The Coming Out Chronicles: Recent Episodes
Nancy Shadlock
That moment: your palms are sweating, your stomach is churning and you're full-on scared. You have to tell someone something. About yourself. About your life. You don't know how they'll take it. You fear the worst. That's a "coming out" moment. Whether you're LGBTQ2S+ or not, you'll be inspired by Nancy Shadlock, CEO and Founder of Centered Life Coaching and her guests as they explore "coming out" stories of all kinds. Listen in weekly as people talk about coming out as trans, as a sex therapist, or share coming out about domestic abuse they've endured. Meet everyday people getting their brave on. We're all hiding in closets of our own making. Everyone has a different story. We are always evolving. We can shed what's no longer true for us. Be inspired by those who left the closet for something better and are willing to talk about it to help you find the courage to rock the next evolution of your own coming out story.
Meet Kailey Gilchrist, the inspiring Founder and Sauce Boss at NONA Vegan Foods LTD. She delves into her entrepreneurial journey, from coming out in college and meeting her fiancé in a cooking class to creating a food brand with her late mother’s delicious Italian recipes.
Discover how joining CGLCC’s Out For Business program and finding mentorship helped her business thrive.
Key Points:
- Coming out about her Sexuality in College
- Meeting her fiance in her highschool cooking class
- Creating a food brand around her late mother’s Italian Recipes
- Coming out to Dad
- Joining the CGLCC’s Out for Business Program
- Business growing through mentorship
- Becoming a Certified Diverse Supplier
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Join Nancy Shadlock & Dr. Jackie F. Steele スティール若希 for a captivating conversation touching on the complex journey of transgender youth, diversity of thought, family law rights, and the role of Democracy.
They delve into cognitive bias, freedom of conscience, and the importance a variety of voices and yet maintaining emotional safety in democratic dialogue. The episode also explores law reform's role in creating equality for Queer folks in Japan and policy-based solutions for societal issues. Drawing on Jackie's extensive experience in Japan, they discuss the country's evolving understanding of Queer identities. Tune in for a rich exploration of how we can create emotionally safe spaces for dialogue with those who have a diversity of perspectives.
Key Points:
- Law Reform & Equality
- The struggle for rights and acceptance of transgender youth
- Access to affirming care and support is crucial for the well-being of trans youth.
- Informed consent requires access to diverse perspectives and support networks.
- Exploring Queerness in Japan
- Women Empowerment in Japan
- Desire for Emotional Safety amongst divergent voices
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Jennifer Knapp is a Grammy-nominated singer-songwriter, author, speaker and advocate. Her impressive history includes selling over one million albums with her first three releases Kansas (debut 1998, Gold-certified), Lay It Down (2000), and The Way I Am (2001). She has earned four Dove Awards and two Grammy nominations. The Kansas-born musician has toured the globe with artists such as Jars of Clay and was featured on the Lilith Fair Tour in 1999 and 2010. Knapp received critical acclaim for her human approach to the divine, with The Los Angeles Times calling her “a rising star” and People Magazine describing her as “an uncommonly literate songwriter.”
As the first major artist in the Christian music world to speak openly about LGBTQ identity, her unique position created opportunities for national dialogue, including appearances on Larry King Live and the TEDx stage. In 2012 Knapp founded the non-profit organization Inside Out Faith, through which she continues to speak and perform nationally as an advocate for LGBTQ & faith issues.
Today on the pod she speaks about:
- Her Coming Out Story.
- Her Alter Ego Big Delores.
- What was really going on when she stepped away from music for a few years.
- How heteronormativity has shaped our spirituality for so long.
- Her next Coming Out Chapter.
Jennifer Knapp has been a very helpful resource to me in my own coming out, and I was delighted to be able to speak with her, and share our conversation with you. My hope is it will help you on your own coming out journeys. May we each find our own authentic voice... and share that with the world.
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Dr. Lynda Spann shares her personal coming out story as well as her professional coming out story. The two are connected. The work she does at the Lesbian Couples Institute with her wife Lisa is very important and unique. You can find them here: https://lesbiancouplesinstitute.com
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Nadja is a powerhouse of a coach and someone that I have personally learned so much from in the past year. I love that in this episode she shares vulnerably about her own internalized homophobia even though she's been married to a woman for years. She teaches us some tools to work through this and inspires us to live whole lives.
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I share my synopsis of Annie Duke's book Quit.
She shares so many helpful ideas of how to know when it's time to quit and how to do it well. It really stretched my opinion of quitting from a judgement of being a bad thing, to it being a really good thing.
I hope it stretches you to think about times you maybe should have quit sooner in the past, or gives you courage and tools for quitting something that's not working for you right now.
If you'd like to share a quitting story from your past that others can learn from, you can record it here and we may even include it on the show if you'd like: https://anchor.fm/comingout/message
And if you're ready to quit something but it feels too scary, send me a message and I will be your quit coach. Nancy@Centered.ca
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This episode is very vulnerable and tender. Mika shares her coming out in the middle of coming out... not when she's got it all wrapped up with a bow. I love the inspiration that she is to be honest and live our truth.
If you'd like to send in a coming out story of your own, you can click this link and record it to send it in.
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I sheepishly share one of my coming outs… in regards to work. And I had a crazy experience this week that felt Divinely inspired so I thought I’d share it with you. Send me your crazy experience that you noticed was sourced in the end. Nancy@centered.ca--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/comingout/message
I've been gone long enough. After many nudges, the podcast is back! I'm doing it raw and unedited, but I'm doing it. The perfectionist part of me is having trouble just letting it be, but I know, the most important part is just showing up!
Many people have told me this podcast has helped them feel inspired and like they aren't alone, so I know it's important to come back and keep sharing.
Join me as I share what I've been learning lately and I'd love to hear from you what you've been learning lately. Drop me a line: nancy@centered.ca
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Nancy Shadlock has finished her Sabbatical and is back with full energy and focus!
Listen to the update and hear all about it.
There is a community connection call on Friday, March 11th to hear the 7 things she learned on her Sabbatical.
You can register for the call here: lu.ma/Sabbatical
Another exciting update is that there is an IN-PERSON retreat happening March 22-25th. If you'd like to join us email Nancy@Centered.ca
During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material.
We didn’t want to leave you hanging though so we’ve got some of our older episodes set to automatically pre-release.
We hope you enjoy them!
We always get something new every time we re-listen.
A faithful listener of the Coming Out Chronicles wrote in with her coming out story. Listen in as Nancy reads it on the show and share’s what it brings up for her. This exciting tale goes from being a youth pastor to building a tiny house to coming out as queer, with many twists and turns that are very relatable.
There's a special offering at the end of the story that isn't current right now, but let us know if you'd like to see it happen again.
02:09: Became a Christian to be saved from gayness
04:50: Being a Youth Pastor
07:37: Conversion Therapy
11:55: So You Think You Can Dance Anxiety Attack
13:37: Built a tiny house as a way to focus on 1 thing
14:45: Coming Out Poem
19:05: Started looking for life partner
22:53: Highlights from The Shift Retreat
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During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material.
We didn’t want to leave you hanging though so we’ve got some of our older episodes set to automatically pre-release.
We hope you enjoy them!
We always get something new every time we re-listen.
Elaine Alec joins Nancy this week to focus on two of her most impactful coming out stories, firstly as an alcoholic and more recently as an author. She touches on the ways in which she has found healing over the years that ultimately gave her the courage to follow her calling as a leader, teacher, advocate, and finally, a writer.
