Middle Fingers Up: Recent Episodes
Kiran McKay
Welcome to Middle Fingers Up, the show where we keep our heads high and our middle fingers higher. We explore relationships, mental health and everything in between. Join me, Kiran McKay on the journey to learn, grow and find our voice.
Boy moms… this Gup Shup is for us.
After a recent conversation with my teenage son, I found myself reflecting on something I’ve been really intentional about while raising boys:
creating a home where disagreement feels safe.
IMO, so many boys grow up learning how to keep the peace… by staying silent but not necessarily how to communicate through conflict.
Especially in a lot of South Asian homes where boys are deeply loved, protected, and prioritized — but sometimes unintentionally taught that speaking up, pushing back, expressing frustration, or holding boundaries feels disrespectful. And because vulnerability is often discouraged in boys, we sometimes only allow emotion once it comes out as anger. So sadness becomes irritability. Overwhelm becomes shutdown. Hurt becomes rage. And emotional expression becomes acceptable only when it shows up loudly.
Later, I see so many adult men struggle with speaking up, communicating honestly, holding boundaries, or balancing the emotional pull between their relationships, their mothers, and their partners.
And honestly, I want something different for my boys. I want them to be able to stay connected to the people they love without losing themselves in the process. I also think when we talk about men’s mental health, we often start the conversation once boys have already become men. But sooooo much of it starts earlier.
We know suicide rates remain incredibly high in men. We know many men isolate their thoughts, suppress emotion, avoid vulnerability, or cope through distraction, overworking, substance use, or anything that helps “take the edge off” instead of actually processing what they feel.
And I can’t help but wonder how many boys first learned that emotional discomfort should stay inside
In this MFU Gup Shup, I’m reflecting on emotional safety, “good boy” conditioning, parenting with intention, boys and emotional suppression, and why emotionally safe relationships in childhood matter more than we realize.
I don’t believe boys magically become emotionally avoidant men overnight. And also, I’m not trying to raise “good boys.” I’m trying to raise emotionally whole men.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Some conversations stay with you because they answer questions. This one stayed with me because it opened more of them. Patty is back on the podcast after Episode 165 because honestly… we weren’t done yet. I love talking with Patty because whenever we get together – on or off screen, we ask about the things we have been wondering about.
Last time we talked about the emotional world of children of immigrants. The guilt. The obedience. The pressure. The ways so many of us learned to survive by being “good.” But underneath that conversation was something bigger around identity, belonging, and what it means to raise children across race and culture.
So this episode became two Brown women sitting together thinking out loud. Curious about interracial relationships. Curious about biracial identity. Curious about the “in between” worlds so many kids quietly navigate every single day.
Patty is an Indian psychologist, writer, and mother who raised two adult Black and Brown daughters in the U.S. and this conversation went far beyond the trap of “love is love.” We talked about the reality that interracial relationships are not all experienced the same way.
Because when a person of colour is in relationship with a white person, there are historical, societal, and systemic power dynamics there whether we name them or not. And part of the responsibility of the non BIPOC partner is not only understanding those dynamics themselves but helping their families understand their role in it too.
We talked about what it means to raise children who may constantly be navigating questions around belonging, visibility, identity, and worth. Kids who may not always have the language for what they’re experiencing but are absolutely feeling it.
And I keep thinking about this idea that whether our biracial kids talk to us about it or not, better believe they are living in an “in between” world. And we as parents are responsible for helping guide them toward wholeness instead of fragmentation. That there is no ‘half, quarter, but wholeness all around.
This conversation is layered, honest, curious, uncomfortable at times, and so so human. As you know, here at MFU, it is not about having all the answers, but about talking, building our own data. We are just scratching the surface.
Just two women sitting together trying to ask better questions.
We would love to keep this convo going, please reach out with your thoughts, feelings, experiences.
Follow Patty@pjtemple7
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
This episode felt special to me.
I sat down with Harvi — a soon-to-be high school graduate heading into psychology — for a conversation about growing up as children of immigrants, and honestly… it became so much bigger than I expected.
We talked about the invisible weight so many of us carry: the love, sacrifice, and survival behind our parents’ journeys, alongside the pressure to achieve, be grateful, stay “good,” and keep everything together.
And while preparing for this episode, I realized I didn’t want this to feel like a typical interview.
I kept thinking… what if Harvi and I approached this like we were writing a guidebook together? Not one with perfect answers, but one that tries to make sense of the complicated space between immigrant parents and their children.
And somewhere in the middle of preparing for this EP, the title became clear (LOL)
We Turned Out Fine… But Also, Did We?
A guide for immigrant parents, their children, and everything we’re still figuring out in between.
Throughout this conversation, we unpack:
-what our parents carried through migration, survival, and intergenerational trauma
-how pressure can sometimes be disguised as protection
-the “good daughter” role, how our mothers pass what they know down through their day to day, and how it shapes identity
-the myth of balance and why busyness often replaces peace
-mental health stigma in South Asian and immigrant communities
-achievement-based self-worth, perfectionism, and emotional suppression
-what it means to unlearn survival patterns that were once praised
and the complicated space between empathizing with our parents while still being honest about the impact certain things had on us
What I loved most about this conversation is that it never became a blame game. It became about curiosity. About trying to understand what shaped our parents… while also being honest about what shaped us.
Harvi brought so much wisdom, honesty, and gentleness into this conversation, especially as someone still living these experiences in real time. Huge shout out to this young, wise soul!
So whether you’re a parent trying to do better, a child of immigrants trying to understand yourself, or someone somewhere in the middle of both — I hope this episode makes you feel seen.
And maybe even gives you language for things you’ve felt for a really long time.
Instagram: harvi.gilll
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
This episode is dedicated to our bodies.
The Brown ones. The bloated ones. The strong ones. The “why is my head filled with negativity about my body" ones.
I've been thinking a lot lately about how we were taught to fix our bodies before fully living in them. How little we learned to trust our gut, to understand the connection between mind and body. And how hard it is now to tune in.
This week on Middle Fingers Up, I sit down with Andrea: a South Asian mental health professional and content creator based in Australia --to talk about body image, fitness culture, the flat belly myth, BMI, hormones, and the exhausting experience of trying to achieve a beauty standard many of us were literally never built for.
We talk about:
-striving for a whiter ideal(even when we think we aren't. )
-why generic health advice often fails Brown women
-and how our body becomes something we monitor instead of something we build a relationship with.
One of the biggest takeaways?
We may not be able to stop people from commenting on women’s bodies. Those aunties, guys and society...But we can stop turning those comments into our identity.
Also: maybe the goal isn’t a flat stomach.
Maybe the goal is finally taking up space without apologizing for it. The tummy is the new black.
Listen now if you’ve ever:
avoided the photo,
changed your outfit 14 times,
or believed your worth increased every time your body got smaller.
Middle Fingers Up to all of it.
Instagram: andreasamtani
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this episode, I sit down with psychologist and writer Patty for a powerful conversation about the inner worlds of children of immigrants and how childhood conditioning continues to shape adult identity, relationships, and wellbeing.
Patty brings both clinical expertise and lived experience as an Indian psychologist, a mother raising two biracial daughters, and someone navigating life and partnership across race and culture. Together, we explore how obedience, guilt, silence, and sacrifice are often normalized in immigrant households and how those patterns quietly follow people into adulthood.
This episode examines why so many children of immigrants grow up lacking language for their emotional experiences, how unprocessed conflict and missing repair shape anxiety and shame, and why saying “I turned out fine” often masks deeper burnout, disconnection, or physical symptoms. Rather than staying stuck in the past, the focus is on what healing can look like now and how doing this work impacts future generations.
From parenting differently, to redefining responsibility and gratitude, to understanding how the body holds stress and trauma, this conversation invites listeners to get curious, question inherited narratives, and reclaim authorship over their own lives.
If you grew up between cultures and have ever wondered “Where is this coming from?” or “Who am I outside of who I was taught to be?”, this episode offers language, validation, and a place to begin.
Instagram: pjtemple7
Website: pjtemple.com
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Wedding season is meant to be joyful, full of love, music, and celebration.
However in this EP, we are naming what happens when you’re walking into those spaces carrying something else.
A welcome back to guest to Mohini, who is here to share her experiences with the in-between moments—the ones we don’t always name. The reality that you can be genuinely happy for someone you love… and still be grieving, questioning, or processing something in your own life at the same time.
We get into what that actually looks like in real time, how unprocessed emotions don’t just disappear, they show up in the way we move, react, and cope. We also talk about the subtle (and not so subtle) ways divorced South Asian women are labeled in these spaces—and how that shapes the experience of being there.
This isn’t about taking away from the celebration.
It’s about giving ourselves permission to be honest about what we’re carrying while we’re in it.
If you’ve ever felt like you had to be “fine” in a room where you weren’t… this one is for you. And if you know someone that maybe isn't as 'fine' as they say to be- check in on them. Like one of those "but how are you really doing" kind of check ins. Wedding season can be tough, divorce stigma is a real thing, and we all can bring a little extra compassion with us.
You don’t have to be over it to show up. You just have to be honest about where you are.
Instagram: iammohinigima
CTA - This conversation doesn’t end here.
If something landed for you, reach out to Mohini via IG—she’s open to hearing your story and continuing the dialogue.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Featured in The New Yorker and The Guardian, Sarah is a Nigerian child of immigrants, raised in the UK and now based in Canada, whose work as a cartoonist captures the quiet, in-between moments we don’t always have the language for.
If you’ve ever found yourself in a room thinking, “why doesn’t this feel right anymore?”… this conversation will hit.
We talk about what it means to make sense of ourselves in a world that once taught us to suppress more than we expressed. From the question of “Do I belong, or am I just fitting in?” to navigating identity as children of immigrants, this conversation moves through the layers of growth, culture, and the subtle shifts that shape how we show up in our relationships.
Sarah shares how her art has become a mirror—especially for women of color—reflecting back the feelings so many of us carry but struggle to name. And I can say, she did exactly that for me.
This is for the woman who feels in-between... and is learning to trust what she feels, even when she can’t fully explain it yet.
Instagram: sarah_akinterinwa
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this episode, I sit down with artist, mother, and fellow Randhawa, Harleen, to explore what happens when we stop performing the lives expected of us and start expressing our truth.
Having immigrated to Canada as a baby, Harleen grew up in the in-between, navigating identity as a child of Indian immigrants while learning who she needed to be to belong. She shares her journey through body image struggles, fat shaming, and the pressure to be the “good girl, a version of herself shaped by family, culture, and the quiet weight of societal expectations.
From writing a letter to God at 12 asking why she didn’t look “right,” to navigating grief after the loss of her mother, to leaving corporate work life to pursue her art. This conversation is about unlearning. Unlearning the belief that our bodies are the problem. Unlearning the idea that being “good” matters more than being whole.
We talk about how beauty standards are constructed and reinforced, why fatness is so often villainized, and how language, family dynamics, and systems like patriarchy and white supremacy quietly shape what women believe they’re allowed to be.
We also explore what it means to mother yourself while raising daughters, to break cycles in real time, and to create a life where 'we' and the next generation don’t feel like we have to disappear to be loved.
At its core, this is a conversation about honoring your younger self, questioning the rules you were handed, and choosing joy, expression, and authenticity.
Join the conversation:
What’s one thing you’re ready to stop performing?
Follow Harleen’s work:
Instagram: harleen.illustrates
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
A song comes on… and I’m not here anymore. I’m in a neural time machine and 15 again. And I don’t just remember it—I feel it.
In this episode, I sit down with Nikki—a therapist with a Master’s in Arts and Counselling, and who I like to refer to as the voice behind The Mental Health Stylist. She blends fashion, music, and therapeutic insight in a way that makes nostalgia feel… deeper.
We talk about neural nostalgia—why music hits our body before our mind can catch up, and why the same songs can feel comforting… and heavier at the same time.
Nikki also shares her story—from growing up in a small Alberta town to building a life and practice in BC—and the identity shifts that shaped her along the way.
We get into:
how identity lives in the body, not just our thoughts
what women are really working through when it comes to identity and unlearning
why we were taught to disconnect from our bodies
what it means to outgrow versions of ourselves—but still feel attached to them
And we don’t avoid the harder conversations—like what it means for white people, especially therapists, to show up with awareness, accountability, and a willingness to be uncomfortable.
It’s reflective, honest, and one of those conversations that might make you pause the next time a song takes you back.
If that’s ever happened to you—this one’s for you.
What song takes you back in a neural time machine?
Instagram: nikkiroy.collection
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
We say it all the time: “I’m just here for the music.”
But… are we?
In this episode, I sit down with Ali from @itsrealitywithali to unpack something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately — how pop culture stopped being “just entertainment” and became a reflection of power, politics, and the systems shaping our everyday lives.
This conversation actually started in my own home. My kids have been asking questions like, “What’s this celebrity’s controversy?” — and it made me realize how different things are from how we grew up.
Now I find myself asking:
Am I helping improve things… or just participating without thinking about it?
Ali and I talk about what it really means to engage with the content we love — and how hard it can be to admit that “just entertainment” might not exist in the way we think it does. We get into the tension of separating the art from the artist, what it means to financially and socially support celebrities, and how influence, platforms, and power are all deeply connected.
We also explore how identity and privilege shape that experience — why some people can disconnect more easily, while others are already navigating what it means to not be centered in those spaces.
This isn’t about getting it perfect.
It’s about asking:
What am I engaging with? What am I supporting?
And am I willing to look at it through a more critical lens?
Instagram: itsrealitywithali (you can find Ali on Tik Tok and YouTube)
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
This episode is about shifting the way we think about our bodies — even as our day-to-day bumps up against old rules, comparisons, and messages (or should we say misogynies) we’ve inherited.
We are here to challenge the pressure to look a certain way, diet culture, celebrity trends, or "finishing the plate". It’s about noticing what our bodies are actually carrying and listening without shame.
Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought, “How did my body get here?” Life happens: stress, grief, motherhood, getting older, carrying more than you used to. And yet the advice so many women hear is the same: eat less, move more.
In this MFU gup shup, I sit down with returning guest Shuraya to talk about what our bodies really carry. Shuraya shares how losing her father showed up physically — from unexpected weight changes to a hypertension diagnosis — and how therapy helped her finally listen to her body and respond with care instead of guilt.
We also discuss the ACEs tool (Adverse Childhood Experiences) and why early life stress and trauma can show up physically years later, shaping health in ways we rarely talk about.
At the heart of this episode is one simple, radical idea: sometimes the better question isn’t what’s wrong with my body?
Maybe the real question is: what has my body been carrying?
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Safe space. You’ve heard the term everywhere lately — but what does it actually mean? Who is responsible for the 'safety' part of the space?
In this gup shup, we sit with a phrase that shows up everywhere lately: safe space.
From social media to wellness circles to community conversations, the language is everywhere — but the experience doesn’t always match the label.
Looking at the roots of safe spaces in Black civil rights organizing, feminist consciousness-raising groups, and queer and trans communities, alongside trauma-informed practice and psychological safety research, we explore what it really means to hold space for one another.
Historically, these spaces weren’t created to remove discomfort. They were created so people could speak honestly, question power, and sit with difficult truths without fear of punishment or harm.
Because at the end of the day, safety comes before connection.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this episode of Middle Fingers Up, we sit down with Rama Swamy, a pelvic floor practitioner and physiotherapist who immigrated from India, for a necessary and overdue conversation about women’s health — the parts we were never taught to understand, name, or advocate for.
Drawing from her lived experience with pregnancy, birth, and postpartum recovery, Rama shares how cultural taboos, education gaps, and the normalization of women’s pain led her to specialize in pelvic health. Together, we unpack how silence — at home, in culture, in schools, and in healthcare systems — teaches women to endure rather than investigate what’s happening in their bodies.
From the isolating period stories many South Asian women grew up with, to the ongoing fear around teaching children about bodies, hormones, and autonomy, this conversation challenges the idea that symptoms like chronic stress, mood swings, poor sleep, pain, or recurring infections are “just normal.”
A key part of this episode focuses on teaching body literacy early — long before puberty or “the talk.” We explore how everyday moments, starting as young as diaper changes, can lay the foundation for consent, confidence, and body awareness, and how early education helps reduce shame, stigma, and delayed care later in life.
This episode reframes women’s health as head-to-toe and deeply interconnected — where hormones affect sleep, mood, brain function, stress, and pelvic health — and why ignoring early signs doesn’t make them disappear, it simply pushes them further into the body.
CTA:
If you grew up in the dark about your body — or you’re trying to raise children with more honesty, language, and confidence than you were given — this episode is for you. Listen, share it with someone who needs it, and help us break the cycle of silence around women’s health, one conversation at a time.
Instagram: _rama.swami_
www.lakeviewphysio.ca
www.healwithgrit.com
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this episode of Middle Fingers Up, I’m in conversation with Farida D, author of The Shit That Made Me a Feminist — a body of work that names the lived realities many women are taught to swallow quietly.
Out of respect for her safety, this episode is audio-only. Farida’s work — which centers women of color, power, rage, and structural inequality — does not allow her the privilege of visibility without risk. And yet, she has chosen not to stop. She continues to speak, write, and show up for women, even when doing so requires navigating the cost of being seen.
This conversation moves through the “shit” that made feminism unavoidable — the moments where being grateful was expected instead of being honest, where motherhood shocked the system, where rage became information, and where the bar for men ended exactly where it began for women.
We talk about:
Why we are all born feminist, long before we have language for it
How boys are given credit before they’re even born
Why we do not choose our privileges or our oppressions
The difference between having access to education but not access to safety
Why this work is about structures, not individual people
And why naming what’s happening is the first step to understanding it
This episode is a reminder to trust your rage, "to feel the fire already inside you"
There is space for all of us — but not without truth.
IG: @farida.d.author
🎧 Audio-only episode
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
The one where we stop pretending everything’s fine just to keep the peace.
In this episode, I sit down with Kam Bassier (from Episode 136: “You’re Not Lazy, You’re Burnt Out”) to talk about a tension so many BIPOC adults are carrying right now:
Why are we — the kids of immigrant parents, BIPOC millennials and Gen Z — having conversations our families never could?
Why does naming pain feel like betrayal?
And what does breaking cycles actually look like in real life?
We talk about harmony culture in collectivist and immigrant families — where keeping the peace wasn’t about comfort, it was about survival and appearances. But when harmony is prioritized over accountability, the emotional weight doesn’t disappear. It gets stored in our bodies and shows up later as burnout, people-pleasing, numbing, substance use, overworking, resentment, and silence in our marriages and parenting.
This conversation isn’t about tearing our parents down.
It’s about understanding what they couldn’t take responsibility for — so we don’t keep carrying it, and so we don’t pass it on to our kids.
What we get into:
Gratitude and grief can coexist — you can honor the sacrifices and name the emotional gaps
Why “they did their best” often shuts down real healing
How choosing peace over accountability trains us to minimize ourselves
Why inner-child work isn’t cute — it’s necessary
Rest, boundaries, and feeling all emotions (not just “happy”) as acts of resistance
A raw moment about quitting weed — not because it’s bad, but because numbing became easier than feeling
Not everyone in your family will be ready for this work — and that’s okay. You don’t need permission to heal. The work may feel lonely, but it’s how cycles end and new ones begin.
One thing to take away:
You can love your family deeply and still choose healing over fake harmony.
The next generation is watching what we do with what we were handed.
Instagram: kambassier
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Taken from South Korea as a baby, removed from his culture, and told it’s for a “better life” that he "wasn't wanted". This is the reality behind many international adoptions.
In this episode, I speak with Moses, a therapist, advocate, and human being whose lived experience gives him a unique perspective on how 'adoption' functions as an industry of child trafficking. Through his work, he challenges the narratives that frame removal as rescue, and exposes how children are commodified, displaced, and erased for profit.
We explore commodification: turning human beings, culture, and lived experience into something that can be bought, sold, or managed, stripping away history and rights.
We also confront a common question: Isn’t it better to give an unwanted child a “good North American life”? Moses explains why this belief is a false narrative that assumes Western life is superior, erases the abuse many children experience, and leaves some struggling with trauma so severe that many have taken their own lives.
This episode challenges the fantasy, the brainwashing, and the language that normalizes global-scale harm, asking listeners to see 'adoption' for what it often is: a system that commodifies children and erases their histories.
Instagram: mosesafarrow
societyforadoptiontruth.org
thetruthguide.com
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
I came across Shawn Ahmed’s work the way so many of us do now — through a moment of laughter that quietly turned into curiosity. What followed was a conversation that went far deeper than comedy.
Shawn is a South Asian Canadian actor with an impressive body of work across television, film, and comedy — and in this episode, we talk about what lives beneath the credits. Growing up in that in-between space — being Canadian while being raised by immigrant parents — and how that lived experience shapes creativity, confidence, and the risks we take.
We explore what it means to choose a path that isn’t considered “safe,” how family support shows up in subtle ways, and what early auditions teach you about how the world sees you before you even speak. We also get into the tension many South Asian artists face: wanting the freedom to play roles not defined by race, while knowing that representation still matters — especially for the kids watching from the sidelines, wondering what’s possible for them.
This conversation isn’t about arriving at neat answers. It’s about staying in relationship with yourself, trusting your voice, and giving yourself permission to want more — even when it doesn’t match the script you were handed.
If you’ve ever felt caught between worlds, expectations, or versions of yourself — this one will land.
Instagram: iamshawnahmed
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
We’ve all been in rooms where the energy doesn’t match the claim of being a safe space - overthinking, comparing, and surface-level talk are what tends to go down instead. I sat down with Arunie, Psychologist with PCHS Calgary and co-host of Brown Girl Problems, for a conversation that goes beyond surface-level chats. Arunie highlights the truth behind the pressure to turn trauma into currency, and what it takes to build connection and support beyond the surface. We explore what brown women are tired of carrying, what we’re quietly unlearning together, and how to show up for each other - listening deeply, celebrating honestly, and supporting without competing, comparing, or explaining ourselves. Arunie 's MFU is a CTA in how we are showing up as a community.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Reshma Kearney returns to Middle Fingers Up following Episode 128, where she first shared her experience of losing her husband to suicide and raising three children through grief. In this conversation, we go deeper — into what grief looks like over time, how it lives in the body, and how it quietly shapes our mental health, parenting, and sense of self.
We talk about grief as an ongoing relationship rather than something to “get over,” how Reshma’s trauma-informed yoga and mindfulness work has evolved, and what she’s learning as a mother raising one son and two daughters through loss. We explore gendered grief, breaking South Asian cultural silence, emotional safety for boys, and what it means to raise the next generation with more permission to feel.
This episode is about breath, stillness, boundaries, and the courage to protect your peace — especially during transitions and the holidays. It’s about what grief takes, what it gives, and what we carry forward.
Because grief isn’t linear — and healing doesn’t mean forgetting.
Find Reshma on Instagram reshmakearney for more on her work and family updates.
Short, practical reminder: grief is about what we carry forward as much as what we’ve lost.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this episode of Middle Fingers Up, we sit down with Rahell, a 23-year-old mixed-race individual navigating identity, privilege, and growth.
Rahell shares his experience as a “passing white kid” unpacking whiteness — what it meant to belong in some spaces, and what it cost in others. He talks about how hip-hop shaped his understanding of culture, power, and resistance, and the ongoing work of unlearning misogyny with honesty and accountability.
From childhood experiences in hockey and school that exposed racial divides, to reflections on survival, community-building, and responsibility in anti-racism work, this conversation explores the in-between spaces many mixed-race people live in.
As Rahell says, “We are not math problems.” Identity isn’t something to calculate or explain away — it’s something lived. He challenges listeners to move beyond surface-level allyship and ask, “What do I actually want from societal change?”
