OkayThoughts: Recent Episodes
Fikayo Kayode
In this podcast, I discuss and unpack the light and heavy stuff on topics like womanhood, race, growth, love, religion, relationships, school and so much more. Let's chat and learn from one another!
New stream-of-consciousness episodes where I talk as my soul inspires me to. Today, we are guided by the topic of friendships, how we ought to feel in fulfilling friendships, and what romance in platonic relationships can look like.
Inspirations - my thoughts and experiences. A book by Rhaina Cohen titled The Other Significant Others which was discussed in Trevor Noah's Podcast.
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Quitting a job sounds like a ridiculous thing to do in this economy?! But when your health and sense of fulfillment are in question, you might need to take the risk. Listen to hear the lessons I learned: quitting a 9-5, figuring out how to make a living, and learning to rest.
Subsance Filled Task - Take stock of commitments in your life - your job, places you go, your hobbies, what you spend your time thinking about. What really fills you up and what does fulfillment mean to you? What do you need to let go of to make space for other experiences?
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Get your notepads because this episode is packed with useful tips!
Sasha Paul, CPA graced us by sharing her lived and career experience on the idea and reality of money, spending, and budgeting. She and the host Fikayo, have been forming a friendship and professional relationship for around a year now, and having her on the show was a full-circle moment
Some people spend emotionally as a means of control, some do from a place of trauma, and sometimes, emotional spending is not always a negative thing to do.
Substance-Filled Question - How can we create fulfilling experiences for ourselves while being financially responsible?
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This episode is dear to me because not only do I have experience with the "shy/mysterious girl" idea setting me back, but so many other women do too.
What/who is a mysterious girl? Is it necessarily bad to maintain some level of mystery? I explore what this means, how it can be a destructive tool, a tool of the patriarchy, and why we need to stop placing so much value on social media ideas.
Today's substance-filled question -
"Are you maintaining mystery? Or are you stifling your creative?"
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The Soul & Substance Podcast!
We needed a change from "OkayThoughts" so a rebrand was the way to go 😍 I am so excited and honored to share this new era of intention and creativity with you all.
This episode explores the difficulty but importance of my podcast rebrand and what to expect from Soul & Substance going forward. Listen and share! ❤️
This week's Substance-Filled Quote:
"Don’t let perfection ruin your creativity, and don’t let the pressure to produce ruin your process. You are an artist- you must bask in what it means to create."
- Yours Truly.
Reflection can be a tool for learning and growth, but we often find ourselves thinking too far and dwelling unproductively on situations.
What are some signs that you've stopped reflecting and started overthinking? Negative self-talk is one of them. Listen to find out more about how to bring yourself back to productive reflection.
Hopefully, you can take insight from this episode and use it when you listen to the next OkayThoughts Reflection Session!
Tried identifying a joy per day?
Microjoys and glimmers have the power to improve your mood, nurture your mind, and keep you in your gratitude bag.
Listen to learn about why you should, and how you can incorporate more microjoys into your day. Really, into your life.
Source.
In her essay, Uses of the Erotic - The Erotic As Power, Audre Lorde describes the erotic as "a resource within each of us that lies in a deeply female and spiritual plane, firmly rooted in the power of our unexpressed or unrecognized feeling."
This episode explores that concept and I explain the erotic as a conversation between our intuition, values, and our daily lives. Do these reflect one another? Is there a disconnect? If so, how do we reconnect and get to a place where we are living our fullest, most capable lives?
As we step into 2024, what areas of your life need introspection?
Listen for guidance.
Read the full essay here - https://www.centraleurasia.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/audre_lorde_cool-beans.pdf
What sets your soul on fire? What do you wanna feel more of? Life does not give us enough time to ponder these questions without prompt. So here’s your prompt with some guides on how to find answers to these questions and feed your soul with some actions.
Here’s a question for you to ponder this week - do the things that you do for fitness align with your values for yourself?
Coming of age(s). That is the central topic of this episode where Asha and I recount how we met and became roommates, and how our relationship has blossomed as we have experienced each other grow and change positively over the past year. Grab a pen and a notepad because this episode is full of wisdom!
In today’s reflection session, the driving question is “what’s stopping you?” Your goals and desires deserve more than to sit in your mind and you deserve to see them come into fruition. So what are you waiting for? Listen and learn about dealing with potential “barriers” that may be hindering your fullness.
Why did we ever say we wanted to grow up? Being an adult can mean so many things at different points in your life, and navigating that in your 20s is a simultaneously daunting and rewarding experience. Reflect with me as I give some tips and hard truths about adulting. Check out another podcast I make reference to in this episode - ToMySisters Podcast.
This episode is beautiful balance of banter and insightful conversation. First guest on the show, videographer and artist Omotayo Bankole and your host, Fikayo chat about life experiences while home and abroad, creative outlets and inspirations, and living in the city of Halifax. Follow Tayo AKA Mr. BankOnIt @bkntvisuals on Instagram to check out his amazing talents and stay updated on his creative endeavours.
Ebbs and flows of nature resemble those in our lives as well. How do we go through nature’s rhythm more confidently? How can gratitude inspire hope?
Today’s episode explores the title’s question and proposes some food for thought for when we’re stuck on the “whys” of certain life experiences.
Almost a year ago, I took a while off needing a break, and here I am a year after coming out of another break. What happens when you need multiple breaks? I also talk about some lessons I've learned over this time.
This episode is a very much "stream of consciousness" type one. Raw and unedited. I am talking about the things I've learned/been through in the past few months. It's long and unfiltered so...enjoy!
After a long hiatus, I am back with another "versus" topic!! Why does society tell us to refrain from seeking validation when sometimes we need reassurance? There is a thin line between these two and on this episode, I unpack that.
In this weirdly put together episode of OkayThoughts, I make a distinction between caring about the characters in your life but not letting them dictate what your life should be. I also discuss money matters- should saving be a comfortable experience? Why should I even save?
On this episode of OkayThoughts, I discuss the romantic relationship culture these days, the difference between personality and habits when it comes to changing for someone and I unpack what it means to be hurt after someone that you bettered, did you wrong.
On this episode of OkayThoughts, I talk about what it means to truly go through the process of self-love. Alongside this, I expose some truths about society’s double standards when it comes to the empowerment of different bodies and what the term “preference should mean when it comes to relationships.