Cupid's Coach with Julie Ferman: Recent Episodes
Julie Ferman
Are you Single? Wish you weren't? I'm your host, Julie Ferman, join me as I challenge today's evolutionary, modern day dating experts, through interviews that are frank, courageous, open-hearted and often hilarious.
We'll shine light on your blind spots (yep, we've all got 'em) and we'll laugh through our A-HA moments together. You'll hear about couples who did dating well and found each other, and the flops -- those who are doing dating badly -- we'll learn from them too. How might you do dating differently? What subtle and not so subtle changes might you make that might just change everything? Join me on this journey as we listen, laugh, learn and love!
About your VOICE. How we say things is as important as the words we choose. Voice Coach, Pamela Prather shares how to prepare for the first-impression-moments in our lives, including our first dates. How to cultivate authenticity intentionally, through our voices. Our costume, our psychic energy, but also our tone of voice, reveal so much about us. The power of laughter and ...how to stop saying "um" - Becoming consciously competent in how we speak. And that "potty mouth" Uh oh...
Real, live stories about how beautiful, happy couples actually met. How a "chance" encounter turned into lifelong love. What did he do, what did she do to cause that first date to happen. There's a moral to every story. Join us.
Loneliness has become a crisis, an epidemic in our culture. Are you part of the problem? Can you become the solution? Are you disengaged or engaged with your fellow humans? And what might happen if you choose to become a difference-maker in your own social life and the lives of those around you?
Stuck in a One Date Wonder pattern? Are you courageous enough to challenge yourself? Vision Boards - uh oh, are they dangerous? Which criteria SHOULD you stretch on, and how Google Snooping can backfire.
How a broken foot can be a blessing. When relationships morph over time, can we hang in there? Reassessing key criteria after 35 years of marriage. Wow, huh?
Kristi Price, Matchmaker in Philadelphia & West Palm Beach, on the importance of interactive conversation, bringing care and curiosity TO the dating process. Checking expectations and rethinking the stories we tell. The lengths a matchmaker will go to usher in rock-solid MEN for our female clients Spotting The Narcissism and emotional intelligence.
To what degree are our decisions based on ego, avoiding criticism and judgment, seeking validation? The key to creating balance between work and play.
Can we cause loving feelings? How? The opportunity in conflict, and the source of chemistry and connection.
Her company's pay-per-match model and Julie Ferman's Mitzvah Matches are shaking up the dating industry; no longer is personal matchmaking reserved only for the uber wealthy. It's about time.
Does a significant age difference make sense, short-term? Long-term? Looking for your soulmate? Does your soul really care how tall he is or how wealthy he is?
Are we being honest with ourselves? What's our part in the successes and failures we have had in communication, in all of our relationships? How much courage can we muster up, to find the answers to those questions? We're doing this personal growth work together. Thank you for joining me in this oh-so-challenging conversation.
Imagine - you, playing Social Director and Personal Matchmaker for yourSELF. Developing your Posse of single pals, engaging "strangers" and causing connections to happen. Julie shares social superpower strategies to build your Little Black Book.
Why The Alpha Male in disguise is a wise choice. How she and Michael handled the "who pays for what?" issue and how they found their "We" without losing their "Me".
Are your age requirements and preferences working for you? Is the person you're "targeting" looking for YOU? Or ... maybe not. Real, live stories and lessons here for you to wrestle with. Which of these tragic mistakes are YOU making? We'll find out together.
Calling In The One author, Katherine Woodward Thomas shares about why we should "do the work" and what that looks like. Transcending our gnarly histories, recognizing and dissolving our blocks to love.
When is it OK to date more than one person? Why am I attracting the wrong people? How can I know if we're compatible? Answers here
What is it to have a sense of entitlement? Who's exhibiting this behavior? People you've dated? You, maybe? Uh oh. Let's take a close look at what entitlement is and how to avoid these people.
Who's hiring matchmakers today? What to do BEFORE you hire help. Why does this matchmaker provide so many introductions for free? And uh oh, are you seeking an Unnatural Match?
Are you partnership material...yet? Are you choosing properly? Preparing for relationship, to avoid repairing later. Upleveling humanity through discontinuing labeling. The power of curiosity, inquiry, and creating a relationship manifesto.
Humor Professional, Frank Chindamo, comedy writer, and founder of Laugh M.D. shares about the therapeutic value of humor. Laughter is good for our health, and its value in dating and relationships.
John Mitchell, founder of Think It Be It reveals how, with his 12-minute per day morning discipline which produces mind-blowing results for business and personal development. It's the modern-day practical implementation of Napoleon Hill's brilliance. Leveraging our unconscious to our advantage, to achieve our goals. Join us and watch what happens.
Bob C. Grant, Relationship Coach, shares how feelings are different for men than women. What's the magic that women bring to men's lives? A woman's success and strength - is it intimidating to men, or maybe just annoying? What does support look like, and the power of the slow burn approach to sex.
Orna & Matthew Walters, author of Julie's favorite new dating book, "Getting It Right This Time".
Are you suspicious of people who like you? Accidental Love, meeting the "right" person - Is that the answer? Fantasies, myths, and why team sports help to prepare us for relationship. And the trouble with the meaning we assign to emotions.
What are your goals, dreams, and aspirations for this new year? I'm sharing mine in this New Year Update, and I'm curious to hear what your goals are. Making 2025 an epic, lovely, fruitful year - we'll do it together.
Matchmaker, Cat Cantrill has been in your shoes. What rules did she wisely break in choosing her husband? Rethinking your presentation for first impressions in dating. Care to care what you wear. About beards...Singles Events from the producers' perspective.
Wake Up Call for deservedly selective women. Evan Marc Katz, Dating Coach for strong, successful women. Foreplay, sex, intimacy, money and communication - what role does each play in a great relationship?
Jeffrey Ullman, Grandpappy of the Dating Industry. Founder of Great Expectations Video Dating Service. What inspired him to invent and develop the franchise model? Married life - What are Jeffrey's ABCs for making love last with Cindy over 30 years?
My guest is Elizabeth Ashford, founder of Beyond The Beez. Her mission is to normalize the conversation around sexual health and self-discovery. Virgins, born-again virgins, what does sex mean and what does it look like today?
We're disconnected from love, says my guest, Kailien Rosenberg, Love Architect/Celebrity Matchmaker. What is it to be in love? Can you handle tough Love? What's it like to match Celebrities? Can a drinker partner well with a sober person? Why we should NOT listen to our girlfriends' dating advice. Managing the Money and Love dynamic through confronting ego and status.
Four men, two are flunking dating and two are succeeding beautifully. Where are the blind spots? Why does one man stumble while the other dances through his dating journey? Where do you see yourself in these scenarios? I know, Uh oh!
Human Spirit Beats Fantasy & Instinct. How is it that two clients are suddently having more success in dating? They're puttling fantasy and instinct aside, to make intelligent choices, by breaking out of old patterns. Do you have the courage to do the same?
Who's a commitmentphobe? Who's initiating divorce these days? What? She's paying HIM spousal support? What it takes to stay together.
Real, live happy couples. How did they meet? Why did they nearly miss each other? Each story has a lesson. The issues: Kids, Religion, Politics, Age. Readiness. Marital Status.
Storey Pryor in the Hotseat, sharing courageously her Storey. A survivor of domestic abuse, now a champion for self love, resiliency and fortitude. And she's got the secret for sculpting those sexy legs we all want.
