The Genesis of Shame Podcast: Recent Episodes
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A podcast dedicated to helping Christians speak biblical truth to the shame they experience in their relationships. Sam's hope for you is that you grow in your understanding of how shame impacts you, so you can learn how to better connect with God and others. If you experience fear, hiding who you are, boundary issues, anxiety, and/or depression in your relationships, then this podcast is for you. It’s time to speak truth to your shame!
If your faith sometimes feels like a constant test you keep failing, you’re not alone and you’re not broken. Today we get painfully honest about Christian perfectionism and religious performance, that quiet pressure to pray more, serve more, confess better, and stay “good enough” so God won’t pull away. I unpack how that mindset can sneak in even when we genuinely love Jesus, and how it can turn spiritual growth into a frantic attempt to earn approval.
We explore what the research on attachment to God suggests: anxious attachment tends to increase distress, while secure attachment supports well-being. Along the way, I connect the dots between childhood patterns of rupture and repair and the way we read God’s heart now. When perfectionism runs the show, we can start interpreting setbacks as punishment, feeling rejected after failure, and carrying the exhausting belief that we are never enough. That cycle often shows up as anxiety, shame, and burnout, especially for people who are overextended in visible church activity while quietly neglecting prayer, rest, and the “greater things” at home.
Then we pivot to a different way forward: moving from performance to presence. I share practical practices like honest conversational prayer, learning to rest through Sabbath, simplifying commitments, and using spiritually sensitive mindfulness to reduce shame and build resilience. You’ll leave with questions to help you spot where you feel you must earn God’s love, and small experiments to help you stay emotionally present with Him even when you do less.
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Shame is loud, persuasive, and weirdly “religious” sounding, but it does not make us holy. It makes us hide. Today I’m drawing a clear line between guilt, conviction, and shame, because confusing them can turn the Christian life into a daily courtroom where you feel like you have to prove you deserve God’s love.
We start with simple definitions that actually change how you pray: guilt points to what you did, conviction invites you back into alignment and relationship through repentance, and shame attacks who you are. From there, we talk about how a shame-based identity forms through family dynamics, church teaching, spiritual experiences, and attachment patterns, and how that identity quietly distorts your image of God. When shame is running the show, Scripture can feel like a weapon, confession can feel dangerous, and worship can feel like performing while you’re secretly unworthy.
We also connect this to attachment styles and religious coping. Anxious attachment can drive hypervigilance and overdoing to feel close to God, while avoidant attachment can pull you into distance and self-protection, especially after spiritual abuse or controlling environments. Either way, the end result is often anxiety, depression, and spiritual exhaustion. Then we move toward healing: rest as part of God’s design, and self-compassion as a Christian practice of honesty, kindness, and care that does not excuse sin, but refuses to add self-hatred to suffering.
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If you have ever wondered why you can look “fine” on the outside but feel restless, alone, or on edge inside, attachment might be the missing link. We talk about what secure attachment really is and why it has two essential parts: a secure base that helps you step into the world with confidence and a safe haven you can run to when life hurts. When those are present, we tend to carry a steady sense of worth and a realistic trust in others. When they are missing, we often compensate in ways that look strong but feel exhausting.
We walk through how anxious attachment can turn into people pleasing, over giving, and trying to earn love, and how avoidant attachment can turn into extreme self reliance and emotional shutdown because depending on people has not felt safe. We also connect these patterns to mental health outcomes like anxiety and depression, not as labels to shame you, but as signals that your nervous system is still looking for safety and support.
Faith adds a hopeful dimension. We explore God attachment and the compensation model, where a relationship with Jesus can begin to repair what you did not receive earlier in life. We talk about experiencing God as a secure base and safe haven through prayer, scripture, and strong Christian community, plus how serving others can reduce rumination and help with emotional regulation. If you want a clearer picture of your patterns and a pathway toward security, press play, then subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find this help.
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Your anxiety might not be “too much emotion” it might be an attachment alarm that learned to expect rejection, abandonment, or being overlooked. Dr. Landa sits down with therapist Trevor Hanson to name those fears clearly, separate anxious attachment from generalized anxiety, and get honest about why logic alone rarely changes the way we show up in love.
Trevor shares his own turning point: a corporate layoff at Tesla, a toxic engagement that finally collapsed, and even a broken jaw that left him “jobless, jawless, and without a relationship.” That rock-bottom season pushed him into therapy, then into becoming a licensed marriage and family therapist. Together we unpack why healing cannot be a purely cognitive project. Attachment lives in the emotional brain, which is why you can know you “shouldn’t” spiral and still spiral. What actually rewires the pattern is emotional safety through emotionally corrective experiences, built in real relationships with healthy community, mentors, coaches, and secure “pseudo-attachment figures,” while also doing inner work like self-compassion and meeting unmet needs.
We also clarify the styles people mix up: anxious and avoidant can share the same core fears but use different strategies, while disorganized attachment tends to be more chaotic and trauma-linked. From there, we go deeper into God attachment: surrender, trust, and praying “but if not” as a way to loosen the grip of outcomes and performance. Trevor closes with a direct challenge for anyone questioning their worth: look at the price already paid for you, and let that truth become embodied.
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Calling every painful moment “trauma” can feel validating, but it can also train your mind to interpret normal stress like an emergency. We unpack that tension head-on by defining trauma in a clear clinical sense, exploring where “small t trauma” fits, and explaining why the language we choose can shape identity, relationships, and resilience over time.
We also zoom in on the most consistent finding in resilience research: strong social support changes outcomes. I walk through how to identify one to three safe people, what it looks like to actually receive their care, and the three markers that build a sense of safety in real life: consistency, effectiveness, and timeliness. If your story includes childhood pain, rejection, or chronic criticism, we talk about how repeated experiences can create lasting meaning, and how new repeated experiences can rewrite that meaning.
From an attachment perspective, we connect the dots between anxious, avoidant, and disorganized patterns and the way everyday relational bumps can feel catastrophic. We also make space for what Christians often miss: your body’s response matters, not just your thoughts. Along the way, we offer a grounded Christian counseling framework for reframing hardship, strengthening secure bases relationally and spiritually, and practicing small acts of resilient living.
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A secret doesn’t stay small for long. When one partner is hiding pornography use or sexual addiction, the damage shows up everywhere: emotional distance, confusion, defensiveness, and that aching sense that you’re married to someone you can’t fully reach. We wanted to name that reality clearly and still hold out real hope, so we invited Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith to share their story of betrayal, disclosure, and the long road back to connection.
Matthew and Joanna talk candidly about what kept them stuck for years, what finally brought the truth into the open, and why the betrayed partner often feels a storm of anger, fear, grief, relief, and even hope at the same time. We dig into betrayal trauma, why “just trust me” doesn’t work, and how recovery has to include more than willpower. They explain the concrete supports that helped them rebuild, including weekly therapy, 12-step community, and the kind of honesty that doesn’t depend on getting a good reaction.
We also unpack their practical framework for rebuilding intimacy, what they call the intimacy pyramid: honesty first, then safety, then trust, then vulnerability, then intimacy. You’ll hear why reliability and predictability matter so much, how everyday conflict becomes a chance to practice rupture and repair, and why the goal can’t be forcing your partner to trust you again, it has to be becoming genuinely trustworthy. We close with small daily habits that compound into real change, plus resources from the Rab Smith Team, including their book Building True Intimacy and a free couple check-in.
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If your spiritual life depends on how moved you feel on Sunday, you might be building your faith on weather instead of rock. We sit down with Dr. Tim Yonts to name a problem many Christians sense but struggle to describe: emotionalism in Christianity, where feelings become the test of truth, the proof God is present, or the reason we stay or leave.
We get specific about church culture and the modern “worship experience.” Music is meant to stir the heart, and Scripture is full of emotional honesty, joy, and celebration. But when worship sets lean on endless repetition, predictable emotional peaks, or shallow lyrics, it can train people to chase an emotional high instead of growing in doctrine and theology. We talk about why that matters, how theology-rich worship strengthens both mind and heart, and why the healthiest churches make room for expressive and reflective believers alike.
From there, we dig into the real dangers of emotional reasoning: “I feel peace, so it must be right,” or “I feel bad, so God must be disappointed.” We discuss confirmation bias in spiritual spaces, the temptation to make instant declarations after prayer, and why discernment requires slowing down, examining our thoughts, and testing conclusions. The aim is not to become less emotional, but to become more mature, so our emotions serve our faith instead of steering it.
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If you’ve ever thought, “I know the right things about God, so why don’t I feel close to Him?” you’re not alone. That tension sits right at the crossroads of God attachment, church hurt, and spiritual maturity, and it’s exactly where this conversation goes. I’m joined by Dr. Tim Yonts, a theologian and ethics professor with a background that includes growing up in an extremely strict church culture and then pursuing formal training in biblical studies, divinity, and theology.
We break down what theology actually is (the study of God) and why it’s not reserved for academics. We talk about systematic theology versus biblical theology, how doctrine functions as the church’s core teaching, and what words like orthodox and heresy really mean in everyday Christian life. Along the way, we get practical: where do you start if theology feels overwhelming, what resources can help, and why asking pastors and elders for guidance can protect you from convincing but harmful teaching online.
We also make space for the personal side. Church hurt can shape how we “hear” Scripture, even changing the way we read Jesus’ tone and character. We explore how emotions belong in a faithful life with God without becoming the test of truth, and why a balanced approach helps believers grow from spiritual infancy into steady, grounded maturity. If this helped you, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s rebuilding their faith, and leave a review with the theology question you want us to tackle next.
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Addiction doesn’t usually start with rebellion. It starts with relief. Then relief turns into compulsion, and compulsion starts stealing your joy, your relationships, and even your sense of who you are. I sit down with my friend and colleague, Louis Alvey, an addictions clinician and soon-to-be Dr. Alvey, to put clear words to what so many people live in silence: doing the thing you don’t want to do, again and again, despite the fallout.
We break down a practical definition of addiction, then widen the lens beyond substances to process addictions like pornography, gambling, and endless scrolling, plus the emerging reality of AI “relationships” that can mimic connection. We talk dopamine and the pleasure-pain swing that keeps the brain chasing another hit of comfort, and we wrestle with a Christian framework that sees addiction as misplaced worship without turning every enjoyment into a moral panic.
The heart of the conversation is attachment and shame. If the core belief is “something’s wrong with me,” hiding makes perfect sense, from friends, from family, and even from God. We explore why “just try harder” is often what Christians get wrong, and what actually helps: safe community, truth told with love, and radical honesty that pulls people out of isolation and back into real relationship. We end with a challenge for the church to act like a hospital again, welcoming people who are already sitting in the pews and quietly struggling.
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The “psychology vs theology” fight sounds serious until you realize it often hurts the very people we’re trying to serve. I’m joined by Dr. Jichan Kim, associate professor of psychology at Liberty University and a researcher in forgiveness psychology, to map out a better way: a thoughtful integration of Christian theology, philosophy, and psychological science that doesn’t flatten human suffering or sideline Scripture.
We unpack why many Christians feel suspicious of counseling, where that suspicion comes from, and what gets lost when churches replace soul care with pop psychology or, on the other side, reduce every struggle to “just pray more.” Dr. Kim makes a sharp distinction between science and scientism and explains why data never interprets itself. We also talk about how theology shapes our view of the person through creation, fall, and redemption, and why sin affects every aspect of life without making therapy pointless or faith optional.
Then we go deeper into philosophy, naturalism, and supernaturalism, including why some people try to explain miracles away and why Christians don’t need to fear honest inquiry. We end with a sober conversation about suffering and theodicy, plus practical wisdom for pastors, counselors, and friends who want to avoid cheap answers and offer real empathy.
If you care about Christian mental health, biblical counseling, therapy, attachment theory, and building a more faithful approach to healing, this conversation is for you. Subscribe, share this with someone who’s wrestling with these questions, and leave a review with the biggest takeaway you’re sitting with.
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Rejection doesn’t just hurt. For someone with anxious attachment, it can hijack your story about who you are. We got a listener question from Jameson in North Carolina: he asked a girl out, she turned him down, and now he keeps seeing her at church groups. The hardest part isn’t the no, it’s the constant reminder and the lingering feelings that won’t switch off.
We talk through what anxious attachment does after rejection: the obsession with “why,” the fear of abandonment, and the reflex to assume you caused it because you’re not good enough. Then we get practical about next steps that actually help you heal. Sometimes the mature choice is to treat her like a friend and let time soften the feelings. Other times you need real boundaries and a season of space because proximity keeps reopening the wound. We also explore why repeated rejection can push people into passivity and how continuing to ask people out can be part of growth, not desperation.
Because this is a faith-based podcast, we go deeper into God attachment too. When dating discouragement hits, it’s easy to think God is disappointed in you or withholding something. Instead, we practice honest prayer, grounded self-worth in Christ, and leaning into encouraging community so your confidence isn’t decided by one person’s answer. If this connects with you, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s stuck in the spiral, and leave a review with the biggest takeaway you’re working on.
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Some stories force a question most of us try to avoid: what do you do with God after life takes something you can’t replace? Ashley Glader joins me to share a journey marked by layered loss, starting with her brother’s death in the Columbine shooting when she was 11, and continuing years later with the medical crisis of her newborn son, months in the NICU and PICU, and his death shortly after coming home.
We talk honestly about Christian grief, trauma triggers, and the kind of doubt that doesn’t mean you’re walking away from Jesus, it means you’re trying to trust Him with your whole heart. Ashley explains why believers sometimes rush past pain with quick answers, why “everything happens for a reason” can wound, and what actually helps: steady presence, specific care, and friendship that can hold raw questions without trying to defend God.
You’ll also hear practical guidance for supporting a grieving friend, how marriage can strain when partners grieve differently, and what it looks like to parent children through loss as they revisit questions at each developmental stage. Ashley shares the Scriptures that anchored her, including Joshua 1:9 and 2 Corinthians 4:16–18, and why God’s greatest promise is not prosperity but His presence.
If you’ve been through infant loss, cancer, sudden death, or faith-shaking suffering, this conversation is for you. Subscribe for more Christ-centered healing conversations, share this with someone who needs hope, and leave a review. What part of grief do you wish the church understood better?
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Everyone seems to have an opinion about Jesus right now, but the hard question is the one most of us avoid: are we following the real Jesus or a version we’ve edited to fit our preferences? Sam sits down with Ryan Shieh, author of Counterfeit Christianity and a teacher of evangelism at Liberty University’s School of Divinity, to unpack how cultural Christianity creates people who recognize God but resist surrender.
Ryan shares his own story of growing up around church, mistaking “not doing the big sins” for discipleship, and eventually realizing that head knowledge without changed desires can’t hold up. From there we dig into the Western performance mindset that says you behave to belong, and why the gospel flips it: you belong by grace through faith, then your identity in Christ reshapes your life. We talk about the authority problem behind selective obedience, the danger of “fence riding,” and why “a Jesus you negotiate with is not a Jesus you surrender to.”
We also go deeper into the tension many people feel between the fear of God and the love of God. Ryan explains fear as reverence and awe, not hiding from a punisher, and why God’s justice and God’s love must coexist. Along the way we hit practical discipleship themes like holiness, repentance, gratitude, and the subtle apathy that grows when the gospel becomes familiar. Ryan closes with Jesus’ Matthew 13 picture of wheat and tares, a warning that convincing counterfeits can still lead to spiritual death.
