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On the say what? podcast, we help Christian women overcome toxic purity culture, be confident in their sex lives, heal from painful sex, and feel less alone!
Hanna believes that everyone has a seat on her couch, regardless of who you are, and it will never be too full for you to sit down. She currently lives in Colorado with her husband, Thomas and dog, Theo. She’s the most Enneagram 2 of all Enneagram 2’s. Let's talk about tough things, together!
Kristen Lemmon joins us today to talk about purity culture, sex, talking to your kids about sex, removing shame, and more! We laughed until we cried !!!
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Hanna chats about trying new things with your partner and how to make it FUN!
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Today we are chatting about abstinence only sex education and how people on the internet were telling Hanna she’s not a Christian (spoiler alert, she’s very much a Christian).
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It's time for another advice column!! Hanna gives her big sister/friend advice and answers your questions. She talks about premarital sex, husbands watching porn, being dependent on your bff, how to reignite intimacy, and more!!
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Harrison Butker recently gave a commencement ceremony speech at a Benedictine College. His speech spoke directly to women, telling them they have been lied to about their roles in society.
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Hanna’s doula Misty joins her on the podcast today to talk all about her journey to becoming a doula, why a doula is needed, breaks down some misconceptions about being a doula, and more! She also shares her experience with Breast Implant Illness and removing her implants recently.
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Hanna chats about Taylor Swift controversy, an update on her first postpartum period, and talks about how we are ALL called to purity.
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Hanna reads your submissions about your or your partner’s beige flags… like getting out of the shower and never drying off?? Enjoy lots of laughs today!
Hanna is joined by Occupational Therapist and Vaginismus Coach Jess Seitz to talk about the mental load of dilating! We talk about how to view dilating in ways other than a chore and we answer your questions.
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Hanna shares her experience with breastfeeding, the good, the bad, and the hard. She shares one piece of advice she wishes she could tell every woman who breastfeeds, and how to navigate breastfeeding in public.
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Hanna is joined by her bff Caroline to share your crazy and funny sex stories! From breast milk to animals getting involved, these stories are so good and funny. Remember, sex isn’t like the movies!
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Hanna is feeling chatty today and talks about some things that have been on her mind like saying sorry too much, is marriage hard, people being unhinged in Old Navy, and more! Her fav makeup remover: https://amzn.to/3TM6dAm
Hanna shares some very vulnerable feelings about her postpartum experience with rage and how it led her to Zoloft.
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It’s time for some big sister advice!! You wrote in what is happening in your life and I gave you some advice. We chatted about prepping for birth, how to know the Lord is speaking to you, politics (yikes!), and I gave some tea about mine and Thomas’ relationship.
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Hanna’s husband Thomas joins her today to talk about their 5 year anniversary!!! They each share 5 things they have learned in 5 years, answer your questions, and play the game “we’re not really strangers”
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Hanna is joined by pelvic health physical therapist and women’s health coach, Dr. Lindsay Massumi! In this episode, they talk about why pelvic floor PT is beneficial postpartum and how to ease back into sex.
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Hanna gives some life updates and talks honestly and vulnerably about how she has been struggling with initiating sex and saying yes. She shares what has helped her and how she leaned into listening to her body versus being preoccupied with other things.
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Hanna shares her experience with toxic purity culture and the one thing that changed everything for her. She shares how to live physically, emotionally, and spiritually naked!
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Hanna is BACK! In this episode, Hanna tells us about her broken leg, postpartum rage, moving to a new city, and what the new era of say what? podcast is going to look like. So excited to be back!!
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On this episode, Hanna answers a question she has received a lot since giving birth: did vaginismus have an impact on the birth process?
Hanna’s husband joins her today to talk all about postpartum sex & how fatherhood is going for him so far!
Hanna is joined by Jess Seitz of @painfree.intimacy! Jess is an Occupational Therapist and Vaginismus Recovery Coach who shares how she healed her vaginismus after 8 years of struggling.
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Hanna is back!!! In this episode she shares general life updates, how postpartum is going, her husband’s OCD diagnosis, and more!
Hanna had her sweet baby boy on Christmas Day! She shares her birth story that starts with her apartment flooding and ends with a Christmas baby. Stay tuned for part 2 when she answers your questions!