What's the smarter alternative? Nicole Middendorf, Financial Advisor, shares how a simple dating coaching consultation can change everything for a high-value, accomplished woman.
Love Facilitator, Barry Selby in the hot seat. Are you dating to be entertained, protected, or to be distracted? Are you happy enough already to be chosen? Why an "evolved" man is tough to match, and the qualities he truly needs to see in a woman in order to pursue her. What is the Red Flag that disqualifies a woman in his eyes?
Knoxville's Matchmaker, Ella Scaduto, engages and entertains us as she shares strategies for success at singles events. Why live events are more impactful than ever and how her mom tricked her into meeting her future husband.
Jonathon Aslay, Relationship Coach in the Hot Seat, digging in with Julie on exclusivity, monogamy, and standards in modern era dating. Who drives, who pays, who drinks and who doesn't and do these issues really matter? The importance of addressing key issues in the vetting process, before the first date - Dating for Grown-Ups.
A new dating app that requires the couple that matched to meet in person within 24 hours. Interesting. And a marriage that started at a dinner party, old school. How are YOU meeting candidates today?
Carol Allen, Vedic Astrologer tells us. She shares about her marriage and the secret sauce for staying together. Should we expect the "evolved guy" to show up? Or should we? Are women more altruistic?
How in touch are you with your powers of intuition? My guest is Shannon Swallow, founder of the Clairity School. Is our intuition affected by sex and related hormones? How "healed" do we need to be before engaging again in dating? And can we actually manage our energy? Join the conversation.
How comfortable can you be...being uncomfortable? Cultivating our capacity for being fully present, engaged in the current moment, vs trying to "get somewhere" - this is key to doing dating well. How to plan our days, weeks, months and the year ahead in the series of NOW moments before us.
Therapist Marina Edelman is in the hot seat. A Gottman level 3 trained therapist, she specializes in transforming relationships and nurturing personal growth. We address the importance of couples therapy, managing communication challenges, listening skills, resolving conflicts, and divorce recovery.
Online dating: its evolution and future. My guest is Mark Brooks, renowned dating industry consultant, who gives us a bird's-eye view of the love search process. And we address resiliency, the key to navigating REALLY hard things that happen to us. His story is mind-blowing, and we're fortunate to have him with us. Join us.
My guest is Kimmy Seltzer, Confidence Therapist, sharing the essentials for developing authentic attractiveness. The power of vibrant, solid colors. About beards, heels, and those awful Duck Lips. Join us.
Who are you missing and who's missing you, because of the way you've got things wired in your mind about politics? Your survival / thrival guide is here.
How two women keep getting referrals from the matchmaker and why one woman .... doesn't. Why some folks' calendars are nicely populated with first, second, third dates and ... some folks' calendars are empty. It's mindset. Let's check yours.
Listen in, to find out WHY and HOW. Alternatives to online dating, Personal Matchmaking WITHOUT the whopper fee. From Free to VIP, multi-tiered client engagement process. Service at all levels. Imagine that.
Three Mitzvah Match Victories - how did they happen? What’s surprising and remarkable about each? The Zen of caring for horses, dogs, critters. The beauty of the open space between relationships - what are YOU doing with the dash that this time is? Community updates and invitations galore for you. Please join us.
Engaging with "strangers" - Why you should do it. How distance can bring two people closer. How flexing your flexability muscles makes you more lovable.
John Mitchell, creator of Think It Be It, is my guest, sharing the solution to most all of our problems in life - by influencing our subconscious mind, by design, on purpose. He used this process to achieve monumental success professionally and more importantly, to manifest his wife, at the age of 50, having never been married and after lots and lots and lots of dating. It's an honor to share him with you..
Who are you guys? What are we creating together? Who gets to participate, and who doesn't? Why do I LOVE providing free Mitzvah Matches, every chance I can? How might you be the recipient? Where do YOU want to be in the Cupid's Coach Community. Why Boot Camp is co-ed, all ages. How to get invited to retreats? Why are free introductions more powerful than for-fee introductions? The future starts now.
Robin Fisher Roffer, Brand Stratagist, author and solo travel enthusiast shares why traveling alone makes you a better, richer, more interesting and more lovable person. What a mature partnership looks like and why being with the Evolved Guy can be a problem....
Damona Hoffman is my guest. She is the author of "F the Fairy Tale" and the host of the Dates & Mates Podcast. She busts the four dating myths and highlights the four pillars of lasting love. How to beat the online dating algorithms and the importance of bringing empathy to the dating process.
Andrew Dowling, founder of Stitch is in the hot seat. A 50+ Community in 5000 cities all around the world for 10 years, Stitch connects people for companionship, shared interests, and activities. Combatting loneliness, making social connections, enriching lives through natural passions of all kinds. How walking/hiking together solidifies relationships.
Really? Dating Coach, Sally Landau shows us how! Flirting - what is it, really? How is married life with Ken, after 20 years, and what did she do to SAVE the introduction from falling apart?
Nick Notas, Dating Coach for Men, shares must-know advice on early engagement. What to say, how and when to say it. Confidence building, the KEY to nailing down the first / second date. How to say difficult things, and what a woman must do to save the guy, save the date and transform our dating culture.
My guest is Lisa Shield, Dating / Love / Relationship Coach. What are The Four Agreements? Initiating is whose responsibility? What is it to "take the Feminine Lead" ? Do we need to be needed? How transparent to be about the desire to have children? Join us.
Great Love Debate host (and Cupid's Coach podcast producer!) Brian Howie is in the Hot Seat, with Mr. Feman - Julie's hubby since 1990, former franchisee with Great Expectations Video Dating Service - where Gil sold Julie a membership to his agency. 34 years later, what does Gil have to say about Dating and the Dating Industry today? What's happening with The Great Love Debate in 2024?
What's it like being The Guy who's deservedly selective, sincerely seeking a relationship, struggling through the dating process? What does he need in order to engage with a woman at the coffee shop? What are HIS pressure points? When the matchmaker can't get his Yes for the introduction, why is that?
Why are some people one-date-wonder specialists? What does “doing dating well” look like? Good dating, Bad dating, Ugly dating— How would you rate your behavior of late? Edu-taining stories await for you here.
What "doing dating well" sounds like. Jonathon Aslay and Dr. Corinne Devin share insider perspectives on modern dating. What's intimidating, what's alluring in today's world? Alignment, the deception of chemistry, and the Sniff Test. How proactive to be? How much work should it be to do dating well? And how to say difficult things.
Does it reveal that you’re ready for and prepared to have someone else around? My guest is Marlena Boardman, Interior Designer, whose company, Hello Handsome helps single men up their game in the arena of living space. How’s your Zoom environment? Your car? Decluttering does what for us?
Be the fly on the wall, as two world class matchmakers talk turkey about what it’s like behind the scenes. My guest is Laurie Berzack, founder of Carolinas Matchmaker. Sex - when to go there and why we’re wise to wait for it. Why women are smart to be dating online and how to do it well. And the evolution of the planning of The Date.
From the Horse’s Mouth! My guest is Thomas Carouso, MFT, sharing the grown-up, mature guy’s perspective in dating. What is it that he is most seeking? Beyond attraction, what qualities are essential for a conscious, evolved man to see in a woman, to take her seriously? He’d rather be single forever than partner with a woman who isn’t ….what?