01:53: Introduction
05:50: Coming out as an alcoholic
19:27: Coming out as an author
30:55: Calling My Spirit Back
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During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material.
We didn’t want to leave you hanging though so we’ve got some of our older episodes set to automatically pre-release.
We hope you enjoy them!
We always get something new every time we re-listen.
Joe Boivin returns to the show this week to reminisce with Nancy about their shared experience at a Missionary Kid boarding school in Kenya. Back before either of them had fully come out, Joe describes what it was like as he gradually came to terms with his queerness during that time. As they discuss how their relationship with each other developed throughout the following years, both reflect on how time has allowed them to change in so many ways, all of which have ultimately led up to where they are today.
After spending many hours of childhood catching insects and looking them up in the encyclopedia, Joe went to college to study Biology. He now has a PhD in Neuroscience and is completing his postdoctoral fellowship at MIT, where his research focuses on how brain cells form connections with each other during development.
03:50: Joe’s experience at RVA
00:15: Oranges and sexuality
20:05: Reconciling their relationship
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During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material.
We didn’t want to leave you hanging though so we’ve got some of our older episodes set to automatically pre-release.
We hope you enjoy them!
We always get something new every time we re-listen.
Last time she was on the show, Heather Morgan spoke about her experience of coming out with a chronic illness. This week, she returns to the podcast to talk with Nancy about her second coming out as neurodivergent. In doing so, she shares some of the overlap she’s found in the intersection between the unique experiences that neurodivergence and queerness have to offer.
01:47: Connecting autism and queerness
27:00: Changing the metric for relationships
34:30: Embracing all “bodies” of our identity
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During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material.
We didn’t want to leave you hanging though so we’ve got some of our older episodes set to automatically pre-release.
We hope you enjoy them!
We always get something new every time we re-listen.
What happens when you embody a marginalized identity while knowing that you can hide it more easily than others? Carly Hutton offers her own perspective in her conversation with Nancy as she speaks from her experience as a biracial, bisexual woman. In her decision to come out to her community, she not only wanted to demonstrate her support with other queer people but to also show others that there are people who look and love like she does within the queer community that have valid experiences, as well.
Carly Hutton is an Indigenous-Mexican woman living on unceded Sehmiahmoo lands, also known as Langley, BC. She is a writer, a musician, a wife, and a mother whose passion is to be an advocate for the marginalized. You can follow her family's journey on @carlymbutton on Instagram.
03:50: Coming out as bisexual
13:48: What prompted you to come out?
23:25: Support as an ally
31:56: What’s next…
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During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material.
We didn’t want to leave you hanging though so we’ve got some of our older episodes set to automatically pre-release.
We hope you enjoy them!
We always get something new every time we re-listen.
Prior to discovering her sexuality and coming out as a lesbian, Elena Thurston was formerly a dutiful Mormon wife and mother of four. In this episode, she opens up about her experience in conversion therapy after realizing that she was gay and how she is now an advocate working against conversion therapy in the church. She then updates us with how life has treated her since finally embracing herself fully for who she is and who she loves, as well as how that has affected her role as a mom.
04:50: Joining the Mormon church and discovering her sexuality
10:20: Falling in love with a woman and experiencing conversion therapy
20:50: Coming out to her kids
45:53: What’s next...
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Josiah Boivin talks with Nancy about the several stages that have encapsulated his coming out as a trans man. After experiencing coming to terms with his own identity, he now desires to focus on telling his story so that it might be an example of hope and comfort for others, which includes giving advice to parents and those whose loved ones may be transitioning.
After spending many hours of childhood catching insects and looking them up in the encyclopedia, Joe went to college to study Biology. He now has a PhD in Neuroscience and is completing his postdoctoral fellowship at MIT, where his research focuses on how brain cells form connections with each other during development.
02:30: Coming out
10:20: Learning new language for my gender
18:22: Advice to parents of kids who are transitioning
24:00: Next chapter of coming out
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During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material.
We didn’t want to leave you hanging though so we’ve got some of our older episodes set to automatically pre-release.
We hope you enjoy them!
We always get something new every time we re-listen.
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Want a life hack for how to really rock your next coming out chapter? In this episode Nancy Shadlock, the lead Coming Out Coach at Centered Life Coaching shares with us what she has come to see as the main steps most people take in their coming out journey. By learning these 10 steps and being more aware of them you can help make any growth or change in your life feel more fun and empowered and less scary.
Stay tuned til the end to hear about the time she almost married a gay man!
02:15 Download your Coming Out Guide
3:50 The 10 steps of Coming Out Powerfully
11:05 When I almost married a gay man
11:58 Then he got arrested…
Download the 10 Steps to coming out powerfully.
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During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material.
We didn’t want to leave you hanging though so we’ve got some of our older episodes set to automatically pre-release.
We hope you enjoy them!
We always get something new every time we re-listen.
In this episode, Nancy speaks with Heather Morgan about her experience in “coming out” with a disability and chronic illness, along with the similarities it has with other coming out stories: feelings of shame, the need for validation, and the process of moving forward with one’s own healing.
02:15 Coming out with chronic illness
11:30 Going from “If I could just…” to “I wonder why…”
14:50 Heather’s goal for her clients (embodiment and re-embodiment)
26:50 Starting the coming out journey
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During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material.
We didn’t want to leave you hanging though so we’ve got some of our older episodes set to automatically pre-release.
We hope you enjoy them!
We always get something new every time we re-listen.
Randy Boissonnault went from being a kid scared to be seen on campus when the GSA was meeting to being the Special Advisor to Prime Minister Justin Trudeau on LGBTQ2 Issues.
In this episode, he shares with Nancy what drives him to create social change and promote inclusion so passionately. Randy is a great example of just how much is waiting for us on the other side of our closet doors. Buckle up for some incredible stories of what has happened since Randy came out.
10:50 The moment of being exposed.
23:24 How hard could it be to raise the LGBT flag on Parliament hill?
33:01 How is your business diverse by design?
34:32 Diversity is when you’re invited to the dance, inclusion is when someone invites you to dance. When’s the last time you invited someone different than you to dance?
35:11 We need to get from Ally-ship to champion-ship… An ally is someone who has your back when you’re in the room. A Champion is someone who has your back when you’re not in the room. We need more champions that have your back when you’re not in the room.
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During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material.
We didn’t want to leave you hanging though so we’ve got some of our older episodes set to automatically pre-release.
We hope you enjoy them!
We always get something new every time we re-listen.
Richele McEwan speaks up about the domestic abuse she experienced growing up. As a professional dancer she used Dance as a creative and powerful medium to express what happened. Richele felt called to come out about this so that others who have experienced similar violence can be inspired to also transform their pain into beauty. This coming out has been a catalyst for other growth in her personal life and business, not to mention the lives of many people who were impacted by her very public sharing. Richele is now inspiring others to let go of co-dependence and step into their bigger, healthier lives.
By owning her story she has been able to transform her life from a place of overwhelming darkness-- and underwhelming mediocrity-- to being truly extraordinary. She is now on a mission to help others discover the power of honouring their truest selves, so they too can #goalbigger.
5:02 UnBound- A dance performance to tell the story of Domestic Abuse
15:50 What driving on a winding mountain road taught her
20:02 What it’s like to live with abuse
33:05 The ripple effect of coming out
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During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material.
We didn’t want to leave you hanging though so we’ve got some of our older episodes set to automatically pre-release.
We hope you enjoy them!
We always get something new every time we re-listen.
