AwakenYou in your marriage: Recent Episodes
Christine Bongiovanni
Together we break down relationship barriers by Awakening Your True You because this process isn’t about changing your partner. It’s about discovering who you are so you can awaken you in your marriage.
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When couples begin talking about separation, it can feel terrifying. Many people assume separation means the marriage is over, but what if separation isn’t always about ending the relationship? What if it can become a path toward greater clarity and healing?
In this episode, I continue the conversation from last week’s episode on marital discernment counseling and explore the difference between reactive, protective, and healing separations. I share insights from a recent marriage roundtable and discuss how separation can provide space to slow down, reflect, and examine our own contribution to the relationship rather than focusing solely on changing our spouse.
We’ll also talk about hard problems versus soft problems, why clarity matters more than rushing decisions, and how healing often begins with curiosity and self-awareness.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The different types of separation and why they matter.
- What a healing separation in marriage is designed to accomplish.
- How discernment counseling helps couples gain clarity.
- The difference between hard problems and soft problems.
- Why focusing only on your spouse’s change can keep you stuck.
- Questions to ask yourself when you’re in the space between staying and leaving.
If you’re wrestling with whether to stay, separate, or seek help, this conversation will encourage you to slow down and make decisions from wisdom rather than exhaustion.
Ready for support?
Schedule a Courageous Love Conversation and discover your next step toward healing and clarity.
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
Does communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what’s true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.
Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!
Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.
More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/
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Have you ever found yourself wondering, "What else can I do?"
In this episode, Christine shares a powerful insight from a recent marriage roundtable that challenged the way she thinks about couples who are struggling. The speaker made a simple but profound statement:
"Most people don't want to get divorced. They just don't know what else they can do."
Together, we'll explore what happens when one spouse is leaning into the marriage while the other is leaning out, why traditional marriage counseling isn't always the right starting place, and how gaining clarity can sometimes be more important than finding immediate solutions.
If you're feeling stuck, discouraged, or unsure of what your next step should be, this conversation will offer hope, perspective, and a reminder that there may be more paths forward than you realize.
In this episode you'll learn:
• Why some couples struggle to engage in marriage counseling
• The difference between fixing a marriage and finding clarity
• The three paths explored in discernment counseling
• How self-reflection can create movement when you feel stuck
• Why many people considering divorce are actually searching for hope
If you'd like support navigating your own marriage crossroads, schedule a Courageous Love Conversation using the link in the show notes.
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
Does communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what’s true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.
Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!
Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.
More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/
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How do you stop feeling powerless in your marriage when your spouse won't change?
For years, I spent so much energy focusing on what my husband wasn't doing and all the ways I wished he would show up differently. While many of those hurts were real, I eventually realized something surprising: the more I focused on trying to change him, the more powerless I felt.
In this episode, I'm sharing the deeper meaning behind the name AwakenYou in Your Marriage and why I believe one of the most important shifts we can make is learning to come back to ourselves.
We'll talk about:
- Why focusing on your spouse can leave you feeling stuck and resentful
- What it means to "awaken yourself" within your marriage
- The difference between self-responsibility and self-abandonment
- What is inside your circle of control—and what isn't
- How inner work can lead to greater clarity, peace, and connection
- Why working on yourself doesn't mean ignoring your spouse's responsibility
If you're feeling exhausted, disconnected, or trapped waiting for your spouse to change, this episode will encourage you to discover where your true power lies and help you take your next step toward a healthier marriage.
Resources Mentioned:
❤️ Download my free Gentle Start Guide to Better Communication
❤️ Book a Courageous Love Conversation
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CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
Does communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what’s true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.
Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!
Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.
More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/
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Have date nights, vacations, or time together with your spouse started to feel awkward or uncomfortable?
You're not alone in wondering what happened.
In this episode, I share reflections from a recent anniversary getaway with Jeff and why reconnecting after seasons of stress, distance, and disconnection often feels awkward before it feels close.
We'll talk about:
- Why couples slowly stop enjoying time together
- The pressure we put on ourselves to "feel connected"
- Why awkwardness isn't always a sign something is wrong
- How emotional safety and shared experiences rebuild trust over time
- The difference between forcing connection and staying present with what is
- Why you don't have to recreate the marriage you once had—you can create something new
If spending time together hasn't felt easy lately, I hope this conversation reminds you that rebuilding intimacy doesn't usually happen in grand moments.
Sometimes it begins quietly.
Sometimes it begins with simply staying.
Resources Mentioned:
❤️ Download my free Gentle Start Guide to Better Communication
Connect with me:
Website: ChristineBongiovanni.com
Instagram: @christine.bongiovanni
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
Does communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what’s true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.
Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!
Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.
More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/
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Most couples spend more time planning their wedding than they do their marriage.
And it’s not because they don’t care…
it’s because no one really shows them how.
In this episode, I’m bringing you into a recent experience I had at a premarital conference—and the unexpected reflection it stirred in me about my own marriage.
As I sat with couples just beginning their journey, I found myself thinking…
what would have been different if Jeff and I had this kind of preparation?
Not just conversations about love…
but real, honest guidance around communication, conflict, needs, personality differences, finances, and intimacy.
Because the truth is, many of the struggles couples face aren’t surprising…
they’re just unexamined.
If you’ve ever found yourself feeling disconnected, misunderstood, or questioning why things feel harder than you expected—this episode will help you see your marriage through a new lens.
Not as something that’s gone wrong…
but as something that’s asking to be built more intentionally.
Before you listen, I want to invite you to do one simple thing:
Choose one area of your relationship… and start a conversation.
Just one.
That’s where change begins.
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
Does communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what’s true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.
Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!
Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.
More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/
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A simple anniversary gift…
a quiet moment…
and a reaction I didn’t expect.
In this episode, I share how one small moment with Jeff uncovered a deeper belief I didn’t realize I was still carrying—and how emotional triggers in marriage often have less to do with what’s happening now… and more to do with what we’ve been carrying for a long time.
If you’ve ever felt hurt, disappointed, or reactive in a way that didn’t quite make sense… this episode will help you slow it down, understand what’s underneath, and begin creating connection from a more grounded place.
✨ Inside this episode:
- Why small moments can feel so big
- The hidden beliefs shaping your reactions
- How to identify what you’re really longing for
- A simple way to share this with your spouse
💛 Ready to take the next step? Download the Gentle Start Guide to Better Communication to help you begin these conversations in a way your spouse can actually receive.
If this episode resonated, follow the show and share it with someone who might need it too.
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Does communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what’s true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.
Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!
Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.
More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/
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I’ve been holding something back.
Not because I didn’t think it mattered… but because I wasn’t sure how it would land.
In this episode, I’m sharing a personal wrestle around faith, intimacy, and a breakthrough I can’t explain through effort alone.
This one is raw, honest, and unfolding in real time.
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Does communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what’s true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.
Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!
Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.
More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/
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Do you ever feel like no matter what you try…
you and your spouse keep ending up in the same place?
The same arguments.
The same disconnect.
The same frustration.
Maybe you’ve had the conversations… tried new approaches… even gotten help…
and still—nothing really changes.
In this episode, we explore why that happens.
Because it’s not just about what you’re doing…
it’s about what’s driving the pattern underneath it.
You’ll learn why “starting over” often doesn’t work, what’s really going on beneath the surface (especially in intimacy), and how to begin shifting the cycle in a way that actually creates change.
In This Episode:
- Why you keep repeating the same patterns in your marriage
- What’s really happening underneath those patterns
- How these dynamics show up in your intimacy
- What “starting fresh” actually means
- A simple practice to interrupt the cycle in real time
- What to do when your spouse isn’t meeting you there
Next Step:
If you’re realizing communication might be part of what’s been missing…
Download the Gentle Start Guide to Better Communication and begin opening conversations without conflict or shutdown.
If this episode resonated with you, follow the show and share it with someone who might need this too.
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Does communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what’s true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.
Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!
Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.
More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/
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Ever feel like you’re the only one carrying the intimacy in your relationship?
Like you’re the one reaching, thinking about it, wondering why it’s not happening…
while your spouse feels distant or hard to read?
Or maybe you’re on the other side—feeling pressure, expectation, and not fully understanding why it feels so hard to respond.
In this episode, we slow things down and look beneath the surface of what’s really going on.
Because this isn’t just about sex.
It’s about what’s happening underneath it.
In This Episode:
- Why initiation isn’t the real issue
- What the “pursuer” may actually be longing for
- The hidden weight the “withdrawer” may be carrying
- How we create meaning based on our own insecurities
- Why emotional safety must come before physical intimacy
- What it looks like to begin again—together
Timestamps:
00:00 Feeling Alone in Intimacy
00:40 Why Initiation Isn’t It
03:03 The Pursuer’s Deeper Need
04:51 The Withdrawer’s Hidden Weight
06:30 Stories We Tell Ourselves
07:45 Build Safety Before Sex
09:24 Dig Up the Roots
10:10 Starting Over Together
11:14 Breaking Pursuer Roles
12:22 Next Steps and Coaching
12:53 Closing and Outro
Next Step:
If you’re realizing there’s more underneath your dynamic than you’ve been able to sort through on your own…
You don’t have to navigate it alone.
👉 Book a Courageous Love Conversation and begin understanding what’s really happening in your relationship.
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
Does communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what’s true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.
Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!
Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.
More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/
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Have you ever wanted your spouse… but held back?
Or reached for them… and their response stayed with you longer than you expected?
What looks like a simple moment often carries something much deeper—questions about being wanted, being seen, and what it all means.
In this episode, we explore why reaching for your spouse can feel so emotionally loaded in long-term marriage, and how to begin shifting out of patterns of rejection, pressure, and quiet resentment.
You’ll learn:
- Why intimacy can start to feel heavy instead of inviting
- How “not tonight” turns into something more personal
- What happens when sex begins to feel like a test
- The cycle that slowly leads couples to stop reaching for each other
- How differentiation helps you stay grounded and connected
And a simple way to respond differently the next time this moment happens.
If this resonates with you, I’d truly love to hear your experience. You can reach out via email or Instagram—I’m getting more and more curious about how women are navigating this in their marriages.
And if you’re ready for support as you begin shifting these patterns, you’re invited to book a Courageous Love Conversation—a space to slow down, reflect, and begin creating something different.
Follow, rate, and share this episode with someone who might need it.
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Does communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what’s true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.
Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!
Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.
More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/
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Rebuilding intimacy doesn’t start with fixing it… it starts with understanding it.
If you’ve had the conversation about sex in your marriage and nothing really changed, this episode will help you see why.
In this episode, we explore how curiosity—not pressure, not techniques—is the first step toward rebuilding emotional and physical intimacy.
You’ll learn how assumptions, self-protection, and the difference between men and women can quietly create disconnection… and what it looks like to begin shifting that dynamic.
Inside this episode:
• Why talking about intimacy often doesn’t lead to change
• The “awkward middle” most couples get stuck in
• How assumptions create distance and self-protection
• The emotional vs physical connection gap between men and women
• What it means to “go first” without expectation
• One simple question to begin opening the conversation
A gentle next step:
Instead of trying to fix anything this week… just notice.
What comes up for you when you think about intimacy?
And if you feel ready, ask your spouse:
“What does intimacy feel like for you right now?”
If this episode stirred something in you, I’d love to hear from you.
You can reach out with questions or situations you’d like support around.
And if you’re ready to take the next step, you can book a Courageous Love Conversation—a space to talk honestly about what’s going on and begin moving toward the connection you want.
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
Does communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what’s true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.
Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!
Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.
More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/
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There’s a stage in many marriages that almost nobody talks about.
Sex hasn’t disappeared completely… but it also isn’t happening regularly anymore. Weeks—or even months—go by, and both partners notice the distance but feel unsure how to bring it up.
In this episode, Christine Bongiovanni explores what she calls “the awkward middle” of intimacy—that quiet stage where sexual connection has faded and the silence around it begins to feel uncomfortable.
Christine shares a personal story from her own marriage and reflects on what she and Jeff discovered along the way about initiation, resentment, healing old beliefs about sex, and why rebuilding intimacy often begins with curiosity rather than pressure.
If you’ve ever wondered how couples move from awkward distance back toward connection, this conversation will help you feel seen and begin exploring what might be happening beneath the surface.
In this episode you'll discover:
• Why sexual disconnection often develops slowly in long-term marriages
• How initiation patterns can quietly create resentment
• The hidden stories many people carry about sex and desirability
• Why curiosity is the first step toward rebuilding intimacy
• A simple reflection exercise to better understand your own experience
If this episode resonates with you, Christine would love to hear your story. You can share your experience by emailing christine@christinebongiovanni.com
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You can also download the Gentle Start Guide to Better Communication to begin opening up difficult conversations with your spouse.
And if you'd like personal support navigating your relationship, schedule a Courageous Love Conversation with Christine.
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
Does communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what’s true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.
Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!
Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.
More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/
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Shame often hides beneath the surface of intimacy struggles in marriage. Many couples assume they simply need to try harder—communicate more, schedule time together, or change behaviors. But shame doesn’t loosen its grip through effort alone.
In this episode, Christine Bongiovanni explores how shame quietly shapes intimacy, why behavioral fixes often fail, and how secure love and emotional safety help the nervous system relax so deeper connection can grow.
If intimacy has felt guarded or complicated in your marriage, this conversation will help you understand what may be happening beneath the surface—and what actually helps shame lose its power.
You’ll also hear practical next steps for building emotional safety and creating a new story around intimacy in your relationship.
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
Does communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what’s true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.
Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!
Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.
More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/
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Is sexual intimacy in your marriage really about desire… or something deeper?
In Episode 255, Christine explores sexual formation in marriage and how early messages about sex shape trust, safety, and desire. What if “low desire” is actually guarded desire? And why don’t behavior changes alone create lasting transformation?
This episode begins a new journey into marital sexual transformation — one rooted in awareness, emotional safety, and understanding what your body learned long before you chose what you believe.
Download The Gentle Start Guide to Better Communication or book a Courageous Love Conversation to continue the work.
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
Does communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what’s true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.
Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!
Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.
More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/
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Have you ever argued about something small… only to find yourselves back in the same fight weeks later?
In this episode, Christine shares why learning conflict resolution in marriage takes years of practice — and why small arguments matter more than you think. Through a personal story (yes, it involves silverware) and real client examples, she unpacks:
• Why repair feels clunky at first
• The difference between apology and asking for forgiveness
• Why small fights are powerful training reps
• How practice builds trust and emotional safety
If you’re ready to stop waiting for hurt feelings to fade and start building real repair skills, this episode will guide you forward.
Download the Gentle Start Guide to Better Communication and book a Courageous Love Conversation to practice a new way forward.
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
Does communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what’s true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.
Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!
Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.
More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/
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Many couples aren’t in crisis — they’re in a quiet middle space.
Not deeply connected. Not fighting constantly. Just… living around the ache.
In this episode, Christine explores the subtle pattern where one partner reaches for change while the other avoids it — and how resignation slowly replaces longing.
If you’ve ever told yourself, “We’re okay,” while something inside you still feels distant or unfulfilled, this conversation will help you reconnect with your honesty — gently and without pressure.
You’ll learn:
- Why couples get stuck in emotional limbo
- The hidden cost of living in resignation
- The subtle lies we tell ourselves about wanting more
- Reflective questions to help you reconnect with what you miss
- How to take a next step without forcing an outcome
If this resonates, consider scheduling a Courageous Love Conversation — a space to gain clarity about where you are and what support might help.
And if someone came to mind while listening, share this episode with them. It may be the nudge they need.
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
Does communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what’s true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.
Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!
Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.
More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/
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Valentine’s Day expectations in marriage often go unspoken — and that’s where disappointment begins.
In this episode, Christine explores how waiting for your spouse to meet expectations without clear communication can create quiet resentment. You’ll learn how to examine what you truly want, share your desires with clarity, and use Valentine’s Day as an invitation for deeper connection rather than pressure.
Christine also discusses how to express love without conditions, take care of your own heart when expectations aren’t met, and start honest conversations that build intimacy over time.
Resources mentioned:
– Gentle Start Guide to Better Communication
– Courageous Love Conversation
🎧 Share this episode with a friend or your spouse if it puts words to something you’ve been feeling.
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
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Why do the same conflicts keep showing up in marriage — even when both partners care?
In this episode of Awaken You in Your Marriage, Christine explores how personality styles show up during conflict and why understanding these differences can dramatically shift communication and connection.
You’ll learn how different personality styles respond under stress, what each type needs most in conflict, and why couples often clash not because of the issue itself, but because of how they protect themselves emotionally.
This episode offers a compassionate, practical lens for understanding yourself and your spouse — without labeling or blame — and includes tools to help couples stay emotionally connected even during difficult conversations.
Christine also shares how listeners can explore their personality style further using the Live the Life app, of which I am NOT a paid sponsor, and invites couples to continue the work together.
🎧 A hopeful, practical conversation for couples who want to communicate with more clarity and compassion.
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In this episode of Awaken You in Your Marriage, Christine explores how understanding personality can bring clarity and compassion to communication struggles in marriage.
Rather than focusing only on what couples fight about, this conversation looks at how personality and stress responses shape conflict. Christine introduces a simple, accessible personality framework and explains how different wiring can lead to misunderstanding — even when both partners have good intentions.
You’ll learn:
- Why communication breaks down even when couples care deeply
- How personality influences conflict and stress responses
- Why self-compassion is the starting point for healthier connection
- How shared language can reduce blame and increase understanding
Christine also invites listeners to explore the free personality assessment inside the Live the Life app, which includes tools, conversation starters, and date ideas for couples.
🎧 Listen in and discover how understanding personality can soften conflict and strengthen connection.
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At the start of a new year, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by everything you should be working on in your marriage. In this episode, Christine offers a gentler and more sustainable approach.
Instead of fixing all the things or waiting for the “right time,” you’re invited to slow down, listen, and choose one internal shift that could begin changing the dynamic in your relationship. Christine explores why readiness often comes after the noise settles, how accountability supports real change, and why communication is often the place where small shifts make the biggest difference.
This episode is a practical and encouraging follow-up to Episodes 247 and 248—helping you move from awareness into meaningful, supported action.
In this episode, you’ll explore:
- Why waiting for perfect timing often keeps couples stuck
- How choosing one focus can change the tone of your marriage
- The role of accountability in creating lasting change
- How to communicate more gently and effectively
Next steps:
- Download the Gentle Start Guide to Better Communication
- Book a Courageous Love Conversation for clarity and accountability
- Share this episode with your spouse or a friend
You don’t need to work on everything—just the right thing.
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After emotionally full seasons—holidays, weddings, family gatherings, caretaking, and travel—it’s common to feel slower rather than energized. In this episode, Christine explores the quiet “in-between” season that often follows big life moments and why it doesn’t mean anything has gone wrong.
This gentle, reflective conversation invites listeners to discern the difference between rest and retreat, productivity and protection, and how these inner shifts show up in marriage. You’ll also learn how to communicate what’s happening internally so quiet seasons don’t turn into relational distance.
This episode is a permission slip to slow down and stay connected—to yourself and to your spouse.
Timestamps:
- 00:00 Embracing the Post-Holiday Slowdown
- 01:29 Welcome to AwakenYou in Your Marriage
- 02:03 Reflecting on a Busy Season
- 03:44 Navigating the Aftermath of Events
- 05:33 Balancing Rest and Productivity
- 12:14 Why Social Connection Can Help Lift a Funk
- 18:15 How Quiet Seasons Show Up in Marriage
- 22:12 Self-Reflection: What Do You Need Right Now?
- 23:29 Invitation for Support and Next Steps
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If you’ve found yourself thinking, “We really need to communicate better,”
but you also feel a quiet tightening inside when you say that…
this one is for you.
Most couples don’t stop talking because they don’t care.
They stop because talking started to feel costly.
Costly emotionally — it leads to reactions that stir more feelings.
Costly energetically — you walk away drained, with nothing resolved.
Costly relationally — it feels like every attempt pushes you further apart.
So avoidance slowly becomes protection.
And over time, that protection turns into distance.
This week’s podcast episode is an invitation to start again —
not by pushing harder or having a big talk —
but by making communication simpler and safer.
In this episode, I talk about:
- Why communication so often breaks down in marriage
- Why “we need to talk” can feel overwhelming instead of helpful
- How communication can begin with something much smaller than a conversation
- And how one honest sentence can start rebuilding connection
I also share a gentle, practical way to begin — even if communication has felt hard for a long time.
As a companion to the episode, I created a free guide called
The Gentle Start Guide to Better Communication.
It’s designed for couples who want to reconnect but don’t know where to start without making things worse. Inside, you’ll find:
- A simple one-sentence communication practice
- Real examples you can actually use
- Gentle agreements that help conversations stay emotionally safe
No workbook.
No big sit-down conversation required.
Just a place to begin.
👉 Download the free guide here
As you step into this new year, I want you to know this:
You don’t need to become a great communicator overnight.
You just need a few more honest moments than you had last year.
One sentence can change the tone of an evening.
A few sentences can change the tone of a season.
And over time, those moments can change the feel of your marriage.
If this episode resonates, I’d love for you to listen, download the guide, and share it with someone who might need it too.
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As the new year approaches, many couples hope their marriage will feel different—but without intention, January often looks a lot like December.
In this episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, Christine invites you to slow down and reflect on who you are becoming and how that inner evolution shapes the way your marriage feels over time. Through a guided visualization, simple habit-setting, and practical tools, you’ll learn how to approach the new year with clarity, compassion, and direction.
This episode is designed to be one you return to—especially as you begin forming new habits in January and beyond.
In this episode, you’ll explore:
- A guided visualization to connect with your future self
- How small daily habits create meaningful change in marriage
- Using visual reminders to stay focused on your intentions
- The role of accountability in ongoing growth
🎧 Listen, reflect, and take one small step toward the marriage you’re creating.
If this episode resonates, consider sharing it with a friend you’d love to grow alongside—and when you’re ready for support, book a Courageous Love Conversation.
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Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.
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Can a marriage really change after years of struggle and effort?
In this episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, Christine reflects on more than a decade of inner and relational work and shares what truly shifts when couples stay committed to the long work of healing. This is an honest, hope-filled conversation for anyone who’s been doing the work and wondering if it’s worth it.
Christine explores the seasons most couples move through—from early attempts to fix things, to the lonely middle where growth can feel one-sided, to the quiet transformation that happens over time when inner work reshapes the relationship from the inside out.
If you’re feeling discouraged, tired, or uncertain about your marriage, this episode offers perspective, encouragement, and a gentle invitation to keep going.
Episode Timestamps
00:00 – Can your marriage really change?
00:35 – Reflecting on over a decade of marriage work
07:05 – The early years: when therapy helped us talk, but not heal
11:12 – The turning point: when inner work became non-negotiable
13:57 – The lonely middle: doing the work before your spouse is ready
15:59 – The long view: why inner work still matters
17:53 – When both partners begin the work
21:59 – A gentle invitation to stay with the work
💛 Next Step:
If this episode stirred something in you and you’d like support in taking your next step, Christine invites you to book a Courageous Love Conversation. You’ll find the link in the show notes.
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As the year comes to a close, this episode invites you to pause and reflect on how your marriage has actually felt—not to judge it, but to learn from it. Christine shares a personal story, practical reflection tools, and simple next steps to help you move into the new year with clarity, intention, and hope for deeper connection.
Timestamps:
- 00:00 Reflecting on Your Marriage as the Year Ends
- 01:06 Welcome to AwakenYou in Your Marriage
- 03:01 A Long-Awaited Vacation and Choosing Connection
- 06:55 A Simple Year-End Marriage Reflection Exercise
- 09:37 Understanding Patterns in Your Marriage
- 10:45 Recognizing Seasons of Marriage
- 12:20 Self-Examination and Personal Growth
- 13:11 Practical Steps to Improve Your Marriage
- 14:36 Guided Reflection and Planning for the Year Ahead
- 18:37 Final Thoughts and Next Steps
🎧 If this episode resonates, subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need this conversation.
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I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how many couples quietly stop having fun together—not because they don’t care, but because life gets heavy and serious and… well, slowly you start feeling more like you’re running a household than living inside a relationship.
You’re managing schedules.
Paying bills.
Getting through the week.
And one day you look up and realize…
the lightness is gone.
You can’t remember the last time you laughed together.
Or were silly on purpose.
Or even felt playful inside your own body.
And if I’m honest, I know this feeling well.
Jeff and I lived there for a season—two reserved people doing life side by side, with that quiet spark buried somewhere under responsibility and exhaustion.
So this week on the podcast, I’m talking about something that feels tender and hopeful:
How to bring fun back into your marriage—
even if it’s been years,
even if it feels awkward,
even if your spouse is more stoic than spontaneous.
We explore why fun disappears, why it feels vulnerable to bring it back, and the tiniest little ways to reintroduce lightness without it feeling forced or fake.
(And yes… I share what my own awkward journey into playfulness has looked like.)
If your marriage has felt serious for far too long…
or if you’ve been craving just a little more joy…
this one’s for you.
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There are moments in marriage when something small hits a tender place inside of us, and suddenly our reaction feels much bigger than the moment itself. If you’ve ever surprised yourself during an argument or wondered why you “snap,” this episode will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface.
In this conversation, I break down the deeper emotional and physiological forces behind ugly fighting — and why these moments don’t mean your marriage is failing. They’re signals pointing to a wound that needs tending.
We explore:
- Why your nervous system can hijack your reactions
- How old childhood stories and emotional injuries show up in marriage
- The role of shame in escalating conflict
- What your big reactions might actually be trying to say
- The healing power of slowing down and repairing
- Gentle, doable steps to help you shift the pattern
If you want to start responding differently — with awareness, compassion, and emotional safety — this episode will give you insight and tools you can use right away.
Timestamps:
00:00 The Moment That Snaps
01:25 Understanding Ugly Fights
02:00 Welcome
02:59 Common Issues
04:06 Normalizing Conflict
05:29 Nervous System Hijack
09:12 Old Stories Activated
11:00 The Shame Loop
12:12 Emotional Needs Beneath Reactions
14:53 The Power of Repair
17:39 Practical Steps
24:30 Reflection
25:20 Courageous Love Conversation
25:41 Closing
If this episode speaks to you and you’re longing for more clarity or direction in your marriage, I’d love to invite you to a Courageous Love Conversation — a one-hour session where we gently explore what’s happening beneath the surface and uncover your next steps forward.
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If it feels like you’re the only one doing the emotional work in your marriage—planning the date nights, initiating the hard conversations, circling back after conflict—you are not alone.
In this episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I’m unpacking the quiet weight that builds when one partner carries all the relational responsibility. I share a real-life coaching story, offer a playful mindset shift to break the stalemate, and walk you through tools that invite both spouses into the work of connection.
Timestamps:
- 00:00 – Are You Carrying the Emotional Weight?
- 00:56 – Welcome to AwakenYou Podcast
- 02:02 – The Burden of Emotional Labor in Marriage
- 03:44 – A Real-Life Example: The Silent Stalemate
- 05:24 – Creating New Habits Together
- 07:10 – The Importance of Shared Responsibility
- 07:44 – Overcoming the Silent Stalemate
- 13:32 – Practical Tools for Shared Investment
- 15:19 – Encouragement and Final Thoughts
- 18:27 – Invitation to Connect and Closing Remarks
Ready to stop carrying the weight alone?
Let’s talk. Book a Courageous Love Conversation
and let’s explore what shared connection could look like in your marriage.
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Have you ever started working on your marriage — maybe reading the books, having deeper conversations, or getting professional help — and suddenly everything feels heavier instead of lighter?
You’re not doing it wrong. You’re doing it right.
When couples begin opening up about what doesn’t feel right, emotions that have been buried finally come to the surface. It can feel like things are getting worse, but really… they’re just getting real.
That’s what I explore in this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage:
“Why It Feels Worse Before It Gets Better: The Real Work of Changing Your Marriage.”
We’ll talk about:
- Why awareness often feels painful at first
- What’s really happening under the surface when old patterns are being challenged
- How to tell if you’re actually making progress (even when it feels like you’re not)
- Why discomfort is the most reliable sign that transformation is underway
Marriage growth isn’t supposed to feel easy. It’s supposed to feel true.
And truth — when faced with courage and compassion — is what makes intimacy possible again.
If you’re in that messy middle right now, take a deep breath. You’re not breaking down; you’re breaking open.
🎧 Listen to Episode 240: Why It Feels Worse Before It Gets Better
00:00 – Introduction: The Unexpected Challenges of Self-Improvement
00:51 – Why Marriage Coaching Feels Tough Initially
02:49 – Understanding the Quiet Discontent in Marriages
04:13 – Illuminating Hidden Issues in Your Relationship
05:40 – Navigating Emotional Turbulence in Marriage Coaching
06:40 – Real-Life Example: Overcoming Conflict Avoidance
09:29 – The Importance of Emotional Awareness
12:13 – Rewiring Your Nervous System for Better Communication
16:09 – Signs of Progress in Your Marriage Journey
19:02 – Encouragement to Continue the Hard Work
21:05 – Conclusion: Embracing Discomfort for Deeper Connection
And if this episode stirs something in you — that quiet knowing that it’s time to do the deeper work — I’d love to help you begin.
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Learn how to stay in love in marriage through daily intentionality, self-growth, and simple habits that keep connection alive.
In this final episode of the Falling Back in Love series, Christine Bongiovanni-Stiff shares what it really takes to stay in love in marriage once the spark returns.
Drawing from her own story and five seasons of facilitating Re|Engage, Christine explores how daily intentionality, emotional safety, and self-awareness help couples build lasting connection. You’ll learn simple daily rituals, how to navigate disconnection with grace, and how to become each other’s safe place over time.
Timestamps:
00:00 – Introduction: The Power of Falling Back in Love
00:26 – The Challenge of Staying in Love
01:02 – Series Conclusion and Episode Overview
01:47 – Welcome to Awaken You Podcast
03:20 – Re|Engage Marriage Ministry Experience
06:20 – Building Lasting Habits for Love
07:55 – The Importance of Self-Examination
12:00 – Daily Rituals to Nurture Love
15:39 – Handling Disconnection with Grace
17:23 – Creating Safety and Trust in Marriage
19:48 – Commitment to Growth and Love
Listen now, follow the show, and share this episode with someone who needs hope that lasting love is possible.
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So often, couples tell me, “If we could just fix our sex life, everything else would feel better.”
And while that makes sense—because when physical intimacy fades, everything feels off—the truth is that sexual disconnection usually begins long before the bedroom.
