What if you could transform negativity and fear into the highest form of inner and outer triumph? You can do this with the power of LoveQ, your innate Love Intelligence.

LoveQ is the union of self-love with the loving energy of the Higher Nature, also known as God or Spirit.

On this week's episode of Love University, we explore how to tap into the innate source of compassion and goodness: the Higher Nature within you.

Here are three ways:

Reconnect with Your Higher Nature
This is the most authentic part of your mind and soul, where love and wisdom naturally reside. When you draw from this inner source, you no longer feel that you must struggle through life alone. Instead, you discover a reservoir of strength that helps you face challenges with greater peace and confidence. The more you recognize beauty and kindness in everyday life, the more you awaken your LoveQ and experience the caring intelligence at the heart of the universe.
Break Free from Spiritual Disconnection and Bad Me
Two powerful Thought Demons, critical inner voices, seek to separate you from your Higher Nature. They are Spiritual Disconnection (alienation from your inner truth) and Bad Me (not good enough). These malevolent forces try to convince you that you are alone and unworthy of love. Together, they create loneliness and self-doubt, weakening your connection to the loving energy that sustains you. As you reconnect with your Higher Nature, these destructive voices gradually lose their influence. Self-acceptance replaces self-condemnation, while compassionate unity replaces isolation.
Discover the Friend Within
A beautiful description of the Higher Nature comes from Sufi tradition. It is called the Friend, the one who never condemns or abandons you. Instead, they encourage, comfort, and remind you of your true nature. The more you strengthen your relationship with the Friend, the more naturally you express patience and kindness toward yourself and others. Eventually, you discover a life-changing truth: the Friend has never been separate from you.

You are, and always have been, the Friend, the ultimate source of your truth and power.

Rejoice: The Higher Nature within you arises.

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What if the answers to your biggest problems were right there at your fingertips?

On this week's episode of Love University, Dr. Avila reveals the secrets to solving life's seemingly unsolvable problems. He answers your most pressing questions about love, loneliness, happiness, and finding your purpose. Although you may have spent years searching for answers outside yourself, the truth is that lasting change begins within. As you strengthen your Invincible Mind, the part of you that refuses to be defeated, you activate your inner power and begin to take charge of your life.

Here are three important lessons from this week's discussion:

Find Love by Becoming More Loving
People often ask how to find someone to love and how to overcome loneliness. The answer is to become the person you want to be with. Instead of waiting for someone to complete you, develop your natural talents and extend loving energy to others without expectation. When you do this, you transform loneliness into connection. The more love you express, the more love returns to your life.
Build Your Invincible Mind
When life becomes frustrating, you may ask, “Why is this happening to me?” A better question is, “How can I strengthen my Invincible Mind?” Self-defeating thoughts create the circumstances you struggle against. As you replace fear and self-doubt with peace and inner love, you begin to live invincibly and achieve your dreams.
Happiness Begins Within
You may believe that happiness depends on finding the perfect relationship, career, or opportunity. In reality, lasting happiness grows from a deeper source: your Invincible Mind. As you begin to trust your inner knowing, you will find the answers you are seeking.

Always remember: The peace and fulfillment you seek is already inside you. Just look and you will find it. Be invincible.

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What if the answers you've been searching for have been inside you all along?

On this week’s episode of Love University, Dr. Avila answers some of your most important questions about love, loneliness, happiness, frustration, and personal growth. Many people spend years searching for external solutions to inner struggles, only to discover that lasting change begins with a different way of thinking. As you strengthen your Invincible Mind, many of life's biggest problems begin to dissolve because you’re approaching them from a higher level of understanding.

Here are three powerful lessons from Dr. Avila’s answers to your questions:

Love Yourself First and Loneliness Loses Its Power
People often ask how they can find someone to love, or how can they overcome loneliness. The answer lies within. When you become comfortable with yourself and develop your natural talents, your neediness begins to disappear. Instead of desperately searching for someone to complete you, you become a whole person who naturally attracts healthier relationships. One of the fastest ways to dissolve loneliness is by extending loving energy outward. Help someone who is hurting. Encourage a lonely friend. Volunteer your time. As you give love without expectation, you discover that the love you were searching for has found its way back to you.
Change Your Thinking Before You Try to Change Your Circumstances
Many unfavorable situations begin long before the circumstances themselves appear. They often grow from self-defeating thoughts that shape your choices, relationships, and expectations. Instead of asking, "Why does this always happen to me?" ask, "How can I strengthen my Invincible Mind so I respond differently next time?" As your thinking improves, your decisions are more favorable. Better decisions create better circumstances. Your future begins to change because you have changed the person creating it: You.
Happiness Comes From Within
Many people believe that happiness depends on finding the perfect relationship, career, income, or opportunity. Those experiences can add satisfaction to life, but lasting happiness comes from a much deeper source. Like the sun, you can choose to shine regardless of changing circumstances. When your peace depends on what happens inside your Invincible Mind, you become emotionally stronger and more resilient. Instead of searching endlessly for happiness, you become a person who naturally radiates it wherever you go.

Now it’s your turn. Stand up and proclaim: I am ready for life’s challenges. I am Invincible.

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Do you know you can learn a secret power from dogs that will change your life?

It is called extending loving energy without expectation. On this week’s episode of Love University, we explore how dogs offer a simple but profound lesson in elevated human connection. They give affection freely, stay emotionally present, and express warmth without constantly calculating what they will receive in return. You can benefit greatly when you apply this kind of unconditional loving energy in your relationships, work, and everyday interactions.

Here are three ways to utilize the dog love secret in your own life:

Show Genuine Interest in Other People
Dogs pay close attention to humans. They follow them, observe them, and stay emotionally engaged. Human beings often do the opposite, becoming trapped in self-consciousness and constantly thinking about their own worries, appearance, or needs.

One of the most attractive qualities you can develop is the ability to display sincere interest in others. Ask people about their goals, passions, struggles, and dreams. Listen carefully instead of waiting for your turn to speak. When you focus on others with curiosity and empathy, people feel seen and appreciated. That emotional connection naturally draws them closer to you.

Bring More Enthusiasm Into Daily Life
Dogs greet life with enthusiasm. They play, explore, run, jump, and approach ordinary moments with excitement. Adults often lose that spirit through routine, stress, and emotional heaviness.

Enthusiasm changes your emotional presence. This week, aim to be more playful and laugh more freely. Enjoy spontaneous moments and approach life with greater openness and less rigidity. People will be drawn to you when you radiate energy, warmth, and humor.

Do Nice Things Without Keeping Score
Dogs show affection naturally. They comfort people, stay close during difficult moments, and offer companionship without worrying about what they will receive back. Your relationships become more loving and joyful when you give in a similar spirit.

You can have a tremendous emotional impact on others when you offer a kind word, listen empathetically without judgement, and help someone through a hard time. When you give from your genuine goodwill rather than hidden expectations, you strengthen both yourself and those you help. This creates more rewarding relationships, greater emotional peace, and a deeper sense of fulfillment.

Start today. Apply the loving energy of the dog and learn the secrets of authentic connection. Love without expectation and your world will be transformed

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What if loving without expectation could activate your inner power and fulfill your dreams?

On this week’s episode of Love University, we explore the secret to your triumph in life: extend love without expectation. Many people give love because they want something back, then they’re disappointed when they don’t receive what they were expecting. Things are different when loving energy flows naturally from your core. You become impervious to the reactions of others. You access your inner flame and restore the health and happiness in your life.

Here are three ways to practice this principle in daily life:

Be Like the Sun
The sun shines on everyone and everything: the young, the old, the pretty, the no so pretty, the poor and the rich. Some people love the sun and lay out to receive its rays; others avoid it and cover up. But the sun doesn’t get mad or feels hurt if some people dislike it. It just keeps shining. In the same way, be like the sun. Be kind and loving to others regardless of how they respond to you. When you shine your loving energy without thinking of what you will get back, you become more powerful and inwardly accepting. You radiate kindness and goodwill because that is who you really are.
What Type of Nice Are You?

When you’re nice to yourself but not to others, you’re self-absorbed. When you’re nice to others and not yourself, you’re self-diminishing. When you’re nice to both yourself and others, you are a high loving energy person who has a great relationship with everything around you. When you’re truly kind, you know when to be generous and when to be firm. Your warmth is authentic because it reflects your balanced inner nature.

Love Without Fear
Fear grows when you become emotionally attached to specific outcomes. But when you love without expectation your life elevates. You realize there is no fear in giving, there is only fear in taking. When you focus on getting something from life or other people, you’re always worried that you won’t get enough, or that what you have will be taken from you. Love without expectation brings the comfort and security back into your emotional life. You give from the abundance of the love you have inside. When you do this, you will always win.

Start today to extend love without expectation. Smile at others, pay sincere compliments, help in practical tasks, listen empathetically without judgement. Be like the sun and spread your warm and caring everywhere you go. Your world will be brighter and more joyous than ever before.

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When was the last time you felt truly spontaneous?

On this week’s episode of Love University, we explore the life-changing power of spontaneity. Children and animals naturally live in the moment. They laugh, play, explore, and react with openness and curiosity. As adults, many people become trapped in routines, repetition, and overly serious living. Spontaneity helps you reconnect with the lighter, freer, and alive parts of yourself that become buried beneath stress and obligation. With more spontaneity, you experience more creativity, fun, and success in your inner and outer life.

Here are three ways to bring spark and exuberance back into your life:

Recapture the Playful Energy of Childhood
One of the fastest ways to awaken spontaneity is by spending time with your children and animals. They naturally embody joy and presence and invite you into their world of fun and exploration. Playing games, running outdoors, being silly, or simply relaxing without an agenda soften rigid mental patterns that build up through adult preoccupations. As you reconnect with your playfulness, your mood lightens and everyday frustrations lose much of their emotional weight. Life begins to feel open, relaxed, and enjoyable again.
Play All the Keys on the Mental Piano
Many people become emotionally stuck because they play one key on their “mental piano”—they keep repeating the same negative thought, for example, "I can't find success." A healthier and more expansive approach is to play all the psychological keys, including thoughts of gratitude, compassion, joy, curiosity, and hope. As your emotional flexibility increases, your resilience and creativity rise as well. Instead of being trapped inside one note of negativity, you create a richer and more uplifting psychological life.
Enjoy the Easy Roll of Life
Many people exhaust themselves trying to force relationships and opportunities to happen exactly the way they want. The “easy roll of life” teaches a different approach. Imagine that what you want, a certain outcome, is like a rock. Instead of desperately chasing the rock (person or situation) uphill, allow it to roll naturally downhill to you. You trust that the right people and circumstances will move toward you in the proper time. This mindset reduces strain, anxiety, and emotional pressure. You remain focused on your goals, but you stop trying to control every detail. As you relax into the rhythms of life, your intuition becomes sharper, your creativity increases, and you have better results than ever before.

Spontaneity can help you break free from rigidity and enable you to experience life with greater enjoyment and vitality. When you play through life while still taking your responsibilities seriously, you find the perfect balance. You live your dreams with pure joy and fulfillment.

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On this week’s episode of Love University, we continue exploring the principle of Reversal and how paradoxical action can radically change the quality of your life. Instead of exhausting yourself by forcing outcomes, Reversal introduces a wiser approach. By changing how you relate to time, adversity, and even your own thoughts, you begin opening possibilities to better your life in a powerful way

Here are three reversals that can transform your life:

Get Your Time Back by Giving It AwayModern life teaches people to guard their time obsessively, yet rushing makes you feel emotionally depleted and disconnected. Reversal teaches that your experience of time expands when you invest it meaningfully in people and experiences you genuinely value. Sharing an unhurried conversation, spending relaxed time with family, helping others, or simply enjoying a quiet moment restores a sense of presence and spaciousness. Life begins to feel fuller, calmer, and more enjoyable.
Be Grateful for the Bad as Well as the GoodPainful experiences often contain life-changing lessons. Loss, disappointment, and hardship can deepen your appreciation for love, friendship, and the fragile beauty of life itself. When you begin looking for the meaning inside difficulties, your emotional perspective widens and your resilience grows stronger. Gratitude becomes more mature because it now includes both the joys of life and the wisdom gained through struggle.
Remove Thoughts That Weaken YouYou may carry mental habits that quietly drain your energy. These include perfectionism, fear, and regret. Reversal teaches you to separate yourself from destructive patterns rather than automatically believing them. As you stop identifying with fearful or self-critical thoughts, your mind becomes steadier, and your confidence more grounded. Over time, you begin experiencing a freer and stronger version of yourself.

Paradoxical action can help you reverse frustration and overcome mental self-sabotage. Start today. Do the opposite of what you’ve been doing to receive the greatest prizes in life: joy, inner mastery, and love.

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What if the secret to your success was to do the opposite of what you’ve been doing?

On this week’s episode of Love University, we introduce a powerful principle called Reversal, a complete turnaround of your old patterns to produce superior results in your relationships, finances, career, and personal life. When effort alone is not making things better, you need a complete transformation of the way you’ve been doing things, a reversal of your usual habits and behaviors.

Here are three ways to apply this practice to your daily life:

Make Friends with What You RejectYou may have spent years pushing away parts of yourself you believed were weaknesses, without realizing those same traits carry hidden strengths. A short attention span can indicate quick energy and the ability to move efficiently between tasks. A strong desire for approval can show a natural ability to connect with others and build relationships. As you redefine these traits, you stop working against yourself and begin using your natural tendencies in more productive ways, creating ease and effectiveness in your daily life.
Turn Fear into Forward MovementFear has a way of keeping you mentally frozen by focusing your attention on what could go wrong. Instead of waiting for fear to disappear, consider how you would act if you trusted your ability to handle the situation. Then act like that. Now your focus moves toward progress, and each step builds confidence. Over time, you rely less on how you feel in the moment and more on your ability to act despite the fear. This emboldens you and lets your joy soar.
Give Yourself Space Instead of PressureWhen you constantly push yourself without pause, your energy begins to decline and your thinking becomes less clear. This leads to frustration and reduced effectiveness. By giving yourself space to step back, rest, and reset, you have better focus and stronger performance. Returning with renewed energy allows you to feel good about yourself and enjoy what you’re doing. With increased contentment and internal balance, your results will be successful and your satisfaction will rise.

In the end, reversal is about taking pressure off yourself and changing your stuck momentum into forward progress. The paradox of life is that by redirecting your energies toward your loving growth, you create the conditions for outer excellence. Step into the power of Invincible You and you will achieve your greatest dreams.

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Is money working with you, or is it working against you?

On this week’s episode of Love University, we delve deeper into the concept of Loving Money Energy (LME) and how your relationship with money shapes your life. LME is the concept that money is a form of loving energy that can be used to uplift yourself, others, and the world. When you treat money with tension, fear, or desperation, the loving energy flow becomes restricted. When you circulate it with a mindset of care and goodwill, it spreads to others and flows back to you.

Here are three ways to strengthen your relationship with Loving Money Energy:

Treat Money Like a Friend, Not Something You Chase

Many people approach money with urgency and pressure. They chase it, hoard it, and worry about its loss. But this often pushes money away from you.

Think of money as a friend. If you invite a friend over and have delicious snacks, a fun environment, and provide good conversation, they will want to come back. But if you demand they come with gifts, they will likely stay away.

Money is like a friend you need to nurture and cultivate. Just as people are drawn to individuals who are warm and generous, money tends to follow those who create value consistently. Money becomes your friend when you attract it with your talent and contribution, not neediness or craving.

Build Bonds, Not Transactions

Every exchange carries emotional weight. Business interactions are not only financial. They are relational.

You may slightly overpay a merchant or vendor to create bonds of cheery affinity. Think of the overpay as helping them—perhaps with their child’s college education or their elderly parents’ medical bills. Chances are, they will return the favor by offering you a discount in the next transaction. Even if they don’t, you have created a loving energy space for money to come back to you, perhaps through another person who also projects a LME generous spirit.

Stay Generous, Stay Disciplined

Generosity does not mean passivity. It requires awareness and strength. There will be individuals who attempt to take advantage of your goodwill. Recognizing this does not require anger or withdrawal. It needs clarity.

When you maintain both generosity and firmness, your decisions become balanced. You can give where there is mutual respect and withdraw when there is manipulation. This preserves your LME and keeps your relationships aligned with your values. Over time, this approach filters out unstable connections and strengthens those built on trust and loving reciprocity.

With loving money energy, you spread goodwill, value, and contribution throughout your community and ultimately the world. LME is what helps us surpass limitations and live our most invincible lives.

Extend Loving Money Energy in your daily life, and you will experience a deeper sense of abundance and purpose. For more self-wisdom, make sure you pick up a copy of Invincible You on Amazon at https://tinyurl.com/3y3szh27

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Would you like to experience wealth that expands your life and the lives of others?

On this week’s episode of Love University, we introduce a powerful concept called Loving Money Energy (LME). LME is a way of seeing money as an expression of loving energy that moves from person to person, recognizing value and enriching lives along the way. Instead of viewing money as something to fear, chase, or control, it becomes a conscious exchange of appreciation, contribution, and human connection.

When you understand money in this way, your relationship with it begins to change. You move from tension to flow, from pressure to purpose. Money becomes part of a larger system of giving and receiving that reflects how you live, create, and contribute.

Here are three ways to understand and activate Loving Money Energy:

See Money as a Flow of Value and Appreciation

Money represents value in motion. When you express your abilities, your effort, or your creativity, you receive something in return that reflects that contribution. When you give money, you’re acknowledging the value created by someone else.

This perspective changes how you interact with money on a daily basis. Instead of treating it as something separate from your life, you begin to see it as an extension of your actions and your intentions. It becomes a tool for reinforcing what you value, supporting what matters, and participating in a continuous exchange that connects people in meaningful ways.

Shift from Scarcity to Expansion

A scarcity mindset creates tension. It keeps your focus on what is missing, what could be lost, and what others might take. That mindset contracts your thinking and limits your willingness to act.

An expansion mindset opens your perception. You begin to see possibilities where you once saw limits. You become more willing to create, to invest your energy, and to move forward with confidence. As your thinking expands, your actions follow. You stop operating from hesitation and begin operating from positive expectations. This shift alone can transform your internal state and your external results.

Give and Receive with Awareness

Loving Money Energy grows through circulation. When you give with awareness, even in small ways, you reinforce the flow. You begin to experience yourself as someone who contributes rather than someone who holds back.

The quality of your giving matters. When giving is driven by pressure or expectation, it creates friction. When it comes from clarity and openness, it strengthens your sense of abundance. Over time, this approach reshapes how you experience both earning and giving. You begin to trust the flow instead of resisting it, and that trust creates a more stable and empowered relationship with money.

Learn how to apply Loving Money Energy in your daily life, and you will experience a deeper sense of abundance and purpose. For more self-wisdom, make sure you pick up a copy of Invincible You on Amazon at https://tinyurl.com/3y3szh27

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Would you like to expand your life instead of feeling confined by it?

On this week’s episode of Love University, we explore what it means to live with an Expansion Mindset, a way of thinking and being that steadily increases your energy, clarity, and emotional range. When your mindset expands, your life expands with it. Your perception sharpens, your relationships deepen, and your sense of possibility widens. Expansion is not something that happens occasionally; it’s a daily orientation toward growth, contribution, and higher living.

Here are four ways to develop and sustain your Expansion Mindset:

Expand Your Energy Through Growth and Contribution

An Expansion Mindset begins with the decision to grow beyond your current limits. You look for opportunities to learn, to experience, and to contribute. You listen more attentively, help when you can, and remain curious about the world around you. As you stretch your thinking and behavior, your internal energy increases.

This process creates a powerful effect. The more you give, learn, and engage, the more energy you generate. Your mental state becomes brighter and more stable. Everyday experiences become richer. Food tastes better, conversations deepen, and simple moments carry more meaning. Expansion transforms ordinary life into something more vivid and rewarding.

Use Expansion to Break the Cycle of Contraction

When your mindset contracts, your world narrows. Attention turns inward in an unhealthy way. Small concerns become overwhelming. Negative thoughts repeat. In this state, energy decreases and your sense of possibility fades.

Expansion reverses this pattern. Instead of withdrawing, you extend your energy outward. You connect with others, engage in meaningful activity, and move your attention beyond your own concerns. This outward movement restores perspective and reduces the intensity of negative thinking, reopening access to creativity, motivation, and hope.

Expand Your Energy in Difficult Interactions

Expansion is most important when you’re dealing with challenging people. When someone approaches you with anger or negativity, their energy contracts. If you react in the same way, the situation escalates. But if you expand, the dynamic changes and things become more positive.

Expansion in this context means maintaining calm awareness while matching presence and intensity without hostility. You remain steady, you maintain eye contact, and your words stay measured and constructive. This combination of strength and softness interrupts the other person’s pattern. In many cases, their intensity decreases because your expanded energy fills the space their contraction created. Now communication becomes possible again.

Develop a Blast Off Mentality and Sustain Momentum

Expansion accelerates when you commit focused bursts of effort to break through resistance. Like a rocket escaping gravity, you apply concentrated energy to move past initial obstacles. Once that barrier is crossed, momentum takes over and less effort is required to continue.

This can be done through small, focused actions. Break large tasks into manageable segments. Direct your attention toward what matters most each day. When you enter a state of flow, remain there as long as possible. Over time, this sustained momentum creates a self-reinforcing cycle of progress. Each success strengthens your belief in your ability to continue.

Remember: As your mindset expands, your life grows with it. Start today with the Expansion Mindset. For more self-wisdom, make sure you pick up a copy of Invincible You on Amazon at https://tinyurl.com/3y3szh27.

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Would you like to have an unstoppable relationship?

On this week’s episode of Love University, we explore one of the most decisive factors in long-term happiness and relational success: the psychological level of the people you choose to build your life with. Relationships are not neutral. They either strengthen your inner world or weaken it. They either expand your LoveQ or drain it. The difference is not based on status, wealth, intelligence, or surface chemistry. It comes down to emotional maturity and inner development.

Here are four core principles for creating unstoppable relationships:

Learn to Recognize Invincibility Seekers

Invincibility Seekers are individuals committed to inner growth. They work on their thoughts, emotional reactions, and character. They cultivate compassion, patience, confidence, and integrity. When you’re around them, you feel steadier and more grounded.

These individuals do not need to dominate conversations or prove superiority. Their strength is calm and contained. They handle conflict with maturity. They’re kind whether they gain something from you or not. Their presence encourages you to become better without pressuring you to perform. Over time, being aligned with Invincibility Seekers elevates your own psychological level and deepens your capacity for lasting love.

See Through the Masks of Negativity Seekers

Negativity Seekers are people who complain, gossip, and maintain a negative outlook on life. Don’t be fooled. They can appear attractive and charming at first. They may be witty, confident, and engaging. Yet beneath the surface, there is often chronic criticism, entitlement, and emotional volatility. Their kindness frequently depends on what they are receiving.

Watch how someone behaves when they can no longer get something from you. Do they remain respectful, or do they become dismissive and hostile? Negativity Seekers often thrive on behind the back talk, argument, and drama because it gives them stimulation and a false sense of power. Over time, their instability drains the emotional reserves of those closest to them. Recognizing this early protects your peace and keeps you from being in a relationship that can cause you long-term damage.

Protect Your Psychological Integrity

It is not always possible to avoid Negativity Seekers. They may be coworkers, relatives, or even romantic partners. In these cases, emotional boundaries become essential. You must learn to separate your internal state from their external behavior.

Refuse to accept anger, gossip, or criticism as emotional currency. When negativity is offered, decline it internally. Maintain composure and steadiness. When you refuse to absorb their emotional turbulence, you conserve your energy and preserve your Invincibility. Your inner power remains intact because you don’t sacrifice your integrity for temporary approval or excitement.

Attract Your Own Level of Development

People connect at similar psychological levels. Insecurity attracts control. Criticism attracts defensiveness. Emotional immaturity attracts chaos. If you repeatedly encounter draining relationships, examine your own internal standards.

As you strengthen your self-respect, emotional control, and self-compassion, your relational landscape changes. You stop tolerating behavior that diminishes you. You begin attracting individuals who operate from stability, growth, and generosity. Invincibility Seekers recognize one another because they share a commitment to development and integrity. When you become the kind of person who values growth and emotional strength, you naturally align with others who do the same.

An unstoppable relationship with an Invincibility Seeker is your greatest prize. Start developing one today and your life will rise with love and joy. For more self-wisdom, make sure you pick up a copy of Invincible You on Amazon at https://tinyurl.com/3y3szh27.

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What if you could create inner greatness by designing your personal imprint of invincibility?

On this week’s episode of Love University, we learn how inner power begins by implementing your Invincibility Blueprint—your inner guide to excellence. At its core, this mental roadmap strengthens your capacity to act from self-love and higher intention rather than impulse or fear.

Here are three foundational components of your Invincibility Blueprint:

Do One Right Act and Build Momentum

Inner strength begins with a single intentional decision. It may be as simple as starting a task you’ve postponed, initiating a difficult conversation, or committing to one disciplined improvement in your health, finances, or relationships. That first right act carries disproportionate power because it alters your internal narrative. You move from thinking about change to enacting it, from hesitation to alignment.

Over time, these small, consistent actions accumulate and your confidence grows naturally. Each right act reinforces self-trust and self-affirmation. Your momentum builds quickly and your Invincible Blueprint takes form as you choose growth over comfort and authenticity over avoidance.

Become a Mental Pathmaker Through Repetition

Every repeated action deepens a neural pathway. The behaviors you practice most frequently become the easiest to access. When you repeatedly choose constructive routines, you gradually replace old patterns with new ones that better serve your long-term goals and higher nature.

With continued repetition, what once required conscious force begins to operate with greater ease. Ultimately, your Invincibility imprint becomes part of how you operate rather than something you’re striving to become. You begin acting from your true self without strain.

Expand Beyond Contraction

When your energy contracts, your positive perception narrows. Regret fixes attention on the past, anger distorts judgment, and self-doubt limits initiative. In that contracted state, your field of possibility shrinks and your forward motion slows.

Expansion requires a deliberate reinterpretation of difficulty. You see challenges as instruction and setbacks as learning experiences. You begin asking what this moment is shaping within you rather than what it is taking from you. As your soul grows, your creativity resurfaces and your willpower is strengthened. In time, your self-love deepens and your inner power grows.

Now your Blueprint for sustained excellence is ready, and your mind and spirit are ready to soar.

Welcome to Invincible You.

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What if your power returns the moment you return to the core of your impeccable being?

On this week’s episode of Love University, we continue the exploration of the Hara, your psychological and energetic centerpoint of balance, intuition, and grounded strength. In Part 1, we introduced the Hara as your internal anchor. In Part 2, we go deeper into the discipline of living from that anchor. Focus is not accidental. Stability is not random. Inner authority is cultivated. When you operate from your Hara, your life gains direction and steadiness without strain. You stop chasing energy and begin conserving and directing it.

Here are three ways to deepen your Hara focus and strengthen your inner command:

Guard Your Attention and Direct Your Energy

Hara focus begins with disciplined attention. The people you associate with often influence your emotional baseline. Calm, patient, purpose-driven individuals strengthen your center. Chronic exposure to outrage, sensationalism, and negative narratives fractures it. Your concentration is a finite resource. When it is scattered across gossip, endless scrolling, or catastrophizing, your power weakens.

Every deliberate action rebuilds realignment. When you make each move purposeful, you begin to concentrate your forces. Nervous energy decreases. Your breathing steadies. You think more clearly. Over time, your presence gains power. Instead of reacting to every stimulus, you become selective about what deserves your response. Energy that once leaked into distraction gathers into strength.

Create a Hara Focus Statement and Live From It

Power increases when direction becomes clear. A Hara Focus Statement is a short declaration of what your life is organized around. It may center on service, creativity, leadership, faith, family, or mastery of a craft. When you define it and revisit it daily, your decisions simplify. Competing impulses lose intensity. You stop drifting.

History shows us that focused individuals concentrate their energy around one guiding aim. Lincoln focused on freeing the slaves. Martin Luther King Jr. concentrated on civil rights. Florence Nightingale dedicated herself to healing with compassion. Their clarity multiplied their force. The same principle applies personally. When your mission is defined, setbacks no longer scatter you. They refine you. Each obstacle becomes part of the path rather than proof of defeat.

Stand in the Centerpoint and Integrate Your Extremes

The Hara is your emotional midpoint. Between arrogance and insecurity lies grounded confidence. Between aggression and passivity there is self-respect. Between despair and fantasy you find mature optimism. Living from the Centerpoint allows you to hold these opposites without being torn apart by them.

Before long, you begin to see that disappointment and fulfillment are connected. High expectations create the possibility of both. Small expectations reduce risk but also limit expansion. When you stand in the middle, you stop fearing either outcome. Time loosens its grip. You no longer feel chased by the future or haunted by the past. You live in the present moment with full awareness, drawing from memory and vision without being dominated by either.

When you return to the core of your impeccable being, distractions lose their pull and pressure loses its grip. What remains is steadiness, clarity, and the quiet authority of someone who knows exactly who they are.

Also, make sure you pick up a copy of Invincible You on Amazon at https://tinyurl.com/3y3szh27.

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What if your deepest source of confidence, clarity, and peace has been within you all along—quiet, steady, and waiting to be activated?

On this week’s episode of Love University, we explore the ancient yet profoundly relevant concept of the Hara—a center point located two inches below the navel, long recognized in Eastern traditions as the wellspring of intuition, balance, and inner power. In martial arts, practitioners who root themselves in the Hara are said to be immovable, not because of physical strength alone, but because they’re grounded in the core of their being. But the Hara is not just for warriors. It’s for anyone who wants to live with presence, be immune to external chaos, and return to a life led by truth and strength. When you center yourself in your Hara, you become your most powerful and authentic self.

Here are three transformational principles for true Hara living:

Live from your gut—not your fear

The Hara is more than just a physical center—it is your emotional and intuitive core. It’s that deep knowing you feel in your body before your brain has time to rationalize or second-guess. When you ignore it, you often find yourself pleasing others, overriding your own needs, or apologizing for your existence. You start living from the head up—anxious, scattered, and disconnected. But when you listen to your Hara, and act on it, your entire decision-making process changes. You no longer need to debate every choice endlessly. Instead, you center yourself, you feel, and you act with certainty. Whether you’re navigating a difficult relationship, a career shift, or a personal crossroads, your Hara becomes your compass—steady and grounded in your truth.

Self-unity is where real confidence begins. Many people walk through life as two versions of themselves: the outer self that tries to gain approval, while the inner self quietly suffers, resenting giving up their true nature. This self-division drains energy and creates emotional exhaustion. You can’t live in your Hara while living a double life—you need full self-integration. When your thoughts, actions, and words align, something powerful happens: you no longer second-guess your worth. You stop chasing validation and trying to prove your worth. Now your calm becomes unshakable because your identity is no longer divided. When you’re in the Hara, your self-worth is not something you need to earn—it becomes something you return to.
One-point focus transforms distraction into mastery

In a world of nonstop noise and constant demands, attention is one of your most sacred resources. Without focus, your power diffuses—you end up busy but not effective, active but not fulfilled. The Hara brings you back to one-point awareness—a clear and deliberate focus on what matters most. Whether you're having a hard conversation, pursuing a creative goal, or simply making a daily decision, focusing on your Hara—the balance point two inches below your navel—allows you to cut through mental clutter and move with precious and effectiveness. You no longer waste time chasing superficial goals or dwelling on negative thoughts. You move from “doing more” to “doing what matters”—and as a result, you attract the special ingredients you have been longing for all of your life: Love, joy, and peace.

Also, make sure you pick up a copy of Invincible You on Amazon at https://tinyurl.com/3y3szh27.

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What if your greatest breakthroughs aren’t found in moments of ease—but in the middle of chaos, confusion, and the challenges you’re facing right now?

On this week’s episode of Love University, we return to the powerful concept of your Reservoir of Invincibility—the deep well of strength, peace, and purpose that lives inside you, even when you don’t feel it. In Part 2, we explore how to access that inner power when life doesn’t cooperate—when you’ve been knocked down, disappointed, or tempted to give up. The truth is: you don’t need to escape hard times to grow stronger. You need to move through them with awareness and intention. That’s how your Invincible Mind, the You that cannot be defeated, is forged.

Here are three powerful ways to activate that inner reservoir, even in your lowest moments:

Use failure as resistance training for the soul

Failure hurts—but it’s also feedback. When approached with courage, failure shows you what needs to change, what you truly care about, and what kind of strength you’re capable of building. It’s not the defeat that breaks you—it’s the belief that failure defines you. Instead of shrinking, start seeing each setback as emotional resistance training. Like a gym for your mind, failure forces you to engage new muscles: humility, problem-solving, determination. And just like in physical training, the more intentional reps you take, the stronger you become. You stop fearing the fall—because you know how to get back up, smarter, clearer, and more grounded than ever before.

Transform “Poor Me” into “Blessed I”

The self-pity voice says: “I’ve suffered too much. I’ve missed my chance.” But the Invincible Mind asks: “What’s still good? What’s still working?” When you focus on gratitude—real, lived appreciation for your good—you don’t deny your pain; you reframe it. You begin to see your life not as a series of losses, but as a field of lessons. And when you shift your energy from self-focus to outward service—by helping someone lonelier, struggling, or in need—you experience a powerful exchange. You stop feeling like a victim of life and start living as a contributor to it. That mindset alone can restore your energy, deepen your relationships, and reconnect you to your grand objectives.

Walk in the light—slowly, steadily, and on purpose

To walk in the light is to live with truth and love as your compass. It means you choose peace over drama, clarity over confusion, and presence over perfection. This isn’t a one-time declaration. It’s a daily discipline. Every time you respond with patience instead of anger, kindness instead of defensiveness, and honesty instead of hiding—you strengthen your light, your emotional and spiritual power. And, unlike the quick emotional highs of distraction or escapism, this kind of light builds slowly and lasts. It's not flashy. It’s foundational. With every steady step, you align your inner life with your outer actions—and that’s when you begin to feel whole and powerful again. Rejoice. Your reservoir of Invincibility is waiting for you—ready to rise. All you have to do is return to it.

Listen to the full episode now to discover how to turn pain into progress, setbacks into strength, and self-doubt into unstoppable inner power. Also, make sure you pick up a copy of Invincible You on Amazon at https://tinyurl.com/3y3szh27.

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What if your greatest power isn’t something you need to chase—but something already within you, quietly waiting to be claimed?

This week on Love University, we delve into the concept of your Reservoir of Invincibility—the deep, untapped core of strength inside you. It’s the mental and emotional wellspring that holds your most powerful states of being: peace, confidence, resilience, clarity, compassion, and purpose. When life overwhelms you, this internal reservoir is where you go to reset, refocus, and re-emerge stronger than ever before. But to access it, you need to learn how to think, feel, and act from a place of intentional mental mastery.

Here are three life-changing ways to unlock your inner power:

Build Relentless Confidence—True Inner Knowing

Relentless Confidence is the engine of your Reservoir of Invincibility. It’s not about inflated ego or blind positivity—it’s about an unshakable knowing that you can handle what life brings. It starts with where you put your attention. Do you constantly rehearse your flaws, failures, and fears? Or do you actively remind yourself of your talents, past wins, and inner resources? Relentless Confidence means choosing to believe that more is working for you than against you. When you face challenges, you don’t collapse under the weight of fear—you lean into your strength, calmly and clearly. You stop inflating problems and start expanding your perspective. The more you train your mind to focus on what is working, instead of what is not, the more you reclaim authority over your inner world—and the more you realize that you’re bigger than whatever obstacles stand in your way.

Become a “How Thinker”—Because Solutions Require Direction, Not Doubt

Your inner power reveals itself in the way you respond to setbacks. Most people spiral into “if” thinking: If only I hadn’t failed... If I were more disciplined... If I were younger, smarter, luckier, more attractive... But “if” thinking leads to paralysis. It drains your emotional fuel and feeds helplessness. In contrast, “How Thinkers” immediately shift their mental lens to How can I come back stronger? How can I learn from this moment? How can I turn this situation into a moment of transformation? That single shift from if to how changes the emotional chemistry of your mind—rewiring your default response from reaction to strategy. “How Thinkers” don’t deny pain; they use it. They turn breakdowns into breakthroughs because they refuse to stay in passive mode. They live in motion, not hesitation. And that motion activates the very strength they thought they had lost.

Discard the Mental Junk—So Your Power Has Room to Flow

No matter how gifted you are, your inner reservoir can’t serve you if it’s clogged. That clutter—old regrets, guilt, resentment, fear—acts like emotional debris that blocks your access to clarity and peace. The good news? You don’t need to fix everything overnight. You just need to start making trades. Exchange peace over anger. Discipline for impulse. Truth for denial. Focus for scattered anxiety. When you do this, you're not giving up anything of value—you’re letting go of the thoughts and habits that have kept you small. You begin to clear space for your true identity to rise—a grounded, sustainable state of being. Every time you release a self-defeating thought, you expand the reach of your Invincible Mind. Every time you choose a higher emotional state, you draw deeper from the reservoir of love, success, and happiness that’s been waiting for you all along.

Listen to the full episode now on Love University and learn how to build a mind that doesn’t collapse under pressure, but expands in power and joy. Also, make sure you pick up a copy of Invincible You on Amazon at https://tinyurl.com/3y3szh27.

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Are you a high achieving man who is crushing it in your career—yet feeling powerless at home, disconnected from your family, or weighed down by old patterns?

On this week’s episode of Love University, we sat down with Mitchell Osmond—trusted advisor, executive coach, and host of The Dad Nation Podcast (www.dadnationco.com)—to unpack how high‑performing men can break through personal struggle, reclaim their health and relationships, and build a legacy that matters with their loved ones. After overcoming his own challenges—being overweight, deeply in debt, and nearly divorced—Mitchell has spent over a decade helping men and their partners bridge the gap between success in the boardroom and success at home.

Here are three powerful insights from our conversation:

Transformation begins with ownership—not escape.

Mitchell’s journey wasn’t linear: he was 50 lbs. overweight, nearly $100K in debt, and in a failing marriage when a simple question shifted his life: If you died today, would you be proud of your legacy? That wake‑up call inspired him to take ownership—rebuilding his body, restoring his marriage, and realigning his finances. Today he teaches that confronting personal truth head‑on—not numbing with distractions—is the first step toward growth. His story shows that recovery and performance aren’t just about willpower—they’re about clarity of purpose.

Men’s suffering at home reflects disconnection—not weakness.

Mitchell highlights a stark reality: a significant number of men are highly effective at work but emotionally disconnected at home. Statistics show that when they get home, many men spend thousands of hours a year on screens and face rising loneliness—moreover, having an absent father (mentally or physically) strongly correlates with negative outcomes for children. The Dad Nation movement provides a solution by helping men build emotional connection with their partners and children—teaching that strength isn’t just productivity, it’s being present, listening, and meeting emotional needs. That integration of ambition with emotional awareness is what fuels lasting success.

Winning in life requires a holistic, actionable framework.

What separates success from stagnation? Mitchell offers a four‑pillar approach that aligns ambition with fulfillment:

Relationship Solidification — making your partner feel seen, heard, and safe.
Body Renovation — disciplined health and fitness for energy and confidence.
Mind Transformation — intentional focus on time, energy, and emotional fitness.
Goal Implementation — clear, purpose‑driven objectives that shape daily action.
He emphasizes that confidence doesn’t always come first—it’s often the result of consistent effort in mind, body, and relationship.

Whether you’re a dad, a mom, or even a single person, these four pillars can help you overcome stagnation and achieve your full potential. Your life of integration and holistic success begins now.

Follow Dr. Avila @dralexavila on Instagram and also, make sure you pick up a copy of Invincible You at https://tinyurl.com/3y3szh27

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On this week’s episode of Love University, we’re joined by Anne Abel, acclaimed memoirist, storyteller, and TikTok inspiration, whose book High Hopes (https://tinyurl.com/3bhmfb9t) recounts one woman’s unexpected reinvention. After decades of treatment-resistant depression—including psychiatric hospitalization and electroconvulsive therapy (ECT)—Anne made a single, life-changing decision: she said “yes” to a solo 26-day trip to Australia to follow Bruce Springsteen on tour. That journey, at age 60, became far more than an adventure. It was the beginning of a full emotional reawakening.

Here are three powerful insights from her story:

The Cure to Sadness May Be as Simple as One “Yes”

For much of her adult life, Anne lived behind a wall of emotional numbness. Highly educated, married, and outwardly functional, she moved through the world with deep internal pain. Therapies had come and gone. ECT helped, briefly. But nothing truly shifted—until she gave herself permission to act on something instinctual. That “yes” to a Springsteen concert tour—unreasonable, unplanned—became a way back to her authentic, powerful self.

Healing Begins When You Stop Waiting to Feel Ready

Anne didn’t fly to Australia because she felt courageous. She did it because she knew she couldn’t stay in the life she was living. Surrounded by strangers in packed Springsteen arenas, she found something she hadn’t felt in years: vitality, meaning, and self-validation. The music, the lyrics, the crowd energy—they stirred emotions that had long been locked away. Bruce didn’t just perform—he mirrored her back to herself. She began to feel, to connect, to hope. That alone was its own kind of healing.

You Are Not Defined by Your Past—Unless You Keep Replaying It

High Hopes is more than a travel memoir. It’s a guide to emotional renewal, bold reinvention, and reclaiming your voice after years of silence. Anne shows that transformation doesn’t require perfection—it needs permission. Through movement, music, and saying “yes” before she felt “ready,” she rewrote her narrative. Depression may have shaped her past, but it no longer had the final word. Her life began again when she stopped waiting for conditions to be perfect—and chose to live anyway.

You can follow Anne’s example by listening to your intuition and saying “Yes” to the calling of your soul.

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What if you could use the energy of anger to create peace instead of conflict?

This week on Love University, we explore how to use Anger—one of the most volatile forces in the emotional universe—for healing and empowerment. Often mistaken for strength, irrational anger is actually a form of reactivity that drains your mental energy and damages your relationships. Drawing from his book Invincible You, Dr. Avila offers practical strategies for mastering what he calls the Anger Weakness—the tendency to be consumed by frustration and irritability when you feel blocked from your desires and wishes.

Here are two key approaches to shift from anger to empowered calmness:

Use grounding and empathy to transmute anger

You don’t have to suppress your anger—you can learn to redirect it. When you stay physically grounded and emotionally aware, you can turn reactive energy into emotional strength. For example, instead of clenching your fists and raising your voice during a tense conversation, take a slow breath, plant your feet firmly on the ground, and steady your tone. This simple act calms your nervous system and keeps your mind clear; you hold your ground without aggression. In addition, make sure you recognize the humanity in others, even during disagreements. This approach not only protects your serenity—it also deepens your self-control and helps you build stronger, more respectful relationships.

Treat anger like a color until it disappears.

The true goal isn’t to erase anger—it’s to transform it. When anger arises, you can choose non-reaction: Feel the fire, but don’t fuel it. Say to yourself, “I’m experiencing a certain color at this moment. Some call it anger, but I see it as a color, for example red. I will allow myself to momentarily feel its hot intensity, but I won’t do anything about it. I will simply let it pass through me until its fierceness vanishes.” Over time, this emotional mastery over anger builds what Dr. Avila calls the Invincible Mind—a state of calm strength in which you acknowledge emotions without being overpowered by them. From this place of ultimate strength, you will transmute anger into fuel for positive change and upward soul elevation, culminating in the most wonderful of gift of all: Peace.

Learn how to manage anger with clarity, wisdom, and self-mastery. Also, pick up a copy of Invincible You at https://tinyurl.com/3y3szh27.

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What if you could turn regret into wisdom and self-attack into self-love? This week on Love University, we explore how to finally break the grip of regret and live with full freedom and joy.

The Regret Weakness is a subtle but persistent thought pattern—the belief that your past defines your future, and that you’re somehow unworthy of success, love, or happiness because of previous mistakes and failures. Regret, unfortunately, can lead to paralysis, low self-worth, and a repeated cycle of poor choices. But when reframed into wisdom and self-acceptance, it can be one of your greatest sources of strength and clarity.

Here are three essential takeaways from the episode:

Separate mistakes from your identity

Regret becomes destructive when it turns into self-definition. It’s one thing to acknowledge a mistake—it’s another to believe that an error or failure means you’re fundamentally flawed. The Regret Weakness thrives on that confusion. Because of what happened in the past, you begin to believe you're “bad at relationships,” “not cut out for success,” or “too damaged to change.” But the truth is, the version of you who made those past decisions no longer exists. Healing begins when you stop dragging your old identity into your present and realize that the new you doesn’t need to repeat the cycles of the past.

Allow progress without perfection

A common regret trap is expecting overnight transformation—then feeling like a failure when old habits resurface. But growth isn’t linear. You will have setbacks—what matters is how you interpret them. If you shame yourself for every backward step, you reinforce the very patterns you’re trying to break. But when you allow yourself to return, recommit, and realign—without judgment—you build emotional strength. The Regret Weakness loses its power when you understand that healing includes imperfection, and growth encompasses wisdom from lessons learned.

Convert regret into learning and hope

When regret lingers, it’s usually because you haven’t yet mined the wisdom from the experience. You’re stuck in “If only…” instead of “Next time I will…” That shift—looking forward instead of backward—changes everything. Every painful memory contains valuable knowledge: what mattered to you, what you ignored, what boundary you didn’t set. When you uncover that meaning, you create a new imprint—a Loving Memory—where wisdom replaces shame, and acceptance surpasses imperfection. Now regret stops being a chain and becomes a compass to the discovery of your most loving and true self.

The bottom line: Learn how to erase regret and look forward to a glorious and wonderful future.

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What do you do when you’re faced with an insurmountable obstacle? Answer: You act with realistic hope. This week at Love University, we had an inspiring time with Jennifer Dickenson—cancer survivor, wellness advocate, and author of A Case for Hope (https://tinyurl.com/4j2jukn8). In 2011, she was a busy, stressed-out lawyer who was diagnosed with stage 4 brain cancer and told she only had twelve months to live. She recovered and now teaches others how to harness their mind, body, and spirit to create durable well-being. Here are some important things to keep in mind when you’re stuck in an unwinnable place:

Hope Is a Daily Verb

One way to define hope is “focusing on the positive while taking realistic steps toward joy and meaning.” Genuine hope begins with practical optimism. You expect the best while also planning for contingencies and unexpected occurrences. In this way, you’re prepared but positive; realistic yet optimistic.

Train Your Attention on Small but Steady Goals

Big numbers—diagnoses, timelines, statistics—can paralyze you. The antidote is to work on the small numbers you can control. Begin with the smallest winnable action: a five-minute walk when your energy is low; talking to a friend for a short while when you’re lonely; reading a few pages of a spiritual book when you need inspiration. Remember: Your attention is your remedy. Focus on the things that empower and heal you: meditating, praying, exercising, listening to music, spending quality time with loved ones, or practicing a relaxing bedtime ritual (turn off devices 30 minutes before sleep). When you do these things, you will be refreshed and energized, ready to look forward to tomorrow with renewed hope and enthusiasm.

Laughter Is a Great Medicine

Laugher can save your life. Norman Cousins, the renowned journalist and author, combined humor films with medical care during a serious inflammatory illness. He recovered and wrote a classic book: Anatomy of an Illness. It’s true: Humor can lighten your life and help you gain perspective. Start this week: watch funny shows, go to a comedy show, or play improv games with your friends—the laughter that ensues will enlighten your mind and lift your spirits.

In the end, rebuilding your life is about practical, optimistic, and repeatable steps. Choose one healthy thing you can do today—do it before noon, and let tomorrow build on it. Your life will grow with hope and happiness.

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What if you could transform your rushing and impatience into peace, clarity, and real accomplishment?

This week on Love University, we explore how to do exactly that. In a world addicted to speed and urgency, many people are unknowingly ruled by what Dr. Avila calls the Rush Weakness—the inner pressure to do more, faster, all the time. But rushing rarely leads to real progress. Instead, it drains energy, clouds thinking, and invites mistakes. The good news is that this mental habit can be transformed into a deeper strength known as the Mind of Patience.

Drawing from his class book, Invincible You (https://tinyurl.com/3y3szh27), Dr. Avila teaches you how to replace reactivity with calm direction so you can stop racing against time and start living with purpose.

Here’s how transformation begins:

Recognize the Rush Weakness as a fear-based habit

Rushing feels productive, but it's often driven by fear—fear of falling behind, missing out, or not doing enough. It masquerades as urgency but creates inner tension and impulsive decisions. Transformation begins with awareness: noticing when the Rush Weakness is controlling your pace, and realizing that calm action often leads to better results.

Train your patience like a mental muscle

Patience is not passivity. It’s a deliberate, focused mindset that brings clarity under pressure. A key tool in building this strength is the “Choose the Longer Line” exercise: intentionally standing in the slower queue to recondition your tolerance for waiting. By facing down the discomfort, you gain control over your impulses and strengthen emotional resilience.

Shift from rushing to rhythm

When guided by the Mind of Patience, your actions become more grounded. You stop chasing time and start managing energy. This shift leads to fewer mistakes, less stress, and greater clarity. Results come not from moving faster, but from aligning thought with purpose—and trusting that the right outcomes will unfold when approached with steadiness and focus.

Learn how to break free from the Rush Weakness and step into a new pace of life—one built on patience, presence, and sustainable achievement.

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Is it possible to start over after you've already lost time, made mistakes, or fallen behind? Yes, it is.

This week on Love University, we explore what it takes to reclaim your inner strength—even if life has knocked you down, again and again. Based on key principles from Dr. Avila’s acclaimed Invincible You book (https://shorturl.at/vfeRI), this episode reveals three essential secrets for developing an Invincible mindset of power, healing, and resilience. Regardless of your past, you can make a comeback. And the truth is: It’s never too late.

Here are the three secrets we explored in this episode:

Transform Your Pain into Power

Pain is energy—raw, intense, and deeply personal. But it doesn't have to define you. When reframed as meaning and lessons learned, pain becomes fuel for your success. Emotional setbacks, failures, and even long-standing regrets of your past can be converted into forward motion. Real-life stories remind us that suffering can bring insight and shift priorities, like the workaholic father who rekindled family love by spending more time with them after a near-fatal accident. Healing begins when you stop resisting pain and start using it as a tool for awakening and growth.

Learn From the Greats Who Overcame Adversity

We grow by learning from those who have turned adversity into purpose. People like Marla Runyan (blind Olympian), Stephen Hawking (physicist with ALS), Malala Yousafzai (activist and Nobel Peace Prize winner), and Nick Vujicic (motivational speaker born without limbs) didn’t just survive hardship—they transformed it into meaningful impact. Studying how they thought, adapted, and moved forward helps you develop the mindset you need to overcome challenges with strength and purpose.

Keep Walking Forward

Progress is rarely in a straight line. Some days bring setbacks. Other days give you forward progress. But every step counts. The biggest trap is believing you need to feel ready to begin. Don’t fall for it: the time to being your inner development is now. Self-doubt and delay are part of the old programming—the self-defeating mind that says “wait until it’s easier.” But change happens by acting, not waiting. Taking two steps forward and one step back still means you're advancing. Keep moving, taking small chances, and advancing toward your goals. Even small wins build momentum, bringing you closer to the life you dream about.

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Why do we deliberately seek out fear—only to feel more alive afterward?

This week on Love University, we’re exploring the psychology of horror with acclaimed supernatural thriller author Monica Kastle, creator of the Cascade Wolves series. Known for suspenseful plots, richly layered characters, and emotionally intelligent writing, Kastle crafts stories that don’t just scare you—they awaken something deeper in your mind and heart.

Here’s what we uncovered about why fear fascinates us—and how her novels hook into our most primal wiring:

Fear is our brain’s rehearsal room.

Monica’s novels serve as controlled “threat simulators.” When we read scary scenes, the amygdala—the brain’s fear center—fires off as if we’re in danger. But the rational brain knows we’re safe, creating a unique tension loop. That loop, according to National Geographic, helps us process stress more efficiently. Horror fans often show greater emotional regulation and resilience—because they’ve practiced fear in a safe container.

Kastle’s work gives readers that exact laboratory: fear without real harm, emotional risk without real loss. And the payoff? A psychological sense of mastery.

The adrenaline-to-euphoria connection.

Kastle’s books build suspense through rising tension, then release it through resolution. This taps into what scientists call excitation transfer: the idea that physiological arousal (like increased heart rate and sweaty palms) intensifies whatever emotion follows it. So when the monster disappears—or the hero survives—we feel extra relief, even joy.This adrenaline -to-euphoria payoff is hardwired in us. It’s why scary stories can be strangely uplifting. Monica’s smart layering of supernatural danger and emotional stakes creates exactly this effect—fear that leads to catharsis (emotional release).

We learn from the worst-case scenario.

Horror stories are deeply instructive. We unconsciously collect survival strategies as we read: What would I do in that cabin? Would I trust that character? How would I escape that pack of wolves? This “morbid curiosity” isn’t unhealthy—it’s evolutionary. Research during COVID-19 showed that horror fans were more psychologically prepared for uncertainty and threat.

Kastle's readers aren't just along for the ride. They’re gathering intel. Her fiction activates our learning brain while thrilling our emotional core.

Fear sharpens connection.

One of the most fascinating psychological effects of horror is called misattribution of arousal. It means we can confuse fear for attraction. In a famous 1974 study, men were more likely to feel romantic interest after crossing a dangerous suspension bridge than a safe one. That’s because fear spikes adrenaline—which mimics the symptoms of romantic excitement.

Kastle’s Cascade Wolves plays on this beautifully. Tense survival scenes mirror this “bridge effect,” where readers find themselves rooting not just for safety—but for slow-burn intimacy. Fear and empathy merge, drawing us closer to the characters and to ourselves.

From fear to growth.

In Cascade Wolves, Kastle’s heroines don’t just run from fear—they grow through it. This mirrors what psychologists call “coping rehearsal.” Just as physical exercise strengthens the body, scary stories help train emotional muscles. Readers learn to manage panic, slow their breathing, and stay alert in high-pressure moments—all while sitting safely on the couch.

That’s the deeper brilliance of Kastle’s work: her stories aren’t just entertainment. They’re emotional conditioning.

Monica Kastle uses the language of fear to teach courage, deepen empathy, and rewire how we experience stress and safety. If you’ve ever wondered why we love scary stories—or how they help us heal—this episode will change the way you think about horror.

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Would you like to live like a champion—someone who consistently wins in life, not just occasionally, but day after day, in every area that matters most?

On this week’s episode of Love University, we explore three key principles that can help you step into your greatness—starting now. Whether you want more success in your relationships, career, finances, health, or mindset, these three simple steps can help you live with more confidence, power, and joy:

Step 1: Turn “Little Bads” into “Little Goods”
Many people are weighed down by self-defeating thoughts: “I don’t have enough time,” “Life is difficult,” or “I can’t find someone to love.” These are the little bads—small, self-defeating messages that accumulate in your thinking and drain your emotional and psychological energy. The key to living like a champion is to notice these patterns and change them for little goods: positive, believable affirmations like “There’s plenty of love and opportunity for me,” or “I have all the time I need.” At first, the negative voices will resist—after all, they’ve lived in your head for years. But, with daily repetition, you will crowd them out and replace them with encouraging, life-affirming thoughts that fuel your actions and elevate your mood.
Step 2: Start with the Easy.
Champions don’t wait for the perfect moment. They begin with what they can do right now. This might mean reading a short article about a new career path, writing the first sentence of a book, or spending just 20 minutes at the gym. Psychologists call these early actions successive approximations to the goal—small steps that build confidence and momentum as you reach your larger objectives. With each completed action, you develop a rhythm of success. As you go from short walks to longer ones, from brief study sessions to deep dives, and from quality conversations to meaningful relationships, you prove to yourself that growth is possible—and that you’re the kind of person who follows through to achieve what you desire.
Step 3: Practice the Power of Discard.
Living like a champion isn’t just about doing more—it’s about letting go of what holds you back. That includes old clothes that don’t fit, obsolete equipment, and cluttered paperwork. Discarding isn’t just physical; it’s psychological. When you clear your external space, you begin to free your internal space. As you throw away objects that no longer serve you, you create mental clarity, self-respect, and room for new, empowering beliefs to take root. The more you let go of what you don’t need, the more power you have to attract what truly matters.