For Hanna's last episode before maternity leave, she discusses where she's at mentally and how she's preparing for birth. Keep up on Instagram: @say.whatpodcast
Today, Hanna answers your questions about pregnancy, masturbation, sex drive, and more!
This week is Hanna's birthday! In this episode, she will be sharing 27 things she has learned in her 27 years of life!
Hanna shared all about pregnancy sex & some unexpected things 3rd trimester has brought her.
This week, Hanna and her friend Nicole talk about what it's like to keep friendships as adults!
Hanna is joined by Tessa Crenshaw to share her story about having primary vaginismus.
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Today Hanna has a nuanced conversation about the feelings you experience when your body starts to change & how being pregnant has affected her view of her body.
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Hanna gives an update on vaginismus while pregnant and answers your questions!
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Hanna shares her honeymoon essentials and gives ideas if you are giving your bestie a lil gift box!
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Today Hanna chats about how purity culture contributes to women struggling with orgasms!
Hanna & her husband Thomas play the Newlywed game! Get to know them a little bit better through these random & sometimes juicy questions!
Today Hanna shares how saying “no” is not bad or mean and how to overcome people pleasing.
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Hanna shares a pregnancy update and talks about how purity culture promises marriage, but the Bible does not!
Today I give an overview of first and second trimester of pregnancy and answer your questions!
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Today I talk share anxieties I have experienced while being pregnant & what has helped me. I also share your responses & what has helped you!
On this episode, Hanna talks about ways to block out comparison for people in a relationship where their partner has more sexual experience or exposure than they do.
Hanna talks about how purity culture and society have made women feel like sex is only for their husband, and she shares how to overcome those thoughts.
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Hanna talks about how purity culture promises things & how sometimes they don’t come to fruition, and how that affects us.
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Hanna shares her good news!! If you are experiencing infertility, I am so sorry. You are not alone ❤️
Hanna shares another perspective of hot girl summer! Script to call your senator: https://www.instagram.com/p/Cd9ohy1NFjg/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=
This week, Hanna shares some tips she loves and uses to help with her mental health!
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Dr. Camden Morgante joins the podcast to share strategies to deconstructing purity culture. Follow Dr. Camden on Instagram! https://instagram.com/drcamden?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=
Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist Laura Meihofer joins us to talk about how to prepare for pregnancy, what to expect when pregnant and how it affects your pelvic floor, and postpartum!
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Today, Hanna answers one of her most frequently asked questions: “Is it wrong to dilate before you are married?”
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Hanna shares her tips for going to the gynecologist!
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Hanna is joined by Tori Beck of The Christian Advocate to discuss deconstructing Christianity & church hurt! Follow Tori on Instagram: https://instagram.com/thechristianadvocate
Hanna & Thomas share what they have learned in 3 years of marriage. Join the Patreon! https://saywhatpodcast.co/membership
Hanna’s bestie Caroline Hughes joins the podcast to share YOUR funny, cringy, embarrassing sex stories! JOIN THE SAY WHAT? MEMBERSHIP https://saywhatpodcast.co/membership
Author of The Great Sex Rescue Sheila Wray Gregoire joins us on the podcast today to chat about the orgasm gap, arousal, lust, and she answers your questions!
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Hanna’s bestie Caroline Hughes joins the podcast today to share her experience getting a hymenectomy.
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Todays episode we chat about how purity culture taught us to not trust men.
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This week, Hanna is joined by her husband Thomas and they discuss different reasons sex drive may lower once you are married and give you 3 steps to begin overcoming those reasons. THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR! BetterHelp Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp by clicking here: www.betterhelp.com/saywhat The best vibrator ($15) E68 - Moving Your Mindset Out of Purity Culture & Into God’s Design E64 - Sex Hurts, Now What?
Faith Thompson joins the podcast today to explain how our cycles work and how to best serve yourself during your cycle! We also talk about Natural Family Planning and Birth Control.
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Today's podcast feels like we’re on FaceTime! :) Hanna shares why she took the break & shared some life updates! THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR! BetterHelp Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp by clicking here: www.betterhelp.com/saywhat
The holidays are SUPER busy, but your spouse comes first! Hanna shares 3 ways to have intentional time together this holiday season.
PS - This is the last podcast of the year! We are coming back strong on January 17th, 2022!
Hanna shares how to prepare for your first pelvic floor physical therapy appointment & answers your questions about PFPT!
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Hanna’s long time friend Nicole Worm of Redeemed Collective joins us today to chat about her before & after story, mental health & intentional movement!
