The Date Brazen Podcast: Recent Episodes
Lily Womble
How do I find the right relationship when dating apps suck? How can I find better dates? How can I deal with that nagging anxiety that no one is out there for me? How can I navigate dating with more confidence and find that right relationship?
Welcome to The Date Brazen Podcast, where we’ll answer ALL of these questions and so much more. Week after week, host, former top matchmaker and dating coach, Lily Womble brings you all the tools, strategies and coaching you need to build a clear path to the best relationship of your life.
After matching hundreds, Lily realized that with training, women can match themselves better than anyone else ever could. Now she helps thousands of women around the world build fulfilling, joyful and successful dating lives on their own terms. She’s here to help you do the same.
If you’re looking for unconventional, feminist leaning dating advice that works, this podcast is for you.
Along with her best kept secrets, Lily will share interviews with experts and live coaching sessions, so you can feel seen, heard and inspired.
Today's podcast episode is a coaching session with Michelle. She's in her 50s, divorced after a 24-year marriage, and getting back into dating after being with one person her whole adult life.
In this raw and powerful coaching session, we unpack the overwhelm of dating apps, the anxiety of being “naive,” and the pressure late bloomers feel to already know how dating is supposed to work.
Michelle shares how:
→ Dating apps make her feel panicked in 3 minutes or less
→ She’s afraid she missed the memo on how to flirt or date
→ All she really wants is a partner to laugh with at a family campsite, but dating feels like an IMPOSSIBLE way to get there.
We talk about self-compassion, letting go of judgment, and what it means to stop settling—not just for the wrong relationship, but for a miserable dating life.
📺 Or watch the video version on YouTube! (@datebrazen)
Work with Lily:
🔗 Free Live Training on June 17th: datebrazen.com/lets-go
🔗 Learn about Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/waitlist
🔗 Book: Thank You More Please
🔗 YouTube Channel
🔗 TikTok
In this very first live coaching session on The Date Brazen podcast, you’ll meet Ellie—an amazing, big-hearted late bloomer who's never had a romantic relationship, and who thought dating was something she missed the memo on. Sound familiar?
Together in this episode we explore:
- Why Ellie stayed on multiple 4-hour dates she didn’t even want to be on
- How to process feeling behind in your dating life
- The surprising strategy shift that gave Ellie permission to want what she wants
- How to practice self-compassion and build dating resilience in real time so you can put yourself out there and attract the right people
If you’ve ever felt behind, unchosen, or like you’re "too late" to find what you want—this episode is for you.
🎉 And don’t miss Lily’s free live training: ✨ 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a "Late Bloomer" ✨ on June 17, 2025.
Sign up at datebrazen.com/lets-go
Work with Lily:
🔗 Learn about her signature program, Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/waitlist
🔗 Book: Thank You More Please
🔗 YouTube Channel
🔗 TikTok
Does the idea of making the first move in dating make you feel awkward AF? You’re not alone. In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly how to shoot your shot as a late bloomer—without spiraling into self-doubt or waiting for someone else to make the first move.
You’ll learn:
✅ The mindset shifts that make it easier to take bold action in dating
✅ Why making the first move 100% of the time is a game-changer for attracting the right relationship
✅ How to bounce back from rejection (without losing your confidence)
Work with Lily:
🔗 Free Live Training on June 17th: datebrazen.com/lets-go
🔗 Learn about Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/waitlist
🔗 Book: Thank You More Please
🔗 YouTube Channel
🔗 TikTok
If you’ve ever feared that you're not attractive or desirable because it’s never happened before, this episode is a must-listen.
Lily breaks down the internalized fears many late bloomers carry—and how to reframe those thoughts with compassion, context, and confidence using her signature ACK mindset tool (Acknowledge, Compassion, Kind Reframe). You’ll also get a powerful challenge to reconnect with your body and spark self-trust this week.
🎧 Prefer to watch? Head to YouTube for the full episode.
📆 And don’t miss Lily’s free live training on June 17th:
3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a Late Bloomer – save your seat now: datebrazen.com/lets-go
Links + Resources:
📚 Buy Lily’s book Thank You More Please: datebrazen.com/book
💖 Work with Lily: datebrazen.com
🎥 YouTube Channel
📱 TikTok
If flirting feels awkward, forced, or like a foreign language—especially because you feel “behind” in dating—this episode is your new playbook.
Lily breaks down her step-by-step approach to flirting IRL with courage and ease. You’ll learn how to strike up a conversation, gauge interest, and shoot your shot—without spiraling or second-guessing yourself.
📺 Want the visual breakdown?
Watch it on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@datebrazen
Don’t miss Lily’s FREE June 17th, 2025 training:
✨ 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a Late Bloomer ✨
You’ll learn how to:
✔️ Release shame about being a late bloomer
✔️ Build rock-solid confidence in what you want
✔️ Start dating successfully this summer
RSVP here: https://datebrazen.com/lets-go
📚 Grab Lily’s book Thank You More Please: https://www.datebrazen.com/book
Follow Lily on:
✨ Tiktok
Learn how to work with Lily: https://www.datebrazen.com
Are you a late bloomer wondering, “How the hell do I even start dating?”
In this episode, Lily breaks down the exact 6-step roadmap to go from anxious and avoidant to confident and aligned in your love life. You’ll learn how to drop shame, claim your essence-based preferences, use dating apps with boundaries, and build your IRL dating strategy—messy and awkward and powerful.
Here’s how to work with Lily:
✨ On Demand Training: 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a Late Bloomer
✨ Buy her book: Thank You More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book
✨ Download the free "Create Your Essence-Based Preferences" Guide HERE
Follow Lily on:
✨ Tiktok
✨ Youtube
In this kickoff to the Late Bloomer Series, Lily gets real about how to tell a date you’ve never been in a relationship—without spiraling, oversharing, or self-abandoning. If you’ve ever felt behind in love, this episode will help you embrace your story, communicate with confidence, and stop making your dating history mean something it doesn’t.
✨ Grab Lily’s book Thank You, More Please + get the bonus Podcast Listening Guide: https://datebrazen.com/book
Get on the waitlist for Main Character Dating: https://www.datebrazen.com/waitlist
Learn how to work with me: https://www.datebrazen.com/
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🎧 Full show notes + transcript at: https://datebrazen.com/podcast
Are you tired of living for everyone else's expectations... and ready to step into your own dang spotlight? 🎬✨
In this behind-the-scenes episode, I’m sharing practical tools to stop people-pleasing for good — and start building the stupidly joyful, self-trusting, main-character life you’re meant for.
Inside this episode:
- What people-pleasing really is (it’s deeper than being “too nice”)
- Why releasing people-pleasing is so damn hard (and why it’s not your fault)
- How to start rebuilding self-trust in small, powerful ways
- Three practical steps you can take today to enter your Main Character Era
If you’re feeling the heart pull to live bigger, braver, and more joyfully — the doors to Main Character Life are open right now.
🎟 Apply for Main Character Life (closing May 2!): HERE
This is my six-month small group mastermind where you'll learn to:
- Release people-pleasing as your default
- Build rock-solid self-trust
- Take massive, messy action toward your dreams
- Create a stupidly joyful life that finally feels like yours
Work with Lily:
Learn how to work with me: https://www.datebrazen.com/
Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book
Follow me on
✨ Tiktok
✨ Youtube
RSVP for my new training- Stop People Pleasing & Build a Stupidly Joyful Life HERE Apply for Main Character Life Mastermind HERE Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book Follow me on ✨ Instagram ✨ Tiktok ✨ Youtube
In this episode, we’re diving deep into Main Character Energy — what it is, why it matters, and how to start building it (even if you’re shy, introverted, or feeling wildly behind). You’ll learn: - Why Main Character Energy is even more important in unstable times - The three essential skills at the heart of a Main Character Life - The truth about people-pleasing, perfectionism, and "best friend identity" - Why healing burnout isn’t just for you — it’s for your community, too - How to take powerful action using the "10 Seconds of Courage" method Real stories from Lily and her clients on what happens when you stop shrinking and start taking up space This is your invitation to stop settling for “good enough” and start creating a life that’s audaciously joyful, deeply aligned, and unapologetically yours. Want to go deeper?
Join us for the free live training on April 23rd:
✨ Stop People-Pleasing + Build a Stupidly Joyful Life ✨
You’ll learn exactly how to cultivate Main Character Energy — and get a behind-the-scenes look at the 6-month mastermind, Main Character Life. RSVP HERE-- https://www.datebrazen.com/joyful-life Applications open during the live event, and spots are limited. ✨ Join the waitlist for early access → https://www.datebrazen.com/mcl-waitlist 🎧 Listen now + step into your Main Character Era.
Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book
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She Moved Abroad, Quit Her Job & Took Her Life Back: Jackie’s Main Character Energy Story
Burned out, stuck, and shrinking herself to stay safe—Jackie thought joy was out of reach. In this powerful episode, she shares how she went from emotional exhaustion to building a joy-filled life abroad with purpose, friendship, and bold-ass moves. If you're craving your own main character energy moment, this one's for you.
RSVP for my free training on April 23rd, 2025: https://www.datebrazen.com/joyful-life
Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book
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✨ Youtube
In this episode, Lily shares the ONE question that will revolutionize how you vet potential partners, ensuring you never waste time on lackluster dates and conversations again. Grab your notepad because this episode isn't just about strategy - it's a journey into reclaiming control of your dating narrative and steering towards the relationships you truly desire. Links: ✨ Order Lily's book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book ✨ Get our free, on-demand training: 3 Steps to attract the right partner as a "late bloomer": https://www.datebrazen.com/training ✨ Download the Free Guide to Your Essence-Based Preferences HERE ✨ Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/qd-questions-strategy
✨ Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. ✨ Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE.
In this week’s episode of the Date Brazen Podcast-- Episode Spotlight: "How can I stop being lazy in my dating life?", I’m teaching you exactly what you need to do instead of falling for the productivity myth. (which will lead to better outcomes for your dating life!)
What you’ll learn in the episode:
✨ How to ditch the idea that “doing more” will get you better results in dating.
✨ How to do the most POWERFUL tiny steps in dating to get the biggest results.
✨ Why embracing self-care and giving yourself permission to slow down is key.
✨ How to redefine dating success on your own terms—and why that’s your real path to finding the right people for you.
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WORK WITH LILY:
✨ Get my free "Create Your Essence Based Preferences Guide" HERE
✨ Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book
✨ Get my FREE training, “3 Steps to Attract the RIGHT Partner as a Late Bloomer”: https://www.datebrazen.com/training
Links:
Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE.
In this episode, I walk you through my Blessing and Releasing strategy: a powerful step-by-step method to let go of the wrong people and make space for the right ones. Because holding on to what isn’t meant for you? That’s keeping you from what is.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
✨ How to identify who to bless and release (and why it’s essential).
✨ The mindset shift that will help you actually move on.
✨ Why setting boundaries is a radical act of self-love.
✨ How to embrace abundance instead of settling out of scarcity.
✨ The truth: You are worthy of what you desire in love.
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WORK WITH LILY:
✨ Get my free "Create Your Essence Based Preferences Guide" HERE
✨ Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book
✨ Get my FREE training, “3 Steps to Attract the RIGHT Partner as a Late Bloomer”: https://www.datebrazen.com/training
Links:
Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE.
In this episode, I break down exactly how to start dating with confidence, self-care, and intention.-- especially if you've never dated before!
You’ll get a step-by-step guide to move past fear, own your desires, and create a joyful dating life on your terms.
Here’s what you’ll walk away with:
✨ How to start dating from a place of power (not pressure).
✨ Why your thoughts are not always facts—and how to shift them.
✨ The "Thank You More Please" challenge to clarify what you really want.
✨ How to release perfectionism and embrace the messy, fun, real parts of dating.
✨ The truth: You are uniquely qualified for the right person.
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WORK WITH LILY:
✨ Get my free "Create Your Essence Based Preferences Guide" HERE
✨ Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book
✨ Get my FREE training, “3 Steps to Attract the RIGHT Partner as a Late Bloomer”: https://www.datebrazen.com/training
Links:
Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE.
If you've ever been told you're too picky or need to be more open, this episode is for you. Your preferences aren’t the problem—they’re the key to dating with more joy and ease. I break down how to define your essence-based preferences so you can stop wasting time on the wrong people and start attracting the right ones.
✨ Get free "Create Your Essence Based Preferences Guide" HERE
✨ Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book
✨ Get my FREE training, “3 Steps to Attract the RIGHT Partner as a Late Bloomer”: https://www.datebrazen.com/training
Links:
Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE.
This week, I’m joined by the brilliant Brandon Kyle Goodman—writer, actor, and sexual wellness advocate—to talk about breaking free from shame, embracing curiosity, and giving yourself radical permission to be messy in your self-discovery. If dating has ever made you feel like you need to “get it right” before putting yourself out there, this episode is your permission slip to do it your way.
🎧 Listen now and start reclaiming your power!
Brandon Kyle Goodman (they/them) is a writer, actor, and sexual wellness advocate. They’re best known for their work on Netflix’s smash hit and Emmy nominated animated comedy series Big Mouth and its spin-off Human Resources; Amazon’s Modern Love, Hulu’s Plus One, and ABC's Abbot Elementary. Goodman is also a co-host of the new E! network awards season after show "RE!CAP". And every Thursday you can hear episodes of their iHeart podcast Tell Me Something Messy; a sex-positive show with the intention of destroying shame around sex by talking about sex.
Connect with Brandon:
🌍 Website
✉️ Messy Mondays Substack
🎙️ Tell Me Something Messy Podcast
This episode is brought to you by my free, on-demand training: 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer" - RSVP HERE ✨
Links:
Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE. Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE.
If you’ve ever hesitated to put yourself out there because what if they say no?, this episode of the Date Brazen Podcast is for you.
We’re flipping the script on outdated dating rules that keep you passive and stuck. Instead of waiting, I’m teaching you how to co-create the dating life you want, how to shoot your shot like a boss, and actually enjoy the process (yes, really).
Here’s what you’ll learn:
💥 Why I DON'T believe in the advice "If he wanted to he would"
💥 Why "shooting your shot" is a dating superpower
💥 The confidence shift that makes asking for what you want feel good
This episode is all about bold moves and big results. Listen now and start shaping your love life on your terms.
✨ Main Character Dating is now open for enrollment. Join now. ✨
Links:
Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE. Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE.
Dating can feel like a rollercoaster of emotions—excitement, hope, fear, and sometimes, pure panic. In this episode, we’re tackling the fear that keeps so many incredible people stuck on the sidelines. If you’ve ever thought, What if I get rejected? What if I say the wrong thing? What if I’m not enough?—this one’s for you.
I’ll walk you through how to move through dating fear with self-compassion, community, and a whole lot of self-trust. Because here’s the truth: fear is normal, and it doesn’t have to be in the driver’s seat.
You don’t have to be fearless to find love—you just have to be willing to take messy, brave action toward what you want.
Hit play, and let’s reframe your fear into power.
Takeaways:
✨ Self-compassion isn’t just nice; it literally helps your body handle stress better.
✨ Feeling afraid to date? That’s human. You’re not alone.
✨ Messy action beats overthinking every time.
✨ The right person won’t need you to perform or say the perfect thing.
✨ If you desire more, it’s because it’s possible for you.
Let’s go get you what you want. 💫
Get your free Essence Based Preferences Guide here.
This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨
Links:
Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE. Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE.
In this week’s Date Brazen Podcast episode, Flirting 101: My 3-Step Process to Flirt, Know If Someone’s Into You, and Ask Them Out with Ease, I’m breaking down my 3 step process to exactly how to flirt, know if someone’s into you, and ask them out with ease.
Here’s the deal:
💡 Flirting is a learnable skill.
💡 Awkwardness? It’s just a sign you’re human (not a dealbreaker).
💡 With 10 seconds of courage, you can change the course of your dating life.
In this episode, we'll dive into:
✔ What IS flirting? Like, what actually is it and how can you do it YOUR way.
✔ How to become rejection-proof.
✔ A simple 3-step approach to make flirting feel natural.
✔ SOFT practice for tough times
If you’re ready to stop overthinking and start shooting your shot, this episode will be your new dating secret weapon. Let's do this!
This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨
Links:
Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE. Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE.
Today on The Date Brazen Podcast, I'm talking to Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu-- dating and relationship experts and co-hosts of Dateable, one of the top podcasts on modern relationships, featured by The New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily.
Tune into this episode to hear-
- Understanding your dating archetype can help you navigate relationships better.
- How to use their quiz in the Dateable book helps identify strengths and weaknesses in dating.
- How to use the "Sunday test" helps assess compatibility with a partner.
- What to expect with sexual chemistry in early dating-- can it develop over time, or do you need to expect "The Spark".
- And more!
Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu are active daters turned dating insiders, and top influential voices of modern dating, relationships, and connection in the digital world. They’re the authors of How To Be Dateable and the co-hosts of the podcast Dateable, which has been named one of the top podcasts about modern dating and relationships by the New York Times, The Huffington Post, Oprah Daily, and more. They’re also the hosts and executive producers of the dating experiment show Exit Interview. Julie brings her background in human-centered design and qualitative research, while Yue shares her experience as a dating coach. Together you can find them at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/ and @dateablepodcast.
Their book How to be datable comes out January 28th, 2025- TODAY!
Get Julie and Yue's book at howtobedateable.com
And learn about their work at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/
This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨
Links:
Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE. Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE.
In this episode of the Date Brazen podcast, Lily unpacks her favorite piece of dating advice: You can't say the wrong thing to the right person.
This 15 minute episode will free you from so much anxiety and worry in your dating life, so you have more time and energy to shoot your shot with confidence.
Takeaways
- Dating is a microcosm of your hopes and fears.
- Self-care in dating enhances your quality of life.
- You cannot say the wrong thing to the right person.
- The right person will ask for clarification.
- Focus on a minimum viable audience in dating.
- You are for the few, not the many.
- Embrace the messiness of human connection.
- Your desires matter and are achievable.
This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨
Links:
Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE. Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE.
Enjoy this ep spotlight!
This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨
Links:
Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE. Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE.
In this episode of the Date Brazen podcast, Lily engages with Susan Hyatt, a master certified life coach, bestselling author, and TEDx speaker. They discuss Susan's mission to empower women through her Bear process, which emphasizes self-care, body wisdom, and breaking free from diet culture. The conversation explores the importance of creating a thriving environment, embracing pleasure, setting boundaries, and taking bold actions in midlife. As they approach the New Year, Susan shares insights on goal-setting and the significance of living a pleasure-centered life, encouraging listeners to overcome obstacles and embrace their potential.
You'll learn:
- Susan Hyatt is a master certified life coach and bestselling author.
- The Bear process focuses on self-care and body wisdom.
- Environmental detox is crucial for creating a thriving space.
- Mindset work helps break free from diet culture.
- Pleasure is essential for healing and well-being.
- Setting boundaries is key to listening to your body.
- Embracing bold actions can lead to personal growth in midlife.
- New Year energy can be harnessed for goal-setting.
- Creating a pleasure-centered life enhances overall happiness.
- Obstacles are not greater than one's potential.
This episode is brought to you by my free, on-demand training: 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer" - RSVP HERE ✨
Links:
Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE. Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE.
We're taking a break for the holidays (coming back Jan 7th, 2025) so enjoy this ep spotlight!
This episode is brought to you by my free, on-demand training: 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer" - RSVP HERE ✨
Are you feeling like a “late bloomer” in your dating life? In this Episode Spotlight of the Date Brazen Podcast, Lily busts nine myths commonly believed by “late bloomers” and shares practical steps to overcome them. With a focus on self-compassion, Main Character Energy, and the idea that dating is a learnable skill, Lily’s insights will shift your perspective and boost your confidence for joyful AF dating experiences.
Feelings of shame and isolation often accompany those who feel behind in their love lives. This episode aims to help you shed the "late bloomer" identity, provide you with a sense of relief, and galvanize you to take action toward your deepest desires.
You’ll learn how to:
- Embrace self-compassion and connection
- Distinguish between thoughts vs. facts
- Break free from societal (and patriarchal) dating norms and define your dating journey
- Heal and neutralize "late bloomer" conditioning
- Let go of those who aren't right for you with grace (bless and release!)
- Embrace your current stage in life and recognize that you’re whole as you are
- Redefine what “blooming” means to you
Links:
Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE. Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE.
In this episode of the Date Brazen podcast, Lily outlines a comprehensive seven-step dating plan for 2025, aimed at helping listeners create a joyful and fulfilling dating life. The plan emphasizes the importance of claiming desires, understanding essence-based preferences, and utilizing qualifying questions to find the right partner. Lily also discusses the significance of in-person dating, building a unique dating profile, and fostering community support to enhance the dating experience. The episode encourages listeners to take control of their dating lives and believe in the possibility of finding the right relationship.
You’ll learn:
- Create a 2025 dating plan to make the right relationship inevitable.
- Claim what you want unapologetically in your dating life.
- Essence-based preferences help you define how you want to feel in a relationship.
- Qualifying and disqualifying questions are essential for vetting potential partners.
- In-person dating is still alive and can reduce reliance on dating apps.
- Build a dating profile that reflects your true self and essence-based preferences.
- The Thank You More Please challenge helps you recognize evidence of what you want in your love life.
- Community and support are crucial for a joyful dating experience.
- You are worthy of care and support in your dating journey.
- What you desire in love is possible, no matter your past experiences.
This episode is brought to you by my free training: The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season.
If you feel behind in your dating life in ANY way, my live, free training - The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season - will help you build a boundary plan for nosy relative's questions AND create a 2025 dating plan so you can BLOOM in your love life and attract the right partner with ease next year.
Links: ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season
Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE.
Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.
Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE.
In this episode, Lily addresses the feelings of loneliness that can arise during the holiday season, especially for singles. She provides a three-step framework to help listeners navigate their emotions, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and acknowledging feelings, finding comfort and belonging, and choosing accessible positive thoughts. The conversation encourages self-compassion and resilience, offering practical advice for managing loneliness and fostering emotional well-being.
You’ll learn:
- Recognize that loneliness is a hard moment and allow yourself to feel it.
- Emotional granularity helps in understanding and processing feelings.
- Self-soothing is essential for immediate comfort during loneliness.
- Reaching out to friends for support is crucial, even if they can't always respond.
- Creating a joy-building plan can help combat feelings of loneliness.
- Choosing accessible positive thoughts can shift your mindset.
- It's normal to feel lonely, especially during the holidays.
- Building resilience helps in managing future feelings of loneliness.
- You are worthy of love and support, regardless of your current situation.
- Your desire for connection is valid and can guide you towards it.
This episode is brought to you by my free training: The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season.
If you feel behind in your dating life in ANY way, my live, free training - The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season - will help you build a boundary plan for nosy relative's questions AND create a 2025 dating plan so you can BLOOM in your love life and attract the right partner with ease next year.
Links: ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season
Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE. Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE.
Stressed about your dating life (and nosy questions) during the holidays? This episode is for you. Yes, it’s that time of year—when relatives turn the holiday dinner table into a Q&A about your dating life. Lily is sharing how to respond to every nosy question from relatives - that you don’t want to answer!
This is your guide to handling intrusive questions with confidence while staying grounded and true to yourself. Tune in for the best strategies for setting boundaries, saying “pass the peas” to nosy questions, and finding joy in the season without letting holiday stress or stress about your dating life get in the way.
You’ll learn:
- How to spot the self-judgment trap
- Why self-compassion is the antidote to self-judgement
- Boundaries that slay: “You don’t owe them your story” becomes your mantra for keeping nosy questions in check
- Active self-care strategies that keep you thriving
- How to build a joy plan that sticks
Links: ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season Dr. Kristin Neff - SelfCompassion.orgSelf-care Activities for Women, Dr. Cicely Horsham-Brathwaite
Ready to stop emotional outsourcing and start owning your worth in dating and beyond? If you’ve ever struggled with perfectionism, people-pleasing, or the exhausting cycle of codependency, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Lily invites her brilliant friend and colleague, Victoria Albina, to explore what it takes to recognize the patterns that no longer serve you and break free from them—so you can finally show up as the main character in your life.
Through an intersectional feminist lens, Victoria redefines the trope of codependency as “emotional outsourcing,” helping us see how it impacts not just our relationships but how we exist in the world. Together, they explore how our nervous system shapes our sense of safety and belonging, offering practical tools for reconnecting with self-love and grounding in our voice and intentions.
We get into:
- How emotional outsourcing holds you back from being your authentic self
- The three essential emotional needs: safety, belonging, and worth
- An in-depth look at the nervous system and its role in fight, flight, fawn, and freeze responses
- Grounding techniques to help you reconnect with self-love and intention
- How to expand your capacity for feeling good, seen, and safe
Links:
✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season
Victoria’s website
Victoria on Instagram
Feminist Wellness
Free meditations from Victoria for Date Brazen Listeners: VictoriaAlbina.com/lily
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/healing-from-codependency-with-victoria-albina
I’m diving into how to care for yourself when life feels heavy. If you’re feeling drained or disappointed post-election—or really, after any tough experience—I’m here with a simple but powerful framework to help you reclaim your energy. In this episode, I’ll guide you through the SOFT practice: Self-compassion, Owning your needs, Feeling your feelings, and Thoughts, not facts. I’ll share practical tools, like Dr. Kristin Neff’s self-compassion meditation, to help you navigate challenging times with more grace.
