speak with Dr. Beam to ask questions, make comments, or to disagree. All callers are welcome - 646) 378-0424
The program begins at 9 p.m. Central time, January 10, 2017.
Great marriages have great sex.
Not just sex.
Not just good sex.
Great sex!
As Dr. Beam earned his PhD through the University of Sydney (rated one of the top 50 universities in the world), he concentrated his research on the correlations between sexual satisfaction and marital satisfaction. Many scholarly studies agree that they rise or fall together. Want a great relationship, have great sex. Want great sex, have a great relationship.
In this program Dr. Beam focuses on research about the difference between good sex and great sex. Very interesting research identified eight factors of great sex. Dr. Beam will explain each of them. He teaches this methodology for great sex every semester in his human sexuality class at one of Nashville's leading universities. Now he shares them with you.
Dr. Beam invites your calls during the program to ask questions, make comments, seek clarification, or disagree. You may even ask questions about sex or sexual matters that are not specifically addressed in the 8 Factors of Great Sex. You won't have to reveal your identity if talking about sex makes you uneasy. During the program call in at 646-378-0424.
The program begins at 9 p.m. Central time.
Great marriages have great sex.
Not just sex.
Not just good sex.
Great sex!
As Dr. Beam earned his PhD through the University of Sydney (rated one of the top 50 universities in the world), he concentrated his research on the correlations between sexual satisfaction and marital satisfaction. Many scholarly studies agree that they rise or fall together. Want a great relationship, have great sex. Want great sex, have a great relationship.
In this program Dr. Beam focuses on research about the difference between good sex and great sex. Very interesting research identified eight factors of great sex. Dr. Beam will explain each of them. He teaches this methodology for great sex every semester in his human sexuality class at one of Nashville's leading universities. Now he shares them with you.
Dr. Beam invites your calls during the program to ask questions, make comments, seek clarification, or disagree. You may even ask questions about sex or sexual matters that are not specifically addressed in the 8 Factors of Great Sex. You won't have to reveal your identity if talking about sex makes you uneasy. During the program call in at 646-378-0424.
The program begins at 9 p.m. Central time.
As we end 2016 and move into 2017, it's time to look forward into what the future holds.
Just because things have been a certain way in the past does not mean that they have to be that way in the future.
In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam and CEO of Marriage Helper Kimberly Holmes will teach you how YOU can change your future, no matter what your past has been, and no matter what your situation is. Believe it or not, you have the power to change a lot of things by focusing solely on yourself.
We will teach you how to create goals and 4 different areas of life to set goals in: Physically, Intellectually, Emotionally and Spiritually. We will explain what each of those areas means and what kind of goals to set in each areas.
Ultimately, this will help you become more attractive and create stronger, long-lasting relationships.
As we end 2016 and move into 2017, it's time to look forward into what the future holds.
Just because things have been a certain way in the past does not mean that they have to be that way in the future.
In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam and CEO of Marriage Helper Kimberly Holmes will teach you how YOU can change your future, no matter what your past has been, and no matter what your situation is. Believe it or not, you have the power to change a lot of things by focusing solely on yourself.
We will teach you how to create goals and 4 different areas of life to set goals in: Physically, Intellectually, Emotionally and Spiritually. We will explain what each of those areas means and what kind of goals to set in each areas.
Ultimately, this will help you become more attractive and create stronger, long-lasting relationships.
What is a mid-life crisis? What age does a mid-life crisis happen? What are the signs and symptoms of a mid-life crisis?
If your spouse is going through a big change in life, these are probably things that you have searched for answers.
Do you think that your spouse is going through a mid-life crisis? What should you do? Can you keep your marriage from falling apart?
In this podcast we discuss how to understand what is really happening with your spouse (hint: it's NOT a mid-life crisis), and how you can respond in a way that will actually bring your marriage back together instead of tearing it apart.
For more information on the Save My Marriage course, click here: your.marriagehelper.com/savemymarriage
For more information on the MH 911 Workshop, click here: your.marriagehelper.com/marriage-workshop
For more free articles and resources, see www.marriagehelper.com
What is a mid-life crisis? What age does a mid-life crisis happen? What are the signs and symptoms of a mid-life crisis?
If your spouse is going through a big change in life, these are probably things that you have searched for answers.
Do you think that your spouse is going through a mid-life crisis? What should you do? Can you keep your marriage from falling apart?
In this podcast we discuss how to understand what is really happening with your spouse (hint: it's NOT a mid-life crisis), and how you can respond in a way that will actually bring your marriage back together instead of tearing it apart.
For more information on the Save My Marriage course, click here: your.marriagehelper.com/savemymarriage
For more information on the MH 911 Workshop, click here: your.marriagehelper.com/marriage-workshop
For more free articles and resources, see www.marriagehelper.com
Married? Separated? Divorced? This podcast is ESSENTIAL for getting through the holidays without going crazy.
Justin Prince, program director of What About Me (a site for children and parents experiencing divorce), joins us to reveal THREE KEY THINGS to do to avoid having a stressful, terrible holiday season filled with fighting, disagreements and hurt feelings.
This is especially crucial if you have kids...and even more crucial if you are separated or divorced.
You'll be surprised at just how easy it is to implement these three steps to have a better holiday season.
Married? Separated? Divorced? This podcast is ESSENTIAL for getting through the holidays without going crazy.
Justin Prince, program director of What About Me (a site for children and parents experiencing divorce), joins us to reveal THREE KEY THINGS to do to avoid having a stressful, terrible holiday season filled with fighting, disagreements and hurt feelings.
This is especially crucial if you have kids...and even more crucial if you are separated or divorced.
You'll be surprised at just how easy it is to implement these three steps to have a better holiday season.
There are a ton of "what ifs" that go through someone's mind when their spouse is in love with someone else.
What if the affair doesn't end? What if the affair does end, but my spouse still doesn't come home? Can I trust again? Can we make it work?
On this show, Kimberly Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper will interview Richard and Petra. Richard and Petra saved their marriage after his affair, but it wasn't easy. Some days it looked like it wasn't ever going to be saved.
But it happened.
Learn more about their story and get hope from this awesome couple on this show.
There are a ton of "what ifs" that go through someone's mind when their spouse is in love with someone else.
What if the affair doesn't end? What if the affair does end, but my spouse still doesn't come home? Can I trust again? Can we make it work?
On this show, Kimberly Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper will interview Richard and Petra. Richard and Petra saved their marriage after his affair, but it wasn't easy. Some days it looked like it wasn't ever going to be saved.
But it happened.
Learn more about their story and get hope from this awesome couple on this show.
When you love deeply, it hurts to lose that love. Whether the person you love dies, abandons you, cheats on you, turns on you, or continues to live in the same house but with no love shown, you will find yourself in the powerful grasp of grief.
We see it with people whose spouses fall in love with another. We witness it in a straying spouse who decides to come home but now has to deal with the loss of the other relationship. We feel our hearts break when it is a child struggling to understand why a parent isn't there any longer. We hurt for the parent who loses a child to death.
Is there hope?
Can life be good again?
Yes. There is a process. It works.
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam brings on special guest David Matthews. Along with his wife Debbie, he founded Spark of Life (www.sparkoflife.org) in 2008. Spark of Life exists to instill hope that, though life can never be the same after loss, life can be rich and fulfilling. Among other resources, they offer Grief Recovery Retreats to those who have experienced loss.
David and Debbie are also certified leaders of Dr. Beam's intensive weekends for marriages in trouble.
During this live call-in program, David will explain the process for dealing with loss of love so that life can again be full. He and Dr. Beam will also take callers who are dealing with the loss of love...from losing a spouse, to losing a parent, to losing a child, to losing a lover...or whatever loss you are experiencing or have experienced. Call live beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, Tuesday, November 15 by dialing 646-378-0424.
If your children are suffering loss just as you are - (for example, the other parent has left) - invite them to listen to the program with you. After the program, you can find the recording on iTunes by subscribing free to Marriage Radio. Share the recording link with anyone you believe will benefit from this.
When you love deeply, it hurts to lose that love. Whether the person you love dies, abandons you, cheats on you, turns on you, or continues to live in the same house but with no love shown, you will find yourself in the powerful grasp of grief.
We see it with people whose spouses fall in love with another. We witness it in a straying spouse who decides to come home but now has to deal with the loss of the other relationship. We feel our hearts break when it is a child struggling to understand why a parent isn't there any longer. We hurt for the parent who loses a child to death.
Is there hope?
Can life be good again?
Yes. There is a process. It works.
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam brings on special guest David Matthews. Along with his wife Debbie, he founded Spark of Life (www.sparkoflife.org) in 2008. Spark of Life exists to instill hope that, though life can never be the same after loss, life can be rich and fulfilling. Among other resources, they offer Grief Recovery Retreats to those who have experienced loss.
David and Debbie are also certified leaders of Dr. Beam's intensive weekends for marriages in trouble.
During this live call-in program, David will explain the process for dealing with loss of love so that life can again be full. He and Dr. Beam will also take callers who are dealing with the loss of love...from losing a spouse, to losing a parent, to losing a child, to losing a lover...or whatever loss you are experiencing or have experienced. Call live beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, Tuesday, November 15 by dialing 646-378-0424.
If your children are suffering loss just as you are - (for example, the other parent has left) - invite them to listen to the program with you. After the program, you can find the recording on iTunes by subscribing free to Marriage Radio. Share the recording link with anyone you believe will benefit from this.
You know they're thinking it, even if they don't say it out loud.
"What about me? Does anyone care about my hurt? My fear? My future?"
You can help these kids. The first step is easy. Tell us your story if you lost a parent to divorce or death. We'll use it to help kids.
How?
To help parents realize the hurt. To inform those in positions to help if only they understand the deep pain.