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Hanna answers YOUR questions today! We talk about dilating, vaginismus, condoms, tips for newlyweds, and more! Vaginismus Episode Our Story with Porn. Vaginismus Episode Our Story with Porn
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Hanna had the opportunity to speak about sex at her church’s youth group! Today she shared some life updates and the message she gave to them.
Hanna talks about how purity culture puts sex on a pedestal & what can happen because of it.
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Today we are talking all about Domestic Violence/Toxic Relationships! We are joined by Mallory Hislar, who has her Bachelors & Masters in Social work. She has been practicing social work for 8 years, working with women in domestic violence for 6 years and as a therapist for almost two years, so she will be licensed in December as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. RESOURCES: Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org Find a domestic violence shelter near you: https://www.domesticshelters.org/help#?page=1 Out of the Fog by Dana Morningstar https://amzn.to/3ANzShb Follow Mallory! https://www.instagram.com/malloryhcoaching/ https://www.malloryhislarcoaching.com/
Today Hanna chats about being overstimulated and touch being too much! What do we do about it? Let’s find out.
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Today Hanna talks all about masturbation! Is it a sin? Is it okay? Let’s talk about it.
In honor of suicide awareness month, we are chatting about mental health today! Hanna shares some things you wish people understood about your mental health. You are not alone!
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Today we chat about all things DILATORS! What they are, who should use them, how to use them, and more!
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Hanna is joined by her husband Thomas to chat about dating!. We answer some of your questions: how to navigate sex, communication, and boundaries.
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Hanna talks about the difference between sex & relationships in movies/tv shows/books versus real life!
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The number one question Hanna gets is “how did you overcome purity culture?” so today, she answers that question! We talk through the power of mindset & how to retrain your thoughts.
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Today we chat about period shame, period sex, and all things menstrual cups!
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Life Coach HaileyLynn Carpenter is back to chat about values! Download the FREE handout by clicking here: https://www.dateyoursoulco.com/vaulesandpurpose
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If you’re experiencing painful sex, today’s episode is for you! Hanna shares 4 steps to take if you’re having painful sex.
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Life Coach, HaileyLynn Carpenter joins Hanna on the podcast today to chat about burnout, boundaries, & purpose!
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In this episode, Thomas gets a little heated about the patriarchy... Give it a listen...
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LADIES this summer we are wearing whatever the heck we want to!!! Coming out of purity culture, I always stressed about how to dress in the summer, so today we chat about that! DM @say.whatpodcast to keep the convo going!
Hanna chats about 3 ways to prepare for your wedding night & honeymoon! DM @say.whatpodcast to continue the convo 💕
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Bonus episode coming at ya with Thomas Ward talking about being intentional with all forms of intimacy and how to approach physical intimacy.
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Hanna chats about 20 ways to create intimacy in your relationship WITHOUT sex!
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Sheri Bollon from Shame Lifter Society joins Hanna today to talk all about eating disorders and removing shame from our lives! Follow Sheri! https://instagram.com/shameliftersociety?utm_medium=copy_link
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LADIES we are talking about orgasms today!!! Your pleasure matters, too. We talk about the orgasm gap, how to orgasm, communication with your partner, and faking orgasms.
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Hanna is joined by her Holistic Pelvic Floor Therapist, Krissy Barritt, to discuss all things pelvic floor therapy & dilating!
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May is mental health awareness month so today we talk about the depths of anxiety and depression. Hanna shares her story with anxiety, therapy, and healing!
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Hanna is joined by developmental psychologist Carlie Palmer-Webb to chat about sex education, sexual agency, how to change the conversation from sex is bad to sex is good, and so much more!
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Happy birthday say what? Family!!! Today we chat about everything say what has done this year, and share exciting things that are to come! Thank you SO much for being a part of this family! Keep an eye out on https://www.instagram.com/say.whatpodcast/ for fun stuff happening this week!
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TRIGGER WARNING: sexual abuse
Today we dive back into purity culture & talk about some lasting effects it can have.
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Today we chat through what to do when your partner has a different sex drive than you! Also, is there really a normal sex drive???
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Hanna Helbert joins the podcast today to share what it’s like being a single mom at 19! She also shares her story of her having her first daughter at 14 and placing her for adoption. Hanna’s story is so powerful!
