The Nativist: Recent Episodes
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Conversations on living intuitively to cultivate your best self. Every episode highlights methods and tools for getting out of your own way and allowing your mind, body, and spirit to do what they already know how to do. Additionally, I also seek to raise awareness and provoke reflection by having interviewees share their life stories and their best practices, as well as their thoughts on relevant topics.
Get ready to feel inspired and heartened. In this moving episode, Adrian Smart shares his story for the first time. It’s an incredible story of hope, resilience, grit, love, determination, and humanity. Adrian tells us the personal challenges and tragedies he experienced growing up in Tanzania and South Africa, and how he made his way to the US (it’s a breathtaking story).
If you know/follow Adrian, you see how he infuses positivity into every post/interaction. While his positivity is genuine and authentic, this episode shows a different dimension of Adrian, which makes me appreciate and admire him even more.
This episode gives us what we need to empower ourselves and others. Among the powers we discuss are:
- controlling what we can
- listening to understand
- aligning your energy
- respecting yourself and others
- feeling seen and heard
- seeing and hearing others
- helping in direct and indirect ways
- living mindfully
- acknowledging your good fortune
- connecting to yourself and others
The power of you.
Don’t get me wrong, this is a feel-good episode, but it’s so much more than that. It’s life- and soul-affirming.
You can find/support Adrian:
- through his DJ Facebook page: LP&H Entertainment and email lphentertainmentbusiness@gmail.com
- through his business, Synergy Efficiency, which specializes in upgrading attic and garage insulation: : synergyefficiencyidaho.com; wearesynergy208@gmail.com
You can support the cause to create safe, long-term housing for abuse victims by purchasing a bear at https://babybearsclub.com/
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Tension can be uncomfortable, but it can also be valuable. In this episode, I offer ways to re-frame tension, points to consider, and tips for handling it.
In addition to sharing examples from my own life, I also suggest questions to ask yourself to help you know when to speak up and when to stay silent.
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In this timely and informative episode, Rhetoric Rob [Watkins] advises not on what to think, but how to think.
We also cover:
- How to detect bias in information sources and hidden agendas
- How to avoid common fallacies
- How and why our brains are wired to reject certain truths (and how to override that)
- Why changing your mind is a source of intelligence and maturity
- How to avoid common fallacies
- How to prevent closed-mindedness
- How to equip your kids to be comfortable with divergent views, form and communicate their opinions, spot fake news, and identify argument gaps in a way that’s effective and fun
Dr. Watkins is a professor of rhetoric and Idaho State University. Find more helpful insight and tips on his Instagram page, @rhetoric_rob
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Having majored in political science and minored in psychology, I am particularly interested in politics and human dynamics. I am also continuously committed to learning, growing, and connecting - as you likely are, too.
In this solo episode, I approach politics through the lens of balance and nuance. I offer insight on:
- prioritizing truth over ideology
- avoiding common misconceptions
- recognizing politicians’ manipulative tactics
- identifying red flags
- finding common ground and discussing politics maturely and constructively
- evaluating political ideas and policies
- sourcing credible information
- maintaining perspective
- balancing between apathy and burnout
- doing your part to improve the world
- preserving hope
I hope you finish feeling informed, grounded, discerning, and inspired.
I hope this opens your eyes, mind, and heart.
I hope you feel even more connected to yourself and to others.
Thank you for listening.
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My vibrant friend Vera Marcinko is this episode’s guest of honor. As a doula, Vera is a birth and postpartum mentor who shares her own postpartum journey, and its effect on her health, her marriage, and her identity. There’s something in this episode for everyone, as we go wide and deep, covering:
+Why community is crucial for humans, especially in pivotal life moments
+What you can do if you feel unsupported as a partner, a parent, a friend - or just a human in general
+How to connect with yourself and others
+How to navigate intimacy as new parents
+What constitutes true intimacy
+What to do when you feel stuck/powerless/alone
+How approaching partnership, parenthood, and life from a place of understanding changes everything
+How to fill your own cup, especially as a caregiver
+Why you should prioritize patterns over perfection
A very meaningful and helpful episode.
Find Vera on Instagram @thespanglishdoula or @dlnvera
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Resources mentioned in the podcast:
+We Can Do Hard Things Podcast: Find Healing In Your Partnership and Balance Inequality in Your Home with Kate Mangino
+The Breathing Cure: Develop New Habits for a Healthier, Happier, and Longer Life
+@theteachermomma on Instagram
In this hard-hitting yet cozy episode, I sit down with the SheEO herself: Sheena Daniels. Sheena is a podcast host, businesswoman, yoga instructor, and female empowerer. She shares tough lessons she’s learned upon getting a divorce and leaving the LDS church. We also get into:
- how to connect with yourself and your kids
- how to empower yourself and your kids
- how to reduce shame and guilt
- how to learn to trust yourself
- how to use your body as a healing tool
- the power of the pause and the necessity of stillness
- how your mistakes are your entry points for connection
- how to make your mess your message
It’s good. Oh, so good.
Find Sheena on Instagram @shelyfe, and listen to her on Pivot and Pursue, the podcast she hosts with Britney Neibaur
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I identify a certain blind spot you might have that’s interfering with your friendships, relationships, and social interactions, and how to address it. I explain why giving and taking are equally important.
I suggest what to do if you find yourself imbalanced on either side. I guide you on how to tell if you dominate conversations.
I also share a tip for preserving your battery if you find yourself depleted during social interactions.
It’s a short - but important - episode.
Thanks for listening,
w
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I start this free-flowing solo episode with no set topic or structure. In this age of personal branding, formulaic creating, and calculated sharing, I discuss prioritizing connection over commodification. I tell how after extensively researching and studying the best marketing practices, I opted for authenticity over algorithm. I note where I think social media is heading, and suggest what to do about it.
What comes forth ultimately coalesces into a theme of reclamation: of self, of creativity, of privacy, of time, of authenticity, of soul, of passion, of balance, of LIFE. Whether you have a personal brand or not, this episode touches on something we can all relate to: choosing how we show up in the world, and how we individually and collectively shape that world.
We’re all in it together.
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I somehow got my long-time friend Amanda Frost to agree to come on, and I think you’ll be glad I did. In this light-hearted - yet substantive - conversation, we cover quite a bit of ground. After revealing our real reasons for posting outfits of the day on social media, we continue on to chat about the importance of:
- immunizing yourself against shifting trends and opinions by determining what works for you
- identifying what works for you and what doesn’t, from your personal aesthetic to your ideology to your lifestyle
- allowing flexibility in your perspectives and routines
- investing continually in your self and your craft
- communicating directly
- discovering it’s less about looking good, and more about feeling good
- recognizing and appreciating beauty in everyone
As Amanda framed it, this was simply a play date - and you’re invited.
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It’s nice - even preferred - to feel special, right? To feel exceptional? However, to be special and exceptional requires being different. So why do we disparage weirdness? Why do we actively criticize/avoid it?
I get into why.
I also get into why we shouldn’t; why our oddities should be celebrated and even cultivated. I share some of my own weirdo tendencies, and offer a pretty strong argument on letting your freak flag fly (whatever that means to you).
Be you. Be awesome.
xx,
w
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Wow - I did not expect this conversation to go as deep or as long, but man am I glad it did. If you want a comfortable, superficial, breezy listen, this isn’t it. If you want a meaningful, profound, and heart-opening listen, this is it. Do with that what you will.
In this episode, I sit down with Catlin Palmer, LMSW and published author. I initially asked Caitlin, licensed therapist and Ute tribe member, to share his work incorporating Native American culture and spirituality in recovery (interesting, right?!).
While we did cover that, we also [un]covered so much more.
Catlin candidly relays how his personal experience with OCD and substance abuse inform and heighten his efficacy as a counselor.
As if that wasn’t deep enough, the conversation really intensifies (in a good way) when Catlin explains the role of Indigenous culture and history in understanding not only his specific clients, but the community as a whole. (Note: Catlin is careful to speak to his own knowledge and experience, and not for Indigenous people as a whole.)
He clarifies how and why Indigenous people are so often misunderstood, and how damaging and frustrating that can be. THIS MATTERS.
Catlin emphasizes rather than pity, retribution, or compensation, he simply seeks awareness: of what the Indigenous people experienced, of why the ripple effect is so extensive, and of how the history is still relevant.
We spotlight the importance of identity - personal, cultural, national - and how threatening/losing it can damage our lives, our health, and our connections (to ourselves and to others).
Thank you for listening.
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In this episode I sit down with my friend Mindy Cervantes, an experienced massage therapist and all-around radiant, COOL person. Not even halfway through, my jaw literally dropped (and stayed dropped) as she related what she feels and accomplishes during her massage sessions.
Mindy is a true healer, who offers insight on connecting to your body, recognizing its signals, and helping it thrive. She shares tools and framework for attuning to your body, including guidance you can perform on yourself, no professional necessary.
We discuss the importance of the lymphatic system and what everyone should do daily to optimize it (hint: it’s not dry brushing). This right here could be the game changer you seek, or didn’t even know you need. Trust me.
We highlight the purpose of pain, and what you can do to understand and start to resolve yours (acute and chronic). We explain how physics and energy work are directly tied. And of course, sprinkled throughout are various (relevant!) tangents, like how water can actually dehydrate you (and how to avoid it). This episode clearly reflects the emerging integration of science and “woo woo” and it’s not only interesting, it’s applicable and actionable.
The person I reference a jillion times throughout is Perry Nickelston of Stop Chasing Pain. You can find him on YouTube and Instagram (@stopchasingpain on Instagram). He is an absolute goldmine of information. Try his Big 6 here and thank me later.
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In this short solo episode, I tackle the timeless, universal question of how to live a balanced and fulfilled life. Easily done in 30 minutes, right? Despite the little time, I cover big ground and offer important distinctions that may seem minor, but actually make all the difference: when to push and when to pivot; how to integrate discipline and rest; and how to differentiate between self worth and self confidence. I also present a pretty convincing (if I do say so myself) re-frame for why you should shoot your shot, no matter how many similar products are on the market, no matter how many like thoughts are in the literature, and no matter how many fish are in the sea.
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The book I reference is Worthy: How to Believe You Are Enough and Transform Your Life by Jamie Kern Lima.