And for anyone listening who considers themselves aware, supportive, or “one of the good ones,” this episode quietly asks:
If the people most impacted by your actions feel dismissed, exhausted, or blamed — is it possible your intention to help is getting in the way of your ability to listen?
Whether you’re mixed-race, raising mixed kids, or reflecting on your own identity and blind spots, this episode offers an honest dialogue on healing and what it means to show up with integrity.
New episodes drop regularly—subscribe now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite platform!
Instagram: rahell_theg.o.a.t23
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this episode of Middle Fingers Up, I sit down with Nisha Mody, the relational and trauma-informed coach known online as Healing Hype Girl. Nisha shares her raw journey from a childhood marked by strict expectations and silenced playfulness to navigating codependency in a marriage to an addict, ultimately choosing divorce, childfree living, and reclaiming her voice. Together, we get into the common struggles of South Asian women—living on autopilot, breaking harmful cycles from family conditioning, and creating new norms rooted in self-worth, boundaries, and joy.
Nisha offers practical insights on unlearning people-pleasing, identifying core values, and fostering interdependence in relationships, while touching on broader themes like global impact post-October 7th, consumerism, and collective healing. Whether you're an overthinker seeking clarity or ready to disrupt patriarchal patterns, Nisha's story and tools will inspire you to meet yourself where you're at and embrace radical self-expression.
Tune in for reflections, actionable advice, and a teaser for part two on patriarchy, misogyny, and modern dating. Follow Nisha on Instagram and TikTok @healinghypegirl for more on her upcoming memoir, coaching programs, and Substack Memoirs of Amnesia. What cycles are you ready to break?
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Be A Tiger is an episode about what it really means to grow up as a South Asian girl who’s told to be strong… while also being told to stay quiet, stay small, and don’t make anyone uncomfortable.
In this conversation with award-winning author Kelly Kaur, we step into the world of Letters to Singapore through Simran — this young brown girl who is trying to hold herself together as an immigrant student from Singapore to Calgary in the 80's. As if the adjustment as a new comer isn't enough, Simran is also juggling carrying family expectations, culture, patriarchy, and a kind of freedom she wasn’t prepared for.
We talk about that early line her father gives her — “Be a tiger” — and how that message changes as we grow up. What it means to be a tiger as a girl, what it means as a woman, and what it means when you finally start choosing yourself.
And we go into the things we all know but rarely say out loud:
• What it meant in the ’80s to “stand out in front of white people” — and the survival skills coded into that
• What happens when you suddenly have freedom after being raised with none
• How our older women — who were once the bullied ones — can become the gatekeepers
• How patriarchy follows us from our parents’ homes straight into our marriages
• And what today’s immigrant students are actually facing — the racism, the headlines, the sound bites that blame them for everything while erasing the systems exploiting them
This episode is for every woman who grew up in-between… shapeshifting,
for the ones who learned to roar quietly…
and the ones who are setting the example to roar out loud. This episode is also for the brave man who wants to address his misogyny and set an example for the next generation. (We know you are out there )
Follow Kelly on Instagram: @kellykaur3
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Before we get into this episode, I want to name something real: there’s a moment in life when grief meets growth. Our guest Shri lived that moment. And today, she’s helping us understand it.
Grief has a way of interrupting your life—
but life never stops interrupting your grief.
My guest today, Shri, knows this intimately.
Within 18 months, she lost her father and sister… all while she was pregnant with her daughter.
Imagine grief and life entering the room at the same time. That collision changed her. It made her choose something most of us avoid:
To stop functioning.
And start truly living.
Before you listen, I want to ask you one thing:
“When was the last time you told yourself the truth about how much you’ve been carrying?”
Sit with that. Because this episode is going to meet you right there.
We talk about the things people don’t say out loud:
Is it okay that I’m still crying?
* Why do I feel guilty for slowing down?
Why does grief feel like I’m failing at life? * How do I grieve when I’m a mother, a partner, a daughter — all at once?
Shri and I unpack the myths we inherited — “be strong,” “move on,” “don’t feel too much” — and how they keep us stuck and disconnected from ourselves.
We dive into South Asian conditioning, the guilt that comes with choice and privilege, and the embodied ways grief stays alive in us long after the world thinks we’re “fine.”
Some of Shri’s words you’ll hear:
“Grief is a life force.”
“You already have everything it takes to heal.”
“There is no timeline to grief.”
This episode is your reminder that you’re allowed to be human.
You’re allowed to feel.
You’re allowed to slow down.
And you’re allowed to heal without performing strength for anyone.
If you’ve been running from your grief… let this conversation be the moment you turn toward it — gently, honestly, and maybe for the first time, supported.
Instagram: transforming.through.grief
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this gup shup, I want to talk about something we don’t talk about enough —
rebuilding our relationship with ourselves during perimenopause.
Not the charts.
Not the protein grams.
Not the supplements or the workouts.
Those matter — trust me, I’m on top of them.
But I’m realizing I’m ready to focus on something deeper:
How do I stay in relationship with myself while everything in me is shifting?
Mood swings? Check.
Brain fog? Check.
Zero patience? Check.
Crying in the laundry room? Check.
Feeling like your body isn’t yours? Check.
This is perimenopause.
This is hormones rewriting the rules without asking for permission.
Progesterone (pro-JESS-ter-own — the hormone that’s supposed to chill us out) drops. Hard.
When it drops?
Anxiety spikes.
Sleep tanking.
Irritability shooting up.
Body stores fat differently.
Joints ache.
Libido shifts.
Stress response goes haywire.
Emotions sit right under your skin — raw, reactive, ready.
And we’re still expected to “function normally.”
This phase calls us back to the relationship we have with ourselves — right now, in this body, in this season.
Not the old version of us.
Not the one patriarchy shaped.
This version.
This hormonal tornado.
This woman who’s trying, learning, changing, holding so much.
And if you’re going through this “second puberty” with a male partner — here’s a quick heads-up for him:
Listen. Step up. Be the safe place. Learn what’s happening inside her.
That’s my gup shup.
That’s where I’m at.
And if you’re here too — you’re not alone.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this episode of Middle Fingers Up, I sit down with Christian Ortiz — Afro-Indigenous social scientist, technologist, and creator of Justice AIGPT — and this conversation hit me on so many levels.
Christian grew up as a latchkey kid in 80s/90s Los Angeles and later confronted internalized racism, machismo, and white supremacy in the American South. With a fierce single mother, and a lifetime of asking “why?” shaped a mission bigger than tech: challenging the systems that shape us before they erase us.
This isn’t just a conversation about AI — it’s about identity, conviction, and the systems that shape our daily lives in ways we barely notice. We talk about how much AI is already embedded in our day-to-day, from the feeds we scroll to the faucets we wash our hands under — and how often we think these systems are broken, when really they were never built to recognize people like us.
Christian breaks down how bias is coded into these tools, why decolonizing technology is not a luxury but a form of survival, and what it means for BIPOC communities. What I loved most? He doesn’t lecture. He doesn’t sugarcoat. He tells his story — and in doing so, holds up a mirror.
You’ll walk away questioning the systems you’ve trusted, the stories you’ve inherited, and the parts of yourself you’ve outgrown. And you’ll hear the conviction behind his words:
“If I can change, there’s no way in hell you can’t.”
This episode is for anyone ready to question, reflect, and see how our voices need to be at the table shaping the future — not erased by it.
JusticeAIGPT - www.justiceaigpt.ca
Instagram: zacatecho
Linktree - OfficialChristianOrtiz
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Ever feel guilty for not feeling festive?
The holidays are sold as sparkle and joy — and honestly, it starts in August the moment the gingerbread hits store shelves. The holiday decor floods every aisle...
But for many of us, what follows isn’t joy. It’s guilt — spiraling that we’re falling behind and it’s only mid-summer — overstimulation, pressure to spend, perform, and somehow stay grateful while losing our minds.
Maybe it’s the Secret Santa gift that assumes your culture (“Indian chai” for the brown girl — like, we like winter pine candles too ).
Maybe it’s the small talk that pokes at your job, your relationship, or the kids you don’t have.
Maybe it’s hiding your pronouns, your sexuality, or the truth about who you love — just to keep the peace.
Maybe it’s the drinks at every gathering — not because you want them, but because refusing feels too complicated when family, tension, and history are on the table.
Or maybe it’s that post-holiday crash, when the quiet hits harder than the chaos.
This week, founder of Lotus Pathways, Psychotherapist, Shagun Sharma returns to unpack the guilt and obligation so many of us carry
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How overstimulation and social fatigue drain our nervous systems
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The blurry line between celebration and numbing out
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How to prepare for the post-holiday blues — without shame
You don’t owe anyone your sparkle or your performance.
Just be present with where you’re at.
Tune in. Breathe. Be.
Instagram: lotuspathways
Linktr.ee: lotuspathways
Website: lotuspathwayspsychotherapy.com
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
This one made me laugh, pause, and think.
I get to sit down and really get to know Calgary comedian and Planet Jerf host Jeff D'Silva—the stories behind his humor, how he sees the world, and the experiences that shaped him. We talk about biracial parenting, Calgary mall culture, and what it was like growing up Pakistani-Canadian in the 80s.
I first came across Jeff after hearing his viral South Centre Mall song—the one calling out how white Calgarians “go there to get away from us POC.” It’s funny, sharp, and uncomfortable in the best way. And I knew I had to talk to him.
We get into the identity tightrope of being between worlds, what it’s like getting racism from both brown and white folks, and how raising empathetic kids might just be the biggest act of resistance and love.
Listen for:
The South Centre Mall song that started it all
Real talk on biracial parenting and identity
How comedy can challenge and connect us
This one’s for anyone who’s ever questioned where they fit—and learned to find belonging on their own terms.
Instagram: jeffdsilva
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Have you ever asked yourself why so many of us first-gens ended up dating or marrying white people? I have! I see now that our immigrant parents’ survival strategies — keeping your head down, working hard, staying small — shaped ours. And for our generation, that survival often meant assimilation, performing the “white version” of ourselves — at work, in friendships, even in love.
In this intimate gup shup, I want you to know: you are not alone. Naming what’s happening, sharing our experiences together, and unpacking these survival strategies is necessary. I share what it’s like to wake up and realize we were digested, not seen — and how doing this deep work can actually strengthen relationships with white partners who met us as the “white version” of ourselves.
If we are raising biracial kids, this work becomes even more important. The more we understand ourselves, the more we can show them authenticity, self-respect, and the courage to claim their identity fully.
It’s messy. It’s uncomfortable. But it’s necessary. Thriving doesn’t come from performing. It comes from standing fully in your truth, holding space for your partner, and building a foundation for the next generation to grow strong and confident in who they are.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Hey everyone, quick question — when was the last time you really talked about periods? Not whispered, not joked about… I mean honest, open, real talk.
If that made you pause, this one’s for you — and for the men in our lives too: dads, brothers, partners, sons… anyone who wants to understand better.
Dr. Anne invited me to sit down with her as part of her month-long speaker series celebrating her book "The Period Literacy Handbook" turning one — now available as an audiobook — and since then, she’s launched her podcast, Phase to Phase: The Hormone Health Show.
We dug into some of the things we were never taught, the things we sometimes hide, and the ways we can start changing the conversation at home. Some of it might surprise you.
So whether you bleed or love someone who does, this conversation is for you. It’s not a flaw — it’s flow
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
You ever meet someone who reminds you that healing doesn’t always happen in therapy — sometimes it happens in the kitchen?
In this episode of Middle Fingers Up, Kiran Randhawa sits down with Bengali home cook, mother, and storyteller Shuraya Bhatti, whose journey from grief to growth will make you rethink what it means to take care of yourself.
After losing her father, Shuraya turned to food — not just to cook, but to connect. What started as a way to honor her roots became a space where strangers walk into her home and leave as community. Together, we talk about the power of slowing down, how ADHD shaped her work and motherhood, and why immigrant women need to stop apologizing for resting.
You’ll walk away thinking about:
How grief can actually spark creativity and connection
The freedom that comes when you let yourself be imperfect
Why taking a long shower isn’t selfish — it’s survival
How storytelling, community, and self-compassion help us heal what we never got to name
This conversation isn’t about cooking — it’s about coming home to yourself.
Raw. Honest. Exactly what you didn’t know you needed today.
Connect with Shuraya:
Find her at shurayaskitchen.ca, on Instagram and Facebook (@shurayaskitchen), and at her monthly cooking classes in Calgary.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Join Kiran Randhawa as she sits down with Mano Mishra, a community leader, yoga teacher, and advocate for women’s health and immigrant voices. Mano shares her journey from Uttar Pradesh, India, to building a new life in Calgary—facing isolation, career setbacks, and the challenges of starting over. Through her story, Mano reveals how volunteering, yoga, and a commitment to kindness helped her overcome depression and create supportive spaces for women navigating menopause, mental health, and life transitions.
In this conversation, Mano discusses breaking cultural taboos, the importance of self-compassion, and why acceptance and gentle movement are essential for well-being at any age. Whether you’re seeking inspiration, practical advice, or a reminder of the power of community, this episode is for you.
Key themes: immigrant resilience, women’s health, menopause, yoga, mental health, breaking stigma, self-compassion, community support.
Instagram: yog_yogstudio
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this episode of Middle Fingers Up, host Kiran Randhawa sits down with community consultant, speaker, and Catalyst podcast host Nike Aurea for a deep dive into what it truly means to build and belong in community—beyond convenience and into real responsibility. As a first-generation daughter of West African immigrants, Nike shares how her upbringing in Atlanta shaped her unapologetic approach to advocacy and self-advocacy. "I always knew where I was from. I always knew about the food, the culture, language and with that also the history," she reflects, crediting her parents for instilling a strong sense of self through intentional storytelling and exposure to global histories, like films on South African apartheid.
The conversation explores the intersections of education, care, and strategy, challenging listeners to rethink belonging. Nike disrupts common narratives around "mammification"—the expectation placed on Black women to carry endless emotional labor.
Tune in for an inspiring discussion on unlearning stereotypes, setting boundaries with grace, and why "clarity is care" in fostering thriving spaces. If you've ever questioned your role in community or felt the weight of unspoken expectations, this episode will leave you empowered to show up authentically.
Instagram: nikeaurea
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Join host Kiran Randhawa on Middle Fingers Up for a heartfelt conversation with Shagun Sharma, registered psychotherapist and founder of Lotus Pathways. In this episode, Shagun shares her journey from a curious six-year-old in downtown Toronto's Cabbagetown neighborhood—where she first witnessed the realities of homelessness and mental health struggles—to becoming a trailblazer in culturally sensitive therapy.
"I wanted to be a therapist since I was six years old,"
Shagun reflects, inspired by her older sister's guidance and her own immigrant roots as a South Asian woman. Together, they dive into dismantling mental health stigmas in immigrant and South Asian communities, exploring barriers like self-judgment, high costs, and generational pressures that prioritize "protection, protection, protection" over open emotional discussions.
Shagun emphasizes creating "spaces that are culturally safe and validating where people can genuinely begin to untangle" intergenerational burdens, while addressing how social media and collective cultural norms often leave individuals feeling isolated. Whether you're navigating your own mental health path or seeking to understand systemic challenges, this episode offers validating insights on building rapport, normalizing therapy, and fostering community support. Tune in for an honest look at why "get over it" narratives persist and how we can collectively tackle them.
Instagram: lotuspathways
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Website: lotuspathwayspsychotherapy.com
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this episode of Middle Fingers Up, host Kiran Randhawa sits down with Kam Bassier—fitness and life coach, father, husband, and self-proclaimed student of life—to unpack the emotional and physical toll of burnout and the radical power of rest.
Kam’s story begins in Guyana, shaped by intergenerational trauma, hustle culture, and the immigrant grind. But what makes this conversation unforgettable is Kam’s vulnerability and wisdom as he reflects on his journey from survival mode to intentional living.
“We’ve been plopped on Earth with no manual,” Kam says. “So I’m just trying to figure out the best way to go about this thing.”
Together, Kiran and Kam explore how our childhood scripts—especially those rooted in immigrant households—shape our adult lives. From the glorification of hustle to the shame around rest, Kam challenges listeners to rethink what it means to be productive.
“No one is going to tell you to slow down,” Kam warns. “You have to choose it. You have to disrupt the pattern.”
This episode is a masterclass in nervous system regulation, inner child work, and redefining self-worth. Kam shares tangible tools for getting unstuck, including the power of sleep, body scans, and intentional boundaries.
“Healing isn’t nice—it’s necessary,” Kam reminds us. “And rest isn’t laziness. It’s survival.”
Whether you’re a burnt-out parent, a high-achieving professional, or someone simply trying to feel better in your body, this conversation will leave you full—like a nourishing meal that doesn’t need dessert.
What You’ll Learn:
- Why rest is harder than hustle—and how to change that
- How immigrant narratives shape our relationship with work
- The link between nervous system regulation and emotional resilience
- Practical ways to disrupt your daily patterns and reclaim your energy
- Why healing requires conscious engagement, not just reflection
Guest Info: Follow Kam Bassier on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube @kambassier. Kam helps burnt-out adults build sustainable routines that support their physical, emotional, and relational health.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this episode of Middle Fingers Up, host Kiran Randhawa sits down with multi-award-winning author and speaker Kalyani Pardeshi to unpack the hidden layers of self-bullying, inner critics, and the emotional legacy of growing up in immigrant households. From confronting toxic family dynamics to redefining success and self-worth, Kalyani shares raw, relatable stories and transformative insights that challenge cultural norms and empower listeners to reclaim their mental wellness.
Whether you're navigating guilt, burnout, or the pressure to perform, this conversation offers a compassionate roadmap to healing and growth. As Kalyani says, “You’re not what you do. You’re not what you have. If you keep seeking your worth in that, you’re setting yourself up for a lifetime of unhappiness.”
Books:
"Beyond The Inner Critic - Identify where you are being the villan in your own story"
"UNBULLIED"- 14 techniques to silence the critics internally and externally
Instagram: kalyanispeaks049
Linktree @kalyanispeaks
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
This isn’t just another parenting conversation. It’s a raw, honest look at what happens when the triggers of childhood meet the triggers of parenting.
In this episode, I sit down with Shuraya Akhter Bhatti—a Bengali home cook, curry class entertainer, and soulful storyteller with a gift for making the hard stuff human. Through the beautiful metaphor of a tiffin, we unpack the emotional layers we all carry: trauma, transition, and the healing work we owe ourselves and our kids.
From navigating ADHD at home to breaking free from intergenerational cycles, Shuraya doesn’t hold back. “Kids are walking trigger bombs,” she says, “and every parent will be triggered in some way. Let’s talk about it.”
This conversation will make you laugh, make you think, and maybe even make you cry. But more importantly—it will remind you that healing is possible, and repair is always within reach.
- “You can’t heal your kids if you haven’t started healing yourself.”
- “We’re not just parenting our kids—we’re parenting ourselves and our parents.”
- “Be kind. Start with yourself.”
If you’ve ever wondered why parenting feels so hard—or how to actually build more empathy, regulation, and connection in your home—this episode is your tiffin. Full of wisdom. Full of heart. Full of truth.
Instagram: @shurayaskitchen
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
"At Least It’s Not Worse…” — Why We Rush Gratitude and Skip Our Feelings
We’ve all done it.
Someone shares they’re struggling, and we say:“Well, at least it’s not…”
But what are we actually doing when we say that?
In this Gup Shup, I’m unpacking how this reflex comes from both our brains and our cultures — and how it might be doing more harm than good.
-Why we rush to be grateful
- How the brain tries to protect us
- What we miss when we skip feelings
-And why we’re giving middle fingers up to guilt-based gratitude
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve said that—“I’m so tired… but I didn’t even do that much today.”
And for so many of us, especially in immigrant communities, that kind of tiredness isn’t physical—it’s emotional.
It’s what happens when we’re constantly absorbing other people’s moods, guilt, frustration, disappointment… and calling it caring.
We talk about physical boundaries—saying no, doing less, taking space. But we rarely talk about emotional boundaries.
The kind that help us shield our hearts.
That allow emotional separation from the people we love, so we don’t lose ourselves trying to carry everything they feel.
In this episode, I share what I’ve learned—through conversations, therapy, and my own lived experience—about emotional overfunctioning, how it drains us, and how we can slowly start doing things differently.
This isn’t about cutting people off. It’s about knowing what’s yours to hold—and what isn’t.
So if you’ve been feeling low, confused, or tired without a clear reason… I invite you to listen. This one’s especially for the ones who were raised to “just adjust.”
You deserve to feel light again.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Healing as South Asians often means navigating a mental health system shaped by whiteness — one that often fails to see us. After parting ways with a white friend who is also a therapist, I began questioning: is it that we resist help, or that the help we’re offered was never built for us?
And here’s the harder truth: many working within this system — including people of colour — don’t fully recognize how deeply whiteness shapes the frameworks we call “care.” Too often, this system offers a one-size-fits-all approach that doesn’t reflect our histories, cultures, or lived experiences. But unless those working in mental health commit to doing the deeper work — genuinely examining their own whiteness and how little is truly understood about clients of colour — these patterns will continue. Too many claim awareness but fall short of real accountability. The result? Many South Asians who need and deserve support are left unseen, underserved, or made to feel that healing is out of reach.
Often this harm isn’t intentional, but unless we do the deeper work, we risk reproducing it while trying to help. It’s a slippery slope. This Gup Shup is for anyone ready to rethink what true support looks like when we center our own voices and ways of healing.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
It’s just you and me in this It’s Good To Gup Shup segment — a space for reflection, reclamation, and real talk. This episode was sparked by Sinners, a film that made me feel seen in someone else’s story. And that whisper of huge validation? It stayed in my bones.
From Late Bloomer and Mo to Monkey Man, we’re talking about the daily contradictions of being brown in a white world. We’re finally putting language to those gut feelings. When stories no longer ask for permission — when creativity meets what’s happening in the world — you see heroes being born.
This isn’t about representation for approval. It’s about zero f*cks and zero fear. It’s about owning the parts of us we were told to shrink. It’s about coming back to the things we mocked before we knew better.
Because we are greater together. And I’ll ask you what I had to ask myself:
When was the last time a story made you feel seen?
Sinners (2025) - Directed by Ryan Coogler
Bend it Like Beckham (2002) - Directed by Gurinder Chadha (available to stream)
Late Bloomer (2024) - Created by Jasmeet Raina
Monkey Man(2024) - Directed by Dev Patel
Mo (2022) - Created by Mo Amer and Ramy Youssef
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
I sit down with Dr. Ami, a holistic hormone pharmacist who’s not just a clinician — she’s lived the journey. From missed periods and persistent acne to the emotional weight of feeling dismissed, she knows firsthand what many South Asian women silently endure.
Together, we unpack the deep and often overlooked intersections of hormones, healing, and honesty — and explore what PCOS is really costing South Asian women. The truth? It's not just about skipped cycles or fertility struggles. It's about mental health, identity, and generations of shame wrapped up in silence.
While birth control is often handed out as a band-aid, it’s really just been masking symptoms that deserved deeper care. And for many of us, our stories didn’t need more medication — they needed to be heard.
This episode is also a gentle (and sometimes not-so-gentle) invitation to our male partners: you aren’t just background characters in our hormone health stories. Whether it’s showing up in doctor’s visits, learning about our cycles, or unlearning assumptions — your role matters.
Dr. Ami now supports South Asian women all over the world in reclaiming their hormone health, fertility, and sense of self — with personalized, holistic care that listens and understands.
From the beauty of periods to the myth that motherhood is our only calling, Dr. Ami reminds us that we can’t out-medicate a lifestyle, and that healing starts with presence. With compassion and clarity, she helps us rethink what it means to rest, reconnect with our bodies, and reclaim our hormone health without shame.
“I wish more women didn’t hate their periods,” she says.