When we lose emotional safety, trust, or connection, our bodies follow.
In this week’s episode of the AwakenYou in Your Marriage Podcast, we’re exploring how emotional and sexual healing are beautifully intertwined. I’ll share parts of my own story—how Jeff and I had no idea how to fix our growing disconnection and how, over time, we learned that what needed healing first was our hearts.
Inside this episode, you’ll discover:
- Why your sexual disconnection isn’t a surprise when emotional closeness has faded.
- How emotional safety and trust create the foundation for lasting desire.
- What emotional betrayal really is—and how to rebuild safety after it.
- Why early-stage attraction feels effortless but often lacks depth.
- How to rebuild the “emotional house” of your marriage so intimacy feels real, not transactional.
- Practical ways to reconnect that don’t start in the bedroom.
This isn’t about blaming or fixing—it’s about understanding. Because when your heart begins to heal, your body follows. When trust is rebuilt, passion can grow again.
If this conversation resonates with you, I encourage you to go back and listen to my Sex in Marriage series—it’s a compassionate guide to understanding desire, shame, and emotional safety in intimate connection.
And if you’re ready to take a next step, now is the perfect time to book a Courageous Love Conversation. Before the holidays sweep you away, give yourself and your marriage the gift of space—to talk, to be seen, and to begin again.
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Do you ever feel like you’re the only one trying to fix your marriage?
You’re reading the books, listening to podcasts, showing up differently—and your spouse? They’re just going about life as if everything’s fine.
It’s one of the loneliest and most discouraging places to be. You start to wonder if there’s any point in all your effort.
In this week’s episode of the AwakenYou in Your Marriage Podcast, I share my own story of being in that exact place—of over-functioning, trying to manage my husband’s growth, and burning myself out in the process.
When I finally turned the focus back on myself, something shifted. I learned how to love without losing myself, to hand the steering wheel over to God, and to trust that my work mattered even when I couldn’t see change happening yet.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- How to love your spouse without losing yourself in the process.
- Why one person’s growth can shift an entire marriage dynamic.
- How to hold onto faith and hope when your spouse isn’t ready to do the work.
- Why healthy boundaries are essential to stay strong and connected.
- And the freeing truth that your worth and peace don’t depend on your partner’s participation.
Whether your spouse is indifferent, skeptical, or simply unaware, there is a way forward. The change you’re creating in yourself isn’t wasted—it’s the beginning of something new.
If this message encourages you, please take a moment to leave a review for the podcast—it helps other couples find hope when they’re feeling alone.
And if you know someone who’s quietly doing the work on their own, share this episode with them. It might be exactly what they need to hear today.
And if you’re ready to take your next step, I’d love to invite you to book a Courageous Love Conversation—a free call where we can talk about what’s happening in your marriage and how you can begin creating change, even if you feel like you’re doing it alone.
You’re not powerless. You’re the spark.
And sometimes, all it takes is one brave person to go first.
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If you've ever caught yourself thinking, “This isn’t what I imagined it would be,” about your marriage then this is for you!
Maybe you’ve felt the spark fade, the connection slip, or the weight of distance between you grow heavier as time goes on.
If so, this week’s episode of the AwakenYou in Your Marriage Podcast is especially for you.
In Episode 236, “Falling in Love with the Same Person—As the New You,” I talk about what happens when we stop trying to fix our spouse and start focusing on the inner work of healing and growth.
Because falling back in love doesn’t start with your partner—it starts with you.
When you take responsibility for your emotions, begin to heal old wounds, and learn to love yourself with compassion, your marriage starts to shift. You show up differently—less reactive, more open, more curious. You start seeing your spouse through fresh eyes, not as someone who needs to change for you to be happy, but as a person you can love again from a place of freedom and authenticity.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- How personal growth reshapes love and changes the emotional dynamic in your marriage.
- Why understanding and embracing your own behaviors without guilt or shame is the key to change.
- How to rewrite the story of your relationship together, one small moment at a time.
- What it means to practice differentiation—loving your spouse without losing yourself.
- And how to start falling back in love with your spouse by becoming a more authentic version of you.
I also share a personal story about a season in my own marriage when I realized things weren’t what I thought they were. It was the moment I decided to “face the giant”—to finally seek the help I knew I needed but had been avoiding out of fear and shame.
That decision led to a journey of healing my past and rediscovering who I truly was. As I learned to treat myself with compassion and show up more authentically, our marriage began to transform.
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If you’ve ever asked yourself, “How do we start feeling close again?” — this week’s episode of the AwakenYou in Your Marriage Podcast is for you.
We often think falling back in love takes something big: a grand romantic gesture, a perfect date night, or our spouse suddenly changing. But true connection rarely starts that way.
In Episode 235, “Tiny Sparks: Reigniting Emotional Connection,” I share how love begins to grow again through the smallest moments—a kind word, a gentle glance, a quiet act of appreciation—and how those moments become the spark that reignites emotional intimacy in marriage.
But there’s something even deeper: these sparks begin within you.
To create lasting connection, you first have to do your inner work—learning who you are, what you value, and how to have a compassionate relationship with yourself. Because when you know yourself and care for yourself well, you show up differently in your marriage. You bring safety, authenticity, and openness that naturally draw your spouse closer.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- What emotional connection truly is (and what it isn’t).
- How inner work helps you build a deeper relationship with yourself and your spouse.
- Practical ways to create small sparks of connection every day.
- What to expect when you start this process—it’s not instant, but it’s powerful.
If this message encourages you, would you take a moment to leave a review for the podcast? Reviews help other couples find the hope and tools they need to reconnect and fall back in love.
And if you’re ready to explore what it might look like to reignite emotional connection in your own marriage, I invite you to book a Courageous Love Conversation with me. It’s not a commitment—just a safe space to explore what’s possible when you have someone walking alongside you.
Love can grow again—one spark at a time.
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If you’re wondering how to rebuild love after years of disconnection, this episode of the AwakenYou in Your Marriage Podcast will encourage you.
Many husbands and wives quietly ask, “Is it possible to fall back in love after feeling so distant?” The truth is more hopeful than you might think.
In Episode 234, “Can You Really Fall Back in Love?”, I share one woman’s real-life journey of rebuilding connection in her marriage—not a fairy tale, but an honest process of growth and healing.
You’ll learn:
- Emotional shifts that help you stay calm and connected during conflict.
- Psychological shifts that turn tension into opportunities for growth instead of failure.
- Spiritual shifts that invite God to restore and strengthen your marriage.
You’ll also discover why emotional safety—feeling seen, heard, and safe with your spouse—is the secret ingredient to lasting love.
If this episode encourages you, please leave a review and share it with a friend who wants to reconnect in marriage. Your support helps more couples find the hope and practical tools they need to fall back in love again.
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Have you ever whispered the words to yourself: “I don’t feel in love anymore”?
It’s a thought that can feel frightening, even shameful—like you’re the only one carrying it. But the truth is, almost every couple will walk through seasons where love feels distant.
In this week’s episode of the AwakenYou in Your Marriage Podcast, I’m starting a brand-new series: Falling Back in Love. And in Episode 1, I’m talking about The Truth About Falling Out of Love.
Here’s what you’ll discover in this episode:
- Why the “spark” naturally fades in long-term relationships (and why that doesn’t mean you married the wrong person).
- The biggest myths about falling out of love that keep couples stuck in hopelessness.
- What it really means when love feels distant—and why it’s a crossroads, not a dead end.
- How to begin shifting your perspective so you can open the door to falling back in love.
If you’ve been carrying the weight of disconnection, I want you to know you’re not broken, and your marriage isn’t beyond repair. This could be the beginning of something more beautiful than you’ve ever imagined.
And if this episode encourages you, would you take a moment to leave a review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend who needs hope today? Your voice helps more couples find the courage to begin their own journey back to love.
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When you hear the word “betrayal,” you probably think of infidelity. But there’s another kind of betrayal that can wound just as deeply, and often goes unnamed: emotional betrayal.
It happens when your spouse turns away instead of toward you… when the trust that they’ll be emotionally safe with you gets broken. Sometimes it looks like confiding in someone else instead of you. Sometimes it’s dismissing your feelings, withholding vulnerability, or creating secrecy around outside friendships.
The effects? You might start doubting yourself, you might close yourself off to them, and even start wondering if you’re too needy, or feeling abandoned in the very relationship that’s supposed to feel safest.
The good news: emotional betrayal doesn’t have to be the end of the story. Naming it is the first step toward healing.
🎧 In this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I share:
- What emotional betrayal is (and isn’t)
- Common ways it shows up in marriage (including opposite-sex friendships)
- The impact it has on the partner experiencing it
- How to begin addressing and healing from it—both individually and together
If you’ve ever felt unseen, dismissed, or left out of your spouse’s inner world, this episode will help you put words to your experience and show you a path forward.
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Have you ever noticed how some of your biggest arguments seem to happen on the weekends? Everything feels fine during the week, then Saturday comes—and suddenly you’re at each other’s throats over something small.
You’re not alone. This happens to so many couples, and there’s a reason why.
During the week, we’re busy and distracted. Little annoyances get pushed aside, but they don’t disappear—they quietly pile up. By the weekend, your spouse is around more, reminding you of those unresolved frustrations. Add more time and proximity, and it becomes the perfect recipe for triggers.
The good news? You can prevent this.
In this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I’m sharing how a simple 20-minute weekly marriage meetingcan clear out the emotional “gunk” before it builds into a blowup. You’ll learn:
- Why these weekend fights aren’t random—and how to stop them before they start.
- A simple framework for a short weekly reset that actually works.
- How daily two-minute check-ins (one of the tools I’ll be teaching in my upcoming Adventures In Marriage course) can keep you connected during busy weeks.
Imagine heading into your weekend already aligned, connected, and clear on what you both need—not bracing yourself for another argument. That’s what this reset can do.
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Do you ever look back and wonder… what happened to the romance?
When you were dating, it seemed so natural—the late-night talks, the thoughtful gestures, the spark of being pursued. But somewhere along the way, after the relationship felt secure, life got busy. Careers, kids, and responsibilities took over, and the pursuit faded.
And with it, sometimes desire will fade too.
This week on AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I’m sharing the final bonus episode of my sex series: “What Happened to the Romance?” We’ll unpack:
- Why romance feels so effortless during dating but fades after marriage
- How cultural and gender assumptions fuel disconnection
- Simple, powerful ways to rekindle pursuit and spark desire again
I’ll also share some exciting news about my newest certification as an Adventures in Marriage instructor—because sometimes the bravest thing we can do is start a courageous conversation and get someone on our team to help us find the way forward.
If you’ve been feeling the distance, this episode is for you. Press play on your drive home, during your workout, or while you fold the laundry—you’ll walk away with both clarity and hope.
And if this series has been meaningful, would you take a minute to leave a review? It helps other couples who are searching for hope to find this podcast.
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One of the quietest but most painful dynamics I hear from women is this: “He says he wants sex… but he never actually asks.”
It leaves you feeling invisible, unwanted, and confused. And for him? Silence can feel safer than facing rejection, insecurity, or the shame that often hides beneath the surface.
In my latest bonus episode, “He’s Not Asking—Now What?” I explore what might really be happening when your spouse longs for intimacy but doesn’t initiate. We’ll look at:
- Why silence often feels safer than asking
- How years of “learned dynamics” can quietly create disconnection
- The role insecurity and shame play in holding him back
- How to start courageous conversations that open the door to honesty and reconnection
This episode will help you see the silence in a new light—not as a dead end, but as an invitation to understanding and deeper intimacy.
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Have you ever wondered why sex seemed so natural in the beginning, but now feels complicated—or even avoided?
For many couples, sex was the hook that brought them together.
- For her, giving herself felt like the way to keep his attention.
- For him, receiving her felt like proof that he was wanted.
It worked—at least for a while. But over time, that script creates a painful standoff: she pulls back, weary of obligation, knowing that this type of intimacy doesn't feel right, while he feels rejected, confused, and wondering what changed.
Jeff and I lived this story. I realized I was using sex to keep him interested, and when I stopped, my desire plummeted because it was based on lies. I asked him to start initiating, but what I didn’t know was how insecure he felt doing that. What was meant to bring us closer created a chasm between us.
In this week’s bonus episode, When Sex Was the Hook, I share our journey of untangling this pattern—and how couples can move toward a more honest, holistic intimacy.
If this episode resonates, I’d love for you to share it with a friend or leave a review. It’s one of the most powerful ways to help more couples find hope in their own journey.
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What if the very questions you’ve been afraid to ask about sex… are actually the ones that could open the door to deeper connection, healing, and understanding?
This week’s episode wraps up the Let’s Talk About Sex in Marriage series with something powerful:
💬 Real questions. Honest answers.
These aren’t surface-level questions.
These are the kind of questions you ask when you’re lying awake at night, wondering:
- Why do I not even know what I want anymore?
- How can we talk about sex without it ending in silence or hurt?
- Is it even possible to rebuild intimacy after so many years of disconnection?
- What if I’m doing the work and my spouse doesn’t meet me there?
- How do I untangle what the church taught me about sex from what I actually desire in my marriage?
These questions take courage.
They don’t have quick fixes.
But they do have pathways forward—ones that begin with curiosity, truth, and tenderness.
In this (almost) final episode of the series, I walk you through each of these listener-inspired questions—not with shame, but with deep compassion and hope.
And if you’re noticing that some of these questions stirred something in you… that’s not a sign that there is something wrong with you.
It’s a sign you’re waking up to something new.
It’s a sign your heart is longing for more—more clarity, more connection, more wholeness.
You don’t have to carry this alone.
And you don’t have to keep wondering in silence.
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This couple had an intimacy breakthrough most couples miss.
He was frustrated they weren’t having sex.
She felt used and emotionally abandoned.
He said, “I’m always open to sex—she just never initiates.”
She said, “It doesn’t feel like love. It feels like pressure.”
Like so many couples, they were stuck in a painful standoff—both wanting connection, but waiting for the other to change.
But here’s what shifted everything:
👉 They stopped seeing sex as a solo issue
👉 They started seeing intimacy as a shared responsibility
👉 And they began—imperfectly—to rebuild connection together
In today’s episode of the Let’s Talk About Sex in Marriage series, I’m sharing their story—and the intimacy breakthrough most couples miss when trying to navigate these struggles alone.
You’ll also learn:
- The subtle but powerful shift from “my needs” to “our healing”
- What both partners must confront when sex feels disconnected
- The six layers of intimacy that deepen desire and rebuild trust
- Gentle journaling prompts to help you re-engage with your spouse
And if you’ve had questions come up during this series, I’d love to hear them.
Next week is our Q&A episode, and you can send your questions to me at
christine@christinebongiovanni.com or by DM on Instagram.
Sometimes the real breakthrough isn’t about fixing sex—it’s about tending to all the places where closeness has gone missing.
Let’s do that work together.
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What if the way you initiate sex… actually turned your spouse on?
Not because of a clever move or perfectly timed suggestion—but because of the energy behind it.
Too often, initiation becomes about asking for something. And for the person being asked? It can feel like pressure. One more thing on the to-do list. One more demand to meet.
But what if initiating wasn’t about getting sex—what if it was about offering love?
This week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage invites you into that powerful shift.
You’ll hear a client story about a woman who used to feel like sex was something she had to do to keep her husband happy—and how everything changed when she began seeing it as something she wanted to give, not just to him but to herself first!
You'll also learn:
💬 A new way to think about initiation that builds desire—not pressure
💡 The one question that invites your spouse into safety and closeness
📝 A journaling prompt for both partners (yes, both!) to better understand what’s keeping them disconnected
This episode might be the one that helps you stop the cycle of tension and start creating a new pattern—one of emotional safety, desire, and shared connection.
And if it resonates? Share it with a friend who could use some hope in this area too. You never know what one new conversation could do for their marriage.
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Have you ever loved your spouse deeply but felt your body shut down when they reached for you?
Maybe you’ve wondered…
“Why don’t I want sex the way I used to?”
“Why does my mind feel so distracted—or even resistant—when I want to feel close?”
If that’s you, I want you to take a deep breath and hear this:
👉 There's nothing wrong with you.
👉 Your desire isn’t gone.
👉 Your body is just doing what it’s designed to do: protect you.
This week on AwakenYou in Your Marriage, we’re talking about how stress, old stories, and even subtle tension in your relationship can shut down desire—and how to gently bring safety back into your body and into your marriage.
In this episode, I’m sharing:
✅ Why your nervous system holds the key to desire (and how to work with it, not against it).
✅ A deeply personal story about how old messages from my childhood—even pornography in our home—shaped my nervous system’s response to sex… and what I’ve done to heal.
✅ The real reason long-term desire changes and why “higher” vs. “lower” desire is a myth keeping couples stuck.
✅ Simple somatic and spiritual tools to help you relax into intimacy, even if it feels hard right now.
If sex has ever felt like one more thing on your to-do list—or if you’ve felt shame about wanting more connection but not knowing how to get there—this episode is for you.
And if you’ve missed the first three episodes in this Let’s Talk About Sex in Marriage series, now is the perfect time to catch up. Together, these episodes are creating a whole new conversation around intimacy—one that’s compassionate, realistic, and deeply healing.
And don’t forget—Part 6 will be a Q&A episode, so if you have a question you’d love me to answer about sex and intimacy in marriage, share it in an email (christine@christinebongiovanni.com) or message me on Instagram. I’d love to hear from you.
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There was a season in my marriage when we were having sex… but something still felt painfully off.
We weren’t fighting. We were doing the “right” things.
But emotionally, we were disconnected — and I felt it most clearly in the bedroom.
We were going through the motions — like fast food intimacy.
It gave us temporary relief but left us hungry for something deeper.
Maybe you know what that feels like…
Maybe sex has become a routine task you check off the list.
Or maybe it’s been so long, you don’t even know where to begin.
Maybe you’re wondering: Is something wrong with me… with us?
You're not alone — and nothing is wrong with you.
AND something different is possible.
In this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I talk about:
- Why sex can become a substitute for emotional connection — and how to tell the difference
- How to shift from “performance” to presence
- What I did in my own marriage to stop blaming and start healing
- Why foreplay starts right after sex ends (this insight is a game changer!)
- And a powerful visualization to help you reconnect with what your heart really wants
If sex has become disconnected, distant, or just not what you hoped it would be, I invite you to listen in.
You are not broken. You’re just human. And your desire for meaningful connection is not too much — it’s holy ground. Let’s honor it.
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In this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I’m talking about something most of us have never taken the time to unpack—
what we learned about sex… and how those lessons still live in our bodies, our minds, and our marriages today.
For many of us, sex was never talked about at all.
For others, the messages we received were shame-based, fear-driven, or wrapped in unrealistic ideals.
Some of us absorbed confusion or silence. Others absorbed pressure, fear, or even distorted ideas of what it means to be desired.
In this episode, I share a deeply personal story about my own early exposure to pornography, the lasting impact it had on my sense of worth, and how that confusion showed up in my marriage. I also talk about the harm of being dismissed by someone I turned to for help—and how our stories deserve to be met with empathy, not judgment.
If you’ve ever felt shut down, ashamed, or like something’s “off” in the way you connect with your spouse…
This conversation will help you see that you’re not broken. You just haven’t been given the space to understand what shaped you.
✨ There’s a journaling prompt at the end to help you reflect, and if you’re ready to take a first step toward healing, I’d love to invite you to a free Courageous Love Conversation.
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If sex feels awkward, distant, pressured, or just off in your marriage — you’re not alone. In fact, over 50% of married couples say they’re dissatisfied with their sex life… and many haven’t talked about it in over a year.
Not because they don’t care.
Not because there’s something wrong with them.
But because sex often carries a lifetime of silence, shame, and confusion.
That’s why this episode exists.
In this kickoff to the Let’s Talk About Sex in Marriage series, I’m inviting you into a conversation that’s been missing for too long — one that helps you explore your desires, your fears, and your longing for more meaningful connection.
We’ll talk about:
- Why sexual disconnection is so common — even in loving marriages
- How emotional safety is the foundation of intimacy
- What it looks like to gently start this conversation with your spouse
- Why sex isn’t just physical — it’s emotional, spiritual, and relational
This isn’t about fixing you or your marriage with a 3-step formula.
It’s about healing.
It’s about honesty.
It’s about reclaiming intimacy that feels true, nourishing, and safe.
🎧 Listen now and begin the conversation — first with yourself, then with your partner.
📥 Know someone who needs this? Forward this episode.
💬 Have a question or story to share? Reach out to me on Instagram or email christine@christinebongiovanni.com — I may include it anonymously in an upcoming episode.
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You want to be more affectionate.
You want to initiate connection.
You want to soften, speak kindly, reach out…
But when the moment comes—you freeze, shut down, or hold back.
And afterward, you wonder: Why didn’t I just do the thing I actually wanted to do?
In this episode, we’re exploring the emotional tug-of-war that so many of us face in marriage—the dissonance between how we want to show up and how we actually do. You’ll learn why this dynamic is so common, how fear and self-protection subtly take over, and what you can do to begin choosing love without losing yourself.
If you’ve ever felt frustrated by your own behavior or stuck in a pattern of emotional standoff, this conversation will bring clarity, compassion, and a new way forward.
You don’t have to stay caught in that in-between place.
Let’s talk about how to break through the blocks and start showing up as the partner you truly want to be.
🎧 Tune in now and take one small, bold step toward the love you’re craving.
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Have you ever pulled away from your spouse’s affection…
—even though part of you wanted it?
Or maybe they offer something kind—a compliment, a hug, a moment of connection—and your whole body tenses or recoils?
You’re not alone.
And you’re not broken.
This week on the podcast, I’m exploring a concept that’s been deeply eye-opening for me—and for so many of my clients:
What if you’re not resisting love… you’re resisting the pain that once came with it?
Maybe “love” used to mean:
- Pressure to perform
- Conditional affection
- Being needed more than being known
- Or being told what’s “best” for you while your voice was dismissed
So now, even healthy love can feel like a threat.
Your nervous system doesn’t recognize it as safe—it recognizes it as familiar.
And familiar, in this case, feels risky.
In this episode, I walk through:
- Why shame and unhealed stories distort how we give and receive love
- How past experiences can cause us to resist connection—even when we long for it
- And the steps we can take to gently start healing and creating safety again
If you’ve ever wondered why love feels complicated, this might be the insight you didn’t know you needed.
This episode is a little tender, a little exploratory, and I truly believe it might unlock something powerful for you—just like it did for me.
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Have you ever found yourself spiraling after something your spouse said or didn’t say?
It might’ve seemed small—but the emotional response inside of you? Felt big.
And maybe you even asked yourself, “Why did that hit me so hard?”
This week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage is all about what happens when current pain stirs up something deeper—and how learning to tend to these moments in real time can actually begin to heal wounds that have been there for years.
You’ll hear:
✨ Why emotional triggers in your marriage often have deeper roots
✨ A simple practice to help you process pain instead of stuffing it down
✨ How real-time healing helps stop the cycle of blame, shutdown, and disconnect
✨ Why tending to today’s wounds softens the power of the past
This episode is especially for you if you’ve been doing the work but still feel stuck in patterns that keep resurfacing.
It’s a compassionate, hope-filled reminder that healing doesn't always mean doing more—sometimes it means slowing down enough to feel what's already asking for your attention.
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It feels like nothing is changing… but it is.
There’s a moment on the journey of growth that can feel downright cruel.
You’re showing up. You’re doing the work. You’re staying present, using the tools, praying through the pain…
And still, nothing seems to be changing.
Not fast enough. Not visibly enough.
And that old voice whispers, Why bother?
If that’s where you are right now, I recorded this week’s episode just for you.
✨ It’s not that you’re doing it wrong.
It’s that you’re in the middle — the sacred, quiet stretch where the muscle of change is forming before it’s visible.
In today’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I talk about what it means to live in that middle space — the part where you're sometimes still falling into old patterns, but you're also starting to notice them and choose differently.
I’ll share a story from one of my coaching clients — a woman who, in the face of emotional shutdown and discouragement, kept showing up for herself and her relationship. She didn’t get it “right” the first time. Or the second. But she kept coming back. And her courage was building something far more powerful than perfection.
This episode is your reminder that:
- Falling into the hole doesn’t mean you’re failing
- You can regulate, recover, and re-enter with love
- And your heart is already protected by a God who is holding you as you grow
So if you’re weary from doing the work and wondering if it’s making a difference — please don’t miss this one.
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What if the clutter in your home is quietly draining the energy from your marriage?
In this week’s episode, I sit down with decluttering and mindset coach Kerryn Simmons to talk about how the spaces we live in impact how we feel in our relationships. We explore what “clutter capacity” means, how childhood messages about organizing shape us, and how couples can begin to talk—without blame—about what they want their home to feel like.
We also talk about what to do if your spouse isn’t ready to have that conversation (yet) and how powerful it can be to take the first steps yourself.
Whether you're constantly cleaning up or you’ve been avoiding the piles altogether, this conversation will help you start creating a home that fuels your connection instead of hiding it.
🎙 Listen now and start shifting the energy in your home—and your marriage.
Kerryn is a clutter coach that specialises in helping you declutter without making any mess along the way through her unique, holistic blend of clutter coaching, mindset coaching and nervous system support.
Kerryn is a certified decluttering coach, mindset coach and registered yoga teacher and had a thirty year career in federal policy development in areas such as national gun control, crime and violence prevention, education and health care. She is also a Board Director with Emerge Australia, which is an Australian national not for profit organisation providing education, advocacy, research and support services for people living with myalgic encephalomyelitis/chronic fatigue syndrome (ME/CFS) and/or long covid.
How to find Kerryn:
Website: www.kerrynsimmonscoaching.com
Instgram: instagram.com/kerryn_simmons_coaching
Email: clearspace@kerrynsimmonscoaching.com
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When your marriage feels heavy or disconnected, it’s easy to believe you’re the only one going through it.
You look around and assume other couples must have it figured out,
while you quietly carry the weight of your own disappointments behind closed doors.
But here’s the truth I wish more people knew:
Suffering in silence won’t move you forward.
Healing begins when we step out of isolation—when we allow ourselves to be seen.
When we realize we’re not the only ones hurting.
When we reach for help, not as a sign of failure, but as an act of courage.
In this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I’m sharing something that’s been on my heart:
the quiet, life-changing power of doing this marriage work with others—in community, with guidance, and without shame.
There’s something incredibly healing about hearing someone else say,
“We’re struggling too.”
Because suddenly… you’re not alone anymore.
If your marriage feels stuck right now, I want you to know:
there is hope.
You’re not behind. You’re not broken.
You may just be missing the support you need to take that next step.
And that next step could be as simple as scheduling a conversation.
Listen to the episode and hear more about why this matters—and if you’re ready to explore what working together could look like, I’d love to talk.
Because this kind of transformation doesn’t happen in isolation.
And you don’t have to walk this road alone anymore.
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You open up about something emotional… and your spouse completely misses it.
They try to fix it, change the subject, or talk about someone else instead.
And just like that—you shut down.
This is how emotional intimacy quietly unravels in marriage. Not with a big fight, but with a missed moment. A break in connection. A silence that grows.
In this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I’m sharing a very real moment from my own marriage—something that happened just days ago—that brought this all into sharp focus.
We talk about:
🗣️ What really breaks down in these vulnerable moments
❤️ How trust erodes when we don’t feel heard
🔄 Why knowing the tools isn’t the same as using them
🔧 And how we repaired afterward—because the repair is what really matters
This episode isn’t about perfection.
It’s about what happens when you’re trying… and still get it wrong.
And why that doesn’t have to be the end of the conversation.
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Have you ever been in a moment with your spouse where you felt a swirl of emotions?
You’re hurt.
Frustrated.
Disappointed.
But underneath all of it—you know that you still love them.
That’s exactly where I found myself the day after our 20th anniversary.
I had planned the evening. Jeff gave me flowers… a day late.
And the way he handed them to me? Let’s just say it didn’t land the way he probably hoped.
It would’ve been so easy to let my disappointment take over.
To shut down.
To keep a little distance as a way of protecting my heart.
But I did something different this time.
Something I’ve been practicing—and helping my clients practice too.
And in today’s episode, I’m sharing what happened, what I learned, and how it might shift the way you navigate these moments in your marriage too.
🎧 Ep 213: Holding Both: How to Love Through Disappointment in Marriage
In this episode, I’ll show you:
- How to honor your true emotions without weaponizing them
- What to do when it feels “right” to stay angry—but connection is what you really want
- A simple mindset shift to help you express both your pain and your love
- A client story that shows how holding onto hurt can delay healing—and how they’re learning to let go
This episode is especially for the woman who’s doing the work—who wants to love deeply, without betraying herself.
💛 Listen in, and then forward it to a friend who might need this reminder too.
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Have you ever had that moment in your marriage where you feel like…
"What’s the point of trying anymore?"
Maybe you’ve done the work. You’ve been patient. You’ve read the books, had the talks, maybe even tried counseling.
And yet, the connection still feels out of reach. The effort still feels one-sided. You still feel… stuck.
If that sounds familiar, this week’s episode was made with you in mind.
In it, I share a story from my own life that helped me see how easily we can lose heart — not because we’ve failed, but because we’ve lost sight of where we’re going.
What if you don’t need to work harder in your marriage?
What if you simply need a clearer vision of what you’re working toward?
In this episode, you’ll discover:
- Why trying without vision leads to burnout
- How emotional “quitting” often happens long before we even realize it
- The missing ingredient that can make your commitment feel meaningful again
- A gentle challenge to reimagine what’s still possible for your marriage
If you’ve been tempted to give up — or you’ve quietly stopped hoping — I want to invite you to listen.
This might be the episode that helps you begin again… from a whole new place.
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This week’s episode is a tender one — one that honestly surprised even me as I lived it.
Inside the episode, I share a brand-new break that happened in my marriage recently — a quiet, significant shift that exposed a dynamic I’ve lived with for years, often without fully realizing how much it impacted my heart.
You’ll have to tune in to hear exactly what happened. But more importantly, I want you to listen because this same dynamic could be quietly playing out in your marriage too — leaving you feeling lonelier, less connected, or even less drawn to your spouse without fully understanding why.
In this conversation, I’ll walk you through:
- Why emotional intimacy often feels so elusive (especially with partners who think love means protection)
- How emotional distance silently erodes connection and attraction over time
- Why feeling sadness or longing is not a sign of weakness — but a sign that your heart is still alive and hopeful
- How you can begin softening the walls between you and your spouse, even if they feel high right now
If you’ve ever wondered why you feel like you have most of your spouse—but not all of them—this episode is especially for you.
