Marriage Therapy Radio: Recent Episodes
Zach Brittle and Laura Heck at forBetter
Look... every couple struggles. You fight too much; you're bored; sex is either okay (or rare); maybe you're even considering divorce. OR... maybe your marriage is actually pretty good, but you want to go deeper. In this podcast, straight-talking marriage therapists Zach Brittle and Laura Heck tackle the most common complaints virtually every marriage experience. Along the way, they reveal the science behind strong relationships and talk about what's really going on for couples. Topics include conflict, communication, compatibility, money, sex, in-laws, infidelity, time-management, future dreams, and more. If you want relief? A deeper connection? A new way forward...? Then you've got to find out what's REALLY going on in your marriage. That's what this podcast is about. You can learn more about Zach and Laura, and their alternatives to traditional therapy at marriagetherapyradio.com.
Zach and Laura discuss getting and staying sober with Courtney Anderson. They share some personal stories as well as some tips for navigating sobriety in your relationship. Courtney is the author of Sober Vibes https://www.courtneyrecovered.com/sober-vibes-pre-order and offers a variety of support to women living the sober life. Sponsor: Visit https://factormeals.com/mtr50 with code MTR50 for 50% off delicious ready-to-eat meals. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Laura is feeling a bit of a vulnerability hangover from the last episode. But that doesn't stop her from opening up about some ways that she is enlivening her sex life. She leads Zach in discussing various resources you can use to grow your sexual intimacy.
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Zach and Laura interview Chris Bruno and Tracy Johson of ReStory about their work taking both individuals and couples into deeper work about how their past stories inform their present and future. Be sure to check out their work at https://www.restory.life/ and snag their free resource Thrive Dates https://www.restory.life/thrive-dates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Laura is flooded with emotion and wants to figure out how not to bottle her feelings. Zach is also feeling some big feelings.
This leads them into a conversation about the importance of connecting with your feeling and increasing your understanding of how to deal with them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Laura has a twitchy eye. Zach remembers his favorite movie, but more important, just finished a year-long certification. They discuss a listener's question about how Zach and Laura got into couples counseling as a profession. It leads to some fun personal stories about their journeys and hopefully provides some insight into the process for anyone looking to pursue this career path. Sponsor: Visit https://factormeals.com/mtr50 with code MTR50 for 50% off delicious ready-to-eat meals. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Laura thinks she may have broken her ankle, but is maybe more bothered by her unshaven legs. Zach is courting some guests for the podcast in very creative ways.
They discuss how so much of life is a made-up story and the power you have to transform your relationship by deciding to make up some new stories.
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Zach and Laura discuss what to do after the argument with Jocelyn and Aaron Freeman. You can read more about the Freeman's work and their resources at https://www.meetthefreemans.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Laura is still moving out of her house and cutting back on the scope of the remodel.
Zach asks how couples can appreciate the relational dynamics that got them to where they are today while releasing those habits to form new practices to serve their current relationship goals better. Register for an upcoming workshop at https://marriagetherapyradio.com/seven-principles-workshop/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Laura brings in Dr. Kyle N. LaPoint to discuss the role of testosterone in maintaining overall health in both men and women. Dr. LaPoint is a Naturopathic Physician with a practice in Bend Oregon. You can learn more about him and his practice at https://www.lapointwellness.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Laura is all done up for the podcast, which doesn't translate great in an audio format. She is also purging her house and running 30 miles. Zach, meanwhile, pulled a muscle walking a couple of miles.
They go on to discuss the importance of having a shared understanding of house rules for your relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Zach shares some of what he learned about himself on his recent international trip. Laura continues to process her son's diagnosis and recounts her own travel stories.
Zach asks Laura for advice on handling clients who keep looking to fulfill their own needs without considering the other. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Zach and Laura sit down with Stan Tatkin to discuss his work with couples and his new book In Each Other's Care. Dr. Tatkin shares some constructive frameworks for how to think about your relationship.
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Laura starts us off with a song that gets Zach talking about his new musical obsession. Laura shares some significant personal news and asks for your help.
They transition to a discussion on creating a report card for the aspects of your relationship that you want to improve. This episode is chock full of tips and tricks for improving intimacy.
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Zach is flying solo this week. He interviews author A.J. Jacobs, about his recent book The Puzzler https://ajjacobs.com/books/the-puzzler/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Zach was confused by the lack of football. Laura likes the time change and had a bonkers half-marathon. They discuss hernias for a little too long but eventually transition to a great conversation about spiritual intimacy. They batt around sound ideas for developing this intimacy in your relationship in ways that aren't necessarily tied to a specific religious practice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Zach and Laura talk about their old girlfriends and old dogs.
Zach brings a few acrostics that have been helpful in both his parenting and work with clients.
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After a last-minute meditation session, Zach and Laura interview parenting educator/coach Beth Goss. Sponsors: Visit https://Manscaped.com and get 20% off + Free Shipping with code MTR20 Visit https://meetfabric.com/mtr to apply for life insurance in 10 minutes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Zach lost, but on a positive note, his shower wall is no longer adorned with dental floss. Laura also upped her oral hygiene game. Zach ponders what we do when we don't have all the information. It leads to a great discussion about empathy and understanding in your relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Laura gives us some info on water conservation. Zach is anticipating the final week of fantasy football. They provide some significant free air time to a cookie company.
Zach brings a sex and intimacy exercise he learned at a conference by Tina Shermer Sellers tinaschermersellers.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Zach returns from Disneyland. Laura is continuing her training. Laura brings the discussion of what to do with the need for connection when you are at the end of your rope. Sponsors: Go to https://greenchef.com/mtr135 and use code mtr135 to get $135 off across five boxes—and your first box ships free! Visit https://meetfabric.com/mtr to apply for life insurance in 10 minutes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Zach and Laura bring us in on a conflict they have right before recording this episode. They go on to discuss a concept Zach is playing with regarding exploring the flip side of both the good and bad in the relationship and how it can lead to greater intimacy and connection. Sponsor: Visit https://Manscaped.com and get 20% off + Free Shipping with code MTR20 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Zach and Laura start off the episode with a free concert. Laura wants Jack Johnson to come to her son's class to watch him perform in a bacon costume. They get a lot of feedback on whose oral hygiene habits are grossest.
Laura brings an exercise to work through with Zach that requires presenting and listening to a complaint. Zach finds a way to loop in their beloved producer as well. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Zach has an interesting encounter with Kim Kardashian. Laura starts modeling for Gap. They discuss their oral hygiene which oddly leads them into a really great discussion of how to get what you want from your kids and your partner.
