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2014-2018 Eddie Murphy got it right when he decided to navigate Queens to find his Queen. We Come From Queens podcast explores the parameters of life as hosts Cadacia & Monique evolve into Queendom. What does that even mean? Here is their space to turn their regular conversations into an open forum for others to listen in, comment and engage in conversation. Listen to all episodes on wecomefromqueens.com. Use the hashtag #wcfq on social media
Yes, this is what you think it is. This is the final episode of We Come From Queens. It has been an amazing four and a half years of growing as women, making new friends, being exposed to various opportunities and being embraced in this way.
We thank everyone that came out to our 100th episode celebration. It was a bittersweet send off though we did not make the announcement then as to not bring the vibe down.
We are grateful for this journey and look forward to whatever life has in store for us.
We will keep the store open until Jan 31, 2019 so get your orders in by then. All of the podcast social media will remain up though it probably will be less activity happening there.
The episodes will still be available at least until 2020. We will be transferring them over to this website and so you probably will not be able to access all on soundcloud.
You can follow our personal social media accounts
Cadacia Twitter: @Cadacia_ | Instagram: @statusfro
Monique Twitter / Instagram: @Amazelife
Once again we thank you from the bottom to the top of our hearts for your continued support!
Best,
We Come From Queens Podcast
It’s that time of year again so it's only right that we have our annual "Christmas Party" on the show.
This year, we did things a little differently and instead of inviting a former guest we had first time guest Julius aka Funny Julius on the show.
Games Played
Twas The Night Before Christmas
Tis The Season
What’s in Santa’s Sacks?
Naughty Or Nice
All I Want For Christmas Is___
Connect with Julius
@Funny Julius on Twitter | Intagram
Listen to his podcast Rap & Order
Connect with us!
Website: wecomefromqueens.com
instagram / Twitter @wecomefromqns
You can send us questions you would like us to answer during an episode ANONYMOUSLY www.wecomefromqueens.com/contact/
You can listen to us on soundcloud, stitcher, google play & itunes (rate & review on itunes)
This episode was sponsored by Planned Parenthood of NYC (@ppnycaction). You can learn more about their various services by visiting ppnyc.org
Questions we answered:
What is your favorite episode?
What was your least favorite episode?
What episode are you most proud of?
Do you have an embarrassing episode?
Is there a guest you’d like to have on again?
What was your most awkward episode?
What would you say has been the most informative episode?
Is there an episode you still replay?
Is there an episode you wish you could do over?
Which guest surprised you the most?
Was there an episode that you were surprised at the feedback or reception of it?
Quote
“Success isn’t about how much money you make, it’s about the difference you make in people’s lives.” Michelle Obama
Around The Way
Caribbean Soul Rooftop Restaurant & Lounge
https://www.caribbeansoulnyc.com/
Join us on Saturday Dec 15th from 7pm - 10pm to celebrate reaching 100 episodes.
We will have games, music, appetizers, drinks and more.
This episode was sponsored by Planned Parenthood of NYC (@ppnycaction). You can learn more about their various services by visiting ppnyc.org
This episode was also sponsored by Follain. Follain is a clean beauty retailor with a curated selection of the highest-performing, safest and 100% non-toxic products. Visit follain.com/queens to order your products now.
In episode 75 - F.R.I.E.N.D.S we spoke about the highs and lows of friendships during the course of our lives thus far. We revisited this topic to speak a bit more candidly about when friendships end, the roles we played and getting over being hurt by a friend.
Some of the questions we answered:
Do you ever use the term loosely?/ Why/ In what instance?
Do you have more male or female friends? (Why) Do you think it’s important to have friend of both sexes?
Have you ever belonged to a crew?/ Do you still belong to a crew?
Is there a key to maintaining friendships/ relationships?
What’s the most you’ve done to maintain a friendship?
If you could, would you go back in time and bring a friend to the current moment with you?/ Why?
What were some red flags that a friendship was ending?
Have you ever been hurt from a girlfriend/ friendship?/ How did you heal from it?
Articles referenced
Why Do We Lose Friends As We Get Older? 7 Reasons Your Friendships Are Changing By Natalia Lusinski
How I Overcame The Hurt Of Losing My Best Friend By Aley Arion
Why I’m Okay When Certain Friendships In My Life End By Shonda White
Join us on Saturday Dec 15th from 7pm - 10pm to celebrate reaching 100 episodes.
We will have games, music, appetizers, drinks and more.
wcfq100 #wcfqlive #wcfq
This week, we venture into an uncharted topic of conversation (for us)... sex. We invited Samia of Sexual Essentials LLC on to share her expertise, give some insight to her brand and answer some listener questions.
Samia’s mission statement
To teach, encourage and promote the sexual extensions of ourselves, which we think is a fantasy. With the correct knowledge, passion and partner there is no reason that everyone cannot have the sex life that they truly desire. To create a place to discuss the intimates of sex. Let’s be frank, we’re all grown. We speak everything into existence over our lives EXCEPT for sex. Sexual Essentials is here to educate and stimulate your sexual desires into fruition. The goal is to become comfortable with sexuality, not just portions of it, but all of it because no one has ever desired to have subpar sex. #SorryButNotSorry
Listener Submitted Questions
Why do women tend to hide their masturbation tendencies or their interest from porn?
What are signs that your partner enjoys the sex as much as you do?
Best positions for g-spot stimulation?
How can I squirt? Any tips?
What are some tricks to avoid locked jaw during oral?
How many times a week is a healthy amount to have sex?
Is sucking Toes ok?
Can you really get sick from eating ass?
You can check out Samia’s website sexualessentials1.com
Follow her on Instagram Instagram.com/sexualessentials
Listen to her podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify
This episode was sponsored by Planned Parenthood of NYC (@ppnycaction). You can learn more about their various services by visiting ppnyc.org
This episode was sponsored by Planned Parenthood of NYC (@ppnycaction) You can book an appointment and learn more about the variety of servies that they offer by visiting plannedparenthood.org/planned-parenthood-new-york-city
This week we are joined by Juwan and Pitter of Pilot Talk Podcast to talk about the anticipation (if that) around marriage.
Here are the tweets that sparked the topic
Question Game
Do you actually know what you are doing in most situations? or do you just act like you know what you are doing?
How can you describe your legal, legitimate job so it sounds illegal or sketchy?
What is a green flag in someone that makes you think 'they're a good person'?
What is something women have seen in romantic comedies that you wish they would stop expecting you to do in real life?
What insecurities do you often see in women that men couldn’t care less about?
What is something you genuinely do not understand?
What’s one moment where you realized that life isn't that bad?
Your options are: 50 hawks, 10 crocodiles, 3 brown bears, 15 wolves, 1 hunter, 7 cape buffalo, 10,000 rats, 5 gorillas and 4 lions - you must pick 2 that will defend you while the rest are coming to kill you. Which do you pick and why?
There's a room in your house where time doesn't flow. You could stay in there for as long as you could possibly want, and not a second will have passed outside that room. What would you use this room for?
What conspiracy theory, if proven true without a shadow of a doubt, would cause the most chaos in less than 24 hours?
Pilot Talk Podcast
Follow them on Twitter ( http://twitter.com/PilotTalkPod ) | Instagram ( http://instagram.com/Pilottalkpodcast )
This week we extend our can I say somethings for an entire episode. We have a real conversation about different things on our mind.
Trigger Warning* grief & death mentioned at the 33 minute mark
Around- The-Way
New Girl Scouts
https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/meet-first-girl-scout-troop-homeless-kids-new-york-city/
There is something very personal and specific about being from New York. What better podcast duo to have join us on a conversation about all things New York than The New York Dose?