One of the greatest fears of any child is losing a parent. Not just to death, but by the family splitting up. We are starting a new department within our nonprofit just to help kids (and their parents) when the family is no longer intact. Kids whose Dad or Mom left. Kids whose parent died. Kids raised by others than their parents.
We need your personal experiences so that we can use your words to help children whose parents are fighting, divorcing, or divorced.
In the program, Dr. Beam asks that anyone who has lived through their parents' divorce (or is living through it now) to call and tell how it affected you then and affects you now.
Please note that we will record your quotes and use them to help our new project to help kids. We won't use your name unless you tell us we can.
If you are under 18, please call with your parent with you so that s/he can give us verbal permission to record you and use your quotes.
If you are married and seeing the effect on your children by your spouse's wanting out of the marriage, please call and tell us about it.
If when you were a child your parents divorced - or even if they stayed together and fought constantly - please call and tell us about your experiences.
Even if you called when we had a similar program a few weeks ago, please call again. (We didn't get your permission to use your voice during that program.)
Call beginning at 9 p.m. Central time at 646-378-0424.
You know they're thinking it, even if they don't say it out loud.
"What about me? Does anyone care about my hurt? My fear? My future?"
You can help these kids. The first step is easy. Tell us your story if you lost a parent to divorce or death. We'll use it to help kids.
How?
To help parents realize the hurt. To inform those in positions to help if only they understand the deep pain.
One of the greatest fears of any child is losing a parent. Not just to death, but by the family splitting up. We are starting a new department within our nonprofit just to help kids (and their parents) when the family is no longer intact. Kids whose Dad or Mom left. Kids whose parent died. Kids raised by others than their parents.
We need your personal experiences so that we can use your words to help children whose parents are fighting, divorcing, or divorced.
In the program, Dr. Beam asks that anyone who has lived through their parents' divorce (or is living through it now) to call and tell how it affected you then and affects you now.
Please note that we will record your quotes and use them to help our new project to help kids. We won't use your name unless you tell us we can.
If you are under 18, please call with your parent with you so that s/he can give us verbal permission to record you and use your quotes.
If you are married and seeing the effect on your children by your spouse's wanting out of the marriage, please call and tell us about it.
If when you were a child your parents divorced - or even if they stayed together and fought constantly - please call and tell us about your experiences.
Even if you called when we had a similar program a few weeks ago, please call again. (We didn't get your permission to use your voice during that program.)
Call beginning at 9 p.m. Central time at 646-378-0424.
Can every troubled marriage be saved? We believe nearly all can. However, not all will.
Sometimes one spouse does all s/he can to save the marriage. They learn, put into practice the right things, make right the things they did wrong, demonstrate remarkable love, patience, and...forgiveness. Yet, the other mate doesn't respond. Maybe it's another person. Maybe a different lifestyle they want to pursue.
Is there a time when the spouse striving to save the marriage should stop trying and accept that no matter what s/he does the marriage will end?
Yes.
When s/he makes that decision, are their things s/he should understand and do to build a new life that can be fulfilling and happy?
Yes.
Don't misunderstand, Dr. Beam fights for marriages. He encourages people not to give up easily. He and the amazing team at www.MarriageHelper.com offer many resources to help save marriages...even those that everyone else has given up on...and make those marriages good again.
But, sadly, the team knows that some marriages will end.
In this program, Dr. Beam shares thoughts about when it's time to move on. To accept that the mate isn't coming back. As an important part of that, he also shares what to understand and put into action that will help heal the heart and open new opportunities for love, fulfillment, and happiness.
During the program, you may talk with Dr. Beam by calling 646-378-0424. The program airs live beginning at 9 p.m. Central time on Tuesday, November 1.
Can every troubled marriage be saved? We believe nearly all can. However, not all will.
Sometimes one spouse does all s/he can to save the marriage. They learn, put into practice the right things, make right the things they did wrong, demonstrate remarkable love, patience, and...forgiveness. Yet, the other mate doesn't respond. Maybe it's another person. Maybe a different lifestyle they want to pursue.
Is there a time when the spouse striving to save the marriage should stop trying and accept that no matter what s/he does the marriage will end?
Yes.
When s/he makes that decision, are their things s/he should understand and do to build a new life that can be fulfilling and happy?
Yes.
Don't misunderstand, Dr. Beam fights for marriages. He encourages people not to give up easily. He and the amazing team at www.MarriageHelper.com offer many resources to help save marriages...even those that everyone else has given up on...and make those marriages good again.
But, sadly, the team knows that some marriages will end.
In this program, Dr. Beam shares thoughts about when it's time to move on. To accept that the mate isn't coming back. As an important part of that, he also shares what to understand and put into action that will help heal the heart and open new opportunities for love, fulfillment, and happiness.
During the program, you may talk with Dr. Beam by calling 646-378-0424. The program airs live beginning at 9 p.m. Central time on Tuesday, November 1.
You've heard about the Save My Marriage Course that Marriage Helper offers...but is it right for you? How does it really work? Listen to this for some great insight.
We talk about how the course came to be, what kind of marital situations it works best for (and what situations it DOESN'T work for!), and how the course works.
Hint: you get lifetime access ;)
Join the course by October 31, 2016 and get 50% off with code MH50. Go to www.marriagehelper.com/savemymarriage for more info.
You've heard about the Save My Marriage Course that Marriage Helper offers...but is it right for you? How does it really work? Listen to this for some great insight.
We talk about how the course came to be, what kind of marital situations it works best for (and what situations it DOESN'T work for!), and how the course works.
Hint: you get lifetime access ;)
Join the course by October 31, 2016 and get 50% off with code MH50. Go to www.marriagehelper.com/savemymarriage for more info.
Rather than starting with a theme or subject as he usually does, in this program Dr. Joe Beam opens the mic for callers on any subject or area of relationships.
Love, sex, dating, rescuing lost love, salvaging a troubled marriage, parenting, or any other subject that you wish to discuss.
If you are a regular caller to this program, we ask that you allow new callers first chance to ask their questions or make their comments.
The program begins 9 p.m. Central time tonight, October 25, 2016. You can call during the program at 646-378-0424. You may listen on your phone or press 1 to signal that you wish to speak with Dr. Beam. You may also listen on www.MarriageRadio.com.
Rather than starting with a theme or subject as he usually does, in this program Dr. Joe Beam opens the mic for callers on any subject or area of relationships.
Love, sex, dating, rescuing lost love, salvaging a troubled marriage, parenting, or any other subject that you wish to discuss.
If you are a regular caller to this program, we ask that you allow new callers first chance to ask their questions or make their comments.
The program begins 9 p.m. Central time tonight, October 25, 2016. You can call during the program at 646-378-0424. You may listen on your phone or press 1 to signal that you wish to speak with Dr. Beam. You may also listen on www.MarriageRadio.com.
Dr. Beam explained it when a guest on the Montel Williams Show. Falling in love is a process. If you follow the process, you fall in love whether you intend to or not. If you vacate or violate the process, you fall out of love whether you intend to or not.
So what's the process?
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains the LovePath, the process people go through as they fall in love with another. It has four steps or phases. He will explain each and how they lead to love...
...and how going down the LovePath the wrong way causes love to fail.
Understanding the LovePath can help you fall in love, grow in love, or, if necessary, rescue lost love
During the program you may talk with Dr. Beam or ask questions by calling 646-378-0424. The program begins at 9 p.m. Central time on Tuesday, October 18, 2016.
Dr. Beam explained it when a guest on the Montel Williams Show. Falling in love is a process. If you follow the process, you fall in love whether you intend to or not. If you vacate or violate the process, you fall out of love whether you intend to or not.
So what's the process?
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains the LovePath, the process people go through as they fall in love with another. It has four steps or phases. He will explain each and how they lead to love...
...and how going down the LovePath the wrong way causes love to fail.
Understanding the LovePath can help you fall in love, grow in love, or, if necessary, rescue lost love
During the program you may talk with Dr. Beam or ask questions by calling 646-378-0424. The program begins at 9 p.m. Central time on Tuesday, October 18, 2016.
What does it mean - and what do you do - if your spouse has had more than one affair?
Does that indicate there is no hope? That you should end it and get away as fast as you can? Or is it possible to save your marriage...and save your spouse from any further infidelity?
What do the affairs say about your spouse? Is s/he a sex addict? Serial adulterer? Maybe. But perhaps there is something else going on that can be addressed and, if you spouse has a conscience, it can be fixed.
In this program Dr. Joe Beam discusses what he has learned by working with straying spouses over the years. The ones who strayed once and never again. The ones who strayed more than once. The ones who strayed many times.
Rather than taking questions as he normally does, Dr. Beam encourages anyone who is in an affair or has had an affair - especially those who have had more than one affair - to call him during the program. If you call, you will be treated with respect and dignity. Dr. Beam would like to hear your story. He would also appreciate the opportunity to ask you questions...not to make you feel guilty or chastise you...but to learn from you and just maybe help you learn something about yourself. Call live during the program at 646-378-0424. It begins at 9 p.m. Central time.
Whether you have strayed...or your spouse has strayed...this will be a program that will give insight and understanding to the causes...and, if you desire, to the cures.
What does it mean - and what do you do - if your spouse has had more than one affair?
Does that indicate there is no hope? That you should end it and get away as fast as you can? Or is it possible to save your marriage...and save your spouse from any further infidelity?
What do the affairs say about your spouse? Is s/he a sex addict? Serial adulterer? Maybe. But perhaps there is something else going on that can be addressed and, if you spouse has a conscience, it can be fixed.
In this program Dr. Joe Beam discusses what he has learned by working with straying spouses over the years. The ones who strayed once and never again. The ones who strayed more than once. The ones who strayed many times.