Whether it’s political stress or personal struggles, this episode is for anyone who needs a reminder that you deserve care, kindness, and support.
Links: Free 5-minute self-compassion medication from Dr. Kristin Neff: https://self-compassion.org/self-compassion-practices/
The Loveland Foundation: https://thelovelandfoundation.org/
We’re airing a popular episode about claiming your essence-based preferences. Lily takes you through what essence-based preferences are, how they can transform your dating life, how to know if you’re being too rigid, and how to create them for yourself. This is a juicy episode you’ll want to come back to again and again!
Hot-takes and How-tos from this episode:
- How do you know if you're being too "rigid"
- Essence-based preferences can apply to everything that you want
- Figure out how to get to the root of what you want by crafting your personal love-life vocabulary
Links: Main Character Dating (formerly Brazen Breakthrough)Episode 26: How to navigate money in your dating life Follow Date Brazen on TikTok
“Should I give them another chance, or should I ‘just know’ if they’re right?”
Hot take: The whole slow burn vs. spark debate might be keeping you from finding a meaningful connection. This episode challenges the idea that a romantic connection needs to fit neatly into a “slow burn” or “spark” to be worth pursuing.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
✨ The pros and cons of Slow Burn vs. Spark—and why binaries rarely help in dating.
✨ Why curiosity is your best guide—offering a healthy middle ground that brings clarity without overthinking.
✨ When you’re just not feeling romantic interest? Bless and release without guilt!
✨ How to know what you want, trust your instincts, and choose curiosity over stressing about instant chemistry.
Get ready to reframe your approach to dating, focus on what matters, and let go of the pressure to decide if it’s a slow burn or a spark from the start. Let’s make dating feel lighter, more fun, and aligned with you!
Links: Pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold! Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/slowburn-vs-spark
How do you date with intention and authenticity during an election season? You’re in luck! Lily is back with a special episode all about dating during the election. She explores how to navigate the heightened political climate with a boundaried, agency-filled plan to attract people who truly align with your values.
Lily also shares tips on crafting a profile that reflects your values, managing tough discussions on dates, and knowing when to "bless and release." Get ready to learn how to vet dates based on political beliefs, set firm boundaries, and confidently steer conversations.
You’ll learn:
- Understanding your boundaries and using essence-based preferences to define how you want to feel in a relationship
- How to incorporate your political values into your essence-based framework
- Best practices for bringing up politics in dating, including a reminder that “You cannot say the wrong thing to the right person.”
- Guidelines for dating during an election year, focusing on asking questions and prioritizing your emotional well-being
- Tips for including your political preferences in your dating profile
- Navigating heated political discussions during a date with grace
Links:
Pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold! 121. Dating Apps, AMA
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How to create your essence-based preferences
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The complete dating detox guide
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/dating-during-an-election
Playing the sidekick in your own life? Not it. Step into your power, claim your main character identity and start making bold moves today. Why not you? Lily is dishing all about main character energy—what it is, what happens when you're not living in it, and how to level up and claim your spotlight.
We’ve all been there—shrinking our desires because we fear being "too much" or worried about rejection. Or maybe you’re in that “good enough” life rut: a good job, good friends, good vacations... but deep down, you know you’re ready for great. This episode is all about ditching the people-pleasing and stepping into your main character era.
You’ll learn:
- What it really means to not be in main character energy
- The three essential main character skills: permission, self-trust, and massive messy action
- How to stop sidelining your needs and start taking up space
- Practical tips on how to use 10 seconds of courage to build that main character muscle
It’s not about being perfect. Even main characters make mistakes—but they’ve got the tools to get back up. So, give yourself permission to be a little messy and start owning your story today.
Links: Applications are open for the Main Character Life Mastermind!140. My bless and release strategy for letting go216. Stop overthinking your love life decisions (and how to actually trust yourself)
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-build-main-character-identity
Ready to crush it and take your dreams to the next level? This episode is ALL about that! We’re diving into Laura’s epic journey of leveling up her life, how she tapped into her MCE (yep, Major Character Energy), and broke down her big dreams into totally doable, bite-sized steps. And guess what? It worked!
You’ll walk away feeling fired up, knowing that what you want is not only possible—it’s practically calling your name. This is your sign. Time to hit play, step into your power and go after what you want.
We get into:
- Why action without community = dead-end vibes
- Laura’s raw, real talk on going through Main Character Life Mastermind during a tough time of grief
- How deep personal growth impacts everything, including your relationships
- The badass move from inaction to taking bold steps toward your biggest dreams
- Real talk: Confidence is EVERYTHING, and asking for what you want is the key to getting it
- How to create the support system you need to step onto that bigger stage in your life
Links: Applications are open for the Main Character Life Mastermind!Laura’s websiteLaura on Instagram: @cheekylamiki @dispatcheddivorcee
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/from-paralyzed-to-launching-her-dream-business-with-laura
Ready to stop playing small and start living big? This week, Mastermind client Katie shares how she embraced main character energy, stepped out of her comfort zone, and began living a joyful AF life!
From ditching self-doubt to creating a social life that lights her up, Katie talks about the bold moves she made—like taking a sabbatical and going on solo adventures. It wasn’t easy, but she trusted herself enough to push past fear and take massive, rewarding actions.
We get into:
- Breaking out of your comfort zone and going after what you want
- Building joy and meaningful social connections
- The power of self-trust and why it’s okay to invest in yourself
- Katie’s breakthrough journey and how she stopped playing small
Don’t miss out on the chance to take control of your own story! Tune in and step into your main character energy.
Links:
RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/comfort-zone-to-mce-with-katie
Do you feel like you're burning the candle at both ends with nothing left for yourself? In this bonus episode, Lily chats with Juliet, a client from the Main Character Energy Mastermind, about how she transformed her life by setting boundaries at work and making room for joy and meaningful connections.
Juliet’s story is all about taking back control and living fully to share how stepping into her power completely flipped her life around. From feeling burned out and isolated to creating deep friendships and a fulfilling love life, Juliet’s transformation is nothing short of inspiring.
We get into:
- Truly believing in what you need and want unlocks the power to make aligned choices
- Identifying the key components and values of your ideal life is the first step toward living it
- How Juliet nurtured deeper connections with friends
- Finding more space for joy within all facets of Juliet’s life
- Overcoming internal criticism shifts your mindset from self-doubt to self-compassion
- Turning “dating sucks” into “I can make dating fun!”
Links:
RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/from-burnout-to-boundaries-with-client-juliet
Are you stuck in a cycle of overthinking and self-doubt? Lily tackles exactly how you can break free from that mental loop. We dive into the real cost of overthinking—how it's draining your energy, wasting your time, and slowing down your life’s momentum.
Lily shares methods to help you stop doubting yourself and start building a rock-solid foundation of self-trust. By the end of the episode, you'll have a clear plan of action so you can confidently take bold steps toward the life you want, without the exhausting mental spirals.
What if overthinking was just a roadblock on your journey to becoming the main character in your own story? This is your invitation to shift into that energy, giving yourself permission to trust, transform, and take massive, messy action.
You’ll learn:
- How to recognize the signs that you may have a self-trust deficit and how it affects your daily life
- Why building self-trust, even imperfectly, is an essential step toward living a rich and fulfilling life
- The reasons behind why you struggle to trust yourself and how fear and past experiences may be holding you back
- That self-trust is a skill that takes time and practice to master
- How to build self-trust and confidently take action, leading to more clarity and control in your life
Links:
RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy
Lily’s book: Thank You, More Please
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-trust-yourself
Want to know how to ask for exactly what you want, nurture your biggest dreams, and crush your fears along the way? You’re in luck! Lily and her guest break down how to tap into your main character energy and own every aspect of your life. In this episode, you'll learn how to reclaim the parts of yourself you’ve left behind, nurture your inner light, and permit yourself to ask for – and actually receive – what you truly want.
We get into:
- The disconnect between showing Main Character Energy on the outside but not feeling it internally
- Giving yourself permission to take the chance and truly nurture your own needs
- The power of finding support through a community coaching space and receiving collective encouragement
- The challenges of asking for what you want, and learning that sometimes it’s about asking less of yourself and allowing others to show up for you
- How slowing down, even during success or failure, doesn’t stall your growth
- Understanding that listening to your desires only fuels more of them
- The willingness to embrace more joy and actively seek it out in your life
Links:
RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/ask-for-what-you-want-mce
Ever thought about making a big leap from your current job to your dream career? Discover how Erica ditched an exhausting job and became a full-time romance novelist with main character energy! Lily welcomes Erica a former Main Character Energy Mastermind client who made the leap from feeling stuck in her career to living her dream as a full-time romance novelist. Erica gets real about facing her fears, ditching self-doubt, and breaking free from the "shoulds" to follow her passion. This convo is a must-listen if you’re ready to trust yourself, go after what you want, and make some bold, messy moves. Plus, Lily spills the details on her live training event happening October 9th, all about taking risks with main character energy.
This episode will leave you feeling inspired and ready to take tangible next steps to embrace main character energy, stop “shoulding” all over yourself, and step into a braver, bolder, and more magical season of your life.
We get into:
- How Erica embraced her desire to become a full-time romance novelist
- Tapping into main character energy to choose yourself and make your dreams a reality: “Here is an opportunity to figure out a way to choose me,” said Erica.
- Get the scoop on how trusting yourself can lead to bold moves and major life changes
- “What you want doesn't just appear one day because you wish for it hard enough. It's about really taking into consideration the work that I put in, the talent that I know I have, the want and just going after it.”
- How stepping away from people-pleasing can help you build the self-trust you need to chase your true desires
Links: RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy Erica’s books, including “Witty in Pink”
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/choosing-yourself-with-erica
What happens when you stop playing it safe and start betting on yourself? In this episode, Jackie spills on how she shifted from burnout to bold moves, and what it takes to embrace that Main Character Energy. Jackie, a former Main Character Energy Mastermind member, joins Lily for a convo about how she went from frozen in fear and burnt out to making some serious boss moves in her life. Together, they dive into the power of community and the mindset shifts that make growth happen. Spoiler: It’s all about trusting yourself, embracing the messiness, and going after what’s yours—whether it's your career goals or relationship desires.
We get into:
- How self-trust can lead to unexpected joy and experiences
- Transitioning from a background character energy to main character energy
- “Whatever growth you are looking to make - if you put in the effort, it will come.”
- Taking imperfect action and claiming that things are working out - even when it feels uncomfortable
- Jackie’s experience as a researcher of joy!
Links: RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/huge-risks-with-mce-with-jackie
Is it possible to stay true to yourself while navigating the world of dating? Absolutely! We’re pulling back the curtain with special guests Ali and Erica from Finding Mr. Height. Lily sits down with the duo to discuss how they decided to start their dating podcast and offers a glimpse into the clues, details, and breadcrumbs that help you figure out if someone is right for you. We also dig into the anxieties that surface in new and long-term relationships, offering strategies for navigating them with confidence and clarity.
You’ll also hear Ali and Erica's candid thoughts on their least favorite—and most favorite—pieces of dating advice. Plus, Lily explores some uncharted territory, sharing her take on long-term relationships. This episode is packed with humor and practical tips to help you own what you want and build strong relationships.
We get into:
- What inspired Ali and Erica to launch their dating podcast, Finding Mr. Height
- Spotting the subtle clues and signals to determine if someone’s right for you (or not)
- Relationship anxieties—whether you’re just starting out or deep in a long-term commitment
- Finding and building a meaningful relationship that works for you
- Ali and Erica’s top dating tips and the advice they’d rather skip
Links: Finding Mr. Height podcast
Finding Mr. Height on Instagram @findingmrheight
Erica on Instagram @spericaa Lily’s appearance on Finding Mr. Height
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/finding-mr-height-ali-and-erica
Hot-take: Bragging is key to attracting more in your dating life. That’s right! We’re diving into Lily's favorite chapter from her book, Thank You More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love. It's all about the Brazen Bragging Revolution! 🚀
Lily breaks down why bragging isn’t just a power move but the key to attracting more fulfilling relationships. She gets real about her journey, tackles the societal BS that holds us back and gives you the ultimate guide to celebrating your awesomeness. Plus, there’s exclusive bonus content waiting for you if you snag her book from her website.
You’ll learn:
- Why hiding your full awesomeness leads to uninspiring dates
- Why it feels weird to brag and how to get over it
- How to choose your bragging support and community wisely
- Mastering the art of brazen bragging
- Real-life examples of what you can start bragging about today
Links:Lily’s book: Thank You, More Please
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/brag-more-find-love
What does it take to go from feeling "behind" in dating to confidently making your move every single time? This week, Lily welcomes client Allyson, who shares her journey from feeling behind in dating to embracing self-compassion and taking control of her love life. They chat about the game-changing power of self-love, shaking off society's BS standards, and how stepping into a main character mindset has leveled up not just Allyson's dating game, but her whole life.
Tune in for some real talk on how to attract meaningful relationships while staying true to yourself, taking your shot, and feeling all kinds of empowered.
We get into:
- The struggle of feeling behind in dating – "It felt like a mountain I couldn’t climb."
- Why it's okay to be uncomfortable, and how to find safety even in the discomfort.
- Owning the fact that you are in complete control of your love life.
- How Allyson found the courage to shoot her shot and ask someone out
- Allyson’s new beliefs about her future, and how it’s all coming together
Links:
Main Character Dating (formerly known as Brazen Breakthrough)
Lily’s book: Thank You, More Please
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/shooting-your-shot-with-allyson
What if the key to transforming your dating life is all about owning your worth? Listen in to find out how Miriam went from dating fear to confidently choosing people who were aligned with what they truly wanted.
Join Lily and client Miriam as they dive deep into the thoughts that so many of us have about dating, worthiness, and settling, and how these can keep us stuck on a hamster wheel, going through the motions without real progress. Miriam shares their journey from feeling frustrated and scared about dating to radiating confidence and truly enjoying the experience! We get into:
- The dating hamster wheel: How to break free from the endless cycle of dating without progress and finally make things happen.
- Tips for overcoming those nagging thoughts like “I’m too much” or “All the good ones are taken” and boosting your dating confidence
- Dealing with fears of settling, picking the wrong partner, or just getting started in the dating world
- How Miriam mastered the art of blessing and releasing when there was a values mismatch, rather than sticking around to “see where this goes.”
Links:
✨RSVP for Lily’s Free Training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer” ✨ Main Character Dating (formerly known as Brazen Breakthrough) Lily’s book: Thank You, More Please Date Brazen on YouTube Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/bless-and-release-confidently-with-miriam
Hot-take: You should make the first move 100% of the time. If you read that and feel a sense of fear, that’s okay! In this episode, Lily breaks down everything from rocking a proactive mindset to embracing those awkward moments and showing yourself some self-compassion so you can confidently make the first move every time.
This is the most passionate lesson Lily teaches, and she has seen a major difference in clients' ability to attract the right partner. Tune in to learn how to transform your dating life with bold confidence and get the deets on more resources to help you along the way.
You’ll learn:
- How to embrace the awkwardness, recognize your inner power, and remember you're resilient AF.
- “You can't say the wrong thing to the right person.”
- Take Your Shot: Every attempt brings you closer to what you want because you're actively attracting and asking for it.
- Use the S.O.F.T. method to move through rejection: Self-compassion, Own Your Needs, Feel Your Feelings, and remember that Thoughts Are Not Facts.
- Creative and practical suggestions to help you take that first step!
Links:
✨RSVP for Lily’s Free Training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer” ✨ Main Character Dating Lily’s book: Thank You, More Please 162. The Complete Dating Detox Guide Kristin Neff’s Self-compassion.org Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/make-the-first-move-every-time
Are you wondering, “How do I pick up the pieces after this horrible breakup?” This week, Lily dives straight into an inspiring conversation with Liz, a former client who turned the heartbreak of a broken engagement into a powerful journey of healing and finding new love. Liz keeps it real, sharing her experiences of embracing pain, seeking support, and rebuilding self-trust.
Together, Lily and Liz explore the transformative process of becoming your main character through the work of Main Character Dating, formerly known as Brazen Breakthrough. Returning to the podcast after her first appearance in 2023, Liz brings a full-circle perspective, offering wisdom and insights for anyone navigating post-breakup life or re-entering the dating world.
Listen in as Liz reflects on how the principles of Main Character Dating have evolved with her, revealing how embracing self-discovery and vulnerability can be your greatest strengths.
We get into:
- Picking up the pieces after a shitty breakup
- Liz shares her raw experience: “I had to fully feel all my pain,” emphasizing the importance of embracing and processing emotions to heal
- When you show up with your feelings, the right people show up for you as well
- Navigating the desire/shame see-saw means trusting your gut and understanding there's no perfect timeline for getting back into dating
- Liz explores, “What does self-trust look like for you now?” sharing how she found courage and rebuilt self-trust
Links:
✨RSVP for Lily’s Free Training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer” ✨ Lily’s book: Thank You, More Please
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/self-trust-and-love-after-a-breakup-with-liz
Are you feeling like a “late bloomer” in your dating life? This week, Lily busts nine myths commonly believed by “late bloomers” and shares practical steps to overcome them. With a focus on self-compassion, Main Character Energy, and the idea that dating is a learnable skill, Lily’s insights will shift your perspective and boost your confidence for joyful AF dating experiences.
Feelings of shame and isolation often accompany those who feel behind in their love lives. This episode aims to help you shed the "late bloomer" identity, provide you with a sense of relief, and galvanize you to take action toward your deepest desires.
You’ll learn how to:
- Embrace self-compassion and connection
- Distinguish between thoughts vs. facts
- Break free from societal (and patriarchal) dating norms and define your dating journey
- Heal and neutralize "late bloomer" conditioning
- Let go of those who aren't right for you with grace (bless and release!)
- Embrace your current stage in life and recognize that you’re whole as you are
- Redefine what “blooming” means to you
Links: ✨RSVP for Lily’s Free Training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer” ✨ Lily’s book: Thank You, More Please
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/late-bloomer-guide-to-releasing-worry
Ever wondered how to heal from a toxic relationship and truly thrive? Lily is joined by licensed psychotherapist Ginger Dean, the genius behind the book, Loving Me, After We. They dive into the journey of healing from toxic relationships, highlight the importance of self-soothing, and chat about how to rebuild self-trust.
Ginger shares her personal and professional experiences, drops some wisdom on emotional recovery, and introduces her latest book, 'Loving Me After We,' packed with practical steps to go from hurting to thriving. They also get into what it means to be the 'green flag' in relationships and the power of self-care practices like yoga, massages, and somatic work.
You’ll hear about:
- The inner work needed to become the best version of yourself, focusing on baseline levels of emotional availability and self-awareness.
- Practices and shifts, in addition to therapy, to come home to yourself and create a self-care plan after a hard breakup.
- Self-care practices and ideas to take care of your well-being.
- Building or rebuilding self-trust after being in a toxic or the wrong relationship.
Links: ✨ Get Lily's Free Training: Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable ✨
Ginger’s website Ginger’s book, Loving Me, After We
Episode link: http://datebrazen.com/blog/healing-after-a-hard-breakup-ginger-dean
Why do we always feel awkward asking our friends for help with our love lives? Imagine the game-changing power of having a trusted squad of co-conspirators in your corner, ready to support you. This episode dives into how to ask your friends to be your co-conspirators in love—one of the top three ways to date IRL!
Now, it's not that your friends are clueless about dating; they just need to learn how to help you in a way that matches your wants, needs, and desires. In this episode, Lily guides you through a co-conspirator invitation, so your friends can really be there for you.
Here's what you'll learn in this juicy episode:
- Learn how to spot the friends who are perfect for this role and how to prepare for that all-important invitation
- Asking someone to be your love-life co-conspirator is an honor—here’s how to make sure you’re ready to have that convo.
- Not every friend will be a good fit as a co-conspirator, and that’s okay.
- Discover creative solutions to avoid dead-ends and establish boundaries.
- FAQ on Co-Conspirators: Everything from the best personality types for this role to how to figure out if your friends are mentally available, and overcoming the shame of asking for help.
Tune in and transform your dating life with the help of your very own dream team! 🎙️✨
Links: You can pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold right now, and then sign up for Date Brazen Listening Guide at datebrazen.com/book! Friend Forward Podcast Fighting for Our Friendships, Danielle Bayard Jackson
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/invite-friends-to-be-co-conspirators
Ever dreamed of writing a book or want to share your story and ideas? If so, this episode is for you. Lily welcomes Richelle Fredson, her incredible book proposal coach, on the show. Without Richelle, Thank You, More Please would still be a dream! We're diving deep into main character energy and how to bring it to your writing and publishing journey. We're talking about what it takes to get published, the importance of sharing your story, and how to boldly step into the world with your unique voice.
For nearly 20 years, Richelle has been a powerhouse in the book publishing industry. Known as the "six-figure book coach," she's worn many hats: publishing guide, guest teacher, and marketing strategist for bestselling authors. Now, she's here to help aspiring authors develop standout book concepts, killer book proposals, and vibrant online communities. Get ready to embrace your main character energy and share your story with the world, even if you don't think you're ready yet.
We get into:
- Conquering the anxiety of "shooting your shot"
- Flipping the script on imposter syndrome: embracing bold, messy action
- Richelle's take: "Who gets to write a book and who gets published?"
- Diving in: "You can start before you think you’re ready"
- The real talk on getting a book published
- The book proposal: your golden ticket to traditional publishing and ultimate self-advocacy
- Overcoming comparison and self-doubt to start telling your story
Links: Richelle’s website Richelle’s podcast Bound + Determined Lily on Richelle’s podcast You can pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold right now, and sign up for our book club at datebrazen.com/book!
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/write-a-book-richelle-fredson
Struggling with self-doubt or negative self-talk? This week's episode is a game-changer! Lily's got Katie Horwitch as her guest, and they're diving deep into how inner dialogue shapes our lives. Katie's not just any guest—she's a rockstar author, speaker, and self-talk activist with over a decade of experience flipping the script on negative self-talk.
In this episode, you'll get the lowdown on how to recognize and shift negative thoughts and discover the hidden issues behind them. Katie's the founder of WANT: Women Against Negative Talk and the voice behind The WANTcast. Plus, her debut book, "WANT YOUR SELF: Shift Your Self-Talk and Unearth The Strength in Who You Were All Along," is out now and ready to inspire.
Don't miss out—tune in and start transforming your inner dialogue to reshape your life!
We get into:
- How our self-talk shapes our view of ourselves and the world.
- Recognizing when self-talk negatively impacts your life and how to change it.
- Building the skill to confidently accept your answers when facing tough questions about what you truly want.
- Figuring out the underlying beliefs behind your self-talk, such as "I’m not allowed to want this"—what’s driving that thought?
- Exploring, understanding, and shifting not just your self-talk, but your whole self.
- Hot-take: "Be as fully you wherever you go. That’s how you learn, grow, and become the truest version of yourself."
Links:
Katie’s website Katie’s book: WANT YOUR SELF: Shift Your Self-Talk and Unearth The Strength In Who You Were All Along Lily on Katie’s podcast: 178: Revamp Your DATING LIFE + FIND LOVE For Real with Lily Womble of Date Brazen
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/negative-self-talk-with-katie-horwitch
Ever wondered why you often overlook the self-care you desperately need? This week, Lily chats with the amazing Dr. Cicely Horsham-Brathwaite who drops some serious knowledge on managing stress, building habits that stick, and incorporating practical self-care into our everyday lives. Get ready for some game-changing insights straight from her awesome books!
We get into:
- The three must-have types of self-care for ultimate well-being
- How to spot the red flags that scream you're neglecting self-care
- Handling high-stakes pressure in dating and staying grounded
- Why stress isn't all bad—it’s all about balance and self-compassion
- How inequality affects self-care for Women of Color and how everyone can be co-conspirators in making a change
- Fun and easy activities to seamlessly weave self-care into your daily routine
Links:
Dr. Cicely Horsham-Brathwaite’s website
You can pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold right now and sign up for our book club at datebrazen.com/book!
My first book, Thank You, More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love, is out in the world right now. I'm SO EXCITED! My business manager Jayla Rae joins me to reveal the little-known, lesser-discussed pieces of my book-writing journey. She’s leading me through questions about what I learned while writing the book, what I am most looking forward to, and thought-provoking questions about the book from Date Brazen clients! Join us on this behind-the-scenes book journey!
We get into:
- Getting real and raw while writing the book and the juicy stories within
- The feels and the fun of sharing my book with friends and family for the first time.
- Answering burning questions from the Date Brazen community about the book, future plans, and beyond!
Links: You can pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold right now and sign up for our book club at datebrazen.com/book!
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/book-pub-day-qa
How can embracing your main character energy and taking up space transform your journey? In this episode, Lily sits down with Krishan Trotman, VP and Publisher of Legacy Lit Books, to discuss the exciting journey of co-creating Lily's new book 'Thank You, More Please,' which hits shelves next week, June 11th. 📚✨ Tune in to hear Krishan’s own main character energy story, behind-the-scenes details about Lily’s book, and a deep dive into the world of publishing diverse voices.
Don't forget to pre-order 'Thank You, More Please,' coming out June 11th. Your pre-orders mean the world and help ensure the book gets the recognition it deserves. 🌟 Your support is immensely appreciated!