Looking for chemistry? What are YOU doing to seed it, to set the stage for connection? My guest is Dating Coach Hunt Ethridge, master of “chemistry preparedness” - sharing with us what tangential questions to ask in the dating process. What’s a positive emotional question? How can we set the stage for chemistry to find us? Why do men sit next to each other, vs. facing each other? And the power of respect, appreciation, a compliment in creating the space for chemistry.
My guest is Kristina Court, who is on a mission to empower and support single, modern, professional women, using both spiritual and practical tools, accelerating the unseen desire for truth. She walks her talk and her British accent is delightful. Join us.
Those who aren’t getting it are easy to find - the folks who are looking for an unnatural match, who are polluting the waters with sloppy, discourteous, dishonest behaviors. AND there are miracles happening - Boot Camp Clients who are reinventing their dating lives. They’re planning their own events and they’re bringing the magic - willingness to rethink things, reorganize their priorities, their practices and behavior. Those who are getting it are practicing causing what’s been lacking.
Let's rethink this. Dating "your way" isn't working well? Might you be game for truly trusting your matchmaker - having a date with someone whose photos and "checkboxes" you've not seen? My guest is my colleague, Genevieve Gresset, Director of Communications for The Matchmaking Company, with 40 offices throughout the U.S. What possibilities and surprises might there be for you if you took your hands off the wheel?
My guest is renowned, enormously popular NYC Matchmaker, Maria Avgitidis Pyrgiotakis, host of the Ask a Matchmaker podcast. What partnership looks like, with a strong, accomplished, "intimidating" woman. Once and for all, we handle height, wealth and religion. And, how to have better first dates - masturbate first. Who knew?
When dating goes beautifully and when things flop. Why? Did he blow it? Did she? How might she have saved him? How might he have saved her? Where's The Man with the Plan? Where's the woman who's low maintenance, easy to please? It might be the person in the mirror, with a bit of insight.
Can true transformation happen in 60 days? Yes, indeed! Listen in to the Group Zoom Webinar, to find out how we are indeed transforming how dating is done in today's wild world. What's Julie's Boot Camp actually like? Find out here to see if it's for you. The real question - Are you a "grower" ?? Let's find out.
Designing life while divorcing and afterward. My guest is Kelly Bonanno, Creator of the virtual Summit: Loving Life After Divorce. Kelly is a Wellness and Life Coach, specializing in guiding men and women through the transition and upheaval that occurs when a marriage chapter ends and a new chapter begins. Why to and how to prioritize self-care, self-love and the personal development that is essential to overall wellbeing and the preparation for the tomorrows ahead.
In the hot seat is Confidence Coach, Cameron Schwartz, shining light on the value of discipline in developing the personal confidence which is essential to doing dating well and being successful in our relationships. How becoming the most optimized version of ourselves and falling in love with ourselves is essential to attracting a healthy partner. the value of a power nap and how to get the gift you really want from a guy.
Do guys like raunch? Can we girls handle raunch? Let’s find out. My guest is Comedian / Podcaster Madison Malloy, author of “Time to Lighten the F*ck up - a Self-Help Guide with a Side of Humor.” What’s dating like for a comedian who’s 40, adorable and quite outspoken? What’s a guy to do with all that? Love her, that’s what.
Back in the Hot Seat is Arielle Ford, sharing the keys to preparing for, manifesting and keeping love alive and thriving. Do you kill a guy off quickly? Developing receptivity and how to not inspire "Limp Dick Syndrome." The Key that Shared Vision is. What is the Kiss of Death in dating and is love at first sight reliable?
Lessons from the GUY's perspective. My guest is Scot McKay, Relationship Consultant / Media Personality who boldly addresses hotspots in modern day dating. Pornography, sex, unspoken fears and the importance of open-hearted authenticity as the ultimate turn-on for both men and women.
What's Julie's new 60-Day Boot Camp all about? Is this virtual learning / growth opportunity your next important step in your dating / relationship journey? We'll find out together. Wherever you live on the planet, this is the course to take BEFORE you hire a matchmaker and BEFORE you throw yourself into an online dating process to dramatically increase your chances of success. Your invitation is in this podcast episode.
My guest is Dr. Avrum Weiss, best selling author of Hidden in Plain Sight: How Men's Fear of Women Shape Their Intimate Relationships. Dr. Weiss addresses the socialized expectations related to "What it is to be a man" and how these fears impact communication, conflict, sex and child-rearing. He sheds light on what we can do as women to ease the tension and also what men can do to move beyond these fears.
In the age of scammers and posers, there's a new cop in town. My guest is Cameron Wetherby, founder of Kupple, a new online dating site that verifies each user's identity. Launched first in Los Angeles, rolling out in other big cities next, the site appeals to women, and then, of course, smart men join in.
What do you want to do on Saturday? I dunno, what do YOU want to do? Sound familiar? My guest is Jordan Scott, Founder of Cobble, an app that makes getting together a whole lot more fun and lots easier. Listen in on the discussion and see what happens to your social life.
The magic that is love - how do we spark that in ourselves and in others? How do we bust through self-consciousness to reach outside our comfort zones into the eyes, minds and hearts of others? Discover your inner magician with me.
Courtship is evolving. Whomever took the initiative to make magic happen? THAT person is sexy. Get to the coffee date early, grab the table, text your date, "what would you love?" and forget who's wearing pants or a skirt. Checking your expectations and sharing with each other right away what intimacy means to you? That's sexy too.
Ladies, your girlfriends mean well, but they're typically lousy dating advisors; I'll tell you what to pay attention to instead. Discover today's surprising new trends - Dating on the Fringes, redefining generosity and experiential first dates!
Engage with me in these questions. Are your expectations setting you up for disappointment? Expectations about intimacy and exclusivity, about the nature of the first / second / third dates? Has your dating methodology been fruitful, experientially, for you AND for the people you're meeting? If so, hats off to you. If not, let's fix that.
Have you had a lot of One Date Wonders? Are second and third dates rare for you? If so... uh oh... but the fix is here. Listen and learn, from stories of people who have found lasting love in surprising ways, and NOT on the first date. What might you be missing, letting the ball drop after just one meeting? How to keep the ball in play, so it doesn't fall. And great ideas for second and third dates. And how women today are getting comfortable initiating and letting a guy know how to "win" with her.
People who are neurodivergent, neuroatypical, neurospicy, autistic - Matchmakers are finding and creating new avenues to help. My guest is Jeremy Hamburgh, founder of My Best Social Life, a ground-breaking resource that's serving to combat loneliness and to transform the social lives of people who need love even more than the rest of us do.
It's a bright, bold new year. How will you orchestrate your love life? What did this matchmaker / dating coach discover this past year? In what ways are we progressing and regressing, and how will you chart your course in the coming months? Events, Consultations, Scouting, Recruiting -- in what outside-the-box ways will you engage in your community and with me this year?
What might be altogether different, if you were able to shred and keep off those pesky 10-15 lbs? My guest is Brigitte Weil, a Matchmaker and Food Coach, answering our questions. Should you date now or wait til you shed the weight? How do we successfully maintain weight loss? Join me. We're learning together.
Mimi Winsberg, M.D. is my guest, author of Speaking in Thumbs. What can we learn about ourselves and the people we're dating based on our text messages? How can we establish connection and chemistry through texting? What is "instamacy" and how can we spot the bad, the ugly and the good in people through the words they thumb?