Ash Beckham has influenced more than 8 million people through her viral Ted Talks “Coming Out of Your Closet” and"Owning Your Duality”. With over 300 public talks under her belt, including Harvard University, Proctor & Gamble, and the CIA, Ash is now a highly sought-after diversity, inclusion, and leadership keynote. She joins Nancy to share about her first coming out story that created a way for many more coming out stories in her life, including one she’s still working on.
Bullet points of key topics & time stamps:
15:50 The next coming out chapter
22:30 Ash’s new book: Step Up
26:08 What we can learn from finding the Ketchup
28:00 Advice for coming out
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During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material.
We didn’t want to leave you hanging though so we’ve got some of our older episodes set to automatically pre-release.
We hope you enjoy them!
We always get something new every time we re-listen.
Join Nancy Shadlock, the host of The Coming Out Chronicles, as she shares her own coming out journey. From a difficult realization for herself, to the navigation of her changing relationship with her parents, Nancy shares the events that led to her decision to come out and intimate glimpses of the challenges and triumphs she and her family have faced since. Listen in as she shares the next coming-out chapter she feels called to step into.
4:30 What some drunk guys elicited from Nancy
6:59 The painful decision to come out
8:29 The Haircut symbolism
9:00 Coming out to the parents
11:20 The next coming out chapter
16:20 The big reveal
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During this winter’s hibernation season, The Coming Out Chronicles are taking a break from putting out new material.
We didn’t want to leave you hanging though so we’ve got some of our older episodes set to automatically pre-release.
We hope you enjoy them!
We always get something new every time we re-listen.
Keturah joins Nancy in this episode to talk about coming out as the daughter of a Missionary, what it’s like to be a queer woman in the military and being a queer woman with religious beliefs. Keturah explains how her family have embraced and struggled with her coming out, and how her ongoing connection to her childhood experiences shape the actions she is taking today.
Being a young black American living in Kenya, Keturah grew up challenged by stereotypes and oppression, particularly while attending a mostly all-white religious boarding school. Keturah shares with Nancy what impact that has had on her, both in terms of her race and her sexuality.
Listen to Keturah talk about her own experiences, as a daughter, as a black woman, as a queer woman, as an adopted woman, and as a member of the military.
In this episode you'll hear about:
4:02 Coming out to friends for the first time
5:40 Advice from Karamo of Queer Eye
6:40 Dad, will you walk me down the aisle if I marry a woman?
9:43 Don’t ask, don’t tell
21:40 Black Lives Matter
29:20 Keturah’s next coming out story
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Other Podcast Mentioned: CloseTwins
A personal coming out is brewing and who better to recognize the signs of a shift than the Coming Out Coach herself -Nancy Shadlock. After 65 episodes and 10,000 downloads in this brief episode, Nancy talks about the upcoming pause of the Chronicles for this winter season as well as the excitement of seeing where the Coming Out Chronicles has come and will go in the future. Nancy talks about embracing these new coming outs, how we can move through them, feeling our feels and getting the peace we need so we can step into the fullest version of ourselves.
0:31: A thank you
1:35: An Announcement
3:27: A season of nurturing
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*In this episode special guest, Heather Vickery host of the Brave Files talks about coming out of the closet later in life, and how she took that experience directly into creating her coaching business. Heather recounts her marriage and divorce as well as her family's reactions to her accidental coming out. Heather now speaks about her coaching business based on being brave and her new book Fck Fearless part memoir part case studies and part action, all about her brave method meant to teach you how to think creatively and strategically.
1:20: Ripping the bandaid off - coming out**
5:29: Family reaction
8:22: A big switch in business
11:02: Contagious bravery
12:37: F*ck Fearless
21:02: Boundaries
29:17: The next chapter
Flame Tree Collective
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This week is a special one specifically centred around a phenomenon that happens for people with vulvas. Katrina Grabner vulnerably shares her own story of living with Chronic Sexual Pain. She goes into her decade of frustration and disappointment with the medical system and the internal feelings that came with Chronic Sexual Pain. Katrina now works as an Art Therapist and details how her work now helps others as well as nourishes herself. Katrina shares her incredibly intimate story as a way of continuing to help normalize and educate those with vaginas about the possibilities for their unexplained pain and the potential for help and hope.
2:40: Chronic sexual pain
4:40: The unfortunate normalization
10:22 : Repercussions / Coital Imperative
14:39: The problem with getting the diagnosis
20:26: Connection to your own body
25:00: The shift starting to happen
31:04: After a decade
36:44: Reflection
44:17: The next layer
48:00: exploring
Flame Tree Collective
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Tania Cheng talks about growing up a self-proclaimed non-athletic tomboy, looking back they can see the signs of their coming out but before they had to come to terms with their own internal issues. Today Tania talks about the difficultly of living a closeted life but the eventual change that came when they came out. Tania tells us about their new exploration of being non-binary and the beautiful path in front of them as well as the struggles they are still facing and overcoming. Tania talks about seeing bad habits within their life and how they escaped the negative cycle they were in that they never realized existed.
4:50: Internal Issues
8:12: My first coming out
10:14: Coming out to the parents
13:29: Getting better
16:13: Proud to be together
22:44: Non-Binary
32:55: What’s next
Flame Tree Collective
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Ashlee Livingstone is a Canadian business owner known for her events and she’s on the verge of a coming out chapter professionally. Ashley speaks on imposter syndrome and its place in her changing business, with Covid shutting down events she has transitioned into a new branch of what she can do with her business with not just virtual events but also deeper connections between clients. Nancy walks Ashlee through her fears of her new business and asks the hard questions, as Ashlee talks about the issues she believes are present within this change as well as her desire to push forward and bring her idea to fruition. Tune in and notice Ashlees’s energy transform before your eyes.
2:48: A coming out brewing
6:43: Stuck in your own head
11:55: Skills behind the business
16:56: Talking it through
21:30: Judgment
31:13: The takeaway
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**In this solo episode, Nancy talks about the tools she uses within her own practice and examples of how she interprets them for her clients as well as how they show up in her own life. Nancy speaks about how these tools can be used to create a synergetic team for any organization and how she’s creating a new entrepreneurial venture -The Flame Tree Collective. As well Nancy shares her shift in business and the energy she is receiving as well as what allowed that shift and the new playful mindset she's adopted.
1:25: Working lighter**
2:25: The magic quiz
3:46: Compassion Magic
5:54: Expansion Magic
9:48: The gene keys and leaning into your gifts
12:23: A Hub
14:45: A vision of playfulness
Insight Tools:
Magic QuizGene KeysFlame Tree Collective
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This week Dr. Tanya Rampersad talks to Nancy about coming out with a new chapter in her profession. Tanya recalls her early years working in homeopathy and naturopathy while incorporating science but being drawn to the spiritual. Eventually, she had to let her business be reborn to get the best possible results both for her and her clients. Tanya talks about what made her change and come out of what she knew and was safe, so she could make a way to help her clients at a deeper level.
5:40: The background
10:30: Having to change the business
14:56: What changed?
16:50: An example of what Tanya does
21:03: The spirituality in it
22:32: The hardest parts of coming out with the practice
24:28: Human Design
30:30: Navigating the social aspects of the job
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Facebook: Inner Authority Instagram: drtanyand Youtube: Dr. Tanya Rampersad, ND Website: drtanyanaturopath.ca
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This week Mike Iamele recounts his coming out story that all started from an unexpected health issue. Mike recounts how he first met his now-husband Garret and the journey of being surprised by love. He also recounts the first public coming out 8 years ago through a viral blog post and a book, and the ramifications, he now shares what he learnt from the experience and the moments he took from it. To finish it all off Mike shares his amazing proposal story where everything seemed to go wrong but ended up right.