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It’s true, we love a good bath, skin care, relaxing moment, but is it real self care if we aren’t taking care of our soul? Today we chat about how to do both!
Trigger Warning: Rape, Female Genital Mutilation
Author of the new book “Women Rising: Learning to Listen, Reclaiming Our Voice” Meghan Tschanz joins us on the podcast today! Meghan’s goal is to reclaim feminism for Christianity, so of course we had to have her on to talk about her new book. We chat about gender roles in marriage, the idea of virginity, and hear Meghan’s powerful story!
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Evelyn James joins Hanna to talk through what to do when your partner is/was addicted to porn. Hanna and Evelyn talk through what does recovery from betrayal look like, how to trust again, and what is my role in this?
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Hanna and Thomas celebrate their two year anniversary on March 9th! Today they shared what they loved, what was hard, and what they learned.
We all have a purpose on earth, and some know what it is, and others don't. Today we chat about how to get from where you are, to walking in your calling! Nothing can hold you back, and you are the girl for the job. I believe in you, friend!
Trigger Warning: Intrusive thoughts. Friends, we are not our thoughts and we are not going to let our intrusive thoughts control us anymore! Today we chat through what intrusive thoughts are and how to overcome them. You are not alone!
Today Hanna shares 10 things she’s loving and things she’s doing to make 2021 a great year! DM @say.whatpodcast on Instagram to continue the conversation.
Happy Valentine’s week!! Let’s celebrate love & sex! Hanna shares date night & gift ideas for the week.
Ever feel like your relationship with Jesus is chaotic? Back and forth, good & bad? Me too. Today I shared some very real thoughts about my relationship with Jesus. Continue the conversation by following @say.whatpodcast on Instagram!
Today we dive into modesty from a purity culture stand point. We must change the way modest is taught and make it equal for men and women! DM @say.whatpodcast to continue the conversation!
**Trigger Warning: I talk about sexual abuse around the 17 minute mark
Do you carry sexual shame with you from something that happened to you when you were a teen or early college years? I think a lot of us do, and I think it's connected to the lack of conversation around sex in society. Society sets us up to fail in our sex lives, so hopefully today's conversation can help take that shame off of you!
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“The first year of marriage is so hard.” “Never go to bed angry.” We’ve all heard people quick to shoot off marriage advice to newly weds and couples engaged. But what advice is good? What is bad?
Hot Take! I don't have any goals for this year. Goals for 2021 seem a bit overwhelming and just too much. If you feel overwhelmed going into 2021, you aren't alone!
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Every sex life is different and every sex life goes through different seasons. Today we chat about the different sex life seasons we go through, and how to improve your sex life (your body is your bestie!). DM @say.whatpodcast to keep the convo going :)
Hanna is joined by her husband Thomas to share their story from start to finish! No judgment please fam <3
Most importantly, as we are in the holiday season, it’s so important to GIVE BACK! And the way say what? is doing that is by giving to the Bad Bettie Project. I am SO happy to share this incredible organization with you!!!
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Hanna starts this episode by sharing vulnerable thoughts about being a good enough wife and Christian. Then, she gets real about holiday expectations. Does your family expect you to have a perfectly clean house, bring home a significant other, and pressure you to have kids? Does it seem like too much to handle this year? We chat about how to overcome that!
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Montana Doran of Tana Talks podcast joins Hanna this week to talk about how to walk out your purpose, how scary it is, her dream of being a comedian, and more! Follow Montana!
Insta & Tik Tok: @montanadoran /Tana Talks Podcast: @tanatalkspodcast / https://tanatalks.com/
Licensed Professional Counselor Katherine French-Ewing takes us through a guided meditation today! Listen to this episode when you’re at home relaxing and take part in the meditation exercise. If something was revealed to you during this, please DM me @say.whatpodcast and let’s chat about it!
RESOURCES:
Katherine’s YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQ_rzzsqiFKa9D2y_ry3vuw
Book with Katherine: http://www.crossroadscounselingassoc.com/katherine-french-ewing
Psychologytoday.com (groups)
New Life Ministries (800-639-5433)
Focus on the Family (855-771-HELP)
For residents of CO, if you are in crisis and need immediate support, please text TALK to 38255.
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Hanna shares her story this week that involves multiple moves, intense trauma, major struggle to feel like she fit in, a church closing, and much more. Get ready for a very real & vulnerable story that explains how she really found who Jesus is and who she is.
