Single You "The Podcast": Recent Episodes
Reka Robinson
In September of 2020, after 18 years in radio, I stepped down from my full time job— to focus on what God is calling me to do in this season. I’m called to guide women who need to hear that singleness is not a punishment and you are worthy regardless of your relationship status.
I’m the Founder of Single You Academy & the host of this Podcast!
I help the loyal frustrated woman who is tired of giving 2nd chances and trusting he will change stop that cycle by teaching her how to set and KEEP her boundaries. Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/singleyou/support
I’m over the 50/50 conversations.
Cause who’s really talking splitting money with a guy who can’t even locate himself?
I’m talking vibe change.
You ask.
He acts like nothings changed.
Why isn’t there more of: “look I’m processing something— we are still good but give me a minute.”
Instead of acting different and making me feel like I’m tripping.
If we say “at this big age” we are going to be open, honest and transparent… then there is a moment where vulnerability will help us “win the relationship” but you choose otherwise and expect me to “pull the emotions” out of you… we will lose the relationship every time. Why am I always put in a position where I have to think “am I tripping or did the energy shift?” — and it’s never the man with enough integrity to explain what’s going on with him or why the energy shifted.
I can’t figure out my emotions and yours sir.
So, is it really about the 50/50?
-I have thoughts about him-
Originally Written: December 2023
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Relationships, Statistics, and Self-Exploration: Unveiling Truths about Dating (each other) for Black Men and Women. An argument as to why we should give the bus driver a chance.
In this thought-provoking podcast episode hosted by Reka Robinson, she engages in a candid conversation with J. Hall about the complexities of relationships, the influence of statistics in dating, and the dynamics surrounding Black men and women. Together, they delve into the following thought-provoking questions:
- Should we base our choices on relationship statistics or on the reality we experience? Reka and J. Hall ponder the implications of relying solely on statistical data when it comes to dating and whether it aligns with personal experiences and individual needs. And where does faith come in?
- Nurturing Black men: Reka and J. Hall examine the idea of supporting and uplifting Black men. They question whether assumptions about their strengths and comfort levels hinder our ability to truly understand their needs and desires. The importance of open communication and asking questions is emphasized.
- Room for questions: The conversation navigates around whether Black men allow space for questioning, or if their ego obstructs genuine dialogue. Exploring the facets of self-discovery, they wonder if Black men truly explore the potential of the man they aspire to become. Why can’t we call our men up?
- Acknowledging collective struggles: J. Hall shares his newfound understanding that the challenges faced by women in their interactions with men impact society as a whole. “I use to say that sucks for you, now I know it sucks for us.”
- The path to healing: Reka opens up about her personal journey, revealing that she believes true healing can only be achieved by embracing the discomfort and vulnerability that comes with building relationships. She wonders if she will be able to reach that point with a Black man. Can we get past that wall?
- Financial stability and trust: The discussion shifts to the topic of financial stability and its impact on dating within the Black community. Reka and J. Hall question whether Black men should refrain from dating until they achieve financial stability and whether Black women are expected to meet them at the bottom as a way to gain their trust.
- Reflecting truths: Reka shares her belief that she has the ability to make men confront their own selves, which can be uncomfortable for them, leading to avoidance. Which is why they run and why relationships never work out for her.
Throughout the episode, Reka and J. Hall provide listeners with an engaging and thought-provoking dialogue that challenges preconceived notions about relationships, explores the dynamics between Black men and women, and encourages a deeper understanding of oneself and others.
- You can find J.Hall here.
- His Blog here.
- The episode of 'The Good Girl Podcast' we mention is here.
- The history of being Black; here.
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"I am intentional about not losing myself in my marriage." - Meg
(host) Reka, sits down with the inspiring Meg Watt to explore the dynamics of her decade-long relationship with her husband, Darrell. Through their conversation, they uncover valuable insights on building a healthy marriage, the importance of proper planning and strategy, and the need to embrace personal growth.
Meg begins by acknowledging the widespread desire many people have for the kind of fulfilling relationship she shares with Darrell. However, she highlights the unfortunate reality that most individuals fail to listen to her advice, missing out on the secrets to long-lasting-healthy love.
The journey of Meg and Darrell's relationship takes an unexpected turn early on when Darrell breaks up with Meg after two years. Meg candidly shares this experience, explaining that Darrell felt unprepared and uncertain about their future together. Reflecting on this challenging period, Meg emphasizes the significance of therapy in their reconciliation and subsequent reunion.
The podcast delves deeper into Meg's decision to give their relationship another chance despite her initial reservations about Darrell's previous breakup. Meg challenges the notion of holding onto an immature attitude and emphasizes the importance of personal growth and maturity in nurturing a strong bond.
Furthermore, Meg reveals the 'trauma plans' she and Darrell have implemented in their relationship. She sheds light on the significance of recognizing and addressing past traumas, emphasizing how this awareness contributes to a healthier and more resilient partnership.
Throughout the conversation, Meg shares her perspective on how individuals often normalize suppressing their own needs and desires, especially within the context of relationships. She encourages listeners to break free from this pattern, advocating for open communication and self-expression as essential ingredients for relationship growth.
Meg also touches upon the importance of empathy towards those who break up with us. She suggests that, that maybe these individuals (men) may have only experienced our unique type of love in their dreams and how overwhelming that can be for them. So having grace for ourselves in 'choosing wrong' and their choice to retreat is a crucial approach to our healing.
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"We have to stop internalizing people’s fruit inspection of us. - Tiyahri
In this podcast episode, my guest is Dr. Tiyahri Wilson and we explore the topic of preference when it comes to dating, specifically for Black women. We start off by discussing whether Eboni K. Williams is allowed to have her own preference and if Black women are allowed to be vocal about theirs. We also touch on Eboni's comment, "If he owns the bus," and whether men were too sensitive about her preference.
Dr. Tiyahri shares a quote that encourages people to stop internalizing others' opinions of them. Myself and Tiyahri also reveal whether WE would date a bus driver and while our preference isn't exactly aligned with Eboni's, we do express our support for her answer, her reasoning and more. Then we move on to the rebuttal made by Dr. Iyanla Vanzant about the criteria used to measure men being off, which sparks a conversation about the cultural push for marriage and motherhood and how it may maintain patriarchal control and dominance.
Dr. Iyanla Vanzant said: "The standards and the criteria we use to measure men are off, for who we are as women and who they are in this society.”
The conversation then turns to the difference between "finding love" or "falling in love" versus "choosing love." This episodes ends with us discussing the idea that as long as the competition is "I'm not gonna let you out love me," the marriage will work. Overall, the episode provides thought-provoking insights on preference, love, and the societal norms that surround relationships.
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In this episode of the podcast hosted by (Me) Reka Robinson with guest (life coach) Bryan Thomas, Bryan talks about his divorce and the lessons he learned from it. He explains why he was with her for a few years but only married for months and that when love is given with the intent to change instead of cover, problems arise. We discuss the concept "Love is meant to cover and not change, according to God." (1 Peter 4:8)
We also discuss the concept of loving blindly and how it can lead to problems. Bryan stresses the importance of finding someone who matches our values and needs. He also discusses his decision to remain single until he finds someone who matches his discipline. Bryan believes that we should stop giving potential partners the benefit of the doubt. They also talk about what marriage taught Bryan about women and himself. Finally, they delve into the difference between falling in love and choosing love.
- 16:47: "When love is given with the intent to change and not the intent to cover. That is where you will run into a problem. God never says that ‘love changes’ but he says ‘love covers." - Bryan
- 26:53: becoming the person that I’m called to become that is my responsibility, that is not the responsibility of the person I’m with. The thing that I’m asking you, is that when I make mistakes, will you hold my hand and say “I got you” as I’m elevating or are you going to push me to the side because maybe what you signed up for didn’t included the capacity to be able to handle the downside to the evolution that I’m bringing.
- 50:24: What did marriage teach him about women?
- 1:01:04: What did marriage teach him about himself? + “Falling in love vs. choosing love”.
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"Share what you want him to know and then allow him to ask the questions that go along with that." - Dr. Tiyahri Wilson. Find her here.
In this episode of the podcast hosted by (myself) Reka and mental health therapist Tiyahri, we dive deep into the societal pressure on women to measure their worth by marriage and kids (The Ashanti of it All). We discuss the harmful comments that are often directed towards unmarried women in their 40s and question why finding true love is not taught as an uncertain reality of life. We emphasize the importance of not measuring one's value by marriage and instead being careful about the way we perceive and understand this beautiful institution (around 14:46). Then of course we analyze MAFS (Married at First Sight. Season 16) couples, such as Jasmine and Airris, to understand what emotional unavailability looks like and whether the therapists on the show are ethical (around 25:50). Here is where Tiyahri defines "emotional unavailable" and we give tangible examples.
The podcast hosts also take a closer look at Kirsten and Shaq (around 44:45), discussing what it means to be extremely guarded and questioning why someone so shut down would go on a show like MAFS. They explore what "doing the work" looks like for someone who is guarded and provide advice on how to open up in a relationship. Additionally, the hosts discuss Dominique and Mackinley and analyze the way Dominique mishandled the situation (around 55:43). They question whether 25 is too young for marriage and discuss the importance of being honest about what one wants in a relationship. This podcast episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand societal pressures on women, emotional unavailability in relationships, and the intricacies of marriage.
"Ya'll really think that a Black women's hyper-independence (general speaking) is self imposed and that narrative is so tired. All these Black women are out here asking for help and expressing their needs, receiving nothing. That is what breeds hyper independence address that." - IG Streets. (around 19:14)
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The first 28 mins is my discussion with my friend Cameo King (of the Good Girl Podcast) about her experience on the Red Table (Talk).
The episode she was on is titled: How to Find and Keep a Healthy Relationship and you can listen to that here.
Then we get into the following;
- 28:10 When it comes to 'finding and keeping a healthy relationship' what did we learn from; Dating coach Matthew Hussey, author Stephan Labossiere, podcast host Lewis Howes and relationship advisor DeVon Franklin?
- 30:00 Masculine and Feminine is not real life.
- 31:08 Being a 1 dimensional feminine woman can be boring... here is why...
- 34:01 Again what is the difference between compromise and settling... I think we found our answer through Matthew Hussey.
- 36:54 Why is dating so fun and intentional in the beginning but 3, 6 months down the road he falls off?
- 39:00 I fear making the wrong decision yet again.
- 43:03 That masculine and feminine energy conversation puts people in boxes.
- 45:58 Seriously who am I dating? Ever dated a man who couldn't locate himself?
- 50:21 I can't heal this side of me until I get on the other side of a relationship.
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Lets all welcome my friend, Cameo King back to the show, you can find her here.
The snippets you hear in the "radio intro" are from the following episodes:
- S3: E2. How often are you trying to be someone your partner will like? Listen here.
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- (Part 1) Bryan on: creating a safe space for his wife. Listen here.
Jump off discussion is about "MAFS" up to episode 9. Points were made & topics were talked about;
- 3:11 Overall thoughts on Dominique and Mackinley for Cameo. Was Mackinley's response about never dating a Black woman a red flag? Will race play into their issues?
- 9:58 How I've switched from Dominique's side to now feeling sorry for Mackinley. Who is Cameo rooting for and why? Is there gaslighting going on?
- 13:45 Is Dominique over judging Mackinley's living situation? We assume her fear is that he is a moving target and not serious about marriage... are we correct?
- 16:26 If you were entering this MAFS situation do you 'slow burn' (treating it as a dating situation) or 'hard launch' (already treating it as a marriage)?
- 21:30 Is there a difference in his love for you if he WANTS to 'take out the trash' vs. him doing it just because you want him to? Is that part of the love languages?
- 24:31 How Dominique's actions are very childish and predictions.
- 27:48 Shaq & Kirsten is actually Cameo's favorite couple but why?
- 32:26 Is she crazy due to no pictures in her house? Is she really minimalist for real?
- 37:20 What is the difference between settling vs. compromising? Marriage requires personal sacrifice... but what does that mean?
- 47:33 How us believing men 'should just know' is at our detriment. We need to get better at emotionally expressing ourselves.
- 51:52 Predictions on Shaq & Kirsten.
- 53:25 Airris and Jasmine. The awkwardness & the drama. How Jasmine's attraction to Airris is blinding her.
- 56:22 Is Pastor Cal right, that Airris is feeling the pressure of having to have all the feelings for Jasmine because they are already married? Can he turn that around as time goes on?
- 01:00:00 Is Airris' cousin stepping over the line? Especially how she is treating Jasmine?
- 01:04:41 When we really like a guy and we are holding out hope, what is the limit? How long do we hold out hope?
- 1:07:14 Walking in uncertainty and being uncomfortable, as a phase, is that what we are to expect in a relationship?
- 1:15:00 Why I lean into the slow burn space. Why I hate words from men, especially in the beginning. (let's be clear I do want it later).
- 1:16:04 Our predictions on Airris and Jasmine. Will they stay married?
Statistic; "Married At First Sight" Has Matched 59 Couples So Far — 15 couples are living happily ever after since the cameras stopped rolling. That's 25.4% of staying married. LESS than finding someone to marry on your own. (source)
“Marriage requires a lot of personal sacrifice” - Pastor Cal
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Welcome to Season 3 of Single You the podcast. I started this podcast in August of 2020, thank you for every listen, every review, every DM & every share. You have helped me stay consistent.
Now let's get into the tea of S16 E5 & E6 of the reality show "Married at first sight": Marry Me in Tennessee, Nashville. What can we learn from the behaviors of these 3 couples? What behaviors do we not want to execute in our own dating lives?
Statistic; "Married At First Sight" Has Matched 59 Couples So Far — 15 couples are living happily ever after since the cameras stopped rolling. That's 25.4% of staying married. LESS than finding someone to marry on your own. (source)
Points were made;
- 2:56 Dominique & Mackinley. Are they really meant for each other? Red Flags we see.
- 4:52 How much is trying to change for someone at our detriment?
- 6:50 Do opposites truly attract? Is that a good or a bad thing?
- 11:32 How often do you try to be someone your partner will like?
- 14:39 Fast launch or slow burn when it comes to this show and making it to decision day.
- 16:52 Jasmine & Airris. Red flag that he's never been in love and he's 39?
- 26:10 Would Dr. T tell Jasmine to pack it up and go or wait it out?
More discussion on the following;
- How I see love very differently now at 39 vs. 22.
- What questions should we be asking about sex?
- Should we be that honest when it comes to our attraction to our partner?
- Shaquille & Kirsten. What does all that complaining mean for Shaq?
- Can attraction grow? Can we date someone long term we aren't attracted to?
- Why I no longer say "this is God" especially when it comes to men.
The first two seasons of “Single You” have been about the journey into a toxic, abusive relationship and the journey out and into healing. They served a specific purpose and those shows will always be there.
Now it’s time to pivot; I want to go on a journey of proving that a marriage can be healthy, people can be happy but it all depends on the truth we tell to ourselves and the work we do.
I speak to the Black woman of faith who desires to be married. Who wants to date with intention.
You can find Tiyahri on Instagram here.
At this time I am not coaching but My DM is always open! Find me on IG here.
- Twitter here.
- Facebook here.
- TikTok here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
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Welcome to Season 3 of Single You the podcast. I started this podcast in August of 2020, thank you for every listen, every review, every DM & every share. You have helped me stay consistent.
Now let's get into the tea of S16 E1 & E2 of the reality show "Married at first sight": Marry Me in Tennessee, Nashville. What can we learn from the behaviors of these 3 couples? What behaviors do we not want to execute in our own dating lives?
Points were made;
- 2:30 Are most married people miserable?
- 7:35 With dating and the way things are in 2023, do we still want to be married?
- 10:47 Why do we watch dating shows? These relationships never last.
- 16:35 Why would one sign up to marry someone at first sight?
- 18:52 Couple 1; Domynique/the old soul & Mackinley/The introverted dreamer. Overall thoughts on them as a couple and red flags we see.
- 22:04 Is 25 is too young, in 2023 is too young to be married?
- 24:18 Should you be thinking of marriage if you live with your best friends parents?
- 29:30 Our prediction of Domynique & Mackinley, staying married or divorcing at the end of the show.
Statistic; "Married At First Sight" Has Matched 59 Couples So Far — 15 couples are living happily ever after since the cameras stopped rolling. That's 25.4% of staying married. LESS than finding someone to marry on your own. (source)
- 30:05 Couple 2: Jasmine/Queen without a King & Airris//Reformed & ready for love. Overall thoughts on them as a couple and red flags we see.
- 33:10 How we feel about Airris' cousin.
- 35:00 Is it a red flag if a man says "I have a lack of witnessing traditional relationships" and is sleeping with someone 2 weeks before you get married on MAFS a red flag?
- 39:25 Our prediction of Jasmine & Airris, staying married or divorcing at the end of the show.
- 41:28 Couple 3; Kirsten/Ms. Great Expectations & Shaquille/The Devout Workaholic. Overall thoughts on them as a couple and red flags we see.
- 45:35 Is Shaq masculine enough for Kirsten?
