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Laura Tremaine
Laura Tremaine has 10 Things To Tell You. And YOU have 10 Things To Tell. This is a show about sharing your stuff. Each episode asks a question, and you can take that prompt to your journal, to your best friend, or to social media. Let's dig deeper.
It's my birthday week! Which means it's my annual birthday episode.
This year I'm sharing the phrase that keeps running through my mind and the many ways I'm applying it to my past and my present.
(Plus there's a special announcement at the end of this one. Don't miss it.)
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MENTIONED in this episode:
Ep 265: How Have You Changed in the Last 10 Years? (with Meg Tietz)
Ep 259: 10 Questions for the Anniversary of a Big Event
Ep 253: Regrets and Reflections from 15 Years Working on the Internet
Ep 225: Change Happens When You're Looking the Other Way (a birthday episode!)
Ep 180: 4 Metaphors for Turning 44
Ep 122: Don't Give Away Your Power (Thoughts On Turning 42)
Ep 70: Age is just a number, right?
Ep 21: 10 Thoughts On Turning 40
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Wondering why all of your favorite creators, journalists, and writers are moving to Substack? Have you signed up for a few but are basically confused about how to navigate the Substack universe? This episode is for you.
I moved my longtime newsletter the Secret Posts and membership community Secret Stuff to Substack back in December, and I have lots of thoughts about this trend and how to make it your Substack user experience better.
Click HERE to sign up for the Secret Stuff Substack, where you'll get all my Secret Stuff essays for free or can upgrade for the Book Club & Symposium meetings, plus lots of other goodies.
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MENTIONED in this episode:
Secret Stuff Substack
Substack Tutorial post (with screenshots)
How to listen to Substack podcast episodes in my podcast app
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My real life book club members Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith join me to talk about the best books we've read (so far) in 2025!
Join SECRET STUFF on Substack for our BONUS conversation and for Stephen King Summer
We've created special lists of all the books we talk about on amazon and on Bookshop
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Laura's Best Books of the Year (so far):
Witchcraft for Wayward Girls by Grady Hendrix
Long Island Compromise by Taffy Brodesser-Akner
There’s Always This Year by Hanif Abdurraqib
Show Don't Tell by Curtis Sittenfeld
Didion and Babitz by Lili Anolik
Yasmin's Best Books of the Year (so far):
Careless People by Sarah Wynn-Williams
Entitlement by Rumaan Alaam
It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life by Jillian Turecki
Steph's Best Books of the Year (so far):
Run for the Hills by Kevin Wilson
Mutual Interest by Olivia Wolfgang-Smith
Like Mother, Like Mother by Susan Rieger
ALSO MENTIONED:
The Chani App
You Were Born for This: Astrology for Radical Self-Acceptance by Chani Nicholas
The Book Club for Troublesome Women by Marie Bostwick
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How to mark your special day with a dedicated Birthday Journal.
Whether you're celebrating on your actual birthDAY, or your birthday week, or taking your whole birthday month to look back and look forward on your life, these ideas and prompts will help you make the most of this period of introspection.
The 4 sections of the birthday journal:
Timeline
Who I Was
Who I Am
Who I Want To Be
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MENTIONED in this episode:
Ep. 249: 4 Ways To Journal (For People Who Don’t Like Journaling)
ALL JOURNAL PROMPT EPISODES
Other episodes about journaling:
- Ep. 9: 10 Ways to Journal
- Ep. 62: Should you reread or burn old journals and letters?
- Ep. 103: Journaling for Grownups
- Ep. 127: “You read my journals?” (A conversation with my mom)
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In 2016, at age 47, Bethany Winters was diagnosed with Grade 3 Stage IIB Invasive Ductal Carcinoma. What followed was a year of intensive treatment, including chemotherapy, a double mastectomy, and total hysterectomy.
In this episode, Bethany shares 10 Things about breast cancer survivorship, and how it's not ever really over even when declared "cancer-free."
This is a tender and important conversation.
This episode originally aired in 2021. As part of my effort to highlight the best of my past episodes, I wanted to replay this important conversation. 1 in 8 women will be diagnosed with breast cancer in their lifetime. Please take care while listening.
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This episode is a conversation with my husband, Jeff, and our two teenagers Lucy and Finch. We're answering listener questions about family dynamics, living in LA, how the kids feel about their parents' careers, and what they picture for their futures.
Other Tremaine family episodes:
Ep 59: Marry the person you could quarantine with (the Tremaines wave hello from lockdown)
Ep 69: 22 Things Out Family Watched in Quarantine
BONUS: Tremaines Wave Hello From One Year of the Pandemic
Ep 138: 10 Questions To Ask Your Kids (with Lucy & Finch)
Ep 211: The Cell Phone Contract for Teens
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Mentioned in this episode:
Ep 255: Making R-Rated Art As A Mom (with Stacy Rukeyser)
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The 5th annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER starts June 1! Join us as we deep dive on the world's greatest living story teller.
For Stephen King Summer 2025, we're reading:
THE SHINING (1977)
Under the Dome (2009)
And we're watching:
Christine (1983)
Episode 1 of The Outsider (2020)
Doctor Sleep (2019)
Stephen King Summer is a part of my Secret Stuff book club & membership community.
Browse Stephen King Summer MERCH
Not sure where to start with Stephen King? Jump right into Stephen King Summer OR listen to this episodes for book recommendations:
Ep 121: Stephen King Starter Kit
Ep 222: Stephen King Starter Kit Part II (What To Read And What To Skip)
Hope to see you over on Secret Stuff for the 5th annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER!
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I had no idea how much I needed this conversation with actor, producer, director, writer, and musician Fiona Rene. In just one hour she taught me the value of believing in yourself above all else, more than anyone else, almost to the point of delusion.
You might know Fiona Rene from her roles on Lincoln Lawyer, NCIS: Hawaii, I Know What You Did Last Summer, and her leading role in the #1 CBS show Tracker, but Fiona and I immediately connected over our Oklahoma roots. In this ONE THING conversation - where I ask my guests about the ONE THING they would tell you - we talk about self-confidence, the balance between "being" and "doing" and why believing in yourself above all else is the key to success.
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This episode with my friend Amy Ortloff originally aired in August 2021 with the title Teaching People To Grieve With Me. As part of my effort to highlight the best of my past episodes, I wanted to replay this conversation, which is one of the most important I've ever shared.
Content warning: Child loss and suicide
In 2017, Amy Ortloff lost her middle child Ryan to suicide. Ryan was just 17 years old. Less than a week after his death, Amy took to her personal Facebook page and starting sharing every single day. She began by sharing stories about Ryan, family memories and examples of the kind of kid he was. She didn't want her child to be forgotten.
As the weeks went by, deep in grief, Amy also started sharing her own experiences of this devastating time she was living through. She shared what she was learning in therapy, she set and shared her personal boundaries for interaction for those in her small town Oklahoma community.
Amy's sharing was raw and vulnerable. It was heartbreaking and powerful. I made a point to read her posts every day that first year after Ryan.
This episode is about the effects of that real-time sharing during the hardest time of her life, the positive and the negative. Amy was teaching us how to grieve with her, and it made an enormous impact on me long before I ever wrote a book about sharing stuff.
If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or text TALK to 741741.
Please share this episode with anyone who needs to hear it.
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My favorite topic, any time of year.
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Books I'm Looking Forward To Reading:
The Book Club for Troublesome Women by Marie Bostwick
Playworld: A Novel by Adam Ross
Broken Country by Clare Leslie Hall
Run for the Hills by Kevin Wilson
Three Biographies:
Sister Sinner by Claire Hoffman
Mark Twain by Ron Chernow
Manson by Jeff Guinn
Best Books Lately:
There’s Always This Year by Hanif Abdurraqib
Americanah by Chimimanda Ngozi Adichie
Parable of the Sower by Octavia E. Butler
Long Island Compromise by Taffy Brodesser-Akner
The Tell by Amy Griffin
Victorian Psycho by Virginia Feito
Wild Dark Shore by Charlotte McConaghy
ALSO MENTIONED:
Ep. 258: Best Books Lately with Liz Hein
NYTimes 100 Best Books of the 21st Century
Ep. 98: How To Start a Book Club
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This episode is the very core of what 10 Things To Tell You is about: reflection, growth, and great conversations.
And this conversation happens to be with one of my oldest friends and very favorite person to be on the microphone with: Meg Tietz. We're talking through the many ways we've changed in the last 10 years - since 2015 - in our home & family, career, and spiritually/emotionally. We have so much to say about our mid-30s, mid-2010s selves, and we're encouraging YOU to reflect on your own changes from the last decade.
Meg is a writer, speaker, voice over artist, and internet pioneer. I have been following in her footsteps since high school, and she is responsible for giving me my first shot at podcasting when she launched the Sorta Awesome show in 2015. Together we created and produced Smartest Person in the Room and now we're both creating regularly on Substack.
Read Meg's Substack Gemini Wrongs
Hire Meg for voice over work
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MENTIONED in this episode:
Meg's Deconversion Series on Substack (Part 1) and Part 2 and Part 3
Secret Stuff by Laura Tremaine
Ep 235: 4 Lessons After Publishing 2 Books
Ep 34: The Robbery
Ep 194: On Endings and Intuition
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Have you ever felt underestimated? Of course you have. Maybe YOU'VE underestimated yourself (which can somehow feel worse).
My friend and fellow podcaster and author Mary Marantz joins me to talk about her new book Underestimated: The Surprisingly Simple Shift To Quit Playing Small, Name The Fear, and Move Forward Anyway. I just love Mary and love what she has to say about taking our future into our own hands.
Click HERE to get Mary's preorder bonuses
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ALSO MENTIONED in this episode:
Dirt by Mary Marantz
Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots
Take the Achiever Quiz
Ep 213: Anxiety Always Makes Sense with Dr. Becky Kennedy
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You'll love this conversation if you've ever wrestled with the fact that achieving your dreams can look and feel different than you expected.
Annie B Jones is most well known for owning The Bookshelf bookstore and for her book-focused podcast From the Front Porch, but now she's on the other side of publishing industry as she releases her debut book of essays Ordinary Time: Lessons Learned While Staying Put.
In this conversation, Annie and I talk about how dreams don't always look the way you planned, like living near your hometown, owning a bookstore, even (especially?) writing a book! Our lives look so different from one another, but we found so many parallels.
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I have been waiting for the right moment to feature this conversation with interior designer Michelle Fahmy, founder of Haus of Meeshie, about bringing bold color and unique style to your home and life. For the past two years, Meeshie has helped bring fresh life to our family's home in Los Angeles, bringing a whole new vibe to our living spaces.
Since I've long preached the power of our spaces on this show, I knew Meeshie (with her very bold style) would be the perfect person to talk us through this topic. But this conversation ended up being about way more than just paint and wallpaper. Meeshie's own career trajectory and leaps of faith make this an inspiring message for how to create the colorful life you want.
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Check out the EXTRA THINGS conversation with Meeshie on Laura Tremaine's Secret Stuff
Episodes that pair well with this one:
Ep 236: Discovering what was always there
BONUS: 5 Rules To Create A House You Love
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Over the last few years I’ve watched my friend, Jessica Turner, privately and publicly walk through her husband’s coming out and their subsequent divorce as well as her efforts to find her equilibrium in this new family dynamic. Jessica has done it all with grace and kindness and honesty, sharing her story with incredible strength and vulnerability. Her newest book, I Thought It Would Be Better Than This, chronicles this journey and the lessons she’s learned from it.
In this conversation, Jessica shares what it was like to navigate her own grief about the end of her marriage while also remaining a friend and ally to her ex-husband as he navigated coming out as gay. She shares how she was helped by journaling and therapy (two drums I will continue to bang all my days) and the rules she has for herself when it comes to sharing difficult and vulnerable things online. Jessica’s hard won wisdom is applicable to anyone dealing with disappointment. or who thought to themselves about their love life, career, parenting, or just adulthood...I thought it would be better than this.
Learn more about Jessica Turner
Follow Jessica Turner on IG
Buy her book (out now!) I Thought It Would Be Better Than This
Jessica's other books:
The Fringe Hours
Stretched Too Thin
Jessica's other appearance on 10 Things To Tell You:
Ep. 54: Best Books Lately with Jessica Turner
BONUS: How Influencers are making money off you. (a conversation with Jessica Turner)
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This episode is for anyone who has gone through a friendship breakup, or who desires finding a best friend as an adult.
Every week on this show I encourage you to take the prompts and topics to a best friend in order to have a deeper conversation and better connection. But what if you don't have a best friend? What if you used to have a best friend but now you don't and that pain still lingers? What if you want a best friend, but have no idea how to find that person?
In honor of my book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs celebrating its book birthday this week, I wanted to rerun this episode from January 2021 with Heather Adams. Even though we recorded this years before The Life Council came out, you can see how I was already threading together the ideas that would eventually become the book.
Buy The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs on amazon or on bookshop
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I'm sharing my current favorite beauty products, apps, books, charities, and experiences of the last few months.
JOIN SECRET STUFF to hear me share a few extra goodies like the current podcasts I'm bingeing, as well as a few not Favorite Things.
What are YOUR favorite things in this season? Winter 2025 has been a doozy, so making a list of the things we love right now can give you such a boost of gratitude. I also really like how these lists mark a moment in time.
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MENTIONED in this episode:
Opal phone blocking app
Money Hair Mask: Deep Hydrating and Strengthening Treatment
MdrnDock Travel Charger
Travel Hanging Organizer for Makeup & Skincare Products
Travel Organizer for Sunglasses & Jewelry
The Power of Intention by Wayne Dyer
Inner Excellence by Jim Murphy
Los Angeles Fire Department Foundation
Direct Relief
Altadena Girls
Grady Hendrix Author Event
Witchcraft for Wayward Girls by Grady Hendrix
Laura Tremaine's Secret Substack
Substack TUTORIAL
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Professional photo organizer Casey von Stein (aka Miss Freddy) is BACK and this time she's helping us handle all those old, sentimental photos we all have stuffed in boxes in a closet somewhere.
Miss Freddy is answering my questions on how to make the physical photos into digital files and then how to organize and back them up online so we never have to worry they'll be lost or damaged in the future. She also says something to me about the 30,000 photos I have stored on my phone that might have just changed my life.
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Learn more about Miss Freddy's BACKUP BOOTCAMP
Listen to past episodes with Miss Freddy:
Ep. 41: 10 Tips to Organize Your Photos with Miss Freddy
Ep. 82: Create a Family Yearbook (10 Tips from Miss Freddy)
MENTIONED in this episode:
Epson FastFoto Scanner
ScanSnap portable scanner
Aura digital photo frame
Miss Freddy’s blog post: How to Convert DVDs to Digital Files
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This month marks 5 years still the Covid-19 pandemic turned our lives upside down.
In this episode, I'm sharing 10 questions that can be used as journal prompts or conversation starters on the anniversary of any big event.
I'm focusing my answers to these prompts on the five-year mark of the pandemic, but each question is crafted to be universal for any big event in your past.
JOIN ME ON SUBSTACK for a JOURNAL PARTY on this topic with the members of Secret Stuff
I'll also be posting all of the prompts on social media and in the show notes
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RELATED EPISODES:
10 Questions for Starting Over
10 Questions To Ask Yourself in the Middle of Anything
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This is a very special episode of Best Books Lately. Special because it's been awhile since we've had one, special because it's with my longtime internet friend and book twin Liz Hein, and special because we're weaving together some of the most important themes of 10 Things To Tell You: sharing your stuff, connection, and, of course, BOOKS.
In this conversation, Liz and I are not only talking about the best books we've read lately (and we've both read some great things!), Liz is also sharing about the life of her father, legendary Chicago photographer Rich Hein, who passed away unexpectedly last month. Liz's book selections are inspired by her dad, and I love that we could honor his memory in this way.
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Rich Hein's obituary was on the front page of the Chicago Sun-Times
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LAURA'S BOOKS:Beautyland by Marie Helene Bertino
Witchcraft for Wayward Girls by Grady Hendrix
Cue the Sun! by Emily Nussbaum
Liars by Sarah Manguso
We Used to Live Here by Marcus Kliewer
LIZ'S BOOKS:A Place for Us by Fatima Farheen Mirza
Hamnet by Maggie O'Farrell
The Remains of the Day by Kazuo Ishiguro
Wild Dark Shore by Charlotte McConaghy
There's Always This Year by Hanif Abdurraqib
ALSO MENTIONED:Bob Dylan Goes Electric by Elijah Wald
How High We Go in the Dark by Sequoia Nagamatsu
How to Sell a Haunted House by Grady Hendrix
The Southern Book Club's Guide to Slaying Vampires by Grady Hendrix
By Any Other Name by Jodi Picoult
The Book of Two Ways by Jodi Picoult
Small Great Things by Jodi Picoult
Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro
All Fours by Miranda July
Migrations by Charlotte McConaghy
Once There Were Wolves by Charlotte McConaghy
EPISODES MENTIONED:Ep. 250 Best Books of the Year 2024
Ep. 252 Most Anticipated Books of 2025 with Traci Thomas of The Stacks podcast
Ep. 195 Why do smart people love dumb tv?
Ep 239 Horror for Beginners with Meredith Monday Schwartz
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As the headlines get harder, the politics more divisive, and the platforms themselves more corrupt, many of us are rethinking our social media usage in 2025.
Yeah, sure, we've all said this before in the past. So we take breaks, or delete the apps off our phones, but we always come crawling back. Social media is just an ingrained part of our lives now. It's where we get our news, it's how we connect with others, it's a source of entertainment and expression.
And yet...there is something different about this moment in internet history. People really are fed up, but it also seems impossible to quit cold turkey. There has to be a middle ground between spending large chunks of our day scrolling and walking away from social media completely. In this episode I'm walking through my own personal process of changing my relationship with my phone.
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MENTIONED in this episode:
Opal app
RELATED episodes:
Ep 253: Regrets and Reflections After 15 Years of Working on the Internet
Ep 246: A Funeral for Twitter
Ep 211: The Cell Phone Contract (A conversation with my kids)
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Sometimes you read a friend's book and you're jealous they wrote something this good. This is how I felt when I read writer and podcast Melanie Shankle's latest Here Be Dragons: Treading the Deep Waters of Motherhood, Mean Girls, and Generational Trauma.
This book is about Melanie's very complicated relationship with her mom, woven together with her own Big Feelings about the mean girls that took over her daughter's high school experience. As someone who regularly preaches that all of us should be sharing our stuff, my jaw dropped at some of the stories that Melanie is able to share so well.
In this conversation, Melanie and I talk about all of those things. It's a tender topic, but Melanie is, as always, full of humor and wisdom in the face of it all.
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MENTIONED in this episode:
The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs
Ep 243: Best Books Lately with Sophie Hudson
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Now THIS is truly a conversation you won't hear anywhere else. My friend, television show runner Stacy Rukeyser, joins me to talk about making R-rated art when you're a mom.
Stacy has written on some really great shows over the years, but she was tasked with creating Netflix's first foray into erotica with her show Sex/Life back in 2021 and it brought up some questions about making this type of creative content when you're a mom. Stacy rightly points out that men likely wouldn't be asked (or be asking) the same type of questions, but it was a fascinating conversation to explore.
Stacy shares her fascinating Hollywood career trajectory, the column that broke open a One Tree Hill scandal, and the differences working in female-led writer's rooms.
This episode is a bit of a curve ball, but I think you'll be riveted.