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Laura needs some alone time after a trip to Hawaii to, potentially illegally, spread ashes. Zach completes a marathon - counseling session. His corn dish was not the hit of the Iron Chef party. They spend some time catching up and sharing what they are learning about themselves and their clients. Sponsors: Go to https://greenchef.com/mtr135 and use code mtr135 to get $135 off across five boxes—and your first box ships free! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Laura drops her kid off for the first day of school. Zach's kid got a piercing. They recap the fantasy draft.
They answer some listener questions.
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Laura shares her candle and melatonin routine. Zach is treating his potential COVID with ginger ale.
They go on to discuss the characteristics of couples that are firing on all cylinders. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Zach is setting up an MTR fantasy football league. Laura continues her triathlon training.
They discuss how getting what you want out of the relationship can involve giving as much as you can.
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Zach is setting up an MTR fantasy football league. Laura continues her triathlon training.
They discuss how getting what you want out of the relationship can involve giving as much as you can.
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Laura is getting a new puppy. Zach shares all of his orange knowledge.
Zach brings the topic of forgiveness. How we think about it, and how we do it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Laura got stranded in the middle of a lake. Zach is thirsty for that sweet blue check.
They discuss a book that Laura has been reading in a book club and Zach's wife has been reading for work; Atomic Habits by James Clear. They tease out some key ways habit building can grow your relationship.
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Zach and Laura welcome Larry Hagner, founder of The Dad Edge. They discuss how men can support each other to be better husbands, fathers, and leaders.
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Zach and Laura call out some listeners who have responded recently. Laura is headed on ANOTHER vacation and has to coordinate kid care.
This leads them to discuss what to do when you and your partner want different things. What is the best way to navigate that difference without turning it into a conflict. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Zach and Laura welcome Sawn and Andrew from Couple Things Podcast https://www.couplethingspod.com to discuss conflict, repair, sex, and clothes.
It is a very fun, free-flowing conversation with a ton of insights for our most important relationships.
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Zach shares his reaction to a dog jumping on his lap. Laura's son has a riddle for us all. Zach was a bit troubled totally disconnecting from work while on vacation.
They go on to field some listener questions.
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Zach is headed to the Jersey Shore. Laura is off on yet another vacation and learning to swim.
They go on to discuss the keys to good communication.
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Laura is flying solo as Zach is away for the holiday. Laura welcomes Beth Wylie for her second visit to the podcast to discuss the need for men to step up and put in the work in their relationships. Check out Beth's new course: Love over Logistics https://www.bethwylietherapy.com/love-over-logistics
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Zach and Laura spend a couple of minutes talking about me, their producer. They discuss how weird it is when folks they know listen to the podcast.
They go on to talk about how to be more connected after conflict by understanding your conflict map.
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Zach is feeling a bit out of breath post-workout. Laura apparently has bigger shoulders than expected. She tells the story of when she bought her really hot bike. They reflect on their interview with Terry Real from episode 219 and go on to discuss the importance of small wins in your relationship to set yourselves up for the bigger work. Sponsor: https://meetfabric.com/mtr to apply for life insurance in 10 minutes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Zach sits down for an interview with Dustin and Melissa Nickerson to discuss comedy, parenting, and marriage. Be sure to grab Dustin's latest book, How to Be Married (to Melissa), and catch him on his upcoming tour.
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Zach and Laura chat with Terry Real about his life's work and new book US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. There are many great takeaways that can transform the way you relate with your partner.
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Laura is juicing it up and packing up her van for a foreign trip. Zach is getting fired.
They discuss the importance of having a shared set of rules and boundaries in your relationship and how those rules have to change as the relationship changes.
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Zach and Laura on the health choices they are making for themselves which leads to a reflection from Zach on how partners can join and encourage one another on a health journey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Zach and Laura debrief a recent conflict and how each of them handled it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Zach and Laura sit down with psychotherapist and author Jessica Baum. They discuss her journey to becoming a mental health counselor and her new book Anxiously Attached. It's a valuable discussion for both therapists and anyone in relationships.
Both Zach and Laura have been diving into some new books. Zach drops a dad joke.
They go on to discuss the small breaches of trust that destroy relationships and what you can do about it.
Zach is flying solo this week. He sits down with Dan & Kay Ockey, Co-Founders of Centsei. They share what it took for them to get on the same financial page early in their marriage and what lead them to develop Centsei. Learn more about Centsei at https://www.centseifinance.com/mtr/ and if you sign up MTR gets a little kickback. It's a win-win.
Laura is upping her mindfulness game. Zach is seeing how different clients draw out different aspects of himself which leads to a great conversation about which roles they each like playing as therapists.
Laura fields a listener question regarding sex drives and frequency.
Laura is not looking forward to meeting and greeting. Zach shows off his auctioneering skills.
They go on to discuss some great tactics to get to better conversations in your relationship.
Laura fell down the stairs and hurt her foot. Zach doesn't want to talk about Will Smith. Or does he.
Laura says "yes" to her husband but then immediately regrets it ,so she asks him for what she wants and needs. It leads to a great conversation about how to partner in what you each need.
Laura is feeling a bit homesick for a place that is no longer her home because she longs to relax into the feeling of being known. Zach recounts, word for word, exactly how he would become best friends with Richard Sherman.
They go on to discuss the important and often difficult transition of mid-life and the empty nest.
Laura finished up some sex school so it hitting the road again. Zach cut off all his hair to look less like the father of his youth.
They go on to discuss the importance of finding solutions to the solvable problems in your relationship.
Zach and Laura sit down with writer, artist, and speaker, Austin Kleon. They discuss the intersection of art and relationship.
Zach goes on a rant about Instagram that leads to some solid marriage advice. Laura is saying yes to some of her husband's dreams. They talk about the importance of having intentional conversations about the state of your union.
Zach and Laura each return from vacations in Mexico with their families. They discuss their different approaches to these vacations and how knowing what you want on the outset helps set the stage for achieving what you desire.
Zach and Laura interview Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper. Find all the resources she mentioned at marriagehelper.com
Zach and Laura interview Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper. Find all the resources she mentioned at marriagehelper.com
Zach and Laura interview Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper. Find all the resources she mentioned at marriagehelper.com
Zach and Laura interview Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper. Find all the resources she mentioned at marriagehelper.com
Zach and Laura interview Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper. Find all the resources she mentioned at marriagehelper.com
Zach and Laura interview Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper. Find all the resources she mentioned at marriagehelper.com
Zach and Laura interview Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper. Find all the resources she mentioned at marriagehelper.com
Laura's pretty tired. Zach is tired of his daughter.
