The Hook Up: Recent Episodes
triple j
The Hook Up is the Sex-Ed you wish you’d had. Dee Salmin talks all things sex, love and relationships, and hangs out with a team of experts who delve into their love lives and answer all your sexy questions.
How many years should you be in a relationship before knowing it’s going to be long term or for life? We get your hot takes on whether it's time wasted if you date without knowing what your future holds - or if time isn’t a good measurement at all.
We catch up with comedian Blake Pavey to chat about how his girlfriend soft launched him, the awkward experience of getting his sperm checked and his advice to anyone thinking of dating a comedian (just don’t).
There’s so much misconception around people who use a wheelchair - one being that they’re not interested in or capable of sex and intimacy. But this couldn’t be further from the truth.
We got a DM from Jess who said that her partner Luke - who uses a wheelchair and has a spinal injury - came for the first time since his injury in 7 years.
Hear a snippet of their story in this teaser episode. We also speak to an OT sexologist who specialises in this and has great advice for anyone using a wheelchair or has limited mobility. Full episode coming soon.
Nearly 70% of you told us you’ve faked an orgasm before! So why are we all out here pretending we’re having a good time?We chat to sexologist Laura Miano @lauramianosexology about the orgasm gap and how to close it with a conversation.
Comedy content kings Swag On The Beat aka Jack, Isaac and Sam joined us in the studio to spill some secrets and share their cooked dating stories.
Attention chronic snorers, blanket hoggers, alarm snoozists – this ep is for you, because sleeping in bed with a partner can be a real struggle for a lot of us.
What’s the science behind libido? Why do I get migraines after orgasming? Does pineapple juice really change the taste of your cum? Is skipping your period bad for you? Dr Karl and Dr Theresa Larkin answer all your sex, body and love questions.
ICYMI - TikTok star Anna Paul and her boyfriend Glen broke up :’(
She said “it’s the most healthy breakup you could imagine,” so in this ep - we find out the best, most respectful way to dump someone.
What do you reckon emotional cheating is? And do you think it’s worse than physical cheating?
In this episode, we get your hot takes, and chat to couples therapist Jill Dzardey about why people do it, and how to deal if you’re being emotionally cheated on.
Are you leaving the balls out of the bedroom routine? A lot of us simply don’t know how to handle them, so these pleasure plums end up just chillin’ behind the dick getting no love. In this episode, we give you some guidance on the gonads, so you can be a demon (in and around) the sack.
We get some of the best questions from you in our dms so we thought it’s about time we did an ‘ask us anything’ episode!
Sexologist Lauren French tells us how to deal with hectic UTIs, breathing for a better orgasm, how to move on from your ex's perfect dick, how to have sex after sexual trauma, and why some positions might hurt.
We get some of the best questions from you in our dms so we thought it’s about time we did an ‘ask us anything’ episode!
Sexologist Lauren French tells us why we might avoid eye contact during sex, what to do if cum makes you physically sick, how to manage a healthy sex life when a partner is grieving, advice on squirting, and what to do if your dick is oversensitive in different sex positions.
Lie back on your leather couch coz it’s time to get therapised with one of the best in the biz.
In this bonus ep, Therapy Gecko chats about his therapeutic journey, from streaming on Reddit in his mum’s basement to having 2.5 million followers on TikTok and now doing a world tour.
Plus Geck interns Dee and Pip learn the art of listening and hearing people’s deepest secrets.
*just in case the gecko outfit didn’t give it away, he’s not a real therapist btw.
Dudes - do you get nervous to shoot your shot, because you don’t want to come across as creepy?
Have you dated someone where you love each other so hard, but at the flip of a switch, you hate them? We investigate the rollercoaster of love-hate relationships and why you stay on the ride.
If you don’t know Pomara Fifth, hit play on this episode and get to know her. She’s part of the deadly new generation of indigenous drag queens in Australia who’s charisma, uniqueness, nerve and talent has seen her on Rupaul’s Drag Race, Miss First Nations, and up on stage with Jess Mauboy at the Opera House.
In this chat, we celebrate Pomara and hear her journey as an artist and how she incorporates her Aboriginal and Maori culture through her drag.
Did you know nipple orgasms are a thing? 👀 We didn’t, so we asked you about it and you told us nipple play is a huge part of your routine - so we find out how to lick, suck, clamp and suction our way to pure nipply pleasure (and how to get over our nip-securities).
We’ve all been there, when your mate is dating someone you just don’t vibe with. But is it ever your place to say something?
We hear your hot takes and find out the best way to tell your friend that you don’t like their partner.
“On my thirtieth birthday I got engaged. Six months later I was single for the first time in almost ten years.”
Presenter and podcaster Linda Marigliano was in the ‘perfect’ relationship, so why did she decide to end it?
In this bonus ep, Dee chats to Linda about her struggle with perfectionism, people pleasing and how she finally learned how to love with boundaries.
If you have a regular period cycle - ever wondered why you hate everyone a few days before you get your period? But some days you’re in a full on slay era?
Ever wondered how many eggs you actually have? And how to tell when you’re ovulating?
In this ep - we’ve got the ultimate masterclass on the menstrual cycle - everything you need to know about hormones, periods, and your follicular (slay) and luteal (flop) phases.
Dr Yves Rees is a trans non-binary writer, podcaster and historian who recently wrote a book about their experience transitioning - called All About Yves, Notes From a Transition.
In this bonus ep, Yves spoke to Dee about when they first realised they were trans, their journey transitioning, finding their non-binary identity, navigating their sexuality and finding their community online.
If you think you might be trans, or if you’re starting to transition, what are the first steps to take on this journey?
In this ep we get advice on some of the health and medical info you might need, as well as how to navigate your sex and dating life during this time. You’ll hear from trans writer Dr Yves Rees on their journey and discovering their non-binary identity during lockdown.
On a first date, if someone overshared about past trauma would you be put off by that? Or find that kind of vulnerability refreshing? We hear your hot takes on trauma dumping, why some people do it and how to share trauma without traumatising the person on the receiving end.
In dating, should you trust people from the start? Or should trust be earned over time?We get full philosophical in this ep, hear your hot takes and get a psych’s professional opinion. And we’ll also find out how to build trust in a relationship and how to deal when it’s broken.
Ever feel like you’re inexperienced when it comes to dating, relationships, kissing or sex? If everyone around you is hooking up or falling in love, it can feel isolating, like you’re being left behind or that there’s something wrong with you.It’s a super common experience and we unpack why there’s nothing wrong with you, or hitting these milestones later in life.
Talking dirty can be SO hot! But if it’s something you’ve never really done before, it can be kinda awkward.In this episode, we get your hot tips and find out how to chat to your partner about what you like.
When you first start dating someone, you’re infatuated with them - you’ve got the rose-coloured glasses on and everything is just so passionate. For most of us, this starts to fade after a few months. But not everyone.In this episode we find out how to keep the honeymoon period going.
If you’ve lived with a partner for two or more years, you’re actually considered de facto. Which means if you split up…there’s a lot on the table when it comes to your money, assets even your super. It’s pretty much the same as getting a divorce. In this episode, we find out what you’re entitled to and your rights, plus how to protect yourself.
If you’re being honest with yourself - how’s your life going?Do you feel like you’re just coasting through, or stuck in a bit of rut? Or feeling uninspired? Chris Cheers is a psychologist who’s been helping people change the way they think about love, their bodies, their emotions, and self-care. In this bonus ep, he’ll give you some great advice on how to do just that, so you can be your best self.
If you’re dating someone and they’re not introducing you to their friends, family or posting about you on socials - they might be ‘pocketing’ you. In this episode, we investigate why people are pocketers (lol Pip) and how to know if there’s something shady going on (aka cheating).
Did you know you can actually cum from a flaccid penis?!There’s SO much emphasis on hard and erect cocks (hello porn) that not a lot of people play with and embrace a dick when it’s soft. It’s something a lot of you told us you feel awkward about.So here’s how to feel more comfortable around them, some practical tips for solo and partnered sex, and how to orgasm without an erection.
There’s so many unspoken rules and expectations when it comes to messaging someone for the first time.You can find yourself over-analysing texts and getting anxious if someone doesn’t reply to you for ages, honestly it’s a total headf*ck. And a lot of you told us - a shit texter is a deal breaker for you.
It’s completely normal to feel jealous but sometimes it can make you act out in ways that can be damaging to your relationship. Maybe you go through your partner's phone, or won’t let them be friends with their friends.We find out how to deal with insecurities and how to best support as a partner.
Ever heard of the Ancient roman trans icon Elagabalus who set tigers on her dinner party guests? Or what about the San Diego lesbians banding together to save gay men during the HIV AIDS crisis? There’s so many queer and trans stories that've been erased all the back from ancient China to now, but author and content creator Hannah McElhinney is here to teach the history you never learnt in school.
The great Esther Perel once said “foreplay begins after your last orgasm”. So if it’s something you do for a couple of minutes before sex - target audience reached. You need to hear this.
To celebrate WorldPride this month, we’re hearing your queer bite-sized love stories - and now it's time for the big finale.
If you’ve struggled to get hard or ‘get it up’ it might be because you’re stressed or anxious about being good in bed.And so many of you told us you have so much shame around erectile dysfunction. In this ep, we find out what performance anxiety is, how to cope, and how to best help as a partner.
To celebrate WorldPride this month, we’re hearing your queer bite-sized love stories. And nothing screams modern gay love like a grindr hook up that turned into the love of your life moving into your place the very next day. That’s what happened to art collector Wade who fell in love at first sight with artist Teejay.
Dating in regional or rural Australia can be pretty tough. There’s like five people on the apps, everyone knows everyone’s business and you have to be careful you don’t accidentally go on a date with your second cousin.
Moving in with your partner can make or break a relationship - you might see a bunch of red flags or it might make you closer than ever. We find out if there's a right time to do it, and get some hot tips from you on how to make it work.
You told us that dating as a bisexual person can be a really shit time. You've had people say stuff like "it’s just a phase" or "pick a side."
Friends with benefits can be a really great way to have no strings attached sex, but it can also get really messy, especially if someone catches feelings.So is it possible to bang your mates without ruining the friendship? We’ll get your hot tips and chat to a sex and relationships therapist about how to nail the FWB.
So you’re about to go on your first vacay with bae. Maybe you’re going overseas, road tripping in a van or meeting the their fam for the first time.
If you knew someone was being cheated on, would you tell them? Or just keep it to yourself?
When Harrison Kefford was told he was getting a stoma bag his first thought was: “Holy shit! No one is ever going to want to have sex with me again.”
How have dating apps impacted how we find love? Why is catching the ick so common now? What are we getting wrong when it comes to dating and relationships? And what are gen z getting right?