- 49:15 It's her vain-ness for us. Yuck!
- 50:04 Can you stay with someone for the long haul, if you aren't attracted to him?
- 55:42 Relationships are NOT fantasy.
- 59:23 Our prediction of Kirsten & Shaq, staying married or divorcing at the end of the show.
The first two seasons of “Single You” have been about the journey into a toxic, abusive relationship and the journey out and into healing. They served a specific purpose and those shows will always be there.
Now it’s time to pivot; I want to go on a journey of proving that a marriage can be healthy, people can be happy but it all depends on the truth we tell to ourselves and the work we do.
I speak to the Black woman of faith who desires to be married. Who wants to date with intention.
You can find Tiyahri on Instagram here.
At this time I am not coaching but My DM is always open! Find me on IG here.
- Twitter here.
- Facebook here.
- TikTok here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
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On this episode, I speak with Dr. Tiyahri. She so graciously shares with us her story of growing up in the church. Being married young, in what she feels was an arranged marriage to strategically leaving her husband after 15 years. Why did she leave? Why does she feel the marriage was arranged? What was she strategic about and how? Let's talk.
- Intro: Did anyone have a conversation with her about what makes a healthy relationship vs. Unhealthy in the church before she got married?
- 6:13 We didn't even know to ask. Growing up on Bel-Air and the Huxtables and bridge we didn't know we needed to close.
- 8:49 How to keep your husband happy (what she heard from the church).
- 14:27 Why she felt she was in an arranged marriage.
- 25:30 Was she tired being his wife and wife of a minister?
- 37:20 Did she blame herself or him stepping outside of the marriage?
- 40:09 Church just taught me to cry out and leave it on the alter but therapy taught me...
- 48:24 What is a healthy marriage to her and is she dating?
- 52:50 In her professional opinion what are green flags? And It's ok to change your mind.
You can find Tiyahri on Instagram here.
At this time I am not coaching but My DM is always open! Find me on IG here.
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- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
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What about those moments we should leave but don't and why don't we? A conversation with Abundance Coach, Published Author, Creative and Art Director; Claudia Noriega-Bernstein.
Some great moments.
- 10:28; What do we need to unlearn "about love" from our parents?
- 23:58; When your "vibe" "energy" is off and your always scared is a great indicator to leave but we don't.
- 25:12; Other moment(s) we should leave but we don't.
- 32:27; How do you know if he loves you?
- 38:17; What is the difference between lust vs. love?
- 43:14; Communication is key but what does that mean?
- 45:10; How did religion affect the way you saw relationship negatively?
- 49:00; Life is about choice but should we be angry at God for those terrible relationship(s)?
*"I have dedicated the last twelve years of her life to empower people, especially children, and women. As a life/abundance coach, I have helped people from different backgrounds to discover and implement the full potential of their own creative powers for personal growth and self-healing.
Born in Peru; I come from a culture of taboos and beliefs that had not always empowered me to become what I believed was my calling. In the process of self-discovering, I fell in love with myself again and found my passion for helping others.
Giving back, paying forward, gratitude, and kindness are my pillars for a better world, and I credit them for inspiring my belief system and transforming my life." - Claudia*
You can find Claudia and buy her books at the following links;
- www.BrighterDaysBook.com
- Instagram: @Cindifreakinrella
- FB Page: @MyBloomingFamily
- Twitter: @Noriega_Clau
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake TikTok account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeReka_) Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here. Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
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Today's guest is Mel from the PreInternet Friend's Podcast. You can find him on IG here and his podcast here.
Flow of show;
- Has anyone ever had a conversation with you about what makes a healthy relationship vs. unhealthy?
- Not having those conversations… Was that at your detriment?
- You didn’t grow up in church — so how would you feel about dating a women who felt she could change you solely by praying for you? Do you feel sorry for women like Trinity?
- Would you ever advise a woman to continue to stay with a man she wasn’t happy with? Who continuously embarrassed her/broke her trust? Can a man like that change solely because she wants him to?
- Have you ever stayed too long in a relationship— hoping she’d change? If you worked harder? If you love her harder?
- What should be the cut off?
- Back drop: loyalty is #1 on most Men’s list for a woman - what does loyalty look like to you in this situation? do you have the same expectations for yourself to her? What does loyalty look like in general and explain.
- How did you view relationships/love (20s) vs. how do you view relationship/love now? (35+)
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
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Honk for Jesus. Save Your Soul. is a 2022 American dark comedy-drama film written, directed, and produced by Adamma Ebo, in her feature directorial debut, and is a feature-length adaptation of Ebo's 2018 short film of the same name. Starring Sterling K. Brown and Regina Hall.
This movie has SUCH A LOUD message and I want to discuss. So coming up next week, I ask my homeboy Jay... who didn't grow up in church the following;
- Has anyone ever had a conversation with you about what makes a healthy relationship vs. unhealthy?
- Not having those conversations… Was that at your detriment?
- You didn’t grow up in church — so how would you feel about dating a women who felt she could change you solely by praying for you? Do you feel sorry for women like Trinity?
- Would you ever advise a woman to continue to stay with a man she wasn’t happy with? Who continuously embarrassed her/broke her trust? Can a man like that change solely because she wants him to?
- Have you ever stayed too long in a relationship— hoping she’d change? If you worked harder? If you love her harder?
- What should be the cut off? When do you leave said relationship?
- How did you view relationships/love (20s) vs. how do you view relationship/love now? (35+)
Leaving you with this scripture;
And so he did only a few miracles there because of their unbelief (Matthew 13:58)
If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet. (Matthew 10:14)
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
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Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
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Flow of show:
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Yes, single can be loud but let's discuss.... How do you manage being single? How do you manage being alone a lot?
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Question from DM.
I was sharing scenario of why I’m single to a non believing relative and some church friends … one said “opposites attract, so where your put together be prepared to fill in his gaps” while another argued “science” says that “like attracts like, so you will always pull broken brothers because your broken”- I honestly was stuck to think, this is how people see me??? Damned either way. I’m not perfect, but I surely am not broken, I’m on a journey to be better and heal to be ready and equipped in my authenticity nor will I be codependent for someone either.. have you ever been pigeon holed with these statements & how do you respond?
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Are you 'dating' and what are you running into as of late while dating. Plus the question I've been asked by a man that I've never been asked before.
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What do you think single women have to give up once they get married/have kids?
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.
Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
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Angie Martinez IRL Podcast | We're All Gonna Die: Lauren London. Click here.
Check out episode 49. Titled: How can we be so confident in our professional life but not in the lane of relationship? Click here.
Check out episode 50. Titled: Anwar on: If you were raised to be a daughter instead of a woman, then re-parenting yourself is a necessary step to your healing and love journey! Click here.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake TikTok account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeReka_)
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Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.
Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
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Excellence comes from order > which brings peace.
"In the Bible no one is called your blessing unless they have the power to produce well-being in you and are deeply connected to you in faith and social bond". - God's wisdom for navigating life by Timothy and Kathy Keller
You are going to have to decide, do you want what the word has been offering you for the rest of your life or do you want to see what Gods got for you, like for real? Not the level you're settling for cause God loves you regardless but if you want more peace, the peace that is promised from God. You have work to do.
- 10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly. John 10:10-29
- 10 For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost.” Luke 19:10
Let's reverse engineer this thang and start from with in instead of outside of you. Seeking the attention of men.
- Listen to episode 43. Lanaya on: What does a God fearing man even mean... look like? Plus how it may be causing you to be mishandled by men consistently. Click here.
- Listen to episode 43.2. Becoming her; a woman who holds herself accountable to future you... the woman you say you want to be! Click here.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
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New to me? My name is Reka and I work with Women of Faith: READY for guidance on KEEPING boundaries & getting over the shame of constantly being mishandled by men.
Listen to 59. I don't believe a lot of Women Of Faith know what love truly is.... here
Listen to episode 60. Lu'Cretia on: I thought that if I did girlfriend things then 'he' who I dated would eventually choose to be with me. Part 1 here and Part 2 here.
Also the episode with my former client Nikkita is titled; Having shame as a professional Black woman who's single and constantly being mishandled by men (her testimonial of SYA). and you can listen here.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
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Episode to listen to next: 29 Titled: Theresa on: waiting until marriage to have sex is that the ONLY way I can get a lasting marriage? Does Jesus teach that? Click Here.
Also episode 31. Titled: Why praying hasn't gotten you a good man (yet). Click Here.
Hit me up for the next episode you should listen to after episode 31!
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
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Intro to Jalencia
- :50 Did anyone have a conversation with her about what makes a healthy relationship vs. unhealthy? No and how that affected her dating life.
- 2:20 I (Jalencia) was dating to just date and how that set her up for dysfunction.
- 5:08 How did Jalencia find me and why she decided to spend the money to join Single You Academy.
- 14:13 Why did SYA work for you and advice didn't? The homework and I was ready to face myself.
- 19:00 How Jalencia handled assignments inside of SYA and 2 jobs.
- 21:35 How the self love work is different inside of Single You Academy regardless if you've heard the advice/guidance before.
- 23:13 How Jalencia has changed and learned boundaries all because of our time together.
- 25:43 How Jalencia established a healthy relationship with her now boyfriend while working with me (Reka). What she did differently this time around vs. what she did in her past that got her into dysfunctional relationships.
- 29:30 How did her now boyfriend receive all the questions she had for him?
- 32:10 How did she approach him? Attitude and demands or sweet and with grace? What questions did he ask her?
- 34:29 Sometimes doing 'the work' causes you to have to cut off friends. How did Jalencia handle that?
- 40:30 What was the most honest realization about herself? Her biggest growth and how long did it take her to start seeing a change in herself after joining Single You Academy. Plus how did her relationship with God change.
- 47:01 How she is continuing to do the work now that she's done with Single You Academy.
- 52:53 Jalencia on why you should join SYA.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
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- 00:00 A good man isn't running around screaming that he wants a submissive woman.
- 6:27 My abstinence journey, Chris' respect and the ebs and flows of handling it when it gets hard.
- 22:48 Alpha Vs. Beta man. The difference and the definition.
- 41:04 Our influence over men but how we're using it wrong.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Doors Close June 5, 2022
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Doors Close June 5, 2022
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- Intro to Chris. You can find him here. And grab his TikTok swag here.
- 4:11 Did anyone have a conversation with you about what makes a healthy relationship vs unhealthy? How we've normalized dysfunction
- 6:40 How religion affected him positively and negatively when it came to dating.
- 9:20 Women don't know what a God fearing man is a real man.
- 18:10 So what is a real man?
- 23:10 Chris on his dating history and drama with women. His savior complex.
- 33:25 Stop confusing men.
- 35:30 Spirit of fear over having babies.
- 39:08 He who finds a wife finds a good thing... may have you moving with a negative mindset.
- 47:17 Holding myself accountable to the woman I say I want to be and only presenting myself to the man I say that I want.
--- to be continued.
Other episodes we mentioned. Bryan's episode.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Doors Close June 5, 2022
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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---- Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Doors Close June 5, 2022
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
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---- If you haven't listen to Part 1 with Bryan, I suggest you do that first. It would just make more sense sis. Go here.
In this episode with Bryan we pick right up where he was discussing how he should have never gotten revenge on is first wife. Which made his now wife (then girlfriend) question his character and ask a lot of deep ass discerning questions of him...
- 3:47 Bryan explains, It's ok to talk about your ex and that experience in your new budding relationship but there is a limit.
- 12:36 Handling phone triggers and those conversations.
- 18:45 Approaching new relationships with hard conversations
Spoiler Alerts for The Ultimatum Season 1 and Temptation Island Season 6
- 25:21 'The Ultimatum' (Netflix) and our take on the relationship between Ray and Zay
- 36:25 Kendall and Erica of 'Temptation Island' (Peacock) and our take on the relationship.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Doors Close June 5, 2022
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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---- Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Doors Close June 5, 2022
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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----- You can connect with Bryan here. The conversation I had with Dai here.
Intro.
- 1:05 There isn't enough Good men talking about their healthy relationships (with their wife).
- 4:15 How were you thinking about dating and marriage leading up to meeting Dai... at Starbucks
- 15:11 What was said and/or what was the vibe for you to even think Dai was your wife?
- 20:54 Men should speed up and women slow down when it comes to dating.
- 25:41 What kinds of question did you ask Dai to get to know her and show her interest?
- 27:04 Why is masculine energy bad for women?
- 32:05 Was Bryan ever intimidated by Dai?
- 35:40 Did Dai help him start his healing journey?
- 40:25 Men don't operate from the emotional space (especially if they don't do the work) but we grown now and I'll never take that excuse again.
- 41:43 Dai asked the questions that made Bryan become. What was those hard questions?
... to be continued to next week!
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Doors Close June 5, 2022
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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Next week we'll talk to Bryan, my friend Dai's husband. She's been on the show before you can listen here. Bryan will be discussing how he created a safe space for Dai even before she was his wife. :-)
------ More information on Single You Academy Here.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Doors Close June 5, 2022
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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In Part 2 of my conversation with Lu'Cretia we talk about ghosting, the times of feeling lonely and how we stay on that path of not fumbling our boundaries.
- 00:00 How do you handle ghosting?
- 4:00 Is Russell really corny?
- 8:25 What did Lu'Cretia do to transform her mind?
- 10:15 Stop taking advice from people who aren't living how you actually want to live.
- 12:25 How is Lu'Cretia to stay on the path of not fumbling her boundaries?
- 15:00 How we're quick with cutting me off.
- 19:07 How is Lu'Cretia handling the nights of feeling lonely?
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Doors Close June 5, 2022
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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New to me? I suggest starting here:
- 57.From back-to-back dysfunctional relationships,to my solo trip to Mexico... to finally becoming the woman I said I wanted to be! How'd I do it? (Conference)
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- How can we be so confident in our professional life but not in the lane of relationship? (Kasia Interviews Reka)
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- If you were raised to be a daughter and not a woman, then re-parenting yourself is necessary for your healing.
Can you relate to Lu'Cretia's truth (title of this episode) ??
Today we go deeper on what Lu'Cretia's journey has been to her beautiful awakening and self love path.
- Intro
- 1:00: Lu'Cretia says that her Dad (more so) would tell her about the bad things that men can/will do.
- 3:00 Men weren't necessary and option.
- 4:30 Doing girlfriend things hoping he'll pick me.
- 6:00 I knew my value but I went about it the wrong way of tying to get a man to see it.
- 8:20 Having walls up to protect myself but it attracted emotionally unavailable men.
- 11:00 Not being able to admit "I want a man" which is causing dysfunction in your dating life.
- 14:16 We focus on professional development so much but don't focus on personal development
- 14:50 It's not bitterness, it's hopelessness. "he's not even out there".
- 18:10 How is Lu'Cretia dating today?
... to be continued next week!
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Doors Close June 5, 2022
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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Cause the way you (old me) be dishing out love, I can tell you have zero idea what it means! Not in the way Jesus wants us to love and be loved.
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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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You will either have a year of excuses or a year of.... I DID THAT!!!!!!
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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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For those of you who are just finding me and you haven't been able to hear my full story yet. Well here it is, I did this speech in 2019 at a conference called; Inspired. It was a woman empowerment event and I asked the audience full of women, who's your mirror? Society? Men? Your kids? Your parents? I challenge you to make YOU your only mirror..
The Reka I was was in 2017 and before: my issue was thinking that how men saw me (mirror) was correct. You see I thought, I couldn’t see myself and only other people could see how I was coming off. God forbid I come off as a cheater and I wasn’t.... or a 'bad' girlfriend and I wasn't. I was looking in the wrong mirror. Instead of questioning ‘why do they always think I’m in the wrong’ (projection) I always blamed me.. for them not being happy or cheating. Unfortunately, I was a target for insecure men and didn't know it. I had no idea what I was doing in these dating streets. So passed up a lot of red flags (when you know better you do better) and dating insecure men is the opposite of guarding your heart. Insecure men will do 1 of 2 things; abuse you or leave you.
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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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If you’re new to me. Here is what you need to know… I’m REALLY good at helping women shift their mindset around being single. I also need you to know that I’m not an expert in God. I just know what I’m experiencing in my relationship with God. So I hope that this conversation I have with my friend Cameo encourages you to lean into your relationship with God. My constant goal is to figure out ways to introduce relationship with God differently to the woman of faith, who knows that the 'church' failed her... which in the end caused you to see yourself as 'less than' because you're single. To the woman who has a lot of frustration around men and dating... we have got to get away from the ways of society and religion and get into figuring out who we actually are.
- 00:00 I'm not here to tell you want you're doing is right or wrong. I'm just here to make you think and I pray he leads you to having a deeper relationship with God.
- 8:00 Do you just know Jesus? Or do you believe in Jesus? (Do you believe in Jesus vs. Do you actually BELIEVE Jesus)
- 14:46 Praise breaks are cute but that's not gonna heal your trauma. Correction = suppressing your trauma through praise breaks does not equate to healing. Posted by Jay Barnett.