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xo
w
This is a special episode because it features a special person: my close friend Melissa Curtis, who shares her experience having a medically-complex child. She tells us the progression from first receiving the unexpected news, to adapting and navigating her new reality. She discusses how she maintains perspective, and suggests things for us all to remember, no matter our situation. Melissa has a way of navigating life with such poise, grace, awareness, and resolve. Get ready to be inspired.
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In this playful and inspiring episode, I sit down with competitive adult gymnast Peyton Kiggins. Daring to defy society’s age limits, Peyton shares why she re-entered competitive gymnastics, and how she’s a stronger competitor now than when she was younger.
Peyton tells us how she stays fit mentally and physically, and what she does to minimize injury and maximize growth and FUN. She highlights the crucial role of playfulness, and offers a helpful and empowering re-frame for failure. She exemplifies how we can do far more than we think - and are often told - we can. Peyton’s approach to gymnastics - and life in general - is remarkably healthy, balanced, and motivating. Listen, and you’ll see what I mean.
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As we’ve hopefully come to recognize now, there are multiple ways to be and to live, and motherhood is no exception. To me, motherhood symbolizes nurturing, loving, and life-giving.
In this solo episode, I explore the various manifestations of motherhood, beyond the traditional sense. I outline ways one can be a mother, ie a life force, without children of one’s own (so to speak). I reveal my own experiences with pregnancy and motherhood (something I haven’t previously publicly shared), and my current thoughts on potentially being a parent myself.
Thank you for listening.
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In this short solo episode, I share one of my top tenets in life. This approach helps you see more, experience more, learn more, contribute more, connect more, and thrive more. It improves your communication, enhances your understanding, revitalizes your relationships, and boosts your happiness. It opens doors, dissolves barriers, and illuminates opportunities.
Okay okay, I know - those are some big claims. Basically, I talk about how to have a rich life that benefits you and the people around you, no matter your budget, your location, your history, or your social life.
Thank you for being here.
xx
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My sister, Brooke [Richardson] Anderson is back on the pod, and I gotta say, we really hit our stride with this one. We discuss what she’s been teaching her daughter that’s possibly the single best predictor of future health and success, on every level: health, fitness, career, relationship, finances, etc.
This launched us into sharing our thoughts on spending versus saving, our individual relationships with money, and our spending plans if (when?) we become billionaires. We reveal our tip for avoiding impulse purchases, and highlight the questions we should all ask ourselves (may not be what you think). We suggest how to have your avocado toast and eat it, too (you gotta listen to understand that!). It’s candid, fun, and (we hope) valuable.
Find Brooke on Facebook and Instagram: @brookerichardsonphotography and @thehomebodybybrooke She’s a mama committed to helping other mamas create their dream life! Visit www.thehomebodybybrooke.com to watch her free masterclass.
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Do you ever feel unable to decode what your body is telling you? Unsure why you’re feeling a certain way, physically or emotionally? Are you caught in a loop of stress/anxiety? Have you experienced persistent, maybe even baffling, symptoms? Do you feel stuck and frustrated? Untethered? Lost? Does the past have a chokehold on you? Or maybe you feel okay but want to feel your best.
In this episode, I explain embodiment, and why you need it for true, optimal health. I outline how and why you can become disconnected from your body, and how to restore that vital connection. This is an episode that may at first glance feel irrelevant to you, but may actually be your missing link - exactly what you need. It definitely was for me.
This is an episode that may at first glance feel irrelevant to you, but may actually be your missing link - exactly what you need. It definitely was for me.
Thanks for being here.
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Have you personally experienced the power of music? Of sound? Are you interested in optimizing your health? Feeling your best? Calming your mind and body? Is there anything you need to heal? Have you wanted to meditate but find it hard to achieve stillness? Is it hard for you to concentrate on the task at hand? Need help calming your kiddos before bed?
Then this could be a game changer for you.
Healing through sound frequencies is becoming more and more popular (sound bath, anyone?), and research suggests there’s really something to it.
In this episode, I explain what sound frequencies are, and the profound benefits they can bring. I delve into the science behind it, and share my own cool experiences with it. It’s a fascinating subject.
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Feminism gets a bad rap, and is clouded by myths and misunderstandings. I’m here to [possibly] change your understanding, not your mind. This episode aims to clarify and illuminate something many may support without even knowing it: feminism. I debunk myths, I explain what feminism is and is not, and I share my thoughts and experiences being a woman in this world. If you’re a human, this episode is for Y O U. You decide what to believe and how to live your life.
Happy National Women’s History Month.
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Are you sorry? Should you be sorry?Do you apologize excessively? Are you unsure of how to connect with someone during a disagreement/misunderstanding (personal or professional)?
In this episode I diverge from all the apology guidance I’ve seen, and specify where I differ. I reveal a hot take (you may agree, you may not) on what not to apologize for, and what actually weakens our apologies. I clarify what an apology is and is not, and outline 7 clear steps to apologize effectively. I identify our true objective with apologies, and advise on how to frame it so both sides feel fulfilled. I highlight common landmines to sidestep when apologizing, and uncomfortable truths that just may transform your approach, relationships - even life (big claim, I know!).
I also share formulas for what to say when you don’t think you even did anything wrong, but you still care about the person/relationship - personal or professional.
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Thank you for being here. xx
Ever feel overwhelmed by world events? Ever feel dragged down by negativity? Ever feel frustrated by miscommunication? Ever feel compelled to elevate your interactions/environment? Ever wonder how much you actually matter?
This episode is for you.
Well, really, there’s something in here for all of us.
In this episode, I differentiate between influence and manipulation. I explain how and WHY our thoughts and words are so powerful. I briefly nerd out on how energy and vibes aren’t “woo woo” and are actually grounded and measured in science and physics. And most helpfully, I offer you specific questions to ask and steps to take to influence yourself, and the people and world around you.
Love you.
As promised, if you’re interested in getting involved with the Goodwill Gang (as mentioned in the episode) as a gangster/donor/nominator/subscriber, please navigate there directly via www.thenativist.net/goodwill-gang and follow the instructions. Thank you!
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It’s my absolute (and long-awaited) pleasure to introduce the podcast’s new monthly guest: Brooke Anderson - who so happens to be my sister and BFF. In this “soft opening” first episode with her, we talk about…talking. Direct communication, to be specific (and direct!): what this looks like, what it doesn’t look like, what it means, what it yields. Naturally, this leads us to touch on other topics relevant to all of us: boundaries, co-dependency, self-awareness, self-acceptance, self-accountability, relationships/friendships. Trust me, this is merely a nibble of the treat we have in store for you.
Brooke is a mother and photographer committed to helping other parents break into the photography industry by creating their dream job without sacrificing their parenthood. She offers training on starting your own thriving photography business. She also just released iPhone Camera Academy, a mini photography course showing how to shoot and edit polished photos using only your phone. (She’s also my soulmate creative partner and forever business partner.)
Follow her on Instagram/Facebook for more helpful tips and inspiration: (Instagram) @thehomebodybybrooke and @brookerichardsonphotography
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We’re constantly encouraged to have a growth mindset; to be disciplined; to always strive to improve and to evolve, in virtually every area of life. But can that ever be taken too far? How do you know when it’s become problematic? What can you do to prevent that? Is there ever a time when a growth mindset is not appropriate or beneficial? What is true growth?
In this solo episode, I highlight red flags to be aware of and questions to consider when setting goals and seeking your highest self. I offer a re-definition of your actual highest self, and explore the importance of self-trust. I differentiate between discipline and dogmatism, and propose how to own your routine (rather than it owning you). I explain why rigid rules are common for those with conditions such as ADHD and eating disorders, and what that rigidity indicates. I reveal the reasoning of why I chose The Nativist brand name, and how I feel about it now.
It’s all so simple, yet so complex. C’est la vie.
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Love. Communication. Discipline. Respect. Resilience. Adaptability. Empathy. Humility. Tenacity. Curiosity. Patience. Consideration. All key words for parenting and for life, and how you apply them matters.
In this episode Byron + Ashley Hunt share how they fostered healthy cohesion while nurturing individual empowerment - for themselves + their kids. They reveal how they became a close family team that shows up for each other in every way.
They reveal what made the difference for them in cultivating a family that genuinely respects + supports each other.
Their approach contains heavy-hitting life lessons for ALL of us. Worth listening to even if you’re not a parent. Worth listening to if you’re a human who values connection.
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The books we reference in the show:
- The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It by Warren Farrell and John Gray
- The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt
- Way of the Warrior Kid: From Wimpy to Warrior the Navy SEAL Way by Jocko Willink
Chasing youth seems to be society’s prescribed pastime. How does this obsession affect you? Your wallet? Your energy levels? Your outlook?
We have all the anti-aging creams and regimens we could ask for (and those we don’t ask for). Are there pro-aging products? Opinions? Acceptances? Should there be? [How] Have our views on aging shifted? [How] Have your views on aging shifted?
In this episode I offer points to ponder on how we personally and collectively see and experience aging. I question how we currently regard it, and suggest how we could re-frame it. I also share what pisses me right the hell off (slash bums me out). Insert smiley face.
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In this first episode back after my hiatus, I detail my experience having my breast implants removed. I share with you the health scare that compelled me to finally get them taken out, the explant surgery and recovery processes I went through, and the complications and emergency surgery I encountered. I open up about body image and how I feel about mine post-explant. I talk breast implant illness symptoms, and why this condition is receiving more awareness.
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Are you making life harder than it needs to be? Maybe you are and you're just not aware of it. If you’re like me, you make life 10x harder than necessary. Because you’re exhaustively overthinking, because you’re obsessively problem solving, because you’re overly complicating.
In this short episode, I share realizations I’ve made, and techniques I’ve used, to flow with life, not against it. I offer perspectives and identify possible energy and time sucks that are zapping you dry. You might be surprised.
Love you.
Whitney
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Life on your own terms means first defining those terms, yeah? So how are you defining the words in those terms? Whose definitions are you using? If you ever catch yourself comparing yourself to others, and/or telling yourself you “should” do this or “shouldn’t” do that, do you ever stop and truly ask yourself why? Have you ever questioned what success means to you? Do you analyze what actually resonates with you (eg as “successful” or “acceptable” or “fun”) or do you just obediently accept others’ definitions? Whose yardstick are you using to measure your life? Yours or society’s? Yours or your parents’? Maybe upon closer inspection those yardsticks match, and maybe they don’t. But YOU get to decide.