We get into:
- Krishan’s main character energy story and her role as VP and Publisher at Legacy Lit
- The co-creation of Thank You More Please
- Advice for aspiring authors on writing, getting published, and maintaining the motivation needed for long-term projects
Links: Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link! Krishan on InstagramLegacy Lit Books
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/mce-taking-up-space-with-krishan-trotman
Do you ever feel trapped by outdated dating rules and wonder if there's a better way to attract more? The amazing Damona Hoffman joins Lily to dismantle the four big dating myths and introduces the four pillars of lasting love for healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
Damona helps to outline these myths and paves a clear path with actionable next steps, making the dating process easier and helping you find what you desire. Damona says, “You have more control over what happens in your life than what you allow yourself to believe. How deep are you willing to dig?”
Damona Hoffman is a regular contributor to The Drew Barrymore Show, NPR, and The Washington Post. She was also featured in Season 11 of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. Damona has created content and collaborated with most major dating apps, including Bumble and Match, and she was named the Official U.S. Dating Coach of OkCupid in 2021. Her podcast, Dates & Mates, was named Best Podcast of the Year by The Black Podcasting Awards. Damona’s first book F the Fairy Tale, was released January 2, 2024.
We get into:
- Using dating apps with intention + why Damona says to take notifications off your dating apps and track what is going on in your dating life.
- The three C’s when designing your profile: Color, Context, Character.
- The four BIG dating myths and how to ditch them! Including the preferences list myth, the chemistry myth, and the soulmate myth.
Links: F The Fairy Tale: Rewrite The Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story Damona’s website The Dates and Mates podcast
Damona on Instagram @damonahoffman Damona’s Date Tracker
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/shedding-dating-myths-with-damona-hoffman
Want to reclaim your self-worth and challenge societal norms? Then, get ready for a fantastic episode because we’ve got Kara Loewentheil, the powerhouse behind the School of New Feminist Thought, on this week’s podcast! Kara’s new book, 'Take Back Your Brain,' just dropped, and I can’t wait to share our conversation with you.
In this episode, Kara and I dive into romantic socialization's history and social impacts. We bust myths about love, marriage, and self-worth and discuss the difference between empowerment and true personal power. We urge you to root your self-worth in yourself instead of seeking external validation.
Kara’s insights are a game-changer. She offers a roadmap for embracing self-compassion, challenging patriarchal norms, and building mindsets that lead to a more fulfilling life.
Don’t miss out on this powerful conversation! Tune in now and start taking back your brain!
We get into:
- The brain gap: what it is and how to overcome it.
- Why the goal is to be grounded in your self-worth and not your relationship status
- The four traps of romantic socialization
- Body positivity vs body neutrality
- The beauty and power in the phrase “How human of me…”
Links:
Take Back Your Brain
Unfuck Your Brain Podcast
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/take-back-your-brain-kara-loewentheil
If you date men and have ever wondered if the feminist partner you want exists, this episode is for you! This week, we explore the Brazen Breakthrough tools, mindset shifts, and strategies that Client Julianne applied to attract a feminist man and is now building an epic partnership.
Lily and returning guest Julianne dive into the evolution of Julianne's love life since her last podcast appearance. They discuss the importance of self-trust, essence-based preferences, and the empowering shift from muscling through dating to co-creating a fulfilling relationship.
This is a must-listen episode for anyone wondering if their ideal partner exists.
We get into:
- How Julianne used the Brazen Breakthrough tools to attract a proactive, feminist man her way
- How attraction is an essence-based preference
- Co-creating a relationship with someone can be fun!
Links:
Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link!
The Brazen Breakthrough
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-julianne-attracted-a-feminist-man
How can you date with social anxiety? This week Lily gives us all a much-needed pep talk and lays out a roadmap for dealing with social anxiety while trying to find love. From her own experiences, she drops some wisdom on showing yourself self-compassion and bouncing back stronger, all to create a dating life full of joy! ✨
You’ll learn:
- Go S.O.F.T. Practice self-compassion, own your needs, feel your feelings, thoughts not facts.
- “Messy progress forward is okay.”
- “Feelings your emotions is reparenting yourself.”
- The goal is never to feel anxious again; it’s to increase your capacity for resiliency so that when you feel anxious, you know what to do about it.
- Even if you have anxiety, you can still make massive changes in your life.
Links:
Free Training With Lily Womble TODAY, May 7th! 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner With a Joyful as Fuck Dating Life The Brazen Breakthrough Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link!
Psychology Today Dr. Kristin Neff
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, Emily Nagoski, Amelia Nagoski
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/how-to-date-with-social-anxiety
Is it possible to attract proactive, loving partners? Yes! Mishi joins Lily to share her story of how she went from attracting completely emotionally unavailable men to attracting the most proactive partner. They dive into Mishi’s journey - it's total empowerment vibes! From dealing with consecutive breakups to finding self-trust with the help of personal reflection and the Brazen Breakthrough program, Mishi's story is a roadmap to living your best life. They get into the nitty-gritty of self-growth and that ah-mazing moment when you start trusting your gut to attract the kind of connections you desire.
We get into:
- How Mishi learned to rediscover herself after enduring two challenging breakups
- The most significant difference in Mishi’s dating life today
- The act of listening to your intuition and embracing self-trust
- Some of the Brazen Breakthrough strategies that Mishi found helpful, including Bless-Release and the Dating Feedback System
- What it’s like to be in a proactive and loving relationship
Links:
Free Training With Lily Womble on May 7th! 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner With a Joyful as Fuck Dating Life
Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link!
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/attracting-proactive-loving-partner
In this episode, we dive deep into the empowering world of Essence-Based Preferences (EBPs). EBPs aren't just preferences but a revolutionary act of self-ownership and empowerment. It's all about embracing what you want without any apologies or self-judgment.
This episode is about defining your desires and creating a bold action plan that aligns with your deepest desires. Join us as we revolutionize the dating game and empower ourselves to attract nothing but the best. Let's do this! 🔥
You’ll learn:
- Let's get one thing straight - it's your absolute right to choose who you want to be with
- Owning your EBPs is a feminist act. It's about flipping the script and putting yourself at the center of your dating universe. Bye-bye, antiquated norms!
- EBPs are the answer to attracting the best partner in your life
- Under vs. Over-Functioning Preferences: It's all about finding that sweet spot. Too little? You're selling yourself short. Too much? You're losing sight of your true desires.
Links:
Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link!
Free Training With Lily Womble on May 7th! 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner With a Joyful as Fuck Dating Life
Creating Your Essence-Based Preferences Comprehensive Guide
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/owning-your-preferences
Ever wondered how to bounce back after a significant breakup? This week, Danielle, one of our Brazen Breakthrough clients, opens up about her journey through healing and self-discovery. She reflects on her past relationships and how she redefined her intentions and boundaries to rediscover herself. This episode is a testament to self-compassion, offering dating insights and profound thoughts on personal growth and finding joy.
We get into:
- How Danielle realized she wasn’t getting what she truly wanted in dating
- Breaking patterns of complacency and shrinking away from what you want
- Shifting from second-guessing yourself to trusting your intuition
- The lessons and takeaways from Brazen Breakthrough that help Danielle show up and support others (and herself)
- The impact on Danielle’s dating life, including creating stronger boundaries and dating with intention
- The act of reclaiming your sense of Self
Links:
Free Training With Lily Womble on May 7th! 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner With a Joyful as Fuck Dating Life The Brazen Breakthrough Waitlist
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/hard-breakups-to-joyful-af-dating-life
Did you know you’re most attractive when you are authentically you? Well, that’s precisely what this week’s guest, Therapy Jeff, says! Jeff Guenther, known as Therapy Jeff, joins Lily for a conversation about the intricacies of modern dating, the evolution of therapy in the age of social media, and authentic self-expression.
Therapy Jeff's insights on modern dating and mental health are a breath of fresh air. In a world saturated with dating advice and unrealistic expectations, his book, 'Big Dating Energy,' offers a refreshing perspective: that lasting love stems from embracing one's authentic self. In an era of self-doubt and comparison, Jeff reminds us that we are inherently lovable and deserving of genuine connection.
We get into:
- What dating advice/problems/framing Jeff’s book, Big Dating Energy, aims to solve
- Addressing beliefs like “It’s my fault, or I’m not good enough.”
- The idea of feminine and masculine energy and the notion of “not being in your feminine enough.”
- Cognitive overload and how to get in touch with your intention when using social media or dating apps
Links:
Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link!
Jeff’s book, Big Dating EnergyTherapy Jeff’s websiteTherapy Jeff on TikTokTherapy Jeff on Instagram
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/big-dating-energy-with-therapy-jeff
Nervous about sending a DM to a cutie or asking somebody on a date? If you answered yes, then this week’s episode is for you. Lily explores the mindset shifts and practical steps needed to step out of your comfort zone and shoot your shot! Whether it's sliding into those DMs or asking someone out face-to-face, this episode is your guide to overcoming the nerves and getting what you want.
Grab your pen and paper, and get ready to take notes. By the end of this episode, you'll be ready to revolutionize your approach to dating. Asking for more of what you want leads to more of what you desire. This episode is part strategy and part hype. You’ve got this and Lily’s got your back!
You’ll learn:
- “The only thing separating you from getting what you want is your willingness to ask for it out loud.”
- Shooting your shot is about giving your permission to be the main character of your story
- How to get over the paralyzing fear of asking for what you want
- The role permission, self-trust, and courageous action play when shooting your shot
- It’s not about doing it perfectly. It’s about doing the thing.
- Your job is to pursue what you want, trust your desire, and take messy, courageous action toward those desires.
Links:
Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please!
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/shooting-your-shot-challenge
We're diving into the intersection of body liberation, white supremacy, and dating with the incredible Jessica Wilson, MS. RD. As the author of "It's Always Been Ours: Rewriting the Story of Black Women's Bodies," Jessica brings her expertise as a dietitian, storyteller, and community organizer to the forefront. Together, Lily and Jessica explore the interplay between shrinking our bodies in response to white supremacy and shrinking our desires, unpacking how Black and Brown women can reclaim their body liberation and prioritize care in the dating world.
We get into:
- The interplay between shrinking our bodies in response to white supremacy and shrinking our desires
- Jessica’s view on how Black and Brown women can reclaim their body liberation and prioritize care in the process of putting themselves out there in dating
- “Your body is not the problem,”
- Spaces to seek out body liberation support and community
- How do we set boundaries for those, not on the same page or path with body liberation?
- Jessica’s favorite moment of Black Joy since writing her book
Links:
Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please!
Jessica’s website
Jessica’s book, It’s Always Been Ours
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/body-liberation-dating-and-black-joy-with-jessica-wilson
Trigger warning: This episode contains mentions of suicide. You are worthy. If you need more convincing, this week’s episode is not to miss. Tara Schuster, author of Glow in the F*cking Dark: Simple Practices to Heal Your Soul from Someone Who Learned the Hard Way, joins Lily on the show! In the book and throughout this conversation, Tara shares practical steps to liberate yourself from emotional suffering, heal your past, and own your future.
Tara served as Vice President of Talent and Development at Comedy Central, where she was the executive in charge of critically acclaimed shows such as the Emmy and Peabody Award–winning Key & Peele, the Emmy® Award winning @Midnight (now After Midnight on CBS) amongst many others. Over the last twelve years, Tara has spent her “10,000 hours” on the other side of the couch studying philosophy, therapies, religions, and even memoirs of the adults she admired so that she could find emotional freedom from a neglectful and psychologically abusive childhood. Lily and Tara get into:
- “It’s not magic having a different life. You can’t sit back and wait for it to happen; you have to work for it.”
- What inspired Tara to write Glow in the F*cking Dark and its mission: the practice of finding your essential self.
- Thoughts and advice for overcoming lack of self-trust and self-criticism
- Tara shares her self-compassion party trick!
- How Tara got to a place to make decisions rooted in her own best interest, especially in dating
Links:
Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please!
Get Instant Access to Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable
Glow in the F*cking Dark, Tara Schuster
Tara’s website
Tara on Instagram
The Loveland Foundation
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/glow-in-the-dark-with-tara-schuster
Are you tired of swiping left and right, endlessly scrolling through dating apps, hoping to find a genuine connection? In this episode, Lily welcomes Maxine Simone Williams, the creative powerhouse behind a New York City-based initiative, We Met IRL, reshaping how people meet and mingle, diving deep into the world of speed dating and real-life encounters.
Maxine shares her journey of building We Met IRL and why her speed dating events make dating fun again. Plus, Lily and Maxine tackle common dating concerns like handling rejection at speed dating events or overcoming social barriers for the shy and introverted.
Tune into this episode as Lily and Maxine journey beyond the screens, where in-person connections thrive.
They get into:
- Dating assumptions that these events challenge - making dating fun again!
- Are dating apps the only way people are meeting people?
- Instagram vs Phone Number: what to give out when meeting IRL
- What if nobody chooses me at speed dating
- How to go about meeting people in real life or speed-dating if you are shy or introverted
Links:
Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please!
Get Instant Access to Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable
We Met IRL on TikTok @wemetirl
We Met IRL on Instagram @wemetirl
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/speed-dating-with-maxine-simone-williams
Are you striving to let go of the wrong people? What if we told you that the extent to which you're willing to bless and release the wrong people is directly linked to your path toward the right relationship? In this episode, Lily reveals her strategy for blessing and releasing the wrong people in your life, enabling your mind to shift its focus towards the right connections for you.
"Blessing and releasing" is a radical step towards fulfilling your desires. So, grab your note-taking tools because this episode is full of practical how-to's on this transformative process.
In this episode, you will learn:
- Having people in your life who are not suitable for you is about the underlying fear that what you want is not possible or not worthy of what you want. That is worthy of your curiosity and compassion.
- Categories of when to bless and release (B&R) someone
- Different levels of connection deserve a different approach to blessing and releasing.
- Tips for outlining a B&R moment for a breakup
- Lily breaks down an incomplete roster of individuals to bless and release, including: the stonewaller, the Eeyore, the most intense human, and the pen-pal.
- Reflection questions to help you determine if you need to bless and release someone
- Text and out loud scripts for B&R like “Hey, thanks for hanging. I’m not feeling a romantic connection, wish you the best.”
Links: Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please!
- The “Thank You, More, Please!” Challenge!
Radical Alignment, Alexandra Jamieson and Bob Gower
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-bless-and-release-the-wrong-people
Today, get ready to geek out with us on the podcast! We're thrilled to have Faith Hill, a staff writer at The Atlantic, joining Lily for an insightful conversation about research and its cultural impact on dating. We get into topics like dating dynamics, dating yourself, social connections, and being single.
Together, Lily and Faith dive into Faith’s latest articles about exploring love, dating, and the complexities of singlehood. What's particularly captivating about Faith's writing is how she addresses those burning questions that naturally arise as you delve into the research she shares.
Tune in for a chat that sheds light on the intriguing intersection where love, society, and human connections meet! 🎙️✨
We get into:
- Dating culture and its problematic value of coupled people over singles
- What the research showed regarding dating “spark vs. slow burn.”
- The assumption that we'll be happier in a relationship
- The emotions that get stirred up when examining this statement, “As your friends get coupled, it could feel like a ghost town.”
- Hot-take: “Spending all your time with your partner is not great for your relationship or friendships.”
- Allowing for messy intimacy with friendships or partners
- Perception and feelings about solo dating: how to release the narrative that taking yourself on a date means you are lonely, and how to bring more pleasure to solo time
- Hot-take: “Solitude is not antithetical to connection.”
Links:
Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please!
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How to find and create "exhale" friendships with Blake Blankenbecler
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Fighting for our friendships with Danielle Bayard Jackson
Faith’s articles referenced in this episode:
No, You Shouldn’t ‘Date ’Em ’Til You Hate ’Em’ https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/11/awkward-modern-dating-the-spark/676039/
Don't let love take over your life https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/09/relationship-balance-love-friendship-autonomy/675321/
Take yourself on a date! https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/12/seeing-movies-alone-solo-date-in-public/672363/
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/research-cultural-impact-of-dating
Doors to this round of The Brazen Breakthrough close 2/23/24 @ midnight EST.
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If you're catching this after the fact, then add your name to the waitlist with the link above.
Doors to this round of The Brazen Breakthrough close 2/23/24 @ midnight EST.
Here's the LINK TO JOIN US.
If you're catching this after the fact, then add your name to the waitlist with the link above.
Doors to this round of The Brazen Breakthrough close 2/23/24 @ midnight EST.
Here's the LINK TO JOIN US.
If you're catching this after the fact, then add your name to the waitlist with the link above.
Doors to this round of The Brazen Breakthrough close 2/23/24 @ midnight EST.
Here's the LINK TO JOIN US.
If you're catching this after the fact, then add your name to the waitlist with the link above.
Doors to this round of The Brazen Breakthrough close 2/23/24 @ midnight EST.
Here's the LINK TO JOIN US.
If you're catching this after the fact, then add your name to the waitlist with the link above.
What does it feel like to be in the right relationship? Join us on the Date Brazen Podcast as we get into this intriguing question with Maddie, a former client whose journey may inspire you. From discovering deeper essence-based preferences to finding her now-husband during the Brazen Breakthrough program, Maddie's story is a testament to the transformative power of belief in self and taking courageous action.
This episode is a beacon of hope, reminding you that what you desire does exist. Through inspiring stories like Maddie's, we witness firsthand that with bold action, the love and fulfillment you seek are not only possible but inevitable.
Hot-takes and episode topics:
- Just got out of a relationship - is it too soon to do this work?
- The most impactful lesson Maddie learned that translates beyond dating
- Maddie shares her sparkly experience meeting her now husband on a dating app
- Overcoming doubt about whether or not you are in the right relationship
- How does it feel to be in the right relationship, and what is the work after you find it?
- Centering yourself in what you want sets you on a different path; there is transformative power in believing in the possibility of what you truly desire
Links:
Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please!
Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable
Show notes:http://datebrazen.com/blog/being-in-the-right-relationship
This week, Lily serves up some real talk about why it might be time to bid farewell to dating advice from your coupled friends. You’ll hear why it's crucial to take the reins of your dating life and stop relying on well-meaning but misaligned advice from friends in relationships.
In this episode, Lily encourages you to set boundaries with friends who may unintentionally trivialize or patronize your dating experiences. She emphasizes cultivating supportive communities of single friends who genuinely understand and uplift your dating struggles.
The goal of this episode is to leave you feeling empowered to take control of your dating journey and assemble a crew of friends who've got your back.
Hot-takes and topics:
- Your coupled friends don’t know your love story. Hot-take: They don’t know more than you because they are in a relationship and you’re not.
- If dating advice friends give makes you feel small, or your dating experience is entertainment for them, it is time to fire your coupled friends from giving you dating advice.
- Surround yourself with people who get your dating struggle and who are moving forward with you.
Links:
Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please!
Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable
Danielle Bayard Jackson, Friend Forward Podcast
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/fire-coupled-friends-from-giving-dating-advice
Have you ever wondered what questions to ask when you first meet someone? This week, Lily unpacks why qualifying/disqualifying questions are the ultimate game-changer and can transform your dating experience from emotionally exhausting to intentional and amazing.
In this episode, Lily shares the ONE question that will revolutionize how you vet potential partners, ensuring you never waste time on lackluster dates and conversations again. Drawing from the program, The Brazen Breakthrough, and her upcoming book, Thank You, More Please, A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love, you get the tools and mindset needed to navigate the dating landscape confidently.
Grab your notepad because this episode isn't just about strategy - it's a journey into reclaiming control of your dating narrative and steering towards the relationships you truly desire.
Episode Hot-takes and topics:
- “Give yourself permission to want what you want and start showing up for what you want in your life.”
- Qualifying/Disqualifying questions lead to higher-quality dates: you don’t need to cast a wide net. You need to be very specific about the type of person you seek.
- “Most people are going to be wrong for you. You are for the few, not the many.”
- Stop sending bespoke messages and extending unnecessary emotional labor
- Q/D questions that get deeper than surface-level convos allow you to vet people quickly
- Ask the right questions and tune into your body to see how the answer makes you feel. You want to feel intrigue or curiosity or excitement. If you don’t, bless and release. .
- Other Q/D questions we LOVE and Questions we DO NOT love when you're first texting
Links:
Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please!
Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable
Free Guide to Your Essence-Based Preferences
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/qd-questions-strategy
Feeling hopeless or panicked about in-person dating? Then, this episode will motivate you to prioritize your desires and step into the path of opportunity to create a juicy in-person dating life. Today, we are getting into the ins and outs of the Brazen Breakthrough and how it changed the game for member Chloé.
Chloé opens up about what has been happening in her dating life and how she has been showing up differently. You’ll also hear how she now embodies what it means for her to have permissive, joyful connectivity. We are so excited for you to hear this episode. It is a beautiful example of a human creating the life she desires.
Episode hot takes and topics:
- Chloé on finding partnership: “It is not embarrassing or weak to say that my life would thrive even fuller with deep witnessing and intimacy.”
- The lesson that changed how Chloé’s outlook on dating and dating apps
- “My feelings about dating have shifted dramatically.”
- How the Brazen Breakthrough helped Chloé create a juicy in-person dating life
- Breaking patterns that take you out of the path of opportunity
Links:
Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please!
Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable
Episode Link: http://datebrazen.com/blog/juicy-in-person-dating
Prepare for an epic episode of the Date Brazen podcast, where former Brazen Breakthrough client Maya opens up about her rollercoaster journey through self-discovery and empowered love! Join Lily as she and Maya dive deep into intentional dating and the power of co-creating relationships.
In this episode, you’ll get the scoop on essence-based preferences and how Maya turned her dating game around. She shares how she embraced her needs and learned to communicate like a boss, and how she and her partner keep the romance alive with intention-setting actions.
If you're ready for a journey filled with real talk and self-love, this episode is your go-to. 💕
Episode hot takes and topics:
- “It is about my internal state. If I am full and whole. I can give of myself to someone else. It has to be a conscious activity.”
- Mindset shifts that helped Maya believe finding love was possible
- Relationships are a co-creation: “You are co-creating the relationship. It grows, it breeds, and it shifts. That is what is so beautiful about relationships.”
- “What’s meant for you won’t pass you by - this is something I live by for everything in my life.”
- How Maya learned to tap into her intuitive self to guide the way
Links: Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please!Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable
- How Maya Found Love Maya’s Substack “On Holiday” Maya on Instagram
Episode link: http://datebrazen.com/blog/the-right-relationship-is-inevitable
Lily is sharing her complete guide to finding love on a dating app. You’ll hear how dating apps can help expand your social circle, help you get to know your dating personality, your triggers, and how to take care of yourself.
Lily drills down into her fiercest, most direct dating app advice so that you can find more success on a dating app while preserving your mental health and finding joy in the process.
This episode is fire! Take notes and get ready to dive into breaking the dumb dating rules of the dating app advice you've heard before that doesn't work and get a clear path forward.
Episode Hot-takes and topics:
- Dating apps are just one tool in your dating tool kit.
- Choose the ONE dating app that works for you
- Create a cozy swiping routine and know your swiping tipping point
- How and why to avoid unnecessary emotional labor
- Lily’s formula for your dating app profiles - what makes your profile magnetic to people is YOU!
Links:
Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please!Free Guide to Your Essence-Based PreferencesEpisode 89: How the hell to meet someone in-personEpisode 132: Before you swipe, try this meditation
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/complete-guide-to-finding-love-on-a-dating-app
Pre-Order Lily's book- "Thank You More Please" HERE
This week, Lily peels back the curtain on the journey of writing her book, "Thank You More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love." Lily shares the vulnerable moments, the highs and lows, and the transformative process of birthing this creative endeavor. Get ready for an intimate conversation about the unconventional feminist approach that inspired the book, her challenges, and the ultimate joy of bringing this guide to life. In this episode, you’ll hear the behind-the-scenes details, Lily's writing routine, and the soundtrack that fueled her creative process. This episode is not just about the book; it explores Lily's growth, courage, and mission to help you create a joyful and love-filled dating life on your terms. Plus, learn about the exciting pre-order bonuses with "Thank You More Please." Tune in and be part of this journey to love and self-discovery!
Have you been wanting to start that next big project or creative hobby this year? Get ready to ignite your creative flame with this episode featuring the hosts of The Spark File podcast, Susan Blackwell and Laura Camien! Lily is thrilled to welcome Susan and Laura to the show, together they dive into a candid conversation about creativity and overcoming perfectionism.
In this episode, Lily opens up about her creative journey, from battling self-doubt to manifesting her dream of writing a book. Discover how Susan and Laura’s New Year's Creativity Kickoff planted the seeds for Lily's inspiring ideas and fueled her audacious declaration to write a book and start a podcast.
Tune in for moments of celebration, insightful reflections on the creative process, and a deep dive into the challenges of increased visibility. Grab your favorite beverage, cozy up, and join Lily with guests Susan and Laura for a chat that's equal parts inspiration and real talk.
Links: Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please! The Spark File 2024 New Year Creativity Kick OffThe Spark File
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/sparking-your-creative-power
How was your year? How have you grown? In the last episode of 2023, Lily shares her epic year in review, sharing some of her favorite brags and lessons. As you listen, we invite you to do the same - reflect, practice self-compassion, and celebrate your most cherished brags.
Lily also answers listener questions, revealing insights into how she stayed grounded, who supported her through the challenges, and the mental shifts that were game-changers on her book-writing journey.