Premature ejaculation is the most common sexual problem for guys and people with penises, so if you’re worried about coming too quickly, here’s how you can last longer.
Angela White is one of the biggest porn superstars to come out of Australia, and we got the chance to catch up with her!
Whether you’re tallying who does the most chores, initiates sex, or pays for stuff, a lot of us are guilty of using 'points' to measure how much effort a partner puts in.
You’ve probably seen the TikTok song ‘normalise girls doing poos’, it’s insanely catchy AND has a very important message.
You’ve probably seen the TikTok song ‘normalise girls doing poos’, it’s insanely catchy AND has a very important message.
You’ve probably seen the TikTok song ‘normalise girls doing poos’, it’s insanely catchy AND has a very important message.
You’ve probably heard of quiet quitting at work, but turns out quiet quitting happens in relationships too!
You’ve probably heard of quiet quitting at work, but turns out quiet quitting happens in relationships too!
You’ve probably heard of quiet quitting at work, but turns out quiet quitting happens in relationships too!
Ever wondered if people ate ass in the 1800s? What kind of sex toys people used? The origins of homosexuality in the ancient world? And if Mozart really had a poo fetish?
Ever wondered if people ate ass in the 1800s? What kind of sex toys people used? The origins of homosexuality in the ancient world? And if Mozart really had a poo fetish?
Ever wondered if people ate ass in the 1800s? What kind of sex toys people used? The origins of homosexuality in the ancient world? And if Mozart really had a poo fetish?
If you've been doing a bit of butt play and loving it, you might be keen to take it up a level.
Well strap in, because in this ep, we've got everything you need to know about pegging.
Whoever said ‘three’s a crowd’ was LYING, because so many of you told us - a threesome was the best sex of your life!
A special bonus episode with Brooke Blurton this week!
You’d know her from reality TV, but there’s so much more to Brooke than being ‘the bi Bachelorette.’
If you’ve been in an abusive relationship or experienced any sort of sexual assault - it can be really hard to open up, trust and love again.
You might remember Emma Carey’s story. She’s the girl who miraculously survived a skydiving accident in 2013. But what a lot of people haven’t heard about is - Emma’s story of heartbreak.
If you’re bored of mainstream porn or just not into it at all - there’s plenty of alternatives that’ll get you hot, heavy and turned on.
Going through a break-up sucks, but finding out a few weeks (or months) later your ex is already in another relationship, is the worst feeling in the whole world!
Saying what you want (or don’t want) in the bedroom can be awkward sometimes – especially if you’re sleeping with someone new.
When a partner can only orgasm using their hand during sex, it can bring a lot of anxiety into the bedroom.
How fast are sperm? Can women get 'whiskey dick'? And wtf is with period poos? Dr Karl and Dr Theresa Larkin give us the answers to this and more.
After you cum does everything become clearer? Or do you totally spiral and feel a whole lot of shame?
If someone tells you, you’re doing a great job at something, or calls you a good girl/boy does that turn you on?
For a lot of people, it's really normal and can even play a part in the relationship. But for some, when a partner gets off to someone else on a screen, it brings up a whole lot of insecurities. We hear your stories and find out how to deal if you're struggling to separate the porn fantasy from reality.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
It’s seen as the ultimate sin to commit in a relationship – but a lot of people still try to stay together and rebuild what they had. So can you get back to what you were after infidelity? We find out if it's possible to bounce back, and how to do it.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
Suz Elzbieta aka @suzbub on TikTok, got herpes a few years ago and has been breaking down the stigma ever since.
In this bonus ep, you’ll hear the full chat we had with her about - what it’s like being so open about having herpes on TikTok, plus she'll chat about how she went from thinking it was the end of the world, to now - having the best dating/love life.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
*well maybe not everyone. BUT it is one of the most common STIs, and if you don’t have it, it’s likely someone you know or slept with does.
So why is it still so hard for people to openly talk about it?
In this episode, we’re going to smash that stigma, answer all of your questions and give you advice on how to tell your partner.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
Happy NAIDOC week! In this bonus ep - we want to celebrate and introduce you to some of our fav First Nations Instagram and TikTok creators who're all doing absolutely incredible things online.
Author and spiritual coach Allira Potter (@allira.potter), artist and meme lord Emily Johnson (@howdoidelete1) and mythical creature from the outback Evander Connelly (@outbackfairy) - join Dee to talk about being "very f*cking single", racism on dating apps, and their journeys with self-love and embracing their full selves.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
Reckon going on a break is just soft launching a break up?
Turns out having a bit of breather from your relationship - can actually be a good thing.
In this episode, we hear your break stories, the good and bad, and get some expert advice on how to do it right.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
So you think you know sex positions? Name every single one.
Nah but seriously, there's so many out there with crazy names like 'the pinball wizard', 'butter churner' and 'pretzel dip' but what are the most popular?
In this episode, we bring you the ultimate sex position masterclass.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
Out of all the letters in the LGBTQIA+ acronym, the “I” is the least known. We’re gonna find out what it means to be intersex, and how a new draft law to protect the rights of intersex people in the ACT could change history in Australia – if it’s passed.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
There are two types of people (with penises) in this world - those who openly admit they've tried to suck their own dick and those who lie and say they've never tried. It's a bit of a taboo technique when it comes to masturbation, and not many have succeeded with the self-suck, but we chat to the people who have and find out how they did it, what it felt like and why we shouldn't shame anyone for trying.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
If you’ve been basing your whole personality off love languages… we've got some news for you.
Turns out the big five - gifts, physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation and acts of service - might not be that legit.
In this episode, we investigate where the theory comes from, and how there are better “secrets to love that lasts.”
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
Come Curious aka Florence and Reed - are two queens from the UK who talk about sex in all it’s weird, messy, wonderfulness with absolutely no filter, and no censor.
In this episode, from farting during sex, to dealing with shit during anal, they answer all your questions about the awkward stuff you’re too scared to ask.
Plus, they’ve got some great advice - on how to become more confident in the bedroom.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
You can find Come Curious here: https://www.instagram.com/comecurious/?hl=en
Do you get nervous saying I love you for the first time? Or are you chill and can shout it from the rooftops?
In this episode, we find out the right time to be vulnerable and say those three words.
And what you should do if they don’t say it back.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
Ever wondered if there are any benefits to being circumcised?
In this episode, you’ll hear why some people are deciding to get the snip.
And we find out if being cut/uncut has any impact on your sex life.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
If you’re smart, good looking, have a great job, and just killing it at life - you should have heaps of matches on dating apps, right? Well not exactly...
We investigate why some successful people are changing their profiles and minimising themselves to get more likes.
Plus, we chat to author and researcher Lisa Portolan who's done some really interesting research on dating app swiping habits.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
Would you be chill with dating someone who votes differently to you?
Or are someone’s political views a deal breaker?
In this episode, we work out how to chat politics with your partner if you keep arguing about it.
Plus, you’ll hear from ex-Bachie contestant and Labor staffer Alisha Aitken Radburn about what she learnt from her relationship with her young Liberal ex.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
Is your sex drive completely different to your partners?
When your libidos are out of whack, you might feel rejected, insecure and worried about whether or not you’re right for each other.
In this episode, we hear your stories, find out if you can change your sex drive, and get some expert advice from sex therapist Tanya Koens on how to find that balance in your relationship.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
The ick is such a huge phenomenon on TikTok and some of them are piss-yourself-funny.
But now it kinda feels like we’re so ick obsessed, simply existing is an ick. So have we taken it too far?
We’re gonna find out from the King of TikTok icks, British lads SHXTS n GIGS and talk to an expert to see if there’s any coming back once you’ve caught it.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
You’ve probably heard of endometriosis, but adeno is what we’re calling endo’s lesser known evil cousin. It’s a hell of a chronic illness, and for Adenomyosis Awareness Month we’re bringing you up to speed on what it is, why it often gets confused with endo, and how to cure it.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
Whether it’s in porn, social media, or TV, there’s only one type of vulva we see - it’s neat, small, symmetrical and there’s no flaps.
And… it can make you feel super insecure if ya pusswa don’t look like that!
In this episode, we chat to Ellie from Comfortable In My Skin, Christine Yahya from Pink Bits and find out what a ‘normal’ vulva looks like and how to embrace/ love your cooch.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
Ok so peens are all over our screens at the moment - Euphoria, Sex/Life, Minx etc, and as usual there's been a lot of hype around these big dicks. But when it comes to doing the deed, do people really care about size?
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
It’s something loads of people struggle with - and we want you to know that you’re not alone and you’re definitely not broken if you can’t. In this episode we find out why some of us never orgasm, how to work through the anxiety around climaxing and take the pressure off.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
If you’re seeing someone right now and it’s definitely more than friends with benefits, but you’re not in a committed relationship - you might be in a situationship.
It’s the grey area of dating, and sometimes it can be really confusing!
In this episode: how to tell if you’re in one, when you should break it off and digital creator Helen Chik chats to us about her experience.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
Nearly half of you told us you LOVE a finger in the bum during sex!
So we’re going to find everything you need to know about how to do it properly - and why for guys or people with prostates, it might be the best orgasm you ever have.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
Did you just figure out your sexuality?
TikTok and lockdown fast tracked a queer awakening for a lot of you - so if you’re working through this new found identity and need some fairy godmother guidance, we plucked two icons from the LGBT+ community - comedian Alright Hey! and content maker Kath Ebbs to share their wisdom.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
You’ve probably seen her in your feed before, Drew Afualo is queen misogynist slayer.
She’s blowing up on TikTok with 6.3 million followers - people either love her or hate her.
In this bonus episode - Drew lets us know what she thinks about the haters (hint she dgaf), why she does what she does, and what it means to her to be inspiring a generation of women.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
Yes it's got major plot holes, yes it's probably gonna take another two years for a new season, but after that finale - there's so much we need to unpack.
As one of the most popular shows in the past decade, Euphoria is definitely having a huge cultural impact. So what can we learn about the way it portrays sex, toxic relationships, addiction and cheating?
And is it a show that young people actually relate to? In the episode we hear your stories and chat to certified sex coach Georgia Grace.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
If you need support contact: 1800 RESPECT: 1800 737 732 Lifeline: 13 11 14 QLife: 1800 184 527
Kyle Prue is a comedian, actor, author and TikTok’s ultimate pick me.
His how to piss off men videos have millions of views and people are either obsessed with him or like he says “want me dead,” so why are they so triggering?
In this episode - Kyle chats to Dee about why you should use his lines on first dates and why we should rethink what we consider feminine and masculine.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
From The Tinder Swindler, to West Elm Caleb, Kanye West and Julia Fox, everyone's talking about love bombing right now.