So that’s basically what I talk about in this episode. Happy you’re here.
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The book I reference in the episode is The Power of Fun: How to Feel Alive Again by Catherine Price
In a world of black and white, gray can be revolutionary, whether you’re accepting life’s nuances or your hair’s natural color. What if we leaned into the gray, instead of fighting or ignoring it? Meg Holmes shares her experience doing just that, by transitioning to her natural hair color and letting her silver shine through. She shares her steps, her thoughts, and her advice, including surprises she’s encountered along the way. We discuss how your beauty is for you to define, and how options empower us all. This episode is more applicable to you than you might think. There are some gold nuggets of wisdom in here, including the dynamic questions Meg suggests asking yourself when contemplating any life decision.
Beauty on YOUR terms.
You can connect with Meg on Instagram @megstoho and follow along on her journey. Her account is private, so shoot her a friend request and cross those fingers she accepts.
Thank you. Love you. Mean it.
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What you feed, grows. What you focus on becomes your reality. If you want to change your reality, you must first change your focus.
What you focus on affects your life, your relationships, your environment, and the world. Sound dramatic? I’ll explain why it’s not. I’ll also offer different ways of evaluating how you’re spending your most valuable currency (your focus), and suggest various ways to upgrade this. Some of these may surprise you.
The considerations are complex, but the solutions are simple. Come join me.
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Do you feel emotions intensely? Struggle thinking/speaking on the spot? Feel affected by loud sounds/smells/etc? Maybe you know someone who does/is.
I am on a crusade. My cause? To rebrand sensitivity. I aim to spotlight how being sensitive benefits ourselves, others, and the whole wide world. Let's make "You're so sensitive" a compliment, not an insult.
In this episode, I explain what it means to be a highly-sensitive person, and how that’s reflected in our physiology. I reference fascinating studies showing it’s not just nature vs. nature: we were born this way, baby! I share a short quiz to guide you in assessing if you/people you know could qualify as highly sensitive.
I offer new ways of viewing highly-sensitive people, some [all?] of which may be a relief to you, if you’re sensitive.
Love you. Mean it.
Book referenced: Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain (HIGHLY RECOMMEND everyone read this - not just if you’re sensitive)
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Do we need self criticism? Does it help us more than harm us? Is it essential to high performance, achievement, and fulfillment? What if we stopped? Would we become complacent? Come with me as we address these questions, and I ask you some more questions that may (will likely, hopefully!) stop you in your tracks and prompt you to think about things (particularly yourself) differently than you ever have before.
Thanks for coming along.
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From the minute I met her, I loved Maren Harris Watkins - and I’m confident you will too. You know those people who turbo charge your batteries just by proximity? She is one of those. Her titles (mother, group fitness instructor, UpBeat Barre co-founder, former college professor, meme master, fun crusader) inadequately capture her full awesomeness.
In this episode, we distinguish between body positivity and positive body image and highlight the risk of appearance-based compliments. We offer an alternative to body love, and suggest how to not hate your workout. Maren also shares her brilliant technique for framing body image with her kids. And of course, she humbly tells us what it’s like being a co-founder of a global workout sensation: UpBeat Barre (and why it’s so good for you).
We keep it fun, but we also keep it real. Because balance.
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Follow Maren on Instagram @marenwfitness (worth it just for her meme commentary)
Find upbeat.barre on their site: www.upbeatbarre.com or on Instagram @upbeat.barre
Want to work smarter not harder? Want to cultivate the life you want? This is your episode. I present to you two shining examples: Jess and Brandon Desfosses. Realtors, DIYers, property investors, house flippers, adoptive parents, birth parents, restaurant owners, social media content creators, community networkers, spouses…their titles are many. How do they manage it all? Listen as we chat about time management, motivation, ambition, productivity, work/life balance, organization, marketing, scarcity mindset, money management, and what they (and I!) think is the key to it all. Laughs, value, and inspiration: check, check, and check. And let’s just say their reach is about to get a lot wider (very pumped for them).
Follow them on Facebook and Instagram @idahomerealestate and/or contact Brandon directly: 208-241-6205.
Here it is, another deeply personal episode that’s been a long time coming. Today’s topic is my journey with severe eating disorders. I share which eating disorders (yep, multiple) I experienced and what factors triggered them. I talk about my recovery process (including outpatient treatment in Utah), and where I am with it all currently. I highlight what has helped me, to hopefully help and illuminate an issue affecting so many of us, directly/indirectly. Thank you for listening.
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You know those conversations that leave you feeling connected and inspired? This is one of those.
Dr. Nathan Richardson (no relation), Ph.D., Associate Dean for Undergraduate Studies and Department Chair at the University of Texas at San Antonio, joins me to discuss some pretty key topics: the role of kindness and emotions in politics; the power of curiosity in relationships and critical thinking; and the futility of polarization.
We address whether or not being centrist means you lack strong opinions, and if being open minded means you lack bravery or conviction.
Humans first. Labels second. Kindness always.
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www.thenativist.net
I share my story on joining - then leaving - the Latter-Day-Saint (Mormon) Church, and how I feel about it now. I offer questions to consider, no matter your personal beliefs.
I hope you listen - and live - with open eyes, open hearts, and open minds.
I love you.
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www.thenativist.net/podcast
Loss. The bad news? Everyone experiences it. The good news? Everyone experiences it.
It’s a universal thread, tying is all together. It’s inevitable, though our individual experiences of it aren’t. We all experience loss, albeit it in different ways, to different degrees, at different times, in different ways.
Loss doesn’t always mean a physical death; sometimes it’s the loss of a job, loss of an identity, loss of a friendship, loss of a lifestyle, loss of a perspective.
Whether it’s your loss or another’s, it may feel hard to know what to do and say. You may feel compelled to try to “fix it,” or to positively re-frame it so as to expedite healing and eliminate wallowing.
In this incredibly thoughtful (and hopefully illuminating and helpful) episode, my friend Sydnie Hammon, a graduate student in forensic psychology, returns to share her own experience with loss, and what has (and hasn’t!) helped her. Our candid and personal discussion is steeped in psychology and personal experience.
We offer concrete, specific guidance on what to say, how to say it, what to do, and how to do it, for when you encounter loss directly and indirectly. We also suggest different ways to frame and perceive loss.
Want to know how to show up better for yourself and others? Then this is exactly the right episode for you.
Thank you for caring enough to partake. This matters.
Love you.
Find Sydnie on Instagram @sydniiieee
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The people have spoken. I canvassed for what you wanted to hear, and this was one of the requests: how “nothing can be discussed anymore without throwing politics into it” (and truth be told, ironically I talked about politics while talking about how we can’t talk about anything without talking about politics. Sigh).
I share some thoughts. I suggest some perspectives. I offer some outlooks. I propose some points.
Lemme know what you think.
Thank you.
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In this episode, I share my thoughts on world affairs, particularly Russia's invasion of Ukraine. I offer (possibly surprising) suggestions on how to frame certain issues, and on how we individually/collectively contribute to the issues. Me being me, I ask (likely) uncomfortable yet key questions, and illuminate possible individual/collective blind spots. I comment on the world as it is, and the world how it could be.
Listen via link in bio
Spotify | iTunes | Apple Podcasts
Find the full transcript on www.thenativist.net/podcast
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Thank you.
Part of being a functional, happy, successful, ALIVE human is analyzing, anticipating, and, planning. Part of being a miserable, sad, resentful human is having unmet expectations. So…how do we encourage the former, not the latter? What’s the key ingredient?
Expectations (did you expect me to say that?).
In this episode, I talk about the sneaky ways expectations can screw with your health, success, and happiness - and how to avoid that.
Love you. Mean it.
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Life is messy. Life can feel tough. It’s complex and nuanced and uncertain, just like us humans. When we rush to restore comfort, we weaken ourselves, limit ourselves, and invite trouble. What kind of trouble? In what small/big ways are we denying ourselves a full, rich, fulfilling life? How are you possibly contributing to your problems and our problems? What are our possible blind spots? How can we lean into discomfort? Why is it good for us? What are you missing out on? I answer all of these questions in this short, micro episode. You might know some answers, you might be surprised by some answers. Only one way to find out… Listen if you want to be the best you can be.
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You might know someone with ADHD. You might have ADHD. You might not even know you have ADHD. In this episode, I dig into my personal experience with getting diagnosed with ADHD later in life (age 25) by two different doctors before realizing WHOA - I’m a textbook example of ADHD. If you’re like me, you maybe have/had a very limited understanding of ADHD and its various symptoms. This episode will help you identify those symptoms, understand them, and leverage them - whether personally or relationally (even if you don’t have it, you likely know someone who does, and understanding it helps ease frustration and maximize success on both ends). I only speak from experience. I am not a medical professional, so by consuming this content you agree to not take this as medical advice. Please consult your doctor.
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What does loyalty entail? What should it entail? Loyalty to a partner, to a friend, to a brand, to a vendor, to a family member, to a country, to a cause, to an ideology…
As with most topics, it’s nuanced. It can be contextual. It’s tempting to simplify and reduce it, but that often ignores reality and limits us: our understanding, our growth, our relationships, our empathy, our compassion, our progress, our wisdom, our lives.
What does loyalty mean to you? To those in your life? Do your definitions align? What's a deal breaker for you?
Should it be conditional? Should it be blind? Should it be all encompassing?
Thank you for listening.
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Suddenly being told to rush your “healthy” baby to the ER because those seemingly minor symptoms actually reveal a serious, lifelong condition would unnerve virtually any parent, especially if you’re a first timer.
Roman Ternus is one special girl in her own special way (you’ll see what I mean in the intro). She sparkles, she dazzles, she charms, and she inspires. She is full of life and light, undeterred by life’s curvies thrown her way. Diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes (T1D) at only one year old, Romey learned early on how to roll with the punches. Romey and her equally lovable and inspirational mother, Jeminee, share their climb.
