The Introverted Believer: Recent Episodes
Kass Fogle
We cut through the small talk to discuss all things introvert, especially around work, relationships and faith.
Introverted children are not easy to discipline. If they're feelers, they may be adept at emotional sabotage or withdraw for fear of getting hurt. If they're thinkers, they may try to outwit you or silently plot their next move.
Kids are clever, lest we forget and soak up knowledge like a sponge. Don’t ever underestimate your kids.
Have you ever gone stir crazy because your kids are completely okay with their behavior? Maybe your kid is an ISTJ and says, "Yeah, I pinched her. She broke the rules and there are consequences. You were in the shower, so I took care of it. I don't understand - is there a problem?" Or maybe their INFP's "Yeah, I pinched her. She was being a little jerk and I had to make sure she didn't touch my treasures ever again!"
You could say, "go to your room!" but they'd probably like that. Or you could demand they answer you right this minute, but chances are, they haven't had time to process what just happened. I want you listen to this episode (or read the blog) and consider these 4 alternatives to some legacy discipline that may not be working.
Hey, help the rest of the parents out - how have you helped your introverted kids see the consequences of their actions? Drop a comment in the blog or contact me at kass@kassfogle.com
About Kass Kass Fogle is an award-winning author, speaker, blogger and podcaster. She has twenty years in Human Resources and holds two degrees and certifications in HR. When she’s not mind-mapping or list making, you can find her suffering at the local coffee-house meeting writing deadlines.
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Life Coaching. It feels like such a broad term. I spoke to a few Christian women and there is a lot of hesitation to learning more. They're afraid it's some sort of mysticism or self-help approach just to feel better. As if a little self-care or soul-care somehow vanquishes the importance of the Cross.
As if.
Today I talk with Joyce Zook, who helps frustrated Christian women get back on track in their marriage.
Yep, that's right. Christian Women get frustrated. And perturbed. And desperate. We roll our eyes with the best GIF'S the internet has to offer. But we know where the power and source of our marriage's redemption lies and we go after it hard.
Enter Joyce. She helps us frustrated women build a life of love we can truly treasure. She helps women love their lives and their marriages through marriage and life coaching.
Today, she talks to us about marriages between introverts and extroverts and what it's like to work through some of those strange (and frustrating) challenges so we don't feel overwhelmed. She shows us how we honor God through our gifts and talents and how to appreciate our differences.
Are you an introvert married to an extrovert? Let's see what Joyce has to say about learning to love your best life.
You can find Joyce on her website at https://joycezook.com/.
Joyce Zook is an award-winning author, international speaker, Board Certified Advanced Christian Life and Marriage Coach. She is a weekly video blogger and the author of 12 Keys for Marriage Success, Priorities for Life, and God and Your Closet. Joyce speaks, teaches, and coaches women to love their lives and their marriages while creating success and balance. In the last twenty years, her ministry has grown with the help of the internet, telephones, and video conferences to reach people across the United States and in foreign countries.
Weddings intended for the Spring or Summer of 2020 are on hold…or even cancelled until further notice. With spring high school and collegiate sports ripped from the young men and women who’ve trained their entire lives for that final walk across the filed, court, and stage, and with proms, graduations, and pro sports cancelled, people are feeling cheated and robbed of some of life’s most captured moments. Few of these compare with the cancellation or postponement of a wedding.
Many brides start planning their wedding from the first time they see a wedding dress in the JC Penney Catalogue (showing my age). Brides have binders, project management software and websites to organize their BIG day. Few things require the time, energy and money than a wedding.
Sometimes brides and grooms feel like they have no choice (job relocation, military status, family member health), but to continue with a ceremony. Small, private ceremonies following all the rules may be allowed - call ahead for your marriage certificate as government office hours are drastically reduced or closed.
Brides are also racing to reschedule all their vendors six months or more out. Dresses appropriate for summer weddings will now require a stole or cape for a winter wedding.
And some are cancelling altogether until they know this will pass.
It is an emotional time, but if you take nothing away from this episode but this, please remember, the marriage is the sacred vow, the reception is for fun. Be confident in what God has brought together and the rest will work out.