- 15:14 How come we don't talk about unanswered prayers? What about the girl who was told at 12 to pray for your husband and she's 45 and still not married?
- 16:48 Not cultivating a relationship with God.
- 18:40 How we feel when people just say 'pray about it'.
- 21:15 Is there a such thing as unanswered prayers?
- 31:05 Why do we want a husband?
- 35:35 Do you hear God say no? What does God saying no look like to you?
- 50:00 Is God still good to you if you don't get the husband?
- 57:20 "she" said her biggest fear is that she'd be a woman who is not married and with out kids.
Listen to part 2 over on The Good Girl Podcast.
- What does it mean to say I want Gods will.
- When we say we want a husband... I bet we mean more of 'this' we're just not honest.
- Our thoughts on Devon Franklin & Megan Good
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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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Let's talk the tinder-swindler (on Netflix)
What I wrote on Facebook....
"I wonder why all the commentary I see on the “Tinder-Swindler” is all about how stupid the girls are/were and NOT about how evil the man was? Rhetorical.
Ps. Some of you want your girls to be married so badly but give her ZERO schooling on what love actually is. She’s out here already believing at 12 that when a boy says “I love you” … he means it."
What Skyy B. wrote on Facebook...
"My thing is on most days the rhetoric is that todays women don't know how to support a man, too independent, etc. However extremely naive these women were they also believed that this man who had shown them a nice time was in danger and they tried to help. Extremely naive, foolish, etc. I realize not everyone has the same life experiences that we do that make us ultra on alert and can smell bs immediately upon arrival.
There's A LOT of women, hell even us, they may not have been swindled out of cash directly but definitely swindled out of time, love, panties, you name it for men we thought we really took real time to know!!
They definitely gotta take the L tho because I think they did it not only because they thought he had it to return but also because they wanted to be chosen by this billionaire. They fell for the dream of the lifestyle. So there's that truth too."
So let's discuss... in this episode. Reach Skyy here.
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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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Listen... we get so bitter and upset about being treated poorly and we don’t realize once we stop fumbling our boundaries being treated poorly significantly minimizes.
So really what’s on the other side of doing the work?
- Knowing exactly who you are
- Showing up as you in every room
- Having the audacity to believe you can get what you want. Which equals you being able to walk away from a man who isn’t right for you. The first time you feel that.
Can you honestly say with a straight face that you are that woman? The woman you actually want to be, are you her?
If you're saying; I know that I need the change but I need direction on that... that's my constant prayer for direction on how to change. Then let's get you signed up for Single You Academy.
Cause now you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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I speak to faith based women, especially Black women who grew up in church. So I absolutely suggest that you listen to this episode before or after this episode about abstinence.
In this episode Skyy B. (my friend and Howard sister) speaks on her journey with abstinence.... twice... 7 years... twice and how the first time didn't really change her behaviors with men or stop the frustration or pain. She explains why. On your journey think about; the woman that you want to be, how can she show up in your behaviors? We also discuss; our grandparents before us got married in their teens... do we have to? The sex shame... 'God is mad at me' because I didn't wait.... plus Valentine's has passed, did you 'slip' up? If you did... we discuss why. Reach Skyy here.
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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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The continued discussion on... do men say "there are no good women out there". What is their frustration with women?
- 1:40 Men say "she won't let me be the man".
- 2:20 Explaining what emasculating him looks like.
- 8:42 Men are sensitive... human...
- 12:58 What is a husband... what do you want?
- 14:14 Is there a level of seeing 'where is this going' with him? Or is that wasting time...
- 19:00 The narcissism word... and is he truly one just because he got angry?
- 22:50 Not judging the situation so much. His character and your actions.
- 23:45 Adjusting his level of access to me (you).
- 26:10 Giving men grace but not to my (your) detriment anymore.
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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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Today in this bonus episode I tackle a question I got via this TikTok video.. "I know the root cause but how do I stop now that I know?" Great question and I answer it today on this episode and the visual from TikTok is here.
Plus I tackle this question I got due to that same video... "How can I help someone who does this (consistently choose men who aren't interested in them)? The visual of this answer from TikTok is here.
Notes on my last answer...
There is no universal "right way" to "do" a relationship. Your blueprint to a healthy relationship lies in you. Make the investment of time and money to figure YOU out.
I reference episode 50 here and 39 here in this episode.
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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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So I had to bring my Bison sister back to discuss the #1 thing I see/hear women say. Ce Anderson is a Licensed therapist, wellness & trauma recovery expert. You can check her practice out here.
Did we really miss out on a good man? Are they gone... or do we have some growing up and re-evaluating to do?
- 1:29 Are there really no good men? And why do we say that?
- 4:08 Who am I attracting and how are they different from what I say I want?
- 5:05 Not allowing the desires and the fantasy to diminish what you're seeing (for said man).
- 6:49 Are we even mentally ready to date?
- 8:35 How should men be maneuvering in dating. What does Ce tell her male clients?
- 12:27 We will say "well yea, he said he didn't want a girl but he treated me as such...". Holding ourselves accountable and having our own standards.
- 14:23 Scenarios with men 1. He says he doesn't want a girl | 2. He says that but also treats you as his girl. How do we handle this, especially when 2 happens? Do men say, "there are no good women out there."
- 15:20 Discussion on scenario 1. What level of access should we give him?
- 21:30 Why do we ignore that gut feeling?
- 23:16 Discussion on scenario 2. Dealing with ghosting, especially after you were really feeling him.
- 26:00 A break up is not a loss. Mentioned Meagan Good and Devon Franklin.
- 35:20 Discussion on "do men say "there are no good women out there". What is their frustration with women?
...... cont. to next week!!
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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
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Seriously, I guess I 'made it' whatever that means but I have an imposter. Will the "real Reka please stand up" and that's ME! NOT @justmeRekaa (with the double aa) on instagram. please go REPORT that person. I don't do readings, nor do I say things like "grand rising" in real life!! :-)
Plus on this bonus episode...
- Why you can say you want to stop being mishandled by men, know why you allow it (root cause) and yet you're still in that cycle.
- Who I am as a coach, who I coach and a snapshot of what Single You Academy is.
- Please leave a review.
Here is the TikTok video that went viral.
Listen to episode 41. Titled; Stacey on: A cautionary-tale for women. What can happen if your money mindset and actions aren't right before dating.
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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
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Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
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This episode is Part 2 of last week's episode with Anwar. I recommend listening to that episode first and then come back to this one.
So let's talk... is not being in a relationship a failure? Why do we see a single woman and automatically think... what's wrong with her?
- 0:00 Love overachieving, Anwar's definition. Is love a game or not? (Listen to his full episode here)
- 4:35 Most people are not themselves when they are dating. Love is not an audition.
- 6:00 How the awards we get as a little affect how we view relationships.
- 11:45 How the scarcity mindset in love is affecting you your life. Are you truly never going to find your man?
- 19:58 Are you the nice girl, hard girl or hurt girl? (Listen to Anwar's full episode here)
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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
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Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
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A discussion with Dating & Relationship coach, Anwar White.
- 0:00 Introduction of Anwar and how he became a coach.
- 4:34 Why are we failing in this lane of relationships? #1 reason
- 7:23 How we judge men and don't accept. Unfortunately it causes us to put 'him' on a pedestal.
- 14:00 How our parents didn't teach us how to be a woman and emotional available to our 'men'.
- 17:11 Being passive aggressive is at our detriment.
- 19:00 What I had to re-parent for myself. With men and my parents.
- 22:00 How loyalty as a child affects our loyalty to men who don't deserve it.
- 25:11 Not having the audacity to believe we can actually get a loving, fruitful, flourishing and fulfilling relationships
- 25:30 How no one asks you what you want and need as a daughter. You're just asked to do... 'manage the household'.
- 28:22 Getting into love over acheiving and the SYA waitlist.
- End; becoming a wise woman to re-parent yourself and to stop this cycle of dysfunction with men.
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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
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Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
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In this episode the tables have been turned and I get interviewed. We tackle....
- 0:00 From her series titled; from timid to confidence. Kasia Brandford (find her here) has asked me to share my story and how/why I become the "single girls life coach".
- 6:45 How easy or difficult is it to know that you're in an emotionally abusive relationship when you're in a long-distance relationship?
If you already heard my story skip to....
- 9:45 Professional confidence. How can we be so confident in one area and not in others?
- 12:54 Performing Happy. What happens to our confidence when we're in performance mode?
- 14:35 When you went to Mexico (solo trip) and you started doing 'the work'. What was some of the first things you came to realize about yourself?
- 17:13 How we're actually creating all the dysfunction in our lives with men... we have more control than we think or know how to execute.
- 18:35 What are some of the first things (self care) you started to do after your Mexico trip?
- 21:20 Is your relationship with God ...is that work part of your coming back to your relationship with you? Or is a relationship with God and a relationship with yourself the same?
- 23:15 What are some things you recommend for people to do to get over shame?
- 26:55 How do we develop the confidence to set and keep a boundary?
- 34:16 Mental gymnastic and getting discouraged because of negative thoughts.
- 37:06 What is the biggest lie that you once believed?
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
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Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
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In this episode we tackle...
- 00:00 Ugh I had covid and intro of Cameo King. Host of the "Good Girl Podcast".
- 5:00 How do we slow down the dating process.
Question...
Yeah -one thing I’m like really battling with.. when it comes to dating... is being able to separate my heart from it. Because I be taking men way too deeply sometimes. Any tips when it comes to that I guess?
- 6:03 It's not about your heart, it's about the men you're dealing with.
- 10:35 We're looking for a magic bullet to fix our relationship life that doesn't exist.
- 16:13 Why sex is off the table for me.
- 18:43 How we date with our heart or not.
- 21:31 We only allow disrespect with men we like.
- 32:57 This prescribed version of a good woman we're falling for.
- 35:12 Men who shy away from questions are hiding something.
- 36:12 How can 'he' actually love and care for me if he's not...
- 37:49 I want to be loved correctly and here is how.
- 39:00 Working through that fear that he'll leave.
- 43:38 Words vs. actions vs. having both.
- 46:21 There is a difference in dating a man who wants a relationship and wants to be married vs. a man that doesn't.
- 48:00 The pressure to get it right because we're women of faith.
- 54:30 Yes God hates divorce which is why there are steps we have to stop skipping before we get married.
- 59:00 We all need help. Therapy. A mentor and/or a coach.
- 1:02:20 Dating without fear and what that looks like.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
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In this episode we tackle...
- How did you feel about Issa ending up with Lawrence? My thoughts...
- Review Shout out.
- I didn’t just let time pass (because it wouldn't have transformed me)... here is what I mean.
- I didn’t just use my insight to change (because it wouldn't have transformed me)... here is what I didn't instead.
- The Power of Now.
- Poem.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
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- :00 Introducing Keetra
- 3:58 Did your (pastor) parents have a conversation with her about what makes a healthy relationship?
- 9:46 Why she stayed in her 15 year marriage.
- 10:57 How 'church' and 'church folk' didn't help.
- 14:00 After her divorce the fog cleared and here's why.
- 18:15 Why Keetra signed up for Single You Academy (SYA).
- 28:04 How reading before you're ready won't help you.
- 31:02 How SYA is actually helping her son as well.
- 37:27 Did you know Maya Angelou's quote but still allowed a man to treat you like trash?
- 46:30 How the tools she got from SYA is still showing up in her life, after she completed the program.
- 51:59 Setting boundaries and more on what SYA will teach you.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots. How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
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Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
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- 0:00 "We can also ruin good men if we don't hold true to our values and boundaries" - What does Lanaya mean by that?
- 0:50 If you (women) have the power to help (men) we also have the power to hinder.
- 3:10 How we ruin me (Lanaya on possibly ruining her boyfriend before he become her husband).
- 4:00 He can only be helped by us, not changed.
- 8:50 How my little cousin met her husband and he had to rise to her standards.
- 13:50 Not every 'good man' is for you.
- 17:55 do you want to be divided in your devotion to God and you vs God and your husband/kids. Where does that leave you sis?
- 20:38 I don't need someone to teach me how to be single.
- 24:25 Getting out the speak in your eye and clearly seeing yourself.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots. How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
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Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
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- 0:00 Is self love biblical and what is the definition of self love?
- 4:30 Scripture to bak up self love.
If the home is worthy, let your peace rest on it; but if it is not, let your peace return to you. And if anyone will not welcome you or head your words, shake the dust off your feet when you leave that home. - Mathew 10:13 & 14
- 5:39 Jesus knew who he was but do you?
- 8:23 A man won't full-fill your loneliness but purpose will.
- 10:13 Marriage does not kill loneliness. "Marriage is a result of your purpose but not your purpose".
- 17:30 What discipline are you? It may help with your purpose.
- 23:20 How Jesus definitely 'self cared' and wasn't hanging out with all 12 disciples.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots. How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com || My DM is always open!
Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
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I know this lane of relationships has caused you a lot of frustration and pain.
And right now you’re at your wits-end and have promised yourself that you will never again allow a man to disrespect you, mishandle you –nor will you give your heart that fast. You’ve professed that 2022 is the year of you in the name of ‘self love’.
There are so many dreams in your life that lay dormant. I remember when I was where you were and I thought “damn I’d probably be so much further in life if I didn’t put so much energy in men”. The money, time and years I spent with men that actually didn’t love me. Sometimes it still makes me cry.
So I want to encourage you sis. You can do it but you’re gonna need to use 2022 intentionally. Don’t let time pass without the courage and confidence to face yourself. Hold you accountable and recognize your fear… shame, and anxiety around being single. Because you’re the common denominator.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots. How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
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She was also on Episode 5 of Season 2. Here is her last episode, titled; Lanaya on: her happy marriage, waiting until 'he' becomes something and staying after he cheats.. Lanaya is happily married, holds a lot of wisdom on dating and she’s a coach inside of Single You Academy.
- 0:00 Who is Lanaya and how long she's been happy and beautifully married.
- 2:03 Ministry for 22 years and being a preachers kid.
- 2:40 What do we mean when we say "I want a God fearing man"... it's surface level.
- 3:11 Defining the word fear aka "God fearing" and "fearing the Lord".
- 4:05 Reading the bible in harmony.
- 5:25 Him not worshipping God the way we do as women; "Principals don't change but methods do".
- 7:30 What past me thought "God fearing" meant and salvation.
- 11:42 Proverbs 31 woman... what does that mean? Why do we call ourselves that? Or want to be that? (Proverbs 14:26)
- 17:12 Do we want to be married for all of the accolades and praise that come with it?
- 19:23 What did Lanaya write out for what she wanted in a man? Here are top 3.
- 22:03 Look for the answer to your standards or the counterfeit to those standards. Instead of passing up red flags. "We can ruin a good man by not allowing God to finish making him".
- 27:00 Fighting a man to wait to have sex with you.
- 30:25 How well has dating to society's standards and pressures been working out for you?
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots. How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com || My DM is always open!
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Bonus episode because I wanted to tell you 5 things.
- Tapping into yourself trust. Mindset > behaviors > frustration with men.
- Can I help you? I'd like to BUT you say:"Surely I don’t need to talk to anyone about being single because I’ve been doing it for a while” – yet look at your track record with men sis? Plus you have a call on your spirit that something needs to change. Plus how SYA helps you get to the root and change your mindset on being single, faith and dating.
- Thank you to my new listener(s). I love you. Leave a review I have a goal of 100 reviews in 2022.
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Coming up on Thursday, it’ll kick off a 3 part series with my cousin Lanaya. Here is her last episode, titled; Lanaya on: her happy marriage, waiting until 'he' becomes something and staying after he cheats.. Lanaya is happily married, holds a lot of wisdom on dating and she’s a coach inside of Single You Academy.
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December 16th = God fearing
- December 23rd = is self love biblical?
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December 30th = We can also ruin good men if we don’t hold true to our values and boundaries.
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If you ever have a question– DM me.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots. How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com || My DM is always open!
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Nikita on: What Single You Academy gave her that advice from friends couldn't! She's a former client and this is her testimony.
Today I'm so honored to have another client of mine discuss her journey through Single You Academy. Watching a clients growth will never get old. I'm so in love with her story.
Who is Nikita;
- 7:40 What she was saying to herself to not hire me (the thing a lot of us Black women say).
- 8:34 Why Nikita hired me.
- 12:36 Paul's biblical teachings about singleness | Black Church toxicity.
- 14:10 What parents didn't teach us.
- 15:43 Having shame as a professional Black woman who's single and constantly being mishandled.
- 19:10 Being a high achieving Black Woman and constantly being mishandled.
- 20:32 What does Nikita means by; you said SYA taught you to unlearn, to relearn.
- 22:52 Women of Faith falling into the trap of being 'kind'.
- 25:53 I want a man with good Character! What does that look like for Nikita?
- 29:40 Her pattern with men (which is yours too).
- 33:29 The love scripture, what does it actually mean? Especially love is patient?
- 44:44 My purpose with abstinence.
- 43:30 If sex was the thing to 'keep a man' then...
- 47:52 Why you need to drop the shame and hire a coach aka join SYA.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots. How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com || My DM is always open!
Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
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Stacey is a 54 year old woman passionate about educating women in money. Throughout her life she has always stood up for what she believes in and questioned everything. As she weaves her own unique tapestry of life she has overcome many struggles and learned valuable lessons. She is excited to share those lessons with you today, around both relationships and money confidence.
- Intro; who Stacey is? From her Husband > Boyfriend > Husband all who have left her financially struggling.
- 7:50 prince charming isn't coming. Snag the book here.
- 12:56 what submit means.
- 22:13 would a conversation have helped you stop this cycle of relationships?
- 23:30 the shame of being single.
- 31:23 why you shouldn't move in together.
- 37:00 staying because we feel bad.
- 39:33 not falling for his sob story.
- 45:06 hitting rock bottom in life and relationships.
- 45:55 do we really know what love is?
- 56:26 whatever area you're ignorant in you will suffer in.
You can email Stacey here: wealthandwomen@gmail.com
"Single You Academy helped me fall in love with myself by doing the work in this particular area. This has been an area of my life that caused me a lot of frustration and pain. Now I feel like I can confidently say that I love myself and show up in that in fullness." - Nikita
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots. How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com || My DM is always open!
Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
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Happy Thanksgiving!! Decided to drop a day early. Enjoy!!
Today's Guest: Candyce (Ce) Anderson, LPC Licensed therapist. She can be reached here: https://ceandersonlive.com
- 4:57: Prepare yourself for that which you hope to manifest (a Russell Wilson type). Why? So you can honor, grow it and keep it. How do we prepare?
- 10:17 break down Future and Russell as alpha and beta.
- 12:30 How Black women were raised that could affect your dating.
- 14:06 When you're desiring a man to take charge, who you need to be
- 16:11 Things we need to work on to get the love Russell (we assume) has for Ciara?
- 23:53 How we get hurt in dating? By abandoning yourself.
- 28:33 Breaking is actually a win not a failure.
- 30:16 Dating insecure men and what I learned from myself because of it.
- 35:12 What abandoning myself for your man looked like for me.
- 35:48 How women can be toxic.
- 37:38 Cheating.
- 43:30 When you address the elephant in your relationship, the skeletons in your closet and your deepest fears Jada and Will will trigger you less. What we can learn from Will & Jada.
- 1:08:10 Finding it difficult to date, what can you do?
- 1:10:10 Mother's that raise 'these' men.
- 1:11:27 Generational curses we put on ourselves.
- 1:13:48 What can you do to heal? What does doing 'the work' look like?
"Single You Academy helped me fall in love with myself by doing the work in this particular area. This has been an area of my life that caused me a lot of frustration and pain. Now I feel like I can confidently say that I love myself and show up in that in fullness." - Nikita
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots. How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com My DM is always open!
Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
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FYI; in this episode we cuss. :-)
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Love & Loyalty. What it means to do the 'work' and finally be happy single. Plus we'll mention what we can learn from DaniLeigh and DaBaby.
Let's talk... a conversation with my cousin DJ!
"Single You Academy helped me fall in love with myself by doing the work in this particular area. This has been an area of my life that caused me a lot of frustration and pain. Now I feel like I can confidently say that I love myself and show up in that in fullness." - Nikita
Now, suppose you are ready to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots. How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me boundaries or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com My DM is always open!
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Could your view of love/relationships be underdeveloped, over fantasized, over spiritualized and toxic??
God is not going to gift you, show you, provide you a man just cause you prayed for him. It's like the woman with the issue of blood. She wanted to be healed so she did the work of finding Jesus and knowing all she had to do was touch the hem of his garment and she would be healed. There is work you have to do amongst having faith. It's "both and".... have faith but faith without works is dead... so what work on your doing on yourself to get the man you pray for? Where is your wise council, what books are you reading and what is it about you that got into a relationship you had no business being in? We can not be trying to make a Future into a Russell. We have to start with a Russell as the foundation. Men, people are who they are not who you want or pray them to be.
Ciara did work. Russell did work. See here: Red Table Talk
Last conversation I had about Will & Jada.
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So who am I?
Hi 🙋🏽♀️ I’m Reka the founder of Single You the Podcast and creator of Single You Academy.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances, stop that cycle by helping you learn how to keep boundaries and feel confident about being single.
If you want to learn more about how I can support you… check out Single You Academy here or DM me and I’ll send you more details.
- Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com || Wait list to Single You Academy is open now.
My DM is always open!
XO Reka
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I have a lot of clients who have a therapist while working with me and/or before they worked with me. I always ask why and here are a few of their answers. There is a difference, not better or worse and I define it on this episode.
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Let's talk...
So who am I?
Hi 🙋🏽♀️ I’m Reka the founder of Single You the Podcast and creator of Single You Academy.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances, stop that cycle by helping you learn how to keep boundaries and feel confident about being single.
If you want to learn more about how I can support you… check out Single You Academy here or DM me and I’ll send you more details.
- Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com I’m accepting applications into Single You Academy until November 7th.
My DM is always open! XO Reka
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When I asked this question on Facebook a woman left me a comment saying "well my motto is don't date and you'll never be hurt" ... I cringe at that motto. I also have empathy because I know it's coming from a place of pain.
For those that still desire a husband (my clients) - for me, it’s beyond the bitterness and the pain men left behind for me to crawl out of. Now, I’m looking more and more at my fruit and how my learnings are executing in my life. I moved past just being inspired.
Sis. The moment I realized that confidence had to show up in my actions. Everything with men changed for me.
We collectively HAVE got to stop running around trying to BE in a relationship. So blindly and violently failing at being single and then in relationships.
“Some people are with people because they don't like themselves enough". - Pastor Dharius Daniels
So how will you make your singleness better? Side effect; making your relationship with a man better!
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Let's talk...
So who am I?
Hi 🙋🏽♀️ I’m Reka the founder of Single You the Podcast and creator of Single You Academy.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances, stop that cycle by helping you learn how to keep boundaries and feel confident about being single.
If you want to learn more about how I can support you… check out Single You Academy here or DM me and I’ll send you more details.
- Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com I’m accepting applications into Single You Academy until November 7th.
My DM is always open! XO Reka
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TODAY WE will touch on;
Why My Clients Made the Investment and joined Single You Academy (I'll share testimonials).
- How to get over him?
- How do I know when to leave him?
- What it's costing you to stay/be in dysfunctional relationships.
Let's talk...
So who am I?
Hi 🙋🏽♀️ I’m Reka the founder of Single You the Podcast and creator of Single You Academy.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances, stop that cycle by helping you learn how to keep boundaries and feel confident about being single.
If you want to learn more about how I can support you… check out Single You Academy here or DM me and I’ll send you more details.
- Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com I’m accepting applications into Single You Academy until November 7th.
My DM is always open! XO Reka
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If I were ta ask you "do you know you worth" while you're allowing a man to treat you like trash... you would say ...YES!
This episode is why you'd say yes. Here is why that doesn't make sense.
Think about it; in THAT situation-ship, marriage or some dude you're dealing with... you're so good at
- Masking...
- Sweeping things under the rug...
- Believing that this is the 'hard' of relationships so it's 'normal'
- This to shall pass...
- Going to brunches with your girlfriends and performing happy...
Because no one wants to be the girl that isn't happy in her relationship.... so instead you perform happy and confident. How well is that working out for you?
So who am I?
Hi 🙋🏽♀️ I’m Reka the founder of Single You the Podcast and creator of Single You Academy.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances, stop that cycle by helping you learn how to keep boundaries and feel confident about being single.
If you want to learn more about how I can support you… check out Single You Academy here or DM me and I’ll send you more details.
- Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com I’m accepting applications into Single You Academy until November 7th.
My DM is always open! XO Reka
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The cycle of dating I was in was; we meet, it's "wonderful" ...I pass up red flags and start day dreaming on how great we could be. Then 2 years later it ends in disaster because I passed up red flags... THAT IS OVER FOR ME!! That was hard. That’s what I describe as hard.
I’d much rather be doing what I’m doing now when it comes to ‘dating’... it's easy for me. This what I learned on my real true journey of self love... self actualization. My strategy moving forward is building on a solid foundation.
If you need support on ☝🏽all of the above… then I know that I can help you!
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So who am I?
Hi 🙋🏽♀️ I’m Reka the founder of Single You the Podcast and creator of Single You Academy.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances, stop that cycle by helping you learn how to keep boundaries and feel confident about being single.
If you want to learn more about how I can support you… check out Single You Academy here or DM me and I’ll send you more details.
- Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com I’m accepting applications into Single You Academy until November 7th.
My DM is always open! XO Reka
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Nah but the real flex is when you can walk away from a man who "looks good on paper" but your gut is telling you "he ain't for you sis."
You’re gonna have to start trusting yourself and believing that your gut feeling is future you, God, trying to stop you from some BS that you’ll regret 3 months from now.
If you need support on ☝🏽all of the above… then I know that I can help you!
So who am I?
Hi 🙋🏽♀️ I’m Reka the founder of Single You the Podcast and creator of Single You Academy.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances, stop that cycle by helping you learn how to keep boundaries and feel confident about being single.
If you want to learn more about how I can support you… check out Single You Academy here or DM me and I’ll send you more details.
- Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com I’m accepting applications into Single You Academy until November 7th.
My DM is always open! XO Reka
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Bold statement I know. So let's talk...
Yes I believe that a lot of your praying over that man— is null and void sis.
God can become the center of your relationship but it does require that HE also wants that. Is God at the center of his character and identity? (Think of his behavior sis). If no-- then your prayers are putting the cart before the horse.
This message is for you if;
You’re so loyal to him….which leaves you frustrated.
You’re tired of giving 2nd chances.
You’re ready to be confident in your singleness and slow down the dating process.
If you need support on ☝🏽all of the above… then I know that I can help you!
So who am I?
Hi 🙋🏽♀️ I’m Reka the founder of Single You the Podcast and creator of Single You Academy.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances, stop that cycle by helping you learn how to keep boundaries and feel confident about being single.
If you want to learn more about how I can support you… check out Single You Academy here or DM me and I’ll send you more details.
- Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
I’m accepting applications into Single You Academy until November 7th.
My DM is always open! XO Reka
Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/singleyou/support
I know most of you will say harder but what was the 'easier' about relationships when you were younger? The ignorance?
Plus what is a self love journey? What does it actually do/look like and what I've learned about dating from my self love journey!
questions for you; who do you think it is harder for you? Why do you think crying over a man is bad?
Let's talk...
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My DM is always open! XO Reka
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You're a faith based woman and you're career is together. However you desire marriage and kids. You're dealing (or have dealt) with men longer than you should have.
Let me offer you a new perspective ... it's probably because you have a lot of shame around sex and you don't want another body, so here you are... settling.
Who gave you education on faith based relationship intelligence?
Let's talk...
Question; What do you think you put so much pressure on yourself to get married?
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My DM is always open! XO Reka
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When I did this live on FB, I got the following message; It was a godsend that I happened upon this conversation!! Such the message I need.
I hope it does the same for you.
The problem is you don’t trust yourself because when you trust yourself you will take clear, definitive action the moment you feel an inkling or see a sign that something is off. - Iyanla Vanzant
Question; Why do you think a break up is a failure? Why do you feel like history means he’ll change for you?
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My DM is always open! XO Reka
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I won’t find another one like him (fears that are holding you back in getting the relationship you actually want).
The problem is you don’t know who you are.
You don’t understand how to have a relationship with yourself or relationships. Especially with men. Especially when it comes to getting the relationship you want…. So you settle sis. Cause God forbid you be single. Single feels like a stain to you.
Let's talk...
Question; Why do you think he’s it for you? Is he God's best for you?
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My DM is always open! XO Reka
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What does that even mean? Doesn’t everyone die alone? Kids and/or a husband are not a guarantee you’ll be taken care of in your older years. So why are you only scared of ‘dying alone’ because you’re single?
You have all these feelings about being a failure and that’s the reason why you want a man? You have got to think differently about your singleness so you can move different.
I want a co-committed relationship. Not co-dependency based on trauma bonds.
I don’t want a relationship with someone who chooses me purely based on their feelings instead of logic and practicality. I want an easy life and will not endure hardship or inconvenience just because I love you.
I want love without a trauma bond or unhealthy attachment, I want to love a man knowing joy comes from God and myself.
Question; What is your definition of dying alone? Why does it scare you? Why do you feel like you will die alone?
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My DM is always open! XO Reka
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This episode explains why I think this saying is problematic.
Be a good person is for you and your character. Not to get people to be who you want them to be. Life is still a will of choice. We have free will! Men have free will and can choose to treat you any way they want. Where we mess up? By thinking we can change him.
Question for you > Why do you think that you bypass red flags? Why do you feel that you should bypass red flags?
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My DM is always open! XO Reka
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You want a man to treat you with respect, be loyal and show you love. You need to be seen/heard and valued. What you’ve tired to that is following advice that says; don’t tell him how to treat you. 'I don’t want to go through another stage in my life where I’m telling someone how they should treat me.’
How sway? That’s passive aggressive. Is that how we are with your family and friends? How well is that working out for you?
Cliché’s in dating that are holding us back (a series). Day 4 of 5; he'll just know how to treat me (also see; happy wife happy life).
How sway?
Sometimes I think women just want the D, to be able to say they have a man and not feel bad about having sex.
Let's talk...
Question for you > Why do you think he’ll just know? Why do you feel like his feelings don’t matter?
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The mind of a woman who is asking this question is sitting somewhere thinking that she is bad (a failure) because she doesn’t have a man. You want to be called the good woman behind the man, no matter what.
You not having a man doesn’t mean you’re intrinsically bad or a failure. I wish you would stop seeing single as a punishment, or that it's a waiting period for something greater than the life you have now.
You just are. You’re just being and the sooner you see the blessing in singleness the sooner your joy will arise.
When you’re confident in your singleness that’s how you will think. And trust I know what it is like to be a ‘good woman’ -- to believe I am-- to hear that all the time and yet and still I have zero man. Up until 2017 that use to bother me and made me lower my standards, trying to prove ‘see I’m a good woman’ -- now I am a good woman period and my actions shows that I believe it. Yes sometimes I still have those thoughts but now that I’ve gone on a true self love journey I stop myself well before I play out that tired 'ride-or-die' narrative.
Question for you; Why do you think where you are in life right now is bad? Why do you feel where you are right now is bad?
Did you take anything away from this episode? Do you want me to go deeper on something? Please send me a DM, don't hesitate.
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Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
XO Reka
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Does love really conquer all? Here why I think it doesn't....
Is it true... that if he loves you, he'll change for you? Here is why thinking that keeps you in a relationship that's an emotional roller coaster...
Sometimes we’re too spiritual for our own good. Which causes us to take the responsibility out of dating.
Did you take anything away from this episode? Do you want me to go deeper on something? Please send me a DM, don't hesitate.
- IG here.
- Facebook here.
Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
XO Reka
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Series; Cliché’s in dating that are holding us back. Day 1 of 5: Just because he hasn't found you, doesn't mean you aren't a good woman (or a failure)
Let me encourage you to be confident in your singleness;
- Be comfortable in your decision making as a single woman.
- Not swayed by social media (men) on what other people think relationships should be like..
- Be able to set and keep boundaries instead of breaking them for him.
Did you take anything away from this episode? Do you want me to go deeper on something? Please send me a DM, don't hesitate.
- IG here.
- Facebook here.
Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
XO Reka
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I’m so nervous to have this conversation. I’m preparing to ignore the religious/judgmental comments I will get. From “False prophet” to “that’s why I don’t believe.” So let me be clear, that’s what's wrong with religion and society. We’re not allowed to ask questions or have conversations without judgement. Especially when it comes to sex. So if you are super religious then this episode is not for you.
This is not for atheists who want to judge my beliefs. Jesus is my homeboy and I don’t have a problem with my belief in him, I have a problem with religion and the messages I believe women receive around sex that has brought on so much shame. Jesus had a problem with religion which is why he was flipping tables in the Bible.
So this is only for people with open ears and those who want to hear with open ears about women trying to heal from sexual shame. I started my journey 3-4 years ago. I started reading, praying, reading and praying some more about where I stood.
Let’s be clear again; I’m abstinent and I promised myself that in my season of abstinence I would use it to heal and truly seek God, so I could hear from God. Not Society and certainly not religion. The shame I used to have, let's say it was about 100lbs and now I’ve got about 25lbs left. This conversation is about my healing way more than it is about yelling at purity culture.
This conversation is for my clients and the women, Christian women who feel so judged and trapped in shame around sex.
This conversation is because the church seems to be embarrassed about having real conversations about sex. The only thing we’re told is wait until you’re married. There is no room for; “it’s going to be hard” “Your body will betray you” “why you should wait” let alone “how to wait.”
My goal is to answer my questions, many of the same questions you may have as a Christian woman who grew up in church but also my goal is to encourage you to study the bible for yourself don’t listen and act according to me. I’m just trying to heal and talking about my ish for the last 3-4 years has helped me tremendously.