They open up the mailbag to answer some listener questions.
Zach would love your feedback on these quick 3 questions.
Zach and Laura have a wonderful conversation with Heather Havrilesky about her new book, Foreverland: On the Divine Tedium of Marriage.
Zach shows off his singing voice. Laura is relinquishing control as she plans a family getaway.
They go on to discuss a number of ways to reframe your approach and reaction to your partner for greater intimacy.
Laura is hoping to learn to swim this year. Zach brings back his dad jokes.
Laura brings the topic of Polyvaga Theory as a way to identify how we feel in a moment, giving us another tool to improve the way we relate to our partner.
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Laura is hoping to learn to swim this year. Zach brings back his dad jokes.
Laura brings the topic of Polyvaga Theory as a way to identify how we feel in a moment, giving us another tool to improve the way we relate to our partner.
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Zach and Laura connect with Zach's first clinical supervisor and his wife, Steve & Lisa Call. They discuss the Call's unique approach to inviting couples into a reconnected intimacy through the means of their individual stories.
You can learn more about the Calls and their work at https://www.thereconnectinstitute.com/
Zach's hair is apparently looking good. Laura shows her lack of knowledge of the Marvel Universe. Zach is getting into meditation. They both share some insights they have recently received from clients.
They go on to discuss consent, but probably not in the way you are thinking.
Laura had a hard Christmas. Zach is leaning into virtual reality. They discuss the fun new games they have been playing lately.
Zach shares how dying repeatedly in his new VR game has taught him some valuable tools for how to engage in conflict and relational failure. He and Laura then share some New Year practices and values.
In this final episode of 2021 Laura interviews leading researcher in asexuality Anthony Bogaert, Ph.D.
Laura has been looking back at what a good last few months she has had. Zach has whittled down his social media list to two.
They discuss 5ish ways you can ruin your holidays. There are some great cautionary tales as well as some insight into how to prepare and be proactive in your relationship around the holidays.
Laura is out with a migraine so Zach flies solo to interview his long-time friend Stephen James. Stephen shares some great nuggets of wisdom on both marriage and parenting.
Both back from separate trips to Disneyland, Laura is getting ready for her 75 Hard challenge. Zach is pacing it with a 45 Medium.
They discuss the transformative power we all possess to reframe our conversations by attributing positive motivations to our partner's words and actions.
Prompted from Taylor Swift's latest single (and Laura's love for Jake Gyllenhaal), Zach brings the topic of age differences in romantic relationships. It leads to a great conversation about power and influence.
Zach and Laura welcome Craig Smith to discuss the hope that can come from clarifying your values and taking action to love yourself and others more.
Zach and Laura jump right into an interview with Karen McMahon from Journey Beyond Divorce,
After some discussion of Zach's morning routine, Laura brings up a struggle she is seeing in some couples: one or both of them not contributing to the emotional bank account.
Zach and Laura get a chance to discuss different couple therapy models with Shane Birkel of The Couple Therapist Couch podcast.
Zach is fretting about the sizes of circles. Laura is sniffing strangers in parks. This leads to a great discussion and exercise about finding simple pleasures in life and allowing those to ground you.
They also circle back to a previous episode where they hashed out some conflict.
Zach talks with Kristine Lilly, a USWNT legend, about what it means to be part of a team and also how to balance work and play both on the field and in a relationship. They also discuss the universal truth of how it really is the little things that ultimately yield big results.
Laura brings a grievance she has with Zach to work it out in real-time. The tension is real and leads to a genuine conversation that displays both skill and care in resolving the conflict.
Zach and Laura wish their very first listener a happy birthday. Laura is getting her wardrobe together.
They go on to discuss the trend Laura is seeing in her practice of women facing identity crisis with boldness and strength.
Laura is taking into a shoe on an uncomfortably long girl's weekend while looking for age-appropriate clothes. Zach is using all his human resources.
They go on to discuss the 5 pillars of building trust in your relationship.
Zach and Laura interview Jayson Gaddis, founder of The Relationship School and author of Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships. The conversation provides some new frameworks to think about the way you approach conflict in your relationship.
Zach's wife is a little concerned that his brain doesn't work. He and Laura extend the skydiving conflict metaphor from episode 2 with some helpful insight into achieving intimacy.
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Zach and Laura are recording from the same house, but different rooms as they interview Danielle Bettmann. Danielle is a parenting coach for those of us with "strong-willed small humans". She shares how she got into her work and some wonderful resources for anyone doing the difficult and important work of parenting. You can find Danielle at Parenting Wholeheartedly
Laura is figuring out carpooling. Zach is taking a break from exercise.
They discuss the different types of couples that come to therapy.
Laura helps Zach reminisce about his favorite bar that closed down a few years ago. Laura is thrilled about her sex ed.
Laura brings the topic of Emotionally Focused Therapy to discuss if you ARE there for your partner.
Zach is seeing his social media from a whole new perspective. Laura completed an epic backpacking trip. They go on to discuss the importance of shared agreements in your marriage.
After kicking it off with a couple of dad jokes, Zach and Laura get right into some questions from listeners.
Zach and Laura have a wonderful interview with singer/songwriter David Wilcox. He shares what he has learned about life, love, and marriage through his journey of self-discovery and artistry.
This is a different format from the usual MTR episode, and well worth a listen.
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Zach vows not to get Laura anything for her birthday, but he might end up getting her a chessboard. Operation "Blue Check" continues in earnest. To help out, be sure to follow @marriagetherapyradio
They discuss how to handle conflict when you can't agree on what the story even is.
Zach is moving his schedule around so he can be at his kid's soccer games. Laura is gearing up for her triathlon. They discuss the need for couples to do the work when seeking help for their relationship. They talk about the Art & Science of Love, a workshop based on over 40 years of research from The Gottman Institute. Zach and Laura will be the instructors for the October event.
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Laura is jumping into her local fitness scene with both feet and possibly into sex therapy with both hands. Zach is exercising his social media skills. They go on to discuss the impact of words; what is said, how it's said, and how it's heard, on your relationship.
Project "Blue Checkmark" is well underway. Laura just got back from a camping trip and Zach is thinking about watching a Netflix show that is sweeping the nation. They go on to discuss a listener question regarding their attraction to a coworker.
Laura is back in school. Zach is learning about how social media works. They discuss the process of therapy and the importance of being the author of your own story.
Zach and Laura welcome Logan Ury to the podcast (for the second time, kind of) to share her data driven insights into finding, growing, and keeping love. You will also get to hear what kind of museum she would open.