Join in celebrating the achievements, reflecting on the lessons learned, and looking forward to a new year filled with growth and empowerment.
Links: Download the free Guide to Your Essence-Based Preferences Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/my-epic-year-in-review-2023
Have you ever found yourself in a dating rut, unsure how to break free and progress? The key to moving forward is within reach. If you're feeling paralyzed, questioning where to begin, or navigating the uncertainties of being single, the solution lies in identifying your essence-based preferences.
In this episode, Lily shares the essence-based preferences tool that empowers you to attract the most fulfilling relationships. It is the tool that has allowed Lily and countless Date Brazen clients to attract the best relationship of their lives. Tune in and unlock the potential for positive change in your dating journey.
Hot-takes and topics:
- When you learn to trust what you want, you will set more boundaries and know when you are in the presence of the right kind of people.
- One tool for building self-trust is creating your essence-based preferences!
- The two categories of essence-based preferences: logistical and personality traits/values
- Lily explores how to ask for what you want in your dating life out loud (hint: this is where your co-conspirators come in!)
Links: Download the free Guide to Your Essence-Based PreferencesVIP One-on-One Coaching with Lily 135. How to create your essence-based preferences
Show link:http://datebrazen.com/blog/create-essence-based-preferences-with-ease
Hello, gorgeous friends! This week on The Date Brazen Podcast, Lily is diving into a simple 4-step framework to help you escape comparison mode in your dating life, especially during the holiday season.
Whether at a holiday party or hanging with friends, dealing with triggers from engagement stories or past relationships, this framework will help you get into more massive, messy, courageous action toward your desires.
Tune in, save this episode, share it with your best friend, and let's kick off a season of self-care and courage in your dating journey.
Episode Topics and Hot-takes:
- “Eliminating comparison is a perfectionistic fantasy.” Comparison is human.
- Ask, what thought is useful and true?
- Self-compassion is a strategy to help you move forward powerfully.
- S.O.F.T.: Self-compassion, Owning your needs, Feel your feelings, Thoughts not facts.
Links:
1:1 Coaching with Lily69. Worthiness + Winning Results with Simone Grace Seol
Show link: http://datebrazen.com/blog/get-out-of-comparison-mode
This week, Lily welcomes female friendship coach and educator Danielle Bayard Jackson to the show! As the founder of Friend Forward, Danielle is dedicated to empowering women with practical strategies for building and maintaining meaningful platonic connections.
Lily and Danielle explore pressing topics such as common barriers hindering sustainable female friendships, establishing healthy expectations for adult friendships, and navigating inevitable conflicts with grace. The episode also addresses the challenges of making new friends, recognizing when it's time to end a friendship and the crucial role of time in cultivating lasting connections. Don't miss this episode as Lily and Danielle dive deep into the complexities and joys of female friendships.
Episode Topics and Hot-takes:
- The most common barriers to building and sustaining friendships
- Healthy expectations of what a friendship should be as an adult
- Healthy conflict is inevitable in all relationships. Danielle explains how to navigate conflict in friendships.
- Friendship breakups: How to know when it’s time to end a friendship
- “One of the key ingredients to friend-making is time.”
Links:
Register HERE for the upcoming live training- Dec 7th, "How to thrive during the holidays as a single badass"
Join Danielle’s "Group Chat" Find out more at: https://www.betterfemalefriendships.com/group-chat
Danielle’s website Danielle on Instagram: @friendforward @daniellebayardjackson Danielle on TikTok: @thefriendshipexpert
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/fighting-for-our-friendships-with-danielle-bayard-jackson
This week, Lily addresses questions she's gathered from her TikTok community, centered around navigating the holidays while single. She delves into the complexities of solo celebrations, sharing her hottest takes, fiercest encouragement, and spiciest support.
Whether you're wondering how to handle prying relatives, seeking advice on thriving as a solo adventurer during the holidays, or craving solidarity, Lily's got you covered. Tune in for a dose of wisdom, a dash of humor, and a sprinkle of festive cheer as Lily guides you on thriving this holiday season as a single badass. Register HERE for the upcoming live training- Dec 7th, "How to thrive during the holidays as a single badass"
Download the Free "Guide to Essence-Based Preferences" HERE.
Financial therapist Aja Evans joins Lily this week to discuss money and your dating life. The conversation is meant to inspire you to take up space in your financial life, challenge limiting beliefs, and prioritize relationships that align with your values and aspirations. Aja is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor who specializes in financial therapy. In this episode, she helps us understand the connection between emotions and money and explores the varying dynamics of partnerships and money.
Episode Topics and Hot-takes:
- You don’t need to make yourself smaller to accommodate a potential partner's ego.
- Aja helps us understand how to move through financial shame.
- How to talk about money and finances on a date
Links:
Aja’s websiteAja on Instagram
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/money-and-your-dating-life-with-aja-evans
This week, Lily welcomes Shirin Eskandani to the podcast! Shirin is a former opera singer turned coach who, in this episode, opens up about her quest for fulfillment beyond external achievements. From navigating the challenges of dating to discovering the unexpected depth of inner work in coaching, Shirin shares the transformative power that led her to pursue coaching with a commitment to inclusivity and decolonized perspectives.
Shirin shares her mission to diversify the coaching world, highlighting the need for more inclusive certifications. Lily and Shirin also dive into the concept of being "wholehearted," exploring themes of empowerment and the profound impact of coaching on personal and professional aspects of life.
Listen in to hear this fantastic conversation that empowers self-discovery and self-trust.
Hot-takes from this episode:
- Nothing outside of you will ever make me feel fulfilled or enough. That is something you have to be working on yourself.
- “It isn't just about my dating life. It isn't just about my work. How we do one thing is usually how we do all or most things.”
- Decolonizing is about questioning and getting curious about what you value and believe and whether those values and beliefs were handed to you from society or family. Then, decide that you get to choose what you value and believe and how you want to move forward.
Links: One-on-One Coaching with LilyWholehearted Coaching: The PodcastWhole Hearted Coaching Certification Shirin on Instagram @wholeheartedcoaching Wholehearted Coaching Certification Program on Instagram @wholeheartedcertification
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/decolonizing-coaching-and-building-self-trust-shirin-eskandani
Farnoosh Torabi joins Lily on the podcast this week! Farnoosh is a leading financial expert, host of the So Money podcast, and author of So Money, Psych Yourself Rich, and When She Makes More. In this episode, she discusses the teachings and insights from her new book A Healthy State Of Panic, Follow Your Fears To Build Wealth, Crush Your Career, And Win At Life. The book (and this episode) illustrates how fear can be your superpower in this heartfelt and clever guide to maximizing your success to live richer and happier. Lily also parallels the topics in Farnoosh’s book (related to fear) and how they can apply to the dating world. This is a fun, thoughtful, and heartfelt episode!
Featured Conversation Topics:
- The difference between harnessing fear and indulging it?
- How to build a healthy relationship with fear
- The fear of rejection, loneliness, and exposure in dating
- As you listen, think about one action step you can take to move with your fear in a more healthy manner.
Links: One-on-One Coaching with LilySo Money with Farnoosh TorabiA Healthy State of Panic, Farnoosh Torabi
Show Notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/harnessing-your-fears-with-farnoosh-torabi
Get ready for a healing and hilarious episode! Lily introduces a special guest who radiates "Main Character Energy" in every aspect of her life. Devrie Brynn Donalson, the creative force behind the book, "You're Gonna Die Alone (& Other Excellent News)," unpacks her life-altering choices and journey.
Devrie reflects on her inspiring journey to Scotland, her struggles with body image, and her pursuit of self-discovery. Lily and Devrie also delve into the compelling dialogue on personal growth and societal pressures.
This episode is a rollercoaster of emotions, filled with humor, wit, and authentic storytelling.
Don't miss this captivating conversation on the Date Brazen podcast!
Featured Conversation Topics:
- Devrie shares the story of her bold decision to move to Scotland, a journey sparked by friendship breakups and a quest for self-discovery.
- Discover how Devrie makes life-altering decisions by imagining herself as the main character in her story, ultimately guiding her choices.
- The challenges of growing up in a culture fixated on body size and appearances and the impact it can have.
- Devrie's thoughts on the fear of being unlovable and how it influenced her choices and relationships.
Links: One-on-One Coaching with LilyDevrie on Instagram & TikTok @devriebrynn You’re Gonna Die Alone (& Other Excellent News)
Show link: http://datebrazen.com/blog/healing-hilarity-and-mce-with-devrie-donalson
This week, we're breaking down the journey to creating a dating life that's joyful, boundary-filled, and confidently your own. Michelle, a Brazen Breakthrough client, joins Lily for a fantastic conversation about how she went from dead-end dating to only great dates. Plus, hear how she learned to stop compromising her desires and find joy in all areas of her life.
🔥 Hot-Takes Alert! 🔥
- Ever wondered, "What if I do this thing and it doesn't work for my love life?" We're diving into that fear and breaking it down.
- It's time to stop compromising your desires. Learn how to permit yourself to want what you want without apology.
- The "shoulds" – we all know them, but how do we escape their grasp when it comes to dating, life, and love?
- 🗨️ Michelle reminds us, "Dating feels less like a 'life or death thing' when you are having fun in other areas of your life."
Links:
✨Join The Brazen Breakthrough Now! ✨ The doors to Brazen Breakthrough close on Oct 27th at 11:59 pm EST
Lily is bringing you a bonus episode! If you missed her free live training, Create a Confident and Joyful-as-Fuck Dating Life, or want to hear it again - you’re in luck! Today, Lily is sharing the entire training on the podcast. This training will help you build confidence, practice self-compassion and self-trust, and ease in your dating life.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- How to create a fiercely confident as-hell dating life (without the overwhelm, anxiety, and burnout).
- How to be completely dating-app optional and find juicy dates in person
- The anxiety-relieving plan of action that will make the right relationship inevitable.
- You’ll also get a special invite to join us in my signature program, The Brazen Breakthrough.
This bonus replay is jam-packed with Q&As that cover many dating questions and questions about what it's like being a part of The Brazen Breakthrough. There is so much good stuff - this is such an informative (and fun) episode!
Links: ✨Join The Brazen Breakthrough Now! ✨ The doors to Brazen Breakthrough close on Oct 27th at 11:59 pm EST
Anna joins Lily to share her experience in the Brazen Breakthrough (Lily’s proven feminist as fuck group coaching program). In this episode, Anna shares what led her to join the Brazen Breakthrough and how it helped her feel supported, get unstuck, and stop panic dating. This episode is going to be so freaking good!
We’re excited for you to listen to Anna's story. If it resonates and you are listening on the day it airs - October 17th - join Lily for a live free training. In this live free training, Lily will teach you how to be dating app optional, how to create a dating life with more ease, joy, and power, and how to make the right relationship inevitable. You’ll also learn about the Brazen Breakthrough. It’s going to be an amazing time. Find all the links below; we hope to see you there!
Hot-takes from this episode:
- How to approach finding a partner in a way that is sustainable for your mental health and move away from panic dating
- “You’re for the few and not for the many.”
- When you learn the skill of self-advocacy and step deeper into agency in your love life, what you believe is possible is inevitable.
- Anna shares how understanding what she wanted in her dating life led to her going on a great date!
Links:
Join Us TONIGHT, October 17th, for the Free Live Training → ✨ Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable ✨ The Brazen Breakthrough
Show link: http://datebrazen.com/blog/stop-panic-dating
If you think you are “behind” in your dating life, this episode is for you. Lily is going to teach you how to start dating with confidence. Your “lack of romantic experience” is not a dealbreaker for finding love.
If you’ve never been in a relationship… If you’ve never been kissed… If you’ve never had sex…
There’s ZERO wrong with where you’ve been. There’s only the invitation waiting in front of you to build what you want NOW and move forward.
Don’t NOT go to the party because you’re afraid you’re too late. The best stuff happens at a party once it’s started, anyway.
Hot-takes from this episode:
- “If you believe that your lack of experience is embarrassing, then that is holding you back from finding love on your terms.”
- “The idea of being a late bloomer rushed me into dating to “fix it.”
- “Your assumed late-bloomer status does not have to be your identity.”
- Neutralize your dating history with self-compassion. History does not mean anything about what is possible.
- Build a strategy that honors your power
- Bring on a community that supports the hell out of you
Links:
Join Us on October 17th for Free Live Training → ✨ Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable ✨ Show Link:
http://http/datebrazen.com/blog/start-dating-as-a-late-bloomer
This week’s episode is all about in-person dating! Lily is sharing step-by-step how to build confidence and become the version of yourself who approaches people in person with empowered action.
This in-person dating lesson isn't meant to make you micromanage; it's to help you SHOW UP for your desires. The advice inside this episode will help you approach somebody in person in the next 30 days. You’ve got this, and Lily and the entire Date Brazen community have your back.
Episode Hot-takes:
- Permit yourself to be in progress, and stop self-blaming for being “bad” at dating.
- “How do you get out of self-blame? By practicing self-compassion.”
- “Commit to getting messy and practicing. You are not good at in-person dating because you haven’t practiced yet.” What if you just took one action step today?
- Celebrate yourself! “Self-celebration is an in-person dating strategy. Celebrate every time you practice in-person dating!”
Links: SAVE YOUR SPOT for Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating as a Burnout Feminist Badass
Show notes:http://datebrazen.com/blog/approach-in-person-dating-even-if-youre-scared
Today, Lily is sharing an incomplete list (because the list just keeps on growing!) of the dumbest dating rules. She also offers her hot takes on how to break them. The ”rules” covered in this episode include:
Dumb Dating Rule #1: You have to be on a dating app to be trying Dumb Dating Rule #2: Playing the numbers game - by constantly going on dates. Dumb Dating Rule #3: “Give them one more chance. You NEVER KNOW”
This episode is going to help you free yourself from standards, rules, and pressure that are not serving you or your love life.
Some Episode Hot-Takes:
- “A dating app can be a really powerful tool when you use it with boundaries; specifically when you see it as a tool and not the answer to your dating life.”
- “Know your preferences deeply and choose dates intentionally. You get to trust yourself.”
- “Pursuing the numbers game myth in your dating strategy is a quick ticket to burnout.”
- “Hold your expectations to growth, not perfection.”
Links: SAVE YOUR SPOT for Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating as a Burnout Feminist Badass 131. How your coupled friends can help you135. How to create your essence-based preferences162. The complete dating detox guide
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/breaking-dumb-dating-rules
This week, Lily takes you through the complete dating detox guide. This guide will help you release the pressure on your dating life and create more spaciousness and ease. A Date Brazen listener inspired this episode when they asked:
“I have just decided to take a break from everything. Even though I'm good at taking this break, do you have any methods for healing or building back good feelings around dating?”
The dating detox guide will help you make way for more time and mental energy to envision the right partnership apart from the dating noise. Lily is going to tell you exactly how to get the clarity that you need and reignite your dating life with even more forward momentum than you've had before.
Some Episode Hot-Takes:
- “So many people are in that download, delete cycle, download, delete cycle. During this dating app pause, plan to get the most out of this time because intentional effort leads to intentional results.”
- “Allow the worry to be seen through the lens of self-compassion.”
Dating Detox Guide Steps Recap: Step 1: Detox from Dating
Step 2: Detox from other's dating advice
Step 3: Detox from dating worry
Links: SAVE YOUR SPOT for Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating as a Burnout Feminist Badass 140. My bless and release strategy for letting go
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/the-complete-detox-dating-guide
We are back with brand-new episodes! This week, Lily provides an in-depth and actionable coaching answer to the question, “Am I doing enough in my dating life?” Listen to Lily’s take on why you may ask yourself this question. Plus, she shares ten suggested action steps that will help you create momentum in your dating life and lead to the right relationship.
“If you are not treating yourself like you would your best friend in your dating life, if you are swimming in self-doubt, self-blame, shame, and you're not addressing those things first, then doing these action steps in your dating life is not going to get you into the best relationship of your life.”
If you do just one of the things mentioned in this episode, know it is beautiful enough. Celebrate yourself today (and every day)! Print out the checklist below and give yourself a heaping dose of self-compassion.
Some Episode Hot-Takes:
- “I don't care about you getting into a relationship. I care about you knowing how to get into the best relationship of your life. Which begins with how you treat yourself.”
- “Allowing yourself to be yourself will lead to the right relationship online and in person.”
- “Celebration is a dating strategy.”
Links:
- Dating apps: Ask me anything
- How your coupled friends can help you
- How to create your essence-based preferences
Braving the Wildnerness, Brené Brown
Self-compassion.org
Kara Lowentheil’s podcast, Unf*ck Your Brain
The Loveland Foundation
Psychology Today
National Institute for the Psychotherapies
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/am-i-doing-enough-checklist
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“Am I doing enough?” Checklist
- Am I practicing self-compassion?
- Have I done my Essence-Based Preferences?
- Have I chosen my co-conspirator?
- Am I getting my brain coached/supported by the right coach or therapist? What support could I bring to my team to start making strides forward?
- Do I have a joy-building plan? Am I getting out into the world to do fun things?
- Am I asking people out when I feel led?
- When my energy allows, am I making new connections and discussing what I want in my dating life?
- Am I swiping with the boundaries I need?
- Am I bringing community to my dating life?
- Am I celebrating myself?
Over the next two weeks, we are inviting you to enjoy Date Brazen Spotlight episodes. We’re dusting off some of the most listened-to episodes and sharing them with you! This week, In this episode, Lily shares some exercises that can help you better align with what you desire.
“It doesn’t take time; it takes alignment.”
With this new thought, you move from a place of stagnation to one of action. What action can you take to get into alignment? Think about what you can do today to align with your values and move towards the life you desire tomorrow.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-align-with-your-desires
Over the next three weeks, we are inviting you to enjoy Date Brazen Spotlight episodes. We’re dusting off some of the most listened-to episodes and sharing them with you! This week, we are taking a trip all the way back to when The Date Brazen podcast first started, with an episode about how to be the boss of your dating life! Let’s get into it.
BAD ADVICE ALERT: "Dating is a numbers game."
Lily tackles one of the biggest problems people face in dating - the “Numbers Game.”
This common piece of dating advice is hurting your dating life. Lily shares why and what you can do about it. Listen to this episode to hear the three steps to find better dates in less time!
Find all the info and links from today's episode in the show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/episode-1
This week we have the pleasure of introducing you to Steph! Steph is a former Date Brazen client who joined Main Character Energy Mastermind last year to deepen her self-trust and self-pleasure and to date with unbothered energy.
Lily and Steph get into topics such as bragging, being celebrated, and belonging. Steph also shares some of her breakthroughs from pursuing her desires and pleasures without apologizing or qualifications. No matter your circumstances, we know Steph’s story will support and inspire you to embrace the main character energy in your love life.
Hot-takes and takeaways from this episode:
- Breaking up with perfectionism and instead dating messy can be freeing
- Being witnessed and celebrated by a group of women cheerleaders
- The importance of normalizing belonging
If Main Character Energy Mastermind resonates with you, applications are open. Click here to apply! 🎉
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/a-coven-of-cheerleaders
This week, Hana joins Lily to share her main character energy story. Hana participated in the Main Character Mastermind last year. In this episode, Hana shares what it was like to invest in her love life and how she overcame the resistance she felt doing so.
Main Character Energy is more than answering the question, “Can I date, and how do I do it?” Prioritizing other areas of your life, as you’ll hear Hana did, doesn’t need to take away from dating. Engaging in play can amplify the results you see in your love life and beyond. This conversation is exciting and permissive as hell!
Hot-takes and episode takeaways:
- Identifying resistance when it comes to investing in your love life
- The importance of celebrating yourself!
- Owning the ability to make your own rules and step into your power
Links:
Get on Main Character Energy Mastermind Waitlist!
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/investing-in-your-love-life
Karin felt like a badass in every other area of her life and had so much joy - except in her dating life. When she came to Main Character Energy Mastermind last year, she knew she wanted to learn how to become a badass in her dating life. In this episode, we explore perfectionism, specifically letting go of it, and how to create a dating life full of joy.
Listen as Karin shares how releasing perfectionism helped her quickly create her desired results and how Main Character Energy seeped into every area of her life moving forward.
Hot-takes and episode takeaways:
- Releasing perfectionism is what creates results fast
- Creating a safe space for yourself in your life
- All of the answers you are looking for are inside you, and learning to internalize self-trust in a soft and new way
Links:
Get on the Main Character Energy Mastermind waitlist!
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/creating-a-joyful-dating-life
You are in for a treat this week because today, you will hear from a former Date Brazen client, Christine, who participated in The Main Character Energy Mastermind. You’ll hear how Christine grew self-compassion and confidence, leading to a sparkly new relationship!
Before joining us in Main Character Energy Mastermind, Christine did work on her dating life. Then she expanded her main character energy beyond dating. We are excited for you to hear Christine’s perspective and her breakthroughs throughout this process.
Over the next four weeks, we’ll showcase four client interviews to inspire you to embody your main character energy. These four individuals have so much wisdom to share, including their breakthroughs and how they learned to give themselves permission to trust themselves harder and take massive (albeit sometimes messy) action.
Hot-takes and takeaways from this episode:
- What do you want your rules to be?
- Embracing the messiness of dating and doing self-reflective work
- How Main Character Energy Mastermind provides the opportunity to go deeper
Links:
Get on the Main Character Energy Mastermind waitlist!
Episode 129. Behind the Scenes of Main Character Energy Retreat
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/christines-main-character-energy
In this episode, Lily shares the three cornerstones of Main Character Energy and how to start building them.
✨Add your name to the Main Character Energy Mastermind Waitlist HERE.
This week we invite you to enjoy a Date Brazen Spotlight Episode! This episode is all about feelings. Lily created it as a practical guide for feeling your emotions, even the hard ones, and in the toughest times (like being rejected). You’ll learn how to address your emotional needs with safety and self-compassion.
Some hot takes from this episode:
- Feelings are a bodily function, feeling them does not mean you’ll get stuck in them, feeling them is a means for moving them through your body
- You are not going to miss out on life when you slow down to practice self-compassion or feel your feelings - you are going to experience a more meaningful depth of life
Show notes:https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/feel-your-feelings-when-rejected/
This week we invite you to enjoy another Date Brazen Spotlight Episode! Lily will return very soon with all new episodes. Be sure to check out Episode 153 for some of Lily’s recent updates on all things Date Brazen!
This spotlight episode answers the question, “How do I move on with my dating life after a really hard breakup?” Lily gets really vulnerable and shares a story about an ex. Reflecting on your past relationships can be tough. And it’s also the key to finding the best relationship of your life.
Let’s supercharge your dating life (or current relationship) right now!
Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/episode-2
Lily is back this week with a new episode! She shares some big life updates that have transpired over the last few months. You’ll hear about some of the most memorable moments from her wedding, get a brief behind-the-scenes glimpse into her writing process for her upcoming book, and get a front-row seat to an impromptu (and personal) Main Character Energy session. This is a fun and vulnerable episode we hope you’ll enjoy! Links: Date Brazen on Instagram Date Brazen on TikTok
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/big-updates-june-2023
Please enjoy this week’s Date Brazen Episode Spotlight, a re-airing of one of Lily's popular podcast episodes. Lily will be back with new episodes very soon! In the meantime, visit the archives at DateBrazen.com/podcast for Date Brazen podcast episodes!
Today we are bringing you a special replay of Lily’s dating app ask me anything episode! Lily shares all of her dating app hot takes with you. Some of the questions answered in this episode include:
- “How do you get someone to talk to you?!?!”
- “What do I do when I am asking qualifying/disqualifying questions and the response I get is simply, ‘You’re pretty.’” 🤨
- “How do I respond to my family about why I don’t use dating apps?”
- “Can Tinder be used for finding long-term partners and not just hook-ups?”
We hope you enjoy the episode!
Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/dating-apps-ama
Please enjoy another Date Brazen Episode Spotlight, a re-airing of one of Lily's popular podcast episodes. Lily will be back with new episodes in a few weeks. Visit the archives at DateBrazen.com/podcast for Date Brazen podcast episodes!
In this week’s spotlight episode, Lily shares three steps to get out of anxious spiraling or future-tripping and back into believing in what is possible for your dating life. You are worthy of having your needs met and prioritizing yourself, and it starts with how you treat yourself.
Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/three-steps-to-get-grounded-in-your-dating-life
Please enjoy another Date Brazen Episode Spotlight, a re-airing of one of Lily's popular podcast episodes. Lily will be back with new episodes in a few weeks. Visit the archives at DateBrazen.com/podcast for Date Brazen podcast episodes!
In this spotlight episode, Lily talks about how to meet someone in person. You’ll hear practical advice and her five-step plan to help bring more joy and compassion to in-person dating.
Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-the-hell-to-meet-someone-in-person
This week, please enjoy a Date Brazen Episode Spotlight, a re-airing of one of Lily's popular podcast episodes. Lily will be back with new episodes in a few weeks! Until then, visit the archives at DateBrazen.com/podcast.
This week’s episode is about the “Thank you, more, please!” challenge. This challenge is a powerful tool for those who were taught, “What you want does not exist.” Listen in as Lily dares you to look for evidence that what you want DOES to exist in your love, professional, and beyond love life. Tune into this short episode to learn how to implement this challenge today.