If you’ve ever wondered whether your faith is more culture than Christ, this conversation is for you. Subscribe, share this with a friend, and leave a review to help more people find the show.
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Prayer can sound like a constant stream of words, worries, and requests but what happens when we actually expect a relationship on the other end of the conversation? I sit down again with therapist Maggie McCane to connect everyday communication skills to something many of us forget to practice: communicating with God in a way that builds trust, closeness, and spiritual maturity.
We get practical about why listening is so hard. Most of us don’t hear an audible voice, so we look for God’s guidance through Scripture, a quiet stirring, wise community, and the slow work of discernment. We also talk about the “noise” that blocks connection: busyness, impatience, and the subtle confirmation bias that searches for the answer we already wanted. If you’ve ever wondered how to hear God’s voice, this conversation reframes the goal as creating space for a real response, not forcing instant certainty.
Then we go deeper into honesty, shame, and repair. Maggie breaks down guilt versus shame, why shame makes us withdraw even though God already knows, and how repentance involves both accountability and changed behavior. We connect these ideas to attachment and relationships: rebuilding trust often means choosing consistent actions even when feelings haven’t caught up yet. We also explore boundaries, including learning to receive “no” or “not yet,” and how suffering can become a catalyst for post-traumatic growth rather than isolation.
If this helped you think differently about prayer and connection with God, subscribe for more, share the episode with a friend who’s wrestling with faith and communication, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What part of communicating with God feels hardest for you right now?
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What if the secret to fewer fights isn’t better arguments, but better timing, safety, and words that actually fit what you feel? We sat down with licensed clinical social worker Maggie McCane to break down communication that heals—starting with self-awareness and moving all the way to how faith communities handle shame and support.
We begin with a simple shift that changes everything: regulate before you relate. If you’re hungry, flooded, or exhausted, ask for consent to talk later. From there, Maggie walks us through the feeling wheel to expand your vocabulary beyond mad-sad-bad and into language that creates connection—hurt, overlooked, embarrassed, overwhelmed. We model how to use I-statements without sounding scripted, and how to open hard topics by first asking, Is now a good time for a heavier conversation? Consent makes space for listening rather than defense.
We also look at patterns that wreck trust: stonewalling, sarcasm disguised as play, phones on the table, and scorekeeping that treats your partner like an opponent. Instead, we build safety with simple ground rules, micro-moments of repair, and a team-first mindset. Maggie shares why many men were taught to express only anger and how shutdowns or addictive escapes take root—and how small, daily awareness interrupts that cycle. Then we zoom out to faith: why Christians can love Jesus and go to therapy, how shame silences growth, and the quiet loneliness pastors face without confidential support.
By the end, you’ll have a toolkit you can use tonight: regulate first, ask for consent, speak in I-statements, and practice active listening with clarifying questions and paraphrase. No perfection required—just a plan and a little courage. If this helped, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review with the one skill you’ll try this week. Your words can build a safer home. Let’s practice together.
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Doubt, distance, and disappointment don’t have to be the end of your faith story. They can be the door back to a deeper, sturdier life with God. Today we sit down with pastor and church planter Patrick Hubbard to explore deconstruction with nuance—naming real wounds, clarifying core doctrines, and recovering the kind of church life that quietly forms people over time.
Patrick traces his journey from international church planting with Living Bread Ministries to launching a local congregation built on essentials: Scripture read and preached, weekly communion, congregational singing, and shared prayer. Instead of chasing the next experience, they lowered the volume so the room could hear itself worship. That shift—from worship as a private encounter to worship as communal formation—reshaped how people healed and how they grew. We also tackle the lingering effects of the pandemic, when many learned to treat online viewing as “equivalent” church. Patrick explains why his church intentionally refused to simulate the gathering, and how presence, participation, and proximity enable the one-anothers that streams cannot.
We get practical about doctrine and reconstruction. Which beliefs are non-negotiable? Patrick names the center—Jesus’ virgin birth, sinless life, atoning death, bodily resurrection, ascension, and promised return—and urges charity on secondary issues that should not break fellowship. We discuss politics, culture-war fatigue, and the quiet harm done when celebrity conversions get platformed without patient discipleship. Fruit, not hype, signals genuine faith. As Christ’s ambassadors, our endorsements, corrections, and everyday conduct either reflect or distort the One we represent.
If you’re wary, wounded, or wondering where to begin, Patrick offers a simple next step: show up in faith. Don’t hunt for a church that checks every box; find a body that needs your gifts and start serving. Healing has a pace, but growth requires presence. Subscribe, share this conversation with a friend who’s wrestling, and leave a review to help others find it.
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A cracked façade can still shine on Instagram, but it cannot carry a soul. Elysse joins us to peel back the layers of anxious attachment, approval chasing, and meticulously controlled routines that unraveled into a full-blown mental breakdown and an involuntary hospital stay. What followed wasn’t a polished comeback; it was a raw surrender that reframed pain as loving redirection and opened the door to a different kind of peace.
We walk through the hard rooms of her story—early instability, people-pleasing that numbed more than it soothed, and the heavy grief surrounding abortion—and we sit with the difference between condemnation and conviction. Elysse explains how shame lifted at the cross, leaving space for honest grief and real healing. Her search for the transcendent led deep into new age practices, promises of power, and even an eerie “new name” moment. Then, in a quiet flash, the presence of Jesus broke through, scripture came alive, and a planned trip to further her spiritual path was replaced by a church course and a new way to be human.
We talk about leaving tight-knit communities, with all the unfollows and closed doors that come with a public reversal. We also highlight the believers who held firm convictions with gentle presence—people whose kindness confounded expectations and kept the conversation open. For anyone wrestling with anxiety, identity, or the ache to belong, Elysse's journey is a clear map: grace reaches farther than your worst day, truth can be tender, and kindness has the power to lead you home.
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What if our arguments about politics, ethics, and identity are symptoms of a deeper amnesia about what a human being is? We sat down with ethicist and professor Jason Glen to rethink the Image of God from the ground up—why it matters now, where classic theology helps, and how a richer view can heal the way we live, lead, and speak.
We unpack three major angles that have shaped Christian thought. Structural views highlight capacities like reason, conscience, and will; functional views center vocation, stewardship, and culture‑making; relational views focus on communion with God and neighbor. Each lens adds clarity, but each can harm when taken alone. Tie dignity to capacity and you risk sidelining the unborn and the disabled. Tie it to productivity and worth rises and falls with output. Tie it to active relating and isolation looks like erasure. Held together, they restore a durable vision of human worth.
We also trace the beauty and stakes of complementarity. “Male and female he created them” is more than a line in Genesis; it’s a living parable of unity and difference that echoes God’s relational life. When homes and churches honor equal worth and distinct gifts, authority becomes responsibility, help becomes strength, and conflict becomes a path to growth rather than a permanent war. That same vision reframes heated issues—abortion, end‑of‑life care, immigration, public discourse—by insisting every person is an image bearer deserving of respect.
Along the way, we address the popular “human being vs human doing” trope, clarify why “image bearer” differs from “child of God,” and offer practical steps for digital civility and real‑world compassion. If you’ve felt torn between truth and tenderness, conviction and humility, this conversation offers a framework sturdy enough for both. Listen, share with a friend, and leave a review to help more people rediscover a hope‑filled, dignifying vision of humanity.
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What if the Bible’s clearest portrait of God starts with compassion, not condemnation? We sit down with Dr. Gary Yates—professor and pastor—to trace a through-line of mercy and comfort running from Sinai to the Psalms, and all the way through exile and return. Beginning with Exodus 34, where God introduces himself as merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love, we explore how this creed shapes the rest of the Old Testament and reframes popular assumptions about a harsh, distant deity.
Across vivid stories, grace stops being theory. Hagar meets the God who hears in the wilderness. Elijah finds food, rest, and a renewed call under a broom tree. We revisit the conquest texts with ancient Near Eastern context in view, acknowledging tough questions while uncovering the nuance of judgment aimed at moral corruption, not ethnic erasure, and the surprising mercy extended to outsiders like Rahab. Along the way, we name how our church upbringing and family dynamics can tilt our view of God toward fear or favor—and why careful interpretation can heal those lenses.
We then map a practical theology of grace: God initiates relationship with flawed people, sustains it through provisions like sacrifice and the Day of Atonement, and restores it even after devastating failure. Repentance means turning, and grace empowers the turn. The Psalms model honest faith, giving language for seasons when God feels silent and showing how remembering his character revives courage. Jonah challenges our blind spots as we confront whether we want mercy for those we dislike as much as we want it for ourselves. Threaded through it all is divine patience—the long-suffering love that refuses to give up on people.
If you’re wrestling with hard passages, heavy seasons, or a history of fire-and-brimstone faith, this conversation offers clarity, context, and comfort. Listen, reflect, and share it with someone who needs a gentler, truer vision of God. If it resonates, subscribe, leave a review, and tell us: which story most reshaped your view of grace?
Books by Dr. Yates
30 Days to Jeremiah
The Message of the Twelve
The Essence of the Old Testament: A Survey
Approaching the Old Testament
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When faith and harm collide, the quiet question under the surface is often the hardest: why would God allow this? We sit down with therapist Carley Marcouillier to name moral injury, trace the subtle red flags of spiritual abuse, and map a steady, humane path back to safety and a secure attachment to God. This is not a takedown; it’s a toolkit for survivors, friends, and leaders who want to cultivate healthier, more honest communities.
We unpack how control, consequence, compliance, and culture can bend a church toward fear, and how spiritual learned helplessness teaches people to distrust the Spirit’s voice within them. From dress codes to stage access to who gets believed, we show how shame and threat seep into the body and shape a fear-based image of God. Then we pivot toward repair: creating real safety (even if that means stepping back from church for a season), telling the truth in front of empathic witnesses, grieving what was lost, and reconstructing a faithful imagination of God’s heart. Along the way, we revisit the Bereans’ discernment, explore language that helps men bridge head and heart, and offer simple attachment markers—feeling seen, safe, and soothed by God—as guides for your next step.
What emerges isn’t perfection, but a way forward: bodies that don’t brace at Scripture, leaders who welcome questions, and communities that practice rupture and repair. If you’ve wondered whether your discomfort is a warning light, or if you’ve asked why and felt dismissed, you’ll find clarity, validation, and practical next moves here.
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Ever been told to “just get over it” when church wounds still ache in your body? We sit down with therapist Carley Marcouillier to unpack spiritual abuse and religious trauma with clarity and compassion—naming how coercion, control, and scripture misuse can fracture trust in God and community. Instead of dismissing pain as church hurt, we explore a fuller frame: trauma as harm plus the absence of an empathic witness, and why validation is the first doorway to healing.
We contrast moralism with a restorative gospel that invites honest return after failure, not fear-driven compliance. From addressing sin and relationships to identifying spiritual bypassing masked as quick-fix Bible verses, we share practical ways to create safety without abandoning truth. Carley offers a trauma-informed lens leaders and laypeople can use: prioritize agency, practice attunement, and cultivate a witness posture that favors presence over outcomes. We also highlight safeguards like elder-led accountability and clear responses to harm that center the vulnerable rather than protect power.
What does a healthier church culture look like? One where belonging doesn’t require compliance, where lament is welcome, and where leaders model humility and repair. We draw on stories, research, and therapeutic insights to help you discern patterns, ask better questions, and rebuild a more faithful imagination of God’s character—both loving and just. If you’ve carried wounds from high-control environments, or you lead and want to do no harm, this conversation offers language, tools, and hope.
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A bigger crowd doesn’t mean a brighter lampstand. We dive into the seven churches in Revelation to uncover what faithfulness looks like right now: encouragement for the steady, warnings for the compromised, and hope for those who feel lukewarm or misled. With Dr. Paul Cooke, we explore how ancient letters expose today’s soft doctrines, from antinomianism to the prosperity gospel, and why charisma without character so often seduces the modern church.
We share stories from real spiritual abuse and cult dynamics to show how small theological twists become deep wounds in people’s lives. Then we get practical. What marks a trustworthy church? Start with Scripture that centers Jesus and the substitutionary atonement, pastors who share authority rather than hoard it, and communities that practice discipleship across tables, not just from stages. Small groups, honest correction, and patient leadership form believers who can recognize flattery, resist hype, and stay grounded when trends shift.
We also talk about suffering as a surprising gift. Revelation praises churches that endure; Hebrews and 2 Corinthians remind us that affliction trains our loves and sharpens our hope. If your faith feels stale, this conversation aims to warm your heart again around the living Christ. Return to the Word daily, seek a shepherd who guards and guides, and lean into a community that tells you the truth with gentleness. If this resonates, share it with a friend, subscribe for more thoughtful conversations, and leave a review to help others find the show.
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What if your hunger for God is influenced by mistaking a bad shepherd for a good one, and you don't even realize it? That’s the tension Dr. Paul Cooke lived for nine years inside a communal Christian movement that slowly shifted from gospel language to leader loyalty. He walks us through the moments that felt noble, the verses that sounded convincing, and the tiny checks in his spirit that he kept pushing aside—until one letter after Jonestown shattered the spell and forced an honest look at what devotion had become.
We get specific about how spiritual manipulation works. Scripture gets sliced out of context—Acts 2 becomes a yardstick for “real” faith, family becomes the enemy via weaponized verses, and references to “David” or the “key of David” get recast to crown a modern prophet. Music tilts toward the man, not the Messiah. Isolation becomes proof of purity. Dr. Cooke explains how good desires—community, sacrifice, mission—can be co-opted when the cross fades and charisma fills the gap. His story shows why breakthroughs often hinge on a single undeniable moment that reveals the system behind the stories.
We then turn to healing and discernment. Recovery from brainwashing is possible; time, truth, and safe relationships help the mind reset. If someone you love is in a controlling church or movement, keep the lines open. Ask questions that invite reflection. Be a place to land, not a cliff to jump from. And for anyone searching for a faithful home, look for accountable leadership, plurality of elders, transparent practices, and preaching that consistently leads to the cross rather than the personality on stage. When leaders can be told “no,” when Scripture is taught in context, and when love outlasts hype, people grow.
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What if your relationship with God could actually change how your nervous system handles stress, grief, and trauma? We close the year by wrestling with two essential questions: does a secure attachment to God reduce distress, and how do we move toward that security in the real world of loss, pressure, and unanswered prayers. Drawing on research, lived experience, and Scripture, we chart a path that honors pain without papering it over.
We explore why some of us interpret suffering as punishment while others drift into self-reliance and numbness—and how both patterns often come from early attachment and church experiences. Then we get practical. You’ll hear how lament can coexist with trust, why “Abba” language matters for an embodied sense of belonging, and how community presence outperforms spiritual clichés. From John 15’s call to abide, to Hebrews 4’s invitation to draw near with confidence, to the Psalms’ raw honesty, we map out daily rhythms that create corrective experiences of safety, responsiveness, and meaning.
If you’ve ever wondered how to pray when you feel both hurt and hopeful, how to reauthor your inner story around grace instead of fear, or how serving others can soften your own anxiety, this conversation offers tools you can use right away. We talk prayer that holds two truths at once, Scripture meditation that centers God’s steadfast love, and community practices that make care tangible. Over time, these small, steady choices help transform divine struggle into resilient trust.
If this resonates, share it with someone who needs a gentle, grounded way back to God. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell us: where are you on the journey from anxious or avoidant to secure with God? Your voice helps others find their way too.