For information on CDC guidelines for large gatherings visit this website: CDC on Large Gatherings
About Kass
Kass Fogle is an award-winning author, speaker, blogger and podcaster. She has twenty years in Human Resources and holds two degrees and certifications in HR. When she's not mind-mapping or list making, you can find her suffering at the local coffee-house meeting writing deadlines.
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Prom. Graduation. Dual-Credit Transfers. College Applications. Dorm Room Hoarding. Spring-break memories to last a life time. Yearbook signatures. Pulling out of the parking for the final time. Walking down the hall for the final time. Saying, "thank you" for the final time to the teachers and staff who encouraged you.
Saying Goodbye Our high school seniors are missing out on so much right now. The final football game, the final basketball game, the final pep rally, finals, the final walk through the hallway…our seniors were robbed of those moments. They didn’t get a chance to say a proper goodbye. They won’t get to experience some of the little finals that help ease the transition to adulthood – instead, it was ripped from them without anything to fill in the emptiness it left or a covering for the wound it created.
An Interview with My Daughter Today I talk with my daughter, Ann, a high school senior about her thoughts and feelings about being a senior and missing out on so many "finals." I'm so proud of her and how she is handling this, but know there are a mixture of emotions too.
What's a Parent to Do? Parent's, we can never talk to our kids too much. Though mine is as laid back as her father, and I hear her when she says it's all well and good, I still ask, nearly every day how she is doing. More importantly, I listen and observe. I see her making the most of it by redocorating her room, baking and serving others. I hear the joy in her voice when she talks about her day. And while I don't pretend she is 100% okay with the situation, I am in tune and watchful.
I hope you enjoy the interview with Ann - I think she did a great job! If you agree, would you leave a review? I'd appreciate that so much!
About Kass
Kass Fogle is an award-winning author, speaker, blogger and podcaster. She has twenty years in Human Resources and holds two degrees and certifications in HR. When she’s not mind-mapping or list making, you can find her suffering at the local coffee-house meeting writing deadlines.
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One thing this dreaded Corona Virus is not delaying is growth of our children. Whether your child is moving out this year or graduating high school, parents still have time to pass along some important life lessons.
In this episode, I discuss 4 ways we can promote a healthy flight for kids leaving the safety net of all they know.
While I can tell you story after story about each of my children's experiences, only they truly know how those experiences made their grow or left them at risk for future temptations.
So let's talk growth. How can we help?
Set Expectations While this may seem like a big NO BRAINER, there is one very important question we should ask ourselves to make sure setting expectations leads to growth and not rebellion.
Give Feedback They want to be treated like adults, but are not ready for the financial, spiritual, or emotional responsibility that comes along with that. Even if they are mature for their age, they do not have the benefit of time on their sides.
Listen to why we should be their, "NO" and the one thing I recommend NOT doing at this tender time in their lives.
Memorialize Traditions At this age (around 17-22), they're trying to decide how they fit into the family dynamic as they possibly consider starting their own. EVEN if they are young, they are visualizing their future and thinking of themselves as mothers, fathers, wives and husbands. I share a conversation I had with my son about the traditions he would take with him, which he would stop and which he might start on his own. You might be surprised by what you hear if you ask your young adult the same questions.
Model Personal Growth What values is your young adult living by? Be careful about making assumptions here...have they written out the 3-5 values they will take with them that will help them make meaningful decisions? You can contribute to the personal growth of your child so meaningfully if you coach them toward choosing personal values and how to make daily choices and major life decisions based on those.
Now, let me ask - do YOU have those 3-5 values that you use? Has your child seen you use those values or heard you discuss those values when choosing a new job, buying a house, choosing how to worship, deciding where to volunteer your time or financial resources? Modeling this behavior out loud and letting them shadow the process of these decisions can go a long way to building their decision-making confidence.
That's it! They're ready to leave the nest.
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If you have any questions about today's episode or have suggestions for a future episode, you can email me at kass@kassfogle.com
About Kass
Kass Fogle is an award-winning author, speaker, blogger and podcaster. She has twenty years in Human Resources and holds two degrees and certifications in HR. When she’s not mind-mapping or list making, you can find her suffering at the local coffee-house meeting writing deadlines.