By listening to this episode, you’ll get even more than just a cute, motivating story from a cute, motivating girl. There are many important messages in here: accepting and re-framing life’s challenges; recognizing and leveraging your inner strength; embracing and cultivating your partnerships; accessing and channeling your bravery; and respecting and heeding your intuition. You’ll also hear important signs to look for to detect T1D.
Jeminee tells us her initial thoughts and reactions, and how she sustains her strength and gratitude through the demands of caring for a child with T1D.
This episode is a story of resilience, of hope, and of gratitude, and it serves as a powerful reminder YOU are a match for YOUR mountain.
Thank you for listening. Thank you for caring.
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This episode has major star power. We’re graced with the presence of Jessica E. Jones, aka IVYWILD: Grammy winner, multi-faceted singer, childhood friend, and light bringer. Possibly most important? She performed for RBG herself. What a claim to fame.
Not only does she have the speaking voice of a Disney princess, but she’s an exceptionally articulate, driven, talented, lovely person. In this episode, we highlight how talent may get you in the race, but hard work, tenacity, and interpersonal skills can carry you across the finish line.
Jessica shares how she proceeded past resistance that may have deterred others, but set her up for success beyond her wildest dreams. We discuss resilience, grit, humility, reinvention, vulnerability, and CONNECTION - to self, to passion, and to others.
Highly inspirational, highly empowering.
It’s a showstopper. Just like her.
And speaking of reinvention, she’s branching out beyond classical music. Liisten to her latest music she just dropped (and will continue dropping) on all of the major streaming platforms.
Find her on:
Website: www.jessicaejones.com (watch her performances, etc)
Instagram: @jessipranojones / @therealivywild
Facebook: @Ivywild Fanpage
Twitter: @therealivywild
She’s also on TikTok
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In honor of Native American Heritage Month, Effie Hernandez comes on the pod to inform and inspire. Effie is a member of the Shoshone Tribe and works as a multi-cultural coordinator for a community college in Idaho Falls. Though Effie provides great resources and insight for planning your future (especially for Indigenous youth), this isn’t just for teenagers contemplating college. In true Nativist fashion, we go deep. We talk about living your own life and how fulfilling your unique potential can be different, daunting, challenging, and empowering, and how it allows you to elevate and enrich others’ lives as well (the more skills and knowledge you have, the more value you can contribute!). We emphasize the importance of defining: your life, your terms, your success. We explore how diversity and inclusion can have different meanings for different people, and we invite awareness and reflection on this. We highlight the power of continuing education - formal and informal - and how humility and curiosity are crucial components. Know your options. Define your terms. Leverage your potential.
Contact Effie:
Effie Hernandez Multicultural Coordinator, 208-535-5338, effie.hernandez@cei.edu
See www.thenativist.net/podcast for a list of scholarships available to Indigenous youth, or view on the @drcheromiah TikTok/Instagram account
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Wow. I get into it with this episode. There are a lot of hurting/struggling/frustrated/disgruntled people in the world, and especially in the US. And there are a lot of reasons behind the suffering and discontent - as well as a lot of proposed solutions. There’s also a lot of blaming, criticizing, and side taking.
What’s the role of perspective in all of this? What’s the worth of other perspectives, particularly when facing a problem? What’s the value of staying open and entertaining other views? Should we allow for nuance? Is it worth our time considering a problem’s cause and contributors when seeking a solution? Does the problem/solution have to be binary, either/or, us or them? Is it always “wrong” versus “right”?
Happy listening.
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In a world where we're expected to "keep it real" while "keeping up with the (insert entity here)," life gets complicated.
Vulnerability and authenticity are buzzwords, but what do they really mean? How do they manifest? We're advised to be genuine - as long as it's socially acceptable. What does loving and being our true self really look like? Can our "true self" fluctuate? Does being real require full disclosure? Can we be authentic while still maintaining privacy and selective disclosure? What if we don't know who we are? Does authenticity have certain requirements?
Come with me as we explore these questions, as I offer my thoughts and personal experiences. Find me on Instagram @the_nativist
Are you a toxic venter or a healthy venter?
You may know how important feeling and processing your emotions are. Repressing them just allows them to metastasize and eventually explode in a bigger and uglier way. Venting can help you gain perspective and clarity, and assist you in moving forward and healing. Venting can be necessary. Leaving emotions/frustrations/anger bottled up can be toxic - but so can venting if we do it a certain way.
In this episode, I highlight specific signs of both toxic venting and healthy venting, and suggest different ways to release that pressure valve to leave you feeling lighter, happier, clearer, and freer.
Thank you for listening! You can find me on Facebook or on Instagram @the_nativist
Leadership is a sweetheart topic. We’re inundated with advice and resources and guidance on being an effective leader. We’re taught to seek to lead, not follow. We’re taught to value leading over following; to respect leaders more than followers. And while there’s merit and value in striving to aim high and lead (in whatever form that takes: in your own life, in a team, etc) there can be just as much merit and value in following (particularly in the discernment of knowing WHEN to follow versus WHEN to lead - that’s important).
We can’t all be leaders all of the time. What chaos that would be! And what a disservice to us, to our happiness, our development, our breadth and depth of life experience, our psyche, our friggin’ SANITY.
How can we be well-rounded, balanced, (physically and emotionally) healthy human beings if we only serve (or try to serve) in the same capacity? What a mess that’d be. And stunting for our growth (mental, physical, emotional, spiritual).
In this episode, I highlight the value of following, and its overlap with leading (leading can be following and following can be leading!). I emphasize the importance of deciding your own definition of success, and understanding others have theirs. I explain how we can lead by following - and the key that differentiates a strong follower from a mere sheep (this same key also makes you good leader). This episode may be short, but it’s still deep.
Thank you for listening!
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Leadership. It’s often glorified and discussed, often regarding a formal role, position, or status. How reductive and limiting.
No matter what organization you’re part of, or group you belong to, or title you have/lack - YOU are and can be a leader - at the very least, the leader of your own dang life.
In this episode, I highlight various ways we can lead from where we stand, no matter who we are or what we do (some will likely surprise you). I outline subtle and overt ways we can directly/indirectly influence those around us and the world at large.
I suggest ways to empower yourself and take control of your life, to live it on your own terms.
We’re all leaders. This isn’t saying we all deserve trophies and can phone it in. No, it really is about the different ways we can each lead - from where we individually stand. It’s about trying, doing your best, reclaiming your power, taking responsibility and owning your life.
Lead on.
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Do you equate being sweet with being a good person? Do you ever say yes when you want to say no? Do you ever strategically place exclamation points to appear nice and upbeat? Do you ever say you'd love to make plans when you really wouldn't? Do you ever feel like you give give give while others take? Do you find yourself feeling resentful, or passive aggressive?
In this episode I talk about how sweetness can be misleading and even damaging, particularly when it stems from fear and anxiety rather than authenticity and values.
I discuss how it can be problematic and limiting. I offer guidance on living more authentically and kindly without being aggressive or sacrificing yourself to sweetness. This will nurture respect and deepen connections, in relation to yourself and others.
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We’ve heard it before: changing the world starts within, with us individually.
In this episode, I talk about how connecting first to ourselves, and then to others:
- heightens our happiness and sense of meaning and fulfillment
- strengthens our relationships
- nurtures our understanding of self and others
- lengthens our lives (it’s science, baby)
- clears the layers blocking connection to others
- lessens divides
- facilitates solutions
- informs choices
- improves, you know…EVERYTHING
I offer questions to ask yourself to gauge how connected you are to yourself. I give guidance on how to [further] connect to yourself, so you can show up authentically, as well as suggestions on how to connect to others. I get personal about times I’ve felt disconnected and how that’s impacted my life and relationship.
So instead of go fight win, the new slogan is GO CONNECT WIN.
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Love you all.
In this solo episode, I talk divorce in its broadest sense. Not just the dissolution of a marriage, but the “conscious uncoupling” (great term, Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin!) from anything that no longer serves you: one-sided friendships, toxic habits, regressive thought patterns, unhealthy practices, stagnant jobs, outgrown partnerships, etc.
I suggest helpful questions to ask yourself to effectively approach and navigate the situation, and to help determine if a divorce is needed (again, divorce in the broadest sense).
I offer angles to consider and solid steps you can take (including a specific activity you can do) to [re]claim your power, promote your healing, and serve the highest good.
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In this second part of my Indigenous Voices series, I spotlight Sequoia Dance-Leighton, an enrolled member of the Shoshone-Bannock tribes, a descendant of the Assiniboine Red Bottom clan, and a resident of the Nimiipuu (Nez Perce) land. With a bachelor's degree in human development and a master's degree in social and cultural pedagogy, she is now pursuing a PhD in cultural studies and social thought in education.
It's a longer episode than most, simply because it was such a fun, easy, stimulating conversation and I didn't want to stop! This conversation is packed with subtle yet profound life truths.
Sequoia describes how being of mixed descent impacts how she perceives and how she feels perceived, all while she works to fuse those two worlds. She shares her story of connecting with her native heritage and cultural identity. She outlines her approach to balancing: ancient wisdom with newer perspectives; older generations with younger cohorts; professional ambition with self care; and social activism with personal boundaries.
Sequoia tells us about working with the youth and striving to amplify voices that are usually silenced. She gives tips on avoiding micro aggressions and complacency. She explains settler colonialism, and offers a fresh take on viewing the earth and those who call it home. We emphasize the enduring wisdom of indigenous people, and the importance of seeking it out, no matter your ethnicity or location.
This may seem like a niche episode, but its relevance and applications are anything but. If you enjoy it half as much as I did, you'll really dig it.
You can find Sequoia on:
- Instagram: @therealrezwife
- Twitter: @SequoiaDance
- TikTok: @realrezwife
Resources mentioned in the show:
- native-land.ca : to find native land on which you live
- Chelsey Luger: a trainer/facilitator for the Native Wellness Institute, and the cofounder and editor of Well for Culture.
In a world of worthy causes, the indigenous voice is often drowned out. This series aims to illuminate it.
If you're interested at all in being a more informed and respectful human, this is a goldmine.
Elise Blaser returns to share with us her indigenous perspective from a cultural, historical, and personal standpoint. She tells us about growing up in both Canada and the US while having both native and Caucasian blood.
