Covenant Sex: Recent Episodes
Dr. Anthony Hughes
Certified sex therapist, Dr. Anthony Hughes, counters culture surrounding sex. “We’re actually a very sex positive people. We just don’t know it yet.” LDS (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saint) culture is ready to bring a sex positive perspective into covenant marriages. Direct, but respectfully this podcast cuts through old ways of thinking and brings a healthy view of sex that’s nestled in covenant marriages. Cover art photo provided by Milan Popovic on Unsplash: https://unsplash.com/@itsmiki5
Dr. Hughes provides the roadmap for couples that are struggling to resolve sexual desire differences in marriage. The high desire spouse is really saying “Come and get to know my soul. My very being. Not my entire soul, but a main part of it.” Couples can get the stars to align when their soul communes with their spouses. Dr. Hughes talks about how that can happen, within this podcast.
In this episode of Dr. Hughes talks about the impact of sexual neglect and abandonment for the partner that enjoys bonding and connecting through sexual intimacy. Understanding where the partner that has experienced sexual neglect and abandonment is coming from sets the stage for the 3rd and final step that couples must take to resolve their sexual desire differences and embark on a coupled journey of sexual fulfillment.
This podcast discusses the process of transformation for people that struggle with sexual addiction or out-of-control sexual behavior, also known as problematic sexual behavior. Dr. Hughes has created a program that is built off of 24 ways to transform and live for those struggling with problematic sexual behavior.
LDS (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints) couples dealing with a sexual desire discrepancy within their relationship are provided the second fundamental change required for these couples to resolve their sexual frequency and quality issue within their marriage. This second fundamental change is “ensuring that bids for connection are witnessed for what they are, and accepted”-there is a special way of ensuring that all bids are accepted that is discussed in this podcast.
The first of three steps for couples struggling with different sexual desires is provided and expounded upon. 1-ensuring each partner differences in sexual desire are accurately seen and respected.
In this podcast Dr. Hughes talks about the high sexual desire/low sexual desire problem and avenues for change. Most couples fall into the gap of fighting for their spouse to be more like them. This may be the case for some couples where there is an unhealthy relationship with sexuality that gives rise to either a high or low sexual desire, but for many others differences need to be respected, bids for connection need to be accepted, and the couple embarks on a new way of exploring sexuality.
The 4 low desire partner types are discussed. These include Inaccessible/Cold; Accommodating/Disengaged; Misguided/Wanderer; and Engaged/Open types. How the low desire partner and their high desire partner experience this type is also highlighted.
The broad overview of what doesn’t work and what does work in high desire/low desire marriages is explained. The listener will be able to see why their high desire type doesn’t work and which one does work. You will quickly see what fundamental characteristics are requisite for a happy sex life for high/low desire marriages
Dr. Hughes goes over the 4 different kinds of high desire partners, what high desire partners that aren’t jerks are really looking for, and the impact of rejection.
Dr. Hughes talks about what sexual play is and how vital it is in marriage. It is correlated to being “in love” or “falling out of love”. Sexual play is one of the three indicators of strong romantic loving relationships, along with meaningful time and vulnerability and connection. Part two is brief
Dr. Hughes talks about what sexual play is and how vital it is in marriage. It is correlated to being “in love” or “falling out of love”. Sexual play is one of the three indicators of strong romantic loving relationships, along with meaningful time and vulnerability and connection. This is part 1. Part two is brief
Dr. Hughes talks about little known facts and research about the vulva and vagina and what arouses them
Dr. Hughes talks about some new research related to the clitoris. This stuff is exciting and is certain to draw your attention
Dr. Hughes talks about what is required for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints to transform into sexual beings/couples that have healthy sexual relationships. Specific examples of how people transform are provided and related to the sexual journey individuals and couples are on as members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
In this episode Dr. Hughes talks about how our Soul yearns for improvement in various ways. He goes into some detail concerning tools for achieving these sexual goals. Dr. Hughes also provides information to a group he will be running for female sexual desire issues
In this episode, Dr. Hughes talks about the quality of sex that satisfied marital partners have. He discusses what the research says about how frequently they have hanging from the chandelier sex or great sex, vs good sex, okay sex, or mediocre/dysfunctional sex.
In this episode Dr. Hughes discussed the work that he is doing with members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. He talks about how members develop their relationship with sexuality through a new viewpoint called SSTANCE. SSTANCE explains how we as sons and daughters of God develop sexually.