Zach is in sync with Chicago while in Charlotte. Laura is losing sleep thinking about her clients. In his jetlagged state, Zach shares how a mistake in a text message led to a great insight about repairing a rupture in your relationship.
Zach and Laura saw each other in person after nearly 2 years and it was less eventful than you would think. Laura shares some thoughts on a book about life themes.
Zach and Laura talk with Candice Czbubernat about topics and issues relevant to LGBTQ relationships. It's a wide-ranging interview with more than a few surprises. Also, Zach doesn't throw rocks. Learn more about Candice at thechristiancloset.com
Zach is feeling really good about some stuff in life. Laura is reminded about how the good things in life fill our account, which leads to their discussion of the Gottman Magic Relationship Ratio.
After confirming that they would survive the interview, Zach and Laura learn about Laura Doyle and her book, The Empowered Wife.
Laura is needing some self-care. Zach doesn't want any more friends. They discuss a listener question about life balance and also discuss some current client concerns.
Zach has a microphone puppet. Laura wants to get a different kind of puppet. They go on to discuss the power of using quadrants to identify where you are and where you want to be.
Zach and Laura sit down with Screen Crush's Ryan Arey to discuss the relationship wisdom of WandaVision and other SciFi superheros.
Zach is sitting in the dark. Laura has a burning throat. Laura brings a skill-building topic that is sure to help any relationship.
Laura's kid is in the basement and her husband is on vacation. Zach is ramping up for college visits. They proceed to talk about Part 2 of Emotional Intelligence. Grab a pen and paper because you will want to ATTUNE to this conversation.
Laura is exhausted after a whirlwind road trip. Zack is continuing his LEGO builds. They go on to have a great discussion on the importance of emotional intelligence and offer some great tips on how to grow it.
Zach is flying solo this week and gets to interview Kevin and Evan from The Dumb Dads Podcast, two stay-at-home dads doing the best they can.
Zach is watching Stranger Things while building even stranger things. Laura got outplayed by her husband.
They pick a couple of listener letters to respond to on the podcast. Although the questions are specific to the listener, their insights can be helpful for any relationship.
Laura is flying solo today. She shares a story of how you can show up for your partner when they are in pain.
Zach reflex on his trip to Mexico. It leads to a great conversation on gratitude, but probably not in the way you would think.
Laura is flying solo this week as Zach is away. She gets to interview Catherine O'Brien author of Happy with Baby about ways to protect the relationship when you add a baby to the mix.
Learn more about Catherin at her website Happy with Baby.
Zach kicks us off with some jokes. Laura is the gift-giving master. This leads them into a discussion about the importance of Valentine's Day and what it represents.
We know, Valentine's Day is over, and this is a valuable discussion any day of the year.
Zach is loving Marriage Therapy Radio. Laura cashed in on Gamestop. They go on to discuss how the vulnerabilities that get triggered in our relationships can be understood and navigated.
Laura is prepping for some glamping. Zach hired an actor to play himself.
They go on to discuss Dan Wile's 10 Rules of Good Communication from his book After the Honeymoon: How Conflict Can Improve your Relationship. * Communication Rule 1. Make “I” Statements not “You” Statements. * Communication Rule 2: Don’t Say “Always” or “Never” * Communication Rule 3: Don’t interrupt your partner * Communication Rule 4: Paraphrase what your partner just said * Communication Rule 5: Don’t Mind-Read * Communication Rule 6: Stick to One Complaint * Communication Rule 7: Don’t Dig Up Old Grievances * Communication Rule 8: Don’t Get Sidetracked Arguing Over Irrelevant Details * Communication Rule 9: Don’t Label, Name-Call, Use Sarcasm, or Threaten to End the Relationship * Communication Rule 10: Don’t Dump Out Stored-Up Complaints
Zach details his Peleton "buying" experience. Laura is looking forward to a Spring Break RV trip. They go on to discuss how to deal with anxiety and depression as it comes up in your self and your partner.
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Zach really wanted to sleep in, but Laura wants to get everything done early. Zach just celebrated 27 years of watching The American President, and they both are feeling a bit hungry. They go on to discuss how to manage yourself and your relationship when you get flooded.
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Zach is almost a winner. Laura can't sit down. They discuss how to navigate differences in how you communicate in your relationship.
Zach updates us on his fantasy football success and bemoans 1-star reviews. Laura is getting her health groove on. This leads to a discussion of how to support new habits and rituals in your relationship.
Zach and Laura discuss how many folks are looking for therapy these days. Laura's practice is full, but Zach doesn't believe in full. Zach has some fantasy football scores to settle. They go on to discuss how to put SPARK in your marriage in 48 hours.
Zach applies for a game show. Laura is opening a home gym and going BIG on Christmas. They discuss three tools that can help you create an intentional relationship.
Zach and Laura reflect on the strangeness of Thanksgiving in the midst of a pandemic. They go on to discuss Zach's theory that knowing the What, Why, and Who when beginning a conversation can prevent you from falling into conflict.
Zach is working out a new joke. He and Laura both agree that they would like to be a lumberjack and lumberjill, respectively. They go on to discuss how understanding your most fulfilling and least fulfilling sexual experiences can lead to a wonderful sex life.
Laura is dealing with a full load and tiny balls. Zach forgot how to solve a Rubik's Cube. They go on to address two listener questions and provide a TON of practical tips for improving your relationship.
Laura is flying solo today and interviews Hyrum Osmond, Disney animator. They discuss the path to his dream job and the impact on his relationship.
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Laura is not liking her soup. Zach is not liking Laura's house or the person who administered his COVID test. But, rest assured, he's negative.
They discuss a listener question regarding the in-laws.
Laura is headed on what sounds like a pretty sweet vacation. Zach circles back on the conflict he was in with his wife last week. Laura's husband is getting some internet traffic. They go on to answer a listener question from Brazil about managing anger in your relationship.
Both Zach and Laura talk about the importance of walks for each of them personally and in their therapy. They go on to discuss some ways of disrupting the established patterns of conflict in your relationship.
Zach and Laura welcome Ed Rush, an author, speaker, and advisor, to discuss how his experiences as a decorated Marine fighter pilot translate to his relationship with his wife.
Laura finds the wrong Zach on Instagram. Zach expresses an opinion on a Netflix movie and gets some push-back from the social square. They go on to discuss how couples can not just get through the pandemic but really grow their relationship buy bridging back 3 practices from early in their courtship.