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We Rock Silence
As introverts, everyone always tells us how quiet we are. At least when we’re not around our tribe. So many of us, especially on social media, are lurking in the background enjoying your posts and memes, but rarely comment on them.
Despite that, I know that sometimes my response, especially to adversity, is not always silent. Oops.
Social media takes on a mind of its own and life is pretty exhausting right now. This virus has changed our world more than we ever imagined. I was cleaning out my inbox today and the progression of the virus can be measured by the contents of my inbox. My social media feed is the same.
Emotions are Increasing While I’ve seen people come together like never before, I’m also starting to see the stress and anxiety of this situation take its toll on folks. Especially online.
I’m starting to see posts that are divisive. “Us vs. them. All or Nothing. You don’t like it – unfriend me.”
Like me, you may be considering one of three responses:
· What I’m Capable of – locked and loaded, you unholster your spiritual guns and go on the offensive.
· What I Could be Doing – Responding with kindness and truth (sound familiar?)
· What I Actually Do - Walk away, because energy is best directed elsewhere
These are the posts where silence is golden.
There is a Time for Speaking and a Time for Silence When people are anxious and put themselves out there, ask yourself if they are being vulnerable or confrontational. Sometimes people are just DONE. They are looking for validation, not counter points, no matter how well the response is structured.
Instead of well-intentioned encouragement, the “truth with kindness” is sometimes received as patronizing.
They don’t want fixes or alternate perspectives. Offering logical reasoning when danders are up only fuel conflict and make us seem narcissistic. They simply need to ‘get it out’ and all the sound reasoning in the world is not going to get them to change their minds or calm them down.
They may simply need validation, so they don’t feel alone in their struggle.
After all, how do we want people to respond when our feathers are ruffled? How well do you respond when someone says, “Well you must not have Jesus in your heart if you feel/do/react/say, X, Y, Z? Let me toss some bible verses at you so you feel better about yourself.” I’m betting not.
Sometimes, words are not what we need?
There are Antidotes! When ears and hearts are shut and anxiety and emotions feed each other, sometimes – and I’m not saying this works in every situation or is the best response in all situations – but sometimes, the kindest and gentlest thing we can do is be quiet and move on.
And don’t we kind of rock quiet?
There is a time to stand up for what we believe in, a time to guard our convictions, and there is a time to let it go.
Use the silence to build up your faith, so that when the time comes, you are spirit filled and spirit inspired to speak things that are edifying to ears that will hear.
Instead of trying find crafty ways to respond to some, choose the perfect bible verse, and think of lofty prayers to turn your hearts, and souls and ears and hearts away from those that are closed, consider using the time instead to build up your faith. Jude 1:20 says, “But you, beloved, building yourselves up on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Spirit, keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of the Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life.”
Resources In case you’re needing some help in the meal planning area, I’ve created a one-week meal plan for you – it includes three meals a day, plus some snacks, a dessert, a shopping list and all the recipes. Check it out here: Kassfogle.com/mealplan
If you have some time at home, you might be thinking of deep cleaning the house. It’s time for some spring cleaning and I’ve created a GREAT resource for you! Visit here: Kassfogle.com/springcleaning
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About Kass Kass Fogle is an award-winning author, speaker, blogger and podcaster. She has twenty years in Human Resources and holds two degrees and certifications in HR. When she’s not mind-mapping or list making, you can find her suffering at the local coffee-house meeting writing deadlines.
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In this BONUS EPISODE, we discuss how to protect the sanctuary and individuality of your personal and working space when we’re suddenly thrown together during the COVID-19 epidemic.
There are a wide range of reactions to the suggestions, mandates, and information being hurled at us at a rapid pace. As Introverts, we really need MORE time and space than what we've been given to understand how this affects us, our families, our neighbors, our jobs, our economy, our children's education, and more.
Given this, it will be vitally important for Introverts to use their powers of self-awareness and dig deep for those resources and talents that make them uniquely qualified in this situation. You know where your awesomness lies and where you will need to rely on your loved ones as we come together in tight spaces to keep life moving. You might be the list-maker, and your spouse the visionary, or maybe you are the executor and your spouse is the meditator - there hasn't been a better opportunity for letting your talents surface.