Your dream of deeper connection isn’t out of reach. And sometimes the first step is simply naming the ache you feel inside.
Come listen. Your heart will feel less alone.
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In many marriages, there’s a quiet, often invisible dynamic that keeps one person shrinking and the other wondering why they feel so alone — even when both partners care deeply.
It’s called the “one down” position.
And it’s more common than you might think.
Sometimes it looks like always apologizing…
Or saying, “You deserve better than me.”
Or hiding behind a wall of withdrawal and silence.
But underneath, it’s all rooted in shame — a belief that “I’m not enough,” or “I don’t belong in this relationship as I am.”
In this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I’m diving deep into this dynamic:
💬 What it really means to be one down
🔄 The two different ways it can show up — walled off or boundaryless
💡 How it might be quietly playing out in your own marriage
🌱 And most importantly, what you can do to begin shifting back into equal, emotionally safe partnership — whether it’s your spouse who’s stuck there, or you.
This episode is an invitation to reflect with compassion — not judgment — and to start noticing the patterns that might be keeping connection just out of reach.
🎧 Listen now and begin the journey of stepping into deeper emotional equality
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Have you ever gone through a season in your marriage where things felt… quiet? Not in a peaceful, cozy way — but in a Where did we go? kind of way.
Maybe you’re in that season right now. Conversations feel dull or distant. You’re both going through the motions. You’re wondering if the connection you once had is gone for good.
This week on the podcast, I’m sharing a reflection that’s been stirring in my heart during Holy Week — one I believe might speak directly into that space.
It’s about Good Friday.
The silence.
The sorrow.
The waiting.
And how that part of the Easter story — the part most of us would rather skip — might just mirror what you're walking through in your marriage.
But here’s the hope:
God is still working in the silence.
He is not done writing your story.
And nothing — not even the parts that feel lifeless — is beyond redemption.
This episode is a gentle invitation to sit with the pain, listen for God’s whisper, and believe again in the possibility of resurrection… even in your marriage.
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Let’s say you bought something this week—a new pair of shoes, a few Amazon “add to cart” moments—and didn’t tell your spouse. Not because it was a big secret, but because… what’s the point, right?
Guess what...
Most of us aren’t intentionally lying in our marriages.
But we’re often not fully telling the truth either.
We leave out the small stuff—spending, frustrations, unmet needs—because we’re trying to avoid conflict or protect ourselves from judgment. But those little omissions? They slowly pull us away from the very intimacy we crave.
This week on AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I’m talking about what it really means to be open and honest in your relationship—and why this kind of vulnerability is one of the most important things you can practice.
We’ll explore:
- Why we hold back (even when we think it’s “not a big deal”)
- How hiding creates cracks in the foundation of your marriage
- What it looks like to start being more honest in small, safe ways
- How to prepare your nervous system for the discomfort of truth—and the connection that follows
- A real-life example of how one couple began opening up about their spending
If you’ve ever felt like you and your spouse live beside each other more than with each other… this episode is for you.
And if you’re ready to take this deeper in your own marriage, book a Courageous Love Conversation with me. We’ll gently uncover where honesty and connection might be waiting for you.
To truth, trust, and a deeper kind of love,
Christine
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Resentment and blame can quietly build in a marriage until one day you realize you’re not just frustrated—you’re disconnected, discouraged, and maybe even questioning whether things can ever feel good again.
In this episode, we take a gentle but honest look at how resentment starts, what it looks like in everyday marriage dynamics (even the “small” stuff), and why it leaves you feeling powerless and stuck.
You’ll learn:
🌱 What resentment really is and how it shows up in subtle ways
🌱 Why we blame our spouse—and how it keeps us from healing
🌱 Real-life examples that might sound uncomfortably familiar
🌱 Steps to start releasing resentment and shifting into a place of ownership, peace, and loving communication
If you’ve ever thought, “I do so much, and they don’t even notice…” or “If they would just change, I’d feel better…” this episode is for you!
You’ll walk away with clarity, compassion for yourself, and a roadmap for making things feel lighter and more connected—no matter where you’re starting from.
👉 Listen now and begin the healing process that leads to the marriage you actually want to be in.
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You know that subtle ache when your spouse is right there… but still feels far away?
This week on AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I’m talking about what it really means to reconnect in your marriage—and why it so often feels harder than it should.
Because for many, it’s not that you don’t want to feel close again… it’s that you’re not sure how to bridge the growing gap—especially when your spouse doesn’t seem to feel the same urgency you do.
In this episode, I’ll walk you through:
• Why disconnection creeps in slowly—and why it’s rarely about one big thing
• What it actually looks like to reconnect (hint: it’s not just about more time together)
• Why one partner often feels the disconnection long before the other
• What to do when it feels unsafe to be vulnerable
• And how to start rebuilding closeness… even if your spouse isn’t on board yet
This episode is especially for the one in the marriage who’s starting to notice how lonely it feels—and wants to take the first steps toward something better.
You don’t have to wait for your spouse to be ready. You can lead the way.
And I’ll show you how.
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I know the journey to a healthier, more connected marriage can feel slow. Sometimes it feels like you’re doing the work, showing up differently, choosing patience, and yet… nothing seems to change.
Maybe your spouse still reacts the same way. Maybe old patterns resurface. Maybe you wonder if all this effort is even worth it.
I want you to stop for a moment. Breathe.
And hear this: The work you are doing matters.
Even if you can’t see the full transformation yet.
Even if your spouse hasn’t changed in the way you hoped.
Even if you’ve stumbled along the way.
Healing and growth don’t happen in an instant. They happen in the quiet, unseen moments—the ones where you choose to listen instead of react, where you pause before frustration takes over, where you remind yourself that change is a process, not a destination.
And if you’ve put the work down—if you’ve felt discouraged and stopped trying—it’s not too late to pick it back up.
Because here’s the truth: Every small effort is shaping the marriage you’ll have a year from now.
Think about that for a moment.
What if, a year from now, you could look back and see that your patience, your persistence, your choice to keep going—despite the setbacks—created a deeper, more loving, more secure connection than you ever thought possible?
It’s not just possible—it’s inevitable if you commit to the process.
So today, I want to encourage you:
- Keep going, even if the change feels slow.
- Keep choosing love, even when it’s hard.
- Keep believing in the marriage you desire, because it is within reach.
And if you need support in this process—if you need someone to help you stay the course—I’d love to have a Courageous Love Conversation with you.
You don’t have to do this alone.
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Have you ever wished your spouse would just see their part?
You try to talk about the struggles in your marriage, hoping they’ll acknowledge how their actions (or inactions) are affecting you. But instead, they dismiss it. Defend themselves. Maybe even turn it back on you. And you’re left feeling unheard, unseen, and like you’re carrying the weight of the relationship all by yourself.
I know that feeling. I lived it.
For years, I felt like I was the one always reflecting, always working, always trying to figure things out—while Jeff seemed… fine. It wasn’t that he didn’t care, but he wasn’t seeing his part in our struggles. And because of that, I stayed in a protective stance, bracing myself for disappointment.
Until something shifted.
For the first time, Jeff admitted his own brokenness in a way I had never heard before. And in that moment, something inside me changed. My body relaxed. My heart softened. And I felt a sense of safety I didn’t even realize I was craving.
So I sat down with Jeff for an open, honest conversation about what changed.
- Why was it so hard for him to admit his own struggles before?
- What was actually going on inside of him when he resisted seeing his part?
- And what finally helped him get to a place where he could take ownership?
I didn’t hold back in this conversation, and neither did he.
If you’ve ever wondered why your spouse doesn’t seem to see their own contribution to the disconnection, or if you’ve been waiting (and waiting) for them to finally get it, this episode is one you need to hear.
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Ever feel like you’re the only one trying to improve your marriage?
It seems as though you’re constantly reflecting, adjusting, and trying to make things better—while your spouse seems unaware or unwilling to see their part? Maybe they shut down, get defensive, or act like you’re the one making a big deal out of nothing.
It’s frustrating. Exhausting. And it can make you feel completely alone in the relationship.
But why does this happen?
Why is it so hard for some people—especially men—to admit their own brokenness?
This week on the podcast, I’m diving into this question. Because when one spouse refuses to acknowledge their contribution to marital struggles, it creates a wall that keeps the relationship stuck. The other partner is left feeling unheard, unseen, and reluctant to change because why should they be the only one doing the work?
The truth is, many people—men in particular—have been conditioned to see admitting fault as a weakness rather than a strength. They’ve been taught that being a “good” spouse means providing and protecting, not necessarily self-reflecting and taking emotional responsibility.
And when they do start to see their part, it can feel overwhelming—like they’re failing or disappointing the person they love. So instead of leaning in, they push back.
In this episode, I’m unpacking:
- Why taking ownership of our flaws feels so difficult.
- How this resistance impacts the marriage dynamic.
- What creates safety for BOTH spouses to be honest about their struggles.
- And how even one person can start to shift the cycle in a healthier direction.
But that’s not all—I’m also bringing Jeff into this conversation.
Next week, I’ll be sharing a raw and honest interview with him about this very dynamic. We’ll talk about what was going on inside of him when he struggled to admit his own brokenness, what finally shifted for him, and what he would say to other spouses who feel stuck in this cycle.
This follow-up episode is going to be a powerful one—especially if you’ve ever wished your spouse could just see their part in the struggles.
So first, listen to this week’s episode to lay the foundation, and then get ready for next week’s conversati
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Have you ever brought up something important to your spouse, only to suddenly find yourself on the defensive?
Maybe you wanted to talk about feeling overwhelmed with household responsibilities, and before you know it, the conversation flips—now you’re reassuring them that they do enough. Or perhaps you ask for more quality time together, and instead of responding to your request, they fire back with, “Well, you’re always on your phone!”
That’s blame shifting—or what I like to call turning the table. It’s a subtle but powerful way conversations get derailed, leaving both partners feeling unheard, frustrated, and disconnected.
In this week’s podcast episode, I’m breaking down:
✔️ What blame shifting actually is and why it happens
✔️ 6 common ways it plays out in marriage (you might be surprised!)
✔️ How to recognize when you might be doing it
✔️ The first steps to changing this pattern and staying in healthy communication
This is one of those eye-opening dynamics that, once you see it, you can’t unsee it. And that’s a good thing—because awareness is the first step toward creating real connection in your marriage.
If this episode resonates with you, I’d love for you to share it with a friend or your spouse—because the more we understand these patterns, the easier it is to break free from them.
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Have you ever had a moment where your spouse did something small—ignored a request, seemed distracted, didn’t respond the way you hoped—and suddenly, you found yourself way more upset than you expected? Maybe you lashed out, shut down, or felt deeply hurt over something that, logically, didn’t seem that big.
It happens! And there’s a reason this happens.
In those moments, your reaction isn’t just about your spouse—it’s about something deeper. It’s about a younger part of you, a part that learned long ago how to protect itself when love or attention felt uncertain.
Maybe as a child, you had parents who were physically present but emotionally distant. Or maybe you grew up feeling like you had to fight to be seen and heard.
Fast forward to today, and your nervous system still remembers. So when your spouse seems disconnected or unresponsive, your body reacts—not just to them, but to all the times you felt unseen before.
In this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I’m talking about what’s really happening when small conflicts turn into big emotional reactions—and how you can start recognizing and responding differently.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
✅ Why certain interactions with your spouse feel more painful than they “should”
✅ How to recognize when your inner child is reacting instead of your adult self
✅ Simple steps to pause, reparent yourself, and shift into a response that creates connection instead of conflict
This is a powerful shift that can change the way you show up in your marriage—and help you move from frustration and resentment to deeper understanding and connection.
Here’s to seeing yourself—and your marriage—with new eyes. ❤️
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Have you ever wanted to bring something up with your spouse but hesitated—afraid it would lead to an argument, defensiveness, or even more distance?
This is a common relational dynamic and today I want to help you break this cycle so you can break through to the relationship you desire.
Many couples struggle with confrontation because they’ve never learned how to approach tough conversations in a way that actually strengthens their relationship.
That’s exactly what I’m tackling in this week’s podcast episode:
🎙️ The Art of Loving Confrontation
In this episode, you’ll learn:
✅ Why confrontation doesn’t have to be a fight but an act of love
✅ The hidden patterns that keep couples stuck in hurtful cycles
✅ A step-by-step process to bring up hard topics without triggering defensiveness
✅ How to pause and respond instead of react when emotions run high
✅ Why avoiding confrontation actually damages intimacy in the long run
If you’ve ever felt stuck between wanting to speak up and fearing the fallout, this episode will give you the tools to approach those moments with clarity, confidence, and care.
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Have you ever sat across from your spouse on a date night and felt… nothing? Like you should be enjoying yourselves, but instead, the conversation feels forced, surface-level, or stuck in logistics?
Or maybe you’ve stopped doing date nights altogether because, honestly, what’s the point if they don’t feel special anymore?
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Many couples quietly struggle with feeling disconnected, assuming that if conversations aren’t flowing naturally, it must mean they’ve lost interest in each other. But what if that’s not true?
What if the problem isn’t that the connection is gone… but that you just need a new way to find it again?
In this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I’m sharing why engaging, meaningful conversations don’t just happen—they’re created. I’ll help you see why your date nights might feel dull or distant, and most importantly, how to change that.
If you miss having date nights that leave you feeling seen, heard, and excited about your marriage again, you won’t want to miss this episode.
Your next date night could feel completely different with just a few small shifts. Let’s make it one you look forward to.
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What do you want your marriage to feel like this year? More connected? More joyful? Easier to navigate together?
In my latest episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, we’re talking about setting intentional relationship goals that actually stick. Whether you’ve never set goals for your marriage or feel like past attempts haven’t worked, this episode will inspire you to try again—this time with simple, actionable steps.
Here’s what you’ll discover:
- How to reflect on what you truly want in your marriage.
- Why small, consistent actions create the biggest impact.
- A step-by-step framework for starting the goal-setting process, whether solo or as a couple.
You don’t need a perfect plan or hours of brainstorming. Change starts with just one small intention. This episode will guide you in creating meaningful goals that fit your unique relationship.
The best time to start shaping the marriage you want is right now. Let this episode be your first step.
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What if one word could guide your entire year—helping you grow, make decisions with clarity, and deepen your relationships? That’s what we’re diving into in this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage!
In this episode, I’m sharing:
- How my Word of the Year for 2024, vulnerability, shaped my life, including my relationships, career, creativity, and finances.
- Why I chose peacemaker for 2025 and how I plan to use it to cultivate peace in myself and my relationships.
- Practical steps to help YOU choose your own Word of the Year and make it a daily guide for creating the life you want (including a free guide to help you with your own process).
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by goal-setting or unsure of how to stay focused on what truly matters, this episode is for you. Whether you’re looking to strengthen your marriage, grow personally, or find a fresh perspective for the new year, this simple yet powerful practice can help.
Let’s make 2025 a year of intention, growth, and deeper connection. I’d love to hear your Word of the Year—reply and share it with me!
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Have you ever found yourself frustrated with your spouse during the most ordinary tasks—like running errands, cleaning, or working on a project together? Maybe you’ve thought, “Why can’t they just figure out what to do?”
Or maybe your marriage feels like it’s in a cold, quiet season—a winter where nothing seems to grow, and you’re left wondering how to feel close again.
I’ve been there too. And in this week’s podcast episode, From Frustration to Flow: Tending to Your Marriage During Its Winter Season, I’m sharing:
- A personal story about how Jeff and I turned small moments of frustration into connection.
- Why winter, even in your marriage, is the perfect time to plant seeds of growth.
- Simple, actionable steps to move from disconnection and frustration to trust, partnership, and intimacy.
If your marriage feels stuck or distant, this episode is for you.
This is your reminder that winter is just a season—not a permanent circumstance. The seeds you plant today will grow into a stronger, more connected marriage tomorrow.
Let’s take the first step together. Listen to the episode now, and if you’re ready to plant new seeds of connection in your marriage, book a Courageous Love Conversation today.
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The New Year is here, and with it comes a renewed sense of motivation to try new things and focus on what truly matters. If you’re ready to create more connection and intimacy in your marriage, my latest podcast episode is for you!
This week, I’m sharing a personal story about how a simple 5-minute activity brought my husband, Jeff, and me closer—and how you can do the same in your marriage. I also walk you through four easy, weekly connection activities to try this month. These aren’t big, overwhelming changes—they’re simple, intentional actions that can make a big difference.
Here’s why you need to listen now:
- It’s the perfect time to start. The New Year brings fresh energy and openness to trying new things—use that momentum to reconnect with your spouse.
- Connection doesn’t have to be complicated. These activities are designed to be quick, fun, and meaningful. You can do them in just a few minutes a week.
- You’ll build habits for the long term. These simple steps are the foundation for deeper connection, not just this month, but all year long.
Let’s make 2025 the year you create the marriage you’ve been dreaming of—one small step at a time.
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A New Year, A New Beginning for Your Marriage**
🥂 To Self-Trust and Deeper Connection.
As the New Year approaches, many of us reflect on the areas of our lives that feel unfulfilled—the places where we long for more. If your marriage has felt distant or stuck, you might be wondering, Can things really change?
I want you to know they absolutely can. And not only can they change—they can transform in ways that bring more connection, joy, and fulfillment than you thought possible.
In today’s podcast episode, "Not Just Surviving, But Thriving: The Lasting Impact of Investing in Your Marriage," I’m diving deep into why your marriage is worth the investment. You’ll learn:
- Why so many of the things we spend on don’t bring lasting joy, but investing in your relationship can.
- The life-changing skills coaching offers—not just for your marriage, but for all your relationships.
- How taking that first step toward help can set a powerful transformation in motion.
If you’ve been feeling the pull for something different in your relationship, this episode is your sign to take action. Imagine stepping into 2025 with renewed confidence in your connection and a clear plan for how to move forward together.
Listen now and discover what’s possible for your marriage.
P.S. Don’t let another year slip by feeling stuck. Book a Courageous Love Conversation today—it’s the first step toward creating the marriage you’ve always hoped for.
To a happier, more connected 2025,
Christine
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As you prepare to gather and celebrate this Christmas, I have a special gift for you: an insightful conversation with two incredible naturopathic doctors, Dr. Sofia Adams ND and Dr. Justina Baranauskaite, on this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage.
In Holistic Healing for a Thriving Marriage, we dive into how taking care of your health goes hand-in-hand with nurturing your relationships. You’ll learn:
- How your physical and emotional well-being influence your connection with your spouse.
- Practical ways to align your health habits with your relationship goals.
- Tools to find balance in your body and mind during busy and stressful seasons.
Dr. Adams and Dr. Baranauskaite, co-hosts of the Nature Within Us podcast, share a holistic perspective that’s perfect to reflect on as we wrap up the year and step into a season of love and togetherness.
Bonus! A few months ago, I had the honor of being a guest on their podcast, Nature Within Us, where we discussed Marriage, Dating, and Emotional Maturity in Relationships. If you’re looking for even more inspiration, you can listen to that episode here.
Whether you’re wrapping gifts, prepping meals, or taking a quiet moment for yourself, these episodes are the perfect listen to help you feel grounded and inspired.
To Love, Connection, and a Joyful Christmas,
Christine
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Can You Stay True to Yourself and Stay Connected This Holiday Season?
The holiday season can be magical—and let’s be honest—a little stressful. Between family gatherings, traditions, and endless to-do lists, it’s easy to feel tension in your marriage, especially when you and your spouse aren’t on the same page.
What if I told you there’s a way to hold onto your individuality while still creating a deeper connection with your partner?
In this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I’m sharing how practicing differentiation—the ability to stay true to yourself while remaining connected—can transform your relationship during even the busiest, most demanding season of the year.
You’ll learn:
- What differentiation is and why it’s crucial for a thriving marriage.
- How to navigate disagreements over holiday plans, traditions, and family dynamics without losing your cool (or your connection).
- Simple, practical steps to feel more peace, love, and alignment with your spouse.
This episode is packed with tools to help you build harmony in your relationship while enjoying the beauty and chaos of the season.
Here’s to a holiday season filled with love, laughter, and connection—without losing you.
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The holidays are upon us, and with them comes the perceived pressure: endless to-do lists, family dynamics, packed schedules... it’s a lot. If you’ve ever felt that stress spill into your marriage—leading to miscommunication, arguments, or feeling disconnected—you’re not alone.
But what if this year could be different?
In my latest podcast episode, "Surviving Holiday Stress Without Hurting Your Marriage," I’m sharing simple, actionable steps to help you and your spouse navigate the holiday season as a united front. Because the truth is, stress doesn’t have to turn into conflict—and with a little planning, you can actually strengthen your bond instead.
💡 Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:
- How to approach holiday tasks as a team (no more feeling like it’s all on you!).
- The importance of setting clear expectations before the chaos starts.
- Simple ways to prioritize couple time so your connection stays strong.
- How to practice flexibility and grace when things don’t go as planned.
🎧 Listen to the episode now. The holidays are already ramping up, and the earlier you start applying these strategies, the better prepared you’ll be to handle the season—together.
Why listen now?
Holiday stress has a way of sneaking up on us, and if you don’t take action early, it can lead to tension that’s harder to fix later. This episode is your chance to get ahead of it. Start putting these tools into practice today, so you can enter the holidays feeling aligned and supported by your spouse.
✨ Bonus: The tips I share in this episode aren’t just for the holidays—they work for any stressful event, like birthday parties, family gatherings, or unexpected obligations that disrupt your routine. The skills you build now will help you all year long.
Don’t let the holiday season strain your marriage. Instead, use it as an opportunity to grow closer, work together, and make memories you’ll both cherish.
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Have you ever felt completely stuck when it came time to apologize to your spouse? You know you need to say something, but the words feel heavy—almost impossible to get out. What if I told you that the real challenge might not just be about your spouse... but about how you feel about yourself?
In my latest podcast episode, Breaking Through the Forgiveness Block: How Self-Forgiveness Leads to Healing Apologies in Marriage, I dive into why many of us struggle to offer a heartfelt apology. Spoiler: it often starts with the shame we carry inside. If we haven’t forgiven ourselves for the mistakes we’ve made, it becomes nearly impossible to ask our spouse for forgiveness in a way that truly heals.
You’ll hear a powerful story about one of my clients who faced this exact issue after betraying his wife. He wanted to make things right, but no matter how hard he tried, his apologies felt shallow and disconnected. It wasn’t until he began the process of self-forgiveness that he could offer his wife the apology she deserved.
Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:
- Why traditional apologies often leave us feeling empty or defensive
- How shame holds you back from offering a genuine apology
- The powerful impact of self-forgiveness on your ability to reconnect with your spouse
- A step-by-step process to transform how you approach apologies in your marriage
If you’ve ever found yourself struggling with guilt, shame, or apologies in your marriage, this episode is for you. It’s time to release the weight of your past mistakes and open the door to real healing—both for yourself and your relationship.
🎧 Listen to the episode now!
This conversation could be the turning point you’ve been waiting for. Don’t miss out—click above to tune in, and let me know what resonates most with you.
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As we move closer to Thanksgiving and the whirlwind of holiday gatherings that follow, the pressure starts to build. Whether you're hosting a big family dinner or simply attending, the demands of the season can quickly shift from excitement to stress—and before you know it, the tension starts to seep into your marriage.
But what if this year could be different? What if, instead of feeling drained and distant after holiday events, you and your spouse could enter this season feeling more connected, more aligned, and more like a team?
I’m thrilled to share my latest podcast episode, "Dealing with Family Dynamics: Supporting Each Other Through Holiday Gatherings." In this episode, I’ll guide you through practical steps you and your spouse can take to prepare for family events in a way that strengthens your bond instead of straining it.
💡 Why this episode is especially important right now:
The holidays have a way of amplifying everything—both the good and the bad. With extended family dynamics, old triggers can resurface, and without a plan, it’s easy to get caught up in the chaos. Add the rush of year-end reflections, missed goals, and the pressure of starting a new year, and it can feel like too much to handle.
In this episode, I walk you through how to:
- Have important pre-gathering conversations to get on the same page.
- Set healthy boundaries with family members in a loving but firm way.
- Create a plan to support each other when tensions rise.
- Check in with your spouse during the event to stay aligned.
- Debrief after the gathering to reflect, learn, and celebrate your teamwork.
This is your opportunity to enter the holidays feeling prepared, supported, and deeply connected with your spouse.
As we kick off the holiday season and look towards the New Year, now is the perfect time to ensure that you and your spouse aren’t just surviving these gatherings but truly thriving through them. Take a moment to pause, listen, and plan together for a holiday season that brings you closer, not further apart.
If you feel like you and your spouse could use a little extra support heading into this busy time, I’d love to invite you to book a Courageous Love Conversation wit
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Have you ever found yourself feeling frustrated or upset after spending time with your spouse—even when nothing in your day made you feel that way?
It could be that you’re unconsciously absorbing their emotions.
This is what we call emotional mirroring, and while it’s a natural part of being close to someone, it can sometimes create tension in our relationships. When we absorb our partner’s stress, frustration, or sadness, we lose the ability to stay grounded in our own emotional state—and that can lead to unnecessary conflict.
That’s why I’m so excited for today's podcast episode, "When Their Mood Becomes Yours: How to Protect Your Emotional Space."
In this episode, we’ll talk about:
- What emotional mirroring is and how it happens without us even noticing
- How to become more aware of when you’re taking on your spouse’s emotions
- Simple steps to create healthy emotional boundaries so you can stay connected without losing yourself in their feelings
By learning to recognize and manage emotional mirroring, you can show up with more compassion and calm in your marriage, even when your partner is having a tough day.
When you can do this then you become the conduit to their emotional well-being!
If this resonates with you, don’t miss out on this episode! Tune in now, and let’s work on staying connected to your partner without taking on their stress.
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Do you have a conversation you’ve been avoiding in your marriage? One that feels too big, too emotional, or just plain scary?
Today's episode dives deep into this exact experience—those tough conversations we dance around but desperately need to have. In this episode, I share a personal story about a difficult conversation with my husband, Jeff, around sex and intimacy, and how avoiding it only created more distance between us.
I realized I was holding back because I was afraid—afraid of his reaction, afraid I wouldn’t stay calm, and afraid it would just make things worse. But here’s what I learned: the conversations we avoid are often the ones that, when faced, bring us closer.
If you’ve been putting off a conversation in your marriage—whether it’s about intimacy, finances, or something related to extended family—I want to invite you to listen to this episode. In it, I share:
- Why we tend to avoid these hard conversations
- How I processed my fears and prepared to face them
- What happened when I finally had the conversation (spoiler: it wasn’t easy, but it brought us closer)
- Practical tips for navigating your own tough talks with more confidence and calm
It’s not about having the perfect conversation. It’s about showing up for your marriage with honesty, vulnerability, and love.
Ready to start tackling the conversations you’ve been putting off?
Listen to the episode today!
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Have you ever found yourself overwhelmed before a big trip? You’re juggling a million tasks, feeling the pressure to get everything done, and silently resenting your spouse for not stepping in enough? I get it—and I’ve been there too. 🙋♀️
In my latest podcast episode, Managing Pre-Trip Stress and Avoiding Tension in Your Marriage, I’m sharing a recent experience with you that was a total game changer for me. I’ve navigated these feelings countless times, but this time I had a breakthrough that shifted everything.
You’ll learn:
- How to stop stress from turning into resentment.
- The power of questioning the stories you tell yourself when you’re feeling overwhelmed.
- Practical steps to communicate your needs and keep the connection strong.
I’ll also be sharing 4 simple strategies that can help you turn the chaos of pre-trip stress into a moment of connection, rather than one of frustration and tension.
And here’s why this episode is a must-listen right now: while you might not be prepping for a trip today, the holidays are coming up—and we all know how stressful those can be. The overwhelm of planning, organizing, and coordinating can take a toll on our relationships. But the good news? What you learn in this episode can help you get ahead of that holiday stress too, so you can enjoy the season with your partner instead of letting frustration take over.
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Do you ever feel like you’re making progress in your marriage—things are going well, you're communicating better—only to suddenly slip back into old patterns? It can feel frustrating, like you’re back at square one. But what if I told you that this isn't a setback, but actually a part of a natural cycle of growth?
In this brand-new podcast episode, Embracing the Cycles of Marriage Growth, we dive deep into the concept that marriage isn’t linear—it’s a series of cycles. Sometimes you're digging into the hard work, and other times you’re resting in the comfort of the progress you've made. Both phases are essential, and together, they create an upward spiral that strengthens your marriage over time.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- Why slipping back into old patterns isn’t a failure but a normal part of growth.
- How your nervous system plays a role in these cycles and how to calm it during tough times.
- How to embrace moments of rest and comfort as part of your marriage journey, without losing the progress you’ve made.
- Simple tools to help you stay on track and keep growing—even when the going gets tough.
Whether you're feeling stuck in a rut or enjoying a peaceful phase, this episode will help you see your marriage in a whole new light.
Don’t wait—this episode is packed with insights that could completely change the way you approach your relationship. Give it a listen today and see how embracing the upward spiral can bring you closer to the marriage you’ve always wanted.
Listen now and start your journey up the spiral of growth in your marriage. Trust me—you won’t want to miss this one!
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When it comes to building a stronger, more connected marriage, there’s one powerful shift that can make all the difference: accepting influence from your spouse.
In my latest podcast episode, I dive into what accepting influence really means, why it’s so important for deepening trust and connection, and how you can start applying this transformative practice in your own relationship.
Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll learn:
- What it really means to accept influence from your spouse (it’s not just about giving in).
- Why couples who master this skill have stronger, more satisfying marriages.
- Common barriers to accepting influence and how to overcome them.
- Simple, actionable tips to start practicing this in your daily interactions.
- How this shift can lead to more emotional intimacy, less conflict, and a healthier partnership.
If you're looking to foster more intimacy and mutual respect in your marriage, this episode is for you.
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Have you ever wondered if your marriage is getting the nourishment it really needs? Just like our bodies need food and water to thrive, our relationships need the right kind of attention to flourish. But often, without realizing it, we let little things slip through the cracks—things that slowly drain our connection and leave us feeling distant or frustrated.
In my latest podcast episode, "Nourishing Your Marriage: What It Needs to Thrive," I guide you through practical steps to identify where your relationship might be losing its spark and how to infuse it with deeper nourishment.
I’ll be sharing reflective prompts to help you assess what’s working, what isn’t, and how you can start shifting your marriage toward more love and connection, right now. Plus, there’s a powerful guided visualization to help you realign with the relationship you desire!