Laura is a superhuman with self-healing powers. Zach is reminded of the importance of kindness. They go on to discuss a listener's question regarding what to do with hurt feelings when feel your partner has not been kind.
The kids are headed back to school. Zach is excited to get back in therapy. This leads to a discussion about the frequency of therapy and how often is helpful. Laura gives an update on her biking injury. They go on to discuss a listener's question about what to do after conflict.
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Laura is nursing some wounds after a bike accident. Zach has a finger out of whack. This leads them into a discussion of attractive doctors they have had over the years. They go on to discuss the way we approach questions to our partner. Is it an investigation or an invitation.
Zach is now a hand model and cracking afternoon beers. Laura is business up top and casual on bottom. They discuss different strategies for disrupting the negative patterns of communication in your relationship.
Laura is rocking her trailer skills, even with the Austin Powers' style turns. Zach is thinking about yoga and stepping up his health game. They then address a listener's question about leadership in their relationship.
Laura has a trailer in her front yard. Zach's t-shirts are fitting better. They discuss what is sometimes the core fear for a man and a woman.
Recorded while Laura was on the road, Zach is joined by Ni'coel Stark to discuss the Enneagram. Ni'coel is a corporate intelligence strategist who brings a great deal of experience into the value and use of the Enneagram. Listeners who are unfamiliar with the Enneagram will find reason to explore this ancient tool and folks who are already Enneagram fans will find fresh insights.
Laura is back from her travels and COVID has hit close to home. She is celebrating a birthday. Zach is experimenting with glass blowing, kind of, and has mastered the Rubic's Cube. They go on to discuss if there is anything to gain from inspirational Instagram quotes.
Zach and Laura discuss some of their favorite clients. Laura tries to convince you to listen to a different podcast. They then discuss the importance of valuing the relationship over being "right" in any disagreement.
Zach and Laura have to work out their own communication conflicts. Laura is headed out on a great adventure and Zach is welcoming back his kids. They throw out a Hamilton challenge, and go on to discuss a listener question about building trust after an affair.
With Laura out gallivanting around the Northwest in her RV Zach is sharing a recording of a talk he did for ParentMap It's full of valuable takeaways. You might want to have a notebook handy for this one.
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Laura controls the weather and gets into a great intense conversation with her husband about switching household roles. Zach is pretty certain he is not interested in that for him and his wife. Zach is getting a week without his kids. Laura doesn't share her sex dream. They go on to have a great conversation about defensiveness.
Zach and Laura hop straight into a great conversation with Roger Nygard, filmmaker, author, and producer, about his latest project, The Truth About Marriage. They discuss the insights he gained while researching and creating this film and book companion.
Zach is mayor of grouchy town but he solved a Rubik's Cube. Laura shares her creative spellings. They go on to discuss the importance of having code language in your relationship.
Laura is obsessed with Magnificent Sex. Zach is starting some stuff and counting cats. They go on to discuss the work of Terry Real and the impact it has in their own lives and the lives of their clients.
Zach and Laura discuss the odd ending of last week's show. Zach is celebrating over 1 million views on the Vanity Fair videos. They field a call from a listener about different perspectives on marijuana use.
Zach is super proud of his kids. Laura shares about some of the Vanity Fair video that ended up on the cutting room floor. They go on to discuss the difference between selfishness and self-care.
Zach finally put the doors on his shed.Both he and Laura showered today, but for different reasons. They move on to discuss self love and self care with mid-life dating and relationship coach, Jonathan Aslay.
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Laura is stocking up on bikes. Zach is spotting pigs in his neighborhood. They discuss what it looks like to bring on a new client. They go on to discuss the importance of having conversations on three levels: dreaming, discussing, and deciding.
Zach and Laura discuss a recent video they created with Vanity Fair. Check it out, it's a really fun look at relationships in Disney films. They then welcome a guest, Dr. Lori Brotto. They discuss Dr. Brotto's latest book, Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire and other related topics.
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Zach opens up about some of his struggles in this time and the importance of getting his own therapy. Laura joins him in discussing the importance of having purpose and a next.
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Zach is building stuff around the house. Laura wants him to drive down and build her some planter boxes while she reads. They then address a listeners question about what to do about wanting to be helpful in every situation.
After a couple dad jokes, Zach and Laura discuss a bit how they are dealing with working out while quarantined. They talk about order, grief, relationship roles and finding peace in this chaotic time.
Zach and Laura discuss what Beyonce, Goonies, Tiger King, and hot tubs have in common. They go on to address a number of listener questions that have piled up in the last few weeks.
Zach is a bit grumpy. Laura is feeling really positive. Zach has a movie recommendation and the two of them contemplate who might want to be a guest on upcoming episodes. They go on to discuss the new options for couples looking for outside help for their relationships and end with some tips for creating positive change in this uncertain time. Be sure to stick through to the end to hear Laura lose her mind.
Laura's kid starts us off with some solid dad jokes. She and Zach go on to discuss self care and creating sacred spaces for yourself and for your relationship.
Recorded almost a week ago, Zach and Laura discuss the Coronavirus, OJ, oysters, and turning toward your partner. They also have a generous offer for folks looking to improve their marriage while everything is shut down.
Zach and Laura touch base real quick on the Coronavirus. Laura has a long run she's preparing for. They announce some upcoming live virtual training for couples. A listener question regarding elevated heart rate prompts them to talk a bit more in depth about fight, flight, or freeze.
Zach is worn out from fighting with a woman (in his martial arts class). Laura is basking in the late winter sun. They discuss common dreams and particularly a dream Zach had about losing his teeth. Laura brings a listener's question about how to deal with a spouse that does not want to hear your desires or wishes for their relationship.
Laura is heading to Hawaii and a little annoyed that her husband will be golfing every day. Zach is headed to Mexico and will be seeing his private magician again. They go on to discuss some of the things that can lead to a bad marriage.
Zach is away with his family so Laura is sharing a recording of a keynote she recently gave to door-to-door salespeople. These folks are highly commited to succeding at work, but wanted some help kowning how to keep thier relationshps at home strong.
Zach just finished his taxes, has already spent his refund and is headed on vacation. Laura is working on her taxes... from a few years ago. Together they celebrate some of the milestones of Marriage Therapy Radio. Zach shares about completing his latest project, Marriage Therapy Journal.
Laura kicks us off with a dad joke. She and Zach go on to discuss desire and creating desire in your partner. This leads to the importance of date nights and intentional time set aside for the two of you.
They welcome Tyler Turk, CEO of Crated with Love. Tyler shares some compelling research results on the importance of date nights as well as what he has found to be the necessary ingredients of a date night that supports the goal of greater intimacy and connection.