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Ever feel like you’re doing everything “right” and still can’t shake the sense that God is far away? We dig into three core questions many Christians carry in secret: why we can feel anxious or avoidant with a God we call our secure base, how early attachment wounds color our view of His heart, and what’s going on when faithful practices don’t translate into felt closeness.
We unpack the crucial difference between what we know about God (God concept) and how we experience Him (God image), and why both matter. Drawing from Scripture and attachment research, we trace how anxious faith tends to perform to avoid rejection while avoidant faith relies on self-sufficiency to dodge vulnerability. Along the way, we normalize lament as a faithful response, explore divine struggle without shame, and highlight rupture-and-repair as the slow engine of secure attachment with God—where repeated experiences of His presence re-train our bodies to expect safety, not abandonment.
You’ll hear practical pathways for integrating head and heart: treating Scripture as conversation instead of a checklist, approaching prayer as shared life rather than a wish list, and engaging church as a living conduit of God’s nearness. We also contrast correspondence and compensation—how our family stories either echo into faith or are healed by it—and challenge the myth that religious activity automatically equals intimacy. If you’ve wondered why closeness feels elusive, this conversation offers language, tools, and hope.
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Fear knows how to sound reasonable. It hides inside “what if” spirals, budget math that never adds up, and prayers that feel stuck on repeat. We sat down with prophetic healing coach Heather O’Brien to ask a bold question: what if fear isn’t the root at all, but a symptom pointing to what we believe about God’s character and our worth?
We trace the crucial difference between facts and Truth, where painful experiences are honored without letting their lies set our future. Heather shares how people often carry faith in their fear—trusting isolation, control, or worst-case planning more than God’s steady love. We explore why perfect love expels fear, why the opposite of fear is love rather than effort, and how to move trust from outcomes to the process of walking with God. Along the way, Heather unpacks a practical “spiritual warfare kit” for panic moments and shows how daily Scripture declarations can retrain our minds, grounding us in peace when emotions surge.
Heather’s own story moves from years of hypervigilance and depression to freedom through hearing God’s voice, forgiving deeply, and naming the specific fears beneath the surface—rejection, abandonment, punishment, the unknown. We challenge common spiritual shortcuts, including overusing “thorn in the flesh” to justify staying stuck, and offer a gentler, truer path: let God reveal the root, invite wise help, and break agreement with fear by name. If you’ve ever wondered why anxiety returns after heartfelt prayers, this conversation gives you language, tools, and hope to keep going.
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Your anxiety isn’t random noise; it’s an alarm. The real question is what it’s warning you about. We explore the line between general anxiety and anxious attachment, showing how one spreads across life’s domains while the other flares when intimacy gets close enough to test old maps. With clear definitions of GAD, social anxiety, separation anxiety, and panic attacks, we lay out where these experiences overlap and where they diverge, so you can stop guessing and start noticing patterns.
From there, we dig into the heart of anxious attachment: a positive view of others paired with a shaky view of self, born from inconsistent caregiving and sustained by protest behaviors that seek closeness through urgency. You’ll learn how to read rupture and repair as the most reliable evidence of a relationship’s stability, and how to build a personal toolkit that actually works under stress—breath practices, grounding, prayer, and co‑regulation with secure people who help your body feel safe again.
We also bring faith into the conversation without shaming your story. Many of us project human patterns onto God, but security with God can transform how we handle triggers with people. When you treat God as a true secure base—returning in prayer, anchoring in Scripture, and seeking wise counsel—the alarm shifts from panic to guidance. By pairing nervous system skills with honest relationship audits, you can become more secure over time, even if anxiety still visits.
Ready to tell whether it’s anxiety in general or an attachment alarm? Press play, take notes on your own rupture‑repair history, and share this with someone who needs language for what they feel. If this helped, subscribe, leave a 5‑star review, and tell us: what evidence of repair do you look for?
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What if healing doesn’t happen in isolation, but in the friction and tenderness of a committed relationship? We take a clear-eyed look at why romantic commitment can catalyze growth in ways friendship and mentorship rarely reach, and how that truth fits with a robust, Christ-centered life. Starting in Genesis, we revisit the line “it is not good that man should be alone” and unpack why that’s not a critique of God’s sufficiency, but a gift of human design—formation through another person, modeled after Christ and the church.
We walk through a biopsychosocial-spiritual framework for change: how bonded pairs co-regulate the body, how intimacy surfaces hidden scripts and fears, how shared burdens build resilience, and how scripture, prayer, and community keep desire aligned with truth. You’ll hear a practical roadmap for rupture and repair—misunderstandings, pauses, returns, and reconciliations—that slowly nurture secure attachment and emotional regulation. We also name the cultural fatigue around dating, the temptation to retreat into self-protection, and the courage it takes to be fully known without shutting down under shame.
This conversation is not a sales pitch for marriage as a cure-all, nor does it dismiss singleness as a faithful calling. It’s an invitation to examine whether avoidance, not vocation, is steering your choices—and to see how forgiveness, grace, and redemption take on flesh inside a covenant. If you’ve wondered why vulnerability matters, how to pursue wisely, or where faith meets attachment science, this one will meet you with clarity and compassion.
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A milestone worth pausing for: 100 episodes into God Attachment Healing, we trace the journey from a simple idea—created to connect—to a grounded framework for healing shame, reshaping identity, and building secure attachment with God and others. I walk you through the show’s evolution, the theology that anchors it, and the clinical insights that keep it practical, with favorite clips that still spark conviction and hope.
Here are the episodes referenced for you to tune in to them:
Episode 1: My Heart Behind the Podcast
Episode 6: Insights on the Effects of Shame in Relationships
Episode 17: Should Christians Struggle with Mental Health?
Episode 20: How Our Thinking and Emotions Were Affected by the Fall
Episode 25: Welcome to the Genesis of Shame Podcast
We dig into why shame whispers I am not enough and how those messages sabotage closeness. You’ll hear how a few safe, consistent relationships can become a laboratory for trust, turning defense into wise pursuit. We talk candidly about mental health in the church—why anxiety or depression doesn’t mean you’re far from God, and how dependence, community, and good care can deepen your spiritual life. Along the way, I share the stats behind reaching 100 episodes, audience trends around attachment and shame, and why I’m doubling down on research, interviews, and video to serve you better.
If you’ve been part of this community from the start or you’re just finding it now, the heart remains the same: stay faithful to Scripture, honor the gospel, and offer tools that help you love God and people with courage. Season five will highlight attachment styles, identity in Christ, and the small steps that make vulnerability sustainable. Press play, share this with someone who needs a nudge toward safe connection, and subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next. Your questions shape the show—send them my way, leave a review, and let’s keep growing together.
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What if the fastest path to transformation is slowing down for connection? We sit with attachment-focused therapist Carley Marcouillier to explore how Christian growth and lasting psychological change flow from safety, presence, and honest relationship—first with God, then with ourselves, and finally with others. Instead of chasing quick fixes, Carley invites a new agenda: let connection lead and let change follow.
We unpack the core moves of attachment and IFS: viewing symptoms as messengers, not enemies; trading pressure for inspiration by noticing everyday “glimmers” that expand our capacity; and practicing pacing so the nervous system can settle and receive care. Carley offers a practical, faith-rooted lens for balancing community and solitude, using the question when rather than what to discern wise action. We talk about the challenge of naming needs—especially when past experiences, church messages, or cultural scripts labeled needs as weakness—and how emotions point us toward boundaries, comfort, and support.
From there, we get concrete about building the community you actually need: cultivating voice, choice, and autonomy; starting small with safe-enough risks; and creating spaces like walking groups, book circles, and intentional text threads. We also reframe Jesus’s “light burden” as both lighter weight and illuminating presence, emphasizing that we’re not meant to carry alone. Suffering in isolation wounds, but suffering with heals—through empathic witnesses, faithful friends, and the nearness of God.
If you’re tired of white-knuckling change and ready for a gentler, deeper way forward, this conversation will help you find clarity, reclaim your needs, and take your next safe-enough step. Subscribe, share with someone who needs encouragement, and leave a review to support the show.
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What if your brain isn’t broken—it’s just stuck? We sit down with trauma therapist Maggie McCane, LCSW, to unravel how big T and little t trauma shape your body, beliefs, relationships, and even how you see God. From the first moment a young brain misreads a storm as “I don’t matter” to decades of confirmation bias and physical symptoms, we trace how pain embeds in the nervous system and what it takes to move it into the past.
Maggie explains why she left agency work to create a flexible practice that prioritizes extended EMDR intensives and individualized care. We dig into how EMDR “unsticks” memories, what resourcing looks like before deep work, and why motivation can’t outrun a dysregulated body. You’ll hear practical ways to notice early signs—sleep, gut issues, irritability, hypervigilance—and translate them into action steps that restore balance. Instead of silencing the body, we treat its signals as vital data.
Faith takes center stage without clichés. We talk Christian integration done well, the damage of spiritual platitudes, and how attachment to God often mirrors early caregiver attachment. Using correspondence and compensation theories, we map how negative God images form and how consistent, timely, and effective experiences in community and prayer can heal them. We keep it grounded: what healing actually looks like day to day, how to evaluate therapist fit, and why trust is the number one predictor of change.
If you’ve ever wondered why you feel triggered by everything, why “just think positive” falls flat, or where God was in your hardest moments, this conversation offers clarity and tools. Listen, share with someone who needs it, and if it landed, subscribe, leave a review, and tell us what belief you’re ready to rewrite.
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Trauma can overwhelm the body and bend the story you tell about your life—but the way you name it and narrate it can open the door to real healing. We dig into what counts as Big T trauma under the DSM and what small t trauma looks like when chronic stress, relational wounds, and identity hits slowly rewire your nervous system. From hypervigilance and sleepless nights to emotional numbness and CPTSD, we unpack how pain shows up in your body, shapes your attachment style, and impacts the way you connect with others.
I share why language matters: when everything becomes “trauma,” the word loses precision and you risk building your identity around wounds instead of growth. Therapy provides a model of safety and attunement, but it’s not a script your friends must follow. Instead, use counseling to learn what healthy feels like, then seek relationships that reflect those patterns. We also talk about the body’s memory, co‑regulation, and the slow, consistent practices that help rewire your system—routines, boundaries, and steady support that teaches your brain you are safe.
As a person of faith, I explore how early attachment shapes your view of God and how betrayal by authority can distort your God concept and God image. We walk through practical spiritual rhythms—prayer, the Psalms, and grounded Christian community—that bear burdens and restore trust. The heart of this conversation is a challenge: retell your story around what you learned, how you healed, and the hope you’re building. When you emphasize growth and redemption, you change what your mind rehearses and what your body expects.
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What happens when grief arrives unexpectedly, shattering the life you carefully built? Dr. Jerry Woodbridge knows this terrain intimately. After losing her husband to cancer just one day after his diagnosis, she found herself navigating not only her own grief but also guiding her children through theirs.
In this profound conversation, Dr. Woodbridge dispels common misconceptions about the grieving process. Forget the neat, orderly stages you've heard about—grief is more like "having a thousand hornets around your head" or bouncing on a trampoline while attempting to climb stairs. You make progress, fall back, bounce up again, and repeat in an unpredictable cycle that doesn't follow a timetable.
The discussion delves into how grief fundamentally challenges our identity. For Dr. Woodbridge, becoming a widow at 42 wasn't part of her plan. "I made a choice to become a wife," she explains, "I did not say yes to becoming a widow." This identity crisis led to honest, sometimes angry conversations with God that ultimately strengthened her faith through Scripture passages specifically addressing God's care for widows.
Perhaps most eye-opening is Dr. Woodbridge's insight into children's grief. Adults often try to shield children from pain or expect them to bounce back quickly, not realizing this approach can lead to unresolved grief manifesting later as identity issues, risky behaviors, and spiritual struggles. Her experience inspired her to write children's books about grief, filling a crucial gap in literature for middle-grade readers who need narratives validating their experiences.
A beautiful metaphor emerges: both sorrow and joy can coexist like liquids in a coffee cup, with love serving as the bridge between them. We grieve because we love, and eventually, that same love allows us to experience joy again—not as a replacement for our loss, but alongside it.
Whether you're currently walking through grief or supporting someone who is, this episode offers both comfort and practical wisdom. As Dr. Woodbridge reminds us, "You have to heal before you reveal," and sometimes the path to the high places of joy necessarily travels through the valleys of sorrow and suffering.
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The complex relationship between faith and psychology takes center stage in this third installment of our shame series with theologian Jason Glenn. What happens when biblical understanding meets modern psychology? Can they coexist, or are they fundamentally at odds?
This rich conversation explores the suspicion many Christians hold toward therapeutic approaches, while acknowledging the growing recognition that faith practices positively impact mental health. Jason shares his perspective on how the counseling field has often prioritized making people "feel at peace with who they are" over addressing deeper spiritual needs, yet he also challenges harmful Christian misconceptions that equate mental health struggles with spiritual failure.
Through powerful personal stories, Jason reveals how his parents helped him navigate shame in psychologically and spiritually healthy ways. His mother's object lesson of burning written sins to illustrate God's forgiveness offered him a way to "disassociate my identity in Christ from my past sins" – creating resilience while maintaining appropriate conviction. Such formative experiences show how theology and psychology can work together rather than in opposition.
The discussion ventures into provocative territory when examining how church culture has shifted from fire-and-brimstone approaches to sometimes overcorrecting with therapeutic methods that prioritize affirmation over accountability. As Jason notes, "If the good news doesn't speak to your victimhood, it's not good news" has become an unspoken assumption in many congregations, reflecting how psychological concepts have subtly reshaped theological understanding.
For anyone struggling to reconcile their faith journey with psychological healing, this conversation offers a thoughtful middle path – one that honors both our complex psychological reality and timeless biblical truth. Whether you're a counselor, pastor, or simply someone navigating your own healing journey, you'll find wisdom for approaching shame in ways that lead to genuine transformation rather than either denial or identity-consuming guilt.
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What's the difference between shame, guilt, and conviction in the Christian life? This question haunts many believers who struggle to navigate these complex emotions in their spiritual journey.
Jason Glenn returns to unpack these crucial distinctions, revealing that the popular modern psychological framing of these terms often misaligns with biblical understanding. While contemporary culture frequently treats shame as an inherent negative to be eliminated, Scripture presents a more nuanced perspective where shame can serve redemptive purposes.
Our conversation explores biblical guilt as primarily a judicial status rather than an emotion—it's about causality and responsibility before God. Conviction emerges as the Holy Spirit's illuminating work, exposing our hearts and guiding us toward repentance. Shame, meanwhile, addresses our failures in relationship to our identity and community expectations.
We tackle difficult questions about debilitating shame versus healthy contrition. When Christians remain stuck in shame cycles, the problem often isn't shame itself but underlying pride, fear, or the strange comfort found in familiar self-condemnation. The gospel offers freedom from these patterns, though embracing this freedom requires significant faith and courage.
The discussion turns to Jesus' own use of corrective shame in the story of Simon the Pharisee and the sinful woman. While affirming the contrite woman's response to her shame—which brought forgiveness—Jesus exposed Simon's pride through a form of redemptive shame that invited self-reflection.
Whether you've struggled with persistent shame, confused conviction with guilt, or wondered how these emotions fit into your spiritual growth, this episode offers biblical clarity and practical wisdom for your journey toward wholeness in Christ. As Jason reminds us, "We should be more focused on the feeling of shame and less focused on shaming people."
