Rori Raye Feminine Energy Radio For Women: Recent Episodes
Rori Raye Feminine Energy Radio For Women
A man is fragile in many ways.
He needs wins. He needs to have wins — with you.
And here's what screws up that seemingly simple thing — giving him a win — and makes it feel nearly impossible most of the time — and literally the last thing you want to do most of the time...
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So the question is, is that real? Does he make me feel bad, or is something happening inside me that I don't want to deal with?
Are there feelings coming up that I don't want to see, that I don't want to look at?
If you can't be angry at him without giving away your power, what are you supposed to be doing with that anger?
Stomp it out, scream it out, get it out.
Say: "I'm so angry. I feel so angry. "
Not: "you did that, and that made me feel angry."
Then you stand with him open, and that is the key.
You stand with anger inside of you, but completely open.
And if you think that that is the weakness, somebody has sold you a bill of goods.
You can hold the space for your man at the same time as being your strongest, most siren self.
Holding space is not a codependent thing.
That is you being able to fill this big space with your whole insides and your wants, your feelings, and your anger, and hold it all, but let it be open and exposed to this man.
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Love, Rori
I’m getting this question a lot now. How can I tell if it’s intuition or a red flag? How can I tell if it’s intuition or old codependent stuff?
You stop trusting yourself. So the game here, the fun of it, and the awesomeness of it, is to begin to trust yourself.
Notice a feeling of peace that overcomes you, that takes care of you. Oh, that feels right. Now, you’re instinctively gonna question that. So catch that you’re questioning.
Codependent is such a weak word, but actually when you’re codependent, you are strong. So don’t let anybody tell you that that nice thing is weak.
On Siren Island, we practice living as your most empowered Feminine Self.
Siren Island is my official community and Feminine Energy Sanctuary, right now the monthly membership is only $33 here:
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Love, Rori
The trigger is your winner.
Not your enemy.Your winner.
Because without something instigating a shock to your system --upsetting the apple cart of your normal patterns --you just stay stuck.
You're in a logjam.In one place.Forever.
So the trigger happens.All the old patterns come up.And then you step back for a second and go:
"Whoa. I felt that.That was old.Oh my goodness, I don't want to go there."
I'm not going into his vortex.
I'm the vortex.
I'm the center.
And after one or two times of the same exact thing coming at you --because the same trigger is going to come at you over and over again --you'll have a different choice.
Am I going to punish myself?
Or am I going to free myself?
It's always a choice in the moment.
Get out there and let yourself get triggered.Write everything down.
Talk to us.
Don't let it happen only in your imagination.Do it!
That's what Circular Dating is for.
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Love, Rori
If you're in a bad feeling place -- it could be your body.
It could be grief.
It could be something under the rug you haven't looked at yet.
Most grief never goes away.
It's always there, so you have to always be willing to feel it.
Pick up your hand.
Look at your palm.
Follow the lines down.
Stay with your hand.
That was mindfulness.
Now do it mindless.
No thought.
Nothing.
Just take the hand in.
Feel it.
All the way down your body.
Wasn't that better?
That is vulnerability.
That is you looking at a man across the table for the first time in your life -- and just taking him in.
Mindless.
You don't want to be up here anymore.
You want to be down.
Down in where you feel stuff.
Because the more you're open to feeling everything -- the more you're going to start choosing the good stuff.
It's all there all at once, but you get to choose where you focus!
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Love, Rori
You're stuck.
Literally stuck.
In a situation with a bad boss. A company that's going to fall apart. And you can see it coming... This is probably true for 99% of you.
The people in power have absolutely no concept of what's actually being run by the people who know what they're doing.
This is the state of existence.
This is the world.
So what do you do?
Start your own choir.It doesn't mean you're going to actually start the business.
It means you're going to have the experience of putting it together. And see what feels like. That's going to expand you.
Because the truth is -- you're holding the logjam in.
You're going, "I can't move."And you just have to go: "I'll let that in. I'll do that. I'll move here." And then it starts to float.
And things will happen.Let go, let God. Let go, let the universe happen.
Let go, let your feminine energy run you.
This is you healing you.
This is you healing the world.
From your feminine.
This is where the power is.
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Love, Rori
We all get stuck.
So the first step is always --fall in love with it.Fall in love with the stuck.
It's like a log jam.Things get piled up.Things get barricaded.You've been in one emotion for a long time.
And the log jam isn't the problem.Fighting it is.
Stop resisting it.Pretend you're floating on your back in a sea of stuck.Let the water flow.Let the logs float.
Feminine energy is the embracement of chaos.Inspiration and intuition come from allowing it --not controlling it.
What makes a great love partner?His ability to hold space for you and your energy.His ability to be in the company of great energy.
And what makes YOU powerful?Your ability to hold that same space for yourself.
Expand your space.Let it float.See what happens.
Come practice this with us on Siren Island:
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Love, Rori
We are in a new era.
Women everywhere are rejecting men because of their values.
Women are jumping away from the idea of relationship.
And the problem is -- we don't have the framework to keep ourselves in a high level place while we sort it all out.
So what does feminine energy actually feel like?
It's not living from your head. It's living from down low. From your anchor. From your power source.
Drama is up here. Emotion is down here. Feminine energy is down here.
Fall in love with your work.
Fall in love with the job.
Fall in love with it all.
That is your feminine power.
You are bringing emotion and intuition into the workplace. You are bringing inspiration. You do it from down low. Not from up here.
It changes everything.
Come practice this with us on Siren Island: https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-feminine-energy-course-and-community/
Love, Rori
You want to be 100% vulnerable
Except that’s your nervous system telling you if you’re open, you’re gonna get mowed down.
Your feminine energy is ferocious.
It is powerful.
It is protecting yourself in a different way than your masculine energy does.
Your masculine energy protects you by closing yourself down, pushing him forward, staying mental, staying strategic.
Your feminine energy goes:
“I just feel.
I just feel.
And right now I feel…”
And it’s gonna take you a while.
You can see how your own voice will change, and your own speed, and your own breath will change.
So where we’ve gotten is you’re vulnerable with yourself, and you start to know the difference between the thoughts you’re thinking and the actual feelings underneath.
Which is:
“I want.”
I want to feel close.
I feel lonely.
I want to feel connected.
If I could turn this around, you can too.
You can learn to do this from the inside out with us on Siren Island, my official Rori Raye community.
Especially with everything happening in the world right now, having real community matters so much. Not just another app you scroll past, but a space that feels supportive, alive, feminine, and nourishing to return to.
That’s what Siren Island is for me, too.
Siren Island is here:
https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-feminine-energy-course-and-community/
Love, Rori
Life is a process.
You are a process. You are a work in process. A work in progress.
What’s progress? What’s the endpoint?
There is no beginning. There is no end.
I’ve been thinking about happiness. It’s really an interesting word. We take it for granted.
“I’m happy.”
Certain things make us happy that seem external: dancing, music, experiences, people.
But try to zero in on the feeling itself when you feel happy.
Often we think happiness requires something outside of us—an external experience. Yet happiness is actually an internal experience.
Unfortunately, getting down into that internal experience often requires moving through layers of pain, sadness, and grief. A lot of grief.
And then there’s the anger sitting on top of everything, protecting you.
When you move through that, you eventually reach something deeper:
Love.
Maybe that’s what I should talk about.
What does that baseline love feel like?
It’s the feeling you have when you look at a puppy.
If you don’t feel anything when you look at a puppy, you’re probably shutting something down.
Puppies were practically created to look at you with those eyes and open your heart automatically.
Babies are the same way.
This is the kind of work we practice every day inside Siren Island—not just talking about love, happiness, and connection, but learning how to experience them more deeply in our real lives.
Especially with everything happening in the world right now, having real community matters so much. Not just another app you scroll past, but a space that feels supportive, alive, feminine, and nourishing to return to.
That’s what Siren Island is for me, too.
Siren Island is here:
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Love, Rori
How can you find a man who is a giver rather than a taker?
A man who is masculine rather than feminine?
What do you do if you have a history of being attracted to men who are in their feminine?
What do you do if you’re in a long-term relationship that you’re no longer happy with and you want something different?
Trust starts internally—with trusting yourself, your intuition, your ability to make decisions, your ability to make the right choices, and your ability to open up to love and be a receiver.
Being a lean-back receiver of everything.
Every moment of every day.
When you’re on a walk. No matter who you’re taking care of.
Even when you’re taking care of your child—a screaming child—you are still on the receiving end of love coming from that child, coming from the air, coming from God if you’re into God, coming from the trees if you’re not, coming from the molecules, coming from the experience of life itself.
You are a receiver of energy.
As soon as you get that into your being, you’ll no longer see yourself as this run-dry person constantly giving and giving and giving. You are a channel. The energy comes into your receiver, and then it comes out in love—to the child, to the dog, to yourself, to the other person.
This has to be the core of everything you do from this moment on.
If you want to truly embody this work—not just understand it intellectually, but actually feel it in your body—come play with me on Siren Island.
Especially with everything happening in the world right now, having real community matters so much. Not just another app you scroll past, but a space that actually feels supportive, alive, feminine, and nourishing to return to.
That’s what Siren Island is for me, too.
Siren Island is here:
https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-feminine-energy-course-and-community/
Love, Rori
Can I trust you with me?
Can I trust you with the real me?
I can trust you with the me that can do everything.
I’ll take care of everything and you can just be there.
And if I can’t trust you some of the time, I’ll just shut down and that’s okay.
That’s, I think, the way most of us live.
I don’t really trust you. So I’ll just be my ‘10 self’ around you a lot of the time. And when you leave the house, I’ll be my real self.
That trust creates emotional intimacy, right?
But here we’re talking about trusting his intentions.
His intentions to move forward.
His intentions to be good to you.
His intentions toward what a connected relationship is… what a lifetime relationship is… what a marriage is… as opposed to a fabulous experience with a man that’s not forever.
When a good man decides you’re the one, he doesn’t give you reasons to distrust him… but being chosen is not the same as experiencing deep intimacy.
If you want to truly embody this work — not just understand it intellectually, but actually feel it in your body — come play with me on Siren Island.
Especially with everything happening in the world right now, having real community matters so much. Not just another app you scroll past, but a space that actually feels supportive, alive, feminine, and nourishing to return to.
That’s what Siren Island is for me, too.
Siren Island is here:
https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-feminine-energy-course-and-community/
Love, Rori
See everything as giving to you, which naturally places you in a position of receiving.
Imagine walking around all day receiving from the walls, the rugs, the doors, the food, the refrigerator, the cat, the dog, the man standing in the corner — no matter what he’s doing.
The man on the phone or on Zoom — no matter what he’s doing — energetically, you're on the receiving end of everything.
Forget about the “magnet” idea for now if that feels like too much.
Just focus on this:
You are on the receiving end of everything.
Like a football receiver. Like a catcher.
As soon as you get into that state, you start building trust because you begin to recognize what it feels like.
Your whole body softens a little.
Anybody feeling that?
Even if your mind is racing, it doesn’t matter.
Drop down into your belly.
Feel your feminine energy expanding.
Let your body soften and open. Let yourself fill up.
Then look at anything — the rug, for example — and imagine the energy coming toward you. You are receiving love from the rug.
When you look at your dog, instead of a blank “there’s my dog,” you begin taking in the love. You begin to receive.
Just use that word:
Receive.
Paste it in your mind. Paste it on your face.
You are going to receive self-worth.
You are going to receive esteem.
You are going to receive everything.
You are on the receiving end.
If you want to truly embody this work — not just understand it intellectually, but actually feel it in your body — come play with me on Siren Island.
Especially with everything happening in the world right now, having real community matters so much.
Not just another app you scroll past, but a space that actually feels supportive, alive, feminine, and nourishing to return to.
That’s what Siren Island is for me, too.
Siren Island is here: https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-feminine-energy-course-and-community/
Love, Rori
The only thing you can trust, to start the process of trusting the external, is the internal.
That means you.
If you are like 99.9% of women in the world, you’ve been taught since birth to other-esteem. We are constantly on the lookout for gathering our self-esteem through others — how they look at us, how they respond to us, whether they move toward us or away from us.
When we don’t allow ourselves to imagine love coming toward us, we start trying to get it.
Can you feel the difference in the body? Here, it’s just coming toward me — I’m leaning back. Here, I’m trying to get it — I’m leaning forward.
We instinctively look for approval, love, appreciation, desire — all on a subconscious level. And then consciously, we fight it.
Part of you wants to lean forward and grab him. Another part of you remembers being a Siren. And another part feels angry at yourself for needing anything at all.”“So here we are, all of us pushing and pulling at the same time — pushing against our own deep-seated need to receive love from others.
If we truly felt love was always coming toward us, then of course we could trust him automatically.
You are energetically assuming love is coming toward you and letting it land on you.
As soon as you get this into your being — ‘I can’t control everything’ — something softens.
The weather is bigger than you. You cannot control the weather. And when you really feel that, something inside you begins to let go.
You begin to look at everything differently — your dog, your cat, the books in front of you — and feel life itself coming toward you.
Inside Siren Island, you’ll get access to feminine energy tools, relationship coaching, live classes, and ongoing support to help you stop overgiving, stop chasing, and finally feel more secure and magnetic in love.Inside Siren Island, you’ll have access to feminine energy tools, relationship coaching, live classes, and ongoing support to help you stop overgiving, stop chasing, and finally feel more secure and magnetic in love.
Siren Island is here:
https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-feminine-energy-course-and-community/
Love, Rori
Marriage means you change.
You start to open up and stand up for yourself, and suddenly you feel irritated and unsure.
It’s not just him anymore—it’s everyone—and you keep asking: what do I want?
I lost my dog and realized how much I had been ignoring my own wants because other people didn’t approve. I thought being “free” meant giving myself up.
When I finally chose what I needed, everything shifted. I stopped blaming and started saying: I need this. I want this. I want to feel this way.
And I learned that being honest is harder than being angry—but it changes everything.
If he wants to be with you, he will shift.
As long as you shift into saying the truth, the second you start laying fault on him, he’s going to back up and it won’t work.
When you have rage, talk about your rage to the women and all of us here on Siren Island or your coach, and learn how to say: I’m feeling enraged. I want to hit things. Instead of “you’re an idiot.”
I actually discovered I said to myself, “oh my God, I’m an idiot,” and I didn’t even realize it. And my husband said, “you’re not an idiot. Don’t say that to yourself.” And I went, “thank you.”
That’s the relationship you want.
You can join us on Siren Island here:
https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-feminine-energy-course-and-community/
Love, Rori
Do not allow any unavailable man to take any of your time, period. That's the law. Don't do it.If he stops calling, if he stops making dates, lean back and see if that's you trying to push him out of your way. But mostly he's got to really try hard for you.And if you are not encountering men who are trying hard for you, that's because you're not letting those guys in because you really, really, really inside don't want that intimacy, that emotional intimacy, and they are too close.So you have to take baby steps by dating men who you would normally not allow because they are available.On Siren Island—my creative feminine energy playground—you'll be first to see what new coaching tools and programs come next, because you help inspire it all. You'll be able to turn all of this around. Siren Island is here:https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-feminine-energy-course-and-community/Love, Rori
The only way you're ever going to get the love you want is if you're able to receive it.
If you're busy giving, wanting, and chasing — there's no room for you to receive.
You're not as big as you want to be.
Leaning back isn't about playing games.
It's about becoming the kind of woman men can actually move toward.
Even if you're an extrovert with a big personality — especially then!
And you can learn this in your bones — the feminine energetics of all of this — on Siren Island. My official course and community.
Siren Island is here:https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-feminine-energy-course-and-community/
Love, Rori
Here's the Question: I want to be friends with a recent ex, and I know that we want different things romantically, but how can I build back the trust and support as friends when he refuses to talk to me?From Rori: All right. You may hate me, but don’t. Don’t do it. Stop it.Too much energy. Ridiculous. For your real wants. He’s a friend.He’s not going to help you. Forget it.Plus, you’re trying to convince him because he’s not coming towards you. You’re totally staying in your masculine energy for a reason.And the reason is you feel lonely, right?You want to, and you want to win too.Let’s see. Yes, you want the win of winning him over.Please don’t do it. Please step away.If I was doing one-to-one with you, I would… even in a master class, I know you’d fight me and you’d say, “oh, but he’s really a worthwhile person. There’s so many things that he could offer me. He could get me a job. He could do this. He could do that.”Doesn’t matter.He’s… like this. You’re going like this forward and he’s moving away. You’re just chasing him.And guess what? All this energy that you’re using on that is just crippling you from what you really want, which is an honest relationship.But I’m here to tell you, I know because I know this in myself.If you meet a man who starts moving towards you, you’re going to run because internally, this is all you can handle.You have to practice.You have to practice just staying like this, like a flower open and let guys come to you and try to pollinate you.Just let them come to you.If you feel scared and you start to run away, I want you to notice that.But going forward is always the losing strategy.Going forward after someone is always a losing strategy.Any strategy is losing.But you’re in your mind, you’re in your masculine.Don’t.Stay still.Being a siren is all about stillness.It’s all about serenity.It’s all about staying on your island.It’s all about singing.It’s all about you singing.If you recognize yourself here, if this feels familiar…Siren Island is where you want to be.Join me on Siren Island here:https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-feminine-energy-course-and-community/Love, Rori
Everything’s getting better, but it’s still not working.