If you’re ready to:
- Recognize and eliminate “nourishment leaks” in your relationship
- Create simple, yet impactful habits that nurture your marriage daily
- Feel more connected, fulfilled, and in sync with your spouse
... then this episode is for you!
🎧 Listen to the episode now and start nourishing your marriage today!
P.S. Don’t forget to grab your Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse guide. These quick, simple practices will keep you on track as you work to strengthen your relationship.
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Do you ever find yourself biting your tongue, avoiding conflict, or just pushing your own needs aside to “keep the peace” in your marriage? It might feel like the easier route in the moment, but over time, those unspoken needs can build up—and trust me, they don’t just disappear. They create a hidden cost in your relationship, a cost that slowly erodes connection and leaves you feeling more disconnected than ever.
That’s why I’m beyond excited to share this podcast episode: The Hidden Cost of Avoiding Your Needs in Marriage.
In this episode, I dive into why avoiding those important conversations doesn’t actually keep the peace in your relationship—it just postpones the inevitable. More importantly, I’ll share actionable steps to start expressing your needs in a way that invites deeper connection and understanding with your partner.
If you’ve been feeling stuck, unheard, or just plain tired of the same old patterns, this episode is for you.
Here is a sneak peek of what I cover in this episode:
- How avoiding your needs creates hidden resentment (and how it builds up over time)
- Why unspoken needs eventually lead to emotional disconnect and conflict
- The first step you can take today to express your needs in a healthy, connected way
- Practical tools for starting these conversations with curiosity, compassion, and confidence
Your marriage deserves more than surface-level peace. Let’s dive into the deeper work of building a relationship where you feel heard, valued, and deeply connected.
I’d love to hear your thoughts after you listen, and I can't wait to see how you bring more authenticity into your marriage.
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Have you ever thought about what you’d change if you could start your marriage journey over again? What if you knew then what you know now? I’ve been reflecting on this a lot lately, and it’s inspired the latest episode of my podcast, AwakenYou in Your Marriage.
In today’s episode, “Three Things I’d Do Differently on the Journey to a Happier Marriage,” I’m diving deep into the real, raw lessons I’ve learned in my own marriage. From embracing vulnerability to the power of self-reflection, I’m sharing three things I’d change if I could go back—and how these insights might just change your marriage right now.
Here’s why you’ll want to listen:
- Real-life stories and insights from my own marriage and those of my clients—things I wish I had learned sooner.
- Actionable steps you can take today to create more connection, intimacy, and joy in your relationship.
- And, as always, a little encouragement to help you feel empowered on your journey.
Plus, I’m sharing how you can start making those small, meaningful shifts with my FREE guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse. It’s a simple, step-by-step tool to help you create intentional, heartfelt moments every day. You can grab it here!
If you're ready to start transforming your marriage today, then start listening!
I can’t wait to hear what you think! Let me know which takeaway resonates most with you at christine@christinebongiovanni.com.
With love and connection,
Christine
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Have you been pouring your heart into your marriage, doing the inner work, and still wondering if it's enough? Are you starting to feel like you’re stuck, questioning whether your partner is doing their part or whether things will ever truly improve? Or maybe you're at the beginning of your journey, unsure where to start?
In this podcast episode, “When is Enough, Enough? Knowing When to Move On in Your Marriage,” we’ll tackle one of the most difficult and emotionally charged questions in marriage: How do you know when it’s time to move on? And how can you be sure that you’ve done everything you can to make things work?
This is such a personal decision, but it doesn’t have to be a lonely one. In this episode, I’ll walk you through exercises to help you:
- Reflect on your own growth and recognize the work you’ve done.
- Assess your partner’s engagement and commitment to the relationship.
- Understand how to identify recurring patterns and signs that change may not be happening.
- Check in with your own well-being—mental, emotional, and physical—and evaluate how your marriage is affecting you.
- Visualize your future in your current marriage, and what it might look like if things stay the same or change.
If you're wondering whether it's time to stay, move on, or perhaps begin the work of healing your marriage, this episode is for you. It’s full of actionable insights and heartfelt reflection, designed to give you clarity and peace of mind no matter where you find yourself on this journey.
Take the first step toward clarity and healing by listening to this episode. I promise you’ll walk away with more understanding, more confidence, and a greater sense of direction for your relationship.
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Have you ever found yourself sitting right next to your spouse, feeling miles apart? You’re not alone! Between managing the day-to-day grind of life, it’s easy for the deep connection you once felt to get lost in the shuffle. Before you know it, you’re more like roommates than loving partners. It’s a lonely place to be, and I want you to know—I’ve been there too.
That’s why I’m so excited about my latest podcast episode on AwakenYou in Your Marriage. This episode is all about those small, simple actions that can help you reconnect with your spouse without feeling overwhelmed or adding more to your already full plate.
In this episode, I share:
- Why feeling disconnected is more common than you might think (and why there’s no shame in it).
- The power of tiny, consistent actions in rekindling connection, intimacy, and understanding.
- A sneak peek at my brand-new, FREE guide: Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse.
These prompts are designed to help you take small, intentional steps toward a stronger, more loving partnership—without the pressure of massive, overnight changes. Think of them as little nudges that gently bring you closer, one day at a time.
Why should you download the guide?
Because these are not your typical, generic ideas. Each prompt is crafted to help you reconnect in meaningful, impactful ways—whether it’s through a heartfelt expression of appreciation, a shared memory, or a simple act of kindness. These small actions help you focus on what’s right in your relationship and start rebuilding those emotional bridges that might feel a bit shaky right now.
Ready to start reconnecting?
Listen to the latest episode now and hear more about how you can bring these powerful, everyday prompts into your marriage. After you’ve listened, make sure to download the guide and get started with your first prompt today!
👉 Download Your Free Guide Here
Remember, meaningful change begins with small, consistent actions. You’ve got this, and I’m right here cheering you on!
With love and hope,
Christine
P.S. – If you’ve been feeling distant in your marriage, I encourage you to take that first small step and try out just one prompt from the guide. Let it be the beginning of something beautiful.
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Have you ever found yourself thinking, "Why is marriage so hard? Shouldn't it be easier if we're truly meant to be together?"
You're not alone.
We’ve been taught to believe that if we were with the “right” partner, marriage would be effortless, smooth, and happy all the time. But the reality? Even the happiest couples face challenges. The difference is, they’ve learned to navigate those challenges and grow from them.
In this episode, I dive deep into the myths surrounding marriage and why it's perfectly okay—and even healthy—to experience friction in your relationship.
You’ll discover:
- Why the belief that marriage should be easy can actually harm your relationship.
- How to view relational friction as an opportunity for deeper connection.
- Practical ways to shift your perspective on marital challenges, turning them into moments of growth.
If you’ve ever felt shame or frustration in your marriage, this episode is for you. It’s time to let go of the idea that there’s something wrong with you or your relationship just because it’s not “perfect.” Instead, let’s embrace the beautiful, messy reality of what marriage truly is—a journey of continuous growth and deeper love.
I can’t wait for you to listen, reflect, and start seeing your relationship in a new light, tune in now!
And remember, if you’re feeling stuck or need someone to talk to, I’m here. You can book a "Courageous Love Conversation" with me, and we’ll work through it together.
With love and encouragement,
Christine
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Have you ever felt like your marriage is stuck, like no matter what you do, things just aren’t moving forward? Trust me, I’ve been there too, and I know how frustrating that feeling can be.
But here’s the truth: Change is happening, even if you can’t see it yet.
In the latest episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I dive deep into the idea that significant changes often start beneath the surface, long before we can see the results. It’s in that tricky 'in-between' space—where you’re no longer where you were, but not quite where you want to be—that the real transformation happens.
If you’re ready to embrace these subtle shifts and start recognizing the small but powerful steps you’re taking towards a better relationship, then this episode is for you. I also share some practical strategies to help you stay motivated during this time and keep moving towards the marriage you dream of.
And because this message is so important, I’m asking for a small favor: If you find this episode helpful, would you share it with a friend who might need to hear it too? Sometimes, knowing that someone else is on the same journey can make all the difference.
Thank you for being a part of this community and for your commitment to creating the marriage you desire. Remember, the work is in the in-between, and it’s in this space that the real transformation begins.
With love and encouragement,
Christine
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Have you ever noticed how a tough day at work or stress from other areas of your life can spill over into your marriage, turning minor disagreements into major conflicts? If so, you're not alone, and it's not your fault. Our nervous systems are hardwired to respond to stress in ways that can strain our most important relationships.
In Episode 176 of my podcast, "How Stress Is Affecting Your Marriage," I dive into how stress impacts your connection with your partner. You’ll learn why our nervous systems react the way they do, how this stress can turn into self-criticism, isolation, and rumination, and—most importantly—how self-compassion can be your secret weapon to counteract these effects.
I also share simple yet powerful techniques like self-compassionate touch that can help you calm your nervous system and stay connected to yourself and your spouse, even during the most stressful times.
If you’re ready to understand the true impact of stress on your marriage and discover practical tools to bring more calm and connection into your relationship, this episode is for you. Tune in now to start transforming how you handle stress together.
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Have you ever felt like you’re drowning in your own thoughts, unable to focus, and just plain stuck? I’ve been there, and I recently experienced something that reminded me of the power of having the right support at the right time.
In my latest podcast episode, “Why We All Need a Coach on Our Side: My Therapy Experience,” I share a deeply personal story about how I went from being mentally overwhelmed and unable to focus, to regaining clarity and purpose in just 20 minutes with the help of a therapist. It was a powerful reminder that sometimes, we all need someone to guide us through the mess and help us see the path forward.
Whether you're facing challenges in your marriage, dealing with life’s curveballs, or just feeling lost in your own mind, this episode is for you!
Listen today and discover why having a coach or therapist on your side can be a game-changer in your life.
Don't let another day go by feeling stuck. Let this episode inspire you to take the next step towards a clearer, more empowered you.
With care,
Christine
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In this week’s episode, I dive into how our friendships can surprisingly highlight the same relational issues we face in our marriages. I share insights from a recent girls' trip where I noticed how common dynamics like comparison, communication breakdowns, and boundary setting with friends mirror the challenges we encounter with our spouses.
I explore how these friendships offer a unique opportunity to become more aware of our triggers and develop healthier responses—skills that can transform our marriages.
Also, in this episode, I share an important update from my ENT regarding my vocal cord paralysis and how it’s impacting my journey.
Tune in to learn how your friendships can unexpectedly be a tool for building a stronger, more intimate relationship with your spouse.
If you're ready to take the next step in your marriage, don't miss this episode. And if you haven’t yet, book your Courageous Love Conversation with me today.
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Today, I want to talk about something that often comes up in my sessions with clients: those small, "silly" conflicts that you might feel embarrassed to bring up. You know the ones—the minor disagreements over chores, daily routines, or little misunderstandings. It’s easy to dismiss them as unimportant, but the truth is, these small conflicts are golden opportunities for growth and learning.
These seemingly insignificant conflicts are actually perfect for practicing the conflict resolution process! In Episode 173: Transforming "Silly" Conflicts into Powerful Learning Opportunities, I share a 4-step process that will have you perfecting conflict resolution so you can start addressing those more "serious" arguments!
Remember, no conflict is too small to learn from. Every disagreement is an opportunity to understand each other better, improve your communication skills, and strengthen your relationship.
Wishing you all peaceful and productive conflict resolution,
Christine
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In this episode we delve into the true essence of love within our marriages.
Ep 172, The Beginning and The End in Marriage, you'll discover:
- How the initial love in our marriages can feel lost over time and where to find it again.
- The importance of shifting our focus inward to nurture and cultivate the love within ourselves.
- Insightful reflections on where you might be searching for love and how to recognize the boundless love already within you.
- Practical steps to transform your marriage by nurturing the love within yourself.
Join me as I share personal reflections, ask thought-provoking questions, and invite you to embark on a journey to create the intimate and connected relationship you've always dreamed of.
Don't miss out on this heartfelt and inspiring episode! Tune in now, and if you find it helpful, please share it with your friends and loved ones. And, as always, don't forget to subscribe to AwakenYou in Your Marriage for more insights and inspiration on building a loving and connected marriage.
Remember, love was never lost—it's within you, waiting to be uncovered and shared.
Warmly,
Christine
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I'm excited to share the first episode of my podcast since my spine surgery, titled "The Path to Your Dream is in the Release," and be prepared for my voice!
In this episode, we dive into the transformative power of letting go of what no longer serves us in our marriages to unlock the potential for a more fulfilling future with our partners. It's a deeply personal topic for me, and I share a story from my own life about finding the courage to release something dear to me and trust in the promise of something better.
Here’s a sneak peek into what you’ll hear:
- A reflection on gratitude and growth.
- My personal journey of letting go of a cherished retreat space.
- Insights on trusting the path before you and embracing change in your marriage.
I believe this episode will resonate with many of you who are on the journey to building a stronger, more intimate relationship with your spouse.
As always, I love hearing your thoughts and stories. Feel free to reply to this email or reach out to me on social media.
Thank you for being part of this journey with me.
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This week I dive deep into the importance of building a supportive friendship community and how it can play a pivotal role in transforming your marriage. Join me as we explore why nurturing connections with others is essential for personal growth and marital harmony. Plus, I share insights from recent interviews with women like you who are navigating similar challenges. Don't miss out on this empowering discussion!
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As we embark on another episode of the AwakenYou in Your Marriage podcast, I'm thrilled to dive into a topic that's both nuanced and pivotal: Intimacy Regulators.
In Episode 166, titled "Navigating Intimacy: Understanding Distance and Intimacy Regulators," we'll explore the intricate dynamics at play when it comes to fostering closeness in relationships. Drawing from real-life scenarios and insights gleaned from my coaching practice, we'll uncover how intimacy anxiety and the fear of closeness can manifest in unexpected ways, often leading to the creation of distance between partners.
Along with identifying these regulators, we'll also equip ourselves with strategies to navigate them effectively. From fostering awareness and understanding our emotional cues to gracefully opening up and communicating with our partners, we'll embark on a journey towards deeper connection and intimacy in our marriages.
Additionally, I have an exciting project in the works that I'd love your input on. I'm creating free offerings tailored specifically for women who find themselves longing for a more fulfilling marriage but aren't sure how to bridge the gap. If you're interested in sharing your insights and experiences to help shape these resources, please reach out to me via email or social media. Your voice is invaluable in guiding the direction of this endeavor.
As always, I encourage you to engage with the content and reflect on how it resonates with your own experiences. Whether you find yourself identifying with the examples shared or gaining new insights into your relationship dynamics, I'm eager to hear your thoughts and observations.
Thank you for being a part of this supportive and growth-oriented community. Together, let's continue to cultivate awareness, compassion, and connection in our marriages.
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In this week's episode, titled "Creating Space for Love: Practical Tips for Working on Your Marriage," we dive deep into the essential topic of prioritizing your relationship amidst life's busy demands. Whether you're struggling to find moments of connection amidst hectic schedules or seeking practical tips to strengthen your bond, this episode is for you.
Join me as we explore the common obstacles that can hinder our ability to invest time and energy into our marriages, from the relentless "busy" culture to communication challenges and beyond. We'll unpack each barrier with honesty and compassion, providing insights to help you navigate and overcome them.
But fear not! It's not all about the obstacles—we'll also share actionable strategies and empowering mindset shifts to kickstart your journey towards a more fulfilling and connected marriage. From prioritizing self-care to fostering open communication and setting intentional time aside for each other, you'll discover practical steps to reignite the spark in your relationship.
And remember, change begins with you! By prioritizing your own growth and well-being, you lay the foundation for a stronger, more resilient partnership. So whether you're ready to embark on this journey solo or eager to invite your partner along, know that you hold the power to create positive change in your marriage.
As a special bonus, don't forget to check out my Love List Method—a free resource designed to help you re-evaluate your perspective on marriage and prioritize your relationship. You can find the link in the show notes or reach out to me directly for more information.
Thank you for being a cherished part of our community, and remember to rate and review the podcast to share your feedback and support others on their marriage journey. Together, let's keep our hearts open, our spirits resilient, and our love boundless!
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I'm thrilled to announce the release of my latest episode of the AwakenYou in Your Marriage podcast: "Breaking the Chains: Unlearning Destructive Communication Patterns." In this episode, we delve deep into the transformative process of shedding old communication habits to pave the way for healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
As we reflect on the first quarter of 2024, it's crucial to evaluate the patterns and dynamics within our marriages. Communication plays a pivotal role in fostering connection, understanding, and growth. However, certain patterns can hinder our progress and create barriers to intimacy.
In Episode 164, I explore four common destructive communication patterns:
- Withdrawing and avoiding: Recognize the tendency to shut down or avoid important discussions.
- Escalation: Understand the impact of intensifying conflicts and learn how to de-escalate tensions.
- Negative interpretation: Challenge assumptions and cultivate empathy to foster understanding.
- Invalidation: Learn to validate your partner's feelings and experiences instead of dismissing them.
Through insightful discussions and actionable strategies, you'll learn how to identify these patterns, understand their impact, and implement healthier communication habits. From recognizing triggers to fostering empathy and validation, I'll empower you to break free from old habits and cultivate deeper connections with your spouse.
I invite you to listen to the episode on your favorite podcast platform and share your thoughts and insights with our community. Together, we can embark on a journey of growth, understanding, and transformation in our marriages.
Thank you for being a part of the AwakenYou community. Your support and engagement mean the world to me, and I'm honored to accompany you on this journey toward a more fulfilling relationship.
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Welcome back, AwakenYou in Your Marriage listeners! In our latest episode (Ep 163), we dive into a transformative communication practice: the Speaker-Listener Technique. Last week, we explored how understanding our past can shape our present relationships, paving the way for effective communication.
This week, we take it a step further. Discover how the Speaker-Listener Technique can revolutionize your interactions, fostering understanding, and connection. Here's what you will learn:
- Why this technique is so transformative.
- The breakdown of how to implement the technique.
- Tips to get you started today!
Explore the roles of both the speaker and the listener, understanding the guidelines for effective communication. Whether you're expressing yourself or actively listening, embrace patience, compassion, and curiosity.
Ready to put theory into practice? Start with calm discussions, setting aside dedicated time for communication exercises. Remember, it's okay to stumble. The journey to deeper connection is about progress, not perfection.
Join us next week as we delve into common destructive communication patterns, empowering you to pave the way for healthy interactions. Until then, embrace the journey of growth and connection in your marriage.
Listen to the full episode now and embark on the path to a more fulfilling relationship!
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This week on AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I embark on a profound journey into the depths of our familial past to uncover the hidden influences shaping our relationships today. Join me as we explore "The Ties that Bind: Exploring Family of Origin Conflict Styles in Your Marriage" in Episode 162.
Families are the crucibles where our earliest notions of love, conflict, and communication are forged. But how often do we pause to reflect on the patterns we inherited and how they manifest in our marriages? In this episode, I invite you to dive deep into your past and discover how your family's conflict styles are echoing in your relationship dynamics.
This week's highlights:
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Understanding Your Family of Origin Conflict Styles: Take a reflective journey back to your childhood and unravel the threads of your family's approach to conflict. Were they proponents of open dialogue or did they navigate through silence? Discovering these patterns can illuminate the roots of your own behaviors and reactions.
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Recognizing Your Spouse’s Family of Origin Conflict Styles: Whether alone or together, delve into your partner's upbringing and gain insights into their communication style. By understanding where they're coming from, you can foster empathy and deepen your connection.
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Implementing Effective Communication Strategies: Armed with newfound awareness, learn how to navigate disagreements with grace and understanding. Discover how to transform conflicts into opportunities for growth and connection.
By revisiting our family histories through a fresh lens, we can forge a path towards deeper understanding and intimacy in our marriages. Join me on this transformative journey and let's pave the way for a love that knows no bounds.
Remember, your feedback is invaluable to me. Don't forget to rate and review the podcast to guide others on their journey towards relational fulfillment.
If you're seeking additional support on your quest for a more resilient and joy-filled marriage, dive into my Love List Method—a free resource designed to reignite your love and revolutionize your marriage. Reach out to me on Instagram or via email, and I'll send it your way.
Thank you for being part of the AwakenYou community. Together, let's keep our hearts open, our spirits resilient, and our love boundless.
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Ever wonder how things got more difficult when you thought they would get easier? In this week's episode, I dive into a topic that many of us grapple with but seldom discuss openly: the transition from thriving singlehood to the uncharted territory of marriage.
In Episode 161: From Single to Married: Navigating Marriage After Successful Singlehood, I embark on a candid exploration of the challenges, discoveries, and triumphs that come with this profound shift. Join me as we unravel the complexities of finding your footing in a new partnership and redefine what it means to thrive in marriage.
Here's a glimpse of what you can expect to learn in this episode:
- Unveiling the common misconceptions and expectations surrounding marriage after successful singlehood.
- Understanding the realities and complexities of transitioning from solitude to marital partnership.
- Embracing the discomfort and challenges of developing a fulfilling intimate relationship.
- Exploring the delicate balance between individuality and relational cohesion in marriage.
- Discovering practical strategies and insights for navigating the journey from feeling lost to found in your marriage.
As I delve into these nuanced topics, I hope to offer you guidance, inspiration, and a sense of solidarity in your own journey toward awakening in your marriage.
If you resonate with the themes discussed in this episode and are eager to explore further, I invite you to download my free Love Affirmations mini-course, where we transform negative perceptions into a gratitude-filled "love list." Additionally, if you're ready to take the next step and explore the possibility of working together to reignite the spark in your marriage, book yourself a Courageous Love Conversation today.
Your support means the world to us. Please take a moment to rate and review the podcast, helping others who may be seeking solace and guidance in their own marital journey.
Thank you for being part of the AwakenYou in Your Marriage community. Until next time, may your hearts be open, your spirits resilient, and your love boundless.
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I am thrilled to share with you our latest podcast episode featuring the incredibly inspiring Cassandra Bodzak. In this episode, Cassandra opens up about her personal journey from a place of uncertainty in her marriage to the empowered decision to embark on a courageous love conversation.
During our conversation, we delve into Cassandra's experiences as an actress and manifestation coach, her profound spiritual awakening, and the transition from solo entrepreneurship to co-habitating and eventually tying the knot. We explore the realities of relationships beyond the limerence phase and discuss the essential steps towards building an open, honest, and deeply fulfilling marriage.
Listening to Cassandra's story is not only enlightening but also incredibly uplifting. Her journey resonates with the essence of growth, resilience, and the unwavering belief in the transformative power of love.
Tune in to this episode to gain valuable insights into creating the marriage you desire and deserve. Whether you're seeking guidance on navigating the complexities of relationships or craving inspiration for your own journey, Cassandra's wisdom is sure to leave a lasting impact.
Don't miss out on this enlightening conversation! Ep 160: Courageous Love Conversations with Cassandra Bodzak
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This week I'm talking about something that's been on my mind a lot lately, and it's a topic that I know resonates with many of us: household responsibilities in marriage. In this week's podcast episode 159: "Sharing the Load: Navigating Household Tasks in Your Marriage," I dive into a common theme that often arises in my coaching sessions and conversations.
In this episode that could be titled "Whose responsibility is it anyway?", you'll learn:
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Understanding the Dynamics: I'll explore the common patterns that emerge when it comes to dividing household tasks and responsibilities in marriage.
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Identifying Resentment: We'll discuss how unaddressed feelings of resentment can build up over time, affecting the dynamics of your relationship.
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Healthy Communication Strategies: I'll share practical tips and strategies for initiating mature, emotionally regulated conversations about household responsibilities with your partner.
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Creating Collaborative Solutions: Together, we'll explore ways to find balance, fairness, and mutual understanding in sharing the load of household chores.
By listening to this episode, you'll gain insights into your own relationship dynamics and discover practical tools to navigate and transform the way you and your partner approach household responsibilities.
If you've ever felt frustrated, overwhelmed, or stuck in the cycle of unspoken expectations and resentment when it comes to household chores, this episode is for you. It's about fostering open communication, empathy, and teamwork in your marriage.
Remember, you're not alone in navigating these challenges, and there are always opportunities for growth and positive change. I invite you to tune in to the latest episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage and join me on this journey of self-discovery and transformation.
As always, I value your feedback and insights. Feel free to reach out with your thoughts, questions, or experiences related to this topic. Your stories inspire me and enrich our community in meaningful ways.
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I hope this email finds you well and ready for some insightful conversation! Today, I am thrilled to introduce you to one of my favorite coaches and mentors, Aimee Gianni, MS. Aimee is not only a Marriage & Family Therapist but also a Master Coach Instructor specializing in Love Relationships and my coach!
In my latest podcast episode 158: Untangling Marriages: Navigating Complexity with Aimee Gianni MS , Aimee and I delve into a topic that's close to many of our hearts: untangling marriages. Here's a sneak peek into what we discussed:
- Defining "Tangled" in Marriage: Aimee shares her expert insights on what it means for a marriage to be entangled and why it's crucial to recognize this state.
- Day-to-Day Examples: We explore real-life scenarios to help you identify entanglement in your own marriage.
- Starting the Untangling Process: Discover actionable steps individuals can take to initiate the untangling journey.
- Untangling Together: Aimee sheds light on how couples can work collaboratively to untangle their marriage dynamics.
- Taking Responsibility for Thoughts and Feelings: Learn why owning our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors is key to untangling, and what it truly means in practice.
- Understanding Behavior Patterns: Aimee explains the importance of understanding our behavioral patterns and how it influences the untangling process.
- The Power Grab and Typical Cycles: Gain insights into common dynamics like the "power grab" and the typical cycle couples may experience during the untangling journey.
I am always personally inspired by Aimee's wisdom and practical advice, and I'm excited for you to hear our conversation!
Aimée Gianni, MS, is a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Master Coach Instructor specializing in Love Relationships. She teaches her clients The Art of Intimate Connection and helps them create strong, loving, joyful relationships and meaningful lives that they love, full of authenticity, connection, passion, fulfillment, and physical well-being. It’s her favorite thing to do! As a Master Coach Instructor she trains relationship coaches how to do this important work with their clients. You can learn more about her work at AimeeGianni.com and follow her on Instagram. Sign up for her newsletter to stay updated on any programs/retreats she is offering.
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I have a special treat this Valentine's Day week, a conversation about love with my husband Jeff, AND a bonus! After our conversation we will be talking about Valentine's Day and sharing some pretty awesome ideas of how to make it special.
Are you ready to celebrate love this week with your spouse? As Valentine's Day approaches, I find myself reflecting on the evolving nature of our celebrations over the years. From creatively elaborate gestures to simpler yet meaningful moments, the essence of love remains at the core.
In this week's episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage podcast, Ep 157: "Intimate & Honest Conversations with my Husband: Love & Valentine's Day," we delve into the essence of love within the context of marriage and Valentine's Day celebrations.
Here are some highlights from the episode:
- Exploring the concept of love in marriage: Often, we profess love to our spouses, yet we may not fully understand what love truly means within the context of our relationships.
- Reflecting on past perceptions of love: Jeff and I share our perspectives on what we thought love should look like in marriage and how those perceptions have evolved over time.
- Drawing inspiration from 1 Corinthians 13: We discuss the biblical perspective on love and how it translates into practical actions within our marriage.
- Advice for couples: For those who feel disconnected or have stopped expressing love to each other, we offer practical advice and insights to reignite the flame of intimacy.
As Valentine's Day approaches, I encourage you to engage in heartfelt conversations with your spouse about what love means to both of you. Whether it's a simple gesture or an elaborate expression, let your actions be a reflection of the love you share.
To husbands: Consider the unique desires and preferences of your wives, and make intentional efforts to celebrate them in ways that resonate with their hearts.
To wives: Communicate your desires openly and embrace the love and thoughtfulness your husbands extend to you, even in the simplest gestures.
Remember, love is not merely a sentiment but an action that fosters deeper connection and intimacy within your marriage.
Wishing you and your spouse a Valentine's Day filled with love, joy, and meaningful connection.
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As we delve deeper into the intricacies of intimacy within marriage, I'm excited to announce our upcoming AwakenYou in Your Marriage podcast episode, #156: Creating Safety and Trust: The Foundation of Intimacy in Marriage.
In this episode, we'll explore the fundamental aspects of safety and trust within marriage and how they lay the groundwork for genuine intimacy. Here's a sneak peek at what you'll discover by tuning in:
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Understanding Safety and Trust: Learn how safety and trust are cultivated over time through genuine sharing and positive responses within the relationship.
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Starting with Yourself: Discover the importance of building trust within yourself before extending it to your spouse, and explore personal anecdotes that shed light on this journey.
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Practical Steps to Building Trust: Explore actionable steps you can take to foster trust within your marriage, from setting ground rules to acting in trustworthy ways in both big and small matters.
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Destructive Patterns to Avoid: Identify behaviors and habits that erode safety and trust in your marriage, and learn how to steer clear of them to nurture a healthy relationship.
As you reflect on your own relationship dynamics, consider how you can contribute to creating a safe and trusting environment with your spouse. Remember, you are the love leader in your journey towards intimacy.
If you find yourself seeking guidance or support along the way, I invite you to schedule a Courageous Love Conversation with me. Let's work together to navigate the path towards stronger, more fulfilling relationships.
Don't miss out on this insightful episode as we pave the way towards deeper connection and intimacy in your marriage. Tune in and join the conversation!
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We're diving deep into nurturing intimacy in our marriages, and we're now on week 4 of our enlightening series. As we journey together, I've been moved by the responses I've received, particularly about the longing for intimacy in relationships. It's a shared desire: connection, belonging, and intimacy. However, nurturing intimacy starts by looking within ourselves, especially when distance creeps in between partners.
In this week's episode, we're exploring the profound connection between compassion and empathy, drawing from Brene Brown's Atlas of the Heart. Brown beautifully articulates how compassion is a daily practice, while empathy is a powerful tool within compassion. She highlights the significance of cognitive empathy in fostering meaningful connections, allowing us to understand and reflect on another person's emotions.
We'll delve into Theresa Wiseman's research on empathy, exploring the four attributes she assigned to empathy and incorporating a fifth attribute from Kristin Neff's work on self-compassion. From perspective-taking to practicing mindfulness, we'll uncover the essential elements of empathetic connection.
To bring these concepts to life, I'll share a vulnerable experience from my own life, offering insights into how empathy can transform conflicts into opportunities for deeper understanding and connection.
