The Greenest Grass: Recent Episodes
Ryan Heinis
We know the grass is rarely greener on the other side. This podcast helps us discover that the greenest grass already lives right there inside of us. It is up to us to find what makes our grass grow, what makes it wave in the wind, and how and when we need to 'mow the yard'. Join us as we find ways to find joy in our own backyard.
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How much more fulfilling would your life be if you chose to be honest with those close to you?
How about being honest with yourself? Are you lying there too?
Is there a time to be dishonest in our lives? There absolutely is, and the timing of your honesty can sometimes be important.
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Energy comes from all around us. Some people in our lives are Energy Angels, and some are Energy Vampires.
Would you believe that both can be toxic to you?
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Some might call it thinking? But, we tell ourselves stories dozens of times a day. Are we sure we got it right though? I mean, how could a different narrative help?
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Why do we always fall into the trap of competing with others?
Shouldn't the real competition be against you yourself?
What do we get out of both scenarios?
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A no prep, no notes dribble on what it take to consider yourself a good person in this world.
Add to that the diversity you will stumble upon when you do this
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Almost everything you carry in your life and be placed into the Five Balls Metaphor made famous by Brian Dyson in the 90's.
Which are made of glass? Which are made of rubber? And where SHOULD each of those live?
We explore with some thoughts on the five balls here.
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While it's totally a loaded question that evolves throughout our life, trying to identify your purpose can really help you on your life paths.
Tonight we talk about what questions to ask yourself, shipwrecks, and godwinks as we search for purpose.
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After a few months of living life in the fast lane; it was time to have a chat with myself about the slow lane; the right lane.
There is a time and a place for both, but being able to identify the triggers that help you slow down is key.
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Why did you get up today?
What is your motivation today?
What is your plan? 1 year? 3 years? etc, etc, etc?
Knowing your 'why' can expodentially help you moving forward, but there is more to it than meets the eye.
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You MUST find gratitude and thankfulness within your own life before being able to successfully pour your cup onto others.
There are ways to make sure you're doing this.
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Motivation can often appear as a drug that is used you OD on.
How can we identify why we are lacking real motivation and just sucking on the crack.
There are some easy ideas to help!
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What were you doing one year ago today?
Did we learn this year? Did we do things well? Was it all really that bad?
As we journey through a year of peaks and valleys it's amazing how we forget the positives.
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I was called a know it all this week.
It reminded me of the sometimes fine line between knowing it all and being a wise and educated person.
We discuss here a few key differences between the two.
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In the dog days of summer, I find myself in need of a re-boot.
Here are some simple tips to assist in starting over with what we know works for us!
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After a night where my 7 year old had too much caffeine and sugar, he complained that his brain was buzzing as he laid down to bed.
It was an all-to-familiar concept to me, and it reminded me on how our active our brains can be when it's time to rest.
There are certainly a few trade tactics we can all use to calm down our minds to rest.
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Does being spontaneous cultivate happiness?
Did we suffer from a lack of spontaneity during the pandemic?
Is being Impulsive the same thing?
The answers are different for us all, but it's an interesting topic...
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Routines are seemingly helpful to most people. They bring stability to our day and allow us to focus on other, more important things.
But there is something to be said about getting out of that 'routine box' and then assessing how it worked for you.
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If we could only learn how to turn the negative into a positive?
Can this really be a simple process?
There are a few tricks to this trade. Find some skates and find out...
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Holy smokes is it easy to fall into the world of 'no motivation.' How do we even start knocking down our lists if we have no drive to even get off the couch?
Chunk it off folks! Just push the snowball down the hill....
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You really want to succeed in this world? You want that girl/guy? You want that amazing job? You want to be the best at something?
It is not going to be handed to you. 10,000 hours! That's the bottom line.
Get off the couch, and get started today!
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So much easier to ignore the harder talks in life. But are you doing yourself a disservice if you are ignoring them.
What it I told you that with the right tone...the right plan...and the ability to listen, these talks would exponentially help you.
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Are you seeking validation from people you don't even know?
Do you know the motive behind that social post tonight?
Remember the room you are in and who is with you...
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Are you comfortable in your life?
While most believe the answer should be yes, there is a strong argument against it.
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Good ol Uncle Walt and Ted Lasso brought me back to this oldey but goodie.
Remember to judge someone or something you need all of the information (which you'll never have). Choose to be curious instead.
The difference will leave you with such a better feeling and understanding of who we are.
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Ever wonder what the best medicine in the world is?
It's a simple concept that is hard to master.
It's not something you swallow, rather it's something you feel.