So in all my nervousness let’s talk. I hope it frees at least one woman.
My guest today… The Rev. Dr. Theresa S. Thames and she can be reach on IG here.
So who am I? I’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the professional frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.
I’m looking for 5 frustrated loyal women who are TIRED of giving 2nd chances (over & over) and you want to stop the cycle of trusting he will change (he never does).
So now you're ready to actually know your worth, plus learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with yourself and men.
You have to stop asking for tips, you have to actually transform the way you think. Step by step, I’ll show you exactly what to do for a transformation.
I have room for ONLY 5 new clients and if you believe you’re one of my clients. If you want better for yourself — apply here or send me a DM!
Don’t hesitate. Doors close Sunday: September 12, 2021 and ONLY 5 spots available.
XO Reka
Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/singleyou/support
You’re here: Frustrated and in a situationship you don’t want to be in. You’re constantly thinking there is something wrong with you.
You want to be here: Confident in your decision making and in your singleness. You don’t want to be swayed by social media (or men) on what relationships are like. You want to be able to set and keep boundaries instead of breaking them for him.
You think: I’m single and I'm being punished. You feel like you're paying for something you did in the past. Sex. You had sex with him so now "I have to ride this out because I don’t want another body". It'll get better. He’ll change (hope). Everyone else has a man and you deserve one too (so you stay with boo-boo the fool) how well is that working out for you?
Here is what is in your way: You haven’t learned your lesson and you don’t have guidance. Guidance is right in front of you. I’m a Certified Life Coach and I'm here to help you sis.
So who am I? I’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the professional frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.
I’m looking for 5 frustrated loyal women who are TIRED of giving 2nd chances (over & over) and you want to stop the cycle of trusting he will change (he never does).
So now you're ready to actually know your worth, plus learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with yourself and men.
You have to stop asking for tips, you have to actually transform the way you think. Step by step, I’ll show you exactly what to do for a transformation.
I have room for ONLY 5 new clients and if you believe you’re one of my clients. If you want better for yourself — apply here or send me a DM!
Don’t hesitate. Doors close Sunday: September 12, 2021 and ONLY 5 spots available.
XO Reka
Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/singleyou/support
Today's guest is Kierra D, founder of the Wive's Club Group (on FB and Clubhouse) and host of The Love Factor Podcast. What mindset should single women have about marriage? What is the mindset that is going to set us up for greatness?
What was her personal philosophy on dating and/or relationships?
𝘚𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘦𝘴...
"I felt like (use to) oftentimes men were cheaters and women often settle. I knew I didn’t want that for me. I had opportunities to be with high profile guys or popular guys, but didn’t trust them."
Let's talk...
So who am I? I’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the professional frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.
I’m looking for 5 frustrated loyal women who are TIRED of giving 2nd chances (over & over) and you want to stop the cycle of trusting he will change (he never does).
So now you're ready to actually know your worth, plus learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with yourself and men.
You have to stop asking for tips, you have to actually transform the way you think. Step by step, I’ll show you exactly what to do for a transformation.
I have room for ONLY 5 new clients and if you believe you’re one of my clients. If you want better for yourself — apply here or send me a DM!
Don’t hesitate. Doors close Sunday: September 12, 2021 and ONLY 5 spots available.
XO Reka
Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/singleyou/support
You have done several things to leave the situation you have with him. You tried blocking his number, maybe even moving on with someone else, blocked him on all social media just to be manipulated and then you let him back in. How well did that work out for you? I bet the same cycle of hurt continues to happen with him. Aren't you sick of that?
So who am I? I’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the professional frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.
I’m looking for 5 frustrated loyal women who are TIRED of giving 2nd chances (over & over) and you want to stop the cycle of trusting he will change (he never does).
So now you're ready to actually know your worth, plus learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with yourself and men.
You have to stop asking for tips, you have to actually transform the way you think. Step by step, I’ll show you exactly what to do for a transformation.
I have room for ONLY 5 new clients and if you believe you’re one of my clients. If you want better for yourself — apply here or send me a DM!
Don’t hesitate. Doors close Sunday: September 12, 2021 and ONLY 5 spots available.
XO Reka
Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/singleyou/support
Has your love life been a cycle of consistently trusting he will change, he doesn’t, which then leaves you constantly frustrated? Here’s how to stop that..
So who am I? I’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the professional frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.
I’m looking for 5 frustrated loyal women who are TIRED of giving 2nd chances (over & over) and you want to stop the cycle of trusting he will change (he never does).
So now you're ready to actually know your worth, plus learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with yourself and men.
You have to stop asking for tips, you have to actually transform the way you think. Step by step, I’ll show you exactly what to do for a transformation.
I have room for ONLY 5 new clients and if you believe you’re one of my clients. If you want better for yourself — apply here or send me a DM!
Don’t hesitate. Doors close Sunday: September 12, 2021 and ONLY 5 spots available.
XO Reka
Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/singleyou/support
Sis yes, you're a good woman and you deserve a good man but today's discuss will tell you why you haven’t achieved that. You're good at taking care of yourself, especially when it comes to your career. You know you're a smart woman so you don't understand why you keep getting into those types of relationships.
You say: I’m a good woman so I deserve a good man.
I would say yes BUT how you're executing that now is; “because I’m a good woman, I feel like I can create a good man, he'll change for me."
He won't and you should instead wait, be patience, set boundaries and discern that good man GOD HAS CREATED FOR YOU.
The other voice you hear is my best friend Deseree Rose.
She can be found on IG and TikTok as @deseree_rose
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So who am (Reka) I? 🙋🏽♀️ 𝙄’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.
My mission is to empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances to that emotionally unavailable man learn how to set and keep boundaries and feel confident about being single.
I can be found on IG here and my DM is open to you.
www.SingleYouAcademy.com
XO Reka
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How much do you scroll? Who are you following? Do you think about that? How is it affecting you because Regardless if you know it or not... you're being affected. It may be the reason why you hate being single, why you want the wedding and do not know how to be married. Without knowing, you need to work on yourself first. Social media may be the reason you believe a man completes you and not you. You and he should come to the relationship whole.
This is a speech I did at the "women in business" conference in January of 2020.
So who am I? Hi. I’m Reka. I’m an NLP certified life coach. 𝙄’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the professional frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.
- Please don't hesitate to reach out to me. My DM is open for you.
- IG = justmeReka or email me via Reka@justmeReka.com
XO Reka
Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/singleyou/support
Want to be successful? Then don't date or even marry the WRONG man.
Today's guest Cena Martin Chandler. Mom of 2 boys, Author, and Producer. Cena helps health coaches who scaled fast;. onboard, hire, and train their first community manager.
She writes...
Q: Do you wish someone had conversations with you about relationships?
Her: It would have saved me from going down a lot of dark roads on my own in the dating world. I was raised in a unique situation. My mom got involved with a cult and actually married one of the church leaders - so I learned unhealthy dating and religious abuse at the same exact time.
Let's talk....
So who am I? Hi. I’m Reka. I’m an NLP certified life coach. 𝙄’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the professional frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.
- Please don't hesitate to reach out to me. My DM is open for you.
- IG = justmeReka or email me via Reka@justmeReka.com
XO Reka
Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/singleyou/support
I'm always asking YOU; how can I help you? You follow my socials for a reason and I'm always trying to reach out to see how I can serve you. So here I am again... this time with a graduate of Single You Academy!!!!!!!!
Typically I keep their testimonials private... I'll use their words but not post a picture or a video of them out of respect.
Which is why TODAY I'm 100000000% honored that one of my former clients wants to share her journey inside of Single You Academy with YOU.
So if you've been hesitate to join Single You Academy because "sight unseen" here is your moment to hear about her journey.
Today we will discuss:
- Her toxic relationships and single journey before she met me.
- Where she was mentally before she became my client.
- Her journey through Single You Academy.
- Where she is now mentally.
So her before (me) and after (me) as her coach!!!
So who am I? Hi. I’m Reka. I’m an NLP certified life coach. 𝙄’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.
I have room for 5 new clients this summer and if you believe you’re one of my clients. If you want better for yourself — apply here or DM me here @justmeReka. Don’t hesitate. Doors close Sunday: August 1, 2021 and ONLY 3 spots available.
XO Reka
Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/singleyou/support
🚫Are you actually dating him or just dealing with him?
🚫Will you get the love you actually want or are you wasting your time?
Today. Those 👆🏽👆🏽are the questions I'll answer for you.
In this conversation we'll also go over:
💡My 3 Tips to Help You Spot a Liar.
💡3 Reasons why you fall for the lies/liar... and so much more.
If you can relate to the following then this episode is for you: 👇🏽👇🏽👇🏽
I am one of those who can easily get attached and with my current boyfriend, I feel like all I give him is sex and money. I receive little in return because I'm too busy trying to find a husband, so I’m not good at setting boundaries and I’m miserable. I’m so Pitiful!I feel terrified of being alone. (IG message from a woman)
So who am I? Hi. I’m Reka. I’m an NLP certified life coach. 𝙄’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.
I have room for 5 new clients this summer and if you believe you’re one of my clients. If you want better for yourself — apply here or DM me here @justmeReka. Don’t hesitate. Doors close Sunday: August 1, 2021 and ONLY 5 spots available.
XO Reka
Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/singleyou/support
My Guest today is Coach Jos-Lyn, The Singles Coach
She writes:
My mantra is that singleness is not a death sentence but a life giving opportunity. I use my singleness to love on myself and grow into a woman that is pleasing to God, knowing what I want and how to get it, and growing in all of my relationships. I hurt myself in the past by ignoring red flags and not following my mind when I knew something wasn't right for the sake of being in a relationship. Being alone or single still means that I am whole so I don't force relationships and I am happy with my own company.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.
𝙒𝙝𝙤 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙢𝙮 𝙘𝙡𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙨? Women who have their life together, career wise. You're financially stable but you're constantly spending money and time on him. Trying to build him up. You’re steady letting him walk all over you. And you're left wondering why that is? You're constantly thinking 'how can I have my professional life together but not my love life?'
🗣 I’m looking for 3 frustrated loyal women who are TIRED of giving 2nd chances (over & over) and you want to stop the cycle of trusting he will change (he never does).
𝙉𝙤𝙬 𝙮𝙤𝙪'𝙧𝙚 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙙𝙮 𝙩𝙤 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣 𝙝𝙤𝙬 𝙩𝙤 𝙨𝙚𝙩 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙆𝙀𝙀𝙋 𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙨 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙢𝙚𝙣.
Step by step I can show you how to break that cycle. Get you back to trusting you.
Doors close Aug. 1 to Single You Academy. Application process is open now.
🌱 Are you interested in applying? Send 'boundaries' to me via DM @justmeReka or email me via Reka@justmeReka.com.
Grab more information here.
XO Reka
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You're constantly walking on eggshells, navigation drama, his emotions and minimizing your self. Which means you're constantly doubting yourself and now when you say "I'm not dealing with him anymore" you don't even believe YOURSELF because you always take him back. Which is self betrayal...isn't it? Aren't you sick of that? I want to give you some tools on how to stop that cycle of dysfunction. Let's talk....
So who am I? Hi. I’m Reka. I’m an NLP certified life coach. 𝙄’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.
I have room for 5 new clients this summer and if you believe you’re one of my clients. If you want better for yourself — apply here or DM me here @justmeReka. Don’t hesitate. Doors close Sunday: August 1, 2021 and ONLY 5 spots available.
XO Reka
Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/singleyou/support
Today's guest is Coach Elulu. Coach Elulu is a certified life coach with a passion for helping singles and couples manifest, build and grow healthy and harmonious relationships that last! She has been successfully doing this work alongside her husband and fellow coach, R Anthony since 2016 through their platforms: Relationships & Chill, Wifed Up Academy and Date Like A Wife. She believes that relationships are our greatest teachers and that ANYONE can have the relationship they truly desire!
She writes....
I use to think that romantic relationships just sort of happen. I believed that all I needed to do was succeed in life in general and the falling in love part would just take care of itself. Finally seeing my track record of failed attempts, I realized what the world has taught me wasn't working and I needed to take matters into my own hands and become more intentional. A month and half later I met my husband.
As for you sis...
- 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙥𝙖𝙨𝙨𝙚𝙙 𝙪𝙥 𝙧𝙚𝙙 𝙛𝙡𝙖𝙜𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 “𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙥𝙤𝙩𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙖𝙡.”
- Every time he disrespected you and over stepped a boundary you set and you stayed. Then he did it again and you stayed.
- Every moment you stay because being “alone” is a fear of yours is a moment you 𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝗵𝗶𝗺 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗛𝗜𝗠 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝗬𝗢𝗨.
Is that the woman you want to be? I’m willing to bet deep down the answer is no.
Deep down I bet you want to be a stronger woman. One who sticks up for herself… you just don’t know where to start.
Start with me. So who am I? Hi I’m Reka. I’m an NLP certified life coach. 𝙄’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.
I have room for 5 new clients this summer and if you believe you’re one of my clients. If you want better for yourself — apply here or DM me here @justmeReka. Don’t hesitate. Doors close Sunday: August 1, 2021 and ONLY 5 spots available.
XO Reka
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This episode is for the women who:
Feels like: I’m a good woman, why aren’t I married? What’s wrong with me? You feel like: I have my career life together but for some reason my love life is trash.
You're good at taking care of yourself, especially when it comes to your career. You know you're a smart woman so you don't understand why you keep getting into those types of relationships. Let's talk...
Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
- Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com.
- Find me on Twitter here.
- Join my Private Facebook Group here.
Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.
Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up.
XO Reka
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Topic: How Your Money is Keeping You in That Dysfunctional Relationship.
This episode is for:
The woman who has her life together, career wise. Financially you’re doing alright. You even pay for a lot of things you two do. However you’re steady letting men walk all over you.
And you're left wondering why that is? How can I have my professional life together but not my love life?
On this episode myself and financial coach Jasmine Bundy will answer those questions for you!
Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
- Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com.
- Find me on Twitter here.
- Join my Private Facebook Group here.
Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.
Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up.
XO Reka
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A speech (my story) on overcoming and healing from a dysfunctional relationships. From the Whole Woman event at Corner Stone Church in Pasco, WA.
Let's talk....
What I do? I teach single professional women in their 30s or 40s a faith-based way to move on from their ex. How to stop the cycle of dysfunctional relationships and what they've never been taught from church/by their parents about a healthy relationship with themselves and with men.
Who are my clients? Women who have their life together, career wise. You're financially stable but you're constantly spending money and time on him. Trying to build him up. You’re steady letting him walk all over you. And you're left wondering why that is? How can I have my professional life together but not my love life?
Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
- Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com.
- Find me on Twitter here.
- Join my Private Facebook Group here.
Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.
Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up.
XO Reka
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My key strategies to dodging dysfunctional relationships, a masterclass series.
This episode is for the woman who has:
Your life together, career wise. Financially. But you’re steady letting this man/a man walk all over you.
- You’re so busy trying to fix him up and be the ride or die chick.
- Your end goal is to rise him up to be the man you want him to be because you see potential.
He is so disrespectful to you emotionally and he takes advantage of you.
You’re left feeling like: I’ve spent so much time and effort, money and everything pouring into him... to where I feel like I don’t ever get that same type of dynamic in return.
You're thinking: What is it about myself that I keep attracting these types of relationships and how do I solve that, so that I don’t stay in this toxic cycle. I’ve gotta break this cycle.
Let's talk....
What I do? I help single professional women in their 30s or 40s stop the cycle of dysfunctional relationships with men (or heck, just that one guy ) without the overwhelm of feeling mean for saying no.
Who are my clients? Women who feel like they spend so much time, effort, and money pouring into men, and you feel like you don't ever get that same type of dynamic in return. You're wondering, 'what is it about myself that I keep attracting these types of relationships, and how do I solve that so that I don't stay in this toxic, dysfunctional cycle.'
Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
- Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com.
- Find me on Twitter here.
- Join my Private Facebook Group here.
Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.
Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up.
XO Reka
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Topic: What is it about YOU that keeps attracting dysfunctional relationships? Plus HOW to solve this problem. For the woman who is wondering what it is about myself that I keep attracting dysfunctional relationships and how do I solve this problem?
What I do? I help single professional women in their 30s or 40s stop the cycle of dysfunctional relationships with men (or heck, just that one guy ) without the overwhelm of feeling mean for saying no.
Who are my clients? Women who feel like they spend so much time, effort, and money pouring into men, and you feel like you don't ever get that same type of dynamic in return. You're wondering, 'what is it about myself that I keep attracting these types of relationships, and how do I solve that so that I don't stay in this toxic, dysfunctional cycle.'
Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
- Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com.
- Find me on Twitter here.
- Join my Private Facebook Group here.
Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.
Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up.
XO Reka
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WHY we stay in dysfunctional relationships but HOW to stop that cycle.
This topic is for the women who:
- ...has written off guys only to find yourself in the same type of dysfunctional relationship?
- ...feels like: I've been working on myself but it’s like I keep losing it. Old habits are hard to break for you and you’re wondering why.
- ...will know you don't like something, however you feel awkward about standing up for yourself with that man.