My guest, Holly Cain has come up with a solution to help roommates, spouses, parents and children come together and make the most of this crazy situation.
RELATED: Find additional tips on coping with Personal Space Invasion by listening to this episode.
I think you're going to love this episode. Creating a Family Plan will help you stay organized and focused on what is important. It's full of ideas, tips, and encouragement. Here's a sample of what you will hear:
- Having a plan limits decision fatigue
- Having a plan limits isolation- your extrovert people need you too!
- Having a plan sets boundaries in unknown territory
- Having a plan gives kids a structure that makes them feel safe in turbulent times
- Having a plan help relieve additional anxiety in an already chaotic time
- Having a plan gives you goals to strive for when you might feel purposeless
I've created some awesome resources for you during this time. Here are some resources that might help:
Deep Cleaning Checklist
One Week Meal Plan
CDC on Managing Stress and Anxiety
Also, in this episode:
- Tips for keeping creating and maintaining structure
- How to establish boundaries with your spouse/roommate
- Accept the challenge!
HOW TO FIND HOLLY:
Links:
- https://hollycain.org - women's minstry blog
- https://caincfo.org - business website
- https://estherlittlefield.com/the-christian-woman-leadership-podcast/ podcast website
Email: cain810@gmail.com
Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/hollyalicecain
Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/hollyacain/
About Kass
Kass Fogle is an award-winning author, speaker, blogger and podcaster. She has twenty years in Human Resources and holds two degrees and certifications in HR. When she’s not mind-mapping or list making, you can find her suffering at the local coffee-house meeting writing deadlines.
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Whether you're rocking it solo or grabbing a loved one,you're going to LOVE some of these ideas for curing cabin fever!
I am NOT crafty so I promise these are easy, but fun ideas for helping you get through the last of winter blues. Because let's be honest, this is FAKE SPRING! We KNOW another cold spell or frost is on it's way in.
Before I was an author, I was the official family event planner, always looking for new and fun things to do with the kids on a shoestring budget. We once started the tradition of FUN HILL - driving up and down a hilly road in a way that made our stomach's drop. Up and down, over and over and over. Then an ice cream cone for a dollar. Fun and traditions do not have to be expensive!
Ecclesiastes 10:18 - Because of laziness the building decays, and through idleness of hands the house leaks.
NOT MY HOUSE! I want my house (both metaphorically and literally) to be fully of joy. This means I only do those things which bring me joy or brings joy to others. The rest is just mess and I'm too old for that now!
And let's not confuse introvert with vampire. Really. One of the reasons I started The Introverted Believer was connect with other introverts of faith so we could be a light to each other. Introvert does NOT mean I cannot seek out and enjoy the company of others. It does NOT mean I don't want to go out into God's beautiful world and enjoy it. At The Introverted Believer, it is my mission to connect Introverts with the beauty God has in store for them away from isolation and loneliness.
So I've combed my imagination, experience, and the internet for a few fun ways you can create new memories with these solo hobbies and activities:
Geocaching, Reality Cooking, finger knitting (or knitting or crochet), sensory blankets, tie blankets, Canning, Diamond Painting (mix between cross stitch and paint by numbers), quilt and donate, macramé, paint pouring (just as it sounds. Use funnels, pour through a sieve, cheese cloth or over a whisk, etc.) , rock painting, plant an herb, puzzles, model cars, detail your car, instrument, temari balls (remember the quilt Styrofoam Christmas ornaments we made in Sunday school?) writing flash fiction, birding (invest in binoculars), history (grab hold of one topic and dig deeply).
I hope you’ve found something to trigger a new hobby this year. Whether you try one of these solo or invite your best friend, let the activity bring you joy and more importantly, let that joy spread to others so you can be a light in their world.
About Kass
Kass Fogle is an award-winning author, speaker, blogger and podcaster. She has twenty years in Human Resources and holds two degrees and certifications in HR. When she’s not mind-mapping or list making, you can find her suffering at the local coffee-house meeting writing deadlines.