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Have you ever wondered if something as natural—and as ancient—as a mushroom could help you resolve trauma, reduce depression, or even diminish the fear of death?

On this week’s episode of Love University, we met Dr. Stacey Simmons—psychotherapist and certified psychedelic-assisted therapy practitioner (staceysimmonsphd.com). Her work brings together neuroscience and and plant-medicine research. As the author of Mushroom Pharmacy, Dr. Simmons explores how psilocybin and other psychedelics may support emotional healing, spiritual awakening, and brain transformation.

Here are a few highlights from our conversation:

What is psilocybin therapy?
Dr. Simmons explained that psilocybin—the psychoactive compound in “magic mushrooms”—has been used for thousands of years in sacred ritual. Today, it’s being clinically studied for depression, trauma, and end-of-life anxiety. Several U.S. states, including Oregon and Colorado, have already approved regulated use in therapeutic settings.
Microdosing vs. full-dose journeys.
We talked about the difference between microdosing (small, sub-perceptual doses taken regularly) and higher-dose “journey” sessions, which can open people to profound experiences of unity, inner clarity, or even a rehearsal of death—helping some individuals release long-held fear or emotional pain.
The healing comes from preparation and integration.
Dr. Simmons emphasized that psychedelics aren’t miracle pills. Safety, psychological screening, and careful integration afterward are essential—especially for those with conditions like bipolar disorder or schizophrenia, where use is contraindicated.
Beyond chemicals: spiritual repair.
According to Dr. Simmons, psilocybin can temporarily silence the inner chatter of the “monkey mind,” opening space for deep insight, connection, and awe. She believes these moments remind us that we’re more than our bodies—and can reconnect us with a sense of mystery in an increasingly mechanized world.
A new kind of medicine.
With her clinical practice and book, Mushroom Pharmacy, Dr. Simmons invites us to rethink how healing happens—not just with prescriptions, but with purpose, intention, and reconnection to self and nature.

Dr. Simmons left us with a simple reminder: Mushrooms alone may not save your life—but when used with wisdom, they can help you remember how to live it more fully.

🎧 Catch the full interview now on Love University to explore the intersection of brain science, plant medicine, and personal transformation—with one of the most grounded and inspiring voices in the psychedelic wellness space. Also make sure to follow Dr. Avila on Instagram at @dralexavila

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Have you ever carried a family secret so heavy that the only way to heal was to bring it into the open?

On this week’s episode of Love University, we sat down with Richard K. Lowy—international event producer, creative director, and now author of Kalman & Leopold: Surviving Mengele’s Auschwitz (Jan 2025). Through deep, painstaking interviews with his father, Leopold, and his father’s childhood friend, Kalman, Richard uncovers how two Hungarian-Jewish boys—friends by circumstance—survived Josef Mengele’s experiments, served SS guards, endured unspeakable horror, and ultimately reunited more than five decades later.

Here are a few highlights from our conversation:

From stages to testimony. Richard had a successful career producing events for icons like Van Morrison and thought leaders such as Malcolm Gladwell, but says he reached a tipping point: the weight of his father’s unwritten history was greater than the draw of any concert or summit.
The bridge between film and book. His documentary, Leo’s Journey, became the foundation for deeper psychological layers in the memoir—exploring post-traumatic growth, social support as a buffer, gallows humor, and how friendship can serve as a lifeline in extreme trauma.
Friendship as survival, and the science behind it. In the camps, Kalman and Leopold became a “protective pair.” Psychological research supports the concept that in trauma zones, strong dyadic bonds (pairs) lower mortality risk. Richard also explores reciprocal altruism (mutual giving and protection between two people) and how it plays out in survival—each risking for the other, not out of obligation, but from shared trust.
Humor, grief, and truth. The memoir includes moments of gallows humor—dark laughter amid horror. Richard says that while the book risks jarring readers, it was essential to preserve the emotional authenticity of his father’s voice.
Tragedy as a platform for inspiration. With his media appearances and public speaking, Richard’s mission is to turn sacred memory into living purpose—raising witnesses, protectors, and storytellers to resist forgetting the unforgettable.

Always remember Richard’s lesson we need to learn: suffering doesn’t just require remembrance—it demands witness, action, and connection.

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Have you ever faced something so traumatic that it felt impossible to move forward—and wondered how anyone could choose optimism in the aftermath?

On this week’s episode of Love University, we sat down with Jenna Edwards—actor (Buffy the Vampire Slayer), award-winning producer, and mental health advocate—who survived the tragic 2003 Santa Monica Farmer’s Market crash and the years of debilitating PTSD that followed. Jenna is the bestselling author of Aggressive Optimism, host of the Aggressive Optimism Podcast, and founder of Jenna Edwards Media, where she helps creators turn their hardest stories into uplifting content.

Here are some important elements of Aggressive Optimism:

From tragedy to triumph. Jenna recounted the harrowing Farmer’s Market crash—when she witnessed an elderly driver plowed through the crowd killing 10 people and injuring 63 (she saw a man killed right in front of her)—and how that moment reshaped her life. Her recovery journey was long and painful, but it also birthed a new philosophy: Aggressive Optimism.
Aggressive versus naïve optimism. Aggressive Optimism isn’t about pretending everything is fine—it’s about facing hard truths with honesty, choosing optimism as a deliberate act of strength, taking real steps forward, and leaning on community instead of going it alone.
Speak the hard stuff out loud. Whether in classrooms, on stage, or in one-on-one conversations, sharing trauma stories out loud is a key to dismantling shame and igniting hope—for ourselves and for others.
Choosing hope as rebellion. When PTSD tried to silence her, Jenna refused to stay broken. She chose to dream again, to keep creating, and to remind others that hope itself is a radical act of strength.

Jenna left us with a powerful reminder: “Aggressive optimism is a mindset where we acknowledge the challenges in front of us but remain fiercely optimistic about finding a way forward. It's about being real without dwelling in negativity.”

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Have you ever wondered what it’s like to busk with a red ukulele at nine years old—and end up headlining festivals before even finishing high school?

On this week’s episode of Love University, we sat down with Aspen Jacobsen—an 18-year-old Americana-folk prodigy and award-winning recording artist. With her finger-style guitar, mandolin, and raw vocals, Aspen’s debut LP Arsonist Daughter is turning heads with its fearless lyrics on relationships, mental health, and social justice.

Here are a few highlights from our conversation:

• Origins of a prodigy. Aspen shared what she sang for tips as a 9-year-old busker—and why music called her even without a family influence. She described herself as an “old soul” drawn to lyrics that spark reflection and change.

• Why fire? We asked why her debut album carries the title Arsonist Daughter. For Aspen, fire symbolizes transformation—controlled destruction that clears the way for rebirth. She even pointed out the lyric that burns hottest for her personally.

• Music as medicine. Anxiety often threads through Aspen’s lyrics. She opened up about whether performing soothes or stirs it—and how songwriting itself gives her a tool for healing that therapy alone could not.

• Staying grounded. From sold-out shows to industry recognition, Aspen stays centered by leaning on close friends, mindfulness practices, and remembering why she writes: to spark thought, ignite conversations, and inspire change.

• Takeaway from Arsonist Daughter. Each track, Aspen says, is a spark meant to ignite reflection—on faith, climate grief, mental health, or identity. Her goal is for listeners not only to hear her music but to feel compelled toward empathy and action.

Aspen left us with one lasting truth: songs aren’t just melodies—they’re matches. When you strike them, they can light up the dark corners of your heart.

Catch the full interview now on Love University to hear Aspen’s remarkable journey—from street corners to festival stages—and why she believes music can still change the world, one lyric at a time.

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Have you ever worked incredibly hard toward a dream—only to feel like you’re not making any progress? What if the key wasn’t just trying harder, but trying smarter?

On this week’s Love University episode, we explore the science and psychology of effective trying—how to aim your efforts in the right way for the right goals. Whether you’re pursuing love, career success, health, or personal growth, this method can transform the way you approach your ambitions.

Here are the three game-changing insights we covered:

Meditate on Greatness
Too often, repeated setbacks cause us to give up entirely—a psychological phenomenon known as learned helplessness. The solution is to seek out role models who’ve already succeeded in what you want to do. For example, Heather, an HR professional, was unfulfilled in her career until she met a local congresswoman she admired. Volunteering for her campaign not only reignited Heather’s passion but also gave her a new career direction. By studying and connecting with those who’ve walked the path before you, you create a roadmap that can save you years of trial and error.

Reverse Your Trying
Sometimes effort works against you. When you push too hard—whether in relationships, business, or personal goals—you may create pressure that drives results away. Instead, step back. If your dating life feels stalled, shift your focus inward: pick up a hobby, travel, strengthen friendships. By letting go of the chase and becoming more grounded and fulfilled on your own, you naturally draw in the right opportunities to meet the right person. Reverse trying turns forced effort into effortless attraction.

Try for Your Don
Your Don—taken from the Spanish word for “gift”—is your natural, God-given talent. It’s the skill or passion that energizes you, inspires you, and allows you to contribute your best to the world. If you love cooking, you might look into a culinary career. Consider if numbers are your passion, then finance could be perfect for you. Or, if you need to feed your soul, a career in psychology or spirituality can be just what you need. When you work within your natural strengths, your energy increases, motivation rises, and you’ll find that success becomes not only possible—but sustainable.

The Three Tries aren’t about doing more—they’re about doing what works: learning from proven success, stepping back when over-effort is holding you back, and aiming for goals that align with your deepest talents. When you apply these steps, you start making real, lasting progress toward your biggest dreams.

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Have you ever felt stuck in the same emotional pattern—no matter how much you try to change? What if that pattern was written in the stars… and could be healed through radical self-forgiveness?

On this week’s enlightening episode of Love University, we welcome Lisa Tahir—licensed therapist, podcast host of All Things Therapy, and author of The Chiron Effect: Healing Our Core Wounds Through Astrology, Empathy, and Self-Forgiveness. With a blend of psychotherapy, spiritual insight, and something called psychoastrology, Lisa helps people uncover their deepest inner wound—and alchemize it into strength.

Here’s what we explored in this soul-healing conversation:

Your Chiron placement is your “wounded healer” key. Chiron—a celestial body named after the mythical centaur who could heal others but not himself—represents your most tender internal wound. Lisa shows how discovering its sign and house in your birth chart reveals the area of life where you’ve been hurt the most—and where you’re called to grow the most.
From pain to power: the Chiron Effect. Lisa breaks down how we unconsciously repeat the same emotional themes (relationships, health, money, career) until we face the core wound underneath—and how forgiveness, responsibility, and spiritual connection are the cure.
Healing starts with empathy—for yourself. Whether your wound is around perfectionism (Virgo), rejection (Aries), or trust (Scorpio), Lisa shares how writing self-affirmations, setting boundaries, and reconnecting to joy can help release toxic cycles.
Psychoastrology meets purpose. Learn how each of the 12 astrological houses reflects a unique life domain—family, body, money, love, legacy, and more—so you can understand where your triggers come from and how to transform them into compassion.
Bonus: We even ask if cats are more spiritual than dogs. (She has two—Jiggy and Baby—and a strong opinion.)

Lisa’s message is clear and powerful: you are not broken. You are simply being invited to heal—and to remember your original wholeness. With self-compassion, spiritual awareness, and a willingness to do the inner work, your core wound can become your greatest teacher.

Tune in now to Love University, and start dancing with your shadow… into the light.

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Do you believe it’s possible to heal your body—and your heart—through joy, movement, and spiritual connection?

On this week’s episode of Love University, we welcome the radiant Dr. Zahra Tabassian—known as “America’s Healing Dancing Doctor.” A double-board-certified internist and nephrologist, Dr. Tabassian blends cutting-edge medicine with soulful healing through her “Spiritually Sexy” method. Her story begins with heartbreak—losing her beloved father—and evolves into a revolutionary mind-body-spirit framework that’s changing lives.

Here are some highlights from our inspiring conversation:

She turned grief into grace. Dr. Tabassian’s memoir My Daughter, My Dad explores the mystical bond between father and daughter—and how that loss led her to birth the “Dance to the Music of Your Soul” method.
Her method raises your BEE. Using the 3 M’s—Music, Mindset, and Movement—she helps patients raise their Bio-Electromagnetic Energy (BEE) to reverse inflammation, restore kidney function, and feel vibrant and disease-resistant.
She defines what it means to be “Spiritually Sexy.” According to Dr. T, it’s being deeply connected to your divine spark—and letting that joy ripple through your body, health, and relationships.
You’ll even learn a 3-minute micro-practice—a quick routine you can do anywhere to breathe, dance, and shift your mindset back into joy and possibility.

Dr. Tabassian reminds us that medicine doesn’t have to be cold and clinical. With faith, rhythm, and purpose, it can be joyful, sacred—and sexy.

Tune in to hear her remarkable journey from Tehran prodigy to Los Angeles healer, and learn how you can co-create your own health destiny… starting from the inside out.

💫 “With God in us, all things are possible.” — Dr. Zahra Tabassian

Listen now on Love University—where the heart and the soul come to learn.

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Do you crave a relationship that’s fast-paced, full of possibilities, and built on action, ambition, and mutual hustle? If so, you may be the Wheeler Dealer LoveType (ESTJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—the bold, pragmatic go-getter who turns dreams into deals and wants a partner who’s just as driven. On our Love University podcast, we explored the romantic firepower of the Wheeler Dealer—one of the most dynamic and forward-moving LoveTypes from my book LoveTypes (lovetype.com). Here's what we uncovered:

As a Wheeler Dealer, you love to lead, organize, and execute. You thrive on results—whether it’s launching a business, planning a major trip, or crushing your goals side-by-side with a partner-in-action. You're the type who thinks love should be useful and exciting—about building something real and lasting together. You believe in fun, excitement, smart risks, and doing what works—especially if it gets you both further, faster.

At the same time, your strong personality and focus on achievement can sometimes overshadow emotional nuance. You may struggle with vulnerability or grow impatient with partners who aren’t as efficient or goal-oriented as you are. You want passion—but also progress. And if you feel that your time or effort isn’t respected, you won’t stick around for very long.

The good news? When you match with someone who shares your appetite for adventure and appreciates your powerhouse drive, love becomes not just satisfying—it becomes an empire.

To help you find and keep your ideal co-creator in life and love, consider these power moves:

Pick a Partner Who Plays to Win With You: You don’t want a bystander—you want a collaborator. Look for someone who supports your vision, shares your energy, and isn’t afraid to dream big and move fast.
Make Room for Heart, Not Just Hustle: Your natural strength is action—but don’t forget the power of emotional connection. A little softness, presence, and listening can deepen your bond beyond strategy and plans.
Celebrate Your Inner CEO of Love: You run things well—whether in business or romance. Just be sure your partner feels like a true equal, not just a team member on your mission. Remember: Shared leadership equals shared joy.

Ultimately, your love story will thrive when it’s fueled by passion, purpose, and mutual respect. With the right partner by your side, you won’t just build a relationship—you’ll build a legacy—one thrilling, laughter-filled deal at a time.

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Do you long for a relationship built on trust, responsibility, and doing things the “right” way—where roles are clear, effort is mutual, and loyalty is everything? If so, you may be the Traditionalist LoveType (ESTJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—the grounded, dependable partner who leads with action and honors commitment above all else. On our Love University podcast, we explored the romantic strengths and potential blind spots of the Traditionalist—one of the most reliable and enduring LoveTypes from my book LoveTypes (lovetype.com). Here’s what we discovered:

As a Traditionalist, you take relationships seriously. You’re likely the one who plans the future, keeps things running smoothly, and makes sure that promises are kept. You believe in hard work, structure, and showing love through consistent, tangible actions. When you care about someone, they know it—because you prove it through responsibility, protection, and follow-through.

It’s true that your practical, rule-based nature can sometimes clash with more emotionally expressive or free-spirited types. If your partner is looking for spontaneous romance or lots of emotional nuance, they might misunderstand your love style. You may get frustrated when others don’t “just do what they say they would do,” or when your deep feelings go unnoticed beneath your outer strength.

The good news is that you can build a rock-solid, lasting love when you pair up with someone who shares your values and appreciates your loyal, steady presence.

Here are a few tips to help your traditional heart thrive in today’s topsy-turvy love world:

Choose a Partner Who Respects Duty and Dependability: Because you’re not into flaky, chaotic relationships, you need someone who is as serious about commitment and follow-through as you are—ideally someone who sees strength in your stability.
Let a Little Flexibility In: Love doesn’t always follow a blueprint. Practice softening your grip on control now and then. Small moments of vulnerability and spontaneity can go a long way.
Express, Don’t Just Execute: While actions speak loudly, your partner may also need to hear that you love them. Try verbal affirmations and affectionate gestures in addition to your usual responsible deeds.

At the end of the day, your greatest romantic power lies in your ability to build a life of integrity, structure, and trust. When you find a partner who respects your old-fashioned values and meets you in your strong, steady rhythm, love becomes not just a feeling—but a legacy. That’s when tradition becomes timeless.

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Do you long for a love that’s grounded, reliable, and built on mutual respect—one that thrives on shared responsibilities, long-term vision, and practical support? If so, you may be the Administrator LoveType (ISTJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—the steady, dependable planner who values duty, loyalty, and a well-ordered life. On our Love University podcast, we explored the essential relationship strengths and romantic needs of the Administrator—one of the most grounded and responsible love personality styles from my classic book, LoveTypes (lovetype.com). Here’s what we discovered:

As an Administrator, you bring a strong sense of purpose and integrity to your relationships. You are the builder of love’s foundation—someone who creates trust by doing what you say, showing up consistently, and working hard for the people you care about. You thrive in partnerships that honor tradition, shared goals, and clear expectations. For you, love is a well-structured home built with mutual respect, consistent effort, and a deep commitment to a shared future.

However, your strong sense of duty can sometimes make romance feel like just another task on the to-do list. You may find it hard to relax emotionally or express affection spontaneously. Fortunately, your partner will come to see your care in your actions—how you protect, provide, and plan for the future. With time and trust, your affection blossoms in deeply meaningful ways.

To attract and maintain a strong, lasting love, consider these practical tips:

Prioritize Emotional Presence: Even though you're more comfortable with logistics than emotions, try to be present emotionally. A listening ear or a reassuring word can go a long way in connecting with your partner on a deeper level.
Look for a Partner Who Respects Structure: You flourish with someone who values routines, shared responsibilities, and long-term planning. Together, you can build a life of peace, purpose, and partnership.
Make Space for Playfulness: Love doesn’t always have to follow a plan. Leave room for surprise, spontaneity, and affection beyond your comfort zone. It can recharge your relationship and deepen emotional intimacy.
Recognize Your Love Language: You show love through acts of service, protection, and reliability. Helping your partner understand this—and learning theirs—can help both of you feel more seen and appreciated.

Ultimately, the key to a fulfilling relationship as an Administrator is honoring your gift for commitment while learning to connect emotionally in ways that may not come naturally. When you find a partner who values your stability and depth—and who encourages your emotional expression—you’ll discover that love is not only built, but also deeply felt. Together, you’ll construct a partnership that’s enduring, loving, and unshakably real

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Do you dream of a love that feels warm, secure, and deeply caring—one that’s rooted in loyalty, kindness, and the quiet joys of everyday life? If so, you may be the Caretaker LoveType (ISFJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test), the devoted nurturer who cherishes emotional intimacy and harmonious relationships. On our Love University podcast, we explored the distinctive romantic needs and strengths of the Caretaker—one of the most caring love personality styles from my classic book, LoveTypes (lovetype.com). Here's what we discovered:

As a Caretaker, you approach life with a generous heart, exceptional empathy, and strong devotion, making you a compassionate and dependable partner. You thrive in relationships that offer emotional closeness, stability, and a shared appreciation for cozy routines. For you, love means building a sanctuary—a warm, comforting home filled with thoughtful gestures, heartfelt conversations, and small acts of kindness that deepen bonds over time. Whether preparing a favorite meal, remembering special occasions, or creating welcoming traditions, you find immense joy in giving love through steady and practical care.

However, your giving nature may sometimes lead you to put your own needs last, causing you to feel emotionally drained or underappreciated. Fortunately, your innate sensitivity often help you gently communicate your needs, restoring balance and nurturing mutual respect. Your ability to tune into your partner’s emotional landscape and offer unwavering support creates lasting bonds of trust and affection.

To attract and cultivate your ideal partnership, consider these helpful pointers:

Express Your Needs Clearly: Because you naturally focus on others’ happiness, you might downplay your own emotional desires. Openly sharing your feelings and needs helps your partner recognize how best to care for you in return, creating a balanced and fulfilling relationship.
Find a Partner Who Appreciates Stability: Seek someone who values consistency, loyalty, and heartfelt connection as much as you do. Together, you'll create a harmonious home that honors both your emotional depth and shared values.
Balance Giving and Receiving: Though giving nurtures your soul, it's equally important to graciously accept love, appreciation, and support from your partner. Learning to comfortably receive strengthens intimacy and mutual understanding.
Honor Your Quiet Strength: Celebrate your natural talents—such as organizing, empathizing, and quietly supporting—without feeling pressure to become someone else. Your gentle strength is deeply attractive to partners who seek genuine, lasting love.

Ultimately, the key to finding lasting happiness as a Caretaker is recognizing your remarkable capacity for nurturing love, while ensuring that your own emotional well-being is also prioritized. When you build your cozy home with someone who honors your warmth and devotion, you'll experience the quiet joy and deep connection you've always desired. With the right partner, you'll find that love isn’t merely about caring for each other—it's about feeling equally cherished, supported, and at home together.

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Do you ever sense that you’re moving fast yet, somehow, standing still? You’re busy but you’re not making progress in your important goals—finances, career, relationships, health, or happiness. On our latest Love University Podcast, we explored that turning-point moment when scattered effort condenses into laser focus, self-doubt thins out, and your boldest vision starts taking physical form. Here’s what we learned:

Direct Your Spirit Flow: Master the Energy Within

Most of us leak power in a hundred ways—notifications, half-finished projects, stray worries. Energy diffused is energy diminished. When you choose one meaningful target and give it your undivided attention, everything changes: tasks line up, distractions fall away, and progress compounds. Think of sunlight: it’s pleasant when spread across a porch, but astonishing when it’s focused through a lens strong enough to weld steel. Your attention is that lens.

Transform, Don’t Erase, Yourself

Real change isn’t a demolition job; it’s a patient revelation of what you have inside you. The great artist Michelangelo said the statue already lived inside the marble—his task was to remove what didn’t belong. In the same way, your confidence, creativity, and resolve are already present. Strip away outdated labels, inherited fears, and second-hand expectations, and your genuine strengths stand in full power. Transformation is less about becoming someone new and more about allowing the best of you to step forward.

Materialize Your Desires Through Perfect Conception

Invention always begins as a clear imagination. Visionaries from Beyoncé to Whitney Wolfe Herd (founder of Bumble dating app) saw vivid mental movies of their future long before anyone else believed in them. They didn’t wish vaguely for success; they rehearsed every detail until the outcome felt inevitable. When your picture of the future sharpens into a high definition, resources and opportunities organize themselves around that certainty.

If you’re ready to shift from hoping to happening, practice these four essential keys:

Keep a Daily Time of Focus
Reserve an uninterrupted slice of time—no alerts, no multitasking—to clear your mind and advance your most important objective. Meditate, think, journal, exercise, engage in a spiritual practice, plan your next step. It’s true that momentum loves consistency. When you focus on what truly matters, your energy and motivation mutlipy.
Eliminate the Nonessential
Identify one commitment, habit, or belief that drains your energy without bringing you closer to your goal. Now, whatever it is, stop doing it; eliminate what is not moving you toward your dreams. Each distraction and nongoal you let go of gives you strength and encouragement to keep pushing for your true aims.
Draft a Vision Script
Write a one-page snapshot of your ideal day. Imagine that you wake up to work that excites you, relationships that nourish you, and activities that energize you. Study your script and visualize your brilliant future—morning, noon, and night—until it feels real to you. It will be.
Act in Alignment to Your Dream
Take one step—however small—that matches your script: Send the proposal, enroll in the course, introduce yourself to a future collaborator or prospective soul mate. Action signals to the mind that your vision is underway.

Remember, the life you want isn’t waiting somewhere outside you; it’s pressing from within, eager to emerge. When you direct your spirit flow, you hold a vivid vision that feels familiar, and you transform potential into power.

Let today be the day that you close the gap between knowing and doing. Aim your attention like a beam, bring your authentic strengths to center stage, and watch the world rearrange itself around a picture you have created of your future. Above all, keep loving yourself, others, and a Higher Nature—when love fuels focus, the results are limitless.

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Have you ever heard an inner voice whispering you were a lion and meant for something greater? If you’re not where you want to be in life, then it’s time for a change; you need to tap into your hidden lion’s roar—your self-love, confidence, and talents.

On our latest episode of Love University, we explored the instant of awakening—that split-second when you suddenly realize the life you’re living is too small for you—you’re not fulfilling your true potential. Our story begins with a lion cub who is raised among sheep. Just like other sheep, he grazed, was startled at shadows, and obediently followed the flock—until one day a stream mirrored back amber-gold eyes and the first hint of a mane. A roar he had never heard before burst from his throat, and in that moment he realized he wasn’t a sheep, but a powerful lion, the King of the Jungle.

How about you? Perhaps, you have experienced a similar jolt of understanding: a stubborn dream that won’t stay quiet, a Sunday night restlessness, a flash of unfulfilled desire when you see someone succeed by thinking big. You hear a faint roar of power and need, and you ask yourself, “Is it coming from outside, from somewhere else, or is it inside me?” Yes, it is inside you.

Following your roar, your inner authentic power, means tapping into your immortal capital—the reservoir of talent, curiosity, resilience, and intuition lying unused in your mental vault. Chances are, you have let this fortune sit idle, convinced you need outside permission, more resources or credentials. In your own life, think about the novel still unwritten, the venture unlaunched, the kindness unsaid—each one representing a stack of coins unused; greatness unfulfilled. In reality, your mental vault is unlocked. You can access your inner potential—all you have to do is step inside and gather your treasure—gifts, talents, and wisdom.

Consider how Oprah Winfrey lost her first high-profile news role, and Steve Jobs, was ousted from Apple, yet both of them turned rejection into reinvention because they interpreted restlessness as a call, not a curse. If you feel a similar tension, take it as proof that you’re being summoned to evolve and accomplish something meaningful and powerful with your life.

Turning that calling into momentum requires the following steps:

Catch the voice. Notice moments when you feel vividly alive or painfully confined—decide to increase the moments of empowerment and decrease those activities that leave you feeling tired, down, or frustrated.
Withdraw a coin of immortal capital within 24 hours. Do something that fills your soul: Sketch, pitch, rehearse, research, help, share, communicate, exercise, pray, or meditate. Always remember that even small actions remove doubt and increase your resilience and inner power.
Treat temporary discomfort as a guide, not something to avoid. There will be some “growing pains” when you heed your inner roar—when you start that new relationship or job; travel or make a lifestyle change; expand your horizons. But the momentary discomfort is like when you first lift weights—the sensation of soreness means your muscles are growing and you are getting stronger. In the same way, stretching out of your comfort zone will eventually bring you to the place of lionhood—self-mastery and confidence.

Here’s the truth: Once a lion or lioness discovers their roar, grazing quietly like a timid sheep will never satisfy them again. Your roar is both a warning and a promise. It is a warning that you can no longer live like a sheep; you must claim your true power, and you can—that is the promise. It’s your time now, let your lion roar and you will transform yourself and the world.

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Do you crave a love that fuses dazzling ideas, playful debate, and heartfelt connection? If so, you may be the Innovator LoveType (ENTP on the Myers‑Briggs personality test)—the quick‑witted explorer who thrives on possibility, originality, and meaningful partnerships. On our Love University podcast, we dove into the unique qualities and romantic requirements of the Innovator—one of the most dynamic love personality styles from my classic book, LoveTypes (lovetype.com). Here’s what we discovered:

As an Innovator, you sprint through life with a curious intellect and irrepressible sense of adventure, making you a stimulating and magnetic partner. You flourish in relationships that invite spirited discussions, blue‑sky brainstorming, and the freedom to experiment together. For you, love is a grand laboratory where two imaginative minds can hatch bold schemes, celebrate every breakthrough, and deepen trust through candid communication and shared laughter. From dreaming up great business ideas to pivoting when a project fizzles, you’re always ready to dive head‑first with your partner into the next big venture as you build an empire together.

Yet, in your rush to chase the next big idea, you may sometimes overlook subtle emotional signals—both yours and your partner’s. Fortunately, that same inventive energy often makes you exceptionally encouraging, resourceful, and inspiring. Your knack for spotting hidden potential and reframing obstacles as opportunities (optimism) can be priceless in any partnership.

If you’re searching for true connection, consider these helpful pointers:

Spark Mutual Curiosity: Invite your partner into your world of “what if?” by tossing out fresh concepts—designing an app, learning a language, or mapping a bold travel route—to build excitement and intellectual curiosity.
• Listen Between the Lines: Your talent for lively debate is legendary, but pause now and then to tune in to the feelings beneath the words. Empathic listening reassures your partner that you value their heart, not just their ideas.
• Prototype Together: You’re at your best when you co‑create—whether it’s launching a side hustle, remodeling a room, or planning a cause‑driven event. Tackling projects side by side knits your bond and channels your innovation into shared victories.
• Ground Genius with Warmth: While your mind races ahead, remember the power of a steady emotional foundation. Offer clear affection, follow through on promises, and show your partner they’re cherished beyond the brainstorm.

Let your partner glimpse the softer layers beneath your confident banter. Although it’s easy for Innovators to stay in the realm of theory, sharing your vulnerable emotions can transform bright sparks into lasting warmth. By pairing your inventive spirit with genuine sensitivity, you’ll cultivate a love that’s both electrifying and nurturing.

Ultimately, your ideal relationship marries creativity with authentic closeness. When you share your visionary spark with someone who appreciates your individuality, you can build a life of exhilarating experiments, heartfelt camaraderie, and world‑rocking impact. With the right person by your side, you’ll discover that true love is the ultimate innovation—culminating in a boundless source of mutual growth and joy.

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Do you desire a love that blends strategic drive, bold vision, and heartfelt connection? If so, you may be the General LoveType (ENTJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—the decisive leader who thrives on challenges, big goals, and purposeful relationships. On our Love University podcast, we explored the unique qualities and romantic requirements of the General—one of the most powerful love personality styles from my classic LoveTypes (lovetype.com). Here’s what we learned:

As a General, you approach life with a confident intellect and proactive mindset, making you a strong and compelling partner. You excel in relationships that allow you to brainstorm creative solutions, set audacious objectives, and champion each other’s dreams. For you, love is about forging a dynamic alliance, celebrating every success along the way, and cultivating mutual respect through honest communication and shared ambition.

In relationships, you may sometimes get caught up in your drive to achieve, which can lead you to miss important emotional subtleties—both yours and your partner’s. Yet, this same determination often makes you exceptionally supportive, visionary, and inspiring. Your capacity to see potential in both yourself and your loved one can be a priceless asset in any partnership.

If you’re looking for true connection, consider these helpful pointers:

Leverage Your Leadership: Your gift for motivation and organization is one of your biggest strengths—don’t hesitate to involve your partner in the strategic process. By crafting goals together, you build unity and show that you value their perspective.
• Practice Mindful Empathy: You’re direct and solution-focused, but remember to pause at times and genuinely hear how your partner feels. By showing care for their emotional experience, you foster greater trust and understanding.
• Cultivate Shared Ambitions: You’re at your best when you can collaborate on exciting projects or tackle new challenges as a team. Whether it’s launching a business, planning an epic travel adventure, or investing in mutual learning, striving side by side fortifies your connection and your achievements.
• Balance Drive with Warmth: While you flourish in goal-oriented environments, you also need a tender emotional bedrock. Be transparent in your affections, and let your partner know you value them as more than just a teammate in your pursuits.

Remember to let your partner see your vulnerable side and share the feelings that often lie beneath your confident exterior. Although it’s easy for Generals to stay focused on action and progress, opening your heart to emotional truths can lead to a deeper and more rewarding connection. By pairing your passion for achievement with authentic emotional presence, you’ll create a love that’s as powerful as it is nurturing.

Ultimately, your ideal relationship is one that harmonizes ambition with genuine closeness. When you extend your leadership and vision to someone who appreciates your individuality, you can build a life of impactful collaborations, heartfelt companionship, and ongoing success. With the right person by your side, you’ll discover that true love can be an extraordinary partnership—and a lasting source of mutual growth and happiness.

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Do you desire a love that blends intellectual synergy, strategic vision, and heartfelt connection? If so, you may be the Expert LoveType (INTJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—the forward-thinking strategist who thrives on knowledge, self-improvement, and purposeful partnerships. On our Love University podcast, we explored the unique qualities of the Expert and how you can find your perfect love match. Here’s what we learned:

As an Expert, you approach life with a keen analytical mind and an unquenchable thirst for understanding, making you a focused and perceptive partner. You excel in relationships that allow you to delve into stimulating topics, share well-reasoned perspectives, and collaborate on future goals. For you, love is about building a shared vision, celebrating each milestone of the journey, and creating a deep bond through honest dialogue and mutual respect.

In relationships, you may sometimes get absorbed in your own thoughts and overlook important emotional cues—both yours and your partner’s. Yet, this same dedication to thinking things through often makes you exceptionally loyal, attentive, and supportive. Your ability to plan for the future, notice small details, and offer insightful observations can be a wonderful asset to any partnership.

If you’re looking for true connection, consider these helpful pointers:

Honor Your Vision: Your ability to see the big picture and chart a course toward meaningful objectives is one of your greatest strengths—don’t hesitate to share it. By inviting your partner into your planning process, you create a sense of teamwork and inspire mutual trust.
Practice Empathetic Listening: You’re naturally focused on logic and problem-solving, but remember to slow down and truly hear your partner’s feelings. By showing genuine interest in their emotional world, you foster deeper understanding and respect.
Nurture Shared Goals: You’re at your best when you can pursue growth and learning together with your partner. Whether it’s studying a topic of mutual interest or taking on a challenging project, dedicating time to common pursuits strengthens your intellectual and emotional bond.
Balance Logic with Warmth: While you thrive on analysis, you also need a loving emotional foundation. Be open with your affections, and reassure your mate that you’re emotionally available despite your more reserved nature.

Remember to share your inner feelings and let your partner see the more vulnerable facets of who you are. Although it can be easy for Experts to remain in the realm of logic, acknowledging and communicating your emotional truths can lead to a more authentic and fulfilling connection. By pairing your visionary mindset with genuine warmth, you’ll cultivate a love that’s both stimulating and comforting.

Ultimately, your ideal relationship is one that combines intellectual exploration with true emotional closeness. When you offer your insights to someone who values your individuality, you can build a life of deep conversations, purposeful collaboration, and meaningful partnership. With the right person by your side, you’ll discover that true love can be a profound journey and sustaining source of lifelong growth.

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Daniel Gutierrez was once at the top of his game in the business world—an advisor to the Obama Administration, a big-time speaker, and a highly paid consultant to major organizations. But then he left it all behind to embark on a spiritual journey toward self-love. Now a mindfulness master (danielgutierrez.com) and bestselling author (Radical Mindfulness), he leads life-changing retreats to Peru, teaching Radical Mindfulness and the power of living and loving fully in the present.

A Life-Changing Encounter with Wachuma

In his search for enlightenment, Daniel took San Pedro (Wachuma), a plant medicine known for opening the heart and deepening wisdom. Unlike the intense night visions of Ayahuasca, Wachuma is taken during the day, bringing clarity and connection to nature. During the experience, he saw a powerful condor (a large bird of prey)—a sign to trust his inner wisdom and embrace his path as a teacher and healer.

A Mother’s Final Words of Freedom

During his mother’s dying moments, Daniel experienced the sacred energy of Palo Santo wood. He saw two lights and felt her presence. Her last words to him: “You were here when I needed you. I release you to the world.” With that blessing, he stepped fully into his mission of love and mindfulness.

Radical Mindfulness: The Art of Being Fully Present

Mindfulness rewires the brain—lowering fear, increasing memory and planning, and boosting compassion by 23%, while reducing aggression by 57%. Daniel’s Six-Step Radical Mindfulness Framework helps people stay present:

Focus on the present (breath, senses).
Direct thoughts to the moment.
Ask: Am I okay right now?
Question fear: Is this real?
Assess: Am I moving toward or away from my goal?
Take action: Shift energy through movement.

Plant Medicine: Nature’s Teachers and Healers

Daniel learned that Indigenous wisdom sees plants as living beings (Anima). If a plant loves you, it heals you. This is a sacred exchange—plants willingly offer their spirit when treated with gratitude and respect.

Spiritual Wisdom From the Jungle

Here are some of Daniel’s Nuggets of Natural Higher Knowledge:

Healing isn’t the goal—love is. When you love, healing happens.
Don’t wait for the storm to pass—dance in the rain.
The dangers of the jungle aren’t there just to kill, but to protect (like in life, what you fear may be guarding something valuable).
Unplug from technology to reconnect with yourself.
Guilt and sadness come from burdening yourself with self-harming expectations—but Radical Mindfulness teaches acceptance and love.

Finding Peace in Sacred Lands

Daniel now runs the Catalina Retreat Center (catalinaretreatcenterperu.com), named after his beloved departed mother. He leads earnest seekers on transformational journeys to Peru, including spiritually evolved places such as Cusco and Machu Picchu in the Andes.

A New Definition of Success

Once a "big baller" in the business world, Daniel discovered that true success isn’t about money or power. It’s about stillness, presence, and love.

On Love University, we invite you to embrace the powerful lesson inspired by Daniel’s journey to peace and self-acceptance: Live more. Love more. Be more. When you do this, the world opens its arms to you, and your joy will be unending.

Listen to the full episode with Daniel Gutierrez on Love University Podcast. Take the first step toward a life of peace and purpose—because true success begins within.

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Have you ever felt like success, love, or happiness was just out of your reach? Do you feel like there’s something bigger waiting for you, but you’re not sure how to grasp it? On our Love University podcast, we explored what it means to step into your Invincible Self—and achieve your dreams—not by forcing change overnight, but by making small, meaningful shifts that open doors you never knew existed.

Here are 8 powerful ways to unlock your unstoppable success in 2025:

The Thing You Seek Is Seeking You
What if your biggest desires—love, success, purpose—are also looking for you? Consider Sara Blakely, the founder of Spanx. With only $5,000, she noticed a problem (uncomfortable shapewear) and realized the solution was calling her just as much as she was searching for it. The same happened with Tim Berners-Lee, who invented the World Wide Web—his vision for a connected world was something humanity was already yearning for.
The Dark Room: Desire Versus Resignation
Imagine standing in a pitch-black room filled with everything you need, but you can’t see it. You fumble for a light switch but come up empty. Frustrated, you think, maybe I should just accept the darkness. Then a thought hits you: What if the switch isn’t on the wall? You feel around, find a button on the floor, press it—and suddenly, light floods the room. You see everything you need.
Do You Want It as Much as a Dying Person Wants Life?
True desire is intense. Imagine someone fighting to survive—they don’t hesitate, doubt, or give up. They fight with everything they have. That’s the level of passion you need for your goals.
Be the Thing You Long For
If you want love, be loving. If you want success, act as if you’re already successful. The moment you embody what you seek, the world starts reflecting it back to you.
Lift Your Mind Above Effort and Resistance
Many people struggle because they fight against life instead of flowing with it. Imagine trying to swim upstream—it’s exhausting and gets you nowhere. Now, picture letting go and allowing the current to carry you. When you do this, love, happiness, and success will surely flow to you.
Attract High-Value Relationships
Your relationships are a direct reflection of your energy. If you radiate confidence, kindness, and self-worth, you’ll attract people who have the same qualities. Now your relationships become your golden treasure.
Search for Worthier Prizes
Sometimes, failure is just a redirection to something better. Consider Lady Gaga who was dropped by her first record label after only three months. Devastated, but determined, she refined her artistry and soon became one of the biggest pop stars in the world.
Reverse the Desire
Not every desire is meant for you—and that’s okay. Sometimes, the greatest act of self-love is letting go. Holding on to something that isn’t aligned with your true path—whether it’s a relationship, career, or outdated dream—only blocks the right opportunities from finding you. When you release what no longer serves you, you create space for something far greater to take its place.

Remember this: What you seek is also seeking you. Align your energy with your desires, and opportunities will follow. Even when life feels like a Dark Room, keep searching—the light switch is there. Success, love, and happiness require full commitment. Sometimes setbacks are actually redirections toward something better, but you must be willing to let go of what no longer serves you.

The moment you fully embrace your worth, act with purpose, and let go of what doesn’t belong to you, you will naturally attract the success, love, and joy that were always meant for you. Here’s to your Invincible Year.

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Do you think brains are sexy, and do you seek an intellectually compatible mate? If so, you may be the Scholar (INTP on the Myers-Briggs test), a knowledge aficionado who loves to learn and values a partner who can keep you thinking. On our Love University podcast, we explored the unique qualities of the Scholar and how they can find a love that stimulates both heart and mind.

The Scholar's Approach to Love:

As a Scholar, you approach relationships with curiosity and a desire for deep understanding. You value meaningful conversations and are drawn to partners who can engage in intellectual debates and share your passion for knowledge. Your analytical nature means you appreciate honesty and directness, often favoring straightforward communication over emotional nuance. This can lead to profound connections with those who appreciate your thoughtful and introspective demeanor.

Challenges in Romantic Relationships:

While your intellectual approach is a strength, it can also present challenges. You may find it difficult to express emotions, leading partners to perceive you as distant or detached. Your preference for logic over emotion might cause you to overlook the emotional needs of your partner, potentially leading to misunderstandings. Additionally, your tendency to become absorbed in your thoughts can make you seem unavailable or uninterested in the relationship.

Finding Your Intellectual Match:

To find a partner who complements your scholarly nature, consider the following:

Seek Shared Interests: Engage in activities and communities that align with your intellectual passions, such as academic clubs, book discussions, or science forums.
Prioritize Open Communication: Be transparent about your need for intellectual stimulation and seek a partner who values and reciprocates this need.
Balance Logic with Emotion: While you thrive on intellectual connection, remember to nurture the emotional aspects of a relationship. Practice expressing your feelings and be attentive to your partner's emotional cues.

By embracing your intellectual strengths and addressing potential challenges, you can build a fulfilling relationship that satisfies your intellect and emotional needs. Now it’s up to you: Valentine’s Day is almost here. Go out this week and connect with like-minded individuals who match your thirst for knowledge, competence, and wisdom. Who knows, your compatible love partner may be a click or text away.

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Have you ever felt like there’s something more waiting for you—something bigger, but just out of reach? Maybe you’ve had moments where you imagined a wonderful career or relationship, a new direction, or a fresh start, but doubts crept in, making it seem unrealistic.

On our Love University podcast, we explored what it means to step into your Invincible Self—not by forcing change overnight, but by making small, meaningful shifts that open doors you never knew existed. Here are 7 ways to move toward the life you truly desire in 2025:

Imagine What You Truly Want—Not Just What You Think You Deserve

Unfortunately, many people dream within their comfort zone—what they think is realistic or possible. When they do this, however, they limit themselves and mute their passion and drive. But, what if you removed the limits? Picture the life you’d love—career, relationships, health—without the "I can't" or "it's not realistic" filters. The second you stop aiming small, the universe starts expanding the possibilities.

Plant the Desire Seed: Are You Growing or Neglecting Your Dreams?

Your dreams are like seeds—if you feed them with time, effort, and belief, they grow. But if you let distractions (negative people, doubts, excuses) take over, they dry up. Are you making small daily movements toward your goals, or are you just hoping things will magically happen? Love yourself enough to water the seeds of your desires until they bear the fruits of success.

Make Every Action a Win by Keeping Your Vision Strong

Every small step adds up. A painter doesn’t finish a masterpiece overnight, but makes a little progress daily to create something incredible. Are you thinking of a great business idea, fitness goal, or creative project? Stick with it even when progress feels slow. The key isn’t speed—it’s consistently moving toward your goals every single day.

Call Every Experience a Success (Even the "Failures")

What if nothing was truly a failure—just a stepping stone? A lost job might push you toward a dream career. A bad relationship might help you find real love. When you label everything as progress, setbacks lose their power over you, and you feel like a winner no matter what.

Focus on What You Want Until Your Actions Feel Natural

Have you ever started something that felt like a struggle, but over time, it became second nature? That’s what happens when passion meets consistency. The first steps might feel forced, but stick with it, and suddenly, your effort turns into a natural attraction of what you desire.

Every Person is a Golden Link in Your Chain of Good

No connection is random. Some people push you forward, others teach you lessons, and some fade away to make room for who you really need. Trust that the right people will show up at the right time—whether it’s a mentor, friend, romantic partner, or even a stranger who sparks an idea.

It’s Never Too Late to Take Back Lost Time

Do you feel like you’ve wasted a lot of time in life? In reality, you haven’t. Some of the world’s most successful people found their passion and achieved their dreams later in life. Vera Wang started designing in her 40s. Stan Lee’s biggest comic book hits came in his 60s. The road wasn’t straight for them, but every detour had a purpose. In the same way, be open to life changes and use them for your ultimate good.

It's Time to Step Into Your Invincible Self

This is your year to stop waiting and start believing in something bigger for yourself. Here’s the truth: Your dreams matter, your past doesn’t define you, and every action—big or small—moves you forward.

On our next Love University episode, we will dive even deeper into stepping into your power and creating the life you truly deserve. Until then, dream big, take action, and keep spreading love—because the energy you put out is the energy you attract.

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Do you believe that love should be a gentle dance of understanding, emotional connection, and shared appreciation for life’s beauty? If so, you may be the Gentle Artist LoveType (ISFP on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—a compassionate and introspective soul who values nature, animals, art, and the simple yet profound joys of life. On our latest Love University podcast, we delved into the unique qualities of the Gentle Artist and how you can find a love that complements your tender, creative spirit.

As a Gentle Artist, your love for the world around you is reflected in everything you do. Whether it’s through creating art, cherishing the beauty of nature, or forming meaningful connections with children and animals, your heart is deeply attuned to the world’s softer, quieter side. You are flexible and willing to adapt for love, even to the point of moving cross-country if it means being with your soulmate. This openness and gentleness make you an incredible long-term partner, but they also mean you must guard your heart against being taken advantage of by those who might mistake your trust for naivety.

In relationships, you express your love in subtle yet profound ways—through a handmade gift, a quiet moment shared under the stars, or the warmth of your presence when words aren’t needed. You value harmony and emotional connection above all, making you a nurturing and empathetic partner. Yet, your natural reserve can sometimes make it hard for others to fully understand the depth of your feelings, leading to occasional misunderstandings.

To find your perfect love, seek someone who appreciates your creativity and gentle spirit—someone who values authenticity, loves nature as much as you do, and treasures life’s simple yet meaningful moments. A partner who supports your artistic passions and honors your need for introspection will help you flourish. This person will not only cherish your sensitivity but will also inspire you to grow in ways you never imagined.

At the same time, it’s important for you to express your needs openly in a relationship. While you often prefer to let your actions speak for you, sharing your feelings and vulnerabilities will deepen your connection with your partner. Vulnerability, far from being a weakness, is your pathway to true intimacy.

Your ideal relationship as a Gentle Artist is one filled with shared experiences that celebrate life’s beauty—strolling through a quiet forest, creating something meaningful together, or simply enjoying a peaceful evening side by side. With the right partner, you’ll find a love that feels as natural and enduring as the art and beauty you so deeply value.

The key to finding your perfect love as an ISFP lies in embracing your gentle, creative nature while learning to set boundaries and communicate openly. Trust in your ability to connect on a deep emotional level, and seek someone who resonates with your values of authenticity and emotional depth. With the right person, your love will not only be tender but also transformative—a testament to the beauty of two sensitive souls coming together in harmony.

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Do you ever feel like you’re stuck in life, settling for an “okay” relationship, a decent job, or a predictable routine? On this week’s Love University Podcast, we uncovered the secret to breaking free from mediocrity and stepping into a life of boldness and achievement. As we learned in The Man with No Shirt story, the path to greatness starts with aiming for what seems impossible—and discovering that it’s not only within reach, but essential for your ultimate happiness.

The antidote to feeling stuck is to extend your psychological reach farther than you think possible. Ask yourself, “What would it look like if I became the greatest version of myself—the best partner, parent, creator, or businessperson?” It’s about daring to aim for “insane” goals that others might dismiss as unrealistic. Why? Because even if you fall short, you’ll surpass limits you never thought you could. As we explored on the show, striving for greatness sets a powerful chain reaction in motion: small wins lead to bigger wins, confidence builds, and barriers you once saw as immovable start to dissolve.

In The Man with No Shirt, a desperate young man searches for the happiest person in the world, believing he can gain happiness by wearing that person’s shirt. But the story takes a surprising turn when he learns that the happiest man has no shirt—because happiness isn’t external; it’s already within you. As we discussed on the podcast, this tale reminds us that the key to reaching extraordinary heights is not just about external goals, but about recognizing your own inner potential.

To take charge of your destiny, you must aim for goals that stretch you to the limit. Think about what you really want in life: an incredible career, a love-filled relationship, or an extraordinary lifestyle. Start small—send that email to a mentor, enroll in a course to boost your confidence, or try something new that aligns with your dreams. As we emphasized on the show, focusing on one significant action each day helps eliminate distractions, silence self-doubt, and build unstoppable momentum.

Of course, the journey won’t always be easy. You’ll face obstacles, procrastination, and fear. But as we learned, pushing beyond mental limitations—just like the young man searching for happiness—reveals an unexpected truth: You’re capable of far more than you realize. The moment you stop settling for “okay” and start reaching for the stars is the moment your life begins to transform.

On Love University, we’re here to inspire you to think big, dream bold, and take that first daring step toward the life you deserve. Remember, it’s not about finding someone else’s “shirt” of happiness—it’s about stepping into your own greatness. The impossible isn’t as far away as it seems. When you extend your reach, you’ll realize you were made for much more.

So, what’s your impossible goal? Take a step today, and watch the extraordinary unfold.

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In a shocking recent event, the Trump Tower faced an attack that has left many grappling with fear, confusion, and a sense of vulnerability. This incident, while alarming, also sheds light on a broader psychological phenomenon: the impact of terror-related trauma on individuals and communities.

At The Love University Report, we explore the intersection of psychology and current events to help you understand how such tragedies affect the human mind and how we can foster resilience in the face of adversity. Here’s what we uncovered:

When exposed to terror-related events, individuals often experience a cascade of emotional responses, including shock, fear, anger, and helplessness. For some, this can evolve into acute stress reactions or even long-term trauma, such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). These psychological effects don’t just impact those directly involved; the ripple effects can extend to bystanders, first responders, and even those who witness the event through media coverage.

One key aspect of terror-related trauma is its ability to disrupt our sense of safety and trust in the world around us. For many, the idea that such violence could occur in a familiar place creates a heightened state of alertness and fear, which can manifest as difficulty sleeping, anxiety, or withdrawal from everyday activities.

Despite these challenges, there are strategies for psychological recovery and resilience:

Acknowledging Your Feelings: It’s normal to feel a range of emotions after such events. Recognizing and validating your feelings is the first step toward healing.
Seeking Support: Talking to trusted friends, family, or mental health professionals can help process your emotions and reduce feelings of isolation.
Engaging in Self-Care: Activities like mindfulness, exercise, and maintaining a routine can provide a sense of stability during uncertain times.
Limiting Media Exposure: While staying informed is important, excessive exposure to graphic images or news updates can exacerbate anxiety.
Community Connection: Finding ways to connect with others, whether through support groups or community initiatives, can foster a sense of solidarity and hope.

The psychological impact of terror is profound, but so is the human capacity for resilience. By understanding the effects of trauma and utilizing tools for emotional recovery, we can not only navigate through tragedy but also emerge stronger and more united as individuals and communities.

At The Love University Report, our goal is to provide insights that inspire healing, hope, and psychological well-being. Together, we can face the challenges of our times with courage and compassion.

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Do you believe that love should be a partnership built on trust, shared experiences, and practical connection? If so, you might be the Craftsperson LoveType (ISTP on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—a resourceful and independent individual who values freedom, exploration, and tangible accomplishments in both life and love. On our Love University podcast, we explored the unique qualities of the Craftsperson and how you can find fulfilling love and purpose. Here’s what we discovered:

As a Craftsperson, you approach life with a quiet confidence and a knack for problem-solving, making you an intriguing and grounded partner. You thrive in relationships that allow for both independence and mutual respect. For you, love is not about constant emotional intensity or elaborate displays of affection—it’s about steady, meaningful actions and building a life together through shared experiences and practical support.

In relationships, you may not always express your emotions openly, but your actions speak volumes. Whether it’s fixing something that’s broken, planning an exciting outdoor adventure, or simply being a steady presence, you show your love through what you do rather than what you say. This makes you a dependable and down-to-earth partner, but it can also lead to misunderstandings if your emotional depth isn’t fully recognized.

To find your perfect love, seek someone who appreciates your hands-on approach and values your self-sufficiency. You’ll thrive with a partner who respects your need for space and freedom but also inspires you to explore deeper emotional connections. Look for someone who enjoys adventure and discovery as much as you do—someone who can join you in experiencing life to the fullest without holding you back.

At the same time, it’s important to acknowledge your own emotional needs and communicate them with your partner. While you might be naturally reserved, opening up about your feelings can lead to a stronger, more intimate bond. Remember, vulnerability isn’t a weakness; it’s a bridge to deeper understanding and connection.

As a Craftsperson, your ideal relationship is one where mutual respect and shared interests create a foundation of trust and companionship. Whether you’re building a project together, exploring a new hiking trail, or simply enjoying a quiet evening, the love you seek is grounded in authentic moments and mutual growth.

The key to finding your perfect love as an ISTP lies in balancing your independence with emotional openness. Embrace your adventurous, pragmatic nature, but don’t shy away from vulnerability that can enrich your relationships. By seeking a partner who aligns with your values and supports your journey of exploration and growth, you can create a love that’s not only stable but also endlessly fulfilling.

With the right partner by your side, your love life can become a journey of shared adventure and practical joy—proving that even the most independent hearts can find extraordinary love and purpose.

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Do you believe that love should be a grand adventure filled with endless possibilities? If so, you may be the Social Philosopher LoveType (ENFP on the Myers-Briggs personality test). As an ENFP, you're a passionate, free-spirited individual who thrives on deep connections, exploration, and discovering new perspectives in every aspect of life. You’re an idealist with a deep yearning for meaning, often questioning the world around you and how love fits into the larger picture of existence.