And after this episode — you just might feel the same.
Instagram: holistic.hormones.pharmacist
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this deeply moving episode, we sit with Reshma — a mother of three, widow, and mindfulness coach — as she opens up about the unimaginable loss of her husband to suicide. Together, we explore what it means to stay present in the deepest pain, to mother through heartbreak, and to speak honestly about mental health in a world that often whispers when it should be listening.
Reshma doesn’t offer tidy answers — instead, she offers her heart. She shares what it was like to feel unsurprised by her husband’s choice to leave this world, how important it was that “everyone waited” for her, and the truth she’s come to hold: “My kids just need my heart.”
We talk about the cultural silence that often surrounds grief — especially in South Asian families — where “if the problem can’t be fixed with food, then we just don’t talk about it.” We reflect on the heavy question so many suicide loss survivors carry: “You have all the things. Why would you not want to be here?” And how, sometimes, the most radical thing we can do is “slow down, pay attention, and shut up.”
As a mindfulness coach, Reshma also shares how ancestral practices of presence and stillness became her compass — not to escape pain, but to move with it. In a world where mindfulness has been reduced to buzzwords and apps, she brings it home to its roots — and reminds us it was never a trend, but a way of being.
This episode honors Children’s Mental Health Month by asking what kids really need during loss, and why healing doesn’t follow a schedule — “grief has no timeline. It has no finish point.”
Reshma reminds us it’s not about big leaps, but small steps. And that the most loving thing we can do — for ourselves and each other — is to check in. Period.
Instagram: reshmakearney
Website: reshmakearney.com
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this soulful and tender conversation, I sit down with Salima Saxton — relational dynamics coach, writer, performer, and co-host of the Women Are Mad podcast. Together, we unpack the quiet truths women carry — the roles we’ve played, the selves we’ve tucked away, and the longing to feel fully seen.
Salima reflects on how often she was "very, very busy making it all right for everybody else," and how "a lot of life is not neatly packaged up." She invites us to consider a powerful question: "What if you were asked to write your own eulogy — what would it say?"
This episode isn’t about fixing yourself — it’s about finding your way back. It’s about learning to leave the porch light on for your own return. Because as Salima says, "turning up as ourselves is really the superpower for all of us."
It’s a conversation to sit with — a gentle invitation to reconnect with the parts of you that have been waiting to be welcomed home.
Website:
salimasaxton.com
Instagram:
salimajsaxton
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
This week on Middle Fingers Up, we’re holding space for a powerful voice during Ovarian Cancer Awareness Day — Alvina Nadeem, a South Asian woman, mother, wife, AI innovator, keynote speaker, and cancer survivor who reminds us that survival isn’t just about staying alive, but about reclaiming our voice.
She shares the mantra she carried as an immigrant woman in a male-dominated field — “I’ll show them” — and how that grit both protected and pressured her. We talk about trusting your gut, naming what feels off, and advocating for your body when silence feels safer.
“I needed to survive,” she says, “but I also didn’t want to make it hard for others.”
We unpack the toll of quiet strength, what it means to choose presence over pride, and how to honor your instincts when the system tells you otherwise.
This conversation isn’t just about one story — it’s a challenge to the systems and cultural silences that keep so many of us suffering quietly. From survival mode to self-defined healing, this episode affirms that we have the right to ask, to name, and to fight.
Instagram: coachalvina
TikTok: OCWARRIORQUEEN
Chai & Hope: South Asian Cancer Community
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Loss is more than death — it’s the quiet grief of losing a homeland, a friendship, a relationship, trust, emotional safety, or even parts of ourselves we didn’t know we had to say goodbye to.
In this powerful conversation with Palak, a Grief and Loss Recovery Specialist, we explore how "grief is love" and how we can honor all types of loss. Palak reminds us that "no emotion is good or bad" and shares healing tools like guided journaling, helping us to unpack the weight of grief, especially when we don’t have words for it.
We also discuss the power of "collective responsibility" in healing, emphasizing that grief doesn’t have to be an individual burden — it’s something we can share, honor, and heal together.
As Palak says, "All losses are worthy of grief," and "there is no timeline to grief."
Instagram: rare_mind_talks
MindMakeoverService
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
What happens when two Indian women—from different parts of the world—sit down to talk about parenting, patriarchy, and psychiatry? In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Sidhana, a psychiatrist based in India, for a cross-continental conversation rooted in truth-telling, compassion, and curiosity.
We reflect on what it means to be raised in systems where “the stricter the parent, the more rebellious the child,” and how “children notice the subtle signs” long before we think they do. We speak for the marginalized, question what we’ve normalized, and explore how" it’s time to break the generational curse."
This episode is a call to change the narrative, treat our daughters and sons equally, and understand that a "true gentleman is actually empathetic."
We explore the emotional worlds of young people—the silence, the self-blame, the identity crises that happen behind closed doors—and how adults can do better by simply learning to listen.
We’re igniting one mind at a time—and this episode is an opportunity to reflect on how mental health is viewed and handled across continents, and how much work we still have to do.
Let’s break the stigma. Together.
Instagram: shrink_aninda
Blog: draninda30.medium.com
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
What happens when you finally find the words for what you've been carrying your whole life? "Suddenly, I had language for things that I'm experiencing." That’s the power of sitting down with someone like Tony Nabors, a racial equity educator and truth-teller who doesn’t just talk about systems—he helps us feel and understand them.
In this raw and unfiltered episode, we talk about what it means to unlearn, to let go of people-pleasing, and to reclaim your power even when it hurts. We get into the heartbreaking reality that "sometimes the people we love truly don’t give a shit"—and what it takes to reclaim your power anyway.
From confronting the myth of being “a good person” to unpacking how "niceness is a tool of white supremacy," Tony challenges us to "prioritize the intersect that makes people the most uncomfortable." This conversation is not about shame—it’s about transformation. It’s about asking: "What does new community look like?" "What do new friendships look like?"
So if you’ve ever wondered whether you’re alone in this work, if you’ve ever wrestled with the loss that comes with growth, or if you’ve ever said to yourself, "I can change and transform and control what I do going forward"—this episode is for you.
"Can we cuss on this podcast?" Hell yes. Because this one’s about getting real.
Jen Willsea Article
www.racialequityinsights.com
Instagram: racialequityinsights
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this unapologetically real conversation, I sit down with Mohini, a Holistic Relationship Coach for Ranis, who guides Desi divorcees to reclaim their power and rewrite their relationship stories. After a 14-year marriage, Mohini has come face-to-face with the complexities of cultural expectations, self-worth, and the fear of being alone. She’s now on a mission to help others find freedom and joy on their own terms.
Mohini shares her deeply personal journey, reflecting on how her worth was once tied to her role as a wife, and how she was caged in cultural norms that kept her from fully embracing her true nature. “What is your true nature?” she asks, inviting us to explore what we’re hiding behind out of survival.
We dig into powerful truths like, “There’s a lot of shit to be pissed off about,” and how it’s by design that women aren’t always in spaces where they can make real change. Mohini talks about how multiple truths can be true at one time and how part of nature is change—sometimes, it’s necessary for our own evolution.
“Your life is not over just because you’re a divorced woman,” Mohini reminds us. She urges us to ask, Are you even happy doing that for your entire life? With raw honesty, she challenges us to let go of the fear of being alone, stop living on someone else’s frequency, and realize: You’re worthy of a life beyond suffering.
Join us for a powerful conversation that’s about more than just divorce—it’s about shedding the expectations that hold us back and rediscovering the fire within. "At some point, you’re going to have to let go of how many fucks you give,” says Mohini. So, let’s go on a fucking journey together.
Website: ranirising.com
Instagram: iammohinigima
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
What happens when we try to understand South Asian mental health through a Western lens? We end up feeling lost—told to cut ties instead of repair them, to heal alone instead of within community. But healing was never meant to be an individual pursuit.
In this conversation with Astha, we start scratching the surface—getting curious about what it would take to truly decolonize mental health. How do we challenge the pressure of productivity in our culture while making space for our own healing? Where is the line between evolving and losing ourselves?
Astha also shares how her semester abroad in Delhi shaped her understanding of mental health—what she learned, what surprised her, and how it continues to influence her career today.
Together, we discuss:
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- Why being person-first rather than treatment-first matters
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- How we have privileges our ancestors didn’t—but also struggles they wouldn’t recognize
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- The tension between growth and staying true to who you are
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- The power of self-awareness: If you conquer your mind, you conquer the world
This episode is about unlearning, reclaiming, and finding your path—because true change starts with understanding yourself.
Instagram: theessenceofself
Website: theessenceofself.com
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Music Media Personality and Multimedia Creative, LaToya Elle, joins us to share her journey of blending storytelling with a passion for amplifying Canadian artists. We dive into the artists on her radar, the challenges of being a Black woman in the industry, and the future of music media. LaToya opens up about the power of representation, the stories that matter most, and why true support goes beyond the spotlight. Plus, she puts her "Middle Fingers Up" to something we all need to hear. This is a conversation about purpose, passion, and making space for voices that deserve to be heard.
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Latoya Elle's Podcast Behind The Music: https://open.spotify.com/show/6s778pKRM9jAM4kqFmsRAO?si=PXSnEfupTL69YIChxRIylQ
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
What happens when we’re taught that curiosity about sexuality is shameful? And how do colonial histories still shape the way we talk—or don’t talk—about sex today? In this compelling episode, we sit down with Carine Abou Dahab, a sexologist passionate about breaking the silence and unlearning the shame surrounding sexuality.
Together, we explore the lasting effects of sexual imperialism and colonization, uncovering how cultures across the globe once embraced sexuality before colonial powers imposed shame and control. Carine breaks down the six dimensions of sexuality, offering a holistic view of how our identities are shaped by biology, psychology, and culture.
We get into real, urgent questions—How do we create safe spaces for our children to understand their bodies? What does healthy attachment look like? And how do we navigate teenage sexuality in a world where access to porn is easier than ever?
As two brown women, we also bond over the "isms" we’ve been unlocking—how racism, sexism, and colonialism have deeply impacted the way our communities talk about (or avoid) sexuality. Through these personal reflections, we discuss the unlearning process and why it’s essential to reconnect with the truths we always knew deep down.
Through it all, Carine’s wisdom shines: “The consequence of silence is being vulnerable to violence.” This episode is for anyone ready to unlearn outdated narratives, reclaim curiosity, and cultivate authentic, open conversations—because understanding sexuality isn’t just about knowledge; it’s about safety, identity, and healing.
If you’re "thirsty to learn" and ready to challenge what you thought you knew—this conversation is for you.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Moving to a new country comes with challenges—feeling isolated, questioning if you're good enough, and pushing through rejection. But for Palak, every challenge became an opportunity. From starting a job as a newcomer to building a thriving art studio, her journey is a testament to resilience, stepping outside comfort zones, and trusting the process.
In this episode, Palak shares how she connected with Indian society and women after moving, why she never thought she’d be an artist, and how taking things one day at a time has helped her grow. Her story is for anyone who has ever doubted themselves—because if she can do it, so can you.
While the journey hasn’t been easy, Palak is deeply grateful for the opportunities she has found in Canada. In a world that often makes it harder for people of color to be seen and valued, she proves that passion and persistence can carve out space where creativity thrives. This episode is about embracing the unknown, defying expectations, and recognizing the power of community and self-belief
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
What does healing look like when the systems around us were never built for us? In this episode of Middle Fingers Up, we sit down with writer, mental health advocate, and early childhood educator Ishaa Vinod Chopra, author of Finding Order in Disorder: A Bipolar Memoir. Ishaa shares her journey with bipolar disorder, the stigma surrounding mental health in South Asian communities, and how working with young children has shaped her understanding of emotional well-being from an early age.
We also discuss domestic violence in our community—how to recognize the signs, the cultural barriers that keep women trapped, and what real support looks like. And beyond Western mental health models, Ishaa reminds us that healing has always been woven into our roots—through movement, dance, storytelling, and creative expression.
A powerful conversation about reclaiming our traditions, breaking cycles of silence, and finding strength in our own ways of healing.
Instagram: findingorderindisorderforever
Linktree: linktr.ee/ishaavchopra
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this brief Gup Shup, we talk about the challenges of taking care of your health while managing a small team or working solo. We'll discuss the guilt that comes with taking a sick day, especially as a child of immigrants who feel the weight of their parents' sacrifices. It's crucial to prioritize your well-being, how to manage the guilt of not working or completing tasks when you're unwell not compromising your long term health for short term gain. Join us for an honest and no-makeup rough-cut Gup Shup about making your health a priority.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Welcome back Dr. Anne Hussain, Naturopathic doctor, period literacy advocate, and author of The Period Literacy Handbook. Dr. Anne shares both her personal and professional experience with PCOS (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome), breaking down why it’s a full-body condition that affects more than just periods.
We explore how PCOS presents differently in every body, why misdiagnosis is so common, and the systemic gaps that impact women of color. Dr. Anne shares powerful insights, reminding us that needing medication is not a failure. We also discuss the role of Vitamin D, tracking cycles, and the importance of knowing your history when managing symptoms.
This episode isn’t just for those with PCOS—it’s for partners, friends, and families who want to support their loved ones. Because, as Dr. Anne puts it, “The only way is through.”
Tune in for an honest conversation about advocacy, healing, and why victim blaming helps nobody.
Instagram: dr.annehussain
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Welcome Vishal Aheer, Fitness Trainer! In this episode, we put our middle fingers up to outdated fitness myths and explore how shifting to functional movement can help us build real strength, longevity, and confidence.
We’ve been conditioned to believe that fitness is about chasing a certain look —smaller, bigger, leaner, more “toned.” This mindset fuels anxiety, overwhelms us, and makes many feel defeated before they even start. We pour money into supplements, programs, and quick fixes, chasing an image instead of true health.
This conversation is about encouraging our community to start, to move, and to redefine what health means for our bodies and minds. Let’s unlearn, move differently, and take that first step—tune in!
Instgram: v.raw.aesthetica
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Part 5 of The Angry Brown Girl Club Series:
Welcome to part 5/5 of the "Angry Brown Girl Club" Series. Over the last four episodes, we’ve unpacked the deep-seated power dynamics and historical patterns that shape relationships between white women and women of color. We’ve explored the ways whiteness is protected, the contradictions that arise in friendships, workplaces, and advocacy spaces, and the uncomfortable reality of performative allyship. We’ve also examined internalized racism—how it shows up in our communities, how it keeps us policing each other, and how it reinforces the very systems we are trying to break. This series was never about blame—it was about accountability. About seeing the patterns for what they are and choosing to disrupt them. Hopefully, this wasn’t just another DEI program. Hopefully, it was a resource—an opportunity to learn from lived experiences, recognize our own behaviors in real time, and sit with the discomfort long enough to create real change.
But real change doesn’t come from just reading the books, watching the films, or listening to the podcasts—it’s about what we do with this knowledge. It’s about how we apply it in everyday moments, in tough conversations, and in the spaces where silence has been the default. It’s about what comes next.
As we close this chapter, I leave you with this: When the moment comes, will you freeze, deflect, or choose to do something different?
Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
Race2Dinner
Deconstructing Karen
A Place for Us – Fatima Farheen Mirza
White Tears/Brown Scars – Ruby Hamad
Under the Moonlit Sky – Nav Gill
The Bloodstained Podcast - Madiswan
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Part 4 of The Angry Brown Girl Club Series:
Welcome to part 4/5 of the "Angry Brown Girl Club" series. In this episode, we get into how to recognize, the power imbalances between white women and women of color, focusing on accountability and the importance of being open to call-ins. We'll address the shock value of "I didn't know," and discuss how to recognize privilege and come out of these conversations stronger and more aware.
Racism, much like germs, may not always be visible, but that doesn’t mean it’s not there. We'll explore how to grow through discomfort and emerge with a deeper understanding and commitment to change.
Question to ponder: How do you respond when confronted with your own privilege and the realities of racial dynamics?
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Part 3 of The Angry Brown Girl Club Series
In this third segment of the Angry Brown Girl Club, we get deeper into the power dynamics that emerge between women of color and white women. Building on Segment 1, where we discussed how women of color often find themselves “applying” for acceptance in spaces that weren’t designed for them, and Segment 2, which explored the historical roots of white feminism and how these dynamics show up in modern interactions, we continue unpacking the challenges of navigating these relationships.
This segment focuses on “The Interview”—a metaphor for the critical moments where power dynamics are evaluated and reinforced, whether in workplace applications, performance reviews, or even casual interactions. These moments often function as an unspoken "interview," where biases and assumptions come to the surface, shaping how women of color are perceived and treated.
Here are some questions we’ll reflect on together:
What assumptions am I bringing into this conversation? Are they rooted in biases or fears?
Am I actively listening, or am I focused on defending my perspective?
How do I respond when someone challenges my privilege or perspective?
What does it mean to advocate for fairness in a space where I hold power or influence?
Why are women of color so often labeled as ‘angry,’ and what does that say about how we perceive their boundaries or assertiveness?
How do historical patterns of white feminism show up in my own behaviors or expectations?
Am I unintentionally reinforcing a power imbalance in my words or actions?
This segment encourages us to recognize how these larger systems of power manifest in everyday moments and consider what it takes to unlearn and challenge them.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Part 2 of The Angry Brown Girl Club Series
They say, “If you don’t like the conversation —change it.” But what if, instead of changing it, we tended to it? This segment is about leaning into the messy, scary process of growth, especially in relationships, where defensiveness can creep in and derail even the most well-intentioned discussions.
Defensiveness isn’t just a roadblock—it’s an invitation. An invitation to pause, reflect, and ask: Why am I reacting this way? What can I learn from this discomfort? It’s not about blame; it’s about accountability and understanding the roots of our feelings.
In this segment, I get into the roots of defensiveness, the weight of labels like “Angry Brown Girl,” and the dynamics of white feminism and solidarity. Together, let’s explore how our experiences connect us and how we can start conversations that don’t end in fear or division.
This isn’t just a review of Segment 1, it’s a deeper look at how we build stronger more accountable relationships and communities. And that’s what "It’s Good to Gup Shup" is all about — taking the time to reflect, connect, and grow together.
So, are you ready to challenge the status quo and rewrite the narrative?
Let’s get into it. Welcome to Middle Fingers Up.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Part 1 of The Angry Brown Girl Club Series
In this episode, we talk about what it means to navigate a world that often misunderstands or diminishes us. For many of us, anger has been our armor—not because we want to wear it, but because we’ve had to. This anger isn’t shameful; it’s sacred.
I hope my story reminds you that you’re not alone in this journey. I’m still figuring it out too—unlearning, growing, and finding strength in spaces that celebrate who we are. My hope is that we all keep connecting, keep showing up for ourselves, and keep showing up for each other.
A special shoutout to Ruby Hamad, Saira Rao, and the women of color whose voices have guided me to better understand myself and my place in this world. It’s a privilege to learn from them, and I carry their wisdom as I navigate my tiny role on this planet.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this final installment of our three-part series, we close with reflections on Harjot and Simrit’s first year of marriage—a year filled with challenges, growth, and commitment. Their journey has unfolded in real time, offering us a raw and authentic look at the realities of transitioning from a wedding to a marriage. Following "You Need to Get Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable" and "You’re a Team and This Is Your Home" this episode focuses on how to move forward together, balancing individual growth with the evolving needs of a partnership.
Harjot and Simrit’s willingness to share their journey has been nothing short of courageous. By peeling back the layers of what it means to build a relationship—one rooted in trust, accountability, and shared values—they’ve helped us all explore the deeper work of marriage. Their story has contributed to unpacking the gap between wedding-day expectations and the realities of married life, offering insights that are particularly meaningful for the BIPOC community.
As we continue to build spaces for conversations like this, we’re creating a foundation for understanding how our cultural roots influence modern relationships. These moments of openness help us bridge gaps, challenge outdated narratives, and construct a knowledge base that truly reflects our experiences.
To Harjot and Simrit—thank you for your bravery, honesty, and generosity. Your story reminds us that while marriage isn’t always easy, it’s worth the effort when approached with care and intention.
As Harjot and Simrit shared, “Prioritize your relationship with each other above all else.” This message encapsulates the heart of their journey—reminding us that when we commit to nurturing our bond, even in the face of challenges, we are investing in a future together. It’s this mindset that will help us all continue to grow, evolve, and build the relationships we desire.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
I’m joined by a very special guest—my 11-year-old son. Together, we have an honest conversation about what it’s like to grow up biracial and navigate the early experiences of racism. This episode was his project—he took the lead, sharing two personal stories that highlight the challenges kids face when treated differently because of their identity.
What makes this episode even more meaningful is his desire to encourage his peers and their caregivers to build awareness and understanding. He hopes to inspire other kids to speak up and share their feelings, while also helping parents learn how to support their children through these difficult moments.
As a parent, I reflect on how we approached these situations with care, taking the time to listen, process, and decide together how to respond. We discuss why addressing racism at home first is essential, how giving these conversations space can make a difference, and why it’s important to prioritize our children’s needs over the urgency of others.
This episode is a must-listen for parents, caregivers, and educators looking to support their children in a world where differences are sometimes met with bias. It’s a reminder that tackling tough conversations isn’t about finding quick fixes but about fostering a process of growth, understanding, and empowerment.
Tune in for insights, actionable advice, and the inspiring voice of a young boy who led this dialogue with courage, curiosity, and a deep desire to create change.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
The holidays can bring so many different experiences to the surface—grief from anniversaries, burnout from expectations, or the exhaustion of hiding parts of yourself just to get through family gatherings. For some, this time of year is filled with joy and gratitude, while for others, it’s a season that feels heavy and isolating.
In this special episode, I sit down with Provisional Psychologist Nevena Kalajdzic to explore how we can navigate these complex emotions and realities during the holidays. We talk about:
The weight of cultural and family expectations, especially in communities where showing up is everything.
The silent struggles—managing loss, feeling unsafe to express your true self, or simply not being able to match the cheerful energy around you.
How financial stress and post-holiday exhaustion can take a toll long after the celebrations are over.
Nevena shares compassionate insights and practical strategies to help us hold space for ourselves during this season: coping with overwhelm, setting boundaries with kindness, and honoring both our cultural values and our personal well-being.
This conversation reminds us that taking care of ourselves isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. It allows us to show up more authentically, for both ourselves and the people we love.
Whether this is a refresher or your first time joining us, you’re not alone in how you’re feeling this season. Come sit with us as we explore what it means to show up for yourself during the holidays.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this Gup Shup segment, we welcome back Dr. Anne Hussain, naturopathic doctor, period literacy advocate, and author of The Period Literacy Handbook. Building on her insights from episode 93, What Does a Normal Period Actually Look Like?, Dr. Hussain dives into weight stigma in healthcare, from the origins and misuse of BMI to the struggles faced by those with conditions like PCOS and endometriosis.
While we’re still figuring out the format of Gup Shup, this segment ran long because the topic is just that important. Dr. Hussain sheds light on how weight bias dismisses the whole person, offering tools for self-advocacy. Join us for this honest conversation, and connect with us to share how weight stigma has shaped your health journey.
Instagram: dr.annehussain
Resources:
Fearing the Black Body The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia by Sabrina String
Belly of the Beast: The Politics of Anti-Fatness as Anti-Blackness by DeShawn L Harrison.
Aubrey Gordon Yourfatfriend.com
You Just Need to Lose Weight and 19 Other Myths About Fat People.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
This episode of Middle Fingers Up is here at the perfect time, wrapping up Men's Health Awareness Month while also preparing us for the not-so-jolly parts of the holiday season. We get into the emotional toll of hiding your true self and the unique challenges that 2SLGBTQ+ individuals face—especially within cultural expectations.