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Introduction Whether you observe Lent formally by receiving ashes, giving up something for Lent, refraining from meat on Fridays and other recognition, or observe it informally through devotion and prayer time, Lent is an opportunity to renew our minds and prepare our hearts for an Easter celebration of Jesus' life, sacrifice and rise.
Why Observe? While there is not a direct command to observe Lent (as there is to observe feasts in the OT, for example), there is no doubt that one day you and I will face judgement. Confession is inevitable. I can take this season of Lent to confess and repent today, and prepare myself for the day I will meet THE Judge and have to bow and confess before Him.
We should always recognize our sins as evil and choose to turn from them and repent. But it's hard. It's downright awful, and we never want to think of ourselves as awful people. We don't want to admit that the things we do that are bad are necessarily sinful - they're just tiny little acts of badness that if we put in a funny meme, would all be forgiven.
But in biblical times, people mourned and grieved over the fact that they sinned against God. They felt so remorseful, they ripped their clothes and threw dust and ashes on their head. Now, if we sin, we journal and podcast about it. Which is great, but we do it as a confession to one another without a true confession to God.
Repent, Pray, Fast REPENT * Be self-aware * Jesus is the only way to salvation * There is evil within sin * Your new life requires commitment
PRAY * Breath Prayers * Prayer Cards * Prayers of praise, repentance, intercession, supplication * Pray with friends, family, wise counselors
FASTING What is your motivation? You're giving up chocolate? Awesome. How is it building your relationship with Jesus Christ? Joshua J. Masters does a great podcast series on fasting you should check out. You can listen here: https://joshuajmasters.com/fastingpodcast/
“The absence of fasting is the measure of our contentment with the absence of Christ.” -John Piper. Summary
Whether you formally recognize Lent or simply want to use the time between Ash Wednesday and Easter to RENEW YOUR HEART, I have a Lenten resource just for you. This resource contains 5 devotions, a 40-Day calendar of Lent Activities, ideas for prayer stations to go along with the devotions, and more. You can pick up this packet by going to kassfogle.com/lent This free resource will help guide you through a RENEWAL as you take time to pray, fast, and repent in preparation for the celebration of our risen King.
To purchase a copy of Stormy Omartian's book, Power of a Praying Wife, that I mention during the podcast, click HERE.
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Kass Fogle is an award-winning author, speaker, blogger and podcaster. She has twenty years in Human Resources and holds two degrees and certifications in HR. When she’s not mind-mapping or list making, you can find her suffering at the local coffee-house meeting writing deadlines.
Approaching Conflict Resolution for Introverted Thinkers and Feelers Introduction I'm glad you're joining me for this episode. I love the differences between Thinkers and Feelers and wish I could dedicated more time to studying how they approach life. In this episode, I share some of my experiences with how Thinkers and Feelers have successfully and unsuccessfully approached conflict and how to look toward a peaceable solution, which is biblical and not a personal or consensus solution, which are not always biblical (pride goeth before a fall).
Why Does it Matter? (:30) * Conflict is everywhere - church, work, our homes and SOCIAL MEDIA. Yikes! * Our approach matters - It's a timeless expectation to want a winner and loser * As Introverted Believers, we are called to think and feel differently
The Approach (3:00) Introverted Thinkers are fact driven and can separate the situation from the person.
Not surprisingly, Introverted Feelers are driven by values and human outcomes.
Is it any wonder why arguments arise from conflict?
The Antidote (5:20) Work Toward a Peaceable Solution (6:15) Instead of right and wrong as a thinker and instead of consensus as a feeler, approach conflict with peace as the end game.
Romans 12:9-21 instructs us to put ourselves - our sense of what should or shouldn't be aside, and work toward peace.
Thinkers would do well to consider values and the contributions of others as a data point and Feelers would do well to temper feelings with ideas.
Accept that Resolution Requires Thinking AND Feeling (9:30) Truth with kindness. Simple, yet not. The truth without kindness is robotic and kindness without truth is a fairy tale. A healthy resolution requires by thinking and feeling. It requires John 3:16 AND 17-21.
Summary (12:25) Bearing one another means we are vested in figuring out how we'll work together. When we're not at our best, we gossip and complain, but as Introverted Believers, we are called to listen and forgive. And it's not exactly a suggestion.