Are your dating photos as bad as the ones you see online? Worse, maybe? My guest is Ann Maas, with LookBetterOnline and she answers the questions we all have about photos. What's with the bathroom selfie and the car selfie? What about dated photos, those pesky filters, hairstyles or full body photos from a former decade - the answers are here. Whether you take your photos yourself, with a friend or by a dating photographer, we'll help you look like you, on a good day, in beautiful light.
Troy Rawlings is my guest, The Relationship Guru of Comedy, author of Buck Naked Honest. He reveals the qualities that truly matter to men, what femininity is and why men need it. Developing the courage to be transparent in communicating at all stages of dating.
Strap on your seatbelts, open your hearts and minds as firecracker matchmaker Michal Naisteter shares openly about sensitive subjects that are tough to talk about. Sex Positivity, Neurodivergence, and US women's misguided obsession with money and height.
Have you been perpetuating the usual myths? That people on the online sites are "leftovers" or that Quality Women or Quality Men don't exist where you are? Do you dare to challenge yourself by dating off-type? What might you discover if you stopped dating altogether and started volunteering, caring for others, serving on a committee or political campaign, or by re-engaging with a family member who misses you?
Have you been perpetuating the usual myths? That people on the online sites are "leftovers" or that Quality Women or Quality Men don't exist where you are? Do you dare to challenge yourself by dating off-type? What might you discover if you stopped dating altogether and started volunteering, caring for others, serving on a committee or political campaign, or by re-engaging with a family member who misses you?
Invitations galore for you. Find out about the "Kind is the New Sexy" adventure. A new era of dating has arrived and you get to participate. Events are BACK, more creative and substantive than ever before. Retreats, Meet-Up gatherings over Conversational Quickies are popping up all over. In person or online, live or recorded, AHA moments are ensured.
What have Alissa and Megan done that's elevated each to Rock Star Status with this matchmaker? Why have others fallen off the matchmaker's radar entirely? Listen in to determine for yourself who's been misbehaving and who's been clueless, and how it is that some folks breeze through dating and land in a loving partnership.
In this episode, we ask, "Are you the real deal, really? Does your behavior match the way you describe yourself on your profile?", or maybe not so much. In your dating life, how has your communication with people been sloppy, lazy or slimy? Scheduling, rescheduling and cancelling dates - how one guy blew it and another spun the disappointment into a magical opportunity and triumphed.
Approaching a woman at the Coffee Shop - How? What to do? What to say that isn't creepy? My guest is Eddy Eddy Baller, Dating Coach for Men, who shares the how-to with us, from opening lines, conversation bridges to The Ask. And what women can do to make social engagement easier for the guys out there.
Are you highly selective? Are your age preferences limiting your chances? Listen in to find out, and if so, discover a tweak that will make all the difference. We address how to break through loneliness, by venturing into new types of social activities and developing the courage to initiate. We take a look into how we speak, to ourselves, to others and the words we use in our profiles. And I share a tool to determine where you are on the masculinity / femininity scale..
How's your intuition? Can you access it? Do you trust it? My guest is Martha Arnett, psychotherapist and transformational coach -- a specialist in intuition. Are you an empath? Who in your life is an empath, and how is life different for them? Discover how our lives and relationships can be enriched through the cultivation of our intuitive capabilities, and guides us in how to be more confident, joy-filled, intuitive and connected.
What does a Quality Man look like today? In what ways is the "cheap" guy actually enormously generous? How two people hit the Reset Button to morph a romance into a friendship. And how a magical friendship started with dog poop.
Love Coach Heidi Rain is the living example of a woman who thoroughly transformed her life, on purpose and now she guides others through the journey from dysfunction to joy.. Might you have unhealthy habits or patterns that are keeping you stuck? Have you been successful professionally, but relationships have been difficult for you? Are you fearful that you'll continue choosing the wrong people? Heidi answers these questions and has paved the way out for us.
Abby Rosenblum is my guest, Founder of The Social: Modern Matchmaking in Denver CO. Eavesdrop as two matchmakers compare notes, share stories and reveal inside scoop on why some matchmaking clients have more success than others. And strategic suggestions for taking the overwhelm out of online dating.
Why you should register with your local matchmakers - Why Collaboration among matchmakers is becoming the norm for savvy, resourceful, service oriented dating professionals. How to throw your own Conversational Quickies event to find Your People, and how to take better care of yourself, in byte sized daily doses of serenity.
What does it take to produce a singles / dating / flirting party today? What connecting with people looks like today, why it's so hard, and how to master the art of meeting and sticking with people.
Most people who think they should hire a matchmaker actually... shouldn't. Find out why and determine for yourself if you're a good candidate for THIS matchmaker, or for ANY matchmaker. The qualifications might surprise you.
Fabulous people have full lives. Tips here on how to create windows for a new person in your jam packed schedule. Dating / connection opportunities in your daily commute. How to manage your Fussy Factor over your diet, working with frugality and crafting solutions for caring for your kids, your pets and even your elders, to creatively invent new space in your life for dating and a new relationship.
Alison Armstrong is my guest, on the 100th episode of the Cupid's Coach Podcast! Listen in to discover how to transcend Instinct to make far better choices. What qualities do commitment-minded men need in order to invite a woman into his life? What is it to bring courageous, authentic communication to the dating process? And how has dating been going for HER, after having lost her dear husband?
Disciplining ourselves to see the opportunities in our "problems", recognizing that having a relationship (with a human or an animal) is trading a headache for a stomach ache - acknowledging the power we have to choose how to frame life's happenings. Happiness chemicals - how to create them consistently for ourselves, through disciplined, consistent practices.
Curiosity is the antidote to boredom. If you've been bored (or boring) on your early dates or in your relationships, uh oh.... that's on you. Develop your arsenal of deep dive, under the surface questions and topics that you can and maybe should be incorporating into your dating game. And my pick for the best "How We Met" story!
Do you focus more on what you DON'T want, than what you love and appreciate? Are you a "Human No Machine" , guarding yourself with your obscenely long Must Have List? And do you have the courage to look your "bad habits" squarely in the eye and step into a new, healthier, happier version of yourself?
There's no shortage of truly GOOD men out there. The real issue might be whether you are ready for a true blue, rock solid, partnership-oriented man -- or maybe not so much. Find out why a bunch of ladies missed meeting my awesome gentleman client, Sean, and why one super smart woman gets to keep him and experience family life together.
Setting yourself up for success in your dating life. Join me as we create your action plan for finding "your person" this year. How one smart 44 year old managed dating and is now married with a baby on the way. Creative first dates, out of the ordinary Zoom dates, and why it's great to have a posse of single pals. Is this your year to find Your Person?
Meet my guest, Chuck Tyler, author and teacher of meditation and yoga, as he shares his transformational journey through recovery from childhood sexual abuse. Gaining power over our thoughts through meditation and yoga is instrumental in moving through addiction and trauma, and why comedy improv is therapeutic.
Assessing 2021's dating adventures, let's mine for gold in your calendar. How to make lemonade with a Close But No Cigar gathering. Why your "crazy busy" calendar is saying to your romantic hopefuls, and how to make yourself more accessible and more bookable for dates with potential candidates. Over-sharing - how to stop doing it and how to save someone who's doing it. And how to spin a "bad date" into a mutual WIN!
Are you dating for only ONE reason, to find Your Person? If so, uh oh, you're setting yourself up for disappointment. Listen in as we shine light on the Boobie Prizes that are everywhere along your dating journey. Expanding your capacity to communicate compassionately, to hold your space, to contribute and to embrace contribution from another imperfect person. And when it's time to evolve beyond ageism.