- ...has a hard time creating boundaries. It's like I get clueless or something.
Every year over 10 million Americans experience psychological and/or physical abuse. And I'm willing to be thhe majority of that 10 million is women.
And I know why… let's talk.
Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
- Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com.
- Find me on Twitter here.
- Join my Private Facebook Group here.
Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.
Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up.
XO Reka
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WHY does a man not have to lie to YOU to be with YOU? Because if you like him enough, you'll lie to yourself and HOW to stop that cycle of dysfunction.
But the gag is: he is lying to you through his behavior. You just pass up the red flag because you like him.
So what am I saying? Men don't have to say:
Baby, I'll never lie to you, I'll never cheat on you, I'm not a manipulator or a narcissist. I'm just a good guy who loves you.
He knows he's all of the above and has been the above to his previous girlfriends.
- There is no yelp review for men.
- We're bad at being a lie detector because most of the time, we'll never find out.
- He's lying without a tangible fact AND raise your hand if you feel like you need facts to write him off
BUT We have our God voice and today: I'm going to encourage you to lean into that because I want to help you stop this cycle of dysfunctional relationships.
This series is for you if:
- You're sick of being manipulated by men, and you want to learn how to follow your gut more.
Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
- Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com.
- Find me on Twitter here.
- Join my Private Facebook Group here.
Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.
Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up.
XO Reka
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How good are you at setting boundaries with men?
Can you relate to the following statements....
- I'll know I don't like something however I feel awkward about standing up.
- I have a hard time creating boundaries. It's like I get clueless or something.
- I definitely need help with boundaries. I love being a kind and caring person, but guys I’ve dated have taken too much advantage of my kindness. When I say NO to something sometimes they get mad.
Let's talk... listen as a fly on the wall, as my best friend Deseree and I discuss boundaries with friends, family and of course men.
LEARN MORE: about the key strategies to dodging a dysfunctional relationship masterclass here.
Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
- Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com.
- Find me on Twitter here.
- Join my Private Facebook Group here.
Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.
Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up.
XO Reka
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She writes....
I was a very independent women who attracted needy guys. In most of my relationships I was always the nurturing one making sure their needs were meet. My needs were rarely meet and I became frustrated and unhappy. So I'm the one who would end the relationship and move on. Then I got married, things were great at first until he decided to quit his job and sat around like I was going to take care of him. We got divorced and I'm now single, living my best life.
This is her story and her transformation on no longer attracting needy men.
Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
- Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com.
- Find me on Twitter here.
- Join my Private Facebook Group here.
Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.
Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up.
XO Reka
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When I asked Brad: Was there a time you didn't know your worth? If Yes; how did you discover your worth?
He said: Yes, it's been an ongoing battle for me since about 6-7 years ago. After going through multiple relationships and being cheated on. Since I first recognized it, I've been mentally doing things to remind myself of how worthy I am in all phases of life.
Listen: the women doing the work need to find the men who are doing the work. Leave everyone else who continue to want dysfunction and drama alone. Listen in as Brad and I discuss his self-love journey. I bet you can learn a lot!
Shows mentioned: The Color of Compromise available on Amazon prime and Hidden Colors available on Facebook.
Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
- Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com.
- Find me on Twitter here.
- Join my Private Facebook Group here.
Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.
Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up.
XO Reka
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Are you currently trying to get over a guy? I believe I know exactly where you are... let me guess you're overthinking what happened. Judging yourself for what you did for him even though you saw red flags. Wishing you would have done something different and you wish you never met him or left at the first red flag. Am I right?
I know you want to just totally forget what you went through, now I can't promise you I can make you forget him but I bet I can help you move on better than what you're doing now. Which is what we talk about in this episode and I even share a little of how I got over my abusive ex.
Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
- Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com.
- Find me on Twitter here.
- Join my Private Facebook Group here.
Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.
Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up.
Ps. I’m looking for 5 professional single women who want better when it comes to setting boundaries with men and stopping the cycle of dysfunctional relationships.
Step by step, I’ll show you exactly what to do for a transformation.
Doors close Sunday April 25th @ 9p PST (Seattle Time)
If you want to learn more send me a DM! You can literally just say "boundaries" and I'll take it from there.
XO Reka
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Is staying after he cheats more Christian-like? Is cheating part of marriage?
There are people out here throughly enjoying marriage, don't get it twisted. And Lanaya Ramsey is one of them.... married for 18+ years.
- Mother of 3.
- Teacher, mentor, minister and very very active in the Church.
- Her journey with dating Jerry, to marriage to 18 years in.
What we discuss on this episode…
- Her journey with dating Jerry, to marriage to 18 years in.
- Sex. Waiting. The Who, what why and how.
- Religion and Is staying after he cheats more Christian-like? Is cheating part of marriage?
The book that was mentioned: Leah Onuoha, a wife of over 10 years, mother, and minister wrote "10 Marriage Lessons in 10 Years" as an eye-opening view on a Christian marriage. Leah Onuoha has been married to her husband, Tobe Onuoha, for over 10 years. You can buy it here.
Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
- Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com.
- Find me on Twitter here.
- Join my Private Facebook Group here.
Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here.
Ps. If you are a woman who wants better when it comes to men and setting boundaries, knowing your self, understanding your worth and what makes a healthy relationship but you don't know where to start... If you’re ready to invest in yourself... send me a DM and let’s start the conversation. Plus check out more information on me and my coaching program here.
Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up.
XO Reka
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What do the affirmations on my pillow mean to the women on my panel? You? Why did I add a scripture on the back?
Cameo we'll discuss your comment; People think you can't have an unsuccessful single life, like you can have an unsuccessful marriage.
Carlawe'll discuss your comment; single is so loud
Deseree we'll discuss your comment; imagine a world where women raise their standards, which in-turn will raise up a whole society.
Adreeahna we'll discuss your comment; Younger me learned about relationships, dating, marriage via watching family/friends, movies, and tv shows.
Tatiahnawe'll discuss your comment; being single can be a blessing if you have the right perspective.
We’ll also discuss
How do you feel about this comment;
“You literally don’t have to lie to women. If she like you enough she will lie to herself.”
And also how will you know a man loves you?
'We don’t realize just because he says “I love you” doesn’t mean he actually does.'
Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
- Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com.
- Find me on Twitter here.
- Join my Private Facebook Group here.
Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here.
Ps. If you are a woman who wants better when it comes to men and setting boundaries, knowing your self, understanding your worth and what makes a healthy relationship but you don't know where to start... If you’re ready to invest in yourself... send me a DM and let’s start the conversation. Plus check out more information on me and my coaching program here.
Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up.
XO Reka
Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/singleyou/support
This is a conversation I had with Anthony of Anthony does a podcast and my best friend Deseree (his girl).
I know this is a questions you have had so we discuss from the lens of 3 people who are doing great work within themselves. We also discuss the quote "I'd rather be alone than with people who make me feel alone."
The question I pose to you.... how miserable are you willing to be just to be in a relationship?
Plus at the end I address the topic... after he cheats do you have to stay? Is it biblical to stay?
Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
- Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com.
- Find me on Twitter here.
- Join my Private Facebook Group here.
Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here.
Ps. If you are a woman who wants better when it comes to men and setting boundaries, knowing your self, understanding your worth and what makes a healthy relationship but you don't know where to start... If you’re ready to invest in yourself... send me a DM and let’s start the conversation. Plus check out more information on me and my coaching program here.
Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up.
XO Reka
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What exactly is Narcissism? What are the traits?
Well I remember a time that I got rid of a Michael Kors purse and some Jordans because the abusive ex wanted me to 'prove my love' for him. Narcissist? How he made me feel bad about having my parents and growing up in a two parent household. Narcissist? Let's talk.... with a therapist, Nicole Morris who has a Masters in Social work (MSW) and she's been in the field for 13 years. This is a conversation I had with her at the end of 2019. I was a baby-baby coach, I can see how much I've grown, even in how I explain things from then to now. However this episode has the definition of narcism, stories of what I did for my abusive ex and more, that you can learn from. Oh and after today, I'm going back to dropping episodes just on Thursdays.
Bill of personal rights;
I have the right to be treated with respect.
I have the right to say no and not feel guilty.
I have the right to express my feelings without being criticized.
I have the right to take time for myself.
I have the right to feel safe.
I have the right to make my own decisions.
I have the right to change my mind.
I have the right to ask for what I want.
I have the right to spend as much time with my family and friends as I want.
I have the right to make mistakes.
I have the right to not be pressured into doing stuff I don't feel like doing.
I have the right to feel good about myself.
I have the right to be respected if I want to end a relationship.
I have the right to say no and not feel guilty.
I have the right to express my feelings without being criticized.
I have the right to take time for myself.
I have the right to feel safe.
I have the right to make my own decisions.
I have the right to change my mind.
I have the right to ask for what I want.
I have the right to spend as much time with my family and friends as I want.
I have the right to make mistakes.
I have the right to not be pressured into doing stuff I don't feel like doing.
I have the right to feel good about myself.
I have the right to be respected if I want to end a relationship.
Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
- Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com.
- Find me on Twitter here.
- Join my Private Facebook Group here.
Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here.
Ps. If you are a woman who wants better when it comes to men and setting boundaries, knowing your self, understanding your worth and what makes a healthy relationship but you don't know where to start... If you’re ready to invest in yourself... send me a DM and let’s start the conversation. Or check out information on my coaching program here.
Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up.
XO Reka
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Carla Thomas = Fly Girl. Writer. Stylist. TV Host. Carla is a multimedia creative. Hailing from Baltimore, cultivated at Howard University and now thriving in Brooklyn, Carla is an around the way girl who is quietly brilliant. She creates fun and cool relatable content. She’s always on a plane or in a showroom.
On this episode we discuss going to Howard University, why we chose HU and what it means to us today. Being Black in America via the Harry/Meghan Markle lens. Plus how she ended and why an 8 year relationship. Oh and she had a second date with a potential mate (that rhymes)... he throughly disappointed her but she handled it very very very well. Trust me you can learn from that story. Lastly, how is she living her successful single life as a Black woman and is it ok to be happily single AND desire a husband?
You can find Carla on IG here -- twitter here and her website here.
Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
- Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com.
- Find me on Twitter here.
- Join my Private Facebook Group here.
Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here.
Ps. If you are a woman who wants better when it comes to men and setting boundaries, knowing your self, understanding your worth and what makes a healthy relationship but you don't know where to start... If you’re ready to invest in yourself... send me a DM and let’s start the conversation. Or check out information on my coaching program here.
Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up.
XO Reka
Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/singleyou/support
You can buy Single You the Pillow Collection here.
Guest = Anthony from Anthony does a Podcast, and find him on IG here. As well as my best friend Deseree, find her on IG here.
Dropping every Thursday at 6a PST / 9a EST since August 27 of 2020.
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I intend to help you see that you have authority over your life. No one gives us a manual when we are born. No one gives us a book of instructions for our birthday. Which is weird because don't you have an instruction manual for your TV, your car, and everything else that you do not know how to use at first.
We're born, for the first time and we're just expected to be great at being human. We're given a name and expected to know how to operate as such.
How are we supposed to know how to operate? How are we supposed to know how our mind works? How are we supposed to know how our body works?
We do learn from others but the problem is most of us are learning from others that never took the time to learn themselves. For the most part they probably never knew you could learn "yourself", so, it's not their fault.
Psychology 101 should be taught to us. We should have mandatory 'learn-how-to-be-a-human' classes starting at age 2. Like drivers-ed but human-ed. I'm not an expert at anything but I did start getting curious about life… my life. Which lead me to ask questions like:
Why do we do the things we do? Why do we NOT do the things we want to do? That researching is paying off for me and I thought: what if I could help other women create their manual for their life?
“When you learn, teach…” - Maya Angelou
Please share this podcast if you can relate and if you think it can help someone else. It helps grow my audience and you can help me for free by sharing, rating and dropping comments/questions.
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Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
- Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com.
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- Join my Private Facebook Group here.
Ps. If you are a woman who wants better when it comes to men and setting boundaries, knowing your self, understanding your worth and what makes a healthy relationship but you don't know where to start... If you’re ready to invest in yourself... send me a DM and let’s start the conversation. Or check out information on my coaching program here.
Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up.
XO Reka
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Stacy Paetz… International Television & Podcast Host, Sideline Reporter, Author, Documentary Film Maker, Women's Sports Apparel Designer
She writes....
“Girl...I've had 3 serious relationships in my life and the last one ended in 2010. I thought he was the one and he left me and I still don't know why. I've been abstinent for over 6 years and before I'd met him in 2008, I had been abstinent for 12 years. I have little dating experience overall and I know what I want and deserve and won't settle.”
You can find Stacy on IG here and her website here.
Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
- Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com.
- Find me on Twitter here.
- Join my Private Facebook Group here.
Also I'm having a party for the launch of Single You the Pillow Collection. RSVP here. Yes you will have a chance to win prizes. Consider them affirmations but instead of a post-it-note, the affirmation is on a pillow which you can put on your bed and/or your couch.
Ps. If you are a woman who wants better when it comes to men and setting boundaries, knowing your self, understanding your worth and what makes a healthy relationship but you don't know where to start... If you’re ready to invest in yourself... send me a DM and let’s start the conversation. Or check out information on my coaching program here.
Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up.
XO Reka
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What is love? Cause girl him saying ‘I love you’ doesn’t mean he actually does. While I do believe Harry and Meghan are a perfect example of being a team... ‘You two against the world — not against each other'... this episode is less about them and more about what the Bible/God defines as love.
'They' say relationships are hard... Yea this Meghan and Harry is an example of the hard. Not him disrespecting you over and over. Love does NOT = how much you can endure to keep a man in hopes he will change for you.
Scripture I mentioned; Ephesians 5:25 | John 3:16 | 1 John 4:7-21 | 1 John 4:18 |Ephesians 5:25 | 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 | Proverbs 4:23
Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
- Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com.
- Find me on Twitter here.
- Join my Private Facebook Group here.
Also I'm having a party for the launch of Single You the Pillow Collection. RSVP here. Yes you will have a chance to win prizes. Consider them affirmations but instead of a post-it-note, the affirmation is on a pillow which you can put on your bed and/or your couch.
Ps. If you are a woman who wants better when it comes to men and setting boundaries, knowing your self, understanding your worth and what makes a healthy relationship but you don't know where to start... If you’re ready to invest in yourself... send me a DM and let’s start the conversation. Or check out information on my coaching program here.
Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up.
XO Reka
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What would you do if you dated a guy for a few years. He promised marriage and when you're about to move to be with him... he disappears for 10 months. Then comes back talking about “how are you?” on snapchat.
👉🏽 That’s Adreeahna’s story and she shares it on this episode of Single You the Podcast. Yep he came back but how she handled ‘closure’ and the red flags she passed up. You can learn from her story. Happy listening and I hope you have your notebook.
You know that's why I do this. I want you to learn, execute and never look back. 👑
Reach out to Adreehna here on IG and read her blog/website here.
Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
- Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com.
- Find me on Twitter here.
... And grab information on my Private Facebook Group here, my coaching program and Single You the Pillow Collection.
XO Reka
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I hope you listen with open ears. I'm not here to judge you but if you don't listen to this episode you won't know that. I'm very aware that this message isn't for everyone... but it is for the women I feel called to guide. Because what's the vision for your life sis? No judgement but the way I define judgement and the way cancel culture defines it, is extremely different.
Isn't your body a temple? Do you want to be lukewarm? Jesus and the Samaritan woman, let's talk...
Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
- Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
- Email = Reka@justmeReka.com.
- Find me on Twitter here.
... And grab information on my Private Facebook Group here, my coaching program and Single You the Pillow Collection.
XO Reka
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I dated him and I bet you did too. On today's Single You the Podcast; I speak to Jhall. He is a former Fboy and he has confessions for us. From his toxic journey to the man he is today.
He's spilling all the tea and I got all the questions. Bring your note book because who he use to be... we need to learn how to dodge that.
Reach out to Jhall here on IG and read his blog here.
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I use to be so confused about my gut and the feeling I would get about men. Why did I feel like 'he is not for me' and I don't have a tangible reason? What does the gut feeling actually mean? Am I too picky? I had to learn what it meant to listen to my gut and how to use it to detect the people who aren't for me. Energy is real and we have to start trusting ourselves. The guy feeling is your God voice.
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What happens if a guy says "I'm too busy" but still wants to keep you as a 'friend'... how do you handle that situation? He doesn't want to be in a relationship but a freinds-with-benefits situation... he's ok with. How you handle that situation? Let's talk...
A quote from Kaitlyn Herman: We ALL have a purpose. At 25, I'm lucky enough to have found mine. Whether you're 23 or 63, I will help you navigate your life to find that purpose. I will help you live an authentic life that you've only dreamed of living. I will hold you accountable for taking actions to make your dreams become reality. I will guide you in the right direction so that you're living every day with immense gratitude. And lastly, I will help you see life through a lens of love, not fear. Through all of this, you'll be guided to achieve inner peace and true happiness for the rest of your life.
You can find information on her coaching here. Her instagram here.
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I should have left him when this happened but I didn't. I go over some of the reasons why I didn't in this episode.