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MENTIONED in this episode:
Stacy's great grandfather Hall Caine
The Manx Man
Dinner for Vampires by Bethany Joy Lenz
Un-real on Netflix
44 Chapters About 4 Men by BB Easton
Hollywood Reporter article about the One Tree Hill writer's room
RELATED Episodes:
Ep 189: About the Hollywood Strikes (And how it affects you)
Ep 195: Why do smart people watch dumb tv?
Ep 216: Stop Deferring Your Life (A ONE THING conversation with Amy B. Harris)
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Continuing my look back on 15 years of working on the internet (and the last decade as working as a podcaster), I'm addressing a question that I've gotten fairly often recently: Any advice on starting a podcast?
Based on my own mistakes working on three different shows, and observations about the podcast listening community and industry, in this episode I'm sharing what I would do if I started a new podcast today. While I speaking pretty specifically about podcasting in this episode, I also think that a lot of what I talk about applies to most creative endeavors on the internet in 2025.
I'm talking about creativity, marketing, mindset, equipment, and more. And at the end I give a little pep talk that maybe we all need.
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MENTIONED in this episode:
Audacity recording/editing software
Riverside.fm software for remote recording
Single microphone I used for years recording in person
Current microphone I use
RELATED episodes:
Ep 124: Behind the Scenes of Podcasting
Ep 205: 10 Things All Podcast Fans Should Know
Ep 253: Regrets and Reflections After 15 Years of Working On the Internet
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This month marks FIFTEEN years that I have been pursuing a career primarily by sharing myself on the internet. Starting with the Hollywood Housewife blog in January 2010, then building a social media presence, then becoming a podcaster and an author, and I have so many stories and thoughts to share about the last decade and a half.
On this episode, I'm talking about the things I did right, the things I definitely got wrong, and how I've evolved right along with the World Wide Web.
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MORE episodes on this topic:
Ep. 73: I Wrote a Book!
Ep. 63: Working From Home
Ep. 111: Behind The Scenes of Publishing, Marketing, and Launching a Book (with Kelly Gordon)
Ep. 166: How To Write a Book (in 10 Steps)
Ep. 174: 3 Things I've Learned While Working With a Business Coach (A Conversation with Retha Nichole)
MENTIONED in this episode:
Ep. 251: 10 Things I Learned in 2024
Sorta Awesome podcast
Smartest Person in the Room podcast
Racial Bias series on SPITR
Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First. by Laura Tremaine
The Life Council by Laura Tremaine
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No matter the question, reading is the answer. And in a year starting off like 2025 is, we certainly need a lot of answers to life's questions.
I am thrilled to welcome fellow Angeleno bookworm Traci Thomas (host of The Stacks podcast) to talk about the most anticipated new book releases of 2025. We talk about novels and nonfiction by debut and beloved authors publishing this year and sorry not sorry about this conversation that will send your book budget soaring. There are so many good books to look forward to in the next six months.
Also in this episode, Traci really gives me a lot to think about in terms of how we talk about books and why it's okay to be publicly critical of books that don't work for us. As an author who is jumpy about that concept, Traci really shifted my perspective on this.
You can listen to Traci on The Stacks podcast
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You can read Traci on her substack Unstacked
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MOST ANTICIPATED 2025 BOOKS:
January Books:
- Black in Blues: How a Color Tells the Story of My People by Imani Perry
- Witchcraft for Wayward Girls by Grady Hendrix
February Books:
- Pure Innocent Fun: Essays by Ira Madison III
- Show Don’t Tell by Curtis Sittenfeld
- Death Takes Me by Cristina Rivera Garza
- One Day, Everyone Will Have Always Been Against This by Omar El Akkad
March Books:
- Hot Air by Marcy Dermansky
- I'll Love You Forever: Notes from a K-Pop Fan by Giaae Kwon
- There is No Place for Us: Working and Homeless in America by Brian Goldstone
April Books:
- Dear Writer: Pep Talks & Practical Advice for the Creative Life by Maggie Smith
- The Book of Alchemy: A Creative Practice for an Inspired Life by Suleika Jaouad
- Authority: Essays by Andrea Long Chu
May Books:
- Love and Exile by Shon Faye
- The Last Supper: Art, Faith, Sex, and Controversy in the 1980s by Paul Elie
June Books:
- Atmosphere by Taylor Jenkins Reid
- Weepers by Peter Mendelsun
ALSO MENTIONED in this episode:
- Sara Hildreth of Fiction Matters
- Episode 122 of The Stacks Podcast with Kiese Laymon, Breathe by Imani Perry Book Club
- Episode 222: Stephen King Starter Kit Part II
- The Keep It Podcast
- Read Traci's Most Anticipated List of 2025 with a different set of books than she talks about here
- Suleika Jaouad’s Substack, The Isolation Journals
MORE BOOKS mentioned in this episode:
- Blood in the Water by Heather Ann Thompson
- South to America by Imani Perry
- Vexy Thing: On Gender and Liberation by Imani Perry
- May We Forever Stand: A History of the Black National Anthem by Imani Perry
- Breathe: A Letter to My Sons by Imani Perry
- Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates
- Looking for Lorraine by Imani Perry
- The Southern Book Club’s Guide to Slaying Vampires by Grady Hendrix
- How to Sell a Haunted House by Grady Hendrix
- Romantic Comedy by Curtis Sittenfeld
- American Wife by Curtis Sittenfeld
- You Like It Darker by Stephen King
- Liliana’s Invincible Summer by Cristina Rivera Garza
- American War by Omar El Akkad
- Evicted by Matthew Desmond
- Reagan: His Life and Legend by Max Boot
- You Can Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie Smith
- Between Two Kingdoms by Suleika Jaouad
- The Book of Alchemy: A Creative Practice for an Inspired Life by Suleika Jaouad
- Beloved by Toni Morrison
- The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid
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This episode is for anyone who has (or wants) a Soul Sister.
In my book about friendship THE LIFE COUNCIL: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I write about my freshman college roommate and longtime LA roommate Lindsay Lawler. In the book, and in my life, Lindsay occupies the seat on my my life council that I call the SOUL SISTER. And in this conversation you’re going to see why. We have been connected spiritually and logistically and our lives have been intertwined since we were 18 years old.
In this episode, Lindsay and I talk about living in the dorms together, living in the Hollywood hills together, the ways we (accidentally) broke one another's hearts, and the ways we light each other up. Our bond and this conversation is a special one.
But the BIG reason I wanted to share this Secret Tapes conversation with Lindsay with you right now is that Lindsay is a singer and songwriter based in nashville and her latest album comes out this week! It’s called Peaches Holyoke and the first single Trying To Get Back To Texas is available on all streaming platforms now.
This is Lindsay’s first full length album in 8 years, it features 13 tracks, and you might also hear that new single Trying To Get Back To Texas spinning on OUTLAW COUNTRY on Sirius XM Channel 62.
I love Lindsay, I love her music, and after listening to this excerpt of our Secret Tapes conversation about our deep friendship for over 25 years, i think you will love her too.
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MENTIONED in this episode:
Ep 28: Motherhood Through Adoption with Lindsay Lawler
Ep 164: Are We Friends Or Not? (A Secret Tapes Conversation with Business Besties Kendra Adachi, Jamie Golden, and Bri McKoy)
Ep 176: The Mentor (A Secret Tapes Conversation with Cyndi Finkle)
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This episode is for anyone interested in how the podcast sausage gets made.
We're doing something a little different in this episode. I'm analyzing the results of this summer's podcast listener survey, where more than 1,000 people gave their feedback on 10 Things To Tell You. Listeners shared their favorite (and least favorite) episodes of the show, and suggested topics and guests for the future.
I wanted to talk these results through with you because I value your feedback and want to involve you in the bigger picture of what we're creating here. I love making 10 Things To Tell You for you, and I also want to continue to make it helpful and entertaining.
I'm also sharing some of my personal thoughts on the state of the podcasting industry right now, and as a listener, you're part of that industry. So I'm giving a little peek behind the curtain of what's happening from the creator side, based on my own experience and from conversations with many of my podcast friends.
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Sorta Awesome podcast
Smartest Person in the Room podcast
Are you a chili cooker or a pizza orderer?
Who do you see in the picture?
10 Ways To Feel Better
Pay Attention To What You Skip
Intentions, Affirmations, and Vision Boards, Oh My!
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This episode is for anyone looking to transition well between the end of summer and beginning of fall.
Whether you mark the end of summer by the school calendar, the weather, or football season, we have come to the end of the season.
In this episode, I'm walking through 8 questions to ask yourself as we close one chapter of the year and enter into another. As usual, these questions work best when you share them with a friend, partner, coworker, or the whole family. They're also great for taking to your journal and sitting with your thoughts in this seasonal transition.
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MENTIONED in this episode:
Ep. 180: Four Metaphors For Turning 44
Ep. 181: Favorite Things (Right Now) Summer 2023
On Our Best Behavior by Elise Loehnen
Monsters: A Fan's Dilemma by Claire Dederer
Atomic Habits by James Clear
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This episode is for cooking newbies, confident chefs, and everyone in between!
Bri McKoy is one of my favorite creators on the internet (and one of my favorite people, period). She's back on the podcast to talk about her new book The Cook's Book: Recipes for Keeps & Essential Techniquest To Master Everyday Cooking, which launches this month.
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In this conversation, Bri shares 5 things she wish she'd known when she was learning how to cook. And I have to tell you, I've been cooking for 20 years and I loved hearing her talk about these things.
The Cook's Book by Bri McKoy comes out 8/29 and is so beautiful and useful, you will for sure want one for your own shelf and also one to give as a gift.
Learn more about Bri McKoy
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MENTIONED in this episode:
Ep 164: Are we friends or not? (a conversation with my business mastermind Jamie Golden, Kendra Adachi, and Bri McKoy)
Ep 24: 10 Favorite Kitchen Tools (with Bri McKoy)
Come and Eat by Bri McKoy
The Everyday Kitchen Masterclass
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This episode is for the therapy-curious and therapy champions.
Ten years ago this summer, I was in one of the lowest points of my life. I had a toddler and a baby, was grieving the death of a loved one, the diagnosis of another loved one, and the near-fatal crisis of yet another loved one. My husband was away making a movie, so I was solo parenting and circumstantially very isolated during a rainy season that had flooded our home.
And also....I had just started therapy for the first time.
I needed the therapy. Making that phone call was one of the best decisions I've ever made. But as many people will tell you: it often gets (a lot) worse before it gets better.
In this episode, I'm sharing 10 Things About Therapy that I've learned or noticed or want to share after 10 years of being on this journey.
There are practical tips and also my personal stories. This is completely my own experience and not meant to be prescriptive or authoritative - just me, sharing my stuff.
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My first book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First.
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Kevin Miller is a former pro athlete, respected personal development guide, top-ranking podcast host, published author, and father of nine who has devoted himself to helping people elevate their personal experience and improve the way they show up for others.
After our fantastic conversation a few months ago on his show The Self Helpful Podcast, I knew I wanted to talk to him about his new book What Drives You.
One of the things I've been working on personally this summer is examining and resetting some of the systems in my life, mostly professionally related, but also personally. This book and this conversation came at the perfect time. Identifying what motivates you can be such a key to your success.
Learn more about Kevin Miller
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We're back with all new episodes!
I have so many Favorite Things to share with you from this summer. Remember that we share favorite things every few months as an exercise in gratitude but also because it's a fun and low stakes way to share ourselves. What we're into at any given moment is a reflection of our tastes and interests.
My Favorite Things (Right Now) Summer 2023:
- Birthday Journal
- NEST NY Himalayan Salt and Rose Water Candle
- Everyday Habits App
- Adult Friendship bracelets (the one I bought here)
- Taking loved ones on a trip of a lifetime
- Abbott Elementary
- The Retrievals
- Basecamp
- Shark Heart by Emily Habeck
- Event Culture
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ALSO MENTIONED in this episode:
TLC Book Club Drop Ins
Secret Stuff private podcast & membership community
Book Soup Event with Emily Habeck
Books we’re reading in Secret Stuff:
On Writing by Stephen King
On Our Best Behavior by Elise Loehnen
Monsters by Claire Dederer
Birthday Journal IG post
Fabled Bookshop
Commonplace Books OKC
NEST NY Himalayan and Rose Water Candle
Everyday Habit App
Find What Feels Good App
Stretch It App
Ring Concierge Best Friends Bracelet
What we did in London IG post
What we ate in London IG post
Wimbledon IG post
Abbot Elementary
Succession
The Righteous Gemstones
The Retrievals podcast
Basecamp
Asana
ClickUp
Shark Heart by Emily Habeck
Elizabeth Barnhill’s IG
Into the Drowning Deep by Mira Grant
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I met author Alli Worthington over a decade ago when we were both in the mommy blogging world, and I've long looked up to her as an entreprenuer and innovator in the online space. And while I was a mommy blogger back then who didn't write much about motherhood, Alli was creating conferences, writing books, and raising FIVE boys and a stepdaughter.
So of course with that kind of expertise, I am excited to share this conversation about motherhood that's aimed at the MOTHER. Alli's latest book Remaining You While Raising Them is the opposite of an instruction manual for parenting, which is what makes it so refreshing.
In this episode, Alli and I talk about mom guilt, real self care, and the different ways social media and the likes can make us feel like we’re not measuring up. We also talk about our identities as mothers, the magic question Alli wants women to get in the habit of asking themselves, and why it’s important to allow our kids to see us get angry sometimes.
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Alli Worthington is known for her straight-talking encouragement and practical tools that help women reach their dreams in business and life. She is a speaker, podcaster, author, and life and business coach who launched Called Creatives, a cohort of women speakers and writers. Alli lives with her husband, Mark, and their five sons outside of Nashville with the only golden retriever who refuses to retrieve.
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As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show. August feels like the second "new year" on the calendar. Even if you're no longer super aware of the school calendar as a student, parent, or teacher, it still feels like a fresh start after the summer and heading into the last half of the year.
This episode is for you if you’re thinking about setting intentions, starting affirmations, and creating a vision board for the new year. In this replay episode from the end of 2019, I’m sharing my experience with setting intentions, writing down affirmations, and creating a vision board for the future.
Let me be clear that I am no expert on any of these things, but I do believe that something goes on in your consciousness when you stay open to receiving what the world has to offer (instead of closing yourself off from anything you don’t understand), and by putting in place a few practices that might positively affect your mood, spirit, and actions.
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Mentioned in this episode:
Episode #6: Revisiting Judy Blume with Cara Pence
Episode #29: What are your intentions?
Wayne Dyer
2019 Word of the Year: RELEASE
2020 Word of the Year: TRANSLATE
Article: Why Vision Boards Don’t Work
Episode #38: Books for personal growth
Episode #35: Ask me in 3 months
Episode #41: 10 Tips to organize your digital photos
Episode #45: 10 Questions to ask at the end of the year
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As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show. This episode is for you if you're interested in general mindfulness for personal growth.
The things we avoid are the things that can be teaching us something. I'm talking about the topics and people who give me a little twinge that I should pay attention to, both in real life and on social media.
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Tools of Titans by Tim Ferriss
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As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show. This episode is for you if you’ve ever needed to shake off a bad mood or a bad day.
I’m sharing 10 ways to pull myself out a funk.
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BONUS EP: Intentions, Affirmations, and Vision Boards, Oh my!
Ep 46: Book Club 2019
Best Books of 2019 blog post
Burnout by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski
Gretchen Rubin (her podcasts and her books)
The Next Right Thing by Emily P Freeman (her podcast and her book)
Ep 9: 10 Ways to journal
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As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show.
This episode is for you if you’ve ever looked at a photo of yourself and gasped.
This has happened to all of us, right? We've looked a photo of ourselves and seen a stranger.
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Episode #4: How do you connect to your body?
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Amy Keller Laird is the founder of Mental, the first mental health lifestyle platform for women. Previously, she was the Global Editor-in-Chief of Women’s Health and Beauty Director of Allure. Amy is a thought leader in wellness, mental health, and beauty, having appeared as an expert on Today, Good Morning America, The Doctors, and Entertainment Tonight. She has OCD, and has been named a Friend of NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) for her journalistic work in mental health.
In our conversation, Amy shares 10 Things she wants you to know about mental health in this moment, including tools that can help you and thoughts on destigmatizing the way women talk about living with mental health struggles.
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As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show.
This episode and this concept is brought to you by an old boyfriend, who (I think?) made up this analogy and it contributed to the end of our relationship and also has stayed with me as a major life question and metaphor.
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June is my birthday month, and every year I create a personal episode for the occasion. This year, instead of waxing nostaligic or sharing what I've learned in the last year, I'm taking us on a journey.
Of metaphors.
I'm sharing four metaphors that feel especially apt for life right now:
One Point (clap clap) At A Time
There are years where you wander and years when you're on the road
Accelerate through the turn
You are not lost
I hope you take something from this episode that helps you on your path.
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Instead of waiting for the end of the year to talk about our favorite books, my real life book club members Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith and I decided we should have a mid-year meeting to discuss some of the great things we've read in this first half of 2023.
We talk about the best novels, memoirs, personal growth, and general nonfiction books that stand out, and even share some of the personal things going on in our lives that have affected our reading habits lately.
We also unintentionally talk a lot about Hollywood in this episode - where the three of us all live and work - discussing the writer's strike and multiple celebrity memoirs.
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LAURA’S FAVORITES:
We All Want Impossible Things by Catherine Newman
The Perfectionist’s Guide To Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler
Spare by Prince Harry
Beloved by Toni Morrison
I Have Some Questions for You by Rebecca Makkai
Romantic Comedy by Curtis Sittenfeld
STEPHANIE’S FAVORITES:
Maame by Jessica George
Burn It Down by Maureen Ryan
Pineapple Street by Jenny Jackson
YASMIN’S FAVORITES:
Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing by Matthew Perry
The Shards by Bret Easton Ellis
Everybody Knows by Jordan Harper
You Could Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie Smith
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Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close by Jonathan Safran Foer
The Tender Bar by J.R. Moehringer (Prince Harry’s ghost writer)
I’m Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy
Educated by Tara Westover
The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls
Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Demon Copperhead by Barbara Kingsolver
The Great Believers by Rebecca Makkai
Tomorrow and Tomorrow and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin
Tales from the Boom Boom Room by Susan Antilla
Glamarama by Bret Easton Ellis
Less Than Zero by Bret Easton Ellis
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American Wife by Curtis Sittenfeld
You Think It, I’ll Say It by Curtis Sittenfeld
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I am coming off of an intense season where the work-life balance scale was tipped firmly in the work direction. I know the ebb and flow of this equation and I have come to understand that sometimes imbalance is exactly what is needed while tending to something important. But none of us want to feel out of balance for long.
This is why I loved chatting with my guest Tina Wells, author of the new book The Elevation Approach. Tina has had an entrepreneurial journey like no other and in the book she redefines this idea of work-life balance by introducing the concept of work life harmony.
In this conversation we talk about the difference between balance and harmony as it relates to our very full lives. She shares her elevation approach, the routines and rituals that have helped her as she works towards harmony, and how this can affect your relationships on this journey.
Tina Wells is a business strategist, advisor, author, and the founder of RLVNT Media. Tina is also the author of 16 books, including the best-selling tween fiction series Mackenzie Blue and its 2020 award-winning spinoff series, The Zee Files. Her new book, The Elevation Approach, is out now.
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Elizabeth Passarella and I have a lot in common: we're both authors, and mothers, and both moved from small, southern cultures to big cities to become writers. I spent my twenties working in reality tv while she spent the same time period as an editor at the top beauty magazines.
And then, having never met but with many mutal friends and chasing similar literary dreams, we released both of our books just weeks away from one another - first in 2021 and then this spring of 2023. On such familiar paths but on opposite coasts, it felt like the most natural thing in the world to finally record a conversation together.