Follow The New York Dose on Twitter & Instagram
Announcements
Share The Officially Street first Live show, Saturday Sept 29th @ Firelight Studio in BK hosted by Funny Julius
Purchase Tickets on Eventbrite www.eventbrite.com/e/the-officiall…bdssbdestsearch
The He Man Women Haters Club will be having a 3 year anniversary live show Thursday Sept 27th @ SOBs
Purchase Tickets on Eventbrite www.eventbrite.com/e/the-he-man-wo…bdssbdestsearch
You can connect with us on our website wecomefromqueens.com as well as our social media platforms: instagram, twitter and Facebook @wecomefromqns #WCFQ
You can send us questions you would like us to answer during an episode.
You can listen to us on soundcloud, stitcher, itunes (rate & review on itunes). Please don’t forget to stop by our store on the site as we finally have new merchandise.
Two years ago we fumbled and ran out of topics. We didn't want to miss an episode release week so we recorded an episode asking each other random questions.
Questions Asked
Hello Giggle - 40 important questions you should totally ask your BFF
What is one thing you regret having done or not done in your life?
If you could change your first name what would it be?
Where is the most beautiful place on earth and why?
What’s under your bed?
Are you proud of what you’re doing with your heart and time right now?
If you could buy one material thing, and money was not an issue, what would it be?
Has anything/anyone ever saved your life before?
If you were a cake which cake would you be?
Is there anything I can do that will make your heart rest easier? Your life run smoother?
Random Twitter Threads
Who was more dedicated to their job, Spongebob / Krusty Krab or Kenan & Kel / Good Burger?
If you were handed the aux, what's the first song you'd play?
your life is on the line once again and you get to call one person from your contact list. if they answer you die. who would you call?
There are 5 Anger Styles, which one are you? Stuffer (avoid conflict/bury anger) Withdrawer (don’t talk about it/ expresses it indirectly) Trianglers (manipulative) Blamers (blame others/name calling) Exploders (expresses anger through violence)
Does your partner's ""body count" matter to you?
Whats the first thing you do in the morning?
What do you normally eat when you get hungry in the middle of the night?
Which one of these cancelled celebrities is the most cancelled? Bill Cosby R Kelly Chris Brown Kanye West
If you had to listen to one music album for the rest of your life, which one would it be?
What's one thing people get wrong about you?
They say that everyone has a book in them. What would your book be about?
Among your friends or family, what are you famous for?
Via Teen Vogue - 55 Important Questions To Ask Your Best Friend, With GIFs
What’s your all-time favorite memory?
What’s your favorite thing you own and why?
Who was the last person who made you cry and why?
When have you felt the most challenged?
Out of all your family members, who are you closest to?
What do you do when no one else is around?
What's your go-to dish when you have to make dinner?
What's your earliest childhood memory?
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
Questions from Instagram
Where the hoes at?
What do y'all consider giving "girlfriend treatment" when just having "fun" with someone?
What are 3 traits (not physical) your future husband's have to have?
When am i gonna meet y'all?
What's more important in a taking the next step in a relationship, getting engaged or buying a home?
How do you balance working together and cultivating/ maintaining your friendship?
Would y'all date someone long distance? ( Like someone that is two states away?)
If you could live anywhere in the US other than New York, where would it be?
Announcements
Share The Officially Street first Live show, Saturday Sept 29th @ Firelight Studio in BK hosted by Funny Julius
Purchase Tickets on Eventbrite https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-officially-street-podcast-live-tickets-48815652932?aff=ebdssbdestsearch
The He Man Women Haters Club will be having a 3 year anniversary live show Thursday Sept 27th @ SOBs
Purchase Tickets on Eventbrite https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-he-man-women-haters-club-friends-live-show-tickets-49366335037?aff=ebdssbdestsearch
You can connect with us on our website wecomefromqueens.com as well as our social media platforms: instagram, twitter and Facebook @wecomefromqns #WCFQ
You can send us questions you would like us to answer during an episode.
You can listen to us on soundcloud, stitcher, itunes (rate & review on itunes). Please don’t forget to stop by our store on the site as we finally have new merchandise.
We conclude our second installment of the Love Connection by giving you all insight on how Rav’s blind date went. We get to determine if there is an actual possibility of a love connection!
Lastly you can connect with us on our website wecomefromqueens.com as well as our social media platforms: instagram, twitter and Facebook @wecomefromqns #WCFQ
You can send us questions you would like us to answer during an episode.
You can listen to us on soundcloud, stitcher, itunes (rate & review on itunes). Please don’t forget to stop by our store on the site as we finally have new merchandise.
This week, we kick off our 2nd installment of our version of the Love Connection. This week, listeners get to meet our bachelor as he selects a date for himself.
There seems to be this infatuation with the female body; whether it involves discussing it, praising it, or gawking at it, we can’t seem to avoid it. This week, we sit down with Tiffany of Nubian Shorties to discuss an instagram post about a few debating the female body with men. This episode was recorded at cSL
Things I Don’t Debate With Men:
1. Abortion
2. Breast Feeding
3. Menstruation
4. Female Body Hair
5. Birth Control
6. Access to feminine hygiene products
Around- The-Way
Spend a day at Flushing Meadows Corona Park
The largest park in Queens (and the fourth largest in all of NYC!) has some serious history in it -- originally, it was the site of The Great Gatsby’s “valley of ashes,” and later it was chosen to be the home of two world’s fairs (1939 and 1964). Visit what’s left from those days, including the Queens Museum, NY Hall of Science, and Queens Theatre.
Guest Info
You can find Tiffany on Instagram @NubianShorties ( https://www.instagram.com/nubianshorties/?hl=en)
You can purchase tickets to I (Heart) Nubian Shorties Day Party on eventbrite https://www.eventbrite.com/e/i-heart-nubian-shorties-day-party-tickets-47676538811?aff=erelexpmlt
This week we break down Issa Rae's two productions, The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl and Insecure.
Questions Discussed
When you think of Issa Rae, what immediately comes to your mind?
Reflect on her character “Issa” in “The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl.” What were your first impressions?
Contrast that character with Issa’s character in “Insecure.”
Based on “The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl,” did you have any presumptions about “Insecure?”
Let’s talk character development: How would you contrast Issa in “The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl” with Issa in “Insecure?”
Do you see any parallels between either Issas and yourself?/ How?
What does Issa’s come up mean for you personally?
Does Issa do a good job at telling our story [the Black woman narrative]?
Finally, contrast the characters between “The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl,” and “Insecure”
Ceecee versus Molly
Jay versus Lawrence
Baby Voice Darius versus Thug Yoda
Articles Referenced
Hollywood Finally Embraces What It Means To Be Black and Awkward by Darnell McGee
https://thegrio.com/2016/09/26/hollywood-finally-embraces-what-it-means-to-be-black-and-awkward/
“I just wanted it to be a regular story about black people”: Issa Rae on creating and starring in HBO’s Insecure by Caroline Framke
https://www.vox.com/culture/2016/10/7/13176104/issa-rae-insecure-hbo-interview
Episode Quote
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zs4d2eTfWvc
Lastly you can connect with us on our website wecomefromqueens.com as well as our social media platforms: instagram, twitter and Facebook @wecomefromqns.
You can send us questions you would like us to answer during an episode.
You can listen to us on soundcloud, stitcher, itunes (rate & review on itunes). Please don’t forget to stop by our store on the site as we finally have new merchandise.
Finally, our love connection has returned and we are accepting applications until Jul 18th!
We are on our way out of our twenties, with only one year remaining. As usual, we take some time to reflect on this decade and project how it is propelling us into our next one.
Recap your twenty eight year. What was one high? What was one low?
The countdown to thirty-- What is the most significant lesson or realization of your twenties that you will use to guide you through the last 365 days of this decade.
What is one thing of significance that you hope to achieve before you reach your 30th year?
What pressures are you under in approaching your 30th year?
Twenty Something Twenty Everything
What is one lesson that you’ve learned later in your twenties that you wish your would’ve learned earlier on?
What are your the values and how are you going to allow them to guide you here on out?
Who are you?
30 Myth Busters
People love giving us twenty-somethings advice on every aspect of our lives. Which of these are you holding onto and which of these are you tossing to the way side?
[Taken From: 30 Mind Expanding Experiences You Should Get Done Before You Turn 30]
Quit the day job you hate even if you don’t have a back up plan.