The more specific your criteria...the broader your reach needs to be. Expand your radius, qualify and nurture your candidates and suitors, book the flight or get in the car and drive to meet your most interesting prospects. You go the extra mile. Plus, why First Responders are truly hot!
In the hot seat today is Marty Kupper, co-founder of Surprise Date Challenge for individuals and couples. How to create and enhance connection, romance and fun in ALL of our personal relationships. How planning surprise dates will thoroughly transform your experience of dating and relating.
Are you "red flagging" too much? Is it OK to have a Friend with Benefits? What about the dog in the bed? She voted for WHO? Have you barricaded yourself behind so many red flags that no one can get to you? Do you really want another person in your life? Let's get real about that.
Are you setting yourself up for failure in dating because you're seeing an unnatural match, someone who isn't seeking you? Why you should pay particular attention to the Maybes.
Adam Gilad shares his invitation, to join us for the upcoming Kyyndr Summit. I want ALL of my peeps with me at this miraculous, thoroughly innovative online event -- an opportunity to engage with, learn from and learn with thousands of other single men and women who are enthused about the notion of doing dating well, with love, care, compassion, openness and courage. www.kyyndr.com/ferman
Why are Caroline and David still single, after years and years of dating, while Blake and Kathy find themselves entwined in a surprising new love affair? How two perfectly imperfect humans can create beautiful love together.
Do you have Dating ADHD? How to best utilize your tech tools: your dating apps and online dating memberships. Managing your inner psycho by building your dating funnel. What fears are driving you to sort out those who are different than you are? Doing your part to maximize each of your opportunities with likely candidates...while staying open to surprises!
When things go awry in dating, is it because that "loser" was misbehaving...or merely clueless? When it's you who's got the blind spot, when it's you who made the unfortunate choice, were you misbehaving or were you clueless? What do we call the person who's misbehaving AND clueless? There's a word for that too....
Adam Gilad, founder of Kyyndr.com invites us and shows us how to bring much more kindness to the dating process. Discover with us the seductive power of willingness, why curiosity is the "baking soda" of true intimacy, and how not to be a Dick!.
Celebrity Matchmaker Ali Conti joins us to share best practices for dating today. Whether you're royalty, a well-known celeb, or just a normal person seeking meaningful, lasting love; this frank, open-hearted conversation between two world class matchmakers enlightens and entertains!
My fellow colleague, professional matchmaker and soul sister, Jessica Fass is in the hot seat today, engaging with me on issues related to spirituality and religion in dating. The parameters you've set for your personal search for love -- are they spot on or shall we tweak / broaden / narrow them? Rethinking geography, we share new tools and ideas for developing love and relationships creatively from afar with long distance prospects.
Should political leanings be a Critical Criteria for you, or not? Your matchmaker needs to know. Tips on scheduling and planning your dates, and a new dating avenue for mountain lovers everywhere!
Life is full of bad drivers and dog crap. What matters is how we manage the bumps in the road. Let's get a whole lot better at managing conflict. It's a tool in your toolbox that you'll surely need in the partnership you're hoping for. Let's develop the ability to embrace conflict and work through life's inevitable stress points with presence, acceptance, understanding, grace and humor!
Join me for laugh-out-loud funny stories about how real live married couples met - not online, not through a matchmaker or dating agency, but simply by playing with people, by consciously developing the art of social engagement and magnetism!
When love lasts, why is that? How does that happen? Listen in on my interview with family law experts, Ron and Terrie Supancic, whose 59 year marriage exemplifies partnership done well. Witness love personified, with raw emotion and discover how to develop resiliency and how to manage annoyances, conflict and crisis. How to develop emotional governance and how to respect over contempt and the evolution of a marriage over time.
The better we are at friendship, the more capable we are of loving and being loved in a romantic partnership. In what ways have you been a good friend? In what ways might you have been ... a lousy friend? Let's re-examine together what friendship is, what it can be, what it could be, what it should be. Let's strengthen our friendship muscles, to bring about a better, more loving experience of being human.
How prepared are you for the relationship you aspire to have in your life? What's your relationship fitness level? Join in on my conversation with Coach Roy Biancalana to identify which relationship muscles might have become atrophied and what to do about that.
When love works, why is that? How did it happen? What lessons and growth opportunities lie in the chaos of life's disappointments? Listen in on my interview with the woman who is the best wife, mom, and friend I have ever known!
What's worse, "settling" or fearing it so much that no one makes the cut? What's the Litmus Test for determining whether someone measures up or not, in your esteem?
Join in on my interview with coaching client, Barbara, who at the age of 69, is breezing through the dating process. What is it about her that draws in really good, solid men? Discover why she consistently receives invitations for second dates and beyond. She'll inspire you to rethink yesterday's rules for how modern day women might navigate the rapid waters of dating!
Dr. Marcy Cole, Holistic Psychotherapist, is in the hot seat today, inspiring us through insights gained through her own personal journey through dating into surprising new love. Spinning mishaps and disappointments into pivotal opportunities for positive change.
Who you are, how you portray yourself in your communications and in the way you present on a date -- are you appealing to / magnetizing the "right" people, or ... not? Engage with me in a discussion about the survival instincts that are driving forces in the decision making process for both men and women in dating.
Why had Mark been striking out with his online dating efforts? Listen in to his story and his simple, though remarkable transformation from Average Joe to Mr. Desirable in just one week, after just one coaching call. How to re-frame pain, loneliness, and frustration as a wake up call, an invitation to consider a larger question. Plus, how to turn a stagnant dating experience into an opportunity for a fresh perspective, growth and forward movement!
The stories we tell ourselves; do they serve us, or not? How much time does a widow or widower need before engaging in dating? Listen in on Peter's early dating adventures, how two women missed a golden opportunity, while Karen gets a fourth date with him. Plus, flirting tips for this Covid era!
How good are you at selling....yourself? Listen in on my lively, edu-taining interview with bestselling author, Chellie Campbell, on how to design an effective sales strategy for your dating life, incorporating The Law of Attraction and The Law of Action.
Dare you dive deeper on your early dates, to ask questions, to tackle topics that are scary and oh so important to know about? In this episode I share dozens of topics that you might consider broaching on your early dates, to spur growth, connection and open-hearted communication. It's your date, you get to design it!
Are you making the right choices, regarding who to meet, who to see again, who to keep dating? Let's find out together to see how you score on this Dating Quiz. Ten real, live dating issues that you get to consider, and your score will reveal if the choices you typically make are spot on or .... lousy. Are you maximizing your opportunities, or not?
Have you been in a relationship with someone who was toxic, abusive, perhaps narcissistic? Join me in an uplifting and enlightening conversation with psychotherapist/bestselling author Heather Kent about the nature of toxic relationships. Heather shows us how to heal, release and recover, enabling new opportunities for love.
Join in on my conversation with Matchmaker & Dating Coach Michelle Jacoby as we identify classic, common, tragic mistakes too often made in dating. And those who turned things around, finding their way into loving partnerships - how they did that and what we can learn from their courageous, innovative, outside the box choices!
Listen in on my interview with dating expert Hunt Ethridge on developing social charisma. How women can learn to use playful, feminine energy to lure and magnetize a man. Why a woman who provides hints/direction as to what will make her happy will always have greater success with men. When a powerful, strong woman out-earns her guy and her being comfortable with it makes it perfectly fine. How to use theatrics and emoting tips for Zoom dates and the value of doing something brand new for first dates. Setting the stage for chemistry with innovative, adventurous, novel, experiential dates, even if, especially if it's a Zoom date!