Elizabeth Passarella is a contributing editor for Southern Living and former editor at Real Simple and Vogue. She has spent more than 20 years writing about food, travel, home design, and parenting in a variety of magazines. She is the author of two books, Good Apple: Tales of an Southern Evangelical in New York and her latest It Was an Ugly Couch Anyway: and Other Thoughts On Moving Forward. She grew up in Memphis, Tennessee, and currently lives in New York City with her husband and three children.
Elizabeth and I talk about her experience moving from the south to New York City, what happened when she bought an apartment in her building that belonged to a hoarder, and the ways she is able to write so honestly about her family. I truly enjoy Elizabeth and her writing and I know you will love this conversation too.
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Do you have a signature style? Do you want to have one?
I have a few signature styles, things that I feel good in, looks that I'm known for, a style of expressing on the outside how I feel on the inside: bold lipstick, head scarves, and sweatshirts. These things anchor my favorite outfits.
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In this episode, I'm taking away some of the myths of signature styles. They don't have to be forever choices. They don't have to be considered classic. They don't even have to be flattering. (Yes, really!)
Then I share three steps for finding your own signature style. (Hint: you start in your own closet.)
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When I sat down to write The Mentor chapter of The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I thought I was going to reveal that The Mentor was the seat that has remained empty on my own life council.
But as I wrote, I realized that I have had mentors along the way, women who have lit the path the ahead of me and shown me who I wanted to be. Chief among those is my friend Cyndi Finkle - a woman who so greatly influenced me when I moved to Los Angeles that I can trace so many of my decisions to her and her example.
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When Cyndi and I sat down to record this conversation for the Secret Tapes series, we had barely seen each other in nearly ten years, even though we live within miles of one another. It was a chance for me to tell her how much she meant to me during the most important year of my life, and to hear her side of what it felt like to take a 22-year-old sorority girl fresh out of Oklahoma under her wing.
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The third annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER starts June 1!
This year we're reading two books and watching two movies together.
We'll kick off STEPHEN KING SUMMER with a movie watchalong of The Shining on Sunday, June 4 and throughout June & July we'll be reading THE STAND.
Later in the summer we'll do a movie watchalong of The Dead Zone, and in August we'll be reading King's nonfiction work ON WRITING: A memoir of the craft.
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Stephen King Summer is part of my Secret Stuff Patreon membership community that offers special programs a few times a year like this one. Secret Stuff is $7/month and Stephen King Summer runs June - August. Your total would be $21 (charged monthly).
When you join Secret Stuff to participate in Stephen King Summer, you also get all the other Secret Stuff goodies like personal episodes, general reading roundups, and more.
All of the Stephen King Summer meetings will take place over zoom, and the book club discussions will be recorded and turned into podcast episodes so you can listen on the go if you can't make it LIVE.
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Hope to see you this summer for the third annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER!
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Over the last few months of talking about the many layers to adult friendship as I promote my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I've received so many questions about friendship conflict and how to navigate it with grace or end a friendship with love.
I've answered these questions to the best of my ability with my own life experience, but I also know when it's time to call in a certified expert. Danielle Bayard Jackson is a female friendship coach and educator who speaks nationally about the science of women’s platonic connections. Her coaching business, Friend Forward, is dedicated to teaching women how to create and maintain better female friendships.
In this episode, Danielle gives us actual scripts for how to start those hard conversations with friends. I hung onto every word.
We all have friendship conflict sometimes and get tongue-tied or scared when we need to say the hard thing. These tips and thoughts from Danielle will give you concrete take aways for your next ackward yet necessary conversation.
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There is something about Mary Marantz’s story and writing that I just connect so deeply with. Her memoir DIRT was one of my favorite reads of 2021 (listen to our conversation about it here) and she is back on the show to talk about her newest book, Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots, which came out last fall.
In this episode, Mary and I talk about striving to be the most put together person in the room in the pursuit of perfection and acceptance, feeling like we need to prove that we deserve whatever success or opportunity we have, and how our little girl selves would be so happy with who we have become. (And how even still we wonder what it would be like if our lives were different.)
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Eighteen months ago I started working with a business coach. It was the end of 2021 and I was, frankly, falling apart in several ways. In an effort to make something (anything) work, I hired business coach Retha Nichole to help me figure out how to prioritize the various aspects of my online work. I wanted to feel less scattered and I wanted to make more money.
At first, I felt embarrassed that I needed outside help with my business. And it wasn't an overnight fix. It has taken me almost two years (and multiple launches) to see all that has come out of this relationship, both emotionally and financially.
In this episode, I'm sharing the three most important things I've learned while working with business coach Retha Nichole:
- How to prioritize
- How to plan
- How to make more money
In turn, Retha shares the main reasons people reach out to hire her. This conversation is not meant to sound like an infomercial - I want you to listen as a way to opening your mind to outside help in areas of your life that aren't working.
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My new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs came out last month, and one of the greatest pieces of feedback I've already received is that it would make a great book club pick!
I agree wholeheartedly - I envisioned both of my books being read with a friend, partner, or group. Which is exactly why I offered a book club as a preorder bonus and why I chose The Life Council as the April book club pick for Secret Stuff (my membership community).
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Today's episode is a live replay of the Secret Stuff book club meeting. (Recorded and replayed with permission.) All the meetings for Secret Stuff are held on zoom, with optional participation from members, and this the best work I'm doing online right now. We talk about all kinds of things together (not just books) and it's just so meaningful to connect twice a month with this community. So you can imagine how extra special it was to meet and discuss The Life Council.
If you haven't read The Life Council, you'll still appreciate this candid conversation about friendship, including our struggles and joys. If you've already read The Life Council and are ready to talk about it, I hope this episode is a stand-in for the types of conversations I hope will come out of reading this book.
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As someone who has been writing and creating on the internet for over a decade, I know first hand all the challenges that one can face in their pursuit of creative work. The desire to create is there, but the obstacles are real, especially if you become a parent and feel like your time, resources and energy are limited. My guest, Ashlee Gadd, is the perfect person to speak to his as she has just released a book called Create Anyway: The Joy of Pursuing Creativity in the Margins of Motherhood
Ashlee and I ended up talking for two hours about art and perfectionism, how it takes a village to create good work, and the social media of it all. We also took a tangent and had a fascinating discussion about paid communities (including Patreon - where I host Secret Stuff), and metrics and some of the more in-the-weeds parts of content creation. That part of the conversation will be available to Secret Stuff members only.
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I felt so inspired after talking with Ashlee. You don’t have to be a writer or online creator to enjoy this conversation. All of us are wired for some sort of creative expression and life can always get in the way of that. You can buy Ashlee’s book Create Anyway wherever you buy books. I hope this conversation inspires you to pursue your own creative outlet with abandon.
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As I head back to my home state of Oklahoma this week to promote The Life Council, I'm feeling nostalgic in every way. Even as life has marched forward, and I entered my twenties, then my thirties, and now my forties, I have found it useful to tap back into the childhood version of me. It reminds me who I am in my core and it reminds me where I came from.
And sometimes, even as I evolve in a positive way, I need that reminder of where I started. I want to tap into that original spirit.
This episode has four questions to ask yourself about your childhood self. We're going to talk about:
Place
People
Our bodies
Our dreams
Maybe you think about your childhood self all the time. Maybe it's been a long time since you really remembered that version of you.
This episode and these questions will bring you back to who you were when you were young.
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Welcome to the final episode in my Friendship Stories series.
My guest today is someone you might recognize if you've ever emailed or DM'd the show, or you've just heard me talk about her giant contribution to 10 Things To Tell You, my book launches, and all other behind-the-scenes operations around here: Caroline!
In this episode about the serendipity of friendship, Caroline tells us the story of her longtime friend Judi. After Judi experiences a tragic loss, Caroline was there for her when she needed it most. This is a story about the gift of friendship and how friends help us navigate life’s ups and downs. Throughout the course of this conversation Caroline also shares about her twin sister, Jill, which is a friendship story in and of itself.
Caroline’s multiple friendship experiences were the perfect ones to cap off this Friendship Stories series because I think it highlights the width and breadth of good friendship and its importance in our lives.
This episode concludes the Friendship Stories series, which I loved putting together as part of my research and then launch of my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs.
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It's time for another episode of Favorite Things (Right Now)!
As a reminder, we do Favorite Things episodes because they're fun and also because thinking about what we're really into right now is another way of making a gratitude list.
Plus who doesn't love hearing and sharing awesome things?!
On this episode, I'm sharing a variety of favorites, including:
The Life Council Book Tour
New Favorite Alarm Clock
The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler
Neon Sign
Big blanket
Full Panic lipstick
Dog trainer
Laura Beth Davidson and also Jess Koehler
Aura
Judy Blume Forever
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Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series.
Carol and Gloria's friendship spans a few cultural differences, including race (Carol is Asian and Gloria is Black) and a large age gap (they have twenty years between them). In this episode, Carol speaks candidly about how these differences affects their friendship and bring both challenges but also beautiful gifts.
This conversation is also one about the importance of openness and vulnerability in friendship. I do want to say that as a white woman hosting this conversation, my job here was to listen to their lived experiences that are so different from my own. Carol and Gloria listened to this episode after we recorded it to make sure that their perspectives were represented.
Carol and Gloria’s friendship definitely qualifies as unique and I think you’ll enjoy hearing about it.
The FRIENDSHIP STORIES series is a set of conversations I had while writing my new book The Life Council: Every Woman Needs.
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Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series.
Over the last few months, we’ve heard a number of uplifting stories about unique and transformative friendships in this series. But today’s episode is about an aspect of friendship that is painful and rarely discussed: the friendship break up.
My guest, JeriLynne, shares that when her marriage ended, there was collateral damage in the form of friendship loss as well. That friendship breakup left her without real closure and she continues to struggle to be vulnerable in friendships.
While it’s certainly easier to talk about all the positive aspects of friendship, I think it’s also important to discuss these harder, more painful parts of these formative relationships. JeriLynne’s experience is significant and unfortunately a very real part of these friendship.
I write about friendship breakups and friendship loss in The Life Council in a chapter called The Empty Chair.
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In my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I write about how the "old friend" doesn't necessarily mean than you've known one another for decades. All that is required to hold that Life Council seat is to have a friend who has known you from one version of yourself into another. That actual timeline might vary.
But Shauna Niequist is one of my oldest friends however you measure it. We met in the late 90's working at summer camp, where (as I wrote about in my first book Share Your Stuff), I learned from Shauna a different way to walk in the world than I had previously been exposed to.
For twenty-five years, Shauna has been a friend, role model, mentor, and, yes, even a fellow obsessive as we discuss in this episode.
Shauna Niequist is the New York Times bestselling author of Cold Tangerines, Bittersweet, Bread & Wine, Savor, Present Over Perfect, and I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet. She is married to Aaron, and they live in New York City with their two sons.
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Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series.
The childhood that my guest Kammy is going to describe in this conversation is unlike any I've ever heard. She grew up on a remote island just two square miles in size, without much contact with the rest of the world. Looking back, Kammy can see that the friendships from this time in her life shaped her relationships to come, and the bond she shares with other children from the island is unrivaled. This is a fascinating conversation so different from the rest of our Friendship Stories.
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In the framework of my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, the duo behind the Pantsuit Politics podcast could be considered Business Besties or Old Friends, but I see them primarily as BATTLE BUDDIES.
Beth Silvers and Sarah Stewart Holland have spent nearly ten years publicly discussing the American political landscape on the podcast Pantsuit Politics, and, well, you can imagine why I see them as having walked through a battle together.
Somehow, though, these two women have navigated these conversations with integrity, grace, and - especially - nuance.
I've been a fan of Beth & Sarah for years now, and respect their work so much. It was honor to have them on the show to talk about their friendship and partnership.
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I have 10 things to tell you about my new book The Life Council, which launches TODAY April 4, 2023 in every format: paperback, hard cover, ebook, and audiobook (read by me).
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This is my second book in two years, and the process and mindset behind writing and marketing The Life Council has been so different from launching my first book in 2021.
In this episode, I wanted to share with you ten thoughts about the book, the creative process, why I felt like a fraud writing it, and why I believe in its message so deeply.
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My new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs launches in ONE WEEK!
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This episode is an excerpt from the audiobook version of The Life Council, read by me. The sections I'm sharing here are called A Friendship Reckoning and Five Friendship Philosophies.
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- Your Spouse Is Not Your Best Friend
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Welcome to another episode in my FRIENDSHIP STORIES series!
Can men and women be "just friends"? Kerith & Lee are here to answer that OF COURSE they can. Their unique friendship story starts with a surgery that results in hours-long phone marathons and a friendship that stretches across time and gender roles.
In this conversation you’ll hear what Kerith’s husband thinks of their friendship, how it’s impacted Lee’s dating life, and how others have reacted to their unusual friendship.
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My second book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs comes out in just two weeks, and so I have writing on my mind.
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Becoming an author has been my life's biggest dream since I was in elementary school, but I was in my 40's and had been writing professionally for over a decade before it finally happened. And, truthfully, my first two books are not what I ever pictured myself writing!
I created this episode because I really wish someone had broken down the process of writing a book for me years ago. And because I think a lot of people want to write a book, but have no idea where to start.
Although the 10 steps I walk through here follow my own process of writing nonfiction, a lot of what I'm sharing here could apply to any sort of creative endeavor. I'm talking about preparation, mindset, rituals, and radical honesty.
How To Write A Book (in 10 Steps):
- Be honest about the WHY (and if a book is the best format to tell your story)
- Decide what you’re really trying to say
- Outline, outline, outline
- Give yourself a deadline
- Find your rituals
- Measure something
- Write for yourself, rewrite for your audience
- Use an editor and don’t take the edits personally
- Let the book become what it’s supposed to be
- Call it done
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My favorite thing in the world to talk about is BOOKS and two of my very favorite people to talk books with are Meredith Monday Schwartz and Kaytee Cobb of the Currently Reading podcast.
I've been such a fan of these two women and their podcast since it launched and it is always fun to chat with them about the best books we've read lately.
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Meredith and Kaytee fall into both the Business Bestie and Fellow Obsessive seats in my framework for my new book The Life Council, and we talk more about their relationship and business origin story over on my Secret Stuff patreon.
But for this episode, we wanted to go straight to the reading recommendations!
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Black Cake by Charmaine Wilkerson
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The Light We Carry by Michelle Obama
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The Rook by Daniel O’Malley
The Drift by C.J. Tudor
Daphne by Josh Malerman
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How To Sell A Haunted House by Grady Hendrix
Leaving the Saints by Martha Beck
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Kindle Oasis
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The Windsor Knot by SJ Bennett
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Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series.
When I was young, I always dreamed of having a pen pal. It seemed like something straight out of a movie! Well wait until you hear Sarah's story...it really is like some magical fiction.
In the years before the internet connected us all, Sarah and her childhood pen pal exchanged hundreds of letters. But when they went to college, they naturally lost touch. A very serendipitous mutual aquaintance reconnected Sarah and her long lost letter writing friend and THEN....well, you just have to listen to find out.
I just loved this story of friendship evolving through pen and paper across the decades.
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Back In 2019, I infamously said on this podcast that the women in my business Mastermind were not my friends.
Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi are back to refute that claim and also take their offical seats on my Life Council as my "Business Besties," as I write about them in my book.
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In this conversation we tell our Mastermind origin story, share the biggest mistake we've ever made as a group, talk through our occasional professional jealousies, and dissect what makes an actual Business Bestie.
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My new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs will come out on April and starting TODAY you can get all three of my PREORDER BONUSES with your proof of purchase.
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Welcome to another installment of the FRIENDSHIP STORIES: my current series where guests share their experiences of the friendships that have shaped their lives.
In this episode, Bernadine shares her story of friendship particularly as it pertains to the planning of her wedding - an event taking place across the globe from where she was living.
As we know, weddings bring out the best and worst in people and Bernadine’s story has ups and downs that she shares like no one else could. But what I was most struck by in this conversations was the ways in which Bernadine continued to put herself out there when it came to making friends.
Despite terrible friendship loss, Bernadine remained open to the gift of friendship, never giving up or losing hope that good friends were out there. Her belief in the power of friendship can inspire us all.
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You'll have to excuse my fangirling on this episode, but it's a full conversation about something I love to talk about (routines - especially morning routines) with someone I've long admired (Simplified founder Emily Ley) and I just couldn't contain my excitement.
In this conversation you'll hear Emily Ley talk about her 5 of her best tips for a successful morning routine and she's full of grace about the whole deal. As in: do what works for you! But also here are some fresh ways to think about it.
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It's One of Use by J.T. Ellison
Essentialism by Greg McKeown
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We all have seasons of overwhelm, whether it's a packed schedule, an insane To Do list, or events that require a lot of emotional processing. I've been navigating my own overwhelm in the last few months while juggling a larger-than-normal workload with travel and family obligations. So I sat down to make a list of the things that are helping me handle it.
Circumstances are often largely out of our control, but we can still find pockets of peace that keep us in the present and help us maintain a clear mind.
I made this episode for me, but I hope it helps you, too.
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The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
Burnout by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski
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In this busy season I’m so aware of how neglectful I can get about my own self care. When life feels crazy, the first thing to fall to the bottom of my priority list is ME. And I’m becoming increasingly aware of what I’m teaching my own children in this realm.
So when Toye Penny reached out to share 4 ways to “Model Well-Being for Generations to Come” I knew I needed to hear what she had to say. Toye shares helpful, thoughtful and practical ways to love the next generation by loving ourselves well first.
Toye Penny is a Luxury Well-Being Strategist, Author of Love “Them”, Love You More, and creator of The Love You More Method℠. She specializes in helping High Performing CEO Moms put their oxygen mask on first so they can save everyone around them. Toye is a wife, mother to 3 daughters, and she seeks to intervene in women’s lives so children won't have to be the result of generational trauma passed down from their mothers. You can learn more about her work by going to ToyePenny.com.
I loved chatting with Toye and hope you take as much from this conversation as I did.
One of my core friendship philosophies is that my spouse is not my best friend.
When I talk about this, people raise their eyebrows. Some assume our marriage is in trouble or that we're ill matched. It has become so common in romantic relationship culture to claim that you're married to your best friend that anything else seems unhealthy.
But while my husband Jeff is the most important person in my life, he is NOT my best friend. He's my partner. My co parent. My lover. I have best friends, and those relationships are different. Early in our marriage, when I tried to make Jeff be my best friend, the pressure for him (and me) to be all things to one another was too much.
We both needed and wanted lots of different types of relationships in our lives. Our marriage was stronger when we were closely connected to our friends.
I write more about this in my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, but I wanted you to hear Jeff and I talk about it with each other. We don't have the exact same take on this topic, and our perspectives shift with age and in various seasons, as almost everything does.
My hope is that this conversation will give you something to think about that counters the current cultural ideal that our partners have to be our best friends. Maybe it will become a talking point with YOUR partner or with your best friends.
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This is a conversation about infidelity.
Welcome to another installment of the FRIENDSHIP STORIES: a new series where guests share their experiences of the friendships that have shaped their lives.
In this episode, Melissa tells us about her best friend "Lauren."
This story has several jaw dropping moments, but this isn’t a perspective only about scandal. There are also so many details here about those friends - or sometimes even acquaintances - who met Melissa in the moment, just when she needed it most.
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My favorite thing in the world to talk about is books and while I will always have occasional reading episodes here as part of 10 Things To Tell You, did you know that I do a reading roundup every single month as part of my Secret Stuff membership?