Dine alone at a restaurant (especially without a book or tablet.)
Start up a business.
Mentor or Volunteer.
Pay off your student debt.
Learn a second language.
Learn how to drive.
Live with a family in another country.
[Taken From: 30 Things To DO Before You Turn 30]
Date someone who isn’t your type.
Start your 401(k).
Stop holding grudges.
Set a reading goal.
Overcome a fear.
Be the first person to apologize.
Forgive yourself for mistakes.
Learn how to cook.
Pay it forward.
Pick a cause and be passionate about it.
Work a menial job.
Make a list of 40 things before you turn 40.
[Taken From:30 Things To Do Before You Reach 30]
Have something to look back on.
Take your cooking skills to the next level.
Admire yourself.
Invest.
Treat yourself.
Be part of history.
Take an impulsive weekend away with your bestie.
[Taken From: 30 Things To Do Before We Turn Thirty]
Experience a sunset from somewhere new.
Find someone to rely on.
Know what you want from your relationship.
Quote:
Count oyur age by friends, not years. Count your life by smiles, not tears. - John Lennon
Around The Way
Off-duty firefighter saves grandmother, two kids from burning Queens home
http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/queens/off-duty-firefighter-saves-3-people-burning-queens-home-article-1.3877782
Today's topic stems from a realization we had that although we have had our feelings hurt throughout dating, we have never had our hearts broken & that's probably because we have never been in love before.
Here's the tweet that sparked the episode. ( https://twitter.com/wecomefromqns/status/834496223872745476 )
In this episode we are going to have a guided conversation much like our New Year episode about our most recent failed dating experience.
Keep It Simple
Summarize your last failed dating experience in 1 - 3 sentences
Story Time!
Using no more than 10 bullet points recap the entire experience (from beginning to end)
What were your thoughts and feelings about your friend's experience
What were 3 highs from this experience?
How did you know this was someone you wanted to continuously date?
What were 3 lows from this experience?
How did you know that things were not going to last?
Recovery
Using Iyanla’s Recovery After Long Term Relationship video as a guide (27 min video) (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v-PC-2Vtkw8)
Acceptance
You have to accept that the relationship is over and that you will recover
Grieving & healing requires that you share your thoughts and feelings about the loss so that you can adjust your mind and heart and spirit. Without sharing, chances are you’ll get stuck and sta stuck in mourning ( meaning thinking shoulda coulda wouldas = different outcome)
Celebrate the good days, know that you deserve them
Celebrate the small victories such as finally eating after going too long without doing so
Laughing when it seems like you've been crying forever
Remove things from your environment that remind you of the person
You can bring these things back at a later time if they are gifts etc
Don’t follow your ex on social media
Even if you think you are completely over your ex, seeing someone you once did everything with now doing things with someone else is going to be painful
Social media is not the place to work through your feelings
Figure out if you can still be friends
What you do and how you do it depends on why you broke up about how you feel about the other person
If you remain friends with the hope that eventually you’ll get back together things can get very ugly & painful very quickly
You have left physically but the layers such as emotionally & spiritually leaving is still going on
Respect this multilayered process
You need to separate on all levels before your heart can heal and your mind can be clear
Establish boundaries and guidelines for communication
Less is more
Maybe 30 days no contact and then decide what can work
Do the things you love even if you once loved doing those things as a couple
You can still enjoy these activities without the other person
Avoid Excessive overeating or drinking
Join a group
Do something new
Learn a skill
Something that opens you up to things you didn’t know about before
Go to shows, movies, concerts
Get a new hairstyle
Do things that make you feel attractive again
Makeover your home such as new bedding, a new candle, a pillow
Avoid a rebound relationship
Or something in someone just t o give you a few thrills
Instead meet new people and see what happens
Seek professional help if depression becomes chronic
Ending a long term relationship regardless of romantic friendship or by natural causes or by choice is challenging so you need to find your own rules.
This is just a place to start
Final Thoughts
in this video iyanla ends with “It’s important that you train yourself not to be loyal to people who don’t treat you well. Be mindful to protect yourself mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually from energy vampires and emotional rapists who will make you feel guilty about how they treat you, remember your first priority is you.”
People should not judge failed love affairs as failed experiences but as part of the growth process. Something does not have to end well for it to have been one of the most valuable experiences of a lifetime. - Ethel Person, medical doctor and psychoanalyst (via Myleik IG Story)
For Afro-Latinas, The Whitewashed Wellness Movement Often Feels Unhealthy — Even Harmful
Nory Pouncil - 05/25/18 - Calladitas No More
https://fierce.wearemitu.com/calladitas-no-more/why-being-afro-latina-wellness-space-toxic-af/
Around The Way
Big-hearted Queens mom gives prom dresses to girls in need
http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/queens/big-hearted-queens-mom-prom-dresses-girls-article-1.3983558
As promised here is our minicast where we sing songs as a thank you to those that donated to our Karaoke Night back in May. Let the jokes begin!
Donors
Candace Twitter/ IG @lilmissent
Rico Twitter RicoAlmighty / IG @FF2d_podcast
Tiana Instagram @tianab_cakes14
Brian IG bbbb_b_bbbbb
Derrick Twitter/IG @djsj614 & @thenewyorkdose
Shop #WCFQ wecomefromqueens.com
Email us at wecomefromqueens@gmail.com
Twitter / Instagram @Wecomefromqns
Questions and Topics For Discussion
“What is Pick Me Culture?”
How does it affect us personally and/or collectively?
Unpack Original Thread . . .Thoughts?
Is the woman who wrote the tweet doing this to be “picked?”
Is this really the “formula” for getting the “right” man?
Read the response to the Thread . . . Thoughts?
Do you think women really compete for the affection of men? [Consider the women who you surround yourself with.]
How much of this “pick me” culture is rooted in origin/ what we have been taught since young?
Make reference to Alicia’s Statement from Episode 59: Non-Coachable Sistas where she states “I also have a lot of problems with the bible because I feel like it is so male centric.” <--How does the bible and its ideologies tie in with Pick Me Culture? (Possible reference Ruth and the constant reference to women “finding their Boaz” or “waiting to be found/chosen”)
Should women be chosen by men?
At what point, if any, should they (women) start to do the choosing?
What is we don’t wanna be chosen? Does that make us too strong/ independent/ much of a Black woman (the stigma)?
Discussion of the #BlackChynaChallengev & Sex Doll Twitter Frenzy
What is it?
Why/how did it get so popular?
Does this tie into today’s conversation? How so?
Pick Me! . . . Or Not
As a final note from each of us, we will discuss whether or not we want to be chosen. Complete one of the following sentence starters:
Pick me because _______________________.
Don’t pick me because _______________________.
Around The Way
Fountain of Youth Juice Bar & Café
https://www.yelp.com/biz/fountain-of-youth-juice-bar-and-cafe-queens-village?utm_source=ishare
We’ve been telling y’all for quite some time now that we come from Queens. We think it’s finally time for you to meet the Queens we’ve been referencing! This week, our special guests are our moms. In this special Mother’s Day episode we chat with them about their influence & how it has shaped us as we evolve into our own type of Queens.
Unpacking Typical Black Mom Quotes
"Do you have McDonald's money?"
"You better shut up before I give you something to cry about."
"I'm not one of your little friends."
"I hope you know that school work like you know them songs."
"Didn't I tell you..."
"You smell like outside."
"If someone hits you first, you hit them back."
Questions For Monique & Cadacia
What was your mother’s role in your home? Do you think she liked it?
Did your mother work outside of your home and how did that affect your desire to work?
What do you admire about your mother?
In what ways is your mother your role model?
How have you followed in the footsteps of your mother?
In what ways do you think you are similar to her?
What advice did your mother give you that really has stuck with you?
What things did your mother say to you that influenced the decisions you have made in your twenties?
Has your mother said or does she continue to say certain things to or about you that affect your self esteem or self image?
How was your mother’s relationship with her mother?