In relationships, you are the type of person who desires more than just romance—you crave emotional depth, intellectual stimulation, and the sense that you're growing together with your partner. You’re always seeking new ideas, perspectives, and experiences, and you want a partner who can keep up with your adventurous spirit and philosophical musings. You're highly empathetic and love engaging in heartfelt, meaningful conversations that delve into the mysteries of life. But while your openness and creativity make you an exciting partner, your idealism can sometimes lead you to expect perfection or overlook potential incompatibilities in a relationship.

If you find the right person who shares your sense of adventure and can match your intellectual curiosity, you can build a love that’s both deeply fulfilling and endlessly transformative. However, be cautious of letting your boundless enthusiasm for potential cloud your judgment. Your imagination may lead you to idealize someone or a relationship to the point of overlooking red flags or staying in a situation that doesn't align with your true desires.

The key to finding your perfect love as an ENFP is embracing both your passionate spirit and your need for authentic connection. Recognize that love, for you, is a journey of mutual growth and discovery. By staying true to your values and seeking a partner who can engage with you on a deep emotional and intellectual level, you'll create a relationship that not only enriches your life but also allows both of you to explore the endless possibilities of love and meaning together.

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Do you believe that love should be a deeply emotional and spiritual experience? If so, you may be the Mystic Writer LoveType (INFJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test). On our Love University podcast, Dr. Avila reveals Mystic Writer love secrets from his classic bestseller, LoveTypes (https://shorturl.at/6uo30). As a Mystic Writer, you’re a rare personality type who values the written word, is a great listener, and wants to help humanity in a creative, spiritual, or psychological way. When it comes to love, you can be quite content having your soul mate as your primary, and perhaps sole, source of companionship in life (you like it that way). You are highly idealistic and privately passionate. You can love someone very profoundly, but you may stay too long in an incompatible relationship because you can delude yourself (with your highly attuned sense of imagination) into believing the person is the right one. On the positive side, if you find the right “soul partner,” you can create a love that lasts a lifetime and beyond.

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Would like to speedread your dates and quickly determine if they’re the one? Now, there is a way to do that by utilizing Dr. Avila’s classic LoveTypes system (lovetype.com). Based on the theory behind the Myers-Briggs®—the most popular personality test in the world, Dr. Avila’s approach to love finding has been proven with over 40 million internet users. On our Love University podcast, Dr. Avila explained two of the most important LoveType personality dimensions: Deciding and Organizing, as follows:

Deciding Dimension: Thinker of Feeler? Thinkers make decisions primarily with their logic, while Feelers decide mainly with their emotions. Thinkers and Feelers often get together in relationships, but need to understand and respect each other’s style. If they don’t, Thinkers may accuse Feelers of taking things too personally, while Feelers tell Thinkers they are too cold and critical. A better approach is to value each other’s strengths. The Thinker recognizes that their Feeler provides warmth and emotional support, while the Feeler appreciates the way the Thinker can calm conflicts and provide logical solutions. To determine whether your date or romantic partner is a Thinker or a Feeler, ask them this question: “What’s your favorite movie and why?” If they choose a movie because of the way it made them feel, they’re likely a Feeler. If they choose a movie because of the way it made them think, they’re probably a Thinker.
Organizing Dimension: Structured or Spontaneous? Structured people value schedules, organization, and being on time. Spontaneous people (known as “P’s” or “Perceivers” on the Myers-Briggs test) like to be more flowing, easy-going, and less attuned to schedules and too much organization. In relationships, when Structured people get together with Spontaneous people, they may have problems in a lot of areas, including time, schedules, children, sex, commitment, and money. Again, the key to a harmonious relationship is to respect and appreciate each other’s style. Structured people can value the Spontaneous person’s ability to get them to have fun and be more relaxed. Spontaneous people can be grateful when their Structured partner helps them get organized and makes sure they get to places on time. To determine your romantic partner’s style in this dimension, ask them, “If you were invited to Vegas (or a nice resort) tomorrow, a work day, would you go?” A spontaneous person would say, “My bags are packed,” while a Structured person would say, “I can’t,” or “I have to plan it out.”

It is said that differences make the world go round. Yet, certain differences in core values and preferences can make a relationship more conflictual and difficult. Therefore, it’s important to recognize and understand your love partner’s differences, especially in the initial dating stages before you fall in love and commit (possibly to the wrong person). By applying the LoveTypes system, and screening out candidates who are not compatible, you have a better chance of discovering your ideal soul mate and creating a love that lasts a lifetime.

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Are you practical or imaginative? How about your love partner? Research shows that 70% of happily married couples are the same or similar in this personality dimension—either both imaginative or both practical. On our Love University Podcast, we delved into the Jungian/Myers-Briggs personality dimension known as N/S or Intuitive/Sensor (Imaginative/Practical), and how it can affect the happiness and success of couples.

If you’re an N (Intuitive/Imaginative), you probably like to create, invent, innovate, and think outside the box. You may like psychology, philosophy, science, technology, spirituality, and the arts. You’re always looking to improve something.

If you’re an S (Sensory/Practical), you may like to experience life through your five senses in a practical, realistic, and concrete way. You savor the aesthetics of life, and you’re probably good at saving, investing, and dealing with practical matters. You enjoy life as you experience it in the moment, not in a “pie in the sky” futuristic way.

Unfortunately, a strong N with a strong S can have a lot of problems in a relationship, especially if they don’t respect each other’s styles.

The S will say to the N: “You’re such a head in the clouds person. Come down to earth.”

The N will reply: “And why are you such a stick in the mud? Why don’t we elevate our auras to a higher point of actualization and enter the noosphere?”

The S will retort; “Why don’t you elevate yourself off the couch and pay the bills; we’re two weeks late.”

The good news is that Ns and Ss can work things out in their relationships—and may even complement each other—if they respect each other’s differences. Tune in to hear more about how to make the practical versus imaginative dimension work in your relationship so you can create a love that lasts a lifetime.

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Do you have election anxiety—stress and worry about how a political outcome will affect your life? The election in the US has taken place and millions of people are experiencing a variety of emotions—from hope to despair; from confidence and optimism to worry and fear. Some people become so emotionally identified with their preferred candidate or party that they think their personal self-worth or self-esteem is riding on an election outcome. On our Love University podcast, we went into the community to ask people their thoughts and feelings about the election, and we received a fascinating variety of opinions. Here are three things that can help if you’re experiencing election anxiety:

*Limit your political media consumption. Although it’s good to stay informed, many people go overboard and spend too much time watching the news and feeling anxious about it. To counteract this, set boundaries for how much time you will spend checking political news (1 hour etc.), and take breaks from election coverage. In this way, you will refresh your mind and see things from a different perspective.

*Focus on what you can control. You may feel that election results are a big thing that you can’t control—and you may start feeling helpless about it. The solution is to stay active. Stay informed, volunteer, and have meaningful conversations about policy and issues with people who care about those things. It’s true: The more active you are, the better you will feel.

*Practice mindfulness and relaxation. You can reduce stress and improve your emotional control by focusing on the present moment. Try this exercise: Spend ten to fifteen minutes each day imagining a beautiful scene as you breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. For example, if you visualize that you’re on a beach, imagine the sounds you hear (waves crashing), what you see (beautiful blue sky and ocean), what you smell (the smell of coconut oil), and the emotions you feel (peace and relaxation). Do this daily, and you will be more centered, and at peace.

Election time and the period afterward can be stressful in some people’s lives. The good news is that you can maintain peace and relaxation by taking care of your physical and emotional needs. It’s also important to extend loving energy without expectation. Love yourself, others, and a higher nature, and you will be in a much better place.

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Are you in an Introvert-Extrovert relationship? Maybe you’re the Introvert—you get energy more from your own thoughts—and your partner is the outgoing, Extraverted type. If you don’t understand each other, you may clash. Or, you could be an Extroverted woman with an Introverted man, which can be a challenging combination based on research. In our enlightening Love University podcast, love personality expert, Dr. Avila (Lovetypes: Discover Your Romantic Style And Find Your Soul Mate: Avila, Alexander: 9780380800148: Amazon.com: Books), delves into the world of Introversion and Extroversion in dating, love, and relationships. He reveals important tips on how to thrive in various personality love combinations, as follows:

*Introverts and Extroverts have different needs for social energy. Introverts often like to stay home while Extroverts like to go out. Key to success: Extroverts, respect your Introverts need for “alone/quiet time,” while Introverts be OK with giving your Extrovert a boy’s/girl’s night out.

*Introverts like to listen; Extroverts like to talk. Although Introverts like to talk at times and Extroverts can listen, it’s usually the Extrovert doing the majority of the talking. In this case, each partner needs to appreciate the other’s style (Extroverts listen to Introverts; Introverts let your Extrovert enjoy their talking time).

*Extrovert women and Introvert men can have challenges. Research shows that Extrovert women have the most problem with Introvert men in the areas of chores, finances, hobbies, communication and sex. If they don’t respect each other’s style, they will attack each other (“Why don’t you speak up?” “Can you be quiet for once?”).

The key of harmony in relationships is to appreciate and respect each other’s unique personality style (LoveType). When partners do this, almost any combination can work—two Introverts or two Extroverts together; or an Introvert/Extrovert combination. Respect and mutual appreciation for each other’s personality difference can work wonders in a relationship

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The singles world often seems like a dating masquerade. People wear psychological masks that hide their true personalities so they can impress each other. Unfortunately, when the masks come off, they often find that they’re incompatible with each other. Now, disappointment and heartache sets in. It doesn’t have to be that way. On our latest Love University podcast, Dr. Avila’s explains how his classic LoveType system (lovetype.com) can help you quickly unmask potential romantic partners and find your most compatible soul mate.

For example, are you:

Introvert or Extavert?

Imaginative or Practical?

Thinker or Feeler?

Structured or Spontaneous?

These simple personality dimensions in the LoveType system will help you embrace your personality power and discover the love partner best suited for you.

Based on Dr. Avila’s extensive years of research into love personality compatibility (utilizing Myers-Briggs personality type theory), his revolutionary LoveType system can help you discover your romantic style and find the best partner for you. Listen as you discover your true nature and attract the ideal soul mate for you.

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On our Love University podcast, we had an enlightening interview with Karl Dunn, an expert on same-sex divorce and mental health issues related to divorce. Karl recounted the lessons learned from his own marriage/divorce and how “his marriage didn’t make him whole, but his divorce did.” Here is some of the useful advice he shared for how to have a healthy divorce:

*Be aware of the friend filter. Karl identifies three types of friends during divorce: Friends who are on your side no matter what, friends who care about you, but don’t want to be around your divorce (it brings up their own trauma), and “binge divorce watchers” who are hungry for the gruesome details for their own entertainment (the worst kind).

*Keep an emotional diary: As you go through your divorce, keep a diary in which you write down what triggers your sadness or anger (e.g. email from an attorney or your ex), why you feel that way, and what the Universe is telling you about the best way to respond.

*Expectations will kill you—kill expectations. The key to getting out whole on the other side of divorce is to minimize your expectations of what is just, fair, or equitable. Hire the best lawyer if you need to, prepare all of your documents, and see a therapist if you want more support. At the same time, be present in the moment and don’t let anger, fear, or hardened expectations take over your mind.

In the end, Karl says, he realized that he didn’t need a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow to be happy. He was the pot of gold. He had the power to actualize all of his hopes and dreams and achieve ultimate success, happiness, and fulfillment. Karl counsels that you, too, can be your own happy ending, whether you’re married, divorced, or single; whether you’re straight, gay, or anywhere in between. Happiness is your internal gold—dig for it and you will find it.

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Do you ever feel like your mind is controlling you with negativity, doubt, and fear? If so, then there is a solution for you. It is called “Soul Statements,” simple phrases you can incorporate into your daily thinking that will lift you from despair and frustration into joy and love. Our guest on Love University, Corey Folsom, is an enlightened relationship coach, spiritual leader, and author (Soul Statements: A Love Coach's Guide to Successful Communication: Folsom, Corey Lyon: 9798218188856: Amazon.com: Books). Taking us on a journey into the power of soul statements, Corey educates us with his life-changing advice on regaining your wisdom within. Here’s what we learned from Corey:

*Find your querencia. In bullfighting, a bull may stake out his querencia, a certain part of the bull ring where he feels strong and safe. As humans, we can discover our own querencia by going emotionally back to a place where we felt strong, comfortable, and authentic. Recall what you were doing, the people you were with, and how you felt during your time of querencia. Maybe, it was with a certain friend or loved one, doing a hobby or activity you loved, and you felt joy, peace, and comfort. Now, whenever you’re feeling anxious or doubtful, mentally (and physically) go back to that querencia—that zone of comfort—to re-energize yourself and regain your inner strength.

*Repeat soul statements to yourself daily. Soul statements are a healing and comforting way of talking to yourself (“I am enough”; “I am growing”), instead of the self-bullying thoughts that may torment you (“I’m not good enough” “I’ll never get better”). Come up with your own affirming soul statements—write them down or record them—and repeat them to yourself regularly. This will transform your life and uplift your confidence and well-being.

*Have the courage to disappoint. You may fall into the nice guy or gal zone where you try to please others and are afraid to state what you really feel. When you do that, you often hurt yourself and your authenticity, and you feel disappointed in yourself. Remember that saying “no” is a powerful healing word if you feel in your gut that you need to say it. The other person may be momentarily disappointed, but they will get over it, and you will stand firm in your beliefs—taking care of yourself so you can give more to others who really need your help.

*Uplevel always. Think of every act you do, however small, as a chance to do better and feel better. For example, when Corey brushes his teeth, he says to himself, “I’m keeping my commitment to take care of my teeth, my self, as an act of self-love. Self-care is soul care.” When you strive to do everything with love and care, and tell yourself that you’re doing so, you will start to feel buoyant and cheerful. Now, every day is an opportunity for growth and learning, giving you the energy and strength to help yourself and others.

There is a great power in Soul Statements. How we talk to ourselves can make a tremendous difference in our relationships, finances, career, health, and happiness. When you’re supporting and loving yourself, through your thoughts and inner voice, you will transform your life from fear and regret to joy and optimism. By repeating soul statements to yourself, you will constantly improve and grow—becoming a more confident and loving human being each day. It’s a wonderful sight to behold to see your soul grow and your heart soar. Enjoy every minute of it.

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Is something holding you back from achieving your dreams? Maybe, you’re being held back by negative people, or perhaps by self-defeating thoughts in your own mind. If that’s the case, then things are about to change. It’s time to kick the negativity out of your mind and become the most powerful and loving person you can possibly be. On our Love University podcast, we recently had the pleasure of meeting up with Sean Kanan, star of Cobra Kai and the iconic Karate Kid franchise. Aside from being an award-winning producer and consummate actor (Young and the Restless, Bold and the Beautiful), Sean has written self-empowerment books (wayofthecobra.com) and dedicated his life to showing students how to overcome obstacles and reach their dreams. Here is some of the wisdom we learned from this special interview with Sean:

Be a Cobra. A Cobra is someone who is authentic, self-aware, empathetic, strong, and humble. They epitomize a blend of paradoxical characteristics that make them a Compassionate Warrior. They’re ready to fight to defend their principles and protect others from harm, while at the same time being compassionate, loving, and empathetic. Like the Mike Barnes character in the current Cobra Kai* series, season 6, the Cobra can offer tough love and discipline, while also being an inspiring mentor to help others grow.

*Never compromise your character. Sean tells us that reputation is what others say about you; character is what you say about yourself, and what you do when no one is around to watch you. Guard your character with everything you have; it is the essence of who you are, your authenticity, your inner power. With it, you can conquer the world; without it, the world will conquer you.

*Win the battle for your mind and be reborn each day. You need to metaphorically die each day to your old limiting self (self-defeating mindset). Every day when you wake up, resolve to be a better version of who you were the day before: wiser, kinder, more compassionate, more humble, tougher, and stronger. Each day, you will let go of the person you were yesterday. If you fell short or made a mistake, today you will start fresh; you will do better. Today, you will forgive yourself for your past errors and create a new, more powerful, and more loving you.

These are just some of the life-changing secrets we learned from Sean on how to kick the problems out of your life and achieve personal mastery. Be a Cobra, never compromise your character, and be reborn every day. If you do these things, you will conquer your inner world and achieve your dreams as you help others achieve theirs.

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There is a powerful way to access your greatest talents and achieve your grandest goals. It is called Brahmacharya—the use of sexual and romantic energy for a higher purpose. Our guest on Love University, Melissa Barragan, multimillion dollar real estate producer, applied the principle of Brahmacharya and explained how it led her to a powerful realization of self-love and transformation. After initiating a lifestyle of romantic abstinence beginning in 2023, she achieved her biggest sale ever--$25 million in one day (Valentine’s Day, 2024)--and helped a loving family find their perfect forever home. Here are some of the highlights from Mellisa’s experience of personal awakening:

*God Is Your Valentine. Although Melissa wondered if she would find romantic love after her Brahmacharya experiment, she realized that her true love was God (Higher Nature). Instead of feeling lonely on Valentine’s Day, she experienced a great feeling of unity and love with her Higher Nature as she spent the day with a lovely family and helped them achieve their real estate dreams.

*Fusing Passion, Love, and Romance. The happiest and most influential couples in the world like Grant and Elena Cardone (real estate and motivation) have the ideal blend of love qualities. These Supercouples are able to combine mind, body, and soul to create a tremendous partnership in which they transmute their attraction and love for each other into greatness and contribution for the betterment of society.

*Livmor, Love More. Melissa coined the phrase #Livmor (Live More) to symbolize the importance of focusing on abundance, joy, and love—every day of your life. We often feel disappointed and frustrated when we try to find happiness in externals: relationships, money, work, or experiences. The truth is that true happiness is based on inner love and peace. To live more, we need to love more: Ourselves, others, and a Higher Nature. When we do everything with love—spending time with loved ones, eating, exercising, making love, working, giving, helping, and contributing—life becomes an absolute joy.

It’s about you now. Decide that, starting today, you will give your life energy an upward turn. Instead of wasting your vital life forces on superficial relationships, distractions, and negativity, you will use every ounce of your energy to live more, love more, and be more. When you do this, you will achieve everything you have ever dreamed of, and your life will be a miracle come true.

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Do you or a loved one have a serious, life-threatening illness? Do you fear contracting a deadly disease in the future and having no hope for your recovery? If so, there is a way for you to rewrite your sickness story into one of triumph and peace. Our inspiring guest on Love University, Elizabeth Benedict, bestselling author and cancer survivor, shared her personal experience (Rewriting Illness) about illness (elizabethbenedict.com). On the show, she enlightened us about the realities of disease, love, and recovery. Here are some of the things we learned:

*Medical Professional’s emotional reactions can influence a patient’s mental and physical state. In psychology, mood contagion occurs when we pick up the moods of others—whether good or bad. A medical professional’s fears or negative emotions can influence the patient in a negative way. At the same time, positive emotions expressed by medical providers—compassion, optimism, and love—can also be healing forces to help the patient in their recovery.

*There may be a gendered response to illness. Men tend to be more stoic about illness and not as hyperfocused on their bodies as women often are (which explains why men may detect illness in later stages when it’s too late).

*Serious illness is an internal power struggle—choose your own way. Some people benefit by talking about their illness to loved ones—it helps them release their tension and fear. Others do better by not talking a lot about it and focusing on positive thoughts and activities. Each person has a different internal battle and needs to choose the mental approach that works best for them.

*Fear needs to be balanced. According to Elizabeth, patients need to strike the right balance between feeling too much fear about an illness and not having enough fear to protect themselves from danger. Although fear can be a practical and useful ally, too much fear can paralyze a person and take away their joy for living, which prevents them from maintaining the proper recovery mindset.

The truth is that a majority of us will get sick and die one day. Yet, we don’t know the time or the way. Those who trust in a Higher Nature (God, spirit, nature) understand that they will be called from their bodies at the appropriate time. In the meantime, our duty is to live with as much love, joy, and contribution as we possibly can while we’re here on earth. As long as you have your body, rejoice in it, love it, and be grateful for it.

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Do you get stressed, afraid, or sad? Does conflict with others wear you down? If the answer is yes, there is a solution for you. It is called empathy: caring and giving with intention—both to yourself and others. Our esteemed guest on Love University, Judith Orloff (drjudithorloff.com), empathic psychiatrist and New York Times bestselling author shared light on the “Genius of Empathy” from her new book with the same title. According to Judith, empathy is an important part of emotional intelligence and a powerful healing tool for ourselves and others. Here’s what we learned from Judith about the amazing gift of empathy:

*You need to start with self-empathy. You may be hard on yourself, self-critical and attacking yourself about your flaws and mistakes. This is especially the case for sensitive and caring people who often excessively take on the psychological burdens of others and don’t know how to set healthy boundaries. If this sounds like you, it's important to put yourself in your own shoes and be an advocate for your self-worth and value. Love yourself by putting your hand over your heart and repeating this phrase: “I forgive myself for my past and I open my heart to my future. I am a loving and valuable human being. I can say “No” to others and still be OK. All is well.”

*Practice empathy toward others. Place yourself in other people’s shoes; feel as they feel during your time with them. When someone angrily cuts you off on the road, instead of getting angry in return, you can slow down your thought process and see the situation through their eyes. You can consider, “Maybe they’re having a rough day—perhaps they’re feeling sick or just got into a fight with a loved one. There may be a reason for their behavior that I’m not seeing.” When you substitute your irritation and anger for empathy and love, you start to display compassion, and you have a desire to relieve their suffering. Think about how much the angry person suffers from their own reactions—their face gets red, their veins pop. They can’t really help themselves. Now you can forgive them and move on to a higher plane of feeling.

*Develop empathy toward the world. According to Judith, it’s important to understand the “Power of We” instead of “Us Versus Them.” The truth is that we are all interconnected as human beings. We all share this planet. We all breathe in air, eat, sleep, love, and work. We suffer from the same feelings of regret, sadness, anger, and frustration. We all want to love and be loved, enjoy life in the way we can, and feel meaningful or valuable in some way. By seeing other people as part of a grand human family, we can develop a global sense of empathy. We can send a healing thought or prayer to people in parts of the world who are in horrible conflict or strife. Also, by practicing the beautiful Tonglen meditation, we can inhale the suffering of others and breathe out compassion and love. In this way, we can help heal the world as we heal ourselves.

Empathy is on a continuum. Some people are very empathetic, others moderately so, and some (sociopaths, narcissists) have little, if any, empathy. The good news is that a majority of people can increase their empathy toward themselves and others. By doing so, you will quiet the unkind voices in your head (self-critical thoughts), and you will befriend yourself and others. You will also establish good boundaries so you are not overwhelmed by the negativity of others. And, most importantly of all, you will extend loving energy without expectation and shine your light of love to all who may receive it. Empathy is truly a genius, and the genius is in you.

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Are you an intuitive and sensitive (feeling) person? Perhaps you’re someone who loves psychology, philosophy, spirituality, and finding the meaning of life. If that’s the case, then you may be an Idealistic Philosopher, the rare personality type (about 4%) who believes that “love is the perfect place: quiet, peaceful, and kind.” On Love University, Dr. Avila began a new series on the 16 LoveTypes (Myers-Briggs romantic styles) based on his classic bestseller LoveTypes. In this segment, Dr. Avila reveals the qualities of the Idealistic Philosopher personality and how they can find and keep love. Idealistic Philosophers (INFP on the Myers-Briggs) have these characteristics:

Internal (Introvert) Energy, represented by the letter I. They primarily get energy from their own thoughts, as opposed to socializing with other people. Although they can be quite talkative and sociable at times, they can get tired talking too much and may need to retreat to a private and quiet place to recharge their batteries.

Intuitive/Imaginative, represented by the letter N. Idealistic Philosophers view the world through their imagination and their vision of what is possible. They may not be as practical as the other LoveTypes, but they believe they can eventually bring their dreams into reality. They also believe they have a special mission to fulfill in life, and this vision will keep driving their quest for love and meaning.

Feeling/Sensitive, represented by the letter F. Idealistic Philosophers make decisions primarily with their heart (feelings). If they need to say something to someone and it may hurt their feelings, they may not say it because they want to maintain harmony in the relationship. As feelers, single Idealistic Philosophers are also “hopeful romantics”—they’re always thinking the next person they meet could be their soulmate.

Spontaneous (or Perceiver on the Myers-Briggs), represented by the letter P. Idealistic Philosophers tend to be playful, fun, and spontaneous. By other people’s standards, especially the more structured types, they may be disorganized and unstructured. However, Idealistic Philosophers don’t see it that way. They would say they are organized in their own way, and they value people and experiences over strict structure. Their motto is: You only live once, enjoy it.

Therefore, by combining the four letters above, the Idealistic Philosopher is known as the INFP.

Overall, the Idealistic Philosopher (INFP) can be a warmly appreciative and supportive romantic partner. In terms of challenges, if you’re an INFP, you tend to be hard on yourself (self-critical) so you need to practice self-love and self-forgiveness. Here’s the good news: If you can love and appreciate yourself as an Idealistic Philosopher, you can attract a like-minded mate who shares your passion for finding a meaning in life. A good match for you is an Idealistic Philosopher or the more structured Mystic Writer (INFJ on the Myers-Briggs). Regardless of your disappointments in the romantic world, as an INFP you can discover your compatible love partner. When you meet that ideal soul mate, your joy will have no bounds, and you will create a harmonious relationship that lasts a lifetime.

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Is this the year of your prosperity, joy, and love? The answer is a resounding “Yes” according to our distinguished guest on Love University, Marci Shimoff (happyfornoreason.com) the woman’s face of “Chicken Soup for the Soul” series and #1 NY bestselling transformational author (Happy for no Reason; Love for No Reason). In our delightful conversation, Marci shared the secrets of maintaining your happiness and loving nature and achieving your dreams, regardless of any obstacles and problems you may experience. Here are some of the marvelous insights we learned from Marci:

*Believe the Universe is Loving and Benevolent. Happy and successful people expect that good things will happen to them. Because of their optimistic and grateful natures, they are open to new opportunities. They are prepared to accept the best and they often receive the best the Universe has to offer. Repeat this to yourself every day: “The Universe has abundant good for me—love, happiness, and success. I just need to open the door to my wonderful good.”

*Build Up Your Emotional Immune System. Mood contagion is what happens when you pick up the moods of other people—either positive or negative. This is especially the case if you are a sensitive or empathic person who absorbs the energy of others. When you’re around negative people, tell yourself: “I am my own castle of positive energy; no one and nothing can enter and disrupt my peace and happiness. I am protected and safe. I am content.”

*Take Ownership of Your Happiness. According to Marci, many people need to have a reason for happiness (“I need a new job, relationship, house, experience…”). The problem is that happiness from external things soon wears off and you’re back to the emotional state you had before. Lasting happiness comes when you don’t have a reason for your happiness. You are just happy, period. To develop your inner happiness, repeat this to yourself: “I will not let any unhappy thoughts penetrate my mind. If a negative thought enters my mind temporarily, I will quickly discard it. I will only allow peaceful and joyful thoughts to penetrate my consciousness. I am happy and free.”

*Raise Your Love Set Point. Love Set point refers to a certain baseline level of loving energy that you tend to have in most situations. The good news is that you can increase your love set point; you can become more loving, and you can feel more loved. For example, you can practice unconditional self-love by loving the unlovable in you (something you consider unappealing about yourself). Part of this is forgiving yourself for any things you have done that you regret. Also, you can become more loving toward others by giving fully from your heart—doing altruistic and kind acts to help others (giving money to the homeless, listening empathetically to a hurting friend). At the same time, you can look for the similarities and beauty in others and recognize the oneness of all humanity. Finally, you can connect with a Higher Nature (God, Spirit, nature) that is all-loving and helps actualize your potential to love yourself and others to the fullest.

Yes, this will be the year of your happiness, success, and love. All you have to do is work from the inside out—develop these traits first within yourself—and then manifest them in the outside world. When you do this, you will attract all you desire: career and financial success, excellent physical and mental health, and an amazing lifestyle. Yes, this is your year of wonder and accomplishment. Rejoice in it; excel in it, love it.

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Do you have an emotional bully in your life who harasses, demeans, or criticizes you? Maybe it’s your boss, friend, or even your love partner. Or perhaps you bully yourself relentlessly, pointing out all of your flaws and weaknesses and making you believe you’re a puny little nothing. If that’s the case, then there is help on the way. Our friend and favored guest, Sean Kanan, Emmy winner and beloved actor in the classic Karate Kid and Cobra Kai franchises, graced us with his advice on how to defeat the bullies in your life. Here are some important tips we learned from master teacher Sean (wayofthecobra.com):

*Never compromise your character. Stand firm in who you really are. Don’t let other people try to tempt you or bully you into doing things you don’t really want to do. When you stay true to your inner self—your Hara (center of power in the East)—you will be happy and proud of your authentic nature. No one can push you off balance.

*Respect yourself and others. Be kind and compassionate to yourself and other people. Although anger is a common reaction when others try to hurt us, we need to rein in our reactions and do what is best for our mental and physical health. See the angry person as someone who suffers from their own out of control nature, while you maintain your calm and peaceful composure. Practice self-care, breathe deeply, meditate, or engage in a spiritual practice. Conserve your integrity and peace of mind at all costs.

*Take a Personal Inventory. Fear is what holds many people back. In a journal or notebook, write down the fears you have in your life. Note the times you have the fear, the intensity of the fear, and what you did to deal with it. When you do this, you will discover your fear triggers—when and how you become fearful and anxious. Now you can begin to neutralize the fears and focus on the parts of you that are good, powerful, and noble.

*Think From Abundance. Many times our anxieties, worries, and insecurities stem from our belief in lack—we think we don’t have enough; we’re not good enough. As a result, we settle for being with negative and critical people who feed into our erroneous self-belief that we’re not good enough. The simple antidote is to believe that there is an abundance of love, prosperity, health, and happiness for you. When you think from a mindset of abundance, you never have to settle for less. You can live more and love more, always.

Yes, you can defeat inner and outer bullies by the power of your mind. You don’t even have to throw a punch or kick. Most bullies are cowardly, so having a steely inner mind of confidence, poise, and balance will throw them off balance and defeat them. You can also defeat your inner critical thoughts (thought bullies) by saying: “I don’t need to listen to your poisonous words. I can be free, strong, loving, and happy. I am the Cobra. I am Invincible.”

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What if I told you about an unsung hero, an American diplomat and businessman, who did incredible things to help America and the world during World War II? This man, one of America’s leading industrialists, put his business career on hold to help save European Jews during WWII, assist in deposing Mussolini, the Italian dictator, and block Germany from succeeding in the war. On Love University Podcast, we had the pleasure of learning about this mystery man, Myron Taylor, courtesy of award-winning legal scholar, Evan Stewart. In Evan’s latest book, “The Man Nobody Knew,” Evan painstakingly recounts unknown and fascinating details about Myron’s influential, yet modest and humble life, and the way he helped save many lives during WWII. A fascinating portrait of a man who sacrificed for his country and the world, Myron’s life is an inspiration to many of us today who realize that history can, and does, repeat itself.

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Once in a while you meet a person who is endlessly fascinating and an absorbing conversationalist. This is who we met when Donna Spruijt-Metz joined Dr. Avila on Love University Podcast. An Emeritus Professor of Psychology and Public Health at USC, a former professional flutist, and an acclaimed poet, Donna enlightened us on various life topics and inspired us to find our true inner nature and develop a love for learning.

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If you or a loved one is on the Autism spectrum, or if you have been curious about this condition, then you’re about to learn some fascinating things about this often-misunderstood diagnosis.

On our Love University podcast, we had the pleasure of meeting Dr. Sneha Mathur, autism expert, as she enlightened us on the truth about those who are classified as being on the “spectrum.”

Sneha talks with Dr. Avila about the natural diversity and creative potential that these unique individuals may possess. Although a number of them can have challenges in social and behavioral areas, they may also exhibit great qualities of creativity, intense focus, loyalty, the ability to detect patterns, and passionate productivity.

According to Sneha, what was once viewed as a severe mental disorder can be reconceptualized in a more positive way that respects the abilities and contributions of these extraordinary people.

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Imagine if you had to disguise your race and gender or risk capture and death? This is exactly what happened to William and Ellen Craft, an enslaved married couple in the Deep South during Pre-Civil War times. In 1848, Ellen, whose mother was half-white, disguised herself as a white male slaveowner and her husband, William, played the part of her slave as they traveled North to escape slavery. Since Ellen couldn’t read or write, she tried to bypass any nosy questioners by having her arm in a sling and pretending to be sick. With various close calls and harrowing situations, they eventually made it North and became activists for anti-slavery. Through it all, their love for each other kept them safe, physically, psychologically, and spiritually. Join celebrated author, Ilyon Woo, and Dr. Avila as they discuss the amazing lives and journey of William and Ellen Craft on Love University, based on Woo’s NY times bestselling Master Slave Husband Wife. It is a story that will melt your heart and inspire you to reach for your own mental freedom.

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“My father was kidnapped and killed when I was young. I fell into a deep depression and almost lost the will to live. But then, during my darkest hour, I discovered the magical words “Live More” and my life transformed. I realized that I had more to live and I could teach others about the amazing possibilities of life. I became a Ms. Universe contestant and pageant winner, as well as one of the top real estate producers in the nation, with over $200 million in sales. I work with celebrities and everyday people to help them buy their dream properties. I am Melissa Barragan, the Queen of Florida real estate, and this is my story. Please tune into Dr. Avila’s Love University and listen as we discuss the secrets of Living, Loving, and Being MORE. I did it and you can do it too. Love and Blessings, Mellisa. @liv_mor."

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Is something holding you back from achieving your dreams? Does the obstacle seem too great? If so, then you are about to be inspired by our guest on Love University, Zana, an amazing new musical artist who overcame great obstacles to influence the world with her music. Growing up during the horrors of war in Bosnia and Herzegovina, she escaped and started a new life in the US.

Transforming her pain into power, her music was shortlisted for an Oscar and considered for Grammy nominations in three categories. Her music speaks to the soul and her musical language is love. Listen as Zana raises our spirits by channeling songs through her Higher Nature. In a candid and uplifting way, she shows us what it takes to drive toward your vision and achieve your most treasured goals, no matter what.

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Would you like to give your children one of the biggest advantages in life? You can by giving them the gift of being bilingual. Teaching your children a second language at an early age can open them up to exciting new cultural experiences, advantageous job and career opportunities, and a world of travel adventures. Join us on Love University and listen as our special guest, Maritere, award-winning parenting expert and author, explains the importance of teaching your child to be bilingual in our fast-changing, technology focused world.

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Would you like to create your own reality and achieve your wildest dreams? Now you can by applying a powerful three-part system of mental and physical transformation based on self-hypnosis and neural reprogramming. On Love University podcast, we met Diego Soto, an acclaimed expert on installing new mental frameworks and living successfully. Diego taught us the three steps for conquering negative thought patterns and implementing positive mental habits to fulfill your deepest desires. On the show, we also witnessed a real-life case study as Diego helped Carlos, one of LA’s most notorious gangsters, overcome his fears and develop a new mindset of peace, love, and hope. Here are the three steps to inner and outer fulfillment as explained by Diego:

1.Have a Defined Intention: What is it that you really want in life? Focus on that one goal, and everything else will fall into place. Perhaps, you desire a loving relationship and family life, material comforts and financial security, a beautiful home, wonderful friends, amazing travel experiences, or the opportunity to contribute something positive to the world. Now that you know your defined intention, write it down, speak it into existence, and focus on it daily.

Maintain a Clear Visualization.Through meditation, affirmations, journaling, or prayer, imagine that you are achieving your ultimate aim. Whatever you imagine, make it very clear in your mind. Imagine all of the sights, sounds, tastes, and scents of your dream goal. Perhaps, you see your dream home—a beautiful white house on a hill overlooking a gorgeous sandy beach with clear blue water. You imagine your home filled with loved ones, as you do the creative work you love. You smell the scents of delicious seafood cooking in the kitchen. Your hear the joyous laughter of those around you.
Experience the Full Feeling of Actualization. Once you have a clear intention, and visualize your goal becoming reality, you need to feel it in your body, heart, and soul. What is the emotion you experience when you meet your soul mate, start your dream business to help the world, travel to your most beloved destination? Perhaps, it’s joy, curiosity, love, gratitude, and so on. Focus on that feeling as it propels you beyond your fears and barriers, and takes you to the promised land of your ultimate dreams.

Yes, it’s true. You can create your own reality and change your mind from fear to love, from regret to satisfaction, and from sadness to joy. Practice daily and you will be amazed at how much you can achieve in your inner and outer life.

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Have you ever felt regretful or sad about the past? Perhaps, you feel that you’ve made some serious mistakes or blunders that have cost you important things in your life—love, success, finances, opportunities, health, or happiness. If you feel burdened under the pain of lost hope and unrealized expectations, there is good news for you. There is a way for you to recapture your power and joy through the magic of Self-forgiveness: forgiving yourself for any imagined or real errors you may have made in the past. On our Love University podcast, we delved into the final secret of happiness—Forgiveness, especially Self-Forgiveness. We pick up where we left off in the story of our two protagonists: Harry, the pompous psychiatrist, and Tanaka, the eccentric, but brilliant, martial arts master. Together, they will discover what forgiveness truly is, and their lives (and yours) will be changed forever.

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Have you ever felt sad, depressed, or futile? It seems that nothing works, you can’t achieve your goals, and the whole world appears to be against you. If you’ve felt like that, then there is a solution for you: It is called Gratitude. Gratitude is the marvelous recognition that the good that you receive in life comes from outside you. It may come from a Higher Nature (God, spirit, nature), your loved ones, or even a stranger who appears out of nowhere to help you (your car is stuck on the side of the road). Gratitude is a powerful feeling of true appreciation. On our Love University podcast, we delved into the first secret of happiness—Gratitude. We pick up where we left off in the story of our two protagonists: Harry, the pompous psychiatrist, and Tanaka, the eccentric, but brilliant, martial arts master. Together, they will discover what gratitude truly is and their lives (and yours) will be changed forever.

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ONE TRUTH: Apply the lessons from the martial arts master and sage, Tanaka, you will achieve ultimate success far beyond your dreams.

There are secrets to happiness—three of them in fact. In this series of transformative talks by Dr. Avila on Love University, you will not only learn the three secrets of happiness, but you will discover how to live a miraculous life. You will achieve greatness in your relationships, career, finances, health, and happiness. But, first, you will take a journey of surprising enlightenment by meeting our protagonists, Harry, the pompous psychiatrist who thinks he already knows all of the answers, and Tanaka, the martial arts master and sage who breaks down Harry’s ego and shows him the truth of his own being. Get ready to learn the lessons of true contentment as you delve into the story of your own empowerment.

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Are you carrying emotional hurts, fears, and sadness from the past that are limiting your joy and success? If so, you can rid yourself of these self-defeating thoughts and feelings and live a free and joyous life. On Love University podcast, we learned lessons of self-love, forgiveness, and gratitude from Jackeline Cacho, former Ms. Peru contestant, Emmy-nominated TV personality, bestselling author (“My Emotional Backpack", “Mi Mochila Emocional”), and international inspirational speaker. After surviving a devastating three car rollover accident, Jackeline suffered from anxiety attacks for seven years until she learned to master her fear and awaken her inner power. Here’s what Jackeline shared with us:

*Everything happens for a reason; be grateful for what you have. When she saw her father’s dead body (heart attack) at age 17, she was devastated. For many years, she blamed herself for not going to him earlier to save him. But now she realizes that she could not have done anything differently and she needed to forgive herself. She realized that her father is proud of her now, looking upon her from a higher place, as she achieves great things and inspires others.

*Latino women need to speak up. Jackeline explains how many Latino women remain silent and try to keep a happy face even though they are suffering inside. The key, says Jackeline, is for all women to awaken their inner power and express their authentic selves. An enlightened woman can achieve her unique destiny while influencing her husband/love partner and children to reach their fullest potential.

*Relationships may not be perfect, but love is. After 17 years of marriage, Jackeline says she is still deeply in love with her husband. She counsels other couples to recognize that love is the equalizing force in all successful relationships. Although disagreements and problems may arise in the relationship, it’s true that a strong bond of unconditional love will get couples through any obstacle.

After overcoming heartbreak and loss to achieve a life of success and contribution, Jackeline sums up her philosophy with the phrase: “We are all divine creatures—we need to believe in something divine.” When she was in the horrendous car accident, she says a mysterious man came out of nowhere to counsel her, and then he disappeared. No one else saw him, but she is sure he was an “angel,” who was there to help her (she emerged without any physical injuries). As Jackeline advises, we as human beings can all work together to be each other’s angels; we can be loving agents of change to create a better, more beautiful, and loving world.

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Would you like to find your soul mate for Valentine's Day? Join us for a special live event at Port's Restaurant in Corona Del Mar Feb 10th 7pm. On this special night, you will wear a color mask that represents your unique personality LoveType (romantic style). Then, you will mingle with other eligible singles as you learn the secrets of compatibility and partake in entertainment and delicious Persian food. At the end of the night, the masks come off, and you may find your compatible soul mate just in time for Valentine’s Day.

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Would you like to be a full potential person? A full potential person is someone who maximizes their abilities and achieves their dreams. Maslow called it being self-actualized, being at the peak of your self-development and fully realizing your potential. You can go as far as you want in life by becoming a Full Potential Person—someone who is authentic, powerful, and loving. Here’s what we learned about becoming a Full Potential Person on our recent Podcast:

Follow Your Hara: In the martial arts, the Hara is the physical point two inches below the navel that is the center of balance, power, and intuition. When you focus on your Hara, you are tapping into your gut instinct, the part of you that knows what is right and true. When you’re faced with a difficult decision, close your eyes, breath deeply, and focus on the point two inches below your navel. Ask the Hara: What should I do? As your intuition becomes clearer, you will receive the right answer—now follow your gut.

Embrace the Unknown: When your Hara tells you to do something different, take a risk and do it. Talk to a new person, go to a different place, or try a new look or hobby. You never know what good will come of a new opportunity, a new opening in the door of life. When you talk to a new person, you don’t know where the conversation will lead you—maybe you will discover an interesting acquaintance or friend, or perhaps even a great business or romantic partner. Be open to trying new things and you will reap many benefits.

Build your “Zone of Excellence”: Have you ever been immersed in an activity you love, and you lost track of time and your worries? Everything felt natural and easy. This ultimate mental state is known as the “Zone of Excellence.” When you’re in the Zone of Excellence, you lose your self-conscious concerns, and you become one with the activity or circumstance you’re experiencing. To develop this Zone, you can begin by building up small moments of excellence; you can break down big goals into smaller tasks that you can accomplish and feel good about. For example, if you want to start a physical fitness program, you can begin by exercising a brief amount of time, perhaps 15-20 minutes at first. As you feel stronger and gather more momentum, you will gradually increase the time you spend exercising (thirty minutes, one hour). Soon, you will find yourself in the Zone of Excellence—that marvelous place of mind where you do everything with authenticity, confidence, and love.

Yes, you can become a Full Potential Person who makes your dreams come true. All you have to do is follow your Hara, embrace the unknown, and build your zone of excellence. When you do this, you will flow naturally with the rhythms of life. You will achieve your highest level of being and joy every moment of every day.

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Join Southern California’s most eligible singles on November 9th, 7PM at Curtis Theatre, Brea for the social and romantic networking event of the year. $10.00 includes a glass of wine and the chance to meet your soul mate.

By Dr. Alex Avila

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Imagine walking into a room full of fun and classy singles who are wearing color masks based on their Love personality type. You proceed to meet interesting people as you ask four simple “magic” questions scientifically designed to help you find your most compatible match—from the inside out. Once you’ve made the right personality connections, the masks come off as you determine personal chemistry and possibly find your soul mate. Admission to the Dating Masquerade includes a complimentary glass of wine (open bar available) and a mask.

On this special night, November 9th 7PM, Dr. Alex Avila, Love Psychologist Extraordinaire, will unveil the secrets of love compatibility based on his classic bestseller: LoveTypes: Discover Your Romantic Style and Find Your Soul Mate. You will also have a chance to meet quality singles who may be compatible with you based on your LoveType, or romantic personality style.

Which LoveType are you?

Meaning Seeker (12% of the population): Intuitive Feeling: Love Psychology, philosophy, spirituality, and finding the meaning of life.

Knowledge Seeker (12% of the population): Intuitive Thinking: Enjoy science, technology, business, as well as analyzing and figuring things out.

Excitement Seeker (38% of the population): Practical Spontaneous: Relish fun, adventure, spontaneity and trying new things in different ways.

Security Seeker (38% of the population): Value tradition, security, duty, family, and doing things the right way.

Join us at for a night of fun and knowledge at the Dating Masquerade. You will learn a lot and have a chance to meet your compatible soul mate.

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There is a science of mind and body that can transform your life. It is called Yoga. On Love University podcast, we welcomed beloved Yoga teacher, Mandeep (HOME | Kundalini Collective), as she enlightened us on the benefits and joys of yoga practice. Here is what we learned:

*Yoga offers many benefits. The practice of yoga improves mood, concentration, and decision-making, as well as the immune system, while reducing stress, anxiety, and depression. It can help in weight loss. It can teach trauma victims how to tolerate discomfort and integrate their past experiences into their mind and body. In addition, practicing yoga in a group setting can increase your sense of community, togetherness, and sharing.

*You can reduce your Monkey Mind. In the East, the “Monkey Mind” refers to all of the chattering thoughts you have in your head (“I have to pay bills; I’m late for work”) that prevent you from maintaining peace and relaxation. Fortunately, in yoga, you can practice Mudras (hand/finger movements) that occupy your body while your mind can relax. The good news is that you don’t have to sit still and think of nothing when you practice yoga meditation. You can chant, breathe, stretch, and perform mudras to integrate your mind, body, and spirit.

*Yoga can help you raise your consciousness. In her studio, Mandeep teaches Kundalini Yoga, a way to inner peace and union with the Higher Nature by uncoiling the energy within you. Kundalini yoga contains many schools of yoga in one teaching, one practice, and expresses Mandeep’s philosophy: “We are spiritual beings having a human experience.”

You can raise your emotional, physical, and spiritual level by incorporating yoga practice into your daily life. By tapping into your inner energy and power, you can calm your Monkey Mind, release tension and fear, and develop a hopeful and optimistic outlook on life. It’s true that yoga can be a great tool for your inner and outer advancement. Remember: The way to union and peace comes from an everyday commitment to understanding and integrating your mind, body, and soul.

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Do you really love yourself in an authentic way? Loving yourself authentically means that you have a deep understanding and appreciation of who you really are. You accept yourself as you are without excessively judging and criticizing yourself. For many people, authentic self-love is difficult because they judge themselves harshly and push themselves too hard. The solution is to have balanced self-love, in which you love and forgive yourself, while recognizing your areas of needed improvement. Here’s how to practice self-love in a healthy and powerful way:

*Write a self-love letter. Write a letter from the perspective of your future self. Write as if your future self is asking your present self an important question: Am I living my most authentic, healthy, and love-filled life right now? Perhaps, you’re not living healthily right now—eating the wrong foods, indulging in bad habits. Maybe, you’re not living an authentic and loving life because you’re in an incompatible relationship or career. If that’s the case, then you need to change course right now so your future self will benefit from your current decisions: practice healthy habits, choose the right career or relationship, and develop your inner and outer self.

*Practice radical self-care. Give special attention to your physical, emotional, and spiritual needs. Get enough rest and exercise, eat healthy, and engage in positive and life-affirming hobbies, occupations, and pursuits. When you do this, you are able to give more to others because you have more to give.

*Repeat a self-love mantra. Every morning when you wake up, repeat a phrase that acknowledges your specialness as a human being and the great gift you have been given, which is Life. Say something like this: “Today I am fortunate to wake up. I am alive. I am not going to waste this precious gift known as ‘Human Life.’ Instead of anger and fear, I will have thoughts of peace, love, confidence, and security. I am blessed.” When you repeat this phrase on a daily basis, you will unleash hidden power. Instead of seeing the world from a mindset of lack and insecurity, you will realize that there is an abundance of everything you need in the world, and within yourself.

It's important to remember that healthy self-love is not egotism, selfishness, or narcissism. It is a balanced appreciation and acceptance of who you really are, while recognizing the specialness of all human beings. When you love yourself authentically, you have more love to give to others. You also have more energy, vitality, and confidence to achieve your greatness and leave a lasting legacy of goodness, love, and contribution. Love yourself today, and spread your love to the world without expectation. That is the greatest secret of all.

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You have a tremendous power near your navel. It is called the Hara. In Eastern philosophy and martial arts, the Hara is the physical point that exists two inches below your navel. When a martial artist is centered in their Hara, they cannot be pushed or pulled by another person, no matter how strong the other individual is. They have tremendous one-point focus. In today’s Love University Podcast, you will learn how to apply the power of the Hara—one point focus—to maintain your mental balance and actualize your dreams. Here’s what you can do:

*Ask yourself: What’s the most important thing I need to do today that would make everything else unnecessary? By narrowing your focus to your ultimate goal for the day—family, health, spiritual development, creativity—everything else will tend to fall into place. When you do the most important thing first, you will find that you have enough time and energy to take care of the practical and mundane aspects of life.

*Redirect your Distractions: Distractions fill your world—technology, people, things to do, your own thoughts. To maintain a one-point focus, you need to be aware of, and eliminate, distractions. In a pad or notebook, write down all the things that distract you and drain your energy on a daily basis, whether it’s social media, needless texts, or negative news. Also, write down how you feel when you participate in the distracting activity (sad, worried, stressed). Now, redirect your attention and focus to the things that really matter and make a positive difference in your life—career/work, family, spiritual and physical health, and improving your state of mind. When you do this, you will be more focused, peaceful and powerful.

*Practice the Million Mile Palm: In this exercise, you will stand with your right foot in front, and feet shoulder length apart. You will inhale deeply and bring your right palm up to your face (palm facing to the left). Now imagine that there is a solid brick next to your face that represents the most serious problem or obstacle that stands in the way to achieving your ultimate goal. Perhaps, you see the barrier as being a lack of money, ability, education, and so forth. Next, as you exhale, quickly and explosively extend your palm straight out as far as you can reach as if you were pushing through the brick, one million miles into the distance. As you do this, visualize that you have already accomplished your goal, whether it’s a great relationship, amazing job, impeccable health, or sterling financial/career success.. Rejoice. You have broken through the mental barrier that has kept you from fulfilling your dream by going one million miles beyond it.

It's true. With practice and perseverance, you can develop the pure power of unadulterated one-point Hara focus. With an inalterable focus and disciplined mind, you will blast beyond the barriers and obstacles of life to reach your ultimate destination: Love, success, and happiness.

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Do you feel as if time is always running out, as if you’re constantly rushed? There is a remarkable remedy. It is called Patience—the art of taking life slow and easy and waiting for good things to come to you. With patience, you can accomplish more in less time, while being relaxed, at peace, and content. Here are some of the patience secrets we learned on Love University podcast this week:

*Hang around with patient people. Spend time with individuals who are patient and relaxed. For example, be around wise, elderly individuals, or those who take the time to help others. When you're around patient people, you can “catch” their patient energy. You will adopt their relaxed, easy-going approach to life, and you will achieve better results in the long run.

*Let go until you feel underwhelmed. Decrease your activities until you feel there is nothing particularly important for you to do. Take an hour, several hours, or even a day to do absolutely nothing important or urgent. Cancel or postpone activities until you feel restless. In reality, you’re not wasting time, but you’re conserving your energy for the truly important things: being creative, spending time with your loved ones, and taking care of your emotional and physical health.

*Use imagination to increase your patience. Researchers have found that imagination can increase your patience without needing to rely on increased willpower. For example, if you’re single, you can imagine what your soul mate will look like and be like, and how you will feel in their presence. When you do this, you will have the motivation and patience to wait for the right person to come into your life.

*Choose the longer line. Intentionally put yourself in situations where you have to wait. For example, choose the longer line at the store. Although the impatient part of your mind may scream at you to keep moving, you can develop your patience muscles in this way. As you wait in the longer line, you can learn something about yourself and others. You can observe other people, as well as your own thoughts and emotions. You may even start a conversation in line and make a new friend or gain valuable information. As you do this, you will realize that there are many benefits to being patient.

With patience, you realize that you have a greater purpose in life—to love and be loved. As a result, minor conveniences, annoyances, and delays no longer bother you. Also, you enjoy a great paradox when you are patient: You actually achieve faster and better results. Because you take your time, you won’t rush and make mistakes that you later have to correct. With patience, you can build your mental mansion of joy and success as you enjoy peace and serenity, every step of the way.

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On our recent Love University episode, we welcomed back (via flashbacks) our beloved former producer, Reggie. Reggie first came to us as an autistic, college-educated young man who was shy and had terrible luck with women. Nearly thirty, and never having a relationship with a woman, Reggie received dating advice from our Love University faculty of world-renowned matchmakers and love experts. Over the course of four years with the show, Reggie gained confidence in his dating and relationship skills, and is now on his way to finding the love of his life. In this retrospective, we pay honor to Reggie, and send him loving energy for an amazing future of love and happiness. Bon Voyage, Reggie, may your love be deep and your happiness everlasting.

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Treat your body like a temple and enjoy amazing health and a great appearance.

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Are you a sapiophile—someone who is attracted to intelligence in a prospective mate? If so, the Knowledge Seeker could be the ideal match for you. On Love University, we discussed the GuyType (personality style) known as the Knowledge Seeker—the intellectual type of person who has a strong intuition and logic. If you’re interested in being with a Knowledge Seeker, here’s what you need to know to win their heart: Be competitive with them. Knowledge Seekers like to compete. Engage them in a stimulating game of chess, poker, or word game. Let them know you’re up for the intellectual challenge and they will be attracted to you. Develop a taste for sarcasm. They often enjoy sarcastic humor. If you’re a more feeling type, don’t take it personally when they say sarcastic things to you. See the humor in what they’re saying and realize that your witty companion likes to play with words and it’s not an attack against you. Demonstrate your competence. Knowledge Seekers value smart and competent people. They can’t stand incompetence. Show off your talents, brag about your accomplishments, showcase your education or awards. Although other types may be turned off by too much prideful boasting, the Knowledge Seeker will respect and admire you for your successes and abilities. Put on your debate hat. This personality type loves to argue and debate in an intellectual and emotionally detached way. Debate them on the latest hot and controversial topics involving politics, religion, sex, technology, law, and finance. Don’t worry about things getting heated—they love a back and forth debate on the issues as an intellectual exercise. *Don’t overwhelm them with touchy feely stuff. Most Knowledge Seekers are not overly emotional. Although they can logically understand feelings, they don’t want to be smothered by them. If you’re a feeler yourself (you make decisions based on your emotions), then learn how not to take things personally with the Knowledge Seeker. Save your feelings for your priest or shrink (or your best girlfriend). With the Knowledge Seeker, keep it mainly objective and logical and you’ll get along just fine. The Knowledge Seeker may not for everyone. If you’re a Knowledge Seeker yourself (high in Intuition and Thinking), then they are probably your best love match. If you’re more of a feeling personality, a relationship with them can be more of a challenge—you can be hurt by their sharp criticisms, and they can be feel flooded by your emotional side. Yet, if you’re a Feeler, you can still make it work with a Knowledge Seeker (you can balance each other), provided that you respect each other’s style. Ideally, however, you would do well with a Knowledge Seeker if you’re one yourself. It’s true that when the Knowledge Seeker is your mate, you will be with a marvelously interesting partner who can solve the puzzles of the universe and motivate you to find your own inner genius.