Every month on Secret Stuff I share what I've been reading lately (the good, the bad, and the unfinished), and I wanted you to have a sneak peek to what one of those episodes sounds like.
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MENTIONED in this episode:
Kindle Paperwhite vs. Kindle Oasis
What Laura Read:
Now Is Not the Time to Panic by Kevin Wilson
The Anatomy of Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming the Body’s Fear Response by Ellen Vora, M.D.
We All Want Impossible Things by Catherine Newman
Our Missing Hearts by Celeste Ng
Spare by Prince Harry
On Laura’s TBR List:
How to Sell a Haunted House by Grady Hendrix
Elektra by Jennifer Saint
Toad by Katherine Dunn
My Heart is a Chainsaw by Stephen Graham Jones
Signal Fires by Dani Shapiro
Books Coming Out This Year that Laura is Excited About:
Exiles by Jane Harper
I Have Some Questions for You by Rebecca Makkai
You Could Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie Smith
Romantic Comedy by Curtis Sittenfeld
Those We Thought We Knew by David Joy
Chain Gang All Stars by Nana Kwame Adjei-Brenyah
The Ferryman by Justin Cronin
Congratulations, The Best is Over! by R. Eric Thomas
The Cook’s Book by Bri McKoy
The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine
Also mentioned:
Nothing to See Here by Kevin Wilson
Perfect Little World by Kevin Wilson
Little Fires Everywhere by Celeste Ng
Geek Love by Katherine Dunn
The Only Good Indians by Stephen Graham Jones
The Great Believers by Rebecca Makkai
Friday Black by Nana Kwame Adjei-Brenyah
The Passage by Justin Cronin
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This conversation is for anyone who will go through menopause, is currently going through menopause, or who has already gone through menopause.
Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz is my personal gynecologist and I trust her completely with the information she shares in this episode about the changes that women go through biologically, hormonally, physically, and emotionally. She's recently published Menopause Bootcamp: Optimize Your Health, Empower Your Self, and Flourish As You Age.
In this conversation we talk about her path to this work that combines holistic and modern medicine and her compassion and mission to help other women find the answers they need for this next stage of life.
Don't be scared by the "m" word. This conversation (and this information) is helpful, thoughtful, practical, and important.
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This is an important topic. Since the explosion in popularity of the true crime genre over the last decade, I've questioned the ethics of crime as entertainment. Many of us have become obsessed with grisley stories of murder.
But have you ever actually talked to someone whose loved one was murdered? Would it change your opinion on the true crime entertainment genre?
This episode is a conversation with author, award-winning blogger, and actress Amy B. Chesler. Amy's mother was murdered in 2007 and her book Working for Justice: One Family's Tale of Murder, Betrayal, and Healing is about the events before and after this tragic event.
Amy surprised me with her take on the popularity of the true crime genre and it definitely affected how I consume these stories.
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MENTIONED in this episode:
Amy B. Chesler's website
Working for Justice: One Family’s Tale of Murder, Betrayal, and Healing by Amy B. Chesler
Evil Lives Here episode with Amy Chesler
"Making a Murderer" Documentary on Netflix
"The Real Bling Ring: Hollywood Heist" Documentary on Netflix
"Keep Sweet: Pray and Obey" Documentary in Netflix
I Know What You Did Last Summer by Lois Duncan
Killing Mr. Griffin by Lois Duncan
Who killed My Daughter by Lois Duncan
Something Was Wrong podcast
Unsilenced Voices podcast
"A Murder in Mansfield" documentary on Amazon Prime
Dirty Money podcast
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Introducing FRIENDSHIP STORIES: a new series where we explore different aspects of one of the most important relationships of our lives. We're going to talk about friendships that work and friendships that end. We're going to hear about soul mates, infidelity, friendship breakups, rogue bridesmaids, and more.
Last year when I was researching for my book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I did dozens of interviews with women about their friendships. We talked about the best parts and the worst pain of adult friendship and these stories were fascinating. I am excited to share some of them with you over the next few months leading up to the release of The Life Council.
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We're kicking off the series with soul mates Christi and Cindi, friends who met at work over twenty years ago when they both had toddler daughters. Though they met when their circumstances were similar, things soon changed when Christi's husband joined the military after 9/11, and their family began a life adventure that took them away from their home in Louisiana indefinitely.
In our conversation, Christi and Cindi share why their friendship works and how their opposite personalities have shaped them into better people. We talk about their first big fight, the fact that they're jealous of each other's spouses, and how their friendship has survived the long distances. They also give excellent advice for making new friends.
I wanted to kick off the Friendship Stories series with a beautiful story, and Christi and Cindi are such an excellent example of what it takes to find and maintain a friendship soul mate.
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I'm hosting a class this month called Journaling for Grownups!
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I'm going to teach you:
- WHY journaling can change your life
- MYTHS of what journaling is (and is not)
- FOUR ways to journal that can be effective in any season
We're going to talk through:
- ETHICS of journaling when you're writing sensitive information about yourself and others
- SECRECY of having a journal with deeply personal thoughts that could potentially be read by others
And together we're going to:
- Journal together with my guided prompts using the four journaling styles
- Have a Journaling for Grownups community where you can post your questions and progress
Journaling for Grownups starts SUNDAY, JANUARY 8 @ 4pm PT / 7pm ET with a 90 minutes zoom gathering
The second zoom gathering will be SUNDAY, JANUARY 22 @ 4pm PT / 7pm ET for 90 minutes
Replays will be available if you can't attend LIVE
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Happy 2023!
As we kick off a new year, it's natural to think about what we want to do differently going forward. For me, I want to return to some habits that promote work/life balance and I'm activitely working to shift some of my mindsets by using affirmations.
Somewhere along the way I got out of the affirmation habit (I really stopped doing my whole morning routine in general) and while it was fine for awhile, I'm definitely noticing it now. The simple repetitions that you write in a journal or put on a sticky note on your mirror really do make a difference to your self-talk.
So I'm sharing the 3 affirmations and 3 habits that I'm working on in the early days of this new year, and I hope these help you as you think about the changes you want for 2023.
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Episode 79: 10+ Mantras and Affirmations for RIGHT NOW
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The week between Christmas and New Years is one of my favorite parts of the year. I love the reflection, the final Best Of lists, the hope and excitement for the year ahead.
In the past, I've called this final episode of the year "10 TAKEAWAYS from 20__" but as I was journaling through all that had happened in 2022, I realized that (for me) it was all about the lessons learned.
From Covid wreaking havoc to writing my second book to welcoming two new members to our household, 2022 became a season of learning how to change.
I hope that listening back to the lessons I took from the year inspires you to think about the biggest takeaways of YOUR 2022.
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This is a sneak peek of one of the personal episodes I share monthly over in my membership community Secret Stuff.
In this solo episode, I'm sharing some of my complicated mom thoughts during the holiday season and why I feel outvoted in my own traditions. I'm also sharing some BONUS EXTRA THINGS that I didn't put in the official Favorite Things episode here (Episode 152).
Each month I record AT LEAST one personal episode, in addition to all the other benefits of Secret Stuff: a book club, twice monthly zoom gatherings, and extra podcast episodes like this one with behind the scenes thoughts and info.
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It's the FIFTH annual Best Books of the Year episode with my real life book club friends Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith.
This is one of my very favorite conversations every single December and I do not apologize that it is super sized!
Yasmin, Stephanie, and I share 3-4 of our favorite books of 2022 across all genres.
As usual, there are some suprises, some curveballs, and LOTS of opinions.
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Laura’s Picks:
I’m Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy
The Measure by Nikki Erlick
The Only Good Indians by Stephen Graham Jones
Yasmin’s Picks:
Small Things Like These by Claire Keegan
Mercury Pictures Presents by Anthony Marra
Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want To Be by Becky Kennedy
Stolen Focus: Why You Can't Pay Attention-- And How to Think Deeply Again by Johann Hari
Steph’s Picks:
Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin
People Love Dead Jews: Reports From a Haunted Present by Dara Horn
Ghosts by Dolly Alderton
Sirens & Muses by Antonia Angress
Also Mentioned:
The Line that Held Us by Dave Joy
Foster by Claire Keegan
The Storyteller: Tales of Life and Music by Dave Grohl
Selena Gomez: My Mind & Me documentary from Apple TV+
The Leftovers by Tom Perrotta
Good Inside with Dr. Becky Podcast
My Heart is a Chainsaw by Stephen Graham Jones
The Nothing Man by Catherine Ryan Howard
Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro
We Are All Completely Besides Ourselves by Karen Joy Fowler
Booth by Karen Joy Fowler
Detransition, Baby by Torrey Peters
Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other by Sherry Turkle
Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age by Sherry Turkle
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I'm sharing my Favorite Things of 2022 including my favorite style choices, kitchen items, apps, and gadgets and more.
At the end of the episode, a few listeners share their favorites, too!
We share Favorite Things on this show because it's fun and as an act of gratitude. If you share your stuff on social media, make sure to tag @10ThingsToTellYou.
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Life 360 app
Stubbs Brand Citrus and Onion Marinade
Blue’s Hogg Smokey Mountain BBQ sauce
MZ Wallace bags
Think Royln bags
Accupuncture
Canvas Lamp
Jennifer Zeuner gold Margaux hoops
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New Babies!
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Waterproof Trash Can for car
Currently Reading podcast
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We all have to start over sometimes. A project, a job, a relationship, a new year.
And for me, this podcast! 10 Things To Tell You is BACK and this week I'm sharing 10 (oops, actually 9!) prompts that will help you think through anything you're starting over.
Take these prompts to your journal, to a business partner, to significant other, or anyone who is walking alongside you in your fresh start.
NOTE: Your ears are not deceiving you - one prompt is missing from this episode. I accidentally skipped prompt #7. The question was meant to be "What are your top two priorities?" so add that one in as you're journaling.
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10 Things To Tell You is returning to weekly Tuesday episodes starting December 6!
At the beginning of 2022, I took a step back from weekly podcasting in order to focus on my family, my health, and more importantly to write my second book.
And I did that!
(Preorder The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs in all formats now.)
I always knew I wanted to return to podcasting, but I wasn't sure if it would be 10 Things To Tell You or if I would be ready for a new project. After I turned in The Life Council this fall, I realized I still have LOTS of things to tell. And I just love what we've created together on the 10 Things To Tell You podcast. So I'm bringing it back!
I've already recorded dozens of conversations for you for 2023, including a series on friendship that is fascinating. I can't wait for you to hear it.
But I wanted to go ahead and relaunch in December because I love end-of-the-year episodes designed to make us think about how to end the year strong.
10 Things To Tell You will have a fresh look, new music, and renewed energy, but the concept will stay the same: sharing ourselves is the key to connection. Each episode will continue to give you a prompt that you can take to your journal or use as a conversation starter. Because sharing yourself will make you less lonely. Sometimes we just need a little nudge.
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It's good to be back!
This final episode of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast contains the the 10 most important things I have to tell you:
- READ
- SHARE
- NOTICE
- MOVE
- DECORATE
- ARMOR UP
- DOCUMENT
- PRACTICE
- LISTEN
- THANK
Thank you for being on the ride with me - for listening and sharing and also showing up on Tuesdays, ready to reflect or learn something or simply to chat. It has been such an honor to make these episodes for you, and I will never forget our time here together.
Laura
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After the final episode of 10 Things To Tell You airs, you will still be able to find me talking about books and reading (my favorite topic) in these places:
- On my personal Instagram account: @laura.tremaine
- In my free email newsletter the Secret Posts
- In regular episodes of my SECRET STUFF Patreon
This episode is an excerpt from the SECRET STUFF Patreon podcast where I share my top books of the year (10 fiction and 10 nonfiction).
If the book episodes will be the biggest thing you'll miss about the regular 10 Things To Tell You show coming to a close, consider joining the SECRET STUFF Patreon to get your monthly reading fix. We have a book club meeting and personal reading episodes every month.
I'll be sharing this "Best Of" list to the Secret Post email subscribers this week (it's free!) and also to social media. But this shared episode is the only place I talk through why each book made the list.
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I'm sharing my 10 Most Important Takeaways of 2021, a year that was personally hard and full of change and life lessons.
On this solo episode, I talk about everything from my word of the year to moving houses to confusing health problems to spiritual insight.
And at the end I'm telling you about a big decision I made regarding the future of the show.
Thanks for listening, friends. I am honored and grateful that you would spend so many hours with me in your ears every week for the last three years.
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10 Prompts for self-reflection or great conversation at the end of the year (any year).
My third annual 10 Questions for the End of the Year episode is here and while some of it may be a little familiar, there's a lot of new thoughts in this one.
Take these 10 questions to your journal, the holiday table, or to start any great conversation with friends, family, co-workers, neighbors, or anyone at all.
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My real life book club is BACK with our annual conversation about the Best Books of the Year!
Please welcome my friends Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith back to the show for our fourth annual Best Books of the Year episode.
We talk about what our reading life looked like in 2021, and then we each share a few of the best books that we read in the last twelve months.
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**Please note that my OFFICIAL and FINAL Best Books of the Year 2021 list won't be posted until the very end of December. I'll share that list online and on social media.
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I'm working on my next book, and while I can't give you too many details yet, I would love your help on one particular aspect:
I want your unique friendship stories!
This next project is all about friendship, and I'm collecting unique friendship stories that could potentially be used in the book or part of a podcast series on the same topic.
Here's what I'm looking for:
- Stories about a surprise in a friendship
- The heartbreak of a friendship breakup
- Something very unusual about a friendship (a wide age gap, for example, or a workplace friendship, etc)
- Something dramatic that happened within a friendship (someone saved a life, a cult infiltrated a friendship, a friend married another friend's ex, etc.)
If you think you have a unique friendship story that fits this description (or anything along these lines), I would love to hear from you.
Please fill out the form HERE:
https://www.10thingstotellyou.com/friendshipstories
And of course feel free to share this call out with anyone who might be interested.
I can't wait to hear from you!
I’m sharing four mistakes I don’t regret in my:
- Education
- Marriage
- Business
- & Body
As we come to the end of another calendar year, I’m (as always) nostalgic and reflective. Here are some of the biggest choices in my life that were the “wrong” choices, but I don’t regret them. (Okay, one of them I do regret.)
At the end of the episode, we hear listener voices chiming in with some of their biggest life lessons over the last few years. (Listener voices are always my favorite part of the episode.)
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Have you ever had the thoughts:
I don’t have enough time
Time is passing me by
I’m wasting too much time
If this is something that really affects your mood, your schedule, and you're full of frazzle, overwhelm, or a continuing existential crisis, then you may have Time Anxiety. (Not an official thing - just a name I gave to something that affects me regularly.)
In this episode, I’m sharing about my own Time Anxiety and how it hurts my productivity and my parenting. I’m also talking about how to notice ALL the messages we get in our culture about TIME, and why those messages are giving us constant low-level hums of anxiety.
I’m also sharing a few concrete methods I use to combat Time Anxiety.
I hope you find this episode helpful or at the very least like you’re not the only one obsessed with the passage and managing of time.
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We're in the home stretch of 2021 and plans for 2022 are starting to take shape. So I am so excited to welcome Sarah Hart-Unger to the show to talk about planning (rituals, philosophies, and more) and planning tools (paper planners, apps, and books).
Planning and productivity is a side hobby of mine, but Sarah Hart-Unger is much more of an expert. She's a doctor, a mom, a blogger, and has not one but TWO podcasts on these topics. You can find her blogging daily at TheShuBox.com and on her podcast Best Laid Plans (all about planning tools) and as a cohost with Laura Vanderkam on Best of Both Worlds (all about time management and work/life balance).
We had a great conversation about ALL of these things, which left me excited for the year ahead in both work and family life.
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Well this episode is a bit of a departure.
One of the strangest things about our life in Hollywood (and there are many, many strange things) is our enormous fish tank. Every time I share a little bit about our fish tank on social media, I get flooded with questions that I mostly can't answer.
So I finally recorded a conversation with someone who could! Nic Tiemens is the co-founder of Infinity Aquariums and not only does he take care of the Tremaine Tank for us every week, he has installed and maintained tanks for some of the biggest celebrities and most beautiful homes in the world.
In this episode, Nic shares how he stumbled into this line of work, why you shouldn't ever get a fish tank on a whim, and the insane new project he's been working on for two years in Bel Air.
My husband Jeff also joins us for part of the conversation, because he's the real reason we have a 1,500 gallon fish tank in our dining room.
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My annual social media challenge #OneDayHH will take place on Tuesday, November 9th 2021.
This short, informative episode will explain a little more about what #OneDayHH is, how it works, and why it's so meaningful.
#OneDayHH stands for One Day Hour by Hour, and that's what we do: document ONE DAY in our life, hour by hour. Sharing the things that don't usually get shared, like routines and spaces and outfits and all that other minutia.
We do it because it's fun, and that's reason enough. But this minisode might give you a little more inspiration to jump in.
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Can't wait for you to join in with this day-in-the-life challenge this year!
This episode is for anyone who misses being a student.
I have a running list of classic novels that I want to re-read as an adult or read for the first time because I missed them in high school English class.
And so once a year or so, I force myself to pick up those novels that end up on All Time Best lists like this one. Or this one. Or even this one.
If you have the same literary burden, this episode is meant to help you choose a classic that won't be a total bore.
I'm joined by my friend and Patreon producer Colleen Powell, a former teacher and current audio editor outside of Chicago.
Colleen helps me with the Secret Stuff Book Club, and this winter we're reading a few classic novels starting this November with Little Women by Louisa May Alcott.
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In our conversations, Colleen and I are sharing both the best contemporary books we've read lately AND the best classic novels we'd recommend to anyone.
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Best Books We've Read Lately:
The Guncle by Stephen Rowley A Swim in a Pond in the Rain by George Saunders The House in the Cerulean Sea by TJ Klune Oh William! by Elizabeth Strout 6 Classics You Should Read: Frankenstein by Mary Shelley Catcher in the Rye by J.D.Salinger The Thorn Birds by Colleen McCullough Native Son by Richard Wright Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte Little Women by Louisa May Alcott SPONSORS:
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It's the last Favorite Things episode of the year!
I'm sharing some real biggies for my life right now, but we also have listener voices chiming in with their Favorites of 2021.
My list includes a new pair of jeans that made me feel great, two documentaries I can't stop thinking about, and some personal choices around my home and kids.
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Well this MONSTER of an episode is brought to you by my inability to pick and choose among the great questions I got for this session of Ask Me Anything.
I'm sharing stuff about our new house, reading nonfiction, kids & tech, purposeful "no's", how I've changed, and vulnerability hangovers.
(I might have a vulnerability hangover after this episode!)
Thank you to all who sent in such question questions - I'm sorry I couldn't get to all of them.
I let it all hang out here, but for some of the questions that are even MORE personal, I'll be answering those over at Secret Stuff later this week.
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Fall schedules are SO full around here, and this time of year our family can easily go weeks without a meaningful conversation.
I've created 10 Questions To Ask Your Kids that you can pick and choose, modify for your family dynamics, or toss up one at a time over a week or so in order to spark great conversations between kids and adults.
These questions work for all ages (as long as the child can hold a conversation) and are a mix of light, fun, and deep.
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After I share all 10 prompts, I have a short conversation with my own kids: Lucy, age 11, and Finch, age 9.
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October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, and I have long wanted to have this conversation with my friend, stylist, and breast cancer survivor Bethany Winters.
Content Warning: Bethany speaks candidly about her experience in this episode. Please take care while listening.
In 2016, at age 47, Bethany Winters was diagnosed with Grade 3 Stage IIB Invasive Ductal Carcinoma. What followed was a year of intensive treatment, including chemotherapy, a double mastectomy, and total hysterectomy.