Rather than taking questions as he normally does, Dr. Beam encourages anyone who is in an affair or has had an affair - especially those who have had more than one affair - to call him during the program. If you call, you will be treated with respect and dignity. Dr. Beam would like to hear your story. He would also appreciate the opportunity to ask you questions...not to make you feel guilty or chastise you...but to learn from you and just maybe help you learn something about yourself. Call live during the program at 646-378-0424. It begins at 9 p.m. Central time.
Whether you have strayed...or your spouse has strayed...this will be a program that will give insight and understanding to the causes...and, if you desire, to the cures.
Sometimes, marriage hurts. Sometimes that pain lasts longer than seems bearable. What can you do when marriage hurts? How can you overcome the pain? We'll teach you in this episode.
Joined by Tina Coleman, a Marriage Helper Save My Marriage course member, a volunteer community manager for the Marriage Helper online communities, and an all around amazing person. Tina will share her amazing attitude and spirit.
We will hear what happened in her marriage, how she handled it, and what made all the difference in the world.
The information in this podcast is the difference between a strong, bright future or giving up all hope...in the end, the choice is yours. But we want to teach you how to make the choices to have a BETTER future.
Listen live on Tuesday nights at 9 pm, or subscribe on iTunes.
Sometimes, marriage hurts. Sometimes that pain lasts longer than seems bearable. What can you do when marriage hurts? How can you overcome the pain? We'll teach you in this episode.
Joined by Tina Coleman, a Marriage Helper Save My Marriage course member, a volunteer community manager for the Marriage Helper online communities, and an all around amazing person. Tina will share her amazing attitude and spirit.
We will hear what happened in her marriage, how she handled it, and what made all the difference in the world.
The information in this podcast is the difference between a strong, bright future or giving up all hope...in the end, the choice is yours. But we want to teach you how to make the choices to have a BETTER future.
Listen live on Tuesday nights at 9 pm, or subscribe on iTunes.
If you have an extramarital affair, you can ruin your child's chances for having happy love when s/he is grown. No matter what age the child is when you have the affair...even if your "child" is now old enough to be in college.
Having an affair doesn't only deceiving your spouse, it often involves deceiving yourself...especially about the effect your actions have on your children now and in their future.
Even if the marriage doesn't end in divorce, infidelity negatively affects kids. They often view their parent's cheating to be against them. Their security is threatened. Their trust is broken. They experience humiliation and shame. As adults they often fear their own spouse being unfaithful and live jealous lives. Sometimes their fear is strong enough to prevent their having loving relationships. And, sometimes, they themselves become more likely to cheat on their partners.
If divorce occurs, it gets worse. Some people say "kids are resilient; they'll be fine." The evidence is quite to the contrary. Ample research exists about the long-term effect of divorce on children including things such as poorer physical health than children from intact families, persistent problems with fears of betrayal and abandonment, increased anxiety in late teens and early 20s, resentment and anger, and low life satisfaction. Additionally, they may participate in sexual intercourse earlier, have a reduced ability to develop and maintain relationships, have a greater likelihood to demonstrate delinquent behaviors, and be more likely to go through a divorce themselves. (All documented in valid research.)
In this program Dr. Joe Beam discusses how affairs affect children, whether divorce or not. He will take calls during the program from those whose parents divorced. Call 646-378-0424 during the program to speak to Dr. Beam.
If you have an extramarital affair, you can ruin your child's chances for having happy love when s/he is grown. No matter what age the child is when you have the affair...even if your "child" is now old enough to be in college.
Having an affair doesn't only deceiving your spouse, it often involves deceiving yourself...especially about the effect your actions have on your children now and in their future.
Even if the marriage doesn't end in divorce, infidelity negatively affects kids. They often view their parent's cheating to be against them. Their security is threatened. Their trust is broken. They experience humiliation and shame. As adults they often fear their own spouse being unfaithful and live jealous lives. Sometimes their fear is strong enough to prevent their having loving relationships. And, sometimes, they themselves become more likely to cheat on their partners.
If divorce occurs, it gets worse. Some people say "kids are resilient; they'll be fine." The evidence is quite to the contrary. Ample research exists about the long-term effect of divorce on children including things such as poorer physical health than children from intact families, persistent problems with fears of betrayal and abandonment, increased anxiety in late teens and early 20s, resentment and anger, and low life satisfaction. Additionally, they may participate in sexual intercourse earlier, have a reduced ability to develop and maintain relationships, have a greater likelihood to demonstrate delinquent behaviors, and be more likely to go through a divorce themselves. (All documented in valid research.)
In this program Dr. Joe Beam discusses how affairs affect children, whether divorce or not. He will take calls during the program from those whose parents divorced. Call 646-378-0424 during the program to speak to Dr. Beam.
Good marriage counselors are worth their weight in gold.
The others...let's just say they aren't. (If you've had a bad experience with a marriage counselor, you likely already inserted your own negative sentence.)
We hear from thousands of people every year about their marriages. From those who convinced their spouses to go to marriage counseling, we very often hear how the experience hurt their marriage rather than helped.
Is that the fault of the couple or at least one of the spouses? Obviously, it could be. But could it be the fault of the counselor? Yes.
We hear people say their counselor told them they should divorce because their problems aren't solvable. Others say that the counselor told them that s/he will help them figure out how to divorce amicably but there is no need to try to save the marriage because one of them doesn't want that.
One woman told us that her counselor very early in their sessions told the husband he should divorce her. When the woman confronted the counselor about that advice in a private session, the counselor said that she thought it was the best way to make the husband realize how much he would lose and that maybe then he would come back to the marriage.
Really? How could she think THAT will make things better?
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes, Executive Director of Marriage Helper, discuss what to do when marriage counseling doesn't work or if counseling did more harm to your marriage than good. Also, they give suggestions on how to find the right counselor to help you with your marriage. They also explain the difference in a turn-around intensive and traditional counseling.
For those whose spouses won't go to marriage counseling, they share how to convince your spouse to go with you for marriage help. During the program you may ask your questions or share your comments by calling 646-378-0424.
Good marriage counselors are worth their weight in gold.
The others...let's just say they aren't. (If you've had a bad experience with a marriage counselor, you likely already inserted your own negative sentence.)
We hear from thousands of people every year about their marriages. From those who convinced their spouses to go to marriage counseling, we very often hear how the experience hurt their marriage rather than helped.
Is that the fault of the couple or at least one of the spouses? Obviously, it could be. But could it be the fault of the counselor? Yes.
We hear people say their counselor told them they should divorce because their problems aren't solvable. Others say that the counselor told them that s/he will help them figure out how to divorce amicably but there is no need to try to save the marriage because one of them doesn't want that.
One woman told us that her counselor very early in their sessions told the husband he should divorce her. When the woman confronted the counselor about that advice in a private session, the counselor said that she thought it was the best way to make the husband realize how much he would lose and that maybe then he would come back to the marriage.
Really? How could she think THAT will make things better?
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes, Executive Director of Marriage Helper, discuss what to do when marriage counseling doesn't work or if counseling did more harm to your marriage than good. Also, they give suggestions on how to find the right counselor to help you with your marriage. They also explain the difference in a turn-around intensive and traditional counseling.
For those whose spouses won't go to marriage counseling, they share how to convince your spouse to go with you for marriage help. During the program you may ask your questions or share your comments by calling 646-378-0424.
Not every relationship or marriage has a major meltdown...
But when it happens, how do you put things back together?
How do you get past the hurt? The broken trust? The fear that something else is coming...especially when one partner developed a deep emotional relationship with someone else, but has decided to try to make your relationship work again...
How does the straying partner get over the emotional connection with that other person?
How can s/he learn to love you again...and you learn to love him/her again with the security that your relationship will last a lifetime?
There are things to do when reconciling a relationship. There are things NOT to do. There are also "gray" areas where you have to use your wisdom. (Knowing the right principles helps tremendously with this.)
In this program Dr. Joe Beam explains why relationships fail and how they can be put back together again. He explains the principles of reconciliation and the specific do's and don'ts that can make or break the process. He addresses both the straying spouse and the standing spouse.
Call during the live broadcast if you wish to ask questions or make comments. (Please make your questions or comments about this subject...but Dr. Beam will take other relationship questions as well.) Call 646-378-0424 during the program to listen via your phone. If you wish to speak to Dr. Beam press 1 when you hear the menu. Of course you can listen via your computer or tablet at www.MarriageRadio.com or on BlogTalkRadio.
Not every relationship or marriage has a major meltdown...
But when it happens, how do you put things back together?
How do you get past the hurt? The broken trust? The fear that something else is coming...especially when one partner developed a deep emotional relationship with someone else, but has decided to try to make your relationship work again...
How does the straying partner get over the emotional connection with that other person?
How can s/he learn to love you again...and you learn to love him/her again with the security that your relationship will last a lifetime?
There are things to do when reconciling a relationship. There are things NOT to do. There are also "gray" areas where you have to use your wisdom. (Knowing the right principles helps tremendously with this.)
In this program Dr. Joe Beam explains why relationships fail and how they can be put back together again. He explains the principles of reconciliation and the specific do's and don'ts that can make or break the process. He addresses both the straying spouse and the standing spouse.
Call during the live broadcast if you wish to ask questions or make comments. (Please make your questions or comments about this subject...but Dr. Beam will take other relationship questions as well.) Call 646-378-0424 during the program to listen via your phone. If you wish to speak to Dr. Beam press 1 when you hear the menu. Of course you can listen via your computer or tablet at www.MarriageRadio.com or on BlogTalkRadio.
Have you ever prayed about love? Perhaps something that you wanted to happen. Maybe something you didn't want to happen.