Come see how altruism can cure just about anything...
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As we are always trying to live our lives being kind and doing right by others, how often do we forgot about making decisions for #1.
You have every right to make decisions that you've determined are good for you without having to feel guilt.
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A simple Chinese fable sparked a conversation on how to view good and back news.
Our luck can be viewed in the same realm. What traits about luck do the successful people in this world share?
I'll tell you this...they're prepared for it...
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What would our lives look like if money wasn't part of the equation?
We typically make a decisions in our life that are more economically based than humanity based.
Can we really change that line of thinking?
Absolutely...
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Some fall on the side of being in need of others as they navigate dark days. Some feel the pain of others as they battle the same.
How are they connected? How do we get the two roads to intersect?
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80% of New Year's resolutions fail! Should we be ok with that? Are we asking the right questions when they do? We can learn from the missteps that cause routed resolutions.
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Imagine if we could actually leverage the energy we put into our fears into courage; into our dreams.
How on Earth can we do that? It's 100% do-able, and we should all be practicing this!
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It's the most magical time of the year, right?
There's no place like home for the holidays, right?
How can people not enjoy Christmas? It's easier than you think.
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Wouldn't it be fun if there was an undo button for our lives?
What would you change? What would that change change?
It may be best unanswered.
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We can't leave chapters unread in our lives. The ones we want to skip will actually end up being the most impactful to who we become.
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Are we any built any different than our ancestors when it comes to dealing with threats, duress, sacrifice, deprivation, loss, heartache, etc.?
These things are not unfamiliar to the human condition. However complex, you will come out of them more resilient that you could ever imagine.
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After taking a week off, I talk about why that is important sometimes. You can't forget to take a pause when you need it. Hit re-set and start again.
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Let's never forget to take the time to laugh...and smile.
There is a side of all of our lives that need it.
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Most of us have that one go-to person in our lives; our bestie.
What if I told you there was someone else you should be treating the same as them?
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What makes you who you are? Is it your name? Is it your race? Is it your age...your job?
Those things don't even come close to painting the picture of your identity.
So what does?
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We are not in this world to live up to the expectations of others. And they are not in this world to live up to yours.
It's an interesting thought as we journey to uplift others. You will not always succeed.
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Who do you share with when you have that 'hot mess' day in your life? What qualities do they possess that makes you willing to show them that part of your lives? And do you share those qualities as well? It's an interesting thought.
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I was 13 when the movie Tombstone came out. I've seen it over 100 times since.
Today I took a closer look at the characters and what lessons they can teach us in today's world.
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Is today the day? Is it today that you pay it forward to the world who has reached out its hand to you so many times?
Remember our past is indeed heavy, but there are lessons that grow within it. Don't forget to share those!
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A beaitully written raw social media post from someone I knew a long time ago got me thinking this week about lost opportunities and how heavy they can become.
The challenge is to put down those heavy boulders of our past and place our focus and efforts on today and tomorrow.
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"You can't understand someone until you've walked a mile in their shoes."
What a hard yet important lesson for us to learn. We need to be able to do this in order to have empathy in our lives; in order to better understand our fellow man.
Let's talk about getting inside of someones skin instead of getting under it.
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In New Mexico, they burn a 50 foot marionette every fall that is stuffed full of people's problems.
How do we make this metaphor a daily reality? Can writing down your anxieties be as effective a writing down your goals?
Let go of your zozobra. Take it out of your mind and write it down...then burn that sucker.
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After losing a 15 year pet this week, I found the need to remind myself to fill up the buckets of others.
Nothing makes you feel better in a time of need then having someone fill up your bucket, and of course that's a two way street.
It's free; It's simple; and it's very effective.
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What does eating chocolate have to do with finding your focus and motivation?
Could taking certain selfies help you out in this area?
Finding your inner focus can be fun and quick.
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Why does it seem to be so hard letting go?
Are you following the right steps to let go of your emotional and physical pain and hurt?
Are you remembering to take care of yourself throughout this process?
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What if someone woke up in your body today and didn't know anything of your past? What would they see as a positive that you may be taking for granted?
You have the ability to do this! Take a closer look and see what you're really missing.
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Are you tired of fear? Fear and anxiety can be crippling to many people.
How do we overcome them? How to we take control of our fears?
Is it ok to fail big? Of course it is. There are ways to beat this dragon.
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Are you truly free to choose what you want? Are you questioning things that should be questioned? Is the social norm dictating what you believe in?
Remember, everything is negotiable when it comes to choice. The choices we choose are ours and ours alone.