Sign up for my Master class here; My Key strategies to help you dodge a dysfunctional relationship.
It’s Reka here! In case you were wondering what I really do... outside of posting about my workouts, Champ & Thor, my beautiful Pitbulls and discussing relationships... I am a certified NLP Life Coach aka the Single Girls Life Coach.
In September, after 18 years in radio, I stepped down from my full time job— to focus on what God is calling me to do in this season. I’m called to guide women who need to hear that singleness is not a punishment and you are worthy regardless of your relationship status.
I’m the Founder of Single You Academy & the host of Single You the Podcast.
I help the ambitious millennial single woman discover her worth so that she can stop tying her identity and worth to men and stop being a man pleaser.
I am looking for TEN women who want better when it comes to men and setting boundaries, knowing your self, understanding your worth and what makes a healthy relationship.
If this sounds like you and you are ready to get started, we should definitely connect. I would LOVE to guide you into next year and make 2021 the year you finally feel happy single. Ready? Either comment below or shoot me a DM!
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Elana got married young young and divorced months later. Why?
She was then in a relationship where she didn't even want to kiss this 'good man.' Why?
Her friend Riggs (from episode 21) was always there for here as a FRIEND and that's it. How did they transition to lovers? Was it weird? What conversations did they have BEFORE they got serious? What's different with Riggs than any other man she dated?
Before Riggs she was absolutely just use to dysfunctional relationships. She grew and learned a lot from those relationships. Elana will share with us about all that I just mentioned plus: traits to watch out for in men, traits to look for in men and of course we'll talk about her not wanting kids. I hope you have your note book.
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We often times by-pass the weight that a relationship is putting on us because our misguided hope makes the weight seems light.
Elana has been happily married to Riggs for 10 years now. But before that she was married and divorced quickly. She has had a few dysfunctional relationships. We can learn from women like her, so I asked her to give us 3 things she knew that she didn't want in a husband and she passed on those gems to us.
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(Andy) Riggs was married in his early 20s. That did not last but why?
He has now been married over 10 years. That is lasting why?
We also cover:
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3 Things not to do in a relationship
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3 Things that is keeping their marriage happy.
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They don't have kids. He explains why! (not that he had to but I wanted to ask for you).
(Andy) Riggs can be found on:
IG = RiggsRadio
Facebook = Riggs Radio
His Podcast = Riggs off the Radio
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𝐒𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐮𝐬 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧 𝐛𝐲 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠/𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 ‘𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐃𝐨’… Riggs has 3 things you shouldn’t do in a relationship.
Riggs went from ‘never getting married again’ to ‘happily every after’ with his wife of 10 years (12 years together).
𝐅𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐞 𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐢𝐥𝐲 𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐝 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞.
How are you learning about what makes a healthy relationship? A healthy marriage? Seriously how?
Ps. Yes we discuss that TERRIBLE relationship between Kelly and that damn red power ranger (Andrew) of Bling Empire on Netflix. A dysfunctional relationship doesn't have to be your normal.
(Andy) Riggs can be found on:
IG = RiggsRadio
Facebook = Riggs Radio
His Podcast = Riggs off the Radio
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Sick of being played? Shanice explains how she got ghosted after she drove 2 hours to meet up with a guy who never showed.
Through her story she shares 4 tips on how to better gage if a man is playing you or not.
(1) Stop giving men the benefit of the doubt.
(2) Those stupid rules you make for you not to come off as “annoying” to a man —stop with the rules.
(3) Ask all the questions. Being afraid to ask the questions puts you in situations you didn’t ask for.
(4) Listen to your gut. Stop looking for ‘evidence.’
Why don’t you believe you?
And then because of that story she met her fiancé and yes, he slid into her DMs.
Listen to Shanice has she encourages women who are still in their single season. Our hope is that you find encouragement through her!
Shanice can be found on IG @XOXoShanice and Youtube here.
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I want you to start shifting your mindset in the way that people talk to you and how you talk to people. Start thinking about emotional intelligence and what it means.
Are you watching Bling Empire on Netflix? You know the relationship with Kelly and Andrew, the red power ranger... that's a relationship I don't want you to have sis.
In this Tangible Tip Wednesday we go over another example of what you should NOT allow in your relationship. This is corny sis and I want you to know this isn't apart of the ups and downs of a relationship.
Shanice can be found on IG & YouTube @ XoXoShanice
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Why is their so much pressure in the church to get married? How should we be dating?
"What you believe is what you do." - Pastor Marlando Jordan
The books we suggested you canbuy here.
- The Right One by Frank Martin and Jimmy Evans
- Relationships Goals by Mike Todd
- Relational Intelligence by Dharius Daniels
"So what you believe is what you do. So if somebody says, "I believe it's important to pray and talk to God every day and I believe I should read my Bible every day." Then the lady should say, "Well, do you do that?"
If he says, "No, I don't." So then an honest answer for him would be, "I don't believe it's important to read my Bible and pray every day because I don't do it." Some people try to separate their beliefs from their behavior, and you cannot. You cannot separate your belief from your behavior. - Marlando Jordan
Pastor Marlando’s desire is to bring the message of reconciliation to those who do not have a relationship with the Lord and to establish, equip and empower believers to be radical disciples of Christ. His enthusiasm, passion and love for God and people, brings a unique and bold style of teaching and preaching.
Marlando Jordan currently serves as the Senior Pastor Sozo Church in Kennewick, Washington. Pastor Marlando and his wife Megan live in Pasco, WA, they’ve been married since 2003 and are the proud parents of their two children, Isaiah and Annabelle.
Sis, let's talk. He can't say he loves you and is treating you like yesterday's trash or heck today's. He can not say that. He may want to love you but I'd argue he has zero idea what love is. How many books has he read on love? How many people with happy marriages has he talked to about love? How about you? When you want to be a doctor or a lawyer you know you have to go to school for that. You know exactly where to go but where do you go if you want to be in love? Where are we learning what love is? [ Single You Academy ]
How are we learning to have healthy relationships?
Also you can't say you know your worth and continue to be treated like crap. You are your behavior and your behavior is showing that you allow the revolving door of dysfunctional relationships. Your behavior is showing you- you tie your identity to men and he's your world, not you. What are you getting out of that?
Whenever you're ready to discover your worth so that you can stop tying your identity to men. I'm ready for you.
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Do you value yourself? Do you know who you are sis? Are you proud of you?
Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.
- Proverbs 29:18
In finding your purpose:
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Prayer. Ask God to reveal to you, who you are.
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Searching your heart. Ask yourself the same question.
Who are you in Christ? What is your identity? Who are you outside of dating, a man and your kids?
What are you reading, listening and what company are you keeping?
“Your eye is like a lamp that provides light for your body. When your eye is healthy, your whole body is filled with light. But when your eye is unhealthy, your whole body is filled with darkness. And if the light you think you have is actually darkness, how deep that darkness is! - Matthew 6: 21-23
"So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God." - Romans 10:17
How is your heart?
"It’s not what goes into your body that defiles you; you are defiled by what comes from your heart". - Mark 7:15
"Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a loyal spirit within me". - Ps. 51:10
"For in Christ lives all the fullness of God in a human body. So you also are complete through your union with Christ, who is the head over every ruler and authority." - Colossians 2:9-10
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She writes:
Dig, isolate, ache from being lonely, GLOW.
Like many late 20-somethings I've had my share of failed relationships, the most prominent being an 8 year live-in one. "Common law married". I'm not gonna spend so much time on the particulars, but we weren't meant to be. For 6 months I spiraled and acted out every annoying and "smh" worthy moment that almost every woman has after a heavy breakup. Lately, I've seen it replayed in SO many young women, so I felt the need to write this post in hopes that if you do need it, it'll find you.
When the relationship ended, there was definitely a point in time where I felt that I might possibly die lol. I was 25 so of course that didn't take much, but in my defense, 8 years is a very serious commitment. Real marriage was an actual goal at the time, and after so much time of living together all we were missing was the wedding and the paper work. At first I made the mistakes that I see other women make every single day and I cringe from the memory. I cried, I prayed, I tried to "make myself whole" in hopes that he would see what a "good woman" I was. Constantly trying to prove my worth, thinking I was growing when really I just wanted him to see. I tried to mimic the women's patterns that I thought he desired and felt further and further away from myself. I was lost. My entire identity was wrapped up in who "we" had been and I missed it so much that I didn't even stop to realize that there was no possible way that there was ever a "we". There was hardly even a "me".
She is Dai and you can read the rest here.
Dai can also be found on IG @ _dai_dreaming
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So what is it supposed to feel like when you find your match? Butterflies or no? What I can tell you is this: Yep. Your Vagina Doesn’t Actually Know if He’s The One or Not sis.
Let’s stop leaning heavy into those butterflies. I have a problem when it comes to following your heart with out logic and strategy behind it.
Listen to Daishaundra as she explains the difference between when she had butterflies in the beginning of dating her abusive ex and what she felt in the beginning of dating her husband Bryan.
Find Dai on IG @ _dai_dreaming
Blog: www.daidreaming.net
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Society will definitely make us think so. That only true happiness, joy and fulfillment come inside of a relationship. Cameo and I (Reka). use to think this way but we don't anymore.
Life moves in the direction of your most dominate thought and when we thought that way we ended up trying to cook our way, force our way, serve our way, submit our way into a man’s heart to prove our worth…. Have You been There? Trying to get out of that cycle?
Sick of the emotional heavy-lifting that you do to love men who aren’t capable of loving you back in a healthy way. Oh you're sick of that too? Then this episode is so for you.
We also touch on what we gave up when we were dating these kind of men and also how we're thriving as a single woman now. We love being single and until the RIGHT man comes along, we'll be fine being single.
- Cameo can be found via IG @ thegoodgirlpodcast
- wavve.link/thegoodgirlpodcast
- Podcast = The Good Girl Podcast
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𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐞 compromise 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘩𝘪𝘮 𝐢𝐧 a 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩?
You often enter into relationships trying to cook your way, sex your way, force your way, serve your way, submit your way into a man’s heart to prove your worth…. don’t you?
All to be chosen by a man who sat back and reaped the benefits of your affections. Are you sick of that?
Oh and how about the emotional heavy-lifting that you do to love men who aren’t capable of loving you back in a healthy way. Aren’t you sick of that too?
This is a conversation between Cameo and I about how we use to operate in relationships and if you still do — no judgment — but stop. Here’s why...
- Cameo can be found via IG @ thegoodgirlpodcast
- wavve.link/thegoodgirlpodcast
- Podcast = The Good Girl Podcast
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Grab my FREE SYA mini = 3 writing prompts to help you Discover Your Worth + the How to Get Over Him [video + worksheet ] LINK: bit.ly/SYAMini
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Xo Reka
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[ Your Wednesday Tangible Tip ]
A man will get himself together for the right woman... Do men really change because we want them to?
I mean you’ve been there right girl? Trying to wait it out— waiting on him to change. Not wanting to quit “because he’ll change for me eventually.” I can love him into changing, exhausting and extending yourself for what? Definitely not reciprocity.
This is a conversation between Cameo and I about how we use to operate in relationships and if you still do — no judgment — but stop. Here’s why...
“I don’t want the performance part of you. I want the real you.” - Cameo King
- Cameo can be found via IG @ thegoodgirlpodcast
- wavve.link/thegoodgirlpodcast
- Podcast = The Good Girl Podcast
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[ Your Wednesday Tangible Tip ]
She writes: I met a guy last weekend and we slept together. He hasn't text me back until now. We had a good time, he kissed me (first) and it was in front of someone who's flirting with him while I was beside him. I just felt over the moon because no one has ever done that for me. But I realized he never asked me any questions about me. So it got me thinking... does he want to know about me or did he just want a one night stand. I didn't want to be his one night stand, my intention was to date. I don't have to be in a rush for commitment but I like the guy. I don't have any expectations but I still want to keep an open mind for whatever could potentially happen. Should I text him again. Uuugh I'm frustrated because I don't know what to say and what to do? I felt bad for easily sleeping with him.
Me: It's so easy to get excited when a man 'picks' us but we have to slow down our feelings. "feeling over the moon" doesn't mean he's the guy for you/us. We have to slow that down. Unfortunately he sounds like a guy who just wants to have you around when he has time. He'll string you along and give you just enough to keep you "interested." Don't ever let a man save you for later. One thing I know for sure after truly understanding that Singleness Is Not A Punishment is that there will be NO confusing when you come across a man that is 100% interested in you/no games.
Find DJ on IG @ goodwillstunting_
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[ Your Wednesday Tangible Tip ]
She Writes Am I wrong for getting upset that my man keeps liking other women's photos on Instagram? Or upset that he follows 90% predominantly women? It causes a lot of strain on our relationships...
Plus. The ol' "do I give him my passwords because he asked" dilemma. I use to think why. not "I have nothing to hide." In fact I did and it never changed his trust in me. He still accused me of being sneaking and cheating. What I've found out is that most people who are accusing you of things heavy, it's because their doing it. I found out later he was cheating and that was my introduction into perfection and understanding what it means.
Mike Zacchio can be found here: IG = Mike_Zacchio
- Quotes and stuff: @hopefulromanticlove
- Co-host of @newpodontheblock
- Books and other platforms here: linktr.ee/mzacchio
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Topic: Am I wrong for getting upset that my man keeps liking other women’s photos on Instagram?
Or upset that he follows 90% predominantly women? It causes a lot of strain on our relationship.
Mike Zacchio can be found here:
IG = Mike_Zacchio
• Quotes and stuff: @hopefulromanticlove
• Co-host, @newpodontheblock
Books and other platforms here: linktr.ee/mzacchio
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Welcome to Single You the Podcast.
Today's tip: How to Make a Guy Wait for Sex with Mike Zacchio. Your Wednesday Tangible Tip drops every Wednesday at 6a.
The tip comes from Thursday's full episode that drops the next day. New episode of Single You drop on Thursday at 6a.
Tomorrow's full episode? = How to Know When to Leave Him with Mike Zacchio (4 tips).
Happily Listening and please remember to subscribe and rate this podcast! Please.
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- Do not hesitate to message me! That's what I'm here for.
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If you are a single woman who is dating and looking for Mr. right, what is your biggest dating challenge in finding a good guy?
Most women say: the biggest challenge they are liars, cheaters, no ambition, no standards, no morals, 3 (or more) kids and baby momma drama.
But is that true? Should we just throw the whole male species away? Is there still hope... let's talk with my cousin DJ Robinson, he is in fact a male haha
Xo Reka
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Guest DJ Robinson [Wednesday Tangible Tip] [From EP 15]
XO Reka
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Topic: So I’m with this guy who doesn’t work.
He doesn't want a 9-5 but I get up five days a week to work. Then I have school on Saturday while he’s at home in my bed and all he does do is clean and take care of my kids when I’m gone ...am I wrong that I want more?
I hate that I’m doing this, is this really what I deserve? Am I settling?
My name is Jeffrey Whittingham – I am a former Temple University football standout with a burning passion to help others succeed. Being born and raised in Atlantic City, New Jersey, socio-economic hardships and environmental woes made it difficult to remain optimistic about a brighter future. I did not allow those difficulties to deter me from accomplishing my goals. In 2014, I became the first person from my immediate family to graduate from college. Since then, I have been relentlessly pursuing my goals, while at the same time, setting a positive example for the young men and women in my community. The combination of my past experiences, present skills, leadership qualities and intellect, make me uniquely qualified to help mold the youth of our community to grow to their full potential.
Growing up, it was difficult for me to see past my immediate circumstances. Fortunately, football provided me with the optimism I needed to see beyond my present circumstances and elevate to the next level. My motivation to excel in football stemmed from my desire to prove to others in my community that it is possible to excel, despite growing up in an economically depressed area with little to no positive role models. Today, my mission is to motivate the youth of my community to excel, despite any adversity and/or obstacle in their way. I want to be the light and optimism for someone who may not have the means to find it on their own
Jeff can be reached @_jeffstruth
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[ 𝗛𝗲𝗹𝗽 ] 𝗦𝗼 𝗜'𝗺 𝗪𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗚𝘂𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗗𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻'𝘁 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸. 𝗔𝗺 𝗜 𝗪𝗿𝗼𝗻𝗴 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝗜 𝗪𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗠𝗼𝗿𝗲?
𝘏𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘦𝘴𝘯'𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘢 𝟿-𝟻 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘐 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘶𝘱 𝘧𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘥𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘢 𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘬 𝘵𝘰 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬. 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘴𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘰𝘭 𝘰𝘯 𝘚𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘦 𝘩𝘦’𝘴 𝘢𝘵 𝘩𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘣𝘦𝘥 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘩𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘦𝘴 𝘥𝘰 𝘪𝘴 𝘤𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘮𝘺 𝘬𝘪𝘥𝘴 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘐’𝘮 𝘨𝘰𝘯𝘦 ...𝘢𝘮 𝘐 𝘸𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦? 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘐’𝘮 𝘥𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴, 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘐 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦? 𝘈𝘮 𝘐 𝘴𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨?
XO Reka
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Why do you keep falling for the bad guy?