How do you think your mother’s relationships with others impacted how you behave in relationships with others?
Questions For The Moms
I maintain the sentiment that being a mom is one of the most selfless acts one could do. What is the biggest sacrifice you’ve made as a mother?
Who do you/ did you look up to for a “motherhood framework/ blueprint?”
What is the most valuable lesson you learned from your mom?
What is the most valuable lesson you’ve learned from your dad?
What is the most valuable lesson you’ve learned as a result of being a mom?
If you could impart anything on your child(ren) what would it be?
In raising children, who were/are your “mom” friends?
What do you think of your work?/ Did you do a good job at being a mom?
Can you tell us about one moment when you realized “ my kid(s) is not a child anymore or the moment you realized that they’re “grown”?
More Questions For Monique & Cadacia
One moment when you saw your mom as a person, a regular human?
Most memorable moment you have of/with your mom.
What is your favorite saying/ quote of your mom?
When it’s your turn to become a mom, what is one lesson you will take from your mom & one thing that you’ll leave?
Aside from the fact that mom’s actually are superheroes, if you could give your mom any superpower what would it be?
More Questions For The Moms
Overall, how would you describe your twenties?
What were your goals during your 20s?
What were the 3 most fun and exciting aspects or events of your 20s?
What were the 3 most challenging aspects or events of your 20s
If you could go back to your 20s knowing what you know now, what would you do differently?
Do you have any other words of wisdom that you think could be of value to people in their 20s as well as those such as ourselves who are about to enter their 30s?
Quote
As it stands, motherhood is a sort of wilderness through which each woman hacks her way, part martyr, part pioneer; a turn of events from which some women derive feelings of heroism, while others experience a sense of exile from the world they knew. Rachel Cusk
Around- The-Way
This week’s around-the-way highlight goes to the murals around the way!
JMJ- 205th street and Hollis Ave
Tribe Called Quest- 192nd street and Linden Blvd
Jazz Mural- Linden Blvd under the LI Railroad [Area known as Addisleigh Park aka St. Albans] highlighting Jazz greats (Billie Holiday, Ella Fitzgerald, Count Basie, John Coltrane, Lena Horne) and Baseball Greats (Jackie Robinson, Tommy “Hurricane” Jackson). This area is actually home to some Jazz greats.
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Email us at wecomefromqueens@gmail.com
Technology is one of those things we CANNOT escape. We have become so technologically advanced. How much of it is to our benefit? How much of it is to our detriment? In this week’s episode, we discuss what it has done to us as a society.
Questions Discussed
How tech savvy would you consider yourself to be?
What is your favorite form of technology and why?
At what point during your lifetime do you remember technology making the shift to where it is today?
What surprises you most?
How has technology benefited you?
How has technology hindered you?
Is the increase of technology making us lazy as a whole?
We pretty much do everything online these days. We all find our potential cars, houses, goods, and even spouses online. But How far is too far? /What would you not search for online?
How many times do we prefer to text over talking over the phone?
Online shopping is on the rise as well as ordering food online.There’s a site called taskrabbit where you can get others to run your errands for you.How many millennials our age will actually learn how drive with Uber at their disposal? Right now our country is working on cars that will park themselves! Is this too much luxury for our generation?"
Unpack The Quote!
Technology can be our best friend, and technology can also be the biggest party pooper of our lives. It interrupts our own story, interrupts our ability to have a thought or a daydream, to imagine something wonderful, because we're too busy bridging the walk from the cafeteria back to the office on the cell phone.
All of the biggest technological inventions created by man - the airplane, the automobile, the computer - says little about his intelligence, but speaks volumes about his laziness. - Mark Kennedy (Author)
The great myth of our times is that technology is communication. - Libby Larsen (Composer)
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Sweet Chick LIC (http://sweetchick.com/)
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It is unfortunate that a lot of people can bond over the absence of a father. Growing up Black in America, we all have one or some in our inner circles who know what it feels like to grow up in a household with mom holding it down solo. We unpack this narrative a bit this week and pair it with some songs that relate to the experience.
Articles Referenced In this episode
Things Only Women With Unfaithful Fathers Understand
http://madamenoire.com/1012221/things-only-women-with-unfaithful-fathers-understand/
The 20 Realest Rap Songs About Fathers
http://www.complex.com/music/2012/06/the-20-realest-rap-songs-about-fathers/
Father Of Mine: 15 Fathers Day Songs For People With Daddy Issues
http://www.vh1.com/news/53176/worst-fathers-day-songs/
Monique's Quote
https://www.christianpost.com/news/jay-z-reveals-fatherhood-has-changed-me-rapper-talks-beyonce-surrogate-rumors-video-99767/
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This week we break down the pros and cons of being "busy" using the article "The Disease of Being Busy" by Omid Safi ( https://onbeing.org/blog/the-disease-of-being-busy/ ) as our guide.
Questions for reflection
Would you consider yourself a busy person?
What are you busy doing?
Has that ever been an ideal for you?
How did we get here (being so busy)?
How do you feel when there is an extended period of time when you are not busy?
Would you consider being busy an addiction or a disease?
Quotes from the article
“This disease of being “busy” (and let’s call it what it is, the dis-ease of being busy, when we are never at ease) is spiritually destructive to our health and wellbeing. It saps our ability to be fully present with those we love the most in our families, and keeps us from forming the kind of community that we all so desperately crave.”
Has it been destructive for you?
Work/ life balance. Do you have that?
"In many Muslim cultures, when you want to ask them how they’re doing, you ask: in Arabic, Kayf haal-ik? or, in Persian, Haal-e shomaa chetoreh? How is your haal?" What is this haal that you inquire about? It is the transient state of one’s heart. In reality, we ask, “How is your heart doing at this very moment, at this breath?” When I ask, “How are you?” that is really what I want to know.”
“Tell me you remember you are still a human being, not just a human doing. Tell me you’re more than just a machine, checking off items from your to-do list. Have that conversation, that glance, that touch. Be a healing conversation, one filled with grace and presence.”
Do you have an internal barometer to tell when you are getting to be too busy?
When you find yourself getting to be too busy, how do you reel it in?
Do you think there is this glorification of being busy?
Episode quote brought to you by Cadacia
'Crazy-busy' is a great armor, it's a great way for numbing. What a lot of us do is that we stay so busy, and so out in front of our life, that the truth of how we're feeling and what we really need can't catch up.
Two Cents
Alicia D of Cubicles & Curls
As we bask in the latter years of our twenties, we can’t help but to be confronted with the inevitable “biological clock.” Even when we aren’t mentally entertaining the internal dialogue, someone always comes around to ask “So when are you having kids?” We invited a couple of men to weigh in on the conversation for varied perspective.
This episode is broken up into two parts. First an interview with the upcoming podcast Enter Tha Minds. The join us for the second part in discussing the male biological clock and more.
Enter Tha Minds minds is a podcast where four millennial men tr to gain guidance and the answers to life's questions. Their show will be launching on April 9th.
For now you can follow them on Twitter and Instagram @EnterThaMinds
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We’ve already talked about social media and how it has the power to project exactly what it’s supposed to … whatever the moderator wants: the good, the bad, the in between. This week, we talk about Angela Simmons’ social media account and how it has revealed a lot about her relationship status. We also discuss whether or not this should constantly be happening.
Angela Simmons IG Posts
Cryptic post 1
Cryptic post 2
Breakup post
Articles mentioned
8 Reasons Why Happy Couples Rarely Share Their Relationship Statuses on Social Media
8 Things to Never Post About Your Relationship on Social Media
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This week we're smooth like buttah!! I mean that's actually a regular thing for us so that's probably not a surprise :)
OK, this week we are joined by founder of the digital publication Brooklyn Buttah, Alley Olivier.
Alley talks about her company, realigning with your purpose and plays our question game.
Visit Brooklynbuttah.com to see what has been going on since it's launch. Keep in mind that new content will start going up March 2018!