We are joined by Kevin Bhawan, a mental health practitioner, advocate, and proud member of the South Asian 2SLGBTQ+ community. In this conversation, we explore the complexities of navigating identity, cultural norms, and family expectations. Kevin shares his powerful story of coming out, and we hear a deeply moving text exchange with his parents, filled with love, acceptance, and understanding—showing just how life-changing a supportive family can be.
As we look toward the holidays, a time when many feel forced to hide parts of themselves, we also reflect on the importance of building empathy and understanding within our communities. No matter who you are, or who you love, you are worthy of acceptance. This episode challenges us to break free from the cycles of marginalization and offers insights on how we can support each other in living our truth—whether that means coming out or choosing to stay in.
If you’ve ever struggled with balancing identity, culture, and family expectations, this episode is for you.
Instagram: kevinbhawan
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
This week, we get into a thought-provoking and essential conversation about intimacy, challenging long-held beliefs about masculinity. Our title might raise some eyebrows, but we're okay with that because intimacy goes far beyond the physical.
We're excited to welcome back SkyeBlu Cutchie, Relationship, Intimacy and Sex Therapist, who brings her wisdom and heart to a topic often misunderstood: emotional intimacy. As SkyeBlu puts it, "Emotional intimacy is the oil in the engine." Without it, relationships struggle to thrive.
We dissect societal messages like "You're not a man until you f**" and explore their impact on men's emotional connections and relationships. From learning how to communicate to keeping the spark alive, this episode offers insights and strategies to help men and their partners rewrite the script on intimacy.
SkyeBlu reminds us all: "I think you deserve to be heard, validated, seen, loved, and accepted." Isn't it time we made space for that?
Join us for this discussion, where we prove that intimacy is about much more than the physical—it's about emotional connection, mutual understanding, and soft landings.
Instagram: intimacywithblu
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Dive into this conversation where we tackle the intricate tapestry of biracial identity alongside Dr. Jenn, a psychologist deeply rooted in the mixed-race community. From personal anecdotes to professional insights, Dr. Jenn shares how adolescence shapes one's sense of belonging, the unique challenges faced by biracial children, and how parents can champion their kids' identities. This isn't just about parenting; it's a call to anyone interested in understanding and fostering empathy in our increasingly diverse world. Join us as we explore identity, challenge norms, and learn how to truly make space for everyone's story. Tune in, get inspired, and keep those middle fingers up!
Instagram: drjennpsych
Website: freetobecollective.com
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this It’s Good to Gup Shup segment, we’re thrilled to welcome back Madison, host of the Bloodstained podcast. Many of you might remember her from Episode 91:" Almost Nothing In This Society Is Coincidental", where we explored systemic issues and the often-hidden narratives that shape our lives. Today, we’re reflecting deep, focusing on what it feels like to be 'that person in the room'—the one who speaks up about race and identity, even if it disrupts the comfort of others.
As Madison puts it, “If you’re a marginalized person, you’re always that person in the room. The default is the majority.” Together, we unpack the careful balance between self-expression and self-preservation that many of us navigate daily. Often, it comes down to questioning, “Is it a slip-up or a set-up?” Madison highlights how, in these moments, we might be wary of an all-too-familiar reaction: “Why are you attacking me?”
This episode isn’t just about naming the discomfort; it’s an invitation to reflect on our own biases, consider the hidden costs of being the person who speaks up, and explore ways to approach these situations thoughtfully. Madison reminds us, “At the end of the day, it’s about self-preservation.” Whether you’re the one raising difficult topics or the one listening, our conversation offers insights into fostering empathy and understanding.
Join us for this reflective Gup Shup, where we explore the power of naming uncomfortable truths in pursuit of collective growth
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Welcome back, Comedian Jeevin Gill, who’s in town for a show and has dropped by to chat with us! You might remember him from Episode 18, ‘Middle Fingers to Not Trying.’ Since we last chatted, he has continued to make waves in the comedy world—you’ve seen him at Just For Laughs Toronto, as a quarter-finalist at the Seattle International Comedy Competition, and he recently headlined at the Asian Comedy All-Stars. Plus, he just dropped his debut comedy album, “Jeevin Gill Presents Jeevin Gill,” with Comedy Bar Records!
In this episode, we’re making a compelling case for embracing the delightful chaos of ADHD as we get into the whirlwind world of comedy, getting older, and keeping up with a fast-paced industry. Jeevin is back with more stories—like his thrilling skydiving adventure—and unique insights on life as a comedian. We’ll also explore his perspective on modern relationships, from love versus arranged marriages to the ever-growing 'wedding days' in Canadian Punjabi celebrations.
Expect plenty of laughs and some of his most quotable lines, like ‘I’m taller than I am brown,’ and ‘I won therapy.’ We’ll talk about the balance of humor with deeper messages and how comedians, as he says, ‘barely live in society.’ This one promises insight, humor, and those unforgettable one-liners that keep us coming back for more.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Welcome to Episode 101 of Middle Fingers Up! 🎉 We’re starting off the next century of episodes with a truly special one: my very first guests, Naina and Kam, are back! Keeping with tradition, these two have returned every 25 episodes, bringing the laughs and memories as we dive into some highlights from this journey so far. From unforgettable guest moments to unexpected takeaways (and the occasional mic mishap!), it’s been a wild ride.
In this episode, we keep things classic with our phone-a-guest segment and Kam’s Top 5! We’re so grateful for our listeners, subscribers, and each guest who has shared their story with us. Here’s to celebrating the real, the raw, and the laughter that keeps us all connected. Thank you for being part of the Middle Fingers Up community!
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
100th episode celebration! We’ve hit a major milestone, and we couldn’t have done it without YOU! To all our listeners, thank you for being part of this journey. Your support has brought us here, and we’re celebrating this special moment with none other than Canadian musician JRDN!
With Men’s Health Awareness around the corner, we chat about men’s health, mental well-being, and the journey of fatherhood in today’s world.
In this special episode, JRDN opens up about his life, from his love for music to the lessons he’s learned as a parent. He reminds us, “Whatever you’re doing in life, lead with love and a kind heart,” and reflects on how “You are your parents as well.”
“Hip hop raised me, but R&B saved me,” says JRDN, as he shares his personal journey, offering wisdom on growth, love, and staying grounded—even when things don’t happen overnight.
Tune in to hear his inspiring thoughts on fatherhood, music, and navigating life with kindness.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Welcome back Neha, founder of Ninja Nari and author of the children’s book Spooks & Sparklers: A Halloween and Diwali Adventure. With Diwali falling on the heels of Halloween this year, Neha’s book beautifully bridges the gap between these two celebrations, reflecting the journey of first-generation immigrants navigating both Eastern and Western traditions. Neha shares, “This will serve as a beautiful reminder of what they already know,” while celebrating the incredible work of South Asian women.
We also dive into parenting, as Neha reflects “I want to be more mindful about what I’m passing on.” She offers tips for those unfamiliar with Diwali, sharing how they can respectfully educate themselves about the holiday. Neha encourages us all to “take up space” and “own our shit,” while reminding us to "show up for people around you." This conversation offers a blend of cultural celebration, empowerment, and community spirit.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In today’s episode, we welcome one of Canada's top and most versatile DJs, DJ Kav. Renowned for rocking crowds nationwide and internationally, DJ Kav has made his mark with iconic radio shows and unforgettable live sets. He’s mastered the art of connecting with audiences through music. Today, we dive deeper and uncover the story behind the decks.
In our conversation, DJ Kav shares his philosophy on staying present: “Be in the moment and don’t plan anything.” He talks about how he balances authenticity with performance, why “you might have ninety-nine noes but it takes one yes” has shaped his journey, and what living his dream truly means.
Expect to hear about his most memorable moments in the industry, the surprising lessons learned from challenging gigs, and how he stays grounded despite his success. We also dive into what DJ Kav believes makes music so personal, his advice for aspiring DJs, and his reminder that “not everything is bad all the time.”
Tune in for an inspiring and candid look at what it really takes to thrive in the world of music and entertainment—and why DJ Kav believes that facing challenges is what makes the journey worthwhile.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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Today’s episode is a bit different, as I’m sharing a conversation from my guest appearance on “Talk South Asian to Me” with hosts Anusha and Mashal. I opened up about my personal experience navigating an interracial relationship, discussing self-discovery, internalized racism, and the unique challenges of parenting biracial kids. It’s a vulnerable and honest exploration of love, identity, and real allyship—one that goes beyond surface-level conversations. I also highlight why avoiding these topics, shutting them down with conflicting statements, or letting time pass because “life is too short” is not acceptable. We need to lean into these uncomfortable but necessary discussions for true growth and connection.
A huge thank you to the hosts for inviting me into such a safe space that, for the first time ever, allowed me to speak so openly on a recording about these experiences.
Let’s keep this conversation going—share your thoughts with us on Instagram.
Hope you enjoy the episode!
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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We sit down with celebrity makeup artist and CEO, Christina Flach, to explore her philosophy of "Beauty from the Inside Out." Christina shares her insights on self-care, mental health, and finding joy in life, reminding us that true beauty starts with how we treat ourselves. From her personal routines like discipline, waking up early, and food preparation to her hard-line stance on what it takes to be truly happy, Christina inspires listeners to take charge of their lives and embrace a positive mindset.
Drawing from her personal journey of overcoming massive loss, Christina opens up about how she rebuilt her life, choosing to find joy in the small moments and emphasizing that life is a blessing. She encourages listeners to love their lives or take action to change them, to “go out and smell the Goddamn rose,” and to focus on what brings happiness and fulfillment.
Throughout the conversation, Christina reminds us that self-care is essential not just for personal well-being, but for becoming the best version of ourselves. Whether it's through skincare, makeup, or daily practices, her message is clear: if you're going to complain about something, make a change—and always strive to live a life that you love.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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Grab your chai or favorite comfort snack and join me for our new segment, It’s Good to Gup Shup. In this edition, we’re embracing a new way to deepen our connections and explore personal stories, struggles, and insights. Gup Shup is a Punjabi term for gathering with friends and loved ones for real, honest conversations—sometimes light-hearted, sometimes deep, but always genuine. It’s also a chance to connect over things that bring joy and, yes, even the occasional bit of gossip.
As we near our 100th episode, I want to get into a topic close to my heart: the ‘white girl complex’—the pressure I felt to fit into a Western, ‘white’ mold to feel accepted. I’ll unpack how small actions, like changing the way I pronounced my name, lightening my skin, and straightening my hair, led to a larger struggle with my identity.
I’ll also revisit two key moments that have shaped this journey: how many of us, especially the younger generation, might feel that accepting racism as a norm is just part of life, and a personal experience where I tried to prove to a white manager that I was ‘different’ from other brown girls.
In future It’s Good to Gup Shup episodes, which are meant to be shorter and more focused, I’ll be sharing more personal thoughts and experiences directly. We’ll keep these conversations concise and impactful. This format has been suggested as a way to explore these topics more deeply and authentically. For now, I need your help in sharing and discussing these experiences together. Let’s gup shup about it!
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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Today we are thrilled to welcome a very special guest, Urmi Hossain. Urmi is Bengali by blood, Italian by birth, and now resides in Canada. She’s a leader in the financial services industry, a self-published author, speaker, blogger who is deeply passionate about women’s empowerment.
Urmi recently published her book, Discovering Your Identity, where she opens up about the challenges of growing up as a third-culture kid—navigating her Bengali heritage while being raised in Italy. Through her reflections, she shares the struggles many South Asian girls face, particularly in balancing cultural expectations with life in the West.
In this episode, we talk not just about Urmi’s journey but about the universal challenge many of us face when trying to figure out who we are. It’s a conversation for anyone who has ever felt caught between different cultures or expectations and struggled to make sense of where they belong. We discuss how understanding and embracing all parts of our identity can empower us to show up more fully in our lives, from leadership and advocacy to our everyday interactions.
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Women in Leadership
Book: Discovering Your Identity: A Rebirth From Interracial Struggle
Instagram: @urmamio
Youtube: UrmiHossain
Blog: myways.cafemme.influence_
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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Welcome Dr. Anne Hussain, a renowned naturopathic doctor and period literacy advocate, to discuss the often-overlooked aspects of menstrual health and education. Dr. Hussain, the author of The Period Literacy Handbook and founder of The Period Literacy School—an online platform dedicated to empowering individuals with the knowledge to better understand and manage their menstrual health—brings her wealth of knowledge and personal experiences to the conversation.
We look at the complexities of menstrual inequities, the pain associated with periods, and the challenges many face with conditions like endometriosis, which are often misdiagnosed. Dr. Hussain shares invaluable insights on how to recognize symptoms of menstrual health issues, understand what a normal period looks like, and the importance of tracking your menstrual cycle. She emphasizes the power of "writing things down" as a simple but essential tool for managing and understanding your health.
The episode also highlights the critical role of education at various life stages—from the onset of periods to menopause—and the significance of bodily autonomy. Dr. Hussain encourages listeners to embrace both Western and Eastern approaches to healthcare, stating, "Nothing in the body works in isolation," and reminding us that it's never too late to learn about our bodies.
Through her work with organizations like Period Purse and Moon Time Connections, Dr. Hussain advocates for menstrual equity and the empowerment of individuals to take control of their health. Her message is clear: understanding our menstrual health is crucial not just for managing periods, but for our overall well-being.
Key Quotes:
"Nothing in the body works in isolation"
"Write things down"
Join us as we unravel the intricacies of menstrual health and empower ourselves with the knowledge needed to navigate our menstrual journeys. Dr. Hussain's expertise and advocacy are sure to inspire and educate, leaving listeners with a deeper appreciation of their bodies and the importance of period literacy.
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Instagram: @drannehussain
The Period Literacy Handbook
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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MFU Podcast is all about you, our amazing listeners. We have had enough feedback now to know you're curious to learn more about the host. That's why we're flipping the script in this special episode and I am the guest!
Join us as we bring you a gem from the Bruvcast podcast. I had the incredible opportunity to be their guest as they interviewed me. As you recall we had them on Middle Fingers Up - EP. 44 - "Share the Struggle, Find the Funny". If you're familiar with the Bruvcast, you know this mantra is their guiding light. This episode might just be where they truly nailed it. Don't miss out on this hilarious and insightful conversation.
Be sure to check out the Bruvcast on all your favorite listening platforms and follow them on Instagram @bruvcastpod.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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In this thought-provoking episode of Middle Fingers Up, we sit down with Madison, the host of the podcast Bloodstained, to explore the deep-seated issues that shape our understanding of history, racism, and the power of words. Madison, known for her deep dives into the dark history of slavery and colonization through a true crime lens, brings a fresh perspective to the conversation, taking us back to the roots of these systemic issues and challenging the narratives we've been taught.
They discuss the disproportionate power of certain words, like "attack," and how language can shape our perceptions and realities. The episode also explores the complexities of apologizing thoughtfully, the foundational issues of how we learn about history, and the impact of both the Arab and Atlantic slave trade. Madison emphasizes the importance of learning thematically rather than in a linear fashion, encouraging listeners to stay "endlessly curious" and to always seek the truth behind the narratives presented to us.
Quotes like "Utopias don’t exist," "Truth is just Truth," and "There’s usually more to the story" resonate throughout the episode, reminding us that understanding history is key to addressing the root causes of today’s issues. This episode is a call to action to be curious, to investigate why we learn what we learn, and to place the blame where it truly belongs.
Whether you're interested in history, social justice, or the power of words, this episode is a compelling listen that will leave you questioning what you thought you knew and inspire you to dig deeper into the stories that shape our world
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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Today, we go on a journey of music, representation, and mental health with the talented Sonya Pittalwala, a South Asian woman who is courageously pursuing her dreams of singing in New York City. Together, we explore her experiences growing up in North America, the challenges of breaking into the arts world, and the crucial importance of representation for underrepresented communities.
In addition to her musical journey, Sonya brings a wealth of professional and personal experience in mental health, which has deeply influenced her artistry. We discuss how her background in mental health informs her creative process and the ways in which she uses music as a therapeutic outlet, both for herself and her audience.
Our conversation reflects musical influences and the creative process behind Sonya's work. It was important to hear her insights on what it means to be a BIPOC artist today, and how social media has shaped her journey and amplified her voice in the industry.
This episode is filled with inspiration and wisdom, highlighted by some of her most memorable quotes:
"You're not meant to be kept quiet."
"We’re here to be together."
"Most of the world is in your heart and in your mind."
"It’s always Barbie Barbie let’s go party, never tell me how you feel."
"What are we running from, or towards?"
"Don’t just watch the movie, be a part of the screenplay."
"I don’t want to carry this by myself!"
"You are the one."
"What’s inside you is stronger than anything anybody is going to tell you."
"We determine what’s real for us."
"Breathe life into your dream."
"If you’re not the one, then who?"
Throughout our discussion, we also touch on the complexities of identity, the importance of breaking down barriers in the arts, and the support systems that help sustain dreams. If you're passionate about music, mental health, and the pursuit of creative dreams, this episode is for you!
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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Today we sit down with Anusha, a dedicated Mental Health Therapist based in Dallas, Texas, and co-host of the podcast "Talk South Asian to Me." I first discovered Anusha through an insightful comment she made on a post by a fellow South Asian mental health advocate, and after looking her up, I was impressed by her commitment to supporting South Asians with issues like anxiety, guilt, and people-pleasing.
Join us as we look into the complexities of anxiety and how it can both challenge and help us prepare for the unseen. Anusha shares her expertise on identifying emotions using tools like the Emotion Wheel and the importance of emotional regulation. We also explore the cultural nuances of "people-pleasing" and how intergenerational trauma and expectations can influence our behaviors and feelings of guilt. Spoiler Alert: This episode is for our immigrant parents, family members, and anyone seeking to understand the intricate layers of anxiety and guilt within the South Asian community.
Key Topics Discussed:
The journey of a BIPOC and racialized therapist in the mental health field
How anxiety can serve as a preparation tool
The significance of identifying and regulating emotions
Understanding scarcity mindset and its impact on mental health
The connection between physical conditions like PCOS and thyroid issues with anxiety
Dealing with guilt and weaponized guilt within cultural contexts
Practical strategies for managing anxiety and people-pleasing
The importance of meeting people where they are and fostering a sense of comfort and safety
Anusha emphasizes that "anxiety helps you prepare for the things you can't see" and highlights the importance of curiosity in navigating mental health challenges.
Tune in for an episode full of practical insights, personal stories, and expert advice on navigating the intertwined paths of anxiety, people-pleasing, and guilt, all while maintaining a balance between caring for others and oneself.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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Part Two of a Three-Part Series: Newlyweds and Their First Year Together as a Married Couple
In this series, we are following a couple's journey through their first year of marriage. The first year can be incredibly challenging, even for couples who have been together for a long time before getting married. The wedding often takes precedence over the marriage, leaving couples to navigate a myriad of emotions and transitions afterward. From dealing with the expectations of family members to figuring out life as a married couple, the first year is a period of significant adjustment.
Part 1 Recap: The First Year Check-Ins
In Part 1, we explored the initial months following the wedding. Our newlyweds, Simrit and Harjot, shared their experiences about the excitement and challenges they faced. We discussed their key lessons about marriage, evolving expectations, and how they navigated unexpected struggles. The couple also touched on cultural pressures, building a home together, and the transition from living separately to moving in together.
Part 2: Deeper into the Transition
Today, we are welcoming back Simrit and Harjot, our newlyweds from EP: 60, "You Need to Be Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable." We're excited to continue our journey with them and focus more on just how that transition is coming along. One of the key themes we'll be exploring today is the importance of starting with each other first when making decisions and navigating life together.
Key Topics in Part 2
Accountability of Time: Finding the balance between getting things done and slowing down to prioritize connection.
Mental Health and Marriage: How anxiety and mental health struggles have played a role in their first year of marriage.
Difference Between a Roommate and a Marriage: Understanding the unique dynamics and expectations that come with being married compared to just living together.
Intimacy and Stress Affecting Intimacy: Navigating the balance between love and desire while managing stress and maintaining passion.
Notable Quotes from Simrit and Harjot
"If you're not changing, you're stuck."
"What your partner wants or once wanted is going to change."
"It's not fair to her to not know what is going on with me."
"We are the most vulnerable when we are with each other."
"If you're apologizing, mean it, and learn from it."
"With change, there is going to be some friction."
"Is this a time for me to listen or a time for me to talk?"
Stay tuned as we dive deeper into these topics and more in Part 2 of our series. We'll explore how Simrit and Harjot are navigating the ups and downs of their first year of marriage, balancing their individual needs with their partnership, and continuing to grow together through the inevitable changes that life brings.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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Today we sit down with Dr. Shazma Mithani, a dedicated ER doctor from Edmonton, Alberta. Dr. Mithani shares her journey into medicine, the story behind her educational platform on social media, and her mission to improve health literacy. She discusses the critical role of health literacy in preventing unnecessary ER visits and the importance of being critical consumers of health information, especially on social media.
Dr. Mithani sheds light on the difference between dietitians and nutritionists, the public vs. private healthcare debate, and the significance of preserving the right to health care in Canada. She emphasizes that health care is a basic human right and highlights her involvement with Canadian Doctors for Medicare.
Throughout the conversation, Dr. Mithani offers practical advice on how to navigate health information online and debunk common health myths. She stresses the importance of keeping an open mind, recognizing one's privilege, and being critical of the information we consume.
Join us for this enlightening discussion on how to empower ourselves with accurate health knowledge, stay informed, and keep out of the ER. This episode provides valuable insights into the importance of health literacy and the role of accurate health information in maintaining our well-being. Dr. Mithani's expertise and passion for educating the public make this a must-listen for anyone interested in health care, debunking myths, and making informed decisions about their health. Tune in and learn how to be a critical consumer of health information and support the right to health care for all.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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Today, we're thrilled to sit down with Alfred Kainga, the 2023 Breakout Comedian of the Year, who has been making waves in the comedy scene from Zimbabwe to Dallas. I had the privilege of catching Alfred's show here in Calgary and was blown away by his wit and genuine presence. I laughed so hard I knew I had to reach out and meet the man who had the entire theater laughing from the moment he walked out on stage until the final curtain.
Alfred shares his journey from growing up as a boy in Zimbabwe to immigrating to Dallas, Texas, where his comedy career took off. He humbly recounts being discovered by comedian and actor Kevin Hart, a pivotal moment that launched him into the spotlight. "You dream big, you act big, you will get big" he says.
In our conversation, Alfred opens up about his first time on stage, the cultural shifts he experienced, and the humorous perspectives he brings to his jokes about the gaps many immigrants find themselves in. He emphasizes the importance of laughter in life, stating, "At the end of the day, let's just laugh about it." Alfred also reflects on his journey from Zimbabwe, emphasizing, "Don't ever let anyone tell you you can't do it."
Join us for an engaging episode filled with laughter, wisdom, and a deeper understanding of the power of comedy from Alfred Kainga, a comedian who's making his mark in the world.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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Today we are thrilled to welcome Neha, the founder of Ninja Nari, a platform dedicated to celebrating South-Asian roots and empowering women. This conversation came at a pivotal time for me, as Neha and I explore the complexities of navigating multiple identities and the responsibilities of discussing race. We also discuss the work upon us as POC to learn how to speak up in these situations and manage what is not ours to hold.
Neha opens up about:
The challenges and joys of cultural fusion
Learning the language behind toxic masculinity
Mental health in the South-Asian community
Balancing mom life with her mission
Navigating racialized experiences and speaking up.
Sometimes, we think we have to know everything about a topic to discuss it meaningfully. However, the important thing is that we remain curious and open to learning about where issues like toxic masculinity come from.