5:59: Leaving the job
9:58: Labels
13:55: The experience
18:10: The proposal story
33:50: What's next
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This week Dr. Angela Lauria talks about coming out as BI. She shares about being straight passing and how she worked really hard to be a good ally, all the while pushing her own sexuality down to keep others comfortable. She talks about the pressures of having a family who pushed her to be “normal” at the expense of her true self. Angela tells how she finally came to a breaking point and decided that enough was enough, and officially come out. Make sure you listen to the end to hear about her unique relationship with her parenting partner and the magic that has worked so well for them for the past 17 years.
2:35: Straight but not narrow
5:16: Coming Out Publicly
7:35: The many breaking points
9:43: What the family wants
17:09: Support from the Community
19:04: Bi women
21:55: Parenting Partner
22:59: Claim your own identity
37:58: When the kids go to college
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Instagram: authorincubator Facebook: The Author Incubator LinkedIn: The Author Incubator Youtube: The Author Incubator Website: theauthorincubator.com**
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**This week Hannah Strenger talks about her coming out the story regarding her catholic family, this week is all about connecting and reconnecting. Hannah recounts the story of her coming out in a small conservative town where she was heavily involved in the church and what gave her the strength to come out. Hannah talks about her relationship with her father and how the relationship has changed and grown since she came out, including the fine line between acceptance and disagreement. Hannah and Nancy talk about what coming out looks like from a parent's perspective and how to be understanding of their process.
4:30: The therapist
6:25: Thinking about it
10:43: The what next/ What am I doing
18:10: 1946
25:07: Dads
34:53: What's going on now?**
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This time we're doing something a little different! You get to listen in as Nancy has a session with her client, Heather (with her permission of course!)
Heather joins Nancy for a session to analyze her gene keys and how they play into her life and work. Heather gives us a deeply personal look into her life and how it has been affected by her experiences... and how those fit into her deeper calling. They discussed her previous work and what just didn't fit and why and what she may be called to in the future.
Stick around till the end to hear about my Work That Fits -6 week Coaching Series starting July 30th. If you would rather do a private session to discover your Superpowers/ Deeper Life Purpose with a Gene Keys reading you can book one here.
2:57: Thinking back on jobs
8:30: Gene Keys and a bit about how they work
17:42: Analysing the spheres
24:51: Vocation
40:20: What do you want?
45:03: Work that fits
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This week's guest is Katya Veleva who talks about her experience growing up in Eastern Europe and how different that was from her current reality. Much changed when Katya moved to London England where she felt free to explore her true self and break all kinds of rules, including in the dating world. She found enormous acceptance while playing Quidditch helped her grow in acceptance and ultimately come out about her sexuality. Katya’s visits back home are a stark contrast to her current reality, but she seeks to maintain relationships even when they’re hard. Katya shares a really tender next chapter of her coming out story which she is stepping into bravely.
2:36: Growing up in Eastern Europe
8:28: Community of Quidditch
16:04: Evolution of parents
21:05: PCOS and the side effects
25:39: Getting to that place of showing true self
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Instagram: @blush.cloud
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Stacey Chomiak takes us through her story of growing up closeted in the Evangelical church. Living in a not-so-supportive environment and the struggles of not having someone to talk to, Stacey talks about how exactly that changed and why. Today Stacey is creating books that help others not feel alone in that storyline. Her soon-to-be-released young adult visual novel is going to offer hope and inspiration to many that currently feel alone and like outcasts in their families and churches.
3:16: Growing up very evangelical
9:10: Getting a girlfriend right after an ex-gay conference
17:27: The Next Coming Out: The Book
21:40: Fear and Aspiration
24:25: Behind the previous books
27:09: How to get a book deal
31:12: Advice to a younger self
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Film Director-Rocky tells us about their movie “1946” which is based on a mistranslation of the word Homosexual in the Bible that only started appearing after the year 1946. That change in interpretation has caused hurt for many people for decades. In the podcast, Rocky takes us through their story of coming out and how they walked away from “it all” in terms of their religious upbringing, but how they just can’t seem to walk away from the truth behind this event of mistranslating the Bible back in 1946. Rocky tells us a little bit of what we will be able to see in the movie and the behind-the-scenes thoughts for the story. Showing empirical evidence and historical research a very thoughtful case is offered for combatting the hurt that the word Homosexual has caused in the Bible.
2:24: Coming out and making a movie
6:32: Victims of bad theology
15:07: What the Bible said before
20:30: Time or Money
24:40: Being pushed away
Books mentioned:
Included in Christ
Walking Bridgeless Canyon Repairing Community
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This week Vicki Saunders the founder of SheEO takes us through her journey of coming out of the old boys club of corporate and then how she founded the largest female-identifying business support network to date. Vicki talks about her passion for getting rid of manufactured scarcity in our lives and believing we have the efficacy to live what we are called to. She talks about the need for community and interconnection within business and has pioneered a radical generosity with SheEO’s regular practice of asking and giving support to each other. Vicki takes us through her journey of breaking out from the mentality that kept her from achieving what she wanted and shares her advice for others who feel the same.
2:49: The journey out of preconceived ideas
5:06: Enough
8:59: The question
13:57: Interconnection
16:28: Trust in relationships
22:13: Transforming systems
23:50: Vision for the world
32:30: Where it really starts
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Website: www.vickisaunders.com
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Nancy shares vulnerably about her recent growth and internal shift. Follow Nancy’s journey of transformation and learn what worked for her, as it also might be a hack for you. She speaks about how changing something in your life is never easy, but so worth it to live the best life you can. Listen till the end for a little bit about the next retreat Nancy has available and the wonderful things it can do for you.
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Harris is a 30-something-year-old nonbinary person from Hertfordshire, UK. Harris realized they were trans/nonbinary in their mid-twenties and have since made the commitment to becoming the advocate they needed, but never had. In this episode, Harris takes us through their journey of growing up queer and the roller coaster of self-discovery. Follow along as they share their feelings about gender, sexuality and body image, and how that has shifted and changed over time. Harris and Nancy talk about regression, reincarnation and the stories and ideas around them, exploring the more spiritual side of things. Harris gives us a different outlook on living and experiencing life as we know it and the challenging but rewarding experience of growing out of preconceived ideas. As an entrepreneur and world-renowned LGBTQ+ advocate, Harris is dedicated to making every story as familiar to us as our own.
01:02: Growing up Queer
13:16: A realization about my gender
19:00: Gender Identity
22:40: Body Image
25:42: Reincarnation
23:35 : Antidote to shame
45:47: What ticks me off
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Community page: Facebook.com/genders together**
Coaching page: mxharrishill
The Unicorn Club group: theunicornclubwithharris
Agender/Neutrois Support group: agenderneutrois
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Twitter: mxharrishill
Podcast: Mxharrishill.com
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We’re so excited this week to have Aiko Bethea. She's the Senior Co-Director of The Daring Way and Dare to Lead Communities and the Diversity, Equity, Inclusion Sr. Advisor and Executive Coach for Brene Brown's Education and Research Group. Aiko is also a mother, activist, lawyer and badass woman fighting for change in workplaces. Aiko tells us her story of growing up and how mindsets and prejudice affected her growing up, and how they played into what she's doing now. Aiko takes us through how companies should be providing intentional spaces for POC's and those in the LGBT community. She also offers wisdom on how to create safe spaces for those who are different than us. Aiko and Nancy share some stories on reconciliation; how we can see it today and how to be an agent for it in your own context. They also talk about diffusing shame and learning to see and empathize with others' perspectives. Join us for this jam-packed interview!