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Are you an Introvert or an Extravert? Your social energy style can determine a lot about you and your best match in a long-term relationship. Introverts primarily like to get energy from their own thoughts and enjoy spending quiet, private time alone or with a few close friends. Extraverts primarily like to get energy from other people in social settings; they often have a lot of friends and acquaintances and love to socialize. On Love University Podcast, we talked about my book, GuyTypes, and explored the unique worlds of Introverts and Extraverts in love and relationships. Here’s what you need to know to have a great relationship, whether you’re an Introvert or an Extravert: Determine Your Social Energy Style (Introvert/Extravert). Before you seek a love partner, it’s important that you know yourself first. To determine your Social Energy Style (Introvert/Extravert), ask yourself the “Fun Question”: What do you like to do for fun in your spare time? If you like to spend a lot of time reading, writing, thinking, listening to music, meditating, surfing the net, watching TV, or doing a hobby by yourself, then you’re likely an Introvert. You make up about 50.7% of the population—and are drawn to more introspective careers like engineering, science, research psychology, writing, accounting, and certain types of law. If you’re an Extravert, you make up about 49.3% of the population, and you like to spend a majority of your time in the outside world and with other people in social settings. You enjoy parties, social gatherings, networking, live music venues, comedy clubs, concerts, and spending time with your many friends and acquaintances. You are drawn to fields such as sales, teaching, politics, acting/entertainment, and human relations. Appreciate Your Social Energy Style. Before you can love others, you need to love yourself. If you’re an Introvert, make sure you appreciate that you are an internal person who can come up with great ideas. You’re also a good listener, empathetic, and loyal (you like to settle in with the person you’re with). As an Extravert, you can be grateful for your abundant social energy and ability to communicate and connect with others. You are a lively, vivacious, and charismatic mate who brings fun and adventure to your partner’s life. Regardless of whether you’re an Introvert or an Extravert, make sure you embrace and love your Social Energy style. If you do so, you will be happier with yourself and your love partner. *Identify your ideal mate’s social energy style: Once you know and embrace your own Social Energy Style, ask the “Fun Question” to determine the type of the person who is the best match for you. Research shows that similarities in this personality dimension (two Introverts or two Extraverts) do well together in long-term relationships. For example, an Introvert couple can enjoy their nights at home or with a few close friends. They tend to have a quiet, calm, and loving relationship. Also, two Extraverts in a relationship can be great love and business partners, as they excel at human interaction, networking, and marketing. Their time together can be a never-ending party of fun social times with the people they care about. One of the keys to a successful relationship is to respect your partner’s personality type. This is especially important if you’re in an opposites attract relationship; for example, an Introvert with an Extravert. If you’re an Introvert, you can respect your Extravert’s need to go out and connect with people without taking it personally (“You don’t love me”). If you’re an Extravert, you can appreciate your Introvert’s calming nature and their desire to spend time with you at home. In the end, compatible love is based on appreciation, respect, and mutual goals. If you can blend your strengths with your partner’s natural abilities, you will have a great relationship that stands the test of time.

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Do you have hidden genius? Although genius has various definitions, it’s true that there are untapped areas of your mind that you can access to achieve better results and happiness in life. On Love University podcast, we had the pleasure of having as our guest, Dr. Timothy Wilson, award-winning social psychologist and pioneer in the fields of adaptive unconscious (Strangers to Ourselves: Discovering the Adaptive Unconscious: Wilson, Timothy D.: 8601404753879: Books - Amazon) and self-knowledge (Redirect: Changing the Stories We Live By: Wilson, Timothy D., Gilbert, Daniel: 8806391102055: Books: Amazon.com). ). On the show, he enlightened us on new research into the amazing abilities of our brain and how we can access these higher order connections. Here’s what we learned:

*Become Friends With Your Adaptive Unconscious. The Adaptive Unconscious is the quick thinking, effortless, unconscious part of your mind that interprets information and helps guide you through life without you realizing it. Malcom Gladwell calls it “Thin Slicing”—your mind’s ability to come up with generally accurate findings and conclusions based on a small amount of information in a short period of time. Some people call it “gut instinct,” or “intuition.” To tap into your Adaptive Unconscious, observe your own behavior so you can determine what you’re really thinking or feeling inside (Are you helping someone because you want to feel better than them, or because you genuinely like them?). When you are aware of how the Adaptive Unconscious works, you will make better and quicker decisions, you will be more accurate in your assessments of yourself and others, and you will live in a more positive and self-enhancing way.

*Redirect your inner stories. Your narrative or inner story is what you believe about yourself. It is your internal script and self-concept; what you tell yourself about yourself and life. Do you have a Money Scarcity Story (“Money doesn’t grow on trees”) or a Wealth Story (“I can gain more riches—material, emotional, and spiritual—every day”)? Your story shapes your thoughts, feelings, actions, and ultimately your life. If you have a negative or self-defeating story playing in your head, here are some ways Dr. Wilson suggests you can change, or redirect your story, to a more positive one.

There are three ways to do this:

Step back and ask Why? In this exercise you will recall an upsetting event and see yourself as a “fly on the wall”—standing a good distance from the situation to observe it. When you do this, you will see the event from a bigger perspective and you will ask yourself, “Why did I feel like I did at the time.” Perhaps, you felt insecure that your lover would leave you so you reacted with unreasonable jealousy and anger (you lost the relationship). Now that you see that, you can forgive yourself, and move to a place of harmony and healing.
Imagine Your Best Possible Self. Imagine your best possible self and life in the future. See what you will look like, what you will be doing, who will be around you, and how you will feel 5 or 10 years into the future. Then, ask yourself, “How did I get here?” Maybe you took a certain career path, became involved in certain preferred activities, and met great people, including a wonderful romantic partner. By focusing on how you did it, you will have a clear roadmap to how to achieve your future success and happiness.
Do Good, Be good. One of the interesting paradoxes in life is that you can change your feelings and thoughts by doing certain actions. If you act like a good and loving person—give to the needy, volunteer to help others—you will start to feel like a quality and loving person. This will, in turn, motivate you to be more giving and helpful—thereby creating a positive feedback loop of positivity and contribution

Yes, it is possible to tap into hidden aspects of your mind to accelerate your success and well-being. As Dr. Wilson’s research indicates, you can transform your life by becoming aware of how your Adaptive Unconscious works, and by redirecting your inner stories/narrative to positive, uplifting ones that enable you to live your best life possible. At the end of the day, happiness boils down to 3 universal truths: Know yourself, Love Yourself, and Help Others. If you do this, you can begin to actualize your fullest potential and enjoy a life of joy, love, and contribution.

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Are you the type of person who loves fun, excitement, and adventure? If so, you may be the unique personality known as the Excitement Seeker—someone who is spontaneous and enjoys the sensory pleasures of life. If this sounds like you, then it’s important that you understand how to maximize your personality strengths, as we discussed on our latest edition of Love University Podcast. Here are some tips to upgrade your life in love and success:

*Don’t be too generous too soon. Because you are usually an optimistic person, you believe that there is “always more where that came from,” whether it’s money, people, resources, time, and the like. As a result, you may be too generous when you first meet someone, especially in a romantic context. You may overgive with presents, time, energy, and attention. It’s a good idea to control your tendency to give too much at the beginning because it may overwhelm people and make them doubt your sincerity. Instead, give in a measured way as you observe how the other person reacts (and reciprocates in return).

*Don’t make promises you can’t keep: Because you’re often excited and enthusiastic when meeting new individuals, you may overstate or exaggerate your ability to do certain things (“I can get you that new job” or “This investment idea will make you millions”). Watch your words carefully and only promise what you can actually deliver so that others will maintain faith and confidence in you.

*Don’t immediately dismiss a “boring” person. You’re the type of person who likes to joke, laugh, and have a lot of fun. When you first meet a new person, you may judge them on your high “fun” standard. However, they may often fall short, especially if they are one of the more serious Introverted types. However, that quiet, “boring” person may be the ideal for you in a romantic relationship, friendship, or business partnership. They could be the Yin to your Yang; the water to your fire—the individual who can bring balance and harmony into your life. Give them the benefit of the doubt and get to know them.

*Focus your energies on one person or goal at a time: As an Excitement Seeker, you may have a tendency to have too many things going at once. You may date several people or get involved in various money-making ventures at the same time—consequently spreading yourself too thin. Instead, concentrate on spending the most time with the person you really like, and working on the project that excites your passion the most. If you do this, you will achieve much better results, and you will be more content in the long run.

If you’re an Excitement Seeker, you have a lot of fun, excitement, pizzazz, and charisma to contribute to the world. When you meet new people, dazzle them with your fun and spontaneous nature, but also make sure you temper your enthusiasm with practicality and prudent observation. When you do that, you will have the best of both worlds—spontaneity and planning, fun and serious intent. Now the world will truly be at your feet.

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How important is security in your life? In our topsy turvy and chaotic world, we need safety and security more than ever before. If you’re a Security Seeker personality type, you’re someone who is practical, structured, and schedule-orientated. For you, relationships represent family, tradition, loyalty, and long-term commitment. On Love University, we learned some valuable tips to help Security Seekers find love and happiness, as follows:

*Your best match in love is a fellow Security Seeker: If you’re single, you can find a compatible Security Seeker by getting involved in groups or activities that cater to family, church (volunteer), the community (neighborhood watch, chamber of commerce), and country (grassroots political organizations). Together, you and your Security Seeker mate can build a stable and secure family life that is rewarding and long-term.

*Develop your spontaneous side. Although you respond well to structure, it’s good to “let your hair down” once in a while and be a little spontaneous. Try a new restaurant or activity; go to work in a different route; change your hair or clothes. Be a little adventurous to balance out your more cautious and skeptical side.

*Practice self-care: As a Security Seeker, you like to take care of others and make sure they feel safe and secure. Sometimes, however, you neglect your own well-being to help others. Make sure that you take time for yourself: Exercise, eat healthy, engage in recreational/hobby time; get a massage, facial, spa day or take a “me day (relaxing and doing what you love).” When you rejuvenate yourself, you will feel better, and you will have more to give to others.

Security Seekers are the people who keep our civilization from crumbling to the ground. As a Security Seeker, you are the glue of society; you keep everything running on time, and you make sure that we are comfortable and safe. Celebrate your nature and realize how important you are to yourself and the world. When you do that, you will experience greater joy, happiness, and of course, security.

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Are you hard on yourself and find it difficult to forgive yourself for past mistakes? If so, you may be under the influence of the Regret Thought Demon—that malevolent thought voice that torments you about what you “should have and could have done.” The good news is that there is an antidote to regret and self-attack. It is called “Forgiveness”—the final secret of happiness—as discussed on our latest episode of Love University. Here is some of the wisdom that we learned from the sage, Master Tanaka, on the ultimate lesson of self-liberation known as Forgiveness: Forgive others for harms done to you. Forgive others even if they don’t deserve or merit your forgiveness. You forgive because you deserve to experience the true joy and incredible feeling of wiping your slate clean. When you forgive others, you erase the pain of the past and fill your mind with love and compassion. Remember: The world doesn’t owe you anything. You owe the world your forgiveness. Instead of being mired in your own “poor me” mindset (“How could they do that to me?”), realize that forgiveness is your ultimate weapon against those who hurt you. When you forgive them, you have taken away the only things they can hold you with: Anger, resentment, and hate. Banish Regret: Forgive yourself for real or imagined errors. For many people, it is harder to forgive themselves than it is to forgive others. They are hard on themselves, self-critical, thinking: “Why did I stay in that relationship so long (or leave too early?”). “Why did I stay in that unfulfilling career instead of choosing work that would utilize my talents and bring me joy?” An important key to happiness is to eliminate regret from your mind and forgive yourself for your real or imagined errors. When you do that, you can be self-loving and have a clear mind to make the right decisions. *Self-Forgiveness Exercise: As the pompous psychiatrist, Harry, learned in the Three Secrets of Happiness story, you can also practice self-forgiveness and liberate your mind from the pain of the past. Try this exercise: Imagine a time when you believe you made a big mistake. Perhaps, you lost a love relationship because of actions you took, and you still feel great regret and pain as a result. Now visualize that your Older You, the way you are right now, is saying to your Younger You, “I forgive you,” softly, gently, and lovingly. Imagine that the two Yous are hugging each other to the rhythms of forgiveness—bringing your past and present selves together at one moment in time. Experience this feeling of self-compassion and unity, as the two Yous support and care for each other. Do this exercise, and you will feel lighter and more at peace. You will experience the greatest gift of all: Love.

If you’ve been listening to our 3 Secrets of Happiness series on Love University, you know the ultimate recipe for lasting joy: Gratitude, Joyful Optimism, and Forgiveness (self-forgiveness). Gratitude is the gift of present appreciation for what you have now. Joyful Optimism is looking for the best in your future. And, forgiveness is what liberates you from the thought chains of the past. The great news is that these secrets are already within you. They are not dependent on money, status, career, or other people. They are your inheritance as a creation of the Higher Nature. Now go out and enjoy the 3 Secrets of forever joy and teach them to others. When you do this, you will reach your greatest potential and claim your deepest joy.

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Are you a Meaning Seeker? A Meaning Seeker is someone who is intuitive and sensitive, and who loves psychology, philosophy, spirituality, the arts, and finding the meaning in life? On our Love University Podcast, GuyTypes special edition, we delved into the romantic and relationship lives of Meaning Seekers. We also learned valuable tips for helping them find (and keep) a compatible romantic partner. If you’re a Meaning Seeker: Your best match is usually a Meaning Seeker: If you’re Meaning Seeker, your best romantic partner is also Meaning Seeker. Both of you have a lot in common because you see the world through your imagination, intuition, and feeling. As Meaning Seekers, your goal is to fulfill a “life mission” to help the world and leave a lasting legacy for all to see. To meet a fellow Meaning Seeker, get involved in activities and groups that involve interests in psychology, spirituality, literature, and the arts. Be straightforward: Because you don’t want to hurt your partner’s feelings, you may sugarcoat things to avoid conflict. However, this may not be good for your relationship because you leave important things unsaid. A better approach is to recognize that there are times when you need to be direct and blunt because you need to say something that is important, even though it may be unpleasant and uncomfortable. Have a healthy skepticism when dating: Because you tend to be trusting, and even naïve at times (expecting the best from everyone), you may be surprised by deceitful, manipulative, and toxic dating partners. Therefore, when you’re getting to know a new romantic partner, it’s a good idea to ask yourself: “Is their behavior matching their words? Can I trust this person?” Always maintain your authenticity: Because you are a unique type—only 19.2% of females and 13.5% of males—you may try to compromise your nature to fit in and be liked. Avoid doing that. Instead, strive to express the way you really feel—your authentic nature. When you are true to yourself, you will naturally attract the right person who resonates with your style. As a Meaning Seeker, you have a lot of wonderful qualities to offer a mate: empathy, compassion, intuition, and feeling, among other things. You are the type of person who can inspire your partner to great heights of success, love, and happiness, as you experience those things for yourself as well. Although you may be disappointed when you can’t seem to find someone who matches your lofty values and preferences, rest assured that you will eventually meet your ideal Meaning Seeker soul mate. All you have to do is be authentic and extend your loving energy to the world without expectations. When you do this, the right person will come into your life. Here’s to love.

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There are secrets to Happiness; time-honored lessons for finding true contentment and lasting joy. In our latest podcast, Love University, Invincible You, Special Edition, we learned about one of the most important secrets to finding happiness: Gratitude. Gratitude is a warm feeling of thankfulness toward others, the world, and a Higher Nature. Happy people are grateful, at all times. On this week’s show, we learned some wonderful lessons about gratefulness from Master Tanaka, the protagonist in our modern fable of personal transformation, The 3 Secrets of Happiness. Here is what we learned:

*Gratitude is Living in the Now, in the Present Moment. To have Gratitude fill your heart, simply appreciate everything that you are experiencing right now. Instead of dwelling on the past (regrets) or future (worries), keep your thoughts on the now. Express a deep caring and thankfulness for all of the good things in your life at this very moment: friendship, love, family, creativity, contribution, pleasurable and fun experiences, all of the modern conveniences and advantages of our technological world, and life itself.

“Be Grateful Even for Even the “Bad” Things in Your Life. Your gratitude will skyrocket when you can find gratitude in even the most difficult of life circumstances. It’s easy to be grateful for the benefits and rewards of life. But how about the difficult and painful things; can you be grateful for those too? If you can, your gratitude will grow exponentially. The key is to find the positive in the negative. If you’re in a traffic jam, for example, be grateful that you have extra time to think, meditate, pray, or listen to music—you might get a great idea while you’re in traffic. If you’re dealing with a rude or inconsiderate person, be grateful that you can learn the reverse lesson—how not to be. You can learn tolerance and forgiveness from the judgmental person; you can learn peace from the angry person. All you have to do is decide to be the opposite of what they are. In this way, nothing you experience is wasted. Even the worst of circumstances (losses, setbacks) have a lesson to teach you so you can improve your life.

*Recite a Gratitude Mantra Daily. Every day, repeat a gratitude phrase to yourself, something like: “I am grateful for my breath, my life, and for this day. I am grateful for all I have experienced, or will experience. I am grateful for those I love because true love keeps growing and growing. I am grateful for those who are hateful because they teach me compassion and forgiveness. I am grateful for my successes because they are my inheritance from the Higher Nature. I am grateful for my failures because they are the Universe’s way of keeping me humble so that, when I do experience ultimate success, I will appreciate it even more.”

*Keep a Gratitude Journal. In a pad or notebook, write down three things you’re grateful for every day. They can be small things like your deodorant, your toothpaste, or your favorite clothes. Or, they can be big things like your loved ones, your career, your body, your health, and your life. When you do this consistently, you will significantly increase your happiness level and even sleep better. Try it for a month and you will see that keeping a gratitude journal can work wonders in your life.

Yes, happiness is within your reach. You can bring consistent joy into your life by following the powerful principles of gratitude: be grateful in the moment, be grateful for what you call “bad,” recite a gratitude mantra, and keep a gratitude journal. When you do these things, you will see your joy rising, and your peace growing. At its core, the principle of gratitude is simple: Be grateful for everything that happens to you, whether you call it important or unimportant; good or bad. Gratitude covers all; it doesn’t distinguish or discriminate between things, people, and events. Gratitude is simply a pure, flowing feeling of joy, peace, love, serenity, and excitement—all wrapped up on one delicious package of delight. With Gratitude in your heart, you will always win.

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Imagine if you went to the top of a mountain and learned the secrets of happiness? Would you apply the secrets to make your life joyful? If the answer is “yes,” then you are like our protagonist, Harry, a pompous psychiatrist who finds inner joy, in this week’s story on Love University, Invincible You Special Edition.

Our new Invincible You Special Edition series on Love University teaches you how to create self-love and self-empowerment. In the process, you will skyrocket your contentment, success and inner and outer riches. In this week’s Special Edition, you will learn how Harry meets the happy martial arts master, Tanaka, and loses his preconceived notions of happiness to find true lasting contentment.

According to the great Tanaka, you have a True Mind and a False Mind. The False Part of your mind is weak and self-attacking. It vibrates with the bitterness, sarcasm, and insults of the world. Your True Mind, on the other hand, is the powerful and positive part of your mind. It is strong and secure, and is immune from the negative energy of the world. Your goal, says Tanaka, is to eradicate the False Mind and build up your beautiful and joyful True Mind so you can have lasting and consistent happiness.

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In times of trouble and loneliness being with a soul mate can be a great source of comfort and joy. If you haven’t found the ideal soul mate for you yet, then listen up. Our latest Love University podcast, we learned the secrets of finding the most compatible love partner for you. Here’s what you need to know to find the love of your life: 1.Embrace Your Unique Love Temperament. You have a unique romantic style (Love Temperament) that is part of your authentic nature. Your Love Temperament is made up of various elements, for example, Thinker or Feeler. If you’re a Thinker, you primarily make decisions through your logic and impersonal analysis. On the other hand, if you’re a Feeler, you mainly make decisions by relying on your feelings. Regardless of your type, the key is to embrace who you are. When you do that, you become more attractive to others. You are more confident that you can find the love of your life because you have self-worth. 2. Ask the 3 Magic Questions. When you’re out in the social world (or online), you can ask three key questions of prospective mates. When you ask these questions, you can learn a lot about them, and you can quickly determine if you’re likely to be compatible with them in a long-term relationship. Here are the magic questions. 1.What’s your favorite movie and why did you like it? If they liked it because of the relationships, emotions, and the way it made them feel, then they’re a Feeler. If they liked it because it made them think, and it was well made, they’re likely a Thinker. Thinkers and Feelers are from different psychological planets. They can get along, but they need to speak each other’s language. For examples, Feelers usually like to express themselves with their love partner through tender words, physical affection, and romance. Although Thinkers may enjoy some of that as well, they prefer to express their attraction and comfort through intellectual compatibility, witty wordplay, and even sarcasm. 2. What would you do if you won $10 million? The practical (also known as Sensory) person would save, invest, and use it for sensory pleasures (fine dining, travel, shopping). The Intuitive (imaginative) person would likely use it for a creative purpose or a larger mission, like writing the great American Novel, starting a dream business to change the world, or going to the Himalayas and meditate. 3. If you were invited tomorrow on an all-expenses paid trip to Vegas (or a fun destination), but it was a work day, would you go? Structured people would likely say, “No” (“I have responsibilities). The spontaneous person would probably say, “Yes, my bags are packed. I’ll make arrangements.”

When identifying people’s personality types, it doesn’t mean that you have to be with someone who is exactly the same as you. A spontaneous person can get along with a structured one, and a Thinker can get along with a Feeler. However, the second dimension—Practical or Imaginative (“What would you do if you won $10 million?”) is an important one for you and your mate to be the same or similar. Practical and imaginative people see the world in very different ways, and they can have a lot of conflict if they don’t respect each other’s style. The imaginative person may see their practical partner as a “pie in the sky dreamer” (foolish), and the imaginative persona can see the practical person as a “stick in the mud” (boring). In upcoming weeks, we will use these love personality dimensions to help you find the right soul mate for you. Stay tuned for more secrets on finding true love that lasts a lifetime.

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Some people think the world is heading for destruction. Pollution, war, famine, viruses, economic problems, hatred, greed, and suffering seem to permeate the world. Yet, at the same time, there is a silver lining. We can access hope, faith, positivity, and love for the greater good of our families and the world itself. This is the message that we learned from our distinguished guest, Dr. John Cobb, 97-year-old pioneer in religion, science, and the environment. Here is some of the wisdom Dr. Cobb shared with us about living an amazing and beautiful life in a sometimes ugly world: Your Heaven or Hell Begins on Earth. Regardless of your faith or belief in the afterlife, it’s important to recognize that your spiritual energy when you’re alive—positive or negative— is probably what you’re going to take with you when you die. If you’re a loving, caring, and compassionate human being now, you will likely carry that with you to the next phase or level of existence. On the other hand, if you’re selfish, greedy, and hateful, you may bring the same energy with you wherever you go. Therefore, it’s important that you wake up every day with gratitude, as you strive to develop empathy, compassion, and love in your life in everything you do. Love the Higher Nature With All of Your Heart and Soul. One of the greatest secrets of all spiritual paths is to love the Higher Nature with all of your heart, whether you call it God, nature, spirit, the Universe, and so forth. Love is the essential ingredient that holds the world together. Each day, you should strive to meditate, pray, journal, and think about your Higher Nature, what you believe in. At the same time, express that loving energy from the Higher Nature to yourself and others. Be self-compassionate and forgive yourself for any errors you may have made. Also, be loving toward others—smiles, pay sincere compliments, listen with full attention, and give others practical help as needed. When you help others, make sure that you give without expectations. You won’t expect that they will give anything back to you, or even acknowledge your giving. When you do this, you are expressing the love of the Higher Nature—unconditional love—to its fullest extent. In return, you will feel tremendous joy and satisfaction within. We Can Learn From Others: According to Dr. Cobb, we can learn from other religions, other people, and other cultures. Just because we don’t agree on everything, and may even dislike certain things about others, doesn’t mean that we can’t collaborate on certain important issues, such as protecting the environment. In his ecological work with China, Dr. Cobb has made many friends among the Chinese, and has helped people understand the plight of global warming and environmental degradation. He believes that cooperation between the great countries is possible, and absolutely necessary, to save the planet from ecological destruction. Dr. Cobb advises us that it is important to emphasize the positive about other people and groups, and use our similarities to build a bridge of friendship, cooperation, and love. In the end, as Dr. Cobb teaches, you are the world. When you help others, you help yourself by becoming more understanding and loving. When you protect and save the environment, you protect and save yourself because you are part of the environment of humans, animals, and nature. It is true that the inner dictates the outer, and the outer reflects the inner. Through love and sharing with others, you can change the world. You can transform yourself, and the world, at the same time.

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Are you frustrated in getting what you want? Sometimes, it seems that other people, and life itself, gets in the way of what you truly desire. The good news is that there is a solution to your stuckness and a way to liberate your inner abilities to fulfill your dreams. On Love University, with the help of my new able producer, Jonathan, we revealed the secrets of personal power and happiness. Drawing from Dr. Avila’s groundbreaking book, Invincible You, we pinpointed major problems in life and provided workable and potent solutions for your daily excellence. Here’s what we learned: Be Your Favorite Actor: If you’re shy or hesitant around people, a good remedy is to become like your favorite actor. Think of an actor or actress that you admire. Consider their personality, habits, and idiosyncrasies—what do you like about them? Then, when you’re at home, practice walking, talking, and thinking like them. Jonathan, our producer, is a big fan of Will Smith because Will often portrays characters who are kind and humble, yet confident. In the same way, choose an actor who has qualities you would like to emulate. When you become more of the Actor in your mind, you will reduce your Observer—the self-conscious part of your mind that judges and criticizes you. When you think, talk, and act from your Actor, you will tap into the spontaneous and authentic part of you. As a result, you will be more successful in your relationships and interactions with others. Quiet Your Monkey Mind. In our 24-7 constant technology world, your mind is probably going 1000 miles a minute. The Monkey Mind is the part of your mind that is always thinking—worrying about bills to pay, what you have to do tomorrow, what you should have done yesterday. The Monkey Mind never lets you rest—it keeps you feeling frantic, nervous, and stressed. To still your Monkey Mind, you need to develop relaxation rituals. Before going to bed, or during the day, turn off your technological devices (phone, tablet, pad, computer). Take a technology fast so you can clear your mind of external noise. Also, at bedtime, make sure you do something that relaxes you—pray, meditate, read, listen to calming music, cuddle with a partner or animal, and think positive, loving, and optimistic thoughts. When you go to bed, move away from a preoccupation with the future or the past. Focus only on the relaxing now, and you will feel more energized and rested than ever before. Beware the Second Arrow. In life, there are two “arrows.” The first arrow is the circumstance, person, or situation that causes you pain. A friend stops calling, you get into an accident, you lose money or advantages. The problem comes when you add a “second arrow”—your negative, emotional interpretation of the event. Our producer, Jonathan, recalls how he was distracted during a virtual meeting with a professor, and he didn’t notice that his car was parked in a location where the street sweeper was coming. Suddenly realizing what was happening, Jonathan ran to the car just as he was being ticketed. Furious at himself for leaving the car there, Jonathan slammed the car door and smashed his window—thereby costing himself even more expense and turmoil. When facing a difficult or challenging circumstance, don’t add an emotional reaction of fear, anger, or sadness to compound the situation and make it worse. Simply see it as an external event that happened. At first glance, the situation appears unpleasant or damaging, but if you look deeper, you may see that it can contain a positive outcome or valuable lesson. In the case of Jonathan, he learned how to be more aware in life, and he was able to avoid similar mishaps from happening in the future. The secrets of self-empowerment and happiness are within your grasp if you follow these three steps: Become Your Actor, Quiet Your Monkey Mind, and Beware the Second Arrow. If you do these things, you will be well on your way to mastering inner and outer distractions, and accessing your authentic self-confidence. In the end, you will achieve your full potential, and you will make a positive difference in the world.

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Sometimes life gets you down and you don’t know what to do about it. Perhaps, you keep hitting your head against the wall in your relationships, finances, health, career, or spirituality. You feel frustrated, regretful, and futile. Now, there is hope. On Love University, we answered some of your most pressing questions about love, success, and happiness, and we offered some powerful solutions to your unsolvable problems. Here is we what we learned:

*Why can’t I find anyone to love? The key is to master loneliness within, and then you will not crave love and companionship in a yearning state. You will be content within yourself first. While in this state of contentment, you will attract the exact nature of what you are in another human being: happy, loving, and fulfilled.

*How do I banish loneliness? Loneliness exists only because you are separated from your true nature, your Invincible Mind. This separation urges you to strive toward self-unity. To unify yourself in an authentic manner, you need to find the practices and activities that nurture you and fill you with love and gratitude. Perhaps, you love the arts, nature, exercise, a spiritual/meditative practice, or time spent with loved ones. Whatever you are passionate about, make sure you do it on a regular basis. Find your Invincible self, and you will lose loneliness, once and for all.

*How can I be consistently happy? The secret to happiness is to be like the sun. Think about it: The sun shines its warmth on everyone, even if they don’t like the sun and cover up to avoid its rays (others love the sun and will lie out). In the same way, spread your positive energy to other people, without expectation. Smile at others, pay them sincere compliments, listen attentively, and help them with advice or practical matters. You will do this without expecting anything in return—not a smile, thank you, or even any type of acknowledgement. You are loving simply because that is your nature, just like the sun gives warmth because that is its nature. When you are like the sun, you will never have to worry about whether you are happy or not. You will simply shine your loving energy, your happiness—everywhere and always.

Yes, you can be happy, loving, powerful, and free. You simply need to reduce your Self-Defeating Mind, increase your Invincible Mind, and Be Like the Sun—extend your loving energy without expectation. When you do these things, your days will be cheery, and your future will be bright. You will be Invincible.

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One of the secrets of happiness is to be like the Sun. Shine your loving energy on everyone and everything that comes in your path. Be kind, nice, smile, and help others. Listen attentively to those who are hurting; offer your talents and abilities to lighten the burden of others on this planet of ours. On Love University, we learned some helpful strategies for extending your loving energy without expectation so you can live happy and achieve your dreams. Here are a few important points:

*Raise Your Love Intelligence. Love intelligence is your ability to empathetic (put yourself in other’s shoes) and compassionate (desire to relieve their suffering). When you have a high Love intelligence, you will attract positive people and circumstances into your life, and you will make a positive difference in the world.

*Be Patient. Patience is one of the greatest tools of human development. When you are patient with yourself and others, you take the time to savor and appreciate life. You listen more attentively to the needs of others. You are less harsh and judgmental to yourself and others. You have less frustration and regret because you know that all good things come to those who wait.

*Be Like the Sun Every Day. On a daily basis, strive to shine your loving energy to others. Smile at others, pay them sincere compliments, help them with their practical and emotional needs. Do all of this without expecting anything in return, not even a thank you or acknowledgement. When you extend loving energy without expectation, you generate great power and love within yourself. You realize that you have an abundant and ever-flowing resource of love, energy, and creativity that you can give to yourself and others.

Fear and regret hold many people back. You can bypass those self-defeating emotions by extending the true essence of who you are—Love—to the world around you. You will be like the sun, a powerful source of energy and warmth, to yourself and others. You will clothe yourself with strength and put on the garments of splendor. You will shake off the dust and free the chains from your neck. You will be Invincible.

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There is an amazing secret of success and happiness within your grasp. It is called “Extending Loving Energy Without Expectation.” This means that you will be kind, loving, and giving to others without expecting anything in return. When you do this, you will open the floodgates of prosperity and joy as the Universe returns your loving energy many times over. Follow the steps we learned on Love University to tap into the power of this Invincibility principle: Be Like the Sun. Your goal should be to be like the sun. The sun shines on everyone and everything. Some people don’t like the sun and cover up; others love the sun and lie out to receive its warmth. Yet, the sun doesn’t get upset if people don’t like it. It keeps shining. In the same way, you will shine your loving energy on others. You will smile at others, pay them sincere compliments, and help those who need it. And, you will do this without expecting anything in return. You will be like the sun—extending your loving energy—because you are made of love. Be Nice the Right Way. They say that nice people finish last. The truth is that people who are genuinely nice are among the most loved and successful people in the world. The key is to be the right kind of nice. If you’re nice to yourself and not to others, you will be selfish. If you’re nice to others and not yourself, you will be a self-sacrificial martyr. If you are genuinely nice to yourself and others—not because you want anything from them—then you will be kind and caring, as well as genuine and strong. A truly nice person is not a pushover. They respect and take care of themselves and others. They can be firm when they need to be, and they are loving because that is the essence of their nature. Be Like a Dog. Many people love dogs because dogs give loving energy without expectation. They always want to play with you, jump on you, and lick you. You can learn valuable lessons of how to love and be loved by observing the dog. Dogs are always interested in others, live daily with enthusiasm, and want to do something nice for their owners (bring them slippers, or cuddle when their owner is sad). You can follow the dog example by listening attentively to others, maintaining a positive attitude, and displaying empathy for other people—putting yourself in their shoes and feeling as they feel. You can access the power of Loving Without Expectation in your daily life. You just need to be like the sun, be nice the right way, and be like a dog. When you follow these simple principles, you will unleash tremendous loving energy within yourself that will reverberate throughout the world—healing, helping, and loving others—as you build a legacy of love and goodness that lasts beyond your time on earth.

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Are you feeling stressed out, worried, and hurried in our busy and demanding world? Would you like to experience the feeling of having more spontaneity, fun, and leisure in your life? People who tap into their spontaneous side are usually healthier, live longer, are more creative, and enjoy life more. Now you can increase your spontaneity and sense of playfulness by following some of the simple tips we discussed on Love University: Play with animals and children: Spend more time playing with your animals and children—some of the most spontaneous creations on earth. Throw a ball, run, play hide and seek, and you will laugh and enjoy being in the moment. Play spontaneously with your friends. Play fun, improv games with your friends like “Build a Story.” Go around the room as each person says one word at a time to build a story. It’s a fun way to express your creativity and get your spontaneity juices flowing.

Take a Spiritual Vacation. Think of your life as being like a short vacation. You are only here on earth (alive) for a short time—perhaps a few weeks or a few days—when compared to the vast time of eternity. Treat your time here like a vacation. Have fun, leave your worries behind, and focus on loving and helping others. When you do that, your entire lifetime can turn into a fun and productive vacation in which you create a legacy of goodness and love. Yes, you can have more spontaneity and fun in your life. Make sure you play with animals, children, and friends, and think of your life like a spiritual vacation. The paradox is that when you have fun and are spontaneous, you can usually work more and accomplish more because you are more motivated and creative. Start today and bring spontaneity into your life so you can enjoy every minute of your time on earth.

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It’s time to get fit and healthy for 2022. On Love University, we learned the secrets of health and fitness from our guests, Jomilson and Theresa Alvarez. A lovely husband and wife team, Jomilson and Theresa provide training and encouragement to individuals with special needs to improve their health and strength. Here are some powerful tips we learned to help you have a great body and mind for 2022:

*You are Stronger Than You Think You Are: Believe in your ability to be strong and healthy. Repeat the following phrase daily: “I am stronger today than I was yesterday.” When you do this, you will overcome self-doubt and self-defeating mental and physical patterns. You will learn from your mistakes. You will become stronger mentally as you become stronger physically through exercise and movement.

Start Small: Start by exercising 10-15 minutes per day and gradually increase your time and frequency of exercise. One you start to feel good (endorphins) and see the difference (stronger and fitter), you will be motivated to work out more. You will consistently be in a state of Flow in which you forget your problems and self-consciousness as you merge your mind and body.

Do Your Passion In Your Safe Place: If you don’t like going out due to the virus, or because you’re Introvert, there are many ways to partake in physical activity at home. You can do a “home workout” with weights or aerobic equipment. You can also dance, garden, clean the house, play with your family or dog, or walk outside. Do what you love to do as long as it keeps you moving, and you will get in better shape.

Food is About What You Need, Not Always About What You Like: You can discipline your mind to eat what is good for you, not necessarily what tastes good. Although you can enjoy tasty meals, it’s also important to be consistent with your diet and eat healthy a majority of the time.

Jomilson and Theresa offer us excellent advice: Move it or Lose it. Physical movement, in even small ways, is good for you and stimulates your mind, body, and soul. As we enter the new year, make sure that you tell yourself that you are getting stronger—physically and mentally—every day. Also, start small, do your passion in a safe place, and discipline your mind to eat what is good for you. If you do these things, you can jumpstart your fitness program and feel the healthiest and strongest you have felt in a long time.

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Would you like to have a great love relationship that keeps getting better and more loving as time goes by? Now you can by applying some of the ideas we learned on Love University, as follows:

*Love Yourself. To find and keep a loving partner, you need to love yourself. The key is to love yourself in a humble, not egotistical way. You love yourself by taking care of your emotional and physical needs, forgiving yourself for past errors, and relaxing instead of worrying. You also love yourself by picking a romantic partner who adds to your life and helps you increase your own well-being as you help them increase theirs.

*Choose Invincibility Seekers. Invincibility Seekers are those individuals who want to raise their level of happiness and love. When choosing a mate or romantic partner, look at the inner character of the person. Ask yourself: “Are they an Invincibility Seeker?” If so, then nurture the relationship as you and your partner create light (positivity) in the world.

*Apply Sexual Transmutation. Sexual transmutation is the application of sexual energy for a higher purpose. When you make love with your partner, visualize that you are merging with your partner and creating a higher vibration of light and love. When you fuse sexuality, romance, and love with a loving partner, both of you will generate increased creativity, charisma, and love.

Go out this week and love yourself, choose invincibility seeker people to be in your life, and apply sexual transmutation with your love partner. When you do this, you will be well on your way to creating and maintaining a beautiful love relationship that stands the test of time.

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Would you like to attract your soul mate and marry them within one year? That’s exactly what our guest on Love University, Megan Weks, did. Megan (themanfunnel.com) is one of the top dating coaches in the US, and she shared her secrets for authentic soul mate finding on the show. Here’s what we learned:

*Date Yourself First: It’s your essence that draws a mate in—the way your heart interacts with the stimuli in the world. Start with self-analysis. Ask yourself: Do I bleed masculinity (if you’re a woman, are you leaning too much on your business and directive side during dating)? Am I too guarded? Do I express my feelings or explode emotionally? Do I believe I’m worthy of love?

*Expand Your Energetic Presence: When you go out to the world or on a date, be aware of your energetic and emotional level. If you feel anxious, pinpoint where the feeling is—perhaps your chest, stomach, or head. Then breathe deeply and visualize the tension relaxing as you extend loving and grateful energy to the person in front of you. Grow a big ball of love and gratitude inside your body and express appreciation internally for the person you’re with.

*Be Authentically Hard To Get: Be aware of when you’re coming on too strong or too needy. If you’re a woman, give the man some space for him to come toward you with his masculine push energy. When you are balanced in your intuitive nature, you will lean back when necessary (reduce expectations and neediness for the person), and give them the space to enter your zone of love.

*Create a Soul Mate Funnel: In the business world, a funnel refers to the process that businesses lead their customers through when buying products or services. As a top recruiter in the business world, Megan realized that she could apply the same “head/logical” techniques to help those desiring a soul mate. The key is to fill your romantic funnel with dates (up to 2-3 per week) so you can weed out the incompatible ones and find the compatible loving partner you deserve. In this way, the logical side of your brain can take front and center before the emotional/chemistry reactive part falls in love with the wrong person.

Yes, you can attract the love of your life in a balanced, natural, and authentic way. Date yourself first, expand your energy presence, be authentically hard to get, and create a soul mate funnel. When you do this, you will be approachable, magnetic, and a high value person. Now you can let your heart come out to play and explore favorable dating options until you meet your compatible soul mate and live your dream of love.

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You have a tremendous power in the middle of your gut. It is called the Hara. In Eastern Philosophy and martial arts, the Hara is the point two inches below your navel. It is the center of your intuition and strength. Even small and elderly martial artists can’t be pushed from their position when they focus on their Hara. Here are some tips to develop your Hara’s inner power in your everyday life:

*Stop Apologizing. Do you always feel like you have to say “I’m sorry” for the things you do? If so, stop apologizing. Stand firm in what you believe in without apologizing. When you do this, you will be happier and more fulfilled.

*Unify Yourself. You may have competing desires that divide your mind. List the ways you are divided and choose the way that will help you the most in the long run. For example, you may want to lose weight, but you also want to eat tasty, fattening food. If that’s the case, then you need to unify yourself and choose what is best for you: Forgo the fattening food for the bigger goal of being healthy and fit. Do this and you will reap great benefits.

*Live Authentically. Engage with people who resonate with who you really are. Do activities you truly love. Stop pretending to like what you don’t like, and being who you're not, just to please people who don’t really care about you. You only have one life—live it authentically. Be the true you.

It’s up to you. You can tap into the power of your Hara if you stop apologizing, unify yourself, and live authentically. By doing so, you will reach your dreams and love deeply and fully.

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Would you like to be invincible beyond your wildest dreams? Now you can by following some of the tips we learned on Love University, as follows:

*Use Failure to Grow Your Mental Muscles. Failure can be your best friend if you learn the lessons from your mistakes and grow as a human being.

*Move From “Poor Me” to “Blessed I.” Instead of feeling sorry for yourself when you don’t get what you want, turn the tables and think of all the things you can be grateful for—for all of your blessings in life.

*Go Through the Pain Gap. Before you can have a strong mind and spirit, you need to go through some discomfort (pain gap) As you get rid of your comfortable, yet self-defeating, mental patterns (procrastination, timidness), you will venture into a new place: Your Mountain of Invincibility.

Being invincible doesn’t mean that you will never fail or suffer loss and pain. It means that you will succeed and thrive, despite the failures, obstacles, and mistakes. Start today. Use failure to grow your mental muscles, move from “Poor Me” to “Blessed I,” and go through the Pain Gap. When you do that, your success and happiness will be assured.

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Would you like to have a powerful and loving relationship that gets better every day? If you desire it, you can create a love relationship filled with incredible romance, sex, love, and lasting togetherness. Here are some of the important tips we discussed on Love University for creating an unstoppable relationship:

*Seek Invincibility Seeker Love. An Invincibility Seeker is someone who wants to improve their life and the life of their partner. They are individuals who desire to make a positive difference in the world. When two Invincibility Seekers come together, they can create a beautiful love relationship of like-minded “soul enhancers” who will help elevate each other’s minds and hearts to reach a higher level of living that is far beyond the ordinary. This is the type of Invincibility Seeker Love you should be aiming for with your love partner.

*Transmute Your Sexual Energy. Sexual transmutation is the channeling of sexual energy into a higher state of frequency that contributes positively to the individual, and to society. To do this, you should invest your libido in a Invincibility Seeking partner as they do the same for you. In this way, your sexual energy becomes fused with love and romance, and inspires both of you to achieve the greatest heights of success and love in your relationship and life. There are many examples of love-sex transmutation (motivation) that have led to great accomplishments, including:

∙F. Scott Fitzgerald, the great author from the 1920’s, who loved his schizophrenic wife, and made her the inspiration for many of the female protagonists in his novels.

∙Kass and Michael Lazerow: A married couple who founded Buddy Media, a social enterprise software company that connects advertising firms with consumers. In his article, “Why I Have Sex With My Co-founder,” Michael makes the case for couples to start businesses together.

∙Casey Sackett and Jennifer Wong. Husband and wife, Casey and Jennifer, were expecting their first child. As a result of their experience, they decided to create various apps for expectant mothers, including the popular BabyBump, a pregnancy and social network app.

*True Love Is Based on Deep Understanding of the Other. Deep love is not based on simply sexual attraction, surface compatibility, companionship, or mutual interests. It is grounded on a deep, empathetic understanding of a love partner—knowing each other’s goals, habits, dreams, preferences, values, hopes, and fears. It is when a husband has his wife’s bubble bath ready because he knows she’s had a hard day, and when his wife prepares his favorite meal to celebrate his accomplishment at work. This type of deep understanding leads to a total acceptance of the beloved as they are—forming the foundation of a powerful and lasting love that doesn’t fade when the looks or status goes away.

Yes, you can have unstoppable romance and love with the mate of your choice. All you have to do is seek Invincibility Love, apply the principles of Sexual Transmutation, and develop a deep, empathetic understanding and acceptance of each other. When you have the right Invincibility Seeker mate, you can create a love that stands the test of time and is based on giving love without expectation—the greatest love of all.

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Would you like to embrace your inner joy and tap into your uniqueness to reach your dreams? Now you can by applying some of the lessons we learned from our special guest on Love University, Mary England (Inspiring Self-Love Through Merriment + Creativity | Uncustomary). Mary overcame 20 years of severe mental illness to find her inner joy and is now an in-demand coach that helps people live extraordinary lives. Here are some of the tips she shared with us for how to live your full-potential life.

*Tap into your Inner Weird. Mary loves to do fun “weird” things in public like giving out free lemons to people so they can make lemonade. You can have more joy in your life if you accept the part of you that is different, unique, and playful. On a daily basis, jump, dance, sing, and do silly things to tap into your fun, inner weird. Play games with your friends, children, and animals—see how much fun and joy you can create by being uniquely you.

*Go on a Solo Date and don’t hold your pee. Self-care is more than just getting enough sleep or having a spa day. It means doing what is right for you, regardless of what you think other people want you to do. If you don’t have anyone to go out with, take yourself on a date—pamper yourself at a nice restaurant or watch a great show. If you have to pee, don’t hold it because you’re trying to be polite in a conversation. Take care of your important needs first, and you will feel more content and relaxed.

*Never dull down your desire. Go for what you truly want. If you want a serious relationship leading to long-term commitment, make that clear to the people you date (Don’t fall into the “friend” or “hookup” zone). If you want to start your dream business, travel to your ideal destination, or make an important lifestyle change, do it. Don’t let outer naysayers (negative people) or inner naysayers (your critical thoughts) dim your passion and love for what you truly want to do. You only have one life. Life it will full engagement and passion.

Yes, you can love yourself without being egotistical or narcissistic. You can be uniquely you and tap into your inner joy while making this world a better place for everyone around you, including yourself. It’s your turn now: Go for what you really want, laugh abundantly, and allow your creativity and love to shine for all to see.

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Would you like to overcome feelings of futility and failure to achieve your dreams? Now you can by following a few simple steps that we discussed on Love University, as follows:

Treasure Your Success Memories. Go around your house and focus on the things that bring you good memories: a special gift, photo of a loved one; a prize, certificate, or award. Look carefully at these things, and remember the good memories associated with them. As you do this, say “Yeah,” louder and louder, as you anchor the feelings of success and love in your mind.
Step into the Circle of Power. Imagine an invisible circle that is three feet in diameter and two feet in front of you. This is your Circle of Power. Recall a time when you felt successful, powerful, and loved (great times with loved ones; a special accomplishment). As you remember the past positive event, step into the imaginary circle and say, “I am stepping into the Circle of Power. I share the power of the Universe. I am Invincible.”
Break the Paper Thin Bars. Think of being in a prison cell in which the bars are made of soft tissue paper, yet are painted to look like solid metal bars. Imagine that, at first, you think that you are hopeless to escape; there appears to be no way out. But then you receive a letter explaining that the bars are only made of tissue paper. Now visualize yourself breaking through the paper bars and walking to your emotional and psychological freedom.

Yes, you can have the ultimate success and joy you desire. All you have to do is focus intently on your greatest desire, step into your inner power, and liberate yourself from everything that holds you back. When you do this, you will finally realize that futility and despair have no place in your heart and mind. Now you can be truly free to enjoy every minute of life as you grow, learn, love, and leave a legacy for all to see.

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Do you suffer from regret—the emotional pain of the “shouldas,” “wouldas,” and “couldas?” Perhaps, you regret staying too long in a bad relationship, choosing the wrong career or lifestyle, or falling into a bad habit or addiction. If so, now you can find relief from regrets of the past by following the Invincible You Principles we discussed on Love University. Here are some powerful tips for mastering regret and enjoying a loving present and a confident future:

*Allow yourself to go back. Forgive yourself if you temporarily fall back into an old temptation, bad habit, or negative behavior. After you forgive yourself, go back to your disciplined plan immediately.

*Recreate a memory. Think of a mistake you made in the past. Then, close your eyes, take a deep breath, and imagine that you had acted the way you would have wanted. Re-experience the situation or encounter as the newer, wiser you. When you do this, you will feel more positive about your life and your past.

*Recognize and apply the lessons learned. Learn from your mistakes and decide that you will not repeat the same mistake twice, whether in your relationships, career, finances, or lifestyle choices. Your goal is to improve every day. When you do this, you will feel better about yourself, and you will make wiser decisions.

The good news is that you no longer need to waste mental energy brooding over past events, decisions, and actions. You can look forward instead of backwards. To live happily and without regret, you will always head toward “next time”—the best and most optimistic place to be.

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Are you pissed off and angry? Is the world making you mad? If so, our recent Love University show can offer you some pointers on how to live a more peaceful and calm life. Try the following:

*Develop the Mind of Preference, not Demand. When you prefer things to happen in a certain way (but don’t demand it), you will be more relaxed and content. Think preference, not demand.

*Draw Your Anger. In a notebook or notepad, draw what your anger looks like. Give it a name (Rage Goblin), and a color (red).

*Separate Yourself from the Anger Thought. Realize that the anger entity is not you. It is only a temporary thought that happens to be traveling through your mind. Take a deep breath, and as you exhale, visualize that you are blowing the anger out of your life. Say firmly, “Anger, I don’t want you in my life anymore. Goodbye!”

If you follow these three tips, you can start to eliminate anger from your daily life. You can begin a new life of peace, comfort, and love.

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Are you a rushaholic—rushing everywhere and having little peace and relaxation? On our latest Love University show, we learned some tips for relaxing and enjoying your life—without constant time pressures. Here’s what you need to do:

1.Develop the Mind of Patience. There is enough time for everything. Think of relaxation instead of stress. Think about accomplishing things the right way, instead of trying to do too much. Your relaxed mind will thank you.

Find a Patience Mentor. Spend time with elderly people who have mastered the art of patience. Strive to emulate their easy-going, relaxed approach to life, and you will feel joyful and peaceful.
Choose the Longer Line. As an exercise, intentionally choose the longer line in a store. Become aware of your surroundings and your own thoughts and feelings (“Hurry up” your mind tells you). Listen to conversations and observe other people who seem rushed and pressured. Resolve that you will not be like them. You will be calm, patient, and loving.

Yes, it’s true. You can be patient, relaxed, and fulfilled. Leave rush behind and start an inner revolution of relaxation and well-being. You will enjoy every minute of it.

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When life seems overwhelming, we need to find our beauty and strength within. This is the beautiful lesson we learned from our amazing guest, life coach Leena Duwadi, native of Nepal. Known as the female “Sadhguru” for her enlightening nuggets of wisdom, here is what the lovely Leena share with us:

*The world is full of good hearts. Look around you, and you will find love and charity. Help others and you will always win.

*You are spiritual even if you don’t realize it. You believe in something higher than yourself, whether it’s God, money, love, or something else. Make sure that you believe in something that will elevate you and bring you goodness.

*Be the hope you never lost. You have greatness inside you. Simply recognize that you are a creation of the Higher Nature (God, spirit, nature). When you do that, you won’t have to prove yourself to anyone. You are sufficient within yourself.

*We need more loving ears, not talking mouths. Just being with a hurting person, and listening attentively, is enough. Your energetic presence by itself can help heal those who suffer.

*Replace “Alonement” for “Loneliness.” You can be by yourself and still be content if you love yourself in an authentic way. Being alone doesn’t have to mean that you’re lonely. It can give you the opportunity to truly know yourself.

*The Higher Nature is your “Life Guard.” Sometimes, you are thrown into a pool of deep water. Life seems too difficult; you are overwhelmed by problems and difficulties. Yet, the good news is that The Higher Nature (God, spirit) is ready to jump in to save you as long as you are willing. Be willing.

The truth is that it's perfectly fine to work on your outer health and beauty. Yet, you will also receive great rewards when you focus on enhancing your inner beauty—your capacity for empathy, compassion, gratitude, and love. Make your outer face—your daily actions-- match your inner face of beauty. When you do this, you will live triumphantly, joyfully, and with complete love.

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Would you like to overcome negative thoughts and emotions, and achieve your greatest potential in life? You can do so by following a few simple tips from Dr. Avila’s latest book, Invincible You: Discover Your Inner Power and Achieve Your Heart’s Desires (shorturl.at/C0679). Here’s what you need to do:

1.Identify the negative inner voices that hold you back. In a journal or notebook, write down the self-defeating thoughts that attack you on a daily basis: “I’m not smart enough.” “I’m not attractive enough.” “I’m not lovable enough.” “I’m not confident enough.” “I will never succeed in life.” Once you write them down, you will realize that these self-defeating thoughts are not you. They are just temporarily invading thought entities that try to fool you into believing that they are you. Don’t believe the thought tricksters. You are something far greater than the temporary gloomy thoughts in your mind.

Reverse the pronouns. To change your perspective about the negative thought invaders, change the pronoun you use from “I” to “You.” Now, when self-defeating thoughts enter your mind, you will say, “You (self-defeating thoughts) are not smart enough.” “You are not lovable enough.” “You will never be able to control me.” When you do this, you turn the table on the self-defeating thoughts and put them on the defensive. You understand that they, not you, are the ones who are weak and easy to defeat.
Create Self-Enhancing thoughts in place of self-defeating Thoughts. On a daily basis, write down and repeat self-growth thoughts to yourself. Say things like “I am smart.” “I am attractive.” “I am lovable.” “I am success and love.” When you ingrain these beautiful thoughts in your mind, your mood and motivation will improve significantly. Now you will have the mental firepower to achieve your goals and help other people along the way.

Yes, it is true that you can chart your course towards love and happiness. Along the way, you can throw away self-defeating thoughts, and you can fill your mind with joy, compassion, peace, love, and confidence. Start today to master the Desert of Weakness and start your climb toward the Mountain of Invincibility. You will enjoy every step along the way.

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Do you ever wonder if it’s too late for you to succeed in life? Perhaps, you think you’re too old and have wasted your potential. Or, you may feel that you have experienced too many failures or setbacks, and you have made too many costly mistakes. You think: “There is no way I can recover what I lost.” If you feel this way, then there is hope for you. You can achieve your dreams and live a fulfilling life, no matter how much you’ve suffered in the past; no matter how many failures or setbacks you have experienced. All you have to do is follow these three simple rules, and you can recover your joy and fulfill your heart’s desires:

Rule 1: Visualize your best future. In this exercise, you will imagine yourself in ten years as you’re living your ideal life. Take a deep breath and imagine what you will look like and feel like; what you will be doing, and who will be around you in ten years. When you open your eyes, write down what you envisioned. Perhaps, you see yourself with a loving partner and family, doing work you love, and spending time with the people you care about. You also see yourself as attractive, successful, healthy, and happy in this ideal future. With this exercise, you will be able to visualize and actualize a future of excellence and joy.