So what exactly is it? And what's the difference between someone genuinely being into you and someone who's toxic?
In this episode we've got everything you need to know about love bombing.
If you need support contact: 1800 RESPECT: 1800 737 732 Lifeline: 13 11 14 QLife: 1800 184 527
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
Love Bites is exactly that. Bite-sized love stories.
A mini series where we share some of your rom-com worthy love stories!
In this episode, turns out there’s only love stories on Chatroulette, not dicks.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
Reckon your best friend is your soulmate/love of your life/your ride or die? Why not spend the rest of your life doing all the classic relationshipy things together? That's what April Lee and Renee Wong are doing and it's going viral on TikTok.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
Not keen anymore? We're here to put an end to the slow ghost, excuses and breadcrumbing.
In this episode - Georgia Hassarati from Too Hot To Handle shares why she finds it so hard to be straight up and honest.
And Sex Coach Georgia Grace has a template you can use if you don't know how to reply to that 'when can we catch up?' text.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
Hot Vax Summer is kinda a go! So if you're going on your first date in ages and you're anxious about it, don't worry we've got you.
In this episode - you'll get some great advice from MAFS dating expert Mel Schilling and triple j's own Hobba and Hing with some killer convo starters.
For questions or topic suggestions email thehookup@abc.net.au or dm us @triplejthehookup https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup
Ever wondered what goes down at a sex party?
Well strap in, because in this episode Nat takes you to a sex club.
Plus you’ll find out everything you need to know if you’re keen to go solo or with a partner.
Hot Vax Summer is finally here but turns out it might not be as slutty as we expected.
In this episode, why young people are over casual sex and how to have a great one night stand.
Did you know we’re the most rejected generation ever?
And research shows the emotional pain we feel from rejection is the same as physical pain.
In this special bonus episode, Nat chats to world renowned Psychologist Dr Guy Winch about the science of rejection, plus how to cope and heal from heartbreak.
From being ghosted, dealing with heartbreak and falling in love for the first time.
In this special episode, you’ll hear a softer side of writer and activist Clementine Ford as she shares the lessons she’s learnt about love.
Do you find it kind of awks to chat about condoms?
Sometimes people will find any excuse to avoid them like: they’re too big, they're allergic, they can’t feel anything.
Here’s how to have the condom convo and clap back at every excuse.
Love Bites is exactly that. Bite-sized love stories.
A mini series where we share some of your rom-com worthy love stories!
In this episode, after chasing her gut feeling Jahkarli chats to a stranger on a train, what happens next some might call fate.
Do you care about someone’s height when you’re dating?
There’s a lot of pressure in straight relationships for guys to be taller.
Here’s how to embrace your height if you're a short king or a tall queen.
More and more people are looking for alternatives to monogamy. But going open isn't for everyone.
In this special episode Nat Tencic chats to Bachelorette Brooke Blurton about her sexuality, the importance of representation, and what exactly happened with G Flip.
Turns out a lot of people are turned on by feet.
So if you want to know how they develop, or the basics of pedi-play.
Here’s everything you need to know about foot fetishes.
Love Bites is exactly that. Bite-sized love stories.
A mini series where we share some of your rom-com worthy love stories!
In this episode, after being sent to a Christian youth camp Vanessa met the girl of her dreams but it had to be a secret.
Going on antidepressants can be life changing, but sometimes your sex drive can turn to shit.
In this episode, how SSRIs and other medications affect your sexual performance and desire, how to find pleasure while being on meds and chat to your partner about it.
If you need support contact:
Lifeline: 13 11 14
QLife: 1800 184 527
Love Bites is exactly that. Bite-sized love stories.
A mini series where we share some of your rom-com worthy love stories!
In this episode, listeners Adrian and Toria were pen pals who had never met, until years later they finally did…
Do you think coming out is an outdated concept?
In this episode, we talk about what coming out means in 2021, whether you need to, and how to work out if, when and how you want to come out for yourself.
If you need support contact:
QLIFE - 1800 184 527
Love Bites is exactly that. Bite-sized love stories.
A mini series where we share some of your rom-com worthy love stories!
In this episode, listeners Phoebe and Sasha end up on a flight together that changes the rest of their summer.
Do you know someone that’s completely shut down and shut you out before?
Maybe after a fight, they became super distant and cold.
It’s something called stonewalling, and in this episode, we’ll find out why some people do it and how to deal.
If you or someone you know needs support contact:
1800 RESPECT: 1800 737 732
QLIFE: 1800 184 527
Do you reckon you’re great at sex?
New stats show we’re not as confident as we think.
So we’ll find out what makes someone good in bed.
Have you heard of attachment theory?
It’s all about how your dating/relationship patterns were formed when you were a baby.
In this bonus episode, find out your attachment style and how to change it.
A recent study showed that 40% of 18-29-year-olds surveyed had choked or been choked during sex.
Breath play can be really dangerous, so why are so many people doing it?
In this episode, why it’s becoming more of a thing, and whether it can ever be done without risking serious consequences.
This episode talks about sexual assault, if you need support contact:
1800 RESPECT: 1800 737 732
QLife: 1800 184 527
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Medical experts say high vaccination rates are the only way we can open up and live with this virus.
But dealing with a partner who's anti-vax or vax-hesitant can cause a lot of tension and sometimes even lead to a break up.
In this episode, we hear your stories and get some great advice on how to talk to your loved ones about the vaccine.
Ever had pain trying to insert something into your pusswa? Like a tampon, finger or penis?
Vaginismus is a painful but common condition where your vagina pretty much snaps shut.
We find out what causes it and how to treat it.
For more information visit ginaapp.com.
Is loving yourself essential for a healthy and happy relationship?
We investigate those classic self-love self-help quotes.
And Kota Banks tells us how to wake up every morning thinking “I’m it.”
Has it been a while since you last had sex?
Going through a dry spell is totally normal but sometimes it can make you feel frustrated or unsexy.
In this episode, we’ve got help for both our single and couple friends.
Are we really just adult versions of our parents repeating the same patterns?
We find out what the terms 'daddy and mummy issues' really mean.
And you'll learn how to change your attachment style if it's impacting your relationships.
Are your partner's mates a bad influence on them?
Maybe they encourage them to do drugs when they're trying to stay sober, or maybe they're manipulative and toxic and it's impacting your relationship.
Here's how to navigate that shitty situation and chat to your partner about it.
This podcast talks about mental health issues, if you need help call Lifeline: 13 11 14
Pressure from social media is impacting how people feel about their bodies.
But it's still a convo that's hard for a lot of guys to talk about.
So in this episode, you'll hear the stories of three men and the journeys they've been on when it comes to their body image, dating and sex.
Panel: Will Cook - Butterfly Foundation ambassador, Luke Currie-Richardson - storyteller, Rudy-Lee Taurua - comedian, Dr Scott Griffiths - Uni of Melbourne researcher.
Lifeline: 13 11 14
The Butterfly Foundation: 1800 33 4673
If someone goes down on you, do you have to give them head back?
All's fair in love, but maybe not when it comes to sex.
We look at reciprocation, 'selfish lovers' and how you can run into trouble expecting your partner to return sexual favours.
Would you choose not to date someone because of how they spend their money?
Research shows clashes over cash are a major reason people break up.
So in this episode, how to have the awkward convo about dosh.
Guests: Queenie Tan, Finance educator @investwithqueenie Glen Hosking, Psychologist
Imagine having spontaneous orgasms multiple times a day. It’s a real condition called Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder, that’s rarely spoken about by sufferers due to the shame and stigma attached. In this episode, we’re finding out what it’s like to live with PGAD, and whether there’s a potential cure.
It’s NAIDOC Week, and in this episode we’re spotlighting the LGBTQIA+ First Nations experience with a panel of indigenous artists, writers, performers and thinkers to find out what it’s like to belong to both communities.
Being out, loud and proud, and dating someone who isn't has its challenges. In this episode, we find out how to navigate this conflicting and delicate situation, and whether it can work out in the long run.
There are countless testimonials from semen retainers online about the physical, emotional and even sexual benefits they’ve experienced since holding onto their nut. In this episode, we find out whether the universe really starts to work in your favour if you don’t sow your seed.
For far too long, penis owners have been shunned for sex toys. Well we say, NO MORE. We’re here to smash the stigma and give you the low down on how to break into the masc toy market.
Everyone has a dealbreaker (or two) when dating. But what if you’re missing out on a perfect match? In this episode we examine the biggest dealbreakers for young people, why we have them and how to challenge our prejudices.
The decision on whether or not to have kids can be a dealbreaker - if partners disagree, it can cause major conflict and ultimately end relationships. So should we be bringing it up sooner than we think when dating? In this episode, we find out why the tide is turning against having kids and when to have that conversation.
On The Hook Up we help you through your complex love, sex and relationship problems. But what happens after the show’s over? In this episode, we’re checking in with some listeners who have shared their stories with us, and finding out what they’ve learnt.
Coming out as trans is a life altering event for a person, but it’s just as profound for their partners who experience it by their side. Nat speaks to Emma Batchelor, author of Award-winning memoir Now That I See You, about what it’s like to be in a relationship with someone transitioning.
If the idea of going sober on a date makes you sweat, you’re not alone. In this episode, we find out why we’re so reliant on liquid courage to meet people and whether it’s worth giving sober dating a go.
Whether you’re constantly grappling with the unrealistic size standards of the society we live in, or you’re super confident in the skin you’re in, dating in a bigger body is minefield. In this episode, we’re taking a close look at dating with a lot of body - the positive, the negative, and the neutral.
Sucking dick is a staple sex act, but it's not the easiest to swallow. In this episode, we're bringing you the definitive guide on how to slob on the knob.
The relationship between parents and partners can be complicated. In this episode, we're finding out what to do if they're at war and you're caught in the crossfire.
When you're dating, the fear of missing out on someone better can end a perfectly good relationships before it's even had the chance to bloom. In this episode, we find out why you're moving on too quickly and how to slow down and smell the roses.
Can you have your cake and eat it too? That's the promise of open relationships. We talk to NZ based filmmaker Jan Oliver Lucks who put it to the test with his new documentary There Is No "I" Threesome, a deep and unflinching look at his own polyamory journey.
1 in 10 people have it, but we still have more questions than answers - and no cure. In this episode, we’re deep diving into the world of Endometriosis, a painful chronic illness that for some can take a decade to diagnose.
It’s time to put that pussy where your mouth is. In this episode, we’re bringing you a definitive beginners guide on how to go down on that punani like a pro.
Love in prison isn't like Orange Is The New Black. We find out what it's actually like to fall in love with someone behind bars, with stories about the struggle on the outside as well as inside of jail.