04:05: Being Outed
11:00: Intentional spaces
19:30: Reframing (feeling attacked)
22:29: Reconciliation
43:06: A different version of me
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Twitter: AikoBethea
Linkedin Aiko Bethea
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Instagram : Rare Coach
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Justin Lee, the author of Torn talks about his story of coming from a very faithful evangelical Christian family and how to reconcile his sexuality with his spirituality and eventually become a best-selling author and podcast host. Justin faced many internal struggles without resources yet found a way to move forward, breakthrough and eventually provide resources for others. Justin shares his newest coming out story of writing a book called Talking across the divide, where he uses what he learned in having hard conversations between Christians and the LGBT community to help people talk across all kinds of other divides. This work is so important in our current political climate. Whether it be you or somebody else in your life coming out or having different opinions on an issue, Justin provides a perspective for everyone!
Description:
02:25: The Coming Out story
9:39: Having to pass a threshold
13:44: The hardest part of coming out
22:58 Helping the parents come around
31:41: Talking Across the Divide
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**Esther is a creator, artist, budding writer, podcaster, and all-around magical creature. In this podcast, she covers the fluidity of gender, relationships and love, in the many ways they appear. Esther shows us that there is no “normal” way to have a relationship, the key to achieve happiness with a partner is communication and understanding. While Esther's relationships may not be similar to your own there are lessons that apply to everyone, whether it be learning about yourself or your partner. This episode is all about learning, communication, and the acceptance of growth in relationships.
02:25: Pansexual / The first coming out**
6:42: Speaking about labels
7:56: Solo-polyam
9:39: Love and connection without restrictions
14:10: A conversation about polyamory with your partner
27:20: 50 shades of gender
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Nancy takes us through the process of her spiritual transformation over the past decade. She’s moved from being quite a conservative Christian to not being limited by the boxes of any particular spiritual dogma. She has come to realize that whatever path is leading you deeper into love and connection is truly a beautiful spiritual path. Nancy talks about how learning from others who do not have the same beliefs broadens your spirituality, as well as how vibrant spirituality evolves with us rather than staying stagnant.
2:00: Boarding School
4:16: Receiving who I am
6:02: Spiritual Direction
10:50: A new embodiment of spirituality
22:50: Many Paths
26:46: Anticipation of breakthrough
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Raised as a Southern Baptist Missionary Kid in a conservative Christian environment, Anna Miller had to shed many layers of belief and unbelief to come out...while still retaining her faith. As a therapist, she shares her view on the core issues that held her in the closet and how we can break free from the issues that weigh us down. Anna talks about how we as people can become less divided, understanding those we don't understand and how they can do the same with us.
4:18: Leaving the Church
7:49: Opening your eyes
9:03: Sexually Assaulted
14:27: Speaking up
30:00: You don't have to do it alone
36:18: Being Vulnerable as a parent
38:45 Empathy paradigm
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Website: EmpathyParadigm.com : Dallas Therapy Collective Facebook: Empathy Paradigm**
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Steph talks about coming out in more ways than one and understanding relationships with her family through her coming outs. She talks about how her view on religion has evolved and how the discovery of her ADHD has become her superpower. Steph shares her dreams for the gift of acceptance to reach not just her community but spread worldwide. Her words are fantastic encouragement to keep getting to know and using our own individual superpowers.
01:48: Coming out: Due to a computer search
7:16: Catholic Values but a little bit different
8:21: Spiritual Practices
17:40: The gift of acceptance
19:52: Figuring out your ADHD Superpowers
23:30: Nancy’s Coming Out
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We tend to see everything in boxes: people, things, goals, etc… This podcast with BE is an eye-opener about how we as a species overcomplicate and cause problems in an effort to create a fatter bottom line. The language of what we say and the names we give things don't match up with their purpose. BE also talks about their work with the Alinker, a unique walking bike and other magnets she has and is creating to make the world a better place.
02:30: BE Alink: Behind the person
5:54: Pronouns
7:10: Sick Care versus Healthcare
14:12: Uncomplicating things
18:49: The Alinker
21:56: The wrong questions
46:48: Circumstances of radical generosity
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Divorce is such a tense stressful word for most of us, something synonymous with failure of a relationship. But it doesn’t always have to be that way. A new term “Conscious Uncoupling” has been emerging, and rightfully so. Melissa DaSilva takes us through her journey of uncoupling from her husband, sharing her story of how a relationship can come to a peaceful end.
03:20: Conscious Uncoupling
5:02: Leaning into being bisexual
9:45: Opposite sides of the bed
12:09: Not the traditional way
16:45: Joint Custody of the dog
18:24: Wisdom of Uncoupling
19:20: The new chapter
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In a solo episode Nancy talks about current issues with descrimination in the church. Outdated policies are going to lead to the death of churches as we know them. Nancy offers some ideas of how that divide could be bridged, so that all life could be celebrated and a flourishing world created.
01:10: Spiritual Abuse
0:3:08 : Doubling down in the wrong direction for marriage equality.
09:26: Having to divorce spirituality from sexuality
10:23: Working with organizations
16:56: The Thoughtful Queer Circle
19:23: Everyone has gifts
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Josh Miller talks about the difficulty of growing up in purity culture, going through abuse from the church, and attending a spiritually toxic college. Josh takes the truly difficult parts of his story and shares how he has flipped the script to use his pain as fuel in helping others heal. From small town closeted queer boy, heavily involved in church, attending conversion therapy where he was told he was an abomination, to now mental health professional helping churches learn about how to support those who are different than them. Josh is an incredible example of the resiliency of the human spirit and how our pain becomes our greatest gift.
8:59: Purity Culture
14:12: Conversion Therapy
21:23: Coming out to Mom
30:10: Hate Crimes
40:35: Power in storytelling
52:48: Channeling experiences into good
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Instagram: @Josh_dangit_tep
Website: https://empathyparadigm.com/
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Sky McCormick shares her story of coming out as Trans, from inner discovery to coming out, to now learning how to support others in living their true self. Sky shares her experiences attending a Catholic high school and now being at a conservative Christian College. She has an incredible drive to make it a safer, more inclusive space. We talk about growing up, learning, relearning and hearing our own path amidst what everyone else thinks we should do with our lives. As Sky eloquently put it “How do I get to the place where I can wake up as myself every morning?”
3:37: Overcoming the expectation of others
5:07: Disney World - The happiest place on Earth, but...
12:07: Coming out to the parents
14:37: Music & Memories
18:12: The ability to help
27:15: Homophobia in Academia
34:33: The joy of creating
36:32: The next chapter
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In this episode Niiya Grant talks about what it was like coming out as a Trans Black Woman and the journey that took her to where she is now, showing us you really can achieve everything you dream of. Also learn about what Niiya’s been up to lately in trans activism and find her free resources on everything trans on her Instagram.
02:35: Coming out: The very beginning
6:52: My name is Niiya
11:36: Inspiring change in others
14:30: Speaking truths
19:36: Help from Niiya
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Instagram: @jesuisniilee
Twitter: @JeSuisNiiLee
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A solo episode where Nancy discusses the ripple effects of coming out, and how while it is the best thing for you to come out, there are often ripple effects for those close to you. Learn a little bit about gene keys and what they can do for you. And get an inside scoop into what will happen at the upcoming Shift Retreat.