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What if shame isn't always toxic? In this thought-provoking conversation, theological scholar Jason Glenn challenges our modern assumptions about shame by exploring its biblical foundations and purpose in the Christian life.
Beginning with Hebrew linguistic roots, Jason traces shame throughout Scripture, revealing how both Old and New Testaments present shame as a necessary component of spiritual formation. From Ezra's collective shame before God to Paul's direct confrontation of the Corinthian church, we see biblical examples where shame serves as a catalyst for repentance and growth rather than destruction.
The discussion takes a fascinating turn as Jason demonstrates how our supposedly "shame-free" American culture hasn't actually abandoned shame—we've simply redirected it. While removing shame from behaviors Scripture identifies as harmful, we've intensified it in political and ideological spheres. This cultural blindspot leaves Christians confused about how to appropriately practice biblical correction and accountability.
Perhaps most valuable is the distinction between destructive identity-based shaming ("you always ruin everything") and redemptive behavior-focused correction ("what you're doing is harmful"). When applied with compassion and hope, biblical shame becomes a powerful tool for transformation rather than condemnation.
This episode is the first in a three-part series exploring shame from biblical, psychological, and theological perspectives. Whether you've experienced harmful shaming in church contexts or wonder how to practice loving accountability, this conversation offers a balanced, scripture-based framework for understanding this complex aspect of Christian life.
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Dr. Lisa Stanton's journey from the depths of addiction to spiritual transformation offers a powerful testimony to God's ability to heal even our most broken parts. A social psychologist with expertise in behavior change, Dr. Stanton's professional knowledge couldn't save her from her own destructive patterns – she spent fifteen years cycling through anorexia, bulimia, and alcoholism while maintaining a façade of success.
Growing up caught between her atheist mother and Christian father, Lisa drifted toward atheism in her teens and embraced biological determinism in graduate school, convinced life was meaningless. Despite outward achievements, she was drinking to blackout regularly, struggling with severe eating disorders, and eventually spiraling into isolation during COVID, drinking box wine alone in her apartment while questioning if life had any purpose at all.
The turning point came in January 2021 when, after failed attempts at recovery through new age spirituality, she surrendered to God on her knees in a church. That moment became her sobriety date – one she's maintained for over four years. But what makes her story extraordinary isn't just getting sober; it's how her relationship with God has healed the underlying spiritual wounds that therapy alone couldn't touch.
Dr. Stanton speaks candidly about the limitations of both purely religious and purely psychological approaches to mental health. While some churches stigmatize counseling, many therapists miss the spiritual dimensions of healing, particularly around forgiveness and personal responsibility. Her experience suggests that true transformation requires both spiritual surrender and honest self-examination – a daily practice of pausing to identify resentments, control issues, and selfish motivations before they manifest as anxiety, depression, or relapse triggers.
Her book "52 Life-Changing Lessons I Learned in Recovery" explores these principles further, offering wisdom for anyone struggling with addiction, mental health challenges, or simply seeking a more authentic relationship with God. If you're battling your own demons or know someone who is, this episode provides both practical insights and profound hope that healing is possible at any depth of darkness.
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How do you rebuild trust when the foundation of your relationship has been shattered by betrayal? Join us for a compelling conversation with my insightful guest, Kendra King, as we unravel the complexities of betrayal trauma in the context of sex addiction. We explore the unique challenges faced by Christian communities, where secrecy often overshadows vulnerability. Kendra and I discuss whether restoration in such relationships necessarily leads to reconciliation and the transformative role of forgiveness along this painful journey.
Unmet emotional needs can manifest in unexpected and destructive ways, often leading individuals towards infidelity and addiction. Our discussion sheds light on the distinct ways men and women experience and satisfy these needs, highlighting the powerful role of dopamine in addictive behaviors. Even within the framework of Christian beliefs about overcoming sinful desires, the biological drive for pleasure remains a significant force. This episode emphasizes mindfulness as a crucial tool in managing these behaviors, encouraging a balanced understanding of human nature and spirituality.
Betrayal within families and close-knit communities can be a harrowing experience. We tackle the emotional turmoil that arises when trusted individuals are accused of wrongdoing, especially within black and brown communities where these issues are compounded by cultural nuances. Kendra and I stress the importance of confronting these painful realities head-on, offering a path to healing through openness and compassion. By sharing these stories, we hope to foster a community of understanding and grace, paving the way for redemption and healing for all involved.
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Could betrayal trauma be silently shaping your relationships? Join us for an enlightening episode featuring Kendra King, a respected expert in betrayal trauma and affair recovery. With over ten years of experience in mental health, Kendra shares her profound insights into the complex emotions and challenges that arise from betrayal in romantic relationships. Drawing from her extensive work at the Healing Heart Center, she sheds light on the intricate layers of betrayal trauma, which extend far beyond infidelity and include emotional betrayals such as withholding feelings or engaging in intimate conversations outside the partnership.
We explore the symptoms and triggers of betrayal trauma, highlighting the nuanced ways stress can lead individuals to unhealthy behaviors when they lack coping mechanisms. The conversation emphasizes the critical role of open communication and emotional safety as protective measures against betrayal. Kendra's inclusive approach makes her insights accessible to individuals of diverse faith backgrounds, breaking through the shame often surrounding these topics, especially within Christian communities. By understanding personal boundaries and perceptions, couples can navigate the risks of betrayal and strengthen their connections.
As we journey through the emotional aftermath of betrayal, we tackle the realities of PTSD, hypervigilance, and erosion of trust. Kendra underscores the importance of both partners confronting their emotional responses rather than concealing pain or expecting one person to resolve the issue alone. Through personal accountability, vulnerability, and therapy, individuals are encouraged to engage in self-reflection and growth. By embracing these principles, Kendra reveals how individuals can transform their actions and nurture healthier, more resilient relationships.
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A chance encounter with a mysterious Bible verse in an old Puritan graveyard set the stage for Dr. Paul Cook's spiritual journey, which he shares with us on this episode of the God Attachment Healing Podcast. Raised in a Jewish family in Houston, Dr. Cook embarked on a path marked by questioning, exploration, and ultimately, involvement in a cult. His story takes us from the snowy landscapes of Vermont to a surprising meeting with a carpenter in Texas, offering a deeply personal glimpse into the ways people search for divine connection and meaning in their lives.
Dr. Cook's narrative challenges us to consider the courage it takes to leave behind familiar paths, especially when entangled in the complex dynamics of a cult. We discuss the pivotal moments that led him to question his upbringing and how these experiences shaped his understanding of spirituality and truth-seeking. This episode is an eye-opener for those interested in the intersections of faith, personal transformation, and the human quest for divine connection. Don't miss this compelling discussion, and remember to subscribe and leave a review to support our exploration of diverse spiritual experiences.
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Our conversation explores the significant ways in which childhood experiences and family dynamics shape our views of God. By unpacking Ricardo's personal journey from skepticism to faith, we examine the impact of parental absence, cultural influences, and life changes as catalysts for understanding spirituality.
• Discussion of Theosis and its meaning in Christian faith
• Ricardo’s upbringing in a single-parent household
• The absence of a father figure's impact on his perception of God
• Maternal influences in shaping his understanding of faith
• The move away from faith during adolescence and the journey to atheism
• The role culture plays in developing beliefs about God
• An intellectual awakening leading back to God
• Reflection on stories and myths as windows into spirituality
• Personal experiences leading to newfound appreciation for life in the U.S.
• Emphasis on gratitude and faith in building a future for the next generation
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Can shame exist if you don't believe in a higher power? That's the question we tackle in our latest thought-provoking episode with my good friend Tim from our Psych and Theo podcast. We challenge conventional beliefs by exploring how shame manifests within Christianity and secular societal frameworks alike. With help from experts like Brené Brown, we dissect the intricate relationship between shame and identity, contrasting it with guilt, which is more about our actions. Together, we unravel how personal experiences and cultural norms shape these emotions, examining if and how shame persists without a theological backdrop. Our discussion is enriched by listener-submitted questions, which push us to consider whether societal moral frameworks can independently fuel feelings of shame.
We then take a global perspective, analyzing how shame operates across different cultures and eras, including biblical narratives. We explore the profound impacts of shame on individuals like the woman at the well and the apostle Paul, reflecting on how their stories reveal the complex interplay between shame, personal history, and spiritual beliefs. Additionally, we scrutinize the roles of fear, guilt, and shame in maintaining and challenging societal norms. Movements like LGBT rights and body positivity come under the spotlight, as we ponder whether rejecting shame in these areas is beneficial or detrimental. This episode invites you to rethink the role of shame in modern life, advocating for a nuanced understanding that balances acknowledgment with empathy.
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Discover how childhood emotional patterns shape your relationships and spiritual connections as we welcome Dr. Gary Lawrence, the author of "Rejection Junkies," to the God Attachment Healing Podcast. Dr. Lawrence shares his transformative journey from a turbulent upbringing in a non-religious, alcoholic household to finding faith and grace in a Baptist church. His insights into breaking unhealthy attachment patterns are profound, focusing on grace over legalism and the impact of early emotional experiences on adult relationships. This episode promises to equip you with a deeper understanding of these hidden addictions and the pathway to a more fulfilling spiritual life.
Our journey into the intricacies of personal upbringing and its ripple effect on marital dynamics is both enlightening and essential. We uncover the concept of "emotional energy thieves" and the importance of unplugging from draining patterns. Through personal stories, including those of my own marriage and experiences with individuals like Sylvia, we illustrate how childhood patterns can create conflict in adult relationships. Dr. Lawrence sheds light on the parent-child dynamic present in every marriage, stressing the necessity to address underlying emotional issues to nurture a healthier bond.
Embark on a healing journey within marriage, especially those marred by past traumas. Dr. Lawrence’s practical four-step coaching process offers a roadmap to isolate and eradicate negative patterns, fostering individual healing and spiritual connection. Learn to identify root causes rather than symptoms to bring joy and peace into marital relationships. With compelling real-life anecdotes and wisdom from seminars, this episode is a treasure trove of insights for anyone striving to overcome rejection patterns and embrace healthier attachments. Don't miss the chance to explore Dr. Lawrence's groundbreaking work further in "Rejection Junkies".
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Can a romantic relationship truly heal your past wounds? Discover how God's grace and the power of secure attachment can transform your most intimate connections. Tune in as I share my personal journey of seeking male role models and mentors, and how those relationships have profoundly impacted my growth and healing. We’ll unpack the biblical call to bear each other's burdens, and how community plays a pivotal role in our personal development.
We dive deep into the dynamics of secure and anxious attachment pairings in romantic relationships. Learn how a secure partner’s steady hand and empathetic communication can alleviate the anxious partner’s fears and build a foundation of trust. From consistent reassurance to non-judgmental problem-solving, you'll gather actionable insights to foster emotional support and create a healthy relationship. Plus, we address the challenges you might encounter and effective strategies for conflict resolution.
Finally, we explore the nuanced dynamics between secure and avoidant attachments, as well as the profound impact of our relationship with God on our human interactions. Using biblical examples like Jonah and Abraham, we illustrate how faith and trust in God can shape our relationships. You'll also hear about the essential role of the Christian community in supporting and nurturing secure, supportive connections. Whether you're grappling with anxiety, avoidance, or looking to deepen your faith, this episode offers a roadmap to healthier, more fulfilling relationships.Support the Show.
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Ever wondered how your personal traumas can shape your spiritual journey? Join me as I sit down with Cass Bellino, the insightful host of the Biblically Speaking Podcast. Cass's unique upbringing—blending non-denominational and Russian Orthodox traditions—offers a profound understanding of God attachment. Hear about her childhood car crash and how it influenced her relationship with God, along with the transformative journey of creating a podcast that seeks to provide a deeper understanding of the scriptures through interviews with scholars and PhDs.
Moving to Hawaii was a pivotal moment for Cass, allowing her to break free from familial expectations and find the courage to follow her calling. Encouraged by prophetic messages and serendipitous encounters, she launched her podcast to create a space where people can openly explore and question their faith. This journey of vulnerability and honesty has resonated with many, offering spiritual growth without the need for formal theological education. Cass shares how every step, from overcoming fears to receiving divine signs, aligned perfectly to make the podcast a reality.
We also touch on navigating boundaries, guilt, and the struggle for authentic spiritual guidance. Cass discusses the importance of addressing real-life issues within church communities and finding supportive faith groups. She emphasizes the transformational understanding of God's boundless nature and the significance of maintaining a secure attachment to God. Through personal anecdotes and reflections, Cass illustrates how moments of divine revelation and finding a supportive community can lead to a deeper, more resilient faith. Tune in to uncover the profound connections between family dynamics, personal struggles, and the immeasurable depth of God's love.
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What if your quest for independence is actually a barrier to deeper emotional intimacy? Welcome back to the God Attachment Healing Podcast, where we tackle the complexities of avoidant, or dismissive, attachment styles. We begin by examining how early childhood experiences, where emotional needs were inconsistently met, can lead individuals to become self-reliant and uncomfortable with emotional closeness. These high-achievers often struggle to connect on a deeper level, despite their outward success.
Throughout this episode, we uncover the specific behaviors and challenges faced by those with an avoidant attachment style. From difficulties in trusting others to a fear of losing autonomy, avoidantly attached individuals frequently downplay the significance of emotional bonds, preferring solitary activities. Yet, beneath their self-sufficient exterior, they secretly long for meaningful connections. We explore the impact of these tendencies on various types of relationships, including friendships, romantic partnerships, and family dynamics, emphasizing the importance of tangible support as a form of emotional closeness.
Finally, we guide avoidantly attached individuals towards a path of healing and developing a more secure attachment style through vulnerability. Practical steps include emotional regulation, expanding one's emotional vocabulary, and addressing past wounds. Revisiting past experiences to reframe beliefs about relationships and closeness is also crucial. By gradually opening up to someone who is consistently present, avoidant individuals can foster healthier relationships and build stronger connections with God. Join us for an enlightening discussion aimed at transforming your relational dynamics and deepening your connection with the divine.
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Can understanding the intricacies of your attachment style transform your relationships? This episode promises to do just that by unraveling the complexities of anxious attachment. We dissect the characteristics of anxious attachment, highlighting the constant craving for reassurance and validation and how it can create instability in relationships. You’ll learn practical strategies for identifying a reliable support system and maintaining trust and perspective, both of which are crucial for nurturing healthy interpersonal connections and a more profound relationship with God.
Ever felt overwhelmed by a flood of negative thoughts? Discover how those with anxious attachment can navigate their emotions by selecting which "waves" of thought to surf. We explore how to challenge anxious thoughts and avoid dependency on others for emotional security. Learn effective techniques like breathing exercises, prayer, meditation, and the value of spending time with securely attached individuals to build a stronger sense of personal security. These insights will help you manage sensitivity to perceived distance in relationships, encouraging healthier interactions.
One's relationship with God can mirror their human connections, and emotional volatility can often cloud this divine link. We delve into how healthy friendships and positive activities can deepen your spiritual connection, while difficulties might cause you to question God's presence. Key issues like setting boundaries, managing feelings of neediness, and maintaining self-esteem are discussed with actionable strategies for self-regulation. Finally, we pave the way towards transitioning to a secure attachment style, setting the stage for our next journey into avoidant attachment styles. Join us to uncover how to cultivate more stable and fulfilling relationships with both others and God.