What’s going on? Here’s what I really want you to hear what you’re saying to yourself, okay?You’re saying:X, Y, Z has happened, therefore it will continue to happen.But truthfully, haven’t you ever felt breakthroughs continually in your life?You couldn’t figure out a problem all of a sudden.Have you ever felt like shut down and all of a sudden you cried and then you felt yourself open?All of a sudden your dog did something cute and you went—that’s an opening.That means if some man stood in front of you, no matter how closed down you feel at any given moment, if you tracked yourself and maybe tried to tool in the moment, you could open up for that moment.Most of us have a bad habit of walking down the street, walking through life in a half dead state.You know, we’re in our heads.We are not feeling anything or experiencing anything.We’re in our heads.So we want to work on that and start feeling what’s going on in our body.Start looking at what’s around us—the grass, the trees.Start dropping our head action down into our vaginas and doing that constantly all day long.It’s a matter of…and then you will start to feel more gapsmore openingsmore moments where you feel more like yourselfwhen you feel looserwhen you’re not in your headand things not working out i i’m if you’d like to write that down like one one not work outthe only reason something would not work out would be that: • either he’s decided you’re not the one • or you’ve decided, even though he wants you, that he’s not the one • or he doesn’t want what you wantYou want kids, he doesn’t want kids.All the things that could be decided on date one.And which wouldn’t make a difference as long as you were circular dating more than one man at the same time.It wouldn’t be serial.It wouldn’t be, oh, this is good and then it falls apart.This would be good and then it falls apart.If you’re doing them all, if you’re doing 10 men at the same time or you’re open to it,you have much more chance of not leaning on any one man.And the second that you found a man amazing,it is possible that you started leaning forward.And he went, "whoops, bye!"Which is pretty impossible to happen with a man who actually thinks you’re the one.So there’s no way for you to know.You just got to keep going.Talk to basketball players.Look at sports.One minute, a guy’s falling on his face and missing the hoop 20 times in a row.The next minute he throws it in the hoop and he wins the game for everybody.Yes?So keeping track of your past no’s does not mean that the next yes no is going to be a no.It doesn’t.So here we’re back to this.If you can feel this… it’s for you.Come join me on Siren Island,where you’ll learn how to open, feel, and live in an epically powerful feminine state of being.Enter here:https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-feminine-energy-course-and-community/Love, Rori
The process of dating, online dating, going on dates, talking to men—that is like exposure, the psychological technique for healing anxiety.
If you’re terrified of elevators, you get into the elevator and you deal with your anxiety from a very knowledgeable place until, guess what? The anxiety reaches a level… and then it goes down, if you’re paying attention.
So as a Siren, as a modern Siren on Siren Island, learning these techniques to track yourself, you will start to heal yourself through the process of dating and being in a relationship—because it’s those moments of being triggered that are the healing moments.
So I’m hoping this is exciting you and giving you more reason to get more deeply involved in this relationship concept, because it will help heal your codependent survival instincts on all levels.
Which is going to elevate you financially. It’s going to elevate your work—because your bosses are 99% sure to be in masculine energy, whether or not they’re men or women.
Yes—women bosses are totally in their masculine energy.
And we need to open the door for you to be a leader in your field, in your feminine.
And that means retraining yourself—and everyone around you.
So this is pretty momentous.
But guess what?
It’s the easiest route compared to the one you’re doing now.
The one you’re doing now involves thinking your way through it, trying to manipulate other people into loving you and liking you in order for you to survive—which is why we choose unavailable men, men who are confused, men who don’t know what they want.
When it’s clear as a bell what you want…
Yes, it just makes me—yes—tear up here.
It’s like I’m working against myself.
You’re working against yourself if you try to pretend like it’s not important to you and say, “I’m just going to decenter them.”
No.
So what I want you to do is start noticing—with The Catch.
There are six Love Forever Tools. If you’re not on Siren Island and hearing this, if you’re not in my Siren world—get in it somehow so you can get the Six Love Forever Tools.
Those will change your life in—what—10 pages?
So the first one is The Catch, the first of the six. The Catch means awareness.
This is everything you see out there—Eckhart Tolle, being a mystic as I perceive myself, the magic of life itself, all of those things… the intuition.
Siren Island is here: https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-feminine-energy-course-and-community/
Love, Rori
Decentering men is about this:
Right now, you see out there a political movement to basically demolish the patriarchy in all of its ramifications—everything that it does to women who want to succeed in life beyond the typical… what is said women are supposed to do.
You know—be mothers, have children, take care of the house.
And listen—women can be successful and have everything else they want.
That is something I would love to talk about at another time.
But right now… you’re here because of relationships.
Because of your relationship with a man.
Because you want love in your life.
You want affection, tenderness… trust.
You want to give your heart to somebody.
You want to feel open-hearted.
You want to feel love, and sex, and ease, and care.
You want to feel somebody cares for you… that you can rely on them.
And oh my gosh… all of these amazing feelings that happen in a romantic partnership.
And when I say romantic—I mean something different from a friendship.
So that’s why you’re here.
And so…
Let’s talk about that.
And if you’re feeling that pull—like you don’t just want to understand this, you actually want to live this…
Come join me inside these FemState™ Studio Sessions on Siren Island.
This is where we go deeper—where you begin to embody this work in real time, in your real life, with real support.
Siren Island is here: https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-feminine-energy-course-and-community/
And I’ll see you there.
Love, Rori
Look at all the women you admire out there. Beyoncé. Come on. No matter who Taylor Swift is with, she's going to make more money than that person. She's going to be more successful. She's a legend. So if she can have love, can you?
Yes. Of course you can.
What it means is this: you accept a man for who he is, what he is, and what he makes. And you don't make a big deal out of it — even if your subconscious tries to.
Instead, you notice the part of you that wants to compete with him, or feel superior to him. And then you ask yourself the real question: What do you want? Do you want to work? Build a career? Be home and contribute in other ways?
Here's the simple truth: every man wants something different. Every man is in a different phase of his life. Men are actually pretty straightforward about what they want. The confusing part is that we often don't know what we want.
And that's exactly what we help you discover inside Siren Island — how to reconnect with what you truly want, and create the love and life you want from your feminine energy.
👉 Learn more about Siren Island here:
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Love, Rori
I want you to take your power back.
Everybody sees that differently.
So stick out your arms.
There was a guy who broke up with you once. You invested in him, and you left pieces of yourself still in him. Take them back. Just invite them back.
Just go on, do it.
Just invite back from that guy who broke your heart.
That job, that boss who said something nasty to you — just take your power back, because you left it with him.
That guy you got super angry with — you left that piece of you with him, because all that anger still comes up for you, right?
If the anger still comes up for you, that piece of you is within him.
Take it back.
Take back.
Take back that anger.
That energy. Take it back.
Grief is all-encompassing.
Feel grief with that person, that dog, that feeling. Keep the feeling. It’s inside. It’s not going anywhere.
Take the piece of yourself back.
Just take the piece of the power back. Leave the love. Take the power back.
Just do it with your hands here. Just do it like that.
Just imagine your pieces coming back to you.
Just do it this way, figuratively. Just use your hands.
Just pull it back. Pat it back in you.
Do you feel a little more filled up? Can you feel bigger? Can you just feel it coming back to you? That’s it.
If you come up with a past memory of some guy, go, “Ooh, I left some power with him.”
And just go, bring it back, and it’ll come back to you.
It’s back to you. Don’t even look for it. Just say it’s back.
Every time the past comes up for you, realize that it can’t come up for you — not that you have to get rid of the past and do tough stuff to get rid of the past. Just take the power back of you from that memory.
Take it back from the memory. You won’t erase the memory. You won’t erase the good feelings.
If you’re thinking about something or thinking about what somebody else thinks of you, take your power back. Just take it back.
On Siren Island, where I’ve workshopped this, is my official Feminine Energy community where you can get personal coaching in live classes and in writing around this practice and more.
Siren Island Is here: https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/
Love, Rori
If a guy says, “What do you do?” or “How’s your work?” or “What are you doing at this party?” the first thing that happens is a thought like, What’s the best answer? What will he like the most? What will turn him on the most?
That’s subconscious.
You don’t have to judge yourself for it.
Why judge it? But we do. We judge it, then try to shove it down.
It’s just your subconscious coming up and out of your mouth. That’s it.
Instead of judging it, just notice it. Love it.
Then give yourself a chance to ask: Why am I at this party?
Am I here to have a good time?
Or am I here to get someone to come home with me?
To find “my man”?
To survive by securing a relationship?
Am I drinking because I’m having fun — or am I self-medicating so I don’t have to hear my own subconscious?
Codependency came out of addiction work. Beneath addiction is pain — and beneath that is codependency. Even alcoholics discovered that understanding codependency was key to understanding why they drank in the first place. It’s the same with love addiction.
So if you’re at that party for a purpose — why?
This constant “purposeful” energy drives self-judgment and control.
And here’s the truth: men don’t respond well to controlling energy. If you want to stay in that masculine, controlling place, you can — you get to choose. But it won’t give you what you actually want.
If you’re tired of trying to say the right thing, do the right thing, be the right thing — and you’re ready to feel powerful instead of anxious, Siren Island is the space where you actually get to practice this.
Siren Island is here:
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Love, Rori
If you don’t think you’re controlling… you probably are.
You’re just not doing it in an aggressive way.
You’re not doing it in a way that other people would easily recognize.
But if you leave a date and you don’t feel high…
you feel kind of icky instead…
That’s normal — when you didn’t actually feel good in that person’s presence, but you tried hard. You tried to be liked. You tried to be chosen. And then you felt rejected.
So what if you didn’t try so hard at all?
When it comes to getting your needs met, there are two sides of the same coin. In this case, the need underneath everything is simple: you want to feel appreciated. You want to feel sexy. Desirable. Beautiful.
And when someone says “no” to you, it can feel like all of that disappears.
Which might mean… we don’t yet have very strong feelings about ourselves.
And so what?
Very few people feel so self-solid that rejection doesn’t sting. Even the most gorgeous women in the world are devastated by rejection. Even the most stunning women struggle to find partners because they’re stuck in masculine over-efforting, insecurity, and control.
You are all gorgeous. I can see that.
So you’re here because we’re going to change this whole pattern.
We’re going to give up on men as our saviors.
We’re going to stop trying to get rescued.
We’re going to stop using men to solve our survival and self-worth.
And instead, we’re going to come home to ourselves.
If this resonates with you, I invite you to officially join us inside the Rori Raye Siren community on Siren Island.
Come to the intimate coaching classes. Practice the Feminine State of Being tools. Learn how to soften control, release rejection, and receive everything you want in a way that feels good to you.
This is where you practice being present.
This is where your feminine is empowered — every single day.
I would love to see you inside.
Siren Island is here:
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Love, Rori
How do we actually deal with rejection?How do we signal a man from our soft, confident feminine… when inside we’re feeling vulnerable, exposed, and deeply afraid of rejection — whether that looks like his clear “no,” a sudden hardness in his eyes, or the feeling of not being seen, felt, or met?And here’s the surprising truth: the pain doesn’t come from rejection itself.It comes from trying.Trying to say the right thing.Trying to signal correctly.Trying to prevent rejection before it happens.That effort — the reaching, the strategizing, the self-monitoring — actually works against your best interests. It pulls you out of your feminine energy and into control, which quietly pushes the right partner away.What if you didn’t try to do anything?No fixing.No improving.No managing how he feels about you.Just space. Stillness. Presence.This is not about giving up. And you’ll learn this up, down, and backwards with me and my Siren Island coaches inside the community. It’s about letting go of what was never the attraction secret to begin with. And when you do, rejection loses its power — because you’re no longer trying to use another person to survive.You might love Siren Island.Check it out here:https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/Love, Rori
It takes a while — sometimes a year, year and a half — for men to decide that it’s correct, that you’re it, right?
So what are you going to do during that time?
Do you consider yourself a sexual being, and you need a sex partner? That’s me. I want a sex partner, and I’m okay having sex with somebody that I don’t marry.
If that’s not you — and you’re faith-based or something, and you don’t want to be having sex — then you have to ask yourself: what level of physical intimacy am I comfortable with?
And in the masterclass, we talk about it. Intercourse is intercourse — is that all that you don’t want to do?
Can you do oral sex?
Can you do a lot of touching sex?
Can you do a hand job for him?
Can he do a hand job for you?
Is orgasm okay?
What are your boundaries here?
Where does sex start and end?
If you want to go deeper into these conversations with us — love, dating, intimacy, boundaries, and feminine power — come join us inside Siren Island, where we explore the real, lived experience of relationships together.
Siren Island is here:
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Love, Rori
We fall into relationships all the time… and we often have no idea what the details actually are.
We enter vague relationship deals.
So here’s the question:
Why do we accept such vagueness from men?
This would make an incredible masterclass topic, because the situation often determines what that vagueness looks like and what it’s really about.
But underneath it all, it stems from something deeply human:
So many of us don’t feel skilled enough to literally get what we want.
Not skilled enough to ask for what we want.
And even deeper than that…
Not actually knowing what we want.
We are vague with ourselves.
If I asked you right now: What do you want?
What would you come up with?
Most women say something like, “I want him to do something…”
But that’s not a want - that’s a strategy.
Those are little pieces.
And you can see how we become anxious, scattered, and all over the place when we don’t know the core thing we truly want.
People call them “needs” - the six human needs, the Tony Robbins framework…
But honestly?
I’m much more interested in want.
Desire.
I love the word desire because it wakes you up. It turns something on inside you.
And when you feel turned on, you have so much more power than when you don’t.
Because when you’re turned on, you’re looser.
You’re more open.
You can feel yourself.
When you’re not turned on, you’re shut down somewhere.
And this is exactly the kind of work we do inside Siren Island.
On Siren Island, you’ll have trained coaches walking with you in live classes each month, helping you practice clear, direct communication that actually feels good in a relationship…
…and so much more.
Siren Island is here:
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love, Rori
The need for validation, clarity, and connection often comes out as a question—because a question feels harmless.
But what we’re really doing is throwing a spear at him.
We’re literally throwing something at him.
He’s completely off base—not because he doesn’t care, but because he was probably thinking about sports… or work… or whatever was already in his mind.
He wasn’t thinking anything close to what you were thinking.
So here you are, asking him a question.
“I forgot—what time are we leaving tonight?”
You could have checked your calendar.
You could have looked at your phone.
But you didn’t actually want the time.
You wanted connection.
That question was a connection boost.
The truth is, when we get into clarity scripting, what’s really happening underneath is this:
I feel alone.
I feel weird.
I feel anxious.
I need reassurance.
I need to connect with you.
What you’re actually asking is:
Can I have a hug?
Please hug me.
Or…
I need to kiss you.
I need to look into your eyes.
I’m not in myself—I’m in my head.
I need you to ground me.
But instead of saying that, we ask a question.
So we’re way up in our head—and he feels pushback.
He feels pressure.
He feels like he’s being asked to perform or answer correctly.
And that’s where things start to miss.
On Siren Island, you don’t have to figure this out alone.
You’ll have my trained coaches walking with you in live classes each month—helping you practice clear, direct communication that actually feels good in a relationship… and so much more.
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Love, Rori
Look at your hand.
Look at the bracelet you’re wearing.
Look at the shirt you’re wearing.
Anything that inspires you to feel grounded, or the floor, or centered — or any of those words we always use — or an object you can touch, that you can feel engaged with. The table right here, the desk, your knee.
Hold your hand.
See if you can feel engaged with that.
And then see the man, see your boss, see whatever you see — see your work ahead of you — and don’t get lost in the picture for a minute.
I’m here.
See if that feels more deep.
So instead of “grounded” or “centered,” let’s call it being deep inside you — connected with you, engaged with you.
Now tell me:
Do you feel the need to ask a question of this person?
Or do you kind of feel quiet inside?
If you suddenly feel quiet inside, then there’s no need to ask a question.
So what is going on with your vibe now that you’re down there?
Are you feeling angry at him because he’s not engaging with you, and it creates this need inside you?
Are you feeling frustrated that you’re in this moment of discomfort?
Or do you feel, oh, I just needed to drop down — I just needed to feel me?
I need to feel inside me.
I need to feel self.
Self.
We talk about self-respect, self-regard, self-love… but how about you just feel self?
Me.
Say me.
Say self.
You feel that full vibration, that full aliveness of me.
And yes, it can make you feel anxious that they will go away if you’re not reaching out.
Of course. So pull it back in. Pull that anxiety, that worry about them, back inside.
Drop it down inside you.
It often feels like a reach-out — like a tentacle going out — and then it becomes words, a question.
So what we want to do is notice when that’s happening.
Notice when you feel the need to reach out… and pull it back inside.
Feel the loneliness.
Feel what’s at the bottom of the feeling that makes you think you need to engage the other human. Turn to a dog, a cat. Feel presence. Feel pleasure.
All of a sudden it feels like an invitation.
So what we’re really saying is: whenever you feel the need to reach out and ask — even to someone at work, someone on your team — pause and ask yourself:
What is the root of that feeling of need?
Because it may not be a need at all.
You can join us at Siren Island and step into this living, breathing feminine space anytime.
Siren Island is here:
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Love, Rori
We’re talking about dating as opposed to deep relationships.