1:15: The ripples of Nancy coming out
2:26: The cost of coming out
4:11: Mitigation and strategy
7:06: Pulling a card and reflecting
12:20: Retreats and Gene Keys
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This week Erika Allison shares what it was like growing up in a religious household that didn't accept her being gay, and the journey that followed, including the growth that came from these experiences. 20 years and a lot of growth and self acceptance. Erika shares about her new book, Gay the Pray Away, featuring these helpful RAINBOW steps:
R - Reality Check
A - Assess your life
I - Integrate your parts back together
N - Nurture your North star
B - Build your inner compass
O - Open your heart
W - Work
03:35: Part 1: High School in Texas
8:44: Conversion Therapy
12:20: Listening to your inner compass
18:03: Chapter 2: College in Texas
22:26: 20 Years Later
36:37: Chapter Now
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Website: www.reverikaallison.com
Instagram: RevErikaAllison
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Today Nancy interviews one of her rockstar clients who is in the thick of her coming out journey. Over the last 4 months Hanneke has come out to all the important people in her life, done a photoshoot, signed up for dating sites, and faithfully stepped into living her whole authentic self in all areas of her life. She is astounded at how much more peaceful life is on the other side of the closet!
03:00: Coming out about Mental Illness and Sexuality
10:02: Dream about having a partner in life, picture having a wedding day
10:02: Having butterflies in my stomach on a date for the first time
23:03: After The Shift
25:05: The Photo Shoot
39:40: Dating Self
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Despite being raised as Jehovah’s Witness, Dalia Kinsey already had an awareness of diverging from the traditional framework of sexuality that was presented to her as a child. After growing up and coming out as queer, she recounts her experience of leaving the cult-and thus the community-she had known for so long in order to live her life freely. By doing the work of enforcing boundaries and continually honoring and returning to those feelings from childhood, she now implements the values of transparency and authenticity in her work as a dietician advocating for body neutrality.
Dalia Kinsey is a Registered Dietitian, Inclusive Employee Wellness Specialist, and creator of the Body Liberation for All podcast, a show dedicated to amplifying the health and happiness of LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, and People of Color) folx. On her mission to spread joy, reduce suffering, and eliminate health disparities in her QTBIPOC community, she rejects diet culture and teaches people to use nutrition as a self-care and personal empowerment tool.
03:00: Being raised Jehovah’s Witness
10:00: The final straw
28:30: What it took to come out
39:30: Coaching body neutrality
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In our first episode of 2021, Nancy interviews Becca Kunce, who shares a few of the lessons she’s learned throughout her multiple coming out stories and the ways in which they are intertwined with another. Initially coming to terms with her sexuality led to exploring the nature of her gender, which then led to Becca exploring the facets of her body as a whole in ways she had never before. Through this prompting that led to healing old ways of seeing and interacting with her body, Becca has been able to reckon with many of the narratives surrounding loving one's body and oneself that she learned growing up, which has ultimately allowed her to become a coach and create space for others to find that healing, as well.
06:30: On being gender transcendent
10:30: On the process of continually coming out
17:00: On giving up dieting
37:19: On her next coming out story
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Join Nancy as she shares a few things that she’s been reflecting on as the year finally comes to an end.
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12 days of Christmas - Giving
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After returning home from church camp one year, June Joplin realized two of her greatest desires: to be a pastor and to be a woman. Years later, she finally came out to her baptist congregation as trans, which ultimately resulted in being fired from her position. Recounting the events that both led up to her coming out and the consequences she faced after, June shares her journey of self-acceptance and staying true to her identity.
02:50: Coming out as trans
07:00: The wrong side of the island
13:20: The last sermon
26:30: Homesickness
Book June mentions: Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More by Janet Mock
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Today, Al Ramsey joins Nancy to share his personal story of coming out as gay in two separate stories of coming to terms with his identity. On one hand, he was one of the first people to confront the shift in treatment toward the LGBT community in the workforce as he became an advocate for inclusion at TD bank. Then, with this shift came the need to finally share his full self with his family. Through his courage to come out in both of these situations, Al speaks on how remaining authentic to who he is ultimately allowed him to become a better advocate and make a greater impact in helping other members of the LGBT community.
02:36: On coming out twice
09:00: Coming out to TD bank
16:00: Coming out to family
18:40: Al’s next coming out
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After having Darla LeDoux as a guest on the podcast, Nancy talks with Kimmi Ward, Darla’s wife, this week! Kimmi gracefully elaborates on the complexities of gender roles that take place in lesbian relationships, especially in regards to the fluidity of partners taking on masculine and feminine energies. She reflects on how these energies were portrayed while growing up, and how they ultimately come to affect her personal relationship to them now. Though being in a same-gender relationship intrinsically demands grappling with these shifting roles, Kimmi shares the importance of continuing to have conscious conversations that make room for all partners to ever evolve.
02:20: Kimmi’s coming out
14:20: The balance of masculinity and femininity in relationships
17:10: The law of polarity
25:40: Conscious conversation
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Doug Schroeder is a spiritual director, contemplative retreat and course facilitator, father, grandfather, and executive director for SoulStream. In this episode, he tells his journey of reconciling his Christian faith with queerness after his daughter came out to him as gay. By simply asking himself, “Who does God love?” and working from there, he shares the experience of watching his faith evolve, as well as some of the more difficult aspects that came with it. Despite losing both his job as a pastor and his spiritual community, Doug offers some of the most meaningful lessons he’s learned from simply having the willingness to have hard conversations.
03:10: Doug’s first coming out story
06:30: SoulStream and reconsidering Scripture
12:00: Losing his job, finding new community
25:30: Creating productive conversation
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Throughout her interviewing of so many amazing people on the Coming Out Chronicles, Nancy is often asked to share some of her own thoughts and musings on life and what’s currently been on her mind. This week, she does just that with a faithful listener and fellow female entrepreneur Ann Zee, who curiously digs into what’s been going on in Nancy’s life and the many changes that have taken place over the last few years. They cover the importance of authenticity, reflect on the podcast thus far, and discuss current and future goals.
02:20: Intro to Ann
07:22: Authenticity & tree planting
23:00: Sharing pregnancy
27:00: Imposter syndrome
42:20 Impact of COVID
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Linda Lopeke has gone through both extraordinary success and extraordinary devastation in her life. In this episode, she recounts the wreck that left her with multiple injuries and permanent damage and her long journey to healing over the many years since. While she may not be entirely who she was before, she shares some of the painful lessons and unlikely gifts from her experience that have helped to deepen her resilience.
02:30: Wreck and recovery
24:27: The struggle of coming out
49:00: Fighting depression and suicide
53:00: Using the trials for empathy and growth
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Nancy has a conversation with her longtime friend, Carla Hartman, about her experience with having her child come out to her as trans. Through his coming out to her, Carla then had to navigate her own coming out to friends and family as having a trans child. During this journey, Carla’s found a way to become an advocate for her child, as well as learning how to be brave in insisting on the validity of their identity.
03:20: Her son’s coming out
12:00: Her own coming out
28:00: Finding resources for parenting a trans child
43:10: The gender of the Divine
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Dr. Erin Baker shares about their coming out as Non-binary and recent transition to using They/Them pronouns publicly. Erin loves living in the And, (The name of her podcast) and how she is now choosing to show up in the world... with using she/her AND they/them pronouns. It can be an unsteadying roller coaster ride to share more of who you are with the world, especially when you have a lot of eyes watching you as a coach and social psychologist, but Erin has continued to lean into it with authenticity and grace, even when people aren't as accepting as they'd hope.