In this episode, Bethany shares 10 Things about breast cancer survivorship, and how it's not ever really over even when declared "cancer-free."
This is a tender and important conversation.
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My health, hormones, and heart have been on a swinging pendulum and this fall I'm on a mission to get centered. We can't control everything that's happening in the world, but we can pay attention to our bodies and our homes and our rituals to create the best space for us to thrive.
I'm sharing 3 (small-ish) changes I've been making to navigate the logistics and emotions of the last year.
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Less liquids
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Monotasking + Margin
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End-of-Day rituals
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This episode is for anyone seeking a life change.
We cannot, of course, plan for many of the plot twists that life throws our way. Breakups, pregnancies, a PANDEMIC...there are many major life moments that can catch us totally by surprise.
But what if we WANT to shake things up? What if we're seeking a new direction in our story?
This conversation with Roxy Stone and Katelyn Beaty from the Saved by the City podcast is all about purposefully creating our own life plot twist.
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This episode is for anyone who needs a little style boost this fall.
Okay, so it's been 18+ months of sweatpants and work-from-home pajamas and I'm over it. I want to feel cute in my clothes again.
But I'm not totally sure where to start. My body has changed, my style has changed, my wardrobe needs have changed. Thank goodness for Alison Lumbatis, CEO of Get Your Pretty On and author of the new book The Ultimate Book of Outfit Formulas.
In this episode, Alison walks us through 10 Tips for Wardrobe Confidence, and I basically needed every single one of these. I hope this conversation gives you the motivation to clear out the closet and put your best foot (shoe?) forward.
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This episode is for anyone overwhelmed with all their STUFF.
But rest assured, this isn't just another minimalist approach to your home. It's not even a get-rid-of-everything attitude. Allie Casazza has such a relatable story about the drowning days of early motherhood and how it led her to an AHA moment about all her STUFF.
Eventually she created the online movement - and now book - Declutter Like a Mother.
In our conversation, Allie and I talk about the myth of the hot mess mom, how much your space matters, and more. I really liked her fresh perspective on something I've been tackling in my own life for years.
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Kicking off Self-Improvement September with writer, podcaster, and speaker Andrea Owen, author of the new book Make Some Noise: Speak Your Mind and Own Your Strength.
Andrea's backstory of hitting rock bottom while also people pleasing and "powering through" was something I could relate to, and the tips she gives in this new book were definitely something I needed to hear right now.
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This summer I read NINE books that I gave a 5-star rating. NINE. This is unheard of, to read such incredible books all in the same couple of months. But now I'm so excited to share them with you!
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The Meaning of Mariah Carey by Mariah Carey The Happiness Equation by Neil Pasricha The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker Misery by Stephen King Mexican Gothic by Silvia Moreno-Garcia Billy Summers by Stephen King Who is Maud Dixon? by Alexandra Andrews Razorblade Tears by S.A. Cosby The Paper Palace Miranda Cowley Heller FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Other Episodes related to this one: Ep 107: 10 Reasons to Read (with @fictionmatters Sara Hildreth) Ep 119: Best Books Lately with Anne Bogel Ep 121: Stephen King Starter Kit Ep 126: Books We Wish We'd Written (with Shawn Smucker) SPONSORS: Noom. Go to Noom.com/10Things to start your trial Skillshare. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for a free month of premium membership * Thanks so much for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Rating, reviewing, and sharing the podcast really helps to grow the show. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for Episode Emails Join the Connection Group Listen to SECRET STUFF Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST.
Content warning: Child loss and suicide
This episode is one of the most tender and important I’ve ever shared on this show, and I am just so deeply grateful to Amy Ortloff for having this conversation with me and letting me make it public.
In 2017, Amy Ortloff lost her middle child Ryan to suicide. Ryan was just 17 years old. Less than a week after his death, Amy took to her personal Facebook page and starting sharing every single day. She began by sharing stories about Ryan, family memories and examples of the kind of kid he was. She didn't want her child to be forgotten.
As the weeks went by, deep in grief, Amy also started sharing her own experiences of this devastating time she was living through. She shared what she was learning in therapy, she set and shared her personal boundaries for interaction for those in her small town Oklahoma community.
Amy's sharing was raw and vulnerable. It was heartbreaking and powerful. I made a point to read her posts every day that first year after Ryan.
This episode is about the effects of that real-time sharing during the hardest time of her life, the positive and the negative. Amy was teaching us how to grieve with her, and it made an enormous impact on me long before I ever wrote a book about sharing stuff.
If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or text TALK to 741741.
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I'm so happy to welcome fellow debut author Sarah Bragg to the show!
Sarah's book A Mother's Guide to Raising Herself: What Parenting Taught Me About Life, Faith, and Myself is out this week.
We have a great conversation about permission in motherhood and finding our voices.
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Making a Favorite Things list is an act of gratitude.
And I remind you of this every 10 episodes of 10 Things To Tell You by listing 10 of my favorite things that are always all over the map: gifts, books, beauty products, philosophies, whatever I'm using or loving or thinking about right now.
And I want YOU to take a few minutes this week and think about 10 things that are bringing your joy. And then I want you to share those things somewhere, either with a friend or social media, or just in your journal or planner.
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My 10 Favorite Things Right Now:
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Bartesian
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Shoes (Born sandals and Amanu custom sandals)
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Grounded candle and lotion
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Mailerlite
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Reading with YOU (IG Reading Parties + Secret Stuff book club)
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Trampoline
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Getting back to things that tether you
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Being an aunt
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Eye stuff: StriVectin anti-wrinkle eye concentrate and Maybelline Sky High mascara
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Tremaine fish tank
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This conversation with Leeana Tankersley kicks off a series of BONUS author episodes coming through the fall.
Hope Anyway is Leeana Tankersley’s sixth book, and it comes after Tankersley found herself sorting through immense grief following the unexpected end of her long marriage.
Leeana Tankersley is funny and relatable and a great writer. I just loved our conversation that was full of vulnerable moments (me) and kind wisdom (her).
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Ep 122: Don’t Give Away Your Power (10 Thoughts on Turning 42)
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Exactly 20 years ago, I was in the middle of the biggest year of my life. I graduated college, moved to Los Angeles, was grieving a devastating heartbreak, and the country was weeks away from the tragedy of 9/11.
In this episode, I am asking YOU to think about the biggest year of your life. The answer may not be so obvious from the outside; it may not be the year you moved or married or had a baby or changed careers. The biggest year of your life may be full of loss or transformation, or both.
Twenty years ago in 2001, I moved across the country with someone I barely knew. We rented an apartment together, figured out Los Angeles together, made friends together, and, eventually, worked on jackass the movie together (something that changed both of our lives).
This is the first time I've ever shared a public conversation with my old friend and roommate Dr. Megan, even though I've been talking and writing about our time together for two decades now.
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Ready to bust out the air mattresses?
This episode is FULL of practical, logistical, and emotional tips for hosting people in your home. I'm sharing everything from the 4 things that keep (most) guests happy, to the mindset shifts that will keep you from being overwhelmed or resentful.
Look, if there's one subject I can give many (many) words to, it's hosting houseguests. Since I moved to Los Angeles 20 years ago, I've hosted friends and family of all group sizes, from couch crashers in a tiny apartment to my entire extended family at our new home last month.
Our lovely lake house has also been a revolving door of guests over the years, where I've become an expert at managing meals, airport pickups, activities, and downtime for families and groups.
I know that having guests can be an absolute honor and also completely exhausting. I hope this episode gives you the tools to plan and the freedom from pressure the next time you're the host.
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My mom returns to the podcast with some new thoughts about how she feels having a daughter who shares herself on the internet, the advice she would give mid-life women, and a long ago conversation between us in the car when she realized there was something...strange...about me.
I love to feature real conversations with friends and loved ones on this show. My mom is one of my favorite people, and I'm grateful she's willing to make these conversations public.
This was a fun, sweet hour together and I encourage YOU to sit down with someone this week and have a meaningful chat.
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This conversation with my old friend Shawn Smucker is one of the best I've had in awhile. We talk about reading and ghost writing and self-publishing and (not) censoring what our kids read.
And we also talk about the books we wish we'd written. Somehow I shock Shawn with one of my answers!
Shawn Smucker is the author of six novels, including his latest The Weight of Memory (which I devoured in a day). Shawn calls The Weight of Memory "a modern day fairy tale."
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This episode is for you and someone else.
These 10 Questions are meant for couples, but this isn't a big sit-down heart-to-heart. This is meant to be FUN. Stay open to your own answers and don't assume you know your partner's answers.
Because the main point of these particular prompts is to build CONNECTION. The questions don't go too deep (in case you have a partner resistant to this type of conversation), but you should definitely come away from any discussion using these prompts feeling just a little bit closer.
Most of the prompt episodes like 10 Questions for the End of the Year or 10 Questions to Ask Yourself in the Middle of Anything or 10 Questions To Mark One Year of the Pandemic are great for groups or families, but they also work well for your own introspection and journaling.
THIS episode, though, this one is MEANT to be shared with someone else. And while I primarily had romantic couples in mind when I wrote the questions, they're definitely not lovey-dovey. If you don't have a partner, these prompts would also work well with a best friend or a roommate.
I share all 10 Questions with you at the beginning of the episode, then sit down with my husband Jeff Tremaine to use the prompts as a starting point for our own conversation.
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Every now and then I like to show a little peek behind the curtain. Whether you’re a current podcaster, an aspiring one, or just a curious listener, I hope you learn something in this episode about creating a weekly podcast.
I’m sharing my thoughts on producing a show, what equipment I use to record, editing episodes, hidden costs, and making money.
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As you might imagine, this episode isn't all about vanity. We all know appearance isn't everything. But it's almost impossible to dismiss it entirely.
So this episode is a mix of practical tips and also some mindset shifts.
I made this episode for me. But I hope it's helpful for you.
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June is my birthday month and so of course I'm feeling (extra) reflective.
In this episode I'm sharing 10 Things I Learned (or am still learning) in the last year. A year that included a worldwide pandemic, publishing my first book, and moving houses after a decade.
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Stephen King is a genius and I believe we will one day study him in academic settings like we do other literary giants.
(He's also my favorite author.)
I'm making a case today for why YOU should read this master storyteller. He has created some of the most iconic characters and plot lines and imagery in history, but he gets a bad rap from casual readers because his most popular work is horror.
But horror as a genre might not be what you think it is. I believe you can handle it, or at least some of it. And I don't think readers should dismiss such an important author just because his work is deemed "scary."
In this episode we talk about:
- Why Stephen King matters
- His brief biography
- What stands out about his writing and his stories
- My personal favorites
- Where you should start
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One of the most personal and meaningful projects I’ve ever made was my podcast series called The Secret Tapes. It's a series of interviews I did with the people I write about in my book Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First.
The Secret Tapes were released in January solely to people who preordered SYSIGF.
But now the Secret Tapes are a part of Secret Stuff, the private podcast I launched on Patreon. All eleven episodes of conversation and interviews are available as part of the Secret Stuff membership.
This BONUS episode is a snippet of the Secret Tapes conversation I had with my parents. Let's just say that their recollections of everything I wrote about in SYSIGF are slightly different.
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Favorite Things! Again!
I'm sharing my current favorites: including home stuff, beauty products, travel outfits, what's helping me sleep, a new bra obsession, and what I can't stop giving as a gift.
In case you hadn't noticed, I moved the frequency of the Favorite Things (Right Now) episodes up from every twenty episodes to every TEN. This was in direct reaction to your feedback on the listener survey, so thank you for listening, sharing, and making this show better all the time.
And remember, the Favorite Things episodes are meant to inspire YOU to share YOUR favorite things (doesn't have to be 10). Post on social media, text a friend, start a great conversation over a meal. Share your stuff. (Literally.)
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The fabulous Anne Bogel of What Should I Read Next? returns to the show to talk about her 2021 Summer Reading Guide and the best books she’s read lately.
Anne Bogel (aka Modern Mrs. Darcy) is one of my favorite people to talk books and reading with, and I look forward to her annual Summer Reading Guide each year. We talk about how long it takes her to make the guide, and what her reading life looks like after she’s done.
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I also share the best things I’ve read lately (thank goodness my reading life is mostly back to normal!) and of course I kick off the show with a little announcement about my latest project Secret Stuff.
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I am so excited to let you in on a little secret: my latest project, a private podcast called Secret Stuff.
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I am so excited to combine the ideas behind my podcast 10 Things To Tell You, my book Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First, and my newsletter the Secret Posts into SECRET STUFF.
Secret Stuff will be a membership hosted by Patreon.
Monthly content will include:
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Each season there will be a SPECIAL program like:
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We're kicking off the summer season with 10 Questions that will help make it successful.
Answer these prompts in your journal or with a partner, or go around the table with your colleagues or family. These questions are slightly summer-flavored, but really they could used at the beginning of any season.
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When I stumble across someone on the internet who is sharing themselves in a very vulnerable or very unique way, I take notice.
And this is what happened when I found Danielle and Adam of Marriage and Martinis. Their podcast goes ALL THE WAY there. They talk about their relationship and also just LIFE in a way that I don’t think I’ve heard anywhere else.
In this episode, I talk with Danielle about the Marriage and Martinis origin story, why they've chosen to share their relationship in such an open way, and how their friends, family, and community have responded to their honesty.
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One of the things we’ve never discussed on this show is MONEY. Even though I know it’s one of the topics that we wish people spoke more openly about.
A lot of us are flying pretty blind in our money situation. Are we making enough? Are we saving enough? Are we spending or investing it right? How much money could I actually make if I started a side hustle?
A year of the pandemic has made a lot people rethink their careers, and there’s a lot of interest in going full time freelance, pursuing a passion, or monetizing a creative pursuit.
My guest for this episode is Katelyn Magnuson, aka The Freelance CFO, and she’s here to give us 10 Tips for Going Freelance. We start with some basics, but i’ve been in the freelance game for over a decade, and I still learned a lot in this conversation.
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Now THIS is a topic I've been wanting to cover for a long time.
Because whenever I do a social media challenge (like the currently running #OneDayMay) and I encourage people to post a selfie (as I often do), I scroll through tons of posts where women are APOLOGIZING for their self-portrait in the caption.
There are many reasons both personal and cultural that we feel extra vulnerable about taking and sharing selfies on social media, but in this episode I’m talking about the three most common reasons I see:
- We’re unhappy with the way we look
- We feel like selfies are indulgent, narcissistic, and annoying
- We don’t mind being in photos, but we wish someone else was taking them
I look at selfies from all kinds of angles in this episode, hoping that it leads away from selfie shame and into selfie empowerment. But I also want to talk about why we judge other people’s selfies, and my unpopular opinion about oversharing.
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Author Nora Zelevansky is my the very first novelist I've ever had on 10 Things To Tell You!
We're discussing her new book (out May 11) Competitive Grieving, a darkly comic novel about the dynamics of friendship following loss. Competitive Grieving is inspired by true events in Nora's life, and we talk about the themes and and relatability of her fictionalized version.
Nora was one of the first friends I ever made in Los Angeles, and she's also one of the co-founders of the original book club I talk about so often. We have been friends, confidants, and cheerleaders for one another for almost two decades and I am so happy to welcome her to the show.
Competitive Grieving is Nora Zelevansky's third novel and this is a spoiler-free conversation.
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When I first found Kate Kennedy's podcast Be There in Five, I just wanted Taylor Swift analysis. But I stayed for her series on Mommy Bloggers. Then I couldn't get enough of her pop culture commentary, hilarious tangents, and well-researched episodes about everything I wanted to talk about (that other people weren't talking about).
I also texted every podcast friend I have to ask, "Have you seen what Kate Kennedy is doing?" Because her show was defying all the rules. Be There in Five's episodes are often 2+ hours long, and mostly solo. It was empowering to watch a woman unapologetically take up so much space with her words and ideas and air time. AND be smart and funny on top of it.
So I was beyond excited to have this conversation with Kate about leaning into your skillset, finding your own personal "football game," and what "being authentic" means when you're one person online and another with your family.
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I made this episode for me. But I hope you enjoy it, too.
A few thoughts on feeling more like yourself when you've been out of sorts.
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It feels high time for another social media challenge, right? To get us into the habit of sharing ourselves and simply for FUN.
As a spinoff of my popular annual challenge #OneDayHH and last year's quarantine challenge #OneDayCV, I'm introducing #OneDayMAY. Thirty-one mini prompts for every day in the month of May, designed to get us sharing.
Because I believe sharing is the antidote to loneliness and the key to connection. I also know that it doesn't come naturally to everyone. These social media challenges are happy, helpful prompts that get us to show up and be present.
You can view all of the prompts HERE.
I'll also be posting them daily on IG @10ThingsToTellYou
And answering them for myself on IG @laura.tremaine
See you on social media starting May 1!
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Good news! My reading rhythms are back, which means more book content than ever before. I am so happy to share this conversation with Sarah from Sarah's Bookshelves Live about the best books we've read lately.
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Whenever I hear someone speak of a mentor or extra wise friend, I always think about my relationship with Shauna Niequist. We met working together at a summer camp when we were both young, and she then has offered me truth and guidance for more than two decades.
Shauna Niequist is a NYT best-selling author of five books: Cold Tangerines, Bittersweet, Bread & Wine, Savor, and Present Over Perfect. She lives in New York City with her husband Aaron and their two sons.
I wrote about Shauna in Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. in Chapter 2: Who was there? Shauna was there in one of the most important conversations of my life, when I called her heartbroken in Oklahoma and she answered the phone at exactly the right moment in Chicago.
In this episode, we talk about belonging, and magical moments, and books (because we both just love to talk about books). As usual, she left me with several things to ponder after we were done speaking, specifically about what we're actually saying when we share our pain.
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This episode is for anyone interested in the peek behind the curtain of the book publishing industry.
Back when writing a book was just a dream, I made a promise to myself that if I ever published, I would share the experience openly and candidly. I used to crave all the information about agents and book deals and publicity and marketing and all the things that it seemed like authors very rarely talked about.
Back on Ep 73: I wrote a book! I shared about everything I knew up to that point: getting attention from agents, shopping a book proposal, and, of course, writing and editing my first book.
Because I'm now on the other side of the book launch, this episode is a follow up to Ep 73. Here we're going to talk about mostly marketing:
Are preorder bonuses a bribe?
Is traditional publishing going the way of the dinosaur?
Who pays for the publicity?
How does getting paid to write a book work?
I'm joined for this conversation by my friend Kelly Gordon, because I knew she would be a great person to talk through this topic. Kelly is a co-host of the Sorta Awesome podcast.
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It’s time for another Favorite Things episode!
If Episode 100 was a Favorite Things HALL OF FAME, Episode 110 is back to my regularly scheduled Favorite Things RIGHT NOW. My current favorite reads, follows, apps, gadgets, beauty products, whatever I’m into currently lands on these Favorite Things episodes, and this one is full of great recommendations.
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This is one of the best conversations I’ve had this year with the author of one of the best books I’ve read this year.
Mary Marantz is a writer, podcaster, speaker, and the author of the book DIRT: Growing Strong Roots in What Makes the Broken Beautiful. I read this memoir after I appeared on Mary’s podcast The Mary Marantz show and I was blown away by her writing and her story.
In our conversation, Mary and I talk about our similarities growing up in the country and then choosing to flee from it, only to discover that our roots will always be a part of our soul. There are so many parts of Mary’s story that I relate to, things that I’ve never said out loud and things that I’ve never seen expressed so beautifully.
At one point, I get choked up sharing something that I’ve never shared publicly.
