poofin’ ain’t easy : Recent Episodes
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I decided to do a review on this book "It's Perfectly Normal" because of what I've seen going on in today's education system. I came across this book after seeing reverend John Amanchukwu speak up against it at the Asheville City School Board of Education. The book takes a playful tone on sexuality, making it seem like it's appropriate for children to read when in reality it's not. It's oversexualization of children.
Enough is enough. Talking about sexuality at a young age, encouraging kids and teens to self-destruct via gender transitioning surgeries is not and will NEVER be okay. The consequences of this movement is immense. It confuses children and destroys the family unit - one of the most important pillars of society.
I ask you to please listen to this podcast, inform yourself, and make your own judgment. Know what is in your children's libraries, know what is being taught in schools, and have the courage to speak up against it. It's the only thing that will save our children and the direction our society is headed in.
This episode is about all the reasons why you should stop stalking your ex.
Stalking an ex is never healthy, this includes ex boyfriends, ex girlfriends, ex friends, etc. etc.
This episode is about why you stalk your ex and why you should stop. It's definitely not helping you, and it's most likely hurting you.
The Scientific Reason We Stalk Our Exes On Social Media After A Breakup | YourTango
It's Complicated: Romantic Breakups and Their Aftermath on Facebook (uwo.ca)
I decided to do an episode on envy because I have had experiences with envy, and I hate the way it feels. I’ve felt envy when I see someone with a “better body” than mine, when someone close to me makes more money than I do, and when someone’s podcast or blog seems to be more developed than mine.
This list can go on and on, but the point I want to make is that I wanted to do the research on envy and like always, take a deep dive within myself and understand why I feel envy.
I’ve learned that if someone seems to be doing slightly better than me in the areas that I value, I start to feel envy.
But envy comes from a place of insecurity. It comes from a place of comparison. It comes from a place that thinks there’s only room for me in the world, when in reality there’s room for everyone. So, we’re figuring this out together, and I hope after you listen to this episode you have a better understanding of your envy, where it comes from, and how you can redirect it for a greater good.
Show Notes:
Why We Feel Envy:
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You are insecure and you take part in comparing yourself to others. Your insecurity makes you feel inferior to others.
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Your early unmet childhood needs make you feel not good enough.
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Your competitive edge makes you think there is only room for you in the world.
How we can address envy?
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Normalize your envy and validate it to decrease shame and guilt.
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Relate envy to positive values.
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Focus on turning envy into admiration and emulation.
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Accept that life is sometimes unfair.
References:
https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10608-020-10135-y#Sec2
https://sk.sagepub.com/reference/socialpsychology/n185.xml#:~:text=Envy%20refers%20to%20the%20often,approval%20inspired%20by%20another%20person
https://drawingontheword.com/bible-envy-and-comparison-killed-relationships/
Holy handkerchiefs, demon-possessed people, and abusive pastors. This episode is all about toxic churches that can sometimes seem a little culty. In this episode, my sister and I, Erika, take a deep dive down memory lane as we revisit the experiences we had in the church we grew up in. So, get ready to laugh and be shocked, as we blast into the past, and learn recognize the warning signs of a culty church.
This episode is about why I started taking my own happiness very seriously and why I started making it a daily practice.
Who needs to listen to this episode? Anyone who is tired of being unhappy, who is a problem seeker and a negative Nancy.
Practicing joy and happiness is a muscle and I know this episode will boost you to start training it.
Show Notes:
Intro
Why I decided to make this episode and describing the person I used to be.
My journey in being responsible for my happiness and the four points that have helped me along the way:
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Improving My Posture - Your Posture Affects How You Feel
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Stop Looking for Problems
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Teach Your Brain to Look for Good Things in The Day
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Your Words Have Power and Whatever You Speak into Existence
References:
Do slumped and upright postures affect stress responses? A randomized trial.
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25222091/
Why your brain is on the lookout for danger:
https://www.cfcliving.com/brain-threat-detector/#:~:text=Without%20us%20knowing%20it%2C%20our,us%20and%20keeping%20us%20safe.
This episode is about my stance on whether or not you should have coworkers on social media. I go into the times when I think it's acceptable and when it's not acceptable to have coworkers on social media. I also go into tips on what to do when your coworker asks you for your social media and you don't want to feel pressured into giving it to them.
This episode is about discipline and what I’ve done to help me be more disciplined in my life. Being disciplined is not always easy, especially when we get in our own way. I hope this episode motivates you to get out of your own way and gain the discipline that you need to achieve your next goal.
This episode is about your emotional home which are the feelings that you resort to when you undergo a stressful event. My hope with this episode is that you learn to recognize what your emotional home is, and acknowledge that you are not those feelings and they are merely behaviors you’ve learned over time. We all have the ability to change our emotional homes. It just takes practice ❤️
In this episode, I talk about the 8 signs that someone feels threatened by you. This episode is tailored towards women because unfortunately, I've noticed that women are usually the ones that feel threatened by each other. I also talk about an experience I had at a job with a boss of mine that showed me they were threatened.
Feeling threatened comes from a place of insecurity, and I hope that with this episode, you are able to recognize that within yourself and maybe within others, but most importantly, within yourself because you can't change other people. If you have ever felt threatened by anyone, I hope this episode inspires you to work on your confidence and insecurities because you should realize how amazing you are and how no one can take that away from you.
Thank you for listening.
With love <3,
Paola
In this episode I talk about dopamine which is the neurotransmitter associated with movement, memory, pleasurable reward and motivation, behavior, attention, sleep, and mood, amongst other things. I discuss my findings from several scientific articles on the negative effects that things like social media and alcohol have on our dopamine levels. I also talk about ways that we can raise our dopamine in healthy ways that can leave us feeling satisfied. Overall, adequate levels of dopamine will leave you feeling happy, motivated, alert, and focused, and I believe that when you are aware how your daily behaviors can affect how we release chemicals in our brain we will be more reluctant to engage in harmful behaviors and start to engage in healthier behaviors.
References:
Burhan R and Moradzadeh J, Neurotransmitter Dopamine (DA) and its Role in the Development of Social Media Addiction. J Neurol Neurophy, 2020, 11(7), 01-02.
https://www.iomcworld.org/open-access/neurotransmitter-dopamine-da-and-its-role-in-the-development-of-social-media-addiction-59222.html
Gaetano Di Chiara, M.D. Neurotransmitter Review, Alcohol and Dopamine
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6826820/pdf/arhw-21-2-108.pdf
Andrew Huberman, Ph.D, Tools to Manage Dopamine and Improve Motivation and Drive
https://hubermanlab.com/tools-to-manage-dopamine-and-improve-motivation-and-drive/#:~:text=Avoid%20viewing%20bright%20lights%20between,circulating%20dopamine%20in%20your%20system
In this episode I talk about some of the interviewing skills I’ve developed that have helped me land the job that I want. You can have all the skills in the world, but knowing how to interview is KEY in landing your dream job.
This episode is about my one month of sobriety. I go into detail on the negative effects of alcohol on the brain, how I felt after not drinking, and overcoming social pressures of drinking. Enjoy ❤️
This episode is about my journey on changing my perspective on negativity. Doing this has improved my overall quality of life because let’s face it - life is challenging enough so why are you making it harder for yourself by adding negative labels to situations in your life. This podcast was influenced by The Power of Now and A New Earth both by Eckhart Tolle. I hope you enjoy ❤️.
In this episode I talk about all the things that I believe encompasses hot person vibes and it’s not only how you LOOK but how you feel about yourself, act towards others, etc. Thank you for listening ❤️