As we explore empathy, I invite you to pay attention to the riffs that arise in your relationships and embrace curiosity as a pathway to understanding. And if you find yourself grappling with empathy or facing challenges in your relationship, consider booking a Courageous Love Conversation with me. Together, we'll navigate through the complexities and discover actionable steps towards a more connected and fulfilling relationship.
Remember, struggles are not setbacks but opportunities for growth and deeper connection. Let's commit to taking steps forward, hand in hand, towards the intimacy we desire.
Tune in to Episode 155: Hearts Unveiled Pt 4: Nurturing Marital Intimacy with Empathy, and let's continue this transformative journey together.
With warmth and encouragement,
Christine
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Welcome back to another week of transformative conversations on AwakenYou in Your Marriage! This week, we're continuing our exploration of nurturing marital intimacy with the captivating theme "Hearts Unveiled Part 3: Nurturing Marital Intimacy with Curiosity."
In this episode, we delve into the power of curiosity, a key component highlighted by Brene Brown in her Atlas of the Heart. Discover how curiosity becomes an irreducible element of courageous leadership in the context of our marriages. Join me as we navigate the intricate dynamics of curiosity, vulnerability, and growth.
Here's a sneak peek of what you'll learn:
1. Curiosity as a Catalyst: Uncover why curiosity is essential for courageous leadership in your marriage.
2. Closing the Gap: Explore how curiosity bridges the knowledge gap about your partner's actions, fostering emotional and cognitive investment.
3. Choosing Vulnerability: Understand the courageous choice of being curious, surrendering to uncertainty, and asking questions that lead to growth.
4. Real-life Example: Join me as I share a recent, escalated exchange with Jeff, offering insights into applying curiosity to navigate conflicts and repair relationships.
Ready for an example? Last night when Jeff got home...
Remember, curiosity opens doors to understanding, compassion, and a new dynamic in your relationship. If you're ready to start the work of transforming your marriage, join me in a courageous love conversation. You can book your session by visiting the show notes below.
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If you know someone who could use a dose of encouragement in their marriage, don't hesitate to share the podcast with them.
Until next week, let's keep showing up and changing—every day, until one day you don't recognize your old self.
With love and curiosity,
Christine 💖
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As we dive into AwakenYou in Your Marriage episode 153: Nurturing Marital Intimacy through Vulnerability, I'm thrilled to share a piece of my personal journey with you. This year is all about vulnerability (my word of the year), and I'm excited to be on this open, honest, and transformative ride with each of you.
On a creative note, my book project is back in full swing. I've recommitted to transcribing, refining, and shaping its artistic foundation. It's a passionate endeavor, and though the final outcome is uncertain, the process itself is a beautiful journey of self-discovery.
Now, let's talk about vulnerability in marriage. In this episode, we'll explore what vulnerability is and why it's crucial for our relationships. Drawing insights from Brene Brown, we'll discuss emotional exposure, uncertainty, and risk.
We'll delve into the barriers that keep us from being vulnerable and how to lay the foundation in your marriage for openness. I'll share tips on noticing and warmly receiving your spouse's vulnerability, fostering a safe space for intimacy to thrive.
Remember, vulnerable shares start small as you strengthen your relationship with yourself. Recognize your spouse's responses and understand that your ability to expose yourself emotionally helps facilitate their vulnerability.
Building a safe place for each other is key. By practicing active listening, stepping into your spouse's shoes, maintaining confidentiality, and checking in with your own feelings, you create an environment where vulnerability can flourish.
As I've moved through these steps personally, I've witnessed profound changes in my relationship. Building self-confidence enhances my connection with myself and strengthens my openness to share, regardless of others' reactions.
If you're longing for deeper connection and intimacy in your relationship, know it's possible to re-connect. Join me for a Courageous Love Conversation, where we can explore your struggles, fears, and doubts and discuss the process of creating something extraordinary.
Here's to vulnerability, intimacy, and the transformative power of love.
XOX,
Christine
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I hope this message finds you well and thriving as we embrace the possibilities of a brand new year!
I wanted to share something truly special with you – the latest episode of the "AwakenYou in Your Marriage" podcast is out, and it's a deep dive into the theme of growth and transformation. In this episode, I open up about my personal journey over the past seven years, reflecting on the highs, lows, and the incredible transformations that come from committing to our own growth.
Episode Title: "From Tears to Triumph" - Embracing Growth in Your Marriage JourneyIn this heartfelt episode, I share the pivotal moments that led me to take a leap into self-discovery and healing. From the challenges of vulnerability to the satisfaction that comes from staying true to our dreams, I explore the beauty of recognizing our own growth.
Listen in as I share a touching moment from this past Christmas, where the love, gratitude, and awe overwhelmed me, reinforcing the incredible impact of the growth journey. This is a journey of self-love, self-discovery, and building a relationship with yourself that lays the foundation for a thriving marriage.
Remember, personal development is a journey, not a destination. We can't always see the changes within ourselves like a remodeled space, but the impact becomes evident during moments like the holidays, where we can truly appreciate the progress we've made.
If you're feeling the nudge to make a change this year, I encourage you to tune in. Take that one step forward, commit to your growth, and let's make this year a celebration of vulnerability and triumph.
Thank you for being a part of this incredible community. I believe in each one of you and the transformative power within your own journey.
Sending love and light your way,
Christine
P.S. If you resonate with the episode or have any thoughts to share, I'd love to hear from you! Drop me a message or connect with our community on Instagram & Facebook. Together, let's celebrate growth, love, and the journey towards our best lives.
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I hope this message finds you well as we step into 2024 filled with opportunities for growth and connection. I'm excited to share a sneak peek of my upcoming podcast episode 151: "Hearts Unveiled: Nurturing Marital Intimacy," where we'll explore the key components to create deeper intimacy in your marriage.
In this episode, you will learn:
- Differentiation: Understand the importance of recognizing that you and your partner are unique individuals with separate thoughts and beliefs
- Curiosity: Dive into the core of building intimacy by asking questions and cultivating a genuine desire to understand and explore each other.
- Vulnerability: Learn how opening up allows your spouse to see into your core, fostering a profound connection.
- Empathy: Understand that sharing dreams, pains, and joys builds trust and strengthens intimacy. It's not about agreement but about understanding and reflecting back emotions.
As you embark on this journey to nurture marital intimacy, keep in mind that these components come together to build something truly amazing. While working on these aspects might not be feasible at the start, especially without going through the untangling process, the rewards are profound when both partners stand on their own feet, own their emotions, and work towards building a path back together.
To dive deeper into these components and explore what it takes to enhance intimacy in your marriage, don't miss this episode. Subscribe to AwakenYou in Your Marriage to catch all the follow-ups as we delve into the steps to amplify intimacy. If you're ready for the challenge and seeking a more intimate relationship, consider booking a Courageous Love Conversation.
Let’s make this a year of growing closer to the one we’re with!
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As we step into the day after, I wanted to share some insights on navigating the aftermath of the holiday hustle in Ep 150, "Navigating the Aftermath: Unpacking Post Holiday Emotions."
In this episode, we'll dive into:
- Embracing the Letdown: Explore how embracing the post-holiday letdown can guide you through to the other side, creating a more fulfilling experience.
- Managing Unrealistic Expectations: Learn how unrealistic expectations can impact your enjoyment and discover techniques to approach events from a place of acceptance and love.
- Understanding Your Body's Response: Delve into the various ways your body responds to post-event letdown, from the nervous system's role to managing expectations and letdowns.
- Setting Yourself Up for Success: Discover practical strategies to set yourself up for success both during and after events, including envisioning a positive future, creating a gratitude list, and prioritizing self-care.
If you resonate with feelings of emptiness, letdown, and exhaustion after events, this episode is tailored to help you understand why it might be happening and provide techniques to create a different, more positive experience.
As we navigate the day after Christmas, remember that it's okay to experience letdown. By applying the insights shared in this episode, you can gain a better understanding of your emotions and move forward with the knowledge that a different, more fulfilling experience is possible.
If you're interested in exploring these topics further, I invite you to tune in to our latest episode. Additionally, I'd love to hear your thoughts on how you typically handle post-Christmas experiences and any changes you might consider for this year.
Wishing you a day filled with self-discovery and growth.
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Is holiday harmony even possible?!?
As we find ourselves amidst the joyful chaos of the holiday season, I wanted to reach out and share something special from the heart.
In the latest episode of the AwakenYou in Your Marriage podcast, we embark on a journey through the intricacies of family gatherings, expectations, and the art of building deeper intimacy during this festive time.
What you’ll learn**:
🎅🏻 Setting Boundaries Amidst the Tinsel:**
Discover how to identify and gracefully set boundaries during family gatherings, allowing you and your spouse to navigate potential challenges with confidence and unity.
🎅🏻 Unwrapping Expectations:
I delve into the world of holiday expectations. Learn the importance of open communication with your spouse, understanding each other's visions for the season, and finding common ground to build upon.
🎅🏻 Crafting Your Unique Holiday Traditions:
Explore the significance of creating your own traditions as a couple. From decorating the tree to sending out Christmas cards, we discuss how sharing these moments can strengthen your connection and build a shared narrative.
🎅🏻 Gifting Presence:
This episode offers practical tips on collaborative gift-giving, managing party expectations, and finding a balance that ensures both partners feel seen and cherished during this celebratory time.
🎅🏻 Conversations That Spark Joy:
Dive into the art of initiating conversations with your spouse about holiday plans, expectations, and desires.
Tune in Now for a Dose of Holiday Harmony: Navigating the Holidays: Boundaries, Expectations, and IntimacyThis holiday season, let's turn the twinkling lights and festive moments into opportunities for deeper connection and shared joy. Join me on this special episode as we navigate the holiday landscape together, discovering the keys to harmony, understanding, and love.
Wishing you and your loved ones a season filled with warmth, laughter, and the magic of shared moments.
Supplemental episode:
Ep 45: Create Better Marital Communication By Considering The Start-Up
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Dive into the heart of our marriage! In this special episode, Jeff and I bare it all, sharing intimate details about our conflict journey.
Tune in to discover:
- Our family of origin stories and their impact on our conflict styles.
- The motivation behind revamping our conflict resolution process.
- Personal strategies we've employed to navigate our individual conflict styles.
- The evolution of our conflicts and the ongoing work.
🔥 Plus, get an inside look into a real conflict that unfolded just a day before recording!
And don't miss the golden nugget Jeff drops in the wrap-up—a game-changing piece of advice on addressing conflicts with love and reconnection.
Ready for an authentic peek into our marriage? Your front-row seat to the raw, unfiltered truth of marriage awaits!
AwakenYou in Your Marriage Podcast Episode Ep 148: Intimate & Honest Conversations with My Husband: Our Conflict Journey
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📚 In "Unleashing Your Marriage's Hidden Potential," I dive into Adam Grant's latest book, "Hidden Potential."
This impactful read isn't just about personal growth—it's filled with real-life stories that inspired me to share its wisdom with you.
Tune in to discover how the principles from the book can elevate your marriage, helping you dream bigger and unlock hidden potential.
Ready to build not just a successful marriage, but a fulfilling one? Listen now! 🎧
Hidden Potential by Adam Grant
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You don't gain Yoda status after one round, Jedi Master status comes from committing to your goal and never giving up.
You don't transform your marital conflict dynamic by simply hoping things will change, and YOU are where the change begins!
Are you ready to dive into the third and final part of our Conflict to Connection series? Well, get ready because conflict delayed is conflict multiplied, so let’s divide and conquer!
Here's a sneak peek into what we'll be unraveling:
✨ How to prep for the conversation
📝 Reflecting on your notes from last week
🤝 How to conduct the meeting
💬 What and how to share so you get results that build connection, not disconnection
👏 What gratitude has to do with it
💡 The key your successThis conflict process isn't just about fixing what's broken; it's sculpting a connection built on transparency, understanding, and love.
Your commitment to this journey is a testament to your strength, resilience, and the love you hold for the relationship you desire.
Get ready to embark on the final leg of our Conflict to Connection series! Let's step into this transformative space together.
Catch AwakenYou in Your Marriage, Ep 146: Conflict to Connection Part 3: From Friction to Connection: Mastering the Repair today!
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It's time to activate your inner Jane Marple and crack the code!
Get ready for another transformative journey on the AwakenYou in Your Marriage Podcast! In Episode 143, we're diving into Part 2 of our Conflict to Connection series: Decoding Conflict: Unraveling the Why**.
What You'll Learn:**Last week, we explored recognizing recurring conflicts in your marriage, asking you to observe those moments of activation. This week, we're taking a step further. Here's what you'll discover:
- Decode Your Emotions: Explore the emotions that surface during conflicts. Learn to process and understand what you feel.
- Roots in Childhood: Uncover if your spouse's actions trigger memories from your past, especially from childhood. Understand the echoes of the past in your present.
- Stories We Tell Ourselves: Examine the narratives you create about your partner's actions. Often, these stories are deeply rooted in past experiences.
Why It Matters:The goal is to break free from the patterns that keep you entangled in needing your partner to change for you to feel better. As you unravel the inner conflicts, you pave the way for a calmer, more understanding connection.
Self-Reflection Exercise:
- Explore Your Emotions: Identify how conflicts make you feel. Need guidance? Episode 23 is a great resource: How to Process Those Emotions
- Childhood Echoes: Check if your spouse's actions remind you of scenarios from your childhood.
- The Stories We Tell: Reflect on the narratives you create about your partner's actions. Are they stories from the past or the present?
Your Journey to Connection:Understanding your unique conflict dynamic is the bridge to connection. This work takes practice, and it's a journey, not a sprint. With each step, you're paving the way for healthier, more vibrant connections.
Ready for Change? Book a Call:This process isn't meant to be walked alone. If you're ready to dive deeper and bring real examples to light, book a call. Let's untangle the complexities and move towards transformation.
Embrace the Journey:As the holiday season approaches, stress levels might be peaking. Take this opportunity to gift yourself the space for curiosity amidst conflicts. Remember, you're not alone on this journey.
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This week on the AwakenYou in Your Marriage Podcast, I’m diving into the heart of relationships with the first part of our three-part series: "Conflict to Connection."
EP 144: Conflict to Connection Part 1: Recognizing Conflict & Creating Space for UnderstandingWhat you will discover:
✅ Why conflict is the most common topic in coaching
✅ Understanding different conflict styles based on childhood experiences
✅ Introduction to attachment theory's impact on conflict resolution
✅ Teaser for the upcoming two parts: Decoding Conflict and The Repair Process
In this episode, we explore the powerful process of recognizing conflict consciously. Learn how to create space in those heated moments, paving the way for deeper understanding and connection.
As you listen and learn from this series, I’d love for you to consider if turning this series into a Masterclass would be helpful – your feedback is valued as I continually strive to enhance your experience!
Listener Spotlight: A heartfelt thank you to Deb for the glowing 5-star review! Your kind words fuel the mission of empowering individuals through relationship insights. Share your insights with me and let's transform conflict into a pathway to deeper connection!Episodes referenced:
Ep 92: How Your Attachment Style is Affecting Your Marriage
Ep 61: Eight Stages of Awareness and Behavioral Change
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Discover the powerful link between personal health and marital vitality in my latest AwakenYou in Your Marriage episode 143: Becoming Fit + Vibrant: A Path to a Healthier Marriage with Tanja Shaw!
Join me for a heart-to-heart with Tanja Shaw, a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner, Kinesiologist, and Mindset Coach. She's on a mission to help women not just transform their bodies, but through her process they also can create a more conscious connection with their spouse!
In this insightful interview, we delve deep into Tanja's holistic approach to wellness and self-love. Discover how her personalized wellness protocols and mindset coaching can have a profound impact, boosting your confidence, self-worth, and even your relationship with your spouse.
Tanja's unique insights as a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner give her a powerful perspective on wellness. She can identify the hidden obstacles and empower you to overcome them.
And here's a secret: you can start feeling more comfortable in the bedroom long before you achieve the physical transformation you desire. Join us to learn how!
Don't miss this episode - it's going to be a game-changer for your health and your relationship. Stay tuned and get ready to embrace a more vibrant, loving you!
Podcast referenced: The Fit + Vibrant You podcast, Ep 363:Thrive in Your Relationships with Christine Bongiovanni
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Are you ready to explore a whole new perspective on the masculine and feminine energies within you?
In AwakenYou in Your Marriage Episode 142: Your Feminine Transformation: Embodying True Self Part 1, we dive into the incredible world of your feminine transformation. This isn't about swinging between masculine and feminine, it's about the full spectrum of feminine energy - from wild and chaotic to soft and alluring.
For many of us, we've adopted masculine energies as a way to achieve success. But, here's the thing - you can create immense success while fully embracing your feminine energy. And when you learn to embody this energy, you naturally invite your partner to step into their masculine strength.
It's a beautiful cycle where the feminine feels safe and respected, and the masculine steps into their role of empathy and support.
So, what's your take on the balance of masculine and feminine in your life and your relationships? Are you fully embodying your true feminine self, or is there room for growth?
Dive into this intriguing exploration of your true self in Episode 142 of AwakenYou. Share your thoughts, questions, and revelations with me - I'd love to hear your perspective!
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This week I’m wrapping up an insightful series on behaviors that can slowly corrode your marriage. Over the past few weeks, we've delved into selfishness, pride, control, and resentment. This week I unravel the topic of laziness in marriage.
Laziness, in this context, isn't just about lacking motivation. It's often a symptom of something deeper. We're going to explore what might be triggering laziness and how to revive your relationship.
I talk about:
1️⃣ What laziness is.
2️⃣ How to recognize laziness.
3️⃣ What causes laziness when it comes to our marriages.
4️⃣ How to be an active participant in your marriage.
So, here's your call to action: Take a closer look at your own "marriage laziness" from the inside out. Ask yourself what might be causing it. Are there unresolved issues or pent-up resentments? Have you dedicated so much time to others that you've forgotten your own relationship desires?
This week's AwakenYou in Your Marriage Episode 141: Breaking Free from Laziness in Your Marriage could be your first step to change the laziness dynamic in your marriage. If you find yourself stuck in the relationship rut, consider booking yourself a program inquiry call, and let’s talk about steps to move you into a place that feels better. It could be the catalyst you needed to turn your marriage around.
AwakenYourMarriage #RelationshipRevival
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Me, me, it's all about ME!
And that's when things start to become a bit distant in our marriage.
If you're wondering if selfishness has overtaken your marriage, this episode is for you. Are you ready to embrace the 'We' before 'Me' mindset in your marriage?
Taking care of yourself is not selfish, but inflexibility, constantly correcting or ignoring your spouse’s needs, that’s selfish.
When selfishness takes root, a divide grows between partners, and intimacy fades.
In this week’s AwakenYou in Your Marriage episode 140: Putting ‘We’ before ‘Me’: Tackling Selfishness in Marriage, I will help you understand:
1️⃣ The difference between healthy and unhealthy selfishness
2️⃣What selfishness in your marriage looks like
3️⃣ How to eliminate a selfish behavior
Tune in to first see how you might be a bit selfish in your marriage, learn how I’m selfish in my own marriage and what I’m doing to change that!
What do you think? Will you take time to reflect on your actions and consider how you can enhance your relationship by embracing 'We' over 'Me?' Tune in and see how you can build a stronger, more fulfilling marriage!
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Pride, it’s a tricky emotion because, in the right context, it's healthy. Feeling proud of your accomplishments or efforts is wonderful. But, unhealthy pride can act as a barrier to intimacy and connection.
This week on the AwakenYou in Your Marriage podcast I am exploring:
1️⃣ What pride is
2️⃣ Identifying its characteristics
3️⃣ Delve into why pride develops into a behavior
4️⃣ How to break it down so you can foster a deeper connection with your partner
If you've resonated with the recent episodes on pride and control, consider booking a Courageous Love Conversation (link in bio). Remember, discovering these behaviors within yourself is a positive step towards becoming a more loving, open, and honest person. These behaviors are symptoms, not signs of brokenness. Your journey to a healthier, more connected marriage begins with you.
EP 139: Pride - From Arrogance to Intimacy
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This may be part of the solution if your marriage has lost that loving feeling; if left unresolved, it might eventually destroy your marriage.
The good news I have for you is that when you start to understand this marriage murderer, you can stop it and start building a stronger, more intimate bond with your spouse!
I'm talking about resentment, and in Episode 138: Breaking Free From Resentment in Your Marriage, I am diving into the world of resentment.
I share:
- What resentment is
- Examples of why resentment is cropping up in your marriage
- What resentment looks like on the outside
- How to start addressing resentment and bring the connection back
This is not an episode to miss, so grab your earbuds, tune in, and take the first step towards a more fulfilling, resentment-free marriage.
You, your heart, and your marriage deserve it.
Don't forget to share with that friend, family member, or co-worker struggling in their marriage!
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A roll of the eye, an uncomfortable laugh or a deep sigh might be all more subtle flavors of control, yet they are still ways to diminish what someone else says or thinks.
This week, I am taking a look at a topic that might hit a bit close to home for some of us (take a listen to see how close to my home it actually hit) - Ep 137: The Losing Battle of Power & Control in Marriage.
Here's what you'll discover:
- What's behind the battle: Ever wonder why we fight for control and power in our relationships? I'll uncover the hidden drivers behind this age-old struggle.
- Ways we attempt to control: From subtle tactics to overt actions, I'll explore the various strategies we employ to assert control, shedding light on behaviors you might not even realize you are engaging in.
- The path to change: It's not about changing your partner; it's about transforming yourself. I'll share practical steps to relinquish control, fostering a more intimate, connected relationship.
Relationships can be tricky, and control and power battles are more common than we think. But guess what? Change is possible, and it starts with self-awareness and self-compassion.
Listen now on the AwakenYou in Your Marriage podcast to discover how to break free from these patterns and nurture a love that's built on trust, understanding, and authenticity.
Remember, change takes time, and it's okay to stumble along the way. Be patient with yourself and your partner as you embark on this transformative journey.
Ready to break free from the losing battle of control? Tune in and let's awaken your relationship together!
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It’s not uncommon for us to be a bit unsure of who we are as an individual.
Remember Julia Roberts in Runaway Bride?
We grow up being told who we are and wonder who we are to question those opinions.
Based on the surrounding culture, we become who we think we need to be to be good employees, moms, dads, friends, and family members.
We may even attract our spouse by being the person we thought we needed to be to keep them interested in us.
"I'll take my eggs the way you do!"
Eventually, in our marriages, this way of being can get in the way of an intimate connection with your spouse.
This week on the AwakenYou in Your Marriage podcast, I’m diving deep into the essence of self-discovery and its profound impact on our most cherished relationships.
In a world where self-awareness is the compass guiding us toward growth, we're here to explore:
🌱 The Journey Within: Discover how your sense of self, formed since the moment you entered this world, shapes every facet of your life.
💞 Relationship Dynamics: Uncover the untold story of how your self-concept influences your marriage, affecting not just you but your partner too.
🤔 Navigating Change: Embrace the transformative power of self-discovery, and learn how evolving into your authentic self can rejuvenate your relationship.
💪 Building Your Best Self: Gain practical insights and strategies for self-compassion, self-acceptance, and harnessing change for a stronger, happier marriage.
Life is a journey of self-discovery, and I’m here to help you navigate it with confidence and love. Tune in now to Ep 136: Who Are You? The Process of Becoming Yourself & How it Affects Your Marriage and embark on this transformative quest with me. Don't forget to hit that subscribe button and share with those who crave self-awareness and thriving relationships!
Ready to embrace the incredible power of becoming your best self? Let's do this together!
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A marriage caught in a tangled web 🕸️ of outside influences is not a marriage where open, honest intimacy can grow.
In this week's episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I am diving into the world of Triangulation: Going Outside of the Marriage.
Join me as we unravel this complex dynamic and explore its impact on our marriages. From understanding what triangulation is to identifying its destructive patterns, I'll equip you with the insights and tools to navigate this familiar challenge.
I'll help you discover:
- What exactly is triangulation, and how does it affect your relationship?
- The positive uses of triangulation for growth and healing.
- The destructive side of triangulation and how to avoid it.
- Tips to identify and stop triangulation in its tracks.
Triangulation can either strengthen or strain your connection with your spouse - depending on how you approach it.
Tune in to learn how to keep your relationship thriving and free from external entanglements.
Need to untangle the knots? Then listen now to Ep 135: Triangulation: Going Outside of the Marriage.Don't forget to hit the subscribe button and share with a friend who might be struggling with outside influences in their relationship, OR has someone brought you in between them and their partner? This is the perfect episode to help you set boundaries to keep your relationship based on bonding instead of gossip.
Let's build stronger, more resilient marriages, one episode at a time.
Episodes Referenced:
Ep 90: Differentiation: Could Your Differences Be Your Marriage Assets?
Ep 130: Conflict to Clarity: Identifying Your Deepest Fears
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When was the last time you blew bubbles with your spouse? I'm not sure I ever have, but I may need to add it to my FUN list - which you will learn about on this week's AwakenYou in Your Marriage episode.
This week, I'm tackling a challenge many face: the sensation of being stuck in a mundane marriage.
I've had my journey with fun, one that led me back to my core self after years of stifling it. From societal expectations to personal beliefs, fun often took a back seat. But then, something changed. I embarked on a journey to rekindle my relationship with fun, not just in my personal life but within my marriage, too. The results were truly transformative.
What you'll learn in Ep 133: Break the Boredom: The Power of Infusing Fun Into Your Marriage.
1. Fun is a Decision:Fun is a choice you consciously make, not just a hoped-for outcome. It's about crafting moments that light up your marriage intentionally. You can infuse fun into any situation, independent of external circumstances. Remember, your attitude is the key.
2. The Benefits of Fun:Fun is not only a temporary escape from stress; it's a catalyst for creativity, communication, and connection. When you infuse fun, you invite intimacy, broaden perspectives, and create memorable experiences that linger long after the moment.
3. Creating Fun Opportunities:Start by exploring activities you genuinely enjoy on your own. Then, share your enthusiasm with your spouse. Discuss what fun means to both of you and be open to new experiences. Get creative with date nights, break free from the routine, and embrace spontaneity. Remember, fun doesn't need to be extravagant – it's the joy you cultivate that matters.
Ready to Take Action?If you're up for the challenge, I share ideas to get you started creating fun, and the best part is that it starts with you!
Friends, remember, the power of fun is within your grasp. Choose to infuse your marriage with joy and watch the magic unfold. Let's dissolve the chains of boredom and embark on a thrilling journey of shared laughter and heartwarming memories.
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This week's episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage we're diving into the realm of marital doubts—a topic that might feel unsettling, but must be addressed if you want to find certainty.
Even in the most connected relationships, doubts can creep in. But fear not, because these doubts don't mean your happiness is a mirage. Let's break down the myth that happiness is elusive and embrace the possibility that your dream marriage is within reach.
In Episode 132: Choosing Right vs. Making It Right: Navigating Marital Doubts, we're unraveling the misconception that one perfect soulmate exists out there.
Spoiler alert: there isn't. Instead, let's explore how intentional growth and commitment shape the love and connection you desire.
💥 Similarities & Differences: Love's Dynamic Dance
Whether you're with someone similar to you or your opposite, the dynamics are uniquely enriching. Discover how both paths present opportunities for growth, new perspectives, and deeper understanding.
🌱 Navigating Doubts: Building Stronger Bonds
Doubts are a normal part of any long-term relationship. We'll share insights on navigating these doubts openly and honestly, fostering a safe space for growth and teamwork.
🌟 The Power of Acceptance and Love
Embracing your spouse, flaws and all, is a potent catalyst for deeper connection. Let's cultivate the unconditional love that nurtures growth, acceptance, and understanding.
This episode will challenge your perspectives, empower your growth, and help you envision your relationship's potential. Tune in to AwakenYou in Your Marriage, and let's navigate doubts, create meaning, and build a truly remarkable marriage. Remember, your journey matters, and so does your happiness.
Don't forget to hit that subscribe button, and share with a friend who is feeling disenchanted in their own marital relationship.
Episodes referenced:
Ep 118: Should You Stay or Go and Why You Need To Decide
Ep 120: Leaving Your Marriage Without Leaving is Self Betrayal
Blog Post: Love Without Conditions
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
Download my free Love Affirmations Mini-Course to help you to start thinking and feeling in a way that feels more like love.
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As we bid farewell to the summer season (ok, not according to the calendar but for those of you preparing to send kids back to school, it definitely feels like summer is quickly coming to an end) and embrace the magic of transitioning days, it's a perfect moment to reflect and refocus on what truly matters in our relationships.
In this week's AwakenYou in Your Marriage episode, I'm diving deep into a common challenge many of us face – handling disagreements without dragging up past grievances.Join me as we uncover a powerful strategy to enhance our communication, resolve conflicts, and create a space for understanding and growth.
Ever noticed how some arguments take a detour into the past? It's a diversion tactic that can escalate tension and hinder progress. Together, we'll explore a new way forward.
Here's a sneak peek of what's to come:
1️⃣ Cultivating Emotional Awareness: We'll delve into the vital practice of recognizing and understanding our emotions, fostering greater insight and empathy in our interactions.
2️⃣ Establishing Communication Guidelines: Discover how setting clear expectations around communication can prevent past issues from clouding present discussions.
3️⃣ Forgiving and Letting Go: Learn the art of genuine forgiveness and how it can transform your relationship dynamics.
4️⃣ Practicing I Statements: Explore the power of sharing your feelings and experiences without pointing fingers, contributing to productive conversations.
Throughout this episode, we'll empower you to rewrite your argument script and foster a more harmonious and understanding connection with your partner.
Tune into Ep 131: Rewriting the Script: How to Argue Without Bringing Up the Past and gain valuable insights to elevate your relationship to new heights. If you've ever found yourself in the cycle of rehashing the past during conflicts, this episode is a must-listen.
Episodes Referenced:
Ep 35: Emotional Regulation in Your Marriage
Ep 97: Why You Want to Forgive
Ep 81: US by Terrance Real, Book Highlights
Don't forget to hit that subscribe button, and if you know someone who could benefit from this transformative wisdom, be the beacon of healing and share this episode with them. Together, we can create stronger, more connected relationships!
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Are you ready to dive into the heart of conflict and discover what's really driving those disagreements with your partner? Join me in this powerful episode as we delve into the profound impact of underlying fears in our relationships.
Have you ever wondered why certain conflicts keep resurfacing in your marriage? In this episode, we explore the truth behind our reactions during conflicts and the subconscious fears that influence our responses.