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636
Relationships Australia: 1300 364 277
Support for people in & out of prison:
VIC: VACRO - (03) 9605 1900
NSW: Community Restorative Centre - (02) 9288 8700
SA: OARS Community Transitions - (08) 8218 0700
TAS: Onesimus Foundation, JusTas - (03) 9513 1362
ACT: Prisoners Aid - (02) 6207 2800
Tilly Lawless is a queer sex worker, writer, feminist and advocate. For International Women's Day, we chat with her to understand the misconceptions of the industry, the shame that surrounds it and the complicated relationship between feminism and sex work.
Quartz pleasure wands and jade "yoni" eggs are all over Instagram right now, but do they actually do what they claim? We're sussing out the crystal sex toy craze to find out why people love them and whether they're even safe to use.
The multiple orgasm is something of a legend - and so far, science can't technically prove they exist. But plenty of you are experiencing them. On this episode, we're putting the multigasm under the microscope and finding out how to achieve them.
Are you finding your expectations of your date aren't meeting reality? You might be more into the idea of your partner than, well, them! We look at why our imaginations can run wild when dating, and how it can get toxic.
If you're looking for a hormone-free contraceptive, FAM might be for you.
Fertility tracking apps are a new way to avoid pregnancy, but how safe are they?
We've got all the info you need and we'll explore the other non-hormonal birth control options.
Is there someone you refer to as 'the one that got away'?
Maybe an ex, an unavailable crush, or someone where the timing just wasn't right.
In this episode, you'll find out how to stop wondering 'what if?' and move on.
BUMP is a new Aussie dramedy on Stan that you'll fall in love with.
It's all about a surprise teen pregnancy, first love, parenthood and cultural differences.
In this episode, Nat chats to the stars Nathalie Morris and Carlos Sanson Jr.
Research shows you're more stressed when you're in a long distance relationship.
And it's even more stressful when you don't have an end date. So is it worth sticking it out?
We'll find out and hear all your LDR stories including presenter Linda Marigilano's!
It's the chat that so many people struggle to have...
The Defining The Relationship convo.
Well stress no more, because we're here to help!
It's a question a lot of queer people are asking right now.
And Gender and Sexuality Professor Jane Ward wrote a whole book about it.
Nat Tencic caught up with her and found out what needs to change about heterosexual culture.
Do you think two infidelities cancel each other out?
That's what Author Zoe Foster Blake explores in her new book Clean Slate!
In this Episode, she chats to Nat Tencic about cheating and relationships.
You told us you were sick of ghosting, flaking, breadcrumbing and just dating in general.
But when it comes to the ethics of dating, what do we actually owe each other?
Podcast Hosts Abbie Chatfield, Rowdie Walden and Lecturer Dr Lauren Rosewarne are here to debate!
What do you think needs to change about our dating culture?
Cause you told us on instagram you're feeling pretty over it.
Well, Dating Coach Sharam Namdarian, Alita Brydon from Bad Dates of Melbourne and Sex Coach Georgia Grace have got the answers!
If you're struggling with your kink or fetish, don't worry we've got you!
In this episode, how to find your kink community and practise safe and consensual play.
Plus, how to deal if your fetish is morally murky and even illegal.
Content Warning: sexual assault and physical assault
If this brings up any difficult emotions for you:
Lifeline is on 13 14 11
or you can call1800 Respect
and Q Life is 1800 184 527
We hear a lot about kinks and fetishes, but what actually are they? And how do people get them?
In this episode, we've got your 101 into the world of kink.
Plus, how to navigate it in your relationships.
What do you count as your first time?
The idea of 'losing your virginity' has a lot of baggage right now.
So in this episode, you'll find out why it's time to rethink that narrative.
Losing a pregnancy can be difficult to deal with, and even harder to talk about.
In this episode we’re opening the conversation on miscarriages, why they happen and how to cope.
If this brings up any difficult emotions for you:
Lifeline is on 13 14 11
and Pregnancy, Birth and Baby on 1800 882 436
Do you ever feel like everyone's dated or slept with everyone you know?
It can make things kinda awkward, especially if you live in a small town!
In this episode, we hear all your crazy small world stories and find out how to date when there's literally no one left.
Do you put everyone else before yourself? and find it really hard to say no?
You could be a people pleaser and it could be impacting your relationships.
In this episode, you'll find out how to build your self worth and set those boundaries!
Ok are blue balls legit? Or just an excuse to cum?
And what about 'blue vulvas'? Are they a thing too?
We find out in this episode! Plus how to deal if someone's trying to guilt you into sex.
Cody Heller is a writer whose new show Dummy, is about her finance Dan Harmon's (Rick and Morty, Community) sex doll.
Nat chats to Cody about the show, finding out about the doll and working with Anna Kendrick.
Have you been with someone who guilted you or pressured you into sex?
Coercion is pretty common in relationships, and can leave you feeling really confused.
We find out how to navigate it and hear the difference between compromise and being out of consent.
If this episode brings up anything for you contact:
1800 RESPECT
Lifeline: 13 11 14
We should all know now that if you're not getting an enthusiastic YES, you're probably out of consent.
But consent doesn't just stop there. It's ongoing!
Here's how you do it, so you can have hotter, better sex.
If this episode brings up anything for you contact:
1800 RESPECT
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Intimacy is one of those things you hear about all the time, but what actually is it?
We'll find out in this episode! and we've got help if you struggle to get close to people emotionally and sexually.
Sex has been incredible on TV in 2020 with shows like Normal People, Sex Education and I May Destroy You raising the bar for sex scenes.
It's no coincidence Intimacy Director Ita O'Brien was behind them all. Nat Tencic chats about how her work is changing sex on and off screen.
If you're holding onto resentment towards your ex, it can be really hard to move on.
BUT if you wanna heal, you kinda have to let that anger go!
In this episode we look at how to forgive your ex and find out what to do if they're the ones pissed off at you.
*Content warning, if this episode brings up anything for you, call:
1800 RESPECT or Lifeline on 13 11 14
If you've never been in love before, you might be wondering why?
In this episode, we find out what's going on, how to deal if you're worried AND what it means to be 'aromantic.'
RuPaul's Drag Race winner Sasha Velour is serious about her art and the queer family she's built around it.
In a very special interview, Nat Tencic chats to Sasha about life in drag, identifying as gender-fluid and her show Nightgowns.
ALSO a little tea may be spilt re: Shea Coulee's All Stars 5 arc and going to therapy over Sasha's iconic roses moment.
Have you ever thought 'maybe I'm not completely straight' and you're curious to do some exploring?
Well this episode is for you! We'll tell you, what's next, if you're questioning your sexuality.
And Nat Tencic chats to the first girl she ever hooked up with.
Music heard:
SangLien - Somday
SangLien - Make
https://www.triplejunearthed.com/artist/sanglien
Bronze Philosophy - We Have Fun, Don't We
Bronze Philosophy - Where do we begin?
https://www.triplejunearthed.com/artist/bronze-philosophy
There's a new dating term called 'wokefishing' and it might have happened to you!
We chat to VICE writer Serena Smith who invented the word and Sexologist Shan Boodram on how to spot one in the wild.
Music heard:
Exish - Bambaizel
Exish - Breeze
Exish - Fluidity
https://www.triplejunearthed.com/artist/exish
Erectile dysfunction isn't just a 'dad thing', it's actually something lots of young guys are dealing with too.
We hear your experiences, find out why it happens, and what's the best way to get help.
Deciding to move in together can be a pretty huge step for your relationship, so what do you need to know before you do it?
Nat Tencic finds out and shares how the past few months have been living with her partner for the first time.
Music heard:
Rando - Imagine
https://www.triplejunearthed.com/artist/rando
Flamingo Jones - North
https://www.triplejunearthed.com/artist/flamingo-jones
Jerome Blaze - Up
https://www.triplejunearthed.com/artist/jerome-blaz%C3%A9
Incorrect Syntax - Babe
https://www.triplejunearthed.com/artist/incorrect-syntax
Have you ever dated or hooked up with someone, just to feel good about yourself?
Well you could be dating for validation...
You'll find out in this episode! And how to break that pattern.
Music heard:
Incorrect Syntax - Babe, Walk Away, May Contain Nuts https://www.triplejunearthed.com/artist/incorrect-syntax sad face - One Day https://www.triplejunearthed.com/artist/sad-face Rando - Imagine https://www.triplejunearthed.com/artist/rando
Ever thought about how big a role food plays in dating and relationships?
For someone with an eating disorder like anorexia, binge eating or bulimia, that thought is inescapable.
We look at how to navigate eating disorders in relationships, learn how to date again and reclaim sexuality.
If this episode brings up any issues for you, you can find help at the resources below.
Butterfly National Helpline - 1800 33 4673 Chat to someone online - butterfly.org.au Lifeline - 13 11 14 National Eating Disorders Collaboration - https://www.nedc.com.au/support-and-services-2/support-and-services/
It’s time we had a chat about the prostate.
It's not just that thing your grandad complains about when he can’t pee, or something you’re afraid a doctor will have to finger one day. It's the semen factory and is essential to sex and pleasure. We look at everything to do with the p-spot.
We're always told that relationships = happy endings, but what if they don't?
Artist and Author Florence Given wants you to stop settling and embrace being single.
Sick and tired of arguing with your mates about whether or not squirting is actually pee?
Well, you'll find out in this episode! Plus, how to navigate female ejaculation in your sex life.
If you're living with a mental illness and dating, do you find it hard to tell someone new about it?
In this episode, we look at how to have that conversation, manage mental health in relationships and support your partner.
If you or anyone you know needs help: Lifeline on 13 11 14 Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636 MensLine Australia on 1300 789 978 Suicide Call Back Service on 1300 659 467 Kids Helpline on 1800 551 800 Headspace on 1800 650 890 QLife on 1800 184 527
A recent study found that around half of people who menstruate have sex on their periods, so why do we never really talk about it?
In this episode, we chat to Moxie Founder Mia Klitsas and Author Karen Pickering to break down that stigma.
Plus, Sex Educator Georgia Grace answers all your questions.
If you find someone really great, but there's no spark, can you change that and make fireworks happen?
We look at relationships without chemistry.
Whether you’re living with autism yourself, or you’re dating someone on the spectrum, there can sometimes be a bit of confusion when it comes to communicating and reading social cues; especially if you’re just beginning to learn about each other.
We look at how finding love when you’re neurodiverse, and how to navigate a relationship with someone whose way of perceiving the world is quite different to your own.
Ever wondered why some dicks curve a bit to the left, or right, or up or down?
Turns out it's a lot more common than we think, and if you've got quite an angle going, you might have something called Peyronie's Disease.
In this episode, we'll investigate and find out the best way to use your lil bent mate.