Join us for an inspiring and deeply personal conversation filled with Neha's wisdom and uplifting quotes like, "To grow we have to uplift each other," "Say no to self-doubt," "If you’re making round rotis, let me know, that’s a superpower," and "If she grows, then I grow." This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand the power of storytelling and community support.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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In this special episode, I feel incredibly lucky to have the opportunity to sit down with my very first male role model, the person who has influenced my understanding of male relationships at every stage of my life—from girlhood, through young womanhood, to womanhood. I am honored to welcome to the podcast, my Papa Varinder Singh Randhawa a South Asian immigrant.
Together, we reminisce about his early days in Canada, sharing nostalgic NHL memories and the cultural shocks he experienced upon arrival. We tap into his thoughts on important issues such as abuse and the powerful impact of Jeeti Pooni's book, The Silent Stoning. This book highlights the harrowing experiences of a South Asian woman facing sexual abuse by a family member, and its high-profile criminal court case. It serves as a powerful reminder of the struggles many girls and women face, often in silence, within their own families and communities. My father shares his reflections on the book and the importance of recognizing and addressing such issues.
Papa emphasizes the need to teach our young men how to treat the women in their lives, stressing the importance of change that begins at home. He reflects on the progress he's seen across generations, particularly in the growing awareness and education around mental health.
Throughout our conversation, Papa's words resonate deeply:
"Sometimes, to get a better life, you’ll do anything."
"Sometimes you have to give up something to get something."
"We have to teach our sons how to treat women."
"Before I talk to anybody else, I want to make a change."
"It only takes one person."
"Communicate and seek help."
"There is nothing wrong with asking for help."
Join us as we explore these themes and more, in an intimate and heartfelt conversation with my Papa, reflecting on the past, present, and future of our family and community.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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In this episode, we welcome back Doreen, who previously joined us in Episode 17. During her first appearance, Doreen shared her experiences as a first-generation Canadian navigating body image, diet culture, and finding self-love in her 40s. Today, we’re thrilled to have her back to talk about what has been on our minds lately.
Episode Highlights
Life in Your 40s:
Doreen reflects on turning 40 and how her views on body image and self-love have evolved.
"When you keep coming up against your own body being your enemy, it just takes the wind out of your sails."
We discuss the impact of hormones, managing guilt and shame from childhood, and finding joy.
Struggles for Women to Support Each Other:
Challenges women face in supporting each other, influenced by societal and historical factors.
"People are uncomfortable with other people’s discomfort."
We explore fostering stronger community bonds and mutual support among women, especially those from marginalized groups.
White Academia:
Doreen's journey of applying to graduate programs as a BIPOC individual.
Systemic barriers like being told she is not diverse enough.
Doreen shares why it is important for her to continue trying to get into her graduate program: "I'm going to do it because you don’t think I can." For her, it’s more than framing a degree on a wall; it’s about using her voice for immigrant families who are accessing the mental health system.
Strategies for breaking down systemic oppression.
Mental Health and Therapy:
The importance of mental health in our 40s, including therapy and finding a racialized therapist.
"It is hard to shake off decades of internalized messages."
Receiving therapy from a professional who shares relatable experiences provides culturally sensitive and supportive care, helping clients navigate and address the unique challenges of racism and cultural identity.
The impact of systemic oppression on friendships.
Relationships and Fertility:
Following up on Doreen's previous struggles with fertility and its impact on mental and physical health.
"This is not my fault."
"I've been afraid to speak up most of my life," but now embracing her voice and encouraging others to "get over that hump and just talk about it."
Join us as we dive into this inspiring story of resilience and growth faced by women in their 40's, particularly those from marginalized communities. Empowering and enlightening, this episode, offers valuable perspectives and a call to continue learning and supporting one another.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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In this episode I sit down with the hilarious and insightful Grand Komanda, a Nigerian comedian making waves in Calgary. Grand shares his journey into comedy, highlighting the highs and lows of performing on stage. He discusses the role of comedians as social commentators and the endless possibilities in delivering a single joke in countless ways.
Together, we explore important themes such as mental health within the Nigerian community and community integration, reflecting on how even the tough moments keep us grounded. Grand emphasizes the significance of seeking help when needed, the power of collaboration in our city, and how sometimes laughing about our hardships can help us cope. We also touch on often unspoken issues within the community, including fertility and mental health.
Tune in to hear how, as a young person, Grand discovered his gift for writing by crafting love letters for his friends to help them land dates. I am grateful for the time Grand shared with us, highlighting relatable and significant issues. Join us for a thought-provoking and entertaining conversation as we explore the multifaceted world of comedy, fatherhood, and being better human beings.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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This episode features Sunny Chopra, host of the 'South Asian Healing Podcast.' Sunny dives into the challenges faced by South Asian men regarding mental health and well-being. We explore the impact of cultural expectations and intergenerational trauma, while offering tips for fostering open communication and healthy boundaries.
The conversation today includes:
The unique struggles of South Asian boys and men when it comes to mental health
How to address the impact of fathers and intergenerational trauma
Common communication challenges within South Asian households
Setting boundaries with parents and in-laws
Sunny's personal journey of healing from childhood bullying and his parents' divorce
How to reclaim happiness and joy without resorting to unhealthy coping mechanisms
The importance of growth, resilience, and understanding within the South Asian community
Join us for an insightful conversation about mental health, healing, and finding joy in life!
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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In this compelling episode, we welcome Harjeet Kaur, who confronted a rare and aggressive cancer with extraordinary courage and determination. Diagnosed with stage IV Subcutaneous Panniculitis T-cell Lymphoma at 32, Harjeet battled through immense challenges, including isolation during the COVID-19 pandemic and the stigma of cancer in her South Asian community.
Harjeet's journey isn't just about survival; it's about using her experience to bridge gaps in understanding and support. She founded Chai & Hope: South Asian Cancer Community to provide a platform for those affected by cancer. Her story emphasizes the importance of community, support, and hope.
Join us to hear Harjeet's inspiring words and learn why no one should face cancer alone. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking strength, understanding, and the power of resilience in the face of adversity. Discover how collective support and shared stories can transform lives and communities.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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In this special dedication to mothers, we are excited to have Hira, a first generation immigrant imparting her valuable perspectives. This installment celebrates the resilience and perseverance of mothers who have immigrated, drawing inspiration from Hira’s personal journey and her gratitude for her own mother’s silent sacrifices—a common thread among many immigrant mothers. We look into the complex challenges these mothers face, examining their roles both in the workforce and at home, and addressing the often-neglected issue of their mental health.
The discussion also covers the unnecessary guilt that immigrant children often feel, the importance of taking care of oneself, and the need to recognize true strength as opposed to the harmful practice of praising self-sacrifice too much.
This talk honors the important experiences of immigrant mothers, highlighting the need for mental health support that respects different cultures and stresses the importance of making happiness and health a priority.
Through conversation we shed light on the emotional burdens of these sacrifices, the impediments to accessing mental health support due to cultural constraints, and the enduring lessons of resilience handed down across generations.
As we bring this conversation to a close, we extend a special invitation to families listening together—children, mothers, and fathers alike. This dialogue transcends generations, offering a moment for shared reflection on the resilience and legacy of immigrant mothers. It’s an opportunity for children to hear firsthand the stories of strength and sacrifice that have shaped their lives, and for fathers to join in acknowledging and honoring the often silent yet profound contributions of their partners. Together, let’s embrace the lessons of our past to nurture a future rich in understanding, compassion, and collective well-being.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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In this episode, we sit down with Meg Khan, the visionary behind "Seen the Stories." We explore the impact of storytelling and visibility, diving into how Meg's photography project amplifies the voices of those often left unheard. Meg shares personal insights, from her father’s journey from Pakistan to London in search of a better life to breaking inter-generational trauma through storytelling.
Key themes include the power of simply being yourself, the strength found in conversations, and the transformative experience of truly seeing and being seen. Meg’s journey reminds us that none of us are normal; we are all beautifully flawed and unique. By sharing our stories, we can feel empowered and encouraged, gaining nuggets of support along the way.
Tune in to learn how seeing others helps us see ourselves more clearly, and why there's always room for everyone in the narrative of life. Whether it's through the lens of a camera or the simple act of listening, this episode highlights the extraordinary lessons we can learn from each other's stories
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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Join us for a much-needed conversation with Jeeti Pooni, a survivor, motivational speaker and author as she shares her remarkable journey of healing after trauma. Jeeti's journey is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the power of advocacy. Alongside her sisters, she made history by confronting their abuser in one of Canada's highest-profile sexual abuse criminal cases. Their bravery underscores the imperative for open dialogue and support for survivors.
Jeeti's experience sheds light on the pervasive issue of intergenerational trauma within our community and the importance of breaking the cycle of silence. As she aptly puts it, "In the system, it's not that we are not believed; it's that we are labeled as liars." Jeeti offers practical advice for confronting trauma, embracing vulnerability, and reclaiming one's voice.
Discover more about Jeeti's acclaimed book, "The Silent Stoning," and her 2019 documentary "Because We Are Girls," as she shares insights into her advocacy work and the impact of her story on fostering cultural change.
Through Jeeti's powerful insights, we are reminded of the necessity for dialogue within our communities, encouraging fathers, brothers, husbands, and sons to stand in solidarity with survivors and champion empathy and understanding. This episode is a call to action for compassion, healing, and the restoration of innocence within ourselves and our communities.
Instagram: @jeetipooni
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Documentary - Because We Are Girls - www.nfb.ca/film/because-we-are-girls/
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
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In this episode join us as we learn about the journey of Poonam Toor, the creative force behind Sugar Shimmer Bake Shop.
From her roots in India to her thriving bakery in Canada, Poonam's story is a demonstration of the power of passion and perseverance. As we uncover the layers of her journey discover how she has captured the hearts and taste buds of many with her delectable creations, particularly her renowned cookies.
Throughout our conversation, we'll explore the fusion of artistry, heritage, and culinary risks that have made Poonam a shining star in the world of baking. spoiler alert: baking was never one of her strengths! Poonam's determination shines bright, fueled by the support of her family, including her husband. From driving long haul trucks to the daily hustle of running a bakery, her journey is filled with resilience and determination.
Discover the strength of family woven into every delectable creation, as Poonam reminisces about the unwavering support of her husband and the cherished bond with her mother-in-law. As they journeyed together as long haul team drivers, Poonam found inspiration in the landscapes and wildlife that passed by their window, drawing continual belief from her family even on the days she struggles with imposter syndrome.
Join us as we raise a whisk to Poonam Toor and her mouthwatering creations, celebrating her fearless pursuit of success. Tune and be inspired to follow your passions, overcome obstacles, and craft a life that's as fulfilling as it is sweet.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
As I sit here reflecting on our 75th episode, I'm overwhelmed with pride and gratitude. I'm proud of the unwavering commitment from both our guests and our listeners, who come together week after week to engage, to listen, and to learn from each other's stories. And I'm grateful for the opportunity to create a space where storytelling isn't just valued—it's celebrated as a catalyst for growth, understanding, and healing.
This podcast has always been about more than just sharing stories; it's about recognizing the significant impact that storytelling can have on our lives. It's about those "A-ha" moments when we lean into moments of discomfort, recognizing them as opportunities for growth and personal development. It's about understanding that healing isn't always easy, but it's possible when we approach it with curiosity, empathy, and an open heart.
But above all, we've come together as a community—a community dedicated to lifting each other up, supporting one another through the highs and lows, and reminding ourselves that healing is possible, even in the midst of adversity. With each episode, we've celebrated moments of triumph and resilience, and we've navigated through challenges with grace and compassion. And through it all, we've been reminded time and time again of the power of storytelling to connect us, to inspire us, and to remind us of our shared humanity.
So as we celebrate this milestone episode, let's continue to honor the importance of storytelling in all its forms. Let's continue to create spaces where voices are heard, where stories are valued, and where healing can truly take place. Together, we'll continue to write the next chapter of this incredible journey — one story at a time.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Join us on for an inspiring episode featuring Janey Enmil, a dedicated trainer with a heart of gold. From empowering seniors with dementia and Parkinson's to navigating the complexities of parenting and overcoming domestic violence, Janey shares her journey with raw honesty and unwavering determination.
In this episode, we explore the power of movement, discussing how it extends beyond age and ability to serve as a guiding light for hope and healing. "Movement at any age is important," Janey emphasizes, drawing inspiration from her clients with dementia and Parkinson’s. She beautifully illustrates how "the body remembers," highlighting the deep connection between physical activity and mental well-being.
Throughout the episode, themes of resilience, self-care, and the importance of discovering one's "Why" resonate deeply. Drawing from her own experiences as a single mother, Janey offers valuable insights and practical advice for listeners navigating similar paths. With memorable quotes like "If you're not going to take care of yourself for yourself, at least do it for the people around you," Janey challenges us to prioritize our well-being and embrace the light within.
Tune in as Janey shares her journey of self-discovery, from confronting domestic violence to finding solace and strength in movement. Whether you're seeking inspiration, practical tips, or simply a reminder to show up for yourself, this episode is sure to leave you feeling empowered and uplifted
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this episode we have returning guest Kien. Together we explore the concept of self-identity, particularly as it intersects with body image and fitness. Join us as we peel back layers of self-discovery, empowerment, and reclaiming one's narrative through the lens of Kien’s personal journey. He shares his experience of navigating self-identity amidst societal pressures and expectations, especially within the context of body image and fitness.
Against the backdrop of rapid weight loss and bodybuilding, Kien reflects on how his journey became more than just a physical transformation—it became an exploration of self-identity and cultural authenticity. As he aptly puts it, "It had more to do than with just fitness, it was an identity shake."
Kien articulates how self-identity transcends external motivations, emphasizing the power of embracing one's true self despite societal pressures. Reflecting on this, he shares, "Self-identity is way more powerful than motivation or willpower ever will be."
Throughout the episode, quotes and anecdotes underscore the importance of authenticity and self-acceptance in the face of systemic biases and societal expectations. From confronting imposter syndrome to dismantling limiting beliefs, our guest's insights offer a roadmap for individuals navigating their journey to self-discovery and empowerment.
As Kien humorously shares, "My mom says I'm manly," he light-heartedly sheds light on the more serious societal views within Asian culture that often perpetuate harmful stereotypes and contribute to toxic masculinity.
Join us as we celebrate the beauty of individuality and reclaim the narrative of self-identity. Tune in as we amplify diverse voices and honor the resilience of all communities in navigating the complexities of body image and self-discovery.
Don't miss out on this empowering dialogue, filled with insights, reflections, and the reminder that true empowerment lies in embracing and celebrating every facet of our identity.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
It all started from a text:
Kiran: Any topics come up for you lately or you are hearing about?
Aman: The regret I have that I abandoned my culture....
Join us as we navigate the intricacies of identity, heritage, and the challenges of assimilation faced by many in the BIPOC community.
Through candid conversations and personal anecdotes, our guests share their experiences of growing up in environments where their cultural backgrounds were not well-represented. From feelings of guilt to the pressure to fit in, we delve into the complexities of abandoning one's culture in pursuit of acceptance.
Yet, amidst the struggle, we find moments of resilience and hope. We hear in this that "it is all about empathy and grace", reminding us that everyone's journey is unique and deserving of compassion. Together, we challenge societal norms and celebrate the beauty of our diverse cultural identities.
Join us as we explore the highs and lows of cultural assimilation, the importance of self-acceptance, and the power of embracing our heritage with pride. It's a conversation filled with heart, honesty, and a deep appreciation for the richness of our shared humanity.
So tune in, and let's embark on this journey of cultural discovery together. Because in the end, it's not about fitting in—it's about embracing who we are and finding strength in our differences.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this episode, we explore blind spots that often go unnoticed in both life and work, uncovering the nuances of cultural understanding in therapy. Our guest, an experienced therapist, shares insights on the importance of recognizing these blind spots and the utility of having an outside perspective.
But the conversation doesn't stop there. We explore the critical aspect of choosing the right therapist, especially for communities of color. Are white therapists equipped with the cultural understanding necessary to effectively support BIPOC individuals? Our guest flips the script, interviewing the host, and delving into the nuances of this crucial topic.
With thought-provoking quotes like "What could I have done differently?" and "Therapy is all about asking great questions," we navigate the complexities of cultural competence in therapy and how blind spots can impact the therapeutic relationship. As one quote aptly puts it, "The blind spots are blind until you shed light on them."
Join us as we uncover the importance of cultural understanding in therapy and how acknowledging blind spots can lead to more meaningful and impactful therapeutic experiences for all.
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Walnutgrovecounselling.ca
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Step into the vibrant world of Chris Strikes, a BIPOC filmmaker whose journey from music videos to directing feature-length documentaries is as captivating as his hair transformations. In this episode, we dive into Strikes' upbringing, his music video background, and his personal hair journey, all of which have shaped his unique directorial style.
From his early days on set with artists like Kardinal Official to his documentary "Becoming a Queen," Strikes shares insights into his creative process and his passion for telling Caribbean stories. With candid quotes like "And I'm pretty good in the kitchen" and "For me, it was all about how the style looked," Strikes invites listeners into his world where every detail, from hairstyles to storytelling, holds significance.
We explore Strikes' involvement with Crosscurrent funding programs and Netflix's Banff Diverse Voices initiative, showcasing his commitment to amplifying marginalized voices in the film industry. Through anecdotes and advice like "Just get out there and shoot" and "Don't be afraid to offer yourself to volunteer," Strikes inspires aspiring filmmakers to find their own unique paths and create meaningful stories.
Join us as we celebrate Chris Strikes' creative journey and the powerful impact of representation in filmmaking. Listen now to discover how Strikes is changing the narrative, one captivating story at a time.
Don't miss the accompanying article for more insights into Chris Strikes' groundbreaking work and his influence on the film industry. Plus, explore some of his video collaborations and recommended films at Callowgroveent.com/films.
Socials and Links:
www.cbc.ca/author/chris-strikes-1.7129924
Instagram: chrisstrikes
Films: @becomingaqueenthedoc @callowgroveent
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
We're thrilled to introduce you to Jia Rizvi, a multifaceted force! Jia, a South Asian award-winning filmmaker, Forbes writer, and advocate for the wrongly incarcerated, has embarked on an inspiring journey from the world of fashion to advocacy through film.
Known for her acclaimed work, including the award-winning documentary 'Conviction,' Jia has found her voice as an advocate, shining a light on the injustices of the American Criminal Justice system.
In this episode, Jia shares insights and experiences, getting into the complexities of navigating life's uncertainties, particularly in the face of wrongful convictions and systemic injustices. Her passion for advocacy is evident as she discusses her investigation of the American Criminal Justice system, weaving together the stories of exonerees like Jeffrey Deskovic.
But Jia's impact extends beyond the courtroom. As a featured writer for Forbes and co-host of the Speaking of Crime podcast, she amplifies important narratives and sparks conversations on justice reform. Additionally, her creative flair as the founder and fashion designer of Studio 15 showcases her versatility and determination to make a difference.
Join us as we explore Jia's journey, from channeling frustration into action to uncovering the meaning of peace of mind amidst adversity. Tune in to uncover her insights on wrongful convictions, the empowerment of South Asians in the arts, and the importance of leveraging strengths to effect change.
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www.jiarizvi.com🎙Podcast @SpeakingofCrime
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
I want to take a moment to acknowledge something important. In today's episode, we had a guest who chose to remain anonymous when sharing their story. This decision highlights the very real stigma that still surrounds conversations about mental health. It's a reminder of the barriers many face when opening up about their struggles, and the courage it takes to speak out, even anonymously. We're grateful for their willingness to share their experiences and hope that their story resonates with those who may be listening in silence. Let's continue to challenge the stigma together, one conversation at a time.
Today, we’re joined by "J", whose experiences of identity, isolation and resilience are both unique and universally relatable.
“I went three months without a hug from a human being,” J shares, a reminder of our deep-seated need for connection in our lives. Her journey is a testament to the power of self-compassion and the courage it takes to honor one’s feelings in the face of adversity.
J’s story is a mosaic of moments that reflect a larger narrative shared by many. From the Northern Alberta life isolation to the pressures of work stress and the complexities of being a child of immigrants, her experiences resonate with a raw honesty. “The loss of self-identity is what really started my mental health issues,” she reveals, highlighting a struggle that is often silent but ever-present
In a world that often reduces us to bullet points on a resume, J reminds us that we are so much more. “It’s almost like we are a resume and that’s all we are, but we’re not; we are so much more than that,” she asserts.
J’s reflections are interspersed with moments of levity and wisdom. “Check yourself before you wreck yourself,” she quips, bringing a smile to our faces. But it’s her insight into family dynamics and societal expectations that offer a beacon of hope. “People tend to forget that moms actually know everything,” she says with a laugh, acknowledging the strength and support found in maternal bonds
As we wrap up our conversation we’re left with a sense of realistic positive encouragement. Her parting words, “Learn to love yourself, because nobody is going to be with you 24/7,” serve as a powerful reminder of the importance of self-care and inner strength
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Joining us in this empowering episode about women's health in midlife is Dr. Shafeena Premji, a passionate advocate for women's health and a leading voice in the field. Together, we explore perimenopause and menopause, shedding light on the often-overlooked but crucial phase of women's health in midlife. Dr. Premji highlights the pressing need for a makeover in how we perceive and prioritize women's health needs during this dynamic stage of life.
From challenging societal norms to reclaiming self-care as a priority, Dr. Premji shares insights and strategies for women to embrace this significant stage of life with confidence and vitality. We uncover the importance of validation for women who often feel forgotten in their 40s and beyond.
Drawing from her extensive experience and affiliations, including the Board of the Canadian Menopause Society and the Medical Advisory Board for the Menopause Foundation of Canada, Dr. Premji emphasizes the significance of ensuring your healthcare provider is North American Menopause Certified, pointing listeners to reputable resources such as Menopause.org.
Tune in to discover how partners can support women on this journey, especially during midlife when relationships may face unique challenges. Dr. Premji shares valuable insights into the significant impact attending appointments can have on relationships, highlighting the importance of partners being involved in women's healthcare. Don't miss out on this insightful conversation that celebrates women's health and advocates for the validation and care they deserve.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this episode we welcome back our loved guest Meena Natt. Today we explore the multifaceted journey of birth choices and postpartum support with a focus on empowering expectant parents. Join us as we uncover the complexities of decision-making during pregnancy.
We get into the concept of "failure to progress" and its implications, shedding light on the power of continuous support throughout the birthing process. As Meena shares, "I have seen what the power of support can do", highlighting the impact of a nurturing environment on birthing experiences.
Throughout the episode, we emphasize the importance of a continuous support system, recognizing it as the key to fostering a positive birthing environment. From practical advice like organizing a meal train to insightful discussions on partner support, we aim to equip listeners with the tools they need for a smooth transition into parenthood.
We address common misconceptions surrounding pregnancy, such as the pressure to adhere to strict due dates, and advocate for a more open dialogue about asking for and offering help. "Don't tell anyone your due date," Meena advises, highlighting the importance of relinquishing control and embracing the unpredictability of birth.
Join us as we navigate the intricacies of pregnancy, birth choices, and postpartum support, with a commitment to normalizing the act of seeking assistance and fostering a culture of empowerment for expectant and new parents alike.
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Instagram: meenasdoulaservices
meenasdoulaservices.com Resources:
The Fourth Trimester: https://a.co/d/8CiuvdD
www.cochranelibrary.com/
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Today's episode contains a stark reality: many BIPOC individuals like our guest, grapple with the fear of speaking out against racism. Join us as we get into the challenging choice between silence and the potential consequences of raising their voice
We engage in a difficult yet essential conversation about racism with Kajal, a female Punjabi pilot. Through Kajal's raw and candid accounts, we explore the nuances of racism in professional and personal settings and explore practical tools on how to be an effective ally.
