The Last Healer: Recent Episodes
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The last healer. Who might that be? You. We are each our own last healer. When “medical intervention” began thousands of years ago, all that was needed was a word from another person to right the imbalance. And that person wasn’t necessarily even a medical practitioner. Today, a few people are attempting to return to living in this way, to life as a free person. You’ll hear about their journeys in The Last Healer podcasts, where we speak in unscripted conversation with individuals who have set upon this course. May you find these words to be the ones you need to spark your return to your substance and navigate beyond the obstacles of our current civilization.
What happens when a child’s pain triggers your own? What do you do? You’re told to “be an adult.” You want to be an adult. But inside, you’re hurting in the way the child before you is hurting. You are that age again — an infant, a one-year-old, a two-year-old. "I would just sit there and have this dread and couldn’t wait til my mom got home." In this concluding episode of A Father’s Anguish, guest Jeff Friesen comes up with an approach that allows both parent and child to express their feelings. Note: This podcast was recorded on February 8, 2020.
What happens when you find yourself becoming uncontrollably angry as your young child’s unhappiness is mounting by the minute?
“My tendency is when it’s painful, I start to get angry.”
In this episode, guest Jeff Friesen, a new father, is tormented by his outburst of anger and begins to seek its source. He is on the trail of a legacy he does not want to pass on to his daughter, looking for a way for both of them to express their feelings safely.
Listen to this first episode in our two-part podcast and return next week to hear Jeff’s surprising solution.
Note: This podcast was recorded on February 8, 2020.
The pandemic has catalyzed trauma, large and small. There are deaths, there is fear and anxiety, there is increasing depression. And it turns out that depression and anxiety are highest among young people. In previous disasters, it has been children who were most affected by the devastation. They masterfully hide their feelings, only to suffer for the rest of their lives. How do we meet such trauma? In this episode, we speak with guest Marlana Qualls about her childhood trauma and how it has brought her to an unexpected outcome. “The pain brings you closer to your reason, your life will, what you're here for.”
In our first two podcasts, we discussed how to handle fear and anxiety during the pandemic. But as the lockdown continues, we may be faced more with anger and irritation than with anxiety. Being in the same place every day with the same people, or being alone day after day, our activities curtailed, we may feel a rising edginess. What to do with that?
When feeling angry, most of us resort to one of two responses: we either try to ignore or push away the anger, try to control it in some way; or we let it carry us into a fight with someone else or even with ourselves.
We have a third choice. In today’s podcast, you’ll hear Marlana Qualls describe how she is finding her voice in a way that activates change.
In our second episode on meeting fear and anxiety during the COVID-19 pandemic, we hear how guest Marlana Qualls, talking on March 7, is discovering that by getting out of the fear, which she described in our first episode, she can use the pandemic as an opportunity to continue awakening her capacities:
“I don't feel like it's such a doom, like I don't feel like it's such a curse. I feel like something here is good, like this can awaken our ability to use our discernment if we have the confidence and the education--”
Join us as we continue our discussion of the choices each of us has, moment to moment, in confronting the invisible-to-the-eye virus.