It might have been about a specific person, either someone you already have a relationship or marriage with or that you want a relationship or marriage with. It might have been about a specific situation...something that you have a strong desire to have...or to avoid.
From a multitude of postings found on Facebook to thousands of conversations over the years, Dr. Joe Beam has chosen three of the prayers people mention that - no matter how much they believe they will be - are not going to be answered by God.
Although his PhD is not in any religious area of study - his graduate work is about the psychology and emotions of love, sex, and marriage - he has a degree in Bible. That doesn't make him a theologian, but it does make him a student of the teachings of God.
No, Dr. Beam doesn't claim to speak for God. Yet, he's convinced that some of what is claimed about how God intervenes in the love and relationships of people leads only to false hope...and, eventually, disappointment.
If you're curious, he's a believer. He prays. He believes God answers prayers...but not all prayers. Especially some that people pray about love and relationships.
Is this a program to take away hope?
No.
It is a program about how to have hope that is real; that is possible. To live by genuine faith if you have faith. To face reality. To know what to do rather than expecting God to do it for you.
It airs live August 30 beginning at 9 p.m. Central. You can call in your questions or comments during the live program at 646-378-0424.
Have you ever prayed about love? Perhaps something that you wanted to happen. Maybe something you didn't want to happen.
It might have been about a specific person, either someone you already have a relationship or marriage with or that you want a relationship or marriage with. It might have been about a specific situation...something that you have a strong desire to have...or to avoid.
From a multitude of postings found on Facebook to thousands of conversations over the years, Dr. Joe Beam has chosen three of the prayers people mention that - no matter how much they believe they will be - are not going to be answered by God.
Although his PhD is not in any religious area of study - his graduate work is about the psychology and emotions of love, sex, and marriage - he has a degree in Bible. That doesn't make him a theologian, but it does make him a student of the teachings of God.
No, Dr. Beam doesn't claim to speak for God. Yet, he's convinced that some of what is claimed about how God intervenes in the love and relationships of people leads only to false hope...and, eventually, disappointment.
If you're curious, he's a believer. He prays. He believes God answers prayers...but not all prayers. Especially some that people pray about love and relationships.
Is this a program to take away hope?
No.
It is a program about how to have hope that is real; that is possible. To live by genuine faith if you have faith. To face reality. To know what to do rather than expecting God to do it for you.
It airs live August 30 beginning at 9 p.m. Central. You can call in your questions or comments during the live program at 646-378-0424.
What does it feel like? How does a person get into this situation? Why does she love a man other than her husband?
In this program, a brave woman who is with her husband but still "deeply in love" with another man tells her story. She is willing to answer questions and talk about her situation.
She wrote, "I have been madly in love with a man I work for four years now and even though I ended things in March and asked my husband to move back, I still feel as much in love as ever. Not a single day has gone by in four months that I haven't cried missing him and then feel overwhelming grief...I wouldn't wish this feeling of helplessness on my worst enemy!"
Because of the sensitivity of this program - and to protect her from callers who may not be kind - no calls will be taken during this program. Instead, you can ask your question or make your comment by emailing AskJoe@MarriageHelper.com before the show airs. (Make sure your comments or questions are emailed at least one hour before the program begins at 9 p.m. Central time.)
If you are a regular listener to this program, you've hear Dr. Beam discuss limerence. In this program you will hear from someone in limerence with another person than her husband about how it feels, how it begins, and how strong an impact it has.
Listen live at 9 p.m. Central time on www.MarriageRadio.com or on your phone by calling 646-378-0424.
What does it feel like? How does a person get into this situation? Why does she love a man other than her husband?
In this program, a brave woman who is with her husband but still "deeply in love" with another man tells her story. She is willing to answer questions and talk about her situation.
She wrote, "I have been madly in love with a man I work for four years now and even though I ended things in March and asked my husband to move back, I still feel as much in love as ever. Not a single day has gone by in four months that I haven't cried missing him and then feel overwhelming grief...I wouldn't wish this feeling of helplessness on my worst enemy!"
Because of the sensitivity of this program - and to protect her from callers who may not be kind - no calls will be taken during this program. Instead, you can ask your question or make your comment by emailing AskJoe@MarriageHelper.com before the show airs. (Make sure your comments or questions are emailed at least one hour before the program begins at 9 p.m. Central time.)
If you are a regular listener to this program, you've hear Dr. Beam discuss limerence. In this program you will hear from someone in limerence with another person than her husband about how it feels, how it begins, and how strong an impact it has.
Listen live at 9 p.m. Central time on www.MarriageRadio.com or on your phone by calling 646-378-0424.
There is a difference between that feeling of love and being "madly in love."
If you long for that magically amazing love that is the focus of so many movies, TV shows, and novels, you may indeed experience it...but not forever. Love that is deep and long-lasting isn't an overwhelming ecstasy but something much deeper...something with roots that dig deeply into your heart, your mind, your soul.
Yet that "madly in love" feeling is truly amazing when experienced. In the social sciences we have a word for it; limerence. More than just identifying it, researchers dig into it to understand it better...including how long it lasts...and factors that either prevent it, diminish it, or end it.
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains what he has witnessed in thousands of people "madly in love" and discusses the three phases of limerence he has identified.
If you are "madly in love" this program is for you. You may feel that the intensity of your current emotion for the other person will last forever just as it is now. Dr. Beam explains how it will change, and how understanding that change can help prevent consequences that you don't yet see coming.
If you are married to someone who has fallen "madly in love" with another, this program is for you. If you wish to save your marriage but think it impossible because your husband or wife is in limerence with another, Dr. Beam's explanations of limerence, especially understanding the three phases, can guide you in the process of saving your marriage. As he says, "If anything works, this will work."
If you wish to speak with Dr. Beam during the program, call 646-378-0424. When you hear the menu, press one to get into the queue.
Whether you listen live or later, don't miss this program.
There is a difference between that feeling of love and being "madly in love."
If you long for that magically amazing love that is the focus of so many movies, TV shows, and novels, you may indeed experience it...but not forever. Love that is deep and long-lasting isn't an overwhelming ecstasy but something much deeper...something with roots that dig deeply into your heart, your mind, your soul.
Yet that "madly in love" feeling is truly amazing when experienced. In the social sciences we have a word for it; limerence. More than just identifying it, researchers dig into it to understand it better...including how long it lasts...and factors that either prevent it, diminish it, or end it.
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains what he has witnessed in thousands of people "madly in love" and discusses the three phases of limerence he has identified.
If you are "madly in love" this program is for you. You may feel that the intensity of your current emotion for the other person will last forever just as it is now. Dr. Beam explains how it will change, and how understanding that change can help prevent consequences that you don't yet see coming.
If you are married to someone who has fallen "madly in love" with another, this program is for you. If you wish to save your marriage but think it impossible because your husband or wife is in limerence with another, Dr. Beam's explanations of limerence, especially understanding the three phases, can guide you in the process of saving your marriage. As he says, "If anything works, this will work."
If you wish to speak with Dr. Beam during the program, call 646-378-0424. When you hear the menu, press one to get into the queue.
Whether you listen live or later, don't miss this program.
Do you feel abandoned by God? Do you wonder why He isn't intervening in your marriage?
If you feel this way, you are not alone.
But that doesn't mean that it has to stay that way.
There's a reason for these trials and tribulations, even though it is hard to go through right now.
How can you strengthen your faith instead of lose it? Or can you? Should you?
We'll discuss all these questions, and more, in this real heart to heart conversation.
We care about you and your marriage.
Do you feel abandoned by God? Do you wonder why He isn't intervening in your marriage?
If you feel this way, you are not alone.
But that doesn't mean that it has to stay that way.
There's a reason for these trials and tribulations, even though it is hard to go through right now.
How can you strengthen your faith instead of lose it? Or can you? Should you?
We'll discuss all these questions, and more, in this real heart to heart conversation.
We care about you and your marriage.
Sometimes it makes no difference if you don't agree with the person you love. Sometimes it does. Especially when your disagreement pulls you apart.
Maybe you disagree about where you live, occupations, religion, money, children, or anything else that matters to you.
On some things you are willing to yield. Not this. It is important to you. So important that you feel your loved one is being selfish, or doesn't understand you. Important enough that it might destroy the relationship.
Is there a way to find a compromise that satisfies both of you...a solution where neither feels s/he loses...where you each get what you want and no one dominates?
Yes.
In this program Dr. Joe Beam teaches a method that the two of you can use to solve almost any seemingly insolvable disagreement. The principle isn't difficult to understand. You can apply it with great effect. To make it even clearer, Dr. Beam gives several examples of how people have used it to find a valid solution to their major disagreements.
You can call Dr. Beam during the program to ask questions about how this principle might be applied to your situation. The number to call during the program is (646) 378-0424.
Sometimes it makes no difference if you don't agree with the person you love. Sometimes it does. Especially when your disagreement pulls you apart.
Maybe you disagree about where you live, occupations, religion, money, children, or anything else that matters to you.
On some things you are willing to yield. Not this. It is important to you. So important that you feel your loved one is being selfish, or doesn't understand you. Important enough that it might destroy the relationship.
Is there a way to find a compromise that satisfies both of you...a solution where neither feels s/he loses...where you each get what you want and no one dominates?
Yes.
In this program Dr. Joe Beam teaches a method that the two of you can use to solve almost any seemingly insolvable disagreement. The principle isn't difficult to understand. You can apply it with great effect. To make it even clearer, Dr. Beam gives several examples of how people have used it to find a valid solution to their major disagreements.
You can call Dr. Beam during the program to ask questions about how this principle might be applied to your situation. The number to call during the program is (646) 378-0424.
Whether it's done by your best friend, your child, or your spouse, it hurts when we discover that we've been lied to, doesn't it?