Through story Kajal shares her experiences of facing discrimination and bullying in day to day life and the workplace, highlighting the importance of validation and listening. As she aptly illistrates, "We can say pterodactyl, but we can’t say Kajal?" Her words shed light on the subtle yet pervasive forms of racism that individuals like her encounter daily.
Throughout the episode, Kajal offers insights on how to respond to racism, emphasizing the need for self-reflection and acknowledgment of emotions. She challenges listeners to consider their role in fostering inclusivity and standing up against discrimination.
Reflecting on her journey, Kajal shares, "It wasn’t just the racism; it was the bullying when nobody was listening." Her words resonate with anyone who has felt marginalized or silenced in their lives.
As the conversation unfolds, we confront the complexities of being an ally and the importance of learning how to support marginalized colleagues. Kajal reminds us that being an ally is an ongoing process—one that requires commitment and self-awareness.
Kajal leaves us with a powerful message: "This isn’t something you can go and tell your grandma." Her words challenge us to confront uncomfortable truths and rethink our approaches to inclusivity.
Join us for a thought-provoking dialogue on navigating racism, and discover practical tools for creating a more inclusive and equitable environment for all. Tune in to learn from Kajal's experiences and be inspired to be a catalyst for change in your community and in the workplace.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Today we are privileged to have a conversation with Ishita Singla, the founder behind Calgary's renowned arts collective, Madhuban Performing Arts, and also the senior communications officer at CBC. Ishita champions the creation of safe environments where individuals can freely express their authentic selves.
Join us as Ishita shares her journey of nurturing inclusivity and honoring diversity, both within the dance and music communities and in the realm of communication. We discuss the delicate balance of fostering individuality within group dynamics and the impact of movement on self-expression and personal discovery.
This episode invites listeners to embrace the richness of diversity and discover strength in embracing one's true identity amidst life's rhythms. Whether you're an enthusiast of dance and music or curious about the intersection of art and communication, Ishita's wisdom and passion are sure to inspire and uplift. Tune in for an exploration of celebrating diversity and inclusivity in all its facets.
Socials and Sites:
@ishitasingla
@madhubanperformingarts
madhubanperformingarts.com
Featured in Kufiya on Netflix
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this episode, we explore the world of growth and graffiti abstraction with our guest David Brunning. David is a Canadian contemporary artist whose journey began in the rebellious days of running from authority wielding spray cans. From racking paint to cultivating imagination, we peel back the layers of David’s artistic evolution, learning not only about him as an artist but, more importantly, as a human.
David shares his three pillars of relearning and living: being present, being yourself, and being honest. In an exploration of ‘showing up,’ David explores the courage required for constant evolution and growth, the delicate balance between creativity and academic norms, and the impact of fear on personal and artistic progression.
With David’s vulnerability, we address the notion of the light dimming within ourselves to reveal real issues and discuss the importance of dialing down the noise to rediscover one's true self. Our conversation touches on the challenges and growth inherent in being both an artist and a person.
Throughout the episode, David’s insights, such as the courage and vulnerability needed to show up authentically, the value of owning one's story, and the power of active connection versus mere connection, reveal a role model of vulnerability and the liberating feeling of letting go.
Here's a thought to ponder: How would you answer if asked, "Have you truly gotten to know yourself?" It's a challenge to reflect on the depth of our self-awareness. Join us in this exploration, where we encourage you to peel back the surface and discover the realms of genuine, authentic connections. Join us as we navigate the abstract landscapes of graffiti, relearn the art of being, and embrace the courage to be present, be yourself, and be honest. As David so eloquently puts it, "Don't lose your imagination," for it is in imagination that we find the key to staying young and unlocking the depths of our creativity.
Socials and Site:
@TheKidBelo
@davidbrunning
www.davidbrunning.com
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this episode, we learn about the captivating world of drag through the personal journey of our guest, exploring the intricacies of self-discovery, family bonds, and the significance of allyship. Join us as we uncover the story of how our guest found his way into the vibrant realm of drag and share their thoughts on this unique form of self-expression.
Our guest takes us back to the roots of their drag journey, recounting the moments that led to their introduction to the world of glitter, wigs, and high heels. From the early days of experimentation to the realization of the transformative power of drag, we learn about the evolution of their drag persona and the birth of the name Gerta Hell.
Exploring the theme of family within the drag community, our guest opens up about their drag aunts and the profound sense of kinship that arises within this chosen family. We discuss the importance of understanding and acknowledging each other's journeys, creating a supportive environment for self-discovery and expression.
Shifting the focus to allyship, we explore the distinctions between passive allies and active allies within the drag community. Our guest reflects on the role of allies in fostering an inclusive and accepting space for everyone, regardless of their gender identity or expression.
As we wrap up this episode, we've gained a deeper understanding of the multifaceted world of drag. Our guest's journey reflects not only the personal growth and empowerment found in drag but also the importance of building supportive communities and being active allies in the pursuit of inclusivity.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Join us today once again with Divorce Coach Heidi Dinning, who previously shared valuable insights in Episode 54: "Divorce Doesn't Break The Family, It Actually Can Shift The Family." In this latest episode, Heidi delves into the intricacies of making the divorce process child-centric, shedding light on common pitfalls parents often encounter.
Drawing from her expertise, Heidi emphasizes the role of clear communication and emotional awareness during divorce. She addresses the balance required when providing age-appropriate information, cautioning against inadvertently placing children in the middle of the emotional turmoil.
Heidi also underscores the significance of understanding that children only know what they are told. As non-professionals in divorce and relationships, it is the responsibility of parents to model and shape their perspective on what is happening. Children should not be burdened with the emotional intricacies of the divorce process; instead, parents should guide them with care.
Furthermore, Heidi advocates for parents to take charge of their emotions. It is crucial not to let children absorb the emotional weight of the situation. Instead of having kids take on the parents' emotions, the focus should be on helping them navigate and understand their own feelings.
Heidi also addresses the issue of transitions between homes. She suggests creating a seamless "figure 8" pattern where children smoothly go back and forth between households. Minimizing the impact of these transitions is essential for providing stability and a sense of normalcy in the lives of the children.
Listeners will gain valuable insights into shaping a positive co-parenting experience and ensuring their children not only navigate but thrive amidst the challenges of divorce.
Don't miss this episode for expert guidance on fostering a supportive environment for your children and navigating the complexities of divorce with grace.
Credentials and Resources:
CDC® Certified Divorce Coach
CDC® Divorce Recovery Coach
Interpersonal Communications Expert
High Conflict Institute - New Ways For Families® Licensed Practitioner
Co-Parenting Without Conflict®
Author: Navigating The Hard Conversations E-Book
The REAL 'How To’ Talk To Your Kids About Divorce
https://go.heididinning.com/ultimate-guide
Do You Think Your Spouse/Ex is a Narcissist Free Guide:
https://heididinning.com/free-resources/
www.heididinning.com
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Meet Simrit and Harjot, a couple celebrating their traditional Punjabi wedding after 7 years of shared love. In this episode, they share insights on the profound distinction between weddings and marriage. Discussing accountability, setting boundaries, and the importance of checking ego, the couple sheds light on the shifts shaping their relationship.
Navigating cultural expectations, they challenge societal norms, emphasizing the need to question established narratives. Amidst laughter, they highlight the significance of unlearning and relearning, urging listeners to resist external opinions and believe in themselves.
Simrit and Harjot provide advice on living authentically, embracing discomfort, and fostering growth within a relationship. Reflecting on the essence of marriage, they challenge listeners to ask, 'Why are you getting married?'
Join us for a thought-provoking exploration of relationships, self-discovery, and the pursuit of a meaningful life with Simrit and Harjot.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this episode we sit down with Glen Davies a personal trainer, fitness instructor and podcaster, to explore the dynamic interplay between physical and mental fitness. Glen shares his wisdom on overcoming obstacles, emphasizing that "sometimes you need to switch it off, and then come back to it." We discuss the significance of bonding with workout partners and the benefits of high-intensity training.
Throughout the conversation, Glen reflects on the parallels between conquering the gym and life, stating "You're capable of doing so much, but it's always the fear of failing that stops you from doing it". We share the power of consistency, not only in fitness routines but also in the world of podcasting.
As the conversation unfolds, Glen highlights the importance of taking breaks to avoid burnout and navigating the social media trap, emphasizing the balance between sharing and keeping life content for oneself. In a unique twist, Glen turns the interview on me.
We explore the journey of enjoying the process, drawing inspiration from Pokémon and the meaning of teamwork in becoming a champion. Glen encapsulates the essence of our discussion, saying, "Where your finish line is might not be where someone else's finish line is". Join us for an insightful conversation that blends fitness, mindset, and the joy of sharing genuine creations.
Socials :
@glenayrtondavies
@bay_pt
@vantagepointpodcast
YouTube: @GlenAyrton
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this new year we start off with a fantastic conversation with Bree and Charles. In this episode we offer a glimpse into their journey growing up in the United States with two unique histories. From navigating growing up as a child of adoption, or a tri-racial woman they share insights from their unique perspectives. They also share raising children in a blended family and the challenges and rewards that brings. Hear their reflections on the delicate balance of showing love to their children while maintaining strength.
We also dive into the complexities of tri-racialism, child emancipation, and the uninvited touching or petting of themselves and their hair. Through quotes such as "What you see is what you get," and "Hold my beer," they reflect on the journey of progress, acknowledging that though they've come a long way, there's still a considerable distance to cover.
With wisdom forged from hard lessons, the couple reflects on discomfort in the face of incomprehension and turning awkward moments into opportunities for growth. From questioning luck to the importance of every child needing their father, Bree and Charles deliver insights, emphasizing reciprocity in relationships and the enduring truth that "It takes a village."
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Today we sit down with "B' an intelligent rounded teen in order to explore the dynamics of the parent-child relationship. We use the idea of "chapters" as we "write" a book to navigate through the intricacies of communicating with a teen.
In this episode, we explore how parents and their children can construct a better relationship, offering insights and practical advice for navigating the often tumultuous teenage years. We discuss what parents and teens can do to enhance their communication and understanding, creating a roadmap for a healthier and more fulfilling relationship.
What chapters would such a book include? From exploring the contrast between school and work to talking about the innate understanding that parents seem to possess, each chapter becomes a stepping stone in understanding the nuances of these relationships.
Discover the importance of building insight and cultivating the thinking brain, and how this contributes to a deeper understanding of youth. We'll guide you through the metaphorical journey of a book, using it as a lens to explore the layers of connection between parents and their teenage children.
So, whether you're a parent, a teen, or someone interested in the intricate dance of family dynamics, join us as we unlock the secrets to building lasting and meaningful relationships between parents and their children. There's always more to discover when it comes to the connection between generations.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this episode we're joined by Prav, a supporter of our MFU community who generously reached out to share their journey to sobriety. Prav shares "I don't need alcohol to have fun." This bold declaration sets the stage for a conversation that unveils the resilience and joy discovered when choosing a life liberated from the clutches of addiction.
Throughout our discussion, Prav shares the transformative shift from isolation to recognizing the strength found in unity: "I feel like today I am not alone because there are a lot of us, and I didn’t know that." Prav talks about his realization that sobriety is not just about abstaining but about learning to face life's challenges directly: "Now I know how to deal with it, instead of numbing myself." Join us as we explore the simplicity of choosing joy over substances, dispelling stigmas, and celebrating the strength found in living a life untethered from addiction—all supported by our incredible MFU community
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Join me in a nostalgic reunion with Mike Seibel, where time stands still and the essence of genuine connection reignites. There's something magical about catching up with good friends—those rare souls with whom you can put life on pause and seamlessly pick up where you left off. Today we hit 'un-pause' and explore Mike's journey through his openness and vulnerability as we discuss childhood, the journey of self-discovery, and the triumphs and tribulations that shape who we are today.
In this episode our guest Mike takes us on a journey through his childhood, navigating the complexities of understanding his sexuality as a young boy. With inspiring openness, Mike shares the vulnerabilities and challenges he faced while coming out as a gay man. The conversation seamlessly extends to discussions on body image issues illuminating Mike's resilience in overcoming these personal struggles.
But the story doesn't end here! Stay tuned for Part 2, where Mike and I chat about his emotional connection to the vibrant community of Drag, exploring the art, the camaraderie, and the narratives that define this captivating world.
This reunion isn't just a catch-up; it's a celebration of enduring connections and the unfolding chapters of our intertwined lives. Join us for the journey—it's a story you won't want to miss.
As we wrap up, let's recognize that these conversations are not merely reflections but powerful door openers, inviting us to connect, empathize and appreciate the diverse narratives that shape our collective human experience.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this special Holiday Bonus Episode, recorded last holiday season, we're joined by Provisional Psychologist Nevena Kalajdzic. As we approach December and the year-end at an unexpectedly swift pace, I can't help but connect this particular season with the insights gained from our past discussion.
Amid the festivities, there's an overwhelming sense of the year concluding faster than many of us might feel prepared for. In this episode, we aim to lean into these feelings, thoughts, and experiences, recognizing that some of us may benefit from a review of last year's discussion. Upon revisiting it myself, I found helpful reminders that resonate even today.
As the season looms on the horizon, the celebrations, hectic schedules, and the pressures of hosting and gift-giving can amplify stressors. In our conversation, Nevena sheds light on societal expectations and the challenges of establishing boundaries, exploring how these factors contribute to financial stress, anxiety, and exhaustion. We discuss the societal pressure to conceal personal struggles and the lack of outlets for relief.
Our intention today is to provide insights into varying perspectives during the holidays and to reassure those feeling overwhelmed that they are not alone. We address the struggles of maintaining a cheerful demeanor and share ways to gain insight and validation for thoughts, feelings, and sensations.
For those grappling with the challenges of the season, here are some coping strategies:
Reflect on your thoughts, feelings, and sensations; ground yourself in the present moment through activities like a body scan exercise.
Identify and name your feelings, whether by talking to someone or writing them down.
Take a moment to slow down and practice deep breathing.
Spend time outdoors to soak up some sunshine, especially during the winter.
Engage in physical activity that you enjoy, such as walking, going to the gym, practicing yoga, or dancing.
Maintain a balanced diet for overall well-being.
Cultivate gratitude by writing it down in a journal, on your phone, or simply reflecting on positive aspects.
Manage self-talk by being kind and patient with yourself.
Treat yourself to rewards like a massage, a good book, or a movie.
Reach out to someone you trust and feel comfortable with.
Ensure you get enough sleep and rest.
Let go of unrealistic expectations.
Incorporate meditation or guided visualization into your routine.
Seek professional help if needed.
Release certain expectations that may be causing stress.
Consider choosing not to celebrate if it brings relief.
Create new rituals and traditions that hold personal meaning for you.
As we navigate this busy season, may these strategies serve as a guide, offering support and a reminder that self-care is crucial during the holiday hustle. We'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences. Lets keep this conversation going.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Join us in a conversation with a divorce coach whose personal journey sparked a mission to transform the narrative around divorce. With a message to "park the shame and look at what is," Heidi emphasizes human connection in navigating this process.
Explore the idea that families don't break in divorce; they shift to find where they need to be. Our guest challenges divorce stigma, urging listeners to stop it for the sake of the kids.
In this episode, discover how curiosity can replace judgment, and meet "The Dula of Divorce," a compassionate guide. Stay tuned for Part 2, where we'll continue exploring innovative solutions. Part 2 is on the horizon, where we'll amplify kids' voices and unveil strategies for stability amid change.
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Author: Navigating The Hard Conversations E-Book
The REAL 'How To’ Talk To Your Kids About Divorce
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this episode, we engage in a dialogue with Nisha, whose personal journey was one of the inspirations behind the creation of Middle Fingers Up. Nisha candidly shares her perspectives on navigating challenges postpartum, coping with grief and loss, and provides valuable insights into the human experience.
We look into the significance of embracing one's true self amid the intricacies of postpartum struggles, emphasizing the importance of self-acceptance and breaking the silence. Nisha's experiences serve as a beacon, highlighting the importance of discussing mental health openly and finding healing through vulnerability.
Together, we explore practical approaches to counter negative thoughts, emphasize the fundamentals of mental well-being, and introduce "The Healing Room" — a sanctuary that offers Reiki sessions and services dedicated to promoting mental and emotional well-being. Join us in this enlightening conversation as we unravel the themes of discovering light even in the darkest moments, all through the lens of Nisha's resilience and wisdom.
Instagram:
thehealingroom848
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Join us as we speak with Cody Demerais, to discuss how he has battled self-doubt and turned adversity into triumph. In a world where self-doubt has killed more dreams than failure ever could, Cody's story stands as a testament to resilience and the power of personal growth.
From the clutches of alcoholism to the aftermath of a harrowing car accident, Cody faced life-altering challenges head-on. His best friend narrowly escaped death, and Cody emerged not as a victim but as a powerful public speaker. Today, as the proud owner of 'Limitless' clothing co., he doesn't just speak about personal growth; he embodies it.
In our discussion with Cody, we get into his journey of accountability, responsibility, and navigating through the shadows of PTSD. His narrative serves as an inspiration, urging listeners to forge meaningful connections and embrace their unique paths without succumbing to the toxic allure of comparison.
Join us on this riveting exploration of resilience, where Cody Demerais illuminates the limitless possibilities that arise when one confronts their inner demons and transforms them into stepping stones toward success. Get ready to be inspired and uplifted as we unravel the layers of a soul that refused to be defined by setbacks.
Website:
www.codydemerais.com
www.limitlessgearclothing.com
Instagram:
codydemerais
limitless_gear_clothing
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
In this episode we are delighted to introduce Amy Wang, the CFO of a software solutions company and a Chinese immigrant who arrived in Canada at a young age. Her life journey reflects the intricacies of cultural assimilation and identity, offering valuable insights into the challenges of straddling Western and Eastern norms. Amy and her husband, who live in Calgary, contribute a unique perspective to our conversation by sharing their experiences in raising their biracial daughter.
Our show is committed to creating a safe space for people of color to openly process the impact of navigating between cultural worlds. We aim to acknowledge experiences without making anyone feel uncomfortable or guilty. Many individuals of color often lack the opportunity to share or process how these cultural gaps affect them, and Amy's narrative, as a Chinese immigrant, promises to provide a fresh and valuable perspective. Our hope is that this episode contributes to fostering meaningful discussions about growing up in Western-dominated societies as people of color, emphasizing the importance of open communication and understanding. Join us as we explore Amy's remarkable journey and learn from her experiences.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
I want to express my gratitude for the keystone this community has played in my journey. The support from our listeners of the Middle Fingers Up Podcast has fostered a place for our community to come out and talk more, and believe me, we're only scratching the surface!
Speaking of traditions, we are preserving them, thanks to your continuous support. In this episode, we are reuniting with familiar co-hosts, Naina and Kam! There's a delightful twist too – our "middle child" shows up for a cameo and is now toying with the idea of joining us for a special siblings episode. Listen as we reach out to past guests and even invite my mother to provide her unique perspective on immigrant parents and her thoughts on her favorite child.
We initially embarked on this journey for the betterment of our community, and thanks to you, we've forged a community of our own within MFU that nurtures growth and transformation. Your enthusiasm, your questions, and your presence have defined what this podcast stands for today. Together, let's keep these traditions alive, nurture the ongoing conversation, and venture into deeper realms of understanding, support, and growth. The best is yet to come!
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
"Welcome, Richard Ashman. We want to express our gratitude for our guests who consistently demonstrate vulnerability infused with hope, compassion, and courage. Today, you will once again witness these qualities in action as Richard shares his compelling narrative.
Richard sets an example of self-compassion by recounting his mental health journey. His story underscores the significance of prioritizing our mental well-being, emphasizing that tending to our own struggles is the initial step in fostering robust relationships and meaningful dialogues. When we care for ourselves, we become better equipped to support our loved ones.
During our discussion, we look into the importance of recognizing when to move beyond a loved one's casual "I am fine" and inquire, "Are you really, though?"
Throughout the episode, we explore a range of strategies to initiate these crucial conversations:
A. Noticing and acknowledging signs, both in others and within ourselves.
B. Sharing our own experiences, as vulnerability is a potent catalyst for connection.
C. The interplay between body and mind, and how movement can free our thoughts, as we discuss the 'Walk and Talk' approach.
D. Confronting challenging situations head-on, fearlessly addressing the unspoken issues.
E. Acknowledging that sometimes one question isn't enough and that a second inquiry can make all the difference – the 'Ask twice' approach.
Join us in this conversation and discover how small adjustments can lead to transformation. As Richard aptly reminds us, "If they're a friend, they'll open up to you."
Let's break down barriers, one conversation at a time.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Welcome back, Meena Natt! We're thrilled to have you return due to the overwhelming response to EP: 6 - "The Day I Befriended My Anxiety." Meena's genuine voice, compassionate tone, and vulnerability have truly struck a chord with our audience.
In this episode, we tackle subjects that many of us grapple with but often avoid discussing openly. We'll confront the stigma surrounding divorce, navigate the complexities of modern dating, and share some of the valuable life lessons we've acquired over time. One key revelation, especially for those of us raised by immigrant parents, is understanding the difference between sacrifice and genuine love within our relationships.
As we journey through life, many of us become the go-to support for our families, friends, and colleagues, always saying 'yes' to every request. We explore the idea of strengthening our "NO" muscle as we've come to realize that our perpetual 'yes' may not truly serve us or others.
What makes this episode exceptional is that it offers an intimate glimpse into the unfiltered conversations that my best friend and I often have during our private calls. It's like eavesdropping on a candid chat between close friends, filled with insights, laughter, and lots of love.
Get ready for an episode that's as authentic as it gets!
Meena's Last Episode:
https://tinyurl.com/yc6hwre9
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Join Kerry and me for a special "Canadian" Thanksgiving episode where we explore the themes of gratitude and getting back to the basics of love and life. In this episode, we dive into the impact of our recent road trip from Calgary to Houston, sparked by the timeless song 'Luckenbach, Texas' by Waylon Jennings, which resonated with us throughout our journey. We discuss how physical closeness, staying in the present moment, and letting go of distractions helped us rekindle the core of our relationship. As we celebrate Canadian Thanksgiving, we encourage you to take a moment for introspection, reflect on your own sources of gratitude, and uncover those cherished moments in your life. Join us for this conversation that serves as a gentle reminder to nurture our relationships and appreciate the simple joys that bind us together.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Today we have the privilege to sit down with Priya Ramesh, the Marketing & Communications Manager at BUMP. (Spoiler Alert: We also get to meet cartel.contra) Priya shares the positive impact murals can have on our city and within our community. Since its inception in 2017 as the Beltline Urban Murals Project, BUMP Festival has experienced remarkable growth, evolving into a city-wide street art movement that envisions the transformation of public spaces through the visual arts and enriches the local arts community's capabilities.
Tune in to hear Priya share how this transformation unfolded and the incredible journey of BUMP. She talks of how artists on our urban canvas understand its power. They challenge perceptions using buildings as vibrant canvases. Unique art isn't a luxury but a necessity, enriching our city and sparking conversations that connect diverse communities through shared artistic experiences. It's about fostering a sense of place and belonging, weaving art into the very fabric of our urban identity. Tune in to discover more about how these artists contribute to our city's cultural fabric and how they can "change a city's architecture from the inside out".
Moreover, Priya shares how murals serve as catalysts for building great neighborhoods, acting as bridges that connect and strengthen our communities. Each mural tells a story, reflecting our past, shaping our present, and dreaming our future.
As we explore the world of public art's impact on our city's soul, murals become windows into our collective imagination and the heartbeat of our urban landscape. To uncover the full story, don't miss Priya's perspective on how these murals have transformed our community and city.
Socials and Website
Instagram: @yycbump
www.yycbump.ca
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Note to Listeners: The audio quality in this episode may not be perfect, but after careful consideration, we've decided to stick with the original recording for its genuine emotion and authenticity. This initial conversation captures the essence of a first-time discussion, and we believe it's important to deliver content that's completely real and unscripted, without resorting to a second take. Our goal is to provide you with the most authentic and compelling content possible. Thank you for taking this journey with us, the good and bad!