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Have you ever felt the weight of shame in your spiritual journey, wondering how it affects your relationship with the divine? Dr. James Honeycutt joins us to navigate the delicate interplay between shame, faith, and identity. Together, we peel back the layers of this complex emotion, from its biblical roots in the Garden of Eden to its impact on our modern lives. Discover how shame can both challenge and deepen your connection with God, and find out why understanding the difference between guilt and shame is crucial for your spiritual well-being.
Embarking on a candid discussion, we share personal stories that reveal how early life experiences and parental relationships cast long shadows over our openness to the Gospel. Dr. Honeycutt, with his profound insights, helps us tread the fine line between healthy self-reflection and the paralyzing effects of shame. We also tackle the sensitive subject of church discipline, balancing the need for accountability with the nurturing of a compassionate community. Learn how to foster an environment where vulnerability meets emotional safety, allowing for genuine transformation.
Wrapping up, we delve into the vital role of social norms like confession and transparency within trusted circles, addressing the psychological underpinnings and potential pitfalls of oversharing in an age of social media. As we ponder the cultural narrative around shame and its place in personal growth, Dr. Honeycutt's expertise shines a light on the importance of discernment and maturity in our faith walk. We close with an invitation for you to join the conversation, welcoming your questions on living an authentic Christian life amidst the challenges of shame.
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When we consider the blueprint of a man's soul, we often overlook the silent architects—the mentors who guide us through the labyrinth of life's challenges. Dr. James Honeycutt joins me on a profound exploration of mentorship and its inextricable link to spiritual and personal development for men. We unravel the tapestry of our own experiences to reveal how mentors, from our fathers to our academic guides, have been the weavers of our faith and understanding, especially for those of us who have felt the void of growing up in a fatherless home.
The journey of faith is seldom a straight path—it is a road marked with questions, reconstruction, and the search for authenticity. We recount our personal narratives of shedding military-influenced perceptions of masculinity to embrace diverse male role models who preach Christian nonviolence and pacifism. With Dr. Honeycutt's insights, we navigate the complex dance of deconstructing and reconstructing faith, uncovering the urgent need for strong, present mentors for the younger generation facing a barrage of new societal pressures.
But what does it truly mean to embody a healthy male role model in today's world? This episode delves into the intersection of Stoicism and Christianity, the importance of emotional strength, and the harmonious blend of humility and conviction in leadership. We reflect on how virtues like wisdom, courage, temperance, and justice can shape not just our personal ideals, but also how we perceive and relate to the Divine. Join us as we honor these silent architects and the profound influence they hold in sculpting men of faith, character, and empathy.
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Struggling with the notion of God as a Comforter can leave many of us feeling spiritually adrift, especially when our cultural background clashes with our personal experiences of the Divine. This episode of the God Attachment Healing Podcast peels back the layers of this complex emotion with a blend of heartfelt personal narratives and enlightening research. My colleague, Tim Jantz, joins me to bridge the gap between psychology and theology, offering a perspective that's sure to challenge and deepen your understanding of God's multifaceted character.
There's a profound connection between the way we bond with our parents and how we perceive God, especially during life's trials. I open up about my own parenting journey, reflecting on those critical moments that shaped my children's view of God as a source of comfort. We dissect studies which link the style of parental attachment to one's spiritual and religious struggles, sparking a conversation on the transformative power of a nurturing relationship with our Creator. Listen as we navigate the turbulent waters of anxiety, perfectionism, and the search for an ever-present God in the midst of our imperfections.
As we wrap up, we contemplate the bedrock of a strong spiritual life: prayer, community, and diving into the scriptures. These practices aren't just rituals; they're lifelines that reframe our experience of God's presence in our daily walk. I'm excited to share insights from my upcoming dissertation on attachment and how it's reshaping my understanding of faith. So whether you're wrestling with doubt or searching for spiritual solace, our conversation is a beacon of hope, encouraging you to see God in a light that's both comforting and true to the Christian experience. Join us for this enriching dialogue, and we welcome your questions and topic suggestions to continue this vital discussion.
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When the weight of addiction intersects with the strength of faith, an intense and deeply personal battle emerges. This is the journey my colleague, Lewis Alvey, and I navigate in our latest God Attachment Healing Podcast. Lewis, a mental health professional with over a decade of experience, joins me in a conversation that peels back the layers of shame and isolation that often plague Christians grappling with addiction. Together, we shed light on the complexities of recovery, from the recognition of the problem to the hopeful steps toward transformation, all within the framework of our spiritual beliefs.
The path to overcoming addiction is rarely walked alone, and our discussion reveals the importance of community and connection—elements that can be as healing as they are vital. We delve into the role of various support groups and the potential for church communities to extend a hand in this journey. The raw and honest experiences we share underscore the emotional toll addiction takes, not just on the afflicted but also on the family and friends who stand by them. Their stories of perseverance and compassion become powerful testaments to the human spirit and the transformative power of hope.
As we wrap up, we take a moment to reflect on the broader implications of our dialogue, the intersection of forgiveness, redemption, and the gospel's message of grace. It's a reminder that these tough conversations, while challenging, are necessary and can ultimately lead to healing. For anyone touched by addiction or seeking solace in faith, this episode stands as a beacon of understanding and encouragement, inviting listeners to find strength in vulnerability and renewal in their faith journey with us.
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Have you ever found yourself caught in a whirlwind of worry, searching for solace? Embark on a journey with me as I navigate the merging paths of theology and psychology to find a haven from anxiety through God Attachment Healing. In this heartfelt discussion, we unravel the wisdom of Philippians 4:6-7, contrasting the Stoic Greek emphasis on reason with the Apostle Paul's counsel to seek peace in prayer and divine providence. As we face the modern tide of anxiety, we delve into scriptural advice for weathering these inner storms, aiming to offer you insights that resonate with your Christian faith. Whether it's managing your reactions to life's trials or redefining your relationship with God, this episode is your guide to anchoring your heart in the tranquility of His presence.
My conversation travels through the Apostle Paul's own quest for peace amidst adversity, illuminating how his unshakable faith can inspire our own journey toward a serene heart and mind. We look at personal strategies for coping with suffering, emphasizing the transformative power of prayer and gratitude. Discover how fostering a secure attachment to God fortifies us against life's challenges, allowing His peace to guard our hearts and minds. Join me as I explore the intimate dance of managing anxiety and nurturing a steadfast trust in God's goodness—even when the waters around us are anything but still.
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As we celebrate the 75th episode of the God Attachment Healing Podcast, I'm thrilled to share a poignant discussion on how we forge our Christian bonds. Have you ever considered the profound ways in which your early life, cultural background, and personal experiences shape not only your interactions with others but your very connection with God? This episode is a heartfelt journey into the world of attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—and their powerful influence on our relationship with the divine.
Embark on an introspective adventure with me as we tackle ten compelling questions from Christians seeking to understand their God attachment. We unravel the threads of our upbringing and examine the role of the church in shaping our faith. By exploring the narratives of biblical figures like Martha, Mary, and Peter, we uncover parallels to our own spiritual attachments and learn how to navigate towards a more secure bond with God. Expect a blend of deep personal insights, transformative stories of prayer and community, and the encouraging potential of scripture to fortify our connection with the divine.
This episode isn't just another milestone; it's a beacon of hope for those yearning to deepen their trust in Christ, especially if you find yourself grappling with fearful or avoidant tendencies. We discuss the possibility of healing from past wounds and building a secure attachment to God despite life’s adversities. Join me in discovering how supportive relationships and an understanding of God's unwavering love can lead us to a place of profound spiritual security. This is not just a conversation, but a path to discovering the steadfast presence of God in our lives.
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In this episode of our podcast, I was joined by a very special guest, Elyssa Rocha, who shared her personal story of growing up in a non-Christian home and how her search for meaning influenced her decision to have not one, but two abortions. Elysse shares a unique perspective on this topic and sheds light on the complex emotions she experienced during these times in her life.
My guest opens up about how not having a strong faith foundation left her feeling alone and lost. When she found herself pregnant in her early 20s, she believed that having an abortion was the "right" thing to do to help the baby and herself. She speaks about the societal pressure and lack of support she felt during this time, which reinforced her decision to have an abortion.
However, when she found herself pregnant for the second time, things were different. Even though she had not received Christ in her heart yet, she had promised herself she would not have another abortion and found herself feeling the emotional and spiritual weight of this decision. The second time around, she was starting to experience His presence and compassion in her life. This led her to feel the weight of her decision to have a second abortion and the guilt and shame that came with it. When she came to know Christ close to two years ago, she opens up about the internal battle she faced and how she struggled to reconcile her faith with her past decisions.
Elysse shares how her new personal relationship with Christ helped her cope with the immense feelings of shame and guilt from her abortions. She talks about how she learned to forgive herself and receive God's forgiveness, which ultimately brought her healing and restoration.
As Christians, it can be difficult to approach women who are considering abortion. We may feel the need to judge or condemn, but our guest encourages us to instead approach with compassion and understanding. She shares how we can minister to these women in a loving and truthful way, by pointing them to the hope and redemption found in Christ.
In this powerful episode, my guest's vulnerability and transparency shed light on the complex and emotional journey of women facing unplanned pregnancies. Her personal experience also highlights the transformative power of Christ's love and grace in our lives. We hope this episode will inspire and equip our listeners to have meaningful and compassionate conversations with those facing this difficult decision.
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In today's podcast, we dive into the intersection of faith and attachment styles. In this episode, I sit down with Rita Blevin, who developed an avoidant attachment style after being separated from both of her biological parents due to an international kidnapping. Through her vulnerable and transparent testimony, Rita shares how she coped with the effects of her avoidant attachment style, including her relationships with her parents, romantic partners, and even with God.
Growing up without a stable family structure, Rita found herself constantly seeking independence and distancing herself from emotional connection. Even though she had family members who treated her well and provided a safe environment, she did observe that avoidance led to difficulties in forming and maintaining healthy relationships in other areas of her life. Rita also shares how her avoidant attachment style affected her Christian walk.
However, through her journey of healing, Rita found hope and restoration through the guidance of a Christian therapist. She shares the tools and techniques she learned to cope with her avoidant attachment style in a healthier way and how this has transformed her relationships, including her relationship with God.
Join us as we unpack Rita's powerful story and learn how God used a therapist to help her find healing and ultimately develop a more secure attachment to Him.
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In this podcast, I delve into the concerns of individuals with an anxious attachment to God. We explore five common worries, such as fear of abandonment, doubts about God's love, the need for constant reassurance, difficulty trusting God's plan, and feeling distant from God.
I also provide prayers tailored to the anxious attachment style, including prayers for peace and trust, security, and surrender. Join me as I navigate the intricate connection between attachment styles and faith, offering guidance and solace for those seeking a closer relationship with God.
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Understanding your attachment style is critical to helping you navigate your dating relationships. I discussed the significance of understanding attachment styles in romantic relationships, how these styles are established in childhood, and how those childhood experiences with our parents can significantly influence how we relate to others in adulthood.
I discussed the four main attachment styles - secure, anxious, avoidance, and disorganized. I highlighted that a secure attachment style is the most common and desirable style since it leads to healthier connections with people. The meeting also touched on how past experiences and unmet needs can impact relationship dynamics, and I suggested a self-check to identify with common fears and thoughts. Furthermore, I discussed the impact of social media on relationships and suggested that understanding attachment styles can also enhance spiritual relationships.
On today's podcast, I discuss the following topics:
- Attachment styles in romantic relationships,
- Secure attachment styles,
- Secure vs anxious attachment styles,
- Anxiety, self-worth, and independence,
- Intimacy fears,
- Shame, fear and social media in relationships, and
- Attachment styles in romantic relationships
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The church has a long history of addressing mental health issues and specifically doing what was called "soul care." Throughout the years, it was slowly taken over by secular counselors. In the modern era, the church has come to terms with the reality on how mental health issues are affecting the church. But, are we addressing it effectively and in a way that is still true and consistent with biblical principles?
On today's podcast, Dr. Knapp and I discuss the differences in how Christians and culture view solutions for mental health issues.
We also discuss the following topics:
- What is psychology?
- Existentialism - meaning, suffering, death and purpose/value
- How has the church handled mental health issues historically,
- What does the church do better when addressing mental health issues,
- What do modern counselors and psychologists do differently than how the church has handled them,
- Are there pros to secular counseling? Can Christians get better with having a secular counselor?
- The differences between Christian and secular counseling,
- Why those differences matter, and
- How we can avoid allowing the culture to dictate to the church what healthy should look like.
Connect and tune into Dr. Knapp's podcast "Mental Healthy" podcast and his new book "Healthy Depression" at the links below:
Mental Healthy
Healthy Depression
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The process of grieving looks different for everyone, and it even happens with how fathers and mothers experience the loss of a child. It does not always look the way we want it to look, nor does it always follow the stages in the exact order in which it is presented. I think we can all agree that there are different types of suffering that bring on different levels of pain, and there is no greater pain a parent can experience than the loss of a child. However, it is important for parents to understand that how they feel and what they think throughout this process is completely normal. The key is in reminding one's self of biblical truth and finding a strong Christian community for support. So, a question that naturally arises is, how can we trust God through the grieving process?
On today's episode, Christy and I discuss why this topic is so important to Christians who have experienced loss, but especially for parents who have lost a child. We also discussed the following topics:
- What Christy's parents example taught her about Who God is
- Most of Christian life is "caught not taught" by what we see in our parents
- Experiencing the loss of a child
- Negative messages that enter our minds and hearts during loss
- The ministry of presence
- The significance of names
- Believing "It's my fault" and "Is God punishing me?"
- Feeling judged
- Lastly, the "Dos" and "Don'ts" of how to support your friends experiencing grief
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It seems like nowadays, it is popular for Christians to be deconstructing their faith. However, we have to understand that this has happened since the beginning of Christianity. The difference today is that after deconstructing, there are many who do so to excuse their sin and try to create their own version of who Jesus is, and if He does not fit into their mold, then they abandon Him completely. But why is this happening?
On today's podcast, Justin Kintzel and I discuss what deconstruction is, why some Christians stay and others abandon their faith in Christ, explore the dangers of the prosperity gospel, and elaborate on why having a sound theology is important to deconstruct in a healthy way.
We also discuss the following topics:
- Justin's personal testimony on deconstruction
- Cultural do's and don'ts
- Cultural Christianity
- What God teaches us during suffering
- Learning how to discern the Scriptures and apply it to our lives
- Being careful with who we listen to, and
- How growing up in the church can make us blind to our lack of fully and accurately understanding the Bible
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Have you ever read the Psalms and felt like they took the words from the depths of your heart? Many of them are words filled with pain and suffering, and other times they are words full of joy and thanksgiving. As we'll explore today, there are a particular set of Psalms known as laments and they make up a significant amount of them.
The question is, what is their purpose? We'll explore this and more in today's podcast. Prof. Matt and I discuss why the Psalms are critical for the life of a Christian and how we can find healing in connecting with the sentiments that the authors describe in these Psalms.
We discuss the following topics:
- Introducing the topic with key verses from Psalm 119
- What are the Psalms of lament?
- What is the context behind them?
- What can we learn from these Psalms?
- Confession and forgiveness
- How do these lament Psalms bring healing to hurting hearts?, and
- What are some steps Christians can put into practice after today's episode?
