The Ella Ryder Show: Recent Episodes
Ella Ryder
Practical advice on how to work through self-limiting beliefs and increase your self-worth in order to live YOUR best life. This podcast will help you redefine what your version of health looks like by following your own inner wisdom instead of the noise of society and social media.
If you’re finding the darker mornings and evenings difficult and want some motivation to add some fall vibes to your autumn self-care routine, this episode is for you!
In this episode I’m sharing the main 5 ways you can begin to give yourself the validation you are seeking externally.
This episode is for anyone who wants to develop better boundaries around their social media usage. Social media isn’t going anyway so I’m sharing my key tips for how to stay more conscious when using these platforms.
In this episode, I'm sharing my favourite tools that keep me organised on a daily basis. Whether you're running a business or struggle to organise your time in any area of life, I hope this episode gives you some ideas on how to manage your time and feel less overwhelmed.
In this episode, I share the lessons I've learned recently in life and business, including how training for a half-marathon taught me a lot of valuable things about myself. I share how my business is going and some recent gut health issues that I've been experiencing as I struggled to get a handle on my stress levels. My perspective of what self-care means has changed a lot recently and I discuss how marketed concepts of self-care may be doing more harm than good.
I’m back with an update on what’s been going on with my life, how my business is unfolding and a hint as to where the show is heading. Thanks for listening!
In today’s episode I’m sharing five things I’ve been doing during quarantine to stay focused, calm and present. Implementing one or all of these tips in your daily routine will improve your mood and help you to use your time to learn more about yourself too.
In this episode I’m sharing how you can use your time in quarantine to become aware of the difference between the ‘real life’ situation you are in and the story your mind is telling you about it.
Learn how to lessen the hold your ego has over you and move through this time in a way that leaves you feeling more connected with yourself, mind, body & soul!
Find Ella:
Instagram: @ella.ryder
ellaryder.com
I’m back with a brand new season of the podcast - live from London! A lot has changed in my life since the first season so I’m here to update you on what’s been happening, any key takeaways I’ve had over the recent months and why I’m ready to say yes to my dreams! If you’re in need of a good dose of motivation then this episode is for you.
Resources mentioned:
A Course In Miracles Made Easy by Alan Cohen.
Find Ella:
Instagram: @ella.ryder
ellaryder.com
In today’s episode it’s the season one finale! I’m going to take a break from the podcast with the intention of coming back with a series of interviews featuring guests within the wellness world. It’s going to be very exciting and I know you’ll love the conversations we’ll be having. Keep your eyes peeled!
The subject of today’s solo episode though is something that’s been on my mind recently, a kind of inner debate that I’ve been thinking about - probably a bit too much based on the fact that this topic is about slowing down the thoughts but anywayyy.
While in an ideal world we would all be able to quiet our minds completely and stop the noise of the ego, it’s not realistic for most of us to make such a jump. This is where I’ve found the process of intentional thinking extremely beneficial. Questioning all my thoughts, beliefs and writing them down for me to see plain as day, before turning them round into more empowering thoughts. I recently took the lovely Leticia Ringe’s Mindset Makeover course which was EXTREMELY helpful in helping me to learn more about how to use my mind in the most effective way. I’m sure she’ll be releasing it soon as an evergreen course here.
In this episode you’ll learn:
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How changing your thoughts about a situation can transform your life and how you feel
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The way your mind works on autopilot
-Why living from the future is the fastest way to manifest what you desire
- A morning process to become aware of your negative thoughts and turn them around
-My take on being present while still having goals and ambition
Resources mentioned:
Byron Katie
Joe Dispenza
Eckhart Tolle
The Millennial Self-Love Club
Find Ella:
Instagram: @ella.ryder
ellaryder.com
We’ve all been there. Getting triggered or annoyed by something small and insignificant in the grand scheme of things. Often we can look at these moments and realise how ‘silly’ we are being and move on quickly. But what about all the stories and beliefs you’ve had since childhood about the way the world works? When you realise that you are not your thoughts and don’t have to believe what you are thinking, you’ve got the key to everything.
There is no ‘outside’ after all, there’s only ever our mental projection of what we perceive happening outside of us. It’s all relative and while it’s a hard concept to get our minds around, I try to break it down as best I can in this episode with real life examples. So enjoy my friends and I hope it gives you some peace and clarity today!