What's your grooming routine look like? Do you feel pressure to keep/remove your hair down there?
We take a look at why manscaping has become such a huge thing, and give you some hot tips from a grooming guru.
Research shows that a lot of women are struggling to orgasm, so what's going on?
We'll hear your stories and give you the help you need to try and reach climax!
OnlyFans, aka the 'paywall of porn,' has had millions of sign ups over the past couple of months.
The idea of putting nudes on the internet for some easy cash is gaining big traction right now.
We investigate the phenomenon, how it's impacting sex workers, and what you need to know before getting into online sex work.
Biological Anthropologist Dr Helen Fisher is one of the world's leading experts on love, lust, sex, marriage and infidelity.
In this special episode, Nat finds out why we love who we love, why we have sex, why we cheat and what the future of dating looks like.
Are you dating someone that's a bit of a mess?
Maybe they can't cook or clean or save or look after themselves. Ya know, normal adult things.
We take a look at how to feel less like a parent in your relationship and explore 'the mental load.'
I'm sure we've all dated someone who's a bit self-obsessed but what it's like to date a narcissist?
And apart from having a huge ego, what are the red flags you should be looking out for?
We've got all the answers in this episode, plus, how to trust again after being with someone toxic.
If this brings up anything for you contact: Lifeline 13 11 14 or 1800 RESPECT
If you're curious about strap on play, we've got you sorted in this episode!
You'll find out: how to prepare, the best materials to use, what type of strap on to buy and how to bring it up with a partner.
Are you struggling to find someone that ticks all your boxes?
Well maybe it's not the people you're swiping left on, its you, you're just too picky.
In this Episode, we find out why you might have these high expectations, the impact of online dating and how to let someone new in.
If you're socially distancing right now, doesn't mean you can't get down and dirty!
Here's the ultimate guide to cybersex: everything from sexting, to camming, to safety and taking it to the next level.
Does waiting to have sex lead to better relationships?
It's a pretty ancient idea, but is there any truth behind it?
We'll find out and you'll hear from Too Hot To Handle contestant Harry Jowsety
If porn isn't your thing, but you want a lil summin summin to turn you on, erotica could be for you!
We'll help you find your niche with the great Chuck Tingle, and give you some hot writing tips.
If you're dating someone right now, are you running out of ideas to keep it exciting and fun?
In this episode you'll hear from some New Yorkers whose creative date ideas have gone viral.
And we'll check in with some of the big dating apps to see how they're changing the game.
Are you separated from your partner right now because you're self-isolating? Or are you both stuck together working from home? Whatever situation you're in, we'll help you figure out how to navigate your relationship during this stressful time.
It's a really weird time right now. The regular rules are out the window. Are we allowed to have casual sex right now? How are you supposed to go on dates while social distancing?
We get Dr Brad McKay and Dr Nikki Goldstein in to answer all your questions around coronavirus, sex and dating.
Do you really struggle with flirting?
Or maybe you're great at it, but you're getting mixed signals from someone.
In this episode, we tackle all your flirting struggles and Confidence Man give you some hot tips.
Do you feel like you’re not sexy or desirable enough? Well if you do, you’re not alone.
Half of young Australian women are feeling negatively about sex and a lot of it has to do with self image.
In this episode, you'll hear from ex-Bachie contestant Abbie Chatfield and Artist @Pink_bits on how to feel more body positive.
Have you got someone in your life who's a part of the LGBTQ+ community?
Ever wondered how you could best support them?
Nat heads to Mardi Gras to find out, and hears some pretty special coming out stories.
Do you like to take the lead? or do you like to lie back and let your partner take control?
Whether you're submissive or dominant or like to switch it up, we find out how power roles impact your sex life.
Meet Laurie Nunn. She's the incredible Creator and Writer behind Sex Education, the Netflix show we've been binging.
Nat catches up with her to chat all things sex, Season Two and the future of the show.
Also, you've been warned my friends, a massive spoiler alert for this episode.
You might have heard of the 36 questions experiment which has made strangers all over the world fall in love.
Well, does it work? In this episode we try it out and find out some tips and tricks for finding that special someone.
If you've decided to be more eco friendly this year you might want to take a look at your sex life.
Condoms, toys, lube and contraceptives can all have an impact on the environment.
But there's a lot of simple and small changes you can make to go green in the bedroom.
Are you dating someone who has attention deficit hyperactivity disorder? Or maybe you have it yourself?
If it's causing a bit of tension in your relationship and you don't know what to do, we're here to help!
In this episode, we share your stories, and look at how ADHD can impact your love and sex life.
Do you always post about your partner on socials but you barely exist on theirs?
Or maybe they've still got photos of their ex and it's really bugging you.
We look at how you can make love and social media work AND Love Island contestants Josh Moss and Amelia Marni spill the tea about being an instacouple.
How often do you hear people talk about having herpes? Pretty rarely hey?
Which is weird because so many of us have it!
So what's the deal? What are the different types? How do you prevent it?
In this episode we answer ALL of your questions.
You’ve heard of PMS — getting cranky and crampy before your period. But have you heard of its evil cousin, PMDD?
Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder is a debilitating mood condition that’s often called "PMS on steroids". It’s a beast that no amount of chocolate or heat packs can fix.
Sexologist Lauren White and women's health specialist at Jean Hailes, Dr Amanda Newman, join Nat to talk about navigating sex and relationships if you're someone living with PMDD.
If you’ve been out of the dating game for a while, it can be tough putting yourself back out there.
How you do it? What if your flirting game’s a bit rusty? And how do you know you’re ready to open your heart to someone new?
Psychologist Gem Cribb and sexologist Laura Miano join Nat to talk through the tricky process.
From royal mistresses to freedom fighters, the women of history have had their share of epic love stories, romantic mishaps and sexual tales — and there’s a whole lot we can learn from them.
At least that's what author Jennifer Wright reckons, and she makes the case in her book We Came First: Relationship Advice from Women Who Have Been There, from Josephine Baker's tips on owning your sexual promiscuity, to Grace Kelly on making a bold first move.
Nat and Jennifer break down how feminism, sex and great women of history are for better and worse, inseparable.
When you're young, queer, Asian and Australian, it can be hard to know how to feel about sex.
Repressed taboos in certain households are at odds with the way Asian bodies are fetishised in Western culture, from movies to Grindr.
At least, that’s according to the creators of Safe Word, a work of physical theatre exploring what it means to be young, queer and Asian in Australia. They join Nat to talk about the challenges and liberties found through their sexploration.
Ever thought it would be hot to be taken down? Tackled, wrestled to ground, grabbed and restrained? You might be into takedown bondage.
It's a style of BDSM play that can be coupled with all sorts of roleplaying scenarios, from karate duels to staged kidnappings.
But what does it look like? Well, it’s pretty damn intense.
Nat invited Mistress Tokyo and bunny Anna to the ABC Studios to give her a demo.
When Isabella moved back to her tiny hometown after a break-up, she didn't expect to see her ex again for a while. But then he started coming to her family's pub three times a week, with his new girlfriend in tow.
When you go through a break up, you generally don’t want to be running into your ex all the time. So, what do you do when you literally can’t avoid it?
Whether you work with them, are in the same uni tutes, or live in the same tiny town, psychologist Zoe Krupka joins Nat to chat about how to deal when you can't get that space you need to truly get over your ex.
Erin was just 23 years old when she went to the bathroom with some stomach cramps thinking nothing of it. She didn't expect to walk out with a baby.
Most people get months to prepare, but how do you deal with becoming a parent within minutes? We look at cryptic pregnancies and how you can bring a baby to term without knowing you were pregnant.
Support services:
-Lifeline: 13 11 14
-PANDA: Perinatal Anxiety and Depression Australia 1300 726 306
-Beyondblue.org
-www.adoptchange.org.au
How would your relationship change if you knew exactly when it was going to end?
Would you hold back? Or would you make the most of the time you had?
For some couples, an expiration date can be heartbreaking but as you'll learn it can also be a really positive thing.
Does your partner seem to love their phone more than you?
We look at how to get them off the socials and back IRL plus you'll hear from Instagram influencer Lucy Jackson who's dealing with this problem in her relationship right now.
Apparently more than half of us are faking it in the bedroom. But why?
You'll find out in this episode and also learn how to stop if you've been pretending with your partner.
And Presenter and DJ Flex Mami reveals her new anti-faking it anthem.
Are you dating someone who has completely different values and life beliefs to you?
Maybe you're conservative and your partner's a leftie, or you're a vegan dating a meat eater!
How can you make it work? and do these relationships last?
In this episode, you'll hear from Aussie Singer Montaigne who broke up with her ex over some big differences and ex-Bachelor contestant Alisha Aitken-Radburn who made it work with someone very opposite.
Zach was having trouble in the bedroom. Constant anxiety kept creeping in when he went to perform. But he wasn't sure if what he was feeling was normal, or a result of his childhood sexual trauma.
Learning how to love, trust and feel pleasure again, well it's tough when you've survived sexual assault. We look at how to reclaim intimacy and how to support partners with abuse in their history.
Help lines: Lifeline - 13 11 14
1800 RESPECT - 1800 737 732
There are so, so many dating apps out there, how do you know if you're on the right one?
Even though Tinder is the big one, there are so many more places to pick up, and they all work a little differently.
Nat takes you through what's out there, and which platforms you should be swiping right on.
Can you step back from the emotional stuff, but keep having sex when you’ve already been serious?
It might sound like you’re trying to have your cake and eat it too and for some people it seems to be working, but getting there probably won't be easy.
Couples therapist Liz Neal joins Nat to chat about dialling back the commitment in your relationship.
Being asexual means you don’t really experience sexual desire or attraction. But for a lot of people on the ace spectrum, it’s not such an either/or scenario. For some, it can be, well, grey.
You might feel sexual attraction from time to time, you might feel romantic attraction, or you might never feel that at all. Nat breaks down the spectrum of asexuality with a few ace people.
You probably don’t often think that the run you’re going for today could be your last one … for that to be taken away from you in an instant.
But that’s exactly what happened to Emma Carey, who at 20 years old, became a walking paraplegic.
She’s since been lucky enough to walk again, but a lot of things are a bit different — including her sex life.
When you’re on a date, you’re usually sweating about what to say next. But do you ever think about what your body is saying?
Body language can communicate a lot about yourself, and being able to better interpret it can tell you a lot about your date, their interest in the situation and how they’re receiving you.
Body language expert Dr Louise Mahler joins Nat to break it down and help translate your moves.
To begin with Nat from Perth called her break-up a ‘traumatic rejection story’. But down the line, she realised there was a lot more to it than that.
Nat found herself in the incredibly hard situation, a relationship she wanted to leave, but felt had to stay in when her partner threatened to take her own life.