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Attachment styles are such an integral part of how we do relationships, and it is especially important to understand how ours operates within our own family dynamics. In fact, our familial relationships most accurately depict what our attachment styles are.
When we learn how our attachment styles influence our ability to relate, regulate our emotions, parent better and develop self-awareness and self-compassion, we can relate better in our relationships. All of these skills become especially important in the process of adoption. My guest, Dayna Kumar, shares what her process of adoption looks like on this episode. Dayna and I also discuss the following topics:
- Learning about the different attachment styles
- How attachment styles affect our parenting
- Learning how to attune to our children,
- Learning how to self-regulation to better co-regulate
- What the different stages and phases of parenting looks like
- How to develop self-awareness and self-compassion
- What the process of adoption looks like, and
- How adoption applies to the Gospel
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Learning how to heal from our relationship with God requires us to go back to the basics. The basics of Christian life are easily identifiable: emotional regulation, prayer, filling our mind with Scripture, seeking strong Christian community, and serving others.
On today's episode, I discuss how the practicing the basics of Christian life can helps us heal in our relationship with God. I also discuss the following topics:
Experience all the emotions you are having
- They’re just emotions
- Here are some examples of strong emotions felt by the Psalmists:
- Psalm 22:1-2; 42:3, 5, 11; 55; 77:1-3; 88:13-16
Pray with Honesty, Humility, Awe and Patience
- “Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy” by Mark Vroegop
- His key point was that we just need to keep praying
- Cry out to God
- The key here is to allow yourself to feel the depths of the pain you are experiencing.
- Pray your struggles
- Everyone struggles and we all have friends we can share these struggles with (Gal. 6:2) but the purpose of sharing our struggles with Him is because He understands.
- Pray your questions
- God will carry out his will in our lives and we sometimes do not understand
- God WILL listen and He WILL empathize with our questions
- God DOES care about those questions.
- Pray the Gospel
- John 3:16-19
- Romans 5:8-11
- 2 Cor. 5:21
Fill Your Mind with Scripture
- Psalm 119 is the longest chapter in the Bible, in the largest book in the Bible (chapters-wise) and the focus of it is on the importance of the Word of God in our lives.
- Just continue to fill your mind with Scripture.
Connect with a strong biblical community
- Who we surround ourselves with will affect how we view our faith in Jesus and how we live out the work of the Holy Spirit in our lives.
- It is an encouragement to be with each other, encourage each other, struggle together and be open with one another.
- I remember learning that the Latin word for compassion is compassion which means “to suffer with”.
- Supporting verses
- Psalm 33:1-3
- Proverbs 27:17
- Romans 12:4-5
- Hebrews 10:24-25
Serve One Another
- Use your gifts
- Serving each other provides opportunities for humility
- Serving each other allows for your gifts to be used to bless others
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Here are some resources mentioned:
Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy
Is Crying Good for You?
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The process of grieving looks different for everyone. It does not always look the way we want it to look, nor does it always follow the stages in the exact order in which it is presented. I think we can all agree that there are different types of suffering that bring on different levels of pain, and there is no greater pain a parent can experience than the loss of a child. And with that pain, comes the experience of grieving which brings up the question for us as believers, do we grieve differently than non-believers do? How can we trust God through the grieving process?
On today's episode, Tyler and I discuss why this topic is so important to Christians who have experienced loss, but especially for parents who have lost a child
I also discuss the following topics:
- How Tyler and his parents came to faith in Jesus Christ
- What parents can teach us about Who God is
- Most of Christian life is "caught not taught" by what we see in our parents
- Experiencing the loss of a child
- How rare talking about miscarriages is
- Experiencing grief by going from denial to anger
- Negative messages that enter our minds and hearts during loss
- The need for Christian community
- The ministry of presence
- Was coping with the first loss worse than the second?
- God is sovereign over all
- Believing "It's my fault" and "Is God punishing me?"
- Lastly,
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Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy
Heaven
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Guilt and shame are probably the most common emotions we experience in our fallen nature. It has been a prevalent issue since the fall of Adam and Eve. Shame and guilt can cripple us from accepting forgiveness and moving forward in the plans and calling that the Lord has called us to, and it significantly affects how we relate to God and others in our lives.
On today's episode, I discuss why this topic is important and how it is relevant to Christians's relationship with God.
I also discuss the following topics:
- Distinguish the difference between guilt and shame
- Reference OT and NT examples of people in the Bible who experienced both emotions
- Discuss and elaborate on the sources of shameful thinking
- Mention some common shame messages people have
- Provide some antidotes to shame and
- Lastly, explore what steps we can begin to take manage our guilt and shame.
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Having copious amounts of information about God is not the same as KNOWING God. Knowing God is much more than knowledge, but having the knowledge is a good start.
For those of us who grew up in the church, we often take for granted how being brought up in the church has given us a foundation of knowing God at a cognitive level. However, as we get older, we move that understanding to a more intimate understanding of God as our faith is tested through the fire and trials of life. In essence, we experience God at a deeper level that we would never have experienced had we not gone through the suffering needed to conform us into the image of Christ.
On today's episode, Charles Reynolds and I discuss the importance of Scripture, prayer and Christian community to know God intimately.
We also discuss the following topics:
- Why we should study Scripture,
- How God views us individually and collectively as humankind,
- Sharing verses of encouragement that help us know God deeper,
- Defining prayer,
- Exploring what we should pray for,
- What prayer does for us as believers,
- What we should look for in Christian community,
- Why church and community is important, and
- Lastly, what our responsibility is to that community
Check out Charles's podcast "Hired by God" on Youtube here.
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We all need forgiveness. Forgiveness is a key factor in receiving the gift of salvation. Jesus forgives our sins when we repent from them and turn towards Him. Jesus forgave the most heinous of sins, including the past, present and future ones. The Bible says that "if we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins" (1 John 1:9). But even though this is a hallmark of the Gospel, it is probably one of the most difficult for Christians to accept and practice.
On today's episode, Dr. Jichan Kim and I discuss the difficulties in accepting God's forgiveness as well as extending it to those who have hurt us deeply.
We also discuss the following topics:
- Do we need to forgive ourselves before we can accept God’s forgiveness, or are self-forgiveness and accepting God’s forgiveness separate concepts?
- What are the greatest barriers to self-forgiveness or accepting God’s forgiveness?
- How do we know we are forgiven by God?
- What is the measuring stick for know if we have forgiven others?
- Are there different stages of forgiveness?
- How do we distinguish between forgiveness and reconciliation, because these two principles are often conflated?
- What does “loving the person” who hurt us look like after we forgive them?
- What are the greatest barriers to forgiving others?
- Lastly, what does the Bible say about forgiveness?
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Tragedies in life often move us to question God's goodness. It's natural and understandable to have that response. However, as we'll learn today, God is always working in the background to bring beauty from ashes. He is always in control. He always knows what He will be doing with the pain we experience and will use our suffering to bring glory to his name.
On today's episode, Cyrus and I discuss how the tragedy of the genocide in Rwanda, the process of forgiveness, and his personal testimony of how God used the death of his daughter to be a blessing to orphans in Central Africa.
We also discuss the following topics:
- The genocide in Rwanda
- Forgiveness is an ongoing work
- Rwanda makes forgiveness a core value of their culture
- Families and offenders reconcile
- The power of God's Word in helping us forgive
- What forgiveness looks like
- A pastor's testimony
- The cost of Jesus going to the cross in order to forgive our sins
- Cyrus shares his testimony of when he and his wife lost his daughter
- Lastly, how God used this to help him open up an orphanage called Irene's Home of Hope
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Most individuals, at some point in their lives, have experienced a form of trauma. Some experience trauma related to natural disasters and events that they have no control over, while others experience interpersonal trauma which involves intentional and/or unintentional damage to a person's physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health. When it's all of these together, it causes significant damage to a person's overall well-being.
On today's episode, Sharon and I discuss how the pastors and leaders can address trauma and healing within the church using a trauma-informed approach. This includes using a biblical worldview, but focuses on understanding the physiological and emotional effects that trauma has on the body. God created our bodies with the ability to heal themselves, but He also included a huge part of that trauma healing to include having safe and secure relationships within the body of Christ. May we continue to foster these types of relationships in our Christian communities to bring healing to those hurting within the church.
We also discuss the following topics:
- What is trauma and what does it look like?
- God's alarm system
- Different responses to trauma
- Biblical examples of traumatized individuals
- How safety and security heals trauma
- How to provide people language for their trauma
- Lastly, what the church and pastors can do to help.
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Suffering in life is inevitable. The Scriptures teach us in John 16:33b that "...In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” Jesus prepares our heart for suffering by making us aware that it is coming, but how do we actually respond when it does come?
On today's episode, Spencer and I discuss how Christianity in Western culture has had an imperfect or one-sided view of God that has impacted how they view suffering in their lives. Is it all really worth it? Will God really use this for my good? How long do I have to wait to see the Lord's hand in the midst of my suffering? There are a lot of questions that, we as Christians, ask when we're suffering, but Spencer alludes to the fact that we might not know the answer to the "Why?" of our suffering, but it is important that we remain obedient and patient in the process to see God work in our lives. He will change our hearts in the process.
We also discuss the following topics:
- The need for both truth and grace
- The reality of suffering
- The purpose of suffering
- Eliminating the tension of suffering and wrestling with God
- How to manage our emotions during suffering
- Lastly, waiting on God's timing to show us the purpose of suffering
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One of the key factors that influences how we view God, outside of how our parents view God and the church, is the type of religious background we grew up in. Mormonism, in particular, has a strong impact on the people who are part of it. They are often taught that they can become a god and, if that's the case,
On today's episode, Madison Palica and I discuss what it was like for her to grow up in the Mormon church. She discusses the struggles and difficulty in needing to deconstruct to truly understand who God is. However, this led her down a path of trying out different religious and spiritual practices that led her further away from God. Thankfully, Jesus opened her eyes and she gave her life to Him a few years ago.
We mainly discussing the following topics:
- What it was like for her to grow up in the Mormon church
- What damaging views the Mormon church has
- What it was like for her to deconstruct her Mormon faith
- Not deemed worthy enough to enter the temple
- Believing that God is emotionally abusive
- Turning to other religions and unhealthy spiritual practices - new age, witchcraft, meeting with a medium, crystals, psychedelics, spirit guides, transcendentalism
- And lastly, what Madison has learned about Jesus since she was saved
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Our parents play a key role in our understanding of who God is and how we can relate to Him. Fathers, in particular, play a key role because we refer to God as our Father so the model and example that they set for us really gives us a foundation for we think God feels and thinks about us.
On today's episode, Dr. Josh Waltman and I discuss how becoming fathers has given us a greater understanding of God's love and grace for us. Since both of us grew up in strong, conservative Baptist backgrounds, we share how that gave us a strong desire to stand up for the truth of God's Word, but that it also may have blinded us from being able to see God's grace and love towards us and all humanity.
We mainly discussing the following topics:
- What have we learned about God since becoming fathers?
- What was it like to group in a Southern Baptist churches?
- We share experiences of how God has shown his grace and love in our own lives
- How we can show grace and love to our children while also helping them orient that grace and love with truth
- Lastly, we share the importance of understanding the Gospel to have a complete understanding of God's truth, love and grace.
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So, what is this podcast about? This is a podcast dedicated to helping Christians understand why they relate to God in the way they do. I explore how our early childhood relationship with our parents--specifically with how they met or did not meet our needs--influences how we relate to ourselves, the church, and to God.
On today's episode, I discuss the purpose of starting this podcast. I share with you some personal experiences that taught me about how I related to God and how much of it was influenced by my relationship with my parents. Seeing how my parents related to God and the church set a foundation for me to build on, but there were a lot of lessons I had to learn on my own to understand how I related to God, the church, and myself.
I'll be discussing the following:
- What is attachment theory and who developed it?
- What role do our parents have in our understanding of relationships?
- How their influence in understanding those relationships also impacts the way we relate to God
- How to understand and rewrite your story
- Lastly, I'll provide some practical steps you can take to understand your attachment style to better your relationship with God.
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Are you "ready to date"? How about the person that you're considering to date? Are they ready?
On today's episode, we'll explore the different kinds of thoughts and beliefs we have about being ready, and hopefully, we'll understand that when people ask if they're "ready to date", they are actually asking a much more deeper, personal, and meaningful question. The question that is really being asked is, "Am I 'good enough' to date?"
To help us understand what this can look like in Christian relationships, I'll be discussing the following:
- What do we mean when we ask if we're "ready to date"?
- How do I know if the person I'm considering to date is "ready"?
- Am I "good enough"?
- What characteristics and factors should I look for to know that I'm ready to date?, and
- Lastly, I'll provide some practical steps you can take to identify in yourself--and others--your readiness to date.
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On today's episode, I'll be discussing the red flags in Christian relationships, but specifically on observing how you and the person you're dating relate to one another. Oftentimes, we are so used to behaving the way that we do in relationships without realizing how we may be harming the other person and even ourselves by not being aware of the negative ways in which we relate.
If you want to know how people “truly are”, see how they respond when they’re under stress or when they’re given power. This is crucial to observe in dating relationships.
To help us understand what this can look like in Christian relationships, I provide some biblical advice to implement to counter what John Gottman calls the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse:
- First, I discuss some obvious red flags that lead you to leave the relationship immediately,
- then, we discuss some more subtle red flags, and
- lastly, we discuss Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.
Scriptures used in this episode:
- Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. – Eph. 4:29
- A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. – Prov. 15:1
- A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back. – Prov. 29:11
- By pride comes nothing but strife, But with the well-advised is wisdom. – Prov. 13:10
- Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Eph. 4:32
- But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, - Gal. 5:22
- Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. – Eph. 4:2
- When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. – Prov. 11:2
- Before a downfall the heart is haughty, but humility comes before honor. – Prov. 18:12
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Forgiveness is one of the most important aspect of our relationship with Jesus. It is based off us repenting from our sins, accepting Jesus into our hearts, and accepting his forgiveness for our sins. But, what does accepting this forgiveness look like? What does it look like in our interpersonal relationships? And, what does it look like to to apply self-forgiveness?
For those who have experienced shame, forgiveness may be a difficult concept to grasp, be it in their interpersonal relationships their relationship with God, and it often leads Christians to believe that they are not deserving of forgiveness. This is not true.
On this episode, Dr. Kim shares with us the different facets of forgiveness as well as the importance of it for healing from hurts:
- Defining forgiveness and reconciliation,
- The need to have a sense of right and wrong in order to forgive,
- Discussing divine forgiveness, self-forgiveness, and interpersonal forgiveness, and
- How shame impacts the way we view forgiveness.
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On today's episode, I'll be discussing the red flags in Christian relationships. So many couples today are dating without asking questions that are critical to aligning with some key Christian values that are instrumental to their own personal walk with Christ.
I discuss what Christian belief "red flags" to look out for if you're about to enter or are in a dating relationship:
- Deconstruction - "I'm in the process of reconstructing my faith",
- Does not see the church as important for Christian growth - "I'm not committed to any local church, but God knows where I stand with Him", and
- Family tradition of going to church - "Church has always been very important to me because my family has always been religious".
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For my 50th episode, I decided to do an episode on answering questions about shame in relationships. This is an important topic, because I think most couples have something that they have experienced in their past which can be shameful to share in a relationship.