We'll uncover the five primal fears that all other fears originate from:
1. Humiliation
2. Mutilation
3. Loss of Autonomy
4. Separation, Abandonment, or Rejection
5. Fear of Ego Death
By identifying the root of your fears, you can begin the journey from conflict to clarity. I share a practical 4-step process to help you understand the origin of fear behind your conflicts and, ultimately, to better communicate with your partner.
Take notes and start applying these insights to your relationship. This transformative episode is a must-listen if you're seeking a deeper connection and resolution in your marriage.
Ready to embark on this empowering journey? Tune in now to EP 130: From Conflict to Clarity: Identifying Your Deepest Fears. You'll be amazed at how understanding your fears can lead to growth and a more fulfilling relationship with the one you're with.
Episodes Referenced:
Ep 70 Going from Conflict to Deeper Connection
Ep 81 Book Highlights from Terrance Real's book US
Blog Why Avoiding Conflict Creates More Conflict and Getting Good at Resolution
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
Download my free Love Affirmations Mini-Course to help you to start thinking and feeling in a way that feels more like love.
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Those expectations tend to kick us in the bee-hind waiting for them to happen, and that is precisely why I choose to hold them loosely and grab on tightly to my dreams.
This week on the podcast, I'm diving deep into the delicate dance of "Navigating Expectations and Dreams in Your Marriage."
If you've ever wondered how expectations can shape your marriage and how dreams can fuel your shared journey together, tune in as I unpack the fascinating interplay between these two crucial elements.
What you'll discover:
- What expectations are, where they come from, their nature, and impact
- What dreams are, where they come from, their nature, and impact
- How you can start to discuss and soften your expectations
- How to open up to your dreams and begin making them your reality
Don't miss out on this week's empowering Episode 129: Navigating Expectations and Dreams in Your Marriage.Subscribe to the AwakenYou in your Marriage podcast today and share with your partner; it might be what helps soften them up!
Tap right here and start letting your dreams drive your actions instead of your expectations!
Episodes referenced:
Ep 95: Creating Healthy Marital Expectations
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
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This week, I am conversing with one of my favorite coaches, Pam Howard.
Pam Howard is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, former K-8 School Counselor, and Master Life Coach for high-achieving moms who want to feel as successful in their parenting as they do in other areas. She helps them feel calm, confident, and connected to their kids so they can find peace and joy in motherhood.
Through her engaging weekly podcasts, practical strategies, and laser-sharp coaching, Pam helps women get unstuck and feel like rockstar moms—while making it all feel like they’re talking with a trusted friend and mentor.
Her advice has been featured in HuffPost Parents and StepMom Magazine, and clients have described her coaching sessions as “life-changing” and “more effective than years of therapy.”
When she’s not supporting women to show up as the moms they most want to be, you can find her hanging out with her amazing teens, singing and dancing to Meghan Trainor songs in the kitchen, and savoring squares of 88% organic dark chocolate.
You probably remember Pam from the interview I shared from her podcast Less Drama, More Mama, where we talked about Keeping Your Marriage Strong After Kids.
In our conversation, we talk about:
- Ways to better handle the mental load that comes with motherhood
- How to put your partner first instead of last and why it's important
- The key to lightening the load that most mamas feel
- Why being on different pages with your spouse is ok
- How to make sure that those difficult conversations get addressed
Don't miss out on this week's empowering Episode 128: Less Drama, More Mama in Your Marriage with Pam Howard LCSW!
Subscribe to the AwakenYou in your Marriage podcast today and share with one of your favorite moms; it might be exactly what she needed to hear!
Tap on the image above orright here to start letting putting more mama into your life!
Podcast referenced: The Less Drama More Mama Podcast, Ep 252: Keeping Your Marriage Strong After Kids with Christine Bongiovanni.
Pam's website: https://lessdramamorema
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I know there's something you want to talk about with your spouse but haven't, or when you have, it hasn't gone well. This is for you!
You know that communication is the foundation of a strong and healthy marriage, but discussing sensitive topics can sometimes be challenging. Well, I'm here to help you navigate those tricky conversations with grace and understanding.
This week I dive deep into effective communication in your marriage. I'll talk about types of difficult conversations, why they're difficult and then I will share eight steps to help you get your tricky conversation started (and get you on the path to resolution).Discover how to approach sensitive topics, manage emotions, and create a safe space for both of you to express your thoughts and concerns. I cover a range of subjects, from financial matters and parenting styles to intimacy and decision-making, ensuring that no stone is left unturned.
Don't let those difficult conversations keep you from strengthening your bond, coming to a unified agreement, and building a loving partnership. Learn how to break the silence and foster deeper connections with your spouse.
Whether you're newlyweds, in a long-term relationship, or simply seeking valuable insights, this episode is a must-listen!
Don't miss out on this week's empowering Episode 127, Breaking the Silence: Navigating Tricky Conversations in Your Marriage! Subscribe to the AwakenYou in your Marriage podcast today, and get ready to transform your marriage by mastering the art of tricky conversations. Together, we can create stronger, more fulfilling relationships!
Episodes referenced:
Ep 35: Emotional Regulation in Your Marriage
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
Download my free Love Affirmations Mini-Course to help you to start thinking and feeling in a way that feels more like love.
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Have you recently felt attacked? It happens, but the chances of finding a resolution are slim when we respond like this.
If you pay attention for just one day, you might discover you're feeling attacked more than a few times.
• Your co-worker asks if you're doing ok, that you don't seem yourself.
• Your adult child hasn't responded for days to a text you thought needed a response.
• Your spouse comes home from a family event sharing that they learned some things about your grandmother that reminded them of you.
Depending on your frame of reference and perspective, none of these may make you one bit defensive, but they could from a different perspective.
This week on the AwakenYou in your Marriage podcast, I will break down some barriers and help you unmask any defensiveness you might be holding against anyone, particularly your spouse.
Listen to this week's Episode 126: Breaking Down Barriers: Unmasking Defensiveness for Healthier Relationships, where I will:
- talk about why we default to defensiveness
- why it isn't useful
- how to begin the process of eliminating it
Tap right here to start letting go of defensiveness and opening up to listening.
Episodes referenced:
Ep 46: Marital Discussions: Criticism Versus Complaint
Ep 48: Is Contempt Killing Your Marriage?
Ep 51: How Defensiveness Hurts Our Marriage
Ep 52: Stonewalling To A Disengaged Marriage
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
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These energy leaks won't show up on your energy bill, but they will slowly drain energy away from creating the marriage you desire.
When it comes to energy leaks in your home, most of you will do your best to block them to save on the monthly expense.
But what about your energy leaks?
How are you wasting energy that is getting you the opposite of what you desire in your marriage?
- Dreaming of that perfect partner
- Being a bit too emotionally invested in that co-worker
- Dwelling on the imperfections that you believe are keeping you and your spouse from really having what it takes to be happy
- Not choosing to be all in (or all out) with the one you're with
This week on the AwakenYou in your Marriage podcast, I am going to unmask ways that you might be unconsciously sabotaging your marriage, as well as share a six-step process to end these behaviors so that you can commit all of your energy into falling back in love with the one you're with.
Listen to this week's Episode 125: Sabotage Unmasked: Unraveling the Hidden Threats in Your Marriage, and discover the process.
Podcast episodes referenced:
Ep 23: Processing Those Emotions
Ep 118: Should You Stay or Go and Why You Need To Decide
Ep 119: How To Build the Closeness You Desire
Ep 120: Leaving Your Marriage Without Leaving Is Self-Betrayal
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
Download my free Love Affirmations Mini-Course to help you to start thinking and feeling in a way that feels more like love.
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What have you believed to be normal in your marriage?
How does this "normal" sit with you?
There are so many misconceptions and societal expectations about marriage, and I want to explore these notions this week.
Too often, we find ourselves stuck in our marriages because things aren't going as "normal." We limit our individuality, hinder our personal growth, and feel pressured to show up in a way that doesn't align with who we are.
I want to challenge these conventions and empower you to embrace your true you within your most intimate relationship.
Whether you are single, in a committed relationship, or simply interested in understanding the intricacies of modern relationships, this episode is for you.
This week I'm continuing my rant as I help you explore what is normal in your marriage when it comes to:
- Sex
- Conflict
- Dependence/Independence/Interdependence
- Knowing each other
- How easy it is to have a good marriage
- Deciding if the best is yet to come
- Your ability to create happiness and joy with your spouse
If you've believed something to be normal within marriage and it doesn't feel exhilarating, I suggest you check out this week's AwakenYou in your Marriage episode. Episode 122: Shattering the Myth of "Normal" in Marriage will help you decide what you want to consider normal so you can stop residing in a lackluster relationship.
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You could totally believe that being married to the same person over time will lead to boredom in the bedroom.
How empowering does THAT belief feel?
Here are some words we could exchange for unempowered: blocked, limited, prevented, stopped, constrained...
It's NO WONDER so many couples are unhappy with their sex life!
Of course, there is always more to it than this societal belief that boredom in the bedroom is inevitable with a long-lasting partner, but can we start with understanding how much this belief is creating this reality?!?
You will NEVER create a fun, exciting, passionate sex life with your partner from a place of feeling blocked, limited, stopped, constrained, and unempowered. Never.
Yes, I have a lot to say about this topic, and if you want to hear just a slice of my rampage, then check out this week's AwakenYou in your marriage episode. Episode 121: Sex Over The Timeline Of Your Marriage might be what you need to hear to start questioning your belief and creating your own view about what is normal regarding sex in your marriage.
Tap on the image above or right here to listen.
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So many of you have left your marriage, given up on the dream you once believed was possible with the one you're with, but you haven't moved on.
Leaving your marriage might not mean you've moved toward filing for a divorce.
It might even look like everything is well and good to the outside world while you are secretly slowly dying inside.
I've been there.
I thought all of the things to justify that this sort of distant marriage was acceptable, yet deep in my soul, I knew something better was possible.
Something better was possible for me, and something better is possible for you.
If you've left your marriage without leaving, this week's AwakenYou in your marriage episode is a must-listen! Episode 120: Leaving Your Marriage Without Leaving Your Marriage will open your eyes to your self-abandonment, help you see how this might be a familiar cycle, and give you some hope to change the cycle.
Tap right here to listen.
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Getting close to someone, and I'm not just talking about skin-to-skin, but really letting someone know us, see into us, requires trust.
Trust and a sense of feeling psychologically safe and secure is a process that needs to be established over time.
As you share your wants, desires, and dreams and your partner hears you out without arguing, dismissing or trying to change you, you feel safe to open up even more.
This process leads you to knowing your partner and letting your partner know you.
It's what builds the closeness you crave.
In this week's episode of AwakenYou in your marriage, Episode 119: How To Create The Closeness You Desire: Building Safety & Security, I will teach you:
- Where your sense of safety and security come from
- How to build your sense of safety and security
- Why it's so important to provide safety and security for others
All so you can start opening up to more of what you want in your marriage!
Tap on the image above or right here to listen.
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If you've ever wondered if you married the wrong person, then you're considering an option other than the one you're with.
If you've secretly wondered if life would be better if you left in the heat of conflict, then the option to give up is playing in the background.
If, on a lonely Friday evening, while your spouse is still at work, you've played with the idea of being free to do as you please, you are internally divided.
First, I want to share that it is not uncommon for you to question your choice when things appear to go awry in your marriage; the problem comes with what you do when that question pops into your brain.
Second, this isn't fair to either of you.
When you don't make it a point to be all in or take steps to go, your lack of commitment will keep you from digging into the work of fighting for what you want.
In this week's episode of AwakenYou in your marriage, Episode 118: Should You Stay Or Go & Why You Want To Decide, I will help you see how deciding will feel so much better than sitting on the fence.
Listen right here.
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Everything you do in your relationship with your spouse is about receiving love.
- Yep, when you blow up because he didn't bother to plan anything for Mother's Day, again, it's all because you want love.
- When you don't make plans to do something with your partner because they never bother, it's because you want love.
- It's because you want love when you withdraw into yourself as they come through the door.
You may not consider yourself a leader, but to be perfectly upfront with you, you are a leader in your marriage. All of the above actions lead and influence your partner.
Yes, whether you know it or not, you are a love leader in your marriage, so the question is, which direction do you want to lead this relationship you are in?
In the episode, I will share the following:
- What a love leader is
- Why you want to become the love leader in your marriage
- How to become the one who leads your marriage right to that magical place you dream of living in
This week on AwakenYou in your marriage, Episode 117: What A Love Leader Is & Why You Want To Become One, I will help you see how you hold the key to everything you want in your intimate relationship!
Listen right here.
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When people think about building a balanced support system with their spouse when they've been married for years without one, you can imagine they're not all fired up about the idea of digging in.
It does sound a bit exhausting.
But what's your alternative?
Continuing on the way things are?
How about divvying up all of your things and moving on? Our brains will tell us this would be much easier, and maybe that is the answer you choose, but trust me, having been through divorce and having coached many others through the process, it's not any easier than doing the work of cleaning up what you've already got.
This week I take a relationship concept for our friendships from Rober Waldinger and Marc Schulz's book The Good Life and apply it to our intimate relationship.
In the episode, I share the following:
- What I'm calling the 7 Intimate Relationship Pillars
- How to start the process of tackling each of these areas so you can start re-building your intimate relationship
- Teach you how to implement a plan to stay consistent and create success
This week in AwakenYou in your marriage, Episode 116: Building a Strong Foundation: 7 Pillars for a Balanced Support System with Your Spouse, I share a simple and implementable process that will have you feeling rejuvenated about how to approach re-connecting with your spouse.
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The first step to healing your marriage is probably not the first thing that would come to mind when you're unhappy in your marriage.
The first place most people turn when unhappy in their marriage is their spouse.
They tell their spouse they're unhappy; usually, the spouse is not surprised because they're not happy either, and they need to see a counselor.
Not an entirely bad idea, but usually, that means that the problem they are trying to solve is within their spouse.
This will NOT end well.
Trying to get your spouse to change is a solution that will never last; that's why in AwakenYou, we start with ourselves.
This is the easiest way to start because we get to work on ourselves without trying to drag our spouses along.
It's the most effective way to start because your spouse will see the change and growth you are experiencing, and it will impact how they interact with you...in a way that will get you precisely what you've been wanting.
This week in AwakenYou in your marriage, Episode 115: The First Phase To Turning Your Marriage Around, I share how you can begin to feel better in your marriage without dragging your spouse into a therapist's office.
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
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With traumatic events, I find myself going within and taking time to reflect, which I have been doing plenty of lately.
Sharing my story has been on the agenda for a while. Still, I like to let things fall into place naturally, so that is up this week on AwakenYou in your marriage, my marriage mini-revival story.
Richard Bach says it best, "We teach best what we most need to learn," and it is no secret that this is why helping others lead their marriage to a love revival intrigues me and lights me up so much.
As I learn and help others achieve their relationship dreams, I keep doing that same work in my marriage, and I have BIG plans for Jeff and me 😁
In this episode, I share a bit about my growth journey and how discontent in my marriage had me shifting into high gear towards self-discovery and my healing journey, which launched a love revival with the one I'm with!
I believe my story will resonate with many of you who are going through difficulties in your relationships, and I'm excited to share it. I hope that my experience can offer hope, inspiration, and practical advice to any of you seeking guidance in navigating your marital challenges.
AwakenYou in your marriage, Episode 113: Reviving Love: My Marriage Revival Mini-Story, and find out how I started this journey!
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Marriage is a beautiful bond that brings two people together in love and companionship. However, it's not always sunshine and roses. Sometimes, things don't go as planned, and unhappy marriages can be the result.
So now what?
That's what I'm talking about this week on the podcast, your three choices.
AwakenYou in your marriage, Episode 112, Three Choices In An Unhappy Marriage, and find out which one Jay Shetty suggests you NOT take!
Show webpage: www.christinebongiovanni.com/Ep 112
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The easiest way to tell if you are aligned in your integrity in your marriage is by examining how you're feeling about:
- the last interesting conversation your spouse initiated
- the previous activity or date they planned for the two of you
- the way they expressed their love for you yesterday
Think about something in your life that you feel amazing about; maybe it's something you created with your hands, an outdoor adventure you just got back from, or a conversation you had with a friend.
Something that made you feel fully satisfied and complete in the doing of it and the thinking back upon it.
Now, go back to those three bullet points I shared initially.
Do you feel the same or different?
One feeling is a feeling of alignment with your integrity, and the other does not.
Listen to AwakenYou in your marriage, Episode 110, Integrity, and why your marriage feels unaligned with Leslie Canup. You'll discover how to do an integrity check-in with yourself and find alignment.
Founder of Canup Coaching, Certified Coach Leslie Canup lives life with her husband of 20+ years and her three kids of different ages and stages. Her passion for leaders started in 2006 with a concert and a conversation with her dad. Fast forward; she combined her faith, passion and personal experience of living in the unexpected so she could serve leaders in personal crisis.
Empowering these leaders to regain their energy, strength, clarity and control.
So they can lead at their highest. even when their life is flipped upside down and they are living at their lowest.
Show webpage: www.christinebongiovanni.com/Ep 110
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Most likely, you currently, or have in the past, believed a version of each of the lies I talk about this week in AwakenYou in your marriage.
In the magical event that you have never fallen for any of these lies, take some time to pay attention to the words you hear others speak about their marriage or the influences you expose yourself to:
- in that series you're currently wrapped up in
- in the ads that run through your subconscious mind while watching those mini-series
- in the movies you watch
- in the social posts you follow
Perfectionism.
A constant state of love.
No disagreements.
Marriages are meant to terminate because lasting love is impossible.
This week I'll share a few of these lies, seven as a starting point, and help you start questioning the validity of these lies, and then I'll help you consider something else you might prefer to believe.
I will also share why believing these lies kills your marriage and ultimately has you getting the opposite of what you desire.
Listen to AwakenYou in your marriage, Episode 109, These Lies Are Ruining Your Marriage, and decide whether you want to continue to believe them or if you're ready for something different.
What lie do you want to dispel?
Show webpage: www.christinebongiovanni.com/Ep 109
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Pride, selfishness and ego are love's enemy, but this one thing can overcome all three.
Humility is the one thing that can overcome the enemy of love (ego and the pride accompanying it).
If you want to experience love again in your marriage, you must learn to embrace humility.
Humility can't be embraced when you don't have a solid inner foundation of self-trust and self-confidence.
This week I am going to help you:
- Learn how to start practicing small acts of humility in a way that doesn't feel humiliating
- Understand what humility in action looks like
- Realize why humility can be so difficult
- See how practicing humility will powerfully influence positive change in your marriage
Listen to AwakenYou in your marriage, Episode 108, The Benefits of Practicing Humility in Your Marriage, and start leading your marriage to the love revival you desire.
Episode referred to: Ep 97: Why You Want To Forgive
Show webpage: www.christinebongiovanni.com/Ep 108
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This week I am sharing a super powerful conversation with Nicole Ellis, a Certified Success Life Coach for Dads. Nicole does magical things with men to help them live up to the role they dream of having in their marriage and in their family without succumbing to the fears that have them pushing their dream away by avoiding and withdrawing.
Nicole Ellis empowers men who are feeling stuck at home to create a life for themselves and their families that they can’t wait to get home to! Nicole has spent over 25 years working as a full-time homemaker to create a happy and successful life with her husband and their six children. She has a BS degree from Utah State University. She has served by teaching and mentoring parents, teachers, and leaders in her community on how to effectively teach, discipline, and connect with children through each stage of development.
Website
"STOP the FIGHT!" How Dads Achieve Parenting Success -FREE 3 Step Guide & Video Training
Instagram: @happinessperspective
Podcast: PERSPECTIVE with Nicole Ellis .....Coming Soon!
Show webpage:www.christinebongiovanni.com/107
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Are you carrying all the load?
What do you do when it seems as though all the household management tasks fall in your lap?
I hear so many women talk about this relational dynamic which is killing their enthusiasm for life and, surprisingly, their relationship.
For most of them, it was a decision early on in their relationship, a decision they were on board with.
Until they weren't.
If this sounds a bit like something you're struggling with in your relationship, think back to how this dynamic started and how it got to where it is today.
How have you co-created this dynamic?
Listen, I was right there with you, so I am not knocking how you got here, but I want to help you get out of this messy place you're in.
That is what this week's episode of AwakenYou in your marriage is all about:
- I will help you see what is happening in this dynamic or any dynamic where you're feeling resentment, anger or frustration with your spouse
- Then I share how to put together a plan to address this situation without blaming them for the problem AND without putting all of the blame on yourself
- Learning how to work together to create a plan that is a win-win for you while bringing the two of you closer together
Episodes referenced:
Ep 75: How To Create Healthy Boundaries In Your Marriage
Book referenced in episode:
Boundary Boss by Terri Cole
Show webpage:www.christinebongiovanni.com/106
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The only thing you need to create the marriage you crave is the desire to do so.
Once you desire something different, you can start working on a plan with strategies to achieve success.
That's what I help you do in this week's episode of AwakenYou in your marriage:
- First, we define the problems you are struggling with
- Second, we decide which problem you want to work on solving
- Third, we come up with a plan to start solving that problem
Listen to Creating The Marriage You Crave and get your action plan started today.
Then BE BOLD and share your desire over your Valentine's Dinner together maybe even listen to the episode together so that you can co-create a plan together!Show webpage:www.christinebongiovanni.com/105
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Eleni Economides is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of NY, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and a Certified Life Coach through The Life Coach School.
She runs a full private practice where she sees individuals and couples for relationship and sex therapy, and a coaching practice where she helps women who feel stressed about sex develop sexual confidence so they can relax in the bedroom and enjoy the sexual intimacy that they deserve.
Eleni has been married for 15 years and has three children. She loves being a student,
spending time with friends and family, and traveling. She is passionate about helping women embrace imperfection and learn how to love themselves unconditionally.
This week on the AwakenYou in your marriage podcast, I had a conversation you will not want to miss with Eleni, a certified sex therapist and life coach who helps women build their sexual confidence and desire.
Just in time for Valentine's Day!
Two classes Eleni is offering:
FREE class: “How to increase your sexual confidence in a week, step by step!”
FREE Mini-Session to help you develop your personalized “Sexual Confidence Week” plan and create momentum.
Email: eleni@newintimacy.com
FREE Facebook Group: Confidence and Desire Reset
Show webpage: www.christinebongiovanni.com/104
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
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Does a trip to the tropics in the middle of a long cold winter help warm up your soul enough to make the season manageable?
What would it be like if that could work the same in your marriage when it seems things need a slight thawing?
I think it works the same in relationships as it does with seasons.
Imagine Minnesota winters ALL YEAR LONG 🥶.
A short trip to Florida won't do much to thaw you out.
Now, apply that same concept to your marriage.
BUT, what if you could bring some of the heat of the tropics into your marriage for more than a few days?
Now that's worth investing in!
This week I dive into 6 EASY things you can start doing TODAY to bring some heat and connection back into your marriage, no matter how long it's been since you've seen the heat of summer.
Show webpage: www.christinebongiovanni.com/103
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
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The center of most relationship problems is an inability to communicate what you want so that your partner can actually hear what you say.
If you want to do something fun with your spouse on Valentine's Day but haven't done anything since 2010, and you're bitter about it, then you need a plan to get what you want.
If you want more help with the household chores but you've been doing them all yourself for years, and you're full of resentment, then you'll need a plan to get what you want.
If you want to spend more time getting to know your spouse but have made other things a priority, and you feel silly bringing the topic up, then you need a plan to get what you want.
Developing Great Communication with your spouse is a skill you can learn, and it's the topic of discussion this week with Jane Copier; listen to our conversation and start implementing new communication techniques today!
Show webpage: www.christinebongiovanni.com/102
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
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Try explaining something you don't understand; you can't do it without laughing or wanting to cry.
Let me explain.
You're in a funk, but you're not sure why; I mean, life is going really well right now; you should be partying like it's 1999!
You can't explain it to your spouse, so you withdraw, which could be understood through their lenses as you're mad at them for doing something wrong.
Nothing gets resolved, and you continue to distance yourselves to avoid feeling awful.
This is not good communication, but it's what happens in the lives of many couples.
What do you do about this problem? Learning to communicate well is a start, but you need to start practicing something else before communicating well.
First, I want to tell you to relax. This is going to feel so much better than trying to explain the unexplainable to your spouse!
This crucial step starts with you, like most things we do here in AwakenYou in your marriage, so tune into this week's episode, which is all about the One Crucial Element To Good Marital Communication.Show webpage: www.christinebongiovanni.com/101
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
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Sure, you can ask Google how to set relationship goals, and you will get all sorts of information; try it!
Maybe you even take a stab at one or two of the suggestions you discover.
You might quickly discover the Google suggestion felt awful and awkward, and your spouse didn't respond as you hoped.
Maybe you've already given these tactics a go, and your new year healthy eating goals lasted longer than a repeat of a tactic that left you feeling less than loved and desired.
Why are relationship goals so difficult?
My simple answer is this: we're talking about matters of the heart.
When it comes to matters of the heart, most of us will go to extremes to protect our hearts from getting hurt.
But, on this week's AwakenYou in your marriage episode...
EPISODE 100, BTW!!!!! 🥳
I am going to help you start taking steps toward the goal of creating a marriage that has your heart asking for more.
Show webpage: www.christinebongiovanni.com/100
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
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The kids are getting ready to leave, and for many, this period of life has people a bit concerned about what's next.
You see that you have more time than you've had for years.
They get their license, have their own group of friends, and suddenly, time with your spouse feels awkward.
You're starting to ask yourself questions like:
- Who am I?
- Do I want to do something different career-wise?
- Do I want to work on my marital relationship, or do I want to leave?
This week I had an excellent conversation with Kaia Hunter about that stage of life when the kids start stretching their wings.
It's a stage where many withdraw into the nest, but it can be a beautiful stage of life where you also get to stretch your wings and discover what's next.
Tune into this week's episode and get acquainted with this next stage of your life.
Even if you don't have kiddos at this stage of life, you might be asking yourself the same questions, and this conversation might fully resonate with what you have been feeling.
Show webpage: www.christinebongiovanni.com/99
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
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This week I had the most enjoyable conversation with Angel Adams about something every one of us battles.
ANXIETY.
For some, it's less of a problem than it is for others, and then there are those where anxiety tends to take over the show.
No matter where you are on the anxiety spectrum, learning how to recognize it, understand it and manage it are game changers.
People like myself, my clients, and you are all stepping into arenas in our life that stretch us, and some form of anxiety will accompany us there.
Anxiety can hold us back, but when you have the right tools, it will never hold you back from doing what you know you need to do to make your dreams a reality.
Angela is a wife, mother, grandmother, and certified Life Coach specializing in Anxiety. With her knowledge and skills, she helps people learn how to love their life and thrive, despite dealing with Anxiety. Her goal is to help you understand, manage, and even embrace the emotions you experience in life. Your anxiety and emotions generally do NOT define who you are. You are so much more!
Website: Angela Adams Coaching
Three Secrets To Becoming Emotionally Strong
Quick Guide to Manage Anxiety
Schedule a session with Angela
Embrace It All Podcast
Tune into this week's episode and let Angela help you learn how to manage your anxiety.
Show webpage: www.christinebongiovanni.com/98
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
Download my free Love Affirmations Mini-Course to help you to start thinking and feeling in a way that feels more like love.
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What they did hurt.
Disappointment, frustration, resentment.
They all lead to anger, bitterness, and disconnection.
Maybe it's time.
To forgive.
I know; it seems like forgiving is giving in.
It seems like it's telling them that what they did was ok.
It seems like we're telling them they don't need to change.
Forgiveness is none of that.
Forgiveness is about freedom.
Your freedom.
If someone has hurt you and you can't seem to shake it, maybe you've been holding on to it for what feels like a lifetime, then it's time to let it go.
Tune into this week's episode about extending forgiveness and find out why along with a four-step process you can use as a guide to begin.
The Book Of Joy: Lasting Happiness In A Changing World
Show webpage: www.christinebongiovanni.com/97
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
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When you learn how to do this, things that don't make sense in your marriage will start making sense, and your frustrations will turn into empathy.
When you learn how to feel, identify, understand, process and then regulate your emotions, things will start to make sense.
Probably not the magic solution you were hoping for, huh?
If you think feeling your emotions is for wimps or it might feel too painful, then can I ask you a question?
Why do you think feeling your emotions is for wimps?
Why do you think it will be too painful?
Those are entirely different thoughts that two people might think, yet they are contradictory, wouldn't you say?
What if you discovered that opening up and sharing what you are feeling is quite sexy and that feeling the pain and letting it out was cathartic?
Both are true, and if you want to experience them in your own life and your love relationship, this week's episode is for you
You will discover the one essential key to finding happiness in your marriage. This key will help you with every single problem you can imagine regarding an intimate relationship.
In this Marriage Masterclass, I am going to share:
- What I see to be the most important thing you can work on to create a marriage that feels like something you want to nurture and grow, instead of something that makes you feel less than valuable
- How this one thing came to affect your marriage the way it does
- Why these things are in your life and what their purpose is
- The process to change this one dynamic and the impact it will have on your marriage
Course graphic and notes
Show webpage: www.christinebongiovanni.com/96
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
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When you get married, you have expectations about what your spouse will or won't do, but do you even realize what those expectations are and how much pain and suffering they create for you?
First, there are all those lovely things they did when you were dating that you expect them to keep doing.
Then there are those things you assumed they would do, inherited beliefs from the household you grew up in.
And then there are the things you imagined they absolutely wouldn't do.
There are many problems with these expectations in your marriage, but the biggest problem is that they are tearing your marriage apart.
Look, I'm not blaming you; I'm right there with you, and you know who else is?
Your spouse!
Yep, they also have expectations around what YOU will and won't do.
With the holidays coming up and all of the expectations filling the air, this episode drops with excellent timing.
This holiday season, you can create a new feeling in the air by looking at these expectations and deciding if you want to keep them and why.
I'll share the following:
🎁 what expectations are
🎁 the problem with unmet expectations
🎁 how to navigate your expectations and can create joy instead of resentment
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Several weeks ago I interviewed Sonia Dhaliwal for what I thought would be another Magical Marriage Success Story episode but as I edited this conversation I decided to highlight her cross-cultural marriage journey instead because it's that good!
You heard Sonia interview me on her podcast Weight Loss for Teacher Moms, where we talked about marriage and all of the things.
As we talked, her story of intercultural struggles inside of her marriage intrigued me so much that I invited her to join me on my AwakenYou in your marriage podcast.
In this week's episode, Sonia shares so many gems from her dating to proposal to marriage journey.