4:43 How do I fit into this box they call female? These boxes are arbitrary.
9:24 I Looked at my breasts and thought they were so alien.
18:00 I use she/her and They/them
28:11 If your discomfort of using a pronoun is so strong then your love of me is questionable.
29:30 Glennon Doyle quote: When given the option to disappoint others or yourself… disappoint others.
30:15 We’re afraid of complete and utter abandonment by everyone… but that’s just not going to happen. Not by everyone.
31:00 What are you willing to loose? We’re afraid to loose the people we gathered when we were not us. By doing that we are not gathering the people that could be around us by being us. The right people come.
34:10 What’s it been like for your wife on this journey?
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This episode, Darla LeDoux delves into her experience of coming out as a lesbian. Despite being a successful and established coach, retreat leader, and author, Darla still felt doubt and shame around sharing her newly realized sexuality. However, through finally integrating this part of her identity throughout these aspects of her life, she shares the ways that it has allowed her to align even more with her values, as well as to her connection to Source.
03:30: Coming out as a lesbian
14:30: Continuing to learn as a coach
20:00: Liz Gilbert and intuition
29:00: Becoming sourced
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Darla: What's your Sourced Magic?
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After recently attending a virtual concert held by Jennifer Knapp, Nancy reflects on Jennifer’s impact on her life, both through her music and her role as a forerunner for those who have come out as queer while still heavily embedded in the Christian world. She recounts one particular instance back in the early 2000s when Nancy first tried coming out to someone in her community. In hindsight, she points out the overlap and small coincidences found in each of their coming out stories and expresses appreciation for the way that Jennifer's own courage helped spark courage in herself to start speaking her truth.
04:00: Jennifer Knapp and the early 2000s
08:00: Testing the waters
09:00: Female friendships & praying the gay away
12:30 You can’t rush a coming out story
14:00: Jennifer’s coming out
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A faithful listener of the Coming Out Chronicles wrote in with her coming out story. Listen in as Nancy reads it on the show and share’s what it brings up for her. This exciting tale goes from being a youth pastor to building a tiny house to coming out as queer, with many twists and turns that are very relatable.
There's a special offering at the end of the story that you won’t want to miss.
02:09: Became a Christian to be saved from gayness
04:50: Being a Youth Pastor
07:37: Conversion Therapy
11:55: So You Think You Can Dance Anxiety Attack
13:37: Built a tiny house as a way to focus on 1 thing
14:45: Coming Out Poem
19:05: Started looking for life partner
20:59: A special offer for single folks
22:53: Highlights from The Shift Retreat
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Kirsten has experienced multiple coming out phases throughout her life. In this episode, she touches mainly on her experience of coming out as gay in her professional life as a yoga and fitness teacher. In learning to exercise her own resilience despite rejection and judgment, Kirsten has taught and inspired others to bravely be themselves in both the physical and emotional realms.
02:00: Coming out as a gay yoga and fitness teacher
14:00: Combining all identities together
22:37: Next coming out story
26:49: Struggle Guru- Kirsten's book
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Website: KBWaters.com
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Book: Struggle Guru
Elaine Alec joins Nancy this week to focus on two of her most impactful coming out stories, firstly as an alcoholic and more recently as an author. She touches on the ways in which she has found healing over the years that ultimately gave her the courage to follow her calling as a leader, teacher, advocate, and finally, a writer.
01:53: Introduction
05:50: Coming out as an alcoholic
19:27: Coming out as an author
30:55: Calling My Spirit Back
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Joe Boivin returns to the show this week to reminisce with Nancy about their shared experience at a Missionary Kid boarding school in Kenya. Back before either of them had fully come out, Joe describes what it was like as he gradually came to terms with his queerness during that time. As they discuss how their relationship with each other developed throughout the following years, both reflect on how time has allowed them to change in so many ways, all of which have ultimately led up to where they are today.
After spending many hours of childhood catching insects and looking them up in the encyclopedia, Joe went to college to study Biology. He now has a PhD in Neuroscience and is completing his postdoctoral fellowship at MIT, where his research focuses on how brain cells form connections with each other during development.
03:50: Joe’s experience at RVA
00:15: Oranges and sexuality
20:05: Reconciling their relationship
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Settle in for a cozy little fireside chat with the host and creator of The Coming Out Chronicles. In today's episode, Nancy Shadlock talks about all kinds of things from the fear of capitalizing on queerness, to the first instagram picture she posted of her wife and how scary that moment was.
Towards the end of the episode you'll get a special treat of having Nancy lead you through a visualization of what you'd truly like to create in your life over the next year. It is a powerful exercise and worth putting aside some time to sit with.
3:37 Imposter? Capitalizing on Queerness?
4:40 My queerness has been my way of Re-Membering myself.
11:00 Synergy- the word for our marriage goal this year.
17:30 Guided Visualization for what you'd like to create in your life this year.
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Last time she was on the show, Heather Morgan spoke about her experience of coming out with a chronic illness. This week, she returns to the podcast to talk with Nancy about her second coming out as neurodivergent. In doing so, she shares some of the overlap she’s found in the intersection between the unique experiences that neurodivergence and queerness have to offer.
01:47: Connecting autism and queerness
27:00: Changing the metric for relationships
34:30: Embracing all “bodies” of our identity
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What happens when you embody a marginalized identity while knowing that you can hide it more easily than others? Carly Hutton offers her own perspective in her conversation with Nancy as she speaks from her experience as a biracial, bisexual woman. In her decision to come out to her community, she not only wanted to demonstrate her support with other queer people but to also show others that there are people who look and love like she does within the queer community that have valid experiences, as well.
Carly Hutton is an Indigenous-Mexican woman living on unceded Sehmiahmoo lands, also known as Langley, BC. She is a writer, a musician, a wife, and a mother whose passion is to be an advocate for the marginalized. You can follow her family's journey on @carlymbutton on Instagram.
03:50: Coming out as bisexual
13:48: What prompted you to come out?
23:25: Support as an ally
31:56: What’s next…
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Prior to discovering her sexuality and coming out as a lesbian, Elena Thurston was formerly a dutiful Mormon wife and mother of four. In this episode, she opens up about her experience in conversion therapy after realizing that she was gay and how she is now an advocate working against conversion therapy in the church. She then updates us with how life has treated her since finally embracing herself fully for who she is and who she loves, as well as how that has affected her role as a mom.
04:50: Joining the Mormon church and discovering her sexuality
10:20: Falling in love with a woman and experiencing conversion therapy
20:50: Coming out to her kids
45:53: What’s next...
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Josiah Boivin talks with Nancy about the several stages that have encapsulated his coming out as a trans man. After experiencing coming to terms with his own identity, he now desires to focus on telling his story so that it might be an example of hope and comfort for others, which includes giving advice to parents and those whose loved ones may be transitioning.
After spending many hours of childhood catching insects and looking them up in the encyclopedia, Joe went to college to study Biology. He now has a PhD in Neuroscience and is completing his postdoctoral fellowship at MIT, where his research focuses on how brain cells form connections with each other during development.
02:30: Coming out
10:20: Learning new language for my gender
18:22: Advice to parents of kids who are transitioning
24:00: Next chapter of coming out
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Want a life hack for how to really rock your next coming out chapter? In this episode Nancy Shadlock, the lead Coming Out Coach at Centered Life Coaching shares with us what she has come to see as the main steps most people take in their coming out journey. By learning these 10 steps and being more aware of them you can help make any growth or change in your life feel more fun and empowered and less scary.