Rule 2: Learn the lessons from the Greats who overcame adversity. No matter how far you have fallen in life, you can receive great inspiration and motivation by studying the examples of high achievers who have overcome obstacles in life. There are many stories of influential, productive, and happy people who have started later in life; resilient individuals who have overcome pain and failure to leave a lasting legacy. Select one of these “Adversity Conquerors” to be your role model or mentor—whether they are dead or alive. Read books about them, watch videos, contact them if they are still around to see if you can interview them and learn from them. By applying their wisdom into your life, you can begin to progress even more, and you can overcome any obstacles that stand in your way.

Rule 3: Keep walking forward. Always remember that it is never too late to make a positive change in your life. Every time you take one small step in your favor—apply for the job, ask for the date, research a new venture, make the investment—you will move in the direction of your invincibility and walk away from your past follies, regrets, and embarrassments. You will grow every time you work on yourself by reading a self-help book, attending a personal development lecture, or listening to a transformational CD or podcast. Before long, you will realize that you are winning big and reaching a state of Invincibility in which nothing can harm you or bother you. Success will become your every step.

Yes, it’s never too late to win big. Just keep these keys in mind as you master challenges and reach your highest potential:

Visualize your best future.
Learn from the Greats who overcame adversity
Keep walking forward.

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Are you trying too hard and not getting the results you want in life? Are you constantly running into roadblocks when you try to improve your relationships, career, finances, health, or happiness? If so, then there is good news for you. As we discussed on Love University this week, you can apply scientifically proven ways to accomplish what you desire. Here are 3 powerful and effective ways to exert the right effort to achieve your dreams.

*Meditate on Greatness. If you’re not achieving your goals, a good remedy is to study and reflect on the lives of people who have already achieved what you desire; individuals who have lived happy lives and have contributed to the world. You can start by finding a person you admire in the field that you’re interested in. Once you pinpoint the person you would like to learn from, reach out to them. Call, email, text, or write them a letter. Tell them that you admire their work and have a few questions for them about achieving success in their field. Many will be glad to help you because they want to give back to those who follow in their footsteps. When you find the right mentor, listen carefully to the advice they give you. As you study what they offer you, you will incorporate the parts of them that resonate with the essence of you, while maintaining your own mindset and integrity in the process.

*Reverse your trying. When you reverse your trying, you will do the opposite of what you’ve been trying to do so you can get the opposite of what you’ve been receiving. For example, let’s say that you’ve been frustrated in trying to find a soul mate—the one you want doesn’t want you, while you often attract the individuals that you’re not interested in. At this point, you will do the opposite of searching for your soul mate: You will take a break from dating, and you will focus on yourself for a while. You may pick up a hobby, make new friends, travel, adopt a pet, or participate in a new spiritual/exercise/meditative program. Paradoxically, when you stop chasing others, you will develop a sense of peace and contentment, and you are more likely to attract the right person who resonates with your authentic and relaxed nature.

*Try for your Don—your God-given talent. Your Don is your God/nature- given talent, whether it’s teaching, writing, caretaking, selling, inventing, organizing, working with your hands, and so on. When you put effort into developing your Don, you will see positive results in many areas of your life, including your relationships, finances, career, health, and happiness. Unfortunately, many people shy away from their talent. They may think that they can’t make money from it, or that they’re not really good enough. If you feel drawn to a particular talent or ability within yourself, go ahead and develop it. Start today. Take a class, read, or listen to podcasts about your Don. Practice it, perfect it, offer your Don to others, as much as you can. You can even give others free samples of your Don. For example, if cooking is your great talent, give some of your delicacies to friends who will enjoy it. The truth is that, when you fully develop your Don, you will accomplish more in less time. You are more effective because you are tapping into your natural strengths, instead of forcing yourself to do things that you’re not good at. As you share your Don with the world, your confidence and ability will grow. You will be able to do more because you have become more.

Always remember that achieving your goals is much easier when you focus your energy on the things that truly matter. Make sure that you meditate on greatness, reverse your trying, and try for your Don (talent/gift). When you do this, you will no longer just be trying; you will be doing and succeeding. Your intention will become reality because you are on your own side.

Nothing will be able to stop you.

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Would you like to live like a champion and be someone who regularly wins in life, despite problems and obstacles? This week, in our continuing Love University series on “Invincible You,” we learned how to be a Mental Champion by following these four simple steps:

Avoid the little bads. You may not realize it, but you may be allowing “little bads”—negative thoughts—to creep into your mind. You may be thinking: “I don’t have enough time,” “Life is difficult, or “I can’t find someone to love.” The solution to these little bads is to substitute them for little goods: Positive thoughts and phrases that enliven and inspire you. Say to yourself, “I have all the time I need,” “There is an abundance of money and love," and “Life, with positive belief is easy.” As you begin to speak differently to yourself, your attitude will begin to brighten, and you will have more energy, motivation, and desire to achieve your goals.
Start with the easy. Sometimes an important task seems too difficult for you to accomplish. If that is the case, then you can start with the easy. Do something that you can complete in a short period of time, without much effort. For example, if you want to start a new career, go online and read a couple of articles about people who have been successful in the field you’re interested in. If you want to get in shape, go to the gym for only 20 minutes, and then gradually increase the time you spend working out. As you take these easy, initial steps you will build momentum to do bigger and better things that will bring you even greater results.
Practice the power of discard. Have you accumulated a lot of junk in your life—both physical things that you don’t need, and emotions and thoughts that hold you back? If so, then get rid of the junk. Start by discarding old items from your home: clothes that no longer fit, equipment that doesn’t work well, paperwork that is obsolete. As you get rid of these useless things, you can also decide to eliminate self-defeating and nonproductive thoughts and feelings from your mind, including regret, worry, and frustration.
Join a mastermind group. Sometimes it seems like the whole weight of the world is on you, and you feel all alone in life. The good news is that you don't have to be alone. You can join or start a Mastermind Group—a union of like-minded people who come together to help each other reach their goals. Find people—online or off—who resonate with your values and interests, and who are willing to support you (as you support them) in achieving your dreams and objectives. Meet regularly and brainstorm ideas to solve pressing problems and fill important needs. As you harness the energy and mind power of your mastermind group, you will uplift your creativity and mood. You will come up with great solutions to your problems and challenges, and you will contribute to the lives of others in the process.

Yes, you can live like a champion. All you have to do is avoid the little bads, start with the easy, practice the power of discard, and join a Mastermind Group. If you do these things, you will not only begin to live like a Champion, but you will be one step closer to creating a life of Invincibility and impeccable excellence.

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You may not realize it, but you’re a member of a very exclusive club. It is called the Club of the Living. It Is estimated that approximately 107 billion people have lived on earth throughout history.. With a current world population exceeding 7 billion, that means there are roughly 15 dead people for every person who is alive. Therefore, by virtue of being alive at this very moment, you are one of those lucky 7%. You are alive. You can do anything you want. Amazing.

Here are some tips to help you get the most out of your membership in the esteemed 7% Club of the Living:

*Do what you want now: Don’t wait. You don’t know how long your membership in the club will last—how long you will be alive. Therefore, you need to do all of the things you’ve always wanted to do. Do you want to go to the Himalayas and meditate? Do you want to fly an airplane? Invent something to change the world? Teach the young? Travel the world? Help the needy? Be an amazing parent, friend, or lover? Live healthy free, and joyful? This is your time to do what you’ve always dreamed of. Do it now.

*Live the good paradox. As a member of the 7% Club of the Living, you will be living a paradox. On one hand, you will take your life seriously because you have a limited amount of time on earth, and you need to put your talents and abilities to good use to help yourself and others. At the same time, you won’t take every little problem or difficulty too seriously—traffic jams, mechanical breakdowns, human conflicts—because you know they won’t be that important 10 years from now, or even one year from now. You have a bigger perspective on life, and you don’t let little things overwhelm you. You will maintain your precious peace of mind and focus on the big issues of life: loving yourself, others, and a Higher Nature, and contributing your talents to make this world a better place.

*Repeat this phrase daily to yourself: “I am alive. I am the 7%. This is my time.” When you say this phrase, you will jolt yourself out of your self-hypnosis of “stuckness"--that pity party of regrets, fears, sadness, and disappointments. You will see yourself as a living and breathing entity who has the miracle of life: You are one of the 7%. You have the power to make your life anything you want it to be.

Rejoice. You are a member of the 7% Club of the Living. This is your time now. Live each day consciously, joyfully, and with love, as you help others do the same. Remember that the sun shines on you today. Tomorrow it may go elsewhere, but as long as you are here on Earth, you should enjoy every drop of life. Savor it like the finest of wines. As long as blood courses through your veins, and thoughts flow through your mind, let your soul dance with joy, and your heart sing with love. You are one of the 7%. Be grateful and enjoy.

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Have you ever had a gut hunch about something that later came true? Perhaps, you didn’t feel quite right about a charming and attractive person you just met, and they later turned out to be totally wrong for you. Or, you may have had a good feeling about a business or investment opportunity, and it later turned out to be a winner. Intuition is a sense of knowing something without knowing how you know. It is a sudden flash of insight, a “thin slicing” of judgement in which you come up with a conclusion based on what seems to be a small amount of information. Intuition can be very powerful, and new research shows how you can tap into your intuitive powers to achieve your dreams by developing the 4 Pillars of Intuition, as follows:

*Believe you can develop your intuition. Think of your intuition as a muscle that you can make stronger just like you would work out your muscles at the gym. You may consider yourself to be a more practical person; perhaps you don’t think you’re very intuitive. Yet, regardless of your current level of intuition, you can develop more of it. You can learn how to trust your gut and make the right decisions. You can improve your intuition.

*Get out of your head and into your gut (Hara). You may be the overthinking type of person. Perhaps, you think about everything too much, and you have what Eastern philosophers call the “Monkey Mind,” a mind filled with worries and thoughts about the future and what will happen to you. To get reduce the monkey mind, you need to develop your Hara. In martial arts there is a point, two inches below your navel, called the Hara. It is your point of intuition, balance, and power. When martial artists, no matter how old or small, are fully concentrated on their Hara, it is very difficult to move them off their position (even by stronger and younger martial artists). Try this exercise: Imagine that there is a colored light coming from your Hara—two inches below your navel. Perhaps, it’s green, blue, white, or yellow. Think of an emotion that the light represents—perhaps peace, joy, or love. Now shine that light energy inwardly to yourself, creating relaxation and purpose, as well as outwardly to others, shining compassion and love to the world. Now ask your Hara an important question that you would like answered. Perhaps, you will ask, “How will I find love?” “What is my best career path?” or “What is my purpose in life?” When you ask the question, take a deep breath and wait for the Hara’s answer. It will come, and you may be pleasantly surprised at what you learn about yourself and what you truly want.

*Write down your intuitions. On a daily basis, jot down your ideas, hunches, and intuitive feelings in a journal; a notebook, pad, or device. Write down your dreams, the results from the Hara exercise, and sudden flashes of insight that come to you in the shower or when you’re walking down the street. The more you get used to writing down your ideas and gut reactions, the better your intuition can become. When you first write them down, don’t judge their value; simply write with as much detail as you can. Later, you can come back, in the light of realistic analysis, and determine if you can apply your intuitive insights to improve your life and the lives of others.

*Test your hunches. When you get a gut feeling or intuition, test it. Start with small things. Maybe, you have an intuition about something that happened to your friend on a particular day. Tell your friend what you think and ask them if it is true. Or, perhaps you have a good feeling about trying a new movie, restaurant, or activity. Even though you’ve never tried it before, your intuition gives you a strong “Yes.” Go ahead and do it. You can also use your intuition for more serious or weighty matters. Perhaps, you have a very strong and repetitive intuition about starting (or ending) a relationship or business/career/job. After careful study, deliberation, and counseling, you may still have that strong signal to take a particular action. If that is the case, then follow your intuition: stay in the relationship or end it; continue with the job/career/business or start a new one. Chances are, you will find that, despite your fear and trepidation, you have made the right choice. You will reap the benefits of your intuitive insight.

Yes, you can become more intuitive, and you can use your intuition to help yourself and others. Remember that your intuitive abilities, at their core, are all about love. When you trust your gut, you love yourself and believe in yourself. When you act on your intuition to help other people, you are loving others. And, when you connect with your Higher Nature (God, spirit, nature), you are uniting with the source of intuitive genius that flows through you. Start today to develop and trust in your intuition. Your life will brighten as you bring more joy and goodwill to yourself and those around you.

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Are you spending too much time working instead of taking care of your mental, physical, and spiritual health? Do your loved ones complain that you’re not spending enough time with them? Do you feel burned out, stressed, and overwhelmed a majority of the time? If you answered “Yes,” you may be suffering from the condition known as Toxic Productivity. Toxic Productivity is the unhealthy and compulsive desire to work all of the time. When you suffer from Toxic Productivity, you are more concerned with what you didn’t do than with what you actually accomplished. People with Toxic Productivity often suffer from stress, heart disease, high blood pressure, obesity, anxiety, depression, and other compulsive behaviors (over shopping). During the pandemic, many people have stayed home, but instead of relaxing and enjoying their leisure time, they have worked even more in an attempt to find security in an uncertain world. Here are some tips to help you regain your peace of mind and joy if you feel overworked and stressed out:

Keep a True Productivity Journal. In a notebook or tablet, keep track of the time you spend working, as well as the time you spend on enjoying leisure pursuits. Write down your feelings when you’re working and when you’re relaxing. Some people love their work so much that it feels like play; they feel happy and fulfilled. Other people find their work boring or stressful. The key is to find work that you love to do, while also making sure that you balance your work with healthy and relaxing activities such as exercise, meditation, listening to music, reading, working with your hands, being in nature, engaging in a spiritual practice, or spending quality time with loved ones, including your love partner, children, and animals. You will feel more uplifted and ready to get back to work when you take the time to relax and rejuvenate.
Develop a Self-Compassionate Mindset. Don’t be so hard on yourself if you didn’t complete a project you had been wanting to finish. At the end of the workday, tell yourself that “I have done enough. I am sufficient as a human being, and I don’t need to work anymore to prove my worth. I can rest and start again tomorrow.”
Reframe rest as productivity: Don’t punish yourself for being productive. You may be a very efficient person who does a lot of work in a short period of time. If that’s the case, then you may need to overcome the temptation to keep doing more work. When you’ve completed an important task or project, reward yourself with an enjoyable activity—perhaps talking to friends, playing with your dog, or watching your favorite show. Also, you need to rethink you way you view “rest.” Instead of perceiving rest as a distraction from your work, view it as a way to increase your productivity because you feel more relaxed and focused after you’ve taken a relaxation break. A very successful business was hired to save a company on the verge of bankruptcy. The first thing he did was book a ticket to an island resort. After relaxing on the beach for a week, the frantic company CEO finally got ahold of him and wanted to know what he was doing lying on the beach. He replied: “The bigger the problem, the more I need to relax to clear my mind.” When he came back, he was able to quickly turn the company around and save it from bankruptcy. He knew that relaxation increased his mental focus and power to do his best work. You can do the same. Go ahead and take a mini-vacation (or a bigger one); go to a nearby day spa or wilderness area, spend a few hours doing your favorite activity, whether it’s playing sports, gardening, working with your hands, or spending time with loved ones. When you take care of yourself first, you will come back reenergized and ready to take on the world.
Manage energy, not time. Are you a morning or an evening person? Determine when you have the strongest energy and do your most challenging or creative work at that time. Perhaps, you have the most energy in the morning. If that’s the case, when you wake up in the morning, make sure you immediately start working on the most difficult project or task of the day. Later in the day when your energy wanes, you can handle less mentally challenging tasks such as texts, emails, or paperwork. In this way, you can maximize your energy, your life force, and accomplish more in less time while feeling invigorated and competent in the process.
Extend Loving Energy without expectation. On a daily basis, strive to give love without expecting anything in return. Smile, offer sincere compliments, and help those who need it. Be kind and compassionate without expecting other people to give you anything back. When you give love without expectations like this, you will gain a tremendous amount of emotional and psychological power. You will no longer desperately seek the approval or recognition of others; you won’t be at the beck and call of other people’s unreasonable demands and unrealistic expectations. You are independent and self-sufficient because your source of energy and power is within; you give love simply because that is what you have inside you. In the same way, when you work with love without expecting anything from the fruits of your work (money, accolades), you are capable of infinite work. Because your self-esteem is not tied to your work, you won’t suffer from constant stress and unfulfilled expectations. You are free to do your work spontaneously, creatively, and authentically because your true nature, your authentic self, comes from a higher source. You may call this Higher Source a certain name such as God, Nature, Spirit, Nature, or Love. Regardless of the name you use, when you tap into the goodness and love of this Higher Nature, everything you do, including your work, will be lighter, easier, and more joyous.

Start today to change your attitude toward work and leisure. Do work that you love, but don’t work at the expense of your mental and spiritual health—maintain a healthy balance between work and relaxation. Take the time to rejuvenate your mind, body, and spirit by doing things that uplift you. Spend quality time with your mate, children, family, and friends; participate in fun leisure activities and hobbies, rest, exercise, eat healthy, and get a good night’s sleep. When you do this, you will have more energy to do the work you love. You will also bring more love to the world as you love yourself at the same time. As the famous poet, Khalil Gibran, once said: “Work is love made visible.” This week, strive to enjoy your work and your life, as much as you possibly can.

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Do you love to travel? Although it may be more difficult these days due to the virus, there is hope that the world will open up more in the near future. The good news is that new research shows that traveling can improve your mental and physical health, improve your romantic relationships, and even increase your financial and career opportunities. Our delightful guests on Love University, Dave and Deb (the planetd.com), Forbes Top 10 Travel Influencers, shared some of their secrets for happy travel that can change your life (traveling saved their marriage). Here is what we learned from Dave and Deb:

*Traveling can improve your confidence, self-esteem, and career/business prospects. Dave used to be more Introverted and self-focused and Deb used to lack confidence (she was intimidated by all of the stars she worked with in the entertainment industry). After traveling to over 100 countries, they have transformed their personalities. Dave is now more empathetic and outgoing as he feels for those who are less fortunate in the world, and appreciates what he has back home. Deb is more confident because she feels like she is a more interesting person and can talk about more things because of her travels and life experiences. Also, when they return from their trips, they find that they have more business opportunities; they get great ideas while traveling and are more creative when they return. In the same way, traveling can improve your confidence, creativity, and relational skills. Start planning your future trip today.

*Traveling can save your marriage. After ten years of marriage, Dave and Deb were overworked professionals in the Canadian entertainment industry, and on the verge of divorce, until they discovered traveling. Heeding a friend’s advice, they traveled to Thailand and fell in love with the country, as well as the idea of seeing the world and making a living out of it. Now millions of people read their comprehensive and entertaining travel advice blog. Their most romantic destination? Maldives, a chain of islands off the coast of India and Sri Lanka. Going there is like being transported to a beautiful island paradise, where there is turquoise water, and each hotel its own island. It was made for romance (get your couples massage). Their best couple traveling advice? “When you’re fighting with your partner on a trip, let it go. Say to each other, ‘I don’t want to fight anymore,’ and find something you like to do in common. Remember: One huge argument doesn’t have to ruin a great relationship.”

*Take care of your health, safety, and security when you travel. According to Dave and Deb, it’s important to get travel insurance, including medical evacuation insurance—for any emergency you will be flown back home. Also, make sure you get your vaccines—certain countries require proof upon entry—and avoid eating food that can make you sick. Dave and Deb say that eating street food is OK if it is properly cooked, but don’t eat things that are peeled (an orange is OK if not peeled). Also, be wary of ice and make sure you purify the water you drink. For ladies, Deb has this advice: “Take an extra credit card and cash, wrap it in toilet paper, and put it in your tampons. A thief probably won’t think of looking there for your money.” Dave and Deb add: “Make sure you split up your cards and money. Put them in carry-ons, checked luggage, and backpacks so you have money in different places in case some things get lost or stolen.”

*Learn and be compassionate. One of the greatest things about traveling is learning about other cultures and developing relationships with interesting and fascinating people. Deb says that one of her fondest travel memories is becoming friends with a tuk-tuk driver in Sri Lanka (drives a three-wheeled motor vehicle used as a taxi). He drove them everywhere and they got to know his family. During their friendship, they learned that, although he was poor by Western standards, the driver was a great humanitarian. He helped raise money for schools and brought shoes to children in poverty. They fell in love with his heart of gold. Dave and Deb advises that when you’re traveling, you should be patient, courteous, and empathetic to the people you meet, including service providers (be kind; realize how hard they work to make a living). If you have the opportunity, donate and volunteer (teach English) to help the people you visit. It’s a great thing to leave a loving contribution in every place you visit. You will uplift lives and you will feel better as a human being who loves others and contributes to their well-being.

Dave and Deb conclude by saying that you don’t have to be rich or a celebrity to travel. It is possible to travel on a budget (even seniors are staying at hostels these days; it’s a great social experience). You can enjoy your time without spending an enormous amount of money. Also, traveling with kids and pets can be a fun and rewarding experience, although it takes a bit more preparation and planning. In the end, traveling is a way to expand yourself, gain new memories and experiences (travel memories are among the most beloved), and create positivity, love, and new friendships. It’s true that traveling and meeting people from other cultures is what unites us as human beings. By traveling and connecting with others who are different, we realize that, deep down, we are all alike—we all live, we all laugh, and we all love.

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In our tumultuous world of differences and conflicts, it’s good news when we can find love and harmony. On Love University (loveuniversity.love), we had the pleasure of listening to a special guest, Martin Sawa, Bay Area real estate entrepreneur and author. During his appearance on the show, Martin shared his insights on loving despite differences, and beyond death, as we discussed his fascinating memoir of money, life, tragedy, and love: The Other Side of Success: Money and Meaning in the Golden State (martinsawa.com). Here are some of the useful lessons we learned from Martin’s courageous and insightful book:

Successful Interracial marriages are about love, not differences. Martin married interracially three times, with two African American women and a Choctaw Native American (his first wife). He says he loved his wives dearly in different ways, yet their racial/cultural differences were not the most important thing. He says that once you get down to the business of day-to-day living, the keys for a successful marriage are the shared values you have with your mate, and the ability to treat each other as loving equals. Also, Martin advises, “Choose someone you can’t live without; a soul mate who is also a friend, lover, mentor, and spiritual partner. When you choose correctly, you will enjoy lasting love compatibility and a happy marriage.

Mental illness or psychological problems don’t have to define you. Martin admitted that he was an alcoholic, as was his father. Although he was a successful real estate entrepreneur, making deals on multimillion-dollar properties, he was also drinking excessively. The turning point was when he had a one night stand with an ex-girlfriend and admitted it to his wife (she was intuitive and already knew). Giving him one more chance, his wife offered Martin the motivation to quit drinking and to be the husband and father he wanted to be. Also, by reuniting with his paranoid schizophrenia sister (she disappeared for 20 years), Martin learned how to love and accept her as she was, and they enjoyed a marvelous five years together before she died.

You can love after death and beyond eternity. When his beloved second wife, Anita, died suddenly in the bathroom just before they were about to meet a couple for dinner, Martin was grief-stricken and shattered. Searching desperately for answers, he consulted spiritual intuitives, studied Eastern religions, and delved into philosophy and psychology. The spiritual intuitives reassured him that “She fluffs the pillows of you (supports you even after her death)” and “She is waiting for you; when you die, you will join her as if no time had passed.” In an amazing revelation, one of the spiritual intuitives told Martin that Anita had left a rose petal in her bible for him. He opened her bible and for the first time saw the rose petal as well as scriptures she had highlighted for him before her death. It was as if she had prepared for her departure and wanted to comfort her husband in her passing. Martin says he learned many valuable lessons from the death of his beloved wife: 1. Don’t take life for granted. Because today could be your last day, make sure you say “I love you” to your loved ones and go for your dreams, 2. Be good and do better, and 3. Pray daily in gratitude for the good things you have received and the well-being of others.

Martin concludes by advising you to “Have skin in the game.” Whatever you get involved with, whoever you are in a relationship with, give it your all. Make sure you invest the majority of your time, energy, money, and spiritual attention on the project or person you care the most about. When you do this, you will create a loving energy that lasts beyond death and leaves a legacy for all to see.

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In a world of evil and strife, there is a silver lining. We can find good and love in the world if we look for it and develop it within ourselves. This was the message we learned from our good friend and acclaimed author, Pablo Zaragoza (PABLOZARAGOZABOOKS.COM), on Love University. In his latest blockbuster novel, The Reluctant Nazi, Pablo tells the story of a young Nazi SS officer, Hans, who turns against the evil of the Third Reich and helps bring healing to those who suffer and justice to those who oppress. In the process, Hans redeems himself and discovers a new way to live based on love and compassion. Here are some of the lessons of triumph over evil and redemption and that we learned from Pablo:

*We don’t have to follow evil leaders. In the famous Milgram shock experiment, nearly 2/3 of student volunteers followed the instructions of the experimenter and gave a maximum 450 volts of electric shock to a middle-aged man, which may have been enough to kill him (he said he had a heart condition). Although the middle-aged man didn’t exist (it was a tape recording), the results shocked the world. How could supposedly normal college students exhibit such cruelty? The answer is that we are conditioned in society to obey authority, no matter how wrong or evil. Although this concept has some truth, those who disobeyed and didn’t shock the man did so under certain conditions: 1.When two experimenters gave conflicting instructions to the students (“Shock” and “Don’t shock”), the student didn't shock as much 2. When the middle-aged man was seated next to the student, fewer students shocked all the way to the maximum (they saw him as a real human being), and 3. When other students in the room said, “Don’t shock,” only 10% of the students obeyed the experimenter's command to shock the man. These variations reveal a powerful truth: When we are faced with evil and hatred, we can resist these destructive forces by banding together with compassionate and conscientious individuals to do the right thing. In this way, we can bring love where there was hate, and compassion where there was cruelty.

*We can find meaning in tragedy and love in suffering. Esteemed psychiatrist, Viktor Frankl, survived the horrors of the Nazi concentration camps. He witnessed frail-looking prisoners who were able to survive several years in the most dehumanizing circumstances, while some strong, sturdy-looking prisoners died very quickly. The difference was that the survivors had “a will to meaning”; they had an overriding purpose for their lives and faith that they would experience good things in the future. Perhaps, they wanted to write a book, be with their spouse again, or see their children/grandchildren graduate from the university. This overriding mission or purpose is what drove them to live, despite a horrible and hopeless environment. In the same way, you need to find a purpose or meaning for your life. Perhaps, it’s to be a good parent, to create something valuable for the world, or to be a caring and loving person who helps others. On a daily basis remind yourself of your mission and take the steps to accomplish it. By doing so, you will achieve your fullest potential and experience joy, love, and peace.

*We can redeem ourselves by doing good. As a medical doctor, Pablo worked in the Florida prisons with some of the most vicious and hardened prisoners, including murderers like serial killer, Aileen Wuornos, the twisted inspiration behind the Academy Award winning performance by Charlize Theron in the movie Monster. In his work with the prisoners, Pablo observed cases of redemption and transformation. In one case, he remembers a medical doctor who had been sentenced to prison for overprescribing certain drugs. He lost his liberty, reputation, and medical license, among other things. Yet, in his apparently hopeless situation, the doctor stopped thinking about his own plight and started helping other inmates who had medical issues. In one incident, he diagnosed an inmate with a serious venereal disease and helped save the patient’s eyesight. After helping many inmates with his medical knowledge, he eventually left prison, regained his medical license, and started working for a nonprofit clinic. Pablo reminds us that we, as human beings, have the capacity to change. Instead of getting down on yourself, and feeling bad and worthless about your past mistakes, realize that you can change given the right circumstances. You can redeem yourself from the bad things you have done by doing good. You can give to the homeless and needy, volunteer at charitable/humanitarian organizations, and provide emotional support to your loved ones and those who are suffering.

Pablo’s message is simple, but powerful. You can triumph over evil and bad circumstances by finding meaning in your life and believing in the power of redemption. As a creation of a Higher Nature, you have the capacity to find the love and compassion that exists within you. You can vanquish darkness and replace it with loving energy as you leave a lasting legacy of goodness and love for all to see.

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It’s Spring and love is in the air. Would you like to improve your relationship and keep your love strong and fulfilling? Now you can with some of the valuable tips we learned from our guest on Love University, Kyle Benson, intimate relationship coach. Kyle worked with Dr. John Gottman, the world-renowned marriage researcher who can accurately predict whether a marriage will fail or succeed by observing a couple's communication style for a short period of time. Now a popular relationship coach, Kyle shared his insights on how to become a “Master Couple,” and build a harmonious and joyful relationship. Master couples are those who can manage conflict well and are each other’s best friends. Master couples are able to:

*Know each other’s Love Maps: Master couples know each other intimately and thoroughly—they have a “Love Map” to their partner. On an everyday basis, you can learn your partner’s love map by asking open-ended questions and getting to know your love partner’s deepest values, preferences, fears, joys, and desires (“What are you afraid of? What makes you happy?”). Love is really a “deep understanding of another.” The more you know about each other, the closer you will feel.

*Turn toward each other: Master couples listen to and support each other. When one of them makes a remark, “Look at that beautiful bird over there,” the other may reply, “Yes, it’s beautiful.” Disaster couples, on the other hand, either argue (“Stop wasting your time; get the chores done), or ignore each other (stay on their phone). Turning toward each other is important because it shows that you care enough to listen to your partner and affirm them.

*Give each other the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes your partner may make a mistake or may do something that irritates or bothers you. When they don’t do something that you asked them to do (go to the store), don’t be too quick to jump on them with criticism (“You’re lazy”). Instead, give them the benefit of the doubt and ask, “Are you tired? Did you have a tough day at work?" When you demonstrate empathy like this, your partner will appreciate your kindness and will return the favor.

*Fill their love bank. Master couples make more positive than negative statements to their partner (“Honey, I love the way you make love,” “You’re so smart”). Disaster couples do the opposite. They start their conversations with negatives (“You never…Why do you did this?”) and continue with more negatives (“You’re stupid; you’re a jerk”). When you and your partner sincerely compliment and express gratitude for each other's good traits and helpful behaviors, you build a love bank: a repository of all the good energies and feelings that can help your relationship get through the tough times. Make a daily deposit—say something nice, loving, and heartfelt to your mate—and you will fill your love bank account. In the process, you will build a strong and loving relationship.

*Repair the relationship. Even Master couples disagree and fight with each other—sometimes quite loudly and forcefully. The difference between them and the disaster couples is that they know how to repair the relationship. In the midst of a heated argument, one of them will say something funny, or perhaps offer a soothing physical gesture (hug or touch) to de-escalate the situation. They may also take an intelligent timeout (“Honey, this is getting heated. I’m going for a walk and will be back in ten minutes. Is it OK if we talk then?”). As a result of their repair attempts, the relationship can survive hurt feelings, and the couple can work things out without harboring resentments that will come back later to damage the relationship.

Yes, you and your partner can become a Master Couple—a romantic pairing of truth, light, and love. You and your mate can practice the techniques of Kyle and Gottman to create a powerful, lasting, and loving relationship that stands the test of time. Start today and tell your partner how much you love them and can’t live without them—then demonstrate your love with small gestures and actions. When you do this, you will ride the wave of a beautiful love that serves as an example of relationship greatness for your children and everyone around you. Enjoy: Love is the greatest gift of all.

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There is a lot of misinformation out there about dating, romance, and love. Our guest on Love

University, Marni Battista, dating and relationship expert, shed some light on some of the

misconceptions about dating and how to break through to find the love of your life. Here are some

of the nuggets of wisdom that we learned from Marni:

*Find your love center. Your love center is the strong and powerful part of you; confident, sexy, and lovable. To find your love center, practice self-care. Eat right, exercise, meditate or engage in a spiritual practice. Love yourself and you will have the confidence and energy to attract the love of your life.

*Erase your negative self-talk. Negative self-talk, what you say to yourself, is one of the biggest stumbling blocks when it comes to finding love. Perhaps, you’ve indulged in negative self-talk about finding a love partner, thinking, “All the good ones are taken,” “Or I live in a terrible place to find the right match.” According to Marni, there is no wrong place or right place, geographically, to find your love partner. You can find love in Alaska just as easily as you can find it in Manhattan. The important factor in finding your soul mate is your self-talk—what you say to yourself in your inner thoughts. Instead of believing that “All the good ones are taken,” you can say, “I will find the right one for me by doing the things I love and being authentically me.” With a positive self-talk mentality about dating and love, you will be more motivated, confident, and persistent in your soul mate journey. Also, by maintaining a positive attitude and good humor, you will be more attractive to others. Consequently, you will have a better chance of finding an ideal partner who is attracted to your good charm and positive energy.

*Get out of your cozy comfortable condo. Mani uses the condo metaphor to describe a single person who is comfortable staying home and not risking emotional rejection or failure in the dating world. Yet, this existence is not really comfortable because the pangs of loneliness and lovelessness gnaw at the isolated single person. The key is to get out of your shell and think of the positive energy you’re able to generate when you do something you love, whether it’s art, science, exercise, working with your hands, helping people, or a meditative/spiritual practice. Imagine that when you go out and meet eligible singles, you are carrying the same energy with you. Once you visualize this powerful and attractive energy within you, it’s time for you to go out and meet quality people. You can go out physically or online and meet like-minded people who share similar interests and hobbies. When you do that, you’ll increase your likelihood of meeting a compatible person who resonates with your style.

*Date with dignity. Marni tells her coaching students to believe in their own dignity and self-worth. Instead of having the “Pick me” desperate mentality (hoping someone will choose them for love), they can rearrange their thinking and create an “I am irresistible” vibe about themselves. When singles increase their self-worth, they will naturally attract the person who harmonizes with their authentic nature.

Yes, you can find date with dignity and live courageously. Dating and finding the right person takes

effort and courage, but you can accomplish your love goals. According to Marni, the love quest is

based on a paradoxical approach. On one hand, you need to treat dating like your career and put

effort on achieving clearly defined goals (getting your wardrobe and pictures together for dating

apps, participating in social groups with like-minded people; going on x number of dates to find the

right love match). On the other hand, you need to give up the fight. Stop trying so hard to make

that special someone like you, or to get married by a certain time. Instead, you should focus on

loving yourself, being the best you can be, and extending your positive and loving energy without

expectation into the world. When you do that, you will attract the right love partner for you, and

you will enjoy a lifetime of happiness.

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In our fascinating discussion with Dr. Donald Hoffman, renowned cognitive scientist, we learned some fascinating insights about the future of artificial intelligence and robots, and how they will impact our lives. Here’s what we learned:

*In the future, artificial intelligence can beat us at everything. Already, companies are creating mobile robots that are no longer stuck in the mainframe. These AIs can run, do gymnastics, and in the future will be able to create amazing art, write insightful prose, and compose beautiful music. Dr. Hoffman predicts that an artificial intelligence will one day win the Nobel Prize for art or literature.

*People are interested in robots as love mates. According to Dr. Hoffman, inventors are working on very human-like, realistic “robot mates” that are even more attractive than humans. Dr. Hoffman uses the term, Supernormal Stimuli, to describe these robots. Supernormal stimuli refers to natural stimuli that have been enhanced in some way; something that is larger than life and stimulates our desire and attraction for it. Dr. Hoffman cites the example of the male Jewel Beetle in Australia. Male Jewel Beetles in Western Australia look to mate with females who are dimpled, glossy, and brown (this is their shortcut to knowing it’s a female). However, when Australians started throwing their beer bottles that looked like the females—but more enhanced—the males preferred the bigger, browner, and glossier bottles instead of the real females. The males tried to mate with the bottles while ignoring the actual female Jewel Beetles, and they almost became extinct as result. In a similar way, humans may be more attracted to these enhanced robot mates because the robot version has the best elements and features of the human form, without any of its imperfections (no bad hair, bad skin, or moody disposition). Love with a robot, anyone?

*Can Robots rule the world? In the classic “Terminator” series with Arnold Schwarzenegger, a company creates an artificial intelligence network, Skynet, that develops awareness and then starts a nuclear war against humans. Dr. Hoffman believes that artificial intelligence may be able to adopt certain negative human traits such as deception and taking advantage of others. At the same time, Dr. Hoffman is skeptical that we can infuse robots/AI with what makes us human—unconditional love and spiritual awareness—or that we can take unconscious ingredients (software, circuits) and turn them into consciousness. However, he does see a possibility where we can open up new portals in existing consciousness in which we can see something that looks like Artificial Intelligence with human elements.

Artificial intelligence will continue to develop and can be used to enhance our lives in many ways, including life-saving medical applications. At the same time, we need to remember that the one thing that differentiates us from artificial intelligence is our capacity to love without expectation. As long as we maintain and extend our positivity and loving energy, we can use technology, artificial intelligence, and other innovations to make this world a better and happier place.

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Would you like to be the best lover you can possibly be? Now you can become an ideal lover in every sense of the word: romantically, sexually, and lovingly. You can earn a black belt in the bedroom and become a luscious lover if you follow the advice of our guest on Love University: Jacqueline Hellyer, internationally renowned sex and love expert. During our delightful talk, Jacqueline enlightened us on the seven stages of loving fully and deeply:

*Find your love center. Take an inventory of the kind of person and lover you are right now. What do you want in a love relationship? What do you have to offer? Recognize your strengths—sense of humor, intelligence, compassion, and so forth—and make sure that you respect and appreciate who you are as a human being, and as a lover.

*Engage other people with confidence. Once you’re aware of your strengths and talents, your next step is to lead with your talents when you interact with others or spend time with your loved one. If you’re funny, tell jokes and engage in humorous and spicy wordplay to break the ice and show your romantic interest in someone. If you’re good at arranging sensual and aesthetic details, make sure you create a romantic and sexy environment for you and your love mate, with dim lights, relaxing music, soothing lotions, aromatic fragrances, and tasty morsels.

*Be light and playful. Nothing is sexier than being light-hearted, spontaneous, and playful with your love partner. Tickle each other, chase each other around the house, and play fun games in which you award prizes to the winner (a kiss, massage). When you have fun and play with your mate like this, you will remember that you are light-hearted spirits who reside in biological bodies. As you play, you can drop the seriousness and pretentiousness of adult life and enjoy the joy of being alive with your love.

*Offer Empathy: Empathy is a powerful aphrodisiac. Empathy means putting yourself in your love partner’s shoes—feeling as they feel. The truth is that lovemaking doesn’t just start in the bedroom; it begins with empathy in everyday moments. Empathy is the foreplay that sparks romantic attraction and arousal. Lovemaking begins when you make coffee for your partner to help them start their day; when you rub their feet after they’ve had a hard day at work. When you’re empathetic, you align yourself with your lover’s heart and mind, and they will feel that you truly care about them. You want what is best for them as they feel the same about you. When a couple has empathy for each other, they will feel more sexual attraction and passion because they know that their love is secure.

*Seduce your partner. Even if you’ve been married or together for a number of years, it’s important that you keep seducing your partner—romance them like you did when you first met. Sadly, many people take love for granted. They work at their day job for forty hours per week, and they exercise for several hours per week, but they don’t take even one hour to work on their love relationship—one of the most important contributors to their happiness in life. Decide today that you will keep seducing and romancing your partner just like you did in the honeymoon stage. Take them to special places, make homemade gifts, please them in the bedroom, show them that you love them in special and creative ways. If you keep seducing your partner, your love and sex life will continue to be strong and satisfying.

*Become a master of love. Study love in all of its variations. Observe happy couples who have been together a long time and still have that spark in their relationship and love life. Notice the secrets that keep their love strong and apply them to your own love life. Read e-books, and listen to podcasts and videos, about how to have great love and sex. Use what you learn to enhance your own relationship. Keep a journal in which you write down the things that you and your partner enjoy the most in the bedroom. Also, note the romantic adventures that bring both of you the greatest pleasure. Be sure to implement the tips and tactics you have learned on a weekly basis to enhance your sex and love life with your mate.

*Let go of control and surrender to your love. This last phase is the most delicious and the most delicate. Many people are afraid to fully fall in love and surrender their heart to another person. They are too afraid of being hurt. Even if they’ve been with someone for a long time, they still hold back a part of themselves—their trust; their vulnerability—fearful that the other person will end up hurting them. This is the wrong approach. Once you’ve established a sense of security and trust with your love mate, it’s important that you let go of your preconditions and defenses. Be open, honest, and vulnerable with your partner—as they do the same with you—and you will enjoy a wonderfully passionate and sensual relationship that keeps getting better every day.

One of the greatest lessons we can learn is to fuse sexuality, love, and spirituality together into a powerful instrument of joy and happiness. Unfortunately, many people try to separate them. They see sex as either something to be ashamed about, or something to pursue without reservation, until it becomes an obsession or even an addiction. Others see spirituality as a separate holy vehicle for transcendence that doesn’t include carnal or bodily pleasures like sex. In reality, the Higher Nature (God, spirit, energy) created sex for humans, not just to procreate or to experience pleasure, but to bond with each other at the deepest level of spiritual connection. The next time you make love with your partner, think of your lovemaking as a form of spiritual meditation in which you imagine that you and your loved one are floating on clouds as spiritual entities. When you come down from the clouds, you will say to your partner, “Hello, it’s you,” as you recognize that your spiritual natures are inhabiting your bodies. On a regular basis, make it your goal to enjoy the best love, sex, and joy you possibly can with the person you care the most about. When you do this, you will have one of the greatest gifts you can receive during your lifetime on earth. You will experience the joy of loving and being loved—deeply, and without holding anything back.

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Did you know that what you see is not real? Most of us think that our senses tell us the truth. You see the moon and think that the moon exists even if you don’t. That is not necessarily true, says our distinguished guest on Love University, Donald Hoffman, world-leading cognitive scientist and evolutionary theorist. According to Dr. Hoffman’s theory of conscious realism, what we see is only an interface—an icon or desktop—that simplifies our perception. What lies beyond is a mystery we haven’t yet solved. During his appearance on Love University (apple.co/2KMhRbe), Dr. Hoffman enlightened and amazed us with his science-based observations of human life, the Universe, and our future, as follows: How to be a lion and not a rabbit. Lions sleep up to 18 hours a day because they are the King of the Jungle—they can rest easy knowing that they are not about to be eaten by another animal. The rabbit, on the other hand, is always looking around worried that it could be someone’s meal. In today’s society, many people are rabbits—dominated by fear, worry, and stress. To become a lion--confident and secure—Dr. Hoffman recommends practicing silent meditation. Dr. Hoffman meditates silently for three hours every day, which helps him develop a mindset of creativity, peace, and personal power. Follow Dr. Hoffman’s example and meditate 15 minutes a day at first and then gradually increase it. Close your eyes and let the thoughts come in and out of your mind without focusing on any one thought. As you practice this, your thoughts will diminish and you will have a peaceful and relaxed mind. Go for the evolutionary shortcut. According to Evolutionary Game Theory, there are certain strategies that can help organisms live long enough to mate and reproduce—to pass along their genes. These strategies are shortcuts that conserve valuable resources such as time and energy. For example, humans learned how to distinguish between a nutritious plant and a poisonous one by its shape, color, and texture. With this rule of thumb, or heuristic, they could save a lot of time (and prevent sickness and death) by only gathering the plants that would be healthy and nutritious while avoiding the poisonous plants that could harm them. In the same way, you need to find what works best for you in relationships, business, and health, and keep doing what is most effective and efficient for you. If you want to lose weight, and you hate exercise, then it would be wise for you to learn the best diet approaches that work with your taste buds and metabolism. Therefore, if you want to make a lasting change in your life, invest in shortcuts that meet your needs and match your personality. Stop wasting time, energy, and emotional resources on plans and strategies that don’t work for you, Why we’re attracted to supernormal stimuli. Drawing from examples in the animal kingdom and human life, Dr. Hoffman tells us why organisms, including humans, are often attracted to natural stimuli that have been enhanced in some way, also known as Supernormal Stimuli. He tells us about the Jewel Beetle in Western Australia who look to mate with females who are dimpled, glossy, and brown (this is their shortcut to knowing it’s a female). However, when Australians started throwing their beer bottles that looked like the females—but more enhanced—the males preferred the bigger, browner, and glossier bottles to the real females. The males tried to mate with the bottles while ignoring the actual female Jewel Beetles, and they almost became extinct as result. In a human example, Dr. Hoffman talks about the future rise of robots as love and romantic companions—perhaps even life partners—as some humans may be more attracted to the robots because they are enhanced versions of the human form. In everyday life, Dr. Hoffman talks about how humans use makeup, plastic surgery, and eye-catching clothes—supernormal stimuli—to enhance their desirability and attractiveness for mating purposes as well as for social advantage. Advertisers are also skilled at using supernormal stimuli to sell their products by making their commercials and advertisements appear larger than life. Can Artificial Intelligence develop a human Mind and take over the world? In the classic “Terminator” series with Arnold Schwarzenegger, a company creates an artificial intelligence network, Skynet, that develops awareness and then starts a nuclear war against humans. Could that happen to us? Although it seems far-fetched, Dr. Hoffman tells us that artificial intelligence is no longer just in the computer mainframe—now there are mobile robots that can walk, run, and even do gymnastics. Someday, Dr. Hoffman says, AI will beat us at everything—creating great art, poetry, literature, and music; making scientific discoveries; and winning the Pulitzer Prize. Also, he believes that AI may be able to mimic certain negative human traits such as deception and taking advantage of others. At the same time, Dr. Hoffman is skeptical that we can infuse robots/AI with what makes us human—unconditional love and spiritual awareness—or that we can take unconscious ingredients (software, circuits) and turn them into consciousness. However, he does see a possibility where we can open up new portals in existing consciousness in which we can see something that looks like Artificial Intelligence with human elements. The future awaits us, says Dr. Hoffman. *God is infinite possibility and endless exploration. Dr. Hoffman, the son of a minister, is working on a mathematical formula for God. His goal is to create a way to measure an objective reality known as “God.” Initially, he has defined God as an infinite conscious agent (a conscious actor) with infinite possibilities. He says this is a good start but we need to explore deeper. There are important aspects that need to be considered in the mathematical formula of God, including unconditional love, also known as Agape, Karuna (compassion), or Karuna (devotion. Dr. Hoffman says that one promising idea that incorporates the necessary depth for the theory is to consider that God consists of an endless exploration of all possible varieties of consciousness. Dr. Hoffman agrees that there is much more we need to learn about this infinite consciousness which we call God. It’s like many great thinkers have said at the end of their lives “The one thing I have learned is that I know nothing.” There is always more for us to learn and explore in this beautiful and amazing cosmos of ours. Dr. Hoffman leaves us with the idea that there are many possibilities and situations in life, and we need every type of human being to make this world a great place. We need Introverts to think deeply, Extroverts to communicate ideas, Feelers to give us warmth and caring, and Thinkers to analyze and solve problems. The key to human evolution into a state of unity—what Pierre Teilhard de Chardin called the Omega point—is to constantly adapt. We need to keep learning, growing, giving, and above all, extending loving energy without expectation. More than simply passing along our genes to the next generation, our aim should be to leave a lasting legacy of love and peace for all who follow us. That is the true inheritance we can leave the world.

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Are you addicted to your phone? 2/3 of phone users have “Nomophobia” –the fear of being without their phone or phone service. In some ways, excessive phone use is like other forms of addiction in which you experience pleasure (dopamine brain chemicals), but then suffer from withdrawals (anxiety, sadness) when you’re not able to use your phone. If you find yourself wasting too much time on your phone, and your work or relationships are suffering, then it may be time for you to try the Phone Addiction Cure. Apply these techniques so you can use your phone for useful and beneficial purposes, instead of using it too much for the wrong reasons: negative news, distractions, compulsive activities, or excessive social media comparisons.

*Keep track of your phone use. You can use an app or journal to become aware of how often you use your phone daily and what you do on the phone. With this awareness, you can decide to limit your phone use to your most important goals or objectives.

*Take a phone fast. If you discover that you're using the phone too much for nonproductive or harmful activities (comparing yourself to people who seem better off on social media), then it's time to turn off your phone or devices for a while. You can turn them off for an hour or for a few hours at a time. When you first do this, you may have the feeling of "FOMO”—fear of missing out—but you will soon realize that most of the time, you didn't really miss out on anything important. Instead, you will start to experience a tremendous feeling of relaxation and peace. You will realize that you no longer have to constantly and immediately respond to the demands of other people; you don’t have to keep up with every single piece of information in the Universe. You can relax and be at peace.

*Substitute healthy activities. When was the last time you had a long talk with a good friend, or leisurely enjoyed reading an interesting book? Instead of being on your phone all the time, do activities that refresh and energize you. Exercise, spend fun time with family and friends, read, meditate, do creative projects, hobbies, and crafts; engage in a spiritual practice. When you’re tempted to reach for your phone to distract yourself, or to alleviate your sadness or loneliness, do a fun and healthy activity instead.

*Love yourself, others, and a higher nature. Addictive phone users may not feel good about themselves so they use the phone—and all the things connected with it (gaming, shopping, social media, gambling)—to feel better about themselves. Short circuit these negative patterns by loving yourself. Take good care of your health—diet, exercise, sleep, meditative/spiritual practice—and tell yourself that you are a strong and loving person. Also, give love to others without expectation—smile, pay sincere compliments, help others—without expecting anything in return. Finally, love a Higher Nature (God, spirit, nature, goodness)—something that is beyond you. When you do this, you will have a greater perspective and meaning in life, and you will feel better about your existence on earth.

Yes, you can be the master over your phone. Your phone can be a very wonderful servant that brings you great convenience, opportunities, connections, information, entertainment, and inspiration. But, you must be the one that controls the phone and technology—using it as tool for growth, contribution, enjoyment, and love. Make your phone an instrument of goodness and love, and you will enhance your life and help make the world a better place.

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JOIN DR. AVILA FOR A FREE VALENTINE’S DAY ZOOM TALK/MIXER: FEB 12TH 7PM, PACIFIC STANDARD TIME: FIND YOUR IDEAL LOVETYPE WITH THE 4 MAGIC QUESTIONS: GO TO HTTP://bit.ly/35Vbg9H Do you feel like you’re cursed when it comes to dating and finding love? The one you're attracted to doesn’t want you, and the person you’re not interested in wants you. Or, you date someone for a while, and everything seems great, but then they suddenly lose interest or disappear. If this has happened to you, cheer up. There is good news coming your way—a cure for the dating curse. Our guest on Love University, Jess McCann, renowned dating love expert, offered us the solution to breaking negative dating patterns and finding the love of your life. Here are some important tips we learned from Jess: *Determine your dating curse and find your solution. According to Jess, singles have different kinds of self-defeating mental dating patterns (curses). It’s important that you pinpoint which curse you have so you can break bad psychological habits and enjoy success in your soul mate search. Here are some common dating curse types and how to break the psychological spell: Worrier: You over worry about how the relationship will turn out. From the beginning, you want to ask a date if they're interested in marriage, family, and children; you also worry if they are a faithful or committed person. Worrying too much makes you seem desperate and can push a potential love partner away. SOLUTION: Focus on the present—develop awareness of what you can enjoy about the person you’re with right now (or what you can learn from them). Lamenter: You have a lot of regret and are stuck in the past. You remember how your past partner cheated on you, and you fear that your present dating partner will do the same. Or, you blame yourself for making mistakes in your previous relationships, and you are worried that you will make a similar mistake in the present one. SOLUTION: Forgive yourself (and others) for the past so you can have a clear mind and conscience as you begin a new relationship. Inferior Mind: You put yourself down: “I’m not good enough for them (to find love).” As a result you’re fearful of rejection, and you avoid interacting with the person you’re truly attracted to. Solution: Shift your focus from yourself to others—be more kind, giving, and loving. Smile at other people, help them with a task, compliment them sincerely. Doing so will reduce your self-consciousness and increase your social confidence. Also, think of your favorite actor and practice acting like them at home in front of your mirror—imitate their posture, nonverbal expression, and speech; adopt their confidence and charisma. As you do this, you will develop more of the Actor (confident and spontaneous) part of your personality, and you will express it in everyday social encounters. Wanter: You try to get an emotional “fix” from people, objects, and circumstances; you rely on external things to make you happy: shopping, dating, making money, or being recognized by others. Yet, once you get what you want (car, house, clothes, attractive person), you may get bored and lose interest. Then, you’re off to the next conquest. Unfortunately, you are never quite happy because you're not able to fully appreciate what you already have; you’re rarely satisfied. As a result, you may overlook the nice, emotionally stable mate because you are always in search of someone better. SOLUTION: Learn how to be mentally still—meditate quietly—without adding anything to your roaming and rushing thoughts. With practice, you can learn how to become satisfied with what you have. You will realize that your joy and contentment come don’t come from external sources—they come from within. Now, you can be open to that nice, emotionally healthy and committed partner who fulfills you at the deepest level. Contestant: Everything is a competition or challenge for you. You want to prove that you’re better than other people. If your best friend got married to a tall, handsome, successful man. you want to capture the heart of an even handsomer, taller, and more successful man. You may even be tempted to try to steal a love partner away from another person just for the challenge and thrill of it—to prove that you can win. Thinking this way is a terrible trap because you will never be satisfied with what you have, and you will hurt yourself and others in the process. SOLUTION: Instead of comparing yourself to other people who may have more than you, make sure you only compare yourself to yourself (previous self). See how much you can grow as a human being, and how much you can improve along the way. You will be much happier as a result, and you will have a better chance to attract the love of your life. Superior Mind: Whereas the Contestant wants to prove that they’re better than everyone else, the Superior Mind already knows they are superior. As a result, they have a certain arrogance and entitled sense about them. If you’re a Superior Mind, you may not think you need any advice because you believe everyone else has the problem—it’s not your fault if other people can’t recognize how brilliant and attractive you are. Unfortunately, you pay a big price for this attitude because you select mates based on superficial characteristics—looks, money, status—and how well they can complement your “greatness.” As a result, you may miss out on someone who may not have those exact traits, but who could be a wonderfully loving and loyal mate for you if you only gave them a chance. SOLUTION: Keep a “Judgmental Journal”: Write down how much it hurts you when you quickly prejudge others in the dating world: “He doesn’t have enough hair,” “She’s not tall enough,” “He/she doesn’t make enough money.” When you do this, you realize how you may be eliminating great romantic prospects based on superficial reasons. Also, decide that you will experiment with dating a less physically attractive person who may have great inner traits—compassion, kindness, loyalty, spirituality. When you do this, you may find yourself falling in love with a beautiful person in the true sense of the word. Yes, you can get rid of those frustrating dating and love curses—self-defeating thinking styles—that have held you back from finding the relationship of your dreams. Once you identify the negative mindset that is holding you back, you can take steps to liberate yourself from unproductive thinking patterns. As you do this, you will get rid of your old self-absorption (“Poor me” or “Look how great I am”), and you will start to see yourself and others in a more realistic and loving manner. Ultimately, you will realize that you can live in acceptance—of yourself and others. You will also be able to give love without expectations, which is the greatest secret for finding and keeping love. Start today to be kind, nice, and loving to others, without expecting anything in return. When you do this, you will have deeper human interactions, and you will be one step closer to discovering the love of your life.

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Have you ever wondered what guys are thinking when it comes to dating, sex, and relationships? If you’re a guy, have you ever wondered what women were thinking when it came to romance and relationships? With so much confusion and discord between the sexes today, we need to find a point of harmony and balance in the search for true, lasting love. Now we have some insightful and important answers from our guest on Love University, Robert Manni, top dating podcaster and the male’s successor to “Sex and the City.” Here are some of the nuggets of dating/love wisdom we learned from Robert:

The Guy’s Guy: the New Male standard. According to Robert, the ideal male for our new generation is the Guy’s Guy. He has a complementary blend of traits including casual confidence, unassuming strength, seductive integrity, and timeless style. He also highly respects women (and himself), and he has emotional intelligence—he knows how to manage his feelings and relate to the feelings of others. The Guy’s Guy is a strong man—he’s not a wimp—but he is also sensitive and empathetic to the concerns of women. He is a fun guy that both men and women like and want to be around.