Links: Follow Date Brazen on Instagram Follow Date Brazen on TikTok
Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/thank-you-more-please
This week, please enjoy a Date Brazen Episode Spotlight, a re-airing of one of Lily's popular podcast episodes. Lily will be back with new episodes in a few weeks! Until then, visit the archives at DateBrazen.com/podcast.
It’s episode 100, y’all! Returning to the show is my partner Chris. He joined me for an Ask Chris and Lily Anything episode in 2020. In this episode, he joins me as my host and asks me some burning questions about dating, relationships, growing Date Brazen, and everything else. Join us for this fun and behind-the-scenes episode!
Hot-takes From This Episode:
- My favorite Date Brazen episodes
- The hardest part of our relationship: being human together.
- What I am most PROUD to say “No,” to.
- Do I believe in red flags? Hint: YES!
- Chris shares some of his favorite Date Brazen-isms
Show Notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/100th-episode-chris-asks-lily-anything
This week Lily is sharing some behind scenes of her upcoming wedding day. Listen to this fun “Ask me anything about my wedding” episode, inspired by the Date Brazen Instagram community! You’ll hear what Lily is doing differently and how she plans to bring main character energy to the special day.
Links:Date Brazen on Instagram Date Brazen on TikTok
"Any time a guy asks me out on a dating app, I get nervous and cancel. Why am I doing this?"
Listen in for Lily's hot take and advice for this listener question.
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Today, Lily welcomes Jenny Walters to the show. Jenny is a Depth Therapist and Coach for Highly Sensitive People. Together they explore what it means to be a highly sensitive person (HSP), how to navigate relationships as an HSP, and how to embrace your sensitivity as a strength rather than a weakness. Lily and Jenny also discuss the challenges of being an HSP, particularly when your partner is not, and offer practical advice on managing your sensitivity in vulnerable contexts such as dating.
If you’re a highly sensitive person or in a relationship with one, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice on navigating the unique challenges and opportunities of being an HSP. Tune in to learn how to step into your power and create revolutionary change in your life and relationships.
Hot-takes from this episode:
- What it means to be a highly sensitive person (HSP)
- What to do when you’re an HSP, and your partner is not
- How to manage your sensitivity in a highly vulnerable context such as dating
- Thriving as an HSP: what it means and what it looks like
Links:
The Yes CollectiveJenny on Instagram144. Dating as a single mom + HSP dating with B. Marie SandersDate Brazen on InstagramDate Brazen on TikTok
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-thrive-as-an-hsp-with-jenny-walters
This is the REPLAY of my extra special training, Creating a Joyful-As-F*ck Dating Life, hosted on 3.28.23.
This training is brought to you by my signature coaching program, The Brazen Breakthrough (learn more HERE).
Doors close on Friday, March 31st at 11:59pm EST. So listen in for some massive coaching + clarity to see if this program is right for you.
Inside The Brazen Breakthrough, you’re going to have the support, the coaching, the community, and the step-by-step plan to attract the best relationship of your life to you with ease.
Can't wait to see you inside 🎉
This is the REPLAY of my extra special training, Creating a Joyful-As-F*ck Dating Life, hosted on 3.28.23.
This training is brought to you by my signature coaching program, The Brazen Breakthrough (learn more HERE).
Doors close on Friday, March 31st at 11:59pm EST. So listen in for some massive coaching + clarity to see if this program is right for you.
Inside The Brazen Breakthrough, you’re going to have the support, the coaching, the community, and the step-by-step plan to attract the best relationship of your life to you with ease.
Can't wait to see you inside 🎉
This week Lily is addressing two common questions asked by participants of her upcoming LIVE training. In this episode, Lily discusses how to get out of scarcity decisions in dating, how to feel worthy of what you want, and how to center yourself in your dating life.
This episode is a reminder to look critically at your dating patterns with self-compassion and embrace an abundance mentality. By doing so, you'll be on your way to finding the magical love you deserve.
Workshop Alert! For folks catching this episode on the day and year that it drops (March 28th, 2023): Tonight is Lily’s live training, “Create a Joyful-As-F*ck Dating Life!” You don’t want to miss it! Lily is going to teach you how to build a dating life that both feels incredible and attracts the right partner with ease. Go here to RSVP! Hot-takes and how-tos from this episode:
- Why it's important to look at dating patterns with self-compassion
- Recognizing you are deserving of love and affection
- By interrupting the pattern of centering someone else, you can focus on your own desires and center yourself in your dating journey
- The abundance mentality and the belief that what you want exists
Links: Join us for the Create a Joyful-As-Fuck Dating Life Workshop TONIGHT (3/28/23)! Join the Brazen BreakthroughDate Brazen on Instagram Date Brazen on TikTok
Show notes:http://datebrazen.com/blog/get-out-of-scarcity-decisions-in-dating
Are you loving the listener Q&A episodes? If so, today is your lucky day; we have another one for you! This week, Lily unpacks the idea of "my ex raised the bar," the stories we make up about dating standards, and how to reclaim your agency. The listener’s question went something like this:
“I am dating with intention right now. I was dating someone six months ago, and he broke my heart. He also raised the bar, but I feel like it’s tripping me up. Is holding on to him or wondering about him hurting my chances? If he raised the bar, is that a good thing?”
This episode reminds you that you deserve a relationship with someone who fiercely chooses you. Plus, Lily explores how and why to reclaim agency over “the bar,” recognize that you own it, and can continue to raise it (yourself) based on your needs, wants, and desires.
Hot-takes and how-tos:
- Reclaim your agency over the bar - it was and is yours - you own the bar, and you can continue to raise it
- You get to be in a relationship with someone who fiercely chooses you!
- People who are not right for you make themselves apparent to you quickly. Those who are right for you also make themselves apparent quickly.
Links:Join us for the Create a Joyful-As-Fuck Dating Life Workshop on 3/28! Join the Brazen Breakthrough 3-Step Guide to Make Dating Feel Like Self-care Date Brazen on Instagram Date Brazen on TikTok 124.The “Thank You, More, Please!” Challenge! 135. How to create your essence-based preferences 146. “I'm 37 and haven't been on a date. Am I too late?”
Show notes:http://datebrazen.com/blog/did-my-ex-raise-the-bar
RSVP for my live workshop → Creating a Joyful As Fuck Dating Life-- Tuesday, March 28th @ 6pm EST
If you want to join us inside The Brazen Breakthrough, learn more + join us here.
Doors close on March 31st.
We are back with another listener Q&A episode. This week, Lily answers a question about feeling anxious and embarrassed about being "late to the dating party.” The listener's question went something like this:
“I’m 37 and have no dating experience. I haven’t even had a first kiss yet. It's been an area of great stress for me. How do I break out of this unhelpful mindset and cycle of inaction and start the process of dating while also protecting my well-being?”
This is such a juicy and common question! Lily offers coaching and advice on overcoming hard feelings about being late to the party, explains how to practice self-compassion, and shares steps to creating a clear and courageous path forward.
Hot-takes and how-tos covered in this episode include:
- What if your no-dating experience didn’t mean anything about you?
- A reminder that thoughts are not facts
- How to take care of your nervous system and feel your feelings effectively
Links: The Brazen BreakthroughFollow Date Brazen on InstagramFollow Date Brazen on TikTokHow to make dating feel like an act of self-careEpisode 145: Liz’s courageous journey to finding love Episode 135: How to create your essence-based preferences Episode 136: Where do I even START? Burnout, Emily Nagoski
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/am-i-too-late
Have we got a show for you this week?! Lily welcomes former Brazen Breakthrough client Liz to share the building blocks she used to attract the love of her life. In this episode, Liz opens up about the importance of using essence-based preferences, learning to ask for what she wants, and how she did courageous things in her dating life. The episode promises many "aha" moments and includes a powerful statement from Liz, which we hope resonates with you!
Featured topics include:
- Liz describes what it was like to be stalled in her dating life and why she decided to go to Lily for help
- How qualifying and disqualifying questions helped Liz define what she actually wanted
- Liz describes what it was like to believe in herself
- We hear how Liz navigated her experience of coming out as bisexual and sharing her love story with others
Links:
The Brazen Breakthrough
Follow Date Brazen on Instagram
Follow Date Brazen on TikTok
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/liz-courageous-journey-to-finding-love
This week, Lily is joined by dating coach B. Marie Sanders, LCPC, to chat about the experience of being a single mom in the dating world, as well as, dating as a highly sensitive person (HSP). This conversation offers a valuable perspective on navigating the complexities of dating during single motherhood and/or as an HSP; and provides useful insights into finding acceptance and understanding of yourself and your deepest desires.
Hot-takes and How-tos:
- Some of the harmful narratives single moms hold about dating and ways to work through them
- B. has some insightful advice on how to handle mom guilt about dating
- Why it is important to do the inner work to trust yourself and be aligned with your wants and needs
- Tools and tips for dating as a highly sensitive person
- You can find safety in dating - notice where there is sensitivity and what you can do to create safety while still putting yourself out there
Links: B. Marie Sanders on Instagram 103. Why we choose situationships (and how to get out of this pattern) with therapist Dontea’ Mitchell-Hunter 137. Why you don't need to be "chill" in your dating life Follow Date Brazen on Instagram Follow Date Brazen on TikTok
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/dating-as-a-single-mom-and-hsp-dating-with-b-marie-sanders
Have you ever wondered whether casual sex detracts from finding a partner? This week we delve into another listener question: "Is looking for casual sex and serious dating at the same time distracting from finding true love?” In this episode, Lily discusses her take on the topic. She answers whether or not searching for both casual sex and a serious relationship on separate dating apps is a distraction or not. This episode also explores becoming the CEO of your dating life, where you can decide what works best for you and your deepest desires.
Hot-takes and how-tos:
- Casual sex and its relation to the search for love
- Taking a dating app detox and becoming the CEO of your dating life
- How to run a high-quality experiment that helps you to examine thoughts and beliefs about dating and hookup apps
- There is no one-size-fits-all answer when it comes to sex, dating, and your love lif
Links: The Brazen BreakthroughDate Brazen on TikTokDate Brazen on Instagram
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/does-casual-sex-distract-from-finding-partnership
This week, we are addressing how to move through the feeling of hopelessness in your dating life. Lily answers this listener’s question related to feelings after being rejected or ghosted by someone, “Where do I go from here? What advice do you have around staying hopeful?”
It sucks to feel hard feelings, to be ghosted, or rejected. Both, and, it is important to feel your feelings. This episode helps you to identify your emotions, move through them, and come out to the other side with a little more caring and self-compassion for yourself. Plus, Lily shares three steps to take that will lead you to feel hopeful and inspired for your, “What’s next?”
Links: The Brazen BreakthroughDate Brazen on TikTokDate Brazen on Instagram127. My response to the question, “Will I just die alone?” 128. The questions you don't say out loud.. 139. Body image and your dating life with Bri Campos140. My bless and release strategy for letting go Kristen Neff, SelfCompassion.org Simone Seol’s Joyful Marketing Podcast
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/move-through-hopelessness
Have you ever wondered if you should sign up for a matchmaking database? This week Lily is answering a listener’s question about matchmaking databases and what to consider when thinking about what is the right choice for you. She gives her hot takes from being a professional matchmaker, what questions to ask a matchmaker if you’re considering signing up for a service, and more. Whether matchmaking is the direction you take or not, this episode gets to the heart of how to make the BEST, most powerful decision for you.
Links: The Brazen BreakthroughDate Brazen on TikTokDate Brazen on InstagramEpisode 135: How to create your essence-based preferencesEpisode 91: Envision your future partner meditation Episode 131: how your coupled friends can help you
This week Lily brings you an episode about the concept of blessing and releasing. It’s a strategy you can use when you are having a hard time letting go of something or someone.
This episode was inspired by a question that was DM’d: How can I let go of someone that I thought was right for me?
In this episode, you’ll hear all about how, when, and why to bless and release something. You also can use this method in any facet of life, as a way to bless and release an idea, a boundary, or even a hard decision.
Blessing and releasing is a practice that helps you believe in yourself, choose yourself, and choose your next chapter.
Hot-takes and how-tos:
- When blessing and releasing - don’t expect it to be perfect. Expect some complications.
- Trust your inner knowing and make space for complexity.
- WTF to say when you want to bless and release someone
Links: The Brazen BreakthroughDate Brazen on TikTokDate Brazen on Instagram Episode 133: Asking Someone to be Exclusive
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/bless-and-release
We are talking about a tender topic this week and exploring how to move through hard thoughts and feelings about body image. Joining Lily to discuss things like body grief and perception of self is Body Image Coach and Educator, Bri Campos. Bri offers Body Image Coaching + Education for people who are tired of hating their bodies. She is an LPC, Body Image Coach & Educator, and host of The Body Grievers Club Podcast. Bri is passionate about using the Health at Every Size (HAES) paradigm when it comes to helping clients find freedom with food and peace with their current bodies. We hope you enjoy this episode.
Hot-takes and How-tos:
- “Whatever I feel about my acne or my body jiggling, it does not impact the beliefs I have about myself.”
- Bri shares the four aspects of body image
- How fat phobia or ant-fat bias is rooted in racism
- Why when we are talking about body positivity we also must talk about body privilege
- What is "Body Grief" and how to move through it using Bri’s Body Grief Formula
Links:Bri’s website Bri’s Podcast Bri on InstagramDate Brazen on InstagramDate Brazen on TikTok The Body is Not An Apology, Sonya Renee Taylor Fearing the Black Body, Sabrina Strings The Harvard Bias TestsThe Body Liberation Project, Chrissy King
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/body-image-and-your-dating-life-with-bri-campos
Our brains are good at focusing on the worst-case scenario when it comes to love and life. Well, this week you are invited to believe that the best-case scenario in your dating life is possible! In this episode, Lily explores some best-case scenarios that could happen. And as you listen, we encourage you to let these ideas in. As you acclimate yourself to the potential for things going well, the more ease you will feel engaging with courageous acts.
The best-case scenario is possible right now. Both/and, it’s complicated. You are also human. As you listen in, think about how you can indulge in the best-case scenario, today.
Hot-takes from this episode:
- The goal is, “How can I acknowledge what I want and open up a little space to let it in?”
- Ask yourself: What if you get what you want?
- You have your own back so fiercely AND you are the best possible decision-maker for yourself
- Hold yourself in compassion and get all your needs met
Episode links:
The Brazen Breakthrough Coaching Party + Info Session The Brazen Breakthrough Follow Date Brazen on Instagram Follow Date Brazen on TikTokTherapy Jeff on TikTok Kara Lowentheil
We are talking about the concept of what it means to be “chill,” in your dating life, how being “chill,” might be impacting you negatively, and how to embrace your intensity to find the right partner for you.
In this episode, Lily explores how you might be making yourself feel wrong for being human and encourages you to shed old stories that no longer serve you. Don’t be chill because when you are your biggest self, you will attract the right people to you.
Hot-takes from this episode:
- Notice where you are judging yourself for being human.
- Look at where you are intense and how might that be a gift to people in your life. Celebrate your intensity!
- Take up space! Being chill can be a function of trying to belong in a world that would rather you not be too much.
- What it means when someone wants "laidback" - red flag! 🚩
Episode links:
The Brazen Breakthrough Coaching Party + Info SessionThe Brazen Breakthrough Las Culturistas Follow Date Brazen on Instagram Follow Date Brazen on TikTok
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/dont-be-chill
Happy New Year, gorgeous friend! Today, Lily is bringing you an episode all about creating an intentional dating life that feels like self-care and leads to extraordinary love. More specifically, she is sharing how to even start.
Whether you've never gone on a date in your life, been in a romantic relationship, ended a long-term relationship or haven’t dated very much, this episode will support you in starting your next dating chapter with power, confidence, and self-compassion.
Be sure to have your favorite note-taking tools handy as you listen. This episode has practical steps to help you attract a soul-quenching partnership and feel amazing about yourself along the way.
Hot-takes from this episode:
- Notice what assumptions you're having about yourself, your decision-making, and how you're feeling. Be a loving witness.
- Get in the driver's seat of NOTICING
- Claim your essence-based preferences
- Start playing and ask for what you want
Links:The Brazen Breakthrough 121. Dating apps: Ask me anything124. The “Thank You, More, Please!” Challenge 135. How to create your essence-based preferences Follow Date Brazen on Instagram Follow Date Brazen on TikTok
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/where-do-i-even-start
This episode has been a long time in the making. It's all about how to claim your essence-based preferences. Lily is taking you on a deep dive into what essence-based preferences are, how they are helpful to your dating life, how to know if you're being too rigid, and how to create them for yourself. This is a juicy episode that you’re going to want to listen to time and again!
Hot-takes and How-tos from this episode:
- How do you know if you're being too "rigid"
- Essence-based preferences can apply to everything that you want
- Figure out how to get to the root of what you want by crafting your personal love-life vocabulary
Links:The Brazen Breakthrough Brazen Coaching Party + Brazen Breakthrough Info SessionEpisode 26: How to navigate money in your dating life
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/essence-based-preferences
Today we're going to be talking about the question, “How can I stop being lazy in my dating life?” Lily shares some of her hot takes on this topic, including the productivity myth about dating, a reminder to practice self-compassion, and encouragement to try something else if pushing yourself hasn’t worked thus far. This episode is full of massive permission and inspiration to be bold as hell in your love life and beyond.
Hot-takes from this episode:
- You don't have to go on dates RIGHT NOW to find an amazing relationship
- Productivity in dating prioritizes performing over caring for your body and nervous system
- When you stop to care for your nervous system, you will be more in alignment with higher decision-making AND better dates
- If you want to feel cared for in your love life, give that care to yourself
Links: The Brazen Breakthrough Course
Follow Date Brazen on Instagram
Follow Date Brazen on TikTok
Show notes:https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-can-i-stop-being-lazy
Here's my step-by-step guide to asking someone to be exclusive. Because you deserve clarity and it's time to be courageous!
Links from this ep:
RSVP to my Live Coaching Party + Breakthrough Info Session
Learn more about The Brazen Breakthrough
In this episode, Lily is sharing a resource straight from the Brazen Breakthrough vault, called The Pre-swiping Meditation! It’s a meditation she created for Brazen Breakthrough clients to help them get centered before swiping, searching, or going on a date.
If you feel dread, confusion, anxiety, or any number of emotions when it comes to your dating life, this meditation aims to support you before you ever open a dating app or go on a date. It creates a safe place for you to land, ground yourself, gain awareness, practice compassion, and move forward with ease.
Our hope is that this meditation helps you gain alignment and insight before you do anything in your dating life. Bookmark this episode so that you can keep coming back to it again and again, anytime you feel the pull to do so.
Links:The Brazen Breakthrough Course Follow Date Brazen on Instagram Follow Date Brazen on TikTok
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/before-you-swipe-try-this-meditation
This week, Lily talks about how to call upon your friends for help in your dating life. Perhaps, tactically, your friends don’t know what to do and you’ve been too afraid to ask them for assistance. In this episode, Lily shares a how-to guide all about how to engage your friends so they can effectively help you. Our hope is that this episode encourages you to look upon your deepest desires and say, “I am open to creative solutions.”
Hot-takes and how-to’s from this episode:
- How to determine your essence-based preferences
- How to have hard conversations and set boundaries with your friends all while engaging them for help
- Hot-take: You are not asking for a lot, you are asking for what you want.
Links and resources:
The Brazen Breakthrough Course
Follow Date Brazen on Instagram
Follow Date Brazen on TikTok
How to find and create "exhale" friendships with Blake Blankenbecler
This week’s episode is a re-air from last year’s holiday season! Lily covers in-depth your holiday dating anxieties, including what to do when they bubble up to the surface and how to move through them. Please, she talks about how to respond to nosey dating questions from family or friends. Lily created this episode to offer you some support and normalize your experience during the holidays and beyond.
Links and resources:
The Brazen Breakthrough Course
Follow Date Brazen on Instagram
Follow Date Brazen on TikTok
Show notes:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-move-through-your-holiday-dating-anxiety
This week Lily welcomes Blake Blankenbecler to talk about creating, building, and maintaining friendships in today’s world. Blake believes that life is meant to be lived in connection and helps friends have more meaningful conversations and create more sustainable friendships.
Blake recently released The Friendship Deck, a conversation game for friends who are craving more depth and intimacy with each other that can be purchased at www.thefriendshipdeck.com You can also find her on Instagram @blakeblankenbecler and TikTok at @blakeblankenbecler.lpc
Hot-takes and how-to’s covered in this episode:
- Lily and Blake share their definition of the phrase "better friendships"
- The feeling of abandonment and isolation in friendships is very intense
- Having honest communication with your friends
- Grieving friends or friendships you need to move on from versus deciding who getes to be in your friendship circle
- How to build new friendships as an adult: “The goal at the beginning is not to find a new best friend, the goal is to just show up.”
- Having an “exhale” friend versus a best friend
Links and resources:
Friendship Deck
Blake on Instagram @blakeblankenbecler
Blake on TikTok @blakeblankenbecler.lpc
Date Brazen on Instagram @datebrazen
Date Brazen on TikTok @datebrazen
Show notes:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/exhale-friendships-with-blake-blankenbecler
Lily welcomes three incredible humans to the podcast! Christine, Diana, and Trish were part of the in-person Main Character Energy retreat. In this episode, they join Lily to talk about what it was like to step fully into their main character energy within a room full of peers and share what it was like to own their power. We hope this episode inspires you to step into your main character energy in this season of your life.
Hot-takes from this episode:
- The benefits of doing this work in a community: A community provides encouragement around reimagining what your love life can look like
- “I can trust myself to make mistakes and not worry that it's not going to work out.”
- "Dating can feel isolating, but as the main character, you do have a supporting cast."
- Enjoy the moment and acknowledge you are exactly where you want to be.
Links and resources:
Follow Date Brazen on Instagram
Follow Date Brazen on TikTok
Show notes:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/bts-main-character-energy-in-person-retreat
In this week’s episode, Lily addresses some of the questions you don't say out loud and helps you to unpack them. Questions like, “Did I miss the boat? Am I too late?” or “Is all of this work really worth it?” When you gently bring awareness to your innermost thoughts and feelings, you can begin to move forward with self-compassion, emotional safety, and courage.
Some of the questions that are addressed in this episode include:
- How do I even start my dating life? I feel like I am late to the party.
- When is it too late to keep trying? I am 50, single, and never married.
- Will the type of person I'm attracted to be attracted to me?
Links and resources:
The Brazen Breakthrough Course
Follow Date Brazen on Instagram
Follow Date Brazen on TikTok
Over the last few weeks, we’ve re-aired episodes that covered the three pillars of Main Character Energy. This week the episode focuses on the pillar dedicated to courageous action.
In this episode, Lily shares how you can go from feeling lonely and sorrowful in your dating life to courageous action. It all starts with the question that you need to ask yourself to define meaningful success and begin to root out scarcity thinking. Tune in to hear more.
Stay tuned: Lily will return with new episodes in November!
Download The Guide to Make Dating Feel Like Self-Care:
https://date-brazen.ck.page/c651f5218e
Show notes:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/badass-dating-action-plan
Over the next few weeks, we’re re-airing episodes that dive into the three pillars of Main Character Energy, while Lily recuperates from facilitating the Main Character Energy in-person retreat! This week the episode focuses on the pillar dedicated to self-trust.
In this episode, Lily shares strategies you can take to increase your capacity to trust yourself in your dating life. Self-trust is built in small steps. There is no “arrived” point, there is only the next stop. Yes, you are whole right now. But there is still growth to be had.
Brazen Breakthrough Course:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/brazen-breakthrough-course-sales-page
Show notes:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/giving-yourself-permission-to-trust-what-you-desire
Over the next few weeks, we’re re-airing episodes that dive into the three pillars of Main Character Energy: Permission, Self-Trust, and Courageous Action. While Lily is recuperating and re-charging from facilitating the Main Character Energy in-person retreat; we thought this would be a perfect time to share some episodes from the Date Brazen podcast vault!
This week's episode focuses on permission and boundaries. You'll hear the dating boundaries Lily recommends as well as learn how to craft boundaries to invite in more self-care, how to protect your heart, and find people who are right for you.
Brazen Breakthrough Course:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/brazen-breakthrough-course-sales-page
Show Notes:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/boundaries-for-abundance-in-your-dating-life
“Will I die alone?” This might be a question you’ve thought about but were too afraid to say out loud. Or, if you did say it, a well-meaning friend has replied, “No, you won’t!” Today, Lily addresses this question and helps you unpack it so you can come out to the other side feeling more compassionate and connected to yourself. When you ask, “Will I just die alone?” you negate the magic, unknown, and awesomeness that is in store for you. Tune in to hear more!
Episode hot-takes:
- A thought is not a fact
- Step off the mental see-saw with self-compassion and feel your feelings
- Unpack why you are afraid of dying alone
- Lily provides strategies to help neutralize the question, “Will I die alone?”
Links and resources:
The Brazen Breakthrough Course
69. Worthiness + Winning Results with Simone Grace Seol
Show notes:
https://datebrazen.com/blog/will-i-just-die-alone
Danielle Prescod is on the podcast this week. She is the author of, “Token Black Girl,” and co-founder of 2BG Consulting, which offers anti-racism seminars and resources with the aim of fixing the fashion industry. This week, Danielle joins Lily in a conversation about writing her memoir, the trap of perfectionism, and the role white supremacy plays in the pursuit of perfectionism in love and in life.
Links:
Danielle’s new book!