Stay tuned til the end to hear about the time she almost married a gay man!
02:15 Download your Coming Out Guide
3:50 The 10 steps of Coming Out Powerfully
11:05 When I almost married a gay man
11:58 Then he got arrested…
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In this episode, Nancy speaks with Heather Morgan about her experience in “coming out” with a disability and chronic illness, along with the similarities it has with other coming out stories: feelings of shame, the need for validation, and the process of moving forward with one’s own healing.
Bullet points of key topics & time stamps:
02:15 Coming out with chronic illness
11:30 Going from “If I could just…” to “I wonder why…”
14:50 Heather’s goal for her clients (embodiment and re-embodiment)
26:50 Starting the coming out journey
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Randy Boissonnault went from being a kid scared to be seen on campus when the GSA was meeting to being the Special Advisor to Prime Minister Justin Trudeau on LGBTQ2 Issues.
In this episode, he shares with Nancy what drives him to create social change and promote inclusion so passionately. Randy is a great example of just how much is waiting for us on the other side of our closet doors. Buckle up for some incredible stories of what has happened since Randy came out.
10:50 The moment of being exposed.
23:24 How hard could it be to raise the LGBT flag on Parliament hill?
33:01 How is your business diverse by design?
34:32 Diversity is when you’re invited to the dance, inclusion is when someone invites you to dance. When’s the last time you invited someone different than you to dance?
35:11 We need to get from Ally-ship to champion-ship… An ally is someone who has your back when you’re in the room. A Champion is someone who has your back when you’re not in the room. We need more champions that have your back when you’re not in the room.
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Richele McEwan speaks up about the domestic abuse she experienced growing up. As a professional dancer she used Dance as a creative and powerful medium to express what happened. Richele felt called to come out about this so that others who have experienced similar violence can be inspired to also transform their pain into beauty. This coming out has been a catalyst for other growth in her personal life and business, not to mention the lives of many people who were impacted by her very public sharing. Richele is now inspiring others to let go of co-dependence and step into their bigger, healthier lives.
By owning her story she has been able to transform her life from a place of overwhelming darkness-- and underwhelming mediocrity-- to being truly extraordinary. She is now on a mission to help others discover the power of honouring their truest selves, so they too can #goalbigger.
5:02 UnBound- A dance performance to tell the story of Domestic Abuse
15:50 What driving on a winding mountain road taught her
20:02 What it’s like to live with abuse
33:05 The ripple effect of coming out
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Ash Beckham has influenced more than 8 million people through her viral Ted Talks “Coming Out of Your Closet” and"Owning Your Duality”. With over 300 public talks under her belt, including Harvard University, Proctor & Gamble, and the CIA, Ash is now a highly sought-after diversity, inclusion, and leadership keynote. She joins Nancy to share about her first coming out story that created a way for many more coming out stories in her life, including one she’s still working on.
Bullet points of key topics & time stamps:
15:50 The next coming out chapter
22:30 Ash’s new book: Step Up
26:08 What we can learn from finding the Ketchup
28:00 Advice for coming out
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Join Nancy Shadlock, the host of The Coming Out Chronicles, as she shares her own coming out journey. From a difficult realization for herself, to the navigation of her changing relationship with her parents, Nancy shares the events that led to her decision to come out and intimate glimpses of the challenges and triumphs she and her family have faced since. Listen in as she shares the next coming out chapter she feels called to step into.
4:30 What some drunk guys elicited from Nancy
6:59 The painful decision to come out
8:29 The Haircut symbolism
9:00 Coming out to the parents
11:20 The next coming out chapter
16:20 The big reveal
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Keturah joins Nancy in this episode to talk about coming out as the daughter of a Missionary, what it’s like to be a queer woman in the military, and being a queer woman with religious beliefs. Keturah explains how her family have embraced and struggled with her coming out, and how her ongoing connection to her childhood experiences shape the actions she is taking today.
Being a young black American living in Kenya, Keturah grew up challenged by stereotypes and oppression, particularly while attending a mostly all-white religious boarding school. Keturah shares with Nancy what impact that has had on her, both in terms of her race and her sexuality.
Listen to Keturah talk about her own experiences, as a daughter, as a black woman, as a queer woman, as an adopted woman, and as a member of the military.
In this episode you'll hear about:
4:02 Coming out to friends for the first time
5:40 Advice from Karamo of Queer Eye
6:40 Dad will you walk me down the aisle if I marry a woman?
9:43 Don’t ask, don’t tell
21:40 Black Lives Matter
29:20 Keturah’s next coming out story
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Other Podcast Mentioned: CloseTwins
Joining Nancy in this episode is Tara Galeano, a certified sex therapist that since dissolving her marriage has been on a journey of self discovery and coming back to her own body leading her to come out of her closet.
When Tara came out of her 25 year marriage, she began to explore herself and the confines she had been living within. After training in Tantra, pelvic floor therapy, and as a Priestess, Tara came out of the closet that represented her clinician role, and announced herself as a Sex Therapist who worked with all women.
Listen as Tara tells the story of leaving her marriage behind, finding herself on a journey of self-exploration, and the freedom that came with finding her truth.
In this episode you'll hear about:
4:55 The moment of realization
8:40 The journey of coming out
16:30 The moment of self forgiveness
19:30 The next coming out chapter
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Summary of show:
Starting with the story of coming out twice to his Grandfather, first as a lesbian and then as a transgender man, James shares his experience and well-earned wisdom with Nancy in this episode.
James talks about his non-profit work, dysphoria, separation from his parents among a hugely supportive extended family, and the importance of chosen family in his journey. Listen as he offers advice, storytelling, and intelligent discourse on all of this and more.
Bullet points of key topics & time stamps:
2:45 Coming Out to Grandpa
7:30 Lethbridge as a case study
15:00 Coming out opened the doors for others in the family
19:45 Watching someone transition is like watching them re-inhabit their body
21:10 Definition of dysphoria
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Show Summary:
In the very first episode of The Coming Out Chronicles, Nancy is joined by her wife, Alaina. Alaina explains her coming out journey from the first moments she questioned her attraction to women, through sharing that information with Nancy, then sharing her relationship with Nancy with her Mother, then her extended family. But Alaina hasn’t just come out once.
The second part of Alaina’s coming out story is her journey to parenthood with Nancy. Now married, Alaina and Nancy started their parenting adventure in a way that requires them to constantly come out, and in her interview, Alaina shares how that feels and how she deals with that every day.
Bullet points of key topics & time stamps:
3:21 Chelsea the Make-up girl
5:00 A meeting of the wives
10:22 The second coming out - Parenthood
11:11 All of the labels
17:00 What we tell our babies about how they came to be
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It's not just Queer folks that have a coming out story!
Can you remember a moment like this: when palms are sweating, your stomach is churning and you're full-on scared. Because you have to tell someone something. About yourself. About your life. You don't know how they'll take it. You fear the worst. That's a "coming out" moment.
Whether you're LGBTQ2S+ or not, you'll be inspired by Nancy Shadlock, CEO and Founder of Centered Life Coaching and her guests as they explore "coming out" stories of all kinds. Listen in weekly as people talk about coming out as trans, as a sex therapist, or share coming out about domestic abuse they've endured. Meet everyday people getting their brave on.
We're all hiding in closets of our own making. Everyone has a different story. We are always evolving. We can shed what's no longer true for us. Be inspired by those who left the closet for something better and are willing to talk about it to help you find the courage to rock the next evolution of your own coming out story.