So I think in this segment I’m going to go into if you’re deeper into a relationship and there’s so much more baggage and history when you attempt to connect rather than separate through your words, and by getting down into what it is you want when you are already so untaken care of and you have so much anger and all kinds of stuff going on.
What I’d like to start with is first a recap of this whole process that I’m talking about.
We're starting from a scratch— and if you're not in a loving relationship that feels extraordinary and you’re super happy and amazing...
If you’re still not there yet, the way I certainly was until I was 40, then you, like me, have been spending all of your energy literally saying that you want love, but literally pushing it away.
That all of your energy has been going into pushing love away, not pulling it in.
That your whole—you come to me here with the energetic machine of pushing men away automatically.
You’re good at it, and you do it.
Even though it sounds and feels like something else to you. It feels like you’re not lucky, or the bad men.
It's you pushing men away and love away on purpose, because that is your inner self trying to protect you.
So let’s switch that!
On Siren Island, you can work with my Rori Raye Coaches every day, in the community, and live over Zoom in five different classes through the month.
You can have everything you want from your feminine energy.
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Love, Rori
So, connection. What does connection feel like?
I’m really talking to faith-based women and non–faith-based women who can come with me into a spiritual place.
And when I say a spiritual place, it’s ephemeral.
It’s not concrete.
The people around you don’t know what you’re talking about.
They may think you are silly.
They may think you’re a “silly feeler” with spiritual leanings.
I want you to realize how much you are trying to block that stuff.
I don’t know a single woman who is not actually a spiritual person.
You have the ability to build cells in your body.
What could that possibly be?
You know, cells go bad in your body—and you can heal.
That’s something completely different.
That’s connection: to your body, to life, to self, to everything.
Just speaking about it—do you feel like we’re in another world that I could call spiritual?
We’re speaking about what I can’t do with a needle or scissors.
We’re speaking about what heals.
When you break your leg, isn’t it amazing that it heals by itself?
Yes, it’s a function of the way your body works, but it’s kind of magical because you don’t know exactly how it works.
Siren Island is where you can practice the magical feminine state of being with me and my Feminine Siren Coaches.
The live classes, the practices, the community, the tools—
all created to help you feel safe in your feminine power so you can use it everywhere in your life.
Join us here:
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Love, Rori
Your feeling state is your truth.
It’s not what you want him to do or how you wish things looked.
It’s the pulse that lives deep inside you — the craving, the warmth, the tension, the peace.
As soon as you drop down into that, everything shifts.Stop wanting him to act differently.
Stop trying to fix.
Instead, notice what you feel.
Maybe it’s uncomfortable, maybe it’s even ugly — and that’s perfect.
Feeling is safety.
Safe to be, safe to feel, safe to exist in your own body without performing for love.
Your mind wants to keep you safe by controlling, planning, protecting.
But your body — your heart, your feminine core — already loves you.
The moment you let yourself feel, peace begins.
Power begins.
Pleasure begins.
You don’t get there by doing more.
You get there by softening — by letting your energy move down, into your belly, your heart, your body.
That’s where your life starts breathing again.
That’s the feminine way: stop doing and start being.
Siren Island is where you can practice this feminine state of being with me and my Feminine Siren Coaches.
The live classes, the practices, the community, the tools—
all created to help you feel safe in your feminine power so you can use it everywhere in your life.
Join us here:
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Love, Rori
There’s something that feels almost taboo to talk about in dating, and that’s this desire for men to be more initiating.
Many women wonder, Can I even want that? Can I ask for that?
What I’ve noticed—especially watching something like Love Is Blind—is that people often come together because their patterns recognize each other.
On the surface, it looks like compatibility. But over time, what was hidden starts to show.
Niceness can cover a lot.
Sometimes what looks gentle at first turns out to be demanding, or even controlling.
It takes time to get to someone’s real nature.
So let’s talk about wants versus expectations.
Expectations are patterns.
Wants are deeper.
Just because you want something doesn’t mean it will happen—but wanting is where everything starts.
The problem is, many of us don’t actually know what we want anymore.
Our desires have been shaped by what we were told we should want.
When you say, “I want him to lead,” what you usually mean isn’t a list of behaviors.
You don’t want him to perform masculinity correctly.
What you want is to feel something—to relax, to soften, to drop out of your head and into yourself.
And when you connect there, something shifts.
Connection comes before behavior, not the other way around.
Want to keep growing your Siren self with semi-private coaching classes, my amazing Siren Island Course and Community is where you practice with me and my Feminine Siren Coaches every day.
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Love, Rori
Do you really want a man who is really hemming you in?
Because I have to tell you, there are men out there who would look at you and say, “Wow, you are amazing.”Why would you want a man who says, “I resent you… I feel competitive with you”?
I love watching celebrity couples because they show us so much about what happens when two highly successful, competitive people try to build a relationship.
How does it work out?How did J-Lo — Jennifer Lopez — and Ben love each other so much that they wanted to come together three times, only for it to end in disappointment every time?
She’s just like us: “I’ll try again. I’ll fill it with roses and wonder.”
But over time, the period she’s willing to put up with disappointment grows shorter and shorter.
If you’re curious about how your Love Siren and Business Siren patterns connect — or want help identifying your Business Siren Type — we’d love to explore it with you inside Siren Island, the home for this whole journey.
You’ll find live classes, special bonus trainings, events, and so much more waiting for you.
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Love, Rori
*The Question:*
My boyfriend of four months is sometimes quite lazy in bed. Ha ha. Meaning he lets me do most of the work. He may be tired, but I feel there’s something deeper. He’s normally quite masculine. What can I do?
From Rori:
So when you say you’re “doing the work” — are you doing it on him, or on yourself?
Sex is… you know, it’s many things.
It can be slow and tantric.
It can be touch-oriented, breathing together, looking into each other’s eyes — just feeling.
It’s so much touching.
And it doesn’t even have to mean intercourse.
It’s energy.
It’s an exchange.
The joy is the experience — that incredible, orgasmic freedom that lets your spirit flutter right out of your body and fly around the room.
That wild, sacred release that feels like freedom.
You can do that on your own, yes — but it’s even more powerful in his presence.
Just lay there on your back and say, “I just wanna lay here like a couch — could you please f my brains out?”
Try that next time!
Take off all your clothes and say, > “I want you to just… make me crazy,” and watch what happens.
Siren Island is where we practice voicing what you want like this — together.
Where you’ll learn to feel safe in your feminine power and to express your desire in every area of life — with love, with laughter, with softness, with fire.
There're live classes, embodiment practices, a sisterhood that holds you while you explore, and tools that help you live this way everywhere.
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Love, Rori
Teal is one of my Rori Raye coach Superstars, and she has already taught two full masterclasses inside the Siren Island Community.Today, she’s back to share how she became a true “Feminifestor” — in love, in partnership, and in the way men respond to her.I don’t talk about Law of Attraction very often, and yet many of my trained coaches and so many of my clients become master Feminifestors in their own lives.This is a special sneak peek of MAN-ifest — an introduction to the energetics of calling in a committed, emotionally available partner, and a preview of what Teal will be teaching in depth during the upcoming 5-day MAN-ifest experience.I hope you love this introduction to Teal’s event — I’ll be there!✨ Join Teal’s 5-Day Virtual Party Here:https://www.tealelisabeth.com/a/2148190876/FUg42oqzLove, Rori
If you’re in a marriage or a relationship with a guy who’s like a 20–30% — as a rule, anything under 50% as a rule — maybe pops up every now and then into an 80% and then he pops back down, and you just feel always like a pull towards him, like he’s pulling on you.
That’s your clue.
The way you deal with that marriage and make it better: you step back.
You disconnect the part of you that is doing the work.
You disconnect the “I’m doing the work.”
You disconnect the weight on the 20%, the 30%, the 80%.
You disconnect the anger because you know he’s below 50% as a rule.
You do not trust him.
You do not feel good about him.
You are unhappy on many levels.
And so you are angry.
You’ve got to get in touch with that.
You’ve got to deal with that.
You’ve got to feel that.
You’ve got to step back and stop saving the marriage.
Stop it!
He’s never felt you step back and get bored with him.
And if you’re not on Siren Island, all of this may sound incredibly new to you — when you’re feeling in your Feminine Energy…
everything feels better (even when things aren’t going the way you want…).
The Siren Island Course & Community is here to help you find your Feminine Energy, feel it fully, and live from it!
Everything changes once you experience your emotions instead of shoving them away… your power starts to bubble up and give you faith in yourself.
Siren Island is here:
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Love, Rori
We’ve been taught that leadership means being in control, being the smartest one in the room, keeping everything tight and contained.
But that isn’t actually where your power is.
Your power is in your emotional presence.
When you let yourself feel at work—joy, disappointment, pride, frustration—you become magnetic. People trust you more. They open to you. They follow you because they can feel you leading, not just instructing.
Feminine leadership is not weak. It is impactful.
It changes the room.
It changes the team.
It changes the way you relate to yourself.
And yes, it takes practice to feel safe being seen like that.
It takes support.
It takes sisterhood.
It takes a space where we practice softness, boundaries, expression, and being deeply held.
Siren Island is where you can practice with me and my Feminine Siren Coaches.
The live classes, the practices, the community, the tools—
all created to help you feel safe in your feminine power so you can use it everywhere in your life.
Join us here:
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Love, Rori
Most men — real, grounded, emotionally available men — want to treat you like a queen.
They want to adore you, provide for you, and see you light up when you feel safe and cherished.
The challenge isn’t finding those men — it’s recognizing them, and allowing yourself to receive what they offer.
So many women attach to men who aren’t ready, who don’t want to grow — and in doing that, they stop their own growth, too.
But when you begin to trust yourself, to hold your boundaries, to stay free while open… everything shifts.
You start to see the calm, steady men — the ones who already see you as “enough.”
Don’t you think that free-spirited women are the most attractive women in the world? So wouldn’t we want to be that?
Every month on The Siren Island Official Course & Community, I’ll be there to answer your questions and help you get clear on the big-ticket things you want—and then express those wants to men.
Siren Island is here:
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Love, Rori
Being messy is one of the first steps to being free.
How could you possibly go from being constricted and choosing men who don’t give you real love to being free enough to have amazing relationships and an amazing life?
On the way to your feminine energy, everything comes apart.
You have to untangle the beads before you can make a new necklace.
It’s going to be messy — but that’s how you begin to breathe again.
When you hide your emotions, your nervous system breaks down.
Stress overloads you, and the patterns that once kept you safe start to crumble.
That’s when the feminine arrives — in the chaos, in the feeling, in the honesty of who you really are.
Because when you finally let yourself be messy — when you stop trying to hold it all together — that’s the moment your feminine energy wakes up.
This is the heart of feminine energy — and Siren Island will help you live it every day.
The Siren Island Official Course & Community will get you where you want to go in every part of your life because you'll finally learn how to live from your Feminine Energy.
Check out Siren Island here:
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Love, Rori
Sometimes the man you’re drawn to brings out fear, anger, or pain. And when he finally shows up, what you feel isn’t joy… it’s relief.
Have you noticed that when you feel afraid most of the time, everything starts to feel heavy — even your relationships?That little rush of chemistry or passion can feel like love, but real love feels different. It feels safe. Steady. Connected.If he isn’t truly showing up — if you’re carrying the whole relationship — that’s not love. That’s fear running the show.You deserve something real. That’s why I created The Rori Raye Feminine Energy Siren Island — a space to heal your emotions, learn how to recognize real love, and grow your ability to have it all just by being your authentic girl-self.Siren Island is here:https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-mystic/Love, Rori
We’re not broken — it’s trauma! Many of us choose partners who aren’t good for us, sometimes even narcissists or psychopaths, and blame ourselves.
It’s your background, not your worth.We’ve been taught to stay small, and yet the healing begins when we expand.Try this:Stretch your arms wide. Feel the edges of the room, the mountain, the ocean.
As you grow bigger, the man you’re pining for suddenly feels smaller.You don’t have to choose between love and anger — your bigness lets you feel them all at once.
You just need to feel the feelings.In The Rori Raye Feminine Energy Siren Island, you’ll learn my Feminine Energy tools to feel stronger — inside yourself and in front of a man, now and forever, no matter where you’re starting from.Here’s Siren Island:https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-mystic/Love, Rori
He Wants You Mad!
Some men provoke anger on purpose.
When he’s defensive or distant, it’s often guilt—he already feels he’s not doing enough.
If you explode, he gets the alibi he needs to pull away: “See? You’re always angry.”
Step out of that trap.
Take two slow steps back, say nothing, and let his words land.
Don’t feed the guilt loop.
The shift in energy alone can change the whole dynamic.
Many of us feel drawn to the men who give the least, while dismissing the good ones.
That isn’t weakness—it’s subconscious self-protection.
The first step toward change is to notice the pattern and stop giving away your life-force to men who won’t meet you halfway.
Lean back.
Breathe.
Protect your energy.
When you stop reacting, you break the cycle and reclaim your power to choose love that feels safe, healthy, and mutual.
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Love, Rori
What saved me was circular dating.
the simple decision to keep meeting people, stay social, and treat all men as equal until one puts a ring on your finger.
For years I believed that once I kissed someone, I had to be exclusive.
That mindset kept me stuck.
Circular dating freed me to connect, to heal through being social—even coffee dates, language meetups, or just standing and letting people talk to me.
Most of us choose men who don’t truly choose us because our subconscious wants us to stay single—it’s trying to protect us from old pain handed down by family, childhood, and even generations.
The key is learning to feel instead of suppress.
Feelings are the healing!
When we make all men equal and express ourselves honestly—especially when triggered—we begin to love from a place of power instead of fear.
Want to learn my Circular Dating tools in real life with coaching and support?
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Love, Rori
Why have you chosen a complicated, difficult relationship?
Why are we choosing complex, difficult relationships?
Because we want to.
Yes—you’re afraid of intimacy.
You’re afraid of commitment.
Do you choose men who make you pine for them?
It is all us.
It’s all you.
Why do I want this complexity?
We are all choosing to match what happened with our parents.
The discomfort of love and relationship—the pain of bad relationships—actually becomes our norm in our brains.
And we keep trying to repeat it.
We are trusting our chemical attraction and following that… more than we are following our actual want.
The conflict is this:
I want security.
I want ease.
I want to feel relaxed.
But just waiting for him to do stuff, and spending your life waiting—
that is a choice we make because we really don’t want a relationship.
You’ve been trained to choose what’s difficult.
But it can feel natural—even easy—to want connection, commitment, and love - and start baby-step by baby step to let love in!
If this lands for you...
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Love, Rori
If you find yourself taking the responsibility for the relationship and the apologeticness of the conflicts that happen all the time… if you’re always trying to solve stuff, excusing him for bad behavior, and it’s always in 60/40, 70/30 mode where you’re doing most of it—something’s wrong.
The Modern Siren tools work—sometimes so well that a man who isn’t truly ready can still look like he is.
That’s why the real power isn’t just in using the tools—it’s in going deeper, listening to your intuition, and choosing only the love that’s real.
It fools you because he’s able to step up when he wants to.
And by the way, this is a narcissist’s whole ability for roping in women—they’re really good at convincing you they’ve got the goods.
They can convince you for months, even years, and then their real self shows up.
You don’t get to have a long-distance relationship because you can’t handle it, because we choose difficult relationships for a reason.
This is something I want you to ask yourself: Why am I choosing a difficult relationship?
Difficult would be a long distance.
I don’t get to touch him.
He doesn’t get to smell me.
He doesn’t get to feel me.
So how can he actually feel anything? He can’t.
Dismantle the pattern keeping you stuck in difficult relationships, and learn to swim fully in your feminine energy—and in the love you truly want—on Siren Island.
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Love, Rori
You already have a script inside you — from your parents, your school, your society, your religion.
But are you actually living your life on your playbook or somebody else’s?
Many women wake up in midlife realizing they’ve been following someone else’s rules the whole time.
The truth is: the man in front of you may be a partner in your life, but he is not the center of your life.
You are the center of your life.
When you begin to shift into your own center, fear comes up — because it means facing the parts of yourself that have stayed small or quiet out of habit. But those baby steps into your own gravity are where empowerment starts.
When you take baby steps, you’re not just changing habits — you’re meeting yourself.
You’re uncovering the parts that push love away, the pieces terrified of connection, the lonely places that stay lonely on purpose.
On Siren Island, this is what you’ll practice — baby step by tiny, manageable baby step, with a global community of women beside you. Together, you’ll soften, experiment, and reclaim the playbook of your own life.
Siren Island is here:
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Love, Rori
If you ever find yourself feeling invisible in a room with your man and his friends, pause and ask: Why am I here?
If this is an everyday pattern, that’s a red flag.
But if he’s otherwise a great guy, don’t force yourself into his moments with his buddies.
Instead, notice your feelings and share them with warmth: “I love that you have such great friends, and I also feel a little left out. I want more time with you—what do you think?”
The key is knowing what you truly want, not reshaping a man to fit you.
If his lifestyle leaves you aching, that’s valuable information. And while you figure it out, don’t collapse into desperation.
Circular Dating — being social, having options, letting yourself be seen — protects your heart and builds sanity.
When you stop pushing and start living fully, your vibe shifts. You feel safe, empowered, and magnetic again.