I hope you’ll enjoy this special conversation.
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This is not a suggestion to pour a glass of wine and take a hot bath. We're not talking self-care here. We're CELEBRATING.
Whether it's a milestone birthday, a promotion at work, or anything else you deem worthy of a major moment, don't wait on someone else to throw you a party. You can host your own event celebrating...YOU.
It's not weird. It's fun. And it's better than a pity party.
I'm sharing 8 tips for celebrating YOURSELF, from weekend trips to simple birthday dinners. Attitude adjustments and practical things to think about.
The world is starting to open back up again and it's time to celebrate.
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Not at all sorry to have two books & reading episodes in a row! Especially because my guests for this Best Books Lately conversation are two of my favorites voices in the book-ish world.
Meredith Monday Schwartz and Kaytee Cobb are the two women behind the Currently Reading podcast and I think that you will love their varied recommendations in our conversation. (I contribute almost nothing of value to this episode since my reading habits have been so out-of-whack, however I do talk about a few recent best sellers that just didn’t do it for me.)
I hope hearing us talk about what books we’ve loved (or haven’t) so far in 2021 will spark your own conversations or that you share on social media.
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In March of 2020, just three weeks into the global pandemic bringing Los Angeles to a standstill, we recorded a family episode called Ep 59: Marry the Person You Want to Quarantine With (the Tremaines Wave Hello).
And now we're back....only it's been ONE YEAR of the pandemic and we still haven't returned to school or work full time. Our family (me, my husband Jeff, our 11 year old daughter Lucy, and our 9 year old son Finch) returned to the couch and the microphone to talk about the last year has looked like for us.
We used the loose framework and questions from Episode 106: 10 Questions To Mark One Year of the Pandemic to talk about the challenges of joys of the last twelve months.
I hope that our family conversation sparks one of your own, whether you record it or not.
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Ep 69: 22+ Things We've Watched During Quarantine
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Let’s talk about books that are NOT my book! In the last few months while launching my first book Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First., my personal reading life has taken a major nosedive. For the first time in years, I’ve been unable to focus on reading any sort of fiction with consistency.
But after I had this conversation with Sara Hildreth of @fictionmatters and the Novel Pairings podcast, I suddenly had a renewed interest in my favorite hobby of all time: READING! Sara just brings that out in people.
In this conversation, Sara and I each share 5 reasons we read fiction, why it has matters to us personally and how it changes the world. I just loved chatting with her and we could have talked for hours.
I hope this episode makes you run to your bookshelves or sparks a great conversation about why reading fiction matters to YOU.
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This month marks one year of the coronavirus pandemic really changing our lives.
To mark that time, I’m offering 10 Questions for you to journal through or use as a framework for important conversations with friends, family, coworkers, or online.
Let’s talk about the ways in which we’re different, and that we’re the same. Let’s talk about what we learned and what we regret. Let’s talk about what was reset, and what we’ll never again take for granted.
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This episode is for anyone curious about vanity procedures for your skin.
At long last, Jamie Golden returns to the show! Jamie is responsible for the THE MOST DOWNLOADED episode of 10TTTY ever: Episode 14 Makeup & Skincare. This time she's back to talk about anti-aging, but less about products and more about procedures.
Jamie and I share our own experiences with botox, lasers, and filler (yes, filler) in our own faces, because we both wish women would dish on this stuff more often.
You might know Jamie from her popular podcasts The Popcast and the Bible Binge, or from her hilarious social media presence on IG & twitter.
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I am super excited to welcome fellow podcaster and fellow February author to the show. Zibby Owens is the podcaster behind the popular show Moms Don't Have Time To Read Books, where she has some of the greatest author interviews.
But now Zibby herself is the author! This week she released Moms Don't Have Time To....A Quarantine Anthology, with essays about not having time to read, work out, eat, have sex, or breathe. All written by some of the fabulous authors that have appeared on her podcast.
Something extra special about the anthology is that all proceeds go to the Susan Felice Owens Program for Covid-19 Vaccine Research at Mount Sinai Health System.
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This supersized episode is actually two conversations:
- the first with one of my oldest and dearest friends, Kimi Dallman, a bridesmaid in my wedding and childhood friend from summer camp
and
- the second with a new-er mom friend, Tracy Herriott, a friend I've traveled with more in the last four years than anyone else in adulthood besides my husband.
Old friends and new friends have different benefits and fill really different spaces in our lives. I wanted to have these conversations with two women who mean a lot to me, and encourage YOU to reach out to the old friends who have been there through every season, and to feel gratitude for the new friends in your life who only know the most current version of yourself.
Kimi Dallman founded Switch
Matt Dallman's BBQ is called Live Coals
Tracy Herriott posts amazing photos on IG
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This episode is for anyone who thinks journaling is just for heartbroken teenage girls.
I'm sharing 8 thoughts on Journaling for Grownups:
- What to ask yourself about journaling
- What to let go of (and what to cling to)
- Methods of journaling to try
- And the BIG tip that will give you journal freedom
Mentioned in this episode:
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Episode 9: 10 Ways To Journal
Ep 88: Write Down Right Now (10 Journal prompts for this historic moment)
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My first book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. launches into the world this week!
This book was born out of this podcast. So if you enjoy this show, you will LOVE the book version.
I think it will spark deeper connections in your conversations and meaningful introspection within yourself.
But as much as I talk about SHARING on this show....I'm ready to talk a little bit about the STUFF part of "Share Your Stuff."
Because we all have baggage. Pain. Traumas. Triumphs.
And on this episode, I'm dipping into a few very vulnerable things that have happened to me over the last ten years that led me to a place to write this book. Times when I've been knocked down for my sharing. When I questioned myself because someone told me to be smaller.
This isn't something I've ever talked about online, but I think it is time to share it now. During launch week.
I'm going first.
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This is an extra special episode, because I'm giving you a FREE chapter from my new book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First.
In Share Your Stuff, I'll Go First., each chapter asks one BIG question (a lot like this show!) and then I answer the question in essay form.
Chapter 3 asks: What are you afraid of?
I know this is a deep question to dig in on, and not every single question in the book requires vulnerability. But if I only let you read one thing, I wanted it to be about your fears. Because a lot of us have lived with a lot of fear in the past year, and naming it makes it less scary.
This chapter will also be a good sample of what to expect in Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First., which releases on 2/2.
BONUS: There's also an excerpt in this episode of the foreward to the book, written and read by my friend Jenna Fischer.
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Introducing The Secret Tapes, a private podcast series I created ONLY for people who have purchased my book Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First.
The Secret Tapes are conversations with the people I write about in the book, along with behind the scenes commentary about many of the stories I share in the pages of Share Your Stuff.
You know how when you read a memoir, you always wonder what the author’s family and friends thought about what they wrote? You know how you always want just a little bit more? The Secret Tapes is the MORE.
These conversations are hard and beautiful and funny and complicated, and these short little snippets gives you a taste of what you’ll hear in the episodes.
Want to hear the full conversations?
- You’ll have to order Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First.
- (It’s available on amazon, Bookshop, Target, Barnes & Noble, audible, or from your favorite local bookstore.)
- Take your receipt/order/confirmation number to the Share Your Stuff Book Bonuses page and fill out the form.
You’ll immediately get an email with access to all THREE of the Book Bonuses, including the Secret Posts.
Questions? Email hello@shareyourstuffbook.com for tips or troubleshooting.
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Holy Moses it's episode 100!!
We're celebrating this milestone with a Favorite Things Hall of Fame. These are some of my favorite things across these categories:
Beauty Products
Books & Writing
Intimates
Food
Gadgets
Online platforms & Follows
Podcasts
Shopping
Home
Journals & Planner
I know...it's a LOT of favorites.
Many of these I've talked about regularly, but some might be new to you. And best of all: it's all in one place!
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In this BONUS episode we’re talking about pelvic floor health, which is something I’ve been wanting to talk about on the show for a long time. I REALLY wish women talked more about this topic with one another, and understand the effects of pelvic floor health on our overall health, including our sex lives and incontinence.
My guest is MaryEllen Reider, co-creator of the women’s wellness device YARLAP. The YARLAP is an FDA-approved device, and it recently won an Women’s Health FEMTECH award. (Please note: I have not tried it yet.)
We talk about the importance of pelvic floor, what is happening in your body when you orgasm (or don’t), when you can’t control your urge to urinate, and more.
MaryEllen offered a discount code to listeners, (enter Joy at checkout for 30% off) but I want to be clear that this is not sponsored, nor is it a partnership or affiliate. I just wanted to start this conversation among women.
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This episode is for anything who has gone through a friendship breakup, or who desires finding a best friend as an adult.
Every week on this show I encourage you to take the prompts and topics to a best friend in order to have a deeper conversation and better connection. But what if you don't have a best friend? What if you used to have a best friend but now you don't and that pain still lingers? What if you want a best friend, but have no idea how to find that person?
This conversation with Heather Adams about searching for a best friend is tender for both of us. I just became acquainted with Heather in 2020, because she is the CEO and founder of Choice Publicity, the firm helping me with the Share Your Stuff book launch, but when I heard her podcast episode on This Intentional Life about her quest for an adult best friend, I knew I wanted her to talk about it on 10 Things To Tell You.
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This episode is for anyone who wants to start a book club!
Have you purchased my new book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First? If so, SIGN UP FOR PREORDER BONUSES HERE.
People love the idea of being in a book club, but I think most of us would rather join an already formed group, with procedures in place and a warm and fuzzy vibe already established. But if that isn’t readily available to you, guess what the next best thing is? Start one yourself!
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It doesn’t have to be an overwhelming task. You don’t have to have a lot of people (really!) and you don’t have to have a perfectly articulated theme or objective. What you want to do is read, and then talk about what you read with someone else. It really is that simple.
But beyond that, it’s nice to have some basics:
- Identify your WHY
- Choose members wisely
- Decide on some logistics (like how to choose a book, who leads the discussion)
- Set expectations early
- Have your first meeting
- Adjust as necessary
Sure, there are some details that can be fun or tedious: choosing a schedule, consistent communication), but start with the fundamentals, keep it as simple as possible, and figure out what REALLY works for your group.
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This episode is for those who just can't get enough book talk.
On Episode 96, my real life Book Club shared our top 3-ish favorite books of the year. And while I loved that discussion, there are still so many great books from 2020 I wanted to share with you! So as promised, this is a BONUS episode with my full list of favorite reads in 2020.
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This episode is for anyone reflecting back on this bizarre year and trying to find some silver linings.
Well, it’s been a YEAR, right? One for the history books.
But in this episode, I’m not looking at what 2020 will mean for the world at large, but I am sharing my top 10 personal takeaways. What I learned in my business, in our family, how we consume entertainment, and so much more.
I hope that hearing my main takeaways from this bizarro year makes you think about your own. What you’ll remember, what will never be the same, and the lessons that will bring you closer to the person you want to be.
Mentioned:
10 Questions To Ask at the End of the Year
3 Mistakes I’ve Made Recently
Wherever You Go, There You Are by Jon Kabat Zinn
What’s your BIG STORY?
Stillness is the Key by Ryan Holiday
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This is always one of my favorite episodes of the year!
My real life book club friends Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith join me for a long and lively conversation about some of our favorite books of 2020.
We talk about how the pandemic affected our reading life and why our book club didn’t meet for 7+ months.
Before we share some of our favorites, we also use the episode as a bit of stand-in for our regular meeting and you can hear us discuss our December book club pick A Burning by Megha Majumdar.
Then we each share 3 or 4 of our favorite books of the year. Because I had already shared most of mine on earlier episodes, I was really excited to hear Yasmin and Stephanie’s picks, since they were outside the box of what we’ve already talked about on the show in the last few months.
I do plan to do a BONUS episode in the last few days of the year, talking through a few more interesting books I read in 2020 that didn’t make it into this conversation.
FULL SHOW NOTES HERE with all the books and links
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10 prompts for self-reflection or good conversation as we near the end of the year.
2020 was nuts no doubt. There was confusion and loss and frustration and grief. But I hope we can all point to some moments of beauty as well. This episode asks 10 questions to help you come to terms with year.
Take these questions to your journal or use them to spark a good conversation.
Full show notes here.
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This episode is for anyone who has struggled in 2020 to listen to their intuition.
These words are for myself as much as they are for you. In this year of uncertainty, of noise, of conflict in relationships, of missteps and self-doubt, I have come into this holiday season unable to tap fully into my own intuition.
I’m sharing about:
- WHY we need to listen to our intuition now more than ever
- HOW to listen to our intuition when we’re new to the practice or need a reset
- ANXIETY and intuition and how it’s often hard to discern the two (but I have one failsafe method)
- RELATIONSHIPS and intuition
- MESSING IT UP
and
- GETTING IT RIGHT
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I'm revealing the 3 BONUSES you will receive if you preorder my book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First.
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Also, the podcast and website has a whole new look! I worked with Braid Creative on a much-needed brand refresh. Check it all out here.
Most of this episode is a long round of Ask Me Anything, where I take questions collected on social media. We cover a broad range of topics, from how I made friends with strangers on the internet, to coping with anxiety during the pandemic, to sharing my kids names online for the first time in eleven years.
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This episode is for anyone who needs to get into the holiday spirit.
I’m so excited to kickoff the season by talking about holiday movies with Mary Carver from Hooked on Holiday Movies. But confession: I’ve never watched a Hallmark or Lifetime holiday movie! So everything Mary shares with me is a pleasant surprise, and she might have even convinced me to give these movies a try.
However, our conversation is framed around holiday movies, but we actually talk about so much more, including how we talk about romance stories with our children, and also diversity and inclusion in consumer Christmas culture.
At the end of the episode, we hear a batch of listener-submitted holiday hacks - everything from keeping track of your gift list to carving out time for yourself.
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This is an important episode.
In this conversation with Emily Lynn Paulson and Celeste Yvonne, we’re discussing the prevalence of the “mommy juice” culture, the jokes, memes, and idea that parenthood requires drinking for survival.
Both openly sober for years, Emily and Celeste created the Sober Mom Squad, a community created during the COVID-19 pandemic that hosts weekly free virtual meetings to discuss motherhood and our transitions to new family dynamics and homeschooling.
In the episode, Emily and Celeste share their (very different) personal stories, and offer tips and thoughts on coping through a pandemic and during the holiday season without using alcohol.
Please note: I am not sober. I drink alcohol. But I have also become concerned with the motherhood culture that pushes drinking as a means to deal with anything hard. I originally recorded this episode as a BONUS, but decided it was such an important topic that I wanted it to land in as many ears as possible.
What I’m hoping you’ll hear in this conversation with Emily and Yvonne is just an invitation to think about alcohol differently.
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This episode is for anyone looking to add to their To Read stack.
For this fall book discussion, I’m joined by one of my oldest and closest friends, Dr. Cara Pence. You might remember Cara from Ep 6: Revisiting Judy Blume. We’re each sharing the best books we’ve read lately and talking through two recent best sellers. (One we loved, one we didn’t.)
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This episode is for anyone curious about the impact and influence of the First Ladies of the past American Presidents.
It's election week in the USA, and so today we're turning to a piece of our past that we don't always think of when we have ballots on the brain: First Ladies.
Fun fact: There have been more First Ladies than there have been Presidents.
On this fun and informative episode, I'm joined by First Ladies expert, the self-proclaimed First Ladies Man, Andrew Och. Andrew is a speaker and author who focuses on the American First Ladies.
We have a wide ranging conversation about all the various roles and influence that First Ladies of the United States have had, from Martha Washington to Melania Trump.
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This episode is for anyone who needs a little pep talk.
My college friend Sarah Nuse accidentally started a full blown company in the late 90's when we were both still living in a sorority house. Two decades later, Tippi Toes Dance has franchises all over the world.
In our fun and inspiring conversation, Sarah shares her trajectory from being a fired waitress to being a successful business woman. We talk about working with family (her parents AND her sisters work with her on Tippi Toes), letting life unfold, and leaning into your strengths.
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In America, we are in the middle of a major historic moment. We’re 9 months into a global pandemic and 1 week out of a high-stakes Presidential election.
This episode has 10 journal prompts meant for you to document YOUR feelings in this important era. Hopefully, this will something that will give you some clarity, and something to look back on in the future. We’re covering the pandemic and the election with thoughtful, simple questions that will mark this moment in time.
We are in charge of writing our own history. Let's get to it.
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Mistakes. We’ve all made ‘em.
In this episode, I wanted to share 3 mistakes I’ve made recently (personally and professionally) as a jumping off point for talking about missteps, how we corrected them, and what we learned.
Of course, not all mistakes are equal. And we don’t always want to harp on things we did wrong. But it can be helpful to hear about other people’s mess ups, and talking about it can hold us accountable for our own actions.
Because next time we’ll do it differently.
Right?
This episode features listener voices at the end sharing their own recent mistakes.
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The 8th annual #OneDayHH social media challenge is Thursday, October 22, 2020.
This short little episode will give you all the details, explanations, and logistics for my annual social media challenge #OneDayHH.
#OneDayHH is a chance to document what a day-in-the-life looks like for us right now, in this season, in this year.
This is my favorite social media day of the year. I hope you'll join in!
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This episode is for anyone curious about therapy.
October is Mental Health Awareness Month, and so I wanted to put together a few thoughts on the number one thing that has helped me navigate my anxiety: talk therapy.
I’ve struggled with anxiety since childhood, but I didn’t try therapy until I was 35 years old, and drowning under the weight of new motherhood and postpartum. In this episode, I am sharing 10 thoughts on therapy, including how to find a therapist, how to pay for therapy, and some of the most important things I’ve learned in 6 years of regular therapy after decades of coping with my mental health alone.
Please note: I am not an expert of any kind. Please talk to a doctor or medical professional if you are experiencing mental health struggles. This episode is only meant to share my own experience.
Also note: I am talking about general talk therapy. There are many specialized treatments and therapists available for a wide range of issues dealing in trauma, relationships, etc. Always research the help you’re seeking.
Full show notes here.
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This episode is for anyone who has ONE BIG TASK they really want to get done before the end of the year.
It’s October, which means we have less than three months until the end of the year. And while 2020 has been one of the weirdest years in modern history, we still somehow have normal life things that have slipped through the cracks.
Those things that we just keep procrastinating: home improvement, emotional chores, creative projects. These aren’t goals, they’re just tasks, the ones that keep slipping to the bottom of the priority list.
Let’s commit to choosing ONE thing we want to get done between now and the end of 2020 and share it as a way to stay accountable. Let’s make our future January 2021 selves super proud of how we finished the Wild West of 2020.
Original 10 Things To Tell You social media challenge
Ask Me in 3 Months (2019)
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Have you ever wondered how influencers are making money through their blogs and social media posts? Have you ever wanted to try and make some of that money yourself?
In this BONUS episode, I'm pulling back the curtain a little on how I make money using affiliate links on my blog and social media posts.
And one of the smartest women I know - Jessica Turner of The Mom Creative - is talking with me about her new course Affiliate Marketing for Influencers.
We're all being influenced every day, and sometimes we don't even know it. Jessica and I share how this works, and how to do it legally and with integrity.
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This episode is for anyone curious to hear the other angle of an origin story.
It’s our wedding anniversary! This week, my husband Jeff and I celebrate 13 years of marriage, and so I thought it would be fun to have him on the show to share HIS side of our relationship’s origins. This is something I’ve talked and written about for years, but (surprise!) he has a different take.
This week I want YOU to talk a partner or best friend about your relationship’s origin story. Ask, “Where did we begin?” and “What do you remember about that time?” and “Tell me your version.”
