Shining In The Gray with Vanessa Rivera: Recent Episodes
Vanessa Sanz-Rivera
In this podcast you’ll find a place where you can rest, feel seen, and be free of any judgment as you go through your faith transition. When the fear and confusion of doubting God, questioning whether the Bible is true, wondering if any of what you believed was real at all- you can come here and let go and know you’re safe and that this space is for you. We can shine in the gray together. If right now anything Christian soundiing is nauseating I’ll give you a heads up: Sometimes I’ll use classic Christian language when talking about my spirituality because it’s the verbage I was used to so it comes naturally...and sometimes I don’t. Most the time it’s just life stuff. All the time I curse. A lot. So maybe get some headphones if you have little ones around.
In the world of the Enneagram there's a huge focus on type and sometimes we can get stuck just idealizing our type vs growing and becoming aware of the patterns that challenge our ability to grow. In this episode Pegah Kadkhodian, Certified Enneagram Practitioner, Life Coach & Yoga Teacher shares what Inner Dynamics are and why they're a vital part of our spiritual growth.
Today's episode is a listener requested topic!
Jealousy
Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook are constantly inundating us with picture-perfect images. The one with the "perfect partner", the "sexiest body", the most" successful influencers", the ones whose "kid probably won't end up in jail one day"... they're always a click away- usually making us feel like "If only I had... " "If only I looked...".
So what do we do? Get rid of social media? Nope.
The truth is, even a life without social media still includes occasional brushes with jealousy/envy.
Today I just talk you through how I've learned to handle dealing with feelings of jealousy and envy.
Music By:
Eric Barnhart
www.ericbarnhart.com
Parenting is not for the faint of heart but it's also not just for parents of children!
In this episode, Community Psychologist Rose Martin discusses how parenting ourselves is the first step in growing as a person and helping raise caring and compassionate kids. You'll learn about separating emotion from behavior and not rushing to judgment of your reactions. Along with some of the philosophical aspects of conscious parenting, Rose provides us with tips and practical advice that will help the child we are raising and the child in us as well!
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Music by:
Eric Barnhart
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Resources Rose recommends:
The Conscious Parent:
Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our ChildrenBy: Dr. Shefali Tsabary
The Whole Brain ChildBy: Dr. Dan Siegel
Romantic relationships and marriage are hard sometimes. Mix that with added social and economic stress and it's possible conditions for really trying times for both people. Rose Martin (a Community Psychologist and counselor) helps us identify what's truly important in making relationships grow and blossom in any season. We discuss making time for ourselves, our relationships, and shhhh sex! This episode, as all SITG episodes, is not child friendly. So pop in your headphones or wait until your kids are in bed and join us!
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Music by: Eric Barnhart
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Resources we discuss:
The Gottman Institute
https://www.gottman.com/couples/
Esther Perel
https://www.estherperel.com/
Chris Heuertz: Enneagram teacher, writer, badass, and all-around good guy. He is co-founder of Gravity, a center for contemplative activism, alongside his amazing wife, Phileena Heuertz. I get to talk with him about quarantine, religion, his new book The Enneagram of Belonging (releases May 19th), NetFlix, and what it's like to be labeled famous, or as he says "infamous".
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Resources:
The Sacred Enneagram
By Chris Heuertz
The Enneagram of Belonging
By Chris Heuertz
Music by: Eric Barnhart
https://www.ericbarnhart.com
The mastermind behind rudeassenneagram on IG. Liz Orr is a student of the enneagram, spiritual direction, and life. As an enneagram 8, the challenger, she pushes the limits with memes and sass to help us see our own shit through laughter.
A basic knowledge of the enneagram is helpful for knowing what's going on in parts of this conversation.
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Music by:
Eric Barnhart
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Life, homelessness, community, war, veterans affairs, life on the front lines, who Jesus is, who we are meant to be... seriously, we talk about everything on this little episode. Diana is a writer, a key relationships officer at Preemptive Love Coalition my favorite organization you guys!, a bad ass, and my new BFF. I hope you're as challenged and encouraged as I was talking to this real life Super Hero.
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Music by:
Eric Barnhart
www.ericbarnhart.com
If we were painfully honest with ourselves how much more beautiful would this life be?
I believe that no matter hard it is to see our own mess that it's worth the struggle. It's worth the pain of growing to see what amazing things can happen and blossom as a result. We can all be assholes but we can be holy too... and we are.
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Music by:
Eric Barnhart
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Lent 2019- I was looking for a Contemplative/Destabilizing practice for this year and decided to make one myself. Join me as we meditate together on some big questions and learn compassion for ourselves and others.
Also, I cuss here and there. So maybe use headphones if kids are around.
So, I have this thing: I can't wait to be an old lady! Mainly because there are trips to the casino, gaudy clothes, and... wait for it!!!! I CAN BE ON THE SMUCKERS LABEL if I make it to 100! Life can not be better than that! The thing is to get there I have to work on some stuff first 1) be awesome 2) love others. One of those is easier than the other. Come along with me as I consider what it'll take to the old woman I want to become.
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Music By:
Eric Barnhart
www.ericbarnhart.com