It can also breed fear, because if you share this experience from you past, you essentially place the ball on the other person's court and they get to decide whether they want to continue in a relationship with you, or if they want to distance themselves from you. It can be very unnerving to experience rejection after being vulnerable with someone, but in order to grow in intimacy in relationships, these painful experiences must be shared.
In this episode, I discuss how shame manifests itself in romantic relationships:
- back to Genesis,
- the "hiding" element of shame,
- the "oversharing" element of shame,
- asking the tough questions about each other's past, and
- learning how to move forward.
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The Bible warns us about "wolves in sheep's clothing" and one of the most evident ways in which we see them at work is when they prey on women in the church. They find ways to integrate themselves into the functions of the church by being charismatic, ideas-filled, enthusiastic, and articulate speakers. For some, they may not see this as a problem, but for those of us who have encountered the profiles of such characters before, we see it almost immediately.
Even Jesus, Luke, Paul, and Peter warn us about them.
"Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep's clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves." - Matthew 7:15
"I know that after my departure fierce wolves will come in among you, not sparing the flock;.. - Acts 20:29
"For such men are false apostles, deceitful workmen, disguising themselves as apostles of Christ. And no wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. So it is no surprise if his servants, also, disguise themselves as servants of righteousness. Their end will correspond to their deeds." - 2 Corinthians 11:13-15
"But false prophets also arose among the people, just as there will be false teachers among you, who will secretly bring in destructive heresies, even denying the Master who bought them, bringing upon themselves swift destruction. And many will follow their sensuality, and because of them the way of truth will be blasphemed. And in their greed they will exploit you with false words. Their condemnation from long ago is not idle, and their destruction is not asleep." - 2 Peter 2:1-3
We have to protect our brothers and sisters in the church from these "wolves in sheep's clothing, and hopefully, by you tuning in today, you can discover how and also how to minister to the women who are scarred by the detrimental effects of clergy sexual abuse.
Tune in today as Sandy and I discuss the following:
- Sandy's testimony on how she was groomed, sexually abused, and manipulated,
- How the church responded to the sexual abuse,
- What the church told her to do in response to the sexual abuse,
- How this experience changes one's view of church and God, and
- How to respond to women who have been sexually abuse in the church.
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Christians love reading the Psalms! It brings us peace, comfort, truth, and joy. But, it also brings to the forefront the various emotions of everyday life: sadness, depression, anxiety, anger, and fear. The Psalms teach us much about how God interacts with us through the difficulties and tribulations of everyday life.
On today's episode, Dr. Gary Yates addresses the following questions:
- Why do Christians love reading the Psalms?,
- What purpose do the Psalms have in the lives of believers?
- How should Christians approach reading the Psalms?,
- What do the Psalms teach us about God, man, sin, and shame?, and
- Do the Psalms address shame and guilt outside of Psalm 51?
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First of all, let me say that my guest, Patrick Hubbard, and I love the church. The church is the Bride of Christ and as Christians, we must learn to love her more and more as the day of Christ draws near when He will return for his Bride.
That being said, we also know that Christians who go to church have also caused a lot of pain for our own brothers and sisters in Christ.
In this episode, Patrick and I discuss what those issues are. We address the following:
- What is the church?
- How is the church been a blessing?
- How has the church hurt people?
- Why does hurt happen within the church?
- How can Christians biblically respond to being hurt?, and
- How can the church respond?
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Deconstruction has been a word we have been hearing more and more in Christians circles, and it is something that I both am empathetic towards but also very concerned for how common its become. Though a stage of questioning one's faith is expected in the life of a Christian, it seems that it has made many today turn away from their long-held beliefs than helping them grow in their relationship with Christ.
Tune in today as Josh and I discuss the following:
- What is deconstruction?,
- Who is deconstructing?,
- Is it good for Christians to deconstruct?,
- Why are Christians deconstructing?, and
- How can the church leaders and mature believers help Christians who are in this stage of deconstruction?
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Emotions. They're difficult to talk about, and even more difficult when you grew up in an environment where you were told to suppress them. Intimacy is even more difficult because in order to develop it, you have to be able to identify and regulate what you feel to communicate with others at a deeper level. This ultimately has an impact on how deep our relationship with God can be.
Tune in to today's episode as Christian Life and Perspective Coach, Mathew Swinson, and I discuss the many facets of growing in intimacy with Christ. On this episode, we discuss:
- What intimacy is,
- How important it is to our relationship with Christ and others,
- How to overcome the emotional and historical barriers to developing intimacy, and
- Learn how to grow deeper in our relationship with Christ.
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Can your testimony to those around you be an idol in your life? Do you feel like God has been punishing you for past sins? Do you feel like you shouldn't be discipling others because you're not yet "perfect"? Do you feel shame when you have to meet with the person who is discipling you or keeping you accountable?
Then, this episode is for you! 👍
Tune in today as Elder Buck Romero and I explore the difficulties experienced by Christians who are struggling with shame when discipling others or when being discipled and what to do about it. In this episode, we discuss:
- Some important aspects of one's testimony,
- Understanding the power and grace of God's love and how to apply it to your life,
- How to challenge the shame felt from past mistakes, and
- How to disciple others and find people to be discipled by.
If you have any questions about discipleship or would like to get in touch with my or Buck, please email me at slconnect08@gmail.com.
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My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church.
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One of the most difficult discussions to have within the church has to be the issues surrounding spiritual, emotional, mental, and sexual abuse. So much damage and pain has been done by pastors and leaders who have not learned how to exercise godly authority over the flock they are supposed to protect and lead.
This is part 2 of a series where I am covering different elements and situations on how abusers operate within the church.
I will continue to focus on helping listeners develop an awareness of the backgrounds of abusers, as well as describe how they relate in relationships, and what situations make them more likely to do so.
Tune in today as I describe what characteristics abusers display. Specifically, I discuss:
- Some common aspects of their history and upbringing,
- Behavioral patterns in relationships (relational characteristics), and
- Situations in which abuse is likely to happen (situational characteristics).
This was a difficult topic to cover, and I only covered a few points, but if you have any questions or comments at all, please email me at slconnect08@gmail.com.
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One of the most difficult discussions to have within the church has to be the issues surrounding spiritual, emotional, and sexual abuse. So much damage and pain has been done by pastors and leaders who have not learned how to exercise godly authority over the flock they are supposed to protect and lead. This is going to be part 1 of a series where I will be covering different aspects of abuse in the church.
But first, we must develop an awareness of what it looks like to have a foundating that defines what spiritual abuse is and how we can be more aware of what is going on in our churches today.
Tune in today as I elaborate on and explain the following:
- Defining what spiritual abuse is,
- Providing a biblical worldview of the church, and
- How to look out for the warning signs of potential abuse.
This was a difficult topic to cover, and I only covered a few points, but if you have any questions or comments at all, please email me at slconnect08@gmail.com.
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To understand the origin of sin is to understand the origin of shame. As we see in the garden of Eden, when Adam and Eve ate of the fruit that they were prohibited from eating, their eyes "were opened, and they knew that they were naked." This led them to "hide" themselves from God's presence when they heard Him walking in the garden." And why did they hide? They experienced shame--knowing what it meant to be fully known but in a sinful state.
Tune in today as Pastor Mike and I discuss the following difficult questions:
- How does the Bible define shame?,
- How does shame impact our relationship with God and others,
- Can shame be used as a means to draw is closer to Christ?, and
- What advice can be given to cherished who are currently struggling with shame?
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Christians who have been hurt, disregarded, or forgotten by the church can often conclude that going to church is no longer important, but in this episode, we hope to remind all believers that the body of Christ is essential for our walk with Christ. It is nearly impossible to mature without being able to confess our sins to one another, serve one another, be encouraged by one another, and forgiving one another. Fellowship with other Christ-followers is essential.
Tune in today to see how Pastor Travis and I discuss the following difficult questions:
- What does the Bible say about what church should be?,
- How did Covid change how we do church?,
- Is it a sin for Christians not to be involved in church community?, and
- Can Christians grow without consistent church community?
As Hebrews 10:24-25 reminds us, "And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near."
Do you have questions? Feel free to email them to me at slconnect08@gmail.com.
If you would like to learn more about my guest, Pastor Travis Formoso, you can visit the following website to listen to his sermons and learn about the church he pastors: http://www.westgroton.org
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Are you a parent struggling with managing your child's anger? How about your own anger? Are you someone who wants to understand how your anger was affected by your upbringing? This is an episode you won't want to miss.
Tune in today to see how parenting affects one's ability to manage and regulate their anger and overall emotions. We discuss:
-Erin Winter's book, "I Love You When You're Angry",
-How to help parents and children identify and regulate their emotions,
-How anger affects manifests itself in relationships, and
-Some discussion on how Christians address negative emotions.
Do you have questions? Feel free to email them to me at slconnect08@gmail.com.
If you would like to learn more about my guest, Erin Winters, you can visit her publication website here: https://www.snowfallpublications.com/
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My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. My focus on shame is a genuine interest of mine and is also a focus that I hope to address in my dissertation.
This channel allows me to share my thoughts on issues within the church, including mental health issues. I produce content that I believe is helpful and practical, and I do my best to make sure each video can provide informative, substantive, Christian content.
I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!
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How to Untangle the Complexities of Child-on-Child Abuse in the Context of the Church
This is a very difficult topic, but a necessary one to protect our families and churches. Sexual abuse in the church has taken many forms, but the complexities grow even greater when children are involved. There are psychological, medical, legal, and spiritual concerns at play, and it can be very difficult to navigate through it all.
Vince Hinders did his dissertation on this topic, and he shares some helpful information on how these issues can be addressed in a wise manner. We need God's wisdom when handling these difficult issues, and Vince provides some great steps the church can take to resolve them when they arise.
**If you're a pastor, counselor, ministry leader, and/or parent, this is an episode you NEED TO WATCH.
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When you think about the church, you usually don't think about Christians shaming other Christians, right? Or, maybe you do?
This has definitely been the case when it comes to the church's involvement in social justice issues. Progressive Christians have strongly criticized and shamed conservative Christians for not being involved, while the concern that conservative Christians have had is that the focus on social justice involvement has moved Christians away from the Gospel of Jesus Christ and preaching the truth of God's Word.
My guest, Jon Harris, discusses the dangers of it and how Christians should be responding to social justice prompts. In this episode, we cover::
- what the difference is between shame and guilt,
- how more progressive churches are shaming Christians who do not take part in social justice programs or activism,
- what this means for Christians and the church, and
- how to keep Jesus as the focal point of the church and not social justice programs.
Hope you can tune in!
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When it comes to counseling, minority communities face some interesting and dynamic challenges, much of which has to do with messaging that is received from family, culture, social media, and even political sources.
It also doesn't help that there is a strong stigma attached to seeking help through counseling.
In this episode, John and I discuss:
- what challenges are faced by Latino and African-American communities,
- how history plays a critical role as to what messages are communicated to minorities about authorities,
- how these issues need to be addressed at the family, cultural, and church community levels, and
- how counselors can inform and equip themselves to understand minorities when they come to counseling.
Hope you can tune in!
If you've been looking for a podcast to help you understand how shame impacts your relationship with God and others, then this is the podcast for you.
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Dating has changed quite a bit since the early to late 2000s. In my counseling experience, there is no greater complaint I receive from Christian women about dating than when it comes to understanding whether or not they are actually in a relationship.
The stages are so blurred nowadays that no one really knows how to proceed or how to define the relationship.
Dating today is better described as people seeking to connect and create intimacy in their relationship while also dealing with their insecurities that stem from previous relationships or core family wounds.
In this episode, I address these issues by discussing:
- timing of seeking a relationship
- defining the relationship
- learning to be vulnerable with each other, and
- facing your fears in relationships
This is one you don't want to miss.
If you've been looking for a podcast to help you understand how shame impacts your relationship with God and others, then this is the podcast for you.
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It's really amazing to see how much of our childhood experiences with our parents shape how we view God when we become adults.
If our parents were uninvolved, harsh, or absent, then we will tend to see God the same way. If our parents were involved, loving, and present, then we can make an easy transition to seeing God be the same way.
The key to understanding God, however, is not through our experiences with how our parents raised us, but rather through filtering those experiences through the truths found in God's Word. It is in and through his Word that He chooses to reveal Himself to us.
On today's episode, Dr. O'Hare and I discuss:
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how parents influence our view of God,
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how parenting styles play a role in how we view God,
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how we develop healthy and unhealthy attachments to God and others, and
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some ways to develop a secure attachment style.
If you want to understand the truth about how God relates to us as his children, and how parents involvement in our lives influences that, this is a show you'll want to tune in to.
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Fear.
It was the first emotion experienced after Adam and Eve sinned against God, and it is also the strongest emotion we experience in everyday life, though at different levels. Consequently, it has also significantly impacted how we understand ourselves in relationships.
Fear stems from shame as we see in Genesis 3. And the fear that Adam and Eve experienced is that of being FULLY KNOWN which is one of the prominent fears in relationships.
For those who are dating, engaged, or married, this is an episode you’ll want to tune in to.
Drs. Elias and Denise Moitinho and I discuss:
- fears in experiencing intimacy with others,
- fears of commitment and what that means for a relationship,
- fears of trusting others after being hurt, and lastly,
- some practical steps you can take to face those fears.
If you are currently dating, engaged, or married, this is an episode you’ll want to tune in to. :)
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PORN....again!?!
Yep, we're talking about it again this week, because this is an issue that has affected many marriages and families. Our hope with this episode is to bring clarity and wisdom in knowing how to biblically deal with this issue.
The feelings are the same (betrayal, not being "good enough", anger, resentment, disillusionment, unworthiness, loneliness, desperation, and of course, shame), but seem to be experienced at a much greater degree.
For those who are married or engaged, this will be an episode for you to tune in to.
In today's episode, Dr. Thomas and I discuss:
- how wives feel when their spouses use porn,
- how to address it in marriage,
- how to discuss the topic with your children,
- shame in discussing sex with each other and where the shame stems from, and
- how to develop a biblical view of sex for marriage.
If you are currently dating or strongly considering to enter a relationship, this episode is for you.
**You can still request Dr. Thomas's list of questions to ask a spouse or give to a married couple struggling with this so they can find healing. Email me at slconnect08@gmail.com, and I'll send it your way.
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PORN.
Just seeing the word can trigger a lot of emotions.
For women, it can often spark feelings of betrayal, "not being good enough", anger, resentment, and disillusionment. For men, it can often stir feelings of unworthiness, loneliness, desperation, and of course, shame.
Pornography use has continued to increase with each passing year, and it has negatively impacted how men and women view and treat each other. Sadly, this is even the case for Christian couples.
For those who are dating or thinking about dating, this is an issue that needs to be discussed. The question is, when and how?
In today's episode, Dr. Thomas and I discuss:
- what pornography is,
- what it does to the relationship,
- when and how to discuss the topic,
- whether or not to break up,
- myths about sex in marriage, and
- practical steps to take if you’re dating a porn user.
If you are currently dating or strongly considering to enter a relationship, this episode is for you.
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Many books and works of literature have themes and storylines that address culturally-relevant issues surrounding relationships, shame, and fear, and Dr. Prior makes many of those connections for us in today's discussion.
In today's episode, Dr. Prior and I discuss:
- how literature has elements of shame components,
- class discussion on cultural issues,
- the "Billy Graham Rule" and opposite sex relationships, and
- her book "On Reading Well"
If you enjoy reading literature and see the many connections it makes to culture, then this is a fun episode for you to tune in to.