As you’re making plans for improvement this year remember that if there isn’t space for one’s soul to exist in your life, us minus roles and responsibilities, our sexuality will also not exist.
In this episode I describe what sexual scripting theory is and how it impacts members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I go into ways in which we as a cultural group can make healthy shifts that fit our value system in a highly sex positive way as well as how we as individuals and couples can personalize these within our relationships and as sons and daughters of God.
This episode covers the blending of love nests, meditation, tantra, and covenant sex for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
Dr. Hughes continues to mentor members of the Church of Jesus Christ of latter-day Saints that have sexual addictions in normalizing their experience and working towards congruent sexual expression and values. He provides directives for how to get in line with values and sexual expression
Dr. Hughes builds on the Tantra positions of the last episode and the couple moves into penetration and two new Tantra and Covenant Sex activities bringing together all that has been taught and practiced to this point on the Tantra recordings.
Dr. Hughes discusses two traditional Tantra activities and how members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints can do these and build their healthy sexual intimacy. Future Tantra activities will build on these and prior Tantra podcasts so practice these as a couple regularly.
In this episode Dr. Hughes mentors members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints to nurture healthy principles of sexuality and provides examples of how someone with a sexual addiction can do this on a daily basis
Dr Hughes covers abstinence only, comprehensive, Netherlands comprehensive, and ELearning sexual/intimacy sexual education for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
Dr. Hughes summarizes part one of tantra and members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. He goes on to talk about creating a space or love nest that’s conducive to souls having a covenant sexual relationship
Dr. Hughes discusses the parallels in tantra and principles found in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. A model for a fulfilling sexual relationship as members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is discussed. Several follow-up sessions on the same topic are yet to come
Dr. Hughes discusses how Latter-day Saints become sexual in a way that is in line with their value system
Dr. Hughes discusses the differences of vaginal discharge and vaginal lubrication, where they come from, what to expect during the menstrual cycle, and why they vary in color and consistency.
Dr. Hughes talks about the use of vaginal lubrication, exploring your body, and UTI’s for Latter-day Saint couples
Dr. Hughes talks about breast and nipple stimulation, social constructs for eroticism and sexuality, and provides multiple discussion points for LDS couples.
Dr. Hughes discusses how an over identification with sexuality and under identification with sexuality impacts the latter-day saint. He talks about the implications of this and what it looks like on a daily basis. He concludes with a re-balancing and tipping of the scales for latter-day Saint men and women and how to do so.
Dr. Hughes discusses the missing aspect of sexual addiction, the sexual relationship, among LDS.
Dr. Hughes provides a morning meditation that will improve your relationship with your sexuality as members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
LDS Latter-Day Saint sexual styles are vital in covenant marriages and in keeping key couple characteristics with the sexual relationship that are unique to each couple
Dr. Hughes discusses healthy sexual fantasy. He also teaches about the emotional, physiological, and spiritual process of sexual intimacy for Latter-day Saint men.
In this episode Dr. Hughes goes into respectful, but needed detail, concerning sexual expression of women in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
Dr. Hughes discusses the sexual response cycle for LDS couples, how a fetus’ sexual anatomy is formed, and other sexual insights that LDS couples wonder.
Dr. Hughes provides education on sexual Programming for men and women that is derived from the external and internal nature of the sexual anatomy.
Dr. Hughes reverently discusses how LDS women can find more sexual arousal during sexual activity and intercourse. He also corrects inaccurate sexual scripts about female sexual arousal and orgasm.
In this episode Dr. Hughes provides a model of sexual health for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints to follow that is in line with our value system. SAAM is the model used and stands for Sexual Attentiveness and Accountability Model.
Dr. Hughes discusses a home/gospel-centered approach to sexual education. Many parents wonder how to approach “the talk” with their kids about sex and how to do this better than their parents did. This episode provides a responsibility/accountability/nourishment approach that can be a life preserver for kids/adolescents/adults in helping them navigate troubled waters of relationships or in bringing them towards safe harbors of healthy couple sexuality.
Discussion on changing the LDS (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saint) narrative surrounding sex to one that’s sex positive
Sex therapist Dr. Anthony Hughes introduces himself, his podcast, resources for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saint, and how to look for a good sex therapist.