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Zach is sporting a 14 year old girl's headband. Laura shares about caring for aging parents. With guest Dr. Ari Tuckman, they go on to discuss the impacts of ADHD on your relationship
Zach and Laura discuss their shower and workout schedules. Let's just say, one of them likes to "stew". Zach is in the home stretch of a new project. They go on to discuss the power of a good question in your relationship.
Zach's 17 and 13 year old daughters join him for this week's podcast. They discuss what it's like to be a teen today and how parents can better connect and encourage them.
Zach and Laura recount their respective New Year's Eve celebrations. Zach has a couple gripes and Laura isn't quite sure about science. They go on to discuss a powerful practice that could reshape the way you relate with your partner. Putting into practice what there share in this episode would be a wonderful way to kick off the new year in a positive direction.
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Laura is dressed like an elf -sorry this is not a visual medium-. Zach took a tumble. Vasectomy gets discussed at length. Laura introduces a cool experiment for wives to help improve their marriage. They go on to discuss death and sex. They really cover a lot on this holiday grab bag.
Laura discloses that she has been feeling a bit down with the holidays and her current move. She and Zach discuss a bit of what might be behind that which leads them to a broader topic of figuring out ways to improve your relationship. It's a bit more organic than some episodes, but you will be left with some great insight into your life and relationships.
What does "Your Face" have to do with a playful disagreement? Zach shares his strategies. He and Laura also talk about their relationships with you, the listeners. They go on to discuss the unique burdens men carry in their relationships.
Laura is jogging from her son's house to school and back twice a day. That's about the same about of jogging Zach has done in the last year. They go on to discuss what happens in a relationship when one partner has carried the primary load of the relationship and what is now required when they want that to change.
Zach just got out of therapy and is having all the feels. Laura's thinking about starting her own therapy as well. They discuss the complexities of having a close friendship as well as a business relationship which leads to the unique issues addressed by couples that work together. The importance of boundaries and roles is advice any couple will find helpful.
Zach and Laura discuss Halloween and the MANY parties that accompany. Zach thinks Laura would be a VSCO girl. Zach relays an eavesdropped conversation of first encounters. They move on to discuss Zach's recent therapeutic training.
Zach has limited his beverage choices. Laura is getting settled in her new town. After some interviews they reconnect and discuss the what it is to have a purpose as a couple.
Zach & Laura sit down for a conversation with Dr. Robert Navarra. Bob is a Certified Gottman Therapist, Master Trainer, Consultant, Speaker, and Master Addiction Counselor. His research has surfaced new ways to understand the role of relationships in the recovery process.
Zach and Laura get to team up with Melanie and Seth of the Anatomy of Marriage Podcast.
Zach is back to coaching soccer, but this time for boys. Laura is planning some upcoming trips and is a bit nervous about her largest speaking gig coming up. They go on to discuss the importance of play with your partner.
Zach and Laura have a great conversation with Beth Wylie. Beth is a long time friend who is also an expert on blended families.
Zach and Laura quickly catch up on all that has been going on in their lives the last month or so. Laura details upcoming topics. They go on to discuss the importance of predictability in your relationship.
Zach interviews Dr. Claudia Grauf-Grounds, author of We've Had This Fight Before. You may recognize that book title from Zach's previous "review" of the book. He revisits this review and more in this informative episode that will be helpful for anyone who has ever had an argument with your partner.
Laura is away in Europe so we get to hear a replay of a live radio interview with Zach this week. He was a guest on Let's Talk Relationships. They interview him about his book The Relationship Alphabet.
Laura is away in Europe for vacation so while she is away we will be playing a couple of solo shows. This first one is a rebroadcast of The Art of Charm podcast. They interview Laura on the The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling.
Zach shares why root canals are fantastic. Laura isn't buying it, but strangely offers to clean Zach's teeth. A major transition in Laura's life sparks a great conversation about ending therapy.
Zach is wearing a hoodie in July. Laura is getting her investing on. They go on to share what they are currently reading and offer some book recommendations.
Laura brags about her golf game. Zach shares about his unnamed friend with good fashion and a boat. They go on to discuss a listener question regarding a fight about Hot Cheetos.
Zach gets Laura up to speed on the World Cup. Laura is dropping some Lbs, but not for a good reason. They go on to address the involved partner of an affair.
Laura had a nice stay-cation. Zach isn't quite sure where is youngest daughter is. They go on to discuss is premarital therapy is worth it and what it's really for.
Zach shares a bit of his experience helping facilitate The Art and Science of Love workshop for The Gottman Institute. Laura gets Zach to commit to a future webinar. They go on to share the signs that you are flooded when in conflict and what to do about it.
Zach and Laura don't see eye to eye on dog park etiquette. They discuss an outdoor adventure for couples and awkward proposals. They then provide some really great practical advise for how to set aside time each day to connect with your partner.
Zach and Laura reflect on the future (weird, I know). They go on to talk about he importance of validating feelings.
Laura had to kick her husband out (don't worry it was just out of the studio so she could record.) Zach extols the power of checking off your to do list. Dad joke throw downs are happening on social media. They go on to share the potential benefits of letting your "yes" be "no" and your "no" be "yes". Trust me, it will make sense when you hear it.
Zach and Laura discuss their Memorial Day Weekend getaways. Both got out into nature with their families. They look forward to their workshop in June and throwing some axes. They go on to discuss what it takes to make changes in your relationship.
Zach and Laura discuss what chaffed nipples, stylish hair, and sexy times have in common. They go on to have an in depth interview with sex therapist Tina Schermer Sellers, PhD.
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Laura is taking care of her gut. Zach is loving individual therapy. We get a great dad joke from listener Dustin's son. They go on to discuss a question from a listener.
Laura gets a truck. Zach grills Laura on her dog buying process. Zach is growing out his hair and cleaning up his house. They go on to discuss how to manage your social media profiles when there is a breakup.
Zach and Laura discuss their sleep habits. Zach is switching it up and Laura is afraid she is getting older. She shares some interesting beliefs about what getting older allows you to do. Sparked from a listener question, they go on to discuss the, often complex, role of masturbation in your relationship.
Zach tells us about his blanket fort he retreats to from time to time. Laura completed her first half marathon. And they welcome their first guest, Chris Coursey, to the podcast. Chris joins them to discuss his latest book, The 4 Habits of Joy-Filled Marriages. The practical steps can help every marriage.
Find out more about Chris at Thrive Today. More information about the book and related resources can be found at happyhappymarriage.org.