In this episode we delve into the life stories of a husband and wife, both shaped by the experiences of growing up with one addicted parent and another who displayed strength and commitment in raising them. They candidly share their journeys of being raised by a single parent, tasked with providing and navigating the challenges of raising a family on their own.
What sets our guests apart is their rich and diverse cultural backgrounds, and in this episode, they explore how their cultural heritage influenced their upbringing under the care of a single parent. They emphasize the role played by extended family and community support—a true village mentality—in their formative years.
The episode delves deeply into their individual coping mechanisms, their battles with burnout and panic attacks, and their remarkable paths toward healing and personal growth. Moreover, it shines a light on the unique struggles faced by Indigenous youth, underscoring the vital need for communal support and understanding.
Throughout this conversation, our guests highlight the healing power of storytelling, revealing the profound impact that mental health awareness can have on one's life. Their narratives serve as a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the transformative potential of sharing our innermost struggles and triumphs. This episode is an absolute must-listen for anyone seeking inspiration on their own journey of healing and self-discovery.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
The Bruvcast is more than just a podcast; it's a safe haven where open and honest conversations reign supreme. Raj and Mik, are the torchbearers of this platform, demonstrating the power of dialogue in combating isolation and forging a community of understanding and empathy.
The journey begins with two friends who've walked life's unpredictable path together, encountering the peaks and valleys that accompany it. They've learned that sharing their experiences, doubts, and insecurities can be not only liberating but also healing. The Bruvcast isn't about showcasing their wisdom; it's about the journey of discovery wrapped in humor, with listeners invited to join the conversation.
Amid the discussions about life's struggles, the Bruvcast also finds humor in the everyday. Raj and Mik believe that laughter is a universal language that helps us manage the most challenging aspects of life. They sprinkle humor and wit throughout their conversations, ensuring that their listeners not only feel supported but also find joy and solace in the ordinary.
In a world where digital connections often feel shallow, Raj and Mik have managed to create a genuine community through the Bruvcast. Their podcast unites people through the universal language of shared experiences. Whether you're in the UK or anywhere across the globe, tuning into the Bruvcast is like sitting down for a heart-to-heart with two old friends who understand the intricacies of life's ups and downs.
Socials:
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Join us as we explore both the positive and negative patterns that often govern our interactions within families. Discover those seemingly subtle yet powerful negative patterns that may be invisibly shaping our lives, patterns that no longer serve us.
We shed light on the sometimes useful strategy of avoidance, which can help maintain family relationships, but caution on its potential negative impact. Curiosity brings us to look at the pros and cons of avoidance.
Prepare to exercise your "NO Muscle” as we discuss how setting boundaries can be a game-changer in family dynamics. Learn how to invite people into the repair process, fostering healthier relationships.
We explore change, self-awareness, and understanding how certain behaviors of others invite specific responses and how empathy can transform our interactions.
Ultimately, we challenge the status quo by asking, "What happens when I do it differently?" This podcast episode is a journey through the complexities of family dynamics, offering valuable insights, actionable advice, and the promise that change, though challenging and uncomfortable, is always possible.
Tune in as we navigate the intricacies of family life, inviting you to become a detective in your own relationships and embark on a path of self-discovery and transformation.
Website:
www.psychologytoday.com/ca/therapists/nevena-kalajdzic-calgary-ab/1083347
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
A warm welcome to Brenda and Aman, a couple who have beautifully exemplified compassion, gratitude, and love and most importantly growth throughout their 15-year marriage. In this episode we explore well-being, recount the beginnings of their interracial relationship, and explore the idea of "tit-for-tat" exchanges as well as bidding for affection. They thoughtfully discuss the critical difference between responding versus reacting to each other as well as dispelling the myth that successful marriages are effortless.
During their conversation, Brenda and Aman briefly touched upon Gottman's Four Horsemen theory, a topic worthy of further exploration in future episodes. If you're eager to learn more about this intriguing theory, let them know, and Brenda can return to discuss it in depth!
Brenda and Aman's journey stands as a testament to the power of love. They've shared over two decades together and are the proud parents of two wonderful kids. As an interracial couple, they offer insights into what truly sustains a relationship, the ups and downs of communication over time as well as how we can get better together if both partners work on it.
Brenda and Aman remind us of the sheer value of the endeavor. Their conversation underscores the importance of men's emotional well-being, showing how Aman's personal growth journey has fortified not only their marriage but also enriched their family life. (Yes, this is the Aman who joined us in the beginning on EP’s 4 & 7.
Their analogy of the "positive bank deposit" underscores the belief that "being a light instead of darkness is so much better." Join Brenda and Aman on their journey as they shed light on the intricate facets of a strong, resilient, and loving partnership, and what it takes in marriage, relationships, friendships and parenting to weather the storms that eventually hit our homes.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Join us as we welcome back Registered Clinical Social Worker, Angela Hick to discuss transitions and how they impact us. While our conversation is inspired by the back-to-school season, we believe that transitions mark pivotal moments in our lives, demanding us to navigate change. Returning to school is one such transformation, and Angela is here to guide us through it all.
Discover a wealth of tips and tricks that will empower us not only to navigate the back-to-school transition but also to provide our children and ourselves with the essential tools for success.
What stands out as the ultimate catalyst for successful transitions? Communication takes the spotlight as Angela reveals its pivotal role in smoothing the path during these periods of change. Drawing from our previous conversations with Angela, we revisit the concept of attunement – a powerful tool for building connections, fostering understanding, and promoting emotional well-being in relationships. It's an often-underestimated tool that holds the key to addressing even the most complex challenges.
Intriguingly, Angela takes us deeper into the realm of emotions. How well do we truly comprehend our feelings? Often, the vocabulary we possess for expressing our emotions can be limiting.
Whether you're preparing your kids for the school year ahead or navigating your own transitions, this episode is a treasure trove of insights. Join us as we unravel the mysteries of managing change, fostering effective communication, and understanding the emotions that shape our journeys.
Website:
Walnutgrovecounselling.ca
Psychologytoday.com
Resources:
Caringforkids.cps.ca
Feelings pillow
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Today, we are deeply honored to have a remarkable guest joining us, a human, a husband, a father, a lawyer: Sumit Ahuja.
We welcome Sumit as he opens up on addiction to alcohol and cocaine, describing it as a disease that affects both the mind and soul. He openly discusses how addiction can lead to a cycle of conflict, acting as a distraction from one's own struggles.
Sumit opens up about the perceived sense of security that loneliness can bring, reflecting on its impact on his journey. He expresses heartfelt gratitude for the kind souls who serendipitously entered his darkest moments and provided a glimmer of light.
Sumit believes that the most valuable gift we can bestow upon another is our time and connection. In a world that can sometimes feel distant, Sumit's story is a reminder that reaching out can make all the difference. Sumit's impact extends beyond his personal narrative. Through his organization, he has touched the lives over a hundred individuals, fostering a community of support and recovery. With a heart full of gratitude and a resolute mission to give back, Sumit is determined to create a community of support and recovery
Tune in to this episode for a powerful story of loss, breaking, resilience, healing, and the transformative power of connection. Don't miss this inspiring conversation that is sure to touch your heart and empower you to make a difference.
Website:
Livebigsociety.org
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Welcome Bhavin Bhadresa! A true creative force, the visionary artist behind Su Che Art. Hailing from the vibrant blend of Indian-Kenyan-Londoner cultures, Bhavin's journey is an inspiring weave of multicultural influences.
Bhavin's exploration of the idiosyncrasies and traditions that defined his multicultural upbringing has ignited a creative flame within him. Through his artistic brilliance, he crafts awe-inspiring Indian pop art prints, fusing the essence of East and West into captivating masterpieces. But this podcast isn't solely about art—it's about a personal exploration. Bhavin opens up about his journey of self-discovery and how his art has transformed into a vehicle for amplifying languages and cultures that define his identity as a second-generation immigrant.
This episode holds a special place in my heart, as an ardent admirer of Su Che Art. Our conversation is a first-time encounter, an opportunity to uncover the face, name, and passion driving Su Che Art. For many of us raised by immigrant parents in North America, navigating the space for our customs and culture can feel confined. Su Che Art's resonance is its validation—a canvas where Eastern and Western pop cultures harmoniously converge.
Website:
sucheart.com
Instagram:
@sucheart
Charities:
bintiperiod.org
www.ekal.org
actionvillageindia.org.uk
UK Seva Samiti
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Welcome Ashley Jones, a Registered Clinical Social Worker who fearlessly shares her personal journey of being diagnosed with Adult ADHD later in life. In a world where women are frequently overlooked and confined to a stifling mold of catering to others, Ashley's story stands as a reminder of the efforts required to challenge societal expectations. These expectations persist for young girls who mature into accomplished women, all while grappling daily with the intricate nuances of ADHD. Yet, their journey often lacks validation or recognition. Her journey exemplifies the importance of empowering women to break free from the confines of conformity and embrace their unique neurodiversity.
Through Ashley's expertise in clinical social work and her experience with diverse challenges, she guides us through the multifaceted world of ADHD in adulthood. Her candidness about making sense of childhood experiences and the discovery that "life does not have to be hard every single day" resonates deeply with anyone who has struggled to understand their own identity while performing for others.
In this honest and refreshing discussion, Ashley kicks down the stigma surrounding ADHD, breaking free from the 'conveyor belt' upbringing that teaches girls to be quiet and compliant. She emphasizes that ADHD symptoms vary from person to person, and the journey of diagnosis and self-acceptance is a unique and empowering one.
Whether you're curious about ADHD, living alongside it, or supporting someone living alongside it, this episode is a must-listen. Join us as we unmask the complexities of the mind and celebrate the power of embracing our unique neurodiversity. Tune in now to gain valuable insights and heartfelt discussions that will inspire and enlighten you.
Links:
www.psychologytoday.com/ca/therapists/ashley-jones-calgary-ab/836872
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Welcome to today's episode of our podcast, where we have the honor of hearing the remarkable journey of Jugpreet Bajwa, fondly known as Juggy. To say that Juggy is a musician would be an understatement; his exceptional talents in multilingual singing have earned him immense respect within the South Asian community. Notably, he has been acknowledged in the prestigious Bollywood community, even receiving a personal shout-out from the renowned Bollywood actor, Salman Khan.
As we explore Juggy's life, we'll soon realize that his journey has been shaped by much more than just musical accomplishments. His upbringing played a pivotal role in fostering his love for singing and building his resilience. Supported by a warm and loving family, he was nurtured in an encouraging environment that allowed him to be curious about his blindness, embracing it as a unique aspect of his identity.
Life wasn't always kind and easy for Juggy. He encountered his share of challenges, experiencing bullying and a lack of acceptance from the community as he grew up. Despite these obstacles, his unyielding determination and passion for music he continued to thrive on a path of creative expression and empowerment.
Juggy's musical journey includes significant achievements, to name a few: Runner-up on Sa Re Ga Ma Pa (India national wide talent hunt), Canadian Desi Idol, The Queen Elizabeth II Diamond Jubilee Medal, Winner of RedFM Idol as well as releasing multiple albums. Recently, he has ventured into new territory with his English language duo, Tonal Vision, showcasing his boundless creativity.
But what truly sets Juggy apart is his inspiring story of triumph over adversity. Being blind since infancy, he has defied all odds and has chosen not to let any limitations define his dreams. Through his artistry and music, he aims to inspire others to embrace their uniqueness and overcome their own challenges.
We are truly grateful to have Juggy's presence with us today. As a busy and accomplished individual, his willingness to share his story and insights is both humbling and inspiring. For all our listeners who have been following his journey, get ready to be enthralled as Juggy takes us on an exploration of his life.
Socials:
Instagram:
@jugpreetbajwa
@sunlemusic
@thisistonalvision
Twitter: @juggyjag
Tonal Vision First Single:
song.link/kissedyourlips
Wiki
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jugpreet_Singh_Bajwa
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Hey there, it's me, Kiran, and I couldn't be more excited to share this special episode with you. For all of you in relationships, married, or single there's a bit in here for everyone. And let me tell you, this one is extra special because it was a request straight from you, our incredible listeners!
Now, you probably already know that I'm a South Asian woman, but what you might not know is that my partner in life, my husband, is a white guy. In this episode, it's just the two of us sitting down to have a candid conversation about our interracial marriage.
As the host of a mental health podcast, I have worked on fostering open conversations and breaking down societal stigmas. But this time, it's personal. We get into our own relationship, sharing the challenges we've faced and the lessons we've learned along the way.
It all started back in college when we met in our early 20s. Who would've known that we'd grow together and be sitting here with you today, in our 40s, reflecting on our incredible journey? We talk about the obstacles we encountered, the stereotypes we've had to confront, and the incredible strength it takes to stand tall amidst adversity.
But it's not just about the challenges. We also celebrate the beauty of merging our cultures together. We share stories of how we've brought our customs into our relationship, creating a unique blend that honors both of our backgrounds.
Now, let me not sugarcoat it: it hasn't always been easy. We've had tough conversations about privilege, unconscious biases, and the importance of understanding one another on a deeper level. But through it all, we've learned the power of honest communication and the strength that comes from tackling these issues together.
And here's the best part: all of this was inspired by you, our incredible listeners. You wanted to hear our story, and we're honored to share it with you.
So join us on this special episode as we open up our hearts and minds, and offer you a glimpse into the intricacies of an interracial marriage. Strap in for a conversation as we share the ups, the downs, and everything in between. Trust me, you won't want to miss it. Let's break down barriers and embrace the beauty of love and understanding together.
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Welcome and a heartfelt thank you to Brent Dodginghorse for delivering an incredibly inspiring and powerful episode (that you absolutely cannot miss!) This Episode inspired me to go write in my diary. Here are the highlights that resonated with me:
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Discover the power of understanding the story behind your name, your family, your culture, and your values.
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Keep your family values, culture, and language alive. Brent's words will reignite something missing in you, reminding us all that these things ultimately come back to us.
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Learn the meaning behind "Indigenous WiFi" and the wisdom it holds.
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Diagnosed with MS, Brent reset his priorities and embarked on passion projects to make the world a better place. Discover how diversity training and his family ranch play a role in this mission.
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Discover how equine-assisted learning at Cartier Farms in Prince Albert, Sask. helped Brent and his wife expand and build the purpose within their Ranch.
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Dive into the remarkable impact the ranch has had on healing and reconnection. It's a place to unplug, unwind, and rediscover ourselves.
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Brent shares his inspiring journey playing pro hockey, including how he shares the lessons he learned from hockey navigating his work as a partner, ally, and advocate for change.
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Brent's message about facing the discomfort and powerlessness of racism is incredibly powerful. Discover how he inspires others to find their inner strength, speak up, and take action against discrimination.
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Get valuable advice on facing covert racism and microaggressions in your daily life. Brent shares practical strategies to confront these challenges with integrity and resilience.
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Please Share What Resonates With You!
Website:
www.dhranch44.com
Socials
Instagram
@brentdodginghorse
@dhranch44
LinkedIn
www.linkedin.com/mwlite/in/brent-dodginghorse-2444-dhranch
Dodginghorse- One Man's Heroic Crusade Against Racismhttps://youtu.be/cGuT-IDbvhY
Equine Assisted Learning (EAL)
www.cartierfarms.ca
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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
We're thrilled to have Evan Dewald, also known as @recesscreek, an Enneagram Life and Business Coach, and Tara Linsley, aka @taralinsley.ca, a digital marketing coach, as our guests on this episode. Together they co-host the UnpackedPod, a podcast that explores the power of storytelling, self-discovery, the positive impact of Enneagrams on relationships, and their personal journeys with faith.
In this episode, we have the privilege of delving into the story that led to the creation of the UnpackedPod. We explore Evan's unique perspective as a former pastor, and both Tara and Evan share their evolving relationship with God, highlighting the distinction between religion and spirituality. They'll also discuss the weight of uncertainty and how it can influence one's beliefs.
Come with us to unpack this intriguing realm of storytelling, self-discovery, and embracing the beautifully messy journey of personal growth. Without further ado, let's welcome Evan Dewald and Tara Linsley as we embark on this exciting exploration of personal narratives and spiritual growth.
Website
www.unpackedpod.ca
Socials
@theunpackedpod
@recesscreek
@taralinsley.ca
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**In this thought-provoking discussion, we explore the power of growth before and after 40, uncovering the unique paths that led these incredible women to participate in the 40 Woman Over 40 Boudoir Campaign by the talented @LaurieMacBrownphotography.
We candidly share experiences with careers, life, and love, shedding light on the amazing transformations that come with embracing our forties.
Through our journeys, we've realized the profound importance of human connection, friendship, and family in enriching our lives. These meaningful relationships fuel our spirits and uplift our souls, no matter how strong and independent we become.**
W**e'd love to hear your thoughts! Share your insights and reflections on this heartfelt episode. Let's continue to celebrate the strength and wisdom of women in their 40s and beyond!
Socials
Instagram:**@amjanerealty
@cleyshon
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Today we have a very special guest joining us: Kien, a videographer with an impressive 14 years of experience in diverse marketing roles and a strong social media presence under the handles Calgaryvideographer and Shotbykien. But Kien's talents go beyond videography – he's also an accomplished rapper known as officialkien. With his multifaceted skills and diverse background, Kien adds depth and richness to our conversation.
As we delve into our discussion, Kien's shared experience of being raised by immigrant parents created a profound connection, fueling our shared desire to provide opportunities for our communities. Kien's passion lies in empowering visible minorities, especially the younger generations, and spreading the message that their voices matter and can be expressed through creative outlets.
Excitingly, Kien embraces the AI train with enthusiasm. He sees AI as a tool that depends on human choices and reveals how it already permeates our daily lives, often unnoticed. In the realm of videography and digital content creation, Kien shares valuable insights on how AI shapes the industry.
**Join us as we explore the possibilities and impact of AI in media, guided by Kien's expertise, creativity, and dedication to empowering others. This episode promises to be an enlightening and enjoyable journey. So, without further ado, let's jump right into the conversation!
Socials
Instagram:
@ShotByKien
@Calgaryvideographer**
**Website
www.shotbykien.com
YouTube
www.youtube.com/@shotbykien
FB
facebook.com/Shotbykien
TikTok
tr.ee/F9gGOabv2E
Soundcloud
soundcloud.com/officialkien**
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Join us for a heartfelt episode dedicated to Men's Mental Health Month as I sit down with Zak, a prominent Canadian podcaster to explore the MenTell.ca campaign's launch. This empowering endeavor extends an invitation to individuals to embrace hope, courage, and find solace within a supportive community where men can openly express their deepest thoughts and share strategies for navigating challenging times. Zak graciously opens up about his personal struggles, recounting the silent suffering that once led him down a dark path. Today, he proudly emphasizes how this campaign shines as a beacon, illuminating the presence of light and inspiring hope for all. Don't miss this enlightening conversation with Zak. Together, let's stand with MenTell, demonstrating our unwavering support for men as they embrace accountability, vulnerability, and pursue a healthy life.
Socials:
Instagram:
@canadianpodcast
@mentell.ca
Website
https://episodes.canadianpodcast.ca/
https://zakirihussein.com/
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In this deeply personal episode, we sit down with a remarkable guest, Melissa Johnston, who shares her courageous journey of being diagnosed with Colitis and the transformative lessons she learned along the way. Melissa, like all our guests, shares a story about strength, empowerment and healing. Join us as she opens up about the importance of self-advocacy and the heartbreaking experiences she faced as a new mother.
Melissa’s story begins with the life-altering diagnosis of Colitis, a chronic inflammatory bowel disease. Through her raw and honest account, she highlights the significance of being proactive and staying on top of her health, emphasizing the critical role of self-advocacy in the face of a challenging healthcare system.
As a new mother, Melissa experienced the profound grief and loss of not being able to fully immerse herself in the joy and bonding of first-time parenthood. In and out of hospitals during her child's first year, she navigated the complexities of managing her condition while juggling the demands of motherhood with her loving, and supportive husband.
Despite the hardships, Melissa radiates gratitude for being here, cherishing the gift of life even as she carries an ostomy bag. Her determination to not let her circumstances define her, fuels her desire to show up fully, embracing every moment, including wearing a bikini at the beach.
Throughout this powerful episode, Melissa offers invaluable insights on resilience, self-advocacy, and finding strength in the face of adversity. Her story serves as a source of inspiration and hope for those navigating similar challenges within our health care system.
Join us on this compelling journey as we explore the triumphs, heartaches, and ultimate resilience of our guest.
Socials:
Instagram
@melissaraecreative
@smellmel06
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Join me and special guest Regan Bourassa in this inspiring podcast episode as we explore her extraordinary journey of transformation. From being a plus-size woman to navigating major health complications that have resulted in 14 surgeries, Regan's story is a testament to resilience. As a loving mother of two, she shares valuable insights on embracing uncertainty and the power of a supportive community.
Regan reminds us that life is filled with unknowns, and it's the support of our village that helps us navigate these challenges. She emphasizes the strength we find when surrounded by others and dispels the myth of isolation.
In addition, Regan's journey has led her to a sense of “free as a bird” as she shares how embracing her authentic self and letting go of societal expectations has allowed her to experience a newfound liberation.
Tune in to this powerful episode to discover how Regan's journey serves as a beacon of hope. Learn how we are never alone in our struggles and how embracing a community of support can help us overcome life's uncertainties. Don't miss this opportunity to be inspired and join the movement towards a more inclusive, compassionate, and liberating future.
Socials
Instagram: @pacemyheart
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Join us for an uplifting and humorous conversation featuring David McPhee, a Certified Canadian Counselor, Registered Counseling Therapist, and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist. Despite grappling with a speech impediment and ADHD, David has thrived in the field for nearly two decades. In this episode, we delve into the domains of toxic masculinity, racism, and the stigma surrounding mental health.
David candidly shares his personal journey of living with a stutter and navigating ADHD, unveiling how these hurdles have shaped his perception of the world and the therapeutic process. Together, we shed light on the unique challenges and opportunities that arise when working with clients.
By exploring toxic masculinity, racism, mental health, and ADHD, our discussion defies stereotypes and fosters acceptance. David's experiences provide valuable perspectives on resilience, personal growth, and embracing one's vulnerabilities.
Join us in challenging the stigma around mental health, celebrating resilience, and discovering the strength inherent in therapy, vulnerability, and dismantling barriers.
Resources:
Inkblot Therapy: https://www.inkblottherapy.com/
Its Not About The Nail: https://youtu.be/-4EDhdAHrOg
Canadian Stuttering Association: https://stutter.ca/
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Join us for a powerful and candid interview with Anjali 'Aunty' Singh as she shares her inspiring journey as an immigrant and Indian woman. In this heartfelt episode, Anjali opens up about the unique challenges she faced, including the cultural expectations, restrictions and her issues surrounding alcohol, as well as the profound impact on her as a first-generation parent raising children within two different cultures. She courageously explores the personal and cultural implications of her relationship with alcohol, shedding light on the complexities of identity, self-discovery, and the pursuit of authenticity. Don't miss this enlightening conversation that delves deep into the intersections of culture, parenting, personal growth, and the triumph of embracing one's true self.
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Join us for an enlightening episode of our MFU Body Image Campaign. Today we welcome Registered Dietitian Sarah Howe McKenna from Howenutritious. Together, we delve into the topic of diet culture and its profound impact on our lives, including that of our children. Prepare to experience numerous aha moments as Sarah introduces a compassionate approach to eating.