She outlines common disparities and misconceptions surrounding indigenous culture and people, and ways in which we could unwittingly be disrespecting those cultures (some may surprise you!). She highlights her favorite cultural aspects, and how non-natives can partake without disrespecting.
We distinguishbetween appreciation and appropriation, citing concrete guidelines and frequently asked questions (like if it's okay to wear moccasins or smudge).
Rather than preachy and critical, this conversation is lighthearted yet deep, educational yet engaging, and fun yet reverent. And critically important.
You can find Elise on Instagram @eliselilaa
Despair. I sure as hell have felt it (I don’t say that glibly - I mean it). Chances are you’ve also felt it (to whatever degree). If you haven’t (yet), you likely know someone who has/is feeling it.
It’s part of the human experience, so let’s respect it, and let’s talk about it: for ourselves and for others.
If you’re seeking a message of hope, this is for Y O U.
In this episode, I open up and tell you my relationship with despair, and how despair has shown up in my life. I also offer a tried-and-true, CONCRETE action you can take when feeling lost/frustrated/hopeless/defeated/untethered - or just “off.” Works [for me] every.single.time.
I identify why I started The Nativist, and how that relates to you.
Thank you for showing up and doing what it takes - for yourself, and for those around us.
You can find me on Instagram @the_nativist or on my Facebook page
This is for you if: you’re always tired - no matter how much sleep you get; you have more questions than answers regarding your health/body; you’ve ever experienced chronic illness/pain; you feel like you’re battling your metabolism; you have lingering health questions that are never quite satisfactorily answered; you feel OK now but want to feel as great as possible in 10, 20, 30 years; you want to optimize your health and nutrition; you feel like you’re at war with your skin (this is especially for you)
And if you love inspiring stories - you’ll like this.
In this episode, I talk to Jackie Lee Gibbs, who shares her self-transformation journey of healing from severe acne following the Medical Medium protocol. Jackie tells us what she did to radically transform her skin, and how doing so led to an internal transformation as well.
Though we do talk skincare, this conversation extends far beyond that into general health and wellness. We discuss facing and navigating adversity, trusting yourself and your body, investing in your health, and leveraging your experience to help others.
More than anything, this episode is a message of hope: for those of us feeling discouraged/betrayed by our body/lost/overwhelmed/confused. This is for you.
I highly encourage you to further explore the Medical Medium’s work, whether through his blog here , his Instagram account @medicalmedium, his podcast (iTunes/Apple Podcasts/Spotify), or his books. Your mind will be blown. I spent several years and countless hours seeking and researching answers, seeing multiple specialists and spending thousands of dollars, only to end up with no relief or answers for my health issues. The answers I received never quite explained everything or fully connected. It was only when I read Anthony William’s (the Medical Medium) information that everything.finally.clicked. Everything.
I’m a believer.
You can find Jackie on Instagram @myskintruth where she shares tips on caring for your skin internally and externally, gentle skincare and skin-healing tools, healing plants and recipes, skin-healing inspiration and compassion, kitchen tips and tricks, the healing process, and her self-transformation journey. If you’d like to work with her, you can contact her via her website: www.jackieleegibbs.com
This episode is not only per request, but it's also an area I've specifically wanted to cover.
If you want help setting/respecting boundaries, this is for you. If you seek insight on interacting with humans - in whatever capacity - this is for you. If you desire guidance on living a more effective and fulfilled life, this is for you.
In this solo episode, I discuss what happens when we/others don't take accountability for our actions, and responsibility for regulating our emotions. I provide tips on emotional self-regulation.
You can find me on Instagram @the_nativist or Facebook @TheNativist or @WhitneyRichardson
The latest installment of The Nativist’s addiction series is a gut punch.
My incredible friend Jessie Enander shares the heartbreaking - and tragically relevant - story of how painkillers destroyed her best friend’s life.
Jessie talks about how her friend, a stay-at-home mother, fell prey to the horrors of addiction. Jessie describes the addiction’s progression and symptoms, and how terrifyingly easy it is to obtain and get hooked on heavy pain pills.
Jessie candidly tells us her reactions and emotions throughout the experience. She emphasizes the importance of compassion and recognizing the person beneath the addiction. She identifies what she wishes she would have known then, and how she wishes she would’ve handled it.
It’s a moving, informative, profound, and necessary part in my ongoing effort to normalize conversations on addiction.
The resource Jessie shares is www.shatterproof.org , an invaluable resource that works to end the stigma and provide help by informing, connecting, and guiding addicts and their loved ones through addiction.
You can find Jessie on Instagram @themomhatter
Today’s episode is moving, it’s enlightening, it’s illuminating, it’s inspiring… It’s as remarkable as the woman who shares it: Mindy Cervantes.
Mindy candidly and compassionately shares her story of being married to someone addicted to alcohol. She takes us through how it began, how it progressed, and how it resolved. She outlines what steps she took on her end to empower and heal herself, so she could deal with the issue, and notes how those steps actually revolutionized not only her relationship with her husband, but also her relationship with herself and others. She talks about what realizations she had and lessons she learned. She highlights the importance of doing our own work, whether we’re the addict or we’re supporting one.
She answers the million dollar question of what was finally the catalyst for change. She spotlights the less-often discussed phase of navigating post-sobriety and its accompanying questions and considerations.
As in past episodes, we emphasize addiction touches us all, whether directly or indirectly.
The website Mindy mentions is www.loveoveraddiction, where you can also find the podcast.
Find and follow Mindy on Facebook @MindyCervantes and Instagram @mindy.d.cervantes
Another hard-hitting and stellar conversation in my ongoing series on addiction.
Today’s guest is Hallie Hanohano-Erickson, who shares her perspective of a loved one watching her brother and “brother-in-law” experience drug addiction.
Hallie candidly speaks on her emotional evolution, and what she did to help her process and understand the experience. Hallie highlights signs to look for, and realizations to keep in mind. Hallie remarks on how she would have responded differently, knowing what she knows now, and what she’s learned during the journey, such as how to be an ally, not an enabler.
The podcast Hallie references is Last Day by Stephanie Wittels Wachs. The podcast I reference is Armchair Expert, particularly Episode 87 with Johann Hari from March 14, 2019 (exactly two years ago!).
Please excuse the inexplicable “swamp monster” sound you occasionally hear in the background. We tried identifying the cause, but no such luck. If you power through, it’s totally worth it.
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The series on addiction continues. In this episode, my long-time amiga Nicholia speaks on addiction in general and alcoholism in particular. Not only has Nicholia specifically taught on the subject to her high school students, but she also personally experienced it in her home growing up (and into adulthood).
Nicholia shares her experience of having an alcoholic parent, and how that affected her own parenting. She describes how her mother’s approach to it was especially impactful to Nicholia, as a person and as a mother herself.
She tells us about the scary close call that finally led to her father’s sobriety, after doubting it would ever happen.
We discuss generational trauma and how our current habits (and addictions) impact not only us, but our posterity. We emphasize the importance of digging into the discomfort and facing your demons, to heal and prevent generational and current trauma.
Nicholia gifts us with wisdom and a gorgeous message of hope.
You can find Nicholia on Instagram @alwaysalittlelippy
In the second installment of my addiction series, our guest shares his experience being addicted to porn. In the first installment, we heard the perspective of a spouse; this time, we hear directly from the addict. Eric Gallup explains what led him to pornography and his unhealthy relationship with it. He discusses what drove him to pornography, and whether or not it reflected his contentment with his partner and marriage. Eric reflects on how he climbed from rock bottom to the happy, healthy, uplifting, grateful person he is today as a life coach. Not only does this episode highlight addiction truths, but life lessons as well.
You can follow Eric Gallup on Facebook. On there, he also has his Curative Coaching page if you’d like to hire him as your life coach.
The first part of a series on the relevant topic of addiction.
In this episode, Reagan Garrett candidly shares her story of having a spouse addicted to porn. As a new mom and wife at the tender age of 17, Reagan tells us how she discovered the addiction, and what she did with that information. She speaks on her initial and subsequent reactions, her thoughts, her coping methods, her recommendations, and her current views on the matter.
Though widespread, addiction is still stigmatized, hushed, shamed, and (I feel) generally misunderstood.
But it affects all of us (whether you realize it or not) directly and indirectly. So let’s talk about it.
Most of us are addicted to something (whether we realize/acknowledge it or not), and we arbitrarily determine which addictions are respectable.
There are multiple manifestations, experiences, and contributing factors regarding addiction. This series is to normalize this conversation. To offer various perspectives and angles, from addicts and from those who love them. These views/experiences may differ from your own. Good. I hope so.
This is part of The Nativist’s broader purpose of sharing stories and views, to connect to ourselves and others; to nurture empathy and inspire us to look outside our personal experience and perspective, so we may learn, grow, understand, and live more fully.
(Please excuse the poor audio quality on this episode. It’s worth it.)
If you’d like to connect with Reagan to share/relate to your own experience, you may find her on Instagram @reagang_
THANK YOU for caring. This matters.
It’s true: we all have them. There’s nothing wrong with having them, but it does become problematic when you don’t recognize them for what they are: your opinion.
In this brief solo episode that’s ever relevant in this increasingly polarized environment, I clarify what an opinion is and isn’t; I discuss what drives opinions and how to change them…and release the need to change them; I cover addressing misperceptions; I remark on respecting, asserting, and receiving opinions; I touch on differentiating among our individual realities; and I offer guidance on striking the balance between speaking your truth and considering others’.
What. A. Story. From go go dancing to going the distance, Shauna Aranton’s life reads like a movie, full of dramatic moments and life lessons.
In this episode, Shauna shares her journey of learning to stay and fight for what she wants rather than fleeing from what she doesn’t, whether it’s a relationship, a career, or anything else. She now has the career and marriage of her dreams, but they came through grit, determination, and hard work. And this girl on fire isn’t done: Shauna is still in hot pursuit of achieving her ultimate dream of becoming a nurse practitioner and earning a PhD so she may further help the kids of Nevada. She also speaks on working in a hospital in the midst of a pandemic, and the stress that incurs. Healthcare workers are true angels.
It’s a fun, easy, entertaining, INSPIRING listen.