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instagram.com/brooklynbuttah/
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This week we go uptown!! Kinda... ok not really :(
We have blogger Toya of ToyaFromHarlem joining us to talk a bit of Black History and we have her talk through our favorite posts on her site.
Here are all the posts we covered:
The African American Day Parade-Photo Journal
toyafromharlem.com/african-american-day-parade-2017/
5 Recreated Photos of Iconic Black Woman
toyafromharlem.com/5-recreated-photos-of-iconic-black-woman/
5 Recreated Photos of Iconic Black Men in History
toyafromharlem.com/5-recreated-photos-of-iconic-black-men-in-history/
How to Overcome Negative Self-Talk
toyafromharlem.com/overcome-negative-self-talk/
My Fearless 2017: A Black body Photography Project
toyafromharlem.com/myfearless-2017/
Follow Toya
ToyaFromHarlem.com
Twitter / Instagram @ToyaFromHarlem
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A Brooklyn Boy
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There has been much conversation surrounding what the term “Afro-Latino” means. We take a small moment to define the term for ourselves; discuss our experiences growing up as Afro-Latinas; as well as dig into the current conversation surrounding the term. Is it even that big of deal?
We'd like to take the time to thank Your Average Afrolatina for highlighting us in " 10 Podcasts Created by Afro-Latinx"
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We're back and ready for this new year in podcasting! In this week's episode we will be recapping 2017 from a personal standpoint as well as sharing some intentions for the new year.
Here are the questions we talked about if you'd like to use them as journal prompts
How was your 2017, personally? Work wise? Podcast wise?
What we are leaving in 2017, personally? Work wise? Podcast wise?
What are you bringing into 2018, personally? Work wise? Podcast wise?
How has your year been so far? What have you been up to?
Any hiccups?
Podcasting [you can replace this with a person or thing] has been in my life since _____________ If it were not in my life how would things be different today? What would be different? Better? Worse?
What’s one thing that you hope for the show [again you can replace this with something else] this year?
At the end of this year, how do you want to describe or remember it?
The holiday season is upon us and it's only right that we have our annual "Christmas Party" on the show with former guests. This year, we decided to invite the Play Cousins to the function because what's a holiday gathering without family (podern fam that is)?! Tune in to the fun we've concocted for this holiday themed episode! [[Also #TriggerWarning. We do mention self harm at around 1:40:00 - 1:41:25]]
Games Played
Twas The Night Before Christmas
What's In Your Stocking
Tis The Season
Naughty Or Nice
All I Want For Christmas Is___
Connect with play cousins podcast
soundcloud.com/play-cousins-podcast OR search the show on iTunes
and on Instagram @playcousinspodcast
Jameer and Lindsey can be found on IG & Twitter at @itsjameer and @lindseyindia
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We are true 80’s babies who were raised in the 90’s. With that, there are a ton of things that we can bond over with others in our age range. One of those is, without a doubt, TV Shows! This week, we discuss the major TV shows that we obsessed over throughout our childhood years. If there are any that we missed, drop us a line in the comments!
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This week we break down the word "friend" and talk about the highs and lows of friendships during the course of our lives thus far. We'd like to thank Alicia of Cubicles & Curls (http://www.cubiclesandcurls.com/) for submitting this topic!
Talking points
What defines a friend?
How has your definition of a friend evolved throughout the different stages of your life - from childhood to adolescent through adulthood thus far?
What shifts have you noticed in the types of friendships you've maintained?
Who do you prefer to be friends with -- men or women? Why?
Do you buy the narrative that "women are to ____ to befriend?"
Supporting articlee "Roxane Gay Lists 13 Rules for Female Friendships"
(http://womensenews.org/2014/09/roxane-gay-lists-13-rules-for-female-friendships/)
(4) Sometimes, your friends will date people you cannot stand. You can either be honest about your feelings or you can lie. There are good reasons for both. Sometimes you will be the person dating someone your friends cannot stand. If your man or woman is a scrub, just own it so you and your friends can talk about more interesting things. My go-to explanation is “I am dating an asshole because I’m lazy.” You are welcome to borrow it.
(5) Want nothing but the best for your friends because when your friends are happy and successful, it’s probably going to be easier for you to be happy.
(6) Tell your friends the hard truths they need to hear. They might get pissed about it, but it’s probably for their own good. Once, my best friend told me to get my love life together and demanded an action plan, and it was irritating but also useful.
6A. Don’t be totally rude about truth telling and consider how much truth is actually needed to get the job done. Finesse goes a long way.
6B. These conversations are more fun when preceded by an emphatic “GIRL.”
(10) When something is wrong and you need to talk to your friends and they ask you how you are, don’t say “Fine.” They know you’re lying and it irritates them and a lot of time is wasted with the back-and-forth of “Are you sure?” and “Yes?” and “Really?” and “I AM FINE.” Tell your lady friends the truth so you can talk it out and either sulk companionably or move on to other topics.
(7) Surround yourself with women you can get sloppy drunk with who won’t draw stupid things on your face if you pass out, and who will help you puke if you overcelebrate, and who will also tell you if you get sloppy drunk too much or behave badly when you are sloppy drunk.
(13) My mother’s favorite saying is “Qui se ressemble s’assemble.” Whenever she didn’t approve of whom I was spending time with, she’d say this ominously. It means, essentially, you are whom you surround yourself with.
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To know us is to know that we generally do not talk about pop culture because that’s not what our show is based on. This week, we switch things up a little and talk some things that have been going on that we haven't really voiced our opinions about . . . at least the things that we actually have an opinion on.
Topics covered
Jeannie Mai from The Real getting divorced from her husband
Tamera Mowery reminding everyone that she loves her some interracial love
Tamar Braxton getting divorced from her long time husband
Cardi B's engagement
Wendy William's fainting on live tv
Hollywood calling out a growing list of men for sexual assault
Tyreese's social media meltdown
JusticeForJazzy - Black college student tormented by her white roommate
Do we forgive Shea moisture for their #BeardedBaes
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This we were joined by a married couple Enaya & Jon to talk about #BlackLove & provide us with some insight to “the married life”. They also talk about the importance of being a tourist in your own city and we got them to play our infamous question game!
Enaya Instagram @Enaya_k
John Twitter @BlessNYC | Instagram @Blessnyc_
Social Butta Fly website http://social-butta-fly.blogspot.com/
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A couple of years ago we had four men on our show weighing into a convo surrounding all things dating. We decided to strike up that conversation again. This time, we elicited the help of Reek of the He Man Woman Hater's Club Podcast.
Follow Reek on Twitter & Instagram @theogblackman
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This week we sit down with Rico of the Feel Free to Disagree Podcast to discuss what it means to be a man and how his cultural background influences his definition of masculinity.
Connect with Rico
IG @ff2d_podcast
Listen to his show on iTunes https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/feel-free-2-disagree-podcast/id1195672810?mt=2
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This episode we are joined by Thomas Knox of Date While You Wait to talk about the current representation of Black men in media.
You can find Thomas on
Instagram @DateWhileYouWait
Facebook facebook.com/DateWhileYouWait
Twitter @DateWhileUwait
website datewhileyouwait.com
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As you’ve seen via IG, we have recently returned from a girls trip to Cuba and are ecstatic to share our experience with you!
We continue our summertime fine series with part two to our version of the Love Connection. This week, listeners get to hear how the blind dates went and if there actually will be love connections.
We continue our summertime fine series with by kicking off our version of the Love Connection. This week, listeners get to meet our bachelor and bachelorette as they select a date for themselves.
If your are familiar with Podcasts In Color (hey Berry!) then the hashtag #Podin should be very familiar to you. If not, it's a hashtag used to check out what podcasts other people are listening to.