This episode will be helpful to you whether you are in the thick of close cross-cultural traditions or not because each of us carries our own family of origin stories.
Sonia's family of origin was a cross-cultural blend and she married into the same tradition with a husband from northern India.
You will not want to miss the story of her experience along with what she has learned along the way.
Sonia Dhaliwal is a weight loss coach for teacher moms. She helps teachers lose weight for the last time so they can feel comfortable in their own skin again. After many years of being a professional dieter, Sonia decided enough was enough with this battle. Going through preeclampsia during the end of my youngest child’s pregnancy was a wake-up call. She had been teaching elementary school for over 11 years and knew something had to change so she could get some answers.
While concentrating on family during her maternity leave, Sonia decided to enroll in the Institute for Integrative Nutrition to learn more about holistic health and what it means to eat in a way that doesn’t involve counting calories, points, or grams of fat. It changed her life in so many ways and one of the biggest was becoming a health coach. By losing over 55 lbs through the whole food eating approach, she decided this would be an eye-opener for the busy teacher moms out there who were just like her. She keeps it practical, simple, and doable because teacher mommas are busy. Slow and steady is her approach and it’s what keeps the weight off for the long term.
Website: Wild Heart Mommas
Weight Loss For Teacher Moms Podcast
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Leaks in your marriage commitment often go unnoticed.
- An extra hour at work.
- A little extra time spent at that volunteer event.
- Bringing the kids to that last-minute event even though you had a date night planned.
- That extra cardio session at the gym.
- That conversation with that co-worker of the opposite sex that really gets you.
Over time, these little leaks add up to a neglected marriage where the damage seems so overwhelming that you have no idea where to start your repair project.
What is it that you're doing that has you avoiding that thing you want to do in your marriage to begin the process but feels way too uncomfortable?
This week on AwakenYou in your marriage, I dig into the messy work of closing up relationship commitment leaks and the effect that work will have on moving you closer to the marriage you desire.
Learn the process by listening today, and please, share this episode with someone who might need to hear this message today.
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Many of us married our partners because we thought they would heal all of our old heart wounds.
Of course, you didn't say that to yourself 🤣, but if you take a moment to think about it, it makes complete sense.
Then they do something that makes you pull back and protect your heart.
Maybe they started staying at work longer than you thought they should.
Maybe they didn't fix the leaky faucet as daddy did.
Maybe they stopped preparing your lunches.
That's when your heart remembers those old wounds and starts protecting you by lashing out or trying to patch things up even though you're angry, or maybe you withdraw and ignore the feelings in your heart.
Attachment styles help us understand how we deal with our hurting hearts, and this week on AwakenYou in your marriage, I am sharing last week's Marriage Masterclass because it was that good.
And because it might help you make sense of how you show up when you feel unloved by your spouse.
Start making sense of your behaviors and use the three action steps I share at the end to discover your go-to attachment style and start the work of creating your secure attachment.
In this Marriage Masterclass, I am going to help you:
- Demystify the attachment style concept so you can see how it plays out in your life and relationships
- Discover both of your dominant styles and see how this combination may be keeping the relationship stuck
- Learn how you are (unconsciously) seeing your spouse as a threat to your lovability so you can start interacting with discovering safety in interactions
- Start having your own back and opening up to the love you desire
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I have a fantastic teacher who has told me that in everything you read, you can find a concept that applies to intimate relationships.
At first, I thought she was a bit insane, but I learned she was right over time.
Somehow that seems to be the theme of my life, and this week we will apply that teacher's philosophy to the principles of improv.
When a colleague of mine, Lisa Schwaller, mentioned that she'd love to talk to my audience about how to apply the principles of improv to your marriage, I was SO intrigued.
Was this a new game I could create for my clients? ( Don't be surprised, remember what I said about creating relationship concepts)
So I took Lisa up on her suggestion, read the book Improv Wisdom: Don't Prepare, Just Show Up by Patricia Ryan Madson to prepare, and we had a fun discussion about improv, life, and our marriage relationship.
Catch our conversation this week on AwakenYou in your marriage and discover three more ways you can take the principles from something fun like improv and use them to improve your intimate relationship!
Book referenced in the episode: Improv Wisdom: Don't Prepare, Just Show Up by Patricia Ryan Madson
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Have you ever looked back at something that happened in your life which at the time seemed like a tragedy, but now you're able to see the gift of that experience?
It makes me think of the story about the Chinese farmer; if you haven't heard it, you can check it out here.
There are so many messages to take away from this parable. My takeaway is to be present to all the things in front of us, being curious as to what magical place this experience will lead us to.
Often we look at our life and marriage through glasses that zoom in on us, seeing how we're being cheated of the life and marriage we signed up for.
But can you look at your experience from a different vantage point?
When you are focused on what's wrong, you might sharpen your mind, but your heart becomes dull.
Focusing on what's wrong doesn't allow you to see what is right, what is working, and what is good.
This week I talk about a new way to filter the circumstances of your day, so you can see the gifts and appreciate your interdependence on others instead of taking it all for granted.
Find out more by tuning into this week's episode of AwakenYou in your marriage, and listen to the end, where I share a practice you can use this month to help you start looking at life through a whole new lens!
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I wish someone would have shared this little nugget with me, and that's why I'm sharing it with you.
Knowing that EVERY single intimate relationship will fall "out of love" could have saved me from so much of the shame I felt when, once again, I thought I was destined to end another relationship to continue the search for the "right one."
First, there is no "right one" out there.
No human on the planet won't trip your switch unless they're on guard around the clock, and I'd guess you wouldn't find that so attractive anyway.
Second, when you know the "in love" phase is temporary, you won't make it mean something has gone wrong. Instead, you'll start the work to prepare for what comes next: the love stage of building trust.
As you build trust in your relationship, that's when you start creating the juicy, good "true love" phase of marriage.
The best news I have for you is that it doesn't matter how many years it's been since you've fallen out of love.
You can start creating true love anytime you decide it's worthwhile.
I think today is the best day to start that process!
Learn all about these phases in this week's episode of AwakenYou in your marriage!Show webpage: www.christinebongiovanni.com/89
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I think it's too bad that society sets us up to believe that if we had the "right person," the feeling of falling in love would never go away.
Society has set us all up to think that we're all doing it wrong and that if we find our true soulmate, we'll walk off happily ever after.
What if you wouldn't ever find your true love until you figured out how to find true love right where you are?
That's what we do in AwakenYou; we do the messy work of breaking down our fears, our sense of not having enough, denying the truth, choosing to remain unaware, and addressing shame.
This week on the podcast, I talk about our shame shields and how we use them to block connection with our partner.
When we do the brave work of setting down our shield, that is when we find the connection that starts the process of creating true love.
Communication is pretty much non-existent.
Expressions of endearment? Well, you've pretty much forgotten what those look like (though you crave them like a cheeseburger and fries after a weeklong fast.)
Your marriage feels as emotionless as your relationship with your college roommate; as a matter of fact, you and your roomie seemed to share more emotions that what you and your spouse exchange.
Sex feels like a transaction, something you check off your list.
Do any of these feel familiar?
In this recap of October's Marriage Masterclass, I help you:
- Start getting what you want and feel safe asking for it
- Approach conversations in a way that has you feeling connected
- Share how you feel in a way that will have them turning toward you
- Discover a new sort of intimacy in the bedroom
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I have had such a positive response to my first Marriage Success Story that I have a lineup of people willing to share their marital stories.
I hope these stories will give each of you some hope to discover and find your marital magic success story.
I met this week's guest Nadina Cojucara, DVM during the live portion of my life coaching certification, and I know you will love her as much as I do.
Nadina has a contagious energy that I know will infuse you with the desire to move forward with faith that your marriage dreams are not just fantasy. With that determination, a strong belief, and the help of a good guide, you can start moving toward those dreams right now.
Enjoy this week's episode that starts with Nadina sharing her life growing up in communist Romania and how she landed in Sweden with her husband, Peter.
Nadina Cojucara, DVM, is the VetCoach (a Small Animal Veterinarian and a Certified
Life & Weight Coach). Growing up in communist Romania, she went from not knowing
where the next meal would come from, to an abundance of food, which kick-started her
career as a professional dieter, all whilst trying to find her place in a male-dominated
profession.
The shift came for Nadina when she made the connection between her thoughts and
feelings. She said goodbye to emotional eating and went from bingeing food, to
bingeing tools that would create freedom in her life.
Nadina provides the practical tools for vets just like herself to beat the burnout, and the
stress, and create a sustainable life that they LOVE - and she has a LOT of fun whilst
doing it! Her clients always rediscover their inner sparkle when working with her
alongside a new confidence in who they are 💖
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It's easy to love our partner when they:
💜 lift us up
💜 share hugs without prompting
💜 tell us how much they love us when we aren't expecting it
💜 bring home something heartfelt
💜 ask us if they can massage our feet after a long day
Would you agree with me?
Especially that last one!!
But what about when they aren't doing these things and haven't for so long you can't even remember when the last time was?
This week on the podcast, I talk about the possibility of extending some grace to your spouse and being the one to go first.
I talk about what earned love is, how it works against everything we want in our marriage, and what grace-based love can bring us.
AND, before you delete this message, I want you to know that extending grace DOES NOT mean that your feelings of pain are invalid and don't need to be discussed and that forgiveness doesn't need to given.
Episode Referenced: Ep 37 Love Maps: Getting To Know Your Spouse
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Close your eyes and imagine it.
What does falling in love feel like?
"A deep inhale of the crisp fall air."
"A warm hug in front of a cozy fire."
"Safe, comfortable, open, free..."
How would you describe it?
Now think of your spouse, does that feeling in your body remain?
For many of you, that feeling you felt with your eyes closed, imagining what it feels like to fall in love, zipped itself up inside your heart and disappeared.
The feeling of love with the one we're with can be fleeting for many of us, and you are not alone.
It's what brought me to this work myself.
This week on the podcast, I explore how this dynamic of lost love can happen and how you can bring it back.
Yes, it is possible to fall back in love with the one you're with, AND I promise that it will feel MUCH better than what you imagined.
Episode Referenced: Ep 37 Love Maps: Getting To Know Your Spouse
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There's an excellent reason why you react the way you do in your marriage - even if that reaction makes you feel down on yourself.
The thing that drives your reaction could be as "little" as them coming through the front door after a day at work.
You dream of being kind and loving, yet something has you withdrawing and sending "leave me alone" vibes.
Let me tell you this, your reaction makes more sense than you can imagine, and I hope this alone will help you find some compassion for yourself.
In this week's episode, I share some baby steps you can take this month to start reacting from a place of love instead of the old software your brain is currently running on.
We all have old software that has us running old patterns that no longer serve us. Let me help you re-program your response so you can become that person you dream of being.
That person you dream of being is you are waiting to be released, and there is no better time than now to bring it to life.
In this Marriage Masterclass, I am going to help you:
- Start to recognize your go-to patterns when your spouse does something that makes you react as well as your spouse's go-to patterns
- Understand why you respond the way you do and why it's so hard to react differently
- Retrain your subconscious mind to understand that you can handle these situations in a whole new, safe way that will feel self-supporting and diffuse the cycle
- See how your change will bring about change in your spouse
Episodes referenced in this episode:
Ep 23: How To Process Emotions
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Welcome to the first of what I am currently calling the Marriage Success Story episodes. In these episodes, I am sharing other people's marriage journeys in an effort to inspire you into believing that the marriage you dream of, the marriage that seems impossible and so far away, is actually possible. Everyone's marriage journey is different but through talking about our stories we release what holds us back while passing that energy on to others so they can heal their own relationship. Love is possible and let Susan's story help bring you hope for something different!
Susan Scollen is a National Board Certified Health & Wellness Coach, and Life Coach. After giving birth to her beautiful son Teddy in November 2013, she quickly found herself in a big black hole of post-natal depression. Susan did the work to get well without a diagnosis or medication. In 2020, as she was moving interstate, she realized she’d gone from a life she hated to one she absolutely loved. Susan is living her Soul Life and she partners with people to create their Soul Life, exactly as they define it, to live happier, healthier, and aligned lives.
Susan is the inspiration behind these Marriage Success Stories. Her My Soul Life Podcast inspired me to invite others like you to come here and share their marriage success stories, enjoy!
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Maybe you are thinking, "I don't lie; I tell the truth at all times, Christine."
Maybe it's true.
I don't.
Sometimes I lie, and I don't even realize it.
Like when my husband asks if I mind if he works on the one night he doesn't have to work.
This time I didn't lie, and it was amazing.
In this week's episode, I talk about the little lies we tell that secretly build up toxic waste inside our bodies and how telling the truth is the ultimate inner cleanse.
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This week I did something fun on the podcast, something I've wanted to do but hadn't until now.
I overviewed the newly released book US by Marriage Therapist Terry Real.
I now know why I hadn't done this until now; IT'S HARD!!
The books I read on relationships and self-growth ALWAYS blow my mind; there is SO MUCH good information in them that I find it difficult to narrow it down in a digestible way.
So, that is why I will keep doing it!
I will get better at distilling down the gems so that you can take away something that will help you in your marriage without needing to read it yourself.
I also created a free companion tool you can download and use this week.Episodes referenced in this episode:
Ep 51: How Defensiveness Hurts Our Marriage
Ep 25: From Enemy To Ally
Ep 38: Self-Soothe To A Happier Marriage
Ep 35: Emotional Regulation In Your Marriage
Ep 70: Going From Conflict To Deeper Connection
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Aimée Gianni, MS, is a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Master Coach Instructor specializing in Love Relationships. She teaches her clients The Art of Intimate Connection and helps them create strong, loving, joyful relationships and meaningful lives that they love, full of authenticity, connection, passion, fulfillment, and physical well-being. It’s her favorite thing to do! As a Master Coach Instructor, she trains relationship coaches how to do this important work with their clients.
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In today's expert interview, Aimée Gianni and I talk all about how your relationship with yourself mirrors your relationship with your spouse and how looking in the mirror to change the perception of what you see will start creating joy in your marriage.
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One of the main reasons happy relationships turn "bad" is because you've lost your sense of self.
You have lost yourself in the relationship and are desperately looking to your partner to do something about it.
Then you get bitter when they don't.
All because you've never learned how to find safety within, a solid connection with yourself, and confidence to speak your truth for the betterment of the relationship.
This is why in AwakenYou, we start with you because without a solid foundation of safety, connection, and self-esteem, you're never going to find the fiery intimacy you so desire.
In this month's Marriage Masterclass, I am going to help you:
- Learn the difference between healthy, secure self-esteem and unhealthy, insecure self-esteem
- Discover the truth about two different types of narcissism people struggle with so you can find empathy instead of rebellion
- See how healthy pride in yourself is correlated with cultivating positive impact in the lives of others, including those you love the most
Episodes referenced in this episode:
Ep 23: How To Process Emotions
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This week I want to turn your mind upside down regarding how you feel about your marriage.
Feeling disconnected, boredom and low levels of passion after the honeymoon ends are normal.
Yes, it's normal.
Nothing has gone wrong.
Well, something has gone wrong, but it isn't what is happening in your marriage now; it's what happened when you were madly in love.
This week, I am digging into making the problems in your marriage normal, and when you listen to what I suggest, I think you will feel much better about how you feel in your marriage and the possibility of creating something different.
Episodes referenced:
Ep. 60: Differentiation
Connection Episodes
Self-Esteem EpisodesRegister for my free monthly Marriage Masterclass, where every month I talk about different ways you can change your marriage without changing your partner. This month I will be talking about Healthy Self-Esteem and why it's something you have to create in order to have a happy marriage.
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It's time to stop trying to prove who's right and who's wrong!
IT DOESN'T MATTER.
Nobody cares, nobody is keeping score, and if you are, please stop.
You are in a relationship.
A successful relationship means team thinking, not ME and YOU thinking.
When the boat has been rocked the best action is to apologize for your part instead of fighting for it.
FOR THE SAKE OF THE RELATIONSHIP.
This week I am digging into why apologizing is so hard, why a good apology is so important, what constitutes a poorly and effectively constructed apology, and then lastly I look at how you can work through a situation where the other person won't apologize.Episodes referenced:
Ep 75: How To Create Healthy Boundaries
Ep 65: How Trauma Might Be Affecting Your MarriageRegister for my free monthly Marriage Masterclass, where every month I talk about different ways you can change your marriage without changing your partner. This month I will be talking about Healthy Self-Esteem and why it's a fundamental priority to having a happy marriage.
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It makes sense that you wonder if you'd be happier with someone else when your radar is focused on those characteristics that drive you crazy.
And this wondering has ZERO positive outcome.
Either you decide it's to leave and find out.
Or you fully invest in figuring out how to be happy.
UNLESS, of course, you're ok with being unhappy, because that is 100% an option. Just remember, though, that it is an option you choose.
This week I am digging into what happens in your mind, and your marriage, when you feel hopeless in your marriage and start wondering if you'd be happier with someone else.Register for my free monthly Marriage Masterclass, where every month I talk about different ways you can change your marriage without changing your partner. In August I will be talking about Healthy Self-Esteem and why it's a fundamental priority to having a happy marriage.
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More marriages fail because of this one thing.
Marriage is a funny thing.
When you get married, you are so in love with your spouse that you will do almost anything to prove your love without any expectations or need for reciprocity.
You suddenly realize that you're doing these "anythings" with a bit of anger and resentment.
Maybe you even stop doing the "thing" in quiet revenge, hoping they'll figure out it's time to start recognizing you for all you are and do.
What you haven't learned is how to set boundaries in a way that has you taking care of your own needs while being true to yourself about why you are doing what you choose to do.
In this week's episode, I am sharing the highlights from this month's Marriage Masterclass on boundaries, you will learn how to:
💥 Understand what boundaries are and why you need to know
💥 Start seeing where you need to set boundaries for yourself
💥 Gain the confidence you need to start implementing boundaries and start feeling better
Learn where your responsibility ends and where your spouses begins.
View course on my YouTube channel.
Resources referenced:
Boundaries: Cloud & Townsend
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When you see your marriage through the lenses of disappointment, frustration, and dissatisfaction, it's what you are constantly looking for: why you're disappointed, frustrated, and dissatisfied.
Even when we do something to bring our marriage together, those lenses tend to make the "good" things filter away while left seeing all the ways things went wrong.
And it makes sense.
Our brains will search out proof of what we think and ignore or discount the importance of what is going well.
This is why the work you do to correct this is so important.
The pair of lenses you are looking through will determine how you show up and influence your marriage.
The way you show up when looking through the lenses of disappointment, frustration and dissatisfaction will not have you showing up as lovable, giving what you hope to get.
It will have you showing up in a way that influences your partner to show up with their defensive tactics.
This week, I talk about the part you are playing in how you feel about your marriage and how to change your role into something WAY MORE POWERFUL.
Start changing the role you play in your marriage today.
Resources referenced:
Transcend by Scott Barry Kaufman
Abundant Love Mini-Course
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When you feel a sense of lacking in your marriage, it's like a horse with its blinders on; you are zeroed in on what it is you aren't getting enough of.
And when you are zeroed in on what you aren't getting, your brain goes wild with fear, anxiety, and suspicion about what it is you should be getting more of.
More help.
More attention.
More love.
More sex.
More support.
More time.
It has you showing up in, well, not a great way, more of a way that gets you precisely the OPPOSITE of what you want!
This week, I talk about why you're so dissatisfied and how to start getting more of that satisfaction you desire.
Start going from dissatisfied to satisfied in your marriage.
Resources referenced in today's show:
The Five Love Languages
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This week I'm spending some time contemplating "taking a break" and the impact it has on our future life and marriage.
The more I contemplate, the better I understand why so many of you keep pushing taking a break to the bottom of your list of things to do.
The more I contemplate the fear of taking a break, the better I understand why couples are afraid to "take a break."
What exactly does taking a break mean to you?
Does it mean you are lazy, so instead you fill your time with doing things that won't matter at the end of your life? Things that won't help you get to know yourself better, things that would help you get to know your spouse better?
Things that might even push the two of you further apart?
Do you trust yourself enough to know that taking a break doesn't mean you'll never get to the things that matter?
Actually, did you know that taking a break will help you better understand what it is you need to do to get closer to the things that matter?
Actually.
What if taking a break helped you see all the beautiful things you already have, giving you time to appreciate them while allowing you to see with more clarity what it is you want to step towards next?
If you think taking a break is only something lazy people do, then this week's episode is for you.
Whether taking a break for yourself or from your marriage, it might be exactly what you need to do to create what you want to create.
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Episodes referenced in today's show:
The Self Coaching Model
Creating Your Love List
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The human brain is sneaky.
Your human brain is SO smart.
It's SO good at figuring out all of the problems.
But the problem with you trying to figure out all of your own problems is that your brain has a bias.
Your brain's bias uses everything from your past to protect you and produces evidence from what is happening around you to prove its perspective.
You convince your brain that it's time to work on you, and you start feeling better as you work on yourself.
Your life seems to be lighting up.
You're doing more of the things you love doing.
Oh, and your marriage seems to be feeling more...what is it?
LOVING!!
So what does your brain do?
It starts to put it all together and gets to work.
It decides to whisper in your ear that this marriage stuff, all those problems you've been having, well, they ARE all your fault!
Yikes.
Get ready for it because it's coming for you if it hasn't happened already!
You're in good hands, though, because I recorded this episode for you to play on repeat so you can remind that intelligent brain of yours that everything is ok.
You can remind that brain that it can let its guard down because you are moving full steam ahead.
Get that brain used to this new life you are creating for yourself by checking out this week's episode of AwakenYou in your marriage, where I help dispel your brain's thought that your marriage problems are all your fault.
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Conflict exists between all of us.
It doesn't need to be a problem.
But for most of us, it is.
We keep it bottled up, pretending it doesn't matter.
We argue for our perspective.
Or we just walk away.
There is a better way, and when we understand that conflict is normal and why it's there, we can start looking at it.
When we can take an honest look at it and find the courage to share what is going on for us, we can discover reconnection, leading to an incredibly richer connection than we had before the conflict.
This week learn how to understand your conflict better while stepping towards a deeper connection with your spouse.Episodes referenced in this episode:
Ep 23: How To Process Emotions
Books referred to in episode:
Getting To Zero: Jayson Gaddis
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Caroline Holke has always had a pretty good life on paper- happily married with 2 kids, a leadership position in corporate marketing, and plenty of good friends and family. But she wasn't quite happy. This led her down the path of self-discovery which started with examining her relationship with alcohol.
Today she is a Drink Less Coach. She helps women get rid of the sh*tty parts of drinking and this doesn't mean that quit drinking.
Most people focus on what to DO to cut back on their drinking, Caroline has a skill for helping her clients tease out what thoughts are driving their drinking in the first place. Addressing the habit at the root cause is what helps create sustainable change.
She works with her clients 1:1 to develop a plan on how to unbelieve these limiting thoughts and create a life that they wouldn't dream of numbing out of.
Caroline Holke Coaching
Caroline's Drink Less Craving Hack
Book your free coaching session with Caroline
If you've been thinking about cutting back on your alcohol consumption or even ending your relationship with it, then listen in to see what Caroline has to say about her process of doing so. In this interview we also talk about the impact alcohol can have on your marriage relationship, depending upon your reasons for wanting to drink.
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What is going on when you can't stop thinking that they seem to be more interested in someone, or something, besides you?
It's like a little spark that gets ignited by something they say or didn't say, or something they did or didn't do, and suddenly, there is a war going on in your head.
"I feel cheated."
In this week's episode, I discuss how to know if it's your intuition trying to tell you to be on the lookout or if it's just that you're afraid.
Afraid:
❤️🩹 that this is your fault
❤️🩹 that someone is getting something that you want (their love & attention)
❤️🩹 you haven't been a good enough spouse
❤️🩹 you're being deceived
Then I'll talk about who is cheating who when it comes to the emotional whirlwind that can erupt in your mind when you think your spouse has found something more interesting than you.
Episodes referenced in this episode:
Ep 65: How Past Trauma Could Be Affecting Your Marriage
Ep 66: Becoming Bold - Breaking Down Barriers
Books referred to in episode:
Brené Brown's Atlas of the Heart
Joan Rosenberg's 90 Seconds to a Life You Love
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After getting a 100% response to an Instagram story about how you don't understand why you can't do what you want to do in your marriage, I decided it was time to tackle the topic.
What are some of the things you do instead of following through on what you want to do?
Do any of these resonate?
🎯 Wait for them to show up in a way that makes you feel loved
🎯Nothing because fear of their reaction has you stopped in your tracks
🎯You don't want to "give in", it feels like being weak
🎯You push them away and act all bizzzy
🎯Complain and blame
🎯Concede because, after all, maybe you are the root of the problem
What's your flavor?
Doing something different than what you've been doing can feel awkward and uncomfortable, just like getting up in the morning to do that workout that you haven't done since pre-pandemic. "What's the use? It's really not THAT bad, I promise; I'll eat better today to make up for it."
It's the same with your relationship with your spouse. Making changes means being deliberate and taking baby steps.
You know what works even better? Getting yourself an accountability partner.
An accountability partner that doesn't judge you, has your back, and has the best insight to keep you moving forward. (oh, by the way, I know a really good marriage accountability partner ;-))
This week on the podcast, I share 3 reasons why you might not be doing what you want to be doing in your marriage and 1 big solution for making forward progress.
Episodes referenced in this episode:
Ep 65: How Past Trauma Could Be Affecting Your Marriage
Ep 66: Becoming Bold - Breaking Down Barriers
Books referred to in episode:
Brené Brown's Atlas of the Heart
Joan Rosenberg's 90 Seconds to a Life You Love
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There is nothing about you that isn't BOLD!
You are vibrant, energetic and up for all of the BOLD life has to offer.
Am I right about you?
I have seen so many of you take bold steps in your life, from stepping out of your comfort zone by enrolling in dance classes to ending your relationship with that glass or two of wine you have at the end of your day to "take the edge off."
I have a whole new meaning to the words "becoming bold," and to make it a bit more approachable, I broke it down into 3 significant phases.
In this week's episode, I share those 3 phases to discovering who you are and how to become bold enough to step out in faith to live that life,
AND how those steps will bring you closer to that marriage relationship you want.
I have discovered that true relationship vulnerability cannot occur until you know yourself intimately. You can never know who you want to be in your marriage until you do this work.
I am daring you to step into phase 1 of becoming bold this week with me and begin the process of opening the window into your soul?
You will never regret that journey, the view there is magnificent!
Episodes referenced in this episode:
Ep 65: How Past Trauma Could Be Affecting Your Marriage
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What if the unexplainable could be explained?
What if actions you take that you have tried over and over to stop taking could be explained in a way that has you showing up in ways you've only dreamed of?
It could be that trauma might be between you and you showing up in your marriage the way you want.
This week I share how past trauma responses may have you blocked or stuck not moving forward from where you are to where you dream of being.
I share a bit of my journey to discovering this barricade in my marriage, how this discovery allowed me to put a sledgehammer to that barricade and had me taking even bolder steps into what I wanted in my marriage.
Bolder steps into showing up as the woman I dreamt of being, and as I share my journey, I hope that it will help you recognize something you haven't been able to see in yourself.
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I'm guessing you haven't considered grief an emotion you might be feeling when you think about your marriage.
Maybe you'd describe it more as depressing, sad, lonely, and disappointing.
This week I'd like you to reflect on the possibility that what you might be feeling is grief.
Why would I ask you to do that?
Because if you discover grief, things that seem confusing might start to make sense.
Maybe you are grieving the perceived loss of what you had once thought your marriage would look like.
The value in discovering grief over other emotions like hopelessness, frustration, and disappointment is that grief can also show you that something beautiful is available to you.
Grief allows you to see what is missing and what you want while allowing you to begin the process of opening up to creating something different.
This week's episode is all about the grief you might be feeling in your marriage. I share how this discovery can propel you into something even better than you had once imagined your marital relationship to be.
Episodes referenced in this episode:
Ep 23: How To Process Those Emotions
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Many of you have asked how coaching can help you, so this week I decided to record an episode where I share the top three positive outcomes of working together with me, your marriage coach.
I have received SO MANY benefits from working with various coaches that I know I will never choose to go without my weekly mind cleaning. Our brains are sneaky; they like to tell us little lies that get in the way of us achieving our best life, and a coach helps us see those obstacles.
I prioritize the housekeeping of my brain because the cleaner my brain is, the better I can serve my clients, and the same goes for you.
Our work together clears all the garbage between you and your best life, including your love life, that slows you down and wears you out.
I help you see what is in the way of you getting to where you want to go and help you see a more effective path.
Listen this week as I share how your work with me will lead you to a marriage and life you've been desperately seeking.
Episodes referenced in this episode:
Ep 62: How To Change Your Marriage Without Changing Your Spouse
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In AwakenYou, we get to the work of changing how you feel about your marriage without changing your spouse. It is the most rewarding life work I have ever done, and I love watching the transformation that people like you are going through to achieve marriages you never dreamed possible. In this week's episode, I share three ways we do this work, so listen in and discover part of the process! Exchange your feeling of powerlessness for being powerful in influencing change in your marriage.
Episodes referenced in this episode:
Ep 60: Differentiation: Could Your Differences Be Your Marriage's Assets?
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Getting to the place where you know down to your core that you have the power to change your marriage WITHOUT changing your spouse is a journey that starts with disbelief.
Stage one is where we feel completely powerless to change our marital dynamic because we believe our happiness is in our spouse's hands. When they change, THAT is when we will be happy, it's a deep, dark hole that we keep falling into, making our life miserable.
Stage eight is where we fully believe that being happy in our marriage is entirely within our own power to create.
Change takes time, but change isn't impossible. If you've been taking steps to improve your marriage but often feel stuck thinking things will never change, please listen to this episode to help normalize your experience and keep moving forward.
When you understand the stages of awareness while going through the work of changing habitual patterns, you will be able to measure your growth and see how the work you have been doing is truly moving you forward.
To celebrate my first anniversary I am giving away a $100 Amazon gift card this week! Review the show, send a screenshot of your review to christine@christinebongiovanni.com and I will enter you into my weekly drawing! If your name isn't drawn I will keep it in the lottery until April 19 when the giveaway ends.
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Register for my monthly AwakenYou Masterclass, if you liked this episode then April's masterclass is a MUST ATTEND because it's all about Creating More Connection! It's what we all want more of, we want to feel valued, appreciated, loved, and connected to the one we are married to but many of us get to a space in our marriages we're feeling empty. This month I want to help you break down the barriers that have you feeling disconnected so that you can start the process of reconnection.