In this episode you’ll learn:
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That it’s the stories about your life that cause you the most pain, not your actual life
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Confidence is a state of mind
-Your perception about life is everything so choose wisely!
- How to identify the triggers in your life and why they are important to recognise
-How to rewrite a new story for yourself
Resources mentioned:
Byron Katie
Join The Millennial Self-Love Club
Find Ella:
Instagram: @ella.ryder
ellaryder.com
Many people teach that you have to work hard at self-love and control your thoughts all the time to be a more positive person. I used to feel the same way until I learnt the power of accepting what is and becoming ok with life itself. When you let your thoughts control you, you suffer. However when you take the time to sit in awareness and be present with the stream of thoughts that pass in and out of your consciousness, in this state you can pick and choose the thoughts you want to think. What do you want to believe about yourself? What are the stories you are telling about the way reality is for you? I’ve created my new coaching programme, The Millennial Self-Love Club with the intention of guiding a small group of women through the practices that have truly changed my outlook on life, myself and the way I operate in the world. Not only will you learn to truly love and accept your core being, you’ll also come to understand other people in ways that you never could before. So let’s dive into the show!
In this episode you’ll learn:- All about my new coaching programme, The Millennial Self-Love Club and why I created it.
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That self-love isn’t really about learning anything, it’s about unlearning the stories we’ve been told about ourselves
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The four modules TMSLC will focus on and how they’ll add value to your life
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Where I am right now on my self-love journey
-How our thoughts about ourselves are the only problem there ever is
Resources mentioned:Byron Katie
Join The Millennial Self-Love Club
Eckhart Tolle
Find Ella:Instagram: @ella.ryder
ellaryder.com
I like to think that I’m generally very self-aware however I’d not been able to make the proper distinction between misalignment (maybe it’s just not right for me if it’s not coming easily?!) and fear until recently. Our minds can be very sneaky and make us think that we’re going in the wrong direction as soon as things get slightly uncomfortable. Are you afraid to be seen? Of what people might think of you? I discuss my tips on how to overcome fear in this episode, as well as differentiating between intuition and fear so you can tell which one is running the show!
In this episode you’ll learn:
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How to tell the difference between your intuitive knowing and fear
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That fear can crop up in many forms
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That the mind has sneaky tricks to get us to listen to it
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Detaching yourself from the outcome can propel you forward
-How to stop feeling ‘stuck’ in your life
Resources mentioned:
Byron Katie
Loving What Is on Audible
Book a coaching session with me
Find Ella:
Instagram: @ella.ryder
ellaryder.com
When you are feeling as if life isn’t the way it should be or you find it hard to accept the ‘reality’ of how things are, enter Byron Katie. If you are open and ready to approach your thinking using a life-changing yet simple series of questions then get ready to have your mind blown. I personally didn’t resonate with Byron Katie’s The Work, when I first heard about it over a year ago but now I’ve become obsessed with everything she embodies so I just had to do an episode dedicated to what I’ve learnt so far from her. It’s not been long and I’ve already felt the internal shifts and an inner peace like never before. So enjoy!
In this episode you’ll learn:
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Why I’ve become so obsessed with Byron Katie’s The Work
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How to apply The Work to relatable situations
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That what we think is true or real isn’t actually..
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The key to happiness is not believing your thoughts
Resources mentioned:
Byron Katie
Loving What Is on Audible
Byron Katie’s podcast on Oprah
Book a coaching session with me
Find Ella:
Instagram: @ella.ryder
ellaryder.com
Throughout life we are offered many tools to support us on our journey of growth. Ultimately, you decide what is most in alignment for you and your beliefs. I’ve found Human Design to be a very useful tool for myself through learning more about what makes us unique and how we relate to each other in the world. I’m sharing my key learnings from Human Design in today’s episode, as well as discussing some recent anxiety I’ve been experiencing and letting go of perfectionism.
In this episode you’ll learn:
- What Human Design is and how it’s a useful tool for rediscovering your most authentic self
-My key takeaways from Human Design (as a Projector)
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The different ways perfectionism may show up in your life
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How I got rid of my recent anxiety
-That all you need to do in a stressful situation is accept the present moment
Resources mentioned:
Find out your Human Design type
Jenna Zoe
Lacy Philips Expanded podcast episode on Human Design
Book a clarity coaching session with me in June!