Laura's husband is working from home and she has found that their expectations about what daily life should look like are not totally aligned. Zach shares some stories of folks in similar situations.
Zach's daughter was in a TV show. Laura is training for a half marathon and taking a break from social media with great results. They go on to discuss the one question that could transform your relationship. Laura gives you a challenge to try this question in your relationship and report on how it turns out. Give them a call at 801-810-6197 and report the results.
Zach and Laura are excited to announce their first real sponsor, Ana Luisa. You can find their fine jewelry and get an exclusive discount at https://www.analuisa.com/forbetterus. Be sure to order soon as Mother's Day is coming out on May 12th (You will laugh at that last bit when you listen to the episode). They go on to discuss a recent article Zach wrote for the Gottman Institute about breaking up.
Zach is finishing up some food. Laura just returned from a great ski trip. Zach unpacks his last teaching gig. They go on to discuss your sleeping arrangements.
Zach and Laura recount the ways Jimmy John's has saved them from hunger. Laura is heading off road with her new trailer, while Zach is booking last minute 5 star hotels. They go on to discuss the cycle of arguments that happen in our relationship. There are some great tips on identifying what is behind the familiar disagreements and what we can do about it.
Laura's workout's just upped their intensity for a very specific reason. Zach questions whether it is ok for him to compliment a stranger. They go on to discuss the importance of maintaining a connection with your partner when one of you travels.
Laura gets a new backpack which sends Zach immediately into song sending them on a karaoke song one-upping. They go on to discuss how to manage anger and what to do when you or your partner are flooded.
Laura circles back to the principle of rewarding desired behavior, noting that is has caused Zach to be more punctual. Zach is proud of his daughter and emoting more than usual. Laura reflects on an rewarding but exhausting weekend.
They go on to discuss some of the struggles and complexities of navigating finances with your partner.
This week Zach is digging out of a snow storm and hoping the kids get back to school soon, while Laura's mom is LOVING here snow days. Laura has to offer an apology to a listener and friend. They go on to discuss the importance of remembering the shared goal of your relationship especially in the midst of tension and conflict. The provide some vital tips to ending the negative cycles and setting you and your partner on a path of loving and being lovable.
A snow day is gave Zach the opportunity to introduce his kids to the wonders of Monty Python. Laura is NOT finding it funny and is more than a little frustrated with someone canceling their plans. They go on to discuss how to manage criticism and defensiveness.
Zach and Laura discuss their preferred work attire when meeting with remote clients. Zach is looking for something to look forward to so Laura invites him and the family to Salt Lake (just don't ask her what to do for fun there after 8pm).
They go on to discuss how to navigate the natural misalignment of sexual desire (and arousal) in your relationship. They share some great practical insights into how build anticipation and desire.
Laura is feeling a bit grouchy, but rising to the occasion. Zach shares his secret for loving every Christmas gift he ever receives. They go on to discuss the dilemma when one partner leaning out of the relationship.
Zach and Laura celebrate one years worth of weekly podcasts. Laura can't leave the house as she cares for a new puppy. Zach is sending his daughter off to LA by herself. They go on to share ways you can improve your marriage even without needing your partners involvement. You will find some helpful tips that can transform your relationship.
Laura's dog gets a name. Zach is grieving that loss of an important part of his life. They go on to discuss how to navigate differing points of view on how frequently a couple should be having sex.
Zach has had a busy day with clients. Laura spent some of her day upside down, and she wrote a joke. They discuss their holiday traditions and importance of ritual in every relationship.
Zach and Laura is getting excited for the new year and closing in on episode 52, one full year of weekly podcasts. Zach shares a winter dad joke. A Greek myth leads them into a dynamic conversation about couples in deep conflict.
Zach and Laura start the show with a bit of a disagreement about punctuality. Zach shares that his daughter is in a new TV show debuting next year. Laura is training for a 1/2 marathon so Zach teaches her about fartlek. They go on to help a listener struggling with resentment in their relationship.
Zach and Laura catch up after a busy Thanksgiving break. Zach goes on to share some important relationship principles he learned as a kid.
Zach and Laura find commonality in rap and dark meat. They reflect on the recent workshop. They go on to respond to listener emails.
Laura went for a great (and painful) run while Zach took a nap. Zach then shares one of the greatest statements that has impacted not only his work as a therapist, but as a husband and father.
Zach is podcasting from the kitchen today and it sparks a great conversation about the impact of housework on your relationship. Laura tells us that the benefits go far beyond having a clean house. They go on to respond to a listener question regarding how to navigate differences in energy levels in an aging partner. The principles they share are universal for us all.
Laura tries to figure out what movie she is thinking of. Zach does a half-hearted impersonation of Robin Williams. Zach shows his handy abilities by changing out a faucet. They go on to discuss how to navigate your partners relationships that make you insecure and jealous.
Zach is feeling groggy after sleeping in a bit late. Laura is back from an amazing trip to Iceland, except for the food poisoning. They go on to discuss how to interact with your partner when you don't connect or agree with what they are saying.
Laura got a TON of sleep after a last minute trip to get a passport. Zach's brother is in town. His daughter passed her drivers test, but Laura found out before he did. They go on to discuss the importance of the shared story that is created between a couple, the way a couple communicates their story, and the value to the therapeutic process.
Zach gives us an update on his triathlon. Laura is exploring the deep recesses of Netflix. They go on to tackle a number of listener questions.
After a couple weeks away Zach and Laura catch up on what's going on. Zach is getting his health on and giving away lbs. Laura becomes the mom she never thought she would become. They go on to discuss the value of marriage retreats and how they can fit into a healthy relationship.
Laura is headed up to Seattle, while Zach leaves for the Jersey Shore. Zach busts out some dad jokes. They go on to discuss the importance of knowing your "why" as you enter into a marriage and how premarital counseling can help bring clarity to that question as you enter this important commitment.
Zach gets to sleep in for the first time this summer. Laura is rocking some new morning routines. After a quick Frozen musical interlude they go on to discuss a listener question. What are we to do with differences in the relationship. Particularly differences that probably are not going to go away. Zach and Laura offer some great insight into how to understand difference and conflict withing your marriage.
Zach is feeling great and loving the sun. Laura shares how she doesn't buy cloths off the rack, but rather off a person. They go on to share 4 markers in a relationship that research has shown that if left unchecked will spell it's demise. You won't want to miss knowing what to look out for, and they also offer great insight into how to help combat these negative patterns.