Therapy For Black Girls
Hosted by: Dr. Joy (Twitter @therapy4bgirls)
http://www.therapyforblackgirls.com/
Recommended episodes
Session 8: Getting what you need in relationships
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-for-black-girls/id1223803641?mt=2&i=1000385518971
Session 14 what are boundaries& why do I need them
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-for-black-girls/id1223803641?mt=2&i=1000389273007
Black Girl Podcast
Hosted by: Gia Peppers, Scottie Beam, Sapphira, Alysha & Rebecca (Twitter / Instagram: @BlackGirlPod)
Episode 8: Re-Introdicktion
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/black-girl-podcast/id1184104197?mt=2&i=1000382150007
Secret to Success
Hosted by: Eric Thomas (Twitter: @Ericthomasbtc Instagram: @etthehiphoppreacher)
iTunes
https://soundcloud.com/etthehiphoppreacher/tracks
Soundcloud https://soundcloud.com/etthehiphoppreacher/tracks
website: http://etinspires.com/blog
Episode 9: I got Tired
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/secret-to-success-cj-eric-thomas-inspiration-personal/id844102142?mt=2&i=1000363203217
Feel Free to Disagree
Hosted by: Rico ( Instagram @ff2d_podcast)
Episode 7: Fat Shaming
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/feel-free-2-disagree-podcast/id1195672810?mt=2&i=1000384425957
Episode 11: F*** Boyz
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/feel-free-2-disagree-podcast/id1195672810?mt=2&i=1000389028252
Read To Lead
Hosted by Jeff Brown
iTunes https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/read-to-lead-podcast-business-book-author-interviews/id673883284?mt=2
website http://readtoleadpodcast.com/
Ep #093 “harness the power of your authentic voice”
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/read-to-lead-podcast-business-book-author-interviews/id673883284?mt=2&i=1000348906857
ep #097 “finding your balance point”
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/read-to-lead-podcast-business-book-author-interviews/id673883284?mt=2&i=1000351329884
Play Cousins Podcast
Hosted by Jameer & Lindsey ( Twitter/Instagram @ItsJameer & @LindseyIndia)
Dear Kalief Series
Part 1
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/play-cousins/id1163665525?mt=2&i=1000382268217
Part 2
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/play-cousins/id1163665525?mt=2&i=1000382864069
Part 3
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/play-cousins/id1163665525?mt=2&i=1000384491943
Summer is the time when most shed their winter clothing and skin. There is so much pressure to obtain and retain the "perfect" body. With this, we decided to define "pretty" and all the implications it has for females and our self esteem.
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Episode Breakdown
- Pretty Hurts lyrical breakdown
- Cadacia vs #BodyGoals
- Monique vs acne
- Diets
- Self love
- What does it mean to be "pretty"?
- Cadacia's Corner - Summer Snatch
-Mo-tivation - Self Lovin
- Dr. Umar Johnson
The Love Connection Episodic Series!
As mentioned in the episode we are hosting our own Love Connection dating game and turning it into a series.
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Bringing you our second minicast! We cover this awesome annual natural hair event here in NYC (Brooklyn to be exact)
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Summer is in full swing! This week, we discuss some things that top our summertime bucket lists. Tune in and tell us what’s on yours!
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The Love Connection Episodic Series!
As mentioned in the episode we are hosting our own Love Connection dating game and turning it into a series.
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In this episode we discuss our gratitude for the support of our first event, reflect on season 3 and being 27. we also share our intentions for season 4 and for our own personal new years.
Reflection Questions
What have been the high point and low point of the past year?
Where has the time gone? What have you spent most of your time doing?
Are you living up to your potential?
How does another year sound?
10 years ago we graduated high school, class 007 (shaken not stirred wink). With that being said we decided to take a stroll down memory lane and share with one another things our 17 year old selves were doing, songs we liked, shows we watched. We share dreams we had for ourselves by this time in our lives and just how far off we are in some areas.
Though we may be getting older you know our Black is doing anything but cracking! This is the last episode of Season 3 and we are so thankful to have made it through another one.
Resources
27 Things You Must Say Goodbye To At 27 - Kristen Lee
27 Responses To “27 Things You Must Say Goodbye To At 27” - Kimberly Johnson
Many of us set goals. By 18 I hope to be _____. By 22 I hope to be _______ and by 25 my life will drastically be different. This week we discuss all of those set plans through the lens of a Thought Catalog Article. We invite Candice aka Lil Miss Ent into the conversation.
Check out Candace's site candicedavisonline.com and her show on iTunes & Soundcloud
Remember Beyonce’s self titled album and how everyone was all excited about her proclaiming her feminism through that? This week we break down what feminism is to us. how it may (or may not be) misinterpreted and Chimamanda Adichie's confession that she was not in favor of how her speech was intergrated with Beyoncé's Flawless all with the help of Noushky of breakingdenmanbrushes.wordpress.com
You can also connect with Noushky on Twitter @BreakingDenmanB and Instagram @BreakingDenmanBrushes
Here's a link to the Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie on Beyoncé's Brand of Feminismarticle we discuss inthis episode https://blavity.com/chimamanda-ngozi-adichie-beyonce-feminism-not-mine
There's a stigma that black men typically show up for women of different races (other than Black) much quicker than they would for Black women. There is also the stigma that Black women are too strong, have too much attitude and are just too much in general.
This week with help from Alicia of Cubicle & Curls we break down the stigma of Black women not being "coachable"
Connect with Alicia on her site Cubicles & Curls ( http://www.cubiclesandcurls.com/ ), Twitter & Instagram
We decided to have this episode follow our Black Entrepreneurial Series because entrepreneurship is so glamorized. Most people will tell you the upside to it. The other side can be the difficulties and hardships that come with entrepreneurship. Although this episode isn't specifically about entrepreneurship it is about a real life experience that people typically do not open up about. We talk about being (financially) privileged and what it can be like to lose that privilege. Homelessness is a real thing and we break it down here.
Links & Resources
Volunteers of America
Coalition for The Homeless
National Homeless
Catholic Charities USA
Stand Up For Kids
Looks like minicasts may be a thing we do here and there and in between episodes.
Our first minicast we go through the buzzefeed quiz "Would You Rather" Questions That Are Impossible For Black Girls To Answer.
Send us quizes, links, questions and more that you think would make a great minicast and there is a good chance your suggestion will make be selected.
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Episode 3 in our Black Entrepreneurial Series follows up on wellness. We’ve invited the lovely ladies Young Chavo & Fi Stacks of Grillz & Granola to talk with us about trappin, dabbin and fitness things.
Connect with them via their website ( https://www.grillzandgranola.com/#intro )
This week we give you all a two for one special in the realm of skincare and wellness. We sit down with two business owners on different ends of the spectrum. They expose the stuff mainstream won’t tell you! We thank Jessica and Michelle for conversing with us and dropping all the wellness gems!
Jessica Jade of Sunkiss Organics ( https://www.sunkissorganics.com/ )
How To Detox Your Armpits (and why you need to)
Nikisha Brunson FolieApothecary Etsy Shop
Nikisha Brunson DIY All Natural Deodrant tutorial
ArmpitDetoxfor Optimal Deodorant Performance
Top 15 All Natural Deodorants that work
Organic Best of Greens ( to be added to smoothies so that you can reach the ideal veggie daily intake)
InVite Reds Hx ( also can be added to smoothies. Contains acai, gogi, cranberry, papaya and more)
In Honor of Black History Month, we want to highlight some Black entrepreneurs who are currently making history. First up: Mimi of @iam.nubian. Here she discusses the ins and outs of being a business owner in the beauty industry.
Connect with I Am Nubian around the internet --> Website ( http://iamnubian.nyc/ ) | Instagram ( https://www.instagram.com/iam.nubian )
2017 is here!! We have returned from our winter break refreshed and ready to share with you all how our 2016 helped to shape our 2017.
We talk about 2016 glows and its lows personally and in the world as well as what we hope to improve in 2017.
This week we a blessing you with an early release with our friends The Cure Podcast. This episode is all fun and games and you better believe the eggnog was strong.
The funny thing is, the studio we use to record our podcasts when we have guests is actually located in Brooklyn.
Happy Holidays and Season Greetings to you all! Thank you for your continued support and we are looking forward to all that 2017 has in store for our show!