Find Ella:
Instagram: @ella.ryder
ellaryder.com
Sometimes we don’t feel as ‘high vibe’ as we want to and that’s ok. Often our bodies are sending us signals to pause and listen. How often do you listen to it though before the symptoms become more serious? As I’ve been experiencing some unexplained body misalignment this week, I’m discussing the ways I’ve been helping keep my vibe high, when the last thing I feel like doing is sitting and meditating!
In this episode you’ll learn:
- Meditation comes in many different forms
-How often we should be using our mind on a daily basis
-How to choose the tools that are best for you
-That sometimes it’s good to turn off the podcasts/inspiring videos and just BE.
Resources mentioned:
Book a clarity coaching session with me in June!
Find Ella:
Instagram: @ella.ryder
ellaryder.com
Confidence is a state of mind. You can make the choice to be a confident person in each moment. Don’t be limited by your past stories or how other people have judged you previously.
There are some easy ways you can start to become a more confident and self-assured person right now. It’s not about being arrogant but instead feeling so innately worthy in yourself that the love you have inside of you pours outward and you give to the world around you. Remember that only hurting people hurt people. Take the time to invest in your personal growth and it will benefit everyone around you!
There are oh so many tools out there now to assist you on your personal development journey. Whether it’s meditation techniques, journalling prompts or affirmations, it would appear that there’s always more we can be doing. However, if it’s starting to feel like a spiritual to-do list and you’re feeling stressed by it all then you aren’t alone.
Not being afraid to learn and grow as an individual is an amazing quality to have. Often change can be uncomfortable in its initial unfamiliarity but usually it’s so worth it in the end. Adopting any new healthy habit can take time and it’s not something that we’re ever taught how to do in school so in this episode I discuss what to consider before making any changes in your life.
All of us have a unique relationship with food. Some of us eat when we’re stressed and others restrict. There’s no right or wrong way to eat, as long as you are feeling good. The issue comes when you start to get out of balance and are ignoring your body when it tells you it’s had too much or it needs a bit of variety. Do you take the time to tune in and listen?
In this podcast episode I discuss my history with emotional eating patterns, how it’s shown up recently for me and the steps I take to get back into balance.I also discuss self-compassion, mindfulness and being healthy for you and no one else.
Remember that no matter what level of eating problem you currently have, you can make a change any moment you choose to. Emotional eating happens to us all, no matter what size you are or how much you visit the gym. Apply the tips I share in this episode to your own life and I promise you’ll find more relief around food straight away.
In this episode you’ll learn:
- That emotional eating comes in many forms
-How I knew I was emotionally eating
-Why I think women are conditioned to be obsessed with body image
-The biggest waste of your energy
-What conscious eating looks and feels like
-How to be more mindful when you eat
-Why restriction can actually be a good thing
Resources mentioned:
Brooke Castillo’s podcast episode on restriction love - https://player.fm/series/the-life-coach-school-podcast/ep-254-restriction-love
Find Ella:
Instagram: @ella.ryder
ellaryder.com
Throughout life there will be periods when it feels like everything is changing at once and times when things seem quiet or even too good to be true. Depending on where you are currently at, you might be coming from a place of lack and feel like you have to know the exact steps to get to where you want to be.
If you have a love-hate relationship with Instagram or social media in general then you aren’t alone. For many it can cause a lot of anxiety and lead to feelings of jealousy and comparison-itis. However it’s not going anywhere any time soon and let’s face it, if you’re building a brand or keen to have your own business, social media is pretty darn useful. So it’s been my mission to develop a more mindful relationship with social media and make it work for me rather than against me.
In this episode I share my tips on how you can make your Instagram feed a more positive place to be, find a community of like-minded people and use your time on it intentionally.
We are always growing and learning as individuals and in this introductory episode to the podcast, I share a bit about my personal journey, what has brought me to my current career circumstances, how I’ve dealt with lack of confidence, weight loss and when my interest in self-development began.
In this episode I’m also sharing three realisations about how life works that will have a huge impact on the way you live if you implement them. I explain why self-worth is the key to manifesting all your desires and suggest how you can become more present in everyday life.
If you’re telling yourself that you have no willpower or you have a slow metabolism then the evidence of those things will show up in your life. Your thoughts create emotions and emotions lead to behaviours, such as emotional eating. So the cycle never ends and you wonder why you aren’t getting anywhere. It’s time for you to take back the control you were born with!