No one that I know of likes being deceived. Even in affairs, I often hear the spouse who was cheated on say something such as "As much as the affair hurt, it hurt me even more that s/he lied to me!"
Would it surprise you to know that sometimes the person who lied to you did so because you taught him/her to lie to you?
Yes. It happens.
No, not every lie a person tells you is in response to your actions. Sometimes people lie. Sometimes they lie with those huge life-altering falsehoods that devastate you. Even so, sometimes the lies start because of your own actions. Then the lies escalate. They can become ultimately destructive.
This program isn't about "beating you up" and saying that the wrong things done by people you love are your fault. Every person is responsible for his/her own decisions and actions. Yet, this program is about learning the things you do that may be teaching someone you care about to lie to you. It doesn't justify their lies...but learning how to evoke the truth from others is FAR better than doing things that may provoke their lying to you.
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam discusses briefly why people lie. Then he explains how your actions may be facilitating or provoking those lies. Finally, he teaches how to interact with people in a manner most likely to promote their telling you the truth.
If you wish to talk with Dr. Beam during the program to make comments or ask questions, you may do so by calling 646.378.0424. It airs live beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, Tuesday, July 26, 2016.
Whether it's done by your best friend, your child, or your spouse, it hurts when we discover that we've been lied to, doesn't it?
No one that I know of likes being deceived. Even in affairs, I often hear the spouse who was cheated on say something such as "As much as the affair hurt, it hurt me even more that s/he lied to me!"
Would it surprise you to know that sometimes the person who lied to you did so because you taught him/her to lie to you?
Yes. It happens.
No, not every lie a person tells you is in response to your actions. Sometimes people lie. Sometimes they lie with those huge life-altering falsehoods that devastate you. Even so, sometimes the lies start because of your own actions. Then the lies escalate. They can become ultimately destructive.
This program isn't about "beating you up" and saying that the wrong things done by people you love are your fault. Every person is responsible for his/her own decisions and actions. Yet, this program is about learning the things you do that may be teaching someone you care about to lie to you. It doesn't justify their lies...but learning how to evoke the truth from others is FAR better than doing things that may provoke their lying to you.
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam discusses briefly why people lie. Then he explains how your actions may be facilitating or provoking those lies. Finally, he teaches how to interact with people in a manner most likely to promote their telling you the truth.
If you wish to talk with Dr. Beam during the program to make comments or ask questions, you may do so by calling 646.378.0424. It airs live beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, Tuesday, July 26, 2016.
It may be guilt you feel. It may guilt felt by someone you love. Either way, it affects everyone. The person who feels guilt has little to no peace. The ones who love the guilt-ridden are pushed away...or feel helpless to help.
Guilt isn't a bad thing. We actually need it. If we never felt it, we'd have no conscience...we'd fake feeling remorse and true emotions about how we affect others, but that's all it would be...fake.
But guilt can also work against us. It can lead us to make poor decisions, remove ourselves from others, cause us to lash out at others, or even do things to punish ourselves (whether we realize that we're doing it or not).
When should a person feel guilty?
What is the best way to deal with guilt?
How can we get past guilt, especially when there seems to be nothing we can do to stop it?
How can we find true forgiveness from others...from ourselves...from our God.
How does gulit affect relationships?
How can we help those who are captured by guilt find the way out of the darkness and pain?
In this program Dr. Joe Beam, author of Getting Past Guilt, discusses the subject of guilt...what it is...when it's good...when it's bad...how to use it for good results...how to remove it when it's causing harm...how to help others who feel guilt. Dr. Beam will also take your calls about your own guilt or about someone you care about that you wish to help with his/her guilt. Call (646) 378-0424 live during the program that begins at 9 p.m. Central on July 12.
It may be guilt you feel. It may guilt felt by someone you love. Either way, it affects everyone. The person who feels guilt has little to no peace. The ones who love the guilt-ridden are pushed away...or feel helpless to help.
Guilt isn't a bad thing. We actually need it. If we never felt it, we'd have no conscience...we'd fake feeling remorse and true emotions about how we affect others, but that's all it would be...fake.
But guilt can also work against us. It can lead us to make poor decisions, remove ourselves from others, cause us to lash out at others, or even do things to punish ourselves (whether we realize that we're doing it or not).
When should a person feel guilty?
What is the best way to deal with guilt?
How can we get past guilt, especially when there seems to be nothing we can do to stop it?
How can we find true forgiveness from others...from ourselves...from our God.
How does gulit affect relationships?
How can we help those who are captured by guilt find the way out of the darkness and pain?
In this program Dr. Joe Beam, author of Getting Past Guilt, discusses the subject of guilt...what it is...when it's good...when it's bad...how to use it for good results...how to remove it when it's causing harm...how to help others who feel guilt. Dr. Beam will also take your calls about your own guilt or about someone you care about that you wish to help with his/her guilt. Call (646) 378-0424 live during the program that begins at 9 p.m. Central on July 12.
You've done something that you know will hurt your spouse if s/he knew about it. Maybe it was recent? Maybe years ago? Maybe even before you met, but you have worry that s/he will react badly if it came out.
Do you tell?
Do you keep it a secret?
If you do tell, will it end your marriage...or at the very least cause hard and angry feelings that will last for a long time?
If you don't tell, will it erode your marriage from within because of how it affects you to keep it secret?
And if you were to tell, WHAT should you tell and what should you leave OUT?
In this program, Dr. Beam gives clear and understandable guidelines for deciding whether to tell or not to tell. That's right; in some situations it is far better NOT to tell. For others, the marriage is in jeopardy UNTIL you tell. The principles and guidelines presented in this program will help you decide. And if you decide you should tell, Dr. Beam gives principles of what TO tell and what NOT to tell.
If you wish to ask Dr. Beam about a specific situation, call during the program to (646) 378-0424 to speak with him live.
Don't live in miserable hesitation any longer about whether to tell your spouse. Find peace by knowing whether to tell and, if so, what to tell. Don't miss this episode of Marriage Radio with Joe Beam...the Dr. Joe Show.
You've done something that you know will hurt your spouse if s/he knew about it. Maybe it was recent? Maybe years ago? Maybe even before you met, but you have worry that s/he will react badly if it came out.
Do you tell?
Do you keep it a secret?
If you do tell, will it end your marriage...or at the very least cause hard and angry feelings that will last for a long time?
If you don't tell, will it erode your marriage from within because of how it affects you to keep it secret?
And if you were to tell, WHAT should you tell and what should you leave OUT?
In this program, Dr. Beam gives clear and understandable guidelines for deciding whether to tell or not to tell. That's right; in some situations it is far better NOT to tell. For others, the marriage is in jeopardy UNTIL you tell. The principles and guidelines presented in this program will help you decide. And if you decide you should tell, Dr. Beam gives principles of what TO tell and what NOT to tell.
If you wish to ask Dr. Beam about a specific situation, call during the program to (646) 378-0424 to speak with him live.
Don't live in miserable hesitation any longer about whether to tell your spouse. Find peace by knowing whether to tell and, if so, what to tell. Don't miss this episode of Marriage Radio with Joe Beam...the Dr. Joe Show.
He was "madly in love" with another woman. She wanted to save their marriage. They tried a couple intense potential solutions and then, by agreement, she moved thousands of miles back to her former home leaving him with his lover.
It appeared to be hopeless. They informed their kids. They made their plans for separate lives.
But things changed.
Against apparently impossible odds, he called her and asked if she would consider working things out. She agreed.
It wasn't all easy. There was work to do. She understood his need to grieve losing the other relationship. He understood her need to work through their issues. Together, they did it. Today they have a good, solid loving marriage.
During this program, Dr. Joe Beam will ask them questions to lead them through their story...but not just the story. He will ask how the wife could be strong enough to understand her husband's grieving losing what he had with the other woman. He will ask them how their children reacted to being told their marriage was going to end...and how they reacted when they realized their parents were going to make their marriage work. There will be several questions that the couple will answer honestly and forthrightly. However, you, too, can ask specific questions. During the program, you can call in to speak with the couple at (646) 378-0424.
The program airs live on June 28 beginning at 9 p.m. Central time on www.MarriageRadio.com as well as on BlogTalkRadio. You can also hear it later on iTunes by subscribing free to Marriage Radio with Joe Beam.
You don't want to miss this episode!
He was "madly in love" with another woman. She wanted to save their marriage. They tried a couple intense potential solutions and then, by agreement, she moved thousands of miles back to her former home leaving him with his lover.
It appeared to be hopeless. They informed their kids. They made their plans for separate lives.
But things changed.
Against apparently impossible odds, he called her and asked if she would consider working things out. She agreed.
It wasn't all easy. There was work to do. She understood his need to grieve losing the other relationship. He understood her need to work through their issues. Together, they did it. Today they have a good, solid loving marriage.
During this program, Dr. Joe Beam will ask them questions to lead them through their story...but not just the story. He will ask how the wife could be strong enough to understand her husband's grieving losing what he had with the other woman. He will ask them how their children reacted to being told their marriage was going to end...and how they reacted when they realized their parents were going to make their marriage work. There will be several questions that the couple will answer honestly and forthrightly. However, you, too, can ask specific questions. During the program, you can call in to speak with the couple at (646) 378-0424.
The program airs live on June 28 beginning at 9 p.m. Central time on www.MarriageRadio.com as well as on BlogTalkRadio. You can also hear it later on iTunes by subscribing free to Marriage Radio with Joe Beam.
You don't want to miss this episode!
Questions continue to come in about limerence. (Limerence is the state of feeling "madly in love" with another.) Millions of marriages are in crisis because either husband or wife has fallen into a state of limerence with someone else. Sometimes it is only emotional. Most of the time it also becomes sexual.