Threatening self-harm and suicide can be a form of emotional abuse, and is more common than we realise. We look at how to manage this super difficult situation with family violence specialist Ada Conroy and clinical psychologist Tiffany Valente.
Content warning: This episode contains discussion around self-harm, depression, emotional abuse, family violence and suicide.
For many people, having an abortion is not an easy thing to go through.
Even though it’s now decriminalised around Australia, the stigma around terminating pregnancy is still very real, and going through it can be tough for many uterus owners… especially when you don’t fit the ‘typical’ picture of an abortion case.
The experts join Nat to discuss how having an abortion can impact a relationship, why there's still so much stigma and shame around it, and how we can look at normalising abortions.
New South Wales recently became the last state in Australia to decriminalise abortion — that means abortion is accessible in some shape or form throughout the country.
So what do these changes actually mean, and is it as clear-cut as it sounds?
Jenny Ejlak, President of Reproductive Choice Australia, joins Nat to break down what the new abortion laws mean, and what still needs to be done.
Do you have a pet name for your partner?
For some of us, melting into baby babble and pet names around our significant others makes us feel all gooey and loved-up inside.
But for others, it's just a whole lotta cringe.
Psychotherapist Jacqueline Hellyer joins Nat to chat about why we do it, how to tell your partner if you hate it, and whether you should try to embrace it.
Have you ever been called "too emotional" in a relationship?
When one member of a relationship is more emotional than the other, and no one knows how to handle that, it can cause all sorts of problems.
Clinical psychologist Dr Jarrod White joins Nat to discuss why being emotional gets such a bad wrap, how different levels of emotionality can impact a relationship, and how to be emotionally healthy with your partner.
For trans people, trying to get the right help when reproductive medicine is filed under ‘men’s and women’s health’ is straight up tough.
This episode, Nat chats with Freddy McConnell, a journalist and self-described Seahorse — he's a dad who gave birth to his own son.
After that, the experts join Nat to discuss what fertility care looks like if you're trans or gender diverse, and learn how to navigate the soul searching, conflict and dysphoria that can come along with it.
Trying to navigate the medical system when you’re trans is already a minefield, but it’s particularly hard when you’re a guy going to a gyno, or a woman getting a prostate check.
Since reproductive care is so often segregated into ‘men's’ or 'women’s' health, it can be really tough getting the right care when you’re trans or gender-non-conforming.
This episode, hear Bridget Hustwaite from triple j's Good Nights chatting with transgender man Cori Smith and nonbinary person Jess Tilley, who both live with endometriosis.
After that, the experts join Nat in the studio to look at navigating the healthcare system as a gender diverse person, and what still needs to change to ensure everyone feels seen.
It's Bisexual Visibility Day but bi+ people in relationships that look straight can feel totally unseen.
Have you ever wanted to be tied up and suspended from the ceiling?
As with most things, there’s a kink for that.
Shibari is the art of Japanese rope bondage, which is often paired with suspension — being hung from frames and swings.
Nat heads to Oz Kink Fest to check it out for herself, and chats with suspension expert Avalon about why it's becoming so popular.
How do you feel about marriage?
And do you feel differently about it to your parents, your family or your friends?
For many of us, especially those of us who have culturally diverse or religious families, the people around us might be starting to put the pressure on to find 'the one'.
Psychologist Alicia Franklin joins Nat to discuss how to cope when you're feeling the pressure from every angle.
If you’re the kind of person who’s always working, it might be hard to find time for love.
And while ambition can be a huge turn on, it doesn’t mean you want to be your partner’s lowest priority.
Sex therapist Lauren White and expert in performance pressure Dan Caprar join Nat to talk about how burnout can affect your relationship, how to be an understanding partner, and how to find a work-love balance.
When was the last time you got tested?
With World Sexual Health Day just passed, it’s a timely reminder that you should be getting tested regularly for STIs. But if you’ve never done it before, it can be daunting knowing where to start. So we’re here to help!
Nat goes inside a sexual health clinic and takes a look at when to get a check, what happens during and how to get your results.
Guests:
Samantha Read, sexual health nurse, Family Planning Victoria Dr Chris Fox, senior lecturer in sexual health, University of Sydney Dr Clare Boerma, Associate Medical Director, Family Planning NSW
It might sound like an issue you won’t have to worry about until you’re older, but did you know there’s a bunch of young Australians living with incontinence?
In fact, there's about 60,000 of them.
It’s something we don’t talk about nearly enough — even though we definitely should — because incontinence can really impact a person’s life.
This episode, we learn how to navigate love, sex and your own mental health when you're living with incontinence.
On triple j, we asked What's Up In Your World. And you told us — about 71 per cent of you watch porn.
And while the vast majority of you said porn had no impact on your relationship, 12 percent of you said it had a positive impact in some way. That's almost double the amount of you who said it had a negative one.
So sit back and relax, because you're about to learn how to use porn as a positive force in your sex life, how to watch it well, and have fun watching it with your partner.
We've just finished Porn Week on triple j, where we looked at what 15,000 of you told us about your porn habits in the What's Up In Your World survey.
So this episode, we’re picking apart your most searched genres. Why are you so into lesbian porn, amateur and threesomes — and does watching porn of it mean you want it IRL?
We get to the bottom of what your porn tastes say about you.
It’s hard to work out what you should do with the bits and pieces left over after a broken relationship.
But before you go trashing your ex’s old hoodie, or flogging their coffee maker online, STOP. Because it might just belong in a museum.
In this episode, Nat chats with the creators of the Museum of Broken Relationships, who came up with the idea of putting that break up stuff on display after their own relationship ended — a small idea that now houses thousands of items and stories from around the world.
Do you find yourself constantly falling for people who are bad for you?
It can be a vicious cycle, but why do some of us keep going for people who aren’t good for us in the long run?
Psychologist Stephen Andrew and family violence social worker Krysia Heron join Nat to discuss why we get stuck in these patterns, how to recognise it in yourself, and how to break the cycle once and for all.
You read the words 'sex noises' and you're instantly imagining moans, screams, pants and groans. Right?
But have you ever thought about why we make so much noise when we're getting down and dirty?
In this episode, Nat finds out if our sex noises come from our animal ancestors, how much of an impact porn has on our volume, and how to deal if your partner's noises are turning you off.
Would you and your partner ever have sex on camera?
It may seem a little daunting, but did you know it can be amazing for spicing up your relationship, your self-confidence and even improving your game?
Nat chats with one couple who does it regularly, and hears from sex therapist Lisa Torney about how it can be great for your relationship... if you do it safely.
Imagine if your mum started making porn... but it was like, Berlin, kinky stuff, knives, ropes, wax play.
Well that's exactly what Morgana Muses did. She went from sad Albury housewife to award-winning alt pornstar — and she's helping change the way we see diverse bodies in porn.
Now her remarkable story is being told in a documentary, so Nat's chatting with Morgana and the film's co-directors Josie Hess and Isabel Peppard ahead of its release.
We do performance reviews as part of our jobs, we have house inspections, and we get our cars serviced on the reg.
So why don’t we assess our relationships in the same way?
We're looking at how to health-check our relationships, why we should, and how clinical psychologist Andrew Fuller's CPR model can prevent our love from flat-lining.
Let’s talk about boners.
Erections, or the lack thereof, are pivotal to a lot of people’s sex lives. But they don’t have to be.
Whether you have trouble getting it up, or you’re always in tentpole mode, it’s important to understand what’s going on with your dick.
Sex therapist Dr Christopher Fox joins Nat to help answer everything you ever wanted to know about hard-ons.
Say you’re getting really into someone you’ve been dating, only for them to tell you, "Sorry, I just want to keep it casual..."
But what the f**k does that actually mean?
Relationships counsellor Clinton Power and sexologist Chantelle Otten join Nat to suss out what it really means to be casually seeing someone, when it works, when it doesn't, and what to do if someone catches feels.
For the past four years, Jamie Morton has been reading the porno his dad wrote to the world through the wildly successful podcast My Dad Wrote A Porno.
Ahead of their second Australian tour, Nat chats with Jamie about knowing your parents’ kinkiest fantasies, the cringe and fascination with bad erotica and why we shouldn’t take sex so seriously.
Do you reckon it’s OK to talk about your ex around your current partner?
Exes can be a big part of what makes you who you are. But at what point can you say enough is enough?
Psychosexual therapist Jacqueline Hellyet and psychologist and Director of Relationships Australia Elisabeth Shaw join Nat to chat about what's reasonable, what's not, and how to discuss the ex in a new relationship.
It can be really daunting to seek out a sex worker if you’ve never done it before.
How do you know who’s going to be right for you? How do you negotiate payment? And is it even legal?
It can be really tricky knowing where to start, so to break it all down for you, sex worker Lucie Bee and Scarlett Alliance CEO Jules Kim join Nat in the studio.
We all know festivals are the perfect place to get loose and hook up. But while they're usually amazing experiences, they can also come with risks.
Dr Phillip Wadds, Senior Lecturer in Criminology the University of New South Wales, has co-authored a report that investigates Safety, Sexual Harassment and Assault at Australian Music Festivals.
Dr Wadds joins Nat to chat about why this is still such a big issue and what needs to be done to make festivals safer for everyone.
Splendour in the Grass is just around the corner and let's be real ... everyone knows there’s more to festivals than just the music.
But why do we froth over festival hook ups so much? And what's the best way to go about it?
Nat chats with a panel of experts - who all met their current partners at festivals - to suss out all the dos and don'ts of festival love.
Do you think smart is sexy? Are you aroused by intelligence? You might be a sapiosexual.
What do you do with your hair down there? Maybe you pluck it, maybe you wax it, maybe you’ve lasered it all off…
But why are we so obsessed with removing our pubes, and has it always been this way?
Nat tackles those questions and learns how everyone can embrace whatever landscaping they choose … and how to deal if a partner can't get around it.
When it comes to preventing pregnancy, there are plenty of methods to choose from.
But if you’re over the pill or contraceptives that involve taking hormones, what are your options?
Dr Clare Boerma, Associate Medical Director at Family Planning NSW, joins Nat to lay out all the options, weigh up the pros and cons, and help you decide what's best for you.
Being in a new relationship can make you feel crazy… colours are brighter and you're all "heart-eyes emoji". All. The. Time.
But that New Relationship Energy — or NRE — usually won't last, so how do you enjoy it without losing yourself and your perspective?
It's a question Nat's been asking herself as she rides that intense "honeymoon phase" buzz of her new relationship, so she's got psychologist Gemma Cribb into the studio to answer all her questions.
Around two-thirds of same-sex attracted guys have experienced abuse in a relationship. But most of them aren't reporting it, or even talking about it.