🌸 On Siren Island, we practice turning ouch into options — learning how to express your feelings without pressure, and discovering what you truly want so you’re not just reacting, you’re creating your love story.
Inside, you’ll explore tools and how-tos for Circular Dating and Empowering your Feminine Energy, so you feel good no matter what is happening — plus live coaching and community support to help you feel magnetic, safe, and chosen in love.
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Love, Rori
If you are pulling away from him because he’s too handsome or you’re pulling away because he’s not handsome enough, ask yourself, “Okay, this is a free therapy session with a man who showed up. Let’s find out his message and let’s treat him like a good person.”
Breathe.
You don’t have to go home and wash your hair.
Just learn whatever you’re there for.
Think of it as a spiritual experience, and practice speaking to this guy you might otherwise want to shut down or dismiss.
This is where your power is: bold sharing of your actual feeling state. This is your superpower.
Can you imagine how many women in the world cannot do this—99% of them? And how many men feel pushed, shoved, and treated poorly by women? We’re not here to treat guys badly.
We’re here to find a partner, someone who gets us. And how will they get you if you don’t share what’s really going on?
The whole “high maintenance” thing is a sham. Men love high maintenance women.
There’s a big difference between being high maintenance and being dramatic, angry, or pissed off at him for everything.
That’s what he’s trying to avoid. If you tell him what you want, he can relax.
He doesn’t have to guess anymore.
Yes, it’s vulnerable. Yes, it’s facing our own wants and expectations.
And yet, the practice of gently experimenting, saying things out loud, and treating a man you don’t even see romantically as just a good person—it’s revolutionary.
You don’t even have to know why you matched.
Just let yourself be there.
In Feminine Energy, what we’re really aiming for is finding what you’re feeling, what makes you feel good, and sharing that.
This flies in the face of everything we’ve been patterned to do around men… and we’re turning it all around, baby step by baby step.
Inside, Siren Island—my official course, community, and so much more. you’ll be invited into real Siren conversations like this one, learn transformational tools, and experience what it means to live in the power of the Modern Siren.
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Love, Rori
Why do we care what he thinks if you pay or you don’t pay?
Why are you making a big deal out of it? … This is the old thing about wanting him to like us.
I’m gonna do this so he’ll like me.
This is not what Siren is.
Feminine energy is not about making the best choice to get the best man — That’s not what attraction is.
Attraction is authenticity.
Your authenticity in that moment is that you’re feeling confused.
You don’t know whether to pay or not pay or what to say, and while you’re trying to make that decision, you’re going, ‘Wait, I’m strong; I should be able to do this,’ and all of a sudden you’re in your head trying to figure it out.
I feel cherished and valued when he pays, but I’m nervous that if I show up like that, how is he going to take it? That’s old sh*t. Not power.
Power is: no matter how I feel, I can express that.
No matter what’s going on for me, I can speak that.
I do not need to try to figure out what he wants to hear.
What we’re aiming for in Feminine Energy is finding what you’re feeling, what makes you feel good, and sharing that.
This is stuff that flies in the face of everything we’ve patterned our habits and how we act around men… And we’re turning this all around—baby step by baby step.
Siren Island is my official course, coaching community - and so much more.
Join me and bring your real situations, questions and be part of Siren conversations like this one.
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Love, Rori
Vulnerability is scary, intimacy is scary—no matter how much we say we want it.
But today, how we shift our words to be soft, to be inviting, to be siren-y, like the Siren concept of creating a healing, creating the desire to make things happen. It’s activism, it’s girl power, it’s the inner strength of who we are as women. And yet, until we’re able to strip down, de-armour ourselves, really, we can come off as these warrior women.
If we are unconsciously acting in our warrior self, then most of us are also confused as to why men won’t come close—which is what we want.
So how do we de-weaponize our words?
De-armor our whole selves to let a man in?
Weaponizing words starts with us asking, ‘Why?’ ‘Why did you do that?’ ‘Why did you say that?’ ‘Why that shirt?’ That is passive-aggressive.
That is weaponizing your words. And it’s a learned pattern, handed down through generations of powerlessness.
We’ve had no choices except to weaponize ourselves in the most passive-aggressive, undercurrent, slimy, under-the-radar way of protecting ourselves and being heard.
This conversation is about unlearning all that—so that love can actually get in.
On Siren Island, Every day, you’ll have space to practice deep, feeling-based communication—for healing, for love, and for everything you want from your feminine energy.
Siren Island is here:
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Love, Rori
A man who can’t meet you emotionally… can’t. He just can’t.
But he still may be a good partner. Perhaps.
Everywhere I go—and I’ve talked about this before—I meet women who’ve divorced men, left men, or are still in relationships with men they’ve just discovered are actually clinically on the autism spectrum.
If you’ve ever watched Love on the Spectrum, it’s a fabulous show. You’ll learn so much—how people on the spectrum learn to care, to respond, to match with others… or how hard it can be to find someone who can keep up.
Because there is a spectrum.
And I’m going to say this:
We’re all on a spectrum.
All of us.
We all exist on a spectrum of how we take in information, how we process, and how we respond. We all have different skill levels.
People on the autism spectrum often have incredible intellectual skills.
Many have thoughtful, deeply compassionate emotional intelligence. They’re not less than—they’re different.
Just different than our skills.
And most of us are blind to what’s right in front of our faces.
We react instead of respond.
We shut down when we actually want to open up.
Is this something that’s showing up in your own love life?
Are you with a man who wants to love you, but just doesn’t quite meet you emotionally?
I’d love for you to join me live on Siren Island for our next MasterClass.
We’ll explore how to feel connected, supported, and truly yourself—even if he processes things very differently from you.
Siren Island is here:
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Love, Rori
Once you are vulnerable and somebody shuts you down because they don’t know what to do with it, you’re going to have double reactions: “Oh, I shouldn’t have done that.”
That is a clue that, number one, he might be wrong for you — he just can’t get you. But more than that, he’s simply not used to it.
He doesn’t know what to do. He’s afraid. He’s afraid that if you’re crying, it means he did something wrong.
The shift is this:
“My power, when I cried, had a profound effect on him.”
Say that to yourself. Let yourself notice — “Whoa, I just had a profound effect on him. I cried. I must have been vulnerable.”
Check in with yourself:
- Are you leaning back?
- Are you letting the tears fall freely without anger or blame?
Breathe. Open up. Stay with yourself.
Your emotions are natural — they’re part of your feminine energy. You don’t need to push or perform. Simply allow yourself to feel, to open, to let the energy move through you.
And if a man says something like “Don’t cry,” shift the story inside yourself:
- He’s not angry at me — he’s scared.
- He doesn’t know what to do with my emotion.
- But my emotion is powerful. It’s not wrong.
Say to yourself, “Thank you for being here with me while I feel this.”
This is how you create deeper connection — not by shutting down or blaming, but by leaning in to your own truth and letting him witness it.
If this resonates with you, imagine having a safe, supportive space to practice these shifts every week.
That’s exactly what you’ll find on Siren Island — my official course and community where we dive into feminine energy tools, live coaching, and powerful truth-telling practices.
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Love, Rori
Men will tell you, "Well, how can I trust you if you’re seeing other men?" It's all just just not true.
Your grandmothers had dance cards.
This is something new that men have concocted.
Exclusivity and It's all to their benefit, not to yours!
You want to be available to men everywhere until a man just wants you and jumps up at you and offers you everything.
If there's any confusion on his part at all, you just keep Circular Dating.
Men do need time.
They need a year or two.
So what are you supposed to do?
Closet yourself away? No.
You talk to men everywhere.
You have coffee with men out of nowhere.
You absolutely do not go exclusive.
If you are in a situation that is specific and you think you need to, ask me, ask one of my coaches, and we'll tell you exactly what to do, how to Circular Date without actually dating in a way that will keep you sane.
You’ll have access to live classes every week inside my Feminine Energy Sanctuary, Siren Island — my official community for staying soft, and having the love you want.
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Love, Rori
What we do in our entire lives is we concoct this mental strategy, we have put together a pattern of behavior that we were taught to protect ourselves.
Our parents taught us that, society taught us that, we taught us ourselves that from the first time we were hurt by exposing ourselves.
We learned how to do everything possible to push people away and not be emotionally intimate.
And if you really look at everybody around you, you will notice hardly anybody is open to real emotional connection, and we've accepted that.
We've accepted anger and all kinds of strategies other than the reality of being where we are, loving ourselves, being in ourselves, and not being in the old patterns.
All of a sudden it's brand new, it's terrifying, He comes close. You are open. It's
like being assaulted!Go ahead. Imagine him in front of you. Imagine he's all you ever wanted. Imagine him now actually walking towards you with flowers and a ring and food and love and a smile in his face.
And he reaches you and he touches your breast. And he just says, "You are beautiful. How do you feel?"
I've never met a woman who doesn't immediately feel terrified the moment she gets what she wants.
So we want to prepare for that!
On Siren Island, Practicing Feminine Energy tools to feel your heart, your Feminine Energy and have love respond to you in beautiful ways.
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Love, Rori
So often, we acquiesce.
Not because we’re weak, but because it’s easier.
Easier to go along with his mood, his energy, his comfort zone—than to sit with what’s actually alive inside of us.
If I just soften, smile, agree, maybe the tension will go away.
Maybe love will feel safe again.
But when I do that too quickly, without checking in with me first, something happens: I start to disappear.
And with that disappearing act comes resentment.
Tiny and quiet at first, like a whisper we don’t want to admit we hear. We tell ourselves, “I’m fine. I’m the cool girl.
I can handle this.” But under that “fine” is a feeling that never got acknowledged.
And when we keep stuffing that feeling down just to keep the peace, we slowly lose touch with our true feminine power.
But what if we didn’t do that?
What if your first reaction wasn’t to him, but to you?
This is the practice!
It’s in those exact moments—when he’s distracted or cold or unavailable—that you have a choice.
You could shrink and make it about him…
Or you could lean into your own body, your own breath, and ask gently, “What’s happening in me?”
When we respond to ourselves first, something softens and steadies. Maybe we don’t need to say anything right away. Maybe the moment becomes a cup of tea, stroking the cat, letting our nervous system settle.
And sometimes—often, even—before you know it, he’s right there, arms around you, pulled back in by the magnetic truth of your centeredness.
On Siren Island, we practice living as your most empowered Feminine Self.
Practicing Feminine Energy tools you want and need to feel your best all out GIRL life and have love respond to you in beautiful feeling ways.
Siren Island is my official community and Feminine Energy Sanctuary, right now the monthly membership is only $33 here:
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Love, Rori
So let's say out of nowhere, he's defensive.
Out of nowhere, he's just like pissed. He's cranky, right?
And he says something and you immediately feel, I want to get back on track.
I want to be loved.
what happened, he just got mad at me, and you're going to have reactions.
So we want to make the difference between reaction and responsiveness in all thesedifferent scenarios.
So the reaction would be, you're pissed right back.
How dare he? Where is this coming from?
And anger, right?
Another option would be, oh, we're off.
Oh my gosh, you know, what know what happened?
Let's get us back on track.... I'll be loving, I'll be giving, I'll be warm...
That could be a reaction and we're all different.
Some of us immediately click into anger, some of us immediately click into repair mode.
On Siren Island, we practice living as your most empowered Feminine Self.
Practicing Feminine Energy tools you want and need to feel your best all out GIRL life and have love respond to you in beautiful feeling ways.
Siren Island is my official community and Feminine Energy Sanctuary, right now the monthly membership is only $33 here:
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Love, Rori
You’re the Siren!
You’re the beacon.
He’s always in search of his emotional center, but he cannot find it unless you are shining.
And you can’t do that from your head!
You have to drop back into your feelings, into your body, into the truth of what you want — not the rules, not the negotiation.
The Want.
You have to go first.
That’s the part no one wants to hear — but it’s true.
You’re the one who understands how to create intimacy in a way he doesn’t yet. You can’t reconnect with him until you reconnect with yourself.
That’s where the trust begins again.
That’s where clarity comes from — not from controlling him, but from feeling you.
When you’re grounded in what feels good and true, you won’t need to figure anything out. You’ll know.
On Siren Island, we practice living as your most empowered Feminine Self.
Practicing Feminine Energy tools you want and need to feel your best girl life and have love respond to you in beautiful feeling ways.
Siren Island is my official community and Feminine Energy Sanctuary, right now the monthly membership is only $33 here:
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Love, Rori
If this keeps happening over and over again — yes, he may be insensitive. But ask yourself: Did I say anything?
Did I share how I felt? Or did I just get angry, shut down, and silently file it away as part of his personality?
That’s convenient for the subconscious — because the subconscious doesn’t actually want intimacy. It wants safety.
So instead of going into negotiation mode — “Can I fix this?” “Can we talk about it?” — try this: pause. Ask your little self, “What am I feeling?” And when the answer is lost, needy, angry, scared — you don’t reach for the fix.
You lay down, you breathe, you cry, you feel. You let yourself sink back into your body. Then, only then, you open a conversation.
Not to fix. But to feel.
You say: “I felt myself shutting down. I didn’t want to. I just want to feel loved.”
You do not need to negotiate. That’s a head thing. You’re not in your head anymore — you’re in your want. “I want to feel like I’m your person. I want to feel safe. I want to feel like I matter to you in the dark, when no one else is around.”
Say the “stupid” stuff. Say the Hallmark card things. “I want to be the one you reach for. I want the wedding dress. I want to feel chosen.” Say it all.
Because those words are not weak — they are true.
And when you speak from that place, your voice will change. He will feel it. And if he’s your person — truly your person — something in him will turn. He’ll lean in.
You won’t have to convince him.
You’ll just know. And if he’s not?
You’ll know that too.
You won’t have to beg for clarity.
And here’s the truth that breaks my heart open every time:
If you were to say, “I need you right now” — not from fear, but from your heart — the right man would turn around and say, “What do you need?”
That’s it. That’s the moment. That’s what love sounds like.
On Siren Island, you’ll learn more of my tools and the exact words to say to bring love and everything you want close.
Siren Island is my official community and Feminine Energy Sanctuary.
Siren Island is here:
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Love, Rori
There’s a reason we love the villainesses in movies!
There’s a part of you that doesn’t want to be the princess — she wants to be the witch.
The one who takes up space.
The one who owns her power, even if others find it dangerous. The one who doesn’t care what anyone thinks.
Let’s be honest — wouldn’t there be a thrill in being her for just a moment?
That dark feminine energy — the rage, the jealousy, the desire to dominate — is not shameful. It’s not a problem.
It’s part of you.
The question isn’t whether it’s good or bad — the question is, can you feel it without judging it?
We all want to protect what’s ours. We all want to be chosen.
And when something threatens that — whether it’s another woman, an unspoken fear, or an old wound — the part of us that would burn it all down rises to the surface.
Not because we’re bad, but because we’re alive.
If you suppress it, it doesn’t go away — it just turns inward and becomes shame.
Shame for wanting.
Shame for feeling.
Shame for being too much.
And that shame is what disconnects us from intimacy, not the feelings themselves.
So let yourself love the part of you that is jealous. The part that’s furious. The part that would claw for love.
She’s not evil.
She’s trying to protect you.
She wants to be seen.
Let her come forward — and then choose how you want to respond. That’s power.
True feminine power doesn’t come from being nice.
It comes from being whole.On Siren Island — we’re reclaiming wholeness.
It’s my official community and Feminine Energy Sanctuary, with live classes, a full curriculum, and personalized coaching. Inside, you’ll learn how to access your softness without losing your power — and how to show up in love as your whole self.
Siren Island is here:
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Love, Rori
Some men cry on the first date.
They talk endlessly about their exes. It’s a turnoff. And yet — here they are, showing up in your dating life again and again.
They don’t show up for every woman. But they’re showing up for you. Not because you’re doing anything wrong — but because, deep down, some part of you connects with them.
A part that feels safer rejecting love than receiving it.
A part that chooses the kind of man you know you won’t have to fully open to. That’s not failure — that’s self-protection.
So instead of pushing them away, pause and ask:
Why are they pouring out their problems to me?
Maybe it’s because… I want someone to pour my problems out to.
Maybe they’re reflecting something I haven’t let myself admit I need.
That desire for emotional connection — even in its messy, uncomfortable form — is real.
There’s a deep call for intimacy underneath the resistance.
What if this man isn’t just a mismatch — but a mirror?
Not your forever person, but your wake-up call.
Let yourself feel what rises in your body when he speaks — the sadness, the heaviness, the resentment. Let yourself stay in it.
Not to tolerate bad behavior, but to finally get honest with yourself.
What are you aching to be heard for?
What part of you is longing to be seen?
This man might be showing you exactly where you’ve shut down emotionally. And that’s the moment.
That’s the door you’ve been walking past.
We don’t talk about our past to heal — we talk to avoid feeling. But once you start feeling? Things shift. Walls melt.
Patterns break. And you begin to choose from wholeness instead of fear.
If you find yourself going on bad date after bad date — same patterns, different faces —
Siren Island is here for you.
It’s my official community and Feminine Energy Sanctuary, with classes, personalized coaching, and a full curriculum of materials to help you shift your patterns from the inside out.
Siren Island is here:
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Love, Rori
Charlotte was one of the beautiful, high-achieving women in Sex and the City.
She had everything on the outside — great friends, a fabulous lifestyle, success. And yet… she just couldn’t find love that lasted. The men kept dumping her.