Although Dr. Beam regularly explains limerence on the program, the questions continue to come in droves. In this program he answers more of those questions. He also takes calls live from those who wish to ask about their specific situation. Call during the program to (646) 378-0424. (The program airs live beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, June 21, 2016.)
Dr. Beam will cover some of the basic information such as:
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What is limerence?
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How does it happen?
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How does it affect the person who is in it?
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Why does it lead people to leave their spouses?
As well as more specific questions such as:
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When will it end?
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Is there a way to know whether my spouse is starting to come out of limerence with someone else?
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Is there anything I can do to help my spouse come out of limerence?
And even for those who are in limerence:
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Is there any way I can take control of my emotions again?
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Why shouldn't I leave my marriage for the person that I'm in love with?
PLUS specific questions from callers as well as those who have posted questions in the Facebook Group "Save My Marriage."
Questions continue to come in about limerence. (Limerence is the state of feeling "madly in love" with another.) Millions of marriages are in crisis because either husband or wife has fallen into a state of limerence with someone else. Sometimes it is only emotional. Most of the time it also becomes sexual.
Although Dr. Beam regularly explains limerence on the program, the questions continue to come in droves. In this program he answers more of those questions. He also takes calls live from those who wish to ask about their specific situation. Call during the program to (646) 378-0424. (The program airs live beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, June 21, 2016.)
Dr. Beam will cover some of the basic information such as:
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What is limerence?
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How does it happen?
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How does it affect the person who is in it?
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Why does it lead people to leave their spouses?
As well as more specific questions such as:
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When will it end?
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Is there a way to know whether my spouse is starting to come out of limerence with someone else?
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Is there anything I can do to help my spouse come out of limerence?
And even for those who are in limerence:
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Is there any way I can take control of my emotions again?
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Why shouldn't I leave my marriage for the person that I'm in love with?
PLUS specific questions from callers as well as those who have posted questions in the Facebook Group "Save My Marriage."
Several crucial questions have come in about how to deal with spouses doing destructive things. In this program, we will deal with questions such as:
What do I do if my spouse keeps lying? Are all lies the same? Do I react to all of them the same way? Should I set traps to catch him / her in the lies?
How do I know s/he's telling the truth now? S/he claims that all lies are over but I have my doubts.
What do I do if my cheating spouse is lying to my kids about what's going on with us? Do I tell them the truth?
My mate still lives at home though s/he is involved emotionally with someone else. I'm trying to save the marriage and s/he tells me that if I'll just be patient and let this run its course, everything will be fine? Am I a fool to believe that? Is s/he using me? What do I do?
I think my spouse is going through mid-life crisis. S/he is moody, depressed, doesn't communicate. How do I deal with this?
My mate says if I stop talking about hour problesm s/he will stay but if I keep bringing things up, s/he's out of here. Yet I can't live with things like they are. Do I shut up? Do I press for answers?
When is it time to give an ultimatum? How do I know when it's time to press things or if I'm better off to give a little more space?
Dr. Joe Beam will answer these and any other questions that you wish to call live during the program at (646) 378-0424. It will be a lively and informative conversation with real people dealing with real problems.
Several crucial questions have come in about how to deal with spouses doing destructive things. In this program, we will deal with questions such as:
What do I do if my spouse keeps lying? Are all lies the same? Do I react to all of them the same way? Should I set traps to catch him / her in the lies?
How do I know s/he's telling the truth now? S/he claims that all lies are over but I have my doubts.
What do I do if my cheating spouse is lying to my kids about what's going on with us? Do I tell them the truth?
My mate still lives at home though s/he is involved emotionally with someone else. I'm trying to save the marriage and s/he tells me that if I'll just be patient and let this run its course, everything will be fine? Am I a fool to believe that? Is s/he using me? What do I do?
I think my spouse is going through mid-life crisis. S/he is moody, depressed, doesn't communicate. How do I deal with this?
My mate says if I stop talking about hour problesm s/he will stay but if I keep bringing things up, s/he's out of here. Yet I can't live with things like they are. Do I shut up? Do I press for answers?
When is it time to give an ultimatum? How do I know when it's time to press things or if I'm better off to give a little more space?
Dr. Joe Beam will answer these and any other questions that you wish to call live during the program at (646) 378-0424. It will be a lively and informative conversation with real people dealing with real problems.
What is going on in the head/heart of someone "madly in love" with another? Why do they do the things they do? Say the things they say? Make the decisions they make?
What if a person is married to one and falls "madly in love" with another? How does that happen? Is it the fault of the spouse they wish to leave? Is there hope to save the marriage? Will s/he divorce the one, marry the other, and live happily ever after?
That's that the person believes will happen. However, it's not what's going to happen. They love they believe that no one can understand because no one could ever have felt this way before...is quite common. And, unfortunately for the person in it, it only SEEMS that it will last forever. It won't. It always ends.
There's a name for it. It's called limerence. The word was coined by Dorothy Tennov, PhD, in the 1970s. At that time it received little acceptance by counselors. Even today, we find that many marriage counselors and therapists either do not know about it or know very little about it.
Current research on it has been done by Helen Fisher, PhD, and her colleagues. (Tennov has passed on.) Their findings are fascinating.
So are ours.
We have worked with myriads of married people who are in limerence with someone other than their spouses. We've heard the stories...we've witnessed the actions and decisions...and we've seen the consequences.
Not good consequences, though the person leaving his / her spouse for another with whom s/he is "madly in love" always fully anticipates that life with the lover will be amazing, fulfilling, and last a lifetime.
Nearly all end within 3 years...even the ones that believe it will last forever.
In this program Dr. Joe Beam discusses limerence in detail. He also takes your calls live at 646.378.0424
What is going on in the head/heart of someone "madly in love" with another? Why do they do the things they do? Say the things they say? Make the decisions they make?
What if a person is married to one and falls "madly in love" with another? How does that happen? Is it the fault of the spouse they wish to leave? Is there hope to save the marriage? Will s/he divorce the one, marry the other, and live happily ever after?
That's that the person believes will happen. However, it's not what's going to happen. They love they believe that no one can understand because no one could ever have felt this way before...is quite common. And, unfortunately for the person in it, it only SEEMS that it will last forever. It won't. It always ends.
There's a name for it. It's called limerence. The word was coined by Dorothy Tennov, PhD, in the 1970s. At that time it received little acceptance by counselors. Even today, we find that many marriage counselors and therapists either do not know about it or know very little about it.
Current research on it has been done by Helen Fisher, PhD, and her colleagues. (Tennov has passed on.) Their findings are fascinating.
So are ours.
We have worked with myriads of married people who are in limerence with someone other than their spouses. We've heard the stories...we've witnessed the actions and decisions...and we've seen the consequences.
Not good consequences, though the person leaving his / her spouse for another with whom s/he is "madly in love" always fully anticipates that life with the lover will be amazing, fulfilling, and last a lifetime.
Nearly all end within 3 years...even the ones that believe it will last forever.
In this program Dr. Joe Beam discusses limerence in detail. He also takes your calls live at 646.378.0424
In this program a couple tell their poignant story. Both had difficult childhoods that led to complications in their marriage, including ography and affairs. The future seemed dim for their marriage. However, they overcame.
Hear their story. Ask them questions. Interact with Dr. Joe Beam as he interviews them and also responds to your questions about your own relationship.
Sexually Explicit Materials (SEM) - often simply called - is widely available, affordable, and can be accessed anonymously. Both men and women by the millions visit Internet SEM sites every day. Some say it makes their marriage better. Some don't. This couple will share with you the devastating effect it had on their marriage.
You may call in during the program at 646.378.0424. This is a program you don't want to miss.
In this program a couple tell their poignant story. Both had difficult childhoods that led to complications in their marriage, including ography and affairs. The future seemed dim for their marriage. However, they overcame.
Hear their story. Ask them questions. Interact with Dr. Joe Beam as he interviews them and also responds to your questions about your own relationship.
Sexually Explicit Materials (SEM) - often simply called - is widely available, affordable, and can be accessed anonymously. Both men and women by the millions visit Internet SEM sites every day. Some say it makes their marriage better. Some don't. This couple will share with you the devastating effect it had on their marriage.
You may call in during the program at 646.378.0424. This is a program you don't want to miss.
Divorce affects children...even grown children...emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually.
Some say that you should never stay married just for the sake of your kids. Others say that kids are reslient and that divorce has little long-lasting effect.
The research indicates somethig far different.
In this program, we present the findings of some of these research projects and discuss how divorce truly does affect kids....even adults whose parents split up.
Additionally, we will explain a new powerful resoure for kids of divorce. Joining Dr. Joe Beam on this program are Kimberly Holmes, Executive Director and CEO of Marriage Helper, and Justin Prince, Project Director of Divorce Help For Kids.
During the program call 646-378-0424 to share your comments or ask your questions, including questions about how to help your kids if your marriage is in difficulty.
Divorce affects children...even grown children...emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually.
Some say that you should never stay married just for the sake of your kids. Others say that kids are reslient and that divorce has little long-lasting effect.
The research indicates somethig far different.
In this program, we present the findings of some of these research projects and discuss how divorce truly does affect kids....even adults whose parents split up.
Additionally, we will explain a new powerful resoure for kids of divorce. Joining Dr. Joe Beam on this program are Kimberly Holmes, Executive Director and CEO of Marriage Helper, and Justin Prince, Project Director of Divorce Help For Kids.
During the program call 646-378-0424 to share your comments or ask your questions, including questions about how to help your kids if your marriage is in difficulty.
In this episode of the Dr. Joe Show, Dr. Beam will talk with callers from around the world, hearing their comments and answering their questions about relationships.