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Hanna is joined by her husband Thomas to talk about where do we go from here, here being the election. Listen to them share areas they disagree in, and how they both think rest is key for us right now.
Thomas Instagram: @thomasleeward
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Does reading the words “sex toys” make you uncomfortable? If you answered yes, well, me too. In this episode, we fight against the stigma and shame around sex toys!
Check out @awakeningboutique on Instagram to see how woman positive sex stores are changing the game for sex toys.
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Today Hanna’s bff Caroline Hughes joins us on the podcast to share their friendship story! It is a unique & fun story involving Instagram, really close weddings, and moving across the country together. Have fun and laugh with us today! Follow @umbellea + @huefloriadesignco on Instagram!
Podcast host Bianca Wulwick of “Please Don’t Kick Me Out” joins us to talk all things imposter syndrome! Do you have it all together? Nope. Neither do we! Follow @pleasedontkickmeout on Instagram and listen on all places you find your podcasts!
Bonus episode time! Today we have a quick chat about our country & the way we treat people. Hanna talks about how we should be living like Jesus instead of cancelling people because of their political beliefs. We know people don’t love talking about politics, but this is MUCH more than that!
ALSO, please vote. It is so important! Below are links where you can check your registration and get information about all things voting.
Voter information: https://www.vote.org
Where Do I Stand? Test: (This is just a helpful guide. Do your own research, too!)
https://www.isidewith.com/political-quiz
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Gaby DeBerard joins us for Spina Bifida Awareness Month! Hear her personal story with Spina Bifida and learn more about the disabled community. Follow these accounts to learn more!
Instagram: @gabyfaye96 @chelsiehill @xoxo.rikkaa @livingwithclaireity @rollettes_la @aaronwheelz
Do you say “I’m sorry!” more than anything else? I do! Today we chat about how to stop saying sorry when you don’t need to be apologizing & how to gain confidence in yourself. Also, this lube is a MUST. Serious game changer. Überlube Luxury Lubricant 50ml https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00KDHS8PO?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Trigger Warning: This episode is about sexual abuse. Hanna is joined by her husband to chat about the new movie “Cuties” and sexual abuse. We must believe survivors!
Today Hanna chats about the two reasons your marriage could be in a funk: sex & unhealthy communication! We talk about how to find a healthy sex life, and what the secret to healthy communication is. Hear from this newly wed on some ways she has figured out how to get out of a funk in your marriage!
Today Hanna updates us on where she’s at with vaginismus & acupuncture, and then dives into how important advocating for yourself in the physical & mental health world. You can love Jesus & go to therapy & take anti-depressants, too! Mental health resources: https://www.talkspace.com | National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 & https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org | https://www.betterhelp.com
Hanna & her friend Brittany Close break down expectations that sex is like you see in the movies by sharing YOUR funny/embarrassing/crazy sex stories! Sex isn’t like you see in the movies or like society tells us. You’re not the only one who has done something embarrassing during sex! Follow Brittany on insta: @brittanykalene
Porn is not just a mans struggle, it’s a woman’s struggle too! This week, Lacy Abercrombie joins us to share her story with a porn addiction. She chats about living in silence for 10 years and how she was able to overcome this addiction. This is a CAN’T MISS episode! Regeneration Recovery: http://www.regenerationrecovery.org/resources/%5c/ Insta: @abercrombielacy @luvurnghbor Tik Tok: @abercrombielacy
Thomas and I share our story & experience with porn in our marriage. We share what decision had to be made to overcome this struggle, and encourage others who are struggling with this as well. Thomas’ Instagram: @thomasleeward DM @say.whatpodcast on Instagram to continue the conversation!
Link to Every Heart Restored: https://www.amazon.com/Every-Heart-Restored-Healing-Husbands/dp/030745942X/ref=sr_1_4?crid=SJHJ5L9G66JB&dchild=1&keywords=every+womans+battle&qid=1597681677&sprefix=every+woman%2Caps%2C197&sr=8-4
Last week we chatted about how Purity Culture personally affected me, and this week we talk about where to go from here? How do we overcome Purity Culture? How do we talk about sex in a better light? I don't have all the answers, but I definitely have some thoughts!
Click here for the list of Sex Positive Resources.
Click here to listen to last week's episode about Purity Culture.