You can find Shauna on Instagram at @shaunaleesinner
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Thank you!
If you’ve ever doubted the direction of your life, or pondered your spirituality, or questioned your faith - this is conversation is especially for you. But even if not, it’s a discussion relevant to any human navigating life and its twist and turns, its possible paths.
Lou Bluth lets us in to her world, sharing her story of being raised Mormon and leaving the church (and the heavy blowback she received from that), religion’s lingering effects, living and farming in Mexico, and exploring what life has to offer. She tells how she took responsibility for her own life and beliefs, for the sake of herself and her family.
She’s open, she’s honest, she’s inspiring, she’s real…she’s divine.
She also now has her own podcast with her husband, where they talk parenting, living, loving…all the good stuff. You can listen to it on Spotify: El Vikingo and Lou (it will soon be available on iTunes).
You can find Lou on Instagram @loubluth
This is one of those conversations that could completely transform how you view and live life. How you show up in the world. How you FEEL.
I’m not exaggerating. This is a deep, profound, and universally relevant topic that I’ve felt increasingly pulled to explore - both on here and in my own life. This matters. It affects our relationships, our body image, our self esteem, our interactions, our life experiences. It affects everything and everyone.
And if you start listening and feel unsettled…that’s a key message in itself, something to unpack and examine. I encourage you to honor yourself and your needs, while also encouraging you to open your mind and expand past any possible fear or shame.
This actually covers a variety of significant topics to which we can almost all relate, and it was a true pleasure to tackle it with the wise and radiant Rachel Klein. In addition to the main discussion, Rachel offers her thoughts and journey on aligned and embodied living. She shares how personal tragedy fully awakened her to the fragility of life, inspiring her to quit a corporate job and move west.
This episode has the power to revolutionize your relationships - with yourself and others.
NOTE: This content is intended for mature audiences.
If you’re interested in following/working with Rachel, you can connect with her on Instagram: @mssweetpea
This episode is for you if you’ve ever felt stuck/burned out/uninspired/aimless/ambivalent/disillusioned/stifled/checked out/craving meaning. And/or if you’re into having your mind blown, world expanded, thought provoked, and soul validated.
In this episode, Rainier Wylde and I discuss…life.
My default facial expression when reading/listening to Rainier’s words is jaw dropped, eyes widened (listen to this episode and you’ll see why). Social media is saturated with thought leaders, life coaches, advice givers; and while many provide true value, many more (bless their hearts 😬) offer stale, recycled, regurgitated...words. It’s worth noting this is just my perspective, but I have a feeling many of you know exactly what I’m talking about. Rainier is anything but stale, recycled, and regurgitated. He is unique. Drawing wisdom and insight from his innate intelligence, his many lives lived, and his embodied authenticity, Rainier delivers profound wisdom in the most poetic of ways, unlike any other out there. Just peep his Instagram profile/posts and you’ll immediately see. And even better, he’s just really friggin’ chill and fun to talk to. Rainier, it was an honor. 🙏
You can find Rainier:
Instagram: @ranierwylde
Website: www.rainierwylde.com
He also offers 1x1 and group coaching
This episode is for ALL OF US, regardless of sex, gender, age, and class. Trauma does not discriminate. It affects far more than you might know, whether directly or indirectly, and often carries significant shame and stigma. We aim to help dissolve that.
The brave and beautiful Elise Blaser shares her personal story experiencing and healing from sexual assault, and alchemizing it into empathy and insight as a crisis counselor and parent. She is a remarkable human being.
Elise and I discuss trauma’s immediate and long-term effects, and how to address them. We cover coping methods - healthy and unhealthy - and trauma’s various manifestations. We note various reasons why victims can doubt - and even unconsciously suppress - their victimhood, and how to recognize it in yourself. We tackle the damaging myths surrounding trauma.
We highlight risk factors and how to mitigate them (key for everyone to know, especially parents and caregivers), and offer resources for preventing and healing from trauma. Knowledge is power.
This is important.
To access the Crisis Text Line Elise mentions in the episode, text HOME to 741741. The Crisis Text Line provides free, 24/7 support via text message, and are there for everything: anxiety, depression, suicide, school.
You can find Elise on Instagram: @eliselilaa where she continually shares insight and resources on various mental health issues: trauma, body image, etc.
My twin soul Rachel is back with her signature wisdom and fabulousness. We discuss how life mirrors nature and how lessons recycle. We talk on relationships and the ingredients for a successful one (and how people define successful differently). We chat about how energy affects all in life and love - as shown by science. We end by sharing our thoughts on leaving a successful, stable career to pursue a passion project. No matter who you are or where you are you in life, I'm confident this conversation will resonate.
You can find Rachel on:
Instagram: @_rachelstaff_. and @peakphysiquewyo
Facebook: @Rachel Laird Staff
Website: www.peakyourphysique.com
The man on the move, Charlie Roberts, has worked with some major names in music and media. He and I chat about being creatives with ADD, returning to small hometowns, and taking pride in your work, whether you're sweeping the floors or running the show. If you're looking for an easy yet motivating listen, this is it.
You can find Charlie on:
Instagram @aycharlie
Facebook @Charlie Roberts
Do you ever feel like you’re constantly in the self-love hole? No matter how much self care you do, or vacations you take, or mantras you recite, or exhalations you release, you still feel drained? Regularly filled with negativity/doubt/sadness/shame/anger/resentment? If so, this is for you.
And actually, this is for EVERYONE, no matter your age, gender, class, etc. Self love applies to us ALL, no matter how solid you feel. It's a journey, a continuous process.
In this listener-requested episode, I cover how self-love advice is often incomplete and even misleading. I share what comprehensive self love really looks like, and how to cultivate a self and life from which you won't constantly need to escape.
Though I always keep it real, I get particularly vulnerable with this episode. I share a personal experience, personal enough to prompt the “maybe I shouldn’t share this” thoughts. But it’s my truth, it’s relevant, and [hopefully] valuable. So here it is.
I love you.
This listener-requested episode offers insight and guidance on how to show up for yourself: what that looks like, what that requires, how that changes, etc. I also share personally-tested and science-supported tips on how I motivate and show up for myself (these may surprise you).
Educator and trauma survivor Stormy Heinz and I discuss trauma: how it affects everyone (directly/indirectly), how it manifests, and how it perpetuates. Stormy offers guidance and resources on addressing it within yourself/others.
Just because you yourself have not experienced significant trauma, many, many others have, whether they’ve revealed (or even recognized!) this or not. Statistics clearly show how disturbingly prevalent it is (human trafficking ring a bell?), and its far-reaching effects on our relationships, our communities, and our society in general. You also might be surprised to learn what qualifies as trauma - something we touch on in our chat.
Stormy and I discuss various manifestations of trauma, and its cascading ripple effects. She also mentions the ACEs test (Adverse Childhood Experiences). You can take the ACEs test here
To learn more, check the CDC’s ACE Study website.
There are some solid life truths in here, so it’s definitely worth a listen.
Stormy is an English teacher, with a BA in English and an MEd in curriculum and instruction with an adolescent literary emphasis. She also instructs fellow educators on recognizing and handling trauma in students.
Thank you.
In honor of PTSD Awareness Day, this episode features my friend Omar Raudez discussing his work with the veterans element of the TRIO Programs.
The TRIO Programs are federal outreach and student services programs designed to identify and provide services for individuals from disadvantaged backgrounds. TRIO includes eight programs targeted to serve and assist low-income individuals, first-generation college students, and individuals with disabilities to progress through the academic pipeline from middle school to post-baccalaureate programs. TRIO also includes a training program for directors and staff of TRIO projects.
The recipients of the grants, depending on the specific program, are institutions of higher education, public and private agencies and organizations including community-based organizations with experience in serving disadvantaged youth and secondary schools. Combinations of such institutions, agencies, and organizations may also apply for grants. These entities plan, develop and carry out the services for students. While individual students are served by these entities, they may not apply for grants under these programs. Additionally, in order to be served by one of these programs, a student must be eligible to receive services and be accepted into a funded project that serves the institution or school that student is attending or the area in which the student lives.
If you’re interested in further information on the TRIO Programs, see the following:
Federal
https://www2.ed.gov/about/offices/list/ope/trio/index.html
Idaho State University
https://isu.edu/trio/
You can find Omar on social media:
Instagram: @raudezomar
Facebook: @Omar Antoñio Raudez
In this third installment of my series on discrimination, I sit down with one of my best amigas, Cheli Brubaker.
I’ve always admired Cheli’s openness and acceptance of others. To know her is to adore her. Cheli is a first-generation American of West Indian descent, as her parents migrated here from the Caribbean. Cheli shares her experience living in predominantly white communities (particularly sheltered, conservative communities) as a youth and as part of a biracial couple.
Though she and I know each other well, I was intrigued to hear her views on race relations. She and I discuss using labels, taking accountability, commanding respect, reciprocating support, and reserving judgment.
It’s a thought provoker.
You can find Cheli on Instagram @chelitb
In the second episode exploring discrimination, I talk with Akilah Lacey, a police officer who offers a unique and valuable perspective on his experiences and outlook on discrimination as a law enforcement officer and member of a biracial marriage in a predominantly white, conservative community.
Akilah describes what it was like transitioning from Watts to Orange County to Pocatello, Idaho, and how he bridges the gap while straddling two worlds in this current charged climate. We discuss the importance of awareness, perspective, open mindedness, communication, and empathy. We highlight the importance of listening to learn and understand, and the necessity of taking accountability for our actions.
Find Akilah on Instagram: @thatlaceylife
Discrimination exists. We may disagree on how/where/when/why discrimination manifests, but people for the most part acknowledge it’s there (and they sure as hell should). Many are recently awakening to how deep and prevalent it is.
It is not enough to be non-discriminatory. We must be anti-discriminatory.
I for one know I could step it up. Yes, I’m acutely aware - and have been for essentially my whole life - of pervasive and persistent racism and discrimination. Yes, I continually research and educate myself on the topic. Seek perspectives. Self reflect and ask myself hard questions. Consider the micro and macro pictures/factors. Express outrage and disgust when talking to others. But if I’m honest with myself…that’s the bare minimum. I can - and will - do more. This is me trying to pull my weight.