How to be a Successful Single Guy’s Guy. Robert instructs men on how to succeed in the competitive singles dating world. He tells men to pay attention to the woman (her preferences), practice dating etiquette (tip well, don’t drink too much, don’t overtalk), be a gentleman (open doors if she prefers it; text to make sure she got home safely; respect her sexual boundaries). Also, if you find yourself in the “friend zone,” be patient. Over time, she may find you more attractive and a romantic relationship can ensue. If not, you can always benefit from having a friend. However, you also need to realize when it’s time to move on romantically—don’t keep investing your emotional and romantic energy in someone who is not interested in you. Love yourself and find someone who loves you in the same way.

How to be a Successful Married Guy’s Guy. Before tying the knot, the Guy’s Guy needs to ask several important questions: 1. Am I ready to commit? 2. What do I visualize in my future with this person—can I fulfill their expectations as well as my own by being together? Do they make me laugh? Are we compatible in the areas of values, children, sex, money, politics, and religion/spirituality? Do I want to grow old with them—remembering that looks fade, but inner beauty lasts forever. Robert shares that he was happily single for many years living in New York City. One day, he was with his Italian family, and they asked him for the umpteenth time, “Robert, when are you going to get married?” On this occasion, he said, “Next year.” They asked him, “Who is it?” He replied “No one yet.” However, within the year he was engaged and married to his lovely wife. The secret: He had decided to “Make room in my heart for someone special in my life.” Once he made that mental commitment to find lasting love and get married, he created an open space for that beautiful person who became his wife to appear in his life.

According to Robert, the new Guy’s Guy can be male or female. Regardless of gender the Guy’s Guy is a quality person who is confident, kind, respectful, fun, and loving. The key to being a true Guy’s Guy is to love yourself, others, and a higher nature, without expectation. With this mindset, you won’t expect anything in return when you love because you already have loving energy inside you. You can give as much loving energy as you want because you have more love where that came from. In a practical way, strive every day to extend your loving energy outwardly to others and the Universe. Smile at others, be kind and helpful, listen attentively and empathetically. As you become a more loving person, you will find yourself attracting the love you desire, and you will eventually meet the soul mate of your dreams.

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In our turbulent and conflict-ridden world, you may ask yourself: If God exists, why does God allow all of the bad and evil things to happen in the world? We learned some fascinating answers in our interview with Neale Donald Walsh, modern day spiritual messenger and NY Times Bestselling author of the Conversations with God series. In our enlightening discussion, Neale shared his wisdom about the God Solution based on his latest book, The God Solution: The Power of Pure Love. According to Neale, by re-envisioning God as a God of Pure Love, your life can change instantly. Here’s what we learned:

*God is Pure Love. Many religious/spiritual traditions talk about God as love. Yet, in a deeper sense, God is Pure Love, or unconditional love. Known by different terms—Bhakti (devotion), Karuna (compassion), or Agape (unconditional love), this Pure Love is constantly expressed by God, and is always within us since we were created in the image of God. God simply loves to create, and God wants to empower all sentient beings to create what they wish to experience. This type of Pure Love is one with no strings attached. Just like we love our small child, no matter what, God loves us in the same way. Although we make mistakes and act human, God understands that and still loves us. With this knowledge, you can stop beating yourself up for mistakes and regrets—recognizing that you are a special child of divinity who is made up of Pure Love.

*Forgiveness is not necessary at the highest level. At a certain beginner’s level of spiritual development, forgiveness can be useful. Someone close to you is hurt by your actions, and they feel better when you say, “I’m sorry.” Yet, at a higher spiritual level, forgiveness is not necessary. If someone hurts you emotionally or physically (they said a cruel thing), they may hurt your ego, but they cannot hurt your soul or spirit. Similarly, if you engaged in a self-destructive habit or addiction, you may have hurt your mental, emotional, or physical state, but you can never hurt your everlasting spirit or soul. What you need at this point is understanding—a deep knowledge of how you are hurting yourself so you can stop doing it and take better care of yourself. Once you fully understand yourself and others, you don’t need to forgive or be forgiven. It’s like a grandpa who is at the dinner table about to eat a delicious piece of apple pie made by mom. The 4-year-old is so eager to give grandpa a piece of her pie that she accidentally spills milk on grandpa. Grandpa doesn’t need to forgive the four year-old because he understands that she acted like a four-year-old. He would only comfort her when she cried. In the same way we can comfort those who act like immature children because they don’t know any better. Our understanding leads to empathy—putting ourselves in their shoes—and to Pure Love.

*Every act is an act of love, even bad and evil actions. People do everything for love, even bad and self-destructive acts based on misguided love. A car thief loves a car so much that he will try to steal it, even though he knows doing so could cost his freedom. A drug addict loves the feeling they receive when they partake in their addiction. The key to joy and happiness is to redirect your love to the Higher Nature (God, spirit) so that your life will be filled with Pure Love (unconditional). Every day, strive to build up your reservoir of Pure Love. Read spiritual materials, listen to self-help podcasts or videos, practice meditation, and engage in acts of Loving Kindness: smile at others, listen empathetically, and help those who are needy, disadvantaged, or lonely. When you extend loving energy without expectation on a daily basis, you build up a habit of Pure Love. With Pure Love in your mind and heart, you cannot be hurt by the actions of others or by the random events of the world. You simply overflow with a positive and benevolent energy that only wants to give, love, serve, and grow. You can never lose when you live from the mind of Pure Love.

*Always ask yourself: How would God respond? When you face obstacles and challenges in the world, you may be tempted to react with fear, sadness, regret, or anger. Someone cuts you off on the road, and you feel like exploding with anger. At this moment, you need to ask yourself how God would react here. Since God is Pure Love, God would understand and empathize with the inconsiderate driver. Perhaps, they are rushing to the hospital to see their dying elderly parent or injured child, and that is why they are driving that way. Or, maybe they’re just having a bad day and can’t help themselves from driving this way. When you start to see people from their point of view, and treat them as they would like to be treated, suddenly your world changes. You now feel connected and united to others as division and conflicts fall away. You realize that others are just like you—they fear, they hope; they get angry, they love; they live; they die; they grow and they learn. Since you see yourself in others, you will no longer feel a need to fight, envy, or hate. If you love yourself, you love others; if you love others, you love yourself. Since God can only respond with Pure Love, and you are an individualized aspect of God, the Creator, then you can only respond with Pure Love. Always remember that Pure Love is your solution to all that ails you and the world.

When Neale was facing a quintuple bypass heart surgery and was being wheeled into the surgery room, he had only one thought: “Either way, it’s OK.” If he lived, he would be happy; if he died, he would be with God. In this moment of realization, he understood the power of God’s Pure Love. As a result, he was inspired to write a new book to spread his message of healing and inspiration to others who are also facing pain, uncertainty, and suffering.

Neale leaves us with four powerful questions you should ask yourself every day:

Who am I? Think about how you define your nature, your core essence. Is it Pure Love, or is it something else (envy, fear, regret, or anger)?
Where am I? Consider where you are in life right now: in your job, relationship, living environment, and lifestyle. Maybe you feel stuck in a bad career or marriage. Perhaps you’re unhappy with your lifestyle or health habits. Or, you’re not satisfied with your spiritual or philosophical practice. Take an inventory of yourself and your life today.
Why am I here? Think about all of the actions you took that lead you to where you are now. Perhaps, you didn’t listen to your gut instinct about that relationship, career, or financial choice. You knew better but you still fell for that bad habit, self-defeating action, or unhealthy relationship.
What do I intend to do about this? Think of your options to change your life. Maybe you will get marriage counseling; leave a bad career, start a business, or travel; begin a new spiritual practice; give more to others and extend loving energy to the world; say goodbye to toxic people and find those who harmonize with your authentic nature. In your plan to transform your life, think of ways you can align yourself with the Pure Love and creativity of God so you can fulfill your greatest potential as a happy and productive human being.

Live with Pure Love today, and you will manifest the power of God in your heart and soul. Despite any obstacles and problems you may face, everything in your life will be brighter and more joyful. Enjoy.

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Are you born to win? Although you may have your doubts at times, the answer from the Universe is a resounding “Yes.” As a soul in the human container known as a body, you have been given certain gifts by virtue of being a child of the Higher Nature (God/spirit/nature). Your “brand”—your unique mission statement—is your sacred opportunity to intersect with the people you care about and to express your authentic nature. On Love University (loveuniversity.love, https://apple.co/2KMhRbe), we had the pleasure of welcoming Amber Lilyestrom, Marketing Dream Guru and Mamapreneur (www.amberlilyestrom.com) as she shared her secrets for finding your soul’s calling and creating success in your money, business, and personal life. Let’s take a look at some of her insights:

*Find your soul’s purpose in the space between. While delivering her child, Amber had a near death experience—she couldn’t breathe. She left her body momentarily and saw her loved ones gathered around. When she surrendered to her Higher Nature, she came back into her body and asked herself the question: What would I want to hear at my eulogy—on the day of my funeral? She realized that “Sports marketer” was not enough. She wanted to be an inspirer, dream creator, visionary author and speaker, as well as a mother and family woman. In the same way, ask yourself what you want to hear at your eulogy and what would be said now if you died today. If you are not happy with where your life is now, decide to change today. Change careers, start a business, find true love, travel, help humanity. Instead of struggling and chasing to live a life that does not reflect your soul’s purpose, relax, slow down, and meditate; find your big vision in the space between your efforts. By taking a self-inventory with the eulogy exercise, you will be surprised at the clarity you can gain about your life mission and what you want to accomplish while you are still alive in your body.

*Master your money mind. Your money mind is a conglomeration of all the thoughts and feelings you have ever had about money, wealth, and prosperity. You may have inherited negative money messages from your parents, peers, or teachers while growing up: “Money doesn’t grow on trees,” “Too little money, too much work,” or “It’s too expensive.” By incorporating the negative money voices of others into your mind, you may develop a “poverty mentality” in which you fear that you will never have enough money in life, and you and money will never get along. Or, you could develop an obsession or worship of money in which you think that money will solve all your problems (it won’t). The right approach is to develop a “wealth mentality”—to recognize all of the abundance of resources in the universe, including money, love, creativity, health, and goodwill. At the same time, you can decide to have a creative, instead of a competitive mindset, in which you realize that all of us have unique talents and abilities, and there is enough money and resources to go around for everyone. All you need to do is find your unique niche in the world, your creativity and talent, and expand it—do what you love to do and the money and resources will come to you in abundance and ever-growing quantities. Then, use that money and resources to help yourself, your family, and your community—making the world a better and more loving place along the way.

*Try softer. Many times, we struggle, chase, and work too hard. You may be the type of person who is known as a perfectionist or workaholic—always trying to cram even more into an ever- decreasing day. Or, you may be someone who feels lethargic and unmotivated—you tried before to succeed in finances, career, and love, but you failed. Now you feel there is no use in trying anymore because you have only tasted failure, frustration, and rejection in the past. The good news is that there is a middle way—a path of balance—known as “effortless effort.” Recognized in Eastern approaches as “going with the flow” or “uniting with the energy force (Ki or Chi energy), effortless effort means that you will exert effort toward your goal but you will not be attached to your goal. Instead of chasing and struggling toward certain goals, you will relax and stop trying so hard. You will pray, meditate, and think about your Higher Nature—God, nature, spirit—and ask your Higher Nature to guide you toward the right direction in your life, in the areas of finances, career, relationships, health, and lifestyle. Just like the lilies of the field who are beautifully clothed but don’t think about their life, you will relax and accept the goodness, love, and peace that the Higher Nature has to offer you—naturally and without strain and effort. You will still work diligently and have discipline to achieve your objectives, but you will no longer worry and fret about the outcome. With your new relaxed, yet focused mindset, you will attract many of the wonderful blessings you desire, including lasting love with a soul mate, family and children, loyal friends, a great career, abundance in finances and resources, and wonderful life experiences. The world is yours when you relax into the true power of your Higher Nature.

*Extend loving energy without expectation. We live in a world of fear, doubt, and “What if.” On a daily basis, we are bombarded with negative news that start with phrases such as “What if (something terrible or bad happened)—the result is that our nerves are on edge and we are fearful for our future and the future of our children and their children. In this world of fear, we have an antidote: it is called Loving Energy without expectation. To love without expecting anything in return is the most powerful force in the Universe. It has been called many things by different traditions: Agape (unconditional love), Bhakti (devotion), and Karuna (compassion). When you give love without expecting anything back, you are acting like the Higher Nature—the loving and powerful protector of the Universe. The Higher Nature loves you because you are its creation—and that is all—you don’t have to prove your worth or do anything to earn your place on this earth. In the same way, you can extend loving energy to others without expectation on a daily basis. Smile, say “Hi,” give someone a sincere compliment. Listen empathetically to someone who is hurting. Help a friend with a practical problem. Open the door for someone; help an elderly person cross the street; give to charity; volunteer to help the needy and disadvantaged. The key is that when you help others, you won’t expect anything in return—not even a smile or thank you. You give love because you are love—this love is the natural force that is already inside you and expands itself outwardly. When you extend loving energy without expectation, you will heal yourself, others, and the planet, and you will receive more love in return. In this way, the loving energy becomes an always-expanding cycle that continues even beyond your life on earth.

Yes, you were born for this. “This” means your ability to love, grow, learn, teach, experience, help, and create. You were born for your dream business or career, for your loving soul mate, family, and friends; for your health, prosperity, and happiness. As Amber says, you need to awaken to your soul’s calling and activate your talents for the good of the world. When you do this, you will have momentum (moving forward), magnetism (attracting everything you need) and mastery over your own mind (no more fear and worry). You can create magic in the world because you are the magic that makes fear and problems disappear, and makes love and happiness miraculously appear in your life forevermore.

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Would you like to be rich—financially, emotionally, and spiritually? When you are truly rich, in every sense of the word, you are able to help yourself, your loves ones, and society itself. You can express your true nature and live to the fullest. Yet, the term “riches” or “money” has negative connotations for some people. Some think rich people are greedy, arrogant, or unhappy (not true, wealthy businesspeople are surprisingly well-adjusted). Or they think that they can never enjoy financial security because of a limitation they have (often, it’s their poverty thinking). Here’s the good news: By studying the mindset of happy wealthy people, you can learn some of their secrets for enjoying both financial success and psychological health (love and joy). Money, used rightly, can do many good things for yourself and others. Here are some wealth mentality tips you can apply to your life:

1.Determine your Rich Type. There are different personality types among the rich and wealthy. Maybe you’re a “Thrillionaire”—if you were rich, you would use your money to enjoy the pleasures of life and show off your wealth—travel, enjoy fine dining and entertainment, buy fancy cars, mammoth homes, and expensive items. Or you could be the “Coolionaire”—you want your money to express your artistic tastes and desire for the beautiful—you would decorate your gorgeous house in a most elegant way, including the most prestigious art you can buy. Another possibility: You are the “Realionaire”—you are the realistic, down-to earth rich person (think Warren Buffet) who invests in big things, but is also practical and savings conscious. Your wealth reflects your low key and relaxed nature. Finally, you could be the Wellionaire—someone who uses your money to feel good and do good—contributing to charitable and philanthropic causes to leave the world a better place (consider Bill and Melinda gates and their humanitarian work).

Create a prosperity mental script. Many people grow up with a scarcity or poverty mentality, parroting statements and beliefs they heard growing up: “Money doesn’t grow on trees.” “Too much work, too little money.” Over time, these negativistic, poverty mentality phrases become embedded in your mind, and as an adult, you feel insecure or frustrated about money—you worry that you will never have enough. Yet, there is a better way to think: The Prosperity Mentality—believing that there is an abundance of money and resources in the world—and that you can access the money you need to accomplish your goals and dreams. Start by substituting poverty mental phrases for prosperity thoughts. You can write the new thoughts in a journal, tablet, or computer, or you can put them on your bathroom wall or somewhere you will see them daily. Instead of “Money doesn’t grow on trees,” you will write, “Money grows abundantly from my ability to create good things for others.” Instead of “Too much work, too little money,” you will write, “A lot of love and joy from my work leads to an abundance of money.” As you ingrain these new prosperity thoughts into your mind, you will see that your financial and money endeavors will flourish and you will be more prosperous than ever before.
Think of Money as Loving Energy. In my book, “Invincible You,” I talk about a new way to look at money: as Loving Energy, or Loving Money Energy (LME). When you do something you love for work, you receive money—paper or electronic—as an appreciation (love) of the value of the work you provided. Then, you take that money and you send it to someone else for goods or services—as you spread your gratitude and love for what you are receiving. Seen in this way, money is a form of loving energy that flows and passes from person to person, society to society, to provide goodness and satisfaction to those it touches. Instead of thinking that you have to compete and fight for money, and fearing that you may lose it or not have enough, you realize that loving money energy has no limits and will keep circulating as long as you can utilize your talents for the good of others. For example, when you have a transaction with a merchant or storekeeper, consider that you are creating bonds of cheery affinity with that businessperson. With this mindset, you don’t always have to fight to get the lowest possible price; you may even overpay a little at times—as you realize that you are expressing love to this person by helping them with their finances. Maybe they’re putting a child through college or taking care of their frail elderly parent. Although you want to get your money’s worth, and not be taken advantage of, this way of thinking actually will help you financially in the long-run. The merchant you gave a little extra money to may reciprocate by giving you a great deal on your next transaction. Or others who learn about your generosity will want to do business with you because they see that you are a fair-minded and empathetic person.

Yes, you can be rich—both in the material and spiritual sense. As a creation of the Higher Nature (God, spirit, nature), you are already rich—by virtue of being born into this world and being alive. Every day, remind yourself of the things you are grateful for—your life, family, friends, pets, talents, career, hobbies, experiences, and the world itself. When you do this, you will feel rich internally and you will project that wealth mentality outwardly—as you attract true financial and monetary riches. You will also attract the greatest wealth of all: Love.

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They say beauty is only skin deep, but if it is, what really attracts you to a love partner? Is it primarily someone’s looks, character, personality, faith, beliefs, or financial resources? New research provides insight into the true nature of dating, physical attraction, and long-term relationship success, and reveals interesting truths about how men and women choose to date and mate. Let’s take a look at some of the findings:

*Men and women differ in how good-looking their mate must be. Men tend to prioritize female beauty in choosing a mate, yet will often settle for a less physically attractive partner for both short-term (sex, companionship) and long-term relationships (love, marriage; “She has a good heart”). Women, on the other hand, will not usually get romantically involved with a man they consider physically unattractive—he will stay forever in the “friend zone.” She will usually make sure that she is physically attracted to a man before she allows it to go to the next romantic step.

*Choose a physically less attractive man and be happy for the rest of your life. Research indicates that when a woman marries a man who is not as physically attractive as she is, she will likely be more happy and satisfied in the relationship. A very good-looking man, although desirable, may have more opportunities and desire to cheat or take the woman for granted—or at least she will be jealous toward him. A less physically attractive man may be more devoted and doting to her. Also, research indicates that more masculine men who have a higher level of testosterone may make undesirable mates: 31% of them are likely to have marital problems, 38% are likely to cheat, and 43% of them are likely to get divorced.

*True beauty is within—develop it for yourself and find it in another person. In reality, there are no ugly or unattractive people—we are all beautiful in our own way as creations of a Higher Nature (God, spirit, nature). True beauty consists of inner traits such as compassion, empathy, kindness, gentleness, and patience. Make sure you develop these traits in yourself and find a mate who possesses similar qualities. If you’re already with a partner, both of you can strive to increase your inner beauty together. As you and your partner actualize your inner beauty—including loving each other unconditionally—you will find yourself more attracted to each other in every way: physically, romantically, and spiritually.

It’s true that being physically attractive and in good physical shape—looking and feeling good—is often a great advantage in society and life. Yet, in romantic relationships, looks often fade, but the inner qualities of the person—compassion, empathy, and lovingness—are what remain. After all, it’s your inner beauty that will make you more outwardly beautiful—this is what you should develop in yourself and discover in your love partner. In this way, you can build a love partnership that stands the test of time and leaves a lasting legacy of goodness and contribution for all to see.

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Are you Introvert or shy? Is so, this is becoming your world. Currently, 50% of the population is classified as Introvert (seeking energy within) while 50% are classified as shy (strongly sensitive to the social environment). As technology grows, and people do more things from home, we’re becoming a more internal species—spending a great portion of our time on our technological devices and in our own thoughts.

Introversion and shyness are somewhat different. Introverts have a limited amount of social energy to spend, yet they can be sociable in smaller doses. In fact, they can be very good leaders because they often take the time to listen to people carefully and encourage them to keep improving. A shy person, on the other hand, is an individual who is very sensitive to the environment, and who may have a self-conscious side—worrying that they will be rejected and criticized by others. Although being shy can have its challenges, in my book, The Gift of Shyness (rb.gy/l7zjmm), I talk about the positive traits of the shy person. Shy people are often sensitive, good listeners, reflective, and loyal, among other positive traits. The key for the shy person’s success and happiness is for them to reduce the self-conscious (self-critical) part of their mind while increasing their spontaneous and natural side.

Here are some tips for you to claim your shyness or Introversion as a superpower that you can utilize for your good and the good of others:

If you’re shy:

*Become the Actor. The Actor is the part of your mind that is spontaneous, natural, and confident. Think of your favorite actor—how they act, walk, talk, and dress. Imagine that you are that actor. At home, practice, talking, acting, and walking like them—feeling their confidence and charisma. When you go out socially, imagine that your Actor is alive within you. You are ready to meet any social challenge because you have the Actor inside you as your best companion. In Israeli culture, children are encouraged to have Chutzpah, audacity or social courage—to go for what they want, to speak their mind—without the fear of failure or rejection. Chutzpah is a good skill for shy people to develop—to know that there is nothing to fear when they take a social risk. To develop Chutzpah, keep expressing your actor, the powerful and spontaneous part of you, regardless of how others may react. When you do this, you will eventually find people who resonate with your style and will want to be connected to you in a quality relationship.

*Start with small human exchanges. If you’re shy, you may feel awkward breaking the ice and starting conversations. To become more socially fluent, begin small in your conversational exchanges with others. Start by looking people in the eye, smiling, and saying “Hi,” even if you don’t know them. Progress to making a few observational comments; for example, to a passerby, you can say, “It sure is windy (or sunny) today.” Or, you can try paying a sincere compliment, “That color looks good on you,” when you see someone who looks friendly. Think of each conversational exchange as a social experiment in which you gain more knowledge about human interaction as you grow your conversational muscles. Talk to someone every day and you will get better at it.

*If you’re an Introvert:

*Embrace your internalness. Even before the virus, you may have been the type of person who did things alone—and enjoyed it. Whether it was going out to eat, walking around, or even watching a movie, you enjoyed your alone time—to think, observe, and reflect. At the same time, as an Introvert, you can enjoy the special company of a few long-term, loyal friends. The important thing is for you to embrace your Introvert nature, and don’t wish that you were more Extraverted like a lot of society appears to be (remember they will soon be in the minority). Accept and love yourself as you are—a proud Introvert—and realize that you may not need a lot of people around you, but you can do just fine with a few close friendships. Enjoy your internal nature—that is who you are.

*Manage your energy. As an Introvert, you have a limited amount of social energy. You can even be the life of the party for a certain amount of time: talkative, outgoing, and very social as long as your social energy lasts. At a certain point, however, you will have used up your social gas tank, and you need to get away from the environment to recharge your batteries by yourself (hot tub, anyone?). Therefore, as an Introvert, your best approach is to measure your social energy carefully. You will only say “Yes,” to the social engagements and activities that mean the most to you, while saying "No" to less impactful or meaningful social obligations. As you free up more social energy, you will only participate in social activities and connections that fulfill you and help you become your best self (maybe you join a writer’s or reader’s club).

For both Introvert and Shy people:

*Offer loving energy without expectation. This is one of the greatest secrets of social success: Give loving energy to others without expectation. Help someone with their groceries or opening a door; assist an elderly person cross the street; listen attentively to people when they tell you their problems. Help friends connect with each other. Volunteer for a charitable or humanitarian organization that helps the disadvantaged. When you help people and give love without expecting anything in return, you unleash a tremendous positive power in the universe. Often, even though you weren’t expecting anything in return, people will come out of nowhere to help you. Your life will become more pleasurable and exciting, and you will be happier and more content, when you extend your loving energy to the world because that is who you are inside (love).

As more people are forced to stay home because of the virus, there is a silver lining: We’re learning new ways to connect online: virtual activities, groups, and events; video chatting and video conferencing. At the same time, we’re learning how to value our private, alone time—how to think deeper, understand others and ourselves more thoroughly, and love more deeply. Now we can no longer take the ordinary good things in life for granted—time spent with loved ones at fun outings; the ability to explore the world and see its beauty. Regardless of whether you’re Introvert or Extravert, shy or nonshy, the key to happiness is to embrace your nature and love yourself. When you do that, you can love others and a Higher Nature (God, spirit) with all of your heart and soul. Yes, the world—both inner and outer—can be yours. Enjoy it.

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Imagine if your mom was a drug addict, your dad was a drug dealer, and you had to live on the run in abandoned roach-infested houses—one step away from the law. Or, what if you were tortured and abused by your biological dad for years and then later learned that you mom had committed suicide when you thought she had been killed in an accident. These are the true stories of Justin and Alexis Black, an amazing young married couple who overcame foster care, horrid abuse, neglect, and obstacles to graduate from college and become inspirational leaders for youth throughout America. On Love University, we were honored to hear their stories and how they came together to form a “Love Power” couple who are inspiring millions of youth through their speaking and writing (Redefining Normal: How Two Foster Kids Beat The Odds and Discovered Healing, Happiness, and Love: www.re-definingnormal.com). Here are some of the lessons we learned for overcoming abuse and trauma from Alexis and Justin:

*Be intentional and love yourself first. Before they could come together as a young happily married couple, Justin and Alexis had to heal their own wounds. Through group and individual therapy, they learned that they had value and were worthy of love. Loving themselves first before they could fully love their partner became an important element of their mental health recovery. Part of being emotionally healthy is to be aware of your triggers—the things that remind you of your past pain and trauma. Through awareness of what reactivates the pain, says Alexis and Justin, you can have clear communication with your partner and establish boundaries and respect so that mutual healing can take place in a safe and nurturing love environment.

*Let go of the past of those who hurt you. After being abused and betrayed by her biological dad for years, Alexis had thoughts of killing him. One night she had a knife and was looking at the back of his head, but she didn’t do it. Although she felt suicidal and was hospitalized later on, she never gave up hope. One of the things that helped her was a beautiful song by Gospel singer, Kirk Franklin, “Imagine Me,” which says, “Imagine me letting go of all the ones who hurt me ‘Cause they never did deserve me…Because of your love, fear’s gone away. Can you imagine me?” Although she experienced terrible things at the hands of her biological father, she has been able to move forward from the pain and leave it in the past. Likewise, Justin has begun to forgive his dad who let down his family many times, and now they are rebuilding their relationship. Forgiveness is not just for the one who did you harm, but for your own healing. It’s for liberating yourself from the memory chains to the person who hurt you; it’s for forgiving yourself for the past and looking forward to a bright and hopeful future.

*Find love in the Higher. One of the things that saved Justin and Alexis from even more despair and even death was their Christian faith. Believing in a higher Nature or cause (God, spirit, destiny) is one of the most powerful aids in overcoming trauma and pain to live a loving and fearless life. Justin quotes one of his favorite passages from Psalms 23: “The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want…. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life.” When he was young, Justin says he looked up to drug dealers who gave him money; they seemed to have all the success, but were really failures in life. His drug-addicted/drug-dealing parents were also not good “shepherds” or guides. The one guide who never let him down, according to Justin, was God, whose love is always faithful, kind, patient, and forgiving. Regardless of your religious or spiritual background, having a belief in something higher than yourself –a benevolent and loving force that doesn’t let you down—is an important part of psychological healing and recovery. As Justin and Alexis believe, “Humans can let you down, but God never does. He will find a way for you in His own way.”

*Create your new “better normal.” The title of Alexis’s and Justin’s Book is Redefining Normal. In their past, their normal was defined by sexual and physical abuse, domestic violence, teen pregnancy drug abuse, poverty, aggression, and fear. Their advice is to create a “Better Normal”—raise your expectations for yourself and those you love; reverse the cycle of fear, violence, and negativity that plagues you, your family, and your community. One way to do this is by finding positive role models—mentors who can help guide you to live a more elevated and positive life. Justin found successful black professionals in his college mentoring program who had higher expectations for him than he had for himself. Alexis found a loving foster family who adopted her at age 26 and loved her unconditionally. She changed her “old normal” concept of “Love Hurts” to “Love heals, feels good, and is healthy.” Once you have raised your own standard of mental well-being, your calling is to become a healthy and positive role model for others, as Justin and Alexis are doing. This helps to create a cycle of love and emotional excellence in place of the old downward cycle of fear, despair, and failure.

Although the love and transformation story of Justin and Alexis is unique and beautiful, it is not the only one that exists. Others have overcome trauma and pain to live healthy and loving lives, and so can you. Follow the path of Justin and Alexis and be intentional about loving yourself, let go of the past of those who hurt you, find a Higher Nature love, and create your “Better normal.” If you do these things, you will be able to overcome the emotional chains that bound you and achieve your dreams of love, joy, and contribution.

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Are you burned out at work? On top of the stress and turmoil of the current worldwide virus situation, many workers are increasingly burned out in their jobs and careers—stressed-out, overwhelmed, disillusioned, and detached. If that sounds like you, practice the following strategies to recapture your energy, positivity, and sense of accomplishment:

*Take a technology fast. In our rapid 24 hour-7-days a week technology-obsessed society, it is rare to find a relaxed time when you’re not checking your phone or devices for texts, emails, phone messages, social media, or news. Although technology can be useful in many ways, all of the input into your mind can overwhelm you and add to your feeling of being burned out and stressed-out. To counteract this, take a technology fast: Turn off your phone and other devices for a period of time—maybe an hour or several hours. This will give you an opportunity to relax and recharge your batteries so you can get back to work with a refreshed mind.

*Spend time with positive energy friends. Emotional contagion is the phenomena which occurs when people affect each other’s moods. You can walk into a room of nervous and gloomy people and start to feel the same way. Or, you can associate with positive and uplifting people, and you begin to feel more cheery and optimistic. Therefore, it’s important that you choose to spend time with friends and family members who support you with a positive and helpful energy. These are the people who help you relax, de-stress, and enjoy the lighter moments of life.

*Do the things you love. When you’re burned out, you may work so much that you neglect to do the things you really enjoy—the activities that bring you pleasure and joy. Think of the things you love to do, but haven’t done much of lately: Spending quality time with family and friends, being in nature, doing a fun or creative activity or hobby; exercising, or engaging in a spiritual or meditative practice. The more you go back to your “passion spot”—doing the things that uplift you to be your best—the less stressed and burned out you will feel, and the more motivation and passion you will have to do the work you need to do.

*Give loving energy without expectations. One of the greatest secrets of peace and joy is to “Give loving energy without expectations.” This means that you will smile at other people and say “Hi,” do small favors (open a door), help needy people, listen attentively with empathy and compassion, and serve the needs of others. When you give love to others in this way, you won’t expect anything in return—a favor, approval, or even acknowledgement. You will simply express your loving energy because that is who you are inside. Moreover, the more you extend love without expectation, the more loving and powerful you will be because your love regenerates from the inside. You will feel refreshed and recharged when your loving energy leads the way.

Yes, you can beat burnout. If you take a technology fast, spend time with positive energy friends, do the things you love, and give love without expectations, you can defeat stress, worry, and the feeling of being overwhelmed. At the same time, you will have renewed energy, motivation, and optimism. You will feel more content, and you will accomplish greater things, when you have a refreshed and positive outlook on your work and life. Now it’s your turn: Make sure you practice the burnout-busting techniques we just discussed so you can enjoy a week that is filled with relaxation, accomplishment, and good feelings. Enjoy.

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Gandhi once said, “Where there is love, there is life.” Love is the marvelous special ingredient that makes life worth living. It comes in many forms: Love of self, love of work, love of others, and love of a Higher Nature (God/spirit). When you have love in your life, you live with peace, joy, and contribution—knowing that you are fulfilling your potential and making a positive difference in the world. Our guests on Love University, Dean Warren and Isabele Hazan, married podcasters (URlife.live) and world travelers, offered us insight into the nature of love, health, and happiness. Here are some of the things we learned.

*Practice the four pillars of healthy living. In Ayurvedic thought, we learn the four pillars of excellent health: Good Sleep, Good Nutrition, Movement, and Silence (Emotional Wellness). When you sleep peacefully, eat the right things, move your body, and take time out for contemplation, you enjoy a healthier and happier life. Consider your body a sacred temple that houses your spirit, your very essence. Before you go to bed, practice a relaxation ritual—put away all of your technological devices and sit or lie quietly—praying, meditating, or focusing on a pleasant image or memory. Throughout the day, make sure you take time out to eat slowly and put healthy ingredients into your body. Also, move your body—whether it’s through formal exercise at a gym, walking, or stretching. Finally, start and end your day with silence as you become aware of your thoughts and calm your “Monkey Mind,” the chattering thoughts and worries that fill your mind throughout the day. Each day aim to maintain peace, calmness, and love in everything you do.

*Recognize your energy style: All of us have different energy styles according to Ayurvedic tradition. If you are Vata, your primary element is air. You are a spontaneous and light person who is fast-moving, but may be prone to agitation. In my LoveTypes (personality compatibility) system, you are known as an “Excitement Seeker”—you crave novelty, stimulation, and excitement. If you are Pitta, your main element is fire, and you desire power and knowledge—to learn, learn, create and improve. In the LoveTypes system, you are known as a “Knowledge Seeker”—you value competence, knowledge, science, technology, and innovation. Finally, you may be Kaffa—your main element is earth. You are the practical, realistic, concrete, and grounded person. In LoveTypes, you are known as a “Security Seeker”—you value security, family, tradition, responsibility, and commitment. Of course, you could have a combination of more than one type, although generally you have a primary energy style that you use on a daily basis. Once you know your energy style, you can select the people and activities that best resonate with your nature, and you can plan your work and daily activities based on your particular strength. For example, a Vata person would likely want to choose a career that offers them maximum flexibility and spontaneity, while a Kaffa individual may prefer a more structured 9 to 5 job with good benefits and long-term security.

*Love yourself so you can love others. People who are natural givers and caretakers often burn out because they may give all they have to help others at the cost of their personal health and happiness. Although it’s wonderful to be giving and loving to others, it’s important that you practice self-care and recharge your batteries; get adequate exercise, eat healthy, enjoy recreational and social time, and participate in a spiritual or meditative practice. Remember that the more you love yourself—in a healthy, not egotistical way—the more you can love and give to others. On a daily basis, make sure you replenish your inner psychological plate—feed yourself with self-compassion and self-care—so you can fill the emotional plate of others with your practical help, empathy, compassion, and love. Remember: You can only give to others what you already have inside.

Dean and Isabel married late in life and are now in their 50’s. Their goal is to be healthy and happy together, enjoying another 50 years of life as a united couple. By focusing on improving your health—spiritual, physical, and emotional—you, too, can live a longer and happier life as you contribute to the world and leave behind a legacy of love and contribution.

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Are you addicted to love? For some people, being in love is like a drug—a high they constantly yearn for. Like a drug, being in love can elevate you to a pleasurable state of mind, and then bring you down—leaving you with feelings of pain and withdrawal. When you first fall in love, certain brain chemicals such as dopamine are released in your brain. After a period of time with your love partner, the chemicals will tend to go away. When this happens, you may find that you’re with someone who is totally wrong for you, even though you had great chemistry in the beginning.

Now it’s your turn: Take the Love Addiction Quiz and find out if you’re addicted to romantic love.

Do you think about your love partner all of the time?
Do you have a very strong longing for them when you’re not with them?
Do you feel dependent on them—you have to get multiple texts or calls from them to feel good about your day?
Do you have an intense fear that they will leave you or reject you?
Do you have physical symptoms when you think about your love mate, including shortness of breath, fast heart rate, and excessive sweating?
Do you focus so intently on your love partner that everything else, including your career, family, and friends, fades into the background?
Do you see only your partner’s good qualities and ignore (or don’t see) any of their bad traits?

If you scored 4 out of 7 on the quiz, you may be love-addicted. Although most romantic relationships begin with a honeymoon stage, in which most of the above elements are present, some people have these traits for a longer period of time (and more intensely) than others. In psychological terms, this is known as Limerence—a type of obsession or infatuation with a love partner that has some features often found in other forms of addiction (substance, gambling, etc.).

Although there is no formally recognized disorder known as "Love Addiction,” it is an interesting phenomena to examine, especially if you feel like you may have some or all of the traits described above. The good news is that there are remedies you can use to get yourself out of a love-obsessed mindset so you can have a balanced and healthy love relationship. Stay tuned to our next blog on “How to Cure Yourself of Love Addiction.”

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In a world of turmoil and strife, we need more laughter in our lives and our relationships. Married couples who laugh together tend to stay together and are happier. Moreover, it’s possible to marry your enemy and keep the joy alive. These are some of the fun and fascinating tidbits we learned on Love University from our good friend, Bob Eckstein (bobeckstein.com), award-winning illustrator and cartoonist (“All’s Fair in Love and War”). Bob brightened our day and enlightened us on how to bring more laughter, joy, and love into our everyday life. Here is what we learned:

*Humor is a turn-on. Research shows that women are more attracted, and have more sexual satisfaction, when they’re with men who make them laugh. Moreover, when wives used humor in the relationship, and it lowered their husband’s heart rate, their marriage had more stability and satisfaction. Also, the key is not whether the couple share the same type of humor (slapstick, wordplay), but whether they create humor together through their shared life experiences. Overall, humor is seen as a sign of intelligence, creativity, and fun—making the humorous person a more attractive and desirable mate. Santa Claus was reaching for his wife in bed, and she said: “Take a shower first; you smell like chimney.”

*Humor gives us perspective. When you are hurting and in pain, humor and laughter can be the balm that soothes you. Taking a difficult and painful situation, and turning it on its head, gives you the comforting feeling that “Everything will be OK.” Research shows that wartime survivors with a sense of humor report lower levels of PTSD after experiencing wartime trauma. Also, singles who suffer from dating difficulties can have a good laugh and feel better about their experiences. Two panda bears were in a room together—one said to another: “Look, until there’s a Tinder for pandas, we have to meet the old-fashioned way: being locked in a room together by scientists.”

*Look for the inner beauty. When Bob was in school, he was in art class with a young lady who was very competitive with him. He says they were competitive enemies and couldn’t stand each other. Twelve years later, they were invited by mutual friends to a funeral, and they fell in love and eloped. The turning point, says Bob, was when he saw her good heart—she volunteered for “Meals on Wheels” –a program bringing meals to people who need them. Her inner beauty is what sealed the deal. When it comes to choosing a potential friend or love partner, therefore, it’s a good idea to place importance on their inner goodness—compassion, optimism, kindness—more than their surface charm or looks. Their inner qualities are what will last in a long-term friendship or love partnership. One snail was talking to another as they looked at a tape dispenser. The snail said: “I know she’s a tape dispenser, but I love her.”

Things can’t get any worse but they can get funnier. Laughter is contagious and uplifting. You can walk into a room full of gloomy people, and if you can make them laugh, they will be grateful to you. To sharpen your funny bone, keep a funny notebook. Write down things that bug you or make you curious about people, and turn it into a humorous joke or story. Watch funny videos, shows, movies, or stand-up by yourself (or with your love partner), and note the things that make you laugh. Practice your humor with your love partner and close friends and family members. Then, try it out with acquaintances and even strangers. Have a “Laughter Party” in which you get a group of friends together and just start laughing for no reason. Do it for about 5-10 minutes and you will see an immediate uplift of everyone’s mood. You don’t need a reason to laugh—just laugh. Research shows that you release pleasure brain chemicals (dopamine) when you laugh, even if there’s nothing particularly funny to laugh at. Two rats are speaking to an auditorium with hundreds of rats. One of them says, “Your father and I have decided to explain why we’ve decided to part.” Imagine the child support for all of them.

Remember to laugh and look at the humorous side of life every day. Doing so will elevate your mood, make you sexier and more attractive, and improve your relationships. Best of all, laughter and humor is a great gift you can give to yourself and others—the comforting feeling that “Life will be just fine. I can make it through this.” After all, the timeless phrase is true: “Laugh and the whole world laughs with you.”

Note: All humor excerpted from Bob Eckstein’s (editor) “All’s Fair in Love and War: The Ultimate Cartoon Book” (Princeton Architectural Press, 2020)

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Did you know that helping others without expectation, also known as Altruism, can boost your happiness and success? Research shows that when you help others—smile, hold open a door, volunteer, listen with empathy—you will tend to have reduced stress, greater mental well-being, less physical illness, and even a longer life. Not only that, but when you help others, it becomes contagious and others “pay it forward”—creating a society of giving people who help each other and spread loving energy. In times of trouble and turmoil, giving is often the best remedy to what ails us. Here are some ways you can become more altruistic and create a positive impact in your life and the lives of others:

*Increase your empathy. Empathy is when you put yourself in the shoes of another—when you see life as they see it; feel life as they feel it. Empathy is a beautiful thing. In fact, the more empathetic you are, the more altruistic you are likely to be. The more you see another person’s point of view, their joys and suffering, the more you will want to help them. Try this: On a daily basis, ask people questions about their life dreams and what bothers them (and what makes them happy)—listen carefully to their answers. Maybe that waitress you see regularly tells you that she is a single mom who is struggling at working two jobs to make ends meet. Perhaps, your car mechanic confides that he is a devoted son who is caring for his dying elderly parents. Put yourself in the mindset of others, and you will have a stronger desire to help them and relieve their suffering, also known as having compassion.

*Give what you do best. If you want to volunteer for a charitable or humanitarian cause or organization, give based on your best talent. If you’re not good at working with your hands, then perhaps helping to build a house for homeless people may not be the best use of your talents. But, if you’re good with numbers or words, you can help with the organization’s needs for accounting or writing press releases. Think about your best skill and give that to others. You may be a good writer, teacher, organizer, or caretaker; maybe you’re good with numbers or working with your hands. Whatever your skills or talent is, donate that to help others. You will feel better when you give something you’re good at, and you will be more effective in giving something of value to others.

*Imagine giving love without expectation. Try this exercise: Imagine that you are smiling and giving loving energy to the most beloved person(s) in your life, perhaps your spouse or children. See them smiling and laughing—expressing joy and love to you in return. Next imagine smiling with love toward your close friends, acquaintances, and even strangers. Visualize them smiling and laughing as they send joy and positive energy your way. As you do this, you will start to fill your heart with joyful and loving energy, and you will be more inspired and motivated to help others.

*Help one person each day. Now go out and help people—strive to help at least one person every day. Your altruistic act can be as small as smiling, holding open a door, or paying someone a sincere compliment. Perhaps, you will give advice, money, energy, or time. Or you can offer one of the greatest gifts of all: Listening with love and acceptance to someone who is in pain. Your loving and accepting presence may be exactly what they need for their healing process to begin.

Remember: the more altruistic you are—the more you give to others without expecting anything in return—the stronger and more loving you will become. You will realize that you have an abundance of love and energy to give, and you will find that the universe will often reciprocate and give back to you great benefits in the form of love and material and spiritual help, as well as favorable circumstances. It’s simple: All the world loves a giver, and the giver loves all the world. Start today and join the Love University Altruism Team of loving individuals. Decide that you will make a positive difference every day of your life and you will have everything you need.

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You can be happy, despite the circumstances. No matter how much you have suffered in the past, you can learn now to be happy as a consistent habit. All you have to do is learn 3 time-tested, research-proven secrets of happiness: They are:

*Gratitude: Be thankful for the good that comes to you—from your loved ones, the Higher Nature, even strangers (help you on the side of the road). Keep a gratitude journal and write down three things you're grateful for every day: Your life, family, friends, career, hobbies, talents and interests; for the air, sunshine, birds, and trees—everything you can think of. Research shows that keeping a gratitude journal increases your happiness by 30% and improves your sleep by 40%. Try it this week and notice the difference in your daily mood.

*Joyful Optimism: Optimism comes from the root word, “Optimus,”—"the best." When you are optimistic, you expect the best; you anticipate that things will work out well for you; you feel that “I am going to be OK.” Research shows that optimistic people are also luckier in life. They’re more likely to win the lottery, make money in business deals, pick the right love partner and friends, and make the best health and financial decisions. Because they are more open to experience, and can turn problems into possibilities, they are more flexible, motivated, and perseverant. As a result, they usually get better results and are happier.

*Forgiveness: Forgiveness erases the pain of your past. When you forgive others for wrongs committed against you, you liberate yourself from resentment, anger, and hatred. Although you may have nothing more to do with those who hurt you, you are forgiving them so you can be mentally free of them and the harms they committed against you. By doing this, you can move on with your life with a free and positive mind. Although you may be able to forgive others, one of the hardest things to do is to forgive yourself—for your flaws, mistakes, and blunders. You are probably your harshest critic. Start today to forgive yourself for all of your real or imagined errors. Realize that there is no need to regret your past mistakes. The truth is that you can only act at your current level of psychological awareness. When you’re in 6th grade, you make 6th grade mistakes; now that you’re in college (higher level of psychological development), you won’t make the same mistakes. Resolve that you will learn from your errors and grow as a human being—looking forward, not backward, to a bright and promising future.

There you have it: Practice the 3 Secrets of Happiness today and live with joy and success. Let us know your results by writing to us at loveuniversitylove@gmail.com. To get your copy of the 3 Secrets of Happiness go to Amazon at shorturl.at/mwD89. We welcome your success stories.

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In our world of turmoil and strife, we need more positivity; more miracles, more loving energy—to lighten our minds and lift our spirits. Recently, Wendell Miracle, happiness influencer and author, appeared on Love University and inspired us with his story of triumph over tragedy. Born in The Philippines, when Wendell became a US citizen he decided to change his last name to “Miracle” because he wanted to be an inspiration to many suffering people worldwide. After losing his beloved mother to breast cancer, and being broke and suicidal, Wendell transformed his life by giving to others through his inspirational pieces of advice, Hope Nuggets (#hopenuggets) on Instagram. Here are some of the Hope Nuggets we discussed on the show:

Gratitude is your magic elixir. Research shows that keeping a gratitude journal—writing three things you’re grateful for every day—can reduce your depression by 30% and improve your sleep by 40%. When Wendell wakes up each morning, he gives thanks for two gifts—his eyes—and then proceeds to list all of the things he’s grateful for: his bed, toothpaste, car, life, friends, family, health, career, spirituality, and so on. As a result, he feels constantly blessed and joyful. If you’re feeling down, start a Gratitude Journal and write down all of the things that you’re grateful for, starting with your life, loved ones, and so forth. When you bring more gratitude into your life on a consistent basis, you will uplift your mood and reclaim your spirit of positivity.
Use generosity as a reversal to eradicate feelings of deprivation and sadness. When you’re feeling sad or lonely, and engaging in self-pity, there is a sure-fire solution: Go out and help people, be generous, and give them what you believe you are lacking. If you’re lonely and want love, find the loneliest person in the room and cheer them up with loving energy. If you’re lacking finances, give time or money to a charity or a needy person. Being generous when you feel you have nothing to give will transform your mindset—from a mentality of lack and scarcity to one of glorious abundance. When you give loving energy to others, you realize that you already have love inside you. After all, you can’t give something you don’t already have. If you are short of money, yet give money or practical resources to others, you start to stimulate a prosperity mindset in yourself. You begin to believe that there is enough money to go around. You will understand how the world is an abundant place where there is constant growth: there can always be more money, more creativity, and more love.
Love and forgive yourself. You may be able to forgive others, but you probably find it difficult to forgive yourself—for your mistakes, inadequacies, and weaknesses. Yet, one of the most important elements of success and happiness is to be compassionate with yourself—to love yourself enough to forgive your past errors and blunders. When you are self-compassionate you accept yourself as you are—with your strengths and weaknesses. You also realize that you can contribute a great deal to the world if you utilize your Don—your God/nature-given talent or gift—to help others. It’s also important that you take good care of your physical, emotional, and spiritual needs—don’t neglect your health just to get more work done or to meet other people’s expectations. On a regular basis, take time for self-care. Get a massage or facial, spend time with loved ones, do your favorite hobby, engage in an exercise or spiritual practice; take a break from working too hard and just relax. When you love and take care of yourself, you will have more energy and ability to love and help others. In fact, the most selfless thing you can do is to nurture and reenergize yourself so you're able to redirect your loving and nurturing energy outwardly to others.
Say “I am” and follow it with great things. The words “I am” are very powerful. What follows them can determine your greatness or futility in life. When you say, “I am sick,” “I am ugly,” “I am poor,” or “I am unloved,” you will plant these self-defeating thoughts in your mind, and you will tend to act accordingly: Sick, unattractive, poor, and unloved. On the other hand, when you add powerful and uplifting words to the “I am” sentence, you will be uplifted and encouraged. You will say, “I am healthy.” “I am rich—both materially and spiritually.” I am loved.” When you speak positives after “I am” your entire mindset changes—from futility to success; from scarcity to abundance; from fear and doubt to love and optimism. The sky is the limit when you add powerful statements of success, love, and happiness to “I am.”
Do your car dance daily. Wendell shared one of his secrets of success—he became the top 1% salesman in his company by doing one simple thing daily: the Car Dance. In the morning after his prayers, Wendell gets into his car and starts dancing and celebrating as if he just had the best sales day of his life. Wendell has a great time dancing to his favorite songs as he imagines the success he has already had during the day. With his car dance, Wendell fine-tunes his mental antenna to receive only positive messages during the day. Although there are days when the sales don’t come, and success seems distant, he still celebrates with the car dance. He knows that his faith and confidence will be rewarded. He trusts in the goodness of life and his Higher Nature to bring him the results he needs as long as he "Keeps dancing.”

Now it’s your turn to have a magical week. Try out the tips we discussed, and you will see how bright and successful your life can become. Here are the four keys again: Practice gratitude daily. Use generosity as a reversal to give loving energy to others without expectation. Love and forgive yourself—be self-compassionate and take care of your emotional, physical, and spiritual needs. And top it all off with a daily Car Dance—in the morning, afternoon, or evening. When you dance in your car in celebration and joy, you’re not just dancing for yourself. You’re also dancing for the world of people—for them to prosper, enjoy, and love. In the end, your dance becomes a joyous song of love that reverberates throughout the universe and before all creation: Dance and the whole world dances with you.

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Imagine if your soul mate had terminal cancer and were about to die soon—would you marry them? That is exactly what our amazing guest on Love University, Ashley Jackson, did when her fiancé, Troy, was diagnosed with stage 4 nasal cancer—two months after he proposed to her. Not only did they marry, but they are still happily married three years later and Troy has made a full recovery. Here are some of the nuggets of wisdom we learned from Ashley on how to survive and thrive when hearing about a loved one’s terminal diagnosis:

*Match and lead. When a loved one is diagnosed with a terminal illness, shock, anger, and despair often follow. The loved one may feel like they have a “death sentence” and that their life has ended. Regardless of how they feel, it’s important that you initially match their feelings. If they are sad, you can have empathy for their sadness, and you will speak slower and in a more somber tone to mirror their depleted energy. When they are more optimistic, you can match their optimism and speak in a brighter and cheerier tone. Being sensitive to your loved one’s feeling is part of being empathetic—putting yourself in their shoes. If you try to cheer them up too soon, they may not react well to it because they are mired in a lower emotional state (sadness). The key is to mirror their emotions (match how they are feeling)—whether sad, hopeful, fearful, or peaceful. Then, once you have met them at their emotional level, you can slightly elevate your response. You can offer them your own positive emotions, including optimism and faith, to raise their emotional state. Remember, however, that you will only upgrade your emotional reaction—smile, laugh, joke, be positive—when your loved one is ready to receive it.

*Jump out of the box and live fearlessly. When we hear about a loved one’s cancer diagnosis, or other catastrophic news, the tendency is to give in to fear, worry, and anxiety. Yet, Ashley counsels us to jump out of the small box that fear tries to put us in. You need to realize that life is meant to be lived with love, faith, and courage, and that you can express those sentiments, despite the fear that tries to grip you. Make a list of all the things you want to do with your loved one, including traveling, learning a new skill or hobby, starting a business project or venture, helping others, or trying a new experience. As long as your loved one is physically able to do so, give it a try. Maybe you can throw them a special “life” party, celebrating their life and love. Or, you can take them on a fun treasure hunt on the beach or participate in fun outings and get- togethers with loving family and supportive friends. The important thing is to bring loving energy and fun into your activities together as you recognize that love is the perfect antidote to fear; and joy is the ideal cure for despair.

*Don’t be Happy, Be Joyful. Ashley tells us about a fascinating reversal: Don’t seek to be happy with your loved one—focus on being “in joy” with them. When you’re happy, you need something to “happen” for you to maintain that feeling. Your loved one needs to do or say something that you want them to do or say; this is a form of conditional love that depends on their words and actions matching exactly what you want of them. On the other hand, when you are in joy with your loved one—whether it’s a love partner, child, family member, animal, or close friend—you simply love being with them; you have joy when you’re together. When this happens, you are in the moment in your joyfulness and love—and simply say, “Wow.” With this type of loving energy without expectation, there is never a thought that you will leave that person (or animal)—or that they will leave you—your loving energy is what will always keep the two of you together, even in the plane beyond this life.

In the end, Ashley concludes, love is what helps you pull through whatever ails you in life. She says that her husband, Troy, always tells her that it was her love that made all the difference in his recovery. He says: “I wouldn’t be here today if it weren’t for you.” Take the example of Ashley and Troy to heart and remember to say “I love you” to your loved ones every time you leave them. In this way, you won’t have the regret that you didn’t say it often enough while they were here on this earth. Keep the love alive in your heart every day, and you will never lose the most important things: the memories of your loved one, the joy you shared, and the positive difference you made in the world by the example of your love.

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Friends can save your life. Aristotle, the great philosopher once said: “In poverty and other misfortunes in life, true friends are a sure refuge.” When you’re feeling down, depressed, or worried, an empathetic and supportive friend can be the balm you need to soothe your mind and get you back on track—helping you survive and thrive in times of turmoil. Loneliness—disconnection from self, others, and a higher nature—is one of the biggest problems and diseases in the world. Our primary mission at Love University is to eradicate loneliness by building a community of like-minded “Love Givers.” Research indicates that having strong social support can reduce loneliness, which in turn, lowers dementia and blood pressure, while increasing self-confidence, gratitude, and optimism, and even helping you live longer. In our difficult and turmoil-filled world, we need great friends to combat social isolation and loneliness. With loving and committed friends motivating us to be our best, we can prosper and enjoy life to the fullest. Here are some ways to have more amazing friends in your life:

*Assess Your Friendship Level. Make an inventory of your circle of friends. On a pad, tablet, or journal write down your total number of friends and rate their level of emotional closeness, from 1 to 100. You might have 2 100 level friends (long-term, emotionally close friends), 4 at the 80 level (close friends), and 7 at the 50 level (acquaintances). Or, if you’re Introverted (enjoy your alone time), you might have lower numbers. Regardless of your number and quality of friends, your next step is to decide if you want to increase either the number and/or the quality of your friends. Perhaps, you decide to reach out to new people by joining groups of like-minded individuals (science, psychology, crafts, politics, business). Or you may want to reconnect with old friends from school, work, church, or the neighborhood that you haven’t spoken to in a while. As your measure your friend circle, you will be able to make improvements in the number and quality of your friends so you can have stronger and more enjoyable social support.