Laura needs to shower. Zach looks like the uni-bomber. Summer is in full swing with family members and kids headed in different directions. Zach and Laura offer some great insight on how to get on the same page with your partner even when you are coming from different places.
Laura shoots a pilot. Zach continues training for his triathlon. They then discuss the importance of a social network, both for each individual in a marriage and for the marriage as a whole. They share some great insights into the impact the people you surround yourself with have on your relationship.
Laura loves to pack and Zach fixed his flashlight. They go on to tackle a tough listener question about managing differences when your partner has gone through tremendous changes.
Laura is headed to Iceland. When Zach's magician changes plans he decides instead to compete in a triathlon. (You read that sentence correctly) Although a triathlon is not a team sport, today Zach and Laura are discussing the concept of being on the same team as your partner.
Laura's love for speedos get her in trouble with the grammar police. Zach's gets called out on church attendance by his pastor. They go on to share great tips for creating the right context for great conversations to happen in your marriage.
Laura is flying solo in this episode. She shares with us how important is it to stretch ourselves by stepping outside our comfort zones. Although we may recognize this to be true personally and professionally, it is also very important relationally. Laura give some great practical examples of how to do this while sharing some of her personal goals and experiences.
Zach and Laura tackle a question from a listener. Laura acknowledges a fear of The Wizard of OZ and Zach shares how he got his name.
Zach is a good son and surprises his mom on her birthday. Laura extols the unintended benefits of anesthesia. They each discuss their love for and struggles with Hamilton which leads them to the difficult topic of betrayal and loss of trust. Sharing examples from their experience as well as their studies, Zach and Laura give insight into tricky dynamics at play in loosing and regaining trust in a relationship.
Spring has arrived for Laura. Zach is still stuck in second winter in Seattle. They discuss Easter traditions and Costco scalloped potatoes. Sparked by a listeners email they revisit the emotional bank account and the importance of knowing the currency your partner needs in to keep a positive balance.
Laura struggles with technology. Zach compares and contrasts Kim Kardashian and Brene Brown. They then present some important research and personal findings regarding the power of increased emotional intelligence on your relationship.
We learn that both Zach and Laura's have some well honed eavesdropping skills. There's some brief talk of bodily function in the first couple minutes, but they quickly move on to share some important thoughts about the impact of money on your relationship.
Zach and Laura took last week off to explore Seattle's culinary delights, but they are back this week to offer great insight into keeping your emotional accounts full.
Laura is loving her single serving guacamole. Zach is craving another nap under his weighted blanket. But more important, Zach and Laura discuss the impact of traditional relationship roles and the need for shared power.
Zach is back from Cabo, Laura shows a lack of interest in deformed digits, and they both share some of the secrets to a happy relationship. They draw on both research and personal experience to provide some actionable tips to improve your marriage.
Laura is flying solo while Zach lounges in Mexico. After recovering from seeing a picture of Zach's hairy toes, Laura brings you a great challenge to spice up your love life.
While Zach lounges in Cabo, Laura introduces the show from snowy Salt Lake City. Even though Laura's mic had issues, she and Zach share some great insight regarding managing the device you are most likely listening to this on. Be sure to check out our sponsor Bagby on Etsy and be sure to use Code MTR55 for a great discount.
Zach and Laura offer their perspective on adding some interest and life back into a relationship that may be stuck in boring town. Laura makes a bold personal commitment and Zach shares some exciting family news. On this Valentine's day share some kind words (and maybe this podcast) with the one you love.
Zach and Laura talk through their favorite resources for couples. They're not what you think. Zach unleashes some pretty sweet "dad-jokes" and Laura tries not to laugh. Be sure to check out some of these resources and let us know what you think.
Laura has more input on Zach’s clothing choices. Cupcakes go uneaten. And Zach and Laura explore the motivations that bring folks to seek improvement for their marriage.
Zach places a bet that he's getting less. Laura places a bet that she's getting more. They move on to discuss the impact of children on the marriage and how to protect the relationship from the major change they bring.
Zach and Laura explore the subject of marriage therapy itself? What is it? Why does it work? How do you know you've found the right therapist? What can you expect? Zach also gets mad about traffic but Laura doesn't care because she's in a really good mood.
Zach and Laura hit reset on the podcast to celebrate the new year. (Third time’s a charm since they ruined the first two attempts.) They discuss the rituals and intentions that help them and their clients get focused on their relationships. Zach says "umm" a lot and Laura goes out of her way to pull her husband out from under the bus.
Laura takes a 4 hour break from Facebook. Zach reads 3 out of the 12 biographies we was planning to finish this year. After these confessions they discuss key attitudes and skills couples can employ to partner together times of stress.
Zach and Laura reflect on the nature and impact of stress on a marriage. They provide some great insight into how to not let it be a divider but rather a point of connection and strength in your relationship.
Zach and Laura talk about their bodies and what it means to be healthy. They also get into intimacy, which doesn't mean what you think it means.. What it actually means may surprise and inspire you. Is it possible that intimacy is more than just sex? Listen and find out.
Zach and Laura reflect on their weekends. Zach spent it at a marriage seminar with his wife and Laura had a girls weekend away. They let you know what worked and what didn’t and what you can do to get the most from your weekend.
Zach and Laura continue their Connection Series and discuss the power of intentional conversations. They share how leaning into some new scripts can build intimacy and true connection. Laura also goes overboard and pays Zach TWO compliments.
Zach Brittle and Laura heck begin a new series on Connection. In this episode they explore the phenomenon of Roommate Syndrome and how it affects many couples. They show you the signs for how the slide begins and they discuss the power of a McDonald's milkshake.
Zach and Laura discuss the most important skill for any couple and the best time to do it. (Hint: It's any time.) They also reveal the one question every couple needs to learn how to ask and answer on a regular basis. Zach reveals the secret to making him feel like $20.
Laura throws her husband under the bus and Zach talks about how much he hates the words "I'm sorry." They discuss a formula for how to apologize effectively and how both partners have a role. They also discuss why "forgive and forget" is a bad strategy.
Zach teaches Laura all about skydiving and the two most important rules once you leave the plane and gravity takes over. They discuss different ways that couples can de-escalate and repair in the midst of conflict. They test out a new slogan for the podcast.
SPOILER ALERT: You can't. Conflict is inevitable and every couple struggles in their own way. Zach and Laura discuss common problems and ways to navigate through conflict successfully. Laura tells a disgusting story.
You're a fly on the wall as two marriage therapists discuss their most interesting and challenging cases. Zach Brittle and Laura Heck have spent thousands of hours with hundreds of couples helping them move toward a better marriage.