It’s not enough to be privately anti-racist/sexist/etc. Clearly, that hasn’t moved the needle enough. We must be publicly and actively so. If you’re unsure of how to go about that, you’re in the right place. Come with me as we dive into this, by asking questions, considering views, sharing resources, and assessing possibilities. Follow along on this account/my blog/podcast. Human power. ✊✊🏻✊🏼✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿
This is another episode per request. Though it’s a topic that’s often discussed…it’s still just as relevant and necessary.
And let’s be straight: Self love isn’t always about massages and candlelit baths. Sometimes it’s about tough love. Digging in and doing shadow work. Calling yourself on your bullshit. Identifying and eliminating your toxic habits. As with everything in life, balance is crucial and boundaries aren’t just to apply to other people. They’re not just interpersonal - they should be intrapersonal as well.
I talk about how self love looks like:
- Recognizing and releasing toxicity - yours and others’
- Connecting to yourself
- Honoring your basic needs: emotional, physical, mental
- Communicating directly and authentically, and letting others do the same (without overanalyzing and assuming people hate you/are mad at you)
- Apologizing only for things within your control
- Setting boundaries
- Asking for what you want/need
- Daring to say yes, and daring to say no
- Feeling and navigating your emotions
- Releasing what you can’t control, and prioritizing what you can
- Treating yourself and others with grace and kindness
I hope you find value in this. And I hope you love yourself. Because I sure as hell do.
Per request, this episode dives into politics.
I have a degree in political science and international relations, with a minor in psychology, so this is definitely an area of interest. I discuss the roles of politics and tribalism in our lives, how certain leaders can be so powerful, how to educate yourself on issues effectively and responsibly, why international relations affect our daily lives, why Americans should stay sympathetic and humble, and why open-mindedness is essential. Plus...a whole lot of other stuff. I keep it clean, I keep it neutral...but hopefully, I also keep it thought provoking.
My latest guest is one [mc]cool cat. Tyler and I talk about creating, living, loving, and evolving.
I first met Tyler McCool a few years ago while shooting a wedding with my sister in gorgeous upstate New York: he a videographer, I a photographer. We’ve stayed connected through Instagram since then, and Tyler’s account is one of my faves. He’s a fellow creative who knows how to have a good time. His talent runs wide and deep - just like our conversation. He provokes thoughts and he provokes laughs: with his art, his poetry, his funny responses to my Insta stories…
You can find Tyler online (www.mccoolmedia.media) or Instagram (@mccooltyler)
In this gorgeous episode, I talk to my stunning amiga Lacey Frost.
Lacey sparkles from the inside out and is like pure sunshine for the soul. She reminds me of a Disney princess: show-stopping beauty with a heart of gold.
Lacey bravely shares how she maintains an elevated perspective throughout her continuing fertility journey, and what life lessons she’s learned along the way.
She also tells us how she helps others find beauty through her success as a makeup artist and Maskcara representative. She is exceptional at seeing and acknowledging beauty in others.
She’s a true inspiration.
You can find Lacey on Instagram @lacefrost (she does fabulous makeup tutorials)!
Who do you call when anxiety levels are rising and people are feeling more uneasy than ever? Even the Ghostbusters would tell you to call the Social Ninjas!
Though my two guests, Kyle and Jeremy, typically focus on social anxiety, this episode applies to all types of anxiety, and let’s be real - life in general!
If you’re seeking something to ground you and help you reframe your current situation…this is it. This is for YOU.
You can listen to The Social Ninjas Podcast on all podcast platforms and follow them on Instagram @the_social_ninjas
You can find Kyle on Instagram @social_anxiety_kyle and Jeremy @jeremytalkstostrangers
In this episode, I sit down with my Greek goddess friend, Christina Purcell. Christina is a fellow creative who does photography and raises two beautiful children - much of the time alone, while her husband is off playing professional football.
We cover the bases with this conversation, talking about everything from motherhood to business to LIFE. Christina also shares her experience as an NFL wife, with all the uncertainty, juggling, and shuffling that brings (let’s just say - much respect!).
Christina is a straight talker with a huge heart, and you’ll see why I adore her.
This year, I again had the honor of speaking at The Women’s Networking Group monthly gathering, founded by my good friend (and previous pod guest) Brianne Sloan.
Last time, I spoke on boundaries (you can listen on episode 8 posted 02/03/2019). This time, I spoke on releasing judgment.
What a relevant topic, huh? One that applies to ALL of us. Truly. Whether we’re judging or being judged - it’s our reality. This episode isn’t about shaming yourself/others for judging, nor is it about eliminating judgment entirely. Let’s be kind to ourselves, and let’s be real with ourselves. My objective with this episode is to explain why judgment happens, and to offer different ways of viewing yourself and others - all to inspire understanding, compassion, and acceptance. Only by understanding judgment can we transcend it and reclaim our power from it.
My friend Julie (whom I interviewed on episode 16) and I met Jessica Dinan at a rad “speakeasy” in Nashville and we've stayed connected ever since.
In this episode, we chat about owning your shine. Clapping for others AND yourself. Realizing there’s plenty to go around. Jessica shares how ambition, action, resilience, and hard work yielded her current professional and personal success.
Like her, the conversation is cheeky, refreshing, and empowering.
You can find Jessica on Instagram @jessicadinan
In this episode, Darren Hansen, owner and head coach of Hansen Athletics, advises on self optimization and how to achieve true strength, in every sense of the word. Darren is a Certified Strength and Conditioning Specialist, has a BS in Exercise Science, and is a certified USAW-National Coach. We discuss how true self optimization happens by showing up for yourself, getting your mind right, dialing in your rest and nutrition, knowing your power, and keeping it SIMPLE.
This episode offers something for everyone, regardless of your current fitness level. If you’re a human and are interested in leveling up and FEELING good - this is for you.
Hansen Athletics offers both in-person and remote strength and conditioning training. Find them online at www.hansenathletics.com, and on Instagram @hansenathletics
What a powerful and illuminating episode this is! Parris Hodges and I go wide and deep in this wide-ranging and transformative conversation. Parris is a remarkable and inspirational human who has overcome a great deal and is committed and exceptional at empowering not only herself, but others. I applaud and appreciate her willingness to share as openly as she does, and she does so to connect with and help others.
We discuss identifying and understanding the stories we tell ourselves, taking ownership of our lives and healing, accessing our power, reframing situations and extracting value, soliciting feedback, detaching from things beyond our control, embracing shadow work and growth, and finding joy through it all.
Parris radiates light and love and is someone with whom I connect on the deepest of levels. Our lives and experience are vastly different yet eerily parallel, which just goes to show how connected we all are, no matter the individual journey.
You can find Parris on Social Media:
Instagram: @parris.hodges
Facebook: Parris Hodges
When it come to fitness, how do I know when to power through and when to rest? How do I know if I’m doing too much? Is it possible to actually like working out? What are tips for staying motivated? What are aspects of fitness I might be overlooking? How can I feel better as I get older?
If you’ve ever had these questions, you’re in the right place. In this episode, I sit down with the powerhouse Jen Simmons of Jriven Fitness to address these and so many more! Jen has many certifications, among which are: NASM CPT; LPTA; USA Level 1.
And we don’t just restrict it to the world of working out. We also business, goals, and inspiration - like how Jen decided to go for it and open her own gym (which has been a smashing success).
It’s a fun, free-flowing, motivational, and knowledge-packed conversation that leaves you feeling PUMPED.
You can find Jen:
Instagram:
@coachjensimmons
@jrivenfitness
Website:
www.jrivenfitness.com
In this episode, I sit down with a soul sister of mine, Brianne Sloan, a multi-faceted creator and founder of The Women's Networking Group.
Though our conversation was diversified, a common thread tying it all together was connecting with others and with yourself. This includes personal empowerment and interpersonal empowerment, through loving and respecting yourself and others and taking action. We discuss body neutrality, life lessons, and how to be a nice human.
Find Brianne on Instagram: @brisloanphotography || @thewomensnetworkinggroup or on Facebook: @Brianne Sloan || @The Women’s Networking Group
In this episode, I sit down with fellow high viber Caren (pronounced sair-en) DeCesaris.
Caren opens up about her journey to self empowerment, respect, and love. She shares her history with disordered eating and how she found her way back to honoring and connecting with her body.
It’s a deep yet light-hearted session, and one I think you’ll really enjoy. (Plus, she has the melodic voice of a Disney princess, so there’s that).
In this relatable episode, I sit down with Gage Horne, a stellar videographer and all-around solid guy. We hit multiple topics, but the common threads are honesty and authenticity. We discuss how to have the hard conversations with your partner and yourself (this part might surprise you) and how to bridge communication gaps and eliminate walls with others. We also advocate the strength demonstrated by expressing your emotions, and the importance of reliability.
Find Gage at:
https://www.gagehornestudios.com/
Instagram: @gagehornestudios
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCH8vLKFQk507EpJGP83YNRw
Facebook: Gage Horne Studios
This episode is for you if:
- You feel lost without a passion/purpose
- You feel burned out
- You feel sick of people/SOCIETY urging you to hustle/push hard/find your passion/get that “bread”
- You feel ashamed/guilty for being satisfied with the “simple life”
If you relate to any of the above, I dedicate this episode to Y O U.
This is a particularly powerful episode, and one I’ve wanted to do for awhile. I sit down with Sydnie Hammon, who bravely shares her story on living with anxiety and depression, as well as the aftermath of her recent suicide attempt. In honor of Suicide Awareness Month, we tackle the stigma-saturated subject of mental health - a topic that is increasingly relevant and important.
This is an episode for everyone, as mental health affects every single one of us. Comprehensive health includes mental health. Even if you personally have not experienced mental illness as of now, you likely know someone who has/does/will. And this episode isn’t just about mental illness, it’s about mental health in general, and how to nurture it.
We discuss contributing factors, possible red flags, and helpful resources. We offer guidance on holding space for others and ourselves, what/what not to say to those facing tough times, and how to love ourselves and others through it all.
Please - I strongly urge you to listen. And Sydnie and I are always always here for you if you need.