Often Dr. Beam's program ends with callers waiting. In this program, he will take every call possible in a two-hour special episode. Whether married or single, be sure to hear this program. Call in to ask about anything concerning relationships including:
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Communication
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Straying Spouse
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Love
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Sex
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Parenting
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Trust
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Forgiveness
...or whatever relationship topic is on your mind. Be sure to call early to get in the queue so that Dr. Beam can get to you.
Call in live beginning at 9 p.m. Central at 646-378-0424 either to listen or to interact live with Dr. Beam.
You can also hear the program live (or recorded for the next six days) on www.MarriageRadio.com. All of Dr. Beam's programs are archived on iTunes; you can access them free by subscribing free on iTunes to Marriage Radio with Joe Beam.
In this episode of the Dr. Joe Show, Dr. Beam will talk with callers from around the world, hearing their comments and answering their questions about relationships.
Often Dr. Beam's program ends with callers waiting. In this program, he will take every call possible in a two-hour special episode. Whether married or single, be sure to hear this program. Call in to ask about anything concerning relationships including:
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Communication
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Straying Spouse
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Love
-
Sex
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Parenting
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Trust
-
Forgiveness
...or whatever relationship topic is on your mind. Be sure to call early to get in the queue so that Dr. Beam can get to you.
Call in live beginning at 9 p.m. Central at 646-378-0424 either to listen or to interact live with Dr. Beam.
You can also hear the program live (or recorded for the next six days) on www.MarriageRadio.com. All of Dr. Beam's programs are archived on iTunes; you can access them free by subscribing free on iTunes to Marriage Radio with Joe Beam.
Ever wonder why your spouse is so weird? Whys/he doesn’t think like you, act like you, want the same things you want?
Maybe one of you is spontaneous and the other is cautious. Maybe one is an introvert and the other an extrovert. You have different ideas, wants, or needs when it comes to how you handle money, discipline the kids, how to spend your time together. Maybe your differences are even evident in the bedroom.
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam shares basic principles of how to understand your own style and the style of your spouse in ways that help you in all these ways:
FinancesParentingSocial settingsEmotionsSex
….and much more.
It begins at 9 p.m. Central. Call 646-378-0424 during the program to talk live with Dr. Beam about your relationship.
Ever wonder why your spouse is so weird? Whys/he doesn’t think like you, act like you, want the same things you want?
Maybe one of you is spontaneous and the other is cautious. Maybe one is an introvert and the other an extrovert. You have different ideas, wants, or needs when it comes to how you handle money, discipline the kids, how to spend your time together. Maybe your differences are even evident in the bedroom.
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam shares basic principles of how to understand your own style and the style of your spouse in ways that help you in all these ways:
FinancesParentingSocial settingsEmotionsSex
….and much more.
It begins at 9 p.m. Central. Call 646-378-0424 during the program to talk live with Dr. Beam about your relationship.
Your spouse wants out of the marriage...but you don't.
In the process of trying to end the marriage, your spouse is trying to do things that you want no part of. Maybe s/he's spending time with the "lover" while still living at home. Perhaps s/he's demanding things from you that you don't want to give about finances, custody, selling your home, or more.
Your friends / family want you to punish your spouse for such egregious behavior and such arrogantly selfish demands. Your attorney counsels going for everything you can get. Your own hurt and anger tempt you to make this divorce a most miserable experience for your spouse.
BUT your spouse says you're selfish, that your standing strong is just another example of you trying to control him/her, and that everything you are doing is definitive proof that s/he can't live with you and that divorce is the best thing that can happen.
You find yourself worrying whether you should give in to most of his/her demands. You wonder if your standing strong and fighting for your marriage is building such anger and resentment in your spouse that never will there ever be a chance for reconciliation. You even have doubts about your own motives and fear that s/he is right and that you are a mean, selfish person and that the way you're standing strong actually proves that to be true.
Would you like to know? Truly know if you are doing the right thing...if you are controlling or mean? In this program Dr. Joe Beam discusses this in depth. You can also call in your questions or comments on this topic live at 646-378-0424 during the program. It airs Tuesday, April 26, beginning at 9 p.m. Central.
Your spouse wants out of the marriage...but you don't.
In the process of trying to end the marriage, your spouse is trying to do things that you want no part of. Maybe s/he's spending time with the "lover" while still living at home. Perhaps s/he's demanding things from you that you don't want to give about finances, custody, selling your home, or more.
Your friends / family want you to punish your spouse for such egregious behavior and such arrogantly selfish demands. Your attorney counsels going for everything you can get. Your own hurt and anger tempt you to make this divorce a most miserable experience for your spouse.
BUT your spouse says you're selfish, that your standing strong is just another example of you trying to control him/her, and that everything you are doing is definitive proof that s/he can't live with you and that divorce is the best thing that can happen.
You find yourself worrying whether you should give in to most of his/her demands. You wonder if your standing strong and fighting for your marriage is building such anger and resentment in your spouse that never will there ever be a chance for reconciliation. You even have doubts about your own motives and fear that s/he is right and that you are a mean, selfish person and that the way you're standing strong actually proves that to be true.
Would you like to know? Truly know if you are doing the right thing...if you are controlling or mean? In this program Dr. Joe Beam discusses this in depth. You can also call in your questions or comments on this topic live at 646-378-0424 during the program. It airs Tuesday, April 26, beginning at 9 p.m. Central.
It can be completely overwhelming to know where to start when trying to save your marriage. Where do you start?
What is the most important thing you can do?
What should you do FIRST?
Join Kimberly Holmes, the CEO of Marriage Helper, shares how she stopped her marriage from ending in crisis...and teaches you a step by step plan on how to do that in your own marriage.
You will leave this podcast with real, implementable steps that you can use when moving forward on how to save your marriage.
It can be completely overwhelming to know where to start when trying to save your marriage. Where do you start?
What is the most important thing you can do?
What should you do FIRST?
Join Kimberly Holmes, the CEO of Marriage Helper, shares how she stopped her marriage from ending in crisis...and teaches you a step by step plan on how to do that in your own marriage.
You will leave this podcast with real, implementable steps that you can use when moving forward on how to save your marriage.
Ever wish you could really understand what your spouse is saying...you hear the words, you respond, and s/he reacts in a completely different way than you expected. You know you aren't communicating clearly with each other but it doesn't make sense to you why you aren't. It's like he speaks one language and she another. You speak the same language but apparently the words don't mean the same to each of you.
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and special guest Terry Cheatham explain things NOT to do when communicating with another person, things you should ALWAYS do, as well as how to understand what the other person is actually trying to tell you and how to clearly get across what YOU want to communicate.
No, it's not rocket science, but it's amazing how many people mess it up. Maybe you've been one of those people. Maybe the person you care about is. Maybe both of you.
The program begins at 9 p.m. Central time Tuesday night, April 12. If you would like to call in your questions or comments, do so live at 646-378-0424.
Ever wish you could really understand what your spouse is saying...you hear the words, you respond, and s/he reacts in a completely different way than you expected. You know you aren't communicating clearly with each other but it doesn't make sense to you why you aren't. It's like he speaks one language and she another. You speak the same language but apparently the words don't mean the same to each of you.
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and special guest Terry Cheatham explain things NOT to do when communicating with another person, things you should ALWAYS do, as well as how to understand what the other person is actually trying to tell you and how to clearly get across what YOU want to communicate.
No, it's not rocket science, but it's amazing how many people mess it up. Maybe you've been one of those people. Maybe the person you care about is. Maybe both of you.
The program begins at 9 p.m. Central time Tuesday night, April 12. If you would like to call in your questions or comments, do so live at 646-378-0424.
What do you do when you've had major problems in your marriage and now want to try to reconcile?
It's tougher to accomplish than most people think.
It's great when a couple decides to put a marriage back together. However, without a valid understanding of what caused the trouble (and that usually means MUCH more than the final issue that became the focus of the marriage problems), many couples who try to reconcile run headlong into a wall of pain and frustration.
For example, if the marriage hit crisis because of an affair, ending the affair doesn't necessarily mean that the underlying issues have been healed. What led to the affair? What weaknesses exist in either spouse? What relationship dynamics helped create the vulnerability? (This isn't to justify something such as an affair; it's to point out that some people think things are now fine because the affair ended BUT THERE ARE STILL ISSUES that haven't been dealt with.)
That same principle applies to much more than affairs...it applies to control and domination, selfishness, in-law problems, sexual problems, and much, much more.
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam guides you through a process of discovering and dealing with the real issues and then following a proven plan to make reconciliation actually work so that the marriage becomes better after the problem than it was ever before.
Dr. Beam will also take calls with specific questions about reconciliation. The program airs beginning at 9 p.m. Tuesday, April 5. If you wish to Dr. Beam during the program call 646-378-0424.
What do you do when you've had major problems in your marriage and now want to try to reconcile?
It's tougher to accomplish than most people think.
It's great when a couple decides to put a marriage back together. However, without a valid understanding of what caused the trouble (and that usually means MUCH more than the final issue that became the focus of the marriage problems), many couples who try to reconcile run headlong into a wall of pain and frustration.
For example, if the marriage hit crisis because of an affair, ending the affair doesn't necessarily mean that the underlying issues have been healed. What led to the affair? What weaknesses exist in either spouse? What relationship dynamics helped create the vulnerability? (This isn't to justify something such as an affair; it's to point out that some people think things are now fine because the affair ended BUT THERE ARE STILL ISSUES that haven't been dealt with.)
That same principle applies to much more than affairs...it applies to control and domination, selfishness, in-law problems, sexual problems, and much, much more.
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam guides you through a process of discovering and dealing with the real issues and then following a proven plan to make reconciliation actually work so that the marriage becomes better after the problem than it was ever before.
Dr. Beam will also take calls with specific questions about reconciliation. The program airs beginning at 9 p.m. Tuesday, April 5. If you wish to Dr. Beam during the program call 646-378-0424.