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It's been said that leaders often travel alone due to feeling misunderstood, and this is especially true when it comes to ministry. Along with the feelings of loneliness and being misunderstood, there are moments where a pastor or leader may feel shame and fears in leading their teams.
It is in those times when one can exercise faith and know that "even in our fears, God is at work."
In today's episode, Pastor Jeff and I discuss:
- his book "Called to Cooperate: A Biblical Survey and Application of Teamwork,
- how leaders experience shame in leadership,
- fears leaders have when leading, and
- a biblical application on how to lead a team.
If you're a pastor or ministry leader, this is one you won't want to miss.
If you've been looking for a podcast to help you understand how shame impacts your relationship with God and others, then this is the podcast for you.
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I hate hearing when abuse happens in the church. The reason for that is because those sins are not reflective of the bride of Christ that is described in the Bible, and every time the church fails in this, it makes Christians appear as though they don't take it seriously. Though there are various other forms in which abuse can take place, sexual and spiritual abuse seem to be the most common.
It wasn't until 4 years ago when it became a hot topic, and many types of abuses in the church started to be exposed. Today, we hear Dr. Janyne's story.
In today's episode, Dr. Janyne and I discuss:
- what shame is,
- her story on the abuse she experienced in the church,
- how that affected her view of God and the church, and
- how God used a gifted counselor to help her in the healing process.
This is one you don't want to miss.
If you've been looking for a podcast to help you understand how shame impacts your relationship with God and others, then this is the podcast for you.
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Shame is such a powerful emotion, and it is seen everywhere, even in places where you would least expect it--the church. People who shame others are often experiencing shame themselves, and when you have a large group of hurt people, then you're likely going to see them hurt others as well.
In today's episode, Pastor Rob and I discuss:
- what shame is,
- how people can differentiate between shame and guilt
- how to find safe people we can be vulnerable with,
If you've been looking for a podcast to help you understand how shame impacts your relationship with God and others, then this is the podcast for you.
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Reading through the book of Genesis, specifically through the first four chapters, I found that one of the first emotions experienced after the fall was shame. I then noticed that there were 3-4 characteristics of shame, and these are each experienced by us through different experiences in our lives. As I pondered this earlier this year, I made the decision to change the name of the podcast to focus more on these elements of shame.
In today's episode, I discuss:
- what shame is,
- what Genesis 3 teaches us about shame and relationships, and
- discuss what topics you can expect for this season.
If you've been looking for a podcast to help you understand how shame impacts your relationship with God and others, then this is the podcast for you.
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The topic of race is such a sensitive topic to discuss in almost any circumstance, but when you have a solid foundation of trust between the two individuals who are discussing it, it actually makes for an honest and productive conversation.
In today's episode, we discuss the following:
- how the black community experiences racism,
- how culture affects how we talk about it, and
- exploring whether or not there is a potential shift in how we view race relations in our country.
If you've been having these conversations with your friends, then this is one you don't want to miss.
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The Gospel. The most important truth a person needs to believe and accept as part of their lives to become a Christian. Then, they must live in obedience as they learn to make Jesus not just their Savior but their Lord.
Today, the Gospel has been perverted by many false teachers both from the pulpit and from within the church, and my friend Josh and I discuss how we can protect the church from false teaching and what to do when it is identified.
Josh provides some great insights as to how believers can identify the lies that permeate many churches today, how to prepare ourselves in handling it, and makes a great emphasis on our need to defend the Gospel and share that truth with others.
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One of the most surprising things I often hear about Christian couples is how they briefly (or sometimes never) discussed the key areas they should agree on before getting married. The three most important ones that I've identified are faith, future, and family.
Most hope that with time these things will just work themselves out, but it often ends up leading to frustration and disappointment due to unfulfilled expectations. Avoiding these discussions often leads to plenty of confusion in dating later down the line, and can lead to some strong disagreements later on in marriage.
In today’s episode, I elaborate on each of these three key areas. I discuss when is the “right” time to have “the talk”, what questions to ask, some red flags to watch out for, and some final thoughts. Hope you can tune in!
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For years, marriage has been under attack, and the culture has slowly but surely redefined what it is and what it should look like. Instead of reading the Scriptures and putting into practice the prescription for marriage that has been given to us, many Christians have begun to contemplate that maybe it doesn’t have to be the way the Bible tells us. Maybe it can be something else. Maybe it can mean what they want it to mean. However, this can be more dangerous than we think it is and I explain why in today’s episode.
Today, I will discuss the following:
1. where we obtain our views on dating and marriage,
2. personal experience does not trump biblical prescription,
3. the Bible is our guide for what roles look like in marriage, and
4. the battle for leadership is the real issue at hand.
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Church. Politics. Two words that should probably not ever be in the same sentence, but because of where we are in our history, they seem to always be linked to each other in some way shape or form. The concern for me has been, why does it bring so much division? Shouldn’t we be in “full agreement” and of “one mind” when it comes to the issues we must defend and stand for as Christians? Are we not encouraged in the Scriptures to seek unity? If so, then what’s the problem?
Today, my friend, John Reid, and I discuss why there is division in the church, what issues we should be agreeing on, and then discussing ways in which we can reach agreement on those issues. Hope you can tune in.
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The fall had a detrimental effect on the history of mankind. Most significantly, it impacted how we relate to God and each other. We find that Adam and Eve's first reaction after the fall was fear and shame, and these feelings are all too familiar for us in relationships today. For us to understand what to do in our relationships, we need to understand how to address the core problem, and the core problem is our thinking and emotions is centered so much around ourselves that we actually distance ourselves from God and others.
Dr. Kevin Corsini, President of San Diego Christian College, and I will be discussing what relationships were like before the fall, what changed after the fall, and what implications it has on our current relationships.
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The Five Love Languages will be impossible to accomplish if the following principles are not established first. These principles set the right foundation in order for these love languages to be displayed in your relationships. The following passage will set the remainder of this discussion for us.
Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. – Colossians 3:12
- Compassion - sympathetic consciousness of others' distress together with a desire to alleviate it
- Kindness – of a sympathetic or helping nature
3. Humility - freedom from pride or arrogance
4. Gentleness - free from harshness, sternness, or violence
5. Patience - bearing pains or trials calmly or without complaint
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Forgiveness is the most powerful representation we have of Christ living and working through us. It is only through Him that we are able to not only forgive others, but also learn how to love them in the midst of our own pain.
All Christians have learned that God doesn’t call us to do what we can do in our own strength. He calls us to do what requires his power and strength to do. And extending forgiveness to those who have hurt us is definitely one of the actions that requires his strength to do.
On today’s show, I will describe what forgiveness is and what it is not, share some stories of forgiveness, share the pros and more pros of forgiveness, and then a final tip for the week.
Hope you can tune in!
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Mental health... 🎭
...a topic often ignored in Christian circles, but a problem that continues to grow in the church. ⛪️
A couple of factors that I believe are part of the problem are:
1) how we as Christians view mental health, 👀
2) how we view people who seek counseling, 👨⚕️
3) how families and cultural backgrounds associate seeking counseling to weakness, 👨👩👧👦 and lastly,
3) how pastors address mental health issues in the church. ⛪️
With the recent news stories surrounding the stigma that Christians may associate with mental health, I felt led to discuss this important topic on my podcast. 🎤
Took me a little longer to prepare for this one, but I think it is going to be one of the more important topics I have covered this season!
Hope you tune in on Tuesday!!🎙🎧🙋♂️
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Today's episode will explain who you can be pouring into, who can be pouring into you, and how your inner circle is your primary circle of influence. I will elaborate on how your relationship with God is your primary focus in growing as a Christian, and the three areas you'll need to focus on in order to grow in your relationship with Him.
I will also discuss the importance of having a mentor in your life, because they are a key connection for your spiritual growth. They have been where you currently are or have seen others where you are. They have learned from their decisions and have the wisdom to help you learn how God can speak to you in your tribulation, but who are also there walking alongside you.
And lastly, I'll discuss who you need to dedicate time to in your inner core. Your core can be a source of encouragement, truth-speaking, and sharing your weaknesses and vulnerabilities with them. Spending quality time with your inner circle is about
each of you giving and receiving, encouraging one another, and spurring one another
towards love and good deeds. Hope you can tune in!
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Today, I will be discussing what we can do when we see our spouse has stopped growing in the Lord. In marriage, we need to be aware of our own walk with Christ to assess where our spouse is in their walk. We must seek to confront and restore our spouse in a loving manner, and then seek to continue in the role God has assigned to each of as husband or wife. As difficult as it may be to see one’s spouse become distant in their relationships to God and them, the key is to be attentive to what God is doing in your own heart. I explain what this looks like in today’s episode. Hope you can tune in!
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Have you often found that we don’t understand ourselves, and because of that, we struggle in being able to understand others? Even more critical than that is our inability to connect by empathizing with the pain, confusion, and questions others have about life. But, it is difficult to understand others, if we can’t understand ourselves, and that is where emotional intelligence becomes a critical factor. I will discuss how we experience, identify, regulate, and express emotions in our communication with the people we meet and love. I’ll also discuss how it becomes a factor in our relationship with God.
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Music has a way of speaking into the deepest parts of our hearts, and it is an effective tool used to communicate feelings, thoughts, and experiences to anyone in the world. Those songs come from the journeys lived by the songwriters so it can be very easy to attach ourselves to people who have experienced the same things that we have. This is true for both secular and Christian music. However, secular music focuses more on us, what we want, and what makes us feel good, while Christian music should lead us to focus more on who God is, what truths are found in his word, and how He is our only hope for life and salvation. Christian music needs to draw us closer to God by teaching us how to follow Him better.
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Can you identify lies that Satan uses to move you away from God? Have you struggled lately with understanding whether God is good, whether He loves you, or whether his instructions from his word actually work in your life? Tune in as I discuss the types of lies Satan uses, what three lies he tends to use the most, and what you can do about it.
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Have you ever wondered why you're suffering? Do you wonder if God is punishing you for past sins? What does it mean when the Bible says that God disciplines his children?
Tune in for my interview with my good friend, Travis Formoso, Pastor at West Groton Bible Church, as he defines what biblical discipline means, what some misconceptions about God's discipline are, and God's purpose for discipline. 📖
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Do you know how your circle of friends impacts you? Would you like to know who you should have in your circle of influence, and who you need in your inner circle to grow in your walk with Christ? Then, this episode is for you. 👍
Tune in to gain an understanding why you may not be growing, and what you can do about it. Essentially, this episode will help you discern who to include in your inner circle.
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Do you experience a sense of fear in your relationships with people? How about with God? How do you respond to your fear? Today, we will be learning how fear impacts our ability to relate to people and God.
You will see how fear cause you to have one of three types of responses in your relationships with others and God. We’ll also discuss how to counter those intuitive responses, explain how they impact our relationship with God, and learn to trust in God in the midst of our fear.
My hope is that the content in today’s episode will help you approach relationships with a mindset that focuses on how to make them work by learning how not to operate on the basis of fear. The key is trusting in God and allowing Him to silence your fears.
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Why is dating so difficult? Why does it have to be so complicated, confusing, and painful? I'll be responding to some of your questions and comments about your ideas or perceptions on dating.
In today's episode, I address your questions and comments on:
- How much time should pass before officially entering a romantic relationship?
- Are men willing to take the initiative in dating?
- What does it mean when people say they are "working on themselves"?, and
- How similar to each other should couples be?
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Why is dating so difficult? Why does it have to be so complicated, confusing, and painful? These are the questions that are being asked in the Christian dating world. But with Christians having God's Word as a guide to lead us through dating and eventually marriage, what is it that they are getting wrong?
In today's episode, I will...
- share three factors that are absolutely necessary to follow when you're dating,
- discuss how knowing those can help you determine whether or not to marry that person, and
- challenge some popular myths about Christians and marriage.
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Do you struggle with feelings of shame? What about shaming thoughts? If so, you’ll want to tune in to today’s episode.
What were the first two things that Adam and Eve did and experience once they ate the fruit? They were afraid and they felt shame, because they were naked. So they went and hid. When they hid and put the fig leaves on, they illustrated one of the most common factors illustrated in psychology which is that of defense mechanisms. However, they also illustrated something else, their relationship with God and each other was now broken.
Tune in today to see how shame impacts your relationships with God and others. In today’s episode, we discuss:
-What shame is and where it stems from
-What the difference between shame, guilt, and conviction is,
-What shame does to our relationship with God and others, and
-Some practical steps to deal with shame.
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Resources from this interview
Counseling Techniques: https://www.amazon.com/Counseling-Techniques-Comprehensive-Christian-Counselors/dp/0310529441/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=experiential+techniques+john+thomas&qid=1561995876&s=gateway&sr=8-1
Enduring Your Season of Suffering: https://www.amazon.com/Enduring-Season-Suffering-Thomas-2011-12-30/dp/B01FKRNI24/ref=sr_1_4?keywords=suffering+john+thomas&qid=1561995902&s=gateway&sr=8-4
What’s Good About Feeling Bad?: https://www.amazon.com/Whats-Good-about-Feeling-Bad/dp/1414316895/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=whats+good+about+feeling+bad+john+thomas&qid=1561995947&s=gateway&sr=8-2
Healing the Shame That Binds You: https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Shame-Binds-Recovery-Classics/dp/0757303234/ref=sr_1_4?keywords=the+anatomy+of+shame&qid=1561995757&s=gateway&sr=8-4
Brene Brown TED Talk on Shame: https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame?language=en
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We will discuss the key role Susan Campbell has in her ministry with the Blue Ridge Pregnancy Center, and also dive into the people she serves. Since BRPC serves mostly young mothers (and many fathers), I’m interested in knowing more about their perceptions of God and church. I often find that their views are impacted by their experiences within the church. They share that God is judgmental and unloving, and therefore, feel like they can’t come to Him with their needs. We’ll also discuss how the church can play a more critical role in these situations, what Christians in general can do, and some final pieces of advice for women or friends of women in these situations.
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Establishing boundaries has been mindset that many Christians have adopted, but I think our understanding of them (which was originally learning how and when to say yes or no to other’s requests of us) has actually morphed into what I call “fear markers”. This has led to us to establishing “boundaries” that limit our ability to connect. If, as Christians, we are to become more like Christ, we need to ask the question, “Did Jesus have boundaries?” I make the argument that He didn’t and explain why. If we want to be more like Jesus, we’ll need to rethink our boundaries to make sure that they are not fear markers.
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Welcome back! This is episode 3, and we’ll be discussing the key role fathers have in teaching their children how to know and experience God through their relationship. Specifically, we’ll be discussing what we can do for them when they’re young, and how they can know and experience God as a Father so they can grow in their faith. that they cannot fulfill, and how to know and experience God as our Father as we continue to grow in our faith.
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Welcome! In my first episode, I share with you about my heart behind the podcast.
The core message behind this podcast is that God created us to connect with Him and with others. I also share some of the key factors that I believe have limited our ability to connect with God and with others. Lastly, I share a couple of “fun facts” about me so you can get to know me a little better.
I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!
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In today’s episode, I’ll discuss a very common struggle that Christian millennials struggle with. I'll explain what it means to find yourself, how we can't "know ourselves" until we know what the status of our relationship with God and others is, why it's difficult to connect, and what steps we can take to improve our relationship with God and others.
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