Find Sydnie on Instagram at @sydniiieee
Resources:
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Suicide Prevention Hotline 24/7
- Chat or call 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
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National Institute of Mental Health
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Crisis Text Line (text HELLO to 741741)
- The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
- The Seat of the Soul by Gary Zukav
This is the second part to the two-part Baring Whitness podcast episode where I sit down with my amiga Veronica and answer whatever questions she throws my way.
The rawness continues. We hit a range of topics, including my biggest fear (it’s a little unconventional), my game changers, and how I achieved the mindset I have now.
Find Veronica on Instagram at @veronicasidahome
This two-part series is unlike any of the previous episodes. This time, I’M in the hot seat and answer questions from my gorgeous friend Veronica (even her name is hot). I get RAW and let you in to the inner world of Whitney Richardson. I share the reason for starting the Nativist, what intimidates me, what I struggle with…and SO.MUCH.MORE. I reveal things I’ve never shared before - not even with my closest amigos. I “bare” all and bear “Whitness.”
This is Veronica’s first time interviewing and I think you’ll agree…she’s a N A T U R A L. She suggested the interview, brought the heat with the questions, and knocked it out of the park. Peep her on Instagram at @veronicasidahome.
In this episode, I interview model Janiah DeLancy, an old soul whose spirit matches her beauty.
In our conversation, we go below the surface and dive into the depths. Janiah shares how she broke into the biz, what it’s like working with other models, how she stays grounded in a profession focused on looks, and how she didn’t take “no” for an answer. If you’re craving inspiration on resilience, nerve, and motivation, this is for you. And if you’re wanting a kick in the pants to make your dreams happen, this is especially for you!
Find Janiah on Instagram at @janiahlyric
He’s an old soul with new music. Everything about Thunderstorm Artis emanates depth and soul, from his name to his songs. When I first heard him sing, I stopped what I was doing and lost myself in it for a good 1/2 hour. He’s that good. He took time amid his traveling and touring to share his story (it’s a cool one) and talk life. We dig into everything from reframing your fears to connecting with others to facing your shadows to impacting the world to developing your voice (in more ways than one).
My guess is by the end you’ll feel both zen and motivated. What more could you want?
Find him on YouTube, Spotify, and Instagram (@thunderstormartis). You can also find some of his music under his brother, Ron Artis II on Spotify. Thunderstorm has an EP album, Haunted.
For this episode, I sit down with one of my favorite people in this universe: Julie Bixby. Having immigrated to the US from Romania, Julie has a dynamic story and spirit that pull you right in. As a mother, wife, boss babe, and free spirit, Julie continues to dominate whatever life tosses her way, all while looking fabulous and elevating others. This is a wide-ranging conversation on love, life, humanity, and authenticity. As you’ll find at the end, it inspired my phrase: Love in the heart and fire in the soul.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: Life is about balance.
I sit down with money guru Jackson Wood to discuss how to be financially responsible while still, you know…LIVING LIFE.
If you want to be smart with your money without compromising on the pleasures in life, this is your jam. Prepare to be monetarily motivated.
You can find Jackson Wood at:
- Website: https://liftoffplanning.com/
- Instagram: @jacksonwoodhq // @whatsupwoods
- Youtube: youtube.com/whatsupwoods
I sit down with my long-time friend and mega boss babe Carlie Stylez to reminisce and talk about...L I F E. About being propelled by drive and ambition. About being empowered by self evolution and self love. About being fulfilled by passion and authenticity.
Carlie shares her life's journey into vlogging, social media influencing, and motherhood, and how living in the spotlight affects her personally and professionally. Getting her start on her brother Shay Carl's YouTube channel, Shaytards, Carlie has since come into her own, forging a name for herself via her own brand and her involvement with The Mom's View YouTube channel. With her hand in multiple (successful!) business ventures, Carlie knows all too well the elusive quest for balance as she juggles being a mother, a wife, a friend, and an individual.
As always, we get real and we get deep, and we have a bangin' good time doing it.
You can find Carlie on:
Instagram: @carliestylez // @carliestylezbeauty // @fitnez_with_stylez // @whatsupwoods //@themomsview
YouTube: CarlieStylez // The Mom's View // WhatsUpWoods
In this episode, I sit down with Jason Brubaker, a remarkably talented digital artist, graphic novelist, self-published author, and YouTube personality. Jason is at the top of his game, having worked for DreamWorks Animation on such films as the Kung Fu Panda trilogy, Blade, Pitch Black, and Van Helsing, The Croods, Penguins, and Captain Underpants. After almost 20 years in Hollywood, Jason decided to leave and focus on his own graphic novels full time in 2015, for which his thousands of devoted fans are grateful. His first book reMIND won the Xeric grant and got on the Great Graphic Novels for Teens List in 2012.
During this inspiring conversation, Jason speaks to the vulnerability of creativity and originality, the importance of discipline and consistency, and the power of initiative and self belief. Jason shares how resiliency and focus have led him to a life doing what he loves.
Even if you’re not a wildly successful artist like Jason, trust me - this episode will still resonate with and inspire you.
You can find Jason at the following:
Instagram: @jason_brubaker
YouTube https://youtu.be/3ievd-WPQbU
Website: http://CoffeeTableComics.com Online Store: http://ctc.storenvy.com Gumroad Store: https://gumroad.com/jasonbrubaker Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/JasonBrubaker Twitter @Jason_Brubaker Instagram: @Jason_Brubaker Read Sithrah: http://www.webtoons.com/en/fantasy/sithrah/list?title_no=524 Read reMIND: http://reMINDblog.com
Join his mailing list: http://forms.aweber.com/form/83/537144983.htmFlu
She’s a doctor of nursing practice and a nurse practitioner. She’s a mother and wife. She’s a college professor and fitness instructor. She’s a business woman and social media personality. She’s a high viber and manifester.
And underneath all of that - she’s just a grounded, cool, down-to-earth chick.
Dr. Nikki Knight and I sit down to gab about the challenges of juggling multiple obligations, the power of goal setting, and the magic of vision boarding - all while keeping it real.
She shares the wild success she’s had merging conventional medicine with natural healthcare by treating her patients (and family!) with essential oils. If you’ve previously dismissed essential oils as woo woo and non-effective - I’ll be shocked if this episode doesn’t change your mind.
We have some fun and talk some truth. It’s a good time.
You can find Nikki on Instagram at @nikki_glo and at her blog (link in her Instagram bio): linktr.ee/nikki_glo
Contact her for all of your doTERRA essential oil needs!
I sit down with Justen Millerbernd, the most decorated tumbling coach in USA gymnastics HISTORY. Yeah, he's that good.
As with most of The Nativist podcasts, this episode is free ranging and fun loving. We discuss everything from discipline and inner drive to empathy and acceptance.
As an insider in the gymnastics world, Justen reveals his take on the recent scandal and how he maintained his integrity and spoke his truth, even if that meant standing alone.
Not only does Justen share his experience of launching into gymnastics greatness (as an athlete turned coach turned gym owner), but also his general approach to living a life of purpose and heart.
He’s baaaack, dropping even more truth bombs and life inspo.
Brady McLean (@bradytildeath on Instagram) and I cover some major ground in this wide-ranging, free-flowing, off-the-cuff conversation.
The good news is, this time the episode with him is only an hour.
The bad news is, this time the episode with him is only an hour.
ONLY listen if you want to laugh and be inspired.
This is a presentation I deliver for various groups, such as the Women’s Networking Group. For those unable to attend, I got yo back - I recorded me giving the same speech!
In this episode, I discuss the importance of setting personal and professional boundaries. It heavily draws from a previous blog post I wrote on the criticality of boundaries in exercising true, lasting compassion.
I hope you love.
For my birthday, I share 32 lessons I’ve learned in the time it’s taken me to circle the sun 32 times.
I'm 100% committed to improving with age and evolving while staying young at heart. So here's me reflecting and assessing and revealing what I've learned.
Back at it again with my radiant amiga Rachel Laird.
There’s something for everyone in this episode. We delve into: 1. addressing body shaming + parent shaming 2. maintaining •genuine• good vibes by honoring + learning from our emotions to cultivate self awareness 3. communicating effectively 4. maintaining your own identity while being a parent, including ALL parts of your being 5. seeking fulfillment in relationships 6. LIVING AND LETTING LIVE!
And it continues...
No doubt about it, Brady is a man with soul and depth. One peek at his Instagram account, @bradytildeath , and you’ll see exactly what I mean.
His desire and ability to empower and connect with others are rare, and his messages are powerful and thought-provoking.
In this episode, our wide-ranging conversation includes the liberation of self awareness, the impact of compassion, and the necessity of risk.
Do yourself a favor and listen.
No doubt about it, Brady McLean (of Go Fast Don't Die fame) is a man with soul and depth. One peek at his Instagram account, @bradytildeath , and you’ll see exactly what I mean.
His desire and ability to empower and connect with others are rare, and his messages are powerful and thought-provoking.
In this episode, our wide-ranging conversation includes the liberation of self awareness, the impact of compassion, and the necessity of risk.
Do yourself a favor and listen.
Eli Gerhard is a shining example of someone who lives life out loud. Life doesn’t happen to him; he happens TO life. Hailing from humble beginnings, Eli shows just how far tenacity, hard work, and authenticity can take you.
He proves it's not what hand you're dealt, but how you play it that matters. Having grown up in the projects, he's gone on to make a name for himself in both the military (ex-special forces) and government, sowing kindness and compassion along the way.
He is the man of a thousand talents, and demonstrates the kind of life that’s possible once you kick excuses to the curb and get out and make it H A P P E N.
If you want a high dose of inspiration to live life out loud and improve the world while doing it, I highly recommend you listen.
I sit down with the ultimate “hairapist” Brittney D’Anelli to share her story on how she’s overcome numerous obstacles throughout her life to become the thriving businesswoman and boss babe she is today. From glamming up showbiz clients to establishing her own thriving salon to traveling the world educating on sustainable haircare to creating culinary masterpieces in her free time, Brittney shows what it means to make your own way and look fabulous doing it.
For this first episode, I interview my close amiga and fellow good viber Rachel Laird (@_rachellaird_ on Instagram) to discuss hot topic issues in the world of relationships. We touch on everything from open relationships to soulmates. The discussion provides food for thought for everyone, regardless of current relationship status.