Danielle’s website
Danielle on TikTok
Talking Body Image, Diet Culture, and Your Dating Life with Chrissy King
Date Brazen on Instagram
Date Brazen on TikTok
Show notes:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/releasing-perfectionism-with-danielle-prescod
We have two bad-ass podcasters and thought-leaders on the show this week. Nicci Nunez and Alex Stewart, hosts of the Swipe Fat podcast, join Lily for a conversation about dating as a plus-sized woman. In this episode, they talk about their recent decision to take a dating app detox, share the story of how they became friends and then podcast hosts, and talk about life as plus-sized women in the dating world.
Hot-takes from this episode:
- Thin privilege in dating versus overcompensating in other areas because you are plus-sized
- Creating a safe space with other plus-sized women at Swipe Fat events
- You can’t be right for everybody, all of the time
- What self-care looks like in the midst of difficult times
- Alex and Nicci’s decision to take a dating app detox, why it felt difficult and, yet, important to do
Links and Resources:
Swipe Fat Podcast
Swipe Fat on Instagram
Swipe Fat at TikTok
Alex on Instagram
Nicci on Instagram
Date Brazen on Instagram
Date Brazen on TikTok
Swipe Fat Podcast Community on Facebook
Swipe Fat on Patreon
This week’s episode is all about the “Thank you, more, please!” challenge. This challenge is a powerful tool for those of us who were taught, “What you want, does not exist.” Listen in as Lily dares you to look for evidence that what you want DOES exist, in your love life, in your professional life, and beyond. Tune into this short episode to hear how to implement this challenge into your life, today.
Links and resources:
- Follow Date Brazen on Instagram
- Follow Date Brazen on TikTok
Show notes:
https://datebrazen.com/blog/thank-you-more-please
Chrissy King is on the podcast this week! She is an author and the Creator of The Body Liberation Project. In this episode, we talk all about body image, diet culture, and your dating life. Chrissy has a new book coming out called The Body Liberation Project: How Understanding Racism and Diet Culture Helps Cultivate Joy and Build Collective Freedom, which we discuss too.
Chrissy shares some of the ways she empowers individuals to stop shrinking, start taking up space and use their energy to create their specific magic in the world. This is an amazing conversation and we are thrilled to be able to share it with you today!
Hot-takes from this episode:
- Chrissy shares her experience going from yo-yo dieting to re-evaluating her relationship with her body
- The work of body liberation is never done, it is a lifelong journey
- Shrinking into a space that doesn’t feel built for you versus taking up space
- There is a real distinction between having body issues versus having a body that causes systemic oppression in the world
- Practicing compassion, kindness, and grace in your body
- We talk about mindset and dating while being in a bigger body
- Decolonizing fitness: What Chrissy would like women of color to know and what she would like white women to know about effective allyship
Links and resources:
How the Hell to Meet Someone In-Person Workshop is THIS Thursday!
Pre-Order Chrissy's Book, The Body Liberation Project HERE for our Main Character Energy Bookclub!
Chrissy's Website
Chrissy's Instagram
The Body is Not An Apology, Sonya Renee Taylor
Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia, Sabrina Strings
About Chrissy:
Chrissy King is a Writer, Speaker, Fitness and Strength Coach, and Creator of The Body Liberation Project. She has a passion for creating a diverse and inclusive wellness industry. She empowers individuals to stop shrinking, start taking up space and use their energy to create their specific magic in the world. Her book, The Body Liberation Project: How Understanding Racism and Diet Culture Helps Cultivate Joy and Build Collective Freedom-- MARCH 14, 2023
In this workshop, I'm going to give you my playbook to ditch the dating app and start meeting awesome people in-person!
The tickets are donation based, and 100% of the proceeds go to local abortion funds in the U.S.
Get your ticket right HERE!
Thursday, Sept 8th, 2022
6pm EST
See you there!
Today we are throwing it back to Episode Four of the Date Brazen Podcast. Why? Because it's all about in-person dating. The episode featured a coaching session with Date Brazen client, Amelia, who didn't want to use dating apps anymore. Sound familiar? We thought so and that is why we decided to re-air it! Lily and Amelia talk about how to start dating in person, what that might look and feel like, and also explore what fears come up - yes, all of that juicy stuff. You don’t want to miss this one!
Hot takes from this episode:
- Why it’s okay (and sometimes healthy) to not be on a dating app - these apps can be distracting, discouraging, and depleting
- Lily gives Amelia some tools to listen to her intuition, which can be a revolutionary act in a world that tells women how to behave, especially in dating.
- Dating confidence is built in person - being brave enough to engage with someone you find attractive and start a conversation is a challenge
Links and resources:
- ALL NEW - Coming Sept 9th, 2022!!! How the Hell To Meet Someone In Person. Get your tickets here!
- Show notes with resources and links
- Download The Friendly Guide to Setting You Up
- Follow Date Brazen on Instagram
- Follow Date Brazen on TikTok
Show notes:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/episode-four/
This week’s episode is all about feelings. Lily talks about how you can feel your way through any of your feelings, why it’s important to do so, and how it is going to change your life, especially your love life.
This episode is a practical guide for feeling your emotions, even the hard ones. Our hope is that this episode will shift the relationship you have with yourself in a juicy way.
Some hot takes from this episode:
- Feelings are a bodily function, feeling them does not mean you’ll get stuck in them, feeling them is a means for moving them through your body (7:15)
- You are not going to miss out on life when you slow down to practice self-compassion or feel your feelings - you are going to experience a more meaningful depth of life (15:53)
- How to actually practice feeling your feelings with emotional safety (25:49)
Links and resources:
- 3 Step Guide to Make Dating Feel Like Self-care
- Follow Date Brazen on Instagram
- Follow Date Brazen on TikTok
- 6: How to curb your freak out with self-compassion with Megan Saxelby
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- Worthiness + Winning Results with Simone Grace Seol
- Kristen Neff and self-compassion
- The Feelings Wheel
Show notes:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/feel-your-feelings-when-rejected/
Today we are bringing you a dating app ask me anything episode! Lily is going to share all of her dating app hot-takes with you. This episode was inspired by a survey posted on her Instagram account (@datebrazen). She received over 300 responses with your questions and thoughts about all things dating. We hope you enjoy the episode!
Some of the questions answered include:
- “It seems impossible to meet anyone in the wild. Help!”
- “How do you get someone to talk to you?!?!”
- “What do I do when I am asking qualifying/disqualifying questions and the response I get is simply, ‘You’re pretty.’” 🤨
- “How honest should we be on our profiles? Should we try to be witty or flirty?”
- “How do I respond to my family about why I don’t use dating apps?”
- “Are apps better for queer or straight relationships?”
- “Can Tinder be used for finding long-term partners and not hook-ups?”
Links and resources:
- Follow Date Brazen on Instagram
- Follow Date Brazen on TikTok
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- How Maddie built a dating action plan and found love
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- Stephanie’s radical transformation (and the long-term impact of the Brazen Breakthrough)
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- Brazen Client Story: Jenny’s Self-Compassion Journey
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- Brazen Client Party: How Kate and Julianne stepped into their best "Hell, Yes!"
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- Brazen Client Story: How Emily Lived Her Self-Worth and Main Character Energy
- Las Culturistas
Show notes:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/dating-apps-ama/
Lily is bringing you another AMA (ask me anything) episode this week! The Date Brazen community has grown by thousands over the last month with members joining us from TikTok and Instagram. Lily loves hearing from everyone! She is taking the time to answer more of your questions about mindset work and your dating life.
The intention of Date Brazen is to provide tools for change and encouragement to integrate what feels good for you - in your love life and beyond.
Questions answered in this episode include:
- How do you regulate your nervous system when dating?
- How long does it take you to start a mindset change once you start working together on the Date Brazen journey?
- I am viewing dating apps as the only way to meet people. How do I reframe my mindset?
- How do I not let my fear of rejection in dating spill over into rejection in a professional setting?
- I am almost 30 and never dated. How do I get started?
Links and resources:
- 3 Step Guide to Make Dating Feel Like Self-care
- Follow Date Brazen on Instagram
- Follow Date Brazen on TikTok
- Burnout, by Emily Nagoski PhD, Amelia Nagoski DMA
Show notes:https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/ama-dating-mindset-edition
The Queer Confidence Coach Alex Ray (he/she/they) joins Lily on the podcast this week! We are obsessed with what Alex is putting out into the world and excited to share the conversation. Lily talks to Alex about how LGBTQ+ individuals can create their own universe complete with confidence and freedom; and can step into their next powerful phase of life. Join us for this amazing episode!
Hot-takes from this episode:
- Stepping into both your divine masculine and divine feminine energy (2:50)
- Unpacking the stories that have shaped our confidence (12:39)
- Owning your sexual liberation and agency as a member of the queer community (18:57)
- Alex shares some of her favorite clients’ breakthroughs about self-permission (27:46)
- Confidence means allowing discomfort and having your own back (31:05)
Links and resources:
- Alex Ray’s website
- Follow Alex on Instagram
- Follow Date Brazen on Instagram
- Follow Date Brazen on TikTok
- The Queer Confidence Podcast
Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/a-conversation-about-confidence-with-alex-ray
I'm answering all your questions in this AMA
Questions like:
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Is it intuition or fear?
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Do I DM a guy I met last year??
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How to approach people IRL
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How to create Qualifying and Disqualifying questions.
All will be answered in this episode:)
We are getting vulnerable on the podcast this week. Dr. Juliana Hauser returns to the show to talk more about sexual agency. After Dr. Juliana’s last podcast appearance, Lily participated in Revealed, Juliana’s program about sexual agency in a community setting. This episode is an opportunity to be in the room while Lily talks to her coach about what it was like to dive deep into the experience of sexual agency, what it is, and how it can affect your life.
“When you get to reclaim who you are, excavating your story and understanding it on your own terms, then you really gain a different level of confidence in knowing who you are; so that you can make decisions with purpose, intention, and agency moving forward.” Dr. Juliana Hauser
Hot-takes from this episode:
- Dr. Juliana and Lily share their experiences about being a part of each other’s work (4:31)
- Excavating your stories and how doing so encourages owning your sexual agency (9:55)
- The first place to be in discomfort is with curiosity (14:15)
- Lily shares the most powerful lessons learned from her time in Revealed (16:49)
- All of the fears that came up for Lily when doing work toward sexual agency (23:31)
- What is the value of knowing your sexuality and understanding your sexual story? (26:13)
- Agency is the headliner of the essence of who we are (29:17)
Links and resources:
- Limited Spots Available for the Main Energy Mastermind - Apply Today!
- Dr. Juliana’s website
- Dr. Juliana on Instagram
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- Reclaiming your sexual agency with Dr. Juliana Hauser
- Date Brazen on Instagram
Show notes:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/a-conversation-about-sexual-agency/
Follow Date Brazen on TikTok
Follow Date Brazen on Instagram
Get your free journaling guide: Make Dating Feel Like Self Care
We’ve been talking a lot about main character energy around here. What is it? Having main character energy means taking center stage in your life, owning what you want, and asking for it out loud. This week client Emily is on the show to share how she embodied the spirit of main character energy when she went through a Date Brazen program and shares how she was able to master self-worth in all areas of her life.
If you are interested in learning how to become the center of your permission-filled, self-trust-fueled, bold-as-hell love story, apply for the Main Character Energy Mastermind today.
Hot-takes from this episode:
- How Date Brazen taught Emily to understand her worth is NOT related to whether she was in a relationship or not (5:45)
- Emily’s desire to be in community to work on her dating life (12:33)
- What it looks like to get in your own way around dating (25:40)
- Healing from past relationships and learning to move forward with courage, self-worth, and honesty (28:04)
Links and resources:
- Apply for the Main Energy Mastermind!
- Date Brazen on Instagram
Show notes:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/emilys-self-worth-and-main-character-energy/
This week, Date Brazen client Jenny is on the podcast. Jenny embodies main character's energy in a beautiful way. In this episode, she shares what it felt like to bet on herself (and her dating life), embrace self-trust, and practice self-compassion.
We hope you are loving the stories from women who are taking massive courageous action to become the center of their permission-filled, self-trust-fueled, bold-as-hell love story.
Hot-takes from this episode:
- Practicing self-compassion in a space of learning and growing (5:33)
- Jenny shares about the bad dating advice she bought into including the number game and using dating apps. Hot-take: If you don’t know another way of dating, you’ll continue to follow the advice that doesn’t feel intentional (9:12)
- Why Lily thinks dating is a portal to greater well-being (10:05)
- The ripple effects of working with an intersectional feminist dating coach (20:13)
Links and resources:
- Apply for the Main Energy Mastermind!
- Date Brazen on Instagram
- Kristen Neff
Show notes:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/jennys-self-compassion-journey/
This week, we are continuing the podcast series which showcases women who are embodying their main character energy. Last week we heard from Maggie and this time, we welcome Kate and Julianne to the show. They share how they stepped into their best, “Hell, yes!” and learned to practice radical self-trust.
If you’ve listened to the podcast recently, you know there are big shifts happening here at Date Brazen. Kate and Julianne were a direct influence on the energetic shift so the work we do is deeper and more impactful in all areas of life.
Hot-takes from this episode:
- Julianne shares her story of why she felt the need to find a new approach to her love life (2:09)
- Kate opens up about why she began working with Lily, to “figure out why dating sucks”
- What it’s like to be a feminist woman who wants a relationship (6:06)
- Being secure in yourself for not settling and living your authentic life is a radical act of self-care (28:00)
- What self-trust looks like for Kate and Julianne now that they have embraced this new way of approaching their love lives (50:57)
Links and resources:
- Date Brazen on Instagram
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- Big vulnerable exciting news (aka what self-trust will do)
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- Brazen Client Story: Maddie's Main Character Energy
- Date Brazen on Instagram
Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/stepping-into-your-best-hell-yes
This week kicks off our new series on the podcast of amazing folks who’ve worked with Lily and who are embodying their main character energy. You're going to hear more about how these women are giving themselves permission to have what they want and take massive courageous action.
Today’s episode is all about Maddie's main character energy journey. We worked together last year. She shares how she has been taking up space, asking for more, and valuing her worth.
Hot-takes from this episode:
- The three pillars of main character energy! (00:25)
- Having genuine belonging is better than accumulating connection (7:58)
- What it was like for Maddie to step into the personal growth space (12:28)
- The benefits of dating mindfully and with intention (20:30)
- How Maddie went from people-pleasing to understanding what she wants and putting herself first (28:11)
Links and resources:
- Last week’s episode about the big shifts that are happening!
- Date Brazen on Instagram
Show notes with transcript: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/maddies-main-character-energy/
Vulnerability alert! This week I am sharing some big, exciting news with y’all. In fact, I am taking lessons from the work I do with my clients and applying them to my professional life. I am showing up, being courageous, and trusting that this next path for Date Brazen is the right one. Yes, I said next path! Listen to this episode to hear about the big shift that is coming and what harnessing your main character energy has to do with it all.
I am going to be talking about diving deeper into your self-trust because when you do, you will feel incredible about every decision in your dating life. I’ll also share what one client said to me and how that one sentence was the catalyst for the deep and meaningful change in my life’s work and mission to support women like you.
When you create your own freedom in your life, when you show up fully for yourself, when you start to unlearn the ways the patriarchy has kept you playing small, you can create the impact you want to see in yourself and in the world around you.
Links and resources:
- Date Brazen on Instagram
- Episode 69: Worthiness + Winning Results with Simone Grace Seol
SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/what-self-trust-will-do
This week we are talking about how to create a pleasure-filled sex life with or without a partner. Joining me in this episode is pleasure expert Danielle Savory. Danielle weaves together her background in neuroscience, her expertise in mindfulness, and her skills as a coach to help women rewire their brains, connect with their bodies, and take an empowered approach to their sexuality. Join us for this bold, empowering, and juicy episode!
Hot-takes from this episode:
- The mind-body connection and embracing your sexuality
- Your dream sex life will keep growing and evolving as you grow and evolve too
- How the practice of self-compassion can shift your sex life
- Getting your needs met when you don't have a sexual partner!
- We redefine the idea of casual sex
- What it means to live as a "turned on woman"
Links and resources:
- Date Brazen on InstagramDanielle Savory's website
- Danielle Savory on Instagram
- It’s My Pleasure podcast
- Reclaiming your sexual agency with Dr. Juliana Hauser
- Self-Compassion with Kristen Neff
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/better-sex-with-danielle-savory
This week’s episode has been in the works since early 2020! In March of that same year, Chris and I started watching Love on the Spectrum, a Netflix series that follows young adults on the autism spectrum, who explore the unpredictable world of dating and its unique challenges. I quickly recognized how beautifully crafted the series was and how much we can learn from it. So, I invited Jodi Rodgers, the show’s sexologist and therapist, to share all of her dating wisdom with us! Jodi Rodgers is a qualified sexologist, counselor, and special education teacher. She has worked within the education and community sectors in Australia and all over the world. She has extensive experience working with neurodiverse people of all ages.
She created her private practice, Birds and Bees, after 25 years of working in education, disability, and sexuality fields. Birds and Bees specializes in delivering counseling services and workshops for people with a disability, with a focus on sexuality, sexual health, and relationships, as well as training for parents, carers, and professionals to raise the community's capacity in this sometimes tricky area.
Hot-takes from this episode:
- Communication in the dating world today is complex
- Knowing how to exit a date is just as important as knowing how to enter a date
- Why it is important to find ways to communicate our differences
- What neurotypical people should know about dating
- The most integral part of being human is our ability to connect with other people
- We ALL struggle with dating and everybody needs support
Links and resources:
- Date Brazen on Instagram
- Jodi Rodgers on Instagram
- Love on the Spectrum
- Jodi Rodgers on Mr. A-+ Podcast
Fina Antwine and I are going deep on all things self-care, how to embody your desires, how to trust your body, and step into your sacred power. If you are available for this powerful as hell conversation, listen in because it will impact your day for the better. Fila Antwine is an emotional wellness coach with expertise in teaching you how to master self-care while creating healthy relationships and putting yourself first so you can build a life that you actually love. Note: We discuss themes of sexual abuse in this episode. If that is not for you today, please take care of yourself and skip this episode.
Hot-takes from this episode:
- When you say, "There are no good men", this is a learned trauma response passed down from the women in your family.
- You can have high self-esteem and how self-worth
- Where women struggle the most in today’s dating space
- “What do you need most now?” This question can be comforting AND scary
- The act of Sacred Self Care - what it is and how to practice it in your life!
- The biggest obstacle to living sacred self-care and how to tackle it
Links and resources:
Fila’s website
Fila’s Love of Your Life Intensive
Fila on Instagram
Date Brazen on Instagram
Anwar White
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/love-of-your-life-intensive-with-fila-antwine
I am excited to be sharing one of my favorite episodes to date; on boundaries!
Boundaries are one of the most important tools (besides self-compassion) that you have, in your dating arsenal.
In this episode, I share a boundary starter pack and explain why it may be hard for you to declare your boundaries, and offer a strategy that will help you get started.
SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-declare-your-boundaries
Have you ever wondered if your life could be different without alcohol? This week, alcohol-free lifestyle expert, Amanda Kuda, joins me for a conversation about elective sobriety and sober dating. Amanda helps ambitious women design alcohol-free lives they are in love with. Whether you are sober-curious or already sober-free, this episode is for you. Amanda says that “Everything can change in your life if you choose to live alcohol-free.” In this episode, we explore what it means to be sober-free, the notion that elective sobriety does not mean anti-alcohol, and how to maneuver dating as a sober, badass woman.
Hot-Takes from This Episode:
- Elective sobriety is when you are choosing to eliminate something from your life that is suppressing you from living to your true potential
- There are lessons to be learned from your resistance to living a sober-free life
- Discovering what life can be like without alcohol
- Sober-dating and how to navigate the conversation that you are alcohol-free
- Amanda shares her top tips for sober-free dating
Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:
- Amanda’s website
- Amanda on Instagram
- Amanda’s Mindful Dating Mini-Course
- Date Brazen on Instagram
SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-do-alcohol-free-dating-with-amanda-kuda
If you have decided you only want to date one person at a time, but aren’t sure how to go about it - this episode is for you! Today, I am talking all about how to navigate dating multiple people at once, dating one person at a time, how to know what is right for you, and how to express your wants and needs to a potential partner.
This episode is an invitation to give yourself permission to want what you want. If what you want is to date multiple people at once, go for it. If you want to date one person at a time - go for it. You are the CEO of your love life.
Hot-Takes from This Episode:
- What to do when you feel like wanting to be exclusive feels like you are being too much
- How to define your boundaries around commitment
- Plus, expressing and understanding your commitment preferences
- Think about: "What are you hoping for in your dating life? What are you excited to happen in your dating life?"
- Give yourself permission to focus on one person at a time. The right person for you will choose you, too.
- Encouragement to map out your expectations/preferences for monogamy/exclusivity
Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:
- The Big Leap, Gay Hendricks
- Date Brazen on Instagram
SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/dating-only-one-person-at-a-time
This week I am talking about the concept of competition in your dating life. I’ll be sharing how to move from a competitive mindset to a party mindset. Of course, it's hard NOT to think of dating as a competition..., especially when being in a relationship represents "moving forward" into a new stage in life. However, I am here to remind you that's a patriarchal narrative that no longer serves you.
In this episode, I explore how competition shows up, what it is a reflection of and how you begin to practice self-trust and confidence in order to change your dating mindset for good.
Dating is not a race to the finish line. It's a party where your only job is to own what you desire, own what you need, get your needs met, and allow the magic of co-creation to do the rest.
Hot-Takes from This Episode:
- Being stuck in a cycle of perceived competition and comparison
- Patriarchal narratives do not serve you or your dating life
- Getting into a more expansive and empowering truth
- We are here to play, to have fun, serve ourselves and others, and create the world we want to see
- How can you create more freedom in your life?
- Life and dating are not zero-sum games
Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:
- Date Brazen on Instagram
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/moving-from-competition-mindset-to-party-mindset-in-your-dating-life
Going from single-hood to being partnered can be quite a transition. It can leave you feeling a mixture of emotions, introduce you to new experiences, and uncover new (and old) insecurities. Gorgeous friend, that’s okay! This week, Modern Marriage Mentor, Maggie Reyes, joins me to discuss how to build the love life you desire, get comfortable with moving from independence to interdependence, and show up in your relationship honestly.
We discuss the intersection between my work as a dating coach, helping women make dating feel like self-care, and Maggie’s work helping women master their mindset in order to make their marriage better.
Listen to hear this fun and empowering conversation!
Hot-Takes from This Episode:
- What if you treated your “quirk” as a feature and not a bug
- Transitioning from life as a single woman to life with a partner, and honoring the grief or other feelings you may feel
- Maggie weighs in on the idea that “men don’t do the same emotional work women do.”
- Moving away from the “all or nothing” mindset
- How Maggie helps women communicate in relationships including open-hearted or uncomplicated communication
- Creating awareness around the stress cycle and how you are responding
- Is wanting what you want somehow too much within a relationship?
- Why Maggie says to write a job description for your ideal partner
Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:
- Date Brazen on Instagram
- Maggie on Instagram
- Maggie’s website
- The Marriage Life Coach Podcast
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- Worthiness + Winning Results with Simone Grace Seol
- The Highly Sensitive Person
- Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle
SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/building-the-love-life-you-want-with-maggie-reyes
Are you currently in a situationship? You are ‘kind-of’ seeing someone but there is no commitment and no talk about the future. Why do you keep falling into situationships and what can you do about it? Therapist Dontea’ Mitchell-Hunter joins me for a discussion about how to practice self-love and worthiness in and out of relationships.
Dontea’ Mitchell-Hunter is a self-worth therapist that helps BIPOC women get out of unfulfilling relationships and recreate self-love & happiness - single or partnered. She wants women to know their worth doesn’t come from being in a relationship nor what others think of them.
Hot-Takes from This Episode:
- Coming into your boundaries and releasing people who are not respecting them.
- Situation-ships: what they are and why we find ourselves in them.
- Standing by your personal preferences, like not wanting kids.
- What to do when your values isolate you from people you care about.
Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:
- Dontea’s website
- Detox Therapy Podcast
- Dontea’ on Instagram
- Date Brazen on Instagram
SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/why-we-choose-situationships-with-dontea-mitchell-hunter
Pleasure. Money. Dating. That is what we are talking about on the Date Brazen podcast this week! Serena Hicks teaches coaches how to make, have, and move BIG Happy Money ™ as a Love-leading revolution in this world. She joins me for a discussion about love, relationships, and the money mindset.
Together we talk about moving from a scarcity mindset, which sounds something like, “There aren’t enough good people out there, I’ll never find love. I need to take whatever I can get and take it now!” To one of there is enough, as in, “The one is out there and that is enough for me. Knowing this truth IS enough.”
Hot-Takes from This Episode:
- What Big Money is and how Serena discovered it after a shame spiral about money and living from a scarcity mindset.
- Sometimes our net worth is a reflection of our self-worth.
- Systems of oppression and patriarchy are affecting your worth.’
- Why we feel so much shame about debt and what we can do about it.
- How to solve for underearning starts with getting hip to realizing how awesome you are.
- Functioning from scarcity concept to functioning from ENOUGH.
Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:
- Serena’s website
- Big Money Mastermind
- Serena on Instagram
- Date Brazen on Instagram
- WEBZ Chicago’s Making Oprah
SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-stop-shoulding-yourself/big-happy-money-and-your-love-life-with-serena-hicks
Today we are going to be talking about the word “should”. Specifically, what it means if you are shoulding yourself, how it’s affecting your dating life, and how to start choosing an easier path forward.
I should let it go.
I should have figured this out by now.
I shouldn’t care so much.
I should just push a little harder.
“Should” thoughts such as these are so insidious. Tune in to hear how to start shedding the shoulds from your dating life for good.
Hot-takes From This Episode:
- “Shoulding” is a sign that you need to play with self-compassion
- What if should was not an option? What would that sound, look, and feel like?
- Why should is a weapon against your own agency.
- You deserve to be self-trust-filled and empowered.
- The “should” standard is there to keep you oppressed.
- “Should” is your teacher, it is not the enemy. It is here to teach you where to practice self-compassion and unhook from previous norms that kept you in a box.
Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:
- Join the Brazen Breakthrough - Apply Today!
- Date Brazen on Instagram @datebrazen
- Episode 69: Worthiness + Winning Results with Simone Grace Seol
SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-stop-shoulding-yourself
Welcome to a very special episode of the Date Brazen Podcast! It’s episode 100, y’all! Returning to the show is my partner Chris. He joined me for an Ask Chris and Lily Anything episode way back in 2020. In this episode, he joins me as my host and asks me some burning questions about dating, relationships, growing Date Brazen, and everything in between. Join us for this fun and behind-the-scenes episode! Hot-takes From This Episode: * My favorite Date Brazen episodes * The hardest part of our relationship: being human together. * What I am most PROUD to say “No,” to. * Do I believe in red flags? Hint: YES! * Chris shares some of his favorite Date Brazen-isms
Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:
- Join the Brazen Breakthrough - Apply Today!
- Date Brazen on Instagram @datebrazen
- Episode 15: Our Relationship: Ask Lily and Chris Anything
- Episode 69: Worthiness + Winning Results with Simone Grace Seol
- The Spark File Podcast
SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/100th-episode-chris-asks-lily-anything
Why does it feel like shit to put yourself first? This week I am talking all about putting yourself first, why it feels uncomfortable, and what you can do about it.
When we choose ourselves and set boundaries to protect ourselves, it doesn't always feel like sunshine and roses. In fact, it can feel uncertain and downright scary.
Here’s the thing, as women in a patriarchal society, we’ve been socialized to put the needs of others before our own. So it’s going to feel shitty when we choose to respond to our own needs first. And that’s okay.
It’s time to choose YOU, my gorgeous friend. I invite you on this journey.
Hot-takes From This Episode:
- Why putting others first feels safe and putting yourself first feels unsafe.
- Break up with the attachment of the thought, “Discomfort means I did something wrong.”
- Practice self-compassion: Yes, putting yourself first is going to be uncomfortable and it is okay.
- I share a simple meditation to help you to learn to put your needs first.
Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:
- Join the Brazen Breakthrough - Apply Today!
- Date Brazen on Instagram @datebrazen
SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/putting-yourself-first
This week Lauren, one of my clients from the Brazen Breakthrough Mastermind, joins me to share her transformation story. And y’all, her courage to do something that is out of her comfort zone, like being on a podcast, is indicative of her power to show up for herself.
Before the Brazen Breakthrough, Lauren felt as though something was inherently wrong with her because dating didn’t come easily. In this episode, she shares her decision to join the Brazen Breakthrough and explores how it helped her to become the main character in her life, show up for herself, and embrace her power. She also talked eloquently about how her biggest breakthrough had very little to do with dating and everything to do with believing in herself.
Hot-takes From This Episode:
- We explore the idea of being stuck in the story of “I’m too old to find a partner.”
- How the patriarchy frames and shapes our thoughts about dating.
- The deep work we do in the Brazen Breakthrough is not just about finding a date.
- How Lauren learned to harness and embrace her main character energy.
- You are worth the investment.
- Lauren’s realization that she has everything she needs in order to get everything she desires.
Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:
- Join the Brazen Breakthrough - Apply Today!
- Date Brazen on Instagram @datebrazen
- Untamed, Glennon Doyle
Show Notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/laurens-brazen-breakthrough-story
“I can’t expect to have an emotionally intelligent partner and be attracted to them.” Woah. If you are thinking to yourself, “Yes, that’s me. I think that!” Then yes, friend, that is where we are going today. In this episode, I help illuminate this story you have been carrying around about your love life, help you to excavate it, gently, and come out the other side feeling more in control.
So yes, you have a lot of expectations and desires for your dating life. Your job is not to know how things are going to happen. Your job is to ask for what you want and to learn how to overcome patriarchal narratives that have been keeping you confined.
Tune into this episode as we hold space for your human experience and rewrite narratives that have been holding you back from the expansiveness of who you are!
Hot-takes From This Episode:
- What is an emotionally intelligent partner, anyway?
- How to describe and attract what you desire.
- Confirmation bias: if your brain has decided what you want doesn’t exist, your brain will continue to look for that evidence!
- Wanting what you want means starting to look for evidence that what you want DOES exist.
- Consider: What does attraction mean to you?
- Moving from an Either/Or mindset to a Both/And mindset.
- The patriarchal influence on your dating life.
- Journal: What is a thought that feels useful and true?
Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:
- Join the Brazen Breakthrough - Apply Today!
- Date Brazen on Instagram @datebrazen
Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/is-an-emotionally-intelligent-and-attractive-partner-possible
Have you ever received bad dating advice from family or friends? And has that advice impacted you in negative ways? Well, this week, I talk about how to deal when you get bad dating advice from people who have no business dishing it out.
Some of the advice could sound something like:
"Maybe you're single because you asked for too much."
“Maybe you're single because you didn't lose weight.”
“Maybe you didn't give them enough of a try.”
“Maybe you are just too old.”
Getting bad advice SUCKS. Yes, and, if you think those thoughts to be true, it’s time to breathe new life into the stories you are believing about your love life. This episode is going to help you do just that.
Hot-takes from this episode:
- Acknowledge that bad dating advice SUCKS.
- Allow yourself to feel your feelings, including anger, resentment, or fear.
- Ask yourself: What does this advice say about the person giving it?
- Prioritize your self-care.
Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:
- Join the Brazen Breakthrough - Apply Today!
- Date Brazen on Instagram @datebrazen
SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-respond-to-bad-dating-advice
Jealousy can be a scary emotion for a lot of women. With Valentine’s Day coming up, you may have some complicated feelings about yourself, about your love life intermixed with some feelings of jealousy. In this episode, I dispel jealousy myths and talk about what to do if or when you are feeling jealous. I’ll also give you some of my hot takes about why jealousy isn’t bad, how to hold yourself with compassion, and move forward powerfully.
Remember, jealousy is not something that excludes you from attracting more, it just means you are human.
Are you all in for the Brazen Galentine Extraganva? Learn how to create your most joyful, courageous love life. Instead of figuring it out “one day", join me and other courageous, strong, and amazing women in building a solid game plan to reach your desires right now. It's free to join, click this link to register and save the date for February 13th 💜
Hot-takes from this Episode:
- Why it’s hard to feel negative emotions, such as jealousy.
- Journaling prompt: What story are you making up about feeling jealous?
- Your feelings are your feelings and you get to have them.
- A reminder that desiring something is normal.
- Notice where you are feeling jealous in your romantic life.
- Think about: What the feeling of jealousy is meant to teach you about yourself.
Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:
- Date Brazen's Galentine’s Day Extravaganza
- Join the Brazen Breakthrough waitlist
- Date Brazen on Instagram @datebrazen
SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/what-to-do-when-youre-jealous-of-your-coupled-friend
This week I dive into the good and bad of dating with guests Jessie Jolles and Claire Burns, hosts of the popular podcast No Such Thing As Love. In this episode, they share some of the ways in which their dating lives have changed over the past two years and some of the lessons they have learned.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-jessie-jolles-and-claire-burns-created-badass-love-lives
West Elm Caleb is taking social media by storm. In this episode, I break down who West Elm Caleb is and why his dating style, which included love-bombing and ghosting, was causing an uproar online. More importantly, I explain why this entire scenario is a call to action for the dating world. Alright, if you want to know why I am referring to this as a call to action - here’s a quick hot-take, which I dig deeper in this episode:
Dating is experiencing a public health crisis. Yes, you read that correctly, my beautiful friend. The way in which dating has evolved, with dating apps at the center, is deeply affecting our nervous systems. Dating is exhausting and affects our nervous system to the detriment of our health.
The goal of every dating app is this: to introduce you to someone outside of your social circle and to make money.
Your job is to take care of your nervous system.
Your job is to learn to trust yourself so that you can spot the next West Elm Caleb versus someone who is interested in a deeper connection.
Of course, sometimes shit is going to happen. Both, and - your job is to respond to it with self-compassion. I dive into a lot more in this episode.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/call-to-action-for-the-dating-world
I have a spicy and amazing episode for you this week! Joining me to talk about how to take the intimidation out of being intimate is Sex Psychotherapist, Vanessa Marin. Vanessa’s work is so impactful and has shifted the way couples (and singles) view sex, helping them create extraordinary sex lives and relationships.
In this episode, we get into the topic of authenticity in the bedroom, explore some of the shoulding we have about sex, like, “I should be more bold and adventurous,” and discuss the various baggage we carry around about sex and dating.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/creating-a-safe-and-confident-sex-life
Today I wanted to draw your attention to one of my favorite episodes ever of the podcast. It is with the incredible Simone Seol, who is a business coach who coaches people around the world who deeply care about making an impact in the world. We talked about how to focus on what you can control instead of fixating on goals that are measuring your worth. This episode is a must-listen!
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/worthiness-and-winning-results-with-simonegraceseol
I have something special for you this week; a future-self meditation. Yes, that’s right, I am going to walk you through a 10-minute meditation that will help you to embody the feelings you want to have in your future relationship. It will allow you to release the tension and suspend your disbelief that there is more for you.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/episode-spotlight-envision-your-future-partner-meditation
I have another juicy episode for you! I am sharing three of my top dating trends for the new year. Plus, I’ll share three tips to help you experience agency and joy in the dating process. My desire is that this episode will leave you feeling hopeful for the new year and beyond.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/dating-trend-predictions-and-tips-for-2022
APPLY FOR THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough
This week on the podcast I am talking about how to meet someone in-person in 2022. Yes, get prepared to dive deep and create a dating action plan for the new year. In this episode, you’ll hear practical advice and my five-step plan to help bring more joy and compassion to in-person dating.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-the-hell-to-meet-someone-in-person
APPLY FOR THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough
“How the hell am I supposed to get excited about my dating life?” If you’ve been feeling hopeless about your dating life, this week I am going to start a three-step process to help you overcome intense double and negative self-talk.
The goal for this episode is to get you into the energy of what you want, to be full of possibility, and hope for what is to come. I walk you through my three-step process which includes giving voice to your thoughts and feeling all the feelings. This process will help to rebuild neural pathways about your dating shine like the opalescent sunflower you are in this world.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/overcoming-dating-self-doubt-with-these-three-steps
APPLY FOR THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough
The holidays can be a triggering time to talk about or even think about your dating life. It’s tough to be a single person in a room full of coupled people, especially if they are family and friends during holiday celebrations. One way you may be minimizing yourself during this trying time is by using humor as a defense mechanism. And guess what, my gorgeous friend, you do not need to joke about your singleness. In this episode, I offer my hot take on how to respond to family and friends about your singleness without turning to jokes for deflection.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/your-dating-life-is-not-a-joke
APPLY FOR THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough
This episode is an invitation to explore what is beneath the surface and bring space and curiosity to what your dating life and your personal life can truly be. I’ll explore some of the reasons why you may be hesitant to work with a dating coach and some ways to overcome these mindset blocks.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/from-slow-burn-to-soul-quenching-support
APPLY FOR THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough
This episode is all about bringing a community to your dating life. You may be thinking, "Lily, what on earth do you mean?!" This episode explores how the Brazen Breakthrough offers support and clarity for your dating life from within a safe space and community. Brazen Breakthrough alumni join me for a transparent conversation about what it was like to come into this space, what impact they saw in their dating lives, and what it was like to do this work together.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/support-clarity-and-community-for-your-dating-life
APPLY FOR THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough
In this episode, I provide you with action-oriented information on how to handle holiday dating anxiety and stress; both internally and externally. You’ll get strategies that will help you feel amazing, and move forward with power and confidence in your love life. Plus, I’ll share some ways to respond to others who ask you about your dating life. I created this episode to offer you some support and normalize your experience during the holidays and beyond.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-move-through-your-holiday-dating-anxiety
Having feelings of frustration because you're not where you want to be right now is valid. But what I want to remind you is your thoughts influence the result that you create in your life. So, what if you started practicing a new thought which could bring the transformation you desire?
In this episode, I am sharing thought work I’ve been practicing in my life and helping my clients practice in their dating lives too.
“It doesn’t take time, it takes alignment.”
With this new thought, you move from a place of stagnation to one of action. What action can you take to get into alignment? Think about what you can do today to get into alignment with your values and move towards the life you desire tomorrow.
JOIN THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH WAITING LIST:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-align-with-your-desires
If you’ve ever wanted to glimpse behind the scenes of dating coaching; this week’s episode will make you very happy! Relationship and well-being coach, Shula Melamed, joins me for a discussion about what we see people struggle with in their dating lives, how we help them, and everything in between.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/believing-you-are-worthy-of-love
This week I am getting a bit personal on the show. I talk about a vulnerable experience I recently went through, how it made me aware of the stories I’ve been telling myself when it comes to wanting people to like me, and what I learned about myself. And of course, I talk about how my lesson can be applied to your dating life.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/unpacking-what-it-means-to-be-you
Sexuality is at the core of who we are, our identity, and our power. Sometimes due to the stress of dating, people-pleasing, or losing sight of yourself after past relationship trauma; you shut the door to your own sexual identity. Joining me this week to talk about how to reclaim your sexual agency and transition from self-judgment to self-compassion is Dr. Juliana Hauser.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/reclaiming-your-sexual-agency
I am talking with Julia Hochstadt, LCSW, about how trauma can show up in your dating life and what you can to do get support. Many of the people I work with also get support from trauma therapists. Trauma deeply affects dating, their love lives and impacts their healing process. Because I am not an expert on the topic, I invited Julia to share information and resources around abuse, trauma, and dating.
Trigger warning: In this episode, we talk about the themes of abuse and trauma. If that's something you know wouldn't serve you in your journey today, then please skip this episode.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-trauma-impacts-your-dating-life
I want to dive into a lesson I am actively learning in my life, which is to do nothing. I’ve been thinking about how my clients and listeners of Date Brazen can apply this lesson to their dating lives too. So yes, this week, I am inviting you to: Do nothing.
Doing nothing is a key part of the intentional effort you are making. Intentional effort leads to intentional results. BUT, intentional action doesn’t always mean BEING ACTIVE or constantly DOING. No, it can also mean laying down, deleting the dating app for a week (Yes!), and most importantly, being intentional about rest.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/rest-and-refocus-why-its-okay-to-take-a-break
This week I am talking about boundaries. Boundaries are one of the most important tools (besides self-compassion) that you have, in your dating arsenal.
In this episode, I share a boundary starter pack of sorts and explain why it may be hard for you to declare your boundaries and offer a strategy that will help you get started. When you declare your boundaries, you also affirm your worthiness. And as you know I often say, you are worthy of what you desire.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-declare-your-boundaries
I am so excited to welcome Christine Buzan to the show. She is a confidence personal style and posing expert. During this episode, she helps us understand how we can show up in our lives more fully, at any size. We cover a lot of ground including the idea that we carry around beliefs about our worthiness and how sometimes those beliefs stop us from showing up authentically. You deserve to be seen as you are, right now, today; my gorgeous friend.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/you-dont-need-to-lose-weight-to-find-love
Radical transformation - that’s just one of the topics on deck for this week’s episode, friends. I am talking to one of my clients, Stephanie, who I worked with as part of The Brazen Breakthrough. She ended up having a radical transformation within herself and in her love life; as a result attracted extraordinary love.
Stephanie shares some of the lessons she learned through her Brazen Breakthrough journey, including learning to trust yourself and know that you are worthy of love.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/stephanies-radical-transformation
Schedule an application call with Lily for The Brazen Breakthrough Mastermind. https://calendly.com/brazen-lily/brazen-breakthrough-application
Self-compassion is transformative in so many ways. Did you know that self-compassion has a huge role in dating? This week I am joined by self-compassion coach, Lauren McQuade. She works with high achievers and helps them transform in so many ways - going from fearful to confident in many aspects of their lives.
Tune in to our conversation to hear actionable steps towards self-compassion and move towards a more graceful, enjoyable, and rewarding life.
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3j8dedW
Schedule an application call with Lily for The Brazen Breakthrough Mastermind. https://calendly.com/brazen-lily/brazen-breakthrough-application
If you didn't notice by the title of this episode, I am bringing you my hot takes on the classic movie, Legally Blonde starring the incomparable Reese Witherspoon. I break down several of the most notable scenes through the Date Brazen lens. Legally Blonde has a lot to teach us about dating, love, and what it means to own your power as a woman in the world.
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/37waale
This week, we are exploring what it means to embrace your enoughness. To help me dig into this topic is the fabulous, Dina Scippa. Dina is the Founder and CEO of Enough Labs, and host of the Embracing Enough podcast. She helps her clients with letting go of expectations, finding their inner voice, and embracing their confidence.
We also uncover what it means to belong to ourselves, rather than yearning to be in a relationship so someone can prove we belong. Your enoughness is tied to your existence in the world - not to what you have obtained, have done, or have yet to do. You are enough.
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3fnFRkO
In this episode I share my thoughts about Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck’s rekindled relationship - after being apart for 19 years. If you are single and dating, their romance may have you asking, “Should I get back with my ex?” Before you pick up that phone, tune into this episode where I share some of the lessons Bennifer’s reconnection can teach us.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/my-thoughts-about-bennifer-and-should-you-get-back-with-your-ex
“Maybe it’s not about getting to the relationship but it’s about uncovering the belief that you are enough.” That’s just one of the topics my guest Simone Seol and I talk about in this episode. Yes, y’all, my business coach, Simone Seol, is on the show this week! She is a business coach who coaches people around the world who deeply care about making an impact in the world. We talk about what you can do to feel more soulful in your dating life as a result of Simone’s advice and work.
I am thrilled (and beyond grateful) to share Simone’s knowledge with you. I have been so impacted by her work, practices, and her framing. It changed the way I think about my business and think about your dating life. I hope you find our conversation just as impactful.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/worthiness-and-winning-results-with-simonegraceseol
This week I am talking with one of my clients, Shwetika about her experience in the Brazen Breakthrough. Shwetika has a lot of incredible relationships in her life. Yet, dating was something that she did not know how to do in a fulfilling way or in a way that felt like it was on her terms. Things were cloudy, unsettled, and uncertain. If Shwetika’s story sounds familiar, keep listening.
During the Brazen Breakthrough, she was able to map out her year and her goals, and treat them seriously. Shwetika’s journey has been amazing. And I cannot wait for you to listen to our conversation.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-shwetika-learned-to-date-and-live-on-her-own-terms
GET ON THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH WAITLIST:
https://bit.ly/35VZLyo
In this episode, I open up about my moment of stuckness, expand on my journey and explain how I hope to share my story moving forward in order to feel more empowered, confident, and healed. I also encourage you to gently excavate and look at your past stories. Healing is possible and is in progress.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/why-im-changing-my-origin-story
You are spending hours swiping apps, going on dates; and you are not getting out of dating what you are putting in. And your current ROI (return on investment) may be at the root of your dating frustration. This week I am talking about how reframing your dating ROI can help you to actually see the progress you are making.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-redefine-your-dating-roi
GET ON THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH WAITLIST:
https://bit.ly/35VZLyo
You hear me say it often, “You can make dating an act of self-care,” but perhaps you are having trouble connecting the dots. In this episode, I talk about the two different types of self-care, immediate and future, explain how you can achieve a balance between the two, and bring it all together so that you can create a clear path forward.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/the-balance-between-immediate-and-future-self-care
Today we are talking all about how to enjoy the shit out of your single life. Maybe you are dating or maybe you aren't. Regardless of where you are in your dating life: you still get to enjoy being single and love it! Vasavi Kumar, an on-camera Confidence and Content Creation Coach, is here to explore this topic.
Vasavi pivoted from being a therapist where she worked with women for over ten years. The conversation her patients kept bringing to her was, ‘Why am I not in a relationship?” Vasavi's mission is to help women sustain themselves financially, emotionally, and psychologically.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-love-the-shit-out-of-your-single-life-with-vasavi-kumar
I have something special for you this week; a future-self meditation. Yes, that’s right, I am going to walk you through a 10-minute meditation that will help you to embody the feelings you want to have in your future relationship. It will allow you to release the tension and suspend your disbelief that there is more for you.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/envision-your-future-partner-meditation
Patriarchal conditioning and messaging that is harmful to both women and men. It is harmful, humans are meant to feel. So how does the patriarchy affect our dating lives? That’s a topic I am diving deeper into this week, with the help of returning guest Becky Mollenkamp. We explore patriarchal systems and how they are impacting women’s every thoughts, hopes, fears, and desires.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/the-patriarchy-and-your-dating-mindset-with-becky-mollenkamp
Join me for a conversation with my guest, Upasna Gautam, as we explore what it means to bring mindfulness into your dating life for lasting impact and peace. And yes, it’s hard to know what mindfulness is, oftentimes, until you find a way to work it into your daily life.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/cultivating-a-mindfulness-practice-for-your-dating-life
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This week I am responding to a listener’s email, let’s call this listener Jen. Jen recently wrote in asking how to reply to men who text or call to “check-in”, AFTER they have broken up with her. Here’s an excerpt from her email:
“I don't want to be someone's backburner chick. I want to be a Number 1 gal! So what should I do in this situation--is ghosting appropriate (is it even ghosting)? Or does your "clarity is kindness" mantra mean that I should respond directly letting them know that I don't wish to stay in contact as a romantic partner or friend?”
In this episode, I break down a simple bless and release method that will help Jen (and listeners out there who need to hear it!) live into her, “Yes!” When you can set a boundary, bless and release; you make more room for people in your life who are a “Hell, yes!” to you.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-make-room-for-hell-yes-people-in-your-life
APPLY FOR THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH:
https://calendly.com/brazen-lily/brazen-breakthrough-application
A lot of my work includes figuring out how to lovingly interrogate the stories that we’ve built up about our romantic past and experience. In this episode, I’ll explore how to let go of the thoughts that you're not worthy, how to step back from taking everything personally and how to defy the ending to that story you learned long ago.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-own-your-story-and-create-a-different-ending
APPLY FOR THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH:
https://calendly.com/brazen-lily/brazen-breakthrough-application
Today I am joined by Maddie, who just finished the Brazen Breakthrough in March. In this episode, she opens up about the blocks she was experiencing in her dating life before joining the mastermind, she reflects upon her time in the cohort and talks about what success looks like for her now. Maddie also describes how she took what she learned, made it her own, and claimed exactly what she desired.
APPLY FOR BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH MASTERMIND:
https://calendly.com/brazen-lily/brazen-breakthrough-application
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-maddie-built-a-dating-action-plan-and-found-love
This week, I am joined by Steph Gaudreau, a nutritional therapy, intuitive eating, and strength training expert. She helps purpose-driven women like you, learn to build stronger bodies and healthier relationships with food.
We hope you come away from this conversation empowered to be in a beautiful relationship with yourself and then with others. It is an Invitation to learn to trust yourself.
APPLY FOR BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH MASTERMIND:
https://calendly.com/brazen-lily/brazen-breakthrough-application
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-listen-to-your-body
This week, Anniedi Essien, Chief Swagger Officer at Idem Spark, joins me for a discussion about owning your unique identity and rocking your confidence.
Tune in to hear how to build swagger-level confidence that will have you attracting ideal jobs, clients, and yes - even potential mates.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-build-swagger-level-confidence
Your dating profile can be a unique and authentic expression of who you are and what you desire. Through a deeper lens, I wanted to explore how you can rebuild your dating profile to be attractive to the right people and disqualify the wrong people for you with ease.
Most often, dating profiles are trying to cater to everyone who views them. Here’s the thing, my gorgeous friend, you are for the few and not the many. In this episode, I share some strategies you can use to rebuild your dating profile to showcase the most important person in your life - you.
You are uniquely qualified for the love of your life. Why wouldn’t you want a profile unique to your dating life too?
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3uniqxh
3-STEP GUIDE TO MAKE DATING FEEL LIKE SELF-CARE: https://date-brazen.ck.page/c651f5218e
Here’s a truth bomb for you: dating apps suck. They are supposed to make your dating life easier. Instead, they can be soul-sucking and addictive. Today I am talking about why dating apps are not the answer to your dating life and what the answer can be instead.
You deserve better. You deserve better than the download-delete cycle. You deserve a clear path forward that prioritizes you.
SHOW NOTES:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/dating-apps-are-not-the-answer
DATE LIKE A BADASS IS OPEN - CHECK IT OUT HERE:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/date-like-a-badass
This week, you’re going to hear all my new program, Date Like a Badass, and how it can help you move forward in your dating life with confidence and curiosity.