That's what the Sorting It Out report, released by ACON and Western Sydney University, has found.
Nat examines a culture of silence, a lack of resources and looks at what needs to change.
Do you believe in soulmates? Are you looking for The One?
Out of eight billion people, the chances that there's one other person for you are pretty skint. But plenty of millennials are amping up their search for The One.
Dr Lauren Rosewarne and psychologist Melanie Khashadorian join Nat to debunk The One, talk soulmates and what the search for your "other half" can do to your relationships and mental health.
We all get tired of the whole dating game at times, but for people with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS) or Myalgic Encephalomyelitis (ME), it’s a whole different level of exhaustion.
CFS/ME can leave a person with a whole bunch of symptoms — physical exhaustion, mental exhaustion and muscle fatigue being just a few.
Cat O Dowd, a sex therapist who lives with chronic fatigue syndrome, joins Nat to talk about navigating dating, relationships and sex around CFS/ME.
Have you ever dated someone for the perks? Free gig tickets? A sweet beach house? Maybe even a valid driver licence?
Heaps of people do it, so it can be tricky to know if someone’s with you for you — and not the perks.
Sexologist Amanda Lambros joins Nat to get right into that, plus why so many of us do it, even though we know it's wrong.
Have you heard of subspace?
It's very specific physical feeling — similar to a drug-like high — which you can enter through BDSM play. But it doesn't come without its risks.
Pro dominatrix Mistress Tokyo and holistic counsellor Bianca Wolff join Nat to talk all things subspace — what is it, how it works and how to get there safely.
CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains stories of pain, violence and sexual assault. If it brings up any issues for you, call Lifeline on 13 14 11 or call 1800 RESPECT for 24/7 support.
Getting rejected absolutely sucks. It’s one of our absolute greatest fears when it comes to dating, but it’s also inevitable.
Psychologist Stephen Andrew and clinical psychologist Crysta Derham join Nat to talk dealing with rejection, how to dish it out gently and how to take it on the chin and get back in the dating game.
Belgian psychotherapist Esther Perel is a giant in the world of sex and relationships.
Her groundbreaking therapy work with couples around the globe, her writing and her unflinching podcast Where Should We Begin? have revealed the conflicts between our expectations and the reality of long-term human relationships and sexuality.
While in Australia as part of Vivid Live, Esther joined Nat in the studio to unpack — and rethink — everything we’ve come to assume about dating and relationships.
Does your partner sleep talk? Maybe they hog the covers. Or their snoring means you’re up all night.
Whatever it is, it’s stopping you from enjoying some precious shut-eye.
In this episode, Sleep Health Foundation's sleep physician Dr David Cunnington and psychotherapist Dr Zoë Krupka join Nat to hear about all your partners' annoying sleep habits, how to work on those issues and why we even feel the need to sleep together in the first place.
Have you ever had a threesome? They're becoming more and more popular these days.
And for a large proportion of heterosexual couples, a bisexual woman is considered the perfect third. Rare. A unicorn, if you will.
In this episode, bisexual advocate Ruby Susan and sex and relationships therapist Lisa Torney join Nat to talk about unicorn hunting, why it can be so hurtful for the unicorns and how all couples should be behaving when seeking a third.
We all know how great masturbating is when you’re really feelin’ your fine self... but what about when things don’t quite go to plan? You can end up feeling a whole lot more than you bargained for.
Whether it’s not cleaning your toys, using the wrong materials for your body, or flat out putting things where they’re not supposed to go, we look at all the things that can go wrong so you can get it right in the self-love department.
Do you know your butt plugs from your dildos? How about your rabbits from your penguins?
Today is International Masturbation Day and we're giving you a crash course on everything you need to know about sex toys — the different categories, how to use them on yourself and even how to introduce them into partnered sex.
You know the feeling when you're chatting with someone really cute, maybe you've been on a few dates and everything's going great, but then they just ... disappear?
You're left feeling cold and alone, and wondering what happened. Hey, that’s why they call it ghosting!
Sexologist Dr Nikki Goldstein joins Nat to chat what you should do if you're being ghosted, why we ghost people and what we should all be doing instead.
It can be pretty easy to get stuck in a rut if you masturbate the same way every time. After all, if it works, it works!
But did you know changing up your solo routine can actually make partnered sex better?
Sex therapists Tanya Koens and Dr Chris Fox talk fresh approaches, from orgasmic yoga to breathing through your anus — and why it's a good idea for everyone to try shaking it up while shaking one out.
You've probably heard of a hunger strike, but have you ever heard of a sex strike?
Actress Alyssa Milano recently called for all women to go on a #SexStrike in protest against a new abortion law in Georgia in the United States.
The idea's had some pretty mixed reactions, but it got us thinking about withholding sex — does it work? Is it a good idea? Is it abuse?
Lecturer in Criminology Dr Bianca Fileborn and psychologist Mai Dao join Nat to get to the bottom of all those hairy questions.
Fights, arguments, disagreements… they're an inevitable part of most relationships.
But did you know it's possible to have a good fight with your partner? That is, one you can both win.
Sex therapist Tanya Koens teaches you how to turn your frustrating fights into productive ones, and why all conflicts are valid, no matter how 'dumb' they seem.
Why is it still so taboo to talk about flicking the bean or yanking the chain?
Masturbation is one of the best expressions of self-love out there, but there are heaps of people who experience feelings of guilt and shame every time they do it.
Lecturer in sexology, Amanda Lambros, and author of Masturbation in Pop Culture, Dr Lauren Rosewarne, join Nat to break down that stigma of masturbation and make it OK to talk fapping with your friends and lovers.
We often hear things like "relationships take work", but how do you know when it's time to stop working at it ... and just walk away?
It was a question Nat had to ask herself several times before recently ending her relationship of more than six years.
In this episode, psychologists Gemma Cribb and Clinton Power chat about when it's time to call it quits, when you should stick it out, and whether there's ever a right time to break up.
We all know sex is considered to be one of the best stress relievers out there, but it can also be a major cockblock when you're too stressed to even get in the mood.
We chat with sex therapist Lauren White to unpack why it happens, how to talk about it and some tips for you and your partner to get out of your heads... and into your bed.
Do you reckon it’s a dog move to sleep with your best mate’s ex? The age-old Bro/Girl Code is thought to be an uncrossable line, but why?
We hear from listeners who have been on different sides of the debate and chat with sex therapist Jacqueline Hellyer to decide if it's ever OK to break the Bro Code, and how to have that conversation if you do.
When was the last time you had a sexual health check? If you have to think hard about your answer, it might be time to make an appointment.
Sexual health expert Dr Vincent Cornelisse joins Nat to answer all your burning questions about chlamydia... what to look for, how to prevent it, and what to do if you find out you have it.
Ever felt like one relationship isn’t quite enough for you? You’re not alone.
In this special bumper episode, we answer all your qus about consensual non-monogamy — that is, having multiple relationships and everyone being consenting and cool with it. How to open your relationship, how to get started, how to deal with jealousy and more.
Have you ever thought about starting a business, writing a song, or collaborating creatively with your partner?
It can be a dream, but it can also be a nightmare. Nat chats with one couple who's been making it work for more than a decade with their business Taste Creative, and Relationships Australia's Elisabeth Shaw drops in to take a good look at how to make stuff with the person you love... without wanting to kill them.
You should never feel ashamed to have sex, but if you grew up being told sex was sinful or wrong, you might still be shouldering a lot of guilt when you have it.
Sex therapist Cat O Dowd joins Nat to unpack where those feelings come from and how to deprogram all that shame to enjoy sex without feeling like you're doing something wrong.
This Easter, we're all about eggs ... and we don't just mean the chocolate ones.
We dive deep into the oviposition kink — a fetish where you're really into the idea of having eggs laid inside of you — and chat with the creator of an ovipositor sex toy to learn where the appeal comes from and what it feels like to have an 'alien' lay eggs inside your bits.
Sex writer and SBS Viceland's Slutever creator Karley Sciortino proudly owns her sluthood.
After more than 10 years covering sex for Vogue and Vice, she's got some real insights into the state of modern sex and pursuing guilt-free pleasure.
Karley and Nat sit down, sexplorer to sexplorer, to chat about how to embrace your sexuality and truly own being a slut.
Do you have a type when it comes to dating? Most of us seem to, but maybe it's not always a good thing...
We take a look at why people have types and whether we should break out of our usual types every now and then to meet someone completely different.
By now you've probably heard of catfishing — the online practice where someone lures you into a relationship by creating a fake online persona or pretending to be someone else.
In response to the tragic catfishing case involving Home and Away actor Lincoln Lewis, we look at the ongoing effects of catfishing, how to protect yourself online and how to catch a catfish in the act.
First dates are already pretty awkward ... so imagine having one onstage in front of an audience of strangers.
That’s the premise of comedian Bron Batten’s show Onstage Dating, which has been running as part of the 2019 Melbourne International Comedy Festival.
We take a look into the weird and wonderful world of first dates and find out what it's like to go on more than 100 dates in front of a gawking audience.
While hook up culture has lots of people screwing whoever they match with — and power to 'em — there's a whole bunch of people who need some emotional connection to feel turned on.
The word for it is demisexual. We look into what it means, why it's popping up everywhere and where demis actually fit on the broad spectrum of sexuality.
We absolutely froth over a sexy voice, but have you ever thought about why?
We dig into that and what actually makes a sexy voice, plus we'll hear from one of Australia's sexist voices to find out how she uses it to her advantage in the bedroom.
They say f*** the haters, but maybe that’s your thing...
It makes sense to bond over common interests, but it also feels so damn good to connect over people and things you just can't stand.
We take a look at why a good bitch sesh is such a great bonding exercise, and dating app Hater — which matches people over their mutual hatred — to suss out whether it's actually a good basis for a relationship.
It’s pretty common to be allergic to bees or dust or peanuts, but what happens when you’re allergic to cum?
Allergies to latex, lubes and even each other’s fluids can really put the brakes on your sexy times, so we look at strategies for dealing and staying safe.
Dating already seems complicated enough, right? But if you’re transgender, hooking up can be a whole world more difficult — and even dangerous.
To celebrate Transgender Day of Visibility, we’re looking into the challenges trans and gender non conforming people can face when dating, plus how to tackle those challenges to have great love and sex.
We all want sex to hurt so good, but what do you do when it just plain hurts?
For heaps of people, bodily issues like endometriosis or vaginismus, or even stress and anxiety can leave you feeling like sex is always going to suck.
But it doesn't have to — we're looking at how to turn pain into pleasure with sex therapist Tanya Koens and triple j Good Nights' own Bridget Hustwaite, who talks on how she navigates sex with endo.
Is love really written in the stars? Or is astrology just a load of crap?