Listen in on the tales of dating done well and...dating done poorly. Where do you see yourself? Which traps have you fallen into? Which traps are you continually falling into? Are your expectations in line with today's potential realities? Or are you fooling yourself? What comes more naturally to you -- appreciation or flaw-finding? And what you can do to make this holiday season meaningful and lovely!
Listen in on Allie's transformative story. How one introverted girl is discovering the true nature of love, by shifting her focus, by changing up her habit, and by learning how to cause connection and love; rather than waiting or hoping for something inspirational or magical to happen.
Why are you single, really? Your single pals, why are they single? Is it because of challenging circumstances out there? Or is it more than that? Might it really be more about YOU and the "devil inside" that you know is lurking below the surface? Listen in with me as we dig into these questions: What makes you hard to match? Hard to be with? And why are you WORTH IT?
Who do you know? Listen in as I share examples of courageous personal networking strategies that transformed once-stagnant love lives. How to find and engage the angels and golden nuggets who are tucked away in your personal networks, on your phone's contacts list, in your social media communities. What would happen if you re-thought your own veto process, to relax those maybe not so important no-go zones?
Headaches/stomach aches...which do you truly prefer? Which do you dislike more? Listen in as we take an honest look at the REAL reasons for why so many are choosing to stay uncoupled. And are you missing real connection because of the relationship you have with your PHONE? Are you out of practice in the fine art of being truly present? Let's take a look together!
Julie has Brian Howie in the Guest Chair today, Creator of the Great Love Debate. How has his love life evolved over 7 years and 400+ live shows about dating? Which are the best cities and the worst cities for dating? Brian addresses the evolution of our gender issues and the contribution that the pandemic has made to our dating culture. Plus, why is Brian hopeful, enthusiastic and encouraged about dating in 2021?
Might you be wise to rethink the kids issue? Is the type of person you're hoping to date likely to go for you...at this time in your life? Join me as we address the sensitive fertility/age issue. Hear how Holly handled things when her boyfriend's ex re-entered the picture. And how to gracefully spin a political mismatch.
Why is it that I typically encourage men and women NOT to hire a matchmaker? How might you meet someone without even becoming the matchmaking client? What's a Mitzvah Match and how can you get in on that action? Listen in as I share inside scoop on how to get "in" with your local matchmaker, even if you're not the one in that high priced hot seat.
Coach Rori Raye is in the hot seat today, teaching us about Modern Siren Skills, the subtle energy shifts that serve to draw a man in. She sheds light on the words and the body language that inspire romance and commitment. What can we learn from boredom and discomfort? And why chaos and messiness can sometimes be a good thing!
What is love addiction? How can we know if our cravings and desires have crossed the line into obsession? Psychotherapist Sherry Gaba guides us through a thought-provoking, eye-opening discussion that reveals the nature of, and the impact, of love addiction. How it originates, how it takes hold and also how we can release it. She gives us tools for rewiring our brains for true love, first for ourselves. enabling us to then...have a fighting chance at loving and being loved by others!
Have you missed opportunities for partnership and companionship based on something related to...money? Are your expectations around money realistic today? At this time in your life? In today's world? Dive in with me on the exploration of money and how it impacts our decisions regarding dating and relationships. Where are you on the Entitlement Scale? What resentments have built up over time for you in the arena of money / finances? What to do about it? Join me in this grown-up conversation as we call out fantasy and build new cultural ground together!
First dates by Zoom are increasingly commonplace. Don't avoid them; rather, join in on my discussion with Rachel Greenwald on how to prepare for your Zoom date. Rethink how you're entering and exiting your online dates. Discover the power in your voice as your connection tool and the gift that is your focused presence. Creating topics, questions and tactics to cause connection and intimacy, even through a computer screen. What's the difference between charisma and connection? How to groom your voice for this new medium, and why a cough drop can make all the difference!
How might your alcohol habit or dependency be impacting your dating life? Join in on my conversation with James Swanwick, author of "The 30-Day No Alcohol Challenge" to take a peek at what may be a pesky little (or not so little) deterrent to your creating the relationship you truly desire. Could it be that choosing to release alcohol from your lifestyle will result in greater freedom, enhanced confidence and ... access to a higher quality individual?
Is "your type" the right choice for you, in reality? Listen in on Robin's story, as she and I wrestle with that question, and as she develops the courage to consciously choose to engage with men who are off-type. And how one guy got the girl through patience, persistence, confidence, and a bit of yard work!
Join in on my conversation with Kathryn Alice, on recovering from loss and discovering the blocks that both protect us and limit us. How to release unhealthy attachments to a past love, former lifestyle or limiting belief, to clear space for fresh, new beginnings. What is Crazy Love? How to manage hot chemistry and how to recognize a true soulmate candidate. Plus, secrets to aligning on the pace of dating, and learning how to nurture a smarter, slower, more conscious courtship process!
How large is your generosity of spirit? How courageous and compassionate have you been being with your communication? When we screw up, the value in a sincere apology and how to restore trust and engagement. Is why you're single related to your alcohol or pot smoking habits? Is it time to do a 30-day No Alcohol Challenge? What might happen to your dating life if you carved off that extra 10-20 pounds? How broken is your picker? How to negotiate politics and the pandemic paranoia quotient and how your most effective flirting tool today is....your facemask.
Listen in to discover how curiosity is more powerful than judgment in dating. How one new couple is negotiating finances, sex, political differences, who eats what, and who sleeps where. Surprisingly romantic dates over fast food and long, lazy road trips. The slippery slope that unhealthy habits are and how to get back on track. And how Jake transformed from awkward to awesome, simply by being willing to try, to learn, to venture out and to use dating as a vehicle for growth and his own evolution.
Have you uncoupled consciously from your past relationships? Join me as Katherine Woodward Thomas shares why looking back into our history, with a guide, is essential in getting prepared for a healthy, mature future relationship. What is it to settle - with others and with ourselves? What do our patterns, triggers and choices say about us, and what does it take to move beyond what has been and what is now to what might be in the future?
Love as a powerful motivator, now more than ever! Listen in as I share real life stories of courageous men and women who are finding creative ways to date, even today. Picnic dates with fresh lilacs, patio, portal and poolside dates, and spontaneous magic under a Cottonwood tree. A socially distant speed-dating event at a shelter in a park in Washington State. What great sports people are being! How one self described Plain Jane built her own social community and how a once separated couple are learning to live together and parent together, turning a crisis into a second chance for love!
Listen in as I interview Match.com's Chief Dating Expert Rachel DeAlto on the art of being relatable. The nature of expectations and why "your type" might not be working for you. Why calling cards are back in fashion and how women can be more assertive in early courtship. Remote video date flops and tips. Connecting through smiles, playfulness, sincerity, and contribution. Taking more chances, and learning to lean into each other!
Creating dating magic...even now! Stark contrasts, and how do you receive opportunities? Are you a Human No Machine, or do you welcome and embrace opportunities and invitations? How to tell before meeting who's solid - and who's a hot mess? How to have magical first dates by Zoom and how to have a romantic park bench date. Fun questions and topics for pandemic era first dates. Using this down time to build your black book and to fall more deeply in love with yourself, and how to save a date from going south!