Even if you think you know what someone is going to say about your relationship’s origin, you might be surprised at what comes up.
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This episode is for anyone looking for their next great book to read.
It’s time for another episode about the best books we’ve read lately! This time I'm joined by Christine Koh, an author, speaker, blogger, podcaster, designer, and scientist. Yes, Dr. Christine Koh is all of those things, and on this episode she is sharing books that speak to the Asian American experience AND her newfound love of the romance genre.
I'm sharing two books about cults, what I'm reading before I fall asleep at night, and the novel that took me totally by surprise.
So there is a LOT packed into this conversation.
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This episode is for anyone who struggles with her inner "good girl."
I read Break the Good Girl Myth: How To Dismantle Outdated Rules, Unleash Your Power, and Design a More Purposeful Life by Majo Molfino this summer and the whole idea resonated with me: identifying as a good girl, wanting to be seen as a good girl, and simultaneously wanting to get out of that trap.
Even at 40-something, I am still dismantling these parts of my identity, and I could see myself - and so many of my friends - in the five different types of “good girls” that Majo writes about.
In our conversation, Majo shares a little more about “Breaking your good girl myth MEANS” and I share the parts of me that still sees myself a good girl, where that feels healthy and where that feels woefully outdated.
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Miss Freddy is back!
Last year’s Ep 41: 10 Tips to organize your digital photos with professional photo organizer Miss Freddy was so popular that I couldn't wait to have Casey (aka Miss Freddy) back on the show for more ideas about what to do with all the photos we’re drowning in.
This time we’re focusing on family yearbooks, but Miss Freddy’s advice applies to any sort of digital photo book you want to create. She’s sharing the steps, the tools, and the mindset to create an album you’ll be so happy to have.
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Myquillyn Smith (aka The Nester) has influenced the way I think about decorating my home for years, through her blog, social media, and books. Her latest book Welcome Home is about decorating your home for the seasons without buying a bunch of expensive decor, and how you can signal the natural cycle of the year using scents and textures and sound. These concepts apply even when you live somewhere where the temperature doesn't change much!
Myquillyn gives me a little pep talk about creating a home that is the background for family memories, and she reveals a fairly genius way to decorate for the holidays that removes a bulk of the stress. (Why hadn't I thought of this before??)
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This episode is part pep talk, part permission, and part mindfulness around the nuance and energy of friendship. I'm sharing about loneliness, the benefit to shallow friends, the necessity of friends who make you talk, and the call to look closer at old friendships (and whether or not they're all serving you).
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It’s time for another round of Favorite Things!
This episode is a list of my current favorite things, and as usual, my picks are all over the place. I’m sharing my new project management app (which has changed my work life), a podcast recommendation, interesting people to follow on Instagram, what I’m getting my husband for his birthday, a new (old) beauty product, and more.
I hope this list encourages YOU to share your current favorite things!
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This episode is for anyone who needs a little help with their attitude and self-talk right now.
I know I beat this drum regularly, but I really believe that the way we speak to ourselves shapes the way we move in the world. And these days, my self-talk can be all over the place. On this episode, I’m sharing my own personal current mantras and affirmations, and also just talking about how these things can work in your life. (Hint: it’s not magic. It’s brain science.)
But the best part of this episode is hearing from the listeners who sent in THEIR own mantras. So many great words out there.
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This episode is for anyone interested in raising their hand.
Jenna Arnold is an educator, entrepreneur, activist and mother who lives in New York City, and her new book is Raising Our Hands: How White Women Can Stop Avoiding Hard Conversations, Start Accepting Responsibility, and Find Our Place on the New Front Lines.
In this BONUS episode, Jenna and I talk through a few of the reasons white women statistically stay silent about important issues: perfection, performance, and peacekeeping.
I really liked Jenna's book and am excited to share this conversation with you.
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This episode is for anyone who needs a good, long, catchup with girlfriends.
It's been awhile since we've had a huge dose of girlfriend chat on the show, but great conversations are the driving force of 10 Things To Tell You. In our long overdue conversation, Meg and I each share five things we need to catch up on. We talk loneliness, Real Housewives, true crime obsessions, the perfect amazon purchase, shoes, and intuition.
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This episode looks at your life like a movie.
What's your BIG story? The main narrative arc to your life? The story that is central to your identity? Anyone who knows you well knows this story. Maybe it happened in childhood. Maybe you're currently in the middle of it. But we all have one, big, main story.
In movies and in literature, they call this the Hero's Journey. It's one of the the most common storytelling devices in art. On this episode, I'm sharing my own BIG story. The thing that I arrange events into Before & After.
I can't wait to hear yours.
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This episode is for anyone who could use an honest evaluation in the middle of something. (And maybe a reset.)
In the beginning, we make plans. Set goals. Hope for the best. At the end, we evaluate how it went. We make notes for next time. We accept our trophies or don't. But what about in the middle? Don't we need to stop down and ask some hard questions in the MIDDLE? To see if we're on track? To make tweaks? To define what it means to "finish well"?
Here are 10 Questions to ask yourself when you're in the middle of anything. The middle of a project or the middle of a season, all 10 questions apply.
For me, I'm answering from the middle of the year. It's hard to believe, but we are still in the very middle of 2020. And I have LOTS of feelings about the first half, and the tweaks I want to make for the months remaining.
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This episode is for anyone who had felt icky, gleeful, guilty, or triumphant after talking about someone else.
Look, we all do it sometimes, right? We gossip or vent or judge someone in conversation with friends. But does talking about someone behind their back REALLY say more about us than it does about them? Let’s discuss.
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This episode is for anyone who can't get enough of the book talk.
We didn't have time for me to share ALL the great books I've been reading on the recent reading episode, so this is a little bonus to tell you all about my current book stack, including a new novel that's a contender for favorite of the year, and a nonfiction book that I am forcing myself to read with an open mind.
I'm also sharing a few of the books in my immediate To Read pile, plus the three books that I've preordered for fall release.
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This episode is a midsummer reading check-in.
It's time for another episode about BOOKS and this time I'm joined by my good friend Sarah Bessey. Sarah is a writer, speaker, and all around woman of wisdom. She is the author of Jesus Feminist, Out of Sorts, and the spiritual memoir Miracles and Other Reasonable Things. She is also the cofounder of the Evolving Faith conference.
On this episode, Sarah and I each share the best books we've read lately, including popular novels, Canadian authors that fly under the radar, and social justices resources.
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This episode is for anyone curious about the process of writing and publishing.
I wrote a book! Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First will launch in February 2021, but I'm taking some time this week to talk all about the behind-the-scenes details I've always been curious about with other authors.
I'm answering questions from the 10TTTY Connection group about how I got an agent, crafted a book proposal, signed a book deal with a publisher, wrote & edited the book, and chose a cover.
There is SO MUCH to say about this longtime dream coming to fruition, after years of uncertainty and rejection.
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This episode is for anyone who has has been told that there's no use fighting on facebook.
Has the internet ever changed your mind on an issue? Is it easier to hear a new perspective from friends and acquaintances or from strangers?
The episode is all about the ways that people’s social media posts ARE changing our culture, through snark, humor, memes or thoughtful shared experiences.
Let’s be honest about when a post has opened our eyes or when we’ve decided to dig in our heels. I share my own thoughts on this topic, as well as a few ways (some silly, some serious) that the internet has changed my perspective. At the end of the show a few listeners chime in with their thoughts.
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This episode is part friendship, part therapy, part work/life balance.
I am so excited to share this conversation with my friend Kendra Adachi (aka The Lazy Genius) because not only do we talk about being “work friends” and how that narrow relationship title offers us freedom in our friendship, but Kendra also applies her Lazy Genius principles to my problem prioritizing work tasks. And I have kind of am embarrassing breakthrough.
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Please indulge me in a little birthday episode.
I turn 41 this week and though it’s not the major milestone I celebrated last year, I still have things to say. This episode is half nostalgic nonsense and half preach-y. I guess this is what happens when I go off script.
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This BONUS episode is for anyone looking for something interesting to watch (for families and for grown ups).
On roughly week 11 of the Los Angeles lockdown due to the coronavirus, I sat down with my husband Jeff and our two kids - ages 8 & 10 - for a lighthearted chat about all the movies, documentaries, and tv series we watched during quarantine since this season meant a LOT more screen time for our family than usual.
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This episode is for anyone trying to understand another person's experience.
I’ve wanted to have this conversation with my hometown friends since I made the BIAS series on Smartest Person in the Room in 2018. I preferred to do it in person back then, but when the recent protests started over the murder of George Floyd, I asked if they would be willing to record online instead.
LaToyia Brown, Monica Pickens, Danielle Williams and I grew up in Ardmore, Oklahoma, a town that sits on I-35 about halfway between Oklahoma City and Dallas. Population 25,000. Ardmore is 63.2% White and 10.2% Black. I am white and LaToyia, Monica, and Danielle are Black. As I’m learning more about the racial divide in our country, I wanted to ask these friends about their lives in our hometown. I wondered if they experienced discrimination, what was taught in their homes and churches, and what they think about America now versus when we were kids.
I had no idea what they were going to say when I pressed record. Our conversation is vulnerable, honest, and imperfect. But the point of 10 Things To Tell You is to forge connection through conversation, and I believe that is what happened here.
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This episode is for anyone who has felt shamed or judgmental over choices made during the global pandemic.
Admit it you’ve either hidden your own activity or judged other people’s choices in the last few months. I’m joined by blogger, podcaster, and author Kristen Howerton (who you may know from her blog Rage Against the Minivan or from her weekly self-care podcast Selfie) to discuss the social shaming that we’re doing and feeling during this unprecedented season of the coronavirus.
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This episode is for anyone looking for an anchor to their day.
I promise I'm not going to tell you to get up at 5am. I hold the word "morning" pretty loosely in this context, but I do think a time to pause and commit to ritual at some point in your day can bring much needed structure.
On this episode, I'm sharing my personal morning routine and giving you a few different ways to think about this topic.
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This episode is for anyone who is excited for summer reading!
I am so excited to welcome Anne Bogel, three-time author, blogger at Modern Mrs. Darcy, podcaster at What Should I Read Next? and someone who reads more books than anyone else I know!
Anne recently released her latest book called Don't Overthink It. You can also go to her website to sign up to get her FREE (and much anticipated!) Summer Reading Guide.
On this episode, Anne and I talk about what our reading life looks like during the global pandemic, how the Instagram #Bookstagram community has changed the way we share what we're reading, and, of course, we give a few recent reading recommendations.
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This episode is for anyone looking for a quick, meaningful exercise to boost spirits.
I'm sharing my experiences with Love Floods, from my days as a summer camp counselor to current friendship and colleagues.
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This episode is for you if you are working from home right now and need some tips or mindset shifts to be less distracted and more productive.
My guest is Emily P Freeman, The Next Right Thing author and podcaster. Her work-from-home structure of Theme Days is something I adopted months ago and on this episode we talk about her approach to this schedule and how she's modifying it during the Covid 19 stay-at-home orders.
We also talk about the things that we're measuring to feel accomplished, and how social media is making us feel right now when our main connection with the outside world is the internet.
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This episode if for you if you’re staring at that old shoebox full of memorabilia and aren’t sure what to do with it.
A friend messaged me to ask if she should keep or toss a stack of old journals. In a weird coincidence, I was in the middle of a project that required I pull out some of my old journals from decades ago.
I’m sharing stories of rereading journal entries, the ritual of throwing old memories away, and what I learned from discovering a long ago letter.
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This episode is for you if you strive to find meaning in everything.
I want you to think about whether everything deserves the energy you're giving it.
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This episode is for anyone looking for a little cheer and distraction.
It's another Favorite Things episode! My current favorites are definitely influenced by the current coronavirus quarantine, but there's a little something for everyone here: books, beauty products, kitchen items, and the few mindsets that are keeping me sane in self-isolation.
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This episode is for anyone needing a little light distraction.
The Tremaines are waving hello from week 3 of self-isolation to stop the spread of coronavirus. This episode ended up being an accidental model for the type of conversations you could be documenting in your life and family right now during this historic time.
My husband Jeff and I start the show by answering questions from the 10TTTY FB Connection group, including: have we learned anything about one another during this time? How do we balance accepting one another while also pushing the other to grow? How are we connecting right now?
Then our kids jump on for just a few minutes and share their thoughts on what spring break in self-isolation looks like.
This turned into a fun, family-centered show.
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This episode is for you if you're looking for ways to document your life during the everyday (or during a historic moment).
As the world fights a global pandemic, we are part of a pivotal moment in history. Whether you're hunkering down at home, in an essential job to keep the economy afloat, or on the front lines in the medical profession, this is a time for us to write our OWN stories. Don't simply trust what the history books will say. Document it for yourself.
I'm sharing 10 simple ways to write your own history, for your own private documentation or to share publicly. All of these methods are simple and easily available.
If you choose to document on Instagram, tag the show and use the hashtag #OneDayCV
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This episode is for you if you need to understand and better cope with your anxiety.
Dr. Becky from Dr. Becky At Home is a clinical psychologist who specializes in helping people cope with anxiety and stress. I found her on Instagram when someone shared one of her posts, and what followed is one of the best and most important conversations I’ve ever had on this show. Dr. Becky encourages us to form a relationship with our anxiety, and our conversation includes all of the things I’ve always wanted to ask: what does self-talk REALLY look like? What does it mean if we really can’t find the source of our anxiety? How do we balance being “strong” in front of our kids while also letting them see us have natural emotions? I am so excited to share this one with you. This will be a conversation I will reference for a long time. DrBeckyAtHome on Instagram DrBeckyAtHome website * Full show notes for this episode @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook
This episode is for you if you have a hard time distinguishing between your anxiety and your intuition.
As someone who talks openly online about both my lifelong anxiety and following my intuition, this is a question I get a lot. I don't have all the answers, and don't always get this 100% correct, but on this episode I'm talking through how we can conflate these two things, and the #1 question I ask myself to know the difference.
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This episode is for you if you're in the mood for a little light-heartedness.
Today I'm taking a walk through the cultural icons of my youth and what it says about who we were drawn to when we were kids. Whether it's actors, fictional characters, musicians or sports stars, the people we wanted to be when we were young say something about our personalities.
This is a fun conversation to have at a party or on a road trip. (Spring break, anyone?) But there are still insights and connections to be made with a pop culture topic.
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This episode is for you if you've ever dreamed of living abroad with your family for a year.
I've been dying to share this conversation with my dear friend Julie Stillwell. In 2018, Julie and her husband Tom took their two young daughters to live in Amsterdam for one year. All four had lived in Los Angeles their whole lives, so this was a family adventure with a hundred takeaways.
We talk about the logistics of moving abroad and the emotions of both leaving and adjusting. We talk living without a car and sending their kids to the International School. We talk about style and food in Amsterdam versus the United States. We talk about why life seems simpler and slower in this part of Europe, and how temporary absence can actually deepen relationships.
There are so many nuggets of wisdom and things to think about in this episode. It made me realize that sitting down with a friend and giving full focus to something big in their life isn't something I do enough.
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This episode is for you if you can never get enough book talk.
This Best Books lately episode ran longer than I expected and I didn't have time to tell you about all the awesome books in my MASSIVE To Read pile. I chose 10 of the books waiting on my kindle or on my bedside to share with you, and then listed the rest over on the blog. (You can find my full To Read list here.)
I love hearing what YOU'RE reading lately, and so the last few minutes of this bonus episode includes listener recommendations, straight from their own mouths. So now my To Read pile is somehow larger than it was before I recorded this...
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This episode is for you if you love to read (and follow literary controversies).
Book episodes are the best episodes! We spend the first half hour talking about the best books we've read lately with Jessica Turner, and we take a brief detour to talk about #Bookstagram and our current reading habits (including a new hobby Jessica picked up and the #ReadYourBooks challenge she's hosting online).
In the second half of this extra long episode, I'm joined by my real-life book club friend Stephanie Newman-Smith to talk through the layers of controversy around the novel American Dirt by Jeanine Cummins. We talk about who can tell what stories, how the publishing industry is complicit in silencing non-white voices, and the bizarre marketing missteps around the novel that Oprah picked for her book club.
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This episode is for you if you struggle with negative self-talk.
A lot of have a critical voice in our head telling us all sorts of ugly things that lead to second-guessing and self-doubt. But where did that voice originate? Did it come from a parent? An old coach or similar authority figure from your youth? An ex?
On this episode, I'm sharing about the critical voices in MY head and why identifying them (instead of struggling to ignore them) is helpful to squash them for good.
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This episode is for you if you're stuck on a decision.
This is simple. This is basic. But next time you're spinning out on making a decision (any decision), ask yourself:
What would YOU tell you to do?
This little exercise can bring immediate clarity when we're lost in a sea of Pro/Con lists and justifications.
On this episode, I'm sharing how this has applied to my own life, especially when I lost myself for a bit in my mid-thirties.
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This episode is for you if you’re interested in creating a mastermind group to grow your business.
In this episode, I'm sharing how to start a business mastermind, who should be in it, how to find those people, and ideas on how to structure your group.
After I give my thoughts, I'm joined in conversation with the three other members of my mastermind: Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi. They each share something important to think about when creating a mastermind.
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This episode is for you if you forgot to self reflect about the new decade on New Years Eve.
Happy first birthday to 10 Things To Tell You! 🎉 We're celebrating one year of good questions and solid conversations. In the beginning of this episode, I share some of the best episodes of the past year (both statistically and personally) and reflect on making these first 50+ episodes.
After that we get down to the central question: Who were you 10 years ago? This is a great ice breaker question OR a chance to see if you remember the beginning of the last decade the same way your friends and family do. Who was 2010 YOU, and would she be happy with 2020 you?
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This episode is for you if you're using a flimsy bandaid over something that needs stitches. Metaphorically.
On this episode I'm sharing three ways in which I have used a bandaid to cover up something that really needed more attention: a medical problem, a relationship strain, and a frustration in the house.
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This episode is for you if you’ve ever second-guessed posting photos of your kids online.
Nish Weiseth - a friend I met through mommy blogging years ago - recently posted on Instagram that she was going to take a step back from posting her family online, because her kids are getting older and she started questioning her own motivations. I thought her take was really interesting, so I reached out and asked her to have a friend-to-friend conversation on this topic…publicly.
The first half of this episode is about posting photos of our kids and why our thoughts have changed on it over the years, and the second half turns towards why we post online at all.
We get really honest and vulnerable, but we don’t come to any conclusions. I get on my high horse at one moment and then admit I might be wrong.
I hope our conversation inspires you to ask your friends and coparents about their feelings on posting family pics online, and their genuine motivation for posting on social media at all.
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This episode is for you if you’ve ever needed to shake off a bad mood or a bad day.
I’m sharing 10 ways to pull myself out a funk.
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This episode is for you if you’re thinking about setting intentions, starting affirmations, and creating a vision board for the new year.
On this episode, I’m sharing my (relatively recent) experience with setting intentions, writing down affirmations, and creating a vision board.
Let me be clear that I no expert on any of these things, but I do believe that something goes on in your consciousness when you stay open to receiving what the world has to offer (instead of closing yourself off from anything you don’t understand), and by putting in place a few practices that might positively affect your mood, spirit, and actions.
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This episode is for you if you are a reader!
It's the most wonderful time of the year, when all the Best Of book lists come out. Of course I couldn't resist putting in my own two cents! Joining me on this episode are two friends from my real life book club: Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith. Listening to all our words here is like listening to our actual book club meeting.
We talk about the buzziest books of the year, books that missed the mark for us, and important nonfiction reads.