It was heartbreaking to watch.
Then, suddenly, a man came along.
He was a foot shorter than her, not traditionally handsome — but deeply emotionally aware, intelligent, grounded, and absolutely certain about who he was.
He was a real partner. And Charlotte had to make a choice: Would she let herself be with a man who didn’t look right in her world — a world full of wealthy, beautiful people? Or would she take a chance on something real?
Are you Charlotte? Are you looking for a man who looks like a magazine ad or fits your Instagram aesthetic… but missing the one who would actually show up for your heart?
Are you pushing aside the men who don’t fit your checklist, even though they might be offering something deeper?
The love you want doesn’t come from being perfect.
This life is messy. Trust the mess. Trust your feelings. And let yourself be chosen for real — not just for show.
If you’d like a place to keep going with stories like this Siren Island is my official community.
It started as just a handful of women on my blog — sharing how the tools were landing, supporting each other, and opening up to love. And over time, it grew into something more.
Now, it’s become so much more - Siren Island is a Sanctuary for feminine energy, with classes, a full curriculum, and the kind of vibes that help you melt back into your body and your truth.
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Love, Rori
The Question: “I’m still having a hard time navigating the sex part with Rori’s advice to touch him and caress him — but it’s hard to do that when we really don’t spend time together.”
I hear from women 99% of the time about this, and it just makes me cry — because I’ve been through it myself so many times.
If you don’t spend time together, why is that happening?
Why are we accepting that?
If it’s long distance, well, then yes — that’s part of it. But you still need to be having relationships locally, too. You’re a human. You are a woman.
You need to be touched. You need a lover. You need someone there.
Having someone long distance you care about deeply is not enough.
Unless there’s a very real logistical reason (like the armed services, or necessary job placements), physical proximity matters. And even in those cases, logistics must eventually be tackled if a relationship is to grow.
If you’re long distance without a solid plan to be together soon, you must also create a life where you are touched, seen, and loved in the present.
If you’re yearning and wishing all the time?
That’s not real intimacy.
That’s feeding the subconscious fear of real closeness.
You deserve intimacy. You deserve to smell him, touch him, collect good feelings — not just collect wishes.
It’s okay to have different relationships meeting different needs.
You can have a man who is wonderful sexually, and a man who is wonderful emotionally. You have power here.
I give you permission.
And if you’re not giving yourself permission, I ask you:
What’s telling you you can’t?
Is it a community? A religion? Upbringing?
We need to work that out together. Because you deserve it all.
Join me on The Siren Island Official Course & Community to learn how you can easily shift into this new feminine place where you feel So much better.
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Love, Rori
This is a brilliant question — not for the reason you asked it.
Should a man keep paying even if you’re well into the relationship?
Ask him: “I notice that we’re sort of in a relationship here. Are we? Or are we just dating?”
If you’re just dating — and you are still circular dating — he pays for everything. Just don’t step in.If he says, “Listen, would you pay for half of it now?”You say, “Are we dating?”And he’ll say, “Well, we’re dating.”
You say, “Okay — no, you pay.” You could do that.
The idea is — you’re starting a conversation.
If you’d like more support with what to say, when to say it, and how to navigate dating all the way to the kind of commitment you truly want…Siren Island is here for you.
It’s just $33 to join and try it out!
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Love, Rori
On a date, you might find yourself smiling and nodding along while he talks—and talks—and somewhere inside, you’re feeling… invisible.Instead of pushing through or pretending you’re fine, try this:“You know, I really followed you through that story. I could feel how frustrating it was for you… and I’m actually starting to feel a little frustrated myself. I think I’d love to feel more connected—is there anything you’d like to know about me?”This isn’t about confronting him.It’s about tuning in to you—before the irritation builds, before you go quiet, before you disappear.You’re not trying to impress him. You’re inviting him into connection. If you’d like support in staying soft, open, and real on your dates (without losing yourself or your voice), Siren Island is here for you.Come join us for live classes, tools, and real-time coaching:https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-community-program/Love,Rori
Something feels off on the date—but what is it, exactly? Why do some moments feel like magic, and others fall flat?
What’s really happening when things don’t go as hoped? It’s not about him.
💔 You’re wondering why he talked your ear off and never called again.
💬 You’re replaying the moment he kissed you goodbye but asked zero questions.
🌪 You’re stuck in your head, trying to decode it all.
Most of us aren’t actually on the date. We’re in the future. We’re strategizing, performing, and abandoning our own experience.
If you’d like more help dating that feels good, on Siren Island, with monthly classes, real support, and feminine energy coaching— for just $33/month—you’ll have a space to come home to yourself again and again and have more love.
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Love, Rori
Everything in Modern Siren has a slightly "spiritual" leaning bend to it.
Everything is metaphorical, nature-influenced, and based on your emotional, deepest self, while also being authentic to that.
It's essential to rely on the fact that even if you're not deeply feeling into yourself, who you are in that moment is also authentic.
This might sound like a mistake, but from a spiritual view, it's all the same.
Our judgment of ourselves often falls into a nearly religious context.
So let me try to clarify this perspective, and then we can take your questions and see how we can move into this arena.
I believe I’ve always been in the spiritual arena, but the difference lies in trying to connect with a man on a spiritual level, which often leads us down the wrong road.
For us, spirituality has largely been a masculine arena, wouldn’t you agree?
It’s primarily run by masculine energy and thoughts. The spirit resides up here, in the upper chakra, around where your thinking is—essentially at the top of your head.
When we occupy that space, we often dampen the earthiness of femininity.
Come back to your feminine energy !
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Love, Rori
We’re talking about vibration—and what vibration does.
Well, if we’re energy and everything’s energy, and we’re talking about Feminine Energy, then we darn well better know what that word “energy” means to us, right?
To me, energy is a spiritual concept. For me, it’s pretty simple. Scientifically, it breaks down to atoms, molecules, quarks, quantum physics—all of that. It’s really there.
We are really not solid. In one sense, we are air and water. Water is matter, but we’re really space between the molecules and atoms and quarks and electrons running around in every millimeter of our bodies.
There’s space. So much space between the electron and the nucleus of every atom—it’s insane how much space there is. Nothing.
So what is that to you? What does that mean to you?
Does that bring you a sense of peace? Wonder? Awe?
I love wonder and awe.
Does it bring you something like:
“Wow… if I pass my hand through the air—which is a big tool of mine—through the molecules… can that settle me? Can that settle you?”
It’s these subtle moments—where science meets spirit, and thought gives way to feeling—that we start to understand how deeply energy shapes our experience as women.
This is the space where feminine energy lives: in breath, in awareness, in the softness we allow ourselves to return to.
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Love, Rori
Love, compassion, and kindness—all of it leads us toward better feeling.
Isn’t that what religion is about?
Isn’t that what Mother Teresa lived for?
Pain is hard to tolerate.
But you, love, are a Siren—you can hold it.
If you’re sensitive like me, you feel it all: your own pain, others’ pain, the emotional noise of the world. But what if—instead of blocking you—it expanded you?
What if it opened the door to desire… want… sexual energy?
Because sexual energy is divine.
It’s not a tactic. It’s not a game. It’s yours—a gift to connect to higher consciousness.
If you’ve ever had one of those big, soul-shaking orgasms, you know:
You’re not just closer to pleasure—
You’re closer to God.
To all that is.
To what your senses and your body were meant to experience.
Let’s stop talking about sex and relationships like they’re just strategy.
You want a man who gets you on every level.
And you deserve to explore your feminine energy as the sacred power that it is.
If you want to go deeper, join me on Siren Island, where we explore love, embodiment, and the fullness of feminine energy in every part of life.
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Love, Rori
How do you structure your time and space?
How do you relate to the world around you?
I've trained myself not to go back and reread what I wrote the day before.
I also use a dry-erase board for notes, which stays relevant just for the day.
Having these around has surprised me with how well they work for me.
This is the closest thing I have to the Business Siren Handbook, which, if you don’t already have, is one of the most powerful things I’ve ever created.
It contains everything I talk about—how to stay in feminine energy at work and receive so much more love from men, without cutting yourself in half. You remain whole as a feminine energy being.
A big part of that is the evolutionary to-do list—a beautifully messy way to track your tasks and time while integrating them into your life in a way that serves you.
Lately, I’ve also gone back to using a paper planner, something I relied on years ago. I’m filling it with what truly matters to me—my support groups, my meetings with you, my personal time, and the people I love being with. Work fits into that, rather than the other way around.
We explore topics like this and more on Siren Island, and go deep into integrating Feminine Energy into every part of life. Join me there!
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Love, Rori
If you feel empty, it’s because you don’t have yourself to hold onto.
So what do you do?
You dive into you.
Instead of chasing another high, you take that moment and go:
“Wow, I have this deep feeling. I am incredible. I have deep compassion for myself, for my sadness, for my grief. These things have happened to me. What a story I have. I feel so much. I am amazing.”
You may not be as introverted as you think.
You may not be living in as small of a world as you believe.
There’s a whole festival inside you. A theme park. There are roller coasters inside you.
So when the high is over and life suddenly feels empty, that’s your cue—go inward. Explore your emotions.
Journal it out.
Talk it out.
Get a coach who can help you connect with the parts of yourself that are hiding.
It’s difficult to do alone—even for me.
I use breathing techniques and all sorts of tools, but a coach can actually guide you into a conversation with your inner child, with the parts of you that have been waiting to be heard.
When you do this, life stops feeling like a letdown.
And when you leave him, you won’t feel empty.
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Love, Rori
There were times when I so badly wanted it to be all about him.
After two dates, I’d think, he’s the one, I want him, and I’d want exclusivity right away.
My coach said, ‘If you really want to give it a try and see what it feels like, go ahead.’
So I did. And I ended up on the floor, heartbroken. But actually? I’m glad I did it.
Looking back at my relationships—miserable, wonderful, short, long, intense—I wouldn’t have wanted to live my life without some of those passionate, intense flings.
They were memorable. Now that I’m safe and secure, I can see that maybe they were placeholders—maybe I wasn’t going to meet my husband yet, but I needed some fun in the middle. I needed to learn.
What If He’s The One… But Only for 4 Weeks?
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Love, Rori
Most of us grew up with less affection, attention, and emotional connection than we truly needed.
Even small moments of emotional neglect—things that may not seem like a big deal—become part of our subconscious patterns.
They shape what feels “normal” in love
.And so, we chase the men who give us just enough, because deep down, that’s what we’ve been trained to do.
We mistake emotional unavailability for chemistry.
The only way to stop choosing breadcrumbs is to start choosing yourself.
That means opening up to real emotional intimacy instead of chasing the high of inconsistency.
It means shifting into your feminine power—so that emotionally available men become the ones who pursue you.
The moment you change your dance steps, everything shifts—even the man you’re with.
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Love, Rori
If you’re being breadcrumbed, the first step isn’t to fix him—it’s to ask yourself the right questions.
Are you feeling frustrated and waiting on his next move?
Did you invite him in, only to be disappointed?
Why aren’t you circular dating?
If you’re married to him, you still have to circular date—not dating other men, of course, but talking to other people, sharing, being open, and learning how to be moreyou.
Because all the pushing away? That’s not you.
That’s just layered-on patterns built around your wounds.
It’s not the wounds that are you.
The wounds are like surface cuts where you stuck band-aids on them.
We’ve got band-aids, and we’ve got to start pulling them off, along with the constriction bands.
Sometimes, we have to bleed a little bit and let things heal. And it’s a process.
But if you’re being breadcrumbed, ask yourself those questions.
And instead of blaming him—or blaming yourself (because nobody’s to blame)—stop the blame altogether.
That’s a big issue that we coaches start with:There is no fault here.
You chose him, and you chose breadcrumbs out of your survival needs.
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Love, Rori
When a guy is breadcrumbing you, instead of falling into the familiar pattern of thinking, “I’m going to do this, and everything will change,” pause. Take a breath.
This is your moment to try something new.
Ask your coach in any of the Siren School containers if you have one, or book an urgent care session.
You can also join the Feminine Energy Workshop—whatever helps you quickly address the situation.
The key is to experiment, like a scientist.
Instead of going down the same well-worn path, repeating old behaviors, you’re going to shift your patterns, slow down, and make a different choice when a man is inconsistent.
This small shift can change everything.
When you start recognizing the instinctive reactions that have kept you stuck—chasing, overanalyzing, pushing for clarity—you can gently rewire your instincts. I
nstead of getting drawn into his mixed signals, you can turn inward, reconnecting with your own feminine intuition.
And that’s where real change happens.
Start shifting how you interact with men who have a lot to offer you.
Instead of instinctively pushing them away or feeling overwhelmed by attention, allow yourself to receive warmth, air, light, life, sound, and love.
If you’re a highly sensitive person, this can feel like too much at first—but there are ways to shift gradually and still feel safe.
I’d love to hear how this resonates for you.
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Love, Rori
The most important thing I can think of that would be helpful to you, if you're experiencing any kind of emotional discomfort or physical discomfort—anxiety, this anxious attachment concept of relationship attachment—if you've labeled yourself that way, if you're feeling achy physically, if you're just feeling emotionally up and down, if you find yourself thinking a lot about something, all of those are signs of deeply embedded grief.
In other words, it may not be what you think it is.
You may not be needing this guy to call you.
It could be something much deeper that's completely colored by deep unresolved grief.
Because grief is this gorgeous, amazing emotion, and I call it "emotion" with little quotes because it's actually a combination, a deep collection of every emotion imaginable.
If you’d like some personal help working with your grief or the grief of your man, come join me on Siren Island, The Official Rori Raye Community:
If you're feeling stuck at work or stuck in your head, sometimes it’s because there are feelings you don’t want to feel.
And I’m here to tell you that you can handle way more than you believe you can.
You can handle way more of everything.
Actors learn this; you can learn this, too.
Yes, this is like a full-on master class. This is a whole program on how emotional creatures like us can feel deeply and allow it to affect our lives in big ways.
Sometimes, we let these feelings become tidal waves that sweep away our dreams and goals because we've been taught that if we can’t control everyone else's emotions, we won’t feel good ourselves.
When you talk about getting into your feelings and how that can even help you succeed at work — yes!
If you’d like to explore how your emotions can help you unlock your power, success, and relationships, come join me on Siren Island The Official Rori Raye Community.
Where you'll learn tools and practices to feel deeply and thrive.
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When you have a grief situation, make it a big deal and worship it. Let it be. Go into it.
That's your key to the door opening I talked about—the open door to the rest of you.
You are shutting down yourself.
You are not giving him what he needs, which is YOU!
He needs sex. He needs fun. Yes, he's able to have fun sex and grieve at the same time. Men can do that. They compartmentalize. You do not want to compartmentalize.
You want to feel it all the time. And then, when I said about choosing where to focus, if you're having sex and all of a sudden angry thoughts come up and you start doing your laundry list of the things you have to do, you're going to go into masculine energy to try to get away from the feelings that you're feeling.
The feminine energy goes into the feelings. FEEL!
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Love, Rori
All these feelings can feel overwhelming, and our first instinct is often to shift into masculine energy—organizing, solving, controlling. But what if we didn’t?
Instead, imagine embracing the chaos and creativity within you.
What if being “all over the place” wasn’t something to fix, but something to own?
You could say, “Oh yeah, I’ve got a lot going on—I’m a creative!” When you embrace your feelings and let yourself simply be,you unlock a sense of peace and focus that can’t be forced.
Think about this: sitting with your child or grandchild, completely present, as they play with something as simple as a piece of tape. That’s meditation. That’s feminine energy in action.
You’re not trying to control or interrupt the moment—you’re just being.
When you allow yourself to get to that place of presence, everything shifts. You start noticing when you’re interrupting yourself or when old patterns pull you out of the moment. And when you stay in the moment, something magical happens: your energy becomes irresistible. He won’t be able to resist you—not because you’re chasing him, but because your feminine energy invites him in.
If you’d like some personal help working with your grief or the grief of your man come join me on Siren Island, The Official Rori Raye Community:
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Love, Rori
The last thing in the world that a man needs from you when he's knee-deep in grief and weirdness is "mothering".
The last thing he needs is for you to be there for him the way I want you to be there for yourself.
The last thing he wants you to do is ask him how he feels.
The last thing he wants you to do is look at him like, “Oh, poor baby.”
What he needs from you is to be the fountain of joy he can't connect to or that he wants to connect to just the way we do but feels guilty about it.
The best way to help a man going through a tough time is almost "not doing"!...you can learn how to earn his trust and actually help him get through and recover in the best way possible on The Siren Island Official Course & Community here: https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-community-program/
Grief is hard. It's not pleasant, and it shows up out of nowhere.
If you're experiencing grief from a breakup, or from the lack of attention, affection and closeness when the man you're with is going through a tough time - we're here on Siren Island to be shoulders to cry on, hands to hold, and love to help you love yourself.
Love, Rori
I’ve been an approval seeker since babyhood—it’s all survival-related.
So, if you find yourself asking questions—whether about a relationship, a situation, or even yourself—pause and reflect.
Ask yourself: Why am I asking this question?
What is my "why"?
This alone can lead to powerful insights.
Am I asking to be strategic?
Am I operating from my masculine energy or my Feminine Energy?
Am I radically accepting myself, or am I just searching for someone or something to blame?