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How often do we overreact to situations that won't mean a thing down the road? Wouldn't it be amazing if we could just start with the acceptance that always seems to come?
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While away on vacation with family and friends, a conversation was had with a life long friend about how we fail in building foundations.
It takes bricks, but it takes a lot of them...
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The Stoics may be onto something with this line of thinking.
Use the Reverse Clause to prepare yourself when fate takes things out of our hands.
It can be a very powerful tool to help us diminish disappointment.
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Sometimes we're too far into the forrest to actually see the trees. After a tough week, I free style this week about getting above all of that, to be able to focus on what is real and what is needed.
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When you make a decision are you thinking about the greater or common good?...or are you thinking about what it will do for you personally? The difference is staggering and one will ultimately lead right back to you.
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Depression is such a huge part of our world. Why do we continue to see it as something shameful? Whether it's you or someone you love going through it, the words that we use are important when talking to someone with depression. Be a part of their solution, not a symptom.
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I finally joined the Covid Club this week, and it came as a reminder of how life can still be plenty productive while still slowing down.
There are plenty of simple tricks that we can use to slow our lives down, giving ourselves more time for us.
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Mitch Albom's book took my mind to a place that was unique. How many people's lives do we effect without knowing it? What does a basic decision you make have to do with how someone else's day ends up? It's an interesting thought for sure.
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There are so many people out there who struggle with sleep. Getting that time in is so important to both your physical and mental health.
Today we talked about some tricks of the trade to getting the rest in that you deserve.
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As it often does, life can become very routine. What are some simple things we can do to ensure that we don't get lost in them?
Make sure your everyday routine of life isn't bringing your mental energy down. There are ways to change it up; both for you and for your routines.
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Here I sit with Nate Francois, a HR consultant here in the Southwest.
We discuss our differences and how we remain friends today despite them. We also touch on the current work force situation, mental health, George Floyd, and Social Media's dark role in our culture's present and our future.
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We'll always come across people in our life we won't agree with. It could be politics, religions, parenting style, etc.
We don't have to make an enemy out of them. In fact, you can learn from them, and be better for it in the end.
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It has become so normal in our world for our minds to be pre-occupied with what other people think about us.
How can we start to harness that cognitive abilities and re-focus it inward? It's certainly possible.
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James has been not only a mental health professional for multiple decades, but has also been one or the biggest advocates of mental health throughout his career.
Hear him discuss where we really are in the world of mental health, along with some of his advice for how we can continue to function day in and day out through our journey of finding kindness in our world.
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Life is just a series of rooms. Who you get stuck in those rooms with adds up to what our lives are.
Who is in your room with you? Are they adding to it or are they stripping it bare?
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Grief is often thought of as something we should hide in the back room. But what really is grief? It's a sign we've loved. And it can be someone else's guide to surviving. Never be afraid to share your grief.
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Some habits are physical; some are phycological. Both can be hard to break, but can certainly be done. Here we discuss the roadmap to starting that journey.
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Which is more important and what is the real difference between your character and you reputation? One is up to you; the other is up to everyone else.
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You think feeling vulnerable and shame is something only you feel? You are the strong one if you can admit it. How do you identify shame and vulnerabilities and what do we do with them when we do?
One of the most simplistic ideas ever is to be kind to people. But what about that that don't deserve it? Turns out, they need it more than anyone.
How to we train our minds to find optimism when we see so much negative. It can be done, and is actually a relatively easy process.
Here are 6 quick steps to start the process.
What do we do when we face adversity in life? There are 3 simple options that we discuss in this episode. You can Accept It, You can Fix It, or you can Chuck It.
A sit down with Casey Landis, Junior Sales Counselor.
Casey left his nearly 20 year Managerial Job to go into a new career where he basically knows nothing.
Why would anyone make that choice?
Find out why Mr. Landis is winning after he bet on himself.
Think life is just a random lottery? It isn't. You have the ability to change your odds. Take a look at yourself, and make a bet on who you are, and who you can be.
Can it be a bad thing to only exude positivity? The answer may surprise you. Remember, we are built to feel many emotions. Don't ignore them.
If you are an overthinker like I am, there are ways to take that control of you mind over.
Remember, almost everything we overthink about, won't be a thing in 5 years.
Take control of your mind and learn from your failures.
As we journey through life with 10 different titles, obligations, and versions of ourself, let us never forget to give to ourselves.
Let us find a way to challenge ourselves, push ourselves, and do 1 thing a day just for little old you.
Who we choose to be a part of our lives play a role in our attitude, happiness, and output in life.
Choose those you water your grass, and cut those who don't reciprocate.