In the last hour of the show, we each name a handful of books that stand out as favorites in 2019, and we purposefully tried to highlight books that aren't being discussed everywhere else.
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This episode is for you if you enjoy end-of-the-year reflection and journaling.
It's the end of the year, and the end of the decade, and even though we're still a few weeks out from kissing 2019 goodbye and ushering in 2020, I'm posing these questions a little early so that you'll have time to think about your answers this month.
There are 10 questions in this episode meant to make you reflect upon on the last twelve months and get some clarity for what you want in the coming year. The prompts are a mix of light and deep, some to document a simple moment in time, others to help you grow.
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This episode is for you if you need a little encouragement during a busy season.
Thank you to listener Aimee who suggested this topic! On this episode, I'm sharing two things I'm doing well right now and two things I'm letting go of for the holiday season. But the real key to this prompt is using it to start a conversation with a friend or a group of friends.
After listening, shoot a text to someone and ask, "Hey, where are you killing it these days?" because when people pause and reflect on this just for a minute, it shifts your mindset. We're all doing okay.
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This episode is for you if the social events of the holiday season are giving you anxiety.
On this mish mash of an episode, I offer two tips for handling social anxiety AND I answer a few listener questions. There’s also a little housekeeping at the beginning of the show, with some updates and reminders about recent episodes.
In the Ask Me Anything section, I talk about how the book writing is going, my long ago jobs in reality television, and the one habit I started tracking that gave me immediate progress in working from home.
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This episode is for you if you're looking for a little inspiration in the kitchen.
Sometimes I like to have people on the show just to inspire or share something cool they're doing. I am super excited to welcome Tieghan Gerard, because I have followed her food blog Half Baked Harvest for years now.
Tieghan started her (massively popular and insanely beautiful) website Half Baked Harvest when she was NINETEEN years old. Now she runs the whole empire with the help of her family.
She also has a new cookbook out called Super Simple: More than 125 Recipes for Instant, Overnight, Meal-Prepped, and Easy Comfort Foods.
In our short chat, Tieghan and I talk about what cooking and food should be, and how her new book is a direct response to her follower's requests for good food that is super simple.
I hope this conversation is just the shot of inspiration you need to get in the mood for holiday cooking and time around the table.
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This episode is for you if don't recognize the person in the mirror.
On a recent girls weekend, my good friend Amber Haines and I got into a conversation about being uncomfortable in our skin lately. It's more than simply aging, we both feel like our personal sense of style (something we've been proud of in the past) has taken a back seat in the past few years during a busy life.
This topic is both shallow and not. We discuss body changes, hiding ourselves, the mental hurdles of buying new clothes, and the logistical aspects of getting dressed up for a day when you don't see anyone except your kids.
This is a no shame, no judgment, authentic conversation between friends. We plan our next steps to get our groove back - the emotional part, and the practical part - and will do a check in on this topic in 3 months.
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This episode is for you if you are overwhelmed by photos.
My guest Casey von Stein (aka Miss Freddy) is here to give us 10 Tips on how to organize all our photos. We talk about how to get photos from your phone to one central place, which services to use as backup, and what to do with them all once they're wrangled.
We cover a lot of information on this episode, including why google photos and iCloud are NOT the best services to rely on, the things we should mentally let go of while we're organizing, and which photo books are the highest quality.
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The 7th Annual #OneDayHH social media challenge is happening on Friday, November 15th.
#OneDayHH is a yearly event on social media (mostly Instagram) where we document what a day-in-the-life looks like right now. One day, hour by hour. On this mini episode, I'm explaining how the challenge works and why it's special.
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This episode is for you if you’re looking for tv & podcast recommendations, awesome people to follow on instagram, the latest skincare holy grail product, and more!
I have a LOT of (current) Favorite Things to share on this episode, as well as a very special and personal announcement. But truthfully, the best part of this episode are the listener voices at the end sharing THEIR favorite things. I love having YOU on the show!
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This episode is for you if there's an area in your life you suspect you might be a little heavy-handed.
If we're heavy handed about something it's usually because we care about that thing. But often this is less effective than we intended. On this episode we're talking about everything from makeup, to relationships, to posting on social media.
What in your life could use a lighter touch?
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This episode is for you if you're seeking books to expand your perspective.
Reading and personal development are two of my passions, and on this episode they intertwine.
I've broken down the books for personal growth into 4 categories:
Introspection
Spirituality
Body
Humanity
Or, put another way: Discovering ourselves, finding God, connecting to our body, and learning about others.
On this episode, I'm listing a few books in each category that has taught me something and expanded my mind in some way.
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This episode is for you if you've ever looked at a photo of yourself and gasped.
This has happened to all of us, right? We've looked a photo of ourselves and seen a stranger.
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This episode is for you if you met your best friend at the office.
Jenna Fischer and Angela Kinsey are well known for their iconic roles as Pam Beesly and Angela Martin on one of the most beloved tv shows of all time, The Office. But in real life they are also best friends, and now they're business partners launching their new podcast Office Ladies.
On this very special episode, Jenna and Angela talk with me about one of my favorite topics: friendship. We talk about childhood friends, how hard it is to make good friends as adults, and the trickiness of friendship when the dynamics change.
Angela shares her biggest heartbreak with a friendship, and Jenna talks about a time when her feelings were hurt in a friendship. Plus I tell the story of the two VERY awkward ways I met each of these women, and they tell me the origin story of their friendship on set all those years ago.
This episode is PACKED with stories, laughs, and a few tears.
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This episode is for you if you were wrecked by Season 2 of the television show Fleabag.
FLEABAG is a two-season television show created by, written by, and starring the incredible Phoebe Waller-Bridge. It swept the 2019 Emmys, winning SIX of the ELEVEN it was nominated for, including Outstanding Comedy Series, Outstanding Lead Actress, and Outstanding Writing for a Comedy Series.
I binged Fleabag last week and couldn't go one more day without talking about it. I recruited my friend Sueann Fortener to sit down with me so we could gush and cry and analyze all of our emotions around this spectacular season of television.
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This episode is for you if there is something you want to get done before the end of the year.
Today's prompt came from the original 10 Things To Tell You social media challenge.
We all have something that we just keep procrastinating. Let's commit to completing this task between now and January 1. I'm sharing two of the things that I really want to sit down and finish (both on my To Do list for literally years) and a few ideas for things you might want to be held accountable to in the next three months.
Also in this episode I talk about my favorite planner. (And here's the blog post where I talk about how I chose this planner after a million minutes of internet research.)
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This episode is for you if you've ever experienced something that could have been worse.
Last September, our home was robbed while I sat in the backyard. On this episode, I'm sharing the details of that day, as well as what followed.
I'm encouraging you to talk about the things that have happened to you that leave a mark.
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This episode is for you if you’ve had any recent revelations you want to share.
If you’re a regular listener to this show, you are probably the type of person who is striving for growth, who aims to be self-aware, and who is paying attention. And if you’re paying attention, you’re learning. Always.
So this week I'm sharing with you a few of my own personal recent revelations (some shallow, some deeper), and I am actively encouraging you to share your own. Not only privately or in your journal, this time I’m challenging you to share on social media.
I want you to tell us a recent revelation you’ve had in your life. It’s an exercise in sharing of yourself AND I just want to see what people are thinking about these days. It helps me see the pulse of the listeners and create content for the show.
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This episode is for you if you have a pet.
This is the last show I ever thought I would do, but I just have to hand it to my dog. I'm asking you to reflect on what your pet brings to your life (now or in the past).
I'm sharing about why we got a dog when I was so opposed to it, and the role he played in a recent scary event in our life.
This episode is short and sweet. Like Kona Rocket. (That's right, he has his own instagram.)
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This episode is for you if you like HOURS of book talk.
We're talking the best books we read over the summer and our lists are LONG. My guest Alyssa Hertzig is chatting with me about the best novels, memoirs, and nonfiction books we've read in the last few months.
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This episode is for you if you're interested in general mindfulness for personal growth.
The things we avoid are the things that can be teaching us something. I'm talking about the topics and people who give me a little twinge that I should pay attention to, both in real life and on social media.
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This episode is for your if you’re curious about how setting intentions works.
If you’ve heard the phrase “setting intentions” and thought it was just a bunch of vague feel-good language, think again. In this episode, I’m sharing how setting intentions can lead to getting the most out of your day, your experiences, and your interactions with others.
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This episode is for you if you or a loved one has ever struggled through the fertility process, or if you’re interested in the topic of adoption.
I am so happy to share this conversation with one of my dearest friends, Lindsay Lawler, who recently became a mother when she adopted her baby girl on Thanksgiving Day 2018.
Lindsay shares the story of her experience with infertility, medical treatments, and adoption. As a reminder, neither Lindsay nor I are medical experts OR adoption experts. We both encourage you to do all your research when planning to grow your family.
In this episode, we discuss:
- listening to your body
- finding out your egg count
- connecting with your doctor
- marriage strain
- how adoption should NOT be a last resort
- staying positive but also allowing yourself emotions
- finding an adoption agency
- trusting the outcome
- fears after placement
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You asked, I answered.
This episode covers everything from favorite authors, skincare updates, self-doubt, the big thing that happened to me earlier this year, and whether or not I'm making money on this podcast.
I also include a little Q&A with my mom at the end of the episode.
This was not a show I was planning on doing, but apparently I have a lot of words to give your questions. Thanks for hanging in there with the change in format in this completely unscripted episode.
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This episode is for you if you've ever been in a partnership. (Any kind of partnership.)
I’m talking about different types of partnerships and how calling out our partner's strengths can lead to bigger conversations about what’s working and what needs work.
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This episode is for you if you're feeling a little unmoored right now.
I’m asking you Where Are You? in three different ways:
Where are you in your mind? Where are you on the timeline? Where are you in your space? In this episode I’m sharing a few mindfulness routines, reading from the anthology On Being 40-ish, and urging you take up space in a room and in a photo.
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This episode is for you if you need more motivation in the kitchen.
I'm in a cooking rut. After a season of convenience foods and lazy standbys, I'm ready to get back to the basics in the kitchen. My friend Bri McKoy is sharing the 10 essential kitchen tools that will inspire and motivate new habits for feeding my family.
We really just wanted to talk about cooking. But of course I tried to make it deep.
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This episode is for anyone who has struggled with meeting a goal, or knowing what to prioritize.
We’re all measuring something, but are we using the right metric? Are we measuring time or result? Are we measuring our waist or our health? We can measure our social media or our water intake, but if we’re not setting ourselves up for success, then we’ll fail emotionally every time.
In this episode, I’m musing over some measurements that caught me off guard, and how I’m shifting my perspective on some of the things I'm actively measuring.
I’m asking you to give an honest assessment of the things in your life (big and small) that you’re measuring, and ask yourself if you’re using the right metric.
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This episode is for you if you've ever walked into a room.
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This episode is for you if you've ever had a milestone birthday.
I'm turning 40 this week! I'm sharing all my wisdom, big feelings about that. From body changes to watching the clock tick, here's how I'm handling turning the big 4-0.
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This episode is for you if you're looking for recommendations on new podcasts to binge, books to read, or summer style choices.
These are a few of my favorite things right now. Take this prompt as a nudge to list out a few of YOUR favorites to share with others.
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(Believe me, you're going to want the show notes for this one.)
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This episode is for you if you've ever taken a trip.
What is the best trip you've ever taken? And what does "best" even mean? Was the best location, with the best people, was it simple or revelatory or both?
This prompt is a great conversation starter.
In this episode, I'm sharing some of my favorite trips of all time. And at the end of me rambling, there are 10+ travel tips sent in my listeners. That's the best part of the whole show!
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This episode is for you if you’ve ever struggled with anxiety or ever watched a loved one form coping mechanisms to handle their anxiety.
I have more than 10 things to tell you about anxiety, but here is a place we can start the mental health conversation. In this episode, I'm sharing my lifelong anxiety starting in childhood, through the teenage and young adult years, after I had children, and into the present day.
I'm talking about what anxiety looks like for me, healthy and unhealthy coping mechanisms, and the things that have given me the most relief.
The goal of this type of episode is just to share a common human experience. I hope that it makes you check in with your own body, be honest about mental health struggles, and bring about some understanding of the anxiety that millions of people live with every day.
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Content warning. The themes in this book include child abuse and sexual violence.
This discussion of Flowers in the Attic by VC Andrews is finally here! Meg Tietz and I sit down to talk about this cult classic novel that women of a cough certain age passed around among friends.
We thought we were in for a giggly conversation about a silly book. What we found between these pages surprised us both.
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This episode is for you if you've ever felt stuck in your roles.
This episode and this concept is brought to you by an old boyfriend, who (I think?) made up this analogy and it contributed to the end of our relationship and also has stayed with me as a major life question and metaphor.
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This episode is for you if you've ever needed a mantra, to get through the day, a season, or your life.
What is your mantra? Do you have one? Do you need one?
On this episode, I share three different mantras that I've used over the years and that I still call upon when needed. We also hear from listeners who sent in their own life mantras.
10 Things To Tell You is an interactive podcast. Each episode has a prompt and a topic that I want you to take to your journal, text to your best friend, or answer on social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou.
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This episode is for you if you want to learn more about taking care of your skin, or if you're always looking for new makeup recs.
Guest Jamie Golden is giving us a skincare education. If you have no idea what serums you need or how to make your face look more like it did 10 years ago, you are about to take notes.
Jamie is most well-known for her popular (hilarious) podcasts The Popcast with Knox and Jamie, and The Bible Binge, but her personal obsession is skin care. Jamie's Instagram is full of beauty tips and recommendations.
On this episode, Jamie walks us through our basic skincare needs while Laura shares five or her favorite current beauty buys, from hair products to lipstick to a magical foundation.
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This episode is for you if you’ve ever wondered “Who am I supposed to tell these 10 Things to….?”
Every week I go on and on about how we all have 10 Things To Tell, but WHO do you tell?
Friends? A sibling? A partner? No one?
This episode is about the people who deserve your trust. I'm telling you the 3 things that make me want to share with someone, and what happens if that trust is broken. There's one thing in particular I really want you to pay attention to.
I hope this episode makes you think about the relationships in your life that inspires you to share your stuff, in both new and lifelong friendships.
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This episode is for anyone whose life didn't turn out exactly as they expected.
Who did you expect to be?
Not who did you want to be or who did other people want you to be? But WHO did YOU expect to be at this stage of your life? And are you that person?
I've thought about variations of this theme for years, maybe even my whole adulthood. Because my life hasn't turned out at all like I expected. Okay, that's not entirely true.
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This episode is for you if you're always looking for new reading recommendations.
I'm listing the best books I've read lately, including novels, memoirs, and self-help. These are the books I can't stop talking about.
And I'm asking YOU to share the best book(s) YOU'VE read recently. Post on social using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou for all of us looking for something great to read.
Click here for the show notes with the full list of titles I discuss in this episode.
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This episode is for you if you've ever been in a family.
Family rules. We all have 'em. Curfews, screen time, don't wear shoes in the house, finish the food on your plate. In this episode we're talking about our most basic family rules and also the unspoken rules of a family that shapes our behavior.
Answer this question in your journal, with a friend, or on social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou:
What are your family rules?
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This episode is for you if you're interested in starting or keeping a journal.
On every single episode of this podcast, I've encouraged you to take the prompts to your journal. But what if you don't have a journal?
This episode walks you through why I think having a journal is crucial for your personal growth, and can be a wonderful documentation of your life.
I'm giving you 10 very different ways to approach journaling. From spiritual to quick to apps on your phone, there are so many ways to keep a journal of your thoughts.
If you DO journal, please share your process on social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou
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This episode is for you if you've ever wondered the difference between a Hollywood director and a producer.
Every now and then this show will take a break from the personal introspection and hear from a guest who has something interesting to say. I'm kicking off that series with my talented husband, producer/director Jeff Tremaine.
In this episode we talk about his new movie The Dirt, a Netflix biopic about the rock band Motley Crue. Jeff shares why the film took nearly 10 years to make, and the most crucial decision he made in the beginning.
We also discuss how we stay connected in our marriage when apart for months at a time, and how he feels about making a movie that doesn't always align with his own values.
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This episode is for you if you've ever made assumptions about others that turned out not to be true.
Sometimes I assume that everyone else is killin' it at life and I'm the only one flailing around. Sound familiar?
In this episode, I share some of the silly things people have assumed about me and a few things that I assume about everyone else. (None of these things are true.)
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This episode is for you if Judy Blume's novels made an impact on your childhood.
This is the first in the REVISIT series, where we're going to look at things from the past and see how they affected us then and how we feel about them now. Today's topic: Judy Blume.
Specifically, her three novels:
Are you there, God? It's me, Margaret.
Blubber
and Starring Sally J. Freedman As Herself.
My guest on this episode is my childhood friend Cara Pence, and we get a little emotional as we delve into the more painful themes of these books. This is a true conversation between friends.
You can read the full show notes here.
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This episode is for you if you've ever had a teacher who made an impact on your thinking and development.
Tell me about your teachers.
Today we're talking about the school teachers (or coaches, or activity instructors) who have made a difference in our lives in one way or another. I'm sharing the teachers who taught me how to think, trusted me, and even a few who left a mark I wish I didn't have.
At the end of the episode, we hear from a few listeners.
You can take this prompt to your journal, text it to a friend, or post on social media using the #10ThingsToTellYou hashtag.
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This episode is for you if you’ve ever felt disconnected from your own body. This episode is NOT about weight or exercise. We’re talking about the mind/body connection and the spiritual awakening that can occur when you really tune into your body instead of living on autopilot. I’m welcoming Pilates studio owner and movement teacher Kerri Campbell as my guest as we discuss and answer the question How do you connect to your body? Age, trauma, pain, and depression are just a few of the things that can cause us to disconnect from our body over time. In this episode we’ll talk about how to recognize if your brain and body have gone numb to one another and the mindset shift that will motivate positive change instead of constant self critique. Read the full show notes here. You can take this prompt to your journal, text it to a friend, or post on social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou. Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook. You can sign up here to receive episode news and notifications.
This episode is for you if you've ever thought about where you live and how it affects you.
Where do you live?
This is one of the most basic, get-to-know-you questions, and the answer can vary. Our country, state, city, and neighborhood all say something about us, whether we like it or not.
On today's episode, we're not just talking about our zip codes, we're talking about how our location is currently affecting who we are. I live in Los Angeles, so I have 10 Things To Tell You about my little pocket of L.A.
You can take this prompt to your journal, text it to a friend, or post on social media using the #10ThingsToTellYou hashtag.
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This episode is for you if you've ever felt lonely. Which means this episode is for everyone. Loneliness feels like one of the great taboo topics of adulthood. But all around me, I see and hear people whispering that they’re profoundly lonely. In this episode I’m going to tell you about a time in my life when I was really lonely, and the two things I did that turned it around for me. The prompt for this week: Are you lonely? Or When were you lonely? Take your thoughts to your journal, to a friend, or to social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou. Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook and Instagram. You can sign up for episode emails and see the full show notes here.
This episode is for you if you want tips on how to read more, or if you already have a reading habit.
We're kicking off the 10 Things To Tell you podcast with my favorite thing: BOOKS! People are always asking me how I read so much, and mainly people want to know:
WHEN do you read?
HOW do you read?
WHAT do you read?
I’m answering all of those questions and so much more. I’m telling you my secret to reading (roughly) one book a week. If audiobooks count the same as reading a book you hold. And I confess my dilemma over rating books publicly.
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I’m Laura Tremaine, and I have 10 things to tell you.
Each episode of this new podcast will ask a question, and you're encouraged to take that prompt to your journal, to your best friend, or to social media.