Are you being controlled in your relationship?
Has your partner accused you of being controlling?
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam introduces a new way to understand control. He will explain and demonstrate WHY one person tries to control another and HOW that control manifests itself. He clarifies three different motivations that cause a person to control and exposes the methods they use.
To help you evaluate whether you are being controlled...or if you are the one who is controlling...Dr. Beam introduces an acronym that you can use immediately to identify controlling motivations and behaviors. With that knowledge you can stop being controlled...or stop controlling.
PLUS: Because Dr. Beam works with many marriages in crisis, he will explain how control works when one spouse wants to end a marriage and the other tries to save it. If your partner wants out and has accused you of controlling because you are trying to save your relationship, Dr. Beam will help you determine whether that is accurate.
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Could your partner be right? Are you trying to control? If so, what do you change?
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Could your partner be trying to manipulate you to stop you from standing for your marriage? If so, what do you NOT change?
During this program, Dr. Beam will help you evaluate your actions and your spouse's actions. If you're brave enough to hear his honest opinion, call in live at 646-378-0424 to tell him what you're doing and ask if he thinks you are controlling...
It begins at 9 p.m Central, Tuesday March 29, on www.MarriageRadio.com.
Are you being controlled in your relationship?
Has your partner accused you of being controlling?
In this program, Dr. Joe Beam introduces a new way to understand control. He will explain and demonstrate WHY one person tries to control another and HOW that control manifests itself. He clarifies three different motivations that cause a person to control and exposes the methods they use.
To help you evaluate whether you are being controlled...or if you are the one who is controlling...Dr. Beam introduces an acronym that you can use immediately to identify controlling motivations and behaviors. With that knowledge you can stop being controlled...or stop controlling.
PLUS: Because Dr. Beam works with many marriages in crisis, he will explain how control works when one spouse wants to end a marriage and the other tries to save it. If your partner wants out and has accused you of controlling because you are trying to save your relationship, Dr. Beam will help you determine whether that is accurate.
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Could your partner be right? Are you trying to control? If so, what do you change?
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Could your partner be trying to manipulate you to stop you from standing for your marriage? If so, what do you NOT change?
During this program, Dr. Beam will help you evaluate your actions and your spouse's actions. If you're brave enough to hear his honest opinion, call in live at 646-378-0424 to tell him what you're doing and ask if he thinks you are controlling...
It begins at 9 p.m Central, Tuesday March 29, on www.MarriageRadio.com.
For many years we've been helping people salvage marriages that appeared absolutely hopeless...not only salvage their marriages but make them good again...most better than they were before.
That is why Marriage Helper exists (www.MarriageHelper.com). Our purpose is to help couples in trouble find a new way, see each other in a different light, discover a path to love again. We call it the LovePath. Most of the couples who come to our intensive three-day workshops have one spouse who wishes to save the marriage and one who wants out. Nevertheless, we witness three out of four marriages turn around and not only stay together but learn to love each other again.
However, that means that some marriages don't make it. It breaks our hearts for the spouse who wants to save the marriage...for the children who are affected...for the friends and family of both husband and wife.
We believe that any marriage can be saved. We encourage people to stand strong when their spouses stray, or are angry, mean, indifferent, cold, or any other of the hosts of hurtful behaviors. But we know that there comes a time to yield to the inevitable, to stop standing and move on with one's life.
The question is: When? How do you know whether to let go or continue to fight for the marriage?
In this program we provide guidelines to consider for all those who think it may be time to stop standing for their marriages. No, there aren't hard and fast rules. However, there are principles and things to consider that can help you make that decision.
This program may give you the strength and motivation to keep on. It may give you the path to peace as you let go. We don't make that decision for you. We show you how to make it for yourself.
Call in your comments or questions live during the program at 646-378-0424.
For many years we've been helping people salvage marriages that appeared absolutely hopeless...not only salvage their marriages but make them good again...most better than they were before.
That is why Marriage Helper exists (www.MarriageHelper.com). Our purpose is to help couples in trouble find a new way, see each other in a different light, discover a path to love again. We call it the LovePath. Most of the couples who come to our intensive three-day workshops have one spouse who wishes to save the marriage and one who wants out. Nevertheless, we witness three out of four marriages turn around and not only stay together but learn to love each other again.
However, that means that some marriages don't make it. It breaks our hearts for the spouse who wants to save the marriage...for the children who are affected...for the friends and family of both husband and wife.
We believe that any marriage can be saved. We encourage people to stand strong when their spouses stray, or are angry, mean, indifferent, cold, or any other of the hosts of hurtful behaviors. But we know that there comes a time to yield to the inevitable, to stop standing and move on with one's life.
The question is: When? How do you know whether to let go or continue to fight for the marriage?
In this program we provide guidelines to consider for all those who think it may be time to stop standing for their marriages. No, there aren't hard and fast rules. However, there are principles and things to consider that can help you make that decision.
This program may give you the strength and motivation to keep on. It may give you the path to peace as you let go. We don't make that decision for you. We show you how to make it for yourself.
Call in your comments or questions live during the program at 646-378-0424.
Their marriage appeared hopeless. The trouble - a MAJOR problem - had been going on for four years. Only one person thought it could be saved....her name is Petra.
She stood strong. She did the right things. It wasn't always easy. Sometimes it seemed it was time to give up. She didn't.
Hear Petra and Richard tell their story. What went wrong? Why did it last so long? How did Petra continue to stand? Why did Richard come back? How did they heal their marriage?
Host Joe Beam and Marriage Coach Terry Cheatham interview Petra and Richard, as well as adding insight throughout. They will also take your calls live during the program. To participate, call 646-378-0424.
Their marriage appeared hopeless. The trouble - a MAJOR problem - had been going on for four years. Only one person thought it could be saved....her name is Petra.
She stood strong. She did the right things. It wasn't always easy. Sometimes it seemed it was time to give up. She didn't.
Hear Petra and Richard tell their story. What went wrong? Why did it last so long? How did Petra continue to stand? Why did Richard come back? How did they heal their marriage?
Host Joe Beam and Marriage Coach Terry Cheatham interview Petra and Richard, as well as adding insight throughout. They will also take your calls live during the program. To participate, call 646-378-0424.
Everyone had an opinion about marriage. What you should do, what you should not do, and how you should do it.
Unfortunately not everyone has the best advice when it comes to marriage. And even worse, some of the advice is actually more destructive to marriage than helpful.
Everyone had an opinion about marriage. What you should do, what you should not do, and how you should do it.
Unfortunately not everyone has the best advice when it comes to marriage. And even worse, some of the advice is actually more destructive to marriage than helpful.
There are countless philosophical, religious, business, and self-help books that all point to one age-old wisdom:
If you believe something can happen, it will. If you doubt success, it won't come.
You hear many well meaning Christians say, "Have faith. Believe God will save your marriage and He will." But...is that really how it works?
Well, kind of...
...however, there is a whole lot more to it than that.
Join us this Tuesday night at 9 pm CST for this often asked about and controversial topic.
Are you letting faith guide you, or is your fear prohibiting you from saving your marriage?
Listen in at marriageradio.com or by calling in at
646-378-0424.
Talk to you tonight!
There are countless philosophical, religious, business, and self-help books that all point to one age-old wisdom:
If you believe something can happen, it will. If you doubt success, it won't come.
You hear many well meaning Christians say, "Have faith. Believe God will save your marriage and He will." But...is that really how it works?
Well, kind of...
...however, there is a whole lot more to it than that.
Join us this Tuesday night at 9 pm CST for this often asked about and controversial topic.
Are you letting faith guide you, or is your fear prohibiting you from saving your marriage?
Listen in at marriageradio.com or by calling in at
646-378-0424.
Talk to you tonight!
It's called the LovePath.
It's the process people go through as they fall in love.
If you are in love or have ever been in love, you went through it. If your spouse is in love with you, s/he went through it as well.
When people follow the LovePath, they fall in love whether they mean to or not. When they vacate or violate the LovePath, they fall out of love whether they mean to or not.
Is there a way to keep on the LovePath? To keep falling in love over a lifetime?
Yes.
In this program Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes explain the first step on the LovePath...the step that many people forget over time and, as a result, either start falling out of love with their spouses OR their spouses start falling out of love with them.
Some have gone further than that. They are not at the "starting" point of falling out of love. Love is dead. (Either their's or their spouse's love.)
By understanding this first phase of falling in love...and how to use it over your entire lifetime...you can stay in love...and even RENEW LOST LOVE.
As we discuss this first phase of the LovePath, we will take your calls to demonstrate how the LovePath works in your life by answering your real-life questions. During the program, you can call 616-378-0424 to speak with us live.
The program begins at 9 p.m. Central.
It's called the LovePath.
It's the process people go through as they fall in love.
If you are in love or have ever been in love, you went through it. If your spouse is in love with you, s/he went through it as well.
When people follow the LovePath, they fall in love whether they mean to or not. When they vacate or violate the LovePath, they fall out of love whether they mean to or not.
Is there a way to keep on the LovePath? To keep falling in love over a lifetime?
Yes.
In this program Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes explain the first step on the LovePath...the step that many people forget over time and, as a result, either start falling out of love with their spouses OR their spouses start falling out of love with them.
Some have gone further than that. They are not at the "starting" point of falling out of love. Love is dead. (Either their's or their spouse's love.)
By understanding this first phase of falling in love...and how to use it over your entire lifetime...you can stay in love...and even RENEW LOST LOVE.
As we discuss this first phase of the LovePath, we will take your calls to demonstrate how the LovePath works in your life by answering your real-life questions. During the program, you can call 616-378-0424 to speak with us live.
The program begins at 9 p.m. Central.