Tune in on my conversation with Christina Weber, founder of Deepen, as we explore bonding through vulnerability. Does loneliness reflect selfishness? Are we truly more isolated when alone or when we're super busy? How does a guy go in for a kiss in today's germ-phobic culture? Transforming fear and skepticism into universal trust by embracing our soul's life journey. Activities that foster and enable relational skills and connection, and how magic is is available just outside our comfort zones!
Listen in as I tap into the wisdom of Dr. Ava Cadell, renowned sexologist regarding managing loneliness and depression. Nurturing loving kindness, water therapy, self-care; healing from fear, pain, loss, toxic relationships, releasing shame and guilt. Creating space, holding space, especially in tight quarters.How to come out of this better than before. Can courtship happen via video chat, without pheromones? How to connect and develop intimacy first, saving the bedroom for later. Deepening self love and intimacy with a new love interest through White Tantra. Sex toys, fantasies, erotic talk, roleplaying, developing a healthy body image, good porn vs. bad porn, and why seniors are having fantastic sex!
Join in on a lively, edu-taining discussion with Jim Cathcart about developing confidence amid uncertainty. How to discover the opportunities in unintended consequences. The power in the word "yet" to shift from stuck to forward movement. The secret to developing discipline and healthy habits. Managing mindset, yours and your date's, and how to get out of a funk. Managing relationships while under pressure, in tight quarters. Creating and respecting boundaries, knowing what to ask for, what to let go of, and when to compromise!
Listen in as Arielle Ford shares how soulmates get magnetized. The healing nature of partnership; how to date, relate, and engage in relationship - even as an imperfect, flawed person. When to and how to reveal our weaknesses, flaws and critical deal-breakers. The secret to getting into alignment on finances and sex. What women can do to nurture masculinity in men and when to let go of being "right" in favor of and in honor of love. How to have more loving moments, how to choose love, appreciation and gratitude, even when things get ugly. What's your part in creating your own happiness and utter contentment?
What does dating look like during a global pandemic? Listen in as I share examples of men and women whose love lives are blossoming, even in these bizarre times. Now is a great time to take new dating photos, with a professional, or at home with your iphone. What about Skype dates, Zoom dates, Facetime dates? Hear about a guy who packed up his RV to explore every park en route to Wyoming to rekindle a lost relationship. How to use this quiet, down time to strengthen your relationship with yourself and to practice healthy, life changing habits. Love ... what else really matters?
Join me in my office, to observe dating done well, and .... dating done badly. Are you falling into the Bigger Better Deal Trap? Or are you someone who makes your own gravy? Discover why the Hunky GQ guy didn't get the third date, and why the other "less HOT" guy DID. How Skype dates are solving problems, and what to do when you suspect that you might be shooting out of your league!
Listen in as Julie interviews Interview Expert Allana Pratt about the nature of intimacy and the key to that kingdom. What there is to do when romance sparks aren't flying - or when things start to get stale. And finally, why erections are overrated, what rigidity in love truly is!
Listen in on a conversation between two matchmakers. Julie interviews colleague May Hui to glean insights from a decade of speed dating events and thousands of first dates. Discover why 60% of available candidates are overlooked, and why there's gold there to mine. Distance, height, ethnicity -- might you rethink these criteria? Hear about people who did...and what happened!
Why does dating go well for some people and...not for others? Join me as I shine a light on the WHY of both, through real life dating scenarios from this last week. What should she do when the date he doesn't grab the check, or when his idea of a fun second date turns you off. What about the Average Joe who's going for women who consistently turn him down? And what one woman did to unfreeze a man's heart!
Managing the constant stream of communications that hit our desks and devices every day? It's maddening, and it's affected dating big time. Listen in as we address this pesky issue head on. Discover if your expectations regarding communicating are absurd and unreasonable, or ... manageable for the people in your life. Challenge yourself to take back control of your communications - so those who matter can find you and connect with you. And turn down the noise everywhere else - it may be the one thing that will change everything for you in your dating adventure!
Join me as I share some of last year's Success Stories, the couples who did manage to transform me to we! Discover how couples overcame obstacles like religion and distance, and how some seeds take years to sprout. Learn how to work an event and the magic in a second chance. Throw some parties of your own this year, get really good at engaging and initiating. And, this year, let's get you coupled up!
Laugh with me over 1958 advice on where and how to snag a man. Which tactics are outdated, and which are timeless and spot on today? I'll give you the courage to ditch that five year old photo and maybe change up your hair or drop those pesky ten pounds. Find out how Mr. GQ blew it at my party - and how to make your holiday events magical. And rethinking those deal-breakers; the long distance relationship that did work out and why it's totally fine that her income doubles his!
Join me and Toronto matchmaker Carmelia Ray as we discuss the dangers of triggers over money, sex, and communication styles. How fear, anger and assumptions can derail your early dates. How to graciously handle difficult situations and develop a healthy first date mindset. The art and the discipline of staying in the present and the value in slowing down the pace of dating. How our social culture is strengthened by authenticity and compassionate communication, and the power of a sincere apology.
Join me as dating coach and matchmaker, Dan Silverman, reveals how the Good Guy can get the girl! Developing "Game" -- the casual, just-edgy-enough exterior that serves to attract women. Nurturing your inner game, mindset, playful behavior, and humor to draw a woman in. Managing rejection and learning how to be playful. What is cold approach pick-up, and why it's good to practice it. Plus, how women can avoid the narcissist and design a true modern day partnership!
What is female game and how she can build it to inspire a man to step into relationship. Attraction vs authenticity, and polyamory -- what is it, when to reveal, when to ask, how to communicate it?
We're in the midst of a demographic revolution. Nearly half of our population is over fifty. Listen in as I interview Senena Capanelli, co-founder of Age Nation, on how to grow and thrive separate from time. How to reframe and rename your story, maintaining and developing confidence through self-talk and how we speak with others. How the richness and depth of maturity is overpowering the myth of youth, enabling new, undiscovered capacity for love in dating and relationship today.
In this episode I call out the Sugar Daddy trap; why it's a tease and a dead end for her - and for him. Why being too picky will leave you child-less, and why your stated age preferences are turning off your real prospects!
How disasters and disappointments can spur breakthroughs through inner work, studying and experiential learning. How heartbreak can throw us into accelerated growth and access to higher consciousness, propelling us to hew levels of compassion. How to move from suffering to healing, transforming that energy into a greater capacity for love, creativity and contribution.
Listen in as I interview Mike Goldstein, EZ Dating Coach, who has the answers to how to tweak your online dating methodology so that it becomes fun and fruitful for you. Sexy Boundaries; what are they and how do we set them in a way that brings a man closer? How much does a young guy truly want his date to reveal on that first date and how to co-created the pace of relationship and intimacy? Discover how every connection and every date is a bridge to build, not burn. Plus - the real reason your online dating photos are not working for you!
Join me as I share with you how to find really good men right in your community. Why the vast majority of matchmakers have abandoned women - and what we can do about this tragedy. Why most dating agencies and matchmaking companies are too limited to serve you well. And you'll discover how to develop your own social network through hosting your own Plus One parties. It's your love life -- you get to design it!
Listen in as speaker and consultant Matthew Mitchell and I address this sticky issue. The challenges and the blessings that are presented to us as we re-examine sexuality, intimacy and communication in this modern era. It's a bold, honest conversation about how very real vulnerability is for women. Also we call out the responsibility women have for the message our attire and physical presentation conveys to men. How to nip harassment or unwanted advances in the bud, on the spot, whether on a date or in the office.