*Be a Friend to Yourself. One of the most important keys to having good friends is to be a friend to yourself. This means that you fully understand, accept, embrace, and love yourself as you are—with all your foibles, weaknesses, and idiosyncrasies. When people are isolated and lonely, they tend to get down on themselves—they criticize, attack, and reject themselves, saying “I’m not worthy of love and success.” On the other hand, when you’re a friend to yourself, you focus on your good qualities and how much you can contribute to others and the world. Although you recognize your needed areas of improvement, you concentrate on loving yourself for who you are right now—at this very moment. You say to yourself, “I am lovable, and I can be a great friend to others; I deserve the friendship and love of others.” When you think like this, a miraculous door to friendship opens, as you attract people by the power of your personality and the depth of your loving energy.

*Look Within the Person. Many times we judge too quickly. We meet a new person and immediately form an impression of them: jerk, cool, attractive, nice, arrogant. Yet, we may make a superficial assumption and reject a person who could have been a great friend to us (or perhaps more, even a romantic partner). In psychology, this quick to judge attitude is known as “Primacy Effect,”—the idea that first impressions are the only impression. Have you ever met someone you initially thought was mean, unkind, or harsh, and then later you turned out to be totally wrong about them? Perhaps, when you met the person they were having a bad day—they just had a fight with their love partner or coworker. Later, you became better acquainted with them, and you learned that they were a wonderful person and loyal friend. When you meet people, start to look beneath your initial impression and give them the benefit of the doubt—get to know the real person. You may be pleasantly surprised that underneath that initially sour persona lies a wonderful and loving person who can be a great friend to you.

*Extend Loving Energy Without Expectation. This is one of the greatest secrets of Love University (or LoveQ): Loving others without expecting anything in return. When you smile at other people, say “Hi,” pay them sincere compliments, help them, and listen to them with empathy (putting yourself in their shoes), you are extending loving energy to them. Your goal is to give love without expecting anything in return—not a smile, “hello,” or even response. You do this because you have loving energy inside you, and you are simply extending what you already have. If someone doesn’t reciprocate, you simply extend your loving energy elsewhere. Eventually, you will connect with friends who harmonize with your loving energy and return it in kind. In psychology this is known as “Reciprocal Liking”—we tend to like people who like us first. You will be the one to make the first friendship move—without fear of rejection or judgement. You will open the door for a select number of compatible and loving people to enter your life with the power of your loving energy (LoveQ). Once this happens, your world will overflow with wonderful and caring friends and you will gladly share your joy and love with others.

It is possible to have compassionate, loving, and loyal friends—no matter how old you are, or what your situation is in life. Even if you have a mate, children, and other family members, it’s still important to have a friend who deeply understands and embraces who you really are. If you’re an Introvert (get more energy from your own thoughts), you may need fewer friends, but you still want to have a few deep and close relationships. When friendship permeates your world, you will have the security, comfort, and emotional support you need to develop your talents and share them with others. This week decide that you will make a new quality friend, and that you will be a loyal and loving friend to those who are already in your life. When you befriend the world, the world will love you in return.

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Many people believe that leaders are born, not made. Yet, the truth is that most people become leaders because they are chosen by the people who see them as leaders. Their followers see the leader as authentic and strong and capable of leading them in the right direction. In our uncertain and topsy-turvy world, we need more strong leaders, including in our families, to help guide us to a place of security, peace, and love. Our special guest, Natasha Todorovic-Cowan, owner of the groundbreaking Spiral Dynamics system, shared valuable insights how to be a capable and loving leader in uncertain times. Here are some of the nuggets of wisdom we learned from Natasha:

*Good leaders know who they can lead. A successful leader is only as good as the fit between themselves and the people they lead. When a great leader moves to a new context—work, social, or political environment—they are only effective 50% of the time. The reason? Just because they were successful in one context (situation) doesn’t mean they will have equally good results in another. It all depends on the match between themselves and the people they lead. Therefore, a good leader needs to be constantly aware of how their leadership style (sensitive, tough, etc.) fits with the people they are leading. If there is not a good fit, the leader needs to adjust their style or find new people to lead.

*Successful leaders are polite, caring, and empathetic With a rise in incivility in business and work harassment incidents, it seems like the workplace has become a psychological war zone where people are trying to emotionally survive. In fact, 70% of employees say they would rather see their boss fired than get a raise. Consequently, the quality leader knows how to be polite and caring—to demonstrate empathy and put themselves in the shoes of their employees. By doing so, they are able to understand their employee’s concerns and find ways to help them be more comfortable, confident, and productive.

*Great leaders tap into a person’s “Zone of Genius.” All of us have a special talent or ability, "a zone of genius," even if we don’t recognize it. You may be good with numbers, words, concepts, working with your hands, sales, or taking care of people. Whatever your talent is, your “Don” (from the phrase “Don Divino—gift from God) is what makes you uniquely “You” and can activate your passion for excellence. The intelligent leader knows how to discover and encourage each person’s unique gift or talent. Although 75% of managers say they are satisfied with the talent utilization of their subordinates, only 30% of employees said they are fully using their abilities. The key, therefore, is for the business leader to pinpoint their employee’s greatest strength and encourage them to develop it. Likewise, a parent can be a great leader by helping a child discover and nurture their gift or talent. Also, parents need to find a balance between being a “Tiger mom or dad”—forcing discipline and practice on a child—and being too easy-going (permissive): spoiling the child and letting them do anything they want to do (play video games all day). Being a gentle and empathetic encourager of the child, while setting limits to instill discipline and hard work, is the best way for a parent to lead a child to fulfill their potential.

In difficult and fearful times, we need more strong leaders—in business, government, education, science, religion/spirituality—and especially in our own families and communities. You, too, can be a strong leader if you believe in a good cause and find like-minded people to join you—individuals you can help empower to achieve their fullest potential. It can be as simple as leading your friend out of a bad habit or relationship, leading your child toward good study habits, or leading your employees and associates to produce more and love the work they do. And, most importantly, you need to learn how to lead yourself—to find what motivates and inspires you, and keep yourself on the right track toward positivity, love, and contribution. Lead yourself, and you can lead those around you, especially when you do it with love and compassion.

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Who is your daily companion? Fear or Love? This is the fundamental question you need to answer on a daily basis. For many people, fear, worry, and stress are their daily tormenters—harassing them with the dark and catastrophic possibilities of what could go wrong in our uncertain and topsy-turvy world. Now there is hope in the form of love and miracle lessons, courtesy of our Love University friend, Alan Cohen, bestselling spiritual author and contributor to the inspirational Chicken Soup for the Soul series. Here some nuggets of wisdom that Alan shared with us on how to live our life like a miracle and receive the love and riches the universe has to offer us.

*Kill your ego. Our ego is the false perception of who we are—an accumulation of critical thoughts from our past, societies’ expectations, and labels (name, physical appearance, social status). According to Alan, we need to get rid of this false ego and substitute it for our true self: Our loving, powerful, and intuitive higher nature. You can do this by doing the things you love: a meditative/spiritual practice, spending time with loved ones—love partner, children, animals—doing creative and humanitarian work; making a contribution to the world. When you live from your higher self, your lower self of fear, doubt, and self-pity will disappear—leaving you free to be who you really are: A lover of life and others.

*End the world. In our current world crisis, some people fear that the world is going to actually end—in a physical sense: Destruction, war, pestilence, and mass death are their predictions. Yet, according to Alan, that is not the end of the world we need or want. What is required is that we end the false world (our mistaken mental image) of fear, hate, sadness, and division—leaving behind the previous nasty world of strife, fear, and pain. Instead, says Alan, we need to ask (pray) for a new world—one of peace, unity, and humanhood. By asking for a miracle—a transformative collective change of mind—we can bring the positive elements of love, compassion, and empathy into the earth and into our personal lives as well.

*Love attracts riches. Many people have money and wealth all wrong. They think that if they have money, they will find happiness, love, or peace. Alan explains that we need a reversal. We need to feel and express love, and then the money and prosperity will come to us. "Do what you love and the money will flow to you" is a classic, but true, statement. Be generous and give your customers, clients, employees, and associates more than they expect, and you will receive abundance in return—maybe not from the person you gave to, but from some other source you didn’t expect. The truth is that the universe rewards you when you use money as a form of loving energy. When you buy a product or service you want, you pay for it with this symbol called “money.” When you see money as a form of loving energy, instead of merely a financial transaction, you visualize yourself expressing gratitude and love for the product or service you just received. Then, the person who receives your money can feel gratitude and appreciation for what you gave them. Now, they can use that money to buy products and services with loving appreciation. On and on, this loving money energy is spread around the world and becomes an instrument for contribution, comfort, and joy to the earth’s inhabitants.

*Give up struggle; burn with the fire of purpose. In our workaholic, 24-7 technology society, it is commonly believed that we have to struggle, sacrifice, and suffer pain to accomplish our dreams and goals. That is false, says Alan. The word “struggle” refers to a mentality, not an action. It is a mindset based on fear, chasing, and insecurity—in which you frantically strive after things, people, and outcomes without knowing when you can ever rest. Struggle is a painful mindset. On the other hand, hard work toward a beloved goal is action combined with faith and vision. You can accomplish great things if you work hard, persevere, and overcome obstacles from the perspective of celebrating your vision—building a great family or career (business), fulfilling your creative (spiritual) potential, leaving a legacy of love and goodness. In reality, struggle is not required for success; in fact, it can debilitate you and take away your energy. What is needed is that you burn with your purpose in life—your meaning for being here on earth—while at the same time relaxing and allowing your Higher Nature (God, spirit, reality) to bring you the things you really need. Working in partnership with your Higher Nature, you can have the best of both worlds: a calm, secure, and peaceful mind that is still determined, hardworking, and achievement-oriented. When you achieve this ideal balance, obstacles will evaporate before your very eyes, and you will see the results you want sooner than you could ever have imagined.

*Practice inward comparison. Mark Twain said, “Comparison is the death of joy.” Yet many people compare themselves with others to try to feel better. Social psychology tells us about upward and downward comparison. When people compare themselves to another person who is doing better than them, they’re likely to feel inferior in comparison. When they compare themselves to someone who is doing worse (making less money, less attractive spouse, smaller house), they’re likely to feel better—until the next person comes along who has more than they do. When they live from outer comparison, they will undoubtedly end up feeling shaky and insecure—always looking over the shoulder to see if the next comparison will be in their favor. The solution is to practice inward comparison—only compare yourself to yourself. Ask yourself: How much have I improved, grown, or learned since my previous days? Perhaps, you still need to grow and improve, but chances are, you can point out some areas where you are better, or at least grateful, for what you have. Think of your accomplishments, successes, and lessons learned—be grateful for your talents, your loved ones, your experiences. The more you compare yourself to your own inner growth, the more positive you will feel about your life and the more motivated you will be to achieve even more.

Yes, you can live a miraculous life worth living, despite the turmoil and uncertainty of the world. By ending your false perception of yourself and the world, and substituting a vision of love, contribution, and unity, you can start to achieve your fullest potential and help others achieve theirs. Along the way, you will reverse your old way of thinking: You will relax instead of struggle, give instead of frantically trying to receive, love instead of waiting to be loved. Once you do this, you will realize that the miracle was inside you all along: Love has always been your companion; the door to miraculous living has always been open. All you have to do is walk through the entrance and claim the world of joy, happiness, and contribution that belongs to you.

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In our frenzied and turbulent world, many of us are becoming more frustrated and angrier by the day. How do you recapture your peace, calmness, and love in the frustrating and lonely environment we are currently living in? Here are some tips to reclaim your peace, joy, and love in today’s upside down world:

*Analyze your anger and frustration. Write down the things that make you mad—your anger triggers—and rate them from 1 to 100. Perhaps, you’re ticked off by rude people, traffic jams, waiting in lines, or mechanical failures (car, phone, computer). Once you’ve identified your anger triggers, note how often you experience them and how angry they make you feel.

*Ask yourself the question: Am I about to act from my higher self? When you’re tempted to explode with anger at one of your triggers, ask yourself if you’re acting from your highest, most noble, peaceful, and loving self. Or, are you lowering yourself to the level of an animalistic and lack of control person who is whipsawed by aggression? Will you regret what you are about to say or do?

*Give yourself a space between frustration and reaction. If you recognize that your lower, primitive instincts are kicking in, then you need to take a “time out,” –remove yourself mentally or physically from the anger-provoking situation. Take a deep breath, pause, go exercise, or take a walk in nature. If you’re in the midst of an angry argument with a loved one, tell them that you’re getting heated and are going to be gone for a while—shopping, exercising, walking. Explain that you will pick up the conversation when you are calmer and more relaxed. Doing so will help you avoid saying and doing things you will later regret, and allows you to return with a calmer and more peaceful mind to resolve the conflict.

*Create a calm down kit. Get a nice box and put all the things you can think of that can help you relax and calm down when you’re feeling stressed, angry, or frustrated. Perhaps, you can include rocks that have special significance to you, scented lotions, a picture of a beautiful landscape, a CD with soothing music, or spiritual writings. Create a nice “mental getaway” package that you can access anytime you’re feeling angry or stressed, and you will start to bring more relaxation and peace into your day.

*Express empathy. Empathy—putting yourself in the shoes of another—is one of the best antidotes to feeling frustrated and angry toward others. When someone cuts you off on the road, or drives too slowly, instead of yelling at them, put yourself in their shoes. Maybe, they’re having a bad day—perhaps, they just had a fight with their spouse, are worried about their children, or are concerned about financial or health issues. You may not know exactly what they’re going through, but you can give them the benefit of the doubt, with your desire to understand them as an imperfect human being (just like you) who is trying to live as best they can. With this empathetic understanding, you are less likely to harshly judge and get angry at them—you can replace your anger with kindness and compassion—bringing love into the situation. When you do this, your own out of control anger will be healed, and you will bring a peaceful conclusion to the encounter.

Yes, it is possible to live with a minimal amount of frustration and anger. It’s true that some anger can be useful to right wrongs and protect the defenseless; a certain amount of frustration can motivate you to get off your rear and do what you need to do. Yet, many times, frustration and anger develop a negative momentum of their own—causing havoc in your health, relationships, and self-esteem. If you learn how to monitor and control your anger reactions, while extending loving energy instead of unproductive aggression, you can take a great step toward recapturing your love, joy, and peace. With more love and joy in your mind and heart, you can offer your loving energy to others and help bring the collective consciousness of the world to a higher frequency of love and compassion.

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Can you live without your phone? Today, an increasing number of people say they can’t. 81% of people have their phone on all the time, 44% fall asleep with their phone, and 67% look at it even when it doesn’t vibrate or ring. Moreover, a significant number of people have “Nomophobia”—a fear of not having their phone or phone service that causes them to have withdrawal symptoms like a drug; they become anxious, irritable, and miserable.

Although a phone can connect you to an amazing world of opportunities, it can also make you addicted to using it so you miss out on other wonderful parts of life like family, leisure and creative activities, physical exercise, and a meditative/spiritual practice. Here are some tips on how to be the master of your phone instead of letting your phone control you:

*Be aware of how much time you spend on the phone: The average person spends 8 hours a day on their phone or laptop. Find an app that tracks the time you spend on your phone, and determine if it’s excessive, or if you’re spending too much time doing certain things that are not very productive for you (video games, social media, YouTube binging). Ask yourself on a daily basis: “Is what I’m doing life-taking or life-enhancing?” You may be surprised to discover that you’re spending several hours a day on “life-taking” activities—watching mindless video entertainment, repeatedly checking social media profiles, ingesting negative news—instead of on “life-enhancing” things like writing a book, redecorating your house, learning a new skill, practicing your favorite hobby, contributing to charity, or spending quality time with loved ones.

*Recondition your phone use for a positive purpose. If you track your phone use and determine that you’re wasting a lot of time on unproductive activities, decide that you will alter your phone use to more beneficial things. You can install an app that helps you meditate, or a notification that tells you it’s time to exercise, read, or listen to music. At the same time, you can use an app that turns notifications off for a certain period of time, and eliminates phone distractions, so you can focus on rewarding activities like spending time with your family, playing with animals or children, or simply relaxing without any technology around.

*Take a phone fast. Although it may sound difficult or even impossible to do, you can take a “fast” and turn off your devices for a period of time. You may decide to be phoneless for an hour or a few hours, or even a day. Of course, when you do this, you can make sure that you have alternative forms of communication in case of an emergency. The good part about a phone fast is that you will discover an interesting fact: Most of the messages and emails you receive aren’t that important or urgent. It’s true that many people have a lottery mentality when it comes to their phone—they hope the next text or message could be my “dream date saying ‘yes’,” or “a great financial or career opportunity.” Yet, most of the time, you get junk messages and emails or everyday communications that aren’t that urgent or important. On the other hand, when you take a phone fast, you will reap the benefits—you will be more sociable, creative, aware, and relaxed—and best of all, you will feel in control of your life.

Yes, your phone can be a marvelous tool in many ways. It can bring you new opportunities in love, finances, business, health, and travel. It can help you connect with friends and family who live far away; it can guide you on where you need to go, what restaurant or movie to select, how to find the best worker, employee, or helper. It can teach you valuable things and help improve your health and happiness. But, the phone can also detract from your life—decreasing your ability to focus on just one task, overstimulating your mind, taking you away from real human connection, and making you feel more impatient, irritable, and overwhelmed.

The good news is that you can find a good balance—a middle ground—in which you are able to use your phone as a tool for growth, enjoyment, and connection, while giving yourself an occasional break from digital life to engage with real people in the real world. Remember that your mind is the most powerful tool you have—your phone is simply an extension of your thoughts, and you can control your phone just as you control your mind. And most importantly, you can recognize that one of the most important uses of the phone is to bring people together—in the spirit of harmony and caring—as we become one world and one mind propelled by the ultimate source: the power of love.

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If you had a gigantic magic wand that could give you anything you wanted, what would you suddenly change in your life and the world? Perhaps, you would create more love, joy, and peace. Or, you would materialize more success, prosperity, and goodwill. Now, you can use your mental magic wand to achieve what you desire. All you have to do is follow a few steps given to us by our special guest on Love University: Bernandette Giacomazzo, publicist extraordinaire, author, music journalist, and digital content queen. Here are some of the secrets to help you accomplish your greatest mission in life:

*Recognize that what unites us is greater than what divides us. In times of turmoil, it’s important to remind ourselves that we and our fellow humans have more in common than we have differences. We all seek love, want to take care of our families, enjoy life, make a contribution, and leave behind something of value. Although we also have worries, fears, regrets, sadness, and suffer losses, as humans we can unite to help each other during troubled times and uplift one another in a family of humanhood. Start today by thinking of how you can connect with others based on similarities. Talk to someone from a different background—find out what you have in common and develop a friendship based on mutual interests. Get involved in charitable and humanitarian ventures in which you help the disadvantaged and make like-minded friends who also share a desire to help the world. The more people you connect with others based on deep core values, the stronger relationships you will have and the more you will feel like you are part of a great genuine human family of love and caring.

*Control technology, don’t let it control you. Like anything else that brings pleasure, technology can be an addiction. The problem with an addiction—whether it’s based on substance, relationships, food, or technology—is that once you are hooked, you now have two problems. You have the original problem that drove you toward the addiction, and now you have the problem of addiction. The key is to see technology—cell phones, internet, devices—as simply tools, blank slates that you can use anyway you like. Use technology to help, create, and connect, instead of wasting your time with gossip, social comparison, and dwelling on negative news. Decide that your mental freedom is more important than any temporary technology thrill, and apportion your life accordingly. One way to do this is to take a technology fast—turn off your devices for a certain period of time (one hour, several hours, all day). Then, do something different: spend time with your love partner, play with your children or animals, take a walk in nature, engage in a spiritual or creative process; engage in a hobby you enjoy. Your goal is to establish a new connection with your true, authentic self, and release the energy and passion that comes from doing what you love to do. Now, when you go back to your technology, you will be refreshed and ready to take on the world—confident in your knowledge that you have mastery over your mind and nothing can get in the way of your true passion and authenticity.

*Speak the universal language of love. At the end of the day, our greatest desire is to give and receive love, whether it’s from our loved partner, family, work, friends, or higher power. When you start your day, plant this idea in your mind: “I will make love the basis of everything I do—from sunrise to sunset.” With this mindset, you will love what you do for work (or you will find work you love). You will love your children, love partner, animals, nature, friends, neighbors, and higher power. You will love to take care of your home—cleaning and organizing it—and love to prepare healthy meals that improve your health and nourish you (and your loved ones). Always remember that love is the essential ingredient that makes food taste better, relationships more enriching, work more joyous, and contributing and helping society so magnificent. On a daily basis, seek to extend loving energy without expectation: Smile, give sincere compliments, listen attentively, and give practical and emotional advice when needed. Do all of this without expecting anything back from others. You extend loving energy because that is who you are inside, not because of any results you want to obtain or approval you want to gain. As you give out this pure, unfiltered love, you will become a stronger and more united human being and you will see that your love is often given back to you by the universe—in often mysterious and unexpected ways (you help a stranger who becomes a dear friend). In the end, you think with love, speak with love, act with love, and dream with love. There is nothing else that exists in you.

Yes, you can ruthlessly promote the causes of love, joy, and success. While some people push the agenda of negativity, greed, selfishness, and criticism, you will be different. You will speak the universal language of love, unite with other like-minded humans, and master the things that pull you away from your true authenticity. In the end, you will achieve your highest potential, and you will be a warrior for love, peace, and genuine, lasting contribution.

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Imagine being next to the most notorious female serial killer in history and having compassion for her. That is exactly how Dr. Pablo Zaragoza, chief medical doctor in the Florida prisons, felt when he attended to serial killer, Aileen Wuornos, the wicked inspiration for the Academy Award winning performance by Charlize Theron in “Monster.” Dr. Zaragoza, also an award-winning novelist with over 21 books published joined us on Love University and shared his secrets of love, compassion, and empowerment, even in the worst of circumstances. Here are some of the fascinating tips he gave us:

*Listen with empathy. Everyone, even the most notorious killer, was a child at one time in their lives. Although they may lack empathy due to narcissistic/sociopathic tendencies, there was a time in their lives when they had innocence and naturalness. When you deal with difficult or annoying people, remember that there is a soft spot somewhere within that person—a wound or hurt feeling that you can tap into by listening with full attention and empathy (putting yourself in their shoes). The more you listen with empathy, the better you will be able to connect with others and build a conduit of love where none existed before.

*Guard your sensitivities. At the same that you are compassionate and empathetic to others, you also recognize that you have to protect your emotional nature, especially if you’re a naturally sensitive and giving person. You will be aware when a person has dangerous or manipulative intentions toward you, and you will redirect your loving energy to a different place—you will leave or detach yourself from the negative person or situation. At the same time, you will extend your love to people and situations that will reciprocate in kind and provide you with a safe and secure place to plant your loving energy.

*There is hope where there is faith. In his book, Armageddon, about demon possession, the Prince of Hell comes to earth to possess the souls of human in a desperate bid for its own redemption. The humans who are invaded don’t give up; they fight against the forces of evil to recapture hope in the hopeless. On an everyday basis, possession—being taken over by an uncontrollable force—is not usually done by actual demonic forces, but by the person’s own wrongly fixated thoughts: self-criticism, bad habits, and addictions. According to Dr. Pablo, we can rewire our brains with positive elements—faith, love, spiritual practice, service to humanity—to drown out the negative inner voices of the Thought Demons (critical inner thoughts) that torment us. We can tap into the power of our Higher Nature (God, spirit, destiny) to increase our faith in the good and liberate ourselves from the dark forces of evil. We can be free if we choose to be free.

Dr. Pablo summarizes it nicely: Happiness, joy, and love are within your reach. All you have to do is recognize the authentic power within you as children of a Higher Nature. Live simply, help people, and find a passion that drives you, and you can free yourself from the negative people and situations that control you. With a few simple shifts in your thoughts and actions, you can master your mind and live a glorious life of love, peace, and power, no matter where you’ve been, no matter where you presently are in life. Practice faith, hope, and love, and you can be free from the mental prison that holds you. You can live joyfully—with absolute purpose and power.

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Are you single and feel stuck at home—unable to find your soul mate or a quality dating partner? Now, there is a new way to date and find a compatible mate utilizing features in Facebook that are geared to singles and dating. We had our good friend, acclaimed dating psychologist, Paulette Sherman, on Love University, as she spoke to us about her new book, Facebook Dating, and advanced dating techniques for finding the right one. Here are some tips Paulette shared with us:

*Do Conscious Dating. Think of each date as a growing experience in your love consciousness. You can learn from even a lousy date. You learn what you don’t want so you can find the partner who is truly compatible with you. Try meditating before and after a date and get clear about the things about that person that triggered you—either in a positive or negative way. Maybe, you become aware that you’re unconsciously attracted to “bad boys” or “dramatic queens” just like your mom or dad. You see that they’re exciting at first, but then make you feel miserable and like your “walking on eggshells.” As you realize this, you can start to look for the steady and loving person who can provide emotional safety and comfort in the relationship instead of excitement that quickly turns negative.

*Get Involved in Facebook Groups or Events That Resonate With Your Personality. In the LoveTypes approach (lovetype.com), singles learn how to identify their unique LoveType, or romantic style, and meet like-minded singles and a compatible partner. For example, you may be a Meaning Seeker (psychology, philosophy, arts, meaning in life), Excitement Seeker (fun, parties, outdoor adventures, travel), Security Seeker (family, country, tradition, community), or Knowledge Seeker (science, technology, business, achievement). To find someone who resonates with your style, you can participate in Facebook groups or events that match your personality interests. Your chances of finding a compatible love partner are much greater when you get involved in activities and discussions that match your deeply held values and interests because you will have a great deal in common with like-minded people.

*Utilize the Facebook Dating Features: Facebook has a lot of cool features for singles to meet each other and develop a relationship. These include the opportunity to ask questions and read people’s posts—doing so can give you a wealth of information about the other person and whether they are compatible with you. Security Seekers, for example, like to post about their children and family; whereas Knowledge Seekers like to post about their achievements or new developments in society. You can also reveal your secret crushes (and find out if they have a crush on you), create a bucket list (see if they match yours), and make a scrapbook with your relationship history—once you find the right one.

The secret to finding a compatible soul mate begins with understanding and loving yourself—recognize your unique personality and love style—and accept yourself for who you are. Then, use a platform like Facebook to get involved in groups, activities, and discussions that help you connect with quality, like-minded singles who share your interests and are compatible with you at the deepest level. The end result is that you will enjoy one of the most marvelous experiences known to humanity: True, lasting love that creates a legacy of light and goodness for all to see.

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Is your husband or wife driving you crazy during these difficult stay-at-home times? Now, there’s a way to create a happy love partnership with the breakthrough Imago technology of Drs. Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt, NY Times bestselling authors of the classic, “Getting the Love You Want.” We were fortunate to have this amazing married couple (together 40 years) on Love University as they educated us on how to heal childhood wounds and create a love that lasts a lifetime. Let’s take a look at their wisdom for happy long-term relationships, even in times of stress and turmoil:

*Make an appointment with your partner: Instead of reacting emotionally to something your partner said or did (“You’re a jerk”), slow down your (and your partner’s) emotional reflexes by asking, “Is this a good time to talk?” By doing so, both of you can get into your rational brain (cerebral cortex) instead of reacting from the emotional part (amygdala) that is reactive and defensive. This makes for safer and nonjudgmental communication that can help both of you feel better about each other and the relationship.

*Be each other’s therapists: Through Imago training with a competent practitioner, you can learn how to heal your and your partner’s childhood wounds. According to Imago, we tend to pick a love partner who has the positive and negative qualities of the parent we had the most difficulties with. Therefore, you might pick a cold man just like your distant father, or an overprotective woman like your emotionally unhealthy mother. The first step to develop a healthy relationship is for the partners to help each other discover their inner childhood wounds. Then, they can help each other heal through communication and hands-on exercises designed to process their feelings and get their needs met in a safe and nonjudgmental environment.

*Express Empathy and Compassion toward your partner. In a set of structured communication Imago exercises, you can express empathy and compassion toward your mate by mirroring your partner (“I think what you’re saying is…Is there more?”), validating (“Makes sense”) and empathy (“You must be feeling…). In this way, the couple moves from competition to cooperation; from conflict to compassion. They can see each other’s points of view in a real way and have open and honest communication without the fear of being judged or criticized. Now they can have safe conversations that protect and enhance the relationship.

*Have a Negativity Free Agreement. One of the main things that saved Harville and Helen from divorce (yes, they were on the verge) was maintaining a “No Negativity Agreement.” For a certain period of time—hours, days, or more—you and your partner agree not to speak negatively or critically to each other. Most unhappy couples tend to say several negative things to each other for every positive statement they make (the reverse is true for happy couples). Some couples have nothing positive to say about each other at all. Yet, to have a happy marriage or long-term relationship, it’s important that you accentuate the positive—have fun, appreciation, and caring days; give each other unexpected surprises, and eliminate negative criticisms and complaints from your everyday conversation with your partner. When you want to work on something in the relationship, use the structured dialogue exercises mentioned above to communicate in a safe and nonjudgmental way in which hurts and pains are minimized and love is enhanced.

*Bring the Higher Nature into your relationship. Regardless of their religious or spiritual beliefs, most people recognize that there is something sacred and holy in the deepest and most fulfilling love relationships and marriages. Recognized by various terms, Imago Dei (image of God), agape (unconditional love), or light creation (leaving a legacy of goodness), the best relationships have this special and beautiful quality. When you allow the Higher Nature (God spirit, nature) into your relationship, it’s no longer just about two people as individuals; it’s about the sacred space between them—the all-encompassing representation of sacrificial love in which each person is willing to give their life for the welfare of their partner.

In these times of trouble and upheaval, there is a silver lining. We are moving toward an Omega point (spiritual unification) in which the whole world is coming together to fight common enemies (disease, hate, and inequality). In the same way, couples who have been fighting each other can find the unity and similarity within their uniqueness and create a love that is more than just romance and fairy tales. It is a love that stands the test of all time and leaves a legacy of light and goodness through the children created, the friends made, the experiences shared, and the contributions made. In the end, there is only one thing left when couples separate through circumstance or death: It is called Love.

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Are you stuck in the house and yearning to find companionship, love, and intimacy? In our recent Love University visit with expert dating coach, Cheryl Besner, we learned some great tips for smart dating and finding a compatible soul mate. Here’s what we learned:

*Look for inner chemistry. While instant attraction is great, many times true long-term attraction and compatibility is a slow burn—starting with your head and growing into your heart. Find someone you can be great friends with—compatible, loyal, committed, and fun. You will find yourself growing more attracted to them over time as you develop a great and lasting relationship with your best friend.

*Be open to expressing your feminine/masculine side. In Eastern philosophy, “yang” represents the masculine part of us (assertive, protective, providing), while yin symbolizes the feminine side (yielding, receiving, nurturing). In dating, according to Cheryl, it’s a good idea for a woman to tap into both sides of her personality—at work, she can display yang (directive) traits, and on romantic encounters she can express her more yin (receptive) side to the men she meets; thereby resonating with her date’s masculine side. In the same way, men can learn how to express their yin (sensitive) side to women in the right circumstances, which can create a stronger bond.

*Move quickly from texts and email to video chatting. Too many singles get stuck in a “text” zone where they keep texting but never take the relationship further. Cheryl advises singles to video chat as soon as they can to check chemistry, connection, and authenticity (they are who they said they are), and then meet in person (as safety permits). In this way, singles can move into the phase of developing a real relationship instead of being stuck in a fantasy (imagination only) dating world.

There are no rules for dating—be authentic and true to yourself. Cheryl says the old dating rules—wait three days to call after a date and prepare to have sex after three dates—no longer apply. If you wait too long to call after the first date, the other person may think you’re not interested and may move on. If the couple feels pressured to have sex after three dates, they may not give their emotional intimacy a chance to grow, and their relationship may stagnate on the physical level. The best approach is to call after a date as soon as you feel the desire, while communicating in a polite and non-pushy way: “I really enjoyed meeting you; look forward to next time.” As for sex, it is recommended to wait until both parties feel a strong sense of intimacy and connection before they have sex so they can develop a more balanced and lasting relationship.

Dating is never easy, especially in our present times when we must remain socially isolated. Yet, there is hope for the single person who genuinely wants to find a compatible and long-lasting love partner. Looking for inner chemistry, moving the relationship into the personal meeting stage as soon as it’s safe, and remaining true and authentic to yourself—these are all keys for turning that first date into a potential soul mate. Remember, that encountering and keeping true love is a journey well worth taking.

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In these stressful and challenging times, wouldn’t it be nice to just relax and be at peace? Now, you can do that, based on advice provided by our guest on Love University, Amanda J. Scott, international stress expert. Try these techniques and you can enjoy a more stress-free and relaxing life:

*Realize that some stress can be good. Not all stress is bad. Sometimes a little stress can motivate you to get off your rear and get something done. The key is to realize when you’re letting stress get to you in a negative way—paralyzing you and making you doubt yourself. When you feel frantic, rush, worried, and pressured, you know that bad stress is controlling you. When that happens, practice relaxation and self-care techniques to soothe your mind and body and re-energize your soul.

*Keep a Fear to Reality Journal. Bad stress is motivated by fear: The fear of losing something or someone, or the nagging worry that something bad will happen to you. The truth is that much of what you fear doesn’t happen to you in the way you imagined. To counteract the fantasy world of imagined fears, keep a Fear to Reality Journal, in which you write down all of your fears, and then note what actually happened. You will find that a high percentage of the time, there was nothing to fear in the first place—things often turned out perfectly fine, one way or another. Either what you feared didn’t happen, or you learned a valuable lesson. In either case, you are just fine.

*Practice Self-Care. Every day, do something to help your mind and body relax and rejuvenate. Exercise, meditate, pray, listen to music, play a sport, spend time with children or animals; take an excursion into nature; get a facial or massage; go on a shopping spree for clothes that make you feel good. Talk to a good friend; listen to and help people who are hurting. Volunteer for a charity; help a homeless person; work for a humanitarian organization. Do whatever you need to do to recharge your emotional batteries and get your mind and body back on track. The more you take care of yourself and do what you love, the less bad stress you will feel, and the more love you can give to yourself and others.

Yes, it is possible to live a minimally stressed life. Although some stress can help you perform better, too much stress can harm your health—causing you to experience heart problems, high blood pressure, migraines, and even an early death. On the other hand, when you master your fear and practice self-care, you can get rid of bad stress and live a relaxed and pleasurable life. With your new relaxed mindset, you can give to yourself the same thing you can offer others: peace, love, and understanding.

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We just did the show of the decade with Neale Donald Walsch, modern day spiritual messenger, and NY Times bestselling author of Conversations with God, over two-and-a-half years on the bestseller list. In our times of turmoil and fear, Donald was gracious and loving in his answers as he taught us what God taught him: We are loved and can live joyfully, despite the circumstances. Here are some nuggets of wisdom we learned from the show:

*We’re spiritual beings having a physical body experience. When we’re tempted to feel angry at our partner, or sad about a setback, we can ask ourselves: “What does my reaction have to do with my soul agenda?” and “What would I do from my highest self?” Quickly, we see that our life has greater meaning than a momentary dispute or setback: We are souls in human clothes and our mission is to spread love and goodness in the world.

*Ask with Gratitude. God has one word in God’s vocabulary: “Yes.” When you ask for something, ask as if you are grateful for already receiving it (love, money, health, happiness), and God’s answer will be “Yes.” You will be asking from a prosperity mentality instead of one of lack, and you will receive what you already have (abundance).

*We are One: When Neale was homeless and suicidal at 50 years of age, he asked God for answers. God replied: “Your life is not about you; it’s about the people you touch.” Neale tells us that we can ask ourselves the question: “Is there anything going on over there that is happening here with me?” In this way, we can develop empathy—the ability to put ourselves in the shoes of another. As we are all now in the same position worldwide—isolated from our loved ones and treasured activities; worried about our health and finances—we recognize that we are all one. As humans, we share the same fears, doubts, joys, pleasures, and love for ourselves, our loved ones, and our Higher Nature. The more we recognize this unity of thought and spirit the more we can heal ourselves and the world.

According to Neale, we are all having conversations with God, although we may not always recognize or apply God’s wisdom (our intuition, genius, or hidden inner voice). During the current world crisis of isolation and fear, Neale’s message from God is enlightening and uplifting: We are loved, we can love, and we can be love. All we have to do is recognize our true authenticity as divine creations of a higher source. Our mission: to spread love and leave a lasting legacy of goodness on earth.

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Would you like to live victoriously and achieve your goals and dreams despite the circumstances? Now you can. In today’s uncertain and anxiety ridden-world, you learn to live with the Mind of Invincibility—with absolute confidence, peace, and power, regardless of the turmoil and anxiety around you. Here are some tips for overcoming obstacles and living to your fullest, as we learned in our new series: “Invincible You”:

*Give What You Want Most: You may be disappointed and frustrated that you are not getting what you want—in your relationships, career, finances, health, or personal happiness. You ask: “Why do people get all the luck and I don’t?” If that’s the case, here’s a simple solution: Give what you want most. If you want love, be more loving to others. Find the loneliest or shyest person and smile at them; talk to them; comfort them. If you want more money, give some money to charity or a humanitarian organization. Give away some of your material items, volunteer your time. You will find that the more you give what you want, the more abundant and fulfilled you will feel. Instead of approaching the world form a mind of scarcity (“never enough”) you will realize that when you can give to others, you have more than enough for yourself. Now, the Universe will work in your favor to give you the exact same things you are giving away—love, money, happiness and more.

*Forgive Yourself for Your Past and Your Future. You may be hard on yourself for your past mistakes, and regret may fill your mind. You ask: “Why did I stay with that incompatible (abusive) partner for so long?” “Why didn’t I stay with the person I truly loved?” “Why did I stay with that unfulfilling career so long (or not pursue the career I really wanted)?” On and on, regrets can torment you if you don’t forgive yourself. When you forgive yourself for your past mistakes (and any mistakes you may make in the future), you suddenly feel lighter, freer, and stronger. When you are weakened by regret, you tend to repeat the same mistakes—over and over—because you don’t feel that you can do any better, that you deserve any better. On the other hand, self-forgiveness opens the path for you to have a brighter future that is not burdened by regret. Think of it this way. When you were in 6th grade psychologically, you made 6th grade mistakes (maybe you hurt people without realizing it); now that you are in college, you won’t make those 6th grade mistakes again. You have learned the lessons from your errors and you will act differently because you are different. You have moved beyond past regrets and errors into a complete acceptance of yourself as someone who can learn and grow from your past. You are regret-free.

*Make Gratitude Your Best Friend. Gratitude is the understanding that the good that comes to you comes from outside you—perhaps a higher power, your loved ones, or even a stranger who helps you when you’re stranded on the side of the road. Psychology tells us that gratitude is a tremendous tool for self-growth. Research shows that people who keep a gratitude journal—write down things they are grateful for every day—have 30% less depression and 40% better sleep. Start right now: What are you grateful for? For your life, your loved ones, your body, your health, your career or talents, your ability to breathe fresh air, hear the birds sing; for the love of lovers; the love of parent and child; the bliss of communing with a Higher Nature, and for the slice of eternity (your life) that you have been given to make a difference in the world and leave a lasting legacy of love and goodness. These are just some of the things you can be grateful for. Even if you think that your life sucks right now, chances are, you can find a few things to be grateful about (maybe you have a loving pet). When you uplift your mind to gratefulness and count your blessings, you focus suddenly changes from “Poor me,” to “Blessed I.” You move away from thinking constantly about how unfairly life has treated you to reveling in the good of the Universe and the Higher nature (God/spirit/nature) that takes care of you and loves you. Now your mood is brightened and you can go out and achieve your dreams.

Yes, you can have an Invincible Mind—a mind that is incapable of being defeated. Being invincible in the psychological sense doesn’t mean that you will be perfect, or that you will never face loss, pain, or suffering (you will). The difference is that your Invincible Mind gives you resilience, the ability to bounce back from any adversity so you can love yourself and others, despite the turmoil and problems you face. In the end, your psychological and spiritual strength will envelop you as you extend your loving energy to others, without expectation—helping to make this world a better place because you were in it.

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On Love University, I had the pleasure of being interviewed by a special guest host, Kelly Sullivan Walden, the Dream Doctor. She interviewed me about dreams, love, and the meaning of life. Here are some nuggets of knowledge we shared on the show:

*Dreams can guide you. You may think that you don’t dream, but research shows that you spend approximately two hours per night in the state known as REM sleep, where dreams are most likely to happen. The key to remembering your dreams is to keep a notebook next to your bed and write down everything you can think of about the dream when you wake up. Write down any emotions, colors, or sequences. The more you write down, the more you will remember. Dreams can provide insight into problems and can be a type of hidden intuition that guides you in what to do about relationships, careers, or lifestyle decisions. To learn more, read books, listen to podcasts and videos about dream interpretation, or talk to a dream coach (dream therapist) about your dreams and what they mean. You may be surprised about how much you can learn about yourself and your life when you interpret your dreams—"the royal road to your unconscious.”

*Accept yourself as you are. In my classic bestseller, LoveTypes (shorturl.at/qxFU3), I taught readers how to determine and embrace their unique LoveType, one of 16 romantic personality styles, so they could find lasting love. The first step is to accept yourself as you are. Maybe you are the Idealistic Philosopher who loves psychology, philosophy, and the meaning of life. Or, you are a Caretaker who loves to take care of people. Perhaps, you are the Craftsperson who enjoys hands-on excitement, or the General who has a commanding presence. To find a compatible mate, you first need to appreciate who you are. If you’re an Idealistic Philosopher, be a proud one who takes pleasure in finding the meaning in life and talking about higher level ideas to help humanity. If you’re a General, embrace your powerful nature and don’t worry that some insecure people may be intimidated by your; there are plenty of individuals who will respect and admire your inner strength. In the dating world, don’t try to change yourself to win someone’s heart—what I call the “Dating Masquerade (putting on a psychological mask to impress a potential mate).” Instead, from the beginning of meeting someone, express your true, authentic self, and naturally connect with the person who resonates with your style.

*Find a similar type to love. Although opposites may seem to attract in dating situations, research shows that couple similarities in values, preferences, and beliefs seem to work better for successful long-term relationships. The reason is that similarities in key areas of a relationships tend to minimize conflict and ensure a more compatible and harmonious love partnership. This doesn’t mean that you have to be exactly the same as your mate—you may love bowling while your partner craves opera—that’s perfectly fine. The important thing is that you share similarities in the important things in life—how you view the world, how you make decisions, how you organize your life. In my latest book, GuyTypes (shorturl.at/gjoP2), I talk about the four Love Groups—Meaning Seekers, Excitement Seekers, Security Seekers, and Knowledge Seekers. Once you know which group you fall into, you can network and get involved with groups, activities, and organizations that have a significant number of individuals who share the same type. If you’re a Meaning Seeker, for example, you can meet a like-minded Meaning Seeker at psychology or spirituality talks, events, or meetup groups. If you’re a Knowledge Seeker, you can find a fellow Knowledge Seeker at activities and groups related to science, technology, business, and innovation. Regardless of your type, the good news is that there is someone for you who matches your nature and can be a wonderful long-term compatible love partner.

Yes, you can make your dreams come true—in love, finances, career, health, and happiness. You need to embrace who you are—your unique personality style—and make the effort to understand your complete nature, including the unconscious parts of our mind that are expressed in your dreams. By fully acknowledging who you are—your wishes, dreams, desires, values, and goals—you can achieve what you want in life, including finding and keeping a lasting love relationship with the person of your dreams.

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Would you like to have great sex and romance? Now you can by fully understanding your partner with the power of Enneagram personality analysis. We just had a wonderful guest on Love University, Ann Gadd, who illuminated the secrets of wonderful sex and love through the power of Enneagram Types—a fascinating system of human understanding and connection. The first step is to discover your own type and your partner’s type. Next, by applying the knowledge of Enneagram types, you will be able to harmonize with your partner, help them grow, and deeply connect with them. In the end, you will learn how to fully appreciate, and be grateful, for each other’s uniqueness as you work together to build an amazingly loving and sexy relationship that lasts.

Here are the 9 Enneagram types in sex and love:

1’s: Structured Perfectionists: These are the meticulous people who love to organize, mobilize, and keep the rest of us safe. Their challenge is that they may put perfectionism over pleasure. During lovemaking, they may criticize you for leaving clothes on the floor, instead of enjoying the moment. KEY TO GREAT SEX AND LOVE: Teach them to let go of their need for control and, instead, to focus on the moment—to think about what is going right with the relationship right now.

2’s: Considerate Caretaker: They are the earth mother or earth father who takes care of you and have a strong desire to please you. In sex, they are eager to please but may not ask for their needs to be met, eventually resulting in frustration and resentment. KEY TO GREAT SEX AND LOVE: Show them how to acknowledge their own love and sexual needs, and encourage them to receive.

3’s: Achieving Promoters: These are the irresistible people with enormous drive, ambition, and charisma. They can light up any room they walk into. KEY TO GREAT LOVE AND SEX: Show them that sex and love is not always a performance (“Look at how many orgasms we got”). Teach them how to relax and let go of the need for control so they can fully enjoy passion and romance.

4’s: The Romantics: These are the sensitive, artistic, creative, and spiritual souls. They often suffer from the feeling that something is missing in their relationships—even if it is an excellent one. KEY TO GREAT LOVE AND SEX: Help them focus on reality instead of fantasy, so they can learn to appreciate the good things they already have in the relationship—without always yearning for an unattainable and unrealistic fantasy world in their heads.

5’s: The Lonely Intellectual: These are the brilliant thinkers who believe that knowledge is power, competence is everything, and brains are sexy. KEY TO GREAT LOVE AND SEX: Help them realize that sex and love consists of more than just mind—it encompasses body, mind, and soul. Perhaps have them study up on Tantric sexuality, soulful sex, or romantic love expressions (poetry). Even though they may not grasp the emotional aspects at first, they can begin to think their way to their deepest emotions.

6’s: Loyal Lovers: These are the security conscious people who are loyal, committed, and long-term lovers. They believe they must always do things right. They worry a lot, “Will the condom break? Will I lose my erection? Will something go wrong in the relationship. Will my partner will leave me?” KEY TO GREAT LOVE AND SEX: Help them let go of the need to earn love; reassure them that you will always have their back as they have yours. Your love is secure.

7’s: Spontaneous Enthusiasts: These are the playful, spontaneous, and fun-loving types. They are always looking at the future—how to have more fun, joy, and pleasure. KEY TO GREAT LOVE AND SEX: Give them an outlet for their quest for more—whether it’s in career, hobby, or entertainment pursuits. You can join them or give them their “individual hobby” time. Then, they can come back to you with more sexual passion because they have indulged their need for freedom, fun, and spontaneity.

8’s The Big Boss: These are the powerful, commanding, and larger than life people. They can tend to dominate and shine in any situation, and they don’t like losing. Ever. They know what they want, and they will do anything to get it—rejection is not something they even consider. KEY TO GREAT LOVE AND SEX: Teach them to embrace the vulnerable side of themselves (it’s there deep down), so they can be your equal as opposed to your superior.

9’s Sensual Sweethearts: These are the sweet, good-natured, and flexible peacemakers of the world. They can merge into whatever their partner is into, and they are a calm, healing presence in the relationship. KEY TO GREAT LOVE AND SEX: Teach them how to recognize their needs as much as they want to please you. In this way, they will not be sexually and romantically frustrated, and they can settle into a comfortable feeling of satisfaction and contentment.

There you have it. Which type are you and which one is your partner? You may see yourself in one or more of these types and you may be attracted to someone who is opposite to you—that is perfectly fine. Often, opposites do attract in the Enneagram approach because they are looking for the hidden part of themselves—they want to harmonize and balance (for example a Big Boss female with a male Sensual Sweetheart). The one exception is the 4’s (Romantics), who tend to do well with each other because they are both yearning for that perfect, higher love.

Regardless of your type (and your partner’s type), the good news is that you can have an amazing relationship with your mate by deeply understanding and respecting each other’s personality styles and harmonizing together to create a strong relationship. It’s your turn now: Make it your mission to have the best sex and love possible with the partner of your choice. No matter what is going on in the world, you can appreciate the awesome truth: Everything is better with Love.

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Has the world got you down—making you feel anxious, sad, and worried? Now, there is hope and promise in a new way to live. It is called Psychological Utopia—a mental and emotional state of inner invincibility, love, and joy. You’ve heard of a Utopia—a perfect and loving world. Now, despite the turmoil and fear faced by the world in the current health crisis, you can learn how to create your own Inner Utopia, a state of peace, love, confidence, and emotional security. Here are some things you can do to bring this Psychological Utopia into your life and the lives of those you care about:

*Recognize the Paradox of Adversity. When you face adversity, you may suffer from fear, worry, and sadness. But, you are also able to learn from your circumstances and become a stronger and more loving human being in the process. After a tragedy or serious challenge, you can start to recognize the importance of simple things: hugging and kissing your loved ones; time spent with friends, children, and animals; doing the things you love; exercising, having a spiritual or meditative practice, helping others. Once our world goes back to normal, you will have a greater appreciation of these things that you may have taken for granted in the past. Like a breath of fresh air, you will feel elevated.

*Beware the Second Arrow. The first arrow of life is the difficult or painful circumstance—a health or financial setback, a broken relationship, frustration in career or work. You feel the pain of losing something you consider important in your life. This is normal and natural. The problem occurs when your mind adds the second arrow—your negative and even catastrophic interpretation of the event. A friend stops calling—you feel pain from the lost friendship. Now, you can stab yourself with a second mental arrow—“I will never have another friend like this,” or “I’m not lovable.” You have added to your own pain by your mental interpretation. A more healing approach is to say to yourself, “I will not allow the second arrow to hurt me. Maybe, it was time for our friendship to end. Although it hurts now, I know this experience can open the door for an even stronger and more beautiful friendship to enter my life. I am content as I am right now.” Now, you have cancelled the second arrow and have brought more peace into your life.

*Practice Virtual Closeness: In our current times, we are called to be physically distant from each other for health reasons. Although we need to be physically separated, we can still be emotionally connected. Research shows that loneliness and emotional isolation is one of the biggest causes of depression, poor health, and even an early death. Our goal is to maintain emotional closeness to people, regardless of how physically apart we are. We can still do virtual hangouts or virtual game nights; we can exercise, worship, and play together by video chatting. We can connect with long-lost friends and relatives and share our favorite things online—movies, books, songs—with others. Although we are physically apart, we can be connected through our hearts and minds and the advantages of technology. We can feel that we are united and connected, no matter where we are.

*Extend Loving Energy Without Expectation. One of the most beautiful mindsets to have for Psychological Utopia is to give love without expecting anything back. Smile at others, offer sincere compliments, help them with practical or financial matters, and listen attentively and empathetically to their concerns. Strive to bring light and goodness into other people’s lives, without asking for anything in return. The person you are kind and compassionate to may not return your favor, but perhaps someone you don’t even know will offer you loving energy when you need it the most. Your goal is to be like the sun—shining your loving energy everywhere you go. Of course, some people don’t like the sun—they cover up—but the sun doesn’t mind; it never gets mad. It just keeps shining on everyone. Although some may avoid the sun, there are plenty of people who love the sun and will lie out to receive its rays. In the same way, you can listen, volunteer, help, and love people like the sun—no matter what happens—because that is who you are: Loving energy.

Although this is a difficult and challenging time for many people, the good news is that our world society can become stronger and better once we come out of this crisis. As we all suffer from a common malady, we can become closer as human beings—as we recognize that we all share the same fears and pains, but we also share the same joy and love for our loved ones and our place on this earth. Also, this crisis is allowing us to go within—to become more internal—and ponder our place in the world and the meaning of our lives. This can also be a healthy and productive development. Finally, we begin to fully realize just how much we need each other, and how the power of love can transform lives.

Our mission at Love University is to help eradicate loneliness by the year 2025. At we unite as one world, one people, one love, through the power of technology, we can begin to accomplish this grand goal. As people learn how to love themselves, others, and a Higher Nature (God/spirit/nature), we can begin to eradicate loneliness, fear, and despair. Love indeed becomes the ultimate power for good. Share in it, and make this world the Psychological Utopia that will bring hope and light for all.

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In times of trouble and turmoil we often turn to the things that brings us comfort and guidance: Our higher power, family, loved ones, and country. With our special guest on Love University, J. Thomas Rompel, award-winning military thriller author (“Citizen Warrior”), we discussed how love can get us through the darkest days. Here are the important types of Love that can make life worth living:

Love of A Higher Nature: Many of us believe in a higher power or nature that loves and guides us. Some call it God, spirit, nature, essence, or simply the goodness of humanity. Regardless of what you call it, it’s important to commune with this Higher nature on a daily basis—expressing gratitude, faith, hope, and loving connection toward the Higher Nature and receiving the same in return. When life gets difficult, and we feel like we can no longer make it on our power, our Higher Nature is what we can rely on to carry us the rest of the way. Every day, make sure you pray, meditate, read spiritual blogs, listen to inspirational YouTube videos, and share your spiritual views with like-minded individuals. Most importantly of all, but your faith and spirituality in practice by being kinder to others—patient, forgiving, gentle, and loving. Strive to help people in any way you can and live by the higher principles you study. When you do this, you put your spirituality into application, and you will see amazing results in your life. Where before, you may have felt depressed, now you feel contentment and joy. Where before, you may have had doubt and uncertainty, now you have purpose and mission. Now you have the best of all worlds: You are living through your Higher Nature and your Higher Nature is living through you.

Love of Family and Friends: This is the rock-solid part of the lives of many: their spouses, children, family members, and close friends. We rely on these people as our rock-solid emotional and spiritual support. Of course, the reality is that not everyone has a family they can count on—due to divorce, illness, death, or addiction/mental health problems. Perhaps, you don’t have much of a family you can trust, but you have close friends who are like family. Or, you may feel lonely and let down because you believe that you have no one to love. If that is the case, you can create your own adult family—join an online group that relate to your favorite hobbies or interests and connect with like-minded friends. Perhaps, adopt a pet—dog, cat, bird, or fish—and express your affection toward your new animal friend. Get involved in a spiritual practice you resonate with and get to know those who share a similar tradition or belief. Spend as much time—online or off—with your loving family of biological relatives or friends doing the things you love to do, and your life will be much brighter.

Love of Country: Sometimes we forget the marvelous privilege of living in a country that provides us with the opportunity to be our best selves. A country is a collection of human souls who have either been born into, or came to a place, which they believed offered them and their children the best possible opportunities for love, security, and the pursuit of happiness. When an international crisis occurs, people can band together within their country, and worldwide, to help each other, and express a collective spirit of caring, compassion, empathy, and contribution It is a beautiful thing to feel part of a united whole in which we recognize the humanity and similarity of our values, beliefs, and dreams. No matter where we are from, we understand that we all want the same things: to love and be loved, to provide for our children, and to make a meaningful impact and contribution during our time on earth. The truth is that we belong to each other, and, working together, we can make the world a better place.