Astrology is having a meme moment, but the question is why, and should you let the position of Venus determine your love life?
Spiritual self-care coach Jerico Mandybur and social commentator Dr. Lauren Rosewarne help us understand what the horoscopes actually mean and whether they have any real value for dating.
It’s terrifying, right? How do you cross the line over from friends to more than friends? It’s pretty much the definition of awkward - but you know what they say: big risk, big reward.
Psychologist Gemma Cribb helps with all the friendship dilemmas and meet a bunch of besties who made love work.
Aphrodisiacs are a concept that have persisted since ancient times… but is there much to them?
This episode is all about aphrodisiacs: what they are, whether they work, what to avoid, and what to try out. We're consulting the experts on what kinds of foods can you eat to improve your sexual prowess and pleasure.
If you've lost interest in sex due to stress or feeling too wired, mindfulness could help.
Intersex describes a really diverse group of people who share a ‘variation’ in sex characteristics, hormones, chromosomes or genitalia. So how do you navigate the dating world when you have an intersex variation?
This year’s Mardi Gras theme is Fearless, but how do you learn to be fearless in love and life?
You might have seen people widening and stretching their earlobes with gauges, but did you know some people do that to their buttholes?
If you had a rough Valentine's Day because your mind is stuck on your ex, this one's for you.
Whether it’s Romeo and Juliet, Edward and Bella, Grimes and Elon Musk, we’re mad for a great love story. But why?
If you’ve had to be away from your partner for any amount of time, you know it’s pretty hard, but what do you when you’re at a long distance for the long haul?
How's your libido? Perhaps you're horny all the time, or maybe you can never get into the mood.
Break ups are pretty horrible, but it doesn’t mean they aren’t sometimes worth it.
Thanks to a certain pop star, there’s been a lot of chat lately about why we should be grateful for our exes rather than just bitter. Find out why when we're joined by a psyc.
Dating after a break up can be hard as it is, but imagine dating when you’re single because your partner had passed away.
Many young people have experienced losing a friend or family member, but it’s rare to be a widow in your 20s. Find out the challenges faced and how to overcome them.
If you’ve used drugs before, you might be aware of the way drugs alter your sense of state, and if you’ve used a lot of drugs, you might be aware of how addictive and potentially destructive they can be. Add sex to the mix, and it could be one nasty cocktail.
Recently we were contacted by Bryce, who’s in his mid-twenties and is recovering from a chemsex addiction… where drugs such as crystal meth are used during sex.
CONTENT WARNING this podcast contains strong language and drug references, it also may be triggering to those who have experienced drug addiction.
People with intellectual and cognitive disabilities can love sex and want to be in relationships as much as anyone else. But there can be obstacles to making these relationships to happen.
Find out what those barriers are and how to overcome them.
Featuring:
Amie O'Shea, Research Fellow in the School of Health & Social Development, Deakin University Natasha Alexander, clinical psychologist, specialises in working with people with intellectual or cognitive disabilities Linda Stokoe, peer educator, sexual lives and respectful relationships program at Deakin University
It’s just three little words, eight letters. So why do we find it so damn hard to say ‘I Love You’? The build up to it can feel excruciating, and what do you do if you say it, and the person you love doesn’t say it back?
Featuring relationships therapist Desiree Spierings.
If you get your period regularly, you might be all around the menstrual cup, and prefer it over traditional hygiene products like tampons or pads…
Find out what the rage is about these “period keep cups” and why you might want to try one too.
You might be excited to be free of high school, and away from your parents, but you can get into some hairy situations at schoolies...
If you’re in your 20s and in a long term relationship, there’s a good chance you haven’t been in a relationship with anyone else. You might not have even had sex with anyone else…
So it’d be reasonable for you to think “is there anything else out there, or is this is - forever?”... Find out if the relationship break is for you.
If you’re a guy in your 20s, your fertility or the ability to get someone pregnant is probably not something you’re worrying about.
Seeing we’re at the end of Movember, a month raising awareness for men’s health, we thought we’d take a look at male infertility myths… are things you’re doing now potentially screwing things up for your future self?
If there’s one STI that has people asking question after question, it’s HPV or genital warts. We find out all about it with Dr Brad McKay.
Transitioning your gender is not a decision one takes lightly… but when you’re experiencing gender dysphoria, how do you know when the right time to transition is, or if you should at all?
It’s November and some of you might be taking part in no-fap or no-nut November where you don’t masturbate for a whole month.
Find out if taking a break can be good for you, if it’s even worth it, and why this no masturbating for a month is even a thing.
Featuring Dr Lauren Rosewarne and sex therapist Gemma Cribb.
Last month, 28-year-old Melbourne boy Jack Chapman passed away. He was in a sub/dom relationship with a guy in America - where he’d been living.
Find out how you can manage your sub/dom relationship and make sure it doesn't take over your life.
Featuring Dr Lauren Rosewarne, kink educator Aleni De Viate and kink-friendly GP Dr George Forgan-Smith.
Find out why we aren't using condoms as much as we should, and how to negotiate using one when you're getting hot and heavy.
Have you been dating someone for ages to suddenly find they remind you heaps of your Mum or Dad? It seems like your worst nightmare, ending up with someone like your parent, but how common is it?
Hear from a psych on whether it’s common for us to be attracted to people who act like our parents, and how we can break the cycle.
Roleplay is a pretty good way of shaking things up during sex. Being someone else in the bedroom can be super sexy. Find out how to do it, and do it well.
Sometimes, you might be having sex and wonder whether your lover is actually enjoying it, or just letting you do your thing. If it’s the latter, it doesn’t come across all that enthusiastic, and that can have you wondering whether it’s really consensual. So what’s the deal in this situation?
Turns out there’s a way you can work all this out. It’s by using the wheel of consent
Have you been in a relationship where you think everything’s going fine, but then all of a sudden your partner thinks they’re not good enough for you? Find out how to deal with that, and if you're the one feeling you're not good enough, how to improve your self worth.
A report out recently revealed that gay conversion therapy has been happening in Australia since at least the 70s. And more surprisingly it's still happening.
It comes under the banner of ‘ex-gay’ therapy, which is the idea in a few religious sects and communities that same-sex attraction is a disorder you can treat or heal.
They might try and ‘pray the gay away’ with therapy or counselling; it can be formal like a program, or informal like just having your pastor tell you that you’re possessed by a demon. In the US, 14 states have now banned it and there’s a push for it to also be banned here as well.
Meet two young Australians who have come out the other side and hear advice from a counsellor.
Support: Freedom2b https://freedom2b.org/
Syphilis, a disease that we’d nearly eradicated, is back and has been on the rise in Australia every year since 2010, with rates having more than tripled in the last 8 years. So what is it, how can you protect yourself, and why is it returning with a vengeance?
Sometimes you need a bit of help getting in with someone new at a party or the club. Well that’s what friends are for. So how’s your wingman game? You’ll hear from sex and relationships therapist Amanda Lambros on what the best way to approach is.
If you were dating someone and it turned out they had to move cities, even countries, be it for work or study or family, you basically have three options: break up, do it long distance, or move for your partner.
So how do you make it work?
Say you’re in a relationship, but you’ve been watching cam girls stripping, or wanking on chatroulette without their knowledge. Maybe you were looking at porn, or hiding a secret sex toy?
Do you feel guilty not telling your partner? Does it count as cheating?
Have you ever been in a situation with your partner, where you’re about to head off somewhere but you have a few minutes to kill, so you think, hey, why not have a quickie?
If you don’t know what you’re doing, you might leave a quickie feeling unsatisfied, sex therapist, Chantelle Otten is here to help so you can have a safe and sensual quick sesh.
Making out in the street or having sex in your hotel might be something we can do freely and safely here at home, but it can get you in trouble in many popular locations we go on holidays too. It could get you in jail or even deported. We get the lowdown with Chris Zeiger from Lonely Planet.
Plus, being overseas can make you more vulnerable to sexual assault. How do you deal with it when you’re so long from your friends and family? We speak to sex therapist Chantelle Otten.
When you’re holidaying overseas, it’s a pretty good opportunity to have some fun. But being in a foreign place can also leave you vulnerable. What do you do if something goes wrong?
Featuring: Cynthia Pollard - clinical nurse consultant, Marie Stopes Australia
How much do you really know about orgasms? Learn about how your body reacts, what different orgasms there are, and the best ways to help your partner get there. Featuring sex educator Georgia Grace.
Gay, bi and trans dating app Gridr launched Kindr this month, a campaign against racial discrimination on its platform. We’re looking at the dating experiences of queer people of colour, why there’s so much in your face racism and what we can do about it.
Recently, Sir Paul McCartney of the Beatles revealed a bit more than we bargained for in a GQ interview about sex acts he’d performed in front of his writing partner, John Lennon. Which lead us to ask, how many of us masturbate with our mates and is there anything wrong with that? Featuring lecturer from the School of Political and Social Sciences at the University of Melbourne, Dr Lauren Rosewarne.
Ever thought of putting a steel rod into your urethra for sexual pleasure? Sounding can be done no matter what genitals you have. You’ll hear from Mistress Tokyo on what’s involved with this act and why it might be best left to the pros, and producer James Findlay goes to a sounding workshop to see how to sound a penis first hand.
While it’s rough being cheated on, what’s it like to be the ‘other lover'? How can you reconcile the conflicting feelings around being that person, hoping that one day they might leave their partner and be with you? You can also find yourself in a spiral of thoughts finding reasons to justify your actions…
If you’re having sex with a partner and they don’t cum, do you feel inadequate? Not cumming during intercourse is usually something we associate with cis, hetro women, but it happens to a number of guys as well. It can leave the guy feeling unsatisfied and leave their partner feeling like they’re not good enough. Especially when guys are assumed to cum all the time.
You’ll hear from a couple of guys who just can't cum during penetrative sex, and from a sex therapist on how this problem works and how you might be able to fix it.
Have you ever experienced clinginess in a relationship or have stayed with someone because you’d rather not be alone? It might be because of something that happened when you were just a kid.
Learn about the fear of abandonment and attachment styles when a psychologist drops by and hear how a listener's fear of abandonment has been effecting his relationships.
Have you ever used a blindfold during sex? How about mummification? Ok that’s more extreme, but both these things are classed as sensory deprivation. You’ll hear about how playing with your senses can make sex a bit more interesting.
You may have heard of people having a leather fetish, but have you heard much of rubber and latex fetish? It’s where you wear special latex and rubber costumes.
Can you imagine how hard they might be to put on…?! You'll meet Mistress Mynx, a kink personal trainer and latex enthusiast and a young Melbourne guy who became the country's first Rubberman and then went on to be the runner-up in the International Rubberman competition.