About Kass
Kass Fogle is an award-winning author, speaker, blogger and podcaster. She has twenty years in Human Resources and holds two degrees and certifications in HR. When she’s not mind-mapping or list making, you can find her suffering at the local coffee-house meeting writing deadlines.
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NAIL THAT INTERVIEW Aspects of this podcast originally appeared in an article on Introvert, Dear, entitled, "4 Tips from a Hiring Manager to Help Introverts Nail the Job Interview" One of my responsibilities as a Human Resources Manager is to find hard-working, sharp, emotionally intelligent, and savvy folks who care about their coworkers.
No problem.
Except I run into the same mild frustrations that all recruiters face. I’m aghast at the number of ghosting candidates, appalled by outdated resumes and those who knowingly submit them, shocked by answers that lack accountability, and downright dumbfounded by applicants who cannot follow simple directions.
It would seem those who have those basics of the job hunt nailed down would be fiercely adept at the job interview, but even that is not always the case. Too often the bravado of a power handshake or the silky smoothness of personal branding misses the mark for interviewers looking for authenticity and intellect. Enter the introvert’s superpowers.
Employers Are Looking for Introverts The interviewing game has not changed much in many years. Even with the onset of behavioral interviewing, it comes down to finding anyone rather than THE one.
Introverts have GREAT attributes and competencies to offer and I offer 4 tips to help you land that dream job.
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Do Your Research This goes beyond general company research. That's Interviewing 101. Try getting to know your interviewers before you go so you're not stuck in a small talk vortex.
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Emphasize Your Loyalty It's often important for introverts to feel like they are contributing. Be honest about any job hopping and provide examples of your loyalty to previous jobs, projects, friends, etc.
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Watch that Body Language Not sure what to do with your hands? Talk with your hands and show your palms often as a sign of trust. Listen to a few other tips on body language and check out this article on body language from a former FBI agent: Body Language Advice from an Ex FBI Agent and Harvard Psychologist
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Journal to Determine if This is THE Position for you Find out some questions to help you journal your journey!
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Instead of dreading the process, hopefully, you’ve gained some tips so you can sit comfortably in your chair and pull answers from the organized chaos that forms in your complex mind. Introverts, you’ve got this. I’m rooting for you!
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Invading my personal space isn’t only about a sense of claustrophobia, it increases my physical response to overstimulation and triggers anxiety I’d much rather leave alone.
As an introvert, I am keenly aware of my surroundings and protective of my immediate personal space. I can go into fight or flight mode pretty easily, but luckily I’ve learned some key things that help me recognize my triggers. I’ve also picked up an antidote or two that helps me breathe through times when my personal space has been invaded.
To Introvert It's a verb. I have to introvert and find that creative outlet. If I can’t do it artistically through writing and creating, I have to use physical outlets like hiking and kickboxing.
While extroverts often find their outlets through socializing (window shopping or calling on friends after work), Introverts prefer the solitary outlets, like some of those I’ve listed.
Overstimulation This can happen in a couple of different ways, right?
Too much at one time – Let’s say you’re invited to an intimate gathering for an art preview. You have calming visions of what this looks like but as soon as you arrive, your senses are attacked. Of course, visually the art stimulates you, but you’re also attacked by extreme amounts of perfume, direct and blaring lighting, and house music thumping in your soul. It’s too much at one time.
Over a long period of time – Overscheduling and overcommitting yourself to too many activities or projects without the benefit of completion or closure with any of them, and have very little time to rest or recoup can leave you feeling overstimulated most of the time.
Geek Out Introverts are very sensitive to dopamine. Where extroverts process all the stimuli at the art preview by allowing it to trickle in, as introverts, we take in firehouse amounts of it. This gives us the sense of overstimulation.
And when I get that sense of overstimulation – the last thing I want is for people to be all up in my space.
It’s why I don’t like people in the kitchen when I’m cooking.
It’s why I like to drive with the radio off if I’m driving through traffic.
It’s why I like to shut my office door when I’m on a conference call.
For a costume show my husband created a Personal Space Enforcer because I am serious about my personal space.