Listen in as I interview Tripp Kramer, renowned dating coach for men (TrippAdvice.com) on the guy's perspective in dating. How smart women are finding feminine ways to invite him to initiate. First date conversation flow, how to develop the courage to be persistent. and how to exit with honesty and integrity!
30 years after Manuel Manga coached me on how to find my partner, the tables have turned and now I have my former dating coach in the hot seat, addressing what romantic love is today. The dangers in The List, why wealth and beauty aren't the answer, what women can do to become easier to find, to date, and to love!
Join me as I interview relationship expert Wendy Newman, author of 121 First Dates, revealing the truth about pickiness and how to evolve beyond it. Why dating the short guy might change everything for you. What to do if you're stuck in "One Date Wonderland" - and Happiness Habits that will transform loneliness into healthy self-love!
When romantic chemistry doesn't happen, why is that? "The Relationship Coach" Devon Loomis joins be to discuss how to develop the ability to connect with others, through falling in love with ourselves first. The real purpose of dating. The gifts in breakdown, conflict and triggers. When to go inward and when to engage? The dangers in pornography, as the ultimate disconnect and the exact opposite of intimacy, love, and healthy relationship.
How did Debbie find her guy? Why does a prince look like in today's modern world? Why your expectations could be your biggest barrier to finding relationship. Should you lose weight first, or date while you're on a fitness kick? And what to do with that phone of yours while you're on a date. This episode is all about courage, developing the courage to step outside your existing comfort zone, and the rewards that this extra courage will bring you!
We take aim at dating in Santa Fe, New Mexico! The best venues for dining solo, how to make magic of Trader Joe's, The Coop, Whole Foods, and how Ecstatic Dance is for anyone and everyone. Hiking, cooking classes, art gallery socials, connection opportunities over music festivals, festivals and food trucks. Why we should never burn a bridge, chatting, flirting, initiating, getting good at capturing that phone number, and what about sober dating? How women can and should let him know she's open to his initiation, and how to let someone down easy, making a friend in the process. How ghosting is self-sabotage and how truthful, compassionate communication is your friend, and how to build your OWN social network of fantastic single people!
Join me as I tap into the wisdom of renowned dating coach for strong, successful women, Evan Marc Katz. What is compatibility, really? How to adjust our dating behavior and expectations in this world of rapidly evolving gender roles. Discover what men truly need from women, and how to be that woman who gets the best out of the men in your life. Why so many married couples are unhappy and how to manage your love life so that won't be you in the future.
Listen in as Mark Owen, Founder of Events and Adventures shares the value of social and athletic events as a vehicle for developing interpersonal skills and as a chance to explore common passions with like minded people. Why sleeping around and drinking too much will kill your options, how to dress up a coffee date, what "marrying up" really is, and how a guy who isn't looking for marriage ends up there...happily!
What is your love lineage? The Love Designer Renee Piane joines me to show how what we learned about love from our family of origin often blocks us from the relationship we're hoping to find; healing our own hearts through understanding and releasing historical pain. We explore the power of intuition and how sparks can ignite after decades of dormancy.
Listen in as I share real life stories of dating mishaps and success from the archives of a real life matchmaker. People who got it right, who did dating well, and ... those who are messing things up royally. What can we learn from these wins and the tragic losses? How expectations and assumptions are your enemy, how texting or the absence of a text can ruin everything. How a dog can be your best flirting prop, when to let the guy pay, the valet parking dilemma, and the real truth about money in dating!
Join me as I explore the ways we unknowingly sabotage our romantic relationships with psychologist and best-selling author, Dr. Debra Mandel. Dr. Mandel (author of "Dump That Chump" and "Healing The Sensitive Heart") reveals the power in confidence, tenderness and vulnerability. You'll discover how the stories you share might be hurting you, and how anger chases love away. You'll learn how to know if you're rebounding or truly ready to love again, and how to determine what YOUR part is, in relationships that didn't endure.
Wanna know how to feel great, and handle the weight issue once and for all? Nutrition and Health Coach Liz O'Keefe is the woman who knows, because she has done it and can show you how! Join us as we share a weight loss/nutrition solution that's easy to integrate and just plain works. Losing 15 lbs can transform your responses from "meh" to "wow!" and is the magic ticket to health, love, and the life you are looking to get!
Online Dating Guru Julie Spira jumps into the hot seat to talk getting off the hamster wheel, the paradox of online snooping, the reality of rebounds, and finding a true connection! We reveal how to manage age issues, height issues, food issues, finances, transients, and non-committals - plus photo tips, safety tips, creating a welcoming space, and much, much, more! Everything you need to succeed online - and get offline fast!
TV Personality and Dating Specialist Damona Hoffman joins me to explore taking control of your dating destiny through initiation, finding the FUN in dating, and being your own matchmaker. Listen in as we reveal the tricks to getting offline quickly to have real world connections, how much to reveal initially, and what to hold back. Everything you need to find the dates you want and the love you seek!
Soulmate Coaches Orna and Matthew Walters join me to talk creating love on purpose, and managing communication in a modern dating culture. Ghosting. The Money Trap. The Car Door. And the power of a foot rub! Dive in as we explore the blessing of a bump in the road, appreciation and acknowledgement as fuel for our men, how to tell if he really wants a relationship - and what his showing off for you REALLY means!
Renowned Vedic Astrologist Carol Allen shows us the power of curiosity, how to recognize our energetic compliment and the importance of bringing happiness to our love lives. Why are we rarely attracted to the person who’s perfect on paper? What is a soul - and are we meant to find a soulmate? Sexual chemistry vs. compatibility, broken pickers, the danger in quick conclusions, contempt, and overthinking. Boners, bad kissers, hormones,a woman’s role in her own satisfaction, and much, much more!
Are you a Fear-Based Flaw Finder, frozen in pickiness? Image Expert & Therapist Kim Seltzer reveals the power of experience, practice, presence and connecting energetically to create real chemistry. Sex -how long to keep your pants on, when to reveal your “stuff,” and how to date without attachment. Are your results begging you to adjust your expectations? How to turn disappointment into an a-ha moment. Guys, keep the beard, ditch it, trim it? Is your “look” attracting the right women? Ladies, the power of The Dress, The Shoes, and maybe just one tube of lipstick in developing your approachability quotient.
What's a woman's role in dating today? Listen in as Julie interviews fellow matchmaker Marla Martenson about how smart women are putting the spin on courtship in the post #MeToo era. How can she get HIM to initiate? Should she text him a Thank You after the date? Attraction: WHY a man is stuck on his preferred body type, and what to do about it. Entitlement, expectations, and the too-quick-to-veto trap. Manifesting through affirmations, intuition and kindness, and how to NOT burn your bridges.
In this, my very first episode of the Cupid's Coach podcast, I share with you the reasons why I'm optimistic about dating, yes, even in today's wild world. I guide you through the process of creating your Romance Marketing Plan -- your guide, to keep your love life on track. You'll identify your Elements of Appeal (why you're a Catch) and also the areas where you might want to evolve, to cause yourself to be more marketable and more lovable. You'll nail down the qualities that most matter to you in the partner who's in your future, learning the distinction between a preference and a Critical Criteria. And you'll create your strategic action plan for the coming year of your life. Your love life is yours to design. Starting today.
I'm Julie Ferman, take a sneak peek at the road ahead as we laugh, learn, share, grow, and love!