Best,
Monique & Cadacia
We've already spoke of the importance of valuing your time … or in the words of Darius Foroux “Knowing Thy Time” and valuing your space. It is equally as important to “Know Thy Money” and we have the Frugal Feminista on this week to help us break down what it means to value the coin and have that reflect in our daily habits.
Last episode we talked about the importance of accounting for your time. For our second episode in the end of the year series, we discuss the importance of accounting for your space. Our space is composed of physical, mental and interpersonal. It is so important to be intentional about the way we fill that space. Talk back to us. How spatially aware are you?
Post mentioned
Design An Environment Conducive to the Person You Become by Srinivas Rao. ( https://medium.com/the-mission/design-an-environment-conducive-to-the-person-you-become-2db8bd5405c6#.wj5gm2jeh )You can follow him on Twitter @UnmistakableCEO
2016 is quickly coming to a close. As you know, we are big on NOT waiting for the new year to storm in to begin plotting on how to be great. Because we love ya’ll so much, we don’t want ya’ll to wait either! In our 50th episode, we begin our “New Year’s Preparation” Series, starting with TIME! Time is just as precious as money. Tune in as we discuss ways to treat it as such.
Article Mentioned:
Know Thy Time By Darius Foroux ( http://dariusforoux.com/know-thy-time/ )
The seasons are changing and it's game time! Men (and women) spent the summer scouting out players to put on their team. Fall is drafting season and you know what happens in the winter right? Yuuuuppp! The final cut is made just in time for "Cuffing Season." This week we break down the nuances of "Cuffing Season" with our newest #podfam members Play Cousins Podcast.
Connect with play cousins podcast
https://soundcloud.com/play-cousins-podcast
and on Instagram @playcousinspodcast
Hosts can be found on IG & Twitter at @iamjameer and @lindseyindia
Connect with us
Join the convo using #wcfq OR #wecomefromqueens / #wecomefromqns
Click here to listen to our Cuffin Season 2k16 playlist featuring song suggested by Play Cousins Podcast
http://www.wecomefromqueens.com/cuffin-season-2k16
Growing up while Black, we know how important discipline is. This week we discuss the methods of discipline used on us, whether or not we agree with them and their implications for life.
Tell us what you think in the comments below or tweet us!
Success. What does that word even mean? Success is defined differently for different people and this week we give you all our own personal definitions. We also share how they have evolved throughout our twenties and what keeps us constantly reaching for success.
Way back in our first season, we provided you all with a list of some of our favorite books. Since then, we’ve read plenty more and want to share some things that we’re reading as well as our perspective with a Book Talk! Tell us what you’re reading!
Books Mentioned
Teach Like Your Hair's on Fire: The Methods and Madness Inside Room 56
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
Four Things Women Want from a Man
We recently learned of a rap artist named Ryan Nicole. We were blown away by her artistry and, conveniently, she was in NY and could spare some time to talk. During our chat with her, we learned that rapping isn't her only gift and we find out more about why she is known for being a "quadruple threat." Check out our interview with her and make sure you support!
Find out about All Things Ryan Nicole on her website www.msryannicole.com
Follow her on Instagram and Twitter at @RyanNicole
As “millennials,” it appears that social media is at the heart of all that we do. We’re constantly doing it for the gram, snapping our vacations, sliding in someone’s dms and ultimately making personal moments public because of the hunger for likes. Social Media is both a blessing and a curse. Listen to our stance on the social media charged world that we live in.
In continuing with our dating #allsummer16 series, we have to distinguish between the two types of men women will encounter in a relationship: A Simp and an Alpha Male. I’m pretty sure at some point we have all encountered the two. How do you distinguish and what do you do when you have either on your hands? Well we don’t have all of the answers and so we invited our former “camera man” Terrell in on the conversation for some male perspective.
You can follow Terrel on Instagram at @iam_blackexcellence
In continuing with our dating #allsummer16 series, we have to distinguish between the two types of men women will encounter in a relationship: A Simp and an Alpha Male. I’m pretty sure at some point we have all encountered the two. How do you distinguish and what do you do when you have either on your hands? Well we don’t have all of the answers and so we invited our former “camera man” Terrell in on the conversation for some male perspective.
Here is the videos that inspired this episode
https://youtu.be/5NaWfo9M9F4
This week we reunite with the podcasting duo aka The Cure!
This is a two part mash up / crossover episode. That means you have to go to their website or head over to their soundcloud to hear part one, then check us out for part to. I can promise you that this is an episode to remember!
Connect with the cure on their website | soundcloud | iTunes | Twitter | Instagram
Situationships are the thing these days. Many people end up in situationships quicker than relationships for various reasons. This week, we break down the term, tap into our own experiences with situationships and invite a male voice into the conversation. Kiran aka @NonProphet_ makes some valuable points about reasons men lure women & themselves into situationships without that being the initial intention.
You can connect with Kiran on his website Kirandavid.com OR on his various social media platforms: Twitter @NonProphet_ || Snapchat @iSlapThirsties || IG @MinisterKDavid
Episode 40 marks our second birthday of podcasting. We are grateful for your continued support as we grow. So, how are we celebrating, you ask? In true #CareFreeBlackGirl fashion we sing our hearts out to 15 songs every Black girl (or woman) should know. If there's a song you don't know, get familiar!
P.S. The topic idea stemmed from this Madame Noir article "Songs Every Black Girl Knows" We enjoyed this so much we were inspired to create our own.
Growing up in a Black household and being surrounded by peers who are predominantly Black, it is easy to develop our own niche through language alone. This week, we explore "things Black people say" on so many different levels. We invited The Bodega Podcast to join in on the conversation!
Last episode we talked about the men. This week it’s about us: women. Here we reflect on an exhibit we stumbled upon and in doing so describing the complexities that we describe as woman.
Check out Ness' performance below
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ehh3DJ_Z4fk#action=share
A while back we did a podcast about gender roles. In distinguishing the role of male and female when it comes to relationships, we discuss ways to ensure that the female does not overstep her boundaries within her role and, ultimately, let a man be a man.
Today's episode was brought to you by our very good friends! They have shared some subway/ worst date stories with us and now we're sharing them with you!!
CONFESSION! We fumbled this week and don't have a "topic" for you all HOWEVER we did manage to pull it together and give you an episode worth listening to.
Our avid listeners know that Cadacia is an educator and it is something she is truly passionate about (as she’s mentioned several times). Her current job assignment has prompted her question the institution of education in America and also specifically in NYC. As a result, she decided to open up a conversation with Monique and former guest Mark (previously featured in episode 21) who provides some perspective from working within higher education.
Let us know what you think in the comments below or send us an email
In honor of it being Women's History month, we decided to celebrate in podcast form! There are tons of great women being excellent in their respective fields and communities. Some women are recognized while others go unnoticed. In this episode, we highlight a few women who we are moved by. Hopefully you are as inspired as we were/are!
This week we break down an acronym coined by the infamous Iyanla Vanzant J.O.B. She defines it as being "Just Over Broke"
Not only do we break this down we discuss the differences of having a job vs working in your career, our many "job" experiences. Hopefully you find some comfort and reassurance in the pursuit of the career of your dreams! AND if you're unsure or still figuring out keep goin!
RESOURCES
4 Myths About Doing What You Love For Work ( http://tinybuddha.com/blog/4-myths-about-doing-what-you-love-for-work/ )
After hearing Yo Gotti's "Down in the DM" we couldn't resist making this a topic and we just so happened to luck out by having our new friends Marucs & Rell from The Cure Podcast as our guests.
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First we break down the lyrics to the song and then we get into the remix featuring Nicki Minaj all while sharing more than we originally planned. Between the Hennessy, smoothies and Moscato I can assure you that this was one episode to remember.
Today we decided to touch on a topic that is often not spoken about ESPECIALLY in POC households. We candidly share our own experiences with having people in our lives who are dealing with mental illnesses as well as our personal experiences as well.