Often, 90% of our energy goes into this process of trying to settle ourselves.
So, when you start to ask a question, dive deeper—ask questions about the question itself.
For example, do you really want to know what a man does in a certain situation, or are you just trying to figure out who’s to blame or how to let yourself off the hook?
Try substituting “Why did this happen?” with “For what reason did this occur?” Feel that shift in your body. Does it feel different?
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What if the key to your healing was as simple as allowing yourself to want what you want?
When you embrace your desires, you activate a deep part of your feminine energy—a power that helps you get what you want and finally have what you want in every area of your life.
But too often, we suppress what we truly want. We second-guess ourselves, compromise, or let fear hold us back. Feminine healing begins when you stop apologizing for your desires and start trusting them.💖
Wanting what you want is not selfish. It’s sacred.
It’s the first step toward aligning your life with your deepest needs and dreams.
✨ When you heal your feminine energy, you unlock the ability to: Get what you want in love, without chasing or settling. Have what you want in life, by fully owning your desires. Attract the relationships, opportunities, and experiences that are meant for you. Healing begins when you decide:
🌸 I am worthy of what I want.
🌸 I am ready to have what I want.
🌸 I will no longer hold back my desires.
💡 Wanting what you want isn’t just a choice—it’s your healing, your power, and your path to a life that feels whole and fulfilled.
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Love, Rori
If you find yourself mentally tied up in your masculine energy, constantly thinking when you just want to be feeling --- being a feeler is a personality type!
I believe that we’re all born as feelers, and we learn how to not be feelers.
We learn how to be thinkers.
We move out of our feelings into logic.
If that’s you, you might not even be able to always answer your own question: "How does that feel?"
To learn to coach YOURSELF to experience the fullness of your emotional, Feminine Energy self - to expand big enough inside to be able to feel the pain and frustration you might now be hiding - so you CAN FEEL the ecstasy, wonder and awesome feelings you deserve to feel!
Get amazing, truly affordable coaching (you can get a 3-private-session package including a full month of voice messaging support and coaching! with a brilliant Rori Raye Siren School coach - or even just one session to try out...!) here:
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Love, Rori
What an amazing conversation with Gemma Matoesian and Rebecca Ritter about an awesome Personality Typing system called "Objective Personality System" that's SO helpful, useful, and fun to dive into!
I do not like "labelling".
I don't like being categorized, and absolutely don't categorize anyone else - yet, this system is so subtle, nuanced, and wide ranging (512 types!) - and so based on how we each operate in all kinds of situations, I've found it deeply helpful personally, and helpful when working with clients.
To listen to my fun interview on their InSite podcast (we go into a lot of personal stuff!):
https://open.spotify.com/show/3KCtwwFnjaShleQfgkK1sf?si=4e72093cf42348b2
link to objective personality on youtube: Objective Personality - YouTube
Official OPS membership site (paid): Home | Objective Personality
Getting officially typed: OFFICIAL Objective Typing
Contact Gemma or Rebecca: contact.insite.podcast@gmail.com
Free OPS info: OPS Starter Kit – Subjective Personality (wordpress.com)Love, Rori
When you feel angry, sooner or later, you want to sit down on your floor and lay down and cry and let out or scream, let those feelings out.
When you're mad, you want to shake it out. When you're tense, you want to cry it out.
You want to pleasure yourself and have an amazing orgasm and fly around the room all by yourself when you want to release that.
This is your playground -- You are your being.
You are your person. You are your experiment.
You are the experiment.
So spend as much time as you possibly can exploring you!
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Love, Rori
What we usually do is when we're full of anger, we turn it against ourselves.
We get depressed, we put the lid back on ourselves, or we hurt ourselves, cutting, literally screaming, and ending a relationship deliberately by something in our brain doing something that automatically takes away what it is we want.
Anger is a great thing - it doesn't have to start a fight!
It's just a circuit board thing that's happened to almost all of us as a pattern.
Anger turns to self-destruction for women, for men too these days.
Men have it really hard around anger - little boys in school, have you ever seen them?
They're railroaded into who they aren't. It's just a sad society trying to keep violence under control and barely succeeding.
The way to keep your violence under control (and when you're angry, you have violent feelings!). You want to kill, smash, hit.
So instead of going the old route of throwing plates against the wall and hitting something - try LOVING something - and moving! - walk it out, dance it out! Open your fingers, dance it out, shake it out, and find something immediately that you love...
To get immediate help from my "From Anger To Love" Masterclass Program, go here: https://www.coachrori.com/from-anger-to-love/
Love, Rori
To be a woman and actually have power means to embrace your feminine energy.
In the workplace, if you want to run for president, for example (and we're seeing that now!), you can’t stand on the podium and act like a masculine energy man—no one will hear you.
You have to be soft, present, and connected to your power source.
There’s power in creating, co-creating, and harnessing energy, but we often block it, as we've been trained to brush ourselves aside.
Accepting how powerful we truly are is key.
Our energy radiates like an aura, and we can make that energy huge...
...When we allow our feminine energy to flourish, we tap into our deepest power.
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Love, Rori
Rori has a spin on ‘Femifesting’ and how to bring what you want to you: the love of a man, the love of the world, love in all its beautiful forms.
How do we get from ‘wanting what we want’ to having it?
We can get so lost and confused in even thinking that what we want is what we want.
It's actually deeper territory!
The Rori Raye Feminine WANT process, is a shortcut to the entire Modern Siren system. Actually - It's a shortcut to everything!
The Feminine WANT Masterclass is here:
https://www.coachrori.com/the-feminine-want-masterclass/
Love, Rori
So: what if you work someplace where there are attractive men, gloriously gorgeous men?
Can you, should you, use your feminine energy wiles to pull them in?
Can you bring a man in like that at your workplace?
And what’s even appropriate?
This is a conversation topic that comes up every once in a while, and it's all like: what's appropriate… what should we do…. what shouldn't we do…. and can we handle it…?
These are huge questions - because we all spend so much of our time at work!
In this podcast, you'll find answers, and if you'd like to learn more about how to stay in your Feminine Energy, no matter where you are (even at work!), with your personal, unique style and situation, join me in The Siren Island Official Course & Community here:
https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-community-program/
Love, Rori
There are so many ways for you to be powerful, and at the same time, you can have your life the way you want it.And we have wanted to call ourselves women, not girls, but women - because "girl" has always felt derogatory, right?It's always felt derogatory in the world of men. It's like the feminism that I was so deeply committed to, long ago - that we now feel some regret for, because that early feminism was such a masculine energy enterprise.To learn how to be powerful at work AND in your relationship - without ever losing your Feminine Energy spark, softness, and passion for what you Want, get the Business Siren Masterclass/Workshop here:https://www.coachrori.com/the-business-siren-boss-babe-masterclass/Love, Rori
"An angry man is a powerful man. An angry woman is somebody you want to stay away from." True or not true? True.We spend our lives as women trying not to be angry women, and so we've completely demolished this anger, violence, all those feelings that we have rage, which we are entitled to! - based upon the way we have existed on this planet since the beginning.This videocast will open up the powerful energy you have (and are likely trying to stuff down, all the time...) and give you so many new ways to access your "Dark Feminine Energy" (I talk a bit about what that actually "is"!) so you can get everything you want!To have access to live classes and personal coaching around all the "Dark Feminine" aspects that are powerful and helpful - join me on Siren Island, here:https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/Love, Rori
The word “brand” is being used a lot right now - you’ll see it in Forbes, you see it in the Harvard Business Review, all over the place and you maybe don't think it applies to you, and yet it does!Your brand as a girl: you may want to be a tough cookie or a smart ‘this’ or clever ‘that’ or a great dancer or something you wanted to appear as and it becomes part of an unfulfilled, icky feeling, not because you can't get there, but because it's not you when ‘the real you’ is something completely different and feels completely different. So what we're all about here in all of Siren School is to help you feel more like YOU so that you feel like you and believe it or not, you can recognize that at every moment.
To get help with your Feminine "brand" - come to The Siren Island Course & Official Community here: https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/Love, Rori
Ultra triggering things, commitment and finances. Commitment alone can be a really scary thing and yet in relationship and the love world, this is the gold we WANT. We start out saying, all right, I want a commitment, I want a relationship. Do you want the same thing as me? We're trying to find out if we vibe, if we're on the same page or trying to figure out if we can make a good team together while not sacrificing any of the good feelings.When you're moving into more serious relationships and you know he's got a past, he's got children from a different relationship, he's got an ex-wife, who’ll be part of his life forever there may be a lot of triggering feelings that come up -- So how do we navigate this space? If you'd like wonderful and fast help with all of this, we're here for you on The Siren Island Course & Official Community - and I'd love to see you and work with you on my live, monthly Masterclass/Workshop (you'll have total access to the video recording!) - - I'll be working with you on tough topics like Commitment, loyalty, how a man devotes his attention, what to do with a naturally "non-attentive" (and more self-concerned) man, literally "How To Date", "How To Save Your Relationship" and "How To Empower Your Feminine"... plus answering your personal, urgent questions directly! Here's the link to join me, along with live classes with brilliant Siren School coach superstars every week and tons of exclusive materials:https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-community-program/Love, Rori
How do we go back into our body after we've been in our head?
Remember when I said when I go out for a walk and then I all of a sudden realize that I've missed the whole last hundred yards that I've walked?I stop, and my first feeling is of loss - I lost that time where I wasn't aware, and the second I feel that, I can feel the difference.
I can distinguish in my head.
Thinking about things, future things, going over things in the past, and the reality of the grass and the snow that's blanketing everything right now and each individual leaf, the leaves that are still on trees.
All of that fascinates me!And I am well aware if I'm in a sad frame of mind, right now I’m in a very sad frame of mind... I've noticed I'm wearing my dog's collar on my wrist.
I just said goodbye to him last week and I never know when I'm going to be overcome by major ugly crying, major beautiful crying, major let go of feelings.Feeling your feelings and getting familiar with how they cycle through you, and what thoughts come up with them - and how you react or respond with them - this incredible knowledge of yourself automatically leads to amazing things!You’ll suddenly, without any affirmations or input, start to appreciate and love yourself more!You’ll start to take a breath before you react.And, SO important, you’ll start to realize, and feel all the awesomeness of finally knowing what you WANT, and how to express that to a man - and to ANYONE! - so you can finally, really get what you want.
To get a super shortcut to this, get the Feminine WANT Course - it will change everything for you within weeks!: https://www.coachrori.com/the-feminine-want-course/Love, Rori
At some point, we run into disappointment.
Disappointments in love, and because Rori Raye Siren School is one of the top leaders of Feminine Energy business - disappointment in work and business too.
…Disappointment in love and dating and How to verbalize that, how to deal with it in your body when you feel it, and how to fix it.
...So, disappointment about anything - Obviously has to do with expectations, right?
"I expect this to happen. I hope this will happen...."
So when this doesn't happen, my dream, my imagination, my vision board, I feel a sense of letdown.
It feels like letdown in your body, right?
We call it disappointment.
We often feel it as anger, frustration. Pissed offness, pissosity.
We feel it in a lot of different intense ways and sometimes there's sadness and like a letdown feeling, like a blue feeling.
So all of those, please recognize all of those and write me or send in a message about how you experience disappointment and ‘let down’, and how that affects you.
On Siren Island, my dedicated team of brilliant coaches are ready to work with you closely, offering personalized support and solutions to navigate through life's challenges."
https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/
Love, Rori
In this episode, Rori Raye and Natalina Love explore the archetype of the Healer in being a Siren, because there's the rock star side of the Siren. There's the badass boss babe part of the Siren. There's all of these different facets of ‘Sirenity’. And ‘being the healing’ comes with its own challenges……So What is ‘the Healer’ part of a Rori Raye Siren? How do we do this in this most natural way? One element is ‘boundaries’. “Boundaries” may seem like a weird angle to go into the Siren Healer archetype, yet when you get into the coaching, when you're a Siren school member, you're doing this Healing process from both the inside out, as well as the outside in -- creating this synergy and growth... Expanding our bandwidth, our awareness, expanding is part of what this Healing looks like.Empower yourself to heal, love, and thrive. On Siren Island, you'll uncover the secrets to tapping into your own healer gifts, healing your heart, and attracting the love and happiness you desire .... Rori Raye’s Siren Island Course and Official Community will give you the steps here: https://www.coachrori.com/lp/Siren-island-program/Love, Rori
...Dating other men while you're in a relationship. Ha!
This is so foreign to us, and why?
We've, we've always been like this, really.
Our grandmothers, our aunts, all were like this.
It was the dance card thing. Scarlett O'Hara was like this.
Nobody, but nobody ever expected somebody to go steady with them or be exclusive with them without already stated intentions or some kind of structure from your community and the religious group or cultural group that had rules.
Other than that, we've just started to be going steady with guys since the fifties!
I mean, it's recent. It's just like a "thing".
And who does it benefit? Men!
They get to have you as a girlfriend without committing in any way, shape, or form.
At least you used to have a going steady ring.
We don't even do that anymore.
To really get to how Circular Dating works (clue: it's NOT about dating!) - and apply it to your own life so you completely take the pressure off a relationship and lose the anxiety and frustration you've been carrying around while he seems so baffled by "commitment" - try The Siren Island Course and Community and get personalized Tools, one-to-one coaching, classes, and Masterclass/Workshops with me every month:
Love, Rori
So let's just start, let's say there are four roads - and three of them are the wrong roads.
They're not going to get you anywhere in love.
There is the mental road, the mind road, your mind, your intellect, your thoughts, your smarts, the mental road, the thought road.
All that is, is masculine energy. He already can sense that you're smart.
He knows what you do in your life.
He gets to know how you function and who you are and what you say and what you do and about how you feel.
Being impressed with you is literally not something that's going to make him fall in love.
It's going to push him away.
If anything, definitely make him a friend...
Learn the other three "wrong" roads, and how to truly "make him fall..."
To get personal help, live classes with coaching, exclusive Rori Raye materials, and a Masterclass with me every month, join Siren Island and see how fast things will come together for you:
Love, Rori
This is Rori’s ‘take’ on the whole authenticity piece.
Because this, Authenticity, goes into everything around ‘work’, too, if we're really honest.
And if we could talk about this topic from an artistic standpoint, and how it's so radical - Authenticity is the magic that gives us the kind of relationships we want, no matter what walk of life we're in.
When we can get down to this very honest, authentic place -- which also involves quite a bit of vulnerability, the doors of love open up for us to make profound connections.
Natalina Love is asking Rori about ‘unconventional relationships’ right along with the whole 'existential love crisis'…. Where and what is it?
Love and relationships can be quite the puzzle, can't they? It's okay, we've all been there.
No matter how complicated or unique your situation feels, know that you're understood and supported on Rori Raye's Siren Island. Join Rori Raye’s Siren Island Course and Official Community here: https://www.coachrori.com/lp/Siren-island-program/
So what happens when you feel disappointment, where do you go from there?
And more specifically, we also want to bring in the feeling of disappointment in business, as well as in love.
An across the board thing is that we’re growing our bandwidth, we're growing our emotional bandwidth, we're growing our mental bandwidth, we're getting bigger in both business and in love - regardless of what kind of work life you have.
Maybe it's also your life as a domestic goddess, all the things that make up your life.
We want to invite it all to come into a space of healing and transformation, whatever your Siren dreams are.
To get quick, personal help for your immediate situation right now, and learn the Modern Siren Tools to gracefully transform every bit of your life - join Rori Raye’s Siren Island Course and Official Community here: https://www.coachrori.com/lp/Siren-island-program/
Love, Rori
In this podcast, we're talking about "looping":
Looping back to the whole thing about our triggers - the things through the whole dating process and developing a solid committed relationship.
The idea is to get excited about you...and...
...to notice yourself complaining about the men who are showing up on your dating profiles, on your dating apps, or even in the relationships you're in.
This "complaint" part is universal to wherever you're at in the dating and love timeline, and Naomie Thompson is brilliant at helping you solve it so it no longer gets in the way of getting what you want.
Naomie Thompson is not only an influencer coach, she's the Director of Rori Raye Coach Training and teaches in The Siren Mastermind.
To get real help to Get Everything You Want from your Feminine Energy, experience The WANT Masterclass here:
https://www.coachrori.com/the-feminine-want-masterclass/
Love, Rori
When the answer from someone else is "No" - it can stop you in your tracks.
Find out what you want, what you need, what kind of Feminine Energy space you need to be in, in order to Inspire a man, and to inspire the world.
Here, in this video, I want to bring in the whole Business Siren world as well.
The whole marketplace of the world into our Atmosphere, fairly big topics.
To get help creating your own Feminine Atmosphere, try The Siren Island Community and get your needs addressed and met:
https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/
Love, Rori
I've just been Googling how to choose a life philosophy. Which may sound silly to some people, but it's really been like a come-back-to-the-fundamental-basics for me.
For some people, this is simple. So many of my friends were brought up with a particular religion or spiritual path, or found their way later in life, and so many of my family and friends are atheists and agnostics who don’t feel a need for a spiritual life at all.
I'm fascinated by all of that.
And I'd love to do a big panel of people who have varying different life philosophies and different approaches to what life means, what some call “the supernatural” that others call the truth, and how they feel with what they believe that affects their life during rough times.
During slow times.
Like I'm waiting for my man to show up.