We all have our stories that reflect times we were overstimulated and had physical reactions to them. I hope you enjoy my story!
There are Antidotes! 1. Choose your personal space, then protect it!
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Choose laughter – take that which affects you personally down a notch or two by laughing.
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Choose gratitude
My favorite Psalm, Psalm 100:
Shout for joy to the Lord, all the earth. 2 Worship the Lord with gladness; come before him with joyful songs. 3 Know that the Lord is God. It is he who made us, and we are his[a]; we are his people, the sheep of his pasture.
4 Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to him and praise his name. 5 For the Lord is good and his love endures forever; his faithfulness continues through all generations.
Summary · I now better understand the stimuli around me and the science of it. I know the triggers that set me into overdrive where I have to take immediate action and those I can ignore for longer times.
· I better understand the outlets that are available and how I need to adapt based on where I am.
· I know I have choices that completely reflect who I am as an introvert and Christian. I don’t have to BE extroverted for a while to get through anything. I have enough introvert superpowers I can tap into to settle down all that physical reactions my body throws at me.
· I know I have God with me. I know all I have to do is whisper, “Jesus” and my heart and mind are renewed so I can focus on gratitude.
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Episode 03:Start the New Year Organized! Interview with Morgan Tyree, Author of "Take Back Your Time" In today's podcast, I talk with Morgan Tyree as she talks about her book, "Take Back Your Time, Identify Your Priorities, Decrease Stress, and Increase Productivity."
Who doesn't want to do that in the new year??
In this episode:
- Learn how to get started - going from hot mess to organizer extraordinaire
- Learning flexibility
- Exterminate the word, "busy"
- Introverts love getting their thoughts on paper and time management is no different. Document your activities, create a time log and transition it all into a schedule.
- Learn about your green, yellow, and red zones
- Understand the difference between personality vs. capacity
We'll also take a peek at the structure of the book and how you can buy it.
Whether you want to organize one task or your entire year, Morgan introduces you to her fantastic strategies in Take Back Your Time.
Order your copy here.
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This is episode 2 of season 1 and I want to talk about surviving chit chat and small talk as you get together for the holidays or any time you are expected to team build, boondoggle, summit or gather at work, with family or at church.
There are Benefits to Gathering * Getting together is not always bad simply because it's draining. We shouldn't deny ourselves the opportunity to grow, nor deny others the opportunity of the gifts God has given us. * Remember how amazing you are. You have a lot to give, not just at Christmas, but every day. * If you're traveling, enjoy the surroundings God has provided for you.
Prepare! * When is your next get together? How many do you have this week? This season? Are there any that are okay to send a regret? * Self care and caring for others * Be yourself and play to your strengths.
Succeed * Hope Notes * Meet ahead of time with the organizer * Talk about causes near to your heart * Compliment people
It's always the right time to lift others up. It's always the right time to be a light. And you don't have to be recharged to do it, nor do you have to put a spotlight on it. But if you know you are going to be in this situation, and if you venture out in December - you will - there are things you can do to avoid being a crab-butt during your next holiday or social gathering.
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Memes · We can easily poke fun at ourselves - but it can go too far!
Stereotypes vs. Characteristics It's easy to label introverts (and extroverts!) with certain characteristics, but we are expected to constantly conform to those characteristics and never stray outside what others expect of us, they become stereotypes.
Stereotypes can box us in where we never grow and change or they can warp our minds where we start to believe the lies people feed us.
And when it takes too much energy to counter the constant judgement and criticism, we become the image people have of us in their own mirror.
It's time to get a new mirror! You were made in GOD's image!
You were made with heavenly wisdom for the fruits of the spirit. Don't ever let yourself be talked into being crude and rude because you think, "that's just how God made you."
I know when my heart lies to me in that way, it is not reflective of Him and I have work to do. How about you?
· Have you felt boxed in?
· Have you found yourself saying, “That’s just how God made me?”
· What negative descriptors can you throw away and instead look in the mirror and see God’s image?
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New Listeners: Start Here - this is an introduction to the podcast. Learn about show structure, content, and engagement. Join me, as an introvert of faith at The Introverted Believer Podcast.
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