Maybe because time is moving and you feel like you’re not?
Have you thought "I’m happy for all of my friends who are married with families but I can’t help but feel like sometimes life is passing me by."
Am I taking the words right out YOUR mouth girl?
You feel stuck and you thought ➡️ having the kids and getting married would make you happy?
It didn’t and now you’re divorced and you know something is missing but you can’t figure it out. You want better for yourself and don’t know where to start.
🙋🏽♀️ Start with my online coaching program.
✤ I’ll sit in the pain with you and help you heal that part of you.
✤ I’ll sit in the confusion and help you gain clarity.
✤ I’ll sit in the unhappiness with you about being single and I’ll guide you to joy.
You’re worthy girl regardless of your relationship status. Let me show you.
I want you to know that it’s ok that your life doesn’t look like everyone else. You can live a worthwhile life full of joy, adventure, and happiness.
In order to live that joyous lifestyle you’re going to have to design your life on purpose and I can help you do it. Just like I’ve done mine.
In Single You Academy -- my online program we can transform the life you thought you had to live into a life that you’re owning and excited about. Let’s create for you your own life manual!
Would you like to start today?
XO Reka
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D. Irvin's IG = @therealsupad
Atlanta, GA (October 2020) - D’wayna Irvin, affectionately known as “D. Irvin”, is a woman who certainly lives up to her moniker. A product of New Orleans’ 9th Ward, the polarizing entrepreneur, influencer and author has experienced it all – from crime, fast money and near-death experiences, to betrayal and heartbreak – all in the name of love and loyalty. However, that way of life nearly destroyed hers, until she made a change for the better. Now, she shares her rollercoaster story of tragedy to triumph in her raw and uncut new book, When A D.A.B. Spills the Tea.
What is a D.A.B, you ask? It is an acronym for the kind of woman often celebrated in rap songs. A woman who, against her better judgment, stays loyal and handles the dirty work for her significant other who usually ends up behind bars. It is the woman who sticks by a man’s side through good, bad and worse, jeopardizing her own future in the process.
Yet, unlike in the movies, that loyalty typically doesn’t pan out the way many women imagine.
“Love is a dangerous game, especially when living the street life," said D. Irvin. “One of the biggest lessons I learned is to always put yourself first, because that is what others will do. You may be second to them, but you will never be first.”
D. Irvin Came to this realization after finding herself entrenched in a long romantic relationship with a drug dealer. Like many young women in urban environments, she was mesmerized by the nice cars, clothes and money the lifestyle afforded. Also, this particular man was charming and manipulative. She risked her life for him, delivered packages for him, stayed loyal as he served time for nearly a decade – only for him to betray her. It was the darkest moment of her life.
Suffering from anxiety, depression and even suicidal thoughts, D. Irvin had to rebound. She sought therapy to address her mental health, discovered her self-worth, and ultimately used the hustle she learned from the streets to chart her own course as a successful entrepreneur. Now, her goal is to show other women from similar situations how to do the same.
When A D.A.B. Spills the Tea is about revealing the truth about life and love for a woman in the street life. Rarely are there happy endings with money, marriage and a family. Therefore, the book emboldens women to claim their power, set the standards for their own lives and to become real bosses by understanding how to make things happen for themselves.
D. Irvin is bold and transparent in the book, revealing things most people might be ashamed of, however, she is a firm believer that one must come to grips with their past in order to move forward. Either way, readers will be shocked, entertained and educated by the hard truths and wisdom on each page.
“A ‘D.A.B’ is a female that is willing to go above and beyond the call of duty to gain whatever it is she feels is attainable to her. It is more than for a man or in a relationship. It could be for your business,” D. Irvin said. “I want women to learn how to boss up on their own and take control of their lives. If they can learn from my story, I am happy and I have reached my goal.”
To keep up with news and updates on everything D. Irvin, follow her on Instagram at @therealsupad. Her book, When A Real DAB Spills the Tea is available now and can be purchased on Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08G7ZVW6N/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1.
xo Reka
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Learn from her story! One of the things that helped me heal from the pain I inflicted on myself by being with my abusive ex, was finding and learning from women who had been through what I went through. I loved feeling like I wasn't the only woman who made 'stupid' decisions for a man. I also was able to learn from those women.
Here is what Stacey J. wrote on her Facebook:
I became single after a 5 year relationship ended in January 2020. What I once thought would end in married ended in a breakup.
The breakup was needed in order for me to save myself. Not because of physical reasons but to save my mind, protect my peace, confidence and self esteem.
There's nothing like being in a relationship that looks like love to later realize it's narcissistic control. No one thrives in this kind of relationships and it quickly becomes toxic.
The sad part is we are the ones that allow it! Yep girlfriend it's on you. We stay because we feel like things will change, get better, we pamper them and their feelings sometimes ignoring our own.
But once I was gone I know the universe heard my internal cry and it delivered. That's when operation heal Stacey J began. I had to learn to accept, understand my role in this and rebuild my confidence.
Now I'm happy to say that I am internally happy and my life has exploded like never before!! I have peace, joy and I've tapped in to my higher self. I am not bitter I'm better and I welcome love again but when the universe knows I'm ready. I have learned to truly enjoy me.
Stop second guessing yourself girl and know what you want, deserve and willing to give without giving up yourself.
Stacey's IG = @therealstaceyj and @live365.radio
www.live365empowerment.com
I hope in this episode you learn how to stop guessing yourself!
XO Reka
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This is a Personal Story of mine and my intention is to always help you feel less alone, while inspiring you to choose you.
xo, Reka
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How you answer this?
"Like how do I not love myself? Because I'm in a relationship where I’m unhappy? That automatically defines me as not loving myself? Why do people say that? I feel like I'm down to do anything. You wanna go across the country? Let’s go, you wanna go to the casino at 3a? I’m down. Help me understand?"
xo,
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James is back! He's married and I always loved talking with him about relationship and marriage.
I know what I went through and I share my story as well as the stories of my clients. 𝗪𝐡𝐲? So you see you’re not alone.
𝐂𝐚𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐲? This was just a strategy call.
𝐌𝐞: 𝐃𝐢𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡𝐲 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬?
Her: No. My parents never really talked with me about that sort of thing. Honestly, I think I learned most of what I learned about relationships from television.
And I realized later that I was really young and they were... all the characters in the shows were like in high school.
So they were all like dating and having relationships. And I couldn't wait to be 16 and have a boyfriend.
I can't remember a time, like since I was six years old, where I didn't have a crush on somebody or wasn't thinking about boys.
Being single is difficult for me because I have to think about things other than a relationship.
The thing that I most wanted in life was always a relationship. That was the number one thing for me ...that completed my life.
𝐌𝐞: 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐈 𝐝𝐨 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐨 𝐚 𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐢𝐝 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞.
How you want to show up in this world. I want you to do that before you decide to invite a man into your life again.
He's not going to complete you or bring clarity to your life.
When we don't know who we are and we get into a relationships… we get wrapped up in the guy.
Which obviously didn't work out well for you... I bet when he'd leave you, you felt like..
"Okay, well what do I do now?"
Her: Yea
𝐌𝐞: 𝐄𝐱𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐥𝐲. Then Single You is for you...
I help women discover their worth. So that you can stop tying your identity to men and stop being a people pleaser.
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Are you ready to join Single You? Book your strategy call today by sending me a DM!
xo, Reka
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Learn from her story! One of the things that helped me heal from the pain I inflicted on myself by being with my abusive ex, was finding and learning from women who had been through what I went through. I loved feeling like I wasn't the only woman who made 'stupid' decisions for a man. I also was able to learn from those women.
I hope you learn from Jackii's story!
Xo, Reka
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www.single-you.com
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𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗻𝘀𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗾𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻?
Reka I’ve been meaning to ask you but in my time of confusion I want to move forward. but my actions are showing me— I just want to stay stuck.
You’ve answered the question so many times however I still can’t seem to understand it. I know what I am but why can’t I believe it?
I know I am beautiful inside and out, I am kind, outstanding, funny, loving, wise. I fell in love with a toxic person.
However I know my worth and value but it seems like I don’t because I let this guy miss-treat me?
After 10months with him — I am tired of the emotional abuse.
Me: So you said... "I’m tired of emotional abuse” — so I would assume you no longer want that relationship or in any relationship ..true?
Her: Exactly but I’m stuck
Ok listen... to this podcast!
xo, Reka
IG = justmeReka
www.single-you.com
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The Fall Out of Those Entanglements. That time I talked about Will & Jada and cheating with James. James was my co-host at the time on Power 99.1. While I no longer do the morning show on Power 99.1 -- I kept all my juicy audio.
xo, Reka
IG = @justmeReka
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𝙄 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙢𝙚 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙒𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙎𝙢𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙅𝙖𝙙𝙖 but this whole “entanglement” thing has got me thinking about YOU. How even Beyonce and Jay Z are normalizing that cheating is just the price of admission to a marriage.
It's not. I'm calling bullshit, sweetheart.
I don't want you to idolize them. It worked for them. Maybe they are happy, but the fact is you just don't know.
I don't want you thinking...
“Well that's just normal, I mean, he's going to cheat on me and that's okay." - It is not okay.
If you don't want that in your relationship, you don't have to have that. 𝙏𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙞𝙨 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙧𝙞𝙘𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙖𝙙𝙢𝙞𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙖 𝙜𝙤𝙤𝙙, 𝙩𝙧𝙖𝙣𝙨𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙢𝙖𝙧𝙧𝙞𝙖𝙜𝙚.
There are literally people in happy marriages who haven't been cheated on, and they've been married 20, 30 years.
That’s not what HAPPY married people mean by marriage is hard...
As your coach, I bring married people to talk to the women in Single You. Whether it be in the group coaching or one-on-one, because what do I know about being married, right?
That's why I bring you the experts.
𝙎𝙩𝙤𝙥 𝙣𝙤𝙧𝙢𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙯𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙘𝙝𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜.
𝙎𝙩𝙤𝙥 𝙞𝙙𝙤𝙡𝙞𝙯𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙘𝙚𝙡𝙚𝙗𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙚𝙨.
Are you sick of this cycle ⬇️
Your relationship = butterflies ⭕️ dating/sex ⭕️ he says everything right ⭕️he cheats ⭕️ you’re pissed 😡 and he apologizes ⭕️ you forgive him/trust is broken/you feel like 💩 👉🏽 and the ⭕️ continues..
Or you leave him but then the ⭕️ happens with the next guy...
If you are sick of tying your identity to men, and you're ready to discover your worth, and stop being a people pleaser.
If you want to know the difference between a healthy relationship versus an unhealthy relationship.
Also, What does marriage is hard mean?
Ready for change and love yourself? DM me right now.
And the next thing you and I will do, we will get on a 15 minute strategy call on Zoom at no cost to you.
If that’s your story, you can relate. DM me sis.
Xo
Reka = @justmeReka
The Single Girls Life Coach
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I remember when I posted my first blog back in early 2018. I did it the midst of full shame of what I allowed a man to put me through but I knew that my story would be healing for me AND other women.
I didn’t know then I would create Single You but 𝙄 𝙠𝙣𝙚𝙬 𝙄 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙝𝙚𝙡𝙥 𝙖 𝙬𝙤𝙢𝙖𝙣, 𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙬𝙤𝙢𝙖𝙣, 𝙖𝙣𝙮 𝙬𝙤𝙢𝙖𝙣 𝙤𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙄 𝙟𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙬𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝. I knew that sharing my story and pushing aside shame, was the formula.
“𝙋𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙖𝙡𝙬𝙖𝙮𝙨 𝙖𝙙𝙢𝙞𝙧𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙜𝙩𝙝 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙬𝙚𝙖𝙠𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙚𝙨” - 𝘾𝙝𝙖𝙙 𝙑𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙝
Cut to 2020 and I’ve helped MORE than just one woman...
I have a story I want to share with you about one for my clients. Let’s see if YOU can relate to one of my clients. I continue to share knowing if you see you in me and/or my clients, then you will..,
- Feel less alone 2. Know I can help YOU
Me: So why Single You? Why do you want to work on yourself now?
Her: I date the same type of men because, like you said before, it's like I'm happy that they chose me. So it's like, 'Oh, you chose me. Okay, I'm going to sacrifice what I know I don't want to sacrifice just because you chose me.
𝙄 𝙥𝙪𝙩 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙣𝙩𝙤 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙨𝙚 𝙜𝙪𝙮𝙨, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙄 𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜. 𝘼𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙞𝙩'𝙨 𝙡𝙞𝙠𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙟𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙫𝙚, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙄 𝙜𝙚𝙩 𝙨𝙚𝙩 𝙖𝙨𝙞𝙙𝙚 𝙡𝙞𝙠𝙚 𝙄'𝙢 𝙩𝙧𝙖𝙨𝙝. 𝙄'𝙢 𝙨𝙞𝙘𝙠 𝙤𝙛 𝙞𝙩.
Can you relate to that story? Is that you.
Cut to July 2020
Her: Reka, I've been slowly catching up with the videos, the curriculum, and I'm halfway through relational intelligence. I'm using your info in my daily life.
I dated another guy just recently, but I realized his behavior and continued to entertain him for a bit. However, 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙖𝙨𝙩 𝙄 𝙬𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙗𝙚 𝙘𝙡𝙪𝙚𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙢𝙮 𝙗𝙚𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙞𝙤𝙧. 𝘽𝙪𝙩 𝙣𝙤𝙬 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙝𝙚𝙡𝙥, 𝙄 𝙖𝙢 𝙢𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙘𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙢𝙮 𝙗𝙖𝙙 𝙗𝙚𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙞𝙤𝙧. Joining Single You, joining your group was one of the best investments I made in 2020.
XO, Reka
The Single Girls Life Coach
www.single-you.com
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AskReka How did you concluded that your relationship was abusive? I think it's a word women struggle with because we're programmed to think abuse is JUST physical abuse.
Do you listen to my podcast and you think "I need more. I wish I had steps".... that's exactly what "Single You" is.
What is “Single You”?
An online community and resource for single women. The primary purpose of “Single You” is
to get you to a place of loving yourself. Knowing your worth and understanding that you’re
worthy regardless of your relationship status.
How do I help you with the above?
By providing you real life conversations with women you can relate to via a curriculum, experts, workshops, tips, a community and more.
Xo, Reka = @justmeReka
www.single-you.com
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Dude they made me cry!! Getting “flowers” for the gift my Grandmothers, parents and God gave me weird. I’m supposed to be doing this but I really really really do appreciate the love— especially the day (doing mornings) before my last day on Power 99.1
I’ll have a letter for the Tri Cities that I’ll read on air tomorrow at 7a (September 10, 2020)
xo, Reka
I help women discover their worth. So that you can stop tying your identity to men and stop being a people pleaser!
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I didn't have a strong relationship with God until I hit about 34. I always believed in God and grew up in the church but (for me) because I didn't seek a true relationship with God. Because I didn't question the things I was told and not told, I began to rush and try to get into relationships. Which sadly set me up for failure. I was so naive and I thought that when a guy told me he loved me, he meant it.
Relationships don't have a "user manual" or do they?
Why did I stay? Why did I allow a man to treat me this way and what did I learn from it? Let's talk...
"When you learn, you teach" - Maya Angelou
Singleness is not a punishment. It's not a season to endure, it's a life and a life worth living. You just have to design it!
xo,
Reka = @justmeReka
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AskReka
👉🏽 Hey Reka, I have a question or thought that’s been on my mind, I find myself asking often, what’s worth it? So in relationships now days we have a list of red flags, which is a good tool, I feel like these times we are quick to tell people to leave relationships, to see the red flags and walk away.
Which I understand completely but we also see a lot of comments about “people don’t stay and work it out anymore” ...so where’s the line between making a relationship last for years and working thru differences and humanly character “flaws” mistakes etc.
What's the difference in ...see a red flag and don’t waste your time, you deserve better mentality or work thru it. How do you know what to walk away from and what to use as growth in your relationship. When do you stay ---instead of walking away? I feel like the advice to “leave” is so quick these days, I’d love to hear your thoughts on it.
xo
Reka = @justmeReka
www.single-you.com
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I intend to help you see that you have authority over your life.
No one gives us a manual when we are born. No one gives us a book of instructions for our birthday. Which is weird because don't you have an instruction manual for your TV, your car, and everything else that you do not know how to use at first.
We're born, for the first time and we're just expected to be great at being human. We're given a name and expected to know how to operate as such.
How are we supposed to know how to operate?
How are we supposed to know how our mind works?
How are we supposed to know how our body works?
We do learn from others but the problem is most of us are learning from others that never took the time to learn themselves. For the most part they probably never knew you could learn "yourself", so, it's not their fault.
Psychology 101 should be taught to us. We should have mandatory 'learn-how-to-be-a-human' classes starting at age 2.
Like drivers-ed but human-ed. I'm not an expert at anything but I did start getting curious about life… my life. Which lead me to ask questions like:
Why do we do the things we do?
Why do we NOT do the things we want to do?
That researching is paying off for me and I thought: what if I could help other women create their manual for their life?
“When you learn, teach…” - Maya Angelou
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Xo, Reka = @justmeReka
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