Like I feel bad. I have ill health.
What do we do in those moments?
If you’d like to join a community where you can voice your feelings about anything, your beliefs as they solidify, change, or feel like they’ve gone missing, and that whatever “anchor” you once had is no longer there - try the Siren Island program. Learn more about Siren island here:
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Love, Rori
Everybody is judgmental, and everybody is self-judgmental.
It doesn't just disappear because you want to be an upstanding person.
We call that basically covering over everything, and stuffing and all the garbage underneath.
And we don't want to do that.
We want to bring all the judgment and all the anger and all the crappy feelings that everybody has and attitudes to the surface.
It's so natural to fall into a crappy attitude, really, where everything you see is like, yuck. And then you have to say something, wait a minute, wait a minute.
Why am I doing that?
So that is the key to it.
Basically, I believe that we are all unconditionally loved by the universe because we're here and alive.
And all you have to do is go, well, I'm alive. I'm here. I'm on this planet. I am unconditionally loved. I'm still here.
If you’d like personal help with whatever’s going on for you, come to Siren Island program, where you’ll have live classes, live coaching, and a Masterclass with me throughout each month:
https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/
Hope to see you on Siren Island! Love, Rori
We all have masculine and Feminine energies. They just work in different ways.
They have different purposes.
We have different circuit boards in our brains.
So, this is very tricky for all of us right now in this world, because it’s masculine energy that seems to be wrecking the world, right?
Power, a need for control…that’s not feminine energy, that's masculine energy.
Old fashioned, crazy-power-seeking, I'm in charge… you've met men like this everywhere.
So how do you respect that? How do you appreciate that?
And when we see masculine energy out of control and wanting so much control, and we see Feminine Energy being unallowed, and so caged in.
Haven't you felt like you're about to burst when you just couldn't express yourself?
Couldn't even cry.
Couldn't, didn't feel like you could be you..
And we’ve all felt that way at times.
And then, often, we go into “drama”, which is total masculine energy!
We do that because we don't know what to do with the Feminine Energy…there doesn’t seem to be an “appropriate” place or circumstance to let ourselves “out”.
It's not like we're using our masculine energy for our own good. We're just escaping into it.
To help you stop all the “escape” mechanisms we’ve all been taught in order to make other people feel more comfortable with us and our emotions - experience the Feminine Want Masterclass here -
https://www.coachrori.com/the-feminine-want-masterclass/
With The Feminine Want process, you’ll learn how to fully, surprisingly discover what you want at the deepest level, express it in ways you may have never thought were possible, and literally GET what you truly want.
Love, Rori
So if a guy actually opens his mouth and says, I saw a girl at the gym today…
He says: “She was really hot.”
Is that a good thing? Yes!
99 percent of the time, a man will just keep it, you know, in his head and it might make him move towards you more…You might wonder why he's got, uh, you know, all of a sudden a sexual interest in you out of nowhere, you know?
So do you really want to shut that down?
No.
So that is a big ask for you. To not shut down a man.
And so if he tells you that - I would just go, “...Wow, I feel really excited that you actually told me and shared that…”
If you’re suffering from jealousy and worry about a man you’re dating, try the Feminine WANT masterclass, here, to learn how to communicate and GET what you Want, and not stay stuck in what disappoints you…
https://www.coachrori.com/the-feminine-want-masterclass/
Love, Rori
When a man goes unresponsive or he withdraws, it can feel like a very scary experience of, well, how, how do I, how do I engage?
How do I bring him back?
If I'm not doing do how I don't want to screw this up.
That's another way that we all double down on ourselves is. Thinking that we can screw any of this up, when in reality, there are so many ways that men will fall back into our life, and then we're starting from the ground up again.
To get help with your immediate situation, join the Siren Island Program and get live classes, coaching and Masterclasses all through every month here:
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Love, Rori
How can you be in "receiving" Feminine Energy all day, every day 24 /7?
In this videocast, you'll learn several of my Modern Siren Tools to help you stay in your Feminine, even when it feels impossible and silly!
I begin with talking about tracking your state of being.
Your Feminine Energy is a state of being, and then you express that state of being in words.
You speak in what I call Feeling Messages, where the words themselves are transformational, for you and everyone else, shockingly so.
The feeling messages express your state of being.
So see if you can actually feel that!
What is, ask yourself, what is my state of being?
And don't try to get a definition of it.
Just what is my state of being?
What am I being? Where am I? What am I feeling?
Am I up above my neck? Am I down below deep?
Do I feel like I've let my shoulders go?
Am I feeling anything or am I feeling a block to the feeling?
Just explore where you are...(Learn what to do next, and "why", in the videocast...)
To learn how to do this for yourself, every day in your own life, try The Siren Island Program - with live, interactive classes every week, tons of videos and exclusive Rori Raye Materials every month, and a brilliant Community where I film and record my podcast/videocasts live every month!:
https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/
Love, Rori
What is "normal attachment" when we're in a new relationship ...and what happens when it starts getting really exciting, but then he backs off a little bit?What's normal? Because in all of these situations, our urgency is getting kicked up.What should we do? What can we do? What should we not do when we start getting an awareness of the, of the urgency that comes, that comes up here. So urgency and what, what can you expect and what can you do? This podcast will give you answers (and - warning - some answers talk about sexual intimacy as well!)...If you'd like to learn more about Rori Raye's Official Community Siren Island, and have access to live classes and a tremendous amount of exclusive Rori Raye materials, go here:
https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/
And if you'd like to explore becoming a professional coach with Rori Raye as your mentor, learn more here:
https://www.coachrori.com/be-a-rori-raye-relationship-coach/
My special guest Lylian Toscano, along with Natalina Love and I, talk and generate new Tools for you to stand up for yourself in nearly any situation!
Self-Esteem comes and goes for many of us, making us feel alternately powerful and afraid (for so many reasons!).
In this podcast, we use scenarios you might be experiencing in your relationship or at work, so you can stay in your Feminine Energy, feel your emotions, and use the most powerful, self-affirming, most compelling, honest, straightforward, truthful and magnetic words and body language to literally get you what you want while deepening, cementing, stabilizing, and honoring your relationship with everyone around you.
To get private, personal help with your unique situation, so you can channel your natural, righteous anger and rage into the Love that's at the base of everything you want, get my From Anger To Love Masterclass here:
https://www.coachrori.com/from-anger-to-love/
Love, Rori
Gratitude is so helpful, so core to feeling good about yourself and your life...
...And it's so easy to fall into what we call the "Disappointment and Complaint Department" of our minds and hearts.
Brilliant Coach Katja Majer, Natalina Love and Rori Raye teach the Rori Raye Tool: "Riffing" that will help you dive below all the bad feelings into love - and create a new space for openness, vulnerability and strength that are not only incredibly and undeniably attractive - but make for amazing communication that brings all the "thrills" back to a relationship.
To learn more about how all this works, get The Feminine WANT Masterclass video program, where you'll learn a brand new "shortcut" to his heart, and a deep committed relationship: https://www.coachrori.com/the-feminine-want-masterclass/
Love, Rori
Building Chemistry and Romance is all about "Feeling Like You" -
...Meaning: you feel like you're in your body, in your heart, deep in yourself - and not superficially hovering around your head and neck.
It's a very distinct feeling - "Dropping Down".
It's a feeling of being in your Feminine Energy that allows you to build the Chemistry inside yourself, which then activates the Romance and Chemistry between you and- literally ANYBODY!
This is a complex video with Tools and fresh ideas one right after the other!
(What I've noticed is that we tend to spend our day "deadening" ourselves, our feelings....and almost deliberately "hiding out" in our heads - so here's a link to the Business Siren Boss Babe Masterclass to help you STAY in your Feminine Energy 100% of the time, even at "work":
When a man is showing up as more nonchalant about something that has you feeling unsafe...what do you do?When you've brought the subject up again and again and again - and that doesn't work, and you're feeling the trust kind of erode in your relationship...perhaps a situation where there's an "ex" from the past involved...Well, not only do I have perspective, I have experience.
I was with a guy, in my idiot phase, for two years, who was still so tied to his ex wife...he was happy when she dropped by for any reason (which she did, often, for help with all kinds of things) - or asked him to drop by to fix things......she had many boyfriends and serious relationships, but the guy I was dating was there for her a thousand percent. She called, he ran.
But he was chill. He never gave off that he ever expected to be with her again, or that, there was anything other than this feeling he had for her as a friend and protector...It's a long story, with lots of Tools, advice and fresh insights for you no matter what your situation - and especially if you're finding yourself "stuck" on a man who isn't really "doing the job" for you.To really shift any kind of "stuckness" in your life - get The Feminine WANT Masterclass, and learn how to quickly use The Feminine WANT Process to start getting everything you want from your Feminine Energy:https://www.coachrori.com/the-feminine-want-masterclass/Love, Rori
No matter how a man behaves, no matter what he says, we want to have "Emotional Safety" without "shutting ourselves down"...
We want to maintain a sense of ourself in real life, real time, and NOT "react - but "respond"- and in a way that both expresses ourself in a satisfying way, and also in a way that respects the man as a person (perhaps as our partner) and allows him to actually HEAR us, instead of shutting down himself.
Sounds like a "tall order" - and one we shouldn't have to fill - yet, it's SO amazing when we can feel both fully, authentically, emotionally expressed - and still get heard and responded to with love!
If you'd like to be part of my Rori Raye Siren Island Community, filled with brilliant Siren School coaches who are available to coach you, Script you, and help solve your immediate situation whenever you need them, plus tons of exclusive materials, and me, Rori Raye, live in a Mini-Masterclass/Workshop with you every month, go here:
https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/
Love, Rori
What do men do when there's too much impact coming in? They shut down...
Their mental circuit board is nowhere near as responsive as ours.
It does not have as big a container as ours.
Men are not built for that. They are built for the technical impact of working things through, but as soon as the emotional component comes in, they shut it down. Their circuit board comes down.
To experience emotional healing, you have to say your feeling state - which means you have to find your feeling state.
Let's start by collecting data on you!
Ask yourself: What feels like me?
To begin feeling more like you - and how you Want to feel...experience the Feminine WANT Process in the WANT Masterclass, here:
https://www.coachrori.com/the-feminine-want-masterclass/
What do you do when all of a sudden things get tense right after he commits?
If things are getting a little wobbly because you're so close to commitment - it's nothing like what happens AFTER he commits (and YOU commit)!
In this Podcast, Rori Raye, Natalina Love, Sophia Shah and Isabel Darling give you tips, Tools, first-hand stories, and entirely fresh ideas to help you right now to get the commitment you want - and then strengthen your relationship so it stays awesome and amazing forever.
To get Feminine Energy Tools for your unique situation, plus personal coaching from brilliant Rori Raye Siren School coaches, and a live, interactive Masterclass with Rori Raye, try the Siren Island program for a month, for only $33, here: https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/
Love, Rori
Why ever would we want an "unsteady man"?
A man who not only isn't ready for a committed, real relationship, but doesn't even know how to really love you, especially when things aren't "perfect"
Who doesn't know how to have a serious conversation, or to even hear you most of the time.
Who doesn't seem to be able to take care of hmself - much less you.
It sounds so unappealing when we read it like this, but in real life, so many of us find this "little boy" quality to be endearing, and chemically attractive.
Then comes the pain...
To get real help with your unique situation - no matter what's going on for you - to get back to what you really Want in love, visit blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com and find articles and Guides for your exact situation.
Love Rori
If he looks good, sounds good, feels good - does that make him good for YOU, or even a good man in general?
And whatever does "good man" even mean?
What you want to focus on is how you feel about YOU in his presence.
Does he bring peace fun, thrills, trust and good feelings all around?
Is he helpful and partnership-oriented when you need to solve a conflict, or make big decisions you can't easily agree on?
Does he want what you want -and if he doesn't: is he more than willing to give you what YOU want?
The situation is no longer "is he a good provider" - though that may be one of your benchmarks or even deal-breakers.
For most of us, the Question is: Does he make me feel happy? At least most of the time? Am I happy to be with hi - permanently?
And the answer to that question has changed a lot for so many women who once thought they wanted one thing, and now want another.
T get more help discovering and following thorugh with what YOU want in "good man" - and how to recognize him - get personall coached, and tons of exclusive Rori Raye Materials for a full month on the Siren Island program:
https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/
When you're feeling triggered by a man or a situation, it's so much easier to turn away, turn around, shut down, pull on your protective armor - instead of allowing yourself to be absolutely vulnerable...
This video is all about specific ways to help yourself fall into your Feminine Energy, heart-powered Vulnerability, instead of into your heavy, brain-powered masculine energy.
To get specific help with your unique situation, come to the Siren Island program, and experience 24/7 live coaching (in writing!) with brilliant Rori Raye Siren School coaches, plus tons of exclusive materials, and a bonus live Q and A with Rori Raye!:
https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/
Love, Rori
Is there really any such thing as a bad relationship?Could there have been a reason you got into the relationship with that particular man?And then a reason why you stayed longer than you wish you had (looking back!)?In this video, Rori Raye, Natalina Love, and Lylian Toscano discuss all the possible benefits (and yes, the "Learnings") of ANY relationship - no matter how much it hurt, no matter how unsuited and awful he was for and to you.What we say may shock you, though it might give you some of the answers you're looking for right now.If you're in a "bad relationship" now (physical abuse doesn't count - that, you need to run from instantly, and if you need help, please call for help!) - perhaps he's just not "up to speed" or a good partner, maybe he's not so great a kisser, not affectionate or attentive...anything that's making you wonder "why you're still there"- you'll feel hugged instead of judged, and get some solid insights.To work with Lylian Toscano and great Siren School coaches one-to-one, join us at the Feminine Energy Workshop!https://www.coachrori.com/rori-raye-feminine-energy-workshop/Love, Rori
Disappointment can pretty much wreck your love life.
When a man he messes up - or seems to always be messing up - and disappointment is what you're feeling most of the time...
When complaints seem to be filling your mind and dominating the way you feel about him and your relationship...
When dating feels miserable, and every man you meet is a disappointment - either because he's disappointing as a man, or the way he's responding to you feels disappointing...
Here's what to do to shift into a much better place.
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(We're not talking about stopping yourself from FEELING disappointment - we're talking about taking that feeling of disappointment, and "Entertaining" it differently!)
To get live help tuning into your Feminine Self and shifting into a "vortex" of undeniable attraction - come to the Feminine Energy Workshop, here:
https://www.coachrori.com/rori-raye-feminine-energy-workshop/
Love, Rori
Can a man really "grow" on you, with full Chemistry?
Yes! A "good" man can surprise you.
The thing is, we're all trained by all media, from our birth, and everyone around us,to notice people with certain "looks" as "handsome", "sexy", "beautiful"...
The truth is, all of attraction is a "vibe".
Once you learn to abandon all those old patterns and opinions that've been dumped on you from so many people, billboards, social media - you'll begin to respond to your OWN attraction "meter".
You'll find yourself attracted to people because of how you feel emotionally around them - and not because of anything external.
And that, in turn, will help you begin to love yourself even more!
To get deeper into your Feminine Energy with brilliant Rori Raye coaches, live at The Feminine Energy Workshop - go here to Learn More:
https://www.coachrori.com/rori-raye-feminine-energy-workshop/
Love, Rori
Staying in your Feminine Energy can feel natural and easy, or tough when you're in a high-triggered situation (or anywhere in between)...
So often, just because we're trying to avoid icky things happening when interacting with men, we end up being in just a tiny part of ourselves, and operating "from our necks up".
Then we choose things that are mid-level for us, and avoid tricky situations and even possibly awesome situations - and often just distract ourselves from what we really WANT.
Dana Denton joins Natalina Love and Rori Raye today to talk about how to live more in your Feminine Energy so - instead of just distracting ourselves - we feel more uplifted, happy, and deeply involved in love.
To get personal, quick and targeted coaching in writing, exclusive Rori Raye guides, videos, books and materials, interact with Rori Raye live on The Siren Island Sanctuary private group, and feel supported nearly 24/7 - come to The Siren Sanctuary here:
Love, Rori
Sometimes we want the "ring" more than we like the man.
Sometimes we get lost in the pressure from outside: family, insurance costs, tax costs, just the constant seeming disadvantages of living alone and not having anything "official' binding you to a partner.
It can put such a burden on us, that we literally ignore what we actually "WANT"!
To learn how to get back to yourself and what you truly, inyour unique life, Want for yourself in love 9and everything else) - take a look at the new, amazing Rori Raye Feminine WANT Course:
https://www.coachrori.com/the-feminine-want-course/
Love, Rori
Power in the world has always been claimed by masculine energy.
The Feminine, however, is so clearly and obviously more powerful - with our ability to create human life, and our primary satisfactions of connection, love and compassion.
So, it stands to reason that the Feminine would be feared.
Going as far back as we know, women have been both revered and rendered powerless - and this is still true all over the world.
The names for things are almost all derived from the masculine - "male" turns to "female". "Man" turns to "woman".
That's why "girl" is my most favorite way to be described pesonally, and I shiver with sadness that modern feminism deems the word "girl" to be beneath us, and prefers "woman".
For me, the rise of "girl" is important, and the word Feminine is a power conductor.
So - let's Feminifest!