Today we dive into the 6 ways purity culture affected me. It’s personal and heavy, but a good one! Here’s the episodes I referenced: E8: Sex: How far is too far (w/ Thomas Ward) and E2: Sex is for you too, girlfriend!
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E14: Life Update: Why Sex Hurts
Today we chat about an update with the Podcast, my life, and I fill everyone in on why sex has been hurting me for over a year. Get ready for lots of real personal info! We’d love for you to join the Facebook group so we can continue the conversation and learn from each other!
Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/saywhatpodcast
Other podcasts I mentioned: A Longer Table with Manda Carpenter, Chatty Broads with Bekah and Jess
Positive resource about sex:
Chelsea Smith (@chelseasmith on Insta) does Marriage Monday every Monday and shares real life marriage tips, encouragement, and has healthy conversations around sex.
Chelsea Blankenship is the creator of my favorite Facebook group, Colorado Girl Gang! We chat about the power of community and the importance of allowing everyone a seat at the table. No Regina George’s allowed!
Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2227332090629840/?ref=share
Instagram: @chelseaarielle18 & @coloradogirlgang_
Glow specialist and kick booty photographer Nari Ro joins us today to talk about owning 2 successful businesses at 24 and creating a brand that truly reflects who you are. Do you need some encouragement to start that dream you have? If yes, then today is a can’t miss chat for you!
Instagram: @skinbynari, @narirophoto
www.skinbynari.com, www.narirophotography.com
Get ready to have an extremely vulnerable and honest conversation about being single and all that comes with it, especially in the Christian world. We laugh through Nicole talking about how her relationship goals were actually dating don’ts, and we cry about the realities of things not being the way we expect them to be.
Instagram - @emilynicole92
Redeemed Collective:
https://emilynworm.wixsite.com/redeemedcollective // @redeemed.collective
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Today we chat about all things first year of marriage with Thomas Ward and some of our best friends in the whole world, Caroline and Corbin Hughes. We talk through things we weren’t prepared for, things we love, and of course, sex. Get ready to laugh with us and hear a candid conversation on the first year of marriage.
Thomas Ward: Instagram @thomasleeward
Caroline Hughes: Instagram @umbellea
Corbin Hughes: Instagram @_lil_crow
Today we chat about all things first year of marriage with Thomas Ward and some of our best friends in the whole world, Caroline and Corbin Hughes. We talk through things we weren’t prepared for, things we love, and of course, sex. Get ready to laugh with us and hear a candid conversation on the first year of marriage.
Thomas Ward: Instagram @thomasleeward
Caroline Hughes: Instagram @umbellea
Corbin Hughes: Instagram @_lil_crow
Today we hear from Thomas’ POV on his wife wanting sex more than him. Then, we take the conversation to the age old question: how far is too far? Instagram: @thomasleeward DM @say.whatpodcast and let’s continue the conversation!
Today we have a fun conversation about gender roles! Wives, don’t feel guilty if you don’t cook, I don’t either! Let’s chat about modern gender roles and how those can work in your relationship.
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ANTI-RACISM RESOURCES (people to follow, books to read, podcasts to listen to, all the things): https://drive.google.com/drive/mobile/folders/1I35bE81HCyDVblE38wuAkBIqv2_xlFtv
DONATE TO THE CREATOR OF THE ANTI-RACISM RESOURCES: Venmo: Michelleoye CashApp: $Milugbusi
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I was not prepared to want sex more than my husband and I felt like the only one in the world who struggled with that. Today we have a very real conversation about that and how we worked through that struggle.
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Are you tired of arguing with people on Facebook? Does it exhaust you to have a conversation with someone that has a different opinion than you? Today we chat about how to turn those conversations good. Turns out, it’s really simple.
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You’re not the only one who has bad days. So, why are we afraid to talk about it? Let’s normalize bad days and opening up about your feelings. You are NOT too sensitive or TOO emotional! DM @say.whatpodcast on Instagram and let’s chat about it!
Did you wonder why there’s a unicorn, Doc Marten’s, and cats on the podcast artwork? Today we have a quick chat explaining the why behind the artwork.
The artist is Parker Berry and you absolutely need to follow him on Instagram: @ParkerBerry and hit him up for your design needs!
Did you grow up hearing that sex was only for the man and it was your job, as a woman, to please him? I’m here to tell ya, THAT’S NOT TRUE! Let’s talk about how sex is for you too!
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