So, how do you want to feel about your dating life in the next six months? What intention do you want to bring to fruition? Intention is a powerful source. Intentional effort leads to intentional results. Women who invest intentional effort into their dating life are ready for a step-by-step plan to find that soul-quenching love. They are ready to date like a badass.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/introducing-date-like-a-badass
3 STEPS TO DATE LIKE A BADASS (AND FIND LOVE):
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/webinar
Tune into this week’s show to hear how to choose bold questions that will help you qualify dates and stop wasting your time.
You are in the driver’s seat, you are in control of who you spend your time with - that is what this episode is all about. Ask bold questions, qualify the people who could be ‘your person’, and disqualify those who are not right for you.
Remember, you can’t say the wrong thing to the right person, so it may as well be bold.
3 STEPS TO DATE LIKE A BADASS (AND FIND LOVE) MASTERCLASS: http://datebrazen.com/masterclass
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/2Osabkp
This week I walk you through how to claim a bold vision for your dating preferences and why doing so is essential for your dating life. When it comes to preferences, most people are very aware of their checklist preferences - things like age, height, location, religion, and education. And, this is where most people stop. But you can deepen your checklist preferences. In this episode, I’ll show you how. Additionally, you’ll learn how having clear, essence-based preferences can aid you in making empowered choices about dating with ease.
SHOW NOTES:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/claiming-your-deeper-preferences
DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen
Today we are going to dive into another lesson from my coaching experience, The Brazen Breakthrough. I will share how my relationship reflection guide can help you review past relationships and move forward with self-compassion.
Why is reflection work important? Because how you relate to your past relationships says a lot about how you relate to yourself in your dating life. When I was so caught up in the hurt of a past relationship, I was relating to myself in shame and embarrassment.
The relationship reflection guide helps you take an intentional look in the rearview mirror and allows you to see:
- How your past relationships influenced your present experience in your dating life.
- The truths about your dating life from your past relationships.
- Your survival stories.
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/the-relationship-reflection-guide
DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen
I am pulling back the curtain on the Brazen Breakthrough nine-step framework. This week I am going to walk you through the first tenant of the Brazen Breakthrough, thought work. I explore some ways in which your thoughts are creating your reality about your dating life. And, I share a practice that will help you get back into the driver seat of your thoughts and move forward with self-compassion and self-forgiveness.
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3qPaeo8
DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen
Tune in to hear three steps to get out of anxious spiraling or future-tripping, and back into believing what is actually possible for your dating life.
When you think about your life and you think, “Wow, I really want a partner,” it’s not that you need someone to be whole. Instead, you simply desire a person to share your life with. If that hasn’t happened for you yet, you may feel frustrated.
Finding the love of your life is possible.
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3jRW7M4
DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen
This week I am sharing how the Brazen Breakthrough can help you go from feeling lonely and sorrowful in your dating life to one of confidence, empowered, and actionable.
I give you a taste of how my transformational, signature coaching program can get you out of suffering and into empowered action in your dating life.
When you intentionally invest time, energy, and, yes, money into your dating life to help build an abundant strategy that focuses on you, your life changes. I want that for you, my gorgeous friend, I truly do.
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3jtg3Vz
BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH WAITLIST:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough
LIVE MASTERCLASS FOR BADASS SINGLE WOMEN:
http://datebrazen.com/masterclass
Self-trust is really hard. I had an assumption that self-trust was something you were born with or not. Turns out that assumption is B.S. But, how can you trust the decisions you make in your dating life if you’ve had bad relationships in the past? This week I am going to provide some strategies you can take to increase your capacity to trust yourself in your dating life.
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/2YyJU5l
BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH WAITLIST:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough
CELEBRATE YOUR SINGLE-SELF CHALLENGE:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/challenge
LIVE MASTERCLASS FOR BADASS SINGLE WOMEN:
http://datebrazen.com/masterclass
Does this sound like you? You are successful in your career. In fact, you are successful in almost every area of your life, yet when it comes to dating, you feel like you are less than. Well, my gorgeous friend, you are not alone. My client Kate has been there, done that, and is here this week to talk all about it. She opens up about what her dating life was like before, during, and after joining the Brazen Breakthrough. Kate dishes on all things dating and life.
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3obB1Je
BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH WAITLIST:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough
CELEBRATE YOUR SINGLE-SELF CHALLENGE:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/challenge
I am sharing three ways to get out of loneliness and into belonging in your dating life. Because, dating, most of the time, is lonely and frustrating.
A few years back, I was in a toxic relationship. Following that dating experience, I was stewing in a hot soup of loneliness. If that sounds like you, I want to support you. So today I offer three ways you can get out of loneliness.
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3inEUtj
BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH WAITLIST:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough
CELEBRATE YOUR SINGLE-SELF CHALLENGE:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/challenge
Dating is a hotbed of patriarchal, conventional bullshit.
For example: "Laugh more on a date. Boys like girls who are jovial. Be more of a mystery. Guys like the thrill of the chase. Ask more questions. Get on all the dating apps because it's a number's game."
Translation: Dating successfully means making yourself smaller, talking less, going on more dates, lowering your standards— #bullshit.
In this episode, I shine the light on how dating can be a feminist act and what dating from an intersectional feminist lens can look like. When you permit yourself to want what you want, you extend that permission to others around you. How you date is an expression of who you are as a woman in the world.
I want you to find your life's most extraordinary love with the emotional tools you need to do so. Finding love on your terms is possible; figuring out how to do so on your terms and how you plan to show up is the first step.
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/35yXV6U
BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH WAITLIST:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough
CELEBRATE YOUR SINGLE-SELF CHALLENGE:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/challenge
I wanted to start the new year with one of my favorite parts of last year: The Finding Your Fearless Retreat which we held in December. During the retreat, I gave a lesson on boundaries and, today, I am sharing that session with you! You'll hear the dating boundaries I recommend you create to invite in more abundance, how to craft boundaries to invite in more self-care, how to protect your heart, and find people who are right for you.
I wanted to share this lesson with you because my words for 2021 are abundance and ease. While boundaries may not be easy to create or enforce, when you're able to set them clearly and support yourself in developing them, they bring more comfort to your everyday life. I'm so excited for you to listen, and I am so excited to be your dating coach in 2021.
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3rSwnD0
DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen
A new year is almost here. For the last episode of 2020, I wanted to set the stage so that you can build your 2021 dating strategy with focus and compassion.
When I say strategy, I don’t mean swiping in a specific way on dating apps or playing a numbers game.
Instead, your dating strategy is knowing what you want, the actions that can lead you to find what you are looking for, and how to protect your heart and cognitive load in the process.
To help you build your dating strategy, I’ve come up with three questions to ask yourself. These questions will help you to reflect on what worked in 2020, what didn’t, and what you should (or shouldn’t) focus on in the year to come.
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/34BdhHv
DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen
When is pickiness a problem versus when your preferences are perceived as picky by others - that’s the topic of this week’s episode.
"Why haven't I found my person yet? Maybe I am just too picky?"
Sound familiar?
PIckiness can be a problem when the story you tell yourself is that nobody is good enough for you. I share why that type of story is typically rooted in past trauma and past self-protection; and what you can do about it.
I also explore how dating from a place of abundance instead of proving something or someone wrong helps you attract people you align with and are excited to be around.
In other words, when you stop trying to please others and instead turn the focus on your wants and needs, your person will gravitate towards you.
As you listen to this episode, ask yourself these questions: What do I sincerely want? How can I permit myself to be authentic? And, how can I work on remaining open to being surprised?
Chances are, my gorgeous friend, you are not too picky. But that doesn't mean there isn't some work to be done.
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3h6s2qK
DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram/com/datebrazen
When you live a life of shoulds, life looks really good on paper. But when you start to realize the shoulds are no longer making you happy, life can feel heavy. It’s easy to fall into a spiral of shame and blame. Learn how shoulds and upper limit problems might be holding you back and what you can do about it.
Becky Mollenkamp joins me to offer her experience and expertise on these topics. Becky believes women deserve to feel powerful and fulfilled. As a certified business mindset coach, she helps smart, ambitious women dream and play bigger, while also finding contentment in the here and now.
Get your ticket for the Find Your Fearless Retreat:
http://datebrazen.com/retreat
DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3mU8TdN
The holiday season is here. And as we step into the final month of the year, what are you worried about in your dating life? What are your fears? Today, I'm going to be talking about how you can work through those fears and move forward with intention.
In fact, some of the most common dating fears I’ve heard recently, from clients, include:
Time is running out.
I haven’t found love and that’s a failure.
In this episode, I provide you with a roadmap to help you overcome some of these pandemic-specific dating fears.
Get your ticket for the Find Your Fearless Retreat:
http://datebrazen.com/retreat
DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3obZ4rW
How can you tell what is going well versus what is not? Are you following your vision or do things just seem at a standstill? That’s just some of what I dive into, in this week’s show.
It's really easy to see what is not going well. That’s why I created a practice called, “The What’s Going Well Tracker.” I share how this trick will help you transform the ways in which you are mindful about what is going well in your life, today and in the future.
Get your ticket for the Find Your Fearless Retreat:
http://datebrazen.com/retreat
DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/2J8RrD9
If you're looking for some encouragement and joy, I've got your back. In this pep talk, I'm giving three reasons that you can experience hope in your dating life right now.
Sneak peek:
- You are uniquely qualified for the love of your life.
- What is meant for you will not pass you by.
- Your past is not an indicator of your future.
Get your ticket for the Find Your Fearless Retreat:
http://datebrazen.com/retreat
DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/epic-dating-pep-talk
Today, I want you to practice CLAIMING why you are awesome. What you love about yourself. Why someone is going to feel so lucky to call you their partner.
Pushing down what made me EXACTLY who I was, why I was awesome and complicated and beautifully “too much”, it made me feel like a hollow husk of myself in my dating life.
That all changed when I shifted the focus to exactly why I loved myself, why I was worthy of love, what I was bringing to the table on dates, that’s when dating started to feel like self-care. In this episode, I am going to share how I made the shift and how you can too.
With this shift, dating became an opportunity to explore and live out what I loved about myself.
What if you approached your dating life while clearly knowing exactly why you’re awesome? How would it change the way you approach your dating life?
You are brilliant.
You are amazing.
It’s time to unapologetically build your dating life.
DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3eIDmbn
This week I have a short podcast episode for you. It’s election day in the United States and so I wanted to infuse some encouragement into your life. In this episode, I share with you an IGTV by Elizabeth Gilbert. I watched it recently and it brought me solace. I hope it does the same for you. It’s all about dancing in times of uncertainty. Remember to take a deep breath and a moment to celebrate you.
ELIZABETH GILBERT'S LET'S DANCE IGTV:https://www.instagram.com/tv/CHF-Xw0BLDM/
DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/
How happy and supported can you stand to let yourself be? Well, I know the following things to be true: you can completely transform your dating life and feel like a joy-filled badass by the end. And the Brazen Breakthrough can help you get there. This week, I invite you to hear all about this transformative framework.
I share the origin story of the Brazen Breakthrough including how past toxic relationships led me to become a dating coach. I also share my badass dating framework and explain how it can help you to find extraordinary love on your terms. If you’ve ever wondered if the Brazen Breakthrough is right for you, this episode is one you won’t want to miss.
LIVE MASTERCLASS FOR BADASS SINGLE WOMEN:https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/webinar SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/35hzeL0
I’m going to take you behind the scenes of my upcoming Celebrate Your Single-Self Challenge! You’ll hear what the challenge is and how it can help you bring more self-care into your life.
In this unpredictable, chaotic time in our nation’s history (where we are out of control in so many ways), it’s not time to “push until you figure it out,” and it’s not time to “figure it out all on your own.” It’s time to transform your dating life from a soul-suck into an act of self-care so you can find the best relationship of your life, with a community of other badass, single women who have your back.
Tune into this week’s episode to hear all about the challenge. I hope you give yourself permission to show up and be supported.
JOIN THE CELEBRATE YOUR SINGLE-SELF CHALLENGE:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/challenge
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/2SQg2OV
Alright, so you’ve acknowledged that dating isn’t easy. And...you have lost sight of why you are awesome and why someone will be lucky to be your partner. So, now what? Well, gorgeous friend, this episode is going to be your baby step forward towards transformation.
Where to start? By acknowledging what you bring to the table. Maybe you’re saying to yourself, “Lily, I know I’ve accomplished a lot. And it feels like some of my accomplishments have been at the mercy of finding a person.”
This episode is a reminder to acknowledge the work you have done, and then to give your brain a break from the flight or fight response. When you do, your higher functioning can step back in and imagine a different way to go about dating. You want something more and you are ready to get it.
JOIN THE CELEBRATE YOUR SINGLE-SELF CHALLENGE:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/challenge
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/30DB6MG
I’ve worked with hundreds of people and most everyone says a version of: “I don’t know what’s wrong with me. Dating shouldn’t be this hard, it wasn’t for my friend/coworker/mom.” If you think that dating should be easier than it is, this is the episode for you. In this episode, I peel back the curtain of why dating is so hard and what you can do about it.
JOIN THE CELEBRATE YOUR SINGLE-SELF CHALLENGE:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/challenge
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3ijwUrq
“I can’t believe I’m single and talking to a dating coach. I don’t want to be a cliche.” That’s a phrase I’ve been hearing a lot from my clients, lately. If that sounds like you, then this week we dig into why you are not a cliche for seeking help for your dating life.
In this episode, I uncover some of the reasons why you are feeling this way, I shed light on the patriarchal dating tropes which may be keeping you stuck, and offer some mindset shifts to help you move forward with power and confidence.
DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3l7Mo3V
Did you know that improv comedy is similar to your dating life? Well, this week I am going to share some of the lessons I learned from my improv days and how they can apply to how you can date in a powerful way. Get ready because these improv rules have the potential to add more joy and fulfillment than you thought possible in your dating life.
DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3624Tm1
One of the biggest energy drains is comparison and the patriarchy; especially when it comes to your dating and love life. Last week, I talked about self-compassion. Today I’m going to build on that, and discuss how to create a comparison-free dating life!
You might be feeling comparison creep in when you see your friends in a relationship. Or when one of your friends is “great” at dating and you can’t seem to find a great date. In this episode, I break down the ways in which comparison can show up in dating, help you to become your own comparison detective, and offer some key strategies so you can kick comparison to the curb. My hope is that you will emerge from these comparative thought patterns and step into the life you desire.
DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3lWyin5
This week I am talking about self-compassion and why it is a necessary tool for a successful and fulfilling dating life. According to Kristen Neff, having compassion for yourself means you honor and accept your humanness. I tend to think of self-compassion as a superpower. So, how can you harness this power for good? In this episode, I share my quick-hitting advice about how to get out of your head, into the self-compassion driver’s seat, and create a confident dating life.
DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/2ZceH8M
Today’s dating scene can be a soul suck, am I right? With a few simple (and sometimes not so simple) mindset shifts, you can move past feeling stuck in your dating life. Nobody knows this better than my client, Sarah. This week she joins me on the podcast for a live coaching session.
In this episode, Sarah shares openly about the various mindset shifts she employed in order to transform her dating life. And talks about how and when she realized she was fully capable of her own transformation. By sharing Sarah’s story, my hope is that it will help you to feel less alone and more inspired.
DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/2YRmRDe
Hello Gorgeous Friends, in today’s episode I am talking all about money and dating. Why does this topic matter? Money is a complicated topic. It impacts our lives - both negatively or positively. Whatever your situation, money may have been a source of tension and strive in your dating life.
The stories we make up about money can be brutal and can trickle into our thoughts and feelings about our dating preferences, who we date, and how we date. So today, I am going to help you break down how to navigate money in your dating life confidently and with curiosity.
DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3aRqGwS
This week you are in for a treat - I am talking shop to fellow dating coach, Anwar White. In this episode, you’ll learn exactly what a dating coach is and how partnering with one can help you. We also dish on some of our favorite topics like the biggest dating stumbling blocks we see, our thoughts on two Netflix dating series, and our number one priority for our clients. Tune in to hear two dating coaches talk shop and offer dating advice too!
DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3hbMg1L
Today, I will be talking about the Netflix show, Indian Matchmaking! As a former matchmaker, I had a lot of thoughts, feelings, and opinions about the series. I just had to get on the mic to talk about four of my favorite characters, some of the lessons you can take away from each of their experiences and I even offer dating advice for them, in case they happen to be listening!
DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3kABbJI
Let’s talk about dating app profile photos for a moment, friends. Often in my work, I see my clients coming up against mindset blocks or negative thoughts about their appearance when choosing their profile photo. Sound familiar? Well, in today’s show I am talking to photographer and coach, Damaly Shepherd about how to love yourself in photos.
In this episode, Damaly provides mindset shifts and insightful advice to help you uplevel your camera confidence. By the end of this episode, we want you to have the tools to feel incredible about yourself in and out of your dating profile photos. Because as Toni Morrison said and Damaly agrees, “You are your best thing."
DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/31eAtcb
In this episode, I am talking about self-indulgence and self-care. I examine some of the feelings that come up when we are practicing self-indulgence, like shame or guilt. This episode asks you to explore your relationship with the word self-indulgence, helps you to identify and break through the negative connotations, and asks you to consider how it is hindering your ability to nourish yourself. So, what kind of self-indulgent woman do you want to be?
SCHEDULE A FREE CALL WITH LILY → https://bit.ly/306ZRQx
DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/2BzvnhI
Looking to transform your dating life? Well, this week I am sharing a conversation with my former client, Maya. Last year, Maya went through my coaching experience, The Brazen Breakthrough. In this episode, we walk through what Maya’s dating life was like before working with me, the blocks she had, how her life transformed after the Brazen Breakthrough, and how she found love. Your dating life does not have to suck. It’s time to transform too.
SCHEDULE A FREE CALL WITH LILY → https://bit.ly/306ZRQx
DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/2CpETVg
Have you been wondering, “How can I be more intentional in my messaging?” Well, friends, in today’s show I will be sharing how to step up your boldness with your communication. You’ll hear the text messaging templates I use with my clients; which will help you move from unsure to clear and bold in your messaging.
Did you know that 33% of people on dating apps never go beyond texting? If your dating why is deeper than a ‘pen-pal’ relationship, you have to back that up with some strategy. I’m going to take you through my recommended text responses for matching on a dating app, meeting someone in person, and how to respond to someone, if you have been ghosted.
Yes, this episode calls you to do more in your dating communication and in your dating life. With these direct communication strategies, you will be able to show up in the reflection of your deeper why. You deserve extraordinary and you deserve someone who knows how to communicate too.
SCHEDULE A FREE CALL WITH LILY → https://bit.ly/306ZRQx
DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/
SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3eqnVD6
In this week’s show, I am talking to life coach, Imani Nekohl, about fear and dating. Imani is a life coach who helps women find their confidence and step into their purpose. She’s a badass, long-time friend, and an incredible inspiration to me.
When it comes to fear and dating, there’s no need to be “fearless” (in our conversation, you’ll hear all about how that goal isn’t even possible for us humans). This episode will break down the three main fears that you probably are facing in your dating life. Plus, Imani shares some tactical takeaways to help you to move past these three dating fears into power.
DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/move-from-fearful-to-powerful-in-your-dating-life
The problem: You go on dates with people who turn out to be duds. You can’t find good people. You’re stuck in a never-ending cycle of bad dates. Well, in this episode I am going to share my three-step system for qualifying and disqualifying dates.
Yes, my friend, the idea of qualifying the right people versus the wrong ones is scary. To get what you want from your dating life, you need to create a high barrier to entry. You have access to the many, and you need to be swiping and dating for the few. My system will help you do just that.
DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/find-the-right-dates
When having conversations on dating apps, are you staying surface level out of fear of being too straightforward? You’re not alone.
This week, I have a live coaching session with my client, Caitlin. She’s been struggling with how to have deep and meaningful conversations with the men she is dating. During our time together, we also uncovered some ways she can get unstuck from old patterns.
DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/
SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/intentional-dating-app
On today’s show we will be talking about the question that you need to ask yourself to define meaningful success in your dating life and how to root out scarcity thinking.
SHOW NOTES→ https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/badass-dating-action-plan
ANTI-RACISM RESOURCES FOR WHITE PEOPLE→ https://bit.ly/3fu2zp7
SELF CARE RESOURCES FOR BIPOC→ https://bit.ly/3fpHk7O
Today's episode of The Date Brazen Podcast is an unscripted conversation with my life partner, Chris.
We sat down in our bedroom (my usual closet space was too small for the both of us) to record this conversation on Sunday, and we kept it really real.
In our convo today, we get into how we met, our first disagreement (eek), how he felt about me starting Date Brazen (it was a little rocky), and his thoughts on men in the dating world.
I can't wait for you to get to know him!
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If you feel like it's hard (near impossible) to have an abundant, powerful dating mindset, then this episode is for you.
And if your environment is making it hard to have a powerful dating mindset, this will give you the framework to feel more in-control of your dating life.
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Today’s episode is all about how you can advocate for your own needs in your dating and love life.
After recording this episode, I definitely had a vulnerability hangover… and I know that it’s worth it. I hope my sharing this story gives you the tools you need to show up for yourself.
My intention here is to help you identify your needs and then ask for them to be met. Let’s do this.
By the end of this episode, you’ll have a framework for rewiring your anxious thoughts, getting selfish and serving others along the way.
Meet today’s guest: Kim Grevler
Kim Grevler is a licensed as a Clinical Social Worker, life coach, and the founder of selfishladies, a movement that teaches women how to redefine anxiety and put their needs first.
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If you're looking for some encouragement and joy, I've got your back. In this pep talk, I'm giving three reasons that you can experience hope in your dating life right now.
Sneak peak:
- You are uniquely qualified for the love of your life.
- What is meant for you will not pass you by.
- You have more power RIGHT NOW than you think. (and I wanna teach you how to harness it)
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By the end of this episode, you will know how to be camera confident for your virtual date.
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Do you have fear in your dating life? Maybe you have questions like —
“How do I know where I stand with a new relationship?”
“How do I navigate my own fear and not bring it into my dates?”
“What if I get ghosted… again?”
These questions carry so much fear and anxiety. So, how can you move past them to find deeper connection and vulnerability?
Today’s episode is a live coaching session with my client, Alissa, who has struggled with all of the fears above, and wants strategies to choose courage— to hopefully find deeper connection with herself and the new person in her life.
By the end of this episode, you’re going to have a self-care action plan to be well in the midst of a hard season.
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This episode of The Date Brazen Podcast is my actionable, uplifting love letter to everyone who has questions about dating in the age of corona.
Like...
What does this quarantine mean for my dating life?
What does this crazy time mean for my mental health?
How can I not let panic get to me?
Let’s take a deep breath.
Just because things are on hold doesn’t mean YOU are on hold.
In this episode, I take you through three action steps to keep your life moving forward during this crazy season.
(and even how this could be the best season of your dating life from the comfort of your couch)
RSVP for the Guide to Amazing Virtual Dates masterclass here→ https://www.datebrazen.com/yes
Being stuck in a freak out spiral sucks. Especially in your dating life.
What’s the key to moving through and out of those overwhelming feelings?
Expert Megan Saxelby is here to share actionable strategies for moving through freakout with the simple (and radical) tool of self-compassion.
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Let's get tactical about your self-care strategy. And I’m not talking about a bubble bath or a sheet mask.
On today’s episode, we’ll talk about how you can create a dating life that feels like self-care with three really easy (and free) steps.
Growth happens outside of our comfort zone, so let’s go!
I have some big news for you and your dating life: You don’t have to be on a dating app to find love.
Conventional dating wisdom says that you need to play the numbers game, that dating apps exist so you MUST be on them to be “Trying” in your dating life.
I know this isn’t the truth. Dating apps are amazing at 2 things: 1. introducing you to someone outside of your social circle and 2. Getting to know your dating personality. But they are not the answer to your love life.
Today’s episode is a live coaching session with my client, Amelia, where we dive into her dating life, hear about her struggles and come up with three actionable strategies for her to use right now to find love in-person (without a dating app).
I can’t wait for you to hear our conversation, so let’s dive in.
You can download "The Friendly Guide to Setting You Up" in the show notes here → datebrazen.com/podcast.
"Wait, I should brag in my dating life?"
Yep. The practice I teach in this episode will supercharge your self-love strategy, allowing you to feel confident in what you're bringing to the table and find better dates as a result!
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“How do I move on with my dating life after a really hard breakup?”
It’s a question I get all the time, and today I have the answer for you.
In this episode, I’m getting really vulnerable and sharing about my most recent ex with the help of the Brazen Relationship Reflection Guide (which you can download for yourself in our show notes here!).
Reflecting on your past relationships can be tough (it was for me). And it’s also the key you need to find the best relationship of your life.
Let’s supercharge your dating life (or current relationship) together right now!
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BAD ADVICE ALERT: "Dating is a numbers game."
In this episode, I'm going to tackle one of the biggest problems that I see people facing in their dating lives - the “Numbers Game”.
From coaching hundreds, I know that this common piece of dating advice is actually hurting your dating life. I'm here to share why and what you can do about it.
Listen in to this episode to hear the three steps you can use right now to find better dates in less time while swiping!
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