To learn how you can actually unearth your incredible power in the world by diving into and living in your Feminine Energy, come join us at the Feminine Energy Workshop the last Sunday of the month! https://www.coachrori.com/rori-raye-feminine-energy-workshop/
And if you ever need a question about your personal situation answered - just write me at Rori@CoachRori.com, and you'll get a real answer quickly!
Love, Rori
Anxiety can stop you from doing anything - even if you know that what you're doing can lead to incredible happiness...
Naomie Thompson is the queen of successful, effortless, pleasurable Circular Dating, knows first-hand how easy it is to fall into anxiety while you're doing it...and also knows first-hand how to fall back OUT of anxiety and into loving the process of getting the man and love you want!
In this episode, Naomie, Natalina Love and I work through the steps to turn worry, fear, anxiety, disappointment - and everything that makes "Dating" feel like a painful, losing waste of time and energy - into true love and lifelong partnership with the man of your dreams.
Work live with Naomie at the Rori Raye Siren School Feminine Energy Workshop here:
https://www.coachrori.com/rori-raye-feminine-energy-workshop/
Love, Rori
Does who you believe you are line you up with a "Personality Type" that doesn't please you?
If you've been "typed" by somone - there's a good chance it's not been done correctly!
Perhaps so much of what you "think" you're like isn't how you truly "work" - which is what typing is all about!
True Personality Typing isn't about your "personality"!
It's much more about how you operate.
If you "sense" your next "move" (and what you feel you like or don't like) based on past experience - or if you just sort of "feel" your way into your next move.
How you think. How you decide. How you approach situations.
I absolutely love the science and art of Personality Typing because it allows all of us to literally open up our minds to the possiblilty that we aren't who we think we are!
And once we get to that moment, we can become way more open to expanding ourselves in a lot of different directions!
Join Naomie Thompson, Natalina Love and I in this conversation about how we "type" ourselves - and then type men!
Oh! If you have a personal question, or just want to look around at all the ways you can learn more about your Feminine Energy at Rori Raye Siren School - just go here and click on everything!
https://www.coachrori.com/
Love, Rori
If: He's just not acting the way you want him to.
He's not attentive.
He's cold...He's not affectionate, or passionate, or interested in who you are or what you do.
He just talks about himself - or watches TV.
Or - he's great in a lot of ways....just not in the way you WANT him to be great!
To experience live events with me, get tons of exclusive Rori Raye materials and Tools, and get nearly 24/7 personal coaching, in writing, from brilliant Rori Raye Siren School coaches - join the Siren Sanctuary (it includes live, personal coaching on the private Siren Island FB group! - and you can stay for just a month, or stay for as long as you want in the Sanctuary monthly Membership here->
Love, Rori
Trust is complicated. And one of you in a romantic relationship has to go first, be brave, demonstrate what opening up and being vulnerable looks like, even without absolute certainty that the person you're opening up to is trustworthy.
So - complicated.
Not only does it involve handing over some of what most of us have come to call "autonomy" by agreeing to literally depend on someone else for many different forms of life sustenance: the easy ones seemingly being love, romance, relationship, sex...the harder ones being location, responsibility, choices, decisions....
In this Podcast, Natalina Love and I talk about: not only "Can you trust a man's loyalty and fidelity"...but, "Can you trust him with your most real, basic, deepest, most vulnerable self. With your feelings and needs as they truly are...?"
And my answer is so straightforward - and possibly controversial - I look forward to reading your comments, or hearing from you in my email inbox at CoachRori.com.
My answer is that your ONLY option is to begin. To begin opening up, to begin being "present" with him, to begin honest, true, deep conversations from the start.
The How-To is in the Podcast!
Love, Rori
It's hard to imagine your life the way you want to imagine it, when the nagging thought that "you don't deserve it" keeps getting in the way...
The truth is, most of us don't believe we deserve what we want.
Most of us have "nasty voices" running rampant through our heads, and, for most of us, these "dream killers" take up more bandwidth than our dreams do.
The trick is to do the opposite of everything you hear.
Instead of trying to get RID of those voices that keep telling you you don't deserve your dreams - or can't have them come true for a million other "sensible" reasons - try LOVING those malcontent, difficult, obstructive nasty voices.
The truth is, those voices are madly in love with you.
Your survival is so important to those parts of you - they don't really care if you're HAPPY, they just want you to be SAFE!
And, much of the time, happiness and safety seem to be at odds with each other in our brains.
In this discussion, Natalina Love and I delve into how to completely shift the entire inner dialogue you have going about ALL of your life - and especially about love and romance.
To look into being a Siren Sanctuary Member, and interacting live with Natalina and I every Monday, go here - I'd love to see you, and answer your questions...->
Love, Rori
We find it so easy to punish ourselves - and are always looking for new ways to do it! - yet the "Ritual" of "Anxiety, Shame, Blame and Guilt" seems to work on autopilot no matter what.
Learn how to identify the Anxiety, Shame, Blame and Guilt "Ritual" that automatically seems to overtake us women whenever we move even slightly out of the "drawn lines" that have been set for us from the beginning of time.
Yes, men have their own share of "Rituals" that complicate their minds, reduce the quality of their lives, and get in the way of their being the men they want to be...
Yet, we women have a uniquely global situation of actual political, community and marital powerlessness that can exhaust and eat up the space we want to inhabit before we even get our minds and hearts there.
It's crucial for us to get out of our own way - and, for us women, this means getting OUT of our heads.
This Podcast with me and Natalina Love has so many aha's and new ideas and Siren Tools...if you'd like to learn more about Rori Raye, The Modern Siren, and perhaps go deeper into how you can access and live 100% in your Feminine Energy, visit my blog, here:
https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/
Love, Rori
"Patterning" is the constant repetition inside us of the same reactions, words, thoughts, feelings, memories over and over and over...they automatically get activated, in exactly the same way - and these Patterns can totally determine how the next hour of our life goes.
They can determine how your next experience goes...the next minute...the rest of your life...
And we'll be talking about a solution: How to "Interrupt" the patterns that aren't working for you, so that you can have the life and love you want.
How to "interrupt" the patterns in our relationships, how to stop the continuing cycle of "Patterning", how to give ourselves fully to a moment, to a kiss, to a conversation.
Most of us have come to rely on someone else to Interrupt our pattern - our child, our pet - and mostly our men.
With a man, we've come to rely on "Chemistry" to interrupt our own self-judging habitual Patterns - and, so, when he isn't doing that job for us, we can easily build up resentment!
So much to talk about, and this podcast covers so much.
To join the conversation, become a Siren Sanctuary Member, and talk with me, live, every Monday, here: https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island/
Love, Rori
Feminine Energy is everywhere now - in talk.
It's an easy group of words to use, to say - and ... What does it even mean?
And, more important - what does "Feminine Energy" mean for YOU?
For instance - if you think "nurturing" your man, asking him how he's feeling, bringing him food - and yourself - when he's "working too hard", making errand runs and "being understanding" when he's not making you happy is "feminine" - you may be accidentally damaging the bond you already have with a man, and dimming his attraction to you.
Feminine Energy, for me, began with the "birthing" of all of existence, all Universes, everything...
Yet, it began being talked about in books, and now, everywhere on the internet.
In this podcast episode, I'll explore how the words "Feminine Energy" first surfaced, and - most important - how you can easily begin to glide into your own Feminine Energy, all the time!
To join all of us Sirens at the Rori Raye Feminine Energy Workshop each month, go here: https://www.coachrori.com/rori-raye-feminine-energy-workshop/
Love, Rori
Jamee Light: www.CoachingbyJameeLight.com is an amazing coach - and an amazing, amazing woman!
She will be the first to tell you that at age 70 - she's having not only the best time of her life - but the best LOVE life of her life, the best SEX life of her life, and is dating multiple men of wealth, prestige, kindness, chivalry, and romantic natures, who each want to commit to her permanently.
If you're struggling with the belief that there isn't a Mr. Right for you out there, or that "all the good men are taken" - call Jamee.
She'll coach you quick to fix everything in your life (Jamee also owns and is CEO of a huge architectural engineering firm, so she's no slouch in the "powerful woman" realm...if you were thinking she was a "lady of leisure..."). She'll get you doing exactly what she does, and hold your hand all through it.
Faster than you can imagine - she'll have you having the great time she is...and feeling great about it.
Be sure to go to www.CoachingByJameeLight.com to pick up her freebie on "Musical Chairs Dating"!
I want to be like Carrie Stanfield... https://www.CarrieStanfield.com
She is truly "laid back" in the most natural way - she's just always been a natural Modern Siren - and has an amazing track record at helping her many clients do the same.
I've always wanted to be a "Type B Woman," and though my "Type A" through-and through-ness has taken me far, it's the "Type B" qualities I've learned to allow in that's kept me sane and happy.
In this interview, Carrie talks with me about how she combines the essence of being a natural "Type B Woman" with "getting things done" in her hugely successful coaching practice - and how you can do it, too:
Talk With Rori... If you're feeling a bit of a tingle - perhaps like a dream waking up inside you - when you imagine yourself being "The Coach," like Carrie, just write me here, and we'll get together over video Zoom to see exactly how being an RRRCTer, "under my wing," could make your dream of being a professional, successful coach real. Love, Rori You can have soul-deep satisfying, spiritually meaningful, financially exciting, juicy-every-day work you love - helping women all over the world as The Coach they trust...
IT'S NOT ENOUGH ANYMORE TO WORK FOR SOMEONE ELSE'S DREAMS. It's time to make your own dream real... YOU'RE ALREADY A NATURAL COACH. YOU KNOW IT. YOUR FRIENDS KNOW IT. NOW IT'S TIME FOR THE WORLD TO KNOW IT. DON'T LET THE DREAM OF BEING A PROFESSIONAL COACH FADE BEFORE YOU DISCOVER WHAT YOU'RE "MADE OF."
Don't assume it's too "hard."
YOU'RE MUCH SMARTER, tougher, creative, ambitious, and worthy of success doing something you love than you think.
Perhaps...
...you already work in the corporate world - and it makes you great money, but keeps you yearning for something more personal and fulfilling...
...you're already a healer, a therapist, a counselor, a coach - and find yourself wanting a "technique" or "method" that can get quick results for the one thing every woman you work with asks you for: help with romantic relationships...or,
...perhaps you're not completely happy with your own romantic life right now, and so you're waiting until that changes to truly believe you can help another woman with hers (you're actually in the perfect place to help other women - and your own love life, too. RRRCT is filled with stories of relationships and marriages happening during Training)...
NO MATTER WHERE YOU ARE IN YOUR LIFE, NO MATTER WHAT'S GOING ON FOR YOU - YOU'VE ALREADY HAD SO MANY "WINS" YOU MAY NOT EVEN BE AWARE OF!
All the moments in your life where you "rose above" something painful and frustrating are what made you deep.
They made you profound.
These moments - your history - will enable you to help other women in SO many ways...
It's time for you to realize your gifts, to stop seeing anyone else as "above" you - and to step out as the one your clients call "The Coach."
When you learn "The Rori Raye Method of Coaching," you'll find yourself deep in a complex, fascinating, dramatic, theatrical, highly artistic and intuitive "style" of coaching that brings out your gifts and uses every one of them.
Though The Rori Raye Method should be impossible to teach, because it's so improvisational and creative...RRRCT has proved, over 7 years, that you can learn The Rori Raye Method, build a complete website and business plan -
- AND become a hugely successful coach in a way that brings out your unique brilliance.
Yes, you have brilliance in you. You do!
I know, because I've seen it happen over and over.
YOU COME INTO RRRCT EXPECTING TO "DO SCHOOL" - AND ALL OF A SUDDEN, YOU'RE CAUGHT UP IN YOUR OWN CREATIVITY: FLYING BY THE SEAT OF YOUR PANTS AND SOARING! RRRCT 2020 Spring Session Is NOW Enrolling! If you have questions, and would like to meet with Rori or an RRRCT Master Coach Teacher - Just contact us here: OUT OF THE 95 WOMEN WHO'VE EVER BEEN ACCEPTED INTO RRRCT - HERE ARE JUST SOME OF THE SUCCESSFUL RR...
Tatia Dee - http://www.PowerToLove.com is an amazingly powerful, transformative coach.
In this interview about "Having It All," Tatia talks about how relating to men in the workplace and relating to men in romance work for her:
Here's a BONUS from Tatia! Seven Simple Steps To Reconnect With Your Feminine Power: Based On My Training, And Using The Rori Raye Method, I Developed Seven
Simple Steps To Reconnect With Your Feminine Power:
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Power in the Energy Connection: Feminine Power and Masculine Power have a natural energy connection. When a man and woman share a moment, an hour, a date, a relationship or even a life together, they’re in an Energy Connection . . .
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Stopping Your Old Patterns and Focusing on You: As you get accustomed to leaning back into your Feminine Power, you are going to realize how much you have been leaning forward! Don’t beat yourself up over it . . . instead, just embrace it and use that reflection to become more aware of those old patterns . . .
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Letting A Man Pursue You: Let’s recap what we learned in Step One: when you lean back, a man will come forward towards you, closing up the space created between you by your leaning back . . .
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Allowing Connection With A Man: Connecting with a man means that you’re leaning back and allowing him to come towards you. What he does once he closes in the space and reaches you is connection.
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Processing Your Feelings: Now that you’re at Step Five of reconnecting with your Feminine Power, you’re starting to feel changes in yourself and how you respond to a man. Step Five is about putting words to your feelings . . .
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Speaking Your True Feelings: Now that you’re experiencing your feelings by putting them into words and writing them down in your journal, it’s time to let your words and actions match your feelings. So often we women stuff down our feelings and “put on a face” to cover up our pain, anger, disappointment and fear. Step Six is about stopping that and getting your truth out to the world, on your own terms . . .
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The Good, The Clueless, The Difficult & The Toxic: I could write an entire book for Step Seven, because it’s about our interactions with the opposite sex (I’ll be referring to men as “guys” in this step). Step Seven is about changing your vocabulary and perception of the male species . . .
Leigha Lake is a fearless powerhouse of a person, an amazing coach, and an inspiration on so many levels - find out how you can "Have It All" with Leigha's interview:
Here's a fantastic interview with the great coach Dominique at http://www.CoachingWithDominique.com
Click this link to listen to Rori Raye's
Interview With Dominique BONUS TIPS From Dominique:
Is it really possible to HAVE IT ALL - YOUR very own forever MAN, the one of your dreams, AS WELL AS your DREAM career?
Is it really possible to HAVE IT ALL - YOUR very own forever MAN, the one of your dreams, AS WELL AS your DREAM career?
I'm here to voice a resounding - YES!!! - it's absolutely possible.
AND you can still remain very much in your feminine essence goddess energy no matter which realm you're inhabiting.
And to really HAVE IT ALL, there are FOUR important aspects I would encourage cultivating and integrating within your BEING whether with YOUR MAN or whether at work as an entrepreneur or otherwise.
When with your man, it might feel much easier feeling your feminine essence goddess energy, stepping into her, allowing her to wrap her loving arms around you, fully envelop you, and permeate your entire BEING.
When at work though, it might not seem doable, maybe not even preferable. YET I would venture to say that not only do you want to keep her very close when having to call on your masculine energy to tackle tasks at hand, it's totally possible to do so.
And this will begin with and BE all about YOUR BODY -
Holdings and tensions - Being aware of what your body is doing and feeling at any given moment is key. And with practice, you can come to know immediately when tension takes hold and where. Until this becomes second nature, initially I would ask you to check in with yourself periodically throughout the day. Schedule time if necessary. Even two minutes will be sufficient.
And wherever you feel holdings or tension, BREATHE love into the area. Or better yet, try placing a hand there in loving suggestion to release, and let go. Imagine love pouring from your hand to soothe and ease the clenching. One of the lovely side benefits to this is that you get to give and receive love to and from yourself all at the same time which is so very beautiful and feels wonderful.
These brief ME TIME sessions are SO important for reconnecting to and renewing your feminine essence goddess energy self, especially when engaged in business oriented tasks YET this holds true when with YOUR MAN as well.
SENSUALITY - By this I mean sensations which can include your sexuality though will not be the focus, yet if sexual feelings arise, FABULOUS.
Awakening your sensuality is about shifting your attention to YOU and what you FEEL on a sensory level which will also likely stimulate emotions. For example noticing the warm water, as it runs over your body while bathing. Or noticing your hands, as they move over ALL of your body parts while washing, including your breasts and vulva.
How does this all feel? Good? Delicious? Weird? Different? Do you feel soothed? More open? Expanded? Overwhelmed? At peace? Happy? Sad? Beautiful? Something else? Do you feel connected? To yourself? The Universe? Something or someone else?
How about when you smooth cream on your face and body? And when you dress, what do the fabrics feel like as they pull or drape over your skin?
Can you turn your touch into caresses?
And the feel of objects or small creatures against your fingertips and body - your precious pet, your coffee cup, the doorknob, keys, your computer keyboard, a book, the light switch, your bed and bedding, your car seat, couch, and so on.
Can you expand this and include maybe the air gently or more firmly brushing against your face or blowing your hair - aromas assailing your nose, such as cinnamon buns in the oven or the freshness of newly mowed grass - tastes on your tongue, such as newly brewed tea or the creaminess of yogurt slipping past your lips - images appearing before your lovely eyes, such as rich reds and golds of a sunset or the brilliant purple of early blossoming lilacs at your windo...