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Do you feel a bit uninspired, bored, or indifferent when you think about your marriage? Does it feel like you're living with a roommate instead of someone who inspires you to live life to the fullest?
Maybe you feel fully dependent on your spouse to make you feel good, or you may have swung to the other side of the pendulum and separated yourself into an independent relationship that has you holding back from what you yearn for in your marriage?
Healthy, intimate, interdependent marriages are where each spouse shares their inner selves and accepts their partner as they are, whether or not they agree with the other. It's called differentiation, and it's a concept to consider when trying to figure out how to bring more acceptance and love into your marriage. In this week's episode, I will shed some light on how to liven up a dying relationship just by considering your partner's perspective instead of rejecting it.
Continuing my celebration of AwakenYou's first anniversary, I am doing a giveaway over the next two weeks, so listen and get yourself entered to win a $50 Amazon gift card!
Episodes referenced in this episode:
Ep 35: Emotional Regulation In Your Marriage
Ep 38: Self-Soothe To A Happier Marriage
To celebrate my first anniversary I am giving away a $50 Amazon gift card a week. Review the show, send a screenshot of your review to christine@christinebongiovanni.com and I will enter you into my weekly drawing! If your name isn't drawn I will keep it in the lottery until April 19 when the giveaway ends.
Download my free Abundant Love Mini-Course to help you to start thinking, and feeling, differently about your marriage.
Register for my monthly Marriage Masterclass, if you liked this episode then April's masterclass is a MUST ATTEND because it's all about Creating More Connection! It's what we all want more of, we want to feel valued, appreciated, loved, and connected to the one we are married to but many of us get to a space in our marriages we're feeling empty. This month I want to help you break down the barriers that have you feeling disconnected so that you can start the process of reconnection.
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Each of us has different ways to create connection with others, but I think we don't know what that looks like a lot of times.
Maybe our ideas come from sitcoms, movies, books, parents, or the couple we see walking in the neighborhood.
I talk so much about connection in our marriages because it's the one thing I often hear people say they are lacking in their marriage, that and sex!
This week I am helping you discover what connection means to you, how a connected relationship looks in your mind's eye, and steps to start creating what you want, not what the world says a connected marriage should look like. In celebration of AwakenYou's first anniversary, I am doing a giveaway over the next three weeks, so listen and get yourself entered to win a $50 Amazon gift card!
Episodes referenced in this episode:
How To Create Great Connection In Your Marriage
Ep 19: Three Ways To Create Connection In Your Marriage
Ep 37: Love Maps: Getting To Know Your Spouse
Episode 57: Do You Have Bad Marital Relationship Memories
Relationship Huddle: The 20-Minute Meeting That Will Change Your Marriage
This month of March I am doing a marriage min-coaching session challenge where I am challenging myself to help 25 people this month, so if you have never booked a mini-session with me then get yourself signed up before I shut the link down! FREE 30 minute coaching session, click here to sign up.
Download my free Abundant Love Mini-Course to help you to start thinking, and feeling, differently about your marriage.
Register for my monthly Marriage Masterclass, if you liked this episode then April's masterclass is a MUST ATTEND because it's all about Creating More Connection! It's what we all want more of, we want to feel valued, appreciated, loved, and connected to the one we are married to but many of us get to a space in our marriages we're feeling empty. This month I want to help you break down the barriers that have you feeling disconnected so that you can start the process of reconnection. Here is the link for the Marriage Masterclass I refer to in this episode: April Marriage Masterclass: Getting To Know Them
More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening Your True You and being the partner who creates your best vision of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/
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This week I am celebrating AwakenYou in your marriage's first anniversary with a more detailed exploration of Episode One: How To Start Loving Yourself. I share four steps to the process of learning how to stop the behaviors that keep us from having a loving, honest, connected relationship with ourselves. In celebration, I am doing a giveaway, so listen and get yourself entered to win a $50 Amazon gift card!
Episodes referenced in this episode:
Ep 1: How To Start Loving Yourself
This month of March I am doing a marriage min-coaching session challenge where I am challenging myself to help 25 people this month, so if you have never booked a mini-session with me then get yourself signed up before I shut the link down! FREE 30 minute coaching session, click here to sign up.
Download my free Abundant Love Mini-Course to help you to start thinking, and feeling, differently about your marriage.
Register for my monthly Marriage Masterclass, this month I'm going to help you get to know your spouse better and help you see why this is so important. Here is the link for the Marriage Masterclass I refer to in this episode: March Marriage Masterclass: Getting To Know Them
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An interesting thing happens to the story we tell about our marital relationship past when we find ourselves unhappy with our marriage's relational dynamic. Our memory changes. We go from joyous memories to bad memories, interesting huh? Nothing about our past relationship changes, only what we think of it. This week is the last in the divorce indicator series I have been hosting on AwakenYou where we dig into the last indicator which is having bad relationship memories.
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When it comes to how we handle conflict in our marriage, there is one ingredient you can start adding into the mix that can override the effect of harsh start-ups, criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling, or flooding. That special ingredient is the ability to attempt to repair the damage and accept an attempt at repair. In this week's episode, I help you begin the process of stopping a conflict headed in the wrong direction and how to make a u-turn towards reconnection.
If you've been curious about how working through my AwakenYou in your marriage program can change your life and your marriage, this week's interview will help bring you some clarity. As you listen to this interview, what you will hear over and over is Alicia's commitment to learning more about herself and becoming a partner willing to open up and dig into what she wants in her intimate relationship. Alicia went from feeling desperate to keep the relationship together to feeling good about herself, her life, her business, and her partnership believing in herself and creating what she wants in her life regardless of what life brings to her. This month's interview is a must-listen, and fun listen, enjoy!
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Heading into spring with episode fifty-five and an interview with one of my AwakenYou in your marriage graduates, Alicia Castaneda. Alicia shares what she achieved, and her next steps, in AwakenYou and how it has changed her already successful life and partnership. They just celebrated four years together after she thought they only had two months left together a year ago. Enjoy this client's success story and let it inspire you to create your success.
Alicia Castaneda is a mindset coach and certified nutrition coach helping individuals to shift their focus from their body fat to their self-worth, feel at home in their bodies, and not only make peace with but enjoy food and exercise. She began coaching fitness and nutrition in 2016. As aesthetics started to take a back seat to food relationships and body image, she later transitioned her primary focus to health psychology. She has helped nearly 400 individuals transform their minds and bodies to date.
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If you've been curious about how working through my AwakenYou in your marriage program can change your life and your marriage, this week's interview will help bring you some clarity. As you listen to this interview, what you will hear over and over is Alicia's commitment to learning more about herself and becoming a partner willing to open up and dig into what she wants in her intimate relationship. Alicia went from feeling desperate to keep the relationship together to feeling good about herself, her life, her business, and her partnership believing in herself and creating what she wants in her life regardless of what life brings to her. This month's interview is a must-listen, and fun listen, enjoy!
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Have you ever tried to be nice to someone when you're completely annoyed with them?
How did that work out?
I'll guess that it didn't work out all that great. Maybe it put off a conflict that might have ended poorly, but actions of "nice" speak way differently when they come from annoyance than they do from content or empathy.
This could be why your partner doesn't respond when you feel disconnected and disappointed because they feel the energy coming from how you are feeling, and then guess what? You end up not creating the connection you want.
You can't hide your emotions; they shine through in your body language.
Episodes referenced in this episode:
Your Response Matters: Bids For Connection Ep 41
Is Divorce In Your Marital Future? Ep 44
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Unlike the stonewalling I talked about in last week's episode, emotional flooding is an involuntary response where the nervous system shuts down because you are overwhelmed with emotions. Both end in marital disconnection, while stonewalling is more deliberate and flooding is a sympathetic nervous system response. This week discover the third sign that your marriage might be headed for a divorce by recognizing the signs of flooding in yourself or your partner.
Episodes referenced in this episode:
Stonewalling To A Disengaged Marriage Ep 52
Is Divorce In Your Marital Future? Ep 44
Creating Better Marital Communication By Considering The Start-Up Ep 45
How Defensiveness Hurts Our Marriage Ep 51
Self-Soothe To A Happier Marriage Ep 38
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Is your spouse actually listening to what you say, or have they shut you out?
Do they (or you):
• pick up their phone while you are talking to them
• change the subject to something off-topic
• turn away
• get up and leave
• defend themselves in an attempt to end the conversation
• spend lots of time away from the home avoiding conversation
If you said "'yes" to any of these, then you might be what John Gottman calls "stonewalling" your partner or getting stonewalled.
In normal conversation, we engage with each other by making eye contact, showing interest by nodding or asking clarifying questions; stonewalling is not conversation or engagement; it is avoidance, withdrawal, and disengagement.
Stonewalling indicates an unwillingness to work on relationship differences which is crucial to the success of the marriage and often can have the other person feeling neglected or abused.
This week on AwakenYou in your marriage, I help you create awareness around this way of disengaging, no matter what side of the "stone wall" you are on, to start breaking down this marriage barrier. Once you get some clarity, you can begin self-correcting and bring what you want to your marriage: connection, understanding, shared meaning, and intimacy.
Episodes referenced in this episode:
Bids For Connection Ep 40
Your Response Matters: Bids For Connection Ep 41
Creating Better Marital Communication By Considering The Start-Up Ep 45
Your Marriage's Emotional Bank Account Ep 39
Emotional Regulation In Your Marriage Ep 35
Self-Soothe To A Happier Marriage Ep 38
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"Could you help me come up with something fun to do for our anniversary?"
"Any time I come up with ideas, you don't like them, so I'm done contributing."
Defensiveness in your marriage shows up when you don't hear what your partner is saying, so instead, you throw out a comment that deflects the original comment. You hear an attack on your character or behavior instead of a complaint. A defensive response pushes the two of you further away instead of hearing, understanding, and learning to create more connection. In your marriage this week on AwakenYou, I help you see your defensive actions and learn a new response.
In the above example, you are closing up, defending yourself, and shutting down your partner. Better response in this example could be: "I would love to brainstorm ideas for our anniversary, but I'll admit, I get a bit gun-shy because in the past I have thought that you didn't care what I wanted to do."
This second response has you opening up to connection while also sharing how you have felt in the past, creating even more connection!
Episodes referenced in this episode:
Is Divorce In Your Future? Ep 44
Is Contempt Killing Your Marriage? Ep 48
Marital Discussions: Criticism Versus Complaint Ep 46
From Enemy To Ally Ep 25
Emotional Regulation In Your Marriage Ep 35
Self-Soothe To A Happier Marriage Ep 38
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If you've been curious about how working through my AwakenYou in your marriage program can change your life, this week's interview with my client Arlene Mojica will help shed some light. As you listen to this interview, what you will hear over and over is Arlene's belief in how the program could change her life. Her belief in something she didn't even realize she needed is evidence of the astonishing results one can achieve when one trusts their mentor and process. This month's interview is a must-listen, and fun listen, enjoy!
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If you and your partner are super planners, then I am sending you a high-five; nice work on creating conversations where your future life together matters. I've discovered with my clients who aren't taking their future into their own hands that they are waiting for their partner to do it for them and then resenting them when they don't. If you are the planner, then here is how you can start the conversation. Even if you AREN'T a planner but want to be, this episode will help you get started. In this week's episode, I share the very steps that I used in my marriage to get this conversation started and how you can quickly begin these conversations or your own, starting this week.
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Would you recognize if you were acting contemptuously towards your spouse? Check out these three examples of contempt where you are placing yourself in a more "superior" position than your partner:⠀⠀
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Most of us might know that we're not enjoying the experience, whether it is us partaking in the act of contemptuous behavior or our partner. Still, we might not realize that we are being contemptuous. Contempt is like cyanide to your marital relationship, so knowing what it is and being committed to putting an end to it will be one step towards creating a marital dynamic that feels so much better. ⠀⠀
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Listen to this week's episode to find out what it is, how it might be a part of your relational modeling, and how to start changing your approach.⠀
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Have you ever wondered what you will think about your marriage when you get to the end of your life? Will you look back and smile at all of the love you created, all of the uncomfortable things you did to build the relationship of your dreams, or will you look back in regret over all of the love you missed out on? This week on the podcast, I share my end-of-year reflections, my 2022 projections, and a warning to those of you waiting for your marriage to "fix" itself.
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Many of us have stopped bringing up "touchy" topics with our partners because it creates conflict and unresolved anger, and it feels awful and gets us nowhere.⠀
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What if you discovered a different way to approach what is bothering you in your marriage, a way that would actually bring some discussion and understanding between the two of you? ⠀
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You may think complaining is something you shouldn't be doing in your marriage, but the truth is that most of us are doing it all wrong. Instead of complaining, we are using criticism which will drive nails into the coffin of our marriage. ⠀
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This week on the podcast, I will help you discover which one you are using when you are conveying how you feel about your spouse or what they did or didn't do, and then help you self-correct in a way that strengthens the relationship. Listen in to find ways to open up the conversation instead of shutting it down.⠀
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When we feel annoyed or frustrated with our partner, how we express our feelings determines whether we can let go of the disappointment or stay stuck in it. The secret to moving forward while getting to know each other better is how you approach what is bothering you. If you find yourself continually frustrated with your partner, this week's episode will shine some light on how to start getting more of what you want. Learn how to better communicate what you want and have a better chance of getting it.
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There are seven predictors that can help you see if your relationship is headed towards divorce. If your marital conflict discussions contain six of them, your marriage is predicted to last 5-6 years. If your marital conflict discussions don't contain these six divorce predictors, but your relationship does contain the seventh, it could take SIXTEEN years for that divorce to happen. SIXTEEN YEARS is a long time to be in a passionless marriage, especially when it's entirely possible to turn things around. This week I start a series where I discuss these seven indicators to use this information in your favor.
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Welcome to December and all of the things! The last month of the year can be an emotional tug-of-war for many of us. Commitments on top of an already over-committed schedule, reviewing the year and the list of things you said you would achieve but didn't, family...oh and then you might as well sprinkle a bit of all the extra food over the top of everything. This week on the podcast, I am sharing my best tip for handling all of the emotions that are about to come your way if they haven't already started flooding on in.
Allowing Emotions Equals A Happier Holiday Thursday, December 9, 2021, 5:30 pm CST
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This week was Expert Interview week on the podcast, and this interview is extra special because it was my first interview getting a man's perspective on all things marriage. Chris Plourde is a coach, businessman, father, and husband who has worked with top athletes, celebrities, and even military special operations. He mentors men to find their authentic selves and create leadership qualities to bring to their families, communities, and work-life. We talk about all things relationships and what it takes to make them work. Enjoy!
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Last week you learned what bids for attention are, and you learned that the way to create connection in your relationship is to turn towards your partner when you notice them tossing a bid at you. This week I share the three ways we can respond to our partner's bids, two of which might be unintentional acts that create the opposite of what we want in our marriage. Listen to this week's episode because what we don't know can tear us apart.
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Bids for connection are attempts to get someone's attention; any action intended to create a positive connection. They could be a simple smile or an out-of-place statement like "look at that dog over there!" Once you start paying attention to bids, you may be surprised to discover that your spouse is throwing bids that you might be dropping. This week's episode will help you understand what a bid for connection is, how to start making bids, and how to catch bids that are being tossed at you!
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Do you have a healthy marital emotional bank account? The balance of your marital emotional bank account tells a lot about how well you and your spouse communicate and problem solve. If communicating with your spouse seems challenging, you may want to check your account's balance. This week's AwakenYou episode will teach you all you need to know to get started. I share what an emotional bank account is, how too many withdrawals can wipe your account out, and help you create awareness around what negative interactions are versus positive so you can start the process of repair.
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Self-soothing is a way to bring ourselves to feelings of betterment to move forward from any negativity or emotional pain. In our marriages, it is a way to recognize when we are slipping, or crashing, into a negative emotion, put a pause on it, and take the time to look at what is happening within ourselves. Being able to self-soothe helps us grow, better understand our patterns, and bring us closer to our partner by handling conflict from a clean headspace. This week on the podcast, I explore self-soothing, how it can help build a happier marriage, and how to self-soothe.
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How well do you know about your partner? Your answer indicates your relationship's emotional intelligence. If that truth makes you feel a bit queasy, I want you to settle into a deep breath. Most couples have a surface-level knowledge of their partner, and that "getting to know you" better phase often gets overlooked after the year pass on. Knowing your partner is the foundation of a solid marital relationship, and the good news is that it is never too late to bridge the gap; learn how on this week's episode.
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If you've heard of Dr. John Gottman's discovery that the six-second kiss can improve the health of your relationship but haven't implemented it, then this week's episode will get you moving out of shame and into action. If you haven't heard of the six-second kiss, then it's even better because this week is all about what this relationship tool is, why it's so helpful, and how to move into being able to implement it.
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I talk a lot about emotions, with good reason; it is essential to understand emotional regulation within a marital relationship and why you might not be regulating your feelings. Lisa Feldmen Barrett suggests that "those who can put emotions into words, are less likely to use negative self-regulatory strategies such as..." acting out with aggression, harmful actions to self, and excessive buffering activities like over-eating and drinking. In this week's episode, I talk about emotional regulation, why it's a big deal and the process of how to regulate your own emotions.
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I think it is vital to continue the trend to help normalize mental health and mental illness so that people can start seeing the indicators that something might be off and feel comfortable seeking guidance from a health professional. After last week's discussion with Jessica Farmer about Navigating Your Partner's Mental Illness, I thought it would be appropriate to visit what mental health and mental illness are. This week I share differences and why it's essential to know these differences.
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This month's guest interview is with Jessica Farmer, a certified life and marriage coach who helps women who have husbands with mental illness. Helping women create confidence and connection with themselves and in their relationships, even with all the challenges that come up when there is a mental illness, is her passion. She is a mom to 4 kiddos and a puppy, loves hiking, running, and biking around her home in Washington state, and loves traveling with her husband.
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It isn't uncommon for most of us to have periods of our life where our emotions feel too much for us to handle, and when it is happening for our partners, it may be too much to figure out on our own. If you are wondering if your partner is struggling with their mental health, then listen to this week's episode where I chat with Jessica Farmer, a life coach who helps people navigate this season. Jessica shares comforting wisdom that might shed some light on what you may be seeing in your partner.
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Last week we explored the masculine way from David Deida's Intimate Communion, which helped reveal and understand all that is masculine in our partners and ourselves. This week on the podcast, I explore the feminine way to help show you that which might be the missing link in your life. Fully embracing your feminine essence is the key to feeling whole and purposeful and loved; listen in to see how this resonates for you. Revealing and revitalizing your essence is at the heart of AwakenYou, and through this series, you will open the door to your true essence in your life and marriage.
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Masculine essence prioritizes "life direction" - it is moved primarily by his or her life mission; it is the most important thing in their lives. Whereas the feminine essence prioritizes the "intimate relationship" - it is moved by his or her emotions in an intimate relationship. This week I explore chapter 8 of David Deida's Intimate Communion, which is all about the Masculine Way. I'm confident this episode will shed some light on why you and your man are showing up the way you are in your relationship.
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By the time most of my clients come to me, they have stopped dreaming about their future with their partner; they feel stuck in their marriage and their lives. The foundation of their marriage has crumbled, and the map they previously used to build their relationship no longer applies to their life. Now it is necessary to reformulate the new five foundations to develop their marital belief system and create a sustainable relationship that feels better than they ever imagined it could. In this week's episode, I share the five foundational pillars to building belief in the marriage you want to love.
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I still remember the day, driving out of the parking lot seeing my daughter looking out her dorm room window; the memory still brings me to tears. Days laying in her bed wondering how I would ever move forward don't seem that long ago. Looking back, I now see the grief I carried in my heart but had no idea what it was or how to deal with it. Eventually, I moved forward, but the process was painful, oh how I could have used Allie Hill Coaching to help me through that time. If you feel the effects of your children leaving the nest wondering what is next, then listen to this week's interview where Allie shares how to go from empty nest to happy nest.
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We've all done it. We've looked at what someone else has and think their life must be that much better than ours. We see another couple smiling at each other, sitting in that cute little restaurant while making up some fantasy about their romantic life while feeling sad because YOUR husband never does anything romantic. It's what we call looking at someone else's outsides and comparing them to our insides. Today we're going to look at the truth in that it's not better over there where you are looking and desiring what you are making up about what you see.
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Most of the obstacles that get in the way of achieving our happiest life and a joyfully connected marital relationship are emotional barriers, blocks in our mind that keep us from showing up in a way that gets us what we want in our life. This week's episode started titled "A Healing Journey" because removing many of our emotional barriers can be an emotional experience that feels healing. Healing because it makes us more whole and who we are. It tears away mechanisms we have installed to protect ourselves only to find they keep us from moving forward. In this episode, I share a personal breakthrough to help you better understand what this process is like; enjoy!
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If you and your partner aren't spending healthy time apart, then this episode is for you. If you want to spend time apart but are feeling guilty about it or, if you don't think it's healthy to spend time apart, please listen. The key to developing a vibrant relationship that will stand the test of time is developing a sense of self which can best happen when you spend time with yourself. I am exploring the excellence of this beautiful gift and letting go of the guilt I have burdened myself with around this desire; explore with me!
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The concept of enemy and ally in our marriage has currently been deeply resonating because of its simplicity. When I consider different ways we all struggle in our relationships and working through them in a way that benefits us and impacts the relationship positively, using these two lenses is a quick way to decide how we want to move forward. Listen in to this week's episode to discover a new way to approach challenging circumstances in your marital relationship.
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Martha Ayim, MA, is a master coach, level-3 trained in IFS (Internal Family Systems, an evidence-based, trauma-informed, and empowering approach that relies on a client’s intuitive wisdom to heal). She is the author of the e-book, 12 Surprising Steps to Stop Binge Eating, Starting with Your Very Next Urge, and the host of the 5-star-rated Done Bingeing Podcast. A former binge eater for nearly 35 years, Martha coaches through an IFS lens to help clients re-establish the internal leadership needed to heal the parts of themselves that make them do things they don’t want to do (e.g., binge, overeat, over-restrict).
Many of us practice behaviors that we don't fully understand, behaviors that we know aren't serving us, but we can't figure out how to stop them. Frequently these behaviors are in the way of us figuring out why we're not happy in other areas of our life, like our most intimate relationships. This interview with Master Certified Life Coach Martha Ayim is beyond good; it changed my life. Whether you struggle with binge eating or not, listen in, I promise you'll learn something about yourself!
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You all have heard me talk about the importance of feeling your emotions and processing emotions. In this week's episode, I take you through my process of processing emotions; I don't just explain it but take you through it so that you can do it for yourself. The only part missing is me being able to hear answers to my questions to help you better work through them. Want that? Then book a free session, and I will include that part!
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If you feel like your marital relationship has been in shutdown longer than the COVID shutdown we have experienced, this week's episode is for you. I talk about how we get to shutdown in our marriage and how we get to where we dream of being, which for most of us, is alive. Listen in to discover how you get there, that you're not alone and how to get back on track.
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Today I am sharing a little secret on the podcast about the power of pause at this time of the year, in your life. This process will fuel you with the power you need to keep making strides towards hitting that stretch goal you intend on achieving by the end of this year without crashing and throwing them in the trash.
If you've lost sight of the future you want in your life, listen to this week's episode and get yourself back on track.
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What does style have to do with your marriage? Imagine consistently feeling locked into an emotion that makes you feel like a goddess when you're with your partner. Of course, having the outfit that matches the desired goal ups the ante, and this month's guest is all about helping you achieve that goal. Judith Gaton is a lawyer turned style coach who enables you to show up in your life and marriage in a way that makes you shine from the inside out. Join our fun conversation about how to start pulling together a look you are in love with, every day. judithgaton.com
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Lost connection in your marriage is something many of us struggle with; I certainly did. Maybe it's something you've thought has always been missing, or it's something you feel has slowly dissipated; either way, it is 100% possible to bring connection into your marriage relationship, the type of connection you want. Tune into today's episode to find out how to create the connection you've been missing with your partner.
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This week on the podcast, I am teaching you how to own your emotions around how you are feeling about your partner. First, I will teach you how to recognize those emotions, determine why they are there for you and start taking responsibility for creating them. Then, as you repeat the practice I teach, you will begin to empower yourself to decide how you want to think and feel about what your partner says and does. So listen in and learn how to own how you feel so you can stop blaming your partner.
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Negative self-talk is a real thing, we all do it, but there is a practice different from believing the lies. A practice you can utilize to quiet those negative saboteurs while allowing you to hear them, recognize them, dismiss their lies and access the part of your brain that has your best interests in mind. In this week's podcast episode, I share five tips to help set you free from the control you're giving your brain over your body image sabotage.
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Jealousy is an emotion that most of us have felt on some level in our romantic relationships and is quite different from envy, a word often used interchangeably. I'll chat a bit about the difference while focusing on jealousy within romantic relationships and how it can bring up emotions that can push our relationship apart if we don't recognize the root of why we are feeling this emotion. Join me as I dig into what marital jealousy is and how you can start the process of letting go to build a more connected relationship with your partner.
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We're wrapping up this month sharing a fun interview with The Rebuilding Coach, Dawn Ziegerer, who helps women drop their emotional baggage and move into relationship freedom. Dawn is a fantastic storyteller who shares real-life experiences to help you better understand how your emotional baggage might be showing up and tearing apart your romantic relationship. Take a listen; I'd love to hear what resonated with you!
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Are you confident? What are you confident in? Are you confident in yourself? Are you self-confident? This week I explain the difference between the two and share why being confident doesn't always translate to being confident in yourself. Having self-confidence is a skill requiring the will to feel emotions that don't always feel the best. In this week's episode, you'll learn the difference between the two so you can start working on the confidence that is more important than any other thing you are confident doing.
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Marital confidence is the belief that you have the power to create a love-filled marriage relationship. Many of us lack that confidence, and it is the foundation of what we learn in AwakenYou in your marriage. Women come out of the program knowing that they are, and will continue, to do the work that will give them the results they love in their life and their marriage. In today's podcast, I share three reasons you lack marital confidence, and it's in the awareness that you begin to change.
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This special gift is for all of the amazing mammas, find yourself a cozy spot and enjoy.
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What did you find out this past week about trusting yourself? It's ok if you realized that it's true; you don't trust yourself; most people don't. You will never build the romantic marital relationship you dream of if you don't trust yourself to do so. So what do you do now? Listen in to this week's podcast, where I show you three powerful ways to build self-trust in yourself and others.
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Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018), The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing & Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020), Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June, 2020) and Dear Adult Daughter, With The Emphasis on “Adult” (July 2020). She lives in Southeastern Connecticut.
You can find Karen and learn more about her coaching program, The Mother Lode here: www.kclanderson.com
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Do you trust yourself? How do you know for sure? This week on the podcast, I give you a straightforward way to discover if you do trust yourself. I believed that I trusted myself until I asked myself this one question; this question opened my eyes to something I decided I wanted to change. After two years of teaching myself how to trust myself, I am forever grateful for this question.
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Welcome back to part six of my relationship intimacy series! Today we wrap up the series by talking about how to increase physical intimacy in your relationship. Over the next couple of weeks, I'm going to explore a few different aspects of physical intimacy that will help you right where you are in your relationship, helping you to sensitively take steps of exploring where you want to go from here.
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It's week four of our deep dive into learning what relationship intimacy is and how to create more of it in your marriage. We've talked about spiritual, emotional, intellectual intimacy, and this week I'm covering my favorite way to connect with others; through experiences. Experiential intimacy is encountering or undergoing something together, creating an intimate mixture through a personal encounter with your partner in close union. Ready to start adding some fun into your relationship? I suggest you start here!
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My short story about how I got here and why I'm so passionate about helping women find themselves and what happens to their marriage when they do.
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Today's expert interview is with Amanda Louder. Amanda is a Certified Life Coach who helps women from conservative Christian backgrounds love their sex life. She helps women embrace their sexuality to help them strengthen their relationship with themselves, their spouse, and God.
In addition to being a coach, Amanda has been married to her husband Kevin for 8 years. They have a blended family of 5 children ages 12-21 and live in Salt Lake City. In her spare time, she enjoys reading, watching her kids play sports, traveling, fishing, and camping.
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It's week four of our relationship intimacy talk, where we find new ways to create a well-rounded and deeply intimate relationship with our partner. This week, we're going to dig into what emotional intimacy is and how to get more of it in your relationship.
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It's part two of my deep dive into learning how to increase intimacy in our marriages. This week I'm examining mental intimacy, something I am exploring in many of my relationships because I am looking for connections to have more intellectual conversations. Though it's essential to see that not all of the connections you desire need to come from your partner, it's still important to connect on some level intellectually, feeling free to share your thoughts and appreciate your partner's ideas. Learn about how you can start taking steps to explore this area of intimacy in your marriage.
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Last week I started talking about the topic of intimacy. Over the next five weeks, I'll be doing a deeper dive into each of the different types of intimacy mentioned in that first article. This week is all about spiritual intimacy, which I define as being able to share your ideas about spirituality with your partner while allowing them to do the same in a supportive, non-judgemental way. Listen in as I share three ways to increase spiritual intimacy in your marriage.
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Maybe you want to learn how to be more intimate in your current relationship or want your partner to be more intimate. Join me in my upcoming series on intimacy; it will help you think differently about intimacy, know all the different ways we can express intimacy, and get you on the path of exploring the intimacy you want in your relationship. With that, let's talk intimacy!
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Today’s guest Candice Toone is a Master Certified Life Coach. She helps women stop wondering if they married the wrong guy and start trusting their choices again. She mentors in The Life Coach School’s Self Coaching Scholars program, coaches in Jody Moore's Be Bold membership, and guides her own clients – lovingly referred to as her Bees – in her private coaching program, Defying Gravity.
She holds a Master's degree in psychology from Utah State University and worked as a Marriage and Family Therapist before becoming a coach. She's a women's fiction author, a connoisseur of grapefruit juice, and a Jazzercise enthusiast who lives in Herriman, UT with her husband, 3 children, and their dog.
Listen in as this emotional expert shares her journey and how she helps women stop wondering if they married the wrong guy.
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Candice's recommended reading: Untamed by Glennon Doyle, The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown, Women, Food and God by Geneen Roth, Questions for Couples Journal, The Five Love Languages
I also mentioned the book I am currently reading: The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck, M.D.
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How to start loving yourself is a process that requires you to take the first step and that first step is you making a decision to have your own back.
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