As we all know, our dietary choices can significantly influence our overall well-being, affecting crucial aspects such as sleep, mood, and self-perception. However, navigating the societal pressures can be daunting, especially when many healthcare practitioners still equate thinness with health. Sarah, drawing from her expertise and personal experiences, debunks the notion that weight loss is always necessary. Instead, she urges us to examine the origins of our negative self-talk, asking, "Where is this coming from?"
Together, we explore the evolving definition of "healthy". Sarah sheds light on the historical shift from diets primarily focused on weight loss to their present-day portrayal as a holistic lifestyle choice. It becomes increasingly important to reevaluate where we invest our trust and redirect it inward, towards ourselves. By reconnecting with our bodies and minds, we can attune to the signals they provide and reflect on how different foods make us feel.
In a world brimming with misconceptions, the time has come to redefine what it truly means to be healthy. Join us on this empowering journey with Sarah Howe McKenna as she guides us towards a liberated mindset, free from the shackles of diet culture.
Socials
Instagram: @howenutritious
Facebook: Howe-Nutritious
Resources
dietitiandirectory.com/dietitian/sarahmckenna/
www.online-nutrition.com/en/dietitians/sarah-howe-mckenna
www.albertahealthservices.ca/nutrition/Page17512.aspx
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Welcome to a very special 25th episode of Middle Fingers Up Podcast, where we celebrate the power of curiosity and openness in fighting against the stigma surrounding mental health. Our passion project has evolved into a movement that connects individuals with the idea that their well-being is a top priority. We are honored to have listeners from over 40 countries who support us in this mission.
To make this episode even more special, we have a unique twist in store. Our very first guests are taking over the hosting duties and interviewing our founder, Kiran. We are thrilled to welcome them back and hear their perspective on the show and their experience since their first appearance. This will surely flip the episode on its head!
Thank you to Harmany Parhar and Jeewan Gill @jgillcomedy for being great sports and coming back for the occasion.
We are grateful for every subscriber who has supported us along the way. Your feedback, encouragement, and dedication have helped us to grow and evolve. Together, we are making a difference in the world by standing up against the stigma surrounding mental health.
We all have a story that deserves to be told, and we are committed to providing a platform for those stories to be heard. Join us as we reflect on the past, celebrate the present, and look forward to the future of Middle Fingers Up. Thank you for being a part of this journey with us and stay tuned for an exciting and unique episode.
The Remix by DJCAM
https://on.soundcloud.com/wkCYK
Instagram - @djcam
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In this captivating episode, we delve into the remarkable story of Mikayla, a paramedic whose journey will leave you inspired. Mikayla's honesty and humor are truly empowering, demonstrating that one can navigate through challenging experiences and emerge stronger.
Following a diagnosis of PTSD after a harrowing call, Mikayla shares her insights on the importance of acknowledging our feelings and taking steps towards healing. She emphasizes that recognizing the need for change is distinct from taking action and challenges the notion of "toughing it out" when it comes to trauma.
Mikayla holds a deep sense of purpose in carrying on her father's legacy. With a father who was a retired police officer, she is motivated to honor his memory and make a positive impact in her own life and career.
Mikayla chooses to openly discuss her experiences because she once felt isolated, unaware that others in her profession were going through similar struggles. She encourages open dialogue and emphasizes that everyone copes with trauma differently. By sharing our stories, we contribute to a collective resource pool that supports and uplifts others.
Throughout her journey, Mikayla realized that recognizing the need for help is only the first step, taking action is where true transformation occurs. Her resilience and determination serve as an inspiration for anyone facing adversity, reminding us that with self-credit and proactive measures, we can create positive change in our lives.
Join us as we explore Mikayla's inspiring journey of resilience, self-discovery, and the power of sharing our stories. Get ready to be motivated and empowered to face life's challenges head-on.
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Welcome Harpreet Pandher, analyst on Hockey Night in Canada Punjabi. Join us as we talk about influencing a community through opportunities, positivity and dreams coming true. We dive into breaking down barriers as children of immigrants as well as creating generational inclusivity through sport. Harpreet comes with humor, honesty and humbleness as he tell us his best moments so far in his career, as well as his tough moments in life. Harpreet shows us his vulnerable side as he strives to normalize addictions and help others seek assistance in times of need. There is a lot to unpack in this episode, and we believe there is something in here for all of us.
Socials:
Instagram - @harppandherTwitter - @HarpPandher
Hockey Night in Canada Punjabi Edition Twitter - @HkyNightPunjabi
Resources:
Harnarayan Singh's Book - One Game at a Time: My Journey from Small-Town Alberta to Hockey's Biggest Stage
https://a.co/d/fFN4GTZ
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Meet Simran Sachar - dancer, actor, teacher, writer, director, and the latest lead in Anosh Irani's hit play, Bombay Black. Join us as we chat with Simran about movement, mental health, South Asian representation, and much more. Simran shares her dance background, which began at the age of 3, and discusses the business of dance and the arts. She also touches on the potential lack of security when choosing a career in the arts, and emphasizes the need to support our artists. We delve into how her decision to play Apsara and serve as an assistant choreographer in Bombay Black allowed her to bring distinctive movements to the character.
Socials:
Instagram @simziez
Links:
Waacking
https://www.onthebeat.dance/introduction-to-waacking/
Butoh
https://japanobjects.com/features/butoh
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Welcome Meg Lindemulder and welcome back Nevena Kalajdzic! Today we sit down with Meg who is a Canadian Certified Counsellor and the principal of Curio Counselling and Nevena a Registered Provisional Psychologist. We get into these informative conversations to talk about “shopping for a therapist at the therapy store”, finding the right fit, who would go to therapy, why one would choose to go, and how to make the process of seeking help easier. We talk about going to annual physicals, and never going for an annual mental health check up. We talk about the stigma surrounding mental health and how to navigate the roadblocks to get the right help. We dive into the cost, the time, and the questions our listeners had surrounding therapy and how to negotiate the barriers we may have in seeking therapy. Join us as we put our Middle Fingers Up to mental health stigma and enjoy the revealing discussion with mental health professionals on being curious.
Website and Socials:
www.curiocounselling.ca
Instagram: @curiocounselling
Facebook: curiocounselling
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Welcome Back Amy Sanche to the MFU pod pad. Amy is back for us today to talk candidly, openly and honestly about divorce and her psilocybin journey. Amy shares with us the ups and downs of divorce and the good that she can still take from the relationship. We talk about her trip to take a trip with psilocybin and the medicine that it is, that helped her. We laugh, and share love of life and times of the married and the newly single. We skim over the “swiping” to new relationships and about relearning to be with yourself. We talk about the wins and lessons vs wins and losses, loving life “after” and reminding each other why friendship matters.
Remember - Email your Podcast Playlist for Amy and me!
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Welcome Danielé V. Daniele is a fellow podcaster, environmentalist, Lithuanian exchange student in Baltimore, and oh ya she is just 17 years old. Daniele reached out to me for an interview of upcoming podcasters for a school program and the conversation started there. Whether you are you are a parent, a young person, or a person who wants to know what the youth today all are about, join us for an informative look into our youth of today. Daniele surprises us with her insights, her maturity and her journey in life so far.
Daniele's Podcast:
https://tinyurl.com/mr2vfc4f
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Welcome Jeewan Gill or Jeevin for all the non-South Asians. Jeewan’s accolades include - 2021 Seattle International Comedy Competition and 2022 Toronto Comedy Champion. Jeewan is a comedian by trade, practicing atheist, non-practicing lawyer and holds a psychology degree all in one package. He brings all these elements into this conversation as we dive into mental health, growing up in Surrey BC, cancel culture, his journey to his comedic profession and much more. In this exploration we also invent a children’s book series, compare sexual assault to peanut allergies and laugh…. a lot. In this lighter conversation we find the therapy of laughter and that serious subjects, if dealt with correctly can have a lighter side.
Jeewan (Jeevin) on all Socials:
@jgillcomedy
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Welcome Doreen Chin. Join us as we take another journey on the MFU Body Image Campaign. Doreen and I discuss as first generation Canadians how it was from childhood to adults regarding body image within our cultures, being near and over 40, to how to love our bodies and how our cultures and society have impacted our relationships with food. We discuss hard lessons learned through diet culture as well as everyday people that our struggles are valid and how we need to constantly learn and relearn about ourselves and our bodies. We discuss health and diet and taking power away from external validation and finding happiness within ourselves. We want to thank Doreen for her vulnerability and courage for opening up to us on these matters that many of us keep to our inside dialogue.
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Join us as we sit with Simren Jhuty Registered Psychologist, Founder and Clinical Director of Stride Psychology. We are pleased to have South Asian representation in the mental health field on the show! One of the goals of the podcast was to help normalize mental health discourse in the South Asian Community. We thank Simren for the work she is doing and for her coming on the show to share her field with us.
In this episode we explore issues that everyone can take something from. We discuss what is means to be self aware and how to start with compassion for self healing. We talk about how to “lean into” your inner self and to give oneself the time and space we need. We explore journaling and the positive mental health association in keeping a journal and how the practice can keep us attuned and focused through reflective time. We discuss how to connect to your body and how you can recognize your mental health through your physical health. We consider what the body can show us and how to identify warning signs and triggers as we learn to understand the roots of our triggers. Simren shares with us how learning about yourself and where to start can be intimidating and to ensure to be gentle and practice self-love in starting this journey.
Website:
stridepsychology.ca/
@stridepsychology
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Welcome Jennifer Hoy registered psychologist who specializes in trauma informed therapy. Today we dive into trauma and Jennifer answers, “what is trauma?” and shares with us her definition as well as what trauma means. In our conversation she simplifies the definition so we can better understand that if we have experienced trauma, we are not so far from it. We discuss what trauma could look like as it impacts us in our relationships with our spouse, partner, children, boss or others. We talk about what the body will do to survive and that it is not just what happened, but what we store in the absence of an empathetic witness. We explore how one is not broken if they experience trauma, and if therapeutic support is sought there is a chance to even thrive post significant event. We touch on a multitude of full episode subjects such as adoption, nature vs. nurture compared to nature and nurture, EMDR and the tiger in the room vs the tiger in the picture. Join us for this wide-ranging conversation with Jennifer as we explore the frequently misunderstood trauma and body connection.
Resources:
Books:
What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Dr. Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey
https://a.co/d/256nwu6
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk
https://a.co/d/dKwG1wa
Healing Trauma: A Pioneering Program for Restoring the Wisdom of your Body by Dr. Peter Levine
https://a.co/d/dGHb1rJ
Getting Past your Past: Take Control of Your Life with Self-Help Techniques from EMDR Therapy by Francine Shapiro
https://a.co/d/9shgW4G
Website:
www.jhoypsychology.ca
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Konnichiwa and Sat Sri Akaal from 98.5 Virgin Radio Host, Andrew Uyeno and your host Kiran McKay! As we all know Andrew is kind of a big deal, so when without hesitation he agreed to join us on the show we were all very grateful for this opportunity. Join us as the laughs are plentiful and the talk is light and deep at times. Andrew shares with us his sharp wit and humor as well as his thoughtful side on issues that matter, such as racism and finding our voice. We explore what is was like growing up as a half Japanese - Caucasian, and how there were times when he didn’t feel Asian “enough” nor Caucasian “enough. We touch on how he is the only Asian representation on the radio here in YYC and one of few in Canada and the pride he has in that. We talk about his love for the people and places he has went with his career as well as his love for Calgary. We explore how hard work pays off and how if you have belief in yourself it will lead to success. Look out Kam as Andrew takes over "Kam's Korner" and introduces his own twist on the "The Top 5"! Come along and enjoy the “Ums” and “Ahs” of our conversation without edits and laugh and think with us along the way.
Socials and Sites
Instagram: @andrewu92 @konnichiwacalgary
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Welcome Anna Levy a pre and postnatal fitness expert and mother of twins. Anna has been dedicated to “helping perinatal women prepare, recover, rebuild and keep their right to roam”. For 10 years she has been persistently filling the gap many women face with lack of support pre, during and post birth. Anna is building a village for moms, called “The Strong Mom Collective”, evidence-based workouts created to support women and uterus owners depending on what stage of postpartum they are in. Join us as we talk about the fears and myths people go through during the birthing experience and how we can respect and care for bodies. We dive into how society expects women to “bounce back” from birth and the expectations of what we think bodies should look like post birth versus the reality of taking time and allowing the body to heal. We explore “loving this version of your body”, that every phase of life is a time to love this version of yourself. Listen, pause, and give yourself the love that your body and mind deserve. The message here is for everyone with a body, everyone with a relationship and I guess just all of us on this round marble we call home.
Social and Site
Instagram: @Right2RoamTraining
Website: right2roamtraining.com
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Welcome Dr. Ryan Emmons, Chiropractor, inventor, author and as we call him – the C1 manager. From his start as a personal trainer, to kinesiology to chiropractic Dr. Ryan takes us on his journey to solving his own pain and how he is on a mission to solve it for others. Dr. Ryan has seen CFL and NHL players, professional golfers as well as multitudes of others with his systematic testing and solution-based treatment. Join us as we dive into the link between body health, pain, and mental health. We talk about Nerves Muscles Ligaments Joints in the hierarchy of treating and efficiently trying to solve pain. We talk about “It only heals when it holds” and getting to the root of pain as well asking oneself “are you responsive to the treatment you are receiving?” We delve into trying to end the cycle of pain management and get to a place of being better than “just okay”. Remember: Don’t look down! We also touch on how our devices create neck strain in adults and children and could lead to laxity and a future of “not good things”. We hope you enjoy this one as much as we did taping it, so much so that we had to check the setup a number of times to make sure we were still recording!
Resources
Rolling App: foamrollerapp.com
Website: cadencesportstherapy.com
Instagram @drryanemmons
For more information:
Upper Cervical Spine Instability webinar: https://youtu.be/Or-67usWrqQ
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Welcome SkyeBlu Cutchie, a sex therapist that invites us to consider sex and sexuality with more openness. You should all know this episode is for all “penis owners” and “vulva owners", so get ready! What would you answer when you hear “how cool would it be if we talked about sex the way we talk about what are we going to have for dinner?”. We dive in and talk about being able to ask ourselves, “what do I want?” and explore some tools to be able to talk more openly with your partner about those wants. We address definitions of a more holistic view of what sex is and what it can be, as well as normalizing our curiosities. SkyeBlu answers some listeners questions that we all may be curious about and helps lead us to build an awareness of our own sexual understanding. We talk about how individuals may be part of a culture of silence due to their upbringing and how some households can heavily influence negative or positive sexual mindsets. SkyeBlu shares with us how much of our adult understanding and beliefs about sex come from an early age. Come sit with us as we explore how reflecting on our “sexual template” from birth through our lifespan can help build healthy relationships with ourselves as well others.
The Website and Socials
skyeblutherapy.com
Instagram - @skyeblu_therapy
Resources:
www.aasect.org The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists is a professional organization for sexuality educators, sexuality counselors and sex therapists.
Books:
"Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski
https://a.co/d/3BpicQS
"The Penis Book" by Aaron Spitz
https://a.co/d/fpxPWCC
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This week we welcome Laurie Brown to Middle Fingers Up @lauriemacbrown, Lauriemacbrownphotography.com to continue our MFU Body Image Campaign. Laurie has been taking photos for over 18 years and she would say at least 10 of those would count as her profession. In this episode we explore positive body image and the idea of “existing within photos”. We dive into how easily we can delete photos now and in turn delete the existence of us in the moment. We talk about our overused devices wiping out this existence when we don’t like our smile, a roll, or a bad shadow. We explore how some people simply don’t want to see the truth that photos are showing them, how they don’t allow themselves to exist in the moment and how they can possibly change this internal script. We also talk about mothers, loopholes, past regrets, altering, editing, and photographic anxiety. Come sit with us and listen to Laurie share why Boudoir photos are her favorite to shoot and her passion of watching woman bring their inner super villain out during these photoshoots. Some may even say a boudoir shoot is like a body image therapy session…
Links:
Instagram: @lauriemacbrown
Website: Lauriemacbrownphotography.com
Mentions:
Instagram:
@terihoffard
@suebrycephotographer
@karamariestudios
@vitalityimagesphotography
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Join us as we sit down again with Registered Clinical Social Worker, Angela Hick - @angelahick. This episode although parent focused has intellectual morsels for all of us sexual beings. We talk about how sexual boundaries are set at a young age as well the impact of the internet today. We dive into the root of sexual capacities and how to build strong education for children and how to teach them as parents. Angela shares insight into parenting to prepare versus parenting to protect with definitions and foundations. We talk about the serious to the funny, from setting a guide to a healthy sexual life, to boys rigid blanket issues.
We also touch on how many cultures have strong sexual taboos that can have a negative impact when going into adulthood and engaging in sexual intimacy. We engage into the many ways children can be taught the meaning of consent at an early age as well as teaching them about their anatomy and how that helps them prepare for healthy adulthood relationships. Caregivers or humans we invite you to a healthy sex talk. We encourage all to build boundaries and learn about a healthy positive relationship with sex.
Resources:
Creating a Consent Culture by Marcia Baczynski and Erica Scott
https://a.co/d/3yfioxb
Consent for Kids - Boundaries, Respect, Being In Charge of You by Rachel Brian
https://a.co/d/gzN80EJ
Real Talk About Sex and Consent by Cheryl Bradshaw
https://a.co/d/40cYyA1
Calgary Local
Angela's Practice - walnutgrovecounselling.ca
centreforsexuality.ca
Video
https://youtu.be/oQbei5JGiT8
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Join us as we launch the MFU Body Image Campaign. Today we focus on eating disorders and their effect on day-to-day life. In this first episode we talk with the ever-courageous Stephanie @sk.hadd from Episode 2 – Today I Would Have Taken a Pregnancy Test. In this episode we consider how the media as well as family and friends can play a vital role with our body image, and how they can add or subtract to our self identity. We dive into this ever-present media whether it be television, magazines, or streamed through our devices to talk about how they have impacted our view of ourselves. We uncover our “dirty little secrets” that we both have hid and still hide from loved ones (not anymore!). Join us as we search together to find the path that takes us to awareness, and then hopefully to acceptance of who we are.
Why MFU Body Image Campaign?
This campaign started as an internal struggle when I turned 40 and began reflecting on my own body image. At 40 I was a mom with children who talked about weight, and I wanted to model better behavior for them. I saw how I had so much space in my life taken up by thoughts of "too big", "too small", and how I was happy maybe one day a year as to how my body looked. I want to share and talk about the struggles all individuals have with how we view ourselves. I want to normalize our thoughts and feelings about our bodies.
Resources to start healing and support
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www.Nedic.ca
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www.beinghumanclub.com
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www.parallelcounselling.ca
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A continuing conversation with three men as we go deeper into the ego, perceived lack of space for men’s feelings and getting away for growth. Roofing tar burns, a colour-blind apple picker and participation trophies round out a full conversation of how these men are experiencing the world. We share insight into sitting with low feelings, keeping up with the Joneses as well as the importance of routine. There is something for everyone in this one, humor, seriousness, and quirkiness. Join us for a fun one including an all new Top 5!
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Today we sit down with Meena Natt @meenasdoulaservices, www.meenasdoulaservices.com. Meena is a registered doula, registered Kundalini Yoga instructor and all around great human being and friend. We have proven that friendship is therapeutic and in our mutual friend-therapy we have both made great advances. Our trip takes us to childhood and the need to go back and make sense of what we have been through. We explore the idea that talking to ourselves as parents and to our inner child we can work through past issues. We talk about learning that past trauma is not about fault, but it is now about taking responsibility to repair and learn from what happened to us. In today’s voyage Meena and I realize that our stories are in the pauses of conversations, the pauses of life and that we need to listen and take notes for what is not being said through those pauses.
- www.vancouvercityhypnotherapy.com
- www.meenasdoulaservices.com
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In this Bonus Holiday Episode we are sharing the microphone today with Provisional Psychologist, Nevena Kalajdzic. Come with us as we explore our understanding of stressors during these times. As we quickly approach Christmas with all the festivities, the busy schedules, the pressures of hosting and gift giving we see how this can cause people financial stress, anxiety, and exhaustion. We tap Nevena’s knowledge to investigate how people feel the pressure to hide what they may be experiencing and not have an outlet for relief. We tour the expectations about who we think we are “supposed” to be and the challenges around setting up boundaries. Additionally, we talk to how this can bring up further stress, lower frustration tolerance and eventually lower our moods. Our hope for today’s talk is to help people to understand the different perspectives during the holidays and to realize that you’re not alone if you are feeling overwhelmed. Let’s talk about those of us that struggle to keep up with cheerful energy and share how we can gain some insight and validation about these thoughts, feelings, and sensations.
If you are struggling over the holiday season...
COPING:
1. Check in with your thoughts, feelings, and sensations; try to ground yourself in the present moment (e.g., body scan exercise)
2. Name your feelings (e.g., talk to someone or write it down) - we need to be able to acknowledge and be open to experiencing uncomfortable feelings to get through them
3. Slow down and take a few deep breaths
4. Go outside – we crave sunshine, especially in the winter
5. Move your body any way you like: walk, gym, yoga, dance, etc.
6. Try to eat a balanced diet
7. Practice gratitude – writing it down into a journal, into your phone or just thinking about it can help us shift our mood
8. Manage your self-talk – try to be kind with yourself and patient with how you are feeling
9. Reward yourself – massage, book, movie
10. Talk to someone you trust and feel comfortable with
11. Get enough sleep/rest
12. Try to let go of unrealistic expectations
13. Meditation/guided visualization
14. Get professional help, if needed
15. Let go of certain expectations
16. You can also choose not to celebrate!
17. Choose new rituals and traditions that are meaningful to you
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Come hang with Registered Clinical Social Worker, Angela Hick MSW, RCSW. Instagram @angelahick. In this episode, we journey through our experiences as mothers as we talk about postpartum, building connections with our children, the adjustment of parenthood and ensuring self-awareness is prioritized to care for your family. With similar educational backgrounds in child and adolescent mental health we explore how challenging it can be to utilize our education in raising our own children. We talk about building a sense of awareness as parents and caregivers to realize when we are good, often we see our children doing good as a result. Whether you have children or care for someone in your life, take a talk with us as we believe lessons in care can be complimentary.
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Today we sit down with three men in different parts of their life journey to talk about masculinity, all things male and what it is to them to be a man in today’s world. We touch on toxic masculinity, alcohol, sex, relationships, and mental health. We discuss how masculinity turns from healthy to toxic from setting unattainable standards regarding social respect, physical strength, and even sexual potency. When boys and men are unable to achieve these standards, feelings of insecurity and anxiety might push them to use force to feel dominant and in control. Does culture define masculinity in the household, are there similarities or differences between masculinity in cultural upbringing and do we all define being a man the same? We talk about where, when, and how you have learned to be a man or how you see men in your lives. What defines you or the men in your life? Let’s start this talk with this long form conversation with what we think are the answers to some of these questions.
Special Shout Out To:
Liz Coleman - The Spaces Between Counselling
https://www.thespacesbetweencounselling.com
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Episode 3: “Do the F*cking Nudes” This was such a blast having two of my co-workers turned friends on to talk about our 3 completely different paths to turning 40. Just 3 women being honest about our age, relationships, sex and all things in between. Young or old connect with the fact that a second act is presence, intention and self acceptance.
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Episode 1: “You People Don’t Tip…” – Join me for the first time, as I sit down with my brother Kam and his wife, Naina. This episode is like a ‘housewarming’, where I invite you to my home and share some insights into what inspired this passion project.
Episode 2: “Today I Would Have Taken a Pregnancy Test…”- Join me as I sit down with my cousin Stephanie, and friend, Harmany as they share their heartfelt journeys about infertility.
Get ready for launch! Welcome to Middle Fingers Up the show where we hold our heads high and our middle fingers higher. I'm your host Kiran McKay.
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