Yes, love in its many forms is the psychological vaccine that can save us from feelings of despair, regret, and fear when we face troublesome and challenging times. And, of course, to make it all work, we need to love ourselves as well. We love ourselves, not in an egotistical or self-centered way, but in a self-caring way that allows us to generate more energy and strength to help others. In your everyday life, make sure you practice self-care—good diet, exercise, sleep, spiritual practice—and forgive yourself for any errors you have may have made. Be self-compassionate just as you are compassionate to others and you will have more love to give to the world.

Remember: Love and the whole world loves with you. That is the best way to live.

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With recent events and the current pandemic gripping the world, many people are in shock, panic, and sadness. Yet, there is reason for hope and positive expectation as the human spirit has survived mind-bending catastrophes in the past and will continue to thrive in many times to come. This is the lesson we learned from our guest on Love University, Mia Kingsley, author of the award-winning post-apocalyptic novel, Survivors of the Sun. Here are some tips we learned from Mia about how to survive in the worst of times—even when we think the world may be coming to an end.

*We have to evolve: The world is constantly changing, and we need to change with it. As humans, we try to hang on to mental and emotional security, only to realize that constancy is fleeting. Everything changes and evolves. We grow older, hopefully wiser, and the things we had before we may not have tomorrow. Yet, we can also expand our consciousness, give and receive more love, and make a positive contribution—no matter what type of world we live in. Growth is an absolute.

*We need to be prepared: Catastrophic world events are no longer just seen in science fiction or some futuristic scenario. We are currently living in a world where dangers may come from unknown and different directions. In the current health crisis, we must have needed supplies, practice good hygiene, and limit our exposure to the virus until the health authorities tell us it’s OK to carry on as usual. Preparation eases our minds and helps us face the new challenges that await.

*Make something beautiful. All of us have something beautiful inside—perhaps a talent, ability, or attribute. Maybe, you’re good at music, sports, art, science, writing, teaching, business, crafts, or caretaking. Perhaps, you’re humorous and can make people laugh, or you’re an inspiring and motivating person who can help others be their best. Or, you just may be a strong, silent type who comforts people by your presence. Whatever your talent—in Spanish it is called “Don,” (gift from God)—use it to help yourself and others. If you’re stuck at home, engage in your hobbies and interests to enliven the lives of those around you. Make a new song, artwork, or crafts handiwork that you can give to others; bake a cake, write a story, teach a child something. Whatever you do, make it come from inside your own beauty, and you will enliven everyone’s day.

*It’s all about love. In the end, love is the ultimate prize and the ultimate solution. Spending time with your family and loved ones in difficult times is the silver lining behind the clouds of fear and despair. Giving love to others without expectation is one of the golden secrets to your everyday happiness. Smile at people, give them sincere compliments, do a video chat session with a hurting friend as you attentively listen to their problems. These are all ways you can extend loving energy to others on a daily basis. The key is that you will give love without expectation—without expecting that others will smile back, like you, or even be attentive to you. You give loving energy because you have it inside—and the more you give it, the more it grows. It’s true: Love is the only thing that can combat the darkness of fear and despair. Use it as your sword against suffering and you will be victorious.

Yes, it is possible to survive, and even thrive, in difficult and dark times. Whether you are suffering because of the current world health situation, or because you may have other personal challenges in your life, there is a solution—there is hope. Loving yourself, others, and a higher nature; putting your talents to use for the good of humanity; and evolving into the best human being you can possibly be. These are all solutions to fear, sadness, and loneliness. You will have joy in your heart and confidence in your step when you fully become who you were meant to be and project a shining example to all who cross your path. You will not just survive—you will prosper and a leave a lasting legacy of love and goodness to the world.

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Do you ever feel sad, depressed, or down-in-the dumps? It’s a common feeling for many people at certain times in their lives. Now, there is hope in the form of a new approach to self-love, as explained to us by a joyful woman, Jennifer Ayers-Belinkis on Love University. After recovering from Major Depression—a severe depressive disorder—she wrote a book of self-love and awakening called “Me.” Here are some of the lessons we learned for how to turn sadness into triumph:

See people as your teachers. Everyone we come into contact with—even difficult, annoying, and mean people—have a lesson to teach us. Instead of losing our mind with anger and frustration in our interactions with difficult people, we can slow down our mental movements and become aware of our thoughts and feelings, as we begin to understand the lesson we need to learn. Perhaps, we need to develop the skill of patience, or we need to have more compassion for the suffering of others—realizing how much the angry person destroys themselves with their own anger. When we learn the lesson, we can move our minds to a higher and safer place.

Smile every day. Make it a point each day to smile at family, friends, acquaintances, even strangers. When you smile, you express loving energy; you create a daily habit of extending your joy to others. As you do this, you may see different reactions: some will smile back and start a conversation; some will mumble a quick “hi,” and others will avoid your smile and walk hurriedly away. Regardless of their reaction, you will keep smiling because you have an inner warmth that you are expressing outwardly. The more you smile, the more joyful you will feel inside, and eventually you will discover those individuals who resonate with your smile.

Ask yourself: Was I in connection to my joy? Before you go to sleep at night, reflect on your day and think about whether you did the things that brought you happiness. Did you meditate, pray, exercise, listen to music, create something, play, or express love to your loved ones (humans or animals)? Did you take the time to savor that cup of your favorite drink; smell the flowers; breathe in fresh outdoor air? If you find yourself rushing around and spending most of your time on distracting and petty things that don’t contribute much to your happiness, then resolve to make tomorrow different. As you lie in bed, write down the one most important thing you can do tomorrow that will bring you joy; resolve to do that one thing at the very beginning of your day. Maybe it’s as simple as sitting quietly outside and reading your favorite book, while listening to the birds. Strive to do one thing you love, or have a strong affinity for, each day, and you will be a happier and more joyous person with more love to give to others.

*Ask yourself: What am I grateful for today? When you wake up each morning, think about all of the things you are grateful for. Now, you may say, “I don’t have much to be grateful for.” Perhaps, you’re struggling in your career, finances, relationships, health, or emotional well-being. Maybe, people have let your down and betrayed you, or you have been your own worst enemy as you let bad habits, poor mental thinking patterns, and out-of-control addictions hinder and enslave you. Yet, no matter how far down you have fallen down in the well of despair, if you look up, you can still see the sun. Think about it: Are you alive? Yes, then you can be grateful for that. Can you breathe fresh air; yes, you can be grateful for that. Can you savor the taste of food; if so, you can be grateful for that. Do you have anyone in your life—human or animal—that you can call a friend? If it’s “yes,” then be grateful for that. Have you been given any talent, ability, or advantage in life? If so, you can be grateful for that. Regardless of your current condition in life, chances are, you can find one or more things to be grateful for. The power of gratitude is that it lifts you from feeling sorry about yourself into feeling good about the gifts and blessings you have been given while you’re on earth. Research shows that keeping a gratitude journal—writing three things you’re grateful for every day—can reduce depression by 30% and increase sleep by 40%. Practice gratitude every day and you will find plenty in your life to be content about.

Yes, you can start to change your life by loving yourself, “Me,” not in a selfish or egotistical way, but in a way that renews your inner power so you can give more love to others and contribute to the world. Too many people sacrifice themselves to please others, or maintain the image that they think the world wants them to be, while neglecting their true authenticity—who they really are inside. Now, it’s time to “unmask yourself”—drop your artificial personality meant to impress others—and be your true self. Understand yourself, accept yourself, and love yourself. Once you do that, you can shine your loving light to others and make this world a better place.

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For the average person, the idea of going to a therapist for psychological help can be intimidating: “I’m not crazy; I’m not talking to a shrink.” Yet, therapy can be very helpful and healing for people with psychological issues (anxiety, depression, PTSD), as well as for those who are OK psychologically, but want to reach higher levels of happiness and success. In my work as a forensic psychologist, I help a lot of people recover who have suffered trauma from a personal injury or accident. In my work at Love University, we have helped many individuals eradicate loneliness and fear to achieve a higher state of excellence. In our current state of mass worldwide anxiety due to the Coronavirus, it is reassuring to know that therapy can help many of us reduce our feelings of anxiety and helplessness so we can create a brighter future for ourselves and our loved ones.

Here are some ways you can get the most from psychotherapy:

*Screen Your Therapist Carefully: After receiving a referral from a friend or family member, or searching online for highly reviewed therapists, set up a phone interview. See how comfortable you are talking to them by phone. You can also try them out for a couple of sessions in person to see how well you connect and if you feel empathy and understanding from them.

*Be Authentic: In your therapy sessions, express how you really feel—don’t hold anything back. If you’re angry or intimidated by your therapist, let them know. If you don’t think therapy is helping you, speak up. Your therapist, if skilled, can use everything you tell them as material to help you psychologically, even unpleasant or shameful things you are feeling. Don’t try to please or impress the therapist—be open to who you really are and what you’re really thinking.

*Think of Therapy Like a Mental Laboratory: Try out things in therapy you would never do in public. If you’re shy, roleplay being assertive. If you’re too aggressive, practice being more patient and a better listener. A good therapy session is like a laboratory of the mind in which you’re free to experiment with being whoever you want to be—in a safe and nonjudgmental place. With the lessons you learn from the therapy session, you can then go out into the world and try out your new persona: Ask that attractive person for a date; request a raise at work; take a risk on a new business or lifestyle venture.

*Set Milestones: With your therapist, you can establish a treatment plan—detailing what you want to accomplish in therapy. Set goals such as getting a new job, finding a compatible romantic partner, getting rid of bad habits or addictions, and developing a more positive mindset. You can even rate yourself on a scale—for example you’re currently a 5 out of 10 on self-confidence, but your goal is to get to a 9 out of 10. Each week after your therapy session, reflect on the lessons you have learned about yourself, and apply them to your daily life. As you track your progress with a journal or notebook, you can derive additional motivation to achieve even more internal and external objectives.

*Be Prepared to Work Hard and Grow: Therapy can be hard work. You may face parts of yourself that you’ve kept hidden for a long time—painful elements of your life that you’ve tried to forget. Feelings of regret, fear, sadness, and futility may all come up as you strive to become the person you really are inside. Yet, all the work you do in therapy will definitely be worth it. Just like the pain of childbirth yields a beautiful child, the struggle of therapy done well will create a new “You,” and help you accomplish everything you have ever wanted in life.

Although therapy may not be for everyone, many people can use this powerful tool to solve everyday problems and foster human growth and contentment. Start by choosing the right therapist—someone you can have confidence in—doing your work weekly and applying what you’ve learned in your daily actions. With the right therapist, you can perform wonders in your life, as you begin to reach your highest potential and live joyfully.

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On Love University, we had the pleasure of talking to our good friend, Dr. Paulette Sherman, Love Psychologist Extraordinaire. In these times of uncertainty and turmoil, we all need more loving relationships as a buffer against uncertain, fear, and doubt. Dr. Paulette has written 22 books on love and relationships, and had these words of wisdom on how to have great love and passion in our relationships:

*Marry Yourself First: When choosing a mate, make sure you are certain about your must-haves (and deal-breakers) before you let yourself fall for the chemical attraction to a person. If they don’t have what you need, it may be time to look elsewhere. What is your must list? Does your ideal partner need to be gentle, kind, and caring, or do you prefer someone who is smart, powerful, and committed? Nobody has every single personality quality, and your partner doesn’t need to be perfect, but you want someone who can match you in your deepest values, preferences, and lifestyle choices (i.e. your LoveType—your compatible personality style).

*Be Authentic: Some dating programs suggest that you play hard to get and hide your true feelings about the person—some research indicates that doing so may make you more attractive to others. However, this approach also creates a mask of insincerity that later comes off, potentially leading to hurt feelings and thoughts of being manipulated. On the other hand, being too vulnerable and open in the beginning can be a turn-off because you may come across as too needy. The best approach is to choose a middle ground—be authentic and honest about your interests and feelings, yet wait until you have an established relationship until you completely open yourself up emotionally.

*Pay Attention to What Your Partner Likes: You don’t have to like everything your partner enjoys; they may love football, while you love opera. But, it’s important to acknowledge their interest and passions even though you don’t share them. Although you know very little (and don’t care much) for the topic, you may ask “How was the opera (ball game)?” No, you are not being insincere or feigning interest in what they like. Instead, you are paying attention to your partner’s feelings about what they like—and giving them validation for being your unique partner who has their own interests, which makes them a more well-rounded and interesting person.

*Make Your Date Night Sacred: According to Dr. Paulette, research shows that couples who have a weekly date night have two to three times better sex and tend to divorce three times less often. Whether you are married, living together, or have been partnered for a long time, it’s important that you renew your love and connection by spending special time together. As of this writing, people are staying home because of the Coronavirus, but you can still have your special time. One reenergizing activity you can do at home is the sacred bath. While in the bathtub together for 20-30 minutes, you and your partner can relax as you lie in detoxifying bath salt and enjoy beautiful scents. You can center your minds around a positive intention of togetherness as you bring higher energy to your relationship: combining romance, intimacy, relaxation and spirituality into your time together.

What a wonderful relief and comfort it is to have a great love relationship in times of strife and trouble, as well as in good times to celebrate milestones and mutual accomplishments. The secrets of lasting love are as simple as loving yourself, putting yourself in the shoes of your partner (empathy), and extending loving energy without expectation to your mate.

And, of course, working on your relationship is very important. Think about it: You may work out several hours a week on your body, 40 hours or more on your job, but how many hours do you actually work on your relationship: talking, doing fun things together, expressing “I love you’s,” and engaging in sexual intimacy, romantic gestures and affection? The secret is that the more you invest in your love relationship, the more benefits you will receive. Your relationship can become like a never-ending gold mine that keeps bringing you treasure daily: love, happiness, and fulfillment.

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We had the pleasure of having a brilliant mind, Steve Almond, on Love University. Steve is the bestselling author of Candyfreak, and former cohost of the multi-million listener advice podcast, “Dear Sugar” with Cheryl Strayed, #1 NY Times bestselling author. Approaching his writing with a deep psychological understanding, Steve shared some fascinating insights on society, life, and happiness in America today.

*What Would You Tell Your 20-Year-Old Self? According to Steve, you could tell them to read, explore, and try different things to discover who they really are and want in life. But, Steve cautions, the 20-year-old self probably wouldn’t listen to the older self because they want to do things “their way.” The good news is that there is no need to regret mistakes you made in the past because when you’re in 2nd grade psychologically, you make 2nd grade mistakes. When you’re in college, you won’t make those same mistakes. Therefore, as you grow with life experiences, you will act differently than before—better and more aware—as long as you learn from your mistakes and help others learn from your mistakes (mentor them). As you do this, you become a happier human being.

*You Have an Obsession for a Reason: Steve admits that he is addicted to candy, and he went cross-country finding candies from his youth, as documented in his bestseller, Candyfreak. He says that we have obsessions for a reason—to try to end pain and struggle—things that are unbearable. Whether it’s a food or substance addiction, relationship addiction, or work addiction, we use the thing, person, or activity as an attempt to mask the pain we have deep inside. The problem is that the pain doesn’t go away; it is only temporarily covered up. The solution, Steve says, is to face the issue behind the pain (low self-worth, abusive background, and so forth) through reading, therapy, and self-analysis. Once we start growing inwardly, the obsession will tend to fall away by itself because we have something new to take its place: self-love.

*Pay Attention to Your Own Life: In book, William Stoner and the Battle for the Inner Life, , Steve talks about one of the biggest problems in society today: We’re so focused on getting attention from others, that we neglect to pay attention to our own inner life. Consequently, we make unhealthy and even self-destructive decisions. We think consuming a product or trying to win other’s approval will make us happy. It won’t. Steve say we need to be aware of who we are and what we stand for, so we can take the necessary steps to fully accept and represent our authentic selves, as we strive to help make the world a better place.

Yes, you can be happy and healthy as long as you accept who you really are, with full acceptance, and without regrets. Instead of covering up your fears and pains with external things, and trying to put on a false appearance to be appealing for others, you need to look within and develop love and courage as inner forces for good. When you do this, you can be truly authentic to your pure nature, and you can bring more love and happiness into your world and the worlds of those around you.

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Have you ever found yourself in a codependent relationship—in which you sacrifice yourself for someone who is emotionally immature, addicted, or underachieving? Codependency goes beyond just caring for someone; it can become an unhealthy relationship pattern in which you give up your own needs to try to fill your partner’s needs (which can’t be met). Here are some ways out of a codependent relationship:

*Establish Boundaries and Practice Direct Communication: Make your partner know that you won’t tolerate substance abuse, addictions, or emotional/physical abuse in the relationship. You will not allow your partner to use shame and guilt into pressuring you to do things you don’t want to do (“If you loved me, you would do this). Also, communicate directly. Codependent people tend to “beat around the bush” instead of saying what they really feel (they don’t want their partner to dislike or disapprove of them). When you say what you really think and feel, you are authentic with yourself and your partner, and you feel better as a result.

*Be Like a Visitor At a Mental Zoo: Recognize that you’re not responsible for your partner’s negative emotional reactions (anger, fear, sadness). You can be compassionate and empathetic to a point, but you also need to protect yourself from their negativity and attempts to manipulate your feelings. To do this, imagine that you’re a visitor to a zoo, and you see a lion who is roaring. Instead of feeling fearful, you are relaxed because you know the lion is in its cage, and you are safe. In the same way, when your partner roars at you and tries to intimidate you, visually imagine that there is a solid steel cage that protects their negativity from entering you—you are entirely safe and comfortable.

*Practice Self-Compassion: Love yourself and you can love others in the right way. Instead of making your life revolve around your partner, rediscover your passions in life—what makes you happy. Maybe, it’s writing, art, crafts, science, psychology, exercise, travel, caretaking, being with animals or children in nature, a spiritual practice. When you do what you love, you will rejuvenate yourself and recognize that you don’t have to rely on someone else to make you happy—you can find contentment within.

Caring and compassionate people can fall into the trap of being in a codependent relationship in which they try to “change” or “rescue” another person. This usually leads to emotional pain and turmoil because the other person may not want to be rescued, and you waste your time, energy, and spirit trying to change someone else. The key to having a healthy relationship is to extend loving energy to yourself, directly communicate your needs and desires, and set up psychological boundaries to protect yourself from someone else’s negative energies. When you do these things, you can be caring without being co-dependent; compassionate without being stuck in a bad, emotionally draining relationship. You can be free and loving and the same time.

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We were pleased to have on Love University: Andrea Bartz, acclaimed magazine editor, author (The Lost Night and The Herd, March 2020), and expert on “Hipster” culture. Here are some of the interesting tidbits we learned about the new generation of Hipsters (emphasizing style, authenticity and uniqueness), and the impact they’re having on society.

*Hipsters don’t call themselves “Hipsters.” Because they value uniqueness and “out of the box thinking,” they don’t like labels or attempts to categorize them or “put them in a box.” They are simply free-spirited, authentic, and creative individuals.

*Hipsters sprang from disillusionment: In the late 2000’s, the real estate collapse and recession in the US wiped out the stability dreams (education, job, house, security) of many young people. Many youths began to question the myth that society would take care of them if they did the right things (get an education, work hard). Consequently, the Hipsters began to develop an anti-consumerism/anti-commercialism outlook, while emphasizing equality and fairness in both economic and social terms.

*Hipsters are creative and look for new patterns: Much of our new technology and lifestyle innovations are driven by Hipster demand for creative, egalitarian, and eco-friendly ways of living, working, and loving. Hipsters today are positive and hopeful, making calls for saving the earth and creating progressive change in society—making things better for all people.

Although there are challenges in our new technology-driven world (more time demands, higher expectations), we can learn positive things from our younger generation of Hipsters. With an innovative, fair-minded, and hopeful outlook, they can inspire people of all ages to search for their best life and give back to those who need it the most.

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This week, we posted a great interview with a special friend of Love University, Bob Eckstein, America’s beloved cartoonist, humorist, and New York Times bestselling author. Through his funny tales and whimsical sense of humor, we learned some valid truths about love and life, as follows:

*Humor is a Turn-On: Research shows that having a sense of humor can attract a romantic partner. We tend to recognize humor as a sign of intelligence, which is also an attractive trait to have in a mate. Moreover, when we laugh, we release the hormone cortisol, which lowers our stress level and makes us feel better. It’s true that we like to be around others who make us laugh. If you’re single, expand your “funny muscles”—go to comedy clubs, listen to the best comedians, read funny books, take an improv (improvisational acting) class. Try writing someone of your own jokes and humorous stories, and practice them first on people you know and trust. Then, tell them to people you don’t know. Eventually, you can become a funnier person who brings light and joy to others—and can potentially attract someone who resonates with your sense of humor.

*Marry Your Enemy and Get Them to Love You: In Bob’s case, he met his wife in college, but they were “competitive enemies” who disliked each other. 12 years later, they reconnected by random at a funeral and the romantic sparks flew between them—today they are very much in love and happily married. According to Gottman’s groundbreaking research on marriage success, couples who fight and have conflicts don’t necessarily get divorced or have bad marriages. Sometimes, the passion in the relationship sparks conflict, but the happy couples are equally skilled at defusing and softening conflicts (humor, a timely physical touch) so that it doesn’t escalate into something mean-spirited and hurtful. Some differences, and even conflict at times, can add a touch of energy and passion to a relationship as long as the couple fully understand and respect each other, and place each other first in each other’s hearts.

*Look for the Joy and Wonder in the World: Bob wrote two well-received books on topics he was passionate about: bookstores and snowmen. He traveled around the US finding small independent bookstores and interviewing the owners—learning about the passion they had for that endangered species: the brick-and-mortar bookstore. Then, he spent 7 years traveling around the world—museums and libraries—to discover the history of the snowman (figure made from snow). He learned that prehistoric man made snowmen as a form of communication—covering a variety of topics from social to political. Also, according to Bob, going to a snowy place, and making a snowman, can have therapeutic benefits. You can recapture the childhood spontaneity of play and develop your creativity. According to Bob, all of us can benefit by making a snowman at some point in our life.

Bob’s message is simple, but powerful: Find your passion and become an expert at it, whether it’s cooking, writing, gardening, meditation, exercise, art, technology, and so on. You can do it for a living or just for fun. The key is to learn as much as you can about your passion, and immerse yourself in the thing you are most fascinated about. It’s true: the more you practice and apply your passion in your daily life, the happier and more joyful you will feel, and the more love you can give to yourself and others.

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On Love University, we had the great pleasure of having an amazing interview with Dr. John Gray, one of the most influential self-help/relationship authors in the last century. In a jam-packed and enlightening discourse about Dr. Gray’s groundbreaking new book, Beyond Mars and Venus, we learned great wisdom about male-female relationships and how to have deeper love and greater sex and intimacy. Here are some of the secrets we discovered at Love University with Dr. Gray:

Why Women are Becoming More Masculine and Men More Feminine: According to Dr. Gray, society has guided women onto their male side by encouraging work and independence (which is a great thing), but has not supported them to return to their female side of nurturing and love when they get home from work. Therefore, women are more stressed than ever, suffering from more health problems usually seen in men, and having difficulties in their romantic relationships. In the same way, men have been guided by society to their feminine side (which can be a wonderful thing) by embracing home chores and child care, but they are not always encouraged to replenish their male energies (go into their “cave” and tinker with toys, driving, sports, aggressive humor with other men, competitive activities based on competence, and reading and meditating for more Introverted men). If men don’t replenish their male side, says Dr. Gray, they feel weaker, less capable of protecting and providing for their loved ones, and less attracted to their mates.

How to Balance our Masculine and Feminine Energies to Have Great Relationships: Dr. Gray teaches that both men and women need to balance their masculine sides (assertive, competent, confident) with their feminine sides (yielding, nurturing, receptive) to be happy with themselves and in their relationships. According to Dr. Gray, men have 10 to 50 times more testosterone than women, and it’s important that they keep their testosterone levels high to be healthy and happy by feeling successful and needed. On the other hand, women need 10x more estrogen than men for their well-being and they need 20x more estrogen to fall in love when they’re with a man who makes them feel safe and secure.

Why A Man’s Ejaculation During Sex Can Lower His Charisma and Confidence: According to Dr. Gray, when a man ejaculates during sex, his testosterone levels decrease significantly (as much as 50% by the next day). As a result, after ejaculation during sex, he feels the need to pull away and be by himself for a while to replenish his testosterone, while the woman usually wants to cuddle because the bonding hormone, oxytocin, has increased her estrogen levels (she feels good). Dr. Gray says that by not ejaculating during the first 6 days of the week, on the 7th day, the man’s testosterone level doubles—thereby making him more charismatic, confident, and attractive. Dr. John talks about his program that can help men have satisfying sex daily without ejaculating, while helping a woman have multiple orgasms.

*How A Man Can Contribute to a Woman’s Emotional and Sexual Happiness: According to Dr. John Gray, there are a few simple things a man can do to help raise his woman’s emotional and sexual happiness. These include complimenting her (“I love you; you’re beautiful”), hugging her in a nonsexual way, and listening to her expressing her emotions without judgement. These activities increase estrogen in her and make her feel more attracted to him. In one excellent exercise for couples, Dr. Gray outlines an estrogen-increasing paradigm for women in their relationships. Step one: She vents emotionally about something aside from her partner (he listens) for about 8 minutes. Step Two: She talks for two minutes about positive things; what’s she grateful for in life and in the relationship. Step Three: He hugs her. Step Four: They separate for a while (to prevent him from trying to fix things)—then they come back together again.

The Secrets of Lasting Soul Mate Relationships—the New Mating Paradigm in the Age of Technology: According to Dr. Gray, the old paradigm of role mate relationships (woman relies on man as a provider to be happy; he relies on her as a homemaker to be happy) has given way to a new soul mate relationship: men and women provide emotional support to each other through intimacy and authenticity. The soul mate relationship fosters a greater sense of freedom, interdependence, passion, and sexual intimacy because the partners are not tied to a specific role to be happy. According to Dr. Gray, a couple can still have a traditional relationship (he’s the provider; she stays home with the children) within a soul mate relationship in which both partners help each other grow emotionally and psychologically.

Yes, it is possible to have lasting passion and romance in our love relationships today. The key is to balance our male and female sides and take time to replenish our masculine/feminine energies (respectively for males and females), while respecting our partner and giving them loving energy without expectation. By developing a greater sense of empathy, we can see our partner’s side and needs, and by fostering greater compassion, we can do what we can to relieve their suffering and bring them joy as they bring us joy.

Here’s to a forever Valentine’s day for you and your present (or future) soul mate. Enjoy!

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Is your dog a possibility dog—a marvelous creature that can help humanity? If so, it can be not only be an amazing companion but can also help save lives—both emotionally and physically. Our special guest, rescue dog expert extraordinaire, Susannah Charleson, trains dogs for three purposes: 1) to find lost people with special needs (e.g. Alzheimer’s), 2) to serve as service dogs to help people with psychological disorders, and 3) to help find other lost dogs. Here Susannah shares some fascinating inside information on how special “possibility” dogs can help save us from the worst and inspire us to be our best.

*Dogs can help find people with special needs. According to Susannah, some people with conditions such as Alzheimer’s, dementia, and autism don’t even know they’re lost—they could be wondering in the street far away from home without a clue as to how they got there. Specially trained dogs can help find them by scent (pillow or shoe, for example). Also, because they are super loving and nonthreatening (golden retrievers are a favorite), they don’t scare the lost person and give them comfort when they find them.

*Service dogs can help those with psychological disorders. Specially trained service dogs are taught to perform specific tasks that counteract the person’s psychological disability. For example, a dog can put their paws on their obsessive-compulsive owner to break their pattern of constantly checking things in the house (stove, e.g.). Another dog can nudge the owner with their nose to play with them (or bring their leash to go outside) when the owner is suffering from depression and doesn’t want to get out of bed.

*Dogs can provide us emotional support and help us reconnect with others. Susannah shares the story of how she reconnected with her separated family through a small rescue dog that they shared love for. When we pet a dog, the bonding hormone, Oxytocin, is released in us and the dog—making us feel more loving and loved. In fact, rescued dogs can be the most loving because they are immensely grateful to be rescued and have a safe home.

Overall, Susannah says, dogs can teach us marvelous lessons of unconditional love (dogs love us no matter what), forgiveness (they forgive earlier abusive owners), and patience (they wait forever for us by the door). In fact, we can even follow the example of “magnet dogs” (caring dogs that find other lost dogs), by being “magnet people”—we can make others feel comfortable and at ease by providing empathy and compassion to them. By giving love without expectation, we can model the nature of that most marvelous of creatures, one of our best friends in life, the dog. Go play with a dog today and feel the love!

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Would you like to live gloriously and achieve your heart’s desires? Now, you can, with the help of our special guest on Love University: Macarena Luz Bianchi, esteemed author, spiritual teacher, and lighthearted empowerment coach. In our everyday life, many of us feel distracted and stressed; anxious and sad that we are not worthy enough to get what we truly want. With the marvelous truths we learned from Macarena, we can begin to reclaim our birthright as the Kings or Queens we really are.

*Think of Life as a Theme Park of Experience: Consider your life to be like a theme park in which you try different rides. Some are relaxing; some are scary; some are boring; some are tremendous fun and joyful. If you’ve had enough of a particular ride, then you can switch to a new one—from fear to joy; from anger to forgiveness. Always remember that you are the amusement park operator of your own mind, and you can get on the ride that will bring you (and those around you) the most contentment and peace.

*Shine Your Love to Attract Love: Many people desperately look for a love partner to fill their heart. The solution to finding a true loving romantic partner is to first discover what you love inside yourself. Maybe, you have a talent or gift—writing, technology, persuasion, technology, speaking, entertainment, crafts—whatever it is, express it and meet people like-minded people who resonate with your talent. Chances are, you will eventually discover a partner you can share your love with as you learn and grow together—shining brighter together than you do individually.

*Measure the Energy in a Situation: Many times, we are focused on action—doing, accomplishing, achieving—yet we often feel stressed, overburdened, and confused. When we try to impress other people in a work setting, or win over a potential romantic partner, we may feel too eager, or even desperate, to make a good impression. The solution is to take a moment and ask yourself: “What is the energy I’m experiencing at this moment? Is it a happy and flowing energy, or do I feel tight, constrained, and joyless—forcing something that is not natural?” By taking an energy inventory in any situation or social encounter, you can center yourself in a calm and loving way. You can play instead of being tense; giving positive vibes, instead of retreating into your own self-consciousness. When you do this, you will naturally influence others and attract the right people and circumstances into your life.

*Claim Your Birthright as a Queen or King: By virtue of being born into this world, you are a miracle of creation. You are a Queen or King in your truest nature. The problem is that we don’t often claim our own inner worth. We ask questions out of fear or anxiety: “What will happen to me?” “Why don’t I get what I want?” The correct approach is to make statements to the Universe: “I will love to the fullest; I will create, give, and experience everything I possibly can.” “I will live a glorious life.” When you make statements like this, you claim your place in life—you take a stance and say, “This is what I love; this is what I have now.” Now, you are establishing a firm foundation for who you really are: a wondrous creation of joy and love.

Yes, you can experience glorious living. With persistence and play (being spontaneous and authentic), you can reclaim your inner royalty and be the best, happiest, and most loving person you can possibly be. Start today and decide that you will live gloriously every single moment—giving as much love and joy as you receive in return.

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It is said that unconditional love is possible between pet owner and pet (and parent to young child), but is it possible in adult human romantic/love relationships? Many of us would like to have that type of deep, intimate, and spiritual love with our chosen love partner or spouse. For those of you who are single, you may look at the divorce rate and wonder if unconditional love—love that stands the test of obstacles and differences—is possible in our fast-moving, multi-option society. After all, the next partner is only a click away—can love last?

Yes, unconditional love between romantic partners is possible if you follow these steps:

*Love Yourself Unconditionally: It’s important to love yourself unconditionally first—without constantly attacking yourself or regretting your past mistakes. You may be harsh and critical with yourself—which then may resonate to the people around you (including your love partner), as you criticize them for their flaws. When you love yourself unconditionally, you are more gentle and forgiving with yourself and others. Also, when you love yourself in the way we are describing, you are not doing so in a selfish or egotistical manner, but in a way that is self-healing. When you take care of your emotional core, you have more energy and power to give to others—to help others—especially your love partner.

*Buy or borrow a pet: Whether you’re a dog lover, cat lover, or some other type of animal lover, being around an animal can give you a glimpse of unconditional love. Your pet will love you—no matter what, even if you kick them out of the house for a while. They are always eager to be petted, to lick you, to jump on you, and to play with you. In turn, you can have love for them as you care for, and play with them. If you have no one else in your life to love unconditionally, start with a pet—the more you give love unconditionally and receive it, the more your unconditional love muscles will grow.

*Practice Loving Kindness Meditation: Research has documented various physical benefits (decreased headaches, stress, and effects of aging) and psychological benefits (increase positive emotions) for those who practice Loving Kindness Meditation (LKM). Even ten to fifteen minutes a day can do wonders in your mental and physical health if you practice LKM. Try this: Close your eyes, sit in a comfortable position, and imagine that you are sending love without expectations to a loved one (parent, child, love partner) sitting in front of you. Imagine that you are shining a light with a certain color (perhaps yellow or blue) that represents that loving energy. Now imagine that you are spreading that loving energy to other members of your immediate circle (family member, close friends), then to acquaintances and coworkers, and finally to people you don’t even know (everyday people; homeless, neglected, lonely, sick, abandoned). Take a deep breath each time you expand your loving energy to more people. Then, open your eyes and feel the love you just projected filling you up inside.

*Express Love Unconditionally Daily as an Action: Realize that love is more than a feeling—it is an action that should be practiced daily, even when it’s uncomfortable to do so. Listening with love to your partner when you’re stressed or angry at them is not easy, but it’s important to do so to keep the relationship strong. When you set up a hot bath for your tired mate or surprise them with their favorite musical CD; when you take the time to solve a problem they have—without expecting anything in return—that is Unconditional Love. Strive daily to express unconditional love to your romantic partner, and to those around you (family, friends, acquaintances, strangers). Practice, being kind and helpful to others—smile, say “hello”; help people with practical or psychological issues. Every day can be a training ground for you to express more loving energy without expectations to your love partner and the world around you.

Yes, it is possible to love your romantic partner or spouse unconditionally, as they do the same for you. You can also express love unconditionally to others, and the world itself. Loving unconditionally doesn’t mean that you accept abuse from others, or that you agree with everything they say. It means that you will understand and accept them as they are. In a love relationship, you will love your partner in sickness and health, in wealth or poverty, despite disagreement, conflicts, and problems in life. Your love will flow from your inner nature—as their love flows the same way—until you both intersect in the zone of pure, unadulterated joyful love; the greatest feeling in life.

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We had the pleasure of having a distinguished guest on the show, Ricard Blanco, the inaugural poet for President Barack Obama’s second inauguration in 2013. One of only five inaugural poets ever selected, and the only gay and Latino poet to recite a poem at a President’s inauguration, Richard spoke to us about this great honor and the work he has done to help unite all Americans through the written word. Here are some nuggets of wisdom we learned from Richard:

*He was selected to be the Obama’s Inaugural Poet Out of the Blue: There was no competition, no notice, no formal process for being selected as the Inaugural Poet. He was simply called by the administration to write three poems for President Obama, and they selected “One Today,” a poem about how all Americans—from all backgrounds—can unite to make this a great country. According to Richard, presenting his poem and speaking personally with President Obama for over twenty minutes was one of the greatest honors of his life.

His grandmother wanted him to be a “man”: In his funny and poignant memoir, The Prince of los Cocuyos: A Miami Childhood*, Richard talks about being raised by a traditional Cuban grandmother who constantly told him to be more “manly.” His grandmother bribed him to go to a Quinceañera (15th birthday celebration) with a girl, and told him that American oatmeal wasn’t manly. Although he loved his grandmother, Richard started to explore who he was and what he belonged to during his upbringing. In the end, he went from hating, forgiving, and then loving his grandmother in his inspiring coming-of-age story.

*His advice to writers and readers: Journal and write something every day. Even if you never publish it, you will learn something new about yourself, relationships, and the world. Writing makes it so that life doesn’t pass you by—you press the pause button, and question your existence, as you make amazing discoveries along the way. The power of the written word is that you learn how to accept yourself. The power for the published writer is that your words can live forever—in the heart and souls of those who read your work.

*Find time for life: In our busy world, you may say, “I don’t have enough time.” Instead, you can say to yourself that you have time for the really important things in your life—for your loved ones, your craft, your personal health and happiness, and to give love to others.

In the end, as Richard eloquently expressed in his Inaugural poem, we are all One. Regardless of our gender, sexual orientation, race/ethnicity, age, or socio-economic status, we are all Americans who live in the US, we are all humans on the planet, and we are all souls in the higher existence. Our ideal aim is to live in the country of our choice—peacefully, lovingly, and happily—by contributing to make it a better place for all.

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It’s time to become the best you can possibly be. Here are some tools to help you reach your greatest potential in 2020 and beyond:

*Discard the Little Bads: Be aware of the all the little negative and nagging thoughts in your mind: “I can’t afford it.” “I don’t have enough time.” “I can’t find love.” These are the “little bads”—self-defeating small thoughts that proliferate in your head. Replace them with “big thoughts”: “I have enough time and money for everything I need.” “I am love, and I will attract the right love into my life.” Switch a few small thoughts for big thoughts daily, and you will see a world of difference in your attitude, vision, and motivation.

*Take Easy Action: 90% of New Year’s Resolutions fail because people try too many things and expect too much, too soon: “Lose 50 pounds in a few months,” “Find a soul mate in 6 months,” “Make a Million this year.” Although big goals can be motivating, you also need to take easy, digestible steps toward those goals. If you want to lose weight, agree to go to the gym for 15 minutes a few times a week. If you want to save more money, start by paying yourself first—a certain percentage of your income—and put it in a separate investment account. Whatever your goal is, focus on taking small, easy-to-do steps daily. The cumulative effect of the simple actions will lead you to achieving great goals.

*Write Your Future Story: Meditate on your greatest self—how you will be in one year or five years as you become who you were meant to be. Close your eyes and visualize what you will look like, where you will be, what you will be doing, who is around you, and what you will be feeling in the near future as you achieve your goals. See yourself surrounded by loved ones, doing the work you love, and looking and feeling great. You can also write this in a journal or put it up on a vision board with pictures that represent the new, best you, and the type of life you’re leading (beautiful home, travels, creative and humanitarian ventures; great friends, a loving partner, happy and healthy children and animals). The more you visualize greatness, the more you can actualize your dreams—making them come true.

*Extend Loving Energy Without Expectation: This is one of the greatest secrets to success and happiness: Give to others without expecting anything back. Volunteer, join a charitable or humanitarian organization, help the people around you (friends, loved ones, business associates), or even those you don’t know (homeless, strangers). When you extend your loving energy, you are learning more about yourself—your ability to give; the resources you never thought you had. You will also elevate your mood, connect better with others, and serve as a positive role model to elevate the mood of those who see your loving example.

Yes, you can reinvent yourself in 2020 (and beyond). You may still have the same body and name, but your spirit and mind will be different, better, and more fulfilled. Take steps every day to make each year better for yourself and others. Give of your greatest self and you will receive everything you need in return. Enjoy the new You!

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In a world of strife and stress, what can we do to live peacefully, lovingly, and with power? Our special guest, Buddhist Minister Anthony Stultz, gave us some excellent pointers on how to master our “Monkey Mind” (chattering thoughts) and start the year with true excitement and contentment. For a great new year of patience and peace, practice the 4 Steps of Mindfulness (awareness of our thoughts and human experience):

*Recognize Your Emotional Hooks: All of us have something, a psychological trigger or hook, that lures us (chocolate cake) or makes us angry (bad drivers), sad (we’re getting older), or fearful (financial concerns). These events, circumstances, or people trigger self-defeating thoughts in us that limit us and make us feel bad. The solution is to be aware of these “emotional hooks” as they arise. For example, when a rude driver cuts you off on the highway, be aware of the thought, “That idiot cut me off. How dare they?”

*Realize That You Don’t Have to Act on the Negative Thought: In the example of the rude driver, you can realize that you don’t have to yell, flip them off, or do anything about your anger thought and reaction. You can simply feel the burning sensation of anger, and even see it as a color (perhaps red), without having to do anything about it; just look at it as a foreign mental entity that is invading you for the moment.

*Do Something to Bring You Out of the Negative Space: When the negative thought attacks you, take an action that moves you away from the present negativity. Be aware of your breath, think of something absurdly humorous about the lousy driver and laugh, breathe deeply in and out as you visualize breathing out anger and breathing in peace. Put on some of your favorite music; think of a beautiful place you can go. Realize that you can lift yourself from your stuck emotional place at the very moment that the negative feeling (excessive anger) is attacking you. This gives you tremendous power.

*Extend Compassion and Empathy: Although it may be difficult to do at first, your final step is to extend compassion and empathy to the person or circumstance that is causing you distress. See the impatient driver as a frenzied mother or father who is having a bad day. Feel compassion for their suffering—see how much they suffer from their own impatient and frantic nature. Extend loving energy to them—even have an inner smile—in which you wish them peace, joy, and happiness. When you do this, an emotional miracle occurs in which you no longer feel the self-destructive feelings of unreasonable anger; now you experience the healing and light feeling of loving energy.

Yes, it is possible to get out of your own way mentally and master the inner workings of your mind. Awareness, meditation, breathing, and realizing that everything is impermanent—all things change—are excellent tools of inner transformation and growth that you can apply to make your life better on a daily basis. Regardless of your faith belief or spiritual practice, the truth is simple: The energy you bring to a situation usually influences the way it turns out. If you see the world with eyes of love, compassion, and success, you will attract more of the same into your world. Do this every day, and vow to make this your best year ever.

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Are you burned out? It’s the end of the year, and you may have had a tough or challenging time. Perhaps, you feel overwhelmed, exhausted, depleted. Now, there’s a way to conquer burnout—that feeling that you have nothing more to give—and recapture your energy, joy, and motivation again. Apply these tips to your life and get back on track to a powerful new year:

*Focus on Your Don: All of us have a “Don”—a God-given gift or ability. It may be teaching, writing, business, science, the arts, working with your hands, or taking care of people. This is the activity or ability that comes natural to you and brings you joy. Focus on doing more of it at work, or find work that allows you to express your passion and talent on a daily basis. Even if you only exercise your Don as a hobby, the energy and joy that comes when you do it will fill you up and reduce any feelings of doubt and frustration.

*Say “No” to Overcommitment: Maybe you’re a people-pleaser who finds it hard to turn down assignments at work or unwelcome social invitations. If you have a hard time saying “No” to people, start by saying “No” to small requests for time, money, or energy. Say “No” to people who want to gossip and waste your time; say “No” to tasks that are better delegated to people who can do them better than you. As you do this, you will begin to liberate your time and energy for the things that really matter—your loved ones, your passions, and your health and spiritual practice.

*Practice Self-Compassion: Take time out every day to take care of yourself—mentally, physically, and spiritually. Recognize your “resistant” point—the moment when you have no more energy for a task or social encounter. When you reach that point, stop and take a break. Get a massage, facial, or go shopping. Write, read, meditate, listen to music. Exercise, engage in a spiritual or meditative practice, spend time with animals, children, or loved ones, take an excursion into nature. Tell yourself that you have done enough work for the day; you have dealt with enough problems or difficult people; now it’s time to take care of yourself and recharge your batteries.

*Take a Power Nap: One of our greatest inventors, Thomas Edison, had over 1000 patents, including the incandescent light built. His secret: Power naps. Although he only slept a few hours a night, he would take periodic 15 minute naps during the day to energize himself so he could get back to his creative and brain intensive work. You can do the same. Perhaps, you can put a cot in your office, or go to a park or quiet place where you can take a short nap during the day. Doing so will re-energize you and get your back on track for a great day.

*Give Love Without Expectations: This is one of the greatest secrets, not just to reduce burnout, but to live a fantastic and contribution-filled life. It is also a great reversal. When you’re feeling burned-out, find a burned-out person and help them feel better—give them comfort, advice, and practical help (maybe help them organize their office or house). If you’re lonely or broke, find a person who is lonelier and more broke, and help them in any way you can. By doing this, you will reverse your flow of energy from inward—tight, scared, frustrated—to outward: Loving, giving, and helpful. By extending your loving energy outward, you will replenish your own inner energy, and you will find that the Universe of people will often give you back more than you give them.

Yes, you can diminish and even eradicate the feeling of burn-out. You can have maximum energy, desire, and joy to live your best possible life. As the New Year arrives, decide that you will live with passion, purpose, and power, and you will not let anything get in your way. This is your year: Live with maximum power and absolute love.

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Does your dog love you? Research shows that it probably does. In one study, they showed dogs how to open a box, then put the dog’s owner in the box. When the owner screamed for help, the majority of dogs went to the rescue. In another study, the brain of dogs had more activity in their reward centers when they were close to their owner—even more than when they had food in front of them. And, of course, your dog may cuddle and lick you when you’re feeling down—a loving feeling if there ever was one.

Of course, not everyone loves dogs, but it you’ve thought about getting one, here are some good reasons to put a Fido into your life.

*Increase Your Mindfulness: The dog can teach you how to live in the moment. Forever smelling everything in their way, dogs can teach you to “slow down and smell the roses”—to be aware of your body and all the sensations you’re feeling; to relax and take time out of your busy schedule to appreciate the beauty of life. Relaxation and feelings of joy and well-being will follow when you live in the moment.

*Improve Your Physical Health: Being around a dog can reduce your stress, lower your blood pressure, and improve your cholesterol levels. It can even help you recover quicker from a heart attack. And, walking a dog will give you needed exercise—studies show that dog owners take 2700 more steps daily, which translates to nearly ½ hours of exercise daily. Walk your dog and live healthier.

*Improve Your Mood: The affection and companionship dogs provide have been shown to reduce depression and anxiety, and increase feelings of well-being, comfort, and meaning. Lonely and depressed people feel better when they have a dog. Instead of being stuck in their own negative thoughts, they can focus their attention outwardly on their furry friend—playing with them, taking care of them, and receiving love in return.

*Give You Unconditional Love: Dogs offer the rarest of gifts: Love without conditions. They love you no matter what—even if you put them in the doghouse for a while. Also, being around a dog increases the presence of the love bonding hormone—oxytocin—in both you and the dog. Through the power of touch—caressing and hugging your dog—you will have more of these feel-good chemicals in your brain and experience the warm feeling of being close to another creature who loves you back.

Yes, dogs can be smelly, messy, and require a lot of time, money, and energy. But, the payoffs of dog ownership are more than worth the investment you make. If you choose the right dog for you and take care of it in the way you need to (plenty of attention and exercise), you and the dog will benefit greatly—physically, emotionally, and psychologically. After all, they say, it’s a dog’s world, and we’re just living in it.

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We had the privilege of having M.J. Fièvre, Haiti’s beloved author, educator, and publisher on Love University at the Miami Book Festival. Raised in an environment of silence, trauma, guilt, and violence, M.J. Fievre signed her first book contract at age 19 and was able to find the love within—inspiring many people worldwide with her fiction and nonfiction artistic creations.

Here are some of the nuggets of wisdom we learned from M.J at Love University:

*Own Your Past: When M.J. wrote her memoir about her difficult childhood, many of her family members turned against her—she had violated the taboo of speaking up about personal issues. Yet, her advice to would-be writers and those who need to tell their story is this: “You own everything that has happened to you.” In other words, don’t hide, deny, or feel guilty about your past, share your story with others—whether in written or verbal form—and you will discover relief, peace, and inner acceptance.

*Tomorrow will be better: Growing up in Haiti, she was exposed to protests, looting, shooting, and home invasions. Fear was her daily companion. Yet, M.J. advises us to realize that, although life can be difficult at times, the bad things will pass—good things will come. Our aim is to work daily to bring good, optimism, love, and gratitude into our lives as we do the same for others. That is one of the true secrets of happiness.

*Light Your Own Fire/Accept Your Nature: M.J. describes her lifelong struggle with depression, and gives readers hope in her book of poetry about mental illness: “Happy, Ok?” She says we can shake off the stigma of mental illness and accept who we are—and that we can get better—by finding our unique inner voice. If we constantly look toward others to validate our happiness, we will rarely be happy for long—people disappoint us, leave us, and eventually die. The key is to accept our true selves—the good, the bad; the beautiful,. the not-so beautiful, and love ourselves as the special divine creatures that we are.

*Lovingness is Greatness: M.J describes how she helped soldiers find survivors after Haiti’s earthquake and gave writing workshops to children in Haiti so they could use writing and reading to escape negativity and live creatively and joyously. She says that, although some of these activities were hard and cost her a price, by giving love to others, she tapped into an ultimate healing force. She says our society encourages the self-centered ego to flourish, but giving to, and helping others, allows our inner greatness—our lovingness—to flourish—as we humbly use our special talents and abilities to make this world a more loving and better place.

The beauty of M.J.’s message is simple: Give a voice to others and you give a voice to yourself. Love others, and you love yourself. Look in the mirror and say, “I can help and I can grow and I can give,” and your life will be a rising tide of contribution and joy, washing away the seeds of discontent and the mist of sadness. Together, we can help create a world worthy of love.

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We had a wonderful time interviewing Book of the Year acclaimed author, Pedro Cabiya (Historias tremendas, Wicked Weeds, Tercer Mundo). Pedro, originally from Puerto Rico, and now living in Dominican Republic, brightened Love University with his advice on love, life, and literature.

Here are some nuggets we learned from our time with Pedro:

*How Do You Marry the Most Beautiful Man or Woman in the World? Find someone whose rose-colored glasses matches your own: Someone who thinks you’re the most beautiful and wonderful person in the world, just as you think the same about them. Also, look for the beauty in the heart of the person—even more than their physical nature—because that is what stands the test of time.

*Be Addicted to Kindness: Pedro says that he has one fatal flaw: He will do anything for kind-hearted people. He says, “We all have love inside; the more we express it, the more it comes back.” In the same way, you can focus on being kind-hearted—generous, patient, and loving—toward others. Every day, smile, give advice, try to help people. You will see your kind-heartedness reflected into the world and it will be returned to you by meeting other kind-hearted people. Unlike other addictions, being addicted to kindheartedness makes your grow, prosper, and live joyfully.

*Find the Angels on Earth and Be With Them: Pedro writes fantasy as well as satire that incorporates spiritual elements. Although there may be dark forces on earth, there are also angels (healing and loving beings) in the persona of human beings. Strive to associate with those type of individuals who want to make a loving impact on the world, and you will start to absorb their positive energies.

*Do What You Love Daily: In one of Pedro’s classic books, a human is walking around like a zombie—cut off from feelings and desires. In modern society this happens too much—people go through the motions of living without really living. The antidote: Realize that you have a certain limited amount of time in your life to express your talent and gifts for your good and the good of others. If you’re a writer, strive to write as much as you can in a certain allotted time each day. Do the same for whatever hobby, passion, or interest inspires you. If you want to be a great parent or spouse, strive to spend quality time with your loved ones each day—tell them that you love them. Remember, every day counts, every minute counts, as long as you have the precious gift called life.

Yes, you can marry the most beautiful (inside their heart) person on earth, find kindness and love, and express your truest creative talents. All it takes is desire, persistence, and loving energy.

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Would you like to contribute to the world—starting with yourself, your family, and your community? Now you can if you apply some words of wisdom from our special guest on Love University, Christian Horvath, Redondo City Councilman, artist, and singer/songwriter. Here are some tips we learned from Christian on how to make a positive difference in our community and daily life:

*TAP INTO THE GOODNESS OF PEOPLE: With so much negative and divisive news on TV and other media, our task is to turn off the news and do our own research. Ask yourself: What are the issues that really affect people today and what are some real solutions? Also, study those people who are helping others in a compassionate and kind way, and strive to emulate their work and way of thinking. There is more goodness than badness in the world—we just need to focus on it more, and expand it.

*START WITH A BLANK SLATE AND REALIZE YOUR GOALS AND VISIONS: Every day believe that you are starting fresh in your life. Although you may feel burdened by the pains, regrets, and losses of the past, realize that every day is a new day. Strive to better yourself and others every day. Learn from your mistakes, make peace with the past, and be creative in finding solutions. Realize that you have the greatest gift of all—LIFE—and decide to put this gift to good use to help yourself and others.

EXPECT THE BEST AND TAKE THE WORST TO THE BEST: Optimism is the art of looking at life through a clear, but positive lens. Although optimists recognize the pain and bad of the world, they don’t focus on it. They realize that all things that happened to them—good, bad, or neutral—propelled them down a path that made them who they are today. As Christian advised, “Be grateful for even negative situations and for losses because they created who you are and led you to meeting new people and encountering new situations that transformed who you are.”

VOLUNTEER A LITTLE PIECE OF YOURSELF EVERY DAY: Research shows that people who volunteer and helps the less advantaged have higher self-esteem, more meaning, and less loneliness and depression. When you give in service, you will do more and receive more. Start today in a small way—find ways to help you community; volunteer at a library or elderly center. Take a class on public policy; sign up to participate in local politics. Get engaged at any level you can look to contribute your talents to provide improvements, solutions, and betterment for society. The more you help others, the better you will feel inside because you are contributing a piece of yourself for a higher cause.

BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD (GANDHI): We can complain all we want about how things don’t work out for us and others; how life is unfair. But, if we want to see true change in the world, we need to start with changing ourselves, our own mindset. If we see a lot of anger and mean-spirited people in the world, we need to resolve to banish unnecessary anger and impatience in our own life. If we see selfishness in the world, we need to eradicate selfishness within ourselves and develop more compassion and love. Once we become what we want to see, we will be moving forward into a new world.

It is possible to contribute to those around you, create meaning in your life, and leave a legacy of goodness and love. All it takes is the desire to be a difference maker in your family, neighborhood, and community. Give love to others without expectation, and your life will be an ever-increasing joy.

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In our busy and cluttered world, we are often overwhelmed, stressed, and tried. Now, there’s an antidote to the dilemma of “too much” stuff and excess things in your life. It is called Decluttering, the new art of living with less and enjoying life more.

Here are some decluttering tips to make your life free and easy:

*Visualize an Organized and Clean House: If your house is a mess, visualize what it would look like if it were clean and tidy. Think about how you would feel (relaxed and energized).

*Feel the Emotion of Things: Pick up and hold objects that you no longer use much (clothes, books, personal items). Ask yourself if it brings you joy. If not, donate or discard it—it doesn’t have a place in your personal space.

*Hang Your Clothes Backwards: Hang your clothes on the hanger in the reverse direction. Every time you use a clothing item, put it back the right way. If you find that you don’t use clothes for several months, throw them away or donate them.

*Give Thanks for the Thing: Before you donate or throw something away, give thanks for the joy it brought you when you first got it, or the service it provided. In that way, you can give away (throw away) even gifts because you already received the joy from it.

*Invite a Friend for a Throwaway Party: Have a friend come over to help you get rid of items in your house. If both of you don’t agree to keep something, you will throw it away or donate it.

You can be free of excess clutter in your house and life. Start today to get rid of one item you don’t need or use every day. Before long, your house will be uncluttered and free of things you don’t need. At the same time, you can get rid of negative thoughts and emotions (“I’m not good enough,” “I’m not organized) and replace them with empowering thoughts (“I have great blessings,” “I can be free of clutter and negativity”).

It’s your choice: Get rid of inner and outer clutter and be free.

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