[[ TRIGGER WARNING: We do mention self harm and death by suicide starting at 32:30 - 37:00]]
LINKS
Why We Must Finally Pay Attention to Black Women’s Mental Health
http://www.forharriet.com/2014/12/why-we-must-finally-pay-attention-to.html#ixzz3zWULXRUa
Why We Must Talk About Black Men and Mental Health
http://www.bet.com/news/health/2013/08/21/commentary-why-we-need-to-talk-about-black-men-s-mental-health.html
Resources for people suffering from Mental Illness
Black Girls Smile Inc
Mental Health America
Center For Disease and Control
NAMI ( National Alliance on Mental Illness ) campaign “ I Am Stigma Free)
WE’RE BACK!! We are well rested from our mini winter break we are here to talk about if New Year’s resolutions are worth it and all of the #NewYearNewMe hoopla that fades before January is even over.
RESOURCES
Open Thread: Are New Year’s Resolutions a Waste of Time? (http://99u.com/articles/52405/open-thread-are-new-years-resolutions-a-waste-of-time )
As we conclude another year, we wish you the very best time during your holiday season. In doing so, we share some of our highs and lows of 2015 and that which we look forward to in the new year. Because you all are so near and dear to us, we let you in a little more and become a bit more transparent about some things in this episode.
We discuss a post we came across via some social media platform (most likely tumblr) that shared 10 commandments this particular guy follows the moment he gets into a relationship as well as a counter 10 commandments from Your boyfriend's Best Girlfriend Blog ( http://www.yourboyfriendsbestgirlfriend.com/2015/07/10-commandments-for-gentleman.html )
As we have shared many many times we both have been in very transitional phases of our lives. It has been quite a challenge balancing everything. We have dropped the ball in some areas ( such as the podcast and the blog) and are doing our best to pick up the pieces along the way. As we begin to close out 2015 we wanted to share some tips and resources for managing your time and not overextending yourself.
Resources
5 Tips To Avoid Overextending Yourself
http://www.oprah.com/oprahs-lifeclass/why-saying-no-is-saying-yes-to-yourself
Learn to Say No
http://www.oprah.com/spirit/the-absolute-yes-list
The Absolute Yes List
http://www.oprah.com/spirit/learn-to-say-no
Why Saying No Is Saying Yes Tor Yourself
http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/overextending/
In this episode we talk about the "tension" between Black Immigrants and African Americans.
RESOURCES
Black immigrants boost nation’s black population
http://www.frostillustrated.com/2015/black-immigrants-boost-nations-black-population/
Why Do Black Immigrants Do Better Than Native Blacks?
https://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2009/03/why-do-black-immigrants-do-better-than-native-blacks/6891/
Black Immigrants, An Invisible 'Model Minority'
https://www.realclearpolitics.com/articles/2007/03/black_immigrants_an_invisible.html
Taking a break from all this dating and relationship stuff to talk about solo traveling. In this episode we share our experiences traveling alone, our fears, our “Aha!” moments and share tips for those who may be considering a solo adventure.
Have you been on a solo trip? Tell us about it...
We are really rolling with this dating theme arent we lol? Today we talk about interracial dating, how our mindsets have changed or stayed the same and more.
LINKS
"We find black women in general are the slowest to acclimate to interracial dating and interracial relationships,” said Allison Kugel." from Pix11
Huffington Post "7 Things Everyone Should Know About Interracial Relationships" ( http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/7-things-everyone-should-understand-about-interracial-relationships_55c22c11e4b0f7f0bebb1b5d )
intro music is from Ryan Little via http://freemusicarchive.org/
If you recall in an earlier episode we talked briefly about being single and trying out dating sites/ apps.
Today we share our own experiences with online dating and talk about some of our own Dos and Don'ts of online dating.
Intro music is from Ryan Little via http://freemusicarchive.org/
Part 3!
As you can imagine our convo with the guys went so well and we all talked SOOOO much that we actually had to break the episode up again EXCEPT we're not making you wait another two weeks for it. Enjoy! Tell us what you think and we'll share it!
Also, our intro music is from Ryan Little via freemusicarchive.org
As you can imagine our convo with the guys went so well and we all talked SOOOO much that we actually had to break the episode up again EXCEPT we're not making you wait another two weeks for it. Enjoy! Tell us what you think and we'll share it!
Also, our intro music is from Ryan Little via freemusicarchive.org
This week we sit down with 3 of our guy friends, some snacks, some wine and revisit topics such as gender roles, platonic friendships, race, stereotypes and many more when it comes to dating for them. Also, our intro music is from Ryan Little via freemusicarchive.org
This week we break down the term "Sophistiratchet" and admit more things than we originally intended.
This is the Madame Noire post that we go through, which was written by Lauren R.D. Fox
Also our intro music is from Ryan Little via freemusicarchive.org
Happy Turn Up!
This week we talk about the (alleged) differences and similarities between being Bossy and being a Boss. Below are three videos that sparked this topic for us.
Music Cred: DJ Kid Kobra
https://soundcloud.com/djkidkobra/kelis-bossy-kid-kobra-twerk
Videos
Ban Bossy — I'm Not Bossy. I'm the Boss.
https://youtu.be/6dynbzMlCcw
Nicki Minaj - Bossing Up
https://youtu.be/PzGZamtlRP0
The Bossy Double Standard
https://youtu.be/IYrPxLYb75g
This week we talk about all things money! We cover budgeting, managing a credit card, resources for staying on track, saving and share the origins of our financial literacy.
http://www.thefinancebar.com/
https://home.capitalone360.com/ - online banking
https://www.mint.com/how-mint-bills-works/pay
http://www.ally.com/ - online banking
This week the tables turn when Cadacia interviews Monique. Press play and learn a little bit more about her beyond the podcasts.
We have decided to kick off the re-launching of our podcast with interviews! First up: Cadacia. Get to know her beyond the podcast. . .
Mama we made it!! This is our last episode for the year. We each share two struggles we had this year and two highlights.
Thank you for your continued support!
We are happy to be nappy! No seriously! one of the best things we did for ourselves was becoming natural. This week we talk about how we became natural, hair typing, natural hair terms and more!
INTRO MUSIC soundcloud.com/ashtonomics AND facebook.com/ashtonomics
In this episode we discuss the African Diaspora (what is it?); how it relates to us as African-American/ African-Caribbean/ African-Latina women; and, ultimately, its cultural implications. There are a lot of misconceptions about the "disparities" among the cultures. . .
"Knowledge is the new money" - Eric Thomas
Following up to our last podcast about investing in yourself, today we talk about gaining knowledge and how we invest in ourselves etc.
INTRO MUSIC
soundcloud.com/ashtonomics AND facebook.com/ashtonomics
These past few weeks have been pretty busy for us. We've attended a few events and will be recapping them for you today.
INTRO MUSIC
soundcloud.com/ashtonomics AND facebook.com/ashtonomics
In today's episode we talk about what gender roles within relationships mean to us, what is traditional vs more acceptable now etc etc...
INTRO MUSIC
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Today we are talking about platonic friendships and being the friendzone.
SpokenReasons YouTube video: Sex & Friendship
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wqWTIAkVBMU&feature=youtu.be
BlackGirlsAreEasy post: Why You're The Homegirl, Not The Girlfriend http://blackgirlsareeasy.com/2012/02/why-youre-the-homegirl-not-the-girlfriend.html
INTRO MUSIC
soundcloud.com/ashtonomics AND facebook.com/ashtonomics
In this episode we share a few of our favorite books
INTRO MUSIC
soundcloud.com/ashtonomics AND facebook.com/ashtonomics
In this episode we talk about religion and spirituality, morality. We go a but into our own journeys as well.
INTRO MUSIC
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Five things we've learned by the age of 25
INTRO MUSIC
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WINSTAR ON SOCIAL MEDIA
Intro song - Escondidos (remix)
Outr song - Ready To Go
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Ever received compliments like "you're so nice" or "you're so smart" or "I like talking to you" but when you ask for them to elaborate they can't? Exactly! We're here talking about generic compliments.
INTRO MUSIC
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A brief intro about us and our WeComeFromQueens podcast